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[ "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n", "How to deal with a superior who gives unclear instructions and jeopardizes your work in the process I'm a freelancer. I work for this person who does not give instructions clearly, forgets what they instructed me to do on a certain task, is easily distracted, I confirm verbally with them two or three times \"this is what you wanted me to do, correct?\", and in the end it's all wrong.\n\nThey give out insuficient information and I often have no way of knowing this beforehand. They don't explain themselves well.\n\nIn the end I'm forced to admit it was I who understood it all wrong.\n\nMore specificaly: they ask me how much do they owe me and then don't understand how the value exceeds what they had in mind. I work presencialy and remotely and write down the hours. I earn by the hour. I made an excel, which they refuse to look at since ,'they don't have time'. They ask me how many ours I worked at home and how many were presencial. I didn't have them separated, so the next day I bring the hours separated along with the total value. I start by telling them how many hours I worked at home, as asked the day before. They freak out: all they want is the total value they owe me, they don't care wether it was at home or not, they freak out when I explain they asked me to this. 'The work is not done, there are no results, how is it possible I owe you so much?'\n\n\nI know for a fact this person is not gaslighting me on purpose, but the end result is the same. \n\nLife pro tip on this?\nThank you\n\n" ]

[ "So I would send an email after every single in person meeting with a “just confirming what we talked about” and a synopsis. Just to have it in writing. Mostly for you and kinda to hold them accountable. \n\nIt’s a old freelancers trick :)", "Stand up for yourself. I find peace in the idea that you can, and probably should, find someone else to work for whenever this is done. Also, you could make some type of written agreement on what it is exactly the person wanted you to accomplish and make them sign it.", "Tip 1 from me: Try and start looking for a new position. Based on what you said this person won't fully appreciate your value no matter what work you do for them.\n\nTip 2: Ask them in writing, via email preferably so there's a backup of it, the \"max\" amount of hours they're expecting and/or willing to pay you for. Once you have that, maliciously comply and work at your usual pace and stop when you reach that amount of hours. Don't be belligerent and purposely slow yourself down, still do a good job or else you'll lose whatever trust there might be. At the end of the week, show them the work you got done in that time. If they are reasonably happy with it then keep going. If they're not explain to them, again preferably in writing via email, that you need more time and/or clearer instructions on their desires so that you can do the work better in the future. They'll hopefully be forced to either be clearer so you can work better in the time they allow or give you more time or ideally both.\n\nApologies for any run-on sentences there. Hopefully my message was clear 😁", "Find someone else to work for. This employment sounds like a disaster. \n\nAlso ask for instructions in writing. Give them everything in writing.", "Your mistake is as plain as day.\n\nWhy are you only receiving verbal confirmation of your understanding?\n\nSend a summary of every single conversation of this kind via email afterwards, with an opportunity for them to correct you if it has incorrect information in it.\n\nIf they are not responsive to emails, just including a “I will assume this is correct and begin work based on this understanding unless I hear otherwise” line at the bottom covers your ass.\n\nAlso, if it’s the kind of work you can demonstrate as you go, giving them an opportunity to see it once it begins taking shape would offer an opportunity for change requests before they are too cumbersome.", "Get everything in writing. If you need to have a phone conversation, write a follow up email and note that you need them to sign off on the information contained within to ensure that you've understood the directives correctly.\n\nYou should inform them throughout the process how any changes outside the original scope will affect the budget so there are no surprises. (I.e. \"I can certainly make those changes you're noting, but just to recap, per our email exchange on X date, the originally agreed upon plan was Y. Because of (insert reason), enacting these changes will affect the budget in the following way. I just wanted to ensure you were comfortable with the revised budget before proceeding? If not, let's discuss other options for how we might accomplish your goals in a more cost effective manner.\")", "Anything verbal is barely worth anything in business - you need to get it in writing. With someone like this, when they give you verbal instructions, take careful notes, and email it to them saying that this is what you understood that they asked you to do and that if it is not correct, could they please write to you with the correct details. **LPT**: get it all in writing.\n\nDon't admit that you understood things incorrectly if that is false. If it's true, then sure, admit your mistake! But if you did what they said, and that wasn't the right thing to do, this is not your fault and you shouldn't be admitting fault. **LPT**: admit your mistakes, but don't take the blame for someone else's mistakes.\n\nIf they don't give you enough information, ask them for more information as and when you find out that there is information missing. Potentially, start billing them for time spent finding out the information that should have been supplied upfront. Think about how a stereotypical lawyer or accountant will bill for every minute spent working on your case, and so the way to save money is to give them all the information upfront. **LPT**: make it part of your process to ask for more information immediately when you find that you don't have all the information you need, and start billing for this use of your time if they aren't organised enough to give you all the information upfront.\n\nIn terms of recording hours and calculating what is owed, your system is fine. However, make sure that you got the \"work brief\" in writing (or at least, that you summarised it back to them in writing). Then, if they have issue with \"the work not being done\", but you can show them that you did precisely what they asked you to do, you should bill for the full time you spent working on their instructions. **LPT**: keep good records and make sure you spend your time working on the right thing according to what you have in writing.", "It is my professional experience that autonomy requires a well defined end state. It's okay to tell people how to do something, but if you are going to leave them alone and anything happens or changes or was unclear; they can't leverage their autonomy if they don't know what exactly constitutes completion.\n\nThe idea is that if you know what complete looks like, unclear instructions are not inherently an obstacle. You know what the end is so you can figure something out to get there. Really I could write pages about the benefits of having a well defined end state. IMO it's been crucial to my subordinates getting work done in my absence. Micromanagers will often withhold this information to force their importance and involment.", "Two separate, but related comments / suggestions \n\n1. Based on what you wrote, you charge by the hour; not by the job. So, if you didn’t understand what they wanted, regardless of who’s fault it was, you should still charge for your time. If there is a pattern of disconnects and it doesn’t resolve itself, either they will fire you or you should look for a different client. But you should still get paid. Don’t blend the two concepts. \n\n2. At the end of each week, send a status report. Shorter is always better. Ether in the body of an email, or as a simple attachment. Regardless of whether or not they reply, send it every week. If they don’t read it, that’s on them. Attach your status reports to your billing. \n\nIt should have:\n\nI. Date\n\nII. Period of time covered\n\nIII. Key work/ focus (One sentence summary of your tasking for the week)\n\nIV. Accomplishments (List discreet, quantifiable, work products if it all possible. You may initially find that these are hard to articulate at the end of the week. If that’s the case, it is a good opportunity to hold yourself accountable. If you don’t know what you accomplished at the end of the week, you probably didn’t have the direction you needed at the beginning of the week)\n\n\nV. Your work, broken out by day. \n- Date\n- Bullet for each scheduled meeting/ call, and/or interaction with multiple attendees, list the individual day/time, attendee, topic (that’s probably enough)\n- Bullet(s) for other high-level work for day (summary of what you did. 1-2 bullets, max). \n- Hours (this is key)\n\nTotal hours (You may or may not want to do the math on hours x bill rate in these reports. I typically don’t. Keep your invoice, and the justification for the invoice, which are the status reports, separate)", "Go above their head to get clarification. Explain the situation clearly and attach any attempts you've already made to get clarification from your immediate supervisor. \n\nMiddle management is nearly always worthless.", "Verbal direction in any business is worth nothing. For any task that will take longer than 10 minutes, ask clarifying questions via email. \"Checking to make sure..\" \"Just wanted to clarify..\" type stuff.", "This is not a fixable situation. There is a huge mismatch between your detail oriented approach and the other persons chaotic mess of a way of conducting business. You can do various things already mentioned to “protect” yourself. As you have said this person doesn’t listen to a organized reasonable approach, they never will.. Accept the chaos this brings to the job or find someone else to do business with. Which ever way you go it will be painful.", "Take notes or use a dictaphone to record as they speak, inform them that you are taking notes or recording what they are saying because “my memory isn’t the best”\n\nTHEN\n\nSend an email to them recalling everything they said instantly after speaking with them and before starting anything, let them respond with a confirmation.\n\nIf they didn’t respond, you can say to them “well I recorded what you said and you did not confirm my understanding in time”. If they did respond, you can say “You confirmed that I understood right, and share the email with them”", "Responding without reading other comments, apologize if i am repeating.\n\n1) always have a written communication beside verbal one. You can make a list of everything you talked and ask for their confirmation after the meeting.\n\n\n2) always have your tasks written in hand. If they are too lazy to list them down, do it and ask for their confirmation.\n\n\n3) before starting to a project, break it down to steps (as much as possible) so when they ask you why you worked X hours without any results, you can tell them you have completed step X and Y and it is a process. So they will always have \"small\" results and feel the progress.\n\n\n4) be sure that your meetings are not longer than needed. Most of the time longer meetings make things complicated and create a mess. Always get prepared for the meeting and keep it short and right to the point. If time is limited, people tend to talk about what is really needed.\n\n\nGood luck there 🤞", "Just as others have said here. Summarize your conversations/instructions in-writing. Send 'meeting minutes' via e-mail after each meeting that summarizes the discussion topics and requested actions.\n\nFurthermore, keep for yourself a running one-note (or whatever) document that contains ALL of these summaries on a timeline.\n\nI've had to start doing this with my new boss. When the comments come up 2 months later about \"why are you wasting your time on this?\" I can answer with a specific date where I was asked to do that thing. If the direction changes along the way, just keep track of it and when. It also gives you a framework to track completion dates of the same requests. This can be really helpful if other management gets involved and gets conflicting information from you vs the supervisor.", "I used to have 2 bosses like this. Everything was your fault. Even if you were just following directions of one of their foremen or supervisors. They gave vague directions and expected you to know the rest or figure it out. If there was a problem, even if you had nothing to do with it, it was your fault somehow. ( I know you said it's not on purpose) I had to quit. I could have pandered to them and their \"logic\" but Its not my job to babysit adults. You could make it easier for your boss and it might be alright for a little, or for a long time. You never know. My question that comes up, how much extra work are you doing to, understandably make your life easier when you shouldn't have to?\" And how ok are you in doing this extra work to keep the peace?", "I have similar issue at start of going from office to work from home. After a few heated arguments we agreed to a shared work progress google spread sheet. I note down all the tasks they assigned. Which are priority and progress I log it daily and back up an offline version as well. All the time documenting is paid work time so I dont care if I spend a half hour a day updating the sheet in detail.\n\nIf they forgot to ask me something it's not my fault they didnt add to the work request.", "Email them back a summary of the assignment and say you just want to make sure you are on the same page. If they won't answer, print email, then go into office and confirm every step. If they won't do this, look for another job.\n\nIt sounds like your boss is trying to get you to figure out what comes next (he doesn't know). When you are talking to him the first time, you may want to ask him what you guys are trying to accomplish, what is the end goal? Something like, In an ideal world, with no constraints, what would you like the outcome for the team/company/etc to be? Then be clear about constraints.", "As some have said, send an email summary of what you understood, and give them an explicit deadline in that email to make changes, or you're going to assume that you understood everything correctly (and they in turn are on the hook for the results)\n\nAdditionally, use a kanban system of some kind (Trello sounds like more than enough). Summarize deliverables there with testing requirements for being \"done\". It's a little easier to use than a spreadsheet with a bunch of columns in most cases, and is easier to defend yourself with. \n\nAnd lastly, i agree with some others that you should be looking for other clients. These guys sound awful. If you're particularly attached to them, it's time to call attention to the problem and don't let up until they agree with you on what the problem is. If they're \"too busy\" to solve it with you, then at least you're extra sure it's time to move on", "Since you’re a freelancer, define the scope in your contract, or pay by hours. Either way you should be fine with both. You deliver exactly the defined scope or they pay you for not knowing what they actually want. It may not help you this time but maybe the next time. For this customer, they think value is in output not in hours spent. So they don’t see „desired“ results so they don’t see value and eventually don’t want to pay for „no value“. It’s fucked up because you put a lot of work into it. This is where trust is already gone from both sides. The business relationship has a crack.", "I would also get clarity re expected costs. You can add in the email, ‘based on your brief, I expect this to take x hours at x per hour. If there are subsequent changes to the brief, this will increase the end cost.’ Or something…" ]

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[ "How to \"reset\" the taste in your mouth Been looking for a solution to this problem for a while now, but basically its after eating things involving ranch dressing or garlic. The biggest offender would be Cool Ranch Doritos, and it just seems like no matter what I eat or drink for the rest of the day, my mouth has a pretty \"gross\" taste.", "How to \"reset\" the taste in your mouth Been looking for a solution to this problem for a while now, but basically its after eating things involving ranch dressing or garlic. The biggest offender would be Cool Ranch Doritos, and it just seems like no matter what I eat or drink for the rest of the day, my mouth has a pretty \"gross\" taste.", "How to \"reset\" the taste in your mouth Been looking for a solution to this problem for a while now, but basically its after eating things involving ranch dressing or garlic. The biggest offender would be Cool Ranch Doritos, and it just seems like no matter what I eat or drink for the rest of the day, my mouth has a pretty \"gross\" taste.", "How to \"reset\" the taste in your mouth Been looking for a solution to this problem for a while now, but basically its after eating things involving ranch dressing or garlic. The biggest offender would be Cool Ranch Doritos, and it just seems like no matter what I eat or drink for the rest of the day, my mouth has a pretty \"gross\" taste." ]

[ "Ginger is used in sushi for this purpose. Parsley is also used for this. Some people use mint. I find brushing my teeth and tongue with minty toothpaste helps or use Listerine. ", "If you really want to reset the taste in your mouth then drink sparkling water. Sparkling water/mineral water (or soda water) cleanses your palette, but the best advantage of it is that you don't have any other lingering tastes like you would by trying other things such as food. ", "I'm sure there are other effective ways, but drinking water between flavours helps and is almost always available. ", "Brushing your teeth or chewing some strong mint gum will help inbetween meals.\n\nDuring a meal, some water with a splash of lemon helps nicely (or you can use some other high-acidity drink)." ]

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[ "how to get melted lipstick out of clothing. I stupidly forgot a tube of lipstick in a pocket and it ended up in the dryer with All my work pants (khaki) any suggestions on how to get it out? Cant afford all new pants right now so it would be very appreciated!", "how to get melted lipstick out of clothing. I stupidly forgot a tube of lipstick in a pocket and it ended up in the dryer with All my work pants (khaki) any suggestions on how to get it out? Cant afford all new pants right now so it would be very appreciated!", "how to get melted lipstick out of clothing. I stupidly forgot a tube of lipstick in a pocket and it ended up in the dryer with All my work pants (khaki) any suggestions on how to get it out? Cant afford all new pants right now so it would be very appreciated!" ]

[ "If they aren't delicate a fabric,you could try dish detergent. At one point I accidentally got bright red lipstick on my tan, wool peacoat and used dish soap on it and it came right out. Another time,I had a nose bleed and some blood dripped on the same coat and dish soap got it right out too. Remember though,YMMV", "Try putting some newspaper over it and ironing it. It should melt it and the paper would absorbs it up. Keep changing the paper after a couple of run overs to stop it re-absorbing and/or spreading", "Depending on how many pants it's on and how smeared it is, it would be best to bring it to a dry cleaners and see if they could remove it.\n\nIf you really need new slacks but cannot afford them, try going to a Goodwill or Salvation Army and explain your financial situation. They might be able to assist in some way by giving you some clothing." ]

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[ "Where can I meet other college aged, active, friendly people (M/F) I need to get a life and get back in shape and ATM, all my friends are also sloths. I am in decent shape because of my job but I want to meet fun, outdoorsy people because I hate doing things by myself and I'm tired of staying on reddit all day.", "Where can I meet other college aged, active, friendly people (M/F) I need to get a life and get back in shape and ATM, all my friends are also sloths. I am in decent shape because of my job but I want to meet fun, outdoorsy people because I hate doing things by myself and I'm tired of staying on reddit all day." ]

[ "Rock climbing studios/gyms have fantastic, active communities. There are always regulars open to inviting new friends.", "Classes. Post-grad classes, dance classes, cooking classes, or any athletic classes that break people into teams/groups. " ]

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[ "Maintaining eye contact through a conversation During a conversation I often find myself not knowing where to place my eyes. Maybe I'll look at them, then to the side, then to the ground, or even at another person. I don't do it on purpose, i think it's a nervous reaction because it mainly happens with people that I am not close with. What do you guys do? Maintain eye contact the whole conversation? Look down, then up?", "Maintaining eye contact through a conversation During a conversation I often find myself not knowing where to place my eyes. Maybe I'll look at them, then to the side, then to the ground, or even at another person. I don't do it on purpose, i think it's a nervous reaction because it mainly happens with people that I am not close with. What do you guys do? Maintain eye contact the whole conversation? Look down, then up?" ]

[ "I make eye contact. Since you can't really look at both eyes at the same time, I usually focus on one, then the other. I'm also an artist so I sometimes just study their features for later drawing things. ", "look at different parts of their face, if your talking about something near you look at that and go back to their face periodically. \n\n if youre in a vehicle look where your going. if youre driving don't look at them pay attention to the road." ]

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[ "drying large blankets that dont dry fully in dryers Was thinking about hanging them outside during the day but im worried about bugs since its super furry/fuzzy and large. would rather not sleep and have a bug crawl on my face", "drying large blankets that dont dry fully in dryers Was thinking about hanging them outside during the day but im worried about bugs since its super furry/fuzzy and large. would rather not sleep and have a bug crawl on my face", "drying large blankets that dont dry fully in dryers Was thinking about hanging them outside during the day but im worried about bugs since its super furry/fuzzy and large. would rather not sleep and have a bug crawl on my face", "drying large blankets that dont dry fully in dryers Was thinking about hanging them outside during the day but im worried about bugs since its super furry/fuzzy and large. would rather not sleep and have a bug crawl on my face", "drying large blankets that dont dry fully in dryers Was thinking about hanging them outside during the day but im worried about bugs since its super furry/fuzzy and large. would rather not sleep and have a bug crawl on my face" ]

