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[ "What are some easy, cheap and/or effective tips for managing your online account passwords? If you use a password managing service, which one do you recommend?\n\nAny other tips for managing online accounts?", "What are some easy, cheap and/or effective tips for managing your online account passwords? If you use a password managing service, which one do you recommend?\n\nAny other tips for managing online accounts?", "What are some easy, cheap and/or effective tips for managing your online account passwords? If you use a password managing service, which one do you recommend?\n\nAny other tips for managing online accounts?", "What are some easy, cheap and/or effective tips for managing your online account passwords? If you use a password managing service, which one do you recommend?\n\nAny other tips for managing online accounts?", "What are some easy, cheap and/or effective tips for managing your online account passwords? If you use a password managing service, which one do you recommend?\n\nAny other tips for managing online accounts?" ]	[ "Make sure that whatever you decide - your attorney/loved ones know what you’ve done and where your assets are.\n\nMy uncle passed suddenly about two years ago - young, unmarried, no kids. ALL of his accounts were digital (no mailed statements) and my mom had a very hard time tracking everything down. It was very stressful for her - losing her little brother and having to deal with all of it.", "I use a personal LastPass account as well as an enterprise account at work. Rare downtime, always able to access stored passwords. You can put secure notes, aka ssn/birth certificates/important info in it. Training the wife on how to use it, she is the opposite of tech savvy, and she has taken a liking to it.", "I use a license plate number I know, the website initials and a symbol\n\nLet's say the license plate number is\n`AC34DZ8`\nThe website is Facebook\n\nI always capitalize the first letter, and each time it follows a number so \n\n`AC34DZ8` becomes `Ac34Dz8`\nI then separate the plate number with `!` and finally add the website initials `Fb`\n\nSo it ends up\n\n`Ac34Dz8!Fb`\n\nThe plate number stays the same, the website is never going to change and your separator will always work on sites that require 8 digits, a capital letter, a lowercase letter, a number and a symbol.\n\nIn an instance where `!` isn't accepted (because the password can only be letters and numbers, I swap it with `1`", "Send an email to yourself with the list and store it in a separate folder. That way you can access it from mobile anytime. This may be less than secure, something I’ve never considered until typing this out.", "I use a basic password with a number and add the website name to the end. For example, “Abc1youtube”." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks.", "How to keep the floor around a toddler high chair from becoming a minefield of food particles My kid drops, throws, and pushes his food onto the floor. A lot of it is an accident, some of it is on purpose. He's barely over a year, so scolding doesn't do much. \n\nAny possible LPT to keep me from having to clean the floor multiple times a day?\n\nThanks." ]	[ "Father of four, We never could 'SOLVE' the problem of food hitting the floor around the chair but here are the two solutions that helped with the aftermath for us. \n\nMove the high chair onto tile floor - Made cleaning up the food particles easy. \n\nGet a Dog - What food particles?", "For my daughter I used the puppy potty training mats until she was done with the high chair. They caught everything and soaked up spills. ", "Kids are going to make messes. Get used to this simple fact. Scolding a baby for having poor motor skills is a great way to have a neurotic adult later, though.", "I just put a little food in front of my daughter at a time...that way when food ends up on the floor, it's not a whole lot. Wherever babies eat, there will be a mess. ☺", "When my kids were small, we used a \"baby tarp\", just a piece of heavy fabric. Put it under the high chair, under baby, where ever. After meals, gather up, shake out outside, and launder. ", "Cover the floor around the high chair with dollar store shower curtains. They're pretty decent sized, and rinse clean with water. They're also inexpensive to replace if they get torn. I use them as drop cloths when I paint and they work pretty well.", "We have a towel under the young kids. If they are in a high chair you may want something a little bigger.", "Dog. Feed him outside.\n\nSource: I'm a nanny and any other solution to this would have ended up in our professional development/literature if it existed. Sorry. :(\n\nFor what it is worth, I'm huge about outside picnics. The food that falls on nature? Nature's problem, now! (aka \"compost\")\n\n" ]	[ 14, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be confident while asking for raise, promotion etc in office from managers who have no intent of listening LPT Request: My manager and high ups in management in office shows no intent in listening to the personal aspiration of the individuals, they are just bothered about how to manage and firefight the situation and increase revenue. Human resources hold no value to them. In such a scenario how do I confidently ask for raise, promotion etc. In the previous incidents they made Commitments and never fulfilled them and followed that with other commitment which again was not fulfilled. Suggestions welcome", "How to be confident while asking for raise, promotion etc in office from managers who have no intent of listening LPT Request: My manager and high ups in management in office shows no intent in listening to the personal aspiration of the individuals, they are just bothered about how to manage and firefight the situation and increase revenue. Human resources hold no value to them. In such a scenario how do I confidently ask for raise, promotion etc. In the previous incidents they made Commitments and never fulfilled them and followed that with other commitment which again was not fulfilled. Suggestions welcome" ]	[ "Might I ask before offering a suggestion- what field/ career/ job type are we talking about here? What level are you already at?", "Know your contributions and how you benefit the company. Be prepared to clearly state these with examples of why you deserve a raise or promotion. \"My job duties have changed/expanded from my original role. Now, I'm also (fill in the blank with whatever...example: \"responsible for training others\" ) yet my job title has remained the same.\" Ask for their opinion. \"What do you think we should do about this so I am fairly compensated?\" Lastly, always be aware there's a possibly they could say \"sucks to suck, deuces\" and kick you to the curb. Good luck!" ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "what's in your roadside emergency kit? What're some common things you have or wish you had in your trunk during a roadside emergency? ", "what's in your roadside emergency kit? What're some common things you have or wish you had in your trunk during a roadside emergency? " ]	[ "I'm no super organized zombie war renegade, but this is what is in my trunk:\n-Blanket, led flashlight, few bottles of water, jumper cables, baseball bat, white towel, burn kit (cooling gel, wash, gauze), band-aids, anti-freeze, grocery bags. \nPlus I always make sure I have my cell phone charger and GPS. ", "All that plus, a random book, a can of beans, some crackers, lighter, candle, kitty litter, pen and paper." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n", "How do I get myself up after my alarm goes off? After I wake up if I don't fall back to sleep I just lay there almost lifeless for a while.\n\n" ]	[ "Use an electric blanket set on high and attach it to a timer to turn on at the same time. This not only becomes somewhat uncomfortable after a few minutes, but it helps raise your body temp which is usually low after sleeping, helping to energize you.", "One of my favourite things in the world is chocolate milk, so every time I get out of bed without hitting snooze I allow myself a glass of chocolate milk with breakfast. \n\nAnother trick a friend uses is every time they hit snooze they aren't allowed a chocolate bar at lunch at work that day.\n\nBoth of them work for us, it only took about a month before I stopped using the snooze button and just got out of bed without needing a reward!", "I remember reading this blog entry about getting up early.\n\n[How to get up right away when your alarm goes off](http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/how-to-get-up-right-away-when-your-alarm-goes-off/)\n\nHe says something that sounds silly - practice it. Like right now go set the alarm, sit in bed and when it goes off jump out of bed.\n\nalso [How to be an early riser](http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/05/how-to-become-an-early-riser/)", "Someone once posted something saying that once you're awake you should quickly sit upright, pump your fist in the air and shout \"YEAH!\". I've tried this a few times and it gives you that quick rush of energy to get up. ", "Two things. You can try either or both together.\n\nOne, the night before, when you're in bed falling asleep, tell yourself over and over the time you want to wake up, and imagine yourself waking up and doing exactly what you want to do: you get up, get out of bed, perform your morning ablutions, whatever. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Your mind will wander as you fall asleep, so you'll probably come back to it a few times. The important bit here is not to convince yourself that you're actually going to do it, or that you should do it, it's just simply to forget all the judgment and imagine yourself doing it.\n\nIn the morning, you're viewing things from your sleepy morning perspective. You have to imagine yourself doing things from another perspective so when you're in that sleepy state, your brain has a competing alternative to consider. This actually works for some reason.\n\nTwo, when you wake up in the morning, just get out of bed right away just for that one morning. Just do it once. Just force yourself, knowing that you're just trying this out, and it's going to suck big time, but you'll tough it out and just experience it one time.\n\nThe idea here is that oftentimes it's hard to start a new routine, but once you make a very small move, but an actual move, it suddenly becomes \"real\" to your brain in a way that it just wasn't and never could be if it only ever merely existed as a potential thing and not an actual thing.\n\nYou might be thinking, oh but I've gotten up before, I've had to for this reason or that, so it's not like this would ever be my first time doing that. But no, those don't count. You have to do it with intention. You have to do it when there is nothing else going on, no other reason than your sheer force of will, just once. All those other times you had other reasons, which leaves you in the state you're in when you don't have those reasons. Make your brain realize there's this other option now that applies even when you're not being compelled.\n\nOh and there's a third one, go to bed earlier and get enough sleep, and don't look at a bright blue screen for hours before bed, use f.lux or some other screen dimmer-warmer.", "Do you work for the [Huffington Post](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/01/27/waking-up-mistakes_n_6547278.html)?", "I'm not sure if it's available on Android, but Apple has an app called \"FreakyAlarm\" you can set it at varying levels of obnoxiousness. The beauty of it is that it won't shut off until you do math problems (which are fairly simple, except when just waking up) it also has a barcode scanner and a picture portion. So you'd have to get up scan something or take a picture of something (that you've set in the app) or it won't shut up. The noises it makes are the things of nightmares (train whistles, baby's screaching, gunfire...) ", "Honestly, get a fitness tracker bracelet. I have a Jawbone that I wear to bed. My alarm is set for 6:30 at the latest, but with a 20 minute allowance. It senses my movements and wakes me up sometime between 6:10 and 6:30, whenever it senses that my sleep is at a light point so I don't wake up tired (or it goes off at 6:30 because there hasn't been a lightest point). It vibrates when it goes off, no obnoxious noise.", "I set three alarms with different sounds because i usually sleep through turning the first one off, then half ass myself awake on the second. If i make it to the third, i know i'll be late for work if i don't get up now. ", "I get myself into an uncomfortable position eg. do a split and after a few moments it gets too painful so I get up hehe", "Here are a few of the tips I have found over the last couple of years. I really struggle to get out of bed in the mornings. \n\n* Move your alarm clock so that it is not reachable from your bed, so you are forced to actually stand up to turn it off or hit snooze.\n* if you live in a colder climate, buy a heater and a timer and have it set to come on 15 minutes before your alarm would go off. It is way easier to get out of bed if your room is toasty warm. \n* put a lamp or light on a timer so that it turns on a couple minutes after your alarm goes off, this gives you a minute to prepare for it once your alarm goes off. \n\nand finally get more sleep\n\n", "as soon as i hear the sound of my alarm, i open my eyes and get out of bed. I know, i know, your probably saying, \"Sirnolp you are crazy! I wish i was more like you.\" and i agree, this method is a revolutionary way of turning your lazy ass cubicle worker into an energized cubicle worker. ", "You will get up when you have the motivation you need to do it. Stay in bed if you want. When your life starts changing negatively due to missed events then you will probably find the motivation to get out of bed. I get up at 4 am and go to sleep around nine. Every day no exceptions. \n\n\nOr you could becone a slough.", "You just have to get up. It's one of thos. Things that is just a habit eventually.\n\nGetting enough sleep, exercise and decent nutrition helps.", "I sometimes tell myself \"You can do your sleeping in the shower.\" In point of fact, I do doze in the shower, but I eventually come to, especially if the water starts getting cold.", "I set an alarm for an hour before I have to get up, take my ADD meds and drink half a 5 hour energy, then fall back asleep or lay in bed for a while. I have a second alarm that goes off an hour later in case I legitimately fell back asleep.\nHaving ADD, I have a hard time thinking clearly in the morning, so taking my meds early helps me to be more reasonable and realize that I need to get up, and remember what I need to do to get ready instead of justifying staying in bed.", "I feel your snoozy pain. Get an LED lamp alarm clock- I have one that gradually increases in brightness before the alarm goes off, e.g. at 06.30am one line of LEDs comes on, at 06.35 more LEDs come on etc etc, and by 07.00 when the alarm goes off the screen is super bright. I find it helps with seasonal affective disorder and I can manage to get out of bed. It's also a decent SAD lamp.\n\nAlso, try an app that monitors your body movement while you sleep; it detects when you're 'nearly awake' between certain times (e.g 06.30-07.00) and sets the alarm off so it's not such an abrupt way to wake up. Sleep Cycle is a good one for iPhones. It also shows you when you were most fidgety in your sleep, and for some reason this is a comforting explanation as to why you wake up tired and grumpy.\n\nIt could just be psych tricks, but however it works, it works for me. ", "You put your feet on the floor and stand up. There's no magic tricks to it, you just need enough self-discipline and willpower to get up. It's really not that hard to do.", "When your alarm goes off, there are a few steps to ensure you get out of bed.\n\n1. Turn your body so that your legs are hanging over the side of the bed.\n\n2. Lift your torso up from the bed and assume a sitting position.\n\n3. Stand up. \n\n4. Applaud yourself for not being a lazy pice of shit.", "When I was younger, I did the same thing. I would lay in bed and struggle to get up. One day, I almost missed the bus to school because I hit the snooze button and otherwise just lounged in bed. For me, it was all about discipline. When the alarm went off, I just got up. It was like forced attrition at first, but after a month it was much easier. Today, 30 years later, it is habit.", "This may sound silly, but I have gone years and years without ever struggling to get out of bed, despite struggling with depression at times. All you have to do is get out of your bed immediately after your alarm has gone off. It's not about bribing yourself, it's about training yourself to feel awake when your alarm goes off. Before you even shut your alarm off, sit up and pull your covers off your body, tap off your alarm and immediately stand up out of bed and start doing whatever you need to do. Use your willpower in the beginning to just remove yourself from your bed as quickly as possible until your body adapts to it and feels alert as soon as your alarm goes off.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user's privacy. \n\n If you would like to do the same, add the browser extension [TamperMonkey](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/tampermonkey/dhdgffkkebhmkfjojejmpbldmpobfkfo) for Chrome (or [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) for Firefox) and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top.", "This comes up pretty often. My favorite response is always \"be an adult and get up and start your day\"", "Step TheFirst: Practice [Mindfulness](http://smilingmind.com.au) for a week or two..5 minutes twice a day should do it.\n...\n...... When you're ready...\nThe Night Before\n\n1. Put exercise clothes on chair (away from bed)\n2. Set ALARM and put it on top of clothes.\n3. Set intention:\n*\"When the alarm goes off in the morning, no matter how I am feeling* or the what thoughts are going through my head, I will stand up, turn off the alarm and mindfully follow the Mindful Morning Routine.\"*\n\n... When the alarm goes off in the morning, do the following MINDFULLY (awareness on the task you are doing at that moment, when you get distracted by your thoughts* or feelings, name the distraction and refocus on the next step in the routine)...\n\n1. Stand up\n\n2. Turn off alarm\n\n3. 7 mindful breaths (notice the sensation as you breathe in and out: Nose, Shoulders, Chest, Stomach, Chest, Shoulder, Nose)\n\n4. Get dressed\n\n5. Lemon water (a couple of drops in a glass of water).\n\n6. [7 minute workout](http://7minworkoutapp.net)\n\nStep TheLast: Profit?\n", "Set multiple alarms around your room not just next to you so you have to get up out of bed to turn it off", "Put the alarm on the other end of your room. It works great for me ever since I've started doing it :) I haven't pressed snooze since. ", "I've been using my computer as an alarm. I make it play a song at around 5am every day. I am forced to get up from my computer and turn the music off. By then, I'm already in front of the computer which is emitting bright lights. I'll get on reddit or other sites and just browse for a while. By then, not so tired anymore. ", "I try to work out in the morning so once my alarm goes off I roll out of bed onto the floor...for push ups. Physical activity gets me very focused and motivated to be alert", "I started moving my alarm across the room, but then I developed bad sleepwalking habits. Now I just keep a glass of water (preferably room temp) near reach and drink it. It always helps me wake up.", "I set my cable box to turn on 1 minute before the alarm goes off, and the local weather comes on at the same time.The combo of the alarm, and listening to the weather at the same time does it every day.", "I put my phone underneath a book at the other end of the room with the most annoying ringtone I can find. ", "I put my alarm at the foot of my bed so I have to get up (or at least turn around) to turn it off. That, or drink a glass of water right before going to sleep so I have to pee as soon as I wake up.", "I have a radio alarm go off and my phone plays a music alarm quietly too. It annoys me out of bed. But waking up annoyed is rubbish.. Another thing I do is have something warm to put on next to my bed and also drink lots of water when I wake up. You could also drink enough water the night before to make yourself need the toilet and have to get up in the morning.. But that's a tricky balance. ", "I had an alarm clock app called step out of bed and to turn the alarm off you have to take 20, 30, or 40 steps. You can't just walk in place either, you actually have to walk around somewhere and take pretty big steps. It works really well for me. ", "Get angry at something. Like the bakery downstairs that makes your room stink at 1 and 7am. Or the alarm from the neighbors that sounds like someone knocking a tune against your wall. Or his loud voice. I'm never able to go back to sleep afterwards", "Get a 2nd alarm clock and set it to ring at a later time than the first, when you actually want to get up. Put it a foot beyond the first one. Hit snooze on the first one if desired. But when the second one goes off it means you get up, and you don't even think about hitting its snooze button. Works like a charm. ", "Generally by either pushing with your arms or using your abs, but typically both. \nThen once hanging off the bed, you use you're legs to stand. \nTA DA", "First, I changed my alarm to something that isn't so... ugly. Something that will always wake me up, but not make me hate the noise. Something about waking up to \"BRAH BRAH BRAH BRAH\" is just irritating.\n\nSecondly, I forced myself to get up immediately when I hear the alarm. Not wake up, but get up. Sit up. Then I can turn the alarm off. Once I got in the habit of that, and not just hitting snooze when I heard the alarm, waking up was a lot easier. Snoozing, for me, is the worst thing I can do to help we wake up.", "Check out smart phone apps like Alarm Clock Xtreme for Android. You can set it to make you solve math problems before you can turn it off or snooze it. ", "Put the alarm clock (not a cell phone because volume) on high and set it on the other side of the room. Make sure it's very loud and annoying. This will force you to get out of bed to shut it off. Works for me every time ;)", "Chug a [Monster!](http://www.target.com/p/monster-energy-drink-16-oz/-/A-12953443#prodSlot=medium_1_1&term=monster+drink) on a empty stomach that will get you going hard! " ]	[ 35, 19, 15, 8, 7, 6, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to meet people after a hard breakup? Long story short, I'm feeling hurt and alone, in need of a social life. I work in a lab at my university though, so my time to go out and socialize is limited. How effective are tactics like random conversations and what not? In need of help. ", "How to meet people after a hard breakup? Long story short, I'm feeling hurt and alone, in need of a social life. I work in a lab at my university though, so my time to go out and socialize is limited. How effective are tactics like random conversations and what not? In need of help. ", "How to meet people after a hard breakup? Long story short, I'm feeling hurt and alone, in need of a social life. I work in a lab at my university though, so my time to go out and socialize is limited. How effective are tactics like random conversations and what not? In need of help. ", "How to meet people after a hard breakup? Long story short, I'm feeling hurt and alone, in need of a social life. I work in a lab at my university though, so my time to go out and socialize is limited. How effective are tactics like random conversations and what not? In need of help. " ]	[ "How old are you? The older you get, the harder it is... I went through a similar situation. Anyway, I met 1/2 of my current friends at a pub trivia. I just asked a table if they had space for one more & 6 months later we were going on fishing trips & shit. Go to trivias and game nights, post a book club at your lab, stuff like that.", "Join a rec sports team at the university, or some other sort of hobby group of sports aren't your thing. University is a great time/place to meet people. ", "I would join a meetup (Google it for your area) and I wouldn't put too much pressure on meeting someone for romance. I'd start with making a larger circle of friends. It's easy to put all eggs in one social basket when the only person you hang out with is your S.O. and it's especially easy if you are otherwise busy with uni. I would use your extra time to diversify your friendships and work on making yourself more interesting (not an insult, everyone can become better/cooler/more attractive, and that's only ever a good thing).", "After my divorce at 32, I took a creative writing class and then a photography class, both evening. Met several new guy friends in photography and lots of girls in writing. It worked really well. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!", "How to not be high strung For lack of a better phrase, I'm very high strung. I always find myself overreacting (in other's opinions, not to me) when there is a minor problem or setback. I get really excited/worried/startled about things like almost getting into a fender bender, missing the bus, or getting a slightly negative email from my boss, and while I know my reactions are annoying to others, at the same time they're genuine. I get scared or worried by these things but I also know that they're not very important in the long run, but for some reason knowing this doesn't help me prevent these reactions. Any advice would be appreciated, this behavior is annoying and not how I want others to think of me. Thank you!" ]	[ "When I tense up, I stop breathing. I don't so much hold my breath as let out air and then stop taking breaths. It's some kind of nerves thing. Now when I notice stress/tension, I take a moment to acknowledge that I'm physically reacting to some stress. Then I breathe deeply and focus on slow deep breathing for a while. My body goes from feeling a sense of foreboding to feeling relaxed and relieved.\n\nIf you haven't already, stop drinking caffeine. It's terrible for nerves. I cut it out about two years ago. There is no advantage to using it. You can always have decaf coffee if you love the flavor. There is far more benefit to allowing your body to wake up without getting wound up.\n\nA prescription for Xanax helped me realize what a calm, relaxed body felt like. I took a small dose every day or so. After about a year, it was like my body had received training for how to chill out. Don't get addicted. No benefit to addiction with this drug. It will stop working and you'll be anxious again.\nFigure out what is unsettling you. Know your triggers. Practice reflection. Get physical to wear yourself out a little. If you're high strung, you have a lot of mental energy to burn or else you'll feel agitated and more reactive.\n\nFind responsibilities/roles where your sense of urgency, intensity, and empathy are needed. Work with your personality in this sense.\n\nGood luck, I hope some of these tips help you.", "Therapy. Therapy, and more therapy.\n\nI was an incredibly high-strung person, mostly because I had been raised to believe that there was only one correct path through life, that any deviation from that path meant that I was a horrible screw-up and a failure, and that accidents were just a result of me not being careful enough or prepared enough.\n\nA great therapist helped me to realize that I was \"measuring the world with a warped ruler\", that there are an infinite amount of options which will all lead to the same or even better place (just with different timelines), and even in the worst case scenario, there is literally no mistake/accident that you can't rectify or recover from (even if your life afterward doesn't resemble what it did before).\n\nThere is no \"trick\" to fixing this kind of anxiety. It takes a lot of time and support to get to where you can live without it. Good luck.", "M", "Right on a sticky note and keep it near you, on it write \"will this be that big of a deal in a month?\". Look at it when you feel the anxiety creeping up, just give yourself a mental break before diving into the issue.", "Read a book called 'Dont Sweat the Small Stuff' by author Richard Carlson. You may have to read it a few times to let the content sink in. Once you apply the techniques and realise a lot these small setbacks are just part of everyday life, you will feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. ", "I avoid this by putting things into two categories: things I can change, and things I can't.\n\nBy doing this you can shift focus on the things you can change and away from the things you can't.\n\nLisa being a bitch at work today? Can't change that, move on. Deadline stressing you out? Make more frequent deadlines for smaller tasks that lead up to the final one.\n\nIf you focus too much on things you can't change you'll always be high strung because not only can't you make any difference in those areas, you are taking energy away from things you can make a difference in.", "Find a good therapist and go see him or her once a week until you feel you have a good handle on how to deal with everyday situations in a more reasonable way. Worked for me, and I'm much happier. Money and time well spent, and i stopped annoying myself and those around me. ", "Exercise. Whatever you love to do, whatever makes you feel more centered. I like to limber up, to music. I also dance, practice my ballet. Calisthenics are good. Whatever you can focus on and totally get into, for at least 15-20 minutes, before you start your day, whenever you're tense. At work, I used to take \"non-smoke break\", just go for a ten-minute walk outside. It de-stressed me and cleared my head. 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[ "How to utilize a gift card's full value I find that I'm always left with a few dollars on my gift cards that I can't use. I also sometimes have 2 or more gift cards that together could buy the thing I want but I can't find any way to combine them. What are some tips for getting a hold of these few dollars?", "How to utilize a gift card's full value I find that I'm always left with a few dollars on my gift cards that I can't use. I also sometimes have 2 or more gift cards that together could buy the thing I want but I can't find any way to combine them. What are some tips for getting a hold of these few dollars?" ]	[ "Best you can do is sell it to a friend who frequents the spot. Gift cards, from a logical perspective, make no sense. You take money that can be used anywhere, and turn it into money that is restricted. To get the last few dollars you have to put in more money. It is why companies love to sell gift cards.", "At least in California, retailers are required to give you a cash refund for cards under $5. I'm not sure about other states but pretty confident at least some are similar. " ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to properly use an SSD Extending life and maximizing performance.\nCovering most common Operating Systems.", "How to properly use an SSD Extending life and maximizing performance.\nCovering most common Operating Systems.", "How to properly use an SSD Extending life and maximizing performance.\nCovering most common Operating Systems." ]	[ "1. Install SSD in computer. \n2. Migrate OS using Acronis or other disk utility. Optionally, install the OS from installation media so you have a fresh OS.\n3. Enjoy your fast SSD speeds.\n\nThere isn't anything to worry about with SSDs these days. Windows 7 and newer know how to handle the SSDs. I'm not sure what version of OSX or Linux would be needed, or if special packages are needed for Linux, but I'm sure they have fairly good native support of SSDs and keep them healthy.\n\nYou don't have to worry about wear and tear on your SSD for the useful life of your computer. Even in an unrealistic situation of writing 50GB per day to a ~250GB SSD, it will take about 27 years to hit 2000 writes, which is what most SSDs are rated to last a minimum of.\n\nAs far as performance goes, there isn't anything you can do to get real-world performance differences. You might find guides for increasing numbers in artificial benchmark tests, but those numbers won't make any noticeable difference in actual applications.", "You can move your user folders (like My Documents, My Photos, Downloads, etc) to an internal HDD after you get Windows installed on your SSD. This will prevent a shitload of writing to your SSD and extend its life, probably.\n\nhttps://support.microsoft.com/en-us/kb/310147\n\nPro tip pro tip: Do not move My Documents and other user folders to an external drive that you may end up disconnecting - that will give you gross errors.", "DON'T Defrag it, you'll kill it, you can \"Optimise\" It, however. If you record using Fraps / Xsplit / OBS, for the love of God don't record to it, all SSD's have a limited number of Read/Write cycles. SSD's are best for Windows, Programs and a couple of games.\n\nMy SSD boots in 16 seconds. Beautiful." ]	[ 3, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance", "Im at the bottom, the deepest point of my life and i dont know what to do anymore or how to stay positive Maybe im in the wrong sub but i dont know where to go. \n\nIm 24 years old. \n\nIm struggling with a chronic pain disease for the last 4 years. Im in therapy to live with that. I need to go into surgery due to a genetic defect. Thats why its currently not possible to follow my passion/hobby that im using the last 10 years to get over hard times. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nMy work sucks. My boss isnt answering my messages, they dont seem to care about the point with my surgery and dont bother to answer at all. My work is boring and i dont want to do it anymore. I have 1 year left to get my phd in a field where i dont want to work anyway. Should i quit?\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI met the love of my life. Literally. We match each other in every aspect perfectly, the time flies by and 99 out of 100 couldnt be better. Due to some circumstances about her faith, she cant seem to keep the relationship and breaks up. Im completly crushed and i cant even put in words how im feeling. Ive tried everything that i could try to show her how much she means to me and that we are definetly meant for each other. I wrote a piece on the piano for her, went to church with her, was there when she was ill and made her tee and something to eat, talked to her in hard times, listenend and encouraged her on how to handle things. I sent her flower to the door, bought her for christmas something she talked 2 months earlier about. Ive really put up all i am and it doenst seem to be enough. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nOverall, im at the deepest point possible. \n\nMaybe someone got a tip what to do or just a small hint on how to slowly take all the shattered puzzles and put them back together. \n\nI dont know if anyone reads this at all, im not hoping for much. Its the middle of the night, im crying and dont know what to do anymore. \n\nIm from germany if that helps in any way. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThanks in advance" ]	[ "Take a deep breath, stand up as straight as you can and put one foot in front of the other as you move on. There is no magic answer or instant solution to whatever it is you're going thru. For you or anyone. Keep pushing forward, as hard as that may seem just now, it's the only way out", "I don’t normally answer questions on this sub, and I’m not sure if it’s the best place for these questions — but three suggestions. \n\n1) Deal with the chronic pain, and be good to yourself about it. Getting to a place where you can manage it is vital, the most important thing. \n\n2) Finish the PhD — even if you hate it. MOST candidates feel like you do at this stage. Get through it and then you can walk away from academia forever if you like, but you’ll have a completed doctorate to do that with. It’s easier to move on with the degree than not. \n\n3) You are heartbroken, but please stop trying yo win back your ex. It will do no good, you will only make things worse, and there ARE other women on earth, hard though that is to believe", "You are going through hard times but it will get better. I think for many people their 20’s (especially early to mid 20s) are the hardest times of our lives. Try and relax your mind and take each thing one step at a time. Remain hopeful that things will improve. I can tell you just from my own experience I was a little bit depressed during my early to mid twenty’s and I know many others who were also but it gets better. Try to remember we don’t have to have everything figured out and that everyone on earth is struggling in some way. It always helps to be able to talk to someone and look for the good people who are out there who care about others. One of the best places to find those people is through volunteering activities. Most people who spend their free time volunteering are very kind and caring people. I wish you all the best and I believe in you. You can overcome anything.", "Two points that may help ….\n\nBest move I did was get away from “organized religion”. I honestly think that the human race could be so much more advanced if it wasn’t for religions. Being spiritual is, on the other hand, good.\nLess “social media/internet”, once again it has the power to do such good, but unfortunately it has really destroyed natural human companionship and interaction.\n\nI really wish you well and hope you get better. Take a deep breath and see the good around you, and people that may want to help.", "Not sure if this will help, but realize in the end- it will all be okay and in a year from (or probably sooner) you will look back at this and laugh. \n\nAlso my father taught me when things get really bad and problems stack up - sometimes u just have to laugh. If you laugh at how bad it is and find the comedy in it and know it will get better, press forward and it will for sure. \n\nCheers buddy", "Have you tried m", "Start doing things just for you, to help make you feel better! I’ve been having a similar struggle and it is only starting to look better because I’m doing some things just for me.\n\nThere are so many things we can’t change, except the way we look at them. Think about the things going good in your life and fight, every day, to smile!", "My advice is not to make any drastic moves until you’re on more solid ground emotionally. To do this, you’ll have to distract your mind. \n\nYou can get through this. You’re almost finished with your PhD. Complete that. Meanwhile, tend to your heart. Part of getting over someone is being able to be alone with yourself.\nThis is tough. Get some earbuds or headphones. Keep them on and playing stand-up comedy specials. Find a good, long, intriguing podcast. If you can stream episodes of a new series, or an old one that can comfort you when it’s time to sleep- the idea is to fill your ears, then your mind, and I suggest comedy because it is so healing to laugh and listen. You’ll learn so much during this time, and I promise you there will come a day that you’re grateful you AREN’T with her. I promise you that it won’t be this tough so constantly, and reaching out for help is a TERRIFIC sign that you’re going to be able to handle this, because you’re resourceful. You’ll be able to make yourself whole again. Be patient with yourself. Learn a new instrument, another language, join a volunteer group, anything. If it’s very difficult, start slowly. Make yourself spend time outside every day. You’ll feel better. \nStart listening to stand up comedy; this was my secret weapon during a devastating divorce. I just know that you are going to be great. It just takes time and work. Just like everything in life. You will be better soon.", "I DO think you have the wrong sub (not to sound rude). My word of advice is “build”, like Bob Marley said “the stone that builder refused will always be the head cornerstone”. I do construction, you’ve dug yourself quite a pit by the sounds of it, pour concrete in the pit and build a beautiful home (life) on top." ]	[ 7, 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I keep (or restore) my white clothes really to be realllly white? I've tried bleach but they still seem, like, off. ", "How do I keep (or restore) my white clothes really to be realllly white? I've tried bleach but they still seem, like, off. " ]	[ "If you have iron in your water, they can turn yellow/rusty orange. Iron Out can make them white, but it's not for colors and does weaken cloth a bit.\n\nOther than that, washing on hot makes detergent more effective. Watch your labels though.", "Cascade dishwasher powder. 1/2 cup right into the drum with the clothes. Don't put it in with the liquid soap. Comes out perfect every time. " ]	[ 5, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to increase accuracy when working with a lot of numbers I just have a job as a pricing analyst and I have to work very big spreadsheets (10 columns and thousands of rows at least.) I have dual monitors and try to copy-paste as much as I can, but there are still errors when transferring data from 1 spreadsheet to another. Any tips?", "How to increase accuracy when working with a lot of numbers I just have a job as a pricing analyst and I have to work very big spreadsheets (10 columns and thousands of rows at least.) I have dual monitors and try to copy-paste as much as I can, but there are still errors when transferring data from 1 spreadsheet to another. Any tips?" ]	[ "I guess that depends on how you are copy-pasting it and why, but this doesn't sound that efficient. Are these things uniquely identified such that you can use a vlookup?\n\nNeed more detail on what you are doing and why. ", "Four things:\n1. Get into the habit of estimating what the figures should be mentally. If you know that you've had a great sales quarter, but the figures show a 20% decline, investigate. Sometimes figures may make no sense at all: negative sales for example. \n2. Compare with previous months/quarters, to see if there are any significant differences in any of the key figures\n3. Put in guard formulas. If you have a bunch of percentages, add them all up to make sure they total to 100%. Make sure your horizontal totals, all totalled, equal your vertical totals, all totalled. \n4. If you highlight a bunch of cells, Excel gives you their sum (and other information) in the info bar at the bottom. That can be very handy for doing quick sanity checks." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "A way for my transport card to be detected without the fare meter scanning for my bank card. My wallet contains a transport and bank card.\n\nI want to tap on fare meters with the former in my wallet and avoid taking it out for fear of losing it, but still be able to keep the latter inside and not have it detected.\n\nAny tips?", "A way for my transport card to be detected without the fare meter scanning for my bank card. My wallet contains a transport and bank card.\n\nI want to tap on fare meters with the former in my wallet and avoid taking it out for fear of losing it, but still be able to keep the latter inside and not have it detected.\n\nAny tips?" ]	[ "you should get a wallet with rfid protection anyway. In mine, I can keep the transport card outside the foil and the bank cards inside the foil.", "Can you add your transport card to a phone-based payment system? I use Google Pay for mine and it's smart enough to use it rather than a cr" ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to act normal when speaking to new people For some reason, I get extremely awkward around new people that I don't know. I will stutter, stumble over my words, and feel extremely intimidated by them. It's like my brain is screaming at me that they're judging every word I say and I usually end up saying something awkward or stupid. I'm also very shy because of this reason.\n\nHowever with people I'm comfortable with I'm easily confident, funny (I hope) and easy going. I speak smoothly and have no problems communicating.\n\nHow can I copy this behaviour with people I don't know very well? I turn so red while speaking, and the stuttering is awful, and it's quite embarrassing. Is there any mindset or thoughts you can think of to make things easier?", "how to act normal when speaking to new people For some reason, I get extremely awkward around new people that I don't know. I will stutter, stumble over my words, and feel extremely intimidated by them. It's like my brain is screaming at me that they're judging every word I say and I usually end up saying something awkward or stupid. I'm also very shy because of this reason.\n\nHowever with people I'm comfortable with I'm easily confident, funny (I hope) and easy going. I speak smoothly and have no problems communicating.\n\nHow can I copy this behaviour with people I don't know very well? I turn so red while speaking, and the stuttering is awful, and it's quite embarrassing. Is there any mindset or thoughts you can think of to make things easier?", "how to act normal when speaking to new people For some reason, I get extremely awkward around new people that I don't know. I will stutter, stumble over my words, and feel extremely intimidated by them. It's like my brain is screaming at me that they're judging every word I say and I usually end up saying something awkward or stupid. I'm also very shy because of this reason.\n\nHowever with people I'm comfortable with I'm easily confident, funny (I hope) and easy going. I speak smoothly and have no problems communicating.\n\nHow can I copy this behaviour with people I don't know very well? I turn so red while speaking, and the stuttering is awful, and it's quite embarrassing. Is there any mindset or thoughts you can think of to make things easier?", "how to act normal when speaking to new people For some reason, I get extremely awkward around new people that I don't know. I will stutter, stumble over my words, and feel extremely intimidated by them. It's like my brain is screaming at me that they're judging every word I say and I usually end up saying something awkward or stupid. I'm also very shy because of this reason.\n\nHowever with people I'm comfortable with I'm easily confident, funny (I hope) and easy going. I speak smoothly and have no problems communicating.\n\nHow can I copy this behaviour with people I don't know very well? I turn so red while speaking, and the stuttering is awful, and it's quite embarrassing. Is there any mindset or thoughts you can think of to make things easier?", "how to act normal when speaking to new people For some reason, I get extremely awkward around new people that I don't know. I will stutter, stumble over my words, and feel extremely intimidated by them. It's like my brain is screaming at me that they're judging every word I say and I usually end up saying something awkward or stupid. I'm also very shy because of this reason.\n\nHowever with people I'm comfortable with I'm easily confident, funny (I hope) and easy going. I speak smoothly and have no problems communicating.