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[ "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?", "Starting conversations with strangers. I'd love to hear your tips on how to start conversations and make friends with strangers. Almost all of my friends are people I've met through others or events. I feel as though I'm missing out on so many possible new friends, though, as I hardly ever am able to start or join a conversation with people I don't know, male or female. Any ideas?" ]

[ "Don't try to start an entire lengthy conversation, just remark something short about the person that you notice. There's a good chance they have something to do that is honestly more important than talking to some random person, if they respond and continue on then great, you've done it. It has to happen naturally. Don't wake up in the morning thinking \"I'm going to talk to someone about X\" be passive, you see someone wearing a t-shirt with a cool design or a movie reference, or they're reading a book that you like or are interested in or have suggestions for other books, or maybe have a cup or bag of popcorn from a movie theater, build your conversation based off of what the person is showing to other people, not what you want to talk about.", "Was at a huge party last night yelling \"My name is Jeffery!\" with my hand out to shake. No one turned me away, even when I told them later my name is not Jeffrey. ", "easiest way to make a connection and not make the conversation seem forced - in my eyes anyway - is to talk about what is happening to the both of you at the moment. if i am bored waiting for the bus and it is late again, for example, i would mention to the guy next to me how typical that is. then ask where they are going, if they are in a hurry, etc.. \nif you both realise you are just out for fun, you can ask them if they want to grab a beer or a coffee and you've got yourself a potential new friend/date.\n\nif its at a party you can go with the cliche \"how do you know the host?\" or ask what they think about the music, if they want to go to the bar to get a drink or something similar.\n\nif on holiday at a bar alone just walk up to someone, tell them you are here to visit and ask them where you should go for a drink/dance/food. chances are they will join you.\n\nthose are examples that work very well for me. it always felt akward for me to go up to someone, formally introduce myself and try to move the conversation along from there. just start a conversation about what is happening around you and then throw in a \"my name is billy by the way\" somewhere down the line. names arent important in the begining. plus very few people remember them if you havent made a connection yet.", "Use to do this for a living. You have to find the shared common ground and it makes things much easier. The first step is always a half statement half question about something you'd have in common. Weather, traffic, something interesting about the surroundings, a comment (positive works better) about a person or thing going by. You make a comment and their response indicates if they're willing to talk more. A nod, one word response, or ignore indicates they want to be left alone, respect that. A different verbal response indicates they might want to talk more. If their response seems more enthusiastic build upon that or introduce yourself with name and a small piece of information. Don't ask questions about them unless they start talking about themselves. If they do, then ask questions about what they have offered about themselves, nothing else. Realize the majority of people do not want to be approached by complete strangers. One small comment is all the interaction you get then let it go. If you are not complete but mostly strangers (say you work in the same building) you get two comments, if you have semi-regular contact (ride the elevator twice a day, same class) three comments, etc. the trite small topics of weather, sports, etc. are there for a reason. Use them. They are a shared experience with no risk of offense. If someone goes off on a topic that seems offensive or incomprehensible to you use it as an opportunity to ask questions and really understand a different viewpoint. ", "Always keep practicing. Strike up conversations with strangers everywhere. Some conversations last 5 seconds; some last for hours. Practice different openers with different people; get a feel for what leads somewhere and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to move on when conversations fizzle.\n\nDon't be shy or nervous about it. Have fun with it; it really can be a fun and entertaining hobby. People are interesting, and everyone has at least one good story in them.\n\n* start with some situation appropriate banter - the event, the host, the weather, the waiting for the bus\n* move on to the FORD formula, if appropriate (family,occupation, recreation, dreams)\n* If any of those get them interested/passionate, encourage them to talk on -- try to probe for what makes them excited/passionate about life\n* people like to talk about themselves. if you touch on something they are into, and encourage them to talk about it, they will remember you as a \"great conversationalist\" without ever knowing anything about you\n* seal the deal by remembering their name the next time you see them. You will become a Social Wizard. This is easier than people make it out to be: all you have to do is create a mnemonic device to associate their name with. \n", "I saw this once on how to pick up girls and it really does work. Begin the conversation like you were already talking to them. Think about that. It's deep. ", "I just said this in another thread, but traveling solo is the most helpful thing I'd ever done to learn social skills like this. You go outside and need to talk to other people for all kinds of reasons, finding your hostel or the supermarket. Soon you become bored and start talking to others for the heck of it. Things that were very intimidating at first, at least to me, like walking around chatting up people, become more natural and satisfying when you're almost forced to do it. And really, the most important thing it can teach you is how to get the most experience out of your time. That attitude can drive up your adventurous side like no other.", "An acronym that I've heard is F.O.R.M. It's often referred to as 'forming people'. You ask them about Family (and other significant relationships), Occupation, Recreation and Message (or passion). Works pretty well for me. It's as easy as saying \"Do you have any brothers and sisters?\" or \"What do you do for fun?\". And when there's a pause or brief awkward silence you just continue to the next letter of FORM. by the time you get to message/passion, you'll likely have come across an interesting topic that you're both comfortable with and the conversation will carry itself. ", "Like others have said, make the conversation about them. The onus of chatting will be on their shoulder and people love to talk about their lives.\n\nIf the conversation starts flagging a little, start parroting them:\n\nStranger - \"I work in the tech industry.\"\n\nYou - \"You work in the tech industry?\"\n\nParroting will help keep the conversation moving when it slows.\n", "I had a very hard time for a very long time with this, I simply do these things and I can generate good conversation with strangers about 80% of the times and have fun in the process! Enjoy and feel free to use these tips: \n\n* Most important thing to remember is to not expect them to talk back to you, you just noticed something and you found it interesting and you commented on it, thats it. If you stop expecting to have a spectacular conversation, you don't put pressure on yourself and then you become just a fun loving talkative stranger to whom people like to talk. \n* What do you find interesting? Interesting things are just interesting, to you , to me and to others. First step is to know what YOU find interesting so that you have something more to add once you start talking about anything. It doesn't matter. Once you notice and start talking about them, naturally you will speak with enthusiasm which is like a magnet and you will attract more people in conversation, even the ones that dont initially want to talk, will get pulled in. \n* **NOTICE, NOTICE, NOTICE**: Building up on last point, I love watches, I notice people's watches so I could talk to them about those, IF I find them interesting. I believe a good watch and its owner shouldn't go unnoticed! It could be easily extrapolated to shoes, shirts, accessories, hair styles etc. If someone has a good watch, I know it would light up their day if I compliment on it and ask them where they got it from! Conversation ensues. \n* **Helping someone in need**: Ever noticed that when you have something heavy that you are carrying yourself, you thought you could but it seems harder than it is and someone comes and helps to you carry it, how grateful you feel. Concept is same, try to notice if someone needs any help. I helped a person carry some of their grocery bags while I was on phone outside my apt the other day, we talked for around 45 mins over beers he just bought! Its amazing to me how much people are willing and want to talk to me if I just do the things I mentioned, *without expecting anything out of them*!! KEY here is to ask them first, if they need any help, if they don't, they will say no and you walk away, because you don't expect anything; if they say yes, you're in! \n* **Getting out of your head**: Don't think too much about what to say next, just let conversation flow naturally. There was a point when I would think about what to say next to prolong conversation and lose genuineness, chain of conversation and ultimately people's interest. Once I let go of that motive, my conversations are naturally more awesome, spontaneous and great! Everyone loves these kind of conversations where person and conversation are more genuine and not forced.\n* How do I *continue* conversation? Another biggest thing I struggled with, for ages, feel free to PM me and will tell you things I do to do just that. \n\nHope this helps, good luck and go make someones day! :)\n", "Just go up and talk to them. Say \"Hi. My name is kpcrat. What's yours?\" Then you can say: \"So, what brings you to (wherever you are)\" or \"do you come here often?\".", "The basics. \n\nSay anything. If you embarrass yourself, awesome, use your recovery to be a little self depreciating humorously. People will like you for that. In other words, just say litterly anything. It will always be 100% better than not saying anything. \n\nOffending people isn't nearly as bad as you think. It helps weed out people sensitive to your brand of humor. \n\nStart talking to everyone, every chance you get. Every time you go to the bank, store or food joint, strike up a bit of small talk. \"Been a slow day? How long have you worked here? Have you been doing this kind of work long?\" After awhile opening a conversation becomes the easy part. \n\nGetting depth out of a conversation. If you open a topic, say camping, cooking or traveling, say something more than just the superficial \"I am making spaghetti tonight\" \"Just got done camping at the coast\" or \"I have always wanted to go to Florida\". Instead, use that as the opener, but expand on it in a way that seems a tad more in depth. \"I have not figured out how to use herbs and spices in my spaghetti sauce.\" \"I have been doing camping sites but have been kind of wondering how to do more roughing it style\" or \"I have no idea how to get the most out of Florida. I am hoping to go there this fall.\" YOU MUST PROVIDE DEPTH TO GET DEPTH.\n\nDo not interrupt anyone for any reason. You will be considered a jerk. If you are dealing with someonethat won't stop interupting you, wait for a lull and say, you interupt people a lot, don't you? Saying that helps a ton. \n\nCompliment people. \"Cool dog!\" \"Neat hair.\" If you see someone do something cool like help an old lady or give up their spot in line, compliment that. Don't worry about starting a conversation, you are just multiplying your casual interactions with people. Conversations become super easy. It just takes practice.", "Ask interesting, funny questions that can't be answered with a yes or no, keep a slight smile on your face. ", "this might help\n\n>[\"look at me, I can afford to drape rich silk around my neck with no practical use\"](http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/1jqip4/eli5_why_do_people_wear_ties/cbhafbp) \n", "Where are you from? How did you get here? (I live in Atlanta, so no one is actually from here.) \n\nPeople love to talk about themselves. If you ask enough questions about them (origin, occupation (in detail), hobbies, opinions, family, aspirations), you'll be golden. ", "Top comment has it good. It also helps to just forget the past or any future, just be present and the more you practice the easier it will get. I know how hard it can be sometimes because I used to consider myself an introvert, I still am, but not as much as I used to be where I would get nervous of just thinking of talking about people\nIf you would like me to say more just reply to the comment, more than happy to help. \n\nP.S. rejection will happen eventually if you put yourself completely 'out there', not all the time, but just don't talk it too personally, just keep moving on. As a great man once said,\"Life goes on.\"", "This is all horrible advice. They could have a conversation about hobbies, jobs, weather, etc. With literally anyone. It's boring; won't create a lasting impression. Want to be good at talking to strangers? \n\n1. Get off reddit and do it. Most people giving advice here aren't the most social people \n\n2. Don't seem desperate. Act like you don't need or want anything from them. Don't take yourself so seriously.\n\n3. Be genuine. Preferably genuinely clever or funny. Talk about stuff that interests you about relevant topics.\n", "Relate to, and be relateable to, others when out in your normal life. \n\nForget the anxiety of the unknown. People are unique, yes, but we're all from the same basic mold. The same behavioral patterns. You've never met me, but you know me as a human knows another human. There. We now have a bunch in common. A simple remark in passing about the book you notice I'm reading doesn't seem so daunting, now does it?", "Observe them before talking to them. Most people wear what they like on them. Comment on something that you identified and share an interest, like, say someone is wearing a shirt with a reference to a movie you know, but it´s kinda of unheard, say something about it. Don´t expect to evolve from that to a life meaning conversation, but sometimes an opening is all you need.\n\nI people watch a lot and usually can find a commom ground with most people to start a conversation.\n", "Nearly everyone puts thought into what they wear and the objects they surround themselves with.\n\nI've started countless conversations with, \"cool watch\", or, I like your poster\". People usually have some story behind the choice and sharing the story is the beginning of a friendship.", "I start by asking what they do for a living, and follow up with leading questions until they really get going. If that leads nowhere, I ask about hobbies or interests. Sometimes this still gets me nowhere, and I seek a third party.\nsource: I am a bartender who has to talk to strangers for a living. ", "Get a dog and take it on lots of walks and to dog parks. Since I got my dog a year and a half ago, I know everyone on my block. \n", "Ask a simple question that the answer in 99% yes. Doesn't really matter, something non intrusive. Then simply smile and ask something else (something semi related or you turn in to a salesperson.) This is all basic level sales training! LOL Go get \"How to master the art of selling anything\" By Tom Hopkins; because essentially you are \"selling yourself\"", "Agree with what has been said, people generally like to talk about something about them or their life. \"Interested is interesting\"" ]

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[ "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?", "How do you keep a clean car? I’m a slob and my car is the most acute reflection of that. I cleaned my car out and my husband is going to detail it and I would love to actually keep it clean this time. What are your secrets for keeping a clean car?" ]

[ "My personal #1 rule. Nobody eats in the car. This will save you from cleaning countless wrappers, crumbs, spills, grease spots, etc. that will quickly leave your interior looking and smelling like the kitchen trash.", "Keep a designated \"trash bag\" in the car, and make a rule to always use it for depositing any trash. Throw the bag out when you wait for gas.", "Repetition, repetition, repetition.\n\nMake a habit out of cleaning your car. Each day toss out any trash you have and, at least, once a week do a vacuum. If you keep doing this you’ll eventually just do it all the time and keep it clean.", "Buy a roll of doggy doo bags, they are a perfect size to hang over your gear stick. Use them for your trash.\n\nBuy rubber floor mats, they are easy to take out and shake clean.\n\nLook into dog covers for the back seat. Ideally ones that hook into the headrests. They will stop fur, food and other messes getting into the seats.\nYou can shake them out once a week easy. \n\nDo a quick clean with a few wet wipes once a week. It's so much easier to give things a quick wipe down and deal with one or two stubborn spots rather than leave it for a month or two, when you've gotta scrub and deep clean everything.\n\nMake it a habit to grab that one McD bag or coffee cup when you get out of the car. It's so much easier to do one small thing everyday than to spend half a day cleaning half a dumpster worth of shit.\n\nHope this helps, getting into a clean car is so nice, get a new leather air freshener for bonus points!", "A bad car accident makes all the trash and belongings projectiles. I wouldnt want to die laying in my own filthy sloppiness.", "Someone on this subreddit suggested keeping Swiffer wipes in the car and wiping down at a traffic light once in a while. Or try a microfiber towel if you want to be more ecofriendly. A microfiber towel is also a good idea when you inevitably have a spill.", "Locally we have \"Big League Car Wash\" where for $18 a month (USD) you can auto-wash your car once a day, use free vacuums, use free cleaning rags, and dump your trash. You may have something similar near you. It's a great value and makes it easy to just pull in when you are in the area, clean the outside, and get rid of any interior clutter.", "Get a car trash bag. Use it. Empty it whenever you get gas (or more often if you fill it faster.)\n\nThere are some nice ones designed to sit just behind the center console, thus reachable by anyone in the car.", "Well I'm single and no kids, so what works for me might not work for you if you have either one.\n\nMine is simple, I don't leave anything in the car. Been that way ever since the (second) time I got broken into. I don't even keep the insurance & registration in it anymore, they stay in my wallet.", "This is gonna sound crazy, but maybe... just maybe... don’t accumulate enough mess. My girlfriend has the grossest car and I won’t get into it. Take your trash with you whenever you get out and throw it away, try and clean your car at least once a week (very therapeutic, instant gratification and all), and simply give a shit... it’s YOURS, your responsibility, an object you paid for and have more than likely put a decent amount of money. Respect yourself and your personal belongings. I believe in you! Also keep a grocery bag in the center console/trunk/glove compartment in case you have more than you can carry. Hope it helps!", "No cans or cups in cars or trucks. This rule came from my brother and after i saw countless to-go cups spilled in my car it became my rule as well", "I keep baby wipes in the car to clean up my kids’ faces and messes, and when I’m sitting in the car for any length of time, I grab one and start wiping down surfaces and crumbs. I also have a trash bag and I empty the trash after my last trip of the day. Since I’m already taking a load of crap and toys for my kids into the house, adding the trash isn’t that much extra. Seriously, though, baby wipes.", "I got a monthly subscription to a local car wash, it’s $20 but it motivates me to go often because I’m already paying for it anyways, so may as well use it and have a clean exterior. They have free vacuum stations with large trash cans and clean towels to use. I’ve built going to the car wash and tossing trash into my routine.\n\nI could do this at home for free, but I know I won’t, put since I’m paying for the subscription, I’m going to get my money’s worth.", "I admire your goal. I've completely given up ever having my SUV super clean again. Between trips to the vet with the shedding dogs and constantly picking up plants and house supplies, it's futile for me.", "Dispose of trash every time you fill up your gas tank, dedicate 10 minutes every week to clean the interior, get the exterior washed *at least* every 2 weeks, and waxed *at least* every 3 months. \n\nDo not keep tissue paper (Kleenex) in your car because that will create an endless supply of dust. Wearing any form of glitter while driving will also create an impossible cleaning task for your future.\n\nIn regards to cleaning chemicals, it is really up to your preference. I prefer a 50/50 vinegar/water solution for windows and a water/Dawn soap mixture for interior cleaning. I'll also use specialized products afterwards to help shine my dash and leather upholstery", "As others have already said- no eating in the car. If you have trash take it out with you every time. If it doesn't live in the car ( like umbrellas or charging cords, for example) it doesn't stay in the car longer than you do." ]

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[ "How to stop impulsively swearing loudly This is a problem at school, I go \"F$&*!\" At everything, even the tiniest mistake. How do I control my impulse? I hate looking like a douche. ", "How to stop impulsively swearing loudly This is a problem at school, I go \"F$&*!\" At everything, even the tiniest mistake. How do I control my impulse? I hate looking like a douche. ", "How to stop impulsively swearing loudly This is a problem at school, I go \"F$&*!\" At everything, even the tiniest mistake. How do I control my impulse? I hate looking like a douche. ", "How to stop impulsively swearing loudly This is a problem at school, I go \"F$&*!\" At everything, even the tiniest mistake. How do I control my impulse? I hate looking like a douche. ", "How to stop impulsively swearing loudly This is a problem at school, I go \"F$&*!\" At everything, even the tiniest mistake. How do I control my impulse? I hate looking like a douche. " ]

[ "You have to include other people anytime you want to break a habit. I used a swear jar and everytime someone caught me swearing, I had to put $5 in the jar. It doesn't take long for your behavior to change. A good book on changing habits is Marshal Goldsmith's \"Triggers\". ", "You need to catch yourself about to say it, and then not say it instead. You're already catching yourself having said it, so that's step one done. Keep at it, and soon you'll be catching yourself saying it. Eventually you'll catch yourself about to say it, at which point you simply don't. You can say it in your head or whatever, but not out loud. \n\nThis is how I learned to not let the door to my friend's apartment slam on my way out at night. ", "Stop doing it even when you are alone.\n\n", "Like anything else break or change the habit. Easiest way is to start is substitute another word. Use Fudge or another \"non offensive\" word.\n\nI have a six year old so it's\n\nFuck - Fudge\n\nShit - Sugar\n\nCrap - Crud\n\nDamnit to Hell - Darnit to heck.\n\nIt's pretty much now how I cuss.", "It actually helps me to correct myself after i mess up. So you just say \"F***!\" then you realize you sound like a tool, so say outloud \"oops, I mean fudge\" as soon as you realize you've messed up. For me the more I did this the sooner I would catch myself until I could eventually catch myself mid swear word, then, I started catching myself before I said it. It takes practice. " ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to keep the back ofa shirt tucked in. I wear a shirt and tie to work everyday. For the life of me, I can't get the back of my shirt to stay tucked in. The front stays in fine, but it seems like every time I sit down and get up or stretch a bit the back comes untucked. Any suggestions?", "How to keep the back ofa shirt tucked in. I wear a shirt and tie to work everyday. For the life of me, I can't get the back of my shirt to stay tucked in. The front stays in fine, but it seems like every time I sit down and get up or stretch a bit the back comes untucked. Any suggestions?", "How to keep the back ofa shirt tucked in. I wear a shirt and tie to work everyday. For the life of me, I can't get the back of my shirt to stay tucked in. The front stays in fine, but it seems like every time I sit down and get up or stretch a bit the back comes untucked. Any suggestions?", "How to keep the back ofa shirt tucked in. I wear a shirt and tie to work everyday. For the life of me, I can't get the back of my shirt to stay tucked in. The front stays in fine, but it seems like every time I sit down and get up or stretch a bit the back comes untucked. Any suggestions?", "How to keep the back ofa shirt tucked in. I wear a shirt and tie to work everyday. For the life of me, I can't get the back of my shirt to stay tucked in. The front stays in fine, but it seems like every time I sit down and get up or stretch a bit the back comes untucked. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Have you tried a [military tuck](http://agoodman.com.au/how-to-tuck-in-a-shirt-so-that-it-stays-tucked/)?", "Might sound a bit weird but I tuck my shirt into my boxers. That extra band of spandex makes a difference.", "I've had a lot of success staying tucked in since I started wearing suspenders. Do resist the temptation to snap them the first time you put them on though: the little metal tabs on them can and will hit your nipples.", "Use a hot glue gun to put a line of glue along the inside of the waistband of your pants. Let it dry completely. It will have a rubberized feel when dried and keep your shirt from coming untucked.", "I was in the military, and we would use [shirt stays](http://www.amazon.com/Stirrup-Style-Black-Shirt-Stays/dp/B001LQ5LT2) to keep our service uniforms tight and tucked in.\n\nJust don't let anyone walk in on you while you are dressing! They'll think you are some kind of weird cross-dresser. They look funny when your pants are off, but they work like a charm.\n\nThe place where you button the stays on the shirt is important. You need to position them so you can also take advantage of the fabric tucking technique suggested by another poster.\n\nAlso see [collar stays](http://www.amazon.com/Metal-Collar-Stays-Dress-Shirts/dp/B008L422BW/ref=sr_1_8?s=apparel&ie=UTF8&qid=1365855028&sr=1-8&keywords=collar+stays) to keep your collars pointy and in place." ]

[ 4, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?", "Being equitable roommates? I'm gonna be starting my first job in June along with a close friend I've known for three years. How should we go about being as equitable as possible, especially with respect to broadband usage (ISPs follow a FUP system here) and other things that may drive a wedge between us?" ]

[ "My outlook is that if everyone is keeping score, everyone loses. It's great to talk about how to use shared resources, its poison to observe and criticize your roommate about their habits. Learn to let a lot go.", "LPT: If you value your friendship, don't move in together. You'll ignore this and remember it when you've not spoken in 6 months. Seriously. If you're not having sex with someone, then living with them can be very difficult. Hell it's still difficult if it's your SO but a little more manageable. ", "I've lived with one of my best friends from high school for almost 2 years. He has a job and I work part time and go to law school. We each have bills we are responsible for and, for the most part, we share groceries. We try to treat it like a relationship w/ a significant other. Communication is HUGE. We have our rough times, but for the most part if something is bothering one of us we can discuss it like adults. The comment above about not keeping score is also critical. We both have our moments where we feel like one is contributing more than the other, but humor helps us diffuse those situations. We have definitely grown closer, and I'm kind of bummed I'll be moving out to live with my girlfriend in the fall. It's been a wonderful bromance, and I've learned so much about myself! ", "Communicate even when it is difficult. Diffuse tough topics with with some humor and a dash of vulnerability. What I mean by that, as an example, would be \"Hey so-n-so, I know I sometimes bog down the internet by downloading a bunch of crap (even if you don't), but the other day I got hit by you eating up all the bandwidth. Maybe that's something we should try and hammer out?\" Hope that helps. Maybe this is common sense and will be removed, but that to me is the best solution.", "If you're really worried about internet usage, there's ways of setting up a router to ensure you are both given equal allocation of resources. ", "I've been living with one of my best friends for 5 years now. I've learned a few things along the way that might help, as living with anyone can be a challenge. First off- if you want your home a certain way (tidy, clean, whatever), and your roommate doesn't- you are going to be the one stuck doing the work as it isn't a priority to them. I realized long ago because my roommate doesn't fantasize about having an empty sink, that it honestly does not matter to him if he puts dishes in it and doesn't wash them. I'm not saying it's fair- just that when there is no interest/care then there isn't any drive to be responsible. I let go of getting worked up about doing the dishes - now I just do them and admire my empty sink after. If it matters to you, you will most likely be the one to handle it. On the flip side, just because it matters to you doesn't mean they shouldn't be aware of what they're doing. When we first moved in we had a 'what are your biggest pet peeves' conversation. Small things I would never have known about (like he prefers to put the toilet seat and lid down every time) were talked about and it's no skin off my bath to do these things to keep him happy, and vice versa. He is aware of my dish cleaning thing and does his part - mainly putting away the clean ones. So it balances out and no one gets their panties in a twist. The last piece of advice I have is to be a mature adult. Sometimes it's difficult due to the friendship, but don't be scared to speak up for yourself. Conversations might be hard to start, but afterwards will be a relief. I've seen a lot of friendships ruined by living together due to lack of communication. Someone gets any for whatever reason, won't tell the other person, and then that anger breeds in to some bizarre monster that can't be ignored. It's not pretty. Living with friends is doable. Just be flexible. ", "Just set up some ground rules in terms of cleaning and general behaviour.\nCommunication is key, but it's also really important to let things go. Don't try to make everything \"fair\". There will always be one who cleans more than the other, or buys more groceries etc.", "find and make one of those \"roommate contracts\". It doesn't have to be really serious, you just think up a bunch of issues, like your broadband usage, and both agree upon how it's going to go right from the outset. That way if there are problems, you can just refer back to it. Oh, and you should have an exit strategy. In case one doesn't pay, or you end up hating living together, or one of you moves in someone else, etc.", "Over the course of my life, I've shared flats with over 200 people (I moved around a lot for studies and work) so I learned a thing or two about cohabitation.\n\nThe best rule to live by, or so I find, is to always leave every **shared** room in the house as if you were never there. That means doing the dishes right after you've finished eating, not hanging out your laundry all over the house, picking everything up from the floor when you drop something, and voluntarily doing some chores like sweeping, hoovering etc when you think it's required. However, from my experience the most important rooms to keep clean are the kitchen and bathroom; both are very easy to keep clean if you take care of them right after using them. Doing all this will not only greatly decrease the likelihood of arguments breaking out over the state of the house/flat, but you'll also feel better living there because it's always clean, and it's really not time-consuming at all if you make a habit out of it. I tend to do all the chores straight after I come from work, and I often do cleaning and cooking simultaneously.\n\nAnother very important rule, although this is more relaxed when you already know the people you're living with: only use YOUR stuff. When you use anything of your friend, make sure to **ask** before. It's extremely frustrating when you want to make food, only to find out your roomie used your casserole and frying pan without washing them, so don't do this to others. Don't hog kitchen utensils or really anything: don't put the casserole or whatever you used to prepare a meal with in the fridge, but put the leftovers in tupperware instead. Don't keep 10 empty glasses/cups in your room. Don't fuck around with the TV remote.\n\nAs for a final tip: if you can afford it, get some cleaning help - just once every 2 weeks should suffice if you keep the house clean enough yourselves, and it'll prevent some annoying discussions later on (someone WILL have to clean the shitter, eventually).\n\nTbh it's really good practice for when you want to move in with your (future) SO, and living with other people is very easy providing you both follow some basic laid-out rules. ", "From my personal experience, divide shelf and fridge space accordingly. In my past living arrangement the girl I shared the fridge with completely filled it with her food, and nothing is worse than having spent money buying groceries only to discover you have nowhere to store them. Even after asking her to give me some fridge space, she would occasionally \"forget\" and use my space if any was available.\n\nAnd yes, if you have any pet peeves or personal preference don't be afraid to tell them. For me personally, I'm a very light sleeper whereas my previous roommate would hold parties in the living room (which was right beside my bedroom) until 5am, and another roommate would have her friends over at 6am and they were loud as hell. If your friend is a party person, make an arrangement on the latest (or earliest) time they can have guests/hold parties/play loud music." ]

[ 30, 9, 8, 5, 4, 4, 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to take your money with you when traveling To travel abroad with my normal bank account, there are fees and hoops to jump through. I was wondering if there are cheap ways to bring my money on the trip with me, like paypal or...", "How to take your money with you when traveling To travel abroad with my normal bank account, there are fees and hoops to jump through. I was wondering if there are cheap ways to bring my money on the trip with me, like paypal or...", "How to take your money with you when traveling To travel abroad with my normal bank account, there are fees and hoops to jump through. I was wondering if there are cheap ways to bring my money on the trip with me, like paypal or...", "How to take your money with you when traveling To travel abroad with my normal bank account, there are fees and hoops to jump through. I was wondering if there are cheap ways to bring my money on the trip with me, like paypal or..." ]

[ "We used to use an American Express card back in the day. Carrying cash is risky. Here in the states, if you have too much cash, the police will claim its drug money and take it away from you. In foreign countries, EVERYONE will take it away from you.", "Use cash, but don't take out like hundreds of dollars at once. I lived in the U.K. for months and I just took out £100 at a time whenever I anticipated needing some money. ", "Our Qantas freqflyer card is also a prepaid cr", "Open a fidelity Acct and just use atms. Also there are a lot of cr" ]

[ 3, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?", "my dog may not have much longer to live; what are some memorable and lasting things we can do while she's still with us? I've recently been hit with some really bad news at the vet regarding my dog's health. While they aren't positive yet, there's a very high chance that she has a growth in her lungs that will give her a maximum of 6-12 months left. She's a Miniature Schnauzer who just turned 9. I know she's not necessarily young, but I've had her since she was just a puppy, and I'm heartbroken to know that I might be saying goodbye to her sooner than I thought. She's been with me through so many of my saddest and happiest moments, and so I want to thank her properly by cherishing the time we have left.\n\nOn the other side, I'm grateful that even in the worst-case-scenario, I've been given far more time with my pup than many other pet owners who are given the bad news much too late, and are forced to say their goodbyes within a matter of days or hours. That being said, I'm wondering what are some things I could do in her possible last few months that could ease any regrets I might have once she's gone. I'm considering hiring a professional photographer to capture some moments together, or possibly creating some mementos of her (paw prints?). Of course, this is all coupled with surrounding her with as much love and attention as possible. Whatever it is, my greatest fear is waking up one day without her by my side, and then regretting not having done one more thing before our goodbyes.\n\nTL;DR: what are things you could do for your pet (and with your pet) in their last days before it's too late?" ]

[ "Do her favorite activities. Make it all about her. My last dog loved swimming, so I took her swimming nearly every day. She could barely walk near the end, but she could still paddle around in the water, she loved it. ", "She was still young... but one of my best memories with my dog is a road trip we took. Had a family event about 1000 miles away... so I took some vacation time, rented a convertible and we hit the road for two weeks... Just the two of us. It was a great time and i still have a framed picture of her standing on the trunk trying to get the Highway Patrolman to play with her. :)\n", "I highly recommend the paw print. It is one of the things I treasure. One of my biggest regrets is that I didn't get to say goodbye, or comfort him before I left the vet. He went in for an emergency surgery that was expected to go well, so I basically just wanted to stay out of the way so they could get to work! I really believe that just being there for her is enough. Give her and do all her favorite things, fill her last days with so much joy and love. You are wise to see this opportunity for what it is, but don't stress out over doing \"enough\" for her. To her, you are everything. You are \"it\", and if she gets to do her favorite stuff with her best pal, that's the greatest thing in the world. Take videos and pictures like crazy. Videos capture mannerisms like photos can't. Plus you can't hear her bark in a photo. Hope this helps and I'm sorry you're losing your friend. ", "Lay with her for a bit. It's moreso for you not her but if she's in pain she may appreciate it. I say this because I just did this with my dog last night, who I was about to put down today. Even though he was very delirious and barely moving, he managed to move his head just far enough to rest it against my arm. My 22-year old cat joined us, even though he's never really liked my dog. Woke up this morning and he was gone. Loss is a painful thing but spending those last few minutes/hours with her will always be a good memory.", "You should check out Cuddle Clones. It's not cheap, but you take pics of your dog from a bunch of different angles and they'll make a custom stuffed animal of it. My girlfriend's dog is getting up there, I had one made for her last Christmas. It's obviously a poor substitute for the real thing, but it makes for a nice memento.", "Dude, sorry. I suggest you Take a video of you two chillen! I did this and I still watch it years later cuz she was the best doggie ever. Doesn't matter what you do in the video I literally just chilled with her. Get that tail wagglin!", "Memories are for those that remain *alive.* Meaning they are for *you.* With that said, do what you want. Take her to the beach, to play with other dogs. Let he sleep on the bed with you. Feed her healthy human food. Spoil her. Love her.", "I don't have a real answer, but I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are faced with losing your furry friend. The only suggestion I have sounds a bit weird - just tell her everything that you love about her & how much you will miss her, but that she will furry angel watching over you forever. I look at it this way, what would you do for a human in this situation? You'd reassure them & give them lots of love. Your doggy is no different.\n\nI wish you and your furry friend a lot of love and strength x", "I didn't have as much time with my old guy, but I took him rabbit hunting near daily (he never actually caught anything, he just loved trying) and he received what would normally be classified as an unhealthy amount of people food. \n\nTake lots of pictures (and videos). I like the professional photographer idea. I know I appreciate having nice photos of my dog that have since been framed and displayed. I also took his paw print and had it tattooed on my rib cage.\n\nThe thing I regret most is not having him put down at home. He hated the vet and bringing him in only made his final moments stressful, so if your dog feels the same way (hell, maybe even if she doesn't!) you should look in to home euthanasia. It's usually not much more expensive than the alternative, and you can ensure her final moments are more than comfortable. ", "Dairy Queen offers a free pup cup. Ice cream in a cup for doggos. Starbucks does whipped cream in a cup for doggos. ", "The feels in this thread :'(\n\nMy dog of 11 years died suddenly two weeks ago. He was old, especially for his breed, but he was still fit and active so we thought he would live a few more years. Then one morning he didn't wake up. No warnings.\n\nHe was a good boy and he deserved all the love he got from us, and more. But it still haunts me that i didn't take him for a walk the last day he was alive. The weather was terrible. Lots of wind and torrential rain. But i know he wouldn't have minded one bit. He loved patrolling the neighborhood with me more than anything. \n\nI would give anything to go for a walk in the storm with him one last time.\n\nI guess my advice would be that it doesn't have to be something super elaborate. Dog's aren't hard to please. The most joy he ever got was just doing things with me. Going to the park. Going camping. Hanging out in the yard doing tricks, and being called a 'good boy' for doing it right. Cuddling up in front of the TV at night.\n\nBeing part of the family.", "Photographer here. Get the pro photos you mentioned, but get someone who has experience with pet photography. Some nice photos of you and your pupper will be nice.", "Might as well feed her as much good people food as you can. When my dogs passed, it honestly cheered me up a bit when I remembered: \"They lived a good life, they ate more bacon and pizza then some people have.\"", "I wish I had more time with him and regret that I couldn't have done more. Take pictures, take video, get a pawprint, feed her junk food, take her with you in the car, take a day or as much as you can get off/work from home so you don't regret not spending the time wisely, and just hug her as much as you can.", "I have a miniature schnauzer too, aren't they the greatest pets? My doggo is 13 years old at the moment but just a couple months ago, one of his canine tooth came out, I was thinking of turning it into a necklace or an ornament and hang it off the Christmas tree but then again the cat I'm harboring is evil so I figured it it will look better framed next to the family portrait. I was lucky enough to have found his tooth in his bed but its worth a shot to ask you local vet after your dog passes if they can extract her tooth so you can keep as a momentum. Paw prints, her favorite toy, her collar, all her vaccination tags, maybe make a quick home video are good ways to keep her spirit alive and with you. Most importantly, I'm sorry about your doggo and best of luck. ", "Two other unsolicited and related pieces of advice: First, expect that some others will not recognize that you are grieving when you lose a loved pet, especially people who haven't gone through it. Second, regret may come up regardless of the special times you create. Acknowledge it as grief and love. ", "My advice would be to cement in your mind the great moments. When she goes, you want the first thing you think of to be those great moments, not the last trip to the vet. Every pet I've lost, it's tough to not think of that last bad day but to think of all the good days.", "Just had my hamster pass away last week. The last day he had we just laid in bed all day watching TV as he passed... Still sad over him playing but that's the price with pets. If I were you I'd just try and make your dog as happy as possible.", "If her tummy can handle it, take her through a drive thru and get her some nuggets or a burger patty. My dog loves that! He's 15 and I dread the day that we have to say goodbye. ", "I remember seeing a post here where a Redditor was taking his dog to the vet for the last time and the dog was slurping down a lovely ice cream cone. Things that your dog would love but would normally be irresponsible of you to give them, a piece of chocolate for example. \nThats what I am going to do when it no longer matters to anyone except my dog.", "I don't know shit about pets or anything else. But I wish the best for you and your pet. Hope you two make the best of the time you have together. ", "I also think you should get a paw print. There are kits you can buy to make one with clay. We got his done at a pottery place and I keep it in a nice box with photos his obedience training certificates and a pirate hat that looked awesome on him. Just do whatever you think makes her happy, I know my old dog loved nothing better than walks in the woods, there are so many things to smell and see there. When he did pass the only way I felt ok about it was knowing no one else could have loved and taken care of that dog more than my family did. Your dog is extremely lucky to have you and when it is time you will feel sad, but feel proud that nobody could love that dog like you do and you knew it was best to put her to sleep than to be selfish and keep her alive. Best of luck to you friend.", "Get one of those plaster of Paris kits fro a toy store and make impressions of your dogs foot. When it hardens, write your dogs name on it and anything else. Paint with clear polymer or clear spray. \nYou can lay the rock in a garden or keep it on a shelf.", "Do what you've always done... except be truly present. By mindful, be aware. \n\nIt's like going to a concert - do you experience it better if you're concentrating on recording it with your phone? Or is it better to just be present and experience it all.\n\nYou needn't try to do anything different or special. It could feel forced and worse still, that activity and memory may be forever associated with your dog's death. \n\nCelebrate the life, don't overstress death.", "Before she passes try and get a paw print of her in some clay or something that'll harden and last. My dog passed away after 16 beautiful years and I wished I did this. ", "Your vet may provide the paw print. I had my dog put to sleep a few years ago and a couple weeks after a package arrived with a card signed with condolences from all the people in the office and the plaster paw print with her name on it. It was completely unexpected. ", "Wished I had known about my own dog's life span because when I took her in for a visit the doctor told me she's in so much pain that she needed to go that same day I brought her in. I watched her sleep peacefully in my arms and it was one of the hardest thing.\n\n\nGive her/him lots of love. Hold her/him as long as you can. Take lots of pictures. \n\nI'm sorry you have to go through this and I hope your last few moments be the best. ", "The day before I had to have my 12yr old dog put down, my family and I took him for a car ride, to a state park, and got him his own ice cream cone from mcdonalds(we used to do that when he was a puppy). Most of all, we made sure he knew he was loved and that he had the best day ever. \nIf you need anyone to talk to about your dog, you can come to me. ", "Take photos of it. Upload some to Facebook. \nSo you will always have something to remember her. \nMaybe take video too when she is having fun. ", "Make sure to give her lots of chewies, let her sleep in your bed every night. Do anything that you can to show her how much you love her, and make her last months comfortable and happy. Since the growth is in her lungs, maybe you can take her for walks but carry her around instead so that she doesn't have to strain herself. \n\nI'm sorry that you're about to lose your furry family member. My thoughts are with you and your pup.", "I put my old boy down two months ago unexpectedly, so these are things I wish i had done...\nDo all his favourite things, cuddle time whenever possible, let him fall asleep on you, give him all his favourite foods/toys/things, walks at his favourite place, car rides, have his favourite people over, throw him a party, give him the best scratches, pet him until he's asleep, and most of all talk to him. Tell him everything, your favourite memory, what you love most, the things you appreciate about him. \n\nAnd I know this wasn't requested but for you when your friend has passed ask those who knew him to tell you their favourite memory or thing about your little friend, that helped me immensely and still does.", "Do things that you, yourself, would do if you only had 6-12 months left to live; and bring her with you. ", "And great I'm crying at work now.\n\nWhen my dog got diagnosed with cancer we took him to the beach. \n\nProbably not the healthiest but he loved when I'd give him sips of my beers. So I went to treehouse (really really good ipas) and he had some of the best beer in the world with me.\n\nLots of marrow bones and tennis balls\n\n", "Wagon ride through the woods. My first dog loved nature, but had trouble walking later in life. So we would put him in a wagon and bring him around the parks in my town.", "Spend as much time just snuggling with her, giving her scritches and feeding her her favorite treats. If you can, have the vet come to your house when it's time. It costs more but your pup will have more tranquil goodbye. I'm sorry- this is a hard thing to go through.", "My dog loved roast chicken, he used to drool and whine all night whenever it was cooking. We made him an entire roast chicken dinner and let him eat it all before we put him down. He was basically in a coma after eating all that food, he was so happy. \n\nI have a video of him enjoying it and I still watch it sometimes, this was years and years ago. Worth it for sure.\n\nAlso, Backup your pictures and videos, i've lost other memories of past pets due to hard drive failure.", "My condolences with your pet. I had a dog, black Labrador with a white patch on his chest. He was pretty great.\n\nSince it's been said, I'll rehash it here: spoil them to no end and let them know that you love them.", "I'd suggest getting another pup now. It will act as a companion for your current dog, the older dog will help you train the younger one, and you won't feel as empty when the older dog passes.\n\nWe once tried replacing a dog after the previous dog had died, but the personalities were so different that it didn't feel right - kinda disappointing. Having a new pup become part of the family now will make the loss easier to deal with because you can lavish your attention on the new dog (who will be feeling the loss as well).\n\nSorry for your impending loss, and good luck.", "I don't know if anyone suggested it yet but I would pray for her in downtimes when you're just cuddling her. If you're religious, you can pray that God takes care of her after she passes and to help her cherish her last months with you. It will help you gain peace mind that she is taken care of after she leaves this earth. If you're not religious, it's worth a shot :) Wish you the best. ", "Honestly, this post makes me sad. I hope your dog lives longer than expected and I hope you make lots of lasting memories. I know I probably should have when my dog died.\n\nI reccomend after the fact you get her cremated and keep her somewhere close, say on a mantle in your bedroom. It's somewhat comforting IMO, and I hope you make good use of your time OP.", "Damn, my eyes are tearing here at work. I feel your loss, and you have my sincerest condolences. 9 years ago I had to put my faithful companion down because he was in so much pain. I sat on the floor in the vets office with Knight's head on my lap. The injection was given, and he took his last breath while looking into my eyes. I was such a wreck. For such a long, long time. My current Dogue De Bordeaux is over 9 now, the average lifespan of the breed, so I know the time is coming near once more. I am glad though that you know in advance and wont have thoughts like \"I wish we went for more walks, I wish I would'nt have lost my patience. Spend as much time just being near your family friend.", "As my beloved Irish Setter lay at the edge of death, just as her last breaths were heavy and strained. I said her favorite words: Do you want to go for a walk?! She looked excited, her ears popped up, and she wagged her tail just at the very moment she died.", "if the dr says she is in pain blow a little weed smoke in her face or give medicated dog treats. go for walks every day, lots of belly rubs. i think dogs just want lots of attention so constant attention and love", "Buy a new dog that looks just like it, then the memories will just blend together and you won't be sad about the old dog case you'd be like, wait, that was this dog! " ]