[ "Outside works great and when it's dry, smack it with a broom while it's still hanging to get any critters off. \n\nMy mom used to do that ", "I also do 2 cycles in the dryer, and I make sure to flip it around between the cycles. Then, if it's still damp, I'll leave it out to fully dry, indoors. You could also go to a laundromat and use their gigantic dryers.", "I just bought wool dryer balls and used them to dry my comforter, it only took one cycle to dry versus the normal two. You can find them on amazon!", "From where we don’t do driers: while washing have the part where they remove excess water run more than once (the last part of the cycle). This should allow you to get most moist out and run it thru the dryer. \n\nYou can let it dry inside, after that as well. If it has a good wind current it can dry well", "Everywhere I've lived the typical humidity allows things like that to dry in place. I put my large blanket on the bed - if it is really damp I might flip it over after several hours. \n\nIf you live somewhere damp I second the laundromat idea. They have giant dryers for sleeping bags, comforters, etc. \n\nYou should work on becoming at peace with bugs. You're gonna eat a bunch of them over the course of your life." ]

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[ "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?", "Sticker Removal? It's Christmas time again and this seems to be something I struggle with every year. Is there any sort of secret or magical way to remove a glued-on sticker from something (a book, specifically) without damaging it/the cover?" ]

[ "If you want to avoid using liquids - such as nail polish removers - a hair dryer is very efficient.\n\nThe hot air makes the glue soften and you can remove most stickers without damaging the book cover, and without leaving glue on the surface.", "if you can get eucalyptus oil, it works very well....might be hard to get unless you live in Australia or have a Koala than you can squeeze", "There is a liquid called \"Bestine\" used by graphic artists who use rubber cement a lot that works really well on removing sticky substances and usually leaving no trace behind. It's usually found in art supply stores.\n\nLike many solvents, its pretty toxic. Not heavy duty poisonous, but more on the level of spray paints - meaning read the safety directions and follow accordingly.", "PEANUT BUTTER. Scratch off as much of paper as you can and peanut butter will get the sticky glue off. ", "I have been using a product called \"Goo Gone\" for many years which is a citrus based liquid (also in gel form) which works great. \n\nhttp://googone.com/", "Heat up the sticker a little bit. Not too much because then it'll get gooey.\n\nAlso, pull the sticker back on itself. If its big enough (like the label on a glass jar) I roll it onto a pencil. Using the sticker to stick to itself. Slow is key.\n\nOils work well for removing residue quite well. Random bit of info, I use vegetable oil for removing tree sap.", "For any leftover sticker glue, I've always had good luck with a good quality white eraser. It takes a bit of effort, and you'll go through a phase where it turns into this horrible grey slime on the book, but just keep going and it will eventually ball up, leaving the cover clean and undamaged. You do have to get all the paper part of the sticker off first, though.", "Pretty much any method used to remove vinyl stickers from cars will work on normal stickers. In this case, I always best it up with a hair dryer, pick it off with my finger, then use WD40 to rub off the excess stick crap.", "I work in a bookstore and we have a sticker remover (looks a bit like a scrapper). Go to any big office supples place and ask for one. Peels those babies off in no time. " ]

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[ "What's the best, tried-and-true method of getting that musty smell out of clothes? Sometimes I leave clothes on the floor next to the shower, and sometimes they get wet and I don't pick them up until later in the day when I get back home. When I do get home, they have a mildew-y smell that I can't completely get out even after rewashing it. What do I do?", "What's the best, tried-and-true method of getting that musty smell out of clothes? Sometimes I leave clothes on the floor next to the shower, and sometimes they get wet and I don't pick them up until later in the day when I get back home. When I do get home, they have a mildew-y smell that I can't completely get out even after rewashing it. What do I do?" ]

[ "Use a cup of white vinegar in the wash along with your regular tide or wisk or whatever. It'll get the stink out and kill any potential fungi. ", "Rewashing the clothes and using white vinegar will help (a 1/2 cup for a full load), however the best solution I have found is putting the clothes outside in the sun for a few hours. The UV rays kill of the odor causing bacteria. This have never failed to remove a funk from clothing." ]

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[ "How to talk to someone through text. I'm fine with talking to people in person, but I always have trouble typing out conversations with others. ", "How to talk to someone through text. I'm fine with talking to people in person, but I always have trouble typing out conversations with others. " ]

[ "as a professional writer (I work in an ad agency) I experience every day that many people have some difficulties communication with written words such as email messages f.e.\n\nto me there are three main differences between spoken and written words:\n1. a written text cannot show the mimics of the person \"talking\" to you (emoticons do a poor job as a replacement).\n2. by sending a text you cannot check on the readers face neither. talking to a person you may realize when someone doesn't get what you want to tell him.\n3. a written text is set in stone. people may read it or even more than once. by doing so, they may read things differently and could focus on things which (for the writer) don't even seem important.\n\nmy suggestions are:\n-keep it very simple, short and clear. make sure that isn't even a chance of misunderstanding what you want to communicate. sarcasm and irony and sometimes even (intended) jokes can turn out to make things very complicated if not written very clearly. so if you want to make your life easier leave this kinds of things out in the beginning.\n-try to write in a friendly way (since you cannot use a friendly face or try to find out how far you can go with jokes because you can't see the readers face neither). f.e. never use \"!\" if you want to make a point. for the reader that may look like you would yell at him. imagine him reading that over and over... he may think you're a pretty aggressive person.\n-don't get lost in the details. focus on the important things. communicating with written words is already difficult enough.\n\np.s.: pardon my bad english. I'm a professional writer in german language. having worked in the states for a while, I made the same experiences so I guess it's an international issue and I thought it's worth sharing.\n\n", "I'm assuming you mean it's difficult to carry on a meaningful conversation? It helps when the other person wants to talk to you; get them talking about themselves, their day, that kind of stuff. Make jokes. I've dabbled in writing so I inherently put a good amount of emotion in my texts, such that what I say in text is exactly what I'd say and how I'd say it in person.\nOf course it matters what you're trying to accomplish in a text though. Hitting on a girl over text is a lot harder than just chatting with a friend. " ]

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[ "To those who have become aware they are narcissist, what gave you the awareness and what did you do to stop being narcissistic? ", "To those who have become aware they are narcissist, what gave you the awareness and what did you do to stop being narcissistic? " ]

[ "From my experience dealing with narcissistic People, friends and co-workers etc, they usually know from a young age, and they don't want to change their ways because their ways benifits them", "I didn’t stop. I genuinely believe the world is my sandbox and that since my reality exists only because I’m here to observe it, that I am god. I only engage in interactions that benefit me. I feel that most events in life should and will fall into place for me." ]

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[ "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n", "Tips for a long road trip. I'm driving accross country soon and I received the advice to bring a pillow and put it under my lower back to alleviate soreness and back pain. I was wondering if anyone else had any other advice, anything along the lines of what to bring, how to pass the time, or how to remain comfortable over long stretches in the car. Thanks in advance.\n\n" ]

[ "I like to bring in-the-shell sunflower seeds, as something to snack on that will keep you alert but doesn't fill you up or make a mess. Have a small garbage can in the passenger seat or just behind it for trash. Also, a roll of paper towels stashed somewhere in case you have a spill... since your meals will probably mostly be eaten in the car.\nBring a bunch of music that you like, that keeps your attention, and isn't sleepy-time. Bonus for audio books.\nWear the comfiest clothes you have. Be mindful of whether you tend to get too hot or cold in the car (especially if you're traveling with someone who likes to run the heat/AC differently than you) and dress accordingly.\nWear comfy driving shoes like sneakers. \nBe prepared to stop over for an hour or two if you get tired - have a pillow and even a blanket handy in case you need a Rest Area nap.\nHave a water bottle on hand at all times, it's easy to get dehydrated on the road and can cause headaches and fatigue.\nHave a great pair of sunglasses, especially if you're driving west.\nMake sure you've got roadside emergency stuff: cellphone and car-compatible charger, jumper cables. Make sure your spare tire, jack, and tire iron are in good shape, and have your current auto insurance info. If going through snowy areas, emergency warm blanket, bucket of sand or salt, and a square of old carpet are good too.\nGet your car thoroughly checked before you leave, including brakes, tires, oil, etc. Fix all the things.\nWrite down or print step-by-step instructions on your route, in case your phone GPS crashes in the middle of nowhere and you can't get data. \nSource: experience ", "Bring bottled water, food (nuts, dried fruit mix), a first aid kit and pain medicine for emergency purposes.\n\nAlso check your route to see if it's going to be any long stretches between fill-ups.\n\nCheck your route to note the locations of dealers that service your vehicle, especially with hotels nearby and route that way preferably.\n\nServices like AAA only carry you so far, so you'll need to pay a to truck to bring your vehicle to a dealer that can service it and it takes time to get parts.\n\nMake sure you have cans of fix-a-flat, your spare is good and you have checked your lights, have spare bulbs/fuses on hand.\n\nBring a roll of plastic bags and good tape, when you change your clothes put the dirty ones in the bags, shrink to reduce air and seal air tight, then place in a bigger bag if you want, or the smell will overwhelm the vehicle if it gets out.\n\nBring toilet paper, a call of the wild usually occurs and you don't want to run out of socks. ;)\n\nBring rubbing alcohol and disposable cloth wipes to wipe the BO off the inside of the vehicle or it will stink bad in a few days. Have some alcohol hand sanitizer and after a shower use that on the body, especially the armpits and it will reduce the smell all day very well.\n\nPlenty of dry socks for each day of the trip, a extra pair of shoes. Some sort of light rain gear like a poncho.\n\nCheck your lug nuts on your wheels are removable and not overtightened by some jackass mechanic. Sometimes it's good to carry a 6 foot pipe that can go on the end of a breaker bar to loosen tough nuts. Another method is to back each nut back, spray some lubricant and re-tighten.\n\nHave a routine, like check the fluids once every morning, the hotel room just before you leave and so forth. \n\nIt's best to have a bag that contains all your toiletry, then another for clean cloths, then when you start in the morning, prepare a set of clothes ready to grab for that nights hotel room stay. In the morning your refreshed, but at night you really don't want to fiddle around and get in the room fast to sleep. So having just your toiletry bag and a set of ready clothes is great to grab and get into the room quickly is wonderful. No need to drag a whole suitcase full of crap your not going to need.\n\nWhen the opportunity presents itself, take out the trash and clean the vehicle, it's going to need it.\n\nCheck your wiper bladed and bring something heavy duty to clean the windshield, there are some really buggy places and if you use the wipers, it just smears the bugs and then you can't see at all.\n\nExtra foam pillows for your butt, back and neck are necessary, especially if the seats are hard.\n\nSpare cell phone and charger, flares and towels. Car washing stuff.", "Loose fitting breathable clothes will be your best friend, though you won't win any fashion awards. Also get a decent pair of sandals and wear with thick breathable socks, again you wont be winning any fashion awards but having cool dry feet on a long drive is one of the biggest things you can do for comfort. Another good tip is start early and figure out where you are going to spend the night by 5pm. also avoid urban areas if you can, especially around rush hour. if you find yourself getting tired/mesmerized by the road, don't be afraid to pull off the road and take a short nap. also Ive found that audiobooks are a great way to keep your mind occupied and alert, and really help when driving through boring scenery. Also picking up hitchhikers can help break the monotony, but you have to be a bit careful there, never pick up anyone who won't make eye contact, or are near prisons, or mental institutions. Good luck", "A few people mention water. Hydration is key to staying alert and limber. Bring from home or buy large containers of water and refill the bottle you drink from. This avoids the high price of bottled water at gas stations. Likewise with a large bag of nuts or trail mix etc. A small cooler...I have a powered one....for fruit etc. Healthy snacks versus what can be found at gas stations. My doctor once told me 'If you can buy it at a gas station...it's not food\".", "Last year I drove 60k km (37 282.2715 miles for you weirdos ;-) ) ,so I'd say I have some experience in that field.\n\nHere's stuff that I found useful:\n\nGet a small pillow or a Sweater to put on your left armrest, I don't know if this applies to american cars, but here (Germany) most armrests are not that comfortable. Make it as comfortable as possible for your arms to rest, or you will get sore! (Can even lead to Inflammation in the Joint)\n\nIf you're driving on Multi lane roads, always get back on the far right lane after you overtook a semi or car. Not only is this polite, but it will make Long rides less boring and you don't get tired as soon as if you'd stay in the middle lane the whole time.\n\n(This one is highly debatable, make up your own opinion over this)\nIf you plan on drinking energy Drinks like coffee or red bull, just buy some caffeine pills instead. It will be cheaper as you get more bang for the buck and in comparison to red bull it's healthier and you don't run the danger of getting a sugar Crash.\n\n\nIf you eat, try to eat low carb, carbs make you tired!\n\n\nGet a nice audiobook, or If you're interested maybe some audio-learning stuff. Try to get something useful out of the otherwise wasted time.\n\n\nIf you get sunglasses, take care that they're not too dark. Most sunglasses aren't even legal to wear while driving ( At least here)\n\nHave Duct-tape and WD40 in your trunk, depending on the Age of your car some cold-metal stuff might a good idea as well. And some wire, to fix anything that's hot.\n\n\nI don't know if platforms like These exist in the states, but here in Germany \"organized hitchhiking\" is a really widespread Thing.\nYou can save a lot on gas ( With my car and three passengers I even make plus gas wise).\nAnd it certainly is a lot more interesting than driving on your own.\nMaybe craigslist would work for that, I don't know.\n\n\nAnd of course, like others already said, wear comfortable , loose , clothes, and comfortable shoes. And comfortable shoes do not mean flip-Flops, they might be illegal to drive with in your Country (same goes for bare-foot here)\n\n\nTake your wallet out of your Pants, or you will get a really hurting back after a few hours.\n\n\nIf you're that Kind of Person, get some Soap-bubble stuff. There's nothing more fun to hold that out of the window in a traffic jam, lights up your mood and those around you ;-)\n\n\n", "I keep a rolled up bath towel behind my lower back all the time when driving. It's firmer than a pillow and you can get it to the exact right shape.", "This past weekend I had to go from Chicago to Pittsburgh, which was about 7-8 hours. I don't know what you like to listen to in the car, but I grabbed a couple episodes of The Nerdist podcast and downloaded an episode of Radio One's Essential Mix, alternating Nerdist, Essential Mix, Nerdist kept me entertained easily for about 4.5 hours, and that was just downloading 3 things. Maybe those aren't your particular cup of tea, but something along those lines can help the miles fly by. Safe travels!" ]

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[ "How can I be happy with myself? It seems everything I do, I turn it into some type of competition with myself. I have tendencies to always want to get better at something, which can be a good thing, but I also want to be happy and focus on the progress I've made. I don't want to keep focusing on where I'm not. I feel this is beginning to ruin relationships I have and I can't stand it because I know it's a bad character trait.\n\n\nAny tips or tricks to deal with this would be helpful. ", "How can I be happy with myself? It seems everything I do, I turn it into some type of competition with myself. I have tendencies to always want to get better at something, which can be a good thing, but I also want to be happy and focus on the progress I've made. I don't want to keep focusing on where I'm not. I feel this is beginning to ruin relationships I have and I can't stand it because I know it's a bad character trait.\n\n\nAny tips or tricks to deal with this would be helpful. " ]

[ "Physically write down the small wins you notice. *Track your growth* and when you feel like you're being too hard on yourself, you'll have the list of things you have achieved to make you feel better. \n\nEventually, your focus will shift to your progress. ", "Do nice things for people without asking for reward (even thanks). If you want self-esteem do esteem-able acts. You may not notice it at first but after a while you will understand. I wouldn't tell you this if I hadn't done it myself. I'm not perfect, but a lot better than I was. Don't look for perfection, just improvement. " ]

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[ "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?", "How to balance being a high-performer at work with detaching self-worth & emotions from it? And is this even possible?\n\nObjectively through my accomplishments and work evaluations, I'd classify myself as an achiever/high performer at work. Through the years of my career and the different companies I've been in, I've consistently been evaluated as a high-performer. I'll put the time and effort and have ranked high in conscientiousness because not only do I want to do a task, but I want to do it well.\n\nBut in exchange for this, I feel like I've attached so much of my emotions/self-worth to my job. Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even weekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up in the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and overthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the stakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling that I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had bad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words replaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the company/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nSometimes I feel it's this fear of failure/looking stupid is what's driven my high performance-- which really isn't healthy. \n\nWhat would happen if I 'cared' less about work and did the bare minimum (which from what i've read in some articles, is actually a healthy decision to do)?\n\nOr if I 'cared less' about work or what my professional peers think of me, would I even have the achievements and success that I have now?" ]

