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"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?",
"How to get the softest, plushest bed available without spending $$$$ I just moved, and bought a mattress from a friend. Turns out it's 'extra firm' and is like sleeping on the floor. I don't have money to burn; any tips or tricks for creating a super-soft bedding environment for cheap? Packing peanuts in a bag, air mattress filled with water, etc?"
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"You can \"upgrade\" your current bed with a mattress topper; any specialized shop should have some variants available, from a thin, firm sheet to super-plushy to memory foam. This will not be the cheapest solution, but far cheaper than buying a whole new mattress (and a lasting solution, too)\n\nI'd advise against bean bags and the likes; bean bags prevent you from moving during the night, as you sink into them and force your limbs and back to stay in one rather rigid position. water filled mattresses without heating are not a good idea either, for obvious reasons.",
"I lived four years in a college dorm with a simple [egg crate mattress](http://www.amazon.com/Duro-Med-Convoluted-Bed-Full-Size-Blue/dp/B000EWZXF6/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1396975374&sr=1-1&keywords=egg+crate+mattress), works wonders.",
"I put a 3\" inch memory foam topper from Costco on my really firm mattress in my camper and now i it's way more comfortable than my latex mattress in my home.",
"check out a tatami or asian floor mat. when i lived in korea i've slept on plenty of them, comfortable and good for your back.\n\nI sleep in a full sized bed now that's very expensive because you really should invest in your sleep in my opinion since you spend a 3rd of your life doing it.\n\nBut you can find something like a tatami mat for pretty cheap online. Not free but less expensive than a nice mattress.",
"Memory foam topper I'd definitely where it's at. Get a think one and put it on your rock hard bed, chances are it'll feel better than most beds. If it's still not plush enough, but some cheapo mattress that isn't hard...",
"Call up a mattress supplier. Serta, sealy, Simmons. And ask for a sales reps contact. Call them and make your case. They will most likely just sell you one @ cost. Don't buy @ retail..... Ever... Cost is much different than retail...... Ripoff industry...",
"One kind of pro trick I used in college. If you are sleeping on a twin sized mattress, maybe even a full sized. The best and most effective bang for your buck is to get a king sized mattress pad. What I would do is basically cut this mattress pad in half, and put one half on top the the other. Essentially with a 1.5 inch mattress pad I was able to get 3 inches of very soft pad that made all the difference in the world. All for the cost of around $40 bucks from Walmart was a bargain for me. ",
"Grow a patch of grass in your room. Give it time, water and love, and soon you'll have a soft bed. \nJust kidding. But begging old people for an old mattress is an easy way out.",
"Girlfriend and I had an ancient matress that we hated, so we bought a futon hoping it would be better. It was for about two weeks... so then, we put the old matress under the futon matress and it's the most comfortable thing ever... the futon matress wasn't working because you could feel the bars, but it's great now that it's got the solid mattress underneath. ",
"Get a memory foam mattress topper! AMAZING. I bought one for my ancient IKEA mattress. It's in excellent condition, I've had it since I was 16. Mid 20s now, and can't really afford an entirely new bed, but dropping $100 for a memory foam mattress topper has extended the life and use of the mattress. Make sure it's 100% though, some places just put the memory foam on top of cheaper shitty foam. I ordered mine on overstock.com."
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"How to prevent food sticking to the bottom of my stainless steel pans? Happens all the time on my electric stove cooking eggs. I heat on medium, spray some pam, and eggs still stick.",
"How to prevent food sticking to the bottom of my stainless steel pans? Happens all the time on my electric stove cooking eggs. I heat on medium, spray some pam, and eggs still stick.",
"How to prevent food sticking to the bottom of my stainless steel pans? Happens all the time on my electric stove cooking eggs. I heat on medium, spray some pam, and eggs still stick.",
"How to prevent food sticking to the bottom of my stainless steel pans? Happens all the time on my electric stove cooking eggs. I heat on medium, spray some pam, and eggs still stick."
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"Kk listen up mouth breathers.\n\nHOW TO KEEP SHIT FROM STICKING TO YOUR PAN\n\n#1 Clean that shit. Whatever surface u use to cook on must be free of foreign particles and scratch free.\n\n#2 Use a HIGH BURNING POINT oil like canola. Blends, peanut etc. The second u go over the temp of your oil the second it loses it's protective qualities it breaks down and carbonizes.\n\n#3 put pan on your burner and crank the heat all the way\n\n#4 add oil enough to coat the surface evenly.\n\n#5 get eye level with top of pan, watch till u see it JUST STARTING TO SMOKE.\n\n#6 throw in what ever it is u want to cook.\n\n#7 DO NOT MOVE YOUR SHIT TILL IT IS READY TO FLIP\n\n#8 adjust heat so your shit does not burn while you wait for it to be ready to flip cause it browned.\n\n(if u saute just keep heat cranked and keep your shit in constant motion)",
"Get a good non-stick pan, or you might be fighting a losing battle. If the pan looks clean after each use, you don't need to wash it in soap and water as that takes off any natural non stick oils. Just give it a thorough wipe with paper towels. Use plenty of oil and make sure it is hot first. You don't need to actually eat it, you can take out your food and drain on kitchen paper before eating. ",
"I haven't found a foolproof way, but I have found that raising the temperature slowly helps. Start low, and gradually increase the temp. ",
"Seriously, pisses me off how so many people do not know how to cook. U eat everyday, you shit every day.\n\nHow come u learned how to wipe your ass?"
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"Excessive armpit sweating I just went through an interview wearing a grey shirt, big mistake. The pit stain extended almost halfway down my arm, and it is specifically only on the right side. Left armpit sweats as well, but no where near as much as right right. Help!",
"Excessive armpit sweating I just went through an interview wearing a grey shirt, big mistake. The pit stain extended almost halfway down my arm, and it is specifically only on the right side. Left armpit sweats as well, but no where near as much as right right. Help!",
"Excessive armpit sweating I just went through an interview wearing a grey shirt, big mistake. The pit stain extended almost halfway down my arm, and it is specifically only on the right side. Left armpit sweats as well, but no where near as much as right right. Help!",
"Excessive armpit sweating I just went through an interview wearing a grey shirt, big mistake. The pit stain extended almost halfway down my arm, and it is specifically only on the right side. Left armpit sweats as well, but no where near as much as right right. Help!",
"Excessive armpit sweating I just went through an interview wearing a grey shirt, big mistake. The pit stain extended almost halfway down my arm, and it is specifically only on the right side. Left armpit sweats as well, but no where near as much as right right. Help!"
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"I asked my personal trainer about excessive sweating (I also have trouble with it) and they referred me here (not a very useful PT, but whatever) \n\nEnjoy :) \n\nhttp://m.wikihow.com/Avoid-Sweating-Too-Much",
"Botox. It was the only thing that helped me at all. I spent well over one hundred dollars just on different deodorants that only burned my underarms profusely and did nothing to stop my sweating. As a teenaged girl I was near suicide based on people judging me and saying I stunk (my sweat hasn't ever smelled) and that I didn't bathe (also completely untrue). About 50 shots of botox in each arm every few years or so makes me feel and look like a normal person. ",
"After you apply deodorant, apply a light dusting of baking soda on top of it. Alternatively, rubbing alcohol will also stop excessive sweating when applied topically",
"Finally a topic that I can speak to. For me, it's a 2 pronged attack.\n\n1) a clinical deodorant, like degree or certain-dri. It doesn't solve the issue completely, but it does help to limit some of the sweat. The hard part is remembering to put it on at night, since thats the recommended time of application.\n\n2) Ultra-thin maxi pads. This has been a game changer for me. I've only started trying this a few months ago, but i'm mad that I never tried it earlier. You need a super tight undershirt which will help hold them in place. It's annoying - i'm a male and constantly have to buy pads (I use a minimum of 2 a day, and can easily be 4 or 6), find ways to discreetly put them in, throw out the old ones without people wondering why there's so many pads in the mens bathroom, etc. With that said, its been the best solution i've come across. They definitely keep my shirt dry. \n\nYou'll have to figure out the best methods for you as far as keeping them in place - they'll shift around from normal movement, so i've experimented with double sided tape, safety pins... but the ability to wear whatever I want without having to worry about sweat stains is worth the extra effort. I used to have to plan my entire wardrobe and shopping habits around what will effectively hide my sweat.\n\nI've always found that if anything works to block the sweat from my armpits, the sweat will just come out other places. Like my lower back, my forehead, and even my hands get all clammy. So I actually like that sweat still comes out of my armpits, its just getting absorbed into the pad. \n\nAnd honestly, if someone realized I was stuffing my pits with pads, admitting to that is still less embarrassing than enormous armpit sweat stains daily.",
"Not trying to be a dick, but there's far too many of these posts that can be answered through Google in a matter of seconds or minutes."
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"Which stickers should be removed from an Amazon box? They have anywhere from 3-10 stickers and of course they're impossible to get off. Most are various bar codes I assume are for shipping. I always rip my name and address off, but that main sticker is the toughest to peel and there's usually a bar code or two left over. \n\nWhich stickers should absolutely be removed to protect my personal information?",
"Which stickers should be removed from an Amazon box? They have anywhere from 3-10 stickers and of course they're impossible to get off. Most are various bar codes I assume are for shipping. I always rip my name and address off, but that main sticker is the toughest to peel and there's usually a bar code or two left over. \n\nWhich stickers should absolutely be removed to protect my personal information?",
"Which stickers should be removed from an Amazon box? They have anywhere from 3-10 stickers and of course they're impossible to get off. Most are various bar codes I assume are for shipping. I always rip my name and address off, but that main sticker is the toughest to peel and there's usually a bar code or two left over. \n\nWhich stickers should absolutely be removed to protect my personal information?"
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"If just recycling I wouldn't remove anything.\n\nIf you're wanting to re-use it, sharpie (vertically!) over part of the bar code. Don't \"cross it out\" horizontally, as those can still be read by machines.",
"Do you mean to reuse the box or what? I never remove anything for recycling, if that’s what you’re talking about. For reuse to ship something else, you have to remove any/all codes and labels, to my understanding.\n\nBtw use a cheap scraper razor blade [like these](https://www.amazon.com/Pack-Razor-Blades-Replacement-Blades-Single/dp/B07NS7BK45) and you can get any label off peeled off cardboard with ease, worst comes to worst peel off the top layer of the cardboard and put the new label and/or plan packaging tape in its place for strength.",
"The best way to remove any labels from a cardboard box is with a heat gun. \n\nThe 2nd best way is with a hair dryer. \n\nUse the heat to warm up the adhesive, and then peel the label off the box."
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"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position.",
"How to get rid of foot cramps I've heard the good ol' walking on it, but when I try, I either,\n\n1. Fall over\n\n2. End up leaning on whatever is in my reach in a defenseless position."
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"Flex the opposite muscles by curling up your toes and pressing them down with the opposite foot. \nUsing the principal of reciprocal inhibition, when enduring a cramp, try to flex the opposite muscle, the motor neurons will cause the nervous system to relax the cramping muscle.\n",
"I curl up my toes with my hands (in the form of a fist if it were your hands) this makes the cramp last like 2 seconds. Of course, this can only happen if you have no shoes on",
"Tug on the lower part of your second toe. The one next to your big toe. Pull it out/up for a second or two. For me, it works every time. Your mileage may vary.",
"Prevent the cramps by strengthening the bottom of your foot. The best way I know is to do a little \"barefoot running\". I recommend a $5-10 pair of aqua socks (instead of those $100+ toe shoes). Start with no more than 400 meters a day. And in fact, I would not recommend exceeding that for several months. (BTW, I don't think potassium levels have anything to do with muscular cramping. I think that is a myth.)",
"Perhaps unhelpful, but you could prevent muscle cramps in the first place by increasing your potassium intake. It's easiest to do this by eating more potatoes or bananas.",
"This sounds like it might be plantar fasciitis, you should talk to your doctor about it. I have it and i keep it under control by doing simple exercises to lengthen and strengthen the muscle, like rolling your foot on a small ball. ",
"Calcium magnesium suppliments work well if you have chronic cramping, my dad has awful leg cramping after a lower back injury and he feels it when he forgets to take his cal mag. Upping your water intake can help too."
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"Dealing with a coworker who unconsciously/unintentionally clicks her jaw when she talks/eats I have to work in a small conference room with a coworker for the next ninety days, and when she talks or eats, her jaw clicks and crunches, to the point of distraction. When she is thinking, she subconsciously cracks her joints. Any tips on trying to put it from my mind? My boss is making us use the conference room so that we might work collaboratively, so headphones are not an option. ",
"Dealing with a coworker who unconsciously/unintentionally clicks her jaw when she talks/eats I have to work in a small conference room with a coworker for the next ninety days, and when she talks or eats, her jaw clicks and crunches, to the point of distraction. When she is thinking, she subconsciously cracks her joints. Any tips on trying to put it from my mind? My boss is making us use the conference room so that we might work collaboratively, so headphones are not an option. ",
"Dealing with a coworker who unconsciously/unintentionally clicks her jaw when she talks/eats I have to work in a small conference room with a coworker for the next ninety days, and when she talks or eats, her jaw clicks and crunches, to the point of distraction. When she is thinking, she subconsciously cracks her joints. Any tips on trying to put it from my mind? My boss is making us use the conference room so that we might work collaboratively, so headphones are not an option. "
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"Maybe have a fan running.\n\nIf that's too distracting use a spray bottle to spray water on her when she makes those sounds. That way she will learn.",
"As someone who has Ehlers Danlos Syndrome and a jaw that pops in and out of place/grinds daily and has ZERO control of it- I'm guessing she probably can't help it. It's medical. Possibly even a collagen deficiency (if she's like me) and no treatments will help. I was told even surgery wouldn't help... so..... get over it? I mean that as nicely as possible....",
"Ask your boss for larger conference room with sound dampers and to place you as far apart as possible.\n\nI bet there is no joint cracking that you can hear in properly soundproofed room from 10-15 meters. But you are still in the same room and can communicate verbally if needed."
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"how to stop feeling so lonely? Two weeks ago my long time girlfriend and I broke up, this devastated me and have been struggling to cope since. \n\nI've gotten on top of it the best I can, but I've been feeling so empty and lonely no matter what I'm doing. I've hung out with friends and family, but after an hour or so the loneliness comes back and my thoughts start weighing on my mind heavily. \n\nAny tips or advice you can provide would be helpful, redditors.",
"how to stop feeling so lonely? Two weeks ago my long time girlfriend and I broke up, this devastated me and have been struggling to cope since. \n\nI've gotten on top of it the best I can, but I've been feeling so empty and lonely no matter what I'm doing. I've hung out with friends and family, but after an hour or so the loneliness comes back and my thoughts start weighing on my mind heavily. \n\nAny tips or advice you can provide would be helpful, redditors.",
"how to stop feeling so lonely? Two weeks ago my long time girlfriend and I broke up, this devastated me and have been struggling to cope since. \n\nI've gotten on top of it the best I can, but I've been feeling so empty and lonely no matter what I'm doing. I've hung out with friends and family, but after an hour or so the loneliness comes back and my thoughts start weighing on my mind heavily. \n\nAny tips or advice you can provide would be helpful, redditors."
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"Do the things that you haven't done before.\n\nLook at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself what do you want. \n\nI had the same thing happening to me a couple of months ago, first few days were rough.. \n\nBut then I started to go out with my friends.. Started going to the gym 5 days a week, started my own build pc project, started to eat healthy, take time to see all TV series and movies I couldn't see when I was with my ex and I went to play all the games that passed by. \n\nOne day.. I wen to my best friend party and I met a girl and we have been friends ever since and I think it's leading to a good relationship sooner or later.. If not it's a great friend I have.",
"Undertake some charity work where you can practically help other folks less fortunate than yourself; give yourself some time to regain some genuine perspective over your predicament.",
"1. Say \"beep, boop\" softly out loud to yourself. \n\n2. Repeat until you smile. \n\n3. Repeat as often as needed."
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"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?",
"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?",
"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?",
"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?",
"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?",
"How to maintain good posture while walking and wearing a backpack? I tend to lean forward both with my head/neck and my whole body. My backpack isn't even that heavy. How do I fix this?"
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"Slide a popsicle stick through your belt buckle such that it sticks up over your pants a bit. Arrange it so the stick pokes you in the gut when you bend over, giving you a reminder to stand up straight. For faster results, use a steak knife.",
"1. Put another pack on the front.\n\n2. Fake a back injury and have your friend carry your pack for you.",
"I know this isn't necessarily what you wanna hear but you just have to make a conscious effort. I always catch myself leaning forward to but then tell myself to stop. ",
"Try tightening the straps on your bag. The tighter, the harder it is to slouch. Also make sure you don't carry around unnecessary weight. Don't carry 5 classes worth of text books if you're only going to use 1 or 2 for the day. ",
"I'm my times traveling here and there, I've worn my backpack in front as to avoid being pick pocketed. I've noticed that this helps me maintain my posture since my scapula and traps are forced to stay a bit contacted, which keeps my head up and upper back un hunched. Also my lower back engages to fight my torso from getting pulled forward by the weight of the back pack. \n\nAnd yeah, it's a little bit harder for people to to steal your shit. ",
"Make sure that your straps are snug but not too tight, this ensures that your backpack is close to your body and not displace your center of gravity too much (probably what causes the leaning)"
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"How to deal with a friend's friend I have a group of friend and we are all really close. One of the people in my group has a childhood friend that I cannot fucking stand. I feel like he just has it out for me. I've gotten to the point where I want to make him pick up his teeth, but I've never actually done it. Most of the time I just ignore the shit he says.",
"How to deal with a friend's friend I have a group of friend and we are all really close. One of the people in my group has a childhood friend that I cannot fucking stand. I feel like he just has it out for me. I've gotten to the point where I want to make him pick up his teeth, but I've never actually done it. Most of the time I just ignore the shit he says.",
"How to deal with a friend's friend I have a group of friend and we are all really close. One of the people in my group has a childhood friend that I cannot fucking stand. I feel like he just has it out for me. I've gotten to the point where I want to make him pick up his teeth, but I've never actually done it. Most of the time I just ignore the shit he says.",
"How to deal with a friend's friend I have a group of friend and we are all really close. One of the people in my group has a childhood friend that I cannot fucking stand. I feel like he just has it out for me. I've gotten to the point where I want to make him pick up his teeth, but I've never actually done it. Most of the time I just ignore the shit he says."
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"If you are really close to your friends, they probably know you enough that they can distinguish between people they know: those you will and will not appreciate and for what reasons.\n\nIf they don't, get them to know you better in that regard but don't point out to that friend's friend in a group gathering, ever.\n\n+ Either talk to the dude and confront him with your issue while avoiding all rudeness, or\n\n+ (I would recommend this one, but it takes time) make sure your friends draw parallels between \"the kind of people /u/BrickTop47 likes and doesn't like\" and that guy. Don't ignore the issue, it will damage your relationship with the others because you focus a lot on your negativity and negative people repulse others.\n\n+ else, apply that kind of logic to the guy in 1 to 1 situation, but I don't have enough background to know if that would be possible/profitable for you because we don't know if you know him at all.\n",
"I had a friend of a friend like this. His name was Jack. Had the same feeling too, he was always trying to out do me in whatever and always had to be in control. There's so much more BS but I just can't be arsed to explain. I eventually just gave up on seeing them both in general. My friend asked me how comes I don't hang with them anymore and I just explained to him I just can't be around Jack, cannot stand the negativity. Eventually my friend noticed that Jack is in fact just a waste of space and not worth his time too.",
"Counter all the shitty stuff he says with nice remarks. Dont make it sound to sarcastic though or people will know, as long as you know you dont mean it. Everyone else will think \"wow this guys really nice\", but in reality youre just saying fuck you to them. You can also try talking to your other friends about this guy, once they know the way you feel about him itll be easier for them to see that the way he acts and what he says isnt right.\nGood luck, im sort of in the same boat. :/",
"Be nice, wait for him to say something you don't like. \nGive one warning. \nIf it happens again\nBreak his face."
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"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel.",
"I want to see the world and travel, what should I know? Pretty straight forward, what should i know before a world travel? or really any kind of travel."
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"Get a passport, inform yourself of visa requirements (long beforehand), get a cr",
"Always have a means to get home on your person, unless you don’t mind getting stuck somewhere for the rest of your life.\n\nAnd never carry something for someone else as a favor.",
"Lessons I've learned: NFC cr",
"Travel light. Like, at least half of what you think you need.\n\nHere's a LPT: pick up all of your travel bags, and sprint 100 meters. If you don't make it, you packed too much.",
"Pointing and gawking makes you look like an obvious tourist, and a potential target. If you want to blend in with the locals, keep your head down.",
"Heavily research places before you go, reserve things in advance. Watch some YouTube videos of things to do, things not to do. \n\nVERY important watch videos of common scams in the area, for example in London they have the gypsy rose scam and the betting scam. Pretty much if you are going somewhere be VERY knowledgeable about where you are going and a little bit of how things work. \n\nBrownie points if you learn their greetings, locals appreciate tourists more if you greet them formally in their language and then ask for directions or a menu, rather than you assuming they know English. In Czech Republic I would say dobri den which is “good day” when I walked into a bar or restaurant and the locals just appreciate the small gesture.",
"You can work on organic farms all over the world in exchange for free room and board. WWOOF : World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms.",
"Try to get a SIM card with a data plan that will work in all the countries you plan on visiting. This will help immensely with translating apps, GPS, hotel booking, and public transit on google maps. The more different the culture and language from your own, the more this will help you.",
"The laws are not the same everywhere. Your rights where you live may not be extended to you everywhere you may travel",
"Eat where a lot of people are eating, ideally locals. Never eat somewhere if you're the only one there.",
"Don't worry too much people will generally help you succeed and be proud of where they are and happy to show you things. I've been to 90 countries and the only one I really found difficult was Cuba because of the money. Everywhere else a cr",
"Do not be the proverbial 'ugly foreigner' (was going to say ugly American, but from a quick peak at your post history I do not believe you are from the States.) In other words, respect the locals and their customs, don't step into the middle of the street to take a photo ('cause some places will happily just run you down), be polite, in some places you do not give a card or cash directly but put it on a small plate. So do some research before you go. Many churches require the ladies to cover their shoulders. \n\nStep away from the purely touristy spots, yeah they are interesting but you do not get to know a place by mingling with a bunch of sweaty tourists from 20 different countries. Pop into an out of the way restaurant, this is where I've had some of my most fabulous meals.\n\nIf you are trying to do things on a budget, look up hostels. They can be very cheap but can be very austere and some have common sleeping rooms. \n\nTake a hike... There at some gorgeous places to visit that are not in the cities",
"Always print your itinerary, make a copy of your passport and any other travel docs, and leave this with someone you trust. And always carry a pen on your flights."
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"how to fix micro USB cables? After a while every USB cable I use to charge my phone seems to stop working. When plugged in, no contact is made and the phone does not charge unless I wriggle the plug. How can this be fixed or avoided?",
"how to fix micro USB cables? After a while every USB cable I use to charge my phone seems to stop working. When plugged in, no contact is made and the phone does not charge unless I wriggle the plug. How can this be fixed or avoided?",
"how to fix micro USB cables? After a while every USB cable I use to charge my phone seems to stop working. When plugged in, no contact is made and the phone does not charge unless I wriggle the plug. How can this be fixed or avoided?",
"how to fix micro USB cables? After a while every USB cable I use to charge my phone seems to stop working. When plugged in, no contact is made and the phone does not charge unless I wriggle the plug. How can this be fixed or avoided?"
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"I've repaired a few cables but they make it so tough it's not worth it. They usually mold the plastic around the end that you have to cut it to expose the points to re solder the wire. The wire is usually so tiny and cheap you can't get a good solder joint.\nI usually recommend two options. Buy really good cables or buy a whole bunch of cheap ones. \n\n",
"A firm connection is made by those little springy, pointy tab things. You can bend them back out for a bit more grip.",
"The problem may not be with the cords. The problem may be with your phone. There may be a loose connection.",
"If you're constantly destroying cables you're probably buying cheap cables and abusing them.\n\nBuy better cables. Hold them by the connectors when inserting & removing them. Stop trying to wind them up into tight coils.",
"Get a pin and dig around inside the charging port. I've done this with a couple of iPhones and they've all had lint and other stuff inside. After digging around for a while, I dogged out a fair bit and then the phone started charging properly again."
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"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!",
"Most effective way to learn a second language I am currently done with college and working full-time. I've always wanted to learn Spanish and currently have the time/strong desire to do so. \n\nI use the Duolingo App and am considering either a community college course or a class through a local Spanish language community center. I've also thought about Rosetta Stone. \n\nAnyway, anyone have any advice on taking up a second language? I took 4 years of French in HS if that's pertinent. Thanks!\n\nSide Note: this is the first time I've posted on this subreddit, so my apologies if I didn't \"flair\" my post. If someone wants to give some constructive feedback on what this is I'd appreciate it!"
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"The absolute best way is to live in the country for a while. Failing that, pay the extra for a good teacher. You'll learn much faster from a teacher than you would a book.",
"Duolingo.com is free and it rivals any other language learning software. I'm almost fluent in German and there were many things on there that I didn't even know. It's amazing and actually a lot of fun! You level up and earn points and can compete with friends. There is a phone app that is also free and just as good as the website. It makes you translate, fill in the blanks, and even speak your way to learning another language. Hooray for languages!",
"If you really want to learn a new language you need to preety much make it your primary language for everything you can. And activities in your own language should really take a hit.\n\nSo from now on your spare alone should be filled with activities involving your new language. You are now a Spanish conoceur of cinema, music, and literature. Re-read your favourite books translated into spanish, watch the argentinian re-makes of your favourite sitcoms, change the language settings on everything you own to Español.\n\nSeriously learn as many lyrics you can, dictionary at hand, and sing them over and over, get into Trabalenguas and say them thousands of times, practice in front of the mirror.\n\nDo all of these things for the rest of your life and you'll learn spanish in no time.\n",
"Don't use Rosetta Stone. I could go off on a rant about them but basically they will not teach you anything effectively or quickly because their teaching model is supposed to mimic \"how children learn,\" which is to say, with pictures and at a very very low level. Rosetta Stone sucks.",
">LPT Request: Most effective way to learn a second language\n\nPractice it. A lot.\n\nYour 4 years of French in HS are not worthless (French and Spanish are both Romance languages). But high school language classes don't teach how to speak a language. They teach lists of vocab words and grammar rules.\n\nIf you want to speak/read/comprehend a language, then practice speaking/reading/comprehending it.\n\n(Also studying grammar rules and vocab won't hurt.)",
"if you can afford it, try rosetta stone computer program, its fantastic. the army uses it as the initial training for a language for soldiers in intelligence jobs. many people that have learned in college have a beef with it mainly because they cant admit to themselves that they wasted 2 years going to classes when they could have learned a language in half the time with greater ease on their home computer. also i think theyre judging Older versions of the program. the new versions are very well rounded. teaching you grammar, punctuation, pronuciation, proper spelling, everything. its 9/10s as comprehensive, with 1/10 the time and effort. \n\ndont get discouraged if some jackass language major that tells you its no good because it doesnt teach you a full national cultural history like a college course... it will make you more than fluent enough to be understood and understand what youre hearing, (the speech recognition software is actually very detailed) and with just a little practice with a a native speaker or a vacation trip you ll be fully fluent in no time you'll just have an accent to a native speaker big whoop. (theres also a difficulty slider for what you say into the program that when on high will curb you of an accent too) its MUCH better for someone that wants to casually learn a language but doesnt want to spend 2 years of college tuition and time to get there. and its leaps and BOUNDS better than learning it via a book. ",
"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z24IrjEPEwM\nAnd Spanish is yours......seriously though it makes it so easy. Ive found quite a few other good tips but this definitely made the biggest difference. Just give it a chance for at least a half an hour.\nOh and the annoying beep goes away quickly. ",
"I used Memrise due to high popularity and $0 cost. to learn Japanese and Spanish and its a go-at-your-own-pace kind of program. I think its really nifty because of how the learning program is designed, you'll learn new information by ('planting a seed') , you go back to it ('watering the plant') and incorporate it with new lessons. As you progress, you'll see these seeds turn into flowers in your lesson planning. If you're considering learning Mexico Spanish, I found a course that a few hundred thousand are using on Memrise [Click Me!](http://www.memrise.com/course/79389/learn-basic-mexican-spanish/).",
"I lived in France for two years and had zero experience in French prior to that. The best way is complete immersion. Use the basic language you know and talk to people. Learn how to ask questions such as \"how do you say\" and then describe with body language. If you want to put more effort into it, get a blank notebook that's tabbed a-z and read the dictionary. Highlight any words you use in your everyday vocab and write them in your own personal dictionary. The more you reference this, the more it sticks and you'll be throwing away the notebook before you know it. \n",
"For Spanish, get a job in a restaurant kitchen where the workers speak Spanish. Then read up on your own, youtube videos for pronunciation, Duolingo for more practice. "
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"How to get a song out of your head? I've had \"Cruise\" by Florida Georgia Line stuck in my head for almost a week now. Problem is, I only know about 6 words. Best strategy to get a song out of your head?",
"How to get a song out of your head? I've had \"Cruise\" by Florida Georgia Line stuck in my head for almost a week now. Problem is, I only know about 6 words. Best strategy to get a song out of your head?",
"How to get a song out of your head? I've had \"Cruise\" by Florida Georgia Line stuck in my head for almost a week now. Problem is, I only know about 6 words. Best strategy to get a song out of your head?",
"How to get a song out of your head? I've had \"Cruise\" by Florida Georgia Line stuck in my head for almost a week now. Problem is, I only know about 6 words. Best strategy to get a song out of your head?"
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"Listen to another song you like, then another. Try to choose music that you have emotion associations with (like \"our\" song, or \"drinking\" song) and it'll help. Music is easily associative, and half of the problem of having a song stuck in your head is the weird mood it puts you in. Forget the mood, forget the song.",
"Solve 5 character anagrams.\nhttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2298444/Got-song-stuck-head-Solving-anagram-help-rid-it.html",
"I've heard this trick before. Go and actually listen to the entire song once through. This will help your brain from looping parts of the song and trying to remember the next verse/line. :)",
"Solution: Sing [Mahna Mahna] (http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&ved=0CDQQtwIwAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D8N_tupPBtWQ&ei=QdCBUbPdG8yuigKW_4HoDQ&usg=AFQjCNGUqMwMAbogpBNeUwmc3Y73Hq-Yww&sig2=1EJnGd7Rll-I0aCPnWkdTg&bvm=bv.45960087,d.cGE). Works every time. It will then be stuck in your head for the rest of your life. You're welcome."
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"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help.",
"Acne I'm a senior in high school. I took acutane my freshman year and it cleared my face for 2 years. Now it's coming back, I presume it's because of my 17 year old hormones. I shower every morning, wash my face at night and change my sheets and pillowcase every 2 days. Please help."
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"* Use a facial scrub.\n* Don't stress. Seriously, stress makes your skin sweatier and oilier, and makes you get more zits.\n* Go to bed at a sensible time. This will also help with the stress.\n* When all else fails, use a power-sander.\n* Ignore that last one.",
"I also took accutane freshman year (8 months) and had it clear up my acne for about 2 years. My dermatologist suggested I do another round and I did. This time it cleared up significantly faster (1 month ish), and the acne never came back (age 24 now). My suggestion, talk to your dermatologist and see if another round of accutane can help you.",
"I bought witch hazel at the dollar store and I dab (don't wipe!) it on my trouble spots twice a day. It seems to be helping.",
"For some people (including me), acne is at least partially dietary. From my limited understanding of it, here's how it works:\n\nYes, bacteria + the resulting immune response is the most proximate thing that gives you acne. However, every inch of your skin is jam-packed with bacteria unless you've recently sterilized it. Some people, therefore, must be more likely to have cloggable pores. The pores are the bigger issue for them, not the bacteria.\n\nWhat do do about the pores? Accutane can help, and it does sound like you went on it without an adverse reaction. Maybe it will help again, but BE VERY CAREFUL. That shit can fuck you up -- it did for me (and my acne came back too, btw). But maybe you're resistant, so if you insist, you're more likely to be safe taking it than I would be. Other things that can help keep your pores somewhat unclogged are the Retin-A family of creams. They make your skin cells divide faster so there's more turnover and less dead skin clogging the pores, I believe. However, that's not enough to help some people.\n\nThat brings us to diet. I'm not sure of the mechanisms of this, and I'm not sure anyone does. This is not a well-researched subject, which means we don't know the answer because people haven't looked into it yet. It DOESN'T mean that the answer is unknown because people have looked and failed to find the connection -- this isn't like the autism-vaccine link (which has been looked into and disproven).\n\nAfter 15+ years of struggling with acne, I finally figured out that it was diet for me that causes it. Here's the pattern: I get acne from four main things: dairy products, sugary foods, a ton of stress, and \"that time of the month.\" There's nothing I can do about the stress and \"time of the month,\" but I can control what I eat and that actually gets rid of most of my acne. I don't do research in this field, but I believe what all four of these things have in common are hormonal surges. For dairy and sugar/carbs, the hormone is insulin. I am going to completely avoid explaining how this chain of events could end up clogging your pores because I'd just make myself sound silly (could they just sit in the pores, for those of us who have unluckily shaped pores, and clog them shut? Beats me). But if anyone has a hypothesis or knows any pertinent research, I'd love to hear it.\n\nBut the mechanism doesn't matter a single bit to your main goal here. If your diet gives you zits, just change your diet and don't give a fuck about the rest. Here's how to figure out IF food (specifically, food that gives you insulin spikes) is what's causing your acne. Cut out all dairy and cut WAY back on sugar and breads/pasta for about two weeks. For just the time of the experiment, use artificial sweeteners. Eat vegetables and potatoes, but skip the pasta and bread. Avoid fruit juices and sodas with sugar. Look at the dietary labels on processed stuff and go with things that have below 40g of sugars (or, better, avoid it altogether). The point here is to avoid for a few weeks any foods that will give you a huge insulin spike. That's the amount of time it will take your existing acne bumps to start healing. If you do this right AND an insulin response is the reason for some of your acne, then you'll notice a much clearer face in two weeks because you won't be getting new bumps and your existing bumps will have healed. Once that happens, it will be easy to start adding in foods to figure out which ones actually give you zits. You'll know, believe me, because when you eat something that gives you zits, you'll see some appear within 6-12 hours of eating it and then you might keep getting more for a couple of days. They'll take a few weeks to heal. But if you are eating stuff all the time that gives you zits, you won't notice the cause and effect because the food is a constant input and the zits seem like a constant output. I used to drink 4 glasses of milk a day and probably 70% of my diet was bread-based for years and I never know that my diet was causing most of my zits because I never thought to change it!\np.s. if on your diet you get lightheaded, you might have passed into ketosis. This is nothing to worry about and will pass soon. You can get out of ketosis by eating carbs in the form of fruit, veggies, or potatoes. Or go all the way into it, which isn't harmful. There's more info here: reddit.com/r/keto. You can also check out /r/paleo, which is another diet that emphasizes low amounts of sugar/breads/pasta. They might give you meal ideas for your two trial weeks.\n\nGood luck, and don't be afraid to experiment on yourself. Life is all about figuring out how to live in our own skins; none of us are \"normal\" :)\n\nTL;DR: long-winded advice about how some of us have unlucky, easily cloggable pores. Then some advice for how to do an experiment on yourself to figure out if your diet is making your pores clog worse.",
"If you're a girl, you could try getting a prescription for birth control. That helped me a lot with my breakouts, and life is better when that stuff is regulated.\n\nMy bf got a prescription for generic Bactrim, which seems to be working well for him. However, considering you were prescribed something as strong as Acutane in the past, I'm thinking this won't be as effective for you.\n\nAnd don't over-exfoliate your skin. ",
"My biggest tips for getting rid of it (Some you have/may have already tried):\nChanging pillowcases every week minimum, \ndrinking a lot of water (seriously!), \nplaying less video games/spend less time on your computer (a bare minimum stop touching your face after you use your keyboard/controller for obvious reasons.)\nStop using all these chemicals on your face. Try just using water for at least a week, let your skin actually breathe naturally.\nEXERCISE! Work out, and sweat! Seriously, your skin will feel amazing after a cold shower and a long run.",
"I've heard of these: using cetaphil, or a face wash with AHAs or BHAs or salicylic acid in it, or [this method](http://www.theoilcleansingmethod.com/), or [this other method](http://www.acne.org/regimen.html). Seems like different things work for different people. If you do try something new, don't mix it with other methods so you know for sure what exactly has an effect and what doesn't.",
"I had horrible acne till around six months ago. I went on acutane as well but mine cleared right up ( I'm 18 ). I followed a stirct set of guidelines for it as well.\n\nMoisturise daily\nChange pillow cases every two to three days ( can't say this enough )\nStick to a healthy diet ( Vitamin A / D ) / 12 glasses of water daily\nNEVER EVER EVER EVER touch your face\nEarly bed time every night\nIf you're drinking have a banana or two\nDo all homework the night you get it\nExercise more and wash your face well, but DO NOT EVER SCRUB.\n",
"I found out my acne was caused by a gluten intolerance. I went on a gluten free diet and it went away in less than a week. I had been through Acutane in 8th grade and my acne came back too. ",
"Assuming you're a guy and also assuming that you shave, try out a double-edge razor along with a shaving brush and shaving soap. Sometimes you may mistake shaving irritation and bumps for acne, especially on the neck. Proper shaving technique and equipment can help. Check out [r/wicked_edge](http://www.reddit.com/r/wicked_edge/) for more advice.",
"Don't focus on it so much. It's nice to have clear skin and all but chances, are no one is noticing that pimple on your nose as much as you'd think.",
"Here's the truth, and you're not going to like it. Acne is primarily dietary. Low quality foods result in our bodies producing low quality skin oils, which get eaten by bacteria, creating a small infection in the pores of your skin, resulting in acne. We're more susceptible to it during our teenage years because of hormonal changes, but most adults who had acne as teenagers still have it years later, though often to a lesser degree. Here's an article on the subject: http://www.primaltoad.com/acne/ Read some of the comments at the bottom of the page for some real life results. It also helped me a ton personally. Putting quality foods in your body is the best way to ensure long term skin health. Best of luck! If you have any more questions feel free to PM me."