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[ "How to keep to a schedule for uni/work/gym/hobbies? I thought about doing that and setting alarms.\n\nI need an app where I can program in a specific schedule once, and then it has an alarm and tells me what I need to do next, like:\n\n- 5:00 Wake Up/stretch\n- 5:30 run\n- 6:00 shower/cook 5 meals\n- 6:45 catch up on news/media and eat meal 1\n- 7:15 check what I have to do that day\n- 7:30 Go gym/shower there\n- 9:30 study for uni\n- 11:00 meal 2/1 episode\n- 11:30 do work stuff\n- 13:00 meal 3/reddit \n- 13:30 do youtube work\n- 16:00 meal 4/study for uni\n- 18:00 go out or meal 5 and free time\n- 21:00 go to bed\n\n---\n\nI think something like this would be amazing for me, but I just can't do it, am I being too harsh on myself? What do I need to change?\n\n---\n\nI can never keep to them, I just end up browsing reddit 10 hrs a day and youtube and shows, what can I do?", "How to keep to a schedule for uni/work/gym/hobbies? I thought about doing that and setting alarms.\n\nI need an app where I can program in a specific schedule once, and then it has an alarm and tells me what I need to do next, like:\n\n- 5:00 Wake Up/stretch\n- 5:30 run\n- 6:00 shower/cook 5 meals\n- 6:45 catch up on news/media and eat meal 1\n- 7:15 check what I have to do that day\n- 7:30 Go gym/shower there\n- 9:30 study for uni\n- 11:00 meal 2/1 episode\n- 11:30 do work stuff\n- 13:00 meal 3/reddit \n- 13:30 do youtube work\n- 16:00 meal 4/study for uni\n- 18:00 go out or meal 5 and free time\n- 21:00 go to bed\n\n---\n\nI think something like this would be amazing for me, but I just can't do it, am I being too harsh on myself? What do I need to change?\n\n---\n\nI can never keep to them, I just end up browsing reddit 10 hrs a day and youtube and shows, what can I do?", "How to keep to a schedule for uni/work/gym/hobbies? I thought about doing that and setting alarms.\n\nI need an app where I can program in a specific schedule once, and then it has an alarm and tells me what I need to do next, like:\n\n- 5:00 Wake Up/stretch\n- 5:30 run\n- 6:00 shower/cook 5 meals\n- 6:45 catch up on news/media and eat meal 1\n- 7:15 check what I have to do that day\n- 7:30 Go gym/shower there\n- 9:30 study for uni\n- 11:00 meal 2/1 episode\n- 11:30 do work stuff\n- 13:00 meal 3/reddit \n- 13:30 do youtube work\n- 16:00 meal 4/study for uni\n- 18:00 go out or meal 5 and free time\n- 21:00 go to bed\n\n---\n\nI think something like this would be amazing for me, but I just can't do it, am I being too harsh on myself? What do I need to change?\n\n---\n\nI can never keep to them, I just end up browsing reddit 10 hrs a day and youtube and shows, what can I do?", "How to keep to a schedule for uni/work/gym/hobbies? I thought about doing that and setting alarms.\n\nI need an app where I can program in a specific schedule once, and then it has an alarm and tells me what I need to do next, like:\n\n- 5:00 Wake Up/stretch\n- 5:30 run\n- 6:00 shower/cook 5 meals\n- 6:45 catch up on news/media and eat meal 1\n- 7:15 check what I have to do that day\n- 7:30 Go gym/shower there\n- 9:30 study for uni\n- 11:00 meal 2/1 episode\n- 11:30 do work stuff\n- 13:00 meal 3/reddit \n- 13:30 do youtube work\n- 16:00 meal 4/study for uni\n- 18:00 go out or meal 5 and free time\n- 21:00 go to bed\n\n---\n\nI think something like this would be amazing for me, but I just can't do it, am I being too harsh on myself? What do I need to change?\n\n---\n\nI can never keep to them, I just end up browsing reddit 10 hrs a day and youtube and shows, what can I do?", "How to keep to a schedule for uni/work/gym/hobbies? I thought about doing that and setting alarms.\n\nI need an app where I can program in a specific schedule once, and then it has an alarm and tells me what I need to do next, like:\n\n- 5:00 Wake Up/stretch\n- 5:30 run\n- 6:00 shower/cook 5 meals\n- 6:45 catch up on news/media and eat meal 1\n- 7:15 check what I have to do that day\n- 7:30 Go gym/shower there\n- 9:30 study for uni\n- 11:00 meal 2/1 episode\n- 11:30 do work stuff\n- 13:00 meal 3/reddit \n- 13:30 do youtube work\n- 16:00 meal 4/study for uni\n- 18:00 go out or meal 5 and free time\n- 21:00 go to bed\n\n---\n\nI think something like this would be amazing for me, but I just can't do it, am I being too harsh on myself? What do I need to change?\n\n---\n\nI can never keep to them, I just end up browsing reddit 10 hrs a day and youtube and shows, what can I do?" ]

[ "It's de-motivating to overly program your life and your day. I recommend a different approach:\n\nFirst; always try to begin with exercise (as you have it in the schedule). You'll give yourself a huge influx of red blood cells and be more alert throughout the day. \n\nSecond; get a legal pad and leave it on your desk at all times. Use one page every week and make a to-do list, which allows you to write down necessary tasks and line them out once complete. This allows you to prioritize them as you see fit for the day, and at the same time visualize all that you have to do. (I'm a university student and, over the last two semesters, took 6 and 7 classes respectively, this is highly effective to maintain organization). \n\n", "I would recommend using a calendar app on your phone. I've had both Ios and Android phones and don't like the calendar apps on either. I would recommend using Sunrise and just inputting that schedule within your apps. If you have an iPhone or Apple devices, I suggest using Timeful as it might be more interactive. \n\nI used to be in a similar position and used to waste the day away but once I started following a schedule, it later came naturally. But remember to give yourself enough time to relax or you will feel confined. \nSunrise: https://calendar.sunrise.am/\nTimeful: https://itunes.apple.com/app/id842906460", "You Have 'Youtube Work'. Are you a Youtuber as well? How many subs do you have and views? I have 66k+ subs and over 20 mill views. If you do fitness, maybe we can collaborate.", "It may help to set up \"appointments\" with people. i.e. Find someone who wants to run with you everyday at 5:30am (good luck) or go to the gym with you everyday at 7:30am (easier). Or make a lunch date every day for 1pm, or study together at the library at 10am. etc.\n\nIt will help keep you on schedule if you have a commitment to meet someone else. \n", "It helps to have something external to force you to follow through. That may be a dance class at the gym you have toake, or a linch with a friend you won't get to on time unless you get off the computer now, etc." ]

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[ "How to keep my feet cool when I'm sleeping Whenever I'm sleeping, or just laying on the couch, my feet get hot for no damn reason, while the rest of my body is perfectly comfortable. ", "How to keep my feet cool when I'm sleeping Whenever I'm sleeping, or just laying on the couch, my feet get hot for no damn reason, while the rest of my body is perfectly comfortable. ", "How to keep my feet cool when I'm sleeping Whenever I'm sleeping, or just laying on the couch, my feet get hot for no damn reason, while the rest of my body is perfectly comfortable. ", "How to keep my feet cool when I'm sleeping Whenever I'm sleeping, or just laying on the couch, my feet get hot for no damn reason, while the rest of my body is perfectly comfortable. ", "How to keep my feet cool when I'm sleeping Whenever I'm sleeping, or just laying on the couch, my feet get hot for no damn reason, while the rest of my body is perfectly comfortable. " ]

[ "get one of those chillows. a wet sponge in a plastic pillow.\n\nPersonally, I just put them on the cooler wall.", "I found that when it's so hot/dry that going to bed with wet hair doesn't work, sleeping under a wet blanket is a great alternative. If it's just your feet, maybe try it on a smaller scale, like a wash cloth or hand towel. ", "This might sound weird dehydration makes my feet do that \nIt took me forever to figure that out.\n\nAlso keep your feet out from under the covers ", "I like to dunk em in some cold water before I crawl into bed... I that doesn't help enough, then a moist washcloth and a fan do the trick.", "I have had tge same problem for years. My feet sometimes get hot at night and then really really itchy. I've been to tge doctor and physically, they are fine. No fungus or anything. \n\nAfter tons of trial ad error, the thing that helps the most is to keep them out from under the covers and then put lotion on them when they get hot. Also, try not to mess with them too much. Don't rub the lotion on very long. Just lightly. I also use a hypoallergenic lotion (Aveeno). Wear socks or slippers if you get out of bed to keep your feet from getting too stimulated on the bare floor. Then take them off when you get to bed. \n\nIf it gets really bad, wipe your feet down with a cool damp cloth. But don't soak them in ice or anything. You can cause frostbite and, even if you don't, they will react to the cold by becoming hotter when you take them out.\n\nHope this helps. " ]

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[ "How to get the best deal on expensive plane tickets I'm trying to travel to New Zealand and would like to know some tips for getting the best deal on plane tickets", "How to get the best deal on expensive plane tickets I'm trying to travel to New Zealand and would like to know some tips for getting the best deal on plane tickets", "How to get the best deal on expensive plane tickets I'm trying to travel to New Zealand and would like to know some tips for getting the best deal on plane tickets", "How to get the best deal on expensive plane tickets I'm trying to travel to New Zealand and would like to know some tips for getting the best deal on plane tickets", "How to get the best deal on expensive plane tickets I'm trying to travel to New Zealand and would like to know some tips for getting the best deal on plane tickets" ]

[ "I've memorized that the best time to buy a ticket is the Tuesday at 3 PM, six weeks before the actual flight, in private browsing mode.", "There is a website called TixChart which will create a series of low cost carrier one-way flights for you to take in order to get to where you are going the absolute cheapest way possible. You will have some crazy long layovers and your trip will be broken up across multiple airlines and you'll have a bunch of plane changes, but oh the money you'll save.", "Major Airlines have \"seasons' of their own. For example, the current season ends and the next season ends for Emirates on July 27. Flights before July 27 will cost significantly higher than on or later that date. Also, try to buy tickets about 5 months before flight for international flights. You can probably buy tickets about 11 months before the first flight but it will not be necessarily cheaper as the same ticket bought about 5-6 months before travel.", "Check different nights of the week. Tuesdays and wednesdays usually have better rates than weekends.\n\nAlso - try bundle packages like on expedia and travelocity type sites. If you bundle airline and hotel you usually save $$ in domestic prices not sure how it compares to international.", "Also if you have a lot of layovers sometimes you can change a layover time from a couple of hours to a day or two." ]

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[ "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? ", "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? ", "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? ", "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? ", "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? ", "how to stop thigh chafing I've put on a little bit of weight recently, and now the insides of my thighs rub right at the top. I like wearing skirts/dresses but find it hard now as the chafing gets sore. Am I stuck just wearing little shorts to stop it? " ]

[ "Download myfitnesspal if you want to cut to the root of the problem. If you dont, try boxers, baby powder, or gold bond friction defense.", "I'm hoping you could use it as motivation to get fit. That's how I started. I really couldn't stand the noise my thighs would make when I plopped myself down on a seat too quickly.", "I work in the music industry, lots of music festivals during the summer, lots of running around in the hot, sticky heat. I always have a thing of SOLID preponderant in my purse and feel free to lather that shit on. Works wonders, it's a MUST-HAVE for my festival packing, and it's fun to call it \"chub rub\".", "[This](http://www.walmart.com/ip/MONISTAT-Chafing-Relief-Powder-Gel-Skin-Protectant-1.5-oz/21312111). Bonus: you can also use it as a face primer! It's very similar to the smashbox formula and 1/6th the price.", "If it gets really irritated, wear a blisters band aid. To stop this from happening; Try baby powder, chalk powder, vaseline, lubricants or bike shorts, long underwear or short leggings if that doesnt work. ", "Corn starch. Baby Powder helps a little but wears down quickly. Corn starch is very fine and makes that area very smooth and lasts longer. It works wonders! A lot of irritation comes from sweating so use an antiperspirant on those thighs." ]

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[ "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?", "How do you stay cool in this damn heat? Here in Britain we're undergoing a bit of a heatwave, and cooling options are limited (domestic AC is pretty unusual since we'd only need it for about a week each year). It occurred to me this morning that folks elsewhere in the world probably have more experience of staying alive in high temperatures, and might be willing to share their survival skills. What tips do you residents of broiling hellscapes have for pansy Britishers like me who faint when the mercury goes over 20 degrees?" ]

[ "I live in California, I know heat. Using fans and keeping the curtains closed and keeping the lights off. If it is cool outside in the early morning or late at night, open windows and turn fans on. Keep it cave like. Also you can use a wet wash cloth towel and rub water on your arms and forehead and lay down with a fan blowing air on you. Ice on your wrists and back of neck. Stay cool my friend. Hopefully the heatwave ends soon.", "When it gets real bad and you struggle hard, wet a T-shirt and put that on, maybe just wet the front if you’re chilling on the couch. The shirt will stay wet for a while and the evaporation will cool you down substantially and provide relief.\n\nA quick version is to put some water on the inside of your forearms and let that evaporate. Repeat as necessary.", "Very fragile girl in the US desert here. Small ice packs. Not sure what you have there but I have a little one with squishy gell beads that freeze. Use it on arterial points like your neck, wrists, etc. It helps.", "It's sounds a little counterintuitive, but go outside and sit in the shade. It can be hard to keep air circulating inside and still air feels warmer than moving air", "Hey, I’m from Britain too.\nWhat I do is fill up half my bottle and put it in the freezer overnight on its sides. I then wake up and fill the rest of the bottle. It’s cools you down straight away. For example, I felt cold yesterday for most of the time. (No fans either)", "Drink Coconut water, ORS and buttermilk\nWear cotton clothes. Don't wear shoes. Wear flipflops. Wet a thin blanket and hang it like a curtain in the middle of the room.", "Cold showers are a MARVEL for this. I’m a lifelong Florida resident and very occasionally travel to Southeast Asia to see family (all of whom don’t have AC); you know how if you take a really long, hot shower and it feels like the heat just seeps deep into you body, and then it’s like you carry it with you? Do the same thing with however cold you can get your shower to go. Stay in there long enough that the cold is deep down into your skin and muscles, and then you’ll carry that with you for a while and it is just marvelous. \n\nI think it’s nice from an anti inflammatory perspective, too (good for your bones and muscles and joints), and it trains your willpower to plunge into the ice cold water the first time.\n\nThe guy saying to let your body get used to it is spot on though. Just accept that it’s hot and spend some time outside every day, drink plenty of water (you can through some salt in there if you’re really sweating and it’s honestly really refreshing), and eventually you won’t sweat nearly as much.", "The human body is capable of adapting to wide ranges of environmental differences. \nI work in Iraq, in the summer it gets up to 125F or 51C. \nYou will never learn to adjust to the heat if you’re constantly in air conditioning and exposed to this heat intermittently.\n\nThe best and cheapest way to handle the heat is to let your body adjust. Even when I’m home in Florida I barely use my air conditioner because I’m so used to the heat of iraq.", "Also wilting from the heat in London. Fans, obviously. Wet a towel and wrap it around your shoulders. I have an inexpensive mister bottle with a fan, it provides some relief when it gets unbearable. Apply cold to the back of your neck, where your body's temperature regulation sensors are.", "Drink a hot cup of tea.\nTake warm shower.\nBlow out the hot air from the top part of the rooms(esp. if the rooms are tall). Raise high a fan near the window or door.\nAnd for fast cooling, run cold water on inside part of your wrists, where veins are vissible.", "Hillbilly Aircon: put ice packs in front of a fan, so it's moving cold air. (Do NOT use ice that isn't in a container, as ice turns to water, and water and electricity don't mix.)", "Might I suggest you get off your arse and travel the world. The one week it is hot in Britain, travel somewhere else and enjoy life." ]

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[ "Stopping a telemarketer(scammer?) from harassing you? So today I wake up to find 6 missed calls from the early morning all of them were from different numbers, but same area code. I generally don't get phone calls so this was a bit of a shock. I get another call; now that I'm awake I decide to answer and mess around act like I only speak Spanish, being white I don't have the best accent to pull this off :P. This pissed off the lady I was speaking to. She didn't sound Mexican so I didn't figure I'd offended her. Best I can guess is she's Mandarin because she mocked me by speaking that language and also some half-way spanish. So this conversation drags on she puts me on \"hold\" dead air so she can hear me, but mic is muted...would hang up...then call back about 3 times before she resumed talking to me. She tells me how \"I'm just calling to bother you, that's my job. I'll keep calling day after day for hours and hours.\" Then where it takes the slightly spooky turn and where my concern is focused, is she says \"look at all this information here\" starts to read my name, address, etc. kind of under her breath all info being correct. Then what I assume she did was find my Facebook with the information she had searching my name and does find it confirming it with my middle name, then finds my mother's account before hanging up the call. That's not every little detail but it covers the bases. It was for sure one of the most interesting phone calls I have had probably ever lol. I haven't received a call back since that last bit where she found at least someway to see what I look like and my mother's name or profile.\n\nAll this to ask what steps I can take on gathering information on them to report them because I feel the number would do no justice for authorities considering she called me, back to back from 9 different numbers all like I said same area code. I'd initially considered a more malicious route and tracing their location and just absolutely flooding the phone lines or something to that effect, but have decided against it. Yes my number is on the DNC list so this leads me to believe it's simply a scammer, but with the whole using my info against me it got a bit too personal. I've read up on this with no definitive answer other than blocking them (which doesn't work because multiple numbers), suing them (I don't have the time or $ for that), or simply ignoring them but at effectively 12 calls a day that's no easy task especially with how motivated this person seems to want to bother me. Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for any help. If more detail is needed I'll answer!\n\n", "Stopping a telemarketer(scammer?) from harassing you? So today I wake up to find 6 missed calls from the early morning all of them were from different numbers, but same area code. I generally don't get phone calls so this was a bit of a shock. I get another call; now that I'm awake I decide to answer and mess around act like I only speak Spanish, being white I don't have the best accent to pull this off :P. This pissed off the lady I was speaking to. She didn't sound Mexican so I didn't figure I'd offended her. Best I can guess is she's Mandarin because she mocked me by speaking that language and also some half-way spanish. So this conversation drags on she puts me on \"hold\" dead air so she can hear me, but mic is muted...would hang up...then call back about 3 times before she resumed talking to me. She tells me how \"I'm just calling to bother you, that's my job. I'll keep calling day after day for hours and hours.\" Then where it takes the slightly spooky turn and where my concern is focused, is she says \"look at all this information here\" starts to read my name, address, etc. kind of under her breath all info being correct. Then what I assume she did was find my Facebook with the information she had searching my name and does find it confirming it with my middle name, then finds my mother's account before hanging up the call. That's not every little detail but it covers the bases. It was for sure one of the most interesting phone calls I have had probably ever lol. I haven't received a call back since that last bit where she found at least someway to see what I look like and my mother's name or profile.\n\nAll this to ask what steps I can take on gathering information on them to report them because I feel the number would do no justice for authorities considering she called me, back to back from 9 different numbers all like I said same area code. I'd initially considered a more malicious route and tracing their location and just absolutely flooding the phone lines or something to that effect, but have decided against it. Yes my number is on the DNC list so this leads me to believe it's simply a scammer, but with the whole using my info against me it got a bit too personal. I've read up on this with no definitive answer other than blocking them (which doesn't work because multiple numbers), suing them (I don't have the time or $ for that), or simply ignoring them but at effectively 12 calls a day that's no easy task especially with how motivated this person seems to want to bother me. Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for any help. If more detail is needed I'll answer!\n\n", "Stopping a telemarketer(scammer?) from harassing you? So today I wake up to find 6 missed calls from the early morning all of them were from different numbers, but same area code. I generally don't get phone calls so this was a bit of a shock. I get another call; now that I'm awake I decide to answer and mess around act like I only speak Spanish, being white I don't have the best accent to pull this off :P. This pissed off the lady I was speaking to. She didn't sound Mexican so I didn't figure I'd offended her. Best I can guess is she's Mandarin because she mocked me by speaking that language and also some half-way spanish. So this conversation drags on she puts me on \"hold\" dead air so she can hear me, but mic is muted...would hang up...then call back about 3 times before she resumed talking to me. She tells me how \"I'm just calling to bother you, that's my job. I'll keep calling day after day for hours and hours.\" Then where it takes the slightly spooky turn and where my concern is focused, is she says \"look at all this information here\" starts to read my name, address, etc. kind of under her breath all info being correct. Then what I assume she did was find my Facebook with the information she had searching my name and does find it confirming it with my middle name, then finds my mother's account before hanging up the call. That's not every little detail but it covers the bases. It was for sure one of the most interesting phone calls I have had probably ever lol. I haven't received a call back since that last bit where she found at least someway to see what I look like and my mother's name or profile.\n\nAll this to ask what steps I can take on gathering information on them to report them because I feel the number would do no justice for authorities considering she called me, back to back from 9 different numbers all like I said same area code. I'd initially considered a more malicious route and tracing their location and just absolutely flooding the phone lines or something to that effect, but have decided against it. Yes my number is on the DNC list so this leads me to believe it's simply a scammer, but with the whole using my info against me it got a bit too personal. I've read up on this with no definitive answer other than blocking them (which doesn't work because multiple numbers), suing them (I don't have the time or $ for that), or simply ignoring them but at effectively 12 calls a day that's no easy task especially with how motivated this person seems to want to bother me. Sorry for the long post and thanks in advance for any help. If more detail is needed I'll answer!\n\n" ]

[ "Report every single phone call to the Do Not Call List registry. If you happen to answer and there is a live voice on the phone, inform them that you are doing this and that the maximum penalty is $40,000 *per phone call.*\n\nThat way you can let the FTC do all the investigation. Sure, they're the ones who will collect the fine, but it's still worth it to give the middle finger to a spammer.", "As a programer, this is in tge range of what i woud do, but it could be more straight forward for me than for you. \n\nOther than that, if you are going to folow the lawsuit, i recomend recording the phonecalls whith something like \"ACR\" ( Free app that works great )", "I deleted my earlier comment because I hadn't read your entire post. I'm sorry. The DNC thing was my suggestion in that reply. Other than that I'd just hang up, program the calls in your contacts(I use fun names like TeleMarkeTheFuckOff 1) and then block it. Time consuming in your case, perhaps.\nAlso, you could not answer unfamiliar numbers and search those numbers on-line, \"Who's Calling Me?\" Is one of the sites. You'd be amazed to see right there that these numbers have harassed enough individuals that it's reported. \nLastly, the legal course of action may be your best alternative. I'm just not sure how. My problem has never been as chronic as yours seems to be and I feel for you. Hope that helps." ]

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[ "How to make massages less painful and tense? \n\nHi everyone,\n\nI've recently started receiving massages for my health. I have been to 3 different massage therapists (no masseuses--only licensed therapists) and each time, I have experienced a lot of pain and discomfort. The pain is like a stinging pinch, rather than feeling like the therapists are applying too much pressure. \n\nThere's no question my back needs a lot of work. A tough job with long hours has limited my mobility severely, but I am wondering if this level of pain and discomfort is normal. If it is, what can I do to help relax and overcome the pain during my sessions? I am a clenched ball of pain and tickling sensation every time I lay on the table. Thanks for any help you can provide.", "How to make massages less painful and tense? \n\nHi everyone,\n\nI've recently started receiving massages for my health. I have been to 3 different massage therapists (no masseuses--only licensed therapists) and each time, I have experienced a lot of pain and discomfort. The pain is like a stinging pinch, rather than feeling like the therapists are applying too much pressure. \n\nThere's no question my back needs a lot of work. A tough job with long hours has limited my mobility severely, but I am wondering if this level of pain and discomfort is normal. If it is, what can I do to help relax and overcome the pain during my sessions? I am a clenched ball of pain and tickling sensation every time I lay on the table. Thanks for any help you can provide." ]

[ "Take acetaminophen, naproxen, or ibuprofen (not aspirin) an hour before your appt. Afterward flush the lactic acid released during your massage from your muscles by drinking a lot of water. If the pain continues, you may just have a very low pain tolerance or hypersensitivity to somatic pressure.", "You should stretch out ahead of the treatment so your therapist can get deeper into your muscles for faster healing. Take a hot bath, go on a 20 minute walk, and stretch your body before going. This will loosen the top layer of muscles and allow the to get to where the knot is. What you describe as stinging pain, I’d describe as “hurts so good” 😂. But that’s why they are a true therapist not just a masseuse for relaxation." ]

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[ "I have 40 hours left of PDO left. I did not know I could not use my PDO during my last two weeks, just sent in LoR. Should I risk just losing it all or should I cancel the LoR and use all the PDO and then submit LoR for 1 week notice? \nI am in a dilemma. I am just so sick of the overwhelming stress at my job and there are so many people everywhere but they are unwilling to do their own jobs which makes it harder! What do you think in regard to my question?", "I have 40 hours left of PDO left. I did not know I could not use my PDO during my last two weeks, just sent in LoR. Should I risk just losing it all or should I cancel the LoR and use all the PDO and then submit LoR for 1 week notice? \nI am in a dilemma. I am just so sick of the overwhelming stress at my job and there are so many people everywhere but they are unwilling to do their own jobs which makes it harder! What do you think in regard to my question?", "I have 40 hours left of PDO left. I did not know I could not use my PDO during my last two weeks, just sent in LoR. Should I risk just losing it all or should I cancel the LoR and use all the PDO and then submit LoR for 1 week notice? \nI am in a dilemma. I am just so sick of the overwhelming stress at my job and there are so many people everywhere but they are unwilling to do their own jobs which makes it harder! What do you think in regard to my question?", "I have 40 hours left of PDO left. I did not know I could not use my PDO during my last two weeks, just sent in LoR. Should I risk just losing it all or should I cancel the LoR and use all the PDO and then submit LoR for 1 week notice? \nI am in a dilemma. I am just so sick of the overwhelming stress at my job and there are so many people everywhere but they are unwilling to do their own jobs which makes it harder! What do you think in regard to my question?", "I have 40 hours left of PDO left. I did not know I could not use my PDO during my last two weeks, just sent in LoR. Should I risk just losing it all or should I cancel the LoR and use all the PDO and then submit LoR for 1 week notice? \nI am in a dilemma. I am just so sick of the overwhelming stress at my job and there are so many people everywhere but they are unwilling to do their own jobs which makes it harder! What do you think in regard to my question?" ]

[ "What does your company policy say (if it’s a mid to large size company then it’ll be written in the employee handbook/packet that was given to you when your were hired on). If it’s a small start up and things are still getting ironed out then it’ll be a bit more difficult for you because they could change their answers either way. If the employee hand book said it’s a use or lose it then you should hold off your resignation letter. \n\nI’m located in Southern California and when I left, I had accrued about 3 weeks of PDO and they sent me a check for the 3 weeks , separate from my pay check.", "PDO is paid days off?\n\nWhat is LoR?\n\nMaybe you should try r/legaladvice and share with them the points in your employment contract that relate to paid time off and notice periods.", "Not sure where you live, but where I live it's very illegal for a company to take any PTO you've accumulated. They have to pay it out to you. I'd maybe think about some legal advice if this isn't the case.", "Most companies will pay you out for your accrued time off after you resign. I’d find out if that were the case before doing anything. If they do pay out for unused earned time off, you’ve only got two weeks. Stick it out and collect an extra week’s paycheck for free when all is said and done!", "Do you have the option to cash in your PDO? I believe they're required to do so. I cashed in and took two weeks before I started the new job." ]

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[ "Ways to stay motivated for school and the mindset towards it This is my first year of college and I have recently started to loose motivation in doing my school work. Is there any advice to help students like me, so that we can continue to feel motivated. Also, is there a certain mindset one should have to be a successful student. Any advice would help out a lot, thank you.", "Ways to stay motivated for school and the mindset towards it This is my first year of college and I have recently started to loose motivation in doing my school work. Is there any advice to help students like me, so that we can continue to feel motivated. Also, is there a certain mindset one should have to be a successful student. Any advice would help out a lot, thank you.", "Ways to stay motivated for school and the mindset towards it This is my first year of college and I have recently started to loose motivation in doing my school work. Is there any advice to help students like me, so that we can continue to feel motivated. Also, is there a certain mindset one should have to be a successful student. Any advice would help out a lot, thank you.", "Ways to stay motivated for school and the mindset towards it This is my first year of college and I have recently started to loose motivation in doing my school work. Is there any advice to help students like me, so that we can continue to feel motivated. Also, is there a certain mindset one should have to be a successful student. Any advice would help out a lot, thank you.", "Ways to stay motivated for school and the mindset towards it This is my first year of college and I have recently started to loose motivation in doing my school work. Is there any advice to help students like me, so that we can continue to feel motivated. Also, is there a certain mindset one should have to be a successful student. Any advice would help out a lot, thank you." ]

[ "Think of college as a full time job. From 9am-5pm, devote your time to school- either studying or going to class just like you would if you were working full time. If you do this, you will have plenty of free time each night for fun/socializing. ", "Hit the gym. Sometimes physical lethargy translates into poor mental performance. Get plenty of sleep. What are you doing when you put down the book?\n\nA visit to /r/GetMotivated might do you a bit of good as well.", "You may want to check out /r/GetStudying for great tips and study methods and /r/GetMotivated if you get motivated by \"you can do it\"-mentality and -quotes.", "I grew up working on a family farm. I got my first paying job when I was 14. I worked one shitty job after the other and decided that I wanted to go to college so I didn't have to work shitty jobs for the rest of my life (be careful, if you chose the wrong course of study you will still be working shitty jobs and oddly enough you do not *have* to go to college to get a good job but that is getting fewer and farther between these days.) Also even a good degree doesn't guarantee anything. \n\nThat being said take every shitty job you can get. It will motivate you to do well in school because it will remind you of what you don't want to do. Hell, I had a work study job in college scrubbing toilets. It was a great situational irony for me because I cleaned up shit on the farm and I went to college so I wouldn't have to do that. Then I cleaned up shit at college. ", "For your sole income, go get a job working third shift unloading semi-trucks by hand. Do this for 3 months straight in the summer or winter or whenever. Only allow yourself balogna and a loaf of bread to eat for lunch, dinner, or whenever you're hungry. Want beer? Milwaukee's Best. You'll have a nice appreciation for your education soon enough." ]

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[ "How to get rid of this mold(?) in the shower Hi LPT, long time reader of this subreddit and have learned loads of great tips.\n\nImages first:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/hKVF6.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/02bN0.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6IQU0.jpg\n\nNormally we clean this with bleach but it soon comes back again. As you can see it's on the tiling and the plastic shower surround. We also have it above the shower on the walls.\n\nMy question is what is the best way to get rid of it and hopefully prevent it from coming back?\n\nI'm sure this can't be good for health reasons as an asthma sufferer.\n\nAny help most appreciated!\n\nThanks\n", "How to get rid of this mold(?) in the shower Hi LPT, long time reader of this subreddit and have learned loads of great tips.\n\nImages first:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/hKVF6.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/02bN0.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6IQU0.jpg\n\nNormally we clean this with bleach but it soon comes back again. As you can see it's on the tiling and the plastic shower surround. We also have it above the shower on the walls.\n\nMy question is what is the best way to get rid of it and hopefully prevent it from coming back?\n\nI'm sure this can't be good for health reasons as an asthma sufferer.\n\nAny help most appreciated!\n\nThanks\n", "How to get rid of this mold(?) in the shower Hi LPT, long time reader of this subreddit and have learned loads of great tips.\n\nImages first:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/hKVF6.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/02bN0.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6IQU0.jpg\n\nNormally we clean this with bleach but it soon comes back again. As you can see it's on the tiling and the plastic shower surround. We also have it above the shower on the walls.\n\nMy question is what is the best way to get rid of it and hopefully prevent it from coming back?\n\nI'm sure this can't be good for health reasons as an asthma sufferer.\n\nAny help most appreciated!\n\nThanks\n", "How to get rid of this mold(?) in the shower Hi LPT, long time reader of this subreddit and have learned loads of great tips.\n\nImages first:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/hKVF6.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/02bN0.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6IQU0.jpg\n\nNormally we clean this with bleach but it soon comes back again. As you can see it's on the tiling and the plastic shower surround. We also have it above the shower on the walls.\n\nMy question is what is the best way to get rid of it and hopefully prevent it from coming back?\n\nI'm sure this can't be good for health reasons as an asthma sufferer.\n\nAny help most appreciated!\n\nThanks\n", "How to get rid of this mold(?) in the shower Hi LPT, long time reader of this subreddit and have learned loads of great tips.\n\nImages first:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/hKVF6.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/02bN0.jpg\nhttp://i.imgur.com/6IQU0.jpg\n\nNormally we clean this with bleach but it soon comes back again. As you can see it's on the tiling and the plastic shower surround. We also have it above the shower on the walls.\n\nMy question is what is the best way to get rid of it and hopefully prevent it from coming back?\n\nI'm sure this can't be good for health reasons as an asthma sufferer.\n\nAny help most appreciated!\n\nThanks\n" ]

[ "Nothing is going to get rid of mold if you don't regularly clean your shower. Get a brush and scrub it off once a week. Your shower is disgusting.", "borax is better at getting rid of mold than bleach. But regular using an exaust fan, and regular cleaning will definately prevent it.", "So, is it possible to get mould out of grout/sealant? I moved into a flat that already had ground-in mould. Would products and a good scrubbing see to that problem?", "Depending on the type of mold, it may work to bleach it, let the bleach sit for a few minutes, then just wipe it off with a paper towel. If that doesn't work, use the same procedure but with a scrub brush instead of paper towels.", "A friend of mine who worked as a caretaker at an apartment building swears by oven cleaner for cleaning out your shower. " ]

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[ "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved.", "How to get smoker neighbors to stop littering I live in a condo complex, so all the green space is shared. I've noticed our upstairs neighbors have been throwing their cigarette butts and cigar plastic tips onto the ground outside, half the time the land on the mulch around an old oak tree. Besides the fire hazard it's obviously unsightly and awful for the environment.\n\nOther than that they are really nice neighbors, they even got our kids small gifts for Xmas. How would you go about asking or getting them to stop? I've thought about reaching out to their landlord or to our condo association to warn them to stop but wanted to see if anyone here had a similar situation they resolved." ]

[ "Have the landlord handle it. A couple of years ago one of the tenants in my building had a girlfriend for a while who was a smoker. She'd go on the rooftop deck (3 story building) to smoke and just throw the butts over the side. They were landing on cars and were scattered on the walkway out the back door. The landlord put a stop to that real quick probably mostly because his car was one of them.", "Sometimes asking directly csn cause an unwanted rift, however going anonymously to the landlord or condo association would cause them to be, thus saving the positive side of the relationship.", "There are covered ceramic ashtrays for outdoor use Available on Amazon for less than $20. Since they have gotten small gifts for your kids, return the favor and gift them one. Let them know you thought of them when you saw it because you knew they smoked and you thought they might like it. This might solve the problem without you having to really say anything plus it will make them feel special since you thought of them out of the blue!", "Put in convenient places the ashtrays that look like cups with an ash tray on the top and hole in the middle that can fit dozens of empty cigarette butts.", "If you can, go out and pick up butts when they can see you do it. And / or buy them an ashtray for their deck.", "If they're such nice people and you have this relationship why can't you just explain what is bothering you or get them an ash tray? It sounds like they've earned that courtesy.", "Let your landlord/condo association handle it.\n\nI had a roommate that smoked, and threw his cigarette butts underneath a small tree. (Every couple of weeks, he would pick them up and throw them away.) At one point, a strong wind was blowing, and one of the butts caught the mulch on fire and ended up catching the building facade on fire as well. Minor damage, but required two fire trucks to put everything out. (Probably did not require quite that much, but mulch can actually burn pretty deeply, so the fire fighters dumped hundreds of gallons of water in the mulch to be sure they got it all.)\n\nLuckily, this happened during the day when people were out and about. If it had happened in the evening, it could have burned the building down.\n\nAs it was, the landlord told him that he would be evicted if he did not properly dispose of his cigarette butts, and that he could be liable for any further damages if it happened again.\n\nA landlord has a vested interest in keeping the property looking good. If they are showing a potential renter around, seeing a bunch of cigarette butts in the grass might discourage a renter (especially one who has kids and/or is not a smoker as well). Additionally, while a cigarette butt is unlikely to start an outdoor fire, when you have enough being thrown indiscriminately, the chance increases, and no landlord or condo association is going to want to see an increase in the chances of fire.", "I had the same issue - I took an old can, filled it with rocks (to hold it down in wind), and wrote \"ashtray\" on a post-it under it and left it by their hang-out chair. Problem solved", "I brought it up with the landlord.\n\nI moved in Nov, and the spring thaw exposed a LOT of cigarette butts in the grass by my patio. Asked if the previous tenant in my unit was a smoker, because otherwise the guys upstairs were.\n\nNotice was placed under everyone's door that anyone found to be throwing cigarette butts off the balconies would be fined for the cleanup. That stopped the guys upstairs from just dropping them down.", "Have one of your kids say politely and as cute as they can, “Littering is bad”, until they change their ways", "Explain to them in passing that is illegal. Make it sound like you're more concerned for them. I've done this with my mother. \"Well I'm worried you'll get in trouble for ____\". Probably won't work since smokers don't really give a fuck, but no doubt it's illegal what they're doing.", "Buy them an ashtray, kindly say how youd like the conservation of the garden; dont be aggressive in anyway." ]

[ 13, 9, 4, 4, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "how to get the material on the ceiling of your car to stick back up. you know that soft material thats on the ceiling of your car and its beginning to fall off. anyone know of a way to get it to stick back up with out making it look like hell. thanks!", "how to get the material on the ceiling of your car to stick back up. you know that soft material thats on the ceiling of your car and its beginning to fall off. anyone know of a way to get it to stick back up with out making it look like hell. thanks!", "how to get the material on the ceiling of your car to stick back up. you know that soft material thats on the ceiling of your car and its beginning to fall off. anyone know of a way to get it to stick back up with out making it look like hell. thanks!", "how to get the material on the ceiling of your car to stick back up. you know that soft material thats on the ceiling of your car and its beginning to fall off. anyone know of a way to get it to stick back up with out making it look like hell. thanks!", "how to get the material on the ceiling of your car to stick back up. you know that soft material thats on the ceiling of your car and its beginning to fall off. anyone know of a way to get it to stick back up with out making it look like hell. thanks!" ]

[ "How about, cut a slit near the middle (or remove dome light, if possible), and use a spray adhesive thru the slit, in all directions. Then push the material back. Maybe put a big piece of foam against the headliner, held up with sticks until the adhesive sets. ", "There are spray adhesives for this. Cut very small holes in the center of the sagging area,insert the tube of the spray can,spray in all directions and press the material back.Keep pressing it until it stays. Repeat in other sagging areas.", "I tried a million things in my car and finally found what works! Get the iron on fabric bonding strips that come in a roll like [this](http://www.stuff4sewing.com/1-4-x20-yards-stitch-witchery-fusible-bonding-web-narrow-227.html?CAWELAID=858436991&gclid=CLSfgcC1kLACFYje4AodLmfSnw)\n\nJust put strips between the ceiling and the material and press the iron there for like 30 seconds (might want to put a thin towel under the iron to avoid burning the material). It is a little difficult to iron the ceiling but it worked like a charm. Just be careful to avoid having the boiling water drip onto your face while you are ironing upside down as it tends to do that.\n\nCheap. Effective. Easy.", "Only real way is to remove the whole backing piece, scrape the crap off of it, and then glue on new fabric.\n\nIt is a real pain in the ass.", "I honestly can't say there's anything a regular person can use that works. I've used the special 'screwy-tacks', adhesive spray, double sided tape, etc. None of it works for long, if at all. Especially if the foam padding is old/dry rotted. \nI guess it'd be worth digging around some professional automotive sites and see if there's a way to buy whatever they use.\nI think the best way would be to just replace the headliner from a junk yard. I did that with my old Trans Am." ]

[ 8, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "When you can't satisfy a yawn & find yourself yawning all day. What do you do? Seriously, I'm getting sick of yawning all day today. I've yawned like 35 times since I've woken up.\n\nOh, and I'm sorry to make all of you yawn...", "When you can't satisfy a yawn & find yourself yawning all day. What do you do? Seriously, I'm getting sick of yawning all day today. I've yawned like 35 times since I've woken up.\n\nOh, and I'm sorry to make all of you yawn..." ]

[ "If you're on anti-depressants, some will make you yawn, otherwise, yawning is a sign that you're not breathing properly/shallowly, so try some deep breathing techniques and make sure that you make your stomach expand as well when you inhale. Getting enough sleep helps too. ", "I know it's not ideal, but I find sipping on a Red Bull will get me going. By no means chugging, just a sip here and there gets me going again. That and if you just sip instead of chug you won't crash later." ]

[ 2, 0 ]

[ "How to cool down an apartment with no windows? My boyfriend and I live in a studio basement apartment with really small windows that are sort of underground so we prefer not to open them and we can’t fit an A/C. During the evening he usually cooks (we’re running low on “ordering out money”) which makes the apartment hotter. Even tips on what we can make to NOT turn the apartment into a sauna would be appreciated. We have a fan but that’s about it. Please help.\n\n", "How to cool down an apartment with no windows? My boyfriend and I live in a studio basement apartment with really small windows that are sort of underground so we prefer not to open them and we can’t fit an A/C. During the evening he usually cooks (we’re running low on “ordering out money”) which makes the apartment hotter. Even tips on what we can make to NOT turn the apartment into a sauna would be appreciated. We have a fan but that’s about it. Please help.\n\n", "How to cool down an apartment with no windows? My boyfriend and I live in a studio basement apartment with really small windows that are sort of underground so we prefer not to open them and we can’t fit an A/C. During the evening he usually cooks (we’re running low on “ordering out money”) which makes the apartment hotter. Even tips on what we can make to NOT turn the apartment into a sauna would be appreciated. We have a fan but that’s about it. Please help.\n\n" ]

[ "You could try to rig a portable unit into one of the windows? Depends what kind of windows you have though bc the exhaust vent can only be installed in certain types. \n\nSomething like this:\n\nhttps://www.walmart.com/ip/EdgeStar-Smallest-Footprint-10-000-BTU-Portable-Air-Conditioner-Onyx/52439646?wmlspartner=wlpa&selectedSellerId=1061&adid=22222222228040411341&wl0=&wl1=g&wl2=m&wl3=99307344754&wl4=pla-232367889394&wl5=1022362&wl6=&wl7=&wl8=&wl9=pla&wl10=112550007&wl11=online&wl12=52439646&wl13=&veh=sem", "The have standing units. They have the hot blow out the back into flexible duct. If you have an exhaust fan anywhere, you could rig the “hot side” to the exhaust fan. Depending if the exhaust goes outside or just into a drop ceiling. It would have to vent outside to be useful. ", "Ready? Cooler full of ice water and a fan. Boom.\n\nI wouldn't use an AC unit, they create a LOT of heat in the process that's hard to manage. If you could easily duct the heat out of the apartment that would make it easy, but it sounds like thats not a solution. \n\nGoogle homemade ac, there's a lot of great ideas." ]

[ 4, 2, 2 ]

[ "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?", "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?", "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?", "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?", "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?", "Preparing food for a whole week I want to start preparing meals on one day of the week, for the rest of the week. Any insight?" ]

[ "I have about 6 recipes of soups/stews that I *really* enjoy. I will usually cook a huge pot on the weekend, alongside a loaf of bread, and eat it for the week. Bonus, if I have more than I can consume, I will freeze the remainder as my \"emergency stock\" for when I have little time. If I get tired of the soup, I'll give myself a day midweek to prep something a little different, like a chicken, some pasta, or something else. Salads can last awhile as well. Also, if you like meat, prep some meat for carnitas. Good for the regular dish, sandwiches, or just eating straight.", "One of my favorite things is making scrambled eggs in muffin tins. Keep them in the fridge, heat em up in the microwave every morning on my way out the door and I've got an instant, inexpensive, healthy(ish) breakfast.", "My wife and I do meal preps. It helps to make sure we are eating fairly healthy. We stopped prepping for the *whole* week after about a month. We found that most of the dishes didn't taste nearly as good by the end of the week. Instead, we make a dish or two to last 2-3 days then make another dish to last the rest of the week. That just seems to work better. It also saves space in the fridge. ", "I do this for my lunch during the week. Although you may mind eating the same thing for 5 days in a row at lunch. If you don't mind, It helps if you have a set of identical bowls so you can put the same amount in each.", "Head over to /r/slowcooking for some ideas. You can prepare a huge batch of something and eat it for lunch or dinner during the week.\n\nA slow cooker is also a great mid-week idea. You just dump everything in and when you get home the meal is ready. This will give you something fresh as well, not having to nuke your dinner every night. \n\nWith the holidays coming up you be able to pick one up for nothing.", "Figure out how many meals you need in the week (around 21) and then come up with a number of recipes that can be frozen or stored in the fridge. One day a week make enough food for your desired number of servings and store everything." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Traveling For Work What’s an easy way to make sure your hotel rooms end up being clean? Also if I drive a lot, what’s the best way to make the most of it? Any other tips are welcome.", "Traveling For Work What’s an easy way to make sure your hotel rooms end up being clean? Also if I drive a lot, what’s the best way to make the most of it? Any other tips are welcome.", "Traveling For Work What’s an easy way to make sure your hotel rooms end up being clean? Also if I drive a lot, what’s the best way to make the most of it? Any other tips are welcome." ]

[ "I like to listen to those 6 hour long history podcasts when on long drives. Also, avoid roach motels.", "Do yourself the favor of choosing good hotels. Money spent at a budget hotel is money wasted because you do not know how well it's cleaned nor if people live there by the day/week. True story that we recently saved $50 by booking a cheap hotel & that hotel had a couple of hookers living there. We saw them as they were leaving to go to \"work\". 😂 Sometimes Johns get violent and I just don't want to hear that", "1.only wear your business clothes when working. change to/ wear casual the rest of the time. buy two pairs pants or slacks per jacket. get them off and hung up asap when day is done and before eating.\n2. do not fall into the trap of hanging in the bars after work. find something fun/learning/excercising/productive to spend your evenings.\n3. watch what you eat. it is too easy to overeat/overdrink on the old company card.\n4. at breakfast order a sandwich or two for lunch to bring with you. you wont have to stop and get something. \n5. ask for a tour of clients business. take a genuine interest in their people and practice remembering their names. everbody there is important, not just those you a dealing with directly.\n6. dont be a cheapskate. if your company gives you a set amount to spend and you can \"keep the rest for yourself\" dont be greedy. it doesnt take long for clients and other travelers you will meet to figure you out.\n\ngood luck, was out there many years" ]

