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The DI intro scene for Full Metal Jacket demonstrates it quite nicely. "If you ladies leave my island, if you survive recruit training, you will be a weapon. You will be a minister of death praying for war. But until that day you are pukes. You are the lowest form of life on Earth. You are not even human fucking beings. You are nothing but unorganized grab-asstic pieces of amphibian shit! Because I am hard, you will not like me. But the more you hate me, the more you will learn. I am hard, but I am fair. There is no racial bigotry here. I do not look down on niggers, kikes, wops or greasers. Here you are all equally worthless. And my orders are to weed out all non-hackers who do not pack the gear to serve in my beloved Corps. Do you maggots understand that?" | I'm going to be an asshole because that's how we filter out all the people not suited for the job." | [
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That reminds me of when me and my friEnt decided to make one of our friend smoke for the first time. We wanted to be sure that he would be high so we hotboxed with him. For the first thirty minutes he was having tons of fun, but then he said something like "I feel like im dying" and then went to the bathroom and puked. When he came back we gave him some Quiznos and said "eat it you will feel better". Turns out he passed out while eating it.
That was one very stupid thing that me and my friEnt did, but fortunately it didn't prevent him from wanting to smoke again. | did hotbox with a friend who never smoked; he puked and passed out; fortunately he wanted to smoke again after that. | [
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We've been dating for over a month and it was going perfectly like every high school movie portrays dating. We really enjoy each other's company and I love her a lot.
The thing is, a little over a week ago, I found out that when she was in middle school, she was involved in scamming people in online stores for money. I wanted to be honest with her so I told her 2 days later that I knew about what happened and that didn't change how I viewed her at all.
The following school week however, she has been purposefully ignoring me and avoiding me. I confronted her twice asking her what's up and she said she was stressed out from everything. Then on Friday, because her mom realized she wasn't talking about me as much, convinced her to atleast talk to me.
She sent me a voice message saying that she was super stressed from finals, tests, sports, and just got her period. She also told me that in the past, she felt she deserved to be treated badly from boys and her female friends because she wasn't a very good person (but then she went on to say that deep down she knew that was wrong).
Then after that, she told me she felt she didn't deserve the way I treat her. That I'm always treating her nice in every way. She said after for me to not try and tell her otherwise because she wouldn't believe me.
Finally, she said she needed space to think things through and that was last friday. How long did she mean when she said she needed space? I love her a lot and I'm just worrying for her these past 2 weeks. I'm sure she still has feelings for me because the day before I told her I knew about her past she was really affectionate. I just want to make her happy. | GF said she needs space after I found out about her past. Idk what to do? Thanks | [
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I am a Free and Open Source fan. I use Linux daily. I thought maybe I should get involved and give back to the community. A year ago I began reaching out to the Helios group and informed them that I could generate a large number of complete computer systems to be donated. No response. I e-mailed, I called, I waited, and never got any feed back. I saw the recent Linux against poverty event and realized that Geek Austin was involved. I attempted contact to them and recanted all my woes. All I received was a dry response stating that there are no more volunteer spots available. AAAAAAAHHHHHHH! What do I have to do to give away a bunch of computers around here. | Can't even give computers away & support Linux/FOSS | [
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My wisdom teeth came in sideways. so, the dentist had to cut the gum open, and drill each tooth into 4 pieces and extract them one by one.
so, he starts injecting me...
"can you feel anything?"
"yup"
more injections. This continued through 3 bottles of the stuff...
yup, apparently i'm immune to nova caine. so, yay me.
the doc told my family it'd take hours for me to feel anything, gave me a script for tylenol and sent me on my way.
i got 5 minutes down the road, pain was so bad i punched the dash so hard I snapped it. that was awesome.
We got the tylenol and went home. I was pacing up and down in the hallway pulling bloody gauze and blood clots out of my mouth. when i'd get to one end i'd punch the wall, when i got to the other i'd punch the door.
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So here's a little back story on this.
I've known Jenny (let's call her that) since I was 16-17 years old. I actually knew her friend, one thing led to another and I ended up having her email and so I added her to MSN Messenger (no facebook back then) but never really talked to each other whenever she was online. That went on for years.
Time kept passing without any interaction between us, but deep down I was just wishing for the ice to break. I had no idea how to initiate a conversation specially that we're basically strangers, I was also shy which didn't help at all.
So one day, I can't remember what was the cause but somehow we started talking on MSN. I knew she was studying X at the university so I offered my help with whatever projects she was doing. So it began, we started hanging out a lot, at her place, at my place, I used to go to the university with her just to spend the day whenever I had a day off. She introduced me to her parents, to her sister and husband in-law...
Please keep in mind that I was inexperienced back than, I had no idea that these things might mean something, maybe not for now but definitely for the future. I took it for granted. I was so in love with her that she really intimidated me, I couldn't make a move fearing should would reject me even when the chance allowed me to make a move, I didn't. Always hesitating.
Her words did not match her actions. Sometimes she would tell me that we're just friends and she doesn't think of me more but than we would spend the day at her place hanging out and having fun, just the 2 of us. That made me really confused.
For example, when I first bought my DSLR camera she was the first one to volunteer for a photoshoot, even though I was pretty clueless on how to operate the damn machine. She came and she got naked in front of me... Looking back at it now, I see that was a clear invitation. But I failed to make the move, I was too afraid, too doubtful.
So anyway, that went on for about a year and it finally stopped. We lost touch and I learned that it is time for me to move on. And I did.
During all that period, I didn't date, didn't have a gf or anything. I had sex yes, but never a relationship with somebody I truly cared about. So I was inexperienced and there was no one around to tell me any better.
2 years ago, I left the country on a job offer. I stayed abroad for 1.5 years and I remember talking to her once and briefly on facebook during that period, even though she was always on my mind. I just felt it was better that I kept my distance.
I've been in the country for nearly 6 months now. 2 days ago I sent her a message asking how she's been and whether she's in the country. Luckily for me, she is in the country and she accepted my offer to go out for coffee. Which is kinda awesome, I was excepting she'd say she's busy or something. She looked happy that I asked her out and immediately asked for my number, which I saw as a positive thing.
So I got a bit excited of course, I was a bit happy inside.
And then, I got to her profile page on facebook and saw "In Relationship" and just lost it.
All my hopes and dreams came crashing down. God damn it, can't I get a break?!!!
What do I do now? Do I simply use this opportunity to get a closure once and for all and seriously move on?
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i'm not sure you would have said that if he mentioned the politicians were white conservatives. Prejudice is a two-way street, and I'm not sure it matters either way if he mentioned their race. If the officials were black, well then they're black, if they were white, then they're white, who cares what race they are so long as its an accurate statement. Its childish on your part for not be able to accept a mention of race for what it could be, an accurate statement. And calling him a "bigoted fuck pushing hateful agenda," because of the statements "African-American liberal Dems" and "a chunk of this leadership is now in jail for severe corruption," is misguided at best, because neither of those statements could have suggested anything but fact at face value. This might come as a surprise to you but black officials can be bad people and corrupt, white officials can be bad people corrupt, the same as latino and asian officials can be bad and corrupt. Skirting a mention of race because its uncomfortable or because anyone who does, is a bigoted fuck, just highlights the state the U.S is in. | fuckin racist everywhere man | [
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two much older guys in a car did this to me when I was 17 and had just gotten my truck, only they did it with a cup of tabacco spit.
they were in a shitty 2nd gen DSM, and I was in a 77 F300. I smashed into their drivers side so hard that my passenger corner of my bumper tore into their drivers A pillar and broke out their windshield and probably totaled the car. as I sped off they jumped out of their car to survey the damage and I slammed on the brakes and put it in reverse and slammed into them so hard both my rear tires went of their hood. I was trying to run them over and kill them. I chased them in circles around their car until they caused me to hit another car and I stopped to wait for police. at first they tried to charge me with attempted vehicular homicide, but it all wound up getting dropped when they whole story came together and the cup of chaw spit could be classified as assault and one of the throwers was on diversion, so if he filed, I would file and he would go to jail regardless. so it all got dropped. | fuck with my truck and I will fuck your life up | [
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The 9:12 will be difficult.
The push ups and sit ups will be beyond easy to reach. How old are you?
On my best PT test, I got a 99.7. I was off the run by 1-2 seconds.
I'm a 5'5 Filipino dude with a smaller frame but I'm not super skinny naturally like a lot of other Asian people.
Here's what I did for the faster run time:
I worked out 4-6 days a week, but made absolutely sure I did squats/deadlifts each week.
Regardless of the work out, I always ran a mile afterward. I imagine you could run a 6:30 - 7:00 mile. If you can run a 6:30 ish mile now, it's definitely realistic to run a 9:12 in five months. Each time you run the mile, aim for 6:30 area. I was at a point where I was hitting 6:30 with a good effort, but as the weeks went by, I wittled it down to 6:20 and lower.
But that's just what I did. | Maxing for push ups/sit ups will be easy with practice almost daily.
9:12 1.5 mi is realistic but difficult--run shorter distances faster, running long distances slowly/moderately won't help that much based off my experience. | [
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So today, on advice of my friend(we'll call him h) decided to get the hot or not app. It was all going great, this girl was all over me. So I thought it would easy to hint to her to send nude pictures. I asked her if she wanted to send anything else, and she responded simply "no,bye". So this sort of rattled me, as I was worried she was going to report me or something. To ease my nerves, I texted H and told him this story. He responded by posting a screenshot of our conversation on Facebook. I was really pissed off by this, because a lot of my family has Facebook and this is not the kind of reputation I want to have. So even though I told him to take it down, I reported it a couple times just to try to get it taken down faster. After he took it down, he texted me and said that he had been banned from posting anything on Facebook for a whole year because of me. So does anyone know how to get someone unbanned from Facebook? | got rejected, friend shared his last conversation with me for a year | [
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Hahahaah. No, you will not become a SJW.
I'm really anti-SJW and have been doing this on and off for about a year, though y'know, I try to avoid flinging labels at random people. I mean that post wasn't about trying to thought police you, but just trying to put things into perspective. I realize what you mean though, and quite oddly, this sub reminds me of The Red Pill + SJW elements at times.
I don't think most people like here are like this though. There simply isn't much extremity to be had. You can take things with a grain of salt and move on. To the best of my knowledge, nobody here will try to silence you or label you a misogynist for the sole reason of you not agreeing with them, and if they did, that would be extremely inappropriate and perhaps bannable.
People here still have vastly different views around women. For example, I personally am not making women a priority in my life right now, and I don't think I've struggled with objectification issues as much as some people here have. Remember, some people have for a long time not been able to view women as more than sex objects and show them some basic human decency. Obviously not everyone here has had that, but you're not being BluePilled because some guy learned how to be more respectful and is sharing his views. I see Christian posts, and the like here too. I am not religious, but I read and move on without causing an issue, as long as people are being respectful and tolerant and not trying to give a sermon - no matter what their views are. | No you won't, this is a diverse community and you like most people here are capable of thinking and rationalizing for yourself. | [
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I've never actually met another hacker (haven't actually met that many 'hackers' anyway) with similar interests in real life, and i've been interested in security for about a decade now. After joining my academy (don't know the english word for it, might be college or uni) I thought I would run into more people with interests in security like I have, but it never happened.
I usually meet people who are one of two classes:
First ones are hardcore programmers who only care about learning advanced programming and wishes to learn security on grounds of making more secure code. Generally, these guys just want to work with programming.
The other ones are black hat hackers. Although I find their ethics stupid, I have nothing against being in the same room with one of them. The guys i've met only have an interest in security, and usually only for malicious purposes.
I once met one of those really black hat hackers on IRC, and I had to disappear from the channel once he started talking about rootkit infecting half the planet and selling it off to the russian business network.
I guess i'm one of those white/grey hats people are talking about.
So | where do people meet like-minded people, especially grey hats? Are there any channels, or did you meet your friends at uni or what? I've a hard time finding people to collaborate with, talk serious and chill out with... It seems like everyone's just out for themselves.
Can get pretty lonely at times :p
EDIT: I think I should've made that part clearer (thanks to polarbill):
I'm from Europe and was generally wondering about online meeting places. I live in a rather rural area, and getting to the city is quite the pain. Aside from that, I rarely ever hear about security conferences happening here. | [
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First post on the PLounge and this thread caught my eye. Thought I'd make a post.
Tops: Fall/Winter gets any of the button-downs I own (holy hell I'm up to 23), sometimes topped by a sweater, or coat/jacket, depending on the weather. Spring/Summer: Hawaiian shirt, or just a t-shirt.
Bottoms: Fall/Winter: Jeans, chinos, or cords, depending on the shirt or weather. Spring/Summer is shorts or jeans depending on the weather.
Shoes: Depends on what I'm wearing. Can be either grey suede chukkas, black double monkstraps, [these loafers,]( or some Nike Roshe Runs if I'm dressing down.
Accessories: I collect watches, so I try to rotate through based on my outfit. Brown/black leather belt depending on the shoes, and cologne depending on the season and time of day. | clothes clothes clothes | [
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thanks for replying civilly.
I actually glanced at the /r/trees post and considered commenting on some of the hypocrisy of things like 'he needs to chill so I went and downvoted everything on his list.' But I didn't, for the reason that /r/trees isn't my community and from what I know of it, it is as you describe. I would never go into someones home and start causing trouble.
While the concern of /r/trees may be negativity the biggest problem with the main reddit is that with over 750k subscribers (or over 2,000 birthdays per day) there is a lot bloat. I try to occasionally go and prevent some of that bloat, commenting as opposed to just down-voting is more likely to cause other people to vote in kind (except when people go elsewhere and declare holy down-vote jihad).
So, like I've said before here, if the main crux of your complaint is that I was bitingly sarcastic, then I am guilty of that. At the end of the day I am honestly hostile towards the bloat in the main reddit, but if you read through all the comments posted in response, which are the more antagonistic and rude, and which have the most/least votes? | I think the bigger picture is all the bloat that fills up the main reddit, norms are and should be different in small subreddits like /trees vs mega reddits. Also I think the ents had a much bigger reaction than I did to this (perhaps evidence that these birthday posts belong in smaller community sub-reddits). | [
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The entire school I attended from grades 1 through 5 was decidedly different. It was supposedly an bi-lingual (french and english) school run by the board of education, but it operated more like an experimental Montessori (I am using the term very loosely) style school. Some of the things I remember:
Our grade 3 teacher regularly getting all of us to put our chairs in a row, and we would pretend to be paddling a canoe while singing Voyageur songs. He was cool teacher, but I recall him being fired only a couple of months into the year.
Sex education starting in Grade 3 (age 7 & 8), with books and pamphlets on sex and reproduction, and having class discussions. I am pretty sure this was well before this was done at other schools.
Mixed classrooms that combined, for example, grades 1 and 4. I remember being on both sides of this (younger and older).
No set plan of study. If you were the precocious and curious type, you accelerated very fast, but if you were not you were just left behind. In grade 3 I and some of my friends were working through the grade 6 curriculum. But another friend just wanted to play with blocks all day long, and that is what he did.
In grade 2 we would gather in a circle while our teacher read aloud to us. The book she read was Alive: The Story of the Andes Survivors .
In grade 4 we put a lot of effort into class project studying the history and present social organization of Brazil. Why Brazil? I have no idea.
It was supposed to be a bilingual school. I do not recall learning any french. | I don't think my school was normal. I really liked it. | [
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A few days ago I decided to buy myself a GoPro online, simple enough. What could possibly go wrong? I'm a student and have two shipping addresses listed on Amazon, my Parents home (where I am now) and my termtime address which happen to be around 300 miles apart from each other...
The expected delivery date (yesterday) comes and goes so I decide to check the dispatch email again and notice that the default delivery address is set to my termtime one and I have no way to change it. (I have emailed my landlady informing her of what's going on and talked to a mate who was planning on going down that way anyway so I should be able to sort something out). | always double check the delivery address before ordering things online | [
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Hello everyone! In a nutshell, I've located a verse from an ancient manuscript that really resonated with me and I am looking to design a piece incorporating the passage to have tattood on my body! The manuscript is penned in Olde Norse, therefore I doubt I'll ever manage to find an individual willing and able to translate the writing however I am very hopeful to have the Icelandic translation tattood on me. What I was wondering is this;
Short of finding a generous individual on this subreddit who would be willing, where would one find a reliable source where I could learn the pronunciation of this short passage? Im not fortunate enough to know any Icelandic speaking Canadians, so Im at somewhat of a disadvantage :) | I want a short paragraph of icelandic already translated from old norse incorporated into a tattoo, but i want to be able to speak the passage properly! Can anyone help? | [
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2008 Prius... bought used December 2012 with 69,000 miles on it. Had 3 people trying to buy it out from under me and didnt get it checked out by a mechanic. Worst mistake ever. Currently has 93000 miles on it.
I've spent over $2000 on it in the last year. New tires 2 weeks after I bought it for $400. Discovered my front fender liners were broken they failed after a year (another $500) Brought my car to Toyota where the fixed 3 recalls. Headlights stopped working (another recall that should have been fixed before I bough it) cost me $300 after I complained to the dealer and they have me a 50% discount. Broken radio antenna- dealer quoted replacement cost $700, got fixed for $150 by buying parts and finding a trusty mechanic on my own. Just had an engine light come on and had to replace the system that keeps the hybrid battery pack cool cost another $500. And the front fender liners have broken some of their clips again. Oh yeah the hatch handle on the lift gate is a little loose....but I've heard lots of people have had those pop off in their hands when theyre trying to open the hatch. | Always have somebody check out a car before buying it- I knew this and I still failed to do it. Will buy another hybrid if I cant afford a Tesla Model III but man I'm disappointed in my car's previous owner and myself for not having it checked out first.
Cant wait till Generation 4 comes out and I can get a new car. Love the Prius but I hate this particular one. | [
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I just set down End of Eternity and since I found myself smiling a little as I neared the end of the book, I thought I would share my thoughts here.
Basically, it is this: one of the reasons I really love old science fiction, and Asimov in particular is the hopefulness of it all, the real appeal to humanity as an organism that falters but eventually catches it's footing. The End of Eternity is just one of those books and for all the science-fiction flair that makes up the first 9/10th's of the book, I really appreciate how in the end, Asimov makes the entire story about humanity's drive for safety and mediocrity and the inevitable consequences of that: stagnation.
