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[ "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n", "how to wake up. Hello, \n\nI have a friend who is chronically late. He tries his best, but can't seem to make it on time. It can vary from 7 minutes to a half hour late (we work together). He's in a position, luckily, where he can flex his hours around. He wants to get better though, and if it ever happens where he won't be in a position as forgiving, he'll be in deep shit. \n\nHe said that he can never remember if he hears his alarm or not. Or he'll wake up and turn it off. I suggested putting it somewhere where he has to get out of bed, but again he nevers hears it and his wife ends up turning it off. Even when she tries to wake him up he struggles. \n\nDo you guys have any advice to help him get in a better practice? \n\nThanks! \n\n\n" ]	[ "This [Alarmy (Sleep If U Can)](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=droom.sleepIfUCan&hl=en) has changed my morning life for the better. You set the alarm to be turned off by taking a picture (of something you have previously set). So for me to turn my alarm off I have to get out of bed, go down the hall and take a picture of a picture on the wall. At first I tried the bathroom sink but found if something different was placed on the sink the alarm wouldn't recognize the picture and turn off. The picture on the wall works perfect. \nI used to have 4 staggered \"pre-alarms\" the started going off an hour before I actually had to get out of bed. Now it's just one!", "Try the app called Sleep Cycle. It wakes you up when you aren't in a deep sleep making it easier to role out of bed", "I used to put my alarm on a windowsill above my bed... Just out of reach.\n\nReaching for the snooze button would invariably cause the alarm to fall, and land on my face.\n\nI was never late, but did occasionally have bruises when I got to work.", "I'm late to this so my answer may never be seen, but here goes...\n\nFirstly, get a new alarm clock tone, one that was never used before and not a favourite song. \n\nNext, dress (undress) for bed and get in, it doesn't actually have to be bedtime.\n\nThen, set your alarm for 2 mins later. As soon as the alarm goes off jump out of bed. Repeat this 5 or 6 times for a few days. \n\nYour (his) conditioned response to the old alarm tone was to hit snooze, the conditioned response to the new alarm should be to hop out of bed. \n\nIf you fall into old bad habits again change the alarm and start the conditioning again.", "I just put a hook screw in the ceiling across my bedroom, hang the alarm clock with some picture hanging wire, and use a step stool to hang it at night.\n\nIn the morning, the only way to reach it is to get out of bed, get my balance, and jump to grab the alarm. By that point I'm awake enough.", "Everyone I know who is chronically late is late for all sorts of things. It's not a sleep problem, it's an attitude problem. If he can get there within 7 minutes of start time, he can get there 7 minutes ahead of start time. He can get there on start time. Is he late for things he likes like movies, his own wedding, parties, lunches? That's his attitude. Is he late only for things in the morning, no matter how crummy or good? Maybe he needs to think about not staying up late or asking his wife to dynamite his goldbricking ass out of bed.\n\n\n\nSource: have dealt with chronically late people. Late people are late.", "Tell him to go to a sleep specialist and take an overnight sleep test, there may be something wrong with him. ", "I was told once that being late is self centered. Being late means expecting everyone else to wait for you. What makes your friend so special that he gets to be late while everyone else is on time? You are a good friend to be concerned for him, but if you care more about his lateness than he does it is a lost cause. That being said, if he's done all he can and he still has difficulty getting up in the morning there could be a medical issue such as sleep apnea. Also, if he takes sleep aids they might not be out of his system when his alarm goes off. ", "There are watches that vibrate to wake you up, they are meant for deaf people but they may be useful in this case. ", "I recently changed my habits. I've had trouble getting up most of my life. A year ago I fixed this.\n\nFirst, practice. Your body is all about habits. In the middle of the day, set the alarm for 5 mins from now and lay down. When the alarm goes off, sit up. Do this 5 times and tomorrow when the alarm goes off you'll sit up.\n\nNext, do something to prep for the morning before you go to bed. Doesn't matter what it is, anything, but you have to do something. Lay out your clothes, set the timer on the coffee maker, check tomorrow's weather, anything.\n\nTomorrow when the alarm goes off you'll sit up. As soon as you're conscious you'll realize that you've already done part of the work of getting going in the morning and your brain will get you going.\n\nDo this for 2 weeks straight and you won't have any more problems. It worked for me. Now I get up at 6a most mornings without an alarm.", "drink water before sleeping \n\nsleep with curtains open (morning sunlight wakes you up slowly and naturally) ", "Put glass marbles in the freezer. When he needs to wake up his wife can dump a bowl of them by his neck. The cold will wake him up and gravity will keep him from being able to recoil.", "I used to have to be at work at 3:30a.m. every day. Two things I started doing outside of setting an alarm clock to help me wake up: make sure to be in bed 8.5 hours before I have to wake up. If I am not tired, I take 10 MG of Melatonin which you can buy at any store that sells over the counter pharmacy products. ONLY TAKE IF YOU CAN GET 8 HOURS OF SLEEP! Melatonin will make you very groggy if you don't get a full nights sleep. Next, keep a glass or bottle of water next to the alarm clock. When the alarm goes off, drink the glass of water before or while shutting off the alarm. I learned this tactic from a previous LPT and it works! Good luck!", "'Sleep As Android' is a great app for someone like this. it reminds a person when it's time to start considering bedtime each day, and the snooze feature can be set to cut the amount of snooze in half each time you hit snooze until it goes off every two minutes. really good stuff. it also has a motion sensor that helps to detect when you're deep sleeping and when you're not, and it tries to wake you according to what it thinks is an optimal time based on your sleep cycle (0-30 minutes before set alarm time).", "Tell him to get a really loud alarmclock, mechanical ones turn out to be great. \nSet the timer as early as he can manage. Being awake for a couple of hours before you need to leave for work helps a lot. \nDoing some light excercise also helps get the system going. Tell him to try Yoga.", "Stop using an alarm clock is the best thing I ever did. At first you wake up late a few times but then after a few times your body naturally wakes up at the right time.\n\n", "My wife had similar issues. \n\nWe purchased this alarm clock and never had any issues:\n\n[Sonic Alert SB300 Sonic Boom Loud Vibrating Alarm Clock with Large Display](http://amzn.com/B000EX5HRO)\n\nGood luck!", "My ex had this problem. I got him an alarm that was so loud, there's no way a human could sleep through it. It had an attachment that vibrated violently that you put either under the mattress or under your pillow. Never had an issue again. But, I will say, it's not a pleasant way to wake up. So I'll second the recommendation that this guy work on getting more sleep and into a more regular sleep pattern (7 hours, minimum, to bed at the same time every night, etc.).", "If he can't find a way to go to bed earlier, then 2 alarm clocks is a must. One traditional alarm set across the room from him and another alarm on his phone. I set my phone alarm to go off first so I can snooze for a bit, then the traditional one goes off which makes me get up. And if I slip back into a coma, my phone alarm will go off again after a customizable snooze time(I use 10 minutes) and that final jolt will generally get me up if the first two didn't work.", "I used to have that same problem. I'd have 7 alarms set. One for 6:00 on my phone, my tablet, my ds, my alarm radio, and then 3 backup alarms at 6:10 on phone and tablet and 6:15 on tablet. Somehow I'd end up turning em all off, going back to bed and not even remembering doing so waking up a few hours later. A few weeks of going to bed with ~6-7hrs of sleep and using [this](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.urbandroid.sleep&hl=en) app for my alarms and I no longer have problems waking up. Waking up during the right part of your sleep cycle plays a huge part in how you start your day.", "I used to be this way. Tell him to set his alarm much earlier than usual. If it's not loud enough, get one that is loud enough. Turn it all the way up and put it as far away from the bed so it will still wake him up. I used to get up at 6:45 so I set my alarm to 6 and it hasn't been a problem since.", "I used to be like this. \nWould get early nights, no caffeine, warm bath before bed, multiple alarms.\nBut nothing would work!\n\nI decided to invest in a digital radio, which has definitely done the trick. I've not missed my bus in 3 years!\n\nI find having someone in the room talking, even though it's only a radio and not talking to you directly, it focuses me and makes me wake up.\n\nIt might not be suitable seeing as your friends wife may get a little ticked off, but it worked for me. Hope he finds a solution soon!", "I use alarm clock xtreme, you can set it to require you to solve maths problems or enter a captcha (among many other options). I once snoozed my alarm for two hours without waking up. In fact putting my clock on the other side of the room only worked till I started getting up and turning it off and hopping back in bed, with no recollection of doing so.\nBeing forced to solve maths problems forces my brain to wake up to a point where I can make conscious decisions first time round, rather than my first conscious thought of the day being 'wait, I've already snoozed how many times?'", "Get a sleep study done. I was diagnosed with sleep apnea last summer and my APAP machine is the best thing that's happened to me. It might not even be apneas, but there are a lot of sleep disorders that go undiagnosed because we are asleep and unaware of anything wrong during. ", "Get a programmable thermostat and set it so that the temperature is 80 degrees when you need to wake up. Most people get very uncomfortable and can't sleep when they are too hot.\n\nIn the summer it actually saves you money as it turns off the A/C earlier and for longer. In the winter it could cost you more in utilities (make sure you program it for a reasonable temperature when you are out of the house). It might not be the most practical, but it does work.", "Drink a lot of water leading up to bed, and you will need to urinate furiously upon waking in the morning...that keeps most people up :)", "Cell alarm clock + 3 other alarm clocks differently placed in the room, set them all one minute apart. Works magic on my brother. ", "Best way I've found out is to make a routine. If you get up and do the same thing every morning, your body will get used to the idea that when you perform these acts it's time to go. \n\nFor me, I keep my phone away from my bed so I have to get up to turn off my alarm. I then immediately walk over and put coffee on and shower while brewing. After I get out I have a cup and from there I'm ready to go. I have a friend who gets up every morning and does a quick run around his block; whatever gets you motivated.\n\nThis also works for going to bed. Make a routine and use it every time and your body will know it's preparing to sleep. Best of luck homie.", "- Wake up at the same time every day. Yes including weekends. It will suck at first but it will turn. This may sound silly, but make your bed in the morning. Remember you have to train your body that it is go time.\n- Exercise every day at the same time. Preferably in the evening. You don't have to be a gym rat, just 20 minutes of walking is enough to start.\n- Go to bed at the same time every day, no exceptions. He/you won't be able to sleep at first but it will change.\n- Only use the bed for sleeping or fucking, no exceptions.\n- No caffeine, 12-15 hours before bedtime. NONE! Mind what you eat, caffeine is in a lot of things.\n- If you smoke, just quit. If you must smoke,.. well then quit.\n- Wind down before bed time. Shower 3-4 hours prior, eat 4-5 hours prior. Brush your teeth 30-45 minutes after your last meal.\n- Also don't do stimulating things prior to trying to sleep, this includes video games and using a smart phones etc.\n- Stop drinking on school and work nights. It may seem that alcohol helps you sleep it does not. It interferes with your sleep.\n- Pay attention to the environment you are sleeping in. Is it dark and quiet? If not MAKE IT that way. \n- Look into a white noise maker or use a fan. \n- Sleeping right is about diet, exercise and routine. Are you taking a shit at the same time every day? If not, train your body. If you have diarrhea monthly or more often something is wrong with your diet. \n ", "I am sure I will be down voted cuz no one likes to hear the truth. But if your friend actually goes to bed 8 hours before he wakes up he will not have that problem. However, when I stay up late because of life, I make sure i drink a shitload of water right before I sleep. So that I have to get up and pee 5~6 hours later.", "He won't like my answer: stop being lazy and take responsibility for his life. He clearly doesn't care much. If he cared, he would be here asking not you. \n\nI had a few friends like that. Asking wouldn't help. So I'd either not ask them to join me. I'd tell them to be there half an hour before necessary knowing their habit of being late would make them on time for the rest of us. Or if it was a work responsibility I'd stop covering for them, and they would wise up when a boss talked to them." ]	[ 34, 11, 9, 8, 7, 7, 6, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -1 ]	safe
[ "Getting good seats on Ticket Master to a popular concert. It seems like as soon as I get onto the site, there's about five seats left. How do I beat the bots?", "Getting good seats on Ticket Master to a popular concert. It seems like as soon as I get onto the site, there's about five seats left. How do I beat the bots?" ]	[ "Fan club and American Express pre-sales are your best bet, but it's a sad state of affairs all around. \n\nIf you live local and can wait until the day of the show you can get some very good deals, especially for only one seat- they always hold tickets until the last minute and release them day of show. ", "Why hasn't anyone gone into competition with Ticket Master? Their fees and \"convenience charges\" are outrageous, often nearing the supposed cost of the ticket itself. Why do artists/venues give TM a monopoly on sales anyway? What's the scam?" ]	[ 5, 2 ]	safe
[ "I want to create a windows notification or popup that reminds me to straighten my back every 15 minutes ", "I want to create a windows notification or popup that reminds me to straighten my back every 15 minutes ", "I want to create a windows notification or popup that reminds me to straighten my back every 15 minutes " ]	[ "https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.howtogeek.com/136894/how-to-create-popup-reminders-with-no-additional-software/amp/", "There are lots of timers on Download.com that are perfect. (Free, small, no ads, no extra crap) Look through them at home and find one or two that you like. Send a message to the IT guy(s) with the necessary link(s) and ask them to download/install for you. The worst thing that can happen is they say \"no\"", "Hello [FBossMan](/u/FBossMan), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* Medical tips, including practicing medicine, eye/vision, skin care, dental advice, diet/nutrition, birth control, sex tips, and mental health.\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to de-jpeg files Hopefully this doesn't break any rules.\n\nI'd like to know if there's a website or app where you can give it a poor-quality jpeg-file and it would do its best to restore the quality.", "how to de-jpeg files Hopefully this doesn't break any rules.\n\nI'd like to know if there's a website or app where you can give it a poor-quality jpeg-file and it would do its best to restore the quality." ]	[ "Short answer is probably not. You might be able to smooth it out, but that will likely reduce the detail further. Your best bet would be a google image search for the bad image and hope for a higher resolution.", "There are image enhancement programs. They guess what was there, sharpen edges ect. Not simple stuff. They are often used by police etc. Nothing can restore what was thrown away from a low res jpg, it just an intelligent guess." ]	[ 4, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to keep the conversation going? With social media now days there's nothing new to say. I'll bring up something and my friends will reply with something like \" Oh yeah I already know/ saw\". With people I have romantic interest with is even harder. With certain people something just clicks and we could go on for hours. Any ideas?", "How to keep the conversation going? With social media now days there's nothing new to say. I'll bring up something and my friends will reply with something like \" Oh yeah I already know/ saw\". With people I have romantic interest with is even harder. With certain people something just clicks and we could go on for hours. Any ideas?" ]	[ "Conversations work best when they are about the other person and contain leading questions. \n\nFirst, learn to avoid polar questions - ones that can be answered with a yes or a no - as those finish the question right there. Go with ones that generate more input from them, like \"What do you think of...\". Avoid \"Did you see...\" and \"Will you be going to...\" type questions.\n\nIt helps to notice something about the other person. Are they tanned? Does their shirt have a cool logo on it that you can ask about? Did you overhear that they might have a hobby?\n\nThen try to keep it about them and wait for a time when the conversation can come back to your turn. Questions like what their plans for the weekend or what they've done lately can help. And when you have a humorous story or anecdote that comes to mind, introduce it after they've talked for a while, and have a way to bring it back to them as the theme when you're done. ", "Try talking about how they feel or what their opinion is on certain things. You might get into friendly debates, meaningful conversations, you would encourage people to talk about their own worldviews and consequently allow others to start the path of accepting those different worldviews.\n\nJust make sure it doesn't get into gossipy bullshit; \"Like omg what do you think of a;lsdkjf;alsdkjf;alsdkjf;asldkfjafd.\"" ]	[ 35, 3 ]	safe
[ "How to quickly/easily get rid of that first unusable layer of an onion? I'm asking because at work, prepping onions is the slowest, most time consuming part because, after cutting the ends off, we have to tear that stupid paper like brown layer off, and it it sticks to the onion really bad. Does anyone have any tricks to get through this process faster?", "How to quickly/easily get rid of that first unusable layer of an onion? I'm asking because at work, prepping onions is the slowest, most time consuming part because, after cutting the ends off, we have to tear that stupid paper like brown layer off, and it it sticks to the onion really bad. Does anyone have any tricks to get through this process faster?", "How to quickly/easily get rid of that first unusable layer of an onion? I'm asking because at work, prepping onions is the slowest, most time consuming part because, after cutting the ends off, we have to tear that stupid paper like brown layer off, and it it sticks to the onion really bad. Does anyone have any tricks to get through this process faster?", "How to quickly/easily get rid of that first unusable layer of an onion? I'm asking because at work, prepping onions is the slowest, most time consuming part because, after cutting the ends off, we have to tear that stupid paper like brown layer off, and it it sticks to the onion really bad. Does anyone have any tricks to get through this process faster?" ]	[ "Cut the ends, run the knife down one side (from cut end to cut end) and sacrifice the top layer of the onion. It's faster than the alternative, especially if you have imperfect onions where the top layer is gnarly.", "First cut the onion in half then lay it down both halves on the flat side. Next, cut the tips off at an angle towards the inside (like that/). This will leave the last layer to be the longest which will give you more room to work your fingers in and peel off(usually for me 2-3 sec)", "Cut the tips off, sit the onion on one of the cut off tips and slice it down the middle. You can now easily peal away the two halves and the onion is ready to be chopped. ", "I usually cut the onions into 4-5 slices and then the outer layer with the skin separates super easily. That layer is usually tougher and discolored anyways so I wouldn't use it regardless. I take the scraps home and put them in my compost so at least they don't go to waste." ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid losing my voice at a party/loud situation. It happened within about 10 minutes the last time I was at a party, my voice became hoarse from trying to talk over people & music. Other people easily project their voice whereas I struggle to be heard & seem to strain my voicebox. What do they know that I don't?", "How to avoid losing my voice at a party/loud situation. It happened within about 10 minutes the last time I was at a party, my voice became hoarse from trying to talk over people & music. Other people easily project their voice whereas I struggle to be heard & seem to strain my voicebox. What do they know that I don't?" ]	[ "Try and vocalise from your stomach, I find that helps me speak louder in clubs. I also try to speak in someone's ear rather than shout across a room. Almost always destroy my voice singing though. ", "This is a different solution but a valid one. Get yourself a pair of ear stubs and wear them whenever you go to a loud party. They help you hear the other person (and yourself) easily without a want to shout. \n\nThis is also helpful during concerts. They don't drain out music, rather make it more pleasurable." ]	[ 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "System or process to effectively manage lots of paperwork at home? With my family, I feel inundated with paperwork of all kinds and am trying to come up with a good system to manage it all. Some items are for a specific date or event, other items are related to things I need to do at some undetermined point in the near future. Some items I need to keep and later discard, and still others are papers I need to keep filed away but easily accessible for future reference.\n\nSome examples of the various types of paperwork I'm trying to manage:\n\n* doctor bills and other one-off bills (regular bills are auto-paid)\n* reference paperwork from kids' schools (handbooks, calendars, list of students in class, class schedules)\n* upcoming events from kids' schools\n* kids' homework and artwork\n* vehicle recall notices - just got one today for an item that isn't urgent, but I don't want to forget about it and may not be able to bring the vehicle for a while due to general busy-ness\n* receipts, both for large purchases, and for smaller purchases that I may need for returning defective items but eventually can discard\n* receipts for eventual FSA filing\n* instruction manuals\n* service contracts and agreements\n* house and car insurance details\n* medical, dental, and vision records\n* bank and cr", "System or process to effectively manage lots of paperwork at home? With my family, I feel inundated with paperwork of all kinds and am trying to come up with a good system to manage it all. Some items are for a specific date or event, other items are related to things I need to do at some undetermined point in the near future. Some items I need to keep and later discard, and still others are papers I need to keep filed away but easily accessible for future reference.\n\nSome examples of the various types of paperwork I'm trying to manage:\n\n* doctor bills and other one-off bills (regular bills are auto-paid)\n* reference paperwork from kids' schools (handbooks, calendars, list of students in class, class schedules)\n* upcoming events from kids' schools\n* kids' homework and artwork\n* vehicle recall notices - just got one today for an item that isn't urgent, but I don't want to forget about it and may not be able to bring the vehicle for a while due to general busy-ness\n* receipts, both for large purchases, and for smaller purchases that I may need for returning defective items but eventually can discard\n* receipts for eventual FSA filing\n* instruction manuals\n* service contracts and agreements\n* house and car insurance details\n* medical, dental, and vision records\n* bank and cr", "System or process to effectively manage lots of paperwork at home? With my family, I feel inundated with paperwork of all kinds and am trying to come up with a good system to manage it all. Some items are for a specific date or event, other items are related to things I need to do at some undetermined point in the near future. Some items I need to keep and later discard, and still others are papers I need to keep filed away but easily accessible for future reference.\n\nSome examples of the various types of paperwork I'm trying to manage:\n\n* doctor bills and other one-off bills (regular bills are auto-paid)\n* reference paperwork from kids' schools (handbooks, calendars, list of students in class, class schedules)\n* upcoming events from kids' schools\n* kids' homework and artwork\n* vehicle recall notices - just got one today for an item that isn't urgent, but I don't want to forget about it and may not be able to bring the vehicle for a while due to general busy-ness\n* receipts, both for large purchases, and for smaller purchases that I may need for returning defective items but eventually can discard\n* receipts for eventual FSA filing\n* instruction manuals\n* service contracts and agreements\n* house and car insurance details\n* medical, dental, and vision records\n* bank and cr" ]	[ "[Buy a doxie scanner](http://www.getdoxie.com/) for important documents. If you don't need a hard copy tear it up and recycle. If you do. Store however your brain thinks (by type or date as an example).\n\nIf there is a website that hosts information (like cr", "Set aside a drawer or two then stock up on some hanging file folders (and a frame, if you need it). ", "Evernote and Dropbox have helped me reduce my paper clutter. My scanner stopped working a few years ago and I started taking pictures of everything. Paid a bill and want a record? Write the date paid on the bill and put the card used in the picture for reference. Upcoming maintenance appointment? Take a pic of the notice and set a reminder. You can always print out a doc if you need it. Evernote has a character recognition feature which can recognoze handwriting (!!!) making every little note searchable! \n\nI used to enjoy my monthly filing sessions. Now I've got no patience. I take pics as I open my mail and move on. " ]	[ 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?", "How to GAIN weight? Hello! I'm a 20 year old male. 5'9'' / 130 lbs.\n\nI've always been underweight, and I seem to have a hard time gaining weight. Sometimes I can eat tons of food without gaining weight, but I also have days where I hardly eat anything, due to bad appetite, without feeling hungry.\n\nWhat's the best way of \"curing\" my bad appetite, and what are some general good tips for weight gaining?" ]	[ "A couple years ago I was 125lbs at 6'1\" (!)--practically emaciated. I always just ate to my appetite, which apparently is a dysfunctional LIAR. With some effort and discipline, I'm now around 160-165lbs and my BMI is pretty much dead center in the normal range. \n\nI always just blamed my metabolism and genetics for my inability to gain weight, but one year I got fed up (no pun intended) and made a resolution to try the weight gain thing again. However this time I started keeping careful track of my calorie intake. After a week of eating \"normally\" I noticed I was only eating around 1700-1800 calories per day. I messed around with various calorie calculator tools on the web and found out I should be getting upwards of 2500 or more. \n\nIt's tough to just suddenly start eating that much more, so what I did was try to eat more calorie-rich foods. Bananas are good for this (and I liked them already), and I'd get big bags of raisins because they're loaded. Almonds are great, too. I just kept a few servings in a bowl around me and tried to snack on them throughout the day. Eating more pasta and cheese meals helps as well. For drinks, milk is a big help. As is apple juice and most juice in general. I also kicked my bad soda drinking habit this way by preferring juice and milk instead for the calories and less bad sugar/HFCS. Fast food is the king of getting calories since you can easily meet your half your daily calorie quota with one meal, but in the long run it's sort of a costly way to gain weight (and I'm not just talking about money). Be careful also not to overdo it on cheese and dairy as that will kick your cholesterol up pretty quick. Don't get too impatient. \n\nKeeping a tally of my calories really helped me identify what foods are full of calories and which are not, which really expanded my dietary know-how. It also kept me honest about what I was eating and urged me to stick to my diet instead of skipping meals. It's tough, but after a while I started piecing together real meals. Instead of just cereal for breakfast, I'd have cereal, a banana, juice, and a granola bar. Exercising also helped, and if you want you can put yourself on a routine to gain some muscle which will definitely help ratchet up pounds (also no pun intended) in no time. Talking with your doctor for some more ideas and tips and warnings is also a good idea, of course. Good luck!", "You'll be thrilled to hear there's a whole subreddit dedicated to just this: [/r/gainit](http://www.reddit.com/r/gainit)", "A gallon of full fat milk a day and squats.\n\nYou will want to drink the milk in parts, directly after your meals.\n\nTrust me, it doesn't matter how hard it is for you to gain weight, you gain 3%-6% a month on this diet. You gain a lot of muscle because of the squats. Admittedly you gain a lot of fat too, but it is easy to loose without even doing any exercise just by dropping the milk from the diet because of your new found muscle.", "Try to add more meals to your day and keep healthy snacks around the house to eat between meals, as it was said before bananas and raisins are good for this.\n\nI like to drink a glass of milk with something sweet before bed too. Somebody told me this would help me gain weight too.", "There's a book called Diet's Don't Work by Bob Schwartz where he talks about how he started dieting when he was relatively thin and as a result he gained permanent weight. When he realized that low calorie diets cause your metabolism to slow down, he used it as a way to help people who were chronically underweight. He would have them go on a low-calorie diet for a few days and then go back to eating normally. They would end up gaining a few permanent pounds after they went back to eating normally for a while and that extra weight was permanent. It seems counter-intuitive, but apparently it works. As an overweight person, low-calorie diets always made me gain weight ultimately, so, it might be worth a try.", "I was like you but my doctor said I was just naturally slim and no health issue at all.\n\nAnd then I got married... and gained 20 pounds!", "Have you just tried drinking a large milkshake once a day? That's like 1000 calories right there - I can't imagine it can be that difficult to accomplish. What have you tried so far?", "Dr Nick Riviera says: \n\n\"If you're not sure about something, rub it against a piece of paper. If the paper turns clear, it's your window to weight gain. Bye bye, everybody!\"", "A simpler way that won't make you eat much more:\n\nInstead of eating throughout the day, which keeps your metabolism going, eat separate, distinct meals, and don't snack between them. This way, your metabolism isn't constantly going, so you could possibly add a few pounds." ]	[ 11, 8, 5, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that.", "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that.", "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that.", "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that.", "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that.", "How do I tell my dad he doesn't need all the things that he keeps? Today I've cleaned my house and there's a ton of useless things that my dad keeps and says \"maybe we can use it later\". But we're never gona use it. \nHow can I convince him we don't need hundreds of plastic bags and all the stuff that he refuses to throw away?\nIt's always like \"I'm gonna keep it now so I can throw it away later\" but he can't realize that." ]	[ "For me, I just started quietly throwing a few things away every couple of weeks on trash day. Reduced a large amount of clutter over a long amount of time and my dad barely noticed.", "Eh, it can be difficult. I was like that until last week. Once I got rid of some stuff I thought I'd use, I was more open to getting rid of more stuff that I wouldn't have before. I had about 10 full garbage bags full of stuff for trash and donations.\n\nIf you can get him to get rid of a few things and get an area clean, he may enjoy seeing the cleanliness and decide that it'd be worth it to get rid of more and clean more of the house.\n\nAsk him what he plans on doing with the [item].\n\n>Specifically, what is going to be the use of this plastic bag? Dog poop? Okay, do we need 100 bags for just that or can we get rid of a few of them?\n\n>This plate is old and chipped. How about if we get rid of these ones and buy new ones?\n\n>I know you said you would fix this radio. So give yourself a deadline. If the radio isn't fixed in 2 weeks, you'll throw it out and give up entirely on it.\n\nIt's different for different people. These are what caused me to hoard all that I did for as long as I did.\n\nMain thing for me was once I realized how useless stuff was and that it was easy to get rid of and how much I enjoyed the empty, cleaner space, I got into the spirit and probably got rid of more than I really need. It was also an incentive for me so I could replace the older, broken stuff with newer stuff and the ability to keep them from being as broken and degraded as these.", "if they are keepsakes that are kept because they remind him of an event or time in his life, take photos and get a scrapbook printed. i had random stuff like a candy box that reminded me of a first date, the box was unimportant but the memory was. ", "Unless he has a great memory or something just toss stuff and dont tell him. If it's actually junk junk like plastic bags he won't miss them.", "My old man does this but he organizes everything. My brothers and mother say I am beginning to do the same thing... I've always been of the mindset \"better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it\". My advice is to keep it in check and make sure it doesn't become hoarder status. As long as it's sanitary and organized, ain't no problems.", "Hang out on /r/declutter. Accept you can't control his behavior without him changing his beliefs. If it affects YOU, let him know how. \n\n\"I don't feel comfortable having friends over to visit when there is nowhere to sit...\"\n\n\"I can't work in school projects with the dining room table covered...\"\n\n\"I fell and got hurt...\"\n" ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)", "How to stay calm before an exam or exams over a longer time. I am in the last two semesters of my studies and I am going to have \"alot\" of exams before me (the hard ones). Obvioulsy I am little stressed about everything now and am afraid of the next exam and I want to keep calm while learning and while I am not learning, basically all the time .-.\n\nSo any advice would be helpfull :)" ]	[ "Exercise. Seriously, it keeps you so much more focused and even-keeled. Plus, exercising gives you a reason to get your mind of school without making you feel guilty. If you play a video game or have a beer with friends, you'll be thinking about how you \"wasted\" that time. When you're exercising it's productive.\n\nI've also found that a consistent exercise routine makes everything else fall into place. I want to eat healthier. I want to get enough sleep. It's just something that you should always make time for.", "Do not change your diet, the place of study or sleep any longer or shorter than needed for YOUR optimal performance ..... ", "Since you probably have the study part down, I will focus on relaxation. Sleep at least 8 hours. Eat a healthy balanced meal for breakfast. Bring healthy snacks with you. Drink green tea instead of coffee. Listen to your favorite relaxing music on the way to and before the exam. ", "Organization is key. You won't be as stressed if you're well-prepared. Study every day. Really--every day. Even if it's for half an hour at a time. You know how much you learn when you actually get down to hard studying? Imagine how much better you'd have a handle on the material if you studied like that more often, like every day. It sounds like common sense but it's easy to put off studying. It's not unrealistic, no matter your schedule, because like I say, just half an hour a day will help. Now, if it's too late and you have a test this week or next week, (for one, this might be a lesson to make changes towards future study habits) you'll just have to study the best you can while getting enough rest, eating right, listening to music, doing whatever gets you feeling good. But you shouldn't be trying to calm yourself; this is the time for getting busy because, had you planned a little better, you wouldn't be in this predicament. All that said, I'm the worst procrastinator and never follow my own advice to fix it.", "When taking tests over the course of the semester, write down notes on significant aspects that you may be tested on OR write notes on the post exam review.\n\nGather these notes to study for midterms.\n\nAlso, mark test schedules on your calendar at the beginning of the semester. Two or three weeks before finals, set a study schedule and study off your test notes.\n\nIf you're stumped and your brain feels scrambled, take a break and go do something else. Also, sleeping helps. You may find that what was a roadblock yesterday may have been something obvious and simple today.", "Smoke weed\nBut seriously,just focus,study, and do a little prep talk to yourself before the test. Look into the mirror and tell yourself you are going to pass that test. That test is your bitch.\nMake sure no one is in the nearby vicinity to hear you.", "Don't skimp out on sleep the night before (unless you absolutely have to pull one of those inevitable all nighters - and in that case: coffee!)" ]	[ 6, 4, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US).", "Best way to learn countries, capitals and flags? I'm looking for an effective way to learn the locations, flags and capitals of all the countries in the world (+all the states and capitals in The US)." ]	[ "www.sporcle.com - go to the 'geography' tab and quiz away. I'm British and I can now successfully name all the states in under 2 minutes!", "http://www.sporcle.com/games/g/world\n\nhttp://www.sporcle.com/games/g/worldflags\n\nhttp://www.sporcle.com/games/g/states\n\nHave at it.\n", "Make a list, buy a poster, then stick it opposite your toilet. \n\nRemember to hide the shampoo bottles, you already know the primary ingredient is aqua you don't need to read it again.", "When I was 8, my father gave me a list of all the countries and their capitals. he told me I had to memorize them and every day, he would randomly quiz me. eventually, I knew every single one of them. i still know a good chunk today. ", "Perhaps not the locations, but /r/polandball will help with the flags. It's by far my favorite sub these days, and the posts are heavily moderated so the content is all pretty good.\n\nPeople make comics about history (with a little bit of humor and exaggeration, of course) and I almost always end up doing lots of research into it. I've learned quite a bit...", "there are all kinds of memory systems - if you're not in a hurry you could print the flags of the world and put them on your wall, could be next to your bed or where you eat, and memorise them slowly", "Sporcle is great for locations and capitals but I prefer Lizardpoint for flags. Or, you know, do both! \n\nhttp://www.lizardpoint.com/fun/geoquiz/", "Its super expensive, but travelling to different regions ingrains it into your head. Every region I ever visited, I was able to learn the whole region. Capitals, flags, language recognition, everything. I have a map ingrained in my head of every region I've been to.", "In middle school, my social studies teacher came up with a chant of the entire world's countries and capitals, organized in a relatively linear way, according to geography. We learned one or two sections a day in class, and I can still remember it. As for flags, I'd say to get a placemat or a poster.", "If you have a smartphone, flash card apps that use spaced repetition based upon your answers are very effective. The app will remember which capitals you have no trouble with and which just don't stick for you. You avoid wasting time repeating cards you know.\n\nI used the android app ankidroid and downloaded a set of capitals from within the app. After a few minutes a day over a month I had ~180 country/capitals down.", "I have the Geoquiz app on my iPhone. Fun game to play and though it's not perfect it has taught me a bunch while killing time on public transportation. In general I Think you Can find some good apps for learning flags and countries, if you do In apps.", "!!!\n\n[Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego?](http://www.carmensandiego.com/hmh/site/carmen/) \n\n[" ]	[ 8, 4, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "When moving, how to effectively change mailing address I have so many websites, logins and subscriptions, is there a way to quickly change all of these?", "When moving, how to effectively change mailing address I have so many websites, logins and subscriptions, is there a way to quickly change all of these?", "When moving, how to effectively change mailing address I have so many websites, logins and subscriptions, is there a way to quickly change all of these?", "When moving, how to effectively change mailing address I have so many websites, logins and subscriptions, is there a way to quickly change all of these?", "When moving, how to effectively change mailing address I have so many websites, logins and subscriptions, is there a way to quickly change all of these?" ]	[ "There might be better way/tool, but here is my process:\n\nGoto gmail or whatever\n\nSearch 'Confirmation'\n\nIt will show all websites you have used with that mail ID. \n\nLog in and change.\n\n", "If you're talking about your mail, you could go to the post office and fill out a change of address form. You can also do it online. Here's the link to the online change of address form:\n\nhttps://www.usps.com/umove/", "What I do (I've moved a few times) is alert the USPS that my address has changed and have my mail forwarded to my new location. When forwarded mail arrives I take a note of if I care about it (is it junk?) and if I do, I go to that company and correct my info. If it's junk, I don't bother. ", "Specific LPT: Don't name your kids after yourself. When they move, the post will start forwarding mail to wherever the hell they want no matter what is or isn't the correct address. I can't help but wonder how many cards I never actually received. I know at least one was returned to sender... with a Hawaiian postmark on it... \n\n(because) when you do a change of address at the post office, it will automatically forward all mail to your new address for 6 months. A lot of places somehow get notified and change it automatically for you, and you'd be surprised how many mailers get mailed with the correct address printed on them before they even hit the mailbox...", "For future reference, keep a list of every website and company which has your address. \n\nFor now, you could try mail forwarding (not a permanent solution, but it bridges the gap between houses so you don't miss anything which has missed the address change), but I think you'll have to go through each website/company and change it manually. " ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting a car out of an old drain [Diagram of our tub drain](http://i.imgur.com/jOSHn.png)\nThe car is stuck in the red area. I'm almost certain that's how it's laid out, considering there's a metal stopper a few inches down and the water drains forward. What's the best way to try and get it out? I've tried plunging and that hasn't seemed to do a thing, besides shoot water out of the overflow. Any suggestions?\n\nTL;DR Car stuck in the red part of the drain. Help?\n", "Getting a car out of an old drain [Diagram of our tub drain](http://i.imgur.com/jOSHn.png)\nThe car is stuck in the red area. I'm almost certain that's how it's laid out, considering there's a metal stopper a few inches down and the water drains forward. What's the best way to try and get it out? I've tried plunging and that hasn't seemed to do a thing, besides shoot water out of the overflow. Any suggestions?\n\nTL;DR Car stuck in the red part of the drain. Help?\n" ]	[ "Get a grabbing tool from Home Depot, they're flexible and rated to pull back a lot more weight than a toy car. \n\nI'm on my phone, google 'grabbing tool' to see what they look like.", "Bent coat hanger. Slide it under and around the car and hook it with and end you bent in the shape of a hook. Should grab it." ]	[ 3, 3 ]	safe
