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[ "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of.", "Getting up early with ease. I'm sure this is something that has been posted before but I'm fairly new. So, how can I get up early without feeling groggy etc. Obviously things like going to sleep earlier will help but any other tips that others may not think of." ]	[ "I like the app Sleep cycle. You tell it the latest time you want to get up, and give it a window of time such as 30 mins., and it monitors when you are in light sleep and starts the alarm during that time. It has helped me a lot in not being feeling groggy when I get up. You can taylor the app to your needs.", "I chug two glasses of cold water as soon as I wake up. Makes me feel refreshed even when I don't get much sleep.", "Over time, I developed a routine that centered around how many hours of sleep I typically need to feel rested. Usually, if I wake up on my own without an alarm, it's after about 7 hours of sleep. Do the math and get to bed in time to get the hours you need. If you wake up within a reasonable time before your alarm, get up. It's time. For me, if I try to get a few extra minutes of sleep (hitting the snooze button), I end up feeling worse, plus I'm rushing around--no bueno.\n\nKeep the same routine, even if you don't have to get up by a certain time. I used to sleep in on weekends but that messed up my sleep schedule. Finally, after many years of hating getting up early, I've accepted that it's my fate as long as I have a job to go to.", "Shut off the TV/screens before bed. If you want to go over the top, you could replace your lights with ones that cut out blue light. Additionally, you could try melatonin a bit before bed, and avoid sugar/caffeine later in the day. Lastly, don't use your bed for much beyond sleep(/sex if applicable). If you make a habit of only being in bed to sleep, getting in bed will signal your body to get ready to sleep.\n\n\nAll these things would make it easier to fall asleep when you go to bed, and this will make getting up much more easily.", "I'm unable to wake up early if I dont have something important to do (go to class, an appointment...). I've tried everything, nothing worked.", "Exercise.\nhttp://europepmc.org/abstract/med/3245463\n\nBetter yet- exercise in the morning and stick to it. Your body will literally feed itself with endorphins (http://link.springer.com/article/10.2165/00007256-199724010-00002), feel good, and come to expect this good feeling upon waking up.\n\n", "toughen up by looking at the clock before sleeping, reminding yourself what time your alarm is set for, and not EVER hitting snooze, don't even enable the option. I gradually decreased the volume of the alarm until I would wake up only with the vibration, eventually I woke up 3 mins before the alarm. Snooze will not only make you waste time with worthless sleep, but will also make you more tired and groggy throughout the day.", "Put your alarm out of arms reach from your bed. Also do 5 push-ups when you get out of bed to help you wake up. ", "It's simple. Go to bed early. Everything is on demand nowadays don't have to stay up to watch anything anymors", "I set incremental alarms, the first one being about an hour and a half before I actually need to get up", "Go to bed at 10pm. Wake up 2 hours before you need to be awake.\nDon't drink caffeine at night. 10pm-6am is still 8 hours. I find I only really need 6 usually.\nLeave the blinds open so the natural light wakes you up. Its much better than using an alarm.", "Get up earlier then intended and watch some thrilling TV. Your brain will click into speed soon enough", "There is no ease, you just get used to feeling like that. I thought I could never get up early when I was a student but years of early shifts and two kids put pay to that. \n\nDon't doze or set extra alarms, just open your eyes when your alarm goes off. Snoozing feels way too nice, you can get stuck then. Get some natural light in if you can, I work better if I focus on something. Facebook works well, as sad as that sounds, or a news site. " ]	[ 9, 6, 5, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "bridging the gap between 95% to 100% in doing a complete professional job I've recently gotten a contract for a job that allows for zero error. I've always been close and I will have a support structure but I've always been the guy who does a ddr song he knows and does perfect until the last couple moves, or crush a test except for one or two questions even when I know the answer. It's like my brain makes me fail on reflex. Like I'm doing well and I'm doing so well I don't believe it and I sabotage myself. \n\nDoes anyone else do this self sabotaging stuff? How can I get around it to clench that last little bit between job well done and not quite there?\n\nThe job is not crazy complex and I will get training but I fear I will self sabotage when I should have it down pat.", "bridging the gap between 95% to 100% in doing a complete professional job I've recently gotten a contract for a job that allows for zero error. I've always been close and I will have a support structure but I've always been the guy who does a ddr song he knows and does perfect until the last couple moves, or crush a test except for one or two questions even when I know the answer. It's like my brain makes me fail on reflex. Like I'm doing well and I'm doing so well I don't believe it and I sabotage myself. \n\nDoes anyone else do this self sabotaging stuff? How can I get around it to clench that last little bit between job well done and not quite there?\n\nThe job is not crazy complex and I will get training but I fear I will self sabotage when I should have it down pat." ]	[ "Don't compare work to a DDR song, because you're using different skills (unless of course you're a professional dancer). They are NOT the same, and they are not even CLOSE to the same.\n\nThe easiest way to fix problems with finishing stuff is through discipline, and the best way to exercise that when you're not used to it is to use a written list.\n\nWhen starting, make a precise list of exactly what needs to be done before you can say 'This work is complete'. That includes the steps you have to perform to complete the work, AND the steps you (or others) have to perform to check that the work is satisfactory.\n\nStart the list early in the project in case you think up other things that needed to be added to it as the work is ongoing. \n\nThen, as you do the work, check off each item in the list. Don't stop doing this until the entire list is checked off, and immediately fix or resolve anything that you can't check off right then and there. \n\nThat way you know to the best of your ability you haven't dropped the ball on anything when you hand it over to its recipient.\n\nThis is a simple quality control process that employees and businesses all over the world use over and over. And it works just as well for complex jobs as for ones that aren't that complex but need to be done right.\n\nGood luck with the new job.", "Your job isn't done until follow-through is done. Runners don't slow down until after the finish line. Always keep that in mind." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Advice on Staying Focused? Hi everyone! I was just wondering if you guys can offer some advice. Since junior year up until second year uni I have had this problem. I am in college and when I study I make my notes everything is set but when it comes to reading them I just cant. I always have to have a show playing in the backround or music and I still dont feel like I am concentrated. I used to m", "Advice on Staying Focused? Hi everyone! I was just wondering if you guys can offer some advice. Since junior year up until second year uni I have had this problem. I am in college and when I study I make my notes everything is set but when it comes to reading them I just cant. I always have to have a show playing in the backround or music and I still dont feel like I am concentrated. I used to m", "Advice on Staying Focused? Hi everyone! I was just wondering if you guys can offer some advice. Since junior year up until second year uni I have had this problem. I am in college and when I study I make my notes everything is set but when it comes to reading them I just cant. I always have to have a show playing in the backround or music and I still dont feel like I am concentrated. I used to m" ]	[ "It sounds like you might have adhd. in adults, it usually comes out as inattentiveness rather than hyperactivity. you can talk to your doctor about it, especially if it's interfering with your ability to function.\n\nI've got adhd. I find being hyper organized helps me focus. I color code my lecture notes. Different colors for dates, names, locations, vocabulary, etc. the little ritual of taking out all my pens and then switching them during lecture helps me focus. it's like a game. Also makes it way easier for me when i'm going over them later.\n\nI, personally, cannot study with music or a show playing in the background because it distracts me. Unfortunately, silence is also distracting. I like studying at like panera or some place like that. it's not quiet and it's not distracting either.\n\nI know it's wasteful, but I also like to print out my articles when i read them. Underlining and annotating as I go makes reading them more engaging and i focus a bit better. Even when i'm reading from a text book or even like a leisure book, i'll underline and write notes in the margins.\n\nthis is stuff that works for me. Some of it might work for you, but it's really just try a bunch of stuff and see what helps you best", "Some biological things: Are you getting enough sleep? Are you getting decent nutrition? Exercise? Is it possible the recent lack of focus is related to increasing use of recreational drugs?\n\nPsychological: Are you in a rut? Is there a way you can disrupt your routine that would be mostly positive? Since you think tech reliance could be responsible is there a way you could do a media/technology fast for a day or two? I wouldn't absolutely rule out depression. Mild depression can respond to things like exercise.\n\nIt might all self resolve. If you're impatient for things to get better I'd tweak some aspects of your life to try and get some results.", "Recognize that your mental energy is not infinite. Your brain runs on calories, using a metabolism to deliver them to brain cells that have a finite capacity for generating and expending or receiving electrical impulses and chemicals from each other. Your brain cells work as networks of connections, \"YOU\" the personal consciousness that you the person are when you are awake is a function of part of that brain's execution of sequences of actions- but \"you\" are not the only thing your brain does, for example your brain stem/central nervous system regulates how wide open your lung's air pathways are- not something you probably think about regularly, but done by your brain all the same, in another part of the hardware than consciousness, and probably kept separate by natural selection.\n\nBasically, think of your brain as a city, of you the person as \"downtown\" with all the skyscrapers that are filled with people 9-5, but who go home and sleep afterwards in other parts of town via interconnected networks of transmission, and who have work schedules and personal lives that take them to different overlapping areas. What you're asking is how to cultivate the downtown- and it's pretty obvious, cultivate the whole brain to enable more work to be done downtown, and this means physical exercise to both strengthen your body and condition your metabolism, some rigor toward your diet and acquisition of nutrients or beneficial supplemental chemicals, some regular time off to allow your tolerances to reset, and allowances for your own limitations, because allowing limitations allows the recognition of them, and that's the first step toward overcoming them." ]	[ 7, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. ", "Ways to eat healthy without having to cook? Hey guys, I'm trying to get healthier by changing my eating habits. I eat pretty clean 4 times a day.\n\n\nCurrently I'm still getting pretty hungry between meals, especially between lunch and dinner after I work out. I generally get off work pretty late. Can anyone recommend a relatively healthy meal that I can make with minimal work? I'm trying to graduate from microwaveable food. " ]	[ "Sandwich grenades.\n\nTake all the stuff you use to make a sandwich and stuff it inside a bell pepper instead of bread. It's low carb and crunchy.", "Nuts and fruits and stuff requires no cooking.\n\nSteaming just requires knowing when food looks done, get a glass lid. ", "Toast (bread without a zillion ingredients) with:\n\n* hummus\n\n* mashed avocado\n\n* all-natural peanut butter + banana\n ", "Go raw. Then you don’t have to cook at all and you will eat so healthy. I eat like 15 pounds of carrots every week.", "If you have an HEB near you they've started doing raw meal preps in oven safe containers.\n\nExample of one is a seasoned chicken breast, broccoli, and cubed rosemary potatoes. They give the calories and protein for the entire meal in large lettering and then the standard nutrition information. \n\nThey do salmon ones, shrimp, etc and they're anywhere from $3-$5. I work at a bar while in school so I'm off late and by that time they've discounted them another 25-35%. They're extremely healthy and highly convenient. Pull the top off and bake in the oven\n\nGreat for post workout meals too since the gym is right by my heb and on my way to work. Makes my route literally one big loop back to my home.", "Here's a super lazy salad - Get some triple-washed organic spinach/kale mix and some triple-washed broccoli. (side-note, do you know who invented this whole triple-washed veges thing? I'll tell you...It was Jesus.) Throw it in a bowl with 4/5 baby carrots (also don't have to wash them - BOOM), some chunks of parmesan (which you can buy already chunked). Get some low-sodium black beans, but rinse them off anyway (maybe do this on a Sunday so you don't have to do this horrible back-breaking chore more than once a week - no one should have to suffer. Throw a bunch of these in). Maybe add some walnuts, too. For more protein, get some low-sodium tuna packs. Drizzle this sonofabitch with some olive oil and crack some salt and pepper over top. Eat it as you marvel at how much you didn't have to do and how healthy you are. ", "[I'm just going to leave this here for you](http://www.seriouseats.com/2014/09/diy-instant-noodle-cups-food-lab.html)\n\nI started making them yesterday, after picking up some jars from ikea on Sunday. It's great, and fills you up more than you would think. It can be as light as you make it to be, and I figure the cost would be roughly $2 (Australian) per meal. ", "There's always protein shakes, if you're just looking for something really fast. But if I were you, I'd consider investing in a nice crock pot. They don't cost much and they're great options for people who can't/don't like to cook.", "Have you tried rotisserie chickens? They usual don't cost more than six bucks and if you don't eat the skin it's relatively healthy. I rip up two every week and eat them for lunch every day, potatoes, rice, or broccoli on the side. ", "This will sound boring, but drinking lots of water really helps me from being hungry all the time. \n\nSince you're asking for a healthy meal though, I usually snack a turkey/chicken breast (sliced from the deli) taco between lunch and dinner with a whole wheat tortilla, spinach and tzatziki (greek yogurt with cucumber and garlic). The only cooking would be mixing the sauce and heating the tortilla. ", "I've been trying my whole life to find the holy grail of food that is cheap, healthy, and convenient. I'm convinced that it does not exist. You only get to pick two, at best. Both healthy and convenient is a tough one at any price.\n\nI've been experimenting with a sort of \"Soylent.\" There's no magic to it: it's just powdered food. Organic oatmeal ground up in a coffee grinder and mixed with pure whey protein isolate and milk in a blender bottle has been a good meal replacement for me (just don't try to live off it entirely, like the hardcore Soylent weirdos). Add some oil if you want an extra filling shake. I recommend against the official Soylent, as it uses maltodextrin as a main ingredient, and that stuff has a glycemic index that is literally off the scale.", "realize that cooking can be simple, super fast and easy. \n\nI usually eat two simple wraps for lunch, meat cheese mustard lettuce tomato on flour tortilla. \n\nStart carrying fruit with you, apples, pears, oranges are my go to. You'll eat less if you snack. \n\nthrow your microwave in the trash. Get a toaster oven. So much better and everything will be healthier you make in it. ", "Use a rice cooker. I cook my rice in the bottom, and my rice cooker came with a veggie steamer so I can do both at the same time! Throw it in before you take a shower and by the time you're dressed you should have carbs+veggies! :) Top it off with some Bragg's Liquid Aminos (soy sauce alternative) and you're all set!", "Avocado, add salt and pepper.\n\n\nCan of tuna. Add cream cheese, salt, pepper, green leaves.\n\n\nBoiled eggs. Salt, pepper. \n\n\nFruit comes pre-packaged. Peel and eat. \n\n\n", "You like raw veggies? Most can be eaten without cooking, in fact dome cooking methods strip them of their nutrients.", "Why not protein shakes with milk? It takes longer for your body to absorb unlike if you drink it with water, so it should be suitable for a meal replacement", "Start cooking meals for the entire week. It will take effort 1 day a week (for only a couple of hours) and then you are DONE!\n\nIn 2 hours time you can prep/cook:\n* hard boiled eggs (for breakfast or snack)\n* A whole cooked chicken (separate into tupperware for dinner, salads, sandwiches...ect)\n* steamed veggies/sauteed veggies\n* cut/chopped raw veggies for snacks\n\n....and more! Just google recipes!", "Rotisserie chicken. Watch a video how to carve it if you aren't familiar. Good alone or on salad out with rice or with raw veggies or whatever.", "Ohhh AND for a snack between breakfast and lunch I always do Greek yoghurt, gluten and sugar free muesli (I'm gluten intolerant and terrified of added sugar), manuka honey and sliced strawberries. Tastes so good and is super filling and healthy", "Not wanting to cook is a great excuse for eating raw fruits and veggies. \n\nI like eating a whole avocado with a sprinkling of sea salt.\nCelery sticks with peanut butter or cream cheese.\nSliced tomato with a sprinkling of your preferred spices.\nI eat sliced cucumbers and baby carrots without any dip or spice as I like their refreshing taste standalone.\nThe sweeter fruits don't need any toppings. \n\nFor non-produce snacks I like:\nWhole wheat cracker spread with a low sugar jam or preservative.\nNuts. Pistachios, peanuts, cashews, almonds. They're more palatable with salt if your diet allows for that. \nYogurt. (Not the sugary kind. None of that Yoplait crap. That's a dessert) Tastes good with unsweetened oats and some blueberries. \nOrganic blue corn tortilla chips with additive-free salsa.\nFreeze-dried fruits and veggies. Not as good as fresh and very expensive but more convenient when you're in a pinch. \n\nI don't know how much of this works for you since diets are such a personal experience. For example, my diet does not have the intention of losing weight. I just want it to be balanced and low in sugar, and I don't have to worry about high blood pressure so I'm not worried about salt intake. Portion control is also important for me so reading labels and paying attention to serving sizes is a must.", "My lunch (sometimes dinner) consists of precooked chicken, steamed rice, and steamed veggies in the microwave. You said you are trying to get away from the microwave, but these could easily be heated up on the stove. Throw in your favorite seasoning or hot sauce or both and bam. ", "Maybe you should not focus on not cooking at all and just switch it up a bit. Get a cooking book focussed on quick, cheap, but healthy meals.. And when you cook, try to cook for the rest of the week as wel. You can switch a base ingridient like couscous out for a lot of tasty shit that you don't have to cook! ", "Make a big batch of a grain you like and freeze single portions (or buy instant or frozen brown rice.) Buy a bag of frozen veggies. If you need more protein, also have beans/lentils on hand. Nuke everything. Throw some spice on top if you want. Tah dah! This has been my dinner the last six nights.", "Look in to Chia seeds, they are an amazing energy packed food. \n\nYou place a spoon full in water overnight so they expand and eat it with yoghurt and fruit. You can also put them in smoothies or anything else really. \n\nYou can also get some bee pollen, amazing boost as well. \n\n\nThey both give you tons of energy. ", "It's not perfect as far as health goes, but I'm finding microwavable rice and varied fruit are about as easy as you can get carb wise. for Proteins and fat I eat a lot of eggs, some yogurt/smoothies (it's tough to find ones without added sugar though).\n\nI am definitely lacking in vegetables though... \n\nI used to cook, but I go through bouts of depression where all I want to do after work is stare at the wall for a few hours. I couldn't maintain my cooking. Sometimes I'll do batch chicken thighs on sunday (so much easier to cook right than breasts, and super easy to just rub some adobo and olive oil on them, then throw them in the oven at 375 for an hour, protein for most of the week). \n\neating healthy without cooking at all on a budget is damn near impossible.", "It's all about meal prep ... No specific recipe here, but when you do find what ya like, make a bunch at once.\n\nBuy some good Pyrex & get to it.", "If you weren't looking for salad recipes... I'm going to have to break it to you bud. You'll most likely have to learn to cook at least a bit. Buy a tray of boneless, skinless chicken breasts. Put a few on a tray, sprinkle a few spices and bake. Make some minute rice and heat a can of veggies. You got yourself a decent meal. ", "If it's between meals and not meal substitutes.\n\nBanana-Peanut Butter Milk Shake, 1.5 L = 300 calories\nFrozen Banana / Peanut Butter / Ice / Chocolat Protein Powder / Milk / Frozen Vanilla Yogurt \n\nTrail Mix, 50 g = 250 calories\nThis is for raw calories, you won't feel physically full but you'll be full after your body absorbs the calories.\n\nCucumbers / Carrots / Hummus, 200 g hummus = 300 calories \nYou can eat a lot of veggies on 200 g of hummus.", "I'm a big fan of apples and peanut butter. But not jiff shit- the real straight up ground non salted peanuts. The grocery store I go to has the grinder right there. \n", "I have been buying Wraps, Cheese and Lettuce. Make a wrap with all these and some ranch dressing or caesar. Tastes excellent. Add other healthy things and it tastes better: crutons, carrots, onions, some pre cooked chicken etc.", "I bought a cheap electric rice cooker. When I get home from the gym, I toss in some rice and water in the bottom, fill the top tray with veggies and thinly sliced chicken or fish fillet. In the time it takes to cook (shuts off on its own), I can shower and do whatever around the house. Easy cleanup and prep.", "Honestly, I just microwave everything because I'm lazy. Precooked chicken with microwavable veggie bags, add sauce- Dinner served. You can even microwave rice pouches from Uncle Ben. Sometimes I'll make a chicken sandwich or chicken salad. I also make Potbelly's Wreck Salad from home too, minus the blue cheese. Precooked chicken isn't the healthiest... but it's also not pizza either. \n\nI'm also big on peanut butter and apples, hummus, guac, etc. ", "Get a very good blender (e.g., vitamix or blendtec or equivalent). I throw in (all organic) an apple, some kale, carrots, celery, beet, broccoli or cauliflower, chia, some lemon and some frozen banana. You could also add protein powder. Blend for one minute. You're getting your fill of raw veggies in one sitting. Tastes great. If it's not sweet enough for you, add another apple or more banana.", "Get a tortilla. Corn, flour, whatever you like. Spread some refried beans on there. Add some pre-shredded cheese and some diced onion. Fry on skillet or griddle until crispy and cheese is melted. To feel extra fancy, add some sour cream and/or salsa on the side.\n\nReasonably healthy, takes less than ten minutes, very filling.", "Frozen fruit, Greek yogurt, scoop of protein powder. Blend for smoothie, comes out to $2-3 in total. Keeps me full for 2-3 hours, usually have for breakfast and/or between lunch and dinner", "Eating healthy without having the time to cook is probably going to require one or both of the following: A) Spending a lot of money, B) being able to tolerate disgustingly plain and flavorless foods", "Does making a smoothie constitute cooking? I know it's probably been mentioned already because it's a bit of a duh but there's this one that's great if you hate incorporating vegetables into your diet like I do.\n\nKale (sounds new agey I hate even uttering the word kale but it really is a superfood and very cheap)\nSpinach leaves (has a very inoffensive flavour despite it's reputation and is great for you)\n1 apple (slice it around the core) \nIce\nOrange juice (preferably freshly squeezed)\nCoconut water \n\nDon't really know quantities but try and fill the shit out of the blender with greens. The sweet flavours are dominant anyway, it actually tastes amazing. It'll give you so much energy too. ", "Do yourself a favor and learn how to cook. Generally, it's cheaper, healthier, and tastes way better than getting a cheap meal elsewhere", "Check out /r/soylent\n\nI had this exact same problem last year, then I started ordering soylent which is basically a nutritionally complete shake. Can make a days worth of food in 5-10 mins or less. \n\nAnd don't worry about the name, no soy, only humans are used! ☺ \n", "Avocado with salsa. Refreshing and delicious, and filled with things you need.\n\n[", "Apples and peanut butter, carrots/cucumber/raw broc and hummus. Hummus goes great with a lot of veggies.", "Apple slices with natural peanut butter. Greek yogurt. Cut up veggies and tzatziki made from plain Greek yogurt. ", "Alright, I'm the laziest piece of shit ever but I work out and try to meal prep. So here is the way I do it so that it's minimal work, maximum health.\n\nProtein: I get either precooked frozen chicken breasts from frozen section at the grocery store, easy to count macros with those, easy to microwave. OR buying a rotisserie chicken.\n\nVegetables: I either steam fresh veggies or I buy the frozen veggies, they have stuff like antioxidant blends/rice blends/etc which you pop in the microwave and are also able to watch your calories/carbs/sugars/proteins.\n\nSo easy.", "All kinds of fruit are healthy.\nSeasonal local fruits would be healthier than those from non-seasonal cold-storage fruits.\n\nTo start of with a single fruit, try Bananas. A banana is filling and can keep you satisfied for longer time. They don't need peeling, no removal of cores, no cutting. Other solutions are keep a peeler / kitchen knife in your desk drawer and get apples, pears everyday from home. I peel fruits since I don't think washing them only with water can remove the pesticide residue on the outer skin. and they sticker on the fruit skin is yucky.", "A good starting point would be, learning about your body's requirement of Macro Nutrients and just get food according to that. \n\nIt's not a hard concept to grasp and once you do get it, just fulfil those needs and you're good to go.", "* Oats. Easy to make with water, or just eat them dry.\n* Potatoes. Stab one a few times, microwave it, and eat.\n* Hummus with vegetables. Can't go wrong with hummus.\n* [Oatmeal Banana cookies.](http://www.ambitiouskitchen.com/2013/09/2-ingredient-healthy-banana-bread-breakfast-cookies-with-delicious-add-ins/)\n* Bell peppers. Go red/yellow/orange, and eat raw. The green ones suck, so avoid them.", "Not 100% healthy, but not bad:\n\nChicken cutlet fried in olive oil: tons of protein\n\nEggs of course, tons of protein, cholesterol in food is not related to blood cholesterol\n\nPiece of fruit\n\nhandful of nuts(don't overdo it, nuts can be high calorie)\n\ncold cuts without bread \n\nprotein powder in skim or low percent milk\nHigh percent isn't bad for you, just high calorie\n\n\n\n", "I find fasting a really convenient way to drop weight and feel healthier. \n\nI get up at 6:30 and don't eat until 19:30, I'll have a healthy ish meal and 1 blow out meal a week (dominos etc) \n\nAppetite is fine, I drink lots of water and train 3-4 days a week. \n\nI'm 6\"3, 110kg " ]	[ 152, 45, 37, 20, 15, 12, 9, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to increase flexibility I've never been flexible. Doctors thought it was scoliosis, but it was actually muscle tightness. It's mainly a problem of I can't reach my toes (~3 inches away). I've tried stretching for 10 minutes per day for a month, and I haven't noticed any difference. Anyone know of any good methods for gaining flexibility? I don't care if it takes me months to improve, I just want to know it's working.", "How to increase flexibility I've never been flexible. Doctors thought it was scoliosis, but it was actually muscle tightness. It's mainly a problem of I can't reach my toes (~3 inches away). I've tried stretching for 10 minutes per day for a month, and I haven't noticed any difference. Anyone know of any good methods for gaining flexibility? I don't care if it takes me months to improve, I just want to know it's working.", "How to increase flexibility I've never been flexible. Doctors thought it was scoliosis, but it was actually muscle tightness. It's mainly a problem of I can't reach my toes (~3 inches away). I've tried stretching for 10 minutes per day for a month, and I haven't noticed any difference. Anyone know of any good methods for gaining flexibility? I don't care if it takes me months to improve, I just want to know it's working." ]	[ "Beginners yoga. Try a group class if you have the money or Google some videos. You need to stretch for longer than 10 minutes a day. Try starting with 30 minutes and work your way up. ", "When I was around 18 I was around 6ft and 160 pounds. Pretty average, not really fat but not muscles either. I couldn't touch my toes. Anyway, I got a physical labor job stocking grocery shelves. At the beginning of the day, I couldn't touch my toes. After a few hours I could easily flat hand the floor. Pretty interesting. Something about the physical labor allowed me to reach in hours. Of course a few hours after I got off I couldn't touch them again. Hope this helped", "There are certain vitamins you can take ( forget which ones atm, sorry) that help repair your muscle health. Also, being properly hydrated will really help." ]	[ 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Peanut butter jars How the hell do I get the last quarter of the peanut butter out of the damn jar without getting my hand all goo-ey? I mean yeah everyone knows the spoon trick, but then that just becomes a pain in the ass to spread on a sandwich. I know someone in here has a card up their sleeve for this one.", "Peanut butter jars How the hell do I get the last quarter of the peanut butter out of the damn jar without getting my hand all goo-ey? I mean yeah everyone knows the spoon trick, but then that just becomes a pain in the ass to spread on a sandwich. I know someone in here has a card up their sleeve for this one.", "Peanut butter jars How the hell do I get the last quarter of the peanut butter out of the damn jar without getting my hand all goo-ey? I mean yeah everyone knows the spoon trick, but then that just becomes a pain in the ass to spread on a sandwich. I know someone in here has a card up their sleeve for this one." ]	[ "Wont help you until your next jar, but turn it over when you buy it and leave it on its cap for a few days, (especially if its a natural peanut butter, the kind where the oil separates) the oil will float to the \"bottom\" of the jar, leaving the top not all oily, no string required, then as you use it the bottom layer stays softer because it recently got mixed up with some of its natural oil, also i pretty much only use butter knives to get peanut butter, they are long enough to get to the bottom without pb-hand.", "If it's plastic, you could just cut the jar in half and keep it covered with plastic wrap until it's empty.", "When it gets to the bottom, I switch from plastic knives to the flatware butter knives. They're longer, and, as a bonus, they're sturdier. May not prevent it totally, but it helps." ]	[ 3, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!", "Preventing your cat from chewing wires I'm getting sick of my cat destroying my wires. I've hidden all the ones I could, but the ones I can't hide he just wrecks!" ]	[ "Grannick's Bitter Apple Spray. It's meant for dogs, but maybe it'll work for cats too (reviews on amazon also say it works for their cats). My puppy quickly learns not to chew on things that I spray this stuff on, it's a life saver.\n\nBut be aware you're cat might not be bothered by it. It's a hit or miss with dogs, but it's cheap enough that it's definitely worth a shot since it's extremely effective when they don't like it.", "Tuck them into those flexible wire organizing tubes\n\nGive cat something better to play with. My cats love those big packs of fake little fuzzy mice.", "I strung my important wires through empty paper towel and toilet paper rolls tight enough he couldn't bite between.", "not wires, but my cat played with a garland we had around the door at christmas one year. Put Tabasco on the bottom of it. It smelled for about a day, but the taste stayed. The cat quit after the first day.", "There is cat repellent that's sold at pet stores which will keep cats from chewing on things. Typically it's citrus scented / flavored (cats hate citrus). I did this when my cat was a kitten, before bringing him home, and he's never chewed wires.", "First, do the covering thing that funchy recommends and the extra play time to give the cat another outlet (argh, didn't even see that one coming as I typed it). \n\nIf there is a part of a cord you absolutely can't cover you can use the bitter cat-b-gone stuff you can get at a pet supply store or online. Beware though, it's really potent. You don't want to breathe it when you apply it and couldn't use it on any cord you would have to handle (like a laptop cord you moved about the house with you). Better a mouth full of bitter than an electrocuted cat friend.\n\nAs an aside, I can't seem to find any real fur covered play mice anymore. Those are the one my cats like best and they've destroyed all they've had.", "Special order that super hot sauce from the internet. This for example:\nhttp://www.scottrobertsweb.com/scoville-scale/ Will give you ideas. Something rated at 3200 times the hotness of a jalapeno is what I'd recommend. " ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?", "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?", "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?", "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?", "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?", "Security and safety tips? I live in a boarding house. Over the weekend when I went home, I got my laptop stolen and some other valuables. I know the thief will try again. What safety measures can you suggest?" ]	[ "Get a lock and a mobile suitcase so that you know it is safe when away and all valuables can be brought with you need be.", "Lol what does op want???? Gave you advice for living in a boarding house. Which you said stuff got stolen. Gave you the best advice out there. Enjoy getting taken advantage of then", "Lesson learned.\n\nReport the incident to the police. You may find that the theif would hear about this and return the items or that the school doesn't want to seem negligent and work to resolve the situation as fast as possible—even if the school states that it is not responsible for personal belongings. They usually care about their reputation enough to make an attempt to help.\n\nConsider investing in air tags or geolocation software. I remember the old Toshibas had satellite tracking, not sure if that's still a feature or if it ever even worked 🤣", "Do you have a lock on your door? A locker? Or a box with a lock that you can keep stuff in?\n\nI had one piece of advice given to me when I moved to a big city: check my door and if it was unlocked when I got home, never go inside. Find the superintendent. \n\nLocks are important. If locks aren't do-able, find a way to get rid of your belongings (or store them with someone you can trust) until you move into more secure lodgings. You can use a computer at a library probably for example.", "On top of that , the person that stole your shit is likely the person you say also is missing things. Don't be a fool.", "Take everything of value with you, what's wrong with you, why would you leave a laptop in a boarding house you need to grow up a bit and realize that people are disgusting and you need to protect yourself.\n\nYou are stupid and need to realize that you should have never. Ever ever. Left your valuables off your back." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 0, -10 ]	safe
[ "How to overcome shyness. My fiance, our kids and I are going to his family's house on the river for Thanksgiving. This will be the second year we go. His entire family will be there. Last year I sat on the couch to scared to talk to anyone and my boyfriend just now decides to tell me his family thought I was being a bit rude. I never imagined my shyness coming off as rudeness. Any tips to open up and talk? We will be there for 5 days and I'm having anxiety about it.", "How to overcome shyness. My fiance, our kids and I are going to his family's house on the river for Thanksgiving. This will be the second year we go. His entire family will be there. Last year I sat on the couch to scared to talk to anyone and my boyfriend just now decides to tell me his family thought I was being a bit rude. I never imagined my shyness coming off as rudeness. Any tips to open up and talk? We will be there for 5 days and I'm having anxiety about it.", "How to overcome shyness. My fiance, our kids and I are going to his family's house on the river for Thanksgiving. This will be the second year we go. His entire family will be there. Last year I sat on the couch to scared to talk to anyone and my boyfriend just now decides to tell me his family thought I was being a bit rude. I never imagined my shyness coming off as rudeness. Any tips to open up and talk? We will be there for 5 days and I'm having anxiety about it.", "How to overcome shyness. My fiance, our kids and I are going to his family's house on the river for Thanksgiving. This will be the second year we go. His entire family will be there. Last year I sat on the couch to scared to talk to anyone and my boyfriend just now decides to tell me his family thought I was being a bit rude. I never imagined my shyness coming off as rudeness. Any tips to open up and talk? We will be there for 5 days and I'm having anxiety about it.", "How to overcome shyness. My fiance, our kids and I are going to his family's house on the river for Thanksgiving. This will be the second year we go. His entire family will be there. Last year I sat on the couch to scared to talk to anyone and my boyfriend just now decides to tell me his family thought I was being a bit rude. I never imagined my shyness coming off as rudeness. Any tips to open up and talk? We will be there for 5 days and I'm having anxiety about it." ]	[ "Also. Look online for a TED talk about how you should fake confidence until you are confident. It could help you.", "I try to socialize in small quantities. Coming from a small family with one sibling to my bf's family of five siblings, their SO, plus kids - and extended family on occasion I find very overwhelming. I generally talk in bits here and there to people, or join in on bigger conversations when I can. Push myself to engage someone lol. I try not to be the centre of attention because I'm so new still and uncomfortable as well but it is getting easier. Good Luck! ", "try a small \"party\" game, something light and family friendly (werewolf, ect.). having somethign else to talk about than just eachother makes it easier to have something to say, and once you start talking it's easier to keep going.", "Try and take an interest in other people. Ask questions about them... its the easiest way to get them to like you. Even if your not interested in their responses, pretend that you are. Hope this helps. ", "Smile. It's actually that easy. I tend to get quiet in large groups too, but I always smile and laugh hard at the funny jokes.\n\nShowing enthusiasm about what someone else is talking about is also nice. Pitching in with a short anecdote from time to time also helps to show that you can relate.\n\nAt the end of the day, once you are married, his family will be your family, so don't be shy!" ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n", "How to run a mile without overexerting yourself? I have to run a mile in gym class for my yearly fitness evaluation. I threw up immediately after the last time I did it, and REALLY don't want it to happen again.\n\n" ]	[ "Run slower. I know it sounds like a simple answer but it's the most logical. Is there a time limit? Just lightly jog if not.", "Mistake many make if they have not run for time before is going out hard and petering out at the end.\n\nYou've got 4 laps, your first lap should not be 1 minute and your last should not be 2 minutes. Whatever the goal is, let's say for argument 5 minutes, divide by 4.\n\n1 minute 15 seconds a lap(75 seconds). This is something you have to work at, also by working at it you are training. Break each lap down by another 4, roughly 20 seconds from start to middle of first turn, 20 seconds from middle of first turn to half way and so on. \n\nA benefit of monitoring your time in such detail is you are not really thinking about how tired you are, your mind is occupied with keeping your pace.", "Breathe\nDrink water throughout the day leading up to it (sips only)\nEat breakfast and dont eat within an hour of you doing the run", "Breath in through your nose and out your mouth. Focus on it. Try to keep a good pattern. The first mile is always the hardest", "a lot of people here seem to be assuming that you're out of shape, or that you need to be in shape to finish a mile without vomiting. I have no idea what sort of shape you're in, but if you puked after the last time, the culprit is likely the foods/drinks you consumed beforehand. Avoid sugar, dairy, and carbonated beverages. If you're really worried about spewing, try not to consume anything but water within 90 minutes of the run, and lay off the water 15 minutes before the run.\n\naside from that, most people do start too fast. it's better to get to the fourth lap and feel like you could pick up the pace than it is to be exhausted after a lap and a half.", "Train for it if you can. If not, pace yourself so you're running about the same speed the entire time.", "To train for a 1 mile run. You want to train at 1.5 to 2 miles. Do this and your 1 mile will be easier and faster. ", "The fastest way to improve is to change your running posture. Set your core - shoulders back and down, tuck your hips so that your body is straight and not slouched. Keep your arms bent at 90 degrees, and try not to bring your shoulders down as you pump your arms back and forth. I find it also efficient to increase foot turnover. If you can actively focus on your body posture and maintain good form, you'd be surprised at how much better you can run a mile. ", "The biggest thing is simply pacing yourself. If your legs are starting to hurt, your lungs are starting to burn, simply close your stride and slow your rhythm a little bit. On the treadmill I can sustain 7mph pretty easy, 8mph for a good while, etc. When running a long sprint in a physical test, I'll start off nice and easy and pick up the pace while everyone burns themselves out at the beginning. It feels nice casually running by people nearly doubling overthemselves after exerting everything at the gun.", "I ran my first mile at the beginning of this school year, and I don't ever run or work out away from gym class at school.\nWhat I find works for me, generally, is to breathe through my nose for as long as possible so you don't dry out your throat, and to keep a good rhythm of your steps in your head. It's nice if you can find a song you like with a good tempo that you can imagine, as it also takes your mind off the running. And rather than thinking of my feet going up and down, I imagine them going around a circle, sort of like when I ride a bike. Then I get a bit more forward thrust out of each step.\nIf you get to run outside somewhere with markers on the track or trees along the road, it's also helpful to just focus on one market at a time. So if you're about to slow to a walk, just tell yourself to run to the next marker, and when you get there you tell yourself to go to the next, etc. \nAfter the run, make sure not to gasp with your mouth, especially if you're outside somewhere cars drive by. I made this mistake last year after the 12-minute run, and threw up. Just take really deep breaths through your nose with your eyes closed, hands on your head (to make breathing easier), and walk slowly.\nHope this helps!", "I did it. Trained for it a bit the night before and got some sleep. Had a mild headache afterward but managed to pull it off. Thanks!", "Are you allowed music mp3 player etc.\n\nIf you are find a few songs that are at a BPM which is a comfortable running speed for you and stick to that running speed.\n\nThe human body adapts very rapidly to repetition and rhythm, so ramp up to the beat of the song and stay there. When you change your speed too much and push your body to far it goes into survival mode, the adrenalin and build up of lactic acid is what is making you feel sick. \n", "You can either train for it or slow down. Either way, if you threw up, you're probably not drinking enough water or getting enough exercise in general.\n\nA good training method is to alternate between running and walking (for example, two minutes of running and 30 seconds of walking). Every few sessions, increase the running time by 30 seconds. It's mostly mental, unless you're really debilitated or sick you can always run further than you think you can. It'll just be really uncomfortable.\n\nAlso try reducing your sugar intake - cut down on juice and soda. And eating a big meal during the few hours before you run is associated with cramps. Obviously you have to eat but maybe avoid the massive cheeseburger/pizza on run day.", "Thanks for the advice so far, will try to remember all of it. I have to admit one mile probably does sound kinda pathetic to some, never really been the athletic kind of person. I really need to work out more outside of gym -_- \n\nI also plan to get a ton of sleep beforehand, I'm thinking part of the reason why I was sick was cause it was early in the morning and I was tired.", "1 mile? If you think about it thats really not far at all. if you were puking last time you were pushing yourself too hard. Run slower and at a steady pace. Your not racing anyone so just move at a comfortable pace and eventually you will be done. If you want to train yourself then 30-60's and 60 120's are awesome to get your endurance up." ]	[ 9, 5, 4, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!", "How to get better at singing and playing guitar at the same time? Whenever I try to sing while playing my strumming pattern alters and I want to know how I can fix this. Thank you :)\nThanks guys for the support! Way more help than I was expecting!!!!" ]	[ "Repetition repetition repetition. Just play the guitar til the strumming pattern is second nature to you. When it's so ingrained that you don't even think about it when you're playing it try singing with it. That's the only thing that works for me. There's no secret \"trick\" that will make you able to sing and strum at the same time, you just need to drill it into your brain. ", "Learn how to play the easiest, slowest, and simplest song you know. Something with few lyrics and maybe fewer chords. Take it slow at first. ", "Start with ridiculously simple rhythm patterns. Start by playing a chord on every beat of a measure, and on every 1st beat, say \"da.\"\n\nOnce you've got that down, add another \"da\" on the third beat.\n\nThen make it harder, move the 2nd \"da\" to be between the 2nd and 3rd beat.\n\nThey key is to break it down and put it back together so you start seeing it as one integrated rhythm, rather than two separate rhythms.", "the problem you're describing is a problem with syncopation. while the right hand might strum something only a few times every measure, the singing usually pivots on smaller divisions of time. you should mentally prepare and practice 16th note divisions. I mean, while strumming, practice saying \"1 e & a, 2 e & a, 3 e & a...