In order to challenge that stagnation the book makes the case for destroying our ability to alter past and future events that weed out all variation. While I found myself enjoying this aspect his philosophy, it was not that that got me smiling. Instead it was that Asimov placed his 'ideal' or 'greatest probability for success' reality as OUR reality. Not a future utopia, not a some alternate version of us, but he placed the events of the book as changing history so that it was our history that occurred. It was amazing to be reading a book and suddenly have the idea that you were reading it because of the events in the book happening (theoretically). This didn't turn out brief I guess, but the | version is: Asimov's books were great not just because the hard sci-fi was good, they are great because he makes us think about ourselves and allows us to believe hope can lie in this timeline, not just in a far off dystopic rebirth. | [
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I'm not sure if you wanted an honest answer, but I work for the army, the use of any type of reactive material in a bullet would be in violation of most international laws prohibiting the use of chemical weapons. Having said that, even if we could we wouldn't do it; modern ammunition is designed to maim rather than kill, high velocity small caliber ammo like the 5.56mm full metal jacket round is designed to make a small entrance wound and cavitate causing somewhat higher damage internally, they dont explode, they dont burn, they dont do anything to further damage to the target. The reason this is the case is because when you kill an enemy soldier, you deplete the enemy army of a single soldier; however, if you injure an enemy soldier it puts a strain on the logistical resources of the enemy army in order to retrograde and care for that soldier. | The army wants enemies to get hurt, not die (if it can be avoided) so the enemy has to expend resources to help the injured. So... no H2O2 bullets, sorry. | [
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We have all seen and heard the complaint that weapon variants have no place in ranked play, and they should be removed; they arent competitive, and give people a slight edge over others. They are random drops, yadda yadda yadda, we've all heard this argument before.
Now I want it noted that I dont disagree with any of this. They do slightly help players, and they have no place in competitive cod. HOWEVER, I believe that these weapons should remain in ranked play.
I think that people are failing to realize what ranked play's purpose truly is. The entire purpose of ranked play is to get pub players to start playing, and enjoying competitive call of duty. This is good for the developers because it creates a larger returning fanbase who will promote their game, and its good for us because they discover all the rest of the industry afterwards.
The truth of the matter is that ranked play isnt for hardcore competitive players. Its the gateway for pub players. Its so that they can get a taste of competitive cod and explore it more.. And the thing is, these pub players love their weapon variants. They feel they have earned them, and its a large aspect of the game that attracts them. Removing weapon variants would make many players hesitate trying ranked play, since they cant use their classes and favorite weapons. We want to promote them coming over, and removing weapon variants would hinder this process.
We musnt forget that at the end of the day, ranked play is a poor mans 8s lobby. Its NEVER going to be extremely competitive. You will always encounter teammates who dont know what theyre doing, who use weird class setups, dont play together on SnD, etc. These arent teams with strats and players who all know how to play the game, these are 8s lobbies with a random assortment of players. If you truly want to practice competitive, go find a gb, post for an 8s lobby, etc. Ranked play isnt supposed to be the most competitive place on earth.
Sure, the weapon variants can win a gunfight here and there. But is it worth removing them if it hinders the growth of competitive cod? Is it worth having players not try ranked play just because they cant use their favorite gun?
At the end of the day, map positioning and smarts will win 95% of the time. Let the players have their variants, see ranked play for what it truly is, and lets grow the community.
Thoughts? | Ranked isnt super competitive to begin with, and its purpose is to grow the competitive community. Allow players to use their weapon variants so that they arent scared off, and allow it to grow the community more. | [
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Well, to be honest. I do a lot of MDMA and when I'm really fucked up it makes me think of what a piece of shit I am even though i live a perfectly normal life with a job and house almost paid off. | It feels really good fucked up I guess. | [
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I am 26 and my girlfriend is 23, we have been together for a year and 3 months. My girlfriend was very bright, enthusiastic and artistic when we first met. She loved reading, indie films, writing, all of those things which showed this beautiful creativity, and she loved those things in me. We moved to Nashville and she got a job at a call center, then got promoted to Trainer. I still work in the sales portion of the call center, doing just basic stuff. Since her promotion it seems she has lost her spark. She has to go to work 30minutes early to get things set up, she has to stay 30 minutes late to prepare for tomorrow. It seems like all she talks about it or is interested in talking about is work, like it has taken over her entire personality.
We had a very serious talk about this because it is breaking my heart, not only not feeling important to her, but feeling if we broke up it would be ok because she has this job which is now the most important thing to do her. She said she has been getting sucked into too deep to her job and would work on it, but nothing has changed and that was about 2 weeks ago. She doesn't write anymore, she doesn't do anything that she used to do. It breaks my heart. She still says she loves me, we still have dinner together and laugh together but it just feels like she isn't all the way there anymore...Does anyone have experience with this? Anything I can do to relate to her more or any tips? It just really sucks seeing her get sucked into her career when she could still do both. | since getting promotion my girlfriend doesn't seem as into the relationship or herself, seems to have lost a bit of her personality. | [
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Crap, utter crap. I don't care about the DRM although i don't care for the bait-n-switch. The game is lame. The levels are stupid easy. The last level is some sort of punchline to my $15 and i felt insulted. Completing the game and watching the cinematic made me fell like Ubisoft was laughing at me. There are challenge maps that you can open and each challenge has a timer. Most challenges have a set time based on the land speed of a villager so there is no better time than what i did, however the game acts like like i could do better. THERE IS ONE CHALLENGE WHERE ALL I DID WAS CLICK ON A TOTEM! THAT'S IT. START, CLICK TOTEM, WAIT, CHALLENGE COMPLETE! That's like challenge number 10. Several of the challenges are the exact same thing with a different looking island.
No video settings? WTF! Hope your machine runs what they have set up and isn't too slow or god forbid too fast. Speaking of too fast i have my mouse speed set to the lowest possible in game and my breath of wind or whatever is like a bat out of hell with every twitch. It always takes a while to synchronize my game on start-up and exit but claims to fail every time. The second and third day i owned it i couldn't play it because the menu would not appear but the background would so i couldn't do anything except stop the program form the task manager.
From dust physics are sadly mediocre. They are very simple and nothing innovative which is really all it could have going for it at this point. Try making an arch out of stone. Can't do it. when you destroy stone it removes all stone above it no matter the height of stone and blast radius of the explosion.
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This is like saying "Oh, also we know there's no way the bible is true because Jesus couldn't have been born in December." A little late to the party, we already knew Yahoo sucked, one more tiny piece of tangential evidence isn't going to change anything. Conversely, if we found out the same thing about Google's former CEOs they'd probably deserve a bonus for being even more bad ass. | who dafuq cares? | [
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My nephew is 6, and I want to get him something that he will love and his mother will take back to their home. Most of the toys and books I've gotten him in the past my sister leaves behind at my parents, saying "these can be for when you visit Grandma and Papa!" She claims there isn't room at her place.
So this pattern resulted in a sad Christmas last year: he got one real toy, because everyone gets him practical things so he gets to take them home. (Booster seat, clothing, books for school...)
How do I get him something that he will enjoy that won't get left behind by his mother? Even when I buy the toys she tells me to get, she leaves them behind.
To give you a sense of him, he loves sports, trucks, and monsters. | I want my nephew to have an awesome Christmas, but my sister never lets him take the toys home. Help? | [
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I just want to point something out, you need to look at the point and put yourself in the year 1998. This statement was made before the internet dotcom bubble burst, when the internet was going through an overhyped period.
Krugman did underestimate how much people have to say to each other, and the future of the information economy. Nonetheless, keep in mind his other comment
“the rate of technological change in computing slows, the number of jobs for IT specialists will decelerate, then actually turn down; ten years from now, the phrase information economy will sound silly.”
The information technology sector has not contributed net growth over the last decade. Quoting Source
“In 2000 the information sector employed 3.6 million workers.* By 2007, just before the recession started, the number was down to 3 million, and in 2009, the information sector had shrunk to 2.8 million.”
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I see a bigger problem with endlessly tampering with the basis of the coin - it will erode confidence and then the price could really free fall - it is not unreasonable to consider future adopters might feel they couldn't really know the basis they are buying in on, so would look elsewhere. | Stick to the original plan wherever possible, or confidence and demand may plummet. | [
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Cheese wizz is the single greatest invention mankind has ever achieved. Landing on the moon is a tiny insignificant accomplishment in comparison with cheese wizz. I might die earlier from eating it, but dammit, I'll die happy. | Try it. Looks sketchy, tastes amazing. There's a reason American's are fat, and that reason is cheese wizz. | [
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Before I begin here some context: it's summer, I'm a cashier at a gas station working my way through University, and I'm an introverted 20-somthing y/o guy (not the scummy type...I hope).
Maybe because it's summer and I tend to see a ton of people on a daily basis at my little store, I've been noticing the women that enter my store more frequently. Not in a, " Hey I wanna slam that salmon! " terrible manner, but more along the lines of, " Wow, she looked great in that dress. " or " She has beautiful eyes/smiles/hair/ect. " or " She was really nice! " (some people can be not-so-nice, unfortunately). Only I don't say anything at all - I keep it to myself.
This is because I'm not too good at giving compliments and when I do say something, it gets mistaken as a pass/flirt (which makes no sense to me whatsoever). Lately, I've been more vocal with my compliments with my regular customers and lady friends (they're beautiful people, too!), so I'm building confidence on this. However, before I say something that may get me in trouble (or come across as weird or uncomfortable - I am a stranger to my customers, after all), I'd like to ask:
Is there a way for me (as a guy) to compliment a lady (or any person, really) in such a way that doesn't hint any ulterior motive (like flirting and such) or am I doomed to have every compliment scrutinized under a fine-toothed comb (or microscope)? Any insight and advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading!
EDIT: | Don't know how to compliment women respectfully...apparently. | [
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After reading [this thread]( particularly [Dracovitch's post]( seems that one popular opinion is that Avacyn will returned fused with Griselbrand, or perhaps all of the demons inside the Helvault, explaining her dark wardrobe. The thought kind of made sense. Why else would an angel be dressed in black and wearing black makeup?
So anyways, I looked at her staff and noticed something weird. At a glance, the scepter is just her Silver Collar. Something which struck me as odd though, were the rather elongated tips to it. Why is it different than [Avacyn's Pilgrim]( staff? Heck, in every other image of Avacyn's symbol, there are no pointy tips; the collar ends abruptly with flat tops. The thought arose that perhaps it is indeed her Silver Collar, but because of Griselbrand's influence, now has demon horns.
[Her normal Silver Collar]( The [staff in question](
Edit: The artwork on [Endless Ranks of the Dead]( is a picture of a stained glass window of Avacyn. She looks much more benevolent here. In the release image she's reminiscent of a fallen angel. | Avacyn's staff in [this image]( has demon horns, resulting from her being fused with Griselbrand/demonkind. | [
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So it all started about a year ago when a co-worker of mine [20 M] and I [20 M] started to talk a lot outside of work. We always got along at work but we started having deep and meaningful conversations outside of work, via text message.
So in May he crashed his car pretty bad, it was totaled, and he was freaking out and depressed and didn't know what to do. I offered to give him a ride and he paid me cash weekly. It worked perfect for us because he only lived 15 minutes from me and it close to where we both worked.
So he crashed his car in May and I have continued to give him a ride up until today. He pays me 200 a month which Is fair compensation for the drive and time. So since we spent so much time together we became really close and I started staying over at his house and he at mine. I met his parents and they liked me and my parents loved him. We became best friends and spend basically every day together throughout the summer.
He had a girlfriend [19 F] at the time. I am straight and single but I have many girls whom which I regularly hang out with. His girlfriend and I became close and started texting and talking behind his back. I didn't think anything of it. We never did anything, never kissed, or had sex, or even touched one another. We had this understanding. But, over the summer we all (my friend, his GF, one of her friends, and I) went to concert in the city, and I got extremely drunk. I told his GF that I loved her that day and ever since then my friend never trusted that her or I would never do anything.
So come fall, I being a sophomore in a local college was getting ready to go back and I wasn't doing so good. I had a 2.3 GPA and I knew I wouldn't do much better this semester. So I made the decision to go to a local community college. My decision was based equally in the two facts that I wasn't doing so well and my friend was also going there. We planned it all out and enrolled and had a great plan to go to the local community college together then transfer to a better school. We made plans to basically be best friends for a long time and we really got along.
So my greatest mistake came just after school started, it was his girlfriends birthday. I have a female best friend named Sara who had always told me she would love to go zip lining. Me, being scared and not wanting to seem like a coward decided to go once before I took her just to not seem inexperienced and foolish when i went with her. I didn't want to go alone and the idea popped into my head to take my friends GF partly because it was just her birthday a week ago. We knew that my friend would not like us going and we should have respected that, but we didn't tell him.
This is the main sticking point to his hatred towards me, when he found out he didn't freak out or tell or try and punch me. He didn't say anything for a month, at least to me. He told me he felt betrayed and how could any true friend of mine have done what you did and not tell me. He has every reason to hate me and I absolutely feel terrible for doing it. This combined with what I said when I was drunk drove him to make accusations about what her and I actually did. I don't know If he actually thinks her and I did anything but we didn't.
We went through that month after he found out barely speaking in the car, keep in mind I still drive him every day, and walking mostly silently between classes. Our school schedules and work schedules are the same and we see each other everyday.
About a month ago, he began cheating on his girlfriend with a girl he said he has known a while. This girl would pick him up from school or work sometimes, so I obviously knew when they were together. His girlfriend and mother called me one night and asked where he was. I told them that I didn't drive him home and in that moment all thoughts about the possibility of cheating became a reality. His girlfriend freaked out and broke it off (they were together 2 years) and I still to this day feel guilty.
2 weeks ago he got drunk before I drove him home and we talked a little in the car, and he told me I was 100 percent the reason he was not with his girlfriend anymore and he the only solace he has was that because she is gone he had this new amazing girl in his life. He basically told me I am completely reason he ended a 2 year relationship an he was glad because this new girl, who I publicly called a whore, was back in his life.
I honestly love this kid like a brother, we became so close of such a short period of time and I ruined what would have been a great future. I don't know how to begin dealing with this and especially seeing him everyday. He has mentioned changing majors and just the thought of not having him in my life anymore makes me so sad. I just want things to be like they used to but I know that can never happen. He has basically told me that he doesn't care about me and he will get a car as soon as he has enough money. I know It sounds like he I just using me now, and maybe that's true but I can't just kick him out especially after what I did. | I took my best friends girlfriend out and lost his trust forever. He doesn't talk to me and idk if I should try and repair our friendship or let it
Go. | [
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My decision was based equally in the two facts that I wasn't doing so well and my friend was also going there. We planned it all out and enrolled and had a great plan to go to the local community college together then transfer to a better school. We made plans to basically be best friends for a long time and we really got along. \n So my greatest mistake came just after school started, it was his girlfriends birthday. I have a female best friend named Sara who had always told me she would love to go zip lining. Me, being scared and not wanting to seem like a coward decided to go once before I took her just to not seem inexperienced and foolish when i went with her. I didn't want to go alone and the idea popped into my head to take my friends GF partly because it was just her birthday a week ago. We knew that my friend would not like us going and we should have respected that, but we didn't tell him. \n This is the main sticking point to his hatred towards me, when he found out he didn't freak out or tell or try and punch me. He didn't say anything for a month, at least to me. He told me he felt betrayed and how could any true friend of mine have done what you did and not tell me. He has every reason to hate me and I absolutely feel terrible for doing it. This combined with what I said when I was drunk drove him to make accusations about what her and I actually did. I don't know If he actually thinks her and I did anything but we didn't. \n We went through that month after he found out barely speaking in the car, keep in mind I still drive him every day, and walking mostly silently between classes. Our school schedules and work schedules are the same and we see each other everyday. \n About a month ago, he began cheating on his girlfriend with a girl he said he has known a while. This girl would pick him up from school or work sometimes, so I obviously knew when they were together. His girlfriend and mother called me one night and asked where he was. I told them that I didn't drive him home and in that moment all thoughts about the possibility of cheating became a reality. His girlfriend freaked out and broke it off (they were together 2 years) and I still to this day feel guilty. \n 2 weeks ago he got drunk before I drove him home and we talked a little in the car, and he told me I was 100 percent the reason he was not with his girlfriend anymore and he the only solace he has was that because she is gone he had this new amazing girl in his life. He basically told me I am completely reason he ended a 2 year relationship an he was glad because this new girl, who I publicly called a whore, was back in his life. \n I honestly love this kid like a brother, we became so close of such a short period of time and I ruined what would have been a great future. I don't know how to begin dealing with this and especially seeing him everyday. He has mentioned changing majors and just the thought of not having him in my life anymore makes me so sad. I just want things to be like they used to but I know that can never happen. He has basically told me that he doesn't care about me and he will get a car as soon as he has enough money. I know It sounds like he I just using me now, and maybe that's true but I can't just kick him out especially after what I did.",
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So just a little back story: I've been in New York doing a year long graduate program but hail from Texas. Two semesters in the city and then 6 weeks of intensive courses in none other than Paris, France. It's been a fantastic time; I've fallen in love with an amazing man, so knowing I had to leave these past few days has been rough on both of us. We've joked around, oh, maybe something you'll happen and you'll be stuck here with me.
Well. We probably shouldn't have tempted fate. Thanks to the year in NYC and going off to France, I only went home during winter break. Couldn't really afford going home for a week between the end of the semester and the start of the Paris courses. So I either shipped as much as I could home or got rid of it. But I still had things I was taking with me that are just part of basically moving my life around, such as my favorite blanket and a pillow.
In hindsight, I should have either sent these things home or just left them behind. But no. I was stubborn and bought a carry-on approved case. I figured, I'll pack big, heavy items in my checked bag and then use my new case for whatever is left. Shouldn't be a problem right? Well, I also have my backpack, which carries my laptop and whatever misc. items I wanted/needed during the flight. Sounds fine right?
Wrong. My flight left at 8:45am, local time. I'm there around 6:45am, like a good traveler. My boyfriend, thank god, is with me, as there's a huge queue and he won't leave me until I go through security. We wait and wait, it's a little past 7am when I finally arrive at the desk. The lady accepts my checked bag, no problem. She sees my case, asks if it's carry-on, says it looks too big. Then she spots my backpack. Fuuuuuck me. She sort of goes off on me, saying she was nice enough to let my checked bag go through when it was over the limit by 3 kilos and that I needed to be more careful and pay more attention. But now, she can't let me take both, I absolutely have to pay for the second bag and check it. I ask how much that would be. 165 euros, ladies and gentlemen. Or, $224...which I don't have cash. After a few minutes of crying because I'm so stressed, I decide I'll just pay it and charge it to my credit card.
