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[ "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way.", "How to properly end a conversation Being my awkward self, there are many times when a conversation is dragging or just not going so smoothly, and I know there's no sense in carrying it on. However, I'm never quite sure how to go about it in a non-awkward way." ]

[ "A good rule of thumb, especially in a professional setting, is to briefly summarize the conversation you just had. This ascertains that both of you are on the same page. Or even if you're just making plans with a friend, you could say \"See you Friday at 7!\" Then smile, maybe say \"Thanks!\" and either walk away or return to what you were doing before the conversation began.\n\nIf you feel the need to continue the conversation (as in, there is no possibility of escape, such as being in a car together), try asking the person a casual question about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and it'll take the pressure off you for a while.", "The advice to summarize is good but if it was you giving them info, and you want to ensure they understand, ask \"Does that make sense?\" Usually, that will surface any concerns or provide an opportunity to exit. ", "Maybe this is a regional thing, or just at my workplace, but everyone here ends conversations with \"cool\" or \"cool?\". If they don't say \"cool\" in response, then the harder conversation ended is \"cool-cool\" with a head nod and walk away.", "Just the word \"anyways,\" followed by something like \"i'll talk to u later\" or actually just whatever thing you plan on doing after that convo like \"gotta go do thing\" is kinda a good general convo ender", "just walk away or close the page? or usually what I do is I say I have to go clean now or do housework, mainly coz I actually do have to -_-", "Cool , yeap yeap yeah . Gotta go ' enter logical activity here ' , i ll catch up with you later / see you later ", "Ive found this to be a problem when talking over text to my very hot but plutonic female friend and i normally just say I'm busy and that ill see her later. Not smooth but it is what it is. 😍😳🚇" ]

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[ "I always use subconcious. Right before falling asleep I say in my mind \"i ask my subconcious to wake me up at X hour\". I repeat it like 2 -3 times until I have this feeling that it will work and the natural alarm is set. \nResults: I always wake up 1-2 min before the alarm. So far never failed me. \n\nYou have a bio clock and self hypbosis so why not us it :)", "You can go two routes, I've tried both and they work reasonably well.\n\n1. Spend a bit of money and buy a Sonic Bomb. It's super loud has a backup battery and a vibration coil for under your mattress (I hold it in my hand under my pillow). ~$50\n\n2. You can download an app on your phone that reads your movements while you sleep and determines when you are in a light sleep vs a deep sleep.\nI have one that goes off in 15-60 minute period when it detects I'm in light sleep. Works pretty well asling as you get enough sleep. ~Free\n\nI use them in conjunction, if the phone alarm wakes me up before the sonic bomb I can turn it off before my neighbors call the cops! Lol seriously though if that happens the vibration coil should do a pretty good job.", "I struggle with alarms, I usually change the sound on it every few days helps me wake up. I think I get used to it and just sleep through them. ", "I used to have the exact same problem. I kept getting new alarm clocks because nothing could wake me up. I've slept through a fire alarm before. One day at a garage sale there was an old alarm clock for $10. I bought it and have been using it now for almost 10 years and it wakes me up every day because it is the most annoying thing I've ever heard.", "Sleep timers and all that business are great but if you're anything like me you'll find one minor inconvenience about it and end up hating it. \n\nThe way I did it was habit. One alarm sound, and it's only used for your alarm. Then create the association for yourself. Go lie down in bed for 15-20 minutes and set the alarm. When it goes off, get out of bed *immediately*.\n\nBonus points if you do something else everytime, like drinking a glass of water or taking your medication (maybe don't practice that last one though).", "Drink a decent amount of water before bed. When your alarm goes off you'll have to pee so you'll be forced out of bed anyway.", "Try waking up according to when your REM sleep cycle finishes! They're about 1.5 hours each, and when you wake up in the middle of a cycle, you tend to me more groggy and half asleep. Whereas if your alarm goes off towards the end of your cycle, you're more likely to wake up, feeling refreshed.\n\nhttp://sleepyti.me/ is amazing at getting an approximate time you should be going to bed. For eg. I need to wake up by 6:30am, which means I could go to bed at either 9:30pm, 11pm, 12:30am or 2am. \n\nGood luck!\n\n", "I had this problem for years. I believe the keys are changing the alarm sound when you get used to it and using it in conjunction with a full spectrum bulb. \nA Sonic Boom, as mentioned in other comments, usually has a way to adjust the tone of the alarm and a plug in the back for a lamp. \nCurrently I use I Can't Wake Up Free for Android which let's me change the alarm, set alarms that require me too do tasks like typing or math problems, set a program to open after, and have a short reminder alarm to make sure you actually woke up. I also have a plug timer for my lamp with a full spectrum bulb that turns on 15 min or so before my alarm. This is the cheap way to emulate the Sunrise alarms which are pretty expensive. \nGood luck! ", "Get enough sleep. If you're sleep deprived you're only making it harder to get up with the alarm.\n\nNo snooze! The snooze button trains you to go back to sleep after you hear the alarm. Not what you want.\n\nI use my phone as an alarm clock because I can set the alarm sound to be a noise or song that actually wakes me up. And I change it frequently so my brain won't get used to the song, ", "You could try going to be early and using a light box with a timer in the morning.\n\nFigure out how early you need to go to sleep so you can wake up feeling rested at the correct time.\n\nThen use a lightbox with an alarm to wake your body up naturally.", "You HAVE TO get vertical the moment it wakes you up, without hitting snooze. Otherwise you will begin to sleep through your alarm. So really you are training in self discipline, and reacting to alarms by sitting and standing up immediately. ", "The best way is to get a Philips Hue starter kit. These are LED bulbs that can be controlled with an app on your phone, and also with Siri. Set the app to schedule a gradual increase of light in your room. \n\nThe light triggers your body to wake up more easily and feel less groggy. I believe by slowing the production of melatonin. Or if you have curtains and a sunlit window leave them open when you turn out the lights and have the dawn light help wake you naturally. \n\nThis way when the alarm goes off, you don't feel tired still. Since starting this a few months ago, I have only hit snooze maybe once.", "Regulating my sleep schedule helped me out a lot. Once I got to the point where I fell asleep at a time that'd give me 6-8 hours of sleep then I started setting an alarm within that 6-8 hour window. Now I wake up out of habit. That and I didn't die in my sleep.", "I used to sleep through my alarm until I got a ringtone that was EXTREMELY loud and annoying.. 4 months later I wake up 10 mins before my alarm, every day.", "I have a lamp on a timer that i set to turn on a bit before my alarm goes off. Definitely has helped me", "I actually find that the vibrate alarm on my fitbit works much better than any sound alarm. Maybe try it out with a phone on vibrate under your pillow?\n", "Having a consistent schedule and wake up at the same time everyday if possible. Maybe it's because I'm not a kid anymore, but my alarm is a back up. I wake up a few minutes before it everyday. Work hard to need sleep, get sleep, get up, repeat, if you aren't tired at the end of the day then do more mentally or physically. ", "Had a friend like that. His alarm was boom box with a timer. He'd wake up the entire dorm with it and he never heard a thing. \n\nTry this? https://youtu.be/mGVKgOjSEt0\n", "Get a alarm that wakes you up during your light sleep cycle. during this time time in your sleep you'll wake up the easiest. Ever wake up and feel like shit? Like you woke up more tired than you went to sleep? Changes are you woke up during REM sleep.\n\nA sleep cycle alarm will monitor your sleep (typically placed on corner of bed or nitestand) and wake you up during the light sleep phase before your alarm time. The default interval is 30mins, so if your alarm is for 7am, it will wake you up during light sleep, sometime between 6:30 and 7:00. While this feels like you're losing sleep, you'll feel a LOT better when you wake up and waking up will be much easier.\n\nA personal favorite of mine is [Sleep As Android](http://sleep.urbandroid.org/), I used to have 6 alarms in the morning to wake up. 3 on my phone, 1 on DS, 1 physical alarm clocks and another one on my pc to play music to get up for 8am uni courses. I've switched to this back when Android Gingerbread was the new thing and a couple years later am still using it (though now to wake up at 5:00-5:30).\n\nIf your worry is sleeping through the alarm or falling back asleep, it starts off fairly quiet and gets progressively louder until max volume. In light sleep, you'll wake up without problems. There are also typically [various methods of turning off the alarm that ensure you're awake](https://i.imgur.com/t6zoX5u.png). Personally, I go with typed math which ranges from [simple](https://i.imgur.com/05TzKmM.jpeg) to [complex](https://i.imgur.com/DJIYJEE.jpeg) questions that to be answered before your alarm finally shuts off. You could always opt for a QR code taped to your bathroom mirror, an NFC tag, or others.\n\nPopular alternatives include [SleepCycle](https://www.sleepcycle.com/) and [SleepBot](http://mysleepbot.com/). \n\n", "Consistency and remind yourself right before you go to sleep. Sleep at the same time every night and try to get up at a relative same time every morning. ", "get an alarm clock with 2 alarms. \n\nSet the alarm clocks time 40 minutes fast.\n\nSet 2 alarms the first is to wake you the fuck up, the 2nd is to make you say\"HOLY FUCK ITS 8:00 I GOTTA BE THERE NOW!\" \n\nMost days I rush the fuck outta bed thinking im going to be late, I usually don't realize until I'm in the shower.\n\nMy fiance however says the first alarm is a sex alarm.... the other is a no sex get your ass up alarm... that works too I wake up on the first alarm often.", "breakfast. Try hard for a couple days and eat at the time you want to wake up. After less than a week, your body will automatically wake up due to hunger pains. This is how they conditioned me to in an eating disorder program. Also good breakfast starts your day right. ", "[Philips Morning Wake-Up Light With Colored Sunrise Simulation and Dusk Fading Night Light, White, HF3520 ](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0093162RM/ref=cm_sw_r_apa_5hUCxb0XV2VWM)\n\nI have the older model, but this thing is worth every penny. I used to sleep with the light on to ensure that I woke up with my alarm. (My wife is much happier now!)", "[Maybe one of these might help you](http://www.health.com/health/gallery/0,,20506099,00.html/view-all)", "[Bell Alarm Clock](https://www.amazon.ca/AcuRite-15605-Vintage-Alarm-Clock/dp/B00I2OYK6Q/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467138158&sr=8-1&keywords=bell+alarm+clock)", "You trained yourself to ignore them. My SO did this by having multiple alarms. To train her out of it I have been slowly removing one of the alarms and changing the tone of the last alarm. You said your name woke you up so maybe try actual music.", "You need to change the alarm tone every couple of weeks or so, I have the same problem with getting used to the tone.", "You might like an app called Sleep Time. Pop your phone under your pillow and it tracks your movements. It uses this in combination with normal duration of sleep stages and gently wakes you near to your alarm time when you're only lightly sleeping.", "You could try changing your alarm sound, it's possible you could be used to hearing it and just ignore it subconsciously.\n\nI'd like to point out I'm far from an expert on this matter, but I too had problems waking up thinking my alarm never even went off.", "You can try an old fashioned alarm clock there about 20 dollars at any retailer. Just bought one and it's really loud.", "You can set an anchor to the alarm, using NLP, so that you feel excited and feel the urge to get up when it goes off. ", "Why don't you just have your brother record himself saying your name lightly and use that as an alarm? Maybe even get him to say it increasingly loudly... \n\nI used to have a similar issue where the alarm would just keep going, but my mom lightly tapping on the door snapped me right up. I thought about recording it but never got around to it.", "What have worked for me is to invest in a timed light switch. I even upgraded the light for better effect. Now 30 minutes before the alarm goes off the room gets flooded with 1000lm light. It does not wake you up immediately but starts the process. I usually wake up 15-1 minutes before the alarm goes off.\n\nThis will also have the effect of tuning your circadian rhythm. I also use it to turn off the light at night for the same reason. Although the main benefit is to have an easier time waking up.", "Usually repeating to myself : I will get up at 7am thrice just before going to bed helps me always. \n\nI've found that I wake up a min before to confirm for whatever reason...", "Use to have the same problem, but i started using the R2D2 scream as my alarm tone.. scares you shitless but its effective ", "Try some metal/rock. I have my phone blare some Avenged Sevenfold(Seize The Day). It gets you up and going.", "This might be interesting: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/how-to-get-up-right-away-when-your-alarm-goes-off/\n\nIn short the article says that you can train your mind. Every day you have to pretend you are going to wake up. So lay in bed, pull on your night clothes, close the curtain. Than set your alarm a couple of minutes ahead. Pretend you are asleep, and get out immediately. I don't know if this really works, but it might be helpful.", "There's app alarms that you can set a math equation and you have to solve it for the alarm to go off. There is also an option to set a qr code let's say in your bathroom and you have to scan it for the alarm to go off, once your in the washroom splash cold water on your face. What works for me is a very loud alarm on my phone but I place it far enough where I have to get up to turn it off.", "There's an app called\"I can't wake up\" and what it does is that you have to solve simple puzzles, shake your phone, scan a barcode, and what not before you can turn your alarm off. I used to use that all the time", "There is a alarm clock called sonic boom on amazon. It comes louder than a normal clock, it also has a pad that vibrates that you place under your mattress.\n\nCheck it out. \n\nIt's also a good thing to find a good sound for your phone. The best sound that works for me is called Virgo on the alarm clock called timely on the app store ", "There are a few options. One is to get a programmable alarm that you can set to play someone calling your name instead of whatever sound you have. Another is, as someone here recommended, a sleep cycle app (I like Sleep Bot, but you can get more accurate ones that come with a wristband tracker ). The sleep app will read your movements as your sleep and go off when you're in your lightest state, so it's much easier to break through.", "The problem lies with sensory adaptation. Our brains eventually filter out stimuli as a way to lower \"White noise\" inputs. Interestingly enough, one of the sounds the brain cannot adapt to in this way is the white noise or static from radio. \n\nTL;DR - buy a loud clock radio and set the alarm to a gap between stations to utilize the static noise.", "Take $20 right now, go to Home Depot, and buy a digital outlet timer. \n\nGo to Walmart or Target and buy a floor lamp, preferably one with a small directional arm. Also grab a pack of bulbs. \n\nLeave the lamp turned on. Have the digital timer active slightly before your alarm. Have the light turn off when you need to walk out the door (that way if you are still home when the light turns off you know you need to gtfo). \n\nNow you wake up on time. ", "Switch to the radio on your alarm clock. If you're using your phone it isn't loud enough in my opinion.", "Step 1: become unemployed and develop severe anxiety / debilitating panic. Job search on linkedin so you can continually see your peers getting ahead of you. Let the bills pile up. Vacillate between sticking out living in your crappy dingy apartment which you can't afford vs. moving back home as an unemployed loser vs. taking up the offer of the sketchy dude you met a few months ago, who says he can hook you up with an english teaching job in china. Before long you'll find that you wake up every day between 5:00 and 5:15. Is that early enough?", "Set songs that you like or that are loud and obnoxious as your alarm sound. Of course, these need to be changed frequently as well or you end up like me, making my bf listen to several rounds of screaming \"Bad Blood\" and \"Shake It Off\" while I sleep peacefully.\n\nI also got one of those strong vibrating alarm clocks and they wake me up but sometimes only just enough to hit the snooze button. I hate subconscious me. So yeah I have no advice.", "Same issue here. If someone comes and says my name (pun not intended) I can wake up with 0 issues, if its a phone call or alarm I just sit up, semi-asleep still so I have no idea what I'm doing but I cancel the alarm and go back to sleep, unintentionally.", "Record brother saying your name, use it as your alarm.\n\nJokes aside, use alternate methods. There are alarms that use light or vibration instead of sound. Using a mix of two will wake up anyone.\n\nWhen you've got an alarm that works well, act on it and get out of bed when you wake up. If you must snooze, do a ligth workout - some pushups, a little jog in a circle around the room, anything - before going back to bed. Using snooze too much will train your mind to ignore the alarm clock.", "Place your alarm clock in a different room, and chug 32 oz of water right before bed. A full bladder really helps ", "My favorite go to is to put my alarm away from my bed in such a way that requires me to physically leave bed to turn it off. ", "My boyfriend swears by his Philips light therapy alarm. It's a little pricey, but he's up on time everyday.", "Loud alarms don't always work. They're jarring and your mind can tune them out. \n\nI've been using timely. It's got a smart wake mode. That seems to work really well. \n\nBasically you set a wake time and the smart wake will start 30 mins prior. It's start real soft and increase gradually until the set alarm time when it's full volume. \n\nThing is that by the set alarm time, you've been woken up so often I don't even wait. I'm actually wide awake. ", "Lots of tips to do with waking up, but I think the most important step is to get to *sleep* properly. If you're sleep deprived, waking up will always be tough.\n\n* Ensure you get to bed at least 8 hours before you intend to wake up (ideally longer)\n* Don't use TV/tablets/computers/phone for a while before bedtime\n* Don't do non-sleep activities in bed - strengthen the association between bed and sleep\n* Sleep in a dark room, or wear a sleep mask\n* Keep as regular a schedule as you can (including avoiding lie-ins at the weekend)\n* If you feel you need extra sleep, a 20 minute micro-sleep in the early afternoon can do wonders\n\nOn the subject of waking up itself, a couple of ideas I didn't see anyone else mention:\n\n* A bright desk lamp on a timer socket is much cheaper than automated curtains (I have an unreasonably bright hydroponic lamp that I use during winter months)\n* If you share your bed, or have housemates, get them to kick you out of bed as soon as your alarm goes off\n* Given that you seem to wake up when your name is mentioned, you could try setting your alarm on your phone to be a recording of somebody saying \"KimchiTurtle, it's time to get up!\"", "It's not about training your body to wake up to an alarm. Getting pulled out of sleep by a loud noise is like getting kicked in the teeth. Your body is never going to like it, and that's a good thing. \n \nThe way to train your body to get up when you want it to is to have a neutral stimulus that your body associates with an imminent awakening. Set that to happen thirty seconds or a minute before your alarm. Pretty soon you'll be waking up to it instead of the alarm. Because it's not unpleasant and the body pulls itself out of sleep instead of being jarred awake, the urge to smack the snooze button and go back to sleep is almost entirely absent. \n \nSomeone speaking your name is apparently one you've already trained for, probably when your parents woke you up when you were little.", "It won't help you over night, but putting your alarm clock far away so you have to get up to turn it off helped me. Now I wake up from anything and no matter how tired I am I am able to get up and walk to turn it off. What it did for me is train my body to HAVE to get up because I can't just lean over to stop it. \n\nI've occasionally left my phone on my night stand by my bed and when it goes off I'll sometimes put it on snooze and I can feel the difference when it's right next to me. Sometimes I'll just lay there and not even hit snooze just because my body knows I can since it's so easy I don't have to get up.", "In all honesty, just wait. \n\nI'm assuming that you're a teenager, since you still live with a brother. It's normal for teens to have trouble waking, as sleep is sort of a weird thing for teens. As you grow older, you'll wake easier and easier. When I was a kid, nothing short of a bomb would wake me. Now, I don't even use an alarm. ", "If you are awoken by someone saying your name, get some family members to record there voice trying to wake you up. Then set that recording as an alarm tone.\n\nSet 3 alarms \n1) voices \n2) normal alarm sounds\n3) voices again", "I've always had trouble with this, but I found a simple (and free) solution that helped me.\n\nSo, I've got bad anxiety about answering the phone. I hate it and most of my friends and family know it. So when someone calls me, I know it's for a serious reason and I usually snap out of whatever I'm doing to answer it immediately.\n\nSo I just changed my alarm tone to the same sound as ringtone and now I wake up thinking people are calling me.\n\nI still set like 20 alarms but only as a sort of pre-built snooze system lol", "I've always found making sure my alarm was somewhere where I would have to get up to turn it off helped. Some people will mean to hit the snooze and accidentally turn tjmhe alarm off still mostly unconscious.\n\nBy the time you've gotten completely out of bed to hit the snooze, the hard part is already over.", "I use an app called \"I can't wake up!\" that has an alarm that gets progressively louder until you solve a puzzle. You can choose from a bunch of different kinds of puzzles like math problems, memory tasks, repetition etc. Works pretty great for me.", "I recommend going through bootcamp. I used to sleep like a rock. Spend 3 months of being up on the toe line in under 30 seconds at a moments notice and you'll never sleep in again. But on a more practical note pick a more obnoxious alarm and set a second one 5 minutes after your first one. Maybe try 2 different tunes. ", "I realized that one of the biggest difficulties I had in waking up was that the medication I was taking made me so hungry I'd stuff my face before bed. \n\nI realized that if I eat within a 12 hour window before I'd supposed to be awake I'd have problems in the morning. Switched to a different medication, problem solved.", "I put mine on the other side of the room. I have to get up, walk over, turn it off using brain power, and by then I'm awake enough to know that I have to do shit today. ", "I promise that there are no shortcuts here. The only way to really do it is to get dedicated and get up IMMEDIATELY as soon as your alarm wakes you. No snooze button, no rolling around, no staring at the ceiling. The more you do that, the easier it gets, until it's a habit.\n\nI'm pretty old, I tried a million methods, in the end this was the only thing that worked, and it was free! ", "I just ordered a fitbit for this reason, a subtle (and silent) vibration of the wrist will do the trick. It will also optimize your wake up time to feel more rested.", "I have the same problem (have slept through three simultaneous alarms for forty minutes before), and the best solution I have used was the Sonic Boom. It has a connecting piece for under your mattress that shakes your bed in pulses instead of trying to just use sound.", "I have an alarm clock from Sony that has birds chirping as the alarm tone. It starts soft then gradually gets louder. I know it might sound counterintuitive to getting a louder alarm clock, but in my personal experience, I wake up to it more immediately and do so in a good mood.", "I have a 7 year old Sony alarm clock that uses the most irritating noise in existence to wake you up... It works though, as I've never accidently slept through it in all of the years I've used it. However, I swear to god I have PTSD from it as now whenever I hear an alarm similar to it I get really panicky...", "I have 2 iPhones and 1 tablet, I put the alarms within 5 minutes of each other and put them around my room. It worked because I had to wake up and turn off each device individually. Well, for som reason my body got so annoyed by it, that not it wakes up an hour early just to beat the alarms. That work for me, maybe it will work for you. If you don't have extra phones, go buy some cheap alarm clocks and put them around your room. Works every time. ", "I had this problem too. I got one of those old school alarm clocks with the bells on top. They are incredibly loud, no way to sleep thru it. And cheap too I think", "I had this problem forever until I changed the tone to the same one as my ringtone, so it's like I'm waking up to a phone call. Always works now.", "I had a roommate in college that had this alarm that would get progressively louder. It normally didn't bother me but one night he was away and neglected to turn it off and it got louder and louder and I can't imagine anyone sleeping through it. ", "I don't use a sound alarm any more, set my phone to vibrate on my bed side table and I wake up without fail.", "I don't know if this will help or not but try to time your sleep in 1 hour & 30 minute intervals. It's some sort of sleep cycle thing I read online. So go for 4 and a half hours of sleep, or 6, or 7 and a half. 9 I think is too much for most people from a practicality standpoint.\n\nI do 6 hours for work days and I wake up feeling only slightly groggy. My room is being painted soon so right now I'm sleeping on a single mattress on the floor and right when the alarm woke me up this morning, I could get up right away from basically the floor and dodge all the furniture I've put towards the middle of the room to get to the alarm clock to turn it off.\n\nOn weekends I sleep however long I want without an alarm and I'm noticeably more groggy... and I actually get more sleep on weekends.", "I don't know if its affordable by now, but I think the programmable curtain solutions out there may be for you. Together with an alarm, the sunlight might be able to wake you up better.", "I do this: I set three alarms all about 5 minutes apart... one light sounding one (first), the one that just barely enters my deep sleep.... one medium sounding one (second) that makes my mind start to realize an alarm is going off, then one REALLY LOUD one that is the sound of a fire alarm or something..... I tried switching to the really loud one first and I would wake up all scared every time.... that's why I do the gradual slow technique.\nI hope it helps!", "I do something similar as artur6000. But I also use the \"Tibetan Bell\" alarm found in Zedge for a quick jump out of the bed. \n\nWent to Amsterdam with a few friends and I set an alarm one morning and they all woke up freaking their shit", "I cant wake up is an awesome android app. basicly makes you complete tasks to switch the alarm off. such as memory games and scanning bar codes. I hate it so much... which means it works.", "Honestly if you can go to bed and wake up at that time every day even in weekends .... After some rime you will wake up at that time without the alarm.\n\nIf that still doesn't work and the alarm won't wake you up you may be dead. \n\nSo you may need to see a doctor....:p", "Here's what worked for me: A drip coffee maker with a timer. Seriously. The smell of brewing coffee is enough to move me from a deep sleep to a light sleep, and then my regular alarm does the rest. The bonus is that I've got beautiful freshly brewed coffee waiting for me in the kitchen when I get up.", "Go to bed earlier, so you have enough sleep when your alarm goes off.\n\nAlso, try not to eat anything 12-16 hours before you have to wake up, your body will naturally wake you up if you're hungry enough.", "Go to bed at the same time every night you degenerate piece of fuck\n\nOr do like I do and get one of those sleep cycle alarm apps. They work with your sleep cycle and help you determine when the best time to go to bed is if you want to wake up at a certain time.", "Get to the age of 30 and your body will wake you up automatically to pee. Works with me right at 8 hours of sleep.", "Get an alarm ring tone of your brother saying your name, most 3rd party apps allow you to use pre- recorded voices as the tone. ", "Fit bit and the Up by Jawbone both have vibrating alarms on them. This is what I use and it has helped ", "Easiest option (if the alarm is your phone) is requires two steps.\n\n1. change the alarm sound **often** and make it annoying (often = weekly/bi-weekly)\n2. ensure the phone/alarm is close enough to hear, but far enough away that you have to get out of bed. ie; out of arms length\n\n\n", "Dude, try the app 'Alarmy' you can set it so that you either have to complete math problems to turn it off, or take a photo of a predetermined item in your house I.e your toaster or something that way you're out of your bedroom. It works. Been using it for ages, plus it's LOUD", "Don't use a standard alarm ring tone. Use something that is so completely out of what you are used to hearing. I use an alarm app on my phone and use a specific song myself that just instantly wakes me up. The best part is unlike most of these suggestions..This is free. ", "Don't close your blinds for sleep.\nYou won't sleep as deeply in the morning when your alarm sounds....this makes it easier to wake up", "Do what the native Americans did drink a bunch of water before bed so you have to wake up to take a piss ", "Change your alarm. Jawbone up's (probably most of those gadgets) have a vibrating alarm. Or a light alarm that blasts a bright light in the room. ", "Appliance timer with a nice bright full spectrum light attached. I have mine set to go on about 10 minutes before my alarm goes off and I'm usually awake the alarm due to the light.", "Apart from all the tips about changing your alarm and sound volume, have you considered going to bed earlier and getting a decent night's rest so that you would wake up naturally around the same time as your alarm set time anyway.", "Just get the fuck up. \n\nOnce you are conscious get up and make up your bed, brush your teeth, get some cereal, do anything but just sit there being tired and lazy. \n\nThe groggy feeling won't until x amount of time has passed anyway. Never lie in bed once you are awake. \n\nAfter a while you be up consistently at whatever time you so chose. " ]

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[ "How to keep mechanical pencil lead from slipping into the shaft? It has always bothered me, and I have had to get rid of so many pencils because of it. The lead isn't too short, it just slips up when you try to write. [like this](http://i.imgur.com/io4f7.jpg)", "How to keep mechanical pencil lead from slipping into the shaft? It has always bothered me, and I have had to get rid of so many pencils because of it. The lead isn't too short, it just slips up when you try to write. [like this](http://i.imgur.com/io4f7.jpg)", "How to keep mechanical pencil lead from slipping into the shaft? It has always bothered me, and I have had to get rid of so many pencils because of it. The lead isn't too short, it just slips up when you try to write. [like this](http://i.imgur.com/io4f7.jpg)", "How to keep mechanical pencil lead from slipping into the shaft? It has always bothered me, and I have had to get rid of so many pencils because of it. The lead isn't too short, it just slips up when you try to write. [like this](http://i.imgur.com/io4f7.jpg)" ]

[ "Hmmm, never had that problem when the lead wasn't running out. Try better ones, like a zebra m301/m701", "I had this problem and Google duly found this thread for me... my problem turned out to be that I was using 0.5mm lead in a 0.7mm pencil. Just wanted to add this comment to others who may find this post in future!", "silicone powder is used as a lubricant. over time, silicone powder will build up from use and this is the likely culprit. If you can access the two half thingys that hold the lead in place, you could clean it with water and soap or something?", "I used to like these Bic pencils. I recently purchased a pack that does the same thing on each pencil. They must have changed their design. Looks like I will look for better pencils. " ]

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[ "how can I make my flat pillows fluffy again? I always briefly rustle them but after awhile they just flatten out again. Any help?", "how can I make my flat pillows fluffy again? I always briefly rustle them but after awhile they just flatten out again. Any help?", "how can I make my flat pillows fluffy again? I always briefly rustle them but after awhile they just flatten out again. Any help?", "how can I make my flat pillows fluffy again? I always briefly rustle them but after awhile they just flatten out again. Any help?", "how can I make my flat pillows fluffy again? I always briefly rustle them but after awhile they just flatten out again. Any help?" ]

[ "Depends what kind of filling you have. Some you can put in the washer and dryer and then fluff up by sort of squeezing the pillow, grabbing at the fibres through the outer cover and pulling them apart and repeating all over the pillow. Even just putting them in the drier with some heavy shoes will help.\n\nBut a lot of pillows are made of fillings that break down over time and can't be brought back. You just replace them.", "Many pillows are just stuffed with fibers or cotton... and once those fibers have worn out, they become totally flat. Get a down pillow, and they will remain fluffable for years and years. :) I've had mine for 5...", "Buy new 4 dollar pillows at Walmart. Or buy more expensive ones next time that will not deflate as quickly.", "If it's a down pillow or mattress, you can sterilize the item in the sun and then beat it with a broom handle to fluff it. I have two down mattresses that my great, great grandmother made from the downy feathers of ducks and chickens on her farm over sixty years ago and they are in great condition because of this method. ", "I take the adjacent corners of the pillow and shake it lightly up and down, letting gravity do most of the work. Then I turn the pillow 90 degrees and do the same thing. I repeat these two steps until the pillow has rotated 360 degrees." ]

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[ "How to prevent kidney stones. Ok, I'm now scared. I live in the Virgin Islands (dehydration risk), so what can I do to prevent kidney stones?", "How to prevent kidney stones. Ok, I'm now scared. I live in the Virgin Islands (dehydration risk), so what can I do to prevent kidney stones?", "How to prevent kidney stones. Ok, I'm now scared. I live in the Virgin Islands (dehydration risk), so what can I do to prevent kidney stones?", "How to prevent kidney stones. Ok, I'm now scared. I live in the Virgin Islands (dehydration risk), so what can I do to prevent kidney stones?", "How to prevent kidney stones. Ok, I'm now scared. I live in the Virgin Islands (dehydration risk), so what can I do to prevent kidney stones?" ]

[ "Water. Water water water water. \n\nSince water sounds like an issue, citrus, as stated. Asparagus and cranberry are good ones for breaking up crap in your kidneys too, apparently. \n\nWhen I had one, my doc said that calcium oxylate stones are the most common. For people prone to this type of stone, he recommended taking it easy on the following: strawberries, spinach, tea (except green), chocolate, caffeine, alcohol, and salt. My mom had a higher calcium content in her stone, so she's been encouraged to take it easy on high-calcium stuff like milk and cheese. \n\nExercise. Don't hold pee in too long. If you get a UTI, get it taken care of asap.\n\nAnd don't worry yourself too much. If you parents didn't get them, it's unlikely you will. But seriously, water. \n", "There are different types of stones, so cranberry juice is good for preventing one type of stone but will cause other types. Ditto for just about every other food suggestion. Unless you know what type of stones you form it may do more harm than good.\n\nThe best thing you can do is drink water regularly. Make sure your urine is pale. ", "My neighbor had to have a LOT of stones removed from both kidneys. His doctor told him there were a lot of great medicines, etc but the best bang for his buck was lemon juice in water - basically unsweetened lemonade. Maybe a bit on the weak side, but nowhere near like a slice of lemon in a glass of water. He doesn't drink much water plain anymore.\n\nYMMV - this was advice for one specific patient. Personally, I use half lemon juice, half unfiltered apple cider vinegar with a pinch of honey diluted back about 50/50.", "I've had chronic kidney stones for 16 years, and I've found that if you lay on the side the stone is on, on a hard surface and breathe slowly it helps dull the pain. I don't even feel them anymore until I evacuate them.", "Consuming foods that contain citric acid will help prevent crystallization in urine. Science: citric acid helps the body secrete citrate, which eventually causes more dilute urine. More dilute urine=less likelihood of crystallization and crystals are what eventually cause stones." ]

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[ "Winter Emergency Kit for the Car Okay Yankees, I am taking my first solo trip north for Thanksgiving. What do I really need to put in my car (apparently a front-wheel drive) in case I wind up in a snowdrift or icestorm or whatever? \n\n", "Winter Emergency Kit for the Car Okay Yankees, I am taking my first solo trip north for Thanksgiving. What do I really need to put in my car (apparently a front-wheel drive) in case I wind up in a snowdrift or icestorm or whatever? \n\n", "Winter Emergency Kit for the Car Okay Yankees, I am taking my first solo trip north for Thanksgiving. What do I really need to put in my car (apparently a front-wheel drive) in case I wind up in a snowdrift or icestorm or whatever? \n\n", "Winter Emergency Kit for the Car Okay Yankees, I am taking my first solo trip north for Thanksgiving. What do I really need to put in my car (apparently a front-wheel drive) in case I wind up in a snowdrift or icestorm or whatever? \n\n" ]

[ "This is worst case scenario. Sorry it got long but I put everything I could think of. Absolute necessities have been starred. \n\n1. Blanket(s) and extra socks. *\n\n2. Bottled water. *\n\n3. Kitty litter or planks for traction if you get stuck. *\n\n4. Make sure your cell phone is fully charged - may want to get a car charger. *\n\n5. Ice scraper. \n\n6. Shovel. \n\n7. Snow boots and a winter coat/snow suit. *\n\n8. Gloves, hat, scarf, and maybe face mask if you don't like a cold face. *\n\n9. Non perishable snacks. \n\n10. Chamber pot/bucket/whatever you can fit your bits in without making a mess. \n\n11. Backpack with meds, extra clothes, and anything you might need if you get rescued by a good samaritan and need to leave the car. \n\n11. Extra jug of gasoline. \n\n12. Paper and pen so you can leave your contact info on the dashboard if you hitch a ride to civilization. \n\n13. A book or other activities to keep from being bored while you wait for a tow. \n\n14. A A A membership might be helpful just in case. \n\n15. Flashlight with good batteries. \n\n16. Crank radio. \n\n", "A \"come-along\" winch is also a must. For those who don't know what one is, it's a human-powered winch with about 10' or so of steel cable, a spindle with a ratchet, and an lever arm (usually about 3' long) to crank the spindle. You pay out all the cable on the spindle, attach the static end to something immovable (tree, post, another car, whatever) and then crank the arm. Effectively, it turns you into a human tow truck. Make sure you get one with enough pull (4tons at a minimum, more if your vehicle is larger than a compact car). \nIt won't get you out of /every/ mess, but it's a life saver when you're out in the woods with nobody around to help you. I also recommend having at least 100' of \"recovery strap\" (a tow cable made of flat woven fabric rather than chains, which are heavier and bulkier) in case the nearest anchor is further away than the length of the come-along's cable.", "Ok, you're not used to driving in snow and ice. You'll be bringing hat, gloves, scarf, boots, coat because you're visiting a place that gets cold. Make sure your car has windshield washer fluid and decent wipers. Salt on slushy roads can make a mess of your visibility. For any trip, check fluids, have a spare and jack. You should always have jumper cables and an LED flashlight in the car. I have a little LED flashlight that goes in the cig. lighter so it's always charged. \n\nIf it's snowing heavily, or there's a lot of ice on the road, stop at a rest stop. It takes experience to drive in snow, or especially ice. In light snow, keep extra distance from the car ahead, test traction by braking gently, and slow down some. Keep the gas tank above 1/3 full. Keep your phone charged. \n\nIn the car - sleeping bag or fleece or wool blanket, jar of candy (I keep candy that I don't love, so it's there in an emergency), bottled water, cans of soda(under pressure - won't freeze whilst sitting in the trunk, unless it's extremely cold). I have a jar with some tea light candles and matches. If you use a candle, put it in the (glass) jar and put the jar in a safe, level spot, but a lit candle just makes being stuck and waiting for help a lot more bearable. \n\nI live in Maine, so I carry a small shovel, container of sand, traction mats, 1st aid kit, tools, and I keep mittens, hat, fleece vest in the car. ", "It's maybe an obvious fact, but gloves, wollen cap and frontal flash light. Why? Just because you never break down in snow during a clean sunny day. Always in icestorm during night at -30 celcius. Karma I suppose..." ]

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[ "Optimal napping techniques They (the life hackers online + some researchers) say to do *either* 30 minutes or a full sleep cycle. \n\nIt's really hard to time your sleep onset in the first place - what if it takes you 30 minutes to even feel rested? - and *then* wake yourself up enough to set an appropriately timed alarm. \n\nAlso want to know how to nap under ANY circumstances.\n\nTIA", "Optimal napping techniques They (the life hackers online + some researchers) say to do *either* 30 minutes or a full sleep cycle. \n\nIt's really hard to time your sleep onset in the first place - what if it takes you 30 minutes to even feel rested? - and *then* wake yourself up enough to set an appropriately timed alarm. \n\nAlso want to know how to nap under ANY circumstances.\n\nTIA", "Optimal napping techniques They (the life hackers online + some researchers) say to do *either* 30 minutes or a full sleep cycle. \n\nIt's really hard to time your sleep onset in the first place - what if it takes you 30 minutes to even feel rested? - and *then* wake yourself up enough to set an appropriately timed alarm. \n\nAlso want to know how to nap under ANY circumstances.\n\nTIA", "Optimal napping techniques They (the life hackers online + some researchers) say to do *either* 30 minutes or a full sleep cycle. \n\nIt's really hard to time your sleep onset in the first place - what if it takes you 30 minutes to even feel rested? - and *then* wake yourself up enough to set an appropriately timed alarm. \n\nAlso want to know how to nap under ANY circumstances.\n\nTIA" ]

[ "The hardest thing about napping is you already know you're going to wake up soon, which makes falling asleep harder. Counting breathes/doing some kind of simple m", "I use a nice sleep mask to cover my eyes, get a nice soft one not the cheap thin cloth. Helped so much with a newborn baby and being up every 2-3 hours and taking naps when I'm not a nap person a", "Best time to nap is right after lunch. Your body diverts more blood to your digestive system to handle the food you just ate, which will make you sleepy.", "A 30 minute nap doesn't suggest you can fall asleep in that amount of time. Simply resting for 30 minutes without falling asleep is extremely beneficial to help you do a soft-reboot for the day, clear your mind and de-stress." ]

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[ "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!", "I just got hired for a job (minimum wage) how do I quit for another job? So I just got hired at a minimum wage, mall job and I've been working here for less than a week now. I just got offered an actual job with a salary, even though not much it still is a lot better than the minimum wage job. How do I go about leaving this job without sort of tarnishing my reputation and pissing anyone off?\n\n I'm 21 and male if that helps at all. Thanks for any advice!" ]

[ "Just tell your boss you're quitting and you can finish off the week or even give 2 weeks. Tell the other job when you can start and just start then. Seems like a no brainer. If you're worried about how it will look on a resume to be at a job for a week or two just don't put down the mall job on your resume in the future.", "You just walk in head held high and politely give your two weeks notice. Nothing more is needed nor necessary, this is business, they would guiltlessly sever their relationship with you in the same manner. Just be straight and direct.", "Are both jobs particularly labor-intensive and stressful? Do they have the same working hours? If you can answer no to both of these, why not keep both jobs? You could double your income (at the admitted cost of free time), but quite a few people (including myself back in the day) hold down two jobs.", "I'd explain it as it is. I think most companies expect it sometimes, people coming and not enjoying it, then leaving. They all have you on something like a 3 month probation anyway, so they're set for you to leave.", "sometimes people will be offended no matter what, but you make it clear why, make sure the other job will be available and give a two weeks' notice you should be fine.", "Why do you care about ruining your \"Reputation\" at a job that you've worked at for less than a week?...Do you have a reputation of being loyal to companies that pay minimum wage or something?\n\nBut to honestly answer your question, confront your boss and give him a 2 week notice. Let him know that you will continue any projects you've been working on. 2 weeks is an adequate amount of time for a mall to find a new employee. (Because they literally have hundreds of resumes)", "Look for a friend willing to work there for maybe a month (while your boss finds someone else) and offer him the differnce in pay between the two jobs throughout that month.. that way your boss has plenty of time to findnsomeone else, your friend makes a little bit of extra money for a month and you get to start your new job without damaging your reputation. You'll be earnig minimum wage for another month (since you'll be giving the eztra money to your friend), but I think one more month on a budget isn't going to kill you if you've made it work until now.", "Just quit. Most min. wage jobs are entry jobs and they usually don't expect you to keep them (i.e. fast food, retail, etc). So unless your looking to hang-on to this job for a back-up, just quit.", "If he respected you it would not be a minimum wage job. So you have \"minimum obligation\" to respect him. Go, take the new job. A couple weeks of no employment on your resume means squat: just don't add that job to your resume. Also, I wasted a lifetime worrying about \"how it would look\" while those around me lied to their bosses and on their resumes and nobody ever did any research, they flourished because those that hired them were also without integrity. ", "Bosses generally understand this kind of thing, especially if you're going part time to full time. You're not hurting his feelings by taking a better job; he might be disappointed to lose a good worker, but he would do the same thing." ]

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[ "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?", "How to stop caring what others think of you? I easily get caught up in others peoples opinions of me, no matter how relevant they are in my life. It also discourages me from learning how to do certain things, or getting good at something, because I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it, although I might be getting this confused with lack of motivation. How can I stop thinking this way and do what I want, without caring what others think of it, or flat out caring if they know about it?" ]