\" and \"1 lo la, 2 lo la, 3 lo la\" (for 3/4 meter). get creative with this, it should give your strumming some support and that then should support your singing.", "Play and sing at the same time\n\nHonestly, you just have to keep trying and practicing and it will eventually become easier. That's really the only way of learning anything, there are no real shortcuts.", "Not trying to brag, but I am a musician, as well as a Music Teacher at a good Professional Music school (not just beginner level, but pro musicians come here to hone their already kickass skills). \n\nTry practicing different strum patterns and chord changes as much as possible. Do this while practicing music, while watching TV, while doing anything where you can play the guitar (I even do this while taking a dump). This will trigger a form of muscle memory. Once you put in a good number of hours doing this, you will find yourself no longer focusing on this, and you automatically strum along to songs without having to think consciously about it. Now you can add the vocals in, and focus on getting those right, without dividing attention between vocals and guitar simultaneously. Also, try it slow, then fast, because you want to have good rhythm in place by the time you bring the vocals into your playing. \n\n\nThis worked for me, and for many of my students, across all instruments. I hope this helps with you, and good luck to you!", "Not exactly the same thing but sometimes I'll have trouble putting left and right hand parts together in piano. It really helps to know both parts independently and then slow it down when you bring them together. Try to notice how the beats interact with each other to create a different beat. An example is when you tap a 4 beat per measure beat with one hand while the other taps at 3 beats per measure. They're easy to do independently but when you go to put them together you really have to listen to the whole thing to figure it out. ", "My technique on hard stuff has been to do the right hand strumming pattern in the car while singing along to the track. In the difficult sections even working out where in the pattern the phrase starts or where certain words go, then where to breath.\n\nThe good news is, the more songs you pick up, the easier it gets. \n\nOne additional tip that worked for me was to use different chord voicings in the chorus than in the verse (especially if the chord changes are similar). That way my hand doesn't automatically--and this is where muscle memory makes mistakes for you--go the the wrong chord because I'm so used to a particular chord pattern in the verse. But if I change some or all of the chorus, I never go to the wrong chord. Worked for me anyway. \n \n \n", "Just pick something and try to do it over and over for several hours, despite failure. You might think you can't at first but you totally can. I've learned how to sing and play some pretty advanced parts that way.", "I will add to this: practice slowly. Groove, but in slo-mo. Listen to where the vocal and guitar intersect and where they oppose so that you are aware of these tricky moments. ", "For me, I sang first. One or the other is going to have to be natural for you so you can do it on autopilot. I started learning Jazz guitar which is very hard compared to standard country/rock chords. Backing off to easier chords was like riding a tricycle.\n\nEssentially, just practice until the song is memorized and can be played without thought." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to fix a metal zipper that rusted shut. I left my bowling ball bag in my garage for over a year and now I can't open the metal zipper because it's rusted shut. I figured i'd ask here if anyone has solved rust problems in the past and can chime in.", "How to fix a metal zipper that rusted shut. I left my bowling ball bag in my garage for over a year and now I can't open the metal zipper because it's rusted shut. I figured i'd ask here if anyone has solved rust problems in the past and can chime in.", "How to fix a metal zipper that rusted shut. I left my bowling ball bag in my garage for over a year and now I can't open the metal zipper because it's rusted shut. I figured i'd ask here if anyone has solved rust problems in the past and can chime in." ]	[ "You can buy zipper lube. \nBut once you have severe rust you will be looking at replacing either the bag or the zipper. \nTry rubbing a candle on it- the wax is somewhat lubricating.\n\nIf you are desperate and don't care about ruining the bag try WD-40 or naval jelly. But either will stain both fabric and leather.", "Try some of that graphite spray you can get at the hardware store. \n\nI'd suggest something like WD-40 but that would stain the bag. Graphite might not. ", "First step is if you can wiggle the zipper at all or if it is rusted in place with no movement. \n\nIf you can wiggle it at all then a spray type lube will help, especially a penetrating oil. \n\nZippers do like graphite lube alot and it shouldnt stain like normal oils will.\n\nAlternatively if you cant wiggle the zipper then reapplying an oil periodically could help but if its all crusted over then you can try twisting it and breaking some of the scale and helping the oil penetrate until you can work the zipper further and further.\n\nIf you dont want to break the zipper or tear the bag then remember to be forceful but gentle" ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n", "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n", "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n", "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n", "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n", "Work when young or work when old? Hi Reddit. Sup?\n\nWork hard young and retire early, or take it easy when young and retire at an older age? \n" ]	[ "This really isn't a LPT. You should work smart always. When you need to work hard, do it!\n\nYou have to evaluate what you want and go for it!", "I dunno, do you wanna work away your youth, which could be the sweetest and most memorable time of your life so that you can be some stinky senior sitting in a tour bus traveling the world being herded from tourist trap to tourist trap? Your youth is worth more than any amount of money. I bet billionaires would spend their entire net worth to get back the years if they could. ", "Work Hard and Play hard. It isn't just a cliche saying, work smart and always have the time to wind off, chill with friends and DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO when you're young. \n\n\n\nYou want a tattoo? Get it. \n\n\n\nYou want to do extreme sports? Do it. \n\n\n\n\nYou want to be part of a band? Be in one.\n\n\n\n\n\nThing is, while we're young, we NEED to have the financial capabilities to support our wants and needs. You don't have to save every single penny of your hard earned money from your job especially when you're under 25. Spend it and enjoy it, thing is when you get older you will earn much much more and you can then save but you will have lost your youth by then.\n\n\n\n\nSo now that you're young and have the opportunity to earn money. Utilize your youth to the full extent, let's enjoy it while it last.", "Balance. \n\nI'm in my late 20s. I worked my butt off early on but I also covered myself in the tattoos I always wanted, traveled to many continents, bought the motorcycle I always wanted, and traveled parts of the US playing rugby. It wasn't a lavish lifestyle but it was fun. Unfortunately, I didn't save at all because I got caught up in drugs (I'm clean now). So work hard, play hard to an extent! Always have a little cash to fall back on. \n\nWhen I was 21, I worked 3 jobs while in college full time. I had my fun but while all my friends were getting trashed at the bar 4x a week, I was focused. At 23, I had some of the best times of my life ...I was frugal but had enough money to enjoy myself and go do things. That was honestly the best time of my life socially. I'm glad I did what I wanted then because as you get older you don't have the same stamina anymore. I'm not just saying hangovers are worse, but just general recovery. Long flights aren't as easy to bounce back from and vacations tire me out more than they used to. \n\nThe middle of your life can be a wash financially due to family, kids, etc. Not in a bad way but you'll be working to support your family and their future. So you can't just get up and go do whatever anymore. \n\nI don't plan on retiring and doing nothing when I'm older. Sure, maybe I'll retire from my job but I plan on working in some form or another. Maybe part time with volunteer work. Retirement can be a death sentence as it can lead to cognitive decline. I want to keep my mind sharp and stay a little busy. Many old people stop working and subsequently stop working their brain and stop moving their body. It would be great to have money to travel at an older age but I still want to do most of it when I'm young and have my health on my side. You may have limitations down the line and who knows...you could get cancer or something and be unable to do the things you once wanted. My dad died suddenly and unexpectedly at 54 so I never wanted to \"wait for the right time\". We aren't guaranteed anything. \n\n\nSo work hard now but save time to do the things you want. Plan for the future but don't work your youth away for a day that may never come. ", "I wouldn't say take it easy when you're young, but I will say there are definitely certain experiences you can't have once you get older and to sacrifice those for the sake making a few more bucks would be a sizable mistake IMO.", "Enjoy your youth while you can, for when it is gone, it is gone. But, don't take it too easy. Otherwise you may find yourself lacking the experience you need to be successful later in life. It's all about finding the right balance." ]	[ 6, 2, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out.", "I find it difficult to form fluid speech. How can you improve your cognitive function when it comes to conversation skills and concentration? I find it difficult to string basic sentences together. Either i can't recall a particular word or i get jumbled, so keep things short even though i may have wanted to make an additional point. This has been the case for at least 5 years.\n\nThis puts me off people approaching me to chat as i I'll just sound weird.\n\nAnother thing is I've watched a good tv show or film and someone asks what's it about, my mind can't recall the narrative so i can't articulate it ir find it very difficult to. \n\nI'm an introvert so have always been reserved in speech but it was coherent.\n\nThe only time I've felt a sense of fluidity in my speech in recent years is part of some medical treatment i received a dose of a drug called Zoladex. I was for a brief period, sharp and witty. Though when the course finished it seemed to worsen my fog.\n\nI'm considering trying lions mane now to see if things will work out." ]	[ "I'm concerned that you might have an undiagnosed medical condition. I think it would be good to try to figure out why you think it's gotten worse. \n\nHopefully it's psychological - something like you've become more anxious or overly worried about speaking poorly.\n\nSome things that have helped me is to record myself and compare that to people who I feel speak fluently and are good at contemporaneous conversations. The old classics work such as focusing on the other person, and reading how to win Friends and influence people.", "I experience this a lot. I’ve never been on medication so no improvement there. I’ll know exactly what I want to say but can’t articulate the words. I can’t recall certain details about shows, movies or books even though I just watched or read them, and my short term memory is awful unless I immediately write something down in detail. It’s really embarrassing 🙁", "Go to a doctor and get blood work done. Specifically have them check your thyroid levels, I was having similar issues and it turned out to be hypothyroidism which is treatable.", "This describes me well, though maybe not quite as severe as what you describe. \n\nHonestly, the best I ever feel is after 2 beers and a little weed. It gets me out of my own head, I feel like I can speak and be quick on my feet when I'm not normally. I can speak without having to think about the exact words I'm going to say - just knowing what I want to say it's enough. YMMV.", "I'm going to bring up a TV show, a movie, and my personal experience in customer service:\n\nIn \"Resident Alien\" (very funny show, btw), Alan Tudyk is an alien who teaches himself how to speak like humans by watching episodes of \"Law and Order\" and repeating the dialogue.\n\nIn \" ~~The~~ Room\", a young woman who was kidnapped and later had a child by her kidnapper had the child repeat what he heard on TV as a way to teach him how to speak intelligibly.\n\nAs for my personal experience, just listening to how my coworkers explained things to customers over the phone, and my having to explain things over and over to customers, really helped me polish my speech.\n\nGood luck!\n\nETA: corrected \"the room\" to \"Room\"", "I would suggest you try writing a comedy set (you don't have to perform it).The act of formalizing your thoughts and recording them is great practice in figuring out what you want to say next. I'm also an introvert and the act of writing and recording/reviewing my ideas helped me speak a bit better.", "First, be kind to yourself. Every person has a different cadence and that’s ok. Listen to Christopher Walken or Marian Freeman. Different cadences can be wonderful. \n\nSecond, practice! Work on small talk in low pressure situations. Grocery store clerks, gas station clerks, any retail experience. Ask “how’s your day going?” Smile. Laugh at their jokes. Learn to enjoy the curiosity about the inner world of other people as expressed through their words. Your goal isn’t perfection but instead a little progress at a pace that is perfect for you. \n\nThird, rest. Take some time away from tv and movies. Let your brain rest. Huberman lab podcast has a good one on focus that applies here. Sleep, diet, and regular light exercise are key here. Have a month where you sleep enough and get 20-30 minutes of walking outside most days. You will sleep better. \n\nLastly, work on your memory. Build a mind palace. Anthony Metivier and his magnetic memory podcast give away for free the entire procedure. He talks a lot about buying his classes, but that isn’t necessary. You can store phrases and little stories in your mind palace. I found that focusing on improving my memory increased my confidence in my memory. Weird.", "Are you a big reader? I struggled as a young adult to form engaging conversation in a social setting but after I started reading a lot (any books I was interested in) I noticed a big improvement in my ability to communicate and to understand and spell certain words. \n\nThough I think it’s a good idea to check it’s not a medical condition as well.", "1. Watch movies\n2. To start, find monologues that utilize a range of emotions and inflections and subtle hand motions\n3. Practice reciting \n\n4. This is for speaking and not getting tripped up on transitions\n\n5. For conversations, practice the skill of follow up questions", "This is called alogia, do you have any psychological conditions? For me it is a part of my bipolar disorder, but it can also be a side effect of medication if you are on any", "I read a bit about the medicine you were prescribed. Is your doctor monitoring your hormone levels? \n\nDo you have any other Add/adhd symptoms? \n\nIs it easier to talk with people you know well?", "You need to see a doctor ASAP. You may have had a silent stroke. If not that, there’s definitely something not right happening. This is something that should be incredibly alarming to you." ]	[ 24, 9, 8, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to stop shaking when nervous or anxious? When in a tense situation I get really shaky. I look like I'm a tweeker or coming down off something. I normally avoid eye-contact and when I force myself to maintain it, my head starts to shake. I was in an interview last week and I had to hold my hands clasped within my lap because they were shaking so bad. My voice becomes really thin, reedy, high-pitched, breathy. If I'm about to potentially get into a fight, even though I'm willing and able to defend myself, I'm all wobbly. I need to learn how to stop this from happening because right now, my only solution is to avoid these situations, and I've practically become a recluse. ", "How to stop shaking when nervous or anxious? When in a tense situation I get really shaky. I look like I'm a tweeker or coming down off something. I normally avoid eye-contact and when I force myself to maintain it, my head starts to shake. I was in an interview last week and I had to hold my hands clasped within my lap because they were shaking so bad. My voice becomes really thin, reedy, high-pitched, breathy. If I'm about to potentially get into a fight, even though I'm willing and able to defend myself, I'm all wobbly. I need to learn how to stop this from happening because right now, my only solution is to avoid these situations, and I've practically become a recluse. ", "How to stop shaking when nervous or anxious? When in a tense situation I get really shaky. I look like I'm a tweeker or coming down off something. I normally avoid eye-contact and when I force myself to maintain it, my head starts to shake. I was in an interview last week and I had to hold my hands clasped within my lap because they were shaking so bad. My voice becomes really thin, reedy, high-pitched, breathy. If I'm about to potentially get into a fight, even though I'm willing and able to defend myself, I'm all wobbly. I need to learn how to stop this from happening because right now, my only solution is to avoid these situations, and I've practically become a recluse. ", "How to stop shaking when nervous or anxious? When in a tense situation I get really shaky. I look like I'm a tweeker or coming down off something. I normally avoid eye-contact and when I force myself to maintain it, my head starts to shake. I was in an interview last week and I had to hold my hands clasped within my lap because they were shaking so bad. My voice becomes really thin, reedy, high-pitched, breathy. If I'm about to potentially get into a fight, even though I'm willing and able to defend myself, I'm all wobbly. I need to learn how to stop this from happening because right now, my only solution is to avoid these situations, and I've practically become a recluse. ", "How to stop shaking when nervous or anxious? When in a tense situation I get really shaky. I look like I'm a tweeker or coming down off something. I normally avoid eye-contact and when I force myself to maintain it, my head starts to shake. I was in an interview last week and I had to hold my hands clasped within my lap because they were shaking so bad. My voice becomes really thin, reedy, high-pitched, breathy. If I'm about to potentially get into a fight, even though I'm willing and able to defend myself, I'm all wobbly. I need to learn how to stop this from happening because right now, my only solution is to avoid these situations, and I've practically become a recluse. " ]	[ "You're going through an amygdala hijack. Do two things, take a deep breath and release it slowly, then count either out loud or in your head randomly. Or mutter to yourself a nursery rhyme. What you're doing is telling your brain to focus on higher order thinking instead of the situation.\n\nAlso, in a pocket or on your person, carry an object that remind you of a happy time from childhood. When doing the breath and recitation, hold the object. This will help you calm down even more.\n\nThis also works for social situations and presenting in front of others.\n\n", "Think of something that pisses you off. Let the anger take over the nervousness. When adrenaline pumps through your body, it can overcome the anxiety.\n\nI get shaky during presentation where I haven't rehearsed because I'm self-conscious of stuttering. The more I think about this, the more shaky I get and the more I stutter.\n\nI would then picture an imaginary person sitting somewhere, pointing at me and laughing at me. It builds the anger inside me and I'd tell myself, \"fuck this guy\", and I'd throw out a good presentation.\n\nMaybe, find something that triggers the courage in you. For me, is whenever someone say I can't, I will show them I can.", "Propanolol and metoprolol can help you control the shaking. Talk to your gp about it! I also recommend relaxation exercises every day, it really helps. Please don't start avoiding situations. It will only make things worse. ", "Use the 4-7-8 relaxation technique\n\nhttp://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-10891/how-to-manage-your-stress-in-76-seconds.html", "Often this anxiety can be caused by unfamiliar situations. I have something small that I keep in my pocket to help with this. It's an old keychain that I've had for a long time. When you feel it, it helps to bring me a sense of familiarity and comfort, and bring me back around. Focus internally. Be rational. Don't let the nervousness and anxiety take hold." ]	[ 12, 8, 6, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?", "Is there a way to improve your mental health? I'm someone toxic who lacks empathy and has violent mood swings, I always feel bad after my breakdowns but I'm too scared to apologize after. I don't want to go to a physciatrist, I know this is a mental illness I got from my father who also lacks empathy, has violent mood swings, etc.\n\nIs there a way to stop this? When i'm not in a mood swing I always feel like I can get better, but everytime I have a mood swing I just think there's no hope for me to get better.\n\nAnyway to improve my mental state?" ]	[ "If you really want help, go see a professional instead of asking people on Reddit. It can be scary being vulnerable with a therapist but it’s worth it and they are the only ones who can guide you out of this. Stuff like this doesn’t just stop because you want it to.", "Go to a therapist or psychologist. There are multiple different treatments for most mental illnesses. Whether therapy or medication is best for you will depend on the diagnosis. \n\nJust please go see someone, you will be happier.", "1) suck it up and get a diagnosis from a psychiatrist \n2) start taking prescription psychiatric medications, probably mood stabilizers \n3) find a therapist to work through your shit \n4) get over yourself and apologize when you hurt people", "— Apologizing is scary; but the person on the receiving end of it will appreciate it and it will likely strengthen your relationships. \n\n— Speaking as someone who has been in therapy and as the parent of someone who started therapy as a child, getting better doesn’t have to be on your own. A therapist is not there to judge you. Talking to someone you know won’t judge you makes a huge difference. \n\n— Anxiety sucks because it stops you from doing things that are good for you. Treat the anxiety like a person who is lying to you", "Definitely see a counselor of some sort. Doesn't have to be a psychiatrist - can be a psychologist. You could even go to a psychiatrist just for the diagnosis. You don't have to make a commitment to long-term therapy if you don't want to.\n\nOnce you get a diagnosis, they can probably prescribe medication that will help with your mood swings. (Note that it might take some time to find the right medication for you so you have to be patient.)\n\nI do think that talking with a counselor will be very helpful to you. It's a \"safe\" place where you can talk honestly and freely about your feelings and what happens with your mood swings. That in itself is a relief! Your counselor can also make some suggestions that might help you cope with all of it.\n\nAnd really, I wish you all the best and hope for some stability for you.", "You need to see a professional. I suffer the same way and yes I do believe it was also inherited. I take one med daily and did alot of counseling on impulse control and anger management. It is alot of work but worth it.", "Dam bro. Hella crazy, realizing it and right off the bat don't wanna seek help. I guess you could just be alone forever but that is suck. Good luck man.", "Change is the best apology. \n\nYour problem won't go away but it can get worse. Going to a licensed therapist is the only way. A therapist is also legally barred from sharing what you say with anyone else. They are people who've dedicated themselves to helping others.\n\nThe only people likely to judge you are the people who see your behavior or are the target of your actions. \n\n Fear and paranoia are the obstacles that keep people from getting better.\n\nCould you write down what you want to say then bring it with you to the therapist.", "You really don't want to kill someone. \n\nGet help (even online now a days) \n\nA Good Therapist Will NOT judge you...just find a way to help", "Just get some help and remember that a lot of that shit is self perpetuating. Macho tough guy stuff is and has always been horseshit. Rise above, and try a new way, you may be amazed at the end of your journey", "I hope you do seek professional help, and in the meantime, please please don't have any children.you sound like the father of my kids(now grown) and he really did a number on them.The younger one has nothing to do with him, and I'm still dealing with the emotional trauma and I haven't seen him in at least 6 years.", "Honestly, try reiki. \n\nAlso, online psychologists and psychiatrists. You don’t need to visit in person and some will let you text. \n\nRegardless, save yourself the trouble of doing something really really bad and bite the bullet for help. One day, you may end up saying something to someone you care about that you can never undo.", "Google possible mental health disorders. Bipolar, borderline, PTSD. Then when you have a rough answer yourself READ UP ON IT", "Empathy is learned, so practice it. In a situation, put yourself in someone else's shoes and evaluate how you come across. Not every situation is there for you to gain from, some are there so you can help others gain. Start enjoying helped ng others and making your immediate surroundings a better place to be in the world. \n\nPractice mindfulness. This puts you in tune with what is happening emotionally within you. It will let you figure out what started the mood swings and eventually let you stop them from happening, again, learned.\n\nBuy workbooks on cognitive behavioural therapy (new harbinger makes great ones)and download the acceptance and compassion therapy worksheets.\n\nI'm proud of you for asking for help." ]	[ 20, 17, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to do if you feel like an interview didn't go as well as you think it could've? I did a job interview a little while ago and feel like I was having a hard time finding the words I wanted to express. It is a client facing position and I don't want to give the impression that the way I sounded on the phone during the interview is the way I will sound with clients. I already work with clients and usually communication with them is very smooth, and I think I was just nervous with the interview.", "What to do if you feel like an interview didn't go as well as you think it could've? I did a job interview a little while ago and feel like I was having a hard time finding the words I wanted to express. It is a client facing position and I don't want to give the impression that the way I sounded on the phone during the interview is the way I will sound with clients. I already work with clients and usually communication with them is very smooth, and I think I was just nervous with the interview.", "What to do if you feel like an interview didn't go as well as you think it could've? I did a job interview a little while ago and feel like I was having a hard time finding the words I wanted to express. It is a client facing position and I don't want to give the impression that the way I sounded on the phone during the interview is the way I will sound with clients. I already work with clients and usually communication with them is very smooth, and I think I was just nervous with the interview.", "What to do if you feel like an interview didn't go as well as you think it could've? I did a job interview a little while ago and feel like I was having a hard time finding the words I wanted to express. It is a client facing position and I don't want to give the impression that the way I sounded on the phone during the interview is the way I will sound with clients. I already work with clients and usually communication with them is very smooth, and I think I was just nervous with the interview." ]	[ "Just move on. If you get the job, great. If you don't then that's how it is. There is nothing you can do that would guarantee a positive outcome, and likely anything you do (contacting the employer, etc) is going to be viewed negatively.", "You may email the person(s) very soon after the interview and thank them for it, say that you look forward to hear back and you may mention something, like: I was a little surprised to find myself more nervous than my usual self, I hope that did not give you a false impression. Or something like that.", "Who was the interview with? Often times the initial interview is very preliminary and more of a \"screening\" to make sure you're not a complete idiot, and done by a recruiter or someone in HR. The hiring manager is the one you really want to impress, which usually gets involved after you \"pass\" the initial phone interview. The hiring manager cares most about your past experience and pay expectations, and doesn't give much thought to how the phone interview went. Again, at least in my experience, it's just a screening. Often to make sure you understand the position you applied for and are still interested. The questions really aren't as important as you may think. The second interview is the important one. \n\nBut, it all just depends. You can't go back and fix it, so just move on. But don't lose all hope", "Can't be as bad as I did in one interview... I said the job was monkeywork and anyone could do it. Then I told them that I didn't like the messaging app (ICQ) that they used because it was full of security issues." ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with a demanding roommate (relative) My mom, little sister and I have been living with my grandmother (her mom) and recently my great grandmother for ~3 years. Long story short, my grandma had my mom really young and kept studying/working so my mom was raised by her grandmas and they have never really lived together until now, their personalities clash a lot abd unresolved past issues are brought up on the daily. My grandma is less than 60 years old, she's a relatively young woman with OCD or something similar and she's super stubborn in how she likes to live and it applies to us as well. It's genuinely a different request/complaint/demand daily along the lines of \"(Little sister) should buy herself a lamp to do homework, my lightbulbs can be turned on every night, they burn the ceiling\" \"Stop closing the door -this way-, either you learn or you're not allowed to close the door anymore\" \"Too many clothes on that rack, you won't break it. Buy a portable one\" \"That washing soap (the only one we could find and afford) is making me drowsy, you're gonna have to stop washing your clothes until you get another one\" etc. As hard as it is for me, I've learned to choose my battles as standing up to her will lead to a huge fight and it's not worth beefing with someone I'm gonna keep living with for a long time. Any suggestions as to how I could deal with this without involving confrontation?", "How to deal with a demanding roommate (relative) My mom, little sister and I have been living with my grandmother (her mom) and recently my great grandmother for ~3 years. Long story short, my grandma had my mom really young and kept studying/working so my mom was raised by her grandmas and they have never really lived together until now, their personalities clash a lot abd unresolved past issues are brought up on the daily. My grandma is less than 60 years old, she's a relatively young woman with OCD or something similar and she's super stubborn in how she likes to live and it applies to us as well. It's genuinely a different request/complaint/demand daily along the lines of \"(Little sister) should buy herself a lamp to do homework, my lightbulbs can be turned on every night, they burn the ceiling\" \"Stop closing the door -this way-, either you learn or you're not allowed to close the door anymore\" \"Too many clothes on that rack, you won't break it. Buy a portable one\" \"That washing soap (the only one we could find and afford) is making me drowsy, you're gonna have to stop washing your clothes until you get another one\" etc. As hard as it is for me, I've learned to choose my battles as standing up to her will lead to a huge fight and it's not worth beefing with someone I'm gonna keep living with for a long time. Any suggestions as to how I could deal with this without involving confrontation?" ]	[ "Check out /r/raisedbynarcissists\n\nThey have a quiz at the side-bar on how to tell if someone is a narcissist, and how to interact with them to save yourself (not easy when you are still living with them, but possible).\n\nYou can also try Codependent's Anonymous or Al-Anon for techniques to help yourself deal with this sort of shit. Also, check out the book Tongue-Fu. There are some magic phrases that help disarm some conflicts with people who have at least part of their brain that is reasonable. \n", "Be honest about it. It will not be easy but pointing out the obvious for you might be something she never realized she is doing. Having roommates is almost always really hard but because they are your family and you have their best interest at heart they should understand. You said that you do 50/50 rent which means that if you find a roommate you can move out and apply the same rule. Sometimes sacrifices will be the only way to freedom." ]	[ 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to stop being a mouth breather Hey guys,\n\nI don't try to do it at all. But if I'm distracted, if I am asleep, it just happens. I fucking hate it, it makes me look lazy and stupid, and I almost never realize when I'm doing it. I wake up in the morning and my mouth feels like a desert. Please help me. I occasionally have stuffed up sinuses but even when I don't I still sometimes breathe through my mouth exclusively.", "How to stop being a mouth breather Hey guys,\n\nI don't try to do it at all. But if I'm distracted, if I am asleep, it just happens. I fucking hate it, it makes me look lazy and stupid, and I almost never realize when I'm doing it. I wake up in the morning and my mouth feels like a desert. Please help me. I occasionally have stuffed up sinuses but even when I don't I still sometimes breathe through my mouth exclusively.", "How to stop being a mouth breather Hey guys,\n\nI don't try to do it at all. But if I'm distracted, if I am asleep, it just happens. I fucking hate it, it makes me look lazy and stupid, and I almost never realize when I'm doing it. I wake up in the morning and my mouth feels like a desert. Please help me. I occasionally have stuffed up sinuses but even when I don't I still sometimes breathe through my mouth exclusively.", "How to stop being a mouth breather Hey guys,\n\nI don't try to do it at all. But if I'm distracted, if I am asleep, it just happens. I fucking hate it, it makes me look lazy and stupid, and I almost never realize when I'm doing it. I wake up in the morning and my mouth feels like a desert. Please help me. I occasionally have stuffed up sinuses but even when I don't I still sometimes breathe through my mouth exclusively.", "How to stop being a mouth breather Hey guys,\n\nI don't try to do it at all. But if I'm distracted, if I am asleep, it just happens. I fucking hate it, it makes me look lazy and stupid, and I almost never realize when I'm doing it. I wake up in the morning and my mouth feels like a desert. Please help me. I occasionally have stuffed up sinuses but even when I don't I still sometimes breathe through my mouth exclusively." ]	[ "I do the same thing. I try breathing through my nose, but I always feel like I'm not getting enough air.", "You breathe through your mouth instinctively even when your nasal passages aren't clogged or inflamed? Is it uncomfortable to breathe through your nose at all? Have you spoken to an ear, nose, and throat doctor? ", "Do you usually breath with your chest? I suggest breathing with your diaphragm, and of course through your nose. ", "I was breathing through my mouth and didn't even realize it until my wife complained of snoring at night. I had an allergy test done that confirmed I'm allergic to pretty much everything and my nasal passages were inflamed and small. I didn't sneeze or have a runny nose, so I never really associated it with allergies. My doc prescribed nasonex and now I naturally breath through my nose because my passages have opened up. ", "Enroll in college. Take music appreciation, Humanities, History of Western Civilization, Political Science, environmental Science, and maybe throw in a Fencing class for fun. Carry a decent GPA and complete your courses. It should be cleared up by then." ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Fixing a Small Chip on my Windshield. I remember hearing from a friend that the home made recipes for Windshield Cracks is usually better than anything they sell at a local Auto Zone... \n\nIf this sounds right... \n\nDoes anyone know what goes into the recipe. \n\nAlso feel free to correct me if the information I heard isn't right...", "Fixing a Small Chip on my Windshield. I remember hearing from a friend that the home made recipes for Windshield Cracks is usually better than anything they sell at a local Auto Zone... \n\nIf this sounds right... \n\nDoes anyone know what goes into the recipe. \n\nAlso feel free to correct me if the information I heard isn't right..." ]	[ "Have you price checked locally? I had a chip in my windshield and I went to a local place and they fixed it for like 18 bucks. It was crazy cheap.", "if you have full coverage, call your car insurance company. if the chip in the windshield was not your fault ( ie from a kicked up rock on the highway), you may be able to get a new windshield and your rates will not be changed. \n\n" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip).", "How do I get myself to drink more water? I know that drinking a lot of water each day is very important for my personal health and well being but I just can't get myself to do it. Most days I probably drink 1L at most. I seem to only drink when I'm thirsty which is not very often.\n\nSome (maybe) relative info about myself: I actually quite like water. I have a Brita filter at home and a carbonation machine (I prefer carbonated water) and I bring bottled water (1.5L) to work or school with me. I work a desk job. The only exercise I get is commuting on my bike to and from work/school (about 15-20 minutes/trip)." ]	[ "The whole 8 glasses a day thing has no basis in science. As long as your pee is mostly clear you are fine. That said, I have a similar struggle. I get too busy and find that I forget to stop and drink. I try and make a point of drinking a large glass of water in the mornings before I leave the house and another with each meal. Carrying a reusable bottle with me at all times helps.", "Research how much water you should be drinking and use that motivate your intake properly. \n\nThere's this huge cultural fad right now for drinking way too much water, and that's frigging unhealthy as hell. I've had friends hospitalized for throwing their body chemistry completely out of whack by doing it. \n\nYou NEED to drink when you're thirsty. You MAY BENEFIT from drinking more. Review research from reputable sources to determine whether and how much that is true.", "desk job here too:\n\nwhen i get to work, start computer, i go grab a clean glass, fill it to top, put fizzy tablet (multivitamin tropic flavor) and drink it in the time before lunch\n\nafter lunch i just fill the glass 1/2 way and just subconsciously drink it and refill it with cold water from dispenser when its empty (more movement, less sitting, more drinking and sometimes when you meet someone you can chat with them)", "I feel your pain, whilst your at your desk try installing [this](http://www.brita.co.uk/brita/pages/mybrita/reminder-download.grid) from Brita. I found that it helped me as a reminder throughout the day to actually drink. It was getting to the point where I'd do my shift without drinking anything. ", "when i wake up i take a huge glass of water. then after every time i pee i drink a huge glass of water again. works like a charm for me", "When I worked a desk job I used to fill 3/4 of a bottle and leave it in the freezer just before leaving. The next day, I grabbed the bottle (filled almost completely with ice) and filled with fresh water to the top. Once I drinked that little water, I went and filled it again, and repeated until the end of the day. \n\nWhat's the benefits of this? You have cold water the whole day, with the only con of having to stand up a couple of times at the beginning. \n\nJust remember to not fill the bottle to the top when you leave, as the water expands when frozen ", "If you are under 40 you don't need to worry. Your body will tell you when you need water. Once you hit your 40s or so you may not always feel thirsty. So then you may need to worry about it.", "If you are not thirsty you are drinking enough water. No point in making yourself pee more for no reason. People always make up rules for themselves that they think apply to everyone else. People are retards do what works for you instead of listening to them.", "I bought a Swell bottle off-brand (Mira?) off of amazon. If I keep it with me I drink from it. Went from almost no water most days (only drinking coffee before work and maybe some juice after work) to the equivalent of two water bottles a day and I'm not wasting plastic. \n\nIf I have a drink nearby, I drink it, even if it's water. ", "Find a water bottle you love and find out what would motivate you to drink water.\n\n I never used to drink water ever. For a long time the only water I would get was from my food and juice or whatever I drank with my meal. Then I found a pink Camelbak someone left so I washed it out and I just started drinking so much water simply because I liked drinking from a water bottle. But then I lost it. But then my mom bought me my current water bottle for my birthday which is a blue Contigo and I absolutely love it. \n\nI also figured out that I like drinking water from my water bottle because it has a straw. Simple as that. Also a little fun fact: we drink more through a straw than we do without. So that would make you drink more water without even meaning to. This way you don't have to have the discipline to fill a cup of water 8 times a day. BUT you do have to remember to have it with at all or most times." ]	[ 11, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Ways to make the most of desk space. I'm thinking of ways to make multilevel means of keeping all of my necessities on my desk. I once had a plank of wood supported by two rolls of paper towels that could support a 1,000+ page M-W dictionary and about six 8.5x11\" notebooks in length. . Is there any easier way to make this more practical?\n\n", "Ways to make the most of desk space. I'm thinking of ways to make multilevel means of keeping all of my necessities on my desk. I once had a plank of wood supported by two rolls of paper towels that could support a 1,000+ page M-W dictionary and about six 8.5x11\" notebooks in length. . Is there any easier way to make this more practical?\n\n", "Ways to make the most of desk space. I'm thinking of ways to make multilevel means of keeping all of my necessities on my desk. I once had a plank of wood supported by two rolls of paper towels that could support a 1,000+ page M-W dictionary and about six 8.5x11\" notebooks in length. . Is there any easier way to make this more practical?\n\n", "Ways to make the most of desk space. I'm thinking of ways to make multilevel means of keeping all of my necessities on my desk. I once had a plank of wood supported by two rolls of paper towels that could support a 1,000+ page M-W dictionary and about six 8.5x11\" notebooks in length. . Is there any easier way to make this more practical?\n\n" ]	[ "Materials:\n\n\n\n2x bookshelves from wally world\n\n1x 4x8 tile board\n\n1x 4x8 3/4\" OSB\n\n1x construction adhesive\n\n\n2x 2\"x4\"x8'\n\nProcedure:\n\n1. Attach tile board to OSB\n\n2. Cut OSB/Tile board to width of bookshelves.\n\n3. Cut 2x4x8 to 8' - (2 x depth of bookshelves)\n \n4. Attach cut 2x4's to center of OSB/Tileboard\n\n5. Place on top of assembled bookshelves.\n\n6. Enjoy 8' desk with whiteboard top to write on and all the space you'll ever need.\n\n\nMy system at least....", "Instead of looking for ways to organize your clutter, look for ways to eliminate it. Do you really need to keep all those bank statements, phone bills, and letters from your mortgage company, or can you just scan them and save them on a hard drive? Have a pen cup? How many pens do you really need? How many business cards, expired cr", "If you have one in the area, you should visit the [Container Store](http://www.containerstore.com/welcome.htm) for ideas.", "I have a normal L shaped desk. I built a platform on top of one side to convert it to a stand up desk. First week standing was tough, but now it is normal. Back feels great!\n\nEverything gets arranged on the desk, and then there is a place on the stand up part for the job I am working on 'right this instant' (which isn't actually now, because I am on reddit, but you get the idea)" ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?", "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?", "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?", "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?", "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?", "How to gain weight with a high metabolism I'm 18 and enlisted in the Air Force, but I have to gain(and maintain) 15 lbs before going to basic training. The problem is that I can't keep the weight on after I've gained it. I've tried everything from doubling my calories to protein shakes, but now I need some sort of method I can follow. Any thought?" ]	[ "I personally have a really slow Metabolism so I cannot speak from personal experience however I have helped out friends who are really small framed men pack on some muscle so I hope I can help.\n\nCompound exercises - Without sounding patronizing, I'm talking about lifts that incorporate more than one muscle group at the same time\nFor example Squats, Bench press, Military press, Power cleans, Dead lifts, Barbell Rows and even dips and pull-ups\nThe reason this will pack on the weight better than any isolation exercises is because it encourages your body to grow as a whole rather than individual muscle groups. \nYou're best to keep the rep range around 5 to keep the weight high which will further promote the growth. Now you can create your own routine but why bother when more experienced people have already done it for you.\nSome good examples to research would be;\nMark Rippletoes Starting Strength\nBill Stars 5x5\nJim Wendler's 5/3/1\n\nA simple google search will come up with results for each so pick one you like the look of and try it out. Give it time, it will work.\n\nIt goes without saying that your strength will also increase which obviously has it's benefits when joining the Air force\n\nIncrease your intake - You mentioned that you tried doubling your caloric intake, combining that with the compound lifts will guarantee growth, as long as you're not burning off too many calories during the day. Try to make sure you're in taking enough protein for your muscles to repair themselves. A good system to stick by is 2g of protein per kg of lean muscle mass or 1g per lb I believe. Personally if I was you I'd just intake 1g per kg of my total weight as your goal is just to gain and you probably will not get fat due to your metabolism. Eat clean and often and you'll put weight on.\n\nSupplements - You also mentioned you tried protein shakes, they will help - Maybe have one in the morning then one post workout then one in the evening time, there are many types as well so research one that is made specifically for people trying to gain weight and you'll find one that is high in calories. Mix with full fat milk just to take in those extra calories\n\nCreatine, again a simple google will give you all the information you need but basically you take this daily, it can be in pill form but I prefer the power to mix in with my shakes\n\nFirstly, it increases the water saturation of your muscles, making them swell to a degree, and moves water into the skeletal tissues, making you gain weight.\n\nSecondly: without going into too much science, creatine acts as a quick fuel source, so that when your body burns through it's own fuel, it quickly converts creatine into more fuel, so you can train harder and longer, which will benefit your lifts. And it's cheap as chips\n\nHope this helps, if I think of anything else I'll give you a message :)\n", "Diet and exercise my man. \n\nDIET-\nMake 6 of these shakes, put them in blender bottles, and drink them throughout the day (about every 2.5 hours). \n3/4 cup quick oats\n12 oz. skim milk\n1 scoop protein powder (about 25g protein- I prefer optimum nutrition's gold standard whey series in the 'extreme milk chocolate' flavor. You can get a 10-lb. bag from www.bodybuilding.com for about $108.00 including S&H.)\n1 tbsp. peanut butter\n\nEXERCISE-\nAs mentioned by others, compound lifts are definitely what you should be focusing on. \nI started out with a 2-day split workout where I did chest, shoulders, and triceps on the first day and then back, legs, and biceps on the second. \nDO NOT LIFT EVERY DAY. For us skinny types, off-days are very important. Your body needs time to recover. You should do two days on, one day off. \n\nHope this helps ya out. Good luck with your gains!