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"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?",
"Cold fingers & toes Being a dog parent, I have to walk my pup no matter the weather situation. And my fingers and toes get really cold. I have tried layering my gloves: thin layer inside and a ski glove outside, but still my fingers get numb and cold in half an hour of being outdoors. This happens always, unless I hide my hands in my coat pockets, but I cannot do that as I need to hold my dog's leash.\nI am starting to wonder if this is a health condition, any inputs?"
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"Avoiding suggestions that have already been posted, I would recommend making sure you have plenty of iron in your diet. Helps circulate your blood a little better.",
"Have you tried mittens? Gloves separate your fingers which make them more difficult to keep warm. That's what I find helpful. Not always an option though depending on the activity. I assume it would really depend on your dog leash. ",
"Put your winter gear on ~ 10 minutes BEFORE you leave the house. Right before you start getting warm enough to sweat, that's the time to take the pup out! (As I am currently in full winter wear in the library, preparing for a cold Vermont walk home...)\nAnd if you are up for it, another tip I use: RUN with your dog for a minute or so just to get the blood pumping. ",
"Electric gloves and socks. I used to ride my motorcycle in sub-freezing temperatures and these are practically a necessity.\n",
"hold the leash while your hand is in your coat pocket. If the dog has good walking manners it is what I do, If they have excellent manners I just loop the leash through a belt loop.\n\nbut as Iofmadness said use mittens. ",
"Swing your arms from above your head down beside you. Do this several times until you feel your arms/hands get slightly \"plump\". This will push your blood to your hands through centrifugal force. I do this when hunting or fishing on cold mornings.\n\nI imagine you could do the same with your legs.",
"i used to have the same problem. i got some REALLY nice waterproof winter boots, and the foot coldness went away. for the fingers, they make reusable mini [hot pads](http://www.snapheat.com/SNAP_HEAT/Welcome.html) for hands, etc. just boil them to make them ready to use again.",
"You can buy very cheap gloves warmers almost anywhere (gas station, Walmart, etc). You just slip them in your glove (or sock). Being from the frigid tundra of North Dakota, we use them often. They usually sell for just cents and are like little tea bags.\n\nAs for conditions, yes, technically you could look into a few (but I rarely suggest self diagnosing).\n\nLow iron.\nPoor circulation.\nRaynaud's Disease.\n\nHOWEVER, if this is happening only when you go outside, I would be hesitant to say you have any of these. These commonly happen around the clock, not just when you are actually experiencing cold weather.\n\n",
"Cold feet? Wear a hat.\n\nSeriously, cut down on heat loss (head: #1 loser), keep your core warm, and your body will open the blood vessels in your extremities so your hands and feet will stay toasty.\n\nyes, you still need socks/gloves: I love merino wool myself."
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"How to find people who are more like you? The biggest problem that a lot of people have, socially, is finding people who are similar to you, in more ways than one. Sure you can put yourself out there, and you will definitely find people, but the chances of those people being actually similar is quite slim. Activities are not definitive of one's personality, and personality compatibility is the biggest thing for relationships.\n\nPeople say that things like communication or not working hard enough is key. I disagree, and think that the biggest part of a successful relationship is \"your crazy matches my crazy\" (Deadpool). So how do you find others that match your crazy? If you are similar enough, then you will understand each other a lot more and be EXTREMELY comfortable around them, without any need for all these expansive lists of how to fake yourself to make people like you. ",
"How to find people who are more like you? The biggest problem that a lot of people have, socially, is finding people who are similar to you, in more ways than one. Sure you can put yourself out there, and you will definitely find people, but the chances of those people being actually similar is quite slim. Activities are not definitive of one's personality, and personality compatibility is the biggest thing for relationships.\n\nPeople say that things like communication or not working hard enough is key. I disagree, and think that the biggest part of a successful relationship is \"your crazy matches my crazy\" (Deadpool). So how do you find others that match your crazy? If you are similar enough, then you will understand each other a lot more and be EXTREMELY comfortable around them, without any need for all these expansive lists of how to fake yourself to make people like you. "
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"Get the meetup app. You list your interests, it shows people in your area with the same and you can join events with them. I used it to find table top gamers and atheists in my area. Wonderful app.",
"Most dating apps also have a friendship search feature that is becoming increasingly more popular for this. Their logic is pretty sound; the data for compatibility is already there for people to date, why not use that to find compatible friends too. So they give you the option to toggle it on or make your account friend search only.\n\nThe only other option is to keep going to events and meeting new people until you find ones that stick. Hopefully some of them will bring along other friends they have that stick too."
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"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls.",
"How a newly married couple should set up joint finances. I'm not coming from a \"I want to avoid a fight\" stance, I just interested if there is smart way to make the transition and if there are any common pitfalls."
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"We talked about it, include some honest assessment of what would be most likely to cause us to fight. \n\nThen we went with this:\n\nWe have a joint account. We each automatically deposit half our paycheck there. This is used for necessary shared expenses - the mortgage, the bills, stuff like that. \n\nWe each maintain a personal account for clothes, luxuries, etc. \n\nWe haven't fought about money yet. She can spend far too much on shoes, or I can hoard money while refusing to buy a second pair, and no one has any feeling but fond eye-rolling. ",
"I've been married 15 years and never had a joint account with my husband. We are on each other's account in case of an emergency but we keep our finances separate. One less thing for us to fight about.\n",
"My wife and I have 1 checking account. Everything goes in it. We then budget everything else (savings, mortgage, retirement, food, cars, etc) and each have a monthly 'no questions asked' spending amount - which rolls over each month (we both have a private cr",
"My wife and I have 2 separate accounts and a joint account. The joint account contains our wedding money and basically will do nothing until we buy a home. Our personal accounts are our paychecks. We don't worry about who's money pays for what and we both are fiscally responsible. ",
"Lady Bird Johnson, wife of President Lyndon Johnson, has been quoted as saying that she wouldnt have a checking account with the Angel Gabriel. That said, my husband and I have a joint account for household expenses, vacations, and emergencies.\n\nWe both have individual savings accounts for whatever we decide to use the money for.\n\nHowever you decide to set things up, make sure you have at least one account with money in your own name. Same with a cr",
"the common pitfalls are you lose total control over the money you put into the account and put your assets into the hands of another. I personally wouldn't do this with my significant other, but I can understand wanting to share your life with someone. Just be careful, I guess. Neither of you should put anything more than what is required in that account.",
"Things to consider include are you both working? Is there a likelihood that one of you will not be working for a period of time? Do you have a mortgage and other shared expenses?\n\nOne way to do things is for you each to maintain your own accounts and open a new joint account. This joint account is to pay for rent/mortgage, utilities, food, etc. You can decide how much each contributes to this account and it may vary depending on incomes over time. \n\nIn your own accounts would be savings, money for discretionary items (gifts, entertainment, hobbies, etc.) As PaprikaPrincess says, having some independence is one less thing to fight about -\"you spent how much on the latest ...?!?\". But also be sure that in case of emergency you can access each other's accounts.",
"My recommendation is different from some others, which I think is as it should be. Everyone has to find something that works for their own financial style.\n\nMy spouse and I believe in individual responsibility you might say. When we got together, we got two joint accounts. One for joint savings, one for joint bill paying. All the money for joint maintenance goes here. \n\nWe each retained our separate accounts. With direct deposit, there was no difficulty having a set portion sent to our personal accounts each pay period. Once per year or whenever there is a major change in one of our incomes, we revisit this. \n\nA lot of people seem incredibly shocked by this, but we find it works very well for us. All our bills pull automatically from the joint account. In order to assure there is never an accidental shortage in that account, we do all our other spending from our individual accounts. We still regard all the money as belonging to all of us if needed. We just each have money of our own for which each of us is responsible for. We've always felt grown adults shouldn't have to ask permission to spend what is necessary to care for themselves.\n\nThis has had some wonderful results. We enjoy being able to invite the other for dinner and a movie \"on me\". If I want to surprise my spouse with a lovely gift, I never have to be concerned they will somehow find out because of seeing the charge on the debit card. \n\nBonus: If I decide to pay the higher price for getting sodas from the machine at work verses carry from home, I only answer to me. I find I am actually less likely to make poor decisions knowing the full responsibility for the choice rests in my own little cash hoard.",
"I transfer almost everything I make into our joint account accept for five hundred bucks per month that I stick in our savings account. I keep a minimum balance in my personal account as I don't really need it. Neither of us question the others purchases. If she or I want of need something we buy it with an understanding of where our finances stand at any given time. Neither of us are big spenders. We aren't drawn to things for the sake of having things. Neither are we spendthrifts. We would rather put our money to work for us or for helping others when they need it.",
"All we did was take our existing individual accounts and added each other to those accounts to make them joint accounts. This was easier because we already had separate direct deposits going into our accounts, and we didn't have to change that. We then earmarked certain accounts for different purposes. One account was for housing expenses and food. Another account was for other things non-essential to living: savings (automatically transferred out into investments each month), entertainment, etc. One mutual fund became an emergency fund while we actively deposited into the other one. The advantage to this method was that it was painless, took about 15 minutes online to add each other to the existing accounts, and we both have access to all of the money. ",
"Add it all up, take out 20% for retirement, 20% for debt payment/savings account, 20% for living expenses, 20% for food, and 20% for college tuition for the kids. \n\n"
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"Best time to go shopping, with regards to price? I've noticed that late evenings or early mornings are usually quite a good time to go shopping - perishable goods that are going out of date are usually heavily discounted.\n\nAre there any other times that are good to go? Specific days? Times of year when things will be very cheap (e.g. unsold seasonal items)?",
"Best time to go shopping, with regards to price? I've noticed that late evenings or early mornings are usually quite a good time to go shopping - perishable goods that are going out of date are usually heavily discounted.\n\nAre there any other times that are good to go? Specific days? Times of year when things will be very cheap (e.g. unsold seasonal items)?",
"Best time to go shopping, with regards to price? I've noticed that late evenings or early mornings are usually quite a good time to go shopping - perishable goods that are going out of date are usually heavily discounted.\n\nAre there any other times that are good to go? Specific days? Times of year when things will be very cheap (e.g. unsold seasonal items)?",
"Best time to go shopping, with regards to price? I've noticed that late evenings or early mornings are usually quite a good time to go shopping - perishable goods that are going out of date are usually heavily discounted.\n\nAre there any other times that are good to go? Specific days? Times of year when things will be very cheap (e.g. unsold seasonal items)?",
"Best time to go shopping, with regards to price? I've noticed that late evenings or early mornings are usually quite a good time to go shopping - perishable goods that are going out of date are usually heavily discounted.\n\nAre there any other times that are good to go? Specific days? Times of year when things will be very cheap (e.g. unsold seasonal items)?"
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"Don't know about time of day, but I've seen calendars that indicate best times to buy products based on release cycles, etc.\n\nhttp://www.wisebread.com/buying-calendar",
"Seasonal: When they're out of season\n\nTime of day: When there's less traffic\n\nGetting good prices: When it's on sale",
"Depends, I use to do a lot of clothes shopping on the 26th of December. Always hit the store right as it opens, you'll usually beat the crowds by an hour or two.\n\nOtherwise, amazon.com",
"Celebrate Easter a week late (or time it with the Orthodox). Get all your eggs 1/2 off. Equally. anything that is likely to be given as a Christmas present is likely to be heavily discounted after Christmas.\n\nOtherwise- close to the end of the day bakery items etc. tend to be discounted. You will likely have to go to your local shops and test out exactly when- so you are arriving as they are being discounted for the best variety.",
"Always be sure to pick up your local grocery store's weekly flyer. There's always *at least* one good deal going on there. \n\nFor example: had a 50% off on chocolate milk deal recently. It was pretty rad."
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"How do I maintain eye contact with people whilst talking to them? I always find myself looking anywhere but at the person and it's funny really; I've been asked mid-conversation what I'm staring at when in reality I just don't want to look the person in the eye.\n\nI'm probably not alone when it comes to this but I really just want to stop doing it. I just don't want to come off as rude and I definitely don't want the person to think that I'm not interested in the conversation. Any tips?",
"How do I maintain eye contact with people whilst talking to them? I always find myself looking anywhere but at the person and it's funny really; I've been asked mid-conversation what I'm staring at when in reality I just don't want to look the person in the eye.\n\nI'm probably not alone when it comes to this but I really just want to stop doing it. I just don't want to come off as rude and I definitely don't want the person to think that I'm not interested in the conversation. Any tips?"
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"Move the focus in a pattern while you talk to them, so you don't get self conscious about 'staring'. Couple of seconds, the move. \n\nLeft eye -> forehead -> right eye -> mouth",
"You just have to keep thinking \"God, what a dumbass... This guy is an idiot\"... You'll breeze right through the convo with confidence. "
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"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative",
"My roommate steals my coke in the fridge, what to do? He probably thinks they're like mutually owned, since i offered them for free to the guests at our last party. \n\nShould i mark the cans, using post its or something?\n\n...or should i rub chili on the lip of the cans to mess with him?\n\nGet creative"
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"Have you tried telling him \"hey don't drink my coke\" before you turn into passive aggressive douchebag roomie?",
"Step 1: quit being a pussy\n\nStep 2: confront roommate by saying \"hey dude, don't drink my cokes\" \n\nStep 3: carry on ",
"Whatever you do, he'll still be your roommate afterward, so don't do anything immature.\n\nHe probably assumes that they're \"house\" drinks. Just talk with him.\n\nIf he continues to drink them, just stop buying Coke for a while.",
"Step one.\n\n* \"I'm down to share cokes, do you want to alternate who buys when we're out, or would you rather seperate mine and yours?\n\nStep two. Only if he keeps drinking cokes that have been established as *yours*.\n\n* \"I catch you stealing my cokes again I'ma beat the ever loving fuck out of you, are we clear?\"\n\nStep Three. If he continues drinking *your* cokes.\n\n* 3a. Beat the ever loving fuck out of him.\n* 3b. Move.",
"Start drinking seltzer water instead of coke. No one looks at a bottle of seltzer water and is all \"FUCK YEAH Im all over it.\"\n",
"start buying bottles instead of cans, and then replace one with dandelion and burdock.\n\nit looks identical to coke, and it doesn't taste TOO bad, but dear god, if you drink that when expecting coke it becomes the most vile tasting shit on earth.\n\n(note: this only works if your roommate doesn't like D&B)",
"Well, we can all certainly agree that whining about it on the Internet is much more productive than simply confronting him like a big boy.",
"Spike it with the cheapest rot gut whiskey on the market.\n\nIf you're lucky, he'll go to work with booze breath.\n\nIf not, he'll have the shits.",
"6 cases of beer is understandable. But who still drinks that much pop? Get rid if it. Drink water. And beer, of course. ",
"Post it notes? Really? Are you a female or just a child... If you don't want someone drinkin your coke then keep it in your room or tell said person not to drink your coke. Very simple task in which you don't need to resort to childish tendencies (like trying to prank him for doing something he doesn't know he shouldn't do). And to top it off you've probably never ever everrr said anything to your roommate about it either huh? Just expecting them not to drink the fuckin magical liquid we call coke. C'mon man, everyone loves coke!\n"
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"What health/beauty products can be replaced with natural stuff? Conditioning hair with vinegar, egg white face masks, honey instead of lipbalm (well, turned out to be only \"beauty\" here) - what else do you know about and use personally?",
"What health/beauty products can be replaced with natural stuff? Conditioning hair with vinegar, egg white face masks, honey instead of lipbalm (well, turned out to be only \"beauty\" here) - what else do you know about and use personally?"
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"I had the worst problem with acne and oily skin. Tried one thing after another. Went through a round of accutane and the acne and oiliness still came back. One day I decided to forget all the cleansers, creams, toners, peels and just wash my face with plain cold water with nothing else. Result? Clearest, least oily skin of my life.",
"Olive Oil and Castor Oil - a wonderful concoction! It will remove every single trace of make up - including mascara! plus it is excellent for your skin. \n\nI use a 70/30 OO/CO mix in a little travel squirt bottle. I throw a washcloth in the sink and let hot water run on it. I squirt a small amount of oil into my hands then gently massage my skin. Not scrub. Massage. The oil helps remove oil and dirt, and conditions any dry patches. I then take the warm washcloth and pat my skin to remove the oil. \n\nIt doesn't sting or irritate sensitive skin. Really good during cold & flu season when my nose gets raw from blowing and wiping it. \n\nMake sure you rinse the cloth well and let some hot water run down your pipes too. ",
"Apricot oil is miraculous. You can use it as a tonic -wet a piece of cotton with water and put a few drops, wipe your face and the neck- it will cleanse the skin very well, work as a moisturizer, keep your skin young, protect from cold and remove the stains just after few times. I use it right after the shower, it may first feel too oily but your skin will absorb it quickly and get used to it. You won't need any other products I promise. You can also use it for any chaps, legs, elbows, heels... "
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"First: Shop multiple dealers. Check for used off brand cars on the lot. They are selling the car not the service they can provide on their brand. Shop during the week not weekends and towards the end of the month as they have quotas to hit. May June July new year models are starting to come out. Look for a demo or lease with Warranty left. Get it CPO which will extend the warranty further. Don't act like it is the car of your dreams. Finally, never give them your keys without asking for them back before continuing, don't give them a check and don't be afraid to walk away. I used to sell cars and on average I have paid 4k below KBB for my last 3 cars and closed deals in 3 hours or less. Also let them know up front to give you their best price no BS and don't send in the sales manager to close the deal. Be assertive, know the car specs and options you want. \n\nP.S. Many a salesman misjudged me based on me being female.",
"This won't help in your specific situation but more for the long term goal.\n\nTry to stick with one dealer over the long haul. I am a loyal to a specific brand, and because of this have used the same dealer for every purchase.\n\nI do my research, get multiple prices and pretty know how much I'm going to spend when I get there. The only \"wild card\" is the dealer add-ons but through research you can easily negotiate those as well.\n\nMy most recent purchase was the 5th at the same dealer. Sales guy took my info and came back with the Manager. Manager said \"Mr. Brillcream, we truly appreciate your loyalty and we're not going to negotiate a price with you, we will give you the car for this.\" Quite a bit lower than my target, apparently I was getting the car at pretty much cost.\n\nAt some dealerships, loyalty can go a long way. I also get my car moved to the front of the line if any service is required. Next car, I know and they know where I'll be buying it from."
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"Ways to make a room less damp Barring dehumidifiers, obviously. I am but a poor student.\n\nMy new apartment is damp as shit. No particular cause apart from it being an old building in Richmond. Window units for AC don't do much for the humidity, whatever my mother seems to believe, and I'd like to do something, as I'm worried for my books. I have a lot of books.\n\nAny clever methods for making a room less intolerably damp and humid?",
"Ways to make a room less damp Barring dehumidifiers, obviously. I am but a poor student.\n\nMy new apartment is damp as shit. No particular cause apart from it being an old building in Richmond. Window units for AC don't do much for the humidity, whatever my mother seems to believe, and I'd like to do something, as I'm worried for my books. I have a lot of books.\n\nAny clever methods for making a room less intolerably damp and humid?"
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"Your mother seems to hold strange beliefs.\n\nThe primary function of Air Conditioning is dehumidification. Willis Carrier installed the first AC system in a New York City print shop whose ink was not setting properly as a result of humidity...\n\nBut yeah, you could opt for a product like DampRid. http://www.damprid.com/\n\nThe thing one must understand about humidity is that it is a vapor. It moves from areas of greater concentration to lesser concentration. \n\nTo be comfortable you'll need to remove the humidity from the air faster than it infiltrates your space. \n\nA dehumidifier would be choice. ",
"I'd put one or two of [these](http://www.amazon.com/900-Gram-Silica-Cubic-Feet/dp/B0028M7WK4/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1345612174&sr=8-5&keywords=silica+gel+bulk) in the room, depending on the room size. They require no electricity, and they're entirely reusable. When it changes color, you just stick it in an oven for a few minutes, and it's like new."
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"How do I find my android phone with windows pc? I know I've done this before but I can't recall how exactly. Yesterday, my sister lost her iphone and to find it, it was as simple as searching \"find my iphone\" and it took us to the icloud website, she punched in her credentials, and we immediately saw a map where her phone was. To be clear, my phone is not lost. I just want to know how to find it with my windows pc if I ever do lose it. I do have the Your Phone windows app and my phone is connected to my microsoft account. However there is no feature or button on that app to locate or even call your phone. I see in the feedback tab that others have suggested this, so I hope it becomes a feature soon. But if anyone has any tips as to how to locate it now, that would be very much appreciated.",
"How do I find my android phone with windows pc? I know I've done this before but I can't recall how exactly. Yesterday, my sister lost her iphone and to find it, it was as simple as searching \"find my iphone\" and it took us to the icloud website, she punched in her credentials, and we immediately saw a map where her phone was. To be clear, my phone is not lost. I just want to know how to find it with my windows pc if I ever do lose it. I do have the Your Phone windows app and my phone is connected to my microsoft account. However there is no feature or button on that app to locate or even call your phone. I see in the feedback tab that others have suggested this, so I hope it becomes a feature soon. But if anyone has any tips as to how to locate it now, that would be very much appreciated.",
"How do I find my android phone with windows pc? I know I've done this before but I can't recall how exactly. Yesterday, my sister lost her iphone and to find it, it was as simple as searching \"find my iphone\" and it took us to the icloud website, she punched in her credentials, and we immediately saw a map where her phone was. To be clear, my phone is not lost. I just want to know how to find it with my windows pc if I ever do lose it. I do have the Your Phone windows app and my phone is connected to my microsoft account. However there is no feature or button on that app to locate or even call your phone. I see in the feedback tab that others have suggested this, so I hope it becomes a feature soon. But if anyone has any tips as to how to locate it now, that would be very much appreciated."
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"As long as your phone is set up with your Google account, just search [Find My Device](https://www.google.com/android/find)",
"you can install \"Prey\" on android and operate it from a browser. It does more than find the device, you can take screenshots remotely, send messages to the lockscreen, remotely lock it and more.\n\nhttps://preyproject.com/\n\n",
"I think you have to have the find my phone app on your android and keep it on. I don't there is a feature like that on android that's preinstalled."
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"How to be comfortable with being unorganized? Hi Reddit! I would love to hear specifically from people who have an over tendency to be organized, yet figured out a way to be comfortable with being disorganized.\n\nI have a tendency to always organize things, even if it's not productive. Small examples include: cleaning out my inbox, record everything in detail (including unimportant things), closing browser tabs as soon as I finish (only to reopen them a minute later.)\n\nYes being organized is great in most situations, but would like to figure out good ways to balance this. Appreciate any tips you have!",
"How to be comfortable with being unorganized? Hi Reddit! I would love to hear specifically from people who have an over tendency to be organized, yet figured out a way to be comfortable with being disorganized.\n\nI have a tendency to always organize things, even if it's not productive. Small examples include: cleaning out my inbox, record everything in detail (including unimportant things), closing browser tabs as soon as I finish (only to reopen them a minute later.)\n\nYes being organized is great in most situations, but would like to figure out good ways to balance this. Appreciate any tips you have!",
"How to be comfortable with being unorganized? Hi Reddit! I would love to hear specifically from people who have an over tendency to be organized, yet figured out a way to be comfortable with being disorganized.\n\nI have a tendency to always organize things, even if it's not productive. Small examples include: cleaning out my inbox, record everything in detail (including unimportant things), closing browser tabs as soon as I finish (only to reopen them a minute later.)\n\nYes being organized is great in most situations, but would like to figure out good ways to balance this. Appreciate any tips you have!",
"How to be comfortable with being unorganized? Hi Reddit! I would love to hear specifically from people who have an over tendency to be organized, yet figured out a way to be comfortable with being disorganized.\n\nI have a tendency to always organize things, even if it's not productive. Small examples include: cleaning out my inbox, record everything in detail (including unimportant things), closing browser tabs as soon as I finish (only to reopen them a minute later.)\n\nYes being organized is great in most situations, but would like to figure out good ways to balance this. Appreciate any tips you have!"
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"Prioritizing is a good idea. A bit of a warning though - as someone who is becoming organized. Once you start to let things slide it can become a slippery slope. I find that I have to remain strict with myself and consistent on what can or cannot wait to be done. Otherwise it creeps into other things being neglected that shouldn't. \n\nSo my advice is this: sit down and decide what you do and do not want to keep your organization habits in. If you find yourself not wanting to let go of them, you can set yourself limits. For example, you can allow yourself a certain amount of time to do your recordings (set a timer if you have to), then stop. Force yourself to be satisfied with what you have down. In time you will get to where you can do it more efficiently (only getting down what's important) and within your set time limit. \n\nFor compulsive habits like the browser tabs, force a time limit in the other direction. For example, make yourself keep your tab open for a full three minutes when you're finished with a website. If you decide you're completely finished with the web, you can close it out. If not, move on to the next website and start your time at the end of that one. You'll eventually train yourself to just go from site to site without closing the tab.\n\nThe biggest mistake people make when trying to change their habits is doing it too drastically all at once. This sets unrealistic goals and sets the person up for failure. By making minor changes like keeping your habits but putting a limitation on them you can work toward changing the limits instead of the habits all together. You're still indulging your urges but on your own terms, so it doesn't feel as daunting as quitting something.cold turkey. \n\nGood luck to you, I hope this helps!",
"I suggest just asking yourself from time-to-time 'Is this really necessary?'. Like, is it necessary to close out of the tab you're on? Or is it necessary to make record of things unimportant? Some of these questions will be answered with 'YES!'. For example, 'is it necessary to write down the time and date of my dentist appointment?' But sometimes, you'll come up with a 'no'. Like, 'Is it necessary to write down the size shoe your uncle wears?' Probably not. \n\nIt's all about priorities! c:",
"You may not be unorganized, but OCD? And I say this, since when I was younger I used to do the same thing. It took medication and going to college with sloppy roommates and housemates to help me get over this need to be super organized.\n\nAlso, having an unorganized wife and young kids really makes the process easier!\n",
"Try to think about things as a tradeoff between time saved and time spent. Sure, I get a kick out of putting a stack of things in order, and it bothers me when something's not aligned well; but is it really going to save any time for anyone if I alphabetize the stack of junk mail before throwing it away? Probably not."
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"How to spend New Year's eve at home when not allowed to go out 19 year old dude here with 18th century parents. Stuck and home when friends party and chill out...",
"How to spend New Year's eve at home when not allowed to go out 19 year old dude here with 18th century parents. Stuck and home when friends party and chill out...",
"How to spend New Year's eve at home when not allowed to go out 19 year old dude here with 18th century parents. Stuck and home when friends party and chill out...",
"How to spend New Year's eve at home when not allowed to go out 19 year old dude here with 18th century parents. Stuck and home when friends party and chill out...",
"How to spend New Year's eve at home when not allowed to go out 19 year old dude here with 18th century parents. Stuck and home when friends party and chill out..."
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"I gotcha buddy. Just make my ol' fashion Cozby puddin'. 1 part jello to 2 parts Roofies and they'll be cool as cats, you know how it is. See you next time, eatin' da puddin'. \n\nBill Cozby out. Bush did 7/11.",
"well if you are into gaming, go on twitch and celebrate new years with others from all over the world...\n\nor realize you are 19, and old enough to make your own choices and go out and party. Of course be prepared to have to move out afterwards. :D\n\nor spend the night like it is any other night. There will be more new years parties and other things.",
"I had the same restrictions and i told my mom that i became socially isolated due to her restrictions. (Going out with friends while being young is crucially affecting your social development i guess)\nIt was the case for me, no lie, and after i told her extensively and explained it she lowered my restrictions more and more.\nBut it is also about trusting eachother.\nTry to speak about the social part.",
"Don't make such a bit deal out of it... In years past, I would seriously feel like dying if I didn't go out on New Years. I put too much pressure on the day. Even if I stayed at home, I would feel so lame if I didn't have a date or \"midnight kiss\" or whatever. Now, I'm only about 10 years older than you, I actually forgot it was New Years Eve... I actually forgot to make plans. I guess I'm going to go to the grocery store when the morning hits and make some bad ass super calorie dinner and get some wine and just fall asleep by 10:00 PM... Yes, that sounds lame, but I couldn't even tell you about New Years that I celebrated in the past... Just such a mundane waste of energy. ",
"It's better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. \n \nI always told my parents where I was going, what I would be doing, and when I would be back and then just left "
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"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr",
"Getting a good grade on a group project I'm working on a group project in Google Slides and even though our deadline is in a week, only one other group member has done any work (while mine has been done for weeks). They crammed several paragraphs worth of information onto one hideous and impossible-to-read slide. \n\nOn top of that, one person is now insisting that one of the sections that I've already finished the slide and notes for was supposed to be hers, and is demanding to take cr"
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"I would not budge, and I would take it to the teacher if necessary. If you cannot come around to that, then delete that portion of the slide and let them do their own research. ",
"Ugh. Group projects are the worst!! I don't have good advice for you, but man, I can relate. I'm so happy I'm past that! It sounds like you have a great work ethic and pay attention to detail - that will get you far in the real world. Just do the best you can in this situation. This is just one school project - something tells me, as long as you give it your best, you'll be just fine regardless of the outcome. Good luck!! ",
"This may sound bad but what I always have done when possible, is choose the laziest/stupidest people. Complete the project entirely by myself (or with one other intelligent/non lazy person). This sucks because you have to do almost all the work and they will get cr",
"Safe it locally. If they get salty and try to erase it then you have it saved. Then go to a teacher and explain what's going on. JUST GO TO THE TEACHER, DONT HAVE REGARD TO OTHER PEOPLE WHEN YOUR EDUCATION IS ON THE LINE. Think about all the hard work you did this year for some fuck to destroy your grade.",
"Like others said, talk to the teacher! Explain to them what is happening. It helps to put names on your slides, and don't forget about the google slides feature to see exactly who ",
"If you picked your group then they should've been people you know will do work or are comfortable being very assertive with.\n\nIf the teacher picked groups, definitely talk to him/her. Make the argument that your grade should be a measure of the knowledge and work YOU have done, not a way to show what your group mates know and don't know. ",
"Do not allow someone take cr"
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"How to carry a baguette in a small grocery bag I fear there is no practical, let alone graceful way to do this.",
"How to carry a baguette in a small grocery bag I fear there is no practical, let alone graceful way to do this.",
"How to carry a baguette in a small grocery bag I fear there is no practical, let alone graceful way to do this."
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"I thought so too... I was wrong...\n \nhttp://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/06/21/article-2345809-1A6FDDB8000005DC-814_634x933.jpg",
"I put it in the bag through one of the loops. When you carry the bag, have the baguette point away from you.",
"I had to ask myself this question, the paper bags provided weren't really big enough (only covered half the bread), and then I didn't want to just put it on the belt near the register, so I handed it to the cashier, who made sure he only touched the bag and not the bread... it felt very \"Seinfeld\"."
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"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? ",
"Stay calm and rational during arguments Hey, \n\nSo I basically have this problem where I, during arguments, tend to overreact, make hasty judgments and/or blurt out stupid things without thinking.\n\nIt's not cursing or being rude like that, but it's still hurtful things. *Nothing physical though*, I would never lay a finger on anyone.\n\nNormally I'm nothing at all like that, and unfortunately my girlfriend is the one that gets to suffer the most from this so...any advice on how I can act more calm? "
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"Once things have escalated to the point of argument, people have stopped listening and communicating effectively, and they are usually being their worst self.\n\nThe ideal situation is to prevent an argument. How do you do this? It is not possible in every situation, but the first step is to notice your feelings. When you START feeling uncomfortable, something about the communication is pushing one of your buttons. This is the time to check your understanding of what the other person is communicating. What is being said and what you are hearing or how you are interpreting it are not always the same.\n\nIf the unavoidable has happened and you find yourself careening into an argument, one technique I have found to be particularly helpful is to simply say, \"I want to discuss this with you further, but I need some time to think about this. Let me get back to you when I have had some time to think.\" Then walk away and take time to cool down. Be sure to take as much time as you need to approach the subject with a calm, clear head. NOTE: For this approach to work, you DO have to come back to the topic at a later point. \n\nWhen you do come back to the topic, instead of going back into the argument, ask clarifying questions like, \"When you were talking about [topic], what I heard was... Am I understanding what you meant?\" Sometimes arguments arise because what you HEARD (interpreted) was not what the speaker meant.\n\nSometimes arguments arise because you actually have opposing opinions. And that's ok. You don't have to agree on everything. When this is the case, you can reply with, \"I respect you and I respect your opinion, but I don't share the same view.\" And leave it at that. 'nuf said, so to speak.\n\nIf you'd like to talk more about specific situations, PM me.",
"* breathe\n\n* maintain eye contact if you can, if not, it's okay to look away\n\n* try to think about the problem rather than the person\n\n* Don't say \"you have to do X\" say \"it is important that X gets done\"\n\n* try to leave your body and float above the room\n\n* you can now look for weak points in your opponents body\n\n* strike swiftly and without remorse",
"Repeat to yourself 'This disagreement is temporary, but the ugly things I say can't ever be taken back'",
"I find that if I'm getting overheated, I can usually calm down if I say out loud that I'm getting angry, or that I'm upset. I'm not sure why this works, but I've been practicing awareness with my therapist and that's something she told me to try that has worked very well for me. After saying it out loud, I realize how ridiculous it was for me to be upset - and I chill out. In fact, often when I say it out loud, my wife and I usually start laughing and hugging.",
"[\"Wrap your soul around the idea of having the right outcome\"](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTGe_HUADow) this has always echoed in my head.\n\nDon't try to completely shut down your violent side, who's to say you wont need to be aggressive and assertive in an argument against someone else that's irrational someday? Although, you're right on not being physical, we are civilized and we don't need to do that, unless our lives depend on it, which is a rare occasion for me.",
"I think we should all consider reputation in amongst arguements. Just remember, if you become irrational, people won't think well of you in other situations. You'll become unreliable and untrustworthy in other, more important situations. Sorry for sounding like a pretentious dude, but I relate to this so keeping what I said in mind usually keeps me at bay.",
"First, refuse to argue. Has arguing ever really helped?\n\nSecondly, don't care about the outcome. That makes you a heartless bastard for a while. But then you can decide which battles are worth fighting. I am often reminded of a quote; \n\"*Quarrels would not last long if the fault was only on one side only*\"."
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"How can I stop being a pushover? I hate stepping on people's toes, but I'm the most driven member of a group project. I've asked the other members to do some work, but all I get are excuses. \n\nHow do I convince less committed members to pull their weight without coming across unprofessionally?",
"How can I stop being a pushover? I hate stepping on people's toes, but I'm the most driven member of a group project. I've asked the other members to do some work, but all I get are excuses. \n\nHow do I convince less committed members to pull their weight without coming across unprofessionally?",
"How can I stop being a pushover? I hate stepping on people's toes, but I'm the most driven member of a group project. I've asked the other members to do some work, but all I get are excuses. \n\nHow do I convince less committed members to pull their weight without coming across unprofessionally?",
"How can I stop being a pushover? I hate stepping on people's toes, but I'm the most driven member of a group project. I've asked the other members to do some work, but all I get are excuses. \n\nHow do I convince less committed members to pull their weight without coming across unprofessionally?",
"How can I stop being a pushover? I hate stepping on people's toes, but I'm the most driven member of a group project. I've asked the other members to do some work, but all I get are excuses. \n\nHow do I convince less committed members to pull their weight without coming across unprofessionally?"