[ "Come up with a 'hero' figure- the person that you wish you could be- this person could even be someone you make up. Rather than thinking about what other people would think (easy, right?) try to ask yourself what this real or imagined hero of yours would think. Try to model yourself after this person, and no matter what other people think of you, at least you will respect yourself.", "\"Old chef of mine used to tell me, 'Whenever everything around you goes to shit, you gotta just remember to stay happy up here and don't be such a lil bitch.'\"\n\n-my coworker named Scott whenever we were in the weeds in the middle of a rush at the bar.\n\nIt's hard, but don't even think about what others are doing or thinking, they don't impact you in any way. Just keep your head down, stay humble, and just keep on keepin on.", "Essentially, I assume, you're worried about others' NEGATIVE opinions about you. You have a fear that they all secretly hate you or think you're strange. You can let your paranoia get to you OR realize that you wouldn't worry so much about what others thought about you if you knew how seldom they did. Not in a dismissive way, but in a \"they're worried more about what *you* think of *them*\" kinda way. \n\n\nI read this book once where the character was at a fancy dinner party. We're talking Old-Rockefeller-NPR-Money. She thought everyone there had a negative opinion of her (because she wasn't from money). She thought nobody liked her, everyone hates her. But as she went through the party she realized everyone there was doing the same nervous things as she was (adjusting their clothes, checking their profile in every mirror or wineglass, fidgeting, etc). \nShe (and I) realized that while you're worried what everyone thinks about *you*, everyone is actually focused *on themselves*, just like you are. And they're self-conscious of what your opinions are of them. ", "You can't. You better care what your boss thinks about you, your co-workers, in-laws... You can't get over it, and sometimes there are real consequences to what people think of you - so you better care. \n\nYou need to develop a stronger self-image and one way to do that is to write down your thoughts on various subject important to you - helps you get in touch with who you are. Then start writing down things you don't like about yourself - and things others have said about you that they don't like.\n\nNow, write down a list of the OPPOSITE of each of those things. People say you don't go out enough? Write down \"I need to go out more\". People say you're an ass? Write down \"I need to think more before speaking and acting\". This will help you get a grip of what changes you need to make - and what things people say that are silly and meaningless and you can feel great laughing those things off.\n\nYou will no doubt find some things that are quirks of you - some things that are actually your good points that they just don't like - and a few things you can work on changing. \n\nThen write down every good thing about yourself, and good things others have said and remember them.\n\nAnother tip: Find someone like a boss who doesn't hate you or a co-worker who doesn't crap on you. Tell them you're working on self-improvement options and you would like to know what THEY think your strong and weak points are. They will probably be more objective than people who always wanna tell you who you are.", "I think we should clarify. Caring about what other people think of you is actually a good thing. It effects what opportunities will come your way and your success in life to a large extent. Letting it effect you more than what you think of yourself is when it becomes bad. \n\nI know myself best. I reflect on my experiences, my successes and failures, etc. No one knows my thoughts but me. I decide who I am and how I act to the best of my ability. Because of this I have a self-esteem that shouldn't be effected by others.\n\nHowever, when I read what you say it seems that the problem is the people you're around. You say you lack motivation to do things because \"what's the point if no one cares?\". Whoever the people are around you that make you feel this way, you must overcome them. You can either live a life of quiet desperation or you can say \"Fuck that. Fuck them. This is who I am and how I feel, and this is what I will to do\". They will either support you, be indifferent, or be unsupportive. Either way, you simply must make your stand that you will to do and are free to do what seems right for you. I do things like make music, sing/rap, dance, workout. For the most part, very few people care, but I do them because they are things I like doing and they are their own reward.\n\nCan you give us more detail? This sounds like a vague cover for something more detailed.", "don't have much of a tip other than practice and time. just keep thinking that you don't give a fuck, it gets tiresome and it's hard. but over time you brain will start slowly adjusting", "You have to realize that most people don't really notice/remember/care about most of the things that are giving you anxiety. \nI use to care a lot about what people thought of me. I don't anymore and I'm so much happier now. I do what I want to do-eat what I want to eat, dress how I want to dress, spend my time how I want to. I live the life I want to live now, I do everything based on what feels right to me, irregardless of what other people think or say (as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else) and my life is so much better this way. I can't emphasize enough to everyone I meet how important it is to just do what you want to do and to live the life you want to live!\nThere was a book written by a hospice nurse that was about people's most common regrets on their deathbeds. One of the most common regrets people had was that they didn't live the life they wanted to because they cared too much about what people thought.\n\nBeing true to myself and to others is something I highly value which is probably the biggest factor that prevents me from caring too much about what other people think of me.", "This is what I have learned. ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what other people think about you. We must have tough skin to survive this cruel world. People are going to talk shit about everything we do. Damned if you don't, damned if you do. Just love yourself and let the world roll. 🙏", "One thing that helped not to get caught up with other people's opinions was getting rid of most of my social media, I only use reddit. Or don't get rid of it, take a break though like an actual break and focus on stuff you like to do. Go out in public and look around and you will see that no one is paying attention to you. Every one is focused on themselves and what they are doing so don't be worried about what they think, their attention is not on you unless you bring it upon you. Someone recommended an article, \"The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck\". I too recommend this article, it's good.", "One thing that helped not to get caught up with other people's opinions was getting rid of most of my social media, I only use reddit. Or don't get rid of it, take a break though like an actual break and focus on stuff you like to do. Go out in public and look around and you will see that no one is paying attention to you. Every one is focused on themselves and what they are doing so don't be worried about what they think, their attention is not on you unless you bring it upon you. Someone recommended an article, \"The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck\". I too recommend this article, it's good.", "It takes practice. You need to come to a realization about who you are and what is really important to you. Once you truly start to understand yourself, you will give less fucks about what others think, and more fucks about what you think of yourself.\n\nCheck out Mark Manson, he has a blog; there is a post called 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck' ", "I found that if I don't care about myself, then I stop caring about others opinions. Might seem a bit depressing or something, but it seems to help.", "I assure you nobody will answer this better than Leo!!! Go to YouTube and type in how to stop caring about what others think of you and he should be the first video that pops up. His channel and website is call actualized.org", "Get older and wiser. That's the easiest way. Eventually, you'll form a good idea how others see you, for better or worse, so you won't have to worry anymore. You'll know. You'll be able to deal with others from solid ground, and you won't stress about it anymore. Just give it time, brother.", "> ...I feel like there's no point in it if others don't know about it...\n\nIf the things you've tried don't register for people, either your accomplishments fail to impress ...or they don't care at all. You either make healthier choices to get out of co-dependent relationship(s), or you accept your life for what it is." ]

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[ "How to make job applications suck less. Every time I have to add in my job experience, location, start and end date, and other information that is clearly stated on my resume that is attached. Do I really need this stuff? If so, how can I make it so that it enters automatically? I hate typing it out every time.", "How to make job applications suck less. Every time I have to add in my job experience, location, start and end date, and other information that is clearly stated on my resume that is attached. Do I really need this stuff? If so, how can I make it so that it enters automatically? I hate typing it out every time." ]

[ "I think a good start would be to open a job application and write down all of the answers they ask for in a word document (except social security number and any really personal information). Then every time they ask for your start and end date, skills, requirements of past jobs addresses etc. You can just copy and paste. Separate the skills addresses and phone numbers by job so that they are organized.", "Make a good strong generic one you can use for any job, but if you try for a job you really want, " ]

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[ "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub.", "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub.", "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub.", "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub.", "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub.", "When interacting with a person with lazy eyes, how do you maintain eye contact? I am afraid I will look at the \"wrong\" eye and seem like an ass. Is there a proper way to hold eye contact when your conversational partner has a lazy eye? Sorry if my question is too stupid for this sub." ]

[ "I try to make a habit of looking at the bridge of the persons nose, I feel like it's better than them seeing my gaze switch from eye to eye. ", "Person with lazy eye here. I really don't care which eye you look at, and if you follow the drifting one it doesn't bother me. However if you want a good guideline– if one eye drifts, look at the other one. I do prefer you meet my good eye over my nose. ", "I had trouble with this once. At first I didn't realize he had a lazy eye so I thought he was addressing someone over my shoulder - I turned around a couple of times to see who/what he was looking at and then realized it was me. So embarrassing.", "Continually strafe side to side to position yourself in the path of the eye that most recently moved.", "I've had eye problems all my life. I don't have a lazy eye, but I once had a friend who did. I was really uncomfortable trying to maintain eye contact, and given my own eye difficulties, I felt bad for feeling ... sort of seasick ... trying to talk to her. \n\nFinally I just asked. \"Which eye is your good one? Which eye are you looking at me with?!\" She chuckled and replied, \"I thought you'd never ask. It's this one.\" She pointed to her good eye, and we compared notes on our eye problems. After that it was much easier to maintain eye contact. :-) I say, just ask. ", "I always look between the eyes. I had a friend with a severe lazy eye and he said he preferred that. I can't stand direct eye contact for long so I do this with all people." ]

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[ "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n", "How to stop holding tension in your body? I hold tension so badly that it physically hurts me all over. I do it so much I hold my breath and sometimes make squeaking noises because I'm not releasing my breath - it's being forced out. Is there a way to get out of that habit?\n\n" ]

[ "I highly suggest m", "1. Find a good doctor and get checked for any medical cause.\n2. If you suffer from anxiety too then get your homocysteine blood levels checked, anything above 9 and try to get tested for MTHFR. If you can't afford it then try taking methylcobalamin and methylfolate.\n3. Try some supplements such as magnesium, a little calcium, vitamin K2 and vitamin D3.\n4. Read the \"Power of Now\" by Eckhart Tolle, fighting the bodily tension will make it worse. Though there's other material that is in the same vein, I find Tolle most accessible. You want to learn not to resist the tension and to watch it unbiasedly. You may find it starts to alleviate when you allow it to just be there. \n5. Epsom salt baths and yoga. Will help you relax big time.", "Stretching, yoga and the like may be able to help with the physical tension, although as other comments have said focusing on the root cause and trying to hit that with therapy or medication is probably smart. For me, I feel like I am often the most relaxed right after exercise, even if it's light, like yoga or bicycling. If you wear out your body maybe it will give that tense energy somewhere to go and it could help clear your mind too. Exercise has shown great benefits for mental health in things like anxiety and depression with no drugs required!", "Hit the gym. Do squats. You will have no energy left to hold in your body.\nI was a Foreman on a job and I hated the crew of ten men. We were working ten hour days on second shift. They complained about everything. I was a glorified babysitter trying to get men to do their job which they were well paid to do. I would be so frustrated after work, that I couldn't sleep. My face hurt from grinding my teeth. I decided to go to the gym. I knew squats would exhaust me. In four months time I nearly doubled my squat weight from 225 lbs, to 405lbs. A power lifter asked where I got my rage from. I told him I hated my job. I hated the people I worked with and worked for. I wanted to kill them all every day, bring them back from the dead so I could kill them again. \nThe more muscle I had the easier it was to deal with the dumb shit on the job. I slept better. I was better prepared for the job every day. \nI didn't do squats everyday. It was twice a week I did a leg workout. The point is to beat yourself up at the gym.\n\"That which does not kill you only makes you stronger.\"- somebody. \nWhat is best in life? \"To crush the enemy, see him driven before you and to hear the lamentations of their women.\" - Conan the barbarian\n", "I didn't see this in the top comments, but I did see PMR.\n\nI do the opposite: lying down, start from my toes, I **tighten** and relax each muscle, real slowly. The tighten hekps alot, espcially if i hold it a second. Its like a mini-reboot for that muscle. Rarely do I ever make it near my hips/arms, never made it to the top, without falling asleep and getting some great rest...\n\nHopefully this helps someone :)", "Try some yoga. In a good yoga class you will learn to consciously control and relax muscles all over your body. M", "People have suggested the top 3 things already that I would recommend: mindfulness, m", "Hey mate,\nRelax your hands and shake them violently as hard as you can. Gets rid of adrenaline. Cheers. ", "The tension will move to your thoughts and clog your mind until you are almost dissociated from your body if you look for a solution this way. \n\nI went through very similar problems but I wasn't aware of how we as humans carry our tension physically, so I wrote it off as anxiety and it became that. For over a decade. I still deal with it, but now that I've gotten back in shape in began carrying tension in my core evenly (which is now strong enough to do this), I feel far more confident and my thoughts are far easier to control. \n\nM", "Lay down and stop breathing. \n\n* So, lay on your back, close your eyes, and stop focusing on your breathing. \n\n* You'll notice what I mean because if you stop focusing on it, you'll realize you actually were somewhat forcing yourself to breathe before that, since you'll eventually stop. \n\n* Just lay perfectly still. But don't hold your breath, since after a few seconds your body should tense (it has this weird fascination with breathing and will kinda trip out for a second). Eventually your body will start to take slow, deep breaths, without you making it do that at all. \n\n* You're now in a very low energy state, and your muscles will relax a lot. \n\nI do this, coupled with a lot of other stuff, to keep my stress down, but this one is a hail mary I use when I feel particularly stressed out. I recommend this at bed time as well, since you can just stay in that state forever until you fall asleep. The next day you should feel a lot better (it's been that fast for me plenty)\n\nGood luck!", "Find an exercise modality you can tolerate. Exercise to a point of physical and mental exhaustion. When your legs are shaking and you're lightheaded and a little nauseous, that's good right there. Repeat 4-7 times a week for the rest of your life. Your nervous system will get the message to chill out. \nM", "Exercise/M", "Breath deep and imagine you are inflating the area of tension. Doing this for a full 120 seconds minimum will coax the muscles around the area to stop locking in place to support the useless tense area. You have a psychology problem of outsourcing mental tension into the body. Then the physiologic response compounds the issue. But you can work on the physiologic side and affect change in the psychology. (yoga that makes breath THE core feature is excellent). \n Direct manipulation (massage) will encourage blood flow which allows the physiologic tension byproducts to be flushed out. Often as not, the source of the body holding has long gone away, and only the physiologic results remain and just need to be released. \n I was a massage therapist for ten years, and helped clients with this every day. ", "Alexander Technique. It's about learning how to move (or be still) without extra tension.\n\nLessons can be expensive, but there are plenty of good books out there. Missy Vineyard's *How You Move...* and *How to Learn the Alexander Technique* by Barbara Conable are both good. *Freedom to Change* by Jones is well regarded, but I haven't read it yet. There are YouTube videos and some websites too.", "yoga, pranayam and m", "You might also want to consider therapy ball self-massage. The massage will help the muscles to relax. The more often you do this, the more often the muscles will be reminded to relax and it will eventually stick! I have a bunch of youtube videos that show exactly how to massage your muscles for relaxation: https://www.youtube.com/c/aewellness", "You can lie down in a comfortable spot, preferably where there are little distractions or noises. Breathe slowly and deeply to start. Close your eyes and relax. Then take a deep breath in and then tense all of your muscles at once. Then relax your muscles and exhale at the same time. You can even let out a moan or a sighing sound to help.", "Trigger point work may ease any lingering physical discomfort after you've implemented some of these relaxation techniques. Google it! It's something you can do yourself, on your own schedule, at very little cost.", "There are several arteries whose minor modification will rapidly remove all tension from the body, absent temporary rigidity.", "Rolfing helped me immensely after trying massage, yoga, physical therapy, and muscle relaxers with no lasting relief. I did the 10 session series 2 years ago and still feel 'fixed'! Do you feel it takes effort just to 'be' and sit in one place, and that your muscles can never truly relax and release tension? That's exactly how I felt before rolfing. Here, I'll let a real rolfer say it more clearly: \n\nhttp://www.seattlerolfingtherapy.com/rolfing/what-is-rolfing-therapy/\n\"Because fascia acts as a packaging it is not unlike a big wet suit that you wear all the time. This “wet suit” may, after injury or overuse, become ill fitting. Now imagine having to walk, drive your car, sit and stand in this misaligned wetsuit. Muscles must overcome the constraints of the fascia. This makes the body more tired, confuses the nervous system, and actually leads to other postural compensations thus causing even more problems further on. Rolfing changes this packaging and when the packaging changes, muscles function better so they don’t become tight and tired.\"", "Progressive muscle relaxation. It is a technique for focused tensing and relaxing muscle groups throughout your body. Start doing it every night as you are falling asleep to increase the association with that calm, heavy, noodly feeling of going to bed.", "Often times when we are stressed or tense we unconsciously tighten our rectums, and you will find that if you consciously loosen up down there, you will feel a lot better, you will think a lot better and much of the tension you've been holding will disappear.\n\nAdditionally, you can literally let the tension go. All it takes is for you to drop something unimportant, like a pencil, and take note of how it feels to just let it go and move on. If you recall this feeling while thinking about your tension and tell yourself that you are letting it go, you will in fact let it go. It may take some repetition, but it will definitely make you feel better.", "I've honestly been close to the state of tension you are describing, and starting massage therapy has helped me a lot. Try going on /r/massage and talking with them about some ideas and treatment options.", "I'm really surprised that I don't see anyone else mentioning the Alexander Technique on here. If your issue is physical tension and damaging holding patterns, this will address it directly. Find a teacher with whom you can study privately. It doesn't require a class or special time to study; you do it all the time with awareness. :) Google it, I hope it helps!", "I went to counseling for a year or two...he had me complete a breathing and mind exercise to help me relax. Lay comfortably, start breathing counts of 4 breathe in count to 4 breathe out count to 4, once you have a rythm starting with your toes, in your mind, say the word toes as you breathe in/out, after you do that a few times move up naming your body parts (calf, knee, thigh, etc.) till you feel relaxed.", "I bought a [\"Ma Roller\"](http://www.themaroller.com/howtouse.html) in 1981 and have been using it ever since. Best $22 I ever spent. (even with inflation they're only $50 now... currently on sale for $38.) \n\nI can't explain how it works, but it really does. As you slowly roll down your back, you can feel tension releasing from each part of your body. Up at the top of your shoulders, your neck and arms seem to come more alive. As you reach the upper middle of your back, you can feel that hard \"lump\" of stress/tension in your chest dissolve away. Further down, your abs and intestines relax and feel better. (I park a lot of my stress in my lower belly.) And then as you reach your tailbone, your legs feel the relaxation. \n\nThe more tightly bound up you are, it can be difficult - even a little bit painful - but that is necessary to break through the tension, and you feel so good afterwards, it's all worth it.\n\n\n\n", "Exercise like a brisk walk or a run with music. If you're idle listen to calming music, classical works for me. I usually listen to classical while driving in traffic because I get easily annoyed and distracted and helps me calm down.", "Exercise and stretching afterwards. As soon as you realise you're tense, take deep breaths and with every exhalation, relax different muscles.\n\nDon't be dense ", "As a start, simple breath control will do it. Forget all \"techniques\" and \"m", "\nImagine there is (or that part of your body is) a hurt animal or a little child that needs your love. Like this, it might be easier for you to understand how to approach it with/in/as Love. Gentle touch, loving relating.\n\n\nYou can even speak to it, as if you were speaking with someone important to you, that you neglected for a long time (because that's literally the case). You don't have to pretend anything, it's very natural for us to relate intimately, when we allow ourselves to.\n\n\nMight feel strange at first, awkward, all these feelings, But nothing has to be denied, nothing forced. \n\nRelax all is well", "Therapy, yoga, or just finding an activity that lets you escape and tune the rest of the world out are all good things, and you'd do well to seek them out." ]

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[ "How to streamline email. I currently have 2 gmail accounts and a yahoo account. I would like to use only one of the gmail accounts. How do I clean up the old ones: continue getting important emails, change contacts over, move my google account info, etc. As well as how to keep inbox clean.", "How to streamline email. I currently have 2 gmail accounts and a yahoo account. I would like to use only one of the gmail accounts. How do I clean up the old ones: continue getting important emails, change contacts over, move my google account info, etc. As well as how to keep inbox clean." ]

[ "Well pick the account you want. Go in to your other email accounts(log in) and put a fowarder on those accounts and point them at the account you want to be your main. Yahoo and Gmail both offer email forwarding for free, and this way you won't miss any emails addressed to your old (accounts) while be able to access messages in one inbox.", "This might sound really weird to do, but your best bet is Outlook app & desktop. I use it all the time and is so easy to switch between my 3 emails, check calenders that have been imported from my gmail and contacts from my hotmail. Microsoft's thing is complimenting all the devices / companies that you use, and I love what they have done with Outlook!" ]

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[ "Useful shortcuts and tips for Excel I'm currently processing large amounts of data and would like to find easier ways to highlight a whole selection of data without having to click, hold and drag to the bottom.", "Useful shortcuts and tips for Excel I'm currently processing large amounts of data and would like to find easier ways to highlight a whole selection of data without having to click, hold and drag to the bottom.", "Useful shortcuts and tips for Excel I'm currently processing large amounts of data and would like to find easier ways to highlight a whole selection of data without having to click, hold and drag to the bottom.", "Useful shortcuts and tips for Excel I'm currently processing large amounts of data and would like to find easier ways to highlight a whole selection of data without having to click, hold and drag to the bottom." ]

[ "Highlight the first cell then hit Ctrl + shift then hit the down arrow (or other arrow keys). This will highlight to the next blank cell.", "Use shift. Its basically entirely cross-platform. You select the first item, then hold shift and click the last one.", "There are a lot of useful tutorials on Youtube; I used them a LOT when studying for a Microsoft Office-themed test.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/user/MotionTraining", "Search for selection shortcuts, like [here](http://office.microsoft.com/en-ca/excel-help/the-best-keyboard-shortcuts-for-selecting-data-HA001054808.aspx)." ]

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[ "Preparing for a life insurance medical exam I'm two weeks away from a life insurance medical exam (essentially a very thorough physical). While you can't drastically change your health in such a short time, are there any short term changes that can have a big influence on the results?", "Preparing for a life insurance medical exam I'm two weeks away from a life insurance medical exam (essentially a very thorough physical). While you can't drastically change your health in such a short time, are there any short term changes that can have a big influence on the results?", "Preparing for a life insurance medical exam I'm two weeks away from a life insurance medical exam (essentially a very thorough physical). While you can't drastically change your health in such a short time, are there any short term changes that can have a big influence on the results?", "Preparing for a life insurance medical exam I'm two weeks away from a life insurance medical exam (essentially a very thorough physical). While you can't drastically change your health in such a short time, are there any short term changes that can have a big influence on the results?", "Preparing for a life insurance medical exam I'm two weeks away from a life insurance medical exam (essentially a very thorough physical). While you can't drastically change your health in such a short time, are there any short term changes that can have a big influence on the results?" ]

[ "Canadian insurance advisor here. While you might not be able to address any major medical issues that would get you a sub-standard rating (e.g., obesity, diabetes), assuming you are in good health now you can try to shoot for getting a \"preferred\" rating for above-average health. Work on things that will reduce your stress levels and blood pressure (sleep, m", "Former life insurance provider here, and I had to go through one of these last year. The insurance company can have a lot of different factors that affect your rate, but most of it boils down to your weight, tobacco use, heart health, and medical history. If we assume that you have a clean bill of health (no cancer, heart disease, diabetes, etc) then I would do the following:\n\n* Exercise every day until the physical, focus on at least 30 min of moderate cardio/session\n* If you use tobacco, abstain from using it as much as possible. Try slowly taper off your use so you can be tobacco free for about 3 days before the physical. Tobacco use constricts your blood vessels and can increase your blood pressure, but the withdrawal could also do the same. If it's an issue try wearing a patch for those last 3 days. You can always say that you've recently quit, which helps big time. \n* Don't eat a huge meal or drink a ton of water 12-18 hours before the exam, as this will keep your weight up. If the exam is in the morning, I'd recommend a light dinner and 2 glasses of water, and a glass of gatorade in the morning. \n* Also, wear light clothing to the exam, maybe a t-shirt and gym shorts, and take your shoes off when you're weighed. A few pounds could mean the difference between weight brackets and rates. \n* If needles or doctors freak you out, make sure to make this explicitly clear to the doctor. This could affect your blood pressure dramatically, which increases your rate (this happened to me). My doctor had me take my blood pressure at a pharmacy the day before and take a picture of the results to compare, and they take this into consideration.\n* Type up a list of your medications, strength, reason for taking, and dosing schedule in case asked about it. Sometimes you might take a medication for a reason other than why it's typically prescribed, but if they don't know this it could effect eligibility. \n* Be honest, but brief. The underwriting process is thorough, and they'll do their homework. But being too forthcoming with some info in certain cases could result in an automatic rate change or disqualification. With things like this, it's better to let the application get deeper into the underwriting process where a decision maker can follow up with you than it is to have your application denied up-front. You can always claim that you forgot (it's not fraud, really, and I've seen it 100 times). Example - you had a pre-cancerous mole removed at a young age. It was never biopsied or diagnosed as cancer, but the doctor figured better to be safe than sorry and just opted to remove it. If you were asked if you were ever treated or diagnosed with cancer and you mentioned this, it might disqualify you for coverage right away and your application wouldn't move forward in the system. However, if you forget to tell them this when asked and they ask you about it later, you can always explain that you forgot because it was so long ago, and that it never was diagnosed as cancer - just the excision of a questionable growth. This would end up being a judgement call and would likely end in your favor. \n\nGood luck! \n", "Related question: When they test for smoking tobacco, I have been told that they can tell if you have smoked within the past year.\n\nIs this true? Anything I've found online is similar to marijuana, where any traces would be out of your system typically within a few weeks. ", "Broker here. I've been running my agency for 12 years now and the single most important and easy tip is to schedule your exam early. When it's early in the day you haven't had time to stress out, get pissed off etc. your vital signs are best early on. Usually the medical examiners meet you at your house to draw blood and get stats. Make your appointment for right when you'd normally be getting up.", "From personal experience, the blood draw and peeing in a cup thing caused me great anxiety, so I always did those things *before* they did the blood pressure... the nurses were always very accommodating about that. Also, don't talk during the blood pressure measurement." ]

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[ "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? ", "How to avoid overly sweaty pits throughout the day. No matter how much deodorant I put on in the AM, my armpits are always sweaty after a few hours and whenever I add more deodorant it just makes it seem worse. Any tips? " ]

[ "Certain Dri is the only thing that has ever worked for me. Apply every night and you'll see a huge difference in a few days. \n\nhttp://mobile.walmart.com/ip/Certain-Dri-Roll-On-Anti-Perspirant-1.2-fl-oz/10317293\n", "There is deodorant and then there is antiperspirant. For a while I was only buying deodorant and after I switched to the deodorant and antiperspirant I've noticed a huge difference. Hope this helps. ", "never tried it myself so I can't really say much about it, but a product was released a few years ago that a bunch of people absolutely swore by. It has some ridiculous name, like Sweaty Balls or something (it's an antiperspirant/dessicant for a number of bodily areas including groin / feet / pits / etc). I remember Jeff Goldblum being on some night show doing promo for it (allegedly voluntarily, i.e. not as a paid spokesperson). Anyways I'm sure you could google it up based on this info. might help?", "If OTC antiperspirant doesn't work, you can get a prescription for DrySol. If that doesn't work and/or you want to spent a lot of money on a permanent solution, there's a surgical procedure called MiraDry that permanently destroys the sweat glands in your armpits.", "Use Driclor or another brand that contains Aluminium Chloride. Make sure you pits are dry otherwise it will burn like feck. It will leave your pits dry but you will sweat a bit more all over.", "Im a hairy individual. Shave your pits and use anti antiperspirant. I work outside and in the summer when its 40*C the sweat sticks in the hair, shaving it is the easiest way.", "For minor problems apply baby powder (just against the effect).\n\nIf you want to fight the cause, go to a pharmacy and let them mix aluminium salt paste (which is actually the main component of anti sweat deoderants) and apply it over night (itches like hell, but helps).\n\n", "Do you shave your armpits? If so, stop. (Yikes!) The hair serves a purpose. \n\nI sweat for fun and big wet spots were common for me. I stopped shaving as often (usually about 1/4-1/2 inch long now) and it's been great. The hair acts as a diffuser, drawing the sweat away and let's it evaporate. With out the hair, your clothes sit right on your skin soaking up all the mositure.\n\n..if you don't hsave, then sorry, can't help.", "Dont drink coffee. It makes you sweat. A lot. It happens to me, but i like coffee more than my coworkers.", "A good and healthy option could be not to drink a lot of water, only small sips, half an hour - or during the time -when you don't want to sweat, and drink plenty of water to make it up when you know that you won't be moving much or you don't care if you sweat. No water, no sweat." ]

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[ "how to quickly search for and open files in Windows 10 **Update**: It appears to be an indexing problem after all. Another machine I have with Windows 10 didn't have the problem, and files on my main PC files on my desktop do show up in 'best match' right away. I'm currently rebuilding my search index, hoping that it'll fix the issue. It's annoying, because I explicitly added the folders I wanted indexed to the settings after installing Windows 10, and it supposedly fully finished indexing it. Let's hope it'll work on the second time around...\n\n---\n\nThis has been bugging me to no end since upgrading several of my systems to Windows 10. In Windows 8, if you wanted to open a specific file, all you needed to do was:\n\n* Windows key + F\n* Type (first part of) name of file\n* Press enter\n\nAnd voila, the file would open up! The whole process takes about 3 seconds. \n\nNow in Windows 10, even though I've made sure that the search index has been properly updated (that's not the problem), searching for and opening a file involves:\n\n* Windows key + S (or just Windows key)\n* Type (first part of) name of file (however: you don't immediately see the search results, so you don't know if you've typed enough of the name already! [See this screenshot for illustration](http://imgur.com/oRtEZNd).)\n* Press enter --> the system now searches which (even with my SSD) takes about three seconds.\n* I now see a list of the files and if I'm lucky the file I need is at the top. However, in order to open that file I have to press Tab five times before I press enter (or use the mouse, juck!) to open the file.\n\nThis frustrates me, and Google search doesn't give me useful results. I know I could also search for files using explorer, but that's by no means quicker as it'll search your whole PC - not just the folders you've indexed for quick search access.\n\nHow to fix this so that I can once again feel like my files are at my fingertips? Help me Reddit, you're my only hope!", "how to quickly search for and open files in Windows 10 **Update**: It appears to be an indexing problem after all. Another machine I have with Windows 10 didn't have the problem, and files on my main PC files on my desktop do show up in 'best match' right away. I'm currently rebuilding my search index, hoping that it'll fix the issue. It's annoying, because I explicitly added the folders I wanted indexed to the settings after installing Windows 10, and it supposedly fully finished indexing it. Let's hope it'll work on the second time around...\n\n---\n\nThis has been bugging me to no end since upgrading several of my systems to Windows 10. In Windows 8, if you wanted to open a specific file, all you needed to do was:\n\n* Windows key + F\n* Type (first part of) name of file\n* Press enter\n\nAnd voila, the file would open up! The whole process takes about 3 seconds. \n\nNow in Windows 10, even though I've made sure that the search index has been properly updated (that's not the problem), searching for and opening a file involves:\n\n* Windows key + S (or just Windows key)\n* Type (first part of) name of file (however: you don't immediately see the search results, so you don't know if you've typed enough of the name already! [See this screenshot for illustration](http://imgur.com/oRtEZNd).)\n* Press enter --> the system now searches which (even with my SSD) takes about three seconds.\n* I now see a list of the files and if I'm lucky the file I need is at the top. However, in order to open that file I have to press Tab five times before I press enter (or use the mouse, juck!) to open the file.\n\nThis frustrates me, and Google search doesn't give me useful results. I know I could also search for files using explorer, but that's by no means quicker as it'll search your whole PC - not just the folders you've indexed for quick search access.\n\nHow to fix this so that I can once again feel like my files are at my fingertips? Help me Reddit, you're my only hope!" ]

[ "In Windows 8 WIN+F and enter 90% of the time brings up a totally invalid result, because you need to manually specify where it should look (under programs, settings or files), as it seems to look at an incorrect place by default, and it would find a mobile app first, so you'd need to manually select a windows program for it to not suck. \n\nI don't have an answer to your original question, unfortunately. Just ranting. ", "[Works for me.](http://i.imgur.com/aBDnyin.png) Windows 10 Pro, not activated. I had to turn off the \"Search online and include web results\", otherwise the first one was always a Bing search..." ]

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[ "When you pick a room of an apartment, what can you do to decrease the odds you get a room next to noise/noisy people? ", "When you pick a room of an apartment, what can you do to decrease the odds you get a room next to noise/noisy people? ", "When you pick a room of an apartment, what can you do to decrease the odds you get a room next to noise/noisy people? ", "When you pick a room of an apartment, what can you do to decrease the odds you get a room next to noise/noisy people? ", "When you pick a room of an apartment, what can you do to decrease the odds you get a room next to noise/noisy people? " ]

[ "I type this as I listen to 3 dogs barking loudly outside my studio window. It's like a curse, no matter where I live there's always dogs barking 12hrs non stop every day", "I ended up buying sound absorbing foam tiles and covering the wall the noise was coming from. It helps ALOT! They work best if they are put on the walls inside the room, where the noise is coming from..but if that's not possible, just apply them to the wall where the noise is coming from in your room. You can buy them on eBay/Amazon or possibly in your local area.", "In a dorm or college apartment, the highest floor is always the quietest I've noticed. No one above you to be loud, and less people get the high floors. Plus, the stairs are a nice exercise bonus if it's only 4 floors high or something. No experience outside of college though, sorry.", "If you have ground floor rooms with walls facing outdoors, make sure the AC units aren't right outside any of your windows (learned this one the hard way with my current apartment).", "Stay away from elevators, garbage chutes, shared laundries etc. basements in a house can be quiet. They might have a furnace but that is low frequency and you'll block that out. \nMuch harder to figure out asshole neighbors. If you have time, try to visit the building a couple of times at different hours. Older people are generally quieter than younger ones. Look at the cars in the street. If there's a lot of riced or slammed cars you could be in a party zone. If it's camrys and minivans then they're either old, or younger families. The kids will occasionally make noise but the parents will shut them up at some point so they can sleep too." ]

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[ "How to be more participative in classes? Hello! I had a teacher that liked to see people participate more during classes and discussion, but we didn't always have something to say.\n\nIn the end almost everyone lost points because of this, so now I'm wondering what I could do to talk more without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nI know that this is a good way to learn, so finding a good way to do it would help much more than just getting a higher grade.", "How to be more participative in classes? Hello! I had a teacher that liked to see people participate more during classes and discussion, but we didn't always have something to say.\n\nIn the end almost everyone lost points because of this, so now I'm wondering what I could do to talk more without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nI know that this is a good way to learn, so finding a good way to do it would help much more than just getting a higher grade.", "How to be more participative in classes? Hello! I had a teacher that liked to see people participate more during classes and discussion, but we didn't always have something to say.\n\nIn the end almost everyone lost points because of this, so now I'm wondering what I could do to talk more without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nI know that this is a good way to learn, so finding a good way to do it would help much more than just getting a higher grade.", "How to be more participative in classes? Hello! I had a teacher that liked to see people participate more during classes and discussion, but we didn't always have something to say.\n\nIn the end almost everyone lost points because of this, so now I'm wondering what I could do to talk more without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nI know that this is a good way to learn, so finding a good way to do it would help much more than just getting a higher grade.", "How to be more participative in classes? Hello! I had a teacher that liked to see people participate more during classes and discussion, but we didn't always have something to say.\n\nIn the end almost everyone lost points because of this, so now I'm wondering what I could do to talk more without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nI know that this is a good way to learn, so finding a good way to do it would help much more than just getting a higher grade." ]

[ "When you’re doing your assigned reading for the next day, mark three passages in the reading that you think are interesting and ask the teacher if you can talk about one of them in class the next day. Alternately write down three questions that occur to you when reading, write them down in your notebook so you don’t forget, and then ask one of them in class the next day.\n\nParticipation just takes a little practice to get comfortable with it. Asking discussion questions is an easy way to get started, and soon enough you’ll feel comfortable just jumping into class conversation.", "If somebody else says something you can always say “I really like what x said about y, I agree with this point a lot and <something something that rehashes what that person said>”", ">without just saying any stupid questions I can think.\n\nHow do you know they are stupid questions? You should ask them. They will get you participation points and you never know, they may start a good discussion.", "If you are the last one to speak, you will be remembered longer. I got an A- for participation in a class I was only active in during the last 2 weeks of the semester.", "Ask the teach what they think you should know, or just comment on something you found confusing or insightful." ]

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[ "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance", "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance", "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance", "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance", "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance", "How to give a good handshake As the title suggests, how would you give a \"good\" handshake? One that's not too firm but not too limp, not domineering but not timid, appropriate for business partners and interviewers who are older/younger/male/female, if that also matters?\n\nHow would I practice one, and how would I gauge the intensity(?) of confidence displayed in giving one?\n\nThanks in advance" ]

[ "1. Make the handshake firm. Don't think that if it's a woman, you should just lightly touch it, as their hand was from some royal velvet or silk.\n\n2. I'd so you should go for about 2-3 shakes, unless (don't know if it is so in your culture) the handshake is accompanied by some speech (in Poland you will often shake hands, when wishing somebody on birthday or other occassions, and the shaking will last as long as the wishes. same goes for saying thank you, if you give a short speech on how grateful you are, sometimes we will hold the hand all the time)\n3. Take a quick glance to make sure you catch the hand and then look in the eyes and smile.", "Maintain eye contact, hold thumb at a 90* angle to your palm, \"lock\" where your thumb connects with where his/her thumb connects, use a light but firm grip, pump once and release. IMHO maintaining eye contact is just as important as the handshake itself", "tense your hand so it not all flippy floppy, when grasp the other persons hand don't squeeze, just firmly but gently with your pretensioned hand shake the other persons hand 2-3 times.\n\nif the person youre shaking hands with is a squeezer having your hand already tense will keep the dick from grinding your hand before you can squeeze back.\n\nif they arent a squeezer having your hand tense but not immediately trying to squeeze shows strength but also consideration. least that's what i think.", "In the US:\n\nReach your right hand out. Maintain eye contact while doing so. Push your hand forward until you are \"web to web.\" Close hand and apply firm pressure (on the stronger side but not too strong. Don't make them wince nor you look like you're overcompensating.) Shake twice while maintaining eye contact and smiling a bit but not to much. That being said, give a friendly vice. Release while maintaining eye contacts and return hand to side. ", "Full pad contact and thumb web to thumb web seal is big. Nothing kills a handshake like giving too little hand and really it would be quite hard to give too much so really \"put her there\" (as in extension, not necessarily force).\n \nKeep a firm hand and maintain that rather than squeezing. A properly firm hand seated deeply (correctly) is 2/3's of what makes a good handshake. The firmness of your hand will also translate to a \"good grip\".\n \nI've never sat there and counted pumps up and down but I guess 3 or 4 is about right. Any shorter is abrupt and odd and any longer can get uncomfortable ( I have an uncle in law that will hang on to your hand for a few seconds after you attempt to let go and it catches me off guard every time. Not sure if power move or not...).\n \nAnd if anything goes wrong and the other person seems cool you can always say something along the lines of \"What the hell was that? Sorry about that, not sure what went wrong there. Let me shake your hand again like a man\". You nail that second shake and not only do they not leave thinking about the original inadequate shake, but chances are you made a good impression by immediately acknowledging the weak shake and remedying it. It shows that you normally shake like a man and that was just a flub that happens to everyone once in awhile.", "Agree with all this, plus: make contact and then apply pressure to match their own. Some people do not give or like firm handshakes, some can be hurt by too firm a shake. " ]

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[ "How do I strike up conversations with coworkers not about work or TV/Film topics? I've started a new job recently and have begun grabbing lunch with coworkers on occasion. I've noticed the conversation is primarily about work or about our favorite tv shows and movies we've all seen. Then the conversation quickly fizzles out and things start to get quite and awkward. What can I say to keep things going that's not boring work related or dumb TV show related? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!", "How do I strike up conversations with coworkers not about work or TV/Film topics? I've started a new job recently and have begun grabbing lunch with coworkers on occasion. I've noticed the conversation is primarily about work or about our favorite tv shows and movies we've all seen. Then the conversation quickly fizzles out and things start to get quite and awkward. What can I say to keep things going that's not boring work related or dumb TV show related? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!", "How do I strike up conversations with coworkers not about work or TV/Film topics? I've started a new job recently and have begun grabbing lunch with coworkers on occasion. I've noticed the conversation is primarily about work or about our favorite tv shows and movies we've all seen. Then the conversation quickly fizzles out and things start to get quite and awkward. What can I say to keep things going that's not boring work related or dumb TV show related? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!", "How do I strike up conversations with coworkers not about work or TV/Film topics? I've started a new job recently and have begun grabbing lunch with coworkers on occasion. I've noticed the conversation is primarily about work or about our favorite tv shows and movies we've all seen. Then the conversation quickly fizzles out and things start to get quite and awkward. What can I say to keep things going that's not boring work related or dumb TV show related? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!", "How do I strike up conversations with coworkers not about work or TV/Film topics? I've started a new job recently and have begun grabbing lunch with coworkers on occasion. I've noticed the conversation is primarily about work or about our favorite tv shows and movies we've all seen. Then the conversation quickly fizzles out and things start to get quite and awkward. What can I say to keep things going that's not boring work related or dumb TV show related? Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "News events, world events, sports, clean/dirty jokes - your call not sure what you can get away with in your work environment, music, up and coming events in town.\n\nProtip: Avoid politics and religion those are two subjects that shouldn't be talked about at work nor at a bar. Can become a bloodbath of debate and anger very quickly. \n", "Maybe talk about funny/out of the ordinary things that happened in your day to day life?\n\nSomething like \"Last week me and my buddy went to this place and did so and so and this happened and we didn't expected it and it was funny as hell\" etc\n\nAnd they might comment and probably share stuff too.", "Ask them about themselves. Then ask further questions about the answers they give you. \n\nExample:\n\n* Are you from here?\n* How long have you lived here?\n* Where did you move from?\n* What brought you out here?\n* What was the hardest thing about moving so far away?\n* What do you think is the biggest difference from where you lived before vs now?\n* If you could bring one thing from your old city to here, what would it be?\n* Do you picture yourself living here for the rest of your life?\n* What do you like best about living here?\n* Tell me how the personality of your old place is different from this one.\n\nIf you've asked all these questions, and the conversation still fizzles, it isn't you, it's them. But, this conversation should be able to take you through an entire lunch.\n\nOnce this topic is completed, move on to how many siblings they have and get detailed on that. After that, you've got hobbies, pets, vacations, career choice, favorite books, best way to relax, etc.", "I've been in this situation. I try to think of topics that are a bit more philosophical or open-ended, or bring up ethical dilemmas and hear their rationale for their choices. It gives everyone a chance to chime in. Situations like:\n\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trolley_problem\n\nRead the \"related problems\" part of the article.\n\nI also like discussing current events or sharing jokes I find on 9gag.com", "Ask questions. Ask about the weekend, ask about their family, vacation, anything. Ask them what they like to do. Everyone has multiple things they like to talk about, just find out what those things are. " ]

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[ "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that.", "Locking a door (that has no lock) from the inside. You know the situation, you are at a party, want some privacy, and turns out the door has no lock, or you just don't have the key.\n\nIs there any simple way I could lock a door, from the inside, so that no one gets in, but it doesn't harm the door in any way (and it's hopefully easy to remove, cause I don't wanna get stucked inside)?\n\nI guess I could use a chair, but most of the time there are no chairs available, or there's little to no space for that." ]

[ "Just spit into a condom and put that in the outside door knob. A sock won't stop most drunk people. Grabbing onto a used condom however, will.", "Take the mattress from the bed you're bout to bang that one night stand on and slide it against the door. ", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-lNFJt10w1E\nAlthough he used a few tools and you could do this with a bit of force", "I used to wedge the little rubber (could be wood) doorstop into the area near the knob. It worked great. Not totally secure, but secure enough to hold the door closed even with some force. It for sure made people realize the door was 'locked' and the room in use.", "I read 'Licking a door (that has no lock)' and was confused on why it would be more difficult to lick doors without locks..", "[This'll do you.](http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=make+a+temporary+door+lock+from+a+fork&qpvt=make+a+temporary+door+lock+from+a+fork&FORM=VDRE)\n\nAnd if you aren't handy, then just try [one of these](http://www.funkyleisure.co.uk/howsar-temporary-door-lock-800-p.asp). I have one and have found lots of random uses for it.", "* Close the door\n* Put a table at the door below the handle\n* Stack up books on the table (below the handle) so the handle cannot be turned\n", "[These things are kinda nifty.](http://www.amazon.com/Master-Lock-265DCCSEN-Dual-Function-Security/dp/B0002YUX8I/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1437356149&sr=8-1&keywords=door+blocker)\n\n" ]

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[ "How to explain to someone they are wrong/mistaken if they are my superior? I work in an industry where there are quite a few policies and procedures that we must adhere too. Unfortunately, because of that there are so many misinterpretations of them. \n\nCommonly, those above me position wise will explain one of those policies and procedures and be mistaken. How can I correct them, without coming across as a smart ass?", "How to explain to someone they are wrong/mistaken if they are my superior? I work in an industry where there are quite a few policies and procedures that we must adhere too. Unfortunately, because of that there are so many misinterpretations of them. \n\nCommonly, those above me position wise will explain one of those policies and procedures and be mistaken. How can I correct them, without coming across as a smart ass?" ]