[ 2, 2, 2 ]

[ "Best way to get a cheap flight to Europe (student or not) My boyfriend and I are trying to visit his family in Germany over the summer. I've been browsing travel sites and looking for student discounts, but I was wondering if the LPT community had any advice on how to get cheap flights. Any suggestions?", "Best way to get a cheap flight to Europe (student or not) My boyfriend and I are trying to visit his family in Germany over the summer. I've been browsing travel sites and looking for student discounts, but I was wondering if the LPT community had any advice on how to get cheap flights. Any suggestions?", "Best way to get a cheap flight to Europe (student or not) My boyfriend and I are trying to visit his family in Germany over the summer. I've been browsing travel sites and looking for student discounts, but I was wondering if the LPT community had any advice on how to get cheap flights. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "just let them know an family member died and you need to go to funeral. I get 75 % off and they never keep a record.\n", "Sign up for deal alerts from http://airfarewatchdog.com. I flew RT from MSY to LON for $500! Also sign up for mailings from every airline so you'll be notified of a sale (going from SEA to SF for less than $100 in a couple of months!)\n\nThe summer is going to be the most expensive time to fly, though. If you can pick a less touristy time of year you'll probably have better luck (though my flight to London was at the end of May). \n\nPS - check out Iceland Air. It can take a bit more fancy footwork if you're not flying or arriving at one of their cities, but they occasionally have REALLY cheap international flights. ", "Easyjet or Ryanair in advanced at funny leaving times. Or risk it for a biscuit and turn up at the airport on the day and you might be able to get last minute flights for 50p or like 30cent. The way this works is they are keen to fill empty seats on that route so you're doing them a favour! \n\nNote that if you are flying a long haul connection flight and ask at the flight desk they can sometimes upgrade you for free to first class if it isn't full. This has to be on the second leg after you've paid." ]

[ 7, 5, 2 ]

[ "Tangible ways to improve your posture I can't seem to get this right. I try sitting up for a few minutes and start slouching the moment I focus on something else.", "Tangible ways to improve your posture I can't seem to get this right. I try sitting up for a few minutes and start slouching the moment I focus on something else.", "Tangible ways to improve your posture I can't seem to get this right. I try sitting up for a few minutes and start slouching the moment I focus on something else." ]

[ "Yoga will stretch out the back a few centimeters and, if done a few times a week, will significantly tone muscle in the back making it easier (and for me, more comfortable) to sit up straight.", "Pull ups/chin ups, they are superb honestly. \n\nDo both wide & tight grip & make sure you have proper form.", "Anytime you are sitting on some sort of cushy chair/couch, put a pillow behind your lower back to help straighten out. This helped me alot." ]

[ 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed.", "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed.", "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed.", "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed.", "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed.", "How to defog your window when it's raining w/o air conditioning. Reason I'm asking is that whenever it is raining out, the windows in my car fog up like crazy, to the point where I can barely see out of them. It's extremely dangerous, but as I don't have any air conditioning in my car, there's nothing I can really do about it.\n\nI am going to a wedding tomorrow that is 3 hours away, and it's supposed to rain the entire way there and the entire way back, which means I'm pretty much screwed." ]

[ "Your window fogs when it's colder than the dew point of the surrounding air. You've basically got 4 options:\n\n1. Take water out of the air (air conditioning will do this if the fog is on the inside of the window).\n\n2. Warm the window (heater will do this).\n\n3. Physically remove the fog (rag will do this).\n\n4. Use a hydrophobic surface treatment, like rainex, which helps prevent water vapor from condensing on the window.", "Buy a chalkboard eraser or just use a rag. \nCrack open widows. Even if it's raining, this can help.", "Actually if your a smoker you can rub cigarette or pipe tobacco on the window. The oils will prevent fog buildup and are not thick enough to obscure the view. It's like the cheap man's fog-x.", "There's a product called 'fog-x'. It's made by the rain-x people. You can get it at auto parts stores. It's somewhat effective. Otherwise, like others have noted, put that defrost on heat.", "Spread shaving cream all over the inside of the window, then wipe it off. It should leave a fog resistant film that you will still be able to see through. I saw it on some life-hack show for a diy fog free mirror (but I haven't tried it myself).", "I've used dish soap in the past, it's a short term treatment, but will reduce any fogging significantly." ]

[ 5, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?", "How can I get rid of roaches? A couple months ago my cousin said his PS4 stopped working so I told him to bring it over and I'd check it out, tried different cables so I assumed it was dead and I would send it into sony. Stupid me, I never opened it up and checked it before sending, so when I did open it I saw all the dead roaches inside are what caused it to die.\n\nAt this point it was to late, my house is now infected from the PS4 and i see them literally everywhere. My mom cannot afford to pay for those people who cover your house and spray something in it, is their anything else we can do?" ]

[ "Clean. If you think your house is clean, it's not, it's filthy-- clean harder.\n\nClean your goddamn kitchen. No loose food debris, if your pets have left uneaten pet food out for a few hours, throw it away.\n\nVacuum carpets, mop tile floors and disinfect work surfaces. \n\nGrab some pesticide spray, spray along the wall-floor edges. \n\nGet some diatomaceous earth and throw it liberally around your home entrances-- around the doorways usually.\n\nAlso get some roach traps/roach motels, again place them alongside walls where they are likely to travel. \n\nYou can also make [home-made roach poison with baking soda](http://www.doityourself.com/stry/how-to-make-a-homemade-roach-killer). Hell you can even buy those bug bomb foggers for like $10-20.", "I've been seeing many people asking this...\n\nAll I could think of is... **HAVE ALL OF YOU FORGOTTEN ABOUT FUCKING INSECTICIDE SPRAYS?**\n\nMy house used to have daily visits by cockroaches. God-awful worse because I have katsaridaphobia (cockroach phobia). Bought an insecticide, sprayed all the areas of the house where they're usually found and likely to come to or hide at. Then, I re-spray the same spots before I sleep. They never bothered me ever again.", "Go down to your local highschool and get some kids from the smoke pit. Tell them \"If you can find it, you can smoke it.\" Should be sorted out in about an hour", "There's a roach killing gel by Combat that looks like a syringe. That is the best one. My mom's house was dirty and she didn't have any roaches because that stuff was so good. But keeping your apartment clean in combination with that works best. ", "So I don't know about getting rid of them altogether but we used to spray soapy water on them and areas they are commonly seen to keep them away. The soap sticks to their skin and kills them by not letting them breathe.", "Raid Max Bug Barrier is pretty awesome. I've been using it for several years and it really does last up to about a year.\n\nThis Spring I felt an infestation coming on as well. This was because I brought home a box of my business cards that I had left at someone's house with a horrible roach problem too. Also, I figure it was that time of year too especially with the seasons changing.\n\nMy problem was for the most part eliminated within a week.\n\nI do have cracks in the house though so when a roach finds it's way in, it'll get in.... But I always just discover its dead poisoned body because I spray along the cracks of my floor. ", "Get a job in a pawnshop. Youll get so used to them that they will bother you about as much as the flies on the African kids on late night tv. \n\nRoaches used to creep me out and I lived in a chemical fog for years to make sure I never saw one. Opened a pawnshop, and no amount of chemicals will eliminate them because people just keep bringing them in. We spray every week, and it keeps it to a minimum. But I dont even flinch anymore. I can keep selling, and step on one in a motion so smooth my customer doesnt notice. \n\nTwo years ago, I couldnt possibly step on one on hard floors. The sound would make me squirm like a six year old girl trying to get away from Jared. ", "Bugs only go where they can find food. You have to make all food inaccessible, and never put anything edible (to a bug) in the trash can.", "Sprinkle baking soda everywhere you think they hide or walk. I did that years ago in my apartment and it worked. " ]

[ 8, 6, 4, 3, 2, 1, 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "When to lower standards and settle and when to practice more self love and boundaries? I feel like as we get older there are two schools of thought on our love life partners, careers and jobs/pursuing our passions. Would love to get some of your insight on this especially as we get older in our 30s and beyond. It would be great if you could also layer in what age bracket you’re in for context!", "When to lower standards and settle and when to practice more self love and boundaries? I feel like as we get older there are two schools of thought on our love life partners, careers and jobs/pursuing our passions. Would love to get some of your insight on this especially as we get older in our 30s and beyond. It would be great if you could also layer in what age bracket you’re in for context!", "When to lower standards and settle and when to practice more self love and boundaries? I feel like as we get older there are two schools of thought on our love life partners, careers and jobs/pursuing our passions. Would love to get some of your insight on this especially as we get older in our 30s and beyond. It would be great if you could also layer in what age bracket you’re in for context!" ]

[ "I’m a touch over 50, been happily married (2nd time) for over 20 yrs.\nNEVER LOWER STANDARDS or SETTLE. If you know what you want in a partner, go for it (so long as you are objective!).\nAlways, always, practice self-love and appropriate boundaries. \nPersonally, my partner is my best friend. That doesn’t mean we aren’t 2 people with our own passions and (sometimes serious) quirks.", "Over 50. \n\nIn a job setting, settling is acceptable. If it affords you a life you like and decent working conditions, then you can still fully enjoy your free time and afford the things you want. If it is a soul sucking job, then not worth it.\n\nIn relationships though, NEVER settle. You are worth having someone that makes you happy and you make them happy.\n\n\nWas married 25 years. I had settled but was too young and inexperienced to know it. \n\nOver time, he became more and more controlling, and I began to be somebody I did not like. I am much happier now. Yes, regret is still there, for what could/should have been. But- it wasn't and never would. Only now do I see clearly the gaslighting, and it continues with the kids. They are thankfully smarter than me at their age, and are also very strong. But it came at great emotional cost.\n\nAnd so now I am currently single, with ZERO prospects. But that's ok. Still happier.\n\nIn the meantime, work on learning what those things are that truly make you happy. Pursue them, you will likely meet like minded people, and maybe \"the one\". If you never do, at least, you will have learned to be happy.", "Over 50. Never settle. Never been married, but 2 long term relationships, 2 kids. I didn't find out until long after the beginning that I had \"settled\" both times." ]

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[ "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. ", "How to deal with excess amount of dust collecting everyday in my basement bedroom. I'm living in the basement which is regularly cleaned, but the amount of dust that collects everywhere in a short amount of time is ridiculous. " ]

[ "20\" box fan, 20x20\" allergy filter and duct tape. Tape the filter to the intake side of the fan. This will help but you want to find how the dust is getting in and block that off. Do you live on a dirt road? How leaky are your windows and such? Does it feel drafty?\nThe fan filter loaded up so I checked the vacuum cleaner, broke belt and clogged hose.", "I had this problem ever since moved out of my parents house. My vacuum cleaner recently broke and while I was reading reviews and buying guides, I found a lot of people complaining that when they bought a new vacuum, they stopped needing to dust counter tops and shelves. It seems like older or cheaper vacuums might not have the filtration capability needed to keep fine dust from scattering as you're cleaning. Maybe that's your problem.", "the central air comment, get a thermostat installed so you can leave the fan on all the time. some do not have the option of fan only. or just turn the fan on all the time if you already can. \n\nand replacing the filter often. and a proper sized filter :) lol my brother has a filter in that is too small be the filter never gets full of dust! ", "How old is your mattress, do you have a mattress cover, and do you change your sheets/wash the cover regularly? Beds are the source of the vast majority of dust in a bedroom, and even most houses in their entirety. You spend 7-10 hours shedding skin every night. After a couple of years, it has to go somewhere.", "You live in a basement.\n\nDust is created by various things, mostly a collection of dirt and human skin flakes (I know I know, yuck). \n\nIf you are one person living in a basement but the dust is collecting around you, the dust is not being created by you. \n\nCheck the ventilation to your basement areas. Check the filters. Filters rarely get cleaned and basements even less so. If you find a filter that needs cleaning look up how to clean it before you remove it from where it lives. It'll make the process much easier for you and generally cleaner. Youtube is great for this.\n\nMore frequent cleaning, rugs to soak up the dust, magic dust-attracting things? That's all masking the symptoms here. Find out where that junk is coming from and deal with it. If it turns out you need to install a $50 filter on a vent somewhere it'll be a lot cheaper than all the cleaning stuff and the extra rug you might have bought otherwise, not to mention the time and dusty-living in the meantime.\n\nGood luck.", "This will sound ridiculous but I used to have a dust problem and then switched from spray to roll on deodorant and the problem largely went away. I could not believe the difference it made.", "My house is a dust magnet. I finally broke down and bought a Dyson with an extending hose. Just get after it daily. I read all the answers to see if anyone has a line on dust. ", "Leave a bedroom window open. Shower frequently and scrub with a brush or loofa. Move pets outside. Wash bedding often. Use a bag type vacuum cleaner with good bags, check it for air leaks, and change the bag when 1/2 full. Check filter on central air system.", "There is likely no hope. I have tried everything with the dust in my house but it seems it is here to stay. I have never lived in a place that has accumulated so much dust. I have painted every room, caulked every single gap in trim, bought a fancy Electrolux vacuum with Hepa filter, bought a new furnace and had all the ducts cleaned. Nothing helps. I have learned to just accept it. Dusting literally lasts less than a day. If I go a week without dusting there is enough to clearly write in.", "Get a lufa and use a moisturizing soap. I am not kidding. Most dust is human skin. Getting the stuff that is soon to fall off to come off in the shower, and keeping what is left moist, prevents it from falling off in your house. Also, use an air filter and open windows regularly.", "Old fashioned idea: get a thick rug that will trap the dust. It will make it easier to clean as you just vacuum or shake out the rug.\n\nAlternatively find the source of the dust. Dust settles when air is still, so a fan or open window might actually help.", "How is this a lpt request? You can literally google the answer and youll get plenty of answers, there isnt a secret to this, FILTER YOUR AIR AND DETERMINE WHERE THE DUST IS COMING FROM." ]

[ 20, 5, 4, 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 0, -2 ]

[ "Disagreeing with a friend Sometimes my friend will say something that I know is not true, but he says it so confidently that I struggle to say something against it, pls help", "Disagreeing with a friend Sometimes my friend will say something that I know is not true, but he says it so confidently that I struggle to say something against it, pls help", "Disagreeing with a friend Sometimes my friend will say something that I know is not true, but he says it so confidently that I struggle to say something against it, pls help", "Disagreeing with a friend Sometimes my friend will say something that I know is not true, but he says it so confidently that I struggle to say something against it, pls help" ]

[ "Choose your battles. Often, folks are deeply entrenched in what they believe. If it's not that big of a deal, let it slide. If you think it's important to counter, do so in a friendly way testing the waters. If you run into major resistance, there's a good chance that no matter what you say, you're not going to change their mind. If this happens often, consider new friends, or in the case of a someone like a family member, choose the relationship over being right. \"You can choose to be happy, or choose to be right.\" Often, I choose to be happy. It's up to you.", "Maybe say something like, \"hm, that's interesting- I've heard differently (I've heard this instead...). Would you mind giving me information where I can learn about that?\"\n\n", "Point out the facts, with references. If you are really afraid of losing a friend over differing opinions or pointing out a fact, you have no friend. \n\nDepends a lot on what you think is a fact that they think is not. Maple syrup makes good motor oil is pretty obviously wrong. Proper direction of toilet paper, not so much. ", "Ask him why he thinks that. NEVER ARGUE! Instead ask him something like \"how would you respond to...\" or \"oh cool so you're saying... but what about if...\" A summary on Dale Carnegie's book, How to win Friends and influence people, is a good place to look for more." ]

[ 8, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with.", "How to get rid of knots in your back. Right below my left shoulder blade is always tight and I always find myself trying to crack it or loosen it up. Any tips? I usually grab a chair and try to twist just to pop it but sometimes this just wont work.. I'll constantly try to adjust myself just to crack my back but when I can't it's possibly the most uncomfortable feeling I deal with." ]

[ "Get a lacrosse ball and lay on top of it, letting the ball dig into the tight spots. Be careful not to roll the ball down your actual spine, but anywhere else is fair game.", "Taking a daily magnesium helps body soreness immensely. Unlike some vitamins, you'll notice the difference the first day you take it.", "Try doing some [wall angels](http://www.thebulletproofathlete.com/%20/the-wall-angel/). They are amazing. You might not feel like it's doing anything until you stop and step away from the wall.", "Fixing my posture helped get rid of the knots in my back http://www.drbookspan.com/NeckPainArticle.html\n\nI fixed my upper back pain, then had lower back pain and used the stretches to get rid of that.", "Sit on the floor, feet together and knees apart. Now grab your feet and roll onto your back all the way and allow yourself to return-roll to your starting position. It's a safe way to work out some kinks.\n\nAnother good one for your wrists is to hold your hands together and interlock your fingers. Now roll your hands together in a circular motion a couple times in both directions. You should feel some pops.", "Muscle Relaxants and a hot shower. In Canada you can get wonderful muscle relaxants over the counter Robaxacet in particular works wonders for me and my wife.. ", "I used to have intense pain under my right shoulder blade. Sometimes it would hurt just to inhale. I went to the chiropractor and mentioned it. Turns out I had a rib that was slightly out of place. One little pop and it hasn't bothered me in years!", "I wake up with a tight right shoulder every morning(probably from my bed and I am a side sleeper). I found that if I stand with my feet about shoulder length apart and put my hands over my head (like a y) then slowly bend sideways (still facing forward) until I have stretched my left shoulder (bending right) and my right shoulder (bending left) it tends to get the kinks out. I found out this is also a yoga move. \n\nStretching regularly has helped me with my aches and pains.", "I did the tennis ball, actually put it in an old sock to reach and not drop. Did amazing things for me. I recently upgraded to the bodybackbuddy. There's also the theracane. These are tools specifically for self massage. Foam roller also helps. All of these things have improved my quality of life significantly.\n\nAlso, this yoga vid is pretty good for back/shoulder/neck pain\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DiHIs7_iMl8\n\nI also macgyvered a foam roller out of a broom handle and a used yoga mat. ", "Get a pilates foam roller and roll away. I would add a link to a video but my internet is acting stupid right now" ]

[ 10, 7, 6, 4, 3, 3, 3, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!", "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!", "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!", "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!", "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!", "I need a permanent solution to a small annoying issue I live in an old apartment that was built around 1915. The floors are original hardwood and in very good shape. However, I have one nail that sticks up about 1/4\" from the floorboard. I have nailed it down about 10 times and it keeps sticking up after a few days. I cannot do any drastic due to the fact that I rent. If this should be in another subreddit, please let me know. Thanks!" ]

[ "I just picture you hammering the nail into the floor, then your downstairs neighbor hammering it into their ceiling.\n\nI would place a heavy piece of furniture over it.", "Replace it with a screw. You may have to pull the nail out and take it to the hardware store to find a suitable screw.", "either remove it completely or nail it down and use a nail punch to nail it in further and seal with some wood filler to keep it from popping again.", "I had this problem before. I took a small round tupperware lid and taped it with packing tape onto the floor, covering the nail. Then throw a small rug over the floor and voila! No more stubbed/bleeding toes.", "Try this: pull nail out and stick a toothpick in the hole. Mark where the toothpick meets the floor. Pull toothpick out and cut it a little below where it meets the floor. Put the toothpick back in, hammer the nail back in. The extra wood that the toothpick provides should keep the nail from popping back out. \n\nHope this helps!", "first, try addressing the issue in the title so it grabs the attention of anyone that knows the subject rather than anyone bored enough to click everything." ]

[ 16, 7, 5, 2, 1, -1 ]

[ "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) ", "how to effectively get rid of pimples and keep them away for good basically in the title guys\n\nany help would be great\n\nand for note I do have oily skin (idk if that helps im just pointing it out) " ]

[ "Sleep on a clean cloth over your pillow every night or wash your pillowcase two or three times a week. If you're not doing that that, you're grinding bacteria, dead skin and oil into your face all night long.", "ok, put 2 caps full of raw apple cider vinegar in a tall glass of water and drink it. it won't taste the best, but you get use to it. ACV helps with skin conditions and you will see an improvement in a few days to a week. ", "For a long time I used daily face washes like clearasil or clean and clear and tried pretty much everything to get my acne to go away. But in the end most of these options only made my skin drier and more prone to acne. If your skin gets too dry the dead skin cells can clog your pores and cause you too break out. Dryness can also cause your face to produce more oil to combat it. Try not doing so much and it may help you. Get a more gentle face wash. Get a moisturizer that is light and isn't oil based. Moisturizing your face can help stop excess oil production. \n\nIf you have time to see a doctor ask him to prescribe you clindamycin. It's an antibiotic that can be applied topically and from personal experience i can tell you it works wonders. ", "What face wash are you using? Are you out in the sun often, and do you wear sunscreen? \n\nTypically a lot of the breakouts experienced with a thicker, oiler skin happen because when you use a face wash with chemical exfoliant AHAs or BHAs like salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide they strip the skin of all oils and bacteria, including the ones that are mean to be there. Your acid mantle is the balanced barrier function of your face. When you strip this completely your skin produces oil at a much higher rate and you end up with many blackhead and papules (those sore, red bumps before they come to a head) and pustules (pustules containing pus near the surface). Look for a cleanser that is creamy and maybe has a little lather, if you have oily skin. Natural ingredients are the way to go. Exfoliation is important with oily skin, but it is often overdone. Using an enzyme exfoliant like papaya and pineapple can work wonders, as it doesn't damage the living skin like beads or scrubs. Using a toner like witch hazel before moisturizing helps restore your skins natural pH, your acid mantle. \n\nI too have oily thick skin and have had bad acne. I recently started studying esthetics (skin care) and what I have learned has made a huge difference in my skins appearance. I was using a salicylic acid scrub every day and usually had at least two zits an Ive always had blackheads on my nose and forehead. I started only using the scrub twice a week, and using a gentler cleanser most days. I saw results in two weeks, I was surprised. It is important to remember if you're going to extract any blemishes, wash with antibacterial scrub before and after, and use an astringent like hitch hazel afterwards. And stop touching, that is my problem.\n\nI hope this helps you out :) \n\n", "i use Basis soap. About once a week i swab my face with hydrogen peroxide after i get out of the shower. i use a prescription topical gel called Cleocin a few times a week. i spot treat with Neosporin. ", "What worked for me was the regime on [acme.org](http://www.acne.org/regimen.html.) This was a long time ago and the site is a lot more commercialized now but the steps on the site are the exact same. All you need is a good face wash like Cetaphil and some generic zit creme with high Benzoil Perodxide.", "This might seem weird, but just do it.\n1. Get oatmeal, milk, and honey\n2. Get a little bowl or whatever and apply the oatmeal w/ a LITTLE bit of milk, and then add the honey.\n3. Mix it up and its suppose to be more sticky than wet.\n4. Get a shirt or towel and put it on your pillow.\n5. Ask someone to apply the mixture w/ a spoon or whatever on your face while you're laying down. Make sure they apply it everywhere on your face where the pimples are at (Do this before you go to sleep, yes youre ganna sleep with this \"mask\" on)\n6. In The morning when you wake up just simply wash it off or take a shower, youre ganna wake up with smooth skin, keep on repeating this EVERY night.", "Sorry for being obvious, but have you seen a dermatologist? There is a myriad of prescription drugs in different strengths and forms (creams, pills, etc.), topping out with Accutane, which is pretty much guaranteed to clear up your acne.", "Hold ice up to the pimple, and after about 10 minutes it will go away. Works for me, but I've only done it as soon as I've seen the pimple. Don't know if it will work if you wait for it to grow. Anybody know the science behind it?", "First simple things, get enough sleep, drink enough water, find ways to manage stress.\n\n*Try the Apple Cider Vinegar tip someone posted.\n\n*For a while, I was washing my face with a tiny drop of Oil of Olay Ultra Moisture body wash every shower and then putting a tiny bit of lotion afterward.\n\n*If you need a moisturizer, I've been using SkinMilk Facial Lotion for almost two years and I have slightly oily skin.\n\nI'm 26 and people still think I'm 18-20.", "My zits usually arise b/c old/dead skin blocks the pores underneath so I use one of those \"loofah\" gloves to help clear away the dead skin. ", "It varies so much from person to person, so I'll tell you what happened for me. I tried creams and cleaners like clear ask etc, and they didn't help. I was then prescribed an antibiotic cream, which didn't help. I then went in to 2 courses of tetracycline - an antibiotic - which helped very slightly but not enough. Finally I was prescribed something called roaccutane (or accutane in the US), which, after 2 6 month courses (and absolute hell in terms of hideously dry - almost scaly skin - and erratic moodswings) I was clear of acne forever! But this does of course vary from person to person!", "I thought I had acne. I didnt really. I have very sensitive skin. So I basically cut out all of the irritants I could. The most common ingredient in face wash (except water) is sodium laureth sulfate (SLS), started using a SLS-free foaming cleanser for sensitive skin and things cleared up. If I use SLS on my face, I guarantee you, the next day I will have a pimple. I also stopped washing my face twice a day. Now I wash it at night to remove makeup, and in the morning I just wash with water in the shower. I spend a lot f time reading labels, I've cut out all citrus oils, parabens, and It's narrowed down what I will use significantly. I think ", "I only wash my face with dove white followed by a light rub of lotion. My acne is non existent now. (Tip- A well moisturized face will look younger longer) ", "I never had bad acne, except for a few weeks here and there, but always struggled with several pimples at once. I stopped using harsh scrubs and chemicals and washed instead with warm water in my hands. No crazy scrubbing unless dead skin is visible. \n\nI also use a Neutrogena for men lotion with spf 5 every time i get out of the shower. Using regular lotion gives me a zit within 24 hours." ]

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[ "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure.", "How to get my schoolwork done. I'm a Senior in high school and I'm not doing well. I've always been told I'm smart and I know I'm bright, but I don't have the will to spend time on my schoolwork. I've been diagnosed with depression so that might have something to do with it, but I need to get this shit figured out before college or else I fear that I'm going to be a failure." ]

[ "To me it's always about small victories. \n\nOh, you got all of your study material together and are aware of what exactly you need to do and what supplies and materials you need to complete it? Well, then, you deserve a slice of pizza. \n\nOh, now you've done an hour of work and realized what is expected of you and how you could exceed it? That sounds like another slice of pizza to me. \n\nAnd, what? Another hour you've put in towards the work? Do I hear pizza?\n\nOh, what? Too full from pizza? Take a concerted break from study. Go for a walk, play a video game, chase the neighbors cat, summon the devil, etc. \n\nTo me it's always been about small movements towards the end goal and appreciating not only the end result, but the small actions you've put towards that victory. I find the best way to go easy on yourself is to take it in manageable bites. Never forget though that your brain does need time to revamp, so an occasional longer break is not a bad thing, AS LONG AS YOU GET BACK TO WORK!\n\n-Best of luck!\n\n", "I am a third year student in University. I was diagnosed with ADHD, depression and anxiety disorders in my first year. With the right psychologist and proper medication, I am able to focus better than ever. The depression makes it hard to be motivated sometimes, but when that happens, you can take a break for your mental health, but make note of what works for you. If you focus best in silence, go to a silent floor library. If you work best with background noise, go to a coffee shop alone so you won't be distracted by friends. When it comes to school, the key to success, in my opinion, is studying what you genuinely want to study. Don't choose your classes based on what friends classes are, or what your parents expect you to pursue. I promise that studying will become ALOT easier once it's about something you care about. It won't feel like a burden. Good luck OP, I believe in you. ", "I always study around other people. Not necessarily in a loud environment, but so that I'm not tempted to get... distracted.", "Go to a Starbucks or some other coffee shop and sit so your laptop* screen faces the room. It might make you think that others are watching and will stop procrastination.\n\n*Replace laptop with papers, book, etc. ", "Turn off your phone, go to a coffee shop/library, resist facebook/reddit, and GET SHIT DONE. After an assignment/ significant milestone, reward yourself with a treat. \n\nI'm in grad school and I do this 3-4 times a week. Now I'm a semester away from graduating. Hope it can help you!", "My father taught me to study and we were both successful academically. I've recently taught our technique to my fiance and he just finished a one year course with straight A's.\n\n1. Always play Mozart. Always. \n2. NO distractions. Don't try to study with friends/family in the room unless they are willing to be silent. \n3. Take notes as you read. If you can write in the book, do it. If you can photocopy or print pages so that you can write on them, do it. Highlight interesting ideas. \n4. If you are writing, make an outline before you write anything. I always recommend a bubble map. As a writing tutor I noticed that the number one problem students had was lack of organization in their essays. \n5. Don't let yourself stress about the finished product. If you are thinking about the result, you aren't thinking about the material. Think of study time as a time that you are focusing your brain on the material at hand only. If you are thinking about something else, get up and get a drink of water and come back to it.\n6. Get your vision checked. \n7. Always get a good night's sleep if you have some important mental work to do the next day. Eat breakfast on days before tests. \n\nAlways sleep, always play Mozart and always take notes. ", "I had a similar issue in high school; especially my junior year which is supposedly the end all be all for college. I was recommended to a social worker at my high school because of the sudden lack of effort that I could not give good reason for. I was lucky to have ended up getting to the university I wanted despite almost failing a class that year. Now that I'm better, I study (my job requires continual knowledge improvement) like a champ and am actually better than many of my peers who were always \"A\" students. \n\nA lot of the posts above mention going to a coffee shop and just sitting there and getting work done. This is a popular strategy for the aforementioned \"A\" students who didn't have the motivation issues we have had. The social worker I had a few sessions with also had the \"small victories - small rewards\" challenge as her premier solution to my problem. None of this got me going. It's a depressing cycle too. Set goals for small victories then repeatedly fail them.\n\nObviously, part of getting better was just growing out of it. (Being a teenager sucks in many ways to include hormonally despite your intelligence). However, what I also did was find some sort of thing that would finally motivate me to perform to what I perceive is the standard I should have. \n\nWhat worked for me was studying and working hard enough so that I could effectively participate in group study. Have you tried getting together with a two or three classmates and setting up group study to hold you accountable? Remember, don't go to big with the group or it will turn into a hangout sesh. Building from that, I started to work hard enough so that I could help other people that were struggling. Is there anyone else in your classes feeling similarly? Maybe your goal can be to help them? Don't do one on one studying with them if you're not ready though, you might just not study and be distracted by talking about your similar situation. Maybe include them in the first group. Finally, I was able to transition to studying for me, to keep up the same standard that I set with previous methods. \n\nYour motivators do not have to be these; find what works for you. The goal is to start working hard because you deserve. Never rely on doing it for someone else because as soon as that person fails you, you have a reason to quit. You never have a reason to quit on yourself. You only get this time of free education with plenty of time to seek your own hobbies once. I hope you have the opportunity to take full advantage of it.\n\nGood luck! ", "I can totally relate! I like to race the clock to motivate myself. When I sigh and want to turn around and crawl in bed, I look at the time and think, \"I'll do this with gusto for 10 more minutes until 3:52 and then stop.\" And usually forcing myself to stay focused for a little bit helps me get in the homework mode. \n\nIf all fails and my mind is elsewhere, I will shower or go sit outside with my cat(I try not to go on time wasting websites because then it's 1am before I know it) and eventually I wander back to my studies and get it done. Also checking my grades daily scares me into being productive sometimes so you can try that too!\n\nMost of all I need my music on and preferably no pants on to be truly productive. Figure out what makes you comfortable and make sure you have that box checked before you start. \n\nAnother last resort thing, if you're super behind, is just telling yourself to suck it up and do it anyway. I would never say that to someone else, but sometimes I have to cajole myself into productivity. Thinking things like, you can't give up now grades are almost out! Or, if I get a bad grade do I really want to know it's because I didn't stop scrolling Reddit?\n\nHope that helps my friend, Good luck!", "Treat school work like a job. Schedule time to do it and then go to the library (where there isn't much to do but get your work done) and then get it done. ", "Plan out you day. Find out what causes the depression and use tools.such as family and friends to overcome if ", "I graduated high school with a GPA of 2.7 and received a perfect score on my ACT exam when I was a senior. My guidance counselor looked at my GPA and always told me that I'm smarter than that. The thing was that I didn't care about schoolwork AT ALL and felt it was pointless to prove to someone else that I knew the material. I went on to college, and did better there because I had to pay for it. I felt no repercussions during high school, but in college it was painfully different. I didn't try to motivate myself until halfway thru my freshman year in college, and so I'll give you some things that managed to work for me.\n\nRewards - This was a huge thing, and is the highest comment here. Pick a task, and reward yourself for doing. Let's say every 15 minutes of schoolwork is turned into 5 minutes of gaming. I am an avid gamer, and decided internally that I can only do a certain amount of gaming for a certain amount of schoolwork. I also would urge you to get your parents involved with rewarding you for good work if your parents would be willing. My mother just yelled at me a lot, and negative reinforcement doesn't help. If your mother/father is willing to do positive reinforcement via rewards for work, then you're likely going to be able to motivate yourself more.\n\nScheduled Tasks and Breaks - Get out a calendar and notch out time for your schoolwork along with breaks for it. You'll know when is a good time for you (afternoon, early evening, late evening, etc.), but you need to make sure you schedule it in. Set reminders for yourself. Set increments of time aside (5-15 minutes) of dedicated work alongside of breaks. You won't get anywhere if you say to yourself that you're going to do nothing but schoolwork until it's completed. Make sure to take breaks.\n\nDiet - Some foods are going to give you better motivation than other foods. Things that are high in sugar content (processed food, candy, fast food, etc.) are going to zap your motivation very easily. If your family typically hands you food and you eat it, ask them to buy you more fruits. Fruits are great to making you feel better, and if you feel better you'll likely be more motivated to do the work. I changed my diet during college, and I just felt great by cutting out sugar. I went full vegetarian and I feel so much different now than I did when I was a teen. You'd be surprised how much sugar you're likely consuming, and sugar zaps your motivation in a harsh way.\n\nI wish you luck, and encourage you to continue to ask for more advice if these kinds of things don't manage to help you.", "I got really into progressive metal and avant-garde music. I find them great for studying or working on homework. Get some headphones, find a table with a chair that's not too comfortable and listen. Here's some of my favorites: Pelican, Isis (the band, obviously), A Silver Mt. Zion, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, 65daysofstatic... I could probably think of more. But, listening to an entire album makes the time fly and I get into a workflow that can't be stopped. Plus, when you get to college and name-drop Godspeed You! Black Emperor, people will think you're so super cool.", "Get a shitty job and seeing the people that have been there forever will motivate you to get an education and make something of yourself. Stop selling yourself short. ", "Find an area and where you can work and only work. For me, I would try the school library after school. I did this for my senior year in high school and got a lot done. For me home is where I relax and school is where I do work. It doesn't have to be the school library, just a place to do work. ", "Depression is hard. I came out of school with almost no qualifications because of mental illness. This is probably not a good idea for you as you're a senior but a life changing experience for me was working in hospitality for a year; I was so accountable that I ended up only having a few unplanned days off out of the whole year, and it made me realise that no matter how bad things got for me I can force myself to at least turn up.\n\nSince that approach is certainly not for everyone maybe try making yourself accountable to one understanding person? Even if it's a friend rather than an adult you could tell them what work you have to do when you get home, try to do it, and then send them photos showing you've done it. A friend would be good for this because generally they'll want to help you, but won't be angry if you struggle sometimes. \n\nAlso, I know it doesn't fix things necessarily, but there is definitely merit in prioritizing looking after yourself; healthy food and small amounts of regular exercise has a knock on effect and can help to relieve depression although not always.\n\nGood luck, and please remember that no matter what happens this year, you are not a failure (although schooling systems tend to push that narrative on people). " ]

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[ "How to not feel competitive when a friend starts to like the same things as me? (Favorite bands, books, movies etc.) ", "How to not feel competitive when a friend starts to like the same things as me? (Favorite bands, books, movies etc.) ", "How to not feel competitive when a friend starts to like the same things as me? (Favorite bands, books, movies etc.) ", "How to not feel competitive when a friend starts to like the same things as me? (Favorite bands, books, movies etc.) ", "How to not feel competitive when a friend starts to like the same things as me? (Favorite bands, books, movies etc.) " ]

[ "Imitation is the most sincere form of flattery, they say. Maybe it'll be something that brings the two of you together? I'd be somewhat excited about the prospect of someone to collaborate with. That said, I have a twin and I'd get mad when she would do this. For her, I took comfort in knowing her interest wouldn't last long unless it was something she truly liked or was good at. \n", "Tone the hormones down and just appretiate what the other person contributes. Or ditch that buddy for being a copycat. Whatever works.", "I feel like it's a matter of identity. If you hold something dearly as an integral part of who you are, it might feel like your friend is invading or stealing your identity.\nFor me, I had to deal with how important of a role recognition plays. If I didn't care about having others see me as \"the person who likes or does X\", then it shouldn't matter if someone else likes or does the same thing. It helped me when I made the thing in question more personal, and stopped caring if others viewed it as a defining characteristic for me.", "**TL;DR: Observe their reaction.**\n\nIt's hard to change or control how you *feel*, but it's possible to change or control what you do about how you feel. That's the key. \n\nWatch your friend to see their reaction if you do bring up a competitive comment on the shared interest. \n\nDo they look like they want to ask you \"why are you being an asshole?\"\n\nDo they start to get into debating the plusses and minuses with you as if they enjoy it?\n\nDo they shut up or change the subject?\n\nThen, if it's MUTUALLY fun, go ahead and feel and even act competitive. If it's not, either control your reactions, or run the risk of reducing the quality of the friendship.", "Kick their ass! JK Idk, I kind of enjoy the fact that my friends and I enjoy the same things. Gives us more th ings to do together. Look at it as a positive instead of a negative." ]

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[ "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?", "What to do when you find yourself around people who are more educated, cultured, etc? I frequently find myself in this situation. I'm a good problem solver, functionally intelligent and confident about that, but I'm not well read and not very cultured.\n\nI know I need to read more, experience more, but is there a way to keep up without actually being in the loop? As opposed to just sitting there not having anything to contribute?" ]

[ "In terms of keeping up, it depends on the subject. For example, if they know more about politics then you, you can just check the headlines of a few major sources each day so at least you have a loose understanding of what's happening, enough that you don't feel lost if it comes up in conversation.\n\nWhen it comes to talking to people that are far more knowledgeable about a subject though, rather than try to fake it, I just try to keep the conversation focused on them. I'll ask questions about the subject or their experience and where appropriate offer what I think and ask if they believe that's right. My experience is that typically people that are knowledgeable about something are interested in sharing that knowledge, so they'll be happy to engage in a conversation where they're doing a lot of the heavy lifting.\n\nThe exception is if you're talking about something that delves into the field that they work in as some people want to just leave that behind when they're off the clock. In that case though, it's really a non-issue because you can just talk about something outside of their field where you might be as knowledgeable as them.", "Two tricks that work wonders:\n\nFirst, ask questions about said topic, specifically the persons opinion and reason for said opinion about the topic. People love explaining things, especially their thoughts and opinions on topics they are passionate about.\n\nSecond, be honest about you're ignorance. Don't pretend you know something you don't. There's nothing wrong with saying \"To be honest, I don't really know that much about (insert topic), but I've always been curious about it. Where do you think is a good place to start learning more about it?\" People will respect you more for it.", "Be inquisitive. If you are genuinely interested in what someone is talking about, ask them to elaborate.\n\n\"Hey, I'm not familiar with that artist/author/musician. What is their best work?\"\n\nIf it just sounds like they are spewing nonsense, or you are completely disinterested, nod politely and easily forget what they said.", "Work on interview skills, meaning ask them questions, listen to what they say, direct the conversation. ", "Keep the other people talking, especially if it gives them a chance to show off their own knowledge. People love to talk about themselves and their specialised areas of knowledge/ research /expertise, and are flattered by your interest.", "If you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. Ask questions and take the opportunity to learn!", "I find myself in similar conversations. Rather than voicing my opinion I listen to try and understand what is really being discussed. Once I think I have a grasp on the conversation I ask specific questions that relate directly to the subject. I'm very good at asking questions that lead to a deeper discussion, which can also lead to questions that may or may not be able to be answered.\nMost of the time I just listen, no one will be to judge your intelligence if you don't give them a reason to. ", "Don't fake it. If you don't have anything to add, ask sincere questions. If you have to, admit that you don't know much about the subject. If the people around are you decent, they will respect you for asking and be impressed by your willingness to learn." ]

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[ "How do I ask for a raise? I've been working for the same company for almost five years and make less than $8.00. I only work part time (20 hours a week), however, I still handle the same amount of work as the full time guys (I'm still in school, they aren't). \n\nI feel like I should be making more money, and I know the full time guys get paid AT LEAST $7 more per hour than I do. How do I ask for a raise in this situation?", "How do I ask for a raise? I've been working for the same company for almost five years and make less than $8.00. I only work part time (20 hours a week), however, I still handle the same amount of work as the full time guys (I'm still in school, they aren't). \n\nI feel like I should be making more money, and I know the full time guys get paid AT LEAST $7 more per hour than I do. How do I ask for a raise in this situation?", "How do I ask for a raise? I've been working for the same company for almost five years and make less than $8.00. I only work part time (20 hours a week), however, I still handle the same amount of work as the full time guys (I'm still in school, they aren't). \n\nI feel like I should be making more money, and I know the full time guys get paid AT LEAST $7 more per hour than I do. How do I ask for a raise in this situation?", "How do I ask for a raise? I've been working for the same company for almost five years and make less than $8.00. I only work part time (20 hours a week), however, I still handle the same amount of work as the full time guys (I'm still in school, they aren't). \n\nI feel like I should be making more money, and I know the full time guys get paid AT LEAST $7 more per hour than I do. How do I ask for a raise in this situation?" ]

[ "The most professional way I've ever asked with good results was to ask for a meeting with the people who can make it happen. Say you want to review your performance and discuss a few things. \n\nIn the meeting, let them tell you what they like about you, and what things they'd like to see you work on. Then you can agree to work towards their goals, but in exchange for a raise. Basically, you ask them, \"What things can I work on or improve or become a part of over the next (some amount of time, let's say 6 weeks) that would make my time worth X dollars an hour?\" \n\nThis way you make them define the goals. Take notes at your meeting too. Then in 6 weeks, or whenever, you can approach them again and have a really strong case for deserving a raise by their own stated standards.\n\nKind of a jumbled stream of thought post, but hopefully you get the idea. ", "Before you 'ask' for a raise, make sure you can list the accomplishments that you've made over the past year/6 months and also try to relate that into some tangible cost savings and/or profit earned for the company. Show them that you are productive, that you can (and do!) both make them money and help them reduce operating costs. Make a list. Check it twice. The better the list and the better you're prepared to talk about your list on a line-item basis, the better your chance of getting the raise that you're asking for.\n\nThen, when you've got your list together, request a meeting with the powers that be. Once you get that meeting, *don't ask for a raise*. Tell them you *want a raise* and you'd like to give the reasons why. Then present your list verbally, don't merely hand it to them. Once you've gone over your list, then provide it to them so they can scrutinize and ask questions.\n\nGood luck!", "http://www.primermagazine.com/2013/learn/how-to-negotiate-your-job-offer-from-harvard-business-school-professor-deepak-malhotra-video", "Buddy.... if you've been working for almost 5 years at a company and make less than 8 bucks an hour, tell them to fuck off as they are cheap ass jews that will never pay you what your worth anyway. Find a new job." ]

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[ "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?", "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?", "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?", "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?", "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?", "How to carry business cards around. I've tried five different business card holders. Two were metal, and every time I took a step you could hear the cards rattling around inside. Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nI've tried all the top-rated ones on Amazon and experienced these problems.\n\nWhat's a way to carry business cards around that doesn't destroy them? Are there better products out there, or would things like simple binder clips be effective at all without destroying the cards?" ]