\n\nHow can I copy this behaviour with people I don't know very well? I turn so red while speaking, and the stuttering is awful, and it's quite embarrassing. Is there any mindset or thoughts you can think of to make things easier?" ]	[ "I would memorise a couple of stock phrases to use in these situations, maybe practice using them in the mirror. Just kind of \"hi, how are you\", \"how's your day going\" kind of stuff. Memorise some responses as well, so you're not caught off guard when someone asks what you do for a job or how your weekend was. I have my own little script I use in social situations, it's a real life saver. I'm not sure what you can do about stuttering I'm afraid, as I've never suffered from it.", "just remember that you're speaking to another brain contained inside a meat bag. its likely they feel exactly the same way you do, but you dont know them well enough to know what they're like when they're nervous. its perfectly normal to be awkward when meeting someone new, so if someone is going to judge you for it rather than understand it or appreciate a genuine human emotion, then they arent worth impressing imo. hopefully these thoughts will give your anxiety less energy.", "If you find conversation difficult, ask more questions. This requires the person you’re talking to to handle the bulk of the conversation and allows you to get to know them/feel more comfortable. \n\nAlso, if you’re struggling, you can always say “sorry, I struggle with small talk”. People will appreciate the honesty, will most likely completely understand, and if they’re good conversationalists themselves, will guide the flow to allow you to interject when you feel ready. \n\nMost people are terrible at small talk, but they’re usually pretty good at talking about themselves and their interests- so think of initial conversations as more of a way to interview new people and hopefully knowing more about them will put you more at ease and calm some of that nervous energy.", "When i realise im awkward with someone i must, would or want to spend more time with, i just tell him that i am pretty awkward with people i dont know. Happened yesterday with new coworker.", "I work in customer service, I have had similar proble.s, so I have a certain script and some practiced responses for stuff that I just repeat to every customer.\n\"Good (morning, afternoon,evening) do you need help finding anything today?\" If no \"okay just let us know if you have any questions\" \nI probably say that three dozen times a day easy each. If I mess up I just smile and say\n\"I can't talk today I must need another coffee\" and keep it moving." ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)", "How can I get used to/force myself to stop lying? I am a liar. I accept that. I have for a long time now. But no more. Lying has always come so easily to me. It's the little lies.. the everyday 'emergency' lie. And some big lies.. \nI don't want any of it anymore. I have come to a point in my life, where I feel like my constant lying about things, is affecting me more negative then positive. It's the guilt that caught up. It's that long term negative damage.. \nHas anybody ever been a liar growing up, but when facing adulthood had trouble to stop? I need some help.. \n(Male, 20)" ]	[ "First, ANYTHING can be learned. When I tried to change my behavior, I became aware of what it was I was doing and why I should stop.\n\nIn your case, just try to stop and think before it comes out. Or if you e already said something, tell them it was a lie and try to tell the truth.\n\nJust remember why you're doing it and remember to breathe! You can do it!", "When i lie about something trivial, i call myself out. \"That never happened, not sure why i felt the need to lie about it\" i only do this with my friends and family and it works, i find myself lying less about stuff. I have also embraced truth and honesty and i have found that things are way better when i am brutally honest. I typically only tell white lies when it means sparing someones feelings. I figured out that i was lying to save face, out of ego and pride or to control the outcome of things. Now that i am older and more comfortable in my skin and with who i am i no longer need to lie about things or to try and impress people. The fact that you are aware of it and that it bothers you is a good thing. ", "The less you do, the better you'll feel. It'll get easier, I promise. Good luck. It's really fucking important.", "Simple negative reinforcement works well for this. Every time you lie, snap a rubber band on you wrist, or flick you ear lobe or similar. Every. Single. Time. \n\nIf you can do it at that moment (job interview or something), save it and do it even bigger knee you are out from under scrutiny. \n\nThis very quickly retrains you. ", "Lying is a survival mechanism. Often times people want to waste your time with minuscule things, lying gets you out of this. You don't have to feel guilty for making time for yourself by way of lying because people lie to you for the very same reasons and often times you won't notice the difference between people lying or people have a real valid reason to bail on you.", "if you have to, put a rubber band around your wrist and snap yourself hard every time you are about to say some thing false. And then stay silent and hope to not become a masochist by the time the therapy works. I am (imo) an honest person and I STILL fuck it up, very occasionally. You know you are succeeding when the rarity of the dishonesty makes the self-loathing SO much more powerful when it happens.", "You need to be constantly vigilant about it. Repetition is the only way to establish a new habit. It's going to feel like a hassle for a long time, but you CAN change yourself.", "You mentioned guilt so I'd suggest confiding in someone who you're close enough to that they will understand, forgive and encourage you.\n", "When you lie, believe this, the other person probably knows you are lying and they are lying when they play like they believe you. ", "This is a little late, but hopefully it helps.\n\nBefore lying, picture the result of getting caught in that lie. The consequences of telling the truth are far less severe than getting caught lying about it. You can use this as a way to stop lying about even dumb little things that don't really matter, and you'll feel better for it.\n\nAlso, I think may find that you'll do less dumb little things that you would be tempted to lie about. I must say, it's very liberating to not have the guilt of lying.", "Think about where you want your mindset to be, and drive your brain there instead of following the old patterns.\n\nPutting yourself in new situations can help to break the cycle. Take different routes home, see about moving if you can. Totally change up your routine.\n\nAdd in a bit of physiology to the mix. Train the brain to avoid pain. Every time you catch yourself slipping into old habits, pinch yourself. ", "There are many great suggestions in the comments here. If you have problems changing this in your life I would encourage you to seek therapy for it, or talk to your doctor about it. My father is a compulsive liar, and over the years it has heavily damaged his relationships. The first step is acknowledging that there's a problem, which you have done, so godspeed on the remainder of your quest.", "Search for reasons to tell the truth. Chances are if you look around there's plenty of opportunities where telling the truth benefits you. If you see someone leave their phone behind, tell them where it is. If you see someone's kid wandering off while they're distracted, tell them. If you see someone sitting somewhere on their laptop/phone tell them if you've seen an available outlet.", "Remind yourself how most people dont really believe your lies and most likely mock you behind your back.\nWhile you feel youre impressing them or getting out of tricky situations, youre actually losing everyones respect.", "Remember President Lincoln's words, that \"No man has a good enough memory to be a successful liar.\" Adopt a mindset that you will ALWAYS get caught, and the situation will be worse being caught in a lie than being upfront with the truth in the first place.\n\n", "Maybe tell your mates. Ask them to call you out on your bullshit. Knowing that you can't get away with it might help you to cut it out ", "I used to lie a lot as a kid, after a while I just stopped seeing the point in it. If I got found out it would just piss people off and/or alienate them. \n \nI just started actively monitoring myself, so that I didn't lie out of habit. Eventually telling the truth by habit. Took some time and had some slips, but eventually I got there.", "I say this in hopes it my help you. My brother who is 60 has been an extravagant liar all my life and has been both the cause of me lying and the reason I very rarely do so anymore. My whole family has talked about his lying and no one believes anything he says without independent verification. However, I am the only one to call him out on it. At least I believe I am the only one in my family to do so. I honestly think that he thinks everyone believes him. The way people talk and think about him has had a large impact on me and I get embarrassed for him when he lies to me. (I don't always call him out on it)", "I lie all the time; it's easy for me and I'm too scared to say what I really think to people. Fuck that. I just want an easy ride, I don't want to confront anyone or have them get all upset at me. I'll stop lying once I don't have anything to lie about.", "I could advise you to seek professional help but you have chosen to come to reddit with your problem. It sure is cheaper, I guess.\n\nSeriously, if you can afford it, see a psychologist. \nIf you can't, I think it would be helpful if you told us all why you lie and give some examples.\n\nSo, why do you lie?", "Great advice in here, but one more thought to add - get comfortable with the phase \"im not sure\", and frankly with a bit of silence! Some people lie when faced with a question they dont know the answer to, or to fill uncomfortable breaks in conversation. What you will find is that people who listen more than they talk and admit when they dont know something are thought highly of, and lying will no longer be a necessary mechanism of conversation for you.\n\nGood idea posting and good luck!", "For me it really helped when I grew out of trying to please or impress others to make myself appear better, worthy, admirable, etc.. Pleasing/impressing people has a very short shelf life and you will find is nearly useless for you. Earning respect on the other hand is valuable.", "As an outstanding liar I can tell you people do notice or find out some of the time you lie. Most people don't really like conflict so they aren't going to mention it, but they'll dislike you for it, and probably talk about it behind your back.\n\nI mostly lied to avoid taking responsibility for my mistakes. Essentially anytime you do something shitty let people know right away and get working on fixing it.", "I was a Liar as well growing up and probably until my early 20's (30 now). My reason was it was a defensive mechanism from growing up in an abusive (physically and mentally) household(s). Telling the truth was just as, if not more, likely to get me a good solid ass-whooping from either parent. So i lied, because i couldn't change the truth to stop them from getting mad, i learned what would and what wouldn't and i told them that. The problem was this continued as i grew older and left home, i started dating a girl when i was 16, and we are now married, but the beginning of our adult relationship was very difficult. She had some personailty issues which made lying a better option then telling the truth (crazy jealousy issues, some bi-polar tendencies, yada yada, she's good now though). Occasionally i would get caught in these lies and those little fights i was avoiding turned into break ups, and eventual getting back together, then divorce papers and counseling, and while she had a lot of faults i kept pointing the finger at her saying \"If you weren't crazy i wouldn't have to lie\" but i didn't stop to look at myself... I was lying to defend against altercations, this was a continuation of my past.\n\nI eventually just decided that I can't expect her to fix herself if im not fixing myself. I just decided, no matter what the cost, i will tell the truth from that day forward (with in reason, i will still lie to save a life or something like that).\n\nTL;DR - Just stop... there are no tricks, you have to find something worth stopping for, mine was my wife. ", "Stop being a coward. Speak the truth because it is true, whether or not it's what people want to hear. People will react to you very differently and your friends might change, but then your new friends will like you, not the lie.", "Go to VMI. They have the strictest honor code in the nation, and dismiss you for the slightest breach of honor. You'd be surprised how easy it is to stop lying when you're spending $48,000 a year and can get kicked out for saying you shined your shoes when you didn't or that you were on campus when you weren't hahaha" ]	[ 20, 8, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with a lazy coworker whose laziness and mistakes reflect on you? I have a coworker with whom I share certain tasks. There is one task that we do alternatingly every month which can take from several hours to several days depending on the workload each month. My coworker usually does it at the last minute under stress while I do it over the course of a week and have everything ready at the deadline. If the coworker screws up and hasn't finished the task on time, things can became annoying and laborious for others. These others then come to me to complain and I cannot tell them \"ask my coworker, it was her task this month\", because it would reflect even worse on the company.\nI know she does not like this task (neither do I) and is generally unmotivated at work which should not be my problem. However, how do I deal with a situation where her negligence comes back to haunt me, not her?", "How to deal with a lazy coworker whose laziness and mistakes reflect on you? I have a coworker with whom I share certain tasks. There is one task that we do alternatingly every month which can take from several hours to several days depending on the workload each month. My coworker usually does it at the last minute under stress while I do it over the course of a week and have everything ready at the deadline. If the coworker screws up and hasn't finished the task on time, things can became annoying and laborious for others. These others then come to me to complain and I cannot tell them \"ask my coworker, it was her task this month\", because it would reflect even worse on the company.\nI know she does not like this task (neither do I) and is generally unmotivated at work which should not be my problem. However, how do I deal with a situation where her negligence comes back to haunt me, not her?", "How to deal with a lazy coworker whose laziness and mistakes reflect on you? I have a coworker with whom I share certain tasks. There is one task that we do alternatingly every month which can take from several hours to several days depending on the workload each month. My coworker usually does it at the last minute under stress while I do it over the course of a week and have everything ready at the deadline. If the coworker screws up and hasn't finished the task on time, things can became annoying and laborious for others. These others then come to me to complain and I cannot tell them \"ask my coworker, it was her task this month\", because it would reflect even worse on the company.\nI know she does not like this task (neither do I) and is generally unmotivated at work which should not be my problem. However, how do I deal with a situation where her negligence comes back to haunt me, not her?", "How to deal with a lazy coworker whose laziness and mistakes reflect on you? I have a coworker with whom I share certain tasks. There is one task that we do alternatingly every month which can take from several hours to several days depending on the workload each month. My coworker usually does it at the last minute under stress while I do it over the course of a week and have everything ready at the deadline. If the coworker screws up and hasn't finished the task on time, things can became annoying and laborious for others. These others then come to me to complain and I cannot tell them \"ask my coworker, it was her task this month\", because it would reflect even worse on the company.\nI know she does not like this task (neither do I) and is generally unmotivated at work which should not be my problem. However, how do I deal with a situation where her negligence comes back to haunt me, not her?" ]	[ "Someone please answer this I too have a similer co worker.It is driving me nuts and I have found myself becoming passive aggressive towards her...I find this making me feel bad as this is not the sort of person I want to be, to make it worse my boss just brushes off my complaints.I just wish she would find another job and f#%& off.", "The trick is staying in constant communication with your superior. You can actually work situations like this to your advantage. First, do all you can to resolve the situation with the lazy worker by taking a firmer, managerial attitude toward them. Second is talking to your boss about the employee in a way that isn't complaining, more like \"Well I'm having difficulties getting so and so to perform at the level this company expects\". It won't be long until your having regular talks with your boss about the workers, which sets you on the path for management as well as letting your boss know you are not apart of the problem. ", "Well, good case for me.\n\nI can't really reject favors, so I got to the point where I am cleaning all of the shits in the office.\n\nMy boss found out. The person who constantly handed me the workload got yelled at in front of everyone for passing her job to me. \n\nWIN", "I had this exact situation at my job. I am equal with two other guys, but they seem to slack off quite often while I bust my ass all day. This went unnoticed until I started working on fixing it. Here's how I did it...\n\nI started by making small comments to my manager about what I was doing. Don't mention what the other person isn't doing, focus on what you are accomplishing.\nAfter your manager starts to talk with you about those things, few weeks is what it took me, I started to talk more about work related things that weren't necessarily related to the problem. Small talk but work related.\nThen I started complaining about the others in conversation. Not full on complaining, but just mentioning their downfalls. \n\nNow my manager sees what I had been working with and is trying to fix the issue." ]	[ 14, 12, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks.", "Dealing with needle pain. I'm getting surgery done on my toe tomorrow and was wondering if there's any useful things to help deal with the pain from injections? Thanks." ]	[ "Just tell the physician and they can apply topical lidocaine cream, works wonders.\n\nAlso, if you don't look you won't even feel it after they apply the cream. I work in IT, but in a hospital they use it all the time.\n\nGood luck with your toe!\n", "For the least painful needle injection I've experienced, before inserting the needle into my right shoulder the technician told me to wiggle the toes on my left foot.\n\nSince then I find that focusing on some other specific body part is a great way to distract from needle pain.", "Look away from the injection, dont tense up, go through a list of things eg animals, elements, fruits etc, DONT count/dont have the nurse count", "In some toe surgeries, the needles have to go in between toes (very sensitive area) most likely, your doc will spray some liquid nitrogen in the space before the needles. You shouldn't feel a thing but cold. \n", "I used to pinch my hip. It's easy to do because your hand it right there and the pinch should be hard enough that you barely feel the needle", "I have a severe, crippling, horrifying fear of needles.\n\nAsk for the 'pink medicine', I believe it's some really high concentration of liquified valium or something ('something to calm you down'). They gave it to me before my varicocelectomy, and I was watching them put the IV into my hand. The sensation is almost like you're dreaming.", "I count. Knowing that pain has a start and an ending helps me get through it. It's the unknown that scares me. So I know when I get to 5 etc it will be over. I used to be frightened of needles. Now I'm tatted up. Have had a needle in my lung to drain fluid and get blood drawn 4 times a year. ", "Before being diagnosed as a Type 1 Diabetic I had a phobia of needles. They scared the crap out of me. Now for the past 6 years I've had to deal with more than one everyday. In the beginning it was tough, but I would turn it into mind over matter. \"I'm hungry, but I can't eat until I take this shot.\" For you: \"My toe hurts like hell and it won't get better until I take this shot.\" Or whatever you care to tell yourself. I also tend to pinch something to take my mind away, and don't tend to watch others inject me. It's really tough when you have to do it yourself, be thankful you don't! It's just a needle, not a t-rex.. Good luck with your toe!", "when i was going through reception they do blood work and give you your shots and i just looked directly at the needle and think can i do it my self?", "One of the more painful moments of my life was getting a local anesthetic injection in my toe before having part of my toe nail removed. It was absolutely nothing like getting a flu shot - the pain from the skin getting stretched by the lidocain was incredibly intense.\r\n\r\nMaybe a surface numbing application would help, but not likely. Good luck!" ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "What are natural ways to find/make new friends? How does someone find healthy friendships in a natural way?\n\nThis question leans more towards platonic friendships but I guess romantic ones are appropriate too.", "What are natural ways to find/make new friends? How does someone find healthy friendships in a natural way?\n\nThis question leans more towards platonic friendships but I guess romantic ones are appropriate too.", "What are natural ways to find/make new friends? How does someone find healthy friendships in a natural way?\n\nThis question leans more towards platonic friendships but I guess romantic ones are appropriate too.", "What are natural ways to find/make new friends? How does someone find healthy friendships in a natural way?\n\nThis question leans more towards platonic friendships but I guess romantic ones are appropriate too.", "What are natural ways to find/make new friends? How does someone find healthy friendships in a natural way?\n\nThis question leans more towards platonic friendships but I guess romantic ones are appropriate too." ]	[ "A really easy way is to do more in a group setting, then chat with the people there. You'll have something in common to talk about, and you'll get to meet a bunch of new people. \n\nExamples include: school, gym, community hangouts, volunteering, etc.", "Join a sports and social club, or any club related to a specific activity you like or want to try. Then start being fun, and friendly to people. \n\nIt’s probably worth mentioning that I mean a real life, face to face meet up and do things kind of club, not an online only club/group/forum. \n\nOnline groups will distract you for a bit maybe, but only until they remind you that you’re still alone in life, trying to experience the magic of socializing with other people, but through your computer, which through no fault of your own, has very likely prevented you from having a clue what social skills are to begin with. This is due to the lack of more full spectrum social interactions that include things like body language, vocalizing your thoughts and emotions, having to be responsible for what you say, and just more fully experiencing the depth of what makes people so special and unique. \n\nTalking to people through devices strips people of all their unique magic qualities from where you’re sitting, and that trains your brain to see everyone as equally boring and shitty, instead of seeing them for having the endless amount of potential enjoyment we can all provide each other through real social interactions.", "I totally recommend being nice to people of a game you like. If that's a single player game, find communities about it (on Facebook, Reddit, etc.)!", "Having moved a few times recently for work this can be difficult. The best thing I have found to do is to have a hobby that puts you around other people with similar interests. For example, for me this is playing Magic the Gathering at weekly events. Often see some new folks, get to know people through a structured mutual hobby. This can lead to making friends and can apply to anything from sports (pickup/rec leagues) to more obscure hobbies.", "Assuming you have a place to meet new people just talk with them, say hello, whatever. Ask them to tell your about themselves because people are comfortable talking about themselves. Be nice to them and they will see you as a cool persont o be around." ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do I resign from a professional job? Do I email HR first or give it to my supervisor then HR? What is a good format and etc? \n\n\\Leaving current job most likely at the end of the month or beginning of January to go back to school.", "How do I resign from a professional job? Do I email HR first or give it to my supervisor then HR? What is a good format and etc? \n\n\\Leaving current job most likely at the end of the month or beginning of January to go back to school.", "How do I resign from a professional job? Do I email HR first or give it to my supervisor then HR? What is a good format and etc? \n\n\\Leaving current job most likely at the end of the month or beginning of January to go back to school.", "How do I resign from a professional job? Do I email HR first or give it to my supervisor then HR? What is a good format and etc? \n\n\\Leaving current job most likely at the end of the month or beginning of January to go back to school.", "How do I resign from a professional job? Do I email HR first or give it to my supervisor then HR? What is a good format and etc? \n\n\\*Leaving current job most likely at the end of the month or beginning of January to go back to school." ]	[ "Dear <supervisor>,\n\nPlease accept this email/letter as formal notice that I am resigning my position of <position> effective <date> in order to return to school and continue my professional education.\n\nI have appreciated by time with <company>, and I wish you nothing but success in the future.\n\nSincerely,\n\n<Name>", "I wouldn’t email. I would deliver a written paper letter to your supervisor thanking the company and your supervisor for the opportunity/experience/training or something like that so they feel appreciated, and know you realize how much you’ve gotten from the company, (even if they’ve been flaming assholes, screwing you over at every turn...) then tender your resignation, effective on (date) \n\nYou can also deliver a paper copy to HR for your files.", "Speak to your supervisor, \"I'm submitting my two week notice today,\" then draft an email to him and HR. \n\n>I'm submitting my resignation effective $Date to focus on my education. Thank you for the opportunities at $Company.", "I think you give your supervisor the letter, but if you did email, you would cc HR.\n\nI’m only in college and this is my first corporate America job so idk much but that’s what my colleagues have done.", "Would they give you notice if they let you go? I still don't understand why the employee has to be loyal yet the company can walk you out any second." ]	[ 9, 5, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things.", "What are some tips for people taking care of the family member with dementia? After the lock down my grandmother's mental health regressed and I can see that she cannot remember some things that happened recently. I want to spend time and take care of her best I can but It's my first time having family member with dementia and sometimes I do not know how to act. I don't want to make her uncomfortable and rub it in her face that she cannot remember things." ]	[ "Just go with the flow. If she repeats thing act like you're just hearing them. If she forgets just tell her again. Never say things like \" oh you forgot\" or \"don't you remember\"? If she's content and safe then you are doing an amazing job. Spend this time being joyful together.", "The best advice I've ever been given was by a hospice nurse when I was taking care of my mother in her last weeks. \"The caregiver has to take care of themselves, or the one receiving care will suffer.\" \n\n\nYou are on a long road...take care.", "Never, ever shame them for the mistakes they make or over-correct them. No \"no, mom, my name is Billy, not Deborah. You know this\" kinda shit. Others have said it here, but just roll with it. Shaming them may increase the pace at which they decline. \n\nSorry this is happening, it's really difficult, but cherish the time you have left with her.", "Just continue the conversation like they didn't slip up and notify their health professional.\n\nYou can cause undue stress and trauma by making people think they've lost their minds. If they're in danger, sure, but otherwise just go with it while they're semi-lucid\n\n\nThings like a song they loved, a photograph, pictures of times throughout their life, major news items (not violent stuff).....\n\nAll of these can bring them back for a time.", "Gentle reminders and reassurance, the hardest part of taking care of my grandmother through her decline was the awkwardness when she didn't remember something. The frustration and confusion caused her a lot of distress and for a while she even became physically combative. Establish a daily routine, let her do the parts of the routine that she can do and be by her side to lend a hand when she can't. There will be good days where she's more independent and not so good ones, but if you make being available and close the norm, she will more readily come to you even if she doesn't remember your name or connection to her. Take selfies and photos of her smiling with people she can trust and put them somewhere like the refrigerator where she can get close enough to see them well. Keep her involved and aware of situations especially when the daily routine changes and expect things like outings and social events to possibly tire her out relatively quicker. Make conversing with her throughout the day a regular thing because sometimes it'll be your biggest insight to whether or not she's having a good day, her mood, her concerns and pains she may not express otherwise. Be open to the possibility of her needing medicines like mood stabilizers or antidepressants or even a sleeping pill. There's no perfect way to do this, just remember that someone you love needs you and that all you have to do is your genuine best to act in her best interests. Don't be afraid to ask her doctors, her insurance providers, and any resources to any services she uses any questions you think you might have. It seems like a lot, and sometimes it will be, but 99% of it will become second nature in no time. \n\nMy grandmother and I had a great relationship up until my early twenties and then we didn't. When her decline began to become noticeable, I stepped up to help thinking that it was gonna be a hellish experience with a mean old lady who hated me, but she's family so it's what I gotta do. While I wish we never suffered the rift in our relationship that we did, I'm glad I was able to be there for her. When she forgot who I was, we got the opportunity to re-meet each other, and we became best friends all over again. When she passed a couple of months ago, there was the most complex sense of grief that I have ever felt, but underlining all of it was the relief that during this horrible time in her life, she was loved and cared for with a quality that could never be questioned.\n\nI wish you the very best of luck and applaud you for undertaking this endeavor.", "Most importantly — \nCheck in with yourself every few days, and have another family member to fall back on. It’s going to be very hard, but your presence will honestly make the difference between a lonely journey and a joyful journey. \n\nNow and the first few stages: \n- Make a routine of visiting her (every Sunday morning, example) so she has something to ground her with the same intervals\n- Ask her to tell you stories from her times growing up, stories that bring about emotion — take videos of her reciting these, that will help in later stages of dementia\n- Ask her to teach you something like a skill from her time growing up that women aren’t as often taught today (my grandma taught me how to sew) \n- Talk with her about moments with her during your childhood \n\nThe later stages of dementia: \n- Put together a photo album and go through it with her, leave it by her bedside\n- Get her a pair of headphones and play her favorite songs or songs from her time growing up \n- If you can, choose home care over any institutional care — especially not a hospital — a hospital and nursing home loaded my grandfather with drugs, and cut his life short by half a year. Always always get a second opinion before allowing nurses to put her on sedatives; honestly avoid this as much as possible, because it’s a method they turn to due to over staffing and it’s horrible to watch.\n- Make a big poster board or display that has pictures of you and all her family members and friends \n- Make sure every day she has at least someone visiting her\n- Play videos for her of your former interviews of her\n- Prep yourself with info on a mediator or a pro bono elder rights lawyer", "Whatever reality they are living at the moment go with it. It can be disorienting to try to reorient someone in advanced stages of dementia. If they think you’re their mom or dad? Go with it. Give them a hug and tell them you love them.", "firstly its hard, harder than you think it will be on you but you can help most by always being patient, you'll see plenty of different moods you didn't know your loved one had but the trick is not to emotionally react as often as it can be anger that is outpoured.\n\nsecondly its important you get help for yourself as you venture through this, its not to be underestimated. help in terms of rest and support.", "These comments are wonderful. My father has Alzheimer's and the best advice I ever got was to go along with whatever they're saying. Never correct. Never argue. Just say things like oh really? Tell me about that. I started doing that a few months ago and he's so much calmer when we get together because no one's reminding him constantly that he can't remember anything. I want him to enjoy his last years in peace So if he wants to tell me that he works at the care home and all the nurses are his coworkers that's just fine with me.", "Make sure you touch your grandmother. A hello hug/kiss may be the only personal contact she receives. My very elderly mother loves being kissed good night!", "If dementia person is getting upset or agitated try to divert their attention to something else. \n\n\n\nIf they misremember something dont try to correct them since it wont work anyhow.", "Put wind chimes above the doors and notify neighbors of your situation. Activate the “find my phone” ap on their phone and get them in the habit of wearing a personalized bracelet. They make some that aren’t totally horrible looking now and they can be had fairly cheap.", "Just be kind.\nThere will be times when they are unkind to you because that's part of the illness.\nEnjoy the time you have.\nMusic can really help as well. \nSing songs and play music and try to be joyful.\n Find some physical things that keep them \"grounded\" (Picture, memento, special blanket, particular clothing)\n\nGood luck, internet stranger. I'm thinking good thoughts for you and yours.", "She doesn’t remember she doesn’t remember. Go with the flow. I know it’s hard to not get irritated, but that solves nothing. Don’t shame her, it just makes it more stressful for her. Play along, be joyful, make her smile.", "I’d like to add the importance of music in their lives. Particularly music they might remember from their youth.", "We have a calendar on the wall near where she sits for meals and mark a blue highlighter line on the top of the day every morning, so she can glance at the calendar and know what day it is. Also go through the entire calendar and add little stickers with notes about birthdays and other important days, so she can see these are coming. \nBought a lot of birthday and general cards (you can get these at cheap places, like dollar store) and help her remember to send cards. This makes her feel that she is in charge of some things. \nAvoid correcting, just gently accept what is being said if not important. If your family member takes medications, try to have someone else sort it, and someone present when it is taken. At some point, this will not be easy for the person to manage on their own.", "The most important part is knowing when you can’t keep them safe anymore. Leaving the stove on, escaping the house, etc. \n\nRespite care is also important for the caregiver. Burnout is high and will happen.\n\nYou will here so many things you don’t want to know. And repeat things. Then personality changes too. Sometimes they can turn mean. \ngood luck", "The [Alzheimer's association](https://www.alz.org/) has a lot of great resources to add to the great ones folks have shared here.", "Sing with her. I worked in dementia care for a while, and music is one of the things that stays with people. Christmas carols, hymns and childrens songs seem to last the longest.", "One thing is to have plenty of natural light if possible- it helps orient the person to time of day. Another thing is exercise and outdoor activity. Go for walks together if you can, and keep a schedule for them- maybe monday-wednesday-friday are walk days.", "My grandma had dementia really bad when she was 80. We had to put a baby monitor in her room because almost every night she'd get up around 3am and have an episode of some kind.\n\nBasically, she'd squirm and wiggle her way down the hospital bed but as she did that, her night gown would get caught on it. My mom originally had found grandma kind of being strangled to death because of how her gown got caught and she fell/plopped off the edge of the bed (where your feet go).\n\nSo, baby monitor got installed and my mom would get up between 2, 3, 4 in the morning to go stop grandma from wiggling out of the bed since the baby monitor woke my mom up in time.\n\nGrandma kept thinking a newborn baby was in the bed and she was smothering it to death. Turned out, my grandma's very very first born back in the 30s or so was stillborn and it really affected her for life. She ended up having 11 children total after that.\n\nWe deducted that she'd go back to her old memories where big events happened to her life, and that's where she'd go during her episodes. Knowing that was helpful because her replies made more sense and then we could talk her through her mental torment.", "Just roll with it. Don't remind them that they're forgetting something. Just let them repeat the story. Repeat your story if you've for gotten. Try to casually orient them as the years go on. Say things like \"Hi Grandma!\" when you see the person so they remember the relationship. If they're forgetting who you are, they'll cover. Work your own name into a story to help them remember.\n\nRemember, the old grandma is still in their. Sure, she may have trouble remembering if she ate or not, what year it is, that sort of thing. The stories are still there. She'll still want to hear new stories. She might have trouble tracking. Use a lot of names to remind her.\n\nRemember that sundowning is a thing. She'll get a little more confused at night. This varies from person to person. She may seem almost normal in the morning then degrade throughout the day. \n\nKeep her engaged. If she can move around well enough, go for walks. Point out trees and birds. Things that can't possible upset her.\n\nMost important is to treat her like a human. She just wants company and to be treated like an adult. She knows she's losing her memory and she's not happy about it. Don't bring it up unless she asks. Ask her to help you cook or show you how to make a recipe of hers that you like. Or, if she was a painter, ask her about that. If she was a member of the League of Women Voters, ask her about that.\n\nIt can be difficult, but you two can still have fun together. Even when my grandpa forgot who I was we could still work in the garden together and enjoy each-other's company.", "It’s definitely a good idea to tell her doctor about your concerns. Some medical conditions, including vitamin/mineral/protein deficiencies, can cause symptoms like dementia. Some can be reversed if caught in time. Even a fall & hitting their head can cause symptoms. Dehydration, UTI can cause changes. It’s weird the things I’ve learned helping family. A UTI caused dizziness and my mom to fall 4 times in 5 days. A UTI caused hallucinations in a different relative. Thankfully they were already in the hospital. \n\nOh, if it is dementia, do check out Alzheimer groups near you, even if it’s a different type of dementia. I attended a class/seminar for caregivers. Tho I felt like I had the most experiences of the attendees, it was helpful and they had many resources & ideas. There’s probably online videos /seminars at this point! \n\nBless you for wanting to help and for doing so❣️" ]	[ 49, 36, 22, 17, 16, 9, 7, 6, 5, 5, 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Tips for studying for final exams. My finals are coming in about two weeks, I’ve already started revision and we did revision exams in class. What more should I do ?", "Tips for studying for final exams. My finals are coming in about two weeks, I’ve already started revision and we did revision exams in class. What more should I do ?", "Tips for studying for final exams. My finals are coming in about two weeks, I’ve already started revision and we did revision exams in class. What more should I do ?", "Tips for studying for final exams. My finals are coming in about two weeks, I’ve already started revision and we did revision exams in class. What more should I do ?" ]	[ "Go back over your old work. What concepts did you misunderstand? Review that. Read teacher\n feedback: what errors did the teacher point out? Figure out how to do these things correctly. Create questions and answer them. Use problem sets in your textbook. Try to come up with questions that connect ideas from Unit a and Unit b. Outline pretend essays about major ideas in the course. \n\nExplain stuff to someone who has no freaking clue. \n\nSource: am high school teacher. Students don’t know how to study, but I try so hard to teach them..,", "Get good sleep. Recently read about a study where they compared people who crammed late versus people who got good sleep. People with good sleep actually did better.", "Look at old exams. For math/science related subjects, find some practice problems. For other subjects that involve more memorization, Quizlets or handwritten flash cards are helpful. Most important thing is to sleep well the night before and eat a good breakfast the day of. Remember, you’ve been preparing all year for this (hopefully).", "Index cards. Go through your notes and book and write each problem on an individual index card. This works twofold. One, you're rewriting a fact which helps you remember and two, you can keep them with you and go through them when youre tempted to scroll on your phone when you have a few minutes." ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward.", "How do I ask a person why they've been colder towards me? I thought I had developed a friendship with a coworker last year. Whenever I'd go talk to her, she was very friendly and would sometimes talk to me for 30-60 minutes. She would sometimes smile and wave at me when she walked past my office.\n\nThis year she's seemed colder towards me though. When I go talk to her, the conversations aren't as long, and she hasn't seemed all that happy to see me. On quite a few occasions recently when I've talked to her, she has even avoided making eye contact with me. She seems to ignore me when she walks past my office now.\n\nI have no idea what happened. Is there anything I can say or ask her to find out why she doesn't seem to want to be friends anymore? I want to say/ask something that doesn't sound desperate and that won't make the work environment awkward." ]	[ "\"Did I do something to upset you?\"\n\n\"Is everything okay, you've seemed distant lately?\"\n\n\"Yo bitch, what's your deal?\"\n\nTake your pick. Just remember it may not be about you. She could be stressed about something in her personal life.", "are you male?\n\nlets lean far out of the window here: maybe she realized she actually likes you but she has a boyfriend/husband. and just to be sure she thought it'd be better to keep distance from you.", "My most impressive way of asking was \"yo, are we beefing?\"\n\nBut it all depends on how the other person responds to direct confrontation. I've politely asked if I had done anything for the reason behind being treated coldly, and was met with super toxicity. I don't believe there is one magic solution to do this.", "Best thing to do, I feel, is let it go.\n\nDon't chance making things weird at work, it will not go well.\n\nShe is the only one who can determine whether she wants to be friends or not, and it doesn't sound like she's reciprocating the friendship, so it's all good man...just let her be.\n\nGive her time, like even months, then come back around and be like - hey it's been forever. How's it going. And see how she reacts.\n\nIf she looks at you at the office, just give a little smile and nod and keep movin' on.\n\nI think some people don't realize how often others are bothered/talked to/distracted at work, especially at their desks. She might just be trying to stay focused...and none of this is about you in particular necessarily, or something you've done. It might be about her work performance, her personal life, anything you really don't want to get involved in unless SHE brings you into it. And right now, she's not.\n\nJust let it go and try to reconnect later. \n\nIf she remains distant, so be it, be yourself and be happy you are who you are.\n", "If you ask her in a calm, reasonable manner, you won't come off as 'desperate', but but if you do ask, be ready for the possibility you'll hear something you wish you hadn't found out or an evasion that doesn't resolve anything.\n\nLife is complicated. People with GREAT social skills are better at navigating this stuff then most, but even they don't guess right all the time.", "Oh office politics; sounds like someone told her a rumor about you talking about her behind her back! Then again perhaps shes going through personal life stuffs. \n\nI think you could just say something like \"Hey we've been a little distant lately, is everything alright?\"", "This situation feels very similar. \nThe security guard at the front desk has always been friendly and I was up for a chat some days, however he would talk and talk and talk. \nEventually I timed it and I would be stuck there for 20+ minutes with him yapping. \nI tried to be polite and cut the talks shorter. Hint wasn't taken. \nJust smiled and said good morning. Nothing. \nNow I just flash my badge and no eye contact.\n\nHe still tries to talk at me, but It's gotten to the point that even though he is a nice man, he is so god damned needy. \nIt's summer and hot out, I don't want to be stuck sweating my ass off before work. ", "There's probably something going on unrelated to you two. Don't ask her about you and her relationship, instead ask her if everything is okay since you noticed you haven't seemed to be yourself lately. If she feels comfortable enough with you, she will tell you. ", "Is it possible that she enjoyed the conversations at first because you were both exchanging new information but over time she realized how much work time was being used up and found the best way to not gossip away an hour was to just not start a conversation with you? Some people have a hard time saying \"Its been nice catching up, but i have to get back to work\" or the person on the receiving end tries to keep the conversation going after something like that has been said.", "Even if you could figure out the perfect way to ask, you're probably not going to get an answer that is (a) true, or (b) satisfying to you. \n\nThis is how relationships are. Sometimes people change how they feel about you or behave toward you for unknown or arbitrary reasons. Usually, you can't do anything about it. Just take it as a life lesson. Sometimes this will happen to you (and sometimes you'll do it to other people). It happens to everyone.