And that doesn't work. I'm a grad student, with loans. My credit isn't that great and I've used up most of my limit on this trip. The airfare being the biggest purchase on it. I'm $48 dollars shy of being able to pay. I ask if I can give a friend's credit card number, nope, no can do. I use my banking mobile app to make a payment, hope that'll help, nope. It'll take at least a day to process. I use my boyfriend's cell phone to call the bank; can't get a credit extension and they shuffle me from department to department to "see what they can do." Just when I think they can do an emergency authorization, the credit on my bf's phone runs out. (The call was unfortunately collect.) So that doesn't work.
The agent at the desk in the meanwhile is getting angrier and angrier with me, saying well, now we have to delay the flight and take your luggage off and you can't board. I ask if I can just leave the extra case with my bf and catch my flight. She says no, absolutely not, they're taking both of them off and I'm missing my flight.
So reddit, I've missed my flight, which due to buying through a student airfare site, is restricted. I can't change, even paying fees. I'll have to buy an entirely new ticket, and the best part is I'll also be missing a one-way flight I had from LGA to DFW that parents had paid for. So I'll have to cancel that and pay the fees and somehow explain to my parents that I'm stuck in France for the time being and pray they'll be willing to help me out. (Mum's a bit of a NMom, but that's a whole other subreddit.) | A 165 Euro second baggage fee is now turning into a $1000+ ticket back home from Paris, France to DFW, TX. | [
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How he did it without getting emotional or melodramatic.
His friends desperately tried to discourage him from his suicide and tried to help him escape from where he was being held - he was ordered to kill himself so I suppose it was different to straight suicide - but all the same he did it without much of a fuss and stuck by his principles and would rather die for them than run away like a coward.
He told his friends to stop crying as he died too, he told them that they were being silly.
Just the manner in which he went about it, he was so cool. He did it like it was no big deal. Even though he had thought about whether to live or die very carefully beforehand and so he wasn't careless about the decision.
His suicide was in a way his choice as he had the chance to escape. People say that no one can rationally choose suicide or they must be mentally unwell to want it - but no one call Socrates anything other than a man who loved to rationally argue things, that was what his whole life was about! He certainly wasn't mentally ill!
It's funny because if you asked most of these people who claim suicide is irrational or always done by the mentally ill and then mention Socrates, they will still talk about Socrates with great respect and will even probably call his decision to die noble, but then they will say "that's different" without explaining why no one today can die by rational choice.
Socrates seemed like a bad ass, and I don't usually like that overused word. But he was one. He challenged authority, he challenged people he met, he got them thinking as much as he could. He wouldn't be one to avoid uncomfortable topics, I'm sure if you time-traveled back and wanted to ask him his thoughts on antinatalism, he would approach the subject without prejudice, and do his best to see both sides of the argument.
I really admire how he went out in a calm and even lighthearted manner.
I have been very self-pitying of myself during my suicidal years, but I hope that when I do it, I will die feeling calm, confident and proud of myself. I want to feel as sure about suicide being the right choice for me as Socrates did. I actually am already sure but just scared and sentimentally attached to my past and so sad to break all ties with it forever, even if I don't like my present. Even though these days all I do is experience things but not experience happiness, there is also the worry about losing future experiences, even if they are just unhappy ones. But I know I want out. Have known a long time. But I hope I can die with a similar attitude to him. I am grateful that he can be a kind of role model, he can be someone whose demeanor I can try to emulate to keep myself calm at the end, that that can be something I have to focus on at the end.
Yes, people around me will not think my suicide was the right thing and will call it selfish, weak, cowardly and they may be ashamed or embarrassed.
I hope that when I do it I can do it in as sensible and calm a manner as Socrates. Knowing that I am doing the right thing for me and that what I am doing is nothing to feel ashamed or embarrassed about. | Socrates was an example of an intelligent person who committed a calm and rational suicide. Even though he was ordered to kill himself he had the chance to escape but preferred to die for what he believed in and not spend his whole life running or affect his family's life by becoming runaways. His friends tried to discourage him from suicide but he stuck to what he wanted. I like how he stayed lighthearted at the end. He did not get sad or emotional even though he was an extremely intelligent man who may have easily and rightly felt that he could have still had a lot to contribute to the world. He was the epitome of calm rational thinking and prided himself on putting reason before emotion, and yet people today seem to find it hard to believe a suicide can be a rational choice.
I hope that I can go out in a calm manner similar to the way Socrates did. I am grateful that he has shown me that this can be done.
In a way, there could be no better person who represents rational suicide! Rational thinking and argument was what he was famous for, and why he is called the father of Western philosophy. It's strange how I've never heard him mentioned in the debates for rational suicide/right-to-die going on today. Maybe it's because his death isn't seen as a straight suicide, because he was ordered to do it, though I see it as suicide because he had the chance to escape and chose to die instead. | [
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Original Post](
So this is a bit late, but there was a lot of interest in my last post and I thought I'd give you guys an update on what happened.
She came back from her trip late that night and we sat down immediately to have a talk. I had this big plan about what I was going to say and how to explain what my feelings were better, give everything more context etc. but in the end none of it was necessary as she dove straight in..
She said that she was sorry that her reaction was a little harsh. She explained that she has zero problem with gays/bisexuals but that when it's with her own partner it feels different. She agreed maybe it is close-minded but she said it's an instinctive reaction. She said she is honestly not 100% comfortable with the idea, but that realistically it isn't that big of a deal. She said she doesn't truly understand the whole "it's more about dick than being attracted to men" thing, but that she understands human sexuality is complex and believes me.
She said that she really liked how I explained myself with regards to saying assertively that I know exactly what I feel, what I want and that it's for nobody else to try and tell me otherwise. Apparently my confidence in my sexuality and that the fact that I seem completely unconflicted with it makes it less of big deal.
So, in the end, I just kind of nodded and said that she had pretty much already come to all of the conclusions that I was about to try and get her to. We laughed and made up.
So it's been over a week now and there have no more issues. She has actually brought it up a few times in a humorous way, making fun of me, which I am totally okay with. I'm just glad it's all out in the open and not too big of a deal anymore. | Girlfriend does a u-turn, ends up being, if not 100% comfortable, able to accept it and be okay with the fact. Lesson learnt - give people time to process things before jumping to totalistic conclusions.
EDIT - Also, I think I am just going to go all out and state early in a relationship that I would say I am 95% straight. That way you can avoid major conflict later if it would be an issue and also I think you can learn a lot about a person in how they react. | [
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1: This is a matter if preference. I have owned 7000 double pedals and played 5000's but like the 7000's better.
2/3: 7000 pedals are discontinued. That is why you never see them anywhere, I am not sure about the 3000's, but generally it is accepted tgat the higher the number the better (I.e. 9000 are better than 5000). But once again it is a matter of preference.
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NOTE: if you sell the 7000 sell them in eBay or Craigslist , you'll get much more money than from guitarcenter. They offered me 70$ but then I sold it on Craigslist for $130. | [
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So I'm almost at 2 weeks clean now , I'm FINALLY getting my life free from endless hours staring at the porntubes with my hand in my lap. Unlike my past attempts to "try" to stop looking at flixxx all day everyday, I've got a strategy this time. I'm taking working more hours , getting excersice, studing books , etc , etc, etc. But today on the bus ride home it struck me....I THINK ABOUT PORN A LOT ! ! ! And I don't just mean day dreaming about old scenes but just random bullshit thoughts like " I wonder what (insert porn actor/actress name here) is doing now for a living? " Or what does that porn move mean or what sexist/racist undertones did that video imply and random other mindless dribble. You know if I can just focus my mind on something positive, creative or even just something that could make me money , everytime I accidently think about porn, I'd already be a millionaire genius. | Just think about all the masters,artist, millionaires,inventors, and good professional people who are at the TOP of their game. The one think they all have in common is focus on the goal. (not porn) | [
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Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I are currently doing long distance, and last night he went out with some of his buddies, and one of these buddies grew up in the same town as my boyfriend, we'll call this guy "Greg". Just to clarify, I have no issues with my boyfriend texting other girls normally, but everything that happened today is very weird and makes me feel super uneasy.
Today, while on the phone with my boyfriend, "Brad", I got a Facebook message from some guy, "Taylor", saying "your boyfriend has been playing around on you" and he sent me a screen cap of a phone conversation that said:
Unkown #: Hi cutie
Taylor: Who is this?
Unkown #: It's Brad
Taylor: Brad who?
Unkown #: Brad [insert my boyfriend's last name]
Since I was on the phone with my boyfriend I read everything out to him and asked him what was going on. He said that since it wasn't his number it wasn't him who sent the text. My boyfriend has a very odd name though, so I thought this was strange since it had my same area code. I texted the cell number that said their name was Brad, and it turns out the number belongs to Greg.
Brad finally admitted to me that he and Greg were talking about a girl from their home town (who is very attractive by the way), and she also has the name "Taylor", and I guess that's who they were trying to text.
First Greg was saying that Brad was screwing around on his phone for a while, and now he is saying that Brad was never on his phone, and that it was him who texted Taylor.
Can you guys let me know if I am being psycho, I feel pretty crazy right now. I am more mad at the fact that Brad has been lying to me than that he possibly texted a girl saying "hey cutie". I'm also mad that Brad and Greg think I'm dumb enough to buy all the bullshit they've been saying today.
What do I do from here? | Boyfriend accidentally texted the wrong number when attempting to text another girl. A bunch of other bullshit ensued. I'm pissed. | [
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I'm (24/f) struggling because I feel like my boyfriend (26) will never admit to being at fault when he does something wrong. We're all human and everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. But I feel like he's afraid to admit fault because he thinks admitting fault will give me power or something. I always try to emphasize that I want our disagreements to lead to a discussion where we can come to an understanding, but it always feels like he's threatened by me and it turns into a battle. I don't know if it's me or him. I always apologize and offer a resolution when I screw up. I just want an apology and acknowledgment that he messed up this time.
We had an argument and the way he yelled at me yesterday has caused me to feel a little different about him. We were arguing via text messages. Then he called me and chewed me out, did not let me get a word in, and hung up. I can't stand when people yell at me because I feel we can resolve an issue calmly and feel being yelled at is degrading. It was incredibly childish and I was left feeling disgusted.
We're supposed to go apartment hunting tomorrow but now I'm feeling really apprehensive. I'm about to be locked in a one year lease with this guy, and the apartment has to be in my name because his credit is really fucked. We've been together for a little over a year and have had many great experiences in that year (traveled to Japan, New York, Chicago, all over southern California). I'm deeply in love with him and we click in many ways. We have made plans for a future together and I really want it. But I'm getting cold feet because I'm feeling disgusted (yes) by the fact that he rarely apologizes or admits fault.
We're both strong individuals and have a passionate relationship. I want us to work together but I really feel that he's secretly threatened by me, and has to maintain his power(?) so I don't walk all over him. I love him so I would never manipulate or attempt to gain power over him or treat him like a rug; I want us to have equality in this relationship. But I don't know how we can have that if he never admits to his mistakes. We've already talked about the argument, but I feel unsatisfied because he seemed to try to cut the conversation short and never apologized for acting so rude. I barely got to speak today when we were discussing what happened yesterday. I feel he also may feel threatened because I'm the main source of income between us at the time being, but that's never a problem to me. And I'm also concerned because he may have been intoxicated when the argument took place, which sucks because he enjoys scotch and I like that he enjoys it too, but now I'm starting to get uncomfortable with him drinking if he's going to be a drunk asshole... | How can I ask my boyfriend if he feels threatened by me without insulting him/his masculinity? How can I make him see that we are equal in this relationship? Should I ask for an apology for him chewing me out? Are all men assholes when drunk? Should I move in with this dude? | [
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I don't know how many times I've tried to write this post,.. My head is a mess right now. I hope you guys can give me advice.
We met 5 years ago and everything was perfect for the first 3 years. We talked about everything, there was no lies, and we hadn't any serious fight at all. At first she was way too much excited than me with our relationship, but it worked OK. Then in the 3rd year She suffered an anxiety disorder out of nothing and during the next year Her self-esteem was very low and her feelings towards the relationship was like a rollercoaster. Finally, one day She told me to take an undefined break, as She realised how much damaged is the situation, how much is this mining her self-esteem, and needed to be alone while going therapy.
During this brake, one night she called me asking for a bit of sex. I accepted (of course!) and we went to a hotel. We had wild sex and then She fell asleep. Then, I don't know why [and I'm not proud of it], I took her phone and read conversations with her best friend in order to know if she missed me, if she talked about me or something. However, It wasn't 100% clear, but I've figured out She was having an affair with her ex-bf (which also was engaged) days BEFORE we took the brake up. I quickly left the phone, the next day I didn't tell her anything and I just figured out I must misread something. I deleted it from my head, and we kept the situation like it was before that night.
Months later She asked me to come back but only if I promise to get much more involved in the relationship (her therapist diagnosed her with fear of abandonment, and She always were expecting more from me but never told me), and we finally decided to got back together.
In these months I know she was dating with a guy, She told me who, but it was "just something physical". However, one night shortly after we came back, we went out to a dance club with friends and I noticed how She was texting with someone too much and at a glance I saw she was texting with this "just something physical" guy. When we went to sleep to his place, I couldn't sleep and I [shame on me, I know! I know!!] took her phone again to double-check what I saw. She was sexting with him all night long, even when She was sitting next to me at diner. I felt like shit and humiliated, but never told her and "forgive her" because She was drunk since the dinner's wine, and we all know alcohol makes you do stupid things (Me too) and just trusted in her.
Things went like a rollercoaster for the next year. Some weeks/months we were great and a hell of a couple (she also talked about living together, marriage, etc..), some others She lost all hope on it. Even when I've been actually more involved in the relationship than ever, It all depends exclusively on her self-esteem. I'm trying my best, although I lose control sometimes, but I know everything comes from her fear of abandonment and self-esteem issues, and I cannot blame her for it. I want to save this.
However, a couple of weeks ago I took her phone again (I hate myself for doing this, I swear..) and I read a conversation with her friend about She making out with her ex-bf four months ago (in one of our "bad times")..... ENOUGH!.. I'm tired of this situation
Now we are in a "bad time" again and She told me is unsure if this is going to work. I'm aware I'm having trusting issues since we took the break.. and those issues may directly affect her in his fear of abandonment, then her self-esteem, and then the "bad times", and finally cheating. Tomorrow I'll talk to her, and I think I should tell her what I know and I want to fix this relationship, but I need her to stop cheating on me or whatever it is to restore our confident.
What do you think? Should I try this last bullet? Do you suffer/know anyone with fear of abandonment? How it is from the other side? | I read on my GFs phone she cheated on me 3 times when we were in bad situations. I think this bad situations derived from her low self esteem, and it is boosted up with my trusting issues, which were boosted up when I found out the cheating shit. I want to save this relationship but first I think I should tell her what I know | [
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Hi all,
A bit more detail:
I am trying to find some info about the coorelation of chemicals to infertility... any info is great but some dream items would be:
EU data would be best, but NA or other "industrilized" country would be useful.
Academic/official.
Specific to male fertility.
Any data breakdown by chemical or chemical family would be handy too.
Thanks!
P.S. I find info like this rather readily of course... but while it describes the possible causes and risks, there is no breakdown to what % of infertility / defects are actually caused by any particular source, be it genetic, chemical, lifestyle, etc. | Is there any statistic to describe the probability % of infertility due to chemicals (or to other causes at least allowing for the elimination of a large % of the causes?) | [
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"content": "Is there any statistic to describe the probability % of infertility due to chemicals (or to other causes at least allowing for the elimination of a large % of the causes?)",
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I have an update!
I finally worked up the courage to call him last week. Turns out his phone number didn't work anymore, as he had moved across the country a few years ago. After about an hour of Google-fu, I found his contact information and called him today. Hoo boy that was emotional. He was so kind and gracious and completely understood my position. We spoke for about 15 minutes...I finished the conversation by telling him that he was the best piano teacher I have ever had (which is true) and that I have broken the cycle of bigotry that I was exposed to. He's doing well...he has moved on to do great musical things in his line of work, so that warmed my heart as well. :) | OP delivered. | [
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My boyfriend broke up with me four days ago after a 1,5 years long relationship. I really can't tell you about my terrible feelings. We always had a few problems like he was smoking weed everyday or treated me like I wasn't his girlfriend. Maybe it's a result from that... So but two weeks ago we had one of these talks in which I told him I can't deal with his behavior concerning me as his girlfriend. It ended up he wanted to end our relationship and I begged him not to. I was so desperate and couldn't believe myself as he said he would give us a last chance. I was the luckiest person!
A few days later everything was great.. he texted me, asked for dates and so on. I really thought we were going to manage it. But I was wrong... Four days ago he came to my house and told me he would begin to feel bad again and it's time for us to go separate ways. I couldn't say anything.. i was so surprised in a negative way and really didn't expected that. He gave me all my clothes, things and also the keys and drove away. He said, we could be friends, he would be there for me if I have problems and that I still mean a lot to him.
The next day we were on the same party and decided we could drive together. As we wanted to leave we thought maybe to spend a last night together and it was really awesome! Yeah, we had sex but we were also cuddling and he told me he liked it I was next to him in his arms.
The next day I was looking for a talk because I wanted to know if he still doesn't want us as a couple anymore. He told me, he made this decision and didn't chance his opinion. He doesn't think it's a good idea to meet in the next time and that it's better for both of us.
Reddit, please help me... I really really love him and want him back so unimaginably! I'm so broken-hearted and can't accept it... I want him so badly!
What can I do? | My boyfriend broke up with me and I'm totally hurted! Are there any chances I can get? | [
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OK, quick back story, I am currently 37w and at my 36w scan they predicted him at already being 8.5lbs. Hes been measuring big this whole time, in fundal height anyways, but the US showed him as being 40w in size rather than 36w. Go GO Fatty Baby :D
My OB at my appointment yesterday brought up the possibility of induction because of how big he is. I also have to do a 3h Glucose test because they are worried that they missed GD, even though I passed the 1st one with flying colors.
She gave me multiple options, the first one being the least ideal (and she even said that) about me inducing ASAP, but they would have to do tests to check his lungs etc. I shot that one down. Then the next would be when I am 39w, or 40w but she expressed concerns about him not fitting by 40w. She said she would rather him not go past his due date, bring on the panic from me.