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"Figure out what needs doing. Then create a chart with blanks where people fill in their names on what parts they're going to do. Make them write their names in on the part they're going to do. Where possible, put chart where all can see it. All the time. Put your name on the part you're going to do. Do that part. Do nothing else.",
"Tell them you are not interested in excuses but in getting the job done. They are not 10 years old and you are not their grade school teacher. Excuses and apologies have absolutly no value if they are not accompanied by change.\n\nIf I am late to a meeting, apologize and make sure I am not late the next times, that's alright. If I am late to a meeting, apologize and keep being late I am just a baby who can't be counted on. \n\nIf your partners keep giving you the shitty excuses just call them on it. You don't have to be rude or agressive, just be firm on the fact you are not interested in their excuses and remind them they are not children trying to avoid doing their homework but professionals that are supposed to be responsible adults. \n\nMake sure you keep everyone in the group informed of absolutly everything, regardless of their involvement and motivation. You absolutly don't want to be accused of isolating others. Some slackers are really good at shifting blame to you for not keeping them posted even though they make absolutly no effort and are effectively deadweight. \n\nIn the meantime keep records of everything. You agree of something with other members? Sum it up and send that to everyone in the group (words fly, writing stays forever). You do a meeting? Keep track of your mails informing the others of it. Keep track of who showed up, who did not, who has to do what and within which time, what problems arise, what solutions you find, when you make a meeting make sure you send the minutes to everyone including the persons who could not make it and keep a record of that too, etc...\n\nMake sure these records are well organized and it will make it abundantly clear to any person reviewing the project afterwards who slacked off and who tried their best to make it work. \n\nThe worst enemy of slackers are archived mails. Consider that anything not written down and sent by mail to everyone will not happen. If something is getting late, gently remind the others of the deadlines. Repeatedly if needed be. If they never reply to your mails, keep record of that too. Nothing more unprofessional looking than three mails sent with one week interval with a simple question and no answer.\n\nYou can't force them to work but you can sure as hell make it obvious they did not. Don't lie to them either. You are not a backstabber and if they ask, tell them you keep records of everything and why you do it. They are the unprofessional ones they are the ones who should worry.\n",
"Before big meetings mentally list some of your strengths. I do this before any big event, it gives me the confidence to stick to my point. I also like to determine why someone might be opposed to my point of view. For example if someone is pooping on your idea, maybe its because they're lazy and don't want to work more, so you can tailor your response to that notion. ",
"When someone asks you to do something, ask yourself, \"would I, a self-labeled pushover, be willing to ask someone else to do this for me?\" If you would be willing to ask for help, then it's probably a reasonable request. If you wouldn't be willing to ask for it, think twice before agreeing. Coming up with quick excuses may be helpful short-term and on the fly, but in general, just saying \"no, sorry\" is the way to go. People may be put off at first, but eventually they'll learn to respect your no.",
"And the core of this is the question \"How can I make X person do this thing? How can I make Y person think this is important?\"\n\nYou can't. You can't force other people to do something. At best, you have influence. The *Seven Habits of Highly Effective People* explains this well. \n\nIf they are in a group with you, and the group and project are assigned by their bosses/professors, chances are good you have less authority than the bosses/professors. Why should they listen to you? Have you shown you'll do the work for them?\n\nIt's *possible* that if you step back for managing/leading task delegating, someone else will step up. Sometimes just sitting back and asking, \"So, what's the next step?\" and then STFU until someone else answers.\n\nMany people are very, very uncomfortable with prolonged silences. If you keep quiet long enough (and it will feel like much, much longer) people tend to fill the void. (Or they will just zone out on their cell-phones.)\n\nAfter that, the only thing beside documenting the hell out of it like /u/sala recommends, is to approach the person in charge in a non-whiny way. \n\nBad: \"I'm the only one doing the work.\"\n\nGood: \"I'm not sure what the official (insert your career field's term for chain of command) is here. Who is ultimately responsible for assigning tasks, priorities and making final decisions?\" \n\nI'd try to get this in writing and forward the email around, but be aware it could backfire by putting you in charge of a sinking ship. \n\n",
"A manager is not responsible for motivating their employees. The employee needs to commit themselves. The manager needs to only make it simple for the employee to get their job done.\n\n\nMake the expectations clear for all group members. Get them to commit on paper, and if they fall short, let the professor nail them with a bad grade. In this case, you are a peer not a manager."
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"How to improve typing? ive tried typing games and courses but they have not helped. \n\nI am working on becoming a programmer and i type incredibly slowly, Any imput is welcome.",
"How to improve typing? ive tried typing games and courses but they have not helped. \n\nI am working on becoming a programmer and i type incredibly slowly, Any imput is welcome.",
"How to improve typing? ive tried typing games and courses but they have not helped. \n\nI am working on becoming a programmer and i type incredibly slowly, Any imput is welcome.",
"How to improve typing? ive tried typing games and courses but they have not helped. \n\nI am working on becoming a programmer and i type incredibly slowly, Any imput is welcome.",
"How to improve typing? ive tried typing games and courses but they have not helped. \n\nI am working on becoming a programmer and i type incredibly slowly, Any imput is welcome."
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"You could try the website ratatype. It is supposed to get you to do more typing by feel rather than looking at the keyboard. The first few lessons are mostly about where to keep your fingers to make it easier to type things. They also have paragraphs to test you on your wpm. It is also free.",
"Type out books. Just type and type. I tripled my typing back when I started my job just by typing out books. Its familiarization and muscle memory",
"I went from a slow typist to a fast one by playing text-based MUDs in high school. It's a pretty good distraction if you're into a fantasy or scifi game.",
"First, learn touch typing if you don't know it already.\n\nSecond, practice daily on [this game](http://play.typeracer.com/)",
"cover your hands/keyboard with a box or a cloth. not looking at the keyboard is key to getting better at typing fast."
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"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n",
"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n",
"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n",
"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n",
"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n",
"University Housing Tips / Moving away from home tips What are some tips about moving away from home, mainly about moving into a university campus?\n\nWhat things change?\n\nHow can I make this adaptation easier?\n"
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"Best tip is try and talk with the future roommates and coordinate. Otherwise you each show up with a toaster oven, microwave, iron, and dish sets. \n\nOther than that, go as minimal as possible. You should have no more than 2 loads of laundy, your personal items, a laptop, a fake ID and a shitload of condoms. \n\nDont bring a lot of shit. The point of college is get out of your room and meet people. ",
"planning out the food for the week was a big one for me. I would run out of food before I planned on shopping days before and not realise this until I had nothing to cook. Also, learn how to cook. Eating out is cool and all, but it gets very very expensive very very fast. Buy good quality cookware because when it is too thing, it starts to deform from the heat. Remember using someone elses frying pan and having that raised middle part? Do your best to buy quality things so you aren't replacing them. After a few times of replacing cheap things (cookware mostly, couches, and plates/cups/bowls), you get tired of that kind of shit and it gets expensive also. Buy quality things unless you don't trust who you are staying with, then buy cheap so you wont miss it if it breaks or gets lost/stolen. Make sure you have your OWN space to unwind (most likely your bedroom) and it is quite. I have my own house by myself, but my bedroom is my \"alone time\" room so i can just be alone with my thoughts. I say this mostly because if your housemates/roommates have someone over or you get a couch surfer, you can still get away from them if you need/want too. Don't buy cheap shoes, if you can, buy from a nice brand (I only buy nike since they haven't let me down yet) since you are going to be doing a lot of walking. Most of this stuff on this list is if you are in an apartment or a house with someone or by yourself. One last thing, always pay your bills on time, late fees are fucked up and add up quick.",
"When you get there, try to find a club that does things that you like or would like to try. As geeky as it sounds, there is a medieval foam sword fighting club that I joined at the beginning of the semester, and they have become like a second family to me. Having something to go and do at least once a week really allows you to relax and forget about school for a little bit.",
"Find out what your university will provide in terms of food. Does it have a meal plan you'll use? Then you probably won't be cooking much. Keep things like soup cups and microwave foods instead because unless you love cooking, you aren't going to do much of it. Also, some dorm buildings have kitchens of their own stocked with pots/pans/utensils. Find out if yours does this. It saves you space in your dorm unless you don't trust their cleanliness.\n\nPack light: Bring a week and a half worth of clothes. You'll do your laundry enough that you shouldn't run out. If variety is an issue, swap your stuff every time you visit home/family visits, or bring a couple extra shirts.\n\nSandals/flip flops for the shower. You don't know what people have done in there. You don't want to stand in that unknown.\n\nIf you want to make friends, leave your door open and say hello to anyone that walks by. The more people you greet, the more friends on your floor you're likely to have. If someone on your floor invites you to go with to the food court/pizza/movie/video game night, and they *aren't* creepy, do it. It doesn't matter if you're studying at the time, or you want to just watch one more episode of whatever on Netflix. If you turn them down, they're less likely to invite you out the next time, or the time after that. I had some friends who had \"waffle wednesdays\" at our food court (you could make belgian waffles any time of day) and even if I was busy, it was still fun to catch up on the week and hang out before/after. \n\nThat said, privacy is a premium in a dorm room. Even if you're best friends with your roomate you aren't going to want to be with them all the time. If you can loft your beds, do it. Figure out a room arrangement that maximizes space. I guarantee it won't be that way when you first show up. Some layouts open the room more (lofted beds on one side with fridge/microwave/tv underneath and desks on the other) some maximize privacy (having desks facing door so your back is to the wall, with beds between desk and door) some make separate \"rooms\" (once had a floormate who had made their desks into walls for a separate tv-area and bedroom) and some are a clear your-half-my-half. Figure out the best one for you and your roomate.\n\nIf your roomate is a slob, maybe stick with your-half-my-half, and push anything of theirs that comes onto your side back over.",
"Definitely pack light. Also, if you're going a university where winter happens and your parents are going to Parents/Family Weekend (usually happens around October) to visit you, have them bring your winter gear. It saves the trouble of packing the winter stuff. ",
"Bring a Jimi Hendtrix poster. It's what all of the cool kids are doing these days. \n\n\nPack light. Bring a kensington lock for your computer (make sure it's a laptop). Bring 2 sets of sheets. You might not get around to laundering them after you change them. \n\nBring lots of quarters for laundry.\n\nStudy hard. \n\nHave \"the big talk\" with your parents. They probably need a refresher course. \n\nBring birth control. Redditors don't need it, but it's good to have just in case."
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"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n",
"How can I keep my concentration up? I do a lot a work at a desk. When I am walking to and from the desk, to grab food/water, to shower, to check my mail, I can see very clearly in my head the plans and procedures I need to get my work done. When I sit back down, all productive thought and will vanishes immediately, and I'm left staring blankly at the screen. I already use internet blockers at work to keep me from going to youtube, reddit, etc.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice for how to keep productive trains-of-thought alive at my desk?\n"
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"Try a standing desk? Maybe the act of sitting down switches the brain into another mode. Mix it up and try to work standing for a while.\n\nYou don't have to get new furniture to try it out, just use some cardboard boxes for your monitor and keyboard.",
"Sleep Well\nAvoid eating too much sugar stuff like twinkies, candy bars\nAvoid drinking too much coffe or caffeine beverages\nListen to calm music, New Age, Instrumental, preferably Classic\nMay want to learn about M",
"Whenever I get tired or unfocused, I like to just go m",
"Try using the pomorodo technique. 25 of work and then 5 minutes between the stints. In that 5 minutes, walk for a bit, drink something, just something else then sitting. Also good foot your body. \n\nThere are a lot of desktop and phone apps you can use for it. Of the good old egg timer. ",
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"I can't believe no one is saying this already, but fresh air! I am a physics student, and does a lot of maths and physics and whenever I work I have a rule that I should have 5-10 minutes break every hour, and if I stop being productive I take five minutes outside. And this really works, as well as drinking enough water. \n\nAnd really take the break, even if you feel you are doing great, it will pay of in the long run (at least for me it did) ",
"I hold my breath when I have trouble focusing or I find myself falling asleep. I read that somewhere on Reddit a few years ago and it works for me. ",
"I hate to say it and fear the unslaught of down votes and think it's generally bad for your health but nothing helps me focus like nicotine. The gum, patches, chewing tobacco, it's a nasty addiction but it's helped me in the past. "
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"How to avoid the awkward at the end of phone conversation. I work as a receptionist, and it seems like myself and the other party are always just going back in forth with \"Have a good day, goodbye, thank you, mmmkay, bub byes\" and talking over each other and then it's a rush to end the call because of the awkward. It's awful!",
"How to avoid the awkward at the end of phone conversation. I work as a receptionist, and it seems like myself and the other party are always just going back in forth with \"Have a good day, goodbye, thank you, mmmkay, bub byes\" and talking over each other and then it's a rush to end the call because of the awkward. It's awful!",
"How to avoid the awkward at the end of phone conversation. I work as a receptionist, and it seems like myself and the other party are always just going back in forth with \"Have a good day, goodbye, thank you, mmmkay, bub byes\" and talking over each other and then it's a rush to end the call because of the awkward. It's awful!",
"How to avoid the awkward at the end of phone conversation. I work as a receptionist, and it seems like myself and the other party are always just going back in forth with \"Have a good day, goodbye, thank you, mmmkay, bub byes\" and talking over each other and then it's a rush to end the call because of the awkward. It's awful!",
"How to avoid the awkward at the end of phone conversation. I work as a receptionist, and it seems like myself and the other party are always just going back in forth with \"Have a good day, goodbye, thank you, mmmkay, bub byes\" and talking over each other and then it's a rush to end the call because of the awkward. It's awful!"
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"Just say \"is there anything else I can help you with?\"\n\nthey probably will say \"no that's it thanks\"\n\nYou say \"Ok, thanks for calling, have a nice day now, bye.\"\n\nThey say \"you too, bye\"\n\nThen hang up!",
"Sounds like me, haha. I had to make and receive dozens of phone calls for a job. I eventually got into a routine of saying the pleasantries like \"perfect, thanks, we'll be in touch, etc.\", and then follow it up with \"take care, bye now!\" But you have to say it with a smile on your face, otherwise it sounds a bit rude. After that, I just hang up. \n\n",
"If I called them, I say, 'that's all I have, anything else I missed?'\n\nIf they called me, I say, 'thanks, do you have anything else for me?'\n\nAfter their negative response I just hang up, no further comment is needed.",
"This!!!! I don't wanna just say \"thanks for calling Walmart, have a nice day\" bc that seems too canned and insincere but when I do the whole \"I appreciate you being a part of the burger king family, my name is Greg and I hope you have a wonderful rest of your Thursday\" there's a brief pause and then they say (in less upbeat tone) \"thanks you too.\" So awkward.",
"\"Have a nice day\", and hang up. \n\nMost people don't really give a shit or will even remember you unless you are explicitly rude to them. "
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"Student loan payment LPT Request: my student loan payments are beginning next month and I was hoping to get some advice on how to pay them down efficiently. Thanks in advance!",
"Student loan payment LPT Request: my student loan payments are beginning next month and I was hoping to get some advice on how to pay them down efficiently. Thanks in advance!",
"Student loan payment LPT Request: my student loan payments are beginning next month and I was hoping to get some advice on how to pay them down efficiently. Thanks in advance!",
"Student loan payment LPT Request: my student loan payments are beginning next month and I was hoping to get some advice on how to pay them down efficiently. Thanks in advance!",
"Student loan payment LPT Request: my student loan payments are beginning next month and I was hoping to get some advice on how to pay them down efficiently. Thanks in advance!"
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"I think you should wait to pay anything because the freeze ends on the 31st but Biden will most likely extend it again or else he is committing political suicide. Unless your loans are private then it’s different but I would keep waiting.",
"Which country are you in? For the UK the best way to approach is to not over pay and consider it a tax of sorts. Martin Lewis has published some helpful tips on the moneysavingexpert site. If you're in another country then hopefully someone else can help!",
"If you are able to pay extra, do it to pay the loan faster. \nWhen you do pay extra, make a note stating that you want the payment on the principal only. If you don't write them a detailed instruction, they will apply it on your next payment which defeats the purpose. It would include the interest which you're trying to avoid when you pay extra. \nI did it by writing a separate check with a separate note stating, \"Check #xxxx with the amount $xxx to be applied on the principal only for Loan #xxxxx.\" Then, sign and date. If you're paying online, pay it separately with also detailed instructions. You'll finish the loan faster and while avoiding less interest.",
"The key is to budget\n\nRent, groceries, insurance, gas, utiliites etc, things you need should be 50% of your monthly paycheck.\n\n20% should go to savings and debt\n\n30% is for things you want. That being said, you should prioritize saving for an emergency fund which is 6 months worth of expenses, and your debts, and spend less on things you want.\n\nLook into companies like sofi and upwork to see if you can refinance and get a more favorable interest rate."
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"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible.",
"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible.",
"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible.",
"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible.",
"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible.",
"I'm going to have to move soon for the first time. Any tips? Sources for finding a new place? Things I should look out for/avoid? Anything you wish you knew before your first move? I just want to make this as easy as possible."
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"Before you pick a place to rent go over and check it out on a weekend night and a week night and see what the vibe is like. I learned this lesson along time ago I moved to a nice place but at night it got super shady with homless people in the park across the street and walking around.",
"Use clothes like tee shirts and socks to wrap and pad all of your fragile things. Less waste to get rid of and over all less weight",
"Take pictures of the new place as soon as you arrive. They can be used as prove that damages or stuff was already there and was not your fault.",
"If you HATE doing laundry, make sure your new space has w/d hookups and/or machines (or facility on-site). You'll never hate laundry more than if you already hate it *and* have to drive elsewhere to get it done",
"Ask if there is a history of bug infestations. The last location I lived at had bed bugs and I had to throw away my mattress and beddings. They're almost impossible to find, even at night when they are active.",
"Look up crime in the neighbourhood before you go, and talk to neighbours about general stuff, the landlord, etc."
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"When starting a career, is it better to go slow and steady or take a leap of faith? After over a year of searching for my first entry-level position in my field post-graduation, I finally was offered a temporary administrative job at a nearby university- I start tomorrow. Everyone I’ve talked to has said that these temporary positions usually lead to long-term career opportunities in your desired department, so I’m letting myself get a little excited, even though for now, I’ll basically be someone’s secretary- at least I’ll have health benefits and full-time hours.\n\nThen today a job I applied for over a month ago gets back to me asking for an interview in two days! It is a temp-to-hire position more closely related to my field, utilizing more of my previous experience and particular skills, and offers similar pay, but would require immediate relocation and quitting my brand new job if I did get it.\n\nIs it even worth considering giving up a safe, reliable (but mediocre) option I have now when a more exciting and resume-boosting option would drastically alter my current life plans and come with more financial and emotional risk?",
"When starting a career, is it better to go slow and steady or take a leap of faith? After over a year of searching for my first entry-level position in my field post-graduation, I finally was offered a temporary administrative job at a nearby university- I start tomorrow. Everyone I’ve talked to has said that these temporary positions usually lead to long-term career opportunities in your desired department, so I’m letting myself get a little excited, even though for now, I’ll basically be someone’s secretary- at least I’ll have health benefits and full-time hours.\n\nThen today a job I applied for over a month ago gets back to me asking for an interview in two days! It is a temp-to-hire position more closely related to my field, utilizing more of my previous experience and particular skills, and offers similar pay, but would require immediate relocation and quitting my brand new job if I did get it.\n\nIs it even worth considering giving up a safe, reliable (but mediocre) option I have now when a more exciting and resume-boosting option would drastically alter my current life plans and come with more financial and emotional risk?"
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"My last job offered me a 10% raise and an office anywhere in the country at one of their warehouses to stay with them, after I put in my 2 weeks. I turned it down instantly and took a job two weeks later that was risky and exciting, worked there for four months, and it didnt work out after that, BUT it was still a great experience. \n\nI think doing the scary things in life is always worth considering, and it wont always work out, but you'll learn faster and have no regrets for trying. \n\nDo the interview. If the offer comes, make your decision. If you want to go with the new opportunity, then ask your current job manager what they think. Itll be awkward but you'll have nothing to lose besides pride, and maybe they'll make a counteroffer, or maybe not. But I would think they'd understand",
"It’s fair to at least go through the interview process with the other opportunity. If you get the second job, you can weigh your options then. The interview process might even take long enough for you to assess whether or not this current job may be worth staying for.\n\nAnother thought: As of now, you know you don’t want the job you have now for too long- so how long is long enough? If they had contacted you a month from now or a year from now, would this question be irrelevant?"
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"How do I stay positive for the major I have chosen? I am a 23 going on 24, college student who decided to pursue CS as my major, I am currently taking my first programming class: C++ I love what I am learning but am having difficulty with the math word problems, and seem to be losing faith. Not to mention I am one of four women in the class. How Do I stay positive?",
"How do I stay positive for the major I have chosen? I am a 23 going on 24, college student who decided to pursue CS as my major, I am currently taking my first programming class: C++ I love what I am learning but am having difficulty with the math word problems, and seem to be losing faith. Not to mention I am one of four women in the class. How Do I stay positive?",
"How do I stay positive for the major I have chosen? I am a 23 going on 24, college student who decided to pursue CS as my major, I am currently taking my first programming class: C++ I love what I am learning but am having difficulty with the math word problems, and seem to be losing faith. Not to mention I am one of four women in the class. How Do I stay positive?",
"How do I stay positive for the major I have chosen? I am a 23 going on 24, college student who decided to pursue CS as my major, I am currently taking my first programming class: C++ I love what I am learning but am having difficulty with the math word problems, and seem to be losing faith. Not to mention I am one of four women in the class. How Do I stay positive?"
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"as a programmer myself, just know that you learn a lot of things in college that you won't necessarily use in the work force. and like all things, its always going to be difficult in the beginning. the math will become easier, the programming will become easier, but not before getting a little harder every now and then\n\nyou're pursuing a major in which the demand will remain relatively high and pays well so your quality of life is gonna be high\n\nstay strong and diligent, you wont regret it",
"Ask for help from classmates or your instructor if you're struggling!. There's no shame in asking for help.",
"Realize that it isn't going to always be easy and embrace it. It will be so much more rewarding when you work through it. It can be scary to push the limits of your comfort zone but it's the only way to grow. Engineering school can be a bear, but you CAN do it!",
"I am a fourth-year math student, and also often one of the few women in my classes. \n\nIn the beginning, I got through it because I was determined to prove wrong that voice in the back of my head that said I wasn't smart enough.\n\nNow, I've already proven to myself that I'm smart and capable of success in STEM, so that motivation is no longer applicable. But I have taken ten classes for this major so far and I only have four left, so my new motivation is that it'd be one hell of a waste if I don't finish!\n\nBest of luck. "
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"How to manage several hobbies? I'm on trumpet practice, I want to read, I want to learn a new language, write scripts, etc. But I never find anytime to do several and then I feel like lagging in one and doing well on another. Any tips on how to manage several hobbies?",
"How to manage several hobbies? I'm on trumpet practice, I want to read, I want to learn a new language, write scripts, etc. But I never find anytime to do several and then I feel like lagging in one and doing well on another. Any tips on how to manage several hobbies?",
"How to manage several hobbies? I'm on trumpet practice, I want to read, I want to learn a new language, write scripts, etc. But I never find anytime to do several and then I feel like lagging in one and doing well on another. Any tips on how to manage several hobbies?",
"How to manage several hobbies? I'm on trumpet practice, I want to read, I want to learn a new language, write scripts, etc. But I never find anytime to do several and then I feel like lagging in one and doing well on another. Any tips on how to manage several hobbies?"
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"Perhaps a weekly schedule. Say Trumpet 3 hrs Monday, Wed, Fri. Read an hour or two each night before bed. Tue and Thur spend 3 hr learning a new language. Write scripts 3 hr on Sun and spend 3 hours throughout the week debugging. Give yourself Sat for socializing. Adjust as needed.",
"Maybe each day of the week can be a focus day for one hobby. Maybe leave 2 days open for catching up a day you missed or to continue more on a certain hobby you feel more inclined to that week? I personally rotate my hobbies. Never feel like you are lacking in one though. They are hobbies not jobs. Develop them at the speed you want. \n",
"I would recommend choosing some things you want to do most and start with them. If one is lagging behind set aside more time for it . ",
"I've personally found Phasing to be a great thing. Like I would start with an activity A, make sure I'm in flow with it , usually takes a week or so, then I would add activity B into my schedule, try to handle them both, takes a week or so again. Then I would keep adding and adding until I hit a saturation point where I can no longer add any more. Then I would subtract one activity regardless to give myself some time to rejuvenate. BTW, juggling 7 hobbies right now."
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"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. ",
"The best way to study? What's the best way to study, in your opinion? I find it so hard to get started, and I can't do libraries. They're just too quiet and every sound I make feels like i'm being too loud. I tried studying in the quiet zone at my universities library, but it didn't work. Tried the loud floor, became unproductive and distracted. \n\nI'm a procrastinator. I seriously work better under pressure (i.e.: the closer to the exam, the more interested I am in actually studying) - I want to cut that habit. "
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"Pick 10 students and you'll have 10 study styles.\n\nMy kid has to listen to soundtrack music while studying. I have to do half of my studying, give myself a reward, then come back. \n\nYou're going to have to get to your style by half-steps.",
"The best things you can do for yourself are proactive. Skim the chapter and have an idea of the topic before the first lecture on it begins.\n\nWrite your notes in an organized way by topic. If your class is quantitative in nature and some numbers are calculated, write down how they got the numbers. If your prof gives powerpoints online ahead of time, print them out and notate on the paper that your slides are printed on. If you take notes by computer/tablet, do it in the notes part of the slide.\n\nIf given information on sources for practice questions, do them. Make sure you understand the concepts, not just rote memorization of the few problems your prof has time for in class. That means practicing on your own time prior to studying. Review your notes every few days. Your final study push should really be a review, not a cram.\n\nI can say from experience that the people who get the best grades are the ones who prep themselves to do well by laying the groundwork from day 1. As an anecdote, I teach a required class. Most of the students thought they could wing the first exam. I go over all these study hints the first day of class. The next lecture I gave a quiz at the start. Tell me 5 things about the chapter we are going to start today. The students who couldn't tell me any were my withdrawls, f's, and d's. The ones who could tell me at least were my c's. The ones who could at least provide a broad overview and list a few key points were my b's and a's. The grades my students get are a direct result of the prep work they put in prior to the exams. Yes, there are some exceptions, but for the average student, it's about making sure you are prepared prior to studying for that big test.\n\nThere are some things that are person dependent, for example if your memory isn't great, writing key points every day will help. But a lot of those things are dependent on how a person learns.",
"ok, so you're stubborn not to study. use that stubbornness to consequently finish stuff you began. Then begin studying. Ok, maybe you just watched that cliffhanger end of an episode. look at the clock and see if you have to go somewhere in a too short amount of time. no? great watch the next episode and see if it's cliffhanger. repeat until you don't have one. Then study. Tired doesn't count. Hungry doesn't count. dinner is the reward for understanding why the Axiom of choice is equal to Zorn's lemma.\n\nYou got that 7 side paper to do till tomorrow 8am and it's already 5pm? that means you have 15 hours to get your stuff done. writing a word takes less than a second so you can write 54000 words (that's a lot). all you can think of is stupid? no, stupid is not handing anything at all.\n\nTL;DR: 1. be(come) stubborn-> become consequent even if it's counterproductive sometimes 2. doing something > doing nothing ",
"Try Pomodoro studying. I used an app called \"clockwork tomato.\" I found it more helpful than anything else. \n\nI also listen to light classical while I study. ",
"My professor used this method which is scientifically proven to work very well. He has the students teach other students the material, then review the material an hour later(2 hour lectures). If you do this right, you'll remember like 90% of the material weeks after studying it. ",
"[Coffivity](https://coffitivity.com/) provides \"a moderate level of ambient noise that is conducive to creative cognition\". Its backed up by research, and has helped me. Good luck",
"Yeah, like someone already pointed out: everyone is different. Here's what works for me: \n\n* Work in a cafe or coffeeshop. I need people and noise around me.\n\n* Right before I start, I have a little ritual to trigger my \"this is when I'm actually getting to work\" mode. I put on a specific tasting lip balm and take three deep breaths, sniffing on this bottle of essential oil (orange and eucalyptus, apparently good for focusing. Hello placebo!) \n\n* Pomodoro. Although 25/5 is too short for me, I do 50/10\n\n* Have a very specific list of things I need to be doing, and promise myself something small and nice (a coffee, watching an episode of a dumb TV show, a nice bath) if I get it all done \n\n* Build in rewards in between. For example: each page studied = one m&m / sip of delicious fresh juice (depends on how healthy I'm feeling)\n\nYou just have to experiment and find your own little habits that work for you. \n\nOne more tip: be careful with pigeonholing yourself too much. By saying \"I'm a procrastinator\" \"I just work better under pressure\" you're telling yourself that it'll be well nigh impossible to change. It's like someone who's starting to lift weights saying: \"I'm not strong enough to do this.\" Duh, of course you're not, you haven't practiced. Good luck with it! ",
"When I was in college, I studied in computer labs mostly. Just enough people to provide background noises, but still quiet enough to not be too distracting. Bring headphones if you want. I also liked computer labs because of having access to the computer if you needed to look something up (or take the occasional Reddit break).",
"Unless you have a strong preference to noise, studying in the loud floor is a terrible idea since your brain picks up on what's going on around you and you're likely to remember people conversation than your notes. Same goes for music, I remember a top rated post on reddit where listening to non vocal music keeps your focus on. \n\nOne good way to stop procrastination is to do something study material related that takes little to no effort. It could be watching a YouTube video on the material, drawing a picture of it, skimming easy notes, listening to recorded lectures, that way you'll get your foot in the door and it won't feel overwhelming when you start digging deep into specifics!\n\nBest of luck with your finals! ;)",
"Try the library with background sound in your headphones. A non distracting environment is helpful, but sometimes silence is distracting in itself. Many people with ADHD for instance find that a sort of \"blanket\" of background sound keep their brain occupied enough to focus... if that makes any sense. \n\nSo I would suggest listening to background noise (plenty available on youtube) of like coffee shop chatter, waves, forest noises etc. \n\nThe other thing you can do is listen to music that has NO LYRICS. When you are trying to read, lyrics compete with the content you are trying to take in. So try things like instrumental versions of popular songs or inherently instrumental music like classical or post-rock. ",
"The best way for you to study is to first determine which learning modes you favor the most; i.e. tactile, visual, aural. Understand that each of these modes is related to the others, and each involves several different parts of your brain. Don't get stuck on choosing one mode, though one mode is usually dominant in an individual in a given situation (dominant meaning in this context the easiest and fastest mode to learn what needs to be learned).\n\nGo to the education department at your university and ask if they can test you for learning modes, or help you find out more about how you learn best. Once you know more, then you can experiment more easily with each, and combine each mode in different sequences in the same lesson.\n\nIf you're a tactile learner, get ready for a big surprise! You're gonna love labs. Any time you can get your hands on something, or feel some energy move through your body, you're gonna learn it fast. Reading will help prep you for tests and such, but without getting your hands around stuff, you aren't going to master anything.\n\nIf you're a visual learner, you are what the modern education system is tailored for. You get books. You get some lectures, but get them better when there's a graph or info on a whiteboard or projected on a screen or wall or monitor. \n\nIf you're an aural learner, you thrive on lectures. The sound of the professor's voice carries meaning, as do the murmurs in the class. The words spoken have weight for you, and you measure their weight with your ears and voice. I say voice, because you like to ask questions and take care when formulating them. \n\nYou have all three modes and will need all three modes, but don't try to make all three modes equally strong. This is a mistake. One mode will always be your strongest. All three can be improved with practice, but in my experience, putting yourself in an artificial competition to make the three modes more equal usually fails in frustrating ways, or makes the dominant mode weaker. Just find your dominant mode and use this information to guide you in your planning.\n\nIf you're a tactile learner and find yourself in nothing but visual-based classes, ask for help. You can be successful using a less strong learning mode, but you may need to modify something as simple as changing to writing your class notes instead of typing them.\n\nThe modes can change in relative importance over your lifetime. This is not important to you now, as a university student, but will become so when you are paid to accomplish projects and the majority of the work happens to be in a mode other than your dominant one. What's important to you now is to learn how to adapt yourself to the predominantly visual learning patterns of college classes so that you can excell. \n\nAs for your habit of putting stuff off, I have some first hand experience with this. Maybe too much first hand experience. I've also experienced mode priority changes more than once. For school, you have a lot of advantages. You know the syllabus for every class and the reading lists and labs. You know all of the dates. You know how you'll be measured and graded. You know or can find out the relative difficulty of your schedule of classes for the term. These are your inputs to your study planning.\n\nYou don't know if you'll get sick. You don't know if there will come a great flood. You don't know if your favorite professor in your favorite class will die in a car accident and be replaced by someone you simply cannot stand. These are the risks you must manage over the length of the term.\n\nWhat worked for me was scheduling my goals for each week and no more; just the week at hand. Front loading the week is a good strategy; you know you will want to go play or sleep in or something else because you procrastinate. And you know the later in the week it gets, the more adrenalin you get from your procrastination. Front loading for you will likely mean some significant reward for yourself at Wednesday or Thursday so that your adrenalin high has to be fulfilled before then. \n\nThe really cool part, and probably a part that you don't see yet, is that you actually get more time for yourself and more adrenalin rushes by frontloading the week. Monday and Tuesday you're kicking it to the floor because Wednesday afternoon, you're having a drink with your friends and catching a movie. Adrenalin rush #1. Thursday and Friday you're kicking it again, building on top of what you accomplished by Wednesday morning. Friday night you're out to a party. Saturday is just for you; it's a recovery day/play day. Sunday, you review last week and plan the coming week.\n\nTo use a work metaphor, you are managing your school work like a 4 and 1/2 day work week, with a little overtime on Sundays.\n\nTo use a sports metaphor, you are managing your school work like a basketball game; Wednesday afternoon is halftime. Sundays are warmups.\n\nThere were much better students than me. By this I mean I carried a 4.0 the first two years of college, but they took a heavier class load than I did and got the same grades. I couldn't manage a part time job and a heavy class load; the compromise was summer school, but that worked out really well for classes that were very challenging for me. The single subject focus of summer school helped me get over the difficulties.\n\nBy my senior year I was managing my days in 15 minute increments. I was a music major. 25 minutes, a la Pomodoro, is probably more appropriate for your situation. Back then, under a heavy class load, a quarter hour could be put to good use; that's really how I decided on the unit of management. Any less didn't equate to measurable progress on my work; larger chunks ended up creating dead times that weren't productive at all. \n\nI've found that different approaches work for different classes. For German language class, I studied with two or three other students every morning at 7:30 AM for an hour, then had breakfast, then German class at 9:00 AM. Aced that series of classes. Study meant writing German homework assignments.\n\nWorld History was much more lecture oriented; very verbal, back and forth with the professor. Small class size. Lots of interactions. Lots of reading outside of class, but done on my own with a list of questions in my mind and notebook from the discussions in class or in the professor's office. Study was researching the answers to my own questions.\n\nField geology was tactile. I handled a lot of rocks! Spent four days in Death Valley, California, in some of the out of the way places of spectacular geologic interest. Climbing up a few million years of granite to reach a bed of older rock made plate tectonics and metamorphic rock very real. Looking down at the seabed that is the valley floor put us in a very reverent place; did you know that Death Valley has a bathtub ring, left when the sea evaporated?\n\nMusic classes. What can I say. Tactile and aural and visual. Feeling for the notes under your fingers while reading sheet music, all the while listening to other players and yourself, and attempting to elicit a specific emotion from an audience. Thrilling.\n\nBy the way, if you're that guy that never had to really read the text or take many notes, just browsed the text before exams and aced every exam; I still hate you!",
"My method tends to be to take lots of notes during class, either hand written or typed, (had wrote for math / mathy sciences, typed for everything else). Then when test time was approaching (a week to 3 days beforehand), I would create a study sheet out of all notes. Anything that was duplicated either because it was covered in multiple classes or was said multiple times in a lecture got written only once, but highlighted to emphasize importance. During this stage I also changed wording around to make it my own and ensure maximum brain power. I then take this master note copy and organize it as sensibly as possible, typically by subject. this subject list then gets studied over about 10 times, highlighting sections that gave the most trouble remembering. For big finals I would tape the finalized study sheet to the wall of my dorm room right by the bed and review before falling asleep, if I woke up in the night, and first thing in the morning. \n\n\nThe library I used when in university had study rooms you could book for up to 4 hours at a time and were relatively good with blocking out unwanted noise. It should also go without saying, but no internet and put phone on silence if you can. Also get enough sleep and stay hydrated so your brain is functioning optimally. \n\n\nDo you know your learning style? If you are auditory, read your notes aloud. If you are kinesthetic, rewrite notes over multiple times or come up with a gesture to go along with subject. Maybe create a pneumonic. \n\n\nDurring normal classes, I would arrive 5-10 minutes early (yep, I was that nerd) and re-read notes from the previous class. If there was a concept I didn't quite grasp, I would ask for further clarification. be fully present in each class and studying will be much less of an endeavor, as you will already had 50-75% of the knowledge nailed down well. ",
"In my opinion, it all boils down to one thing: removal of distractions. \n\nFor me, my computer is at a desk next to a TV, which is hooked up to my xbox. Boy I could play a quick game of Fifa. And blam, I'm playing xbox and watching netflix. I counter this by taking my laptop into my dining room, where there is no electronics or other distractions. I list my work that needs accomplishing and I work in the order of hardest to accomplish first. Take quick breaks between assignments and reward yourself for finishing an assignment by doing things like getting a soda or small bite to eat. Refresh yourself and prevent falling off a cliff by taking a break and taking a shower. It physically and mentally refreshes you. ",
"Guide your eyes with a pen and read out loud if you have to. Then close your eyes and repeat what you just read.",
"Do this free course from the University of California.\nhttps://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn\n\nIt's not hard and even just listening to the lectures without doing the assessment is worthwhile (but really cheating yourself). Lot of good material there."