\n\nThe best thing is to cultivate lots of relationships so that each one is less significant to you. Be cool, be relaxed, pretend that you didn't notice, tell yourself it's no big deal. And don't take it personally (that's probably the hardest one). ", "\"Did I do something to upset you? If so, I want to apologize. I just feel like maybe you're unhappy with me lately.\"" ]	[ 17, 5, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to wash out fizzy drink bottles so there's no residue flavor left in the water you fill it up with Would be much appreciated, especially those fucking Lucozade bottles...", "How to wash out fizzy drink bottles so there's no residue flavor left in the water you fill it up with Would be much appreciated, especially those fucking Lucozade bottles...", "How to wash out fizzy drink bottles so there's no residue flavor left in the water you fill it up with Would be much appreciated, especially those fucking Lucozade bottles...", "How to wash out fizzy drink bottles so there's no residue flavor left in the water you fill it up with Would be much appreciated, especially those fucking Lucozade bottles...", "How to wash out fizzy drink bottles so there's no residue flavor left in the water you fill it up with Would be much appreciated, especially those fucking Lucozade bottles..." ]	[ "Buy a real water bottle. The disposable ones are not meant to be re-used and can start to leech dangerous chemicals.", "While I agree that disposable plastic bottles shouldn't be reused too often, if you are looking to clean bottles thoroughly, try a product called \"sparkle bright\". It is an inexpensive food safe bleach that you can find at any home brew store. We use it to safely sterilize old glass bottle before making homemade booze or soda, and sometimes those bottles are filthy! ", "Put some water and baking soda in the bottle and let it soak for a while. That's how we used to get the musty flavor out of canteens that had set too long closed.", "Why is baking soda and lemon juice always mentioned in these kind of LPTs? You just have that at home and use it for stuff because you know it's safe.\n\nJust wash the bottle again and again until you're satisfied. Letting it sit full of water between washings can help too. You're not removing poison here.", "What I usually do for any drink bottles that I have, is do heavy rinsing with hot water, then I do the same thing again with cold water, then dry it out and you are good to go." ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?", "Home Security Systems - what's worth it and what's not? Earlier today my next door neighbor was robbed while she was out. I was home for most of the day, and don't recall hearing anything suspicious - her dogs were barking for a little bit...but honestly she leaves them home all the time and they usually bark all day anyway. Regardless, I'm feeling a little shaken. It must have happened during the day - if it wasn't when I was at home (we were out for maybe an hour tops) then there were definitely people outside on their stoops when it happened.\n\nI'm moving in two weeks (not because of this incident) because my SO and I have finally bought a house in the city (only a few blocks from where we live now)! However, this incident is making me really concerned about our future house. There's definitely parts of home security that I think are and aren't worth it, and I'd love some advice from anyone who has (or doesn't have for good reason) a home security system, specifically in urban areas. What parts are most important to you about it? Glass break sensors? Timed lights? The monthly payments for customer service and monitoring?" ]	[ "Ok. I used to install those bloody things. \n\nThe most vital function of a security system is to make a potential theif think twice about robbing your house and decide to go somewhere else. That means that the visible parts are the most critical. Yard signs. Window stickers. A visible keypad that has a red LED when you're away or sleeping and some visible sensors. \n\nDone. Dusted. Move on. ", "It's more about stopping the criminal targeting you than it is being able to react to something that's already happened.\n\nAlarm companies take time to acknowledge an activation and call the cops, who in turn then take a few minutes to arrive.\n\nThe average house burglary is done in something like 2 minutes and they're on their toes. After they're gone you're without your stuff and there's a 3% chance of ever finding them again.\n\nInvest in making your place unattractive to would-be thieves... Gravel driveways (don't know how popular they are in the US?) put them off because of the noise; motion sensitive lights are a good deterrent too, as are alarms on the side of the house.\n\nThe key is having enough to make yourself look unattractive to them, but not lock the place down like a prison because that makes them think you'd be a big score for them.\n\nBe happy you're in the states too, my home defence can't be measured in caliber in the UK.", "Some home insurance policies have it an alarm or some sort of alerting system as part of the requirement to be able to claim insurance if robbed and no no one is at home, or similar", "I can connect to my system through my cell and ensure what status is set and when the last time it was disarmed etc. Peace of mind is a nice thing to have in regard to any part of owning a home!\n\nI have signs up and motion sensors inside but if a thief wants something you have, they are probably going to get it, in my situation I will know when its happening and hope they run terrified. I hate to sound overcautious but I am also buying cameras, they are inexpensive enough to be considered \"cheap insurance\".", "I'd get good locks like from this site: https://securitysnobs.com/‎\n(you don't have to get the top of the line just somthing better than those shit generic locks at your hardware store. Also make sure your windows are secure, so either get an alarm for them or put security film on your windows(http://solutions.3m.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/Window_Film/Solutions/Markets-Products/Residential/Safety-Security_Window_Films/).\n\n\nFor more information on security I would recommend looking up DEF CON videos regarding whatever you're concerned about.", "I think signage would be more than enough, but there are contract-free wireless self-install systems out there that you could buy and easily take with you. SimpliSafe comes to mind.", "Look at protection to stop glass breakage, key lock windows, and make sure your doors and locks are strong and secure. \n\nI'd rather they not get in at all. The alarm is probably just going to call you to tell you that it's time to buy a new TV. \n\nIf you have pets or plan to, make sure you get pet friendly sensors for your alarm. \n\n\n\n", "Yes we should definitely consider the future of our home security. I am thinking that you buy a GSM security camera like this, i bought one for myself of course. And you install it in your house, connect it to your cell phone, the camera is motion detection, it will send you the picture by GSM of what's happening in your house, if there was a robbery, you can immediately call the policy when you're outside. It's effectively helpful!\n\nwww.chinavasion.com/jfxi-SurveillanceSecurity/" ]	[ 21, 21, 5, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)", "Staying cool/sweating less during hot weather Weather's starting to get hotter around my city and I know a hot summer is right around the corner.\n\nI sweat like a madman and I'm just wondering how you guys remain cool or sweat less in hot weather, especially in public outdoor places (like an amusement park for example)" ]	[ "Texan here, dress for practicality. wear colors that dont show sweat, wear clothes that vent well or are thin. Drink something ice cold or ice water whenever you get the chance, lowering your core temp can make the difference between being comfortably dry and marinading in ball soup. I dont suggest the cold water rag, youd lok rediculous and now youre covered and wet with water instead of sweat. Also if you go the undershirt route, get a tightish tshirt, no tanktops because your pits will wet your overshirt rather than undershirt.", "Two words: body powder. \n\nI was a dort-to-door Mormon Missionary for two years in the South, and then sold door-to-door another year after that in Missouri. Liberally apply body powder to your crevices and the places where you get a lot of friction (armpits, crotch, butt crack, thighs, etc.). \n\nI prefer Gold Bond because it has menthol which is also cooling. \n\nAnother tip: carry around one or two handkerchiefs to wipe sweat off your face, neck, and arms.", "One of the best life hacks I ever saw was a guy who filled half a small plastic container with a solution of water and shower gel. He then froze that and put a layer of water on top of the frozen block then froze it again. Keep it in a bag or cooler when you go out and you've got yourself a way to have a shower whilst out and about. Wash yourself with the shower gel side then flip over and rinse off with the pure water side", "I like to swallow whole ice cubes, which melt in my stomach. I let them melt a little bit so they are rounded and then take them like cold pills.\n\nDress in lightweight, loose clothing that has good circulation. REI has some pants made out of some magical fabric such that they are cool as wearing nothing. Also, Texas is the largest kilt market in the U.S. Just sayin. \n\nI like to spray my skin with a misting bottle. That way you have water evaporating on your skin without sweating all over the place and dehydrating.\n\nGet a hat with a brim to keep the sun off your head. It should either have a space for air to circulate above your skull, or be made of a material that permits air flow.\n\nEither go barefoot or wear minimal sandals. You can dump a lot of heat thru your feet. \n\nStay hydrated. Know the signs of heat exhaustion and dehydration.\n\n", "Get a shemagh and dip it in water and wring it out. Place it on your head. If it starts feeling warm, take it off and wave it to let some of the hot water evaporate. It will feel cool again then put it back on your head. This saved my life in the desert.\n\nAlso drink cold beverages. ", "First off drink a fuckton of water preferably cold if you can get it as the body will lose a ton from the sweating you described. This will allow your inside plumbing to do the job of helping to keep your natural cooling mechanics going. It seems to me when I'm sipping on the coldest possible water I can get it helps to cool me from the inside out.", "Dress in white. Pay attention to the type of fabrics you are wearing, maybe avoid cotton. Drink water.", "Switch from cotton to polyester.\n\nCotton holds in the sweat and makes you a wet, sticky, stinky mess.\n\nPolyester (look for sports shirts or golf shirts) does not get soaking wet and allows the sweat to be fully utilized in cooling your body." ]	[ 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 0, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to be active in a conversation when someone in the group is dominating and leaving no breaks for you to start talking ", "How to be active in a conversation when someone in the group is dominating and leaving no breaks for you to start talking " ]	[ "Sometimes you just gotta give them a piece of your mind. I know it feels rude and uncomfortable but it seems there are some individuals who just don't get it if you're trying to let them know in a polite way. And imo it's an incredibly disrespectful behaviour that no one should have to put up with.\n\nI had the exact same situation once in a group of students. This one guy just wouldn't stop talking no matter how much you tried to signal that you had something to say too. It was so obnoxious, at some point I snapped and said \"DUDE, will you just shut up for thirty seconds? You interrupted me five times already, don't you need to breathe or something? It's impossible to have a normal conversation when you're around.\" He seemed so surprised, I don't think he ever stopped to evaluate his behaviour. It was a bit awkward but he was pretty careful not to interrupt after that.", "This gets posted every day and it always has that strong vibe of just wanying to rant about how rude other people are" ]	[ 6, 0 ]	safe
[ "how can you find out what a short link leads to before blindly clicking it? I'm always afraid to click on short links because they could take me anywhere. \n\n", "how can you find out what a short link leads to before blindly clicking it? I'm always afraid to click on short links because they could take me anywhere. \n\n" ]	[ "When I hover my cursor over a link, the long link shows in the lower left corner of my browser. I can at least tell what page it's sending me to.", "Simplest and also definitely the cheapest/easiest, get a new Mac!\n\nPart of the 3D Touch trackpad is a secondary click gesture that opens a very intuitive pop out window for links.\n\nIt also just acts as a dictionary/search window when clicking a non linked word/words." ]	[ 4, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to have the least amount of background processes running, so stuff like Ituneshelper, Adobe __ Helper, Java Stuff, etc. don't run.. ", "How to have the least amount of background processes running, so stuff like Ituneshelper, Adobe __ Helper, Java Stuff, etc. don't run.. " ]	[ "From you start menu, assuming Windows PC here, type msconfig. That'll bring up a menu that allows you to uncheck programs, processes, etc that run at startup. Sometimes, with java, you'll have to go back and uncheck this every time java is updated. ", "Msconfig is nothing compared to Autoruns by Microsoft Sysinternals. Download that program and you'll be able to disable programs that run from the registry." ]	[ 12, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n", "How do I make the most out of a life of bread, as a person living alone? I'm so tired of throwing out bread. I buy a loaf, and it's good for about a week. I do my best to use as much of it as I can, but a person can only eat so many sandwiches. I haven't found a store that sells less than a full loaf at a time. My trash can is starting to become dependent on regular half-loaves of bread. Reddit, help! What can I do to either preserve the bread longer, find a way to buy less than a full loaf, or make the most of it before it starts to develop intricate mold civilizations in miniature?\n\n" ]	[ "Seperate into individual groups like of two or four and freeze it. Seriously. It'll last almosy forever in the freezer. We do this with costco sized packages and it tastes exactly the same. ", "I don't think your question has been fully answered here yet, so I'll toss in some suggestions.\n\nFirst, look up some recipes for making croutons and breadcrumbs (basically the same idea) and some recipes for breadcrumb \"breading\" for fried foods. If you like fried stuff like chicken tenders and the like, it can make things way cheaper in the long run. Croutons are great for salads too, especially with a good recipe, and it makes the leftover bread last a lot longer.\n\nNext, let's not forget that bread can be smashed. Take a couple slices and smash them flat. Use your hand, a pan, whatever, and make them flat. The texture and taste of bread is altered when it's squished. Why the taste, I'm not sure, but it can be awesome.\n\nAs other have suggested, freezing and refrigeration can extend the life of a loaf of bread by about double usually. Both can have some side-effects, but they're generally good to go with if you just cannot finish a loaf in time.\n\nNow for some other uses of bread. Many people tend to toast or make sandwiches out of bread, but a little room-temp butter on a slice of bread is delicious. You could also make a poor-man's garlic bread by spreading butter on and sprinkling some garlic powder over it, then toasting it in a broiler (if you don't have a toaster oven, get one. Your leftover pizza will thank you).\n\nBread can also be torn apart and dropped into soup instead of crackers or dumplings. It's not much different than a dumpling and soaks up soup really well for a pretty nice experience.\n\nDon't forget grilling for sandwiches. Anything you make with meat, cheese, tomatoes, or other \"hot is good\" ingredients can make for a great grilled sandwich. Leftover corned beef? Get some Swiss cheese, brown mustard, onions, and some bread, throw 'em together, grill it up, and you have an imperfect Reuben. Yeah, rye is better, but let's try to make that loaf last!\n\nNow, for croutons, we're talking about an hour in the stove with multiple slices of bread, covered in seasoning. It can come out great, but it may take more time than someone's willing to deal with for some salad topping. Keep in mind though, that these croutons can be thrown in some broth (very little mind you) and cooked into a great standalone stuffing! Pick up some chicken or turkey giblets, and it's like Thanksgiving in September!\n\nThere are other uses for bread besides sandwiches, croutons, and thin sandwiches of course. Why not try the time-tested breakfast of using a cup to pop out the middle of a piece of bread, then cracking an egg and dropping it into the hole? Don't like separate eggs, like me? Crack and scramble beforehand and you have a pretty tasty breakfast that doesn't take very long.\n\nAgain, since you're living alone, you get to do with the bread whatever you want. These are some of my ideas, but there are tons of things you can do with the starchy stuff if you want to take the time and figure out how much you're going to use. Toast gets boring, and nobody wants cold sandwiches every day, so at the very least, grill more. You can even brush on some olive oil instead of butter if you'd like. Get good at grilling sandwiches, and you'll have a whole new experience with your bread. Normal-sliced bread isn't as good as \"texas toast\", but you can still make a manageable grilled hamburger from it. You could even make essentially a patty melt! Just sautee some onions, add them on top of a burger patty with Swiss cheese, put it between two pieces of bread, and grill that bastard!\n\nGood luck with any of this. It can be pretty awesome to experiment with minimal ingredients. Maybe try boiling up some ramen and grill it inside a couple pieces of bread for a carb sandwich? Just screw around with stuff and find things that overpower the bread for things. You can make some delicious things if you try hard enough.", "You can put the bread in the fridge to lengthen the life of it. Also, go with the brand name rather than the store brand. I've found from experience that the cheaper breads seem to go bad quicker.", "I always freeze mine, it takes no time in the toaster to thaw it if I want a sandwich. \nAlso, because it's not quite as 'fresh' once frozen, I buy day old bread, save money, and tend to keep 4 or more types of bread in my freezer.", "I got annoyed by this too. Fridge or freezer are really your only options. I don't know about you but i tend to binge on bread, i'll eat a fair bit for a few days and then nothing for a week. That's why i found baking my own bread (crazy easy using the no-knead recipe) works. Pre-make the dough and when you want bread put a small loaf in the oven and you'll always have fresh bread. A little bit of waste doesn't bother me much since it's so much cheaper this way.", "I always buy Sarah Lee Whole Grain (or 100% Wheat, something like that) and it lasts me two weeks. It is super delicious and makes for great peanut butter toast in the morning (awesome source of protein and carbs and a great way to start your day in general). ", "Cut the loaf into slices and keep the slices in the freezer. Pull out slices as you need them. You can toast or microwave them to thaw them out.\n\nAlso, never keep bread in the fridge. Refrigerating bread makes it go stale much quicker.", ">Here's how to waste less\n\nThis is all I'm seeing suggested, so allow me to offer a different approach.\n\nYou're easily able to afford a waste food source for something. Worms to pigs, I'd wager. So instead of attempting to lower your cost/waste, perhaps view this as an opportunity to increase your revenue/production? :-)" ]	[ 12, 6, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???", "Moving without boxes! I am moving from an apartment to a house and I do not want to pay for moving boxes. No judgement please but I’m a little bit of a germaphobe and I’m honestly not comfortable taking used boxes from people or going into businesses and asking for used boxes.\n\nThe place Im moving into is just 4-5 miles away so my items won’t need any special shipping or handling and will be moving everything by car or truck. Any tips on how I can make it easier without boxes???" ]	[ "Get as many plastic storage boxes as fit in your car. Pack and move a car-load of stuff. Unload. Repeat. \n\nIf you have things in dresser drawers, don’t do anything but remove the drawer and bring it with you. At the new place, reinsert it into the dresser, as is.", "Use a trash bag to move your items hanging up in your closet. Just pull the trash bag over them from the bottom up, then put the drawstrings around the hangers. I think the most I’ve fit in one bag is like 12 hangers worth of hoodies and dresses, but it was a space and time saver. Just hang it up in your new closet and remove the bag. \n\nAlso take into consideration any luggage or backpacks you have that can be used to move clothes or electronics. I have a large rolling luggage bag that I always use to transport my large computer monitors, cords, and electronics.", "Trash bags work for clothes and smaller items. But you’ll look like a hobo moving in trash bags. Dishes and breakable stuff should probably be packed in rigid containers.", "I use IKEA blue bags for moving. I mean, I use those things for everything....do you know how many groceries you can fit in them? They’re great at hardware stores, too.", "plastic storage totes are durable, reusable, and most importantly... Very easy to clean/disinfect! I highly suggest buying a few and moving lighter items Especially clothes in garbage bags! i just moved this week myself and both of these items have made my move germ And worry free :) good luck!!! \n\n ps- from Very recent experience- label and place in an obvious place, everyday use items such as medicines, clothes, and toiletries :)", "Laundry baskets, reusable grocery bags, backpacks, trash cans (if you’re comfortable sanitizing them or using a trash bag as a barrier)\n\nGood luck with it!!", "Get new boxes at Home Depot. You can also get al kinds of bags made of a tarp like material on Amazon. The cheapes would probably be contractor weight black garbage bags. Very strong, can get a lot of stuff in them, new garbage bags are not dirty", "Dude, without boxes it is going to suck. Ass. \nGo to a liquor store. They will literally give you so many super strong boxes (bottles are heavy)." ]	[ 9, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b**? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b? \n\n", "How to tactfully decline baby shower invitations. I am at an age where baby shower invitations are constantly coming. It seems that a simple, polite \"thank you for inviting me, I will not be able to attend\" isn't enough. Almost always, people want to know why. I really just despise baby showers and the ever-present tackiness/disgusting party games/horrible birthing stories/sticky children/etc. How can I communicate this without seeming like a giant b**? \n\n" ]	[ "Just say that you have a previous engagement that cannot be postponed. Which is technically true - your previous engagement is avoiding the baby shower, but you don't have to tell them that. And if they ask you what the previous engagement is, stony silence and a quizzical look always work well for me.", "I would just say you don't owe anyone an explanation. And if they ask, you can feel free to ignore it. Just say you're sorry but you unfortunately can't make it. If someone goes out of their way to ask why, they're being rude and tactless.\n\nI might also suggest lightening up a little bit, hahaha.", "When your girlfriends first tell you they're pregnant tell them they will have such a cute baby because their significant other is so very attractive. Also mention you always had a secret crush on their SO.\n\nAll the invitations will stop.", "First, determine if you are being asked because the hostess really desires your presence and is trying to find a way to work the party around you or not. If the former, being honest that you just don't feel comfortable with the baby shower experience will do since they are acting as if you are a close and treasured friend so you can mirror that back at them.\n\nIf they are trying to guilt you in to attending for some money-grab reason, a simple, \"Trust me, you don't want to know. But you should have tons of fun at the shower and be extra awesome to babymomma for me!\" is usually my go to. Especially if you do the thing where you make \"trust me\" sound like \"ugh\". But you aren't lying because they really don't want to know as the truth would likely insult them. :P\n\nGood luck! (fellow baby shower loather)", "Say you think you may be coming down with something and don't want to risk passing it to the mother of the little one. Not exactly honest but it will do the job. It works since even if you are mostly okay a cold or cough can be much worse for an expecting mother.", "Say you have work/a mandatory staff meeting so you won't be able to attend. \n\nThen send a nice card with a handwritten note saying you're sad you missed the celebration but you're with them in spirit and wish them all the luck in the world as they start this new chapter in life. \n\nBonus if you mention keeping the safety of mom and baby in your prayers.", "You can't say you hate baby showers without sounding assy. So just make up an excuse and be polite about it. ", "Tell them you have an appointment with a doctor at that time, I don't know if it would work in your country but here it's considered rude to ask why someone has to go to a doctor.", "You could say yes, then cancel at the last minute because you have diarrhoea / vomiting and don't want to pass it onto the Mum. " ]	[ 18, 18, 11, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What is something I can always tell myself to keep me focused and on the right track? Some things I've found to work in the short term include: 'focus on yourself' 'be yourself' 'keep your head up' 'act normal' 'just do it'.\n\nI've been wondering about this for a while.\n", "What is something I can always tell myself to keep me focused and on the right track? Some things I've found to work in the short term include: 'focus on yourself' 'be yourself' 'keep your head up' 'act normal' 'just do it'.\n\nI've been wondering about this for a while.\n" ]	[ "What is \"tomorrow me\" going to think about this decision? If I were making this choice yesterday, what does \"today me\" wish I had done?", "\"No one likes rework\". Or, \"this dick ain't gonna suck itself\" dick being a euphemism for whatever crappy job I'm working on. " ]	[ 5, 5 ]	safe
[ "how to get rid of burnt food smell Okay, so I was a little drunk yesterday, and when I came home I put on some noodles on the stove. I fell asleep, the noodles got completely burned (they were on the stove for a couple of hours), and now my whole apartment stinks with this disgusting burned food smell. \n\nI've had my windows opened the whole day, but the smell is still there. Also, it's pretty cold in Denmark, so I can't just leave them open. \n\nI've tried to pour some vinegar in some bowls in the kirchen and living room as I know that can remove the smell of cigarette smoke, but it doesn't cut it. \n\nAny ideas for a method that can get rid of this foul odor? ", "how to get rid of burnt food smell Okay, so I was a little drunk yesterday, and when I came home I put on some noodles on the stove. I fell asleep, the noodles got completely burned (they were on the stove for a couple of hours), and now my whole apartment stinks with this disgusting burned food smell. \n\nI've had my windows opened the whole day, but the smell is still there. Also, it's pretty cold in Denmark, so I can't just leave them open. \n\nI've tried to pour some vinegar in some bowls in the kirchen and living room as I know that can remove the smell of cigarette smoke, but it doesn't cut it. \n\nAny ideas for a method that can get rid of this foul odor? ", "how to get rid of burnt food smell Okay, so I was a little drunk yesterday, and when I came home I put on some noodles on the stove. I fell asleep, the noodles got completely burned (they were on the stove for a couple of hours), and now my whole apartment stinks with this disgusting burned food smell. \n\nI've had my windows opened the whole day, but the smell is still there. Also, it's pretty cold in Denmark, so I can't just leave them open. \n\nI've tried to pour some vinegar in some bowls in the kirchen and living room as I know that can remove the smell of cigarette smoke, but it doesn't cut it. \n\nAny ideas for a method that can get rid of this foul odor? ", "how to get rid of burnt food smell Okay, so I was a little drunk yesterday, and when I came home I put on some noodles on the stove. I fell asleep, the noodles got completely burned (they were on the stove for a couple of hours), and now my whole apartment stinks with this disgusting burned food smell. \n\nI've had my windows opened the whole day, but the smell is still there. Also, it's pretty cold in Denmark, so I can't just leave them open. \n\nI've tried to pour some vinegar in some bowls in the kirchen and living room as I know that can remove the smell of cigarette smoke, but it doesn't cut it. \n\nAny ideas for a method that can get rid of this foul odor? ", "how to get rid of burnt food smell Okay, so I was a little drunk yesterday, and when I came home I put on some noodles on the stove. I fell asleep, the noodles got completely burned (they were on the stove for a couple of hours), and now my whole apartment stinks with this disgusting burned food smell. \n\nI've had my windows opened the whole day, but the smell is still there. Also, it's pretty cold in Denmark, so I can't just leave them open. \n\nI've tried to pour some vinegar in some bowls in the kirchen and living room as I know that can remove the smell of cigarette smoke, but it doesn't cut it. \n\nAny ideas for a method that can get rid of this foul odor? " ]	[ "You will need to wipe down the walls and ceiling with a cleaner like pine oil. Smoke sticks to surfaces. Wash your drapes, vacuum your carpet. Every surface has to be wiped down. I had a a passenger in my car smoke a partial cigarette, before extinguishing it. My car stunk for a week. I finally wiped (wet) everything down twice, and aired it out.", "Burn candles - even if they are unscented. I use plain tea candles if I burn something in the kitchen. ", "This works for when I fry foods; simmer water, cinnamon (sticks preferably), orange rind, and vanilla. Fill the pot to just above the cinnamon sticks and just let it go for a few hours. Add water as necessary. The cinnamon will get a stronger smell the longer you simmer it.", "Dampen a towel and wave it around like you're trying to put a comforter on a bed. That will adsorb all of the smoke still in the air.", "Febreze contains a chemical odor encapsulant. So instead of just covering odor with a stronger one it blocks it from going airborne with a liquid polymer. Lightly fog it on anything porous. In commercial fire damage restoration they use a concentrated version of it. Carpet cleaners inject it into padding to mitigate cat damage. I wish I knew other brands that used the same technology but consumer products are always so annoyingly vague." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Looking to stop picking my face while working/distracted. When I work I usually have a free hand that is not on the mouse and then subconsciously my other hand will slowly and lightly rub around looking for anything not smooth on my face and neck. Once I find one then I start picking or squeezing the area and pretty much just not stop. I realize I am doing after a bit and stop but once my fingers found something they end up back extremely quickly and it is now usually mildly inflamed so is more significant urge to pick. \n\nI will pick out individual hairs if there are no bumps (like acne that probably originated from when I rubbed my fingers on my face the last time) and that normally ends up leading to bumps anyway.\n\nI have tried switching my mouse to the alternate hand but the other hand is almost as good at it anyway.", "Looking to stop picking my face while working/distracted. When I work I usually have a free hand that is not on the mouse and then subconsciously my other hand will slowly and lightly rub around looking for anything not smooth on my face and neck. Once I find one then I start picking or squeezing the area and pretty much just not stop. I realize I am doing after a bit and stop but once my fingers found something they end up back extremely quickly and it is now usually mildly inflamed so is more significant urge to pick. \n\nI will pick out individual hairs if there are no bumps (like acne that probably originated from when I rubbed my fingers on my face the last time) and that normally ends up leading to bumps anyway.\n\nI have tried switching my mouse to the alternate hand but the other hand is almost as good at it anyway." ]	[ "There are devices you can buy, like a bracelet that you ‘train’ to identify the behaviour you want to stop then it gives you a little shock when it recognises you doing it. It realises you’re raising your hand and the motion. Extreme maybe but could be what you’re looking for. [this](https://pavlok.com) is one example but there are others on the market", "I’d go to a doctor. There’s habit changing therapies and there’s drugs. There’s a bunch stuff that they can do to help and it’s not that big of a deal. " ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious.", "How to tactfully avoid answering a question without lying but without telling the truth, either? Especially when telling the truth could have consequences (I'm not talking about legal issues). \nFor example, you complained about a colleague to the HR, which was done in confidential manner, and that colleague then asks you directly if it was you. \nI'm not the best liar and in such situations I'd probably be too obvious." ]	[ "Some questions (especially very direct ones) don't allow for enough wiggle room to mislead with partial truths. Certainly you can evade by changing the subject, asking a lot of questions, babbling nonsense, shutting up, or leaving, but people tend to take those as affirmatives. \n\nThe best I can come up with is \"I know that HR reports are confidential. If I knew who reported, or even if I did it, I couldn't tell you.\" [in other words, pretend that HR's confidentiality applies to you too. And maybe it does]", "Q:\"Did you do X?\"\nA:\"X would cause a lot of trouble\".\n\nYou don't answer the question, but people tend to take it in the negative, especially if you use proper inflection. Sucks when people call you on the tactic, \"You didn't answer the question\" but it's like 1% of the population who notices.", "If you complained about someone and they are going around trying to find out who it is, they sound like a bully. A keen person would take the complaint as a need for adjustment, not a reason for a witch hunt. If asked directly if it was you then say, \"What are you going to do when you actually find the person who complained? Maybe, instead of trying to intimidate someone you have clearly upset, you should reevaluate take this complaint as a wake up call that you may be doing something that people don't like.\" \n\nBe assertive, if you had a valid reason to complain then you did the right thing by notifying HR. Bullies are bullies because they get away with intimidation, but the truth is they are as scared as a cat in a corner. Don't be afraid, you did the right thing, stand by your decision. ", "I consider myself pretty good at this, and my strategy is this: Don't answer the question, answer a similar question which you can construct a good answer to.\n\nIf somebody for example says \"Hey, did you complain about X to HR?\", then think to yourself \"this person just asked me what my opinion on complaining about people to HR is\", and then answer that question - \n\n\"I've heard a lot about complaints flying around, I wonder what the deal with that is? I think it's a but puerile that the office is being divided so but it is probably the best way to deal with this kind of friction\".\n\nThen say you're a bit busy and you'll pick it up again later with them (and leave). ", "Pretend you don't know the context and ask them a question in response. For example, if you complained about a colleague and they confront you, try something like \"huh, what happened?\". ", "I think I would respond with \"I don't think that question is appropriate.\"\n\nIt isn't. Complaints are supposed to be confidential. On the down side, it may seem obvious that it was you. But you are being honest and straightforward without answering the question. ", "Someone once told me to always \"answer the question you wish you had been asked.\" If your colleague asks if you complained, answer with something like, \"I don't have any issues with you.\"\n\nOffer information that you do want to give, rather than giving more relevant information you'd like to keep to yourself." ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What to say to someone before a performance without psyching them out? I'm always a bit nervous that I might say something to someone about to do a performance that will psych them out rather than encourage them. What are some comforting things you can say to someone before a performance? What are some things you should avoid saying?", "What to say to someone before a performance without psyching them out? I'm always a bit nervous that I might say something to someone about to do a performance that will psych them out rather than encourage them. What are some comforting things you can say to someone before a performance? What are some things you should avoid saying?", "What to say to someone before a performance without psyching them out? I'm always a bit nervous that I might say something to someone about to do a performance that will psych them out rather than encourage them. What are some comforting things you can say to someone before a performance? What are some things you should avoid saying?" ]	[ "If they're really nervous, make sure you project a sense of calm. Talk about the performance as if it is something he does every day. Make them think of it as a routine they've done hundreds of times. \n\nAlso at the end mention something you'll do afterwards, like \"hey good luck, afterwards we'll go to that Sushi place you like and have a few beers.\" Having their focus on something fun afterwards will also help them look beyond the moment.", "\"Have fun\" is good. \n\n", "I can't wait to hear you play! (Sing, dance, etc.) See you in a little bit! \n\nThen hug them, smile, and go sit down. \n\nAnd turn your phone OFF. " ]	[ 5, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to tie a ponytail with 1 hand I'm having shoulder surgery and have long hair. I need help figuring out a way to tie with just my left hand. My hair is about shoulder length. ", "how to tie a ponytail with 1 hand I'm having shoulder surgery and have long hair. I need help figuring out a way to tie with just my left hand. My hair is about shoulder length. ", "how to tie a ponytail with 1 hand I'm having shoulder surgery and have long hair. I need help figuring out a way to tie with just my left hand. My hair is about shoulder length. ", "how to tie a ponytail with 1 hand I'm having shoulder surgery and have long hair. I need help figuring out a way to tie with just my left hand. My hair is about shoulder length. " ]	[ "The only thing I can think of that will actually stay put is the vacuum cleaner trick.\n\nPut your elastic around the end of the hose to your vacuum cleaner. Turn the vacuum on and suck up all your hair. Pull the elastic off the hose and onto your hair. Turn off the vacuum. Done!\n\n[Video!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIgIgYNdD5E)", "You can use a guitar capo one-handedly, not the rigid kind but one with toggle and tie, like this one:\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Dunlop-11C-Advanced-Toggle-Curved/dp/B0002CZVU0/\n\nThe rubbery side also helps keeping it from sliding down your hair. I had one that I never used for guitar, but was great for getting hair out of my face quickly... until I lost it on the metro:-(", "If you flip your head down so your hair is hanging upside down (like you're going to put it in a towel) you may be able to do a ponytail with minimal movement of your bad shoulder.", "Get the hair tie ready in your left hand and hang your hair over the side of the bed/back of a chair and get to it with your hand, same way you always did, but using your head as the stabilising hand in the absence of your right." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to ignore the Stevia aftertaste? For those of use who can't stand the chemically taste of stevia, has anyone figured out a way to ignore the awful aftertaste?\n\nI'm glad people are getting away from artificial sweeteners but now they're putting stevia in everything. Stevia is not that bad in lower doses, especially since it has such a high sweetness...\"rating\"? But people are adding so much because they must think it's like sugar and are just obsessed with making things sweet they don't think about the aftertaste or don't notice it. I also can't stand the taste of aspartame and I think they taste the same (the stevia aftertaste).", "How to ignore the Stevia aftertaste? For those of use who can't stand the chemically taste of stevia, has anyone figured out a way to ignore the awful aftertaste?\n\nI'm glad people are getting away from artificial sweeteners but now they're putting stevia in everything. Stevia is not that bad in lower doses, especially since it has such a high sweetness...\"rating\"? But people are adding so much because they must think it's like sugar and are just obsessed with making things sweet they don't think about the aftertaste or don't notice it. I also can't stand the taste of aspartame and I think they taste the same (the stevia aftertaste).", "How to ignore the Stevia aftertaste? For those of use who can't stand the chemically taste of stevia, has anyone figured out a way to ignore the awful aftertaste?\n\nI'm glad people are getting away from artificial sweeteners but now they're putting stevia in everything. Stevia is not that bad in lower doses, especially since it has such a high sweetness...\"rating\"? But people are adding so much because they must think it's like sugar and are just obsessed with making things sweet they don't think about the aftertaste or don't notice it. I also can't stand the taste of aspartame and I think they taste the same (the stevia aftertaste)." ]	[ "Designer whey natural flavor. Best protein powder there is. Easy to mix, tastes great, no added sugar or flavors. \n\nIsopure alarm has a natural whey, but I think it tastes awful \n\nIf you have to stick with your stevia protein powder the best thing to do is make pills out of it. Put just enough water to roll it into a pill to swallow without tasting. Don't mix it in a beverage when you can bypass your tastebuds altogether. I had to do this with soy protein. ", "Stevia is actually from a plant. It's strong try diluting it, but if you don't like it you don't like it.", "For me there is no way to ignore it. I suggest cutting sweets from your diet. After a few weeks/months you won't miss it at all" ]	[ 3, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "Sometimes people do not answer a question you ask but answer their emotional response to the question. What are some clever ways to word your question so they answer the question in a literal way? ", "Sometimes people do not answer a question you ask but answer their emotional response to the question. What are some clever ways to word your question so they answer the question in a literal way? ", "Sometimes people do not answer a question you ask but answer their emotional response to the question. What are some clever ways to word your question so they answer the question in a literal way? ", "Sometimes people do not answer a question you ask but answer their emotional response to the question. What are some clever ways to word your question so they answer the question in a literal way? ", "Sometimes people do not answer a question you ask but answer their emotional response to the question. What are some clever ways to word your question so they answer the question in a literal way? " ]	[ "Why don’t you explain the question? I don’t see how we can give you like a blanket statement of advice for this", "Maybe the more clever thing would be to learn what people are conveying in their emotional responses. If you want to understand a person you should learn their language, not trick them into speaking yours.", "If my question isn't answered, sometimes I just ask it again. Once people get their emotional stuff out, they can typically answer the original question.", "I'd like to point out that the statement you make in the first part of your question is a Life Pro Tip in itself. You may be surprised how few people really get that.\nThis may not be particularly helpful but I think there's two ways to go here. \n\nFirst off, if you're looking for more of a magic bullet first question then there isn't one coverall. You need to first decide exactly what it is you want to find out then decide which type of question will get you that. Eg. Closed questions will get you specific yes or no response. Open ended questions are your who, what, when, where, and why and will get you information. \nThen there's the old TED questions used in sales, Tell, Explain, Describe that provide the opportunity for the person to respond there own way and tell you the story, Eg. Tell me more about... \n\nSecond, you might want to focus on honing your follow up questioning skills. The emotional response gives you some information you can work with so it's still useful. You can then ask yourself things like 'did they skirt around the question, and why might that be? ' or 'what is their answer not saying?' The key to getting good at this is not actually phrasing the next question, it's listening\n\nI know I said two ways but there's a third thing you can practice here which is to ride the pause. That is, let a person finish talking, and before you respond just pause for a little longer than is normal. Often the slight discomfort of the pause will end with the person talking again and saying more than they perhaps planned to\n\nNot to lecture but when it comes to personal conversations all of this is something to be careful with. Having an engaging conversation with someone is one thing, but if people feel like your manipulating them or not respecting their boundaries (by continuing to ask questions they're avoiding for example) it leaves a feeling of distrust", "It's ironic that you've worded this question in a way that makes it impossible to answer literally lol\nWhat is the actual question that you want answers to?" ]	[ 6, 5, 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How do you stop conversing with a person who will always continue the conversation after a brief period of silence? How do you get out of this situation?", "How do you stop conversing with a person who will always continue the conversation after a brief period of silence? How do you get out of this situation?" ]	[ "I always go with \"I have to go do X. I'll talk to you later.\" \n\nCome up with a chore to do or work that has a deadline, and it's perfectly polite.", "Have you ever tried discussing this with them? They may not know they are talking too much. I normally come up with a game plan when I want to politely address something about someone to that someone." ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "makeshift candle holders for taper candles. As many of us are, I'm right in the line of fire for Sandy and I'm just biding my time until I lose power. I have taper candles but no holders. I have some wine bottles, but can you recommend anything else?