[ "Foster hobbies and relationships outside of work that you also value to provide perspective at work. Remember that you can be laid off at any time for almost any reason, but your hobbies and personal relationships last a lifetime.\n\nThis can actually result in better performance at work, as you won’t get as emotionally invested and so can make more objective decisions on the best way to get things done both for you and the company.", "It’s not so much as “caring less” as it is practicing healthy detachment. You already care about your work, you’re ambitious, and you want to succeed. That won’t change. The problem is when you want to “turn it off” so to speak, right? \n\nRepeating work shit in your head over and over becomes a destructive distraction at a certain point, so what is that for you? That will become more clear naturally as you age if it isn’t already. \n\nYou’re already aware of it, which is great, but the only skill that’s going to help you is learning to step back and practice shifting your focus towards other things when you catch yourself over-extending. \n\nM", "I wish I had an answer, but I’m mostly commenting that I too fall in to the same category as yourself.\n\nIt has cost me every part of my personal self, as work is what I do best, and it’s the “I can’t fail attitude” that truly drives me. Anyway. I’m commenting to follow the post and in solidarity say that I understand.", "I ended up quitting a 70k a year job because of this. There's alot to the story but I went from managing 150-250 employees nightly to 5. Now when the car door closes at the end of the day I don't even think about work. \n\nSeven long years of pain. Seven years of stress on my family. \n\nWork should not equal life", "Make your time at home count. No work emails or voicemails. When you're home, you're off of work. Work hard, play hard.", "I'm not a high achiever, but I do a tad more than the bare minimum. I do just enough to look good instead of just competent. That's my personality. I've always been a B- student. So I don't have tips about caring less...\n\nBUT\n\nAlthough I keep a healthy separation of work and home life, I still do all of this\n\n>Before big presentations, I'm riddled with anxiety in the days/even \nweekend leading up to it. The night before the presentation, I wake up \nin the middle of the night and can't get any sleep. I over-prepare and \noverthink. I constantly fear whatever negative reaction the \nstakeholder/client/etc will say, if it can go wrong, and this feeling \nthat I'll make a fool of myself and they'll think badly of me. I've had \nbad meetings/presentation before and I feel horrible after, the words \nreplaying in my mind, and it makes me question if I'm even fit for the \ncompany/maybe my skillset isn't matched with my current role.\n\nI don't think the anxiety and overthinking are *only* connected to being a high achiever, so it may take of combo of strategies to overcome it. \n\nTo help me sleep, I work through the problem on paper. If I'm not quite sure what I will say in a presentation I work on my opening or an outline or a part of what I will say. If I'm worried about (possible) feedback, I'll work out responses for different scenarios. Once it's on paper, my brain can turn off, because I don't have to remember anymore. \n\nWhen I do have a bad meeting or presentation or whatever (happened today, yay) I think about what I should have done differently, but the important part is figuring out if it were *possible* for me to even make those adjustments *before* the presentation (99% of the time, no). Figuring that part out really helps me a lot.\n\nSometimes just have plain old imposter syndrome. Some of the most competent and high achieving professionals I know also have bouts of imposter syndrome. It's just your brain lying to you. Learn to recognize when your brain is lying to you, and ignore it (easier said than done!).\n\nGood luck!", "I think everyone has the what I could have said differently, done differently moments. If you are at a good place in your career, as I am, then I would brush these thoughts aside. It's old insecurities popping up for no reason. Push them back. Don't stop trying to do your best, but know that your best is definitely good enough because of where you are.", "I hear you loud and clear. Have you thought about talking to a therapist? It could be really insightful for you. It isn't for everyone (frankly I didn't think it was for me) but I say this as a high performer who sought therapy for something completely unrelated...and is only now realising the interconnectedness of all things (why hello there crippling fear of failure, imposter syndrome, high performing job, self worth defined by academics and career goals, please make room for \"how do I get A+ on motherhood as well?!\" ). \n\nHow you measure your own worth and success is so often shaped by your environment growing up. Learning to understand how your mind processes what happens to you and what drives you, can really help. \n\nThere is lots of stuff out there around how we regulate our emotions (take a look at Paul Gilbert's work on the \"threat, drive and soothe\" systems) and in particular how high performers can have difficulties with anxiety, which is worth reading into a little bit if you want to dip your toe in the water. \n\nYou're not alone it feeling this way. There are ways you can help yourself and I hope you find something that works for you.", "I had a coworker who used to own his own orkin franchise and was the top franchise in his area for over ten years. Then the toxins caught up to him and he was buried with paperwork from lawyers. He had this bloodshot, yellowed stain in his eyes from years of the job. His advice to me, when he saw me stressing, is that corporate would step over my warm, dead body… and pass the torch to the next guy. It’s not worth it, but you have to play politics in how you navigate the stream.", "Only take a role you can do in your sleep or without thinking.If you have to put in effort just to sustain change roles.If you have to be high achiever first see if you are being well compensated for it.Even if you are, it's not worth working your ass off for someone else." ]

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[ "How to help a depressive friend (that you haven't seen in a while) I haven't spoken to this friend for over a year. We just lost contact. Today I heard she suffers from depression. Is reaching out to her good? Will it help her?", "How to help a depressive friend (that you haven't seen in a while) I haven't spoken to this friend for over a year. We just lost contact. Today I heard she suffers from depression. Is reaching out to her good? Will it help her?" ]

[ "As a depressed person, if it's me, then I would be delighted to hear from you, assuming you're not pushy about reestablishing the connection (demanding, pushing for a meeting, calling every day to chat, etc.)", "Just reach out and talk to them. If you were close friends, go ahead and bring up the depression, but if not, just talk to them like any normal friend. Let them know you care about them, without treating them ONLY as person-with-depression. I know it can sound like a tricky balance, but as someone with depression, I personally feel that few things are more dehumanizing than someone else only talking about my depression. However, I feel like my life was saved one night because one of my friends (who I hadn't talked to in several months) happened to contact me one evening when I was on the verge of killing myself. Just knowing that I had a friend who cared, and talking long enough to calm down, really helped me to get through that night.\n\n\nPlease just contact them sooner than later. You never know if tomorrow is too late." ]

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[ "How to react when people are being rude with you in public i know it can be summarized into fight or flight, but i want to play it cool. \n\nI have seen situations that someone is being rude toward a person with companions but he/she just acts like it didnt happen.\n\nMy question is how should a male respond to someone who is rude and is either too big, too small, weak, child, female or when you are not a fighting type and/or you are bad at loud arguments.\n\nAlso how should he respond when he is with a significant other or someone weaker or someone that he is supposed to protect?", "How to react when people are being rude with you in public i know it can be summarized into fight or flight, but i want to play it cool. \n\nI have seen situations that someone is being rude toward a person with companions but he/she just acts like it didnt happen.\n\nMy question is how should a male respond to someone who is rude and is either too big, too small, weak, child, female or when you are not a fighting type and/or you are bad at loud arguments.\n\nAlso how should he respond when he is with a significant other or someone weaker or someone that he is supposed to protect?", "How to react when people are being rude with you in public i know it can be summarized into fight or flight, but i want to play it cool. \n\nI have seen situations that someone is being rude toward a person with companions but he/she just acts like it didnt happen.\n\nMy question is how should a male respond to someone who is rude and is either too big, too small, weak, child, female or when you are not a fighting type and/or you are bad at loud arguments.\n\nAlso how should he respond when he is with a significant other or someone weaker or someone that he is supposed to protect?", "How to react when people are being rude with you in public i know it can be summarized into fight or flight, but i want to play it cool. \n\nI have seen situations that someone is being rude toward a person with companions but he/she just acts like it didnt happen.\n\nMy question is how should a male respond to someone who is rude and is either too big, too small, weak, child, female or when you are not a fighting type and/or you are bad at loud arguments.\n\nAlso how should he respond when he is with a significant other or someone weaker or someone that he is supposed to protect?", "How to react when people are being rude with you in public i know it can be summarized into fight or flight, but i want to play it cool. \n\nI have seen situations that someone is being rude toward a person with companions but he/she just acts like it didnt happen.\n\nMy question is how should a male respond to someone who is rude and is either too big, too small, weak, child, female or when you are not a fighting type and/or you are bad at loud arguments.\n\nAlso how should he respond when he is with a significant other or someone weaker or someone that he is supposed to protect?" ]

[ "a long time ago i read something elsewhere on reddit where somebody said their reaction is along the lines of \"I'm surprised you feel comfortable saying that\". I haven't had the chance to use it yet but I always remember it just in case I need to use it, I think it's the perfect response.", "I'm no expert, but from personal experience...\n\nPeople usually get loud because they don't know better when trying to deliver their point through. \n\nFirst tip is be polite. Try to show that you care for their matter and you are interested in what they have to say. When you show them that you are interested in what they're saying, they will tone down especially if you remain calm and speak to them at a lower volume. \n\nListen to what they're saying. Usually in such situations you'd get defensive and you'll respond to anything they say with something that will provoke more response from them and argument. So you'll spend your silence time preparing a response rather than understanding them. Instead, listen to what they're saying. Just allowing them to pour whats in their hearts is enough to de escalate. Then, try to respond only with things that will diffuse rather than escalate. Remember that responding at this stage is not to speak your opinion or deliver your point but rather to diffuse the situation. \n\nDon't expand the circle of the argument participants. Even if they don't physically exist and it is just their name popping up. Ignore it and stay focused on the main point. \n\nTry to connect with them. After all, they are human beings that may have any of the many problems that people do. They may be going through a breakup, worried about next month rent, dealing wth half a dozen of kids at home... I've come across people who worked with us as if they were all ok and only to find out later that they've been struggling with terminal illness for so many years. Yet they showed up every day to work as if nothing. Imagine the kind of emotional distress they must have been going through. Reminding your self of how human they are and how this argument is really not worth the energy if it was the last thing in any of you two life... Will help you go through the argument with a better tone. \n\nI noticed that some situations can be diffused very easily by offering simple stuff such as candy, coffee, water or cookie!! Oh yeah! This of course depends on the environment you're at and the people you're dealing with. But if say you're dealing with angry customer, easiest thing to do is offer them a seat and ask for drinks. The cookie bit I experienced first hand. I was driving for more than eight hours, child crying in the car, wife nagging, arrived to hotel after midnight after driving in narrow countryside roads only to learn that the room wasn't prepaid. They declined one of the cr", "Be overly friendly/polite in your response to make them look even worse in comparison. Its a form of sarcasm but no one can call you out on it. \nOr just say 'I find your comments/tone' rude in a calm manner. ", "If you've convinced yourself you can't ignore it, then learn to deflect. Respond with something funny and non-insulting, play it off like you understood the insult but you are trying to be the better person by softening the situation.", "Not a male, but if someone is being rude to me or mine, I simply reply to them as if they were an errant child, \"What you just said is not appropriate. You can either rephrase it or retract it, but it cannot stand as is.\"\n\nThey then have three responses:\n\n(1) Apologize, fix, try again.\n\n(2) Become even more childlike and throw some sort of hissy fit. I consider rudeness to be immature behavior. So now that they've shown even more immature behavior it is safer and easier to ignore because rudeness only does you a harm if it is from a credible source, and that's not a credible source.\n\n(3) Stare at you agape and try to do some sort of dominance posturing. I'm a slight 5'2\" female and I can win that game, so I know anyone else who is bigger, stronger, or has larger actual balls can do it too. You try to posture at me, son, I don't act the least bit impressed. I'm also good at the deadpan, \"Seriously? That wasn't an option,\" followed by the ever popular completely-ignore-turn-back-on-and-walk-away. Remember, animals - of which we are one - never turn their back on a threat so the turned back is the ultimate power play/diss." ]

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[ "How to start hanging out again with a friend whom I wasn't in contact for some years First of all I think is necessary to say that I'm not a native speaker, if I made any mistake while writing this post or there are some things that are not clear enough I'd appreciate if you could tell me to ", "How to start hanging out again with a friend whom I wasn't in contact for some years First of all I think is necessary to say that I'm not a native speaker, if I made any mistake while writing this post or there are some things that are not clear enough I'd appreciate if you could tell me to " ]

[ "How about inviting her for something that will take longer than a drink? Maybe a hike, or something outside because that would be good for your depression anyway. Then just talk. Maybe ask her about her life since you lost touch? Be interested in the details, especially about how she felt during those times. Share your life too, and be ready to tell her details of how you felt. \n\nIt's those personal, intimate conversations that bring people closer. But don't rush it; it takes a little time to create that deep level of trust close friends have. ", "Does she know you're depressed? If not, tell her. I suffer from depression also and know the struggle of saying it to someone... But telling a good friend can be relieving. \n\nI would type up the key points of what you want to say. 'I want to come see you but I have been dealing with depression for a few months now. I'm concerned with having enough things to talk about even though we do have good conversations.'\n\nSend it as a text, email, message... Or call get and say it. It is TOUGH but so relieving once it's out there. " ]

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[ "avoid commercial crap like chapstick, it just makes your lips need more chapstick. i like Burt's Bees stuff much better.", "Lanolin. [This Stuff](http://www.lansinoh.com/products/hpa-lanolin) works really well. You can find it in the baby/nursing section in most big box stores.\n\nIf you are in a bind, you can use the oil from your nose. Swipe your finger-tip down the bridge of your nose and apply directly to your lips. ", "I used to use chapstick in elementary school, I just suffered through it in middle school and my lips have been fine ever since. It's a shitty couple of years but not having to use chapstick is awesome.", "A great homemade exfoliating recipe for the lips is pouring a lot of sugar into a pan of olive oil. Scrub all over your lips for a minute or so and wash off. Bonus: it tastes amazing. Leaves your lips so smooth and moist. ", "i read somewhere once that if you rub you nose with your finger and then rub your lips it will act like a cheep chap-stick, works well for about 10mins of relief but water is the best bet", "[ChopSaver](http://www.chopsaver.com/)\n\nIt was made for musicians, but it's all-natural and doesn't dry out. Ever. It's amazing.", "Shea butter. I have chronically dry skin, and this is the best relief I've found. Chapstick and Blistex just don't cut it.\n\nAlso, after consuming coffee, fruit, salty potato chips, or anything else caustic, rinse your lips thoroughly with water before applying the butter; otherwise, you'll be sealing the caustic residue against your lips, which will cook them.", "I'm surprised no one has mentioned vitamin E oil. I get the capsules of pure vitamin E and prick the end with a straight pin and apply to my lips before bed. \n\nIncreasing your water intake is going to make the most difference but this will make them nice and moist right away. Not to mention, one capsule will last for quite a few applications so it's more cost effective than chapstick in the long run (less convenient, though).\n\n", "I used to get chapped lips often as well. I changed my morning routine a bit by adding a lip exfoliant (I bought mine at the cosmetics counter at my local drug store). I scrub all the dead skin off. Wash my face, moisturize right after I pat my face dry and then apply balm (a medicated one is best). \n\nOh and also increase you water intake!", "Drink lots of water. No chapstick, that tingly feeling you get from it is actually drying your lips out. Try not to lick them too much, the extra water will help within a day or two.", "When I was on Accutane (known to give you super-dry lips), the only thing that worked was Aquaphor. \n\nJack Black's mint lip balm is also very good. ", "My personal favorites are Blistex (in the little blue tub), Aquaphor (highly recommended by my dermatologist while I was on accutane, which totally dried out my lips), Nivea (blue tube), and.....wait for it.....CHICKEN POOP. Yes, that is an actual name of a brand of Chapstick. No, it does not contain actual chicken poop. This was also recommended to me by my dermatologist while I was on accutane. It's amazing! But you have to order it online. Just google chicken poop chapstick and it should come up. Smells kinda funky but worth it.", "Keep a chapstick, blistex, carmex, vaseline or whatever you choose to use everywhere. In your purse, in your car, in your desk, in the junk drawer in your kitchen, in every coat pocket you have. This way you always have one and won't be tempted to lick your lips to moisten them. That's what dries out your lips. That and sun and wind. Some people are more prone to chapped lips than others. I have always been plagued by chapped lips so I just make sure to always have something with me. ", "I've tried almost every brand of chapstick out there and I've found that Burt's Bee's is the best. Just the simple one with peppermint oil in it works great. I've been using it for years now.", "I use neosporin lip health. I've had serious problems with chapped lips and it works like a charm. Also, drink more water!!! ", "I use [Labello SOS Lip Repair](http://int.labello.com/products/extra-care/sos-lip-repair) before going to sleep, when I wake up my lips are perfect!\n\nSometimes my lips become very dry, so much that they crack and I start removing the lip skin with my teeth, but I put that lipstick before going to sleep and when I wake up they are like new, in a perfect shade that amazes me how fast that thing works.", "I have chronically dry lips due to medication and when they get really bad I use Jack Black brand lip balm. I found it at Ulta. Kind of pricey, but nothing else worked for me. " ]

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[ "Good blinds So, I have blinds that do not work at all, and I cannot afford good new blinds. I want to be able to have the view during the day, but a light on outside keeps me up at night. I would put a blanket or cardboard over the window, but that is a hassle to put up and down every day. Any suggestions?", "Good blinds So, I have blinds that do not work at all, and I cannot afford good new blinds. I want to be able to have the view during the day, but a light on outside keeps me up at night. I would put a blanket or cardboard over the window, but that is a hassle to put up and down every day. Any suggestions?" ]

[ "not really a LPT, but i shall answer your question\n\nBlackout blinds or Blackout curtains will do the job, if you cant afford the £10 for a new blackout blind then you could make your own curtains or blinds using blackout lining, which you can get for about half the price. It is probably worth investing in a blackout blind, for convenience, and they're really not that expensive.", "I had a similar problem in my old apartment, and bought myself blinds made out of aluminum rather than plastic. They were extremely dark. \n\nIf you're looking for a $0 solution, you may want to try using a thick blanket as a curtain, and rigging up some sort of drawstring for during the day. \n\nBut honestly, my blinds only cost me $14, and installed in five minutes with a power screwdriver. Disassembled just as easily, so I took them with me when I moved out." ]

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[ "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?", "How does someone get INTO a habit? There are many good habits to have.\n\nGoing to bed/Waking up early, writing in a planner, creating a daily schedule for some things.\n\nBut many people including myself have a hard time getting into these habits.\n\nThe habit I myself want to get into, is taking care of my teeth. While growing up brushing my teeth turned more into a chore than just something I did every morning and night. So I'd skip doing it one night, that became 2 then 4 then eventually I started to never/rarely brush my teeth at all. I might take a swig of mouth wash here and there, but that's all the care my teeth got. I'm 18 and my teeth are yellow as fuck and covered with plaque. I've tried to get into the habit of brushing them, but then it completely falls apart. I start making excuses as to why I don't need to brush my teeth. \"I might get a snack or a drink later\", \"I can do it later, it's to early\", or just being plain as day lazy about it. I've had stints where I'd brush my teeth everyday for maybe a week, but then go right back to skipping. Even now, I'll brush my teeth for a few days, then stop for weeks for no reason.\n\nSo how do I get into this habit or any other habit without it falling apart?" ]