[ "If you still have your metal ones try putting a piece of thin felt (like you'd stick to the chair legs to prevent scratching wood floors) onto one or both sides.\n\nThat way you get the protection of metal with sound dampening. Other soft material could work too. Good luck friend!", "I use [mini-business cards](http://moo.com/us/products/minicards.html), which are half the size of normal ones. They are thin and very sleek looking. The company I order them form also offers [a case for them](http://moo.com/us/accessories/moo-minicard-holder.html) that I always use. Due to the small size and style of the case, I'm able to pop a card out instantly with one hand and make it look like a card just appeared in my hand in front of the desired person.\n\nI actually carry 3 different business cards on me. I'm an indie game developer so one set of cards is for my game, another set is for myself, and the third set are key cards with Steam keys that I give our to media (or just people I like). I color code the cases so I know which is which and am able to keep all three in my pocket without them taking up much room.", "I carry about 5-10 in my wallet, a big stack in a small pocket in my work bag, a stack on my bar for when people are over, a larger stack rubber banded in my glove box. I use the stack in my glove box to do refills for the most part. ", "> Three were leather or cloth, and after sitting in my pocket for a week, the cards inside were stained and destroyed.\n\nThis is the bit I don't get. Do your pockets tend to get (I'm struggling here to be delicate) overly moist? I've carried leather card holders for years and never had a problem. I do find that some cheap leathers are not dyed well and the colors can bleed when wet. Natural leather with a little leather conditioner or oil has a classic look and can withstand anything short of an embarrassing accident. \n\nIf for some reason you can't avoid tight, damp pants pockets just move it to a looser outside pocket like shirt or jacket. ", "This may sound a little silly, but I just keep a stack of about 10 or 15 cards into my front left pocket. I buy big enough batches of them so that it's not expensive to damage a few. (5,000 cards for $100 = $.02/card.) Thus, each \"pocketful\" costs about a quarter.\n\nThey don't rattle, they stay in the same place due to friction, and I always have them. Also, unlike a business card case, they don't actually take up any more space than the business cards themselves because, well, they are just a stack of business cards.\n\nSome of them will be ruined, of course. Some get folded, wrinkled, or torn, and occasionally they do get a little damp from sweat. However, most of them stay just fine, sandwiched in between the outer layers that protect them, and they're so cheap that the damaged ones don't matter. Note: if you were having any issues with it running, you need to have the printed somewhere else. Look into a good source for what is called offset-printed cards, rather than having them laser or inkjet printed. I recommend [Overnight Prints](http://www.OvernightPrints.com/).\n\nIt's pretty convenient, and doesn't have the drawbacks of an actual case. It may sound like an inelegant solution, but it works quite well. Note that it does not have the same polished look and appeal of an actual case, however, so you may wish to consider your audience when deciding what to carry on a given day. If you wish to cover your bases, carry both: a small stack of cards in your pocket for easy access, and another stack of cards in the case, contained in your jacket, briefcase, backpack, etc.", "I carry a stack in the top outside pocket of my suit (where the handkerchief would go), and I have a metal card holder for when I'm not wearing the suit. I fill it well, so there's no rattling." ]

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[ "A non-partisan website where I can put in my address and see a breakdown of all the races I will be voting in. I just moved, got my updated voter registration in, and want to get up to speed about all the elections from local to state to federal that I am eligible to vote in. If it has breakdowns on their positions, that would be awesome. But I'd be happy if it were just a list of seat + candidates on the ballot.\n\nThanks!", "A non-partisan website where I can put in my address and see a breakdown of all the races I will be voting in. I just moved, got my updated voter registration in, and want to get up to speed about all the elections from local to state to federal that I am eligible to vote in. If it has breakdowns on their positions, that would be awesome. But I'd be happy if it were just a list of seat + candidates on the ballot.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "http://ballotpedia.org/Main_Page\n\nBallotpedia is sponsored by the Lucy Burns Institute, a nonpartisan and nonprofit organization headquartered in Madison, Wisconsin. The Lucy Burns Institute is funded entirely by private contributions, and does not receive government funding. Ballotpedia's sister site is Judgepedia, an online encyclopedia of American courts and judges.\n\n", "If you live in Michigan, this will help you: https://webapps.sos.state.mi.us/mivote/ \n \nIf you don't, then see if you can find something similar in your state. " ]

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[ "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. ", "I work from home and have trouble getting tasks done and staying focused in the afternoon after lunch. " ]

[ "Do all your high priority tasks in the mornings. Take breaks in between tasks when needed. Close social media applications.", "Physical activity helps. Walk or jog around. Do stretches or aerobics. Take a few minutes during your break to get blood flowing in your body.", "Get out a lunch for a walk if you can. Sometimes I even just drive and listen to podcasts. Timers really help me to stay focused at home also. Ill set one for an hour and stay on task until it’s up.", "Eat light and nap. I started noticing before covid work at home that I was dense in the afternoons but on highly busy days where I had to skip lunch that space out didnt happen. I started eating lunch at my desk while working then taking a 20 minute lay down in my car in the underground parking garage. It changed everything! I would have like a whole new day worth of brain power - a new morning. Since covid made me move to working at home, I at first stopped that ritual and then noticed how foggy I was after eating lunch... so started it again. Just do not go longer than 20ish minutes. For superbonus, slam a coffee right beforehand as caffeine takes about 20 minutes to take effect and works better on a freshly awakened brain.", "Sounds like the \\`ITIS\\` (food coma/carb coma)\n\nWhen you eat a mid day meal and your blood sugar spikes and you get drowsy.\n\nHappens to me all the time, especially when I have white/Italian bread with a meal.", "Set a timer! Decide on, say, ten minutes of scrolling and then five minutes of dedicated work. Give yourself the freedom to relax, but then commit to staying focused during your 'work' time. Just keep resetting the timer! I get so much done this way!!", "I work from home and do 80% of my work before breakfast, the rest of the day I just use to answer emails and make phone calls.", "Eat a smaller or less fat lunch. I get food coma sometimes so things like burger/fries would make me lazy and sluggish.\nStart earlier, have snacks if you get hungry, do most of your work first before lunch, have lunch, then work for 1-2 more hours doing easy stuff, call it a day" ]

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[ "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7.", "How to keep your house cool Its hot and I would love some tips on keeping your house cool besides running the ac 24/7." ]

[ "I would say your best bet is to make sure the house is properly insulated and make sure there isn't any sources of heat.\n\nKeep the window shades down and make sure all doors leading to rooms not in use are closed.", "The best way is to close all blinds, block all light, have light colored paint inside and out. Light colored shingles help too. Have good insulation. Close all doors to rooms that don't need to be cooled, and close vents too. You can run air during the days, and open the windows and blinds when it starts to cool off at night.\n\nThis is what I do, I live in a tiny apartment, where (I swear) the heater is broken and runs 24/7. We have an air conditioner in the living room, close all doors/vents, and then open windows at night, and use window fans. Also, if we open the door to the hallway, it works as a great fan to suck in a bunch of air. But then we get yelled at... Anyway, the only time the A.C. runs is when we cook, or it gets humid.\n\nSomeone was saying you can buy some freezees ( colored liquid, you freeze and eat, they are in long clear plastic tubes) tape them to your fan. Or just use a wet towel. Make sure to use cold water. That's about all the advice I have. ", "I got a swamp cooler around a month ago (maybe more), and I can't recommend it enough. Yea, it was something like $700, but I haven't turned on the AC since I've gotten it, saving all that money, which in prior years easily doubled my electric bill during the hotter time of year. It is an investment, but it's worth it 100%. \n\nI live in the desert of California, where this heat wave is going on, and the hottest it's gotten in my house was 75 degrees, compared to it peaking at 111 outside. ", "Keep the windows open at night and in the early morning. when the sun get's stronger close the windows and blinds. The point is to trap the cooler air in and keep it cool. Run a fan for circulation so the air does not stagnate. Try not to heat any food up. If you have to shower just use cold water." ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "How to remove Chapstick from clothes I am hoping there's a way to remove Chapstick from clothing. I, for probably the 3rd time, accidentally let one go through the wash with my dress clothes and now I've got an oily stain on them. I'm hoping I won't have to throw them all out (again). Any suggestions?", "How to remove Chapstick from clothes I am hoping there's a way to remove Chapstick from clothing. I, for probably the 3rd time, accidentally let one go through the wash with my dress clothes and now I've got an oily stain on them. I'm hoping I won't have to throw them all out (again). Any suggestions?", "How to remove Chapstick from clothes I am hoping there's a way to remove Chapstick from clothing. I, for probably the 3rd time, accidentally let one go through the wash with my dress clothes and now I've got an oily stain on them. I'm hoping I won't have to throw them all out (again). Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Get thee to the candle section of a craft store and purchase some wax remover. Clear stuff, dissolves waxes and petroleum. Only needs a 5 minute soak and then wash ASAP in the hottest water the fabric will take.\n\nAs a lifelong pocket chap-stick-er, this stuff has saved my clothes countless times.", "Try a spray called \"Greased Lightening.\" Kind of hit or miss finding it in stores depending on your region. If you're not in that big of a rush, Amazon has it. You might have luck spraying it with aerosol hair spray and scrubbing it before the spray dries. ", "Dawn dish soap can get these stains out. Just apply it directly to the stain and throw in the wash. Same goes for grease stains..." ]

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[ "How to write an effective essay in college. Backstory: I have never been a good writer, elementary, middle and high school. Whenever I write it feels like I cannot get my thought accross on the paper. In all other subjects I am fine. Even before college, my essays were graded poorly compared to other people in the class. I got a 3 in AP Language if that is relevant at all.\n\nCurrent: I am in my freshman year of college and I am seemingly hopeless at writing an effective essay. The last two essays I have submitted were the hardest I have ever worked on essays, yet it seems all in vain. I've gotten low 80% on each of these essays, the teacher says I did not fully analyze the text or talk about an issue. I'm was never an all A student in high school, it is just very frustrating to do poorly even though I try so hard. I feel like there is some sort of mental block that makes me unable to write well, even when I think I am. I read example essays to guide myself, however each time I can't articulate myself clear enough in order to get my point across; I feel like I am constantly on the verge of explaining the thought I have in my head yet never quite explaining clearly.\n\nMy main track right now is Engineering and doing bad on these essays certainly does not help. I still have three essays left in the semester if anyone has an idea on how I can improve my writing. I don't want to link anything I've written, even though I know that would help everyone a lot, for fear of doxing. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n", "How to write an effective essay in college. Backstory: I have never been a good writer, elementary, middle and high school. Whenever I write it feels like I cannot get my thought accross on the paper. In all other subjects I am fine. Even before college, my essays were graded poorly compared to other people in the class. I got a 3 in AP Language if that is relevant at all.\n\nCurrent: I am in my freshman year of college and I am seemingly hopeless at writing an effective essay. The last two essays I have submitted were the hardest I have ever worked on essays, yet it seems all in vain. I've gotten low 80% on each of these essays, the teacher says I did not fully analyze the text or talk about an issue. I'm was never an all A student in high school, it is just very frustrating to do poorly even though I try so hard. I feel like there is some sort of mental block that makes me unable to write well, even when I think I am. I read example essays to guide myself, however each time I can't articulate myself clear enough in order to get my point across; I feel like I am constantly on the verge of explaining the thought I have in my head yet never quite explaining clearly.\n\nMy main track right now is Engineering and doing bad on these essays certainly does not help. I still have three essays left in the semester if anyone has an idea on how I can improve my writing. I don't want to link anything I've written, even though I know that would help everyone a lot, for fear of doxing. Any help would be greatly appreciated.\n" ]

[ "Depends. College professors like fluff and nonsense. However being in engineering it would problem help you to write more like a lawyer. In law school we were taught IRAC. I: identify the issue. R: assert the rule. A: apply the rule to your concept. C: write a conclusion. Cover all bases and very succinct, probably what engineering is looking for.", "First, talk to your professors during their office hours. They'll get to know you a bit better, and they'll give you advice for what they want in an essay.\n\nSecond, practice. Write when you're not given an assignment. Write descriptive posts about a memory you have or a trip you want to take. Go to /r/writingprompts and try that out (you don't have to post it, but try to commit to finishing a story).\n\nThe best thing to do is to first research and organize your thoughts. I'm not sure what kind of essays you were writing, but if it was a research paper, those are a bit more straight forward.\n\nStart with your main argument then think of all the things you'll have to discuss to prove your point. The point you're proving is your thesis statement, which should be in your introduction. The things you have to discuss become your main topics, which will have a few paragraphs for each. Every time you write about a new point, you have to introduce the concept, explain what it is, then how it ties back into your main point. This could span anywhere between two sentences to several paragraphs each. If you can only squeeze two sentences out of a point, it a weak point. Several weak points are just as effective as one strong one, as long as you tie them all together (another paragraph). This cycle of introducing concepts and tying them to your thesis statement builds your argument. Once you've built it up enough or brought the argument to a logical stopping point, you write your conclusion, which summarizes how all your concepts come together.\n\nHere are two examples:\n\nLet's say you are talking about a particular medicine's effectiveness for treating an illness. Very broadly, I think you'll need to discuss what causes the illness, what effect it has on the body, what the medication is, how it effects the body, and why that is more or less effective than other treatments. The cause could go down into habitats of the illness's source (bacterial/viral/parasite) and how it transmits or lives outside the body, how it gets into the body, and what it does once it is inside. Then, the body reacts somehow. You can describe the effect in cellular detail of how it changes the body's chemistry, and the medication could be described through its application (injection/pill/topical treatment) all the way down to the chemical reaction it has on the illness. Each new term needs a definition, and after defining all your words in basic language, you can tie them together into long sentences. I just googled a sentence and found \"Resistance in Gram-negative bacteria has been increasing, particularly over the last 6 years.\" (I have no clue what that sentence means). If this were in your essay, you can go into detail about how something can resist the bacteria, what the heck Gram-negative bacteria is, and what happened in the last 6 years to cause the resistance to increase.\n\nNow let's say you're writing a literary paper about stories. Let's say you're comparing Beowulf (from Beowulf) to Odysseus (from the Odyssey) and how the idea of a hero changed over time. You'll first need to construct what made a Greek hero and what qualities and motivations that Odysseus has (loves his wife, wants to go home). Then discuss the heroic traits that Beowulf has (very strong, loyal to his land). Next paragraph will be a comparison between the two, stating what they have in common (leadership skills, bravery). The next two points would be what they do different (brute strength vs cleverness). For every point you make, you back it up with some quotes from the book, and for each quote you write a sentence explaining the quote, and another sentence explaining how it builds them up as a hero or apart from the other. If you find 5 quotes each for how they different and 5 more from each source for how they're similar, that's 20 quotes, 20 explanations, and 20 tie-ins to the main points. That's 60 sentences total, and if you can write about 12 words in each sentence, that's 720 words. That doesn't even count the introduction or the conclusion, or the intro for each paragraph talking about if you're comparing a particular hero.\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n", "How to deal with noisy upstair neighbors Recently new neighbors moved in upstairs. We were introduced around 7am the day they moved in due to excessive noise. Understanding that moving in can be quite noisy, we let it go. \n\nThe next 3-4 days were also noisy, because they remodeled their floors. Again, understandable. Then came the daily 8am basketball games - not kidding. Her 2 kids (8-10) play basketball indoors, with sneakers on. Their hoop is situated right above our bedroom, constantly waking us up very early on weekends. \n\nWe've asked her nicely to keep it down, to which she responded \"It's my house, I'll do what I want.\" \n\nProperty management refuses to step in due to the \"he-said, she said\" nature of our dispute. \n\n" ]

[ "I'd record the noise for a few days and return to the property manager with evidence, which should take care of the he-said, she-said issue. \n\n*", "Record the noise as one person said and show it to management. Once you get several recordings that should suffice.\n\nOr you could leave the house with an obnoxious song on repeat such as who let the dogs out. They'll get the point pretty quickly.", "Ugh these issues are the worst cause they never end up in a good way. Usually the people causing the noise are simply selfish ignorant pricks who don't give a fuck about others. Things like not playing basketball inside the apartment if you have neighbours downstairs should be common sense. If they really don't see it that way, start throwing balls against the ceiling and if they come to talk to you, say you are playing squash cause you can do whatever you want in your house.\n\nI have neighbours upstairs who have a kid who likes to run around really early in the morning. The problem is the way he runs - he stomps. That very distinct sound when a person lands on one flat foot with their whole weight repeatedly which almost makes the floor shake and tremble. But in this case we don't even go to talk to neighbours, because it doesn't seem too adequate to complain about this. A kid is a kid, and you can't really ask them to tip toe around the house. But playing basketball is a totally different story. ", "If they want to be rude, then I say go to war with them. Find out their quiet hours and start banging on your ceiling with something to wake them up. Record them without saying you're recording. Start calling police out to have them have formal written complaints. Eventually take it down to property managers and explain that their children play fucking basketball in the inside of the house. What a bitch. ", "I don't know. I feel like you're not giving us the full story. You mention the day they move in and remodeling as if they needed to be mentioned. As if you were already annoyed with it even though it is a necessity of living in a flat/apartment/condo. \n\nI am just wondering how *bad* these noise levels really are. Because if they are not as bad as you're trying to make them out to be, as long as they are within curfew, you might not be able to do much. \n\nWere your last neighbors not noisy at all?\n\nThat all said, you can try other personal methods. Like white noise machines. They help drown out outside noise. \n\nOr you can try to get the apartment above them and give them a taste of their own medicine. \n\n", "Here is what I did. I used a GoPro and on my android, I have an app that measures decibels. The noise my neighbor was making was well beyond the ambient levels that you can hear from phone speakers, but the decibel meter made it clear that they were 60+ Decibels at 3am in the morning. I recorded my phone showing (but not hearing) the sound level, I went into my living room to show the ambient noise there where it was 30(ish) and went back into my bedroom and again 60+ decibels. I took this to the managers and the person denied making noise at all and they said if they do it again it will be on their permanent renting record.", "Have very loud sex that will be heard by the shitty kids, this will force them to ask the parents what is going which will make it uncomfortable for them since kids are kids and wont shut up about it, also bass lots of bass" ]

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[ "How to end office backbiting Hi there! The office where I work is full of strong personalities and backbiting has become a major problem. The hostility and tension has reached its peak and we are trying to come up with a resolution. \n\n\nOne suggestion was to have everyone (there are 5 of us) meet up together and \"squash\" it all at once by letting all of our personal thoughts about the problem and one another out. I don't think that will work. I feel like it will only serve to stir up anger and only temporarily end the backbiting. Help!\n\nUPDATE: I discussed this with the rest of the team and everyone decided that particular person was over the top negative. We are combating this by ignoring her attempts to bring everyone down and also icing her out when she tries to complain about people. It's working", "How to end office backbiting Hi there! The office where I work is full of strong personalities and backbiting has become a major problem. The hostility and tension has reached its peak and we are trying to come up with a resolution. \n\n\nOne suggestion was to have everyone (there are 5 of us) meet up together and \"squash\" it all at once by letting all of our personal thoughts about the problem and one another out. I don't think that will work. I feel like it will only serve to stir up anger and only temporarily end the backbiting. Help!\n\nUPDATE: I discussed this with the rest of the team and everyone decided that particular person was over the top negative. We are combating this by ignoring her attempts to bring everyone down and also icing her out when she tries to complain about people. It's working", "How to end office backbiting Hi there! The office where I work is full of strong personalities and backbiting has become a major problem. The hostility and tension has reached its peak and we are trying to come up with a resolution. \n\n\nOne suggestion was to have everyone (there are 5 of us) meet up together and \"squash\" it all at once by letting all of our personal thoughts about the problem and one another out. I don't think that will work. I feel like it will only serve to stir up anger and only temporarily end the backbiting. Help!\n\nUPDATE: I discussed this with the rest of the team and everyone decided that particular person was over the top negative. We are combating this by ignoring her attempts to bring everyone down and also icing her out when she tries to complain about people. It's working" ]

[ "IME some people never grow up and it doesn't matter what you do; these people will always act like they're in middle school. Plus, some people are just crazy, and will always be crazy. You can't make them behave rationally. My response has to always ignore it. Sometimes people are against you, sometimes they're with you, and sometimes they don't even notice you. Whatever happens, just do your job and float over the petty, nonsensical, infantile distraction of small group dynamics. I would definitely sit out this gripefest, and if doing so turns them all against you, that's a bonus. Maybe you can do your work in peace. Although sooner or later, one of them will turn on another and the whole thing will start again. It only ends if people decide to grow the hell up and put their stupid juvenile egos on the shelf, which rarely happens. But you don't have to participate. ", "Most of the time, it's all stemming from one person. That person might not be carrying their weight, creating gossip and causing problems, or just plain annoying and difficult to work with. Find that person. What you do with them is up to you, but that's a start.", "Harvard Business Review recently had an article on dealing with office Jerks. They suggested there is nothing you can really do.\nJust focus on living a good life inside and outside the office. Do what you need to do.\n\nThey even implied that it takes about 4-7 good conversations to offset the impacts of one negative conversation." ]

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[ "improving my reaction timing My reaction time to anything is pretty slow for some reason, and I was just wondering if there's any way to make it faster/better? I'm just beginning driving lessons and it's shown me how horrible at reacting to things I am. I read that throwing a tennis ball at walls and catching it is one method, but I'm slightly sceptical if it would actually work. Any ideas?\n\n\n", "improving my reaction timing My reaction time to anything is pretty slow for some reason, and I was just wondering if there's any way to make it faster/better? I'm just beginning driving lessons and it's shown me how horrible at reacting to things I am. I read that throwing a tennis ball at walls and catching it is one method, but I'm slightly sceptical if it would actually work. Any ideas?\n\n\n" ]

[ "What are some things do you think are making you decrease your reaction timing? Are you smoking or drinking too much? Oversleeping? Unhealthy lifestyles? \n\nDrink more water, read, and exercise. Be a little more active. Play some sports like just try throwing basketballs and catching, etc. The tennis ball seems that it might work since you're practicing the reaction timing with it.\n\nA bonus is downloading this game called Osu! This game requires a lot of reaction timing, and trust me you will struggle with it for a little bit but once you practice, you will get the hang of it. The slower songs you work on, then the harder ones.\n\nAlso, have confidence that you can improve.", "Video games, specifically shooters.\n\n[Heres a nice study.](http://www.rochester.edu/news/show.php?id=3679)" ]

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[ "What do you do when you are motivated to set yourself up to succeed? I was reading an article which encouraged removing temptations and setting yourself up to win when you’re in a motivated / flow state. Examples would be cooking food for the week during the weekend, or packing your gym clothes and leaving them at the door to remove the necessity of finding them and preparing them in the morning. Is there anything you do either in general life or for your work (making macros for spread sheets) when you are motivated that makes things a lot easier for you? ", "What do you do when you are motivated to set yourself up to succeed? I was reading an article which encouraged removing temptations and setting yourself up to win when you’re in a motivated / flow state. Examples would be cooking food for the week during the weekend, or packing your gym clothes and leaving them at the door to remove the necessity of finding them and preparing them in the morning. Is there anything you do either in general life or for your work (making macros for spread sheets) when you are motivated that makes things a lot easier for you? ", "What do you do when you are motivated to set yourself up to succeed? I was reading an article which encouraged removing temptations and setting yourself up to win when you’re in a motivated / flow state. Examples would be cooking food for the week during the weekend, or packing your gym clothes and leaving them at the door to remove the necessity of finding them and preparing them in the morning. Is there anything you do either in general life or for your work (making macros for spread sheets) when you are motivated that makes things a lot easier for you? ", "What do you do when you are motivated to set yourself up to succeed? I was reading an article which encouraged removing temptations and setting yourself up to win when you’re in a motivated / flow state. Examples would be cooking food for the week during the weekend, or packing your gym clothes and leaving them at the door to remove the necessity of finding them and preparing them in the morning. Is there anything you do either in general life or for your work (making macros for spread sheets) when you are motivated that makes things a lot easier for you? " ]

[ "Create a list of goals with definite end points. Long term is good, but if it is too far out, it gives you room to slack. Short term goals that can be accomplished that same day or at least within a week can keep you on your toes especially if you are in the zone.\n\nPeople with very low self-esteem or motivation would be benefit from micro goals - very simple and easy to do tasks such as writing a one page essay, doing 20 push ups, doing laundry, etc. The feeling of accomplishing a list of tasks (no matter how small or trivial) can be a stepping stone to building confidence in your ability to get things done, which ultimately would allow you to take on bigger tasks.\n\nPersonally, I like creating mind maps or flow charts. For whatever reason it may be, they appeal to me and help me organize what needs to be done.", "Keep this in Mind: \n\"There is always someone bigger than you, wealthier, smarter, happier, thinner, or more successful than you. Being excellent trumps all those things. Be excellent at what you do, every moment, every day. That is excellence! Which no one can take away from you.\" \n\nI have strict adherence to these two things... they set me up to win each week. \n\nMonday: Leg Day, and Meal Prep! \n\nGetting your leg day workout in, means every day in the gym later that week is easier, and you've created more natural growth hormone at the start of your week. A jumpstart so to speak.\n\nMeal prepping Monday evening, even if it means I get less sleep, sets me up for winning every day. It allows me to NOT THINK about food intake, planning or making poor choices. If I open my fridge, pull out a tupperware meal, it's going to help me succeed. It stops me from cheating while at work or when I come home. It sets me up for success. I also like the quiet time to think and cook, and plan my week. I listen to podcasts while cooking, grilling, chopping. ", "Don't tell other people about the goals you've set for yourself. Doing so gives you a feeling of accomplishment before you've actually done anything, making it harder to actually get it done. I had a goal of losing 30 pounds, and after I lost 10 I started telling people. Yeah, I didn't lose the last 20, and now I'm back where I started.", "I find that using written affirmations is a great way to stay on point. You just build a sentence that reinforces the goal you're trying to achieve and write it 15 times a day. ex. \"I'm going to drive more traffic to my blog by researching and writing thought provoking articles.\" This habit serves as a reminder of you're goal, but it also gives you're mind time to roll over different ideas for achieving your goal while you're writing the lines. I often find I experience a strong urge to make significant progress toward achieving my goal during and after I write my lines." ]

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[ "how to deal with mold and condensation My apartment has really bad airflow (one window in the living room, one in the bedroom, both facing north) and the closet is nested within the bathroom. The vent is really crappy, and lots of moisture gets trapped. I've been having mold spots along the window sill, and the clothes in the closet feel damp. I have moisture collecting \"damp rid\" from home depot, but it's not really working. \n\nDues anyone have good tips on battling condensation/mold? Anything helps. Thank you!", "how to deal with mold and condensation My apartment has really bad airflow (one window in the living room, one in the bedroom, both facing north) and the closet is nested within the bathroom. The vent is really crappy, and lots of moisture gets trapped. I've been having mold spots along the window sill, and the clothes in the closet feel damp. I have moisture collecting \"damp rid\" from home depot, but it's not really working. \n\nDues anyone have good tips on battling condensation/mold? Anything helps. Thank you!", "how to deal with mold and condensation My apartment has really bad airflow (one window in the living room, one in the bedroom, both facing north) and the closet is nested within the bathroom. The vent is really crappy, and lots of moisture gets trapped. I've been having mold spots along the window sill, and the clothes in the closet feel damp. I have moisture collecting \"damp rid\" from home depot, but it's not really working. \n\nDues anyone have good tips on battling condensation/mold? Anything helps. Thank you!", "how to deal with mold and condensation My apartment has really bad airflow (one window in the living room, one in the bedroom, both facing north) and the closet is nested within the bathroom. The vent is really crappy, and lots of moisture gets trapped. I've been having mold spots along the window sill, and the clothes in the closet feel damp. I have moisture collecting \"damp rid\" from home depot, but it's not really working. \n\nDues anyone have good tips on battling condensation/mold? Anything helps. Thank you!", "how to deal with mold and condensation My apartment has really bad airflow (one window in the living room, one in the bedroom, both facing north) and the closet is nested within the bathroom. The vent is really crappy, and lots of moisture gets trapped. I've been having mold spots along the window sill, and the clothes in the closet feel damp. I have moisture collecting \"damp rid\" from home depot, but it's not really working. \n\nDues anyone have good tips on battling condensation/mold? Anything helps. Thank you!" ]

[ "First, remove wallpapers if there. Check the paint, remove latex-based paint, use limepaint, latex-based paint is like a plastic bag and mold loves it. Dont dry your clothes and stuff inside, also keep your windows open. Do it three times a day, wide open but only for say three minutes. That should do it :)", "You can spray the mold with pure bleach to kill it and bleach it to where you can't see it. You can also try a copper sulfate spray as copper kills fungi and stays around as opposed to bleach or ethanol which evaporate away. Try to let the humidity in the bathroom decrease by leaving the door open etc. as fungi need a damp location to grow.\n\nSource: I grow fungi for a living and also have fungus issues on wooden windowsills in my bathrooms.", "Raise the temperature of your room for starters to prevent the air mass from reaching dew point and prevent condensation. ", "I have a box fan in the hallway near my bathroom. After I shower, I just put it in the bathroom doorway, blowing inward. It exchanges the air much faster than the vent fan. It might raise the humidity in the rest of the house, but it's over a much larger area so it's not noticeable. It dries out the bathroom and has led to a lot less mildew.\n", "Don't think I have anything you haven't tried out/crossed off.\n\nChange windows, buy a heater, move your closet, dry off the condensation with paper." ]

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[ "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**", "shaving your pubes [nsfw] /u/LabialTreeHug has a good LPT for females: http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/xhcau/lpt_request_shaving_your_pubes_nsfw/c5mcfrz\n\n**waiting on one for males!**" ]

[ "Gillette made a [video](http://vimeo.com/5410565) I thought was pretty helpful.\nSurprisingly you get comfortable doing it pretty fast. I've only done it a handful of times but I already make quick work of the whole process. ", "Use electric clippers with one of the spacers (1/4 to 1/2 inch should be best) to get rid of most of the hair so that the razor has an easier time against the skin, this will dramatically reduce irritation. Soften the skin in a nice warm bath first, definitely pull it taut as another lady redditor said. The razor should be outside the shower until you are ready to use it- a cold razor has the best cutting edge. Technique will vary depending on the grain but consider leaving the mons with a little fuzz, the labia are more important and the mons may be more likely to get irritated. Brace one leg up as high as it goes, hold each area taut, and attempt to go against the grain in as few strokes as possible. Enjoy smoothness. Two days later, enjoy itchiness and possibly resolve to spring for a wax job next time.", "You know the product called Magic Shave that is sold for black men's beards? Works a treat on the downstairs area. Learned it on Reddit a while back and it has completely replaced all other hair removal techniques for my lady bits ever since. No burning or anything, and a can of the powder is under $2.", "Keep an erection. Trust me. You don't want to accidentaly cut something that should never be cut because it was floppy. The pain is unbearable, I actually felt like punching someone to death. ", "My first time shaving my pubes, I put on a plastic grocery bag like a pair of shorts (one leg through each handle.) The pubes fell into the bag. Worked pretty well, surprisingly.", "There was an /r/gonewild post that also included naked pictures, if that's something you're interested in.\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/gonewild/comments/xauhp/apparently_ive_become_subreddit_famous_for_my/", "I've shaved consistently for the past 4 years or so. A couple times a week at most, once a week at the least.\n\nOnce you get started, it's easy. Maintenance is the best part. \n\nIf you've got a lot of hair to begin with, trim it with scissors or electric razor as close as you can get. I do it in the shower and wait until the end when everything is warm and wet. I use body wash or conditioner, something to provide a buffer between the skin and razor. Take your time. Stretch the skin taut when your shave. Pay very close attention to the direction of hair growth. I would't recommend going back over it until you're much better at it. Short strokes work best for me. Wash the hair off frequently. I rarely ever remove the blade from my skin, until I need to wash the hair off. Short strokes, keep a good lather, go with the grain. \n\nAfter your done, apply a lotion to prevent the skin from being raw. It also softens the skin to make it easier for hair to grow back out without getting ingrown. Deodorant also works. Also helps you smell nice down there. ", "I use [this](http://www.amazon.com/Cleancut-PS335-T-Shape-Personal-Shaver/dp/B00141DEAC/ref=dp_cp_ob_hpc_title_0) to start with. I'm a guy.", "Best way for me (dude) would be to use a razor while in the shower, and kind of stretch the balls away from your body and shave the hair while the skin is stretched. It works better than shaving them while the skin is loose, and more prone to being caught in the razor and cutting your nuts. ", "go slowly\n\nhttp://www1.macys.com/shop/product/conair-gmt900-shaver-i-stubble-trimmer?ID=569128&cm_mmc=Google_Feed_pla_pe-_-adtype-pla-_-target-19586772875-_-kw-&gclid=CPu0z9LXxbECFRDDtgodSFMAhQ", "Personally, I dislike smooth shaving of those parts.\n\nWhen I see smooth junk in porn, I just can't fap to it. I've yet to have sex with someone who was smooth, but I imagine I would have trouble maintaining an erection.\n\nWhat is the appeal? It makes people look way too young.\n\nJust use a hair/beard trimmer. Keep it tamed, not prepubescent.", "Just use scissors bro. Every time I shaved my balls they got itchy after a few days. I got a pair of those small hair scissors, it made manscaping so much easier. ", "If you can step into a warm shower and do it in there, the warm water makes it easier, then lather up with shaving cream and shave with the grain first (down). Once that's done step back into the water and make sure you're nice and warm, then lather up again and go upwards, if you meet resistance go downwards again and then step back into the shower. then repeat the process and shave upwards... presto, smoothest balls/shaft ever.", "I'm a male, and my GF told me if I rub deodorant (Gel Type) when I'm done tone it keeps me from getting razor burn or irritation from my boxers. It works surprisingly well, even if it is sometimes a little humorous.", "I use [This](http://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-BG2020-Bodygroom-Shaver/dp/B000EG8HLE/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1343798273&sr=8-3&keywords=body+hair+trimmer+for+men). It works pretty well and is easy to use.", "I have the Gillete Proglide Styler, basically it's got everything all in one: clippers, razor and trimmer. If you can also find the gel that's clear that's also a must have, it's easier to tell where everything is. Start off with the regular clippers to get rid of the longer hair then finish it up with some shave gel and the five blade razor. I recommend doing this during or after a shower so that your skin is both easier to slide against and your hair is softer and easier to mow down. ", "I have heard that the best way is to shave 3 times: once with the grain, then against, then with again. Apparently it makes for the smoothest shave ever. I'm supposing this will also work on males...", "Can you just use an electric shaver? Obviously this'll be the one I use for my face, so I don't know...", "[Instead of trying to change yourself, why don't you learn to love yourself as you are instead?](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8K3R2_kp07Y)" ]

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[ "How do I win over a landlord at an open house? I live in Vancouver, and the vacancy rate is about 1.4%. I also have a small dog, so I am limited to about 5% of those available. \n\nI'm attending an open house this week, and I *need* to get it. There are usually about 40 people or more at these, so how do I make myself stand out? How do I make the landlord like me the most?", "How do I win over a landlord at an open house? I live in Vancouver, and the vacancy rate is about 1.4%. I also have a small dog, so I am limited to about 5% of those available. \n\nI'm attending an open house this week, and I *need* to get it. There are usually about 40 people or more at these, so how do I make myself stand out? How do I make the landlord like me the most?", "How do I win over a landlord at an open house? I live in Vancouver, and the vacancy rate is about 1.4%. I also have a small dog, so I am limited to about 5% of those available. \n\nI'm attending an open house this week, and I *need* to get it. There are usually about 40 people or more at these, so how do I make myself stand out? How do I make the landlord like me the most?", "How do I win over a landlord at an open house? I live in Vancouver, and the vacancy rate is about 1.4%. I also have a small dog, so I am limited to about 5% of those available. \n\nI'm attending an open house this week, and I *need* to get it. There are usually about 40 people or more at these, so how do I make myself stand out? How do I make the landlord like me the most?", "How do I win over a landlord at an open house? I live in Vancouver, and the vacancy rate is about 1.4%. I also have a small dog, so I am limited to about 5% of those available. \n\nI'm attending an open house this week, and I *need* to get it. There are usually about 40 people or more at these, so how do I make myself stand out? How do I make the landlord like me the most?" ]

[ "Fellow Vancouverite here!\n\n- Have everything in order: references, proof of income, cheque for deposit, etc. See if you can get a \"reference\" for your dog as well, like a quick note from your current landlord indicating that the dog is well-behaved and hasn't caused damage (if that's true, of course).\n\n- Take your time and ask questions. A number of people will rush in and ask for an application and then rush out again. Don't be one of those people. Really look at the place--look inside cupboards and closets, check out the appliances, look for mold around windows and in the bathroom, make sure there are adequate electrical outlets (a real issue in some older buildings), that sort of thing. Getting the place may be your goal, but it also needs to be a place you want to live in for a year. \n\n- Try to avoid coming of as desperate. Look presentable, don't be a dick, respect the manager/landlord's time.\n\n- Watch for red flags from the manager/landlord. Are they pissy that you're taking a good look at the unit? Are they asking for information or payments that contravene tenancy laws? Do you just get a weird vibe? Not worth it. At all. Viewings are as much about you interviewing the management as they are about managers interviewing potential tenants.", "Try to connect with the landlord on a personal level--ask them where they're originally from, what got them into real estate, etc. It shows that your friendly and will give you insight into how this agent operates.", "The way for a dog to win over a landlord, besides having a reference, is to offer his paw at your landlord's prompt. Shaking hands is a pretty worthless command, but it will impress and endear far more than sit/stay/heel/etc.\n\nAlso: Dress classy, even if the place isn't classy.", "My realtor recommended my family to do this, and we ended up getting the house. I don't know how much of it was because we did as she recommended so take this with a grain of salt. We were advised to ask the landlord questions. Introduce yourself, wear something that is easily remembered (not a tshirt and jeans) and ask questions about the house. Not nosy things like \"when was the last big damage\" because you want them to like you, not be annoyed. We asked the landlord to tell us a little about the place and to show us around. Just keep them talking because then they will remember you. ", "I live in Vancouver with a cat and just moved back in May.\nWhat we do is show up early and make sure we are neatly dressed. We really look at the place, as we go around we tell the landlord about ourselves, about what we are looking for in an apartment. I find that because we are clear in what we want in a home, landlords respect us and can tell that we will stay for awhile. We stress that we want to find somewhere to make a home an stay a while. We also tell the landlord what we like about the place. We ask about the neighbours, noise levels and parking. I ask if there have been any thefts in the building. Basically we try and show that we care about where we live, and that we will take care of the place and stay awhile.\nWe bring printed copies of reference letters from past landlords that specifically mention our cat. \nWe also bring copies of pay stubs, enough cash to cover the damage deposit and a cheque book. \nGood luck! It's tough out there right now." ]

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[ "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance ", "How to politely say 'no' to door-to-door charity fundraisers Just had to almost slam the door on someone because they wouldn't take no for an answer. Obviously I care that children are dying, I just don't like to hear about it on my doorstep. \n\nWhat is an easy way to not waste these people's time? It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. Would be nice to hear from someone who has done this kind of work before. Thanks in advance " ]

[ "Ask them if they will leave you some material so you can donate directly through a website/head office if you choose to. Explain that you don't make decisions about charitable donations at the doorstep. If they get pushy after that, they probably aren't legit.", "Used to work as a door to door fundraiser. If you smile, raise a hand as if to say 'stop', and then politely say \"Not today, thankyou\", they won't be offended. It's a job, we expect doorslams. We don't expect polite decline though.\n\n", "I once stated to the gentleman that i don't make donations or give money at the door. He continued and i spoke to him for over 1/2 an hour until i reiterated my stance. He was pissed and started yelling at me for wasting his time. I just said, \"I didn't invite you over here and I told you at the beginning I don't give money at my door\". But he was friendly and interesting up until that point. ", "If they won't take a simple polite no for an answer, fuck 'em. Slam that door in their faces, they deserve no better.", "Just give them a raised eyebrow look and slowly close the door while maintaining eye contact.\n\nAlternatively just say, \"no speak English.\"", "> It seems they just leap into their pitch and I don't have time to say thanks-but-no-thanks. \n\nTry saying \"Excuse me?\" or \"What was that?\" when they say who they are or who they're with. If they have to repeat themselves, it breaks their flow, and should give you a chance to get a response in. Then you can say something like \"Times are tough [as you know], so we have to plan our charitable giving carefully. And we've already completed (or decided on) our planned giving for this year, but if you have some information, we can consider it for next time.\" ", "Yup, as stated just be very direct. \"Sorry I don't have money with me to donate to any cause right now, bye\". Or, sorry, I'm very busy and I'm late for a thing, no time\" *Close door*\n\nIf you feel especially guilty, which you shouldn't, ask them to give you a pamphlet and you'll check it out online or something afterwards. \n\n", "Thanks for all the replies - really useful. I find it hard to be direct, but clearly it's better than wasting their time. And glad I'm not the only one who finds these things so pushy. ", "Tell them that they are cold calling. \nCold calling is rude and makes it less likely that you'll ever donate to their charity.", "Talk over them if you have to, just say no thankyou and close the door. I have two young kids and can't really stand chatting about diseased orphans while they play alone in the other room. \n\nOr you could say \"look, I cannot talk now but I am happy to take a leaflet to look through later\". They won't want to as they want to keep you talking, if they don't they say \"never mind then\" and close the door.\n\nYou could get a sign saying \"no cold callers\" to stop them knocking at all.", "I have a beautiful system for this. I turn the water on, answer the door, say \"sorry, I'm filling a pot,\" and close the door.", "I do cold calling so I can maybe offer a little perspective here. The people you're dealing with are trying to raise a certain amount of money (and could be incentivized for how much they get depending on the organization). In my experience doing phone sales which similar in principle, if someone isn't interested and they either email me or call me and say something like \"hey I appreciate the call, but this isn't something that we have on the radar at the moment and I don't want to waste your time\" I'm usually very quick to respect that. If they tell me to call back or they give me a slight indication they're interested I see blood in the water and won't stop until I'm told no or yes. If they're outright rude to me, I will also bother them until no end. It's the nature of the job - these people might truly care about their cause but at the end of the day they're making a sale. I've told those people flat out that I respect what they're doing, but I'm not in a situation to commit money to anything extra besides me and my family and they usually respect that.", "\"Yeahhhh... Not really interested thanks\" (close door)\n\nThese people are trained to be pushy and make you feel shitty to apply pressure, so it helps to remember they're deliberately trying to make you feel shitty so they can take commission from your signups. If they continue pushing starving puppies in your face, wonder why they're not out there caring for the animals they're claiming to represent. They are being paid to bully you for money. Some will claim not to be on commission, but the companies they work for absolutely are, and that commission can be hundreds of dollars/2 years of subscription. That means you're just being mugged by a commercial sales organisation who'll take 100% of your first 2 years donations and they've got the bollocks to try to guilt trip you. Makes it a lot easier to tell them to fuck off." ]

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[ "How can I stop my own cat from shitting all over the garden? He's not even burying it - just crapping in the middle of the lawn and leaving it. ", "How can I stop my own cat from shitting all over the garden? He's not even burying it - just crapping in the middle of the lawn and leaving it. ", "How can I stop my own cat from shitting all over the garden? He's not even burying it - just crapping in the middle of the lawn and leaving it. " ]

[ "two words; garden hose.\n\nsit out there silently waiting, garden hose in hand, fingers on the trigger. when Shitstains McFeline goes into the garden give him a quick blast from the hose. catch him 2 or 3 times and he'll never use your garden as his toilet ever again.", "Ive been told cats dont like Marigold and it will keep them from eating/ or being near any flowers close to it.", "Cayenne pepper - we had a neighbours cat who used to like to come and do its business in our yard, we lightly sprinkled cayenne pepper around, it stopped doing its business in our yard pretty quick." ]

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[ "If I slip while on stairs, what is the safest way to fall? If I have no way of stopping myself from falling while on stairs how should I fall to avoid injury? Roll forward, fall backwards, try to brace myself?", "If I slip while on stairs, what is the safest way to fall? If I have no way of stopping myself from falling while on stairs how should I fall to avoid injury? Roll forward, fall backwards, try to brace myself?", "If I slip while on stairs, what is the safest way to fall? If I have no way of stopping myself from falling while on stairs how should I fall to avoid injury? Roll forward, fall backwards, try to brace myself?", "If I slip while on stairs, what is the safest way to fall? If I have no way of stopping myself from falling while on stairs how should I fall to avoid injury? Roll forward, fall backwards, try to brace myself?", "If I slip while on stairs, what is the safest way to fall? If I have no way of stopping myself from falling while on stairs how should I fall to avoid injury? Roll forward, fall backwards, try to brace myself?" ]

[ "From years of horseriding lessons, I can share: (1) protect your head, (2) stay “loose”/don’t lock your body and (3) try to land on your bum.", "I usually just flail about for a bit, then grab whatever I can to stop/slow the fall. Then it's all about Stop, Breathe, Assess, Plan.", "Having fallen on the stairs and tore my quad, you will likely not have time to adjust. You are at the mercy of the step gods.", "Depends on how you fall. Are you toppling over forwards? Backwards? Down the stairs? Up the stairs? Feet shooting out from underneath you? Are you holding something? light? Heavy? There are lots of different conditions.", "It's going to be mostly instinctive, but fall onto the handrail (ideally you should already be touching the rail) that way you don't fall all the way down the stairs." ]