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"How to improve a living space with no windows. I just graduated and will be teaching English in Spain for a year. I found a fantastic opportunity with a mother and son who have a lovely room they will rent out for only 200 euros!\n\nThe only downside is that there is no window in the room, and I am the type of person who NEEDS sunlight to function. However, I do have problems sleeping with any type of light, so this will be helpful for that. \n\nAre there types of lightbulbs/vitamins/ways of decorating etc that could help me function better and feel more awake?\n\nGracias!",
"How to improve a living space with no windows. I just graduated and will be teaching English in Spain for a year. I found a fantastic opportunity with a mother and son who have a lovely room they will rent out for only 200 euros!\n\nThe only downside is that there is no window in the room, and I am the type of person who NEEDS sunlight to function. However, I do have problems sleeping with any type of light, so this will be helpful for that. \n\nAre there types of lightbulbs/vitamins/ways of decorating etc that could help me function better and feel more awake?\n\nGracias!",
"How to improve a living space with no windows. I just graduated and will be teaching English in Spain for a year. I found a fantastic opportunity with a mother and son who have a lovely room they will rent out for only 200 euros!\n\nThe only downside is that there is no window in the room, and I am the type of person who NEEDS sunlight to function. However, I do have problems sleeping with any type of light, so this will be helpful for that. \n\nAre there types of lightbulbs/vitamins/ways of decorating etc that could help me function better and feel more awake?\n\nGracias!"
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"Renting rooms like this is illegal in a lot of places because without a window you're totally screwed if there's a fire.",
"There are lightbulbs that emit the same kind of light that the sun emits, I'm almost sure. You may have to try to find them online. Get your Vitamin D through supplements, and cover the walls with posters of things that make you lucky. \n\n",
"Hey I'm living in a basement right now the best tip I can come up with get a 24 outlet timer for a bedside lamp. Waking up to actual light helped me wakeup a lot easier. "
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"How can I keep the towel around my waist? I keep tighten it but it just keeps getting looser and looser until It falls off. Annoying as heck if I'm carrying something so I cant tighten it.",
"How can I keep the towel around my waist? I keep tighten it but it just keeps getting looser and looser until It falls off. Annoying as heck if I'm carrying something so I cant tighten it.",
"How can I keep the towel around my waist? I keep tighten it but it just keeps getting looser and looser until It falls off. Annoying as heck if I'm carrying something so I cant tighten it.",
"How can I keep the towel around my waist? I keep tighten it but it just keeps getting looser and looser until It falls off. Annoying as heck if I'm carrying something so I cant tighten it."
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"Suck in your stomach before you tuck the edge in. When you let your stomach back out, the force plus the tuck should hold it in place. It works for me!",
"Buy a bigger towel... Or break off one of those plastic cost hanger clips that they hang pants on at the mall.",
"Suck in your stomach, pull the towel as tight as you can handle, tuck one side in and then twist it again....or buy a chip clip, clothes pin, or something similar, just make sure that it has enough pressure in the sprint to leave a small white mark on your finger when clip it on your finger, otherwise you may be in for an embarrassing situation",
"I opt for the bath robe in situations that I use my hands, or if they don't exist yet there should be towels where the long side has a bathrobe belt and loops for it."
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"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
"18 Years Olds, how do i clear my credit history ? Hello, I didn't know where to look for an answers on this. I'm 18 years old have a slight idea on how cr",
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"That information is most likely coming from one of the 3 big cr",
"If you live in the us, you gave the right to ask each cr",
"No, that information is pulled from your social security number and cannot be “reset”. There is usually an option that states that you don’t recognize the options listed as one of yours. Does it let you start an account after answering the questions or does it say that it cannot verify your identity?",
"I didn't understand what you were asking until I saw some of the other replies. \n\nYes, they'll throw random incorrect choices in with the correct choice, which is designed to keep someone unauthorized from accessing your information and setting up a bogus account. Theoretically, only *you* or other authorized persons like a parent or guardian know all of your past addresses, phone numbers, emails, employers, etc.",
"Your security question are traditionally not ones that you have setup. They are things they have been associated with your name. You many not remember having that house phone number or address, but it doesn’t mean that cr",
"These questions are checking if someone else is pretending to be you who would not know whether a “true” answer is there, or if it’s “none of the above”. Some or all of the questions may be “none of the above”, but the idea is that someone trying to steal your info would not guess that correctly. So if none of the phone numbers or addresses match, just put “none”! Like the other commenter said, you did not set these up and they are based on info that is associated with your SSN already.",
"Check with r/cr"
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"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?",
"How can I not turn red when doing a speech or speaking in public? Like I said, whenever I have to do a speech or present something or even talk in front of people I don't know that we'll, I turn really red and blush. In what ways can I stop this from happening? Any possible medication I can take?"
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"Propranolol. I'm not even kidding, that stuff is fucking magic. It's called the PhD drug for a reason. It doesn't get you high, so it's easy to get a script for it too. It's a beta-blocker (A blood pressure medicine generally). But what it does is turn off your fight or flight response. It sort of makes all decisions intellectual instead of emotional for a little bit (a slight exaggeration). Anyhoo, when I take it I go from being shakey and having a quavering voice when public speaking to being totally in control- it doesn't make you less scared, it just takes all of the physical signs of anxiety. It's fucking amazing stuff.\n",
"Keep practicing till you've got no reason to be nervous. I was the same at university, like I'd walk up there and shake like a vibrator, that is until I realised the better I was at the delivery coupled with confidence in knowing what I was talking about it would all go away. ",
"From personal experience: just accept that you will turn red and sleek confidently. Seriously. \n\nI had the same problem all my life until about about the end of middle school. In grade 7 we did a year long unit of speeches ranging from 30 second written down ones to ten minute memorized stories. At the beginning my face would always turn red and my eyes would even water sometimes, and I hated it. By the end of grade 8 I was fairly comfortable giving public presentations, and I can attribute that to just accepting that I would turn red. \n\nUp until that point I was always like \"shit, a presentation. I know I'm going to turn red and I know someone will bring it up.\" Because of this I used to try and have speeches perfectly memorized. With more experience I eventually just accepted the fact that I would turn red and people would bring it up. I kept turning red, at least for a little while, and people would mention it. I learned to to laugh it off and things started to get better. But eventually it stopped and now I love public speaking, and gave a speech which I made up on the spot to group of about 200 people, a speech I was supposed to have already written and memorized. And I didn't even turn red. \n\nI think a real big thing is just realizing that the audience doesn't care if you turn red, and confidence is way more important. Imagine you're watching someone you don't know give a speech. If they're confident, then you're more likely to think they're good, even if they are red. \n\nTL:DR \nAccept your red faced fate, and just be confident. \nBest of luck to you. ",
"To use a drug though rather harmless appears to be an unhealthy dependence to control something that you will eventually grow out of.",
"If you're a girl, you can put on some foundation. I wear medium coverage and it doesn't show through. ",
"If it's general nervousness, being prepared helps, of course. So, rehearse your talk a few times, study the subject matter to make yourself more confident, be at the place a bit earlier so you can check if the technical stuff works (beamers, laptops, internet, laser pointers, whatever you need). If you can take your time doing those things you will have a few less things to worry about, at least.",
"I know it's cheeky but stare at the back of the room, look wall to wall as your talking and pretend there is no one there. By the time you look down you will see everyone in shock and awe of how awesome your presentation was.\n\n",
"Good lighting. Ensure that the lights are tuned towards the green/blue end of the spectrum. Then nomatter how much you blush, there will be no red light to reflect it, so you will only darken slightly.",
"Demalogica do a face cream that reduces redness. I used to use it sometimes because I can get a red face when I drink, it worked okay "
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"How to fix a busted bike lock? The key for my bike lock no longer works. I can see no damage on the outside, the key isn't broken or chipped and neither is the outside of the lock. It works like any regular lock (by inserting the key) but recently the key refuses to turn thus leaving me with a chained bicycle that sits in my shed. I don't want to end up cutting the lock or phoning a lock pick. Is there anything I can do?",
"How to fix a busted bike lock? The key for my bike lock no longer works. I can see no damage on the outside, the key isn't broken or chipped and neither is the outside of the lock. It works like any regular lock (by inserting the key) but recently the key refuses to turn thus leaving me with a chained bicycle that sits in my shed. I don't want to end up cutting the lock or phoning a lock pick. Is there anything I can do?",
"How to fix a busted bike lock? The key for my bike lock no longer works. I can see no damage on the outside, the key isn't broken or chipped and neither is the outside of the lock. It works like any regular lock (by inserting the key) but recently the key refuses to turn thus leaving me with a chained bicycle that sits in my shed. I don't want to end up cutting the lock or phoning a lock pick. Is there anything I can do?"
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"You could also try Liquid Wrench, which is about twice as effective for loosening parts than is WD-40. But the best is a 50/50 mix of ordinary transmission fluid and pure acetone, which is about 5 times better than WD-40.",
"you can buy graphite powder and put some into the lock. That might lubricate it enough to allow it to turn. It's not too expensive to give it a shot. You can get it at hobby stores as lubricant for pinewood derby cars.",
"some of the cheap ones could be [picked with a bic pen sleeve](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LahDQ2ZQ3e0). Not sure if most companies have fixed 'em by now or what... but yeah, worth a try. That is after trying WD40 to loosen it up if that's the trouble then this trick won't work obviously."
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"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020.",
"How to control anxiety? I suffer from anxiety for 2 years now, and I always get these peaks when I’m about to go to school or when in a place with people I don’t know. And it really makes me unproductive and quiet.\n\nAnd I try to talk to my parents about it but they always say it’s my job to cure it, because it’s psychological like “You’re anxious? Just relax!”.\n\nSo I want you to give all your tips to control it so I can get rid of it for 2020."
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"Still a work in progress myself.. but usually what helps me most is deep breathing and reminding myself to stay in the present moment. Try to stop thinking about the future and what ‘could’ happen. Our brain is real good at creating scenarios that are pretty ridiculous.",
"Grounding: \n\n1. Touch 5 different things and say what they are.\n2. Smell and say 4 different things.\n3. Breathe and hold for 10 seconds - repeat 3 times.\n4. Imagine tasting 2 things, i.e., a fruit or candy.\n5. Repeat all from the beginning until anxiety subsides.\n\nSometimes eating an apple helps too.",
"Work on the way you breathe. When anxious, the heart beats faster. The best is to train when you're relaxed, to be able to use it under stress when needed. the exercice that works for me : inhale slowly and only a medium amount of air, hold a second or two, exhale slowly (and longer than you inhaled)",
"Look for a therapist who can help you using cognitive behavioral therapy #1 best path to getting better",
"Find a therapist if you don't already have one. They can help you identify triggers and figure out why those situations are troublesome for you. Also, there are medications you can take to help with anxiety.\n\nIn the meantime, practice deep breathing exercises. I believe that deep breathing where your exhale is longer and more drawn out will help your body to stay calm (please feel free to research this on your own, I didn't confirm it before responding).\n\nAlso, one thing that helps my daughter who has anxiety is predictably. A sudden change in plans can throw her off. When possible, stick to a schedule or plan, because it can be a comfort to know what to expect",
"As an alternative, I hiiiighly recommend looking into r/microdosing. Helped tremendous amount of people using natural substances.",
"My biggest help for anxiety in situations I cannot escape is listening to music. Although it may be because I myself have always connected to music but having something that is consistently moving and changing to have your mind think about rather than spiraling in your own head, ya know? If at all possible find some music you love and get into it. There's no one answer for anxiety, be strong you're doing your best and that's all you can do<3",
"I know that this doesn’t work for most people, but for me something that i find really helpful is the serenity prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. Im not religious, but the message here is great. \nIf you start to feel anxious about something, take a deep breath. This puts space between you and your anxiety and allows you to think.\n\nThen ask yourself what you are nervous about. If you can do something about it, then do that thing. If not, then (and this is the hard part) don’t worry. \n\nNow, I know that this can seem hard, like how do i just not worry? But every time you feel the anxiety coming back, take that deep breath and do the check. It takes time, but I’d give it a shot.",
"I Have a couple of suggestions: \n\n\n* Drawing, painting, writing and other forms of artistic expression helps your mind relax by keeping your focus on the task at hand, a habit that worked for me is to write your feelings down, open a word document or get paper and pen / diary, and write how was your day, how do you feel like, and what is bothering you, besides keeping you focused, it can help you pinpoint whats wrong and lets you deal with the problem more easliy. \n\n* Music can influence your mood, so listening to calm music can help, you can search for lo-fi hiphop for a example of calm music, a personal favorite of mine is Nujabes. On a side note, ambient music like the sound of rain, can help you relax, so if you have your phone and headphone available, try listening to a song that you like with low bpm! \n\n* Try to stay away from coffee / sugar or things like energy drinks, if you like to drink, dont drink it at night as can help you sleep poorly, also there is coffee without caffeine \n\n\nBut keep in mind im no therapist and if something is wrong, you NEED to get help, and its kind of personal advice so it might not work as well for you, cya.",
"Clean your brain with CBD. I take 25mg gummy bears every day and yes this works first day. You can start with 10 Mg daily too.\nNo I'm not a doctor but have suffered a lifetime of anxiety with no help. Doctor prescribed Zoloft made me lame and hindered my sex drive and that's not what I desire.\nDon't worry, CBD will not effect your driving or concentration but will help you in those anxious moments with zero side effects. \nI hope you figure this out and put that anxiety behind you!!!",
"I'm not afflicted with terrible anxiety, but when I have it, I actually choose to dwell in the worst case scenario: I think about what would actually happen with as much detail and thought as possible. Once I've done it long enough, I tend to realize that things aren't as bad as my initial anxiety would have led me to believe.",
"Your anxiety mileage may vary, but here's some things that have helped me:\n\nFocus on your surroundings to bring you back to the present, instead of thinking about what-ifs or something that is bothering you. \n\nCheck in with each of your senses, like: what sounds so you hear? Can you find the sound of your own heartbeat? \nWhat do you see around you? Can you count 10 beautiful things? (If not, try to find 10 things that are blue, or something like that.)\nWhat do you smell? What does the air taste like? (I find chewing gum sometimes helps me to focus on something fidgety/sensory, if it's hard to sit still, or if I engage in a nervous habit like biting my cheeks or picking at the sides of my nails)\nWhat does the ground feel like under your feet, or butt if you're sitting? I find lowering my awareness out of my head and down into my body is sometimes helpful.\n\nIf I feel nervous for no reason, or my mind is racing, those ways of distracting myself and shifting focus are helpful.\n\nPractice regulating your internal self-dialogue, which takes time. \n\nTeach yourself that sometimes your thoughts and feelings are not true, and learn to really believe that.\n\n Practice recognising what irrational fear looks like, and then make step by step plans to deal with fears that are actually rational, and learn to disregard the others. That may include asking other people for help and support to do things.\n\nNotice yourself thinking negative things, or fears about the future, and then tell yourself a different story in your head. Imagine you have a wise inner voice (you do! We all do!) that always gives you kind, gentle, loving, helpful advice. What would it say, if it were real? Practice thinking about it like if you were giving advice to someone you love, except give that advice to yourself instead.\n\n(Eg: nobody likes me. \"Actually, you are very likeable. One of your good qualities is ___.\" / What if I fail at this? \"Then you can try again another time, and it will be ok. Or maybe you'll succeed!\" / what if the roof caves in? \"It probably won't. Besides, there's nothing you could do to prevent that, so feeling nervous isn't helpful. Why don't you do something fun?\" Etc.\n\nConsume less caffeine, and see if it helps (I discovered that coffee actually makes me paranoid. I wish I had recognised that as a teenager!)\n\nSleep more, and exercise more. (I have trouble with this one...)\n\nIf you avoid doing things because of anxiety, ask a friend to come with you, or be there to offer moral support while you do the difficult task. It doesn't matter whether it's supposed to be an \"easy thing\", or not. \nI've invited a friend over to have tea with me while I clean my kitchen or fill out a form or whatever I was avoiding, and I sometimes find it much easier to do the task while I'm having a nice time with someone I care about, instead of avoiding doing it and feeling guilty about that avoidance while I'm alone.\n\n Be honest with your friends, bosses, and family about how you feel, and you may be surprised at the kind of support you'll get. Ditto if you feel like you screwed something up because of anxiety. Be honest, and many kind people will be supportive and helpful.",
"Distraction. Give yourself a fun and mild mental task to complete that will force you to focus on something else. Counting and attention to detail tasks work best.\n\nFor example. On the bus, I force myself to try and notice and identify the phones people have without them noticing me. Like a ninja task. Something simple. Like is that an iPhone or Android?\n\nI use reflections in Windows and mirrors and wait for them to start texting before I try to identify their device mentally. I look at the device's color sometimes as a clue or the positioning of the camera. I look for the Apple logo, etc.\n\nThen I try to count them. \"So there are 8 people on their phones and of the 8, there are 6 Androids, with 3 possible Samsungs.\"\n\n\nCounting tasks and attention to detail tasks make it impossible to sustain a negative line of thinking and force you to break your obsessive line of negative thinking.\n\nAny counting or attention to detail task. Count how many Ford's you see on the road versus the ones at gas stations. How many silver cars are around you? How many Toyotas? How many bushes or trees are there? How many children do you see? How many men? How many women? How many people wearing glasses? Wearing black jackets? How many people are wearing jeans? How many of them are fat?\n\nWhenever possible, try to notice the imperfections of other people. Notice how they're not worried about them. Idk why but this always helps me relax."
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"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick.",
"Dog Getting Sick In Car Hey Reddit, My family recently adopted a dog and we like to take her to soccer practices and to the beach. Most of the rides are about 30 minutes. The dog usually throws up in the car or as soon as we get out. It is starting to become a hassle taking it out with us but we don't want to leave her home. Any tips for me from keeping her from getting sick."
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"My time to shine!!!\n\nMy dog had this happen. He would drool and eventually vomit. It sucked!!\n\nThe get told us to condition him slowly to relate the car to normal life. Here's what we did:\n\nWith the dog, sat in the car in our driveway reading a book (with the car off) for like 20 minutes. He drooled but 20 minutes was quick enough that he didn't get sick. \n\nNext time, move the car like 10-20 metres from the house, sit in the car reading for twenty or thirty minutes. \n\nIt took like 5-7 times doing this, each time moving the car just a little more. Then we took some very small drives (5 minutes) and then voila, he was used to it!!\n\nI really hope your dog gets over it :)",
"TL:DR\nBe realistic and focus on damage control and the dog's comfort. In the long term s/he will probably come around. Try any of many other options all, below, in the interim. \n\n\n\nMy dog, 🍌 Banana, hates the car. When we walk toward my vehicle, he starts drooling 💧uncontrollably. He becomes a dog faucet. Add to this that he used to vomit at least once per journey for nearly two years and I think it's safe to say I had a serious problem to solve. With him nothing ever really worked. Either because he was too scared or I was inconsistent. \n\nSo my final solution: I drive a station wagon and keep a tarp, a dog bed, and a blanket or large towel in there at all times. Just lay down your tarp to catch any dog juices and lay your pup down on the dog bed. Be supportive and sweet, but firm. I usually wrap him in the towel so I don't have to wash a vomit covered dog. Hopefully, any drool and vomit is taken care of so you can maintain your composure. Banana also likes when his friends are in the car. \n\nHe has now been on many road trips (some more stressful than others) and will ride in the front seat with only the slightest drool. \n\nBefore accepting this and focusing on his comfort, we tried everything. Dramamine might work by knocking the dog out, and the vet can sell you relatively expensive pills that are supposed to help. They sell a thing called the Thundershirt (™, I'm sure) that basically wrap-hugs the dog. Banana drooled all over his. \n\nI've also read that you can recondition the dog by gradually introducing it to eating in the car so it eventually associates a ride with dinner. This of course takes dedication and focus, but can relatively difficult to implement with an anxious dog. You can also bring grocery bags to catch any vomit when you're exciting the car, just dont stick the dog's face in the bag. \n\nHope this helps, and just remember how upset and afraid the poor creature is.",
"I had a dog that had this same problem. He was young and had only been in a car a few times so we gave him dramamine for the first 5 car rides maybe. He got used to being in the car after that. This may or may not work for you because our dog was so young.",
"Open the windows. My GSD was always getting carsick, we usually cracked the windows (even in winter...it sucked) and she got used to it. Now she will stop saving the world to go for a ride in the car. Also, for the longest time we didnt feed her prior to the trip. Now it doesnt matter",
"One of my dogs is the same way; for him, it's an anxiety thing. We have some success with keeping him forward facing (instead of looking out the window) and very comfortable- we bring his little dog bed to sit in one of our laps. I know they also make anti-nausea medication for this, but I have no idea about cost!",
"My vet told me to try Dramamine. He said to adjust the dose by weight. For example, if the dose is one pill for a person of 150 pounds, a thirty pound dog would take 1/5 of a pill. Give it in a treat about a half hour before traveling, and the doggy will be good for about four hours. As others have said, it really helps to make sure the dog has an empty stomach before the trip.\n( My dog was a 13 lb. Chihuahua and he did well on 1/4 pill, original formula- the kind the vet recommended)",
"Mine barfs in the car if he's eaten anything recently. I learned not to feed him around the time we were planning on taking him. Maybe your dog's vomiting has a cause?"
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"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!",
"How to get better reflexes for fighting. I've been training Kick Boxing: Full Contact for a few years and, since the beginning of the year, i'm feeling that my reflexes aren't responding as they used to. Is there any special training or diet, I don't know. Anything that could help me improve my reflexes?\n\nThank you, have a good day!"
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"Get a tennis ball. Close your eyes. Toss it straight up into the air about 3-4 feet above your head. Clap your hands behind your back. When you clap, open your eyes. Catch the ball. This helps reaction time and hand-eye coordination.",
"Muscle memory. Practice until you forget how to do it. Your muscles will remember. Interestingly I can type very very quickly. I am typing right now but I have no idea what my fingers are doing or where the right letters are on the keyboard. In fact, I had a problem the other day spelling \"Administrator\" but my fingers know how to spell it even when I don't because I've typed it so many times. Administrator. Amazing.\n\nMuscle memory. You will act or react without thinking.",
"I used to walk down the hall flipping a coin. Fifteen yeas later when I drop something I usually catch it before I'm conscious it has fallen.\nI spent a lot of time unlearning this for knives in the kitchen.",
"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGwxfpgbU5U have you ever seen one of these? It looks like a lot of fun and something you could do in your time outside of the gym. Downside is that it only works your hands and probably wont translate into footwork/kicks.",
"Sparring and focusing on your technique. Listen to what you're told by your trainer as he will be the best person available to evaluate your progress and figure out what you need to do to improve.\n\nBut as with anything else in life, practice, practice, practice. ",
"Krav Maga....you will hone your reflexes like steel, due to the constant repetition of practicing real life defense/offense moves will full contact and PAIN forcing that muscle memory.\n\nWhat you may not react to later may simply be due to you subconsciously accepting impact due to a high pain tolerance. \n\nYou need to start thinking beyond the guilt of each missed 'reaction', and already be thinking about your next hit on your opponent before they recover. Sacrifice taking a hit to strike the opponent while they are recoiling....",
"Kata. Kata kata kata kata. If you do nothing but spar all day, all you're gonna be good at is sparring, but if you do kata all day, you'll be able to integrate all the styles of combat into your fighting style from striking to grappling to chin na to weapons. As for reflexes, throw medicine balls with a partner, then gradually work up to tennis balls. To do this on your own, bounce the ball against a wall, then back at yourself. Catch the ball, then slowly increase the speed you're throwing it until you pick up to the speed you'd expect a punch to come at. Naturally, use a type of face-protector so you don't break your face in the process, but other than that, partner drills are the best.",
"I saw this vid once of a guy teaching fencing. He was showing his student an exercise that had them both standing within striking distance, and he would attack in one of three ways. I don't remember what they were exactly, like a lunge or a beat and lunge or a slash. The student had three answering moves, one to each.\n\nI thought it looked interesting, and the student made prity fast progress. It started slow, and the instructor moved up the speed with the student's ability. Anyway, I got a buddy and tried it for a few hrs. By the end I felt so much faster. So we did this exercise a couple of times a week for a while, and I'm convinced it increased reflexes even when not doing the 3 moves. Something about the way you get out of your head, not making any decision (since you already know the 3 moves) but just get used to reacting instantly to a small que. I'm sure it would work the same if you were doing it by hand instead of with a sword too, tho I don't know that going with a ton of contact would work as you'll beat each other bloody in no time. :D\n\nSeriously try it out a couple of times and see if it dosn't help, I felt like the improvements came very fast, noticable right a way.",
"I had a very similar problem, although age was my issue. I started using a free-hand yoyo. It requires a ton of twitch reactions. I also got one made out of metal, so I had to be really careful to not break my own nose.",
"How severe is the difference?\nAge? 20s, 30s, etc\nAny change in sleep patterns? General concentration? \nAny concussions lately?\nHeadaches or double vision?\n\nNot a doc just saw someone ignore early signs of trouble recently. \n",
"Don't look directly where you are waiting to see movement, look just to the side of it. For example, at a red light, don't look directly at the light, look to the side so that the light is in your peripheral vision.\n\nYour peripheral vision is sharper than looking dead-on, because of the gap in your eye's receptors at the back where the optic nerve inserts into the eyeball.",
"-Spar a lot of different people. Grapplers and strikers of as many disciplines as possible; put yourself as far out of your comfort zone in a controlled setting (if possible).\n\n\n-Eat lots of [not trans] fat and protein, don't cut out carbs (if you're not trying to cut) and consider intermittent fasting.\n\n\n-Play games that require fast reflexes.\n\n\n-Drink enough water so that your pee is consistently very light yellow.\n\n\n-Experiment with the times you go to sleep, try to get 6-9 hours, and continue doing what works best.",
"caffeine take a high caffeine drink or supplement before your workout. other than that there are some great exercises in this thread. ",
"Krav Maga....you will hone your reflexes like steel, due to the constant repetition of practicing real life defense/offense moves will full contact and PAIN forcing that muscle memory.\n\nWhat you may not react to later may simply be due to you subconsciously accepting impact due to a high pain tolerance. \n\nYou need to start thinking beyond the guilt of each missed 'reaction', and already be thinking about your next hit on your opponent before they recover. Sacrifice taking a hit to strike the opponent while they are recoiling...."
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"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?",
"How to deal with narcissism and narcissistic people. The older I get, the more annoying it's becoming. A lot of people seem to want to only talk about themselves or feel they're of a more importance or extreme than those around them. Self-importance, inconsideration, and battles for the spotlight are traits even some of my oldest and more genuine friends are lately expressing toward each other.\n\nHow do you handle (extinguish) narcissism and avoid being narcissistic yourself?"
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"Cut them out and stop trying to comprehend their bullshit. Remove yourself from their sphere of influence. Don't feel guilty, feel empowered.",
"Learn to distinguish self-absorption from manipulation. Everyone gets self-absorbed at times. That's not a time to abandon old friends. However real narcissism is often the basis for a worse kind of manipulation. Read /r/raisedbynarcissists to see how bad it can get. The difference is in the price other people pay. \n\nA malignant narcissist will lie, steal, flatter, cheat, bully, and do anything to take what they want from others. It often hides a predatory/parasitical character. Sociopathic tendencies, if you like. Such people, you need to exclude from your life if at all possible, and if not possible, then learn to keep them far from your true friends, family, money, possessions.\n\nAs for avoiding being a toxic person, just learn to focus on making others happy and being happy yourself.",
"Be honest. If it's too much for you - walk away, interrupt them, tell them what you think, but don't be shy about it.\nBut if you got to talk with this person (colleague/boss, client etc.) just remember what do you need from them (to be in good relationship with those people, to be their friend etc.)",
"/r/raisedbynarcissists can help you with solutions for dealing with all kinds of narcissistic people, not just parents. ",
"Everyone who behaves in a self-important, inconsiderate way isn't necessarily a narcissistic individual. They may very well be a normal person who just had such a bad day or week or life that it has finally, finally overcome their ability to cope. I'm sure you also sometimes behave inconsiderately simply because of your own problems and failure to recognize other's problems and needs from time to time. You can't expect to extinguish narcissism in others before you extinguish it in yourself. If you figure out how to do that let us know. \n\nAs far as handling true narcissism I would say be utterly polite and cheerful while refusing to give ground on your boundaries in any way. It won't extinguish it, but it will minimize the impact on yourself as a true narcissist will move on to a more easily manipulated candidate.",
"I find that most of the time, when I'm annoyed by people who I feel are being self centered it's because I'm being self centered. I find it annoying when people want more attention because they are taking attention from me. Maybe this is just me. I have yet to find a way to extinguish my own narcissism much less anyone else. I think you'll feel better when you are able to ignore people's personality flaws rather than try and fix them. ",
"You don't \"deal\" with them. You get \"rid\" of them.\n\nThere's no curing their mental illness. Move on.",
"Never engage, never give attention, no matter how they escalate. Never try to reason, you only feed into the drama. NEVER divulge any personal information. \n\nTheir behaviour is not your fault, but if you provide an audience you are feeding the addiction. You cannot change them but they will suck you dry whilst they lap up our care, and cast you aside once they've depleted you. Everything they do will be your fault, so don't lose your cool, instead laugh heartily at the bull. They will do the running once you consistently mock their immaturity.\n\nNever trust them with money, and in any interaction document document, document. ",
"Narcissistic as an adjective I can't really tell. Everyone is self-centered to a degree, it's completely natural. Some more than others. \n\nAs a psychological term, if you can avoid them, do it. Otherwise, try to be completely unpredictable so they can't find your pattern. Don't let them get any sort of power over you (including things like making you walk towards them, or petty power play when shaking hands and things like that).",
"Well, I don't know what age group you are in, but younger people tend to be more narcissistic as part of growing up and learning about themselves and asserting themselves in the world. Generally, as people age they begin to see a wider view of the world and themselves in it (although a certain percentage might not accomplish this sadly). It can also be a social or cultural thing. Perhaps your social circle and/or local culture encourage this type of behaviour or personality trait. Wherever it derived from however, I believe that friends tend to be a reflection of you, so this might mean that you need to focus on changing this in yourself, which is seems is currently your goal (which in my opinion is excellent). My advice as someone who is closing in on 40 years old, is that you have to force yourself to see and understand others and their experiences better. You need to improve your empathy for others basically which will draw you away from yourself. Perhaps you can volunteer at a homeless shelter or food bank for example. You should read about the plight and problems of others and put yourself in their place. This can provide you perspective on life in general. Also, you might want to m"
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"Stop wooden chair + bedframe from squeaking I'm a student with a wooden chair and wooden bedfame. The chair wobbles a lot and the bedframe squeaks every time I move at all. My neighbours probably think I'm having just insane amounts of sex, but as much as I like that, I'd rather get it fixed. Does anyone have any tips? ",
"Stop wooden chair + bedframe from squeaking I'm a student with a wooden chair and wooden bedfame. The chair wobbles a lot and the bedframe squeaks every time I move at all. My neighbours probably think I'm having just insane amounts of sex, but as much as I like that, I'd rather get it fixed. Does anyone have any tips? ",
"Stop wooden chair + bedframe from squeaking I'm a student with a wooden chair and wooden bedfame. The chair wobbles a lot and the bedframe squeaks every time I move at all. My neighbours probably think I'm having just insane amounts of sex, but as much as I like that, I'd rather get it fixed. Does anyone have any tips? "
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"Talcum powder in the joints will stop the squeak. A permanent repair involves taking it apart and refitting the joints. Thick glue won't do.",
"I'd honestly just get a new chair at a second-hand store. The bed can be fixed by putting talcum powder between the joints and tightening the screws.",
"Boy oh boy. I've had this happen, and it turned out it was the box-spring. Dropped some WD-40 on them puppies and it's good as new. But if that doesn't work for you, here are some fixes: [1](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGgLG9M8TnQ) [2](http://www.wikihow.com/Fix-a-Squeaking-Bed-Frame) [3](http://macgyverisms.wonderhowto.com/how-to/silence-your-obnoxiously-squeaky-bed-with-4-easy-macgyver-style-fixes-0146926/)"
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"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!",
"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!",
"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!",
"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!",
"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!",
"How to get over my emotional response and attachment to my job? So I've been with my job 4 years now. I was mainly in one department for a long time, and was always praised for my work ethic, my sense of urgency with projects and dealing with our customers. I have only called out 4 times and other than that I've had great attendance. Right before the pandemic they had asked for anyone interested in being promoted to get with our HR for an interview. It went great and I was told I would be put for development so I would be ready for a spot opening up in my department. \n\nThat was all put off because of Ms Covid, but last year I was finally put into a development stage. There was even a plan made as well. They wanted me to be more global, so for the last few months I've been working other departments. The spot for promotion that I wanted in my main department opened up. I spoke to my manager about it and I was told they were interviewing potential candidates, deciding what they really needed from the store because of the holidays coming up and to be patient and possibly work me toward a promotion next year.\n\nI found out the promotion was given to someone who has never worked my department before. My colleagues in that department are also confused and upset about the decision which kind of makes me feel better for some reason. Ive been feeling some type of way since and can't seem to shake the disappointment and anger. Any tips to get over this would be great!"
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"Wait until they let you down like this a few more times. You'll naturally lose any attachment to the job you ever had.",
"The promotee is likely compensated $20,000 less than everyone else. \n\nProfit-seeking gluttons make decisions based on profit and nothing else.\n\nThe Truth Is Out There.",
"You should feel anger and disappointment. You got jerked around.\n\nI suggest a new job where they appreciate you.",
"Well there are many variables you don't know. Was it more money? Certain experience? Personal relationship? I would talk to someone senior and address this saying it made more sense to promote from within. That you want a stab at another higher position. This already lets them know you want to grow and maybe leave. Which may be your best option.",
"The harder you work, often the more they want to keep you in that role (and not promote you). Ask for a raise. If they refuse look elsewhere.",
"Best to move on. Sometimes certain people don't get promoted because they're doing such a odd job at x and they don't want to hire and train someone to do x ."