[ "The only way to start or stop anything is through discipline. You have to decide to do something and then keep doing it no matter what. \n\nJocko for details: https://youtu.be/_tE8kE8IfiY", "Put the tooth brush stuff in a zip pouch on your bed right where you sleep and would have to move it - and at least brush for a minute with a little cup of water next to your bed, every night. To start, I guess", "No tip to get back into it, as I'm in the same boat (undxed ADHD here), but I can offer some tips? These won't replace a good brush, but something is better than nothing.\n\n* Water. Rinse after eating something particularly sugary or sweet or whatever have you. You can swallow it down for plus hydration, or spit it out, whatever floats the boat.\n\n* Scraping. Sounds gross, but if I have plaque around my gumline and don't feel like brushing, I take something (usually my fingernails or a scraper thing my grandmother has) and scrape it down. Add with water?\n\n* Cutting down on sugary drinks/foods. I'm trying to cut down on how much soda I drink in a week (I used to regularly go a few weeks without teeth brushing; I have v early cavity marks, but neither of my dentists in my life have noticed or cared, so I take that as a HIGH stroke of good luck that I don't want to waste.\n\nI can say that I do find it easier to get stuff done when I'm being held accountable by an external force. For some people, it's an alarm. For some (like me, which makes it harder for me), it takes another actual person helping you stay accountable.", "My best answer to this is called \"here to the tree\". It's from when I was learning running and it was really hard... My neighborhood happens to have fairly evenly spaced trees, maybe 20 feet apart. So on mornings where I really didn't want to run, I told myself, \"you can do this, just here to the tree\". And sometimes once I got started, I would keep going, but if I didn't feel like it, I would stop and congratulate myself for getting that far. Sometimes I didn't even make it out the door, but I would do some squats. The key thing is to push through the \"ugh, I don't want to do this, I'll do it later\" and just do SOMETHING RIGHT THEN that keeps building the habit... And congratulate yourself for doing that tiny thing (maybe just put water on your toothbrush) and promise yourself to do a little more tomorrow :)", "If you have a smart device, consider a program like Productive (iOS) or Due (iOS) or whatever reminder app you have. And make sure you complete the prompt, but that’s a good way to start and build on a habit.", "I actually had a similar problem when I was younger. Pair it with another task that you do everyday. For example I brush my teeth after I shower since it's convenient for me. It's much easier to convince myself to do it when I'm already in the washroom rather than comfy and curled up in bed. \n\nAlso, just do it lol. Building habits is hard and takes discipline but like others have said if you can keep it up for long enough it will be easier to maintain. Also even if you skip a day for whatever reason don't just give up!", "First step would be a thorough cleaning by a dentist. Maybe that cost would trigger your need to take care of your teeth better.\n\nIt takes 6 weeks for a habit to form. If you are very diligent for only 6 weeks, it will become engrained." ]

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[ "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. ", "How to talk someone down when they're feeling suicidal. I've dealt with this issue before in my life. A good friend of mine took their life and I could have talked them down. I just didn't know how. " ]

[ "The best thing is to just talk and **listen**. Make a connection with them and talk about that (do you/they have kids, family? Are they religious? etc.) Find something in that connection to give them hope for the future.\n\nBe wary offering advice because it can throw some people off and they are less likely to listen to you.\n\nYou can ask them how you can help, but don't make promises you can't keep. Which leads me to...\n\nDon't promise them it will get better because it might not. If you talk them down right now, by promising that it will get better but it doesn't, it very well could lead them back onto that ledge and it'll be much harder to get them back down.\n\nSource: This is what I remember from police academy when we went over this topic. I probably missed a few points.", "One thing I've found from consoling depressed people is that one of the worst things you can do is the whole \"well, you can actually fix what's wrong in your life! It's just in your reach! Have you tried [x],[y], & [z]?\" I personally like it when people give me advice, but many depressed people do not seek this when confiding in others. This will get those people to shut down completely as they do not believe they have anywhere near the energy required to do anything like what is being suggested. \n\nWhat you SHOULD do is sympathize when them and be compassionate. Nod and make eye contact and touch them (if appropriate). Say \"Is there anything you would like me to do to help?\" and say \"I'm here to listen to you\". Talk to them with patience and, if possible, try to get them to eat or drink something with you- preferably something sweet, like a dessert or a sweet coffee drink/hot chocolate. Making them laugh is one of the greatest things you can do, but don't try too hard. \n\nNEVER ever ever say anything along the lines of \"You're actually lucky because you aren't starving in a third world country! Look on the bright side!\" This only makes them feel worse because they will agree with you and then feel guilty for being so depressed.\n\nEveryone's different, but these are some general guidelines I've found through personal experience. Not a psychologist, but I am a fairly happy & mellow person and so many depressed/suicidal people often confide in me. \n", "I would like to say that I am very sorry for your loss. Suicide is a tragedy and often considered the most common preventable cause of death in the world. Many friends and family of suicide victims experience a lot of guilt after their love ones pass. I hope you are doing ok, and that you never have to deal with this again. However, if you do, I hope this post can lead you in the right direction to prevent a suicide in the future.\n\nSomeone mentioned QPR, I highly suggest this. You can look it up yourself, but I'll also give a quick summary. The most important thing, before you start QPR, is to listen to the person, hear them talk about their feelings, empathize with them, but DO NOT offer any advice. Just let them talk it out. After talking, if you think they're considering suicide, you go to QPR.\n\n* Q - Question. You need to ask directly whether the person is thinking about killing themselves. Do not be vague. For many, this is the most difficult part. Don't be afraid of saying it. \"Are you thinking about killing yourself?\" \"Do you want to end your life?\" \"Are you considering suicide?\" Find a phrase that works for you *ahead of time* and say it out loud.\n* P - Persuade. Persuade the person against taking their life. Tell the person you don't want them to die. Remind them that their death will impact many people in a negative way. DO NOT offer advice or tell them that their problems are fixable. Sympathize with them, tell them you know life sucks right now, but suicide is not the answer. \n* R - Refer. Refer the person to a suicide prevention hotline, organization, or other group. You are not a licensed counselor, or health care provider, you are more of a first responder. There are many organizations nationally, and even locally. Find one or two applicable to your area and have their contact information in a convenient place (your wallet or saved in your phone maybe) so you can access it any time you need it.", "Do NOT blame yourself or assume you could have talked them down. You may *think* you could have talked them down, but that is only a sure thing in your head. When someone is really suicidal, all your arguments are invalid. You assume that if you can just find the right words, they will respond positively and see reason (as you understand it). But if you have ever been present when someone was having a serious bipolar episode or psychotic break, you soon learn that as far as they are concerned they *are* seeing reason, and they're just as convinced of their reality as you are of yours.\n\nThat doesn't mean you shouldn't try, only that if you don't succeed it is not your fault. \n\nDial the phone for a suicide hotline and hand it to them. Hold their hand while they talk to the people who are trained to do exactly this work.", "My advice, if you can, take them for a drive. Talking is easier side to side instead of face to face. Drive past some trees, a nice fountain, a cool building.", "Look up QPR training... It's specific training for this sort of thing. \nQuestion, persuade, refer. Ask the person why they want to kill themselves, persuade them that there are other options, then get then help. \n\nMore suited for people who are having suicidal thoughts than those who are imminently suicidal but it does help. ", "Don't attempt a tough love approach. It might help some people but is risky. Try and find something in the future for them to look forward to. Tell them that you care about them." ]

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[ "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! ", "Getting rid of material clutter / cutting out the crap. Hi all, \n\nIn 2015 I'd like to try and cut down on the amount of literal material clutter I have. Space is a premium - I'm forced to rent currently and have much that I seldom need. \n\nSome of it - however - remains, because I *might* need it some day or because it has sentimental value but is not 'on display'. \n\nI'd like advice on how to deal better with this clutter - perhaps there's some system I've not thought of for some of it, perhaps some can be done away with completely. \n\nExamples: \n\n* I have a number of cardboard boxed that contained electronic items like my phone, digital camera(s), mens shaving clippers etc. - some of these contain instructions, manuals, warranties, wiring and other bits and pieces that I seldon need - but one day *might* need. The boxes however take up a lot of space. \n\n* Old clothes that I don't wear but have sentimental value. T-shirts from bands I like or from festivals I've been to, that kind of thing. \n\n* Seldom read books and magazines that in fairness I could probably get rid of. \n\n* A couple of boxes of wiring, electronic bits etc. that *might* be useful one day but largely sit unused. \n\nGetting a storage space etc. is not an option - I either condense or remove what I have - or learn to live with the problem! " ]

[ "-most manuals are digital now... And if you're a dude, you probably don't read the manual. \n\n-Why will you need the boxes? For a move? People by used cell phones without the box. What's the need for an original box? I understand something like a PlayStation if you move around a bit but really, those can be gone to. \n\nWhen you buy stuff ask yourself is it a need or a want. Whenever I do this and i determine its a want, I deposit it into my truck fund. At least when I get what I want, it won't be a stupid Bluetooth speaker, it'll be something I wanted for years. \n\nGood luck!", "I just read this book: [The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing](http://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Tidying-Decluttering-Organizing/dp/1607747308/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1420233917&sr=8-1&keywords=the+life-changing+magic+of+tidying+up+the+japanese+art+of+decluttering+and+organizing). I highly recommend it. It's very Japanese and she's pretty intense, but her basic premise is that we who are cluttered remain that way because we're focused on what to get rid of instead of what to keep. She talks about the emotions surrounding the \"I might need it someday\" problem and how to work with the sentimental value of items. The key, for her, is understanding the relationship you have with your stuff in order to permanently declutter. \n\nI was completely inspired by her, and I'm starting her method myself this weekend. It's a short book and an easy (and extremely compelling) read. If you do read it, I'd love to hear what you think.", "warranties: scan them. Manuals: they're online.\n\nAs for most of the stuff. Sort through into three stacks \"definitely trash\" \"might be useful one day\" and \"sentimental/keep.\"\n\nTrash, you obviously dump. The might be useful one day pile, go through it as though you were at a thrift store. Could you see *anyone* buying it? If not, it's actually trash pretending to be useful one day.\n\nI had a giant box of old electronics components and my wife eventually made me go through it and dump things. There's only been *one* thing from that box that I wish I still had and had to replace. And that was a long co-ax cable. Keep universal cords (USB, PC power supply, cat-5 network, ect), dump everything else. (I also had 4 or 5 phone cords in their original packaging... I haven't had a 'land line' phone for 3 years at that point) If you haven't touched it in a year, odds are you're not going to. And even if you do, you can buy better for cheaper than the opportunity cost of storing it.", "I've gotten rid of some items by thinking to myself 'Have I received my purchase back in value?'\n\nDid this three dollar shiny thing bring me twenty dollars in entertaiment value?\n\nIt did?\n\nWell, then off to Goodwill it goes. ", "I am struggling with this also. My new years resolution this year is to hoard less. I am absolutely NOT calling you a hoarder but there are good resources on r/hoarding which can help you decide what to do with clutter. Things like flowcharts on how to deal with excess clutter.\n\nMy personal method is going to be this: Little by little, work through the apartment. Particularly my junk storage spaces like my drawers and random boxes of stuff. We moved into this place 18 months ago, so I'm looking through things and asking myself:\n\n1. Have I used this since we moved in?\n\n2. Did I remember that I had this before I looked at it just now?\n\n3. How inconvenient would it be to repurchase this item? \n\n4. How much sentimental value does this have to me on a scale of 1-100? Anything less than a 75 goes in the trash.\n\nAnything which belongs to my boyfriend pretty much gets left alone, or if I'm 90% sure he doesn't want, I put it all into a pile and ask him about the items one by one. We went through my bookshelves last week and I have three shopping bags of books ready to go to the charity shop.\n\nIt's a slow process and it's really easy to get overwhelmed and bogged down. I would focus on one small area per week. If it's really hard for you, focus on things like \"Today I will go through this drawer\" and don't worry about anything else.", "Good luck. I'm in the same boat. I have boxes that I may need to use in the future for moving (if we plan on relocating). I have clothes that I save in case I gain weight again. Books and magazines that I may want to read again. Wiring and bills....dude, are you me? I look forward to hearing helpful examples from fellow readers and how you cope, because I'll need to do the same. Bless you for posting this.", "Time and space cost money. Calculate the cubic volume of your rental and divide it by the cost of rent and you will know how much a cubic foot of space is in dollars, we'll notate it *v*. Each time you reorganize or move an item, it is costing you time. Figure some dollar amount for what you think your time is worth, call it *t*. Now you have two dollar amounts to weigh each material item against. Is this item worth *v* + *t*? Sometimes it is actually cheaper to throw something away and buy a new one when you need it.", "This can be time consuming but it works. I read about it on The Minimalists website.\n\nPack away every single thing you own into boxes. Your utensils, your toothbrush, your sheets, your cleaning products, your clothes, everything.\n\nTake things out as you need them. When it's time to brush your teeth, you'll need your toothbrush. At night, you'll need your sheets, pillow, phone charger. At the end of a few weeks, you'll be surprised to see that the majority of your stuff is still packed away. That shows you what you need and use every day opposed to the crap you don't even miss having in your life.\n\nLike I said, time consuming but an eye-opener. Worth it if you're serious about downsizing.", "Stored boxes of sentimental things don't make much sense. Find a way to use/display the items. As for the old t-shirts...consider having a quilt made from them.", "Read 'The Joy of Less' by Francine Jay. Really helps you to declutter and stops you buying loads of crap ( : ", "Rank it.\n\nSmall valuable stuff usually gets a higher ranking.\n\nLarge, low value stuff gets a low ranking.\n\nSort it and throw away the lower ranked half. You will probably be throwing away perfectly good stuff -- deal with it. The space is more valuable than the stuff.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvgN5gCuLac\n", "Have you used it in the last two years? If not, get rid of it or sell it. If you can't get more than $20 for it, it's not worth the trouble.\n\nSentimental stuff? Make room for it by getting rid of the useless stuff. I picked up some floating wall shelves for some of my treasured books and kept a small box of photos / cards / bits and bobs. If it's THAT important, make a place for it where you can appreciate it daily. If not, it can't be that special, can it?", "For the t-shirts look around on Etsy for someone that will do a t-shirt quilt. Will cost you $200-$300 bucks but then you have a useful blanket instead of a pile of old t-shirts. ", "Find a few dozen things that you didn't use once in 2014 and donate them today. As far as the things in boxes that might be useful one day, well, just find/get/buy them in the future.", "Two words: \"stop\", and \"waffling\".\n\nYou're in a space-versus-money crisis, so it's time to be vicious and take no prisoners.\n\nFirst and foremost, if you're saying \"in fairness I could probably get rid of this\", turf it immediately. Get a garbage can, and put the item in it, and immediately take it to a dumpster.\n\nThen take your box of assorted electronics and doodads, and ask yourself how critical each item is. Don't think about it from the perspective of \"how much it cost you\" or \"whether you might need it\". think about it from the perspective of \"how much you might probably and really need it, and if so, how much it would cost to replace\". If you don't recognize it, toss it because you're not actually using it.\n\nFor anything large and questionable, ask yourself \"is there anyone out there that could use this more than I can\"?. The answer is always yes. Find a way to give it to them, either using some internet selling service like Kijiji, or by just dumping it on some charitable organization like Goodwill. You could actually be helping other people with your clutter, not just letting it sit there chewing up real estate.", "Based on your bulletpoints there:\nTake the instruction manuals, warranties, wiring bits, out of all the boxes. Put them all into one box. Throw away the rest. Then you'll have one box for all of these.\nOld clothes with sentimental value, I'd keep those, but do consider if they can be given to someone else, like a family member, who you know would wear it and also appreciate it.\nI struggle to throw away sentimental items but I find it easier to get rid of things I don't use/wear if I can give them to a family member.\nDefinitely bin the magazines. Are you ever going to need them?\nBooks, if you can get them in electronic form instead that can save you a lot of space so consider that, otherwise keep the ones you like and donate the ones you don't.\nYou should go through the wiring boxes and throw away anything pointless. If you can't think of an immediate use for it, chuck it." ]

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[ "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. ", "How to be social? I'm tired of being a recluse and so introverted. It's almost impossible for me to make small talk or conversation and that makes people uncomfortable since I'm so incredibly awkward and quiet. I don't know if it's because I'm over thinking what I say or if it's just that it's hard for me to relate to most people. Sometimes I go so long without talking my voice cracks when I speak. Pretty much I'm like watching a sex scene with a parent, you just sit there and bare with it until it's over.\n\nUpdate: Just wanna thank everyone that replied, great advice and sincere responses. I don't expect to become Mr popular over night but hopefully with time I'll make some progress. " ]