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[ "/r/skincareaddiction. I've actually been wanting to write a LPT post about them for a while now. You will learn more than you could ever imagine about your skin simply by reading the sidebar. \n\nAlso, everything you know now is probably wrong. I think that's why this sub amazes me so much. ", "Well, first of all, I started calling it bacne. It hasn't really helped with the pimples, but it's much more fun.", "1. [Cut out dairy from your diet](http://www.acnemilk.com/the_no_milk_acne_diet). I did this a year ago and my acne reduced quite a lot. For an anecdotal success story, check out [this post at r/fitness](http://www.reddit.com/r/Fitness/comments/y43xs/dairy_caused_my_acne/).\n\n2. When I *do* get back acne, I find it's when I go to the gym and don't shower for several hours afterward. If you go to the gym, I'd recommend getting a pair of cheap flip flops and showering immediately after you exercise.", "A very simple thing that seemed to help out a little for me - wash your hair first when showering. I used to start with the whole body and finish with my hair. I read on some acne forum that the oils and stuff from your hair getting washed down your exfoliated skin can help lead to bacne. Not sure the scientific support of this, but anecdotally it seemed to help.", "I used to have a problem with this when I wore tanks to bed but then I started wearing a clean t-shirt (covering the back and shoulders) every night to bed and it worked like magic. Also giving it some sun works too.", "I had moderate facial acne as a teenager but very bad back acne. I took Accutane (isotretinoin), usually used for facial acne, and it completely removed and prevented any acne. \nHowever, there are some very good, safer options here that you should try before medication as there are numerous side effects with isotretinoin. ", "When washing your hair in the shower, make sure to lean your head in forward rather than leaning it back. Keeping all of the shampoo/conditioner off of your back (and subsequently, your pores) should really help.", "Not sure if OP is a man or a woman. As a woman, I had horrible back acne and I had it on my chin. I started on birth control and it disappeared. If OP is a dude, I don't suggest this method. But... Before that, I used bath salts, not the ones that turn you into a crazy motherfucker. Someone mentioned changing sheets more often, that helps. And last resort would be to see a dermatologist. Toying with my diet helped. I found that reducing my sugar intake seemed to help. Maybe I'm crazy.", "Wash your sheets often. Take a shower before bed and dry yourself (especially your back) off well before climbing into bed. ", "I'm on the last few days of an accutane (amnesteen) treatment that takes about 6 months. It's literally a miracle drug. I had acne everywhere. Now, nothing. It's changed my life and now I exude confidence. Before I was always embarrassed to be in pictures and was always selfconcious about it. It wasn't fun going to bars as a 27 year old and looking like I had the acne of a 14 year old boy. \n\nThere can be some harsh side effects in rare cases. I didn't experience any other than really dry skin for awhile which I combated with frequent applications of lotion. ", "Change your diet. Eat more good fats (coconut, hemp, olive oils, avocados, fish, etc) and less bad fats (pork, grain-fed beef). Also, cut your grain intake (especially wheat) and eat more green veggies.\n\n\nWhen you have a chronic issue, it is typically more efficacious to fight the problem with lifestyle changes than with a pill or cream.", "Wash your sheets often. If you can't afford several new sets of sheets. Get a plain white sheet and just lay it over your bed for one or two nights before washing. That way you're not washing a full set of sheets.\n\nAvoid touching your back as much as possible. Finger oils clog pores very easily.\n\nAvoid sun. It's a myth that sun dries out acne. Use face sunscreen on your back when you are in the sun.\n\nAvoid hot showers and harsh chemicals.\n\n[Moisturize with a gentle moisturizer.](http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=a9_asi_1?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Abody+moisturizer&keywords=body+moisturizer&ie=UTF8&qid=1392823312)\n\n[Look into a skin care routine.](http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=body+acne)\n\n/r/skincareaddiction has a lot of great tips and suggestions about good cleaners/lotions and skin care routines that can help with acne and skin issues in general. Check them out.", "I've been battling this for years. Bacne, Chestne, Shoulderne, fuck it all. Salicylic acid and benzoyl peroxide dries out your skin, so at times it's counter productive to people with sensitive skin and it may cause worse breakouts. In fact most over-the-counter treatments dry out the skin which is why it's better to see a dermatologist.\n\nYou should go to a dermatologist and try minocycline or cephalexin, both antibiotics have worked for me and think that's the first thing they prescribe anyway. However, Aczone is a topical treatment that doesn't dry out the skin and works very well, given that you use it \"consistently\". Above all else, please wash yourself with a hydrating body wash, exfoliate, and use a fragrance free lotion. Take care of your skin at all costs because impending acne scarring is a BITCH.", " Accutane, Claravis, Amnesteem, Sotret, Myorisan. Prescription acne drugs.\n\nLet me preface by saying this is not an easy way out. It is rather expensive (if your health insurance doesn't cover it), requires multiple doctors visits before you receive your prescription and monthly blood tests at a hospital or clinic.\n\nIf you can deal with all that, your acne will be 90% gone in 3 months, 100% in 6 months. *Results may vary", "In the past, rubbing alcohol has worked for me. Just put some on a cotton pad or paper towel and rub it on your back every night before bed. The alcohol should dry out your acne. It's very harsh and drying though so don't use it any place sensitive (like your face!)\n\nAnother thing that I've found that works is witch hazel. You can find it at most grocery stores or pharmacies and it does the same thing as rubbing alcohol (dries out the acne) but is much less harsh. I still don't use it on my face as it tends to make my skin dry. Hope this helps.", "End your shower with cooler water rather than hot.. It closes your pores while hot water opens them leaving them vulnerable to the bacteria which causes acne.\n\nSource: My sister has been doing this for years and has worked incredibly well. ", "Check what ingredients are in your shampoo/conditioner/hair products. I started using products with argan oil/moroccan oil, and while they made my hair look and feel amazing, I didn't realize that they were making my skin and back break out like crazy. Once I stopped using those products, my breakouts cleared significantly. It just took me way too long to make the connection, but stuff you put in your hair definitely gets on your back and face whether you want it to or not, and can clog pores and cause breakouts. \n\nAlso, washing sheets/pillowcases regularly, sleeping in a clean t shirt, etc. will definitely help to keep excess skin oils or product residue from collecting and irritating your skin. \n\nAlso, moisturize!! Dry skin creates extra oil to make up for the oil that was stripped during cleaning. I learned this the hard way too. It seems counterintuitive, but after you shower or wash your back and face, make sure to replenish the moisture with a non comedogenic lotion.", "i can't give advice on types of washes, since everyone is different, but here are a few things that helped me.. washing sheets regularly is ridiculous.. how about just wearing a clean-ish shirt to sleep every night, and showering before bed. also to rinse off after any relatively sweaty activity. looking at your diet is pretty important too.. sugary and fried foods make me break out pretty bad. also staying very hydrated helps me fight acne. good luck!", "apple cider vinegar!\n\nseriously a miracle cure. Just put some on a cotton ball and rub it on the afflicted area, then rinse off 15 minutes later. I used to do it a little before I showered. Permanent solution.", "acne.org is actually really good at listing most commonly successful treatments.\n\nHowever, for me, as a woman, I had terrible bacne from age 14 onward, and the only thing that worked (I tried oral antibiotics in the 90s, then topical antibiotics, benzoyl peroxide, proactiv, topical retinoic acid, etc) was hormones (Diane 35 pills). Frequent exposure to chlorine from the swimming pool helped dry it out a little bit, but didn't prevent new acne from forming. I even tried Accutane, but it took 5 months to take effect and only cleared my skin for about 9-12 months.\n\nTL/DR: if you're a girl and can take them, hormone/birth control pills.", "The only thing that worked for me is dial. The gold bar soap. Daily use and it's gone. I also agree with washing the sheets frequently.", "The only thing that has worked for me, can work for you if you don't have overly sensitive skin.\n\nAfter a shower, wrap a towel around your waist and pour a capful of straight rubbing alcohol down your back until the bad areas are covered. Let air dry and continue on with your day.", "My sister had good results with apple cider vinegar. She'd just liberally apply it to her back with a cotton ball.", "Murad skin care has a body spray for acne. Works well for me but is pretty pricey. I scrub my back in the shower, then spray this stuff on and let it dry, then throw on my shirt and go. Really helped. When i stop using it, bacne returns. Also, diet has helped me a lot.", "Most of the comments on this thread will simply alleviate some of the problems of your condition. As a general rule, when acne appears on the back it means it is a severe form of the disease and will usually not resolve without some form of medication. Of course there are a lot of variables here but the best course of action would be to visit a dermatologist and get checked.\n\nIf you want I can send to you the Acne chapter of a dermatology book so you have more information.\n\nSource- I am a surgeon with a dermatologist gf", "Milk has been known to cause several allergic reactions, and acne is one of them. I drank a shit ton of milk, almost a replacement of water, and I had really bad back, chest, and face acne. While I completely stopped drinking it, I do get the frequent zit once and a while. While milk may not be the sole cause of my acne, it greatly improved after I decreased in drinking. Another thing I've started doing is wash sheets regularly, sleep naked (too much cotton = bad on skin), don't wear tight clothes, and make sure you are getting proper nutrients\n\nTL;DR: Don't drink milk, sleep naked, wash sheets, wash back, and proper nutrients.", "In the winter I was slathering myself with lotion and got some serious backne. After I stopped doing that and dealt with some itchyback then it disappeared. In the summer I notice if I even get a bit sweaty I have to shower. Shower 2x a day if necessary but I notice if I even go a day without showering I'll get fucking shoulder zits. WTF", "If you're a girl, getting on the birth control pill for me made all of my acne, including back acne, disappear!! ", "I've always had pretty bad back/chest/neck acne, and have tried all sorts of over-the-counter products with no improvement. What ultimately had worked for me, though, is that I wash from my hair down with straight Dr Bronners soap, no washcloth or loofa. I rotate between Peppermint, Eucalyptus, and Tee Tree soap, changing it once a week.", "I used to struggle with back acne until I figured out that it was caused by water drying on my skin after the shower. Now I dry my back COMPLETELY (every drop) and I don't have any acne. ", "I used the neutrogena body wash for acne, if you continually use it you will have results, you can't take it here and there in the beginning but once it starts to clear up you can ease off", "I stumbled across this solution randomly 4 years ago when I had an insect bite on my back. I smeared Polysporin Itch Relief Lotion in the same area as some of my back acne. The next day I noticed some improvement of my pimples as well as relief from the bite, shrugged, and said \"what the hell\" and continued to apply the stuff over my back for about a week. I've been free of it ever since. It looks like [this for reference](http://www.polysporin.ca/products/itch-relief-lotion). Hope this helps, good luck! ", "I put some alcohol or astringent in a cheap dollar store spray bottle. After your shower (wash hair and condition first, soap back last) dry off but bend forward and spray the astringent over your shoulder, so it lands in an even coating on your back. Bonus hamstring stretch.\n", "I got horrible back acne when I had developed an allergy to soy. Cystic acne is actually a pretty common symptom with soy allergy. I figured it out by drinking soy milk one day and my mouth and throat began to feel itchy and swollen. I don't suggest going that route, but perhaps get an allergy test.\n\nI still get some back acne though. What I've done recently that has resulted in like a 95% improvement was using face wash on my back in the shower, drying off with a towel afterwards, and then putting face lotion all over my back. I think it's because in winter my back gets super dry which results in more oil production. In summer I do kind of the opposite. I have a back brush and I put soap on it and then scrub my back with it because I tend to be too oily on my back in summer. I think I will continue to put lotion on though, it's really made a huge difference.\n\nTL;DR Wash back with face wash, maybe a back brush too. Use lotion after shower. Get an allergy test.", "I discovered that my skin is over dry, so what cured my acne was using moisterizer. Took some experimenting to find which one worked the best for me. But that made a huge difference. Perhaps my glands were overproducing to compensate and clogging. But that meant that using more soap made it worse. Using no soap for impacted areas is the best for my skin type. I'd recommend going to estheticians or some specialists in skin care to find out what kind of skin you have and how best to care for it. Advice here will not work for everyone.", "Had that problem. Fix it using a scrub acne soap (http://www.productoslarosa.com/jabon-asepxia-exfoliante_files/ex.png) in the places where I can reach using the soap. A back brush in the places I can not reach with the soap.\nIt hurts but was the only think that worked.\nAlso try to keep the back dry (change the shirt when too sweaty, keep sheets clean, etc)", "Go to a dermatologist. That doctor can find a medicine to help you. There is a natural hygiene product store called Lush. At Lush they have a ton of different products to help with acne. Try gentle rubbing a paste of baking soda and water on your back once a week to exfoliate and remove oils. follow that up with a oil free lotion or a oil control lotion. (if you dry out your skin the oil will come back faster and more). \n\nwhat you do depends on the type of acne you have. I have used a combo of things for many years. Good luck", "Depending on how much it bothers you: Accutane.\n\nI had horrible back acne for my entire time in high school. Senior year I decided to go on Accutane and it was the best decision I have ever made. My acne everywhere eventually went away and my skin has been pretty clear ever since. \n\nThe six month treatment process was kind of unpleasant but it was well worth the results. \n\nDefinitely would recommend Accutane. I know a lot of people who had *horrible* acne who went on Accutane and it totally changed them. They gained more confidence, appeared more attractive, etc. ", "A girl I was dating recommended something simple. When showering, the last thing I'd do was use conditioner. She told me to start conditioning my hair BEFORE washing my body, therefore I would wash my back and body afterward, cleaning off all the conditioner & oils which ran down my back when washing my hair. I saw a change in skin condition after a week or so. It is simple, and may not work for you, but good luck!", "~~cheese grater~~ as always, go to a doctor, but quite a few times it can be cleared up by a couple trips to the beach. Stay in the sun (with adequate sun block applied properly) and the salt water should in theory get rid of most of what's causing it. ", "if you work out and sweat a lot... use apple cider vinegar in the wash cycle to kill the bacteria that lingers (hence, the stench that can still exist). \n\nsunlight helps, never pop them, and stick to a routine (don't frequently change soap/body wash). use something with Salicylic acid. it might feel that it doesn't work, but for severe body acne i wouldn't suggest typical run of the mill soaps. they will dry out or irritate your skin further. they're inexpensive for a reason\n\ndiet is important. excess dairy can result in more acne in some.\n\ngood luck... acne sucks. sometimes you might just have to wait awhile and it'll clear up once you're older (hormones).", "either scrub your back with a loofa or just wait for it to go away. Mine got a little better with scrubbing but it eventually went away after 1-2 years. It takes awhile man", "[This helped tremendously when I was a teenager](http://c3.soap.com/images/products/p/jj/jj-1020_1z.jpg)", "Your diet will have a huge effect on how oily your skin all over your body is, try eating cleaner for a week and you'll notice the difference right away. Remember, you are what you eat.", "Your age is a big disadvantage here, but the good news is that part is temporary! Sunshine, exercise (sweating will help) followed by warm showers, healthy diet (you choose!) will all help. I've heard a number girls say that regular sex is the best thing (for acne too). Can't vouch for it myself, as I never did get that much as a teenager. I'd say it's worth a shot.", "You need to go see a doctor it will not go away on its own. If you are genuinely worried about it, you may have nodularcystic acne which is caused by bacteria breeding on the sebum you produce on your back. And yes sleeping on your back doesn't help because it causes it to get more sweaty thus harboring better conditions for bacteria growth. \n\n\nA doctor will prescribe three different medications before prescribing the strongest. \n\n1. Lymecycline\n\n2. Trimetheprine \n\n3. Erythromycin \n\nAll of the above are antibiotics that do not kill the bacteria that produce the acne but stop them from reproducing by destroying their cell structure. \n\nIt has been found (need reference) that a combination of a gel and pills are much more effective then pills alone. Therefore they may prescribe you Epiduo which is a mix between benzoyl peroxide and adapalene. \n\nIf it isn't that bad and you have a spot here and there on your back you should opt for 5% Benzoyl peroxide cream which you can get over the counter and it is very effective! ", "You need to apply a benzoyl peroxide gel all over your back. Try 2.5% or 5%. Don't wash it off or it won't help. ", "You may be like me, and need to always wear clothing only once before washing. You may even need to plan on having a second shirt if you get evenly moderatley sweaty - I know I do. Often, I don't even get sweaty, just casual wear throughout the day will result on a breakout if I don't rinse and change clothes. Being proactive like this is first annoying but eventually becomes routine and greatly reduces my acne/irritation. Clearly, i was meant to be naked. \n", "You could try getting more zinc in your diet. I know when I eat well I never get acne, but once things start to trail into munching I get a few. It wasnt ever bad, but my old hair stylist had TERRIBLE skin (so she said) before getting some zinc tablets.", "You can try rubbing some Aloe Vera Gelly on your back. My SO suffers from bacne and once in a while i'll rub aloe vera gelly on her back and you can see it work the next day, her back looks less damaged. I think you can get this gelly (i keep spelling it with a G because I think thats how it's labeled on the bottle) at the Vitamin Shoppe. Just rub it on your back every night before going to bed and it should start clearing away. :) ", "You can get 10% Benzoyl Peroxide wash from Walmart, but use it sparingly at first to test because it's pretty harsh stuff. But as people have been saying, the best thing you can do really is get into a dermatologist and get their help. From my experience, they're usually pretty booked, but after you get in once, you should be okay. \n\nBenzoyl peroxide at the very least should do more work than salycilic acid. I'm just guessing here, but I think the only reason salycilic acid is more readily available is because benzoyl peroxide must be used more carefully. For example, it will bleach clothes for sure, and potentially hair.", "When you are in the shower, and washing your hair, don't rinse and let it go down your back. Bend over and rinse.", "When you are done in the shower, turn the water to cold and let it cool your back. It will close the pores I guess? I read somewhere it helps.. but fuck cold water.", "Wear breathable shirts like cotton. Expose your back to a bit of sunshine if possible. Wash your back with gentle soap/what have you. Wash your sheets and generally keep the things that touch your back clean. Don't constantly change products, especially all at once, because your skin needs to grow accustomed to the new stuff (unless a dermatologist instructs you otherwise, but generally that is a good rule). And really, see a dermatologist, as others have suggested. They can give you further instruction; what I've said is just at the basic, external level.\n\nI had horrendous bacne as a teen (I'm a 20 year old female now); it was horrible- cystic, all over, and painful. I no longer have it. I have a lot of scars but the actual acne is gone. It pretty much went away on its own. For me, it was likely a hormone issue, because I didn't take any giant steps towards healing it other than a few of the things I mentioned above.\n\nI wish you luck! I hope it gets better and you find out something that helps.\n\nP.S. don't you dare pop or pick at the zits. Don't do it. That's why I have scars.", "Wash your sheets once or twice a week with good ol bleach and drink lots of water. Diet did the most for my acne than anything else. Stress was the 2nd biggest problem. Stress could have been the first but controlling my diet and eating healthier made it easier to deal with things in turn made the acne disappear. ", "Wash when you wake up, wash before you go to sleep. Don't wash with scolding hot water. When you dry your back off, do so gently; Pat don't rub. Change your sheets often. Pay attention to the soap you use - get rid of unneeded moisturizers and conditioners - some people have allergic (inflammatory) responses to certain cosmetics and detergents. Wear clothes that breath well and consider laundering them with a different detergent. \n\nAsk your Dr. to prescribe you a 4% benzoyl peroxide wash. (Your doctor, like mine, may not know what this is, but that's because it doesn't have a fancy Name Brand and most Doctors don't read enough on the topic of acne to be up to date with current objective based practice. Your pharmacy will know what this is.)\n4% is important, as it seems to provide the greatest effect in controlling acne without over drying the skin. There are numerous studies which confirm this; if you're interested I can dig up the links. [In summary these studies compared 0 (control), 2,4,6,8, and 10% solutions and found 4% to be the most effective]. Discuss with your doctor antibiotics, and if your acne is localized, discuss topical options such as benzamycin. Side note: benzamycin contains benzoyl peroxide, so doubling up would not be necessary.\n\nTopical Salicylic acid 2-3% and a 400 mg of ibuprofen regimen can be used to help reduce inflammation, soreness, and the positive feedback loop on acne these two symptoms promote. The two of these anti-inflammatory agents can be used in conjunction because they have 2 separate methods of action. (If you don't want to take ibuprofen, substitute with Omega-3 fatty acids. They will have a similar anti-inflammatory effect - but to a lesser extent)\n\nAs an Anecdote, I can confirm that Sunlight can also help - but the impact UV has on acne is inconclusive. I read a study out of Japan about 2 or 3 years ago that was testing red vs blue wavelength light for treating acne and found a mixed bag of generally positive conclusions. I wouldn't go so far as to treat with light, but if you're an adventurous type and have a few bucks to spare - you may want to consider it. I had a friend who insisted that going to the tanning salon at the lowest UV rating for 5-7 minutes one time per week helped him. But I am pasty and don't want cancer - so that really wasn't an option for me.\n\n\nFor years I had painful, cystic acne on my back. By performing the tasks laid out here - I was able to completely control my acne. Best of luck to you.", "Try cutting all sugar and HFCS out of your diet. This is what helped me improve my acne and I have a lot of acne on my back and some very embarrassing scars. \n\nMost people ingest way more sugar than they should. This includes anything with artificial sweeteners. Drink nothing but water and maybe some black coffee/tea if you need some caffeine. Nearly every processed food you could find on the store shelves has HFCS in it so this may end up being a drastic change to your diet. ", "Those are some extensive answers, but a simple thing you can try is to find a toner with salicylic acid, put in squirt bottle and spray on your back after showers or twice a day if its bad. Some toners come with spray bottles in the first place. You can also look for a body wash with salicylic or glycol acid for the back. Try it first, it shouldn't cost you more than $15. ", "This site goes through methods of getting rid of it and sells good price products, if you want to buy from them: http://www.acne.org/treatments.html", "There's a lot of comments that I haven't read, so I apologize if someone already mentioned this, but a good tip is wear a different shirt to bed every night - wash them after each use. change your pillow case every night, and if you're a girl, wash your bras after every use.", "There are some lame medical studies that suggest zinc supplements may help. Young men and minorities seem to be more effected and the treatments were most effective on them. Zinc can be harsh to a sensitive stomach. ", "The only thing that's worked for me is using a long handled scrub brush with neutrogena body wash that I get on amazon.", "The only thing that worked for me in high school was Accutane, which I don't think is even on the market anymore. But that took care of the cystic acne.\n\nI still got pimples on my back regularly (pretty much always had at least 2-3 in some stage of healing) until I went on a very low carb diet, but my acne was most likely tied to a hormone imbalance issue, so that's probably not going to help you.", "The best luck i've had is buying a bunch of cheap undershirts, changing into them before bed, and taking them off in the morning. I still get a little bit, but none of the really bad stuff.\n\nI also have stopped using soap and shampoo entirely. I just scrub with a medium brush in warm water, then cool water, then downright cold water. It's increased the time I spend in the shower by a few minutes, but I'm liking the effect.\n\nThere's a pinnacle of greasiness about a week in, and then things start to normalize.", "Take as cold showers as you can! The hot water opens up you pores and let's them clog more easily. This will help your facial skin as well. It really turned my situation around. That and using a nice scrub on my back. Even using lukewarm water is better.\n", "Surprisingly effective for me: frequent use of a sauna, as hot as you can take it for as long as you can take it. Seems to open up all your pores and flush everything out via profuse sweating followed by a nice clean shower.", "Surprised that no body has said this yet, but it is amazing what moisturizing can do for acne. Just last year I started using face lotion and body lotion and my acne breakouts have become scarce. Soap will clean the skin but also dry it out and irritate it causing it to break out. I say go buy some aftershave facial lotion(hypoallergenic) and use it after you dry your face from a shower/facewash. For body lotion I use the gold bond medicated stuff and for the face I use Mens After Shave lubriderm face and body lotion. ", "Sunlight! If you live in a place where you can, get 15-20minutes of direct sunlight on your skin about 2 times a week.\n\nI had bacne for years and was so embarrased I always wore a shirt when swimming etc. Ironically, finally taking my shirt off, is the only thing that reliably has gotten rid of it. \n\n It's actually a well known phenomenon, but visible wavelength light penetrates to the correct depth of skin to heat and kill the bacteria that cause acne. Note, that it's visible light (not UV) that's effective, so in principle this would work being in the sun even with sunscreen on, but not if your skin reacts poorly to sunscreen. 15min shouldn't be enough to burn you (hopefully).\n\n", "Struggeled with this for years, and I ended up going to a dermatologist.\n\nHe prescribed something called Roaccutane or Isotretinoin. I used something called Tetracycline before, but that didnt do anything.\n\nRoaccutane worked wonders. A few weeks and I was almost completely healed. All it did to me is that it dried my lips... a lot.\n\nBut now I dont use them, haven't used them for a couple of years, and I'm done getting acne anywhere on my body. I stopped getting acne at all after I started on Roaccutane.\n\nThat is my suggestion", "Stop using soap or \"body wash\" completely... I've been backne free for over three months after the one week adjustment period.\n\n- you can continue to use soap on the nether-regions... That's fine.", "Stop eating junk/fried foods. Eat more vegetables and healthy stuff?\n\nWhen I started eating right and losing weight, my skin cleared right up.", "Steam baths - once or twice a week over 2 months should help.\nAlso a loofah or a rough-ish towel for your back.\n", "Speak to a doctor. Acne comes in many forms and has many causes. What works for one person will not work for another, and vice-versa. ", "Shower in the morning, apply zit soap all over affected area, put lotion on your back when you get out.\n\nShower before you go to bed, apply zit soap all over affected area, put lotion on your back when you get out. \n\nWear a fresh tshirt to bed every night\n\nRinse and Repeat for 2 weeks. \n\n**note this only works if this is regular bacne, not cystic acne. For cystic acne you need to see your doctor", "Short cold showers will make a HUUUUGE difference. They did for me. Also, use fresh clean towels, and wash your bed sheets often.\n\nAlso, there was a girl on here recently who said she had been using raw honey mixed with warm water and dabbing it on with cotton balls, leaving it on for 15 min, and had the pictures to show her great results.", "See a dermatologist. It's not that the advice here is bad, but that certain things work for some people and not for others, and you could spend years trying out all of these. At least the dermatologist will help you through the most likely problems and fixes, and if those don't work then you can progress to some of the more obscure \"remedies\" here. ", "See a dermatologist. It is unlikely any particular habit is causing this.\n\nI used to think that my teen acne was 30-50% my fault, but it really wasn't at all.", "Salycylic acid never worked for me, but 10% benzoyl peroxide works like a charm. Look for \"Clean and Clear\".", "Rub raw apple cider vinegar on your back. It will burn a little but works. If you have it on your face, it will clear that up, too. If you can't deal with the smell or slight burning, try the apple cider vinegar pills. For the cider, make sure you use the brand called Braggs, as it's organic and te purest form. I would rub the cider on your back until the acne goes away and then take the pills to keep it under control. Also cut back on dairy, and consider eventually cutting dairy out of your diet permanently. ", "One thing I did that helped a little was made sure in the shower that I washed and conditioned my hair and THEN washed my skin. Made sure nothing oily or creamy from my hair was going to be sitting on my skin. \n\nAlso, if you work out at all, make sure you rinse off as soon as possible. ", "One of my friends from college would get back acne every time he had lots of sugars. We would go to Chipotle almost every friday and he would house like 4 or 5 sodas. Once he stopped doing that, the majority of it cleared up. Do you intake a lot a sugar?", "Oh! I can answer this one! I used to have horrible Backne and now no more! Go to Rite Aid/CVS/Duane Reid and pick up St. Ives Apricot scrub. Use that shit on your back every sine time you shower. It might not completely go away but you will notice a huge difference in two or three weeks. Incorporate it into your regular shower routine. ", "None of this hokey stuff... get to a doctor and get medicated. As 35 year old that tried all the Old Wives' remedies, then finally used antibiotics, then Isotane at around 30, I can attest to the absolute waste of time most other things were for actually solving the problem fast and forever.\n\nThe many years I have wasted have lead to terrible scarring which has in turn lead to a self-conciousness that stops me from ever really enjoying going shirtless at the beach or pool etc. I haven't been for a proper swim for 15 years, which is hard for someone who practically grew up in the water. Don't let yourself get this way, get professional help immediately.", "Longtime bacne sufferer, mostly from oily skin and playing sports, everyday. Recently, (3-4 months) I've been 90% clear! without meds, thought a couple real changes. If you've got back hair, get laser removal. Groupon usually has ads for this. Shower immediately after sporting events, and get a glove or exfoliating back scratch thing. Biggest thing, changed diet. Went paleo, and cut out processed food and dairy. I'd heard it was good for your skin, was super skeptical, now an ardent believer. \nGodspeed, I know it sucks. ", "Just don't touch it at all and keep your sheets and your skin clean.\n\n\"Just.\" That's when I start seeing it disapear for me but comes back when I slip back into pinching and scratching... :(", "Juliet 35-ed, hormonal contraceptive (if you're female). Worked for me, just have a bit of scaring left but no more flare ups , also, added extra of no baby surprises! \n", "It should be obvious, but shower at least once per day - Maybe even twice a day and anytime after sweating / physical activity.\n\nAlso, if you eat shit food \"fast food, deep fried this or that, processed food\" — stop eating that, it's adding to the problem. (and it's awful for you)", "If you're a woman you can go on birth control pills. Certain brands work better for acne than others, my dermatologist recommended the Yaz family of BC pills. ", "If you don't change your bed sheets often, do it at least once every two weeks if not more. This is often the cause because you're sleeping in body oils that clog up your pores", "If its posing a health risk, see a doctor. Are you on steroids? I took Accutane and it really improved my life (despite the horror stories), but that was for face acne. ", "I've seen major improvements with a change in diet. I've eliminated sugar, bread, and dairy.\n\nI've also allowed my back to breathe a bit more as well, meaning I'm not covering it up all the time. That allows the skin to flake off, rather than clump up on fabrics, collect bacteria, then stick back onto your back again.\n\nI exercise. I sweat, and I'm using testosterone. These also help slow the production of acne.\n\nI wash my sheets regularly, and I never re-wear a shirt before it's washed if I've worn it previously.", "I've had bad acne fore a few years. I've noticed two things:\n\n1.) junk food creates breakouts\n\n2.) sweat/general dirtieness causes breakouts\n\nShowers and eat well should help reduce acne. I've also heard soaking your back in vinegar for 10-15 minutes before a shower helps, but I never kept it up consistently to see whether it works or not", "I'm late to the party but all my acne into my 20s stayed no matter the soap, cleaning, clothes, etc\n\nWhat finally worked in keto. \n\nCan't say why but maybe the high water intake or absence of sugar (carbs) in my system had something to do with it. But whenever I comment on keto clearing skin to awesome porcelain levels, other people say it worked for them too", "I use a simple bar of antibacterial soap. Make sure you use it *after* you have rinsed out whatever conditioner from your hair or other products you apply in the shower. Antibacterial soap is pretty drying and generally too harsh to use everywhere but I've found it to be quite good for acne on back and shoulders. Of course different acne treatments work differently for different people but I thought this suggestion might work for you.", "I use a 10% benzoyl peroxide wash. The PanOxy one is the best I have found, I've basically tried them all. As long as you do a quick wash every day with it you will see a big improvement on cysts. Let is sit on your back for about 15 to 30 seconds before rinsing too.", "I tried all of them. \n\nOne trip to the dermatologist after years of suffering (I has insurance but maybe I was embarrassed?) and he said \"oh this is not something you'll fix with topical solutions.\"\n\n9 months of Accutane later (haters be damned), my life was forever changed. \n\nOnly wish I had done it earlier. I'm scarred because of it. ", "I saw this on Reddit 2 or 3 years ago and no one seems to have mentioned it.. When you're in the shower, before you get out, crank the water up really hot and let it run on your back for a few minutes, then turn it down cold and do the same. Opens all the pores up, flushes them out, then closes them back up.\n\nI've always had a bit of acne, tried medication and such when I was younger, most products just dried out my skin so I had lots of pimples just with dry skin. Whats worked for me has been not using any products at all, just a flannel(facecloth for some?) and cold water morning and evening. I exfoliate once a week, unless I have any pimples that exfoliating might make bleed, and use coconut oil once or twice a week when my skin feels a little dry. Plus clean sheets and pillow cases, showering asap after being sweaty, that sort of thing.", "I noticed when I was taking very hot showers it seemed to dry my skin and cause some breakouts.\n\nNot sure if you could try to take a more warm Shower that might help. \n\n", "I lived in Japan for a year, and since I am originally from a land-locked state, I swam in the ocean at least once a week while I was there (except in winter months, of course). The salt water did wonders for my skin and totally cleared up my back acne. I think my skin being out in the sun helped a lot, too. If you are anywhere near a body of salt water, try swimming there when it gets warmer. Or, you could maybe try some kind of salt water soak in the bathtub?", "I just took a few pills from the doctor and it disappeared for good. Some sort of bacteria infected it. Check yourself before you... Wash your sheets. ", "I heard that \"Head and Shoulders\" plus a non comedogenic moisturizer helped cure some guy of his back acne.", "I haven't seen this solution mentioned:\n\nI went for a regular check up with my DO and asked if there was anything for my back acne. It wasn't THAT severe, but I still wanted it gone. Well, he noticed pattern with the acne that kind of lined up with my spine and muscles. \n\nSo, he just cracked my back. That's it. It cleared up. No creams. No diet or hygiene change. It's not for everyone but it honestly worked for me. I've never been to a chiropractor, so I was skeptic, but it was cool. I love DO's. \n\n", "I have yet to try it but in another post a guy told of his experiences he told that eating less dairy and red meats help. Also eating less grains helped majorly. Grains was the most important part. ", "I have found that Alba botanical products have really helped my face and other trouble spots on my body. Also, Himalayan salt dabbed on any super big painful ones has helped dry them out fast. ", "I had this really bad when I was your age. Tried everything and then my mom started using a different kind of laundry detergent and that helped a lot. Might be worth a try", "I had this problem terribly in high school and I've gotten it somewhat under control.\n\nShower every morning and after any exercise\nTry to change your bed sheets once a week\nWear a t-shirt to bed, and change that shirt every other day\nChange your pillow case every other day\nDo not use old pillows (you can tell they are old by off-white-yellow-brown oil stains from your head)\nAvoid oily and greasy foods like potato chips and pizza\n\nbest of luck to you, I never used any medication, nor special washes or shampoos, I just kept myself clean and the things around me clean. Don't touch your face! :P", "I had severe acne on my shoulders and back when I was a kid. They would pop and I would get blood on my shirts. It eventually got so bad I couldn't really wear a back pack anymore. My face was zitty too, but the back was the real problem.\n\nMy doctor put me on some stuff called Acutane and also tetracycline (possibly the tetracycline was first and didn't work?). It gave me severe bloody chapped lips for about six months, I was to avoid the sun, and then, \"magically\" they were gone, replaced by a permanent array of tiny scars which like to tell people are from when I got shot in the back with a shotgun.\n\nIt sounds pretty lousy, and it was, but I am sure fucking glad there was a treatment.\n\nI'm better now!", "I had major acne issues. On my face, back and chest. Hadn't taken off my shirt in front of people for two years straight. Heck I was even shy of wearing short sleeved shirts because the acne went down to my fore arms. I'd tried over 30 different medicines, creams, pads, soaps and lotions and nothing worked. The only thing that worked for me was accutane. 1 year course of it. Acne free now but I have a lot of scars to show for what I had. See a dermatologist, they'll know best.\n\nSpeaking of which I have a few girl friends who had hormonal acne and not even a lifelong course of accutane could've helped them. You need to see a doctor. \n\n", "I had it and started washing/conditioning my hair with it flipped forward so it wouldn't run down my back. (Don't forget to wash your face after) Then I'd use Head and Shoulders or Prell shampoo to wash my body off. Prell is great if you don't want your nether bits to get minty.\n\nAlso wearing more clean cotton shirts and changing my sheets regularly really helped. Oh and, it back breakouts could be a reaction to your clothing detergent. So maybe try a new one.", "I had bacne all throughout college... tried everything out there short of medication. Stopped scrubbing my back so hard while washing, like barely put any pressure while cleaning it. Worked wonders", "I found that a small dab of alcohol on a q-tip does wonders. I do this daily (sometimes twice) on my face and back. This both kills germs on the surface, and dries out the skin a little bit. To avoid damaging your skin too much by drying it out I suggest you balance this with a daily moisturizer. I'd suggest a face moisturizer, and a generic/hand moisturizer for pretty much everywhere else.", "I don't know if this will help you or not, but I switched laundry detergents and run an extra rinse on all of my shirts and sheets. I now have no back/arm/chest acne and have next to no ingrown hair.", "I did the thing of changing sheets, sleeping on towels, cutting out dairy and none of it worked. I've had a little success with doing several things:\n\n1. Every second day I scrub my back and shoulders with \"Dark Angels\" body scrub from Lush. I've tried *a lot* of body scrubs and, so far, this is the only one that has had some kind of noticeable effect.\n\n2. After I shower, even if I didn't scrub, I will moisturize my skin with a tea-tree based moisturizer that is non-comedogenic (it doesn't clog pores). I use the Tea Tree Night Lotion from The Body Shop. It's supposed to be for your face, but it's been working okay on my back.\n\n3. During the summer, I will try to tan. The sun does more to help my back/shoulder acne than anything else.\n\nIt's an uphill battle; one that I expect to fight for the rest of my life. I have tried salicylic acid, too. I've tried body washes and lotions with it in but it hasn't much helped. I tried using wart remover which has the acid at a *much* higher concentration. This works well for those giant zits that stick around for weeks or months, but I've managed to give myself some chemical burns from it.", "I also have bacne too, it's the worst thing ever. And for me personally, it starts to itch really bad whenever I run or am out in the sun. fml", "Hey mate, Seriously give Honey a try. Just pure 100% honey. I've heard it works wonders for many people :)\n\n+/u/reddtipbot 100 rdd", "Go to the dermatologist. My acne improved immensely once I visited mine and was prescribed proper medication. ", "Go to acne.org and read or watch the back regimen. I ordered the product from the site but it is all available at a store near you. I've been using the benzoyl peroxide and aha and I have cleared up completely.", "Go to a spa. They will extract and treat all the acne. This will usually do the trick or lessen the issue. If the acne comes back but there is less of it, hit up the spa again. If it comes back the same or doesn't work you'll probably have to hit up a dermatologist. Peroxide can do the trick as well. There's this stuff called Zapzit which is a cream-gel form of peroxide. If you decide to try it know it will dry out the problem area, and discolor your clothing, bedding or towels. (Other suggestions are sunbathing and tanning beds.) Hope this helps.", "Go to a dermatologist. Nothing worked for me, except Accutane (or a generic drug), not even any creams, that he had prescribed me earlier.", "Go to a dermatologist who is interested in your diet and life. If they just take a look and suggest a topical cream without even asking about your diet and life, they suck. There are doctors who understand that your health (including acne) is an interrelated system and there are doctors who see your symptoms from a simplistic cause-effect isolated system viewpoint. Find the former and work with them. If they are legit, they will work with you and help you find out what is going on. ", "Get some of this... and this\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Trader-Joes-Vitamin-Oil-E/dp/B003W2X4QU/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1392843483&sr=8-3&keywords=vitamin+e+oil\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Ambi-Skincare-Cream-Normal-Ounce/dp/B005CRJUEI/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1392843346&sr=8-2&keywords=ambi\n\nThen alternate between hydrating your skin (yes your back needs lotion too) with Vitamin E and using Ambi.\nMy routine (I've had backne... now scars.) is to \n1. take a shower at night \n2. Change towels every 2-3 days\n3. Use Vitamin E or Ambi for my back \n4. Change the shirt I sleep in Every 2-3 days. \n\nPM me if you'd like to talk more about how to get rid of acne naturally. ", "Get an exfoliating washcloth. It worked wonders for me. They are really cheep and work very well.\n\nHere's one you can by at Walmart for under $4.\n\n http://mobile.walmart.com/#ip/Paris-Presents-Woven-Washcloth-07276/16935746 ", "GOLDBOND MEDICATED BODY POWDER. Menthol soothes powder absorbs. I consider it the cure to my bacne even though I still get some. Please try it.", "Drugs work pretty good but some people have reactions to them; there is no perfect drug. I had back acne and stopped wearing a back pack and it went away pretty quickly. The amount of perspiration on my back from the heat trapped by the back pack lead to my back acne.", "Don't wear shirts at night sleeping. They will accumulate dirt, sweat, etc.\n Try not to sleep on your back. Purchase a back scrubber and scrub your back in the shower. Spend a moment at the end of your shower having the shower spray your back with increasing levels of hot water to open the pores and give it a final once over.\n\nacne is created due to uncleaned areas gethering dirt and oil. opening and clearing out pours and not wearing shirts at night will help you a bunch....and wash your sheets weekly.", "Don't use fabric softener sheets on your clothes. Use the clear, scent free laundry detergent. Keep your clothes exceptionally clean. Wear a clean under shirt to bed each night.\n\nWash your body with Sensun Blue Naturals shampoo. It contains 3% Salicylic acid. That should clear your shit up.", "Do Bikram/hot yoga 4 times a week. The sweating is amazing for the skin and the overall health benefits will make you feel alive and strong. Also, since what you eat and when you eat it makes such a huge difference in how tough the classes are, you will transform your diet and eat less. Win win. ", "Disregard every other advice in this thread and get a drug called Roaccutane from your dermatologist. Anectodal evidence such as the top post wont help and getting rid of acne via antibiotics is a long process often without result. \nRoaccutane will literally dry out the acne, but it means that your skin (mainly on your face since skin is softest there) will be really dry. It has numeral other side effects which might scare you, but in my experience nobody had any serious problems with Roaccutane. Just buy a lips moisturizer and eye-drops for the dryness. Don't use if you're pregnant!", "Clean shave your head, abandon conditioner. Use a good hypoallergenic lotion for your entire head. Use the double rinse setting on your washing machine. No fabric softener. Drink lots of water.\n\nJust kidding. (Unless you want to shave your head.)\n\nDon't do the lotion thing if you're not shaving your head. ;)", "Check out /r/SkincareAddiction for some helpful suggestions. Also, try to get an appointment with a dermatologist.", "Besides seeing a dermatologist, I'd just like to point out that it's salicylic acid. And for your back, a cleanser containing benzoyl peroxide as the primary ingredient will help more than SA. PanOxyl makes some good ones. ", "Amlactin Body Lotion. \n\nMany people suffering from back, chest, shoulder, and butt acne actually have Keratosis Pilaris or KP. Amlactin has Alpha Hydroxy acids (AHA's) that work to chemically exfoliate the skin. After suffering from body acne for 15 years, even after Accutane, amlactin is the one thing that works.", "Alright little buddy, I'll give you my two cents to help out as well.\n\nI'm 26 and I never really had issues with acne, not like my brothers. Still, I seemed to have more than the average Joe, especially on my back (oddly my T-Zone was clear most of the time post High School). I, like you, have tried to use louffa's, body scrubs of many brands, so on and so on.\n\nI've had to work at it for about 12 years now, so I hope some or all of these ideas work well for you.\n\nDiet: I eat generally what I want. That being said, what I generally want is proteins and vegetables (think chicken and mixed veggies). Eat as healthy as you can tolerate, not as healthy as you can. That's just silly and you'll revert back to old diets. Eat as healthy as you can tolerate and be conscientious of what you're eating.\n\nSheets: Glad to see that you wash your sheets semi-regularly. My parents always said to wash them once a month. Try to double whatever you're washing your sheets up and to an arbitrary once a week (any more and that just seems excessive). \n\nPro-Active: There are little kiosks around that you can go to. This is the final straw on the camel's back that rid me of most of my bacne. I have tried about 4-5 other body washes, and used spot treatment and all that jazz on the zits. Nothing worked, until I used Pro-Active body wash cleansing thing. I don't use a ton, I don't know, as much as seems reasonable, and I step away from the water. I sort of do whatever back wash I normally do (like, a few good hand rubs per side and then a few in between the shoulder blades with each hand) and wait what seems a reasonable amount of time. Maybe 10-15 seconds. Then I rinse off and call it.", "Accutane. Accutane. ACCUTANE. I has cystic backne that was awful. Tried antibotics, body washes, the whole 9 yards. Accutane cleared it up completely, it never came back, and it's been 15 years. It completely rebooted my body chemistry in a way that also cleared up my oily skin everywhere else. Take it, drink lots of water, stay out of the sun, and moisturize. That stuff is magic.", "A few has suggested apple cider vinegar, but all have suggested applying on the affected area. What worked for me was drinking diluted acv twice a day. I use a 1 part acv to 10 parts water.", "10 minutes a week on a tanning bed cleared up my bacne pretty quickly. The UV light kills bacteria on your skin and the slight tan you get makes the bacne less noticeable. ", "/r/skincare\n\nBut also, you may have an allergy to an ingredient in your shampoo or conditioner. That's a common source of bacne. ", "- use a back brush to gently exfoliate your back. This worked for me but I only had a mild case.\n- low GI diet (avoid sugar, starches) is supposed to help\n- oral antibiotics (tetracycline or erythromycin). This worked really well but have their own set of problems, like gastric upset plus you can only take them for a year or so.\n- more suggestions here http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Bacne", "This. This. This. Just follow the directions on the box and you'll see a big improvement. I even use this as a spot treatment. It will dry your skin out if you over use it, but just exfoliate the dry skin off and moisturize. S Acid never worked for me at all. \n\nhttp://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.asp?pid=216499&catid=182284&aid=339081&aparam=id216499\n\nI use the Walgreens generic brand since its a little cheaper. But you can find this stuff in a lot of stores, not just online.", "Get a juicer and juice every morning. Will clear up not only acne/bacne, but fixes a million other things as well. 2 carrots, 2 celery sticks, handful of spinach, half a beet, and half ounce of ginger.", "Alright, I'll bite. Do you want to get healthy and get over the metabolic condition that we call acne, or do you want some bandaid?\n\n", "Acne is a medical problem, and the only thing other then medical intervention that will cure it is time (You have to get through puberty). Go see a dermatologist. They can help you.\n\nI'm in my 40's, but had a pretty serious Acne problem in High School. Face, chest, and back. Dermatologist prescribed Accutane, and it took care of the problem in just a few months. It was a godsend. If you're male, you just take the pills. Female patients may have to go on birth control, because it can cause birth defects." ]