\n", "Last semester, I went from 86 lbs to 97 lbs. I took a class called Advanced Weight Training (Read: lift weights, don't distract teacher from youtube)\nI had a protein shake every morning, and right after I lifted. I didn't increase my food intake much, but there was naturally a slight change.", "I played football AND ran track in college. The differential between what my coaches in football and track expected me to weigh was about 30 lbs (215 for football, 185 for track).\n\nHere's some tips: \nDrink a lot of full fat milk (vitamin D/whole milk). Every meal. Seriously, it will work. (Budweiser heavy does the trick too, but seeing as your underage I can't legally advise you to do that---but seeing as you are about to defend your country, go for it man, you deserve it.\n\nWork out. If not you will only gain fat which will disappear in boot camp. You need to improve your muscle structure to the point where severe cardiovascular activity won't sink you. \n\nUse Weigh Protein powder. This will absolutely help you gain muscle and weight. \n\n\n", "Eat more calories. That's really all you can do. Mix your protein shakes with nut butters and heavy cream. Strength training will help keep those cals from becoming primarily fat, but you are going to gain fat too. Such is life.\n\nBut yeah, you need to take in more than you burn. And don't just guess at how much you're taking in. Measure and record your intake and estimated output.\n\n**", "Or you could see a dietician and have them actually look at what your body needs and give you a specific diet " ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late.", "How to combat pre-big event insomnia I don't normally have trouble sleeping, but when I do, it's because the next day has something like a Final Exam or interview coming up. I try not to think about the next day and think about other things, but in the back of my mind I know I'm only doing that to get my mind off the next day so I feel like it keeps me up even more.\n\nWhen I get out of bed, I don't exactly feel tired, but at the same time I feel like I could've gotten a much better rest. Any tips to combat this? Btw, I'm a college student living in a dorm with roommates that like to stay up late." ]	[ "The best anxiety and insomnia buster is to be prepared. I'm only nervous when I know I've not put in the time and effort I ought to have. ", "Meletonin should work. If you need something harder, take that + an antihistamine that causes drowsiness.", "Make sure you're very well rested in the week leading up to it. That way one night of bad sleep won't affect you too badly.", "I'm the same way, only when I have an important day ahead. There's a drink that neuro makes: neuro \"Sleep\" which has melatonin and magnesium in it and also is super tasty. My go-to before a long flight as well. ", "If you're aware in advance that you're going to have one of those nights, exercising in the morning can do miracles. It helps release some feel-good endorphins or some shit. \n\nIf you're able to set a consistent sleep pattern, that helps a bit as well. My stress level was really helped by going to bed earlier and waking up at a consistent time.\n\nSleeping pills just left me feeling drowsy in the morning. I'd avoid those. I've used melatonin. My SO swears that they give her really crazy dreams, so she refuses to take them. \n\nIf you're realizing that you're staying awake and stressing, get up and have some tea, and/or take a hot shower. Showering makes my body feel good, rinses the stinky stress sweat off, and the tea makes my belly full. ", "I don't know if you like m", "Have a good workout during the day. At night, for 2 hours before the time you plan to go to sleep, don't do anything related to prep work for your Final Exam or interview.\n\nSource: Leading a big project at work, had trouble sleeping until I did all my prep for the next day earlier in the day and instead decompressed hours leading up to sleep." ]	[ 8, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to lie still? So not sure if this has been posted, I would search it but I'm not entirely sure if I'm phrasing things right? So basically in a relationship with a girl who wants to cuddle a lot at nights and kind of go to sleep cuddled pretty close. However, whenever I'm stuck in one position for a bit, I tend to get fidgety. Feel like I have scratches all over, feel sore in my back. Like just become hyper aware that I can't really move. So in the past with girlfriends, I've just rolled over and had to put some distance between me and the girl. But this one I'm thinking it's pretty important to her and think it would be special for her. I can offer more description if it's needed. I'm sorry it's a little difficult to describe for me. \n\nBonus! If it's some kind of practice or something, I do have a cat who sleeps on my chest every night and wouldn't move if I didn't make her because I get fidgety lol.", "How to lie still? So not sure if this has been posted, I would search it but I'm not entirely sure if I'm phrasing things right? So basically in a relationship with a girl who wants to cuddle a lot at nights and kind of go to sleep cuddled pretty close. However, whenever I'm stuck in one position for a bit, I tend to get fidgety. Feel like I have scratches all over, feel sore in my back. Like just become hyper aware that I can't really move. So in the past with girlfriends, I've just rolled over and had to put some distance between me and the girl. But this one I'm thinking it's pretty important to her and think it would be special for her. I can offer more description if it's needed. I'm sorry it's a little difficult to describe for me. \n\nBonus! If it's some kind of practice or something, I do have a cat who sleeps on my chest every night and wouldn't move if I didn't make her because I get fidgety lol.", "How to lie still? So not sure if this has been posted, I would search it but I'm not entirely sure if I'm phrasing things right? So basically in a relationship with a girl who wants to cuddle a lot at nights and kind of go to sleep cuddled pretty close. However, whenever I'm stuck in one position for a bit, I tend to get fidgety. Feel like I have scratches all over, feel sore in my back. Like just become hyper aware that I can't really move. So in the past with girlfriends, I've just rolled over and had to put some distance between me and the girl. But this one I'm thinking it's pretty important to her and think it would be special for her. I can offer more description if it's needed. I'm sorry it's a little difficult to describe for me. \n\nBonus! If it's some kind of practice or something, I do have a cat who sleeps on my chest every night and wouldn't move if I didn't make her because I get fidgety lol.", "How to lie still? So not sure if this has been posted, I would search it but I'm not entirely sure if I'm phrasing things right? So basically in a relationship with a girl who wants to cuddle a lot at nights and kind of go to sleep cuddled pretty close. However, whenever I'm stuck in one position for a bit, I tend to get fidgety. Feel like I have scratches all over, feel sore in my back. Like just become hyper aware that I can't really move. So in the past with girlfriends, I've just rolled over and had to put some distance between me and the girl. But this one I'm thinking it's pretty important to her and think it would be special for her. I can offer more description if it's needed. I'm sorry it's a little difficult to describe for me. \n\nBonus! If it's some kind of practice or something, I do have a cat who sleeps on my chest every night and wouldn't move if I didn't make her because I get fidgety lol." ]	[ "I am by no means an expert in this field but you could definitely try out m", "as a girl who likes cuddles i would prefer a fidgety cuddle over a turn away ... but your in a relationship with this girl... ask her.", "Is she asleep? If so, moving around a little won't wake her up. If you need to move more than a little, discuss it during the day and let her know you might need to roll over at some point.", "I have the same fidgety issue. Ever since I was young I would count backwards from 100 with every breath and stay perfect still. If I itch or move at all I start over. I've hardly ever made it to 0. Maybe it helps or maybe its a silly game I've developed that causes numbers to make me sleepy. Who knows. " ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n", "How to motivate little brother, who does nothing but play video games? Long story short, my little brother who is 19, freshman in college, does nothing but play video games and go to school. \nHe lives at home with my mother who is fucking amazing, but she cannot say no; so whatever new video game he wants, he gets. He has his own big screen, Xbone, PS4, Laptop and Desktop PC that my mother has all purchased for him. \n\nHe has no friends outside of digital ones. Doesn't have his license, so he cannot drive, my mother drives him to COLLEGE. \n\nMy mother doesn't share my concerns because she says that he's going to school. I think that's awesome, and he's doing well, BUT, who the hell is going to hire someone with a degree, and 0 work experience? No one. \n\nHe was supposed to be looking for jobs this summer, but he's procrastinating doing that, and my mother is not pushing it either. \n\nAny suggestions, or tips to light that fire under his feet? I feel like I need to have a come to Jesus moment or something. I don't want to end up with the stereotypical, 30 yr old little brother who lives at home and plays video games all day. \n\n" ]	[ "Talk to him in a manner that isnt \"I don't want to be a brother of...\" Your concerns are valid but you kinda came off like a dick there. Be clear about the job experience thing, video games aren't necessarily the problem, it's being responsible. \n\nI don't have a great answer, but I will say it didn't help me when my family members weren't straightforward. If they acted overly concerned and just said \"you shouldn't play as many games, go work or hang out with friends like a normal person\" I wouldn't listen to it. \n\nIf he's doing okay in school compliment him. Maybe offer teaching him to drive as well? I know that's rough if you can't commit your time/vehicle, but it'd be nicer than mommy or daddy helping cause they have to. ", "This may come off a little harsh but you should just mind your own business. Your intentions are good but most likely your brother is already aware of these things. He knows he plays a lot of video games, doesn't have a license, doesn't have friends, etc. You telling him that isn't going to help. He needs to realize that these things are a problem on his own, that's what becoming an adult is. You can be there to help him, but you can't \"light a fire\" under him unless he buys in first.\n\nThis post really reminds me of my sister (who's 3 years older than me). Your brother sounds similar to me a couple years ago and whenever my sister would try something like this, it would just cause tension between us. Now I'm 20, in college, and about to start my 2nd internship. There's still hope for your brother but HE needs to take it upon himself to grow up.", "quick question, is he 'just playing video games all day' or is he possibly looking at this as a viable source of income? Streaming/Game Reviews are legit ways to make income and if he has a sizable portfolio that could be useful. What is he in school for? (what is his major? upon re-read saw that could be taken a few different ways.)", "As a younger brother of a highly motivated older brother (and I'm roughly the same age as your brother) the best advise is that he needs to fail at something important and your mom can't be there to pick him up. \n\nHe needs to understand that if he fks up in school (for example) that it will screw his life up down the line. \n\nHe's thinking short term, you need to help him think long term. Any overly aggressive confrontation will have a negative impact on your relationship with him and possible have a reverse effect on your end goal.", "If anything talk to your mom about him. She seems to be ok with this and obviously your brother likes the setup so O doubt much you say will change his mind. I do get it because my little brother didn't move out till he was 26. He is/was basically just lazy.", "Well, maybe he uses the games to get distracted of the feelings of loneliness. I used to be that way at least. It can be overwhelming, so there's nothing bad on getting a distraction. And if he's doing well in classes, then he's taking it much better than I used to.\n\nMaking friends is scary. When you had bad experiences with people, it's hard to get out of the \"better alone than in bad company\" premise. You need a good experience (or more) with being accepted to realize that there may be places where people are not cretins: a place you can go where your feelings are safe. I started college 4 years ago... and now, maybe for the first time since forever, I have two good friends I know I can trust, and I'm 25. It took almost three years for me to truly consider them friends** and not just classmates I seem to get along nicely. Your brother could perfectly be like that, and that's okay.\n\nIf you are worried about his professional future, you could try to encourage him on doing something productive, even if it's in the computer. Nowadays, knowing languages is essential for a job. And I don't mean just French or Spanish. I mean Java, C, SQL... That kind of knowledge will make him valuable for companies... and for himself.", "Just talk to him in the terms of too much is bad, and that he should take it in moderation, that why you're not saying that he should stop playing but just have more control of what he's doing.", "If he likes shooting games, why not take him paintballing, or if he likes racing games, you could try go-karting.\n\nThis may not be of any consolation, but thanks to video games I treat how I work today like a game, a challenge, just something I have to overcome. I don't think I would have the same mind I have today if it wasn't for the games I played when I was younger. And I played A LOT! :)", "I'm heavily tempted to defend your brother, because I was pretty aimless at 19 myself - I actually had a poorer resume than your brother - but in my mid-twenties my work ethic and focus kicked in.\n\nI'm actually a college drop-out (which I enrolled in at 26), but I'm fairly successful these days. It took a bit longer, but I'm not complaining.", "I'm 19 here and went through a similar phase where I was playing video games in excess not too long ago. I didn't have a learner's permit to practice driving, I didn't have a job because I wasn't looking.\n\nPlaying games wasn't the problem, the time it took was. I decided to set my own goals and continually improve myself to become who I wanted to be. This meant I didn't have to stop gaming, but I only had to rearrange my time so that I could do a lot of other stuff now (I only game 2 hrs a week nowadays). \n\nIn that time, I began reading a lot of blog posts http://www.artofmanliness.com which helped me build this vision of who I wanted to become. I have a driver's permit, and by forcing myself to network with other people (uncomfortable but useful skill), I have 3 separate casual jobs now.\n\nTalk to your brother and explain to him who he's becoming vs. who he could be if he puts in just the minimal effort.", "I'd push my brother towards looking into Computer Science, Engineering or an IT Major... Besides that, encourage him to maintain healthy relationships with other local people who share the same interests, but don't interfere with him completing his college work. ", "I think if he doesn't feel the need to get a job, he won't. His life is confortable for him right now. Ask your mother to stop driving him to college. Tell him he can take the bus, or get his licence. She should also not give him every freaking new game. One birthday gift a year, and the rest he can save money and buy for himself. He's obviously spoiled in this situation, and your mother isn't doing him any favors, she's not preparing him for real life. If he does any physica activity like going to the gym that'd be awesome too. Good luck", "He's just a freshman. He's got time to get used to school and then start looking for internships or part time work related to his field.\n\nIf your mom is happy with the situation, let her enjoy having her little boy around a little longer.", "He's 19 and not your son so let him stand for his own shit and stop calling him LITTLE also stop worrying about YOU not wanting to end up with a 30 year old bro playing games and start making some kids on your own, daddy.", "Don't get him a job. Get him a reason to get a job.\n\n\"Hey you like games? Have you thought about learning Java and making your own? There a free courses online\" \nHe might actually start learning. Eventually he'll either need a budget to do his thing or he might simply have learned to code, and great. New useful and awesome skill.\n\nIf you're passionate about something (ex: you start reading books from Gary Vaynerchuck, Grant Cardone, watching videos from Alex Becker) and YOU are super passionate about it, you tell him what you're learning.\nHe might very well get super pumped up about it and start learning about business and making money. (warning: he might quit college because of it. Lol)\n\nHe's not gonna do something else unless he has a reason to do it. Don't make him do something, find something he'll want." ]	[ 9, 5, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!", "How to stay awake when sleepiness is literally ruining your life?? I know a lot of people have asked this question but I feel as if none of related to my situation. I am sorry if this is annoying and seems repetitive though. \n\nAnytime I have to sit down and be “still” I fall asleep. No amount of coffee in the world can keep me awake. It’s absolutely impossible for me to stay awake at the movies. I need 3 cups of coffee to get me through work. I was at the gym and I almost fell over because I was falling asleep while riding one of the stationary bikes.\n\nThis problem is ruining my relationship. My fiancé is extremely upset because he says I can never stay awake. We can’t go to the movies. We went furniture shopping and I sat down on a couch and less than 3 minutes later, I was asleep. I even fall asleep at restaurants when we go out to eat. \n\nI don’t know what to do anymore. I got my thyroid checked and I’m fine. I am not anemic (got that checked too). I’m not narcoleptic either. If I’m moving around I’m completely fine. I run half marathons and go to the gym frequently. My diet is mainly fruits, vegetables, and chicken. I only drink water and coffee. \n\nIdk what’s going on, I get a good nights sleep almost every night. If someone has any tips or advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you!" ]	[ "You might have hypoglycemia. I had this and it caused me to fall asleep a lot. I switched my diet to where most of it was high fiber and meat. Refined carbs were horrible for me. Still are.\nGood luck", "Have you tried taking Shilajit? There are a bunch of research studies on its benefits wrt fatigue and general health. It's an ayurvedic multi-mineral sourced from the Himalayas. Buy a brand that can furnish a purity report if you do.", "You need to go to a doctor and not let yourself be sent away with 'well we tried this and it wasn't that, so bye' but actually have them keep looking until your issue is explained. Because that isn't normal at all. ", "My grandfather would fall asleep any time he would sit down for too long. Apparently he had low blood pressure, and that would cause him to pass out when his heart rate got to a resting rate. ", "I recently bought a Fitbit and discovered I am waking up 30-50 times a night! Definitely going to talk about this with my doctor. A fitbit or something similar can tell you how much rest youre really getting..I wonder if you have apnea or narcolepsy.\n\n", "Can I ask how you came to the conclusion that your symptoms were not narcoleptic? I have similar challenges as you where I fall asleep whenever I sit down to watch a movie or a play (especially if the lights are dim). In general, I find that this is more prevalent whenever I am stationary. I can also “fall asleep” in any mode of transportation in a matter of minutes. It’s not so much that I am purposely falling asleep but rather an inability to stay awake.", "Used to start falling asleep in the shower, directly after exercising (was sitting with heart still racing), people would visit and I'd fall asleep on them. If I need to do something Id have to knock it out at once, if I stopped and rested that was it. I've a bunch of health issues going on my entire life plus some undiagnosed issues. I've never found an answer going on 20+ years. I suspect its either something with my low blood pressure or sugar/insulin related. " ]	[ 9, 6, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to haggle among friends I am in university moving into my second year, I am moving into a house with 4 peers (all more well off than myself and all being subsidised by their parents). \nwe have agreed to weigh the rent in the favour of those with the worse rooms. What is the best way to friendly haggling myself the cheapest possible rent?\n\n(sorry this is a bit specific for an LPT/ not the appropriate sub)", "how to haggle among friends I am in university moving into my second year, I am moving into a house with 4 peers (all more well off than myself and all being subsidised by their parents). \nwe have agreed to weigh the rent in the favour of those with the worse rooms. What is the best way to friendly haggling myself the cheapest possible rent?\n\n(sorry this is a bit specific for an LPT/ not the appropriate sub)" ]	[ "Since rent is coming up for discussion, it's the perfect time to bring it up. You can casually mention \"Because I'm broke, I'd like to take the least desirable room.\". In doing so, you're making them aware of your financial situation, not demanding anything, and trying to be accommodating to them in some way. Hopefully they'll then be willing to cut you a break. But do remember, even though it'd be nice for them to do, it's not their responsibility to subsidize you.", "Do three consecutive blind one-bid auctions for each of the rooms. Go from biggest room to smallest. That'll ensure whoever wants the biggest room the most pays the appropriate price for it. The rent of the last room is determined by the difference between the winning bids for the first three rooms and the total rent. This is by far the fairest and ensures no hurt feelings since everyone is playing by the same rules. also there's no active negotiating cause there's only one bid each. It also only takes five minutes." ]	[ 6, 4 ]	safe
[ "First time living alone 17, M. Parents are going away to Cuba tomorrow until later next week, meaning I'm home alone in my house until then. \n\nHow do I stay on top of things? I have a cat and a dog to take care of, all of my exams take place during their vacation, but I still want to have fun while their gone.. I just haven't figured out how.\n\nThought about a few friends coming over, but figured if it isn't a big enough party they'll leave whenever and go downtown, but I don't want a huge party. So that's likely a no.\n\nI have to cook for myself (not a big deal), keep the house clean (semi-big deal), and make sure nothing gets broken..\n\nAny tips?", "First time living alone 17, M. Parents are going away to Cuba tomorrow until later next week, meaning I'm home alone in my house until then. \n\nHow do I stay on top of things? I have a cat and a dog to take care of, all of my exams take place during their vacation, but I still want to have fun while their gone.. I just haven't figured out how.\n\nThought about a few friends coming over, but figured if it isn't a big enough party they'll leave whenever and go downtown, but I don't want a huge party. So that's likely a no.\n\nI have to cook for myself (not a big deal), keep the house clean (semi-big deal), and make sure nothing gets broken..\n\nAny tips?" ]	[ "Put a framed picture of your parents' face in a prominent location like the kitchen, it will make you feel like they are watching/judging you and it will make it easier to behave better. It's called \"The Wilson Effect\" (no it's not, I just made that up). ", "For the animals, i would recommend checking on them every few hours to make sure they are good to go in terms of water, food, bathroom, etc. As for the exams, try and make time after school to study/do homework to make sure you are good to go. With the parties, I would say if you do, try and make some rules about trash and such to keep down on cleaning up after (maybe leave trash cans in the high traffic areas ). For cleaning up, i would say just try and do light work throughout the week and spend the last few days for the more demanding work (vacuuming, dusting, mowing, etc.) sorry about formatting, i don't comment often." ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt.", "Always-cold Pillow No matter if it's Winter or Summer, I can't relax with a warm pillow. I'm laying on my bed, watching a movie and have to turn the pillow to the \"cold side\" like 10 times in a 2 hour movie. I even use two pillows so I can change between them. This is really annoying but I can't help it. If anyone knows a LPT that can improve my life, I will be forever in debt." ]	[ "I find pillows that are made from synthetic materials and filling to be the issue here. Polyester is the worst (fairly common around here).\n\nI have latex pillows like [THIS](https://drtanase.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/latex-pillow.png?w=394&h=237). They have holes right through them which allows them to breath.\n\nAnother thing you can do that will help with any type of pillow is to wrap them in a towel (regular dry towel).", "If someone could create a forever cool pillow, it would make them beyond rich. Ive thought about it before, but i dont have the know how to crack that problem.", "Might not be the solution you're looking for, but I have found buckwheat pillows to be great in that regard, besides the other benefits you get from it of course.", "Invest in a blue gel ice pack you can buy at a pharmacy. Get the big one, get two.\n\nCold on the head will knock you right out, when it gets uncomfortable you can just shove it to another part of the bed, and then if you need the cool again you can just fuss over to that spot.", "its not always cold but u can leave a towel inside ur fridge few hrs before going to bed. and when u r ready to sleep, just cover the pillow with the towel. wont last u 2 hrs tho lol. \nthat or u can just put water inside a bag (some plastic bag that wont rip too easily) and freeze it. while watching movie, just wrap the bag with towel to absoarb all the condensations and u should be good to go :3", "In the morning when you wake up, put your pillow in the freezer. When you take it out before bed it will be cold. Problem solved.", "Basically no such thing, they will all gradually warm up to head temperature as this is basic physics. Avoid things like the \"chillow\", they are uncomfortable and get warm then stay warm no matter how nice they initially feel. \n\nI use a decent thermocool memory foam pillow, you only need one. Works pretty well, but you'll still want to rotate them. Try different brands, fillings etc. " ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?", "How to stop stage fright? I'm a fairly confident person, and yet every time I get up in front of the class to speak, my knees start knocking and my breathing becomes irregular, making it extremely hard to speak confidently. Any tips, please?" ]	[ "don't think of it as stage fright. it's all about your perception. instead, picture it as your body getting excited because you're about to do something awesome. you have all this pent up energy that you're about to use to wow everyone with your awesomeness.", "This is the kind of thing that gets easier the more you do it, so one solution is to do it a lot, and you can get a lot of opportunities to present in front of a crowd by joining your local Toastmasters club.", "Speaking as a person who performs live in front of hundreds (and sometimes thousands of people) in a musical kind of way; all I have to say to you is have some water ready and be yourself. Be an extreme version of yourself. In the sense that you disbelieve it was you up on that stage. Don't 'fake it' just imagine how ridiculous you are when you are confident and make that ridiculousness familiar; bring yourself to alignment with it. \n\nBe ridiculous because people love it. Be yourself and expect people to love it. Class is a great way to teach YOURSELF how to be a good public speaker; because they are people you see often. Leave a good impression on them by being memorable; but make sure you know what the devil you're talking about otherwise you look like a butthead. \n\n\nTrust yourself and just do it. Nobody can teach you how to. Just find out what way makes you comfortable being uncomfortable, or being put into those uncomfortable situations.", "One thing that I find helps about just general nervousness about other people is to take note when other people are doing the same thing that you're nervous about. When Jenny is up speaking to the class, are you judging her? are you looking at her flaws? are you holding it against her when she stumbles on a word? No! You're just treating her like a normal person and listening to what she is saying. That is how other people react when you do the exact same thing. \nThe best tip is to just be determined, and keep getting up there, and eventually the confidence will come. " ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "First day on the job Hey, Reddit, tomorrow is my first day of work at a 8-5 job in a small office. My only prior work experience was working for a small business where my dad was the president, and then an extended stretch in sales as a 1099 commission only employee (pretty unique work environment). What are some things I should know to help me survive my first few days in a \"normal\" job without making any enemies, and hopefully making a few friends?", "First day on the job Hey, Reddit, tomorrow is my first day of work at a 8-5 job in a small office. My only prior work experience was working for a small business where my dad was the president, and then an extended stretch in sales as a 1099 commission only employee (pretty unique work environment). What are some things I should know to help me survive my first few days in a \"normal\" job without making any enemies, and hopefully making a few friends?", "First day on the job Hey, Reddit, tomorrow is my first day of work at a 8-5 job in a small office. My only prior work experience was working for a small business where my dad was the president, and then an extended stretch in sales as a 1099 commission only employee (pretty unique work environment). What are some things I should know to help me survive my first few days in a \"normal\" job without making any enemies, and hopefully making a few friends?" ]	[ "* Show up early, don't be the first to leave.\n* Learn names of people and what they do\n* As you are given things to do, be sure to ask questions so that you know what is expected (how soon does it need to be done? what quality standards are needed? is there a process to follow? who can you ask if you have any questions?)\n* As you get things done, ask for feedback (Is this right? What do I need to do to do it better next time?)\n* Watch and learn - Is the place formal where only certain people can do certain things? Are there written procedures? Is rank and position important? Are their informal leaders that people tend to listen to? ", "Smile, be polite, pay attention, follow instructions, and don't be afraid to ask questions if you're unsure. ", "Ask questions and be nice. Even if you already know the answer ask the question, you might be wrong but even if you are right people feel important when they help you. Ask where to go for lunch, you might get invited to go along." ]	[ 8, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Overthinking Today I hit rock bottom and I just need to get this out to someone somewhere. (Wording and Grammar might be off. You've been warned)\n \nSo for the last two weeks or so I've been overthinking about something and that thing being Life and Time as a concept and I need help getting my mind off of things. Today I literally started Crying and got a Headache from overthinking.\n \nFor the curious: I can't wrap my head around that we as Beings have only been around for X amount of time and the Universe and Everything in it have been around for X Amount of time longer. I can't Wrap my head around Living and Dying as of right now I can barely remember the last 4 Years of my life but all of a sudden I'm scared shitless of Dying and Living at the same time.\n \nIf need be I can go more into detail later but right now I need to go out and try to calm down again.", "Overthinking Today I hit rock bottom and I just need to get this out to someone somewhere. (Wording and Grammar might be off. You've been warned)\n \nSo for the last two weeks or so I've been overthinking about something and that thing being Life and Time as a concept and I need help getting my mind off of things. Today I literally started Crying and got a Headache from overthinking.\n \nFor the curious: I can't wrap my head around that we as Beings have only been around for X amount of time and the Universe and Everything in it have been around for X Amount of time longer. I can't Wrap my head around Living and Dying as of right now I can barely remember the last 4 Years of my life but all of a sudden I'm scared shitless of Dying and Living at the same time.\n \nIf need be I can go more into detail later but right now I need to go out and try to calm down again.", "Overthinking Today I hit rock bottom and I just need to get this out to someone somewhere. (Wording and Grammar might be off. You've been warned)\n \nSo for the last two weeks or so I've been overthinking about something and that thing being Life and Time as a concept and I need help getting my mind off of things. Today I literally started Crying and got a Headache from overthinking.\n \nFor the curious: I can't wrap my head around that we as Beings have only been around for X amount of time and the Universe and Everything in it have been around for X Amount of time longer. I can't Wrap my head around Living and Dying as of right now I can barely remember the last 4 Years of my life but all of a sudden I'm scared shitless of Dying and Living at the same time.\n \nIf need be I can go more into detail later but right now I need to go out and try to calm down again.", "Overthinking Today I hit rock bottom and I just need to get this out to someone somewhere. (Wording and Grammar might be off. You've been warned)\n \nSo for the last two weeks or so I've been overthinking about something and that thing being Life and Time as a concept and I need help getting my mind off of things. Today I literally started Crying and got a Headache from overthinking.\n \nFor the curious: I can't wrap my head around that we as Beings have only been around for X amount of time and the Universe and Everything in it have been around for X Amount of time longer. I can't Wrap my head around Living and Dying as of right now I can barely remember the last 4 Years of my life but all of a sudden I'm scared shitless of Dying and Living at the same time.\n \nIf need be I can go more into detail later but right now I need to go out and try to calm down again.", "Overthinking Today I hit rock bottom and I just need to get this out to someone somewhere. (Wording and Grammar might be off. You've been warned)\n \nSo for the last two weeks or so I've been overthinking about something and that thing being Life and Time as a concept and I need help getting my mind off of things. Today I literally started Crying and got a Headache from overthinking.\n \nFor the curious: I can't wrap my head around that we as Beings have only been around for X amount of time and the Universe and Everything in it have been around for X Amount of time longer. I can't Wrap my head around Living and Dying as of right now I can barely remember the last 4 Years of my life but all of a sudden I'm scared shitless of Dying and Living at the same time.\n \nIf need be I can go more into detail later but right now I need to go out and try to calm down again." ]	[ "This is referred to as existential anxiety and you're not alone. I suggest taking a look at some Rupert Spira YouTube videos and books. ", "If something happened that set off your thinking two weeks ago, it might help you to normalize that you're upset, like so: \"My brain is trying to help me to absorb something I don't understand yet. It's okay. I will come to a new understanding in my own time.\"\n\n\nRegardless of what set off the thinking, I think it's a pretty normal thing to have a kind of crisis of meaning when coming to a new awareness of how much bigger things are than we realized before. The fact that you see things differently doesn't necessarily mean things actually are any different than they were before, and once upon a time, things seemed some kind of okay. Remembering that your consciousness is what has changed, might help the universe to seem less random and scary. You don't have to figure it out for things to be okay. There is room for your thoughts to range about in this okay-ish universe, and do their thing, until you arrive at a new normal. \n\nBeing scared about dying and living are things we all reckon with as human beings, often several times in a lifetime, usually at big transition points, especially as we're just coming into adulthood. It might help you to label the thoughts you're having as \"normal over-thinking.\" Another one, which might sound insensitive and absurd, but which I have found very helpful, is to say to yourself, \"everything is exactly as it should be.\" I have said this to myself at times when everything was indisputably a big hot mess, and I have been surprised by how comforted it made me feel. Just naming that chaos can be okay, can be of help.\n\nIf after trying these things you don't get enough relief to be able to function, talk to your doctor or think about going to talk with a therapist. It can really help.\n\nBest to you.\n\n\n\n", "Well you are not alone.. We are all in the same paradoxical struggle.. \n\nFortunately, you are here as a result of your ancestors successfully surviving long enough to procreate. And in the grand scheme of life and all who have lived and died and will live and will die it's pretty awesome me thinks", "The things you can't wrap your mind around are the roots of religion. Why are we here, what are we, where do we come from, and where are we going? Now I can't tell you to think positive, because you can't fix thoughts with more thoughts. So my advice, breathe smoothly and in rhythm. This will calm you down. Focus on breathing, and just breathing. ", "I think about living and dying frequently, not so much that same as you but more the time of when I or my loved ones will die, but because I don't want that to happen soon I do things that distract me easily, simple things like getting up and walking through the house or anywhere you'll always find something to take your mind in another place, personally my favourite is remembering things I like what take me to another place, for example in really into music, so if I'm static when I'm overthinking I'll play music and a memory or \"dream\" if you will, will come to me from the specific song that's playing, hope this helps, I also like the top comment about the book, maybe some useful tips in there and reading will definitely take your mind off whatever you're worrying/overthinking about!" ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Should I rotate my footwear or wear one pair till it's worn out? I've been wearing the same style of shoes for over 10 years and I find them the most comfortable I've ever worn. \n \nThe thing is, it seems my size is more often out of stock then in stock so this time I bought two pairs when they had them in stock. \n \nMy question is, would it be more advantageous to wear one pair till they can't be worn anymore and then move on to the next pair or alternate between wearing the two pairs?\n \nWhich method will result in the greater length of time that I can wear though both pairs?", "Should I rotate my footwear or wear one pair till it's worn out? I've been wearing the same style of shoes for over 10 years and I find them the most comfortable I've ever worn. \n \nThe thing is, it seems my size is more often out of stock then in stock so this time I bought two pairs when they had them in stock. \n \nMy question is, would it be more advantageous to wear one pair till they can't be worn anymore and then move on to the next pair or alternate between wearing the two pairs?\n \nWhich method will result in the greater length of time that I can wear though both pairs?" ]	[ "Well I know for running shoes it's definitely recommended to rotate between two pairs so maybe it's the same case for you.", "Rotate. Even if you're not super sweaty the heat from your feet (especially friction heat) reactivates (softens) the glue bonds. Wearing the same shoes every single day doesn't give the glue bonds a chance to recover in between wears. I used to repair shoes, ones that get worn every single day get thrashed much sooner. Also, foot fungus? Ugh. Let the suckers dry out in between. " ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to Stop Laughing/Smiling When You're in a Serious Place/Situation? I have a tendency to laugh and smile out of nowhere.", "How to Stop Laughing/Smiling When You're in a Serious Place/Situation? I have a tendency to laugh and smile out of nowhere.", "How to Stop Laughing/Smiling When You're in a Serious Place/Situation? I have a tendency to laugh and smile out of nowhere.", "How to Stop Laughing/Smiling When You're in a Serious Place/Situation? I have a tendency to laugh and smile out of nowhere." ]	[ "If no one is looking at you, you can hold your nose. I found that when I was forced to breathe through my mouth, I would stop laughing pretty quickly. But if you're in a situation where people are looking at you, that may be too obvious.\n\nSo maybe peruse [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/3yok88/what_is_the_saddest_fact_you_know/) thread and have a list of sad facts ready in your head to think about.", "I suck the sides of my cheeks in between my teeth and bite down - but not enough to hurt, and not enough to make my face look gaunt.\n\nThis is best to stop you from smiling, and also if for whatever reason you start to laugh, you can bite down and the pain will stop you laughing.", "Think of something that makes you steaming mad. People won't want to fuck with you when you've got your angry face on.", "I got through the worst case of church giggles by trying to say the alphabet backwards in my head as many times as I could. You could also try to remember as much of a movie in order as you can... any kind of brain game to keep you occupied will distract you. " ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?", "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?", "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?", "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?", "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?", "How to get rid of sticky buttons on a TI-83 Calculator, preferably without dismantling it. A friend spilled some fruit juice on the STO and ON buttons, what's the best way to get it out?" ]	[ "Spilled a whole coke on my unibody laptop keys. Went to a Pep Boys (car mechanic shop) and picked up some \"electronic contact cleaner.\" Saved me a lot of $$ and my keyboard is working great.\nhttp://home.howstuffworks.com/electrical-contact-cleaner.htm", "Take the batteries out, squirt a bunch of isopropyl alcohol all over the keys (be generous, but avoid the screen obviously) and let it sit upside down on some paper towels for a few days. Worked for mine! ", "I'd probably put a few drops of alcohol in/around the button and mash the button/ use a pin to scrape potential gunk from the sides. Do so at your own risk.", "I would love to know if someone had a way, my husband's calculator is almost unusable. Stupid sticky buttons! ", "Dip a tissue/paper towel/washcloth in rubbing alcohol (isopropyl alcohol) and wipe the sticky keys thoroughly. I do not envy you, sticky keys are a punishment with no possible warrant", "Contact oil.\nAuto electricians use it. You can get it in aerosol cans or just a bottle.\nYou don't need much, put some in, and blow it out. Might take a few goes, but it'll free it up, and won't hurt your contacts while lubricating all the parts.\nIf you have compressed air it will work a lot quicker.\n" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n", "How to be more photogenic in surprise photos? Sometimes you are bound to be in a photo where you are not even aware that it was taken. Unfortunately, I always look like i'm about to sneeze, doing something weird with my mouth, half blinking and just about any other awkward things a person might do.\n\nHow can one condition themselves to become more physically aware of their actions and appear to be more humanly, rather than like a retarded t-rex.\n\nThank you\n" ]	[ "Remind yourself that most photos are meaningless and will be forgotten after a week or two. Embrace your awkwardness you gangly baby deer ", "I mean, if you want to look like a model, there's this technique they do called ''The Squinch''. It's not quite squinting, but you are narrowing your eyes halfway between a squint. \n\nIt makes you look solemn, brooding, and focused. But also all of your photos will look very dramatic or satirical. ", "[Options](http://www.amazon.com/CreepyParty-Deluxe-Halloween-Horse-Latex/dp/B0107XRQ7E/ref=cts_ap_4_fbt)\n\n", "You can't prepare for a photo that you are not aware is being taken as that would require you to be always on your guard which can be very tiring but if you see someone taking pictures in the room pose for 1 or 2 and usually they will stop chasing you once you give them photo of yourself. If they keep insisting after you letting them take few pictures tell them politely to \"piss off\" because you already gave them what they want. I'm also one of those people that keep shooting photos especially these days with app like Google Photos that lets you take unlimited photos! Remember these photos don't mean much now because they gain value more as years pass by and you look back on them. \n\nAs for how to do genuine smile well I always had trouble doing that when I was younger but what I do now is to think of someone I really care about or in most cases I think of my goofy dog which always makes me smile so by then I get a nice grin and also watch out I don't show TOO MUCH and TOO LITTLE of my teeth sometimes I also squint my eyes tiny bit... While still thinking of my silly goofy dog that I love so much. :)", "Quickly grab your tie and be awesome. Then it would be impossible for you to take a bad picture. Make the camera love you!", "Idk about you but I look weird as fuck when I \"try\" to smile for a photo. Lately I've taken to doing the Mona Lisa (subtle closed mouthed smile) and I don't look like I'm having the time of my life or anything but at least I look relatively decent ", "Smile,first of all. Then dont worry what you people look like because everyone analyzes themselves.\n\nJk i don't know, commenting for future reference. " ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves ", "How to get up in the morning? Although I go to bed early every day it's just so difficult for me to get up in the morning. I always wake up when my last alarm clock rings, so I need to hurry to eat etc. before my bus leaves " ]	[ "Last alarm clock? There's your problem. Set ONE alarm and get up when it goes off. Just get up. At least sit up in your bed. Dozing between multiple alarms is inefficient and actually makes you more tired and cranky. \n\nPersonally, I wake up at least 3 hours before I have to be at work. This gives me time to have my coffee, get ready, pack my bag if I didn't do it the night before, do a couple chores if I need to, etc. I'm a natural night person who has to conform to being a morning person and this has been my method since I was in middle school. By the time I get to school/work, I'm already awake and chances are, I didn't forget anything at home.\n\nTl;dr set one alarm and get the fuck out of bed, that cozy temptress.", "One alarm clock and place it on the other side of the bedroom so you have to get up and go across the room to turn it off (also, make sure it is annoying enough that you don't sleep through it).\n\nGive yourself a reason to get up early enough. Do you enjoy coffee? Get up early enough to have a cup or two before leaving the house. Or tea. Or maybe even let yourself watch an episode of a favorite show as you are getting ready for the day.", "Two things that helped me are:\n\n- Sunrise alarm clock: It gradually gets lighter and lighter, just like a sunrise, and the radio gets gradually louder and louder, over the course of 90 minutes, to gently lure you out of deep sleep. So instead of a regular alarm which is like a shock to the system that just fills you with dread, you sort of gradually realise you are awake. \n\n\n- Drinking a glass of water right before bed: I don't know why this works, maybe because your body wants you to wake up to empty your bladder, but I definitely find it easier to wake when I do this. ", "Drink a lot of water before going to bed, that way when you wake up you'll have to pee really bad and you'll get up.