[ "I would take it in writing and have them \"help\" you understand it better. In doing so, having them read it out loud, might open their eyes as to how they saw it wrong in the first place.", "Sounds like the military. Regardless of if it IS military or not, all you can do is know the rules and regulations like the back of your hand, and respectfully bring it up to them one on one when you have the time. Don't sound condescending or rude. Don't bring it up around people or try to demean their position as a leader. Just politely ask them to speak with you one on one, bring the issue up, maybe offer a way to help out a situation that it has caused, and hope for the best. You can't force them." ]

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[ "How to not get offended while also maintain face. Someone starts messing with you or otherwise being negative towards you. How to not get offended while staying classy and keeping face?", "How to not get offended while also maintain face. Someone starts messing with you or otherwise being negative towards you. How to not get offended while staying classy and keeping face?", "How to not get offended while also maintain face. Someone starts messing with you or otherwise being negative towards you. How to not get offended while staying classy and keeping face?" ]

[ "Some people are able to come up with a humorous response to defuse the situation and get any on-lookers on their side. I'm not one of those people unfortunately, so... I always try to be pleasant yet stoic. What someone else says or thinks is their business and says more about them than me. \n\nIf it gets really intense I might ask if I have done something to offend them. Most bullies don't like to deal with real stuff directly in my experience. I might also ask it they are feeling well or something like that to create the idea that they are \"off\".", "Yes absolutely the best thing to do is to ask them calmly if they are feeling alright. Not only does it make you look really chill and cool it also puts the other person on the spot and they feel embarrassed. Never failed me.", "Caring less about other people always helps. That doesn't mean be rude to them but don't let their words get under your skin.\n\nI guess this is easier said than done but if someone is being rude I'll be curt and finish my dealings with them and move on. There are too many humans everywhere to get caught up over the narcissists.\n\nYou'll struggle with moving on about other people if you have insecurities or internal problems you haven't faced as their comments will bring into a negative mindset and those problems will only propagate what they said." ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to not get blinded by other cars at night when driving? One thing that really bothers me about driving at night is when I'm passing another car on the road going in opposite directions, the headlights seem very blinding for a few moments. Any ideas on how to help this?", "How to not get blinded by other cars at night when driving? One thing that really bothers me about driving at night is when I'm passing another car on the road going in opposite directions, the headlights seem very blinding for a few moments. Any ideas on how to help this?", "How to not get blinded by other cars at night when driving? One thing that really bothers me about driving at night is when I'm passing another car on the road going in opposite directions, the headlights seem very blinding for a few moments. Any ideas on how to help this?", "How to not get blinded by other cars at night when driving? One thing that really bothers me about driving at night is when I'm passing another car on the road going in opposite directions, the headlights seem very blinding for a few moments. Any ideas on how to help this?", "How to not get blinded by other cars at night when driving? One thing that really bothers me about driving at night is when I'm passing another car on the road going in opposite directions, the headlights seem very blinding for a few moments. Any ideas on how to help this?" ]

[ "Keep your eyes focused on the white line on the right side of the road. You'll be able to keep your eyes on the road, while minimizing the lights effect on your night vision. ", "Look to the side or close one eye; don't close your eyes on the highway; only rural roads and one eye", "It can also be helpful to wear polarized glasses(not sunglasses), as these will help cut down on glare from the headlights, especially in poor weather.", "If I get a really bad set of high beams or it seems to go on for a long time I lift my hand up and block just the path of the beam with it.\n\nOther than that focusing on the right side of the road helps.", "I was always taught to look slightly down to the offside of the car, near the curb, almost at the edge of your own headlight beams. " ]

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[ "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? ", "How do I force myself to go to bed earlier ? Hi, i'm stuck in a bad circle of \"not getting enough sleep &gt; Bein tired all day at work &gt; Coming back home and wanting to cram in as many leisure activities and cook my meals before having to go to sleep again to start another boring day\". \n\nI know all the tips to have a good night : No lights in the room, no screen (or with a filter), I read or write before bed, play guitar before that and have no problem falling and staying asleep, and I don't fall back asleep when I wake up to not feel groggy.\n \nIt worked great when I was unemployed, but now that I'm working in a position and in a field that i dislike (the pay is good, at least, and I need the money for a project, which is my only motivation), I just can't go to sleep early enough. \n\nIt's probably immature, but it's really about what I first wrote. Since I started working again, I have much less time to do the stuff that I like, and I feel like i'm literally wasting my hours in front of a screen all day, doing boring tasks, so when I get home, it's like I don't want my day to end, as it means that I'll have to waste another 9 hours in an office. And I still have 2 months of work to get through...\n\nEven if I know that sleep is crucial for my health, that I need a lot of it as I'm sick, and that each night I keep telling myself that I'll go to sleep early, I end up falling asleep much too late, and have to get by with 6 hours in general. \n\nAny ProTips that could help ? " ]

[ "No caffeine after lunch, and exercise to the point of sweating at least 4 times a week, but not within 5 hours of bed.", "Start waking up early and suck it up for the first two weeks. You’ll be tired enough by your new ‘bed time’ to actually have a prayer of getting to sleep. \nAdditionally, switch any nighttime tv watching to reading a good book. And don’t be afraid to quit on a book that doesn’t keep you interested there’s enough good books out there no need to struggle with that aspect of it. ", "You said you work a 9 hour day... that means you get an hour lunch break, right? Could you do some of your leisure activities during that hour? You can scarf down a sandwich and some fruit in 5 minutes or less and then go out to the parking lot and play guitar in your car for 45 minutes. Or if it's video games you're wanting, maybe see about getting an old PSP or Nintendo DS for cheap so you can play during lunch. (OfferUp and Letgo are good places to look if Craigslist fails you). Or work out on your lunch break as others have suggested.\nAlso, start viewing sleep as a leisure activity, and a priority one. You can play guitar in your dreams. Actually, you can nap on your lunch break to get more sleep too.\n", "No caffeine after noon, and watch out for the hidden sources of it. Many things you wouldn’t expect, like desserts and vitamins, have caffeine added. If you have to use your phone or another electronic device, turn the screen down as low as you can. \n\nIf you hate your job this much, you should really start looking for another one. Life is too short to be spending half of it doing something that makes you this unhappy.", "What works for me sometimes is waking up early one day so you lose sleep. Dont nap the whole day. By the end of the day, your body will be exhausted, causing you to sleep early/on\\-time. ", "Try melatonin.its OTC, about an hour before you want to go to sleep in works for me,I slept like god through the Holocaust", "It sounds like maybe part of this is more so getting into the habit of going to bed early. A lot of these suggestions are solid and you already seem to know what not to do. \nI’d give myself a bedtime, let’s say 10. I have until 10 to do all of the things I want. Cook, read, laundry, all of it. After that I’m in bed, even if it’s with my eyes wide open bored as hell. It’s about creating the habit. I think that with a few days where you get up super early and your body clock will start to shift over. ", "If you have an iPhone there’s a “bedtime” scheduler part in the alarm/clock. It tracks your sleep and tells you when to get up and go to bed etc, I really like it! Try it out ", "I used to have a hard time falling asleep. I avoided caffine after 4 oclock and took 10 mg of melatonin at 9 PM. It would knock me out in the next hour and I'd have no choice but to sleep. ", "Do some sort of cardio excercise. I normally do resistance training at the gym but a bit over a month ago I switched to a more cardio focused training to increase the weight loss. The biggest change I noticed is that when I did resistance training I ended up feeling wired and with a lot of energy, now on cardio I end up exhausted and the days I go to the gym I feel sleepy a lot earlier than usual.", "Your job requires the best 10 hours of your life on every weekday. The rest are gonna be sh*tty in comparison. This is one of the things you get paid for. Hope it's worth it." ]

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[ "how to print a poorly done photo copy and not waste all of my black ink I have a 40 page selection to read for class, and my teacher uploaded a poorly done photo copy with a ton of black on half of each page. I like to be able to write and make notes while I read, and don't like reading off a computer screen, so does anyone have any ideas as to how I can print it and not waste all of my black ink? Thanks!\n\nAlso, apologies if this isn't the most accurate sub to post on, I couldn't really think of anywhere better", "how to print a poorly done photo copy and not waste all of my black ink I have a 40 page selection to read for class, and my teacher uploaded a poorly done photo copy with a ton of black on half of each page. I like to be able to write and make notes while I read, and don't like reading off a computer screen, so does anyone have any ideas as to how I can print it and not waste all of my black ink? Thanks!\n\nAlso, apologies if this isn't the most accurate sub to post on, I couldn't really think of anywhere better" ]

[ "I'm guessing you mean black spots between lines and at the edges? Try using Paint to cut out most of the black, just erase it. It might take you some time, but that's the only way I can think of.", "Open up a photo " ]

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[ "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal", "How to stop eating when your full and not gorging until you can't move? I honestly don't do it daily but way more than I should be. Before I go see a shrink because I can't put down the fork maybe you guys have some ideas...\n\n\n*Not morbidly obese by any means but my eating habits are like it's my last meal every meal" ]

[ "Get smaller plates, put less on them. Keep the main dishes out of eyesight so you physically have to get up And serve yourself more. At restraunts I ask for a to go box right away and immediately box up half my food and get it off the table. With snacks at home never eat straight from the bag, put a reasonable amount in a dish and put the bag or box away. The harder you make it to get more food than is right in front of you is more chances to stop yourself and exert some willpower.", "Put the food away after you serve yourself. \nWhen eating dinner, serve yourself and then put the leftovers away right now. \nEating some cookies? Take just a few out of the bag and put the bag back in the cabinet. ", "Eat slower. Maybe set a timer for 20 minutes and try to finish it only after the timer goes off, eating at a steady pace.", "Heres' what was successful for me: Talk to your self...in your head... about how those who eat quickly are missing the pleasure of the meal. How you wish everyone, even yourself, would slow down and enjoy food like it's special (the right food is). Think about how those who shovel food in your mouth without looking up are making a boring habit out of something they should take their time with. Have this dialogue with yourself when you're stuck in traffic, on the bus, whatever...not just when food is on your mind. I used the word \"careful\" a lot (again, in my head to myself). \nOthers here have great advice, and it's about making the value of food more about quality than quantity. ", "The key is to actually stop before you're even full. It's on you.You gotta make mental notes to yourself.", "- Drink a large volume of water (500ml+) 10-15 mins before you start your meal. \n- Use smaller plates. \n- Eat more slowly, take smaller bites (changing cutlery can help here). Using chopsticks can help as well. \n- On the above, put cutlery down after eat mouthful (yes I realise you wrote you can't put down the fork, frame it as a strategy). \n- Serve your meal, then quickly clean up/pack up and put away any leftovers. That way you've got an added inconvenience if you wish to take more. \n- To help with the above, set some arbitrary time (15-25 mins) that you must wait after your last mouthful before you're allowed to take seconds. Chances are by the time it's up you won't want any. \n- If multiple dishes are available, be it at home or at a buffet/banquet, choose the three items you like the most and eat only those. \n- If you find that overall food volume is still too low, change the proportions of your meals so that at least 50% of your plate consists of fibrous vegetables. The lower caloric density means filling up on these is less problematic. \n- One last gambit if all else fails: finish your small plate, wait a minute or two and immediately go and brush your teeth with the mintiest toothpaste you can get your hands on. Doesn't matter how hungry you are, nothing you eat for the next hour is going to taste good anyway so it's effectively self-sabotage. \n\nProbably most important of all (and I probably should have lead with this) - frame your reason for *why* you want to eat less. Controlling impulsiveness can be difficult at the best of times, but if you try to do so without establishing a very good reason then you're stacking the odds against you. \n\nIf the above strategies fail and you find yourself gorging, simply ask yourself the question: \"Do I really need this? Am I actually hungry, or do I just feel like eating?\"\n\nThis can be a useful strategy for reframing your drive to eat in your own mind. If the answer to the first question is no, then you need to justify to yourself why you're continuing to eat.\n\nI think finally it's worth saying don't blame yourself. Our food environment has a great deal more to say about what we eat than many give it cr", "Snack throughout the day so you're not starving at dinner. Pre-plan your meals and if you're still hungry, fill up on veggies. ", "If you're eating out, ask the server to bring you a to go box as soon as you get your meal. Then go ahead and put it in there, bag it up, and hang it on your chair or put it somewhere else out of site. Or you could plan to share an entree with a friend! Share an appetizer and entree. Most of our portions at US restaurants are so big.", "Find something else to do to keep you occupied. Many people get the munchies because they are bored.\n\nAlso, don't buy snacks and junk food. You can't eat what you don't have. If you must have snacks, buy healthy snacks like baby carrots." ]

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[ "What are some more advanced LPT for stopping smoking cigarettes and reducing nicotine dependence altogether? ", "What are some more advanced LPT for stopping smoking cigarettes and reducing nicotine dependence altogether? ", "What are some more advanced LPT for stopping smoking cigarettes and reducing nicotine dependence altogether? ", "What are some more advanced LPT for stopping smoking cigarettes and reducing nicotine dependence altogether? " ]

[ "There are as many different techniques as there are conmen selling them.\n\nJail tends to be a great solution. Not the easiest one to live one.\n\nOtherwise you're going to just have to find the want to. Patches can help, but unless you're a special type of person that most smoker's aren't; it's just a way to get your nicotine when you can't smoke.\n\nIf you're really serious; there are extreme therapy options like psilocybin and LSD treatments that have shown true promise, but good luck finding a therapy solution for those.\n\nSome swear by hypnotism, I've personally tried this as my girlfriend's step mother does it for a living. Zero effect on me. But maybe it works for you.\n\nMostly though it's just coming up with the gumption and desire to quit. If you don't have it, it's going to be difficult.", "Secondhand info (no pun intended) but a friend of mine finally quit by rolling her own and gradually subbing in cbd flower for tobacco.", "I went to e-cigs for a couple years then switched to smokeless. Not nicotine free but I can breathe again. \nCheck out this book, it's free and it helped me a lot \n\nhttps://whyquit.com/ffn/", "Hello [Fierilyfrock67](/u/Fierilyfrock67), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, it has been removed for the following reason:\n\nDo not post tips that are advertisements or recommendations of products or services. Users who purposefully advertise their own product or service will be banned.\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FLifeProTips&subject=about%20my%20removed%20submission&message=I%27m%20writing%20to%20you%20about%20the%20following%20submission:%20https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/unl1zx/lpt_request_what_are_some_more_advanced_lpt_for/.%20%0D%0D). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all.", "Shooting down an idea without causing offense Lots of ideas are good in my opinion, but not all ideas are always good to execute. It can be a cost factor or because the idea is already executed by other companies. \nIn my experience I shoot down 9/10 ideas quickly. When those are my own ideas, I don't care. But when those are other peoples ideas, it can cause offense. At some point people might not bring up their ideas anymore, which is a shame really, and not intended at all." ]

[ "Ask them enough questions that help them come to the conclusion on their own. This style takes a few variables to get right.\n\n1. You're subject has to be opened to the idea of changing their mind. Maybe not overtly, but on at least a subconscious level they need to have doubt.\n\n2. The questions can't be loaded. You can't force them in a defensive position. That will only make them grab their current ideas and run for cover.\n\n3. You need to craft the questions so that they have to think about the answers long after they've answered the question.\n\nThis will make them question their initial assumptions for their conclusion. ", "I have to shoot down peoples ideas all the time. People get offended when they dont feel that their idea has been given the time of day. So I usually pick out the parts that I can see that will solve the problem and then highlight where it is lacking to solve the problem. At the very least it gets to have a discussion so the person with the idea can either clarify or suggest a tweak that could possibly turn it into the winning idea. Goes something like this...\n\n\n\"I see how your idea will solve the problems for a and b, but it doesnt necessarily solve the problem for c and d which are also critical. Do you have any more suggestions to add that would solve for all the problems?\"\n\nAfter a short discussion about it, the person can abandon their idea and move onto another one with a clear picture of knowing why it wasnt going to work. If you just dismiss it without reason then they will keep hanging onto it.", "Kind of interesting that you shoot 9/10 ideas down. Some of the best ideas don't come from one person, they come from a group. Parts of ideas pulled together can be quite compelling, both in getting a better solution, as well as having people committed to support and implement the \"final solution\".\n", "It's important to convey that you aren't questioning the person's intelligence-rather, you are questioning the viability of their idea.\n\nGenerally, I'll look for one good kernel of an idea and then sort of focus on that and try to tease that out. \"Not sure about the viability of the cost factor of (idea X), but I'm intrigued by the (labeling concept, whatever.) Can you expand on that or maybe explain it more?\" Then you've shifted the convo to a more useful idea without them feeling that you're crapping on them.", "I've always found when shooting down someone else's idea it's better when the person feels they have a part in the idea being chosen instead. For example: you don't choose their idea but start exploring an idea that would work better and ask them their opinion and thoughts on it. \n\nI feel it gets their mind off of being 'dissed' for their idea not being chosen and feeling like they are really a part of the solution to what ever is going on.", "Communicate that you appreciate the person's input, but that you want to do something else for whatever reason. It's about being respectful and valuing the input. You can highlight the good qualities of their idea or look to incorporate parts of their idea if it makes sense.", "Build on it. Something like 'I see what you're going for, but wouldn't it be better if...' and you'll end up far from the original idea.\n" ]

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[ "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?", "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?", "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?", "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?", "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?", "Automaticly mute laptop after headset is unplugged. It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your music. Any tools to solve this problem that either pause your music or mute your sound automaticly?" ]

[ "On a Mac, if your volume is set to off on the speaker without headphones plugged in, it should revert back to that once they're unplugged, regardless of the volume for when they're plugged in.\n\n", "My mac has different volume settings for when headset is plugged in / is not plugged in by default afaik. But there has to be a better solution than to install OSX if you're not on a mac :)", "my LPT is to not care if your music plays for 4 seconds max in a public place. just be like \"my bad!\" and smile and walk away. it's only embarrassing if you let it be", "Without disabling your speakers altogether I dont think this can be done automatically in Windows 7.\n\nTry some software called EventGhost, I use it for automating my PC. I'd be surprised if this couldn't be done using that software!", "I miss the hardware knob overrides that were common on laptops pre-2000ish. A ten cent part. Less is less in this case, IMO. ", ">It can be embarrassing when you are studying/working in a public place and your headset gets unplugged and you disturb everyone with your ~~music.~~ porn sounds.\n\nFTFY" ]

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[ "All we can do is what we can do in our own sphere of influence. Every little positive effort- anything constructive with our fellow neighbors is crucial. Communication and support. If you see something that you can change for the better- do it. Grassroots.", "1. Get involved in your local community. Whether that is something like a citizen's committee or as a local elected official, this will make you feel less powerless. You can \"do good\" on a local level.\n\n2. Stop watching the news. To keep up, read a summary of the day's news on one of the news aggregates such as Google or Yahoo or Upstract and then forget about it.", "The moment we lose hope it's truly over, hang in there homie. Get rid of face book, like delete it. Second. Pick up a book for 30 minutes per week, anything will do but a picture book. 3. Get into nature a few times a year. Camping, hiking, even just a quick walk in the local forest preserve 30 minutes per week are shown to have positive effects on the psyche. 4. Start education yourself on a subject you find interesting. Anything from documentaries to hands on classes to college, as long as you enjoy it and it's legal. Do it. Finally 5. Check yourself, make sure to step back and question yourself at least initially on your arguments and make sure you remain civil.", "I garantee you, people in my country would kill to live in the US. Thre are better countries, but there are far worse. You have plenty of good stuff i know for sure. stop scrolling politics subs, stop watching major News channels. Focus on yourself and good luck. Love from brazil, the richest most corrupt country. Fifth world economy yet people cant feed themselves at the end of the month", "Three things to keep in mind: 1- Doom scrolling is proven to cause depression AND it does not mean you’re more “informed.” In fact, studies find high news/political consumption also positively correlates with an increase in biases thinking or false beliefs. 2- Our life is what we pay attention to (hence the above findings). The best day ever can go unnoticed if we’ve trained our brain to only focus on the shitty stuff that did or might happen. 3- you gotta put on your oxygen mask first. Caring is good but if you don’t put up intentional boundaries around your emotional and mental energy you’ll soon have nothing to give (which sounds like what you’re currently experiencing). You think Bernie Sanders could have survived in politics these pass 300 years without really good self-care? He’s a pro at focusing on the victories and rolling with the punches.\n\nWith that, my LPT for you is- Take a media/politics detox. At least a month but three months is better. Use that extra time to serve others. Volunteer somewhere local or get involved with whatever cause speaks to you, just make sure you are able to actively participate in the “service of others.” If you aren’t feeling better after a month, seek out a therapist to help you better understand why and what you need.\n\nThe best news is, according to A LOT of measures, the human experience worldwide is better now than it has ever been. Many problems exists, but that’s not the whole narrative. Recalibrating so you can find a better balance will set you free.", "We are passengers on a ball of dirt floating through a vast cosmos. We can't control where that ball of dirt goes any more than we can control what people on that ball of dirt do.\n\nFocus on what you can control, better yourself, enjoy yourself and your friends, and enjoy what you have. \n\nNo sense in stressing about things out of your control. Improve what you can control.", "Social well-being is better in the US than most the world. Stop watching the news and listening to social justice warriors. I have my complaints about the US but I never stop appreciating how fucking good we have it compared to most.", "I grew up in the 1960’s and 1970’s. \n\n- During the Cuban Missile Crisis, our whole elementary school class went to school one morning thinking that we were all going to be blown up by the end of the day. \n\n- Civil rights riots and Vietnam war protests polarized the country.\n\n- Acid rain was destroying the environment\n\n- Sky high unemployment and inflation made it difficult to find jobs.\n\n- Chronic energy shortages were shutting down businesses, schools, and even hospitals. \n\n- The President of the United States had an illegal domestic spying operation going on that threatened the Constitutional foundation of the United States.\n\nMy parents had it worse. They lived through the Great Depression and World War II.\n\nWe (and they) made it through that. You’ll make it through this.", ">after learning how bad politics and social well being is in the US\n\nWhat are you talking about? The United States is one of the most prosperous and free nations in the history of civilization.\n\nStop watching/reading the news.\n\nRead \"Enlightenment Now\" by Steven Pinker. It's basically a data-driven review of how the world is getting better by virtually all metrics: wealth, environment, disease, starvation, wars, violence, education, etc.", "I actually don't think your goal should be not to care. A lot of people are hurting a lot right now, and it's a good thing that you as a person feel empathy for them and want to help them.\n\nThe goal should be to balance being a caring and responsible member of society with your personal mental and physical well-being.\n\nI don't really agree with the just blanket \"Stop watching news\" and \"get off social media\" for several reasons. \n\n1. It's hard to stop anything that's part of your routine cold turkey\n2. Depending on your job/school situation you might need to keep up with one or both of these things\n3. It's not good to be ignorant, a lot of the very problems that are bothering you are partially a result of widespread ignorance\n\nInstead, be intentional about your consumption. Don't just sit there and *watch* cable news, that is bad for you. Find specific sources for specific things. A lot of people will say \"oh just get news from both sides\". Don't do this. This is an oversimplification and will just lead to more stress. You need to evaluate news sources not on a dumbed down, left/right scale, but on issues. Some news sources (usually as a result of who finances them) are worse about certain issues. For instance The Washington Post is not going to be an unbiased, accurate source on news relating to Amazon/Jeff Bezos/Labor issues because of who owns them. Get a mix based on what specific thing is that source's strong area and balance out their weaknesses with alternatives.\n\nSocial media I have less of an answer for, it's more individualized what different people need (work/hobbies) and want (personal relationships/ entertainment) from social media. For most people I would say do less, and don't make it too important, but there are legit and healthy uses for it\n\nOther than that just find other stuff that's fulfilling for you. Find a non-work hobby, find some music or movies or shows that aren't heavy tonally to enjoy. And like others have said if you do want to try to make things better do so at the local level. This can be feeding the homeless, a community garden, local office campaigns, volunteer landscaping, labor organizing, mutual aid funding, any number of ways to help your community where you will actually see the impact and benefit in a tangible, rewarding way.", "Stop reading the news. 24/7 news cycles focus on profits and eyeballs , not accurate truthful mentally beneficial content.", "Read Factfulness by Hans Rosling. Short-term regression is against a backdrop of incredible long-term progress, and it proves that it’s possible to make things better because we’ve been doing it gradually for centuries :)", "Turn off the tv, get off the internet….. the media bends information any which way they want to manipulate you.", "The route to misery is thinking about yourself and your troubles. The route to happiness is thinking about others and how you can help them. Do some volunteer work to help other people. Unplug from the political propaganda that is falsely advertised as “news“. It has worked wonders for me.", "I’ve been watching a lot of the new #teamseas content on YouTube. It’s uplifting to see a bunch of random content creators decide they want to work together to clean up the oceans around countries they don’t even live in. It reminds me that there are people out there genuinely trying to do good for others and for the planet.", "There’s bad politics and social well being everywhere. Most places in America are better than most of the world. Be grateful you don’t live in bad parts of africa", "Welcome to the club. Just live your life, turn off your tv and go for a hike, run, pick up a new hobby. \n\nDitching social media and not watching the news has been the best thing for my mental health personally. I haven’t had cable since 2014. \n\nI pay for Hulu, Netflix and F1, hockey for sports. But I started getting fit, reading, picking up a few nerd hobbies I now have the money….and time for. \n\nJust realize you’re a cog in the machine. You voice, your vote, your place in this world doesn’t mean shit as long as billion dollar companies are paying politicians and the IRS keeps adding more loopholes for taxes nothing with change. And you just kinda of have to accept that", "It could be much worse. Other Asian and African countries really do have it much worse and the people feel much more helpless and powerless. The only literal hope a lot of them have is to have/make enough money to immigrate to a better country. That's also probably why religion is so big in Asia and Africa relatively.", "I get this. You're certainly not alone in that.\n\nThe approach I am taking is to focus more on my immediate life for myself, while contributing a sustainably small part of it to help make it better. A typical day in my life involves making do at work, skating at the skatepark or playing a video game, playing with my dog, and being in touch with some close like-minded friends. I donate to mutual aid on a monthly basis, I grow weed and gift away my surplus, and I keep packets of trail mix in my car to give to any homeless people I encounter.\n\nAm I going to fix this dumpster fire? Not in the sense that I wish I could. The best I can do is to \"be the change you wish to see in the world\" balanced out with \"put on your own oxygen mask first before helping someone else with theirs\", centering joy, appreciating happiness as it comes and goes, and giving myself the space to grieve what is missing. There is still more to \"fix\" than I think can be done in my lifetime, but I can at least take a little pride in being the person that I am through all this.", "Stop watching the news, get off social media, make dinner or bake treats for your neighbors, go to the park and feed ducks, take a day trip to the woods\n\nI've tried to start visiting smaller shops for things where I can over the last 2 years and that's led to being rather well known and liked by most of them. It feels nice.", "Stop giving a shit. The overwhelming majority of your interactions with others has no politics involved. And if they do, find a different people to interact with / observe yourself to see if you're the one injecting politics into everything.\n\nGrab a beer with friends after a long day as you unwind and talk about how ridiculous it is that the new Mario movie being made features Luigi high on paint.\n\nThat's where you find happiness. Not by complaining to your friends about political issues. Negativity breeds negativity.\n\nSo just stop giving a shit about politics because ultimately politics has an unnoticeable effect on you and your life. Some policies might set you back, some might set you forward, whatever the case you'll adapt so who gives a flying fuck.", "It is almost 100% perspective. \n\n\nThe world is a really shitty place online and many times offline as well. However, the world you make in your home doesn't have to be that same shitty place. Watching shit happen doesn't do anything to prevent it from happening, so there is no reason to sit and watch things go to shit. \n\n\nWhat to do:\n\n1. Make your home a happy place, with fun projects and things for you to do. Divorcing yourself from the internet and specifically the negativity does not mean becoming a selfish person. I think a lot of us feel that if we don't acknowledge the bad we endorse it with ignorance. I would push back on that and say if we don't provide ourselves with a space to grow, we will never be able to change the world.\n2. Find issues your do care about that you can actually do something about. Again Divorce yourself form the big picture you will just get overwhelmed, focus in on what is actionable and sustainable in your life.\n3. Keep growing, take breaks as needed. You got this.", "I'm going to say the opposite of what most people are saying here, to a degree- Dont stop following the news. Instead, change the news source that you consume. Only read news article, or watch, PBS Newshour. Its bland, boring and completely factual with little to no opinions, and when it is opinion they explicitly state that. It's simply \"this is what happened\". \n\nI've made this change and its helped my anxiety immensely. Just my experience.", "Stop watching the news and check out of social media.\n\nIt really is not nearly as bad as is being suggested.", "STOP WATCHING THE NEWS and get to know some of your neighbors, take them cookies. I promise, this works. ", "If you're powerless, then why dwell? Don't exhaust your energy/wellbeing on something you cannot affect an outcome on. \n\nUnless you have some *in* with a major player in the politics game or world stage... All you can really do is make changes at the unit level (yourself and your immediate environment), so damn all that macro-level shit.", "Find someone you can help. Serve in a soup kitchen or a food bank. Put yourself in touch with the people who are helping and focus on them, not the news about things going on over your head that you can't change. Remember that even in the worst of times there are good people doing good things and people making jokes for other people to laugh at. When you look at the people around you instead of the people that get cameras pointed at them, you get a different perspective. Lots of us felt like this in the 1970's, but surprise surprise we are still here.", "You have to actively avoid \"news.\" Remove the apps, remove the bookmarks. Disable the cell phone alerts (besides the emergency alerts that could directly affect you, of course). Remove the facebook Follows.\n\nThen, it'll take time, like a junkie getting off the smack. The urge to look will be there, but fight it.\n\nYou'll eventually have to unfollow \"friends\" who can't stop posting about politics on social media.\n\nSince I decided to focus entirely on only the things I CAN control, I have been much more serene. I can change nothing that happens in Washington DC. The lawmakers don't care about my opinion, because it isn't delivered wrapped around a stack of cash. I have no intention of occupying wall street, burning down Portland, or storming the capital... so none of it matters.\n\nThe people around you will thank you.", "Travel to Mexico or another less well off place to gain some gratitude. America is cruel and archaic but you are lucky as hell to be born here", "Look into local mutual aid opportunities.\nOrganize your work place and tackle labor issues, but also unethical supply issues.\nCampaign/run on voting protections and reform.\nLearn about actual anarchy, not the one that's portrayed in the media. Even if you don't vibe with it completely (I'm not sure I do) lots of tenants are directly actionable for improving the lives of those in our community and therefore is a great thing.", "Knowledge. You need to learn how we got this point, what is driving it forward, etc., then when you feel equipped enough you can begin to tackle an area of the problem that you feel you can make an influence on. Number one thing, is never stop learning.", "For what it's worth - I used to listen to politics on the radio during my commute to work - then I hit saturation point and could take no more. Now I listen to audio book fiction on the drive and I'm much happier.", "Do what I do. Don’t read about politics. Don’t watch news about politics. When people start to talk about it, laughingly change the subject and move on (something like, “Soooooooo how bout the Braves” would be a good line to quickly change the subject. Point is you make it obvious to change it). Not letting it invade your thoughts because you’re literally ignorant of the next atrocity that’s being spoon fed to us. \n\nThe other thing I do is just know when the guillotine truly comes out and politicians and those responsible for all the wrong in the us start getting swept away just take solace in the fact that you get to help. It’s spiteful but it helps get me through the day.", "at the end of the day, worry about you and your friends/family. That’s all that matters.\n\nHard to turn a blind eye, but sometimes you need to for sanity’s sake.", "You should run for office! You aren’t powerless! \n\nYou don’t have to run president, Vice President, senator, congress person, governor or anything like that. \n\nRun for a community board, city council, etc there are tons of small elected officials and often they make a huge difference in our everyday life. \n\nIn my area there are also tons of official advisory boards which offer recommendation to city hall. I once tried to get on the board that oversaw my town’s urban forest. (I ended up not doing it cause of my schedule at the time) \n\nYou’re not powerless unless you do nothing.", "You have to come to terms with the fact that unless you amass Billions of dollars, you can’t do sick about anything. Let that go and be happy in your bubble", "Watch Saving Private Ryan. Imagine being one of those guys on the beach. Seriously, I think about that whenever I'm facing a challenge in life.", "Understand that you can't fix what you didn't break and that it's pointless to worry about things you have no control over. This is all about establishing boundaries. If you want to take that angst and get involved in politics, go for it! That's a great thing to do. But if you know you aren't going to, detach a bit. Vote when you can vote, do what you can when you are in a position to do something, but learn how to not spin your wheels when you're powerless. I hate to say it, but as strongly as I feel about political issues, I've developed a way to shrug off pundits' dire warnings of catastrophe when I see them. Remember: news outlets make money by stoking fear and outrage. I'm not against the MSM, I think they do a great thing providing information, but learn how to recognize when it's simply reporting and when it's something that's trying to manipulate you emotionally. It's possible to dissociate from the manipulation and still absorb the info.", "Turn off the radio turn off the TV. \n\nYou'll still have the desire to listen or watch you'll have to find that. \n\nEventually after not being exposed you won't be holding your breath all the time.", "Things are pretty whack now, but as the professor said above, don't think this is the only time in our history that things have been dismal. We've risen above times where it was acceptable to own another human being, lynchings, economic disaster during the great depression, WW2, etc. \n\nThe 24 hour news networks have to fill all that time with something, so there's a lot of sensationalism just to draw viewers, plus the internet gives everyone a voice, no matter how biased and factually incorrect. \n\nYou may want to talk to your doctor and see if you may be suffering from chronic depression.", "The need to ask that question is probably one of the main reason why it has come this far. Not caring and wanting to not care is the root of many past and future problems imo.", "The best things I have done for myself in the last year-\n\nQuit drinking\n\nQuit the news\n\nQuit Facebook\n\nI feel 1000 times better.", "Take yourself out of your echochamber, invest freetime with hobbies that kinda consume your time. Or find something you like to do outside of \"work\" that will not be influenced by politics. I used to see that stuff every day, mostly because of social media. I have since deleted every single social media app and kept my social circle very small. We have varying opinions but when you start to consume thoughts of the masses on either side it gets overwhelming. As selfish as this sounds, think about yourself first.", "Stop paying attention to it. \n\nPoliticians have so little control over your life. Stop watching the news, stop talking about politics, stop caring about what goes on outside of your immediate area..... if it were important to you, you wouldn't need the news to tell you. \n\nI stopped watching the news and keeping up with politics about 8 years ago. My happiness, wellbeing, health, and finances have all increased dramatically.", "Stop listening to the news and going on social media imho. Politics has always been garbage but if you think that social well being is actually that bad in the US then I suggest that you become a little more worldly in your views.\n\nNews and social media is terrible because they both actively encourage controversial narratives to drive engagement from their user base. Guess what's an easy sell? Negativity and controversial viewpoints.", "Oh, darling, you don't. You just don't. Everyone else is lying to you. Sometimes you meet other people who you really connect with, and you feel impassioned, but in the end you just don't care. All you can do is not care.", "News and social media. Reduce your exposure to them. There’s value in knowing what’s going on, but keeping tabs on every little thing is draining for anyone. Let yourself adjust to what things are actually like for you in your space. Research prior to elections if you feel a need to take in other viewpoints before casting a ballot to affect change.", "Lead by example. Among peers, strangers, and friends.\n\nDo right by others, be true to you.\n\nThings are *not* as bad as any TV/news story might lead you to believe, however they certainly are not as positive/great as they should be (big fucking understatement)\n\nYou do you, and uplift as many as you can along the way.\n\nFor what its worth Im a US combat veteran and i get your anguish big time. Ive got severe PTSD and depression - despite all the negativity out there in the meta I refuse to give up on the concept of these Unites States, and humanity at large. Dont allow anything to do that to you, or try not. Think on all the good folk you know", "Just life YOUR life, if there is something you dislike then express it, but by any means don't expect anyone to give a shit. You quite frankly don't matter in society, so take care of yourself and try not to screw anyone while doing it.", "Just focus on what’s around you. Enjoy your friends and family. Get involved in community volunteer work. Take excursions. Go camping.\n\nMost of these major political discussions have little visible impact on the day to day lives of people who aren’t looking for it.\n\nFocus on what you have control over.", "It doesn't have to do with caring man, it has to do more about what are you going to do about it?\n\n And there's this notion that we should aim for such high, unattainable goals and throw ourselves in front of a bus for a cause that it is self impossed.\n\nNah, do what you can, not your best, not your worst, what you can, today, not tomorrow, today, sit down to talk to someone, pay for some homeless guy's meal, volunteer to read for children in hospitals, I don't know, it's the small things man.", "I woke up. Painful as it is to drag on into the mundane grayness of my existence I still make my bed and get dressed. Feed my dogs and then stare at my living room while I drink a cup of coffee. Then, I take a deep breath, put my shoes on, grab my keys and gear and step out my door.\n\nOn the drive to work I mull over the state of things. Thinking to myself, what is the mindset of those elsewhere, those with less to eat, less ability to subsist an existence.\n\nAs I pull into work a switch gets thrown in my head, time to focus. I handle one problem after another, break for food, then bring order from more chaos.\n\nThen in the afternoon my friends taps my shoulder asking if I’m ready, I nod and change clothes.\n\nWe spend the next hour and a half in the gym. Focused on building a healthier and stronger physical form.\n\nOnce done, we chill in the parking lot for a few minutes just shooting the shit, then I get back in my car and start driving home.\n\nMy wife calls about halfway through the drive as usual, she tells me all about her day, how she’s feeling, who’s a bitch and what so-and-so did that’s just silly. I listen and chat until she’s done venting what built up over the day.\n\nThen, I turn on music matching whatever mood I’ve got and finish driving home. Sometimes singing, sometimes giving imaginary speeches to nonexistent crowds on subjects I feel strongly about, arguing points back and forth with myself.\n\nThen I’m home, dogs dancing around at my feet as I go give my wife a kiss. We discuss what we want for dinner and after eating, I play video games with Netflix or Hulu on in the background until I feel drowsy, then I go to bed.\n\nPoint is: it’s not that I don’t care, I just don’t stop moving forward. No matter my circumstances, there is always a next step to take.", "I was crippled by this. I realized that letting being mad affect me hurt only me, that it's okay to be happy, that I have the capacity to both be happy and mad at once as a whole person, and that I would probably be more able to affect positive change if I let myself be happy and less able to affect positive change if I let myself spiral.", "I make the most of what makes me happy, and I acknowledge allt the nice things I have in the US.I'm glad I've been able to make lots of friends online and do stuff with them. I'm happy that I'm free to express myself and I'm happy I can buy most of the products I want to buy. I'm lucky to have people that I know care about me, and I'm also really glad I have the ability to pursue a career I want to pursue.", "I am 16 and dreading the time when I become officially an adult. I am not looking forward to being in student debt my entire life while being a slave to capitalism. Somehow people are surprised when I say that", "Get rid of anything remotely news related. \n\nBlack people Twitter for example isn't necessarily suppose to be political and news related but it often is. Stop following it.\n\nStop watching talk shows and stuff. Its funny but too political.\n\nEven good sources and news can make you feel like shit.\n\nIf you see a post remotely political or news related Stop following that page.\n\nYou do kinda of cut your self off from major events, bit imo who cares. \n\nBy reading that article are you realistically going out and trying make a change now? No. At least I'm not. So by reading all this stuff all it does is depress me. \n\nI read enough to know who to vote for at elections. That enough", "Get off the media, spend less time on media/social media. Most of the time you will be genuinely more happy, because in reality most of the tragic/f offed stuff does not affect you anyway.\n\nRather focus on the things that make you happy. Spend more time with your family, persue the hobby you always wanted to do, etc.", "Get into politics and social well-being. Take a class, talk to your local parties. If you don’t like something, do something.", "Decentralized everything will at least take power away from the people that create the infrastructure. For money look at Fantom, Ether, Bitcoin, where we take power away from banks. For a new idea of how the internet could work, look at holochain which takes money away from Microsoft, Amazon. In these new technologies we can move trillions back into the people's hands and do away with hyperinflated markets due to single actors.", "As others have said, cut down on watching the news.\n\n\"The news\" is incentivized to tell you things that will make you click. Journalists are paid to make you scared or angry. I'm not saying that they're evil, it's just that their job isn't just to tell you the truth, it's to tell you things that will make you upset.\n\nAlso, 12 step meetings have really helped me. Anger management or \"open\" AA meetings could be very helpful. \"Open\" meetings mean you don't have to be an alcoholic to attend the meeting.\n\nThe things that make you upset make addicts upset too, and even though the behavior might be different, the triggers are the same.", "Also worth noting… STOP PAYING ATTENTION TO THE 24 HOUR NEWS CYCLE. \nI don’t care what network you choose to indulge in. Fox, CNN, Facebook, etc., it’s all specifically designed to keep you staring at your screen going “Fuck. This sucks. What am I going to do? Better keep watching to find out.” \nThere isn’t enough note worthy news in a day to fill the entire day, so they hype things up and drag shit out and fill every second with ", "3 recommendations: \nLook up the organization Braver Angels for their depolarization work. \nAnd FairVote or the Forward Party for action toward Ranked Choice Voting and open primaries. \nAnd, this isnt specific to the US, but I'd recommend you read the book Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World--and Why Things Are Better Than You Think by Hans Rosling", "Try to learn a bit about the rest of the world’s problems, helps put first world problems into more perspective.", "This should be the only LPT posted on this sub: \"GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA\".\n\nDone. You'll feel a lot better about everything.", "Study history to see how bad things were in the past. \n\nIf humanity survived and improved after the Black Plague, the slave trade, World War II, and the Holocaust, we can definitely make it through our current struggles.", "Stop using social media and watching the news. If not cater ur social media to not show u negative stuff.", "Simple, stop watching the news and politics. Cut out any toxic political people and sources in your life.", "No. You do **not** have the right to not care. The future of the United States of America as well as this planet itself, is at stake - and I will *not* participate in helping you \"not care\".\n\nYou may think that your one tiny little insignificant voice doesn't matter. But it does. Merely by your question, you *just* changed others' thoughts, therefore their perspectives, therefore their lives - and the lives of those they know.\n\nI happen to be homeless and hated and unloved and unwanted yet I can write letters and I can make phone calls. I have personally experienced that my insignificant letter led to a conversation… led to a discussion… led to a policy change… led to a life change, which led to others' lives being changed. And those people's families, and their children, and the lives of everyone they touched all of them therefore got changed as well. \n\nGet involved in politics. Speak up and against wrongs which you hear about, correct others, or at least learn to ask questions that help others question their own opinions. You do not have to be actively involved, you can make a phone call, or send a single group email to everybody on the board where you hear of an injustice at a school or a college or a corporation.\n\nYou *really* going to try to tell me that you're that insignificant? You are *not*. Greta Thundberg, some stupid little 16-year-old girl someplace… is making a profound difference in the future of this planet merely by her fucking example. And as I just stated I'm homeless and unwanted, unwelcome and disliked and no one has ever heard of me but I *do* know that I have made a difference in others lives. You don't have to change the entire planet; if you can make one life better - that's all that is needed. *They* will do the rest. But *they needed you*… to help them do their part. Do it.\n\nNo, I will **not** help you not care. And don't you dare ask that again. Do something, anything. You do make a difference. You might never know it, but that is irrelevant to anything.", "My friend, you cannot let your happiness depend on politics and the way the world is. These things are out of our control. All you have control of is your own life, and your happiness has to come from within.", "Make a conscious effort to not watch any news channels. When the news comes on, switch change the channel.\n\nGet rid of all news feeds on your phone.", "Look at how bad politics and social wellbeing is in countries like Syria, Afghanistan, Myanmar, North Korea, etc.\n\nYou get the picture.", "Keep out of r/politics and other similar echo chambers? It's not really bad politics or social well being, it's clickbait media stroking the fire of brain dead zombies who think they're intelligent but have zero critical thinking or nuance.", "Join a socialist organization. Donate spare time to your community. Develop a circle of people dedicated to solving those problems. Create parallel power structures to challenge existing but failed power structures. You can do this.", "I think you need to get your head out of screens and just look around...\n\nAre you suffering? Do you have food shelter, comfort?\n\nAre your friends and family suffering or are they like you living in relative comfort?\n\nTake a walk through your town... is everyone killing each other? Are there dead bodies in the streets?\n\nNow go watch some old news clips from 20, 30 , 50 years ago.... are they all saying the same stuff then as they are now?\n\nYou begin to see that , yes there are problems, but there are always problems, some get solved, some don't, and life goes on.\n\nLast but most important remember that all of this is temporary. We are only renting the earth for a short time before we move on, so enjoy it, because you have to pay your rent either way.", "I recommend crying more about people voting for the person you didn’t like. It happens every two to four years or so.", "Gotta learn to not let stuff effect you if you can't control it. Sure, it sucks how people are treated. I wish things changed and everyone got the same experience as everyone else. \n\nBut, in the words of Rocky, the world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently **if you let it**.", "Go to a country that has real problems, like Venezuela, Cuba, Mexico... most of Africa... Then get some perspective and be happy to live in an amazing country like the US.", "Get a Bible (I'd recommend [this one](https://www.cph.org/p-11334-the-lutheran-study-bible-hardback.aspx), or any ESV or NKJV) and [Luther's Small Catechism](https://www.cph.org/p-32272-luthers-small-catechism-with-explanation-2017-", "Easy, look at the politics in any third world.\nI'm from a third world and we say at least in the first world only the top ones are corrupted.\n\nIn here, almost everyone in the lower level tries to take a piece of the pie.", "Bad? The us is fine. Rich and peaceful. The world is fine \n\nPeople tell you things are terrible because they get attention/money/power that way. That's all. \n\nI'm an actual expert in public policy analysis. This is the *professional* opinion of a top level expert.", "As someone who is probably older (49), I can confidently say that history will even out your opinions about things. The political party that you hate today will seem not as bad when you get older. The political party you cheer for today will let you down eventually. \n\nThe people on the other side that you may fell are evil care about their families as much as you do. Remember you are lucky to make it to 80 years old. Why spend your moments in misery?", "Life is awesome in the US. If you don’t think we have an unrivaled quality of life and standard of living… travel.", "Just focus on other things. I have no idea what's going on political, nor do I care.\n\nIt's easier said than done I know. I wish I could remember how I got here, but I've been apolitical for so long that I don't remember when I stopped caring.", "To keep informed without all the clickbait stuff. I’d recommend AP News, NPR, and PBS news. Sticking to these has helped me a lot in the past year. It’s just the news and no talking heads trying to work people up over culture issues.", "Kinda sad that most answers on here are to just ignore unpleasant information and to take in positive media. Basically a \"world is fucked, look the other way and let it burn\" sort of take to it.", "Don't \"not care\". Be an active part of your community. Fight for change. Be part of the revolution." ]