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"My Xbox 360 wireless controller's batteries are dying Are there any LPT's to make the ones in it last longer or anything? I don't currently have the money to buy more batteries and when I press \"B\" for too long it shuts the controller off. Kind of makes playing games impossible. Also, I don't own a controller that connects to the Xbox 360. ",
"My Xbox 360 wireless controller's batteries are dying Are there any LPT's to make the ones in it last longer or anything? I don't currently have the money to buy more batteries and when I press \"B\" for too long it shuts the controller off. Kind of makes playing games impossible. Also, I don't own a controller that connects to the Xbox 360. ",
"My Xbox 360 wireless controller's batteries are dying Are there any LPT's to make the ones in it last longer or anything? I don't currently have the money to buy more batteries and when I press \"B\" for too long it shuts the controller off. Kind of makes playing games impossible. Also, I don't own a controller that connects to the Xbox 360. "
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"Switch them with the ones in your tv remote. Remotes don't need a fully charged battery, from my experience they drain it really slowly.",
"Seems like instead of playing games all day you should go and get a job... But if your just poor (like me) investing in a rechargeable battery will do you wonders...",
"Pick up a pack of rechargable AA batteries and a charger. It should be cheap enough and saves you a lot of hassle"
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"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n",
"How to keep earbuds from falling out Maybe I just have mutated ear canals or something, but it seems like I can't keep my ear buds in for more than a few minutes at a stretch. I'd really like to use them when exercising (jogging, for example -- forget it!), but haven't found a solution that works.\n\n"
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"[Make your own.](http://lifehacker.com/5347245/make-comfortable-noise+isolating-earbuds-for-less-than-a-dollar)",
"You put your arm over your head and lift your ear with your hand. Then insert the earbuds and release your hand. That is what your supposed to do.",
"Have you tried a different size of earbud? I remember mine came with three different sized 'cushions' I guess that go on the actual earpiece, and I just had to find the right size to stay in my ear.",
"you will always have issues with ipod's plastic earphones and sweat/microphonics (cable rubbing against clothing). nothing you can do but suffer it, or get new earbuds.\n\nif you want something to use for jogging, you have 3 options.\n\n1) get some silicone/slip covers for the regular cheap ipod earbuds.\n\npersonal experience, they don't work. & are truly annoying but if you need your hipster cred with original ipod 'buds, [clip-overs](http://www.amazon.com/EARBUDi-Clips-Apple-iPhone%C2%AE-Earbuds/dp/B003T90WY8/) work great but $10 for snap-on/clip-on over-ear cable guides, are silly. \n\nover-ear is really something you have to get used to.\n\n2) you can get senn cx380s and such for 'sports' and neck bands, over-ear-covers, sports branded gear. etc. \n\nIMO, it's not worth it unless you can test them first. most of the clips dig in, pinch or rub, or the neck bands hang off your ear or twist as you run, depending on the weight. \n\nfor some people they work great. YMMV. read amazon reviews, judge for yourself.\n\nhowever, the <$100 brands like skullcandy ink's, Jems, Ejays, monster turbines, klipsch, UE metro's, etc. are simply trashy. expect to break within 5-6 months. i have 5 various shure/sony/senn/UE/ejay pairs, all dead. the chinese ones, still going. who knows. reviews do destroy a lot of these brands, but some people swear by them. or at them. \n\nIMO, the all around, best cheap outdoors brand are westone 1's, but expensive and arguably great, compared to the price range. some don't like the sound, but they isolate a lot of noise and water/sweat, and stay in place as you run with them, or apparently waterski, etc. (could just be hype)\n\n3) get some $50 chinese brand replacements. they usually sound awesome, even some of the $30 brands.\n\nVisang R02ProIIs are popular, amazon carries them, but check [head-direct](http://www.head-direct.com/Products/?cid=1&orderfield=product_price&ordertype=asc), the PK3's and the V02's are good cheap backups, the RE0's are good alts for just listening to music and are on par with $200 brands, for $75/$80.\n\nas for chinese brand reviews, amazon reviews knows which brands will break. some of MP4nation's brainwavz are rebranded visang's, but once you get over the cheap look, they tend to be unbelievably good for $30. it's just an odd market, as $50 to $80 = $200 amazon brands. \n\n$80 versus a $30 chinese brand, will depend on expectations, $500 will always sound better than $50, but half of that is mental. \n\n4) comply foam tips are terrific if you have \"wierd ears\", they last about 2 weeks before getting grungy, and 2 months before you need to swap them over, $10 for 4 pairs on amazon, will last half a year, depending on use. \n\nmost all of these brands all have comply foam padded tips as well as silicone rubber tips for a good fit, so you can test how it works, some silicone pads will work better than the foam too. \n\n5) if you want/need the inline mic/remote, the starter is still the [Apple branded in-ears](http://www.amazon.com/Apple-MA850G-Ear-Headphones-Remote/dp/B001MY6ISG/). if you want to be able to answer calls, something that not all of the iphone 4 earbuds with remotes will let you do, these are the first ones to compare with. they are simple, but that's all you need really, and be aware, not all of them will work with iphone 4/4s/ipad2, as they changed the remote. \n\nthe apple in-ears do work great for apple brand earbuds, and are a world above the standard earphones in price and quality of sound, they also stay in place better if you have a good fit with the standard earbud replacements. \n\nshure SE115's and klipsch s5i/s4i are good options, as are about 20 other brands, but the mic+remote may not work with iphone 4/ipad 2, which limits you to >$100 options too. ",
"put them into your ears normally, then twist them a little (like screwing them in) it makes mine stay snug, also make sure they arn't oily.",
"The stock iPhone buds are awful for staying in your ears. I went n got some cheap-o skullcandyz and they have held up to my running and abuse for months",
"Pull the cable over your ears before putting them in. Works like a charm and you dont need those \"sports\" earbuds.",
"[https://youtu.be/rbYiUeW16ao](https://youtu.be/rbYiUeW16ao) 9 sec clip, \"just use a scrunchie\"...The Truth Shall Set You Free!\n\n​\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/3j03nn3r6xmb1.jpeg?width=751&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9a1103559fcfaef8f78432f95d77be05a41f9396",
"[These](http://www.sennheiserusa.com/sport-earphones-earbuds-headphones-sennheiser-adidas_504038) work for me. \n\nAs a add on LPT, I always super glue the plastic things you put in the ear so they don't fall off. They are also sturdy. Before I managed to break one every other month. These have lasted me about a year",
"[These.](http://www.amazon.com/Innovelis-1323-BudFits-Frosted-Clear/dp/B00139OIRI/ref=sr_1_sc_3?s=electronics&ie=UTF8&qid=1320137249&sr=1-3-spell) I listen to my iPod when I'm active and they were always falling out. These completely work with what you already have and are cheap :)",
"You could try proper [sports earphones](http://www.google.co.uk/search?q=sports+earphones&hl=en&safe=off&prmd=imvns&source=lnms&tbm=isch&ei=h9quTuWpOIHQhAfT_ojZDw&sa=X&oi=mode_link&ct=mode&cd=2&ved=0CGUQ_AUoAQ&biw=1366&bih=647&sei=%20otquTtPeD5Oy8QPA4ZTCCw)",
"Wear a toboggan that covers your ears. That always seems to work for me. If it's too hot for a toboggan, use a head band, use two if necessary.",
"Try looping the cord through a zipper or something like that, so there's little weight pulling them down. ",
"Try Skullcandy ink'd ones a for a cheaper alternative that sound great. They come with 3 different gel sizes that you can stick into your ears. The standard iPod ones don't really have the form fitting gel so unless your ears are perfect, you can deal with them falling out.\n\nIf you are stationary, you can unfold a paperclip. Put one end around your ear and pass the cord from the ear bud through the front. It will take off the weight from the cord on the buds and allow them to stay in a lot better.",
"Sport earbuds. Guaranteed to never fall out. Called Yurbuds. I had the same problem... until I found these. http://www.yurbuds.com/our-story#/features\n",
"If I clean my ears before I head out running they stay in no matter what, but they're skullcandy not apple earbuds",
"I think a lot of it depends on what type of headphones you have. If you have the ones that sit on the ear like ipod headphones they are going to fall out every time. Look into some in ear canal type headphones. JBuds makes some pretty cheap ones that are supposed to be decent. If you want something a bit more expensive check out Etymotic. I have the ER6 and MC5 and neither one will ever fall out of your ear, along with blocking a lot of outside noise (you might hear yourself sounding like you're breathing really heavily with these and for some it's uncomfortable).",
"I personally try to push down on them, which makes the bottoms point inward a bit. Firmer grip, but not as tight a fit. Sound quality suffers a bit, but worth it."
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"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down",
"Moving out at 29 Hey LPT, so I'm finally moving out in a week and a half, at the age of 29. I've never done this before, and I could use some tips to ease the transition. \n\nSome things I would specifically like tips with would be:\nBudgeting and saving for rent\nOrganizing\nKeeping the light bill down"
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"First, you should have already had a budget BEFORE you moved out. Just make sure you spend less than you make. \n\nDon't try to do everything at once. You don't have to fill your apartment with furniture or anything. Just get the basics and do a little at a time. \n\nBuy stuff at thrift stores. \n\nJust because you had something at your parents house doesn't mean you _need_ it now. Try to live a month without cable or whatever. ",
"Thrift stores will help with kitchen stuff and decor on the cheap. If you buy used furniture just be sure to know how to look for bed bugs, Google can help with that.\n\nDo not buy a bunch of stuff just because you have space for it. Do not buy name brand anything unless it's a must-have.\n\nGet a plunger, ibuprofen, immodium, small first aid kit, extra lightbulbs and toilet paper as soon as possible. \n\nLearn how to meal-prep and slowly start stocking your cupboards with essentials each paycheck. Don't go to the store every time you need one little thing, you're likely to buy stuff you don't need.\n\nWipe down or squeegee your shower after every use, it will stay cleaner longer. ",
"Organizing --- the floor is not a \"place\". Electric bill --- get into habit of making sure things are indeed, off. Cable/dvr boxes and computers are prime examples. Don't just shut the TV off, get a power strip with a remote and shut the whole thing down unless it's recording something while you're asleep. Same thing for your computer and switch gear, you don't need Wi-Fi when you're asleep or away. Same thing with any appliance that's in a standby mode. ",
"Re: the budget. I always paid my bills first, paid myself second, and then whatever was left over was for entertainment/unnecessary purchases. If you set a goal to save a certain amount each month and stick to it, it builds momentum.\n\nAs far as filling your place, don't feel burdened to buy everything at once. I had two recliners for about six months before I got a couch. \n\nTry to find DIY replacements for household items. Instead of buying name brand cleaner, I bought things like baking soda/vinegar in bulk and it works just as well for cleaning most surfaces and often goes further than a bottle of cleaner. \n\nSome items have way more use than you realize. Case in point: a bucket. I've used it for cleaning, storage, organization, emergency cleanup, trash can (before I got a proper one), step stool, and lots of other uses. ",
"Find a roommate or two or three or four, it's much easier to pay the rent if you have several other people helping out. \nPlus the biggest expense of setting up a new apartment is buying all the small stuff, pots and pans and dishes and trashcans and furniture and lights and on and on and on. \nIt's easier just to find someone who needs a roommate and move in with them. That way you don't have the huge crush of having to spend all that money for setting everything up from scratch. \nAnd if you are a week late on rent, maybe the friend can cover for you, just don't make it a habit. ",
"Always make sure to separate your paycheck. Keep aside what you need for rent and fixed bills from each paycheck. What is after that can be for more variable expenses. \n\nJust because you have space in your house doesn't mean you need to use it. It can be rewarding to have free space and not fill every corner of your home with items. \n\nThe light bill... power strips and turn them off when you're gone. Yeah you'll have to wait a bit for wifi and cable to turn back on but it's less money on electricity. AC and heating can be set higher and lower respectively so that there is less energy use. ",
"Make a bag beforehand with things you're going to need the first day. Towel, toilet paper, snacks, clean shirt and underwear, flash light, etc. You don't want to dig through 5 moving boxes when you really need to go to the bathroom. "
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"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n",
"Giving gifts to the hiring manager of a new job. Is it acceptable? I recently interviewed for a position that is a little above the current level I've been working at. While I do not have the full experience necessary to easily fill the position, the hiring manager has said my energy and character give me a strong chance of getting the job. The manager knows a couple of the same people as I do who have praised me and said they know I can perform all of the duties this job entails. One person I interviewed against has 30 years in the field, but his character is way off. The second person has 10-15 years experience, and comes with letters of high recommendation. If I do receive an offer for this position, the hiring manager is putting a lot of faith in me. \n\nOf course, the best thing I can do is kick ass at the job to show them their hopes weren't in vain, and in that spirit, I would like to give a gift to show them I really appreciate the opportunity. Is something like that frowned upon? It could seem like I'm kissing ass, which I do not want. Any input is appreciated.\n\n"
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"If I were in a position to hire someone, and I had a choice between three people that each have their own strengths and weaknesses but are all about even, the one that gave me a gift would have their app thrown in the trash. It's shady. \n\nAfter the hiring process is done, weather you get the job or not, then it would be appropriate for a gift, to show appreciation for the opportunity. In the future, if another similar job comes up, you might get a call before its posted.\n\nBut giving a gift before the process is over would seem like a bribe more than anything, even when that isn't the intent.",
"NO. Absolutely not.\n\nThe hiring manager should not accept it if you were to give them a gift. Someone could see it as, \"hey, how did this guy with no experience get the job? Oh, he gave the person a gift?\" Bam, you're fired, hiring manager is fired.\n\nAfter you have gotten the position or been turned down for the position, that is a good opportunity to show your appreciation. Not before. Definitely not before.",
"As an employer, do not do this. \n\nInstead make an effort to contact them and express interest in the position. If I have a \"coin toss\" between a few people the one that shows the most interest moves to the front of the line.",
"Inappropriate for a number of reasons and will color you in a less than optimal way in your career. ",
"In a word, no. If you want to express your appreciation for the opportunity, send a thank you card or write a thank you email.\n\nEven if it wasn't interpreted as a bribe (which it very well might be), it would make you look desperate and insecure relative to the more experienced candidates. It would seem like groveling.\n\n**",
"Most of the time, a manager hires the person with whom they think they can get along and enjoy working together. You'll be fine.",
"Lotta scare stories in here. Depends on the company. \n\nDo whatever is comfortable. I agree though, gift doesn't seem the right tone. You're chosen for your skills here, that is enough. \n\nNothing wrong with being the office nice guy though, you wanna buy stuff for everyone? Deal. New friends? Deal. ",
"OP you fucking retarded? No, even if they like you that puts them potentially in a bad spot legally. Max is a nice card or e-mail, preferably after you get hired or are told you are no longer in the consideration for the job. "
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"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)",
"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)",
"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)",
"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)",
"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)",
"How to sleep shorter, but deeper? I usually sleep very long (at least 8-9 hours) and it doesn't feel \"deep\" at all (I feel like I've been hit by a train and need 2 hours to \"wake up\")\n\nA good friend of mine is an extreme natural short sleeper, who can't (!!) sleep longer than 5 hours and sometimes goes without any sleep at all, but still has lots of more energy than I do (he does not drink coffee or takes any drugs like Adderall)\n\nI know that his case might be 100% genetic, but I really would like to know some real life hacks on how to sleep shorter but deeper, you know, life hacks and life pro tips which are not known to most people\n\nI mean, I get the obvious ones like good sleep hygiene, sleeping always at the same time, some herbs like Valerian or lemon balm, but what they do is that they actually just help me fall asleep (very important!), they do not improve my sleep quality per se\n\nIt may be worth mentioning that if I take 400mg of Ibuprofen before sleep, I get the best sleep ever. I still sleep 8-9 hours, but my sleep is so so deep it's very refreshing (so much that I wouldn't mind sleeping for just like 5 hours, but I'd have to set an alarm)"
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"Passionflower decreases time to fall asleep and increases the amount of time spent in “slow-wave” phases, also known as “deep sleep.” This phase seems to be he most restorative in terms of quality.\n\nPassionflower also reduces the time spent in REM sleep, known to be when dreaming happens.\n\nHere’s the research below.\n\n[Effect of a medicinal plant (Passiflora incarnata L) on sleep](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5699852/)\n\nI would also feel like I was hit by a train even after 8 - 10 hours. I talked to my doctor and he arranged a sleep study.\n\nIt turns out that I have sleep apnea. I don’t fit the profile. I’m young, slim, and athletic. I eat right and exercise regularly. But I always woke up dead tired.\n\nMy life changed after getting prescribed a CPAP. Like, 180 changed.\n\nMaybe you should talk to your doctor about you fatigue and headaches. It certainly wouldn’t hurt!",
"Check out the book 'Why We Sleep' by Matthew Walker. It may provide some additional insight into sleep for you.",
"First thing is decide if your mattress is helping or hurting. A new mattress may help with alot of it. Also sleeping with your head elevated will assist with breathing and help you get more restful sleep.",
"I heard white noise can help improve quality of sleep. My gf used guided m",
"Have you ever been allergy tested? I had a terrible time waking up until I found out what things I’m allergic to, and started avoiding them. I also run an air purifier 24/7.",
"Getting good deep sleep comes from your body being relaxed and needing to recharge. Getting plenty of exercise to wear your body out should help you get to that deep sleep mode. \n\nYour friend has so much energy, because their body is used to expending more energy than you. If you lead a sedentary lifestyle, you don't need that much energy, so your body doesn't work to give you that energy.\n\nOne way to combat this is to \"fake it till you make it\"... In other words, try to be as energetic as you can be... It will really wear you out... You will sleep more deeply, and your body will adapt to give you more energy in the long run.\n\nAs for falling asleep faster, my trick is to listen to audiobooks. But using a book that I'm not that interested in, or have read plenty of times so I don't get too involved with it. The audio keeps my mind from wandering, and I don't have any visual stimulus like you would watching a show/YouTube... I generally set the book to stop playing after 10 minutes, and I rarely am awake to realize it stopped."
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"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?",
"How can I stay motivated to be productive after long day at work? I have so many things I keep wanting to do. Program, Selling on Amazon, etc. But I always just end up playing video games since I'm too tired and need an outlet for entertainment. How can I get stuff done?"
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"I have to simply transition to the after work activities and prevent myself from taking any break. \n\nMy problem is that a 30 minute recreational break turns into 2 hours, which turns into all night. \n\nGet everything done that you want to, then take your time to wind down, otherwise, procrastination sneaks up on you. \n",
"I saw this the other day and thought it was a great paradigm shifter. Don't look for motivation. Motivation is fleeting and temporary and comes and goes with mood. Work on discipline. Discipline will get you prioritising your time with regular practice. You don't get to be a great musician being motivated, it takes discipline to practice even when you don't feel like it.\n\nPractice discipline when you come home. Get a routine where you take care of your chores and spend an hour or so doing something productive. If it lapses and you want to play games, let yourself lapse but see that as the temporary lazy days. The more you work on discipline, the less you will lapse into those lazy days.",
"don't stop, just continue into whatever else you want to do: gym - don't go home... shopping - don't go home etc etc etc...",
"On days i need to get things done after work, i take my puppies for a walk between work and after work activities. It allows my brain to take a rest while getting physical activity in (so its not written off as a waste of time) and my dogs love it too, which is a nice bonus.",
"Basically just get straight into it. I'm a teacher with an hours drive either side of the job and the only way I keep running is by going immediately after I get home from work. If I sit down there's a small chance of me actually getting up so I just go and jog straight away and then I can relax",
"I think exercising after work is your best bet, especially if you can do it outdoors. Something like hiking or swimming will be tiring at first but will really energize you once you get into the habit. Then come home, eat a good meal, and spend another hour or two targeting productivity.",
"For my college revision, my elder cousin recommended the ['Pomodoro technique'](http://pomodorotechnique.com/get-started/) which is basically where you work for 25 minutes and have a 5-10 minute break. \n\nYou don't realise but you get a lot of shit done, more than you often expect. You can do a lot of things using Pomodoro. Really helped me this year. Here's how to do it (I used the website in the link to find out but I figured for you this would be easier :P )\n\n1. set yourself a task, big or small, to complete. even something you've been putting off for a million years or whatever.\n\n2. set a timer for 25 minutes.\n\n3. work on your task until the timer rings. if, during this time, you realise you have something else you need to do, write this task on a sheet of paper.\n\n4. when you finish the 25 minutes, this means you have finished one pomodoro. Reward yourself with a 5 minute break. coffee, walking the dog, walking in general, breathing, m",
"Rockstar energy drinks gave 240mg of caffeine per can. 1 or 2 of them will get you motivated. Works for me I am an electrician work in commercial construction so I feel same way you do after work. "
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"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. ",
"How to get telemarketers to stop calling Today i've received four calls already from some sort of telemarketer and 3 of those were from an air duct cleaning service. We said no everytime, we weren't interested and to put us on the do not call list. "
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"Do not answer a number you don't recognize. When you answer it (your phone number) gets marked as active leading to more calls. It can be a tough habit to break but unless you are job searching or expecting a call from a number not in your contact list, let it go to VM. 98% of the time you will not get a VM since it was a telemarketer.\n\nSource: Friends were in the industry / I work in Marketing and hear all of the horror ",
"There were a couple times I started speaking in my native language, taking care not to use any English words and sounding very annoyed. Spanish might not work as well for this, but it worked very well for me. They never called again. \n\nThe telemarketer was southern and drawled a confused \"hello?\" a few times before hanging up. ",
"Tell them you are busy, ask for their home number and that you will call them later. When they refuse, tell them \"I guess you don't want people calling you at home?\". They say no, and you follow up with \"Now you know how I feel.\" and hang up.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hllDWSbuDsQ\n\n\nReally though, if it is a robo caller, as most are these days, its better not to answer cus it will mark you as an active phone line. And if it is a person, as others have said, make it not worth their time.",
"I make it not worth their time to call. . .you will get notes put in the contact sheet. This only works if you are speaking to a human not a robodialer. Begin by asking for all the details on what they are selling, various price points, financing structures anything, transition in to more personal questions, do they have family, what are their hobbies. What you are looking to do is build up length of call. The longer the call with no sales, the more it hits the pocket. Most of these places are paid by calls per hour and sales per call. So if you take up 10-45 minutes, this dramatically hampers their day and they will note it. After 2-3 such calls, no one in the office will want to take that call an knows that they are dealing with some bored stuck at home person that just wants to monopolize their precious earning time. Party bonus you might make a new friend. ",
"Ask them to repeat every sentence they say..\n\n\"Good morning.. I would like to talk about...\"\"\n\n\"Im sorry, can you repeat that, I dont understand what you are saying?\"\n\nThey will stop calling you quicker if they think you are wasting their time and or being obtuse on purpose.\n\nAlternatives,\n\n\"Thank you for your call, I charge by the minute to listen to this pitch.. my fee is $50/minute. Do you agree to these terms?\"\nAsk them for their email and name/email/number of their accounts payable department \n\n\n",
"https://m.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4bnfo9/lpt_telemarketer_wont_stop_calling_theres_a_magic/",
"ditch the landline and use a mobile phone instead unless you absolutely need a land line. If you do, then get caller ID and don't pick up the phone if it is an unknown caller, but let it to voicemail instead.",
"The will not, they do not abide by the do not call registry.\n\nThe only way I got one person to stop was once they send their personal number to my phone and I was able to do a little internet lookup. They went into panic mode once I said to them their name.",
"Not sure where you are from OP but here in the UK we have a free service that makes it illegal for cold callers to ring you.\nIf you go to google and search for Telephone Preference Service it will have all the details in there.\nBut be aware , the service is a limited time thing. I believe it lasts 4 months at a time so you just have to keep re-registering.\n\nHope this helps you OP, if not I'm sure a few Brits here will not know about this free service. ",
"Just have some fun with them.. :D Flirt with them or some crazy stuff, what I did some times is trying to sell them something too! :D\nJust for fun.. Just do something reaaaaally stupid and they wont call you again.. :) ",
"If your landline is IP-based like Xfinity, UVerse or similar there is a free service that blocks telemarketing calls (really fully free for home phones, they make their money doing to same for businesses). Go to www.nomorobo.com. It's legit, actually works and won the FTC Challenge as the best new idea to stop these calls. \n\nOn our two Xfinity lines, it takes it two rings to cut off telemarketer calls, so we just don't answer those lines until the third ring. Every time the phone rings twice and just stops I'm happy. It probably happens once or twice a day and has been working for months. So far it's been perfect. I've gotten zero robo or marketer calls on those lines past two rings except for a couple I decided to pick up before the end of the second ring.",
"I'm sorry, I want to hear what you have to say, but I'm at your mother's house right now and I'm very busy. She's such a hotty! ",
"I work as a telemarketer part time (I'm 16 but it's more of charity telemarketing but the same non the less) we have a policy if they do not pick up 6 times or it goes to VM it is removed off the list for the year so try not to pick up and you should he removed\n\nYou could also say the person they asked for and their partner passed away",
"I remember seeing an interview with the band Yellowcard back in the day about how they used to work telemarketer jobs at call centers to pay the bills, and they gave a top 5 ways to piss off telemarketers. Couldn't find the article online (was in a trade magazine back when) but iirc:\n\n1) Ask super personal, off topic questions. The longer you can stall them on the line, the less chance they have of all the other \"sales\" they would've made otherwise.\n\n2) repeat everything they say back to them. Like a goddamned school kid.\n\n3) ask them to hang on, you'll go get the person they are looking for. Put the phone down. Check back every few minutes w a \"hold on, s/he's coming\"\n\n4) don't hang up. At least back before they caught on to this trick, most had policies where employees would be reprimanded for hanging up on a customer before they do\n\n5) I don't remember."
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"Emergency patches for holes in inflatable innertubes/pool toys I'm on vacation with my family and we've dragged out our old inflatable innertube. It looks like it's in fairly good condition, except for a hole in the seam. I've got duct tape and maybe some other household items, but no patch kit. Any suggestions?",
"Emergency patches for holes in inflatable innertubes/pool toys I'm on vacation with my family and we've dragged out our old inflatable innertube. It looks like it's in fairly good condition, except for a hole in the seam. I've got duct tape and maybe some other household items, but no patch kit. Any suggestions?",
"Emergency patches for holes in inflatable innertubes/pool toys I'm on vacation with my family and we've dragged out our old inflatable innertube. It looks like it's in fairly good condition, except for a hole in the seam. I've got duct tape and maybe some other household items, but no patch kit. Any suggestions?",
"Emergency patches for holes in inflatable innertubes/pool toys I'm on vacation with my family and we've dragged out our old inflatable innertube. It looks like it's in fairly good condition, except for a hole in the seam. I've got duct tape and maybe some other household items, but no patch kit. Any suggestions?",
"Emergency patches for holes in inflatable innertubes/pool toys I'm on vacation with my family and we've dragged out our old inflatable innertube. It looks like it's in fairly good condition, except for a hole in the seam. I've got duct tape and maybe some other household items, but no patch kit. Any suggestions?"
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"Duct tape and superglue. Superglue the duct tape patch over the hole. This will work.\n\nSpread the superglue lavishly all over the entire piece of duct tape.\n\n",
"* rubber cement\n* lighter \n* another piece of inner-tube \n* rough sandpaper \n* Rough up the inner-tube and your new patch, coat both with a bit of rubber cement. Light rubber cement on fire (only for a couple seconds) blow it out and apply patch. Let dry for a couple hours.",
"Duct tape will work only in the short run. If you want something longer lasting, bicycle tube patches work much better. As does repair tape (it is waterproof and made to go around leaky pipes). Or silicone glue. I've patched inflatables with all of these things with fantastic results.",
"This happened to me and some friends pretty recently, we tried a stranger's bicycle patch but the cement was dried up. Tried to improvise with gum and duct tape to no avail. So my buddy ended up floating the river with the hand pump on board. As he put it, \"I can pump it back up faster than it leaks!\"",
"Electrical tape works best with plastic inner tubes and other flotation devices, hold great with no need of glue. Keep a roll on you when you need a emergency patch. "
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"Best way to clean travel mugs? I find that our travel mugs have a strong, stinky odor. Just washing with soap and water isn't cutting it anymore. What is the best way to get rid of that stale odor and preventing it from happening in the first place?",
"Best way to clean travel mugs? I find that our travel mugs have a strong, stinky odor. Just washing with soap and water isn't cutting it anymore. What is the best way to get rid of that stale odor and preventing it from happening in the first place?",
"Best way to clean travel mugs? I find that our travel mugs have a strong, stinky odor. Just washing with soap and water isn't cutting it anymore. What is the best way to get rid of that stale odor and preventing it from happening in the first place?",
"Best way to clean travel mugs? I find that our travel mugs have a strong, stinky odor. Just washing with soap and water isn't cutting it anymore. What is the best way to get rid of that stale odor and preventing it from happening in the first place?",
"Best way to clean travel mugs? I find that our travel mugs have a strong, stinky odor. Just washing with soap and water isn't cutting it anymore. What is the best way to get rid of that stale odor and preventing it from happening in the first place?"
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"Take it apart. I found that the o ring in mine actually came out so I could wash it also.\n\nI use super hot water as well.",
"It's probably in the lid if you have one of those complex ones. Some can be a bitch to clean.\n\nBaking soda in hot water does amazing things for smell removal. If you get baking soda residue in a hard to reach spot in the lid, use vinegar to dissolve it - but rinse it well. A few times.",
"Use a baby bottle brush with oxyclean and hot water. It removes all the stains. Sometimes it needs to soak.",
"I, personally, use hot water. Then I mix dishwasher cleaner (Cascade) in my travel mugs, ice tea brewer, and coffee pot. Soak for 30mins then I use an S.O.S. scrub brush to get the stains out after soaking. Then I rinse with warm water :)) Works all the time. ",
"I usually boil water, pour it in the cup and let it sit. The baking soda idea sounds legit though. I hate using dish soap in my travel mug because it makes my coffee taste like dish soap."
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"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?",
"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?",
"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?",
"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?",
"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?",
"How do you quit a job? I read the previous \"how to quit a job without burning bridges,\" but most of the responses were very specific to that guy's situation.\n\nSo I ask plainly: How do you quit a job? How do you tell your boss?"
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"Put it in writing. a very simple, straight to the point letter.\n\n\"dear boss,\n\nThis is a letter of resignation. My last day will be Nov 15th, 2015. I have enjoyed my time at Home Depot and wish you much luck in the future.\n\nsincerely,\nmwax321\"\n\n\n\ngo into his office, tell him you need a minute of his time. let him know you are resigning and your last day is nov 15 2015 and hand him the letter.",
"I used to be an office administrator and witnessed many \"job quittings.\" The employee would tell the GM \"I am putting in my 2 weeks notice.\" The GM may ask why. The employee says why. The GM says to put it in writing. This just means write on a piece of paper \"My last day with XYZ Company will be 11/15/15. - John Smith.\" This piece of paper will be put in your folder. Finish out your two weeks (or whatever notice you give) and you're done.\n\nI think the main thing to remember is this: This job quitting is a big deal for you because you are completely changing your life. This job quitting is just another day for you boss because employees come and go all the time. As long as you did your job and completed your work, and you caused no trouble, you will leave on good terms.",
"Write out that you will be quitting your position at company X as of a certain date. Ask your boss for a minute and give it to him/her and say the same thing.\n\nMake your date of leaving 2 weeks in the future, if possible. If your job requires someone else being trained and there isn't someone else to do it, consider giving up to 30 days of notice.\n\nIf your boss asked why you're quitting, be honest about it but there's no need to be rude, after all, you aren't wanting to burn bridges. This can also give them a chance to rectify the reason you're quitting (e.g. if it is because they don't pay enough, you could get an offer to stay on for more money).",
"The last job I left, I asked my supervisor and the owner of the company for a moment of their time. I said, \"I know we are all very busy, so I will get right to the point. After giving it a lot of thought, I have decided that it's time to bring my employment with XYZ company to a close. Shall we co-operate on an exit strategy?\"\n\nWe worked for the next few minutes to establish a date, at which time I produced my formal letter of resignation. At the bottom was a line that said \"This decision shall be effective as of ________.\" I filled in the date and handed them the letter.",
"How about tips on when your boss isn't exactly present or able to talk to you via person? \n\nI understand writing a letter, however, as a worker for a trucking company that's based in another state and working in the next bordering state; I plan to be quitting sometime in the near future for better opportunities. \n\nWould a phone call suffice or should I message him on our truck's computer? That typically is the main means of communication. Especially since my dispatcher has the most drivers under him. \n\nWhen I was OTR I had no choice but to call, though I always felt uncomfortable doing that. Not sure why if it was the right thing? Then again possibly could have been wrong. ",
"Conversation I've had.\n\n\"I've got some good news, and I've got some bad news. Good news : It's a tough market, and you don't have to make tough decisions on who you'll need to let go. Bad news : I'm leaving.\"\n\nIce breaker. It works, and you don't burn a bridge."
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"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n",
"Removing personal information from prescription bottles Unfortunately I have several health issues, for which I am prescribed a number of medications. These bottles begin to pile up rapidly and I now have a small collection. Not all of them are useful for storage, some are just too small or there's too many of them. I'd like to recycle or dispose of them somehow. But I need to remove ALL information from them. Preferably I'd like to have all labels gone, so just coloring or writing over the info is not enough. They don't peel easily, and with the number of bottles, this would take a very long while.\n\nMost recently I tried soaking them in water and a little bleach, but it hasn't been very efficient and takes a while. Would like to hear how others may have solved this problem or something similar, or proposed constructive solutions.\n\n"
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"They make this stuff called goo gone. I also take quite a few prescriptions and if I save the bottles (they are useful!) I spray a little on the label and wait a few minutes. It basically falls off entirely. \n\nI use it to remove any adhesive on any container (it's basically why the stuff exists)",
"At the pharmacy where I used to work, we used lighter fluid and it was a lot LESS messy than Goo Gone. We never scrapped the labels before applying the fluid but we waited 5-8 minute before trying to peel and it worked wonders. Also works for stickers on cardboard boxes:\nhttp://www.instructables.com/id/How-To-Remove-Labels-and-Stickers-with-lighter-fl/",
"Ask the pharmacy you got them at to take them back, sometimes they'll take care of it. Glue gets soft when in contact with heat, so try putting it on top of your heater and then slowly peel it off. Depends on how sticky the label is though. Also depending on the type of plastic (might ruin the bottles) would be acetone, it's a solvent and will just dissolve the glue so you can rub it off. ",
"my first instinct was a belt sander, but the dissolving agents in the other replies seem a lot more sensible. ",
"heres some...\n https://www.google.ca/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ion=1&espv=2&ie=UTF-8#q=how%20to%20remove%20labels%20from%20plastic%20pill%20bottles\n\n",
"Stick clear packing tape over the label and press down firmly. Peel the tape off and at least the top surface of the label should come up. Repeat if necessary. ",
"I use a lighter, some of the labels I've seen turn completely black when exposed to fire. Sometime the info is completely unreadable.",
"Best way I've found to remove stickers, sticky labels and basically any adhesive gunk is brake/clutch/part cleaner like you'd use for your car. Spray it on or soak in a small bowl of it and it'll basically just eat the adhesive.",
"Any alcohol or any light oil (goo gone, WD 40, citrus oil etc.) will help.\n\nIf you get lots, try removing the labels right away. There's a few ways you can do this without losing expiry dates and so forth: fold the label up and stick it in the bottle, transfer the pills and labels to another bottle (so you have one bottle with lots of stacked labels) or just put the label back on (it'll be less sticky the 2nd time) possibly with a fold or backing to keep it only a little stuck.",
"Acetone is the world's happy eraser. Also known as nail polish remover. \n\nOf course, if they're plastic bottles, it will possibly reduce them into loose goo as well as the tags. \n\nI guess less SCIENCE-y, you could bring them into the pharmacy next time you're there and ask if they can dispose of them with their chemical disposal or confidentially because you're nervous about people seeing them, or if they themselves recycle them in-house. Your pharmacist already knows what you're on, so it doesn't matter as much if they see them. "
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"How To Choose Good Meals To Cook For Dinner? I'm a 21 year old guy and I live alone. I have trouble coming up with ideas for good things to cook for dinner after work. People have told me to go to foodnetwork.com but a lot of their recipes would require me to go out and buy food just for that meal. It takes me a good while to get to the supermarket, so that's really inconvenient.",
"How To Choose Good Meals To Cook For Dinner? I'm a 21 year old guy and I live alone. I have trouble coming up with ideas for good things to cook for dinner after work. People have told me to go to foodnetwork.com but a lot of their recipes would require me to go out and buy food just for that meal. It takes me a good while to get to the supermarket, so that's really inconvenient.",
"How To Choose Good Meals To Cook For Dinner? I'm a 21 year old guy and I live alone. I have trouble coming up with ideas for good things to cook for dinner after work. People have told me to go to foodnetwork.com but a lot of their recipes would require me to go out and buy food just for that meal. It takes me a good while to get to the supermarket, so that's really inconvenient.",
"How To Choose Good Meals To Cook For Dinner? I'm a 21 year old guy and I live alone. I have trouble coming up with ideas for good things to cook for dinner after work. People have told me to go to foodnetwork.com but a lot of their recipes would require me to go out and buy food just for that meal. It takes me a good while to get to the supermarket, so that's really inconvenient.",
"How To Choose Good Meals To Cook For Dinner? I'm a 21 year old guy and I live alone. I have trouble coming up with ideas for good things to cook for dinner after work. People have told me to go to foodnetwork.com but a lot of their recipes would require me to go out and buy food just for that meal. It takes me a good while to get to the supermarket, so that's really inconvenient."
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"**Rice Cooker**\n\nGet a good rice cooker. I mean a *good* one. One that has a timer and fuzzy logic, and can start cooking at a certain time. Amazon has dozens of them. It will cost you between $100 and $150 but you're investing in an appliance that will last you five years or longer. You'll save a lot of money on not botching your cooking because a cooker with fuzzy logic automatically adjusts the cooking temperature and stops cooking when the rice is done.\n\nAlso since it's so easy to cook with a rice cooker you'll be more motivated to make healthy inexpensive meals for yourself.\n\nYou can adjust the portion from just one portion up to five or more depending on the size of your rice cooker. Just note that a rice cup is not the same volume as a regular cup! Use the cups that come with your rice cooker, and if you lose them or they get damaged you can get new ones at most asian stores.\n\nThen get a book of rice cooker recipes.\n\nAfter you get used to using your rice cooker you'll come up with meals of your own.\n\nThe easiest rice cooker meal is a cup or two of rice, a few pieces of frozen pre-cooked meat and veggies of your choice. Pick up some various sauces and try different kinds until you find a few you like.\n\nI like to make up a big batch of rice cooker meal and portion it into meals that I freeze. It works just like microwave dinners except I use re-usable containers, so it's a lot cheaper.\n\nIf you cook up several different types of meals and freeze them you can add diversity to your meal plan.\n\n**Foreman Grill**\n\nGet a George Foreman grill. You can make all kinds of awesome sandwiches, steaks and other stuff easily and since it dumps off most of the grease it's slightly healthier than using a pan. Get the one with the removable griddle plates, it's easier to clean.\n\n**Steamer**\n\nGet a steamer and use it to steam veggies. If you cut up your veggies before steaming them they will steam faster. You can also use the steamer for fish, eggs and rice (if you don't get the rice cooker). Steaming food is inexpensive and healthy.\n\n**Only buy one set of dishes**\n\nIf you restrict yourself to one plate, one bowl, one spoon etc. you'll find it easier to keep your dishes clean and you'll have more storage space for other things.\n\nHave a set of plastic utensils, plates, bowls and cups for when you have people over, or go out to eat with them instead of eating at home.",
"Why kind of food to you keep in your house? You need to be sure to keep foods that are the ingredients to quick and easy meals.",
"If it's inconvenient to go to the food store, the best first thing you can do is get a well-stocked pantry. Google it and there will be tons of lists including oils, vinegars, dry ingredients, canned ingredients...things that don't spoil quickly. These basic ingredients are in a ton of recipes. Go to different sites that have recipes (there are thousands). The 2 I like the most are [epicurious](http://www.epicurious.com) and [Fine Cooking](http://www.finecooking.com). epicurious's advanced search lets you search for recipes with ingredients you have. And **always** check the reviews. sometimes the recipes are wrong, or there are simple changes you can make to make them way better or they give you ideas on how to modify a recipe to use ingredients already on hand.",
"I use cooksillustrated.com and my roommate gets the bimonthly magazine. They have great recipes and explain why they made decisions in crafting their recipes. It's a great way to build a repertoire of recipes and start learning how cooking works. The magazine and website also serve up (pun seriously intended!) equipment reviews and product comparisons. It's really great. The website is 20 bucks a year I think. Worth it! Also check out America's Test Kitchen show (which is affiliated with the aforementioned mag.), and Good Eats. 2 great shows. The best way to know what to cook is to cook a lot, read a lot of recipes and try to remember them, and enjoy it! Also, cooking with other people helps a lot. Teaching them what you've learned will help solidify your cooking acumen and hopefully their tips will rub off on you.",
"Browse a magazine at the grocery store. Cooking lite or eating well have fast meals, sometimes with total cost of the meal if you're worried about cost. Find one you like, then buy it. Small investment, but it's a good way to try different recipes you wouldn't come up with on your own. Little bit of planning goes a long way."