[ "How can I become a speed reader? \"If top readers read at speeds of above 1000 words per minute (wpm) with near 85% comprehension, they only represent 1% of readers. Average readers are the majority and only reach around 200 wpm with a typical comprehension of 60%.\" Copied and pasted from google.", "How can I become a speed reader? \"If top readers read at speeds of above 1000 words per minute (wpm) with near 85% comprehension, they only represent 1% of readers. Average readers are the majority and only reach around 200 wpm with a typical comprehension of 60%.\" Copied and pasted from google.", "How can I become a speed reader? \"If top readers read at speeds of above 1000 words per minute (wpm) with near 85% comprehension, they only represent 1% of readers. Average readers are the majority and only reach around 200 wpm with a typical comprehension of 60%.\" Copied and pasted from google.", "How can I become a speed reader? \"If top readers read at speeds of above 1000 words per minute (wpm) with near 85% comprehension, they only represent 1% of readers. Average readers are the majority and only reach around 200 wpm with a typical comprehension of 60%.\" Copied and pasted from google." ]	[ "Google Evelyn Wood. Top subvocal ~250-400 wpm, then you are getting into more linear reading. It takes a good bit of practice, but 1100 is doable by just about anyone and 2-3k is not uncommon.\n\nThat is the book I used back in the day.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Evelyn-Seven-Day-Reading-Learning-Program/dp/1566194024\n", "Start with getting a pen and follow the words you are reading. One of the biggest time eaters in normal reading is how our eyes constantly goes back and checks on words we have already read. By following the words with a pen you are teaching yourself not to do that.", "Here is a list of some websites that help you to practice speed reading. http://linkchasing.blogspot.com/2013/03/learn-to-speed-read.html", "Don't put too much stock in the technique. If you read a lot, you'll develop better speeds and comprehension rates. Whatever you do, don't skip phrases. Look at every important word." ]	[ 5, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Getting rid of slight odor from shoes due to improper drying from fucking rain Long over due. I have these shoes:\n[the shoes i have](http://www.sperrytopsider.com/store/SiteController/sperry/productdetails?catId=cat90046DM&productId=7-100210&skuId=*7*****0836981M115&stockNumber=0836981&showDefaultOption=true&subCatId=cat100066DM&subCatTabId=&viewall=)\n\nLast late summer, for some reason I got caught a few times in down-pours when i had these shoes on. i never dried them properly, because i was at work, so when i got home, they would be partly dried or what not. they do have a slight odor to them after a days work. i just keep a lint cloth thing in them to keep them fresh. but it's going to get warmer eventually, so i imagine they wont be smelling any better. I'm considering just buying a new pair and tossing these away, albeit they are in good condition. Anything I can do before i take that drastic decision?\n\nI also like to note that my feet don't stink. It really is a case of improper drying.\n\nAlso, you caught smell them while i have them on. it's only when i take them off", "Getting rid of slight odor from shoes due to improper drying from fucking rain Long over due. I have these shoes:\n[the shoes i have](http://www.sperrytopsider.com/store/SiteController/sperry/productdetails?catId=cat90046DM&productId=7-100210&skuId=*7*****0836981M115&stockNumber=0836981&showDefaultOption=true&subCatId=cat100066DM&subCatTabId=&viewall=)\n\nLast late summer, for some reason I got caught a few times in down-pours when i had these shoes on. i never dried them properly, because i was at work, so when i got home, they would be partly dried or what not. they do have a slight odor to them after a days work. i just keep a lint cloth thing in them to keep them fresh. but it's going to get warmer eventually, so i imagine they wont be smelling any better. I'm considering just buying a new pair and tossing these away, albeit they are in good condition. Anything I can do before i take that drastic decision?\n\nI also like to note that my feet don't stink. It really is a case of improper drying.\n\nAlso, you caught smell them while i have them on. it's only when i take them off" ]	[ "Freeze them in a bag.\n\nI read about a guy who was wearing jeans every day for a project, and he said he'd freeze them whenever they got stinky, which would cause the stink to go away.\n\nAlternately, microwaving a sponge kills the odor. So maybe nuke the shoes?", "Stuff your shoes with old newspapers balled up after getting caught in a rain storm. for some reason the newspaper wicks the moisture out of the shoes extremely efficiently." ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option.", "How to pass time during factory job? I’m working a monotonous factory job to pay for school and I often get very bored and my mind wanders to dark thoughts. I’m required to wear ear plugs and I am moving between work stations so I don’t think listening to music is an option." ]	[ "You can get headphones that double as ear plugs, just check with your boss. Mine was fine with it others might not be. If he says no ask if you can get a \"testing\" time and just increase your work flow a little while you listen to music (happens naturally).", "I worked in a warehouse for two years and it was so mindless. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t control my thoughts for 10 straight hours and I would always find myself in a very dark place.", "For me, it was always just having something to think about. \n\n I'd either follow one topic and try to stick to it, or a rambling free-association that lasts the whole shift and cuts back on itself frequently.\n\nPlanning things.\n\nRemembering/reviewing things.\n\nJust keep your mind occupied...and remind yourself that YOU decide what you are going to think about.", "Talk to yourself. Tell your life story in as much detail as possible, compose arguments or speeches, sing. Learn a language. I renovate my neighboring houses and buildings in my head. I used to write poems that I liked on my arm and memorize them. Taught myself to sing by actually focusing, learning the lyrics and not giving up until I hit the right notes. I’ve done all of these things to survive warehouse jobs except learn a language. Really wish I’d done that one.", "Sing. If everyone is wearing plugs no one can really hear you. Plus you can hear your self great. \nI also practice story telling. Talking out loud to myself practicing the art of story telling.", "Enduring tedium is an important life skill, and one that has to be learned and developed. But if you really can't handle it, then you need to get a different job.", "I'm gonna be honest with you op I smoked weed at my factory job. It kept me focused and in the zone. I actually think pot is perfect for SOME repetitive factory jobs." ]	[ 5, 5, 4, 3, 3, 2, 0 ]	safe
[ "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll.", "What items/foods should you spend a little more money on for better quality/taste/durability? For example, I always buy expensive toilet/loo roll because you only have to use one or two sheets, compared to several sheets for the cheaper roll. It also means that they last longer than cheaper toilet roll." ]	[ "I was told to invest wisely in a mattress and a pair of shoes, because I will be spending 2/3 of my day with them.", "There are two lists that I follow, the dirty dozen and the clean 15. These are the vegetables and fruits that use the most pesticides or the ones that you don't need to buy organic. They are pretty consistent across websites here is an example of the Clean 15:\n\nhttp://www.drweil.com/drw/u/ART02984/Foods-You-Dont-Have-to-Buy-Organic.html\n\nGoogle the dirty dozen, many websites have them in cool PDF format that you can pin to your fridge. ", "Food-wise, I'd say whole wheat (rice, bread, etc), red onions (much healthier), unpasterized honey, and better-for-you cereals", "A couple of things that come to mind are coffee and steak. If you are going to spend money on steak, you may as well get the good stuff. There is nothing worse than a bad cup of coffee. Also if you buy a bold roast, you can use slightly less.", "Ketchup made from real tomatoes.\n\n", "Mattress by far, contraceptive, tax companies, computer headsets, vodka, internet, car insurence, raman noodles", "Chocolate, alcohol, clothing, cheese, bread, most food\n\nI think it is finding the brand you like then finding it at the best price. We do a lot of shopping at Costco for clothing and food. \n", "Paperplates. Not the hoity toity thick fancy plates (who has the money for that!), but the regular thin paper ones. Nearly all paper plates stick together and are hard to separate (so that package of 60 is actually like 45 usuable) but the cheap ones really really stick together, making that package of 60 like 30 usable." ]	[ 27, 9, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, -3 ]	safe
[ "I'm planning to move into a stranger's home. What are some things I should look out for when I tour the place? Long story short, I'm moving to another city to finish college and intend to take up a spare room in someone's established home. \n\nThere are plenty of lists online of red flags when meeting potential roommates, or questions to ask when you meet them. \n\nMy situation is a bit unique in that I'll be moving into an established home, so I get a sneak peek (of sorts) of how that person lives before actually moving in with them. \n\nAside from the obvious (dishes in the sink? how clean is the bathroom? what temp is the A/C set to?) what are some things I can generally look out for while touring the house that might be red flags or otherwise very telling about the person themselves, the home/neighborhood, and the living situation itself?", "I'm planning to move into a stranger's home. What are some things I should look out for when I tour the place? Long story short, I'm moving to another city to finish college and intend to take up a spare room in someone's established home. \n\nThere are plenty of lists online of red flags when meeting potential roommates, or questions to ask when you meet them. \n\nMy situation is a bit unique in that I'll be moving into an established home, so I get a sneak peek (of sorts) of how that person lives before actually moving in with them. \n\nAside from the obvious (dishes in the sink? how clean is the bathroom? what temp is the A/C set to?) what are some things I can generally look out for while touring the house that might be red flags or otherwise very telling about the person themselves, the home/neighborhood, and the living situation itself?", "I'm planning to move into a stranger's home. What are some things I should look out for when I tour the place? Long story short, I'm moving to another city to finish college and intend to take up a spare room in someone's established home. \n\nThere are plenty of lists online of red flags when meeting potential roommates, or questions to ask when you meet them. \n\nMy situation is a bit unique in that I'll be moving into an established home, so I get a sneak peek (of sorts) of how that person lives before actually moving in with them. \n\nAside from the obvious (dishes in the sink? how clean is the bathroom? what temp is the A/C set to?) what are some things I can generally look out for while touring the house that might be red flags or otherwise very telling about the person themselves, the home/neighborhood, and the living situation itself?" ]	[ "padlocks on doors to the basement. if seen - don't ask about it. try your best to not be nervous. don't go back there. \n\non a serious note, bathrooms / kitchen / common areas are where you're gonna spend your time so make sure you check those out, and ask them what kind of things drive them crazy in a bad way so you can avoid those, and see if they are describing your habits. in which case - probably a bad fit.", "Knock on the neighbours doors and ask about the people you'll be living with. If that freaks out the person you'd be living with then you should think they have something to hide. ", "Take note of their lifestyle and try to understand it. You'll probably want to be as unobstructive as possible. I knew a guy who had spots on the floor for his glasses and wallet. He would be very lost if they got moved to a reasonable position, even if he knew." ]	[ 3, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n", "How to change myself from being an extremely cynical person ? I hate myself and everything around me. I wanna flip off everyone I see. Seeing nothing but sadness around me has led me to believe that everything is a lie. Nobody is honest, and there is no good in this world. Everybody is fake and creates a fake persona online and in real life, in order to convince themselves and others of their fake selves. I can't trust anyone and I feel alienated from everyone. I feel like the world is shit, and it doesn't matter what I do, I will never be better because everything in the world is rigged.\n\nI don't want to be this depressed and cynical ass. I hide all this behind a veil of sarcasm and acting aloof. I am not sure how long I will be able to keep this act.\n\n" ]	[ "You won't be able to change your perception of everyone else and the world, until you change yourself. Start there.\n\nStart by noticing when you begin to act that way. Don't try to change yet, just learn to notice when it happens, when it is happening and preferably before it happens.\n\nOnce you can recognize before it happens. Start small. When you feel the urge to reply with sarcasm or to be aloof, stop, count to 10, take a deep breath, let it out, and choose something kind to say. Say that.\n\nKeep doing this. Once you can change yourself, you'll find your perceptions will begin to change as well.", "I have been where you are, and there was nothing that helped change my view for many years, leading to alcohol/drug addiction and a nice downward spiral almost ending in death when I was around 30. No amount of encouragement, no amount of support and no amount of anything from the outside was able to change me. I know you realize the selfishness of this thought pattern as it is part of the problem, the feeling like you can't do anything and can't change, no trust and no trust in yourself even. We look at ourselves and think \"I'm shit.\". Thing is we're almost meant to think that way. Programmed even from birth to be competitive. The solution is to let everything go, stop thinking about yourself, where you are going, don't forget where you are from but forgive the past. It is crucial to forgive yourself for being, in your mind, a bad/not good enough person. This means forgiving everyone. Takes a fucking long time, and it takes constant mental awareness to work on your thoughts and mind set. You can do this on your own by understanding the meaning of your own life. If you haven't thought about death enough, you won't understand what is important in life. Now I think you've thought about death a fair bit probably. I can tell from the fact that you see no point right? But instead of thinking that nothing is important because you die, think about everything being important because you die. It takes a lot of responsibility to change your mind set. Instead of saying this is because of that outside factor, start to think of everything as your own fault and your own responsibility. Once you take everything on yourself you start to understand that literally nothing can affect your mind unless you allow it to. And suddenly you are lighter, with a much truer mental freedom than any financial/physical \"freedom\" might offer to you and you will feel content in almost any situation. Our ego will fight to feel justified in our anger or sadness, but it is fake. That isn't who you are. Those are almost instinctual reactions and we humans are amazing at adapting. You're welcome to think people are shit, just don't let it affect who you are. This mind set of cynicism and depression is a result of not being grateful for what you do have. That may not be the best way to put it but it is the easiest way to get to the root. Our ego says we should be xyz and the world should be this way or that, but it isn't! So we feel unhappy that our expectation is wrong. But we keep expecting it because that's what we've been taught to expect. So let it go, learn to be grateful. One way that I found changed my way of thinking incredibly fast was to take responsibility for someone who is much less fortunate than me, take care of them, encourage them, think about and worry about them. Look after a homeless person, do volunteer work, help your community. The little light of hope gets flamed much quicker when you are the one giving out hope, even if you don't think you have any. \n\n", "Volunteer. \n\nVolunteer where individuals need help so you can actually meet the person you are helping. It may help you see that not everyone is fake...some people are just trying to get by. ", "This 100% sounds like my friend who has diagnosed chronic depression, and also a little like myself, also with diagnosed chronic depression. Definitely talk to a doctor about this, whether it's your general practitioner or someone in the psychiatric field! For me, I don't get so cynical that I end up convinced everyone in the world is fake and lying, but I do get cynical and mean and start believing that the world is too screwed up to save. I read your response to /u/Waywardson74 and it sounds like you might be dealing with some anxiety, too, and let me tell you, anxiety disorders are the worst, and a lot of my own skewed perceptions of reality stem from my anxiety.\n\nSo, talk to someone! Even if it's not someone you trust, psychiatrists/psychologists/therapists are there to be able to tell this stuff to--and sometimes, just the act of going to someone and telling them what you're feeling is helpful.", "When I get in a cynical mood I try to make up positive reasons why people might act the way they do. If somebody cuts me off, I think \"maybe they're on their way to... Whatever. The hospital or airport or the local drag races. It doesn't matter if it's realistic. The more often you do it the easier it becomes. Right now you're caught up in imagining negative things everywhere because that's how it feels. Objectively that's not the case. There are people doing good all over the world, you just have to train yourself to look for it.", "I can only speak for myself and what took me from being angry to calm.\n\nThe internet is a feedback loop designed to show you what you asked it to show you. If you are angry, it will show you things to make you angry. [There's an interesting cgp grey on this issue.](https://youtu.be/rE3j_RHkqJc)\n\nAs that video explains, anger is a type of information that spreads very easily. It is very easy to amplify it and send it on.\n\nBeating that cycle requires self-discipline. It requires a realistic view of the world. When were you can both simultaneously understand that there are actually genuine problems in the world, but at the same time we live in a fantastic and positive era. \n\n...\n\nMy first recommendation to start breaking yourself of this is to use the tools of the internet that have led you in this direction to your advantage.\n\nIt's not going to be easy to do because you're going to fight it internally, but start cutting off sources of information that piss you off.\n\nThis doesn't mean you have to be uninformed, it means you need to stop amplifying whatever it is that's angering you. \n\n...\n\nTo put it another way, you are a product of the environment you surround yourself with.\n\nThink about it, some poor inner city kid who gets caught up and gang violence did not set out to get into that. They are a product of the environment around them and the opportunities that they have.\n\nLikewise, if your surrounding yourself with things that make you angry, that's the only way you're going to turn out.\n\nSurround yourself with people who are the way you want to be.\n\n...\n\nAgain speaking from personal experience here, you're going to have a personal argument with yourself every time you filter out a toxic source of information. You're going to tell yourself that you're just making yourself a safe space, or that you're burying your head in the sand when there are real problems in the world.\n\nDon't get suckered into this. It's just your own brain trying to maintain that source of outrage that it has been seeking out. It's trying to maintain it's entertainment.\n\nYou can be informed without being angry. You can have opinions without being angry. People can disagree with you without being angry.\n\nOnce you get out of it, it is incredibly obvious how people who are arguing online aren't really arguing their point as much as they are trying to be entertained. That desire to feel outraged, to feel like you have some purpose to be enraged about, is real. \n\n...\n\nMy two cents. I hope it helps, and if it doesn't I hope that somebody else's advice here is able to help.\n\nThe fact that you were looking for solutions is an extremely positive one. Don't give up on that. That is the thread that can lead you out of this.", "I don't know why no one has suggested this yet but go see a doctor or a therapist. There's a good chance you have depression, and that's a very treatable thing these days.", "do a team sport that involves physical activity....exercise for depression and team activity to build empathy", "Yeah, you got most of it right. But niilism, extreme apathy and pushing everyone away wont help you go trough life. Read Nietzsche if you're into philosophy, he goes on about that quite a lot.\n\nWe live in a fucked up world. But we can deal with it. Being healthy has a lot more to do with going day by day than \"getting better\" does.\n\nWhat you said about people creating personas made me think about Society of the Spectacle, by Guy Debord.\n\nAnyway, try and find things about life that you enjoy. Dont be so harsh on people - its hard for everyone. Hope it gets better for you.", "When you have a job you find moderately fulfilling, a few friends and a reasonable family life and you know where you're headed in life and you feel cynical and hateful that is rightly classified as depression. When you don't have many of those, you don't have depression, you are experiencing a natural response to a shitty life. \n\nThat response is there to move you towards changing it. SSRI's may help in that, but if your goal is to ignore the cause and treat the symptoms, buddy you're fucked. ", "Step 1: Think about your life as if you were gonna die Tomorrow. \n\nStep 2: If you did die tomorrow what would you regret, what would you be proud of? \n\nStep 3: After coming up with that list, go out and make plans to do the things you would have regretted. \n\nStep 4: Take the things you would have been proud of and see why you like them. Maybe it's your underlying passion that you would like to pursue. Go out and pursue it. \n\nStep 5: Repeat process the next time you feel depressed. ", "Make a conscious effort to give other people the benefit of the doubt, instead of getting angry at their behavior. \n\nEven if you tell yourself that you're going way too far when you do it, it's still a useful exercise. \n\nSomeone just cut you off when you were driving? Instead of getting mad and clinging to that anger, any of these would be a better response:\n\n* \"It's a good thing I had left room just in case! \"\n* \"I guess he didn't see me. I'm sure I've done that once or twice myself. \"\n* \"And I bet we'll get caught by the same red light up ahead. He didn't gain anything. \"\n", "If you look for the bad in the world, you will surely find it. To change, you first need to make a conscious habit of finding & acknowledging the good in the world, in any form.\n\nAll the shit in the world isn’t going away— you know that, & it would be idiotic to pretend otherwise. Recognize the shit when you see it, but don’t let it clog the lens of your world view. You have to Actively seek the good. (Phase 2: when you can’t find it, BE it. If you won’t or can’t be it, let it go and spend your limited energies somewhere you will/can.)\n\nAlso, DON’T BE TOO PROUD TO CARE. Caring Will hurt you & can make you act like a fool in the eyes of the world, but it’s worth it. Caring means you value something Outside of yourself.\n\nThe people that don’t care are the selfish-assholes, that are taking the dumps, that are covering the world in shit. Cynics might not consciously dump on people, but they’re still just wallowing around in the shit, going “Boo-hoo Look at all this shit!” and then not even bothering to wipe their own assholes. Caring is your life-preserver on the shit-sea.\n\nNo one ever got anything good by not seeking it and not caring about it.\n\nAnd for the record, the fact that you recognize that being cynical helps no one (especially not yourself) is the first step toward recognizing what Does. Keep it up mate— the world is shit, but you don’t have to be.", "I realize that you are talking about feelings and it's hard not to get the impression that they are super real, but sometimes they are influenced by what you eat (or don't eat). 80-90% of serotonin is thought to be made in the digestive tract. If you eat a lot of junk food, sugar, and not enough foods like fruits, grains, and vegetables, then your neurotransmitters may contribute to the down feelings you have---Even if what you see is accurate (rigged systems), with better diet you might see yourself as part of the solution instead of a victim of the problems. The fact that you want to change and are reaching out to others is already a step up--you're making yourself responsible for your life, not circumstances. When you do that, opportunities seem to appear out of nowhere.", "I have been there. I have battled major depressive episodes on and off for years. Sometimes they sneak up on you and you don't realise your deep in it until everything goes to shit. FIRST: find someone you can talk to. A friend, family member, therapist, counselor, nurse. ANYONE. Or start trying to write through some thoughts. Do some free association writing where you just try and write as fast as the thoughts come to you. This sometimes helps me get to the heart of what is really bothering me.\n\nIt seems like you've started that by reaching out here. That's awesome because you've recognized that you want to change something, you just don't know how. Counselling is an excellent way to find different strategies or coping mechanisms. You might not like the first counselor you meet with. Don't worry about trying different ones. They themselves will support the decision to find the right fit. You have to trust them and believe they are there to help you. Trust is important in that relationship.\n\nIn regards to everyone is fake: figure out why you believe that. Is it because you are always putting on a fake persona for the outside world? Get off social media because yes, people are usually posting only the amplified positives which makes any negatives you're experiencing feel isolating.\n\nIn regards to nothing mattering: be the kindness the world needs. Kindness never hurts anyone and it is something everyone needs. You are feeling cynical and depressed. How would simple kindness affect you? Now what if you were to focus on just being kind to everyone you meet? Nothing extravagant, just smile more (even if you don't feel like it), make eye contact during any interaction, say please and thank you. Simple things we take for granted in today's world. I work in a retail environment and I constantly get thanked for being \"nice\". It's amazing the positive feedback I get from regular and new customers for simply doing things I think everyone deserves the courtesy of receiving. I am many of our regulars' favourite. I have been told they come to my location specifically (I work for a chain with three locations in my small city) hoping I am working. I do nothing special, I am simply KIND. And it makes me feel good to know I have made someone else feel good, even if for only our interaction. Imagine if we ALL acted this way all the time?\n\nBut I really do hope you find the answers you are looking for. And I hope you find kindness out there.", "Find people liking the same activities as you, they'll have something in common with you and from that both of you can be better at what you do (works better than pulling the other down, if that's how you think others would react). Example I made a lot of friends at skateparks/concerts not knowing anything about them before and we have no interest to not enjoy our time together instead of alone => share moments and better creativity and experience.\n\nAlso, I understand your process of thought, but some people don't even think about that, and others (like me) don't waste time convincing themselves to not try anything with your heart because people are bad. Just try, just do shit. Backfires? You lost nothing but time, and the other person lost a friendship opportunity. Yes, life can be harsh, but you'll always end up with more good than bad :)", "But seriously, you should visit a doctor ASAP.\n\nDepression is not something that you can get over nor something you can reason. \nIt's dangerous neurological condition that should be diagnosed and treated.", "As predictable as it sounds have a go at some free personality testing online. Gives a real insight into why you think about things in the way you do and ultimately start to see your clearly bright mind as interesting. I used to feel the same as you but lots of self analysis has taught me to like my brain and how it thinks and this has had a positive effect on how I view others. I also try very much to remember that people are not against you but simply for themselves and that seems to ease some of the selfishness I see in others. I also have moved to the other side of the world and being surrounded by a whole new set of people ands circumstances offers great perspective on old habits and feelings. Good luck friend. Your brain is yours alone. Enjoy it. ", "A few thoughts on what you wrote.\n\nIMO everyone always acts in their own perceived best interests. They have needs which drives emotions and their experiences form strategies for meeting those needs. Their actions can inform you if you stop judging them and start perceiving them. That information will improve your choices and your happiness.\n\nYou sound frustrated in that you’ve identified some needs and emotions and what you don’t want and your looking for greater self awareness and more effective strategies to get what you do want.\n\nWhat concerns me is the trap of comparing yourself to others is the surest way to cause unhappiness and depression. You seem pretty far down that rabbit hole. I can provide references to materials that have helped me in my journey if you are interested. Just realized what that sounds like.. I’m not a Scientologist BTW.", "\"The cost of sanity in this society is a certain level of alienation.\" What works for me is not looking for fulfilment in others and their social games. Find something you enjoy the process of doing instead of the outcome... It's really easy to fall into the trap of validation seeking behavior otherwise. The only thing a culture respects is mediocrity since it is in itself the average of human behaviors and preferences. Have expectations of yourself rather than expectations of others you have no control over.\n \nSociety is a strange kind of fiction that makes irrelevant noise in our minds when we are in quiet places. All your frustrations are just the result of you being caught up in that imaginary noise instead of the reality of your senses where and when you actually are. You can't blame the world for what you pay attention to.", "There's a book that I've been reading called Hardwiring Happiness.\n\nOne of the core concepts it talks about is that all of us have a negativity bias in our DNA that we inherited from our tribal ancestors. Because looking for danger and risks kept our ancestors alive. But we don't live in such a dangerous world anymore, so that left over feature has led to a lot of mental issues. \n\nBut we can, with intention, rewire our brains to start having a positivity bias. I'm not through with it yet, but I highly recommend it for someone in your situation.", "Sarcasm is a way to hide our anger. I worked 20 years in customer service and that's how my anger would show up. \nIt's o.k. to be angry at the world if your world right now is disappointed you. But what can you do? \n- Change something about your life (even if it's only a little thing like a new hair cut). \n- Stop listening to kill joy in your life. \n- Get off-line more often and go outside. \n- Start something new (a hobby, learn a language, a new sport...). \n- Before going to bed write 5 things that you like about your life that day. (It could be simple as \"I had a great coffee today\") \n\nA lot of people are suggesting volunteering and I think it could be a nice way to meet great people (they do exist). I volunteer at a cat shelter and to see people (specially little kids) choosing their next friend is so good for my soul. I always leave the place really happy (even if I cleaned a lot of litter boxes that day). \n\nGood luck! \n\n", "One non-medical thing that has helped me a lot with depression and anxiety is a gratitude journal. Mine is actually just a word document on my desktop. I started by writing down pretty obvious things I'm grateful for (I'm grateful I have a ride to work), and after a while it can help re-frame your thoughts a little bit such that you're looking at what you're grateful for in a situation instead of what sucks (I have to go to work today).\n\nMight sound dumb, but it started working for me surprisingly quickly and was surprisingly effective. Perspective is HUGE and shifting your perspective is hard but if you can do it it can be a huge help.", "I think we can all relate to this - turn on the news, listen to the radio, look around you, and it's hard to be optimistic.\n\nPersonally, I try to overcome this by being the change I want to see in the world. I volunteer my time to help the people I care about - and try to do so freely, without reservation, and without expectation of payment or thanks. The reward is that you can rest easy knowing that there is good in the world - and it's in you.", "I read a book called \"Conversations with God\" 15 years ago written by Neale Donald Walsch.\nConversations with God takes its readers on an inspirational journey, teaching them how to conduct a dialogue with God and reach a better understanding of themselves, others and the world we all inhabit.\n", "Hi , I’m sorry to hear about how you’re feeling first of all let me say that it’s not easy , and it will take time. That big grey thing in our skull can be quite tricksy. \n\nI suggest reading feeling good by dr David burns , it’s a book on cognitive behavioural therapy , and it will change you life. If your not ready to read that I suggest watching his short ted talk to see if maybe that will change your mind. \n\nIt’s an overused phrase but it does get better and for all the world seems a turbulent and sometimes terrifying place , please remember that it is as equally beautiful!\n\nI wish you every bit of luck in your endeavours and I hope that one day you will maybe pass on the advice you learn to someone in the future that feels the way you feel now , the thousand mile journey starts with a single step and today you took that step, well done \n\nSorry for the lengthy reply \n\n", "Everything you see is true. Your cynicism is a healthy reaction to an unhealthy world. You can use that hatred to fuel you as you fight for the betterment of the world. Also, knowing you are not alone helps. People have put their finger on the problems you are seeing. I recommend searching youtube for folks like Jordan Peterson, Owen Benjamin, Jocko Willink to name but a few. Truth, family and values are all that will save us now. " ]	[ 33, 9, 7, 5, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "how to be a great manager Hello! \n\nI recently got promoted to be a manager at the restaurant that I work at. Now I'm sure I have some sort of qualities about being a manager seeing as I was chosen to be promoted. However, has anyone had experience with being a manager or know of any do's or don't's. \n\nThanks in advance!", "how to be a great manager Hello! \n\nI recently got promoted to be a manager at the restaurant that I work at. Now I'm sure I have some sort of qualities about being a manager seeing as I was chosen to be promoted. However, has anyone had experience with being a manager or know of any do's or don't's. \n\nThanks in advance!", "how to be a great manager Hello! \n\nI recently got promoted to be a manager at the restaurant that I work at. Now I'm sure I have some sort of qualities about being a manager seeing as I was chosen to be promoted. However, has anyone had experience with being a manager or know of any do's or don't's. \n\nThanks in advance!", "how to be a great manager Hello! \n\nI recently got promoted to be a manager at the restaurant that I work at. Now I'm sure I have some sort of qualities about being a manager seeing as I was chosen to be promoted. However, has anyone had experience with being a manager or know of any do's or don't's. \n\nThanks in advance!", "how to be a great manager Hello! \n\nI recently got promoted to be a manager at the restaurant that I work at. Now I'm sure I have some sort of qualities about being a manager seeing as I was chosen to be promoted. However, has anyone had experience with being a manager or know of any do's or don't's. \n\nThanks in advance!" ]	[ "My number one tip:\n\nBeing a good leader is all about providing every chance for your team to have success. Set your team up for it. Give them the resources and guiding hand for them to succeed. Seek it yourself and lead by example.\n\nDon't forget to shield them from the bullshit that rains on them from above. You're down on the floor where upper management tends not to tread. There is often a disconnect with reality.\n\n\n\n", "Think like your team does before you open your mouth and issue orders or make requests, and especially when you have to have any sort of conversation that could be negative.\n\nEmpathy is your number one ally. It's HYUUUGE. Understanding why people act the way they do will help you predict what they'll do when you interact with them, and result in a team that is much happier with their manager because that manager \"gets\" them.\n\nDarla's gonna get promoted to shift supervisor. How will Francine react? Does she understand the reasons why it's Darla and not her? Maybe you should explain specifically why, and it's about team-managing experience and attitude rather than just competence and number of years at the restaurant.\n\nMike the fairly new kitchen help seems really slow and distracted three days in a row and it's really pissing off the chef. Maybe asking him the reason and finding out why is better than just screaming at him to speed up. Well you had that conversation and have a little more info, he just kind of mumbled in response, and he seems really nervous and is pretty clearly hiding something. For the good of the restaurant, maybe better keep an eye on Mike in case there's drugs or theft or something, or if not, something you can use to draw him back in so you don't have to replace him. \n\nJanet dropped a tray of dishes on her second shift. She's really avoiding looking at you and kind of flinchy, perhaps that's why. Best talk to her to help her understand it's not the end of the world.", "Praise openly, criticize privately.\n\nPraise more than you criticize. A lot more. And make sure it's authentic praise. Don't avoid correcting someone when you have to, though.\n\nAt the beginning of your employee's shift, talk to them and catch them up on what's going on that day. Since you're in a restaurant, tell them any new specials or certain items you'd like them to push. Go over any specific tasks you'd like them to complete before the end of their shift. \n\nPositivity is what makes a great boss that people aren't afraid to talk to, but also holding people to your rules and policies will earn their respect. Appreciating your employees is what makes them want to stay and more willing to help when you really need it.\n\nIf you can, try hosting friendly competitions, like who can sell the most of our new item? Who cleans the most tables? This is an easy way to bring some life into your staff and give them incentive to try a little more when they come in to work.\n\nSometimes you have to be the bad guy. Some people don't handle it well. It's okay. It's part of your job now.\n\nGood luck!", "Having worked online for 9 years and in a office for 3 months now. just be nice. say good things to your employees when they do good, never be too negative with them. always encourage and try to be a \"friend\". \n\nI like Michael Scott style of leadership so he is a model of leadership to me.", "\n\nBe consistent. Company rules are the company rules, know them and abide by them. You included.\n\nLead by example, never ask your employees to do something you wouldn't.\n\nThey are not your friends. I'm recently divorced and only a handful of people that work for me know this, they are my managers. I told them so they understood why I was \"acting\" the way I was. The others don't know much of my personal life. Stories here and there as I do interact personally with just about all of them. Keep your personal life out of the office.\n\nKnow when to ask for advice. If you run across a situation that you're not sure how to handle admit it. Get help.\n\nLittle gestures go a long way. I will bake things and bring them in or even provide a biscuit and gravy breakfast every once and a while. Only costs me a few bucks and some time(I like to cook so it's not taxing). Heck, a box of donuts will do.\n\nAnd lastly, but a big one. DO NOT SLEEP WITH YOUR STAFF!\n" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Making eye contact with someone who has a facial defect Often times, I feel like I'm avoiding looking at their defect (whether it be an eye or something else) but does anyone have a tip to not look at the defect but also not avoid it.\n\nI hope this doesn't make me sound like an awful person but I hope you can understand what I mean. ", "Making eye contact with someone who has a facial defect Often times, I feel like I'm avoiding looking at their defect (whether it be an eye or something else) but does anyone have a tip to not look at the defect but also not avoid it.\n\nI hope this doesn't make me sound like an awful person but I hope you can understand what I mean. ", "Making eye contact with someone who has a facial defect Often times, I feel like I'm avoiding looking at their defect (whether it be an eye or something else) but does anyone have a tip to not look at the defect but also not avoid it.\n\nI hope this doesn't make me sound like an awful person but I hope you can understand what I mean. ", "Making eye contact with someone who has a facial defect Often times, I feel like I'm avoiding looking at their defect (whether it be an eye or something else) but does anyone have a tip to not look at the defect but also not avoid it.\n\nI hope this doesn't make me sound like an awful person but I hope you can understand what I mean. " ]	[ "Some advice I was given a long time ago is to just treat them how you would anyone else. Would you look a person without a facial defect in the eyes while talking to them? Do the same for a person who does. I'm sure that person is well aware of their defect and just wants to be treated like everyone else.", "I don't know if it will help you, but for me it actually makes me more comfortable to know what medical terms are. I sometimes just read about random disorders on Wikipedia. It's easier to think \"oh he probably has osteogenesis imperfecta\" and move on than to try and talk to someone while wondering why they look different. If you have a word for what you're looking at, then you won't be as surprised or distracted by it.", "I look people in the eyes always when I talk with them. When I made it a personal habit, I didn't have to practice for people with uncommon characteristics.", "Focus on the bridge of the nose; or at least where it should be. They can't tell the difference, and you won't feel awkward. \n\nIf this is someone you'll deal with regularly, ask them about it. Once the tension is gone, you'll both be more comfortable." ]	[ 3, 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this.", "How Do I Not Get Discouraged on the Job Search I'm 23, and moving to New York soon. I've lost track of how many jobs I've applied to. I have heard exactly zero responses to all of them.\n\nI have a bachelor's degree in economics, a strong resume, good cover letters and references. It's infuriating to have worked this hard and not get an opportunity to prove myself. I know that I'm smart enough to do jobs well, hell, I'm doing one right now, but I'm moving to a new city and need to find a new one.\n\nIn Economics, there's this idea called the discouraged worker, a person who gets so fed up they just stop trying to find work.\n\nI'm not at that point yet, but I'm just so tired of doing application after application with nothing in terms of response, and I don't know how to keep doing this." ]	[ "Have you had somebody else (preferably a professional in the field) take a look at your resume/cover letter and give honest feedback? Are you tailoring your resume/cover letter for the jobs you are applying to or are you just using a template? \n\nTake a step back and calm down. If nobody is calling you back, then your approach obviously needs some work. ", "About the only thing you might consider doing differently is a follow up email or letter perhaps a few days or a week after submitting your resume. Easier to do if they accept the resumes directly (instead of through some job board website kinda thing). \n\nAlso, a good majority of larger employers don't even read resumes anymore (at least not initially). Instead they run them through programs that search for certain key words and key terms/time frames. \n\nSo one bit of advice in that case would be to read the job posting carefully and make sure your resume includes as much of the wording in the posting itself. Same with your cover letter, include the words that they used in their posting, not words that you prefer. \n\nBasically, if a job posting requires you to submit an application via a website process, rarely will a human look at it before it passes through this pre-check. If you are asked to mail a resume directly and/or email it directly to an individual, then it might be looked at by a human being first. ", "Did you take any career counseling courses? They teach you how to find a job. I was also taught that over 50% of jobs aren't advertised. Let people you meet or know, know that you are looking for work.\n\nIf not, go to the chamber of commerce in your city. They can help point you in the right direction.\n\nAlso, go into the places you're applying to and schmooze the people there. Interview one of the higher ups for a minute or two. Get them to talk about themselves and how they made it to where they are. Prepare yourself and do some reasearch on them first, where they went to school, what degree they have, etc.\n\nIn other words, get them to know you so that they will trust you!\n\nI've done career interviews and have left with employment. :)\n\nSince the age of fourteen, I have NEVER been without a job.", "Why are you moving? In my experience it seems much harder landing a gig when you are relocating for it.", "Remember that in todays job market, with online applications being almost the only option for most of us, it's a game of numbers.\n\nFirst, you have to beat the filter of the employers candidate search. They receive hundred or thousands of applications for every job. So to assist their search, they use a filter to weed out the unsuitable applicants (there are LOTS of unsuitable people applying for every job). To beat the filter, cater your resume to include keywords that you know they will be looking for. Look at what that job and similar jobs are looking for, and include those words in your resume.