\n\nThanks so much!", "makeshift candle holders for taper candles. As many of us are, I'm right in the line of fire for Sandy and I'm just biding my time until I lose power. I have taper candles but no holders. I have some wine bottles, but can you recommend anything else?\n\nThanks so much!", "makeshift candle holders for taper candles. As many of us are, I'm right in the line of fire for Sandy and I'm just biding my time until I lose power. I have taper candles but no holders. I have some wine bottles, but can you recommend anything else?\n\nThanks so much!", "makeshift candle holders for taper candles. As many of us are, I'm right in the line of fire for Sandy and I'm just biding my time until I lose power. I have taper candles but no holders. I have some wine bottles, but can you recommend anything else?\n\nThanks so much!" ]	[ "Playdoh or any other moist moldable substance. If you have a clay based kitty litter it will work as well.", "Good question because you want to make damn sure they don't tip over.\n\nIf you've got access to sand or pea gravel or even dirt, you could stand the taper in a jar and pack the sand around it to support it, pack the stuff down with a fat marker or something, so it doesn't shift. \n\n", "Dude, they're saying you aren't supposed to use candles at all because of the fire hazard. Use flashlights or lanterns--you can get an awesome lantern with the battery included for less than $3.", "Cannibalise some egg cartons if you have them. Or plastic soda bottles (cut them in half if you can, so the top can hold a candle like with a wine bottle and the bottom can hold one too).\n\nStay safe!" ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "A quick & efficient way to separate pumpkin seeds from the pulp. After carving a pumpkin with my daughter last night, I decided I wanted to separate the pumpkin seeds for roasting. What a chore! And she’s not quite old enough to help (2Y). This might be the first & last year I try this unless I find a faster way of picking out the seeds.", "A quick & efficient way to separate pumpkin seeds from the pulp. After carving a pumpkin with my daughter last night, I decided I wanted to separate the pumpkin seeds for roasting. What a chore! And she’s not quite old enough to help (2Y). This might be the first & last year I try this unless I find a faster way of picking out the seeds.", "A quick & efficient way to separate pumpkin seeds from the pulp. After carving a pumpkin with my daughter last night, I decided I wanted to separate the pumpkin seeds for roasting. What a chore! And she’s not quite old enough to help (2Y). This might be the first & last year I try this unless I find a faster way of picking out the seeds.", "A quick & efficient way to separate pumpkin seeds from the pulp. After carving a pumpkin with my daughter last night, I decided I wanted to separate the pumpkin seeds for roasting. What a chore! And she’s not quite old enough to help (2Y). This might be the first & last year I try this unless I find a faster way of picking out the seeds." ]	[ "Put the seeds and the pulp in a big bowl of water. Don't include the big bundles of pulp with no seeds. Swish it around to separate them, the pulp will sink and the seeds will float.\n\nBonus: add a bunch of salt to the water and the seeds will be salted when you roast them!", "I usually use a strainer and warm water from the spray head. You still gotta pick out the big pieces though.", "I used a collander over a bowl & filled it with water. Then I pulled out the big chunks & squished through the rest of it for a while, then drained & rinsed until it was satisfactory.\n\nThen I salted & dried the seeds & baked them at 375 F for 45 minutes. Yummy.", "Grab out your seeds first, your fingers should be able to pull them off the stingy bits a few at a time. There will be a little funk on them, but they should be pretty easy to clean from there." ]	[ 7, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?", "how do I stop tucked-in shirts bulking out at the waistline and making me look fat? For me, all tucked-in shirts lie really badly. I tuck them in and un-tuck them a little for movement and to not look ridiculous, but when I un-tuck them a little they never lie flat against my body. They always stick out and make it look like I have a belly. Anyone else get this? Anyone have any solutions?" ]	[ "I had this problem, and coincidentally have been waiting for someone to ask me this question.\n\nWhen you put your shirt on, tuck it in as far as it will go. Then once it's in, lft your shoulders up and that will bring up the sides of the shirt. Then pinch the shirt about an inch or twp above your waistline on each side and pull down. Then adjust to get that 'straight' shape acorss your waistline. \n\nI'm sorry I couldn't be more specific as I'm a bit drunk and it's 2am here but if you need a better explanation then reply and I'll try and give one tomorrow", "Buy Marine Corps shirt-stays (also known as just shirt-stays). The ones we used in the Corps came in a package of four. Clip two to the front of your shirt-tails, then to to the back (just outside off-center so you don't sit on them and dislodge them) and then cross the back ones to the front and the front ones to the back and secure the other ends of the clips onto your socks. This works even better when you get your shirts tailored even just a bit to your body. This makes a world of difference and even though I am out of the Marines now, every button-down shirt I get is tailored and I wear shirt stays whenever I tuck in a button-down. The ones we used are made by Vanguard and here is the link:\n\nhttp://www.vanguardmil.com/shirt-garter-black-p-23.html?gclid=CLmwyejys7ICFYNM4AodniAAlw\n", "Get your shirts tailored.\n\nThe reason you're getting the extra bulk is because your shirts are too big for you. You need to have them slimmed down or just go buy slimmer shirts. \n\nTo have your current shirts slimmed down, take them to a tailor or any dry cleaner that does alterations. The tailor will have you put the shirt on, then they will pin it along the sides to the contours of your body (make sure they do the sleeves too). They will cut away the extra fabric and restitch the seam. This procedure will cost you $15-20 per shirt and it will solve your shirt billowing problem forever. ", "Yes, and it's in the way you tuck. If you pleat the back, you can get the tailored look without having your shirts tailored.\n\n1) Pull your pants below your hips, stand up straight.\n2) Pull your shirt down straight, and find the two seams (darts) that are in the back.\n3) Tuck the extra fabric outside the darts into pleats that face your spine.\n4) Pull your pants up over the folded shirt.\n\n", "This may not be a pro tip since it could get expensive, but I stopped having that problem once I switched to buying only fitted dress shirts. ", "I just began my career out of college and this is totally bothering my OCD! I was thinking of trying double sided tape made specifically for clothing. My aunt is a TV reporter and she uses double sided tape to tape the back of her collar to teh back of her neck do that it doesn't ride back. That ways she doesn't distract her viewers by adjusting it. IDK about how well it would actually hold your shirt talls tucked in though.", "I have always envisioned an elastic system where the bottom of the shirt attached to an inner belt loop and prevented the shirt from coming untucked. ", "Find a local seamstress and have her mod and custom fit your shirts (even your t-shirts). You'll be amazed at the difference.", "1. Make sure you buy a fitted shirt. Non fitted shirts will hang loose like you desrcribed.\n\n2. Tuck your shirt in tight (I like to let my shirt hang and pull my pants up and button them over the shirt for a consistant look) then do a range of arm/upper body movements to release the exact amount of slack from your tuck that you may need to perform any tasks throughout the day.\n\n3. Look fabulous", "[I'll just leave this here.](https://www.google.com/search?q=shirt+stays&sugexp=chrome,mod=15&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8)", "Having a properly fitting shirt makes a huge difference also. Most off the rack shirts are too bulky, depending on your size I might suggest slim cut shirts. " ]	[ 36, 16, 8, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n", "How to avoid crying when having a serious conversation? I am preparing myself to have a heart-to-heart with my boyfriend later, but I have been extra emotional for a while, and even thinking about it makes me tear up. How can I say what I need to say and discuss the issue maturely without turning on the waterworks? \n\n" ]	[ "Watch something really sad, like a remix of the beginning of Up and Jurassic Bark and cry your eyes out for as long as you can, you will be more calm when talking to your soon-to-be ex.", "let yourself cry if you must, but be determined to say what you gotta say despite the tears. Your crying sounds like a fear reaction", "* Don't get caught up in the emotions of what you have to say.\n* Treat it like a business meeting or presentation, where you have a series of points you need to get across and a number of things you and your boyfriend need to come to a conclusion on by the end of the 'meeting'. \n* As you're describing your feelings, make sure you stay detached, try not to relive the feelings you're describing and avoid feeling sorry for yourself (even if you deserve to!).\n* Imagine you have been hired by someone else to communicate these points and have no personal investment in them.\nIf you feel yourself becoming emotional, stop talking, resist the urge to ramble. Take a deep breath and recentre yourself. If your boyfriend tries to speak to you during this time, acknowledge him positively (by nodding or holding up a hand) but don't feel you have to respond straight away. Don't speak until you have got your emotions under control.\n When your boyfriend responds to you, pause before responding back and take time to separate strong emotions from your response.\n* If your boyfriend becomes emotional, try not to let that feed your own emotions. Keep his emotions as separate from you as your own.\n* Definitely avoid doing this in a public place, it will cause you to censor yourself, be an added distraction and (much like getting the giggles in church) you're more likely to be overwhelmed by the urge to cry if there's extra pressure not to make a scene.\n* If, despite your best efforts, you end up a crying mess (it happens) don't try to keep talking about the upsetting issue. Take a break (talk about other things if you can) and come back to it when you've calmed down.\n* Don't consider your urge to cry a weakness and don't beat yourself up about it if you do. This is likely to escalate your emotions and you don't deserve it. Relationships are really tough, sometimes holding back the tears is impossible! It might not be helpful when trying to communicate, but there is nothing wrong with crying, it's nothing to feel bad about.\n\nGood luck!\n\nSource: 8 year relationship with lots of 'we-need-to-talk's!", "Try focusing on breathing really slow, deep and consistently. This really helps me stay calm and not tear up. Good luck!", "Someone else mentioned breathing.\n\nMore specifically, a technique very widely used by soldiers to reduce stress effectively: Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold 4, breathe out 4, hold 4, repeat several times in a row.\n\nSeems impractical in the middle of a discussion, but if you feel like crying, request a break, go to the restroom and use it.", "Maybe have prepared what you are going to say prior to the talk, and I've also heard looking up helps", "Leave the conversation for a few seconds, recall the last moment you had a massive laughter... and yes, try breathing slow.. it really helps", "I'm honestly surprised no one has suggested writing everything down that you want to say so you don't get side-tracked or have to rely on your memory alone. ", "I read somewhere doing simple math in your head can help take your mind away from crying or getting upset.", "I had this exact same problem with my SO. I solve it by going through my head exactly what I want to say, then when the meeting comes up, focus on keeping your breathing rhythmic and steady. Talk slowly and pause if you feel like your going to tear up. If you really need to cry, do it, tell him to hold on just a sec. Then continue what you want to say when you can. It's okay to have a cracked voice or something. Everybody does. Just take it easy." ]	[ 20, 9, 8, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n", "How to stop A shower curtain from decreasing shower size the warmer it gets. I recently moved into an apartment where the shower is just a corner in the bathroom.\n\nWhen I shower every morning my 2 square meter shower turns into the space you stand in on a crowded bus.\nIs there a way to fix this without buying a new shower curtain?\n\nThank you for any helpful tips.\n\nBonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! \n\n" ]	[ "[This is nice](http://www.walmart.com/ip/11100107?adid=22222222227000052357&wmlspartner=wlpa&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=&wl3=13685425150&wl4=&wl5=pla&veh=sem&veh=dat)\n\nThe angle prevents it from being sucked in.", "It's the change in air temperature that does it - the hot air inside the shower rises and sucks the curtain in. So, the two solutions I know of are:\n\nLeave the shower running a little while before shutting the curtain (obviously point the shower at the wall for this bit).\n\nDon't close the curtain fully. Even a gap of a couple of inches lets the air flow and stops that bastard clinging to your legs.\n\nPS your shower is massive", "Tape pennies or some other form of weight to the bottom of the curtain to make it heavier and less likely to be moved.\n\nThe best way is to make more of a gap for the hot air to escape faster.\n\nPersonally I use the splash the tub wall with water and stick curtain to it method myself.\n\nAlso I dont know if your setup allows for a fairly standard rod but one of the BEST investments I ever bought was a curved shower rod. Standing in a normal shower with my should width is not fun. But with that extra bit of room from the curve it feels massive now and I dont bump into everything.", "If your shower is like this one (but with a free-hanging curtain on two sides, instead of glass panels): http://sell.bizrice.com/selling-leads/613736/Offset-Quadrant-Sliding-Shower-Enclosure.html\n\nthen the problem is the cone of water creating a vortex that pushes air down inside the enclosure thus allowing air in the room to push the curtain inwards.\n\nSince installing glass walls and doors is not an option, I suggest attaching some kind of weight to the lower hem of the curtain. For example, a stainless steel chain sewn or clipped to the hem, or a series of weights of some kind at intervals.", "If you have a plastic inner shower curtain, direct the flow of water on to it for a few minutes while you wash up, shampoo, etc. It will stop it from invading your privacy and bring everything up to the right temperature.", "I'm not sure how the layout of your bathroom is exactly, but this might work: shower curtain sticks to wet surfaces, so try wetting the tiles/wall etc. and press the dry sides of the curtain against them to \"seal\" yourself in.", "Bonus Request: If you got a good playlist of instrumental music for reading/studying please share it! I like to make a Pandora radio station for \"Explosions in the Sky\" or a band similar to that. Generally I will get hours of lyric-free music I can listen to in the background while I get other stuff done." ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have.", " I don't have much time and I have a lot of things to do..and I struggle to get them done..I need some help on making the most of the little time I have." ]	[ "These tactics work for different people, I don't expect them all to work for you:\n\n-Make a list of what you want to do, and keep it with you. There are lots of apps that can help you with this!\n\n-Figure out what type of work schedule fits you. Some people can concentrate for two hours at a time and have a generous break, and others can only focus for a half hour at a time but need only short breaks. Experiment with what works with you. For me, personally, I find it easier to get things done if I give myself a half of NO PHONE and ONLY WORK. It's easy to ignore your phone if you know it's only going to be for a half hour, and you don't have to force yourself to focus as much because it's such a short time. \n\n-It's honestly better to stay away from your phone in general. It helps you focus A LOT. \n\n-If you have trouble getting started on anything you REALLY don't want to do (write a paper, or a clean a room, etc.), it really helps to time yourself for 10 minutes. 10 minutes a day makes a big difference, and it helps you get started on tough tasks... I did this a lot when I wrote essays. I started a 10 minute timer, and focused on my essay. After 10 minutes, I was in the zone and didn't feel like breaking my focus, so I worked on it for an hour. And just like that, an essay was written! \n\n-The 10 minute timer is helpful for a lot of things. If you're having trouble getting around to certain errands, just make yourself work on it for 10 minutes a day. It's easy to do and it's better than nothing. \n\n-Make a schedule. This doesn't work for everyone (and even if it does work for someone, things may change and they'll need a flexible schedule). Schedule tasks during certain times. Here's the tough part: you have to figure out how much motivation you have and how to work with it. As I mentioned earlier, if you can work for 2 hours straight, that's great, go ahead and schedule that. If you have a hard time focusing for long, then give yourself generous breaks. Figure yourself out and create a schedule that you CAN follow. It took me a week to create a perfect schedule for myself, but it was worth it. I figured out that I have low motivation 1:00 pm (a good time to schedule a break) and lots around 11:00 am (a good time to schedule work). Honestly, just pay attention to your motivation throughout the day and look for patterns.\n\n-It helps to give yourself some incentives. I'm not saying you should eat a cheeseburger every time you get something done, but it helps to reward yourself for something big, with, let's say, an hour of TV.\n\n-Be proactive. You don't need to do 5 things at once, but there is time in your day that can be used to multitask. Rewarding yourself with an hour of TV? Staple or hole punch whatever papers you need or copy down some information you've been meaning to record. Do any menial tasks that you shouldn't waste precious work time on. You can still enjoy your break time while getting little errands out of the way so that you can focus on the big stuff later. \n\n\nThese are just examples that have worked for me. ", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.Using a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\nGet that concept to other things.", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.Using a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\nGet that concept to other things.", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.\nUsing a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\n\nGet that concept to other things.", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.\nUsing a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\nGet that concept to other things.", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.\nUsing a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\n\nGet that concept to other things.", "For example, I used to waste a lot of time doing my daily reading on internet.\nUsing a RSS reader (feeldy) make it a lot easy to save time.\n\nGet that concept to other things." ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1, -1, -1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of an unknown smell in dorm room? Hey r/LifeProTips. I've recently walked into my suite (conjoined dorms) only to find a smell that smells similar to Tabasco flavored Cheez-its. We have no idea about what it might be or where it might be coming from. We have had spicy ramen cooked in our microwave but that seems to not be the case. We've been trying to figure out smells of rotten food that seem very similar to this and can't. By the way, it's not Cheez-its.\n\nTL;DR: Funky pepper smell in the room. Can't find where it's coming from.", "How to get rid of an unknown smell in dorm room? Hey r/LifeProTips. I've recently walked into my suite (conjoined dorms) only to find a smell that smells similar to Tabasco flavored Cheez-its. We have no idea about what it might be or where it might be coming from. We have had spicy ramen cooked in our microwave but that seems to not be the case. We've been trying to figure out smells of rotten food that seem very similar to this and can't. By the way, it's not Cheez-its.\n\nTL;DR: Funky pepper smell in the room. Can't find where it's coming from.", "How to get rid of an unknown smell in dorm room? Hey r/LifeProTips. I've recently walked into my suite (conjoined dorms) only to find a smell that smells similar to Tabasco flavored Cheez-its. We have no idea about what it might be or where it might be coming from. We have had spicy ramen cooked in our microwave but that seems to not be the case. We've been trying to figure out smells of rotten food that seem very similar to this and can't. By the way, it's not Cheez-its.\n\nTL;DR: Funky pepper smell in the room. Can't find where it's coming from.", "How to get rid of an unknown smell in dorm room? Hey r/LifeProTips. I've recently walked into my suite (conjoined dorms) only to find a smell that smells similar to Tabasco flavored Cheez-its. We have no idea about what it might be or where it might be coming from. We have had spicy ramen cooked in our microwave but that seems to not be the case. We've been trying to figure out smells of rotten food that seem very similar to this and can't. By the way, it's not Cheez-its.\n\nTL;DR: Funky pepper smell in the room. Can't find where it's coming from.", "How to get rid of an unknown smell in dorm room? Hey r/LifeProTips. I've recently walked into my suite (conjoined dorms) only to find a smell that smells similar to Tabasco flavored Cheez-its. We have no idea about what it might be or where it might be coming from. We have had spicy ramen cooked in our microwave but that seems to not be the case. We've been trying to figure out smells of rotten food that seem very similar to this and can't. By the way, it's not Cheez-its.\n\nTL;DR: Funky pepper smell in the room. Can't find where it's coming from." ]	[ "Best tip for how to find it. Get a strong odoured substance (I use coffee) and smell deep from it. Then smell the air. Keep doing this moving toward where the scent is stronger. Eventually you should be able to find what is making that smell. As for cleaning it work out what it is first. ", "Bicarb soda works. Put it in the carpet and vacuum it up. Also leave a little dish of it so it absorbed the smells.\n\nOpen your window and rug up. Turn on a fan (not a heater.) Magic.", "Take some newspaper, and wad up a bunch of balls of it. Leave them out over night, they will absorb the smell. (Read this somewhere, and tried it in my fridge. It actually works). Also, a bowl vinegar.", "The smell could possibly be weed if it's an old dorm room... and in that case please consult /r/trees", "Check your ceiling if you have a paneled, false, ceiling. If you have a kitchen, move the stove. (be careful if it's gas) \n\nIf you have carpets, could be the carpets. Just complain to your school to get them to come and fix it. Surprisingly, they might just actually help you out." ]	[ 8, 5, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)", "How to shave head daily? How can I quickly shave my head daily avoiding any cuts? I'm currently using that 5 blade razor from Gillette (Fusion I think?)" ]	[ "A few tips. \n\nFirstly, use olive oil. Yes, regular cooking olive oil. Doesn't have to be expensive, extra virgin whatever, but it's good for you skin and helps keep your head moisturized and your skin soft. Shave in the shower, it takes care of the bristles nicely, and body wash after you shave. Everything gets washed down the drain, easy peasy. \n\nSecondly if you're going for the slick look, there's a razor out there called the Headblade. Precisely rigged for shaving your head and face, uses Gillette Atra cartridges or equivalent. Found at your local chain pharmacy. Slip it around your middle finger, use your index and ring finger to control it. \n\nThird, learn to shave by touch. Shave with one hand and feel along behind it with the other. Eventually you can shave with your eyes closed. \n\nLast but not least, use the \"it's more aerodynamic\" joke. Alway fun. ", "What are you doing when you cut yourself? I have shaved my head for the past twenty years and only get the occasional nick. Sometimes I use the fusion and sometimes just cheap disposables.\n\nI use either Barbasol (cheap cream) or soap and a brush depending on whether I am in the shower or at the sink. Oil sucks. It clogs up the razor too easily. I have also shaved with just water and even without (not recommended).\n\nWhen I do nick myself it's because I am using too much pressure so the skin bunches up and touches the blades. This only happens when I haven't taken the time to soften the hairs with hot water. I use a washcloth. I soak in hot water wear it like a hat for a minute before lathering up.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "Shave in the shower and don't underestimate the razors with a vibrating head. The battery powered vibration razors (fuzion or whatever) actually help when you hit a spot that can nick your head, it will reduce the likelihood of cut. Been head shaving for 5 years and that has been my experience. ", "My routine:\n\n1. Shower first and use an exfoliating scrub on your scalp.\n\n2. No shaving foam, no gel, no oil, I use [this.](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B009WQH8SA/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_NjFFvbQ76TZB9) This tube will probably last you a year...\n\n3. I use cheap 2 blade disposables, but Mach3 may be easier to maneuver at first, because of the added heft.\n\n4. 1:1 coconut oil:cocoa butter as an after shave. A little goes a long way.", "I shave in the shower with whatever shave gel or cream is available. I have a beard so I use a fogless mirror to get a clean line. Haven't cut myself once in the year I've been doing it, takes me about 2 minutes Check out /r/bald ", "I learned to wet shave when I came down with a bad case of alopecia that left my noggin all patchy. It wasn't easy, it took some time, and I did get some cuts (mostly just above my ears).\n\nHowever, after learning to wet shave my whole head fairly well (completely smooth with no stubble), every other day, I found that going back to a cartridge razor, it was almost impossible to 1)cut myself and 2)get a very clean shave.\n\nI'm not saying I wholeheartedly suggest learning to wet shave by shaving your whole head.. but it did force me to become very meticulous with how I shave and, to the point, would no longer get cuts with a cartridge.", "I agree, use oil. I found Shave Secret shaving oil to be best (found it at wal-mart, amazon too). \n\nI find if you want to shave everyday, shave with the direction of the hair ONLY for a few weeks. Once the skin is used to the abuse/ use of the razor on your skin, then start going against the grain of the hair to get real close. \n\nI dont have a blade preference. I like cheap dual blades, so I can use a new one every time. I hate reusing a blade, no matter how much $ I've spent on it. After the first use they seem to always leave nicks & razor burn.\n\nDull razors and shaving in a hurry are the only times I cut myself. Dont apply too much pressure, dont be in a hurry and use new razors, not necessarly expensive ones." ]	[ 4, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "An easy way to know which eye to look at for those with lazy eyes I always find it hard to figure out which eye to look at while talking to someone with a lazy eye/squint/dominant eye, and I hate that I may be being rude! Not everyone looks at you when you talk and it's in these situations I find hard to tell. ", "An easy way to know which eye to look at for those with lazy eyes I always find it hard to figure out which eye to look at while talking to someone with a lazy eye/squint/dominant eye, and I hate that I may be being rude! Not everyone looks at you when you talk and it's in these situations I find hard to tell. " ]	[ "As someone who was born with strabismus, and have been living with corrective lenses for nearly 40 years because of it, just look them in the eye the way you would look at anyone else and know that despite appearances, they are more than likely looking you in the eye too. \n\nRyan Gosling is my Strabismus brother...how would you look him in the eye? ", "Is this really an everyday issue for some people? \n\nI can't think of a single time in my life where I have said to myself, \"I need to figure out how to look at someone with a lazy eye.\" " ]	[ 5, 3 ]	safe
[ "how to ask for a raise I've been with my company 3 years doing manual labor/ machine work/ metal fabrication and have only received one raise. We're a small company but I feel I've deserved a raise for awhile now, but whenever I bring the subject of money up my boss seems to shy away or change the subject completely. How can I ask him in a manner that is professional without sounding like a whiny bitch? ", "how to ask for a raise I've been with my company 3 years doing manual labor/ machine work/ metal fabrication and have only received one raise. We're a small company but I feel I've deserved a raise for awhile now, but whenever I bring the subject of money up my boss seems to shy away or change the subject completely. How can I ask him in a manner that is professional without sounding like a whiny bitch? ", "how to ask for a raise I've been with my company 3 years doing manual labor/ machine work/ metal fabrication and have only received one raise. We're a small company but I feel I've deserved a raise for awhile now, but whenever I bring the subject of money up my boss seems to shy away or change the subject completely. How can I ask him in a manner that is professional without sounding like a whiny bitch? ", "how to ask for a raise I've been with my company 3 years doing manual labor/ machine work/ metal fabrication and have only received one raise. We're a small company but I feel I've deserved a raise for awhile now, but whenever I bring the subject of money up my boss seems to shy away or change the subject completely. How can I ask him in a manner that is professional without sounding like a whiny bitch? " ]	[ "You should be getting at the very least annual raises. If you aren't, you've got a shitty boss that doesn't appreciate his employees.\n\nSince you haven't even gotten cost of living raises, he's actually been steadily cutting your pay as your salary 3 years ago cannot buy the same it can today.\n\nI'd be looking for a new job.", "Why do you deserve a raise over anyone else? You need to justify it.\n\nAlso look at job vacancies in your area. Find one thats similar and see what the going rate is. ", "Check your employee handbook for annual/anniversary-specific raises.\n\nSchedule a meeting with your boss. Don't do this in passing.\n\nGo into the meeting with your research: Your current salary, what is typical for someone in your specific field. Also go in with a list of accomplishments to justify your raise.\n\nYou're basically selling you and your work ethic as an upgraded cost to the company - you have to prove that your work is worth the extra money.", "Does your work have an employee handbook? If not, you could volunteer to make one with a section on annual review and raise processes. Look up industry averages online and be prepared to share ways you improved efficiency aka made them money." ]	[ 2, 2, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying.", "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying.", "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying.", "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying.", "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying.", "How do I overcome health anxiety? (Hypochondria) Every ailment I get, I feel like it’s the end of the world. \n\nI feel like every little problem gets amplified into an actual problem through my worrying." ]	[ "You fear death. Get to be in peace with life/death. Whether it be religion or science. Make peace with the afterlife & you will fear physical ailments a lot less.", "It;s going to sound condescending, but a huge turning point for my hypochondria was facing the idea that my body keeps me alive, does a damn good job of doing it, and I need to learn to trust that my body knows what is good and will do the best it can for me.", "If there is a quick solution I would be excited to hear it. \n\nI have this problem and I went to therapy for it and I still get anxious about it in certain situations. \n\nLots of mindfulness practice seems to be the only answer.", "To everyone who's posted so far, as someone in the medical profession I have yet to learn or hear of anything that is a quick fix.\n\nI have met patients that had success with therapy, medications, yoga, m", "My doc gave me sage advice about symptoms: persistent and progressive are the only ones to get checked. Most symptoms pass within 2 weeks so wait.", "I'm a hypochondriac myself. I find that I'm overly anxious about my cardiac health (which is weird because I've got a strong ticker) and sometimes convince myself I'm having a heart attack.\n\nWhat I do is ride the storm, and remind myself that shaking this mortal coil isnt so easy." ]	[ 6, 6, 6, 4, 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?", "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?", "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?", "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?", "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?", "Improving Memory For a long time I've struggled with remembering things like people's name and different date's etc. What tricks can I start implementing to help improve my memory or what exercises can I start doing?" ]	[ "Whenever you learn something, you're basically rewiring your brain. If you do something over and over again, you make those connections within the brain stronger.\n", "Always say them right after you learn them. I also mentally say it a few times after that. Keep brining it up in conversation when you learn it and it will stick. Example: if you just met John and John has a birthday on April first, keep brining it up a few times even if it is forced. People won't find it annoying that you are saying their name or something special, they will find it flattering that you keep bringing it up. It makes you seem like you actually care about them. Then, when you close the conversation, repeat the things you want to remember. 'see ya later John who has a birthday on April first!' obviously try to keep the interaction fun. This isn't professional so limit yourself to just names if needed and read the room to see if you can add more or not. ", "When someone tells you their name, use it in the immediate next sentence, and about 3 or 4 other times especially at the beginning and end line of the conversation. \nOur brains tend to remember the start and end of seemingly insignificant events, not so much the in-between chatter. \nThis habit will not only help you remember them by association & practice, but it will also make them feel subconsciously (and partially) warmer towards you. ", "Ive heard of this thing called the memory palace, its a technique that professional memory dudes use to remember crazy things. Its about creating a visualization instead of just information. \n\nYou create an image in your head of a familiar place or object and associate it with a word or number. As an example whenever i go through the bank drive through i imagine myself walking in the bank and seeing two rooms. One room has an account number in it and so does the second. So i walk into that room and imagine the account number sitting on the desk spaced out into 4 number rows that i can remember. \n\nAnd then if you need to remember long text or numbers you connect the imagines with each. \n\nFor example, you need to remember these words in this order: monkey, bat, string, ball, foot, spider, bed. \n\nIf i read this to you and asked u to repeat it back in a few minutes you probably wouldn't get them all. But if i put a story with it that connected them you would find it much easier to recall. The story goes there was a monkey, the money was holding a bat, the bat had a piece of string tied to to, on the other end of the string was a ball, a foot kicked the ball, the foot had a spider on it, then the spider crawled up the bed. \n\n", "I don't know if this is relevant. But I remember a while back there was a study which had shown that walking (or moving) while trying to learn something will improve your ability to learn like a lot. Moreover, chewing something improves your ability to focus on something. What I usually do when I have to learn my courses for an exam, is walking, while chewing a gum, and even if it looks ridiculous, it really does improve my memory, I learn faster, and I remember it longer. \nSorry if it makes no sense, not native English", "I do crosswords to keep my mind sharp. It helps you to learn new words, plus it helps you think of something in a new way through the descriptions you're given." ]	[ 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "For those who use two separate email accounts (one for junk e-mail for signing up for things). This is sort of really specific, but here it goes. I have an e-mail account that I created in middle/highschool(?) and it is currently pretty much linked to everything, my google account (which also is on my android devices), my apple ID, twitter, box, dropbox, gilt, pandora, etc. However I want to turn this email account into my accounts/junkmail account, I already have a newer (and more mature sounding) email username, which is currently not being used for anything. So here are my questions:\n\n\n1) Which accounts should be linked to my non-junk account?\n\n\n2) Is there a way to transfer all my google account/apple ID account to my new email?", "For those who use two separate email accounts (one for junk e-mail for signing up for things). This is sort of really specific, but here it goes. I have an e-mail account that I created in middle/highschool(?) and it is currently pretty much linked to everything, my google account (which also is on my android devices), my apple ID, twitter, box, dropbox, gilt, pandora, etc. However I want to turn this email account into my accounts/junkmail account, I already have a newer (and more mature sounding) email username, which is currently not being used for anything. So here are my questions:\n\n\n1) Which accounts should be linked to my non-junk account?\n\n\n2) Is there a way to transfer all my google account/apple ID account to my new email?" ]	[ "I think you'll need to go to each site/service and under profile settings change the email there. I personally prefer 1 account for those who know me personally and another for the random junk. I would create a nice, clean account for professional use, perhaps with a more formal facebook/twitter account associated, as many employers seem to be including a \"ok, log into your facebook account so we can see what your personal behavior is like\" portion to the interview.", "I have my gmail set up to retrieve all my mail from all my various accounts. They're all more or less interconnected (I don't know which email is set for password retrieval on what other account... I should really sort that out...) but I've never had an issue with it. " ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... ", "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... ", "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... ", "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... ", "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... ", "Essentials you carry in your backpack for day-to-day life. Basically looking for recommendations on essentials you carry in your backpack...\n\nPhone charger, extra deodorant, ect... " ]	[ "Always carry one or two pads, and that applies to both guys and girls. Not only doesn't it take much place, but it can either save a pair of panties, or save someone's life.\n\nHave a pencil and a piece of paper handy for any situation.\n\nWater bottles are sometimes really nice and if you use it often, consider buying a good quality, cause you'd either spend that money short term on plastic bottle and long-term on the environment, or long-term reliability and mid-term environmental impact", "Knife, water bottle, phone charger, hidden cash, sketchbook/pen case, which has a knife in it, wallet, keys, which also have a tiny knife attached to them. Sometimes a sweater if the weather is unpredictable. ", "let's see:\n\nknife\na book\ndeodorant\nwater bottle\na few tampons\nphone charger\nbirth control pills\near buds for music\ntiny bottle of lotion\nhair tie or scrunchie\nchapstick or lipgloss\nsunglasses with case\neyeglasses with case\nextra pair of underwear sometimes\nsmall pouch to keep my ID, insurance cards, gift cards, business cards, debit card, cash\ntoothbrush if i'm staying out for a while\n", "Mine: Phone charger, portable battery, pens, work phone (I keep personal phone on me), business cards, paddle-lock, Gerber tool (except not to the airport!), mouthwash, eye drops, hand sanitizer, tissues. ", "I personally carry a travel sized deodorant, wet wipes, a mini pack of makeup remover wipes, small body spray, Advil, a couple pens, spare lighters, hair ties, tampons, and some kind of snack. It all fits in a makeup bag which you can get at Ross for like six bucks. ", "Always carry ID in the bag if not in your wallet. Depending on how shit your phone battery is you might need a charger." ]	[ 5, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n", "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n", "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n", "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n", "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n", "Life advice for a young man Hello LifeProTips community.\n\nI am here today to ask for some life tips to give my life some general direction and make my life a little bit easier. I am currently living in Adelaide, South Australia, I am a 20 y/o adult currently un-employed and I have little to no ambition in life and no career direction. I dropped out of high school in year 11 then studied IT at a technical college. My ultimate goal in life is to live in somewhat seclusion and peace; in a self sustaining house and lifestyle. I need help formulating a route/path of least resistance and some tips that would help me in achieving my goals. Any advice would be much appreciated.\n\n" ]	[ "Curious - Why the turn from IT to solo subsistence? \n\nIf you're interested in farming/working the land, check out Working On Organic Farms - \"Woofing\" as many people call it . . . They're basically communes set up around the world where people will offer you room/board and teach you cultivation skills in exchange for your labor and presence.\n\nI'm guessing that may be a bit more social than you were originally going for, but it's worth looking into. \n\nThe real LifeProTip though - Get out and meet people, experience new things. Get a passport, and go . . . anywhere. There are some phenomenal resources on Reddit for traveling on the cheap, search the subs. \n\nFew people have life ambition fall into there lap, and the \"light bulb\" fulfillment moment doesn't happen for most people. \n\nAversions you have to social interactions (driving you towards seclusion) may have been contextual and a result of the phase of life you were in. \n\nI can definitely respect a hermit though, so power to you . . . it just doesn't sound like you're ambitious to be a hermit. Get out there homie!", "get in to bushcraft, it's a good hobby \n\nI bought a Mora and a folding saw on Amazon and started messing about in the woods and from there you'll just keep on learning more and more. you can learn about all the plants and flowers and animals and building structures and cooking and all sorts really. no need to do it with anyone you can watch videos on youtube, read books and do it yourself. would take someone with experience with you for foraging though.", "/r/financialindependence\n\n", "You will probably need some money, take a look at [this](https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140819085211-90103575-need-a-job-20-highest-paid-careers-for-you-no-college-degree-required).", "Just a thought, what about some kind of park ranger in a distant outpost?\n\nYou could live there and oversee that part of the park with the goal of saving enough money to buy a small piece of land and farm it.\n", "\"A self sustaining lifestyle\" and \"relaxed no stress life\" don't really go together. \n\n\nMy approach was to not elevate my standard of living as my salary went up. I live at the pay rate I made 10 years ago. I use the extra money to pay down debt and accumulate wealth. I try to fight the buy buy buy mentality, but still live and interact in the population. \n\n\nI am not really a people person, but it is hard to go at life alone. If you did not grow up with the self sustaining skills then you will need various people in your life to teach you. My advise is to find a decent paying job, but save half of the take home pay. Learn all these self sustaining skills on your free time. Then when you built up some good savings and some good skills, then look into going it alone. " ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do.", "How can I tell when I'm being a nuisance For a while, I've been sensing sometimes that my friends aren't enjoying my presence and I don't really know what to do." ]	[ "Just be yourself, if you still enjoy hanging out with them and they don't tell you anything to change your behavior no need to worry about it.\n\nWhat makes you think they aren't enjoying your presence anymore?\n\nOn a sidenote, there are some ways to tell they aren't enjoying your presence at the moment as much, but that only applies to that particular moment:\n\n1. Short answers to your questions or your stories.\n\n2. If they have their arms crossed all the time and seem to avoid you getting closer into their personal space all the time.\n\n3. If you have to initiate any conversation/interaction with them and nothing comes from them.\n\nBut all of these things could also be personality or mood indicators and doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with you.", "Any reason why you think so OP? What exactly is bothering them about you? What are the clues that make you think you're being a nuisance?\n\nFrom personal experience: I have this one friend (although we've kind of drifted apart and aren't seeing each other much these days) where I definitely like and respect him as a person, but still felt he was a nuisance sometimes. The reason was: He just wouldn't shut up, ever. He isn't a very good storyteller, always includes even the most insignificant details and would bore me and others to death with endlessly long, uninteresting stories. He also doesn't seem to have a sense for when people aren't that interested (or just doesn't care, but I doubt that, he's a nice and caring person). We'd try to give him hints by doing the things others have listed ITT: overly short responses, body language, etc. It didn't help much, sadly, but we never could bring ourselves to tell him to stfu every once in a while.