[ "rule #1, get out there. you have to put yourself into social situations, even though you may avoid them. rule #2 ask open ended questions to people. do not ask questions that can be answered with one word answers. then, after the person has answered your question, make a short comment on the same topic (like your own opinion but never being snarky or judgmental when you're talking with people you're not close to) and ask them another question, still on the same topic if possible. try to let the other person do the majority of the talking. believe me. when you are a good listener, just prompting them to talk more with comments or questions, people will think you are a great conversationalist! it's more about moving the conversation along rather than making witty or smart comments. rule #3 don't be afraid to fail a bit. if you run into someone who 'doesn't take the bait' of your open ended question, try again with another question and if that doesn't work either, move on! \n\nyou might even want to think about some questions or topics to talk about before you go out. \n\nif you're not normally social, it can take practice to get comfortable. good luck. ", "Have gum and offer it to people. You'll talk more when you're confident that your breath doesn't stink. Plus, everybody likes gum guy. \n\nAlso, apply chapstick. It will make it easier for you to talk and smile. \n\nI don't know anything about you or your life, but I know that when I do these two things, I am more friendly and talkative with people.", "This may help. I pray you watch it. Even as someone who doesn't struggle with my social self this helped improve my life a ton!\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2iGk87bug2s", "There were two steps that I took to get over my social anxiety:\n1) Imagine the person you want to talk to sitting on the toilet, maybe even picking their nose while sitting on the toilet (which they more than likely have probably done).\n2) Once you've done this and broken them down into their basest form in your mind, just approach them and talk to them like someone you've known for years, and who you didn't expect to be there. By having a \"gross\" image of them in your mind, you begin to actually not care what they think of you. You'd be surprised at the positive reaction you get from them. Keep the gross image of them in your mind as long as you need to so you don't get nervous and start acting weird.\n\nP.S., An alternative to this method so you don't get some kind of weird toilet fetish is to just start by making eye contact and nodding at everyone you see with a close-mouthed smile. Once you get comfortable doing this, add in a \"how ya doing?\" or a \"hello\". Once you get comfortable doing this for a while, start in with some small-talk or questions. Make sure you don't mention anything about toilets or nose-picking. Ever. ", "Join group that has a common hobby, for example, hiking or painting. When you are engaged in an activity you enjoy, you will relax and conversations will naturally happen. \n\nAlso, it's okay to be an introvert, there are a lot of us out there. Be comfortable with who you are and people will be comfortable with you. You are not alone. Good luck!", "At home practice talking out loud to a pet, or the guy who reads the news on the radio, or make smart remarks to the television or videos on the internet. \n\nGo out at least once a day and make some small purchases at a grocery store or whatever, go to a library if you're broke, and make a point of saying something nice to the clerk, something about how busy the store is or isn't, what's the weather going to do later in the day, or how the color they are wearing looks good on them. Whatever. Something that if you were standing on your feet all day it would be nice to hear. Keep in mind 25% of them are dicks who will not respond well, but the other 75% will smile and talk back. \n\n\nFind a group that is into something you are interested in, and show up for a meeting or function. It's a lot easier to speak to similar people who can relate to the same things as you. I got cold chills from any large gathering until one day I went to a writer's group and those people I could talk to because they at least had a similar mindset. ", " Ask them about something they like and continue asking questions. Example I understand you like reddit, How long have you been redditing, What are some of your favorite reddits ?\nWhat's the funniest thing you have seen on reddit ? What do you like about reddit? ", "Smile and say hello. Don't be discouraged by \"failure\". Every single time you approach a stranger and initiate a conversation, even if it goes absolutely nowhere, you have succeeded.\n\nSet a daily goal to approach 3, 5, 10 or even 100 people. Whatever you feel comfortable starting out with. Increase this goal every time you reach it. If you approached 20 people yesterday, do 25 approaches today.\n\nDon't worry about what you say, how you appear or anything else. Just smile and say hello.", "OP, I feel you. I'm an introverted extrovert. Although my extroverted side craved interaction, I was mostly quiet and withdrawn. Here are a few things that helped me out:\n\n1) Start small. You're not going to be social overnight. Take it one day at a time. In your every conversations, do one more thing. Ask one more question. Say one more thing. Greet one more person. Build this up over time. \n\n2) Know yourself. You're an introvert. It's normal to be quieter. You're likely more observant and don't like being the centre of attention. Stick to one-on-one conversations before moving to group conversations. \n\n3) Ask lots of questions. Imagine there is a spotlight hanging over the person who is talking. Make every effort to keep the spotlight on them by asking questions and follow up.\n\n4) Body language goes a long way. Keep arms open, maintain eye contact and have a friendly smile. \n\nFor more tips, I read Leil Lowndes' \"How to Talk to Anyone\". Greatly helped me, and it might help you too!", "/u/farfignugin has a great point. I think my own battle with social anxiety followed a similar pattern to this\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2iGk87bug2s", "You have to look at it from a 50,000 foot view. From up here, you're a\nSpeck interacting with another speck. You also have to realize that nobody really gives a fuck about your interaction with them at the end of the day, so why should you? Just have a \"fuck it\" attitude going into it. By trivializing the encounter, you may feel more at ease, more relaxed and capable to \"shoot the shit\". Also just be friendly. Also, I find that spontaneously mentioning something that everyone is thinking is a good starting place for small talk. For instance, let's say a teacher\ntalks really loudly, you could jokingly say something like\n\"I wish he'd talk louder, I can barely hear him\" see, whoever hears that right off the bat recognizes some mild humor and\nUnderstands exactly you're coming from because\n, yea, they guy practically tells the whole time. In short, try not to\nGive a fuck, be friendly, find relatable and relevant things to mention. Also, just throw yourself into situations sometimes, get ur feet wet and\nGet out of your comfort zone. You'll\nGet the hang of it. Good luck buddy", "Talk to random old people. They're non-threatening and lots to talk about. It's a good way to warm up to talking to people in your peer group. Listen and ask questions -- but don't go into interview mode, you must give back with input as well.\n\nIf you party or go to bars, always bring cigarettes and gum. I wouldn't advocate picking up smoking, but lots of people smoke and it's a good way to break the ice.", "One thing I do to combat the cracking voice is sing a lot at home. This makes it easier to talk in public. My voice just flows with ease and I don't have to strain to be heard. What I do is I sing really loudly into a pillow so that I don't bother my neighbors. You have to sing loudly, though, for this to work. \n\nAnother thing you can do is go jogging before you get ready to go out. It sort of wakes you up and I also thinks it gives me more energy when talking to people. \n\nThe awkwardness is a mental block. You just have to put yourself out there till you outgrow it. The thing is awkwardness is not a reaction to you. It's a reaction to you being awkward. Stop feeling awkward and people will not think you are awkward. It takes two to tango, as they say.\n\n", "Do an activity with people. It's a lot easier to have a conversation when you're playing a game or watching a game or whatever because the activity is the natural point of conversation.\n\nStuff that's really open ended, like going out for dinner, is not a good place to start." ]

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[ "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?", "Getting rid of the ringing/beeping noise in your ears I have had an issue with falling asleep lately because there would be a constant ringing, usually in my right ear, but alternating every so often. It's extremely annoying and makes it hard to fall asleep. Any tips on getting rid of it?" ]

[ "As someone living with Tinnitus, my advice would be to try to ignore it or forget about it. Don't think or obsess over it. Eventually you will stop noticing it. Because it never stops. Never. eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee....", "White noise. It's all that works for me. I can't sleep without a fan in the room. Either a ceiling fan, or better a ceiling fan and a tabletop fan. I simply use white noise to drown out the ringing in my ears. I positively cannot sleep in a room that is completely silent.\n\n", "Try listening to music you like. There's research that shows that putting yourself in a state of well being can reduce the effect. Apart from that just use Google, e.g. [this](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tinnitus#Treatment) list. There is no one known cure, so you have to find what works for you best.", "White noise is your friend. \n\nSome people like traffic noise, or rain, wind, surf, etc. Personally I use fan. ", "Though not always, tinnitus can be related to nerve compression in your upper neck. Check out upcspine.com and see if there is a doc in your area that can see if you have an upper neck problem and give you some help. ", "It might not be tinnitus. If you're young (under 25ish), or else have exceptional hearing, you may just be picking up very high frequency sounds. This happened to me for ages, until I realised I was hearing electrical devices. I turned everything off at the mains before sleep and voilá.", "If it's one that just occasionally pops up, like everyone gets sometimes if the area is too quiet, humming just a couple of seconds will get rid of it. It's weird, but after I hum the ringing noise fades away pretty much as soon as I stop.", "I will save you a trip to the doctor, and tell you what you should do. First, have a friend or SO put their ear by your ear. If they hear a ringing coming from your ear, you need to see a doctor. You could have a brain tumor or something serious. (No, really, that is what my doctor told me.)\n\nIf your friend can't hear the ringing, you need to find something to drown it out as often as you can. Somethings that have worked are fans, electric razor, TV, my truck's exhaust pipes. You will never have complete silence again, but you get used to is most of the time. ", "Do you use q-tips?\n\nIf it's severe enough to keep you from sleeping, I'd suggest seeing a doctor.\n\nIf it's only a minor irritation, I'd suggest white vinegar 1:1 ratio mix with water. Use them as drops once a day. Or *\"if you must\"* dip a q-tip in the solution and run it around the inside....NO DIGGING THOUGH, NO MATTER HOW GOOD IT FEELS! It'll help kill any bacteria, clean your ears w/o drying them out, and reduce swelling...which is a common cause of ringing ears.\n\nSource: I have awful ears :(", "Pretty sure tinnitis is a symptom of carbon monoxide poisoning too. Just an FYI. I know most people are running their heaters right now. If you dont have a detector it wouldnt hurt to get one just to be safe." ]

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[ "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems", "How can I stop being so cynical? Okay, you may remember my fear of failure LPT request, now, that fear of failure is part of my everyday existential crisis I will have.\n\nI just seem to always think that the universe is infinite, and that we are just a series of tiny little dots, and we all die in the end.\n\nI know this is little deep, but it is a serious problems" ]

[ "Stop what you're doing, walk out of the house and travel.\n\nYour cynicism is a result of a narrow field of view. Go and watch humans being. You might be surprised. ", "Cynicism can sometimes be a rationalization of the fear of action. It lets you tell yourself to expect nothing so you can never be let down. It justifies not doing anything to change your situation, since you've decided it will inevitably fail. In the end, though, this type of cynicism is essentially you saying that the slow, dull, numbing pain of living your life this way is better than the chance you may feel a sharper pain for a short time in exchange for living the life you want.\n\n\nIt takes bravery to let go of that type of cynicism, to risk, to decide for yourself that things matter. Even you. Everything that you enjoy was created by someone who decided that they could create it. Stop trying to figure out how they're different from you, and start looking at what you have in common.", "I guess I don't understand what the problem is. Universe large, humans small, universe infinite, human life finite. \n\nSo? \n\nWhat humans do is meaningless in relation to the universe. \n\nSo? \n\nWhy is that important, or even relevant, to your life right here on earth? Hint: it's not. \n\nBecoming overly concerned with abstractions is a way of avoiding your life. The vastness of the universe \"explains\" your failure to have experiences in a way that's intellectually easy, but metaphysically meaningless. That human life is trivially small in relation to everything ever is not a deep insight, or meaningful at all.", "You are quite simply mildly/moderately depressed. There is no solution to what you say, it is all correct. Stop looking for something or someone that will change your mind. You have to realize that if you take a step back and ponder existance, that's what you will always be facing. The fact is that our nifty animal brain will not ponder it's existence if it has other more proximate things to focus on and this is what you have yo learn to exploit. Infact, you are probably passing your days thinking about the universe because you find nothing in your daily life that captures your full interest and attention. \nStart by finding something apparently small in your daily life and give it your full interest as if it where very important. The relationship you have with your best friend. Your hobby. Your health. Soon you will find yourself being much more serene because you will have gotten used to this behavior and existential pondering will become a leisure that you indulge in when you feel the need for it and can snap out of when you want.", "What is your situation like? Are you financially secure? Do you have close friends and family, or a significant other? Do you feel like you are pleased with the direction of your life?\n\nYou should probably answer these questions first, because in my experience, feelings of cynicism, depression, and anxiety come about most frequently when I am not satisfied with my life as it is.", "Paraphrasing here...\n\nDuring a low tide, a man notices millions of starfish that were washed up and dying. He quickly ran to them, grabbing one at a time and putting it back in the water.\n\nHis friend said to him, there are so many, saving a few won't matter. \n\nThe guy picked up another one and put it in the water, then replied, it matters to that one.", "When I think about reality I am cynical. When I realize everything is just one big fucking joke, that works too. Turn everything into a joke, that's how I do it. So I drift back and forth between these two states. Is it healthy? Probably not. But it is what it is.", "Life is to easy for you. You have to much time on your hands.\n\nSell all your shit and move to a third world slum. Once you start worrying about where you next meal is coming from, you'll stop worrying about stupid shit that there is nothing you can do about anyways. ", "Just stop living a fucking sheltered life. Take some risks. Tackle your dreams. Travel to Africa and learn what it means to live a though life. Hike in the mountains and build a relationship with danger.\nLife is beautiful because it's precious, and precarious.", "Great question, great responses.\nI share your perspective.\nBut use this \"biggest picture\" perspective, you'll ask yourself why, WHY!? why wake up? why live?\nSo you are faced with - why live?\nWhy?\nFor me, it comes down to, I'm not willing to kill myself. So, if I have to live, then I should figure out HOW to live.\nFor me, happiness is a choice. The Way to Live is to find happiness.\nSearch for happiness. You probably won't find happiness for life, but if you find happiness for a moment, that might keep you going.\nI like the response: realize that this (life) is a joke.\nYou're cynicism is a gift. And a curse. Just try to get through your life. Wake up, do something, go to sleep, try again." ]

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[ "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated.", "a way to expose someone who is going through my lunch box. I strongly suspect one of my coworkers is going through my lunch box and would very much live to bust them. I was thinking of something along the lines of the paint bomb they put in the bank robber's duffle bag. I don't care if it wrecks my lunch box, so long as after I tell my supervisor that I did this and then my coworker gets fired with paint on his hands, it'll be worth it. My lunch box is one of those cloth/collapsible types. A Coleman NFL one, if that helps. Speaking of help, yours is greatly appreciated." ]

[ "Maybe not so destructive, but this will be simple and cheap. Go to a home improvement store and buy those little sticky Velcro strips and a standalone door alarm. It's a little plastic job that takes a battery and comes in two pieces. When the pieces are separated from each other, the alarm goes off. Stick one half to the inside top of the lunch box with velcro and the other half to the lid with velcro so that they touch when the lid is closed, but separate when the lid is opened. When someone opens the lunchbox, everyone will hear an ear-piercing alarm.", "You could spray everything inside your lunchbox with OC pepperspray. The second he used the bathroom or touched his face he'd be made.", "My dad had a guy at his work who would steal my dads lunch from his cooler. One day on his way to work my dad saw a snake that had been ran over and killed. He stopped and tossed it in his cooler. Guy never stole his lunch again. ", "Cover the inside with that ink that is nearly impossible to wash off your skin, treat it like a bank robbery and dye the criminal.", "1. Buy Tonic water, with quinine. \n2. Boil it down to a powder. \n3. Mix the powder with a drop of vegetable oil. \n4. Spread oil on the latch of your lunchbox. \n5. Check suspect's fingers with a black light. (quinine is fluorescent)", "They're stealing your pills? \nFor a couple of weeks, put your usual pills in capsules. After some of them turn up missing, put something more malicious in the capsules (laxatives? Sedatives? Hallucinogens?) Bonus points for ingredients that could result in disciplinary action for the thief.", "Get a phone with a camera and gps. Turn the camera on record and place it the lunchbox recording up. Close it, the darkness will result in a black screen, saving some of the battery. Then check to see if someone's face pops up in the video. If it gets stolen call the carrier/police to have it tracked down. ", "Does it have the zippers have those holes in them? The ones about the size of a locker lock? Throw one of those on your bag, and problem solved.", "Buy one of those party poppers, fill it with paint and use strong to rig it to go off when it's opened.", "x-lax everything, as for the dye pack... get some string, a mouse trap, and something nitrate (or nitrite i can't remember which but it combusts violently when physically agitated). tie string to mousetrap set arm, set mouse trap, place in bottom of bag, tie string to top of bag, cover mouse trap in powder chemical. place in break room. when bag is opened string sets off trap, trap agitates powder - BOOM - fire alarm goes off, everyone goes outside look for the one with no eyebrows and shit in their pants - culprit found\n\nalso in no way am i responsible for any/all repercussions of anyone doing this or anything similar to this in any way shape or form.. ", "You could just use a cable tie to lock your lunch. You wouldn't find out who's stealing, but it should stop them from doing it in future. ", "Do you really believe that EXPLOSIVES are the way to handle this issue? \n You need to act and think like an adult before you take any action.\n\nIt may be illegal in your area to set up hidden cameras or microphones since they may have a reasonable expectation of privacy. You could be sued for invading that privacy.\n\nPutting a chemical on your food that causes a burning sensation for the recipient ... I bet that there is a law against poisoning people or using chemical weapons against them. It's illegal to booby trap your lunch box or your home for that matter.\n\nIf the drugs are legal and made prescription by strength of the pill or its scheduling class, call your supervisor and HR and have them call the police for you. (you should contact an employment lawyer before you take action to make sure that your actions are legal and so you don't accidentally break the law yourself).\n\nYou state that you hand them to someone who stores them for you. If your company does this, they may become responsible for your property. Consult a lawyer.\n\nGood luck, and Good Hunting.\n", "Buy an [ammo canister](http://www.amazon.com/Military-Surplus-Caliber-Ammo-Empty/dp/B003Y5C132/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1380858778&sr=8-7&keywords=ammo+can)\n\nThen get a [cord lock/gun lock](http://www.amazon.com/Master-Lock-107DSPT-Cable-Different/dp/B000LX86RU/ref=sr_1_2?s=sporting-goods&ie=UTF8&qid=1380858931&sr=1-2&keywords=gun+lock). Feed trough the hole on the clamp and the little handle thing or drill hole in top and side. Keep key for lock safe.", "Are they stealing your food? \n\nMaybe you're just super paranoid. \n\nSeriously? Why not just leave a note inside the lunch bag that says, \"STOP GOING THROUGH MY FUCKING LUNCH BAG.\"" ]