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[ "The food supply has been disrupted for a month. What skills or materials does one need to survive? More context, lives close to urban area along the coastline.", "The food supply has been disrupted for a month. What skills or materials does one need to survive? More context, lives close to urban area along the coastline.", "The food supply has been disrupted for a month. What skills or materials does one need to survive? More context, lives close to urban area along the coastline.", "The food supply has been disrupted for a month. What skills or materials does one need to survive? More context, lives close to urban area along the coastline.", "The food supply has been disrupted for a month. What skills or materials does one need to survive? More context, lives close to urban area along the coastline." ]

[ "Food. You need food if you can't go get food.\n\nIf something hits you overnight, you're going to be using whatever resources are already in your home. You can set up ways to source food, but you can't grow a garden in a day. \n\nBuy a couple bags of rice and lentils now. Plant your potatoes now if you have a place to do it. Rotate your stock of shelf stable food so you're using the oldest stuff first and expand your supplies until you have about thirty pounds of dry supplies per person. \n\nExamples of dry supplies would be rice, beans, flour, lentils, and cornmeal. Cooking oil and multivitamins would also be useful, but one extra container per person is probably going to be more than enough of those. \n\nYou get these things now while the trucks are moving so they're not stuck at a warehouse in an emergency.", "To survive at all? Probably just make sure you have access to clean water. Most people have fat stores and muscle tissue enough to survive at least month or more without food. That’s the most extreme case.", "Stock up with however much food remains, but don't ration it out in the way you think you should. Eat each day until you aren't hungry but don't overindulge. That's your ration for the day, *not* setting a set amount per day and still being hungry at the end.\n\nWhen that runs out, you could other outsource to other stores or turn to survival skills. Know how to make water safe to drink (in particular saltwater). Have at least some awareness of local fish, whether that's the direction you're taking or not. Lastly familiarize yourself with some of the local plants as well. I do warn you though, you're likely inexperienced with plants so *do not* use your own advice to determine what's safe to eat. You can use that information to pick out what *might* be safe to eat and find someone more suited for the task.", "If shit really does hit the fan and society collapses all the wild game and lake fish will disappear rather quickly due to unregulated overhunting and overfishing. However, the oceans will recover since commercial fishing will be greatly reduced. So it makes sense to live by the ocean and own a boat. Also, grow weed.", "Check out [Josh Centers' Unprepared articles](https://www.unprepared.life/) all about things that are coming (food shortages, power outages, and more) and things you can do now to prepare" ]

[ 8, 2, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to untangle a slinky. Once my slinky becomes even slightly tangled, there is <0.0000001% chance that I will be able to untangle it.", "How to untangle a slinky. Once my slinky becomes even slightly tangled, there is <0.0000001% chance that I will be able to untangle it.", "How to untangle a slinky. Once my slinky becomes even slightly tangled, there is <0.0000001% chance that I will be able to untangle it." ]

[ "What I do is stretch out different parts of it to try untangle it in sections. Then I throw it out and buy a new slinky because it never works.", "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlJujoqWnw0 \nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SX4-VaG_XcI \nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sf3XsFo4b8", "Grip the wire between your thumb and index finger at one end, then feed the whole thing through your grip; you should be able to work out the kinks this way." ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?", "How to put off car thieves? Recently, I had someone steal a GPS and some earbuds out of my car at night. The car wasn't actually locked because the alarm system was broken and would go off when the car was locked, so I had to leave it unlocked until I fixed it.\n\nWell, dumb ass me forgot a GPS device in there and found that somebody snatched it.\n\nI lock up every time now, but what are some other tips I could use to further deter possible thievery?" ]

[ "* Remove valuables from sight, preferably in the boot/trunk.\n* Remove small circles left from suckers from the windows.\n* Allow my wife to borrow the car for a couple of hours, the amount of shite she leaves behind in the form of empty coffee cups, makeup smudges on the seats and random bits of paper will make anyone assume you're either homeless and potentially sleeping in the car or they may feel sorry for you and leave you some cash.", "If you have anything valuable in your car remove it from view. Hide your GPS, tablets, cell phones, phone charger, phone dock, any other electronics, jewelry, etc from view. Put in your trunk or glove box. If a car thief can't find anything worth taking, they are a lot more likely to move on to the next car and hope someone left something valuable in their car in plain sight.", "Park in lit areas, avoid bushes or trees where someone could use it as cover. Along with what other people said, don't leave anything of value in the car.", "I always keep my valuables out of sight in my car. It's not really that helpful if tint laws are strict in your state, but I also have my windows tinted quite dark so nobody can see inside. I think the most effective thing I did though was install a blinking LED light in the corner of my windshield so if someone thinks about breaking in my vehicle, they'll see I have a alarm", "remove everything valuable and leave trays, consoles, etc open for the thief to see there is nothing to steal ", "my mom has a 03 neon, nothing expensive really, but she got a blinking light installed just under the wheel to the left, its supposed to simulate like a security thing or somethign that you see on new cars. lol", "The easiest is just to not store valuables in the car. If that isn't an option keep them (in order of secureness) in the trunk, glovebox, or under a seat. Also park in a well lit, highly visible area.\n\nRemember too that you can only do so much to prevent theft. You are protecting yourself against the lazy thief. A determined one will find your valuables no matter where you hide them. Sad yes, but true.", "1. Don't leave your car unlocked.\n\n2. Even if you absolutely can't lock the doors, don't leave expensive things in an unlocked car. In fact, don't leave expensive things in a car at all, but especially in plain sight.\n\nTa-da!" ]

[ 9, 5, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to reject an invitation. How to reject an invitation in a way that doesn't offends the inviter, but you don't have any reasonable excuse other than not wanting to go. \nBy invitation I mean stuff like a party, going out for lunch, a trip, etc.\n", "How to reject an invitation. How to reject an invitation in a way that doesn't offends the inviter, but you don't have any reasonable excuse other than not wanting to go. \nBy invitation I mean stuff like a party, going out for lunch, a trip, etc.\n", "How to reject an invitation. How to reject an invitation in a way that doesn't offends the inviter, but you don't have any reasonable excuse other than not wanting to go. \nBy invitation I mean stuff like a party, going out for lunch, a trip, etc.\n" ]

[ "\"I'm not going to make it, but thanks for inviting me!\"\n\nSay it with genuine gratitude but without adding in that you \"wish you could go\" (you could, in fact), or that you \"might make it,\" or that you'll \"check your calendar,\" or any other hedges. I find folks usually respect your decision and don't push you. Unless they are dicks.", "Honestly. The best way I go with it is just to say that you can't go. No explanations, just that you can't go. If they press you for an explanation, that's on your own head as to what excuse to give them. But most people won't ask why. ", "I read a book called \"How to Instantly Connect with Anybody\" and it helped me on things like this a lot. In this case, you act enthusiastic about the invitation and then offer to pen it down on your schedule/calendar on your phone. When doing so (even if you're really not), look genuinely disappointed and tell them that you've had something important to do for some time that you forgot about. Draw it out a bit and act genuine and you should be fine!" ]

[ 18, 6, -3 ]

[ "How to greet people? When to go for a handshake or hug? What to do when you're introduced to someone? ", "How to greet people? When to go for a handshake or hug? What to do when you're introduced to someone? " ]

[ "Try to read their body language. Note if they are stepping towards you and how close, and where their arms/hands are relative to their body. You don't need to hug someone if they don't initiate it; people who are huggers will be diving into you before you even know it, so don't worry about that. \n\nAdmittedly, I usually just do an awkward wave unless I feel like giving them a handshake or see that they're already extending their arm(s) and leaning in. Honestly you can go either way, just be confident and they will follow suit. Or vice versa. But handshakes are safest if you aren't sure and feel it's appropriate to make some sort of contact.", "How well do you know the person? There are very few (probably none) instances where it's appropriate to go for a hug when first meeting" ]

[ 3, 1 ]

[ "How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ", "How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ", "How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? ", "How to keep your voice going for hours of reading to small children I have a policy of never using a boring voice whilst reading to my little friends. However, reading all kinds of animated, exciting voices just makes them want to hear more-- and before long I'm completely out of a voice! Any tips? " ]

[ "In boot camp our RDCs told our cadence caller to suck on lemons. Not sure why but it helped sooth his throat and vocal cords so he wouldn't get horse.", "If you feel the tickle dont clear your throat, the action inflames the vocal cords. I have a vocal problem and my speech therapist said to reduce the strain practice good vocal hygine and learn diaphramatic breathing, you use less of your vocal cords for the detail work. ", "As a trombone player and singer I personally use spicy horseradish mustard on soft pretzels alternated with orange Gatorade and vocal stretching/massages. I also use chop saver balm (trombone Chapstick) that keeps your lips from going numb an smells kinda lemon-ey.", "After working in summer day camp and talking myself hoarse for weeks on end...\n\nGargling. I don't know why, but just gargling water at random periods throughout the day helped keep my voice from going too hard. " ]

[ 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Having a solid friendship with people you meet after you are 20 I have a couple friend but I would like to meet more people. I used to do it but every time it felt like I was a character joining a TV show in 3rd or 4th season while in 1st and 2nd seasons all characters already bounded and are faaaaar more valuable to each other than I will ever be. (and I will probably have a sexual affair with one of the main characters by season 4, vanish, make a small and annoying cameo in season 6 and vanish again)\n\nYou know, there are people who know each other since they were 12, 14 or something and here I am this dude you meet when you are 20 you barely give a shit about.\n\nBasicly, how can I make people 'care' about me? Because that always felt like a problem. Like I always felt like it was an unnecessary friendship compared to older ones.\n\n", "Having a solid friendship with people you meet after you are 20 I have a couple friend but I would like to meet more people. I used to do it but every time it felt like I was a character joining a TV show in 3rd or 4th season while in 1st and 2nd seasons all characters already bounded and are faaaaar more valuable to each other than I will ever be. (and I will probably have a sexual affair with one of the main characters by season 4, vanish, make a small and annoying cameo in season 6 and vanish again)\n\nYou know, there are people who know each other since they were 12, 14 or something and here I am this dude you meet when you are 20 you barely give a shit about.\n\nBasicly, how can I make people 'care' about me? Because that always felt like a problem. Like I always felt like it was an unnecessary friendship compared to older ones.\n\n", "Having a solid friendship with people you meet after you are 20 I have a couple friend but I would like to meet more people. I used to do it but every time it felt like I was a character joining a TV show in 3rd or 4th season while in 1st and 2nd seasons all characters already bounded and are faaaaar more valuable to each other than I will ever be. (and I will probably have a sexual affair with one of the main characters by season 4, vanish, make a small and annoying cameo in season 6 and vanish again)\n\nYou know, there are people who know each other since they were 12, 14 or something and here I am this dude you meet when you are 20 you barely give a shit about.\n\nBasicly, how can I make people 'care' about me? Because that always felt like a problem. Like I always felt like it was an unnecessary friendship compared to older ones.\n\n" ]

[ "Brother, I feel ya. I sometimes feel the same anxiety. It's true a lot of friendships run long. \n\nBut I think that it's very possible to join a group of friends. But I think a few ingredients have to be in place:\n1) you must have common ground with most of the people. and not just you all like flag football, but values, ways of thinking, etc. That makes it much more likely you'll enjoy being around each other outside of the initial activity.\n2) instead of asking \"how can I make people 'care' about me\", ask, how can you care about those people? Give it a shot to get to know everyone in the group. \n\nThen see where your gut feeling leads you. Do you like all the people, or just some of them, or none of them? In any case, make room to accept their invites, and think of fun things you can invite them to. \n\nThen let it see where it goes from there.\n\nAs the friendships start to grow, look for how you can give to them, and look for signals they're giving back in kind. If both sides are giving, I'd say you got a promising friendship and keep it up :).", "The trick to finding a group of friends is to take it one at a time. Find one friend first. Get to know them well. Take an active interest in hanging out with them, be confident and initiate the encounters. Always be open to meeting the people they hang around. Then, when you both become close, do it on all *their* friends. Boom- successful infiltration of a friend group. ", "Well, I am not 20 yet, but rest assured I may have a solution to your problem. You have to start somewhere. Get together with people you meet and stay in contact with them if you have shared interests. Try and go out with those people and network even more. At some point you will stay in contact with the ones you like most. Most importantly make memories with the ones you love." ]

[ 3, 2, -3 ]

[ "Best way to apply for a job So I've been applying for over 3 months and not a single interview. Mostly been on indeed and sites similar to it. Also, paid for a professional resume write up recently and still no interviews. Anyone know what to change or how to get in touch with more recruiters? ", "Best way to apply for a job So I've been applying for over 3 months and not a single interview. Mostly been on indeed and sites similar to it. Also, paid for a professional resume write up recently and still no interviews. Anyone know what to change or how to get in touch with more recruiters? ", "Best way to apply for a job So I've been applying for over 3 months and not a single interview. Mostly been on indeed and sites similar to it. Also, paid for a professional resume write up recently and still no interviews. Anyone know what to change or how to get in touch with more recruiters? ", "Best way to apply for a job So I've been applying for over 3 months and not a single interview. Mostly been on indeed and sites similar to it. Also, paid for a professional resume write up recently and still no interviews. Anyone know what to change or how to get in touch with more recruiters? " ]

[ "I got a job a few months ago and learned the best way to get a job is by networking. Employers would much rather hire someone they know or someone that is been recommended to them by a friend or colleague. The majority of jobs are not filled online. You should continue to apply for jobs online, but you should also learn how to network.\n\nI used to hate the idea of networking until someone explained their take on it to me. The best way to network is by actively trying to help other people. When you meet someone looking for a job, learn about them and their experiences and keep an eye out for opportunities for them. If you meet someone who is looking to hire, but you don't fit the bill, try to recommend somebody. If you help someone out, they will never forget you and will try to help you in your job search to return the favor.\n\nTry to find a networking organization where you can actually meet and talk to people. You'll be amazed how friendly the people are at these meetings and nothing beats a face to face conversation.\n\n\n", "Make sure the words you use in your resume precisely match the words they put in the ad. A lot of companies just use CTRL+F to scan through the resumes. If your words are even slightly different it won't get noticed.\n\nAnd you need to be meeting people. Go to trade shows, job fairs, industry training events. Ask people what they need and how you can help. ", "I found that most of those sites are massively behind when the job posting was actually posted and usually they have already closed by the time you actually apply on many of the listings.\n\nI suggest you actually physically call the companies you are interested in applying to and ask if they are currently hiring. ", "In addition to resume and cover letter, follow up. Email or call the HR or contact person and let them know you look forward to helping them benefit from your experience and skills. Ask when you can expect to be contacted for an intercourse. \nIf interviewed, follow up with thank you letter or email saying how you appreciate the opportunity to meet with them and thank them for taking the time to interview you. Mention you think you'd be a great fit for the team. Examples are nice if you come with any. \n\nNote that I'm on my phone on a toilet in a foreign country so look online for more information, don't take my advice as final" ]

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[ "How to not be so influenced by other people? Like the title says. Also how to not be a people pleaser and doing or accepting everything the person suggests or says and letting it influence your decisions or thoughts, just to make them feel good about you?", "How to not be so influenced by other people? Like the title says. Also how to not be a people pleaser and doing or accepting everything the person suggests or says and letting it influence your decisions or thoughts, just to make them feel good about you?", "How to not be so influenced by other people? Like the title says. Also how to not be a people pleaser and doing or accepting everything the person suggests or says and letting it influence your decisions or thoughts, just to make them feel good about you?", "How to not be so influenced by other people? Like the title says. Also how to not be a people pleaser and doing or accepting everything the person suggests or says and letting it influence your decisions or thoughts, just to make them feel good about you?", "How to not be so influenced by other people? Like the title says. Also how to not be a people pleaser and doing or accepting everything the person suggests or says and letting it influence your decisions or thoughts, just to make them feel good about you?" ]

[ "There's a fine line between being walked all over and simply being a nice person. Introverted people are quiet and more apt to take suggestion from others, and not push their own suggestions, but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. \n\nStart by making sure that your influence is felt on things that are really important to you. Pick your battles. Personally, I don't much care where we go to eat if I'm with other people, but there are certain things that I feel strongly about, and I try to be influential in those things. Find that proper balance. \n\nIf you have a strong opinion about something, you'll soon find that people are the ones following you, and letting your suggestions be the influencing factors. Charisma and charm are important. \n\nWhen youa re being a people pleaser, let them know that it's not your first preference, but your happy to go with what they want. This will set the stage for letting them know that you've got your own opinions and feelings, but you are willing to compromise. ", "The most important person in your life is literally yourself. Set yourself up for success rather and learn from others mistakes before making your own. ", "I feel like I was in a similar situation. My main problem was that I always started overthinking how to phrase my sentences as to not anger the others. What a really good friend of mine told me was a quote from a book I don't remember the name of (if anyone knows, please tell me). It went something like:\n\nEach person has 4 mouths and 4 pairs of ears. Not only does it matter which mouth is talking, but also which pair of ears is hearing. You can only control what mouth you're speaking with. So even when you say everything the best way possible, if the others are listening with the wrong ears they'll still get angry. It doesn't matter how you say something.\n\n(This refers to the four-ear model by Friedemann Schulz von Thun) \n\nThinking about that instantly changed the way I was talking to people. I started to say what I actually felt instead of trying to please the others. ", "1) Ask yourself \"who benefits the *most* from this?\"\n\nIf someone is giving you the inside scoop on the latest gossip - they need you more than you need them. They are looking for buy-in/persuasion *before* you have all the necessary facts. Are they saying something in order to manipulate you, by preying upon your anxiety? These tend to be more obvious when you pay attention to the interaction, so you give the benefit of the doubt by waiting to see if a pattern of behavior becomes apparent. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me...\n\n2) Question the answers. \n\nThere's nothing wrong with wanting to confirm what someone is saying, but be tactful about it - I suggest researching as discretely as possible. IE: Not frantically reaching for the smart phone or tablet. But there is a difference between not trusting someone, and demanding proof for every statement like footnotes on a dissertation. The latter is an example of a power trip, and tends to be an indication of dislike. There very well can be people you will come to find who are narcissists - they like talking about issues and concepts they have no actual knowledge of.", "Baby steps. Time. Discipline. Practice.\n\nA key step for myself was evaluating if someone was \"qualified\" to influence me or give advice. Is their advice or what they want me to do something that is actually consistent with what *I* want? For instance, if I'm looking for dating advice from people that have certain success with certain types of girls and a guy comes around who has NOT achieved the success I'm looking for and is NOT interested in the women I am, I automatically shut my mind off to his advice. He's unqualified, and listening would not benefit me. I don't tell him, and may politely respond, but I reject it because he hasn't proven his methods work and his methods aren't even going after what I want.\n\nAnother key step was explaining myself less and apologizing less; not to be a jerk, but letting my opinion and myself BE without justifying it. An example would be in conversation where I have a (possibly) different opinion, instead of saying, \"well in my opinion waffles taste better on Thursday\" I would just say \"waffles taste better or Thursday\" or not comment at all. Little things that train me to not worry about the outcome and feel removed from other's influence.\n\nHope that helps! I can come up with more if this provides any benefit." ]

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[ "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming.", "Teaching a child with out of proportion expectations I'm trying to get my nine year old interested in coding/programming. They're fairly intelligent, consistently testing above their peers. I got myself into a lot of trouble right around this age by being just the right combination of too stubborn and too smart. I feel like I would have been so much better off in life if I'd been guided towards this a little and I want that for my child.\n\nThe problem lies in when I talk to them about either basic web development or video game development, they get rather pie in the sky. \"I want to make a game just like Minecraft[1]! It'll have *x* and *y* and *z*!\" So the enthusiasm is there... but a game the scope of Minecraft is *way* outside of my technical reach. When try to take it down a notch (\"Well, really games are very, very complicated and they take a whole lot of work so it's best to start with something a little smaller\") I feel like I'm losing them. I know that I could break down the basic pieces of Minecraft and ultimately maake a shittier, clunkier version, which they would undoubtedly love, but that would take years to finish and weeks before any even slightly \"cool\" fruits of the labor start to show up. Way too long to wait. So the question is: **How do I deal with a child's very unrealistic expectations while trying to teach them a skill?** I'm approaching this in the wrong way or interacting in the wrong way. What do?\n\n[1]Side note: Holy shit kids have a hard on for Minecraft. I see why my parents were freaking out about my desire to play video games for hours a day. It's... a little unnerving and that's coming from someone who can spend several hours a day gaming." ]

[ "You could take the interest in Minecraft and run with it by looking into mods--there's a huge modding community for the game. Just figuring out how to set up and configure a custom modpack will involve the basics of working with text files and JSON data, and odds are good that after seeing all the kinds of mods out there, the child will want to make their own, which will require learning Java.", "I had a similar experience trying to teach a kid how to play drums, he thought he could sit down after an hour of practice and be in the next big up and coming band. The enthusiasm is great but I had to remind him that to get to a level like that you have to start at the beginning. So I kind of explained to him the steps to take so get going down that path. I didn't say that his idea was over the top or too high to reach I just reminded him that it's goal and tried to let him know the kind of time he would need to spend practicing to get to that level and how it may be easier to start small and with the basics and use that to build upon until you get closer to the skill level you would like. ", "If you're still looking for help, try this: https://code.org/mc\n\nIt was a project done by Mojang (Creators of Minecraft) and another studio to help get kids interested in coding by helping teach the basics of logic and steps with Minecraft as a medium. It also lets you see how what you did would be coded with JavaScript, which helps expose them to actual code.\n\nYou can find some videos about it, like this one\n\nhttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_TfHy_aEpmY\n\n", "This probably isn't too feasible today, but the best time I had learning to program was in Basic on an old XT. You can start simply with results displayed instantly to see the effect of what you are doing. How to type a word, locate it on the screen, change colors, etc. are things your child might get into.", "This isn't meant to be offensive, just honest.\n\nSounds like you are trying to hold your kid back because of your own lack of knowledge. Have you considered looking into outside resources (clubs, school events, etc.) that can help bridge the gap? I think the worst thing you can do for somebody's creativity is impose your own limitations on them by declaring it unfeasible.\n\nAnother option is to perhaps learn together. There are tons and tons of resources online. Start with a brain storming session. What do you want the game to do? Break it down into smaller parts. Make each little project count towards the bigger one.\n\nI believe the Unreal engine is still free. It will let you do a lot of design (models, worlds, characters) with a point and click interface. The programming is generally pretty lightweight (ie, more akin to scripting actions than doing hardcore optimizations in C++).", "There are a ton of different websites, subscriptions, camps, etc. that teach coding using minecraft. \n\nGoogle results:\n\nhttps://www.idtech.com/minecraft-summer-camps/\n\nhttp://www.youthdigital.com/minecraft-mod-design.html\n\nhttp://www.learntomod.com/\n\n\nDon't try to teach the kid stuff that you know. Let the kiddo learn on their own. They'll surpass you before long either way and this way they wont be disappointed when they do.", "Scratch is a programming language that could be fun to teach the basic concepts of coding without the technical language (ie loops and conditions) while getting an immediate visual effect. It's great for building simple games (so not Minecraft) but could be a stepping stone to show your child what programming could do. And it takes almost no time to learn!", "In Minecraft there is a mod made for teaching kid how to code and being attractive for them to learn, it is [ComputerCraftEdu](http://computercraftedu.com/). It's very friendly for the learner and for the teacher as well, with tools to help you in creating challenges for them to solve.", "I second what people have said about Scratch...I've heard it has great success for kids that age. When I was in middle school I really liked Alice (see alice.org), but I'm not sure how well it taught CS concepts. Depending on your child's aptitude Codecademy might have some good tutorials - the 30-minute goals is a great place to start. Finally, if you think your child would be interested in robotics I'd try to find a FIRST Lego League team in your area - kids on those teams learn how to program a robot, how to research and present a project, teamwork, and more. ", "I find that giving a child a game plan is useful. Maybe a sticker chart. Maybe a map with stations that you can check off as you achieve it.\n\nThis helps them feel heard and keeps them on track, but also makes it visually apparent that there are stages yet to be completed. They can then track their own progress. They can also then self-motivate.", "Get a raspberry pi. There are tons of lessons and stuff for kids to do. Even lessons involving minecraft. Their official site has tons of projects and stuff, all open source software too.", "Babysteps, start with something simple and small that they can see, spark the interest. then build in it.\n", "Best way to teach them is not to shut them down and say they can't do it. Have them start by making a rock-paper-scissors game, then a game with simple graphics and physics like pong. After that, they should realize that making a game like minecraft isn't as easy as they had thought.", "Why do you even see it as your job to teach them that skill? Let them find out themselves how hard it actually is!" ]

[ 26, 4, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1, 0, -5 ]

[ "Securing the Fitted Sheet to Your Mattress Every couple days my fitted sheet gets loose, decides it wants to take a break from its union with my mattress, and then just does whatever the hell it wants.\n\n/r/lifeprotips save me from this anguish. Please?", "Securing the Fitted Sheet to Your Mattress Every couple days my fitted sheet gets loose, decides it wants to take a break from its union with my mattress, and then just does whatever the hell it wants.\n\n/r/lifeprotips save me from this anguish. Please?", "Securing the Fitted Sheet to Your Mattress Every couple days my fitted sheet gets loose, decides it wants to take a break from its union with my mattress, and then just does whatever the hell it wants.\n\n/r/lifeprotips save me from this anguish. Please?", "Securing the Fitted Sheet to Your Mattress Every couple days my fitted sheet gets loose, decides it wants to take a break from its union with my mattress, and then just does whatever the hell it wants.\n\n/r/lifeprotips save me from this anguish. Please?", "Securing the Fitted Sheet to Your Mattress Every couple days my fitted sheet gets loose, decides it wants to take a break from its union with my mattress, and then just does whatever the hell it wants.\n\n/r/lifeprotips save me from this anguish. Please?" ]

[ "They make elastic straps that hook from one side of the corner to the other side. \n\nThey're apparently called sheet suspenders, or sheet straps.", "I bought [THESE things](http://www.amazon.com/ORIGINAL-Bed-Adjustable-Fastener-Suspender/dp/B004I3VDWY/ref=?ie=UTF8&m=A1ZT1S0F501FNM) a year ago, because it was driving me absolutely nuts (first world problem, I know) that my fitted sheet would not stay put for more than about an hour.\n\nI haven't had a single problem with a fitted sheet since. It just works. Period. ", "I find putting a much lower thread count fitted sheet over the bed first, then putting the nicer one on top of that keeps it in place very well.", "I'm actually planning on trying these\n[amazon link](http://www.amazon.com/ORIGINAL-Bed-Adjustable-Fastener-Suspender/dp/B004I3VDWY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1343916409&sr=8-1&keywords=sheet+straps).\n\nThey have 299 5 star reviews on amazon, so I'm going to give them a shot. ", "I use these and love them: http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/1/1/53029-sheet-straps-set-of-4.html\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How to deter pesky alley cats from my backyard Apparently my backyard is the popular hangout for cats. I recognize at least 4 different cats and I've woken up at 4AM to [the sound of wailing cat moans](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bxxAO8exFA) from what I've concluded to be from cat sex. ", "How to deter pesky alley cats from my backyard Apparently my backyard is the popular hangout for cats. I recognize at least 4 different cats and I've woken up at 4AM to [the sound of wailing cat moans](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bxxAO8exFA) from what I've concluded to be from cat sex. " ]

[ "You can get sensors that will emit a noise cats don't like if something comes too close to them. They're normally found with mole deterrents in home & garden stores.\n\nAlternatively you can find systems that spray water at animals if they come too close to a sensor.\n\nPlease don't do anything more aggressive than that, though.", "I used an airsoft handgun to scare them off. Also, bought a trap online and started a catch and release program. Of course, I released them far from my house." ]

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[ "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?", "How can I not feel extremely guilty when I kill bugs? Every once in a while you have to kill a bug. Every time I do, I kind of get that feeling in my throat that you get when you are about to cry (although I don't even slightly think I will cry). I know it is something everybody does and a lot of insects have a short lifespan, but I still feel really guilty, especially when I have to kill a bug that is trying to get away. Any way to brainwash the guilt away?" ]

[ "There is nothing wrong with having respect for life and understanding that it is painful to take it. Im sure you only do what you have to to protect yourself and your territory which is something every living creature does. I would say that most of the guilt comes from the obvious advantage we have but that bug would kill you too if it had the capability. It says a lot about your character that you feel remorse for a creature that many people would crush without a second thought.", "People may give you crap, but I totally sympathize. Sometimes my guilt isn’t for any “feelings” of the bug, but just for ending life. \n\nThis sounds weird, but I try to take a second and respect whatever life is there, even if I have to kill it. There are plenty of reasons it might make sense to take life (from pulling a weed to defending yourself in war), but in every instance you can both respect life and do what you need to do. \n\nInstead of trying to brainwash the feelings out, you should recognize that instinct as a positive reverence for life", "I only kill bugs when they are in my house. I think of it as “breaking and entering”. Sounds completely ridiculous but I don’t kill them outside as it’s “their house”. Haha completely dumb but helps me kill bugs that may bite my wife or kid inside our place.", "Many bugs I’ve dispatched, but these days I give spiders a pass for the most part, since they help with other bugs. A truce, though sometimes I’ll relocate one outside.", "You were destined to kill the bug. You think you’re in control but you were simply fulfilling a task. \n\nDo you think the bug really wants to be a bug?", "It's absolutely a normal thing to feel bad about taking an insect's life. It is a sign that you respect nature's creatures which is a good thing.", "Wdym just don't kill them then?\n\nIf you happen to accidentally then it's an accident so it's ok, life goes on (just not for the bug)", "If you could you could always bring it outside (like a spider) but like little bugs like flies or silverfish, I have no remorse", "If you can't get past the guilt of murder try catch and release, or go the opposite direction and get the Bug-a-salt rifle that fires a tiny shotgun like blast if salt at bugs, I've heard guns make killing feel less personal vs methods where you have to use your hands.", "Does it cause suffering? A quick and painless death does not cause suffering for the bug, nor does it leave behind a family that suffers from its death. Killing a single bug here and there doesn’t cause the environment to suffer either. Nothing really changes. It’s like turning the page of a book. Any suffering that you experience, respectfully, is all in your head.", "All life is valuable and should not be harmed ideally, how ever If its in my home, I will literally give it more time to get out then I would with somebody else who was Uninvited. I live in England so usually tell it to leave by next morning, If its still there then well I will either grab some tissue/cup, deport it (as that distance to a bug is probably like thousands of miles/handle it with risk of potential death, very rarely is lethal force ever used,\n\nusually they get the message and don't come back and find a nice life somewhere in the outdoors living a good life in a natural environment.. away from my land..\n\nsometimes like the other day I was having a shower in my bath tub, when I noticed a tiny spider, Water is flowing down below so I tried my best over like two days to give it advice to climb up not down, otherwise well he would risk drowning, think he only listened to what I had to say for like one morning, the next he was too curious and well got soaked, I tried to stop my shower for him to dry him out, but yeah it was too late for that being unfortunately.\n\nThis way (giving warnings) at least I have gave the insect some notice and a warning of what's about to happen, It's more then some Humans give them who will literally Kill on sight, I view it as a way to show them a bit of respect whilst at the same time protecting my own Home from being over run which let's face it is not something any of us would like.", "Why do you *have* to kill the bug? If killing it is actually necessary then use whatever made it necessary to ease your conscience. If it's not necessary then just don't kill it. I can't really see why you would need to kill a bug...", "They're invading your territory! You're eliminating the dumb ones!\n\nIf you still feel guilty, move them or let them pass by. Almost all insects don't even wanna interact with you!", "They reproduce like crazy. There will never be a shortage of bugs. They’re the most abundant animals on the planet.", "LPT: don't kill bugs! \n\nFor instance, I usually don't (except of mosquitoes, they are evil assholes). For no actual reason... For example, if a fly bothers me I'm trying to catch it and throw out the window." ]

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[ "How to stay cool during upcoming summer? LPT I need your help. I have a pretty labor intensive outdoors job (I.e. chainsawing trees, lugging heavy equipment in the woods, etc.). I'm scrambling to figure a way to stay cool. I sweat just sitting down in 70 degrees or hotter, but I'm a pretty in shape guy. I drink lots of water all day and I'm wondering if I should invest in some lightweight work clothing. If so, what should I be looking for? Any tips are appreciated!", "How to stay cool during upcoming summer? LPT I need your help. I have a pretty labor intensive outdoors job (I.e. chainsawing trees, lugging heavy equipment in the woods, etc.). I'm scrambling to figure a way to stay cool. I sweat just sitting down in 70 degrees or hotter, but I'm a pretty in shape guy. I drink lots of water all day and I'm wondering if I should invest in some lightweight work clothing. If so, what should I be looking for? Any tips are appreciated!", "How to stay cool during upcoming summer? LPT I need your help. I have a pretty labor intensive outdoors job (I.e. chainsawing trees, lugging heavy equipment in the woods, etc.). I'm scrambling to figure a way to stay cool. I sweat just sitting down in 70 degrees or hotter, but I'm a pretty in shape guy. I drink lots of water all day and I'm wondering if I should invest in some lightweight work clothing. If so, what should I be looking for? Any tips are appreciated!", "How to stay cool during upcoming summer? LPT I need your help. I have a pretty labor intensive outdoors job (I.e. chainsawing trees, lugging heavy equipment in the woods, etc.). I'm scrambling to figure a way to stay cool. I sweat just sitting down in 70 degrees or hotter, but I'm a pretty in shape guy. I drink lots of water all day and I'm wondering if I should invest in some lightweight work clothing. If so, what should I be looking for? Any tips are appreciated!", "How to stay cool during upcoming summer? LPT I need your help. I have a pretty labor intensive outdoors job (I.e. chainsawing trees, lugging heavy equipment in the woods, etc.). I'm scrambling to figure a way to stay cool. I sweat just sitting down in 70 degrees or hotter, but I'm a pretty in shape guy. I drink lots of water all day and I'm wondering if I should invest in some lightweight work clothing. If so, what should I be looking for? Any tips are appreciated!" ]

[ "Shave..all your hair, head, chest, arms and legs. Hair is an incredibly good insulator. In hot weather (100+), a cold wet bandana on a bald head gives me goosebumps. Look at females, they're hairless and always cold.they have little arm hair, no chest or back hair..also, wear Loose clothing to let air circulate...seriously, go bald, wet bandanas....it works", "If you have a military surplus nearby, try some summer weight camo pants. The thigh pockets can be useful for work as well.\n\nAvoid dark T-shirt colors.\n\nThey make cooling vests, but I've never been fond of them.\n\nOther than that, drink plenty of liquids. A half gallon water cooler filled 2/3 with the rest ice will last most of the day.", "IDK if you have one, but they have insulated water bottles that keep drinks cold all day... [Hydroflask](http://sacksoutdoors.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/07/hydro-flask-hero-july-2013.jpg) is an example of one.", "Get a bandana and constantly put it in the cooler that I'm gessing you have. If you don't have a cooler you should get one. Ice is only a few buck for ten pounds.\n\nYou can wrap it around your head or cover your head with it.", "Breathable clothing should help. I don't know if there are any restrictions on what clothing you can have with your work for safety reasons, but Under Armour is a pretty reliable brand.\n\nThe problem I find with keeping cool is the balance between airing out my body to keep cool and keeping the sun off my body. I get a lot of face swear so a baseball cap keeps the sun of my face and helps with that, but that also makes my scalp sweat a bit more. It's a compromise.\n\nLightweight and breathable shoes also help but again, I don't know if you have any work restrictions there." ]

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[ "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n", "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n", "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n", "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n", "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n", "My cat keeps peeing on our laundry basket. What should I do? \n\nWe got a hamper w/a cover now, but I kind of want to get to the bottom of this before she just finds some other corner to pee on. \n\nAnyone have experience with this problem?\n" ]

[ "OK, older cats that may have to see a vet? Sometimes urinary problem, sometimes bad habit. She is telling you she is not happy. Try cleaning litter box every day, perhaps buy a new one. I've had cats all my life (54 years old here) It could be she is getting sensitive to the ammonia odour? One thing I do know, she will develop habit if not investigated and stopped. Take more control in this issue, you and gf are team, right? Not just gf's job to empty litter....it's team you two...just sayin.......good luck and cheers!", "We had a cat that peed on carpets and on clothes if they were left on the floor overnight. We had his teeth cleaned and the vet told us that there was two teeth that probably were hurting him quite a bit, and we had those teeth removed. Cat hasn't peed on wrong place since that (3 months now). So, I would take the cat to see a vet because if there's anything causing pain to the cat, it might come out as such behaviour.\n\nAlso, cats don't act any differently from normal if they are in pain, because in the wild cat can't show any kind of weakness. Our cat was, to our eyes, very content besides the peeing thing, it was purring whenever we held it in our lap and it came to sleep with us in the bed etc.", "Get another litter box, buy a new laundry basket, clean the litter boxes daily if possible. If these tips don't work, vet trip ASAP.", "There could be a number of different reasons. All situations and cats are different. If you have Netflix, I'd recommend watching some episodes of \"My Cat From Hell\" with Jackson Galaxy...any of the episodes might not hit the nail on the head concerning what you're dealing with and surely your cat is not as bad as these cats, but it will give you some insight into cats' behavior you may not have thought of before and what you may need to do to fix this.\n\nMy cat sometimes poops on the floor, often right in front of her litter box. I still don't know what causes it, but after watching the show, I play with her more often, and I don't clip her nails as short (she may have been trying to get attention or expressing anxiety b/c we have a little one in the house now and cutting nails can cause sensitivity when on cat litter). Not exactly direct advice, but I hope that it can help you.", "Can we have more info? Is this the only cat? Do you change litter box every day? Some cats hate that clump litter. Have you bleached out the basket if it is plastic? Otherwise you may have to discard it.", "Buy an enzymatic cleaner like Nature's Miracle. It will break down the urine and remove the odor. Animals like to pee where it already smells like pee, and if you remove any scent of it, it can redirect them. Even if you cleaned it to the point that you can't smell it, they can still smell it. It's not expensive and it's available in every pet store." ]

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[ "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n", "How to find a hobby that sticks I tried so many-many hobbies, that I spent relatively long amount of time on, but I can't find something that I don't get tired of after some time.\n\nSome things I tried: \n\nGuitar - finished music school, after that was into playing itself for a year tops.\n\nDrawing - few months.\n\nCompetitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nThat's just of the top of my head.\n\nI'm just afraid of living life without anything that would make me passionate about it.\n" ]

[ "Well, is that a bad thing? Maybe life should be about exploring a lot of things to a decent level of detail, rather than just doing one thing and one thing only. Maybe it's good that you've done all sorts of fun things. I don't mean this in an ADD way, but a mind that requires new stimulus from time to time is a healthy one. ", "I would suggest doing something that involves other people, and having them help to motivate you. What about martial arts? You'll be learning a useful skill and it is good exercise. Learning more and more methods of self defense can be motivating, as well as increasing belt rank. It also helps to build confidence when you know you'll be more capable of defending yourself if you have to. ", "Try to find a hobby that you can grow in skill in over a longer period of time, yet still get enjoyment from currently. I do woodworking and stained glass--hobbies where mastery will take a lifetime, but I still like the results. ", "Man, when I read the title I thought you have the same problem as I do... but then you got like 5x-10x as far into each hobby as I normally do. I can legit look up to your persistence.\n\nPerspective...", ">Competitive video games - CSGO for about 600-700 hours, hearthstone until I got legend, Starcraft II for two years.\n\nHere's your problem. Video games down regulate the chemicals used to motivate, specifically dopamine and serotonin. The slow progression and achievement you get from learning an instrument or art can't compare to the loot and achievements of video games.\n\n(incoming downvotes from people who misread that as saying video games are bad).\n\nYou need to expect that there is always a massive stagnation period, where you feel you aren't improving for hobbies and not to be discouraged as you have to power you way through that hump. Hobbies aren't always fun, but they are rewarding.\n\nReally you need to pick a hobby, any hobby that you like, then stick with it.", "When I started to play piano, I often played on street pianos, where is always huge amount of people. After mastering a few strong and lifeful music pieces, I started to enjoying people look, when I play, clapping and general idea.\n\nIf you know how to play on guitar, just go out and play, for free. Pick some well known song (happy from Pharrel Williams is working fine) and start living. \n\nYou can also go and do grafitti if you know some basics of the art. You dont have to be elegal, just find some acceptable and legal walls to do so. When youll do it, many people will talk to you (often other taggers and grafitti people).\n\nIf you dont have anything to do or are you afraid of people, try to pick up trash. That hobby changed my life. When I was organising local river clean up, I met my wife, many good friends and good people. + you local area will be much nicer to look out. \n\nDont be afraid and live your life, competetive videogames are competly waste of time, youll get it one day.", "What makes you tick? I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie so finding hobbies/sports which fulfilled that need worked for me. I usually backcountry snowboard as much as I can in the winter, and then in the summers I rock climb as much as I can. Two things where mastery would takes years/decades and I can still see improvement over time. \n\nIf you're competitive, I'd recommend joining an adult sports league for whatever age group you are. Most \"beer league\" sports separate you into skill groups so you won't be getting destroyed out there. It's never to late to pick up a new sport like hockey or soccer or whatever.", "Its ok to have a lot of different hobbies. You could see what is a common theme in them, i.e. gaining skills, expanding your knowledge, the admiration of others, helping people. I like going to my local library and picking up a book on things I've not learned about yet. One week it might be learning about various religions, another it was Foraging Wild Edibles, or Square foot Gardening, another it was running and yoga ect. I do some things like drawing, and fiber crafts year long, and some things like gardening seasonally. I think if your just someone that like to try new things that could be a hobby on its own. \n", "Ham Radio - https://www.reddit.com/r/amateurradio/\n\nMulticopters - https://www.reddit.com/r/Multicopter/" ]

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[ "Starting out in Life? \nAnybody have any advice from for that time you have to set out on your own as an adult, and not get fucked over? I know most of the marketing strategies that try to sell you on stuff to simply make money, the common money saving strategies from r/frugal , and most common paths of psyments. But Are there any big or important things that will really set you up for the most optimal life circumstance in the near future, not talking like getting rich, just the most optimal way for a young working class adult. Things like : Bank Account , Collage Loans and Debt, Rents/mortgage, Car Payments, Jobs, etc. \nIn truth I see the American working business society as really depressing, and as we all know, pretty corrupt, but still wish to peruse, like most if us. I have alot of art and music projects I want to work on, while being funded by me, and just want to go to sleep knowing Im not living out my life in The Brave New World or Brazil. Kinda self centered post, but im sure it can help alot of others too. Thanks.\n", "Starting out in Life? \nAnybody have any advice from for that time you have to set out on your own as an adult, and not get fucked over? I know most of the marketing strategies that try to sell you on stuff to simply make money, the common money saving strategies from r/frugal , and most common paths of psyments. But Are there any big or important things that will really set you up for the most optimal life circumstance in the near future, not talking like getting rich, just the most optimal way for a young working class adult. Things like : Bank Account , Collage Loans and Debt, Rents/mortgage, Car Payments, Jobs, etc. \nIn truth I see the American working business society as really depressing, and as we all know, pretty corrupt, but still wish to peruse, like most if us. I have alot of art and music projects I want to work on, while being funded by me, and just want to go to sleep knowing Im not living out my life in The Brave New World or Brazil. Kinda self centered post, but im sure it can help alot of others too. Thanks.\n", "Starting out in Life? \nAnybody have any advice from for that time you have to set out on your own as an adult, and not get fucked over? I know most of the marketing strategies that try to sell you on stuff to simply make money, the common money saving strategies from r/frugal , and most common paths of psyments. But Are there any big or important things that will really set you up for the most optimal life circumstance in the near future, not talking like getting rich, just the most optimal way for a young working class adult. Things like : Bank Account , Collage Loans and Debt, Rents/mortgage, Car Payments, Jobs, etc. \nIn truth I see the American working business society as really depressing, and as we all know, pretty corrupt, but still wish to peruse, like most if us. I have alot of art and music projects I want to work on, while being funded by me, and just want to go to sleep knowing Im not living out my life in The Brave New World or Brazil. Kinda self centered post, but im sure it can help alot of others too. Thanks.\n" ]