\n\nIf you have a suspicion what it might be that makes your friends don't want to hang out with you, you can go ahead and ask them about it directly. Maybe you're completely wrong and everything is fine. But if they are actually annoyed about something, they might be too polite to bring it up themselves. Showing them that you're aware something isn't right and are willing to do something about it might encourage them to open up and be honest with you. ", "If they're friends be upfront and ask what happened or if you're even doing anything. If you can't bring yourself to be honest they're not friends.", "Well, it's not easy. I struggle with this myself. A good tip would be to shut up, listen more, and let attention come to you (again, not always easy). If it does, you can be more certain they don't consider you a nuisance. And of course, it's hard to be annoying when silent. If they ask if somethings wrong because you are silent, just reassure them it's A OK. This kind of attention means they care enough to give a fuck.\n\nIf it's your mere presence you are worried about, try leaving their house, the scene, whatever, let them leave etc. If your presence is requested or even suggested to be slightly welcome (\"you can come too, if you want\"), again, you are on the right track. Be sure to still keep the above point in mind though.\n\nIf these two tips lead you down a lonely path, it might be time to reconsider your relationships and the people you (apparently don't) have them with.\n\nIn general, if you have someone you can confide in, don't be afraid to ask for feedback. It's normal to ask friends what they think other people think of us, and it's healthy to be moderately concerned about ones standing in order to reality check self-image and perhaps work on some improvements. But maybe not ask mom.\n\nGood luck!", "Short responses and minimal interaction are good indicators but someone standing facing 90 degrees (shoulder pointed at you) is a dead giveaway they want to pay attention elsewhere. ", "You're probably fine.\n\nThe reason I say this is because you are aware you might be a pain. In my experience annoying people are completely unaware of their actions, and would post something like \"Why do my friends not always realise how wonderful I am\".\n\nBut just ask them if you're worried", "One thing people have trouble picking up on: body language. Once you get in a habit of reading this, you can be more knowledgable of others' feelings at any given time. Things like avoiding eye contact, crossing arms and legs, not facing you with their body, giving short responses etc. would indicate you're annoying someone.", "My rule is... If I'm not certain that I'm not being a nuisance... Then I'm probably being a nuisance.\n\nGive people plenty of opportunities to bail from the interaction and they'll stay if they want.", "Give them permission to let you know when they think you are being a nuisance. If they are good friends, then they'll deliver the harsh reality check from time to time. Be good about accepting it and don't lash out/be defensive (else you won't have the friends for much longer).\n\nIf they aren't able to deliver the reality check then the ball was in their court so you have done all you could do. You cannot feel how they feel for them; that way lies madness.\n\nBut also, be a good friend and don't absolve yourself of being a decent person just because you asked them to call you on your shit if necessary." ]	[ 27, 8, 6, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Not Be Overbearing During a Debate/Argument I was raised by a hard-headed O'Reilly-esque father who believed in Victory by Volume, so I know how frustrating it is to argue/debate with someone like that, but yet I can't seem to help myself from doing the exact same thing. \n\nAs soon as I become impassioned about a subject I lower the pitch of my voice and turn up the volume and speed, making it nearly impossible for other people to get a word in. Then I convince myself that I must finish my train of thought if I'm going to convince anyone of my position, which causes me to spew out 100 smaller arguments within the context of a larger idea (this technique is known as the [Gish Gallop](http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Gish_Gallop)). Online it's not so bad b/c people can reread and quote what I've said, but IRL it makes it impossible for others to get a word in or have a constructive dialog. \n\nI hate that I do this and I'm looking for techniques to stop myself. \n\nWhatcha got, Reddit?", "How to Not Be Overbearing During a Debate/Argument I was raised by a hard-headed O'Reilly-esque father who believed in Victory by Volume, so I know how frustrating it is to argue/debate with someone like that, but yet I can't seem to help myself from doing the exact same thing. \n\nAs soon as I become impassioned about a subject I lower the pitch of my voice and turn up the volume and speed, making it nearly impossible for other people to get a word in. Then I convince myself that I must finish my train of thought if I'm going to convince anyone of my position, which causes me to spew out 100 smaller arguments within the context of a larger idea (this technique is known as the [Gish Gallop](http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Gish_Gallop)). Online it's not so bad b/c people can reread and quote what I've said, but IRL it makes it impossible for others to get a word in or have a constructive dialog. \n\nI hate that I do this and I'm looking for techniques to stop myself. \n\nWhatcha got, Reddit?", "How to Not Be Overbearing During a Debate/Argument I was raised by a hard-headed O'Reilly-esque father who believed in Victory by Volume, so I know how frustrating it is to argue/debate with someone like that, but yet I can't seem to help myself from doing the exact same thing. \n\nAs soon as I become impassioned about a subject I lower the pitch of my voice and turn up the volume and speed, making it nearly impossible for other people to get a word in. Then I convince myself that I must finish my train of thought if I'm going to convince anyone of my position, which causes me to spew out 100 smaller arguments within the context of a larger idea (this technique is known as the [Gish Gallop](http://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Gish_Gallop)). Online it's not so bad b/c people can reread and quote what I've said, but IRL it makes it impossible for others to get a word in or have a constructive dialog. \n\nI hate that I do this and I'm looking for techniques to stop myself. \n\nWhatcha got, Reddit?" ]	[ "Most importantly: know the purpose and the structure of an effective debate. If your debate fails either one of these, it is not effective, and you should back away.\n\nThe purpose of a debate is to argue a subjective opinion built upon objective facts to convince others your opinion is correct. If you try to argue a point whose only supporting evidence is other opinions you have, you should have a discussion instead, which is where you just discuss opinions in a relaxed manner.\n\nThe structure of a debate is \"point, counter-point, rebuttal\". State a single, specific opinion you have, then state some facts that surround it. Limit each fact to 30 seconds or so, and do not bring up multiple facts at once. Then, let your opponent respond to that fact. Then you can discuss your opponent's response, and segue onto the next fact.\n\nBreathe. Taking a deep breath is the best general advice I can give you. It punctuates your speech, calms you down, lets you gather your thoughts, and allows your opponent time to respond.\n\nRecognize your audience. You are almost never trying to convince the person you are debating with that you are right; you are convincing some third party, such as people listening to the discussion that you are right.\n\nPrepare your points. It is fine if to prove your point you must first say 100 other things, but you have to space them out, let people examine and question each one either individually or in small sets, and let them soak in. If you find yourself speaking until you are out of breath, make sure you take a nice long inhale, and then let your opponent speak about that.\n\nRemain calm and collected. If you get angry or even seem that way, people are less inclined to side with you. Speak level and slowly by practicing your breathing and not getting excited. If you hear your voice raising, take a deep breath.\n\nFinally, recognize when a debate is futile. If you are not getting anywhere, the other person is yelling, or they just aren't understanding what you are saying, sometimes it is best to just realize the person is not going to get it and to walk away or change the subject.", "Stop for a second step into the others shoes depending on the argument think how you got there why its important to you AND why it is important to them", "Easy....LISTEN. Actually listen to the person instead of trying to think of a way to prove them wrong, change their opinion, or control things. It will also let you naturally develop counterpoints. I guess that would make it more of a conversation than a debate or argument." ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with superglue (Cyanoacrylate) Someone please let me know how to deal with those stupid little tubes of superglue. \n\nI buy one, use literally one drop and then the whole tube can be thrown, because the stupid thing hardens up in the little funnel.\n\nOne can use the needle and puncture the tube itself, but that's it.\n\nAlso, anyone tried superglues one with the little brush? Is that better? Doesn't that harden up all the same?\n\nI'm sick and tired of buying quality glue (those chinese shit isn't as good, it loses cohesion and crumbles) and basically throwing it all away after one use.\n\nThanks!", "Dealing with superglue (Cyanoacrylate) Someone please let me know how to deal with those stupid little tubes of superglue. \n\nI buy one, use literally one drop and then the whole tube can be thrown, because the stupid thing hardens up in the little funnel.\n\nOne can use the needle and puncture the tube itself, but that's it.\n\nAlso, anyone tried superglues one with the little brush? Is that better? Doesn't that harden up all the same?\n\nI'm sick and tired of buying quality glue (those chinese shit isn't as good, it loses cohesion and crumbles) and basically throwing it all away after one use.\n\nThanks!", "Dealing with superglue (Cyanoacrylate) Someone please let me know how to deal with those stupid little tubes of superglue. \n\nI buy one, use literally one drop and then the whole tube can be thrown, because the stupid thing hardens up in the little funnel.\n\nOne can use the needle and puncture the tube itself, but that's it.\n\nAlso, anyone tried superglues one with the little brush? Is that better? Doesn't that harden up all the same?\n\nI'm sick and tired of buying quality glue (those chinese shit isn't as good, it loses cohesion and crumbles) and basically throwing it all away after one use.\n\nThanks!", "Dealing with superglue (Cyanoacrylate) Someone please let me know how to deal with those stupid little tubes of superglue. \n\nI buy one, use literally one drop and then the whole tube can be thrown, because the stupid thing hardens up in the little funnel.\n\nOne can use the needle and puncture the tube itself, but that's it.\n\nAlso, anyone tried superglues one with the little brush? Is that better? Doesn't that harden up all the same?\n\nI'm sick and tired of buying quality glue (those chinese shit isn't as good, it loses cohesion and crumbles) and basically throwing it all away after one use.\n\nThanks!", "Dealing with superglue (Cyanoacrylate) Someone please let me know how to deal with those stupid little tubes of superglue. \n\nI buy one, use literally one drop and then the whole tube can be thrown, because the stupid thing hardens up in the little funnel.\n\nOne can use the needle and puncture the tube itself, but that's it.\n\nAlso, anyone tried superglues one with the little brush? Is that better? Doesn't that harden up all the same?\n\nI'm sick and tired of buying quality glue (those chinese shit isn't as good, it loses cohesion and crumbles) and basically throwing it all away after one use.\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "First off, go to the automotive section of your local walmart and get the permatex brand glue. You get four small tubes for $1. Much better bargain than any others in the store. There's a top and a cap for each one. Coat the top with a little bit of oil, then screw the cap on. Keep the tubes upright. I either hang them on the wall in the packaging they came in or put them in a shot glass. When needed the oil helps the cap come off easily and if you only go through 1/2 a tube, you're not out but a few cents. Good product too. If you have larger areas to glue that have some space try using some baking soda to fill the space, then add a drop of glue. It's like cement.", "I have found superglue with the little brush to be much better. I have a bottle I've been using for at least 6 months now and is just starting to get stringy. I use the Loctite brush on super glue, that's the one I've had good luck with. ", "Pay attention to close it properly so air doesnt get in and also keep it cooled in a refrigerator.\n\nHope it helps", "LPT: don't confuse a tube of superglue and a tube of lubricant.\n\nSource: not me, never, no sir, never ever.\n", "I have found that if I blow into the tube to clear the nozzle and then stand the tube up I'll get a few more next times. I certainly don't expect to ever throw away an empty tube though!" ]	[ 4, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of these fuzz balls on my shirt? This isn't lint, they are [little balls of fuzz](https://imgur.com/a/XozNS) actually attached to my shirt. Lint roller won't work. Suggestions?", "How to get rid of these fuzz balls on my shirt? This isn't lint, they are [little balls of fuzz](https://imgur.com/a/XozNS) actually attached to my shirt. Lint roller won't work. Suggestions?", "How to get rid of these fuzz balls on my shirt? This isn't lint, they are [little balls of fuzz](https://imgur.com/a/XozNS) actually attached to my shirt. Lint roller won't work. Suggestions?", "How to get rid of these fuzz balls on my shirt? This isn't lint, they are [little balls of fuzz](https://imgur.com/a/XozNS) actually attached to my shirt. Lint roller won't work. Suggestions?", "How to get rid of these fuzz balls on my shirt? This isn't lint, they are [little balls of fuzz](https://imgur.com/a/XozNS) actually attached to my shirt. Lint roller won't work. Suggestions?" ]	[ "Buy an [electric fuzz remover](http://www.amazon.com/Home-Clothes-Remover-Electric-Cordless/dp/B00FKANXTU).", "Supposedly you can shave those off with a regular razor.\n\nDisclaimer: I've never actually tried this tip. ", "Yes! I think they're also called \"sweater shavers\" (really). I got one at Wal-Mart - this one specifically: http://www.walmart.com/ip/Evercare-Giant-Fabric-Shaver/17244003\n\nTypically they take a couple small batteries (AAA) + you just want to be sure you've laid the part of the shirt you're tidying up FLAT on another solid surface. It's surprisingly satisfying. :-)", "For the record, I believe that's called 'pilling', the little balls of fuzz that build up from fabrics rubbing against themselves.", "Cotton seems soft, but at a closer look it has many small \"hooks\" sticking out from the fabric. Polyester on the other hand is synthetic and almost perfect. Rubbing the two materials together will result in fuzzballs. The cotton works like velcro hooks on the polyester and creating the fuzz balls. \n\nThe trick is to never wash polyester and cotton together." ]	[ 5, 4, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to save money with food at work and lunch ideas that are cheap and easy to make. I spend a fair amount of money each month buying lunch at work and i'd like to hear peoples suggestions and tips for things I can make for lunch to save a bit of money and perhaps eat a little better than I am doing.\n\nI've made simple things before... sandwiches, chicken pasta salad... but i'm still getting used to the whole kitchen thing, so the easier to make the better to be honest.\n\nThanks!", "How to save money with food at work and lunch ideas that are cheap and easy to make. I spend a fair amount of money each month buying lunch at work and i'd like to hear peoples suggestions and tips for things I can make for lunch to save a bit of money and perhaps eat a little better than I am doing.\n\nI've made simple things before... sandwiches, chicken pasta salad... but i'm still getting used to the whole kitchen thing, so the easier to make the better to be honest.\n\nThanks!", "How to save money with food at work and lunch ideas that are cheap and easy to make. I spend a fair amount of money each month buying lunch at work and i'd like to hear peoples suggestions and tips for things I can make for lunch to save a bit of money and perhaps eat a little better than I am doing.\n\nI've made simple things before... sandwiches, chicken pasta salad... but i'm still getting used to the whole kitchen thing, so the easier to make the better to be honest.\n\nThanks!", "How to save money with food at work and lunch ideas that are cheap and easy to make. I spend a fair amount of money each month buying lunch at work and i'd like to hear peoples suggestions and tips for things I can make for lunch to save a bit of money and perhaps eat a little better than I am doing.\n\nI've made simple things before... sandwiches, chicken pasta salad... but i'm still getting used to the whole kitchen thing, so the easier to make the better to be honest.\n\nThanks!", "How to save money with food at work and lunch ideas that are cheap and easy to make. I spend a fair amount of money each month buying lunch at work and i'd like to hear peoples suggestions and tips for things I can make for lunch to save a bit of money and perhaps eat a little better than I am doing.\n\nI've made simple things before... sandwiches, chicken pasta salad... but i'm still getting used to the whole kitchen thing, so the easier to make the better to be honest.\n\nThanks!" ]	[ "These are my staples, which I mix and match depending on how much I plan on eating:\n\n-a container with a nice hearty soup (i like ham and pea ;p), or even the more expensive single serving version\n\n-individual (or not) containers of hummus or other dips, with some pita bread, baby tomatoes.\n\n-leftovers! whatever you ate last night. \n\n-cans of salmon (or tuna)\n\n-pre cut chunks of fruit (bought or you can do this yourself to save cash)\n\n-fresh veggies - carrots, tomatoes, celery, broccoli,\n\n-I like to have fibre bars around for lunches and snacks\n\nMy best suggestion is start cooking delicious healthy meals for supper, and making a bit extra for leftovers. It's super cheap, and you'll always have something tasty! Plus it encourages you to cook your evening meals :)\n", "Make 5 portions of rice and put them all in small tupper ware containers, rice goes great with everything and it's cheap, just prepare 2-3 different meats to take with a rice every day, slice up broccoli, cauliflower and carrots and make 5 sandwich bags of the veggies and have a water bottle (Winners sells great reusable ones) - cost effective meal for the week - also, google a recipe to make homemade granola bars in a big baking pan, best snacks ever! The key to savings and eating healthy is planning/preparing meals ahead of time, take a couple hours every Sunday to prepare your meals from Monday to Friday, also, baking soda in the fridge will help keep it fresh, this will literally take you 2 hours a week to accomplish and will save you a lot of cash, time and effort. When you get sick of rice, make potatoes or pasta. Pieces of chicken breast work great too! They keep in the fridge for the work week and go with everything, buy a pork tenderloin and use that - take these same ingredients, add lettuce and cheese and make a wrap or two throughout the week to switch it up (rice in wraps is good!) ", "You could try 6 oz baked chicken, 1 cup of brown rice, 1/2-2/3 cup of peas and 1/2 -3/4 cup of corn. That's my default meal.", "One hardboiled egg, one apple, 2 grilled bacon slices. Chop them up and add to a bed of fresh baby spinach. Bring your desired dressing with it in a small pot. You can cook the eggs and bacon in ten mins whilst you get ready in the morning (extra tip - you can't easily over-boil the egg). Easy, healthy, and filling! Try other fruits if you want, and you can sub leftover meat for bacon too. just be aware some fruit might spoil quick, so it may be worth chopping it at work. For apples and bananas (and probably other fleshy fruit), you can coat them in 1:1 solution of water and lemon juice to stop them browning before adding them.", "I eat breakfast at work every morning although you can probably do this for lunch too. I have a rice cooker and precook (because it takes two hours with my rice cooker) 2 cups of BROWN rice. Brown is important because of the rest of the ingredients. Cook two eggs and throw them in the rice, along with 1/2 cup of shredded cheddar cheese. Done. The containers that I use are longer and kind of flat so I can throw a fork in there with the eggy,cheesy rice mess. Its wonderful and very filling." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove new plastic 6-pack can holder without making your nails bleed. The new plastic 6-pack holders suck and ruin my nails. What's your best way of removing cans from these things?\n\nPicture of new 6pack holders\n\nhttp://sfbrewersguild.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Pine-Street-Brewery-Canning-3.jpg\n\n", "How to remove new plastic 6-pack can holder without making your nails bleed. The new plastic 6-pack holders suck and ruin my nails. What's your best way of removing cans from these things?\n\nPicture of new 6pack holders\n\nhttp://sfbrewersguild.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Pine-Street-Brewery-Canning-3.jpg\n\n", "How to remove new plastic 6-pack can holder without making your nails bleed. The new plastic 6-pack holders suck and ruin my nails. What's your best way of removing cans from these things?\n\nPicture of new 6pack holders\n\nhttp://sfbrewersguild.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Pine-Street-Brewery-Canning-3.jpg\n\n" ]	[ "Grab the can and rotate it as though you were trying to turn it upside down. It takes some force but removes your fingernails from the equation.", "I know this isn't the answer you want to hear, but I'll say it anyway. Don't buy 6-packs of beer which have plastic holders. Either you buy beer in other packaging or stop drinking beer (drink wine or spirits or juice or water). You don't have to subject yourself and your nails to the beer & it's plastic holders.", "A knife! Cut away from the can.....but not like directly towards your body either. \n\nWeigh the pros and cons of what you'd rather slice. " ]	[ 6, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "how to make someone who is talking bad about me behind my back to stop? Context: we were quite friends as we arrived in the company at the same time and managed several projects together and had very nice teamwork. But I changed job within the same company and got promoted several time, and i think she got jealous. Several people reported me that she said mean and unjustified things about me (like I screwed a project that she know I wasn't even involved in, or that \"i don't deliver\") and it is harming my reputation.\n\nI want to find a way to stop it without becoming open enemies or antagonizing her. I actually still hope we can become friends as before but I doubt it unfortunately.", "how to make someone who is talking bad about me behind my back to stop? Context: we were quite friends as we arrived in the company at the same time and managed several projects together and had very nice teamwork. But I changed job within the same company and got promoted several time, and i think she got jealous. Several people reported me that she said mean and unjustified things about me (like I screwed a project that she know I wasn't even involved in, or that \"i don't deliver\") and it is harming my reputation.\n\nI want to find a way to stop it without becoming open enemies or antagonizing her. I actually still hope we can become friends as before but I doubt it unfortunately." ]	[ "Uhhh, confront the person and stop being socially inept and anxious about confrontations. Call that bitch out. ", "So, when you were lower on the totem pole, she respected you. Now you're in a position that requires more respect than she is willing to give you. The only way to stop her talking shit while retaining her friendship is to regain her respect. People naturally develop respect for one another over time, but she'll continue talking shit between now and then. \n\nShe's envious and has lost sight of your friendship. I'd consider that forgivable and understandable. The quickest way to regain her respect is to confront her. \n\nPull her aside in private and tell her she's talking bad about you behind your back and you know and you want an explanation. If she lies, tell her you don't care if she denies it, you'll believe she's talking shit no matter what she says, and you still want to know why. If she can't provide an explanation, just tell her that she's hurting your feelings and you're sorry it's come to this, but you'll be willing to forgive her when she wants to be friends again. After that, treat her like just a coworker, no longer a friend. \n\nOn the flip side, if she has some balls and tells you off, consider that a huge positive. This allows you to become friends, even if her claws come out and she actually hits you in the feelings. Maybe she really thinks you're a piece of shit. Only a real friend will tear into you when you're in the wrong. Take her criticism as a gift and change what you can about yourself. Who knows, she might have some valid points. Just don't let it get you down. You were the one who wanted to be friends again, so you asked for it.\n\nEither way, what you're experiencing is a common phenomenon among equals when one progresses beyond the rest. It's a natural human reaction that you're gonna learn to deal with if you keep getting promoted. You'll have to earn respect all over again to prove you deserve your new position. People respect humility, composure, and dedication. If you can stay humble, that's the biggest one. If you can take the heat with grace and stay composed, that's pretty big too. If you can show as much dedication as you ask of your subordinates, you'll reap what you sew. These are my best tips to earn respect." ]	[ 11, 4 ]	safe
[ "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!", "How to stimulate my brain and pass time during boring job I have a job working at an immersive museum, which shows a bunch of videos playing on a loop, projected onto the walls and the floor. My job mostly consists of standing around in the galleries, in the dark, making sure no customers are breaking social distanciation measures, and watching and listening to the same videos on a loop. \n\nI started working there in February and I am already exhausted. Not only do I have to listen to the same sentences repeated over and over all day long, but I also have to stay standing up the whole time, I have no one to talk to, and I’m not allowed to listen to music or do anything to keep myself stimulated. I end my shifts physically exhausted from standing around in one place (I try to walk around but I can’t stray too far from my position) all day, and absolutely braindead from hearing the same noises and seeing the same visuals on repeat. I also have ADHD, making the whole experience that much more tedious and making every shift feel like it will never end.\n\nI also find it really disappointing that I could be using this time to do something somehow productive. It just feels weird to be this exhausted from a job that is essentially useless.\n\nI wonder if there is anything I could do to entertain myself, to keep myself stimulated during my shifts. I am not allowed books or any electronic device. I am however allowed to have a pocket-sized notebook and a pen (but no flat surfaces to write on, I basically have to write with the notebook in the palm of my hand which is uncomfortable). Any suggestions are welcome!" ]	[ "Think really long and hard about how to get a new job. \n\nWrite great cover letter and resume thoughts and sentences in your notebook. Note all the times you went above and beyond at work. Mentally answer interview questions. \n\nSorry, that's all I have for you.", "Since you're able to have a small notebook maybe you could print out a few puzzles or activities and paste them in there. World scrambles, suduko, crossword puzzles. You could make lists in it too.", "I'd suggest looking up some pen and paper puzzles you can draw in the book and work on during your shift, there's a lot out there brain teasers and the like remember that house with the X in it and the challange was to draw it without taking your pen off the paper? Also sudoku etc other puzzles include a box challange, mazes heck get a ruler you could even copy crosswords into it. \n\nA final note pretend you are an author make notes about the customers that come in as character insperation try sketching them? Make up back stories for them, none around how about a back story for the narrator? Or even the very building you are in think scps\n\n", "Do other people have similar jobs in your museum but in different sections? Perhaps you all could rotate around with one another every other day? Im sure they are just as bored as you are. Talk with em and then approach your boss with some new ideas. Also ask for a chair or stool", "Yeah dude that's like solitary confinement with the loop videos some consider that straight torture. Get out, sounds shitty there. That's one of those \"just need a pulse and a pair of eyes\" kind of jobs. Maybe sneak an earphone in and put it in sporadically.", "My job puts me in a similar position sometimes. It may sound dumb, but I think of my to-do list, future plans, and visualize different places I’ve been. Good luck!", "Try exercising. Don't need any equipment. Do squats/sit-ups/push-ups/etc.\n\nAlso: Try and find another job. It doesn't seem like it's for you, doing anything for you. Try and contact people to shadow them, or for an internship, etc for another job.", "When I volunteered for similar role - talking to visitors or co-workers certainly help & got to know so many life stories.", "Make plans in your head. If you play D&D, think of story arcs and characters. If you knit, start designing a color work sweater. Think of a fan fiction or house you want to design . All this thought out and then notes to remember into your notebook.", "If its that bad to u i would suggest finding some diferent job, one that includes more social interaction, like in a cafe" ]	[ 20, 12, 6, 5, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I start looking genuinely happy? I was working at a festival last week and had a blast. Anyways there's some photos with me in the background or anywhere, just as in, not the center of attention, and I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case that wasn't how it was at all on that festival, I was genuinely happy, and I was wondering if there's something I can do to try avoid looking like that on photos.\n\nI believe that on this topic there are some threads already: Similar on group selfies or so, I usually have my mouth closed, and it just looks really forced and out of place between the other people. Even when I'm having fun. I feel like it would look even more faked if I forced my mouth open and show my teeth while smiling, other folks do it and it looks good but I'm thinking, if I remind myself now to forcefully open my mouth, no way its not going to look staged.\n\n", "How do I start looking genuinely happy? I was working at a festival last week and had a blast. Anyways there's some photos with me in the background or anywhere, just as in, not the center of attention, and I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case that wasn't how it was at all on that festival, I was genuinely happy, and I was wondering if there's something I can do to try avoid looking like that on photos.\n\nI believe that on this topic there are some threads already: Similar on group selfies or so, I usually have my mouth closed, and it just looks really forced and out of place between the other people. Even when I'm having fun. I feel like it would look even more faked if I forced my mouth open and show my teeth while smiling, other folks do it and it looks good but I'm thinking, if I remind myself now to forcefully open my mouth, no way its not going to look staged.\n\n", "How do I start looking genuinely happy? I was working at a festival last week and had a blast. Anyways there's some photos with me in the background or anywhere, just as in, not the center of attention, and I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case that wasn't how it was at all on that festival, I was genuinely happy, and I was wondering if there's something I can do to try avoid looking like that on photos.\n\nI believe that on this topic there are some threads already: Similar on group selfies or so, I usually have my mouth closed, and it just looks really forced and out of place between the other people. Even when I'm having fun. I feel like it would look even more faked if I forced my mouth open and show my teeth while smiling, other folks do it and it looks good but I'm thinking, if I remind myself now to forcefully open my mouth, no way its not going to look staged.\n\n", "How do I start looking genuinely happy? I was working at a festival last week and had a blast. Anyways there's some photos with me in the background or anywhere, just as in, not the center of attention, and I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case that wasn't how it was at all on that festival, I was genuinely happy, and I was wondering if there's something I can do to try avoid looking like that on photos.\n\nI believe that on this topic there are some threads already: Similar on group selfies or so, I usually have my mouth closed, and it just looks really forced and out of place between the other people. Even when I'm having fun. I feel like it would look even more faked if I forced my mouth open and show my teeth while smiling, other folks do it and it looks good but I'm thinking, if I remind myself now to forcefully open my mouth, no way its not going to look staged.\n\n", "How do I start looking genuinely happy? I was working at a festival last week and had a blast. Anyways there's some photos with me in the background or anywhere, just as in, not the center of attention, and I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case that wasn't how it was at all on that festival, I was genuinely happy, and I was wondering if there's something I can do to try avoid looking like that on photos.\n\nI believe that on this topic there are some threads already: Similar on group selfies or so, I usually have my mouth closed, and it just looks really forced and out of place between the other people. Even when I'm having fun. I feel like it would look even more faked if I forced my mouth open and show my teeth while smiling, other folks do it and it looks good but I'm thinking, if I remind myself now to forcefully open my mouth, no way its not going to look staged.\n\n" ]	[ "Same thing here, most pictures ever taken of me in fun environments would make you think I'm battling severe constipation.\n\nI wouldn't worry about it so much. \n\nSome people just have better smiles or open expressions than others. \n\nMemories are way more important than pictures and if you had a great time you had a great time.\n\nBut yeah, if it is concerning you, training yourself to open your mouth when smiling might not hurt. Listen to a really funny comedy monologue and webcam-record yourself while smiling, maybe. See how that looks. ", "Supposedly smiling alone can boost your happiness/ mood. Try giving a smirk or something small and it may just help. Being open with yourself emotionally, remembering to open your eyes that little bit wider to the world.\n\nSource: was same as OP", "Squint your eyes a tad. I find out when I put on a mask and greet patients I smile 'with my eyes' as they want see my mouth.\n\nAlso Google: difference between real and fake smile. Not saying you smile fake, but if you can pull off a 'real-looking one' then you stand a chance of appearing happier than your picture shows you to be.", "I generally identify fake smiles or forced smiles as ones where people don't smile with their eyes. They will put on a smile with their mouth, as that's generally easy to fake, but they do not put the effort into pushing up their cheeks and squinting their eyes. Also those forced smiles usually involve people clenching their teeth together while more out-going smiles have them apart. \n\nThese are just my observations, not advice. I would advise you to be comfortable with yourself and don't feel like you need to smile any certain way. You know that you were genuinely having a great time and no one should tell you otherwise. \n\nAlso, it's perfectly fine to be unhappy and, for me at least, acknowledging it sometimes helps me figure out how I can make myself feel better instead of bashing myself because I'm not feeling someway or another. This bit was in regards to the \"I kinda look like I'm feeling terrible and just doing my best to look happy/smile. And although that sometimes is the case\" comment. \n\nI think you're a great person and I hope this helps!", "I also rarely laugh/smile. If you have a fun memory, or experience you really enjoyed, thinking about that may help (when I was a kid I couldn't stop...)\n\nIf not, you can always just do the eye-squinting smile or try and make yourself or others laugh. Making other people smile helps make you smile." ]	[ 5, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Is there an easy effective way to remove snow and ice from driveways and sidewalks that's better than ordinary ice melters? (comment has details) I'm asking for an older man who isn't really able to use a snow blower very easily. He has high blood pressure, and shouldn't strain himself. A heated driveway is too expensive. I've thought about propane torches and steam cleaners, but don't know how effective they'd be (or safe). Does anyone have any ideas?", "Is there an easy effective way to remove snow and ice from driveways and sidewalks that's better than ordinary ice melters? (comment has details) I'm asking for an older man who isn't really able to use a snow blower very easily. He has high blood pressure, and shouldn't strain himself. A heated driveway is too expensive. I've thought about propane torches and steam cleaners, but don't know how effective they'd be (or safe). Does anyone have any ideas?", "Is there an easy effective way to remove snow and ice from driveways and sidewalks that's better than ordinary ice melters? (comment has details) I'm asking for an older man who isn't really able to use a snow blower very easily. He has high blood pressure, and shouldn't strain himself. A heated driveway is too expensive. I've thought about propane torches and steam cleaners, but don't know how effective they'd be (or safe). Does anyone have any ideas?" ]	[ "Yeah, his name is Justin. He lives 2 houses down and couldn't be more thrilled that his school closed today.", "Yeah just hire a kid, say be there every time I need you and get a bonus in September, and for each time I need you I'll pay x.", "There are kids that have accepted the 50 yard challenge to either mow, rake, or shovel snow for the elderly free of charge. [You can make a request here](https://weareraisingmen.com/service/) and if they serve the area they will help out.\n\n" ]	[ 5, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to manage paper mail effectively I do a poor job at processing paper based mail. Most of my correspondences are electronic but some organizations do send me paper mail. I don't even open most of them. The ones I open, I tend to read and leave it on my desk. I have old mail going back years. \n \nI purchased a Fujitsu sheet fed scanner to scan and archive my paper mail. I hardly ever use it. I am really good at staying organized in other areas of my life. My work and personal email inboxes are always empty -- inbox zero. I tend to be emotionally detached from most inanimate objects. It is something about paper mail that just makes me want to ignore it. \n \nAny tips will be appreciated. ", "how to manage paper mail effectively I do a poor job at processing paper based mail. Most of my correspondences are electronic but some organizations do send me paper mail. I don't even open most of them. The ones I open, I tend to read and leave it on my desk. I have old mail going back years. \n \nI purchased a Fujitsu sheet fed scanner to scan and archive my paper mail. I hardly ever use it. I am really good at staying organized in other areas of my life. My work and personal email inboxes are always empty -- inbox zero. I tend to be emotionally detached from most inanimate objects. It is something about paper mail that just makes me want to ignore it. \n \nAny tips will be appreciated. " ]	[ "I used to do something similar where I would set my mail aside to look at it later and later would never come. I eventually sorted through what I had until I got rid of it all. Now I keep my recycling bin near my front door. When I get home from work, I toss the garbage (most of my mail) right into the recycling and try to open everything that seems important on the porch (unless it's unwieldy, or the weather is bad, etc.) Some things I will obviously have to bring inside to deal with later, but I find it easier to remember to do and to focus on since I have already determined ahead of time what it is and the fact that it is important. \n \nAlso, say I fall behind on a bill or something, once I get the next bill from the company, I toss out all old mail I had sitting around that was from that company because I know all the information that was in it is contained in the most recent envelope, including any past due balances.", "A lot of people avoid mail like the plague because most of it is crap. When you bring it in, divide it into three piles:\n\nFirst pile is spam. Ads for things there's no way you're buying. This pile goes in the trash.\n\nSecond pile is stuff you would consider responding to. Things you might buy, catalogues you might read... Put this where you go when you're perusing stuff. For most people I'd say the couch or desk. If you haven't been tempted to look at or act on it in a week, trash it.\n\nLast pile are priority items, things you actually need to respond to. Personal or professional correspondence, etc. This goes wherever you do your work and where you'll be sure to see it and get it done. If there's anything you want to save for future reference after you've acted on it, scan it in or file it." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance", "What is the best way to defend myself and my family from a burglar/criminal? So yesterday a burglar tried to attack my cousin and break into their house (their home is under ours). Thankfully she fled, then he circled around the house and got into our garden. I was walking in as I saw him leaving through a parallel alley (the alleys are 10meters apart).. I panicked and yelled so much and the only thought I had is \"he have a huge rock in his hand, he's gonna overpower me\" .. so I ran up to our house, grabbed a big knife and got back down.. he was gone (it was a matter of 20-30seconds).. but he vanished... cops came later and circled the whole neighborhood but they found nothing..\n\nI should note that he wasn't scared or anything.. he was literally strolling.. walking slowly but firmly.. even when I was yelling.. he was walking with the same pace when he tried to attack my cousin.\n\nI'm a 27yo male, I'm overweight (140kg), relatively slow reactions.\n\nAccording to you, what i should've done? How was I supposed to behave and deal with it?\n\nI can't stop seeing him in my mind.. and I get a panic attack each time that I think of him.. all the harm that he was willing to do.. all the things that could've gone wrong..\n\nPlease I need answers.. I'm still terrified.\nThank you in advance" ]	[ "Honestly, you get the attacker to leave or YOU leave. \n\nI would feel comfortable fighting an attacker (took MMA as an adult) and my goal is to get the fuck out of the situation.\n\nSomeone that is strolling probably knows how to fight much better than you. And if they bring a gun to a knife fight your fucked.", "There are so many laws that limits what you can do depending on where you live. You might want to check in with your local police to see what you can do.", "If you can’t or don’t want a gun. Which is fine we don’t want people with guns that don’t want them… get some high end pepper spray, alarm, taser, or bear horn. Just random thoughts. \n\nAlso if you don’t have kids or loved ones in the house retreat and call the police is always a great idea.", "my 111 pound chocolate labrador, dog, handled all my security needs, R.I.P. never locked a door. you do Not step over the threshold with a good dog on duty... good luck for next time.", "Wouldnt bother grabbing a knife, just means that if you where to \"lose\" the confrontation that your getting stabbed instead of just beaten up.", "If you are IN a situation like this and can't avoid it, yell and scream HELP to get as much attention as possible. Act crazy yourself. If you have kids in the house have them lock themselves in a bathroom or out a safe exit to a neighbors IF you know its safe and call for help. Keep an eye on the guy and grab anything to use as a weapon. Sounds like this guy may have been on drugs and while scary probably wouldn't attack you but assume they will. I would grab a broom and a kitchen knife if you don't have a gun. Bats don't work like in movies usually. \nIf kids and others safely evac follow them.", "I'm guessing guns are very difficult to procure where you are. If at all possible, get a gun and learn to use it. There isn't anything that comes close to the sense of safety a gun provides.", "I got one of those security system yard signs for my house. I also suggest solid doors with either no window or with a small window high up in the door. Make sure your windows have locks. Motion floodlights will also help. Remove any landscaping that could keep neighbors from seeing your house, especially your front door. The entire goal is not to make your house impossible to break into but to make it look harder than your neighbors' house.\n\nI have nothing against guns and that would be a step that I would take after training on proper use, the goal should be to deter the confrontation from happening. Guns are only useful once the interaction has begun. I would suggest a shotgun. Risk is lower with what is behind the target and close enough works.", "Get a gun. Even in most restrictive nations like the UK and Australia you can usually get a shotgun, which is the ideal home defense tool. It has plenty of stopping power, but a relatively short lethal range and not much penetration power.\n\nIf you're somewhere that completely outlaws guns for civilians, get a dog.", "Buy a pepper spray and take (", "Move.\n\nOr get some big-dog paraphernalia, like chew bones and a food dish, and keep it visible. Maybe even a recording of deep barks to play if creep comes back.", "If you are in your house at the time someone is breaking in, that becomes a home invasion which is a much more violent crime. At the end of the day, burglary is a property crime where you're not present at the time and your property is stolen (that's if it's from inside your house). \n\nI would suggest the same things people are suggesting here - self defense courses, surveillance cameras/alarms for around your property, dogs, and a gun if you feel so inclined (make sure you take proper gun safety courses and whatnot).", "Real shit, you gotta lose weight first off. Second, maybe learn yourself some self defense. All you really need is a good sucker punch and 40 yard dash.", "I see all the \"get a gun\" comments. Personally, I have a friend (due to jobs) that has shot people. \n\nHe's always said, \"having a gun is useless because most people freeze when having to shoot someone\" but in that second the intruder already shot you. \n\nHe also always has said, most people won't use their gun unless they feel it's the only way out. So don't get a gun and point it at someone without fully being ready to kill." ]	[ 16, 8, 7, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static.", "How to discharge static electricity and prevent small shocks I get shocked all the time during winter and I'd like to know if there's a sure-fire way to discharge the static." ]	[ "I work at a TV station and have had to deal with the small shocks for years. I've gotten myself into the habit of knocking on a piece of metal before touching it. In my work there are metal racks that house all of the different equipment so I usually go for those. You don't have to hit anything hard, just a quick tap with your knuckles like you are knocking on a door gently. It's hard enough that you don't feel the shock at all, you don't have to be bothered with having a key in your hand all the time and after awhile it will become a habit.", "As an addendum to this, always discharge yourself on your vehicle door before you refuel your car in the winter, especially if you've gotten back in while the fuel is pumping. If you produce a spark at the filler neck you risk starting a fire.