\n\nAlso like someone mentioned before me, place the alarm out of reach so that once it rings you'll have to stand up to turn it off.", "Stretch in bed. You don't even have to open your eyes. Lol. Just stretch your legs sitting on your bed a few times like if you were warming up at the gym, and it might help your wake up- it does for me. ", "Get a timer on your lights, and a radio too, and at 7am (for example), have them flood your room with light and music. Put them on different sides of the room that you can't reach from bed.\n\n\nPlan B - if you are a caffeine user (like me), put a cup of covered, black coffee next to your bed at night, when you wake up, chug it, even if you fade back to sleep, you're 15 minutes from alertness.\n\n", "My approach is to tell myself why I need/want to get up on time. It is usually about motivation, I just know that I like not to hurry in the morning, or else the whole day is usually a mess, and I really like when my days are good.", "Life is about habits... just get up each time the first alarm rings. Get out of the bed immediately. It will hurt in the first 2 weeks, but it will become easier and easier each time. ", "It's tough and a struggle I've always had. I hate mornings and only want to stay in bed. \n\nDoes your bedroom have a window facing the sun? I leave part of my shade open so the sun helps the wake up process. There's also \"Wake Up Lights\" that slowly emit a light that mimics the sun to slowly wake you up but they're still super expensive. I'm keeping an eye on their prices and will buy one once they drop. \n\nPersonally, I have a more stressed day if I jump out of bed the instant my alarm goes off. What I do when the alarm goes off is adjust my pillows and sit up in bed then read the news and emails on my phone for 5-10 mins: the blue light from the phone helps start the wake up process and reading gets my mind moving. Next, gotta get the body moving so I get out of bed (usually requires force and sheer will) and do some light exercise. Jumping jacks, stretching, push-ups, whatever works for you but getting your blood flowing does wonders. \n\nAlso, don't underestimate the effect that showering and brushing your teeth has. Not sure if it's a conditioned response or what but something about it makes me more awake and ready for the day. \n\nMany people claim that making their bed every morning helps once it becomes routine because you've accomplished something (no matter how small) and that makes the day's to do list seem easier. \n\nAlso, putting an alarm across the room forces you to get out of bed to turn it off. You'll hate that alarm though but it can do wonders. ", "I have been fighting with this same issue since elementary school. Mornings were miserable for me, didn't matter if I went to bed at a decent time or not. In high school I would sleep in my school clothes to buy me as much time to sleep as possible. When I was about 23 it started to negatively influence my life. After trying sleep resets and all the tips and tricks listed in this post I was still having trouble waking up. \n\nI brought it up to my doctor. I ended up going to see a neurologist who specialized in sleep. After doing a sleep test he diagnosed me with narcolepsy. It turned out that I wasn't getting proper sleep. My brain wasn't able to stay in deep sleep state and most of my sleep cycle was in REM sleep. I simply wasn't getting restful sleep causing miserable mornings. \n\nI don't know if this is similar to your situation or not. You may just need to adopt a routine or do a sleep reset. But if that's not the issue then it may be worth looking into the quality and type of sleep you're getting every night. \n\nIt really sucks waking up every morning like that. Really starts to wear on you. I hope you're able to figure out situation! " ]	[ 14, 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place.", "How to make friends in a new State? My fiancée and I recently moved to a new State right after college and we have been struggling to make friends and we wanted some tips on how to meet people after moving to a new place." ]	[ "Join a group that participates in an activity in which you have an interest.\n\nFor example, after college I moved to a new city where I knew few people, so I just a swing dancing group in the town (I have always enjoyed swing dancing). Was able to make friends and had something to motivate me to get out of the house.", "Meet up works great. If you have hobbies you can find people through that as well. Go hiking, I meet people while hiking. Yelp is great to meet people. ", "Go where people are and talk to them. \n\nGo to a bar. \n\nGo to the park. \n\nTake some classes. \n\nJoin a group. \n\nWhen you talk to people, add them to facebook, then invite them to do stuff. They'll start to invite you to stuff and you'll meet their friends. Repeat the process. ", "Strike up conversation with people during activities you enjoy. I travel allot so I'm constantly talking to people at bars or restaurants or work. Also. Try the app meetup. It's not perfect but can get your wheels spinning with people with similar interests. ", "Dang. I've always just gone to the nearest bar. Seems to make me friends in every town and city I've been to in the world. ", "A good tip is to [search](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/search?q=how+to+make+friends&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all) for people who share similar hobbies. Expecting people[ to find you and solve your problem](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/5moy8l/lpt_request_how_to_make_friends_in_a_new_state/) isn't going to really seed your friend circles and grow into something that will last. Most of the concepts are the same as when you were five years old. You find a group of people with similar interests and build a relationship best suited for your lifestyles' over time.\n\nThere are pretty much groups for any and all hobbies, whether fun and games or more of an adult nature. My fiance and I met our circle of friends by responding to an advertisement of a tabletop game group in town and through work. We met several others, both couples and singles, and hang out a night or so a week when we aren't working out of town. We have a small multi-platform gaming group that we all use to hangout when everyone is away or busy during the week. Every other week we alternate between this bar and this fancier restaurant for food and drinks.", "Whenever you move instantly join three groups: One active, running, tennis, frisbee golf etc. Two, something intellectual like the local museum as a volunteer. And three, volunteer. Volunteer organizations never have enough help. When joining organizations insist you want to be forward-facing, not in the back keeping the books. For instance, at the museum, be the person out front checking people in. At the charity run, manage a water station. Buy and wear a nametag with just your first name on it. \n\nTwo months later quit the one activity that hasn't panned out. Do one other sporadically, and heavily invest in the one that seems to give you the most connections. I promise you will be amazed at how quickly you make new connections. One year in you'll know more people than the locals do.", "We're in the same boat. Starting to get involved in a local evangelical church and starting to meet some people. Having kids helps to once they start school.", "If you're in a sizable enough city or town, try couchsurfing.com. It's not just for travelers but also a great place for making new friends and getting local advice. I used it when I moved to a new city and it helped me find one of my now best friends." ]	[ 17, 4, 4, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!", "How do you politely end a conversation with a stranger when you’re “trapped” with them? I suppose I have a friendly face, or maybe this happens to everyone, but if I’m on a train, plane or in a waiting room, people start talking to me, and they don’t stop. They latch on and make me a sounding board for whatever length of time we’re stuck together. \n\nAs an example, I was in the packed ER waiting room and a 90 year old woman in the seat next to me strikes up a convo, and locked me in for an hour long story about her family, why immigrants are bad, the Greek economy and whatever else she could think of while I just kinda sat there and took it. \n\nMy question is: what’s a polite way to say to a person like that “I don’t want to talk to you right now, you’re bothering me” when you know you’re going to be sat next to them for quite a while longer?\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "I'm sorry this is a very interesting conversation but I'm actually going through a personal situation right now and I'm trying to collect my thoughts and sort it out in my head. If you don't mind, I'd like to focus on it for a bit.", "“I’m sorry, but I just realized I would rather have Novocaine free dental surgery than listen to another word of your inane babbling.”", "Someone you don't know and will likely never see again?\n\n\"Go away\"\n\n \"I can't / don't want to talk right now\"\n\n\"I think I just pooped a little\" and grab your rear.\n\n3rd option preferred as it's a win/win. You get left alone and they now have an amusing story to tell others.\n\n", "I always wear headphones when out and about, even if I’m not listening to anything. I find it cuts out on people trying to speak to you, especially as my headphones are massive fuck off over ear ones so I can pretend I don’t hear people. ", "If they are truly a stranger and you never plan on see them again, you could always offend them. \"You don't like (immigrants)? Strange I have always found them to be the best love makers\" \"Maybe you shouldn't have ever had a family.\" Depending on how you do it, you can offend while still being \"polite\". Even if you come off as a bit of an asshole, who cares?", "If the person's saying something good, say that's cool and look at your phone. If the person is saying something terrible, say that's too bad and look at your phone. ", "Or just stare at them and try not to blink. Don't say a word, just stare then after a few minutes, turn around (180 not 360, that would be weird)", "Talk to then about some uninteresting topic. E.g. inform them about the basics of dark holes, talk about neuroanatomical details, tell them about renaissance art etc.\n\nJust take any topic that other person doesn't like.", "“#{random-foreign-phrase}”, blink a few times and add in optional confused look. but this only works if you know a passable amount of a foreign language. you are shit out of luck if that person speaks that language also lol", "id like to talk longer but i gotta meet someone in 5 minutes, or do what Taco from \"the league\" does and say \"i dont want to talk to you any more\"", "Learn to fart in public.\n\nThat'll get you out of these pesky social situations easier than having to say \"You're boring and I'm on my way to the abortion clinic. Get out of my way!\"", "I've learned to find a good point in the conversation where I can comfortably say something like, \"Wow, man. I hope that works out for you.\" Or something along those lines, maybe tailor the response to the scenario a little better. And then I just go to whatever I was doing. Make it feel final and they often get the hint \$in my experience\$. People who don't stop talking just need to be made aware and it doesn't help anyone if you're a complete asshole about it. It's the gentlest, most diplomatic option in my opinion!", "Honestly you could've, in the waiting room situation, gotten up and excused yourself to another seat or bathroom. No need for lengthy responses and/or reasons. A simple, \"excuse me,\" would do just fine. ", "\"I'm sorry, but I'm really tired/not feeling well and I can't follow you right now\". \n\nSaying it in the most apologetic tone you can. It works because it doesn't make them feel that they're at fault. ", "Musician who plays out 3-4 nights a week, play for an hour and a half, I get a 15 minute break, and then another hour and a half. In that break, I have to eat, drink, use the bathroom, get some air, and a bunch of other things that are difficult when someone wants to talk about, \"Oh hey, do you guys know and Stones tunes?\", or \"I want to buy a guitar, what do you recommend?\". My go to is always, \"I'm really sorry to jut out, but I've got some things I need to get done\". Simple, not rude, and impossible to question", "I slowly start making comments like, \"Oh ok\" or \"really?\" over and over again and when I'm lucky they get the hint and stop talking to me." ]	[ 35, 20, 15, 14, 7, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to get writing/journalist experience? Hello - I did a one year course on journalism at college in Scotland last year and absolutely loved it. I want to build a portfolio and get more experience for my university application. \n\n\nI was wondering if anyone had any good advice or tips for the best way to get more experience? My idea is to try writing articles for blogs and local newspapers/newsletters as well as look for local internships. Does anyone have any other good ideas or could you recommend me a website I could submit articles to? \n\nCheers! ", "How to get writing/journalist experience? Hello - I did a one year course on journalism at college in Scotland last year and absolutely loved it. I want to build a portfolio and get more experience for my university application. \n\n\nI was wondering if anyone had any good advice or tips for the best way to get more experience? My idea is to try writing articles for blogs and local newspapers/newsletters as well as look for local internships. Does anyone have any other good ideas or could you recommend me a website I could submit articles to? \n\nCheers! " ]	[ "Start your own blog and write on it as much as possible. Try to write something every day, even if it isn't for your blog. \n\nAlso make a LinkedIn profile if you don't have one. \n\n\nWhat sort of journalism are you wanting to get in to?", "Prepare to write for free. I'd do what ELECTRICxWIZARD said above and just write every day to sharpen your skills, but then figure out your best ones and use those as writing samples to shoot out to bigger blogs that cover topics you're passionate about. \n\nFor example, if you like writing about travel, post a bunch of travel articles -- make them good, " ]	[ 5, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?", "how to get neighbors deaf dog to stop barking I live in an apartment and the people above me just moved in with a dog that barks constantly when they’re not home. I told the neighbor and they said they bought an ultrasonic collar or something but it doesn’t work. She said the dog is mostly deaf which sucks but nothing has worked. Is there anything I can do short of getting them in trouble with the landlord?" ]	[ "Offer to dog-sit. Bring him into your home and love him. Give him pets and call him a good boy.\n\nMake a dog friend", "Give it a week or two and if there's no improvement tell the landlord. Wear earplugs/good headphones for now. \n\nMight be general new home anxiety, which is normal, or anxiety due to actual neglect in which case the dog would be better off with different owners. \n\nNot everyone can handle a deaf dog.", "My step dad had a dog like this. Only he was deaf and blind and couldn’t tell when people were home and would start randomly barking at any moment. Cocker spaniel. Wouldn’t stop until someone physically nudged him. He got put on Xanax and was a lot happier. But since you can’t give your neighbor’s dog meds, just tell the landlord. You tried the polite route, now assert your rights. Have you recorded him barking? A decibel gauge would also be good to document the level of nuisance.", "Ask them if they’d consider getting a dog sitter, one of the ones who at very least come by once a day for a walk. A tired dog is a well behaved dog, 99% of the time.\n\nIt’s easier to pay for that service than it is to get into trouble with a landlord.", "You could fry a scent spraying collar. They don’t work on every dog, however.\n\nI was given a shock collar to try. I used it on myself at the lowest setting and it was nasty. So my dog never had to endure it.", "Suggest she adopt another dog (or maybe even a cat) to keep him company while nobody is at home? She should borrow a dog for a week or so first though to see if this actually works on her dog.", "Ask her if she walks the dog 2 T a day. Does she give the dog a job to do( look out window at nature, birds, squirrels) give it a Kong toy stuffed with dog kibble . There’s.a lot to do. The dog can’t do it alone. Exercise , mental activity , socializing help . The dog could have severe separation anxiety because she is gone All the time and doesn’t help her dog, just uses it as a thing . Ask her . Then ask the landlord . The dog would be better in a foster home with trained sitters . Good luck ☀️☀️", "Citronella spay collars or vibrating bark collars. Obviously a small barking shock collar could work as well" ]	[ 21, 16, 7, 5, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Learning another language online. Pretty simple request, I want to learn another language. I'm sure there's some sites or programs out there, and wanted some suggestions of people that have or just good sources in general.\n\nAnd don't say Rosetta Stone.", "Learning another language online. Pretty simple request, I want to learn another language. I'm sure there's some sites or programs out there, and wanted some suggestions of people that have or just good sources in general.\n\nAnd don't say Rosetta Stone.", "Learning another language online. Pretty simple request, I want to learn another language. I'm sure there's some sites or programs out there, and wanted some suggestions of people that have or just good sources in general.\n\nAnd don't say Rosetta Stone.", "Learning another language online. Pretty simple request, I want to learn another language. I'm sure there's some sites or programs out there, and wanted some suggestions of people that have or just good sources in general.\n\nAnd don't say Rosetta Stone." ]	[ "www.duolingo.com By the creator of the captcha the principle behind it is to teach people an language for free and translate the web at the same time. \nHeres a link to a 'TED talk' on captchas and duolingo http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/TEDxCMU-Luis-von-Ahn-Duolingo-T", "http://www.memrise.com/ is pretty good for learning vocabulary. As far as I can tell, it isn't very good for the other aspects of language.\n\nAnd I'll second the recommendation for Duolingo, if it happens to have the language you want to learn.", "Livemocha.com is a helpful resource. There are lessons, also you can send in writings or record your pronunciation of a text that other users in the community can help you correct. Some parts aren't free but you can earn more access by correcting others' work in your native lamguage. \nYoutube can round out lessons too", "www.Lang-8.com\n\nIt doesn't teach you, but you can practice writing and have native speakers correct your entries." ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing.", "How to dine out with friends that don't tip. Or rather how to get them to tip? I understand the tipping system is flawed and most of the world does not use it; however, here in North America, I still view it as an obligation (unless the service was bad) to leave an average tip at the very least.\n\nI notice that some friends (I'm in my 20s) have this attitude \"Why tip? It's so stupid,\" with absolute disregard to the consequences of their decision.\n\nFor example, when one person in a party of 4 leaves no tips at all, it undermines the efforts of the other 3 people trying to leave a proper tip.\n\nI would like to add that the friends that don't tip happen to be wealthy and don't exactly have money problems.\n\nFriends that don't tip are still friends. Just wondering if there is a gentle way to communicate this sort of thing, without being downright imposing." ]	[ "I feel I need to clarify. You say to them,\" I won't go out to eat with you because you won't tip. So if you want to eat, cook it. \" ", "If you insist on dining with cheapskates, get separate cheques. There's no reason why a non-tipper should ride the coattails of tippers. I don't think you owe anyone a \"gentle way\" to communicate this, since its obnoxious and rude to not leave a tip.", "Your friends are [Steve Buscemi](http://youtu.be/V4sbYy0WdGQ). Not everyone is that lucky. Count your blessings.", "Don't make me tip you asshole! I live in Canada and servers here make a minimum wage comparable to my job and I don't get tipped! ", "I'm a bit surprised at how many people on here knowingly refuse to tip their servers, regardless of the service, because the tipping system is flawed. I agree, it's a stupid system, employers should pay employees for their work. But I don't see this changing quickly. Besides, you not tipping the server isn't going to prove to the restaurant that they need to change their ways because tips don't go to the restaurant anyway.\n\nI worked at restaurants for 5 years while I was in college and I was fortunate enough to have it pay for my day to day necessities, school (I have no student loans), and a little extra for fun stuff and I only worked about 16-20 hours a week. Where I worked, the manager did the restaurant sales so she paid the servers their cr", "It's illegal for the employer to not make up the difference between tipped wage and minimum wage if the tips do not equal minimum wage. Can report a company to Department of Labor if they refuse.", "I guess it mostly depends on how close you are with these people. Are they friends, or just acquaintances?\nWhen we are out with friends, once we are done gathering everyone's money we say \"we have ##\" and point out whether we are short anything, whether it is enough to cover the meal alone, or meal plus tip, and we always out loud will ask \"how much are we tipping?\". This is not ill intentioned nor passive aggressive, we just want to make sure we are leaving enough (and if the server was awesome, that we are leaving more than enough). That way if anyone forgot, they can still add some, or, if anyone can't tip (in my country, most of the establishments do not allow for tips to be put on the cr", "LPT: Always get separate checks. You're responsible for your own actions. Tip accordingly. That someone in your party doesn't tip, don't worry about it. It's none of your business. \n\nAlso, don't look at how much someone tips. Don't bring it up. And don't judge people. It's rude. Mind your own business. Even if it's your husband or wife tipping. If you want to control how much the waiter/waitress gets paid, you are free to pay them more.\n\nAlso, if you're a waiter or waitress, split the fucking checks. I don't give a shit what your menu says. If you want to get paid, charge me what I owe. Tell your owner that specific thing \"if you want to get paid, charge them what they owe\". Period.", "Just casually explain that these people live off of their tips. It's important.\n\nI once had a table that stopped me (thankfully after the rush) and asked me to explain why we tip in the U.S. It was a bit unorthodox, but I explained it as nicely as I could. Basically I explained that we don't make minimum wage when it comes to hourly because labor laws in the US allow restaurants to \"assume\" that their servers are being tipped. Which means that they get to \"assume\" that we make minimum wage WITH those tips.\n\nIt's a pretty messed up system, but that's just the way it works in this country. So when you go out to eat in the US, take what you think you'll pay for the meal, then take extra to cover the tip.", "Find better friends. Only douchebags don't tip (in the US.) Servers here are typically paid well under minimum wage, and rely on tips to earn a living.", "Don't communicate it, just add theirs into yours and tip what you would have tipped if that were your bill. I have done it before when we had excellent service, but the friends of mine gave only to the penny(cheap) 15% only rather than 25% since it was excellent service or even 20% they could have. You are NEVER going to change their attitude and neither will they change yours. You can't win in that except to be more giving to the server YOURSELF.", "LPT: Don't be friends with people who don't tip. People like this are the most selfish assholes and are unworthy of friendship.", "Don't push it with them. I've purposely not given a tip because I had a friend who kept trying to talk me into it. Instead, lead by example - say you're giving a tip because the service was good / the waiter was nice / etc. If others in the group do the same thing, maybe have them explain why they do it. If the holdout still refuses, so what, doesn't undermine the other tips - The waiter still gets something.", "This has worked for me in the past - When you sit down and are chatting with your friends at the restaurant, casually bring tipping up out of the blue. As in literally just take a second of conversation lull and be like, \"Gosh their job is not fun ... I'm glad I tip them because they get paid nothing, too... nothing chapps my ass more than ppl that don't, too.\" or something similar that gets your point across. If they STILL don't tip, don't go out with them anymore. It's as simple as that.", "There is no gentle way, and it's your responsibility to be imposing. People who don't tip should be called out for it, and should not be at a restaurant/bar if they don't want to tip -- they can eat or drink at home.\n\nI had a friend of a friend once buy a round of drinks (which was a rare enough occurrence, which is why he never really became a friend of mine), and he left just enough money for the drinks and even said \"no tip\". I just asked him \"what are you an asshole?\" and proceeded to leave a couple of dollars on the bar, then sarcastically thanked him for the round.", "I don't understand the mindset of \"having to tip\". A tip is an extra bit of money awarded for exceptional service, not an expected handout from the customer to the server. \n\nIf a server does their job, that's what they get paid for. They earn X amount per hour to serve customers food and drink. If they want extra, they should go over and above their job description. I'm very willing to tip for service that is more than \"here's your food\" (walks away), but don't ever judge me for not giving in to the social pressure of HAVING to tip.\n\nIf serving staff aren't being paid a fair wage for their work, the system needs upgrading, not handouts." ]	[ 20, 16, 6, 6, 4, 2, 2, 0, 0, 0, 0, -1, -2, -3, -5, -7 ]	safe
[ "How to figure out the lock combination of an old lock. I have a lock I haven't used in a while and I can't remember the combination. Anyone know how to figure it out?\n\nPicture related, it is the type of lock I have.", "How to figure out the lock combination of an old lock. I have a lock I haven't used in a while and I can't remember the combination. Anyone know how to figure it out?\n\nPicture related, it is the type of lock I have." ]	[ "[See this diagram](http://markedwardcampos.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/mcamposfinal2-e1290458796483.gif)\n", "I believe most are right left right so there's a chance if you try and pull it on every number whilst spinning to the right you could get it" ]	[ 5, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep a bulletproof vest from smelling terrible? Yes, I'm aware you have to wash it, and I'm aware how to do that. Any other tips/products you recommend? ", "How to keep a bulletproof vest from smelling terrible? Yes, I'm aware you have to wash it, and I'm aware how to do that. Any other tips/products you recommend? ", "How to keep a bulletproof vest from smelling terrible? Yes, I'm aware you have to wash it, and I'm aware how to do that. Any other tips/products you recommend? ", "How to keep a bulletproof vest from smelling terrible? Yes, I'm aware you have to wash it, and I'm aware how to do that. Any other tips/products you recommend? ", "How to keep a bulletproof vest from smelling terrible? Yes, I'm aware you have to wash it, and I'm aware how to do that. Any other tips/products you recommend? " ]	[ "Well I guess you could put a deoderizer on it. Something that actually kills bacteria. I wouldn't use alcohol because that has the potential for weakening the bonds of the polymers. \n\nEver thought of getting a couple and cycling through like 2 a week? I'm sure that would help", "If you're an Officer you can wear it on the outside. makes you sweat much less. A ton of the officers in my town do it for that reason.", "I think the issue with your bulletproof vest is probably similar to my high heels.\n\nYou wear it multiple days in a row without giving it time to dry out on its own, and you can't exactly throw it into the dryer to exp", "I just hit mine with a few squirts of febreeze every couple of days. Seems to do the trick when I don't have time to wash it.", "Funnily enough Google has a few ideas, or you could enquire from the manufacturer what they recommend. http://www.ehow.com/how_5686889_clean-bulletproof-vests.html" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Pump Yourself Up (Energy) Coffee, intense workout, freezing cold shower, power poses and blasting music are ways of boosting your energy. I use these before meetings, they work to an extent. What other healthy, quick and easy methods could I add in?", "How to Pump Yourself Up (Energy) Coffee, intense workout, freezing cold shower, power poses and blasting music are ways of boosting your energy. I use these before meetings, they work to an extent. What other healthy, quick and easy methods could I add in?" ]	[ "aW!! my favorite has always been putting on uplifting music that you are familiar with, and just going wild with crazy dance moves in the privacy of your own home/room \n\n\n\nI prefer ska music tbh, but everyones different!!", "Playlist of songs that always amp up my energy. My playlist ranges from Metallica’s Enter Sandman to Ace Hood’s Hustle Hard." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Cleaning a bottle with an opening too small to fit your hand in I drink a number of protein-type drinks, and bring them to work in sports bottles. The problem is that once they dry, any residue stays stuck to the sides. Soaking them in water and shaking them doesn't seem to help.\n\n\nAny miracle solvent that will get this stuff off the sides without needing to wipe it off?", "Cleaning a bottle with an opening too small to fit your hand in I drink a number of protein-type drinks, and bring them to work in sports bottles. The problem is that once they dry, any residue stays stuck to the sides. Soaking them in water and shaking them doesn't seem to help.\n\n\nAny miracle solvent that will get this stuff off the sides without needing to wipe it off?", "Cleaning a bottle with an opening too small to fit your hand in I drink a number of protein-type drinks, and bring them to work in sports bottles. The problem is that once they dry, any residue stays stuck to the sides. Soaking them in water and shaking them doesn't seem to help.\n\n\nAny miracle solvent that will get this stuff off the sides without needing to wipe it off?", "Cleaning a bottle with an opening too small to fit your hand in I drink a number of protein-type drinks, and bring them to work in sports bottles. The problem is that once they dry, any residue stays stuck to the sides. Soaking them in water and shaking them doesn't seem to help.\n\n\nAny miracle solvent that will get this stuff off the sides without needing to wipe it off?" ]	[ "Bottle brushes are great and often sold for under $2 on the baby aisle in the grocery store.\n\nAside from that, you need something in the bottle to smack into the residue and get it to release from the bottle's side. Use what you have on hand. On varying occasions I have used: small pasta bits, rice, marbles, dried beans, beads, coated aquarium gravel, and legos.", "After I finish my on-the-way-to-work protein shake breakfast, I leave my cup in my car all day, so you can imagine how annoying dried protein residue is to clean. When I get home, I drizzle dish soap (Dawn, Palmolive, etc.) around the inside and let it drip down to the bottom, somewhat coating the sides of the cup. Use a decent amount (a few teaspoons or so); no pea-sized drops here. Then, I fill it with water and microwave the soapy solution for 2 minutes (you can just use hot water if you have a good hot water heater. I only use the microwave to avoid letting my sink run until the water is hot). Afterward, just let it sit for 20+ minutes. Come back later after the soap has broken down the residue and rinse with hot water. Shake it with the cap/lid on first if you see some lingering residue that hasn't broken off.\n\nDish soap is made to eat away grease and oily stuff, so just let it do its work. When I worked in fast food, doing dishes started off with letting them sit in a hot water/soap solution for a while, and that almost always took everything off.\n\nIf you find that you still need to scrub, get [something like this](http://www.amazon.com/OXO-Good-Grips-Bottle-Brush/dp/B00004OCLJ/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1346178493&sr=8-3&keywords=cleaning+brush). Usually the soak/rinse process does a good job, but sometimes you will just need a good ol' brush.", "straight bleach will work... (rinse well) \nyou could also use very small gravel (pea sized and smaller) and some detergent (save the gravel for next time) shake well... \nOr you could get a 'bottle brush' - looks like a giant pipe cleaner...\n", "Mix a tsp of dish liquid with a tsp of uncooked rice, and put in the container. Add water and shake, drain." ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stay awake during night class? I know about the basics of having a good sleep schedule, diet and regular exercise, however unpredictable things happen sometimes.\n\nI have a 3h long management class at 6 and need tips to stay up and as focused as possible throughout the whole time.", "How to stay awake during night class? I know about the basics of having a good sleep schedule, diet and regular exercise, however unpredictable things happen sometimes.\n\nI have a 3h long management class at 6 and need tips to stay up and as focused as possible throughout the whole time." ]	[ "Write everything interesting of the class and drink water. Also worked for me eating a snack or something with menthol at halftime.", "Sit in the front row—you will feel more engaged. You’re falling asleep likely because you are bored and checked out. Also sit in an upright position — wear a posture positioned if needed." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to sharpen a blade (for dummies) As an outdoor enthusiast, I need some help on proper blade sharpening techniques, given my sensory-motor-skills are at the level of a 2-year-old.\n\nCan't get those single bevel, carbon steel knifes and axes to razor sharp level, they just don't have the \"bite\" they used to when I bought them. Got all the prime gear (quality Japanese sharpening stones) and instruction, I just suck at this...", "How to sharpen a blade (for dummies) As an outdoor enthusiast, I need some help on proper blade sharpening techniques, given my sensory-motor-skills are at the level of a 2-year-old.\n\nCan't get those single bevel, carbon steel knifes and axes to razor sharp level, they just don't have the \"bite\" they used to when I bought them. Got all the prime gear (quality Japanese sharpening stones) and instruction, I just suck at this...", "How to sharpen a blade (for dummies) As an outdoor enthusiast, I need some help on proper blade sharpening techniques, given my sensory-motor-skills are at the level of a 2-year-old.\n\nCan't get those single bevel, carbon steel knifes and axes to razor sharp level, they just don't have the \"bite\" they used to when I bought them. Got all the prime gear (quality Japanese sharpening stones) and instruction, I just suck at this..." ]	[ "i have the same problem with freehand sharpening,i tried a few different sharpening systems and found the Lansky to be the easiest. i can shave with every one of my knives using http://www.amazon.co.uk/Lansky-Deluxe-Knife-Sharpening-System/dp/B000B8IEA4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1434878042&sr=8-1&keywords=lansky", "This takes a lot of practice and built up expertise. The LAST thing you want to do is butcher your prized knives, and worse, destroy your expensive japanese stones.\n\n1) Prepare sharpener as instructed (some stones need to be soaked, some just need a splash of water, some need oils, etc)\n\n2) CRITICAL PART angle your edge to the point where you feel it grabbing the stone. Or biting into the stone. Little to no resistance means you aren't hitting the edge. Too much resistance means changing the angle of the edge, which is also a bad thing. This is felt, not told. Practice.\n\n3) Use an angled approach (my preference) and move your blade edge-front down the length of the stone. Start at the base of your knife and as you hit the end of the stone, you should have reached the tip of the knife. Keep the angle of the edge constant, and keep the angle of the knife non-straight.\n\n4) Make a few passes on one side and flip over the knife to repeat on the other side.\n\n5) Start with a coarse stone and work your way up to the fine stone.\n\n6) Run your finger at the side of the edge to feel no burring. Too much burring means you are sharpening on one side incorrectly, and will have to start over again with the coarse stone.\n\n7) Once your knife is sharp, apply your polishing stone in the same fashion.", "I bought an apex edge pro along with a angle cube. It gets my knives razor sharp effortlessly at the best angle for the knife. It's expensive to get started but so worth it in the time saving, frustration savings, and prolonging your tools. " ]	[ 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with someone repeatedly calling you by the wrong name I've politely corrected a few times, but one man still gets it wrong around 80% of the time. What's the best way to go about this?\n\nIf there are no ways to fix it, LPT Identity Theft?", "How to deal with someone repeatedly calling you by the wrong name I've politely corrected a few times, but one man still gets it wrong around 80% of the time. What's the best way to go about this?\n\nIf there are no ways to fix it, LPT Identity Theft?" ]	[ "Thank them but use a similar but wrong name in return. When they call you on it, which they likely will, smile and ask them how they like it. You both laugh, and they have a memorable experience to ensure they get it right next time. ", "I use alliteration to remember everyone's name. It'll probably work for other people.\n\n\"It's Joe. Think Jolly Joe.\"\n\nOr something silly like that." ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "What's the best way to search for in-depth critical articles from mainstream media and blogs on any given topic? I love reading great in-depth, critical articles and opinion pieces on all kinds of topics that are randomly scattered across major news outlets (NYT, The Atlantic, Variety, etc.), niche sites (Slate, Grantland, etc.), blogs, and other websites. I usually stumble across these because they're tied to a major news story and therefore prominently featured, posted on a site like Reddit or social media, or happen to be linked from some other article I read.\n\nI've found that it's very difficult to seek out these types of pieces intentionally. Searching on Google works sometimes, but it doesn't filter out straight news pieces, separate in-depth articles from 5-sentence ones, and single out the type of in-depth, critical writing I'm looking for. There's so much great stuff out there, but unless it's very current or achieved a massive level of visibility that keeps it at the top of Google searches, it's hard to find.\n\nDoes anyone know a resource for finding these types of pieces? It would be the equivalent of an academic search engine, but for news and popular culture writing.", "What's the best way to search for in-depth critical articles from mainstream media and blogs on any given topic? I love reading great in-depth, critical articles and opinion pieces on all kinds of topics that are randomly scattered across major news outlets (NYT, The Atlantic, Variety, etc.), niche sites (Slate, Grantland, etc.), blogs, and other websites. I usually stumble across these because they're tied to a major news story and therefore prominently featured, posted on a site like Reddit or social media, or happen to be linked from some other article I read.\n\nI've found that it's very difficult to seek out these types of pieces intentionally. Searching on Google works sometimes, but it doesn't filter out straight news pieces, separate in-depth articles from 5-sentence ones, and single out the type of in-depth, critical writing I'm looking for. There's so much great stuff out there, but unless it's very current or achieved a massive level of visibility that keeps it at the top of Google searches, it's hard to find.\n\nDoes anyone know a resource for finding these types of pieces? It would be the equivalent of an academic search engine, but for news and popular culture writing." ]	[ "If you want \"in-depth\", then consider reading about your topic in peer-reviewed journals. (", "Google just posted something like this - [Find In-Depth Articles](http://googlesystem.blogspot.com/2015/01/find-in-depth-articles.html)\n\n" ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?", "How do I stop being so self-conscious? I always find myself worrying over what people think of me and it makes me feel really anxious. Any suggestions on how I can stop this?" ]	[ "Bear in mind looking anxious and nervous just makes it look worse if anything. Fake it till you make it. ", "Workout all the time. Keep yourself busy so you don't have a lot of time to think. If you look good, you'll feel good, and you will exude confidence without even knowing it. ", "Go to the gym, keep yourself in good hygiene, eat healthy, read and stay mentally active. It's hard to start but just remember you don't need to see the whole staircase in order to take the first step.\n\nAlso, a big help for me was realizing how little I think about what others do and realizing that's how little others think about me. ", "Something that I've recently done that has had a huge affect on my confidence is changing my voice. I know it sounds mundane, but others, as well as ourselves, asses the validity of what we say by how we say it. It sort of reinforces a feeling associated with the sound of that voice. If you talk in a panicked way, internally you'll pick up the emotion associated with that voice. Talking deeper and slower instils a sense of confidence, even if it is false. Definitely not a fix all, but I do think it's worth being aware of. ", "Learn how to m", "Keep yourself busy with the rush of everyday life. Don't allow yourself to stop and think about what you're thinking about.", "It is easy to criticise oneself - the reason is you see yourself both 'backstage' and 'onstage' so you know every little problem or ounce of doubt. You only see others when they are 'onstage', you don't see them when they are upset or down or hurt. So don't give yourself a hard time. \n\nFake it to make it will get a lot of mentions. That only works if you can genuinely adopt a mindset that says you don't give a shit. I like this mindset for being more confident, but don't lose your empathy. \n\nYour issue here, assuming it isn't making you have massive mental health issues, is a sign of a very well developed emotional intelligence - you are trying to understand what others are thinking. That is a good thing, it makes you a considerate person to be around. Just make sure you are being constructive and fair to yourself. \n\nFinal comment - elite athletes have an attitude of ignoring everything that they can't influence. You can influence how you act, so be the best version of yourself possible. But you can't influence how other think, so don't even worry about it.", "I used to do this all the time. I have vivid memories of walking to the library on my university campus and passing all sorts of young, ridiculously good looking, smart people and feeling completely inadequate. I'd worry that they were judging me for having greasy hair that day, or for not having a thigh gap, or because I felt fat and disgusting. This happened often, and I'd think myself into a spiral of self-loathing that could last for the rest of the day.\n\nOne day, I passed by a girl and started to feel very conscious about something or other ... but something in my mind switched. I realized that when I pass by another person, I thought about them for maybe one second before starting to think about myself again. I realized that the majority of people, like myself, probably spend a lot more time thinking about themselves than those around them. So why was I so worried about people judging me for walking down the street when realistically, the people I pass are wrapped up in their own little worlds?\n\nRealizing that everyone is a little bit self-centered in that sense has made me significantly less self-conscious in public. I challenge you to try it! Walk down a street and think about how long each person you pass registers in your mind before you've mentally moved on.\n\nIf you are thinking about these people and judging them for more than a few seconds, well, I think that's a totally different problem to address. But if you're just wrapped up in what other people are thinking about you - chances are they aren't. That's liberating to think about, really!" ]	[ 16, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to engage in conversation Hello,\n\nI'm a bit of a socially awkward person like most people and I would like to be able to engage in conversation with people I haven't met yet. The problem is.. I don't know how. I've worked in my company for a little over 2 years now and there's people in other departments that I know of, I have talked to them before, but more of a passing by conversation. Multiple times I have wanted to actually engage a conversation but I don't know how.\n\nIn the instance that the other person is the opposite sex, how do I engage conversation without being considered as flirty?\n\nThe people I directly work with I can talk to easily. Once I get to know someone, I am very open to conversation. I'll literally talk about any subject. Nothing offends me, nothing upsets me, etc. But getting to know people I don't necessarily need to know is hard for me, but I'd like to get to know new people.\n\nAny help and tips is appreciated. Thanks!", "How to engage in conversation Hello,\n\nI'm a bit of a socially awkward person like most people and I would like to be able to engage in conversation with people I haven't met yet. The problem is.. I don't know how. I've worked in my company for a little over 2 years now and there's people in other departments that I know of, I have talked to them before, but more of a passing by conversation. Multiple times I have wanted to actually engage a conversation but I don't know how.\n\nIn the instance that the other person is the opposite sex, how do I engage conversation without being considered as flirty?\n\nThe people I directly work with I can talk to easily. Once I get to know someone, I am very open to conversation. I'll literally talk about any subject. Nothing offends me, nothing upsets me, etc. But getting to know people I don't necessarily need to know is hard for me, but I'd like to get to know new people.\n\nAny help and tips is appreciated. Thanks!" ]	[ "how about the direct approach? Example: \"I'd enjoy having a conversation with you but I'm not sure how to start. By the way, my name is X. I work in the Y department...\"\nOne thing though: The longer one lives, the more people have their own \"circle\" of friends, family, and co-workers. Real friendships take investment and there just isn't space for too many of those...", "Remember, the person you are talking to may be hit as socially awkward as you. Does that make it better or worse? " ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep.", "Tips for sleeping better I place a towel over my eyes and forehead to act as a blindfold / blanket for the forehead. This falls off some time in the night and I wake up to natural sunlight. Looking for interesting tips or things you can buy to improve sleep." ]	[ "The problem with sleeping tips is that you need to know specifically why you aren't sleeping. \n\nFor example;\n\nSome people cannot sleep because they are simply uncomfortable. If this is the case a few things to consider are:\n\nIs my mattress adequate for my comfort? \nDo I like how my bed is positioned in my room? \nIs my pillow too soft/hard/big/small? \nIs my blanket too warm/am I too cold? \n\nYou can ask yourself these questions and perhaps consider changing a few things up to cater better to your needs. \n\nFor some people they can't sleep because of 'insomnia.' So you can observe your thinking habits/emotions/lifestyle choices and ask yourself:\n\nAm I anxious about something? (For example an important meeting or writing a test) \nDo I have racing thoughts at night before I sleep? \nAm I too stressed to sleep? \nDo I have a habit of drinking coffee in the evening? \nDo I overeat before bed? \n\nFor things such as these it's important to look at your overall lifestyle choices and stress management.\nI won't go too deep into this but a moderate level of exercise (such as going for a walk or maybe riding a bike) before sleep works well on mitigating stress and may help you sleep better over time. Mindfulness plays an important part when anxiety is in the mix but again this subject needs to be explored deeper.