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[ "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?", "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?", "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?", "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?", "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?", "How do I approach personal conversations? How do I get others to open up? So this recently happened when I was talking to a friend.\n\nMe: So what do your parents do?\n\nHim: My mom is teacher. We are really close.\n\nMe: Good, and your dad?\n\nHim: I have only been raised by my mother.\n\n&lt;awkward silence for a few seconds&gt;\n\nMe: So, wanna get pasta for dinner?\n\nI know for a lot of you, this will be a trivial thing. But I completely blanked out when he said that. I wasn't sure if I should \"talk about it\" or change the subject, so I took the safer route. But I also realized that I almost always keep conversations light, even with my close friends and family. I get uncomfortable when things get personal. Even if I see my roommate visibly upset, I put my headphones on and pretend I didn't see anything. Or when someone brings up his/her ex, I just change the conversation topic because I don't want to intrude in others personal matters. How do I approach sensitive conversations?" ]

[ "Sympathy usually works for me, especially if it's out of the blue like you mentioned.\n\"Aww I'm sorry to hear that\" or whatever and move on to something else. Especially if they don't feel comfortable sharing.\n\nWhen it comes to sensitive conversations that someone else initiates it's best to save your sympathy since some people are weird about that. I kinda handle sensitive topics like Oprah does (or at least from what I've seen): stay calm, ask questions, and just listen. Do not judge. Also, make eye contact. It shows that you care.", "Hard to explain really, but in your example; when he said \"My mom is teacher. We are really close.\" I'd probably have gone for something like \"Oh yeah? How come?\" Not in an interrogative tone, more like you are interested in finding out. From whatever reply you get, if some continuation doesn't naturally follow, offer something up from yourself; mention what you and your moms relation look like perhaps.", "Talking to patients everyday as a med student means that you often have to talk about things that contain deeply sensitive information on the patient's behalf - about topics that their family might not even know about. So I might be able to contribute something here. \n\nI guess a few things I would do (as conversation is complex): \n- Be non-judgemental. As soon as you bring an element of \"oh...you're that kind of person\" into the conversation, it's over. \n- Don't act as if the topic you're talking about is something huge. If you just ask semi-casually, it won't seem like such a huge deal to talk about it. \n- Ask questions, talk less. Giving advice is actually not what most people want you to do. For example, asking your upset roommate \"hey, is everything alright?\" (even though they're obviously distressed) is a good way to start. Offering them tissues and stuff can let them open up. Or, if someone brings up their ex as a topic, just accept what they have to say and offer your own personal anecdotes (open up to allow others to be open) - changing the topic indicates that you don't really care about what they have to say (even if you do care about them). \n\nNot everyone is good at handling sensitive conversations. Just be open yourself and the world will open up.", "I like to go the opposite way. I find that most people will talk to you about personal stuff. I know the societal stigma is that we shouldn't broach personal topics, but in my experience that's not true. Some says a friend died? Ask them details about the friend. What did they do? How did they meet? Of course, weave in a sympathetic thread in there, but focus the conversation on details.\n\nI think because we never talk about private details, we never get that outlet. Next time you are in a similar situation, probe deeper into exactly caused the awkward silence.\n\n\"You were raised by your mom? You must be close. Tell me about your relationship.\" At some point, feel free to ask about the dad.", "Being a private person myself, I struggle to connect with people in these sorts of levels because I don't want to push the envelope. So, I tend to approach sensitive subjects the way I would to be approached. \n\nIn your example, it was very interrogative and yet you offered up nothing about yourself. This person seemed open to talking about their mother, so you could've circled back to that instead of creating an awkward silence.", "\"Oh that's cool, your Mom sounds legit. What does she teach? Were you home schooled or did you go to public school? Is you Mom a MILF? Is that where get your huge rack from? What are those, double Ds? Let me see.\" \n\nAnd don't say \"Good,...\" like it's a fucking quiz and she got the correct answer. " ]

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[ "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n", "Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect? I'm 35/m, in a mid level mgt position. I think I have good communication skills. And I've always felt highly awkward in social situations (office parties particularly). \n\nI will normally approach a ton of people at parties and open the conversation, ask lots of questions to learn about that person and so on.\n\nHowever I realized over the years that at almost any party, there's hardly anyone who will walk up to me, say hello and start conversing.\n\nThis is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nAre there any people who experience the same? What do you do?\n" ]

[ "First, I think you need to consider a perspective shift. Social interaction requires two (or more) people, so putting the onus on yourself as unapproachable is disproportionately attributing cause to 1 party (you). Try to remember that other people have their own challenges (social anxiety, etc) and most people are simply more comfortable interacting with people they know well. The fact that people don't approach you isn't all on you.\n\nThat being said I think there are a few things that you can do to make yourself more socially appealing:\n\n1) Manage your Hygiene. This one sounds obvious but attend a convention and you'll quickly be reminded how quickly hygiene can get out of control. I'm NOT talking about appearance as much as odor and overall cleanliness. If people can smell you while they speak to you (be it funk or fragrance) they won't approach or stay engaged.\n\n2) Smile and be aware of your body language: If you appear to be having a good time (smiling and talking with people) while moving around a party, you immediately become more approachable. If you've got RBF check it at the door (this might take some effort) and do your best to enjoy yourself (or at least appear to). Be aware of your body language & know that crossed arms, scowls and sitting make it appear like you don't want to be engaged. \n\n3) Be affable and listen. It sounds like you're doing a good job asking questions and engaging people. If you are overbearing or too inquisitive this can hurt as well. No one expects the Spanish Inquisition at a party. Ask simple open ended questions, that allow people to tell stories/anecdotes. If you tell an anecdote, keep it short and relatable. If it's funny, be self deprecating and not funny at another's expense.\n\nTo get over the anxiety hurdle (your's or their's) act confident (good posture projects this well), circulate between 3 central/accessible locations in a room, and make it a point to introduce yourself to someone new each time you move to a new point or join a new group. \n\nI hope all of this helps. If you're an introvert this will likely exhaust you. That's fine, get through the first party/event and the next one will be far less exhausting because the anxiety/barriers will have been broken. Remember to keep up the approachability/smile during the party, even if you're tired. If you're an extrovert, you'll probably find this energizing, but may need to keep it in check so you don't overwhelm people. \n\n", "Here is a comment that /u/Minsc_and_Boo_ wrote in a different thread that I think kind of answers your question. The thread was asking about a club setting rather than a party/informal meeting, but I think it still applies quite nicely. \n\n>Here's serious advice: \nTruth is, most people go out to be entertained, without being entertaining people themselves. They just.... stand around and wait for things to happen. It works if you're an attractive woman because by virtue of your mere presence, wherever you are is the place to be and whatever you do is what others pay attention to.\nIn this sense, attractive women can't really relate to what most other people expect from a club. They don't have to make things happen, they are the happening. They can stand around and look bored, or dance with their female friends and the party will come to them. The drinks, the attention. Wherever they are, that's the place they feel matters most, and others validate it too. \nTherefore you'll see beautiful women talking about how they go out to dance or have fun with their girlfriends and take for granted what others go out to get for themselves but aren't merely given for free. \nThere you are, fat girl or average Joe.... and you don't understand why anyone would go to the club. Nobody looks at you, nobody gives a shit about you or what you're doing. It's noisy as fuck, the drinks are super expensive, people keep bumping into each other, you can barely hold a conversation, the music is questionable at best, and there are always some drunk assholes starting fights. Does this seem like your experience at the club? \nIf so, let me tell you what you're doing wrong: you're waiting for shit to happen. It's not going to happen. You're average, surrounded by average people who are themselves waiting for something to happen, or by popular people who want to mingle with others who they feel matter. It's not pretty to be an outsider, and it's not a pretty dynamic either. It's lame. But why blame others for not being interested in you when... you're not interesting? Ah, you say, but I AM an interesting person, but I can't get myself across in this noisy fucking orgy of idiocy and superficiality and overpriced drinks and hysterical girls downing shots of vodka. Well my friend, there's the issue. Work your medium. \nThe club is a setting and you're the fucking happening. You are what's happening. Walk in, smile and just.... talk to people. Don't try to discuss politics or chechnya... just high five some people, say \" heeeey what's up!\", walk around, drink, smile, say hello, compliment someone, spread a good vibe and a good energy, and move on. If a conversation happens to just start, then keep it going by all means, but don't feel obligated to do so. \nWhenever you introduce yourself to someone, or a group of people, you must always have a higher energy than they do. Bring that vibe UP with your arrival, or nobody will be interested in you.\nYou'll quickly realize that 10% of people at the club actually are having fun.... and 90% wish they were with the ones who \"matter\" so they could be having fun too. You can be the guy who matters, you can be the happening, you can be the party. Or you can be that death row of guys standing around holding their drinks leaning on the wall or in a circle with their guy friends, checking chicks out and looking like vultures , bored and boring.... \nSo be the fucking party. Mingle, smile, dance, talk to EVERYONE just a little bit. Be POSITIVE, and KIND, and WITH A GOOD ENERGY, and keep moving. Invite a stranger for a shot. If you see birthday party, pop by, give congratulations to the person, share a shot, tell everyone \" this is the coolest guy/girl ever!\" etc. If you see a guy with a trendy look or a woman who obviously put a lot of effort into her look, compliment them sincerely and then walk away.... \nVibe it up son, vibe it up. Be a giver, not a taker. Be a source of fun, of value, of positivity, of good feelings, entertainment. You don't have to be fake. If you're not naturally that high energy, you can still smile, move around, compliment people sincerely, have some shots, congratulate people for whatever they seem to wish to be congratulated for , and move on. \nYou'll be a fucking star, you'll make 200 friends, you'll have the time of your life, you will be pulled from conversations by other people who want your attention....\nBe the happening. If people wanted to just dance and drink, they could do it in their living room, to music they actually like, for a lot cheaper. \nGodspeed brother\n\nBasically just don't expect things to come to you all the time. That rarely happens in life. People are going to do their thing and it often doesn't involve you unless you **make** it involve you. ", "It could be that you are misreading cues from others. For example, that woman who asked where the coat check was or that guy who nudged you and pointed out where the best apps were... Those might have been other people trying to open a dialog with you... But if you weren't \"listening\", you might not have heard it...", "I also find that people don't seem to want to approach me. fuck, sometimes I go to the mall to get food by myself and feel like there's a 12 foot bubble around me that nobody else wants to sit. \n\nBut try placing yourself near a social \"point\". The drink counter. The food table. The television\\video game area. And just put yourself in part of the crowd. Look up some stuff about body language and have a friend take candid pictures of your face. If you find that you have resting bitch face, people will likely not approach you. \n\nFrankly, if you aren't a beautiful woman, or confident looking male, you can't expect others to come to you. I have to drag all of my social exploits to the basement to talk about the weather.", "Is there anyone you would trust in your life to give you really, brutally honest feedback on your social skills? Sometimes we do things that are off-putting, and we don't even realize it without someone pointing it out... \n\nThere were a couple people at my old work place that I would actively avoid despite them being friendly \"on paper,\" i.e. they try to be social, but end up making people uncomfortable anyway. One guy is a very know-it-all personality. He makes small talk with people, but it's uncomfortable because it always feels like he's trying to show off obscure knowledge or one-up someone. \n\nThen there's a girl that never modulates the tone of her voice and puts a negative spin on everything she talks about. (She also dresses rather slobbishly and pulls her hair back super tight everyday. It's makes being around her a very unsettling experience.)\n\nI'm not saying that you do any of these things, but it's possible you have an unsettling quirk that someone you know could point out to you if you ask for some honest feedback (be willing to accept the criticism if you do this though!).", "I find my husband is popular because he is cheerful and has levity. A slight joke at his surroundings or himself, not at peers, something silly and innocent, and people have fun with him. Whereas I can be a bit serious and boring. Do you think people have fun with you? Think about the people at work that you like, or that seem popular. What do they do that you could practice? I don't really have answers, sorry. ", "without knowing anything about your appearance I do know you overthink it - accept the reality and change what you can\n\nyou said you feel uncomfortable and people probably pick up on that ... confident body language and an open and expressive manner attracts people (unless you dress awful or are hideously ugly)\n\nscience has proven fake-it-till-you-make-it can work so adopt a confident persona when you go to social functions and have no expectations", "Conversation requires two people. Why don't you try to approach other people? It gives 10 times the confidence and solves your problem. ", "Ask people questions, and let them talk. When they stop talking, repeat. People love it, and will think that you've really interested in their views.\n\nAnd it's very interesting to hear other people's point of view. You can learn a lot about how people tick.\n\nI recommend [this book](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People).", ">Why do people not approach me naturally in parties/informal meetings to connect?\n\nBecause you aren't a beautiful woman. At your age you may have realised that very few people are willing to open conversations, so it is up to you to do it (or let someone else take the initiative and make the friends and connections.)\n\n>This is making it very hard for me to think of myself as a confident/likeable person and also making it hard for me to make genuine connections/friendships.\n\nIf you are able to cold approach random people and groups of people, then you are a confident person. There is an extra problem that you are looking for external validation (instead of being sustained by internal validation), a problem that I am currently trying to solve. If I find out how I'll tell you.", "Think we might need pictures of appearance. People usually talk to people. You sound normal. Maybe it's something to do with the way you present yourself.", "Maybe they are even more awkward than you? They only people who usually come up to me at those types of events are people I've had shared experiences in the past. These are people I've gotten to know, more than the \"Good morning\" as you pass each other in the office.", "Look around the room, find someone you don't know, walk up to them and introduce yourself. See if you notice others near you who aren't connecting, and try to draw them into the conversation, you're now up to three. Repeat.", "If you make the effort, good job. If no one likes you (which is very doubtful) then honestly who cares? It's usually the aholes who get to the top anyway. Look at it as earning that next promotion. ", "If I'm standing alone, no1 comes up to me, but when i reach out to someone, ppl see i'm having a good time and try to join in.", "Do you typically approach people who are contently standing alone? Or people who are busy talking to other people? Perhaps the very act of approaching other people makes you less approachable?", "Basically, because most people are socially awkward and self-conscious. As a result, they're uncomfortable putting themselves forward, and have never really learned any social conversation skills. It's them, not you, most probably.\n\nI go to a lot of networking events and I see this all the time. Everyone who attends is there to meet people, and yet they're reluctant to introduce themselves to a stranger, even knowing that anyone they approach is there for exactly the same reason they are: to meet random strangers.\n\nOnce you realize this, approaching someone and introducing yourself is a lot less intimidating: odds are, that person was feeling just as awkward and self-conscious as you were, and is grateful that someone introduced themselves and started a conversation.", "Just based off your first sentence: Opening with \"mid level mgt position\" makes me think that you're trying to make yourself sound way more important than you actually are. \n\nAlso, you're probably ugly (don't worry, I am too). It's human behavior to avoid the ugly guys/girls at parties and talk to the attractive ones because we assume that if they're beautiful that they'll have a good personality too (usually it's the inverse). I just drink a lot to overcome this. \n\nBased on the fact that you're asking for party advice on reddit, I'd say you probably don't have any hobbies that would interest anyone else. No one wants to hear about the single player campaign you just beat, or that cute thing your cat does, they want to hear about the time you were climbing the flatirons and somehow your rope became cut but neither person in your group realized it until you had finished leading the pitch. Get some interesting hobbies that people want to hear about. \n\nTheses are all assumptions based off your post and how I typically image a redditor. ", "I don't think people in their 30s used parties to initiate social interaction in the same way younger people usually do. I don't usually approach new people, or want to be approached by new people, at parties because I have grown tired of small talk. New friendships in my adult life tend to require some evidence of substantial overlap in our interests. Thus, I'm way more likely to approach (and enjoy being approached) by people engaging in similar activities as me. Maybe your problem is the venue in which you're trying to initiate engage new people socially. Parties only work when you're young and comparatively superficial." ]

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[ "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do", "What to do when landlords are cheating , taking more money for utility than actual My landlords are like 70 years old, they have a huge house and have 4 rental units. I don't know how to electricity bill works here but they have been charging an outrageous amount, they have solar panels and have some sort of a meter for all the rental units and they just charge a lot more than what the grid is charging per unit. When I confronted they started to get angry. I paid what they ask but its so unfair. I am paying the rent they are charging which is higher than the average in the area. But they are cheating on electricity. What to do" ]

[ "Tenant rights vary a lot by jurisdiction. It would help people give a full answer if you said where this was taking place.", "Start recording the meter on the first of every month and keep track of the amount they charge you each time. Then you can use that info to determine if they are charging a consistent rate, and potentially exactly what that rate is.", "I apologize I should have mentioned that I’m in India not in United States. I moved from US so I’m surprised this is happening they is no lease agreement either. It’s all cash and i m insisting on getting some sort of a written contract if not a lease.", "Also think about whether their solar is really just “free” electricity, or if they think of it as something they paid a lot for upfront and is gradually paying for itself by passing on its amortized cost over time. It is hard to live somewhere that you feel taken advantage of, so try to think of ways it might be fair before making a final decision.", "Recordbthis happening, record you complaining to them and them blowing you off, then take it to government.", "If you're renting a unit, the power/utilities should be in your name. The bills should come to you directly. Otherwise it should be a fixed amount every month.", "What does the signed lease say in regards to your utility services? Truthfully, you have to get out of the, \"this is unfair\", mindset. Your signature on the lease essentially states that you find all of the terms of said lease, 'fair and agreeable'. Do their current practices violate those terms?" ]

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[ "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n", "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n", "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n", "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n", "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n", "Essential information for a pocket notebook? Hi! I just got a 3\" x 5\" notebook that I really really like! I've noted down some information that I need on a regular basis at work and on the road, and I was wondering if you guys would have tips on what else I should write in the book?\n\nHere's what I have so far:\n\n- My contact info on front page in case it gets lost\n\n- Important addresses and operational hours that I often forget (auto service, new school's buildings, parking spots, etc.)\n\n- Check list for my gym bag\n\n- Check list for car emergency kit\n\n- Check list for camping\n\n- Check list for overnight travelling\n\n- Graphical guide of how to tie a tie :)\n\n- Keyboard shortcuts for frequently used programs\n\n- Workout program\n\n- Inspirational quotes :)\n\n- Common conversion units (distance, temperature, mass, volume, pressure, etc.)\n\nWhat else should I put? \n\n" ]

[ "Contact info for your cr", "Phone numbers for emergency contacts like friends and family, in case you lose your phone. (Or in case you get hurt and someone finds you and can't communicate with you because you're passed out.) \n\nAlso, a list of medications you are on, or anything you are allergic to. ", "Don't forget in case of emergency to also list any medical conditions and the major highlights of your medical history along with the medication list. Also don't forget to list vitamins & herbs since they may interact with drugs medical personnel might administer.", "Brainwave ideas, like when you're walking, waiting, on the throne, and a crystal clear idea for some product or app pops into your head. Write it down as, for many, these type of ethereal ideas are often forgotten as completely as they were originally sudden.\n\nGood book recommendations, magazine articles. Title, author, date, publisher. For me, I don't live online, so often see references on other book jackets, lectures or talks: easier to covertly write down, deal with later.\n\nObscure worldwide repeating events. You never know when you may be traveling to X country and your little black book reminds you of weird event. Excellent future travel planner. Yes, there are travel websites, but I don't know of any that lists specific weird, annual global events that only appeal to me.\n\nDo you know what your (suit) jacket measurements are? i.e. Shoulders, pit-pit, arm, tail?\n\nCasual things loved ones admit about themselves you can use when gift hunting: favorite colors, textures, chocolates from __, fashion labels, hobby or craft particulars like brand of yarn they'd never buy for themselves.", "Don't forget to jot down a reminder behind the cover to make more lists. It'll keep you from making too many lists.", "* Phone numbers of people you need to be able to call if you lost your phone: wife, mom, office, etc.\n\n* Number of calories in some typical meals\n\n* All your skymiles numbers, hotel/rental car rewards numbers, and anything that can help you pull up an account by phone\n\n" ]

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[ "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? 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For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought...", "What potentially useful details should I keep stored in my phone? For example I was at the hardware store getting a replacement lightbulb, only to find I didn't know which size to get. So I've now added a note with the sizes I use at home. \n\nThere must be other examples like this, I thought..." ]

[ "My roommate has her lock screen as all relevant medical information/ allergies, and an emergency contact number incase something happens & she's not wearing her bracelet.", "Your own clothing measurements can be helpful. For guys it's easy to forget neck size, sleeve length, various suit measurements, etc. You can typically go to any place that sells these things and get measured for free then just record your measurements for later use.\n\nIf you're a woman, you can keep your various sizes at each store you shop at because women's clothing sizes are complicated horseshit and I can't fathom how women buy clothes without carrying spreadsheets into the store.", "How to get in contact with you if you lose your phone, like an email address or alternate phone number.", "I have a photos folder that is filled with images of \"numbers\". I continue to add. \n\n- Recently I took a picture of my furnace because it has the filter size I need. \n\n- I took a picture of my lawn mower information tag so I would get the right oil filter and belts. \n\n- I took a picture of the inside of my printer that has a tag to show what size replacement ink \n\nI also have pictures of my reward cards - I don't bust my wallet with all of those things anymore. Some scanners can actually read them, but worst case scenario, the cashier keys in the numbers. ", "An address book entry called \"ICE In Case of Emergency.\" \n\nAnd have appropriate contact info in there. \n\nSo if you're in an accident and unresponsive your family can be notified. ", "A picture of your VIN (Vehicle Identification Number).\n\nIt might be useful to know the length and width of your phone in case you need to quick measure anything.", "Just think ahead next time. Take a pic of the bulb when it goes out so that you have it when you go to the store. ", "I don't go out to the stores very frequently, so anytime I notice I'm running low on something, I pop it into a list so I don't forget. If you find keeping track of light bulbs useful, maybe keeping track of what types of batteries items use would be good, too?", "At work, I have to deal with a lot of combination doorsets and padlocks, and I tend to forget those I don't use regularly. Rather than compromise security by writing them down on a piece of paper, I store them in my phone book, in a separate category, with names like Access Elevator Co., Seventh Room Ltd. and Warehouse Door Distributors. I add dummy digits to make them 10-digit numbers.", "Whenever my girlfriend shows any sign of liking something unique, I make a note of it for future birthday/valentines day gifts. \n\nHer:\"Oh you remembered!\" \nMe: Profit", "Opening hours of shops.\n\nIf the shop has unusual opening hours or you just cant remember them take a picture of the sign.", "i use evernote to save my jeeps maintenance logs. that way i can walk into the store and not have to worry about what filter/plug/oil/etc to get", "Window and room measurements, clothing sizes of people I'd buy clothes for (sisters, mom, dad, SO--other people should include their kids if they have them), list of brands/products I will never buy again, where I parked by car, photos of my insurance/registration/license plate number.", "I store a lot of stuff in Evernote, so I can get to it from my phone or computer. If there is a security issue I store the info in 1Password. It puts an extra password or 2 extra passwords on your sensitive data.\n\nSo, in Evernote: \n1. Room measurements in case I need to buy paint, rugs, blinds etc. Size of filter for furnace, type of vacuum cleaner bags, anything like that.\n2. Car information, License Plates, VIN number, Insurance number, tire sizes, fluid types, etc.\n3. Computer Info, Serial number, system specs in case I want to buy memory or peripherals, Software serial numbers, printer cartridge product numbers\n4. Wife's clothing sizes\n\n1Password:\n1. Personal and Financial info: Cr", "This is not for the phone, but I think it's very useful and relevant still. I keep a small paper of important phone numbers to call if I need help and my phone is dead. I don't have all my friends phone numbers memorized and so it has came in handy a couple of times. ", "Social, bank info (account and routing numbers), pictures of your family, home mailing address, your darkest secrets and a list of any crimes you've ever committed. \n\nPlus a bunch of nudes (see: pictures of your family).", "If you don't have a phone with internet access, your internet service provider's technical support number.", "I keep a few constantly fluctuating lists in my phone (in the notes section): \n\nTo Do \nGroceries \nClothing sizes for myself, my SO, and my family \nSongs I've heard and liked while I'm out and about/Books I want to read \nUsernames and passwords to all my frequented sites \nEmergency addresses \nBucket List \nDimensions of windows, doorways, etc. (for curtain shopping, frames, etc.) \n\nHope this helps!\n", "Be sure to keep your phone number in there in case you lose your phone, then someone can call you to return it.", "Two weeks ago I locked my keys in my car and my AAA card was in the glove box. I have since taken a picture of it.", "The non emergency police number\n\n\nmy car make model and license plate number\n\ncontact info for all my doctors\n\nemergency contact information\n\nhealth issues\n", "Serial numbers for commonly stolen stuff. tv's game systems, computers, guns. Then make sure it's backed up to the cloud so if your phone goes too you still have the stuff. When it turns up on a crime scene or in a pawn shop, then you get it back :D ", "One number I just added is the non-emergency line for reporting and hearing updates on power outages. ", "My smartphone has an option to call my emergency contacts on the lock screen window - so you don't need to get into the phone to know who to call.\n\nI have an Important Documents folder on my dropbox account that's synced to the phone also - driver's license, passport, info I might need at short notice are there.", "In the contact list a few numbers marked with ICE (In Case of Emergency) so the hospital knows who to inform. Medical informations and address on the Lockscreen, ICE too if you use a password. I also like to install the first aid app of the British Red Cross, can't hurt to have first aid Infos with you. In my city we get information about speed traps in the area per newspaper, I tend to write those into my calendar for obvious reasons. Shopping and to-do-lists are always good, Google keep is nice for that also supports photos and audio recording. I also have some photos of my drivers licence, passport,... Good enough to proof who I am if I have an accident. All my PC passwords are stored on the phone (keepass) because I keep forgetting them. I also stored the size of any case and pack on my motorcycle. So if I want to buy something I can make a quick measurement and check if I can transport it or have to ask a neighbour , I don't have a car btw. ", "I keep scans or pictures of my driver's license, insurance cards (auto, health), fishing license, passport, zoo membership, my tax returns, and my DD214 in Dropbox in case I ever need them. I can access them from my phone.\n\nIt has helped more times than I could count! I needed some for school paperwork, starting a new job, losing my wallet, etc.", "I keep a revolving note on my phone about random house maintenance. Bulbs, batteries, tape, and other generally slow moving consumables. If needed I add link or notes about type, size, and other attributes. Everything from bike tire sizes to car and house fuses are very handy to know. Basically any time I have been in your situation of not knowing what specific type of thing I need I add a new entry.", "Check out this link. I thought they covered this well. It doesn't help if you have information in your phone that no one can access if you're unconscious. I'm updating my wife's phone as well. Good job planning ahead!\n\nhttp://rnn10.wordpress.com/2010/06/21/how-to-set-up-an-ice-contact-on-your-iphone/\n", "* Email and/or Residential Address on lock screen\n* Save a copy of your city's map to your phone in case you get lost and can't use data/wifi. \n* Taxi number(s) \n* weight/distance/volume conversions (if your phone doesn't already do that)\n* pizza place(s) \n", "it's nice to have the first picture in your pics folder to be a \"this phone belongs to\" and then your address and email. most people are honest and will be happy to return it. if i found an iphone without identifying info, i would keep it. ", "Tax file number. If you're like me, you only look for it once a year and it's frustrating when you have to search for it. ", "Take a picture of the pages of your yearbook. So many times I run into people at the bar and forget their names.", "Put #TAXI in your contacts list. Dialing #TAXI on a cell phone will connect you with a local cab. Can be useful if you're in an unfamiliar place and need a ride.\n\nIt costs about $2.50 (I think) per use, so only use it if you're stuck - but it can come in handy!", "Keep the phone number for a 24 hour locksmith\n\nI locked myself out of my house at midnight once, and it was a total pain in the ass trying to find someone. \n\nActually I didn't have my phone, so that wouldn't have helped at the time, but I make a point of taking it now.", "I use 1password to store every password, number, account, licence etc. Savely encrypted.\n\nI use omnifocus and a GTD approach to store every idea, task and other bits of information. The key is to make data entry as easy as possible and make a habit out of putting everything in there. So, whenever I find myself needing some bits and pieces of information I know where to find it.\n\nAdditionally, a scan of every important document (birth certificate, medical information, car related stuff, employment, contracts, …) is saved in my dropbox. I use PDFPen pro to scan the documents and then apply OCR, so I can copy&paste pieces of information.", "I make notes in people's contact details when they mention something they like so that when their birthday/ xmas/ ect rolls around I have a nice big list of possible gifts, that I KNOW they like. I put everything, favourite wines, colours they like, movies, games, anything! ", "I keep a list of spices I have on hand for when I'm shipping at the supermarket, see a recipe, and need to find out what spices it calls for. ", "I have my parents and significant others labeled as who they are like Mother Jane, Wife Suzy that way if you god forbid get in an accident they know who to contact", "I have an album named Documents where I have pics of my passport, ID, etc. Also, I have a couple of contacts as AA Mom, AA Dad, AA Brother in case someone has to call someone in case of emergency.", "I have a contact called \"Accounts\" that has various account numbers (frequent flier, etc - not bank accounts) and another contact called \"Food\" that has numbers for all the places I frequently order from. ", "Evernote is AWESOME for storing all the info present in these comments. That way you can access it from anywhere (and you don't lose it all if something happens to your phone), oh and it's free! :D I use mine for *everything*. ", "Change the name of your emergency contact to \"ICE\" (In Case of Emergency). Paramedics/etc. check for \"ICE\" when something happens (or, so I've been told).", "Car info: license plate number, VIN, car model and year (if you're not a gearhead who just automatically knows that), tire size.\n\nHouse info: furnace filter size. As you mention, if you have any funky light fixtures, whatever you need to know to buy bulbs for them.", "A medic told me this: have an emergency number stored under HOME, MOM/MUM, WIFE or\tICE. These are the first numbers searched for by police or hospitals. Regardless of if it's your home or mum, store your emergency numbers here. \n\nICE = In Case of Emergency.\n\nYou can also but ICE bracelets, wristbands and, better yet, thumb drives online. " ]

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[ "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity.", "How do you stay motivated and productive? I am a freshmen in college, and looking for some tips on how i could improve my productivity." ]

[ "Combination of many things you acquire throughout life and learning. Exercise, routine, discipline, committment, mental health.", "Tips inspired by Getting Things Done by David Allen\n* If it takes less than 2 minutes, just do it now\n* Get a to-do list you trust and will actually use \n* Put everything you need to do on your to-do list\n* Only read email once - reply, flag for follow up, save, or delete", "Decouple motivation and productivity. You're a human being, its normal for you to have days where you don't feel motivated to do things. The other side of the coin is that you're a human being, you're not obligated to always listen to your feelings. We've developed the ability to overcome feelings like fear, uncertainty, apathy that would freeze most creatures in their tracks and take action anyway.\n\nDo that here. Don't just act because the motivation happens to be there at the right time. Choose to act when you need to, regardless of whether you feel motivated or not. Assert agency in your own decisions. You own your feelings, they don't own you.", "Short version: good music and short reachable goals\n\nI have no studies to link but I've read several of them that shows instrumental music (music with no lyrics) helps us focus and retain information more efficiently. Personally I like \"film noir\" music or \"fantasy tavern\" music.\n\nI dont know why but people tend to get satisfaction from completing a task, and it is even better when you can physically cross something off a list because now you can see the progress. As far as reachable goals, you'll have to trial and error a bit but break down bigger tasks into smaller steps.\n\nFor example, I have to write an essay. Well instead \"write essay\" as your task, maybe you break it down into smaller tasks like: pick a topic and decide on the message of my essay, write an outline with 3 main ideas about my topic and message, research the three main ideas that support my message, research one idea that opposes my message, write a rough draft, review draft and fix as necessary, write second draft, fix grammar, read draft out loud, fix and final mistakes, wrote final draft.\n\nThis way you can mark off a few tasks, take a break and do something else, then come back. This is how I do it anyway.", "Focus on what’s important in your studies. The professor will often give hints of what is important for the assignment or exam. If not, visit the professor or TA during office hours. Ask a relevant question, but be sure to ask what’s most important. Then focus your time there. This will be true in your working life/career - find that which creates the most value and focus on it. Avoid the unnecessary.", "As a Freshman you are not motivated?? \nYes underclass requirements same as HS\n Pick a major you are good at and hopefully enjoy\nMaking a living over 40+ years CAN be fun, usually it isnt... Your choice how you earn a living and what you want to do with it. Try different things learn a language proficiently and sign language. Practice your hobby too", "Make a YouTube channel and post your everyday life, the feedback will give you lots of motivation, and you’ll help lots of people with college life" ]

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[ "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped.", "Getting rid of the rings under my eyes I feel like the rings under my eyes are darker than any one else around me, are there any ways to get rid of these or tone them down without makeup? I've tried getting more sleep, but that hasn't really helped." ]

[ "Allergy tests! Doc said he could tell my son was allergic to something based solely on his dark under eyes. ", "Put a cold spoon in the freezer for a couple minutes. Then press it to your under eye circles and they will disappear or drastically reduce. The coldnes of the spoon makes the skin tighten.", "I had this problem come and go throughout my life. It always seemed weird that I would just get bags under my eyes when other times in my life I had such light and smooth eye area. I started getting into psychology more, and am starting my practice up of life coaching, and realized that this was due to stress in my life. It hit all areas of my life as I was nervous and anxious more often then normal.\n\nSo, look at your circumstances and see if you are overly stressed or feel overloaded. Stress and overload happen when we take on too much and feel like we don't have a choice. \n\nIf you say yes to much and take on more than you need at work, are working two jobs because you have to pay rent or in a relationship where you are suffering because you don't want to say no to the other person to cut it off this might be a reason you have bags under your eyes.\n\nHope this helps!\nChaz\n", "Crushed mint leaves and cucumber. leave on for about 20 minutes. \n\nAlso drinking mint and cucumber juice or tomato juice with mint, lemon, and salt. These give your body the vitamins your skin needs.", "Try taking a B-complex vitamin, worked for me. I find the bags under my eyes were worse when constipated.", "Make sure you're moisturizing the skin around your eyes. There are also some eye creams/gels that claim to reduce under-eye bags, but I haven't tried any of them and don't know if they work or not. ", "It's her", "If you're looking into makeup to cover your dark circles, try using a corrector AND concealer. Corrector will cancel out the colour you're trying to hide and concealer will even out the skin tone. Ex. Green will cancel out redness, yellow will cancel out purples, and oftentimes a peachy colour in tackling eyebags works well! When you choose your concealer try to match it to your normal skintone - anybody working at a makeup counter/the cosmetic department in a drugstore should be able to help. \n\nIf all else fails, try checking out /r/makeupaddiction for more help! (I'm on mobile so can't add the link) ", "i recently was told potato slices change the pigment of ur skin to white. havent tried it yet tho myself!", "First of all, moisturize every day. Make sure allergies aren't the cause of the dark circles less also. \n\nFor covering them, take a colored corrector the opposite color of your circles and apply it, dab a tiny bit of regular concealer over that, the lightly powder. ", "5 second google search: https://www.google.ca/search?q=Getting+rid+of+the+rings+under+my+eyes&rlz=1C1GIGM_enCA520CA520&oq=Getting+rid+of+the+rings+under+my+eyes&aqs=chrome..69i57j69i61&sourceid=chrome&es_sm=122&ie=UTF-8" ]

[ 11, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, -6 ]

[ "How to get small amounts of wax out of clothing (silk)? My boyfriend and I did a brazillian on me a couple weeks ago. I ran around butt naked for a few hours because I heard wearing clothing right after risked ingrown hairs. I wasn't able to shower after the brazillian before I had to go, so I had little bit of wax still on me. It was our first time ever doing it so it was a little messy.\n\nAnyways, does anyone know how to get wax out of fake-silk panties? I would really appreciate it now and for future uses. If anyone knows of a clothing subreddit that would be able to answer this easier, I can x-post it there too!\n\nThanks everyone!", "How to get small amounts of wax out of clothing (silk)? My boyfriend and I did a brazillian on me a couple weeks ago. I ran around butt naked for a few hours because I heard wearing clothing right after risked ingrown hairs. I wasn't able to shower after the brazillian before I had to go, so I had little bit of wax still on me. It was our first time ever doing it so it was a little messy.\n\nAnyways, does anyone know how to get wax out of fake-silk panties? I would really appreciate it now and for future uses. If anyone knows of a clothing subreddit that would be able to answer this easier, I can x-post it there too!\n\nThanks everyone!" ]

[ "Take a piece of parchment paper put it over the wax. Then iron it. The wax will melt and u just have to wipe it off before it dries again.", "You can take a paper towel and put the iron on its lowest heat setting. Then put the paper towel over the wax and just run the iron over it. The wax will come right out." ]

[ 3, 2 ]

[ "How to grill meats After my wife and I got married I quickly realized that I haven't the faintest clue how to BBQ anything. I've never done it before and it's kind of embarrassing that I don't possess this manly trait naturally. I'm grilling turkey burgers for some friends in a few hours and I want it to turn out well. I am generally flipping them constantly/cutting them open to check their insides. Obviously this leads to pretty dry burgers as all the fat and grease drain out along with the flavor. \n\nI'm also interested in various other meats as well. ", "How to grill meats After my wife and I got married I quickly realized that I haven't the faintest clue how to BBQ anything. I've never done it before and it's kind of embarrassing that I don't possess this manly trait naturally. I'm grilling turkey burgers for some friends in a few hours and I want it to turn out well. I am generally flipping them constantly/cutting them open to check their insides. Obviously this leads to pretty dry burgers as all the fat and grease drain out along with the flavor. \n\nI'm also interested in various other meats as well. ", "How to grill meats After my wife and I got married I quickly realized that I haven't the faintest clue how to BBQ anything. I've never done it before and it's kind of embarrassing that I don't possess this manly trait naturally. I'm grilling turkey burgers for some friends in a few hours and I want it to turn out well. I am generally flipping them constantly/cutting them open to check their insides. Obviously this leads to pretty dry burgers as all the fat and grease drain out along with the flavor. \n\nI'm also interested in various other meats as well. ", "How to grill meats After my wife and I got married I quickly realized that I haven't the faintest clue how to BBQ anything. I've never done it before and it's kind of embarrassing that I don't possess this manly trait naturally. I'm grilling turkey burgers for some friends in a few hours and I want it to turn out well. I am generally flipping them constantly/cutting them open to check their insides. Obviously this leads to pretty dry burgers as all the fat and grease drain out along with the flavor. \n\nI'm also interested in various other meats as well. " ]

[ "Preheat the grill on med-high and then turn down to medium maybe medium low just before you put your meat on.\n\nDO NOT FLIP OFTEN!!! You want the meat to get that nice char-grilled flavor so it's important to leave the meat be.\n\nGet a grill thermometer so you don't have to check for pink. Put the thermometer into the center of the burger and when it's 165 you're ready to go. \n \nWhen forming burger-patties, thinner is better. If you go too thick you get strange meatball looking patties that ooze juice all over the place and ruin the bun. If you want thicker patties make sure make the sides thicker than the center. \n\nPut cheese on them about 30 seconds before you pull them off of the grill. \n\n(I'm a vegetarian, but I also went to cooking school and BBQ'd quite a bit of meat for myself and others before I stopped eating animal products. )", "Grilling is a real broad subject, so lets start with turkey burgers. \n\n-A great rule for any meat is to let it come up to room temperature before you grill it. \n\n-Don't mix salt into the meat before you patty them, always salt the outside shortly before you cook. (Other seasonings inside the mix are fine, salt in the mix will make em dry out)\n\n-Clean the grill well and oil the grates with a towel just before you start cooking. (You can pan spray the outside of the patty to really ensure no stickage)\n\n-Turkey burgers are notoriously hard to keep moist, as the ratio of lean to fat is usually pretty high. (90:10 or 95:5) You can counteract that by adding fat (bacon?!) but then you might as well go with a good ole 80:20 beef burger.\n\n-Keep flipping, poking, prodding to a minimum. (Sounds like you intuitively knew that) Ideally you flip it once. This takes a little experience and practice to feel confident. You can temp it with a meat thermometer (160 is the standard but keep in mind it will rise about 5 degrees after you pull it) but its hard to get a good read on a thin ground patty. It should feel firm to the touch but not hard...this just got erotic my apologies. Hard to explain, but a little practice and you'll get it.\n\n-I usually try to doctor up turkey burgers with a fatty cheese and spicy veggies to make up for the lean patty. \n\nHope that helps! Be there in 15 don't overcook mine.", "Never flip more than 2 times at most, aim for only 1 flip. A good way to tell when to flip is when the meat starts to look cooked 1/2 -3/4 of the way up the sides it is time to flip. A good way to grill successfully is to prep while the grill is heating up, lay all your meat out and season it and cover it ahead of time. If you are cutting your meat open a lot get a cheep meat thermometer from the store it will keep your meat juicy while being safe, if you get one cook your meat to 5-10 degrees less than the recommended temp, while it sits on the serving plate it will keep cooking internally to the right temp, this avoids over cooking. \n\nWhen you want to cook beef a good way to do cooking times is in a very hot grill 5-7 minutes per side will be rare-medium rare. If you are buying good beef always cook it as rare as you can handle with out being grossed out it makes for a better experience while eating, beef is safe to eat at any temp above 130, at 130 it will be extremely rare, I like mine at 140. \n\nWhen you cook any white meats on a grill always check donenes with a thermometer or by cutting it open, its easy to get sick off of white meats that are cold inside. \n\nIf you want any more tips or tricks pm me I will be glad to reply to any questions you have.", "I watch this show on Create tv and it has some great ideas on cooking.\n\nhttp://www.americastestkitchen.com/recipes/index.php" ]