\n ", "If your shocks come mostly at home, you need a humidifier.\nIf your shocks come mostly in your office, you need a little humidifier.\nPick up your feet while walking, especially on carpet.\nPet the cat and shock him instead. \n", "Hold an all metal key firmly in your fingertips. Then touch it to something metal. Discharge complete.", "Spray fabric softener on your carpets. It helps prevent the creation of static electricity.\n\nYou can also carry something like a paperclip and touch it first to anything that normally shocks you. You'll pass the static electricity, but you won't feel it because the arc only occurs between the metal objects.", "I always touch something with my elbow first so if there is a shock it is to the elbow where it doesn't hurt at all.", "What about clothing and blankets? \n\n Our house is very dry in the winter and I don't want a humidifier. We also dont use many chemicals like fabric softener or fabreeze. I have a can of that anti static spray that I use when I'm really ticked off but it's expensive. For awhile I was gripping the clothing/blankets and grounding myself to metal while I shook and rubbed the cloth around. It worked but was annoying. ", "For whatever reason i get shocked all the time, so I started carrying a key with me at all times. If I hold the key in the usual fashion (broad end in my fingers) and touch the tip to anything metal (if connected to the ground), the energy of the shock gets dissipated and I hardly feel it at all.\n\nSide point, if you approach the metal object slowly and in a dark room you can see a 5 mm long spark or more sometimes. " ]	[ 7, 7, 6, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Roaches in the ... DISHWASHER? First time a few month ago i saw this fat bugger maybe 1-1.5 inches long, fat! I opened my dishwasher and i saw a slightly dark brown thing scurry around the dishes. In shock, I recoiled because gross. then that bitch ended up somewhere i couldnt see. I swore i saw his antennae behind some dishes but i had to get a plan to kill since i didnt want to barehand crush it. came back quickly later, took everything out the the dishwasher, bitch was gone. maybe i was nuts? i checked everywhere there, didnt see a fat bug. hmm\n\ntoday i saw it again. definitely a fat roach. but again, another recoil and another disappearing act. I did notice a small pvc pipe hole that seems to lead to the .. under-cabinet sink? not sure why its even there. but the hole is small and i didnt think the cockroach would be able to get in there. yet the roach is gone so im not sure anymore. \n\nWTF do i do? need a LPT from the good people in LPT\n\nTLDR: saw cockroach twice in several months in my DISHWASHER that i never use but store dishes, both disappeared after 30s to find something to kill it. no idea where it went but its defienitely somewhere. big fat brown darkbrown. how to fix the problem?", "Roaches in the ... DISHWASHER? First time a few month ago i saw this fat bugger maybe 1-1.5 inches long, fat! I opened my dishwasher and i saw a slightly dark brown thing scurry around the dishes. In shock, I recoiled because gross. then that bitch ended up somewhere i couldnt see. I swore i saw his antennae behind some dishes but i had to get a plan to kill since i didnt want to barehand crush it. came back quickly later, took everything out the the dishwasher, bitch was gone. maybe i was nuts? i checked everywhere there, didnt see a fat bug. hmm\n\ntoday i saw it again. definitely a fat roach. but again, another recoil and another disappearing act. I did notice a small pvc pipe hole that seems to lead to the .. under-cabinet sink? not sure why its even there. but the hole is small and i didnt think the cockroach would be able to get in there. yet the roach is gone so im not sure anymore. \n\nWTF do i do? need a LPT from the good people in LPT\n\nTLDR: saw cockroach twice in several months in my DISHWASHER that i never use but store dishes, both disappeared after 30s to find something to kill it. no idea where it went but its defienitely somewhere. big fat brown darkbrown. how to fix the problem?", "Roaches in the ... DISHWASHER? First time a few month ago i saw this fat bugger maybe 1-1.5 inches long, fat! I opened my dishwasher and i saw a slightly dark brown thing scurry around the dishes. In shock, I recoiled because gross. then that bitch ended up somewhere i couldnt see. I swore i saw his antennae behind some dishes but i had to get a plan to kill since i didnt want to barehand crush it. came back quickly later, took everything out the the dishwasher, bitch was gone. maybe i was nuts? i checked everywhere there, didnt see a fat bug. hmm\n\ntoday i saw it again. definitely a fat roach. but again, another recoil and another disappearing act. I did notice a small pvc pipe hole that seems to lead to the .. under-cabinet sink? not sure why its even there. but the hole is small and i didnt think the cockroach would be able to get in there. yet the roach is gone so im not sure anymore. \n\nWTF do i do? need a LPT from the good people in LPT\n\nTLDR: saw cockroach twice in several months in my DISHWASHER that i never use but store dishes, both disappeared after 30s to find something to kill it. no idea where it went but its defienitely somewhere. big fat brown darkbrown. how to fix the problem?" ]	[ "Yeah, my exactly thoughts: run the dishwasher on a high temperature. And maybe put some detergent especially for cleaning and sanitizing the dishwasher.\n\nMaybe clean the area very good, keep the dishes somewhere else for a couple of days, put some bug spray and after that really clean and rinse everything.", "You may want to call a plumber. I suspect there is something wrong with a drain pipe where critters can get in because there isn't a water barrier. ", "Had the same thing happen. After sanitizing the dishwasher and spraying for bugs, we ended up calling plumbers who pulled the entire dishwasher unit out. Found a nest of roaches who had set up shop between the countertop and the top of the unit. They ended up destroying the mechanics of the dishwasher. Threw the entire nasty mess out. Shame. It was a great dishwasher. " ]	[ 5, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well.", "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well.", "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well.", "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well.", "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well.", "How to be more of a social butterfly I'm not completely socially awkward, but I find myself uncomfortable in most social situations. If interactions with women would be appreciated as well." ]	[ "As much as you may think im kidding, practice! When i graduated high school i was in the same boat you were, not really socially awkward, but uncomfortable. The more you throw yourself into these situations, the more accustomed you will get. I went from having little charisma, to having it as one of my dominant traits (according to my friends from back then).\n\nIf you need a way to keep a conversation going or starting one, I use the following method. Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams (FORD). and as you talk ask questions based on their responses. \n\nSilence is only awkward if you feel like it is. silence is a normal in conversation, and you just have to get used to it. If the other person finds the silence awkward, they will try to break it themselves.\n\nFinally, i recommend going over to /r/howtonotgiveafuck and slogging through some of their posts about conversation. ", "I'm married to someone who struggles with this, so I am happy to share some of the strategies we use to combat nerves in social situations. \n\nAs another poster said, practice is very important. If you're nervous around people, the only way that's going to go away is by doing it frequently. But preparation is important too. Be up on your local news - is your mayor embroiled in a crack smoking scandal, or does your city have a public transit crisis? Have an opinion and listen to the opinions of others. You'll learn new things as well as the art of making conversation comfortably. \n\nWhen you meet people, have a few answers prepared for questions that they're likely to ask. People will ask about your job - be able to tell them two interesting things about it and always keep an anecdote in your back pocket about something weird that happened there or a favourite customer or coworker. Funny or positive stories are more likely to get a positive response. Giving some thought to stories like this before they come up means you won't feel put on the spot. You may feel a little funny telling a rehearsed story, but it will lead to your conversation partner telling a story of their own and suddenly, conversation! \n\nExpress your interests. Ask people about theirs. Listen while they talk to you. These are the building blocks of social interactions. \n\nYou've also asked about how to interact with women so, as a lady person, I'm going to give you the most basic advice possible: talk to them the same way you would a guy. Women are not enigmatic riddles with impossible-to-read ways of communicating, they're people with interests and jobs and normal lives. Many of them may be shy or nervous around strangers, just like you. \n\nIf you want to flirt with a woman, start with normal conversation. About anything: politics, movies, whatever. If you're at a party, and you find yourself standing by an interesting lady, make an innocuous comment like \"Dave always has great get-togethers!\", then ask her how she knows the host. If the conversation drops off or you get the vibe that she'd rather be elsewhere, don't force it. Just say \"I'm going to go freshen my drink - do you want one?\" If she says yes, bring her one. If she says no, say \"Cool, see ya later.\" Grab a beer and talk to someone else. Be cautious of taking advice from anywhere like /r/seduction. Being funny is usually the best way to open up flirty banter but be warned! flirting takes practice, and doesn't come naturally to everyone. Save any racy stuff for a second or third encounter, until you've had some practice with timing and delivery. Making a sexy remark to a stranger can be disastrous if you don't stick the landing. \n\nMy final tip: for very easy interactions with others, find a social setting where people share your interests. If you're into cosplay or RPGs, trying something like Amtgard can help you connect with people who have similar interests. Love animals? Volunteer at a shelter or dog park. If computers or video games are your bag, check out classes where you can expand your skills while you build your social and professional networks. \n\nI hope some of this helps.", "Alcohol is a social lubricant. I'm not very talkative. But when I get drunk, I'll talk to everyone. It helps if you're not the only one drinking.", "Try and go to social outings as much as possible. You don't necessarily need to go all out, but try to meet ONE new person, and then you can get progressively better. As for women, don't talk to them to attain, but talk to them to learn about them. It'll show a genuine interest and she'll like you better for it. ", "Focus on asking people questions and discipline yourself to develop a curiosity about each person you talk to. Once you ask the first question, your curiosity will lead you to the next question. ", "Every time you feel uncomfortable talking to someone, ask yourself, \"what would I think of him/her if he/she was the one talking to me?\" \nGenerally asking myself this question gives mr way more confidence that \"what is he/she thinking of me when I talk to him/her?\"" ]	[ 6, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I make it pitch black in my room at night but still allow sunlight in for the morning? I have black out curtains and it solves the problem of light outside at night, but it remains pitch black in the morning when I would like the sun to be able to come in. Is there any solution to this dilemma?\n\n", "How do I make it pitch black in my room at night but still allow sunlight in for the morning? I have black out curtains and it solves the problem of light outside at night, but it remains pitch black in the morning when I would like the sun to be able to come in. Is there any solution to this dilemma?\n\n", "How do I make it pitch black in my room at night but still allow sunlight in for the morning? I have black out curtains and it solves the problem of light outside at night, but it remains pitch black in the morning when I would like the sun to be able to come in. Is there any solution to this dilemma?\n\n", "How do I make it pitch black in my room at night but still allow sunlight in for the morning? I have black out curtains and it solves the problem of light outside at night, but it remains pitch black in the morning when I would like the sun to be able to come in. Is there any solution to this dilemma?\n\n", "How do I make it pitch black in my room at night but still allow sunlight in for the morning? I have black out curtains and it solves the problem of light outside at night, but it remains pitch black in the morning when I would like the sun to be able to come in. Is there any solution to this dilemma?\n\n" ]	[ "https://www.overstock.com/Home-Garden/Aurora-Home-Star-Punch-Tulle-Overlay-Blackout-Curtain-Panel-Pair/19975363/product.html?kwds=blackout%20curtains%20with%20star&option=33224901&refccid=GGI42PQKW7C3VZCIOTPUUFGTWM&rfmt=&searchidx=3", "You can tint your windows so the nighttime lights aren't as bright and then you don't need blackout curtains.", "You can buy a sunrise alarm clock. It slowly gets brighter & brighter as it gets closer to your alarm time.", "I have a lamp with a connected bulb, and led strip set to timers that turn on low and ramp up over 15 minutes to full brightness that coincides with the alarm on my phone. Got them on Amazon.", "I have a Philips Hue light in my bedroom.\n\nYou can program it to work like a sunrise alarm clock, where it slowly ramps up to full brightness at your alarm time (and turn off automatically too). Once I'm up, I open my curtains.\n\nAs an added bonus, whether it's the middle of winter, a rainy day, or an early flight, you always wake up to light." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help", "How to do your bathroom business in public schools when there's another person in the next stall? As the title says. I have severe anxiety when it comes to this. So please please help" ]	[ "Assert your dominance over neighboring poopers by starting at full volume and making as much noise as possible. Once you're the alpha it won't matter what the commoners think of you because you have the power. At this point you can choose whichever stall you want, he other lesser poopers will move for you. Remember before doing this that great power comes with great responsibility. ", "I know this! Use following techniques responsibly: \n\n* Start chanting DEUS VULT really loud and banging on the door/walls with your hands. If the person doesn't leave, it will mask the sounds of... your business. \n* Start a nice chat with the person in the next stall - the more personal questions you ask, the more likely they will leave you alone. \n* Pull the fire alarm before entering the stall. \n* Pretend you're on the phone with your drug dealer and talk about murdering snitches. \n* Realise people are self-absorbed bastards who really don't give a shit (pun intended) about you or your business. I realise high school (or any school for that matter) might seem important - but it isn't, you will lose contact with 99.9% of those people and the ones that stay behind surely aren't going to remember that one day when you shat in the stall next to them a bazillion years ago. \n", "haha I can relate! I don't do number two if I'm in hearing range of anyone (even family, besides my husband because our apartment is too small to avoid it lol). When I was younger and super insecure about it, I used to listen to music with headphones in while I did it. Not being able to hear that awkward 'PLOP' myself made me feel like nobody else could hear it either.\n\nWhen I made my account, I did not count on giving poop advice. Weird world.", "Hold your poop in until you can be sure that you're alone. If anyone comes in to the bathroom, STOP POOPING IMMEDIATELY! Hold that in and be silent. You will be ruthlessly made fun of if you're caught because no one else poops. \n\nOr just be a man and take your shit. Everyone poops. No one cares. ", "If you have to go bad enough, it'll overcome your anxiety. Barring that, try sitting down for #1 if you need to. It might take a bit longer but you aren't tensing up your muscles.", "As the person sits next to you slide your foot out and under the stall.... turning your toes towards them...tapping your foot. You'll be amazed at the results.... Works even better in public bathrooms at rest stops...", "When I was in school I would go to the restroom in a section of the school where I didn't care what people thought. I was an athlete, so I went to the band hall to drop a deuce. In college is go to the art building. ", "Rustle paper while you're in the stall. IDK why but this always helps me when I'm feeling anxious about someone else being in there with me. \n\nBut honestly, anyone who goes into a bathroom actively listening to other people there is weird. No way they can bring up anything that happens in there without sounding strange. \n", "How about a real answer: time the drop and simultaneously flush the toilet. Usually it is loud enough to conceal the noise, but even if not your anxiety is less because your neighbor will appreciate the effort to not be gross. ", "Hold your breath and drop it hot and heavy. If it smells bad enough they will leave. I used to have severe anxiety about it but I worked myself to do it and I cleared 4 other stalks the other day. ", "Go on your phone, onto reddit, let gravity do the rest. I imagine the best way to deal with anxiety is to distract yourself from what's causing it.", "Everyone pees and poops. Nobody cares what you're doing, because they're doing the same things in the bathroom. " ]	[ 13, 7, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I ask for help when I need it? Growing up I was always on my own when it came to problem solving, which isn't always a bad thing. But whenever I can't seem to come to a solution, I can't bring myself to ask for help from people around me. And that leads to me missing assignments in school or other things. Basically I just give up on the thing even when I know I shouldn't. So how can I bring myself to ask people for help when I need it?\n\nI always feel like I'm being a bother when I do ask, and I keep criticizing myself for not being able to come up with the solution and relying on others.", "How do I ask for help when I need it? Growing up I was always on my own when it came to problem solving, which isn't always a bad thing. But whenever I can't seem to come to a solution, I can't bring myself to ask for help from people around me. And that leads to me missing assignments in school or other things. Basically I just give up on the thing even when I know I shouldn't. So how can I bring myself to ask people for help when I need it?\n\nI always feel like I'm being a bother when I do ask, and I keep criticizing myself for not being able to come up with the solution and relying on others.", "How do I ask for help when I need it? Growing up I was always on my own when it came to problem solving, which isn't always a bad thing. But whenever I can't seem to come to a solution, I can't bring myself to ask for help from people around me. And that leads to me missing assignments in school or other things. Basically I just give up on the thing even when I know I shouldn't. So how can I bring myself to ask people for help when I need it?\n\nI always feel like I'm being a bother when I do ask, and I keep criticizing myself for not being able to come up with the solution and relying on others." ]	[ "I was similar to you. I was very independent and school came easy for me though grammar school. When I started to struggle in high school and college, it was very hard for me to ask for help. It was like admitting defeat. Everyone knew me as a smart kid. And like you, when I asked for help, part of me felt like I was taking away from the kids who really did need help.\n\nHere's the big secret: you learn and grow more when you ask people for help, and when you help them in turn. Yes, you do encounter some jerks that will put you down for not knowing something, and you'll have to learn to identify and dismiss such people, but overall you'll meet far more people who will invest in your mutual success. These people often become lifelong friends.\n\nKnow your strengths and help others as they struggle. Face your fears and let people help you overcome them in kind. \n\n", "Hey! Asking for help is great. Everyone knows something you don't. If you're afraid of being socially awkward, don't be. Trust me, most of the time people don't pay attention to that. Also, it seems as though you have a sense of pride, which isn't a bad thing, however, in your case, I think your sense of pride is hindering you from truly reaching your fullest potential. Let go of that sense of pride, that sense of superiority, of self-servance. You must live with others in order to be the best you can. Also don't criticize yourself. We are all hman. There is no perfect solution, and no one knows the answers to everything. That is why you must branch out and rely on others. Like I said, everyone knows something you don't\n\nAnyway here are some more practical tips for starting up a convo:\nYou can try to ask someone you know, a friend, for starters for help. Make sure you always thank them. Ask them politely, go up to them (or message them if you're uncomfortable with physical interaction), and ask \"hey, sorry to bother, but I just don't understand X. You seem very knowledgeable on it, and I was wondering if I could ask for your help. If you're too busy or something, no worries!\" And never ever forget to say thank you. Then you can end by saying \"thanks! I owe you one/a drink/whatever\"", "Don't be afraid.\n\n[Watch this, by the amazing Amanda Palmer.](https://www.ted.com/talks/amanda_palmer_the_art_of_asking?language=en)" ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n", "How to not be awkward in a pool alone. What's the least weird thing that I can do in a pool by myself, when other people are around?\n\n" ]	[ "Look very, very nervous, shy and kind of scared. Constantly seek out eye-contact but break it immediately when you do connect with someone. Find a mom playing with her kids and offer to watch them if she needs a break. Drink as much of the water as you can. Bring a pair of goggles and also binoculars into the deep end with you. Mutter. Keep asking which end is the bathroom. Wear a woman's one piece. Insist you need to tell someone a secret. Point out every bird you see. Ask a lot of questions to a baby. Wear dress shoes. Bring sunscreen and a tip jar into the pool with you and go up to people and just smile and raise your eyebrows a bunch. Suck your thumb. Keep telling kids you have a plus one for adult swim. Talk about how much you love that this pool isn't segregated. Talk about segregation a lot, actually. Whistle like you're innocent. Pretend you can't get your hair wet. That should be it, have fun and don't overthink it. ", "Generally the best way to not be awkward is to not give a fuck what people or at least, strangers, think of you. \n\nYou don't need permission to exist.", "do an endless procession of canon balls, over and over, with very little time in between. Yell like a pirate every time. Then, when you're tired - poop in the pool", "Reach your arm as far as you can into the skimmer and insist that it is stuck. If someone tries to pull it out, scream in agony and explain that it hurts too much to forcefully pull out. Once you have a large enough crowd watching the scene unfold, simply remove your arm and tell them it was a joke. People love jokes and will think you're funny, allowing you to navigate new social avenues.", "Try and stay low in the pool. Don't stand straight up in the shallow end, but kneel there where less of your body is visible.", "Theres no reason to be awkward in a pool. I swim a few laps. I try floating on my back, I sink to the bottom and see how long I can hold my breath under water. Some times i just wallow and enjoy the water. Just enjoy it and dont worry about what others think.", ">if you knew me you'd know how terrible that advice is\n\nThat's the thing OP, we DON'T know you. How about dinner, my place?", "Chill in one spot, or swim back and forth, or float. Go full crotchety-old-(wo?)man if a kid splashes you. If someone is throwing around a ball and it lands near you, don't be a dick -- throw it back. When you get out of the water and you're sunning yourself, bring a book and a cold beverage. " ]	[ 116, 76, 19, 17, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best Alcohol Drink for better breath during a night out? Wondering which type of drink will make my breath smell the least. I get discouraged engaging in close conversations at bars because i think my breath is bad. Not looking for masking tips, just a type of drink if there is any difference", "Best Alcohol Drink for better breath during a night out? Wondering which type of drink will make my breath smell the least. I get discouraged engaging in close conversations at bars because i think my breath is bad. Not looking for masking tips, just a type of drink if there is any difference", "Best Alcohol Drink for better breath during a night out? Wondering which type of drink will make my breath smell the least. I get discouraged engaging in close conversations at bars because i think my breath is bad. Not looking for masking tips, just a type of drink if there is any difference" ]	[ "I do declare that when I find myself in the company of ladies I enjoy myself a mint julep to help ward off an oderous offense.\n\n", "in Germany (especially east Germany) we love peppermint schnaps though we call it pfeffi ==> so on Festivals there is a saying that literally translates to \"there is no Need to brush your teeth if you have pfeffi\"", "Not sure if it's the best, but a Cranberry Vodka is known to not make your breath stink that much faster than usual. Also, carry some gum. You can quickly chew it up as you go to the bathroom and spit it out when you're done." ]	[ 8, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to prepare for World War III or a foreign invasion? Although American soil was generally immune to military combat in wars prior, over the past 16 years the War on Terror has proven how vulnerable we have become in this country (granted terrorist attacks are difficult to avoid or prepare for by nature). Recently we've seen a huge upswing in the militarization of local police departments and now international tensions are rapidly rising as a result of the horrific gas attacks in Syria. While the possibility of a third world war or foreign invasion has yet to be acknowledged by the general public, it would behoove us all to at least consider a course of action should such an event would occur. Having a \"bug out bag\" readily available as well as a designated meeting place for loved ones to convene were the first two that came to mind, but what else can we do now to prepare for such a nightmare? What might not seem obvious now that would be critical then? What can we learn from history and our individual and collective experiences to perhaps save a few of our asses or at the very least imbue a sense of hope in that we are as prepared as possible for such a dismal fate? ", "How to prepare for World War III or a foreign invasion? Although American soil was generally immune to military combat in wars prior, over the past 16 years the War on Terror has proven how vulnerable we have become in this country (granted terrorist attacks are difficult to avoid or prepare for by nature). Recently we've seen a huge upswing in the militarization of local police departments and now international tensions are rapidly rising as a result of the horrific gas attacks in Syria. While the possibility of a third world war or foreign invasion has yet to be acknowledged by the general public, it would behoove us all to at least consider a course of action should such an event would occur. Having a \"bug out bag\" readily available as well as a designated meeting place for loved ones to convene were the first two that came to mind, but what else can we do now to prepare for such a nightmare? What might not seem obvious now that would be critical then? What can we learn from history and our individual and collective experiences to perhaps save a few of our asses or at the very least imbue a sense of hope in that we are as prepared as possible for such a dismal fate? ", "How to prepare for World War III or a foreign invasion? Although American soil was generally immune to military combat in wars prior, over the past 16 years the War on Terror has proven how vulnerable we have become in this country (granted terrorist attacks are difficult to avoid or prepare for by nature). Recently we've seen a huge upswing in the militarization of local police departments and now international tensions are rapidly rising as a result of the horrific gas attacks in Syria. While the possibility of a third world war or foreign invasion has yet to be acknowledged by the general public, it would behoove us all to at least consider a course of action should such an event would occur. Having a \"bug out bag\" readily available as well as a designated meeting place for loved ones to convene were the first two that came to mind, but what else can we do now to prepare for such a nightmare? What might not seem obvious now that would be critical then? What can we learn from history and our individual and collective experiences to perhaps save a few of our asses or at the very least imbue a sense of hope in that we are as prepared as possible for such a dismal fate? ", "How to prepare for World War III or a foreign invasion? Although American soil was generally immune to military combat in wars prior, over the past 16 years the War on Terror has proven how vulnerable we have become in this country (granted terrorist attacks are difficult to avoid or prepare for by nature). Recently we've seen a huge upswing in the militarization of local police departments and now international tensions are rapidly rising as a result of the horrific gas attacks in Syria. While the possibility of a third world war or foreign invasion has yet to be acknowledged by the general public, it would behoove us all to at least consider a course of action should such an event would occur. Having a \"bug out bag\" readily available as well as a designated meeting place for loved ones to convene were the first two that came to mind, but what else can we do now to prepare for such a nightmare? What might not seem obvious now that would be critical then? What can we learn from history and our individual and collective experiences to perhaps save a few of our asses or at the very least imbue a sense of hope in that we are as prepared as possible for such a dismal fate? ", "How to prepare for World War III or a foreign invasion? Although American soil was generally immune to military combat in wars prior, over the past 16 years the War on Terror has proven how vulnerable we have become in this country (granted terrorist attacks are difficult to avoid or prepare for by nature). Recently we've seen a huge upswing in the militarization of local police departments and now international tensions are rapidly rising as a result of the horrific gas attacks in Syria. While the possibility of a third world war or foreign invasion has yet to be acknowledged by the general public, it would behoove us all to at least consider a course of action should such an event would occur. Having a \"bug out bag\" readily available as well as a designated meeting place for loved ones to convene were the first two that came to mind, but what else can we do now to prepare for such a nightmare? What might not seem obvious now that would be critical then? What can we learn from history and our individual and collective experiences to perhaps save a few of our asses or at the very least imbue a sense of hope in that we are as prepared as possible for such a dismal fate? " ]	[ "Optimistically, the highest priority is a hand powered water purifier, plus some spare filters. Some sort of first aid kit is vital, if you will pardon the pun. A crank powered radio and flashlight are similarly valuable, but slightly lower priority. Some bottled water and bulk carbohydrates and protein with nutritional supplements can be stored fairly conveniently. Space blankets are garbage, but depending on your resources some sleeping bags and tents weigh very little and can be compressed to low volume. \n\nRealistically, if it comes to foreign invasion/world war 3, the most merciful option is having a bullet for yourself and everyone you care about. ", "Power will be out for sure. Start printing out all your favorite porn. For gifs I recommend creating flip books, but usually you need both hands to flip through. ", "Im headed to the least populated place I can find...The farther you are from people when shit hits the fan the better...Humans are stupid/violent in life or death situations...Avoiding that wildcard seems prudent. Grab my camping gear, get away from population centers, and take the needful (water purifiers, crank radio, some food, etc) Grab the gun and fishing rods and a big fuck, off knife and be thankful I grew up in the freaking sticks.\n\nTLDR: Hide in the woods, hope for the best..eah.", "Well, if you're American the idea of some sort of D-Day style beach invasion is so infinitesimal as to be as close to impossible as anything gets.\n\nTrust me, Canada isn't going to invade, you make most of our TV shows and have us outnumbered something like ten to one. Mexico has functionally already invaded and been absorbed into the American population.\n\nNow if you were in Europe, or the Middle East, yeah, being invaded is a real possibility since in many cases you've only got an imaginary line on the ground between countries and often thousands of years of animosity and back and forth fighting.\n\nThe reality is that in most cases a Get Home Bag is better than a Bug Out Bag. Most rural areas do not have the resources to sustain even a fraction of the population, and in most cases you'd also have tens of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of people all headed for the same area. If you go walking through the nearest forest or field, you're more likely to meet another person than a deer. Most people have no real idea how to field dress a rabbit or deer, or how to identify edible plants. As we can see from the many posts complaining about how Chipotle has leaves in their salads and dishes, because people have no idea what a Bay leaf is, and only know leaves as yard waste.\n\nMost people, myself foremost, have almost no idea how to \"live off the land\". There's a reason why humanity's explosion in population happened after we put down roots both figuratively and literally. It's very rare for there to be enough food naturally growing around for large groups of people to be able to survive as hunter-gatherers.\n\nIf you do want to improve your chances of handling an emergency situation, take a defensive driving course(traffic collisions are infinitely more likely than nuclear strikes), take a first aid course, try to stay out of the habit of living paycheck to paycheck(getting laid off, or having the banks do some fuckery with your account, is much more likely than a gas attack), read some books like Back To Basics by Abigail Gehring, read M", "The only situation in which everyone wins is to prevent a third world war altogether. With the technology and weapons that we currently possess, another world war may end all hopes for any stable and peaceful way of life.\n\nA bug-out bag will only go so far if an actual invasion occurs: there would be too much chaos for a few rations of food and weapons to make any real difference in the long run. I think we all like to believe that in the event of an apocalypse, or anything of the sort, we would be the ones to make it out in the end, but reality shows that the odds are always against us (however depressing it may be). " ]	[ 9, 8, 5, 4, 3 ]	safe
[ "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking", "How can I introduce more water into my diet besides just drinking it? Might not quite fit here but I don't know where else to ask. I need to drink more water as I barely drink any and I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. Even if not it's still something I should start doing.\n\nThe obvious one is to drink more but I wanted to know if there were any other ways to add to it besides drinking" ]	[ "> I've been getting lower abdomen pains and I'm guessing it's because I don't drink any water. \n\nThat right there is bad. Go see a doctor!", "Water rich foods like watermelon, cucumber, and more fruits and vegetables generally.\n\nSoups that are more broth like like bone broth and miso.\n\nDrinking water or eating fruit first thing in the morning as ypur body feels very thirsty.\n\nDrink water or vege/fruit snack every time you do things like ... get in the car, go to a certain room in the house, before each meal, after going to the toilet, whatever you can organise to create good habits.", "Fruits and veggies are the best way to get more water without drinking it, but if you have an issue with water itself due to the taste you could try herbal teas that aren’t full of caffeine, or try adding slices of fruit and berries to your water to give it some flavour.", "Make a habit of drinking a whole glass of water every morning at least 15 minutes before breakfast. This is the best time to drink water because it clears your stomach and rehydrates your body. Follow this everyday and eventually you will develop the habit of drinking water.", "I agree that getting abdominal is not good but drinking will eliminate one potential cause if you have dark per.\n\nYou can pretty much drink anything, it's all gonna be mainly water - tea, coffee, fizzy, squash etc\n\nFood wise - soups, fruit, veg, some curries use water as a base, gravy based meals such as stews. \n\nI'd monitor your pee colour and how often (and easily) you poop, if they turn out to be ok but still got pain I'd then see a GP.", "I know you said ways besides just drinking water, but have you tried using those cups with the reusable straws (like the Starbucks ones)? I had the same problem a couple months ago, only drinking like 3 cups of water max a day. After I got one of those cups, I started drinking whatever was in there like crazy.\n\nFor me I think it's the fun of sipping it through a straw, whereas a bottle is less interactive haha", "I don't recommend straight tap water. I bought a Britta Filter and it made the water taste better which makes it easier to drink.", "Get a drink bottle with a built in straw, they’re much easier to drink from and you’ll probably end up drinking more than you realise.", "Fruit is a trap, because while it has fluids and fiber, the sugar it contains ultimately is less hydrating than you think. It's also important to avoid an excess of salt. I would recommend cucumbers, low-sodium vegetable broth based soups that are light on protein. Motivate yourself with small drinking goals, consider doing pre and during and post-meal glasses of water, filtering water, etc. . If you find you dislike water, black coffee/ any type of plain tea are best but otherwise, drink whatever you will drink. \n\n\n\nLower abdominal pains can be anything from gas moving to diverticulitis to constipation to appendix or gallbladder issues and everything in-between, so consider speaking to a healthcare specialist if this persists.", "every time you go to drink something other than water (coffee, tea, soda, whatever), force yourself to drink 8oz of water first. also, make sure you're not far from a bathroom throughout the day.", "I've heard an opinion (rather unpopular I would guess) that literally any drink will do: cola, coffee, tea etc still will get you hydrated. Though you really should watch for added things like sugar or caffeine in this case.\nSparkling water can be of choice.", "I find I drink loss more at work by bringing in my water bottle and filling it every time it’s empty. I usually just constantly sip at it throughout the day and end up drinking about 2 litres. Drinking squash in a cup means I usually drink less.", "I drink plenty of water but over the last few years I’ve been in a regular habit of juicing lemons and freezing it in ice cube trays. Once a day I have a glass of water and put one lemon ice cube in it and let it melt before I drink it. It tastes so good and afterwards I feel so hydrated and like I’ve just rejuvenated my insides ! My favorite is a lemon ice block in sparkling mineral water. I always tease the kids and ask them “who peed in the ice cube trays” ? They think it’s hilarious.", "Drink water. If you are having abdomen pains see a doctor... If you know it’s hydration related issue than suck it up and drink more water.\n \nIf you want some half assed LPT than buy a big water bottle and stop yourself from watching something or doing something fun until you drink the whole thing. But seriously drink more water idiot" ]	[ 10, 5, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to deal with Spirit Airlines/cheap airline companies? Don't give me too much hate I just didn't know anything about them when I bought my tickets.\n\nI am flying with spirit in June to Las Vegas for a music festival. I am flying out of Cleveland Thursday night, the festival starts Friday night and goes till Monday morning (till roughly 5 am) and then our flight leaves Las Vegas back to Cleveland at about 9:45 am. \nI have read a lot of horror stories about spirit airlines and wanted to know if you guys could give me some pointers on dealing with them. I am only taking a small back pack with me, but I'm more or less worried about them bumping me off a flight or their plane breaking and I can't get to the festival that I have spent ALOT of money on. \nHow lenient are they say if I can't fly out of Cleveland but would be willing to catch a flight out of Detroit or something like that? \nAll advice is welcome and thank you so much! ", "How to deal with Spirit Airlines/cheap airline companies? Don't give me too much hate I just didn't know anything about them when I bought my tickets.\n\nI am flying with spirit in June to Las Vegas for a music festival. I am flying out of Cleveland Thursday night, the festival starts Friday night and goes till Monday morning (till roughly 5 am) and then our flight leaves Las Vegas back to Cleveland at about 9:45 am. \nI have read a lot of horror stories about spirit airlines and wanted to know if you guys could give me some pointers on dealing with them. I am only taking a small back pack with me, but I'm more or less worried about them bumping me off a flight or their plane breaking and I can't get to the festival that I have spent ALOT of money on. \nHow lenient are they say if I can't fly out of Cleveland but would be willing to catch a flight out of Detroit or something like that? \nAll advice is welcome and thank you so much! ", "How to deal with Spirit Airlines/cheap airline companies? Don't give me too much hate I just didn't know anything about them when I bought my tickets.\n\nI am flying with spirit in June to Las Vegas for a music festival. I am flying out of Cleveland Thursday night, the festival starts Friday night and goes till Monday morning (till roughly 5 am) and then our flight leaves Las Vegas back to Cleveland at about 9:45 am. \nI have read a lot of horror stories about spirit airlines and wanted to know if you guys could give me some pointers on dealing with them. I am only taking a small back pack with me, but I'm more or less worried about them bumping me off a flight or their plane breaking and I can't get to the festival that I have spent ALOT of money on. \nHow lenient are they say if I can't fly out of Cleveland but would be willing to catch a flight out of Detroit or something like that? \nAll advice is welcome and thank you so much! ", "How to deal with Spirit Airlines/cheap airline companies? Don't give me too much hate I just didn't know anything about them when I bought my tickets.\n\nI am flying with spirit in June to Las Vegas for a music festival. I am flying out of Cleveland Thursday night, the festival starts Friday night and goes till Monday morning (till roughly 5 am) and then our flight leaves Las Vegas back to Cleveland at about 9:45 am. \nI have read a lot of horror stories about spirit airlines and wanted to know if you guys could give me some pointers on dealing with them. I am only taking a small back pack with me, but I'm more or less worried about them bumping me off a flight or their plane breaking and I can't get to the festival that I have spent ALOT of money on. \nHow lenient are they say if I can't fly out of Cleveland but would be willing to catch a flight out of Detroit or something like that? \nAll advice is welcome and thank you so much! " ]	[ "/r/travel has a [guide](https://m.reddit.com/r/travel/comments/32uavq/guide_to_flying_everyones_most_hated_airline/) for spirit", "Why do you think the plane is going to break? Just because it's a LCC doesn't mean the plane 'breaks' more often. They are subject to the same maintenance and safety standards as any other carrier.\n\nFrom January 15th to March 15th, the outbound flight, Spirit 1069, has a on-time percentage of 62% with an average delay of 51 minutes. The flight has been cancelled one time during this period\n\nFor the period January 15 to March 15, the return flight, Spirit 1068, has an on-time percentage of 57% with an average delay of 26 minutes. The flight has not been cancelled during this period.\n\nIf you are going to check/carry on a bag and put it in the overhead bins, pay for the bag as far in advance as possible.\n\n\n\n", "Spirit should work out like any other airline except they can be strict on carry on bags. I'm assuming ure going to EDC. Just make sure you're not using a shuttle from the event otherwise ure definitely missing ure flight. Get a ride from somebody or pay for a private shuttle. ", "I have always had the best luck booking airplane tickets with the skiplagged app. It's the only place I book any plane tickets on now. Check it out, it might help! Best of luck to you!" ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?", "How do I deal with workplace drama? I work a regular staff job as I attend college, and I keep getting pulled into middle school type drama every other day. I just got yelled at by my boss for complaints from coworkers that are incorrect (regarding how I treat customers, work ethic, etc). How do I deal with the coworkers, and can I do anything about my boss thinking my work is sub-par?" ]	[ "If someone says something that is not correct about you, pull them aside and have a private conversation with them. Be direct. Ask them why they would say such a thing and try to clarify any misunderstandings. Don't be confrontational. Be friendly and professional. Try to find common ground, if possible, that would avoid future escalation of their antics. It may not help in the long run if you're surrounded by unprofessional, immature people, but I think it's still the best approach.", "In my experience, the important player here is your boss, not the drama loving employees you work with. Now, if you're getting yelled at by the boss, the odds are pretty good that your boss is terrible, and I'd suggest looking for another job (don't quit until you've lined up the new gig).