\n\nHonestly speaking, things like 'tracking apps' or 'sleeping devices,' are mainly gimmicks. For some people they may work, and that's great, however I wouldn't invest too much money on these things. Instead put your money towards a mattress/pillow that you're comfortable with. \n\nIf you really want you can drink herbal tea or valerian root before bed. Just remember that 'herbal' teas marketed for sleeping may calm your nerves a little, but it's not some sort of medication that'll make you pass out or anything. \n\nOne last thing, contrast showers are much better before bed than simply taking a hot shower. By this I mean you can shower in hot water, but before you get out rinse yourself in cold water. Like try to go as cold as possible. At first it'll wake you up and it may seem counterintuitive, however, contrast showers have a calming effect much higher than simply taking a warm shower. \n\nSorry for the long post! \n\n~and remember if you're not sleeping as much as you want, don't worry, our bodies are capable to withstand sleep deprivation even if it doesn't feel that good! Good luck ", "Make sure you follow a schedule, unless your work prohibits it, the best way I find to get a good nights sleep is to always wake up at the same time", "Ear plugs! I've been using them every night for the past four or five years. I'm a very light sleeper and just the sound of a car passing past my house would wake me up. Wearing earplugs has helped me sleep though the night. It also helps train my brain to realize that when I put them in, it's time for bed. ", "Stay away from your bed until it's time to sleep. Doing this will condition your brain to realise that bed = sleep.", "So I used to be a horrible sleeper, after some googling many years ago I found this.\n\nCount from 1-50. In between each number chant \"I am sleeping\" in your head.. sounds easy and won't work but the hard part is laying on your back with your arms by your side every time you move you have to start back at one, it's hard to stay still at first. You get weird itches and almost feel like you have to move, try as hard as you can to stay still but eventually you will move and start back at one.\n\nIve never gotten to 50 using this method \n\nNow I sleep straight away any time I want. \n\n\n\n", "Sleep Hygiene!! It's one of the first things docs will recommend when someone is suffering from insomnia (early, middle, or late version)\nSome tips include: \n\n* Limiting daytime naps to 30 minutes. \n\n* Avoiding stimulants such as caffeine and nicotine close to bedtime. \n* Exercising to promote good quality sleep. \n* Steering clear of food that can be disruptive right before sleep [Heavy or rich foods, fatty or fried meals, spicy dishes, citrus fruits, and carbonated drinks].\n* Ensuring adequate exposure to natural light. \n* Establishing a regular relaxing bedtime routine.\n* Making sure that the sleep environment is pleasant.", "It sounds like you could use a sleep mask. It would so the same thing as the blanket does but it won't fall off you head because it has an elastic band. It was also only cover your eyes rather than your whole head. They are inexpensive and I think they might be exactly what you need. \n\nTL;DR Get a sleeping mask" ]	[ 11, 5, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Making toilet flush correctly without a plumber I've tried plunging and drain opener, multiple times, but it still takes multiple flushes to clear the bowl. This is gross and wastes a lot of water. I'm guessing there's constriction somewhere down in the drain but I'll be damned if I know how to get at it. Anything I should try before I call a plumber or buy a drain auger?", "Making toilet flush correctly without a plumber I've tried plunging and drain opener, multiple times, but it still takes multiple flushes to clear the bowl. This is gross and wastes a lot of water. I'm guessing there's constriction somewhere down in the drain but I'll be damned if I know how to get at it. Anything I should try before I call a plumber or buy a drain auger?", "Making toilet flush correctly without a plumber I've tried plunging and drain opener, multiple times, but it still takes multiple flushes to clear the bowl. This is gross and wastes a lot of water. I'm guessing there's constriction somewhere down in the drain but I'll be damned if I know how to get at it. Anything I should try before I call a plumber or buy a drain auger?" ]	[ "Rent a snake. Cheap ones you can buy are not worth in most cases anyways. \n\nAre any other lines slow draining or just the one toilet? If it is just the toilet, be careful or you can scratch the hell out of the toilet with the snake. I would suggest taking the toilet off as it would give you better access to the drain without having to go through the toilets trap. Make sure to get a new wax ring if that is the case as you will ruin the old one taking the toilet off. They are cheap. \n\nIf other lines slow find the common junction and the nearest clean-out and snake from there. If it is your main it could be tree roots and in that case you would need a different snake or get a plumber out. \n\nRemember don't flush paper towels, baby wipes or other products like that. ", "How high is the water in the tank? You want it to be as high as possible (very close to the top of the ~1\" tube) for flushing power (potential energy from height), then to conserve water, but some kind of weights in there that won't obstruct water flow.", "Try using a ordinary bucket. Stand on a chair and pour it in, 10liter bucket should do the trick, rinse and repeat if that doesn't made the effect you were after. That's at least what I learned while working with a \"Vacuum truck\"." ]	[ 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires", "Make bald tires last longer I absolutely need new tires. 3 of 4 are pretty bald. I’ve slept in my car in my job’s parking lot because it was raining when I got off and I was too nervous to drive home. \n\nHowever tires are expensive. I can’t find anywhere that’ll charge me less than $350 for tires. I’m already living paycheck to paycheck with only $80ish left once I pay my bills & that always goes to gas and food \n\nIs there a way to stretch out the lifetime of my bald tires or should I just suck it up & refuse to exist when it rains until I can get new tires" ]	[ "There are usually small shops around where they sell used tires for like 15- 30 bucks. Won't last forever, but will get you by for a few months.", "Tires that are bald are dangerous and should be replaced asap. That being said, to minimize wear on tires that are already worn, you can make sure tires are inflated properly, accelerate and brake gradually, take corners slowly, avoid driving at higher speeds, and keep loads to a minimum.", "You can buy used tires. If yours are bald, used tires would be an upgrade.\n\nFigure out what size tires you need, then call or drive into local \"mom and pop\" tire or transmission shops. Tell them you situation and the size of your tires, you could get 4 \"new\" ones for \\~$120.", "Glad everyone here has the advantage to just get tires right now or take public transportation. OP slept in the car because it was raining. Knows full well it is dangerous is asking for constrictive ideas. Now public transportation may be an alternative. But posting again and again it's dangerous to you and others is not helping.", "RE-TREADS. They glue new grip on bald tires. \nI rocked a few sets back in my teens. They're obviously not as good as new, but better than bald. \n\nI'm in Australia, think they cost around $80 for 4 at the time.", "I wish I had a tip for you. Call a tire repair shop and explain your issue. They may have some cast-off that are safer than what you have for free or DEEPLY discounted price. They also have financing, I know it's hard to put in your budget but if your car is your lifeline you should take excellent care of it to make it last as long as possible.", "You have to figure out a reasonable solution otherwise your vehicle is a danger to yourself and others on the road. As others mentioned there is a used tire market that you should definitely look into. Also, there are shops that have their own type of financing that can be quite reasonable, maybe even 0% with a down payment and monthly payment.", "Used tires. When I was a teenager I went through a lot of tires. I'd just go hunting in the tire piles behind garages and find them 1 by 1. Some shops slash the sidewalls though, dicks.", "I buy them for around 35-40 per tire on eBay and then have them installed locally. Super cheap if you just do 2 at a time", "Here in Norway you would be fined and revoked of your license if you drive that vehicle. Should definitely get it fixed, nothing is more important than your safety.", "Good luck! “Pretty bald” is kind of vague…if the cables are showing that is too bald. Agree with the person advising proper inflation and driving SLOWLY. No getting on the freeway. I have driven a lot on not-optimal tires, lots of people do (if you start looking at other cars’ tires you’ll know you’re in good company). Would your employer give you an advance for used tires and let you pay it back over time?", "You are literally risking everyone’s lives around you. You can lose control in dry roads as well. Worse yet you are risking a blowout which is very sudden and very easily cause a wreck. Used tires are a thing, you can check junk yards as well for cars that are totaled but the tires are good. Either way you need to do something NOW before it costs you more later.", "If your cr" ]	[ 20, 12, 8, 7, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1 ]	safe
[ "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)", "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)", "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)", "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)", "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)", "Waking up without drinking coffee I've tried to have some coffee but I do not like the taste or the smell. It's just not what I like.\n\nAny suggestions would be great :)" ]	[ "Go to bed at the same time everyday ( within an half an hour), and try to wake up whenever your alarm goes off. Doing some Sun Salutations ( yoga) also helps get your muscles going and your blood flowing. Listening to music that makes you smile also helps.\n\nBlack tea ( earl grey or English breakfast) also has very good amount of caffeine and is easier to drink with some honey and a splash of milk. ", "Go to bed 1h earlier and wake up 1h earlier. Will give you all the time you need to wake up and increase productivity/capacity and willingness to learn. \nUse programs like F.lux on computer/cell phones. \nHaving trouble waking up means lack of proper sleep, its not \"normal\". \n\n\nDrink 1 glass of water, do some crunches and pushups. \nAlternatively if you want caffeine, you can buy caffeine pills. ", "Get into a morning routine, like standing outside for a second or taking a cold drink. It will train your brain to know that it's time to wake up. ", "GREEN APPLES! I swear by them, very tart in the mornings but leave you focused and ready for the absolutely anything. ", "Brushing your teeth first thing in the morning works very well. I read that somewhere and it actually seems to do the job!", "A warm/hot shower. NOT cold. Warm shower will open pores, and get the blood flowing throughout your body. Cold showers will \"shock\" you and make you feel awake while you're cold, but it closes pores and constricts blood vessels in the skin. When you recover from the cold shower, you'll feel more tired.\n\nComplex carbs + protein for breakfast. Avoid fats. Also don't overeat -- you'll draw a lot of blood to your stomach and away from brain, making you feel tired and lethargic. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I remove ironing marks from shirts? After ironing, these marks endup on my shirts, probably due to a very heavy iron or extra pressure. Is there a way to get rid of these marks?\nImage of shirt:\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6jp01.jpg", "How do I remove ironing marks from shirts? After ironing, these marks endup on my shirts, probably due to a very heavy iron or extra pressure. Is there a way to get rid of these marks?\nImage of shirt:\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6jp01.jpg" ]	[ "I've been waiting for working at a dry cleaner's to be of any use in the outside world. I guess this is my moment to shine. If possible turn the heat down on your iron before doing the button area next time if not put a dry wash cloth between the iron and shirt and use lots of steam. Use a bit of water and blow it out with air duster. If that doesn't work you may have to use more pressure and scrub or rewash the shirts. I also find that more than any other shirts gap and old navy make those marks or don't iron out correctly. Good luck hope that helps. ", "I never iron! I bought a Conair steamer from Kohls for $20. It's so much faster and there is no more ironing board and no more iron marks!" ]	[ 16, 6 ]	safe
[ "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n", "As a voting citizen of the US, what should I do (day to day/every once in a while/before an election) to make sure that I am an educated voter? I feel really lost when it comes to candidates and policy issues. I have opinions on some things, but on others I feel like I just don't know enough (and I also don't know which candidates support what, etc.) Last election was the first time I was eligible to vote, and I abstained just because I didn't feel like I knew enough to make an educated contribution. How should I be preparing myself now? Are there resources for people that don't have time to be constantly researching this stuff? \n\n" ]	[ "Listen to talk radio and watch Fox News for a day, then listen to NPR and watch CNN the next. Keep bouncing back and forth.\n\nRead content from both sides. You'll eventually sniff out which side is lying to you. And they ARE lying to you, consistently.", "Listen to NPR the car, have Drudge open in a tab all day, and check Google News three times a day. Never watch cable news, never read a national newpaper's ", "http://www.isidewith.com/political-quiz\n\nTells you which candidate's views most closely match your own.", "Read about the issues and candidates. You can check out http://votesmart.org/. It's the top of the list when I googled \"politcal voting history\". It gives the voting history of people already in office. \nYou can try politicalcompass.org. It gives you a bunch of questions and tells you where you stand politically. And you don't have to give an email address to get the results. And it's not like those Facebook quizes that ask you your favorite color. It's actually meaningful questions. \nOnce you know where you stand on the issues you can start keeping up with the politicians in your area. You can also look up the different platforms of the parties. That'll give you a general idea on someone's views. \nAnd you don't have to vote for everything when you go to the polls. So if you feel really strongly about one person being elected governor over another and then you go to the polls and there's candidates for city or county judges in there that you know nothing about, you don't have to vote for any of them. I did that the last time I voted. Voted for the Governor and a few initiatives, but I had no clue who the people were running for Justice of the Peace, so I didn't vote for any of them.", "Pay attention to state and local races. There is a lot of research to be done on it, and it takes some effort, but it can really pay off as a lot of these local offices can personally affect you.\n\nA friend of mine blogs local political races in the Twin Cities (extremely thoroughly) and these are her research tips. No point in typing them out again.\n\nhttps://naomikritzer.wordpress.com/2014/11/05/methodology/", "National and statewide candidates are the easiest to find info for. It's the small local elections that prove more difficult. \nThe League of Women Voters often puts together guides for regional areas, describing candidates and local initiatives. They aim to be nonpartisan. While I've only ever used their print guides (available by contacting local office or sometimes found at community centers and/or libraries), they have a website - vote411.org -which is supposed to help you do the same (no experience with it yet). \nThat being said, you shouldn't rely upon just one source of information. Local newspapers will often cover the candidates' platforms and make recommendations based upon the ", "Listen to a podcast or radio show called Counterspin on Fridays. They put a reverse spin on the news that mainstream media have been lying about.", "In today's politics finding out who is funding a candidate gives you the best idea of what kind of things that candidate will support once in office. ", "I think the best thing you can do is to read. Don't read things from CNN or Fox because both media outlets primarily offer \"infotainment\" - content that I hardly consider to be news or unbiased. I would say CNN is better than Fox, but they're cut from the same cloth. \n\nListen to NPR, read as much as you can, decide what issues are important to you and read about which candidates and/or parties have the best sounding plans to address those issues. I highly highly highly recommend reading international news sources (even from our northerly neighbor, Canada) to get added perspective on our issues and political system. Canadian and European news agencies tend to have excellent reporting. I am also a huge fan of Al Jazeera.", "You live in an oligarchy where the candidates are preselected from a political class. Your vote means nothing." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to keep posters from falling down? I keep sticky tackying them up, but they never seem to want to stay. I'm in a college dorm if that matters. Anyone figure out how to keep them up?", "how to keep posters from falling down? I keep sticky tackying them up, but they never seem to want to stay. I'm in a college dorm if that matters. Anyone figure out how to keep them up?", "how to keep posters from falling down? I keep sticky tackying them up, but they never seem to want to stay. I'm in a college dorm if that matters. Anyone figure out how to keep them up?", "how to keep posters from falling down? I keep sticky tackying them up, but they never seem to want to stay. I'm in a college dorm if that matters. Anyone figure out how to keep them up?" ]	[ "since you're in OK you probably won't find it in stores, but what you need to find is earthquake putty. it's meant to stabilize things like lamps, figurines, etc. from tipping over in an earthquake. it works quite well for holding up posters too, and comes off without any residue or marks.", "Add more sticky tack, or hang them with heavy duty painters tape that has a long life rating. Either the sticky tack is losing its \"stickyness\" due to humidity, or your poster is too heavy for it to hold up.", "Stride Doodleberry gum. You'll only need one piece, and it will make your room smell like Doodleberries (which I'm sure smell delicious).", "along the top make sure you have multiple points of contact (that is, not just the corners, but along the top edge).\n\nalong the side a bit wouldn't hurt too as it will take the stress off the top ones." ]	[ 6, 4, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)", "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)", "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)", "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)", "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)", "How do I shut the fuck up? I have a problem with talking about stuff I have a very small knowledge about and also when discussing i use arguments that don't quite fit into the topic. I've had this problem for a while and before going to psychologist I would like to read about it here on this sub.\n\nThank you all for all the advice, i truly appreciate it!\n\n(i used a swear in the title for some reason and now i can't change it, sorry for that)" ]	[ "This is a common problem.\n\n1. See a psychologist. Always a good idea.\n\n2. You are not exposing yourself to enough knowledge. Start reading as much as you can. Because well-read. Become more confident in yourself. How this helps: The more you know, the more you discover that you don't know. Then you will shut up in order to protect yourself from your own ignorance.\n\n3. Join Toast Masters. Learn how and when to share what you know. Get practice speaking on groups. \n\n4. You are not getting enough personal attention. Join a social club.Get some friends. Get a girlfriend. You need more personal validation. This particular habit means you are seeking validation. This habit is not the way to get it. \n\n5. Share as little as possible. Always leave them wanting more. \n\n6. Rather than talking, ask questions. Someone with a similar problem will start running off at the mouth. Watch them. Watch how the group starts to turn against them the longer they blabbering on. Don't say anything. Just watch it and be glad that you are developing the self-awareness to change.\n\nGood luck.", "Reduce your need to be valid, allow yourself to be wrong, or rather to be not very importantly considered in any instance. It can be sad to think of this idea but it can be humbling and when you do this it makes yourself feel way more whole and “correct” when you do have information that is relevant. This may also relate to how any person has an ego, and our importance as becoming goof people, to separate from our ego.", "I tell myself be an audience member. Or be an interviewer.\n\nIt's a valid way to participate in a conversation. It isn't a lesser role. The person who is playing the lead in conversation will enjoy it. Don't expect them to adhere to this \"rule\" though.", "I did this a lot until I realised I had ADHD - I'm not saying you have but it could be worth checking it out\n\nhttps://psychcentral.com/blog/8-strategies-for-navigating-common-conversation-stumbles-in-adhd#1", "Ask questions instead of make statements and keep an open mind. Assume everyone you talk to has something to teach you. Unless someone agrees to have a debate and both parties are willing to change their perspective based on new information, arguing is pretty much pointless and annoying", "Sometimes it's ok to just listen without piping in.\nIn the age of the internet we have this idea that we should have an opinion on everything.\nIt's okay to not have an opinion on something, especially if it's something that doesn't affect us." ]	[ 25, 9, 7, 7, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out.", "combat neighbor's smoke? I live in a duplex and the neighbors are heavy smokers. We've tried to mask the smell with candles and air fresheners but it only goes so far. Does anyone have any tips on how to fend off the smell of smoke?\n\nUnfortunately reasoning with them is out." ]	[ "The thing is, they have every right to smoke inside their own home no matter how much it bothers you. If they each smoke five packs a day, that's well within their rights. That being said, I had a similar problem with a neighbor in a rental situation. Her apt. was next door to mine and the smell infiltrated somehow. Our clothes (our closet shared part of a wall) smelled like stale cigarette smoke all the time. The bathroom smelled as did the bedroom. What we did was that we taped up everything we could: we sealed off the vent fan, ceiling light sockets, everything that was an opening in the adjoining wall or the ceiling. It made a huge difference. Maybe you could try that and see if you get a positive result.", "Are they smoking outside, and the smoke is coming in through a window? Or are they smoking inside their place and it's getting in to yours somehow?", "i am a big fan of the asking them politely if they wouldn't mind smoking about 50 feet away from the building because the smoke comes into your apartment method.\n\nand if/when that fails, sending a letter to the landlord/management or home owners association if they own.", "I believe there is supposed to be a firewall between duplex units. If cigarette smoke is penetrating the walls into your home, there probably isn't and I'd be looking at upping my home insurance.\n\nLook for any cracks in the plaster and seal them, along with all windows and doors.", "[Check out the Lampe Berger](http://www.lampeberger.ca/home)\n\nI've used one when smoking my pipe indoors, really eats the smoke and the smell. Only downside is they can sometimes burn fuel a little hard. ", "If it's a rental situation, contact your landlord because your living conditions are not up to par. If you own it, dunno what to tell you. ", "Go to a smoke shop in your area and find smoke-away. It is like a car pine-scent but works specifically for smoke. I've used it in my car and it smells great and really works quite well", "As a smoker, I sincerely apologize. This shit is absolutely disgusting. A lot of times I won't even smoke before going to eat with family or friends because I know it will stink.\n\nJust because we have the right to do it, doesn't mean we should.", "Try insulating wall foam, maybe? You squirt it between the walls and it expands to fill the void. That extra layer may really help. Sold at hardware stores.\n\n Also at hardware stores they sell cans of odor absorbers that you can stash around and replace every 30 days. Another option is a little harsher, but vinegar is known to remove smoke odors (car dealers use it in filters) so if you want to deodorize AND stink them out...... ", "In an apartment, I once lined the insides of the air vents with fabric softener sheets. The bonus side of this is that if you find they have tar all over them after a few days, you know which air vents are shared and can try sealing them off. \n\nThis seems like an issue an HVAC repairman might be helpful with.", "I put some white vinegar in bowls/glasses to get rid of the smell in fabrics such as curtains or furniture. \n\nShould work for you too!", "I hope you find out how it's getting through the wall and have the situation remedied (insulating foam or whatnot) - I'd be concerned that if I was able to inhale the smell, I would be inhaling some of the carcinogens that are in cigarette smoke, too. No bueno.", "Figure out where the smoke is infiltrating and use expanding foam to fill the voids. also, see if you share an attic and find a way to seal that as well. " ]	[ 10, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? ", "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? ", "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? ", "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? ", "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? ", "Anyone have an environment friendly alternative for using plastic bags in little trash cans like in your bathroom? " ]	[ "If you live in a state that still gives you plastic bags at the store those are perfect. Better to reuse than immediately throw out.", "Put the trash right into the bin, no bag.\n\nWhen it's time to take it out, dump it into your larger garbage. They are usually small enough that you could easily wash them when needed. \n\nAlso, get a second bin for recyclable materials. Paper wrappers and toilet paper tubes etc. ", "My mom uses the toilet paper packaging, which I think is brilliant :P it's a big plastic bag and you're gonna throw it away anyway", "You can use a paper bag just as easily! If you wanted to go the extra mile you could find recycled paper bags. ", "I use an empty beer cartons as a bin for non-food / bodily waste. If its for the bathroom, I re-use a woolworths / coles bags for the liner. \n\nCould just be i am a drunk, but I always have a couple empty cartons laying around. ", "Just use reusable shopping bags, so easy and they never rip while walking up 9 stories to your apartment." ]	[ 9, 3, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to handwash dishes that won't fit in your sink without making a mess and getting water everywhere. Now if you'll excuse me I need to go mop the liquid up from the floor for what feels like the twentieth time this week.", "How to handwash dishes that won't fit in your sink without making a mess and getting water everywhere. Now if you'll excuse me I need to go mop the liquid up from the floor for what feels like the twentieth time this week.", "How to handwash dishes that won't fit in your sink without making a mess and getting water everywhere. Now if you'll excuse me I need to go mop the liquid up from the floor for what feels like the twentieth time this week.", "How to handwash dishes that won't fit in your sink without making a mess and getting water everywhere. Now if you'll excuse me I need to go mop the liquid up from the floor for what feels like the twentieth time this week.", "How to handwash dishes that won't fit in your sink without making a mess and getting water everywhere. Now if you'll excuse me I need to go mop the liquid up from the floor for what feels like the twentieth time this week." ]	[ "For big pots and pans lay them on their side on the counter with the open \"mouth\" of the pan hanging ever so slightly over the side edge of your sink. . From here you can easily scrub out the pan with a soapy sponge as well as hose it out with the hand sprayer. Done right all of the water should empty into the sink basin and not onto your floor. Good luck. ", "They make handheld \"wands\" with a scouring sponge on the end that you fill with dish soap. The soap is automatically dispensed through the sponge when you use it. Just wet the sponge with hot water and start scrubbing. This is what I got for my son to use when doing dishes. Cuts down on the mess and allows him to use hotter water without burning himself. They are really cheap and you can replace the sponge on the end when they get worn out too.", "My laundry sink is bigger and deeper. Try that or the bath tub, what are you trying to wash, a tray or saucepan? ", "Don't fill the sink too high, slow down and be gentle, don't turn the water on full blast when you're rinsing the dishes off.", "I am so unhelpful, and I apologise in advance.\n\nDon't have/use dishes too big to fit in your sink.\n\nI am sort of more of a minimalist, so I tend to feel that getting stuff that's easier to maintain is better in the long run.\n\nOkay I'm done with irrelevance now." ]	[ 2, 1, 0, 0, -5 ]	safe
[ "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. ", "Letting things go. I always seem to have a hard time just \"letting things go\". Any little thing can set me off or put my in a bad mood. Sometimes it will last a few minutes, other times a few hours. I always know I shouldn't let it get to me because it is always mundane things which matter little. What advise would you give someone in my situation in order to work on this issue? I need help. " ]	[ "http://www.amazon.com/Full-Catastrophe-Living-Wisdom-Illness/dp/0385303122/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8\n\nThis book helped me a lot. Through m", "This was me on my way home from work. Thanks to my stupid human coworkers. I talked to my SO but i still didn't feel relief. I told myself it shouldn't bother me, but it did. I shed a few tears. But as soon as we got home, we got busy cooking dinner and browsed reddit for some laughs. I forgot about my day for a bit. Right now it doesn't bother me as much so i am hoping tomorrow i will wake up free from my frustrations. Keep your thoughts busy. Mental distractions help. ", "PART ONE: Basically, something has set off your defensive systems. So what do you do? My explanation isn't scientific, just a metaphoric way to think about it: Imagine that a doctor had just given you a shot of adrenaline. Could you make the FEELING of being all ramped up go away instantly? No. Can you change the way you ACT? Yes, if you knew it was \"not the real you\" you would have an easier time controlling your response to your defensive feelings and behaving in a more reasonable way.\nPART TWO: Later, when you are calm, can you think back to the very first thing that made you start to feel defensive? It might not be the bad driver in front of you; it might actually have been ten minutes before that in the grocery store when someone cut in front of you in line, which bugged you but you ignored it (or so you thought, but the annoyance may have begun building then). If you can start to \"catch\" the earliest, smallest triggers, you have a better chance of chance of calming yourself down (five deep slow relaxed breaths, think of a happy place, etc.) before your full defensive system has turned fully on and has taken over your body and brains!\n\nSource: my life experiences", "I try to distract myself by trying to figure out how much time has past since the event occurred. Years, months, days, hours, seconds. The further you go, the more you've distracted yourself from thinking about the actual event.\n\nAlso, you could try writing things down as if it were a story. It helps put things in perspective.", "I feel the same way about myself and any time I find myself worrying about the \"little things\" I just keep telling myself over and over how stupid it is or how much better other things are that actually matter. Im not sure if that makes sense but just try to surround yourself by friendly people and stay busy. Just keep telling yourself \"is this really worth putting myself in a bad mood?\" Hopefully that will put you in a better mood. ", "Firstly I feel the same as you do. Little things can annoy me and put me in bad moods; Sarcastic comments etc. Number one thing don't take it out on those around you...they have done nothing wrong and this will just put them in a bad mood...so it's not a good thing to do!\n\nFind a hobby, something that clears your head. Whether it be walking (personally helps me..leave the house and go for a quiet 30 min walk), play video games....talk to someone about it! (If i've had a bad day...I talk to my gf and she is very empathetic so it helps). Sometimes it's just not worth getting worked up over tbh! :)\nHope this helps....Byeeee :)", "As I grow older, now close to 30, my mistakes still occur but I have almost total forgiveness instantly when I make them. You can't dwell on mistakes as time is a gift. Learn and move on as quickly as possible." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?", "How to politely stop people calling you by a name/nickname you dislike? I'm hesitant to even ask this, because I remember a while ago there was an LPT advising people not to shorten someone's name without asking them and a lot of people seemed to take offense to that advice.\n\nNevertheless: I have a long or \"difficult\" name that one can make several different diminutives out of, and I really dislike one of them for strong reasons. For example, suppose my name is Dolores and I'm perfectly fine being called Dolores, Dolly, or Lori, but despise Lolita because it has strong negative emotional associations from my past. I know it's probably silly and inconsequential but it honestly really bothers me. \n\nWhat is the best way to politely correct people/get them to stop using the name I dislike without coming off as really uptight or unpleasant?" ]	[ "\"Hey fckface, yeah that's what I called you. Do you like that? No, I didn't think so. How about you don't call me Billy and I won't call you f•ckface anymore huh? My name is Bill @sshole.\"", "It's your fucking name. It's not inconsequential to not want to be called by a name that you don't like. If someone calls you it, you just say \"Please, I prefer to be called Dolores/Dolly/Lori.\" If they're a normal functioning human, the response should be \"Oh sorry about that then.\" Anything else, you have a right to be unpleasant about it.", "Don't respond when they use the nickname. \n\nWhen they ask why you're not responding say something like, \"oh were you talking to me? My name Xxxxx, not xxx\". ", "Good luck. There are two people, both of whom have known me for a long time, who still consider it adorable* to use a childish diminutive of my name (a name I don't like anyhow, but the nickname is much worse). Despite polite requests and assertions, they find my reaction to be so precious that it seems only to encourage them. Fortunately, they are not people I interact with often, as I find this sort of social tone-deafness to be really grinding.", "1. Don't respond to the nickname in any way. Don't answer to it, don't get mad, don't say a word. Just ignore anyone that uses it.\n\n2. If you are present when someone introduces you to someone as Lolita, you need to interrupt and say \"It's Dolores, actually.\" and give the person that introduced you as Lolita a dirty look that the new person sees, followed by a private bitching.\n\n3. If someone says they were told to call you Lolita, say \"It's Dolores, actually. Don't call me Lolita. Period.\" and follow it up by privately bitching out the person that told them.", "I have a name that came be shortened. It was when I was a child, I have so much trauma associated with the shortened version on my name. I refuses to let anyone call me that, only 2 people are allowed to use it. I will quickly correct them. If you introduce yourself as your name and they shorten it you have all right to correct them. It's not being rude. \n\n", "\"Please. Call me Mister Mills.\"\n\nAs I've gotten older, I have come to dislike being called by my first name by people I barely know or people younger than I.", "Step 1: explain to said group that the name you'd like to be called is \"____\" and you really don't like being called the shortened version. \n\nStep 2: wait and see who listens to your directions\n\nStep 3: if people still call you by your nickname, you may want to consider their motive behind the nickname (is it that they like poking fun at you? Did they honestly forget your directions? If your gut thinks it's the latter, remind them you don't like it. If it's the former, the issue isn't on you it's on them for disrespecting you)", "I knew a guy named Rasti and I liked to call him Rusty. One day he just got really mad and said \"do I look fucking rusty to you???\" so after that I got the message and stopped. ", "Option 1) glare with your most Hannah Lector glare and insist your name is 'x' \n\nOption 2) refer to them as 'dickhead' and nothing else until they quit. \n\nOption 3) politely request they use your actual name whilst employing aforementioned glare. \n\nOne of these generally do it, but if not, refer to above comment regards high fiving with bricks. ", "Just say something casual like \"Hey, can you call me Lori, I don't really like that name\" and give it a bit of a laugh if you want", "It feels awkward at first, but honestly it's awkward for them too (you are worried about having to correct them and they are worried about you being upset) and one time will be very effective with almost everyone. It's your right to be called what you want! It will catch on pretty quickly. Make sure you are consistent in introducing yourself as such, too. If someone says \"this is my friend Lolita\" you can politely smile, shake their hand and say \"Dolores/Lolly, actually.\" The new person will get it and the person who introduced you will catch on. \nYou can also individually talk to the people who use it the most - it might be less awkward to say \"Hey, I really don't like Lolita, I prefer to be called Dolores\" at a time where they haven't called you that. It depends on the person, too. For some you may feel more comfortable waiting until they say your name and for others you may be able to do the latter and address it at a time that isn't a correction but more of a simple request. ", "Interpersonal conflicts beyond one time oops things happen for two reasons: someone is an asshole or someone is an idiot. Resolving interpersonal conflicts always has three steps.\n\n1. Make sure that you're not the asshole or the idiot. For example, are you sure you're not getting their name wrong?\n\n2. Ask them politely to stop and when you do give them your full attention and make it a conversation that interrupts whatever else is going on (within reason) and dig into why they keep calling you that. You've likely been on the other side of this lecture when your parents kept asking you why you failed that one class. (It's the \"what made you think that was a good idea\" lecture.) If they stop after a few times of this then they're just an idiot and they needed help remembering.\n\n3. If they escalate, you know that they're doing it because they're an asshole and it's time to call for help. If it's school, call a teacher or a counselor or the principal. If it's work you call your manager, their manager, or HR. If it's neither, find a way to be not anywhere near that person. ", "\"I prefer to be called ___\" \n\nI really don't know why so many things that are so simple are so hard for redditors." ]	[ 34, 17, 10, 7, 7, 6, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop exaggerating/stretching the truth I have a bad habit of stretching the truth and exaggerating. It has taken its tole on my relationships and I want to quit. Anybody have any tips or tricks to stop? Its an unconscience habit I have. ", "How to stop exaggerating/stretching the truth I have a bad habit of stretching the truth and exaggerating. It has taken its tole on my relationships and I want to quit. Anybody have any tips or tricks to stop? Its an unconscience habit I have. ", "How to stop exaggerating/stretching the truth I have a bad habit of stretching the truth and exaggerating. It has taken its tole on my relationships and I want to quit. Anybody have any tips or tricks to stop? Its an unconscience habit I have. " ]	[ "I guess it depends why you do this OP, for me it came from believing I wasn't interesting and wanting people's attention. Pause before speaking, remind yourself that 1) you are interesting, and 2) you don't need everything you say to be riveting. Keeping this mantra in my head helped me to break the habit relatively quickly.", "Find a creative outlet. For two reasons - it'll help curb your imagination and make you more genuinely interesting, which I'm assuming is why you exaggerate in the first place?", "Either exaggerate it so wildly that no one takes it seriously (you'll seem funny), or correct yourself verbally when you notice it. Eventually the shame will get you out of the habit." ]	[ 5, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Remove water between two panes of glass. I moved in to an apartment and there is condensed water between the two panels of glass that make up a sliding door. Makes it hard to see out of the door, and over all just looks bad. Maybe ill throw some rice in there and fix it like a wet cell phone haha.", "Remove water between two panes of glass. I moved in to an apartment and there is condensed water between the two panels of glass that make up a sliding door. Makes it hard to see out of the door, and over all just looks bad. Maybe ill throw some rice in there and fix it like a wet cell phone haha.", "Remove water between two panes of glass. I moved in to an apartment and there is condensed water between the two panels of glass that make up a sliding door. Makes it hard to see out of the door, and over all just looks bad. Maybe ill throw some rice in there and fix it like a wet cell phone haha." ]	[ "Unfortunately there's nothing that's truly effective to be done, especially for a door that'll see further stress from use. If breaking the glass isn't a big worry (big if), then you could remove one side of glass by removing the seal on a low humidity day and use a hair dryer to really dry it out, then toss a dozen of those \"do not eat\" desiccant packs that are found in most packaged goods that have electronics. The packs absorb humidity better than the rice, at least a little, Then the task of somehow sealing the glass back up and trimming it out in a manner that won't break under normal use...\n\nTL:DR- best bet is to replace the door.", "You can reduce the effect of the condensed water by simply running a hair dryer at the place where the condensation is. You may need to duct tape it to a ladder or something as it takes awhile for the water to disappear. This is at best a temporary fix as the seal on the double pane glass has failed. Do not do this if the temperature is really cold. It could crack the glass. Otherwise, you'll see it slowly disappear in a radius out from the center of the air stream. To be clear, the dryer is pointing at the glass, from outside the pane, most likely on the inside of the apartment.", "Once the seal is broken and the air, argon, or krypton gas is released, you can't reseal it. It needs to be replaced.\n\nDouble- or triple-pane insulated glass units are easy to replace if you have the tools and patience to do it yourself. Many glass and window contractors/installers will sell you insulated units if you're willing to replace them, including tempered or laminated safety IG units. \n\n[This video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQ-_bm3QeeI) is a pretty good tutorial on how simple it is to replace an IG Unit with the right tools." ]	[ 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Damaged Debit/Credit Cards The magnetic strip on my debit card got scratched at some point and now won't scan when I try to use it. I've got a new one on the way, but I still need to use the one I have for the week or so it will take the new one to get here. Any ideas?", "Damaged Debit/Credit Cards The magnetic strip on my debit card got scratched at some point and now won't scan when I try to use it. I've got a new one on the way, but I still need to use the one I have for the week or so it will take the new one to get here. Any ideas?", "Damaged Debit/Credit Cards The magnetic strip on my debit card got scratched at some point and now won't scan when I try to use it. I've got a new one on the way, but I still need to use the one I have for the week or so it will take the new one to get here. Any ideas?", "Damaged Debit/Credit Cards The magnetic strip on my debit card got scratched at some point and now won't scan when I try to use it. I've got a new one on the way, but I still need to use the one I have for the week or so it will take the new one to get here. Any ideas?", "Damaged Debit/Credit Cards The magnetic strip on my debit card got scratched at some point and now won't scan when I try to use it. I've got a new one on the way, but I still need to use the one I have for the week or so it will take the new one to get here. Any ideas?" ]	[ "When I worked at jack in the box, we'd take a piece of the receipt paper, cover it over the magnetic strip, and then swipe it. It'd work every time ", "If you live near one of your banks branches you can just walk in and get a temporary card while your new one is on its way. \n", "I use to put a layer of clear plastic tape along the mag strip and the chip (it the card is equipped with it). Gives the card a longer lifetime and also works on torn down strips (as long as the strip is not completely dead)", "Cashiers can type in cr", "A cr" ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to help someone move on from their ex? I'm in love with this girl, and she likes me too. However, she told me to give her time as she still can't move on from her recent break up. How can I, as someone who will do anything for her, help her to make the process faster? I really care for her.", "How to help someone move on from their ex? I'm in love with this girl, and she likes me too. However, she told me to give her time as she still can't move on from her recent break up. How can I, as someone who will do anything for her, help her to make the process faster? I really care for her.", "How to help someone move on from their ex? I'm in love with this girl, and she likes me too. However, she told me to give her time as she still can't move on from her recent break up. How can I, as someone who will do anything for her, help her to make the process faster? I really care for her.", "How to help someone move on from their ex? I'm in love with this girl, and she likes me too. However, she told me to give her time as she still can't move on from her recent break up. How can I, as someone who will do anything for her, help her to make the process faster? I really care for her." ]	[ "She's clearly said that she's not ready for a new relationship, and it's unfair of you to push her to move on at an exp", "You should definitely take a step back, she needs time to process what has happened. If you really do care for her you'll leave her be for a bit. Don't pester her, because things need to happen at the right time, not just with the right person. I've been in this situation from her perspective and can say she probably feels under pressure from you to get over, or to make a decision. Relationships shouldn't start on these sorts of terms. \n\nAlternatively it could be that her 'needing time' is a polite way of saying she doesn't want you, as much as that sucks. ", "Kidnap her and make her put the lotion on her skin or she'll get the hose again.\n\nBut for real, she told you what to do, if you cared about her you'd respect her request and let her be.", "If you want the chance to be with her later and beyond long term you should back off now. You're too early right now to be the one for her. You may be the one to help her get over her ex but then she'll move on from you. Besides that you owe it to yourself to be in a relationship with a whole person. You're not a therapist are you?" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Waking up in the morning I keep sleeping through my alarm (and have no memory of turning it off) and I keep missing class. Any tips on how to make sure this doesn't happen?", "Waking up in the morning I keep sleeping through my alarm (and have no memory of turning it off) and I keep missing class. Any tips on how to make sure this doesn't happen?" ]	[ "Get enough sleep. Stop snoozing. Get enough sleep. Put your alarm clock across the room. Get enough sleep. Schedule something fun to do in the morning so you want to get out of bed. Get enough sleep.\n\nAlso, make it a point to wake up when the alarm first goes off for 2-3 weeks straight. It will become a habit then. ", "Multiple alarms and set your alarm clock across the room so you have to physically stand up to turn it off" ]	[ 3, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to mentally change gears more easily? I have a serious problem where once I start doing something, it is very hard for me to shift onto doing something else. I've been like this for as long as I can remember. It is so unnatural and uncomfortable for me to not only multi task, but even simply to change tasks.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nIt's almost like my brain is on a train with fixed tracks, and I can't control what I'm focused on. It can be cleaning a room, writing code, researching products, listening to music, eating, engaging in conversation, or literally anything else. It doesn't even matter if I am enjoying the task or not, I'll still have great difficulty knowing when and how to stop. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nThe end result of this issue is that I am regularly late to things, very behind on things, deprived of sleep, needlessly stressed, disappointed in myself, disappointing others, or erratic in behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI have tried writing schedules and lists. They don't really help me. I feel as though this is a physical issue, that I am literally unable to stop doing a task, until exhaustion or until I hit a completely arbitrary ending point.\n\nAt night, I look at my schedule and feel like shit for not remotely following my schedule. I look at the day's to-do list, notice how little I actually accomplished today, and then I am mad at myself for not completing a very simple list that most other people could probably do in an hour.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI think the root of the issue, psychologically, is some fusion of perfectionism, OCD, and anxiety. That's fine and dandy to know, but identifying these disorders does not assist me in changing my behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nDoes anyone have any strategies they employ to mentally wind down from doing a certain thing, such that you can stop being so fixated at the task at hand (to the point that you cannot physically stop the task until you are forced to)?\n\nFiguratively speaking (and literally speaking, funnily enough), how can I teach myself to put one book down mid-chapter to jump to reading another, totally different book mid-chapter?", "How to mentally change gears more easily? I have a serious problem where once I start doing something, it is very hard for me to shift onto doing something else. I've been like this for as long as I can remember. It is so unnatural and uncomfortable for me to not only multi task, but even simply to change tasks.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nIt's almost like my brain is on a train with fixed tracks, and I can't control what I'm focused on. It can be cleaning a room, writing code, researching products, listening to music, eating, engaging in conversation, or literally anything else. It doesn't even matter if I am enjoying the task or not, I'll still have great difficulty knowing when and how to stop. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nThe end result of this issue is that I am regularly late to things, very behind on things, deprived of sleep, needlessly stressed, disappointed in myself, disappointing others, or erratic in behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI have tried writing schedules and lists. They don't really help me. I feel as though this is a physical issue, that I am literally unable to stop doing a task, until exhaustion or until I hit a completely arbitrary ending point.\n\nAt night, I look at my schedule and feel like shit for not remotely following my schedule. I look at the day's to-do list, notice how little I actually accomplished today, and then I am mad at myself for not completing a very simple list that most other people could probably do in an hour.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI think the root of the issue, psychologically, is some fusion of perfectionism, OCD, and anxiety. That's fine and dandy to know, but identifying these disorders does not assist me in changing my behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nDoes anyone have any strategies they employ to mentally wind down from doing a certain thing, such that you can stop being so fixated at the task at hand (to the point that you cannot physically stop the task until you are forced to)?\n\nFiguratively speaking (and literally speaking, funnily enough), how can I teach myself to put one book down mid-chapter to jump to reading another, totally different book mid-chapter?", "How to mentally change gears more easily? I have a serious problem where once I start doing something, it is very hard for me to shift onto doing something else. I've been like this for as long as I can remember. It is so unnatural and uncomfortable for me to not only multi task, but even simply to change tasks.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nIt's almost like my brain is on a train with fixed tracks, and I can't control what I'm focused on. It can be cleaning a room, writing code, researching products, listening to music, eating, engaging in conversation, or literally anything else. It doesn't even matter if I am enjoying the task or not, I'll still have great difficulty knowing when and how to stop. \n\n&nbsp;\n\nThe end result of this issue is that I am regularly late to things, very behind on things, deprived of sleep, needlessly stressed, disappointed in myself, disappointing others, or erratic in behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI have tried writing schedules and lists. They don't really help me. I feel as though this is a physical issue, that I am literally unable to stop doing a task, until exhaustion or until I hit a completely arbitrary ending point.\n\nAt night, I look at my schedule and feel like shit for not remotely following my schedule. I look at the day's to-do list, notice how little I actually accomplished today, and then I am mad at myself for not completing a very simple list that most other people could probably do in an hour.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nI think the root of the issue, psychologically, is some fusion of perfectionism, OCD, and anxiety. That's fine and dandy to know, but identifying these disorders does not assist me in changing my behavior.\n\n&nbsp;\n\nDoes anyone have any strategies they employ to mentally wind down from doing a certain thing, such that you can stop being so fixated at the task at hand (to the point that you cannot physically stop the task until you are forced to)?\n\nFiguratively speaking (and literally speaking, funnily enough), how can I teach myself to put one book down mid-chapter to jump to reading another, totally different book mid-chapter?" ]	[ "aspergers / autism? I have your changing focus problem. All I suggest is, if you know you need to start a task in 5 min, don't start another task to fill in those 5 min if you think you will then struggle to stop that task too. \n", "I used to be exactly the same.\n\nForce yourself to change activities pointlessly. It's horrible and my head was screaming at me at the time, but I'm glad I broke free of it.\n\nStart working on a problem then throw it away before you can finish it. Do this as often as you can, helps to deal with acceptance of bigger details. If you get used to change, pets, relatives and friends passing become easier. Working becomes easier, learning becomes easier", "I am not an expert on the subject, but why not read to the end of the chapter before switching to the other book? Also the first thing that came to mind was like a kitchen timer that you can set for the allocated time to a given task, then reset the timer and switch to another task?" ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well.", "how to sort laundry How to correctly sort laundry?\n\nHow do I wash white clothes, black clothes, colorful clothes, pillowcases, towels, and bedsheets? What can I put together and what should I separate? \n\nAny other laundry tips could be helpful as well." ]	[ "Darks together. Whites. Colours can be mixed - but best to keep reds separated. \n\nWash new stuff on its own first. Read the washing instruction labels.\n\nNote that “cold water” detergent doesn’t usually work as well as regular, and “cold water” will often really need to be warm - it’s always really cold where I am, and in winter, it’s really cold out of the tap.\n\nTowels can get stinky fast. Make sure you dry them as soon as they’re washed, and, perhaps more importantly, add some white vinegar - washing vinegar if you can get it - to the wash cycle.\n\nYou can add it to other clothes too, but it seems to be most important with towels.\n\nPretreat stubborn stains, oil and grease either with a laundry spray, or with your detergent, and leave that item in your machine and add to it to make a load. Use the normal dose of detergent on the marks, then don’t add any more to that load.\n\nUse less detergent than the directions say. If you run clean clothes through a rinse cycle, you’ll probably see suds. That means you’ve been using too much.\n\nI used Costco unscented Kirkland brand, about half of what they say.\n\nI try to avoid dryer sheets, but my wife uses them. They’re not great for you or the environment. I also avoid fabric softener- it’s greasy and gross.\n\nMake sure you clean the lint filter of the dryer before every use. Every time.\n\nIf you can get to the dryer vent outside, make sure that the flapper operates easily, and clean out what lint you can. Get the whole duct cleaned periodically if you can; dryer lint fires are common. There are panels you can remove on the dryer to clean out as well.", "Maybe since I’m a guy and I don’t care so much, I only separate things that get washed hot and warm. Sheets, towels and underwear get the inferno blast and the rest are a bouillabaisse of laundry.", "For red clothes, just wash them first on their own for a cycle or two then they should be good to mix in with everything else. Depends on the article of clothing, though.", "I've found you can wash just about anything on cold water setting. Unless it's hand wash only. \n\nJeans must be cold hand washed and line dried.", "Hot water: underwear, socks, sheets, towels\nCold water: shirts, pants, bras\n\nIf unsure, wash it in cold. If I have enough jeans\\pants\\shorts for a load I'll wash them separately from the shirts\\other cold stuff.", "Usually I do white first, then colored except for reds, then reds, then black. This way the colors wont rub off on other clothes. Also, if you have a new shirt/something that needs laundry, do them on a separate batch one by one since they will make the water color.", "Two categories: white things (mostly towels with some undershirts) that gets bleached, and everything else.", "Oh my god these people are doing too much.\n\nWhites alone\n\nTowels/Rags/Bedsheets/Pillowcases\n\nEverything else.\n\nWash everything on cold.", "Make yourself one of these\n\nhttps://youtu.be/KvesQzlFFoo\n\nHelps when you are putting away clean laundry.", "I use cold water for everything unless it's really filthy.\n\nJeans can be washed with towels, so can heavy cotton socks. Sheets should be alone mainly because smaller items get stuck to them and are lost till next time you use that sheet. Small lightweight items can go with pillow cases. \n\nBasically unless it's red, separate by weight and size.", "I sort by like colors or darks, lights and whites. Darks and lights in cold. Whites in hot. Nothing with elastic/spandex in the dryer.", "3 categories: lights, darks, and reds/pinks. The red can stain your light clothes pink if you wash them together. If it seems like it might be delicate, wash on cold and on a low agitation cycle if you can." ]	[ 7, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?", "How to be less exhausted in the mornings? I've really been struggling with waking up recently. Even if I muster the energy to climb out of bed, I'm wandering around like a complete zombie for about an hour. I hate the feeling of heaviness in my limbs and the constant yawning. Getting out of bed/my duvet is what I can only imagine babies feel when they are unwillingly forced out the womb. Some days I don't have any real responsibilities so I'll hit the alarm off and sleep in for another 3 hours, then feel insanely guilty for wasting the day. I'm a history student so I have a shit ton of reading and essays etc. but very few contact hours. It leaves me having to build my own routine. When faced with the choice of getting up to read or sleep its a no-brainer as to what tired-foxfunk will choose.\n\nI'm sure my depression doesn't help with mornings, but has anyone found any good tips on waking themselves up a bit?" ]	[ "I had te same problem as you. The biggest enemy in the morning is your inner self .. there is no tip or medicine that will change that, YOU have to change... but there are some ways/tips to get there.\n\nThe morning Ritual / Routine\n\n\nGet up 20 minutes earlier and always at the same time. First thing you do: Sit up in your bed, breath and strech arms, count to 5 and stand up. wash your eyes with water. Go grab 0.4L of water (PURE WATER NOTHING ELSE) drink it. Then try to set up a routine like shower, some easy sport, m", "I've been doing this routine about a year now. It's really easy to do and it wakes up your musculoskeletal and nervous system.\nhttps://youtu.be/Oxay1bgfIAs", "I started jogging in the mornings. It was a bitch to get in the habit of it, but once I did, it's been great. ", "If you are actually getting a decent amount of sleep ( a lot of people complain about how tired they are in the morning, and it turns out they were up all night playing games or drinking or whatever) and you are still that tired every morning, consider taking a sleep study. It's just one night (normally), and it can find or rule out any medical issues\n\nI was kind of the same. no matter how much sleep I got, I was wiped for at least part of the next day. I could work all day, but I'd fall asleep on the couch by 7PM that evening and sleep straight through the night. Between that, and The MIssus complaining about the snoring, I finally gave in and scheduled the sleep study. The results for me came back as basically \"Why are you not dead?\" because of my obstructive sleep apnea.\n\nNow, I sleep a lot better, and wake up actually refreshed. \n\nBut, the down side is since I am actually more awake, my job is so much more boring. I guess the half-awake tiredness made it a lot more stressful and/or exciting.", "Does anyone know what that \"1,5h sleep cycle method\" is called? Basically you set your alarm so you always wake up after 6h , 7,5 , 9 etc, which supposedly is after a number of completed sleep cycles or something like that.", "Bring this up at your next doctors appointment. I'm very serious. If there is something going on outside of your lifestyle, they will be a big help. Even if it's just telling you it's not a health problem. \n\nMaybe consider getting a sleep study. I did this and found out I wake up twice an hour. I had no idea this was happening. Subsequently I wasn't getting enough REM sleep. Saw a doctor, got some meds, sleep so much better. I even started dreaming again.\n\nOtherwise, everyone else who's posted so far seems to be right. Diet, exercise, sticking to your sleep schedule (even on the weekends). We're all getting older. Our bodies can't compensate for the things we used to be able to do.", "Stop having all that incredible sex the night before with your 10/10 smoking hot girlfriend/boyfriend.\n\nSorted.\n", "I've been working on a similar problem recently and found something that works for me.\n\nMy fitbit alarm wakes me up pretty gently at 8am, then I have 15 mins 'lie in' time to lie there, enjoying the coziness. Sometimes I switch on my bedside lamp to prevent me from falling asleep again, sometimes I drift off anyway, no biggie as I have my phone alarm set for 8:15. Then I have 15 mins 'wake up’ time. I have a silly fremium phone game which basically only consists of pressing a button but the combination of bright colours, jangly music and easy gameplay is PERFECT for waking me up, and I'm not tempted to stay in bed for ages to keep playing as it's only designed to be played in short bursts. My final alarm goes off at 8:30 and I'm ready to get up!\n\n", "When you wake up is extremely important. We actually sleep in approximately 90 minute sleep cycles where we move in and out of deep sleep. If you're alarm is going off in the middle of a sleep cycle, you're going to have a hard-ass time waking up and you'll feel quite groggy. You need to time your alarm to wake you up when you're entering a shallow period of a sleep cycle.\n\nYou can use a [calculator](http://sleepyti.me/) to approximate when you should be going to bed such that you get 5-6 good sleep cycles in.\n\nThere are some apps and [devices](https://hello.is/?gclid=Cj0KEQjwpZO_BRDym6K_nMye7cEBEiQAVA7RaMj-5VKMeLU0zdq15xSaexvNLZqTaRQbUOxfvIKjmNkaAiTt8P8HAQ) that supposedly monitor you while you're sleeping to know when it's best to actually wake you up. Have not tried these though, so they could be bullshit.", "Take a look at the Miracle Morning by Hal Elrood (sp?). He has great suggestions, similar to those made by ZagrashUchiha. Drink water, Wash face with clean water. Brush teeth. Drink coffee. Get 7 hours of sleep a night at least. Have a plan for how you'll use your time each morning. ", "My favorite author/podcaster Tim Ferriss used a constant glucometer while sleeping to find out his blood sugar was to blame for his terrible sleep, and fixed it by eating a tablespoon of unsweetened almond butter before bed.\n\nAlso, cold showers will wake you up super quick, and ice baths have the added benefit of combating depression. Again, via Tim Ferriss.\n\nI'd seriously look into his books and podcast, as I really wish I would have found them in college!!!! I'll answer any questions if you have them.", "If you're interested in taking an energy supplement of some kind, what I do is set my alarm for 30 minutes before I want to get up and take the supplement and then go back to sleep. when the energy kicks in, it wakes me up and I feel great. ", "Get some V8 energy drinks, set an alarm for 30min earlier than needed and quickly chug two of them before going back to sleep. \nThose drinks (via the green tea) give me energy like no other drink/supplement I've had, with no jitters and no getting really groggy later. \nIf you do this, just be sure to get breakfast/get food in your stomach when you're up. ", "turn off your TV, computer, tablet, and put down your phone (alarm on and in sleep mode) 9 hours before your alarm goes off.\n\nspend 30min reading a book by soft light, cleaning up, or other low stress things.\n\nlay down 8.5 hours before your alarm goes off.\n\nScreens are the fucking devil.", "routine, routine, routine. always try to eat around the same time, lay down in the bed at the same time, etc.\n\ndrink plenty of water during the daytime. don't eat after 7. turn off tv/computer/tablet/radio at least 20-30 minutes before laying down... at roughly the same time every night. \n\na little white noise.. think about relaxing the muscles in your toes, then your feet, then your legs, etc. \n\nyou'll start falling asleep at night and getting more restful sleep. that will make you more awake in the morning.\n\nthen, have a morning routine lined up for when you wake up. i run (former fat guy that got in to running and now lives by it) 3 days a week at 5 AM. the other two weekdays my brain is waking up at 5 and ready to go.\n\n", "i go to bed at 9 wake up at 4:45, snooze til 4:55, then immediately get up. the biggest problem is your self, you don't want to get up. also i think my best advice is in my experience not wanting to get up in the morning has related to my overall happiness. long story short if i am not happy i will not be motivated to get up and do stuff and work but also drink water when you wake up, stop drinking coffee", "https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PKfR6bAXr-c\nThis video has been very informative and helped boost energy for me. I started eating during a 9 hour window and fast for remaining 15. I sleep well and wake up refreshed. ", "When you wake up, get out of bed and wash your face with cold water right away before you even feel the urge to go back to sleep. The water will wake you up and if you get out of bed as soon as you wake up it will be easier than pull yourself out after hitting snooze 10 times.", "Try drinking water as soon as you wake up and try stretching in bed with all your might. Focus on your neck and back.", "That's because you're waking up right in the middle of your REM sleep cycle. Every morning I wake up at 5:45 and I make sure to always go to sleep at around 10. If I go to sleep at 9 or 9:30 I wake up right in the middle of my REM, which is much worse. \n\nThere are a ton of sources to calculate it, but if you do this you will wake up feeling more refreshed.", "I hear you. I'm in Canada and winter ... Is coming. Will probably join a gym too. They say it takes 6 weeks to form a habit ... So go easy on yourself! I figure if I show up the rest will fall into place. Every time I've started too large in the past - I ended up quitting. ", "I have the same issue. 3 weeks ago I started going for walks. Immediately after waking up - I get dressed and leave the house. At first it was just a walk around he block. And now I'm up to 40 minutes and attempting running (very slowly - I'm not a thin fit person) now if I skip a day of walking I notice how much more tired I am. Can't hurt to try? ", "I don't know why anybody is surprised that they have this problem. If you're super tired consistently in the mornings, chances are, it's because you're not getting enough sleep.\n\nThe easiest way to remedy this is to set up your sleep schedule so that you wake up on your own after a full nights sleep—not with an alarm. So if I have to go into work at 10am, I'll have a sleep schedule where I'm waking up at about 7 or 8am on my own, allowing me to have a few hours to dick around and get ready for work after a good night's sleep.\n\nAnd if you're in a situation where you're not getting enough sleep because, say, you're a busy college student who has to stay up late studying, well, join the club of every other college student who gives half a fuck about their grades. Pound the coffee (and perhaps adderall) as needed and nap when you can.\n\nIf you have to go nights where you'll only get 1.5–4.5 hours of sleep, you're going to feel tired the next day. There's not much you can do to avoid that. Just make sure you pay off that sleep debt when you get the chance and remind yourself that college isn't forever. It was tough for me and I spent countless nights studying my ass off while having to function and take exams the next day after 1.5–4.5 hours of sleep. I made it out alive! You can too.\n\nOne pro-tip for sleeping small amounts is to do it in 90 minute increments, as that's about the length of one sleep cycle. If you interrupt that cycle and sleep in other increments (say, 2 hours rather than 1.5 or 3), you're going to feel more tired.", "Going to sleep at the same time and waking up at the same time helps a lot. Also exercise, because like others said you will sleep harder and wake up feeling better. Also look into what you are eating. If you eat like shit, you will feel like shit. Healthy lifestyles are important for a reason.", "Get your iron levels checked...I thought my exhaustion was due to my depression but nope...chronically low iron", "Exercise during the day makes me sleep much better during the night. I don't sleep longer, but i feel more mentally well rested.\n\nAlso getting dressed as if you were going out to work/school, even if you are not might help productivity. ", "Cardio. Get your blood pumping. Jumping jacks are great for this.\n\nAvoid stimulants like caffeine. If your norm is being on stimulants, then you will have trouble in the morning because you're not taking them while you sleep.\n\nEvery night, find something to look forward to the next day. Even if it's small like, \"Aww yeah dude, that toasted bagel with cream cheese for breakfast is going to ROCK.\" This will help you be focus on something when you wake up rather than wanting to hit the snooze button or wandering.", "Exercising in the morning will alway out a spring in your step tho it's not the easiest to get going. Apples are a good food to wake you up, in theory they work better then coffee. " ]	[ 41, 21, 10, 9, 6, 6, 4, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Should I send more than a thank you card for a manager who made sure I got a job right before she retired? Essentially I've been eyeing this job at the hospital since I did my last practicum (January to April) at this unit. This unit is known for not giving out positions to new graduates and after some back and forth and A LOT of waiting during the summer, this manager sent me an email (yesterday) asking for dates I can orientate fully as an employee (not as a student) and signing me on that floor. I usually do hand written thank you cards but I feel like this manager went above and beyond and told me she wanted to get me settled in before she retires (in less than a week). Should I get a gift for her? And if so, I'm lost on what as I don't really know her privately. Wine? I think she drinks? Thanks for the advice. ", "Should I send more than a thank you card for a manager who made sure I got a job right before she retired? Essentially I've been eyeing this job at the hospital since I did my last practicum (January to April) at this unit. This unit is known for not giving out positions to new graduates and after some back and forth and A LOT of waiting during the summer, this manager sent me an email (yesterday) asking for dates I can orientate fully as an employee (not as a student) and signing me on that floor. I usually do hand written thank you cards but I feel like this manager went above and beyond and told me she wanted to get me settled in before she retires (in less than a week). Should I get a gift for her? And if so, I'm lost on what as I don't really know her privately. Wine? I think she drinks? Thanks for the advice. " ]	[ "Wine is fine. If she doesn't drink, she can give it to somebody else as a gift. A hand written card would probably be very appreciated, though.", "Depending on the work environment, it might not be appropriate to give anything more than a thank-you card. It would be unethical for someone to offer a position in hopes of receiving some \"gift\". If this person was behaving ethically, they're not expecting anything. The best gratitude in that case would be a thank you card. It might also be appropriate to follow up later (after you've held the position for some time) to let them know that you're still grateful to them. It would be a nice touch to let them know specifically how the new position is improving your quality of life and the lives of those around you. \n\n" ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Complaining to a boss about a coworker Basically, this guy is not a good fit. He's a contract employee, but has awful habits relating to hygiene and professionalism, and interacts poorly with our team. He has a sort of mentor-like relationship w a senior guy on our team, and I think the senior guy is going to bat for him hard, which is what's keeping him around.\n\nSince these aren't things that are immediately terminal offenses (stealing comes to mind), I'm not sure how to approach this.\n\nI've mentioned the hygiene habits to my boss already, and she revealed that she's heard this about him before. I don't want to be that guy that goes to the boss every day with a different complaint about this employee, but should I be?", "Complaining to a boss about a coworker Basically, this guy is not a good fit. He's a contract employee, but has awful habits relating to hygiene and professionalism, and interacts poorly with our team. He has a sort of mentor-like relationship w a senior guy on our team, and I think the senior guy is going to bat for him hard, which is what's keeping him around.\n\nSince these aren't things that are immediately terminal offenses (stealing comes to mind), I'm not sure how to approach this.\n\nI've mentioned the hygiene habits to my boss already, and she revealed that she's heard this about him before. I don't want to be that guy that goes to the boss every day with a different complaint about this employee, but should I be?", "Complaining to a boss about a coworker Basically, this guy is not a good fit. He's a contract employee, but has awful habits relating to hygiene and professionalism, and interacts poorly with our team. He has a sort of mentor-like relationship w a senior guy on our team, and I think the senior guy is going to bat for him hard, which is what's keeping him around.\n\nSince these aren't things that are immediately terminal offenses (stealing comes to mind), I'm not sure how to approach this.\n\nI've mentioned the hygiene habits to my boss already, and she revealed that she's heard this about him before. I don't want to be that guy that goes to the boss every day with a different complaint about this employee, but should I be?", "Complaining to a boss about a coworker Basically, this guy is not a good fit. He's a contract employee, but has awful habits relating to hygiene and professionalism, and interacts poorly with our team. He has a sort of mentor-like relationship w a senior guy on our team, and I think the senior guy is going to bat for him hard, which is what's keeping him around.\n\nSince these aren't things that are immediately terminal offenses (stealing comes to mind), I'm not sure how to approach this.\n\nI've mentioned the hygiene habits to my boss already, and she revealed that she's heard this about him before. I don't want to be that guy that goes to the boss every day with a different complaint about this employee, but should I be?" ]	[ "I've found that nothing ever comes of my complaints - even if they're legit and constructive. So, depending on your company's culture, it might not be a matter of \"how\" so much as if it's really even worth it in the first place. Complaining hasn't really improved my situation (it also hasn't negatively impacted it, either, though) and it mostly just ends up making me feel pessimistic. ", "The one thing I would ask myself is: Is this affecting my performance at work? If the answer is no, don't bother. If the answer is yes, then it is probably affecting others as well. \n\nStep one, try approaching the guy yourself first, preferably in an e-mail so that you have a paper-trail that you tried to remedy the problem yourself. Obviously be as professional and courteous as possible which may be difficult with a hygiene portion. Does the guy not bathe in general or does he do something specific like wear too much cologne? If the former, then I have no idea, but if the latter, then try mentioning that he may want to tone it down with body sprays as there may be people in the office with lung problems that could exacerbate their symptoms or something. \n\nStep two, if the behavior does not improve, then go to your boss or HR depending with the e-mails y'all have exchanged. It'll show that you tried to resolve the situation yourself, but you have been unsuccessful. ", "If you generally get along with most people and haven't complained before over a long history it's worth talking to your boss. We had someone similar at my office and after months of not speaking about it I finally brought it up. \n\nTurns out I wasn't the only one, like 3-4 other people had also spoken up and someone spoke to her about her behavior. She's slowly getting better", "Nobody wants to be that guy. At the risk of being a downvote magnet, I have been the manager at the receiving end of these sorts of complaints, about body odour or some such, and I've tried two approaches. 1) I pull the offender into my office and tell them their team mates think they need to fix their personal hygiene. 2) I tell the employees to get some balls and do it themselves for a change. I must say I prefer when people don't make their problems my problems, so get some balls and tell them that they have a problem. We're all human beings and have to live and work together, so be pleasant about it." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Mattress got peed on. Got the stain and smell out but now there’s detergent residue and baking soda spots left After a lifetime of bed wetting from a medical condition for almost six months in my apartment I had ZERO problems / accidents until Sunday.\n\nI’m supposed to move out tomorrow afternoon and am freaking out.\n\nI’m 26 and this was / is my first apartment. I found it on Airbnb and met the nice lady who owned it and continued renting it outside of Airbnb.\n\nI have to move out for a month while they do repairs.\n\nAnyway, The mattress protector was not as waterproof as I thought.\n\nI got the smell and stain out by mixing laundry detergent and warm water, pouring it on the spot, and then blotting it out with towels. \n\nAfter it was dry I then sprinkled baking soda on it for the smell and then lightly worked it in with a toothbrush \n\nIt still smelled a little pee-ish so I bought some fresh laundry scent Nature’s Miracle pet pee remover. That got rid of the smell completely.\n\nI’m now left with a dried light blue detergent residue / stain on one part of the spot and white spots of dried baking soda on the other half of the spot.\n\nThe mattress is a bluish white so from afar you can’t see it but when you look really up close you can. \n\nI don’t know what else to try. I read online to try vinegar but I’m scared that will leave a smell that can’t be hid.\n\nAny and all wisdom would be very, very appreciated 🥺", "Mattress got peed on. Got the stain and smell out but now there’s detergent residue and baking soda spots left After a lifetime of bed wetting from a medical condition for almost six months in my apartment I had ZERO problems / accidents until Sunday.\n\nI’m supposed to move out tomorrow afternoon and am freaking out.\n\nI’m 26 and this was / is my first apartment. I found it on Airbnb and met the nice lady who owned it and continued renting it outside of Airbnb.\n\nI have to move out for a month while they do repairs.\n\nAnyway, The mattress protector was not as waterproof as I thought.\n\nI got the smell and stain out by mixing laundry detergent and warm water, pouring it on the spot, and then blotting it out with towels. \n\nAfter it was dry I then sprinkled baking soda on it for the smell and then lightly worked it in with a toothbrush \n\nIt still smelled a little pee-ish so I bought some fresh laundry scent Nature’s Miracle pet pee remover. That got rid of the smell completely.\n\nI’m now left with a dried light blue detergent residue / stain on one part of the spot and white spots of dried baking soda on the other half of the spot.\n\nThe mattress is a bluish white so from afar you can’t see it but when you look really up close you can. \n\nI don’t know what else to try. I read online to try vinegar but I’m scared that will leave a smell that can’t be hid.\n\nAny and all wisdom would be very, very appreciated 🥺", "Mattress got peed on. Got the stain and smell out but now there’s detergent residue and baking soda spots left After a lifetime of bed wetting from a medical condition for almost six months in my apartment I had ZERO problems / accidents until Sunday.\n\nI’m supposed to move out tomorrow afternoon and am freaking out.\n\nI’m 26 and this was / is my first apartment. I found it on Airbnb and met the nice lady who owned it and continued renting it outside of Airbnb.\n\nI have to move out for a month while they do repairs.\n\nAnyway, The mattress protector was not as waterproof as I thought.\n\nI got the smell and stain out by mixing laundry detergent and warm water, pouring it on the spot, and then blotting it out with towels. \n\nAfter it was dry I then sprinkled baking soda on it for the smell and then lightly worked it in with a toothbrush \n\nIt still smelled a little pee-ish so I bought some fresh laundry scent Nature’s Miracle pet pee remover. That got rid of the smell completely.\n\nI’m now left with a dried light blue detergent residue / stain on one part of the spot and white spots of dried baking soda on the other half of the spot.\n\nThe mattress is a bluish white so from afar you can’t see it but when you look really up close you can. \n\nI don’t know what else to try. I read online to try vinegar but I’m scared that will leave a smell that can’t be hid.\n\nAny and all wisdom would be very, very appreciated 🥺", "Mattress got peed on. Got the stain and smell out but now there’s detergent residue and baking soda spots left After a lifetime of bed wetting from a medical condition for almost six months in my apartment I had ZERO problems / accidents until Sunday.\n\nI’m supposed to move out tomorrow afternoon and am freaking out.\n\nI’m 26 and this was / is my first apartment. I found it on Airbnb and met the nice lady who owned it and continued renting it outside of Airbnb.\n\nI have to move out for a month while they do repairs.\n\nAnyway, The mattress protector was not as waterproof as I thought.\n\nI got the smell and stain out by mixing laundry detergent and warm water, pouring it on the spot, and then blotting it out with towels. \n\nAfter it was dry I then sprinkled baking soda on it for the smell and then lightly worked it in with a toothbrush \n\nIt still smelled a little pee-ish so I bought some fresh laundry scent Nature’s Miracle pet pee remover. That got rid of the smell completely.\n\nI’m now left with a dried light blue detergent residue / stain on one part of the spot and white spots of dried baking soda on the other half of the spot.\n\nThe mattress is a bluish white so from afar you can’t see it but when you look really up close you can. \n\nI don’t know what else to try. I read online to try vinegar but I’m scared that will leave a smell that can’t be hid.\n\nAny and all wisdom would be very, very appreciated 🥺" ]	[ "I'd personally just flip the mattress or tell her you split a cuppa tea and you've done everything to remove it, and there is a slight stain. \nYou've disinfected it, removed the smell and everything, youve done everything in your power.", "Get a waterproof mattress cover or two. I like the ones that encase the whole mattress personally.\n\nOf you have spares you can do a quick change out while still having your mattress protected and the soiled one can go straight in the wash.", "If you use sheets(who doesn't), the stains won't matter. You did what you could and removed the initial problem", "I did the same thing on my bed and windex (with ammonia) got the stain off. By the way if you act quickly windex removes blood stains. (I did not act quickly. The stain is still there. QQ)" ]	[ 6, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to study for the GRE My post is inspired by the how to study LPT request, but as the GRE is a total different animal, I wanted to submit a separate post.\n\nLast time I took the GRE I had less than two weeks to study (last minute grad school decision). Crammed with an online program and did not do very well so I am retaking it.\n\nI'm signed up for a Kaplan course that is starting soon which I'm sure will be helpful, but I am trying to do everything I possibly can to prepare and definitely need some pointers. \n\nTo note my math is garbage, and a lot of the vocab I am learning for the first time.", "How to study for the GRE My post is inspired by the how to study LPT request, but as the GRE is a total different animal, I wanted to submit a separate post.\n\nLast time I took the GRE I had less than two weeks to study (last minute grad school decision). Crammed with an online program and did not do very well so I am retaking it.\n\nI'm signed up for a Kaplan course that is starting soon which I'm sure will be helpful, but I am trying to do everything I possibly can to prepare and definitely need some pointers. \n\nTo note my math is garbage, and a lot of the vocab I am learning for the first time." ]	[ "vocab: learn greek and latin roots. it becomes very easy.\nmath: practice :)\n\nsource: aced it some years back.", "There are full blown practice tests online, which i highly recommend: [Link here](https://www.kaptest.com/gre/gre-practice/free-gre-practice-test). \n\nAlso, there is a very specific formula for the essay, which, if you follow, you will probably do well. [This website](https://crunchprep.com/gre-analytical-writing-guide) goes into EXTREME depth on the essay and everything they say is pretty valuable, especially the important parts of an essay, and the differences between issue and argument essays. \nAs for math, you know the questions get harder the better you do, so start studying your basic algebra, equations, and skills. I recall a lot of factorials and slope questions, as well as some geometry that I hadn't really studied. Honestly, get an old high school level algebra and geometry/ trig book, and do some practice problems to freshen your mind. \n\nAs for vocab, subscribe to websters vocab word email of the day, and actually learn the words. get your 7 words in a week, and learn them. practice them, use them, and get comfortable. Even if they don't come up, you can still find a way to squeeze them into your essays- and they like big words used in context. I had the word pugnacious come up at least 3 times and didn't know what it meant, so learn that one. I ended up doing the best on writing with 5's on both (and I firmly believe it had more to do with my knowledge of what they are looking for than anything else), decent on reading (91st percentile) and ok on math (78th percentile i think) So if you have questions, feel free to reach out! \n\nGood luck! " ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? ", "What are your TOP INNOVATIVE TIPS FOR STAYING WARM AT HOME if central heating is too expensive/inefficient to run? " ]	[ "Okay, so I have lived in an 1850s era house in new england for many years (sadly some without insulation, which only came a few years ago). \n\nHere are some things I've learned. \n\n1) drafts are your enemy. Find them and eliminate them when possible. \n\n2) windows (even double paned windows) contribute a ton to heat loss. There are these kits that you can use that are essentially Saran wrap that go over your window frames to create a pocket of air between the window and the interior space. They work. Not the most appealing, but they work. \n\n3) space heaters are your friend. They don't need to be the most expensive space heaters out there to help, but you can get a bigger one and move it from room to room if you need to. With respect to this concept, think about point #1. If you're heating a room a LOT of heat can be lost to drafts, especially drafts under the door. I've used long fabric tubes filled with rice to stop drafts from coming under the door. \n\n4) down comforters are your friend. They cost a fair amount, but they will be an absolute game changer for sleep. For years, the temperature of the walls in my bedroom was like 45-50f in the dead of winter, but we were able to be comfortable due to a decent down comforter. If you're low on funds this can make a great gift from a loved one who wants to help. \n\n5) this is an odd one, but hear me out: my wife makes these neck warmers out of fabric that she's sewn into a tube and then filled with feed corn. You can microwave them for a few minutes and they hold heat for a long while. If you put them on under a coat, you might even find that you get TOO hot! \n\n6) related to #4 and #5, preheat your bed. If you use the corn bag neck warmer or something similar, you can put it under your down comforter 10 min or so before you go to bed and get your bed nice and toasty before you go to bed. One of the worst (and tbh slightly depressing) sensations is going to bed in a cold bed and falling asleep only once it warms up. This will help. \n\n7) layer. \n\n8) keep in mind that winter will be over. Also keep in mind that one winter in the future you may not be in this difficult situation. As cheesy as it sounds, try not to feel too much despair.", "Space heater in room your in. \n\nBake your own food, saving money and warming home at save time. \n\nExercise. \n\nSeal windows and doors.", "When you’re awake, cook or just boil water on the stove, hang out in kitchen.\n\nWhen sleeping use one of those old-time hot water bladders.\n\nMy mom’s old trick when I was a kid, in addition to warm blankets, a sheet on top helps keep the warm in. This really helps a lot.\n\nGet a space heater, and/or one of those electric fake fireplaces. \n\nIn addition to keeping curtains closed, you can tape things to the windows to help insulate them.\n\nElectric heated blanket, or a heating pad.\n\nWear extra clothing layers, hats and socks.\n\n", "Put some rice in a long sock, like just through the foot section, tie it off near the end, put in microwave for like two minutes. Works like a charm. Also, the feed corn someone else mentioned works just fine too. I used to have one of those, called it a corn baby. Loved that thing, was also great when I sprained my ankle all the time.", "If it's possible to go outside and take a long walk, do it especially early in the day, you will be surprised at how warm you will be returning home. \n\nCook an easy soup using stock, frozen peas, and tiny pasta. It will warm you internally.\n\nWear a Buff around your neck, a warm skull cap, and socks with slippers.\n\nMove around periodically to generate your own thermal heat.\n\nTurn on the fire log video free on any streaming service....now, I'm running out of ideas. \n\ngood luck!", "I have a clothes drying pod. It’s like a hairdryer but for clothes. I run this to fry my clothes and it heats the room at the same time for less than my central heating would cost.\n\n", "I had the power go out in my house for a week during the winter (due to the Texas power grid failing) and foam insulation boards over the windows made a huge difference in keeping the house warm enough", "-make draft stoppers using fabric, a sewing machine, and rice. You can put some lavender in there, too, so it smells nice. Make them for all windows and doors.\n\n-insulation on windows in the form of plastic sheeting and weatherstripping. \n\n-you can get hand warmers that charge with USB cables. I use these for when I'm typing a lot to keep my hands warm (I work from home so my job doesn't pay for the heating). \n\n-I wear a hat (and sometimes a scarf) indoors. These are game changers. \n\n-I don't do this anymore because it doesn't get cold enough in Colorado, but when I lived in upstate NY and couldn't really afford more than keeping my pipes from freezing, I practically lived in a sleeping bag. They are amazingly warm, you can sit on the couch in one. You can sleep in one. They are awesome. I don't think it really gets cold enough for it in the UK, but it works. \n\n-move around - it makes you warmer by quite a bit.", "There was time we were in a rental place that had awful draft from windows. We got window insulation kit / it is plastic film you cover your whole windows with. It made huge difference. We ended keeping it over whole year on some windows. It was barely visible and we didn’t need to do it again a year later.", "I use [this](https://amzn.eu/d/8gvtXCZ). Heat it up and toss it inside the blanket and sleep like a baby.", "I hope you see this- buy clothing made of wool (I am partial to merino wool) and base layers/glove liners made of silk. These materials are absolute power houses when it comes to warm comfort.", "I get long blackout curtains + tension rods and hang them in doorways at/near any entryways. I'll also move them depending on how much space I need to heat to minimize how much heat I use. It's INCREDIBLE how cold it is on the other side of the curtain.\n\nI also wrap my windows and have curtains on some windows - leave the curtains open when the sun is shining strong to let warmth in, then close curtains when it gets dark.\n\nThis combined with heated blankets and layering has got me through the winter with pretty minimal oil use.", "Have you looked at door draft stoppers? This little sliver of space below your doors is often overlooked.", "Adding onto the space heater/fire in a room thing, hang/pin up one of your thicker blankets to totally block access to the other room. Act like it’s your door. This will keep the heat you’re trying to create inside that room. Just make sure there are no gaps or anything, and that there are no drafts coming in from anywhere.\n\nIf there ARE drafts coming inside the room you’re trying to get cozy in, plastic grocery bags are amazing for insulation. Cram a handful of those things into where you have found the draft—windows, doors, skeleton key holes, loose trim at the bottom of the floor, wherever. Newspaper also insulates well, and is my go to for a fire starter if need be. It catches very well.", "Wool clothing, thermal underwear, fleece insulating layer. \n \nThat by itself should keep you warm in 40°f+ weather.\n \nUK homes are made of paper mache compared to US homes (when it comes to insulation). So try to insulate your windows. Close off rooms you don't need.