\n\nSecondly, remember that in today's market, you are literaly one of millions trying to get the job. Since it's New York, you will be competing with people from all over the country that would like to move there. Keep at it, and you will make it. But be prepared for a long wait.", "Last time I was looking for a job, I took a temp position while I searched. That made it so much easier to not stress about how long it was taking to find something and gave me the freedom to look for what I actually wanted long term instead of just whatever I could get.", "I'm a recruiter in a different country, but maybe this could help you \n\nIs it written on your résumé that you live in NY or on the city that you are right now? \n\nwhen searching for entry level positions, a recruiter might rule out candidates that are from different cities. Usually that means that is going to take some time for the candidate to move get settled and then start on a new job and many companies don't have the time to wait for that. \n\nI recommend to check that. Also, activate your contact network. Talk to the people you know in NyC and see if they can refer you in the companies they work. Referred candidates usually go up on the pile because the person who referred them know that their friends profile is bound to adapt to company way of working. \n\nSee if that helps and best of luck!", "I was just in this boat and landed a job in my city after about a year of constant cover letters and perfecting my approach. Surprisingly my call backs were from apps submitted online where they're always claimed to never see human eyes. \n\nThe comment about keywords filtering out applications I couldn't say is true or not, but I believe it to be. Over the time I was searching I made about four resumes all containing generally the same info but with focuses on different areas depending on the job's area of focus. This included focusing on 'key words' that were directly in the job description. Anything in the first few bullet points of 'job responsibilities' on an open position found it's way in my resume or cover letter as soon as I could mention it.\n\nI'd say what helped me what trying to be unique - even if it wasn't job related. Charity/Non-profits are a great way to do this, and you might be able to do it and don't even know it. I'm a musician so I decided to do a fundraiser for a local charity by doing a cover song every week with my singer for donations, and people could request songs. Essentially, we were already practicing and were going to do covers, why not do it for a good cause, improve our talents, and add a line to a resume? Was it wildly successful? Nope. But it was a line on a resume and make you unique. You're a performer, I bet theirs something you could find your way into that involves an arts non-profit that benefits your personal life and career simultaneously. Certifications are a great way to do this too, but only if your willing to spend the money on it.\n\nAlso I changed my cover letter a lot, and feel I got most responses when I started with meaningful dialogue about the company and position as early as possible so they see it before saying PASS, and so it didn't sound like I had a template I was just inserting a company name into. Whether I found the hiring managers name or put 'To Whom It May Concern' showed no difference in my experience, though I always try since it never hurts.", "I know people who apply for jobs that don't put their degree down. It's hard for people to employee someone who has a 4-year degree for something entry level.\n\nEspecially if you are applying for a job where a bachelor's degree in economics won't benefit anyone. \n\nMy best friend has a business degree and was unable to find normal positions. \n\n*", "I just went through this. I applied for well over 200 jobs out of college. I ended up with a decent one. The best advice given to me was this: address every single qualification or requirement from the advert in your cover letter or resume. Plainly state even the ones that seem obvious. For example, if the position requires proficiency in Microsoft office, don't assume people will know you have this skill with a four year degree. Tell them you know how to use word. Also, never underestimate the value of networking. Gotta get dat linkedin.", "Businesses in NYC habitually trash entry-level resumes with an out of state addresses. If that's you, the resumes you sent so far had, at most, a trivial chance of being considered. \n\nLots of people say they want to move to NYC, and lots of people chicken out. You are for real if and only if your boots are on the ground. " ]	[ 9, 5, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do you quit something you feel obligated to keep doing because you put so much time/money into? I put a bit too much money and time into equipment for a certain sport and I feel obligated to keep playing it even though I'm not exactly enjoying it that much recently. \n\nThis also happens with other areas of my life, such as spending too much money on micro-transactions in videogames in which I struggle to quit the game.", "How do you quit something you feel obligated to keep doing because you put so much time/money into? I put a bit too much money and time into equipment for a certain sport and I feel obligated to keep playing it even though I'm not exactly enjoying it that much recently. \n\nThis also happens with other areas of my life, such as spending too much money on micro-transactions in videogames in which I struggle to quit the game.", "How do you quit something you feel obligated to keep doing because you put so much time/money into? I put a bit too much money and time into equipment for a certain sport and I feel obligated to keep playing it even though I'm not exactly enjoying it that much recently. \n\nThis also happens with other areas of my life, such as spending too much money on micro-transactions in videogames in which I struggle to quit the game.", "How do you quit something you feel obligated to keep doing because you put so much time/money into? I put a bit too much money and time into equipment for a certain sport and I feel obligated to keep playing it even though I'm not exactly enjoying it that much recently. \n\nThis also happens with other areas of my life, such as spending too much money on micro-transactions in videogames in which I struggle to quit the game." ]	[ "What you're describing is the textbook definition of the [sunk cost fallacy](https://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/03/25/the-sunk-cost-fallacy/).\n\nAnother, clearer example is this: you bought some non-refundable tickets to a concert at an outdoor venue. The day of the concert comes and it's raining (but they're not cancelling the show), and on top of that, you're already getting sick. You know that if you go out in the rainy concert you will not only have a horrible time, but make yourself even sicker. Yet, you paid good money for the tickets, can't scalp them, and can't get your money back. So you feel obligated to go, even though you are guaranteed to have a worse time than you would if you stayed home. \n\nThe money paid for the tickets at this point is a sunk cost - it won't change no matter what happens. Yet the more logical decision for your current and future well-being (to stay home), is trumped by the more emotional decision to go because you're invested now, and you don't want to waste that investment. Maybe you also told your friends/family how excited you were to be going to the show, so on top of your financial investment you also have an emotional/social investment in going as well.", "Quit.\n\nIf your hobby has become a job it's time to end it. Sell your equipment on eBay and find something else to do.", "You're playing Texas hold em,\nYou have a great hand at the start of the round, but when the flop hits the table you literally cannot make anything.\nDo you keep betting just because you already bet high earlier??\n\nNo, you check/fold.", "Also if you are having issues with micro-transactions in games then go through the settings on your phone or console and disable the ability to make in-app purchases for your game apps." ]	[ 10, 6, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?", "How to prevent stinky sponge? It seems inevitable that a sponge will eventually get stinky, and I do know a few ways to mitigate that, but I wanted to hit up the hive mind to see:\n\nWhat do we know about preventing a sponge from getting stinky in the first place?" ]	[ "You can throw it in the microwave for 30 seconds after each use. You want to see steam when you take it out.", "Make sure you wash the sponge itself with soap after and squeeze all the water out! It will last a long time the reason it smells is cause the water creates mildew but if you soap it and squueze all the water out it will smell normal", "Periodically soak the sponge in a bowl of water that you have added some vinegar to. A tablespoon maybe. Amount not so critical. Maybe soak for an hour or two. Maybe with a little squirt of dishwashing soap, too. I don't like the smell of vinegar permeating my kitchen, so I either use a glass bowl that I put a plate on top of, or a plastic container that I put the lid on.\n\nI like the vinegar method since the vinegar down the drain after the soak also freshens the drain. I have also used bleach but the bleach seems to make the sponge tend to wear out faster. \n", "When you're rinsing them out after general use... use HOT hot water and be sure to get all food particles off of it--- wring well. \n\nIn my experience, intensely hot/scalding water does a damn good job of killing off possibly stank-causing bacteria, and wringing out excess water allows it to dry faster. It's like leaving wet clothes lying around--- it's bound to get musty.\n\nSource: Teachings of my intense clean-freak mother.", "Soak your sponge. Place it in a ceramic bowl. Microwave for 3-4 minutes. Anything that was once alive is very dead.\n\nI've done this multiple times to a single sponge and nothing bad has come from it. Generally gets rid of any odor easily.", "Prevent: Keep it dry when not actively being used. Without water the bacteria can't grow well or at all. Second rinse it out with fresh water before setting it out to dry. I've heard adding soap to it will help, but probably won't do much unless it's antibacterial soap. \n\nIf it does get stinky soak it in rubbing alcohol for a minute or so. Kills everything. ", "If you have sponges with the scrub pad on the back, when you are done, make sure you place the sponge with the scrub pad down. If you place it with the sponge side down it will never dry out. ", "Don't use sponges, they are bacteria magnets. Get good dishcloths that have the scrubby fabric on one side. Use one for a day or two, toss in the wash. Grab a new one.", "Completely wring out the sponge every single time you are done with it. Miss even once and the bacteria find their way in. I also recommend soaking in diluted bleach once a week or so. Be warned though, bleach kills skin cells just as well as it does bacteria, so wear gloves when dealing with bleach. Also, following the soaking, rinse the sponge thoroughly and then do it again to be extra thoroughlyerer." ]	[ 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? ", "You're gonna be in a dangerous car accident and you know it. It also is a shitty car. What is the best thing you can do in the very last moments to save yourself? " ]	[ "Relax, don't stiffen up and try to hold your arms out to stop your forward momentum. You've got your seat belt on, right? Think about 2 sticks of dry spaghetti. Point them forward and push them into a wall with decent force. That snap... that's your arms/legs. Go limp. You're going to get fucked up either way, but the fewer injuries you take the better chances you have. \n\nYou have your seat belt on, right? If not, you're fucked.", "Brace yourself - the accident you see coming will hurt you way less than the one that catches you by surprise. Also, if the hit is coming from the driver's side or behind you, try to lay down in the seat and press your head against the back of the seat to minimize whiplash damage.\nSource: demolition derby driver.", "Let up on the brakes just before you hit it. That way, the front end will come up and hit more of the meat of the other car.", "Vehicles are almost universally more forgiving in straight-on collisions, front and center. If you can't completely avoid a collision, make sure you don't wing it, or you or a passenger will be paste. This is especially true for large trailers with an underride prevention bar: most are incapable of safely stopping decapitation on a side hit.", "If you've already shifted into your lowest applicable gear, cross your arms pharaoh style so they don't break on the wheel/airbag.", "Brace your neck against the headrest to minimize whiplash. Hopefully your car isn't so shitty that it's lacking a headrest.", "Always wear your seat belts. F = ma is not a joke.\n\nUnderstand the situation can help. Example: If you are getting rear ended and you have safe space in front, accelerate forward to minimize the impact. Keep your head on the head rest and sit up straight.\n\n\n ", "Relax, close your eyes, do not hit the brakes but let go of the gas pedal, and go limp. Panicking will only cause you more injuries, both physically and mentally. Staying calm will save your life. And ALWAYS WEAR YOUR DAMN SEATBELT. Best wishes, my friend. :)", "Brace your self, seat belt check ☑ \n\nLast moment situations.\nFor Stick shift cars. Down shift then immediately up shift to bring the nose of your car up. \n\nAt the moment of impact you have 2 choices save your self or try to save the other car. \n\n1 Saving your self is easy because all you need to do is to steadily increase your speed upon impact then down shift to brake the momentum followed by up shifting again to gain you're footing. Come out clean due to momentum and energy transference.\n\n2 is very difficult because upon impact you need to keep the nose of your car on the other car while slowly maneuvering both car to prevent a spin off. If you've ever towed a car before the concept is the same just need to balance both car and slowly reduce your speed \"controlled speed\".\n\nLast step lightly tap right bumper left stick up then press pause breath and before you know if you'll get a trophy on your ps4\n", "Don't get into the shitty car.\n\nAre you driving? Then slow the fuck down. Drive like your half-blind grandmother.\n\nAlso, wear your seatbelt and some clean underwear.", "Smile. No, seriously: Smile. \n\nAttitude is everything when it comes to surviving an accident. Better to start sooner than later." ]	[ 27, 8, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, -2, -3 ]	safe
[ "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?", "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?", "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?", "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?", "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?", "How to get most of your security deposit back? Every time I move out of an apartment I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit; cleaning the carpets etc. How can I maximize effort to deposit returned?" ]	[ "The best thing you can do to get a security deposit back is pick the correct landlord.\n\nMaybe it's too late for that, but keep it in mind. The sad fact is that the law sides highly with landlords in this area and they can pretty much keep what they feel and make it difficult to impossible for you to argue. \n\nIf you stay on the landlord's good side (and this goes for both smaller landlords and large companies) and return the property in pretty much the shape it was in when you got it, there should be no problem. With other companies, you aren't going to get it back if you sterilize it and replace all of the appliances with new. \n\nAlso check to see if you have a \"cleaning deposit\" or a \"security deposit\". Although there is really no practical difference, the former implies that it will be used for cleaning if necessary and most probably. The latter implies the deposit is considered more for damages. ", "Consider asking your landlord beforehand. Explain that you want to leave the apartment as clean as possible, and ask if they can give you any tips. Ask if there is anything that they've noticed previous tenants often forget to clean (I did this once and got a list of 3 things that, sure enough, I had forgotten). If you rent from a large corporation or property management firm, you might find that have a typed list of tips for cleaning or a checklist. If they don't consider googling it, or try \"spring cleaning checklist\" or something similar to find solid lists to help you out.\n\nOf course, this won't prevent a greedy landlord from trying to keep part of your deposit. But if your landlord is an okay person, it might really help.", "The easiest way is to schedule your move-out inspection and make sure you are present as they fill out the form.\n\n", "Ask your landlord / rental office for tips on you need / don't need to do to get your deposit returned.\n\nAs for the carpet, you can rent a Rug Doctor (or similar carpet shampoo/vacuum) at your local grocery store / Walmart / Home Depot / etc and do a carpet shampoo yourself to make it cleaner. Refer to my first line above - there was one apartment complex landlord who told me that they were going to charge a flat rate anyway to shampoo the carpet, even if I did it myself beforehand. So I saved time and money by not renting the Rug Doctor. ", "> I seem to forget that one thing that will cost me a large chunk of my security deposit\n\nIf that's the reason, it sounds like you need a checklist of things to go over.\n\nThough I do have to wonder ... how do you forget things? Once the apartment is empty and you think it's clean --- you do a walkthrough and look for stuff. In the empty apartment, problems should be completely obvious. Perhaps have a friend do your final walkthrough with you, to catch things you miss?\n\nBeyond that, some general ideas that may not apply directly to your situation --\n\n* Document the condition of everything before you move in, fill out their form. Take pictures or video. Mark every little problem, no matter how minor.\n* I've heard that it's useful to throw in something to confirm the date into your pictures/video, to show that you didn't take the pictures/videos when you moved out. That said, I don't know how important this is.\n* Try to clean up stains and damage immediately when they happen rather than waiting.\n* Don't have pets. :)\n* Don't have kids. :)\n* Be there with the landlord when they do a final inspection.\n", "* Read and understand your lease agreement.\n* Look into the laws in your state/city and make sure you have a copy if you need to reference in the future.\n* Any kind of correspondence you have with your landlord about the deposit should be in writing and through certified mail, that way they can't claim they never got it.\n* Stand your ground. I recently received my full deposit, I had moved out in January and I only got it late May. Scummy landlords will take advantage of lazy people." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to quit your job and leave in good terms with your boss? I have become very interested in the tips Redditors always give regarding how you use your words and what effect they have on others. [Like this one where you ask people for advice in order to get their respect straight away](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/29rloe/lpt_if_you_want_to_endear_someone_to_you_quickly/) or [replacing the word \"but\" for a pause](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2rkp8j/lpt_when_apologizing_replace_the_word_but_with_a/).\n\n_\n\nI like my boss. I don't like my job. How do I make sure that comes across? \n\n_\n\nUPDATE: I've just spoken to my employer.\nIt went really well. \nThey told me to choose when my last day at the office will be (in 3 months). \nThey also asked questions about what I will be doing next and gave me advice on how to achieve it, including, giving me contacts of people that may be able to help. \nMore than all this, they encouraged me to pursue my passions and find the perfect place for me to develop my work.\nHonestly, I'm speechless. I knew they were nice and that it would have gone ok, but this is beyond good. I think I have good friends in my bosses.\n\nThanks everyone for all your advice.", "How to quit your job and leave in good terms with your boss? I have become very interested in the tips Redditors always give regarding how you use your words and what effect they have on others. [Like this one where you ask people for advice in order to get their respect straight away](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/29rloe/lpt_if_you_want_to_endear_someone_to_you_quickly/) or [replacing the word \"but\" for a pause](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2rkp8j/lpt_when_apologizing_replace_the_word_but_with_a/).\n\n_\n\nI like my boss. I don't like my job. How do I make sure that comes across? \n\n_\n\nUPDATE: I've just spoken to my employer.\nIt went really well. \nThey told me to choose when my last day at the office will be (in 3 months). \nThey also asked questions about what I will be doing next and gave me advice on how to achieve it, including, giving me contacts of people that may be able to help. \nMore than all this, they encouraged me to pursue my passions and find the perfect place for me to develop my work.\nHonestly, I'm speechless. I knew they were nice and that it would have gone ok, but this is beyond good. I think I have good friends in my bosses.\n\nThanks everyone for all your advice.", "How to quit your job and leave in good terms with your boss? I have become very interested in the tips Redditors always give regarding how you use your words and what effect they have on others. [Like this one where you ask people for advice in order to get their respect straight away](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/29rloe/lpt_if_you_want_to_endear_someone_to_you_quickly/) or [replacing the word \"but\" for a pause](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2rkp8j/lpt_when_apologizing_replace_the_word_but_with_a/).\n\n_\n\nI like my boss. I don't like my job. How do I make sure that comes across? \n\n_\n\nUPDATE: I've just spoken to my employer.\nIt went really well. \nThey told me to choose when my last day at the office will be (in 3 months). \nThey also asked questions about what I will be doing next and gave me advice on how to achieve it, including, giving me contacts of people that may be able to help. \nMore than all this, they encouraged me to pursue my passions and find the perfect place for me to develop my work.\nHonestly, I'm speechless. I knew they were nice and that it would have gone ok, but this is beyond good. I think I have good friends in my bosses.\n\nThanks everyone for all your advice." ]	[ "Just be honest with him/her about the situation. Explain that you like them, but the position is not for you. If you have something else lined up, explain what the job is and why you would rather work it than your current job. Most people understand that situation, because most have been in it before.", "I know OP's situation is taken care of, but for anyone else who may be reading...\n\n-Give a fair amount of notice. Two weeks is standard, but be sure that you are not obligated to give more (like OP, you may have signed a contract agreeing to give a certain amount of time, especially if you have a specialized or higher level position). I personally always give a set date that I can work until at the same time and have never had an issue with a boss not letting me work until that time (though this may not always be the case, especially for more \"disposable\" positions).\n\n-Do it privately and at an \"off\" time. Ask to speak to your supervisor when s/he isn't super busy.\n\n-Be upfront and honest. Don't get defensive or complain. Tell them that you have found (or are looking for) something that you feel will be more fulfilling/ better fit your interests/ is more aligned with your career path than your current position.\n\n-Your boss shouldn't be the last to know or hear it from someone else before you. Don't tell all your coworkers that you're quitting before you talk to your boss.\n\n-Most of all, be polite, respectful, and act as confident as you can. \n\n\nI was in a similar position with my last job, and quitting felt like an \"it's-not-you-it's-me\" break-up. Thankfully, it went really well, we had a good conversation about my new job and how great of a fit it would be for me, my favorite coworker was promoted to my spot, and my boss was able to line up a new employee by the time I left. A win-win situation for everyone.", "Honesty is the only card you can play. People respect and respond to it. A to-the-point explanation and a 2 week notice to ease transitions/replacement is good practice." ]	[ 5, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "14, looking for a job (most likely at local movie theater). Need advice. Grade 9 here, looking for some extra $$$. I already do great at school and sometimes am bored at home so I think that I have some extra time to do some work. I don't know that much about applying for my first job and I find you guys the most helpful and true-to-heart. \n\nSome things about me (not that that matters that much)\n\n- Male\n\n- High grades.\n\n- Loves business & tech.\n\n- I live close to a popular & big plaza where i'm looking to work at.\n\n- I don't have any type of social anxiety, but I do stutter when talking too fast. When given the choice, i'd go for the job that requires no talking with the customers every time; but if it makes a big difference I don't really care.\n\n- Lives in Canada where minimum wage is $14.10 canuck bucks, so pay is not an issue (not that it should be!) Minimum wage is a lot for a person who doesn't have to pay for anything on a regular basis and saves their money.\n\nBased on some other threads posted here, I've found that: \n\n- Movie theater and working at a restaurant are great choices (and I really like the idea of that!)\n\n- apply for the job in person, walk in to the store in the morning with the attitude that you ARE getting the job, start with a handshake and a conversation (apparently this works really well)\n\n- Don't stress it, and just go in and do it (which is what i'm doing right now, but, like, whatever; you guys make me feel a lot better)\n\nSome questions I have:\n\n- What should I wear? Business casual? Jeans and a collared shirt? My swimsuit?\n\n- I know this sounds dumb, but please bear with me. ELI5 a high schooler job application. I know, this is something to ask my parents, and I will eventually. But I think you guys will do it better. What do I need to write? What do I need to prepare for? What questions will they ask me?\n\n- How long will an interview go?\n\n- What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nThank you SO much in advance! Love you Reddit <3\n\n\n", "14, looking for a job (most likely at local movie theater). Need advice. Grade 9 here, looking for some extra $$$. I already do great at school and sometimes am bored at home so I think that I have some extra time to do some work. I don't know that much about applying for my first job and I find you guys the most helpful and true-to-heart. \n\nSome things about me (not that that matters that much)\n\n- Male\n\n- High grades.\n\n- Loves business & tech.\n\n- I live close to a popular & big plaza where i'm looking to work at.\n\n- I don't have any type of social anxiety, but I do stutter when talking too fast. When given the choice, i'd go for the job that requires no talking with the customers every time; but if it makes a big difference I don't really care.\n\n- Lives in Canada where minimum wage is $14.10 canuck bucks, so pay is not an issue (not that it should be!) Minimum wage is a lot for a person who doesn't have to pay for anything on a regular basis and saves their money.\n\nBased on some other threads posted here, I've found that: \n\n- Movie theater and working at a restaurant are great choices (and I really like the idea of that!)\n\n- apply for the job in person, walk in to the store in the morning with the attitude that you ARE getting the job, start with a handshake and a conversation (apparently this works really well)\n\n- Don't stress it, and just go in and do it (which is what i'm doing right now, but, like, whatever; you guys make me feel a lot better)\n\nSome questions I have:\n\n- What should I wear? Business casual? Jeans and a collared shirt? My swimsuit?\n\n- I know this sounds dumb, but please bear with me. ELI5 a high schooler job application. I know, this is something to ask my parents, and I will eventually. But I think you guys will do it better. What do I need to write? What do I need to prepare for? What questions will they ask me?\n\n- How long will an interview go?\n\n- What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nThank you SO much in advance! Love you Reddit <3\n\n\n", "14, looking for a job (most likely at local movie theater). Need advice. Grade 9 here, looking for some extra $$$. I already do great at school and sometimes am bored at home so I think that I have some extra time to do some work. I don't know that much about applying for my first job and I find you guys the most helpful and true-to-heart. \n\nSome things about me (not that that matters that much)\n\n- Male\n\n- High grades.\n\n- Loves business & tech.\n\n- I live close to a popular & big plaza where i'm looking to work at.\n\n- I don't have any type of social anxiety, but I do stutter when talking too fast. When given the choice, i'd go for the job that requires no talking with the customers every time; but if it makes a big difference I don't really care.\n\n- Lives in Canada where minimum wage is $14.10 canuck bucks, so pay is not an issue (not that it should be!) Minimum wage is a lot for a person who doesn't have to pay for anything on a regular basis and saves their money.\n\nBased on some other threads posted here, I've found that: \n\n- Movie theater and working at a restaurant are great choices (and I really like the idea of that!)\n\n- apply for the job in person, walk in to the store in the morning with the attitude that you ARE getting the job, start with a handshake and a conversation (apparently this works really well)\n\n- Don't stress it, and just go in and do it (which is what i'm doing right now, but, like, whatever; you guys make me feel a lot better)\n\nSome questions I have:\n\n- What should I wear? Business casual? Jeans and a collared shirt? My swimsuit?\n\n- I know this sounds dumb, but please bear with me. ELI5 a high schooler job application. I know, this is something to ask my parents, and I will eventually. But I think you guys will do it better. What do I need to write? What do I need to prepare for? What questions will they ask me?\n\n- How long will an interview go?\n\n- What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nThank you SO much in advance! Love you Reddit <3\n\n\n", "14, looking for a job (most likely at local movie theater). Need advice. Grade 9 here, looking for some extra $$$. I already do great at school and sometimes am bored at home so I think that I have some extra time to do some work. I don't know that much about applying for my first job and I find you guys the most helpful and true-to-heart. \n\nSome things about me (not that that matters that much)\n\n- Male\n\n- High grades.\n\n- Loves business & tech.\n\n- I live close to a popular & big plaza where i'm looking to work at.\n\n- I don't have any type of social anxiety, but I do stutter when talking too fast. When given the choice, i'd go for the job that requires no talking with the customers every time; but if it makes a big difference I don't really care.\n\n- Lives in Canada where minimum wage is $14.10 canuck bucks, so pay is not an issue (not that it should be!) Minimum wage is a lot for a person who doesn't have to pay for anything on a regular basis and saves their money.\n\nBased on some other threads posted here, I've found that: \n\n- Movie theater and working at a restaurant are great choices (and I really like the idea of that!)\n\n- apply for the job in person, walk in to the store in the morning with the attitude that you ARE getting the job, start with a handshake and a conversation (apparently this works really well)\n\n- Don't stress it, and just go in and do it (which is what i'm doing right now, but, like, whatever; you guys make me feel a lot better)\n\nSome questions I have:\n\n- What should I wear? Business casual? Jeans and a collared shirt? My swimsuit?\n\n- I know this sounds dumb, but please bear with me. ELI5 a high schooler job application. I know, this is something to ask my parents, and I will eventually. But I think you guys will do it better. What do I need to write? What do I need to prepare for? What questions will they ask me?\n\n- How long will an interview go?\n\n- What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nThank you SO much in advance! Love you Reddit <3\n\n\n", "14, looking for a job (most likely at local movie theater). Need advice. Grade 9 here, looking for some extra $$$. I already do great at school and sometimes am bored at home so I think that I have some extra time to do some work. I don't know that much about applying for my first job and I find you guys the most helpful and true-to-heart. \n\nSome things about me (not that that matters that much)\n\n- Male\n\n- High grades.\n\n- Loves business & tech.\n\n- I live close to a popular & big plaza where i'm looking to work at.\n\n- I don't have any type of social anxiety, but I do stutter when talking too fast. When given the choice, i'd go for the job that requires no talking with the customers every time; but if it makes a big difference I don't really care.\n\n- Lives in Canada where minimum wage is $14.10 canuck bucks, so pay is not an issue (not that it should be!) Minimum wage is a lot for a person who doesn't have to pay for anything on a regular basis and saves their money.\n\nBased on some other threads posted here, I've found that: \n\n- Movie theater and working at a restaurant are great choices (and I really like the idea of that!)\n\n- apply for the job in person, walk in to the store in the morning with the attitude that you ARE getting the job, start with a handshake and a conversation (apparently this works really well)\n\n- Don't stress it, and just go in and do it (which is what i'm doing right now, but, like, whatever; you guys make me feel a lot better)\n\nSome questions I have:\n\n- What should I wear? Business casual? Jeans and a collared shirt? My swimsuit?\n\n- I know this sounds dumb, but please bear with me. ELI5 a high schooler job application. I know, this is something to ask my parents, and I will eventually. But I think you guys will do it better. What do I need to write? What do I need to prepare for? What questions will they ask me?\n\n- How long will an interview go?\n\n- What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nThank you SO much in advance! Love you Reddit <3\n\n\n" ]	[ "> What should I wear?\n\nDo some recon on the job you want, and see what the people around there are wearing. Then dress ever-so-slightly better than them. You want to look good, but you don't want to show off.\n\n> How long will an interview go?\n\nFor an entry level job at a theater or restaurant, I don't imagine it will be more than an hour. But keep your schedule open -- if it starts to run long, you don't want to have to step out because your ride is waiting. Note: longer interviews mean you're doing well. If you're in and out in 15 minutes, you probably aren't getting the job.\n\n> What will the hours and days be like when i'm on the job?\n\nDepends on the job. This sounds like a good thing to ask during the interview. Interviewers always like talking about their company. Try to phrase it like \"what kind of things make it fun to work here\" rather than \"how much of this do I have to put up with before I can go home\". Use your own words, of course. You get the gist.", "The fact that you want a job and are taking it seriously puts you ahead of most other teens out there. Good luck!", "My first job was box office at a theater. I'm in the US tho but I don't see how it could be different (other than...maybe age requirements to have a job).\n\n\n\n\\- I wore a polo and slacks, closed toe shoes and walked right in when the movie theater first opened. Make sure to look presentable. I had a \"resume\" in hand which was really just my experience in school.\n\n\\- The manager saw me and I told him \"Hello. I was wondering if you were hiring for any positions?\" he immediately brought me in his office. We discussed my schooling. I was hired on the spot. It literally took like no more than 20 minutes.\n\n\\- Most first time jobs is best you walk in with resume and look as if you will be hired immediately. I remember I also worked at a drug store. The manager had a pile of resumes she just disregarded because I just so happened to walk in. \n\n\n\nFirst time jobs, most managers know people won't have experience but what they look for is you being presentable and pleasant, go getting attitude, and can hold conversation (especially you will have to speak in the position you will hold). That's why most just wait for youngins to walk in bc all that is checked off by the time they actually see you and speak with you.", "Labour regulations are provincial so the laws vary across Canada. For instance, in Manitoba you require a youth employment certificate from the government if you are under 16. Search (your province) youth employment laws for info. ", "When they ask u if you have any questions, seriously, have a question. If you can't think of one, ask about the the company culture. \n\nAsking questions shows that it's not just about getting any old job, but that you're trying to pinpoint the job that's right for you, where you can excell. That will make them ever so much more inclined to think you'll excell for them\n\n\nWhich u would still have to do, I mean, hut great first impressions are a key." ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n", "Tips for a great Birthday-Party Hello lovely LPT-Community. My Birthday-Party will take place on the 8th June and I just moved to the apartment, which is on the 6th floor with a balcony. I really want to have a great Party to forget about the last few months and to say thank you for the support from my friends. \n\nthere are about 50 People coming and which Tips can you give me? I never had a real Birthday-Party before (I am 21) and I am probably missing a lot of basic points.\n\nSo here is my plan: \n5 crates full of 30 beers each, 2 crates of Coke and some other drinks and Wine, Bread with Dip and Chips. The dance floor will be the living room (Electro-Swing) and the balcony is for talking & smoking and I will put some beverage crates to sit there. I want to have some balloons and a chain of light as well. \n\nHow does that sound and what are some experiences you had that I can avoid or achieve? \n\n" ]	[ "Grüß dich!\n\nI don't know how much your friends drink. But I would always buy more beer than you think you need. The worst thing for a party is to go out of drinks. \n\nFor food, I would always make something like chilli. You can eat it with bread and you don't need too much of it. Or some kind of soup. Maybe even quiche (but thats a lot of work to serve for 50 people).\n\nFor the balcony maybe buy candles or even something like [this](http://www.amazon.com/Set-12-Bamboo-Tiki-Style-Torches/dp/B007IL3GZK/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1370284786&sr=8-6&keywords=outdoor+torch) (I assume your party will be at the evening/night). Maybe have some blankets ready, for people who get cold pretty fast.\n\nAlso buy a lot of non-alcoholic drinks (juices, water, coke, etc.) and maybe some liquor (Vodka, Jägermeister, etc.). Don't forget: Leftover drinks don't go bad quickly, so you may have a years supply left over… So what?\n\nAlso, not a native speaker. I'm not a party expert myself, just my thoughts on this. Hope this helps!", "Servus!\n\nThere are plenty of great answers around here, so I'll just add the best tip I know. The less you plan, the less can go wrong. A great party doesn't need more preparation than having (enough) alc, music, great people and maybe something to sit on for most of the people.\n\nAlso, if you party in your own flat, make sure to put everything unnecessary away. Framed pictures, vases, not-party-relevant decoration. Stuff like that is very likely to break accidentally.", "get some cards i find that when im at a party more people mingle with each other around a card drinking game ", "Careful with leaving the balcony door open as it is Summer (if you're in the northern hemisphere) and it can cause you to get a noise complaint from the neighbors.\n\nFor your base, make sure it isn't on the ground, so the neighbors below you don't get the thump from it as much. Put it on an elevated surface to help reduce that.", "It has been mentioned already, but I'll elaborate. Food and music.\n\nHaving tasty food (doesn't have to be expensive, just appetizers or finger foods) and thoughtful music (appealing to most everyone who shows up, sometimes tweaking it because groups come and go and the overall mood will change) is so important. \n\nPeople always say that alcohol is the most important thing... I say that yes, if you're in college, want to forget about what you're about to do/say in the next couple of hours, then yes, alcohol is the most important thing. Otherwise, if people are already enjoying themselves (because there is good food and fun music) then you will probably attract the kind of people who will make your party truly fun, enlightening, and memorable. It depends upon what your motives are for celebrating.\n\nIt sounds like gratuity is the theme for your party. See if there is a friend that loves to cook, to help you prepare some delicious finger foods to eat. If you're hesitant, ask around also to see what people would like to listen to (perhaps scrounge around on their facebook profiles). \n\nThe point of your night is to convey that you have thought a lot about thanking the people you have invited to your home. If that's the true case, think! Provide food and music they appreciate, to set the mood and relax and delight them. That's what a fun party is all about. If people decide they want to go and get alcohol, they will organize. Don't worry about that part as much. Shit man, you're going to have so much fun.", "Make sure you have a couple of bottle openers handy for the beer, plenty of ice (for the coolers, and clean ice for drinks), plenty of toilet paper and clean hand towels in the bathroom, get as much done as you can before the day of the party so you can relax. Also ask a friend to help refill chips etc. have a few rags handy for the inevitable spills and enjoy yourself. Happy Birthday!", "It is not likely that all 50 people drink, but lets say they all drink. I think think 150 beers is going satisfy that many people. I would either:\n\nGet nearly double that\n\nor\n\nSave some money, get less, and politely inform everyone there will be drinks available, but to bring your own.\n\nAlso, liquor gets people drunk fast. I would get some of that.\n\nAlso. 50 people getting drunk in an apartment almost smells like a disaster waiting to happen. I would, if I were you take the things you were going to place on the balcony, and place them up against the railing, not up against the building. Less space to be learning over the balcony's edge is less space for a life threatening disaster.\n\nI would also be wary of a noise complaint packing that many people into an apartment. If there is anything fun to do within walking distance, i would start the party there, then come back for the last few hours. Less time in apartment = less time for neighbors to get pissed\n\nAlso, nobody should drink and drive. I have been convicted of that once, and it changed my entire perspective on the matter. It simply should not happen. So, as my last party-pooping advice goes, do it like the mom's did in high school that let their kid have a party. Take everyone's keys. and don't give 'em back til the next day, or until you've been made aware that they have a sober driver arranged.\n\nTLDR: Change up your alcohol providing situation, dont piss off the neighbors, and dont let anyone die.\n\nSorry these weren't much help for making a party more fun, just wishing you a nice birthday with minimal issues.", "I like to hype up parties with my friends, getting them excited to come usually makes for a good turn out and a good atmosphere once the party has started.\n\nMake the plans as simple as possible so you can enjoy the party too! It's the worst to have to go to bed early on your party night because you're exhausted from hosting!", "Drinks wise - please consider such people like ones with diabetes (diet or sugar free soft drink). Food wise - gluten and other intolerances should be considered too, hopefully you know these people well enough to not need to ask but please do, nothing makes a party not enjoyable like having to only drink water (taken from experience) " ]	[ 12, 7, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to tell your super religious family that you're agnostic My family has been religious for many generations. My parents were slack in instilling those qualities, but now they want me to read the Bible and become one of them. I don't really have anything against God. He hasn't done any bad or good for me, so I really don't care if he exists or not. Any tips on getting them to bugger off would be appreciated.", "How to tell your super religious family that you're agnostic My family has been religious for many generations. My parents were slack in instilling those qualities, but now they want me to read the Bible and become one of them. I don't really have anything against God. He hasn't done any bad or good for me, so I really don't care if he exists or not. Any tips on getting them to bugger off would be appreciated.", "How to tell your super religious family that you're agnostic My family has been religious for many generations. My parents were slack in instilling those qualities, but now they want me to read the Bible and become one of them. I don't really have anything against God. He hasn't done any bad or good for me, so I really don't care if he exists or not. Any tips on getting them to bugger off would be appreciated.", "How to tell your super religious family that you're agnostic My family has been religious for many generations. My parents were slack in instilling those qualities, but now they want me to read the Bible and become one of them. I don't really have anything against God. He hasn't done any bad or good for me, so I really don't care if he exists or not. Any tips on getting them to bugger off would be appreciated.", "How to tell your super religious family that you're agnostic My family has been religious for many generations. My parents were slack in instilling those qualities, but now they want me to read the Bible and become one of them. I don't really have anything against God. He hasn't done any bad or good for me, so I really don't care if he exists or not. Any tips on getting them to bugger off would be appreciated." ]	[ "Tell them you're not ready to pursue god at this time because you still need time to grow and explore. Say, thank you for sharing with me, but I need to explore in my own time. If they are pushy, express gratitude and let them kindly but firmly know that it's not how you will personally become receptive.\n\nPlease don't reach for righteous, annoyed, ego based responses. It's not about right and wrong and it will cause unnecessary tension. You have a responsibility to keep family harmony, even if you feel someone is being unjust. It takes practice, but if you try, you will know what it means to be gentle and firm.\n", "Stay nice, they are your parents. Avoid as good as possible , grow up and get your own Appartement. You cannot change them.", "It's a sticky situation. On one hand \"coming out,\" to them may make the situation worse because they now have to \"save,\" you. On the other, saying nothing will certainly not make anything better.\n\nPersonally I just did the ripping bandaid approach with my dad (devote Catholic), and told him I was atheist. We discussed it for a while, and he hounded me on it a bit, but eventually he gave it up.\n\nIf your parents are more slack you may be able to approach the topic more gently. What you actually described here may actually be fine to tell them exactly, although you may want to use the term \"non-religious,\" (in my experience, it works better... at least in Texas it does). Just explain how it's not something you personally believe or follow, but you respect their opinions. Hopefully they will respect yours. ", "i told my parents that because they want to believe in fairy tales that they lose all credibility and it demonstrates that they are intellectually bankrupt and because it i will not waste my time communicating with them about anything of importance ", "How about \"I'm agnostic now. How would you feel about a Jewish person trying to convert you to their beliefs? Would it ever work? No, you'd have to agree to be respectful friends who don't try to convert each other. I'd like the same treatment.\"" ]	[ 3, 2, 1, -2, -2 ]	safe