\n\nIf your boss is reasonable, then ask your boss if they'd be willing to watch you work and give you tips on what you could do to improve as an employee. This serves dual purposes of showing your boss that the claims against you are false while also letting you learn things your boss thinks make for a good employee. You also will come off as agreeable and eager to learn, which are both very important traits in an employee.", "I used to work in a relatively large call center that was riddled with drama and gossip. The best way to avoid it is to work hard，be polite and courteous to customers and staff no matter how irritating they become and let your work speak for itself. \n\nOnce customers were praising my work ethic and attitude， it didn't matter what the middle-aged woman with 20 years experience was saying about me in a narky tone. My boss appreciated that I was just getting the work done and that clients respected me. \n\nIt all paid off in the end，I was the one offered senior promotions ahead of the others simply because I wasn't affected and didn't get caught up in all the meaningless shit. \n\nActions speak louder than words. The worthless untrue dribble people say about you will make them look like a fool when your actions prove them wrong. Defending it with words alone will add fuel to the fire.", "I think you need to find out why your coworkers would say that about you in the first place, whether they misinterpreted a single incident or if they have a long term perception of you being a bad worker. Or maybe they really are just creating drama for the fun of it. To be fair though, with the limited information you gave us, it's possible that maybe you are doing something that is not good customer service and you don't even realise it. You need to figure it out before you go on full defence mode with your boss. More complaints against you might result in termination, so you may not want to ignore it. \n", "All of this advice is great, but it mostly relies on having a third party behave the way you want.\n\nGive up on that immediately.\n\nThe only person you have control over in this situation is you.\n\nYou want to be the best at work, right? You need to identify what that looks like. What's the best version of an employee and coworker possible in your role. Now strive to model that behaviour.", "My wife is kind of going through this right now. She is a bank teller and a few of the girls there absolutely swim in the drama. I keep telling her that she is neither the branch manager nor the head teller and everyone else's faults/issues should not be her concern. They don't involve her in the drama, but just love to be caddy. She should simply just try to be as awesome as she can and not involve herself with it. One of the biggest problem people was all buddy-buddy with the manager, but she was promoted and is no longer at the branch, but I'd still appreciate some advice as well. ", "I'll go tangental here and suggest you just not give any fucks: http://markmanson.net/not-giving-a-fuck Read that article carefully. There's a significant difference between being aloof, being an asshole, and not giving fucks.\n\nIf this were me, I'd look at it like this: You're going to college; That's stressful enough on it's own. Don't be sucked into a whirlwind of other people's shit. Cultivate your garden of fucks for the things that matter to you, and don't waste them on your shitty co-workers and their drama.\n\nTo be fair, depending on how you apply this advice (especially in relation to your boss), it has a better than average chance of getting you fired. But maybe not having a shitty job that drains your energy and pisses you off is a net positive. It'll free you up to go find something better.", "I had an entire class about this in school.\n\n First, you need to know: what is a team? A team is a group of people with 1. A common objective 2. Convergences of the efforts (towards the common goal) 3. Segregation of duties. This is the difference beetween a group of people and a team.\n\nSecond, there is six \"must\" steps to do in resolving of conflicts.1. Target the source of drama. Be sure that it is something in particular (the mood of someone, the environnement, some of the mentality,...). 2. Always target the most recent conflictual situation ( never comeback with some shit that happened 2 weeks ago, it will more than likely envenom more the situation) so when something happen ,then fix it right away. 3. Fix a rendez-vous with the persons concerned ( if necessary , a third neutral person can be welcome to keep the team objective in both parties mind) and the conflictual situation should be what the reunion is all about ( not like ok so we are gonna fix this then split the work / take some decisions about a project). 4. In that rendez-vous, both sides gonna explain their point of view and they both got to listen to each others.5. Take a decision about the solution, keep in mind the commun target of the team, all the decisions should be taken on that frame of mind. Dont take personaly if your personals interest are taken away, in a team only the decisions moving the team forward to the goal should be taken.6. Most of the enterprises forget about this steps, while it is the most important. Keep tracks of the results. If it worked, then congratulate yourself, if it didnt, restart from step 1. Until its working. If some how someone keep not joining the boat or keeps stoping the team acheiving his goal, then fire him , if its positive for the team." ]	[ 6, 5, 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks", "Marriage Advice I don't want to go into too many details yet but I'm looking for ways to improve me and my wife's communication skills. We have been fighting a lot for a long time (been married a month but had a very stressful wedding) and it's come to the point where the smallest fight will lead to a very angry confrontation where all the things done wrong come up from the past. I'm looking for things like the four horsemen concept, how to use our personalities to improve our relationship, and that sort of thing rather than buzzfeed-type articles Thanks" ]	[ "It is hard to go into specifics without knowing detail. Here are few general ideas.\n\n1. Schedule time for quality time together. As part of it, talk through the problem. Listen to each other.\n\n2. If you are not able to get through to each other, or one of you has issue that require a lot of help, involve a professional: go to family/marriage counseling. Yes, you will have to pay, but your are investing by saving and strengthening your marriage.\n\n3. If you have a general idea on what's going on and you feel you can try to address it, pick up some relationship books on that topic. \n\nWhatever is the approach, talk through it and work on it together, do not try to secretly improve the other person. \n\nSorry that you are having rough first month. Best wishes to both of you.", "I absolutely recommend [The 5 Love Languages](https://www.5lovelanguages.com/) by Gary Chapman. It helped my wife and I come back from some dark shit. Basically, you each do a little quiz to find out what your \"love languages\" are and then read their descriptions to learn what you both need most out of the relationship and how to provide it for each other. I know it probably sounds gimmicky but it's insightful as hell and helps snap your perspectives back in place. You might find out her love language and realize that you've been leaving her hanging, or vice versa, which could be the source of so much frustration and resentment.\n\nFor example, my wife's main one was \"acts of service\" which means she feels loved when people do little things for her like bring her a soda from the fridge or wash the dishes so she doesn't have to. I never really did stuff like that, because that's not how I was used to showing affection. On the other hand, mine was \"positive affirmation,\" so I feel loved when someone compliments my efforts and makes me feel appreciated. Even I never realized that about myself. But I worked my ass off to take care of my family, and my wife always acted like I wasn't doing enough - probably because she was still waiting for that soda. Point is, we were both showing affection the only ways we knew how but it got lost in translation. Once we found out each other's love languages, we realized had been using our own languages on each other the entire time; she always did little things for me, and I always told her how amazing she was and how she makes me proud.\n\nAnyway, it won't fix everything completely, but I have no doubt it will help you two build some understanding so you can start improving your communication. The quiz and descriptions are free at the link above, but I really suggest you get the book. It's an easy read and really fleshes out the whole concept, what each language might entail, and how to use them.\n\nIf you don't want to bother with the book, I'll just share the part that helped us the most: Your heart is a piggy bank, and acts of love are the coins you fill it with. As long as you know your partner's love language, you know what to do to fill their piggy bank up. Full hearts are happy hearts, don't forget to make regular deposits. \n\nI hope this helps.\n\n\nFuck it. I'll send you my copy if you want. \n\n\n", "Hello brother, first of all, this has to be a teamwork. Second, I highly recommend m", "Went to a therapist once who had us go through a questionnaire about what were the fair and unfair tactics we both used during arguments. Then we discussed those. Good way to talk about it, certainly easier with the therapist as mediator.", "Find an opportunity when neither of you are mad. Tell your spouse that you want to talk about x and try and come to an understanding about it.\n\nWork out your portion ahead of time so that you make statements about yourself rather than about your spouse (\"I feel neglected when...\" rather than \"You neglect me...\"). That will help prevent your spouse from becoming defensive. Also be sure to listen to what your spouse has to say about the issue and try to understand it from their perspective.\n\nIf things start getting heated, calmly end the conversation. You want this to be productive rather than just the beginning of another argument.\n\nAdditionally, if you're interested in having kids, don't make the assumption that the kids will distract from the issues between you and your spouse. The opposite is true - the issues will intensify and the kids will be caught in the middle, often becoming a catalyst for arguments. Sort this stuff out first and then start thinking about kids once it's fixed.", "Been married 18 years and we have only now reached that point. I think the main thing you need to remember is that you should always treat your SO like a cherished best friend. Be on each others side, be nice to each other even when you don't have a single clue as to why they are doing/feeling/acting some way. \n\nAssume there is a valid reason and seek to understand and assist them, always. And if you can't and there is a bad fight, wait a little while (days/hours/whatever it takes to cool down) and then let them know you know they are feeling upset and you want to understand and help out. Marriage is about going through life together* it's not always fun but it mostly is and that's enough to make it all worthwhile.\n\nThere is no such thing as a perfect marriage, only two imperfect people who are unwilling to give up on each other.", "You and your wife need to agree to work on this together. Try to improve your talking and listening skills. \n\nHave you heard of a \"talking stick?\" It's an actual stick. But in that session, you have to agree, whoever holds the stick is the only one who can talk. The other one has to only listen, truly listen, without eyerolls, sighs, bad body language. \n\nTry to do sessions of 10 minutes for each of you a day to start processing your feelings and emotions or just your thoughts. Maybe it can help you two to learn to listen to each other as well.", "My suggestions would be the following:\n\nWhen you sit down to talk (and do try to do that, before any fight comes again) voice your opinions by starting with: ‘I feel like../ I feel that..’ this puts your opinions into perspective instead of shifting blame.\n\nLet each other speak in turns, let each other finish everything before the other one takes a turn. A good technique for this is designating an object, and whoever holds it gets to speak, until they willingly l give it to the other.\n\nYou both must feel like you don’t understand each other, so the above two points should help you start to see each other’s point of view.\n\nIf you understand each other you may understand the underlying issues. (Ex. Sexual needs = feeling loved, trash not taken out = lack of attention, etc) the smallest and the most insignificant things can mean the world to the other, the key to finding a solution is to understand why are these the pain points. What does it trigger deep within. \n\nIn my experience when you fight over things it is because you want to say something deeper, but cannot get to a point of voicing it. That is why I think the first two points are crucial.\n\nI would like to add that it does help that after one person voices a concern, you start response with a validation i.e. ‘I hear what you are saying and I understand this must be frustrating. I feel that...’ and then you can continue with your side.\n\nI hope this helps and you can sit down and talk.\n\nTry to keep ‘love’ in mind, and have empathy for another.", "Honestly, hon, the first 10 years are the hardest. I say that only half joking. My best advice is this: find a time when you are both calm, sit next to her (not across from- NEXT to her- demonstrates that you are literally on the same side), hold her hand, and tell her what you told us, in whatever words work best for you. For me, when I've been at wits end with my husband, I'll do that, and say something like \"it seems like we've been fighting a lot lately. I know I've been agitated and irritable and hard to be around, and I haven't once stopped to ask you what's going on with YOU. I'm sorry for that. What's really going on?\". In our case, it's usually depression, anxiety, old baggage issues, or plain old stress coming out sideways, but it has never, EVER been the things we've been fighting about, you know? Not once in 18 years has it ever been what it seemed like to either of us. Also, since the wedding itself went sideways or was done in a way that one of you was unhappy with or whatever the case may be, is there any way you could do something to symbolically start over? It doesn't have to cost much, or even anything- it's truly the thought and effort that counts. A private vow renewal, a special dinner, something in HER love language, as others have said. Let her know you hear her, value her, and that you are ALL IN. Offering a spectacular proverbial olive branch may be the gesture to break the cycle you are in. Whatever you choose to do, I wish you the best!", "Doesn’t matter what she says. Remain calm. Over time you will learn to harness and improve this skill. Sometimes people lash out, but as long as you keep it cool, it will work out one way or another.", "You love each other. Remember that. People who love each other don't go about their day looking for ways to anger and hurt each other. Don't attribute to malice what is probably ignorance/not paying attention. So when something happens, remind yourselves that you are two good-intentioned people getting caught in landmines.\nThe book Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs is EXCELLENT. Also the Love Languages.\nMy husband and I are opposites in just about every measurable way. LOTS of communication challenges. We've learned to say things like \"what I hear you saying is...\" and don't expect the other person to read your mind. \nAlso: when you think something good about your spouse, tell them. When you notice something -no matter how small- that you can do to help them, do it. Those kinds of positive contributions to the relationship can go a long way to counter the negatives.", "This might be a total different approach than you expected.\n\nTry to watch Daniel Sloss, talking about relationships. If you have Netflix it's at the middle of the second show(called 'jigsaw').\n\nBasically what he's saying there that everyone in life is making his own jigsaw, and sometimes you realize that you and your partner is heading towards a total different jigsaw solution.\n\nMay not solve your issues with your wife, but may save you from something that will happen 5/10 years from now.\n\nAny way best of luck lad!", "This may be a bit of an unpopular opinion, but I can't help but think if you can't even make it a month without this sort of confrontation, then why did you get married in the first place?", "One great exercise I was tought:\n\nYou sit down facing eachother. It can be a little sideways (like L shape), the thing is, you have to see eachother.\n\nGet phone, turn on airplane mode not to be distracted and set a timer for 4 minutes.\n\nOne gonna be the Speaker, the other the Listener.\n\nListener: Please tell me about the happy and joyfull periods of your life!\n\nSpeaker: speaks for 4 minutes about the above\n\nMeanwhile the listener can't ask a question, can't nod or can't show any sign of emotion. (S)he has to sit there listening. The other shouldn't have the impressikn of the athor being bored, the listener has to \"express\" being intrested whitout any reaction, just by listening.\n\nTimes up, phone rings, switch roles and ask the same question.\n\nYou should repeat at least 4-5 times (everybody taking both roles 4-5 times).\n\nThis exercise will help you fill up on joy amd than you can have an adult conversation about what you should do.", "Ok 3rd option take the heat out of the argument, write ur sude of things down leave this with ehile u go to work or wherever, she the writes a response it may seem a backwards way to increase communication but if you are both hot headed like me and my wife it allows you to redo things you have said or take your time", "My wife and i got married young, so lots of ups and downs but its been 9 years so something works. 2 pieces of advice, 1 make time for them 1 night a week have a date night nothing expensive cook for them or just play a board game better if an adult game\n2 no matter why ur annoyed just do something nice, ur annoyed because they went to sleep when u were feeling frisky buy her some flowers\nDon't think of it as letting them win think about they're happy your happy", "I've (61F) been married to my hubby for 38 years. Two things came to mind when I read this. \n1. Wife/bride had preconceived expectations and they aren't matching reality. I obviously have no way of knowing this for sure.\n2. You need couples therapy asap. This is a for sure. As others have suggested, Google free or inexpensive couples therapy. \n\nHope you get it worked out.", "Hands down the two best books my husband and I used. Hold Me Tight. Explains why you fight from a biological perspective so you're actually able to use what you instinctively feel to help fix things, its counselling in a book for people who can't afford counselling. And He Wins She Wins. How to find solutions that you both will both naturally invest yourselves in. YOu both sound like my husband and I, married 3 years, and we've found these books books to make tremendous sense and actually work.", "Change comes from within. Use m", "Find a marriage enrichment group. (Bettermarriages.org) They’ll teach you a lot of communication skills and ways to talk through what’s going on, and you’ll meet monthly with a group of couples and go through different topics each month. It’s pretty low cost and very effective." ]	[ 5, 4, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to slow down at work, so I can focus on getting my work done with less mistakes? So, as the day starts, I'm fine, double checking things, and not making any mistakes, but as the day continues, I get sloppy and my brain just goes into auto pilot. Today I made 3 mistakes that could have been avoided, but simply wasn't because my brain just went \"Ok lets do it!\".", "How to slow down at work, so I can focus on getting my work done with less mistakes? So, as the day starts, I'm fine, double checking things, and not making any mistakes, but as the day continues, I get sloppy and my brain just goes into auto pilot. Today I made 3 mistakes that could have been avoided, but simply wasn't because my brain just went \"Ok lets do it!\"." ]	[ "Perhaps your job isn't challenging enough. If you get sloppy and do things on auto pilot that might be a sign the tasks you have aren't exciting enough and you just don't care.\n\nOther things like a regular break, healthy food and a glass of water instead of a cup of coffee could help as well. Or eat an apple, it keeps you more awake than coffee.\n\nThen there is the fact that you are aware of becoming sloppy and making mistakes. You could prepare yourself for what is coming.\n\nWriting things down also does wonders. Having a list with tasks and crossing them of your list keeps your head clear and you see what you have done allready and what tasks to focus on.\n\nIn the end I don't know what kind of work you do and how your daily routines look like, so this advice is for everyone that struggles with your problems. If you need anymore specific advice and like what I allready mentioned, you can allways ask me.\n\nGood luck, remember mistakes happen, as long as you learn from them it's okay (in most cases). If all this doesn't help perhaps it's time to look out for a new job, somehow more challenging and fun that you do now.\n\nAll the best dude!", "I don’t know what you do but you can try making a to-do list. Take the last 15 minutes of the day to create a list of things to do with times. So you may have to call someone so your to-do list would say “call Joe at 9:00 am, then your next item should start after the the estimated amount of time the phone call would take. So you figure the call will take 15 minutes the next item will start at 9:15. At the end of the day, anything that did not get done moves the to top of the list for the next work day. \nIf your work is not of this nature then you don’t need a list. Just keep track of what you are doing and when you feel that you are getting distracted ask yourself “what is happening right now?” This should get you back to the task at hand. No matter what, you will learn that there is always less going on that you imagined there was before you started a system to keep track. Also remember that things always take more time that you imagine. If you think something will take 15 minutes, give yourself 30 to do it. As you learn how long things really take you can adjust your estimates." ]	[ 6, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. ", "How do you keep your mind busy after a breakup and no friends? My girlfriend just left me after 5 years by leaving me a note after a 17 hour work day. I have no really friends in the city I am in, just started my new career and have only a small amount of family members. I need like immediate help right at this minute (1220 AM) and not sure what to feel or do with myself. " ]	[ "You sound like me a few months ago. My ex of 2.5 years just up and left with no reason at all, except that she is bipolar (diagnosed). A few months later she started dating this really rich fat guy and a few months after that(during Xmas) they got engaged. It hurt. More than I dare to relive. I balled my eyes out and soaked up every ounce of the pain. I let it all in. I watched as our dogs that we got together sat crying at the window day and night, crying, waiting for \"mom\" to come home. I found notes all around the house that she had left for me and cried some more. 2-3 months into it I was visiting my family and my mother tricked me into stepping onto a scale. What was once my 165 lb 5'9\" body was now 117 lbs. I had given up and it wasn't really clear until that moment. That was the smallest I had been since middle school and I am 29 years old. My family wanted me to stay at a VA facility. What I realized in the wake of it all was that even though I did/do love her, I love my dogs more. And I wasn't going to abandon them the way she abandoned us. Because of that, I knew I only had one choice, continue living. The second thing I realized is that I was incapable of being alone. My entire life I have had myself surrounded by other people. Sports, relationships, family. I was never really alone. I always had someone to talk to, someone to occupy my time with. After she left, I realized I had no one. And that's what hurt the most. Not that she left me. I see now how much better I deserve. Not how she left me. Which I wouldn't wish on anyone. But that she left me alone knowing full well I had no one as we had moved states together. The next step I knew I had to take I had to do alone. I had to beat that part of me. It's been almost 9 months. It's the longest I've been without sleeping with someone or even considering it. I talk to a couple close friends on the phone once a month or so and my parents a couple times a week. The rest of that time I spend on me. I've never been mentally stronger than I am now. I am back in the gym and at 145 lbs. I don't drink or smoke(medical marijuana or cigarettes) at all anymore and I did both in excess. I eat three square meals a day, work on a Kickstarter page I am hoping to launch next month and work hard in school. Little by little, I find a way to improve myself. I still have bad days and I still miss the way she made me feel about myself. She had a way of making me feel like a king. But in the end, I had the power to do that as well, it just took time to see it. \n\nThat's the best I can tell you OP. Everyone has a different story, but there's mine and I hope it brings you a little bit of help. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. There is also no shame in seeing a professional and there are dozens of places to do it for free. Just except that it is part of life, but it isn't the end of it. \n\nOh, and get a dog. Those fluffy bastards are amazing. ", "Do not Isolate from the outside. Made this mistake often and got trapped in my own mind and Feelings.\n\nI don't have many friends too, so i started ignoring my feels while playing games. But didn't help, it just covered it as Long as i didn't stopped playing.\n\nGoing outside, let your senses feel everything around you is an advice an old Lady gave me while i was in a psychatric clinic.\nGo outside, even it's only for 5 minutes, and hear on your senses. Smell, taste, hear, see. Just concentrate on your surrounding and you will notice it gets better.\n\nStart Feeling yourself at this moments, and notice that you are there. You are a Person yourself that can live all by itself without someone Need to push you to Keep going. \nI do this \"Feel all senses\" everytime i am going outside alone or going for my weekly Train ride (2 1/2 hours Long) to stop thinking about Long gone relationships and so on. It really helps noticing other People around you, watch them and Feeling your Body where it is and stop living inside your head.\n\n\nIt's hard to follow, but it will work, i promise <3\n\ngood luck and best wishes!", "Watch the Lost room. I'm watching it right now and it'd be cool if some random stranger in some part of the world was watching it at the same time :) ", "Time to make friends with co-workers, join a gym, start running/bicycling, and doing things that make you feel good ", "I'm so sorry :( I moved across the country for a guy who cheated on me and left and I had almost no friends in the city I was in. It sucked so much, especially at night.\n\nWhat are your hobbies? Or things you'd like to have be hobbies? I'd suggest thinking of a few things and then search Facebook for groups in your area, Meetup.com, Reddit, etc. Also think of a handful of things you would like to do volunteer wise and look for places to do that as well. You may but actually be able to do anything tonight (or tomorrow when you get out of work), but you can do the footwork research wise. Volunteering is especially great because being of service to others gets you out of your own head and you feel better about yourself doing it.\n\nAnimals, like someone else suggested, are also great. Right now is kitten (and puppy) season (I'm assuming you're in the northern continent) and rescues are desperate for fosters. So perhaps take a litter of kittens in and let them live with you until they find homes. It's extremely difficult to be depressed while watching kittens play. (I may have done this one many times over during various breakups throughout my life.) \n\nBasically, just come up with a few things to test out for now and do the research. Then tomorrow you can start calling/emailing. Break it into baby steps.\n\nAlso, binge watch stuff at night that's funny, especially when going to bed. It's easier when you're sad to accidentally nod off while watching something than to lie down in a quiet room and think too much. Better Off Ted, The League, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, The Guild (if you game at all, otherwise nah), Bob's Burgers, and 30 Rock are all good and on Netflix. And, of course, Friends. Friends got me through the breakup of a five year relationship.\n\nWish I could do more! I cringe for you remembering how miserable I was after my two big breakups. But it does get better and you will feel a little less empty each day. /hugs", "Meetup.com man. I had to recently start over, just like you. This will give you access to so many people that would instantly welcome you to all sorts of events.", "I second that, watch movies tonight. Change a habit tomorrow. If you can, go out and treat yourself to a meal or a drink tomorrow. Talk to strangers! Do those things you've been putting off for a while. You'll thank yourself later for it.", "Hobbies hobbies hobbies. Also helping people is huge too.\n\nI'd say helping people is the best way to deal with any hardship in life (volunteering). It shifts focus from you to someone else and really puts your life into perspective.", "Considering the circumstances, you are actually not in a bad situation. You have now the possibility to be the best person you can be. Any friends you make is an improvement, working/out going to the gym will improve you. You can start an amazing journey and the future you to be stronger than you have ever been.\n\nMy gf left me after 14 years, I still have no idea why. When I was with her I had the life I always wanted. I was/am still popular with loads of friends, I'm in incredible shape, great career and I run a charity organization. Even though the activities and friend occupy my mind it hurt like hell. I felt trapped and wanted to do something else in my life - but I had everything. I just had to continue do the stuff I was doing. I had to continue go to the gym and still...today I'm the same guy I was when she left. I'm the guy I want to be :)\n\nNow you go out and be the one you want to be.", "Adding to all the comments; one thing that helped my depression was buying a shoe polishing kit and getting my best shoes to a mirror shine. \n\nIt costs next to nothing for a buffer and some polish and a few tips from Youtube, you can spend a good hour taking your mind off things and at the end of it, you can look down and see an improvement. \n\nEither way, best of luck :D", "My name is HuskyBowner (don't wanna give real name on the thread). I was born in MA, moved to California for a few years, and finally ended up in Colorado before I joined the military. I've been out of the military for a few years and I'm about to leave my job and be a full time dad for a little while. Nice to meet you. Feel free to message me and I'll get in contact with you since I don't know how to do it myself on mobile and I would be interested in getting to know you.", "I second volunteering, working out (endorphins are amazing depression stoppers and euphoria drivers) or getting/being/staying active, sites like meetup.org or Facebook groups in your area. \n\nRead this: http://iheartintelligence.com/2016/05/30/being-single/ ...maybe it will help a little? Lots of people enjoyed it.\n\nAlso: look into activities at your local rec center or YMCA, take a cooking or dancing or painting or whatever class you wanted to check out all along.\n\nBe gentle with yourself. Now is not the time to be hard on you. Pulling yourself up by your bootstraps will come but try to take it a little easy first. \n\nTime does heal all wounds, and this too shall pass, even if you feel like you're going to die. Reach out to what support system you do have: old friends from previous places, family, etc. Call them. Stay in touch with people. \n\nLove and best wishes to you.", "I have no close friends either, as I've always been shy and people I've known are unreliable. You can bounce back but things take some time. It takes time to get the pain out of you. For some people they supress it with drugs or alcohol, but I recommend focusing on what makes you happy whether it be biking, building things, plating video games, or things that generally distract you from life. Hang in there man. Who knows how long it'll be before you're out dancing, going sightseeing or else, all with someone new who appreciates your experience and how you overcome life's little downers? Look at it this way too... Now someone else has to put up with her shit." ]	[ 32, 10, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I'm having trouble with my world view on life. Any groups or practices that have helped find clarity? For the past year[24/F], I have been struggling with understanding the point of life. I've been focused and setting goals/projects for myself to keep a sense of accomplishment but these are short lived. \nI was wondering if there were any suggested life practices or groups that people have joined to help bring clarity to their life. I dabble in weekly yoga but I'm unsure if devoting myself to a strict yoga lifestyle is what will help. Any suggestions? ", "I'm having trouble with my world view on life. Any groups or practices that have helped find clarity? For the past year[24/F], I have been struggling with understanding the point of life. I've been focused and setting goals/projects for myself to keep a sense of accomplishment but these are short lived. \nI was wondering if there were any suggested life practices or groups that people have joined to help bring clarity to their life. I dabble in weekly yoga but I'm unsure if devoting myself to a strict yoga lifestyle is what will help. Any suggestions? ", "I'm having trouble with my world view on life. Any groups or practices that have helped find clarity? For the past year[24/F], I have been struggling with understanding the point of life. I've been focused and setting goals/projects for myself to keep a sense of accomplishment but these are short lived. \nI was wondering if there were any suggested life practices or groups that people have joined to help bring clarity to their life. I dabble in weekly yoga but I'm unsure if devoting myself to a strict yoga lifestyle is what will help. Any suggestions? ", "I'm having trouble with my world view on life. Any groups or practices that have helped find clarity? For the past year[24/F], I have been struggling with understanding the point of life. I've been focused and setting goals/projects for myself to keep a sense of accomplishment but these are short lived. \nI was wondering if there were any suggested life practices or groups that people have joined to help bring clarity to their life. I dabble in weekly yoga but I'm unsure if devoting myself to a strict yoga lifestyle is what will help. Any suggestions? " ]	[ "Remember that the world is full of people who would give anything - if they had anything - to trade places with you. To not be starving, or sick, or violated, or brutalized, or sleeping naked in the street, or too many other things to name. Sounds trite but it is true.", "I went with the Nihilist/existentialist view (iirc it's nihilist, but it's morning). Life is inherently meaningless, thus, it is up to you to give meaning to an otherwise empty life. Find out what you want (really want, as in, you're making actual effort). From there on, there's a few options.\n\nDecide life doesn't need a purpose, it's what I did. You can still set general goals ofc.\nFind a group to do group activities with, connect wih people and find your purpose in friendship\n\nStart learning a skill and aim to master it.", "Find a hobby, such as video games or building models. Takes up time, and if you find the right one, can be a full filling hobby for a long time. As per the meaning of life? There are so many different answers, you kind of have to find one and just accept it and roll with it.", "Depends on your learning and thinking style. I'm a skeptic so found Krishnamurti useful reading, for example. Buddhism, old style, too. \n\nFor the question of what to do as daily practice, try picking an issue that makes you feel passionate, like ending modern slavery or talking sense into your city Hall. Find others who have been working on it and join in. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. ", "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. ", "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. ", "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. ", "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. ", "Washing clothes while travelling. Quick. Easy. Anywhere. Happy to buy special clothes if that helps. " ]	[ "Where are you traveling? Is it someplace hot or dry air?\n\nWhen I traveled Egypt a few years ago, I was able to handwash my clothes in the sink, wring dry and hang by the window. Because of the heat and dry air, they were always dry by morning. I used shampoo instead of soap.\n\nHere's some great [tips (with pics) ](http://www.wikihow.com/Do-Laundry-While-Traveling)on laundry while traveling abroad.\n\nAnother site, you with similar [tips](http://toolkit.bootsnall.com/how-to-travel-guide/packing-light.html) on packing light and how to handle the washing clothes during travel.", "Most places will have laundry. Either in the hotel room or a laundromat in the city. Collect all your dirty cloth, wash it, dry it.\n\nOtherwise bring a lot of clothing and change daily, this will keep anyone item from getting too soiled so you can wear it multiple times", "I've been travelling several times and I mostly just washed my clothes in the sink or shower with a little bit of shampoo or shower gel. Works absolutely fine, do it several times and they could do with a proper wash but it did me fine. Bring a ball of string with you too so you can make a washing line.", "I would get sporty type of wear- like shirts you use for exercise. They don't get too wrinkly and if they are body-hugging, even if they do get wrinkly it will straighten out when you put it on. \n\nI don't know what people would wear where you are travelling, and if it would be appropriate to wear something like yoga pants, but perhaps something that is made of same material. \n\nJust wash them with soap, if no access no detergent and then squeeze it out and hang or lay to dry. Easy to wash by hand in a sink. They are very light and you can pack a few of those in your back pack. Check out your local second-hand store for cheaper version. \n\n\n", "I am so glad that you asked, because [I tackled just this topic in my blog](http://theinfamousj.livejournal.com/tag/laundry) and the solution has appeared in a few other places (YouTube, Shoestring Magazine).\n\nIf you click [the link](http://theinfamousj.livejournal.com/tag/laundry) and want a TL;DR version, simply watch the first video that appears on the page.\n\nNo need to buy special clothing. This is both quick, easy, and anywhere.", "Buy Merino wool clothes. Even if you don't wash them they don't stink and they don't feel clamy if you sweat in them.\n\nBuy some soap flakes and a universal sink plug (looks like a rubber coaster). Fill sink put some some soap in there rub the clothes. Another way is to first shower with all your clothes on, soap them up, then take them all off and stand on them while showering.\n\nThen ring it up, wrap it in a towel and BEAT the hell out of it. Hit it in the floor punch it, whatever to get as much water as possible. Hang up on a clothespin-less clothes wire. If you beat it enough it should be dry by the morning.\n\nAlternatively, just bring nothing. If you're going to Vietnam, shirts and clothes cost almost nothing. That way you pack less, save money and support as well as look more like a local." ]	[ 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Huge Fear of Public Speaking Hi was just in a school zoom call which involved quite a lot of people. I had to speak briefly about something but I have a huge fear of public speaking, I thought it would be fine though as I had my camera off and a script in front of me. As soon as I started speaking I began to panic and stutter so I quickly left the call in a state of panic. I emailed the teacher saying I got cut off but I’m pretty sure it was obvious I didn’t. Anyone have any tips on improving public speaking or dealing with this embarrassment?", "Huge Fear of Public Speaking Hi was just in a school zoom call which involved quite a lot of people. I had to speak briefly about something but I have a huge fear of public speaking, I thought it would be fine though as I had my camera off and a script in front of me. As soon as I started speaking I began to panic and stutter so I quickly left the call in a state of panic. I emailed the teacher saying I got cut off but I’m pretty sure it was obvious I didn’t. Anyone have any tips on improving public speaking or dealing with this embarrassment?", "Huge Fear of Public Speaking Hi was just in a school zoom call which involved quite a lot of people. I had to speak briefly about something but I have a huge fear of public speaking, I thought it would be fine though as I had my camera off and a script in front of me. As soon as I started speaking I began to panic and stutter so I quickly left the call in a state of panic. I emailed the teacher saying I got cut off but I’m pretty sure it was obvious I didn’t. Anyone have any tips on improving public speaking or dealing with this embarrassment?" ]	[ "The toastmasters comment is correct, I've never gone but I know the curriculum and know people who have gone through the process. My only suggestion is to realize that no one really cares about what you're saying do why should you care so much?", "Practice, practice, practice. I played a lot of music in concerts growing up, was in a play, spoke in church constantly, etc. Just relax, take a breath when you need to, and take you time.", "99% of your audience is only half listening. They aren’t there to judge you, they’re there to hear you. Just talk to them." ]	[ 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to be super calm at work Hey Reddit \n\nSo I've been having this very disturbing behaviour lately, in normal circumstances, like when you normally would say \"meh, no big deal\" I'm like \"OH SNAP WHAT JUST HAPPENED WHAT DO I DO OH WE'RE DOOMED (Shoutout to C3PO)\" \n\nAnyway so I work in a hospital, so I have to be EXTREMELY CALM... How can I do that? I try to calm myself whenever i get in such panic attacks, it seem to work just a little, but I want to hear your ideas as well", "How to be super calm at work Hey Reddit \n\nSo I've been having this very disturbing behaviour lately, in normal circumstances, like when you normally would say \"meh, no big deal\" I'm like \"OH SNAP WHAT JUST HAPPENED WHAT DO I DO OH WE'RE DOOMED (Shoutout to C3PO)\" \n\nAnyway so I work in a hospital, so I have to be EXTREMELY CALM... How can I do that? I try to calm myself whenever i get in such panic attacks, it seem to work just a little, but I want to hear your ideas as well", "How to be super calm at work Hey Reddit \n\nSo I've been having this very disturbing behaviour lately, in normal circumstances, like when you normally would say \"meh, no big deal\" I'm like \"OH SNAP WHAT JUST HAPPENED WHAT DO I DO OH WE'RE DOOMED (Shoutout to C3PO)\" \n\nAnyway so I work in a hospital, so I have to be EXTREMELY CALM... How can I do that? I try to calm myself whenever i get in such panic attacks, it seem to work just a little, but I want to hear your ideas as well", "How to be super calm at work Hey Reddit \n\nSo I've been having this very disturbing behaviour lately, in normal circumstances, like when you normally would say \"meh, no big deal\" I'm like \"OH SNAP WHAT JUST HAPPENED WHAT DO I DO OH WE'RE DOOMED (Shoutout to C3PO)\" \n\nAnyway so I work in a hospital, so I have to be EXTREMELY CALM... How can I do that? I try to calm myself whenever i get in such panic attacks, it seem to work just a little, but I want to hear your ideas as well" ]	[ "You have anxiety. It's probably pretty bad, and you can't ignore it. If you don't take care of it now, it will ruin your life permanently.\n\nSource: experience. \n\n\n", "The other commend have covered most of the bases for you. If you don't have high blood pressure or anxiety, or some other disease state, but are getting irrational during stressful episodes, or over-reacting to patently non-stressful episodes (which is what it sounds like), it could be your preparation for your job is inadequate. Find a way to practice for the stressful parts and control your breathing while you practice. Get your act down to a science. Get a sense of humor about yourself and your coworkers.\n\nIt could be that you are not in the correct job. The fit is not natural enough for you to grow comfortably and steadily.\n\nIt could be that you are burned out. Having anger responses triggered by trivial problems is one sign that you may need to rethink your career path or at the least take a vacation and disconnect and heal. Not recharge, heal. Something in you broke and caused the fire that burned you. \n\nSOURCE: three years working as a tech in a teaching hospital pharmacy, providing support services on codes, mixing hyperals and chemo, filling the unit dose bins (still makes me cringe), and watching how everyone else acted and reacted. It was a long time ago and isn't really a job for techs anymore, but it was my get-through-college job.", "Some people below are saying you have an anxiety disorder and need medication/treatment. I kinda disagree, though if your emotions are becoming to disrupted that it's affecting your work long term, speaking with a medical professional is never a bad idea.\n\nWith that said, I've had many times when tackling new responsibilities or other new work experiences that have resulted in similar types of anxiety attacks. I've found the best way to combat it is to just take a moment to address these emotions and let it kinda, \"wash over you\". The whole, count to ten, deep breaths, etc. Then, focus on the smallest component of the task at hand and just try to start with that.\n\nOften times, most of my anxiety comes from thinking too, \"big picture\". When all your tasks and components required for something to be complete are seen in their totality and are all incomplete, anybody would feel anxious or angry.\n\nSo, if you struggle with remaining calm at work, just don't dwell on it or the thing that makes you anxious. Address the catalyzing event, break it down to it's core components and just give it the ol' College Try. If you fail, you fail. Oh well. The next big task will let you redeem yourself. Or not. Honestly, you should try your best at your job, but if that isn't good enough, then that means you were either poorly trained (which is there fault, not yours) or they are expecting too much of a normal employee. That's assuming you do work hard and honestly and paid attention during training. And I can understand how working at a hospital, some things are literally life-or-death. And if your failure results in something so extreme like this, again, you are hardly solely responsible. You should never be in a position where that level of pressure falls squarely on your shoulders with zero redundancy checks.