\n \nIf you have something like a spare bedroom or laundry room, get foam insulation and cut it to the size of your window. Then put blankets along the edge of the door.\n \nWhen you go to bed, wool blankets help. You can sleep in below 0°c with a wool blanket and base layers.\n \nTea \n \nIn the US we have 9mm and 5.56 for our landlord problem, unfortunately we just like focusing on our schools." ]	[ 30, 16, 7, 5, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?", "I’m buying a car for the first time on my own with no car knowledge or anyone who can teach me. What are some tips I need to know? I’m planning to buy second hand, not from a dealership and I need a car that’s going to be cheap to run and reliable as I’m a student with a low budget.\n\nAre there any useful tests or questions I should know to really find out how good of a price or how reliable the car is to help me get something that will fit my needs?" ]	[ "Do you have access to a local mechanic (who doesn't sell cars) ? It's always nice to have a knowledgeable friend. I've asked for help in the past and it's kind of like having an accomplice on a mission... How about someone who has some knowledge on cars... ?\n\nI think it's a good choice to stay away from car lots of you're looking to save money, craigslist and FB marketplace have plenty of listings.\n\nIf you buy from a car lot with a garage, they'll probably back you on minor inexpensive things, that's why people like them. Buying private is buying \"AS IS\" you'll have little recourse.\n\nThat said, it's not really that risky provided you arm yourself with some research, and again having someone who's fairly knowledgeable is a must.\n\nMany times before buying a certain model I was interested in, I joined a forum that consists of owners of that model. It's easy as pie. A quick search on the forum will quickly reveal what kinds of issues present owners are dealing with. You know what issues you might be dealing with before you buy.\n\nMembers are all too happy to share their knowledge of problem areas when a new member/prospective buyer posts that they are considering a purchase. Realize this info might have a bit of bias because any present owner doesn't want to make their present car seem any worse than it is, especially on forum filled with owners of the same..\n\nThere would be fine here that you could join for the lowdown of most cars, I've seen threads where everyone discloses what they spent, financing options, the works, so that I knew if I was getting a reasonable deal.\n\nAlso keep in mind that if you're financing, the higher interest rate offsets the lower price of used versus New. Right now used cars are commanding highest produces and dealerships are giving best deals in New cars. Just simple supply and demand...\n\nPlease feel free to ask more questions, there's a lot of good info out there, and you are not in a position where you have to buy \"right now\". It's always better to walk away if you're having doubts, there's always another \"deal\" there's a lot of choices out there...", "Your best bargaining chip is your ability to walk away. When it comes time to negotiate the price, if you don’t like what they offer and they won’t budge, walk away. Research the car you want and find out it’s value in YOUR area. Go in with a set price and do not go over that price.", "Take the car to a mechanic to check it out before you buy it. They may charge you, but it’s worth it!", "Even though what you're doing is very financially smart, see if you have a friend that knows about buying second hand cars. If your friend is cheap just buy them lunch or something. Second hand cars could come with ALOT of problems, such as oil leak (happened to a buddy of mine), or accidents they may not tell you about (this happened too).\n\nDefinitely go with someone who knows their shit for your first time, then next time you won't have to.", "I would make sure to check all of the fluids transmission and oil. When test driving it kinda of give it some gas to see if it shifts good.", "Used car sales are always as-is meaning no matter what the seller verbally tells you, there is no warranty. If the car is garbage, it’s not returnable. Try to have it checked out by a mechanic BEFORE giving the cash over. And read online reviews and the manufacturer’s recalls before buying.", "Push down on each corner. If it bounces like a ball the shock is worn out. If bounces slow and stops right away like it is moving thru honey the shock is good. $150 a corner for a bad shock. You can live with bad shocks but you can talk the seller down. Feel the brake rotors with a fingernail. If it is ridged like a record they are bad. Smooth is good. $70 a corner for brakes and rotors. These are do it yourself parts only prices by the way. Triple it for a shop to do it for you. Grab the tire and try to pull it and push it from the top and side to side. If you hear a \"Kachunk\" or feel a thump or wiggle just bail on it. Look under the car for stains or puddles. Red stain is tranny or power steering. Run away. Black is oil. Seeping is ok. Dripping or soaked is bad. Green sometimes orange is coolant. Run away. Pop the oil fill cap on top of the engine. If it has yellowish or white foam stuck in it run. If it smells sweet or burnt run. Pull the oil dipstick. Should be not foamy or chunky. Same smell test. Pull the tranny dipstick. Should be clean fluid no burnt smell. Check all the windows, locks, power everything. See if they have receipts for maintenance or oil changes. Do a carfax. Check the title is clear. Does the dash have any lights on? Start it. Is it loud? New muffler and exhaust at least $250. And get a Chevy Cobalt without power windows. The little buggers are almost bullet proof. It's pretty much the Cavalier with a nicer body. Insurance is cheap, they are good on gas and are easy to work on. Don't bother checking the tranny fluid though. It's a sealed unit. No way for you to look. A Cobalt will cost between $1000 to $3500 depending on age, condition and mileage. And check the radio. If the door speakers don't work there is a short in the wiring. That is why I recommend no power windows.", "Look up the carfax report make sure it is clean. Never buy a used car from Florida, they sell a lot of cars from floods.", "In addition to test drive and taking to a mechanic, look up the approximate value on Kelly blue book, be sure to check the vehicle history (e.g., has it been in previous accidents, how many owners has it had) and also look where the car has been—it’s unfortunately common for dealers in a flood area to offload previously flooded cars as used (and they are not a good deal) “good deals” I’m not a car person, but my best friend took me shopping with her for confidence and also to spot all those annoying things that might drive her crazy one day (like the fabric starting to detach from the ceiling). I also look for indications that the car has been well cared for—things a good detailing might still not camouflage\n\n", "I have a Jetta Volkswagen with ongoing computer issues. I get them fixed and the system shows that everything is fine. A few months in, however, my car starts acting up again. I won’t waste your time with the types of issues, but it has gotten to the point where my mechanic has said he doesn’t want me spending anymore money on my car. Long story short, do your research. I could easily get these issues fixed and sell my car and the buyer might not notice any issues at all. But I don’t want to screw anyone over like that. My advice is to make sure that the make and model that the car company you purchased your car from is reliable. I honestly regret going with a VW. 10 out of 10 do not recommend.", "Dude your saying, \"gee I've never done this before\" and going up against someone who does this multiple times a day for years. Forget all the other advice and listen to me...Take someone with you that has bought cars before and knows what to expect. You will be taken advantage of if you don't." ]	[ 9, 8, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I get aid as an international student without taking out a loan? I am currently studying in US as an international student. The time has come for tuition but due to COVID-19 my parents lost their job at a critical time and it seems like we can't pay the said tuition. I am really struggling to find out an option because i have literally no idea how to approach this. My college has given me financial aid but even that is not enough because of COVID. Is there a way for me to get an aid from somewhere. This is probably a really dumb question but my situation is very bleak and I am grasping at any possible options.", "How can I get aid as an international student without taking out a loan? I am currently studying in US as an international student. The time has come for tuition but due to COVID-19 my parents lost their job at a critical time and it seems like we can't pay the said tuition. I am really struggling to find out an option because i have literally no idea how to approach this. My college has given me financial aid but even that is not enough because of COVID. Is there a way for me to get an aid from somewhere. This is probably a really dumb question but my situation is very bleak and I am grasping at any possible options." ]	[ "Talk to your school’s financial aid office, look for work study opportunities, see if they are able to consider you for additional need-based grants. They may need updated financial paperwork to show your need. Sometimes schools also have a cost of attendance adjustment form available from the financial aid office. There may also be payment plans available but they’re generally not very favorable in the now compared to lending.\n\nCall them until you get all your questions answered and don’t feel bad bugging them so much since they pretty much are paid to work with students. It may be that you need to take out student loans anyway like most in the US have to. That’s why our country has a student debt crisis.", "First, I would call your school's office of financial aid and explain that suddenly your household income has dropped to nothing. As unlikely as it may be, they may be able to adjust your financial aid to account for that. \n\nSecond, apply to any and all scholarships that you can. Depending on your area of study, there will be varying amount of scholarship money made available. Some you might just have to enter your name and contact info, and for some you might have to write an essay to earn the scholarship. I would just Google \"X College Scholarships\" with X being your area of study. There may also be scholarships specifically for international students as well. \n\nIf/when you call your school's office, they may direct you to their own internal scholarship portal if they have one. \n\nI'm really sorry that this has happened to you and your family, and wish you the best of luck with your search for funding!" ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!", "how to avoid getting shocked all the time?! My girlfriend just moved to Texas from Brazil and is getting shocked by EVERYTHING now that it is winter. She had never been shocked regularly before and now every single time she gets in a car, opens a door, touches a person, etc. she gets shocked. What in the world is causing this and what can we do to avoid it?!" ]	[ "Most good fabric softeners will include some sort of anti-static, so use that with all your washing. I'm not sure if that's just hype, but it seems to work for me. ", "Check if pregnant. Not a drill. Early preggers tend to attract static shock like a mofo, though this factor is rarely discussed.", "Heaters reduce humidity levels and especially in Texas where it's mostly drier in parts. Get a humidifier for your dwelling or you can simply add humidity to your place by boiling a pot of water on your stove. ", "According to google you can reduce static electricity buildup on your clothes by; a) gently rubbing damp hands across your clothes, b) rubbing a dryer sheet on your clothes, or c) applying a layer of talc to areas that cling the most. \n\nAnother trick is to lick your finger before opening doorways and the like.", "I just keep a dryer sheet in one of my hoodie pockets. Change it out about once a week. Fresh scent bonus??", "Touch something made out of metal to discharge built-up static electricity. Remember that a shock produces a spark, be careful around fuel pumps in gas stations!", "Perhaps you could get a high-value resistor and make it into a wristband. Then touch it to something metal before you grab it.\nThe resistor will bleed off the static in a slow and controlled manner so you don't get a sudden jolt of a shock." ]	[ 5, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?", "How do I wake myself up early? I am living alone this year and I always had my mother wake me up with her loud screams. When I set up my phone alarm I snooze it, disable all 3 alarms by going to options, sometimes I do these without even realizing and I dont even hear alarm at all. Please help, how do I wake myself up when I dont want to?" ]	[ "If you can, leave the blinds open and get some sunlight as early a possible. Being exposed to bright light stops the production of melatonin in your body, a hormone that is connected to making you tired and sleepy. \n\nIt also works the other way around: Try not to expose yourself to bright light (e.g. a computer screen) late in the evening, or you will have a harder time falling asleep.", "Put a LOUD alarm clock somewhere in the room where you have to physically get up to switch it off, but, of course, so you can still hear it.", "Drink a lot of water before bedtime so your bladder will be full when the alarm goes off. Or get one of those apps that require you to solve puzzles or math problems to turn off the alarm. ", "Change your alarm sound so you don't get accustomed to it.\n\nKeep a couple of alarms next to you that you can snooze so you (almost) wake-up, or at least get something moving in your brain. And put another alarm on the other side of your room, that will force you to stand up to snooze it.\n\nWell now you're up, resist the urge of jumping on your bed for the next 10 sec and you're good for the day.", "get away of your PC one hour before your bedtime, go to bed early, time your time spend sleeping in 2,5-3 hour steps (sleeping cycles IIRC), make sure you relax before sleeping, go to bed and stand up at the same time during the whole week", "This or something like it. Not only does it not startle you like an audio alarm, it's really hard to ignore the light.\n\nhttp://www.usa.philips.com/c-p/HF3470_60/wake-up-light", "I used to have a problem waking up. It didn't matter if I got 3 hours of sleep or 12. \r\rNow I keep an alarm on my phone that off every day at 7:30 am and if I don't have to be up i go back to sleep. I also stopped using annoying alarms and started using a ringtone that's soothing and catchy. Annoying alarms just made me pissed off in the mornings because i was completely interupted in my sleep. \r\rI also drink a glass of ice water when i feel really tired in the morning..", "I myself also have problem, on how to wake up early every morning. i think that the most effective way is to discipline yourself. but in case you are still having trouble waking up early. This might help you more.\n\n[Tips for Waking Up Early & Conquering the Alarm Clock](http://goinswriter.com/wake-up-early/)\n\n[TRICKS TO MAKE YOURSELF WAKE UP EARLIER](http://www.fastcompany.com/3041455/body-week/8-tricks-to-make-yourself-wake-up-earlier)\n\n[Tricks to Waking Up in the Morning](http://www.everydayhealth.com/sleep-pictures/tricks-to-waking-up-in-the-morning.aspx)\n\n[21 Tips To Wake Up Early](http://personalexcellence.co/blog/21-tips-to-wake-up-early/)\n\n[The Most Successful Techniques for Rising Early](http://zenhabits.net/early/)\n\n[Ways to Trick Yourself Into Becoming a Morning Person](http://dailyburn.com/life/lifestyle/how-to-become-a-morning-person/)\n", "I found an app called Morning Routine where you can set up a sequence of alarms that can only be turned off by scanning a specific bar code. I set it so that I have to scan the barcode on my shampoo bottle. Once I get up out of bed and walk over to the bathroom to scan the bar code, I'm usually awake enough to realize that I cannot hit snooze or have just 5 more minutes.", "Go outside in the morning. This is better than any pill you'll ever take.\n\nThis sets your circadian rhythm earlier but you have to do it more than once and be consistent with it for a few days.\n\nAvoid as much light as possible at night. If you see lots of white light even from a phone then it will delay your sleep and you may not sleep as well. Thus basically undoing your early morning routine.\n\nTry to eat regularly and keep a decent schedule with that.\n\nExercise in the morning. " ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to control eating impulses consistently and effectively I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight. I don't have enough self discipline to stop myself and I tend to have an \"I'll eat better tomorrow\" attitude. Any pro tips on how to control food urges?\n\n", "How to control eating impulses consistently and effectively I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight. I don't have enough self discipline to stop myself and I tend to have an \"I'll eat better tomorrow\" attitude. Any pro tips on how to control food urges?\n\n", "How to control eating impulses consistently and effectively I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight. I don't have enough self discipline to stop myself and I tend to have an \"I'll eat better tomorrow\" attitude. Any pro tips on how to control food urges?\n\n", "How to control eating impulses consistently and effectively I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight. I don't have enough self discipline to stop myself and I tend to have an \"I'll eat better tomorrow\" attitude. Any pro tips on how to control food urges?\n\n", "How to control eating impulses consistently and effectively I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight. I don't have enough self discipline to stop myself and I tend to have an \"I'll eat better tomorrow\" attitude. Any pro tips on how to control food urges?\n\n" ]	[ "You answered your own question in the first sentence. \n\n> I tend eat when I'm bored and it is leading to an unhealthy gain in weight.\n\nStop being bored. If you feel hungry realize you're bored and do something. Go out and run, learn to draw, read a book. Your options are limitless.", "If you're feel like rummaging through your pantry because you've got nothing better to do, ask yourself: \"Do I want an apple?\" If your answer is no, then you're not really hungry. ", "You could try asking this in r/fatlogic too. It's a sub dedicated to myths about weight loss, but many of my fellow redditors there have previously struggled with emotional eating and lack of impulse control.", "1. Drink a lot of water. I have a 750ml water bottle with a straw attached, so I just constantly sip on that. If I'm about to have a meal or snack, I pour a good glass of cold water and drink it all - it helps.\n\n2. If you're about to grab a bag of nuts or crisps (\"chips\" if you're in the US), fill a small bowl instead and bring it into another room, leave the bag in the kitchen. This will reduce mindlessly reaching for another, and another, etc.\n\n3. Try find a hobby that involves the use of your hands. For me, I manicure my nails because it keeps my hands busy, relieves boredom, and is actually semi-productive. This is something I just recently discovered helps reduce overeating from boredom, so I haven't tried too many things, but I'm thinking of trying origami. ", "There is no special way that'll help you. The only thing that's helped me is drink a lot of water till I feel like puking so I don't have an urge to eat anything. I'm also 5'7 but I'm 120, so youre fine. At the end you're just gonna have to not do it" ]	[ 5, 5, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to keep duvet from sliding down inside the duvet cover? I swear every morning when I wake up the duvet's fallen down by a good foot or so inside the cover, and I'd like some way to fix it that doesn't require sewing or whatever so I can still wash/change the cover relatively easily. Thanks!", "How to keep duvet from sliding down inside the duvet cover? I swear every morning when I wake up the duvet's fallen down by a good foot or so inside the cover, and I'd like some way to fix it that doesn't require sewing or whatever so I can still wash/change the cover relatively easily. Thanks!", "How to keep duvet from sliding down inside the duvet cover? I swear every morning when I wake up the duvet's fallen down by a good foot or so inside the cover, and I'd like some way to fix it that doesn't require sewing or whatever so I can still wash/change the cover relatively easily. Thanks!" ]	[ "A little boy I used to nanny for had ties on the inside of each corner of the cover and on the corners of the comforter. You would just tie the two ties together on the opposite side of the buttons (in a bow or knot) with the cover inside out, flip it over the comforter and then tie the other two corners (closest to the buttons) before buttoning it closed. All you would have to do is sew some 4-inch-ish ties into the inside corners of your duvet and the corner of your blanket. And voila-- no more blanket sliding. \n\nHope this helps!", "Duvet clips are about $5 at bed bath and beyond. They clip the duvet to the cover from the inside and they have foam on them so they are soft. ", "Get velcro. Stick one side to the ends of the duvet cover inside, stick the other end on the duvet. Attach. Never moves. :D" ]	[ 12, 7, 5 ]	safe
[ "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. ", "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. ", "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. ", "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. ", "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. ", "How do you deal with missing your SO or other loved ones? I miss my SO a lot... Just curious as to how you guys deal with it or if you have any pointers. " ]	[ "I'm the opposite from the norm because \"Normal\" techniques never work with me. People tell me things like \"This song is too sad, let's change it\" and \"This movie is depressing, let's watch a comedy\" in an attempt to change their mood. I, on the other hand allow it to happen. I actually get sad, I don't run from it. I actually get depressed, I do not get myself out of it. I revel in life's emotions, each and every one of them. I look at each one like a conveyance that is either full, empty or somewhere in between. If I haven't been sad in while, it feels good to know the emotion mechanics are there and after I \"Fill up\" I can tell my emotional state has been exercised and is appeased somehow. If I allow the feelings to happen as a natural process, I'm not fighting it and I can say it has the same affect as the feel good emotions. I also know that the negative ones are harder to deal with. The negative ones do not define me, they're just thoughts and attachments to those thoughts. It defines the dotted line I have to the attachment of those thoughts, ideas, morals, values, relationships, etc. I report to myself, not to those temporary feelings, the feelings report to me also. Writing down your thoughts and read them later, this helps to reflect how you were affected (Did I actually have a rational point to make?) and in the right context, you can share them with the right person.", "New hobby that you didn't do with them around - for me, usually a new instrument/song style, or video game. ", "If you know your loved one is going to be gone for a long period of time, say 30 days or something. If you keep in constant contact it's almost like they never left. I saw the sweetest thing one time, a man knew he was going into the service for one year...so before he left he started writing a letter a day so while he was gone she had something to read for every day he was gone,", "You may not be in this situation, but r/longdistance has a lot of posts asking the same thing. There's a lot of great answers too.", "I try to do things for my wife when we are apart. If she is the one that is away I will generally clean the house top to bottom, do all of the laundry, and sometimes do a special project. There was one trip that she went on where I installed a waterfall shower head in our master bathroom.\n\nIf I'm the one that is away I will spend most of my trip looking for the perfect gift to bring home to her.", "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone. Not really, but this is the kind of vapid advice you're likely to get here." ]	[ 12, 7, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "I just got my laptop wet and the S key is stuck I tried taking the cap off and drying the key cap and the mechanism under the key cap and it still doesn’t work.", "I just got my laptop wet and the S key is stuck I tried taking the cap off and drying the key cap and the mechanism under the key cap and it still doesn’t work." ]	[ "Leave it dry 100% like wait a week I spilt a cup of water on my laptop a few years back the s key would type p or something it was all messed up I left it open for a week without the battery and it ended up working out ", "Define “wet”. If it’s water, you’re probably screwed tbh. Take it to a local repair shop and see what they can do. \n\nIf it’s something sugary or otherwise sticky, a q-tip with some rubbing alcohol on it should help clean up the mechanism. This HAS to be rubbing alcohol – water etc won’t cut it. Rubbing alcohol dries/evaporates quickly enough that it’s unlikely to damage your computer’s internal... stuff. " ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand.", "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand.", "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand.", "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand.", "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand.", "How to avoid nodding off during a boring lecture/meeting? Other than being coked up on coffee beforehand." ]	[ "Pain increases adrenaline and gives you a quick, albeit shortlived energy spike. Works for me when I'm driving. Reach in your pocket and grab a hunk of inner thigh until you get tears. Good luck sleepin.\n\nAlso, get hydrated. Low water makes you really sleepy.", "I feel like everyone is just posting band aid solutions.\n\nAre you sure you have sufficient sleep before even turning up to the lecture/meeting?", "Sit straight upright. Find something interesting somehow someway in the meeting. Pinch your hand or bite your tongue. ", "If there is nothing being said in the meeting or lecture that is relevant to you and sparks some thoughts about what this will mean for your job, or how it relates to something you discussed last week etc, then you should not be there. \n\nIf you are at the meeting or lecture for a legitimate reason, engage your mind! You have a brain that's capable of amazing things like making connections, running scenarios, analysing outcomes etc. Use it!\n\nIf there is no legitimate reason for you to be at a meeting, hatch a plot to get out of the following ones.", "I drink alot of coffee and pinch the webbing of my fingers as hard as I can tolerate. I also find taking notes helps because it's interactive even if I don't really need them. ", "For a lecture, sit in front of the lecturer, where she or he can see you. Make eye contact, come up with three questions to ask.\nAsk them over the course of the lecture.\nMeetings are another matter. No hope there." ]	[ 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n", "Cat Dementia and Yowling (Serious) I have a 17 year old cat with dementia, possibly cancer, who’s going deaf, and has been getting noticeably more nauseous. She’s also lost 25% of her body weight in the last 6 months, lost her sister within the last year, and I’ve recently noticed she’s begun limping. \n\nFor the past several months she’s been extremely vocal yowling throughout the night requiring the family to constantly pick her up and place her on the bed with one of us until she finally decides to stay for an hour or two before going back to yowling. \n\nI have no idea what to do. We’ve taken her to the vet and she’s suggested running a couple more tests (bloodwork) to see if there is a potential physical issue but the root cause seems to be her mind. She has tried numerous anti anxiety medications, I’ve bought Feliway, and playing before bed but nothing seems to work.\n\nI absolutely love my cat but she seems to be getting more confused and anxious and I just want to do whatever the right thing is for her.\n\n" ]	[ "Hi friend. My family had to make the tough decision to put our dog down earlier this year. He also had dementia and cancer. It was a hard decision to make because it was such a slow decline and some days (and weeks) were better than others. \n\nOur vet shared with us this [quality of life calculator](https://journeyspet.com/pet-quality-of-life-scale-calculator/). There are a few online like it. We assessed our boy once a week until it became obvious that it was his time. \n\nI second was other people have said in this thread about at home euthanasia. It was nice getting to say goodbye in a comfortable and safe environment. The vet was so kind and let us take as much time as we needed. \n\nI’m sorry you are going through this. \n\nFor what it’s worth, out vet also told us it’s always better to let them go day to early than a day too late. We really struggled with the “when” and not wanting to rob our beloved friend of any time he had left, but because they can’t tell us what they want all we can do is the best we can do and try to let them go gently without any pain.", "I absolutely love my cats and can't stand to think of them dying - But I can't stand the thought of them suffering even more.\n\nIf your cat is in constant terror and needs to be consoled frequently, she's suffering. And at 17 (and with other physical symptoms suggesting she may not be in the best of health), it's not like she has all that long left anyway.\n\nYou should probably talk with your vet about whether or not it might be time to send her over the rainbow bridge. If the vet says no way, she's fine, hey, forget I said anything! But don't make her suffer just because you can't bear to let her go, you'll regret that more than the alternative.", "Have you left a light on for her? I got a 16 yr old and she does yowl, I left a decorative light that has a timer so it stays on all night and she seems happier, he eyes could be going too which will not help her. Warmth and mini stairs too", "Let the vet do bloodwork. Hyperthyroid is a common ailment of old cats, is curable and a very common cause of nausea and yowling.", "In my experience (not a vet, cat sitter of 15+ years) the yowling is probably from the deafness, and to a lesser extent, the dementia.\n\nHas her activity level changed?\n\nDoes she exhibit any signs of physical pain or distress? \n\nIs she grooming herself? \n\nHas your vet suggested anything like Zofran or Cerenia for the nausea?\n\nHow's her appetite? Does she stay sufficiently hydrated? (drinks enough water) \n\nIs she eliminating and urinating normally? Does the output look normal. \n\nWhat behavioral meds have you tried?\n\nIf you have the means and it won't unduly stress out your cat, then the bloodwork could help figure out what's going on with her.\n\nWhile many say 17 years is a long life for a cat (it is) many of my own cats and those in my care have reached 20 and beyond. If your cat has an issue that might be a be easily remedied and allows her to have some more happy and pain-free time, then why not look a little longer for non-heroic options before considering saying goodbye? \n\nMy 2¢.", "17 is a long life for a cat. Do the right thing. At home euthanasia. It costs a bit more, but is 1000x more peaceful for them.", "It sucks. My Orion,17yom, went through this. He had a mini stroke and got progressively vocal during the day and then at night. Went to the vet and tried to find a solution.\n\nDecided to put him down. It was hard, he was awesome. Hardest thing that I chose to do.\n\nMiss him so much.\n\nLet'em go.", "I had to put my 17 year old cat down 4 weeks ago. She was suffering and in pain. I know you want to help her and this isn't the answer you are looking for, but you really need to consider the quality of kitty's life, and the toll her care is taking on you. The kindest thing you can do might be to say goodbye. I'm so sorry.", "My elderly cat has started screaming as well. But he’s purring, eating, using the box, and demanding attention. It’s annoying, yes, but not enough to put him down! He’s still happy. Just loud and obnoxious.", "Dedicated cat lover here. I've gone to some pretty extreme (and costly) measures to bring my cat back to better health...but in this case, with a 17 year old cat who is clearly suffering and clearly near her end, it would be a kindness to help her pass with whatever dignity she has left. Without your help she may last a day, a month, or even a year, but eventually she will pass-- and her life will only get more agonizing.", "So I always say with pets, it is always better to put them out of their misery a little too early than a little too late. And if you're starting to have that ethical debate it's probably about that time.", "My cat did a similar thing towards the end. I left a light on and some clothing with my smell in her space. I also tried kitty CBD treats and I noticed she was able to move more freely but it didn’t reduce the howling. Eventually her kidneys began to shut down and she had what the vet assumed was a blood clot to the spine and it was time to say good bye. If kitty is eating and drinking and socializing still I would say try to keep the nighttime environment as friendly and welcoming as you can, it may be they suddenly feel alone and are disoriented by the change.", "My dog died several years ago, and he had dementia before he died. He didn't bark (in fact, he forgot how) but instead he paced. All night long. The pacing, his nails clicking on the wood floor, made me batshit.\n\nIt eventually subsided and we had another decent year with him. So, it might go away. Some things that helped him were a weighted blanket when we went to bed (he slept with me), a crate for when he was very confused, and an occasional melatonin (vet approved) to help with sleeping. \n\nIt's hard, though. Be gentle with yourself and kitty.", "One of the things my vet said that was super helpful when I was trying to figure out when to put my 15.5-year-old dog down was \"don't let it get to the point where you feel resentment toward him for doing things that are beyond his control.\" \n\nI keep in mind that animals don't seem to perceive time and end of life the way we do; they live in the moment and don't anticipate/dread dying from an illness. If they're miserable and have no chance of getting better, it's probably time to let them go.\n\nIt sounds like it's time to let your kitty go. I send my best supportive juju to you in this difficult time.", "My cat did this because she had a UTI and bladder stones. The doctor told us \"that's just what cats do. You must not have owned many cats.\" Which was the most annoying thing I'd ever heard. I would check for UTI or even stones (with an ultra sound specialist, not just some nurse/vet at your local vet clinic). Of course, this could be something entirely different since your cat is quite old.\n\nMy cat ended up being diagnosed with anxiety & FIC which means giving her generic Prozac (liquid fluoxetine) every night. Its been a year or more and we haven't had any issues. \n\nI'm really sorry this is happening to you. I know first hand how stressful this is and I hope that things get better for you and your cat.", "I haven't tried them myself or for any of my pets but I think pet CBD treats may address the anxiety and nausea. I think its worth looking into, at the very least.", "When the time comes, if you can, I’m another one that says you should have them make a house call. We’ve lost 3 of our dogs in the past 3 years (and another one is heading that way, unfortunately) and there’s a nice lady who comes and gives them the help they need in a place where they are most comfortable.\nI don’t have any advice but I do understand what you’re going through and I wish you the best", "Former vet behavior and neurology nurse, currently working ER. It could just be cognitive decline, and a behaviorist (a DVM, not some nonsense/trainer) can recommend brain health supplements and possibly prescribe sleeping pills. Or it could be something more serious, like they had a stroke, and prognosis varies. Does she take anything for the nausea or arthritis? Have you had her kidneys evaluated recently? It could also be end stage renal failure. What anxiety meds has she taken? Were they prescribed by a GP? She may be in pain. And a cat not eating is an emergency. No matter what, if it's more than you can deal with or afford, im sure you gave her a long and wonderful life, and if you can't help her, there's nothing wrong about letting her go ❤️. I really wish you the best.", "My 18yr old chihuahua does the same. She is blind and deaf with bathroom problems.. she wants to be pet, but gets startled easily when I do pet her. Eats and drinks (and pees) normally tho. Our pets are like people - especially when they get old. Have the vet rule out any pain she may be experiencing, and just love her until the end. That’s about all you can do.", "I was having a moral/ethical argument with myself over my very old dog whom I loved deeply. It finally occurred to me that in prolonging my own misery, I was prolonging hers. I’m glad I made the decision that day and gave that sweet girl and wonderful companion some peace.\nHugs to you!", "I thought i needed to put my dog down but couldn’t bring myself to do it. It was my sweet dog that let me know. I was the hardest thing. My heart goes out to you.", "I know that this is not easy to hear. But if she is suffering as much as you say she is, and there is no cure, I would honestly out her down. It's hard but it's the best thing to be done. Speak to your vet about this.", "Will your cat do at someone else's home that is always th4er? Like an old folks home? Constant petting & supervision", "What we found worked for our extremely old cat when the constant yowling started was a kennel, as bad as that seems. During the day he was noisy but ok if someone was around him. At night he just yowled and cried. We got a medium sized dog kennel so he would have room to move, put some cushions in it, put him in there and covered it with a blanket. He would go right to sleep. We would leave him in it for only a max of 4-5 hours though, we had housemates on different schedules so this worked for us.\nWe did eventually decide to put him to sleep though, he was just too old. This worked for a few months though!", "This sounds like what one of mine started going through when he was 19. At the beginning of year 19 the vet said he was in excellent health especially for a cat that age. He had to be put down 8 months later. Everything caught up with him suddenly. He was skin and bones, dementia, going blind, going deaf, yowling at night. Near the end he started having seizures and stability issues. He was a sweet boy and a very cuddly guy sometimes. I hated having to put him down, but it was the right thing to do.", "Our Peke started finding his inner wolf at 3 am every night. Vet said it was dementia setting in. He advised us to give him Prevagen. Stopped the howling immediately.", "My elderly cat was on cerenia for nausea - it helped a lot. \nI was fortunate enough to work from home and her dementia didn't progress to the point where she couldn't find me. She did have periods of late night activity, and the vet told me to give her melatonin. It worked until it didn't, and it's hard to find a brand with tiny enough pills for a cat to swallow, but might be worth a shot. It sounds like your other options are earplugs or letting her pass on. Only you can make the call when it's time. I sincerely wish you the best in this difficult time.", "Just my own experience here, but I had an old dog growing up with a similar problem. She had just the general issues that a _really_ old dog would have, but nothing that impacted her quality of life too much. But then she ended to going blind and deaf around the same time, and she would wander around the house barking like crazy until somebody reached out to her. I think she calmed down because she knew she wasn't alone, I think she was just scared. After a while, one of our other dogs actually started to help her with that. He would walk beside her, with his body touching hers, and she'd calm down. The way your cat calms down when you reach out to her is why I was thinking of it like this. \n\n\nYou mentioned that you lost your cats sister recently. Did her yowling start or get worse after that happened? Because maybe your other cat was what had been keeping her calm, and maybe without that connection she doesn't feel as secure and safe now that she's losing some of her senses. It's just a thought based on my own personal experience", "It’s your cat.. you will know when it’s time, she could also be lonely and missing her sister if she was always used to having a companion with her. I’m sorry your going through this. ..\nJust make the best of the time you can with her and know your doing the best you can and your cat loves you.", "Gabapentin really helped our 20 year old cat toward the end without the severe side effects of painkillers/opioids.", "For anyone following this thread, my cat passed away today, she passed peacefully in my arms at home with everyone she loved as I sung to her like when she was a kitten. I will never forget my baby. I loved that cat unconditionally and will continue to love her until the day I die. The decision was made because her health had been declining over the most recent months with the past several days being particularly hard. I wanted her to pass with dignity and leave this world with grace. Thank you for everyone’s suggestions and I hope to see her again when I pass away.", "What’s the point in keeping him alive if his quality of life is poor? My cat, Wayne, was propping himself up against the wall, just to keep upright. I felt absolutely guilty when I saw him do that one day. It was not fair to him. I had him laid to rest, in a humane way; he was so ready to go. We have to think about the pet, not about ourselves. Anyone who insist on drawing blood on a 17 year old cat is doing it just for money. Keep in mind, that a 17 year old cat is not the same as a 17-year-old person. You have to times the 17 x 5 or seven, (I forget which one) Let’s think about the cat, first and foremost. It is a tough decision to make, but you’re doing it for him.", "We're going through almost the exact same thing with our 17 year old cat. He eats at least six times a day, uses the litter box normally and drinks plenty of water. He keeps losing weight. The vet has done blood work and says no sign of cancer. He yowls randomly but mostly from about 4 am until someone gets up and feeds him. Could it be a tape worm? Both of our cats had fleas last summer but our other cat is going to turn into a fatty because she keeps trying to eat all the extra food we're feeding him. We have no idea what to do.", "My old boy is screaming the blues as well. Lately, the howling is beginning to sound like a child suffering from night terrors. Like your sweet one, he goes to the same spot and starts howling. We say his name and he settles right away. Makes me think he's forgetting we're here.", "Much as I hate to say it, you should seriously consider putting her down. I had a dog in that situation; constantly pacing the room whining, jumping and frantically looking for hiding places at the slightest disturbance. You could see in her eyes she was miserable, no amount of comforting helped. We didn't dare leave her alone in the house. I waited too long; she eventually seriously injured herself frantically clawing her way under a power recliner, and afterward was in such pain we finally had no choice. Your cat is clearly similarly miserable; don't wait too long to give her peace.", "If she’s at the end of her life and miserable, make the difficult decision and let her go in peace with her loving family by her side. That’s my opinion. I don’t want my pets to suffer at the end just so we humans can feel better about having them around longer. Not saying it’s easy, and I do feel for you", "I wish you and your feline friend the best. May you both find peace. I lost my best friend to this a couple years ago now, and something that helped me was the fact that to euthanize is Greek for ‘good death’; is the practice of intentionally ending life to eliminate pain and suffering. \n\nGot to a point where it almost seemed selfish for me to let my buddy go on the way he was, in a state similar to your cats, because it was me who was scared to let go, and I think that’s what kept that final thread attached for so long. It was his time and I was not ready for it, it was a miracle he was still kicking really, but it was not a good existence for my buddy, I had to learn to let go so that he could as well.", "Cats going deaf don't know their volume. When mine was near the end, I took her on middle of the night walks around the neighborhood, and I let her sleep on the bed. I certainly had the nights where she'd be yowling, and then look at me (noticing I am right here) and give a quiet \"meh\". I've seen ideas of having lights on, or night lights. Probably a good idea. Or at least a cat bed in that corner, with a favorite blanket, or an old shirt that you wear for a bit before putting it down as bedding.\n\nThe weight loss is a concern, though. Mine did that on the last year of her life, due to hyperthyroidism, then the slow death of kidney failure. I knew her time was coming when the urine sample was practically water. Eventually, the kidneys just can't detox the body, and fluids build up, suffocating them.\n\nAs for my cat's final days, I had the last nightly walk the night before putting her down. No regrets. She wanted it, and I let it. She was feeling well enough to try and be a cat one more time, and who would I be to refuse? Let her sleep on the bed, held her to the end.\n\nThe final decision is a hard one to make, but important to not delay if you know the time has come. Cherish the good times, and make sure kitty's last memories are good ones. They often do know when it's their time to go, too.", "As my daughter said, “Do we have to wait until our animal is miserable and in incredible pain before we let it go?”. No. The answer is no.", "Yowling in the night is a thing- we have had several very old cats and they tended to do this in their later years. We would call to them or go find them. It’s almost like they get lost. For ours it was a mental thing", "While I’m sure it’s not this nice of an answer, is it possible that there’s a toy she’s playing with/ “hunting”? My cat will sit and scream for hours on end in the middle of the night, and it usually ends up being that she got into some catnip or is chasing one of her toys around, do you think your cat could be chasing after something? Again, it’s probably wishful thinking on my part, and if that’s not the case I wish for nothing but the best for her and your family, good luck", "What you've described is exactly what our 16 year old cat was doing. It started last year when she suddenly went blind (vet couldn't explain how). We also noticed that sometimes she would sit still with her mouth open, almost like she was in pain, and drooling. She started losing weight, but like your cat, continued to eat normally, could use her litter tray with no problem, and could still find her way around the house and garden (the fact we've been here 14 years probably helped). However, she would often yowl loudly in the garden like she was lost, but could always find her way back inside. She would also yowl loudly for several minutes when going into her bed for a nap during the day. The vet thought she probably did have dementia. \nFor the weight loss, the vet kept saying that they could do more tests to find out what might be wrong, but in the end we decided that she was old, had had a good life, but the outlook wasn't good for her. So, sadly, we put her to sleep. But, we know we did the right thing for her in the end. We think she may have suffered a stroke at some point but couldn't be sure. \nWhat ever you decide to do with your cat, I'm sure you'll do what's best for you and them.", "That's a tough call as I can tell it sounds like she perks up when she's around people but is miserable otherwise. In this case I would think of the miserable hours outweighs the positive interactions it's time. If you sleep 8 hours and work another 8 with no one home to sit with her that's 16 hours out of the day. That's over half the time miserable. This assumes someone sits with her at least 8 hours. I wonder if you could have a cat sitter to sit with her all day and see if she's happy at least 8 hours of the day.", "So my 16+ year old kitty is going through something similar. We have found a thyroid issue to explain the weight loss. she also has been staying in a different room much more lately, she is also spending more time standing on the heat exhausts. \n\nIts my understanding that as cats age, they need to be in a better lit environment, staying warmer, and on softer surfaces. I've adjusted those things and it's made a pretty decent difference. \n\nHope this helps and I'm sorry you're getting to that point where you're questioning on how best to care for your friend.", "My twenty year old cat was doing the same thing as you described to a tee and figured she had mild dementia, she stopped once I got another cat although my other cat was terrible with her, tackling her and trying to mount because he's a young male. I had to put her down about a month ago because her health just kept declining. I would absolutely recommend what you plan which is to put your cat down but within the comfort of your home. One of my biggest regrets aside from getting another cat while my little old lady was still kicking was having to bring her to the vet when that time came. I wish I could have avoided the stress I'm sure she felt, also had to wait a while despite coming early for the appointment which prolonged it and had me crying with her in the waiting area. It sucked.", "My old cat used to do this until she was put on daily meloxicam for arthritis. It 100% fixed the problem.", "My old boy has dementia at about 18. He would yowl and call out for help on and off chairs etc. He did get a tad incontinent, though mostly associated with a scare (thunder storms etc). We regularly checked with the vet to ensure he wasn’t suffering. Outside of that, there wasn’t much more that could be done. If you have some heat packs and a jumper you’ve worn for a few days, it can help during times your away", "My elderly cat started howling (more than normal) late and night and was getting lost and going missing. \n\nThe vet recommended these tablets that really helped. They’re called Aktivait and they’re pretty much just vitamin tablets but they are made for those with cognitive decline.", "My dog had to be put down, I wish I had down it at home with her. I had such a hard time leaving her at a vet to have it done!", "My cat did this. It was hyperthyroidism. There's a medication you put in their ear that helped a lot. I hope your cat gets better!", "My cat did this too; I plugged in small nightlights to help him get around. He didn't yowl after that.", "Jackson Galaxy did a video on YouTube about this. My Siamese started yowling and meowing a lot after she turned 15 and we thought it was dementia. We tried keeping lights on at night for her to help, and kept everything as same as possible. \nIt had turned out she had an undiagnosed brain tumor that eventually took her. I would suggest trying out the dementia tips Jackson Galaxy suggests, and further testing with your vet to address whatever you can. Sometimes the yowling is your cat trying to tell you they need medical help. \nMy personal experience, as long as your baby is eating, drinking, using the bathroom, and has an okay quality of life overall (do they enjoy playing, spending time with you, etc), they can have a good few years left. Sorry you are going through this, it’s really hard to watch our baby’s health decline as they age :(", "I’ve had many cats in my life who I have loved dearly. They truly were members of my family.