[ "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n", "How to speak understandably I'm so frustrated by my inability to speak like the rest of the population. I always speak too fast, without opening my mouth enough and it's hard for people to understand me. Everytime I'm talking to someone and he doesn't understand, my ego decreases deep below zero. I often feel like I have something valuable to add to a conversation, but I'm afraid that I will say a mess again and nobody would understand me, so I just stay quiet.\n\nYou can't even imagine how jealous I am when I see someone just say what is on his mind without any trouble. And everytime I manage to say a sentence correctly, I feel huge accomplishment.\n\nSorry for the rant, but I feel desperate. Please help me with this, for most people simple, problem.\n\n" ]	[ "Practise. Record or use the mirror. Speak to yourself.\n\nBreathe deeper, take deliberate pauses, diaphragmatic breathing calms you, reduces (or disables release of) adrenaline which is your quick \"flight it fight\" reaction. \n\nGo to toastmasters half a dozen times. Cannot recommend enough", "I have an older brother who was in speech and debate in high school and they made him practice arguing with marbles in his mouth. I know that's not the most convenient solution, but he won a lot, so I guess it works.", "You know how you talk on the phone when the person on the other line can't hear you, or there's a bad connection? I've been told that ideally, that's how you should always talk. Just don't yell at people, but kind of over-annunciate syllables if you're not around someone who is used to your mumbling (my family is used to mine now). If you're a mumbler like me, you probably think your voice projects a lot more than it does. I notice people have the most trouble hearing me in slightly louder environments, like deli counters where there is a lot of buzzing equipment around behind them and stuff. Here is where you really need to project your voice. It will feel like you're yelling, but to everyone else you just sound clearer.", "Open a random book at a random page and then say audibly what you read. Along this, try to talk slowly. Practice everyday. After, try to be in front of your familly/friends and ask them if you improved your enunciation.", "I had a similar problem. Now that I have years of retail and teaching behind me - lots of explaining, all the time - it's not as bad, although sometimes if I'm very excited (or agitated, or nervous...) it's still an issue. The thing that helped me the most (other than a series of jobs where I had constant practice) was when I realized that my perception of how quickly I'm speaking is totally incorrect. I would be speaking sooooooo slooooowly, thinking I was way overdoing it and that I must sound ridiculous, and people would still be like \"wha-ha-haaaaat, slow down.\"\n\nSo basically: \n\n1.) Practice with a recorder a couple of times, so you can hear how fast you're speaking. Do one recording speaking normally and one trying to speak slowly. If you can trick yourself (like, put it on while you're having a conversation on the phone so you can kind of forget that you're recording) into not altering your voice just because you're recording it, even better. \n2.) Enlist some friends (preferably kind and understanding people who are not assholes, but NOT your family or SO, as they're probably used to it by now and their perception may be just as skewed as yours) to help you by telling you when you're speaking too quickly. \n3.) Practice public speaking whenever you have the opportunity. \n4.) Remember that you probably are literally incapable of speaking too slowly. Even if you feel like you sound like a slowed-down recording of Cleveland from Family Guy, you don't. \n\n", "http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/3c7gh8/lpt_improve_your_annunciation_by_taking_a_pen_and/", "Like others have said - start practicing to speak slowly and clearly when you're alone. When you get better at it, try to talk like that around other people as well. In the end, it's just a habit, which, like any other habit, can be broken.", "How about along with the exercise that the the rest are suggesting, you can on your computer by recording your voice and slowing it down, you'll have some small fun along the way I guess", "But also, fuck any friends who don't respect you. Don't settle for less, you should have friends who love you and don't judge you. If you feel comfortable around people your speech will probably slow down naturally, and you'll have more opportunities to practice for times when you're just out in public. I personally feel like I'm always a bit off, like I say things and they're just not perceived in the same way as when others speak, but I think it's self confidence that I lack. ", "Slow is smooth, smooth is fast. Speak clearly the first time and you won't have to worry about repeating yourself. " ]	[ 14, 9, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?", "How to politely say no to a pushy salesman. I'm a very nice person, almost too nice at times. About once a month I get someone knocking at my door trying to sell windows, or steam cleaners, or fences, or meat, etc. I feel bad slamming the door in someone's face knowing they are just trying to make ends meet. It always turns into a long awkward conversation of me acting like I'm listening and trying to say no thanks, then getting 20 more minutes of sales pitch on my front porch. I feel like they see that I'm nice and keep pushing harder. How do you end these conversations before they even start?" ]	[ "Think of it like this: By not wasting their time on you, a person who is most definitely going to say no, they have a higher chance of making their quota. Therefore, you should make it your goal to end that conversation ASAP. ", "You just have to say \"I'm sorry but I'm just not interested. Have a good day.\" \n\nIt's a little hard to get out, but it's polite, to the point and it leaves no recourse for the salesman. Your natural instinct is to try not to disappoint people, but you have to understand that this is not everyday interaction. This is not a person who is trying to have a conversation with you, this is a person trying to tell you about some kind of offer and get money from you. In this situation, if you are not interested in the product or service, the conversation MUST end with you saying no. The sooner you get this said, the better. They are not your friend, they are not your family. You are under no obligation to justify yourself to them or explain your situation. When you understand that you don't owe them anything, it becomes easier to speak up.\n\nThe pushiest of the pushiest may try to grill more answers out of you by asking \"Why are you not interested? (in such a great deal?)\" If they do ask this, they are the kind of salesman for who will continue to try to sell as long as your door is open. If that is the case, the only option is simply to shut the door. There is nothing you can say even in the vicinity of polite that will end the conversation, so just understand that you've done your best and quietly shut the door (or hang up the phone)", "Well in the case of a call offer you can ask them to take you off their call list and can avoid future offers.", "The basic answer, as others have said, it to simply say \"no thank you\" after the person says why they are at your door. If you want to soften it some, and perhaps make it more convincing, you can say something like \"No thank you. Times are tough right now [as you know], and we are not making any [extra][major][unplanned] purchases.\"\n\n\"Time are tough\" is a nice generic phrase that doesn't mean anything specific and is difficult to disagree with. If you throw in the \"as you know\" you'll probably get the salesperson agreeing with you (a sales tactic they'll probably try on you, if you let them get into their pitch (don't) so it's nice when you can beat them to it). When you say \"we\", that implies that you might not even be decision maker, or at least the only one. An indication that giving the sales pitch might be time wasted. Then saying \"not making unplanned (or extra, or major or all three) purchases\" confirms that you've already decided not to buy, and possibly that you can't scrape the money out of your tough-times budget even if you could be convinced to buy.\n\nPersonally, I try not to be rude, so I don't just bark a \"Not interested!\" while shutting the door in the person's face. But I definitely cut them off if they don't pause after telling me who they are and why they are at my door. I don't recall anyone doing that in person, though. Normally when face to face, they try to engage you in conversation (even if trying to make it hard to say no). The real pro tip here, in my opinion, is that you don't have to answer whatever question they ask. Normally, they lead with something very minor and innocuous, so it is hard to say \"no\". It doesn't matter what they ask, just politely offer your \"Times are tough, as you know, and we're not making any unplanned purchases now.\" Or however you want to tweak it for you situation.\n\nUsually it's the phone calls that try to get into the pitch without leaving any chance for me to respond. And once they've denied me the courtesy of getting a word in, it is no longer incumbent on me to politely listen. I still maintain polite tone when I say \"no thanks, bye\", even if I have to talk over them.\n\nBonus: \n\nSome alternatives: \"I'm sorry, now is not a good time.\" The ambiguity (you didn't say if it's not a good time to talk, or not a good time to buy anything) is generally to your advantage.\n\n Or \"I really don't have time to talk right now.\" If they ask when they can come back, you can offer a date/time when you won't be home, but most likely they are not coming back. So it doesn't really matter when you say.", "Once you have heard enough about the product to know you don't need it, then be direct and say \" I have no use for this and will never buy it\" Be clear, direct and as kind as you want to be.", "I will let them tell them what they're selling, if they get to the point, but that's about it. \"Sorry, not interested\". If they insist on continuing it's \"Nope. Sorry\" as I close the door. \n\nThe ones that annoy me are the people who try to chat you up before telling you why they're really there. You're not fooling anyone and just wasting everybody's time.", "I just say \"Not interested, thank you\". And close door/hang up phone. I actually once did this to the mayor of our town who was going door to door for some reason that I don't know because I shut the door in his face.", "I have no problem with being rude to pushy salesmen. Doesn't matter who they are. Being pushy is rude in itself and deserves rudeness in return. If I am it interested I tell them bluntly. If they continue I ask them what they didn't understand in the first place. Pushy rude tactics that are returned with pushy rudeness will result in them quitting their jobs or changing their tactics if enough people do it. ", "Does your door have a peephole? If so, look through that and if it's a salesman just don't open it.\n\nIf no peephole, do you have a window that you can look through and see who's on your porch? If so, look through the blinds and if it's a salesman just don't open it.\n\nIf you don't have that, then don't open the door unless you know who they are because it's a safety hazard.\n\nIf you insist on opening doors to random people, and they turn out to be a salesman, then just say \"not interested, sorry\" and close the door. You think you are being nice by listening to them, but really you're just wasting their time by not being straight forward. Would you rather someone tell you they're not interested within 30 seconds and let you move on your way, or have them let you talk for 20 minutes just to say how they felt the entire time when you could have been at 3 more houses already?" ]	[ 12, 6, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "When someone tells you they broke up with their partner, don't ask why. If they feel like sharing, they will. If not, they really don't want to talk about it, and by not being nosy, you show you are a true friend! ", "When someone tells you they broke up with their partner, don't ask why. If they feel like sharing, they will. If not, they really don't want to talk about it, and by not being nosy, you show you are a true friend! " ]	[ "Went through a break up in March and shut everyone out. Haven’t seen anyone aside from my brother since because I know it’s going to be the same shit with everyone. “What happened? What a bitch, You’ll find someone else” etc. \n\nAs i got older I started becoming more open with my feelings, after this I’m a concrete wall again", "Same goes for talking to an old friend and if they dont bring up their job or partner, dont pester about it. They might not want to think or talk about it." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "My cat keeps “losing” his collar Okay I don’t know what to do at this point but this is the 4th time that I come home from work and he doesn’t have his collar.. he is an outside cat but I just don’t see how this can happen 4 times in the Span of 2 weeks… does anyone have any advice as to what to do or what could be happening???", "My cat keeps “losing” his collar Okay I don’t know what to do at this point but this is the 4th time that I come home from work and he doesn’t have his collar.. he is an outside cat but I just don’t see how this can happen 4 times in the Span of 2 weeks… does anyone have any advice as to what to do or what could be happening???", "My cat keeps “losing” his collar Okay I don’t know what to do at this point but this is the 4th time that I come home from work and he doesn’t have his collar.. he is an outside cat but I just don’t see how this can happen 4 times in the Span of 2 weeks… does anyone have any advice as to what to do or what could be happening???" ]	[ "Somebody in the neighbor may be worried about him getting hung up in a tree or something by his collar. So they take the collar off to protect him.", "😬 you shouldn’t ever collar an outdoor cat, besides for the reasoning that cats can usually get collars off and you’ll lose it, if you do get one that stays on it could get caught on something and choke your cat! Cats have loose skin around there neck that makes it hard to grab them there and as a result collars usually slide off with little effort", "My cat kept losing his collar and I finally gave up putting one on him. I would get a nice little tag with his name and our info on it and he would lose that along with the collar.\n\nI assumed he was getting them caught on fences or something, since they were breakaway collars. Luckily, everyone around me seems to know who he is, and he's well fed, so no one assumes he's a stray. He's chipped and never strays too far or for very long, so I don't worry too much about him not having a collar. Some cats just won't keep them on." ]	[ 5, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to stop thinking about toxic friends. I'm a guy who wants to be friends with most people not all and sometimes there are some that get under my skin which are assholes like my past roommate last year. He has bad morals (strangled my roommates pet hamster, thinks in an old fashioned way), manipulative (guilt trips, try to keep someones PS4 for himself), lazy (watches TV all day, DOES NOTHING PRODUCTIVE) and is such a negative drag (always negative, unfunny prick) and hangs with my good friends (who are so helpful and warming). \n\nThank God he is leaving next year but his manipulate and passive aggressive behaviours stick to my mind. \n\nLPT Request: How to stop thinking about toxic friends.\n\nI want to stop thinking about him as he is somebody I really hate and I'm not a hate person. I guess we're so polar opposites that I keep thinking about this jerk. Maybe it's a psychological thing?\n\nIt was awesome when I moved to a single room and had a awesome year. New friends, new circles, couldn't be happier.\n\n\nAt the end of the semester, I had classmates from my country and really liked them. Then I realise I should rekindle my friendship to my friends from my country and realise my flipping asshole roommate is in their clique. This passive aggressive jerk bully vampire energy sucker is their everytime i try to talk with my local dudes, i just see him passive agressiveness and negative vibes.\n\n\nso please ~~MTV~~ r/LifeProTips, ~~pimp my ride~~ how do I stop thinking about this monster of a being? Thanks! \n\nThanks guys!!\n\n", "How to stop thinking about toxic friends. I'm a guy who wants to be friends with most people not all and sometimes there are some that get under my skin which are assholes like my past roommate last year. He has bad morals (strangled my roommates pet hamster, thinks in an old fashioned way), manipulative (guilt trips, try to keep someones PS4 for himself), lazy (watches TV all day, DOES NOTHING PRODUCTIVE) and is such a negative drag (always negative, unfunny prick) and hangs with my good friends (who are so helpful and warming). \n\nThank God he is leaving next year but his manipulate and passive aggressive behaviours stick to my mind. \n\nLPT Request: How to stop thinking about toxic friends.\n\nI want to stop thinking about him as he is somebody I really hate and I'm not a hate person. I guess we're so polar opposites that I keep thinking about this jerk. Maybe it's a psychological thing?\n\nIt was awesome when I moved to a single room and had a awesome year. New friends, new circles, couldn't be happier.\n\n\nAt the end of the semester, I had classmates from my country and really liked them. Then I realise I should rekindle my friendship to my friends from my country and realise my flipping asshole roommate is in their clique. This passive aggressive jerk bully vampire energy sucker is their everytime i try to talk with my local dudes, i just see him passive agressiveness and negative vibes.\n\n\nso please ~~MTV~~ r/LifeProTips, ~~pimp my ride~~ how do I stop thinking about this monster of a being? Thanks! \n\nThanks guys!!\n\n", "How to stop thinking about toxic friends. I'm a guy who wants to be friends with most people not all and sometimes there are some that get under my skin which are assholes like my past roommate last year. He has bad morals (strangled my roommates pet hamster, thinks in an old fashioned way), manipulative (guilt trips, try to keep someones PS4 for himself), lazy (watches TV all day, DOES NOTHING PRODUCTIVE) and is such a negative drag (always negative, unfunny prick) and hangs with my good friends (who are so helpful and warming). \n\nThank God he is leaving next year but his manipulate and passive aggressive behaviours stick to my mind. \n\nLPT Request: How to stop thinking about toxic friends.\n\nI want to stop thinking about him as he is somebody I really hate and I'm not a hate person. I guess we're so polar opposites that I keep thinking about this jerk. Maybe it's a psychological thing?\n\nIt was awesome when I moved to a single room and had a awesome year. New friends, new circles, couldn't be happier.\n\n\nAt the end of the semester, I had classmates from my country and really liked them. Then I realise I should rekindle my friendship to my friends from my country and realise my flipping asshole roommate is in their clique. This passive aggressive jerk bully vampire energy sucker is their everytime i try to talk with my local dudes, i just see him passive agressiveness and negative vibes.\n\n\nso please ~~MTV~~ r/LifeProTips, ~~pimp my ride~~ how do I stop thinking about this monster of a being? Thanks! \n\nThanks guys!!\n\n" ]	[ "Write down why you hate him in a piece of paper or in a word document. Trust me, it will drive away your anger and your hate toward him and eventually you'll forget about him. ", "Just tell him how you feel about him to his face...If you cant manage that then plan b: dip his toothbrush in toilet water, spit in his drinks, sprinkle pepper in his boxers..well you see where i am going with this..", "Dude I feel you on that one. (Not the Hamster though, that's fucked up) Anyways, I convinced my parents; who were head strong against it. To let who I thought was my best friend at the time... to move in with us so he didn't have to leave the state again after his mom kicked him out (Which he claims is all her fault). Well now he has been showing a whole other side of him I did not know before; Bumming like hell Drinking, and hiding alcohol that isn't his so he drink it later, literally eating more then anyone and not chipping in for groceries, not doing anything productive around the house, lying about not having money and not looking for a job like hes supposed to. I have confronted him more then once as a friend that he needed to grow up or move out because I did not vouch for him as a friend for him to be taken advantage of my family hospitality. It has not seemed to work and my family are too naive to want to kick him out just yet so now I have to live with this mistake for as long as he lives there or until I get my own place and it makes me angry sick everytime I think about it. " ]	[ 3, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to reduce odor of cigarette smoke? My dad smokes in the house, specifically in the washroom. The smell often spreads to the entire floor. I've heard of air filters but I'm not sure if they really work. Some claim it works against cigarette smoke while some say it doesn't. Also, I don't have that much money so preferably something within $100 or less is optimal.\n\nI'm not too worried about myself because I live in the basement, but the rest of the family lives upstairs and I also have a cat.\n\nAnd no, telling me to stop does not work. Telling him how it effects others does not work. Telling him to use a fan to blow the smoke out the window does not work. Telling him to exhale into a wet cloth does not work. Anything that requires effort from him does not work.", "How to reduce odor of cigarette smoke? My dad smokes in the house, specifically in the washroom. The smell often spreads to the entire floor. I've heard of air filters but I'm not sure if they really work. Some claim it works against cigarette smoke while some say it doesn't. Also, I don't have that much money so preferably something within $100 or less is optimal.\n\nI'm not too worried about myself because I live in the basement, but the rest of the family lives upstairs and I also have a cat.\n\nAnd no, telling me to stop does not work. Telling him how it effects others does not work. Telling him to use a fan to blow the smoke out the window does not work. Telling him to exhale into a wet cloth does not work. Anything that requires effort from him does not work.", "How to reduce odor of cigarette smoke? My dad smokes in the house, specifically in the washroom. The smell often spreads to the entire floor. I've heard of air filters but I'm not sure if they really work. Some claim it works against cigarette smoke while some say it doesn't. Also, I don't have that much money so preferably something within $100 or less is optimal.\n\nI'm not too worried about myself because I live in the basement, but the rest of the family lives upstairs and I also have a cat.\n\nAnd no, telling me to stop does not work. Telling him how it effects others does not work. Telling him to use a fan to blow the smoke out the window does not work. Telling him to exhale into a wet cloth does not work. Anything that requires effort from him does not work.", "How to reduce odor of cigarette smoke? My dad smokes in the house, specifically in the washroom. The smell often spreads to the entire floor. I've heard of air filters but I'm not sure if they really work. Some claim it works against cigarette smoke while some say it doesn't. Also, I don't have that much money so preferably something within $100 or less is optimal.\n\nI'm not too worried about myself because I live in the basement, but the rest of the family lives upstairs and I also have a cat.\n\nAnd no, telling me to stop does not work. Telling him how it effects others does not work. Telling him to use a fan to blow the smoke out the window does not work. Telling him to exhale into a wet cloth does not work. Anything that requires effort from him does not work." ]	[ "$100 won’t cover it, but an air purifier DOES help, but it has to have the right kind of filter. You’ll need a purifier with BOTH a true HEPA filter AND an activated carbon filter. \nThey aren’t cheap, but they do work. ", "LPT #1: START SMOKING YOURSELF. You'll thank me in 5 years.\n\nLPT #2: A smoker's candle every week is a great help.", "I have a bunch of the Blueair air filters (with carbon filters) that I got when the California wildfires were bad in northern CA a few months ago and they made all the difference in the world (and it was a lot worse than cigarette smoke). I would get one of the more expensive ones if you can afford it, but I have a 411 in my son’s room and it’s pretty great: https://www.blueair.com/us/blueair-families/blue", "Start working and move out your parents basement. You can’t really complain about how stuff is done in someone else’s house. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to break up granulated cane sugar? I just went to refill my sugar jar, but the sugar has turned into a hard block in the bag. I can’t break it apart with my hands and don’t want to slam it on the floor as we have downstairs neighbours. I can’t even get it out of the bag without chopping it up. Any ideas? Thank you x", "How to break up granulated cane sugar? I just went to refill my sugar jar, but the sugar has turned into a hard block in the bag. I can’t break it apart with my hands and don’t want to slam it on the floor as we have downstairs neighbours. I can’t even get it out of the bag without chopping it up. Any ideas? Thank you x", "How to break up granulated cane sugar? I just went to refill my sugar jar, but the sugar has turned into a hard block in the bag. I can’t break it apart with my hands and don’t want to slam it on the floor as we have downstairs neighbours. I can’t even get it out of the bag without chopping it up. Any ideas? Thank you x", "How to break up granulated cane sugar? I just went to refill my sugar jar, but the sugar has turned into a hard block in the bag. I can’t break it apart with my hands and don’t want to slam it on the floor as we have downstairs neighbours. I can’t even get it out of the bag without chopping it up. Any ideas? Thank you x" ]	[ "Put it in a container or a plastic bag and put a slice or 2 of bread in there with it. Should be good in a day or 2.", "1) Place the sugar into a heavy-duty plastic food storage bag. Seal the bag.\n\n2) Use the flat side of a meat tenderizing hammer or a rolling pin and pound the bag until the pieces are broken into chunks.\n\n3) Place the chunks of sugar into the bowl of a food processor. Turn the food processor to pulse for a few seconds at a time until the sugar is unclumped and appears back to its original condition.\n\n4) Pour the sugar into an airtight container. Keep sealed until ready to use.", "My mum always kept a piece of bread in with our brown sugar, the sugar takes the moisture from the bread! Clumps-be-gone!", "I know microwaving brown sugar can soften it--try it with white, too! Let me know how it goes! Just start with 30 seconds and add more time if needed." ]	[ 11, 4, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?", "How to become more patient? I am a very impatient person (waiting for someone to return phone call, to return email, helping people learn new things). How do I try and become more relaxed and more patient with people?" ]	[ "Set yourself an escalation of contact, a pattern in which to hold yourself to when it comes to responses from people.\n\nSay you need to send an e-mail to somebody like a friend or family member, and you need them to send it back. If it's not imperative, give until that night, or the next morning, depending how late in the day you sent it. If they don't respond, just shoot them a text asking if they've gotten a chance to read it, ask them to respond that night. By that third morning they still haven't, try calling them once in the morning, and once at night if necessary. Leave a voicemail or text that morning as well. An e-mail doesn't take long to respond to, and if they can't get a form, or access to a printer or scanner right away, they ought to let you know.\n\nWhen it comes to teaching people, I can be the same way, because you're used to doing the task. What I do if it it's something that can be practiced while taught, is teach a few steps and tell them to try it. I walk out, to go grab a snack, drink, text, get myself distracted so I'm not standing over their shoulder (some people, like my fiancee, really don't like that anyway). If they need your help or finish, just tell them to call out/find you. This way, by keeping yourself busy you're allowing them ample time to work on it.\n\nIf you're in service and need to get put on hold, or they need to run to the back of the shop, start singing to yourself, or just distract yourself with a toy or your phone. Time goes slower when you're thinking about it, so just cruise reddit for a few minutes.\n\nWhen you really feel yourself getting frustrated about it though, just take a moment and calm yourself. Then tell yourself you can be productive with this time some other way, or you can relax with it.", "Immerse yourself in a different culture which can be as simple as volunteering in various organizations within your area. I'm assuming you were raised in a western culture where time is valued as finite and results are priority. Other cultures view time as cyclical and relationships as the priority.", "I always try to think about what I have to look forward to (watching a film, hanging out with friends etc) which gives me a reason to see whatever I'm doing through. That's what works for me.", "When something starts to irritate you, pause for a moment. Ask yourself if it's worth getting stressed over? Is it as big a deal as you're starting to make it out to be? Is the situation easily resolved? ", "Learn to accept, and not expect..especially from other people\n\nThis way, you become more tolerant. When you become more tolerant, there is very little that can irritate you\n\nNext, learn not to be quick to decisions, and/or to develop opinions, because everyone fights their battles on the inside, and there is ease with being patient once you imagine things from their point of view.\n\nFor example: Someone steps on my suede shoe, first thing in the morning while I buy the paper and grab some coffee from the vendor across the street from the office building. \n\nOutcome 1: Intolerant, impatient me loses his cool and vividly scolds the poor gentleman, going as far as to shove him back and angrily cross the street, morning, and possible whole day ruined.\n\nOutcome 2: Tolerant, patient me, realizes that its just a shoe, I can clean up the mess in seconds, the guy who stepped on my shoe won't feel as bad knowing I forgive him and have brushed off the incident, and I walk into my office realizing that there's much more that could have gone wrong, I could've been run over whilst crossing the street, but all I got was a slightly dirtied shoe. Day brightened, because I value everything just that little more, thinking \"I could've had it worse!\"\n\nEveryone has reasons for the things they do, known to you or not, so its better to try and be patient, than to lose patience when things don't go the way you like", "Focus on your breathing. Count to 16 over a single breath; count 1-4 as you breathe in, hold the breath for 5-8, breathe out for 9-12, then count 13-16 and start over. This brings your pulse down quite rapidly and makes you calmer. ", "At your job place: make sure you gather/send all the infos/docs your coworker needs and try to make it obvious in your mail/writings that you did your part long before time.\n\nIf there is a third party waiting for something you have to return to them after your coworker finaly did his part, then you can't be accused of wrong doings or lateness in your work.\n\nThat will ease your mind and you will focus on a lesser urging matter at hand.\n\nYou are impatient because you value the things you do as important and that is a good sign, but you can't expect others, especially at work, to be as prompt or available as you are. \n\nSo you simply make sure your case is ready if someone accuses the team. Because being in a team is a problem for you, isn't it ? Aren't you a perfectionist ?\n\nIf not, then you probably have too much time on your hands to think about stuff you can't do shit about.\n\nIf you are, then I suggest you take it a bit more easy and accept that you might sometimes leave a bit later the office today or cut on your break because of your job.\n\nTry to make sure your superior knows about your hard work !\n\ntl;dr : impatient at work is often caused by : a) having too much time on your hands ; b) being a perfectionist ; c) lacking confidence somewhat ; d) being inexperienced in time management ; e) having too little knowledge of your co workers' schedule.\nNo magic potion, work on each point and see if it fits!" ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. ", "How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends. So my now ex girlfriend and I broke up a bit ago and we still love eachother and still want to stay close. She's my bestfriend and I'm hers. But things aren't right for us currently. We both need help moving on. " ]	[ "Take time off. Like a long time then you can regain bestfriend-hood. You'll have to be acquaintances for a while I think.\n\nI'm about to undergo exactly what your talking about and I think the solution I have above is the best one.", "Unfortunately the best way to move on is to find other 'best friends'. You are signing up for some hurt if you love each other and are trying to 'move on' in front of each other!", "Being friends with an ex-SO is nearly impossible. No matter how close you were in the relationship as friends, it won't ever be the same. Just take time off as someone said above.", "actually don't stay close. you can't move on if you are still talking to each other. move on with your life. date or have sex with other women. party with your boys. ", "You seem to be doing what you need to. Keep doing what you're doing, and while you are doing that, it will give you time to evaluate if the love is still there and how you feel.\n\nGive yourselves a break of doing nothing but stuff for your own life and well-being (and if you're helping other people too, that's great). During this time, both of you will figure out how and where you should be in each other's lives, and can decide if it is something that can work out of not.", "Take time off and don't talk to her for quite awhile. I didn't talk to my ex for about a year and a half and now were pretty good friends again.", "Sorry to tell you, but its not healthy for your friendship to remain in contact after you've broken up. You 2 need distance (physically + emotionally). The deeper the relationship the further you have make the distance. If you're in the same church group, one of you guys should distance from the same group.\n\nIts gonna be hard at first, but if you want a chance to become friends again its gonna be the cleanest way. And this method only works if you both agree and the feelings are mutual.\n\nIf the reason that you guys broke up is because of \"bad timing\" or \"not ready for marriage\" or something thats not PERMANENT/DEFINITE, then is it more of a \"BREAK (temporary)\" as opposed to a \"BREAKUP (permanent)\".\n\nIf you love eachother, you would do the best thing for the other person --- even if you don't like it for yourself.\n\nI went thru something similar a few years back, I miss him dearly but I think the space/distance was good for both of us. And deep down we both still care about each other but we don't need to say it.", "> LPT Request: How to move on after a long relationship but still remain friends.\n\n----\n> Is there any hope for you and your SO to work out? I believe there is for me and her\n\nBased on that and your post history:\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/4i8bgf/redditors_who_married_their_first/d2waub2\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/4fjztf/single_redditors_why_do_you_think_you_are_single/d29s5ry\n\n\nThose two things are conflicting. You need to not try to be friends with her for a minimum of one month for every year you were together. If you were together for 10 years you need to go no contact for 10 months.\n\nAfter 10 months then maybe you guys can try to be friends - but it's unlikely. It's very clear from your replies that you have no intentions of 'getting over her'.\n\nAccording to your post you guys separated ~ 7 weeks ago?" ]	[ 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?", "How to carry my D-lock on my bike. Campus security told me to get a [D-lock](http://images.evanscycles.com/product_image/image/493/5d7/00b/26662/kryptonite-kryptonite-kryptolok-series-2-d-lock.jpg) because my bike lock wasn't secure enough, so I did, and I hate it. It's bulky, difficult to use, key not code (one extra thing to carry,) and I can't find a way to hang it on my bike while riding without it swinging around and bumping everything. It's too scratched to return now, so I wonder if you can help me with the last one. I can't hook it through the main frame, it hits my legs while I'm pedalling; I can't put it on the handlebars, it could fall off too easily and provide annoying weight to deal with while it's swinging. I don't think I can put it under the saddle either, or it would fall onto the back wheel.\n\nAny ideas?" ]	[ "They make mounts you screw around the bike frame that you can slide it into - that's what I've always done. I think the extra cost is definitely worth it.", "If I'm not wearing a backpack to stash it in, I'll sometimes open it then lock it around my neck.\n\nWhich is why I usually wear a small backpack!", "The best thing I've found is to get a cable to go with the D lock so that you can wear it like a messenger bag. This way you also have more flexibility locking up your bike just in case the only thing to lock to is a tree or street light.", "My favorite method is to put one of the straight parts of U through two or more of my rear belt loops and then proceed to lock the lock. This works well if your pants or shorts are relatively fitted and it also helps to wear a belt.\n\nMy other go-to method is to wear the Chrome Industries Cardiel Shank Hip Pack which has a built-in slot for a U-Lock. http://www.chromeindustries.com/us/en/cardiel-shank", "Levi's 511 Commuter pants have a long belt loop-like thing on the back you can put your lock on so it just sits on your belt as you ride. Or just use an actual belt loop.\n\n[Levi's 511 Commuter](http://www.levi.com/US/en_US/category/men/collections/levi-collections-commuter)", "I usually just put it in my backpack away from my laptop and other things that might get scratched or damaged by the lock.", "I used cable clamps to hold it to the frame but they broke. \nNow I'm thinking of using hose clamps with the built in key(to tighten/loosen). Just unlock the lock, slide an edge of the curved part in, lock and tighten it. \n\nThat or use Ocky straps", "I got a mount that attaches to the frame under the seat and attach my lock to that.\n\nBefore I got the mount, I stuck it in the small of my back where a tramp stamp would go and where some people stash handguns (before shooting themselves in the arse). Tuck it in my pants and off I go." ]	[ 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get a pen working again when it stops writing suddenly. This is going to sound stupid, but bear with me. Sometimes, when I am using a ball point pen, the thing stops working. I check, and there is usually at least half of the ink remaining. I will start writing something down, and then halfway through, it acts as if it's out of ink. I scribble down on the corner of a notebook, or a Post-It note, and after a second or two, it starts drawing again. I then try to write the letter I failed to finish, and the thing stops writing again. Sometimes this happens more than once, and I end up using a different pen. Then later, the non-working one is completely fine. I noticed that if the paper I'm writing on is on a soft surface, things tend to be a bit easier. I am not sure why this happens, but I'd like to know if there's a way to stop this from happening or how to fix it quickly. It makes work super annoying.", "How to get a pen working again when it stops writing suddenly. This is going to sound stupid, but bear with me. Sometimes, when I am using a ball point pen, the thing stops working. I check, and there is usually at least half of the ink remaining. I will start writing something down, and then halfway through, it acts as if it's out of ink. I scribble down on the corner of a notebook, or a Post-It note, and after a second or two, it starts drawing again. I then try to write the letter I failed to finish, and the thing stops writing again. Sometimes this happens more than once, and I end up using a different pen. Then later, the non-working one is completely fine. I noticed that if the paper I'm writing on is on a soft surface, things tend to be a bit easier. I am not sure why this happens, but I'd like to know if there's a way to stop this from happening or how to fix it quickly. It makes work super annoying." ]	[ "Clean the tip with an alcohol wipe.\n\nIf it’s a metal ink barrel you can briefly heat the tip with a lighter.\n\nNever store a pen tip-down with the ball/tip uncovered.", "I may be wrong but I heard using the pen on some rubber, like the bottom of a gym shoe, can help get it working again. Can’t remember where I read this, but hope it might help. If I am mistaken then I apologize" ]	[ 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not...", "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not...", "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not...", "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not...", "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not...", "When you're talking to someone do you ever just start thinking about where to look and all of a sudden that's all you can concentrate on and you don't know whether to look them in the eyes so your eyes just dart around? Happens to me more often than not..." ]	[ "Sometimes, yes. I usually take that as a sign that I'm not paying enough attention to what the person is saying so I try to focus more on that. Usually works. ", "No, just look between their eyebrows. It looks to them like you're maintaining ye contact without the fear of actually looking at their eyes", "Related LPT: If you have trouble maintaining eye contact, just pick a spot below their eyebrows, above the tip of their nose, and between the outside corners of their eyes to look at. Don't stare, don't forget to blink. ", "I take visual tips from the famous people appearing on all those morning shows and apply them to RL. Its Where the Camera is focused on the person for 15 seconds before they cut to commercials. Its awkward cause they just sit there watching the camera watch them, eventually it gets to the point where they don't know if they are still being aired or if the commercials already started so their eyes start to race and dart, you can just hear their inner dialogue. I feel its similar to the situation you describe.", "dont over think it. just stare directly into their eyes. People with confidence have good eye contact. Girls are really good at noticing good eye contact. so just make good eye contact, chances are the other person will start looking around while you stare into their soul lol.", "I have given up and just stare off into the distance. I would rather someone think I am not paying attention to them and end the conversation than feel their eyes peirce my soul.\n\nIf they inquire what I am looking at I'll just explain I am awkward and don't like the eye contact." ]	[ 11, 9, 7, 5, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. ", "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. ", "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. ", "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. ", "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. ", "How to treat an extremely itchy sunburn Plz help I'm dying here.\n\ni've read peppermint oil helps , but there's not a lot of info on it. i'm using aloe vera cooling ggel (with soothing lidocaine) which slightly helps. " ]	[ "This will sound strange, but try generously dabbing vinegar on it. I had a sunburn once that blistered badly, I was in a lot of pain. Vinegar helped so much.", "Username is very relevant.\n\n", "Peppermint oil for the win. Just do it.\n\nAlso drink way more water than usual to moisturize from the inside and therefore heal faster.\n\nAlso, most aloe vera products are way less effective than the juice of the live plant. Just buy a plant and cut it up. \n\nAlso, the vinegar works if it's been less than 24 hours. Take a ten minute shower (no soap) first and use a spray bottle on patted dry skin. Use it a few times whenever it gets itchy again, and then the next day start using moisturizer like coconut oil.", "I do this for sports, so it may be more for pain, but it worked for a sunburn as well. Fill a bath with ice and cold water and put a generous helping of powdered ice tea. It sucks in the beginning but do that for 30-45 minutes.\n", "Emu oil if you can find it. It has enzymes that your cells need in order to heal mass amounts of fried skin, and it moisturizes. Whatever you don't use before your sunburn heals, you can use it on cracked knuckles, split heels, general dry skin, and I think it even helps bruises fade faster.", "Aloe doesn't work as well (for me) as just constantly applying lotion. Like 20 times. It will not itch and sunburn should ease into tan..." ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I'll be travelling long term for work (7+ weeks). What tips should I know before I leave. Heading from PA to Vallejo, CA and looking for.any tips. Specific categories I'm interested in include fitness, eating/meal prep, travel and packing tips, etc. I'll be flying home for at least one weekend during the trip.", "I'll be travelling long term for work (7+ weeks). What tips should I know before I leave. Heading from PA to Vallejo, CA and looking for.any tips. Specific categories I'm interested in include fitness, eating/meal prep, travel and packing tips, etc. I'll be flying home for at least one weekend during the trip." ]	[ "Sorry to stalk. I just posted in your other post about San Francisco. Figured I'd give advice on this one. I've been in DC for work for 2 weeks now and had to think abou the same thing.