[ "Relationships are everything. Family, friends, co-workers, bosses. Be kind and generous toward all, even those you don't know. This will lead you to good places.", "If you are smart enough to understand a system be sure to capitalize on it. \n\nThis can be as simple as knowing your boss likes something a certain way and doing it, or being able to tactfully man up and make things better for yourself. \n\nDon't complain when you can put that energy into making something of yourself. \n\nYou may feel inclined to do the bare minimum due to peer pressure and stay in the comfortable position, work so hard your peers speak ill of you.\n\nLet your boss know when there is a problem and bring a solution, preferably 2 bad ones and the one that will work so your boss feels involved. \n\nDon't be the guy who works behind the scenes and holds everything up when your higher ups don't even know what you are doing to keep the company working. It's okay to report to your boss about what you've been up to. Trust me it hurts when you work hard and get passed up on a promotion because you weren't the loudest about your accomplishments.\n\nAsk advice from people you respect, you may already know the answer and you may be humoring your boss so he can have a say, but it makes your fellow workers feel good about themselves and you may see things from a valuable new perspective. \n\nTake time everyday to be better than you were the day before, you can always be better in some way and stagnating in life, in the same routine can sure make the years fly by in an unremarkable way. \n", "Hmm well here's some big things I've learned in my life from making these mistakes:\n\n- Make sure you know how to properly fill out a W2 for your job or you might accidently end up owing so much money at the end of the year. Ex: when I started the job I have now I didn't even look to see that they hadn't been taking out taxes all year bc I (was immature and an idiot) and improperly filled out my W2 when I first started... needless to say I owed a shit ton that year.\n\n- When you get a speeding ticket, don't forget about it and not pay it, because they will issue you a warrant without your knowledge and you will get in trouble and get your license suspended. Again, I was an idiot.\n\n- Don't apply for college and then suddenly drop out for no good reason after one semester, bc then you will be paying back all of the loan money you had gotten prior to that and you will still be kicking yourself 3 years later.\n\n- If you happen to accrue any debt, make sure you pay it off as soon as possible and dont let it go to collections or this thing called Cr" ]

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[ "How to keep the mind from wandering while reading. I have a tendency to not fully comprehending what I am reading because my mind wanders to other thoughts. I feel like I am reading words just to read them but do not fully digest what I am reading. Any tips?", "How to keep the mind from wandering while reading. I have a tendency to not fully comprehending what I am reading because my mind wanders to other thoughts. I feel like I am reading words just to read them but do not fully digest what I am reading. Any tips?", "How to keep the mind from wandering while reading. I have a tendency to not fully comprehending what I am reading because my mind wanders to other thoughts. I feel like I am reading words just to read them but do not fully digest what I am reading. Any tips?", "How to keep the mind from wandering while reading. I have a tendency to not fully comprehending what I am reading because my mind wanders to other thoughts. I feel like I am reading words just to read them but do not fully digest what I am reading. Any tips?" ]

[ "Try m", "Same problem. I really don't like reading because of it. \nWhen I started reading for college, sometimes my mind would wander because it was a sentence I didn't understand. In this case I would put the sentence in my own words and think about it and apply it to my experiences to make sure I processed what I was reading. I would read for a few hours then take breaks. After a while it seemed like I was wandering a lot less. For me, the key was to figure out what what was happening in that very moment that made me wander. \nHope this helps!", "I suck at reading. My mind wanders and I'm pretty slow and I get impatient and I have trouble seeing black text on a white background. I switched to Audio books, and although my selection is a lot smaller, I actually get through books now.", " Only read as a subgoal of something you already want to do or figure out. When you've read enough to make progress on the goal, stop reading and go make that progress, and come back if needed. Reading just to read is killing time." ]

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[ "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) ", "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) ", "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) ", "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) ", "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) ", "How to insulate apartment My apartment is sort of weird in that each room has an individual electric heater in the wall rather than central heating. The heaters also don't turn themselves off and will run continuously so we have to constantly turn them on and off the regulate the temperature of the apartment. We don't leave them on when we're not there because it would just run forever and not turn off. We run a space heater to keep the bedroom warm for the cat but we're looking for ways to effectively heat and insulate our apartment so it holds heat better. We're on the top floor of a two story apartment complex and the heat just sinks out of the floors (laminate) and walls. \n\n​\n\nThanks reddit! :) " ]

[ "Get some thick plastic and seal off your windows for the winter. A surprising amount of heat escapes through the windows of any building.", "Put aluminium foil behind the heaters to reflect the heat and stop it absorbing into the walls. Plastic wrap double glazing kits work well, can be purchased online. \nYou can buy wi-fi controlled plugs that can turn on a plug in heater from anywhere. I turn mine on 20 mins before I get home. Or just regular timers on heaters with a thermostat. Oil filled stay warm once off but take a while to heat where as convector are instantly warm but go cold quicker. ", "I live in the midwest usa, check windows for drafts. There should be the screen, an outer window/storm window and a inner window that can lock. Make sure the storm windows are there and closed, they help with drafts. Some people put plastic on the outside of the windows or inside the house on the windows. Theres tape if you're worried about damage. I use a removable caulk to seal the leaks so theres no drafts or damage, removing in the spring. Other than that just keep a gap between the heaters and everything else to prevent fires. Id keep them on the lowest setting so it doesn't get too cold. There should be insulation in the walls. In my area there was a program on energy efficiency with my electric and gas company. You could look at the website for yours and see if they have tips or any programs that may be helpful. ", "When I lived in Pennsylvania, we covered the windows with heavy plastic and that helped a lot. Good backing for curtains and wool rugs are a godsend, as well. ", "There was an LPT just yesterday recommending putting bubble wrap on single glazed windows. I have a kind if inner curtain made of reflective nylon, it works well to keep heat in in winter and keeping sunlight out in summer. \n\nYou could look at putting rugs on the floor. Also, try making sure heat isn't escaping under doors.\n\nDo you get any daytime sun?", "Sealing your windows with plastic is a good start. Then go buy a plug-in oil-filled radiator style heater with a thermostat. You can leave it turned on all the time without overheating the apartment or risking fire. Only use the non-thermostat heaters when the plug-in can't keep up.\n\nI also have had good luck with a rubber foot heating mat. It doesn't put out very much heat, but it puts it where you want it. " ]

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[ "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. ", "Winning Monopoly Strategies Hey everyone first time posting. :) So the situation is that my mates are coming over later today and we've decided to play some Monopoly. Only issue is that I have barely played it throughout my life and naturally decided to talk up a big game, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! \n\nTo be noted: I am willing to destroy any currently formed friendships. " ]

[ "Buy every single property you land on. If you get a monopoly, buy houses and hotels as quickly as you can. ", "1) Don't forget that if someone doesn't buy a property when it is first landed on, it goes up for auction.\n\nThere is no minimum bid...\n\nAnd the person who landed on it -can- bid in the auction... :)\n\nMany times I have been able to get properties for fractions of the cost, or even 1 dollar, since people wouldn't outbid me.\n\n\n2) Don't allow the free parking cash house rules.. play the rules as written and it moves much faster and doesn't allow people an emergency influx of cash when they are about bankrupt.", "Orange and red are the best monopolies to have. Boardwalk is expensive but sucks compared to return on investment. Having four railroads is a constant revenue stream. Three houses is the sweet spot. Force a housing shortage. ", "Buy everything, even if you don't want it . if you can secure at least 1 of every property you control bargaining for a monopoly. If you're super lucky you will own one of each property and a monopoly. Pretty much can't loose. \n\nIf you don't have a monopoly yet don't be afraid to mortgage stand alone property for cash to buy other property. \n\nThe Orange/Red corner is great for getting people who come out of jail. Orange in general is one of the most valuable since it's hit often, in line with Jail and the community chest/chance card \"go back 3 spaces\" can put you on it. \n\nBoardwalk is good but expensive however it has a card that will force a player right onto you. \n\nBuy lots of houses, again mortgage stand alone properties for houses, you will earn more from a house on pretty much any property over the rent on a non monopoly property. \n\nMake Crazy deals - another player has properties but little cash? trade them the blues/greens for some slums. They may think they made out with a high end monopoly but you can build now and might bankrupt them before they can put up houses. ", "Two strategies (along with buying everything you can land on):\n\nFirst, if you're lucky, land on and buy both dark blues, and put at least two houses on each. If you're able to do this quickly, the game will be short with you as a winner.\n\nSecond, do your best to acquire all 3 orange properties then work to build hotels on each. As everybody else constantly goes to jail (which happens a lot) then leaves, they're more likely to land on them.", "There's some really good stuff in here... are there any sites/boards or an app maybe where people can play monopoly (for free) the way a lot of people play chess?", "Roll the dice better so you don't land in places where you have to pay. \n\nAlso make your opponents roll so they land on your properties and pay you. ", "Make sure not to spend to much money on houses all at once. You will need some extra money incase you land on your opponents property.", "If you get the oranges you'll likely win the game, make sure your opponents are sinking their money into the greens (expensive/low returns)", "Getting a monopoly and building on it is the strategy. Sometimes risks payoff, but getting high probability monopolies will generally win you the game quickly. How you get it is dependent upon luck and your competition.", "For me, it was buying the properties on the corner with the \"go to jail\" space and building hotels on them. Can really screw people over with that.", "Buy the majority of all the initial properties you land on. As well as keep any one player (other than yourself) from forming a \"monopoly\".", "Be the best friend or relative of the first person to quit the session. They will almost certainly rather give you all their money, instead of returning it to the bank as the rules state. Bizarrely, everyone else will allow it, except the player who was furthest ahead.\n\nIf you'd rather counteract this effect, be sure ahead of time that you've all agreed not to allow it, as a group. And don't let them put it in the middle, for the parking lot.\n\nJust this one house rule has ruined every game I've ever played.", "We don't play by the rules. You can't buy an properties until you've gone around the board once. All the money from chance or community chest goes into the middle of the board and whoever lands on Free Parking gets all the cash. We don't auction off properties. " ]

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[ "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.", "How to get inner peacer and let go of the things friends have done wrong to you? I find myself in a situation where I had friends at a point of time. Now as I had reached my lowest of lowest, a time where I would want someone to talk to or at least some attention from them there are no where to be found. It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find." ]

[ "> It makes me think if they were even my friends to being with and sometimes I feel like messing with them in any way I can find.\n\nThe best revenge is living well. I learned that later in life. :]", "You've heard the phrases *\"time heals all wounds\"*, and *\"two wrongs don't make a right\"*, right? It's not easy coming to a conclusion that the people you thought were friends maybe weren't your real friends, but the easiest way to deal with it is to move on and find better friends. Try to keep your dignity, because you never know who you might meet on your way up, or indeed on your way back down again. Learn to love yourself and don't rely on verification from other people. You're a muthafuckin' rock star OP. Now go out there and shine.", "You might be interested in stoicism. If you don't know, it was a popular philosophy in Roman times. The most popular stoic was probably the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius. A lot of it is about having better control over how you react to external influences and attaining joy and tranquility. I would recommend \"A Guide to the Good Life\" by William B. Irvine, it's a great introduction to the philosophy.", "You know what? Dont worry about them. If they were your friends they would care. Do you for now. Let your success speak and dont worry what they think. You cant change them and honestly theyre controlling you and have a grasp on you mentally still if you keep ruminating about everything and trying to get revenge. Certain things are warranted like if they verbally abuse you then by all means retaliate. But at this point in time, only you yourself can get yourself out. Weve all had our low points, the time you spend in it moping and all.. Is all up to you.\nI hope im not being too blunt. Distract yourself with hobbies and things you like doing. Make new friends, focus on your career or job, a new significant other, whatever it takes.. Just get better one day at a time.\n\nPeople come and go in life. You cant enjoy life if it was perfect all the time. You need the downs too. Also ive learned there are many things not worth knowing, which will save you headaches later on. Learning to let go of certain things and not being too caught up in everything or put your stake too deeply into something will help ease stress.", "I would recommend looking into /r/m", "I can think of about ten people who I thought where my friends, but in the end, we're just total jerks to me. The best way to deal with them is to ignore them. (I was also bullied in school which made it worse)", "Do you know that they did it out of malice or ill-intent? If not, then give them eighty excuses, and after that give them one more excuse. Everybody has their problems and not everybody matures to learn how to be genuine. Be graceful with their mistakes and remember that no matter what they do to you, they are still human and you still have life in your veins. Who knows, they might even regret it in on the inside. Be wary but don't let your ego come first. Asking this question already shows that you have way more dignity than that. \n\nIf they did do it out of malice, i.e. they wanted to use you and hurt you, then you have every right to be upset. You don't have to hold onto your anger, don't let it consume you. But you definitely don't have to forgive them, although I would say it's better for you. Recognize that there are people good and bad. After that, just find new things to do. Inner peace is about knowing that no matter happens and where you end up, you'll be okay. It really is a journey. \n\nKeep searching for the truth and hopefully one day you'll find it. " ]

[ 11, 5, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?", "How to see behind you discretely in an office I sit with my back facing the hallway in my office. What discrete items can be placed on my desk to reflect behind me?" ]

[ "I went to the auto store, or auto supply section of the store, and got those little circular mirrors than you stick on your side view mirrors. Then I put one on each of the upper corners of my monitor. It's amazing how people don't realize those are there. Even after they walk into your office and you say hello to them by name without turning around.\n\nI use them around the house too, so I can see if it Jehovah's Witness at the door without getting up.", "Get a cellphone stand. And place it where you want to see. The black screen will reflect a lot for you, also no one will question why you have a cellphone stand. Cheap and affordable ", "I wasn't subtle - I put a mirror in the corner of my monitor and also put one of these on my desks (sound turned off, but visible in the corner of my eye so the glow alerts me). \nhttp://www.geekalerts.com/star-wars-yoda-usb-desk-protector-figure/", "If you want to be discrete, a mirrored picture frame of a pet or loved one. We all learned this when they gave us a company logo'd, mirrored frame, managment was so happy that we all used them, but it was because of the reflection, not because we liked them.", "A dark picture. One of those sunglasses with a mirror oh the edge that where in the Mickey Mouse magazine once. A turned off screen. A Webcam, while you have its output open in a small window in the corner, and when someone asks you just need to make sure your hair doesn't suck. \n\n", "I bought a mirror to clip onto my monitor for this very purpose. The key is to find some element of your work that you need to keep private and use that as your excuse. :) For me, as a supervisor, occasionally I had employee sensitive information (Salaries, performance reviews, etc) up on my screen and I wanted to make sure they were turned down if someone came - but it also helped me to minimize Reddit when someone walks over. :) ", "Get a metal paperweight, rub it once a week to keep it shiny and reflective. Position it on eye-level." ]

[ 8, 5, 4, 3, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX", "How do I stop having a crush on every girl that has ever been nice to me? I want to be able to have a normal friendship to a woman without constantly thinking about \"but what if xyz happened?\". Wouldn't be too much of a bummer if it only happened once or twice, but I just can't seem to have a good friendship level with a woman without instantly having a crush on her. HALP PLX" ]

[ "You're human. Just learn to manage it. I'm 57 and I still get a crush on every other woman. Just don't take these crushes too seriously, treat them with a sense of humor, and never be obsessed. Relax and have fun, life on planet Earth is a beautiful thing.", "Picture yourself in the bathroom with them while they are making that face that people do when they're trying to push out a turd. If it turns you off then move on. It wasn't meant to be. ", "I think it's an evolutionary prerogative (for men) to first approach a friendship as a potential [more-than-friends] relationship. \n\n1. Honestly accept there is part of your brain that is going to think about those things and take ownership of those thoughts. That it's normal and part of *you*. THEN\n2. Spend more time with the person doing \"friend\" things and force yourself to see them as a person, not as an interest, with their own dreams and ideas and commentary and shortcomings. Get to know them as a *real* person.", "You can easily avoid all of this by never going outside. Closing the blinds guarantees you wont fall for any girls on the street. If this still doesnt work try drinking cheap methanol heavy moonshine.", "Recognize women are people and you will develop the ability to see them as individuals. You are also probably sexualizing them. Again, they're people. :) ", "Imagine you were friends with a gay guy. How would you want him to think of you? How would he avoid falling for you, knowing you were straight?", "Classic friend zone syndrome. My advise to you is if you are attracted to a girl, you need to start that relationship under that pretence. Don't try to befriend her then take it to the next level; that almost never works and it comes off super creepy. ", "Realizing the problem is a big step toward solving it. Just remind yourself that girls are often nice people, and this doesn't mean that they are interested in you. If you think of her in the wrong way, she will stop being nice to you. ", "spend more time with her and eventually build a relationship\nor meet new woman that is more interested in you and spend time with her instead...\n\nbut this is a part of a deeper question: \"can man and woman have \"normal friends\" without either side have a slight crush on the other?\"\n\nfinally remember: **every woman loves attention** (in form of time you spend with her, dates, gifts etc.), do it with several girls (separately if possible) and eventually youll find one that has a slight crush on you.", "can somebody explain to me how you can keep fixating on someone who clearly doesn't like you back. have some self respect ", "Ignore every woman except your family. After you stop pursuing women, they will pursue you. Women keep tabs on guys who do not pursue women. And women want what they cannot have..." ]

[ 23, 18, 13, 6, 5, 2, 2, 1, 0, -2, -6 ]

[ "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?", "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?", "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?", "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?", "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?", "Any way I can get vomit out of my pants while at work? I just vomited on my jeans due to medications. I am at work, so I can't change my pants. Any methods on removing the vomit?" ]

[ "Go home. Your boss should be kind enough to let you run out and buy some pants or go home for the day. \n\nNo one should have to work in clothing covered in vomit. Your coworkers will thank you too.", "Soda water and lots of paper tissues. Let it soak for a moment then rub off. A clean handkerchief would be even better than tissues because the paper can end up in small pieces on the fabric when you rub.", "Also if this is something that happens often, maybe stash a change of clothes in your work locker, car if you have one, or your backpack.", "Tell your boss that you need to run to the nearby store to buy new jeans because you vomited on the one you are wearing.", "Pour hot coffee on yourself so you burn yourself then put a large sock over your jeans so then when your boss catches you with coffee on yourself all he will see is socks", "Baby wipes or cleaning wipes (but double check if they have bleach in them, so you don't bleach your clothes). Even makeup wipes will work in a pinch.\n\nThis will remove the bulk of the surface mess, but the vomit is going to stay in the weave of the fabric unless you wash it out. If it's not a strong smell, or it's not a terrible mess, removing the surface mess will do for now.\n\nIf you've got paper towels, soda water, as mentioned, (or tonic water) can help dab it up. Don't use anything with sugar or corn syrup (i.e. sprite) unless you want to be sticky all day too.\n\nYou can also use cold water and a teeny bit if soap and some paper towels to wash it up.\n\nBe careful, because a lot if industrial bathroom paper towels shred when you scrub with them.\n\nAlso warning, if your pants are a lighter color, any heavy duty cleaning will show due to wet spots. \n\nIf you can, go home and change, and toss your pants in the washer or sink to soak, so the vomit doesn't dry out and stain.\n\nDon't use perfume or sprays to try cover up any vomit smell. (Its only gonna smell like really strong perfume and vomit, sooo not worth it.)\n\nIf you can remove much of the surface mess, and lightly scrub the area, you should be able to get rid of most if the problem." ]

[ 40, 7, 4, 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!", "How do I stop/prevent sweating in the workplace? I get stinky, and it's embarassing.\nIn a professional work place. With suits and ties.\nNeed some advice!" ]

[ "Hello fellow sweaty office worker! I am a walking furnace. I sweat like nobody's business. My pits are soaked from just sitting here. It's horrible but all I can do is contain it. Here's how I do it:\n\n1) Deodorant - always have a stick with me. Reapply at lunch. If you like cologne/perfume, there is no harm in adding a quick spray after lunch as well.\n\n2) Body wipes. Same as #1 -- always good to have to prevent that dried sweat stink.\n\n3) Get a good fan. Not a weak desk fan, a real fan. \n[This is pointed at my head all day](http://www.amazon.com/Kaz-HT-900-Honeywell-TurboForce-Fan/dp/B001R1RXUG)\n\n4) This might be hard during the winter but I highly suggest ONLY drinking iced beverages. You'd be surprised what a giant bottle of ice cold water can do to you.\n\n5) Does the chair you use have breathable material on the seat? If not, get a pillow for $5 at Ikea. It prevents you from getting a smelly butt from sitting for long periods of time.\n\n6) Don't eat spicy food for lunch, ever. Also, don't over eat! Both will cause more sweating.\n\n7) Walk slower. Seriously, it sounds like the dumbest advice but just walk slower when you have to.\n\n8) I keep a sweat towel at my desk for emergencies but when I was temping, I always kept a bunch of napkins nearby. Never know when you're going to need to blot.\n\nI know that a lot of this seems really trivial but thus is life. Sweating at work sucks and there's little you can do but little things to control it. Best of luck and if you need to vent, hit me up!", "I recently read that if you apply antiperspirant before you go to bed it's much more effective as it has more time to clog the pores", "Hi,\nI have hyperhydrosis in my armpits, and i have been searching for an easy effective treatment. I found Sweatblock and Driclor. Both are easy to use, but i prefere sweatblock.\nNow I don't sweat in my armpits at all when i use sweatblock. ", "Go to your local pharmacy or walk in clinic and have them prescribe you drysol. Its a liquid that you apply to areas that consistently get sweaty to eliminate a lot of the sweat. Its normally used for people who have some form of hyperhydrosis.", "Heed this advice from another sweaty guy: Buy only all-cotton or all-wool dress clothes. At the very least, avoid polyester.\n\nPolyester traps heat to raise your body temperature, makes you sweat, and holds stink worse than any other fabric. Pretty much the only benefits for polyester are cost and wrinkle resistance.\n\nYou may have to learn to love ironing, save up to buy a new all-cotton, all-wool wardrobe, and start budgeting for dry cleaning, but you will be glad you did and you will probably end up looking better, too.", "I have the same problem and I honestly don't know a great way to fix it. However, you can mitigate the stank by applying running alcohol to the problem areas. It kills off the bacteria and wipes the smell away pretty much completely. It also evaporates quickly so you won't smell like alcohol.", "Try a Botox injection from a reputable specialist( usually an aesthetics doctor or surgeon) - it stops the sweat gland from sweating in your armpits. ", "Try Certain Dry for under arm sweat. It's pretty great, but the new formula can make my armpits itch some since it's a lot stronger.", "Not sure whether this is a fix for everyone, but anyhow...a good friend of mine growing up had perspiration issues like you're describing. She got acupuncture and it remedied her problem. Try m", "I sweat a lot and I think part of it is acceptance, knowing you can't control the perspiration, and wearing a good undershirt. It will be your first line of defense and should stop a lot of sweat.\n\nAlso I would recommend finding some wool shirts from REI or icebreaker.com they both have a great selection for shirts and apparel. Most people assume that wool is hot and sweaty but they've learned how to make them really thin and because of its natural properties, it will not only wick away moisture but it does not hold onto nasty odors like a polyester shirt would. And it works in the winter and summer. ", "I don't have advice for preventing or stopping the sweat, but I have a tip for managing it.\n\nYou can attach feminine pads or pantyliners to the armpits of your clothing so that they'll soak up the sweat (cotton side goes toward your armpit). It'll protect your clothes from stains, and it'll prevent wet spots from forming under your arms.\n\nThey make some that are scented, but be careful if you're a dude - they smell like flowers and perfume. There are some with baking soda in them (usually off-brands), and those would be ideal for this situation.", "Since the cold season is aproaching, wear a parka/coat with pretty much only a teeshirt under, I don't know if there are dress rules though.\n\nAlso use deo.", "Quick tip: shave your pits! This cuts down on both wetness and odor. And while you're at it, do the same thing to your crotchal region.", "I’m not diagnosed but I’m almost certain I have forehead hyperhydrosis and or inflamed sweat glands(I’ve seen some symptoms of both that lead me to believe this) any recommendations for what I should do. I think that the face sweat and hand sweat are the worst forms of over sweating you can’t really hide either", "I use Old Spice for the underarms. If there is anywhere else on the body you're concerned with, baby powder helps swamp ass and any type of antifungal spray for the feet. There is also body deodorant sprays that work really well. ", "I feel your pain, I took to bringing an extra shirt with me and just change it out helps halfway through the day. I have one of those travel anti-antiperspirant with me. ", "I dont know how to stop it besides antiperspirant. You should get some breathable socks, instead of wearing the heavy pairs. Also if you bring some wet wipes of some kind to keep in your drawer at your desk, go to the bathroom every few hours and wipe your underarms with the wetwipes and re apply the anti perspirant to stay fresh.", "Hey guys!!\n\nI'm an ex underarm sweater, I mean huge -- everyday I was thankful to change into my gym shirt to have another shirt so HOPEFULLY my original would dry in time by the time gym class was done. \n\nI am a huge advocate for this product: https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health/care/consumer/health-wellness/drugs-and-natural-medicines/drug-encyclopedia/medicine-information/!ut/p/a1/hdBRb4IwEAfwz-KDj9rDItS9oWasMNBlZLK-LIhdJaktKVXjtx849mDitr5d87t_7g4xlCOmilMlCltpVciuZt5HBnQ1nzsBgEOnQNcRSZeETGCB0QZFiAmpt1f8vre2fhjCEHbmKLgqL6NaGyu5HQJi3R9dotx1iee7_3Kpy0JylHM1OjY3utTKcmUNVztuuLmLA7XFRCBm-GdnxkfTDtglNNeI8_k8FloLycelPrQJd1r2urEov5Xtwuzvm0APHqPXb7ByZwRosnha0DQGCP0erAOgJIGpAwH2gHoZjv0kdSB0ewCYvlwTwrUHrY2z-G0WY4DJD_jlBYDqA7lgeXrmG2JntKIiGAy-AOKN2yg!/dl5/d5/L2dBISEvZ0FBIS9nQSEh/\n\nThe stuff that I used for prescription was HyperCare -- I'm not kidding the first 3-5 weeks is pretty much hell. It's a lot of itching/burning/possible peeling but I'm 25 now and I avoid any sort of underarm sweat (unless I'm working out heavily). I used about 3 bottles of this stuff (mostly due to the liquid drying before I could use again) but if I noticed after a while of use that I was sweating bad again, I would use a little bit more until I completely weened off of it and I've never had to use it in two-three years!!! I HIGHLY recommend this for anybody who at least cosmetically you want to deal with your arm pits. \n\nI've never used this product on the rest of my body, I have horribly sweaty hands and feet as well, but I've since kind of controlled my feet for the most part and hands are second nature so. I've also controlled my arm pits. This product says you can use on your whole body if needed, I'd just suggest maybe not for lack of controlling body heat. \n\nAnyways that's my 2 cents, I hope it helps. \n\nI wanted to ", "if you sweat more than your coworkers or more than the average person, get your thyroid hormones checked." ]

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[ "How to get back in touch with old friends that I haven't talk to much at all So school is starting up again for me in a couple of weeks and there are a couple of old friends that I would like to get in touch with. However I haven't talked to them at all during the summer and I didn't say much during school last year.\n\nNow I know this may vary from person to person, but I'm hoping to be less shy with some old friends. How can I go about that without really being awkward.", "How to get back in touch with old friends that I haven't talk to much at all So school is starting up again for me in a couple of weeks and there are a couple of old friends that I would like to get in touch with. However I haven't talked to them at all during the summer and I didn't say much during school last year.\n\nNow I know this may vary from person to person, but I'm hoping to be less shy with some old friends. How can I go about that without really being awkward." ]

[ "It's easy. Call them up and just say it's been a long time since you've talked. Keep it simple, ask how they are.\n\nNo time for awkward.", "How close are these friends to you? Sounds more like acquaintances than friends if you don't interact much during the school year and don't get together at all in the summer..." ]

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[ "efficient and effective way to organize mail, bills, and coupons? I have never been around anyone that was able to organize their mail effectively. My family always had it lying all over or in boxes and only pulled out immediately important items. I feel there is a better way to organize items in order of importance without having stacks all over the place. ", "efficient and effective way to organize mail, bills, and coupons? I have never been around anyone that was able to organize their mail effectively. My family always had it lying all over or in boxes and only pulled out immediately important items. I feel there is a better way to organize items in order of importance without having stacks all over the place. ", "efficient and effective way to organize mail, bills, and coupons? I have never been around anyone that was able to organize their mail effectively. My family always had it lying all over or in boxes and only pulled out immediately important items. I feel there is a better way to organize items in order of importance without having stacks all over the place. " ]

[ "Here is some advice : dont complicate your life with weird filing and storage and sorting methods. Just sort it on the table/counter as it comes in, discard any spam, and don't leave hardly anything for later because it just adds extra work for your future self. \n\nGo paperless on things that can just be done online, and keep ONE box for important \"to deal with later\" postponed items. If you have too many things in your \"to do later\" bin, then its time to do something about them!\n\nAlso, take pictures of things that you dont immediately need, but can look up or print later if needed.\n\nSource: i have spent all mylife trying to figure out clever LPTS for sorting, only to realise that my girlfriend and I are massive hoarders. KISS- Keep it simple stupid is the nbest advice i ever heard.)\n", "I always open things right when I get it and deal with it immediately. So I never have things pilled up around the house. If you're wanting to keep things for later use I would get a desk or something that has file folders like [**this**](http://cdn3.bigcommerce.com/s-olitz28/product_images/uploaded_images/file-drawers-650.jpg?t=1402082588) so you can label and organize accordingly. This would help with mail and bills. I personally have a drawer like this and it's a lifesaver.\n\nFor coupons, there are a couple of ways to do this. Amazon has a lot of coupon organizer things like [**this**] (http://www.amazon.com/HannahDirect-ECH-Expandable-Coupon-Organizer/dp/B005DN72IM) and you could put that somewhere you see often so you don't forget about them. Or you could simply put them in your wallet or car.", "For bill payments I use prism they update their app often and support a lot of businesses Iphone and android links below \n\nhttps://itunes.apple.com/us/app/prism-bills-money-pay-bills/id522138897?mt=8 \n\nhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mobilligy.android&hl=en" ]

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[ "How to best improve my vocabulary and put it to use in conversation I've read that the only way to improve one's vocabulary is through a lot of practice. I read a decent amount and have been making flash cards for any words that I'm not familiar with. I do practice with the cards a decent amount, but I have had a hard time putting them to use whilst conversing with others. Any suggestions?", "How to best improve my vocabulary and put it to use in conversation I've read that the only way to improve one's vocabulary is through a lot of practice. I read a decent amount and have been making flash cards for any words that I'm not familiar with. I do practice with the cards a decent amount, but I have had a hard time putting them to use whilst conversing with others. Any suggestions?", "How to best improve my vocabulary and put it to use in conversation I've read that the only way to improve one's vocabulary is through a lot of practice. I read a decent amount and have been making flash cards for any words that I'm not familiar with. I do practice with the cards a decent amount, but I have had a hard time putting them to use whilst conversing with others. Any suggestions?", "How to best improve my vocabulary and put it to use in conversation I've read that the only way to improve one's vocabulary is through a lot of practice. I read a decent amount and have been making flash cards for any words that I'm not familiar with. I do practice with the cards a decent amount, but I have had a hard time putting them to use whilst conversing with others. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "Old school - read books and look up words you might not understand, or have heard before but not in that context.\n\nGo to a place like thesaurus.com and look up common words you use. For instance, I realize that I use the word \"usually\" quite often in email communications. Instead of repeating that word so often, I can also use normally, frequently, occasionally, etc. etc. (bad example, sorry)\n\n", "The more you read the more likely you are to pick up new and exotic vocabulary, and use them in proper context to boot. That's all there is to it. Find some literature (anything: articles, books, journals, papers, and so on) that has a couple of words you are unfamiliar with. \n\nIf you try to awkwardly insert vocabulary into everyday conversation (especially if you aren't familiar with the proper way it may be used) you may find that despite the raw definition of the word, it doesn't quite convey what you think it would. \n\nFor instance, I've been seeing few people say that someone's political opinion is \"myopic,\" which is the medical term for being short-sighted. I understand what they're trying to say, but this is a highly recognized medical term and its almost never used in this context... So in my opinion I think it sounds pretentious. A better thing to say, would be their opinion lacks foresight, or to just simply say it's shortsighted since that's a better understood term. \n\nThe point of improving vocabulary is you want to be more concise and clear in what you say. If you are using vocabulary in a way that's achieving the opposite effect, well, that nullifies its whole purpose... doesn't it?", "Look up words immediately when you hear them. Pay attention to their latin/greek roots. Many of these roots will repeat themselves in similar words. They'll also help you remember the word because the origin gives your mind something to \"index\" with the meaning. For example: eponymous (giving one's name to something--*James Dean, an eponymous story about the life of screen legend James Dean*) comes from the Greek origin \"giving name\". You'll notice the root \"nym\" (name) which also appears in \"anonymous\" and \"synonymous\".\n\nI agree with /u/pileofdeadninjas about being careful not to sound pretentious, but sometimes a word can very precisely explain what you're feeling/thinking.", "If you just learn big words for the sake of using them in conversation, you run the risk of sounding pretentious. You also don't end up getting your message across. (see /r/iamverysmart) \n\nThat being said, just read lots of different stuff. Books, articles, stuff on Reddit, etc., and look up words you don't know whenever they come up. That way you learn a new word and see how people use them casually. No need to sit down and study. " ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 1 ]

[ "Best way to prevent callouses on feet. Aside from using a pumice stone and occasional pedicure, what is the best way to treat (cure) and prevent feet callouses?", "Best way to prevent callouses on feet. Aside from using a pumice stone and occasional pedicure, what is the best way to treat (cure) and prevent feet callouses?", "Best way to prevent callouses on feet. Aside from using a pumice stone and occasional pedicure, what is the best way to treat (cure) and prevent feet callouses?" ]

[ "My mother taught me to moisturize my feet with any lotion and then wear socks to bed. Softest feet in the morning. ", "Try wearing nylon dress socks under your normal socks. This will help your feet from sticking thus reducing the friction from walking. Also changing your socks throughout the day, keeping your feet dry will help a lot. \n\nDon't skimp on your work shoes/boots either. A custom pair goes a long way, if your a person who makes their livelihood on your feet this can't be stressed enough.", "I've found that a good scrub with a somewhat rough washcloth in the shower (with some soap) on the usual trouble spots has pretty much prevented them for me.\n\nTo get any stubborn ones to clear up, I've used Callex with good results: http://www.amazon.com/Xenna-Callex-Ointment-1-75-oz/dp/B00006MMU7" ]

[ 3, 2, 2 ]

[ "How to prevent burnout of a series of media I usually get really invested in a series of books, audio drama, ect. However, I think I obsess over them so much that I never actually finish any of them, meaning I have a bunch of series I have lost interest in.\n\nDoes anyone have a LPT on either how to regain interest in these series or not burnout?", "How to prevent burnout of a series of media I usually get really invested in a series of books, audio drama, ect. However, I think I obsess over them so much that I never actually finish any of them, meaning I have a bunch of series I have lost interest in.\n\nDoes anyone have a LPT on either how to regain interest in these series or not burnout?" ]

[ "I do this tons. Main way I deal with it is just let it sit for a while. It’s always nice to go back after you start missing it a bit.", "I turn my viewing for reading into part of my daily routine. It might sound a little strict, but I set aside one hour for the show I'm watching, another hour for the book I'm reading, and again, an hour for whatever video game I'm playing. It gives me balance and allows me time to digest the media. I hope that helps :)" ]

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[ "Getting rid of blowflies in extremely cluttered basement. I live in an old house, built in the 1930s. It is my grandma's old house, and the basement is super cluttered with 70 years worth of her stuff...she was a hoarder, just not the type that makes it on TV.\n\nA couple of weeks ago, my front porch smelled like garbage for some reason. I looked around, and checked under the porch...didn't see anything. There were flies all over my porch for the next couple days while it continued to smell. A few days later, the smell cleared up and the flies went away.\n\nTwo days ago, I am in my basement doing laundry, and I notice some a fly or two. I look around and see that there are maybe 5-10 around. I drive to the store and get some fly paper, hang up a couple of strips, and go to bed. \n\nToday, the fly paper strips are covered in flies, and I have put up a couple of new ones as well. It seems that the population has grown, as there are many more flying around, with maybe 100 or so dead on one or another of the various pieces of fly paper.\n\nEverything I have read indicates that the FIRST step to eliminating blowflies is to cut off the source--typically a dead animal. Unfortunately, I cannot see/find a dead animal upon initial inspection, and cleaning/sorting out all of the stuff in the basement is AT LEAST a month long job (probably more), so that's not really a quick-fix type of option. Simply throwing everything away is not an option either.\n\nHow do I get rid of these things? Or, at least, how can I keep their impact/population to a minimum until their food source runs out?\n\nTL;DR Blowflies in the basement. Can't find the source. How to clear them out? How long til they die?", "Getting rid of blowflies in extremely cluttered basement. I live in an old house, built in the 1930s. It is my grandma's old house, and the basement is super cluttered with 70 years worth of her stuff...she was a hoarder, just not the type that makes it on TV.\n\nA couple of weeks ago, my front porch smelled like garbage for some reason. I looked around, and checked under the porch...didn't see anything. There were flies all over my porch for the next couple days while it continued to smell. A few days later, the smell cleared up and the flies went away.\n\nTwo days ago, I am in my basement doing laundry, and I notice some a fly or two. I look around and see that there are maybe 5-10 around. I drive to the store and get some fly paper, hang up a couple of strips, and go to bed. \n\nToday, the fly paper strips are covered in flies, and I have put up a couple of new ones as well. It seems that the population has grown, as there are many more flying around, with maybe 100 or so dead on one or another of the various pieces of fly paper.\n\nEverything I have read indicates that the FIRST step to eliminating blowflies is to cut off the source--typically a dead animal. Unfortunately, I cannot see/find a dead animal upon initial inspection, and cleaning/sorting out all of the stuff in the basement is AT LEAST a month long job (probably more), so that's not really a quick-fix type of option. Simply throwing everything away is not an option either.\n\nHow do I get rid of these things? Or, at least, how can I keep their impact/population to a minimum until their food source runs out?\n\nTL;DR Blowflies in the basement. Can't find the source. How to clear them out? How long til they die?", "Getting rid of blowflies in extremely cluttered basement. I live in an old house, built in the 1930s. It is my grandma's old house, and the basement is super cluttered with 70 years worth of her stuff...she was a hoarder, just not the type that makes it on TV.\n\nA couple of weeks ago, my front porch smelled like garbage for some reason. I looked around, and checked under the porch...didn't see anything. There were flies all over my porch for the next couple days while it continued to smell. A few days later, the smell cleared up and the flies went away.\n\nTwo days ago, I am in my basement doing laundry, and I notice some a fly or two. I look around and see that there are maybe 5-10 around. I drive to the store and get some fly paper, hang up a couple of strips, and go to bed. \n\nToday, the fly paper strips are covered in flies, and I have put up a couple of new ones as well. It seems that the population has grown, as there are many more flying around, with maybe 100 or so dead on one or another of the various pieces of fly paper.\n\nEverything I have read indicates that the FIRST step to eliminating blowflies is to cut off the source--typically a dead animal. Unfortunately, I cannot see/find a dead animal upon initial inspection, and cleaning/sorting out all of the stuff in the basement is AT LEAST a month long job (probably more), so that's not really a quick-fix type of option. Simply throwing everything away is not an option either.\n\nHow do I get rid of these things? Or, at least, how can I keep their impact/population to a minimum until their food source runs out?\n\nTL;DR Blowflies in the basement. Can't find the source. How to clear them out? How long til they die?" ]

[ "Get a small propane stove, simmer vinegar in it. The fumes kill flies. This was on LPT a couple days ago.", "http://bugasalt.com/\n\ninstead of thinking of the flies as a problem, look at them as a way to have a little fun.", "Clean out the basement, I dont think there's a real way around this, shortcuts are short term, what about the next time some cat/squirrel dies in your labyrinth basement." ]

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[ "How to get the last bit of lotion/conditioner/etc in a bottle to come out If it's \"runnier\" liquid (e.g., shampoo) I use a funnel to put it into the new bottle, but some heavier liquids (like lotion or conditioner) have a harder time coming out and I feel like I'm wasting perfectly good product. Any tips?", "How to get the last bit of lotion/conditioner/etc in a bottle to come out If it's \"runnier\" liquid (e.g., shampoo) I use a funnel to put it into the new bottle, but some heavier liquids (like lotion or conditioner) have a harder time coming out and I feel like I'm wasting perfectly good product. Any tips?", "How to get the last bit of lotion/conditioner/etc in a bottle to come out If it's \"runnier\" liquid (e.g., shampoo) I use a funnel to put it into the new bottle, but some heavier liquids (like lotion or conditioner) have a harder time coming out and I feel like I'm wasting perfectly good product. Any tips?", "How to get the last bit of lotion/conditioner/etc in a bottle to come out If it's \"runnier\" liquid (e.g., shampoo) I use a funnel to put it into the new bottle, but some heavier liquids (like lotion or conditioner) have a harder time coming out and I feel like I'm wasting perfectly good product. Any tips?" ]

[ "Well, you're going to put the conditioner in your wet hair anyway, so just add some water to it to make it more runny, and pour it straight over your head", "Holy crap, I'm surprised no one has said this one- cut the bottles! Cut off the tops so your hand can get whatever's stuck to the top of the rim, then cut off more so your fingers can reach the bottom of the container. If it's something that will dry out (like a lotion) then put it in a baggy, providing it isn't too large.", "Grab the bottle by the bottom then swing it around your head a few times. If you don't have enough room, you can do 1/4th of a circle instead. Centrifugal forces ftw.", "If you really want it out and don't want to change the consistency, use utility scissors and cut the container. You'll be surprised how much is still inside. Or you can set the container in hot water for a few minutes to soften." ]

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[ "moving and packing the house in short notice. We just sold and bought a new home with a closing date of March 30th. Any tips as we frantically pack and move our belongings?\n\nThanks.", "moving and packing the house in short notice. We just sold and bought a new home with a closing date of March 30th. Any tips as we frantically pack and move our belongings?\n\nThanks.", "moving and packing the house in short notice. We just sold and bought a new home with a closing date of March 30th. Any tips as we frantically pack and move our belongings?\n\nThanks.", "moving and packing the house in short notice. We just sold and bought a new home with a closing date of March 30th. Any tips as we frantically pack and move our belongings?\n\nThanks." ]

[ "Label your boxes, obviously.\n\nBut have one box labeled \"Unpack first\" with things like - paper plates, a couple of cups, paper towels, etc so that the pizza/etc you get, you have stuff to eat with.\n\nHave another box labeled \"unpack second\" with a towel per person, soap, shower curtain (at least liner & rings to hold it up), sheet set for every bed, etc, and enough for the \"first day\" in it.\n\nThese two boxes should have enough stuff to get you through the initial move and exhausted day, so you can take a shower at the end and go to bed. It'll make that first day that much easier.", "My suggestion was to colour code the boxes, with simple different coloured stickers from the dollar store.\n\nGreen = garage\n\nblue = bedroom\n\nred = kitchen\n\netc\n\nWhen bringing the boxes to the new house, automatically deposit them in the destination room. It will help to stay organized and unpack", "Make 1 box with \"1st day items\" - things you will need for the first day or so. For example, pack as much boxes with kitchen items as you need, but put pot and some pasta and 1 knife for the 1st day meal so that you don't need to go through all the boxes that says \"kitchen\" on them. Same with bathroom items. Put 1 towel seperatley. And so on.", "Like other people have said, pack a box or two with the essentials that will cover you all for at least a day or two. Imagine you're going to stay in a hotel and pack everything you'd pack AND everything a hotel would provide (shampoo, sheets, towels, mugs, etc.). If you want also pack a box of all your most valuable or important items. If you're moving with a company or truck, put those boxes in your car in case of traffic or other travel difficulties. Even if everything goes wrong and you have to stay in a hotel or an empty house for the night, your essentials and most important items will always be with you. Good luck with your move! :)" ]

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[ "Any tips about efficiently packing a \"pod\" container when moving to a new home? Any tips would be appreciated. Do I put furniture in first or last? How do I make sure nothing falls or breaks when the pod is being moved? Should absolutely everything be in some sort of box/container/bubble wrap? Any advice anyone can offer will be of value to me, so thanks in advance! ", "Any tips about efficiently packing a \"pod\" container when moving to a new home? Any tips would be appreciated. Do I put furniture in first or last? How do I make sure nothing falls or breaks when the pod is being moved? Should absolutely everything be in some sort of box/container/bubble wrap? Any advice anyone can offer will be of value to me, so thanks in advance! ", "Any tips about efficiently packing a \"pod\" container when moving to a new home? Any tips would be appreciated. Do I put furniture in first or last? How do I make sure nothing falls or breaks when the pod is being moved? Should absolutely everything be in some sort of box/container/bubble wrap? Any advice anyone can offer will be of value to me, so thanks in advance! ", "Any tips about efficiently packing a \"pod\" container when moving to a new home? Any tips would be appreciated. Do I put furniture in first or last? How do I make sure nothing falls or breaks when the pod is being moved? Should absolutely everything be in some sort of box/container/bubble wrap? Any advice anyone can offer will be of value to me, so thanks in advance! " ]