\n\nThe excessive weight lose is a bad sign to me.\n\nWhen they got to the point where they needed to be put down, there’s not one of them that I didn’t wish I had put them down sooner. \n\nSave your cat the suffering. Please take it to the vet and put it down. \nMake sure it’s she’s hydrated.", "I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve experienced very similar behaviors with an elderly cat, and here’s what worked for us: \n\n1. We did take her to the vet and get a full senior panel done - as another commenter stated, the weight loss could be related to hyperthyroidism. Our cat was put first on oral medication, which was a nightmare to administer, and then an inner ear topical medication. Worked wonders! It’s compounded, so it’s expensive, but with her hyperthyroidism managed, she lived 3 more very happy years. \n\n2. Others have suggested a source of warmth: absolutely yes, do this! Cats need warmth more than dogs or people, and if your fur baby is older, she’ll definitely need more assistance with this. In our case, we ordered a couple of those extra large heating pads and kept them on low, covered by a thin blanket, and placed them in her favorite nap spots so she always had a source of gentle warmth. \n\n3. I haven’t seen anyone else mention this: movies or music. Do you have any movies that you watch repeatedly? We found that putting movies (that we rewatch often) on in the background helped her feel like we were around, even when we were out of the house. This worked so well that I use this method for all of my pets! I tend to gravitate towards movies, but any familiar audio could work (music, tv shows, audiobooks, etc.). If she tends to gravitate to a specific spot when she’s yowling, maybe putting the comforting audio in that area can help her feel not so disoriented. \n\nGood luck to you, thank you for being such a loving pet parent, and all our love to you and your fur baby in this difficult and emotional time.", "I’m so sorry that you’re going through this with a companion has meant so much to you… let your heart guide you and I truly believe you will be together again one day over the rainbow bridge. 🙏❤️🌈", "It’s hard, but the best thing to do is to have the cat put to sleep. Make sure you are there with her at the very end tho. I can’t state enough how important it is to be there with her in the end. You got this OP. No more suffering for your lil cat, who is also a family member and lifelong friend.", "If she’s lost 25% of her body weight in the last six months, I don’t think she’s “eating normally” as you say.", "If it helps, when it was time to put our cat down, they administered the first dose (relaxant) and the cat looked so relaxed. We didn't realize how tense she had become in her later years. That helped us to reliaze we were making the right decision.", "I'm so sorry you and your friend are going through this. A client recently found that swaddling her old man and leaving lights on helped some.", "I think its time my friend :(\n\nThose symptoms sound very similar to when our dog had Lymphoma, the losing body weight, diarrhea, general lethargy, we scheduled at home euthanasia and 2 weeks later he started to limp around and fall down when walking. If you can take her to the vet and get her healed that is great but at a certain point you are only prolonging her suffering and delaying the inevitable.", "I think it might be time to let her go. All that matters is that she had a good life so you need to ask yourself. Is that what shes having right now", "I had to make the choice to help my 16 year old girl cross the bridge a couple of years ago. \n\nShe was much the same as yours, lost weight, lots of yowling, not sure where she was, losing her sight, going to the toilet in my bedroom because she felt safe there etc.\n\nIf you look at your kitty, and can't really see any of their personality that you remember anymore, then it's time.", "I adopted an elderly cat from the pound and she used to go downstairs, “get lost”, and howl so I put up a gate at night. She was also hyperthyroid and demented so she took meds for her thyroid. The vet switched suppliers and the meds stopped working.", "Broad spectrum CBD oil for pets to provide anti anxiety and anti nausea/pain until it’s time, which sounds like soon.", "Don’t ask us what to do. You already know. If you truly love your cat then you know suffering is worse than death and your just being selfish", "You should be putting that cat down and the fact that your vet suggested tests on a sick 17yr old cat rather than euthanasia tells you you need to find a new vet that isn’t all about the money. I’m sorry for your loss." ]	[ 634, 181, 124, 85, 51, 47, 28, 25, 22, 20, 19, 19, 11, 8, 6, 6, 5, 5, 4, 4, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -2, -5 ]	safe
[ "How not to run so loud? when i run i notice my feet seem to always slam on the ground and i make so much noise. i want to see how to fix that, it maybe a problem with my form but idrk", "How not to run so loud? when i run i notice my feet seem to always slam on the ground and i make so much noise. i want to see how to fix that, it maybe a problem with my form but idrk", "How not to run so loud? when i run i notice my feet seem to always slam on the ground and i make so much noise. i want to see how to fix that, it maybe a problem with my form but idrk", "How not to run so loud? when i run i notice my feet seem to always slam on the ground and i make so much noise. i want to see how to fix that, it maybe a problem with my form but idrk", "How not to run so loud? when i run i notice my feet seem to always slam on the ground and i make so much noise. i want to see how to fix that, it maybe a problem with my form but idrk" ]	[ "forefoot to midfoot running. It will take time, it will feel awkward, but pretend like you're running on your toes, and instead of heel to toe, the feet should transition through a forefoot-midfoot (and maybe a slight touch of the heel) then back to forefoot, and toe off. Not only does it make running more quiet, it also puts less stress on your knees and general impact. Look up forefoot/midfoot running\n", "uh your just running at a public place im pretty sure it doesn't matter\n\nor you could strike mid foot on the ground instead of heel to toe to reduce impact?", "Practice slightly jogging around the house(if your floors creak) eventually you'll understand how much weight you should be putting on each leg. \n\nYou can even do so while walking inside. Most people who walk heavy also run heavily. Just be more conscious to how you walk/run \n\nIf you have Instagram follow @runrx for running tips, proper form, and body anatomy correlating running.\n", "Might be your pace.\n\nIncrease pace and the amount of time your other foot is on the ground before your next step will decrease.", "Distribute the impact of your steps so they're not sudden, but heel touches ground first, immediately roll foot to where when you're pushing yourself forward, it's coming from the area around your toes. \n\nBasically you're smacking your feet on the ground and that's what makes the sound" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n", "How to not take yourself so seriously. I always get told that I take myself too seriously and that I need to lighten up. When ever people see in photos they think I'm either trying to hard to looked relaxed or look like I'm angry. When people generally try to joke around with me I get nervous and don't really laugh. Or I take it the wrong way. Just wondering if anyone has any tips on how to overcome this and feel and look like all the happy people you see around. \n\n" ]	[ "Try cracking some jokes about yourself. We've all done stupid, embarrassing things- instead of being self-critical, try to laugh about it. When you can do that, people will relate to your mistakes and will laugh because they've been in a similar position.", "I never take myself seriously, I don't what to tell you really, it's just the default state that I'm in. \n\nThink of the universe and how big and vast it is, when you do that you'll realise that most things don't matter and a joke is just a joke. \n\nMaybe that'll work? :P", "I'm not joking. Buy a full drag outfit, wig, dress, heels, makeup the whole shebang. Practice and make a dance routine and perfect it in heels. Perform to yourself in the mirror and be as serious as possible. You will gain dance skills, confidence, and a better understanding of women. ", "The key to controlling your emotions is to give your reason a chance to assert itself. This works especially well with anger management, but the same applies to any 'emotional' situation like anxiety or fear.\n\nIf you find yourself behaving nervously, ask yourself what you think the reason is for it. Often you'll find the reason is ridiculous or over blown and your can 'rearrange' your thoughts. This is typically called 'catastrophizing'. \n\nFor example, a person notices that you're wearing mismatched socks. If you're a highly anxious individual, you might assume that they're negatively judging you automatically and presume the worst possible outcome: The person who noticed the socks decides to stop being your friend, tells everyone else how stupid you are your life is ruined. \n\nThis is, of course, ridiculous. The key is to realize this. Once you understand the cause of your anxiety you can reformulate your thoughts. \n\nThis is what people mean when talk about the \"power of positive thinking\".\n\nIf your default position is to always assume negative thoughts you'll end up feeling that way. It takes a bit of practice to constantly fight your instinct and see the positive side of things, but it can become second nature. \n\n", "i_fuck_for_breakfast is pretty much right on or on the right track. Once you realize how things really are and how insignificant and fragile your existence really is, you start to learn how to not take all this so seriously. Live it up and enjoy life while you have it. It can be taken away any second. Ya just kinda gotta be in the moment.", "I am just like you. I can't take a photo to save my life and every smile looks faked. I tell myself the same joke every time that I heard on Reddit and get a little chuckle every time. How did Harry Potter get down the hill? He fell. Jk Rowking", "Remind yourself that most people are far more concerned with themselves than anyone else. \n\nDon't force yourself to laugh, it just comes out awkward. Instead, respond verbally, \"oh, that was funny!\" Or something similar. I often don't laugh out loud at things I do find funny, so this way people know I do.", "People that take themselves too seriously are the same ones who take life too seriously. Have a stiff drink and watch South Park's episode \"You're Getting Old.\" Repeat with the stiff drinks, as needed.", "Maybe this will help... Try to a handle on your expectations. Like, all of them. Big, small, daily, lifelong. Then see if they make sense. I also agree it's great to make fun of yourself. Hey, why not start cracking jokes about how uptight you are. And it could also be some kind of chemical inbalance that only pills would solve. ", "Answer this question:\n\nWhat's the smallest change in my facial expression that would produce a significant change in my mood? \n\nHardcore mode: answer once every twenty minutes. ", "You have to be comfortable not taking yourself seriously by yourself before you can do it with others. Sing loudly in the shower, do a 10 minute naked dance for yourself in the mirror, tell yourself jokes. In short: be your own best friend. Only then can you be comfortable with others. \n\nSource: made it up, because it worked for me. YMMV.", "The key to a successful picture is mastering the laugh-smile. What does your smile look like when you laugh? That's the smile you want in pictures.", "Read, listen to, or watch a rendition of Carl Sagan's \"Pale Blue Dot\". It's a great narcissism killer, but at the same time makes you take humanity seriously. ", "Just realize the fact that, in the grand scheme of the universe, not one thing anyone ever did in the entire world effected change for the rest of existence. \nYou don't have to become a nihilist but thinking about how small we really are keeps things in perspective. Once you realize you, however unique you may be, are just one out of billions of humans and your actions aren't any more important than the majority of your peers.\n\nSecondly (and seemingly contradictory...) just actually BE happy. Stop worrying about your image and just be in the present moment, when your smile is genuine, people won't mistake you for an asshole.", "It may be an attitude issue rather than a behavioral issue. Are you nervous in social situations? If so, just realize that everyone makes mistakes, puts their foot in their mouth at times, says the wrong thing, or completely misunderstands something. Try to let go of worrying about those things, and just interact with others as if those things aren't possible.", "I just remind myself that everybody I am likely to meet has pooped, everybody has masturbated, and everybody has at some point looked up at the sky and thought 'yes. I want all that to be mine.'.\n\nOr so I think. \n\n... Wait, how does my 'what all humans do' list go 'pooping, wanking, desiring intergalactic domination'?\nWanking is CLEARLY more enjoyable than pooping!", "I had this same problem in the past, and the way I got myself to not take myself so seriously was to learn to be okay with making mistakes. For me, my problem was, because of previous failures, that I was too afraid of messing up a decision that I had to guarantee that my action wouldn't be a mistake. This fear eventually became part of my personality in the form of being a perfectionist, and I took every matter seriously, even if it was trivial. Now, I predict where I may make a mistake by observing my potential outcomes of my actions, and I do my best to relax myself. I try to become comfortable with the idea that everything usually resolves itself in the end with or without my own effort. \n\nTLDR: Practice becoming comfortable with all possibilities of actions and don't get too attached to one outcome.", "I am totally like you. With the jokes, try to take a step back and analysis what they are saying. Responses would usually be to laugh with them but if its not your sense of humour, just smile rather than look blank! Where does the nervousness stem from do you think? \n\nWith regards to taking photographs, take a bit of time to look in the mirror and become aware of your facial muscles. Look up: Duchenne smile. Become aware of the muscle by your mouth (pulled upwards) and the muscles around your eyes (raises the cheeks and gives the crows feet by the eyes). This is a genuine smile but can quite easily be mimicked (just look at celebrities smiles on the red carpet).\n\nPerhaps working on building your confidence, either with online resources, books etc, this will lower your nervousness . . . perhaps even low self esteem?\n\nAll the best!\n\n", "Watch The Office (U.S.). Be Jim. Don't be Dwight.\n\nDon't take it too far, don't copy his personality, but take some pointers from Jim. He's an expert at not taking himself seriously.", "Realise that: \nA) You understand very little in the grand scheme of things - this is normal and is true of everyone, even that really smart guy. \nB) Everyone is embarassed about nearly everything and once you know, it's easier to just ignore. \nC) It never matters in the long run - you will be embarassed about things long after everyone else has forgotten.", "Does it impact food on your table? \n\nDoes it impact a roof overhead?\n\nThen it's just not that important, whatever it is. \n\nThe secret to not looking \"so serious\" in pictures is the eyes. Smile lines, the little wrinkles, those show true joy, so ditch the botox and smile with your eyes, your mouth will follow.\n\nNote, men are viewed sexier when not smiling ironically, so if you are male, don't sweat it.\n\nThere's a pic of me with gritted teeth because the photographer and I were in the midst of arguing, where I appear smiling happy instead.\n\nNote, as we gain more life experiences we find friends die unfairly, bad stuff happens, but we keep getting to enjoy life. I can't tell you how much bad has happened, 'cause who cares? It all. starts to run together. Focus on remembering the good stuff, and be in the moment, enjoying it, to form even more enjoyable times of your life.", "\"Regard all experts as mammals.\"\n\n-Christopher Hitchens\n\nIt is a tad specific in this case but I like to extrapolate it to everyone, especially myself." ]	[ 17, 14, 13, 12, 9, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?", "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?", "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?", "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?", "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?", "How to give a friendly smile to an attractive stranger without grinning like an idiot or looking creepy. I've never been able to do this. When I try, my smile is super awkward and forced. Does anyone have a tip?" ]	[ "This sounds corny and cheesy, but it works. Have nothing but genuine care and compassion for the other person. When you have that, you can't go wrong. \nThis is how I learned ", "Practice on unattractive strangers. You will be surprised at the results shallow brother. - signed 'a brute'", "Practice in a mirror and be genuinely happy to see them, smile with your eyes or your smile will come off as cold. Nobody cares if you end up looking like an idiot; doing exactly that might even make the other person's day. ", "Smile like you're trying not to laugh at something funny you just thought of. That keeps you from flashing the shark-type wild grin and scaring them.", "Pretend you know them. (Just in your head. Don't lie. That's not sexy.) Focus on the moment you're sharing (slow commute, nice weather, whatever) and make the smile about that rather than \"omg I want to bone you.\" Unless you're extremely hot yourself, \"UR HOT CAN WE BONE PLZ\" is not a good opener, even in facial expression form.", "Pretend they aren't an attractive stranger. Pretend they are an old person of the same gender as yourself. How would you smile then? Do that." ]	[ 7, 4, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?", "how to treat nausea after a night of drinking? It's pretty much as the title says, had a great night yesterday drinking but not so great morning. I'm throwing up even if I'm drinking water. Any tips for it to make it better?" ]	[ "Ginger ale, or there are these things called preggy pops they sell at the grocery or pharmacy. They're basically little ginger candies that pregnant ladies take and it helps with morning sickness. My wife used them and they seemed to help. Hope this helps!\n\n", "Have a couple of slices of burnt toast. You most likely have mild alcohol poisoning. The carbon from the toast will help you body to process the toxins a little quicker and settle your nausea.", "Salted crackers and one of the clear sodas, like 7-up, sprite, or ginger ale. Ginger tea also helps. \n\nAnd remember for next time, don't drink til you are throwing up, and hydrate while drinking and after.", "Until you're well enough to go out, salt water can help. GO EASY ON THE SALT. You're looking to replenish some minerals and rehydrate your body, but too much salt is bad. Dilute with room temp/warm water to help absorbing.", "Plenty of sleep, plenty of water and a nice greasy breakfast sandwich. Bacon, egg and cheese or something like it! Good luck!", "You already know that prevention is better than cure but you're asking about now, I get that.\n\nGet yourself to the pharmacy for phenergan (promethazine) or nytol (diphenhydramine) they are both used at low doses for travel sickness and are antiemetic. Higher doses make you drowsy and are used as sleep aids, so check the dose you need with the pharmacist.", "If looking for a short term solution than anything with a high amount of sugar. Although a lot of people are pointing out the dehydration aspect of a hangover, you are actually feeling some of the effects due to low blood sugar. \n\nA can of coke can do wonders, I like to call it red ambulance. \n\nBe cautious though it’s a pick me up that will last a few hours. You should be guzzling water between this to.", "I just tried one of those hydration IV treatments. A subtle bag of saline, they added b12, zofran, and toradol. My hangover was gone in 30 min and I felt amazing", "I discovered Cheers hydrate (it’s a rapid hydration antihangover powder) a couple months ago and it’s been a game changer. Usually I wouldn’t buy into stuff like that, but I wake up feeling just fine and usually I’m someone who pukes very easily the next day!", "Water. Lots of water. Brush your teeth. Exercise. Go for a walk or run or hop on the exercise bike. Just get your blood pumping. Suffer for an hour and you will thank yourself.", "There are a couple preventative measures you can take. If your nights of drinking are similar to mine, this gets a bit difficult. Drink at LEAST a quarter of a water bottle every drink. I usually get every 2 drinks, but trust me. Your tolerance will go up a lot, you’ll have to pee a lot (more for me, I don’t drink beer), and you will likely not have a hangover. Another tip is to just drain a whole 23fl oz bottle just before sleeping, I just always worry I’m going to pee at some point when sleeping. Safe than sorry. \n\nAnd, afterwards, if you have a mild hangover (small headache and stomach pains), eat a solid breakfast sandwich and some chocolate milk (or chocolate milk equivalent). Also a Pedialyte/ Body Armor drink would be good.", "Lots of water with added electrolyte powder. Liquid IV from Costco is the best bc it has OD vitamin B in it.\n\nTo avoid it all together you should take vitamin B the night before and make sure to sub in a water every once in a while.", "Eat properly before you drink heavy (preferably carbs)\n\nAsk for water just before you leave the place of drinking and sip it walking home.\n\nDrink water and eat more (again carbs) when you get home.\n\nGet a decent sleep\n\nYou should be right as rain.\n\nI follow this whenever I go to a club, and I can get up and do stuff by 9am the next day even if I was out till 5 or something." ]	[ 13, 8, 7, 4, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?", "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?", "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?", "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?", "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?", "Efficient way of breaking down and cutting up cardboard boxes So I am a business owner and my product arrives in literally tons of cardboard. I spend a lot of time cutting each one apart with a utility knife so it fits in recycling bins. Is there a specialized tool or technique that can make this an easier/faster task?" ]	[ "Typically you just cut the tapped/sealed edges of the box then fold the box in on itself. Not sure if that is what you are doing?\n\nFind a bigger recycling bin and throw the boxes in whole once the product is removed.\n\nYou can buy a cordless power cutter to speed up the process as well.", "Maybe just use a rotary cutter? Or maybe paper cutting guillotine not sure if it can cut a stack of cardboard tho", "If you’re located in Australia flatten them, load them into your Ute or car and take them to the tip. There’s usually no charge for recycling.", "Hire a large person and designate 2 hours of work a day to stomp on cardboard. That or invest in a compactor.", "Cardboard has one direction where it's easy to fold. Only cut the parts where it's taped and rip those where it's glued, so you can make it plane. Then fold.", "But a cardboard compactor.\nYou basically stack them up inside a machine, a hydraulic press compacts them down, and you the them up and leave them for the bin-men to come and take them away.\nYou still have to open the top and bottom of the boxes, but that's it!" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep rodents out of car hoods? I recently went on a one week trip and came back to find that rodents had made a nest in the hood of my car. I got the damages fixed and cleaned out as much of the poop and residue that I could. Now I am trying to prevent further rodent damage to my car. How do I best go about this? After googling the subject there seems to be a lot of contradicting information on the subject. Especially in regard to use of moth balls, which pose a health risk. I drive this car at least twice a day 5 times a week and come home around 4PM everyday. Parking in a garage is not an option.", "How to keep rodents out of car hoods? I recently went on a one week trip and came back to find that rodents had made a nest in the hood of my car. I got the damages fixed and cleaned out as much of the poop and residue that I could. Now I am trying to prevent further rodent damage to my car. How do I best go about this? After googling the subject there seems to be a lot of contradicting information on the subject. Especially in regard to use of moth balls, which pose a health risk. I drive this car at least twice a day 5 times a week and come home around 4PM everyday. Parking in a garage is not an option.", "How to keep rodents out of car hoods? I recently went on a one week trip and came back to find that rodents had made a nest in the hood of my car. I got the damages fixed and cleaned out as much of the poop and residue that I could. Now I am trying to prevent further rodent damage to my car. How do I best go about this? After googling the subject there seems to be a lot of contradicting information on the subject. Especially in regard to use of moth balls, which pose a health risk. I drive this car at least twice a day 5 times a week and come home around 4PM everyday. Parking in a garage is not an option.", "How to keep rodents out of car hoods? I recently went on a one week trip and came back to find that rodents had made a nest in the hood of my car. I got the damages fixed and cleaned out as much of the poop and residue that I could. Now I am trying to prevent further rodent damage to my car. How do I best go about this? After googling the subject there seems to be a lot of contradicting information on the subject. Especially in regard to use of moth balls, which pose a health risk. I drive this car at least twice a day 5 times a week and come home around 4PM everyday. Parking in a garage is not an option.", "How to keep rodents out of car hoods? I recently went on a one week trip and came back to find that rodents had made a nest in the hood of my car. I got the damages fixed and cleaned out as much of the poop and residue that I could. Now I am trying to prevent further rodent damage to my car. How do I best go about this? After googling the subject there seems to be a lot of contradicting information on the subject. Especially in regard to use of moth balls, which pose a health risk. I drive this car at least twice a day 5 times a week and come home around 4PM everyday. Parking in a garage is not an option." ]	[ "Dude. This IS serious. You need to hire a crack team of ferrets (n.b. not a team of crack ferrets). Those hardasses will work shifts to keep your ride rodent-free. ", "Peppermint oil. Put some under there. They hate it and it smells good. Just keep it off of hot things. Soak a rag in it and tie it to the inside if the hood away from exhaust ports and fan. ", "Frankly, you're lucky they didn't chew up your wiring. For reasons I can't possibly understand, rodents love the rubber insulation on wiring, and sometimes coolant hoses. \n\nIf I were in your shoes, I'd get nasty and set traps. No mercy.", "Irish Spring\n\nI had this same problem a few winters ago. Field mice started posting up under the hood of my car at night (it's warm under there!). Little SOBs ate holes in all my hoses— twice. There was… much cursing. Google was no help. Finally, on a lark, I cut a couple bars of original Irish Spring into thirds and put a few pieces under the hood. It totally worked! Perfectly. And no, I didn't smell it inside the car, not even with heater on. \n\nAlso, unexpected: the pieces just sort of disappear. I was afraid they might melt into a goopy mess under engine/outdoor conditions, but no. They just slowly evaporate. Irish Spring sublimes.\n\nAnyway, yeah. Three to five pieces placed where they won't be dislodged, replaced as the scent fades (about every 2 months?). I did this for a year (one fall/winter), and not only did the mice go away, they never came back. It's been like four winters now. WAY better results than I expected.", "I brother swears to dryer sheets. His house is in the middle of a grove so he has lots of experience." ]	[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Martial Arts The area where I live in as had a surge in gang-related activities, including robberies and assaults. I have always wanted to learn a (or more than one) martial art, and right now seems like a good time to, but I do not know which one. Can you give any reccomendation? The better in combat it is, the better. Cheap-ish classes (my family isn't properly swimming in money) would also be good (I think it depends on each individual dojo or school, I live in Portugal). I am neither particularly strong or agile. Thank you foe your help", "Martial Arts The area where I live in as had a surge in gang-related activities, including robberies and assaults. I have always wanted to learn a (or more than one) martial art, and right now seems like a good time to, but I do not know which one. Can you give any reccomendation? The better in combat it is, the better. Cheap-ish classes (my family isn't properly swimming in money) would also be good (I think it depends on each individual dojo or school, I live in Portugal). I am neither particularly strong or agile. Thank you foe your help", "Martial Arts The area where I live in as had a surge in gang-related activities, including robberies and assaults. I have always wanted to learn a (or more than one) martial art, and right now seems like a good time to, but I do not know which one. Can you give any reccomendation? The better in combat it is, the better. Cheap-ish classes (my family isn't properly swimming in money) would also be good (I think it depends on each individual dojo or school, I live in Portugal). I am neither particularly strong or agile. Thank you foe your help", "Martial Arts The area where I live in as had a surge in gang-related activities, including robberies and assaults. I have always wanted to learn a (or more than one) martial art, and right now seems like a good time to, but I do not know which one. Can you give any reccomendation? The better in combat it is, the better. Cheap-ish classes (my family isn't properly swimming in money) would also be good (I think it depends on each individual dojo or school, I live in Portugal). I am neither particularly strong or agile. Thank you foe your help" ]	[ "Unfortunately, the lack of standards make it hard to simply suggest a martial arts type. The instructor is going to matter more than the art. That means that only people that know your local people can really help. My son had a lot of success in King Fu, but again in was his Sifu that made the difference. If you care, his style was My Jong Law Horn Kung Fu. ", "You probably wont like this but running. Dont fight, its never going to be fair and the risks outweigh the benefits of being a \"hero\". ", "If you train hard, every day to exhaustion and are not fearful of combat, any martial art can be perfectly. good\nideally, take one that has sparring in it. I love Muay thay, but also kickboxing, boxing, taekwondo, bjj.... are all good.\nSparring us extremely useful to get rid of combat anxiety and fear, and\nOne of the main things you need to do is get rid of the fear of combat. You might have gone to doing 10 push ups to 100,maybe you have developed power, good technique.... but if you find yourself in a situation where you need to fight and instead of entering flow you panic and freeze, well, all that training does you no good. ", "I did krav maga for a while, hyper efficient but pretty aggressive. It's not super focused on 'pretty' techniques like a lot of Asian martial arts (not criticism, just stating) and thus allows you to practice effective moves without needing years of experience to pull them off in a way that matters. My instructor always said that your safety was priority and that breaking someone's bones was a secondary concern. Don't necessarily agree with that pov, but it did give me some moves to use.. Plus krav maga focuses a lot on defending from weapons, which is probably a thing you'd want if you are scared of gangs.\n\nAlso obviously my training could vary from what's available there, I don't know if my experience is universal. " ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n", "How do I make time to actually live life? I am 23. Got a job in a corporation as an in-house legal counsel. The job is pretty demanding and I often stay overtime. The job is not bad, pays pretty well and allows me to buy the things I want and live by myself. I also like the work that I do.\n\n\nHowever, I don't have time for anything. I don't have time to read a book, to work out properly, to actually be informed about stuff that happens worldwide PROPERLY, I don't have time to engage in my hobbies, I barely even have time to spend time with my girlfriend. I'd like to know more about politics, human psychology, technology and lots of other subjects, but I don't have time to actually ENGAGE in them without actually staying up late and being extremely tired the next day. \n\n\nI'd also like to continue my studies. There are a few master degrees that I'd like to sign up for but then again I'm afraid I'm going to have even less time now for anything. \n\n\nI can't set up a proper schedule and actually commit to it, because I either get too stressed with my job and ignore other aspects of my life, or I just focus on some things (if I manage to) but completely ignore others, which makes developing myself nearly impossible. I feel like I'm stuck and can't find a balance.\n\n\nSo please reddit, do you have any advice on how to actually live your life and manage your time so that you can actually live and enjoy life and not only \"survive\"?\n\n\n\n" ]	[ "Micro manage your day better. It's tedius but it works. My day goes something like this.\n\nWake up 6-6:30 am. Stretch real good, Have breakfast and take care of the dogs and brush my teeth.\n\n7:30am out the door to drive to work.\n\n8a - 4pm. Work\n\n4-4:30p. Drive home\n\n4:30-5pm take care of dogs and relax in the yard with a pre work out while they play.\n\n5-6pm Work out\n\n6pm-7pm shower, make and eat dinner, meal prep for the next day.\n\n7-10pm Hobby/ socialize time (drawing, video games, tv, reading, texting friends whatever) 40 minutes of fun with 20 minutes of house work between (totaling 1hr of taking care of shit around the house each day it adds up). Also feel free to have a couple drinks during this time period it will really help destress from the work day\n\n10pm- dogs go out one more time and I go to bed.\n\nWeekends are for anything I can't fit into mon-fri. Landscaping, shopping, going out with friends or just larger projects in general.\n\n Then finally as unfortunate as it is I have to use paid time off for bigger things that can only be done during the week. Doctor/vet/ dentist trips, stuff like that.\n\n But anyway micro manage that shit it's how I make it work for me. Then I just remember at the end of the day if I didn't get to something there is always tomorrow. Being a single homeowner and working full time feels overwhelming at first but it's not so bad.", "You could consider FIRE. Financial Independence Retiree Early. R/fire. \n\nBasically invest as much money as you can in the stock market or other assets that bring in additional income. If you make significantly more than you spend then you can try to quickly build up enough assets for you to 'retire' which may be you deciding to work less hours (because you don't need the money) or find a new job or purpose if you don't particularly like where you're at now. Good luck!", "The way I see the situation is that you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Try as you might to micromanage your schedule to give yourself 10-20 minutes here and there for your hobbies and personal development projects but time and scheduling aren’t the main problem, you also have to factor in your energy and focus levels when engaged in those activities alongside with your work. \n\nGiven the nature of your job, commitment and responsibilities will increase with seniority, it’s not going to get easier anytime soon. You should consider the option of finding a new job that offers you a better work-life balance.\n\nAs much as I want to believe that there are actually people who can find meaning and life satisfaction in their job, most people don’t because most jobs entail of being mere cogs in profit machines owned by greedy capitalists in an economy (our economy) that is going further and further downhill in the betterment of humanity. \n\nHowever, I also believe that most people don’t realize truly how little it is in terms of material wealth that we require to be happy and have meaning in life. You don’t not need a well paying job, you only need a job that will support a living that can afford you things that truly makes you happy, things like freedom, relationships, learning and experiencing. So, it’s a either a job with better hours or one with better a job scope that aligns to what makes you happy, both are likely to pay less (in the short-term at least), but it’ll be worth it.", "Show the content of this post to your manager. If they're a good manager then they'll try and help you find a balance. Balance is the key word, you've got to make time for all aspects of life of the entirity of your life will suffer.", "Here's the sad truth. You can't make time. You can spend time, you can waste time, but making it is impossible. Oddly you can't save it either. It goes by whether you use it or not. \n\nWe all get an allotment. 24 hours per day. It is actually quite democratic in that we all get the same amount. You may think that some people get more time because they live longer, they get more days. That's not really true either. All days fall into one of three categories. Past, present, future. The past is gone, used up, you can't get it back so it doesn't count. The future is unknown. You may die tomorrow, you may live 100 years. So for all intents and purposes you can't depend on it so it doesn't count either.\n\nThat just leaves the present. How you spend the present, each moment, is the important thing. \n\nIt sounds from your description as though you have many things you would like to do. Read, study, socialize, romance, and of course work to achieve the opportunity to do that. That's great. But which is MOST important to you, and what did you do TODAY to achieve that? It's not waiting for you down the line (future) it's only here in the present. \n\nIn practical terms I don't have much to offer. From another comment I'm guessing you are working 50-55 hours/week. That's not that bad, and absolutely nothing for a lawyer. If you can't squeeze in the rest of your life in 110 hours a week (plus vacations and holidays) get out of that work and into something else. Did you see the finale of Game of Thrones? Then you've probably thrown away 70 hours right there. Unplug the TV. (or computer or phone, you know what I mean)\n\ntl;dr You get a finite number of hours in your life. Use each one to further your goals. EVERYTHING ELSE is secondary.", "While considering all this other advice:\n\n- better time management\n- committing to less OT\n\nStart planning your career, it'll give you a lot of direction on what's important.. think about what you want in terms of rank, income, knowledge, free time, hobbies, etc...talk to other senior people above you at your bosses level and your boss's boss level and see what their commitment levels are like... A lot of time in big firms, crap rolls down hill, so time may solve some of this. Interview with other firms and see what it's like across the street... Ask the hard questions regarding work life balance and career path to compare the companies.. what would sticking it out for the next 2 years get you? If it would allow you to transfer into a better situation or change to a better company / industry, may be worth it. If you have loans, aim to pay them off in the meantime...\n\nIf you think you won't stay or most people don't stay longer than a few years, even less reason to try and please everyone.... Most people change jobs every 3 years and change professions every 7 years to give perspective.. if you are picking up good skills now and want to go back to school, try aiming for a major that will let you transition into something that will help you meet the goals.. not sure if it's ways true, but aiming for something in government like a patent office could guarantee the hours and work life balance.\n\nIt's true you're in the long haul now until 60ish, but it definitely doesn't have to suck... We live in a great age where you have lots of options and people are challenging the system to get things like work life balance back.", "Hope I am not too late to chime in. \n\n1. I try to do all my chores, like laundry and cleaning, on weekdays. That way a day off is truly a day off.\n\n2. For learning and reading... Audiobooks or podcasts. I am always listening to something while I commute or clean. \n\n3. Outsource what you can. Laundry. Cleaning. \n\n4. Simplify anything you can.... Like the whole concept of Mark Zuckerberg wearing the same thing every day.\n\n5. Be diligent about efficiency at work. So many people waste so much time on small talk or checking their email too much, etc.\n\n6. Go in earlier. I am more productive before everyone else gets there. \n\nHope this helps. You work a really demanding job that might not be sustainable. Just remember that there is no reward at the end of life for how many hours you put in. For some reason we put a premium on insanely long hours and who works the latest. That's not what life is about.", "Hey man kind of similar situation.. definitely micro managing helps me. I have to occupy my time even if it's free time it's planned free time. Helps me actually plan events and allow me to do what makes life worth living. Enjoying it... coming from someone not as busy but going through same thing and trying to learn how to function. Good luck man", "For a lot of those things you wish to learn about, you can find extra time through audiobooks and podcasts. Anything with just audio. \n\nPreparing food? Walking around? Eating alone? Cleaning? Commuting? Working in the yard? Other chores? Have periods of disengaged work?\n\nAll of this and more is found time that you can do while learning by listening to audiobooks or podcasts.", "Don't concern yourself too much with politics. It's a waste of time going down that rabbit hole. You will save yourself many headaches, confusions and time right there.\n\nThing is you do have time you just have to manage yourself better. Everyone has time.", "Another thing... You might not be able to ask for fewer hours, but you can negotiate things like working from home once a week, or one weekend off a month." ]	[ 17, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts.", "How to comfortably remove bandage tape from around my ankle/leg area with ripping leg hairs off? I sprained my ankle the past weekend and I am confident that it's nearly fully healed but I'm being a little bitch because pulling out leg hairs hurts." ]	[ "Wipe the band aid with an alcohol pad or anything with alcohol in it such as an alcohol-soaked cotton ball. The alcohol dissolves the glue. Source: Army medic used to hearing soldiers bitch.", "This won't help you today but next time try this http://www.diamondathletic.com/product;cat,48;item,1807;Tapes-and-Wraps-Prowrap . It's called pro wrap it's like a non adhesive stretch tape you put on first that grips to itself and shrink wraps to your leg. Best of all it usually only costs a dollar and is usually sold beside medical tape. So you tape to the pro wrap and not your leg hairs. Life saver!", "I would try warm water, since most medical tape is not terribly waterproof. you could also try to soak it in rubbing alcohol from the outside which might help dissolve glue", "olive oil the area beforehand. I can't believe it's not butter also works. I play basketball with week ankles and always have to tape", "Use a sharp knife to cut the stretching adhesive all the way around. You may cut some leg hairs but it's much better than just hoping warm water does the trick. You want to pull just a bit, and before it starts hurting run the knife along the seam where the stretched adhesive is", "Peanut butter... The oils In peanut butter help remove Band-Aids, gum from hair,and price stickers that won't come off\n\n", "If you are more worried about the pain than about putting toxic substances on your skin, there are various solvents that will dissolve glue. " ]	[ 15, 5, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Training non-native employees on understanding complex problems. Hi, I work in a technology company and deal with IT related troubleshooting. I train many people on troubleshooting and the functionality of the various products we use. Sometimes I run into employees who have trouble understanding what the problem really is they are working on. Some of this is clearly language gaps (non-native English speakers) and wanted to know if anyone has strategies or experiences getting employees to make progress here.", "Training non-native employees on understanding complex problems. Hi, I work in a technology company and deal with IT related troubleshooting. I train many people on troubleshooting and the functionality of the various products we use. Sometimes I run into employees who have trouble understanding what the problem really is they are working on. Some of this is clearly language gaps (non-native English speakers) and wanted to know if anyone has strategies or experiences getting employees to make progress here." ]	[ "Pictures. I work almost entirely with an offshore QA team and any of my bugs have screen shots and arrows pointing everywhere", "1. slow down. speak calmly, use plain language\n2. whiteboard together. written language is a lot easier for non-native speakers. if the other employee is remote use teamviewer/vnc/etc to show the issue.\n3. use an intermediary. naturally some non-native speakers are better at both languages. \n4. expect blank stares. I assume you are trying to explain detailed and complicated problems. \n\n" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe

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