\nI packed really light - two small messenger bags, but my hotel has a do-it-yourself laundromat. I also went to a nearby wholefoods a lot.\nAlmost every day, I worked out to stay fit and keep my homesickness at bay. I also found other routines to do - went for walks, bought a ticket to a show one night, went to the movies. I've treated it as a work real hard and focus business trip/vacation.", "Bring your own body wash/face wash. The hotel provided soap is terrible. Also, never pack as many pants as you think you should. They are heavy/bulky and you wont use them all." ]	[ 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself...", "Recently I realized I tend to sweat a lot under my armpits. I try to keep myself clean and use two different kind of deodorant but it doesn't work, I wet my shirts and i feel uncomfortable. Do you have any suggestion to solve this annoying problem? I'm 23 M and since last few months I sweat uncontrollably under my armpits when I shave them or when I go out simply to do my tasks or go to college. I feel really uncomfortable because sometimes i wet my shirts and it's awful, I feel so embarrassed I want to disappear. For this situation I bought two different kind of deodorant, one for this problem and another one to give them a nice smell, they don't always work. What should I do now? Should i wear pads? take some specific drugs? I can't explain why now and why during autumn/winter, I thought everything was ended with the end of puberty itself..." ]	[ "I never really recommend brands, but no joke: Sure Maximum Protection Anti-perspirant.\n\nIt’s 2-3x the price of the cheap ones, but it works like a miracle. \n\nGot a sweaty husband, and twin teen boys, who don’t sweat through their shirts, or reek, as testament to its powers.", "You say it's the last few months that you've noticed so it could be one of two simple things... \n\nMaybe your body has become immune to your deodorant and found a way around it. It's weird but happens and just switching brands occasionally may help. \n\nThe other possibility, as weird as sounds, is maybe you're using just deodorant as opposed to antiperspirant? Or switched by mistake? Some brands will have very similar packaging except a little notation about being one or both. \n\nI know that may sound as stupid as asking if something is plugged in when addressing tech problems but like that scenario, it's the actual issue in a surprisingly non-zero number of cases...", "Quick question: is one or both deodorants also an antiperspirant? And have you tried purchasing one of the clinical strength antiperspirants on the market? You could also try applying antiperspirant in the evening and again in the morning. If none of that works, speaking to a doctor would be my next suggestion. Good luck!", "There may be a medical reason for sudden and unexplained sweating. Suggest you speak with your doctor to exclude secondary hyperhydrosis.", "Maybe it is nothing medical but has just to do with your clothing. I find that I tend to sweat under my armpits in the Winter as well because there are so many situations where you wear a warm winter jacket indoors (in shops, public transportation etc.) and therefore sweat a lot. I have found that some jackets aren’t as bad as others. I currently roll with a puffy down jacket which I try to take of most of the time I am in a warm place. Maybe try switching your jacket.", "[Certain Dri Solid Anti-Perspirant (4 Pack)](https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B004PELB96/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_2PK2PHMVD2JPD9KSM6ZW?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1)\n\nI tried them all, and this stuff _works_", "Talk to a dr about a prescription antiperspirant. Use antiperspirant deodorants to reduce sweat excretion vs just covering odor", "Some things to try:\n\n1. Drink more water. Way more. It’s common when the weather turns cold for people to drink less water because “it’s not hot outside,” but your body still needs hydration.\n\n2. Cut back on spicy food, caffeine, alcohol & meat. Many people’s bodies react to these foods by sweating at night and up to a day after eating it. Increase your fruit & vegetable intake instead. \n\n3. Make sure your clothing is breathable natural fibers like cotton or linen, not plastics like polyester.", "I would always pit out doing presentations in college and I hated it. Tried Maxim antiperspirant and it actually worked great. It unfortunately caused occasional itchiness, but that was way better than having giant dark circles of sweat under my arms. That was 20 years ago now, so maybe there are even better options out there now.", "First, based on your description you should talk to a doctor who can judge whether this could be a medical condition, and treat it accordingly if necessary.\n\nSecond, deodorants and antiperspirants may help. Keep trying different ones until you find a couple that work best for you, then rotate between them on a regular basis. \n\nLast: Thompson Tee (thompsontee.com) makes sweat proof undershirts and they have been a life-saver for me. Depending on your budget they can be a bit pricey, but they're worth it. Pre-COVID I used the commute by bike in NYC and even in NYCs swamp heat summer they were able to take everything my armpits were able to throw at it the whole day.", "If the off the shelf anti sweaty pits stuff isn't working, sounds like a specialist appointment would be a life changer for you.\n\nGood luck mate", "I had this issue years ago. I could jump in for a shower and get dressed and within minutes I’d have massive sweat patches. Ended up using a product called Odaban. I’d put it on after a shower at night before bed and wash it off first thing in the morning. (It stung like crazy if I put too much on) but it’s at the point now where I only need to put it on once every few months. I swear by it! Hope it helps!" ]	[ 6, 5, 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to get rid of the smell of moth balls My boyfriend recently ordered a soviet style trenchcoat off the internet, however it has a really bad smell of moth balls. We've been airing it out in the garden for about a week, but the smell is still there. Any tips?", "How to get rid of the smell of moth balls My boyfriend recently ordered a soviet style trenchcoat off the internet, however it has a really bad smell of moth balls. We've been airing it out in the garden for about a week, but the smell is still there. Any tips?", "How to get rid of the smell of moth balls My boyfriend recently ordered a soviet style trenchcoat off the internet, however it has a really bad smell of moth balls. We've been airing it out in the garden for about a week, but the smell is still there. Any tips?" ]	[ "Can it be washed? Baking soda in the wash water and line dried in sunlight will help. I've bought jeans that have had that mothball smell. I did this first and it helped a lot. \n\nIf not, put it in a lidded storage tub with a container of baking soda. If you can find the Arm and Hammer Fridge Box, great. If not, put some baking soda in a paper coffee filter and staple the edge to make a sort of packet so it doesn't spill all over. Leave it for a few days, checking every so often. This trick works in cars with bad smells too, btw. ", "check your local listings for a drycleaner that does leather. they can probably tell you what might work.", "Yeah, hang it out in the sun for a few days. And febreeze\nThat is, if you don't care about a bit of color fading. Though you said its old so I'm guessing its already faded." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "reintegrating into society so I can be more active, after working from home for 2.5 years I’m a tech employee who’s been working from home pretty much non-stop since March of 2020. I’ve realized recently that I’m much less active, & more anxious, than I was when I regularly left the house to go to work. I want to get back out into the outside world more often, but I’m looking for tips to ease myself back into everything as it feels a bit overwhelming to do so.\n\nHow can I start getting comfortable with rejoining the outside world? 😂", "reintegrating into society so I can be more active, after working from home for 2.5 years I’m a tech employee who’s been working from home pretty much non-stop since March of 2020. I’ve realized recently that I’m much less active, & more anxious, than I was when I regularly left the house to go to work. I want to get back out into the outside world more often, but I’m looking for tips to ease myself back into everything as it feels a bit overwhelming to do so.\n\nHow can I start getting comfortable with rejoining the outside world? 😂", "reintegrating into society so I can be more active, after working from home for 2.5 years I’m a tech employee who’s been working from home pretty much non-stop since March of 2020. I’ve realized recently that I’m much less active, & more anxious, than I was when I regularly left the house to go to work. I want to get back out into the outside world more often, but I’m looking for tips to ease myself back into everything as it feels a bit overwhelming to do so.\n\nHow can I start getting comfortable with rejoining the outside world? 😂" ]	[ "Go for walks. Decent long length walls. Don't make excuses, don't \"pretend\" to go for them. Go for an actual walk.\n\nGo to local stores. Wear a mask if it makes you feel more comfortable. Unless they're nutjobs nobody cares if you're wearing one or not.\n\nTell people you've not been in contact with for the past few years that you love them and want to see them. It's been tough for them too.", "You just gotta do it. Hit a favorite old haunt or whatever. Took me a while after lockdown, too, to feel at ease under what used to be \"normal\" circumstances. I wasn't a fan of crowds or crowded spaces even before lock down, and there are still times I'll be in a situation where there's a lot of people and \"nope\" right out. But pick your spots, you'll get accustomed in time.", "Rejoin bit by bit. \n\nThe comfort with being outside again will come with practice. \n\nPick quiet places at first. Maybe go to a shopping centre very early in the morning, for example. Just wander about and notice how that feels. Give yourself a long exposure time so that your fearfulness has time to settle. \n\nOr join a gym, but go in the daytime when it's quieter. \n\nGo for walks, just get used to being around others.\n\nKeep repeating this. Daily practice ideally. Then extend yourself more - maybe go up to people to ask for directions or to check the time. \n\nGood luck!" ]	[ 4, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?", "How to calm down right before an exam. Tomorrow I will be taking my first AP Chemistry exam of the year, and I'm already starting to get really nervous. Throughout my entire life I've always noticed that I get really nervous right before an exam, and this sometimes affects how I do on the exam. Are there any tips or techniques to calming down?" ]	[ "Other than be prepared for it?\n\nJust think that this one test is not the end all-be all; you will have an opportunity to improve your grade after this test.", "Other than studying- Pay attention to your breathing. Holding my breath and tensing up is the first thing I do when I'm nervous, and it's easy to freak myself out. Sounds flakey, but I've found that actually focusing on taking deep breaths and releasing them equally slowly can help calm down nerves. In through the nose, out through the mouth- try some yoga :)", "During law school and the bar exam, I listened to music that pumped me up before exams and practice tests. At those times for me, the best thing that worked was The Mars Volta's \"De-Loused in the Comatorium.\" I went into those exams feeling confident and ready to take them on.\n\nIt worked. I passed the California Bar Exam my first try without too much stress. My fellow students even commented on how well put together I was throughout the whole thing.\n\nAlso, fucking be prepared.", "this might sound strange but whats help me in the past was that the night before any tasks I would specifically not read that subject or study. Listen to music watch movies, do whatever but you want your mind to relax. Wake up in the am ready to go. A QUICK refresher, nothing wild, just get your subject in your mind, then take it on. You mind knows the information. It just needs time to assimilate it overnight.", "Try joking or laughing with some fellow test takers before the test or find something amusing in your head and laugh to yourself about it. The laughter will help to relieve the pre-test stress and help calm you down.", "The trick with exams is that you need to be sure to LEARN the subject, not memorize. Once you've learned something, it's easy to answer questions about it. If you have something memorized, it's much more difficult and you're more likely to stumble. This won't work in the meantime, but will help in the future.", "My response is probably late but I always eat dark chocolates an hour or two before the exam. These treats help me calm my mind down. Some people are also saying that eating any kind of chocolates, especially dark ones, help your blood to flow/circulate more around your brain and body. Not too sure about that, but it definitely helps me calm my mind. Hope you aced your exam!", "I am really good at tests and do pretty well. I have taken a few that were life changers, GRE with the promise of an assistantship if I did well and the Series 7 that had a job that came with it. Both were the kind of tests that you can always know the material a little bit better. As I studied for each I made note cards with key concepts and some flash cards. I would use them for review on certain items, especially for the 7. \n\nAs I moved through the material some of the cards I could retire because I knew that material very well. Other cards I would wind up keeping and continually reference to ensure I knew the concepts and approach need to find solutions (especially with the math.) On the day of the tests I would wake up early, after going to bed early. I would eat a good breakfast and really crank up the coffee because caffeine helps me focus and recall information. \n\nI would drive to the test location and get there an hour early (getting stuck in traffic is no problem when you allow so much time.) This allows you to relax as you are driving because you aren't worried about being late. Then when you get to the testing location relax, drink coffee and study your flash cards. Go through them methodically. Don't rush the information and play some music on the radio. It really is soothing and each time I have touched on something that helped me do well on the test. \n\nIt is important to note that the final review of the flashcards before the test is not cramming, you should have your shit squared away a couple days before. The time before the test is as much about reassurance as learning. A ritual that helps build confidence and fight off paranoia.", "Have a routine the day of the exam. I always have a banana with me I don't know if it is an old wives tale or not but apparently Potassium is good for reducing stress and improving brain function. It may just be a placebo but after eating a banana I tend to relax and focus better. " ]	[ 7, 5, 4, 3, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Clearing hard-drive space on Windows 7 I have an around 200GB SSD for my laptop, and with more and more good games coming out I am having trouble clearing up space, are there any useless files or programs that come installed on Windows 7, or potentially unused portions of the hard-drive which I can delete? And no one say system32 =P.", "Clearing hard-drive space on Windows 7 I have an around 200GB SSD for my laptop, and with more and more good games coming out I am having trouble clearing up space, are there any useless files or programs that come installed on Windows 7, or potentially unused portions of the hard-drive which I can delete? And no one say system32 =P.", "Clearing hard-drive space on Windows 7 I have an around 200GB SSD for my laptop, and with more and more good games coming out I am having trouble clearing up space, are there any useless files or programs that come installed on Windows 7, or potentially unused portions of the hard-drive which I can delete? And no one say system32 =P." ]	[ "[WinDirStat](http://windirstat.info/) is pretty good for seeing what's taking up large chunks of space.\n\nCheck out this [guide to optimizing SSDs.](http://thessdreview.com/ssd-guides/optimization-guides/the-ssd-optimization-guide-2/)\n\nIn it it will tell you how to turn off pagefile which will give you back some GBs.\n\nAnother LPT when asking for technical help for your computer troubles it greatly helps if you identify what OS and hardware you are using.\n", "Use something like [SpaceSniffer](http://www.uderzo.it/main_products/space_sniffer/) to figure out how your space is being used and start deleting.", "You can try turning off hibernate and page file, and using a tool like rt7lite and then reformatting/reinstalling with a reduced Windows 7. Move any photos, documents, or video into the cloud. Easiest way is to uninstall games you no longer need." ]	[ 9, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated", "How to stop procrastinating school work I have trouble finding motivation starting homework, any mental tips or tricks would be much appreciated" ]	[ "Believe that your future depends on it . . . actually buy in to this thought; the trivial shit distracting you now won't do anything for you in the future . . . and it sure won't satisfy like a well paying job.\n\nSelf actualization requires currency, despite what the hippies say.", "Plan and outline. Sounds ridiculously simple, but in writing scientific articles (which can be even years worth of work) the \"Whitesides method\" is to write an outline, then just \"fill in the blanks\". ([The original](http://www.ee.ucr.edu/~rlake/Whitesides_writing_res_paper.pdf#). This guy has the world record for the highest h-index in chemistry, which means he has written a ton of well-read papers.) The mental effort for reaching a small milestone is much, much less than trying to do the whole thing at once.\n\nAlso, it helps if you can explicitly reserve time for it. That means, no distractions for at least 2-3 hours. Often you might still find yourself doing something useless, but unless you reserve the time, it is nigh impossible to get any hours spent on it.\n\nYou won't get 100% of it right. You never can. Accept this and still try to do it.", "Give yourself an earlier deadline, for example, if you know you have a project due on Dec 15, set a deadline for Dec 10, so you give yourself 5 extra days.\n\nOf course this is all mental, and if you are a BIG procrastinator the 'fake' date won't mean much, but the more you practice this, the better you get at it. Good luck.", "https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/2scdwz/discussion_screw_motivation_what_you_need_is/", "You don't need motivation to do homework, other than fear of having a bad grade. Really that's all, if you're looking for motivation.\n\nTo deal with the lethargy that comes with doing work you hate doing, chunk it down: Say you have to write 4 pages of an English paper. If possible, write half a page every day; if you have a more pressing deadline, write 1 page a day. \n\nSet flexible deadlines, but respect them. For example, make a to-do list for the upcoming weekend with all the things you have to do. Then know that when time comes to do the homework, you will have to sit down, until you're in \"the mood\" to do it. The mood won't come to you if you keep avoiding it.", "The podcast called 'The Art of Charm' has as its 264th episode (according to its app) an interview with Tim Pychyl that contains some knowledge on procrastination. I just heard it the other day and it may be helpful for you too. I believe Tim also has a podcast called \"iProcrastinate\", or at least he did at the time.", "As someone who was recently put on ritalin (not adderall, fucking real ritalin, my doc is old school as all get out) I can say it is the surest, quickest way to getting stuff done. \nGo see a psychiatrist and list your symptoms. You feel like you can do so much more but you can't ever get started. It's so hard to focus in class. You WANT to do your homework but you CAN'T. It feels impossible and crushing\nBadabang. You don't need to go hardcore either.\nBut, BUT, do NOT ask for drugs by name or by strength and do not run in and SAY you have adhd or anything. That tends to send the meters spinning." ]	[ 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I stay awake in the afternoon without caffeine. I find that everyday after lunch I am very sleepy and cannot concentrate on my work, is there anyway not involving caffeine and is relatively quick that will allow me to stay awake and focused", "How do I stay awake in the afternoon without caffeine. I find that everyday after lunch I am very sleepy and cannot concentrate on my work, is there anyway not involving caffeine and is relatively quick that will allow me to stay awake and focused", "How do I stay awake in the afternoon without caffeine. I find that everyday after lunch I am very sleepy and cannot concentrate on my work, is there anyway not involving caffeine and is relatively quick that will allow me to stay awake and focused", "How do I stay awake in the afternoon without caffeine. I find that everyday after lunch I am very sleepy and cannot concentrate on my work, is there anyway not involving caffeine and is relatively quick that will allow me to stay awake and focused" ]	[ "In the Navy I had to do a lot of long shifts late at night, and there I learned it's all about controlling blood sugar. Avoid sweets and you'll stay awake and aware longer.", "> I find that everyday after lunch I am very sleepy \n\nEating a lot of carbs in a meal will cause you to get sleepy.", "Someone recently asked almost the same thing, about getting really tired when getting home from school, so I borrowed a lot of that answer for here.\n\nThere are a number of things that contribute to mid-day tiredness. You have to understand which one or which ones apply to you and then do something about that.\n\n* NOT GETTING ENOUGH OR CONSISTENT ENOUGH SLEEP. The problem here is often because you're going to bed too late or at all sorts of different hours, or possibly not sleeping well. Solution: Stop browsing all bright electronic devices one-half hour before going to bed. Go to bed at a very consistent time. Find a sheets/blankets solution for your bed that doesn't overheat you at night.\n\n* IMPROPERLY SELF-MEDICATING WITH CAFFEINE. It's really easy to overdose on the stuff and then crash in the middle of the day when it wears off. And although its main high dies after about three hours, its effects can persist for many hours later and wreck your sleep (see point #1 above). I've learned to stop drinking all coffee and other caffeine-containing beverages by 12 noon, as that helps me get a decent and restful sleep.\n\n* NOT ENOUGH PROPER NUTRITION, PARTICULARLY IRON AND FIBRE IN YOUR DIET, particularly for females. Having a properly energized body is important for avoiding mid-day tiredness. Eating vegetables with lots of fibre and not gorfing down a huge burger-and-fries lunch that's loaded with fat, can help. See if spreading out your eating habits and eating a lighter mid-day lunch can help.\n\n* NOT ENOUGH EXERCISE. The human body is a machine. It doesn't require much preventative maintenance, but it does require SOME, and this includes operating it on a consistent basis through walks and other exercise-related activity. How well is yours tuned? If you're a complete couch potato, this can really affect your sleep and tiredness levels.\n\n* SUGAR LEVELS. Sugar highs and lows can cause a mid-afternoon crash. Have a reasonably nutritious granola or fruit-and-nut bar an hour before you normally get really tired to see if that helps. Avoid candy though.\n\n* SET A DESKTOP ALARM TO STAND UP AND STRETCH EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE THROUGH THE DAY. \n", "I usually get myself pumped or mad, get adrenaline flowing. Gives you an extra hour to figure out what to do next" ]	[ 8, 4, 3, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. ", "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. ", "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. ", "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. ", "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. ", "How to not slack off? I currently procrastinate a shit ton when it comes to working and I want to fix that before it really screws me over. " ]	[ "Check out [this shit.](http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html)\nThis guy really discribes procrastination like a pro, it was weirdly accurate when I read it. It is mostly relatable when you are a life-long, constant procrastinator.\n", "I get more done when I make myself a check list. Feels good to write down what needs doing and crossing items off that list. Then when my day is done I carry over what I wasn't able to do and start a new list for tomorrow. Repeat until you retire. ", "Work in cycles of 20 minutes of productivity, 10 minutes of rest/play. Set a timer for both. I find I procrastinate the most when the work seems overwhelming, but 20 minutes is manageable, and then I can get back to Reddit or whatever. ", "Pick a small task, start it, finish it. Move to the next task. Might want to look into the Getting Things Done, Bullet Journal methods. ", "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4pa9xn/lpt_request_how_to_avoid_procrastination/d4jcf7h", "But, but, once you go slack, you never go back. You deal with the bad feeling of thinking you will be screwed over, but you gain eternal slack. Don't let ANYONE take away your slack. I don't practice what I preach, because I am not the kind of man I am preaching to. Praise Bob. " ]	[ 12, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?", "How to remove excess/built-up ear wax. I've heard using hydrogen peroxide and water works but it doesn't do much for me. Same with most over the counter earwax removal kits. Anyone have any solutions other than having a doctor remove it?" ]	[ "Go to the pharmacy & get a discarded syringe (no needle or sharp pointy thing). They have many there, unused, but discarded for whatever reason. If they can you one with a rubber tip, still better.\n\nFill a cup / bowl with warm water. Fill the syringe with the warm water. Turn your head toward the left so your right ear is facing down. Now point the water filled syringe to the top of the ear hole and plunge the syringe to squirt the warm water into the ear. Do this as many times as necessary. Around 10-15 times if the wax is very impacted. Do the same for the left ear by turning your head to the right.\n\nSource: I have had my ears impacted many times and every single time the doctor used to do this. Now I routinely do this every month or so and I have been absolutely earwax-impaction free. I have been doing this for the past 10-12 years and it works, it is also quite safe. Water is not harmful to the ears. It dries out naturally, but you could use a q-tip to wipe / soak the inside of the ears.", "Switch to taking baths and put your head under the water. This will naturally dissolve it.\n\nI prefer baths over showers, but when I am forced to shower for over a week I notice a large ear wax build up.", "Get the water as warm as you can stand in the shower and fill up your ear and then let it drain. Repeat ad nauseum. This only works if you do it on a near weekly basis, but never fails to keep your ears clear. \n\nEar candles and squirting systems can all potentially damage your ear. This method literally can't. ", "This is the self use version of what the Dr very likely might use to clean your ears http://www.amazon.com/Washer-Bottle-System-Doctor-Easy/dp/B005M2HSQK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453010019&sr=8-1&keywords=rhino+ear+wax+removal", "Make sure you use warm (not too hot) water. helps melt the wax. also use bulb syringe (the thing that sucks the snot out of babies noses) rather than regular syringe. did it last week. worked perfectly.", "Hydrogen peroxide you get from the store is 97% water already. If you're adding water, that may be your problem.\n", "Consume about two tablespoons of flaxseed oil a day. This gives what the body is lacking to keep earwax flowing. Some people get more wax than others, wet or dry. Doctors usually use a solution and a big syringe to flush out the buildup. From then on, consume the flaxseed every day in liquid or gel capsule form. Works all the time for me. Never use Q-Tips or insert objects in your ear to try removing wax yourself. It compacts the wax and makes things worse. ", "earwax protects the ear drum. it'll fall out naturally. just leave it alone. \n\nor get a earwax picker http://www.amazon.com/Earpick-Curette-Removal-Remover-Cleaner/dp/B00AUDKETY", "I have a long term issue, and have always dealt with it at home. I've read negative reports on ear candles/cones, but have used them with no problems, but no confirmed improvement either. Since I've had a couple clogs blocking my hearing, I have routinely rinsed out my ears with spray from the shower head and it keeps it pretty clean. If I get buildup I use peroxide and/or carbamine peroxide with glycerin. Let is soak for a while and then flush with warm water out of a bulb syringe. " ]	[ 16, 6, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?", "How to make a bag less susceptible to theft? I was advised by someone at r/lifehacks to try here and see if I could get any insight from anyone here. \n\n\nI'm not sure where to put this, so if someone could point me in the direction of a suitable reddit/forum, that would be greatly appreciated!!!!!\n\n\nOtherwise...\n\n\nI've recently learned about slash/ theft-proof bags. I'm always concerned about theft, be it at home or overseas, and was looking for a reliable alternative. So far, I've learned about Pacsafe and Travelon.\n\n\nAt first, I thought that ballistic nylon would be enough, but apparently it's not as good as I thought it would be(correct me if I'm wrong).\n\n\nI do have a bag I like though, and it's only made up of cordura 305d nylon, it's tear-resistant based on the google search I did, but I highly doubt its slash-resistant.\n\n\nI did think about two things I could do to hack my bag to make it more theft-resistant, and was looking for your opinion.\n\n\nOne, I could get some duct tape & some strong metal wire(don't know what kind, but it's an idea in process)and basically duct tape a wire grid into the inside of the bag, slowing down the possible theft by making it harder to slice the bag open.\n\n\nTwo, I could create a steel cage of some sort, insert that into the bag, then insert my stuff in the steel cage. However, if they can slash open my bag, then they could just slash the entire thing open and just take the steel cage.\n\nWould you have any ideas you could share with me?\n\nTL:DR; For anyone that's ever traveled, what pro tips do you use to help keep your things from being stolen, or your bag from being slashed, besides common sense and a watchful eye?" ]	[ "Buy an old, torn suitcase from a thrift shop. If it looks cheap, people will assume you're poor and don't have anything worth stealing.", "where will you be traveling to that this would be such a concern, and what will you be transporting in that bag that would be such a target for theft?\n\nthat aside, some tips would be to distress the exterior of the bag to make it appear less appealing (i did something similar when traveling to brasil a few years ago, by covering a digital camera with some masking tap and marking it up a bit to make it appear old and abused, (the tape wasn't anywhere where it would affect the function, and could be peeled off afterwards easily). another tip is to use a bag such as a backpack that you could wear in front of you where it would be visible to you. it might be more awkward and look silly, but potential thieves wont try to cut it from the front.", "if you REALLY love your bag you already have, buy a pacsafe anti-theft cover and stitch that into the inside of the bag. It won't prevent it from being slashed and your wire being exposed, but it'll prevent the theft.\n\nIf you REALLY don't want to buy something pre-made. buy steel cabling from a place like home depot, they sell security cable by the foot. It's a SERIOUS pain in order to make the ends stay where they belong (the ends split like rope, but since it's metal you get poked and stabbed)\n\nlike this:\nhttp://www.homedepot.com/p/CableRail-50-ft-Stainless-Steel-Cable-Assembly-Kit-for-Cable-Railing-System-6350-pkg/206640421?keyword=206640421", "Not sure if this is helpful in the case of a bag placed away from you, but whenever I'm on a bus/sitting somewhere/it feels \"sketchy,\" I'll wrap the bag around my leg or arm, so I at least have a fighting chance. ", "If you are traveling to a climate where you would normally wear a jacket, wear the bag (I'm assuming a purse or some kind of messenger bag) and then put on your jacket. This will make it harder for an opportunistic thief from cutting the strap / cutting the side to loot the contents. It might get you instead mugged but all you can do is be aware of your surroundings and ask trustworthy locals what areas are safe to go.", "not thought about it before but chickn wire is probably the thing. have the cage sewn into the bag. In pieces perhaps. But what if someone steels the bag?", "Just try not to come across as worth robbing. Wear cheaper clothes, carry cheaper items, portray confidence (even if you don't have it), and be prepared if something bad does happen", "Depending on the configuration of the purse, what about a plastic container as some type of liner? Something along the lines of what they make those roll away cutting boards out of....maybe easier getting through baggage checks also?\n\nAlternately, maybe a small hard-case purse? https://www.etsy.com/listing/215222305/stylecraft-of-miami-purse-vintage-hard", "Chain mail! Haha.. Like the armor knights used? ... Just buy a gun..Nobody robs a guy or girl with a pistol in a holster. ", "As far as I can tell, your assumption is your bag is left out of sight/reach for periods of time. Why, I don't know.\n\nBut when I've been faced with this possibility before, I have usually taken the long strap of my duffle, and strung it through the strap(s) of my other bag(s), and maybe even to a fixed object. This makes it very tough to take the bag quickly and quietly.\n\nIf the thief has the time to cut the bag open, you probably should buy one of those loud alarms that go off when the bag is disturbed." ]	[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to identify if a girl is really into you or just being kind and is actually that comfortable with everyone? ", "How to identify if a girl is really into you or just being kind and is actually that comfortable with everyone? " ]	[ "With a magnifying glass, a flashlight, and pH paper... Look for the purple stripe. /s.... If you like her ask her out! Man up and forget this mindreading crap.", "Obviously there's no guarantee with this, but one thing I've noticed sometimes is a girl/woman will start asking personal preference type questions that may reveal that she's trying to see if you're compatible with her lifestyle. You can tell they're going down and checking the boxes sometimes. " ]	[ 8, 1 ]	safe
[ "What is the best way to change email accounts (hotmail to gmail)? Is there a way to transfer all emails? Can I autoforward all emails to gmail? Anything else I should be aware of?", "What is the best way to change email accounts (hotmail to gmail)? Is there a way to transfer all emails? Can I autoforward all emails to gmail? Anything else I should be aware of?" ]	[ "I use a gmail account to aggregate all emails into. I have 5 emails from different sources that all go into one gmail. Sign up to gmail and go into the settings where it explains how to do it. Unfortunately I can't give you step by step instructions as I'm in my phone but if you google it I'm sure you'll find a good guide. Good luck!", "Ohhhh I didn't know this was a thing you could do! I've been stuck with hotmail since middle school and feel like I can't let go! Haha" ]	[ 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "diarrhea remedy(urgent) For about 7 hours now, I've had the runs. My stomach hurts and my ass in on flames, what can I do(without going to the pharmacy) to make it better? \nThanks in advance", "diarrhea remedy(urgent) For about 7 hours now, I've had the runs. My stomach hurts and my ass in on flames, what can I do(without going to the pharmacy) to make it better? \nThanks in advance", "diarrhea remedy(urgent) For about 7 hours now, I've had the runs. My stomach hurts and my ass in on flames, what can I do(without going to the pharmacy) to make it better? \nThanks in advance" ]	[ "Let your body get all the bad stuff out, then eat low residue, bland food for a couple of days.\n\nBut it's mostly letting your body continue to get rid or whatever is disagreeing with it. Keep hydrated, though.", "For future reference, as someone who constantly would be in that situation, the cheapest and easiest solution is two teaspoons of the Indian spice turmeric in warm water. It's cheap and you can find it in any store for pretty cheap. And it's fast AND good for you! Downside: in the two seconds you are chugging the mixture down, it tastes a little like dirt but its so worth it. Give it a shot next time. All you have to lose is about 3 bucks! ", "Things like metamucil (Phyllium), Pepto, of course, and probiotics, Lactobacillus commonly found in Yogurt. The phyllium will thicken the stool, same with the Pepto, while the Pepto and the Lactobacillus fight the good fight against foreign bacteria in the gut. Once you feel up to it hit the BRAT diet. Bananas, Rice, Apple sauce, Toast. Should be right as rain after that.\n\n" ]	[ 7, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to stay focused on a single task? Wondering if there was any tips on how to stay focused on something like class or even a conversation. I always find my mind wandering when someone says a certain thing and I end up blanking out.", "How to stay focused on a single task? Wondering if there was any tips on how to stay focused on something like class or even a conversation. I always find my mind wandering when someone says a certain thing and I end up blanking out.", "How to stay focused on a single task? Wondering if there was any tips on how to stay focused on something like class or even a conversation. I always find my mind wandering when someone says a certain thing and I end up blanking out." ]	[ "Thankfully and sadly, good focusing requires PREVIOUS training and a good lifestyle, that means you need to train yourself to be disciplined and focused before the task comes up! mentally healthy and happy people are more focused, so treat any mental issues you have such as depression or low self esteem asap. healthy people can focus better than unhealthy people, exercise, eat right, do blood/urine tests, take the right supplements and meds...etc Try to do MORE things that bring happiness and LESS things that bring the enjoyment and pleasures, example of things that maybe brings happiness: volunteering and caring by helping humans and environment, exercise, learning, activism, healthy food, seeking and sharing the truth, starting a business, yoga, praying, visiting your parents, finding a better job ..examples of enjoyments and pleasures: sex, porn, alcohol, gambling, video games, TV, smoking, drugs, fast food, watching sports, over shopping, luxury brands, celebrity news .. for now, consider a good sleep, then coffee or even Adderall (preferably with a doctor's approval) if you are facing an extremely important task and can't focus ... \n", "Try counting to ten in your head. I know it sounds cheesy, but it works. Close your eyes and only focus on the number you're on and nothing else. If your mind wanders, start over again from one and again, only focus on the number you're currently on. Don't open your eyes until you've successfully reached ten", "I pinpointed my lack of focus down to my everyday use of the internet and how much its negative habits are effecting the rest of my life. Every site that i go to Im constantly scrolling from post to post, next story to next story picking out the good parts and then on to the next one. Then i started getting to the point that i would just skim through everything looking for what was going to give me that dopemine type high of satisifaction whether it be a facebook post, a news article, my girlfriend telling me about her day.... Life became one big rush towards satisfaction.\n\nIve been curing my focus problem by slowing it down and concentrating on finishing what i start and asking myself questions about what i was reading to make sure i wasnt skimming material so that I could quickly get to the next piece of worthless information. So far i can get through most of my day focusing on what i need to by not multitasking and finishing one thing before starting on the next. If i have to multitask, i limit it to two things." ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "The most efficient way to shovel snow A blizzard hit and I am wondering what is the best way to shovel snow/", "The most efficient way to shovel snow A blizzard hit and I am wondering what is the best way to shovel snow/" ]	[ "If you are shoveling a driveway or something, there are a few tricks you can use to save time.\n\nThe first is to simply remove the snow where the tires of your car will go, allowing you to drive on it.\n\nThe second, and probably better tip is to start in the middle of the driveway and work your way out towards the sides / edges. If you start on the ends, you might have to re-shovel that area later.", "You probably know this already, but spray your shovel with Pam or a non-stick spray. This will greatly minimize the amount of snow that sticks to your shovel." ]	[ 5, 2 ]	safe
[ "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want.", "What are your tips to smell good everyday? I am a guy who showers everyday but I smell ok. By smelling good, I mean people tell you, you smell good. \n\nI've smelled people who smell really good and that's what I also want." ]	[ "1) Don't keep your towels, underwear, and socks for too long. Buy new ones every so often so funk doesn't set in. You'll feel better and it'll show. 2) Spend a little more on good cologne because you get what you pay for and the ladies (if that's who you're into) will definitely notice. 3) subscribe to Esquire or Maxim for pro tips. Good luck!", "Have you tried different soaps? Certain soaps do not hold a smell as long as others may.\n\nAnother little secret, keep a dryer sheet in your pocket. You'll have a fresh laundry smell about you all day!", "The body shop lotions or body butter 😍 I've had people ask me what perfume I use because it smells great and I just told them it's a lotion. They're amazing.", "Some tips which I got from other people that really helped me, as a first when applying perfume etc. do it at least half an hour in advance, this way you smell nice but don't have the overly strong smell that can be an annoyance.\n \nSecond is places for applying, I make sure some of my perfume catches my hair and/or clothes, this way the smell tends to stay a little longer and also gets noticed more often when hugging people or just generally being close.\n\nLast en final, go shopping with someone from the opposite sex/who knows a lot about it. This really helps if you care about what other people think about how you smell.\n\nHope it helps :)", "Deoderant every day for me (I use old spice and I've heard of both genders enjoying the smell). Shower and wash my hair as often as I need (any time I work out and before I go to bed usually). I end up changing my socks extremely often (for reasons) and I use deoderizers in my shoes. Dental hygiene is a biggy; brushing your teeth (twice a day), flossing, mouthwash if necessary, every day.\n\nOther than that, clean clothes, maybe some hair pommade or a touch of cologne if you really need it. Clothes can get smelly from the washer/dryer, so I'd pay attention to what they smell like coming out. It's also surprising the smells that get attached to things like jackets that you wear all the time and you just don't notice it anymore.", "Trim or flat out shave your under arms (even if you are a guy) as well as keep up with your manscaping (or lady scaping). Hair helps transmit scent, so by removing it, you remove an agent that helps transfer scent...", "To make your clothing smell good, use either scent booster or liquid fabric softener. \n\nIf you have a top-loader washing machine, you can pour the fabric softener into a baggie with several small holes poked in it, then throw it in the washer. The softener will leach into the water witbout you having to catch the rinse cycle.", "Shower with Yardley Oatmeal with Cocoa Butter Soap, solid white anti-perspiratant deodorant, cocoa butter base, lotion and a good after shave.\nThorough and complete brushing, flossing, (and gargling) of the teeth; don’t forget to brush the tongue. Change socks & underwear...frequently. If you sweat or feel sticky it’s time to change both items. One day rule: underwear: non-active; Active: change underwear....after each shower. \nShower.... after each “Number 2”; bathroom visit when possible; Carry fresh wipes in between.", "Just because you no longer smell it on yourself does not necessarily mean you don't smell good. Nose blindness means your body adapted to the smell and is no longer acknowledging it so as to be on alert for other smells. I have a perfume that is fairly strong and I only use a bit but I no longer notice it after an hour, but my boyfriend will still be able to smell it.", "I go w/ body spray when i get out of the shower and am still soaking wet, then try to air dry as much as possible and time permits. Then I follow up w/ a spray or 2 of matching cologne once fully dressed. Has been my routine on/off for decades.", "Buy a paired lotion and cologne/perfume. They will smell the same and the lotion itself has a longer lasting effect but also will make the cologne hold much longer! Just lotion by itself, I have found, is more effective than colognes/sprayable scents. It soaks into the skin and permeates. Also, know that when you buy cologne/perfume, everyone puts out a different smell. This is because it works with your own pheromones so test test test. Give yourself an hour to try some out. Pick from scents you like on test papers, then test on your skin. I’d say pick your three favorites. After roughly ten minutes you will be able to tell which scent you like best ON YOU. Most often they will come with lotion. Also, always spray and lotion where your skin is the thinnest as this makes the smell “stronger”. So: neck, wrists, elbow crease, back of knees, etc. Hope this helps!", "To me, the best smelling people are the people I can't smell at all.\n\nThat's what I strive for - to be completely odor-neutral. Low-smell soaps and shampoos, unscented deodorant, and NO cologne EVER. 99% of perfumes and colognes suck.\n\nI don't want people to say I smell good (or bad of course). I want people to not even think about how I smell.", "C.K. Eternity Aqua cologne, the amount of compliments I've gotten wearing this cologne is substantial.", "007 cologne... It smells amazing and I (f) have yet to find a woman that doesn't absolutely love it. I bought some off Amazon for like $13. Pretty sure it has pheromones in it 😉" ]	[ 10, 8, 7, 5, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?", "How do I teach myself to be more disciplined? Growing up, I never really had much structure. I did my homework when I felt like it, cleaned my room when I felt like it, went to bed when I felt like it, etc. Just turned 20 this year, and it turns out self discipline is pretty important in the professional world. Are there any general tips or guidelines I can follow that'll help me reign myself in?" ]	[ "Well, divide and conquer:\n\n* define a goal you want or have to reach (motivation)\n* identify the steps required to reach it (divide)\n* go for it (conquer)\n\nSee the steps as a thing you have to do in order to reach your goal. In comes the motivation if you are ever asking yourself why am I doing this or if you are tempted to cheat.\n\nKeep of distractions while you have to do your steps (e.g. writing a paper or so). \nIf you have milestones allow yourself some bonus, e.g. an extra hour of gaming, after achieving\n\nDoesn’t fit everything but it may be a start. When I first tackled a major achievement this way it was easier for the second, etc. etc.\n\nI learned this late and can only do it really good when I am interested in things or have the right motivation. Basically what you wrote applied to me in your age as well and still does at times.", "If something takes less than 2 minutes, get up and do it right now. Don't plan to do it later. \n\nThe productivity you see from this small act has potential to demonstrate what could happen with just a little discipline. ", "Here's my 2 cents. I used to be very very lazy, with zero will power. But have worked at it, and now can be quite disciplined if I need to be.\n\n5 things have helped me (two from this website)\n\n1. Short term discipline:- If you feel motivated to do something, then great, use that motivation to do it. If you don't feel motivated, then you probably won't be able to motivate yourself into dong it. Instead, don't think about the the task at hand at all, just do the task.\n\n2. Long term discipline:- I like to remind myself of this, its a bit wordy but I like it \"If I give up now, I'll soon be back to where I was, when I wished I was where I am now.\"\n\n3. Become aware of the little voice that is trying to talk you into not doing the thing you should be doing. It will then be easier to willfully not follow that voice.\n\n4. If your trying to keep at something, for example going to the gym every other day. Don't give out to yourself if you miss one session. But make sure you never let yourself miss two in a row.\n\n5. And finally, read this. This is must, and has been a life changer for me and many others.\n\nhttps://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html\n\nand then\n\nhttps://waitbutwhy.com/2013/11/how-to-beat-procrastination.html\n\n\n", "Build routines. Motivation can only get you so far (think New Year's resolutions). Habits stick. If you can build in a habit that you will need in order to achieve a goal you have set, that is essentially having discipline and you WILL achieve that goal in time.", "For me, I am much more productive when I schedule things and set alarms in my phone. I am self employed and can do whatever I want whenever I want so I can get off task easily. I schedule TV time, laundry, hobbies, exercise, etc. and treat the activity like an important meeting I cannot miss. Try starting with the one thing you really need to do (and have trouble accomplishing) and add more tasks later.", "Internalize these 2 universal truths and use it to your advantage:\n\n1) Every action you take in life is ultimately for \"attaining pleasure\", or \"avoiding pain\" at it's core.\n\n2) The meaning you assign to a thing determines which of those 2 comes out on top that determines how you act\n\nFor Ex. You didn't actually do your homework when you \"felt like it\", you did your homework when the desire to avoid the pain that comes from not doing it (failing the exam for example and its repercussions) started to outweigh the pleasure you got from the alternative (Hanging out with friends, girls whatever you choose to do instead of the homework) and at that point you finally made the decision to do the homework.\n\nOnce you fully understand this concept, you can give more \"weight\" to the side that you know will benefit you. So in the professional world you can focus on all the pleasure that comes from getting things done, and the pain you'll avoid by gettings things done. \n\nFinding (Or now manipulating) reason or a motive behind taking a particular action. This is discipline at it's core\n\nHope that helps :)", "First big step; get off Reddit. This website sucks, and seeking good advice on here is like trying to find a needle in a haystack (this included)..." ]	[ 13, 9, 7, 5, 3, 2, -3 ]	safe