I want a natural birth, i want him to come when hes ready and not be confined to a bed with medication making me contract. I don't want to be forced into an epidural or a c-section only to find out that at 40w he is only 8.5lbs still. I would be horrifically pissed off. I think I am overthinking this and going by what I want rather than what would be safest for me and my son. :(
I am not as informed about inductions as I thought I was. I really didn't look into it as much as I probably should have and now I am stressing myself out because I am not sure what to expect.
Ladies who have been induced, why were you induced? How traumatic was it?
Did anyone else have "Big Baby Induction Syndrome?"
What questions should I ask my OB about the process? | Doctor said "Induction", I am freaking, not sure if its because I am uninformed or because I am just not ready. Any advice appreciated. | [
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This actual fuck up happened four days ago but I just discovered the results of it today ...
So my next door neighbor is a step-dad. His step-son has a beautiful 2 year old female pit. Step-dad and I frequently chat when we see each other in passing. Four days ago he tells me that his stepchildren are complaining that he walks the dog too much and she is too tired all the time. The step-son told him he is no longer allowed to walk his dog. For those that don't know, pits are notorious for being high energy dogs and need lots of exercise (source; I have two myself). He also tells me that the only reason he walks the dog so much is because the step-son never does, so step-dad is the only source of exercise for this dog. I found this plausible since he is the only person I have ever seen walking the dog, playing with her, or even just chilling on the front porch to let her be outside. I proceed to tell the dad that he should do what he thinks is best for the dog, regardless of anyone else's opinion, and especially if he thinks the dog is not being taken care of properly. He agrees and says I think I'm gonna get up early, around 4am, and walk the dog before anyone else wakes up. I told him that's a good idea because the dog shouldn't suffer due to his owner's indifference.
Several days pass and I haven't seen him all week. I finally see the step-dad today. He comes to talk to me and tells me, "Well I'm never taking your advice again." I ask why, what do you mean? He says that he took the dog out that next morning around 4am and his wife and two step-sons were waiting for him when he got back. A big argument ensued and his wife took her children's side and told him, if he can't follow the rules of the house then he can get out. Step-dad uses this opportunity to tell the oldest step-son (the dog owner) that he thinks he's worthless (step-son has been arrested twice, one of those charges is a pending gun charge, and has a heroin problem), and said step-son tried to fight step-dad. Step-dad refrains from knocking out his step-son and agrees to leave. He is staying at a friends, came back today to pick up some more of his things and is looking for his own apartment. On the bright side, if he does go through with getting his own place he said he plans on finding a dog friendly apt so he can offer his dope fiend of a stepson $500 to sell the dog. | Advocated for a dog, possibly ended a marriage. | [
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Background
I have always lifted weights on and off since 9th grade but not seriously and without working legs until about 3-4 years ago. A couple years ago I did my first competition and competed at 163 pounds. After that competition I began "bulking" and just ate anything and everything. My wife got pregnant and I gained more weight during her pregnancy than she did. I got up to 193 pounds and decided I wanted to compete again. I considered competing at 183 but saw that I could potentially set a state record if I made 163.
This is what got me motivated to lose weight. I didn't have some typical "I hate myself so much I gotta do this" moment. I began cutting weight seriously in June of last year with a goal of making 163 by December. I compete in USAPL which is drug tested so I didn't use anything extra that could potentially make me fail a drug test.
I met my first goal of making 163 around mid November and maintained weight until the competition in Dec. I set the GA state squat record with 485 at 163 and qualified for nationals with 485 squat/319 bench/496 DL/1300 total and a 424 wilks score. After that, I enjoyed life a little bit.
Jan 31st I saw that I could be competitive at the national level if I made the 145 weight class. I weighed 168.8 that morning and started cutting weight hard to get to 145.5 by April 2nd for the Georgia Spring Open. I made weight through diet and a brutal 9 pound water cut for a 2 hour weigh in. I got 451 squat/308 bench/512 DL/1273 total for a 454 wilks. I had more in the tank on bench. I went straight to 325 to try and set a meet PR and barely failed it on my second attempt. Squats were trashed from the water cut. DL went well. I set the squat, bench, DL, total, bench only, DL only, and Push/Pull records for GA.
After that I slowly decreased body weight more and I competed again this weekend. I tried some different training methods this round and I didn't respond well at all. I didn't have to cut nearly as much water but my form on squats and DL fell apart over the last month of training and I ended up performing worse than 2 months earlier by 22 lbs. I did get 314 on bench for a 145 PR and a new state bench record.
I am now ranked 8th all time for total in USAPL at the Raw Open 66kg(145.5lb) class and 220th across all Raw Open weight classes based on wilks score with 454.6 wilks.
Training/Diet
I followed Layne Norton's Ultimate Cutting Diet pretty closely for the entire cutting process. I weighed everything I ate, planned refeeds, cheated as little as my sanity would allow, and followed through with hitting my macros as much as possible. My target calories were setup to lose 1.5 pounds a week. That worked great with a refeed about every 2 weeks from 193-165ish. After that I started feeling the need for refeed much more often and it got down to 1 a week until about 155. After that I began carb cycling for heavy leg days on top of a weekly refeed.
For exercise I lifted weights heavy and hard 4-5 times a week throughout the process training for powerlifting. I had heavy work, volume work, accessory work, but nearly cardio. The only cardio I did in this entire process was swimming (awfully) for about 20 minutes 1 time a week for the first 6 weeks or so of cutting and maybe 10 2 mile walks around my neighborhood over the course of the year.
The "after" picture was taken this past Saturday morning before I began taking hot baths to get the last 3 pounds of water weight off before weigh ins at 145.5 I was about 149 in that picture. That was after water loading for the week. I normally walk around at 152ish right now. | Set macro targets, meet macro targets. Weigh and track all food. Lift heavy and often. Gainz. | [
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But if you're a minor and I sign a contract with you, am I ethically guilty of fraud?
No, you are not guilty of fraud, you merely have an invalid contract. In cases where a valid contract is necessary for pursuant action to be legal, any actions taken without a valid contract (i.e. - sexual acts) are in direct violation of the law. | If you have sex with a minor, you are guilty of statutory rape, not fraud. | [
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Here you can see it's just people asking for skins, trying to scam (but the one on the first photo is just unbelievable, the link actually has "hack facebook account" as the title) or just spamming the hell out of it, but this is just unacceptable imo.
These rooms represent Riot in some way and this is the chat, I know on the PBE we have this nice bot that gives warnings (no idea if it actually kicks people) so why are we not having that here? This really has to stop. | Chatlobbies are a mess, needs chatbot. | [
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I only moved my fish tanks a few blocks when I moved in he fall. Here is what I did with no losses.
First Thing Fish tanks are the last thing to be packed and first thing to be unpacked. They are basically on a ticking time bomb once you remove power.
Get a bunch of plastic totes that you can split everything up into and save as much water as you can. The water parameters might be very different at the new location so you probably want to slowly add in the new water over a few days when you get to the new place so everything can get adjusted.
Net all the fish and keep them in a bucket. take you plants and put them in some buckets as well. (this might depend on what kind of plants you are dealing with)
Possibly add a air filter into your tank right now so that the bacteria can build up on it. an hour isn't to long to have everyone unfiltered I don't think but the water surface being broken by the filter will help to get oxygen into the water. Keep you other filters wet to minimize the losses with them as well.
Now that all the plants and fish are happy in their buckets it is time to deal with the substrate. For me I just drained out as much water as I could. Right down to the substrate. ( I have sand capped dirt in my tank so I thought I was going to have mud after the trip.) I placed the tank perpendicular to the direction of travel to keep the sloshing around to a minimum. After a few blocks on terrible town roads that have huge humps to go over and the trip out of the old place and into the new one the disturbance was minimal.
Once in the new location all my water was the same temperature so I added everything back into the tank. And turned on the heater. connected the filter back up and everything went on as if nothing had happened. Once everything was back to temperature and the stress was gone I did whatever replanting I needed to do.
Wow this got long... | bucket everything, save the water, and put it all back together in the new location as if nothing happened. | [
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Sorry this is so long - I got a bit carried away
Rage uninstalled last night - after 3/4 days of a mostly stressful experience.
So I recovered a 2 year old account (Newb account - few mil ISK, 1.5m@ SP) and decided I should join a Corp to try and improve my gameplay experience. Decided on "BraveNewbies" because I liked their fly cheap, die cheap mentality. They have a lot of Redditors, too, so I assumed them to be like minded.
I very quickly realized I'd need to find a steady source of income to help buy/fit ships to join in with Corp stuff, fleeting etc.
That's the bit that has prompted my quitting. Having done a lot of reading I thought I'd give Exploration a go. Read a lot about being able to fit a ship out reasonably easily (I went for the Imicus) so I thought hell, why not.
The user interface for scanning down sites with probes was initially, I thought, extremely fidgety and unnecessarily complex. Regardless, I got the hang of it eventually. I read that even fairly new players, with some knowledge of low/null sec could make some decent money.
I initially start out scanning low sec areas (0.2 to 0.5~) - I'm only in an Explorer rig so combat sites are apparently out of the question yet these come up by far the most. Having spent hours trying to find data/relic site I eventually give up on low sec and head to null. (When I say hours I mean literally 30-40+ failed attempts in low sec).
Arrive in null. Seems very quiet, not a great deal going on. Scan the first area - nothing but combat. Move on, same. Move on, same.
I fly around nullsec in my explorer intent on finding a data/relic site and again, for literally hours, I get nothing but combat sites. I know I'm probing correctly (Expanded launch prober, throwing 8 combat scanning probes each time). Nothing.
I'm about to rage quit and uninstall the entire game (not lightly) when, at 2.30am I finally found a relic site.
AWESOME!
This is it. I'm about to score a decent amount of ISK and can finally ease off money-worries to supplement my fighting in Corp fleets and so on.
EVE: NOPE!
There are 3 remains to be scanned down with my Relic analyzer. At this point I'm in null-sec Syndicate space so I'm hoping, based on what I've read, to pull in maybe 20-50m, at least enough to make 24hours+ of reading and searching to seem semi-worthwhile. (Even though in reality it isn't)
Start the "hack" process on the relics. Blew up one, decided its probably best to give the process another quick Google. Read up, go back. Boom. Another one is blown to bits. Last one, and I'm quickly realizing that after all the skill training, all the meticulous combing of 8-10 nullsec systems, that I'm still not "ready" to access this type of loot.
Apparently without further skill training the "hack" on the relics (Which, btw, doesn't even make sense) is going to be practically impossible.
At that point, completely fed up, I head for the hills.
-
The experience typifies each of my visits to Eve. It looks pretty. The graphics are probably the best I've seen in any MMOG (Potentially any game, ever). A lot of the players are like-minded and I like the idea of flying around space to find stuff/blow stuff up/get paid.
The game is obscenely convoluted. If you have the perseverance/patience to reach a point where you know how to make a steady amount in a reasonable amount of time - you've cracked Eve and can probably enjoy the game.
If you hit the same walls I have - you're going to walk away unhappy every time. Eve succeeds, I expect for the majority of new players, in making you feel extremely small and a million miles away from being able to do anything remotely significant.
I should point out I'm a fairly casual gamer - Though over the past week I've played the game far more than I would a normal game.
Of all the hours I've poured in I've felt like Eve is more a job than anything else. One that pays incredibly poorly and leaves you feeling you've, yet again, wasted time on something that is beyond your reach because you can't accept that to succeed, in any way shape or form, you're going to have to jump through an untold number of hoops.
- | I've never been more disillusioned with a game. You need the patience/perseverance of a saint to play Eve. Eve promises an enormous amount - But requires something from you that I, personally, can't deliver on.
I've typed this up because I want something to read in a year or so that will discourage me from trying again when it will only end with the tears Eve so ferociously enjoys.
Having re-read this I sound more serious than intended. I imagine most people who rage-quit because of the difficulty do so with the same remorse - I would love to be able to play Eve. I can't.
Edit Can I just point out, for the handful of very nice folks who have taken this post as a whinge - This short narrative is intended for those thinking about giving Eve a try. The game has picked up a fair bit of attention recently (BBC News reporting on the recent mega-fight, etc) and has thus attracted interest from new players.
This post is a warning - Eve is really , by anyone's standards, quite hard. The first week is fun/exciting - its after about 2-3 weeks that the game will really start to test your resolve. Be prepared for a lot of reading, a lot of number crunching and a lot of stress. (Hopefully there'll be some enjoyment in there, too!). If you can get over that "bump" there's a really great game in Eve. But don't kid yourself - it isn't for everyone and it isn't a walk in the park.
Edit 2 Thanks to those of you who have posted positive responses and who have attempted to give me some good advice. Eve, for all the negatives I have discussed, does have an exceptionally strong community of really mature players. Complete contrast to WoW, which is full of sociopaths :P | [
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I'm 22(m) and a junior in college (took a gap year for funds) and I've been dating a girl who just turned 23 for 4 years though we have known each other for longer. I'm studying ComputerScience about 2 hours from where she lives with her parents and she commutes to a school that's about an hour in the other direction. I usually drive home on weekends
About a year ago, in the heat of the moment, we talked pretty seriously about getting engaged and moving in together. But once the initial rush had worn off I realized this is a terrible idea, I have basically never had a non-grunt job (and will almost definitely have to move farther away to get the kind of job I would like), I want to concentrate on school since while I live here everything is basically paid for by a scholarship, and I don't want her to stop or pause her schooling just to move to where I live.
She really is a person I can see spending my life with as we have a great time together and just having he around makes my life much better, but I feel like we've reached an impasse on the above issue. We've talked about it and even though I've tried to make it clear that I eventually want to be together but feel like I can't until I get some of my life sorted out, she told me talking about something so deeply then having me balk make he feel that there must be something wrong with her or our relationship.
Combine this with some issues her parents are having with her still living at home (they are basically about to throw her out) and most of her close friends going to colleges in the rest of the state she is basically through with the whole 'college years' thing and wants to settles and I feel like me basically telling her "no I won't move in with you next year, I'm going to finish my degree and line up a job first" will be the end of it.
I was just wondering if RA had any advice on how to approach this situation and get what I want while not losing someone I really love. | Girlfriend becoming almost dependent, can I move on with my life first without losing her? | [
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26 (M). 4+ year relationship
First off, you all have helped me at my lowest of lows, I try to pass it forward and help around here, but I'm really having a trouble grabbing myself by the boot straps and pulling myself up.
Dated a girl for 4+ years. During the last two months of our breakup I was brought to emotional bankruptcy and reached out to her for help. My grandpa (and mentor) died, my parents pushed for divorce, my job put me on probation for problems with my performance which pushed back me finishing my degree, and to top it all off my mom finally found out I was agnostic and completely lost her shit and called me the absolute biggest disappointment of her life after screaming "fuck you" into the phone a few times (another woman who I helped through her emotional problems in the proceeding 5 months, and also, I've never heard her say the word fuck once in my entire life, she's incredibly christian). After all of this I told my then-girlfriend that I needed help. (backstory: she had probably 5-6 major breakdowns a year that she had trouble dealing with, and I was the one to talk her through them every time, I became her "best friend").
Instead of giving me help when I ask for it, she breaks up with me... on my birthday (not to mention that she plugged up my toilet when she left in the worst way...use your imagination). She tells me that she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore, doesn't want to be in any kind of relationship, and wants to work on herself (I find out later that this means she is infatuated with a guy at her work who she fucks within a week). After some NC, she tells me she still wants to be friends, that I'm her best friend (god damn, friend zoned after 4 years...painful). She tells me about the guy at her work, and then proceeds to tell me that he played her our song (ruining every good memory I had of her). I found out that she wanted to talk again because things fell through with the guy at work because essentially he had multiple girls who he essentially seduced and had as fuck-buddies, the dude was a player. I lose my shit and tell her that she is in fact a horrible person, that no friend would ever pull the shit she did on a "friend" let alone someone you dated for 4 years, and that she is the most selfish person I've ever met. I regret wasting 4 years spent with her becoming an ant of the man I was because I thought she needed help (I understand now that I was classic nice guy who put her needs before my own, not healthy).
The weird part was that I was alright after that. I didn't think I was burying anything, it felt completely realistic. I even tried to meditate on feelings and see whether I was sad or disappointed (I was, but the extent didn't feel that bad). I actually felt liberated because I went through hell, and still felt untouched because I had just as much opportunity's the next day as I did the day before. Physically I was the same person, even though it felt like the worst series of events that have ever taken place in my life. This was about 3-4 months ago.
I started lifting like crazy, lost a lot of weight, met some great friend groups that I long wanted to be part of. Started actually getting excited about my generation and the projects and things people were working on. I started getting back out there and talking with a lot of women and figuring out who I was at my core. I was really, really, happy and excited and taking care of my own happiness.
For the last month though, I have been in a disgusting funk. Depression is coming in over drive. All I can think about is how much I hate my ex. She regrets what she did, and I wish that she didn't. I almost wish I could just write her off as a despicable person so my brain could move on. I'm not getting anything done at work. I'm completely low on energy all day, and have the lowest sex drive I've ever had. I am having trouble just getting out of bed. Things that have to be done are getting pushed off over and over and I can't seem to snap out of it. It's like a haze of lethargic apathy has taken over my brain. I've been on a terrible downward spiral for the last month that could lead to me losing my job (realistically). The crazy part is I just can't get past why the fuck she broke up with me on my birthday and what the hell is wrong with me for not realizing what was going on in our relationship. I just think about how people were right about things, and about how I fucked up and wasted so much time (she cheated once by making out with another guy, why didn't I end it then). I have fallen into the trap of trying to wonder what makes me so pathetic that I wasn't even worth an ounce of consideration after 4 years. And the crazy part is that in my head I know I absolutely have a better life than her. I know what things are important to me, and I'm good at them. But right now, it's like my brain has given up. I don't want to do anything but lay in bed all day.
Sorry for the wall of text, I tried to keep it succinct. | Please read it, there are a lot of aspects that I need help with. But essentially I'm falling into a terrible depression a few months after the worst emotional series of events I've ever experienced.
Please help me guys. I am really in a terrible downward spiral.