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[ "How to turn a college summer internship into a full-time offer Working in a health policy setting this summer for the first time, probably helping with a mix of desk/background research and implementing new care delivery programs. This is a field and organization I'm really interested in going into after graduation but just generally, I'm looking for tips on how to make the most out of summer internships, whether through networking, getting placed on interesting projects, etc. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated - my school's career office had very little advice besides the usual \"work hard and you'll be rewarded\" stuff.", "How to turn a college summer internship into a full-time offer Working in a health policy setting this summer for the first time, probably helping with a mix of desk/background research and implementing new care delivery programs. This is a field and organization I'm really interested in going into after graduation but just generally, I'm looking for tips on how to make the most out of summer internships, whether through networking, getting placed on interesting projects, etc. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated - my school's career office had very little advice besides the usual \"work hard and you'll be rewarded\" stuff.", "How to turn a college summer internship into a full-time offer Working in a health policy setting this summer for the first time, probably helping with a mix of desk/background research and implementing new care delivery programs. This is a field and organization I'm really interested in going into after graduation but just generally, I'm looking for tips on how to make the most out of summer internships, whether through networking, getting placed on interesting projects, etc. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated - my school's career office had very little advice besides the usual \"work hard and you'll be rewarded\" stuff.", "How to turn a college summer internship into a full-time offer Working in a health policy setting this summer for the first time, probably helping with a mix of desk/background research and implementing new care delivery programs. This is a field and organization I'm really interested in going into after graduation but just generally, I'm looking for tips on how to make the most out of summer internships, whether through networking, getting placed on interesting projects, etc. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated - my school's career office had very little advice besides the usual \"work hard and you'll be rewarded\" stuff." ]

[ "Ok so I may be able to help here. I was in this same position about three years ago (investment banking in nyc). Did the summer, got the full-time offer. Been working at the same bank ever since. \n\n1. Introduce yourself to everyone on your floor. This includes janitors, mail people, etc. Do this on day 1. Every day you wait it becomes more awkward. All you have to say is \"hi my name is x and ill be interning here for the summer. I look forward to working with you.\" They will then ask what school youre from and you will have the same bs conversation 50 times. This is much easier if you have a young coworker/mentor who can help introduce you to everyone. Obviously try to remember everyones names (you wont but try). If you forget you can easily ask a close coworker \"hey what was that guys name again\" later. No full time employee will go out of their way to introduce themselves to u. The onus is 100% on you here. \n\n2. Be kind/friendly with everyone. This should go without saying. You getting a job offer at the end of the summer 100% depends on whether or not they like you. Towards the end of the week ask ppl \"do you have any plans this weekend?\" They will say yes my son has a basketball game on saturday. Remember this. On monday you can ask them if they won. Easy way to get people to like you. \n\n3. Get involved with the senior people. Dont be intimidated just because they are the bosses. They are people too. Shoot these people a note saying \"hi my name is x and im interested in y. Are you available for coffee some time this week\" this is important. These will be the ppl ultimately deciding on whether or not you get a job. Id try to do this in the second or third week. First week will make you seem like a try hard (dont want this to happen). Anything after week 3 is probably too late. \n\n4. On the timing thing- honestly the ppl you work with will have likely decided whether or not they want to hire you by the mid point of ur internship (possibly sooner). This is why those first couple of weeks are important\n\n5. Find a way to add value. Youre gonna have to figure this out as you go. Maybe automate a spreadsheet or something. Interns are worthless for the most part (everyone knows this) so its the little things that count \n\n6. Show interest. Should also go without saying. Ask questions constantly. These need to be smart questions (not shit you can google). Write the answers down. Come up with follow up questions. Never ask the same question twice (unless you are really having trouble understanding the concept)\n\n7. Help other interns (assuming there are some). Its not a dog eat dog situation. You helping a peer will show people that you care. Example: i did 2 rotations. There was another intern doing the same 2 rotations but we did them at different times. I made friends with this kid. What did we do at the mid point when it was time to switch rotations? We got together and taught eachother everything we needed to know about our upcoming rotation. This made us look extremely smart when we started the next rotation. Not rocket science. \n\nThis is all i can think of right now. Im sure i will think of more things", "Work your ass off and make yourself indispensable. If you see something that needs to be done or if you see an opportunity to do something nobody else does. Start doing it, when it comes time to present your work and they ask \"who did this part?\" You can say you did and why you did it. \n\nThis is my favorite rule of success at work. If it doesn't land you the full-time gig you'll at least make an impression and they'll gladly write you a recommendation or even better refer you to a group that is hiring. \n\nBonus: be happy and eager. I'd MUCH rather work with somebody who has a great attitude and puts forth a genuine effort despite not being supremely talented over someone who has a shitty attitude with undeniable talent. \n\nGood leaders can teach you how to be better but they can't change your attitude. ", "Show up 10-15 minutes early every day. I might seem like a small thing, but it shows that you're responsible enough to handle the job.", "If you will do your internship in a small/medium company and you expect to be in contact and work with nearly everyone, try to understand the structure and connections between the employees there. After that, you can have a better overview on where to concentrate your efforts and avoid mistakes in order to have a good impression on decision makers. A general rule is to be nice with everyone, work your ass off, avoid arrogance/ useless talk, respect timing and traditions of the group and show interest in the general advancement and goals of the company/organisation. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How to speak to a higher status leader of a company? I have an entry level job in my company and the other day a manager several places ahead of me came in. Eventually I end up in a car ride with this guy to pick up something and me being a dumb 20 year old did not really know what to say or ask. I felt like I was underwhelming to him. Any tips for next time?", "How to speak to a higher status leader of a company? I have an entry level job in my company and the other day a manager several places ahead of me came in. Eventually I end up in a car ride with this guy to pick up something and me being a dumb 20 year old did not really know what to say or ask. I felt like I was underwhelming to him. Any tips for next time?", "How to speak to a higher status leader of a company? I have an entry level job in my company and the other day a manager several places ahead of me came in. Eventually I end up in a car ride with this guy to pick up something and me being a dumb 20 year old did not really know what to say or ask. I felt like I was underwhelming to him. Any tips for next time?", "How to speak to a higher status leader of a company? I have an entry level job in my company and the other day a manager several places ahead of me came in. Eventually I end up in a car ride with this guy to pick up something and me being a dumb 20 year old did not really know what to say or ask. I felt like I was underwhelming to him. Any tips for next time?" ]

[ "Just remember he is human. Try to connect on a human level but speak and act with professionalism and respect. Has always worked for me.", "Sports might be a good ice breaker. If he says he doesn't play/follow any sports ask him what he enjoys doing in his free time. ", "Always be in a constant state of learning so that you are an expert in your field and a novice in all others. You will be able to relate to anyone intellectually.", "\"So how long have you been with Acme?\"\n\nThis should lead to other conversations, you have a common topic, the company you work for. Follow up questions to lead the conversation.\n\nIf their tenure is long, \"What position did you start in\"\n\nIf tenure is short, \"have you always worked in this field, Acme Kill the Coyote Supplies?\"\n\nIf yes \"So what made Killing Coyotes your career choice?\"\n\nIf no \"Any other interesting fields you've worked in?\"\n\nBe prepared to answer the same questions.\n\n\"What do you do when you're not working?\"\n\nThis will at least lead to a counter question where they ask you. It might even lead to other topics if there is a common interest.\n\nThese few questions should get the conversation moving. Now the Manager not asking you questions baffles me. I like to keep employees I have not met at ease and talk with them, try to keep the conversation going.\n" ]

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[ "Getting a Promotion So I've been out of college for 5 years, and in that time I've seen coworkers quickly rise through the ranks. I've also seen coworkers who are no less intelligent, and no less hardworking, stay exactly where they are. I'm wondering if any of you have suggestions for how to be the kind of person that gets promoted, rather than getting stuck.", "Getting a Promotion So I've been out of college for 5 years, and in that time I've seen coworkers quickly rise through the ranks. I've also seen coworkers who are no less intelligent, and no less hardworking, stay exactly where they are. I'm wondering if any of you have suggestions for how to be the kind of person that gets promoted, rather than getting stuck." ]

[ "The most important thing is initiative! Supervisors/managers don't see everything you do or know everything you want (hopefully), they won't know just how amazing you are unless you show them. The people who wait around and complain about not moving up are those who become lifers in the bottom tier.\n\nThe best thing you can do is set up a meeting with your closest member of management and ask to talk about your career path within the company. This is a very simple and easy way to let them know that you want to move up, without feeling too pushy or unprofessional. A manager will choose to promote people who want to be promoted (assuming their options are somewhat equal). \n\nAssuming you discuss a career path with your management; all I would recommend is to have an updated resume that's tailored towards internal promotion. Keep an eye out for openings, and submit your resume around. If your management neglects your aspirations after this, you may want to consider being more assertive or finding a better job.\n", "Apparently you have to make your boss look good (like on a continuous basis), so let him/her take cr" ]

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[ "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure.", "How to dance without looking like a total idiot. I can't dance. It's embarrassing. Does anyone have any tips or easy to learn moves I can pull on a dance floor so I at least look like I have some kind of idea what I'm doing, rather than flailing my arms about like I'm having a seizure." ]

[ "Have fun with it, if that means flailing your arms, so be it. People won't really care how you look; if you have energy and seem like you're having the time of your life, people will naturally come over to you to feed off of your energy and have a good time as well. \n\nIf you really don't know what to do, go over to someone that you know or someone that's dancing and copy the moves that they're doing. Make sure you're enjoying yourself and having fun the entire time!", "If you're in a club, just enjoy yourself. As a rule I like to move every part of my body in turn. Your hips, shoulders and knees are joints - you can move at any or all of them. Do whatever you want with your hands, and don't be afraid to take up space. Something you can practice is dancing without using your arms, just so you can really get into moving your body around. Also don't forget that shoulders can move forwards and back as well! Many people tend to be stiff and self-conscious.", "This may sound silly, but playing the dance games on Xbox Kinect helped me learn a lot of moves (mostly the Dance Central series, it's more technical).", "Just have some liquid courage and you can pretty much convince everyone you were a dancing with the stars finalist. ", "Here is a really good [video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PeQpwQ1xgbI) for that purpose.\n\nWait, did you say you **did** or you **did not** want to look like an idiot?", "Confidence. It honestly doesn't matter what moves you're doing, as long as you're having fun and you aren't worried about whether you look good doing them. \n\nMy favorite fallback move is the two arm pump. Here's a good example:\n\n[Starts at 5:00](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eIGh4Nc1fAM)", "After visiting Jamaica and having listened to the island music for many years,forget your white moves.Reggae music,philosophy,life,is centered on the belly,as opposed to the heart in western society.Let the heat in your belly give you the rhythm,BTW it's close to your gonads.", "enjoy and be with the music not your movements.\n\nsounds like a good personal project; there are many types of dancing", "I also am a horrible dancer. And my wedding is coming up. WTF do i DO?!?!?!?! I can get my lower half moving fine, but my arms? forget it. then when im not super drunk anymore, i get self conscious and freak out, find a dark corner and melt down. I do not want this to happen on my wedding night. I have taken ballroom dancing, is fun, I love dancing with a set of moves. freestyle? nopenopenopenopenopenopenopenopenopenope." ]

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[ "How to get bad odor out of TOMS. I have tried everything, but they still stink. I wear socks with them and they cut down on the odor a bit, but it still smells worse than any other shoe I have ever owned. So help?", "How to get bad odor out of TOMS. I have tried everything, but they still stink. I wear socks with them and they cut down on the odor a bit, but it still smells worse than any other shoe I have ever owned. So help?", "How to get bad odor out of TOMS. I have tried everything, but they still stink. I wear socks with them and they cut down on the odor a bit, but it still smells worse than any other shoe I have ever owned. So help?" ]

[ "Baking soda really helped mine, but just remember to clean out the baking soda after. If you don't and you let it stay in there, then they will smell worse than Satan's asshole.", "have you tried baking soda? that might work. my boyfriend has the same problem with his toms, the smell is so gross and its only his toms. he tries some other powder on his feet, i can't remember what its called. maybe you can put some dryer fabric sheets in them at night?", "[This](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/06/17/going-sockless-in-the-summer/) article gives some pretty good advice. It's not just for men. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How do I get my ISP to provide a better service? Title pretty much covers it, though I do need to explain the situation and a couple things I’ve tried. Also, mods remove this if it isn’t allowed. I skimmed the rules before posting but I don’t think this violates any. \n\nI live in a pretty rural area in upstate NY. Currently, there are several ISP’s in my area including Spectrum, Verizon, and MHC. I live on the outskirts of my rural ass little town. For some reason, MHC and Spectrum absolutely refuse to come to my address despite the next nearest residence that has MHC is less than half a mile away from me and Spectrum claims to cover the entire county, but also refuses. I’m currently stuck with Verizon providing a measly 2mbps down and like .5mbps up on a good day.\n\nBasically, I’m wondering if anyone knows how to convince or force a company into providing a better service for me. Thanks in advance!", "How do I get my ISP to provide a better service? Title pretty much covers it, though I do need to explain the situation and a couple things I’ve tried. Also, mods remove this if it isn’t allowed. I skimmed the rules before posting but I don’t think this violates any. \n\nI live in a pretty rural area in upstate NY. Currently, there are several ISP’s in my area including Spectrum, Verizon, and MHC. I live on the outskirts of my rural ass little town. For some reason, MHC and Spectrum absolutely refuse to come to my address despite the next nearest residence that has MHC is less than half a mile away from me and Spectrum claims to cover the entire county, but also refuses. I’m currently stuck with Verizon providing a measly 2mbps down and like .5mbps up on a good day.\n\nBasically, I’m wondering if anyone knows how to convince or force a company into providing a better service for me. Thanks in advance!" ]

[ "if you're able, threaten to leave if they don't. If they call your bluff, leave and find a new ISP. If you're paying for a service you're getting then there should be someone you can report them to (not sure who in america) or they'd be in breach of contract or something along those lines.", "The reason the other providers won't go to your house is the expense of running a line. To bury a cable or lease space on utility poles can be tens of thousands per mile. They're not gonna do that for one household unless legally forced to. Others have inquired with providers about paying for the run themselves and gotten sticker shock." ]

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[ "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?", "How to Deflate an Erection in an Emergency Every time an inconvenient boner strikes, I think \"Great, I wasn't even thinking about sex, wait... Now I am.\" I am very bad at controlling my intrusive thoughts. Anyone got any boner-killing tips that work for them?" ]

[ "Just discretely cut it off and place it in your pocket. Then reattach it later when you get home or whatever. ", "Hold your breath! When you hold your breath for so long your body will realize it shouldn't be wasting good oxygenated blood on your erection. It will basically send the blood where it is more needed at the time. Trust me on this. I am a teenager.", "Math helps sometimes. Usually I do something repetitive. I pick a low number like 2.\n2 +2 = 4 4+4 = 8 8+8=16 16+16=32 \n\nI think you get the idea. Flexing muscles is a bit helpful as well. So just flex away and math like the wind. You'll be stronger and smarter for it. ", "In an emergency an erection general deflates unless you're on boner pills. \n\nIf you mean that you have a boner and you just gotta get rid of it, try urinating in case it was based on a full bladder, otherwise you're young and you can't control it. \n\nDon't worry, after forty or marriage, whichever comes first, your boner will rarely be around when you want it. You'll be mostly pushing rope. ", "I read somewhere that tightening your biceps takes the blood away from your erection to your arms. I've done it a couple of times but not sure whether it's a placebo effect because I concentrate on my arm or whether it actually works.", "Tighten your quads, hams and calves. Your quads are the largest muscle in your entire body and by squeezing them, you're increasing blood flow to them. Your dick will slowly inflate as you contract.", "I thought of fat chick's back in middle school but then when I got older I'd try to think of fat chick's then be like.....\"shit I'd fuck a fat Chick right now\" so now I think of sweet Ole granny fringe", "Flex your thigh muscles, like your trying to show off. It will cause blood to be pulled away from your erection and send it to the muscle that's flexing. I don't know exactly how it works but someone told me this along time ago and it works.", "Everybody had already said it bit to confirm, expel all air and hold your breath. The erection will disappear very quickly. \n\n", "Do NOT attempt to physically (ahem) manipulate the penis flaccid. Penile fractures are not funny - the injury itself is distinctive (it's known as an \"eggplant\" injury, as it's a massive purple lump that looks like two golf balls side by side). In addition, you don't want to hear the phrase \"deglove the penis\". \n\nErections are not, in and of themselves, bad. Wear looser fitting jeans/slacks/trousers, it's less noticeable. \n\nIf you really want the erection to go away, the most effective technique I can consider would be \"find someone you fancy and have them laugh at you\". Nothing makes an erection shrivel up as much as being laughed at. \n\n", "Boner deletion expert here-\n\nWhen you get a raging erection, flex your stomach and thigh muscles, and hold them for 45 sec to a minute. This helps divert blood from that location. On the upside, doing this is also a great way to tone your muscles without much additional effort!", "I had a very fat repulsive teacher in middle school. I imagine her throwing up and my boner goes away." ]

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[ "When directly spoken to, how do i keep a direct eye contact without staring the other person down? I was at a job interview today and as i was spoken to i tried my best to keep eye contact, to seem hard-willed. But i also started thinking \"We've looked eachother in the eyes for quite a while now.\" I would then continue to look somewhere completely different for a moment, and then retain the eye contact again. I couldn't look at the floor, since that would make me come across as uninterested. When is eye contact too much, too little, and how do i find the perfect balance?\n", "When directly spoken to, how do i keep a direct eye contact without staring the other person down? I was at a job interview today and as i was spoken to i tried my best to keep eye contact, to seem hard-willed. But i also started thinking \"We've looked eachother in the eyes for quite a while now.\" I would then continue to look somewhere completely different for a moment, and then retain the eye contact again. I couldn't look at the floor, since that would make me come across as uninterested. When is eye contact too much, too little, and how do i find the perfect balance?\n", "When directly spoken to, how do i keep a direct eye contact without staring the other person down? I was at a job interview today and as i was spoken to i tried my best to keep eye contact, to seem hard-willed. But i also started thinking \"We've looked eachother in the eyes for quite a while now.\" I would then continue to look somewhere completely different for a moment, and then retain the eye contact again. I couldn't look at the floor, since that would make me come across as uninterested. When is eye contact too much, too little, and how do i find the perfect balance?\n", "When directly spoken to, how do i keep a direct eye contact without staring the other person down? I was at a job interview today and as i was spoken to i tried my best to keep eye contact, to seem hard-willed. But i also started thinking \"We've looked eachother in the eyes for quite a while now.\" I would then continue to look somewhere completely different for a moment, and then retain the eye contact again. I couldn't look at the floor, since that would make me come across as uninterested. When is eye contact too much, too little, and how do i find the perfect balance?\n" ]