[ "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess", "Where to start when you have so much work you don't know where to start? In my case this is for homework and revision but it could apply to other areas I guess" ]	[ "Anywhere, as long as you get started. I like to make lists and mark priorities, but if I get truly overwhelmed with volume, I pick one thing and do it. I like to start with something that is fairly short to complete, but will make some sort of tangible difference. For example, putting away a pile of paperwork on my desk that needs filed. It's not a top priority task but doesn't take that long and has a real, visual reward of seeing a big portion of my desk cleared off. The satisfaction from actually completing something (as opposed to just making progress toward something) makes me feel less overwhelmed. \n\nFor studying or homework, I'd start with something that's not too difficult or time consuming. It let's you cross something off your list and gets you in work mode. Once you start, it will be much easier to keep going. ", "If there's so much to do that it's unclear where to start, then start anywhere, just get moving. I like writing down my goals so no matter what I'm doing, i am working toward the end game. ", "If the conditions are random, start ANYWHERE. What difference does it make?\n\nYou're paralyzed by indecision, and it's costing time. \n\nGet a frigging dice and make it decide for you if you have to. Just start working on something.\n\n\"Okay, I rolled 4. On my little made-up reference, that means Physics. Step 1: get Physics text. Step 2: start listing the stuff I had the hardest time with. Step 3: start revising that.\"", "Break it into chunks, order chunks by priority, write them down. If chunks are still too big, repeat on individual parts.\n\nAll three steps are equally important and together will help you in all kinds of aspects of your life.", "What the others said. It's the feeling of being overwhelmed that is keeping you from just starting. Grab one item from the list and get to it. It'll all fall into place after that ", "I don't like that everyone says 'start anywhere' or 'do the easiest first'. If you are over whelmed, something is making you feel overwhelmed. What is it? When you try to lay down to go to sleep, what are you worried about? That's the thing you start on. The item that you would feel terrible if it didn't get done by deadline; rather that be your thesis paper, your resume, painting the kitchen, or spending time with your kids. What is it that interrupts your sleep at night. Do that first, you'll respect yourself and be successful because of it. ", "Use post it notes and prioritize the most in portent task at the top. This will help you be more productive and reduce any multitasking. ", "Start by making a list. List all the things you need to do to accomplish the task(s). It doesn't matter if they are in order or not, just get them written down. You can organize them later. Keep writing them down until you run out of them - don't kill yourself to think about each and every possible thing - write down the ones that come immediately to mind. Once you have a list, decide which one you should do first and do it. Then come back to the list, check off the task you accomplished, write down anything new that you thought of to do, and try and put some order to your list. Which tasks are most important, which are dependent or subordinate to other tasks. Once you've worked the list a little, do another task from the list. If the order doesn't matter, do the easiest ones first so that you have a sense of accomplishment and overcome the inertia of being overwhelmed. Then keep going back to the list, work on it a little, do some more tasks, and so on.", "Prioritize on the amount of time it will take to complete each task and degree of importance.\n\nDo the most important and most time consuming assignment first when your brain is fresh and move down the list.\n\nFor example, I would do my exam studying and paper revisions first and work my way down to non graded homework assignments and reading.\n\nAlso, I wouldn't sign a numerical time to the amount time it will take you to complete a task. For example, don't assume it will take 60 minutes to complete a homework assignment because you might rush to complete it within the allotted time.\n\nIt is much better to ball park it and be flexible in case you run into any unforeseen hurdles.", "Make a list of everything you need to do and when it needs to be done. Then make a new to do list based on what needs to be finished soonest. ", "i usually just let it sit untill deadlines are long gone and face the wrath of my shitty decisions. after that, shrug it off and move on : D pretty fuckin simple IMO..." ]	[ 13, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great.", "getting rid of dark circles Anyone got any tips for getting rid of massive dark circles under my eyes? I’ve tried everything from drinking more water to eating better to getting more sleep. I’ve tried disco stick but that doesn’t seem to work. Like nothing I try seems to work and I don’t know if it’s genetic or not. I’m tired of looking like this so if anyone has a tip for a guy trying to get rid of this, that would be great." ]	[ "Okay, now hear me out… use Preparation H. It constricts blood vessels. A little dark circle ain’t nothin compared to a hemorrhoid.\n\nSource: I have insomnia, shit works", "Go to a sleep specialist. You could sleep for 8 hrs but not really sleep. Ie breathing issues could mean you aren't actually getting sleep", "Following this. I have the same problem. Tried a lot of the google-able remedies but I think it comes down to genetics. Unless someone else can chime in…\n\n", "Ice cubes to get the blood circulation flowing is a great remedy\n\nmany people don't realize that great amounts of screen time on a laptop or phone is no good for the eyes and can also trigger dark circles so keep screen time to a minimal.\n\nin order to gain a better night's rest, avoid bright screens before bed.\n\nif you are thinking of investing in an eye cream then don't just spur your money on any one, as they don't benefit everyone, do your diligence and make sure you purchase with confidence.", "Eye creams formulated for dark circles. Don’t go to Walgreens and get just any cream! Go to a beauty supply store, department store, Med spa, etc. and ask the employees for suggestions. Eye creams that contain caffeine are known to work very well for a lot of people with this problem. Personally, I have used the Aveda energizing eye cream for years and it has worked for me. Also, you may want to consult with a dermatologist as well if it is simply a skin pigmentation issue.", "Likely just genetic if you’ve always had them. \n\nUnfortunately there’s not much that can be done with topical creams, your best bet is going to be dermal fillers or ablative or non-ablative laser resurfacing treatments. \n\nI’ve also heard of people getting pigment tattooed over the area to counteract the blue/purple but … ouch", "I've seen some good advice here, i.e. eye creams or hemorrhoid cream, but if you want a more permanent solution, you could get fillers.", "I just returned from a hangover treatment at one of those IV med-spa places and when I looked in the mirror my dark circles were gone...just gone. I always have massive dark circles under my eyes that I could never get rid of. They gave me a 500mL bag of sodium chloride solution with B vitamins and Toradol. Those places do other types of vitamin infusions too, maybe it could work for you?", "Just a cosmetic solution, try applying little raw milk( unboiled milk) before going to bed. This will help a lot but needs few months to act. \n\nWhile you find out the root cause and treat it, it can help get rid of the dark circles appearance wise." ]	[ 13, 11, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?", "How to improve Hand Eye Coordination? Having a lot of trouble doing daily things because of my lack of HEC. Any helpful tips?" ]	[ "Video games help man! :D\nFast twitch games that require fast reactions..am...such as Shooters. A lot is going on the screen at the one time and it requires your brain to focus on multiple things at the one time. Playing video games may even help surgeons perfect their skill in the operating room.!", "Find a ball that is soft (so you don't break anything) and toss it off a wall and catch it when it bounces back. Add spin to your throws to make it harder. Also multi node sparq balls are good to bounce and react to outside, a lot of pro athletes use these. ", "Play a sport, like baseball.\n\n\nDon't make the mistake of confusing hand-eye coordination with muscle memory. There's going to be a bit of it in what you do no matter what, just make sure it's not purely muscle memory, like when you're riding a bike or twirling a pen or typing or something like that.", "Is this a recent problem? If so, you may want to see your doctor. \n\nIf not, I would recommend that you learn how to juggle. I'm sure you can find instructional vids on YouTube.", "Use monkey bars. Not only will it improve your hand eye coordination, but will also strengthen the muscles in your arms, wrists and hands.\n\n\nThis is particularly useful if you have a child who is having difficulty learning to write, or even just to do while they're learning to write anyway.", "Start flipping a water bottle when you get bored, or try balancing a long stick on your hand for extended periods of time. It ends up being a pretty cool party trick ", "Table tennis is perfectly designed for this. At the very least get a bat and ball and play against a table and a wall. Tiger Woods and Phil Mickelson often play each other in table tennis to improve their HEC", "Some good old fashioned catch. Go grab a friend and toss something about! Video games that you enjoy but also require concentration are good too!" ]	[ 7, 7, 6, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to avoid talking politics at work without being rude or making things very awkward My whole office leans one way, and I lean the other way, and I know that whatever happens tonight everyone is going to come in talking about politics tomorrow. And I really don't want to talk about them but I feel so awkward to just say that", "how to avoid talking politics at work without being rude or making things very awkward My whole office leans one way, and I lean the other way, and I know that whatever happens tonight everyone is going to come in talking about politics tomorrow. And I really don't want to talk about them but I feel so awkward to just say that", "how to avoid talking politics at work without being rude or making things very awkward My whole office leans one way, and I lean the other way, and I know that whatever happens tonight everyone is going to come in talking about politics tomorrow. And I really don't want to talk about them but I feel so awkward to just say that", "how to avoid talking politics at work without being rude or making things very awkward My whole office leans one way, and I lean the other way, and I know that whatever happens tonight everyone is going to come in talking about politics tomorrow. And I really don't want to talk about them but I feel so awkward to just say that", "how to avoid talking politics at work without being rude or making things very awkward My whole office leans one way, and I lean the other way, and I know that whatever happens tonight everyone is going to come in talking about politics tomorrow. And I really don't want to talk about them but I feel so awkward to just say that" ]	[ "You could use the classic \"I don't like to talk about politics\" line. Whenever someone uses it on me I start to feel bad and shut up because I know a lot of people don't like the divisiveness of politics and I start feeling bad for being part of that perceived problem.", "I use a standard line of \"I don't really follow that stuff; but the challenges are immense. Who ever wins has a big job to do\"", "You know political opinions are like sphincters, everyone has one I prefer to keep mine to myself. (Worked for me) ", "This is why people say \"I don't like to talk about politics\". It's virtually impossible to talk about it without offending somebody or hurting someone's feelings. Best to keep the political discussions outside of work.", "You can always ask someone how hey feel about the outcome of the election, but don't ask them who they voted for." ]	[ 14, 10, 4, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "Filling a bottle without a funnel I have an olive oil bottle that needs filling, but I have no funnel! Any ideas on how to keep the mess to a minimum?", "Filling a bottle without a funnel I have an olive oil bottle that needs filling, but I have no funnel! Any ideas on how to keep the mess to a minimum?", "Filling a bottle without a funnel I have an olive oil bottle that needs filling, but I have no funnel! Any ideas on how to keep the mess to a minimum?", "Filling a bottle without a funnel I have an olive oil bottle that needs filling, but I have no funnel! Any ideas on how to keep the mess to a minimum?", "Filling a bottle without a funnel I have an olive oil bottle that needs filling, but I have no funnel! Any ideas on how to keep the mess to a minimum?" ]	[ "I can't believe nobody has suggested [this](http://www.csudh.edu/oliver/demos/gravsulf/pour-r2.jpg) yet. Use a small rod across the container you're pouring from (it doesn't even need a spout, I just did this with a drinking glass and a chopstick) and put the end of the rod in the container you're pouring into. It's just like you did in your high school chemistry class. You won't spill a drop. ", "Piece of paper. Fold it in half. Then, fold it in half 90' degrees different. Notice that the exposed edge has 4 thicknesses of paper. Place your finger between sheets 1 and 2. You'll notice, as you do this, that it kind of creates a shape like a paper airplane with a huge open fuselage. If you pinch it at the width, you've made a stable cup, that could be used to drink water from. If you take scissors and cut off the bottom, you've made a funnel. Fold the paper \"wings\" inward to reinforce the shape.\n\nThis will make a rectangular funnel that does not balance well, but can be sturdy without tape or glue. If you want a true conical funnel, take a circle of paper, and cut a slit from center to radius. Then, slide the two opposing halves upon each other until a cone shape is formed. Use tape to hold the shape together, and cut off the bottom. \n\nYou can't spell \"funnel\" without fun.", "do you have any paper? twist the printer paper into a funnel. all the paper you can buy in america is non toxic.\n\nthe other way would be to have nerves of steel and just pour it in without spilling. - thats what i do. ", "Use the spout that your little glass bottle it comes with. It fits perfectly inside the bulk tin's opening. Then, just pour away!", "If you are using a big bulk-buy bottle and refilling that glass w/pour spout, then put the bulk bottle on the edge of the sink, on the counter, and lean the mouth over to the sink, leaving the base on the counter (then you don't have to hold up the heavy one, and won't get the shakes) and put the refiller bottle under the mouth and angle it as well, like this: /\\ but not so sharp of an angle. Increase the angle as the smaller bottle fills." ]	[ 5, 3, 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.? I hate our Homeowner's Association, and everyone I've spoken to from our neighborhood (more than five other homeowners) unanimously feel the same way. They're nit-picky. They're quick to point out that we have a single weed creeping up in our front yard. (This is not an exaggeration.) Meanwhile, our backyards are filled with the dead leaves of trees they planted in the model homes. There has been minimal communication from them in regards to common areas during the current pandemic.\n\nRecently, the H.O.A. rejected my simple backyard plans. We don't have enough trees or plants.\n\nWhat Life Pro Tips are out there regarding dealing with an H.O.A. like mine? I already intend to read through the entire manual tonight. If it helps, I live in Nevada.\n\nThanks in advance, and down with H.O.A. tyranny!", "How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.? I hate our Homeowner's Association, and everyone I've spoken to from our neighborhood (more than five other homeowners) unanimously feel the same way. They're nit-picky. They're quick to point out that we have a single weed creeping up in our front yard. (This is not an exaggeration.) Meanwhile, our backyards are filled with the dead leaves of trees they planted in the model homes. There has been minimal communication from them in regards to common areas during the current pandemic.\n\nRecently, the H.O.A. rejected my simple backyard plans. We don't have enough trees or plants.\n\nWhat Life Pro Tips are out there regarding dealing with an H.O.A. like mine? I already intend to read through the entire manual tonight. If it helps, I live in Nevada.\n\nThanks in advance, and down with H.O.A. tyranny!", "How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.? I hate our Homeowner's Association, and everyone I've spoken to from our neighborhood (more than five other homeowners) unanimously feel the same way. They're nit-picky. They're quick to point out that we have a single weed creeping up in our front yard. (This is not an exaggeration.) Meanwhile, our backyards are filled with the dead leaves of trees they planted in the model homes. There has been minimal communication from them in regards to common areas during the current pandemic.\n\nRecently, the H.O.A. rejected my simple backyard plans. We don't have enough trees or plants.\n\nWhat Life Pro Tips are out there regarding dealing with an H.O.A. like mine? I already intend to read through the entire manual tonight. If it helps, I live in Nevada.\n\nThanks in advance, and down with H.O.A. tyranny!", "How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.? I hate our Homeowner's Association, and everyone I've spoken to from our neighborhood (more than five other homeowners) unanimously feel the same way. They're nit-picky. They're quick to point out that we have a single weed creeping up in our front yard. (This is not an exaggeration.) Meanwhile, our backyards are filled with the dead leaves of trees they planted in the model homes. There has been minimal communication from them in regards to common areas during the current pandemic.\n\nRecently, the H.O.A. rejected my simple backyard plans. We don't have enough trees or plants.\n\nWhat Life Pro Tips are out there regarding dealing with an H.O.A. like mine? I already intend to read through the entire manual tonight. If it helps, I live in Nevada.\n\nThanks in advance, and down with H.O.A. tyranny!", "How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.? I hate our Homeowner's Association, and everyone I've spoken to from our neighborhood (more than five other homeowners) unanimously feel the same way. They're nit-picky. They're quick to point out that we have a single weed creeping up in our front yard. (This is not an exaggeration.) Meanwhile, our backyards are filled with the dead leaves of trees they planted in the model homes. There has been minimal communication from them in regards to common areas during the current pandemic.\n\nRecently, the H.O.A. rejected my simple backyard plans. We don't have enough trees or plants.\n\nWhat Life Pro Tips are out there regarding dealing with an H.O.A. like mine? I already intend to read through the entire manual tonight. If it helps, I live in Nevada.\n\nThanks in advance, and down with H.O.A. tyranny!" ]	[ "r/maliciouscompliance has some great examples of people dealing with HOA bullshit. Id check it out. I wish you best of luck", "Review the HOA’s rules, if they’re not up to date or incorporating your state’s current HOA Governing statutes, if they’re not up to date they’re unenforceable in court. It is also possible they’re enforcing rules too vigorously which places undue burden on the home owner and can be used against them in court. However you must document everything thoroughly if you go that route.\n\nIt is also possible if enough members get together to change some rules, but the method for changing rules is different depending on states and HOAs.", "You can vote the board out. You guys voted them in. People think theyre okay with HOAs until theyre stuck feeling like they live with their parents again and theyre the teenager.", "Post in /r/FuckHOA for specific help.\n\nOne way to kill a tree involves mylar helium balloons, steel wire, and a lightning storm. I think you can figure it out from there.", "> How Do I Deal with my H.O.A.?\n\nMove.\n\nThey’re probably crazy people who want to drag you down with them." ]	[ 7, 3, 2, 1, -1 ]	safe
[ "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone.", "How to not make it awkward when telling people about my diseased father? Sometimes I get people asking me about my parents, so I tell them that my father died of lung cancer. It makes things awkward every. Single. Time. And the fact that he died earlier this year doesn't really help.\n\nHow can I avoid getting people saying \"I'm sorry... I didn't know\" or \"Sorry about your lost\"? I know they're trying to be polite just in case, but it's really awkward for everyone." ]	[ "What people are trying to do is stir up conversation, and what you're doing is stopping that path. What you need to do keep the conversation going.\n\n\"He died earlier this year of lung cancer.\" (or whatever your line is)\n\n\"So sorry to hear that.\"\n\n\"It's OK. He lived a good life. Once he went to...\" and tell a funny or exciting or otherwise positive story. Get it off the fact that he died and on to a positive note. ", "I'm going through this too - and I understand this issue.\n\npart of me thinks this is the grieving process, but I sometimes head the awkwardness off of addressing it as I'm Communicating.\n\nie) \" My father passed a few months ago from cancer, its ok that you haven't heard, for some reason bad news travels more slowly\"\n\nIt sort of lets them off the hook for not knowing and the conversation can continue.", "Try to add some humor into it, works every time.\n\nPersonally my father passed 4 years ago and was a huge drug addict and abusive to me and my family when he was alive, so it's majorly awkward talking about him in general. But I always tell jokes about him, the conversations usually go like this:\n\nFriend: You never talk about your dad\n\nMe: Yeah, he died about \"x\" years ago.\n\nFriend: Sorry for your loss.\n\nMe: It's okay, dude was an idiot. Once he got drunk and pissed on a cop car before driving away. He woke up the next morning with a citation for \"public drunkenness\" with a picture of him and the cop car in the mail.\n\nGets people laughing and the convo usually shifts after that. Your scenario will probably be much different than mine. If you can't think of a funny story, maybe think of something he said that meant a lot to you.\n\nPractice here on Reddit if you want, post a funny story about him / meaningful quote that you can tell people. Also sorry for your loss, if you need someone to talk to shoot me a message.\n\n", "The word youre looking for is \"deceased\" and you can't really say it other than saying he passed away. Its always going to be awkward because most people dont know how to react to such a thing. ", "You could just say 'he's not around anymore.' And see if people leave it at that.\nPeople saying they are sorry, are actually trying to give you a chance to talk about it if you choose to.\nGive yourself some time to be uncomfortable, sad,angry.\nI was devastated watching my aunt die from cancer.", "It's less awkward when you have come to terms with it yourself. People always say \"my condolences\" or whatever because they're being nice. My response is always \"no worries, man\". I'm not saying that because I'm heartless, my dad was my best friend, and he died three years ago. \n\nIt's only as awkward as you make it. ", "I'm in a similar position - my dad died when I was very young. The best way I've found to talk about it in conversation is:\nPerson: So what does your dad do? (or whatever)\nMe: Actually, he died when I was three.\nPerson: Oh shit, I'm sorry.\nMe: No worries, you didn't know. Anyway... (Return to previous subject)\n\nI find a lot of the time when people say \"I'm sorry\" it's simoltaneously that they're sorry to hear it and an apology for bringing it up, and that neatly sweeps both under the table. Your sadness is obviously much fresher than mine, OP, but one small mercy I've found is that this does become easier with time. ", "\"My dad passed away\"\n\n\"How did he die?\"\n\n\"Well, he was sick for a while and it eventually got the better of him.\"\n\n\"ooh, I'm sorry. What did he have?\"\n\n\"Well, it's kind of a fresh loss and I hope you don't mind if I don't feel comfortable talking about it\"\n\nAnd if they're a decent human being at all, the answer will be something like \"No, not at all. I hope I wasn't being to nosey.\"\n\nThat's not awkward at all. You don't have to be super accurate or fill in every detail when talking about fairly private situations, particularly emotional ones." ]	[ 8, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Organize Your Thoughts Better in Conversation or When Writing? Has anyone ever find it difficult to convey what you're meaning to say to the other party?\n\n\n\nIt could be in conversation or in writing. As I constantly find it difficult to get other parties to fully understand what I am trying to convey.\n\n\n\nAppreciate any non-conventional practical tips, not the typical \"you should read more\", or \"you should write more\".\n\n\n\nThanks in advance! :D", "How to Organize Your Thoughts Better in Conversation or When Writing? Has anyone ever find it difficult to convey what you're meaning to say to the other party?\n\n\n\nIt could be in conversation or in writing. As I constantly find it difficult to get other parties to fully understand what I am trying to convey.\n\n\n\nAppreciate any non-conventional practical tips, not the typical \"you should read more\", or \"you should write more\".\n\n\n\nThanks in advance! :D" ]	[ "The biggest tip to help your writing is to first outline everything you write. Another tip is to read what you wrote out loud. If what you wrote sounds funny to you, chances are it'll be more confusing to someone else. \n\nKeeping sentences short and simple helps too. Writing in the active voice also helps.", "Slowing down can help. Don't be afraid of a couple second pause while you formulate your thoughts. Also this helps you not interrupt the other person if they haven't completely finished speaking. Increasing your vocabulary can help a lot too (reading helps with this but I won't suggest it ;)).\n\nAlso getting a full understanding of what you want to say. A lot of times people don't think through what they want to say, and start talking before they finish their thoughts." ]	[ 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Dealing with car headlights at night. Normally this isn't a huge deal for me, but I've been noticing more and more that car headlights really bother me when I'm driving at night. I drive a Toyota Corolla from 2006, and it's quite low to the ground, so I get the very worst of lights from in front and behind. I think newer cars are getting brighter and brighter, to the point were my car's brights would match them it seems.\n\nI know the trick of flipping the rear-view mirror to a different angle, and that helps, but it's only really useful on highways. For normal roads, head-on headlights, and those from behind, are awfully and sometimes painfully bright.\n\nWhat can I or someone else do to adequately adjust or handle headlights from other cars at night?", "Dealing with car headlights at night. Normally this isn't a huge deal for me, but I've been noticing more and more that car headlights really bother me when I'm driving at night. I drive a Toyota Corolla from 2006, and it's quite low to the ground, so I get the very worst of lights from in front and behind. I think newer cars are getting brighter and brighter, to the point were my car's brights would match them it seems.\n\nI know the trick of flipping the rear-view mirror to a different angle, and that helps, but it's only really useful on highways. For normal roads, head-on headlights, and those from behind, are awfully and sometimes painfully bright.\n\nWhat can I or someone else do to adequately adjust or handle headlights from other cars at night?", "Dealing with car headlights at night. Normally this isn't a huge deal for me, but I've been noticing more and more that car headlights really bother me when I'm driving at night. I drive a Toyota Corolla from 2006, and it's quite low to the ground, so I get the very worst of lights from in front and behind. I think newer cars are getting brighter and brighter, to the point were my car's brights would match them it seems.\n\nI know the trick of flipping the rear-view mirror to a different angle, and that helps, but it's only really useful on highways. For normal roads, head-on headlights, and those from behind, are awfully and sometimes painfully bright.\n\nWhat can I or someone else do to adequately adjust or handle headlights from other cars at night?", "Dealing with car headlights at night. Normally this isn't a huge deal for me, but I've been noticing more and more that car headlights really bother me when I'm driving at night. I drive a Toyota Corolla from 2006, and it's quite low to the ground, so I get the very worst of lights from in front and behind. I think newer cars are getting brighter and brighter, to the point were my car's brights would match them it seems.\n\nI know the trick of flipping the rear-view mirror to a different angle, and that helps, but it's only really useful on highways. For normal roads, head-on headlights, and those from behind, are awfully and sometimes painfully bright.\n\nWhat can I or someone else do to adequately adjust or handle headlights from other cars at night?", "Dealing with car headlights at night. Normally this isn't a huge deal for me, but I've been noticing more and more that car headlights really bother me when I'm driving at night. I drive a Toyota Corolla from 2006, and it's quite low to the ground, so I get the very worst of lights from in front and behind. I think newer cars are getting brighter and brighter, to the point were my car's brights would match them it seems.\n\nI know the trick of flipping the rear-view mirror to a different angle, and that helps, but it's only really useful on highways. For normal roads, head-on headlights, and those from behind, are awfully and sometimes painfully bright.\n\nWhat can I or someone else do to adequately adjust or handle headlights from other cars at night?" ]	[ "I totally interpreted your LPT to be blinded by someone's lights while stopped at a red light. \n\nI drive a Honda Civic which is low to the ground and I always get these asshats with their SUV's that are practically sitting on the left hash mark which makes their left headlight point directly into my driver-side rear-view mirror and blind me. \n\nWhat makes it so bad is, their SUV is sitting high and I'm sitting low and their headlights are pointed slightly downward. These SUV's sometimes get so close I can literally feel the heat from their headlights on my face. This happens with regularity. \n\nWhat I wind up doing is driving on top of the left hash mark just like they are doing. Sure, it puts me potentially in danger of getting close to the vehicle to my left, but that didn't seem to bother the SUV driver who is doing the exact same thing. \n\nI don't know why, but for some reason, they will stop driving on top of the left hash mark (they will be more towards the center of the lane where they should have been driving in the first place). But then, after I start driving in the center of the lane, they will go right back to driving on top of the left hash mark and start blinding me again. ", "I just look away at the painted line and focus on that til they pass.\n\nIf behind you, adjust the mirror slightly til you can get them in front of you \n\n", "First, make sure your windows are squeaky clean inside to reduce glare.\n\nYou can buy night-time driving glasses that have an amber tint to further reduce glare without hindering your night vision.\n\nAnd like someone already said, you can modify your observation technique a little by looking away towards the shoulder briefly.\n\nI drive a small hatchback and the car lights behind me can be brutal. Tailgating doesn't help either, guys. I'll just go slower. Stahp.", "To cut out the rear issue and light coming in from the side mirrors I put 5% tint all around and got a medical exemption from my eye doctor and then 50% over the windshield and put in led lights under my headlights to help see on dark unlit country roads. I have to roll my windows down when back up most of the time at night but other than that I haven't changed much about my driving going from 35% tint. I know it's not exactly what you were probably looking for but that's just my advice", "Get a set of yellow tinted glasses. Helps a lot and turns irritating white light Into a more suiting yellow" ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Organizing Windows' Sticky Notes I'm running Windows 8 and I currently have roughly 40 Windows Sticky Notes cluttering my desktop. I tried using [KeepNote](http://keepnote.org) but it is way too buggy. I was using it for work-related notes and KeepNote's database was corrupted and I lost everything. I love KeepNote. I really do. I just feel like I can't trust it anymore.\n\nWhat do you guys and gals use? I want to to take lots of quick notes throughout the day, maybe set due dates, and ideally have it be cross-platform for Android/iOS integration.", "Organizing Windows' Sticky Notes I'm running Windows 8 and I currently have roughly 40 Windows Sticky Notes cluttering my desktop. I tried using [KeepNote](http://keepnote.org) but it is way too buggy. I was using it for work-related notes and KeepNote's database was corrupted and I lost everything. I love KeepNote. I really do. I just feel like I can't trust it anymore.\n\nWhat do you guys and gals use? I want to to take lots of quick notes throughout the day, maybe set due dates, and ideally have it be cross-platform for Android/iOS integration.", "Organizing Windows' Sticky Notes I'm running Windows 8 and I currently have roughly 40 Windows Sticky Notes cluttering my desktop. I tried using [KeepNote](http://keepnote.org) but it is way too buggy. I was using it for work-related notes and KeepNote's database was corrupted and I lost everything. I love KeepNote. I really do. I just feel like I can't trust it anymore.\n\nWhat do you guys and gals use? I want to to take lots of quick notes throughout the day, maybe set due dates, and ideally have it be cross-platform for Android/iOS integration." ]	[ "Evernote is a good option, but my favorite note-keeping platform is Google Keep. It's like stickynotes, but you can archive them and easily search for keywords. You can also make them into checklists, which I do for grocery shopping lists. They've just recently updated it as well where you can share them with other people who use Keep. Another cool factor is that you can do text searches in pictures, so you could take a picture of a label or something and archive it and it would come up in searches for text within that picture! Neato! :) \n\nAnywho, check it out, it's my fave. I use it at home and at work for remembering all kinds of crap. ", "I think step 1 is to not use Windows Sticky Notes. It's the equivalent of having them on your desk: there are not persistent across platforms, locations, and are disorganized and easily misplaced.\n\nHave you looked into Evernote? It is on everything, you can set reminders if necessary, and it has a local copy of everything as well as syncing automatically to a server.", "if you are going to date files, go by yyyy/mm/dd. That way the first day/month of every year won't be together. You get all the same year, then month, then days in the propper order" ]	[ 5, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night.", "Ending conversations in social situations. At fundraisers or parties, etc. You may know a person a bit...strike up a convo...get through the normal chit-chat but now you need to move onto the next person/group. I have the toughest time w/ this. Especially if the person is a \"talker\". I don't want to offend - I also don't have all night." ]	[ "It was really nice to meet you/catch up with you/do some blow with you. (Hand over business card, shake hand) I'll see/call/talk to/smell you later. \n\nIt's as simple as that. ", "1) say \"I'm going to go get another drink/something to eat do you want anything?\" then head over to the refreshments and run into someone else you know. \n\n2) say, \"oh man that's an awesome story, have you met my friend ___, he would love to hear it\" then go introduce that person to someone else so they can talk and you can sneak away.\n\n3) say \"oh you know i just noticed ___ walked in, and I have to tell him/her something. do you mind if i catch you later? \" \n\n", "Personally, I don't know the answer to this, but I'd like to direct your attention to /r/socialskills, someone there might know the answer.", "Yikes I usually just nod and walk away when the conversation starts to lag... Have I been being horribly awkward all these years? Actually that wouldn't surprise me in the least now that I think about it.", "I once had a friend that was one of those circular breathing nonstop talkers. I was always too polite and just let him keep going and going. One day when another friend had enough he interrupted him and said rather dramatically \"I'm sorry, but I can't let you finish that sentence!\" Then he left without another word. ", "I usually just clamp my hands over my ears and yell nonsense at the top of my lungs until they go away. Works like a charm!", "I am someone who has never had problems with controlling social situations, although I have much sympathy for those who do.\n\n\nExactly how you handle these sorts of situations really depends upon exactly what it is you are trying to achieve in each situation, but I'll try to narrow things down and give some major rules. I'm going to base this solely on a situation of where you are trapped in a face to face conversation with someone who either does not know how to allow you to politely disengage from a conversation or who doesn't want to disengage because they want to talk at you (talkers need to have someone to talk at, after all.)\n\n\n1st, Smile and maintain eye contact. This is something that you should be doing throughout the night with everyone you meet and talk to anyway, but it is especially important here.\n\n\n2nd, While holding out your hand to be shaken, say \"Sorry, I'm needed elsewhere at the moment, but it's been really great talking with you.\" As soon as you release their hand, immediately move to leave the area, on a target to re-engage with another person across the room. As a bonus, if you shake their hand while using your off hand to control their elbow, you can actually use this to move them off to the side and away from you during your disengagement (that's a little VIP crowd control bonus tip for you.)\n\n\n3rd, If the person you are trying to disengage from tries to block this disengagement either through a wordy 'goodbye' or some other ploy, smile, hold up a hand to interrupt and say simply, \"Please, another time.\" Do not wait for them to give you permission to leave, you have given yourself permission. Be polite about it, but LEAVE.\n\n\nYou may find that this person will try to latch on to you again later in the night, but that is a different lesson, this should get you through 90% of all encounters.\n", "Strong acknowledgement. People need the three A's Approval, Acknowledgement & Acceptance. Simply acknowledge them well like \"That's Great!\" or \"I got that\" or even just Thank You. Then just say you need to move on. ", "Say in a way that implies that you understand they're in a rush..\n\n\"Well, I'll let you go but I'll catch you soon!\"\n\ninsert /smile /handshake /hug /wave\n\nIf they wanted the convo to end they'll be happy and if not, most people are too polite/cautious to correct you that they don't have any where to be!\n\nHas worked for me", "Please excuse me, I need to go to the bar/toilet/seak my wife. \n\nBar : if talking to someone who does drink\nToilet : if talking to the opposite sex\nWife : all around solution. ", "Just state what you are about to do, then disengage with a pleasantry:\n\n\"Well I'm gonna go cut my grass, good seeing you man.\"\n\n\"Alright well I gotta get back to work, take care bro\"", "Just draw another person into the conversation, and make give them a central role in your conversation. As long as you seem uninteresting, the talker will get more interested in the third person, and you can swiftly walk away without them even noticing.\nExample:\nTalker: And I really like to bake, do you?\nYou: Not really, but [3rd person], here really does\nTalker: Oh, really?\netc.\nHas saved me many times", "I just break them off with something like, \"I'm sorry to interrupt, but I really need to see <person>. I have to go find them. Can we continue this when I get back later?\" This could follow a couple of minutes of me listening while repeatedly looking at my watch, to pretend that I'm in a hurry but that I still really want to listen.", "\"I hate to do this because I'm really enjoying our chat, but I have to check in with some friends that are here. Let's catch up again a little later on.\" Something like that. Just make a point of saying how much it upsets you that you have to break away and that you value their conversation and want to pick it up again soon.", "\"Hey, you know, I'm gonna get another drink. I'll be back in a bit.\"\n\n\"That's awesome. I'm just gonna go check and see if Bob needs help with the food/drinks.\"\n\n\"Can you hang on one sec? I'm gonna change this song.\"\n\n\"Oh, I just spotted my friend Jim. I gotta go say hi to him.\"\n\n\"STOP TALKING. I GOTTA PISS.\"", "\"Hey, Bob, it was good to visit with you but I see someone I need to speak with. Would you excuse me?\"\n\nMost people aren't offended when you need to move on. Be friendly but assertive. It helps them to be more aware of their presence also." ]	[ 40, 21, 19, 8, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to trim your chest hair and not have it all scratchy for weeks afterwards? Every time I trim my chest hair it scratches for almost two weeks! I get that it's gonna scratch a bit, but 2-3 weeks after is excessive. ", "How to trim your chest hair and not have it all scratchy for weeks afterwards? Every time I trim my chest hair it scratches for almost two weeks! I get that it's gonna scratch a bit, but 2-3 weeks after is excessive. ", "How to trim your chest hair and not have it all scratchy for weeks afterwards? Every time I trim my chest hair it scratches for almost two weeks! I get that it's gonna scratch a bit, but 2-3 weeks after is excessive. ", "How to trim your chest hair and not have it all scratchy for weeks afterwards? Every time I trim my chest hair it scratches for almost two weeks! I get that it's gonna scratch a bit, but 2-3 weeks after is excessive. ", "How to trim your chest hair and not have it all scratchy for weeks afterwards? Every time I trim my chest hair it scratches for almost two weeks! I get that it's gonna scratch a bit, but 2-3 weeks after is excessive. " ]	[ "I personally prefer completely natural men. The whole shaving thing makes it prickly and uncomfortable to snuggle with", "Wax/nair. Shaving will\nMake the hair brittle. The others allow it to grow back from follicle, in its natural shape. ", "One of my friends boyfriends used to use conditioner on his chest hair to make it soft. Just a thought. Not sure of actual success. He had a full chest of hair. ", "If it's prickly you're trimming too short. If you're going to go that short just shave/wax it. (waxing is smoother and lasts longer)", "Waxing makes it softer. If you must go that route lather conditioner on it softens the hairs leave it set a few mins before the rinse. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]	safe