[ 5, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?", "Running cables from one room to the other neatly. I live in an apartment so I cannot go through the walls. What's the neatest way to run say Ethernet cables from one room to the other via floor or ceiling that doesn't scream, \"Hey, check out all of these ugly wires going everywhere!\" I need function while still making my place look nice, what have some of you done?" ]

[ "somthing like [this](http://www.amazon.com/TP-LINK-TL-PA4010KIT-Powerline-Adapter-Starter/dp/B00AWRUICG/ref=sr_1_1/177-9954195-0102262?ie=UTF8&qid=1407784210&sr=8-1&keywords=ethernet+over+powerline+kit) could help depending on your need. All the fun of having ethernet in the wall except for cutting of drywall.", "If you have carpet you can try pushing the cables under the baseboards with a putty knife. In my old apt I had enough room to wedge a cat5 cable and 16 gauge speaker wire for both channels. Kind of a pain in the ass going around corners and door frames though", "I do part time work building structured cable environments, ethernet and telephone mostly.\n\nThe best way is to run it along where the floor meets the wall, (as many have pointed out already) sometimes you can tuck it under the rug. Under doors there is usually a protector screwed to the floor, you can run the cables under that, too.\n\ntip: Don't set the ethernet cables close to power cables or electric appliances, these may cause connection issues.", "Get longer than necessary cables and make [abstract art](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-7zLTYvvYRfo/TkBbZ3gBagI/AAAAAAAARt8/TUP6HcUP-MU/s1600/Screen%2Bshot%2B2011-08-08%2Bat%2B2.54.04%2BPM.png) out of them ", "Running them along where the wall meets the ceiling or where the wall meets the floor and then covering them tightly with tape that matches the color works well. If you're feeling really fancy, you could run a decorated piece of PVC pipe (paint it or buy it pre decorated) through the same path and then just run whatever wires you want through that. You can even add or remove specific wires without having to undo anything.", "I install these at offices and homes that otherwise would require messy construction/and or landlord issue.\n\nhttp://www.electriduct.com/Locking-Channels-Wire-Clips.html", "I have to do this quite often. Basically you want the cables to not be damaged, to stay put, and to not be seen. I really like masking tape. It's easy to take down and change without leaving residue. If there's moulding on your floor of the appropriate shape, the top of the moulding is an awesome place. There's already a visual line there. Corners, where the floor meets the wall, etc are good. Masking tape helps you keep the cables straight to match existing lines.\n\nEthernet cables(when not being used with power over Ethernet) are generally safe, but I still wouldn't want them under a rug, with the exception of if a rug is up against the edge of a room I wouldn't hesitate to run them along that edge, because very few people make a point to step an inch away from a wall.\n\nIf you run something other than small data cables of course be very careful because many fires are caused by a wrong use of extension cords. You live in an apartment and probably can't anyway but don't staple an extension cord to a wall. The staple can go through the insulation and turn into a very bad time.\n\nEthernet cables come in colors, so that's something to think about too.\n\nThey make various tubes and things for running cables through that are sometimes less ugly than a cable. The most common is split loom, but that only works with multiple cables because a black plastic tube is worse than one thin cable.", "How good are you at patching drywall?\n\nI had one apartment where the \"Study\" had no cable or phone jack. An inconvenience for placing my modem/router, for sure. There was a bedroom the next room over that had these. Very low to the baseboard in the corner, I drilled a small hole through the wall and ran the necessary cables through it. I used 1\" desk grommets on either side of the hole. The landlord would have had to have moved a desk in one room and a dresser in the other to see it, so I felt safe. I just made sure to patch the holes when I moved out, and do a really good job of it. You couldn't tell what I'd ever done." ]

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[ "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?", "How to remove blackheads (nose) I have got a lot of blackheads on my nose and therefore search for a natural way to get rid of them. They are almost invisible, but they seem to redden my nose. Any helpful tips?" ]

[ "[Be sure they're *actually* blackheads before you remove them.](http://customskinsolutions.wordpress.com/2012/07/06/the-truth-about-blackheads/)", "When you \"remove\" them you're really only pulling out a part of the blackhead plug. Its satisfying as fuck, but a temporary fix. Try applying a salcylic acid product daily to get rid of them. Something gentle, without alcohol!", "I know it isn't \"natural\" but man are pore strips awesome. [You will be shocked, fascinated, and vaguely disgusted by the result](http://xkcd.com/777/).\n\nA good exfoliant scrub will help too, and there's lots of tutorials online for how to make a natural one at home.", "[Gelatine+Milk+Microwave](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bjOB4zS0uE), tried it myself a while back and it works like a charm! Havn't looked back at pore strips once. :)", "You might consider the Oil Cleansing method. It sounds counter productive, but in reality it's amazing for black heads and acne prone skin. You use a skin friendly oil, like hemp seed oil, olive oil, castor oil (usually mixed with another skin friendly oil) and massage it into your face for minute, then steam it off with a hot wash cloth for a minute (pink, not painful skin). I follow up with witch hazel to get the remnants of oil off and then I use unrefined Shea butter (not acne causing) to moisturize. ", "scrub your nose (small circular motion) with a toothbrush with toothpaste on it. Wash your face/the toothbrush afterwards though. ", "http://www.amazon.com/Revlon-Stainless-Steel-Blackhead-Remover/dp/B0017KCPU0\n\nthis, biore strips, and a clarisonic (or similar product) with a salcylic acid based acne wash and a moisturizing regiment", "exfoliate!!!!! Get a good scrub with real mineral crystals not that fake gel beads that don't do anything. Exfoliate every morning. If they are still bad consider getting a weekly peel. Something like an enzyme peel with pineapples And papaya really eats away bacteria gently to open pores. ", "It's not a perfect fix, but I've had more luck with this than store-bought peel strips.\n\nIsolate the egg white from an egg. Peel a strip of dry paper towel that fits to your nose. Saturate it in the egg white, place on your nose, and let dry. It doesn't rip up the skin like the store-bought strips and it gets rid of a few. It's not overly invasive so it shouldn't cause much harm if any.", "Honey mask. Smear some honey on your face then pat all over with your fingertips. The honey will stick to your fingers and will give a slight pull on your skin. Leave it on for ten minutes, then pat all over again and rinse. It won't immediately remove all the blackheads but if you keep it up one day you'll notice they're gone. \nAlternatively, a Clarisonic with the deep pore brush works great.", "Have a shower (warm, obviously) and you can gently push out the clogged yellowy stuff. You can use your fingernail (softened in the shower) to 'push in' near the area. I do this every so often and have no scars on my nose. All the stuff about capillary damage might be true although my nose seems completely fine... \nIf you're not comfortable using your nail you can buy these blackhead removal instruments which is basically a metal stick with a hole at the end which you push around the blackhead. Just be gentle and you'll be fine. ", "Elmer glue.\n\nIt works. Apply the glue, wait for it to dry. Now stand in front of the mirror, and slowly peel off the \"skin\" and watch the blackheads go away. You might have to do it a couple of times to get it all, though I wouldn't recommend back to back applications. Moisturize after doing it once and try it the next day.", "But you CAN do something about them. The blog itself states:\n\n\"A blackhead can be extracted and disappear...\"\n\nMy plan of attack is to squeeze gently after thorough cleansing (when pores are nice and soft), then apply something topical. My life seriously changed when I found this [natural clay mask](http://www.amazon.com/Zion-Health-Clay-Mask-Cleanser/dp/B003BF2GC6) and now I've taken my artillery to my boyfriend's face. Girlfriends, press on...!", "take a hot steamy shower and then once you get out squeeze the shit out of your nose. and it will get the entire blackhead out." ]

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[ "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?", "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?", "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?", "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?", "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?", "How to be less of a picky eater I've always considered myself a picky eater, seeing as most of what I eat is comfort food. But I never really realized how bad it was until just recently. \n\nLately, whenever me and my family go on a trip (especially long distance), they always joke about inventing \"ThatBroadcasterGuy-chow\" that \"he will always eat when offered to him\". My mother plans meals around my food preferences. Finally, whenever we go out to eat, I have to decide where we eat, even though I shouldn't be the one making the decision. This has embarrassed me beyond belief, now that I know just how bad my pickiness is, and I am fed up with it.\n\nSo, how can I become less of a picky eater?" ]

[ "Try new foods in restaurants. They are less likely to botch the dish, which could turn you off from the new food in question for a long time. Hopefully they do a good job, because it's important that the food is not misrepresented. (I discourage trying this at Applebee's, Olive Garden, or the like.)\n\nMake sure you order an entree that's within your comfort zone. Then, pick an appetizer that seems interesting to you, but pushes your limits. Let your family (or whoever) know that you're getting it for the sake of stepping out, have them share with you. (Bonus points if they're willing to share a little portion of whatever they ordered for you to try!) Taste, chew, and swallow at least one portion of the appetizer. Don't make yourself eat more if you're not into it, but give it a second and think about what you just ate: What aspects did you like about it? How is it sitting in your stomach? Was it nourishing? What spices or seasoning are you picking up on?\n\nYou might not even process that you liked it right then. Maybe the next day or even the next week, you might reflect back on that meal and subconsciously want the new food. We get stuck in the trap of saying things like \"I don't like beets\", or \"Quiche just really freaks me out\", and then we start gagging before it even comes near our mouths. When you take a little bite of the food in question, you're challenging that mindset in a very physical way. \n\nTaste is one of the five senses. Trying a new food and being totally open to it is just like listening to a song for the first time, or petting a dog and feeling how soft or course its fur is. There's no risk in any of it, and that's the part to remember.", "Take something that you like, and start trying variations on it that push the limits. Once you are able to create a positive association with one flavor or texture of a new food, it will become much easier to like the new food. One example would be sprinkling a little bit of curry powder on scrambled eggs in the morning. It wouldn't be a big change to flavor, but after you do it a few times, you should find that other things with curry flavor are naturally more familiar and acceptable to your palette.", "Go away to college and be broke. You'd be surprised the amount of food you wouldn't normally eat because it's free and you're broke. ", "I found that a lot of the foods I didn't like when I was younger (lima beans, yellow mustard, for example) I do like now. Maybe start trying some of those foods you remember disliking since childhood.\n\nI also found that when I eliminated meat from my diet, in an effort to gain necessary nutrients, I HAD to eat certain foods I didn't like (chickpeas, tofu, etc.). Knowing that I needed them helped me find ways to prepare them so I could tolerate them. I'm not saying eliminate meat and force yourself to the food you don't like. But maybe find some benefits of the food you don't like, and see if there's a way to make it tolerable and reap those benefits.", "Also, don't try something once and decide you don't like it. It takes a few tries of something to get used to it. Like cramduck said, mix it with something you like. Look up other recipes that include the ingredient, and try it in various ways to get used to the taste and texture. ", "...Just eat the food. You didn't even explain why you are picky. It just sounds like you refuse to eat certain things. So...stop refusing." ]

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[ "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please.", "How to find places to meet people that doesn't involve drinking or gambling (I.E. No Bars, No Casinos) I am quite literally a hermit. I dunno where to go to meet people where alcohol or gambling isn't involved. Help me out, please." ]

[ "Meetup.com is a place to find a variety of shared types of interests + events and not all of these occur in casinos or bars! For instance, our local libraries each have Meetups -- I've been to art classes and book enthusiast groups. (I have also met some weird/unpleasant people, but you run that risk just leaving the house, so that's p normal.)", "Rock climbing gyms are dramatically more social than regular gyms. You could also join the Crossfit Cult. ;-)\n\nMeetup.com, hiking clubs, and \"kickball\" groups (the latter being a silly way to meet fun-loving people and go drinking with them afterward). Oh, and if you *really* want to meet a lot of people, travel and stay in hostels. I met more people in a few months of traveling than I had in the prior decade of regular life.\n", "Everyone has posted the standard things. Another good go to is taking a class of somesort.\n\nLike a kayacking class, or a cooking class etc. Join a rec sports league. Anything that gets you out like once a week to be around the same group of people over and over. You naturally make friends quickly that way.\n\nIt can be daunting to do at first because you know no one but youll quickly get to know people as you all share a common goal in the class/sport. Dont worry if you suck at whatever it is. As long as its a recreational league or a intro class no ones going to care that you suck. Others there will likely even suck worse.", "Life drawing/ plein air painting. This gets you out of your comfort zone, you meet some people and it's quite relaxing. Meeting people through playing games and inviting the group to have lunch also appears to work for me. If you use forums related to an interest you have, they might have meetings, dinners and even vacations.", "If youre any kind of geek at all, go to a Con. Especially a big one, like Dragon-Con or SD Comiccon.", "Conventions (horror, anime, comic book, gaming, etc. etc.) are great because it's a bunch of people who share your interests.\n\nLikewise stores/hobby shops of stuff you like are great ways to meet new people.\n\nLibrary or book stores also count, if you like reading. ", "Church is pretty good.\n\nWork is also pretty good. If you can get work in retail or high people traffic workplaces they're fantastic because they don't have a choice but to see and talk to you. Call centre work (insurance etc) is generally good because they take on a lot of younger people (20's) because of approachability." ]

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[ "How to be not awkward with your old friends and not regret what you think you should've done after meeting them. ", "How to be not awkward with your old friends and not regret what you think you should've done after meeting them. " ]

[ "You should clear up the wording a little. Sounds like you need some things in your tool belt to help you relax a little in social situations. I try to keep my attention on one conversation at a time and make sure I spend time getting the people I'm with talking about themselves. My wording isn't much better haha ", "Step 1 Ask questions, people usually love to talk about themselves. \n\nStep 2, just as important, LISTEN to what he/she is saying. \n\nStep 3 (optional) relate to something they have mentioned. Find some common interest. Or even something you disagree with (not in an argumentative way, more like a lighthearted debate)\n\nStep 4, talk about that time you banged so and so's mom. \n\nStep 5, go ahead and start drinking that 2nd 40oz. Pull out your bong and take a few more rips. \n\nStep 6, sit back and relax, you have a good buzz going, uncomfortable silence? Put some music on. Or pull out your guitar, plug it into the amp, crank up the distortion, and go nuts for 10-30 minutes. Even if you don't know how to play guitar. Don't worry, they are your friends, you have nothing to prove. \n\n\n\n" ]

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[ "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!", "graduating college: advice, tips, what you wish you knew hi, everyone. thanks for stopping by. i’ll be graduating college soon, and i will be joining the workforce soon after that. i would really love to hear any advice, tips, or things you wish you had known before stepping into adulthood. thank you all, and be well!" ]

[ "The biggest shock to me leaving college was the sudden loss of social life. I still had friends and went out after work, but I was no longer surrounded by a group of peers all the time. I’m not sure if covid changed a lot of that for you, but I know that first year starting a job and moving into a new place I went from having dozens of friends to having a couple I could actually spend time with. It’s part of life, but be prepared and be comfortable spending more time with yourself. I wish someone had given me that heads up, because it can drive a person into some dark places.", "Assuming you’re lucky enough to have a job lined up at the time you graduate, do not make your start date immediately after graduation ceremony. \n\nFrom here forward in your life, taking 4-6 weeks off from work without serious financial implications (and/or guilt) isn’t going to happen until you’re much later in your career, maybe not until retirement. \n\nI’m not necessarily saying take a grand vacation and put yourself in the broke house, but try to enjoy 4-6 weeks of time with family/friends. Road trip across the country to stay with those cousins you haven’t seen since you were 12. Try to hike every trail in your local/nearest parks. Clean out your stuff from your parents basement, etc.. Whatever it is, don’t start working right away if you can afford it. Classes suck. Working sucks. But being 22/23 and having a summer break rocks.", "Do your best. Don't complain. You won't have much money but travel. Once you get married and have kids you won't. It doesn't hurt to try and fail. People on their deathbed will tell you life is short. It is. Keep in touch with your true friends. You'll know they are true friends because they will go out of their way to help you. Ask yourself \"if the situation was reversed would they do xxxx for me?\". That's a good guide. Don't be afraid to try new things. If you're a little uncomfortable in new situations you're doing it right. Ask out the pretty girl. You'll be glad you did even if she says no. Try to eat healthy. Call your parents. Don't text them. Save money for the future but live in the present.", "Time will fly way faster than you think. Be responsible in your studies, but take the time to party and make awesome memories, those are the ones you'll remember later.", "Live as far below your means as you can. We made sure we stayed within our budget from college times (at least within another 10 or 15%) when we started our jobs post college. We are thankful we did as we went through downsizing, losing jobs, unemployment, having to relocate to find work in our fields. Too many college graduates go crazy buying new cars and renting high price apartments to show off right as they get their first paychecks then wonder why they can't save anything or be prepared for when something goes wrong.", "Definitely save money early. A job that you like is better than a well-paying job that makes you cry on Sunday nights.", "I graduated last May so I only have a year of experience to speak on but here's the things that caught me off guard/advice.\n1. Either you or your friends will move away and you'll only have a couple college friends you stay in touch with. It sucks. \n2. Like the others have said if you're lucky enough to have a job lined up, try to take at least a week off minimum before starting. I worked at a mechanic shop for most of college, finished my two weeks there after graduating, had Sunday off, and started at my new job the next day. Would've been nice to have some time to do things I had been putting off and enjoy life a little before starting.\n3. Probably the most important thing I've found is right after you graduate you'll think \"wow I don't have any homework or anything to do, I have so much free time!\" If you spend this newfound free time watching Netflix or doing other pointless time killing things, it will soon feel like you don't have any free time again. It's crazy to me to think that a year ago I was waking up at 6, going to work, then immediately going to campus to work on school projects until 12-2 in the morning and then doing it all again the next day. Now I go to work, go to the gym, go home and do nothing.\n4. No one cares what your GPA was or if you even have a degree it seems. I got my bachelor's in mechanical engineering and was proud of that as well as my GPA. Literally no one has asked me about either, including in the interview process. Just seems weird to me that I could have lied about having a degree and been totally fine. \n5. I changed my mind, this is probably the most important thing. My best advice would be to live like you've been living in college. I still try to eat as cheap as possible and haven't splurged on things like a new car or vacations like most of my classmates did. My monthly spending has gone up maybe 300 dollars since graduating. I've been able to save a ton of money and almost pay off my student loans completely. You've made it this far without those unnecessary things/ eating out every day / brand new car, why not keep doing it and get out of debt sooner? Still treat yourself obviously just be smart about it. \n\nGood luck and congrats on graduating!", "to everyone who has commented so far, thank you so much for engaging with this. i’ve loved hearing all of your tips and advice. i truly appreciate it :)", "Making friends as an adult can be genuinely difficult and I never took it seriously when people warned me about it. If you have longer term close friends from college, keep them close!" ]

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[ "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n", "Peeing in public So recently i started having issues peeing at public restrooms, urinals etc. Before this problem ocurred, i had, like i believe many of you do, experienced trouble when peeing in public, but only from time to time, nothing big. \n\nIt started a couple of months ago, and i just can´t pee when people are watching. I go around and hold it in all day so im sure i can pee but when i go to the toilet nothing comes out. \n\nThe worst scenario happened today. I was at the restroom. I was alone, and i peed normally. Half way into peeing, someone walks in, and i immediatly stop peeing, and can´t start again. \n\nI really need help with this, because going to the actual toilet just to piss is kinda embarrasing. \n\n" ]

[ "When peeing in public you must first pull your penis through your zipper. Then walk up to a bush and push your junk into it slightly. Get it comfortable because at this point you need to go hands free. As you are doing this also pretend to be picking berries thus giving the illusion that youre just picking berries and not publicly urinating\n\n\n", "The second you whip it out multiply large numbers e.g. 736*1476.... It'll just flow;-) Works every time! This answer was on here a few times before and worked for me from day 1.", "I used to have this problem. Probably not the greatest advice but whenever I was drunk I never had issues with this, so naturally I (while drunk) decided the more places I pee with people around that it'll get easier when sober. ", "Here is Randall Munroe talking about how he solved his public urination problem:\n\nhttps://youtu.be/zJOS0sV2a24?t=14m20s", "Remember, no one can really tell if you're peeing or not. Furthermore, no one really cares. Do you remember anything specific about the last person you peed next to? They don't remember you, either. ", "It is no different than performance anxiety.\n\nSo remind yourself that its not a performance. You aren't there to put on a performance for anyone.", "Practice outside with these 6 helpful techniques and then restrooms will be easy PEEsy\nhttp://youtu.be/GPl94ir6dLw", "Mine comes and goes. \n\nThinking about it itself creates some of the anxiety. \n\nWhat works (60,70% of the time?) is looking away from other people. I tend to focus on a speck/but of dirt or something on a wall, and just stare at it, and talk aloud in your own head like a conversation with yourself about that spot\n\n\"Huh. Spot of dirt\"\n\"Yeah spot of dirt\"\n\"Someone should clean that\"\n\"Maybe they were too tired?\"\n\"Or too short\"\n\"Why don't you do it?\"\n\"Because I have pottery class in the morning\"\n\"...so?\"\n\nThe point is that distraction helped. However, my problem was only ever with starting. I've never stopped mid flow.\n\nHope it helps.", "Just go into the stall, sit down, relax and let the ~~spice~~ piss flow. There's absolutely no reason to be ashamed for using the stall to pee.\n\nYou'll probably never completely overcome the discomfort of peeing with someone able to see you, so why not negate the issue altogether?", "Use a stall. Think about and pretend you're pissing on someone you hates face, that always works for me.", "The math thing really works. You can also just add two three-digit numbers, and then add another to the total, and so on...that part of the brain just interferes with the inhibition reaction somehow.", "I had the same problem for a few weeks, I know this will not be helpful to all. But everytime I start to get nervous, I remind myself that nobody cares in the bathroom. Everyone is there to get whatever unspeakable done. They don't care about you so you shouldn't care about them.", "Well it's all mental. I just relax, and that usually does the trick. Have you ever in any situation realized you were tensed up and were able to relax and let the tension go? I think that's what's happening—or not happening for you—at the urinal.", "I used to have this problem too. You just have to find something to distract yourself with when you pee. I think someone else mentioned multiplying large numbers in your head. You can do that, or look for small things around the bathroom. Maybe count the tiles on the wall or checking out what brand the urinal is.", "I get pee fright too. Flush the toilet, count dots on the wall (or boogers, you'd be surprised how many you find when they're pointed out). The problem is you're focusing on peeing, and of course you have pee-fright so that makes you self conscious and the whole thing is a self feeding cycle. \n\nUse a stall. Just remember other people have way bigger bathroom problems than you (catheters, bags, etc...). Nobody gives a shit what you do in a stall as long as you're out in a few minutes.\n", "As soon as another person walks in, turn around and start thrusting in the air. They should hopefully leave and you'll be able to continue peeing.", "Also suffer from this. I recently started counting-floor tiles, seconds, whatever. Usually by 50 I can relax enough to go. God bless public single-use bathrooms though.", "When I encountered situations where I was nervous about attention being on me, it helped to remember two things:\n1) If it was something like a presentation, it was something everyone had to do.\n2) If I somehow screwed up in public (tripping, dropping something, etc.,) I thought of how I react when someone else does it: I notice for like half a second and have forgotten in about ten.\n\nThe overarching point is that strangers (and heck, even many acquaintances) wholeheartedly do not care. You aren't special or even a spectacle to them, especially not when you're doing something everyone else has to do. The only time you really have eyes/ears on you in public is if you're doing something unexpected (e.g. you trip,) and the only time they'll be judging you is if you're doing something truly out of the ordinary. Peeing is neither of those things.\n\nI'm not sure if this will help, since I've never used a urinal, but I hope it does. Good luck!", "This works for me every time: focus on the metal piping. Consider the immense pressure of the water in the pipe, straining to get out, but only you will release it. Visualize the trapped water further and further back in the pipe always pushing towards the valve. Always works. ", "I pretend I am Obama, and Joe Biden is in the toilet. Biden is begging me to wash away his white guilt. Works every time. I wouldn't want to leave old Joe hanging. ", "I have this silly friend that I visualize as a goaltender and I'm trying to score a goal with my piss. That works for me. Also, holding your breath.", "What I do in parks or places like that is go to a sewer drain. Plank. Whip it out casually while planking and no one knows it just looks like you are being a weirdo but it's better than a public urination ticket ", "This worked for someone I know...\n\nKeep a few empty Gatorade bottles in your car. Try to get yourself to pee in the bottle while you are driving- this has the effect of exposing you to public peeing while removing the pressure since no one knows what you're up to. If you master the ability to pee in a Gatorade bottle while driving your car, you'll soon be able to pee in public restrooms." ]

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[ "How can I prevent my tires from getting slashed? In the past few months, my tires have been slashed twice. My car is the only one on my street getting targeted. What can I do for prevention? \n\nI have to park on a side street because my apartment buidling has limited parking and even that is uncovered outside. There aren't any parking garages around to use. I can't afford to keep paying for replacements so open to suggestions.", "How can I prevent my tires from getting slashed? In the past few months, my tires have been slashed twice. My car is the only one on my street getting targeted. What can I do for prevention? \n\nI have to park on a side street because my apartment buidling has limited parking and even that is uncovered outside. There aren't any parking garages around to use. I can't afford to keep paying for replacements so open to suggestions.", "How can I prevent my tires from getting slashed? In the past few months, my tires have been slashed twice. My car is the only one on my street getting targeted. What can I do for prevention? \n\nI have to park on a side street because my apartment buidling has limited parking and even that is uncovered outside. There aren't any parking garages around to use. I can't afford to keep paying for replacements so open to suggestions." ]

[ "for now: \nused tires \nmaybe innertubes instead of replacements \nI don't think freeway capable solid tires are affordable but i haven't checked. \nif you have a place you can park against a curb it might save half your tires \n\nconsider walking farther or pubic transit for a bit.", "Someone must be tired of you \n\nThough the only things I could of think of is setting up a camera to deter/catch them", "Check to see if theres a nearby off street parking (private driveway or something similar) you can rent out. Maybe a garage spot that you can rent out for a few months until things calms down." ]

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[ "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. ", "Getting into exercising? I've always found it hard to exercise. Like, mentally, for a week or two I can do it and then somehow I end up flaking off and slacking and then I just stop. A while ago for about a month I worked out daily, and then I just got tired of it and stopped. What's a surefire way to get into working out? I know sometimes having a workout partner can help, but I really prefer exercising alone. " ]

[ "I was in your shoes a year ago. A friend of mine got me a gym membership because he knew I wanted to lose weight. I tried going with a partner, etc to no avail. It wasn't until I asked one of the more ripped guys at the gym for advice. I told him exactly what you are asking today.\n\nI just can't seem to get into it and stop after a while. He laughed and said \"You probly think I'm going to give you some speech about going hard or going home\" Not gonna lie I thought he would, but nope he gave me this bit of insight.\n\nHe said \"I don't care who you are. If you are out of shape you aren't going to suddenly start working out 2 hours a day to get in shape. Forget all the crap you've been told or what you think you know. For now focus on doing one simple excise a day for 21 days straight. Don't count reps, don't count time. If you can only do a push up do it. Just make sure you do it for 21 days straight.\"\n\nSo I did this and at first I thought it was dumb, but I kept on doing what the guy told me. By the end of the 21 days I was doing push ups,crunches,squats,dips,planks,lunges, and wall sitting. It wasn't until after the 21 days that he told me his secret.\n\nHe said it takes the human brain 21 days to develop a habit regardless if it's good or bad. After 21 days of doing anything your brain will do it on impulse. Turns out the guy is studying to be psychologist. Probably the best bit of advice I've ever gotten from anyone in terms of weight loss.", "Tip 1: It's all about the mindset.\nYou don't work out because you want to look good or be healthy, you work out because it's your lifestyle. It's just something you do, same like you eat, you poop, you work out.\n\nSo you feel lazy today, huh? Did you eat today? Did you poop? Well you work out, because that's what you do. You don't think about it. Oh damn, sitting at the sofa and forgot to work out, you don't give up on your lifestyle, it's what you do.\n\nTip 2: Don't go too hard working out early on or in general when you don't feel it. Train your mind to believe it's not an hour long of agony. If you're working out for 5 minutes and are just not feeling it, stop. Some days you feel good, some days you just don't feel it. You'll feel it out, but go. Even for 5 minutes. Next time your limit will be 10 minutes. Ease into it so your mind doesn't associate it with something that's too much or too hard. It's your lifestyle.\n\n**tl;dr** Work out because it's your lifestyle. Go at your pace, easy at first.", "For me. I found a planet fitness (cheap gym) with a load of TVs and head phone jacks. Then I would go to the gym to watch baseball games or whatever news program I liked. I'd spend my time in the treadmill and watch the simpsons.\n\nThen when I started seeing results. When my pants got loose. I found it easier to keep going back. The motivation is there. It gets stronger as you go. ", "Write down what you do when you're in the gym (what execercises, the reps, how you felt about it) and that will help you incrementally make improvements. Once you have improvements, you'll want to keep going. \n\nI also use wireless headphones so my phone doesn't stay in my hand distracting me", "What worked for me was making it part of my routine. And what helped with that, was going to classes. Before that I'd always find excuses not to go.\n\nGood luck!", "Take away all barriers to going, pack your bag the night before, for example.\n\nPlan a nice/ fun routine or reward for going.\n\nDownload some music you love or a podcast and only listen to it at the gym.\n\nI can't run consistently but run for 2 minutes, recover, and run again.\n\nI made myself a playlist for that and it worked well.\n\nSimilarly my playlist slipped into \"slow jams\" and classic rock when I did weights.\n\nIt helped keep me interested.", "Maybe start with something simple. Like walking for 45 minutes 3x / week. Listen to some music or a podcast..", "I'd say make it second nature, I used to go to the gym with friends but they've left/ gone to other gyms. I go to the gym alone now, I use my phone and watch a lot of stuff on there. Watch movies and youtube etc. Make sure you're performing though, while concentrating on a movie so you're not even paying attention to the exercise so you're legs are moving and working hard without even trying, probably not a mindset you can get into right away but it works.", "Find a way to be competitive with it. You can either challenge yourself, or others. Tell someone (or yourself) you can shave an x percentage off yourrun time." ]

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[ "Is there a correct way to eat a taco? with every bite, i lose more and more taco filling. is there any way to eat a hard shell taco without all the mess?", "Is there a correct way to eat a taco? with every bite, i lose more and more taco filling. is there any way to eat a hard shell taco without all the mess?", "Is there a correct way to eat a taco? with every bite, i lose more and more taco filling. is there any way to eat a hard shell taco without all the mess?", "Is there a correct way to eat a taco? with every bite, i lose more and more taco filling. is there any way to eat a hard shell taco without all the mess?" ]

[ "Take smaller bites and tilt the taco towards your mouth so any taco filling that falls out will go right into your mouth?", "This may not work on all hard shells, especially if they've been loaded very long, but I intentionally break it across the bottom by squeezing the top. Once the bottom splits, you have 2 even \"half moons\" of taco shell and you can grip it tighter, putting some squeeze on the insides and helping contain the contents. Might be hard to explain without a demo but with a little practice you can master it and hardly drop anything ever. \n\nFigured this out as a kid, we had taco night weekly, and me being picky while younger did meat-only tacos that didn't fill the shell enough to keep it from snapping. Made me mad until I figured out it worked better with the broken shell, then started going it on purpose before even the first bite. ", "I don't know about you, but the problem I have is that the shell shatters and then there is nothing to hold the filling together so it all falls apart. My solution: get the hard shell taco, a tortilla, and some refried beans. Spread beans on tortilla. wrap tortilla around hard taco. Your taco now has more structural integrity, it wont just explode into taco shrapnel and airborne filling all over the place as soon as you bite it.", " Real tacos, as invented in Mexico, don't have a hard shell. Therefore, the correct way to eat a real taco doesn't require a LPT." ]

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[ "How should you deal with a difficult coworker who tries to make themselves look good by throwing you under the bus? ", "How should you deal with a difficult coworker who tries to make themselves look good by throwing you under the bus? ", "How should you deal with a difficult coworker who tries to make themselves look good by throwing you under the bus? ", "How should you deal with a difficult coworker who tries to make themselves look good by throwing you under the bus? " ]

[ "Document everything. Literally everything in writing. You mentioned your name was on the schedule - you should have documented in an email that he was responsible for it.\n\nEvery single thing he's supposed to do, write it down and get him to validate. \n\nI'd tell the manager there's a lot of confusion around roles and responsibilities and the team needs clarity, and suggest that maybe each week an email goes out to the team with clear delineation of responsibility for that week.\n\nThen, when he fucks up his stuff, his name is tied to it. And if he starts working on your stuff, you can point to the email and say \"this is my task, not yours.\"", "Invite him and involve in all meetings and all phases of the process up to the point he cannot succeed doing Task E and gets his butt fired.", "Politics is about narratives. Once you’ve established a negative narrative about the person they are politically dead. For example: “their insecurity and lack of knowledge is making them interfere with everyone’s work” \n\nYes, I have carried out figurative political killings of colleagues.", "Document, print emails, keep it all in chronological order….be ocd about it. I was unlawfully fired by the Big Boys, refused to give up and got my job back….after 2 years. My documentation is one of the things that saved my butt" ]

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[ "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!", "How to stop my face from getting red **tl;dr So this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?**\n\nI know. You've heard this a million times. \"Just don't think about it\", \"own up to your mistake\", \"It's all in your head\".\n\nI need help.\n\nMy face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. In a conversation and I realise a few other people have started listening also? Playing piano in music class and realise a few people have stopped playing? Someone wants to jam with me, (Oh god this one so much)? Get called on to solve something on the board?\n\nAny time I think there are at least a few people noticing me I get nervous/embarrassed\u001b and then the shining beacon that is my face lights up.\n\nBeing in school also doesn't help as I'm surrounded by the, \"Woah.. He's so red\", \"You know your face is really red right now?\" kind of people. It's nothing against them but my god it doesn't help. lol\n\nSo this is my question, how can I stop this from happening or, failing that, how to revert back to normal as soon as possible?\n\nIt really sucks and, as you can probably tell, makes social interaction really difficult.\n\ne; thank you guys so much for all the help. Hopefully one of these suggestions can help me overcome this!" ]

[ "Used to have this problem. Mindfulness m", "I don't think there's really any way to stop it, either.. but sometimes when I get red I notice I'm almost holding my breath. Concentrating on taking a few deep breaths helps a bit for me, maybe it will for you too. ", "I'm right there with you. I can turn red under scrutiny, when I'm embarrassed, when I'm excited... Sometimes for no real reason at all. And yes, the people who point it out are the worst. It becomes this vicious cycle of knowing I'm turning red, which makes me self-conscious, which makes me turn more red. Sucky.\n\nLet me as you a question -- and this is only tangentially related: are you a thinker? Do you over-analyze things?\n\nWhen I was going to school, I knew I was going to have to give a big presentation in order to graduate. I had enough to worry about, remembering what to say for 20 minutes while wearing a full suit in front of 30+ people, both friends and strangers, that I didn't want to deal with red face. So I went to the doc and told him my situation. The first thing I got was atenolol (I think) which is for high blood pressure (although mine wasn't, as a rule). This did nothing. \n\nI went back and said as much and he gave me clonozepam. Whether it was legit or a placebo effect, I don't know, but I at least felt less self-conscious of everything and I didn't FEEL like I was turning red. It's a drug to help with social anxiety. You take one an hour or so before you think you're going to be in one of those situations. It's not a fix all, but I helps when you're aware it's coming. \n\nOther than that, gain more confidence. I've always had a confidence issue and feeling like I was being judged would make me self conscious. At least that's what I think my issue was. It's a head thing, more often than not. I over think a situation on some level and think that I'm being judged as a bad or unlikeable person when most of the time the situation will be forgotten by everyone (except me) in five minutes.\n\nSorry for the wall of text. Just hammered out some of my thoughts real quick. Hope they help tho.", "Sorry I don't have an answer but I offer sympathy and empathy because it used to happen to me too. I would feel the redness coming in a social situation and the anxiety about it would engulf me and people didn't help by pointing it out. It was mortifying to me and a miserable thing to experience. \n I'm sorry that happens to you and I don't have an answer specific to you. But I ended up taking some anti-anxiety meds that helped somewhat. \n I guess as I got older and developed more coping skills they went away except in extremely embarrassing events. \nAlso I have learned that, in most every anxiety or fear provoking situation it helps me to just accept that I am anxious or embarrassed or fearful rather than trying to run from it. Trying to avoid or run from it just compounds it.", "> My face will go bright-god damn-red at the drop of a hat. \n\nThis isn't really the problem. Your problem is that you get embarrassed when you think other people are paying attention to you (obviously, but you didn't word it that way).\n\nSo dig into why you feel that way. \n\nAre you worried they will think negatively of you? If so, why do you care what they think? Will their thoughts actually affect you in any way? Why do you think they will think negatively rather than positively? \n\nAre you worried they will make fun of you? Were you made fun of or teased or bullied as a child? \n\nYour face goes red because your thoughts are running away with you. What are those thoughts? You can't fix the problem until you know what the problem is.\n\n> \"You know your face is really red right now?\"\n\nYou have to learn to roll with this and laugh at yourself. Took me until I was about 25 before I figured out how to do this.\n\n\"Yeah, I'm going for a tomato look. What do you think, redder?\"\n\n\"Yeah, is it really embarrassing in here or is it just me?\"", "Seems like a social anxiety issue. There won't be a quick solution to this. It will take a while before you are comfortable with being the center of attention.\n\nI hated being the person the teacher would automatically choose to try and answer questions or read aloud. Then I just started volunteering to do it because I was sick of getting the red face and the knot in my stomach. \n\nBest thing you can do is take yourself out of your comfortable element so much that it becomes normal.", "It's a sympathetic nervous response. You can try to train yourself out of it (expose yourself to situations that causes you to blush often), perhaps?", "i used to get it really bad, then i just started embracing it, like yeah my face is red so what, its normal. Then it would go away. ", "There was totally an episode of [Grey's Anatomy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2b57RzPdc0) about this. Ereuthrophobia hyperpyrexia was what the girl was diagnosed with.", "There is a new cream called Mirvaso you can get from a dermatologist. It will temporarily stop you from flushing. I would not yet trust it for daily use as it is very new, but I'm sure it's OK for occasion use. Beta blocker pills can also work but they are not for everyone. Obviously if you can control it without drugs that would be best.", "Ok a while ago I read there was an operation where they cut a nerve or blood vessel somewhere in your rib armpit area that helped subdue face reddening. Does this sound familiar to anyone? Its been stuck in my head for 10+ years and I don't remember where I read it ", "Not sure it would work, how about clenching your thighs? I read on here it can help you avoid getting teary eyed in stressful situations. ", "Is it your entire face? I have a condition called keratosis pilaris rubra faceii (look it up) which is very similar to rosacea and often the two are confused. I know exactly how you feel, as I felt very similar all throughout highschool. It was a nightmare.", "I used to get this really bad. It just kind of went away after a while. You just kind of mentally toughen up after a while. \n\nSorry that I don't have a tip for you. But it goes away eventually, that's all. ", "I had a lot of this in high school. My cheeks would get really red when I was on the spot or embarrassed. I (as a girl) had it a little easier as I could use foundation to minimize the redness of my face.\n\nI agree with sussesuki on the breathing and will add that when I got embarrassed I put my shoulders up as well as held my breath. Try putting your shoulders down too.\n\nHang in there!", "Honestly, sounds like mild rosacea. Easily flushed face is a big symptom. I get flushed very easily, my dad did too when he was my age but his face is now perma-red. ", "Having rosacea, I get that anyway, but you can either point it out and accept it, even joke a little bit about it, or you can do a little bit of a calmness exercise when you realize it's happened. sayswut had a good suggestion.", "Go with it. \"Now *that's* embarrassing!\"; \"Awkward!\"; etc. knowing others know you know removes the fear of not knowing if they've noticed.", "I use First Aid Beauty to deal with my redness. It's just a facial lotion that you put on every morning that helps to block unnecessary blood flow to your cheeks. \n\nhttp://www.firstaidbeauty.com/categories/shop-by-product/antirednessserum.html" ]

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[ "Change sleeping habits I have a morning interview in a week and it involves me flying two time zones over and then waking up with enough time to get ready. Any advice on how to shift my sleep schedule this soon, I was just going to sleep four hours earlier.", "Change sleeping habits I have a morning interview in a week and it involves me flying two time zones over and then waking up with enough time to get ready. Any advice on how to shift my sleep schedule this soon, I was just going to sleep four hours earlier." ]

[ "Melatonin is a boon for shifting your sleep schedule, though most pills on the market have 10 times as much as you actually need per pill (3mg as opposed to 0.3mg). Me, I just bite off a bit of the pill when I need to change sleeping patterns and use that.", "A technique that has worked very well and quite painlessly is taking 2-3 even 4 days to shift it with just a loud alarm.\n\nThe first day when your alarm goes off, you'll be groggy and super tired which is why you just turn it off and sleep till about your normal time\n\nNext day when it goes off again you'll likely still be quite tired so again you can go back to sleep again (you can get up if you feel you can though)\n\nThe third day you should probably be able to get up at the right time kinda groggy but without much difficult, though if you have the time you can wait till the 4th day.\n\nFrom then on it gets easier and easier and after a week or so you probably won't need the alarm as long as you are consistent.\n\nYou should get sleepy earlier with the schedule as long as you don't do anything super stimulating before bed.\n\nGood luck" ]

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[ "How to not get shocked all the time Now that it's winter, I get shocked pretty much every time I touch a piece of metal, including every time I get out of my car. How can I stop this?", "How to not get shocked all the time Now that it's winter, I get shocked pretty much every time I touch a piece of metal, including every time I get out of my car. How can I stop this?" ]

[ "Touch the ground, or a wall that continues the ground, first. People will send funny looks your way, but you won't be shocked anymore.", "Go read here: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/1qjuc5/lpt_request_how_to_avoid_static_electricity/" ]

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[ "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down.", "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down.", "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down.", "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down.", "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down.", "How to drink the right amount I have often found it difficult to drink the right amount of alcohol. Either it seems I am throwing up/blacked out which is no fun, or I end up not really feeling it at all. \n\nOnly a few nights it seems I get the number exactly right, so I'm wondering if any of you have some tips to hit that right number, and even stay there for a while without going up or down." ]