[ "Keep your gaze focused on the bridge of their nose. To them, it will look like you are keeping eye contact, but will make you less nervous.\n\nAlso, watch what ***they*** do with their eyes. If they keep eye contact, refer to my previous statement. If you notice they frequently look off to the side, or otherwise avert their gaze often, it probably means they are uncomfortable with long direct eye contact. In which case, mimic them, and don't stare them down. They will feel more comfortable, and you'll have a better quality and potentially longer conversation.", "When I speak and sometimes think of something to add to the conversation, I sometimes look to the side from time to time as if I'm searching in my mind quickly what to say next.\n\nAlso when the tutors or clinician's talk to me, I sometimes slightly turn me head and eyes to the side then look up at a 45' angle as if I'm quickly registering what they said in my head.\n\nApologies if it makes no sense, not a good descriptive person but basically look as if you're processing what's being said time to time but keep the eye contact on for no more than 10 seconds before that split-second aversion, usually when saying something such as 'I see' or 'Yep, I understand' or 'mmhm I agree/disagree'.", "Depending on your culture, you probably don't want to look someone on the eye for more than 3 to 5 seconds. After that, it appears as aggression.", "As someone with Asperger's Syndrome who has struggled all of his life with eye contact, I completely understand. There's such thing as too much eye contact where it's kind of intimidating or offputting, and there's also too little eye contact where it can come off like you're disinterested or sketchy.\n\nWhat I usually do is look at a point right between their eyes. That allows me to focus on the conversation, not what their eyes are \"saying.\" Most people also tend to shift their gaze throughout a conversation, so if someone does that I'll shift my gaze briefly as well. It takes practice." ]

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[ "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!", "How do I trap/kill/get rid of tiny fruit flies/gnats in my kitchen? So, I got Hurricane Sandy'ed, and due to the power being out and no water running, we didn't clean all that well. I wouldn't say it was horrible, but it was enough to spawn a handful of these pesky little flies. In my experience, cleaning ususally has them die off, but they haven't gone away!\n\nI have read things about dishsoap and other mixture type concoctions, but none have worked. Help me out LPT!" ]

[ "With the vinegar/wine cup tricks, put saran wrap over the top of the cup and poke fruit fly sized holes in it. They will find it easy to get it as they are attracted to the smell but once in they will clang around having no smell to go on and eventually drown. ", "To help kill them off, put a baking sheet in the oven and toss in any old fruit rinds or cores that you may not have eaten. Once or twice a day, gently close the oven door as to not disturb the little suckers that were attracted to it and turn the oven on for a few minutes.", "Get a cup. Pour some sweet vinegar or wine into said cup. Pour a drop or two of dish soap on top of the wine.\n\nThe gnats will be attracted to the sugar, but as the soap has broken the water's surface tension, they will drown.\n\n*", "the best trick is to simply fill like 3 spoons of vinegar and 3 spoons of water in a glass, add a few drops of liquid dishwashing detergent and put the glass just somewhere the flies are.\n\nthe vinegar will attract a fly to juuuuuump in the glass like a madman, while the dishwashing thingy will kill the surface tension so they simply drown in it. after a day you will see quite a few dead bodies in your deadly trap but their souls will haaaaaaaaunt you for the rest of your life :)", "Typed out how to do this. Then proceeded to get the shit scared out of me when I went to take a picture. Take fruit (or wine) stick it in a jar, make a paper cone with the small end in the jar. It works wonders. Also get a spiderbro, even if he jumps out and surprises you whilst taking a picture. [like this](http://i.imgur.com/nWdZT.jpg) ", "I've heard they live/breed in the drains--[this website](http://drainrescue.wordpress.com/2009/08/24/killing-fruit-flies-in-your-drain/) has suggestions on how to clean your drains to prevent their return.\n\nWARNING: every site I've gone looking at has rather obvious, large images of bugs all over the place. If you're phobic, stay away.", "I am a terrible housekeeper so I get these often.\n\nOnce I notice I have them I clean the kitchen and then take a tupperware type container and put some old fruit or vegetables in there and let it sit with the lid off for a few hours.\n\nThe little jerks fly in there to eat, they lay their eggs in there, etc.\n\nafter waiting for them to crowd over the goodies I slowly approach and then quickly snap the lid on. Then I take them outside and they fly away. I've had a fog of them in the kitchen a couple of times and this clears them all out and is the best method I've found besides using a bug bomb." ]

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[ "How to remove silly putty stains from a mattress. My son slept with his silly putty under his pillow last night... Nothing like having to tear the pillow from the mattress in the morning. It's not exactly silly putty, it was a cheap knock-off type sticky thing. Anyway, I have all of the actual sticky bit removed using alcohol. But I'm now left with a huge pink stain on the matress, it's a brand new memory foam mattress so I'm desperate to get it out. Any tips would be great!", "How to remove silly putty stains from a mattress. My son slept with his silly putty under his pillow last night... Nothing like having to tear the pillow from the mattress in the morning. It's not exactly silly putty, it was a cheap knock-off type sticky thing. Anyway, I have all of the actual sticky bit removed using alcohol. But I'm now left with a huge pink stain on the matress, it's a brand new memory foam mattress so I'm desperate to get it out. Any tips would be great!", "How to remove silly putty stains from a mattress. My son slept with his silly putty under his pillow last night... Nothing like having to tear the pillow from the mattress in the morning. It's not exactly silly putty, it was a cheap knock-off type sticky thing. Anyway, I have all of the actual sticky bit removed using alcohol. But I'm now left with a huge pink stain on the matress, it's a brand new memory foam mattress so I'm desperate to get it out. Any tips would be great!" ]

[ "Apparently Noxema will remove it, test it out first on an area that is not too visible.\n\nhttp://www.thriftyfun.com/tf633397.tip.html", "My uncle one time had to remove silly putty from a couch. He called their customer service and they told him what to use. I'm fairly confident they said nail polish remover; it dries it up and makes it easier to pull out. But I'd call them to make sure.", "Haha I only read the title of this LPT request and burst out laughing at work. I'm glad it ended up being your son with the silly putty problem and not you or that would be awkward!" ]

[ 2, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to deal with nosy people? With the holiday season coming up, I am wondering on how I can improve answering questions without revealing things that I don't want others to know?", "How to deal with nosy people? With the holiday season coming up, I am wondering on how I can improve answering questions without revealing things that I don't want others to know?", "How to deal with nosy people? With the holiday season coming up, I am wondering on how I can improve answering questions without revealing things that I don't want others to know?" ]

[ "try to change the subject or try to stall and make them forget the subject e.g. get distracted by a pet or going to the toilet", "Don't volunteer anything. It's a running joke that my mom has to interrogate me when I visit for the holidays, because I offer up nothing. I offer up nothing because it leads to more questions.", "When coming to strangers, I lie. I lie a lot. The funny thing-- Last July, I had a cookout party. My friends brought their friends. We chatted about stuffs. One of their friends talked to me. He asked me how I was good at sex. I lied and I said I hurted men badly. They filed a lawsuit for damaging body part. A friend asked who was that guy. I pointed to his friend. He turned to look at him. He was mad at him. He realized he was nosy. He left me alone. My friend came to me. He asked me why I pointed him. I said I thought he was hot. I told him I wanted to fuck him. He laughed. He gave me his number. What can I lie? :)" ]

[ 1, 1, 0 ]

[ "I've signed up for the National Do Not Call Registry, but I've still been getting robo-calls. They're all different numbers but from the same state and exactly the same robo-call message trying to tell me I've won a resort stay. Is there any way I can get this to stop? ", "I've signed up for the National Do Not Call Registry, but I've still been getting robo-calls. They're all different numbers but from the same state and exactly the same robo-call message trying to tell me I've won a resort stay. Is there any way I can get this to stop? ", "I've signed up for the National Do Not Call Registry, but I've still been getting robo-calls. They're all different numbers but from the same state and exactly the same robo-call message trying to tell me I've won a resort stay. Is there any way I can get this to stop? " ]

[ "This applies if you live in the USA, I'm not sure about other countries. But what you should do is try to stay on the line until you get a live person (and you usually will) and tell them to stop calling you. Mention that you have registered with the do not call registry and any further contact will be treated as harassment. They will hang up, most don't say anything LOL. For me, this has always worked and I don't get called back ever again after that. I'm sure there's some type of blacklist for relatively unpleasant people like me", "There's an app called Mr. Number that will cross reference every call you get with their user defined data base. If the number has enough people saying it's spam, then it will hang up and prevent future calls from happening from that same number. (When you first install the app, make sure to go to the settings go to call blocking and set things accordingly) ", "Give them a few second to say what they have to say. Then say , im sorry can you repeat that, im hard of hearing .... They usually flag your number and don't call back . it's worth a try." ]

[ 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "How to Boost Charisma I've just started a great new job, that I'm very excited about. The job will require me meet with important clients and running engaging workshops and meetings.\n\nIt's very important that I have a lot of charisma, and I would say that I am charismatic but in a different way.\n\nThis might sound a little odd, but I honestly think this is where I run into problems: I'm 6'2\" and have a very low voice (think James Earl Jones) with a nice polite English accent... which isn't bad thing at all!\n\nBUT, I like to try to be as personable, witty and funny as I can and I think it all comes across like Darth Vader trying to do stand up at an open mic night - A tall authoritative man making light silly jokes can clash in people's heads, maybe? \n\nIf I'm every telling people information (facts, science, numbers) they listened very closely and will have no trouble believe what I'm saying, but when I tell stories people aren't that engaging.\n\nSo my question is how do I become more charismatic and approachable and less 'Mufasa'.\n\nThanks!", "How to Boost Charisma I've just started a great new job, that I'm very excited about. The job will require me meet with important clients and running engaging workshops and meetings.\n\nIt's very important that I have a lot of charisma, and I would say that I am charismatic but in a different way.\n\nThis might sound a little odd, but I honestly think this is where I run into problems: I'm 6'2\" and have a very low voice (think James Earl Jones) with a nice polite English accent... which isn't bad thing at all!\n\nBUT, I like to try to be as personable, witty and funny as I can and I think it all comes across like Darth Vader trying to do stand up at an open mic night - A tall authoritative man making light silly jokes can clash in people's heads, maybe? \n\nIf I'm every telling people information (facts, science, numbers) they listened very closely and will have no trouble believe what I'm saying, but when I tell stories people aren't that engaging.\n\nSo my question is how do I become more charismatic and approachable and less 'Mufasa'.\n\nThanks!", "How to Boost Charisma I've just started a great new job, that I'm very excited about. The job will require me meet with important clients and running engaging workshops and meetings.\n\nIt's very important that I have a lot of charisma, and I would say that I am charismatic but in a different way.\n\nThis might sound a little odd, but I honestly think this is where I run into problems: I'm 6'2\" and have a very low voice (think James Earl Jones) with a nice polite English accent... which isn't bad thing at all!\n\nBUT, I like to try to be as personable, witty and funny as I can and I think it all comes across like Darth Vader trying to do stand up at an open mic night - A tall authoritative man making light silly jokes can clash in people's heads, maybe? \n\nIf I'm every telling people information (facts, science, numbers) they listened very closely and will have no trouble believe what I'm saying, but when I tell stories people aren't that engaging.\n\nSo my question is how do I become more charismatic and approachable and less 'Mufasa'.\n\nThanks!", "How to Boost Charisma I've just started a great new job, that I'm very excited about. The job will require me meet with important clients and running engaging workshops and meetings.\n\nIt's very important that I have a lot of charisma, and I would say that I am charismatic but in a different way.\n\nThis might sound a little odd, but I honestly think this is where I run into problems: I'm 6'2\" and have a very low voice (think James Earl Jones) with a nice polite English accent... which isn't bad thing at all!\n\nBUT, I like to try to be as personable, witty and funny as I can and I think it all comes across like Darth Vader trying to do stand up at an open mic night - A tall authoritative man making light silly jokes can clash in people's heads, maybe? \n\nIf I'm every telling people information (facts, science, numbers) they listened very closely and will have no trouble believe what I'm saying, but when I tell stories people aren't that engaging.\n\nSo my question is how do I become more charismatic and approachable and less 'Mufasa'.\n\nThanks!", "How to Boost Charisma I've just started a great new job, that I'm very excited about. The job will require me meet with important clients and running engaging workshops and meetings.\n\nIt's very important that I have a lot of charisma, and I would say that I am charismatic but in a different way.\n\nThis might sound a little odd, but I honestly think this is where I run into problems: I'm 6'2\" and have a very low voice (think James Earl Jones) with a nice polite English accent... which isn't bad thing at all!\n\nBUT, I like to try to be as personable, witty and funny as I can and I think it all comes across like Darth Vader trying to do stand up at an open mic night - A tall authoritative man making light silly jokes can clash in people's heads, maybe? \n\nIf I'm every telling people information (facts, science, numbers) they listened very closely and will have no trouble believe what I'm saying, but when I tell stories people aren't that engaging.\n\nSo my question is how do I become more charismatic and approachable and less 'Mufasa'.\n\nThanks!" ]

[ "If your going Paladin, you automatically have to put 17 in charisma... If your rolled well you might have a 17 already but if your rolled crap like I usually do you might need drop a point in Intelligence or Dexterity.", "Equip Militia hat or any other hat raising Charisma (+1)\nEquip Black-rim glasses or Fashionable glasses (+1)\nEquip either Summer shorts (+2, fills chest armor slot), or Green shirt and combat boots (+1) and any \"Sharp\" chest armor (+1).\nEquip \"Sharp\" leg and arm armor pieces (up to +4).\nDrink Beer or any other alcohol except Bourbon, Rum, Vodka, Whiskey or Wine (+2 with Party Boy/Girl tier 2 perk, +1 without it.)\nUse Grape Mentats (+5)\nUse Day Tripper (+3)\nUse X-cell (+2)", "I find people are like chameleons, including myself. If people don't respond well I move on until I find someone who does.", "1) Be relaxed, listen when others speak\n2) Don't take things too seriously - think Obama. Leader of the US and cracks jokes on national TV\n3) Tell detailed stories and use your voice and body to add emphasis\n4) When talking to a group don't focus on one person. Spread focus and eye contact to the whole group throughout\n5) smile!\n6) introduce yourself, relavant info and topic summaries before moving into anything detailed. The first question on a stranger's mind is \"why am I listening to you?\"", "Smile.\nLook approachable - Don't cross your arms.. Ext... \nThink of a few subtle jokes before hand (depending in how professional the meet it) no harm it planning. \nEnjoy doing what you do. " ]

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[ "If bumping into your Ex while your current partner is present, introduce as Ex or just not mention if it doesn't come up? ", "If bumping into your Ex while your current partner is present, introduce as Ex or just not mention if it doesn't come up? ", "If bumping into your Ex while your current partner is present, introduce as Ex or just not mention if it doesn't come up? " ]

[ "Always introduce them as your ex. Waiting until later will make them wonder why you waited and if you don't say anything and they find out, they are not going to be happy.\n\nBetter to rip off the band-aid and deal with it.\n\nNot everyone hates their ex, and some folks hold on to old feelings. Ignoring it and bringing it up later or them finding out later is worse.\n\nIf the new partner gets overly jealous and mad, you've discovered a red flag and should proceed with caution.\n\nIf they are mostly cool with it, you've got a good one.\n\nI've run into exes before and been introduced as the ex. I thought it classy to tell the guy he's lucky because she's great and said I hadn't seen her in a long time and am glad she is with someone great.\n\nI've also introduced my current partner to an ex we ran into and mentioned it. It was never a big deal. We ended up talking about it later and I had a chance to explain that the relationship ended because things were definitely not going well.", "It depends on the social situation.\n\nIf you see them in passing at the mall, probably not great to mention it. No need to talk to them or even look their way.\n\nIf it's a prolonged exposure, best to at least say something to your partner. If your partner is as cool as mine, they will just laugh at your standards from back then.", "Hello [Evening-Pilot-737](/u/Evening-Pilot-737), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, it has been removed for the following reason:\n\nPosts concerning the following are not allowed, religion, politics, relationships, law and legislation, parenting, driving, or medicine or hygiene including mental health. This list is not exhaustive. Moderators may remove posts considered to deviate from the spirit of the subreddit.\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FLifeProTips&subject=about%20my%20removed%20submission&message=I%27m%20writing%20to%20you%20about%20the%20following%20submission:%20https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/vm0fw4/lpt_request_if_bumping_into_your_ex_while_your/.%20%0D%0D). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!" ]

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[ "I just reached highschool, in my area we are still doing online learning, but will be learning face to face classes by the end of august, and I want some tips since I haven't seen my school for 2 years. ", "I just reached highschool, in my area we are still doing online learning, but will be learning face to face classes by the end of august, and I want some tips since I haven't seen my school for 2 years. ", "I just reached highschool, in my area we are still doing online learning, but will be learning face to face classes by the end of august, and I want some tips since I haven't seen my school for 2 years. " ]

[ "Best advice I can give is don't care what the other kids think of you and they will think higher of you.", "Look at people s actions and you'll see who are your friends, never talk about about somebody , set your boundaries when you feel like. Sleep before 22.30 in the evening so you are fresh in the morning. Have fun ❤", "don't take everything too deep, relax, don't be afraid to talk to people (was difficult for me after 1.5 years of online)" ]

[ 5, 1, 0 ]