[ "What tends to help you understand sentences in lectures from professors with thick accents better? Even when he is saying every word technically correctly, the accent/cadence/timing/pronunciation can still throw me off. I find myself searching for the topic on youtube from an American accent professor b/c I'm more used to that sound but eventually won't be able to keep doing this\n\nOr maybe actually I will be able to keep doing this b/c lots of stuff is being put on youtube every year", "What tends to help you understand sentences in lectures from professors with thick accents better? Even when he is saying every word technically correctly, the accent/cadence/timing/pronunciation can still throw me off. I find myself searching for the topic on youtube from an American accent professor b/c I'm more used to that sound but eventually won't be able to keep doing this\n\nOr maybe actually I will be able to keep doing this b/c lots of stuff is being put on youtube every year", "What tends to help you understand sentences in lectures from professors with thick accents better? Even when he is saying every word technically correctly, the accent/cadence/timing/pronunciation can still throw me off. I find myself searching for the topic on youtube from an American accent professor b/c I'm more used to that sound but eventually won't be able to keep doing this\n\nOr maybe actually I will be able to keep doing this b/c lots of stuff is being put on youtube every year" ]	[ "Watch an English language movie with an actor with a similar accent. You can rewind and re-listen to get an understanding. I live somewhere that everyone has a pretty thick accent and the more you experience it the more you understand it.", "So… now you have a very good understanding of what the elderly go through when they are cared for by people with accents. And since some elderly people do not respond quickly to instructions by people they don’t understand they are labeled as having cognitive issues such as dementia/Alzheimer’s. This happens a lot!!", "I would try to get a one on one with the lecturer. It's much easier to listen to a particular accent in a large room setting when you E had the chance to listen in a quiet room one on one. Ask about the course work and for him/her to explain again if they wouldn't mind because you're not getting it" ]	[ 6, 4, 2 ]	safe
[ "College Dropouts \nFellow redditors and more specifically, college dropouts. \n\nDo you mention anything about college education in your resume, even if you didn’t graduate? \n\nI only had 2-3 semesters left for my B.S in mechanical engineering when I dropped out to work full time. I’ve been in the engineering field for roughly 8 years since. I’m thinking about applying to another job, but I’m not sure if I can convey the fact that I’m experienced, despite not finishing my degree. \n\nHow do some of you deal with this?", "College Dropouts \nFellow redditors and more specifically, college dropouts. \n\nDo you mention anything about college education in your resume, even if you didn’t graduate? \n\nI only had 2-3 semesters left for my B.S in mechanical engineering when I dropped out to work full time. I’ve been in the engineering field for roughly 8 years since. I’m thinking about applying to another job, but I’m not sure if I can convey the fact that I’m experienced, despite not finishing my degree. \n\nHow do some of you deal with this?", "College Dropouts \nFellow redditors and more specifically, college dropouts. \n\nDo you mention anything about college education in your resume, even if you didn’t graduate? \n\nI only had 2-3 semesters left for my B.S in mechanical engineering when I dropped out to work full time. I’ve been in the engineering field for roughly 8 years since. I’m thinking about applying to another job, but I’m not sure if I can convey the fact that I’m experienced, despite not finishing my degree. \n\nHow do some of you deal with this?" ]	[ "List your experience first on resume, then list the name of the school. Don't indicate you graduated, just let them assume, never lie in a job interview if you're asked though.", "Don't use the expression \"drop out\". You left for a better opportunity and saw it through. I would just stick to the facts if I were you.", "Certainly not in the education section. I might mention it in the covering letter, or if I think they're expecting a gapless work history from end of education to now.\n\n/dropped out of two BSc and two MSc. Still don't have any qualifications higher than a-levels." ]	[ 6, 3, 2 ]	safe
[ "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?", "How to combat the smell of cigarette smoke I live with a smoker and no matter what I do my room always smells like cigarettes. It gets in my clothes and makes me feel sick. I've asked him to stop smoking in the house numerous times but he refuses. What can I do?" ]	[ "Ozium should work well. Or you could move/kick him out.\n\nI'm not a smoker and my two roomies are. The rule is if they want to live here, they smoke outside.", "Ugh. If possible, get rid of the roommate. Alternatively, see if you can get the roommate to convert to vaping. Less stink, and they can still get their addiction fix.", "Learn to play the violin, then offer a truce, no violin practice as long as he smokes outside.\n\nAnd what kind of dick smokes inside if other members of the household are put off by it? Nevermind, I know dicks like this, they're real assholes, and as a consequence, not part of my life except when unavoidable. \n\nHad a friend who lit up in my house years ago, I told him to put it out, he said make me. I made him by picking him up and walking out to my front porch and throwing him the 4 feet to the ground below. I have been known to have impulse control issues.", "start burning popcorn in the microwave 3-5 times a day. if he wants your stink to go, his has to go. ", "sorry i forgot what its called, but google air purifiers. my buddy got this black one with a white ring on the front. bitch clears the air quick. you could put it where he/she smokes, or in your room for a smoke free oasis.", "Sounds like you need LPTs about boundaries. In the meantime, try using coffee grounds placed in small bowls, as well as sprinkling baking soda on the carpet then vaccuming it up. ", "If your roommate isn't showing you common courtesy, it's time to look for a new one. Seriously.\n\nI smoke in my house, but if I'm having non-smokers over for dinner, I won't smoke in the house that day. If weather permits, I'll keep the windows open all day. And I will spend the day wiping down the leather furniture, febrezing the curtains, and burning candles and incense so that they have a good experience without being overwhelmed by the effects of my horrible habit.\n\nTo me, all this is just part of being a gracious host. If I had a non-smoking roommate, I wouldn't smoke in my house. It's rude.\n\nAlso, it's not fair for him to expect you to spend money getting rid of the smell. Make him do it. Tell him if he's going to continue to smoke in the house, he has to confine it to his own bedroom AND he has to buy you an air purifier so that you and your belongings don't smell like smoke. Fair is fair.", "put in a charcoal activated furnace filter, my roommate is a smoker (in his room) and its cut down the smell massively ", "The best way to get the smell of smoke out of your clothes is to hang them in the bathroom while you shower. The steam helps release the smell.\n", "I have heard that a small bowl of white vinegar left out for 24 hours in a room will eliminate odors. I lost my sense of smell about a decade ago, so I can't give you a definite on that. ", "You should check your living contract, lots of places write that it is a breach of contract if you smoke in the building. If you boil lemons or strong smelling things like lavender or potpourri in a pan of water and leave it to boil that can work really well!", "OP : You could always take [measures into your own hands...](http://www.amazon.com/Cigarette-Exploding-Loads-Prank-1-Pack/dp/B001MKCQH2/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1453481108&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=prop+exploding+cigars)", "I love smokers that claim that smoking is a constitutional right. The Supreme Court laughs in their general direction.", "step 1. buy crack\nstep 2. plant crack in roommate's room\nstep 3. call police under suspicion that roommate is selling crack.\nstep 4. give roommate creepy smirk \nFRESH AIR !!! ", "I deal with a similar issue. My chick smokes. I tell her that if she gets a trecheotomy that I am going to fuck it. If I am with her in the store when she buys cigarettes, I tell the cashier not to sell them to her because I am (asthmatic, cancer survivor, allergic) and she blows the smoke in my face.\n\nNow I just let her have her fun knoeing that I will end up with cancer, because that is my luck." ]	[ 21, 6, 6, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0, -1, -2, -7 ]	safe
[ "Need help getting kids to stop littering on my porch. I live near a high school and have a set of steps leading up to my front door. When I come home from work, I often find trash (candy wrappers, drink cups) or cigarette buts on my steps or porch from kids who seem to hang out there during the day.\nBy the time I come from work, school’s over and they are gone, and if I ever happen to be home, I shoo them away (nicely, but still firmly). I have asked the school for help but they said that once students are outside of the school building, they cannot control where they spend their 30 min lunch.\nCan anyone think of anything to install or put on my porch to dissuade people from congregating there? Some sort of sonic device for teenagers haha? Thanks!\n\nTL;DR: I want kids to stop hanging out on my porch and steps while I’m at work.", "Need help getting kids to stop littering on my porch. I live near a high school and have a set of steps leading up to my front door. When I come home from work, I often find trash (candy wrappers, drink cups) or cigarette buts on my steps or porch from kids who seem to hang out there during the day.\nBy the time I come from work, school’s over and they are gone, and if I ever happen to be home, I shoo them away (nicely, but still firmly). I have asked the school for help but they said that once students are outside of the school building, they cannot control where they spend their 30 min lunch.\nCan anyone think of anything to install or put on my porch to dissuade people from congregating there? Some sort of sonic device for teenagers haha? Thanks!\n\nTL;DR: I want kids to stop hanging out on my porch and steps while I’m at work.", "Need help getting kids to stop littering on my porch. I live near a high school and have a set of steps leading up to my front door. When I come home from work, I often find trash (candy wrappers, drink cups) or cigarette buts on my steps or porch from kids who seem to hang out there during the day.\nBy the time I come from work, school’s over and they are gone, and if I ever happen to be home, I shoo them away (nicely, but still firmly). I have asked the school for help but they said that once students are outside of the school building, they cannot control where they spend their 30 min lunch.\nCan anyone think of anything to install or put on my porch to dissuade people from congregating there? Some sort of sonic device for teenagers haha? Thanks!\n\nTL;DR: I want kids to stop hanging out on my porch and steps while I’m at work.", "Need help getting kids to stop littering on my porch. I live near a high school and have a set of steps leading up to my front door. When I come home from work, I often find trash (candy wrappers, drink cups) or cigarette buts on my steps or porch from kids who seem to hang out there during the day.\nBy the time I come from work, school’s over and they are gone, and if I ever happen to be home, I shoo them away (nicely, but still firmly). I have asked the school for help but they said that once students are outside of the school building, they cannot control where they spend their 30 min lunch.\nCan anyone think of anything to install or put on my porch to dissuade people from congregating there? Some sort of sonic device for teenagers haha? Thanks!\n\nTL;DR: I want kids to stop hanging out on my porch and steps while I’m at work.", "Need help getting kids to stop littering on my porch. I live near a high school and have a set of steps leading up to my front door. When I come home from work, I often find trash (candy wrappers, drink cups) or cigarette buts on my steps or porch from kids who seem to hang out there during the day.\nBy the time I come from work, school’s over and they are gone, and if I ever happen to be home, I shoo them away (nicely, but still firmly). I have asked the school for help but they said that once students are outside of the school building, they cannot control where they spend their 30 min lunch.\nCan anyone think of anything to install or put on my porch to dissuade people from congregating there? Some sort of sonic device for teenagers haha? Thanks!\n\nTL;DR: I want kids to stop hanging out on my porch and steps while I’m at work." ]	[ "put a timer on a sprinkler set for their lunch time. Once they find a new spot after a few days you can put it away.", "You could grease the edges of the steps and wall so they won't want to sit there. It's extreme, but I've seen it done before. ", "This might be excessive, but I've used an app called WardenCam to do motion detection based video recording and to remotely yell at someone while away. Have an old phone and an external speaker to plug into it? You can at least show the video to the police/school if the weird voice coming from the phone doesn't shoo them away.", "classical music\nhttp://latimesblogs.latimes.com/culturemonster/2011/04/classical-music-still-works-at-dispersing-loitering-teens-.html", "Can you put up a fence? Do you have to use the steps or do you go on through a different door? Shit, callthe cops on them for trespassing " ]	[ 3, 3, 3, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Prevent car windows fogging in cold weather It's constantly -15 to 0 °C (or 5-32 °F) where I live in winter, and my current car has insane fogging issues that no other car I've owned had.\n\nAny time I power off the car and stay inside it, it takes no longer than 2 minutes for all the windows to completely fog up, and then I have to spend 5 more minutes once I start the car to get them all to de-fog which wastes a ton of fuel idling the engine.\n\nI've cleaned the windows thoroughly, and try to remember to air out the car after every long drive to let all the humid air out, but it doesn't really help. Opening the windows even a bit while I'm waiting isn't really an option either as I'd be freezing in minutes ^((and one of the windows doesn't work)). I've seen some anti-fog sprays online, but was told by friends that they stop working pretty quickly, and once they do, the problem gets even worse than if I hadn't applied anything in the first place.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIs there something else I'm missing that would help with this problem?", "Prevent car windows fogging in cold weather It's constantly -15 to 0 °C (or 5-32 °F) where I live in winter, and my current car has insane fogging issues that no other car I've owned had.\n\nAny time I power off the car and stay inside it, it takes no longer than 2 minutes for all the windows to completely fog up, and then I have to spend 5 more minutes once I start the car to get them all to de-fog which wastes a ton of fuel idling the engine.\n\nI've cleaned the windows thoroughly, and try to remember to air out the car after every long drive to let all the humid air out, but it doesn't really help. Opening the windows even a bit while I'm waiting isn't really an option either as I'd be freezing in minutes ^((and one of the windows doesn't work)). I've seen some anti-fog sprays online, but was told by friends that they stop working pretty quickly, and once they do, the problem gets even worse than if I hadn't applied anything in the first place.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIs there something else I'm missing that would help with this problem?", "Prevent car windows fogging in cold weather It's constantly -15 to 0 °C (or 5-32 °F) where I live in winter, and my current car has insane fogging issues that no other car I've owned had.\n\nAny time I power off the car and stay inside it, it takes no longer than 2 minutes for all the windows to completely fog up, and then I have to spend 5 more minutes once I start the car to get them all to de-fog which wastes a ton of fuel idling the engine.\n\nI've cleaned the windows thoroughly, and try to remember to air out the car after every long drive to let all the humid air out, but it doesn't really help. Opening the windows even a bit while I'm waiting isn't really an option either as I'd be freezing in minutes ^((and one of the windows doesn't work)). I've seen some anti-fog sprays online, but was told by friends that they stop working pretty quickly, and once they do, the problem gets even worse than if I hadn't applied anything in the first place.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIs there something else I'm missing that would help with this problem?", "Prevent car windows fogging in cold weather It's constantly -15 to 0 °C (or 5-32 °F) where I live in winter, and my current car has insane fogging issues that no other car I've owned had.\n\nAny time I power off the car and stay inside it, it takes no longer than 2 minutes for all the windows to completely fog up, and then I have to spend 5 more minutes once I start the car to get them all to de-fog which wastes a ton of fuel idling the engine.\n\nI've cleaned the windows thoroughly, and try to remember to air out the car after every long drive to let all the humid air out, but it doesn't really help. Opening the windows even a bit while I'm waiting isn't really an option either as I'd be freezing in minutes ^((and one of the windows doesn't work)). I've seen some anti-fog sprays online, but was told by friends that they stop working pretty quickly, and once they do, the problem gets even worse than if I hadn't applied anything in the first place.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nIs there something else I'm missing that would help with this problem?" ]	[ "While the car is on, AC on low, temp set to heat, blower on medium/high, air exchange NOT on recirculate. Fog will clear quickly. \n\nRainex window cleaner is pretty good, but moisture will condense on the cold glass no matter what. Your body gives off moisture all the time. Keeping your air exchange set to recirculate keeps that moisture in the car.", "I keep a little dehumidifier in my car. The plastic tub with the magic beads. I’m not sure how to describe it. That has solved my problem.", "There seems to be a large amount of water already in the car. Perhaps there’s a leak? Warm the whole car up, then open the windows to exchange the warm moist air with cold, dry air. Then close the windows, warm up, repeat. Do this for a few days. There are dehumidifying boxes to use and a bag of stuff that absorbs moisture, then you heat it up in the microwave and dry it (outside preferably). Take a cloth in to absorb the moisture from the windows, take it out to dry it and keep doing that. At some point you’ll have removed all the moisture and you can scale down the activities to just keep on top of it. Good luck.", "If you're staying in the car the most likely culprit is your own breath, humans exhale a surprisingly large amount of moisture. Crack the windows if you have to stay in the vehicle, or use a facemask to minimize the breathe vapor.\n\nIf it occurs without you in the car, have your heater core checked, it may have a pinhole leak that's making it work like a humidifier." ]	[ 6, 4, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Just what are they telling me to do...? Hello, 26 year old man, graduated college 2 years ago, just got out of retail, studying to be a web developer. I have doubts. Non-stop doubts. I see hear so many people saying \"don't dread yourself working job you hate, I've done it for years I totally regret it.\" \"Find a job you enjoy!\", \"follow your passion\"....etc.\n\nLook I wanna do something I love to. I would pour everything for it, work really hard and be proud of my accomplishment. I want to do it too damn it but I don't know what the hell it is! I've contemplating and worrying for years. I like to listen to music, and currently learning to digital draw and paint because I've always loved art but I'm not really good at it and I don't want something like this to be a job because it's something more personal as hobby.\n\nI have 46k in debt and decided to study to be web developer as it seems friendly in self-taught route but I'm not really passionate about it. Heck I'm not even good at it as it's more logical side of career but I do need to get into something and I'd hate to go for some mindless job just to get stressed out everyday.\n\nI want to do something I love. But I don't have it. It's seriously killing me that I hear about people doing something they like and I seriously hate myself for being in this situation that I'm studying web dev on and off due to doubts. It's like I'm forcing myself all the time.\n\nHow do I deal with this...", "Just what are they telling me to do...? Hello, 26 year old man, graduated college 2 years ago, just got out of retail, studying to be a web developer. I have doubts. Non-stop doubts. I see hear so many people saying \"don't dread yourself working job you hate, I've done it for years I totally regret it.\" \"Find a job you enjoy!\", \"follow your passion\"....etc.\n\nLook I wanna do something I love to. I would pour everything for it, work really hard and be proud of my accomplishment. I want to do it too damn it but I don't know what the hell it is! I've contemplating and worrying for years. I like to listen to music, and currently learning to digital draw and paint because I've always loved art but I'm not really good at it and I don't want something like this to be a job because it's something more personal as hobby.\n\nI have 46k in debt and decided to study to be web developer as it seems friendly in self-taught route but I'm not really passionate about it. Heck I'm not even good at it as it's more logical side of career but I do need to get into something and I'd hate to go for some mindless job just to get stressed out everyday.\n\nI want to do something I love. But I don't have it. It's seriously killing me that I hear about people doing something they like and I seriously hate myself for being in this situation that I'm studying web dev on and off due to doubts. It's like I'm forcing myself all the time.\n\nHow do I deal with this...", "Just what are they telling me to do...? Hello, 26 year old man, graduated college 2 years ago, just got out of retail, studying to be a web developer. I have doubts. Non-stop doubts. I see hear so many people saying \"don't dread yourself working job you hate, I've done it for years I totally regret it.\" \"Find a job you enjoy!\", \"follow your passion\"....etc.\n\nLook I wanna do something I love to. I would pour everything for it, work really hard and be proud of my accomplishment. I want to do it too damn it but I don't know what the hell it is! I've contemplating and worrying for years. I like to listen to music, and currently learning to digital draw and paint because I've always loved art but I'm not really good at it and I don't want something like this to be a job because it's something more personal as hobby.\n\nI have 46k in debt and decided to study to be web developer as it seems friendly in self-taught route but I'm not really passionate about it. Heck I'm not even good at it as it's more logical side of career but I do need to get into something and I'd hate to go for some mindless job just to get stressed out everyday.\n\nI want to do something I love. But I don't have it. It's seriously killing me that I hear about people doing something they like and I seriously hate myself for being in this situation that I'm studying web dev on and off due to doubts. It's like I'm forcing myself all the time.\n\nHow do I deal with this...", "Just what are they telling me to do...? Hello, 26 year old man, graduated college 2 years ago, just got out of retail, studying to be a web developer. I have doubts. Non-stop doubts. I see hear so many people saying \"don't dread yourself working job you hate, I've done it for years I totally regret it.\" \"Find a job you enjoy!\", \"follow your passion\"....etc.\n\nLook I wanna do something I love to. I would pour everything for it, work really hard and be proud of my accomplishment. I want to do it too damn it but I don't know what the hell it is! I've contemplating and worrying for years. I like to listen to music, and currently learning to digital draw and paint because I've always loved art but I'm not really good at it and I don't want something like this to be a job because it's something more personal as hobby.\n\nI have 46k in debt and decided to study to be web developer as it seems friendly in self-taught route but I'm not really passionate about it. Heck I'm not even good at it as it's more logical side of career but I do need to get into something and I'd hate to go for some mindless job just to get stressed out everyday.\n\nI want to do something I love. But I don't have it. It's seriously killing me that I hear about people doing something they like and I seriously hate myself for being in this situation that I'm studying web dev on and off due to doubts. It's like I'm forcing myself all the time.\n\nHow do I deal with this..." ]	[ "Realize you’re human. College isn’t for everyone especially what it’s turned into. But think of this as the fire to stoke and find that thing you love. Smoke weed every now and again. Experiment with new things. Understand you are not alone. ", "It’s not easy. My wife went to school for 4 years, and dropped out with no degree. After 3 or 4 years she discovered she loved history. She went back to school for 2 more years then, and works as an archivist now. That being said, she still has hard days, and has to do things she doesn’t want to, while working in this job. But for the most part she enjoys it. \n\nI don’t have much advice for finding the career that suits you, maybe try doing some personality profiles. With something like they they usually give you some ideas of jobs that would be a fit for your personality. Also think about what you have liked about the retail jobs, or the good parts about web design. Maybe it is working with people, or planning. Then HR or Project management could be a path to take. ", "Instead of trying to find a passion, make some tangible goals for yourself at your current state, and work on them one at a time. Try an one day goal, then a goal for the following week, then the following month, and keep letting the goals become more long term. That's a better trajectory to follow than trying to find a passion.\n\nPassion has become such a buzz word that I believed in it for so many years until I did my dream job and hated it. I realized work was not created to satisfy us, but we were created to work (we spend the most amount of time in our lives on working).\n\nYou know the saying, \"do what you love and you'll never have to work a day in your life\"? That's complete bullcrap, if you don't work, you probably don't really love it. And when I make something I love into work I find that it typically diminishes my love for it. Work is not supposed to be fun and games, it's work for a reason.", "Hey man, it's okay not to know who you wanna be yet. If you need to take some time to figure that out, you can always take time to figure it out. Just don't do that while you have a job you hate or you'll be needlessly miserable the whole time. Just make sure you don't let your planning turn into procrastination! The most important step of any journey is starting it." ]	[ 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How to Improve My Casual Wardrobe Hey all, not sure if there's a different subreddit that this would be more suited to. Pretty new to the site. But I am a 24 year old male, fairly athletic and slender in build. 6'4\" and about 195 lbs. I'm looking for advice on how to improve my casual wardrobe. At the moment, its what I would consider man-childish. Most of the time I'm wearing cargo shorts or basic, fitted jeans, with a T-shirt of a sporting brand, mostly Under Armour. And my shoes are exclusively athletic shoes such as running/training. I love my clothes and they are really comfortable, but I definitely feel like I need to change it up a bit to look more...\"classy\" I guess. I've read through some blogs/articles from basic Google searches but I am just extremely unfamiliar with all of the stuff that people are talking about in these things. Can anyone recommend me some good places to start evaluating?", "How to Improve My Casual Wardrobe Hey all, not sure if there's a different subreddit that this would be more suited to. Pretty new to the site. But I am a 24 year old male, fairly athletic and slender in build. 6'4\" and about 195 lbs. I'm looking for advice on how to improve my casual wardrobe. At the moment, its what I would consider man-childish. Most of the time I'm wearing cargo shorts or basic, fitted jeans, with a T-shirt of a sporting brand, mostly Under Armour. And my shoes are exclusively athletic shoes such as running/training. I love my clothes and they are really comfortable, but I definitely feel like I need to change it up a bit to look more...\"classy\" I guess. I've read through some blogs/articles from basic Google searches but I am just extremely unfamiliar with all of the stuff that people are talking about in these things. Can anyone recommend me some good places to start evaluating?", "How to Improve My Casual Wardrobe Hey all, not sure if there's a different subreddit that this would be more suited to. Pretty new to the site. But I am a 24 year old male, fairly athletic and slender in build. 6'4\" and about 195 lbs. I'm looking for advice on how to improve my casual wardrobe. At the moment, its what I would consider man-childish. Most of the time I'm wearing cargo shorts or basic, fitted jeans, with a T-shirt of a sporting brand, mostly Under Armour. And my shoes are exclusively athletic shoes such as running/training. I love my clothes and they are really comfortable, but I definitely feel like I need to change it up a bit to look more...\"classy\" I guess. I've read through some blogs/articles from basic Google searches but I am just extremely unfamiliar with all of the stuff that people are talking about in these things. Can anyone recommend me some good places to start evaluating?" ]	[ "Check out Bannana Republic and J Crew, they offer a lot of casual wear for reasonable prices. The basics would be some khakis and chinos, available in various colors, but the go-to for me is some brown/tans and then a couple black/grey. They can mix with just about every shirt. Then of course you will want a black and a brown belt, same with shoes. Nice polos are great for casual summer, and of course a few button down shirts. \n\nIt will be weird at first, you will feel overly dressed, but once you go out a few times and \"look\" like an adult you will come to appreciate it. Often times you can ask store employees to help match stuff up and see what you like as well. \n\nOr, if you're in a time crunch, get a good gay friend, they can normally have an entire wardrobe picked out for you in moments that will def have you styled.", "You are pretty tall and athletically built, so you have an aesthetic advantage when it comes to appearances. Slim fitting clothes will accentuate the fact that you are in good shape, so (as long as YOU are comfortable) leaning towards those cuts will be flattering on you. The sidebar links on /r/frugalmalefashion are chock full of good stuff. \n\nSince you noted that you're looking at your casual wardrobe, a step up from the jeans + underarmour tshirt + sneakers could look something like:\n\n[J Crew Chinos, $20 with 32/34 size still available](https://www.jcrew.com/p/ast/navigation/sale/allproducts/lightweight-chino-in-770-fit/23899?sale=true&isFromSale=true&color_name=khaki&N=21+16&Nloc=en&Ntrm=&Npge=2&Nrpp=60&Nsrt=1&hasSplitResults=false)\n\nBrown leather belt\n\nV neck t shirts (for athletic dudes v-necks seem to be a bit more flattering/chiseling than crew neck). H&M always has v necks in like 8 different colors for about $7 bucks a pop.\n\nSome short of suede buck shoe (i.e. Cole Haan makes some nice affordable ones)\n\nNice socks (a small yet underrated touch)\n", "Above comment was good. I'd reccomend pac sun and H&M's too. Just pick up a couple snug fitting pair of pants and some nice looking plain shirts of different colors and you'll be set. It's a little awkward at first but once you develop your style you're set. " ]	[ 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "how to live one-day-at-a-time when you have major decisions on the horizon I have a couple very major life decisions coming up in the near future. The thing is, there's nothing I can do at the moment that will impact these decisions and nothing I can do right now to help me make a more informed decision (for example, I may have a job offer in another state but at this point there's nothing more to do for that, it's just a pending offer).\n\nIn the present though, these future decisions are stressing me out unnecessarily. They're consuming a lot of my thoughts and mental energy. I'm trying to live in the moment and not really stress over these decisions until it's closer to when I'll have to make these decisions. I would welcome any LPTs that you all have for taking life one day at a time and not stressing over future decisions (when the stress itself is not productive).", "how to live one-day-at-a-time when you have major decisions on the horizon I have a couple very major life decisions coming up in the near future. The thing is, there's nothing I can do at the moment that will impact these decisions and nothing I can do right now to help me make a more informed decision (for example, I may have a job offer in another state but at this point there's nothing more to do for that, it's just a pending offer).\n\nIn the present though, these future decisions are stressing me out unnecessarily. They're consuming a lot of my thoughts and mental energy. I'm trying to live in the moment and not really stress over these decisions until it's closer to when I'll have to make these decisions. I would welcome any LPTs that you all have for taking life one day at a time and not stressing over future decisions (when the stress itself is not productive)." ]	[ "/r/Stoicism might be a good start.\n\n\nIn practical terms. It looks to me like your stress is more from perceived powerlessness. You can't do anything right now, you're just waiting. What you can do is put in place contingency plans for both sides of each decision. If I go to another state I will need a, b, c. If I stay I will need d, e, f. You will feel much more in control. ", "You need to decide now do you want to take a job and move to different state, start working out the logistics assume you are going to accept it. That should keep you busy. Look for places to visit once you move." ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "I got fake tanner on my white workout clothes Now they’re all stained and gross looking.\n\nHow do I get it out? \n\nAlso if someone knows a better sub for this question, I am open to hearing it!", "I got fake tanner on my white workout clothes Now they’re all stained and gross looking.\n\nHow do I get it out? \n\nAlso if someone knows a better sub for this question, I am open to hearing it!", "I got fake tanner on my white workout clothes Now they’re all stained and gross looking.\n\nHow do I get it out? \n\nAlso if someone knows a better sub for this question, I am open to hearing it!", "I got fake tanner on my white workout clothes Now they’re all stained and gross looking.\n\nHow do I get it out? \n\nAlso if someone knows a better sub for this question, I am open to hearing it!" ]	[ "Jolie Kerr is pretty fantastic when it comes to this stuff, if you google her name and your cleaning issue, she’s probably written an article somewhere about how to clean it. \n\nHere’s a [relevant article](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.racked.com/platform/amp/2015/8/14/9130637/get-makeup-stains-out-of-clothes).", "What’s in that fake tan stuff? Does it actually soak into your skin? I guess the real person to answer this would be the Cheeto ransacking the White House, I noticed he had a bunch rub off onto his collar, he would be the guy to ask.", "Scrub it with white toothpaste! I’ve used the rough side of sponge or toothbrush and both work great!", "I’m not sure if it’s available in your country, but try either (or both) Napisan or a Sard wonder stick. Leave it soak in Napisan for a couple of days and then was as usual (or use the Sard wonder stick, let it sit for an hour and then wash it). Make sure you don’t throw it in the dryer as it can help to set the stain. I hope it helps 🤞" ]	[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?).", "How can I reduce the cost of electricity in my apartment? I just moved to AZ where my AC is running 24/7. My bill for next month is projected to be $370 and my apartment is around 1300 sq ft. I have never had an electric bill this ridiculous in my life. I plan on getting black out curtains for the whole house and some white lattice for my porch in hopes that will keep some heat from coming in the patio door, but I'm debating turning off power to some rooms when they aren't in use to keep this electric bill down. The apartment is fairly old and the outlets seem pretty old. Should I pay an electrician to replace them for newer ones? Idk if old outlets take more power(?)." ]	[ "No, old outlets don't take more power. Just get a more efficient airconditioner.\n\nActually heavy _white_ curtains on the outside to reflect the heat, blackout curtains on the inside. I'd even try foil on your windows, but around here that means you're growing weed so I dunno. \n\nBut absolutely, turn off all lights in rooms you're not using. If you have window airconditioners and each room is somewhat sealed, yeah, turn off the AC in each room when you're not going to be using them for a while. Or just the doors open just keep the ac going in the room you're \"in\".", "Don't buy new outlets, that won't do anything. You want a reflective colour facing the outside for curtains, of course switching all lights to LEDS will majorly reduce your bill. You can also buy dimmers which essentially let less electricity flow to the light. You could try running the AC lower, and simply placing a fan in places where you normally sit/sleep.", "Get some door/window sealer strips, caulk, tape anything. Seal doors and Windows best you can. Follow the rest of the advice here and you should be fine. \nAlso! Humidity = Heat \nGo crazy with the damp rid buckets. 2-3 for small rooms. 5-10 for large rooms / wet rooms like living roomS and bathrooms. \n\nYour space will feel like new for around a 50$ investment.", "Changing outlets will not help. \nCutting usage may help. \nHowever, most of your bill is AC, so closing off rooms you don't use. Vents & doors, will save some. \nRaise the temp setting on your thermostat to the max you can stand. 75 good, 78 better, 80+ best. \nSee other responses for the blackout/whiteouside curtains. \n\n\nHow cool does it get at night? One thing that can help, is to open all your outer doors & windows, with fans running to push/pull air through your apartment at night. This will cool everything down. Then early in the morning, close the doors and windows. Shut off all the fans but the ones that blow on you. Close the curtains.", "Turn the temperature up on the thermostat more when you're not home. I think around 84 degrees is the most efficient, since it does take a lot of energy to bring the temperature back down once you get home.\n\nUse a less cold setting on your fridge/freezer\n\nUse energy saving lightbulbs\n\nTurn lights off if you're not in that room\n\nResearch \"peak times\" for your energy company and plan accordingly. Electricity costs more at certain times of day, so try to do things like laundry/ run the dishwasher when it's least expensive.\n\nGo on your electricity company's website and see if it shows any ways to save. I know APS has certain \"energy plans\" to help you save.\n\nUtility assistance programs in your city/state.", "Not saying this will solve the problem, but it may help: I haven’t used the air conditioner yet this summer (admittedly I live on the east coast). I keep like 10 blue-ice paks in the freezer. I take two at a time and put them somewhere near me: inside my pillowcase, in my clothes, behind my neck while I’m sitting, on top of my chest when I’m lying down on my back, under my side when on my side. If they’re too cold, I move them around a lot. When they aren’t cold anymore, I switch them out. If I put them on like my wrist or neck, the cool blood underneath circulates all over. I figure, I’d rather keep the air right next to my body really cold than try but fail to cool off the entire room. I pay for my freezer to stay frozen all day; this way I get the benefit, too. People think it’ll give you frostbite. It doesn’t. It just keeps you cool.\n\n", "New outlets won’t do anything. Some AC units are higher efficiency, is it a window unit or central AC ? Do you have a power meter that you can read ? Make sure someone is not siphoning you electricity. Ask other tenants what they pay. I have 3200 sq ft home in Texas and pay only 400 tops in July, aug. your apt may be poorly insulated. What do you keep temp set to ?", "\\#1. Put some car window tinting on the inside of your windows.#2. have your A/C professionally cleaned serviced #3. Move to a unit that faces South so you don’t get baked by heat. Your unit must be facing West so the Sun is baking you all day. No wonder it was unoccupied", "Raise the temp by 3 degrees. Get a smart thermostat that you can set to either have it on super low or off when you know you won’t be home and have it start at least and hour less before you arrive. Remote control through your phone will help in times when you’re out and then decide to come home. Log in and have it start up as you’re leaving so it’s ready by time you get home.", "One thing that may help is a humidifier or two. It might make the apartment easier to cool and it feels cooler with more water in the air. I could be totally wrong for where you are but it works in Colorado", "If your place feels cool/comfortable but the AC is constantly running, there might not be enough air flow to your thermostat. There was a dead spot (in terms of air flow) right in front of my thermostat. A cheap box fan set to low in the general area will get the air moving and provide a more accurate temperature reading for your thermostat to work with. \n\nBonus tip:\nI also had a hot water leak in my slab that caused the temperature in my bathroom to rise significantly. I doubt that's your problem but just an FYI.", "If you can't fit shutters to the outside of the windows, fit heat reflective film on all glad that get direct sunlight, and the heavy curtain in the invade should stop the heat radiating into the room.\nFans - a vest instead of t shirts, and gradually over 4 weeks get used to the hot weather, your interval organs adjust to the heat, and you can tolerate warmer temps without feeling uncomfortable", "Get a smart thermostat. You can set parameters as to when you'd like it to run, like only when you're home etc.", "Check your power company's website, they'll have lots of ideas. In my house, using the ceiling fans allows me to tolerate a surprisingly high temperature in total comfort.", "One thing I learned moving to Vegas from the East coast is that 70 degrees isn’t room temp when it’s 100 outside.Aim for 10 or 15 degrees lower than the outside temp. Step outside now and then. Also, you are going to be thrilled about your winter heating bills if you are used to paying big bucks for them.", "Dark curtains! Around the house. And do you have a bunker? Stay there. You don’t even need AC. It’s cold. Turn off AC , train your body to get used to it. With a fan. You know those fan forced blanket fort? Yeah ," ]	[ 9, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "Keep track of north east south or west. Often when I get directions they begin with 'head east towards...' or 'Go north, then, turn left'. Any suggestions for how to keep that straight? I usually try and remember where the sun comes up and work from there but when I am in a new place (and have gotten turned around) or at night this is difficult... ", "Keep track of north east south or west. Often when I get directions they begin with 'head east towards...' or 'Go north, then, turn left'. Any suggestions for how to keep that straight? I usually try and remember where the sun comes up and work from there but when I am in a new place (and have gotten turned around) or at night this is difficult... ", "Keep track of north east south or west. Often when I get directions they begin with 'head east towards...' or 'Go north, then, turn left'. Any suggestions for how to keep that straight? I usually try and remember where the sun comes up and work from there but when I am in a new place (and have gotten turned around) or at night this is difficult... " ]	[ "TV satellite dishes are useful (especially if they are reasonably small - like the Sky ones in the UK). They point pretty much south. presumably, this applies throughout the Northern Hemisphere (with the reverse being true in the Southern). The reason I say small ones is that if you see some big-ass dish that someone is using to try to pick up signals from a foreign country, it's probably because they are outside the official footprint of the satellite, which may well be significantly to the east or west. ", "If someone is giving you directional instructions, first ask them which way is North. From there, as they explain, you should imagine the route, seeing the left or right turns.\n\nIf you can remember which direction is North based on a mountain or large architectural landscape, that should also help.", "Pay attention. Some people have a bit of global magnetism or spacial intelligence, but the best thing you can do is not be complacent. I find that if I drive somewhere, I am on the button with cardinal directions. Riding a bus or other public transit, I am much more apt to check the mobile or such, and lose track. It's not about triangulating the sun with the three nearest treetops, and it sure isn't the north star. Practice, and, eventually, comfort is key. \n\nTrivia: Many Australian aboriginal tribes do not have the words \"forward,\" \"left,\" etc. They instead use cardinal directions exclusively. If you are facing north, you have a West foot and east foot. " ]	[ 2, 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "how to get your personal information removed from people search websites? Someone discovered my home address openly labeled on a people search website and I want to know if there’s a way to remove that info.", "how to get your personal information removed from people search websites? Someone discovered my home address openly labeled on a people search website and I want to know if there’s a way to remove that info." ]	[ "Using a PO Box instead of a physical address for bills is a good way of preventing this. I’m not sure what you can do once that info is out there though. It’s public record.", "it's easy.\n\nfirst, be an European union citizen\n\nthen just submit a GDPR request for deletion and they have to comply by law" ]	[ 2, 1 ]	safe