EDIT: Grammar, paragraphs, apology for wall of text. | [
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After all of this I told my then-girlfriend that I needed help. (backstory: she had probably 5-6 major breakdowns a year that she had trouble dealing with, and I was the one to talk her through them every time, I became her \"best friend\"). \n Instead of giving me help when I ask for it, she breaks up with me... on my birthday (not to mention that she plugged up my toilet when she left in the worst way...use your imagination). She tells me that she loves me but isn't in love with me anymore, doesn't want to be in any kind of relationship, and wants to work on herself (I find out later that this means she is infatuated with a guy at her work who she fucks within a week). After some NC, she tells me she still wants to be friends, that I'm her best friend (god damn, friend zoned after 4 years...painful). She tells me about the guy at her work, and then proceeds to tell me that he played her our song (ruining every good memory I had of her). I found out that she wanted to talk again because things fell through with the guy at work because essentially he had multiple girls who he essentially seduced and had as fuck-buddies, the dude was a player. I lose my shit and tell her that she is in fact a horrible person, that no friend would ever pull the shit she did on a \"friend\" let alone someone you dated for 4 years, and that she is the most selfish person I've ever met. I regret wasting 4 years spent with her becoming an ant of the man I was because I thought she needed help (I understand now that I was classic nice guy who put her needs before my own, not healthy). \n The weird part was that I was alright after that. I didn't think I was burying anything, it felt completely realistic. I even tried to meditate on feelings and see whether I was sad or disappointed (I was, but the extent didn't feel that bad). I actually felt liberated because I went through hell, and still felt untouched because I had just as much opportunity's the next day as I did the day before. Physically I was the same person, even though it felt like the worst series of events that have ever taken place in my life. This was about 3-4 months ago. \n I started lifting like crazy, lost a lot of weight, met some great friend groups that I long wanted to be part of. Started actually getting excited about my generation and the projects and things people were working on. I started getting back out there and talking with a lot of women and figuring out who I was at my core. I was really, really, happy and excited and taking care of my own happiness. \n For the last month though, I have been in a disgusting funk. Depression is coming in over drive. All I can think about is how much I hate my ex. She regrets what she did, and I wish that she didn't. I almost wish I could just write her off as a despicable person so my brain could move on. I'm not getting anything done at work. I'm completely low on energy all day, and have the lowest sex drive I've ever had. I am having trouble just getting out of bed. Things that have to be done are getting pushed off over and over and I can't seem to snap out of it. It's like a haze of lethargic apathy has taken over my brain. I've been on a terrible downward spiral for the last month that could lead to me losing my job (realistically). The crazy part is I just can't get past why the fuck she broke up with me on my birthday and what the hell is wrong with me for not realizing what was going on in our relationship. I just think about how people were right about things, and about how I fucked up and wasted so much time (she cheated once by making out with another guy, why didn't I end it then). I have fallen into the trap of trying to wonder what makes me so pathetic that I wasn't even worth an ounce of consideration after 4 years. And the crazy part is that in my head I know I absolutely have a better life than her. I know what things are important to me, and I'm good at them. But right now, it's like my brain has given up. I don't want to do anything but lay in bed all day. \n Sorry for the wall of text, I tried to keep it succinct.",
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"content": "Please read it, there are a lot of aspects that I need help with. But essentially I'm falling into a terrible depression a few months after the worst emotional series of events I've ever experienced. \n Please help me guys. I am really in a terrible downward spiral. \n EDIT: Grammar, paragraphs, apology for wall of text.",
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No problem. I had a bit of a leg up since I already knew what the AT was referred to as and that it was actually a thing. But in general for a character specific move like this, best place to check first is the character discussion thread for that character in the specific game you're referencing.
In this case, on smashboards I checked in the Sonic board under 3Ds and Wii U character discussion and in the stickied posts there's a post about his side-b and down-b that reference the spinshot and how to do it. In most other cases there's a character guide in the stickied posts that usually has most if not all the ATs and data for a character.
Smashboards is actually pretty organized with most of the information you'll want on a character in their respective character discussion boards with things like guides on playing, data (frame data, knockback, damage), and matchup info.
For reference/ | Sonic's 3DS and Wii U discussion board](
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Like god, I don't believe that terrorists exist.
I cannot bring myself to believe that people who carry out heinous crimes on other people are no more than that of murders. When society gives gravitas to individuals taking lives in the name of some motive it immediately drives a sense of sympathy into what should be an identifying nomenclature as gruesome as say executioner. The term terrorist immediately implies sides and unjustly implies motives -right, or wrong- diminishing the point that someone's life had been taken. I also personally don't see that their religion exists so it is difficult for me to identify motive in an un-truth or a double negative.
Its not terror its murder. Adding motives to an individual's choice to take another individual's life is demeaning to the victim. This victim was just as important as any irrational religious reasoning; why is it then that the actions of the assailant be minutely justified in any way? This individual is a murderer.
Furthermore, this rhetoric of grouping several if not dozens of nationalities, race, sovereignty, religious beliefs and political motives into one blanket discriminating generalization slows the conversation about how to eliminate conflict.
These murders world wide are atrocious. I for one, am ready to give hate a break for a bit. Even though I am unequivocally atheist, I enjoy speaking to people of other religions, in other countries. When I am abroad I visit mosques, synagogues, churches and bowling alleys. I've had the unique chance to engage with Muslims across Africa and their views of DAESH and how they are very much against them and it enraged them that Islam was misrepresented this way.
Look, its a new thought and I wanted to challenge it here. Its fine to rip this down, tear it apart, please go ahead. But if you can, lets all drop some hate and talk it out. Anyways, the first step in believing in absolute truth is knowing you could be wrong.
Thanks. | I don't believe in terrorists. All I see are murders. | [
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So I'm apart of the Thieves Guild and just stole the bust of Llathasa Indarys from Cheydinhal and was promoted to Bandit.
The Independent Thievery quest tells me I have 100 gold from stolen goods and that I should 'Go see Armand sometime. He might have something nice to me.
When I meet him in the waterfront at midnight he never has "something" for me. Is there a conversation topic I should be using? I've tried all possible topics already. And I'm playing on 360 so commands are out of the question. | I have fenced over 100 gold worth of goods and should see Armand for a reward(?). I'm not receiving anything from him though. | [
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But I see this girl, and I don't recognize myself in her. When I see this girl, whom I personally find so unattractive, a horrible fear inside me starts to think that this is the real me - and I am not as decent as I think I look. I worry that I am walking around, thinking I am much more attractive than I actually am. My SO then told me he thought it sounded like Imposter Syndrome, and asked me to think about seeing a psychologist about it.
I've been reading up on it all morning, and though I'm not into self-diagnosing syndromes and such I did recognize myself in many of the symptoms both in terms of my looks and my life. However, almost everything I found about the subject was regarding work and performance (at school and work). All of the ways to deal with it talked about being aware that your performance is better than you think, accepting compliments as real, etc. How do I make myself change the way I think about my own looks? When I myself see myself as unattractive, despite feeling good. I would like to find another way to deal with it than just avoiding ever being taken pictures of. I've previously tried to improve my self-esteem (I've always had low self-esteem) by complimenting myself, or standing taller/prouder/smiling more. Then a day comes and I call my bullsh.t for what it is. Liar, you're just telling yourself these things - they aren't true. It takes my confidence one step forward and three steps back. Does anyone have any idea how I can TRULY feel better about my looks without feeling like I'm just lying to myself? | I strongly dislike my looks in pictures, but feel good about my looks normally. Worried I'm lying to myself and am actually much more unattractive in reality. | [
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In short, what happens is that when a player dies, the X that marks their death will sometimes appear above another player, as it is fading away from the minimap. When you see a minimap X suddenly shift in position, the second position has a living player there. This occurs in competitive as well as casual, and can be exploited easily, as in the video. | Until this bug is patched, there is a small possibility that your position will be given to the enemy every time that any player on the map dies. | [
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This one is kind of a long and dense story, but I'll try to keep it at the bare minimum, sorry in advance.
I met my ex on the last week of school this past spring semester, and from the night we met, we spent every night together (with the exception of maybe 3-4 nights) throughout the entire summer, essentially living together from day one. I took summer courses at my college, and she obviously joined. I don't think I'd ever been in love like this before, but she had a relatively complicated relationship history (which I can elaborate on if needed), so I tried to keep her emotionally at arm's length, which clearly didn't go great, especially when I found out weeks later that she was actually transferring to a college a few states away.
Something felt off about our relationship, and I usually trust my gut 100%, but I tended to ignore it when it came to her... with the exception of the last night of classes. I decided to go through her phone (wrong of me, but something I've NEVER made a habit of) and noticed she was pretty heavily flirting with one of her exes from a year ago, and also saying some incredibly negative things about me, usually the complete opposite of what she had been telling me; namely, her acceptance of my depression. I felt so betrayed, and have never seen a more perfect example of two-facedness. I confronted her, which wasn't a particularly fruitful conversation, and se ended up turning it on me. This is where everything went down hill.
My trust was essentially nonexistent at this point, and I couldn't help but always wondering who she's texting and what she was saying when we were together. I visited her often for the first two months of the semester, but she quickly became more and more curt with me, which lead me to become extremely paranoid.
Eventually, not surprisingly, she broke up with me in early October, and I really fell apart. I couldn't get out of bed, couldn't focus, couldn't even go to class, and she was all I could think about. The worst part about it is that she told me we were going on a "break", but her friends (who are now my friend's because they took my side in this whole thing) informed me a week or two later that she had actually broken up with me.
About two weeks later she texted me at about 3am, telling me she wants to be with me because she realized after talking to some friends that I'm everything she could want, but I need to "prove" to her that she can date me again, without specifics, but heavily implying that I needed to not have depression for her to be with me (not the first time this has happened).
At this point I forced myself to block her on every form of communication, which lasted until Halloween, at which point her friend told me to text her. She called me and texted me, professing her love for me and that I'm all she could ever want, which made me so unbelievably happy, but unfortunately my happiness was fleeting, and she stopped talking to me for the following week. So, inevitably, I blocked her again, which once again, didn't last long.
To condense a little bit, she basically told me that I really hurt her by blocking her on every form of communication, so for her sake I unblocked her on everything, and she calls me about two weeks after Halloween, clearly upset about something, and after some prying, she eventually tells me that some guy she's been "with" essentially cheated on her, like I really needed to hear that, even further confusing me.
So Thanksgiving rolls around and she invites me to stay with her and take care of her grandparents, which I obviously do, being a complete moron. And she tells me she still has feelings for me, and the whole time I'm with her it's like we never broke up, we even slept together and held hands in public, the whole nine yards, confusing me even further. She even tells me how much she hates the guy she was with, and that it made her appreciate me more.
After break she calls me almost every night, telling me she misses me, and we talk basically all day, but towards the last few days of class, she starts becoming extremely ambivalent about her feelings toward me, so I clearly feel that something is amiss. She drove down to my apartment a few days ago (staying here over break, don't have a happy home life) and we've been having a lot of fun together, but it feels different than Thanksgiving, especially since we aren't having sex or really even kissing. Then I notice this guy is snapchatting/texting her, along with a lot of other guys. Trying not to be jealous, I just assume the best and don't ask her any questions. She begins behaving more and more strangely, so about 6-7 hours ago, I logged into her facebook while she was sleeping. Not only did I find out she still kind of has feelings for this asshole she was "with" (even spending the night with him the last week of class, no sex), but she tells her best friend that she's also talking to multiple other guys, even giving out her number to 1-2 of them the night before she came here, and talking about how much she likes them and wishes they would text her and such. She even mentioned that she has a possible date with one of them.
Yet, I come up multiple times in this two week span, about how much she likes talking to me and freaks out if I'm being "weird" and not texting (because I'd frequently block her number, just for the sake of my emotional health).
So here I am in my common area while she's sleeping - confused, extremely hurt, lost, and ranting to strangers on Reddit, hoping for some insight. I feel like I can't close this door of my life, I love this person too much, but I really have no idea what to do. I'm willing to answer any questions to clarify or even give extra information. I just really need some help, which isn't terribly common for me. Thanks in advance guys. | Gf broke up with me, still wants to remain "something" but is talking to other guys and has obvious feelings for one of them, and continues to hurt me. Help | [
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I couldn't get out of bed, couldn't focus, couldn't even go to class, and she was all I could think about. The worst part about it is that she told me we were going on a \"break\", but her friends (who are now my friend's because they took my side in this whole thing) informed me a week or two later that she had actually broken up with me. \n About two weeks later she texted me at about 3am, telling me she wants to be with me because she realized after talking to some friends that I'm everything she could want, but I need to \"prove\" to her that she can date me again, without specifics, but heavily implying that I needed to not have depression for her to be with me (not the first time this has happened). \n At this point I forced myself to block her on every form of communication, which lasted until Halloween, at which point her friend told me to text her. She called me and texted me, professing her love for me and that I'm all she could ever want, which made me so unbelievably happy, but unfortunately my happiness was fleeting, and she stopped talking to me for the following week. So, inevitably, I blocked her again, which once again, didn't last long. \n To condense a little bit, she basically told me that I really hurt her by blocking her on every form of communication, so for her sake I unblocked her on everything, and she calls me about two weeks after Halloween, clearly upset about something, and after some prying, she eventually tells me that some guy she's been \"with\" essentially cheated on her, like I really needed to hear that, even further confusing me. \n So Thanksgiving rolls around and she invites me to stay with her and take care of her grandparents, which I obviously do, being a complete moron. And she tells me she still has feelings for me, and the whole time I'm with her it's like we never broke up, we even slept together and held hands in public, the whole nine yards, confusing me even further. She even tells me how much she hates the guy she was with, and that it made her appreciate me more. \n After break she calls me almost every night, telling me she misses me, and we talk basically all day, but towards the last few days of class, she starts becoming extremely ambivalent about her feelings toward me, so I clearly feel that something is amiss. She drove down to my apartment a few days ago (staying here over break, don't have a happy home life) and we've been having a lot of fun together, but it feels different than Thanksgiving, especially since we aren't having sex or really even kissing. Then I notice this guy is snapchatting/texting her, along with a lot of other guys. Trying not to be jealous, I just assume the best and don't ask her any questions. She begins behaving more and more strangely, so about 6-7 hours ago, I logged into her facebook while she was sleeping. Not only did I find out she still kind of has feelings for this asshole she was \"with\" (even spending the night with him the last week of class, no sex), but she tells her best friend that she's also talking to multiple other guys, even giving out her number to 1-2 of them the night before she came here, and talking about how much she likes them and wishes they would text her and such. She even mentioned that she has a possible date with one of them. \n Yet, I come up multiple times in this two week span, about how much she likes talking to me and freaks out if I'm being \"weird\" and not texting (because I'd frequently block her number, just for the sake of my emotional health). \n So here I am in my common area while she's sleeping - confused, extremely hurt, lost, and ranting to strangers on Reddit, hoping for some insight. I feel like I can't close this door of my life, I love this person too much, but I really have no idea what to do. I'm willing to answer any questions to clarify or even give extra information. I just really need some help, which isn't terribly common for me. Thanks in advance guys.",
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Although debating between Thule and Yakima, I went with Thule aerobars because REI carried a full set of the above that worked for my car (and I could easily return if things didn't work out). However, I will admit the process was somewhat stressful. Thule's online "car rack fit questionnaire" suggested that I should get 53" cross-bars, but after measuring my car and consulting with Amazon's own rack suggestions for my car, I (correctly) purchased the 47" cross-bars. Also, the instructions -- which contain essentially no english directions, but rather a bunch of diagrams and pictures of fingers pointing -- made installation somewhat unintuitive. On the point of security, it would be wise to also purchase Thule's locking cylinders, sold separately. They are easy to install on each footpacks and the bike carriers, and ensures you have one key to "rule them all" and deters mischief. After figuring all of it out, I am very very happy with Thule's system.
The other serious consideration is the bike carrier that you purchase. I went with the fork mount carrier . They work great, but note that if you have a through axle on your bike you need to buy an adapter. My only legitimate problem with this carrier is the fact that IF your bike is not actually locked onto the rack, this bike carrier is fairly easy to steal off your roof rack because you can unscrew the other side of the fork mount and just pull it out (you can't physically unscrew the fork mount while it is tightened on a bike). So for this reason you may want to consider a different style bike carrier, or alternatively you can possibly lock the aforementioned "through axle adapter" to the bike carrier while your bikes are off the rack. | it can be complicated, but I'm happy with Thule. Let me know if you have any other questions. | [
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So, I posted a video of Cat Simulator the other day and have been getting tons (relatively...compare to my other videos..LOL) of negative feedback saying I am a dev and that this game is a ripoff of another game, etc... Thanks to ConsentedGamer, he put my mind at ease with his research into the developers and shared with me that the same dev is doing both games.
Now the confusing part, one of the commenters posted a link to my own video in the comments that started at 5:50...I'm not sure what he was getting at by doing that, the only thing I can think of is it seems an ad pops up right at that point maybe? | Why would a commenter post a link to my own video at a later time frame? | [
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She's coming over tomorrow and we're probably going to make it official.
It's a mutual thing more or less. I'd still like to stay together, but I know that's just me holding on to the past. I mean, she was everything to me for so long, but we really just grew apart, especially over the summer when I was home in the US and she was in Germany.
So really, I just need a bit of comfort to be honest. I know things are going to be ok, and that I should work out to relieve stress (which is working wonders). I've stopped drinking and smoking pot for the time being, but I'm still on a roller coaster between intense sadness, and positivity, back to mild rage.
I feel kind of left out in the cold from my friends too, or maybe I just didn't mind so much when I was with her if they didn't have time, or if I was bored. | Breaking up sucks, just need something for the sad times to get me up again. | [
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We've been told that there will be 40 classes available at launch. Most of these classes will be classes we can learn, not starting classes. We've also been told the names and brief descriptions of some of those confirmed classes. We've been told that we will be able to mix and match abilities from classes that we've learned. We've been told that not every class will be available to every character based on personal choices (Paladin cannot also be Shadow Knight is the example given). We've been told that "experience" can be used to "level up" the tier of any class we know, not just the class we're playing. We've been told that each class will be limited to one or two weapon choices. Finally, we've been told that an experienced player will be able to tell the class of a character by looking at armor, weapons and how a weapon is being held. We have NOT been told that ANY of the announced classes are STARTING classes, just that they will be available at launch. Some of these things we've been told (or not been told) sound incompatible, but I think we know enough to start forming opinions of how this information can be combined into a working system.