\n\nI guess my only other advice, from first hand experience, is that most of my anxiety at work came from my fear of angering others. My job is a support/operations role in IT. When I first started and systems would fail, I would immediately apologize to those affected and take on this personal sense of responsibility for it. This was a terrible exercise in futility. I didn't break the system. I didn't make it. Why do I feel so terrible that it's failed? Why do I apologize to profusely to the person inconvenienced by it, like it's my fault? That kind of professional anti-apathy, managers love it. Because you take all the heat off of them. But, you'll last maybe a few months before you either have to evolve or quit. Empathy is a great tool, but you're own emotions and mental health comes first. If you can't help yourself, you're no help to anybody else.\n\nAnd don't immediately jump on the medication bandwagon as your first approach. Medication and therapy is great and absolutely may be the extreme some people need to cope with these types of stress. It's not a sign of weakness or anything to be ashamed about.\n\nBut you should always see if you can alleviate these types of problems yourself, first. Either change of habits, environment, or your approach to triggers that make you anxious.\n\nSo, that's it for my essay on the subject.\n\n", "Same here. \nIts a very mental kind of state. My former professors/surgeons/doctors/superiors were always calm and i just copy their style :P . \n\nMain thing is: Be prepared for the worse. That's all you can do. \nThat's what i say to personell/team and it kinda works. Those patients/stressmoments come in waves, so we always have some \"sayings\" like: its quiet before the storm. Etc etc. Just to prepare them, when there might not even be a lead. \n\nAlso, when its actually quiet, prepare everything, tidy up things etc. And that's all you can do. Some pressure is always good but you have to be realistic about it. \n\n" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to organize archives/folders in your PC So I decided to organize my pc, deleted unwanted files to get more space and make everything easier to access, but there are a TON of folder insider folders and I don't know if there is an easy way to organize. One example is a folder of images, I tossed every new image there and the folder got pretty big, so I decided to separate them in subfolders, but is tiring to see each image one by one to see where they should go... And also to delete duplicate files (sometimes I copy a file or download it twice in different folders)", "How to organize archives/folders in your PC So I decided to organize my pc, deleted unwanted files to get more space and make everything easier to access, but there are a TON of folder insider folders and I don't know if there is an easy way to organize. One example is a folder of images, I tossed every new image there and the folder got pretty big, so I decided to separate them in subfolders, but is tiring to see each image one by one to see where they should go... And also to delete duplicate files (sometimes I copy a file or download it twice in different folders)", "How to organize archives/folders in your PC So I decided to organize my pc, deleted unwanted files to get more space and make everything easier to access, but there are a TON of folder insider folders and I don't know if there is an easy way to organize. One example is a folder of images, I tossed every new image there and the folder got pretty big, so I decided to separate them in subfolders, but is tiring to see each image one by one to see where they should go... And also to delete duplicate files (sometimes I copy a file or download it twice in different folders)" ]	[ "I have a pretty organized computer. \nMovies, tv shows, documents, music, and pictures each have their own area. Tv shows get their own folder in the tv file - much easier to find the exact show I want. Music goes under artist, and then under albums. Documents get sorted between old school work (by classes, etc), important documents, even ebooks, etc. \n\nPictures are the absolute worst. I took the time to clean it up over a few months, and continue to do so. Most times there's an event that comes with a bunch of photos, but there's also random stuff. So my folder looks something like this:\nPhotos\n\n--2006-01-31 Camping trip\n\n--2007-06-14 Birthday party\n\n--2017-01-01 New year's party\n\n--People\n\n----Dad\n\n----Brother\n\n--Houses\n\n----Wallula\n\n----Hogan\n\nEtc. Everything is sorted by date. The random one-off pics I have of friends and family get dumped into their own folder. Remolded houses, they even get their own. It goes on. \nI have a \"new pictures\" folder that I dump my camera and phone pics into that I sort off and on.\nI have a \"needs to be sorted\" folder on my desktop that random stuff gets dumped into until I can sort it. I go through my downloads folder and send that stuff to where it belongs periodically. \nIt took doing, I will say that. It wasn't a one day easy process. But once it was done... Oh, so nice! I can find everything very quickly - including that one picture of my cat sleeping with his tongue hanging out. Lol.", "Ok, from now on save everything into a \"downloads\" folder. Then, once a week you clean out that folder. Having a single \"inbox\" is a lot more manageable than placing things willy-nilly.\n\nDrag and drop will be your friend. Any modern OS will let you select multiple files (through ctrl+click, shift+click, ctrl-a, and other shortcuts) and move them at once in this way. Change the zoom level so that the thumbnails are clearly visible: this way you can tell at a glance what a picture or video is and know how to sort them without individually inspecting each one (other files will require a filename or other inspection). This should feel a lot faster.\n\nStart by sorting everything into broad categories, such as the media folders already available on your PC: music, documents, pictures, videos. If you have other categories such as games, you can add them as well. Music is easy, and documents will generally be simple too. It sounds like your main trouble is with images.\n\nYou're going to have to find an organization that works for you. Save a lot of photos with your camera? It makes sense to sort things by date or location. Some cameras even exist which geotag your photos and do this automatically, but I don't know much about this. Mainly save dank memes? Sort by the type of meme, or maybe whatever subreddit you pulled it from. Don't be afraid about too many subfolders, as long as you know you can still easily find a pic by the folder structure alone. There should only ever be one viable location for a file (e.g. no folders named \"memes1, memes2\") Additionally, make sure to give good filenames to your images when possible. \n\nFilenames will be important when a folder grows large, but not so large more subfolders make sense. cat_watermelon_hat.jpg is a lot easier to find through searches or manually than cat1.jpg.\n\nVisipics is a program which will find duplicate images for you.\n\nIf you feel like becoming an extreme power user, a program like hydrusnetwork might be what you want. This program uses tags to find and sort images, which is infinitely more powerful and intuitive than a folder system (for instance, music has used tags/metadata for years, which is why it's so easy to find your songs in iTunes or whatever program you use). As a downside it's resource intensive, it requires you only use the program to modify images, and the UI is extremely unfriendly. But if you do have a large collection (on the order of thousands of images, to the point that folders and filenames become cumbersome and unwieldy), it or similar programs might be worth looking into.", "When you're moving photos, have the folder you're moving from on one side of the screen and the folder you're moving to on the other side. Now go through and select all the photos you want to move into the new folder by holding CTRL and clicking all the photos you want to select. This will select multiple photos. When you're done, simply drag them into the new folder. This will take way less time than copying and pasting each photo individually" ]	[ 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to ask for more time off for a honeymoon Soon to be newlywed here in a couple of months... I originally asked my boss for 2 weeks off for a honeymoon, which he approved. I ended up having to push back the wedding a month due to scheduling issues, and thus had to change the date of the time off request once already. Now my fiance says we need a little extra time to make our plans work... any suggestions for requesting extra time off for a honeymoon if you've already had to nudge the date around a bit without sounding like a flake?", "How to ask for more time off for a honeymoon Soon to be newlywed here in a couple of months... I originally asked my boss for 2 weeks off for a honeymoon, which he approved. I ended up having to push back the wedding a month due to scheduling issues, and thus had to change the date of the time off request once already. Now my fiance says we need a little extra time to make our plans work... any suggestions for requesting extra time off for a honeymoon if you've already had to nudge the date around a bit without sounding like a flake?", "How to ask for more time off for a honeymoon Soon to be newlywed here in a couple of months... I originally asked my boss for 2 weeks off for a honeymoon, which he approved. I ended up having to push back the wedding a month due to scheduling issues, and thus had to change the date of the time off request once already. Now my fiance says we need a little extra time to make our plans work... any suggestions for requesting extra time off for a honeymoon if you've already had to nudge the date around a bit without sounding like a flake?" ]	[ "Explain everything honestly and simply. If it's a problem, he'll tell you honestly and simply. If he says it's fine, be extra flexible and enthusiastic about covering extra work.", "How far away is the wedding? If it's anything more then 3-4 months most bosses tend to be pretty understanding of that", "why would you need more than 2 weeks? scale down your trip a bit. how much is extra? if it is 3 days, I would wait until you are on the trip and just shoot an email and say sorry, I won't be in until X date. " ]	[ 3, 1, -5 ]	safe
[ "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks.", "How to make a black eye heal faster. I walked into a pole on the street today and now my eye is, well, a mess. I can cover it up for school tomorrow, but I'd like to get it to heal faster. I could only find advice on bruises on here, and I don't know whether to treat it the same way I do a bruise.\nThanks." ]	[ "Ice pack followed by heat pack. The idea is to stimulate circulation around the area by constricting and dilating. ", "Eat pineapple, there is an enzyme (bromelain) that speeds up fading of bruises. Though at this point nothing will make it vanish before school.", "While it is all well and good to joke, if you have been punched, slapped, pushed into something by someone that should care for you then it is ok to ask advice here... \n \n", "I know this sounds weird, but get an uncooked egg (still in shell) and roll/rub it gently over the affected area. Soon, the egg will change color and you're black eye won't be quite as black of an eye anymore. and it looks like I may be pretty late to this, but maybe it will still work! Good luck!", "To be honest, nothing is really going to help. There is hemoglobin in your skin, that usually belongs into your red blood cells. It's a rather big molecule, so it can't be removed. Instead, enzymes of your body break it down into smaller molecules on the spot. This process takes a while and, as far as I know, there is no way to speed it up.", "My grandma always used chewing tobacco for bruises. I have no idea how well, if at all, this actually worked however.", "Banana peels. Close your eye and put a banana peel over the bruised area for a little bit for a few days, and your skin will heal faster. " ]	[ 10, 6, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!", "Should I drop my current friends Hey everyone! I’m a male Junior in High School and my friend group is very toxic, often talking bad about me behind my back and never hang out with me, and this is the first time in my life I’ve really had a group of friends and I was severely depressed before when I didn’t have this group. Do I drop them? Do I stick it out until college? Help!" ]	[ "Distance yourself, be less available. Generally groups like this will create drama and ostracize people. Beat them to the punch. Make new friends, volunteer, do good things. You'll feel much better.", "Drop em like the plague. Make the best of your senior year with friends that have similar interests.", "It's better to cut ties with people like this. After high school you'll never see any of them anyway. Try and make one to four really good friends instead, those are the ones that stick around.", "Your \"friends\" are not your friends. Try to find peopld who you like to hang out with and who like to hang out with you.\nThe current situation will make you miserable, imo. However, I see why you don't want to drop them right now. I suggest you not to invest in your current \"friend\" group and socialize in order to find better people. Joining clubs or other activities is the way to go.", "Find one person who doesn’t seem toxic and that you get along with. Join their friend group and youll probably find more people you enjoy that aren’t toxic", "I cut off my toxic friends and let me tell you. It was the best thing that happened. There was no point keeping them because at the end of the day they were very toxic and always make me down.", "try r/relationship_advice\n\nI am sadly familiar with this kind of situation from a different perspective. My heart goes out to you. You used the word toxic because it is. You will end up a healthier and happier person if you stand up for yourself and call them out on their poor behavior. This may set a precedent for how you allow yourself to be treated for the rest of your life. Please, call them out on talking about you behind your back. Be ready to walk away. You deserve to be treated with respect. If you hang onto these people, you will grow to resent them and a sad bitterness will grow inside you. Calling them out on the way they treat you may scare them straight and give them a reason to respect you, or it may polarize them and cause them to attack you in their defense. Enter the situation ready to say goodbye, but have a plan where you will reach out to at least one human being afterwards to just maintain a grip on reality. Human contact is weird in this way... you literally need to \"work on it.\" It will get better. Remember to take care of yourself. You are far from alone in this huge world.", "You need people in your life. Step out and find some ground with new people, and when you know you’re safe with them and you can start to trust them, you can finish the step by leaving your old friends for your new friends. Hope this helps", "Then they aren't really your friends. Plus you're in high school friends come and go just keep finding someone and something you have in common with, it takes patience.", "So it is my observation of my kids going through the school system is that people change friend groups as they progress through different schools. Your friends in elementary school are probably not your close friends now. In part because usually multiple elementary schools feed into the junior high. You will probably make a new group of friends once you get to high school especially if more than one junior high feeds into the high school. \n\nAnd one more observation, the popular kids in junior do not always remain popular in high school. Each school is it’s own microcosm. \n\nSorry your friends are being jerks. Middle school/junior high are the hardest years. People are trying to manage puberty, figure out a new school system and who they are. It is difficult to navigate. \n\nI hope things get better for you.", "Making friends at your age feels hard, and distancing yourself from people you see everyday feels harder so! Here are some tips:\n\n - clubs and societies at school (inc. volunteering groups)are great are filling a social void and connecting to new folk\n\n- people exist outside school, if the clubs and societies at your school are saturated with people you don't get on with, look at some local youth groups (think theatre, hiking, whatever you like)\n\n- online communities can also bridge the gap to an extent\n\nFinally: know that there are times in life you will feel alone and it will suck, but its a good time to fall in love with yourself. Do all the things you wanna do with other people (cinema, exploring a city, sports, etc) and don't feel bad. Discover new media, learn a skill, get into a hobby. Learning to enjoy your own company will give you a solid foundation of wellbeing and everyone in your life thereafter will be a bonus joy and a choice.", "I did this and wow am I glad I did. It has been 10 years since I switched friend groups. I don't talk to any of my old friends and the new friends I made are like family to me. We are still close", "Doesnt rly sound like they are your friends in the first place just move on friends come and go especially highschool ones" ]	[ 20, 13, 4, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Ideas to Cushion Laptop In Backpack? I had to get a new backpack for class, but accidentally got one with a “laptop compartment” too small for my laptop. (I got the biggest option available at the store) \n\nI’d rather not go to the trouble of returning the backpack and looking everywhere for another one, since I have found that at least its main compartment fits it. Only problem is, of course, it’s uncushioned. Any ideas for ways to pad that compartment, to keep this expensive thing reasonably safe? I’d only be keeping maybe a notebook and a pencil case in there with it, so plenty of room.", "Ideas to Cushion Laptop In Backpack? I had to get a new backpack for class, but accidentally got one with a “laptop compartment” too small for my laptop. (I got the biggest option available at the store) \n\nI’d rather not go to the trouble of returning the backpack and looking everywhere for another one, since I have found that at least its main compartment fits it. Only problem is, of course, it’s uncushioned. Any ideas for ways to pad that compartment, to keep this expensive thing reasonably safe? I’d only be keeping maybe a notebook and a pencil case in there with it, so plenty of room.", "Ideas to Cushion Laptop In Backpack? I had to get a new backpack for class, but accidentally got one with a “laptop compartment” too small for my laptop. (I got the biggest option available at the store) \n\nI’d rather not go to the trouble of returning the backpack and looking everywhere for another one, since I have found that at least its main compartment fits it. Only problem is, of course, it’s uncushioned. Any ideas for ways to pad that compartment, to keep this expensive thing reasonably safe? I’d only be keeping maybe a notebook and a pencil case in there with it, so plenty of room." ]	[ "[Foam sleeve?](https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwisupKshKXzAhVJwMgKHSfVCBEYABAPGgJxdQ&agsac=XYZnzNcmhGw&cit=CkQKCAjwndCKBhAaEjQAnyWnmdpDGJn0tPX8f2-Td2_gvVoT4CN5jINyU-12KzSaSEPRsRk5FYzbkdT3de2haqFlGgJOzvD_BwE&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESP-D2NWB-PD_sxz9OFtVgY6IkDUhDtq_TsjChPnDzGI8WOqrs-AnfoRwbV72tPL3rRhHWBS4flpzfl0vMYRKfyg&sig=AOD64_2zQRLoGLmTmuLsMVg6tVZjJf5bsA&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiH64SshKXzAhVnUN8KHTlBCmsQwg96BAgBEE0&adurl=)", "Use clean socks to pad the bag. Then you have spare socks too. My laptop fits like a glove in my backpack, I still do this to protect hardware and feet.", "I'd try to get a travel sleeve, but regardless there's only so much you can do to protect it. I keep my 15\" in a pocket that holds it tight and am very careful with how I handle my bag\n \nNot the LPT you're looking for but I hope it helps" ]	[ 3, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "living on the road I'm unhappy with my living situation, I've got a few hundred dollars saved up. I want to head west. I'm in the US. I've got a little dog, and a small car - the car is not the best shape, but it'll get me wherever. I may live out of my car, I may stay with a friend or at a hotel every now and then. I just want to start a new life and I'm not sure how to go about it, if you guys or girls have any tips, much obliged. Thanks. ", "living on the road I'm unhappy with my living situation, I've got a few hundred dollars saved up. I want to head west. I'm in the US. I've got a little dog, and a small car - the car is not the best shape, but it'll get me wherever. I may live out of my car, I may stay with a friend or at a hotel every now and then. I just want to start a new life and I'm not sure how to go about it, if you guys or girls have any tips, much obliged. Thanks. ", "living on the road I'm unhappy with my living situation, I've got a few hundred dollars saved up. I want to head west. I'm in the US. I've got a little dog, and a small car - the car is not the best shape, but it'll get me wherever. I may live out of my car, I may stay with a friend or at a hotel every now and then. I just want to start a new life and I'm not sure how to go about it, if you guys or girls have any tips, much obliged. Thanks. ", "living on the road I'm unhappy with my living situation, I've got a few hundred dollars saved up. I want to head west. I'm in the US. I've got a little dog, and a small car - the car is not the best shape, but it'll get me wherever. I may live out of my car, I may stay with a friend or at a hotel every now and then. I just want to start a new life and I'm not sure how to go about it, if you guys or girls have any tips, much obliged. Thanks. " ]	[ "Dr. Bronner's soap. Various different sized totes/bins for organization of food, washing dishes, etc. Search free camping, invest in national parks passes and physical maps (batteries die and chips fry). Learn to maintain your own car;EVERYTHING is online it's just a matter of terminology and pin-pointing the problem. Socks and underwear are key, the rest can be worn quite a bit before they become too foul. Learn about couch surfing. You will not regret QUALITY camping/outdoor gear with solid warranties.", " never be afraid to ask for what you need. usually the more specific the better. a black marker can get you farther in life than a cr", "Public bathrooms have \"free\" toilet paper (you will need it), also a great place to \"sink-bathe\", just get the paper towels wet and take them into a stall to \"bathe\" so no one is disturbed by you. Learn to eat squirrels, they are easy to hunt, everywhere, and they taste like almond chicken. Use your gut instinct, common sense, and remember the saying \"if in doubt, don't do.\" Catholic Churches will always give you food, even if you aren't Catholic, don't even try other churches, they can require all kinds of B.S. Usually it is a large box filled with random non-perishable food items.", "Hello. These are my suggestions. \n\n1) Two fanny pack type things. An inner one (which technically would not be a fanny pack I guess, because it should be flatter and smaller) and an outer one. In the inner one, your bulk of cash and valuables. Outer one, semi valuables, id and stuff. \n\n2) A good and presentable backpack\n\n3) Baby powder. It's good as a dry shampoo for most types of hair and also for general body dryness and freshening up of course. \n\n4) A bundle of plastic bags, the type you get at any basic market or department store will be suitable. Always keep a bundle of these in your backpack. \n\n5) Minty sugar free gum. Of course the preference is toothbrush and toothpaste, and you should have these too, but keep gum handy for the times when you can't brush for some reason. Fresh breath is important when dealing with people. \n\n6) Before you hit the road, make sure you have an active library card in your hometown or wherever you can verify your residency. When traveling you can access computer and printing services, Internet, and of course all the wonderful entertaining and educational books that public libraries have to offer. I have gotten guest memberships in towns and cities way far away from my home base (albeit, a fee was involved) by virtue of having a valid library card from my hometown on me. \n\nI'll see what else I can think of, these are the first things that come to mind. I wish you fun and fulfillment and more...in your new venture. " ]	[ 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "I've picked up a few notebooks, post-it notes and the like, how can I use them to organise my life? I'm also open to any websites which you use.\n\nThis is what I do so far:\n\n* Pearltrees (Great free website for organisation)\n* \"Don't break the chain\" Sheets.\n* Mind Maps\n* I also have a massive to-do list which I use for everything.\n\nPlease also direct me to similar posts and try to keep the tips to apply to what things I've listed (I will buy things less than £5, if they are incredibly necessary).", "I've picked up a few notebooks, post-it notes and the like, how can I use them to organise my life? I'm also open to any websites which you use.\n\nThis is what I do so far:\n\n* Pearltrees (Great free website for organisation)\n* \"Don't break the chain\" Sheets.\n* Mind Maps\n* I also have a massive to-do list which I use for everything.\n\nPlease also direct me to similar posts and try to keep the tips to apply to what things I've listed (I will buy things less than £5, if they are incredibly necessary)." ]	[ "There's a book called \"Getting Things Done\" by David Allen that explains a fantastic system for staying organized.", "Do you have any pens? :)\n\nJoking aside break down what aspects of your life need organizing and keep them in a particular notebook. One for ideas, one for budget, etc. Personally I love sticky notes as a quick easy way to jot down ideas/brainfarts and still keep them in the same notebook.\ncolor coding also works great with sticky notes." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep charger plugged into a loose outlet? I work in coffee shops quite a bit. I carry a 45W Magsafe Charger for my MacBook and a lot of the times the wall outlets in coffee shops don't hold the weight and I have to physically hold the charger in place.\n\nAny quick hacks/tips?", "How to keep charger plugged into a loose outlet? I work in coffee shops quite a bit. I carry a 45W Magsafe Charger for my MacBook and a lot of the times the wall outlets in coffee shops don't hold the weight and I have to physically hold the charger in place.\n\nAny quick hacks/tips?", "How to keep charger plugged into a loose outlet? I work in coffee shops quite a bit. I carry a 45W Magsafe Charger for my MacBook and a lot of the times the wall outlets in coffee shops don't hold the weight and I have to physically hold the charger in place.\n\nAny quick hacks/tips?", "How to keep charger plugged into a loose outlet? I work in coffee shops quite a bit. I carry a 45W Magsafe Charger for my MacBook and a lot of the times the wall outlets in coffee shops don't hold the weight and I have to physically hold the charger in place.\n\nAny quick hacks/tips?", "How to keep charger plugged into a loose outlet? I work in coffee shops quite a bit. I carry a 45W Magsafe Charger for my MacBook and a lot of the times the wall outlets in coffee shops don't hold the weight and I have to physically hold the charger in place.\n\nAny quick hacks/tips?" ]	[ "Probably something you're not supposed to do, but I always bend the prongs together just a little bit on the plug to give almost a grip in the socket.", "If you have tape on you roll a small little bit of it and stick it in either side of the prongs before you plug it in.\n\n", "Double stick carpet tape on the underside of the charger so it will stick to the wall. Downside is you would have to replace it often. I agree with the other posters that a short (1foot-2foot) extension cord would probably be your best bet. Enough to get it to the floor but still be easy to store and carry around.", "2 rulers and heavy duty rubber band. get the rulers back to back real tight then adjust the length to hold up the plug against the floor. Hope someone doesnt kick it out.", "If you use the outlet a lot, i would just replace the outlet. Cost less than $2 and takes less than 10 minutes. It's a lot easier than you think, just be sure to kill the breaker." ]	[ 6, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!", "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!", "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!", "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!", "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!", "Moving tips/tricks I'm moving from Miami to DC in August...moving is miserable, no matter what, but what tips/tricks have you learned to make things easier/quicker/cheaper?\n\nEspecially cheaper, I'm young (read: poor) and don't want my stuff being held hostage for bullshit extra fees.\n\nLet me know what you've learned the hard way!" ]	[ "weigh the cost of moving everything against the expense of the move... you may realize you are better off with a few boxes of critical keep sakes and to just throw everything else away. You can likely buy second hand stuff when you get there on the cheap.", "To get free boxes. Ask your local grocery store to save boxes. I worked at a grocery store and we constantly saved boxes\nFor customers.", "Own milk crates and use them as shelving. Play my favorite moving game- \"Fuck It, Throw It Away.\" Bag all of your clothing. Wrap a tarp around your books/electronics section. Play \"F.I.T.I.A.\" again. Drive through the night. Learn and obey traffic laws. Have a welcoming crew to quickly unload your stuff.", "We're moving from California to Pennsylvania this month. I've spent hours upon hours trying to find the cheapest way to move ourselves, 2 cats, our 2 BR house, car, scooter, and hog (of the motorcycle variety). Here's my $.02\n\n* Don't be afraid to trash/sell your shit (this seems to be everyone's #1 advice)\n* PODS/U-Pack/U-Box all wound up being more expensive than renting a truck and driving yourself. Seems if you have the time, you can save the money.\n* Get rid of your physical books or consider sending them via media mail\n* Start collecting boxes now. It's surprising how many you can accumulate for free!\n* I bought a huge motorcycle trailer on CL that I'll sell after the move (saved a few hundred bucks in rental fees)", "Not a moving tip per se, but something I did out of sheer laziness a couple of times:\n\nLeave everything in boxes, and just unpack stuff as you need it. At the end of your 1 year lease if anything is still in a box throw it away.", "Have a moving sale - unless the stuff you want to sell is covered in poop or smells like it, put a price on it and try to sell it. \nOnce that is over - donate or throw away the rest. \n\n" ]	[ 7, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?", "How to land an entry level 9-5 job. With no college degree. I can provide specifics for my scenario, but maybe someone has some general tips for everyone?" ]	[ "If you're not desperate for a job, when you sign up for job boards or something similar to that, state in no uncertain terms that you want a nine-to-five job. You just have to watch out for \"bait and switch.\" They promise you a nine-to-five job, hire you, and then do not give you nine-to-five shifts.", "Temp agencies or staffing services. I went from delivering pizzas to a temp receptionist job and wound up getting hired as an accounting clerk. Take whatever they'll give you and then wow them once you're in the door. \n\nThe place I work now, 90% of the people came through a temp agency.", "Your first 9-5 job may not actually come from a job that is advertising 9-5. This is how I got my first 9-5 job.\n\nI started off doing casual hospitality (pizza, takeaway etc) and moved on quickly. I'm a tech guy so I started looking for any IT job, I only did TAFE so didn't have the qualifications or experience. I ended up finding a Tech Support Level 1 job at a call centre for an Internet provider. \n\nThe job wasn't 9-5, it varied as we were open later than normal (8am-8pm). I ended up doing three 12 hour days a week at one point as we needed it. I talked to my boss and we changed the hours a number of times, eventually we got 1 group that worked 8am to 4pm and the other group did 12pm to 8pm. After I had been there a while, I was able to negotiate always being the 8 to 4 as they valued me. \n\nAfter a couple of years I had the experience to apply for a real 9 to 5 IT job.", "The way I got mine--I know it won't work for everyone--definitely involved some luck. But I was interviewing for what I thought was a legitimate job with an energy company, turns out it was just another MLMO (multi-lvl marketing organization). Pissed off but already in my suit & tie--found the nearest office store, printed off extra copies of my resume and walked into the nearest \"nice looking\" office building. Chatted up the security lady, pressed random button on the elevator, walked in to an office with a little confidence and just asked if I could speak to someone about potential employment opportunities. 6 months later, I've got my own office, book of business is starting to grow, and I've learned a lot more than I ever thought. Turns out that my walking in unannounced was exactly what they were looking for, although they hadn't been actively searching for candidates.", "I'd try a job placement agency. You may start out in a secretarial position making minimum wage, but that can be a good in if you show your worth. That how my SO got started at her company and now she is a manager making really great money.", "temp companies have lots of openings that can turn to hire full time. These are a good way to try it before you buy it for employers and employees.", "You need to put in your post:\n\nWhy?(why do you want a 9-5 and why you chose this specific career) - Your reasoning may be an indication of your success. Getting a job with a degree is hard enough.\n\nWhat career? - Some careers require degrees, some don't. It may be an issue of possibility.\n\nWhere do you live, or what location do you want to work? City and state - Some locations cater towards certain careers(i.e. Silicon Valley and Austin for tech careers).", "Try local recruitment agencies, I am a school leaver and managed to get a relatively well payed fulltime job as something just happened to come through as I walked in the door. ", "There's a staffing service in the south end, if you're that desperate.\nOr, you know, you could just start your life over and do it the right way and get your college degree, then have kids, and then let them drive you to alcoholism, instead of alcoholism, kids, and then searching desperately for a job.\nYou know I love you.\n<3\n\nQuick ", "Temp agencies, dude... for real. There's a temp agency that hires to my company, starting at around $17 an hour. Within 6 months, people can transfer to sales and make $50-60k+ and well over that, and no degree required for that or Tier II/Training/QA, etc. if you do well.", "Some of the best ways is thru referrals. At a friends workplace, with ex-colleagues of parent and/or friends, if you're in college some colleges have entry level job bulletins with local corporations. \nI left college midway during the height of the crisis to focus on work, and using referrals and working my butt off and its paid off. Unless your hoping to go into a highly technical or science world, work experience and people skills are more valuable then degrees. My company is a software design company .. and we have more customer support people with degrees then the development, Qa, and business teams.\n\nSo... just get in there.. friend, family, temp, anything just get in. Don't be picky starting out. Best promotion technique is to change companies after a while", "My husband had a 9-5 without a degree and chose to leave after 5 years because he was bored. He's got ADHD and knew that he wasn't right for college and wasn't right for a 9-5 after experiencing it. \n\nTo answer your question it's all about who you know and who is willing to give you a chance depending on your line of expertise. His is videography. He got into corporate videography and thought it was the most boring thing in the world. He was hired by a close family friend of ours. There are so many jobs in this world that require degrees but could get the same out of an employee who works in the field for 4 years. \n\nBest of luck to you. \n\n", "Make your resume look really great. Some places near me will throw out applications just because they don't like how the resume looks. Make it simple and clear. And tailor it for each particular job by only including jobs you've had with similar skills. For example, I used to work at a nature park and I don't include it in my resume when applying for office jobs because they aren't related. \n\nAnd it doesn't hurt to know someone that already works there, so ask your friends if their jobs are hiring. \n\nGood luck!", "Insurance broker. Like for state farm. You will have to get a state license, but if you have good customer service, many companies will pay for you to take your exam and get your license. ", "If you can type go for a receptionist position at a local law firm. Usually start around 35k in medium markets. And can move into being a paralegal with a two year certificate. Seriously, if you can't type, learn to type and practice it until your at least 50 won and can prove it if tested. You'll be able to get a 9-5 if you can type.", "I got a job at a prison. Not the most desired job. It started as the night shift 6 pm to 6 am. That is where they had openings. After being on the job a few months I requested the day shift. I was surprised it happened within six months. If I had insisted on the day shift I would never have been hired.\n\nEmployers want experience and promote experienced employees. They hire outside to fill vacancies which cannot be filled withing the organization, the night shift.\n\nAll shifts were 12 hours except those filled by really experienced employees.\n\nI decided to earn a Master's degree. I transferred to the night shift so it did not interfere." ]	[ 9, 7, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Where can we find good sources for home schooling projects/material? In our case, We specifically need K4 or Kindergarten material whether it be projects, workbooks, or educational videos. We got confirmation that our 5yo son got accepted into the magnet program in our area. We are currently sheltering place. Since we don't know how long this will last we want to make sure he stays on track. Thanks in advance!", "Where can we find good sources for home schooling projects/material? In our case, We specifically need K4 or Kindergarten material whether it be projects, workbooks, or educational videos. We got confirmation that our 5yo son got accepted into the magnet program in our area. We are currently sheltering place. Since we don't know how long this will last we want to make sure he stays on track. Thanks in advance!" ]	[ "Check out your local PBS channel! In San Diego, they are broadcasting K-12 material through the day and it can also be accessed through the PBS Kids app.", "Scholastic has free stuff right now, also education.com. other sites...funbrain, prodigy, brainpop, natgeo kids, nasa kids club, code academy." ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?", "Enhancing cell phone signal I have Verizon Wireless and the entire area has very good cell phone service, except for in my house. Is there a way to enhance the signal?" ]	[ "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electromagnetic_interference#Interference_to_consumer_devices\n\nYou are probably getting interference from something in your house. Water pipes can be a pretty big source of interference. My best advice is to stand with your phone beside a window until you can figure something better out. This will be the fastest solution, but not exactly ideal.\n\nGood luck, friend!", "You can get a network booster for Verizon directly from them. Works great. \n\nEach provider has their own booster, and theirs work better than generic ones. ", "There are a few options.\n\n1. Some cell phones actually have an external antenna connector on them. Do a search for an external antenna for your phone, and you may be able to at least use your phone while plugged in to the external.\n\n2. If there is one spot you can get signal, then consider getting something that will connect to your phone via bluetooth. I have a cordless home phone system that allows the connection of two cell phones via bluetooth. You can leave your phone where it has signal, and then use the cordless handset from the home phone to make and receive calls.\n\n3. You can get a cellphone signal repeater. These are very expensive though.", "I've heard a couple things that may help. One is to get a cell phone amplifier. \n\n\n\nAnother is to get two antennas ( one directional like a grid dish or yagi and the other being a small panel or omni antenna for the inside of your house) it will effectively capture your cell phone signal and fire it towards your tower when correctly installed.", "Find a spot where you have a couple of bars in your house, and use a bluetooth headset / something like AirDroid (app) to make calls and messages.\n\nVodafone in the UK have a thing you can plug into your router to create a signal for your house. Not sure if there's anything Verizon offers, you could ask.\n\nThere are signal boosters/amplifiers you can buy but they're not strictly legal as you need a license to broadcast over certain frequencies. But it's not as if anybody will care that you're boosting a signal. Usually costs $80-100 ", "A little late but if you're only looking to send a text, your skull can work as an antenna. Just push your phone between your chin and lower lip and viola! Works with remote car keys too.", "Most phone services are stupid like that.. Try turning off your phone, then back on. Usually works! I live in a small town and I lose service in my house..\rPisses the girlfriend off when I'm talking to her on the phone.. ;P", "At the local electronics shop they sell a little patch thing that sticks on to your battery. Don't know how well it works. " ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to get a cat to stop chewing on the corners of computer screens. I love my cat but it has a habit of chewing on everything, including the corners of computer monitors. One time he even broke a monitor this way. I need him to stop ASAP, as I am planning to spend almost $300 on a new gaming monitor in the very near future that I need to... well, not get eaten. \nThanks! ", "How to get a cat to stop chewing on the corners of computer screens. I love my cat but it has a habit of chewing on everything, including the corners of computer monitors. One time he even broke a monitor this way. I need him to stop ASAP, as I am planning to spend almost $300 on a new gaming monitor in the very near future that I need to... well, not get eaten. \nThanks! ", "How to get a cat to stop chewing on the corners of computer screens. I love my cat but it has a habit of chewing on everything, including the corners of computer monitors. One time he even broke a monitor this way. I need him to stop ASAP, as I am planning to spend almost $300 on a new gaming monitor in the very near future that I need to... well, not get eaten. \nThanks! ", "How to get a cat to stop chewing on the corners of computer screens. I love my cat but it has a habit of chewing on everything, including the corners of computer monitors. One time he even broke a monitor this way. I need him to stop ASAP, as I am planning to spend almost $300 on a new gaming monitor in the very near future that I need to... well, not get eaten. \nThanks! ", "How to get a cat to stop chewing on the corners of computer screens. I love my cat but it has a habit of chewing on everything, including the corners of computer monitors. One time he even broke a monitor this way. I need him to stop ASAP, as I am planning to spend almost $300 on a new gaming monitor in the very near future that I need to... well, not get eaten. \nThanks! " ]	[ "Well, you can try to divert them from the computer. There is a spray you can buy to deter kitties from certain things. I think it has lemongrass in it. They're not supposed to like that.\n\nBut it would be more beneficial long term to figure out why they're acting out. Make sure you're playing with them everyday and that they have plenty of toys as well as scratching posts to play with.", "Pay more attention to the cat. XD mine hides for the rest of the day after I've pet her for 10+ minutes.", "I spray perfume or cologne on mine. After much frustration with a particular pet I put deodorant ( the blue gel style ) on my laptop. Smell must be too much for them, never damaged any of my laptops or desktop monitors. Never noticed any staining either.", "Bitter Yuck. It is a product made for cats and dogs that you can get at your pet store. It doesn't have a bad odor and works. Used it when i was working in a kennel/ pet b&B.", "There is a worse problem. You need to attach a piece of cardboard behind the monitor, offset an inch or so, that no kitty-pee can pass into the vent holes. We all need to do this now. No joke." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to easily remove stains from your seats in your car? I was wondering if anyone knew how to do this quickly with minimal damage to my seats. It's standard fabric for seating and is beige in color. The stains are Chocolate and Taco Sauce. (Taco Bell Run at 2 am!) Thanks in advance!", "How to easily remove stains from your seats in your car? I was wondering if anyone knew how to do this quickly with minimal damage to my seats. It's standard fabric for seating and is beige in color. The stains are Chocolate and Taco Sauce. (Taco Bell Run at 2 am!) Thanks in advance!", "How to easily remove stains from your seats in your car? I was wondering if anyone knew how to do this quickly with minimal damage to my seats. It's standard fabric for seating and is beige in color. The stains are Chocolate and Taco Sauce. (Taco Bell Run at 2 am!) Thanks in advance!", "How to easily remove stains from your seats in your car? I was wondering if anyone knew how to do this quickly with minimal damage to my seats. It's standard fabric for seating and is beige in color. The stains are Chocolate and Taco Sauce. (Taco Bell Run at 2 am!) Thanks in advance!" ]	[ "I keep a set of multicolored sharpies in my car, and whenever anyone new gets in, I have them sign it or draw in it. My upholstery is a beautiful collaborative art project. I'll post pics if there's enough interest.", "http://www.autozone.com/autozone/accessories/Blue-Magic-22-oz-carpet-stain-and-spot-lifter/_/N-25f4?counter=3&filterByKeyWord=upholstery+clearner&fromString=search&itemIdentifier=102250_0_0_\n\nor oxyclean\n\nUse the stuff on a hidden-from-view part of the upholstery to ensure it doesn't fade the color. Use a cloth and scrub. Use compressed air to dry.", "Rent a rug doctor and clean everything. if you are technical enough you can remove all the seats and clean the carpet and hard to reach places.", "I use dish soap, water, toothbrush, and a wet dry vaccuum.\n\nGet the stain damp, then put on a dab of soap. Scrub it into the seat and let sit, then use shop vac to take out the water/soap. Once there is no suds left in the seat. Let air dry" ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe

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