[ "Don't treat alcohol like a typical drug, drinking water in between each drink is bizarre.\n\nI think you're approaching alcohol from the wrong perspective, its not about getting the right buzz because that should happen once the session is right ;) but focus on your limit.\n\nMy personal limit, its not an amount, its when I start chain smoking, so get to know your limit.\n\nIf you're worried about getting proper jarred too soon and wrecking your night well you'll need to eat a good amount before you drink usually fast food fills the lining, and a glass of milk!\n", "This is a dilemma that has baffled philosophers and thinkers since practically the beginning of time. My opinion: just have a drink or two per (half) hour. And go from there. But once you get a bit drunk you might forget all about the formula. So enjoy the party!", "My method involves lots of water. I drink a glass of water, then a shot of booze (or your chosen drink). Then I wait minimum 20-30 minutes while sipping water. By then I start to feel the effects and I can judge how it \"hit me\" because that does vary. I drink another glass of water, then another shot. Then do the same...sipping water or soda and WAIT for your body to metabolize the alcohol before you then make another informed decision whether you need another drink. You can set your time span yourself, whether it be 20, 30, or 60 minutes. Hope that makes sense.", "My solution... if your going to drink then drink! if you always just go at it hard then after a couple times throwing up and getting your body accustomed you will start to realize you can hang now. When you go out drink more than anybody who is with you or as much as anyone willing to keep up. No more hangovers and no more getting drunk off a couple beers looking like a pussy. You have now entered manhood and it will feel great. You will truly appreciate it.. you want to have one or two beers at home so be it.. you will relax and enjoy it because now you know all the levels of drunkness and are experienced enough to enjoy all levels.. ", "I have one:\n\nI have struggled with alcoholism for years but until recently I have been successful in moderating, that is way more difficult than quitting altogether:\n\nFirst; the basics:\n\nAlcohol is not the problem, it is the solution.\n\nYou drink because you want to feel something, you want to have fun and relax, or quench away that feeling of hopelessness and despair, you have to sincerely answer the question:\n\nWhat do I want to feel with this drink?\n\n\nBe honest. If you want to dull the pain, then alcohol is just a temporary solution, and after the effect passes it will come back biting with a vengeance, take that into account.\n\nIf you want to relax and have fun, then never do it alone. Have a person you feel comfortable with and take that person as the bar. Never drink more than that person. In my case it is the girl I go out with.\n\nI even tattooed myself the legend \"HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL?\" in my right wrist, as that is what I'll read when I pick up anything, but that's me.\n\nTl;Dr: Answer truthfully what do you want to drink for, then drink until that limit and nothing more.", "I drink iced-tea. In fact did you know data shows that among American adults 21 or older anywhere from a 1/3rd to half of the population don't drink at all? \n\nResources for stopping drinking included /r/stopdrinking" ]

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[ "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?", "How to not look awkward in photos It's gotten better as I've gotten older, but I still see lots of photos where my smile looks forced and I look uncomfortable and awkward. I sometimes get anxiety about it in front of the camera and that only makes it worse. \n\nDo you guys have any tips with regards to what to think about or what to do when getting your picture taken?" ]

[ "A lot of these tips are great, so I'll second them:\n\nWhen you're getting your photo taken, lift your chin *slightly* (some people jut it out, you don't want to do that), give your head a *slight* tilt (people naturally tilt their head when they're looking at something they like, so it makes you appear friendly and approachable) and think of something that makes you reallllllly happy. That always brings better light to your eyes and makes the photo seem natural. Turn your body away from the camera if it's a full body shot, with your front toe pointing towards the camera, and you back foot on a slight angle. Stand as straight as naturally comfortable, and engage your core.\n\nAnd that's all the tips I have for today!", "Think of a short joke or story that you really like, and think about that. Also, don't feel that you always have to be grinning, sometimes it's okay to just look pleasant, or to just make a happy face without showing your teeth.", "Peter Hurley is a headshot photographer that has a bunch of tutorial videos out for photographers. Most of what he teaches is how to coach the model. You should be able to take away some helpful tips on smiling and jaw lines. \n\nI can't get a hyper link to work for some reason. Just search youtube for \"Peter Hurley\" and a ton of stuff will pop up.", "I've had this same problem for years, now I just laugh when I'm having my picture taken. Just a chuckle. Seems to work for me.", "Elongate your neck, lift you chin a tiny bit and make sure you head is a bit closer to the camera than your center of gravity. Also practice in front of a mirror and see the difference. Learn where your nose breaks your cheek so you don't turn your head too far to let it break too far from the camera.", "You could try taking self photos for practice. You don't need to show anyone and you can immediately delete them afterward. This would take the pressure off of you a bit. You can experiment with different angles and smiles to see which you like best. If you feel you have an awkward smile, try smiling without showing your teeth. You might look more natural this way.", "It's hard for me to smile sometimes, especially keeping one up while waiting for everyone to get their pictures. I just think of something that really makes me laugh and I chuckle a little. Gets a smile going and helps me keep it looking natural. Also", "I saw someone one in an other post ask the same thing in regards to smiling for photos . I believe the best answer was to have the photographer countdown down from a number. If you keep your eyes focused on something other than the photographer and then quickly look towards and smile at the camera when the countdown reaches 1, your smile/facial expression should come out pretty natural. I usually do this now and it works pretty flawlessly", "I read in a ladies magazine a while back that instead of saying \"cheese\" to get a good smile, say \"money.\" The shape of your mouth on the final ee sound gives you a more natural looking smile. ", "Do the laugh you do when someone you are making small talk with, or trying to impress makes a weak joke, then hold that.", "As weird as it sounds, take some time to practice smiling in front of a mirror. Find a smile that you're happy with and learn how it feels so that you can do it when you're in a photo." ]

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[ "My faux-leather office chair is shedding like crazy. Anyone have a clever solution that doesn't involve duct tape? It's looking [like this] (http://i.imgur.com/twp8fvo.jpg) lately and sheds little black bits all over the carpet and my bum. I don't like this sort of thing.", "My faux-leather office chair is shedding like crazy. Anyone have a clever solution that doesn't involve duct tape? It's looking [like this] (http://i.imgur.com/twp8fvo.jpg) lately and sheds little black bits all over the carpet and my bum. I don't like this sort of thing." ]

[ "I found this and it should work (same color I believe).\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Liquid-Leather-Vinyl-Fabric-Repair/dp/B000SR12C0\n\nYou are probably better off having it recovered by a pro, but this will work for small jobs.\n\n", "I have this problem... just much worse than yours. Can't wait to hear suggestions. I like my chair... I don't want a new one!" ]

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[ "Forgetting what you were mad at and repeating the same mistake again? I have ADHD for what it's worth.\n\nBut regardless of whether or not it's making a dfference, overall I have issues with decision making and planning and regulating stuff. \n\nMore importantly, as the title suggests, I end up getting mad at myself for my mistakes (or in this case, I realize my flaws), but then later I forget them (and start making those same mistakes). \n\nAnd it's annoying because it prevents me from being consistent and productive. \n\nI'm sorry if it's a little vague, it's hard to remember. But I think that this is a common problem, and one that I would like some adivce on.", "Forgetting what you were mad at and repeating the same mistake again? I have ADHD for what it's worth.\n\nBut regardless of whether or not it's making a dfference, overall I have issues with decision making and planning and regulating stuff. \n\nMore importantly, as the title suggests, I end up getting mad at myself for my mistakes (or in this case, I realize my flaws), but then later I forget them (and start making those same mistakes). \n\nAnd it's annoying because it prevents me from being consistent and productive. \n\nI'm sorry if it's a little vague, it's hard to remember. But I think that this is a common problem, and one that I would like some adivce on.", "Forgetting what you were mad at and repeating the same mistake again? I have ADHD for what it's worth.\n\nBut regardless of whether or not it's making a dfference, overall I have issues with decision making and planning and regulating stuff. \n\nMore importantly, as the title suggests, I end up getting mad at myself for my mistakes (or in this case, I realize my flaws), but then later I forget them (and start making those same mistakes). \n\nAnd it's annoying because it prevents me from being consistent and productive. \n\nI'm sorry if it's a little vague, it's hard to remember. But I think that this is a common problem, and one that I would like some adivce on." ]

[ "Keep a diary. It can be paper or digital it doesn't matter. Get in the habit of writing your thoughts down in one place. Just the act of spending time with yourself in this was is soothing. You have ADHD so leave your book out and write something in it every time you pass by. You can draw in it and paste pictures, use colored inks or whatever you like. No one has to read it or validate your thoughts. Just get them out of your head and use it for reference whenever you need to. ", "Man, it's okay to make mistakes. It's okay. Everyone does. That's why writers rewrite a million times and still need a proof reader or ", "Honestly, you should see a specialist. I have a dear friend with ADHD and likely other mental illness as well. He feels he has finally found someone who will treat the ADHD, without judgement on his other issues.\n\n\nWe are all our own worst critics. We hate the things we see in others because they mirror what we hate in ourselves. (Not a blanket statement, more specific to the actual issue.)\n\nWe all tend to have to learn and learn and relearn where we are fucking up.\n\nOne way to get through it is to recognize the things that trigger you. Figure out what situations are likely to be problematic. When you do get in to those situations you can remember that you've made actions *this* way and it didn't go well. You don't have to make it all good, but you can try to see the patterns, try to do something else. Frankly, you could try to do something as silly as tugging on your ear. The act of doing something different in a pattern can make you aware of the situation and your choices.\n\n\nMedication may or may not be what you need. Speaking to someone who understands your situation will probably be helpful.\n\n\nFinally, perspective is everything. When you get mad you can ask yourself if it will really matter in a day, a week, a month, a year or more from now. Often, it doesn't fucking matter. It isn't worth being mad about.\n\nCan you fix it right now? Is it important for you to fix it, or are you simply frustrated? Are you frustrated at others? Can't do shit about them. Let that shit go. " ]

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[ "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). ", "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). ", "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). ", "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). ", "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). ", "How to not take things personally I know people do things that aren't meant to hurt me, yet I still often take offense and have a really hard suppressing the feeling (\"taking 'it' personally\"). " ]

[ "One way that works for me is remembering that people have stressful days, too. I've worked in customer service for a decade, and I've definitely come across some rude people. I've also been the rude one because I've had a bad day. \n\nJust remember, you have no idea if they just had to put their pet to rest or they just got into a domestic dispute, etc. \n\nAlso, sometimes when people do something that may offend another person, it's really just a reflection of their own issues. If someone truly does something to hurt you intentionally, then they can kick rocks. ", "Taking things personally is indicative of a lack of self confidence.\n\nAn automated personal response to anything negative.\n\nIt comes from an active self awareness which can be an asset if kept in proper perspective.\n\nConsider this. How many times have you gotten ready to go out and something just doesn't suit you whether it be your hair, the fit of your clothing etc?\n\nNow do this exercise. Attempt to recall the minor details of the people you interacted with last Friday. \n\nThe point is the focus isn't as much on you as you perceive.\n\nAnd when it is and the truth contradicts the negative impact of whatever is being taken personal take it for what it's worth.\n\n", "Not taking things personally is sometimes easier if you try to see things from others perspectives. Its all about empathy :-)", "One thing that helps me is remembering that no matter what they say it's about them and their perspective. Remember the same goes for you too. For example if you grew up in a place were everyone was 4 feet tall you might think someone that is 5 feet tall is tall. If you were 6 feet tall you would likely think differently.\n\nAnd sometimes you have to find a way to stop thinking about the past.", "In part, we learn to do something by pretending to do it. For example, through politeness and kindness we learn sympathy, then empathy. It is a process.", "The ONLY way to not take things personally is to not take things personally. I know that sounds like a joke answer but I'm serious. It is possible if you consciously work at it. \n\nIt's along the lines of \"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself\". When you stop fearing \"fear\", then there is nothing left to \"fear\"." ]

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[ "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated ", "Going to a concert alone? In a couple of days, I will be going to see Drake's Summer Sixteen tour alone. I asked all of my friends and none of them wanted to spend any money, but I really enjoy his music so I decided to buy a ticket and go by myself. I am a somewhat awkward person, but not to the point where I'm not able to hold a conversation. How can I enjoy myself without being too worried about the fact that I am alone? Any tips would be greatly appreciated " ]

[ "You're more likely to meet people when you're by yourself than when you're with other people.\n\nStay sober, though. No one to look out for you, plus, I think it makes you more approachable. Not just for picking up, but even just friendly conversation.\n\nSide note: I used to work in a bar. The guy that picked up the most girls would come and stand by himself at the bar. Worked almost every week.", "LPT: Have the most fun EVER! :) Going to concerts alone is so much fun and much better than with other people (as mostly all the commenters have said). \n\nJust do you, don't do drugs, and don't give a fuck about what anyone else says! ", "Yea I've gone to some shows alone, no one really had a problem and if they did I wouldn't care. Just do you and don't care what others think and enjoy yourself.", "You're only awkward if you think you are. Go up to girls/guys, ask \"Hey what other shows do you go to?\" When asked if you're alone say, \"Yeah, my friends aren't willing to spend the money to see Drake, but I love his music, right?\" Done, new friends. ", "Have a blast! Same thing has happened to me on multiple occasions and have had the best of times. Saw Billy Idol last year and Ladyhawke in July alone and had great nights out. If the music and atmosphere are great then who else do you need! :)", "Tip: keep wallet and phone in front pants pockets. \n\nI go to heavy metal shows by myself all the time as the music is kind of an acquired taste haha. My friends tend to be more part of the mainstream/hip hop crowd.\n\nAlways have a great time. You're there to enjoy the performance and sound.\n\n Obviously a Drake show is a giant event in comparison, but just enjoy it", "Just enjoy the music. Waiting for the show to start kinda sucks but when the music starts you won't have a worry. Went to a music festival, only really cared for the headliner and third to last band. I'm super socially awkward but when the band plays everyone's focused on the band. If it's anything like the show I was at and the crowd barely moves (no one leaves or pushes forward) people might notice you're alone and strike up a conversation. Happened to me. If you really like Drake you'll have no problem.\n", "I have gone alone many times. Normally, I arrive at least an hour before the show starts and hang out at the venue's bar or the nearest bar. There are always people who show up alone doing the same thing and we end up hanging out for the show (if it's a stand-up concert). Make sure you wear clothing that shows you're there for that show in case you end up at a nearby bar. \n\nAlso, many people go by themselves. I just end up standing next to one of them during the performance and they always start a conversation with me. I've made many new friends this way.", "Make the most of the freedom of doing what you want on your schedule instead of relying on others then missing something you wanted to do. Going with friends can be fun but also a pain.\n\n\nYou're there for the music after all!", "Just go and enjoy the music. That is the best way to enjoy the music. Going to show's solo is way better than with friends. You don't have to worry about how they are enjoying it, or bathrooms breaks or whatever other bullshit", "If you're a dude trying to talk to some girls then going to a concert alone is the best. You can literally just walk around the entire time looking like you're actually trying to get somewhere white starting convos with an endless supply of people. If you say something really stupid just move on. No friends to make fun of you and plenty of chances to get it right. This works best for big events where you will never run out of people to talk to. If you are awkward the 10th time you make a fool of yourself you will feel less awkward :) I did this once every few weeks for like a year and it helped learn how to talk to people a lot." ]

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[ "Food that gives your body benefits This is mainly meant for stuff that gives your body benefits such as milk because it helps your bones.", "Food that gives your body benefits This is mainly meant for stuff that gives your body benefits such as milk because it helps your bones." ]

[ "watch this, educate yourself, eat and live better.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evcNPfZlrZs&feature=youtube_gdata_player\n", "Any Vemma product, many professionals and doctors recommend the stuff. PM me if you'd like to know more!" ]

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[ "Ring around the neck stain on dress shirts Hello LPTers!\n\nMy mother in law is the queen of getting stuff done. She cleans her entire house everyday, makes all the meals, watches my nephew, and the kicker is that she is in her mid 70's. \n\nHowever, she has issues with stains in my father in law's dress shirts not coming out. She ends up grabbing a brush and scrubbing it out lightly with an old toothbrush and some strain remover.\n\nIs there an LPT way to do this? It's one of a few tasks that she hates and she was hoping you internet people could help her out.\n\n Apologies in advance for any errors, posting from mobile.\n\n", "Ring around the neck stain on dress shirts Hello LPTers!\n\nMy mother in law is the queen of getting stuff done. She cleans her entire house everyday, makes all the meals, watches my nephew, and the kicker is that she is in her mid 70's. \n\nHowever, she has issues with stains in my father in law's dress shirts not coming out. She ends up grabbing a brush and scrubbing it out lightly with an old toothbrush and some strain remover.\n\nIs there an LPT way to do this? It's one of a few tasks that she hates and she was hoping you internet people could help her out.\n\n Apologies in advance for any errors, posting from mobile.\n\n", "Ring around the neck stain on dress shirts Hello LPTers!\n\nMy mother in law is the queen of getting stuff done. She cleans her entire house everyday, makes all the meals, watches my nephew, and the kicker is that she is in her mid 70's. \n\nHowever, she has issues with stains in my father in law's dress shirts not coming out. She ends up grabbing a brush and scrubbing it out lightly with an old toothbrush and some strain remover.\n\nIs there an LPT way to do this? It's one of a few tasks that she hates and she was hoping you internet people could help her out.\n\n Apologies in advance for any errors, posting from mobile.\n\n" ]

[ "Scrub the neck area while bathing. I used to have this issue as well. This is the easiest way to prevent it and after a few washes the rings should go away. ", "Vinegar, salt, lemon juice, bleach (for white shirts, of course), baking powder... one of them is bound to work. Soak the area, let it sit, and scrub it with a soft toothbrush. \n\nOr Oxiclean.", "Baking soda works great if you make a paste with a little bit of water. Just dab it on the stain then work it in. Let it sit for about 10 minutes then wash as usual." ]

[ 4, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get a state I.D. without your S.S. card or birth certificate Im 18 and i really need a job,but you need an I.D. for that..my mom lost both my social security card and birth certificate some time ago.how do i even begin to do this?i cant find help online so I've come here for help.", "How to get a state I.D. without your S.S. card or birth certificate Im 18 and i really need a job,but you need an I.D. for that..my mom lost both my social security card and birth certificate some time ago.how do i even begin to do this?i cant find help online so I've come here for help.", "How to get a state I.D. without your S.S. card or birth certificate Im 18 and i really need a job,but you need an I.D. for that..my mom lost both my social security card and birth certificate some time ago.how do i even begin to do this?i cant find help online so I've come here for help.", "How to get a state I.D. without your S.S. card or birth certificate Im 18 and i really need a job,but you need an I.D. for that..my mom lost both my social security card and birth certificate some time ago.how do i even begin to do this?i cant find help online so I've come here for help." ]

[ "You need to go to the registrar for the town where you were born and get a new birth certificate issued. Then contact the [Social Security Administration](http://www.ssa.gov/) and get a new card. ", "You'll need to contact the vital statistics office in your state to first get a copy of your birth certificate:\n\nhttp://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w.htm\n\nIt depends on the state, but you should be able to get the certificate without a physical social security card as long as you can provide enough information, including your SSN (If you don't have the card, ***and*** you don't know the number that was on it, you need to talk with someone in the office to figure something out).\n\nOnce you have a copy of the birth certificate, you can get a new copy of your social security card by contacting your local social security office:\n\nhttps://secure.ssa.gov/ICON/main.jsp", "Start at the courthouse in the county where you were born, they'll have copies of your birth certificate. What state are you in? The rules are different for each state. Another option would be to get a passport. The State Department website has information about other documents that can be used to apply for a passport. Once you have a passport, most other IDs are easy to get.", "To get birth certificate, you may need to show a state issued ID. Birth Certificates can also be released to parents, so it may save you a second trip if you bring your mom so that she can show her state issued ID." ]

[ 9, 5, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?", "How to get that funky smell out of the toddler rags The collection of old rags and dish towels we use to clean up after the kids (no poop, just apple sauce and whatnot) has, over time, acquired a funky smell that doesn't go away after multiple washings. Things I have tried:\n\n * Super-hot \"sanitize\" cycle on the washer\n * Oxiclean pre-soak\n * Ridiculous amount of laundry detergent\n * Soaking in vinegar (now they smell like funky vinegar)\n * Crying\n\nWife won't allow me to use bleach, because apparently these are heirloom rags and keepsake dish towels that have been passed down through her family for generations or something. How can I, without bleaching or discoloring, scour these suckers back to a scorched-earth, zero-microbe state of just smelling like nothing?" ]

[ "Throw a cup of vinegar directly in the washer with detergent and dry in sunlight. I have twin toddlers. It's the only thing that kills the smells and gets poop stains out is direct sunlight. ", "Sunlight and fresh air. Outdoor line dry is the best odor fix on the planet. Sunlight can bleach out some things, so try indirect first.", "Hot wash, dump a bunch of baking soda into washer, more than a cup. Do full wash cycle. New cycle, hot wash, dump a bunch of vinegar in the water. Do full wash cycle. It works.", "If these are heirloom rags that have been passed down, they either haven't been used for cleaning up after toddlers previously or they had bleach used on em.", "I can't stand the smell of it, but have you tried ammonia? or maybe baking soda?\n\nI've taken to using cheap microfiber towels for toddler messes. They're soft, absorbent and since they're synthetic they dry quickly after rinsing and don't hold smells or stains. ", "Boil them.\nBorax.\nAdd a bottle of Peroxide to the wash.\nSunlight dry. (UV kills many stinky bacteria. I don't know why.)\n\n\"Oops\" a bit of bleach into a washload, then wash again a couple of times to get rid of the bleach smell.", "Boil them.\n\nBorax.\n\nAdd a bottle of Peroxide to the wash.\n\nSunlight dry. (UV kills many stinky bacteria. I don't know why.)\n\n\n\"Oops\" a bit of bleach into a washload, then wash again a couple of times to get rid of the bleach smell." ]

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[ "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated.", "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated.", "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated.", "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated.", "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated.", "How to find something productive to do at home in this new normality? How to stop social media addiction? I don't want to isolate myself but I don't want to seek attention all the time. In the country that I'm living pretty much I can't do a lot cause restrictions don't allow here either parties or any other activity that involves many people.\nGyms are working but with the minimum amount of people and also pretty much everything. \n\n I'm bored at home all the time now. And addicted to my phone. But I don't find anything else to do now. I see myself checking this every 4 minutes to interact with my friends there. I want to feel attention. So I'm posting random memes every certain period of time. Checking stories, and post. That's about it. \nI don't even move out from my room cause there's nothing to do. \n\nI don't know what to do to feel okay with myself. It's very complicated." ]

[ "Go get foam core and create a 3D blueprint of your home. Adam Savage has a few videos where he does this and it looks fun. Then once you're done post it somewhere for attention. Take progress pics and mistake notes.", "This might be an annoying suggestion since you aren’t feeling well, but getting a random hobby or something small and relaxing to do for yourself that passes time will help. I don’t really color anymore but for a little bit I would just color in adult coloring books all day to help with anxiety and to pass time. If you aren’t feeling well enough to take on a full hobby at the moment, something small like coloring or reading could help.", "Try and get a wide variety of hobbies so that whatever the weather (or in this case, global pandemic) you always have something productive and/or fun to do.\n\nNot all hobbies have to be equipment or cost intensive either. You can purchase a whittling knife and whet stone fairly inexpensively and carve things out of wood you find on your commute or from your garden. You can do this indoors fairly mess free if you have hard floors and a sweeping brush.\n\nMaybe whittling isn't your thing, it's not for everyone but the hobby advice still stands. Find something you enjoy doing indoors and you'll soon notice you have your phone in your hands far less frequently.\n\nGood luck!", "Some unlikely things that worked for me - and got me off socials- get fitter (cut junk food, learn to cook, go for walks), find some recommended books and lose yourself in them, try out a new hobby that you can geek out on - whether it’s photography, cooking, day trading, learning a language, become a coffee geek, there are lots of lockdown friendly things to try. You will feel so much better after deleting those apps that suck up your attention and give you no nourishment", "Get some guns and go target shooting \n\nbuild models of cars/planes/ships/landscapes/buildings \n\npaint/draw\n\nPlant a garden or just some trees/plants that require regular pruning/watering/weeding\n\nBecome a movie buff and start researching the best of each genre and start becoming a little more cultured in the process \n—review the movies online for others. \n\nHunt\n\nFish\n\nBuy a bike and start going for bike rides (riding country roads and/or trails are the best!)\n\nGet an old car/truck or stuff with small engines that need work dirt cheap and fix them up. (Researching how to repair mechanical stuff in general and specific models will take up some of your time/boredom too and it’s REALLY rewarding to get a “broken” chainsaw etc for next to nothing and turn it into a working machine that you can use or sell for a nice profit. \n\nI could go on...\n\nSource: certified introvert.", "Hop on hack the box and try hack me to learn some new skills and put them into practice. I was doing well for a while then lost motivation in them again. Main problem is like you I get caught up checking the same social medias doing nothing then it's too late for me to focus on the other stuff. Once you get into the groove it is a nice distraction. That's if you like computer stuff." ]

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[ "How to be extra nice to construction workers in my street The street on which I live is currently being dug up to put in new broadband cables. Since I’m working from home next to a window that overlooks all of the workers it got me thinking about the challenges of working construction. \nWhat is something I can do to make their lives nicer or easier as someone sat in a house nearby where they are working? I can imagine taking hot drinks and snacks would be welcome but is there anything unique to a road worker I might not think of?", "How to be extra nice to construction workers in my street The street on which I live is currently being dug up to put in new broadband cables. Since I’m working from home next to a window that overlooks all of the workers it got me thinking about the challenges of working construction. \nWhat is something I can do to make their lives nicer or easier as someone sat in a house nearby where they are working? I can imagine taking hot drinks and snacks would be welcome but is there anything unique to a road worker I might not think of?", "How to be extra nice to construction workers in my street The street on which I live is currently being dug up to put in new broadband cables. Since I’m working from home next to a window that overlooks all of the workers it got me thinking about the challenges of working construction. \nWhat is something I can do to make their lives nicer or easier as someone sat in a house nearby where they are working? I can imagine taking hot drinks and snacks would be welcome but is there anything unique to a road worker I might not think of?", "How to be extra nice to construction workers in my street The street on which I live is currently being dug up to put in new broadband cables. Since I’m working from home next to a window that overlooks all of the workers it got me thinking about the challenges of working construction. \nWhat is something I can do to make their lives nicer or easier as someone sat in a house nearby where they are working? I can imagine taking hot drinks and snacks would be welcome but is there anything unique to a road worker I might not think of?" ]

[ "I would just bring them water and some snacks if you see them out there working hard. I don't know if there is anything that would be specific to construction workers, but my husband does yard maintenance and he ALWAYS appreciates a nice cold drink and a snack. He appreciated that kind of thing when he was a mechanic as well. \n\nSome customers try to be too helpful and nice though, and they end up holding his day up causing him to work late, so that is something I would suggest being mindful of.", "Every time we had builders my mom used to offer to make breakfast in a morning. Literally batch cooked bacon/sausage sarnies. Other than that donated a power source for their kettle and in the summer sometimes went round with ice drinks", "You can buy them those packs of water bottles. And give it to them....I’m sure they would appreciate it", "Setup a microwave on your front lawn for them to use for their lunches. Get an extension cord and put it near the street, you dont even have to put it on a table because they would have an old brick or something laying around, they aren’t fussy people." ]

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[ "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse.", "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse.", "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse.", "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse.", "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse.", "How do you gently decline an invite from someone to go to something you don't find fun? Friend wants me to go to a concert that doesn't interest me at all. I have no excuses not to go besides my desire not to. I can't find the words to express \"Thanks, but no.\" Its also too late to make up an excuse." ]

[ "Just be upfront about it, if you beat around the bush then you might get invited to something similar later on. Just make it clear that it isn't something you are particularly interested in and offer to spend time with them some other time doing something else.", "Well, yup, it's too late to back out now without looking like an asshole. Just practice, in future, being more up front about saying that's so kind but I don't like that band/it's not my cup of tea/no thank you but perhaps we could do [insert something you'd both enjoy] soon? Make sure they get that you actually don't want to go this time as it's the thing you wouldn't enjoy, but make just as sure that they know that you absolutely want to spend time with them, just doing something else.\n\n\nOn this occasion, I'd just go, suck it up, but try not to hate it. If you can't find anything about it that you enjoy, try to take notice of the parts your friend seems to enjoy the most. It'll give you food for conversation afterwards: hey I noticed you really like the part where/when they sang this/the costumes, etc. Why did you like those parts? Instant intro into interesting conversation about many other things and the bonus that you get to be a good friend; they'll notice that you're showing an interest in what interests them. Even if the concert doesn't interest you, you can still show that you find your friend interesting.", "\"im not that big of a fan of their stuff, but you go have a great time, we'll catch up soon, alright?\"\n\nYou state your reason, wish them well, and state your interest in seeing them, so that they dont think \"its them\".", "To be honest, it seems like you already fucked up, and are in the wrong. You need to tell your friend you're not interested, but expect them to be angry that you're telling them now after they made plans with you with what seems like a long time ago based on your post. You're also embarrassing them for pushing something that you didn't want to do.\n\nAnyway, good luck.", "I usually say something like, \"Thanks for inviting me, but I'll pass this time around.\" I think that's a nice way of doing things and clear. You don't need to say yes to everything. ", "I agree with all of the 'be honest' responses, but would add another thing.\n\nSuggest doing something else later.\n\nThe problem with \"I'm not interested in that\" is that it is often used by people who don't mean it. \n\nBe honest that you're not into it, but make it clear that you're interested in spending time with them, even though that particular thing doesn't interest you." ]

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[ "Best way to create a daily schedule and get into the habit of following a routine and stay motivated? ", "Best way to create a daily schedule and get into the habit of following a routine and stay motivated? ", "Best way to create a daily schedule and get into the habit of following a routine and stay motivated? ", "Best way to create a daily schedule and get into the habit of following a routine and stay motivated? ", "Best way to create a daily schedule and get into the habit of following a routine and stay motivated? " ]

[ "Make it realistic and found time for your hobby.\nMaybe first weeks it will be hard to follow but you have to keep going and you make your schedule so make it motivating for you to follow it ", "The thing that helped me use a planner for school is start by going through the syllabus and put in class times and due dates. Then plan time to do those assignments. For example if I have a paper due Friday I would out in writing time on Wednesday and Thursday. Put in the things you have to do first. \n\nThe second thing that helped me use a planner is schedule in \"free time.\" You don't have to have an activity planned for free time, just do what you want at that time like nap, watch TV, read, whatever. It's a no-pressue time to do whatever before you have more schedule activities. I used to put free time if I had a stretch between classes so I had a no pressure time to do homework and if I didn't want to do homework I could nap without throwing off my day. ", "For me, it helps to make myself accountable to someone else, even if it’s to strangers. If I post “I’m going to work out for 30 days in a row” on Instagram or FB, then make myself post a pic of a calendar once a week marking off the days I worked out, I’ll be way more inclined to stick with it. ", "Look up Pomodoro Technique on YouTube https://youtu.be/mNBmG24djoY and learn to schedule your days using 25 minute long sprints or Pomodoros...including free time, mealtimes, study times, etc. Also get one of the many free apps for Pomodoro and use one as your timer. ", "Create a simple to do list, each bullet not being too long so it’s not intimidating.\n\nIf you’re not feeling motivated, set a timer for 20 mins. Do that task until the alarm rings. Set it for another 20 mins and either keep going or take a break. Also having a friend keep you accountable helps. If you say to them by 6pm I’m going to have my essay done. Ask them to check in with you at 6pm. And do the same for them. " ]

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[ "How to practice better control over the volume of my voice The natural volume of my voice is extremely loud. It's something I've struggled with my entire life. As I get older, it's less \"aw, awkward teenager\" and more \"jesus chris, stop yelling at me.\"\n\nI know it's just a matter of habit and catching myself and being aware of it, but any tips for exp", "How to practice better control over the volume of my voice The natural volume of my voice is extremely loud. It's something I've struggled with my entire life. As I get older, it's less \"aw, awkward teenager\" and more \"jesus chris, stop yelling at me.\"\n\nI know it's just a matter of habit and catching myself and being aware of it, but any tips for exp", "How to practice better control over the volume of my voice The natural volume of my voice is extremely loud. It's something I've struggled with my entire life. As I get older, it's less \"aw, awkward teenager\" and more \"jesus chris, stop yelling at me.\"\n\nI know it's just a matter of habit and catching myself and being aware of it, but any tips for exp", "How to practice better control over the volume of my voice The natural volume of my voice is extremely loud. It's something I've struggled with my entire life. As I get older, it's less \"aw, awkward teenager\" and more \"jesus chris, stop yelling at me.\"\n\nI know it's just a matter of habit and catching myself and being aware of it, but any tips for exp" ]

[ "I would like to know this too, for my husband. He has bad hearing, so when he talks, he's literally screaming. Its especially frustrating at night when my son is sleeping and we need to be quiet. ", "Try doing some vocal exercises (youtube them). This may give you a sense of your volume and in time maybe make you constantly self-aware of your voice. You need to develop a habit. That's it.", "Random, but: My friend is originally from a part in lower Mexico where the climate caused some changes in his earwax, so once he got to the desert where I'm from it crystalized or hardened. He realized something was wrong because people would often bring it to his attention how loudly he was speaking. He suspected a more serious ear problem but they just drilled out the wax ... rocks? And he could hear better, consequentially the volume of his voice went back to normal.\n\nIf this isn't the case, this could be insight into how little or no time you spend formulating your thoughts before you speak. For most minds, one usually questions the logic, timing, appropriateness etc of what we're about to say. For you, you have to add, at what level is everyone else speaking at? to your thoughts. Try taking a visible breath while you're thinking , so that others see youre processing information. You can wear a string or something a bit tight around your neck or chest or as a reminder and eventually you won't need it at all.\nI have to constantly think of this bc Im a mumbler and speak three languages, so I have to reallllly think before I speak to make sure I make sense. \nAlso, try a few vocal warm ups and singing lessons on YouTube to help you understand how to use all parts of your voice.\nYou by no means should compress your loudness, but as you asked, learn to control it. It could come in handy one day! \n", "Imagine you're in a church. Or wear headphones, play some music and try to sing so that you DON'T hear yourself." ]

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[ "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?", "How to make friends as an adult, when you dont have the free time or money to join a club or sport etc? Im 27, ever since I left primary school, a major factor of my life has been everyone and anyone I get close with, inevitably ends up leaving (new school/ new state/ new country). \n\nIve always had acquaintances and mates through high school and uni, but I havent really had any 'close friends' that have stuck around for longer than a year. Now that I am out of uni and working full time, I have lost contact with most of my mates and acquaintances, and in typical fashion, my closest mate atm just moved to another state, over 6 hours away.\n\nI get along just fine with the people at work, but we arent really the type of people to hang around outside of work.\n\nMy job doesnt pay very well, and as such, I have had to pick up a second part time job which means I barely have any free time. After sleeping/ eating/ cleaning, i get about 30m a day to relax.\n\nBasically, I am looking for some ways to make some new friends. Because of my financial situation, I cant afford to/ dont have enough time to join a sports club or something similar. \n\nMy partner is in a very similar situation, she suffers from some mental health issues so she isnt the best in social sitauions and as such, also struggles keeping friends around. Just wondering if anyone has had any similar issues and how you guys go about making some new friends?" ]

[ "Sounds like you’ve got two hurdles you’re trying to get past: time and money. \n\nFor creating extra time, totally depends on your personal situation. You might be a time management machine already, and you’re just up to your eyeballs. But, if you’re like me, what worked was finding ways to knock out a lot of tasks at once and sticking to a schedule. For example,\nlearning to meal prep instead of cooking each night has saved me hours per week. Then, by doing things on a routine, I can more easily set aside that time for things I enjoy, like socializing. \n\nAs for money: Not going to come at you with the “you should get a job that pays better” garbage. The internet is your best friend for hunting down free or cheap ways to meet people. I’d suggest following subreddit for your town, city, etc. and keep an eye out for local social events (might be a bit tricky with Covid). Or, if you want to be more proactive, start posting ideas for people with similar interests to meet up. Alternatively, if you’re ok with more online only friendships, dive into some subreddits on topics you’re interested in. From there you can start getting involved in conversations with a goal of finding or starting a Discord server to join, where you can have live discussions with people who you know share an interest.\n\nThese are just the things that worked for me - your situation is totally your own, and you may have to make adjustments that fit you best. Hope some of this helps, good luck!", "You basically can't because you have no time to offer a new friendship. Relationships of any kind, including friendships, require time. \n\nEven if you met someone randomly who wanted to be your friend you don't have the time to maintain that relationship and hang out with them and keep in touch.\n\nYou need to do something about your work situation, only having 30 minutes a day to relax is absolutely no way to live and it isn't sustainable.", "I like to know that too.\n\nA full time job and part time masters, is leaving me no time to make friends", "I think you asked the wrong group of people mate. This is reddit. People here don't have social life.", "One word-\nVolunteer.\nYou meet great people, and it doesn't cost you a fortune. Blood drives, storm clean up, toys for tots etc.", "You have to have a day off. I worked multiple jobs for a few years and was in the same situation as you. I had no time to do anything. Any time I was not working I was sleeping. I also had no time to cook so most of my money was going towards fast food and ready to eat meals from the grocery store. After a few months of working non-stop I had enough. I told all 3 of my jobs that I could no longer work on Saturdays. That was now my day off. I slept in, did chores, cooked, and generally took care of myself finally. On top of that I got out and became more social. I'm not the type of person who goes out to a bar and strikes up a conversation with strangers. To me that's really weird. Instead, I started going to our local MLS soccer games. I grew up with the sport and love it. At the time tickets were about $20 for the cheap seats, but no one cared if you were actually in your seats. Tickets now are still relatively inexpensive. I showed up about an hour early to the matches with my small cooler of beer and sat in the sun having a few pregame brews. After a couple of matches I started to chat with the others who got there and tailgated as well. We all became really close over the next few years. That was almost 12 years ago. I still hang out with the same group of people almost every weekend and not just for game days. We vacation together, celebrate birthdays together, and just hang out. \n\nMaking friends as an adult is hard and it sucks putting yourself out there. My advice is, find something you really enjoy doing and do that thing. Also, put some money into an entertainment fund weekly so you have some money to work with. Go to some local games, take a cooking class, find events in your area that interest you. You will find like minded people in the process. More importantly have a day off. Not just so you have time to actually be social, but also for your mental well being.", "Having friends takes time commitment. If you don’t have time it’s difficult to make friends. \nWorry about your finances and then friends.", "Half an hour? That's it!! You do realise your not living right right? Askin a friend to work around your BS schedule is just selfish and greedy. You will constantly let them down. \n\nSort yourself out first. The rest will follow", "You'll find in life that you will call very few people close friends. \n\nMost are acquaintances. You get along alright, but if you share something personal... Everyone and their grand parents, thrice removed, know about it.\n\nA close friend will tell it like it is, good or bad. And more importantly, keep their mouth shut.\n\nThat being said, look for groups that share similar interests. There are some rather generous and benevolent people out there who might offer you hand up if they think that you're sincere. \n\nAs an example; over in r/drones I read a thread where someone was selling a drone. In this thread, one redditor offered 500 for the drone and asked that it be shipped to another redditor in this same thread. \n\nPure generosity and willingness to help a complete stranger. \n\nOne...ok 2 more things: when you least expect it, expect it. And, be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.\n\nGood luck from an old phart. ,👍", "What life is this that is taking all your time. Do you have to pay debts . Do you have to pay child support.", "Volunteer for a political campaign or cause that you feel passionate about. Consider Red Cross trainings or Habitat for Humanity. If you have an interest in a spiritual life, find others who are on that journey. Walk your dog or a neighbor’s dog. Adopt a lonesome person in your neighborhood. Use the public library and attend their events.", "Talk to people in social settings. If someone is sitting at a bar he's likely open to small talk. If you're sitting at the shop in the waiting room waiting for your oil change to get done, talk to the others in there (unless they seem disinterested). If you're getting a coffee (at work, or in a social setting) try to remember what a person likes and get one for them too.\nIf you have kids, talk to the other parents at events (football games, practice..)", "Life just make you be closer to people that are compatible to you, just be you, no meed to be firiendly or talkative or something, the people that can be friends with the real you will just pop in there. Im 41 and this is what actually happens to me", "I’ve found some of my best friends while gaming online with random matchups. Find a game you like and just start playing online. Once you find somebody who is easy to talk to and generally enjoy playing with, send them a friend request within the platform. Only thing to keep in mind is to moderate how much time you spend playing, because it’s easy to overdo it with a great game.", "If you don’t have free time for clubs/sports, do you have free time for friends? If you are in a city, check out a meet up app to find people to do shit with like hike. Go play free sports. Go to a hostel, don’t stay overnight but chill in the general area and start talking to travelers, they always want to chat", "If you don't have any free time in the first place, what good is it to make new friends if you can spend time with them?", "I would try local churches. Welcoming people should be high on their priority list, even if you’ve never been", "I think it's natural to want that connection, but it's a give and take. You got to start with being a friend. You might put yourself out there and be prepared for minimal returns, but don't get discouraged. If your lifestyle is not conducive to having friends, you might have to make decisions whether something needs to change to meet your goals.", "I feel you bro. I live in Calgary and hiking is cheap and there are online groups where you can go hike with a group, nice people, cheap transport less likely to be eaten by a bear.", "Hobbies, there are few cheap and minimal time requirement hobbies out there.\nAnd volunteering if you can afford it..\n\nOf course, I hope you can spare 30min -1 hour / week i.e. for walking right? If not, you neither have time for friends, and that's a huge and unfortunate issue.\n\n", "Find a group online for a very specific hobby that you enjoy. I tend to find that when you find something that you connect with someone else friendships tend to appear.", "Discord is becoming the irc of this generation. You can find all sorts of weird and wonderful people and servers.\n\nsearch; local area + 'discord' if you're in a populated area. I joined an Edinburgh discord channel that organises meetups, online things etc.\n\nsearch; hobby/interest + 'discord if you're looking for something specific. Many subreddits have their own discord channels.", "Co-ed softball leagues are a great way to meet new friends. I've been in a couple as a stranger and have met some great friends. Even helped with the bonding with my Wife. They are usually cheap to join too, sub $50 usd, which is usually for the umpire cost.", "As an adult you really don’t have friends it sucks but it’s true, but if your able to afford a puppy it’ll help with meeting people which in return will help with interpersonal skills. Also may try going to local parks, brewery’s with free music, or venues that you have interest in. I personally suck at making friends and generally don’t like people, but I’ve made acquaintances at the gym.", "[https://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html](https://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html)\n\nThis article is very insightful.", "Yeah, let me know when you find out. If I were you I would consider looking for another job that pays more or going back to school, move away yourself, You need to put yourself in a situation were you have more time to be a friend", "Did I say that is the only option? Your advice is quite nefarious, the sole idiosyncrasy that there is only one way and thus refuting one's experience is laughable, just remember that there are different kind of personalities and different cultures, and sometimes it just doesnt match." ]