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"How to clean glazed concrete floors? It seems like no matter how much I sweep there's dust and particles and cat hair that sticks to my feet and makes my skin crawl. I'll probably eventually get a roomba but what do I do until then?\n\nAnd as a sidenote... was this crap in the carpet at the old apartment this whole time???",
"How to clean glazed concrete floors? It seems like no matter how much I sweep there's dust and particles and cat hair that sticks to my feet and makes my skin crawl. I'll probably eventually get a roomba but what do I do until then?\n\nAnd as a sidenote... was this crap in the carpet at the old apartment this whole time???",
"How to clean glazed concrete floors? It seems like no matter how much I sweep there's dust and particles and cat hair that sticks to my feet and makes my skin crawl. I'll probably eventually get a roomba but what do I do until then?\n\nAnd as a sidenote... was this crap in the carpet at the old apartment this whole time???"
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"Wear socks? No matter what, for all solid floors, if there is something on the floor and you step on it, it’s going to stick to your foot. Try a dust mop or something for quick cleaning but you’ll never be able to have dirt on your floor and walk barefoot over it without knowing that there is dirt on the floor.",
"Dry Swiffer your floors daily. Mop every couple of days. And yes, it was all in your carpet. Carpet is vial",
"My current house has glazed concrete, three small dogs and windows open all the time so a fair amount of dust and hair. I got a self empty robo vac and run it's full cycle every day and this makes a huge difference, I know it's not the cheapest option but it will make daily life a LOT easier. You will still need a dry mop or broom to get under certain things and corners and there's [this](https://vabroom.com/) too. My last house we pulled the carpet before moving and yes this and a hell of a lot more is in the carpet and even more under."
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"how to get rid of an itch in your inner ear Sometimes I get a tickle/itch that feels like it's deep in my ear canal but I can't scratch it no matter how much I try. Swallowing itches it a bit but not satisfactorily. I can't be the only one, how do I fix this?",
"how to get rid of an itch in your inner ear Sometimes I get a tickle/itch that feels like it's deep in my ear canal but I can't scratch it no matter how much I try. Swallowing itches it a bit but not satisfactorily. I can't be the only one, how do I fix this?",
"how to get rid of an itch in your inner ear Sometimes I get a tickle/itch that feels like it's deep in my ear canal but I can't scratch it no matter how much I try. Swallowing itches it a bit but not satisfactorily. I can't be the only one, how do I fix this?",
"how to get rid of an itch in your inner ear Sometimes I get a tickle/itch that feels like it's deep in my ear canal but I can't scratch it no matter how much I try. Swallowing itches it a bit but not satisfactorily. I can't be the only one, how do I fix this?"
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"I had this same problem and went to an ears nose and throat specialist. They said it was eczema and prescribed drops. Super weird but not unusual. Hope it feels better soon!",
"Chinese or Japanese stores sell actual ear scratchers\n\nBut the Bic pen cap works great too\n\nWalk into any doctors office and ask for them to clean out your ears. They'll have a nurse fill a syringe with warm saline water and flush everything out. Most wonderful feeling ever. I saw large chunks of years old wax in the washout bucket. Could also hear at least 20 percent better.",
"Antihistamines help. I have severe allergies to practically everything that can be in a dust form and one of the most usual allergy symptoms for me as that ear canal itch. \n\n",
"1. Antihistamines for sure. If you use the generic brands like loratadine(claritan) or cetirizine (zyrtec) it's like half the cost of the brand names for the same thing\n2. Run a q-tip under some cold water and then swirl it around in there\n3. My personal favorite, but you have to be a little careful. Grab a bic pen cap. The kind that has a curve on the inside preferably with round edges. You can use that to scrape around the sides, but be careful not to go too deep"
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"Settling vs Being happy with what you have Hi!\n\nI'm stuck in a circular argument: How do you know if you're trying to be content with something that is mostly good, or if you're forcing yourself to settle for something you don't truly want?\n\nExample: I live in a lovely-but-poor foreign country where I have a pleasant daily life and can pay basic bills, but I can't save much money or find a better job. In order to get a job where I might be able to save money, I would have to uproot my life: move back to the USA and start over with little/no support from others.\n\nI go around and around in my head about it. I think I should just be happy with what I have because nobody's life is perfect. But then I think maybe I'm just settling.\n\nHow do I take this to a productive place?",
"Settling vs Being happy with what you have Hi!\n\nI'm stuck in a circular argument: How do you know if you're trying to be content with something that is mostly good, or if you're forcing yourself to settle for something you don't truly want?\n\nExample: I live in a lovely-but-poor foreign country where I have a pleasant daily life and can pay basic bills, but I can't save much money or find a better job. In order to get a job where I might be able to save money, I would have to uproot my life: move back to the USA and start over with little/no support from others.\n\nI go around and around in my head about it. I think I should just be happy with what I have because nobody's life is perfect. But then I think maybe I'm just settling.\n\nHow do I take this to a productive place?",
"Settling vs Being happy with what you have Hi!\n\nI'm stuck in a circular argument: How do you know if you're trying to be content with something that is mostly good, or if you're forcing yourself to settle for something you don't truly want?\n\nExample: I live in a lovely-but-poor foreign country where I have a pleasant daily life and can pay basic bills, but I can't save much money or find a better job. In order to get a job where I might be able to save money, I would have to uproot my life: move back to the USA and start over with little/no support from others.\n\nI go around and around in my head about it. I think I should just be happy with what I have because nobody's life is perfect. But then I think maybe I'm just settling.\n\nHow do I take this to a productive place?",
"Settling vs Being happy with what you have Hi!\n\nI'm stuck in a circular argument: How do you know if you're trying to be content with something that is mostly good, or if you're forcing yourself to settle for something you don't truly want?\n\nExample: I live in a lovely-but-poor foreign country where I have a pleasant daily life and can pay basic bills, but I can't save much money or find a better job. In order to get a job where I might be able to save money, I would have to uproot my life: move back to the USA and start over with little/no support from others.\n\nI go around and around in my head about it. I think I should just be happy with what I have because nobody's life is perfect. But then I think maybe I'm just settling.\n\nHow do I take this to a productive place?"
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"Personally I think the difference lies in whether or not you’re happy now. If you’re happy then you’re happy. If you’re unhappy but are staying because the change is too daunting then you’re settling.",
"I know I am content in a situation when my inner 'growth' voice that's always pushing me to do better goes quiet. As a result, I am no longer comparing myself to others in that situation, not looking back or questioning my decisions (woulda coulda shoulda). When I am content I am at peace, I'm living in the present, satisfied with how things are unfolding and have no desire to change the status quo. On the other hand when I'm settling, that inner voice gnaws away at me, making me feel guilty by constantly reminding me I can do so much better, I have so much potential, I'll miss out on life if I don't take action etc etc. I'm always inadvertently and consciously looking for an out and other options. In general I feel trapped, insecure and unhappy. I think the key is to listen to yourself and evaluate how being in a certain situation makes you feel. You will know.",
"Don't have any advice for you but following to see what people have to say. I feel quite similar to your situation, except for me it's between settling in my current cushy comfy job which can potentially see me through to retirement age (40+ more years) vs. finding some other less stable less cushy comfy job where I will learn and grow lot more than now.",
"Depends how long you’ve been out of the states and what your job here was. At a certain point you hit exit velocity and unless you are highly skilled it won’t make much sense to return for more than the occasional holiday. \n\nBut that does not mean you need to settle wherever you are living currently. The world is large and filled beautiful things for everyone. My question to you is what are you looking for? What don’t you like about where you are now?"
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"Keeping eyes away from pillow Hey guys! I started to wear CRT contact lenses (you wear them at night, google it if you're curious). Since I use them at night while sleeping (this is the correct way to use them), I can't let a lot of pressure be put on them or let them slide around in my eye (which can happen if I put pressure on them). I'm a stomach sleeper. Is there anything I can do to stay safe? My eyes touching my pillow can easily do something with the contacts.",
"Keeping eyes away from pillow Hey guys! I started to wear CRT contact lenses (you wear them at night, google it if you're curious). Since I use them at night while sleeping (this is the correct way to use them), I can't let a lot of pressure be put on them or let them slide around in my eye (which can happen if I put pressure on them). I'm a stomach sleeper. Is there anything I can do to stay safe? My eyes touching my pillow can easily do something with the contacts."
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"I'm also a CRT-er. I'm a side sleeper but have found that there hasn't been any effect on the slight pressure that it puts on the one eye. I assume that when you sleep normally, your face isn't straight down into the pillow (or you have some clever pillow scuba-like apparatus) so just sleep as you normally would and if there are effects, your optometrist will be able to help with those adjustments.",
"(I sleep in my car a lot (i get super tired, and the car is warm and I just say \"i'm gonna rest my eyes\"...right...) and when I do, I, at worst, sleep on my side. Perhaps sleeping on a slanted sofa/couch/reclined chair will help, albeit the discomfort)"
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"What's the best way to sell some of my extra stuff? Craigslist is free but your listing only stays up for 7 days. Ebay wants money and again, it's a time-limited listing. Local consignments around here don't seem to sell kids stuff (I have a lot of kids stuff) and they're really picky on what they'll take. There are things like Rhea Lana which again, are quite time-limited. So, what's the best way you have found to sell or consign second-hand items?",
"What's the best way to sell some of my extra stuff? Craigslist is free but your listing only stays up for 7 days. Ebay wants money and again, it's a time-limited listing. Local consignments around here don't seem to sell kids stuff (I have a lot of kids stuff) and they're really picky on what they'll take. There are things like Rhea Lana which again, are quite time-limited. So, what's the best way you have found to sell or consign second-hand items?",
"What's the best way to sell some of my extra stuff? Craigslist is free but your listing only stays up for 7 days. Ebay wants money and again, it's a time-limited listing. Local consignments around here don't seem to sell kids stuff (I have a lot of kids stuff) and they're really picky on what they'll take. There are things like Rhea Lana which again, are quite time-limited. So, what's the best way you have found to sell or consign second-hand items?"
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"I use local \"yard sale\" groups on Facebook. Search for your city followed by \"yard sale\". I'm a part of multiple local groups. ",
"I've used eBay, Amazon, \"yard sale\" (aka \"Buy/Sell/Trade\") groups on Facebook, and Craigslist. Every method has its advantages and disadvantages.\n\nYou mentioned that your local consignment stores don't seem to sell kids stuff, but you could ask them if they know of a place to go. In my city, I have seen consignment stores exclusively for kids stuff, so it might be worth looking into.\n\nAlso, the content on those social media groups on Facebook, (Buy/Sell/Trade or Yard Sale,) will vary by location, but in my area there are a lot of moms buying and selling kids stuff. There could even be designated groups for it in your area, search for it on Facebook.\n\nAdditionally, I've recently seen a few ads run for an app called Letgo. I don't know anything about it, but I was thinking of checking it out so I thought I'd mention it.",
"I've had great success with Kijiji. You have to price things to sell, though. Typically ask for less than 50% of retail. If you try to profit, it won't work as well. Good luck!"
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"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!",
"Best way to find a roommate if you don't know anybody locally? How to screen them? I'm a recent college grad (23m) who just began working a professional job about 3 months ago. I'm getting paid well, but I've determined my rent is the one thing holding me back financially (rent and utilities is $1400). It looks like it would be really profitable to find a roommate and save $700/mo, but I don't know anybody where I live since I'm new to the area. \n\nDo you have any tips for how to find a roommate? What's a good way to screen a potential roommate? I'm really careful, as 2 years in a row in college I had random roommates who turned out to be aggressive weirdos (with one getting himself expelled over it, it was that serious). Would love your input!"
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"My coworker, who lives in a large house with 3 roommates, has developed a formal roommate interview. It includes questions like \"What would your approach be to resolve a conflict over someone not doing their dishes?\" They conduct their roommate search like doing job interviews, asking about things that are important to them.",
"Something that always works for me. Assuming they have a car, look at it. However that car looks is how their apartment is going to look. Look at their grooming. If they are neat and organized, chances are everything else in their life is as well. Make sure your personalities and lifestyles match.",
"Communicate with this individual regularly for a week as you screen them pay attention to how they act, respond and engaged. If you don’t see any red flags, I’d say go for it.\n\nRoommates need not be your friend, but hey need to not be creepy. Ask about hobbies, friends, cleaning habits, maybe even ask if they’re gonna act like a loon outright.",
"Ask open ended questions that make them fill in the information and tell you about themselves. Not just yes/no questions (though yes/no questions do have their place). Some examples would be: “Tell me about you hobbies and interests” or “What are you looking for in a roommate?”",
"A thing you should have in mind is their relationship status. Especially if your walls are thin...\n\nNothing worse then a single with 7 tinder dates/week on the kitchen table",
"Look up for sale/real estate groups/for rent groups on FB in your area and post it there. I see mountains of comments on most of the ones I see. Screening them? I would make a lease for them to sign with some basic rules if they break them kick them out. Don't look for friendship and keep it professional maybe you will accidentally make a friend in the end.",
"I have to say. If you can see thier current living situation assuming it will be similar it can help allot. How clean is the place and what is their relation like with current roommates. Course only works with someone who is not coming from another situation like graduating college or moving for a job. And of course they might clean up knowing you coming over, but hey thats at least a good sign anyway.",
"If you're religious, or your parents are, or you or they belong to a club like Kiwanis or Masonic Lodge, find a like-minded assembly and ask for references to older people who would rent a room instead of splitting rent with a roommate. You're more likely to get many free perks (like invited to meals, parties, BBQ, free Internet, cable TV, pool or sauna privideldges, etc.). Be a good \"paying guest\" and you will stretch your dollar and increase your privacy and comfort.",
"\"Do you watch any anime?/Are you a furry?\"\n\nIf the answer is yes, boot them the fuck out. If no, ask the rest of your questions",
"Aside from interviewing someone. And more to your actual question. Websites, there are several roommate websites. Some you pay for like $10 a week. Worth it tho."
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"Noisy upstairs neighbors We just moved into an apartment and our upstairs neighbors are VERY loud. They have 2 children. During the day they stomp around and whatnot, which we can handle, but the real problem is at night. They don't seem to understand what quiet hours are, so they play loud music and vacuum no matter what hour it is (midnight seems to be prime time for this). We plan on leaving a note today (we don't want face-to-face convo due to COVID), but is there anything else we can do?\n\n",
"Noisy upstairs neighbors We just moved into an apartment and our upstairs neighbors are VERY loud. They have 2 children. During the day they stomp around and whatnot, which we can handle, but the real problem is at night. They don't seem to understand what quiet hours are, so they play loud music and vacuum no matter what hour it is (midnight seems to be prime time for this). We plan on leaving a note today (we don't want face-to-face convo due to COVID), but is there anything else we can do?\n\n",
"Noisy upstairs neighbors We just moved into an apartment and our upstairs neighbors are VERY loud. They have 2 children. During the day they stomp around and whatnot, which we can handle, but the real problem is at night. They don't seem to understand what quiet hours are, so they play loud music and vacuum no matter what hour it is (midnight seems to be prime time for this). We plan on leaving a note today (we don't want face-to-face convo due to COVID), but is there anything else we can do?\n\n",
"Noisy upstairs neighbors We just moved into an apartment and our upstairs neighbors are VERY loud. They have 2 children. During the day they stomp around and whatnot, which we can handle, but the real problem is at night. They don't seem to understand what quiet hours are, so they play loud music and vacuum no matter what hour it is (midnight seems to be prime time for this). We plan on leaving a note today (we don't want face-to-face convo due to COVID), but is there anything else we can do?\n\n",
"Noisy upstairs neighbors We just moved into an apartment and our upstairs neighbors are VERY loud. They have 2 children. During the day they stomp around and whatnot, which we can handle, but the real problem is at night. They don't seem to understand what quiet hours are, so they play loud music and vacuum no matter what hour it is (midnight seems to be prime time for this). We plan on leaving a note today (we don't want face-to-face convo due to COVID), but is there anything else we can do?\n\n"
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"Wear a mask, stand 6 ft away and talk to your neighbors like a stand up person, notes can be taken as passive aggressive and possible make your situation worse.",
"You can and should do face to face, even if it means standing apart. \n\nA note is passive and easily ignored.",
"My family and I dealt with this type of stuff for years. The most important thing to do is keep records! Times, incidences, everything! Every time I've done this it never gets ignored by the landlords. It shows that you are serious enough that you're willing to take the time to write it down.",
"I have this problem too. We've spoken to the neighbors, contacted leasing 4+ times, called the cops, and used a broomstick. At this point, I think they enjoy being rude and inconsiderate. I like to think blaring heavy rock/rap early in the mornings pisses them off since they don't start moving around until 10am or so. I turn it on at like 7am when I leave for work and set my TV sleep timer to cut off in 3 hours.",
"The piss frisbee\n\nYou take a regular frisbee and pee in it. Turn it upside down, pee in it, and stick it in the freezer for a few hours. You'll have a disk full of frozen urine. Carefully remove it from the frisbee, take it to the person's house, and slide it under their door. The pee will thaw right on their floor, and they'll come home to a puddle of piss in their house with no sign of anybody getting in."
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"how do I deal with this? I have a two person project at the moment. My partner has been my friend for four years. In all honesty, his English sucks when it comes to formal stuff and he doesn’t really know how to elaborate on some information he’d presented on the project. I’ve done around 90% of the work with him just trying to help out. It’s quite obvious that he doesn’t have much enthusiasm to do school since he’s missing a lot of homework.\n\nI’d like to know how I could possibly deal with this. I can’t let him type on the work since he’s not good at it and he sucks in organising all the topic. It really stresses me out how I’m doing a lot of the work. I know he wants to be helpful but his help is just...bad. \n\nHe’s a chill and great dude but sucks in academics. If you need more info, simply tell me and I’ll elaborate more. I just need some ideas on how I may deal with this kind of situation.",
"how do I deal with this? I have a two person project at the moment. My partner has been my friend for four years. In all honesty, his English sucks when it comes to formal stuff and he doesn’t really know how to elaborate on some information he’d presented on the project. I’ve done around 90% of the work with him just trying to help out. It’s quite obvious that he doesn’t have much enthusiasm to do school since he’s missing a lot of homework.\n\nI’d like to know how I could possibly deal with this. I can’t let him type on the work since he’s not good at it and he sucks in organising all the topic. It really stresses me out how I’m doing a lot of the work. I know he wants to be helpful but his help is just...bad. \n\nHe’s a chill and great dude but sucks in academics. If you need more info, simply tell me and I’ll elaborate more. I just need some ideas on how I may deal with this kind of situation.",
"how do I deal with this? I have a two person project at the moment. My partner has been my friend for four years. In all honesty, his English sucks when it comes to formal stuff and he doesn’t really know how to elaborate on some information he’d presented on the project. I’ve done around 90% of the work with him just trying to help out. It’s quite obvious that he doesn’t have much enthusiasm to do school since he’s missing a lot of homework.\n\nI’d like to know how I could possibly deal with this. I can’t let him type on the work since he’s not good at it and he sucks in organising all the topic. It really stresses me out how I’m doing a lot of the work. I know he wants to be helpful but his help is just...bad. \n\nHe’s a chill and great dude but sucks in academics. If you need more info, simply tell me and I’ll elaborate more. I just need some ideas on how I may deal with this kind of situation.",
"how do I deal with this? I have a two person project at the moment. My partner has been my friend for four years. In all honesty, his English sucks when it comes to formal stuff and he doesn’t really know how to elaborate on some information he’d presented on the project. I’ve done around 90% of the work with him just trying to help out. It’s quite obvious that he doesn’t have much enthusiasm to do school since he’s missing a lot of homework.\n\nI’d like to know how I could possibly deal with this. I can’t let him type on the work since he’s not good at it and he sucks in organising all the topic. It really stresses me out how I’m doing a lot of the work. I know he wants to be helpful but his help is just...bad. \n\nHe’s a chill and great dude but sucks in academics. If you need more info, simply tell me and I’ll elaborate more. I just need some ideas on how I may deal with this kind of situation.",
"how do I deal with this? I have a two person project at the moment. My partner has been my friend for four years. In all honesty, his English sucks when it comes to formal stuff and he doesn’t really know how to elaborate on some information he’d presented on the project. I’ve done around 90% of the work with him just trying to help out. It’s quite obvious that he doesn’t have much enthusiasm to do school since he’s missing a lot of homework.\n\nI’d like to know how I could possibly deal with this. I can’t let him type on the work since he’s not good at it and he sucks in organising all the topic. It really stresses me out how I’m doing a lot of the work. I know he wants to be helpful but his help is just...bad. \n\nHe’s a chill and great dude but sucks in academics. If you need more info, simply tell me and I’ll elaborate more. I just need some ideas on how I may deal with this kind of situation."
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"If it is stressing you out I think its a sign that you need not partner with this individual in an academic situation. Maybe he is your chill friend not your study friend. And that's ok.",
"I'm afraid this is inevitable in any kind of group work. There are dynamic leaders who basically make it happen and passengers who just coast along for the ride. It sucks that you have to do more of the work but the alternative is making a shit project and getting a lower grade. This project will soon be done and you will have other opportunities to shine in individual work. Maybe take this as a lesson to be more careful in future about whom you collaborate with (assuming you were allowed to choose your partner). Friends don't always make the best work partners - indeed it's often better to keep academic/professional life separate from your social life if possible.",
"What level of education is this? \n\nWhat impact does the grading of this project have in you academically? \n\nIs doing it yourself worth protecting yourself from a poor grade?\n\nHow long do you have to complete the report?\n\nHow much work are you willing to put into teaching your friend? How much work do you feel he is willing to put into learning?\n\nYou have three options and the above questions will identify the best route. I'm happy to help identify which of the three sounds like the best approach if you'd like \n\n- Do the report yourself to get the highest grade you can. Only focus on the report not on your friend's skills.\n\n- Delineate your work from your friends and ask for separate grading from your teacher. \n\n- The skills he lacks to write this report can be learnt (assuming there is no neurodiversity at play). You know it, so you know it enough to break it down or talk him through. Approach it from a place of kindness, and look up the difference between teaching, mentoring and coaching. You want to coach and mentor in this scenario. \"Hey, I've noticed you seem to not enjoy this kind of report. I had someone teach me how to do <skill> a while back, would you like me to walk you through how I do <skill>?\" Or something along those lines.",
"Do it alone and help your buddy out. He will thank you. You say he is your best friend and not good in English? But English is quite easy so if you can do it alone, do it",
"Do an excellent job, get a great mark and let him enjoy the benefit of your hard work. \n\nHe will know the truth, you will know the truth, your teacher will know the truth and so will others.\n\nUse this perfect opportunity to demonstrate how to lift up another human being.\n\nThe trick is to not tell anyone how much work you're doing vs your friend. It will leak out eventually and you will gain admirers and self respect.\n\nBeing generous in spirit toward others will bring you satisfaction \n\nTry it, you might really like the feeling of being helpful to others."
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"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver.",
"How to respond to the question \"do you know how fast you were going?\" I feel like if you get pulled over by a police officer, and s/he asks you this, there is no right answer.\n\nYou could say \"I was driving \\[insert speed within speed limit\\]\" and lie, and get contradicted by police. Not good, right?\n\nYou could say \"I was driving too fast\" and pretty much plead guilty on the spot. Also not good, right?\n\nThen there's the \"I don't know\", which tells them you're a bad driver."
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"Buddy of mine got stopped on I-95 in South Carolina. The cop asked if he knew how fast he was going.\n\n\"Well officer, I was just keeping up with the rest of the traffic. How come nobody else got stopped?\"\n\nThe cop replied, \"When you go fishing, do you catch every fish, or just one?\"\n\nMy buddy: \"Well, I guess I only catch one...but I practice 'catch and release'.\"\n\nThe cop chuckled and let him off with a warning.",
"My cop friend says to say “the last time I looked at my speedometer I was going ____ (give a sped right around the speed limit.” That way you don’t sound like an outright liar and you sound like you knew the limit.",
"I have answered this question truthfully a couple of times and have been thanked for being honest and told to slow down.\n \nRolled through a stop sign once, saw the police officer on the corner and pulled over before he even had his lights on. He thanks me for not making him chase me down the road, and gave me a warning…..in a very strict city.\n \nI try to be a safe driver and obey the traffic laws, but when I don’t and get caught, I own up to it.\n \nThis would not be the case for more serious offenses though.",
"LPT: If you are speeding, and are caught speeding just be respectful and just answer it honestly. \n\nIf you are lucky: the cop lets you off with a warning.\n\nIf you aren't lucky: you get a ticket for a speeding, which you were doing anyway.",
"Question: Do you know how fast you were going? \n\nAnswer: Yes. \n\nThen shut up or ask what you can do for them. It is not smart for you to incriminate yourself.",
"Last time I got pulled over for speeding I was clocked at 86 in a 65. The officer pulled over someone else, who was going about the same speed, at the same time. He asked me if I knew how fast I was going. I sighed and said, \"speed of traffic.\" He told me my speed and asked why I was going so fast. I said that I was running late for work (truth). He ended up giving me a ticket for 84 in a 65 because the penalty goes way up after 20 over, then he gave me information about how to take traffic school instead of having to pay the fine and get points on my license (my driving record had been absolutely clean for 10 years prior).\n\nJust be respectful and contrite. Worst case scenario you get held accountable for a thing you did. Best case scenario they go easy on you. Don't try to get too clever about it. You can't technicality your way out of a speeding ticket.",
"Cop: “Son, do you know why I'm stopping you for?\"\n\nYou: “‘Cause I'm young and I'm black and my hat's real low? Do I look like a mind reader, sir? I don't know.\nAm I under arrest or should I guess some more?”",
"You don’t answer the question. You respond by saying “why did you pull me over?”. THEY tell you, not the other way around.",
"Depends on the laws where you are and the police but I just answered honestly with a rough estimate of my speed, that I was simply staying with the traffic infront, and an apology of course. They let me off with a warning.",
"I got pulled over once since I was going over the speed limit in a construction zone. Friends were smoking weed in the back of the car so I was hella fucking nervous. I just told him it was night time and I couldn't tell if it was 35. He just gave me a warning and left. It's ok to be honest.",
"I think I am remembering this right. You always yes, so you can say you were paying attention to your speed and not driving recklessly. And for your trial, if you choose to get a lawyer, they can claim faulty equipment and get your speeding ticket lowered or completely erased",
"Definitely \"I believe I was going the speed limit\"\n\nHad a friend who says he told the police his exact speed (speeding 44 in a 30) and they admitted if he hadn't told them, they would have had no evidence and have to let him go.\n\nAdmitting it was apparently all the evidence they needed for points on his licence and a fine...",
"All of you authority-haters are wrong. I've been pulled over going 30 over in a school zone and I was just honest and explained I just got off work, didn't normally take that route, and didn't know it was a school zone. Got off with a warning. Just be nice to the cop, man, especially if they're city cops.",
"“I believe your calibrated device which you will tell me you have used legally in full compliance with your SOP will tell me”",
"Just tell them you have diarrhea and need to get home, while not speeding overly much, they don't watch you shit yourself",
"I always answer with a question \"what was the speed limit?\" \n\nOr \"I'm fairly certain i was driving the speed limit\".",
"This has worked for me. First off, be nice/respectful to the officer, it is best not to challenge them. The ? do you know, yes the speed limit is 70. However my daughter, who is 2 yo was screaming in her car seat and I was flustered. Not the greatest but it is a start. Come up with any excuse that fits you. You needed to get to a bathroom, all of these are human needs that they might understand. It may not work but they might reduce the mileage you were going over, which is better than nothing.",
"I don't answer questions...5th amendment right to remain silent. Don't give them anything except your ID/reg.",
"Pro tip: don’t go more than 5-8 mph over the speed limit. Speeding more than that won’t get where you’re going more than a few negligible minutes faster and tickets will increase your insurance for years.",
"Never EVER admit to guilt. Thats the real pro tip. \nIt only serves to incriminate you, there is no merit system...they don't know or care if you're a good person outside of the infraction.",
"I just tell them how fast I was going. They pulled you. They know anyway. No point in lying. I average down a bit but still acknowledge I was speeding with my statement. 9/10 I've been let go with a warning to keep it under the speed limit. \n\nMost cops are just people and they get lied to majority of the day. Just tell the truth and don't try to bs your way out of it.",
"A few I’ve used: I think I was flowing with the speed of traffic. Not sure, but needed to get clear of the cluster of bumper to bumper cars. My mind was wandering, probably too fast, sorry.",
"\"Good morning officer. I'll cooperate in every way that I'm required to, but I'm going to exercise my right not to answer questions.\"",
"\"Can you tell me, please.\" \n\nThere is no need for you to ever answer this question under any circumstances. It is up to the police to provide evidence of your wrong doing and you can ask to see the read out of the device that recorded it.\n\nIf you disagree or there is a different read on the fine (which you will accept regardless) then take it to court and dispute it.",
"Yep, and my dashcam recorded it all is the ideal answer.\n\nPrevents cops lying to you on your ticket for how fast you were going. \n\nYou'd be surprised how many cops straight up lie to your face to fill their quota. \n\nIt's especially common in lower income areas. \n\nIf you don't have a dash cam, play into whatever you think will get you off the hook. \n\nIf you're young, or have a clean record, acting nervous or surprised will get you a warning most of the time. \n\n\"Uhm... i..I... think I was going the speed limit sir?\" \n\nOr \"I was going (x mph thats Below the limit) right?\n OH! nono that can't be right. I'd never go THAT fast!\n\nIf you're older and live around the area, pull the senior card. \n\n\"I've been livin here for 15 years and I know the limit round here is X.\" \n\nRemember you're playing a character. Fit into his biases of who/what you are in a positive way, and he will fill in the blanks. \n\nIf he/she is dead set on giving you a ticket, or even if they woke up on the wrong side of the bed, you'll get a ticket. It's how cops work by design.",
"That's easy, you don't talk to the cops. Either the cop knows how fast you were going, or he doesn't. There is no law stating that you need to know how fast you are driving.",
"Make the cop laugh and it will all go better.\n\nWhen I got my 1st ticket at 16, I answered the question of where I was going in such a hurry with \"I'm trying to keep up with traffic\". There was no traffic and he said as much so I said \"well, I've got to catch up to them 1st.\" \n\nHe laughed, I laughed, my friend's laughed, and I got my 20mph over dropped to a 9mph over.",
"The top advice here is incredibly naive, people here have never dealt with bad cops. Keep your mouth shut, and answer “on the advice of my lawyer I decline to answer this question”. If you say you were speeding you have just admitted guilt legally.",
"I had a rather chequered driving youth and have had a lot of speeding fines and point but every time I was honest with the cops because they'd got my speed on a device or speed trap. When they have evidence, you can't lie your way out of it.",
"The following advice applies in the US, if you are travelling outside the US you should definitely look up your rights there.\n\nSay nothing that the cop doesn't need to know. If you have a totally legitimate weapon in your car, for example you should probably tell the officer, because the last thing you want to do is go rummaging in the glove box and have your gun come flying out of nowhere. If you have a totally illegitimate weapon in your car, you should still tell the officer that there is a weapon in the car, maybe leave out that it is illegitimate. As far as the speeding, say nothing. That is what lawyers are for. Just follow all instructions and say as little as possible.",
"Most police do not ask this question. They simply walk up and state “The reason I pulled you over was because I clocked you going 50 in a 35 zone.”",
"I've thought about this as well! If he/she seems friendly I might say \"There is no good answer to that question, right?\" and then just work with them without being a dick about it.",
"I think the best answer is to follow the script. Be polite to the officer and when they ask you a question respond like so; \n\n\nO: Do you know how fast you were going? \nVictim: Hello officer, I'm not going to discuss my day (repeat as necessary) \nVictim: Why did you pull me over (this starts the timer) \nO: License and Registration please \nVictim: <Shows license and registration> Am I free to go or being detained? \n\n\nAt this point the officer has to make a decision, they might go back to their car but if they have no evidence of wrongdoing they will let you go. If they have evidence of a traffic violation they will ticket you. If they think you did something worse they will detain you. \n\n\nIf detained; \n\n\nVictim: I invoke the 5th <then close your mouth> \n\n\nTips provided by Lawyers - link \n\nhttps://www.forbes.com/sites/ajherrington/2021/01/22/the-only-four-things-to-say-if-youre-stopped-by-the-police/?sh=aecb9615a919",
"How about you say yes, and stop wasting everyone's time. The police have better things to do, worse people to deal with than you, so take the ticket and let them get back to it, how about that?",
"Him: Can I see your pilot's license, registration and insurance?\n\nMe: I know, I was going way too fast?\n\nHim: Where are you off to so quickly?\n\nMe: I am late to pick up a girl for a date.\n\nHim: Is she hot?\n\nMe: Completely out of my league.\n\nHim: Drive more safely on your date.\n\nI have been married to that girl for 28 years now.",
"If there is anyone else on the road with you when you get pulled over, as long as you were not the fastest one in the pack, you can point out, \"I wasn't any faster than that *vehicle description here* that went by.\"\n\nThis is your polite--albeit cheeky--way of saying, \"why did you stop *me* if this was only about speed?\"",
"LPT: Don't speed. If you get caught. You're caught. Peoples lives are at risk driving and all you're doing is lowering the odds of everyone's survival by speeding"
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"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it.",
"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it.",
"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it.",
"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it.",
"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it.",
"How do you get rid of junk free? I have some furniture that I'm sure nobody wants that I want to get rid of and don't know where to dispose of it."
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"when i did my master bathroom renovation - most of the debris from demolition i would break down into small pieces and fill my city trash can with it, bit by bit. I was like the guy digging out of prison dumping pocketfulls of dirt in the rec yard every day. \n\nPut it on craigslist in the 'free' section - people will take it away for you if it's not complete shit.",
"Idk about elsewhere, but if you leave it near the road with a \"free\" sign on it, it'll be gone very soon.",
"Put it on Craigslist for free or on a Facebook sharing group.\n\nMaybe no one wants it, but there might be a hobbyist who wants to restore or repair it or something.",
"Put it in front of your house and take a picture place under free on Craigslist and call it \"curb alert\"",
"pretty sure you can just leave it by the mailbox. itll either get taken with the tradh or someone will take it",
"Free signs and Craigslist. People will take anything for free. My old stained couch is sitting in a garage right now. I've also busted up so many old dressers for firewood over the years. Winter is here and everyone with fireplaces is looking for wood."
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"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?",
"Handling sad people? It's just, that everytime someone comes to me and says \"hey, this and that happend to me. That makes me sad.\" \nI try to cheer them up. I will point towards the positiv things and say: \"But look at it that way, X and Z isn't that bad. Or could be good.\" \n\nI often got told, that this makes them not feel understood and makes them feel wrong. How can I get better at handling sad people?"