I foresee approximately 8 starting classes: Fighter, Cleric, Arcanist, Druid, Rogue, Shaman, Archer, Monk. After having selected one of these classes, you open up a "tree" of available classes you might learn under certain circumstances. You may be able to learn ASPECTS of other starting classes, but your characters appearance and main focus of abilities is going to be defined by your starting class. For example. if you choose the "Arcanist" path you may be able to learn the next "level" of caster classes: Magician, Enchanter, Wizard, and Necromancer, each one specializing in a different area of magic. If you choose Enchanter, it opens up the next level of available classes like Coercer, Inscriber, or Illusionist. This would be one method of horizontal progression.
Another way to gain new classes is from combinations of starting classes, but that would also be heavily influenced by your starting class. For example, if you started as a Fighter archetype and learned the Arcanist skills, you would end up as a heavy armor wearing melee class that could imbue weapons with magical abilities, while if you started as an Arcanist and learned Fighter skills, you would end up as a cloth armor damage avoidance melee class that casts "touch" range nukes.
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Some background. I'm not as young as I'd like to be. Always been obsessed with tech and computers. Very knowledgeable when it comes to most computer knowledge except for programming. Been wanting to switch careers in to software or web development coming from a Design Engineering background.
Dabbled with self teaching about a year ago and it didn't really click. Few months ago started really buckling down and using The Odin Project and finally am really enjoying it. I have no real prior programming experience.
So far in the program I've learned the basics of HTML, CSS, JavaScript, JQuery, Ruby, and a little Python. I'm enjoying Ruby the most so far. While I know I am still pretty far off I want to make this my career eventually.
I do however question and doubt myself sometimes which is my reason for posting this. I'm finally getting to the point where programming is clicking for me. It's similar to learning an instrument and finally you just start to get it. It's exciting. My concern is that I get it while being guided, but I feel like if all my resources were taken away I would fail miserably. For example I've done a lot of the codecadmy courses and read books which are great and when I'm doing it for hours I know what I'm doing somewhat blindly, but it's still telling me what to do for the most part. There are certain projects that I have done which we're definitely easy for regular programmers but took me hours getting everything right. Basically what I'm asking is how long does it take before you can code blindly? I feel like if I was asked to do any relatively easy task or project and I didn't have the internet to google anything I would just draw a blank. Is this normal? Do actual programming veterans just know how to do everything off the top of their head or do they still blank out and have to use the internet as a resource?
For example one of the early beginner projects from Odin is to [create an Etch A Sketch using Javascript/JQuery]( in which you create a large box filled with smaller boxes that fill in when you mouse over them. Sounds simple but it was actually pretty hard for me to get right even though I've been learning this all along. So many little things just didn't work right and it's hard to get quick answers sometimes. It does say this won't be easy and encourages you to google everything, but I guess it just makes me worry that I HAVE to google so many things in order to solve some of these problems or projects.
Am I doing OK? Am I far behind other beginners? Is this just normal Programming behavior? I love the fact that I can now look at code and have an idea of what it will be doing, but on my own I don't think I could replicate it without help. Give me some encouragement please.
Thanks | Can actual veteran programmers just code blindly like its second nature or do they still have to look a lot up? Am I doing OK? | [
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I never fully disintegrated. At its worst, there were times when I did or said things but it felt like someone else was doing them. Like when you're watching a movie and the POV is first person? Sometimes it felt like a video game where I was controlling myself from some point above and behind my body. Even though I could only see through my eyes, it felt like "I" was above and behind my body. | sort of, but strictly speaking, no | [
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Hey guys. I've been a lurker here for a while and just recently decided to do a new watercooling rig. I wanted to use all EK components. Since buying direct would require international shipping I decided to try a US vendor. I choose Performance PCs. While their selection is great I've had some issues with them.
First there was a minor shipping snafu. I thought it would arrive earlier, but it is what it is.
Then I tried to have UPS hold the package and Performance PCs wouldn't release it without me sending a photo my my license and my credit card. My credit card could blur out the numbers except the last four digits. This was required by them to fight fraud and because my order was totaling about $800.
Then I finally get the components and one of the GPU waterblocks is missing screws, had half the thermal pads it should have had, and one of the standoffs was broken. Half the thread was engaged so it didn't just fall off, but it would never tighten either. So I try to RMA the component and they wouldn't ship a new one even though they had 3 in stock. They said I would have to wait for a RMA to come through from EK themselves. But they offered to send me new standoffs. Now I need to somehow remove the broken standoff threads and install the new one. And here's the kicker, I was blamed for the damage. Here's the customer service email response I received
> Hi
> That will happen when you overtighten or tighten unevenly the standoffs will break off. We cannot RMA the card but we can send anew standoff. You can get the old one out by using 2 sharp nails to grab each side of the screw and then slowly spin the shaft out. It takes a little time/work but it will come out. Will send out a standoff today.
I didn't blame them for the issue, I was just looking for a replacement since the one I received had some type of defect.
Anyways so in the future I don't think I'm going to do business with Performance PCs. Does this community have any recommendations for purchasing EK components without going directly to EK? | Wanted to water-cool, ordered from Performance PCs, had a bad experience, looking for new US water-cooling distributor of EK parts. | [
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What you need to eat depends on your goals, right now I'm trying to lose a little weight before the summer and cut my body fat percentage so my calorie intake is lower (I'm a male and I get 2244 calories per day) and I managed to lose 2 kg in about 4 days easily. There's a rough equation for calculating how many calories you need if you want to lose weight which is your weight in lb's and you multiply it by a number between 12 and 15 depending on how active you are (12 least active and 15 the most active). This video explains it better, there's some cussing in it but it explains it quite simply. | Don't overwhelm yourself: Walk an hour a day if you can and count your calories (use an app called Myfitnesspal to count your calories and you can scan bar codes).
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Prefacing this by saying I'm a writer of a serial I've been releasing on the web for free, started it in the summer of 2011 and it's near the 600,000 word mark. I have eventual plans to break it up and sell it as a series of ebooks. I'm setting my expectations low on that front, but I had low expectations regarding releasing it on the web (I won't get comments, I won't find an audience), and I was pleasantly surprised by what did happen. My experiences won't line up 100% with the Amazon serials, but maybe it'll shed further light on the subject for anyone thinking about writing such.
My gut is telling me I don't want to go the route of the Amazon serial.
But some thoughts on the experience, first: Serials - the one I've written and many of the free ones I've read, have a way of sprawling. This is both a good thing and a bad thing. Without the confines of a stricter medium, there's little to cut the story back and force it into a certain length or pace. As an analogy, the serial as compared to a traditional novel, is like a TV series compared to a movie. If successful, they may run on for innumerable seasons. They may be prone to interruptions or real life dictating the plot. They can be far more engaging and exciting, but there is often the fear that a story won't reach a satisfying conclusion. A TV series gets canceled, the serial writer may similarly drop his or her story. It happens, and there's few things more frustrating. This fear may fade as authors prove themselves capable of finishing the tasks they set before them.
The serial format is good because it breaks up the pace and structure that we're so used to with books (and that unconscious acknowledgement of 'there's only 70 pages left in the book - things are going to conclude soon'). To thrive, the writer has to write to maintain the reader's attention. If you have too many updates where too little happens, the readers may lose interest. This is less the case with a customer that's already made the investment of buying a book (or in the case of Amazon Serials, buying all future installments), who will feel compelled to read on & get their money's worth. The author of a novel can afford to take the first 50-100 pages and use it to lead into the story proper. A serial writer can't. So, the writing tends to be fast paced and engaging as a matter of necessity.
The serial format is fantastic for a writer because one gets feedback before the story is even fully released. (I get anywhere from 30 to 100 comments on a given update, and I update twice a week). This doesn't drastically change the storyline I have in mind, but it does allow me to tweak which characters take the forefront, the atmosphere, tension and more. The serial format can be traumatic for a writer for the exact same reason. You get all the criticisms you'd be facing after a book's publication when you're still trying to maintain your stride and your schedule. Add the fact that you're going to have bad days/weeks as you write, anyways, and there'll be times that keeping your schedule is a downright miserable experience. One can control this by pre-writing the story and releasing the finished work as a serial, but this is hard & one loses the benefit of having feedback for a work in progress.
For readers , it can be a way to pace themselves. Speaking for myself, I can read a typical novel in a couple of hours. My trips to the cottage are accompanied by twenty or more books, with me reading three or four a day (less so now, as I'm writing more, but still) - I got into serials because they were a way to leisurely enjoy a story. I can check in on Legion of Nothing twice a week, as I enjoy a coffee break, then spend the time in between thinking about what's going to happen next.
The more negative points? Maintaining a schedule is hard. Brutal at times. Speaking for myself, I started off writing 1500-3000 words per update, twice a week. As I got more comfortable, I transitioned to 4000-10,000 words per update, with the same schedule. I've maintained this schedule despite blackouts, having to run (literally) to the library last minute to get something online, injuries to my back and hand, exams, week long trips to visit family, christmas shopping/holidays, unaccommodating family and some of the busiest weeks I've ever had at school. I've had to pull all-nighters to meet my benchmarks. Writing a novel, I imagine, you can afford to deviate from the pace you set yourself. You set yourself 2000 words a day, and if you have a bad day, you write a little less then. You can't do that while writing a serial - you have to produce something reasonably polished by a set date. If you miss an update on your serial, or if you release crap, then you lose readers, and you're pinning everything on your ability to snowball, to gather enough interest that the buzz attracts more interest. Losing readers is a death knell.
It's more rigid, in some ways, too. Once you've released something, it's out there. (For me, this is part of what attracted me to the serial format - I wanted to break my habit of endlessly revising/altering the early chapters and force myself to keep moving forward) This sort of ties your hands as a writer as far as being able to go back to an early portion of the story and insert an element that would make the next part work that much better.
And the negative aspect of the sprawling nature of serials is that authors can lose control. Just as a TV series can go on for longer than is better for it, so can a serial. Or the author's style/mood/context changes and the story changes in tone or plot. It takes an attentive writer to hold the reins and maintain the story's direction.
And, finally, one of the points that can really suck is that you'll find yourself nearing completion and wanting to release the story as a traditional book, only to find that breaking it into book-sized segments is far, far harder than you expected. I've seen several serial authors fall into this trap. I fell into it, myself.
So, why am I not keen on the Amazon Serial?
My own story is lengthy. Releasing it as a complete package for 1.99 isn't sensible when I think I could sell it as a series of novels instead.
Even if I were to start a new serial (which I do plan to do when I'm done the current one) I'd still shy away. I feel like going the Amazon Serial route would force me to stick to a certain model and that this would take away some of the appeal of writing/reading said work and tie my hands.
The added pressure of producing something polished - I make typos, I occasionally insert the wrong word, or leave a sentence unfinished. I can go back and fix that. Working on the Kindle, I'd want to either maintain an editor to proofread my work before it goes up or I'd want to finish the story before I even started releasing it as a serial - if I were to do the former, I'd lose profit. Doing the latter, why wouldn't I release it as a finished book instead? | Serials are different in ways that are both good and bad. Not keen on Amazon Serial approach because it imposes rigidity on something that's appealing because of its fluid/flexible nature. | [
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This is less the case with a customer that's already made the investment of buying a book (or in the case of Amazon Serials, buying all future installments), who will feel compelled to read on & get their money's worth. The author of a novel can afford to take the first 50-100 pages and use it to lead into the story proper. A serial writer can't. So, the writing tends to be fast paced and engaging as a matter of necessity. \n The serial format is fantastic for a writer because one gets feedback before the story is even fully released. (I get anywhere from 30 to 100 comments on a given update, and I update twice a week). This doesn't drastically change the storyline I have in mind, but it does allow me to tweak which characters take the forefront, the atmosphere, tension and more. The serial format can be traumatic for a writer for the exact same reason. You get all the criticisms you'd be facing after a book's publication when you're still trying to maintain your stride and your schedule. Add the fact that you're going to have bad days/weeks as you write, anyways, and there'll be times that keeping your schedule is a downright miserable experience. One can control this by pre-writing the story and releasing the finished work as a serial, but this is hard & one loses the benefit of having feedback for a work in progress. \n For readers , it can be a way to pace themselves. Speaking for myself, I can read a typical novel in a couple of hours. My trips to the cottage are accompanied by twenty or more books, with me reading three or four a day (less so now, as I'm writing more, but still) - I got into serials because they were a way to leisurely enjoy a story. I can check in on Legion of Nothing twice a week, as I enjoy a coffee break, then spend the time in between thinking about what's going to happen next. \n The more negative points? 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If you miss an update on your serial, or if you release crap, then you lose readers, and you're pinning everything on your ability to snowball, to gather enough interest that the buzz attracts more interest. Losing readers is a death knell. \n It's more rigid, in some ways, too. Once you've released something, it's out there. (For me, this is part of what attracted me to the serial format - I wanted to break my habit of endlessly revising/altering the early chapters and force myself to keep moving forward) This sort of ties your hands as a writer as far as being able to go back to an early portion of the story and insert an element that would make the next part work that much better. \n And the negative aspect of the sprawling nature of serials is that authors can lose control. Just as a TV series can go on for longer than is better for it, so can a serial. Or the author's style/mood/context changes and the story changes in tone or plot. 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Thing about slingers is that you won't use them in castle age regardless. And in imperial they still do 12 damage less than handcannons, almost half their damage(!). I get they have higher fire rate possibly better accuracy, but overall it's not justified when comparing to hc. Bonus to siege is useful vs rams, however, I'm sure hand cannons take down onager much more efficient.
And regarding goths.... Slingers won't do much damage at all vs huskarls... Like 3? And huskarls still has the +10 or something vs archer units so the mighty army of slingers will die very fast.
Kamayuks aren't a counter to infantry unless you have a critical mass of like 20 and even then you have to micro them efficiently so they don't get scattered, because then you will die.
Mayan imperial combo vs most civs is plumes+ rams. Slingers and skirms will do an awful job to counter that. | incas sucks and slingers sucks even more | [
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Hey Reddit! I've tried posting on here once before, but no one responded. I figured I'd give it another shot. This is a cross-post.
So here's the thing. Life is good. Finally. I've gotten to the point of being content in my life and with myself. But one problem has remained, and has been going on my entire life... I'm really sorry if this is long!
Just to give some background. I have an identical twin, and our parents never got married. When we were six, my dad married a woman without inviting us to his wedding and moved across the country. I saw him probably three times from when I was six-sixteen. He barely called, and was never a dad to us. Nowadays, he only shows up to graduations and has most recently not been responding to my attempts at getting in touch with him after he told me he would help pay for half of my schooling, I'm now just doing it myself through scholarships, grants, and a loan or two.
My mother and stepfather have raised me. Things were good for a while, but when the middle school years came is when I noticed she would always complain about my weight (I was always perfectly healthy). Then the verbal abuse started. If my room or bathroom weren't up to her standards (they never were), she would berate me and call me names while I continued to scrub the tub or pick up every piece of lint off of the floor. This continued until I went off to college.
I never knew a sense of privacy. She would barge in on me in the bathroom and bedroom, told me I didn't deserve privacy, and would take my doors off the hinges because she felt I wasn't a good enough daughter that kept up to her standards. She continually called me a bitch, whore, slut, asshole, train-wreck.... trust me, I've been called all the names in the book. Back then I thought I deserved them.
She would hit me, I would try to defend myself and then she would threaten to call the police because I hit her. I would get dragged up the stairs by my stepdad, who at least apologized later (heh).
I was never enough. I was disorganized, a slob, couldn't stick to anything, couldn't keep friends, didn't deserve privacy, and deserved to have violence put on me. Those were the messages I received growing up. For years I have had to deal with self-esteem issues, getting into toxic relationships because I didn't think I deserved better, having body image issues even though I know now by most standards I am considered attractive, I've had to deal with the pain of never having a good role model in my life. I've had to figure everything out by myself, and I'm not even half-way through. Thank god I see it as an adventure now, but before it was only pain, suffering, using sex to validate my worth, and addiction.
I think you get the gist. By seventeen I was a full-blown alcoholic. Thank God I've been sober for four and a half years now, because I finally started to value myself. I put myself in therapy and have been going WEEKLY for about three years. I am in school, have a 3.7 GPA, an amazing boyfriend of two years whom I live with, and life couldn't be better.
But you see... I still hurt on the inside. Because since I moved out of the house when I was 21, my relationship with my parents has gotten so much better. I feel like they respect and trust me more than they ever have (not that it should matter, but it still does, somehow). Most of our interactions are good. Except when they aren't.
I was working part-time at a restaurant, and hated it. My parent's next door neighbor needed a nanny for their kid, and my mom suggested me. I've been doing it for over a month now, after I told my mom I NEEDED Monday nights off so that I could go to therapy. She told me she would pick the 11 year old up from school on Mondays so that I could go. Great! Perfect setup! I can even study while I am working because the working single mom doesn't need much supervision for him.
So a few weeks ago my mom told me that I needed to come and vacuum her stairs every week as a trade off for her picking the kid up every Monday. I thought, great, fine, I can do that. At least I'll still be able to go to therapy.
Well, last week I forgot to go and vacuum her stairs. She texted me that I was a liar, what the fuck, I want my shirt back (she gave me a brand new beautiful shirt because it wasn't her size), and that she wouldn't be picking up the kid anymore.
Well.... I guess that's her right. Monday nights are my literal saving grace. I have put thousands of dollars into therapy for myself, I don't want to stop now. Plus, I'm studying to work in the mental health field so I NEED therapy for that in order to be a better clinician myself one day.
After a few days of silence, she sent me a meme with a cute fucking kid in the background that said, "When you: Cut it for me, write it for me, open it for me, set it up for me, draw it for me, find it for me, all I learn is that you do it better than me".... with an attatched text message that said, "Is this one of the ways I fucked you up?"
I just.... I don't know what to do about her anymore. Nothing I do makes her happy. I realize I made a commitment to VACUUM her stairs, but is all of that really deserved? I've come to grips with a ton in therapy so far, but my therapist tells me that the process of helping to heal childhood wounds takes time. Also, she is not one to SUGGEST going no contact, she likes for me to come to decisions on my own, and honestly I like her methods.
I feel bad for my poor boyfriend, that he has to resent his future in laws because he is my rock and I've told him everything. I feel bad for myself, that I was dealt a shitty hand in the parent department. I also wanted to put it out there that my mom is an angel around my boyfriend, and if she ever disrespected him I would gladly cut her out of my life. He is my priority.
But on top of it all..... I fucking LOVE my mom, you guys. I can't let her go. It would absolutely rip my fucking heart out. Plus, my little brother is only 14, so he obviously still lives at home. ALSO, my stepdad still pays for my car insurance and cell phone bill, I've told him that I would like to start paying but he tells me that I don't need that on my shoulders and that he wants me to focus on school as much as I can (my relationship with stepdad has gotten LOADS better). I'm in such denial, and honestly it can be AMAZING for months , good mother-daughter relationship, long talks, dinners, etc. Then the nasty comments come again.