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[ "Apartment Rent for Dummies I'm a college kid looking to move out of the dorms so I can save about 10k per semester. Me and two other friends are looking at apartments to rent and I just had a question about how rent is calculated. If a place says rent is $925 per month does that mean rent is $925 per month divided by the 3 people (or however many people living there) or is it $925 per person per month?", "Apartment Rent for Dummies I'm a college kid looking to move out of the dorms so I can save about 10k per semester. Me and two other friends are looking at apartments to rent and I just had a question about how rent is calculated. If a place says rent is $925 per month does that mean rent is $925 per month divided by the 3 people (or however many people living there) or is it $925 per person per month?", "Apartment Rent for Dummies I'm a college kid looking to move out of the dorms so I can save about 10k per semester. Me and two other friends are looking at apartments to rent and I just had a question about how rent is calculated. If a place says rent is $925 per month does that mean rent is $925 per month divided by the 3 people (or however many people living there) or is it $925 per person per month?", "Apartment Rent for Dummies I'm a college kid looking to move out of the dorms so I can save about 10k per semester. Me and two other friends are looking at apartments to rent and I just had a question about how rent is calculated. If a place says rent is $925 per month does that mean rent is $925 per month divided by the 3 people (or however many people living there) or is it $925 per person per month?", "Apartment Rent for Dummies I'm a college kid looking to move out of the dorms so I can save about 10k per semester. Me and two other friends are looking at apartments to rent and I just had a question about how rent is calculated. If a place says rent is $925 per month does that mean rent is $925 per month divided by the 3 people (or however many people living there) or is it $925 per person per month?" ]

[ "You're going to be saving a lot of money by moving out of the dorms! Before you look into an apartment, consider the location, how close it is to campus, and reviews of the building. See what your rent includes (does it cover electricity, trash, sewer, etc.)\n\nAs for your question, let's say you are looking at a 3 bedroom apartment. The monthly rent for that apartment is $925 per month. In that case, If there are 3 people living in this building, then each of you would pay about $308 ( 925 / 3). \n\nKeep in mind, landlords have a security deposit that you must pay before you rent an apartment. That security deposit will be refunded back to you when your lease is over but if you damaged the building in any way (ex: stained the carpet), they'll keep the security deposit and use it towards fixing the stain.", "That would be total. So 925 divided by 3 is your amount. Keep in mind utilities, mostly water and electricity.", "Renting an apartment is not always cheaper than a dorm, so definitely check around. Also, a dorm is often more attentive to the tenant's needs than the landlord of a rental apartment that would be cheaper. \n\nIf the rooms in the apartment are the same size, then splitting three way makes sense. Otherwise, you could get more technical and prorate per sq ft of shared and personal space. ", "Really consider the cost in all this. And try to look for an apartment that is all inclusive meaning it covers utilities(electric and water) and covers internet. If the apartment does not then budget for paying $100-$200 a month in utilities and then another $100 for internet. So if you did move into the his place that's $925 a month then all your living costs (rent+utilities+internet) could run you about $600. Make sure you are able to pay that COMFORTABLY a month. Also look into places that allow separate leases meaning that each person leases their own room so that if one defaults on their rent it's not up to the other roommates to pay. Things happen and it's better to just be responsible for yourself. If you live in a college town then their are usually places like this. \n\nTL;DR look for all inclusive rent and separate leases per room. Good luck. ", "More tips. Former landlord here. \nBe sure that whatever agreements you come to with the landlord are in writing and signed by all parties involved. Oral agreements are not agreements at all. Read ALL of the fine print. If any item is added or deleted from the original printed agreement, then be sure the landlord and each tenant initials and dates the change. Be sure all parties have a copy of the signed lease and a copy of any changes to the original printed agreement. Oral agreements about real estate are the same as no agreement at all in my state. \n\nIf your rental agreement states, for example, $925 per month, and you plan to split that $925 between the three of you, then make an additional written agreement between the three tenants stating how much each person will pay, by what date each month, and what the financial penalty will be to the person who is late. Also, make an agreement on paper as to what will happen with rent payments if one person decides to leave early before the lease is up. (Some roommates agree that the rent will be divided as usual between the original three people until a new roommate is found who is agreeable to the remaining two roommates, the landlord completes a satisfactory background check of the proposed roommate, and the new roommate begins rent payment). Again, write all of it down, sign it by everyone, date it, and each tenant gets a copy of it. If you get a new roommate, then you need a new signed agreement. \n\nDo not let roommates pay the landlord in cash. Use a cr" ]

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[ "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr", "How do I stop junk mail in my mailbox? I'm getting really tired of the amount of junk mail (snail mail...not email) I've been getting in my mailbox. Not so much the trouble of getting it to just throw it away, but mainly from the sense of the pure waste it creates. Cr" ]

[ "Keep a gila monster in your mailbox. \n \nStops regular mail, too, but you gotta take the good with the bad.", "The devil on my shoulder says to attach the business reply envelopes to a rock and mail them back. Or just stuff them with junk mail. Either way costs the sender money.", "[https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4cpqzw/lpt_request_stop_junk_mail/](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/4cpqzw/lpt_request_stop_junk_mail/)\n\nI've had some limited amount of success with PaperKarma (enough success that I'm happy to pay them $2 a month ... if nothing else, submitting the request makes me feel like I did something) and just straight up e-mailing companies to ask them to stop sending me mail. \n\nA couple more of my links:\n\n* [ Fight Identity Theft](http://www.fightidentitytheft.com/junkmail_labels.html) (text to use on your request so you don't sound like as big of an ass)\n\n* [41 Pounds](http://www.41pounds.org/faq/) (don't know anything about this one other than that it exists)\n\n* [this thing from Today.com](http://www.today.com/money/sick-mailbox-full-flyers-cr", "[This site](https://www.catalogchoice.org/) helps quite a lot. I use it regularly, and have seen a reduction in junk mail.", "I tried everything. Wrote on it \"no such addressee, return to sender\" and threw it in a mailbox. Called/emailed and asked to be removed from the mailing list. Wrote \"remove from mailing list\" in huge sharpie pen on cr", "To stop general junk mail [DMA Choice](https://dmachoice.thedma.org/)\n\nTo stop cr", "I keep a recycle bin next to my mailbox. >90% of my mail goes straight from the mailbox to the recycle bin. Hopefully at some point the mail advertisers get a clue that it's just not worth it and stop mailing me, but I'm not optimistic.", "You could always make a gmail account if you don't have one. Mine has a social/promotional section which auto-sorts my e-mails. Never have issues.", "What I like to do is get the stuff that they send with a prepaid return envelope, stuff it with garbage and whatever else you can and send it back! No need to add your name to it. A CC company who constantly sent me the same shit over and over, I sent them a pack full of dead bugs, I haven't heard or seen back from them. So that's always an option" ]

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[ "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?", "My shower has no warm water. I don't mind it when I'm already soaked, but the initial shock of the cold water makes the beginning of every shower a torture. How can I dampen this effect? Any ideas?" ]

[ "Turn on the shower before stepping into it. Bend over and let it run through your hair over the back of your head first. Let that continue for several seconds. Then step slightly forward so it hits the top of your back, letting it run down the back of your body. After your back is wet, straighten up. It won't feel nearly as cold when it hits the front. ", "I travel frequently and when I am in locations with no hot water, I often try to find ways to take the edge off the bitter cold water as well.\n\n* 1) Time your shower during the day at a point where you are going to be hot already, so the cold water will be refreshing.\n\n* 2) Do several sets of jumping jacks, push-ups, pull-ups, squats and/or whatever for 5 minutes to get your heart rate up, blood flowing, and body much warmer so it wants to cool off before you get in.\n\n* 3) Literally don't even think about the cold water. Very consciously be thinking deeply about other things and go through the motions of prepping to shower. When it is time, get in and turn the water on full on your body. This way you have 5 seconds of hell with no psychological repercussions of dreading it for 20 minutes first, and then trying to figure out a way to get one toe in at a time for the next half hour before finally allowing yourself to shower. It sucks for 5-10 seconds, but is efficient as hell.", "learn to enjoy pain. But what you can do is shake the shit out your water, the vibration heats you up. you can also curse and speak in jibberish, science says that helps with pain. ", "Start with a washcloth and soap instead of standing directly under the water so you slowly get used to the cold while you use the washcloth then start with back of head like others are saying. \n\nI had to live a few weeks without a water heater didn't love it but that seemed like the best avoidance for the shock of the cold.", "You could try getting a bin/bucket of some sort to collect water half an hour before, then let it go down to room temperature.\n\nWhen I was in the Philippines, we had something like [**this**](http://i.imgur.com/CrHbQpu.jpg). Basically you plug it in, let it sit in the water, and it'll run electricity through it to heat it up.", "I would take water into your hands and rub some of it over your body. This will get your body a little used to the colder water ", "if the shower head is removable then spray going up from the legs to your torso.if fixed showerhead in a bath tub then start at far end of tub and walk slowly towards the stream of water so that the water is going legs then some torso and then full torso. ", "[DIY yourself a solar water heater.](http://www.instructables.com/id/DIY-Solar-Powered-Water-Heater-3-Steps/)", "Try bucket showers. Less water and about 1-2 kettles boiled and the rest cold (or whatever temp you can get to come out of the tank) mixed in is just about right for me. I think the bucket is about 4 gallons/15 liters and that's enough to get the job done. Even when it's crazy hot here I can't do cold water, it's gotta be at least warm. ", "Then I read, cold water in a tropical environment ?Try cold water in a Canadian lake,where your genitals(male), are absorbed by your pelvis.Now that is what you call cold!", "look into the wim hof method. his ideas on cold immersion are fascinating (i just started it btw), i think it's really healthy.\n\nall a state of mind...", "When i visit Belize it's always somewhere between hot and hot as fuck. The cold water there isn't all that cold. Here at home, where I have a white collar job, I shower in the morning. In Belize it makes more sense to shower at night before bed, so the sheets don's stick to my skin or get all dirty from the dust of the day. The technique of letting your head get used to the cool water first is a good one. After an exhilarating cool shower, it makes it easier to get to sleep clean, in a clean bed, neither as hot nor as sticky.", "This sounds horrible! but incredibly efficient. Yep it must be an asian country they tossed out the comfort of a bathroom and boiled it down to the bare essentials. ", "Perhaps set a towel aside and use it as a buffer when you first get in. Just put it on your back till you acclimate.", "No one here has the right answer. Some of them are close. The right answer is to turn your shower on but only barely, so there's not much water flow and not much heat transfer.\nThen you do the other things suggested. Put your hands in first, use your hands to splash some water on your face and head, etc.\nBtw this works whether the shower is too hot or too cold, just reduce the volume of liquid, and you're good. People use way too much water showering anyway. You just need to get wet everywhere, scrub possibly with soap, and then get wet everywhere again to rinse it off.", "Native Americans would rub the cold water of a river on their chest back and head to prepare them. So just do that homie", "I'm such a pussy, I've only had to take 2 or 3 cold showers in my life! I just did everything very quickly. My really like the idea of the large black metal pail left in the sun to warm up. \nBest of luck Op!", "I just kinda jump in. If you turn the water on, then slowly inch towards the spray it will be agonising. Just stand under the showerhead, turn it up all the way, and enjoy (the rest of) your shower.", "I have the same situation. Eventually I just got over it. You only have the initial shock because its you're so conscious of that initial cold shock, if you think of it as a horrible experience, it will be.\n\nJust be calm, breath, turn the tap on and get wet. Its no big deal. \nIts all in the mind.", "Cold water to your body core induces the Mammalian diving reflex, the initial shock you feel. There is no realistic way to avoid this as it is a reflex.", "Can you install a hand-held sprayer on a hose like the ones on some kitchen sinks? It restricts the flow, but allows you to turn the water on only when you need it so you're not constantly barraging yourself with cold water.", "Bro why don't you set up a solar heating system? Buy a pump and some 1\" piping and buy a solar heat exchanger and hook that Shiz up, expansion tank needed. Literally free hot water after initial investment, you'll be paying for the circulation pump \n\nWe have these on tons of being buildings here, summer and winter. Or you could set a storage tank outside and have the ambient air keep it around 90ish.", "Brace yourself and YOLO right into the shower. I'm a professional chugger, and some days, I don't really feel it, but sometimes I just move my arm and the movements just happen on their own from there. If you live alone, scream if it helps to brace for the cold, because brace yourself, winter is coming.", "?? I wake up in the morning and the first thing I do is jump into a cold shower. I fucking *love* it. Even - nay - *especially* in Winter. \n\nTry to change your perspective on things. \n\nCold showers have a lot of health benefits. Reading up on them might change your mindset to one more analogous to exercising, where it's \"no pain = no gain\"." ]

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[ "Getting rid of sweat stains on the soles o f shoes After wearing my Vans without socks for a couple of weeks the inner sole has a bad sweat stain, and smells pretty bad. How should I go about deodorizing and ridding the stain from the sole?", "Getting rid of sweat stains on the soles o f shoes After wearing my Vans without socks for a couple of weeks the inner sole has a bad sweat stain, and smells pretty bad. How should I go about deodorizing and ridding the stain from the sole?" ]

[ "You could remove the laces and put them in a mesh bag, then wash them in the washing machine. It worked with my boat shoes.", "Take out the soles replace it with new ones then put air freshner not alot.I love having clean socks :) clean freak " ]

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[ "How do I make myself a less picky eater? Like the title suggests, I'm a fairly picky eater. Not horrible, but there are quite a few foods (especially vegetables) that range from \"absolutely hate\" (ex: raw onions, celery, tomatoes) to \"would rather not eat\" (ex: cucumbers, peppers). I really dislike being a picky eater, as it seems like it would be a lot easier to be able to make and eat meals without needing to substitute/leave out ingredients, and I also feel like it's not very polite, as sometimes I find myself picking around certain ingredients in a meal if I'm eating at a friends house, etc. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome picky eating?\n\nThanks!", "How do I make myself a less picky eater? Like the title suggests, I'm a fairly picky eater. Not horrible, but there are quite a few foods (especially vegetables) that range from \"absolutely hate\" (ex: raw onions, celery, tomatoes) to \"would rather not eat\" (ex: cucumbers, peppers). I really dislike being a picky eater, as it seems like it would be a lot easier to be able to make and eat meals without needing to substitute/leave out ingredients, and I also feel like it's not very polite, as sometimes I find myself picking around certain ingredients in a meal if I'm eating at a friends house, etc. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome picky eating?\n\nThanks!", "How do I make myself a less picky eater? Like the title suggests, I'm a fairly picky eater. Not horrible, but there are quite a few foods (especially vegetables) that range from \"absolutely hate\" (ex: raw onions, celery, tomatoes) to \"would rather not eat\" (ex: cucumbers, peppers). I really dislike being a picky eater, as it seems like it would be a lot easier to be able to make and eat meals without needing to substitute/leave out ingredients, and I also feel like it's not very polite, as sometimes I find myself picking around certain ingredients in a meal if I'm eating at a friends house, etc. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome picky eating?\n\nThanks!", "How do I make myself a less picky eater? Like the title suggests, I'm a fairly picky eater. Not horrible, but there are quite a few foods (especially vegetables) that range from \"absolutely hate\" (ex: raw onions, celery, tomatoes) to \"would rather not eat\" (ex: cucumbers, peppers). I really dislike being a picky eater, as it seems like it would be a lot easier to be able to make and eat meals without needing to substitute/leave out ingredients, and I also feel like it's not very polite, as sometimes I find myself picking around certain ingredients in a meal if I'm eating at a friends house, etc. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome picky eating?\n\nThanks!", "How do I make myself a less picky eater? Like the title suggests, I'm a fairly picky eater. Not horrible, but there are quite a few foods (especially vegetables) that range from \"absolutely hate\" (ex: raw onions, celery, tomatoes) to \"would rather not eat\" (ex: cucumbers, peppers). I really dislike being a picky eater, as it seems like it would be a lot easier to be able to make and eat meals without needing to substitute/leave out ingredients, and I also feel like it's not very polite, as sometimes I find myself picking around certain ingredients in a meal if I'm eating at a friends house, etc. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome picky eating?\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "Pretty much everything everyone here is saying. But also this:\n\nOnions taste like onions. They never won't taste like onions. The goal is to get over your dislike of the taste of onions, and enjoy the taste of onions instead. They're not going to magically taste like chocolate one day. \n\nSo, take a bite of onions. Know that it's going to taste like onions. Don't recoil from it. Let it sit in your mouth. Let it linger. Examine the taste in your mind, with your tongue. Explore the complexities of the flavor, the texture, the aroma. The onion. Savor the onion. It is, and you are. Taste the onion. Let the onion taste you. Make no judgements about the onion, merely experience it. Now swallow, continuing your experiential journey. Take a sip of water. Rinse out your mouth. Examine the after taste. Examine your breath, the feeling of your throat, your tongue. This is what it means to eat an onion. And you will never truly get over your aversion unless you know this. Embrace the onion. And let it embrace you. \n\nNow pause, and make the decision to be excited about your second bite of onion. Now be excited. Now take your second bite, and repeat the whole process. \n\nNow go rest, you deserve it. Your training resumes tomorrow. \n\n", "Find a significant other and eat with them. I was always worried about being picky around them so I just ate what ever I was given", "Eat foods that have small amounts of them mixed in. \n\nI used to hate tomatoes and onion, but I've learned to eat them by eating burritos with pico de gallo included. ", "Just bite into it. Start by mixing it with something you like until you gradually come to like it more.", "I used to be super picky. When I was 8-10 I wouldn't even eat the cheese on pizza. I then just ate all of the things I hated many times until I liked them. Fake it till you make it.\n\n\nNow I fucking love pizza, and olives and tomatoes and just bucking everything." ]

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[ "Is it possible to live somewhere exotic in the world (Thailand islands, hawai etc.) and don't worry about money too much? ", "Is it possible to live somewhere exotic in the world (Thailand islands, hawai etc.) and don't worry about money too much? ", "Is it possible to live somewhere exotic in the world (Thailand islands, hawai etc.) and don't worry about money too much? ", "Is it possible to live somewhere exotic in the world (Thailand islands, hawai etc.) and don't worry about money too much? ", "Is it possible to live somewhere exotic in the world (Thailand islands, hawai etc.) and don't worry about money too much? " ]

[ "I have family that moved to Thailand. It's a trade-off. Everything is SUPER cheap, you could live forever on close to nothing. BUT, it's an extremely unsanitary area. Water is very dirty, dishes and food are washed in the dirty water. If you want clean water, you have to buy it. There's a lot of crime, and very little law enforcement, etc. \n\nI have found that most islands are really expensive to live on. All products have to be shipped in, so everything is more expensive, and there's not a lot of opportunity for employment.", "Just visited Cambodia and things are dirt cheap. 50 cent draft beer and $3-$4 lunch in The tourist part of siem reap. The cost of living for locals must be crazy cheap.", "Excluding Hawaii as it’s expensive AF, most of Asia is a fantastic place to move to when you take EARLY retirement from the western grind. ", "There is a woman who literally lives in a jungle, sleeps in a tent, showers in the rain, etc. Search \"F r e e l e e\" on youtube", "My buddies work as raft guides and can save a few grand all summer. They go to Nicaragua for the winter and live like kings. You could probably retire there and live like a baller for less than $5k/year" ]

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[ "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude.", "How do you become an optimistic person? I always find myself being pessimistic, looking at the bad. I want to try getting a positive attitude." ]

[ "A long time ago, I decided to stop talking badly about other people. I didn't insult them. I stopped making chide remarks. Over time, I stopped thinking negatively about people, to the extent I could. Hey, nobody is perfect.\n\n\nWhen you see someone screw up, you don't ridicule them. Maybe they are learning. Maybe they are having a bad day. Maybe they need help. But insulting them, thinking badly of them, or laughing at them doesn't help.\n\n\nI believe that over time, this has rewired my brain and make be much more happy. I hope that helps.", "Gratefulness is the start. Wake up every morning and think of five good things you have. Go through the day twisting your mindset around. For example, don't get pissed that traffic is causing you to be late. Be happy you have a vehicle that works and a job to go to. Dont get frustrated when the soda machine is out of diet pepsi, be happy you have a dollar to pull out and buy it with and think of how amazing it is to even have an ice cold drink of diet pepsi, and the fact they have machines everywhere just for your convenience. ", "I am not a religious person, but I envy how *some* (not all) religious people are able to carry on happily through an otherwise shitty life. It's probably due to a sense of community coupled with a positive form of delusion, but what does it matter. If I could take the blue pill and believe all that stuff, I'd do it in a heartbeat just to be happy.", "First thing you gotta do is commit to making the change. You have to seriously want to. After that, you just need to pay attention to what you say or do. Any time you notice yourself thinking something negative, ask yourself \"what's one positive thing to come out of this situation\". It takes work at first, but eventually you stop having to ask yourself and those positive thoughts come before the negative ones. ", "Take time to think about what you're grateful for. I try to write down 3 things in my journal every day. If you're not the journalling type, just taking time to think about them is okay too- just whatever works for you. These can be anything from people in your life or opportunities you've had you're grateful for; or having a roof over your head and food in your belly, or anything really. Another thing I do is try to think about the 3 best things that have already happened today/ or happened yesterday or whatever. A lot of times these are just small things, like *I had the time to go for a walk, and I love going for walks* or *My tea this morning was just right to warm a cold winter morning*, etc. Once you start to look for it, you'll see that you have so much to be grateful for. There is so much good in your life. We can't always choose what is going to happen, but we can choose how we respond to it. Attitude is everything. Remember: **Happiness is not an end goal, but a way of life.**", "Take care of yourself. Good nutrition, good rest, good work and good fun. Learn to respond rather than react to challenges. It can be tough going some days.", "Understand that the impossibility of you, i, or our universe existing as we know it, is unimaginably great. I would probably win the lottery every time they draw for it for millions of years, and so forth, before you are remotely recreated. Its unimaginable and mind-blowing. You only have a few short decades on this planet before you are in the dirt and your energy, atoms, etc, rearrange for other uses. So with that being said, the impossibility of you is amazing, if youre wasting it, then another sperm should have made it before you, but it didnt, so congratulations! Now go live, im sure you have less then 70-80 years, in the name of the other sperm in your dads balls, be happy that you, i, and the universe as we know it exists.", "I evaluate the situation, if there's nothing I can do to change it, there's nothing to be pessimistic about. " ]

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[ "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n", "How to accept your past I'm a college student trying to figure life out. I cannot seem to accept my past. I can't forgive myself for certain things that happened. I can't ever seem to see myself as a responsible adult when I have the guilt of things that happened years ago. \n\nAny tips on how to accept your past? I'm sure everyone has to go through this.\n\n" ]

[ "You need to realize that you create your past based on what you do in the present. You also have to realize that you can't change anything once it is done. There are no tips on this. You have to just realize that you can only change your present and that in turn dictates the past and gives you a reasonable expectation for the future since no one can fully predict what will happen. You have to keep saying these things to yourself everytime you have thoughts of the past. Stop the thought and think about these few points.", "Whatever happens in life I try to get something positive out of it.\n\n- I went through abuse when I was younger so now I want to adopt, so I can give a child a happier childhood.\n\n- I had surgery when I was younger and it really upset me so I went to uni to learn about biology and now I work in a hospital doing medical research.\n\n- I didn't have a lot of money growing up so now I'm fucking awesome at budgeting.\n\nYou hold a relationship with your past self, but you are not your past self. I'm nothing like I was 10 years ago. People judge you by your actions now, not by what happened years ago.", "Try your best to accept that you're human - we all make mistakes. We will continue to make mistakes until the end of humanity. I have a laugh at my mess-ups, because they're totally natural! I have forgiven the people who have hurt me. You don't need to tell them of your forgiveness, you can just decide to forgive them in your head.\n\nIf you have hurt others, see if you can make amends with the people you've hurt. If you can't, do your best to forgive yourself. If you can't right a past wrong, don't let it keep you from making positive choices in the future. \n\nSeek counseling/therapy, or a support group. Your college most likely offers these services for free. Take advantage of them! You can choose any second of any day to reinvent yourself and try to be a better person. Old habits die hard, but the line between persistence and habit begin to blur as time goes on.\n\nIf you can, focus on spreading positivity to others! I'm not very vocal in person, but here I can anonymously send nice messages to people. It really does make me feel like I'm doing something right, regardless of what I've done. It's great that you've reached out to people who can give you some advice, I hope all goes well in your life!", "Try to learn from your mistakes(past) and look on them as a learning experience. \n\nSomething like college but without high tuition fees. \n\nJoin a drama class, it will help you understand your emotions and give you a safe way to express them", "I always think of this quote I read \"guilt is for construction not destruction\" Guilt is there so we learn from our mistakes and not do it again. But it's not there to destroy you. So acknowledge what you did wrong, commit to not doing it again and go forward.", "Live with no regrets. Accept responsibility/consequences for your actions. Whatever happened in the past makes you into the person you are today. Don't like the mistakes you made, learn from them and make better choices next time.\n\nStupid example: Didn't wash the dishes, got ants. Accepted I brought it on myself. Got rid of ants. Wash the dishes more regularly. Became a more responsible person. ", "It sounds like you have a couple of problems that you're trying to deal with. First, you're not happy with things you've done in the past. Pretty much everyone deals with this. You can either continue on with wishing things were different, or you can just accept that it is the way it is. There is no changing it, so what's the value in holding on to it? It sounds like you learned from it, since you view things differently now. Forgive yourself. You made mistakes. Maybe lots and lots of them. Maybe really bad ones. What can you do now? Not make the same mistakes again, right? If you would not behave the same way now, why keep treating yourself as if you would?\n\nThe other issue seems to be that you're afraid of running into people from the past who will judge you on those past actions rather than the person you are now. If you feel guilty about wronging someone in the past, consider apologizing. Own what you did in the past. Don't make excuses for it. Admit that you did whatever it was, admit that you know it was wrong, state that you are a different person now and will not act that way again. You may not be able to build or rebuild friendships just by apologizing, but it should help you clear your mind of the things you worry about, and might help the other person get past it, too.\n\nI am guessing that you are concerned about typical youthful bad behavior like bullying other kids, just being a jerk or similar types of things. If it was more serious, my advice might not be as applicable.\n\nThe bottom line is to be the kind of person that you want others to believe that you are. When they see evidence of it, they'll start to think that way.", "Have a look at the second half of this:\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RoGdMpdZXzs\n\nTry to stop thinking about your past, you'll only strengthen those memories. Just try to accept that it happened and realize that you learned from it. Even if that just means you now know to never does these things that are troubling you again. All you can control is the present moment so don't ruin it by living in your past. Forgive yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself.\n\nAlso mindfullness is a good skill to learn in order to not get lost in these thoughts, especially if you're having trouble sleeping or turning your brain off. Check out the Headspace app\n", "Realize that you'll be dead in 70 years or so, smoke some sweet kush and try not to take life too seriously ;) " ]

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[ "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!", "How to GAIN weight? I am 22 and I am a little underweight, I've never been able to put on weight, I work 9:00am until 5:30pm mon-fri and it's difficult to stick to a routine, please give me your advice and tips!" ]

[ "Working remotely, living a sedentary lifestyle, and eating fast food all the time has worked well for me.", "You're 22. Your metabolism is in high-gear. When I was that age, I couldn't gain wait to save my life. When I turned 30, that all changed, and now I have to work hard to keep weight off. \n\nIf you're concerned about being underweight because of extenuating circumstances (e.g., you're on chemotherapy, acclimating to HIV meds, etc.) then you'll probably want to work with your doctor. But unless your doctor is telling you to gain weight and making worthwhile suggestions to do something about it, then you probably don't want to do anything different.", "When I was a kid I was underweight, my mom switched out all my foods with the higher fat version. So my parents drank skim, I drank 2% or whole, they ate low-fat yogurt, I ate whole fat yogurt, they added full-fat sour cream to soups for me, full-fat ice cream, etc. Dip your healthy veggies and such into full-fat ranch dip. Also make sure you're eating plenty of protein. I'm not a nutritionist AT ALL but this is just what I remember my mom doing.", "It's all simple math. \n\nCalories in > calories out = weight gain\n\n\nCalories in < calories out = weight loss \n\nYou need to calculate your [BMR](http://www.iifym.com/bmr-calculator/) and shoot for 10% more than that. Give it a month and if nothing changes add 5% more. If nothing changes you need to see a doctor because there may be a more serious issue.", "To gain healthy weight, lift weights and eat more meat.\nTo get fat, consume ice cream whenever you are not eating pizza. Then consume pizza whenever you are not eating ice cream.", "Same problem. I tried swapping my diet up a bit which has helped a lot. For example whole milk instead of 1%, eggs for breakfast instead of cereal ect. Just take what you normally eat and try to adjust it to add more healthy cal. ", "Optimum Nutrition Serious Mass, Chocolate, 12 Pound https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000GIPJ0M/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_xFQFxbTC1Z5WW\n\nMake it with milk. Drink it in addition to eating more than you currently are. Snack at work, snack on the go. Dry foods are your friends, long grain rice with salmon/chicken between meals. \n\nIf you can, exercise. If not, this method will get you plenty of weight over the course of a couple months regardless, it just won't be as attractive as if you went to the gym. \n\nThe only people who \"can't gain weight\" are people who don't eat enough to do it. I was one of those people. Even with ibs I managed to push through that made up barrier. ", "It takes planning. You need to eat \"mechanically\". Just divide your goal calories by how many meals you want to have and stick to a strict schedule. Set alarms if you have to. Don't wait for hunger. Hunger will want to keep you where you are. Plus: eating more increases metabolism so the amount of extra calories you'll need will be significant for a while until you start gaining. Boost or Ensure meal replacements are helpful for when it's difficult to stick to prepared meals. They are balanced and have the nutrients you need. Ice cream and shitty food is helpful to a point, but why ruin your health by making that your only food group?", "I drink boost (an ensure type drink) to help out, each 6 oz or so bottle is 250 calories and have been eating a lot of fast food (my cholesterol levels are all good so I can do this for a bit), and at my last job I munched on something almost constantly. All of that helped until I went into the hospital, where I ended up losing 15-17 pounds). So, like you, I have trouble gaining weight (I'm 5'9\" and weight 131.5) and have been all my life. ", "Eat more fats, they have 9 calories per gram compared to protiens 4 per gram. \nYou should probably start strength training if you want to put on more muscle than fat though", "At the end of a meal, throw some fruit on there (Apple, peach, banana, whatever you like). It's always a nice finish to a meal, and even if you are stuffed, certain fruit won't \"overfill\" you and it is also pretty healthy to eat fruit often. If you don't like fruit, try adding veggies in the meal, or even (if you have a blender) make a smoothie ", "If it's a desk job, try working out on a treadmill for 30 minutes before or after work every single day you are able to, if you have a labor-type job try lifting weights after work (preferably not before), if your job doesn't make you sore enough. Eat more carbs too, especially carbs that contain high fiber, or eat lots of carbs and buy some kind of fiber supplement.", "I was a little underweight untill about 25. Then nature kicked in and now i'm right on the average. If its not hurting your health dont mess with your body." ]

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[ "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped.", "How to decide on a higher education? How should one go about deciding on what degree to peruse - or even whether or not to go to college in the first place. Nothing seems to really strike my interest, so I'm a bit stumped." ]

[ "If you're in the US, community college can be a great place to figure out what you find interesting, get some college cr", "Work first. A friend did that, it helps to get some worldly perspective before investing time and money in something potentially pointless.\n\nIf you do decide to pursue college, professors tend to love \"older\" students who want to be there with purpose, rather than \"high school part 2\".\n", "I guess that before figuring out what interests you, you should figure out what you can't stand. What kind of life you would like to have. Like, routine and such. And then figure out what area of knowledge fits that description and that might interest you.\nMy example is tragic with a happy ending. I was good with/ liked numbers and physics, so engineering seemed like an obvious choice. When i graduated from college, I started on a famous engineering company, but the office life was killing me little by little. So I went back to the university, got my masters' degree and started teaching engineering. Teaching fulfilled in a way office life never could, I started feeling like I was able to help people, had these crazy hours that I loved, was able to research and learn new things. But the thing is: I could be happy teaching engineering, architecture, english or martial arts (btw I love them all...and at some point considered these careers). \nIt is more important to figure out what kind of life you want to have, and then see what area of knowledge suits it and your interests better. \n\n", "I know one thing, there is no rush. If you don't know what you want to study, don't. Take a sabbatical if you afford, take a year to work if you have to. The college system will be there for you next year.", "Go on a \"ride along\" for a day with different professionals. Ask your guidance counselor or parents help you connect with different people.\n\nMy daughter took a medical careers class as a senior in high school. This is really the same idea. She just graduated with a nursing degree and now has a job in a hospital.", "college can screw you over if you are not careful. Pick a field you see yourself interested in **AND** a field that is needed/growing. Computer related field or health field for example.\n\nI know plenty of people who have 100k in debt with a master degree and they cannot find a job and settle for a lesser one that does not pay the bills.", "You could take an aptitude test if you don't know what to do- you could also do work studies to see what the actual life of a career is like. Community college is a good starting point too as someone else said, and you could speak to your advisors about the most versatile degrees so you'll have a broad option! Engineering or Medical degrees tend to open a lot of doors I believe ", "There are a million ways to become great at something online for free. If you don't know what interests you at this point in your life you need to keep searching. I promise you you'll find out. Don't waste a ton of money on college learning about something you're going to half ass anyway.", "For one thing, peruse and pursue are very different words. For another, look at what you enjoyed studying in high school, even if it was only a short portion of a class. ", "Don't not choose something just because you think it is too hard and don't choose something just because you think it will be really easy. Don't pick something JUST because it will get you a job after either. Higher education is great for so many more reasons than the actual education part of it. You meet lifelong friends and do a lot of growing up during those years. Pick a course that you find it easy to put effort into and you get satisfaction from it. \n\nFor example: I'm happy i did engineering but unhappy I didn't get involved in the extracurricular stuff like joining the teams and going to the events because i just saw them as extra work. I also chose the discipline i thought would be the easiest instead of the one i was actually the most interested in (which i thought would be the hardest). Ah well. All the best man.", "Decide what you want to do with your life. Does what you want to do require a degree? If the answer is yes then go to college. If the answer is no then don't go to college. A lot of people waste their time and money going to college because they think it's what they are supposed to do or they buy into the idea that college is where you go to \"find yourself\". Those same people end up failing because they don't want to be there or graduating with a massive debt that they can't afford to pay back. If you do decide that you need to go to college and you have to take out loans, never take out more loans than you would make in your first year post graduation.", "If you are in the USA, speak to your guidance counselor. There are often internship opportunities for high school students that they can help connect you to. Also, if you are a junior, you should look into summer programs-there are a lot of summer programs for high school students that can introduce you to different fields and give you an idea of what to expect if you pursue a career in this direction.\n\nAlso, have you heard of a gap year? A lot of people in Europe and Australia take a year or two off between high school and college to travel around the world and work. You can find a lot of volunteer and job opportunities, which could give you the experience to find out what career you might want to pursue, while learning more about the world and having amazing experiences.", "Do you have any hobby you want to turn into profession? Acquiring degree focusing on a specific skill you want to develop is the best way to decide about it. Best of luck, buddy." ]

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[ "how to stop fearing failure and being overly sensitive to criticism. These are two separate things so I apologise for putting them in one post, but for me, they're closely connected. \n\nI am a student and public criticism of my work is very much part of life. I have gotten somewhat desensitised over the past few years but I still have a long way to go. \n\nI nearly burst into tears in an oral exam and have spent the last few days wracked with anxiety over the result even though I thoroughly prepared and felt confident going in. I even get upset when my Reddit posts are downvoted or get snarky replies. I really feel like I should be over this kind of thing by now. \n\nPlease feel free to suggest a different subreddit if this is the wrong place to post this.", "how to stop fearing failure and being overly sensitive to criticism. These are two separate things so I apologise for putting them in one post, but for me, they're closely connected. \n\nI am a student and public criticism of my work is very much part of life. I have gotten somewhat desensitised over the past few years but I still have a long way to go. \n\nI nearly burst into tears in an oral exam and have spent the last few days wracked with anxiety over the result even though I thoroughly prepared and felt confident going in. I even get upset when my Reddit posts are downvoted or get snarky replies. I really feel like I should be over this kind of thing by now. \n\nPlease feel free to suggest a different subreddit if this is the wrong place to post this.", "how to stop fearing failure and being overly sensitive to criticism. These are two separate things so I apologise for putting them in one post, but for me, they're closely connected. \n\nI am a student and public criticism of my work is very much part of life. I have gotten somewhat desensitised over the past few years but I still have a long way to go. \n\nI nearly burst into tears in an oral exam and have spent the last few days wracked with anxiety over the result even though I thoroughly prepared and felt confident going in. I even get upset when my Reddit posts are downvoted or get snarky replies. I really feel like I should be over this kind of thing by now. \n\nPlease feel free to suggest a different subreddit if this is the wrong place to post this." ]

[ "You're going to hate this, but it works.\n\nSober Karaoke.\n\nFind a real dive, and go weekly, sober. Pick a MJNIMUM of three songs.\n\nSong 1 HAS TO BE either \"one week\" (barenaked ladies) \"wannabe\" (spice girls) or \"stayin alive\" (bee gees). Those are the three hardest songs that are guaranteed to be in any karaoke place, and you will fail.\n\nFail SPECTACULARLY.\n\nSong 2 HAS TO BE by the Beatles. Everyone loves the Beatles. Everyone will sing along. \n\nSong 3 choose ANY SONG YOU WANT. The rest of the people will be drunk. You can sing like a choking raccoon and they will love you.\n\nDo this every week.", "Bear this burden (fear of the failure) and let it boil inside of you. Let it fuel your actions. Let hate be your ally, and then you will be capable of wonderful, horrid things. (This quote is from the film \"Meet the Robinsons\", 2007)", "It all boils down to how you prepare, what's at stake and finally what experience you are at negative outcomes (Not failures) \n\nFailure has to it a negative connotation, stop thinking of it that way first. Research and read up about real people who have failed before succeeding. Watch movies like 'Pursuit of happiness' to relate to the feeling of failure and how to handle them.\n\nWhenever you go into situation like the ones you mentioned, make sure think through what will happen if the result is not what you want? Definitely not end of the world.\n\nThird is to analyze what is at stake, if it is too big and you are feeling afraid of failure, one reason could be you are not confident on your work, improve it to a point where you feel comfortable.\n\nTake baby steps towards eradicating fear, like practicing a 10 line speech enough number of times that you know you can talk about it in front of a auditorium without getting spooked.\n\nIf all the above else fails, it most probably means the problem has a deeper root as well, maybe a childhood experience or memory, find out what it is and say to yourself in front of the mirror that it does not affect you anymore. If this fails too, get help from a psychiatrist, absolutely nothing wrong with that.\n\nGood luck!" ]

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[ "How to stop being tired in the afternoon? So, I study in the morning and work in the afternoons. And I am always very sleepy in the afternoon, like right after lunch and it's been affecting my progress at work in a very negative way. \nJust to make things clear, I do usually sleep 7 to 8 hours every night, I exercise regularly (at least one hour a day) and I do try to keep my meals light before going to work. Ohh... And the coffee doesn't seem to help much either. Maybe only for a few minutes, but afterwards I am falling asleep on my desk again.\nThank you very much!", "How to stop being tired in the afternoon? So, I study in the morning and work in the afternoons. And I am always very sleepy in the afternoon, like right after lunch and it's been affecting my progress at work in a very negative way. \nJust to make things clear, I do usually sleep 7 to 8 hours every night, I exercise regularly (at least one hour a day) and I do try to keep my meals light before going to work. Ohh... And the coffee doesn't seem to help much either. Maybe only for a few minutes, but afterwards I am falling asleep on my desk again.\nThank you very much!" ]

[ "Can you take a 20 minute nap right after lunch? Even in the car? I too get sleepy in the afternoon, right after lunch.. i don't fight it-- i eat, snooze 23 minutes and i am pretty refreshed afterwards.", "Since i switched to paleo, the lack of sugar highs and crashes keeps me going all day. I tend to eat an eggy breakfast which tends to hold me til atleast 7 or even later. I also sleep better at night without Rx sleeping pills for the first time in my entire life (even as a kid i was an insomniac). " ]

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[ "How to understand/converse with somebody who has a very thick accent. My new roommate has a super thick accent and I literally can't understand anything they say, and I can tell they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves a dozen times (literally). Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?", "How to understand/converse with somebody who has a very thick accent. My new roommate has a super thick accent and I literally can't understand anything they say, and I can tell they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves a dozen times (literally). Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?", "How to understand/converse with somebody who has a very thick accent. My new roommate has a super thick accent and I literally can't understand anything they say, and I can tell they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves a dozen times (literally). Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?", "How to understand/converse with somebody who has a very thick accent. My new roommate has a super thick accent and I literally can't understand anything they say, and I can tell they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves a dozen times (literally). Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?", "How to understand/converse with somebody who has a very thick accent. My new roommate has a super thick accent and I literally can't understand anything they say, and I can tell they get frustrated when I ask them to repeat themselves a dozen times (literally). Any suggestions on how to resolve this issue?" ]

[ "He's your roommate for the next # of months. You guys will have to get along, and so you'll have to find a way to communicate. \n\nSounds like you'll have to train your ears/brain to understand his English. This process will take a month or so of constant verbal communication. \n\nI recommend starting with common items. Take the things from your fridge, pantry, or bathroom cabinet and have your roommate tell you what they are (inform him that this exercise will help you understand his speech better so that, you know, he doesn't freak out). From this starting point, you'll hear patterns in his accent that you can identify, or tie to your English speech. \n\nOnce you've got common items down, you can start with other lingo you guys would use (if students, then common things students say. If working for Google, then common things people who work for Google would say). \n\nLike I said, this will take time for you to train your ears and brain to understand your new roommate. \n\nI've worked with lots of people who grew up in India. Some were easily understood - - others I still have a hard time understanding, so I have to use context cues to piece the conversation together.\n\nIt will be difficult, but it is possible. ", "I'd break the ice sooner rather than later. \"Dude I'm sorry to say this but I'm having a very hard time understanding you, and I feel like its bothering you too. We need to work out a system.\"\n\nMaybe he talks slower, maybe you learn a few key words in his native language, maybe he writes things down. You'll work it out.", "This is a good question, and a good skill to develop.\n\nbut it depends, is it a Brooklyn accent? or are they from another country and English is still a language they are learning?\n\nIf it is the prior, then you need to learn their accent. if it is the latter, they may be willing to work with you. slow down, etc...\n\nthere is a lot to learning other accents don't underestimate it it's a good skill let me know if u have details, so I can be more specific ", "Agree with others who said carefully state at their lips when talking. Helped me with understanding foreign doctors I work with. After a while your ear will be trained to pick out the words ", "Do your best to imitate his accent when speaking to him. That will at least make you easier to understand, may help the frustration issue, and may even help you to pick up how his accent differs from standard speech. (E. g. all p's become b's.)" ]

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[ "How to put thoughts into words I'm one of those people who has so many thoughts and so much to say, but I really struggle to project them whether it be through talking or writing. Is there any way I can put my thoughts into words better?", "How to put thoughts into words I'm one of those people who has so many thoughts and so much to say, but I really struggle to project them whether it be through talking or writing. Is there any way I can put my thoughts into words better?", "How to put thoughts into words I'm one of those people who has so many thoughts and so much to say, but I really struggle to project them whether it be through talking or writing. Is there any way I can put my thoughts into words better?" ]

[ "I practice by writing insanely long replies to reddit posts. I've already learned that I tend to repeat myself if I get derailed, and it's helped me recognize when people are actually contributing to a discussion vs getting caught up in a small detail that happens to be a point of contention.\n\nI guess doing this in real life would work too. ", "journal and write down whatever you are thinking, when you have time and space to do so. if it's your own journal there isn't any down side when things don't make sense or get repeated, and it makes it easier to express things the more you try it. sometimes finding the next word to write or say can happen with an 'um...' or 'i don't know what i want to say but i need to say something', that's perfectly fine.", "I struggle with this as well... I even tried to sum it up as such: \"My mind is an ocean, and my thoughts are merely the waves crashing along the shorelines of conversation.\" \n\nIn the end, I find action is more powerful than words. \n\nAs far as organizing thoughts... Pick a focus and brainstorm. It's more about controlling your focus, the hardest part :)\n\nCheers" ]