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"\"That must be hard for you\" \n\nPeople don't usually want a solution- they want empathy. They want to complain, they want to tell you how they feel. If someone starts crying, let them cry. Just be there for them.",
"When I complain about crazy awful things to one of my friends, his response is always to ASK what type of response I'm looking for from him, \"do you want sympathy or solutions right now?\"\n\nI don't think he understands quite how helpful that is. Even though my answer to him is usually \"both,\" what actually happens is that he's alerted me to the fact that I've placed him in an awkward situation by starting this line of conversation and I have an opportunity to shift it if I want. ",
"My gf used to get upset because I would try to solve her problems, and then I'd get pissed because I was literally trying to help. My therapist at the time suggested just listening or maybe offering to help with anything in as general a way as possible, and explained to me that people who are complaining or upset usually are not asking you to solve their problems, but just want you to understand what they are going through.",
"As someone who occasionally gets into a pretty bad spot as far as depression goes, for me the best thing you can do is distract me from the problem. I usually vent about the problem a bit and then it helps to take my mind off of it and do something that I enjoy like hanging out with friends or play some games together or somethin.",
"The best piece of advice I ever got about this was from a psychologist who once worked at a hospital with terminally-ill children. (I know, right? Absolutely no clue how anyone could handle that job.) He said that the main thing you can do for a person in a bad situation isn't to try and fix their problem -- which, more often than not, you can't -- but instead to accompany them. To make sure they don't have to face whatever they're going through alone. Maybe that's all we can ask for in this life.",
"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg\n\nPeople sometimes just need to vent, and want you to listen and sympathize/empathize with them. They are not looking for you to say something to make them feel better.",
"[Recognize that there is a big difference between sympathy and empathy.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw) \n\nIt's rare that a person will respond well to sympathy because it comes across as downplaying what's making them upset. No one wants a pity-party, nor do they want a silver-lining painted over their problems. It may not make them feel worse about what's getting them down, but it will make the feel bad about how they're dealing with it (like they need to suck it up, be stronger, yada yada yada...).\n\nEmpathy is different. Empathy is recognizing that what the person is dealing with is real, and that it's okay that they're struggling. It's like that moment in college when you look around and realize *no one* knows what they're doing anymore than you do. It's comforting to know that you're not the only one struggling because you can then see that there are people who got out of it. So maybe you can too.\n\nIf you've experienced something similar, then a \"I've been there. It sucks. It can get better. I'm here.\" can be a comfort. If not, then \"That sucks. If there's anything I can do to help you get through this, I'm here.\". ",
"There is more than one possible game at play here. \n\nTL;DR: know your audience.\n\nThere's the true friend who wants to tell you something deeply troubling to them because they truly trust your discretion and advice. This requires a different response than the drama queen who's seeking to get a rise out of you for their own purposes. Which is also different from the depressed person who is talking about other sad things to deflect attention away from what's truly bothering them. And, of course, don't forget the shallow person who gets all sad because \"that was the worst thing ever!\" \n\nThe joy for you is you asked how to get better at handling sad people. It's easy; ask them how you can help and then listen.\n\nListening respects everyone, from the drama queen to the best friend to the professor who found out just before class that her husband has left her for a younger woman. You don't need to solve it, and very often it's not your place to solve it. Sometimes you can't solve it. Sometimes you can and will; only you can decide when those times are. And your decision making skills will change with life experience. Don't expect to figure out the rules and apply them; live ain't that way.\n\nAfter much experience of my own, I have learned to listen to what's not being said; body language, choice of music, lighting and place. And most importantly, I've learned to listen for what is really being asked of me. I'm asking myself what this other person wants right now. This helps calm me and keep my perspective in tact. Otherwise, one can become caught up in the energy of the other person's sadness, which does not help them.\n\nYou sound like you have a pretty good repertoire of suggestions to try out on sad people that you hope will make them happier. Consider that in some exchanges, what you are doing is absolutely right on and the only flaw in your strategy may be going too fast. If the solutions to their 'perceived problem' are popping into your head in rapid fire, perhaps you just need to match the speed of how they come out of your mouth with the pace of the person you're talking to. It is like driving onto the highway, matching speed with the traffic, and merging into the lane. Look at how they pace themselves; match their pace. This gives them more space to assimilate what you're saying; remember how slow you felt the last time your were sad and you'll have a better grip on where they're pace is at.\n\nAfter awhile, you'll notice the pace changing and the mood lightening up in a way that's comfortable for you both. Some sad experiences (death of a family member or pet, for instance) cannot be rushed; grief has to take its course. That does not mean that the grieving person cannot lighten up to better manage their load. \n\nEnjoy your talents.\n\n",
"Seconding this. \n\nOftentimes I can't come up with much beyond \"well that sucks\" (obviously I try not to bluntly say that). ",
"My boyfriend has THE hardest fucking time understanding handling my depression and anxiety. Honestly, he's the worst when I need comfort and shit. He always ALWAYS tells me that I should look at things like this and have this kind of perspective. Like, do you think I haven't tried???? \n\nUgh, sorry, just super relatable right now. ",
"Here's a great 3min video on how to be empathetic. A lot of it is centred around just being there for the person and relating, rather than offering advice.\n\nwww.thevoc.al/watch-empathy-in-a-nutshell/",
"Grief doesn't want to be reasoned with, it wants to be recognized. Sadness is honored through care, empathy, and sometimes even silence. When you're comforting someone and your mind starts worrying about what to say, think about it: you've lost focus of the person. Instead, appreciate the importance of \"being with\" - you can't fix their grief or life situations, but you can provide a source of comfort and stability along the way. That's a big deal. ",
"As someone who used to struggle greatly with anxiety and depression,all it really boils down to is be honest and just listen. You don't have to solve their problems (I mean if you really do think of something that would really help and you know them well then by all means try but) you don't even have to fully understand them. The most important thing is that you listen and if you can't empathize then just sympathize.\nJust knowing someone is there and that they care can mean so much.",
"As someone who is diagnosed with depression my advice is empathise and let them talk it out. \n\nIf that person is depressed or has a mental illness, after they have talked it out ask 'what can I do to support you?' That was a real game changer for me. Simple things like people knowing and being okay with me helped me get better. \n\nThe last thing I want to hear is 'have you tried turning it off and on again' which is what it feels like when someone tries to give advice. Usually sad people who are expressing thier emotions are vulnerable. Remember that. Being positive that they chose to talk to you is good, but not trying to tell them why they should be positive. \n\nLittle sketch show:\n\nMe: I'm really not doing great right now, I'm struggling to get up in the mornings and I'm feeling like shit. My parents want me out of the house, my jobs rubbish and I'm feeling alone.\n\nYou: that must be really hard for you. (If you know them well some contact like a hand on the shoulder, so they know you're really listening) \nYou: I'm really honoured you felt able to talk to me about this. It means a lot. In return what can I do to support you? \n\nSometimes you may get tears. Having some genuinely offer support can trigger such an emotional response. Be cool about it. \n\nhopd this helps. It did for me xx ",
"[Wow... I totally misread that.](http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20131229152322/ultradragonball/images/thumb/5/5c/SandPeople_are_not_impressed.jpg/500px-SandPeople_are_not_impressed.jpg)",
"They usually don't want advice. They just want to voice their problems. It's therapeutic. Just give them a neutral reply to show you heard them, like \"I'm sorry to hear that.\".",
"That kind of stuff bothers me. Typically they just want a pity party. If I am sad, and its not a solvable problem, I just do something to take my mind off of it. I dont like ahoving my problems onto other people. But if someone is looking for a pity party, just say \"Oh yhat sucks, I am sorry to hear that.\" Or something a long those lines.",
"Sounds like marriage to me...\n\nMy best advice here, offer to help. It's not offensive, it's not oppressive, it doesn't minimize their issue, and in the off-chance they consider a solution to which you can assist, then they are looking at a bright side and cheer up!",
"Often you just need to say \"Hey I am here and I am listening.\" \nSpeaking from experience some people don't need you to be the new crutch but they need someone to just listen or even get them out there and doing something positive with themselves.\nAlso a hug can go a long ways!",
"I think you'll like these videos. Covers how to address a lot of complicated scenarios. There's three parts I think. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKNyFSLJy6o",
"Get down to their emotional level, and then a little higher. (But never lower.) They'll seek being at the same emotional level with a person, but if you go too high it'll end up working in the opposite way, bringing them down further. This has worked 100% of the time for me.",
"Ask questions, ask them what they think about it. Don't patronize them by telling them \"how hard it must be.\" Be honest. Assuming this is via txt or fb, invite them out for coffee and help put them in a positive mind-set.",
"Always start with a bit of compassion. Then try to be cheerful, just being cheerful is actually a bit douchy. Even though I understand your good intentions.",
"never bring the conversation to you unless they ask to.\n\ndont ask too much, and keep it to a conversation, bait him/ her into asking you things for a back and forth, its much easier to get over something by not repeating the problem over and over again.",
"When someone comes to me with a problem they're having, I ask them if they're looking for my advice or my support. Their answer will help me determine how to frame my response. ",
"Treat them how you would like to be treated if you were sad. It's that easy. Being sad or angry or anything doesn't override the fact that they're human. Just be human to them ",
"They want someone to understand them, not change them or 'fix' them. It is tempting to give a personal opinion, but they are sad for a reason, and if everyone they meet tries to be extra cheery then its like everyone is ignoring them and the reason they ate sad. \n\nNow this can be unpleasant, because you need to go down to their sadness in order to understand them, and you need to make sure you don't get too sad yourself. Someone to listen, to understand, and to be quiet with is a very valuable person.",
"My best friend has a solution that might sound a little cruel, but it works. When I vent and cry about something, she tries to belittle that thing and make me feel stupid for being sad/angry/etc for such a small thing, even if it's not small in reality. \nAt first I felt a little offended and hopeless that she wouldn't listen and help me, but I realised that it's part of her cunning tactics.",
"If they're sad, and looking on the bright side doesn't do anything for them, that's their problem. Don't let them drag you down.",
"IMHO, empathy is one of the best life skills to master. It'll help you deal with sad people, it's a great starting place for negotiations and you'll get much more personal satisfaction from life.\n\nHere's a fantastic video:\nhttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw",
"I got it. Questions. \n\nAsk them Questions questions questions. All the questions. \n\nIt makes you understand way better, it makes them talk their shit thru and realize the answer is within them all the time. Try it. \n\nMy alcoholic mother in law just got pissed that we all have an \"altered states\" way to deal with the the world. Two daughters and husband went but you do have this and that. I went: would you rather we don't ?\n\nWould you rather we don't do them in front of you? \n\nI asked more and she calmed down and thanked me. ",
"Hugs. If they don't mind you hugging them. Hugs are a good form of comfort. Just repeating what /u/baracey essentially said. They want to explain themselves to you. Listen. Even if you don't agree with what's being said, just nod your head and flag it up at a later date. If you want to talk about things, get them to write down whats negative/ positive. Writing is cathartic, and they can try to explain to you whats going on with you asking questions. \n\nI know how you feel though. I always try and find solutions to people's questions, and I take ages thinking about it afterwards too but bring it up at a later date. An alternative approach is to talk about very light topics. If the person doesn't want to talk about the project but their sad, don't force it out of them. Just let them breech it in their own time and talk about puzzles or some shit.",
"Here is a great video on empathy, and the difference between empathy and sympathy. It is super helpful in describing the most impactful ways to respond to someone who is having a tough time.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw&app=desktop",
"As someone who dated a severely depressed person for years, there is often nothing that can be done. Part of the time I tried to go along with it and act like whatever she was bitching about was indeed so terrible, but that would just encourage her to bitch more. I tried pointing out the positives and that just pissed her off, like I'm supposed to be as miserable as she is about stupid shit. In the end if someone isn't happy and doesn't want to be, there is nothing you can do.",
"Take the wind out of their sails. If I said to you, \"I lost my job, I don't know what I'm gonna do!\" And you said, \"Oh my god, what are you gonna do? You're gonna starve to death, you probably won't get another job ever again, your family is going to disown you and you're never going to amount to anything!\" I'd say Well.... I don't think it's *that* bad...."
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"What to do when you feel intimidated by certain people because they're overly confident and/or smart? ",
"What to do when you feel intimidated by certain people because they're overly confident and/or smart? ",
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"First, why are you intimidated? Is it because they're truly OVERLY confident and smart, going out of their way to correct you on every little thing, and making an effort to actually rub your face in it? Or because they're naturally confident and smart, correcting you in polite conversations when you're making mistakes or expressing uninformed opinions, and so you don't feel like you're at the same level as them?\n\nThe first is an asshole. So you treat them like you would an asshole, and just call them on it, publicly if the venue fits. \"Hey man, there's no need to attack everything I say like that. Why don't you lighten up and stop being such a jerk here?\". \n\nThe second is someone that's using their confidence and intelligence acceptably. If you feel intimidated by them, the fault is with you, not them, so it's you who needs correcting. A great way to both learn and feel like you're their peer is to ask them informed or information-seeking questions in a way that doesn't create an argument. You can have an absolutely superb conversation with someone that's at a different level than you are by opening yourself to listening to what they say, and encouraging them to say it.",
"It's great that you are aware of this in yourself. Self-awareness is priceless.\n\nThe next time you find yourself in a situation where you feel intimidated by someone, be aware of how you are feeling so you learn about yourself, then pay attention to whomever is intimidating you and learn from them. What do they \"do\" to modify YOUR self esteem/worth? Why are you enabling them to control how you feel? Continue watching and listening and you will gain knowledge, meet new people, and your feeling of intimidation will diminish.\n\nTo be intimidated by another person is a \"fight or flight\" reaction, which is likely out of fear of rejection from the \"confident and/or smart\" people. They are just people like you and me; join the conversation. :)",
"Try to get better in that particular subject to be able to debate with that individual, OR hide at the very sight of him/her. "
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"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers...",
"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers...",
"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers...",
"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers...",
"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers...",
"How to forget what other people think about me and make things happen I think way too many \"what ifs.\" The way I think people view me isn't very positive but I want to know how to not give a fuck. This is why when I want to say something, I can't. Especially kids at school, the girl I like, teachers..."
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"As you age you'll slowly arrive at the conclusion we all do: NOBODY CARES. Not really, outside of your family and your dog (can't count your cat). Nobody's looking. Nobody cares. If they say something negative, their next step is to move on. You're a quick blip on their screen, because everyone cares only about themselves unless they love you.\nEasier said than done, son.\nBut it was the most FREEING realization of my life.\nYou can only live your life for you and those you love.",
"I once heard a very liberating motto.\n\"Your opinion of me is none of my business.\"\nThink about that and let it sink in. You have no control over what other people think. Thinking 'what if' is a distortion. Free yourself from that and you'll be fine.",
"Seriously, no one gives a shit. Do you remember everything stupid everyone did in kindergarten or even last year? Probably not. \n\nTeachers don't give a shit because you're their job. They see hundreds of faces just like yours all year and you all just blend together. Same with baristas and cashiers and call center workers. \n\nThe girl you like? Worst thing she can do is reject you. You'll live and like someone else soon after.\n\nAnd everyone else? They're all focused on their own shit to be worried about how they feel about you. Just like you don't have an opinion about 99% of the people you meet. \n\nThe only person you should impress is yourself. Not even your parents, fuck them. You have to live with you. So do what you want and give zero fucks how people feel about it. Unless you're intending to rape a goat or hurt someone or something... Don't do that. ",
"Read The Four Agreements and learn how it's not about you, even when it's about you...\n\n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1878424319/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1474686287&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40&keywords=the+four+agreements&dpPl=1&dpID=51MfVDOlEkL&ref=plSrch",
"I deal with this by acknowledging the horrible possibilities I'm worrying about and reminding myself that if they're true, I can still move on. It helps show me that what I'm worrying about may not necessarily be as rational or bad as I may think.",
"I think it's just best if you tell yourself you're great. Even if you don't truly believe this it'll change your mindset, and you eventually won't really care what other people think. I'm sixteen years old now as of last month and I used to care loads what people thought of me, but after telling myself I was better than other people for specific reasons I started to feel better about myself and I've since gained confidence I've never had before. I now find it easier to do many things, for example making new friends, being positive towards myself and others, and talking to pretty girls. Ever since this new mindset I've acquired of just considering myself to be amazing it's changed me in a great way. "
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"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?",
"I can't stop clearing my throat. Anything I can do to clear up that random mucus in the back of my throat?"
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"Same problem here. A few points I've observed from experience: \n1. doing some brief workout that needs heavy breathing in the mornings helps. (I noticed my throat-clearing heavily reduced on days when I had to run to catch my morning bus). Even climbing stairs quickly helps. \n2. Salt-water gargle at night before sleep. Do not eat / drink anything after this. \n3. Some mild antihistamines work (please consult Doctor before doing this)",
"Same here... been going on more than 30 years. Every time I bring it up with a doctor they look at me like I just asked them for next week's winning lotto numbers, mumble something about allergies, then dismiss it. \n\nThrough careful observation I have linked it to my acid reflux... something I have also had since I could remember. My acid reflux is aggravated by the usual suspects, acidic foods, alcohol, etc. Also by some of the not-so-usual suspects, like bread, pasta, anything with gluten. \n\nIt wasn't dairy, or eggs, or post-nasal drip like many other have suggested. Drinking more water usually made it worse.\n\nThe closest thing I could ever find to a medical condition was something called [Laryngopharyngeal Reflux](http://www.webmd.com/heartburn-gerd/guide/laryngopharyngeal-reflux-silent-reflux). The last doctor I brought it up with also dismissed this as a possible diagnosis.\n\nThis may or may not be the case for you, but being such a frustrating and persistent annoyance, I wanted to offer yet another possibility for you to research. I am self-treating at the moment by restricting my diet to things that don't aggravate the reflux, and a daily 75mg Zantac to keep the heartburn at bay. \n\nIt's not completely gone, but at least I can get to sleep now without 30 minutes of coughing and throat-clearing. yay.",
"Is it a more pronounced problem after you've eaten? If it is, you could have a food allergy. Write down what you eat and rate the throat clearing episodes. If you see a pattern, it could be that what you are allergic to is present in what you ate. Best of luck figuring it out. You could also go to your doctor, but they'll tell you to do this.",
"Water. Drink lots of water, which will keep you hydrated and make it more runny (ew, but better). I had vocal cord nodules last year and every time I went to clear my throat, I tucked my chin to my chest, swallowed a couple times, and then had a good few sips of water. It really helped. The more you clear your throat the more you can cause damage, which makes it feel like you have stuff there when you don't.",
"I have this problem most mornings. Hot water with lemon helps, hot water alone helps some as well. Chewing gun sometimes. But as stated by others look into a food log too.",
"I am not sure how old you are, but it is just something that happens more as you get older. It does not mean there is a problem, or a food \"allergy\" as some are suggesting. The problem I find is the more you think about it, the more you feel you need to do it!",
"Have you been checked for \"GERD?\" \n\nhttp://www.webmd.com/heartburn-gerd/guide/laryngopharyngeal-reflux-silent-reflux\n\n",
"First, go to the doctor to rule out allergies. If it's allergies, you can treat them and it will stop. \n\nIf it's not allergies, it may be a tic as part of a mild case of Tourettes. You can go on medication such as Prozac that may help. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) may be helpful, see a psychiatrist for both. "
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"How to communicate effectively with somebody who has a thick accent/offshore teams. I just got hired as a position where I'll be working with a team out of India. I assume this will involve a lot of phone conversations, and my boss also has a relatively thick Indian accent and it's hard to understand him.\n\nUsually when communicating with people who have thick accents I end up having to ask the other person to repeat him or herself or I end up missing or filling in details (potentially incorrectly) when they fly through sentences. This feels somewhat stressful because I am afraid I might sound incompetent or like I wasn't paying attention, and it makes conversations take longer anyways when people are repeating themselves.\n\nIs there anything I can do to understand accents better, or maybe some tips to let the other person I am not understanding his accent without being rude or pointing it out?",
"How to communicate effectively with somebody who has a thick accent/offshore teams. I just got hired as a position where I'll be working with a team out of India. I assume this will involve a lot of phone conversations, and my boss also has a relatively thick Indian accent and it's hard to understand him.\n\nUsually when communicating with people who have thick accents I end up having to ask the other person to repeat him or herself or I end up missing or filling in details (potentially incorrectly) when they fly through sentences. This feels somewhat stressful because I am afraid I might sound incompetent or like I wasn't paying attention, and it makes conversations take longer anyways when people are repeating themselves.\n\nIs there anything I can do to understand accents better, or maybe some tips to let the other person I am not understanding his accent without being rude or pointing it out?"
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"If possible, designate a primary speaker for the group that is speaking English as a non-primary language (whomever has the best speaking ability). \n\nAlways create a detailed agenda for the meeting; this helps focus the conversation and gives you a better chance of recognizing keywords germane to the conversation points.\n\nWhen uncertain of what was said, ask what was said by restating (as best you can) what you think was just said rather than simply asking for the speaker to repeat themselves.\n\nIn general, over time, your ear will become more accustomed to the accents and patterns of speech. ",
"I had a Japanese exchange student who barely spoke english for 6 months, you'll pick up on it naturally pretty quick especially when you put their words into context"
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"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently.",
"How to not look like a child when you are 18(m) Recently I started an internship in a company (a foundry) because I needed one for my university. I am noticing that my coworkers do not really treat me like an adult but more like a kid and I suspect it's because I look younger than I am. I think it's partly because I don't really have facial hair and I'm a bit skinny. Do you have any tips for me so I will get treated with a bit more respect because at the moment they don't really think I can work independently."
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"To a 35-40 year old who's been working for 20 years you *are* a child.\n\nI'm 28 and I'm treated like a youngin by people still.\n\nGet used to it. Life isn't fair. Fake it till you make it.",
"You're an intern so you are going to be treated as a person who doesn't know what they are doing, until proven otherwise. \n\nYou are still a young person, so accept it now that you will be treated that way. Just remember respect is earned, not given. \n\nYou can look older, but until your actions prove you are mature, people won't see it that way. \n\nSince you want to look older, facial hair is a big step towards that direction. \n\nI'm not trying to down you, just being honest. \n\nSource: I'm a journeyman electrician that deals with many new, young apprentices. I deal with kids right out of high school all the time. Keep your head down, work hard, pay attention, and do as your told and you will earn your place. Remember, an ass chewing is a learning experience, not bullying. ",
"This is coming from a young looking guy, spent time in the military, and have successfully dealt with the dynamic of working with people 10-20 years my senior. \n\n1. You're being treated like you're an inexperienced intern because you're an inexperienced intern. It's not necessarily because you look young. As you spend more time around these people the way you conduct yourself will become far more important than the way you look. If you want them to respect you, earn their respect.\n\n2. If you're a young looking guy, you're a young looking guy. Period. Older people will always view your appearance as a little out of place, and you'll probably get comments about it. The best thing you can do is recognize that it is actually kind of funny, and just own it. At 23 I had someone approach at a training site and ask me if my mom knew where I was. He was looking to get a rise out of me but I just told him, \"of course who do you think signed the permission slip?\" I got a laugh out of him and earned a little respect for being able to handle the ribbing. \n\n3. Make it a priority to do the best job you can. People will recognize effort and potential and this will far outshine any age related appearance perceptions. You're still going to get shit for being young. \n\n4. You're at an internship to learn, so you should be happy that you don't have to work independently. Take the opportunity to absorb what these people are teaching you, even if you have to take some flak for being a kid. You'll be better off for it in the end and really - be thankful you're getting attention because many interns get stuck scanning files for 8 hours a day and never learning a thing except how to press the buttons on a copier. \n\n5. Respect doesn't happen instantly, especially in trades. Be prepared for that. Consistently doing the right thing, being humble, and being there to work will earn you respect but it will take time. ",
"Simply dress and act the part. Tuck your shirt in, wear clothes that fit you, use manners when talking to people, and treat everyone at work politely and professionally. Avoid talking like they are your buddies, and make jokes, or act silly. \n\nOne of the best tips to get the right professional attitude when starting out, is to be a pessimistic optimist. Always question and understand something presented to you, and when faced with a problem, don't take anything lightly. Then, always identify the positives after the risks and negatives, and always offer 1 or more solutions. Never say never. \n\nYou'll need to earn their respect, and with respect you'll be treated like an adult. Be overly professional when you start out, and ask people to teach you things. All of them. Ask everyone to teach you something about what they do that you feel they are really good at. People love that, and will like you and respect you more for not pretending to know everything.",
"Gonna have to earn it. It's more about character than appearance, and character is a function of time mostly. ",
"Work out.\nThink about it, if someone is in great shape, healthy and happy, they automatically get respect right from the get go. Until you give them a reason not to respect you",
"Somewhere between 25-27 to be honest. Since you look younger it may take longer. Think of the upside 20 years from now. ",
"Get used to it. I'm 25 and been working at this company for 7 years, I'm still treated like a kid sometimes. ",
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"Face gets really red after even a little physical activity (I'm in pretty good athletic shape), and takes a long time to cool down ",
"Face gets really red after even a little physical activity (I'm in pretty good athletic shape), and takes a long time to cool down ",
"Face gets really red after even a little physical activity (I'm in pretty good athletic shape), and takes a long time to cool down ",
"Face gets really red after even a little physical activity (I'm in pretty good athletic shape), and takes a long time to cool down ",
"Face gets really red after even a little physical activity (I'm in pretty good athletic shape), and takes a long time to cool down "
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"i think some people are just born like that. i work out 6 days a week, mainly lifting with 20 minutes of moderately hard cardio and to this day still sweat like blind lesbian in a fish market",
"Mine does this too.\n\nDehydration is a factor, cold shower after to cool down helps, working out indoors in ac helps, reducing intensity and increasing duration helps",
"I have the same issue also, I could never find a way to prevent this, it sucks because I always turn extremely red after playing soccer or working out and then get looked at in public and asked why my face is so red it really sucks. :(",
"I think you should consult a physician on this one. Otherwise you're just going to have the current crop of comments from people who don't know what they're talking about making stupid assumptions.",
"Breath control. Close your eyes and take deep, even breaths. Focus on your heartbeat and mentally try to slow it down. Works for me."
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"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?",
"How to make friends in college? It's the jump of the first semester for some of us, and the realization of loneliness and isolation is already setting in. What advice do you have?"
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"Leave your dorm room door open when you are inside (except when you're sleeping). People in your hall will walk by and talk to you. \n\nWhen you go to eat, ask people in your dorm if they want to eat with you.\n\nJoin a lot of clubs and a fraternity/sorority. \n",
"Go out of your way to get to know your fellow students. Those first few days are difficult because everyone is nervous and not really sure what to do. Be that person who is smiling and having a great time even if you have to fake it as it will make you approachable and the rest will take care of itself. ",
"# PERSONAL HYGIENE\n\nNobody want to date / hang with a garbage bin. \nBrush / floss your teeth at least twice daily.\n \nShower / shave every morning and wear your clothes once. (You're not an odorless 12 year old anymore. Trust me, you stink) \n\nTidy your room daily, and clean once a week.\n\nCarry a pack of gum in your bag incase you eat stinky food.\n(drinking lots of water helps with bad breath)\n\nAlso Carry extra pens / pencils to lend.\n",
"Be yourself. Talk to everyone. They walk away? Fuck em, there are THOUSANDS of people to give it a shot with.\n\nIts all a numbers game. Eventually you will find a niche. Gotta be proactive, you will regret it 4+ years down the road if you aren't.",
"Another word of advice: it's okay if you don't make your best friends immediately. Hanging out with some new acquaintances you kind of like will lead to meeting more people, and give you practice making friends. You might have a group you chill with for the first few weeks but grow away from when you find \"your people\". That's totally okay.",
"Join socieities/clubs. Don't hesitate to be with like-minded people in hobbies you enjoy, introduce yourself, talk to people.\n\nMost importantly, remember that everyone is in the same place as you. They'll all be worried that they won't make any friends, but the reality exists that (and this happened in my case), making friends at college/university is not as hard as people might make it out to be. Just smile, be happy, be a part of things, and don't hide in your room the whole time. ",
"I usually end up making friends with my classmates. It's really easy to start an informal study group as well. From my experience, classmates have the same understanding \"we've all been there.\" If anything is confusing, then you can always clarify with other students or talk about assignments. ",
"One of my friends in college went around meeting people by asking three questions: \"What's your name?\" \"What's your major?\" \"What is your favorite color?\" It was unusual and opened the door for conversation. ",
"Join clubs, study in the common area sometimes. However, this is the most important part, never give up your hobbies and find a way to indulge in them while in college. For example, I play viola. I joined the chamber ensemble at my school and has helped me make friends. Not only has it helped me make friends, but it's helped me find a community of people with a common interest. Just another good reason to never give up something you love",
"Join clubs\nJoin clubs\nJoin clubs\nJoin clubs\n\nHonestly I was always a shy, naturally introverted person and never really enjoyed the club scene in High School, but in college there was literally more clubs than I could ever imagine and I found ones that I will always cherish my time in. Example? I joined a gymnastics club that welcomed people with no experience (I was part of that designation). It was amazing, I made practically 100 friends from the troupe, plus I learned some pretty sick gymnastics! Don't be afraid to explore possibilities! It's college, the time for exploring!",
"Join a fraternity or sorority if you're having that much trouble. There are plenty of review sites about frats and sororities. Besides high school, college is the easiest time to make friends.",
"I will be living in an apartment with only one other roommate in a somewhat isolated part of campus so I need all the help I can get lol. The advice I think can help the most is to remember that people like when people talk to them or show an interest. So don't be afraid to go up and talk to someone, even if your'e nervous. If they turn out to be closed off or unresponsive, then you are no worse off than before trying, and if they show interest, then you are better off. ",
"I used to walk around with a red solo cup filled with water/iced tea. For some reason people are drawn to the solo cup and thought I was awesome. Try it.",
"I started university three years ago as a mature student. As I was going to one local so I didn't have to relocate and I already have a lot of very close friends I wasn't worried or even particularly bothered about making new friends that much. I knew it would happen, but I never tried to force it or purposely go out of my way to do it. I did speak to people, of course, but with no expectation of becoming best buddies with them. Now I'm inadvertently friends with most of the people on my course. Hell, a few of them even come to me for advice for things not related to work. \n\nI think people can pick up on the fact that you're confident just being yourself and they respond well to that. Don't try push yourself onto others, and don't think you have to act like them for them to want to be around you. I see many other students on my course (younger ones) that have tried too hard for people to like them and as a result nobody does. \n\nDon't forget, everyone else will also be looking to make friends with as many people as possible, so don't worry about it. ",
"A good Tree base is a seedling as the same way College friendship stands for your prospect future, choose good friends for your future.\nIn your details already mention that isolation is already setting in. Better you choose your good Master in your college and be concentrate your studies and leisure time will use to play your choice games. Automatically your team will build.",
"Keep cold beer in a mini-fridge. People will chill out and chat for a bit with you if you offer a beer. That's how I got to know people better in my dorm.",
"It helps if you know what you want to major in, I know for a fact that there are a lot of people in computer science that have the same hobby. tbh start talking to people in classes.",
"Go hang out in common areas. Look for a club or team you are interested in. Talk to folks in your class, before and after class. Be bold, especially early in the year...when you go to have lunch in the dining hall or whatever your campus equivalent is, find a table that has a few people but isn't full, and ask if you can sit there. Hang out on the quad. ",
"As awkward as it is, talk to classmates and people on campus as much as possible during the first two weeks!! You tend to make most of your friends on the first and last couple weeks of the semester. Participating in activities throughout the year helps yes, but all my close college friends were developed in those couple weeks.\n\n\nSource: Attended 4+ years of college",
"Make them in the first week. \nOn day one you can make a friend by walking past someone and saying hello. On day five you can make a friend by sitting next to them for lunch. But by day 10 you have to work a lot harder because everyone is already in a group of friends. \n\nTake funny pencils or pens to class, always an icebreaker when you hand someone [this pen](http://www.officeplayground.com/dog-pen-p1950.html) \n\nLeave your door open and play some reasonable music in your dorm. Set up your desk so that its easy for people to walk past, see you and say hi. Walk around and say hi to the other people with their doors open. Making dorm friends is important since these are the people you will drink (covertly) and party with the most. "
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"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing.",
"How to find your \"thing\"? I'm having trouble finding my \"thing\" to do. I am creative and want to love \"making\". Any tips for helping to find that special thing."
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"Try doing what you do when you are slacking off. If you are constantly checking out cool DIY projects, start doing some fun crafts. If you enjoy reading, start going to a book club. You don't need an overwhelming passion to be happy, just a hobby. ",
"Pick a thing, try said thing. Enjoy it? Keep doing it. Hate it? Stop doing it. Repeat until you find your thing.\n\nYou also aren't required to have a singular thing. I pick up hobbies constantly, keeps life interesting",
"\"How to fail at almost everything and still win big\" by Scott Adams (creator of Dilbert) is a great resource for finding your 'bliss.' I really enjoyed his book and what he had to say about work. If you don't have the money to buy the book; I'd recommend in the meantime focusing on what you do for fun. Write down everything you do that you enjoy (and that you may take for granted as a skill). A lot of people have skills that people would pay for, they just don't know they have them (we tend to assume what we do naturally everyone does, too). Watch TED talks, read, find what motivates you. What do you want to do on weekends, on vacation, etc. The goal is to make those your job. Hope this helps! ",
"https://youtu.be/zbyLFql8qKM that's for those new Turbotax commercials, those things are a great reminder that a lot of things are really easy, I've been playing guitar for 17 years now, but it wasn't hard, sure I had to work, but there aren't many things in life that are actually difficult, you just gotta work, I suggest you find something you have always been scared of doing, maybe your fear was that of failure at something that means a lot to you.",
"Just try and do as many things as possible. Socialize and ask what others do and try it with them, or try something new with others, or try what you've always kinda wanted but never actually did. ",
"I don't think anyone can really help you with that. That's something you will have to figure out on your own.",
"Does anything pop into your head sometimes, something that nags at you for an hour or a day, something that wants to be created? \nTry making that thing. \nMaybe it's your thing."
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"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? ",
"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? ",
"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? ",
"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? ",
"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? ",
"How to enjoy life while young and not always dwell on the future I always look forward to the next thing, whether that be college or getting a job, but everyone older than me tells me to enjoy my youth. I try, and I partly succeed, but I need to get better. Any wise redditors out there who can help me out? "
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"\"If you're not practicing contentment where you're at, you're not going to be content when you get what you want.\" --[Tony Hale](http://youtu.be/EvOWeoiacpQ) (starts around 8:20 mark)",
"I did this too. I was always think WAY too far ahead. Not planning at all is a bad thing. Put yourself in a position to make choices, but don't assume you'll be at some job making x amount of money for y amount of years. Travel, do things, spend some time dreaming up adventures to take... get laid as often as you can before you put on the chains.",
"Yesterday is a cashed check, tomorrow is a promissory note.. Today is the only cash you have. Spend it wisely. \n\nI'm 32 and still struggle with this. I always worked really hard to get myself as far as I could, as quickly as I could. Looking back I wish I enjoyed my youth more and lived in the moment. ",
"Try to think about and focus on more short term things. E.g. Making a goal for the next week or two rather than years.\n\nI struggled with this for a while when I got back from a trip overseas because I was mostly focussed on going travelling again. But shorter term goals and things to look forward do help.",
"Before I used to decline a lot of invitations that people offered me to hang out or go hiking or do yoga at the park or whatever cause it sounded boring or I was tired or a myriad of other excuses, but lately I've been forcing myself to say yes every time which has led to some pretty great experiences and memories.\n\nSo my advice is: do that!",
"Always say \"yes\" to any plans or invitation. I've made numerous friends and met great people going to events that I had 0 interest in or didn't really feel like doing or going to. This has caused me to have server FOMO, which is a great thing to have (sometimes). \n\nAlso, get a dog (hopefully a rescue ;)). You can see they live for you and they truly live in the moment of everyday; and they prove to you that everyday is special and new things can be done. \n\nI was ultra conservative and was always worried about \"how the F am I going to retire\" and \"well if I lose my job\" or \"the economy is shit\" ... those are mostly things that you have minimal control over. \n\nLive life, have fun and work your ass off so you have money to say \"yes\" to those invites."
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"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly.",
"How can I make my morning routine more efficient? In particular showering quicker! So currently it takes me around an hour to:\n\nGet out of bed (After checking reddit for 5-10 minutes on my phone)\n\nHave a Breakfast shake\n\nToilet (whilst watching youtube)\n\nShower (between 15-20 minutes, listening to music during)\n\nGet dressed quickly."
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"Well if noone else is gonna say it, I will. Get out of bed, stop checking reddit or whatever else right away. Go make your shake and take it to the shower, eat poop and pee while in the shower. Then take your time getting dressed and casually walk out the door atleast 20 minutes earlier than usual. \n\nVoila. Time saved. ",
"20minutes for a shower is crazy. How do you travel? If it's public transport shift your reddit time to transport time. ",
"You are not a plant or a tree that requires watering, so you can easily cut down the shower time. Think of shower time as a time to clean your body and that's it. \n\nMy toilet time is fast because I don't take anything with me on the toilet. Makes getting out much easier since you don't have to wait til you are done with a video. \n\nMake Reddit and YouTube a reward for getting all the other things done. ",
"Somehow \"turning off the tap\" cuts my shower time in half.\n\nGet in, rinse off, turn off the water, apply shampoo/soap, rinse shampoo and soap off, and get out.",
"Use a timer for your tasks. Cut your shower by at least 10 minutes. What the hell are you washing in there anyway?",
"Seriously, 5 minute shower is all you need. You can wash your face, hair and body in that time easily. Don't listen to music, as you'll end up staying in for a whole song etc.",
"put your alarm-clock away from your bed. This way you need to get out of bed to put it off. Leave you phone in you kitchen, sorry no time for YouTube on the toilet. Set an alarm out side you shower, take 10min to shower max. \nAt first you need to get used to the new routine but it will get easier.\nI mostly need around 20-30min to get ready to go to work.",
"Get up and get moving an what you need to do first. Save your phone time for after you're finished. You're wasting your time entertaining yourself.",
"Simply wait to go on Reddit after completing everything else, that way you have a reason to do those tasks faster. ",
"Have a set routine for when you get in the shower. \n\n1. Rinse off\n2. Shampoo hair\n3. Wash body, face\n4. Rinse\n5. Get out\n\nYou will be surprised by how much time you can save if you wait to rinse all the soap off at the end instead of after each individual task. (Example: don't- wash hair, rinse, wash body, rinse, wash face, rinse. Do- wash hair, wash body, wash face, rinse. It takes up so much extra time.)",
"First off, if you want less time taken, cut out the Youtube and Reddit. It sucks (I like waking up and transitioning into consciousness with my phone, too) but if you want more efficiency and a speedier routine, you can't spend time on your phone.\n\nI don't know what you do in the shower but just analyze what you do. Do you ever just stand there while listening to the music without doing any cleaning? Stuff like that. Don't cut out any cleaning you do in there but cut out moments of nothing and speed up the cleaning parts a bit. You can easily have a good, clean shower in less than 10 minutes without being dirtier than your current 15-20.",
"1. Keep a glass or bottle of water handy to drink upon awakening. \n\n3. Schedule something for that time before you get up. Think of it not as reddit time but as email time, or brainstorming time (where you type ideas in your phone), or something. Source: I am currently in email time. YMMV. \n\n2. If you're a beard-less guy who doesn't use shampoo to wash his face, try washing your hair while facing away from the shower head. I have heard it's better for some, I don't know. \n\n21. Schedule your mornings, starting with what you currently do. Make that the official schedule, and tweak it until you can stick to it. Then start shortening parts. ",
"do you shave? either way, lather up your body, and brush your teeth while you rinse yourself off. you can also shave in the shower and do the same thing.",
"Your routine is efficient enough, if you are leaving the house in a resourceful, focused state of mind. If you are not leaving the house in this state of mind, try adding in ten minutes of yoga stretches for your back and legs before you have your breakfast shake.\n\nIt's not the hour that measures the efficiency. You can cut your shower time to three minutes and five more to dry off, etc. But if that makes you miserable, or leaves you feeling like a cog in the machine, why bother?",
"Those of you who claim you can shower in 5-10 minutes... what the fuck? I take at least 30 mins, and if I'm washing my hair I'll need an hour at least. Are you sure you're clean enough afterwards?",
"Prepare your breakfast before you go to bed and store it in the fridge.\nShower the night before you go to bed.\nReddit/YouTube while you eat breakfast (multitasking). ",
"Poop squatting. I used to take half an hour pooping and now it takes like one minute. You can also poop every two days if you get you used to it."