Please.... help me see what I'm not seeing. Thanks. | My parents were abusive growing up, I'm now 24, and though our relationship has gotten "better".... shit still keeps coming up to break my heart. I don't know what to do..... | [
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Things were good for a while, but when the middle school years came is when I noticed she would always complain about my weight (I was always perfectly healthy). Then the verbal abuse started. If my room or bathroom weren't up to her standards (they never were), she would berate me and call me names while I continued to scrub the tub or pick up every piece of lint off of the floor. This continued until I went off to college. \n I never knew a sense of privacy. She would barge in on me in the bathroom and bedroom, told me I didn't deserve privacy, and would take my doors off the hinges because she felt I wasn't a good enough daughter that kept up to her standards. She continually called me a bitch, whore, slut, asshole, train-wreck.... trust me, I've been called all the names in the book. Back then I thought I deserved them. \n She would hit me, I would try to defend myself and then she would threaten to call the police because I hit her. I would get dragged up the stairs by my stepdad, who at least apologized later (heh).\nI was never enough. I was disorganized, a slob, couldn't stick to anything, couldn't keep friends, didn't deserve privacy, and deserved to have violence put on me. Those were the messages I received growing up. For years I have had to deal with self-esteem issues, getting into toxic relationships because I didn't think I deserved better, having body image issues even though I know now by most standards I am considered attractive, I've had to deal with the pain of never having a good role model in my life. I've had to figure everything out by myself, and I'm not even half-way through. Thank god I see it as an adventure now, but before it was only pain, suffering, using sex to validate my worth, and addiction. \n I think you get the gist. By seventeen I was a full-blown alcoholic. Thank God I've been sober for four and a half years now, because I finally started to value myself. I put myself in therapy and have been going WEEKLY for about three years. I am in school, have a 3.7 GPA, an amazing boyfriend of two years whom I live with, and life couldn't be better. \n But you see... I still hurt on the inside. Because since I moved out of the house when I was 21, my relationship with my parents has gotten so much better. I feel like they respect and trust me more than they ever have (not that it should matter, but it still does, somehow). Most of our interactions are good. Except when they aren't. \n I was working part-time at a restaurant, and hated it. My parent's next door neighbor needed a nanny for their kid, and my mom suggested me. I've been doing it for over a month now, after I told my mom I NEEDED Monday nights off so that I could go to therapy. She told me she would pick the 11 year old up from school on Mondays so that I could go. Great! Perfect setup! I can even study while I am working because the working single mom doesn't need much supervision for him. \n So a few weeks ago my mom told me that I needed to come and vacuum her stairs every week as a trade off for her picking the kid up every Monday. I thought, great, fine, I can do that. At least I'll still be able to go to therapy. \n Well, last week I forgot to go and vacuum her stairs. She texted me that I was a liar, what the fuck, I want my shirt back (she gave me a brand new beautiful shirt because it wasn't her size), and that she wouldn't be picking up the kid anymore. \n Well.... I guess that's her right. Monday nights are my literal saving grace. I have put thousands of dollars into therapy for myself, I don't want to stop now. Plus, I'm studying to work in the mental health field so I NEED therapy for that in order to be a better clinician myself one day. \n After a few days of silence, she sent me a meme with a cute fucking kid in the background that said, \"When you: Cut it for me, write it for me, open it for me, set it up for me, draw it for me, find it for me, all I learn is that you do it better than me\".... with an attatched text message that said, \"Is this one of the ways I fucked you up?\" \n I just.... I don't know what to do about her anymore. Nothing I do makes her happy. I realize I made a commitment to VACUUM her stairs, but is all of that really deserved? I've come to grips with a ton in therapy so far, but my therapist tells me that the process of helping to heal childhood wounds takes time. Also, she is not one to SUGGEST going no contact, she likes for me to come to decisions on my own, and honestly I like her methods. \n I feel bad for my poor boyfriend, that he has to resent his future in laws because he is my rock and I've told him everything. I feel bad for myself, that I was dealt a shitty hand in the parent department. I also wanted to put it out there that my mom is an angel around my boyfriend, and if she ever disrespected him I would gladly cut her out of my life. He is my priority. \n But on top of it all..... I fucking LOVE my mom, you guys. I can't let her go. It would absolutely rip my fucking heart out. Plus, my little brother is only 14, so he obviously still lives at home. ALSO, my stepdad still pays for my car insurance and cell phone bill, I've told him that I would like to start paying but he tells me that I don't need that on my shoulders and that he wants me to focus on school as much as I can (my relationship with stepdad has gotten LOADS better). I'm in such denial, and honestly it can be AMAZING for months , good mother-daughter relationship, long talks, dinners, etc. Then the nasty comments come again. \n Please.... help me see what I'm not seeing. Thanks.",
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Sooo...I was working in a restaurant and checking in customers in the dining room. There was a family with a little boy, about 8 or 9 yrs old, with down syndrome. He told me I was pretty, grabbed my hand and started dancing with me. I obliged because I thought it was cute. Then when I returned to the kitchen, one of my coworkers asked me what was up with the boy. I told her he had down syndrome and asked me to dance so I obliged. She then asked me if I was sure, because she thought down syndrome was when people were "really sad all the time". | Coworker thought down syndrome was depression | [
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First of all, let me say I've just recently been diagnosed with ADD at 21 (primarily inattentiveness) but believe I have struggled with it my whole life. I did terrible in school every single year despite my best attempts and willpower to do better. I was constantly ridiculed by friends, family, and teachers that I just wasn't trying and I was lazy. I am saddened that I or anyone else didn't catch it sooner, but I'm not bitter about it.
I'm on generic Adderall XR 20mg, and have been for a week. So far, things have been great! Here's a few notable positive things that have happened:
I've been notably more awake. I'm constantly fatigued, so this was a very good thing. It didn't make me jittery awake like I had just drank 5 cups of espresso, either. It was an alert/productive awake where I could function.
It has filled me with positive emotions. I've had next to no self esteem or confidence in myself for most of my life, but almost immediately after I started on the medication I began thinking positively about myself and what I'm doing with my life. This is significant too, because almost everyone knows me as a very pessimistic person.
I've lost weight! Now, I'm not fat, (5'6, was 138, am down to 129 now) but I had a little more baggage than I wanted. Before anyone says this is unhealthy, I'd like to say that for this entire week I have eaten extremely healthy. My diet consisted of only fruits, veggies, tuna, eggs, whole grain bread/oats, water, and greek yogurt only. This leads me to my next bullet;
My self discipline has been incredible. When I went to get diagnosed for ADD, the counselor had dubbed me an emotional eater. Honestly, I can't say she was wrong. I would eat huge portions of really unhealthy foods every day, whether I was hungry or not. However, the Adderall has curbed my hunger just enough and given me fantastic self discipline to not eat all the ice cream, or other unhealthy sugary foods, that is always inevitably in my freezer thanks to my ice cream loving father.
Although I've had really amazing results so far, there are also a few things I don't like. Nothing that would dissuade me from continuing the medication, but a few things I don't really like.
Even though my Adderall is XR, it only lasts about 5 hours before I start to come down and get fatigued again. I'm not sure if I just need a higher dose or what, but I'm going to talk to my doctor about it.
I had some annoying side affects from the medication. I had a violent episode of nausea one morning and mild nausea for about 2 days after, bad headaches, and my top lip had gotten really itchy red and swollen for a day.
So all in all, I'm very happy with the results of the Adderall. I feel like I can go back to college and actually succeed this time. I know it's only been a week, but I'm sooo excited with the results so far. | Adderall has been extremely effective for me after only a week and has left me with the impression that I will be able to live a successful, fulfilling life. | [
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Dude! I registered just to tell you this.
I had a varicoceole, and it was horrible, ruining sex life and exercise and the pain did not go away, had an operation and it removed it to some degree but due to not following advice in terms of wearing tight underwear afterwards it has come back, with the pain.
My first advice would be to see a doctor and ask about managing chronic pain, but judging from your spelling of varicoceole I'm assuming you're from the states. I know doctors can be expensive and even in the UK I was sent for a lot of unnecessary tests before I got a reasonable result.
Here's my experience, at no point was I told that the varicoceole would go away without surgery and following research (medical student here) I see no reason why it would. However taking multiple OTC painkillers each day, to still no effect of pain management I went to the doc for help in that regard. She prescribed amitryptiline once dailing which can manage neuropathic pain. My pain has entirely gone thanks to one cheap pill once a day. However this type of pain could be due to the fact I had a surgery there, so it may not work for you. I am not a doctor, but I do know that I found much better results from my doctor simply by explaining exactly what I wanted out of the consultation. I.e. not to be in pain, rather than to fix the problem.
(However I am on the wait list for another operation, rather not be on pills all my life). | Research around the subject, learn your stuff, decide what you want, and then if you want to spend money on a doctor explain to them exactly the problem and exactly you want done about it. | [
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The best we can hope for is someone filing a suit immediately challenging Citizens United, and it getting immediately granted certiorari and reviewed by the Supreme Court.
Unfortunately, we aren't like to see the Roberts court say "Oh...OH! Yeah, I guess Citizen United would mean that if all corporations are persons, and persons are free to spend on elections, then foreign corporations are also free to spend on elections. Shit, dude. Our bad."
Other than that, I don't know why Congress can't at least try to pass a law restricting funding from foreign sources. Even if republicans challenge it under Citizens United, there's no promise a court will grant an injunction--and it might be a face-saving option for the Supreme Court to uphold such a law. But they certainly won't pass any laws this election cycle. | We're basically fucked for long enough for the composition of the court to change, or until Congress passes some creative laws. | [
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While warthunder has some advantages over WoT, some features it has are far worse. Most notably, you have to unlock the ability to repair your tank . It is one of the first unlocks, but it means that every tank you buy you have to play at least one or two matches, unable to even repair your tracks. Which brings me to a related annoyance. Fire extinguishers are a relatively late unlock. Which means that you have to play 2-3 good matches at minimum to prevent yourself from burning out. On top of that, the fire indicators, are somehow worse than wot. Surprising, but they managed it.
Secondly, if you thought zoom out mods were cheating in wot, just imagine what the semi-overhead artillery view provides, when every tank is permanently rendered.
Repair times. Make sure to keep reddit open while you play, as repair times can easily reach two minutes plus. While repairing, your tank cannot move, even if you don't have damaged engine or tracks. And if you have a damaged gun, even if you wait two minutes to fix it, it still could blow up on the first shot.
On the subject of sky cancer, planes. In AB don't drive near the magical spider-AI tanks, as they randomly get bombed by AI planes. In RB, don't try to cap, as apparently this is a hilarious way to get multi-kills for pilots. Seriously, go to /r/warthunder and look at the videos. In SB however, everyone seems to be completely incapable, so they are mostly harmless. If you thought the t92 was ridiculous, you ain't seen shit. Also, there is no opt out, and when ships come out, your going to get shot by those too. Just you wait.
But it gets even better. On the subject of how to deal with higher tier opponents, on poster on /r/warthunder suggested what most pubbies do when facing an opponent they can't pen. Shoot for and break the gun, because that is a 2 minute repair while the enemy can't move. Does this sound like fun? Having a fully functional tank, that can't fire a shot. | while there is some different kinds of enjoyment in WT, there is a hell of a lot more cancer. | [
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I'm afraid most Korean's attitude toward this issue has grown from 'negativity' to fury
There's an thread(?) in Inven that reached Inven's first page with 120 upvotes and it has a lot of swearing words plus an explicitly negative opinion about 2014 Worlds and Riot's decision.(In inven, the number of upvotes a person can use is limited to 3 per day so it's quite a big number) And that writing is calling for a boycott.
hope I can translate it but i'm not really good at translating so.. | Koreans are really mad at this and are considering boycott seriously | [
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Hello all!
So after some back-and-forthing with myself, I decided that I do want to change my name...eventually. However, I'm starting graduate school in the fall, and I've just submitted my FAFSA under my maiden name (as directed, since I won't be married until July). It seems like trying to change my name while the FAFSA is processing is a big mistake . We're also moving to a new state like two weeks after the wedding, and the last thing I want is to have trouble getting a new driver's license or car registration because of name change complications. So I think I will be waiting until the end of the 2013-2014 school year to officially change my name.
But! In the meantime I'd still like to start going by Drladybug Marriedname, at least informally amongst friends and family/on social media, and just use my maiden name for signing official things. Is that kosher, or am I forgetting something that would make this a bad idea? | until it is more convenient to offically change my name, can I use my soon-to-be-married name informally and only use my maiden name when it's legally necessary? | [
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This isn't gonna be as bad as some others but whatever.
I was after walking home from school and was sweaty and exhausted from the heat of the day and having to wear a very thick school uniform in this weather. The fact that my bag was breaking my collar bone because it was so heavy with books didn't help, so I was in a pissy mood.
Normally my dog would always come and greet me after arriving home. When I got in the front door he came running up to me, barking in excitement. The barking just got to me after being in a shit mood, and I slapped him on the nose so hard he yelped and I told him to shut up. Then went to my room like a moody little shithead. He just stared at me in disbelief as if he should never welcome me home again. But he still did, every single day I got home.
It's only in these years after he died that I remember that day as one of the biggest regrets of my life. It also doesn't help that I wasn't there for him when he was put down. | Slapped my dog so hard he yelped. Felt bad about it ever since. | [
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Hi Reddit,
I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now, and we have lived together for a little over 1.
She is truly an amazing person. She is smart, beautiful, driven, and goes out of her way every day to make sure I am taken care of. In all honesty, I feel a little guilty at times because of how much she does for me and she rarely asks for anything in return.
We have been through our ups and downs together, and we always have found a solution, but about 8 months ago I broke her trust when I lied to her about something that was a major concern of hers. I did not cheat on her, but in her eyes, it was a similar betrayal, and it has been a very uphill battle to regain that trust. I know that it was entirely my fault, and I'm very sorry that it happened, and will likely always be one of my biggest regrets.
Now, 8 months later, I've seen her put in a significant amount of effort to move past it, but I still don't feel like she truly trusts me. As we cross 2 years together, we really ought to be considering the next steps in our relationship, and as much as I want to take them, I can't seem to overcome the feeling that she doesn't trust me completely, something that I think is a cornerstone of a healthy marriage. She says she does trust me, and that she's just uncomfortable with the situations, but I can't help but feel that if you truly trust someone, you'd be able to feel comfortable with knowing they won't betray your wishes.
She recognizes my concerns, but her point is that if we won't take the next steps until everything is perfect, then it will never happen because there are always struggles in a relationship. She says we have proven that we're able to work through issues like this in our relationship so far, and that she is confident we'll resolve it, but waiting for when "everything is perfect" is just going to keep pushing things back because there will always be something.
I am at a little bit of a loss here on how to proceed, and honestly, I'm a little nervous that my inaction (I'm prone to overthinking things) is going to ultimately push her away and end what I believe to be an amazing relationship.
What should I do? Is it normal to feel this way? Am I just afraid of commitment? Should I be worried that I'm not absolutely ready to take the next steps after being together for so long?
Please, any advice would be appreciated. | Girlfriend of 2 years is ready for the next steps, but I have reservations. Is this a sign that something is wrong? Am I just afraid of commitment? | [
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A little backstory to start,
So one of my friends is a huge Lost fan, and watched it all as it came on TV. I watched the first episode on Netflix by myself a couple years ago and never even gave it a second look. He literally forced/bribed me to watch the show towards the end of October 2014. I've been pretty busy with school and he works 3rd shift, so it's been hard to get through it all (he had a list of episodes I couldn't watch without him). As of this past Saturday (April 4th), I just finished watching up to the finale of season 6. I am beside myself with nerdy excitement that I am managing to ACCIDENTALLY finish this great show on the precipice of Lost day. So we are now trying to go out of our way to start watching the last episode on 4/8/15 16:23:42, and I just think that is the most epic thing ever for a first watch. | Accidentally ended up finishing first watch of Lost coinciding with Lost day. Thought it was epic, and wanted to share.
EDIT: I realize this really only works because I'm American.. 4/8 is April 8th for us not the 4th of August. Maybe I'll watch it again then though :D | [
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My boyfriend and I began dating in high school. We've broken up a few times but always found our way back together. I've never dated anyone other than him. Not by choice, I've just been focused on school or not met anyone interesting.
The most recent time we broke up was really intense and he told me it was for good and was honestly pretty bad about everything. Anyway, we/I had made the choice to not have sex until we were married, or maybe engaged. We were both on the same page about that.
He actually came back to me a little while ago and apologized and had truly shown change and had his "Come to Jesus moment". But, to have that moment, he had to make mistakes.
Well, when we were broken up, he slept with someone a few times. I'm holding onto this as a piece of control over him, I'm able to reference it for ammo. I don't want to be bitter about it but I can't let it go. Does anyone have any advice? | How to I forgive and move on when my boyfriend went through a period of mistakes before coming back to me? | [
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Yesterday I was exhausted after a long weekend. Even though I was tired, I decided to stay up to watch Lord of the Rings which made me ever more exhausted by the time I was ready for bed. I laid down and didn't have enough strength or mental energy to WILD so I decided just to get some sleep. I remember my thoughts started drifting into nonsense and I said to myself, "You are falling asleep and you are dreaming." Next thing I know, my thoughts are actually me having a conversation with two people at an outdoors table at a farm. Almost instantly I said, "Holy S*** I'm dreaming." Then I got the strongest feeling of epiphany. I did a reality check by looking at my hand and it was wobbly. I got so excited and I remembered I needed to ground myself. I walked off the porch into the grass, knelt down and grabbed a handful of grass and held it. It felt so real! I decided to spin around to ground myself further but it was like I was spinning in syrup...very difficult. When I stopped there were farm implements around me. I hopped on a lawn mower that looked like it came from nasa and took off. Suddenly, I was in a house full of people. Now, this is exciting. I have the chance to interact with people from my mind! To talk to them and see what secrets my subconscious holds. So what's the first thing I did? I walked up to the closest young lady in front of me, lifted up her skirt, pulled down her panties, and started going at it. I realized I was getting too excited and the dream was fading, so I stopped, felt the carpet with my hands and rubbed my face on it, then held on to a door handle to ground myself again. It worked great. By this time all the people in the house were gone, and the lights were turned off. This happens to me often in dreams. I'm alone in a dark house and can't find a way out. But this is a lucid dream and I can do what I want dang it! So I looked up at the lights and shouted, "LIGHTS ON!" And the turned on! Next thing I know I'm walking outside in a large yard and there are people everywhere. I really want to talk to someone, so I start walking and a dog starts running up to me. I pet his head as we walk and he gently grabs my hand with this mouth and holds on to it. I find this annoying so I try to take my hand out of his mouth but his grip gets tighter. I finally get my hand out but now the dog is aggressive and is trying to attack me. I put my knee in his throat and pin him to the ground, and then try to punch him in the face as hard as I can...but my punches are slow like I'm in syrup again. All this wrestling and punching finally wakes me up. And that was it!