[ "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?", "Drying and reusing teabags I'm wondering about the logistics of reusing teabags. The best way to dry them out? Just sit them out and wait? Bacterial concerns? How many times can/should they be reused?" ]	[ "You can re-use them pretty much forever. This is how they make \"white tea\".\n\nSometimes I even use cold water and some ice cubes instead of a teabag, very refreshing!", "I've never tried it but I feel like it would really take away from the taste significantly after even 1 use", "good teabags can sometimes make 2 cups, and you can rebrew green tea repeatedly, but the flavorings steep at different rates than the teas themselves, so you'll get far different results going from blend to blend.\n\nthe only thing this is really good for is doing a quick, like, 30 sec brew, tossing it and then rebrewing with that bag to make a decaf cup.\n\nbut yeah, this is sort of gross, when people use the same bag for 2 cups it's cause they're doing them at the same time, not drying them out and shit. if you're serious about getting stingy as fuck about your tea just buy loose tea and figure out the absolute minimum amount of leaves you can brew a good cuppa with.", "There is one slight problem in that pretty much all of the delicious, life sustaining caffeine is removed from the teabag a few seconds into its first brewing, so a cuppa made with a reused teabag will essentially be decaf.", "Perhaps I am using the wrong kind of tea, but when I get a commercial tea bag, I really cannot get a second brewing that is anywhere near what the first brewing was.\n\nLoose tea is a different story. I can get more than one cup/pot of tea out of that.\n\nI have discovered that if you take a single commercial tea bag and brew it in more than one cup's worth of water, then you can get many cups of delicious tasting tea. However, this is only a single brewing per tea bag and doesn't fit with your needs of drying the bag.", "I wouldn't worry about bacteria. If it is dried fast enough, all the bacteria should be killed off. Furthermore, you're dipping it in boiling water after it's dry.", "I heard somewhere that all the caffeine comes out in the first brewing, so all brewings after that would have little or no caffeine.\nI don't know the source, so it could be a myth." ]	[ 6, 6, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "If you own property but there's no house/trailer or anything on the property, what's the easiest way to live on it? Helping someone out, we've talked about trying to find a double wide or a nice single wide which seems pretty cheap, sometimes you can find them for free and then just need to spend some money to fix them up, but is there another possibility I'm not thinking about?", "If you own property but there's no house/trailer or anything on the property, what's the easiest way to live on it? Helping someone out, we've talked about trying to find a double wide or a nice single wide which seems pretty cheap, sometimes you can find them for free and then just need to spend some money to fix them up, but is there another possibility I'm not thinking about?", "If you own property but there's no house/trailer or anything on the property, what's the easiest way to live on it? Helping someone out, we've talked about trying to find a double wide or a nice single wide which seems pretty cheap, sometimes you can find them for free and then just need to spend some money to fix them up, but is there another possibility I'm not thinking about?" ]	[ "They’re pretty expensive and they’re pretty much junk. They also need a water power and septic hookup like anything. \n\nI bought a house recently that ended up being condemned. Not saveable. So I found a company near me that builds big ass sheds (mine is 14x36 with two lifts and plenty space) unfinished. I financed it for three years at $500 a month. It will be an amazing addition to the property when I do decide to build my house and it is well built by Mennonites to code. I really can’t stand the shoddy material they use to make trailers. It’s not a judgement on their stigma, but the waste and their construction. They’re also matchboxes.", "Better check the county requirements first. Sometimes you’re not allowed to have any structure at all unless it’s a house.", "Built a tiny House and towed it to our property...\nIf you help build it yourself you save a bunch of precious coin" ]	[ 9, 8, 4 ]	safe
[ "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? ", "How to avoid the desire to cry when overwhelmed or angry I hate that my body's instinct when I'm exasperated or overwhelmed is to produce tears and a shaky voice. It undermines whatever serious point I'm making and, as a youngish female, leads people to assume I'm immature or unintelligent. I'm not talking about normal crying when sad or emotional, it's what my body does when I get overwhelmed and can't hold it in. Sometimes I don't say what I want or need to say because I'm trying to bite back senseless tears. How can I stop this? Can I learn to channel frustration into another response that's less detrimental? " ]	[ "1.) Swallow a lot.\n\n2.) Breathe in as deep as you can, hold for a moment, breathe out. Repeat, breathing in a little less deeply each time, until you are back to your normal breathing pattern.\n\n3.) If you can, close your eyes for a moment to mitigate the activity of your tear ducts.\n\n4.) Dig your nails into your palms, twist your fingers behind your back, or otherwise cause yourself a small amount of physical pain as a way to derail the emotional process. Alternatively, take a moment visualize something completely unrelated and/or humorous, also to derail the emotional process.\n\n5.) More generally speaking, practice. Plan a little professional speech or presentation, then when you're home alone or with someone you trust, find the saddest movies and shows that always make you cry, and play them. When you start crying/feel like you're about to, give that presentation. Practice speaking professionally when you want nothing more than to cry.\n\nIf all else fails - just cry, but keep talking, no matter how leaky your eyes or shaky your voice. Don't let the tears stop you. Yes, you probably will still get undermined, dismissed, and not taken seriously - but with some people, it will be a little less so if you talk while crying, than if you don't talk at all.", "This probably isn't exactly what you're looking for, but once you experience how easy it is to command a conversation, get your point clearly across, or handle an escalated situation with a completely controlled, dead pan and emotionless face, you will never go back. A small female with a. calm and collected demeanor who doesn't become whiny or exasperated when meaning business can make the hairs stand up on the back of people's necks. Start by learning to control your breathing. Your body follows. There are endless internet avenues to learn this . Practice controlled breathing seriously. When you master this you will be able to apply it whenever you need to command your emotions. After all they are yours and yours alone. Only show them when YOU want. ", "I have mild autism, so I get overwhelmed relatively easy. One of the things I do to try to push back overwhelmed feelings is use visualization exercises. It's as easy as taking a deep breath, imagining all the positive, calming emotions balling up and forcing the negative, overwhelming ones to the surface, and then exhale sharply, and imagine all the surfaced negativity to fly away with the breath. As you inhale normally, imagine the good things spreading throughout your body. Rinse and repeat as needed.\n\nTrust me, it works.\n\nIf something specific is bothering you, visualize the problem as a physical entity and imagine yourself removing it from your body and casting it aside.\n\nI'm currently being treated with cognitive therapy for various mental health problems, and visualization exercises are a great way to work on short-term, recurring problems like negative thoughts or overwhelming emotions.\n\nHang in there, m8. You'll make it.", "I cry really easily when I get frustrated or overwhelmed too (or at work, watching tv, whatever) but I read somewhere that if you eat or drink something it'll stop you from crying and it usually works for me! I realize that's not always possible but I usually keep a bottle of water in my purse and if I start getting flustered or choked up I just start taking sips of water until it goes away! ", "Breathe and force yourself to smile, no matter how pissed you are. It releases positive hormones, and it'll throw off whoever you're talking to. Can you imagine maintaining a heated argument with someone smiling at you? It's basically the high ground.", "Clench your butthole really tight and say \"fuckyoufuckyoufuckyou\" in your mind. There's better advice on this thread but this does work. Courtesy of David Rakoff.", "You can ground yourself by switching your attention to physical senses. When you feel overwhelmed, discreetly place one hand at your side and think about how the fabric of your clothing feels; glance at a nearby object and try to mentally describe it's observable characteristics; notice how your breathing feels and then take slower, controlled breaths. You can even ask the person a question unrelated to the subject matter, like, \"Sorry to interrupt, but do you happen to know the time? Okay thanks, please continue.\" These all interrupt the momentum of your escalating emotions. That interruption can give you a moment to carefully choose your next response.", "OP, i have the same exact problem as you. Ill angry and yelling at someone and I'd start like sobbing. Worst part is, once they start falling they dont stop for a good 30 minutes or so. And then I'm super shakey my voice cracks and its just awful. \n\n(Yeah im a 5 ft female and i dont put up with bullshit)", "Thank you all so much for this advice! I have to go to the DMV (again) on Monday so I'm sure I'll have a good opportunity to practice these techniques when I get exasperated!", "Sometimes body language can go a long way. I would make myself stop a crying episode by standing up straight and raising my head high. Crying is like a tension that wants to be let out, so release the tension in another way. Curl your toes very hard in your shoe (if you don't get cramps), curls your fists (try not to dig your nails in, you can break the skin), or clench your jaw. ", "Yeah a lot these comments are awesome advice. I am the same exact way!! I'm a youngish girl too and I am really emotional but I usually hide it and never show it in front of people but if someone is making me like really angry I always tear up and cry it's so annoying ", "Plan to let it out later. Think about where you can go once the conversation is over to cry or scream or whatever in private. If you still need to at the end, do it. A good place is on your own in an elevator, take a ride to the top floor and back, that often gives you time to release.", "One thing that won't help directly but can help in a different way, is to not let your voice change. It will sound very weird and difficult (perhaps counter productive), but hear me out. Raising your voice at another person accomplishes nothing. You only end up with two people who are yelling. That is most likely where tears come out. So if you talk to the other person in a pseudo monotone voice they won't have to raise it. It is much easier to hold back tears when nobody is trying to intimidate another person. Also try to avoid topics that can 'trigger' the other person. This would end up in them getting emotional and possibly raising their voice. It depends on the person.", "I use a small hairclip, paper clip or peg and hold it in my hand. When i can feel tears welling up I focus on the peg and just repeat peg peg peg to myself. Not sure why it works but it does... it's the most frustrating thing crying when you want to be calm. My mum taught me this method and it works for me.", "Testosterone. But since that's not really an option for a young woman, the only choice you have is repeated exposure. Just like any other skill in life you will get better the more you practice it but there's no magic pill for this or any other skill outside of repetition. \n\nIn terms of feeling overwhelmed, while inexperience does play a significant role you may also get this feeling when you know you're under prepared. \n\nExample, you get into an argument about something you only partially understand and your opponent derails you by bringing up something you can't refute for lack of knowledge, your mind will suddenly burst with frustration and the feeling of being overwhelmed because it knows you're not prepared. This will then trigger your emotions and you'll cry. \n\nInstead try and picture that chain of events happening with a topic you REALLY 100% understand, and it becomes much harder to imagine yourself getting derailed, then frustrated / overwhelmed, then breaking down. Which shows you that in the cases with that chain of events, not being completely comfortable with the subject matter played a significant role. ", "CRY! Holding onto emotion means it never goes away. Literally. It literally physically stays in your body and adds to stress and physical discomfort. \n\nEmotions are physical chemicals in the brain and body. They simply do not disappear if you repress them. \n\n\" If trauma is not processed, the powerful images, feelings and sensations do not just go away. Instead they are deeply imprinted and are stored in the bodies cellular memory.\"\n\nThis is called trauma transference syndrome (TTS). It's usually associated with big trauma like a childhood rape for example however ANY repressed or un-expressed emotions can do this.\n\nDon't just take my word, look at the science. Here's a place to start;\n\nhttp://www.traumatransferencesyndrome.com" ]	[ 38, 30, 11, 8, 8, 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, -1, -2 ]	safe
[ "How do I block r/The_Donald from my \"all\" feed? Theyve moved from political to propagandic. How do I block them?", "How do I block r/The_Donald from my \"all\" feed? Theyve moved from political to propagandic. How do I block them?" ]	[ "When you're browsing at r/All, you'll see there's also \"(filtered)\" written, that's because on the left part of the page you can write under the search bar the subreddits you do not wish to see.", "Just yell loud, put your fingers in your ears and close your eyes. \n\nAlso blow an air horn so nobody else can hear it either. " ]	[ 7, 0 ]	safe
[ "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!", "Gift to give a friend working on sobriety? My dear friend has been struggling with sobriety for about a year now. While she has been on and off the wagon, she recognizes the need to fill her time and life with activities that don't revolve around drinks and pills. \n\nI want to find -- and make time for -- activities we can enjoy together that just happen to be sober (not overtly/obnoxiously sobriety based, per se). I want to be a friend with whom not drinking is the norm. If we had a few activities or events that were regular or scheduled, I think we could both build good, lasting habits together. \n\nAny thoughts or tips for ways to incorporate this theme into our holiday gift exchange would be most welcome. Anything from corny homemade \"coupons\" to something more tangible.. If you've had success in a similar situation I'd love to know more. \n\nThanks!" ]	[ "This might sound goofy, but coloring books and color pencils. Having the intricate designs and focusing on staying inside the lines, balancing color distribution, and taking your mind off of anything stressful or pressing is extremely helpful. I don't have sobriety issues, but I'll do it just for stress after a rough day. Put on some calm music like Bob Marley and just color for an hour. Non-productivity is sometimes a blessing.", "You could sign the two of you up for a class... ballroom or square dance? Pole aerobics? Scrap booking? A step up idea from a coupon book... a planner. Get a pretty day planner, and write yourself in \"appointments\" or offer a sheet of fun stickers so she can \"book\" friend dates. It's still a gift of time, but includes a useful object gift. If you wanted to spend a little bit more on it, there are some planners that you can photo-collage the front of online (Erin Condren comes to mind) or you could DIY something similar. :)", "Surprised this hasn't already been mentioned.\n\nBut AA meetings can actually be hugely helpful and you'd be surprised at just how entertaining they can be, along with emotional stories and inspiring antidotes.\n\nAA,CA,NA,SA,GA.\n\nCheck out the nearest meetings to you, and find which suits both of you the best.", "Great suggestions have been made so I will say good on you for being a decent friend and not shying away into the background and actually sticking by your mate.", "Crocheting/knitting. It seems like a grandma thing to do but once you get the hang of it it's time consuming, distracts you, and keeps you busy so you don't think over the alternative ", "A board game with dates/times you are free for a game night? Depending on your budget, Cards against humanity or Betrayal: house on haunted hill are great.\n\n", "Things that are more difficult when drinking might be nice. Sports or exercise come to mind. Maybe go skiing? Always a good way to get a good adrenaline buzz without any drugs or alcohol. ", "How about a spa day or wellness/health retreat? A little bit of pampering and relaxation makes for a great gift. Many of these places don't serve alcohol anyway. " ]	[ 8, 3, 3, 3, 3, 3, 2, 2 ]	safe
[ "Jobs for someone with no experience I have very little work experience and only a high school qualification and I need to start making my own money while I study. \n\nSo I guess my question is: What are some jobs you wish you knew about while you were studying?\n\n", "Jobs for someone with no experience I have very little work experience and only a high school qualification and I need to start making my own money while I study. \n\nSo I guess my question is: What are some jobs you wish you knew about while you were studying?\n\n", "Jobs for someone with no experience I have very little work experience and only a high school qualification and I need to start making my own money while I study. \n\nSo I guess my question is: What are some jobs you wish you knew about while you were studying?\n\n", "Jobs for someone with no experience I have very little work experience and only a high school qualification and I need to start making my own money while I study. \n\nSo I guess my question is: What are some jobs you wish you knew about while you were studying?\n\n", "Jobs for someone with no experience I have very little work experience and only a high school qualification and I need to start making my own money while I study. \n\nSo I guess my question is: What are some jobs you wish you knew about while you were studying?\n\n" ]	[ "Third shift warehouses are usually entry level and pay above $10.00 an hour.\n\nCall centers are usually entry level and let you build office experience which is really important. I wish I had taken the route of office jobs instead of all the other jobs I worked. \n\nMaybe you can get a Temp Agency to hire you. Pro Resources, Integrity Staffing and Manpower usually have some low-level work that pays above the bracket of 9.00 an hour.\n\nBeware of this trend of jobs labeled as \"Entry Level\" that say they want you to have a Bachelor's Degree or 3 years experience at A and 2 years at B. Heck, apply at them anyway even though you don't qualify.", "If you finished high-school with decent grades you can also get some work as a tutor. Not sure how well it pays where you are or if there are many people who can afford/want tutoring but it pays pretty well where I am. Also keeps you sharp in subjects you may not be covering during your studies. Also being able to teach is a handy skill you can develop as well.", "Busser/Busboy\n\nGreat way to earn quick money while also having a high potential for promotion. Restaurants and bars usually promote from within.", "Maybe working for a moving company (i.e. Lifting heavy boxes if that works for you), working for a car dealership or being a tour guide are some non-conventional ones (such as waitressing) come to mind. Or sex work, obviously", "In today's world, you can be anything you want to be with no experience needed. Reference: President of the United States.\n\n(but to really help you out...flipping burgers, taking phone calls, and working registers don't require very many skills...if you really want a job you can't be too picky about where you start.)" ]	[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored.", "I'm always bored but I never want do anything. I'd rather just play video games but I'm always bored." ]	[ "You're depressed. People think depression is just sadness but it's just as often exactly what you're describing. So if you can figure out depression please let the rest of us know. ", "This is the token experience of someone who has had entertainment brought to them all their lives and hasn't built up the most important asset they are given ... yourself.\n\n(I say that because I was exactly in the same place).\n\nBest place to start is with working out. Whether it is a gym membership or body weight train. Find the nearest park / grassy gnoll / gym and make it a goal to just show up 3-5 times per week. Start small. At first, your goal should just be to show up. Knock out one or two exercises, then go home. Don't try to commit to a gym routine from the beginning, you need to start small.\n\nOnce you've gone at least 3x per week for three weeks in a row, then you can look into structure workouts and alternating upper body / lower body or push lifts vs pull lifts, etc. But again, start small and increment small.\n\nHere is the key, working out is less about \"getting ripped\" and more about learning to control your body into pushing/straining when it doesn't want to (when you're sore, when its early, when you're lazy). By far and large, conditioning your body to do something it doesn't want to do is the single biggest benefit that can knock you out of a just existing and into building your empire, whatever it may be.", "Gradually find more productive ways to utilize your current hobbies, I think. Maybe start being a creator, or seeing how you can turn your hobby into something less about escaping boredom, and more about working to build a community or a niche interest within it. I started doing this a bit with anime when I quit video games, and now I'm working on getting fluent at Japanese to create content using that.", "Sounds like you need some responsibility. Get up, make your bed, clean your room, do your laundry. See how else you can help around the house. Got a yard? Mow it. Take out the trash. \n\nThen when you're done helping, see if you can help someone less fortunate then yourself. Volunteer at a shelter, are you old enough to volunteer at the Fire Station, or Ambulance and learn the ropes. \n\nPick up a book at the library. Read it. Go to an animal shelter, see if you can volunteer a couple of hours there weekly. \n\nPlenty of things to do beside gaming ( and I know how many hours are involved with that, ran an alliance for 5 years) but there is life right outside your room and computer. \n\nMeaning of life is peace and purpose. Purpose to your life, will give you peace to your soul. \n\nYou can look here, and see where you can start. https://www.justserve.org/", "A few friends of mine have noted the same thing. I think it's because our lives are dedicated to entertaining ourselves and after a while this becomes too shallow to provide fulfillment. In other words - we're not that fascinating that we can occupy our entire lives attending to our own whims. People don't have bigger/higher beliefs much (like religion) and so everything becomes kinda purposeless.\n\nAlso, when you're 5, you watch/play 8 year old media/games. When your 15, you consume 20 year old content. But when you're 25 or so, you run out of \"higher\" content to watch. A 35 year old isn't any more developed than a 25 year old. There are no increasingly sophisticated games past a certain point.\n\nBasically you need an activist pursuit. Politics, animal welfare, free speech, whatever. Try to steer clear of Illuminati/moon landings stuff, though.", "You have to get out of your comfort zone. You are bored because you are boring, but posting in here (and perhaps some of your video game victories) demonstrates a capacity to be fun and have fun.\n\nCheck out: \nhttps://www.superbetter.com\n\nNo matter how old you are, diet and exercise will help. If you are under 18, joining a club or getting a job will definitely help. If you are over 18, check out the world of Psychedelics; without even taking any drugs, there is a lot to explore and friends to be made.", "When I find I've had a really lazy/boring day and don't feel good about what I accomplished, I make a list of to-dos for the following day. It's usually a mix of chores and projects (sewing, cooking, etc). When I have that list, it helps me stay motivated the next day to get stuff done and check things off the list. ", "Find video games that have players from other countries so you can learn their language. Talking to new people with completely different life experiences may help spark a new interest for you. ", "3d printing is a fun and productive hobby. In addition to using freely available designs, you can learn to 3d design- surprisingly simple.\n\nCheaper than you'd expect too. Something like an Anet A8 is only $165", "When I feel like that it usually means I'm either tired and need to sleep (even if I don't feel tired just yet) or... the worse option: this is the start of a depressive bout... a couple of difficult months can be expected.", "That's what boredom is, not wanting to do anything.\n\nMaybe think of some interesting new skills you could pursue, and force yourself to start one.\nOr, spend some time helping other people, that way when you just sit around doing nothing, at least you know you weren't useless, and may enjoy yourself more" ]	[ 11, 10, 7, 6, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?", "Estranged Grand Daughter left \"stuff\" behind at our home, how to legally get rid of it? In a moment of weakness my wife and I allowed a grand daughter to live in our home. We underestimated the crazy and my wife kicked her out. She left a bunch of stuff behind and refuses to come and get it, how do we force her to come get it or alternately get rid of it legally? The items consist of luggage, clothing and children's toys. I thought of paying a lawyer to officially notify her we'd be trashing the stuff in 30 days if she doesn't retrieve it or shipping it to her prepaid but both options are expensive... Ideas?" ]	[ "From comments and post I get that you want to do this inexpensively but cover yourself legally. To make sure you are 100% covered you need a lawyer. No other way to be absolutely sure. But that's expensive. IANAL, but this will give you 99.5% coverage for about $40. \n\n1. Just send a letter stating the date by which she needs to pick up the items. Send it certified, receipt requested. (about $8) Give her 60-90 days to be safe on any legal restrictions.\n\n2. Publish a classified ad in the local paper of record. Don't do a legal notice which can easily cost $100, just a nice large print classified (maybe $30) You don't need a 3 week legal notice, this isn't a divorce or business notification. Keep the papers and receipt. \n\nNow if anything comes up later you can show you made two good faith efforts to notify her. Like I said, not bullet proof, but it would take a nasty judge to find you wrong in any way. \n\nWhen she doesn't come to pick it up, do whatever you like. ", "Why would you need a lawyer? If she left her stuff there and refuses to come get it you should be able to simply throw it away. There's nothing illegal about cleaning your house and if she left her stuff there and has shown no intention if getting it then you can clean it up and get rid of it. ", "Just toss it.\n\nIf she wants to sue you and goes through a lawyer to do so, personally write all your co-respondence through her lawyer. It's free for you to write to her lawyer, but she'll have to pay every time her lawyer receives a letter and re-directs it to her.", "Shipping it pre-paid is pretty much your best option here. Abandoning a storage unit full of stuff could impact your cr", "Depending where you live, there should be abandoned property laws. Whatever the time frame is in your state, I imagine you just throw it out, or donate it after then.", "You know her current address? Is it within reasonable driving distance?\n\nPack it all up, deliver it to her address.\nTake pictures/video.\n\n\nYou now have evidence that you delivered her personal belongings to her private property.\nShould be no different than USPS leaving a package on my door step.", "Use text or email and tell her nicely she has 45 days (or whatever your area declares abandoned) to come collect her items otherwise you will take it to Goodwill or other charity. Be nice, polite, and to the point, do not talk about the situation or your feelings. Any response at all you need to save. Don't back down on the timeline. When you take it to the charity shop get a receipt. If she tries to sue you can show the text or email plus any responses and then the receipt. ", "I have to say if the grand daughter is as much trouble as you think, I'd get a lawyer to help you with proper notification.\n\nOr, if you have the space, box the stuff up and wrap it in large plastic bags. Keep it in your storage so if she does comeback you can just give her the bagged boxes. It'll be cheap and keep her from trying to stir too much shit up." ]	[ 11, 4, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How can I block outside noise in a bedroom with single pane windows? I live in an apartment in downtown Atlanta with single pane windows. Every night I'm woken up from crowds of people leaving the bars, trash trucks picking up glass bottles, etc. I've tried eggs crates and noise canceling blackout curtains, but neither worked well. Any ideas tips on how to dull the outside sounds?", "How can I block outside noise in a bedroom with single pane windows? I live in an apartment in downtown Atlanta with single pane windows. Every night I'm woken up from crowds of people leaving the bars, trash trucks picking up glass bottles, etc. I've tried eggs crates and noise canceling blackout curtains, but neither worked well. Any ideas tips on how to dull the outside sounds?", "How can I block outside noise in a bedroom with single pane windows? I live in an apartment in downtown Atlanta with single pane windows. Every night I'm woken up from crowds of people leaving the bars, trash trucks picking up glass bottles, etc. I've tried eggs crates and noise canceling blackout curtains, but neither worked well. Any ideas tips on how to dull the outside sounds?" ]	[ "Get hold of some temporary double glazing sheets off eBay. They really work well. Seem some on YouTube triple glaze their road facing windows with this stuff.", "I recently gave ear plugs a try when I went on a group vacation. Worked great! Before I was always hesitant to use them. But I kept using them after my trip. ", "I just wear earplugs myself. I get a pack of them cheap from the grocery store that last a few months. They block out most of the sounds and when I'm asleep I don't hear a thing other than my alarm when it goes off in the morning. You could give it a shot on your weekend and see if you can still hear your alarm through some plugs. " ]	[ 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I make the most of a (Asian/Japanese/sushi) buffet? (Eating as much/enjoying myself as possible.) ", "How do I make the most of a (Asian/Japanese/sushi) buffet? (Eating as much/enjoying myself as possible.) " ]	[ "First time there, check out everything before you dig into an item. Preview and figure out what you are going to eat. Avoid the rice and fried items that will fill you up. Go for the meat and seafood - the expensive items to get your money's worth. Be mindful that with sushi, many places will penalize you (charge you extra on your bill) for not eating the rice to discourage people from picking it up just for the fish.", "Maybe don't go into it with the idea that you should eat your moneys worth. It's not a challenge it's just that they don't limit your choices. Also, to answer your question don't eat carbs only eat protein." ]	[ 6, 5 ]	safe
[ "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. ", "How to be more funny/witty. So when I am with my friends they always tend to make great jokes. Sometimes the whole conversation just flows from good joke to good joke. But I can't seem to add my two cents. \n\nI'm not asking to become a superstar comedian, but just to be abit more funny in conversations. It is a great way to make social interactions go from ok to great. " ]	[ "Read more. You'll learn new words, new facts, and new turns of phrase that you can drop into conversation. Find authors you think are funny and just go to town. Plus, there's no downside to being well-read (unless your friends are idiots or you're living under an anti-intellectual dictatorship). ", "You could always whip out your dick and spin it around. Then yell, \"I'm a helicopter!\" Works every time!", "A serious conversation about being funny is the least funny thing I can think of, but here goes:\n\nIf you wanna be a more eloquent person, it helps to read more books. Along those lines, if you want to be a more humorous person, you need to expose yourself to more humor. \n\nI grew up a huge fan of comedy in shows, movies, books, and stand-up. It made me a funnier person overall. Like any art, it makes you see things in a different light, and you see more opportunities to crack a joke. \n\nSo just read and watch more things that you find funny. Comedy is subjective to everyone, so listing names won't do you any good. The best kind of comedy is the kind that you yourself enjoy the most.", "Most of the time being funny is to state the obvious or say what everyone is thinking but exaggerate it. We tend to laugh because \"Joe is so right, that does happen to me\" or \"oh yeah, that thing is just like that! Why haven't I realised that?\"\n\nWhen in conversation and friends are talking about everyday things just kind of state the obvious and exaggerate it. It also helps to swear/curse a bit.\n\nThe important thing is to not try, just let it flow. Also except a tumbleweed. Sometimes you won't get a laugh because it's a bad joke, if this happens to me I always apologise for an awful joke and rhetorically ask what's wrong with me. That in itself usually gets a laugh. \nWatch Matthew Perry in Friends, he delivers a lot of dry one liners that get laughs. Watch Monty Python aswell as they are the masters of comedy. If you can watch Q.I with Stephen Fry as it's based around conversations about random topics. Ricky Gervais is a natural at conversation humour, if you can, listen to his podcasts with Stephen Merchant and Karl Pilkington. For masterful storytelling listen to Kevin Smith's podcasts also handy if you like the word \"Fuck\"\n\nGood luck!", "I bet youre more funny than you think, youre probably just a bit hesitant to throw your jokes out there. Dont be afraid to fail and just blurt out whatever pops to tour mind :)", "Laughing is about agreement not necessarily purely humour. This is why people laugh at their boss's bad jokes, as does the girl who has a crush on you. Most people can't tell the difference, and in most cases there isn't much of a difference.\n\nThis means that a significant part of humour is being socially dominant, which by that I mean being one of the leaders of the conversation. This is achieved by talking to everyone, and everyone listening, or by asking the interesting questions, that make people talk to you (you don't have to be extremely chatty to be funny). This part it crucial as if you are the mouse of the conversation, most people won't be paying much attention to you and your jokes will bomb more often, making it harder to say them with confidence, making them bomb more often... There are good TED talks of how to speak and how to listen (Julian Treasure). Make sure you practice.\n\nWhile you get the social framework down, there is the actual humour part. For this I recommend watching (listening to) modern comedy stand-up type performances. Watch the ones you like, for me I like people like Ricky Gervais and Penn Jilette (his part of the magic is all about humour). There is serious work that goes into routines, they know exactly where people laugh and when to juggle between funny and serious. Watching them so you get the flow and timing right is good, and if you are really studious, really analysing why they said certain things when can be effective.\n\nSummary: work on social dominance, and watching stand up.\n\nI also want to add that dominance has negative connections, I use it in the dry definition power and influence over others.", "Get a huge vocabulary. Pay attention to what people find funny. Play off their comedic sense. Works for me.", "Think about funny things that have happened to you recently. If it makes you laugh, chances are it will make them laugh. Of course, delivery is important or you end up getting stuck with 'guess you had to be there'", "Absorb funny random anecdotes for a lot of situations and when you find yourself In a similar situation unload ;)" ]	[ 17, 10, 4, 3, 3, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "How do I become more conflict averse in the workplace As the title says. I'm a grad unfamilliar with the work culture and conflict in the workplace appears to be quite rife.", "How do I become more conflict averse in the workplace As the title says. I'm a grad unfamilliar with the work culture and conflict in the workplace appears to be quite rife.", "How do I become more conflict averse in the workplace As the title says. I'm a grad unfamilliar with the work culture and conflict in the workplace appears to be quite rife.", "How do I become more conflict averse in the workplace As the title says. I'm a grad unfamilliar with the work culture and conflict in the workplace appears to be quite rife.", "How do I become more conflict averse in the workplace As the title says. I'm a grad unfamilliar with the work culture and conflict in the workplace appears to be quite rife." ]	[ "Is this just apprehension or are you actually seeing it first hand?\n\nAt the risk of sounding flippant, welcome to life. Conflicts exist in every facet.\n\nAs far as work is concerned, remember the main reason you are there. To do a job and provide personal security. \n\nWorkplace relationships should always be professional first. If given the right amount of time true friendships can form but be careful. When it comes to lively hood loyalties are tentative at best.\n\nThere is nothing wrong with being caring and compassionate. In fact that is how we all should be but always keep enough detachment for your own best interests.\n\n", "If somebody wants you to get angry, do your best to be nice to them from the very beginning. Being nice and not reacting to their baits pisses them off even more.\n\n", "If the corporate culture is truly that bad, find out why. Do your own research on your company at glassdoor.com, or just google your company and see what reviews there are listed, from customers and former employees. \n\nWhen it comes to working in a toxic environment, but you need the experience, just remember \" Your thoughts are your own, your words are not.\" Go in, do the job you were hired to do. Don't get pulled into the negativity if you can help it If it compromises your principles, look for a new job while you're still working, its easier to find a job when you have one. ", "Have you never butt heads with anybody before? Its really not difficult to deal with people if you actually deal with people. Get your fucking money on the clock, and when you clock out leave the bullshit there. ", "Don't play the game, and make it clear that you're not interested in playing the game by consistently quietly not participating.\n\nClamming up and not giving a response to those who are trying to pull you into a conflict is a good strategy to maintain your integrity, particularly if you're in a very junior position. If someone is working at convincing you to take sides or talking in very judgemental and negative terms about a co-worker in a way that really has nothing to do with the relevant parts of their job performance, just treat it with silence to avoid encouraging them. And if they push, shrug and again say nothing, or say something completely non-committal like \"I haven't seen that.\". Then either change the subject or find a way to exit the area if you can. Don't add more cyanide to the kool-aid, and don't try and be a hero because that'll make noobie you a target as well.\n\nAnd if the negativity is very consistent and coming from everywhere, and you find yourself constantly uncomfortable, never stop looking for opportunities for transfer to a new and different job environment, either within your company if it's a big enough one, or elsewhere. \n\nThere's no sense in being unhappy eight hours a day if you're highly incompatible with the culture of your workplace." ]	[ 3, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]	safe
[ "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?", "Alternative ways to carry keys and avoid pocket bulge? Most of us have to lug around car keys, house keys, office keys, etc. Any ways to carry them around without sounding like a janitor every time I take a step?\n\nKey wallets, while making it quiet, cause the dreaded pocket bulge.\n\nLooking at alternatives like this: http://www.thepocketkey.com/\n\nSo, is there anything else out there I'm missing?" ]	[ "I have one of those clips meant for climbing, but I've attached my keys and stuff to it and clipped it to a belt loop.", "i have a keychain that splits.. so basically when I leave my car, i detach the bulk of the keys i know i won't need and leave them in the glovebox (ie, if I am work, I know i won't need by home keys, mailbox keys, etc).. so basically for most of the day I am just carrying my car key in my pocket.", "Check on /r/edc\nStands for everyday carry.\nPersonally I made mine out of a bike tool, I'll post a picture later.", "Get a carabiner clip and some of those rubber rings that stretch around the top of your keys. That way you can keep them on your belt loops and they don't jingle. If you have a few of those grocery store cards, you could also layer them in between your keys to muffle them.", "I'm guessing OP is a man - look to the fairer sex, carry a bag. Keys jangling in a bag is much less offensive, and the opportunities for carrying other exciting stuff round with you are greatly increased.\nDon't worry about the whole \"man-bag = automatic ridicule from other men\" hang-up, just shop around a bit til you find something that fits with your style.\n", "I have a wallet like [this](http://www.google.ca/imgres?um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&sa=N&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&channel=np&biw=1366&bih=664&tbm=isch&tbnid=F4glSoOQAMOwkM:&imgrefurl=http://celeryinthecity.com/2011/03/&docid=Bc5xNfUQlN8UNM&imgurl=http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41JPNYE4ZaL._AA300_.jpg&w=300&h=300&ei=dgivT5H3OMLM6QGNuZyuCQ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=662&vpy=298&dur=469&hovh=225&hovw=225&tx=151&ty=99&sig=115942884062509404338&page=1&tbnh=141&tbnw=141&start=0&ndsp=19&ved=1t:429,r:9,s:0,i:90) only it's plastic and doesn't have the compartments. If I want to, I can put a 20 dollar bill in there, a debit and cr", "I have to wear dress slacks for work and even a tic-tac looks like you have a brick in your pocket. I took r/malefashionadvice's advice and went with a man purse.", "Get a lanyard. That way you never loose your keys (well I sometimes forget mine are around my neck) and it's easily accessible.\n\nThat or get a purse. :P" ]	[ 15, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, 0, 0 ]	safe
[ "Tim Horton's Tea So 80% of the time I buy tea with the bag in at Tim Horton's, my tea drips (from he lid) EVERYWHERE! I've tried rearranging the lid, drying them, to no avail. Throwing the tea bag out is my absolute last option!\n\nAnyone?", "Tim Horton's Tea So 80% of the time I buy tea with the bag in at Tim Horton's, my tea drips (from he lid) EVERYWHERE! I've tried rearranging the lid, drying them, to no avail. Throwing the tea bag out is my absolute last option!\n\nAnyone?", "Tim Horton's Tea So 80% of the time I buy tea with the bag in at Tim Horton's, my tea drips (from he lid) EVERYWHERE! I've tried rearranging the lid, drying them, to no avail. Throwing the tea bag out is my absolute last option!\n\nAnyone?" ]	[ "I'm not generally a tea drinker, and if I'm at Tim Horton's I'll be getting coffee, so take the following with that grain of salt.\n\nIt seems to me that the problem is that the string from the tea bag tag is lifting the lid of the cup enough to cause it not to seal. If that's the case, there are three things you can try:\n\n* Bring the string out through the drinking hole and wrap it around the little plastic flap before clicking it down.\n\n* Bring the string out on the opposite side of the drinking hole. It will still break the seal, but since that's the highest part of the cup when drinking, the tea won't be able to leak out that way.\n\n* Since you're not taking the tea bag out, you have no need for the tag. Remove it and put the string down into the tea.\n\nIf none of these work, ask for a sleeve. Wrap a napkin around the cup and hold it in place with the sleeve. It won't stop the leaks, but it will absorb them. Plus it will give you that much more insulation.", "Is the string with the tag hanging out of your tea if so then the liquid may be running down said string like a wick and that may be the cause of your leaks the string in the tea suggestion by The_camperdave may be your best bet.", "I order the \"steeped tea.\" It doesn't come with the tea bag. The steeped tastes so much better, probably the best tea I have ever had. I have it double double." ]	[ 10, 3, 1 ]	safe

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