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"How do I stop receiving the mail from the previous tenant of my apartment? For clarity, this is in the USA and I have changed my legal address to this apartment and have had new IDs made. I assume the previous tenant has either not changed his address or not had his mail forwarded to the new one.",
"How do I stop receiving the mail from the previous tenant of my apartment? For clarity, this is in the USA and I have changed my legal address to this apartment and have had new IDs made. I assume the previous tenant has either not changed his address or not had his mail forwarded to the new one.",
"How do I stop receiving the mail from the previous tenant of my apartment? For clarity, this is in the USA and I have changed my legal address to this apartment and have had new IDs made. I assume the previous tenant has either not changed his address or not had his mail forwarded to the new one."
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"Stroke a bold line through the address, write \"unknown \" on the front and drop in mailbox. Eventually the returned letters will have the former tenant removed from mailing lists.",
"My first year I would write \"Does not live here, return to sender\" and put it back in the mailbox. That has lessened the flow, but some places still send mail here for the previous resident 4 years later. Now I ignore them.",
"I'd say ignore them. Either they stop or someone will come and try to contact the former resident. They will then see you are someone else"
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"How do I keep leftover turkey from getting dry when I microwave it? Thanksgiving's turkey was awesome and juicy, but whenever I microwave the leftovers, they become super dry. Any advice?",
"How do I keep leftover turkey from getting dry when I microwave it? Thanksgiving's turkey was awesome and juicy, but whenever I microwave the leftovers, they become super dry. Any advice?",
"How do I keep leftover turkey from getting dry when I microwave it? Thanksgiving's turkey was awesome and juicy, but whenever I microwave the leftovers, they become super dry. Any advice?",
"How do I keep leftover turkey from getting dry when I microwave it? Thanksgiving's turkey was awesome and juicy, but whenever I microwave the leftovers, they become super dry. Any advice?"
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"Take a square sheet paper towel, get it wet, wring most of the water out, throw it over the dish and then microwave it. \n\nI use this trick with a lot of dishes (leftover pizza for example). \n\n+1 effectiveness if it forms a bit of a seal.",
"You need to put gravy on it, and cover it with something. \n\nYou can put it on the middle of a microwave plate, then cover the turkey with a microwave safe bowl. Then it won't dry as much.",
"You need to microwave it in something with a lid so the moisture stays within the vessel. A small casserole dish with glass lid is good. Most plastics will melt, but if you have one that won't you're good to go.",
"I think it's best in 300-325 oven 1/2 cover w broth or gravy cover tight with foil heat about 15-25 min. \nI think the micro turns it to overlooked rubber. "
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"Dental care in disaster situation What are some ways that a person can take care of their teeth and gums when they do not have access to normal dental care products (floss, toothbrush, tooth paste, mouthwash, etc)? ",
"Dental care in disaster situation What are some ways that a person can take care of their teeth and gums when they do not have access to normal dental care products (floss, toothbrush, tooth paste, mouthwash, etc)? ",
"Dental care in disaster situation What are some ways that a person can take care of their teeth and gums when they do not have access to normal dental care products (floss, toothbrush, tooth paste, mouthwash, etc)? ",
"Dental care in disaster situation What are some ways that a person can take care of their teeth and gums when they do not have access to normal dental care products (floss, toothbrush, tooth paste, mouthwash, etc)? ",
"Dental care in disaster situation What are some ways that a person can take care of their teeth and gums when they do not have access to normal dental care products (floss, toothbrush, tooth paste, mouthwash, etc)? "
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"In \"disaster\" situations, mouthwash and toothpaste should be considered amenities. The abrasives, alcohol, and fluoride do help keep your mouth generally healthy and more pleasant, but floss and toothbrushes do the majority of the work.\n\nIn spite of modern toothbrushes, many cultures still rely on plants to clean their teeth. Liquorice root and [miswak](http://www.amazon.com/3-Miswaks-1-Miswak-Holder/dp/B007F4I79A) branches can both be purchased on Amazon. Apparently, they're purported to do as well at preventing gingivitis and plaque as toothpaste and a toothbrush.\n\nHowever, in a pinch, you're probably more likely to have sugar-free gum (preferably, a strong mint flavor), a mild abrasive like baking soda, and a pill bottle or other waterproof container. To \"brush\", you simply wet the gum, coat it with baking soda, and chew.\n\nAny doubled-up thread can be used as floss, if you're careful about it. I've used strips of paper in times of desperation.",
"There is a book called \"Where there is no Dentist\". It's mostly for the 1st world volunteer in a 3rd world country crowd, but it is good. Also, they sell emergency dental repair kits in most pharmacies. They have temp filling compound and clove oil for topical pain relief. ",
"I'm kinda confused on what you would have access to if not a toothbrush and toothpaste. I've never been in a disaster situation but i would hope that the disaster relief would bring basic toiletries. But out in the wilderness, I've heard of people bruising their teeth with clay. Also i heard banana peel can help whiten teeth. Baking soda and peroxide help freshen and kill bad breath bacteria. Peroxide also helps to whiten. ",
"If you're totally out of options, chew a twig, or, I've heard, thistle. [This wikipedia article](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teeth_cleaning_twig) has a list of preferred tree-types (assuming your apocalypse is near an arboretum) and [this is an article](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2605858) from a PubMed examining the efficacy of twig-chewing over brushing (spoiler: brushing wins).",
"I dunno but why would you not have access to that?\nThose are cheap articles so just stack up on them."
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"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?",
"How can I be less afraid of spiders and insects without touching them? I want to be less afraid of creepy-crawlies, but I have near-crippling arachnophobia even though I know spiders aren't that big a deal. As for insects, they just gross me out. How can I become less afraid of them, and maybe someday hold one?"
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"You can watch serious documentaries about the. I suggest you watch stuff that focuses on them and not on what they cause (for example go for BBC not Discovery channel). Watch some David Attenborough and see the wonder of a presenter that he is, it will make you appreciate these little creatures, what they offer to the world.\nAfter you can see things from a scientific point of view, you will get more accustomed to them and next time you see a house spider you'll say \"Thanks for eating the flies and mosquitos when I'm sleeping mate!\" Hope that helps ",
"I'm surely no expert, but I had arachnophobia as well. Here is how I cured it for myself, YMMV:\n\n1. Remember they're sentient beings with their own goals and wishes. They just want to eat and find a mate, and don't we all? \n1. Remember that you're not what they eat.\n1. Remember that you've survived thousands of spider encounters over the years! They're not out to hurt you.\n1. If you're religious, remember that God put them here for a reason, and that reason isn't to harm you.\n1. Expose yourself to them in a safe way -- YouTube videos, online dissections... even the gross-out videos of hundreds of spiders don't result in people getting hurt!\n\nI know it sounds over-simplified, but that's what it took for me to get over my fear of them. Now I will actually let the cute ones (jumpers) climb on my arm so I can walk them outside to where they'll find more food. The others can ride the yardstick outside, but at least they don't have to die.\n\nCoincidentally, when I cured my arachnophobia, several other phobias also mysteriously disappeared, and I'm not sure why. ",
"Try drawing them using pictures for reference. They don't have to be picture-perfect, you just have to try your best. I think this would work because it would make you more familiar with their strange features. Drawing what you see helps to make sure you're really studying the picture.",
"wt helped me with my fear of spiders ( phobia level)\n1- learn more about them but watching documentaries and reading about them ( even if it scared me a lot in the beginnings\n2-later observe those you see from afar andnot kill them outright ( hardest bit but it helped me)\nI'm still uncomfortabel around them but my phobia turned into a respectful fear a fter a few years",
"Try being around them and seeing other people handle them. There's a show, Repticon which has a function every few months in different cities around the US (hopefully you're in the US). Even though it is a reptile show, they also will (should) have many tables set up with many insects. You can talk with breeders and owners to learn about different spiders, roaches and other such things that make people crawl. \n\nIf you have the opportunity to go to a Repticon or similar show, I'd do it, even if you're not into exotics, it's a good day of fun seeing some pretty awesome animals for a cheap price. \n\nGood luck, I fucking hated roaches until I started breeding them. ",
"Just co-exist, for instance, a number of years back had a spider set up shop near my rack, instead of killing it or putting him/her outside, I let the dude chill. After a few weeks my spider buddy was gone, but I felt less afraid of them too. Just roomates, that's all.",
"Graded Exposure has been proven to work. http://www.stresshack.com/phobia-treatment-exposure-therapy-for-a-fear-of-spiders.html",
"After seeing huge house spider in my house I figured I want to live somewhere where there are no spiders. Turns out there aren't that many spiderless places on Earth. So I watched YouTube with people handling spiders and set my work desktop wallpaper to picture of house spider. It wasn't too much effort and I was never squimish about spider pictures to begin with. But turnes out it was enough. Next time I saw one in real life I didn't feel the usual fear! I wasn't fully comfortable but I wasn't paralised with fear either :)"
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"How do you speak without losing your breath? I feel like my speaking is forced and I always catch my breath after few seconds of talking continuously. What is the proper way of using my voice?",
"How do you speak without losing your breath? I feel like my speaking is forced and I always catch my breath after few seconds of talking continuously. What is the proper way of using my voice?",
"How do you speak without losing your breath? I feel like my speaking is forced and I always catch my breath after few seconds of talking continuously. What is the proper way of using my voice?"
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"Usually it’s a sign of nerves; especially if you’re talking through your nose. You’re not breathing deeply before you begin so you’re trying to catch up. You could try deep breaths before you present or offer something up in a meeting. You could also make deliberate pauses. These pauses not only let you breath but it also brings some weight to whatever you’re saying. People might think you’re deliberating the best choice or words or being reflective when really you’re just trying to not huff and puff",
"Speak fewer words per inhale. In other words, you may be talking too quickly.\n\nAlso if you start talking while out of breath (from running to your microphone for example, or because you're nervous) you'll almost never catch up until after you stop talking.\n\nRelevant - once I had to run up 2 flights of stairs before my newsread on the radio. It was horrible. By far my worst ever read.",
"Are you breathing right? I had that problem and I would yawn a lot when speaking. I found\nout I was breathing only into my chest. It took time to get used to it, but breathing into my belly has helped a lot."
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"How to wear a poppy without it falling out As November starts a lot of people are going to wear poppies. It has only been 1 day, but ive lost 2 poppies. Anyone have good tips on how to make sure they dont fall out, or any other tips on how to optimally wear a poppy? ",
"How to wear a poppy without it falling out As November starts a lot of people are going to wear poppies. It has only been 1 day, but ive lost 2 poppies. Anyone have good tips on how to make sure they dont fall out, or any other tips on how to optimally wear a poppy? "
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"[Send the pin through the far side of the poppy. I only ever need one poppy per season.](http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-GjeZzIFUp7o/TrKgTN9mrmI/AAAAAAAAA3U/bADuc5p5GLI/s640/poppy.jpg)",
"Are you pinning it like you would a buttonier? If you are and it is still falling out, pin it closer to the flower. The lower you put the pin the more likely it will be to work its way loose. Hope this helps. "
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"How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?",
"How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?",
"How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?",
"How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?",
"How do I stop my \"box\" of spinach leaves from always wilting and turning to a soggy goo in the fridge? I buy a 1 lb. box of baby spinach leaves about every 2-3 weeks, and even though the box has small aeration holes on the bottom and the sides, they don't seem to help. The leaves in the bottom of the box (you know, the ones that always get crushed?), turn into a dark green, almost gelatinous form by the end, not only stinking up my fridge, but also ruining the other spinach on top, which usually stays perfectly fine and not rotted until the other spinach turns.\nAnybody have a few simple tricks to help me make the most of my **delicious** baby greens so they last longer and I don't waste my money?"
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"Try putting a paper towel in the container with them. It helps absorb excess moisture and keeps grens from getting slimy.",
"Put a couple of paper towels in there right when you get home from the grocery store. Change em out if they start to get green and soggy. Your spinach will last ~two weeks this way",
"NEWSFLASH.\n\nYou have to eat that WAY more quickly than once every 2-3 weeks.\n\nFresh greens like spinach have a reasonable shelf life of 5-7 days.\n\nNo amount of cleaning, paper toweling, animal sacrifices, or praying will make them last longer than that.\n\nIf they're turning to goo, they are ROTTING. \n\n",
"Just buy less spinach, however much you think you can go through in about a week or two. Most greens will go bad/start going bad after a couple weeks it seems.",
"Blend 4 cups of spinach in smoothie daily. Very good for b you and won't go bad cause it won't sit in your fridge too long. "
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"How can I gain some self confidence and courage? I know a lot of people, including myself, have issues with this. Thought this might be beneficial to more people than just me.",
"How can I gain some self confidence and courage? I know a lot of people, including myself, have issues with this. Thought this might be beneficial to more people than just me.",
"How can I gain some self confidence and courage? I know a lot of people, including myself, have issues with this. Thought this might be beneficial to more people than just me.",
"How can I gain some self confidence and courage? I know a lot of people, including myself, have issues with this. Thought this might be beneficial to more people than just me."
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"Fake it 'til you make it! Sometimes you just have to put on the face and persona of whatever you're doing and pretend like you are a pro. After you've done that a few times, you'll start to feel like you know what you're doing, and after a few more times, you're there!",
"Read books on the topic & practice. Take the risk of putting yourself out there, know you will make mistakes, & accept that it's a process that won't happen over night. Good luck!",
"http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=37HXByCFyhg but seriously, join a club where you can get to know people or volunteer. ",
"My key to confidence was to embrace embarrassment.\nJust own up to everything with your chest out and you'll feel like top dog everywhere you go ."
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"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff..",
"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff..",
"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff..",
"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff..",
"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff..",
"How do I stop an 18yr nail biting habit? So far the longest I have gone without biting my nails is a little over a month - and I had the help of acrylics to stop me from biting. However tonight I broke - I bit my nails and I'm asking for tips and trips to help stop an 18 year habit. Will bite through nail polishes and other otc stuff.."
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"My friend would paint her nails regularly since the taste of the polish is typically a big enough turn off. ",
"This is a tough one.. As Dr Phil says, you only replace one addiction with another addiction.\n\nFor me twiddling/twirling pens and pencils has been my go to addiction over nail biting.. \n\nYou also really want to have to stop biting your nails.\n\nI find that biting my nails increases the agitation to bite my nails. thus it is a self feeding habit. You have to recognise that as it happens and break the habit at that point.. it aint easy, and occasionally I will have a chew on the nails, notice it and stop immediately, maybe pick up a pencil and twirl it...",
"There is a nail coating you can buy that gives a horrible taste when you bite your nails so you don't. ",
"I would check out the subreddit r/calmhands. They offer quite a bit of helpful advise on nail biting/picking.\nPersonally I'm 22 and have dealt with the horrible habit for as long as I can remember. I haven't been able to kick the habit permanently yet (fingers crossed), but I've always noticed whats helped me is painting my nails and having something else to fidget with. Like eating sunflower seeds, or having something in my hands that I can peel or play with.\n",
"Get a small pair of nail clippers - ones that you can fit on your keyring. Whenever I think about biting my nails/see they're getting long/etc, I can just take out my keys and clip them down. ",
"Have you tried hypnosis? I know this may be a controversial answer, but it did work for me. You have to kind of go into it expecting it to work. It also isn't cheap, but I haven't bitten since!"
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"How do you fold A4 paper into perfect thirds (i.e . to send as a letter) So yeah, are there any smarter ways to do it than trial and error?",
"How do you fold A4 paper into perfect thirds (i.e . to send as a letter) So yeah, are there any smarter ways to do it than trial and error?",
"How do you fold A4 paper into perfect thirds (i.e . to send as a letter) So yeah, are there any smarter ways to do it than trial and error?",
"How do you fold A4 paper into perfect thirds (i.e . to send as a letter) So yeah, are there any smarter ways to do it than trial and error?"
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"Use the envelope. Tuck the top of your paper under the envelope flap and fold the paper at just above the edge of the envelope. Then fold the paper again and voila.",
"Roll the paper so that the inside bit and the outside bit are the same length and then fold.\n\nI appreciate how odd that sounds, but it's really hard to explain!",
"Roll it into a circle and then tighten the circle so that the ends overlap. When the ends are a half-circumference away from each other, begin compressing the circle gently. You will have to make small adjustments as you compress (unless you eyeballed the circle and half-circumference perfectly). When you're satisfied, finish the crease and you're good to go.",
"My fingers are almost the exact 1/3 the length of an A4 sheet so I just grab the paper landscape with both hands (palms toward me) and palm one under the other."
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"German cockroaches I had a serious problem in my previous flat and now i've found a couple in my new one, so i'm suspecting there is hundreds of them hiding somewhere. Any LPT that could help me instead of calling an exterminator?",
"German cockroaches I had a serious problem in my previous flat and now i've found a couple in my new one, so i'm suspecting there is hundreds of them hiding somewhere. Any LPT that could help me instead of calling an exterminator?",
"German cockroaches I had a serious problem in my previous flat and now i've found a couple in my new one, so i'm suspecting there is hundreds of them hiding somewhere. Any LPT that could help me instead of calling an exterminator?"
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"I bought a big box of borax powder/granules for $4 (the stuff used for laundry) and mixed a little bit in with peanut butter. Then i cut out little squares of cardboard (less than an inch apiece) and dabbed little dollops of the mixture on the cardboard and then placed them all over my kitchen and bathroom (on the floor, behind refrigerator/toilet, back corner of cabinets and drawers, etc). Additionally I popped open every electrical outlet and placed a small dab inside of each one. The infestation seemed to get worse for a few days but then it cleared up almost entirely. I promise you, this WILL work. \n\nNeedless to say, you're gonna have to be really careful if you have small kids or pets. This stuff is way toxic. ",
"DE food grade kills germans (& fleas couple of days). Get roach raid and go to war as well. When you see them squash them. Clean up their shit & the dead ones cause they are attracted. Throw food trash away outside of your house.",
"1 http://www.doityourselfpestcontrol.com/ \n\n2 [Know how to treat for ______](http://lmgtfy.com/)\n\n3 0rkin removes your money first then the pests"
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"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)",
"How to deal with \"Teaching Addiction\" Good day reddit,\n\nI don't know if I'm posting this in the correct subreddit, but after some search I didn't find any more fitting one. So please tell me if there's any better place to talk about this.\nI'm 21 years old, and I have quite some experience in all sorts of things. I know most programming languages (I know the basics of all common ones), and I'm pretty good at C#, Java, JS, and stuff. I'm also a dedicated game developer. But not only that, I also make a lot of music, electronic and instrumental stuff, so I know a bunch of things about music production and sound engineering too. Oh, I'm also playing a few instruments like guitar and drums [and synthesizers if you can call that an instrument]. These things are all pretty cool and I'm (at least a little bit) proud about having that skills, without wanting to brag about that in any way.\n\nSo my actual problem now is, that I have a strange \"teaching addiction\". I try to teach as much as I can to anyone I know or get to know. It's always one of the first things I try to do if I make new aquaintances and stuff. Most people are like \"oh yea, I totally want to develop games / play guitar / make music too\", but - after a few minutes during the first lesson - I realize 99% of the people lose their interest on that subject and start to avoid me / my lessons. I don't think I'm a bad teacher (tho i obviously can't judge that from my perspective) but this is slowly becoming a problem for me. It gets me depressed just to think about some people pay thousand of dollars for %&$§ HTML courses (yes, HTML!) where I would literally do it for free as I'm having tons of fun teaching stuff, but people keep rejecting it.\n\nI already talked to a few people about this and most were like \"yea mate, just stop doing it, it steals your time\" - but I can't. I even got some friends who're always acting like they were top motivated for learning this and that, but when it comes to the actual action of being teached something, they run away, procastinate it, and so on. And this is the point where I even get slighty mad, my cause is good but noone really honors that in any way.\n\nNow this must sound like a real \"pussy\" problem compared to heroine addictions or similar, and yes, it certainly is not nearly as bad as these - but I still would like to know if someone understands my problem, is experiencing similar feelings, or knows how to control it.\n\nThank you :)"
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"Sometimes people say things like that to be nice and they don't want to learn. Not everyone shares your passions and that's OK. \n\nMaybe find another productive outlet for all that energy - volunteer for your local boys and girls club / library / etc or become a merit badge counselor for your local not scout troop. Or join a local meetup that shares your interests. That way you can share your passions with a receptive audience. ",
"I totally, completely understand you. All my life, I've always wanted to learn new stuff and do my own projects, and that's where all my spare time went. If people asked me what I'd done this weekend, I'd say \"I learned JavaScript, shall I show something to you?\" - and none of them were interested. (Usually, the conversation was about the stupid things other people did at parties.) If people say something like \"I've always wanted to learn to play the piano, but I just don't have the resources\", I would offer to spend an afternoon at the piano with them, which they'd reply to with \"yes, we should totally do that ... *someday*\"\n\nAnyway, I understand your irritation. I used to get mad at people for not sharing my passion, even for \"being too lazy\" to actually learn what they want to learn, or do what they say the want to do. How did I learn to control it? At first, I went into the denial phase - I stopped doing anything useful and tried to fit in with people and their interests. (I was young and reckless.) This worked surprisingly well, but after several months I couldn't help but notice that I had done nothing productive and all my projects were still there, untouched.\n\nThat's when I decided to seperate my \"two lives\". I decided to work on my own projects, learn my own things, do what I want to do in my spare time, and not ever even mention it outside of my working space. Instead of offering people to teach them how to do something, I wrote everything down in the form of tutorials that I've been hosting on my own website for the past year. And guess what? People became interested, they visited the website, they asked me some questions about it, they wanted to see what I had done.\n\nNow, this doesn't mean that any of them actually reads all the tutorials and spends time on everything I have to offer. But they have the option to take advantage of my \"teaching addiction\" - as you so aptly put it - whenever and however they want, and that somehow feels like more freedom and less pressure to them.\n\nAnyway, that's how I learned to control it. When I learn something, I write tutorials, I create images, I create videos, I build stuff. I put it online for the world to see, but don't necessarily push people to let me teach them stuff. I don't know if it works for you, because it is quite a lot of hard work without getting much in return, but I hope it does. We need more people sharing their knowledge with the world for free, and I ensure you one day somebody will sincerely thank you for it and make you happy :) ",
"I think when people pay an exorbitant amount of money for lessons, there is a bit more accountability to actually put effort in to learn. You may be a fantastic teacher, but since you're offering your services for free, your students don't necessarily have to stay committed to learning since they aren't losing anything. \n\nI'm also a bit more concerned about your \"addiction\" and how it makes you depressed when others dont take advantage of your services. It seems like you take pride in what you do and a way to validate that is to share it with others. So when you are prevented from sharing with others, it makes you unhappy since it might invalidate your efforts. The solution, like what others say is to either 1) stop wasting your time with those people and do your own thing, or 2) start teaching people, but maybe charge them so you can get students who would be interested in learning and may stick with it.",
"These people may be disingenuous when they say they want to learn, but maybe they just don't want to learn in that moment. I would like to learn to be a better bowler, but I don't want someone giving me a lesson when I'm just goofing off at the bowling alley with my friends. \n\nMy advice is to turn yourself into a resource. If someone says they would like to learn a topic with which you're knowledgeable, let them know that you love teaching these topics and that you're available whenever they want to learn or have questions. This allows them to come to you on their own terms, and when they're ready. Most may never approach you about it, but you'll be able to truly help the few who do. You don't want to push away those who are truly interested by being overeager.\n\nAs for how to avoid the temptation of teaching before a person is ready, try using a different outlet for that energy. Write down how you would teach someone who is interested (think of it as a lesson plan), or maybe create a How-to blog that you can update every few days with a new lesson or discussion on a specific subtopic. The blog would allow you to connect with people who are already making an effort to learn about those topics, as well as with those who are also knowledgeable and looking to talk with someone who shares their passion.\n\nI hope you find some advice that works for you soon. Best of luck.",
"Maybe go into the threads where you excel and offer services there. You could also try to do some youtube videos or write tutorials for some of the stuff you really enjoy",
"I think your specific affliction is called being a *know-it-all*. That's me too. I love explaining things. My wife asked me the other day how hard drives work and I think I talked for 30 minutes, no just about hard drives but all neighbouring themes and ideas. She lost interest quickly, but she's usually a captive audience. Other times she listens and has a dozen followup questions.\n\nThe key is knowing when they are interested in it and when they are not. Sure, they may ask some questions or nod their head to be polite, but you can most easily tell if they are interested by how **how much eye contact they make**. Don't bore people or they'll just avoid you, even if what you are talking about is super interesting and they should think its super interesting. Sometimes some people just don't want to be lectured.\n\nOne thing that you might actually get a kick from is to contribute over at /r/explainlikeimfive. I go there when I am feeling particularly pedantic and its actually quite a big rush when you get more than a dozen upvotes, knowing how many people you just 'instructed'. Even better when a selfproclaimed expert on the subject responds to validate your explanation. Thats the part we are really addicted to. I wouldn't be responding to you if I wasn't...",
"I want to learn about music production, but do I want someone to teach me about it? NAH. Usually I'll ask people for advice on what courses to take, or where to start, but that's where it ends. Maybe start with that. Give advice on how or where you learned these things, and keep it at that. If they are interested they'll ask for more information."
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"How to return a product? I lost my key a while ago and made a copy from some key shop. When i went home it didn't work so i returned it so they can fix it up. After they did it still didn't work. This is my third time coming home without it working. How can i return the key and ask for my money without it sounding rude?",
"How to return a product? I lost my key a while ago and made a copy from some key shop. When i went home it didn't work so i returned it so they can fix it up. After they did it still didn't work. This is my third time coming home without it working. How can i return the key and ask for my money without it sounding rude?",
"How to return a product? I lost my key a while ago and made a copy from some key shop. When i went home it didn't work so i returned it so they can fix it up. After they did it still didn't work. This is my third time coming home without it working. How can i return the key and ask for my money without it sounding rude?"
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"This shouldn't be that difficult. If they sold you a product that doesn't work, asking for your money back is perfectly reasonable and not rude as long as you are not overtly rude (curse, yell, etc.).\n\nIt should go something like this...\"Hello, your shop made this key for me, and after three tries it still doesn't work. I'd like to return it and get my money back please.\"\n\nIf they have good customer service, they will just give you your money back and apologize for the inconvenience.",
"Keys are usually super cheap. It might not even be worth the time and gas to return them to the store if it's out of your way. Just goto a different shop and get new ones made.",
"If you lost your key, then how did you \"made a copy\"?\n\nChances are you copied a key that doesn't work for copies. It may be the wrong key. It may be too old and worn down. You may need to get a new master key made and copies from that.\n\nThat said, none of this has anything to do with what to tell them. The reason for that: Everyone else did a great job with that.",
"Don't overthink sending anything back. Just say you bought a second copy but it doesn't work. Ball is in their court. They should give your money back, it is not like the key blanks are expensive so they aren;t massively out of pocket. "
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"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer ",
"A correct way on referring to someone who is overweight What's a polite or correct term to refer to someone that is overweight or obese? \n\nFor example, when I was having a conversation with my friends and we're talking about a certain person, someone said \"Who's he again?\" implying that they both met. I had trouble describing him because I didn't want to directly say that he's this fat or obese guy despite that may be the only correct answer "
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"What's up with the correctness run amok? If I'm talking to somebody on the phone that I don't know, and we're meeting somewhere, I tell them to look for the fat guy with a beard wearing carhartt overalls. Easy peasy and we don't miss each other.",
"It's easy for guys,you describe the height and say he's bigger. \n\nThe dude is about 6 ft tall, but a big dude. \n\nFor woman its trickier, you have tosay 'she has a really good personnality'\n\nEither way, if that is the only way to describe them, you probably don't need to talk about them. ",
"The correct way is overweight. That's not insulting; I'm overweight. It's a measurable thing. If people get insulted then they have self esteem issues (I do too but there are so many other things to worry about in this world) and need to make a change.",
"Just call them fat. If they're fat they're fat, no need to be so sensitive about it. Then if they get mad yell them what they eat in private shows in public. Done",
"When I describe my heavier set lady friends I say \"thick\"... it insinuates more weight but doesn't sound cruel. \nI say \"big\" for men. ",
"Seems like you want to call him fat but want to appear polite. Saying at the end that may be the only correct answer, seemed like a jab at him anyway. Just say that big guy. Get to know people. He might be be descibing you like, yeah that person that looks like they've taken a few too many dicks. Cause that maybe the only correct answer too. ;) ",
"i would find a fruit that resembles them ... pear shaped, or plum shaped (overripe to indicate lots of flab). ",
"I fall into this category, and I say heavyset or overweight. If they are only a little bit overweight, I would say chubby.",
"Didn't see it here, but heavyset is generally my go to. I think it doesn't have the mean connotations but is accurate"
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"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?",
"How to clean your ear without a q-tip Q-Tips are bad for your ears.\nHow can I clean my ears and earwax?"
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"The doctors I have talked to about it just say to only use your fingers. Ear wax is good for your ears for many reasons, so if it is in too far to get it with your finger just leave it.",
"Chew gum. The movement of your jaw helps to work the wax out of your ears naturally. You could also try chewing your food more thoroughly.",
"SUMMARY (so far):\n* fingers (w/ cloth, kleenex, toilet paper)\n* chew gum\n* super soaker w/ warm water\n* hydrogen peroxide\n* olive oil/baby oil",
"A doctor showed me how to safely use a Q-Tip. Gently pull on the cotton until it is about a 1/2-inch long and still attached. Dunk into your favorite ear cleaning juice (I am fond of peroxide or alcohol or those store bought ear solutions) and swirl in the canal. Works great if your ears clog up from wax but it doesn't compress the wax.",
"Putting olive oil in your ear is an old old remedy that actually works, as it softens the wax. If you do it once a day for about 5 days you'll find that the excess wax literally falls out of your ear. Its also not as harsh on your ears than peroxide is.",
"You don't really need to, your ears clean themselves. But if you think you have too much wax you can just clean it in the shower, just let the water flow into them. Q-tips are only bad if you use them incorrectly. You can use them on the outer bit of your ear but don't but it in the ear canal.",
"This will sound insane and probably dangerous but my entire life, I've used a bobby pin. The little hook end works amazingly. It cleans and also scratches. I know it's odd, but it's something my father taught me as a small child. ",
"This thing exists:\nhttp://www.omegapharma.com.au/audiclean.html\n\nIt also comes in a spray, which I always wanted to get. I also hear you can get an ENT to suggest a medical fluid that you syringe into your ear.",
"Lay on your side and have someone pour hydrogen peroxide in it. It tickles like hell but you are squeaky clean in there afterwards.",
"oxygenated water or hydrogen peroxide (h202) dissolves the earwax. just pour about 2 drops in the ear, you will start to feel little bubble forming. just wait until the bubble stop and wash off. i´ve used this method and it has always worked. hope this help!\n",
"I roll up a piece of non-linty paper towel so that the end is pointy, then twist further inside my ear. Works great and is nice and soft so I'm not worried about damage. ",
"take a handkerchief and wrap part of it around your finger. Stick it in your ear and rub. Disgusting? Maybe. Effective? Yes.",
"Keep in mind having a little earwax is a good thing.. It protects the ear canal/ear drums, keeps the skin in/around your ears moisturized, and fights off bacteria/infections. I very rarely clean out my ears.. Then again, I'm not some greasy ogre with ear wax spewing out of my ears like a volcano. ",
"Just use q-tips. They're perfectly safe so long as you're not a moron.\n\nOf course, many people are morons which is why doctors and q-tip manufacturers sensibly recommend not inserting them in your ear. \n\nHere's a good explanation of why you shouldn't from [this page](http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=94855186):\n\n> Dr. FITZGERALD: Because they create no end of havoc and trouble by pushing wax in further. They also scratch the skin of the ear canal and lead to infections. And the real horror stories are that someone's cleaning their ear out with a Q-tip, and someone happens to hit their elbow, and that Q-tip goes through the ear drum into the middle ear. And so, if you want to know horror stories about Q-tips, talk to the ear doctors, because we've seen them all. \n\nSo don't push the wax into your ear, don't scratch your inner ear, don't put anything in your ear when you might be jossled. In short, don't be a moron.",
"It's recommended to leave earwax in since it's rather healthy, but if you're genetically predisposed to creating more than is necessary, you can use baby oil. Put a small amount in your ear, let it sit for a minute, then wash it out.",
"If you go to your doctor they can put a fluid in your ear and then suck the earwax out gently with a vacuum. It isn't too costly and you can hear really well afterwards. ",
"I've been using this Ear-Clear solution stuff once a week ever since my ear got blocked earlier this year, but if it's really that bad you should just get it syringed.",
"I use pen caps (bic are best) when I don't have access to my curette. I am genetically predisposed to have ridiculous amounts of wax and these two solutions work best for me, and I've already tried most of the suggestions in this thread.",
"I use one of [these](http://i.imgur.com/5BTo2.jpg) about once every 2 or 3 months. Fill it with some very warm water (not hot) and fire it in the ear, repeat a few times, and all sorts of crazy stuff comes out.\n\nMy ears used to get seriously plunged and I'd go to the doctor. He had a big stainless steel syringe that he'd use to do essentially the same thing. He said my ears were shaped different and didn't shed wax as well. After a few trips to the doctor i saw one of those things in the pharmacy and have been doing it myself for the last 15 years. Works great.",
"I read something about a drop of hydrogen peroxide or a hydrogen peroxide solution. Just a drop or two. I'm not sure. It's supposed to clear the gunk or I think. ",
"I just wash my outer ear areas with mild soap and water. I never have problems with water getting trapped in my ear or anything like that and it keeps my ears clean without pushing earwax around in there.\n\nAbout a million doctors have looked in my ears since I started doing that and they've never commented one way or another so it must be doing okay. ",
"paper clip, regular size -- works as well as the little copper spoons the barber in India used on me.",
"Candling...for when you're really stuffed.\n\nup.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXTb_yXmBzU&feature=fvst\n\n",
"I have had regular problems with my ears getting clogged. One technique I have found is to use a sterilized bobby pin. The loop at the end of the bobby pin can be used to dig out the wax, whereas a q-tip just compacts it further in. "
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"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?",
"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?",
"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?",
"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?",
"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?",
"A way to keep bed sheets from coming off One of the worst first world problems is moving around in the night and accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed, and then you end up sleeping on a bare mattress or waking up to fix it.\n\nAny way to prevent this?"
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"Buy some bedsheet suspenders. They have some that go across your whole mattress or some that just connect across the corners. Get the better ones though... the cheapies suck and break really easily.",
"This drove me crazy! I tried a lot of different things, those elastic sheet holders are crap. Tucking sheets does not help much. So I made my own bed sheet holder, might be over kill, but it works. Aluminum, Chain quick links, bungy cord and tarp clamps. Never again will I have loose sheets!\n\nhttp://imgur.com/oDV5b\n",
"Actually, assuming you're using regular, not elasticated sheets all you need to do is hospital corners.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbJFNrg2G_4\n\nThis ought to keep your sheet in place without you needing to buy anything extra. Sorry if you already do 'em.",
"Tie a knot in the corners of your sheet. It will work like a fitted sheet and it's free. I'm actually surprised no one suggested this yet.",
"Get four rocks (Or something heavy, wash the rocks/use something else) and put them in the corners, use them as weights.",
"Okay... What kind of bed sheets do you use? Because I have never heard of \"accidentally pulling the bed sheet off of one or more of the corners of the bed\".\n\nMaybe we have different bed sheets in Germany. \n\nOkay, I just googled it. I think you are using normal bed sheets and what we are using here are [fitted sheets](http://affiliate-bilder.baur.de/pool/formata/3940748.jpg). Try using one of those and you wont have these problems anymore."
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