[ "Watch out for weight. I packed extremely efficiently, but ended up being 500 pounds over the weight limit. It was an enormous pain to unpack so much stuff and try to jam it in the already full car I was driving and trying to decide what NOT to bring.", "Put furniture in first, because it's hard to pack big things in when you already have a bunch of little things stuffed in there. Also, sometimes it's useful to stick boxes into shelves and things.", "I grew up in a military household. We moved a lot. Here's what I picked up:\n\nBig furniture in first. Obvious one, here. \n\nTry to pack stuff together with stuff it will be unpacked with, or at least near. It makes it easier to get rid of the boxes when you get to your new location. \n\nPut chairs in last/as you go. Take the legs off of chairs first and keep them grouped together as one peice (duct tape works well, here). Now, use the \"L\" shape of the chair like you would in tetris as you're stacking. Hang the chairs upside down from the top of stacks to fill in space. \n \nAlso: keep all your tools/screws together. If you take furniture or ANYTHING apart for easy packing, put all the parts in a ziplock bag. Label it. Throw it in a box with other labeled bags. Travel with this box in your car or on your person. If you lose this one box, your stuff is useless. This is the most valuable thing. \n\n", ">Should absolutely everything be in some sort of box/container/bubble wrap?\n\nEverything breakable should be packed well. What I always do is pack some of my fragile items with clothes, bedding, and towels that I wont be using for the time being. Bubble wrap is kind of pricey, so it saves some money and a little space to wrap fragile items with your towels/linens/winter clothes instead of bubble wrap." ]

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[ "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP.", "How to grow long hair For 2 years I've been trying to grow my hair and it hasn't grown a bit. I trimmed it once last year, but it has still stayed the same length. If it helps, I straighten my hair everyday and I use heat protection. HELP." ]

[ "Wow, I had no idea that not everyone's hair grows long when not cut. I have long hair and it definitely just continues to get longer if I don't cut it.\n\nNo idea what to do to help, naturally.", "Stop using heat on your hair! If you want to grow it out, you need to be very gentle to it. Don't shampoo it as much, use sulfate free products, and be very careful when it is wet because wet hair is fragile. A lot of it is genetics but if you want long hair you have to stop using heat on it.", "I'm no expert, but have you ride not straightening your hair everyday? I'm willing to bet doing it so regularly is a factor.", "I'm growing mine out, about a year and a half in so far and have grown a few inches. So. Info time. Obviously you start with genetics, that part is predetermined. As for your part in this: if you're going for length make sure you have any badly damaged/broken ends trimmed off, and then don't trim it until you've passed your goal. To do this and prevent damage the number one thing you'll need to do is stop applying heat like the straightener - it's the best way to damage it. Same goes for perms, color, curling, crimping, etc. - minimize as much as possible. \n\nAs for not blow-drying I was skeptical at first, but after working around some Sikh ladies and asking questions (they aren't allowed to cut their hair because of religion) I realized it was absolutely doable. Depending on thickness and length it takes about 2 hours to air dry so if this is something that works with your schedule, great way to cut down on heat damage. The thing about hair is the visible parts of it are already dead so it won't be fixing itself - what's damaged is damaged. \n\nHair is also made of protein; that's something I have in every meal in some form or another - if you don't eat meat, I'd look into making sure you're getting your daily recommended requirement from the other sources so your body has material to work with.\n\nIf you want to continue trimming at more spaced out intervals I recommend sticking with the same person to do your hair and let them know what your goal is. They'll likely have tips I haven't thought of.\n\nHope this helps! Best of luck .:)", "massaging your scalp while in the shower works so well! i started to do that and i noticed results right away. i dont think you necessarily have to do it in the shower i just think its easier. \noh and prenatal pills.", "* Stop using heat on your hair. It's not that your hair isn't growing, it's breaking off because it's damaged. Learn some heat-free ways to make your hair work for you. It also wouldn't hurt to learn to love your natural hair texture :P \n\n* Use shampoo and conditioner that's meant to repair hair. Try sulfate-free products if your budget allows for it.\n\n* One a week or so, comb olive oil through your hair, wrap your head up in a plastic bag/saran wrap and wash it out in the morning. (You might want to do this on a night where you're not going out much the next day -- your hair might smell a bit funky if you don't get it washed out well enough.)\n\n* Shampoo every other day, and condition every time you wash. If you have oily hair, use dry shampoo to soak up the grease. In a few weeks, your scalp will adjust to the more infrequent washing and stop producing as much oil.\n\n* Trim your hair an inch or so every *month.* You'll be getting rid of your damaged ends, and your hair will look much healthier.\n\n* Rub a bit of Argan oil on the ends of your hair after you wash it.\n\n* Take pre-natal vitamins. Great for nails and skin as well!\n\n* Don't rub your hair with your towel after washing it -- it damages hair. Instead, squeeze/pat it dry.\n\n* Take a look at your diet. Healthy hair starts on the inside and is maintained on the outside. Drink lots of water and eat healthy.\n\nThis is what I do, and my hair is very long, healthy, and grows pretty fast. But, do remember, you **do** have a genetic predisposition to how long your hair will grow. Just follow these tips for a few months and see if it helps!", "My hair grows about a foot a year, but doesn't grown longer than about four feet. I asked some national hair experts why. They said everyone's hair follicles have a different growth cycle; they grow for only so long and then release the hair & start growing a new one. So some people's hair just doesn't grow as long as others. I don't know of anything you can do to drastically change this. \n\nKeeping your hair healthy as it grows so it looks good and doesn't break off is a different issue, that other responses here have addressed pretty well. Here's what I do:\n\n* Wash it only once or twice a week. It may seem too oily at first, but it will start to adjust & produce less oil if you stick with it. \n* Use sulfate-free shampoo & keep it primarily at your scalp. \n* Use serious conditioner. I use a hair mask once or twice a week - so that's every time I wash my hair. I just use it in place of regular conditioner, putting it in at the beginning of my shower right after washing my hair, and then putting my hair up in a bun & letting it soak in as I do everything else, and then rinsing it out with cold water at the end. Also use leave-in conditioner (on the length of your hair only) every day. \n* Avoid all heat & non-conditioning products. Only towel-dry your hair (squeeze, don't wring or rub). Never use a blow dryer, straightener, curling iron, etc. Don't color or bleach your hair. I don't even use gel or hairspray. \n* Comb the conditioner through in the shower. Only use a large-toothed comb - never a brush - when it's wet. When it's dry, untangle at least once a day with a large-toothed comb & then use a brush to distribute the oil. Always be gentle. Use detangler whenever necessary. \n* Wear it up (in a bun or braid) whenever possible to keep it from getting tangled & damaged. \n* Drink lots of water & eat a healthy diet. ", "1) Don't wash your hair until you absolutely need to. Every time you wash, even if you're using conditioner you're stripping your hair of its natural defenses.\n\n2) Brush your hair every day liberally. This distributes the oil down to the very tips which is what your hair needs to stay supple.\n\n3) Calcium and other minerals in hard water actually attach and leave deposits in your hair, making it very brittle. If you can't afford to get a water softener for your shower, talk to a hair care professional and find a product that can help lift these deposits out of your hair. The products themselves are fairly pricey so you're looking at one big deposit (water softener) for years' worth of use, or paying the same price just in smaller amounts over time.\n\n", "biotene vitamins. I have several patients that swear by it and their hair is nice and long and healthy. It's good for nails too!", "Talk to your stylist. They'l know. Your hair is most certainly growing, you probably have damage and it's breaking at the ends. Is your hair color treated? I rub a little coconut oil on my ends a couple of nights a week, it doesn't take much, and I feel like my hair is softer because of it. Taking a multivitamin ist good advice, don't buy prenatals, there's nothing special about those that makes your hair grow. Pregnant women have thicker hair because of pregnancy, not vitamins. Also, choose your shampoo and conditioner carefully, you want a mild shampoo that won't strip your hair.", "PRENATALS. \nAlso, the more you trim your hair, the healthier it keeps it and the more it will grow. Don't straighten your hair everyday, and don't shampoo it everyday. Condition every night (unless you have naturally oily hair). ", "I swear by the mane n tail shampoo and conditioner! it's advertised as a human AND horse product... yeah, I know it sounds wacky, but it made my hair grow super fast when I was growing my hair out! you get a big bottle of it for about $6 each! they sell it at Sally Beauty and at most grocery stores. if you can't find it in the shampoo aisle, check the dog shampoo area (really!)\n\nalso, you need to trim your hair about once every 4-6 weeks. hair is just dead cells or whatever. you need to trim up the ends because that's the part in the worst condition. that's what will break off easily. odds are your hair is growing but the dead ends are breaking off and that's why it's not getting any longer.", "Hi! My hair has grown a bit over 10 inches in the last 12 months. Haven't cut it and I've only had two trims in the same time period. My split ends are minimal and my hair is shiny, strong, and hydrated. So I know what I'm talking about!\n\n- Try your best not to flat iron it every day, and if you can't do that, avoid the ends. Depending on how naturally straight your hair is, it may or may not look stupid. \n\n- If you really must straighten or curl your hair, get a heat protectant spray. I use CHI 44 Iron Guard. Spray an brush it through your hair before a heat treatment, focusing on ends, and it acts like a little barrier between the follicle and the heat. \n\n- Don't shampoo everyday. If you can't live with the disgust, choose one day a week where you're not going to see anyone the next day and don't shampoo. I hardly go anywhere on Saturdays so I don't shampoo on Fridays. In fact, if you know you're not doing anything the entire day, don't shower/shampoo the night before/that morning. \n\n- I'm a big fan of ISO shampoos and conditioners, but they're pretty pricey. ($16/bottle)\n\n- I've been night showering forever, so try it? I'm not sure if it actually does anything but why not. \n\n- If you absolutely HAVE to blow dry your hair, either do it on low speed. Obviously high heat isn't the best thing, but as long as you're on low heat, the effects won't be as bad, as wind isn't too kind on hair either. Definitely do not do it every day though. \n\n- When you towel dry, do it in pats, not ruffles. Pat the wetness away!!!\n\n- No need to style it everyday. Natural hair always looks good on a person! If not, work some bobby pin/hair tie/hat/sock bun magic. Remember: there's no way everyone is looking at you. \n\n- Get a trim a few times a year. Hair can only grow if it's healthy, and trimming the split ends off does wonders. \n\n- Invest in hair lotion. It is seriously one of the greatest underrated products ever. I use the Desert Essence Coconut hair lotion. It's light, doesn't leave hair greasy, smells awesome, and keeps hair moisturised. \n\n- Brush your hair whenever you can! If you're out, just go through with your fingers a few times. If you're at home, brush like nobody's business. There's a soothing element to it and it makes your hair SO soft. Like, so soft. ", "Don't straighten your hair; the damage will inhibit growth. Try going natural for a while and see if you notice a change in your hair health.", "As far as I know, everyone's hair grows at its own pace. The health of your hair is one factor to consider. Although straightening your hair may not make it grow slower, it may result in dead ends. Straightening your hair may make it appear longer, but it will not make the hair strands any longer. You would be better off keeping our hair well conditioned, so that you do not have dead ends that you need to trim off. Trimming your hair will not make it grow faster, either. The natural oils in your hair are far better than any product you add to it, so washing it less is healthier than washing it often and conditioning. \n\n**TL;DR:** Be patient, wash less with a gentle shampoo, and quit using heat to treat your hair. ", "You're wearing a wig. Go buy one with longer hair. Seriously though, that is not normal. You're doing something to it, or something is wrong. Orrr, someone is cutting it in your sleep." ]

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[ "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine.", "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine.", "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine.", "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine.", "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine.", "How to remove all the stubborn ragged safety foil from the edges of bottles and jars like medicines and peanut butter? They fuse the foil together with plastic, then they fuse that unrecyclable Franken-seal onto plastic bottles, and then when I try to remove it, these jagged bits of plasticky foil taunt my OCD brain every time I want some headache medicine." ]

[ "You can scrape it off using a razorblade/utility knife/exact-o-blade. Put the sharp blade perpendicular to the rim of the bottle and slowly/carefully pull it back to your thumb with the same motion you use with a paring knife on a vegetable.", "Don't try to peel it up from the edges, and minimize how much you tear it (so don't just poke-and-pull) - Use something sharp to puncture the seal in the center, then slowly peel it away from the inside out in 3-4 nice clean pieces.\n \nIt's not 100%, but when it fails at least you only have a few tiny scraps left to scrape away.", "Instead of becoming frustrated, I jis look at it like a blessing or miracle in disguise.\nThese tamper evident safety seals, although yes they annoy me too sometimes, (most recently on that jar of peanut butter!) are a great way for knowing that the product I will be consuming was not adulterated in any way shape or form than other what the manufacturer originally intended. \nThe Chicago Tylenol murders from 1982 are largely cr", "I usually cut it into 4 with a butter knife and since it’s smaller bits it usually doesn’t stick for me", "Dunno maybe refill into a different bottle \nOr shave it of with a Dremel ?\nOr buy a different brand that comes in a glass bottle or something^^", "Don’t try to rip it off. Use a knife to cut around the opening so it’s uniform and not jagged. \n\nOr get therapy." ]

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[ "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**", "How to accurately identify good and bad areas of a city (neighborhoods, crime, jobs, schools) for moving purposes before being able to go in person. I am looking for a new city to live in the USA. I obviously find a lot of information on the internet, but it's never really accurate or useful. I use all of these tools:\n\n* Google Earth/Street View\n* Weather reports\n* Job websites\n* Forums with residents' opinions\n* Local news\n\nAlthough all of this helps, I always feel unsure about making a decision. An area may look great on Street View, but I could move there and find out it's a nice area surrounded by crime and bad neighborhoods. **How can I identify a good area that is not too far from everything, that's safe and close to jobs before I have the chance to go in person to research?**" ]

[ "Have you checked if there's a subreddit for that area? They might be able to answer some of your questions more accurately. ", "Why are you moving? If you're moving for a job or school, ask someone in HR or admissions or some other university office - they'll know the best and worst places to live.\n\nAlso, even if you're not a student, check out local universities. Pretend you're a prospective student and the admissions office will tell you anything you ask.", "how about this: http://spotcrime.com/\n\nNo idea how accurate it is... I tried a few random spots and it show lots of interestng information.\n\n", "This is completely untested, but when I am traveling and see people on bikes (road bikes) with the full on bike attire, I feel I am in a good neighborhood. Bonus points for minority bikers. Whenever my wife and I see a biker in our area, we celebrate a little. ", "Look up the owner ocuppy rate of the homes in the area. If a person lives in the house ratHer than renting they will have a vested interist the community and it should be better. I worked for a cities Economic Dev. Dept and that was one of our bench marks and it works. The goal is at least 50%, 60 is better. Also try to find the professions of those in the area. It is best if there is a mix and not from the same company. What happens if the company goes under. ", "Call three separate pizza delivery places and ask. If there is frequent crime in an area they will know. Possibly cab services, too.", "I don't know how easy this info is to come by, but they can be good indicators of crime/safety:\n-College degree per capita\n-high school graduation/drop-out rate\n-lottery sales (the lower the better)\n-restaurant/grocer health ratings\n-density of churches (usually the more churches, the more dangerous the area for urban cities); this usually doesn't apply to Buddhist or Shinto, but those aren't common in urban areas of the US anyways\n-presence of community groups & events like farmers markets, small theaters, community yard/garage sales, youth sports leagues, etc\n\nThis is based on anecdotal and occasional studies I've glossed over. Some of these might not be accurate for every location.\n", "Notice the number of liquor stores and internet sweepstakes cafes in the area usually bad neighborhoods have more....", "I've always felt the rate of vacancies on corner lots says something. If there is economic activity, even in lower income areas, these lots will be filled by something. If the corner properties on Main St. are abandoned, then something is up and you probably won't like it.\n\nBear in mind Google Maps may not account for recent development, but it's a good place to start before exploring in person.", "I found this the other day: http://www.stltoday.com/news/multimedia/homicide-map/html_b1ea1c08-2411-11e0-96a8-0017a4a78c22.html\n\nnot really relevant for other areas but it does give details about each incident and a new map is released yearly. i'm not sure if other cities do this as well but I found it interesting.", "Call a local realtor. Tell them you are a doctor, lawyer, professor, etc & ask them where most of the professionals in that area live. " ]

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[ "I have an electronic appliance that makes a really annoying high pitch whine. How can I tune it out or dampen it? We just bought a new inverter and it's emitting a really annoying high frequency whine that is driving me up the wall. The worst part is that since no-one else in my family can hear this sound, they all think I'm exaggerating and so I can't convince them to exchange the inverter or get a new one.\n\nHow do I tune it out or atleast dampen this piece of shit because at this rate I'm gonna throw a chair at it before the week's out. Headphones and earphones don't work. Going upstairs and into my room kind of works but sadly I can't just stay up there forever. The inverter is in a very optimal position to have a clear path onto both the drawing room and the dining table and can reflect into every other room downstairs so I can't even avoid it", "I have an electronic appliance that makes a really annoying high pitch whine. How can I tune it out or dampen it? We just bought a new inverter and it's emitting a really annoying high frequency whine that is driving me up the wall. The worst part is that since no-one else in my family can hear this sound, they all think I'm exaggerating and so I can't convince them to exchange the inverter or get a new one.\n\nHow do I tune it out or atleast dampen this piece of shit because at this rate I'm gonna throw a chair at it before the week's out. Headphones and earphones don't work. Going upstairs and into my room kind of works but sadly I can't just stay up there forever. The inverter is in a very optimal position to have a clear path onto both the drawing room and the dining table and can reflect into every other room downstairs so I can't even avoid it", "I have an electronic appliance that makes a really annoying high pitch whine. How can I tune it out or dampen it? We just bought a new inverter and it's emitting a really annoying high frequency whine that is driving me up the wall. The worst part is that since no-one else in my family can hear this sound, they all think I'm exaggerating and so I can't convince them to exchange the inverter or get a new one.\n\nHow do I tune it out or atleast dampen this piece of shit because at this rate I'm gonna throw a chair at it before the week's out. Headphones and earphones don't work. Going upstairs and into my room kind of works but sadly I can't just stay up there forever. The inverter is in a very optimal position to have a clear path onto both the drawing room and the dining table and can reflect into every other room downstairs so I can't even avoid it", "I have an electronic appliance that makes a really annoying high pitch whine. How can I tune it out or dampen it? We just bought a new inverter and it's emitting a really annoying high frequency whine that is driving me up the wall. The worst part is that since no-one else in my family can hear this sound, they all think I'm exaggerating and so I can't convince them to exchange the inverter or get a new one.\n\nHow do I tune it out or atleast dampen this piece of shit because at this rate I'm gonna throw a chair at it before the week's out. Headphones and earphones don't work. Going upstairs and into my room kind of works but sadly I can't just stay up there forever. The inverter is in a very optimal position to have a clear path onto both the drawing room and the dining table and can reflect into every other room downstairs so I can't even avoid it" ]

[ "The truth of the matter is, if the rest of your family is over a certain age, they might NOT be able to hear it. You lose hearing of the higher frequencies as you age, most oft, and so they might actually literally not hear it as badly as you do. Unfortunately, the only real way to dampen it would be to put it in a box stuffed with insulation as it were, but they need to vent heat. Next best thing is earplugs, because I'm fairly certain most parents' reactions to \"maybe your hearing ilhas declined a little and you can't hear it\" will be \"what did you just say to me? My hearing is JUST fine, thank you, you little brat.\" Or some mutation thereof. Never hurts to try though, I suppose. Good luck.", "Search on it:\n\n[Reasons why your power inverter is screaming](https://homebatterybank.com/5-reasons-why-your-power-inverter-is-squealing-and-screaming-at-you/)\n\n[Inverter noise problem causes and solutions](https://www.mrright.in/ideas/appliances/inverter/facing-inverter-noise-problem-causes-solutions/)", "I worry about my dogs hearing the high pitched whines with their super sensitive hearing even if I can block it out occasionally.", "I get this kind of noise from LEDs that are aging. Usually no one else hears it. But I can usually get one of my kids to change it out, then I donate it. Screaming light is better than no light to a hard of hearing person.\n\nBut this issue in a power inverter *does* mean things are NOT well with it. It needs serviced at the least! Or make sure it's not getting too heavy a load put on it." ]

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[ "How To Make A Sincere Apology I hurt a colleague's feelings during an argument & said a lot of comments I didn't mean. The colleague mentioned is currently taking a leave to be w/her sick mother. (Ugh.) \n\nI don't have her number, & I prefer to write handwritten notes. How do I phrase a sincere apology? Without phrases that sound like I copied them from howtoapologize.com? \n\nIn general, whether it's in person or via letter/email, what should be included in a heartfelt apology? ", "How To Make A Sincere Apology I hurt a colleague's feelings during an argument & said a lot of comments I didn't mean. The colleague mentioned is currently taking a leave to be w/her sick mother. (Ugh.) \n\nI don't have her number, & I prefer to write handwritten notes. How do I phrase a sincere apology? Without phrases that sound like I copied them from howtoapologize.com? \n\nIn general, whether it's in person or via letter/email, what should be included in a heartfelt apology? ", "How To Make A Sincere Apology I hurt a colleague's feelings during an argument & said a lot of comments I didn't mean. The colleague mentioned is currently taking a leave to be w/her sick mother. (Ugh.) \n\nI don't have her number, & I prefer to write handwritten notes. How do I phrase a sincere apology? Without phrases that sound like I copied them from howtoapologize.com? \n\nIn general, whether it's in person or via letter/email, what should be included in a heartfelt apology? " ]

[ "I've found that apology cakes work wonders. Plus it users humor to lighten the mood. I once gave someone a cake that said \"I deeply regret my previous course of actions.\" ", "1 - have it be heart felt\n\n2- ensure you mean it before you write it, don't just write it to check a box\n\n3 - figure out why you said your comments to coworker, there's a reason you told him/her off in the first place. While you shouldn't tell them this, it can help you find out what you did wrong to better avoid it in the future.\n\n4 - don't make excuses for your actions - you acted like a fool/bigot/etc so own up to it. You should never use the words \"but\" or \"however\" \n\n5- Don't bring coworkers actions into it. Even if coworker started it and escalated it, you still acted like a child, so fess up and leave their mistakes out\n\n6 - ensure that you actually mean everything you are writing.\n\n7 - read the letter out loud to someone you care about before sending it.\n\n8 - you mean what you are saying right, make sure this isn't just to 'make them feel better' but because you are truly sorry for your actions\n\n9 - don't forget to say \"Sorry\". Honestly. Sorry, I acted like a fool and am truly sorry for my actions.\n\n10 - don't ask for forgiveness, to 'forget it happened' or anything else. You messed up, own up to it and deal with the consequences. \n\n11 - make sure you mean it. I know I've said this a bunch of times, but that is because it is the MOST important thing. If you don't really mean it, then that's when it comes off fake.", "Be sincere?\n\n* mean it\n* admit what you've done\n* acknowledge the negative effects of your actions that you've witnessed\n* express regret for your actions\n* vow to improve\n\n[This is my go-to example](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8vA0ANTUM0)" ]

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[ "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? ", "How to keep cat litter from getting all over your apartment. I sweep every day with a big dog and a cat, but the thing that kills me is stepping on cat litter with bare feet! I have hardwood and it gets everywhere in seconds after the cat uses it. I've tried those mats and they don't seem to be effective. Any tips? " ]

[ "Longtime cat owner here. \nClay litter is awful. Gets everywhere and its even more difficult to get out. \nI swear by pine or wheat based litter. It doesnt track nearly as much, its better for the environment than clay, and what it tracks is just pine dust, so the smell is well, like a christmas tree. \n\nPlace the litter box somewhere you can contain the tracking. A second bathroom would be ideal, small closet, or near somewhere that you can sweep directly outside.\n\n \nGet some industrial grade carpet squares -- enough to surround the area where the liter box will be placed. Its super easy to vacuum. one or two sweeps a day and the area can be clean. Or use a hand vacuum. Buy kitty a large, new litter box. I mean, a big one with a lid. Its worth the investment. Then get a rubber mat that has grooves and place it in front of the litter box. Those are easy to pick up and shake either in the toilet or outside. \n\nI use Chewy.com and a 40 pound bag of pine litter is usually is $17-20. Your first order over $50 gets free shipping. If you live somewhere rural, look for horse bedding. Its the same stuff but not usually sold anywhere but feed stores. (I dont work for chewy I promise but theyre a great service for me, as im in a large city.)\n\n\nChange the litter every 7-10 days for a single cat. \n\nOr, read Charles MIngus' guide on how to toilet train your cat. No really, it can be done. \n\n", "I am assuming you are using sand. The sand gets caught in the cats paw, and will drag that sand out all over the place.\n\nThe way I solved it, was to buy litter crystals, i think most pet stores have this, if not im sure you can order it online. They look like huge salt crystals, and are about 1 cm in size. They are too big and heavy to get caught in the cats paws. You will still have to sweap around the litter box, but it doesnt get dragged out all over the place", "\nThis method drastically helped me. Hopefully it makes sense. \n\nBuy a small/medium sized cat box that separates in to two pieces and has a door. Next, buy a much larger cat litter box without a top or door. Place the housed cat box inside of the larger cat box/pan and place all of that on a separate rug of your choice. The extra tray acts like a moat or catcher. \n\nWhen you clean, lift out the main smaller cat box, remove lid and pour the cat litter caught inside the larger section it sat on. Finally, roll the small-ish rug in to a taco and pour it into the cat box. Clean cat box. Clumping clay work best for me. \n\nAlternatively, buy one of those big gray, plastic storage totes, remove the lid, and let them jump in and out of it. The walls are high enough to cut down on the litter getting out. ", "they sell litter-catching mats to put outside of your litter box, really cheap at target or walmart. i wouldn't recommend cleaning them, more of a throw out every few months type thing", "Use the Clevercat litter box: http://www.amazon.com/Clevercat-77000-Top-Entry-Litterbox/dp/B0002ZS20I/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1421103970&sr=8-1&keywords=clever+cat\n\nI switched to this when I had my cat track litter all over the place from his usual front entry litter box. The top entry for this prevents him from throwing litter out while burying his poop and the grooves on the top scrape off litter that is stuck on his feet. Pair the litter box with a mat/pad and you will have little or no litter in the rest of your house. Bonus: If you have a dog, this box will stop them from getting into the kitty litter for treats.", "http://www.amazon.com/Tidy-Cats-Litter-Breeze-System/dp/B001411SK0\n\nWhen my fiance said she wanted to try this for our cats I figured it would be disgusting, but it's actually a pretty good system. When I see poop I scoop and flush it down the toilet right away, and with one cat you'd probably only have to change the pad every 4-5 days. I haven't found it to be smelly, but we'll see if a hundred people follow my comment by saying they tried it and thought it was horrible. Regardless, it would completely solve your problem with litter getting all over the place.", "[Litter Pearls](http://ultrapetcatlitter.com/portfolio/trackless-litter-pearls/) \n\nIts a silica based litter. Too big to track anywhere.", "Turn your cat litter box so that the opening is facing the wall, not the open room. The cat will figure out how to get in. You can also place a cardboard flat on the floor between the wall and the opening. Litter that hits the wall falls into the flat.", "I use [this](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001PIJJ9Y/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o02_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1) lovely mat. It's great at catching stray litter bits. Couldn't recommend it more. ", "Buy a bin with a snap top lid. Cut a big-enough square hole in the lid. Put a trash bag (like a contractor bag) inside the bin. Put a couple of sections of newspaper on the bottom of the bag--this prevents scratch-through (prevents the cat tearing the bag). Put the usual amount of whatever cheap litter you find atop the newspaper. Snap the lid on the bin, trapping the edges of the garbage bag all the way around the top rim. The cat has to jump up onto the lid, then down through the hole to use the litter box. The litter on the cat's feet falls off when the cat jumps up out of the box. Some small amount comes out with the cat, but not much--a very very few granules. \n\nAdditional benefits--change the litter without ever touching the icky stuff PLUS, the partial lid keeps the cat's ick-ers out of sight. Also, you can use the bin for years and years and never, ever, have to wash it.\n\nPro-tip: take a contractor bag with you to the big-box store when shopping for the bin, to be sure the bag with stretch all the way around the rim without tearing. Target sells a good size bin which comes in many colors, just right for a contractor bag. " ]

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[ "Sharing an apartment, need tips to stay organized and get along well Hello, I'm gonna start living with 4 others (gf, 2 femaile cousins and brother) in a relatively small flat (3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, living room and kitchen). What are some LPTs to avoid wanting to kill each other after a few months? Looking for things like cleaning, organizing stuff, etc. \n\nThanks!", "Sharing an apartment, need tips to stay organized and get along well Hello, I'm gonna start living with 4 others (gf, 2 femaile cousins and brother) in a relatively small flat (3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, living room and kitchen). What are some LPTs to avoid wanting to kill each other after a few months? Looking for things like cleaning, organizing stuff, etc. \n\nThanks!", "Sharing an apartment, need tips to stay organized and get along well Hello, I'm gonna start living with 4 others (gf, 2 femaile cousins and brother) in a relatively small flat (3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, living room and kitchen). What are some LPTs to avoid wanting to kill each other after a few months? Looking for things like cleaning, organizing stuff, etc. \n\nThanks!", "Sharing an apartment, need tips to stay organized and get along well Hello, I'm gonna start living with 4 others (gf, 2 femaile cousins and brother) in a relatively small flat (3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, living room and kitchen). What are some LPTs to avoid wanting to kill each other after a few months? Looking for things like cleaning, organizing stuff, etc. \n\nThanks!", "Sharing an apartment, need tips to stay organized and get along well Hello, I'm gonna start living with 4 others (gf, 2 femaile cousins and brother) in a relatively small flat (3 bedrooms, 1 bathroom, living room and kitchen). What are some LPTs to avoid wanting to kill each other after a few months? Looking for things like cleaning, organizing stuff, etc. \n\nThanks!" ]

[ "I live and lived the last 6 years in different shared flats. Here's what I learnt:\n\n1) Set-up a weekly plan for cleaning common areas\n2) Everyone can pitch 10$ into a box to buy cleaning supplies, toilet paper, etc. We extended this to onions, cooking oils and other food items as well. Can work with beer, too ;)\n3) Clean up your mess after cooking, give each surface a wet swipe as well\n4) Use color-coded lunchboxes in case you cook in batches and freeze food\n5) Get a good pair of headphones, so your music or movies don't distract your housemates during night or stressful periods\n6) No inside smoking unless everyone smokes and the landlord allows it\n7) Have at least one night where all of you guys meet, have a nice dinner and drink. Bonding is important if you share a home, and those meetings are also a nice opportunity to talk about issues.\n8) Respect each others privacy\n9) No house parties unless everyone is fine with it\n\nMost important: If something bothers you, say it. Don't swallow it. Only messes up the mood.\n\n...and so on and so on. If you have any questions, feel free to shoot me a message. ", "There is no \"I'll clean up later\" when one of the below applies:\n\n- Stuff could be a hazard (looking at you clear hard plastic on the bathroom floor last week... that She was going to tidy up after she'd finished getting ready to go out and had eaten. Yep, nearly ended up tripping on it). \n\n- The meal you just made used so many dishes and other items that someone else can't make their dinner too without cleaning up yours. (obviously... do go and eat but clean it up straight after if you can). \n\nOh, and remember some bathrooms echo even through closed doors. Therefore music in the shower shouldn't be concert level tp you through the water since to everyone else its possibly even louder! ", "I would say cleanliness, don't bring random people in at random times and respect other's quiet/alone time. \nMost important from my experience, when you are home and other's are working make sure you finish all your cooking and clean anything you used, because people are starving when they come from work and are tired. Or have food prepared for them. ", "Also, with that many people, hot water might run out fast. See when everyone likes to shower and try to make a routine, some people like night showers, some morning", "All of these are great tips! I should insist on setting house rules and a cleaning and payment schedules, but most importantly what to do if someone isn't willing to follow said rules or schedules. It's cooler if you decide to clean with another person cus then you can have dance/cleaning parties in the common areas (download a radio app and tune in both your headphones). \nBe sure to talk about everyone's habits, daily routines, preferences and work/school&study schedules to avoid weirding each other out. \nMake up a code word to use when someone needs alone time, especially those sharing rooms, and try to accommodate them. We all have bad days! \n\nDon't forget to make use of shelves and containers or boxes and bins to utilize vertical spaces if the apt has tall walls or you need the foot room. Sticky hooks are also great for this! \nGet a shoe rack to keep by door and don't allow outside shoes inside. This will reduce dirt and grime significantly !!! (the German user can tell you about this) \nIf you're preparing a snack, and can afford it, ask anyone present if they would like some.\n\nBe as self-less as possible, without being a doormat." ]

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[ "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D", "How to stop getting nervous around girls I like? Hey all. My mind tends to go blank on pressure social settings like dates, or when I'm talking to a girl I really like. How to overcome that?\nThanks in advance for your responses :D" ]

[ "Take a moment to step outside of your head for a second and realise, these girls are just people. They aren't a higher being, they are essentially the same as you. Put yourself out there and if it's not enough, screw em. \n\nAnd remember, don't put the pussy on a pedestal. ", "It's okay to get nervous. I never managed to figure out how to be a suave flirt and I somehow ended up married to my best friend. If they're interested in you, being smiley and bashful is endearing (not to mention an ego boost!). If you get stumped for conversation, do something like see a movie/stand up/concert first and hang out after. Ask about her life- siblings, work, favorite superhero? Women are people too, you don't need to psych yourself up too much to hang with us. :)", "Realize that girls are just people and that you, yourself, have your own worth.\n\nIt's not about you *trying* to win her over. Think of a date as a way to get to know each other and figure out how compatible you two are. If you hit it off or still aren't too sure, you can always suggest another date.\n\nIf she rejects you, it's just a miss. There will be plenty of chances with other girls, as long as you remain confident about yourself and your personal worth.", "As for dates, do things that you are most comfortable doing. If you're not at your most comfortable at fancy dinners, don't do those, especially at first. Choose activities where the main activity isn't conversation.", "Think about things to ask/ conversation starters and things to prolong convos. Planning ahead always takes my anxiety away. May help you ", "Just remember they're human and they have their flaws. The key to success with women is to treat them like they're a person and not some kind of untouchable goddess or a sack of tits and pussy. And regardless of gender its never going to do you any favours if you idolise someone. You end up falling for the idea/concept of them rather than the real them. ", "1. Think of 10 topics of conversation beforehand and work through them\n2. Ask questions and then follow-up questions. People love talking about yourself.\n3. Ask what their favourite film is and say you've never seen it. Boom!" ]

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[ "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n", "How to think before talking I would like to think I am an intelligent person. When I sit down and reflect on situations or problems I come up with many creative and successful answers. But...\n\nWhen I first hear about a situation or problem I react very emotionally and say what comes from my heart before I have tome to think about the situation fully.\n\nDoes anyone have tips or techniques to train myself to not react before I think?\n\n" ]

[ "Sounds like you have a case of the ol' humans. There is no quick fix, just have to focus on it without beating yourself up when you let it slip again.\n\nTo get started ask yourself, why did you react in such an emotional way? Perhaps you just suck balls at taking criticsm. But as long as you are aware of it and make a concious effort, you can change any pattern in your behaviour.", "Rephrasing what a person has just said before responding really helps. Before you answer someone, say, \"Let me see if I've got this right. You said. . . .\" They will either say yes or correct you. That gives you time to think. It works very well for me, especially when the speaker is angry or upset. ", "You could start practicing mindfulness. One of the goals of mindfulness is to not act \"automatically\" (like we all do, all the time).\n\nIf you have not heard of it, it is a m", "I have friends that often troll me everytime I say anything kind of suspicious; there is a long joke going around where they call me gay even though I'm not.\n\nBefore I say what I'm thinking to react to anything I say I carefully go over the sentence I'm going to say before I do say it. \n\nIn case you can't do that start with an introductory clause to you're sentences following a long pause then spit out all the information you have to say after checking yourself. For example, I.........really dislike your opinion on that because......etc etc. hope I helped.", "Take a second or two before you speak. It's better to stop and compose yourself than to blurt things out. ", "I wish I have seen some of the advices sooner. Not thinking before talking blew my relationship with my girlfriend.", "Distance yourself. Imagine this is happening to someone else. Or it's a movie you are watching. If its something scary, traumatic of upsetting imagine yourself sitting looking at it happening on a screen, as a cartoon. Make it seem comical." ]

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[ "What to say to someone who's going through an extremely rough time. So I have this acquaintance (I wouldn't call this person a friend as we never anymore meet except for chance encounters.) who recently posted a rather lengthy status on Facebook. I knew that she had some mental issues (depression, bipolar etc) in the past and that she had been commited at some point, but in this post she stated that she was now forcibly commited to a mental institution (I don't know if there is a word for that, where they force you into treatment) and she detailed an extremely traumatic childhood. Both her parents, as it turns out, were absolutely shit. I won't go into any details, but let's just say it was a terrible upbringing. \n\nAs I said, we're not very close friends so I found myself at a loss for what to say (write). I just felt that whatever I might say would seem shallow and not sincere. So, the LPT I'm requesting is:\n\nWhat do you say to someone when they reveal something extremely traumatic without it sounding shallow? Should you say anything at all in a situation like this? If we had been good friends, that would have been one thing, but the fact that we're not makes it more difficult. \n\nThanks. ", "What to say to someone who's going through an extremely rough time. So I have this acquaintance (I wouldn't call this person a friend as we never anymore meet except for chance encounters.) who recently posted a rather lengthy status on Facebook. I knew that she had some mental issues (depression, bipolar etc) in the past and that she had been commited at some point, but in this post she stated that she was now forcibly commited to a mental institution (I don't know if there is a word for that, where they force you into treatment) and she detailed an extremely traumatic childhood. Both her parents, as it turns out, were absolutely shit. I won't go into any details, but let's just say it was a terrible upbringing. \n\nAs I said, we're not very close friends so I found myself at a loss for what to say (write). I just felt that whatever I might say would seem shallow and not sincere. So, the LPT I'm requesting is:\n\nWhat do you say to someone when they reveal something extremely traumatic without it sounding shallow? Should you say anything at all in a situation like this? If we had been good friends, that would have been one thing, but the fact that we're not makes it more difficult. \n\nThanks. ", "What to say to someone who's going through an extremely rough time. So I have this acquaintance (I wouldn't call this person a friend as we never anymore meet except for chance encounters.) who recently posted a rather lengthy status on Facebook. I knew that she had some mental issues (depression, bipolar etc) in the past and that she had been commited at some point, but in this post she stated that she was now forcibly commited to a mental institution (I don't know if there is a word for that, where they force you into treatment) and she detailed an extremely traumatic childhood. Both her parents, as it turns out, were absolutely shit. I won't go into any details, but let's just say it was a terrible upbringing. \n\nAs I said, we're not very close friends so I found myself at a loss for what to say (write). I just felt that whatever I might say would seem shallow and not sincere. So, the LPT I'm requesting is:\n\nWhat do you say to someone when they reveal something extremely traumatic without it sounding shallow? Should you say anything at all in a situation like this? If we had been good friends, that would have been one thing, but the fact that we're not makes it more difficult. \n\nThanks. ", "What to say to someone who's going through an extremely rough time. So I have this acquaintance (I wouldn't call this person a friend as we never anymore meet except for chance encounters.) who recently posted a rather lengthy status on Facebook. I knew that she had some mental issues (depression, bipolar etc) in the past and that she had been commited at some point, but in this post she stated that she was now forcibly commited to a mental institution (I don't know if there is a word for that, where they force you into treatment) and she detailed an extremely traumatic childhood. Both her parents, as it turns out, were absolutely shit. I won't go into any details, but let's just say it was a terrible upbringing. \n\nAs I said, we're not very close friends so I found myself at a loss for what to say (write). I just felt that whatever I might say would seem shallow and not sincere. So, the LPT I'm requesting is:\n\nWhat do you say to someone when they reveal something extremely traumatic without it sounding shallow? Should you say anything at all in a situation like this? If we had been good friends, that would have been one thing, but the fact that we're not makes it more difficult. \n\nThanks. " ]

[ "1) The vast majority of psychiatric and treatment facilities I have experience with (mom worked for one 33+ years, G-ma worked with one, I worked with a hospital for 5 years, I've visited plenty as a minister, and various friends/family have \"vacationed\" at them, shall we say) take your phone & internet upon involuntary commitment. Social media can be an escape mechanism, and limiting/removing outside connections gives you more time to focus on yourself and your issues. Granted, I haven't worked with every facility in the country, but my experience makes me question how someone would post on Facebook that they are currently in involuntary commitment. It could be a very liberal facility, or it could be an exaggeration for dramatic effect. \n2) Generally, when interacting with someone receiving care, one would want to touch on the past, present, and future by congratulating them for being strong enough to reach out for help (even if the treatment wasn't initially their idea), encouraging them, and letting them know people care. A statement such as, \"Proud of you for being open to help with your situation. We all need help at some point, and it sounds like you're gaining tools to help you throughout life. Know there are many who care about you and wish you the very best\" works well. You can also relate to them if you can do so comfortably and without patronizing their situation. \"Sorry to hear you just lost your parent; I had a goldfish die once\" makes you look like an inconsiderate tool, but you may not want to go public on Facebook with your 12 visits to the psych ward, so tread lightly on that one. ", "Don't treat her any differently. Just be there for her and be a reliable person that she can trust. Invite her out and offer to do fun things with her. Show her that you're capable of not seeing her as \"less than\" despite what happened to her. And if she's receptive to that, great. If she isn't, you've done all you can and it's not your place to try to save her (aside from notifying the necessary professionals if she's putting herself in danger). \n\nThat's infinitely better than saying the \"right\" thing. Words bring joy that's fleeting, but genuine friendships bring much more fulfilling and robust happiness. ", "*Tough times don't last; tough people do.* \nOr, you could just send her a private message letting her know how impressed you are with how far she has come in the face of such terrible obstacles. Sometimes, it isn't the destination which makes us, but the journey which changes the way we look at the world.", "just worry about yourself, everyone in your position tries to be the hero (i've been there) just leave her be and if she feels the need to continually complain to you just think you're not the only person responsibly for her, shes got others worrying about her" ]

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[ "Been out of the workforce for 10+ years want to get back in I've been out of the workforce for 10+ years. I've got nothing significant to add to my resume. So basically if I were to submit my resume, it'd show a 10 year gap of nothingness. What's the best way to answer for a 10 year gap in unemployment during an interview? \n\nI'd rather not go into what I've been doing the past 10 years...\n", "Been out of the workforce for 10+ years want to get back in I've been out of the workforce for 10+ years. I've got nothing significant to add to my resume. So basically if I were to submit my resume, it'd show a 10 year gap of nothingness. What's the best way to answer for a 10 year gap in unemployment during an interview? \n\nI'd rather not go into what I've been doing the past 10 years...\n", "Been out of the workforce for 10+ years want to get back in I've been out of the workforce for 10+ years. I've got nothing significant to add to my resume. So basically if I were to submit my resume, it'd show a 10 year gap of nothingness. What's the best way to answer for a 10 year gap in unemployment during an interview? \n\nI'd rather not go into what I've been doing the past 10 years...\n" ]

[ "I've been out of work for almost for 4 years. I was a builders merchant retail manager. I'll be following this thread.", "Tell them you were a Tibetan monk that took a vow of silence so you were busy getting enlightened sitting under a tree. And the enlightenment was consumerism = good", "If you don't tell people what is in the gap, everyone will assume a long jail stretch. As long as it is better than that, I'd write about it" ]

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[ "How to deal with RBF I'm a pretty happy and energetic guy; however, my facial expression says different if I'm not raising my eyebrows up/giving a half-assed smile. It's sad to say but it's actually second nature for me to raise my eyebrows, and I do it without noticing now. Unfortunately, like a lot of people, I have a resting b**** face. Any way to deal with this? I don't think raising my eyebrows for the rest of my life is going to be good for when I'm older..", "How to deal with RBF I'm a pretty happy and energetic guy; however, my facial expression says different if I'm not raising my eyebrows up/giving a half-assed smile. It's sad to say but it's actually second nature for me to raise my eyebrows, and I do it without noticing now. Unfortunately, like a lot of people, I have a resting b**** face. Any way to deal with this? I don't think raising my eyebrows for the rest of my life is going to be good for when I'm older.." ]

[ "repeat requests that people make to you, and nod when they are speaking. it makes them certain that you are listening. also, \"sir and ma'am,\" you cannot really be criticized for being impolite when you are saying one of those.", "Be more specific, how is this causing you problems? No friends? Customers complain? Coworkers feel you are unapproachable and not a team player?" ]

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