. | Had my first LD in a long time, was able to stay grounded and explore for a little while, woke up when I got in a dream fight with a dog.
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Why does it feel like I'm moving in syrup when I try to do things quickly like spin or punch? Thanks! | [
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So over the weekend I took 2 slips of LSD soaked paper things, whatever you wana call them. It was pretty damn fun. They were probably around 120-110ug each. I know it's dangerous to not know the amount but it was $10 per so it couldn't have been that much more. Anyways, it was pretty great. It's really hard to explain what was happening. So I was still right in my head, not completely, but I could still make good judgements.
I took my first slip and it peaked, as good as last time. About 20 minutes after it peaked, I took my other one. Me and my 2 friends smoked around a eighth of weed. During the come up, peak, and come down. They never took their other slip, but I did because I wanted to. So after about a hour after that, and more weed, I started experiencing this weird sense of not paying attention, kind of. Really hard to describe what happened. It felt like everything didn't play an importance when I wasn't looking at it. Not emotionally, it's just that my eyes chose to feel it wasn't important. You know that feeling when you look at something just to look? The kind of feeling that's like: "it's nothing special, but something to look at." Your eye isn't straining to understand the object better and your mind isn't trying to figure anything out. We'll that's what it was like for everything for a hour. I also stopped caring about anything in my peripherals. Like, if I wasn't looking directly at it it didn't exist or matter for me. I would look at the TV and my friends would completely disappear from my eye's idea of importance. Any motion they did, my eye didn't try to look over to understand, not even unconsciously. Motion didn't capture my attention. Also, when I focused on the TV I really didn't take in any sounds from them. Like it was there, but I wasn't focusing on it. If I looked at them the TV wasn't important and I didn't focus on any sound from it, like it almost didn't exist.
At the time I was explaining to them how they were two different realities. My friends were one reality, and the TV basically stopped existing when I moved my attention over to them and vise versa. The overall feeling was that I was there, but I wasn't there . I felt like I was in slipspace. That's the best way to explain it. My body wasn't taking in stimuli like it should've. It felt like I was just...there. I wasn't scared or anything, it was pretty neat. The weirdest thing out of the whole experience is that I still didn't see tracers or any ripples or anything, but my friends were pretty hard. They even explained what I was supposed to look for and I just didn't see it. They even have a lightsaber that glows bright purple, turned the lights off, and waved it around, still no tracers. When I finally felt like just chilling I put my headphones on and listened to music with my eyes closed and it was fucking amazing. The visuals were so nice and vivid. I had my own music video going on in my head. Every time the song changed my visuals changed shape, direction, and color. It was basically like the music player video on the Xbox 360. For anyone who has a Samsung get the Adult Swim VR app. Fucking great. | I felt like I was in slipspace and my body wasn't reacting to certain stimuli like it should. It was neat. Holy fuck, I just realized a good way to put the whole story: it felt like I was watching a simulation through goggles but I couldn't control the character for a while. While the simulation was going on nothing was important to my eyes and I didn't care for movement or anything.
On to my question. How much would you recommend taking for me to experience open eye visuals? Let's say I had 200ug this trip. How much more ug would you recommend? Now that I'm thinking about it probably not much more. If I took both of them at the same it probably would've been much stronger, I bet. What was yalls fun stories? | [
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Oh man. So many things.
I went to a CC for 4 years, and am in my 2nd semester at a university now.
I think the biggest thing to warn about is.. figure out a major you're okay with doing (and if you're starting at a CC, figure out a university you'd like to transfer to). Talk with a counselor and sketch out an education plan for reaching that goal (or at a CC, sort out what you need to take to transfer to that university and what classes count towards your major).
ABSOLUTELY be willing to change your major (and university) but always have this as a backup plan. That way you won't needlessly get far behind.
I spent 4 years at CC, I got all the general ed classes I could ever need (and then some). I did a lot of computer-related classes (of all sorts), but none that counted towards my major at my university. As a result, I am now taking Computer Science 111 (First-semester CS) at the age of 22, surrounded by kids 17 and 18. It feels bad, man. Don't get fucked up like that.
edit: here are some other things.
You will likely have semesters in which you do not have interesting classes. I implore you to create something interesting. Last semester, I was taking Managerial Accounting, Pre-Calculus, and a Visual Arts class (None of which were exciting). I contacted the main German professor at my university and met with her regularly throughout the semester, got a lot of advice from her, learned a lot about the school's Study Abroad program (and studying in Germany specifically), and she let me borrow some textbooks and worksheets that she uses to teach her classes, to practice and improve my German when I couldn't get into the class. I have her as a teacher for an actual class this semester, and because of the independent studying I did last semester, not only is my German better, but she knows my strengths and weaknesses better, and I know what kind of teacher she is, what she expects, etc. And ultimately it was good entertainment for me in an otherwise crappy semester.
So I guess the | is, if you don't find any of your classes interesting, make something that is interesting.
Parking sucks. Bike/skate/walk if you can. If nothing else, it's a step towards staying fit.
Books can be expensive. Expect this. But it does vary a lot. This semester, I could neither find my Calculus nor my CS books anywhere for any less than $120 each. I've had other semesters where I got all of my books for less than $60 total.
Join clubs if you can. School websites generally have a list of clubs/organizations and contact info.
SI -- Supplemental Instruction -- sessions exist for a lot of STEM classes. These are basically group tutoring sessions geared specifically to your class, led by someone who has taken your class before and sits through it with you.
Never be afraid to reach out to a teacher. Teachers are not ridiculously well-paid. Generally speaking, they teach because they love to educate. More often than not, they're elated to help you. | [
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My husband and I Have been together for 11 years, married 3. My husband dated his ex-girlfriend in his early 20s and maintained a friendship with her for a number of years after they broke up. The circumstances of their breakup was that she became pregnant but she lost the baby fairly late in term, and their relationship did not survive that.
A few years after their breakup he met his (now) ex-wife, who he was with for about 5 years. Towards the end of their marriage (when admittedly things were already going south), his ex-wife started accusing him of sleeping with his ex-girlfriend. He was not sleeping with her, but as he put it, "I got accused of it so much I thought I might as well make it a reality." So he slept with his ex-girlfriend and his marriage with his ex-wife ended (just a contributing factor at that point since he and his ex-wife were already separated). I do not know whether he slept with his ex-girlfriend that one time or whether they continued that affair for any amount of time. however, they did remain friends, he went on to date other people and then eventually met me.
When my husband and I first started dating, he went to see his ex-girlfriend (at that time she lived 5 hours away from us) and he told her all about me. She could see that he was serious about me, so she basically told him that she would break up with her (then) long time boyfriend if he broke up with me because she wanted to get back together with him. he told her no, and later relayed this story to me when he came home. I do not tell people who they can or cannot be friends with, but I told him that a) I think they never had a real friendship because I believe she always wanted more and b) if he maintained a friendship with her I would not be comfortable with it. My understanding is that he went very low contact with her after that (11 years ago).
My husband and I have had some difficulties in the last year (my depression, his being inconsiderate and uncommunicative), and we had our first serious talk about it last weekend before he went on a work trip where he would be out of town M-F. I spent the week thinking about how I could better myself and what I could do to make things in general better.
Well, on Th night I suddenly have this strange intuition that he has been talking to his ex-girlfriend so I internet stalked and looked at phone bills and my suspicions were confirmed. I wasn't sure what I was going to do with that info yet. The next day, my husband texts me in the afternoon and tells me he took a long drive Thursday night from the city he was working in across state lines to the city where she lives now to see her (she moved several states over several years ago). isn't women's intuition crazy on-point sometimes? It's almost like I had ESP. She is married now, so I know my husband met her husband and stayed overnight at their house. He texts me this while waiting to board his plane home.
I fucking lost it, and went in manager's office at work (also a friend) and cried. my husband said that he is mad that he didn't maintain their friendship for the past 11 years, but hey, there was a legit reason for no or low contact. I don't care that she is married now because I think there is the possibility she would leave her husband for mine, if she somehow believed he wanted to be with her again. And clearly he knew it was wrong to see her bc he didn't tell me that he drove hours and changed his fight to see her, but admitted to it shortly thereafter bc he was probably feeling guilty about it.
We got into a huge fight when he got home and he basically told me he is unsure if he wants to stay married. We talked and (I) screamed, threw shit, and cried. We are leaning towards staying together and working it out, but I am just so heartbroken that he betrayed my trust so much. I don't want him to be friends with this girl, but I can't control him. I feel like he punched me right in the chest. There's more background, but this is long enough already.
What do you think? | My husband saw his ex secretly. I might have ESP | [
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Have 2 champions you play well and have confidence on per position. ( it is a lot to ask but some champs can count as 2 lanes ( I.E. Annie Mid and Support. )
When backing always buy a ward if you have 75g or more 2 if you can. 150g
Upgrade you trinkets when level 9 ( Should always upgrade your trinkets it makes them so much stronger and usable way more often.) Also Switch your trinket from a sight trinket to an oracle lens on first back unless your adc then get the blue trinket and upgrade it after level 9.
When Playing Support always buy a sightstone, Also learn the best spots to ward for vision advantages and places to use your lens on to take away their vision advantages. ( the consistent battle )
Don't Flame your teammates, it will not help them at all play any better and will def help you lose the game that much faster. If angry go ahead and say it ( if not in a party with that said teammate.. that wouldn't be any better ) just don't type it in game. try to encourage the person by saying helpful things, such as " Hey man that jungler seems to like yah maybe buy a ward your next back and try to waste his time :P " or " hey man its X death(s) that's whatever just keep farming up, ward up, and play safe, we still got this but we are going to need yah, its a team game bro!".
Those are my 5 things I tell my friends they aren't all super important in game mechincal type things like make sure you can cs well or make you you know how to trade damage back and worth. imo these are the basics to solo q and it will make everyone on your teams experience with you that much better. and those mechincal things come with time. I wasn't always mechinally good at this game but I knew these 5 things and after 5 years of playing this game I have been diamond the last 2 seasons and I feel these 5 things make my time on the rift with 4 randoms that much more fun and exciting | 5 things to tell Newbies at solo q to help them have a fun time during that period of learning to cs/call mias/warding etc etc..
PS: This can be used before level 30 as well of course ( early practice is never a bad thing :D ) | [
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First off, thank you for opening this post. Due to my girlfriend knowing my normal reddit username, I have to use a throwaway.
I, Thomas, am dating a lovely lady, named Julia. We have been talking since last year, and this year, we started to be romantic. Recently, we started officially dating.
Last Thursday, we went out for dinner. Throughout the evening, we were chatting about all sorts of intimate topics, family, life etc. It came to the point where she asked me if I was a Virgin. I responded with an embarrassed "No." She proceeds to tell me she is a Virgin and after a little more talking, she tells me she wants to change that before she turns 20.
Fast forward to Saturday, we went on a nice date, after which we returned to my dorm, to enjoy privacy. We started romantic, with a nice back massage, kissing and talking about our relationship. Slowly, passion overtook us both, and we started to get frisky. After several minutes, I asked her if she would like me to go down on her, to which she said "Yes." I proceed to go down and start to well... you can imagine. Not even three minutes pass, and she says "Oh no, too soon." at which I stop and we return to just making out. The evening ended well and we have not talked about that since.
What does this mean? Was it just too soon, or was it more of a feeling of being scared? I just want her to be comfortable and I feel going at her pace is the best way to do it. | Was with GF, having a steamy evening. After I went down on her, which she said yes to, she said "Too soon" and we returned to making out. | [
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Im just learning to play, and the biggest problem I have so far, besides remembering where the strings are and finger placement, is that when I press down on a string, it seems like the note doesnt come out right until I press harder. This flattens out my fingers, and they spread and tough the adjacent strings. This is just a problem I see while practicing chords, but Im sure it can come up in other situations too. Ive heard to try to place my hand at a higher angle to go down on the strings straighter, but that seems really difficult. | When I hold down a string to play a note, my fingers spread out and touch other strings. Suggestions? | [
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No traveling, just let them pick up the ball and run!
But in all seriousness, I wish basketball would adopt the "advantage rule" from soccer. If the foul committed takes away an advantage in the run of play for the other team, don't call the foul. For example, a player is on a 2-on-1 break, gets fouled but makes the pass to his teammate for the uncontested lay up. Under today's rules, it's no basket and a foul on the floor because the player wasn't shooting. So if they aren't in the bonus yet, they have to set up their offense and try to score against a set defense, or if they are in the bonus, they have to hit free throws to make up for the 2 points lost when the foul was called. That's really just unfair, for me. | The referee should be able to say a foul was committed, but not stop the play. | [
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I used to only drink from glasses that had handles and put my drink from the area right above the handle...
I know nobody else does it so I can be safe to say that I have no acquired any harmful bacteria or fecal matter that may have strayed into someones mouth... | Flushing the toilet after you shit without closing the lid makes fecal particles to float about... even land on your toothbrush. | [
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He really is great, very fast, good dribbling, amazing passing and shooting, but I struggle to win with him. I use him with aguero (amazing combo) but when people see messi, they try everything they can to win and/or piss you off. I don't know if I believe in the EA handicap, but the opponents mentality sure does play a role.
I have only played maybe 15 games with 6 chem in a striker position (I've heard he's better at CAM or CF) so I don't know his true potential yet. Like other people and reviews have said, his pace is a little bit deceiving (like aguero) very fast but because of the high dribbling, they feel a little slow on the ball. But when you're not sprinting, messi is a magician on the ball. I don't do skill moves a lot, only when necessary so I won't comment on his 4 star skills that some people complain about, but the skill moves he does pull of are smooth and fast. He is able to dribble between the other team like they aren't even there.
The reason people say he should be behind the striker is because of his passing and movement, the passes are really accurate and has such fluid movement and great positioning that playing 1-2's are very effective. After the give and go's or through balls, whatever gets messi to the box, messi is able to capitalize. He has pinpoint accuracy shots, great shot power and finesse.
With all that he is NOT worth ~1 million. I got him at a discount at a good time (930k) but I do better with aguero/podolski, reus/podolski, and micolli/di natale. I'm going to keep messi because him and aguero are my favorite players in real life and that's my dream team, but I would not recommend messi if you're goal is to win. | Messi is good but not worth the coins. | [
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O you think that pisses you off
She skips out on a tab at a restaurant 3 weeks after the girl scout event
then, tries to rob a drug dealer, charged with armed robbery and kidnapping only gets probation
then,breaks probation gets 15days in jail
O and is a 3.75 student in college | she is a cunt bag | [
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Today, I was having a bad day: I didn't sleep right, drowsy all day, and in a slightly bad mood, and considered not going, but got talked into it by my training partner. When I was going, I forgot my wallet, so had to return for it, and considered just calling it a day. My training partner gently nudged me into going anyway, even if I wasn't feeling like it.
Today was really squats, Pendlay rows and OHP. Squats went OK, but didn't feel like doing the latter two, so I decided on deadlifting instead.
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I'm writing a paper on this topic for an independent study I have been taking this past semester. It's my absolute last paper as an undergrad, and I want to take your opinions into consideration. As I've been reading article after peer-reviewed article, it keeps cropping up that this is a personal opinion. Since you are all probably the most readily available group of vinyl purchasers, appreciators, and listeners, I posit this question to you. Thank you for taking time to read this, and I hope to hear from all of you. I'm listening to Getz/Gilberto mono pressing and sipping a G&T while you read this. | Answer the question if you want, or don't. | [
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My work blazer has a hole in the sleeve, I've had it 4 years and it just needs replacing. What store do I get it from? What price range can I justify? What colour? What if I buy it and hate it but can't take it back for some reason? What brand is the most durable? opens Google oh dear this one has bad reviews, so has this and this. This one doesn't have any reviews, how will I know how long it will last and if the investment is worth it? I like this one, oh no the only store that stocks it is 2 hours away and I can't get it online. What if the colour doesn't match my trousers when I get it home? pours hours of research in the make the right choice , thinks of something else I need to buy (like towels because my old ones have holes in) well I can't decide which I need more now. Maybe I should just think about it some more and decide when I get my next paycheck.
Meanwhile I then spend the money on fast food or eating out. Cycle repeats every months.
I feel like deciding on what to prioritise month on month, that isn't a regular expense like rent, is impossible for me. It keeps going round and round, I research something too much because I never feel like I can justify buying anything material. I get crazy buyer's remorse when I do just go out and get something because I feel like I haven't researched enough and I'm not making an informed decision.
Does anyone know any mantras or criteria that helps them prioritise? | If I decide I need something, I research it to the point where I can no longer justify buying it. As a consequence, I never buy anything I need. | [
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Yeah, that's long term effects of moderate drinking. Also
>A potential mediator of these two contrasting effects of alcohol may be platelet function.
The production of platelets is regulated by the liver and kidneys, so it's possible moderate drinkers can have impaired liver function to where it affects platelet regulation.
The idea that one night of binge drinking dilutes your blood enough to thin it is completely wrong. Death can occur at a blood alcohol content greater than .3% and is almost certain above .5%. | By the time alcohol has any appreciable effect on blood concentration you're already dead. | [
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It's works on your obliques (abs) and your shoulders, but to tell you the truth slacklining alone will do jack squat for your health. I think you should stick to rock climbing (I'm assuming you climb because you're selling a climbing rope), and if you don't already climb then grab a friend and head over to the your local indoor gym. All of the slackliners that are really fit are usually fit because they climb, as slacklining was started by climbers that wanted something to do on their rest days. Sorry I couldn't convince you, but I would still most definitely suggest you to sell that rope and get a slackline just because: Slacklining is something very special and different from many other sports. I promise if you just give it a few weeks it will work it's magic on you. Just trust me, it's totally worth it. | Just read it. | [
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