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[ "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating.", "Improving your posture Recently I've noticed that my posture is absolutely awful. It's been pretty bad in the past, but lately has it's taken a turn for the worst. Occasionally I'll notice that I've slouched so much that my back is on the seat and my neck is against the back. I'll fix it only to find that I'm at it again ten minutes later. I'm a little worried about the health of my back and more worried about looking incredibly unprofessional in an inappropriate time. It's not exactly a life threatening issue but by golly is it infuriating." ]

[ "if you stand and or walk with your palms forward it will pull your shoulders back and improve your posture. I use it as a check and turn my hands for a few minutes then remind myself to keep that posture as I walk. ", "Workout - it has done wonders for my posture. Especially all back and shoulder excercises are awesome.\n\nAlso, get a foam roller. That shit is like magic for your back.", "While not a permanent fix, I recently saw on Reddit that crossing your arms behind your back helps to improve posture in the moment. I feel like I slouch so much that I really don't even know what good posture feels like, and this trick just makes all my bones align in a way that feels right! I also really like it because it works as a \"reset\" button on my posture. I know that I frequently slouch so much I look like I'm an ancestor to Lucy, so knowing I have a nice reference point helps me. It also feels pretty good!", "Weight training. It does wonders for posture. And with that extra confidence from a bit of extra muscle, you'll be standing taller than you have ever been. Trust me, its worth the effort!", "This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: Improving your posture - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2yai9h/lpt_request_improving_your_posture_lifeprotips/)\n\n\n*^If ^you ^follow ^any ^of ^the ^above ^links, ^respect ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^don't ^vote. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot)", "Get some Leukotape and Hypafix bandaging. With you sitting straight, shoulders back, have someone tape an X pattern on your back from your shoulder tip down to your rib cage area. It will help you keep that posture for the entire day and correct you when you slouch. It won't cure anything but will get you started in training your mind to keep body straight.", "Physical therapy helped me a lot. Had constant tension headaches and regular migraines, was taking ibuprofen several times every day. As much as I *willed* myself to Have Better Posture, neither I nor my body knew what that even was anymore. In PT, I discovered that the muscles necessary to hold my neck properly upright were atrophied, fighting against muscles I had overworked. So I really couldn't will better posture - I would slide right back after correcting myself because my muscles couldn't handle it. I worked with my physical therapist to build those muscles progressively. I now have only occasional tension headaches and am making more progress.\n\nAfter the foundation of PT, seated mindfulness m", "I personally just forced myself to walk around pretending that there was a string attached to the bottom of my spine and running out the top of the back of my head that was pulling me upwards. After about a month of forcing myself to do this I was doing it without thinking all the time. ", "ALEXANDER TECHNIQUE, the only thing that really works. It is subtle and not well known. Find a teacher.", "It's better for your back to slouch than it is to sit straight and ridged.\n\n\nhttp://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/6187080.stm\n\nIt's a fact don't downvote me!" ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "Remove debris from strong magnet I have a strong magnet I need cleaned off for classroom demonstrations but it's got a lot of iron filings and other debris stuck to it and all that stuff is hard to remove by just rubbing and pinching it off, especially in the hole (it's ring-shaped).", "Remove debris from strong magnet I have a strong magnet I need cleaned off for classroom demonstrations but it's got a lot of iron filings and other debris stuck to it and all that stuff is hard to remove by just rubbing and pinching it off, especially in the hole (it's ring-shaped).", "Remove debris from strong magnet I have a strong magnet I need cleaned off for classroom demonstrations but it's got a lot of iron filings and other debris stuck to it and all that stuff is hard to remove by just rubbing and pinching it off, especially in the hole (it's ring-shaped)." ]

[ "Put a stronger magnet in a plastic bag, and then use it to remove the filings from the dirty magnet. Then pull the stronger magnet out of the bag, and the filings will stay on the outside of the bag and your stronger magnet will stay clean. \n\nThen, to the extent you can, bag up the classroom magnet in the same way when you're doing demonstrations.", "It might be to strong, but my magnets I use a high pressure air nozzle and it blows it off.TAKE SAFETY PRECAUTIONS !!!", "How large is it? Can you place it in a set of Vice Grips and run it against a buffing wheel mounted to a bench grinder?" ]

[ 4, 2, 2 ]

[ "Is there a way to make things taste normal after brushing teeth? I take my morning coffee and toast to go every morning, and I dread brushing my teeth before, because it ruins my breakfast. It'd be nice to have some sorta palate cleanser between the two.", "Is there a way to make things taste normal after brushing teeth? I take my morning coffee and toast to go every morning, and I dread brushing my teeth before, because it ruins my breakfast. It'd be nice to have some sorta palate cleanser between the two.", "Is there a way to make things taste normal after brushing teeth? I take my morning coffee and toast to go every morning, and I dread brushing my teeth before, because it ruins my breakfast. It'd be nice to have some sorta palate cleanser between the two." ]

[ "Eating after you brush just ruins your fresh breath anyway. I would instead suggesting simply reworking your schedule so that you're eating breakfast first and brushing your teeth after you eat.", "Don't use mint flavored, artificially flavored or fluoride toothpastes. Those are all the things that give that awful taste. BTW, brush your teeth after breakfast and morning coffee. ", "I was told that you don't even need toothpaste. The point is to remove plaque -- the brush can do that. Apparently it's the non-alcoholic mouthwash that really impacts dental hygiene, as well as flossing. Perhaps that's an avenue?\n\nOr, if you're set on toothpaste, why not just do a quick brush with a clean brush and water after having used it?" ]

[ 3, 2, 1 ]

[ "how to keep lids with threads from leaking when put sideways [here's a photo of what I'm taking about](http://imgur.com/mLz20)\n\nThe mini fridge in my dorm is too small to keep the gallon jug right side up so I have to keep it side ways. After a while it starts to leak and if I don't clean it up right away, the bottom of the fridge gets covered in whatever is in it. I was just wondering if there was something I could do to keep it from spilling.", "how to keep lids with threads from leaking when put sideways [here's a photo of what I'm taking about](http://imgur.com/mLz20)\n\nThe mini fridge in my dorm is too small to keep the gallon jug right side up so I have to keep it side ways. After a while it starts to leak and if I don't clean it up right away, the bottom of the fridge gets covered in whatever is in it. I was just wondering if there was something I could do to keep it from spilling.", "how to keep lids with threads from leaking when put sideways [here's a photo of what I'm taking about](http://imgur.com/mLz20)\n\nThe mini fridge in my dorm is too small to keep the gallon jug right side up so I have to keep it side ways. After a while it starts to leak and if I don't clean it up right away, the bottom of the fridge gets covered in whatever is in it. I was just wondering if there was something I could do to keep it from spilling." ]

[ "Place a square of plastic wrap loosely over the opening before tightening the cap. There should be enough plastic wrap that it sticks out from under the cap a little. This should fill the gaps between the threads to keep water from leaking out.", "Okay, these comments about plastic wrap may work or may make the problem worse. Here's what you do:\n\nGet a small roll of plumber's tape (also called thread sealing tape or teflon tape). It's tape designed to be wrapped around the thread of plumbing pipes to create a water tight seal. Wrap it a couple of times around the thread and screw on the cap. Water tight and dirt cheap. A roll will cost like 3 bucks and will last so fucking long.", "find something to use as a rubber seal.\nJust me thinking of how I see things at work(restaurant). When I say rubber seal I'm talking about something like they use in monster drinks with the twist off cap. Or maybe even a piece of vinyl." ]

[ 6, 5, 3 ]

[ "Getting odors out of clothing This morning I grabbed one of my work uniform shirts out of my dryer (100% polyester polo style [link](http://www.shoparamark.com/style-11135-adsweb_public_assortment-WearGuard%26reg%3b+WearTec%26trade%3b+Jersey+Knit+Polo)), put the shirt on while brushing my teeth, and noticed a foul odor in my vicinity. I bent over and pulled the shirt up, and it smelled fine. I looked around and there was no dirty laundry. There was no cat or dog poop (I've banned them from the bedroom). Finally, I smelled the collar of the shirt, and it smelled like cat shit. The entire collar smelled like that, and it was only the collar that smelled. It is the weirdest thing, especially considering the shirt had JUST been cleaned less than 12 hours ago.\n\nI wash with Tide and Borax, warm cycle (my washer doesn't have a \"hot\" cycle. Thanks, Whirlpool!), extra rinse, and dry on high heat (set to 160F). \n\nHow can I get the odor out of this shirt? Or out of shirts in general? \n\nI've used white vinegar before with marginal success. Obviously, chlorine bleach is out of the question.", "Getting odors out of clothing This morning I grabbed one of my work uniform shirts out of my dryer (100% polyester polo style [link](http://www.shoparamark.com/style-11135-adsweb_public_assortment-WearGuard%26reg%3b+WearTec%26trade%3b+Jersey+Knit+Polo)), put the shirt on while brushing my teeth, and noticed a foul odor in my vicinity. I bent over and pulled the shirt up, and it smelled fine. I looked around and there was no dirty laundry. There was no cat or dog poop (I've banned them from the bedroom). Finally, I smelled the collar of the shirt, and it smelled like cat shit. The entire collar smelled like that, and it was only the collar that smelled. It is the weirdest thing, especially considering the shirt had JUST been cleaned less than 12 hours ago.\n\nI wash with Tide and Borax, warm cycle (my washer doesn't have a \"hot\" cycle. Thanks, Whirlpool!), extra rinse, and dry on high heat (set to 160F). \n\nHow can I get the odor out of this shirt? Or out of shirts in general? \n\nI've used white vinegar before with marginal success. Obviously, chlorine bleach is out of the question.", "Getting odors out of clothing This morning I grabbed one of my work uniform shirts out of my dryer (100% polyester polo style [link](http://www.shoparamark.com/style-11135-adsweb_public_assortment-WearGuard%26reg%3b+WearTec%26trade%3b+Jersey+Knit+Polo)), put the shirt on while brushing my teeth, and noticed a foul odor in my vicinity. I bent over and pulled the shirt up, and it smelled fine. I looked around and there was no dirty laundry. There was no cat or dog poop (I've banned them from the bedroom). Finally, I smelled the collar of the shirt, and it smelled like cat shit. The entire collar smelled like that, and it was only the collar that smelled. It is the weirdest thing, especially considering the shirt had JUST been cleaned less than 12 hours ago.\n\nI wash with Tide and Borax, warm cycle (my washer doesn't have a \"hot\" cycle. Thanks, Whirlpool!), extra rinse, and dry on high heat (set to 160F). \n\nHow can I get the odor out of this shirt? Or out of shirts in general? \n\nI've used white vinegar before with marginal success. Obviously, chlorine bleach is out of the question.", "Getting odors out of clothing This morning I grabbed one of my work uniform shirts out of my dryer (100% polyester polo style [link](http://www.shoparamark.com/style-11135-adsweb_public_assortment-WearGuard%26reg%3b+WearTec%26trade%3b+Jersey+Knit+Polo)), put the shirt on while brushing my teeth, and noticed a foul odor in my vicinity. I bent over and pulled the shirt up, and it smelled fine. I looked around and there was no dirty laundry. There was no cat or dog poop (I've banned them from the bedroom). Finally, I smelled the collar of the shirt, and it smelled like cat shit. The entire collar smelled like that, and it was only the collar that smelled. It is the weirdest thing, especially considering the shirt had JUST been cleaned less than 12 hours ago.\n\nI wash with Tide and Borax, warm cycle (my washer doesn't have a \"hot\" cycle. Thanks, Whirlpool!), extra rinse, and dry on high heat (set to 160F). \n\nHow can I get the odor out of this shirt? Or out of shirts in general? \n\nI've used white vinegar before with marginal success. Obviously, chlorine bleach is out of the question.", "Getting odors out of clothing This morning I grabbed one of my work uniform shirts out of my dryer (100% polyester polo style [link](http://www.shoparamark.com/style-11135-adsweb_public_assortment-WearGuard%26reg%3b+WearTec%26trade%3b+Jersey+Knit+Polo)), put the shirt on while brushing my teeth, and noticed a foul odor in my vicinity. I bent over and pulled the shirt up, and it smelled fine. I looked around and there was no dirty laundry. There was no cat or dog poop (I've banned them from the bedroom). Finally, I smelled the collar of the shirt, and it smelled like cat shit. The entire collar smelled like that, and it was only the collar that smelled. It is the weirdest thing, especially considering the shirt had JUST been cleaned less than 12 hours ago.\n\nI wash with Tide and Borax, warm cycle (my washer doesn't have a \"hot\" cycle. Thanks, Whirlpool!), extra rinse, and dry on high heat (set to 160F). \n\nHow can I get the odor out of this shirt? Or out of shirts in general? \n\nI've used white vinegar before with marginal success. Obviously, chlorine bleach is out of the question." ]

[ "Spray about half a liter of Drakkar Noir on your clothes. The other smells will die out, just like any living thing within 45 feet of the sprayed clothes.", "Vinegar was mentioned. That's a good option.\nIf you have a chlorinated pool, throw your shirt in there for a day or so.", "Vinegar is also a very good deodorizer. When we had someone who had very strong cigarette smell we washed her clothes with white vinegar and it killed the smell. If the odor is strong you may want to soak it in vinegar water (1 part vinegar to 2 parts water) overnight then wash it. If it is really strong use a heavier vinegar concentration. ", "There are several pet odor eliminators on the market, and the ones I've used on my carpet (such as Resolve) have worked well. One for clothes that is enzyme based is probably worth a good try or two, and I'd go to a large pet store to get something really targeted for that. Enzyme based cleaners need time to work their magic, so you have to do it prior to washing. Deodorizers and products that just sort of cover up smells never work well enough on pet odors for me to endorse.", "Do you have a front loader washer? That happened to me. Everything we owned stunk because the washer was growing some funk. Fabric softener in washer caused it. It was just like you described..I felt like Pig-Pen from the Charlie Brown cartoon. I could smell this reeek. It was terrible.\nHad to buy a cleaner for the washer (bought at Sears) to clean washer all the time. " ]

[ 4, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. ", "How to get over a breakup After a year and a half my first ever boyfriend felt that we had to separate to pay attention to our own lives and goals. I can't bear to be mad at him because he has a valid point, but it was so sudden and this whole thing is so new I'm not sure how to move on. " ]

[ "I'm going through a really similar situation, and all I can tell you is that things are going to suck for a while. Other people around you will probably say things like \"just try not to think about it\" or \"being happy is a choice, you just have to choose it.\" But just know that being sad and upset and betrayed and lost are all valid feelings too, and if you run away from feeling them, then you're wasting this opportunity to understand yourself better.\n\nAnd eventually, once you know where you're emotions are coming from and how they're effecting you, you might not be happy all the time, but you'll feel better and you'll be a much more well rounded person too.", "There's no easy way to get over a breakup. The best thing you could do is to try to get yourself busy by doing various things. Sports helps a lot. With time you will feel better.", "Drink lots of water, you're under the influence of stress hormones, flush 'em good.\n\nIf you are a girl, take ibruprofen as directed for no more than a week, your stress hormones are causing inflammation and you need to reduce that to not extend the misery.\n\nSeems to make things works for men, so guys you need to go out there and work some muscles, create a rush of endorphines.\n\nI suggest you write/sing a powerful [song against love](https://youtu.be/95GD87CRve0) to warn your future self not to fall for this poison again.\n\nEat healthy foods with tryptophan in it like turkey and spinach, you want to reverse your low serotonin state and tryptophan is required for serotonin production.\n\nWrite a powerful [song about lunch.](https://youtu.be/XksJW4B2mIM) milk this relationship shit for all it's miserable worth.\n\nRemember [Love stinks](https://youtu.be/95GD87CRve0) so bathe often to get that off of you.\n\nI'd have more advice/songs but I need sleep. ", "Don't follow him on social media. If you have any way of gauging how he's been for the past day/week/month, I'm imagining you will likely end up finding it near impossible not to do so. In a moment of clarity, I asked my ex to block me on facebook and all that kind of thing (no point me blocking her, I can just unblock anytime), and it has definitely helped me not get bogged down in seeing what she's up to, who she's hanging out with etc.", "Blind buy new music ,I recommend in the actual physical form, so browsing a cd rack or vinyl if that's your thing. I discovered some new music when I was freshly reborn as a single person after my first major relationship of 7 years. It was an impulsive thing that led to self-discovery and catharsis that I'll always be greatful for. I still have the discs that I bought and 2 of them are still my old pals that I visit on occasion. ", "Time and attitude are the only healers.\n\nTime because, well, things are harshest at the beginning.\n\nAttitude? The more time you spend thinking \"wow I have a different path to follow now, wonder what it will bring me?\", \"he's proved he wasn't the right person for me, I'm excited now to find someone who is!\" etc etc the quicker you'll get over it and move on and - you won't believe it now - the next person you find that's right for you will instantly make you think \"wtf did I waste all that time moping for?\"\n\nIt'll feel alien to do it, and a bit traitorous - psychologically you'll feel you're betraying him by trying to forget him - but for YOUR health and wellbeing the more you do it the easier it gets.\n\nRemember: it's all about you now, so go spend time with friends and spend time with YOU.\n", "I think most people who suggest focusing on something good for a while is helpful. Ensure your identity wasnt in that person and move on. It will hurt but focusing on other things for a while really helps. Call on friends and tell them where you are, it may help them be better friends in this way. \nI found it helpful to reach out to friends who I had not spoken to in a while. Subtle changes in your daily life helps too, picking up a book or a talent youve always wanted to try has helped me a lot personally.", "What I do:\n\nHang with friends, smoke weed (not to much, just enough to make you happy), excersise, and involve your self in things. Like play sports and stuff like that. " ]

[ 8, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to remove hair from office chair wheels. I noticed my chair has been rolling pretty slowly, and when I flipped it over to check the wheels, HAIR, HAIR EVERYWHERE. It seems the hair has clogged the wheel up, and I don't want to buy a new chair just to wait for it to clog again like this one. Tips?", "How to remove hair from office chair wheels. I noticed my chair has been rolling pretty slowly, and when I flipped it over to check the wheels, HAIR, HAIR EVERYWHERE. It seems the hair has clogged the wheel up, and I don't want to buy a new chair just to wait for it to clog again like this one. Tips?" ]

[ "I had a friend who was a pet groomer, and she would routinely bring her wheels to me to fix. I would use needle-nose pliers, and a thin utility knife. It would work best when I would slowly work through in one spot so it's like you're pulling off a cable of hair instead of hacking and pulling randomly.", "I work at a vet clinic, the hair in our wheels is just... we just deal with it. I've tried. I can't get it all out. :(" ]

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[ "How to stop losing pens and pencils I lose about two a day. Not sure if this is normal or not, but I just want to get to class without having to dig through my backpack to get a new pen, because eventually, my pot of gold is going to run out.", "How to stop losing pens and pencils I lose about two a day. Not sure if this is normal or not, but I just want to get to class without having to dig through my backpack to get a new pen, because eventually, my pot of gold is going to run out.", "How to stop losing pens and pencils I lose about two a day. Not sure if this is normal or not, but I just want to get to class without having to dig through my backpack to get a new pen, because eventually, my pot of gold is going to run out.", "How to stop losing pens and pencils I lose about two a day. Not sure if this is normal or not, but I just want to get to class without having to dig through my backpack to get a new pen, because eventually, my pot of gold is going to run out.", "How to stop losing pens and pencils I lose about two a day. Not sure if this is normal or not, but I just want to get to class without having to dig through my backpack to get a new pen, because eventually, my pot of gold is going to run out." ]

[ "Personally I invested in a nicer than average pen that's made of brass so it's heavy and I notice it's weight when it's missing or when I have it... I also got a nice wallet that has a pen loop. Now I know I won't go anywhere without my wallet and same for my pen. http://i.imgur.com/DzWpWAA.jpg ", "First, get a good fountain pen. If you spend enough money, you'll always be aware of whether you have it or not. Something like a Pilot Vanishing Point seems expensive, but you can fill it from bottled ink, which is a *lot* cheaper in the long run. It clicks open, so it's as easy to use as a typical disposable pen. And it writes like a dream. \n\nAlso, you won't be *able* to lend it to anyone, because most people will look at the nib and then look at you uncomprehendingly before giving it back...\n\nSecond, keep the pen on your person somewhere, instead of in a backpack. Always in the same place -- right front pocket, or clipped on your shirt, or whatever. Get into the habit of putting it back there as soon as you're done using it. \n", "What I used to do, is I'd buy myself a pack of pens. \n\nKeep them in a desk that's out of the way, and take 2 at a time and keep them in my backpack. \n\nNever lend them out. Have a special zipper or pencil case JUST for them. And make sure you always have 2 ready. \n\nEventually, you'll get in the habit. ", "Im going to mimic what was said. \n\nI am a smoker, as a smoker I used to go through lighters like crazy. Constantly losing them. Bought 1 nice zippo, have yet to ever lose it. \n\nSame rule applied when i bought a nice pen. Constantly was losing pens. I bought a maxmadco.com pen, fitted with a fisher space refill. Never once misplaced it. I find myself automatically keepign tabs on it.\n", "I currently own zero writing devices. Anything that I have is on a pretty much eternal loan from friends. I honestly have a pen that I refill and a pencil shorter than my thumb that I always have because I remember it. Just put it in a pencil box when you are done. You won't forget or lose that. " ]

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[ "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?", "Ramen noodles I eat ramen noodles a lot and I always add in a tablespoon of soy sauce after I take it off the stove to give it flavor.\n\nDoes anyone else have any ramen tips?" ]

[ "1: Boil water,\n 2. Eat block of ramen, \n3. Drink boiled water, \n4. Snort flavored powder, \n5. Fuck Bitches.\n", "Tony Chachere's creole seasoning. They sell it at Walmart. It's a green, red, and white shaker bottle. It turns any soup into spicy creole deliciousness.", "Spend a little bit more money to get the good kind of instant raman (e.g. Shin Ramyun) rather than the generic square kind (e.g. Top Ramen). It's well worth it.\n\nAlso, Cup Noodles can fuck off.", "http://www.reddit.com/r/Cooking/comments/u4a9r/family_called_it_special_ramen_my_sister_taught/\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/Cooking/search?q=ramen&restrict_sr=on", "Vegetables - add them. Frozen, dehydrated, fresh, whatever. Just add them to the water before it boils. ", "I always find that when you're eating ramen noodles and they taste a little flavorless, you can add a tiny bit of tomato ketchup and a pinch of salt. This usually makes them taste a lot fuller and a lot less cheap. Also, never eat too many in one day if you want to avoid getting diarrhea. :) ", "As soon as you've finished cooking it and put it in a bowl, add an american cheese single or two on top. Mix it up and it will melt into the broth and add a creaminess. ", "Ah Ramen, the college bachelor's dish of choice. I used to use soups to cook it in. Cream of Broccoli, chicken broth, etc. Sometimes it was too thick and, if I did it over again, I would have added water to thin it out. But, I did have some delicious ramen and in the end I wasn't hungry anymore so, mission accomplished!", "http://www.seriouseats.com/2011/03/ramen-hacks-30-easy-ways-to-upgrade-your-instant-noodles-japanese-what-to-do-with-ramen.html\n\nRamen hacks -- the slideshow alone is pretty neat. ", "Use filtered water, don't boil the noodles until they are completely done. Leave them a little firm (al dente). And don't drain the broth, so its more like soup. ", "I like to add vegetables and eggs or any other kind of meat I have around. I don't eat much veggies or meat, so it helps me accomplish that as well as make the ramen last for 2-3 meals.", "Egg. Sriracha. Kecap manis (sweet soy sauce), if it works with the flavor you're eating. Cabbage, bok choy, frozen veggies, etc. Leftover chicken or other available meat. Sometimes some romano sprinkle cheese or, in spicy ones, a slice of American cheese. Peanut butter with certain flavors too... Peanut butter and sriracha with spicy satay flavored noodles is heaven. ", "Put a small hole in the bag then crush the noodles and put them in a bowl with some water and microwave for about 2 minutes then mix in sauce.I'm a college student so I buy a lot of ramen and didn't have a stove top in the dorm.", "Egg, veggies, can of tuna (including the water in the can), miso paste, rice vinegar, toasted sesame oil, sriracha. " ]

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[ "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?", "How to kiss? What sort of techniques do guys like? So I just had my first kiss (or kisses) last night and was really underwhelmed. I didn't know what I was doing and was extremely nervous but I tried to follow his lead by puckering up, pressing my lips against his and moving them I guess. He kept going in for more so I guess I wasn't completely terrible but I can not stress enough how inexperienced I am. It was weird and a little wetter than I thought it'd be but he didn't slobber all over me at least. At one point he did try to use tongue which was unexpected so I panicked and nearly bit him but he just laughed about it so I'm glad he wasn't offended.\n\nI'd like to get better but I'm not sure how. I've read all the dos and don'ts of kissing but still am a little fuzzy on what to actually do. Like how do you relax your lips while at the same time using pressure? And is kissing essentially just supposed to be slightly sucking and pulling on their lip? \n\nWhat sort of techniques or \"moves\" are there? How would you describe your best kissing/making out experiences?" ]

[ "Best thing I can say as a guy is this. Relax. I couldn't care less if my girlfriend is a good kisser or not. If her lips are soft and not tense then I know everything's going good. Just relax and do it. Don't focus so much on kissing, just focus on the person", "My best advice, be present and in the moment. It's about two people sharing an intimate experience. It's okay to feel nervous and vulnerable it's part of the feeling when connecting with someone. If your unsure about technique try to mirror their tempo and movement. Then when you feel confident initiate or lead a kiss. A bit like dancing with a partner.", "This will become more relevant as you kiss more people but kiss how you want to be kissed and notice how other people are kissing you and respond accordingly. A kiss is (ideally) a wonderful moment of shared joy and should always be fun. Read your partner and be sure to show them what you enjoy. Trust what feels good and don't take it too seriously. There is no need to sustain kissing; laugh and smile about it, pull back and touch their lips, hold their face, compliment them or tell a bad joke. Try new things, a don't worry if they don't work out; a good kisser is bold, attentive and inventive. It is as much your time as it is theirs and what makes kissing the most accessible and wonderful part of intimacy is it's carefree nature. A good kiss reminds you who you are. Most importantly- enjoy it!", "You're over thinking it. You have to relax and just let it happen, and you'll get better with time. ", "You'll adapt to the person you're kissing over time.. There isn't any hard and fast rules to be good, since everyone is different. So long as you're not too tense, rough or drooling.. You're doing fine and it will get easier", "my first few boyfriends kissed me by quite literally shoving their tongues down my throat. just don't be like them and you should be more than okay.", "There is no such thing as a bad kisser. Don't think about technique, don't think at all, just let your feelings guide you. If you were underwhelmed, you kissed the wrong guy. Eventually you will kiss a guy and be overwhelmed. That is how you know you found the right guy.", "Since you're new to kissing let him take the lead always. Then with experince you'll take control, don't rush into things and expect results in a matter of seconds. It's all about intimacy and patience. There's nothing more I hate when I'm being kissed furiously and in a rush.", "Being in the moment and feeling the connection is important, but try to also convey how you feel towards them with your kiss: work the curvature of the lips, apply the right pressure, suck, lick, nibble, etc. Whatever you want to try and however you find it right to express yourself is how to be the best kisser you can be. Start off slow and get down what feels good for both of you, then either take the lead or follow. I like to initiate tongue by finding the right time to lightly lick the bottom lip--sounds weird and I can't really explain it, but I swear it isn't as weird as it sounds--and from there the other person generally knows where I'm taking them. Or I'll lightly nibble on their lips during it all. Just do you.", "A lot of cultures think kissing is disgusting. http://europe.newsweek.com/kiss-off-half-world-doesnt-think-kissing-romantic-330883\n\nBasically, don't shove your tongue down anyone's throat. ", "> I've read all the dos and dont's of kissing\n\n\nhaha. Seriously though, this is totally natural; we've all been there. As long as you're not trying to taste my intestines with your tongue, you're good. " ]

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[ "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? ", "Dieting is easy the first few days, but I get the hunger so I want to eat a lot more until I'm full. I recently ate a sandwich with 2 bacon strips and guacamole after a meal. How do I better deal with this hunger? " ]

[ "Lower your calorie intake to lose weight. It's easier to do this eating dense, fiber rich foods and not processed/fast food (more calories per portion). Beans, yams, kasha. Avoid canned foods if possible. Lean meats are preferable. Milk 2% is very good. Avoid the skim. Guacamole is great.\n\nExercise is important. Walking is good for circulation. If possible, I would look into any sort of resistance training. And if you're especially bold and motivated, weight training with proper form. Youtube is good resource for proper movements.\n\nPersonally, I'm not strict with my diet but I make it a priority not to over eat. I do a lot of \"intermittent fasting\" because it's convenient for my routine. \n\nAnother tip: Eat slower. Take breaks in your meal. Your brain will signal your stomach about 20 minutes after you start eating whether or not you're satiated (no more munchies). \n\nLast tip: When you're between meals and feeling hungry, have a snack (nuts). I usually have a coffee, although I'm sure there's an argument that caffeine isn't so good for you. Brushing teeth, chewing gum also helps hunger a bit. ", "Shit loads of Veggies and protein!\n\nNot necessarily meaty protein but beans and pulses. That shit will fully you up", "Well, step one is figuring out whether you're actually experiencing hunger or compulsion, because the way forward will be very different depending on which you pick.\n\nFor Hunger:\n\nIf you're hungry then you're doing it wrong. Your meals should be built around vegetables. When they are, the challenge can actually be eating enough volume of food to get the calories you need! When I first had to lose a few pounds I over did it to the point I was struggling to get above 1100 calories a day! That's too little in almost every circumstance. You should NEVER be hungry on a proper diet if you're doing it right. Balance dem food groups son!\n\nFor Compulsion:\n\nThe short answer is you're fucked. The long answer is you've got a hell of a fight ahead of you. Compulsive eaters are literally addicted to food. The cravings can be like wanting a cigarette. I know as I've been both (and conquered both). Like any addiction, the first step is admitting you have a problem and ceasing the user behavior. You are going to need to get rid of refined sugars and overly fatty sources of protein, at least for a while. You cannot trust a drunk with a beer and you cannot trust a foodie with bacon. Don't cry about it, just acknowledge the truth and move on. \n\nSecond, you need to figure out what it is that's driving your compulsive behavior. Are you bored? Fill your time with something other than sandwiches, ideally something profitable. Are you lonely? Leave the house more. Friends and lovers aren't going to magically show up at your door. Are you suffering from an abusive childhood? Who isn't? Put down the fork and get busy loving you the way those assholes should have. You cannot fill these types of holes in your life with drugs or sex or video games or food. All of these things have their place in moderation, but they cannot be a staple definition of who you are without destroying you. The reality is MANY compulsive eaters need some form of counseling and you should 100% absolutely get it. Not everyone has access to a psychiatrist but you hopefully have access to a pcp who can easily write you a referral to a nutritionist. Join an online support group. GET INVOLVED. \n\nNo mater which direction you go, this is work and it's not going to be fun. Don't like to hear that? Tough titties said the kitty in the city. I'm not saying that to be a dick, rather to prepare you for the reality of it. MANY an honest and motivated person has set out with the best of intentions and been crushed by the weight of their undertaking because they simply weren't honest with themselves about what it entails. If you walk into this thing with realistic expectations you are MILES ahead of the pack and are setting yourself up for success. \n\nAnd I want you to know the success I've known as it's so motherfuckin sweet! Come git some!", "Keep yourself busy man. \n\nIf you are hungry eat. \n\nIf you are just bored/want to taste food try to recognize it. \n", "Unprocessed foods, with all the fibers still in it (whole grain bread instead of white flour bread, no white rice but quinoa, etc.), lots of veggies to fill you up, plenty of water, and brush your teeth when you feel like something unhealthy, because that makes everything taste awful. \n\nAlso, when you feel like a snack: think to yourself if you are hungry enough to eat an apple. If you aren't, then you just have a craving, and should get out of your head. If you are, then actually eat an apple. Then brush your teeth.", "Protein and high-fiber foods for snacks are legendary (beef jerky is my personal favourite).\n\nOther than that, losing weight is more about exercising it off than starving till it goes away. If you're hungry, eat. Make sure to exercise a lot, and you will lose weight. \nWeight training and high-intensity-interval training are much better than cardio for weight loss. \n\nIf you really wanna push it, check out the caffeine/ephedrine stack, it's the (to my knowledge) most common combination of workout drugs ppl take, and ephedrine (alone) is particularly good at appetite suppression. 8 or 16mg (1-2 pills), will keep your appetite at bay for a while, with pretty much no noticeable side effects (beware of insomnia with any stimulant drugs, I don't recommend taking any after 5pm). ", "Nutrition, fitness, and weight loss has a lot of dogma involved. The following reddits would provide more particularized information (choose one to follow):\n\n* /r/keto\n* /r/paleo\n* /r/vegan \n\nMost agree on reducing sugary & heavily processed food, but there's disagreement on what to replace it with. Good luck with the deep dive.", "Get a weight loss tracker all! I use Lose It! although I'm sure there are tons that might fit you best. \n\nTrack what you eat and what exercise you do. You'll quickly find what foods work best", "Eat Real food, mostly plants\nExercise\nSleep\nEat real food, mostly plants,\nExercise\nSleep\nEat real food, mostly plants,\nExercise sleep,\n\nDay 2\nRepeat day 1\n\nEtc...", "Drink plenty of water.\nSplit your meals up to 5-6 small meals a day.\nAnd also unfortunatly sometimes you just have to suck it up and deal with it. Being full and satisfied with a meal are two very different things. \nHope the dieting pays off mate.\n\n", "As soon as you wake up have a decent sized breakfast, and continue to drink excessive amounts of water throughout the day to stay full, you can chug the most water if it's room temperature, it doesn't \"taste\" as good as cold water but you aren't doing it for the taste. \n\nWhen eating a meal eat the protein first (eggs, chicken, protein shake, etc) so you are already pretty full by the time you reach the carbs.\n\nRemember that losing weight and eating healthy are not always the same. Just drink plain water, and black coffee is alright too. Fruit/vegetable drinks generally have a lot of carbs and calories, and don't fill you up much. You will lose weight faster without drinking them as snacks throughout the day.\n\nYour appetite adjusts very quickly, and if you feel hungry with the amount you are eating one day and you manage not to eat, then the next day you will feel slightly less hungry and so on until you are barely hungry, or not at all.\n\nEveryone is different with what works for them but these tips worked well for me, hope they can help." ]

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[ "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?", "How to know if you will not absolutely hate something that you are going to do? I know it sounds kinda dumb and the obvious answer would be you never know, but one of my biggest fear is like what if i end up hating the decisions I took later. Be itchoosing a career, getting a particular degree etc. I am in college right now and I can say I don't like my core subject and hoped I had taken something else. ( Hate would be a strong word tho). So I fear making this same mistake again. How do you guys tackle this fear?" ]

[ "The answer isn't \"you never know...\".... it's that \"you will know when you do\".....\n\nIn other words, don't limit yourself by prejudgment. And revisit what you didn't like. Ultimately you are missing more by doing that.", "Getting a degree is never a mistake. \nChoosing not to do something on the off chance you won’t like it, is. \n\nThe only advice I can give is “don’t get stuck”. And by that I mean, don’t let time pass by without moving forward. \nPicture this - you’re halfway through a four year degree only to discover it’s not for you. That’s still better than not even starting the degree and wasting two years doing nothing", "You might! \n\nIf you do, you've experienced it and you can choose to move on. Don't hate hating something. \n\nLife is meant to have ups and downs. You should grow to love experiencing things you hate. Just don't keep doing it once you know you hate it.", "It's like all of the other stuff that you try. You love it, then you hate it, then you like some piece, then you hate everything, then you love a new piece because it's perfect, then you hate that one little detail.\n\nThe only flat, smooth surface is nothing. Enough people are useless, sitting on the couch and staring at a box. Just pick something.", "I think always having an exit strategy in case I don’t like something is huge (if I move away and hate it, it would cost $XXX and Y number of weeks to go back home etc) and then with that in mind giving my best effort to explore whatever the new thing is.", "I look at things four ways:\n\nWhat I can see with my own eyes, what I hear other people say, what I already know about a thing, and what my gut feeling is about it. If I've done all those things, then I can rest easy that I am making my best decision, and whatever happens, I am in it for the long haul. \n\nAnd even when it turns out shitty, I learn something and don't go that route again.", "At the end of the day all we can do is make the best decisions at the time with the information we have. One thing would be to try and make smaller less impactful decisions incrementally where you can then adjust as needed. \n\nIn the scenarios you described those inherently are bigger decisions where the above maybe isn’t so applicable. My thought here would be that’s where doing your due diligence ahead to gather info and weigh pros/cons to try and make the best decision you can. At the end of the day we don’t always get it right. But you learn and grow from it and get better at finding what fits your need. Over time you should be able to make decisions that get you closer to where you want to be. \n\nDon’t be too hard on yourself." ]

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[ " Most effective way of inventorying the shit you own in preparation for moving out. I'll be acquiring my first residence in the near future, and it's about time I took stock of things that are mine in order to determine what I'll not only need, but want, and what I should leave behind, or cull entirely. What's the most effective way to go about this?", " Most effective way of inventorying the shit you own in preparation for moving out. I'll be acquiring my first residence in the near future, and it's about time I took stock of things that are mine in order to determine what I'll not only need, but want, and what I should leave behind, or cull entirely. What's the most effective way to go about this?" ]

[ "Clear one room or space for use as a sorting area, and another for storing things you want to sell or donate. \n\nOne room at a time take everything (apart from large furniture) to the sorting room. There separate the items into Keep, Sell/Donate and Trash. Take the Keep things back to the room they came from and put the Sell/Donate items in their storage area. Take the trash outside and figure out the best way to dispose of it according to the rules of your locality. \n\nStart the process of clearing Sell/Donate items as soon as possible. Offer items for sale on craigslist and list donate items at freecycle.org or take them to a local charity. \n\nOnce you have done a first pass you'll have a better idea of what you need for your new home - so after some time do a second pass going room by room and picking out more things that can be sold, donated or trashed (you don't have to take everything to the sorting area this time). \n\nGetting rid of stuff is quite liberating, and it is also nice to work with a clean slate at your first residence without cluttering it with vestiges from an earlier era of your life. ", "Picture of all items against a ruler and a newspaper with the date prominently shown. If you have receipts showing the purchase date, include those as well. \n\nAs for going through the process, clear a space or room as a staging area, likely the living room, and bring your items there where they're photographed and boxed. \n\nIf you donate to Goodwill, get a receipt for the tax deduction. " ]

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[ "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(", "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(", "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(", "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(", "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(", "How to deal with the smell of cigarettes from neighbors? Hello!\n\nI moved to a new apartment about a month ago and my downstairs neighbor smokes. I think they smoke in their bathroom since i can notice the smell mostly in my bathroom. \n\nIt's mostly in the afternoons that i can notice the smell, its not that noticeable in my room but i can definitely smell it in the bathroom.\n\nHow can i reduce the smell?\n\nIm scared that my clothes will start smelling :(" ]

[ "If you have a ventilation fan in the bathroom, you probably share some ductwork there. Leave your fan on and throw a skunk in the bathroom with a Chihuahua. That should keep the skunk good and agitated so it sprays its sweet skunk aroma into your neighbors apartment. Don't forget to put a towel under the door to reduce that skunk in the house. Or. Embrace the smell and smoke lots of Sour Diesel. Cheers!", "Your building management is ultimately responsible for ventilation issues, and it sounds like you could be having one... there is no excuse for odors of one unit making their way to the other units via bathroom vents. Either something is broken, or something is missing.", "I dealt with this at my last apartment. The smell was so bad it seeped into everything. One thing that helped temporarily was scrubbing the floors with a mix of cleaning vinegar, dawn dish soap and baking soda. Can’t remember the proportions sorry. Hope it helps!!", "Leave a note on your neighbors door complaining about the smell. If they don't comply, contact management. If they don't comply, leave spaghetti sauce out for a month, proceed to pour it under your neighbors door. Rinse and repeat until problem solved.", "Landlords responsibility it's not illegal to smoke in your own apartment. \n\nAs mentioned in earlier comments if you share a common ventilation duct that could be an issue. depending on how old the building is it could be natural draft which sucks or mechanical. You can check by putting a piece of toilet paper up to the vent to see if it's pulling. \nIf it isn't it is either natural or the exhaust fan is broken or just not turned on. \n\nYou could also look for gaps in the floors walls and ask the landlord to seal any with caulk. Particularly along the baseboard of the walls. Also plumbing penetrations can have large gaps around them. \n", "Happened to me. The smoke/smell was coming up through the inside HVAC unit where the pipes and wires came up through the floor. I ended up sealing the HVAC closet with plastic but did not help completely. ended up moving. management was no help until I cancelled my lease, then it was \"oh, we could have transferred you to another unit\"." ]

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[ "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. ", "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. ", "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. ", "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. ", "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. ", "How to not care and get over things. I over think, rethink, should have, could have, what if. And stress over things I can't fix. Maybe little disputes to arguments. People being \"upset\" Because of me. It really gets to me because I care. I want everyone to be happy. And I cry knowing I'm not good enough to keep people happy. The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else. " ]

[ "Take care of yourself first. You can't help anyone if you are not Ok. Also, don't be nice be kind,. The difference is when you are nice you take care of everybody but it's not genuine sometimes, when you are kind you only help others when you know in your heart that you really want to do it. Sometime saying no it's the kindest thing to do.", "Here's a pretty good short article on developing more [emotional resilience](https://www.verywell.com/cope-with-stress-and-become-more-resilient-3144889). For me, it took time and sense of perspective to become more resilient. Also, I realized that I overemphasized what people thought about me--the harsh reality is that people aren't really thinking about you as much as you think they are. That takes some pressure off. [You also say some things that indicate possible depression, which is common, and you should see someone about that. There's lots of good help out there]. ", "My wife really struggles with this too. There is no easy fix. However, you have to remember that everyone that you are sitting home stressing about has moved on with their lives and probably doesn't even remember the interaction that is stressing you. It's almost egotistical to think everyone is thinking/caring about you that much.\n\nAlso you have to realize that sometimes people need to be upset. It's how we change and improve. \n\nAs long as you aren't intentionally hurting people, let yourself off the hook. ", "Hey, I've had this type of thinking a lot (my whole life!) until earlier this year when I was diagnosed with anxiety. I had a few short sessions with a counsellor and now, if I start having those thoughts, I just have to remind myself that it's the anxiety talking... It makes life a lot easier!", "Have you considered professional counselling? \n\n> quote --> **The emotional state stops me from doing just about anything else.** \n\nThis isn't normal. If this is preventing you from living a normal life, and it's not just a once in a while thing and you're not exaggerating for effect, the actual answer might be \"real\" therapy, not reddit advice. ", "First, understand that it's impossible to please everybody. \n\nSecondly, from personal experience, having a caring heart will allow you to lead a more fulfilling life. Perhaps choose a field that involves humanitarian work?\n\nLastly, once something is done, it's done. There's no changing the past. Become familiar with the concept of \"cutting your losses\" and either move on from things that simply happen or think of a way to make amends for something you did wrong.\n\n\nThis comment is metaphorically heavy, I know, but these work." ]

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