[ "Tips or suggestions on supervising employees a generation or two older than you. At my workplace, I'm transitioning into a supervisory position that oversees four permanent employees and varying numbers of temporary staff, depending on needs. Almost all of these employees (including all of the permanent employees) are older than me, most by 25-30 years. They have spent their entire careers at this place, while I have travelled the road from academia to the private sector and now into my current position. What are some good tips and suggestions to get these folks to not undermine what I ask them to do, to not push back at my suggestions for making things run more efficiently, etc.? I get the sense that several of them think I'm brand new to this type of work, even though I've been doing it for nearly 14 years, and it's already wearing on me.", "Tips or suggestions on supervising employees a generation or two older than you. At my workplace, I'm transitioning into a supervisory position that oversees four permanent employees and varying numbers of temporary staff, depending on needs. Almost all of these employees (including all of the permanent employees) are older than me, most by 25-30 years. They have spent their entire careers at this place, while I have travelled the road from academia to the private sector and now into my current position. What are some good tips and suggestions to get these folks to not undermine what I ask them to do, to not push back at my suggestions for making things run more efficiently, etc.? I get the sense that several of them think I'm brand new to this type of work, even though I've been doing it for nearly 14 years, and it's already wearing on me." ]

[ "Include them early in a process, ask for their input/experience, put them in charge (or deputy) for a project so they can get behind it. Treat them with respect, acknowledge their experience & insight. Then show them you know your stuff without showing off, make it transparent that you are considering all ideas/people when making decisions. In general, earn their respect rather than expecting or demanding it.", "Be polite without being deferential. Be confident, don't hesitate to be direct. Make sure their tasks are clear and the workplace is organized. Make it clear that everyone is working towards a common goal, and you have a job to do just like them. And know your stuff: if you have the answers to their questions or problems they will start to have confidence in you and your authority will seem natural to them." ]

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[ "How do I work faster without sacrificing quality? This is my first ever graphic design job after graduation. I work for an outsourcing company and we're not allowed to bring any files home or have copies of them outside of the office. So, I can't review them when I get home. All I have are my notes. They job is kinda easy but there's sooo much to do. While they orient me, I write down stuff but there are so many details. I am overwhelmed. I've been here a week and I'm a day behind. My co-workers who started at around the same time are coping better than me or so it seems. I try to break down tasks but I am just... slow. I get confused / I overthink things and it eats up my time. Even though I spend a lot of time on it, I still make mistakes. I feel like I lack common sense too because most of the mistakes I make are stupid. What can I do to improve? ", "How do I work faster without sacrificing quality? This is my first ever graphic design job after graduation. I work for an outsourcing company and we're not allowed to bring any files home or have copies of them outside of the office. So, I can't review them when I get home. All I have are my notes. They job is kinda easy but there's sooo much to do. While they orient me, I write down stuff but there are so many details. I am overwhelmed. I've been here a week and I'm a day behind. My co-workers who started at around the same time are coping better than me or so it seems. I try to break down tasks but I am just... slow. I get confused / I overthink things and it eats up my time. Even though I spend a lot of time on it, I still make mistakes. I feel like I lack common sense too because most of the mistakes I make are stupid. What can I do to improve? ", "How do I work faster without sacrificing quality? This is my first ever graphic design job after graduation. I work for an outsourcing company and we're not allowed to bring any files home or have copies of them outside of the office. So, I can't review them when I get home. All I have are my notes. They job is kinda easy but there's sooo much to do. While they orient me, I write down stuff but there are so many details. I am overwhelmed. I've been here a week and I'm a day behind. My co-workers who started at around the same time are coping better than me or so it seems. I try to break down tasks but I am just... slow. I get confused / I overthink things and it eats up my time. Even though I spend a lot of time on it, I still make mistakes. I feel like I lack common sense too because most of the mistakes I make are stupid. What can I do to improve? ", "How do I work faster without sacrificing quality? This is my first ever graphic design job after graduation. I work for an outsourcing company and we're not allowed to bring any files home or have copies of them outside of the office. So, I can't review them when I get home. All I have are my notes. They job is kinda easy but there's sooo much to do. While they orient me, I write down stuff but there are so many details. I am overwhelmed. I've been here a week and I'm a day behind. My co-workers who started at around the same time are coping better than me or so it seems. I try to break down tasks but I am just... slow. I get confused / I overthink things and it eats up my time. Even though I spend a lot of time on it, I still make mistakes. I feel like I lack common sense too because most of the mistakes I make are stupid. What can I do to improve? " ]

[ "Get to know your programs like the back of your hand so you don't spend and hour trying to figure out how to create an object and also drink coffee for stimulation. Works", "Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.\n\nBreathe in. Count to 4. Breathe out. Count to 4. A lot of your troubles are coming from trying to sprint before you're even walking. Slow down and take more measured steps in your work. You're likely not slow, you're just trying to take in too much at once. Same with your 'simple' mistakes. If you slow yourself down, even just a little, things are much easier to approach and wrap yourself around. And as for your coworkers, watch your own lane. You're not going to help anybody by keeping tabs on them, and you'll end up doing more harm to yourself than anything else. If they haven't fired you, then you're doing well enough. The rest can come in time. ", "You'll get faster and you'll learn to prioritize tasks as you gain experience.\n\nCreate to do lists if you don't already. Start each day by completing any tasks that will take you less than 15 minutes. \n\nAny urgent projects should be taken care of as soon as possible, of course, but if you're working on a larger project that's needed right away and another urgent, but very quick project comes across your desk, it may make more sense to take a break and finish that off. For example, I work in publishing and often have to lay out a book within a day or two of receiving the files. But I might get a request for a press release that marketing wants to send out in the next day or so. I know I can get both done in time, but if I get the press release off my plate as soon as I'm asked, I won't need to add it to my list at all. It won't really feel like projects are piling up and I'll get a quick break from the book layout.\n\nAlso, make sure to take short breaks throughout the day, even if you just get up to get water or something. It seems counterintuitive, but taking breaks makes you more productive and alert.", "In my office, my peers were much faster than me. Even the amount of work I did was paltry in comparison what others were churning out and I even heard a few people talking in the back stating I wasn't doing anything.\n\nI sort of slowed down. I prioritised my tasks and then broke each task into smaller and smaller chunks which were manageable. Then slowly worked towards completing each of them. Requested help in understanding things whenever I was blocked. But plodded through the list I had made. \n\nThis sort of got me on the path and even though things were slow at the beginning, I soon became adept at it." ]

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[ "Keeping flies out of your room Living in the basement of a fraternity, I tend to have a lot of flies buzzing around. I bought a fly trap that worked well but I'm still seeing flies everywhere. Any tips?", "Keeping flies out of your room Living in the basement of a fraternity, I tend to have a lot of flies buzzing around. I bought a fly trap that worked well but I'm still seeing flies everywhere. Any tips?", "Keeping flies out of your room Living in the basement of a fraternity, I tend to have a lot of flies buzzing around. I bought a fly trap that worked well but I'm still seeing flies everywhere. Any tips?", "Keeping flies out of your room Living in the basement of a fraternity, I tend to have a lot of flies buzzing around. I bought a fly trap that worked well but I'm still seeing flies everywhere. Any tips?" ]

[ "Apple cider vinegar in a cup, mixed with a couple drops of dish soap to break the surface tension. It works miracles for fruit flies, still works for larger flies. Works even better if you make a paper funnel with an inch hole in the bottom that rests on top of the cup above the liquid level. This mostly prevents the flies from escaping, and they crawl around the side until they eventually drown. \n\nI will swear by this method, 1000x more effective than fly tape since the flies are actually drawn to it. \n\nAlso, as others said, get rid of the garbage. If they are breeding in drains try pouring vinegar or bleach down the drain. (Make sure you have ventilation while the bleach works it's magic.)\n\n", "If there is a garbage can down there, empty it as often as possible! And keep it as clean as possible. The trash thing is big though.", "Take a quart-size zip-lock baggie, and put six or seven pennies in it. then fill 1/3 with water, zip closed, and hang close to nearest opening where flies are coming in. A lighted spot works best. The compound eyes of the flies will see the light reflected by the water/pennies as movement, and they will avoid the area. I know it seems crazy, but my grandmother taught me this trick 40 years ago and it works just as well today!", "Hello /u/iDebatez and thank you for your submission! Unfortunately it has been removed for the following reason:\n\n>Posts about medical, hygiene, and toiletry related tips are no longer allowed, as they have been placed on our Restricted Topic list, which can be found in the [sidebar](/r/LifeProTips/about/sidebar). \n\nPlease make sure to read through the sidebar before submitting in the future. Thanks for thinking of us, though! Have an excellent day.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/LifeProTips) if you have any questions or concerns.*" ]

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[ "How to deal with eye contact during pauses in conversation without seeming awkward. I'm a fairly socially capable guy, but ultimately I'm an introvert who has to expend a decent effort to keep a conversation alive. \n\nWhen the conversation is alive eye contact is easy. \n\nBut I often find that as soon as one topic is exhausted, there is a brief moment where we're left staring into each other's eyes as we mentally scramble to fill the gap with more conversation. \n\nIt's such a little thing, I'm not losing sleep over it, but it happens so often - is there a more pleasant way to handle this?", "How to deal with eye contact during pauses in conversation without seeming awkward. I'm a fairly socially capable guy, but ultimately I'm an introvert who has to expend a decent effort to keep a conversation alive. \n\nWhen the conversation is alive eye contact is easy. \n\nBut I often find that as soon as one topic is exhausted, there is a brief moment where we're left staring into each other's eyes as we mentally scramble to fill the gap with more conversation. \n\nIt's such a little thing, I'm not losing sleep over it, but it happens so often - is there a more pleasant way to handle this?", "How to deal with eye contact during pauses in conversation without seeming awkward. I'm a fairly socially capable guy, but ultimately I'm an introvert who has to expend a decent effort to keep a conversation alive. \n\nWhen the conversation is alive eye contact is easy. \n\nBut I often find that as soon as one topic is exhausted, there is a brief moment where we're left staring into each other's eyes as we mentally scramble to fill the gap with more conversation. \n\nIt's such a little thing, I'm not losing sleep over it, but it happens so often - is there a more pleasant way to handle this?", "How to deal with eye contact during pauses in conversation without seeming awkward. I'm a fairly socially capable guy, but ultimately I'm an introvert who has to expend a decent effort to keep a conversation alive. \n\nWhen the conversation is alive eye contact is easy. \n\nBut I often find that as soon as one topic is exhausted, there is a brief moment where we're left staring into each other's eyes as we mentally scramble to fill the gap with more conversation. \n\nIt's such a little thing, I'm not losing sleep over it, but it happens so often - is there a more pleasant way to handle this?", "How to deal with eye contact during pauses in conversation without seeming awkward. I'm a fairly socially capable guy, but ultimately I'm an introvert who has to expend a decent effort to keep a conversation alive. \n\nWhen the conversation is alive eye contact is easy. \n\nBut I often find that as soon as one topic is exhausted, there is a brief moment where we're left staring into each other's eyes as we mentally scramble to fill the gap with more conversation. \n\nIt's such a little thing, I'm not losing sleep over it, but it happens so often - is there a more pleasant way to handle this?" ]

[ "Look onto people's eyebrows. It feels a lot less awkward for you and they still think you're looking them into the eyes.", "It's fine to look around periodically. No one wants you to look them straight in the eyes all the time.", "If you are comfortable enough with this person, silence may not always be a bad thing. Of course, this depends on you and your friend. (eg. Me and my best friends or me and my girlfriend can enjoy sitting together without having to actually talk to each other, just enjoying each other's prescence)", "Agree, its okay to break contact. Sometimes I like to look around the room. This also provides an opportunity to make a comment about your environment or surroundings and keep the conversation going. ", "You don't have to maintain the eye contact, its ok to break it.\n\nMaybe try slowly looking away whilst nodding to show that you're processing what the person has said, but don't [keep the eye contact for that long while nodding](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Phf9s2DFdMM&feature=youtu.be&t=12s)" ]

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[ "How to develop hobbies as a guy I have no hobbies other than watching TV and browsing the Internet.\n\nWhat kind of hobbies I can pick up to be more interesting?", "How to develop hobbies as a guy I have no hobbies other than watching TV and browsing the Internet.\n\nWhat kind of hobbies I can pick up to be more interesting?", "How to develop hobbies as a guy I have no hobbies other than watching TV and browsing the Internet.\n\nWhat kind of hobbies I can pick up to be more interesting?", "How to develop hobbies as a guy I have no hobbies other than watching TV and browsing the Internet.\n\nWhat kind of hobbies I can pick up to be more interesting?" ]

[ "Here's a nice list:\n\nhttp://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/01/06/45-manly-hobbies/\n\nAnd there's links to other ones, too!", "What do you like to do?\n\nJoin a coed sports league.\n\nStart hiking, kayaking, biking, etc. Then find some friends to do that with. Check with your outfitter as they mostly all offer classes and events to find similar people.\n\nLearn an instrument.", "Try different things out. Find something you like and do it. There's lots of things that could be hobbies. For me, I build computers, collect foreign and rare currencies, try different cheeses, practice german. You just gotta try things out.", "Sports, rock climbing, hiking, playing an instrument, and so on.\n\nDo what you're interested in. Your gender is irrelevant. I'm not sure what you mean by \"to be more interesting\" because a hobby is something you do for yourself, not for others. " ]

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[ "I want to become more articulate via imitation. Any suggestions? I've been trying to become articulate by imitating well-spoken celebrities and public figures. Can you suggest any people (talk show hosts, news anchors, radio hosts, academics, politicians, actors, youtubers, etc). that you think would be worth imitating? Thanks. ", "I want to become more articulate via imitation. Any suggestions? I've been trying to become articulate by imitating well-spoken celebrities and public figures. Can you suggest any people (talk show hosts, news anchors, radio hosts, academics, politicians, actors, youtubers, etc). that you think would be worth imitating? Thanks. ", "I want to become more articulate via imitation. Any suggestions? I've been trying to become articulate by imitating well-spoken celebrities and public figures. Can you suggest any people (talk show hosts, news anchors, radio hosts, academics, politicians, actors, youtubers, etc). that you think would be worth imitating? Thanks. ", "I want to become more articulate via imitation. Any suggestions? I've been trying to become articulate by imitating well-spoken celebrities and public figures. Can you suggest any people (talk show hosts, news anchors, radio hosts, academics, politicians, actors, youtubers, etc). that you think would be worth imitating? Thanks. " ]

[ "Read something written by Thomas Jefferson. Slowly. His writing was dense and highly structured, and is really hard to get through. But it is also an exercise in organizing your mind. You will find yourself adopting some of the rhetorical structures he used, often because they are just fun to use. Also, his vocabulary was impressive.\n\nOther suggestions here are also great: reading or listening to things written or spoken by recognized thinkers can train your mind. Try reading and hearing the inaugural speeches of our 20th-century Presidents. Nixon's writers were excellent. Kennedy could make you weep. Eisenhower can get you standing up, ready to put your back to the task.", "Articulate speaking is a learned skill that was taught quite extensively in the 1800s and 1900s to University students in a class called Eloqution. Look to well educated people from that time period for your advice and imitation.\n\nChurchill (June 18, 1940 address to Parliament), John F Kennedy (Ich Bin Ein Berliner), Jackie Kennedy (any interview, she speaks without scripts or preparation and is a fantastic representation of well educated eloqution), Ronald Reagan (Tear Down This Wall).\n\nYou'll notice that each speaks plainly (for the time), but with deliberation and purpose. Think before you speak, slow your speech down to match their rhythm and cadence. Don't be afraid to pause slightly between sentences in order to think of your next words.", "Just as a supplement to watching videos: something that's helped me a lot is being well read. It helps increase your vocabulary in an organic way by seeing its usage in context and it might be easier to imitate well formed sentence structure if you learn well visually as well as audibly. The New Yorker's quite good for this, but for your original inquiry I'd suggest TEDx talks. Simon Sinek is one particular lecturer who I'd recommend.", "In addition to all of these other (excellent) pieces of advice, record yourself talking. You'll hate your voice at first bc it's unfamiliar, but practice making your own speeches and listening to them. You'll find it easier to tell what sort of word choice, speaking patterns, and accents suit you best if you try many kinds and play them back for evaluation. Hearing yourself out loud even without listening to the recording can also be helpful." ]

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[ "Quick, convenient, portable way to get blackboard chalk off your hands. I'm a TA and after class, I always have chalk all over my hands. Due to transportation scheduling issues, I don't have time to give my hands a thorough washing afterward, and am stuck with chalky hands. Is there something I can carry in my pocket/backpack to effectively wipe/wash my hands off on-the-go?", "Quick, convenient, portable way to get blackboard chalk off your hands. I'm a TA and after class, I always have chalk all over my hands. Due to transportation scheduling issues, I don't have time to give my hands a thorough washing afterward, and am stuck with chalky hands. Is there something I can carry in my pocket/backpack to effectively wipe/wash my hands off on-the-go?" ]

[ "When I've got bread dust from pizza on my hands I like to take advantage of the wetness on my soda can to help remove the powder. If you don't have a cold can handy then I suggest always carrying a water bottle. Not only will you have water to constantly hydrate yourself but you'll have some to sprinkle on your hands. Win-win (except for the having to carry it around part) ", "Body lotion. Wont cleanse your hands, but will remove the powder and moisturize which you probably need due to the drying effects of chalk. Wash your hands for real as soon as you are able." ]

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[ "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?", "How do you increase self-confidence? As the title says, what are people's little tips on increasing self confidence or presenting yourself as more confident?" ]

[ "There is evidence that “fake it till you make it” is biologically beneficial.\n\nAdopt a positive and confident posture and your body will support this with biochemistry. \n\nDon’t sit hunched over with your arms wrapped up and your knees together, sit back and spread yourself out across 3 seats. Obviously you shouldn’t be an asshole about it but you catch my drift. \n\nStand up straight with you chin held high. \n\nWalk with swagger. \n\nAct the way confident people do and you will find yourself being confident.", "I spend like 6 minutes taking a deep breath, I look at myself in the past and I'm like \"fuck this shit\"\r \nthis in cases where I don't feel confident in some situation\r \n\r \nbut my static confidence is because I observe how the world is, so I feel much more confident\r \n\r \nthinking about how such a person would do if they were in your situation can help your confidence too", "Don't be afraid of failure, don't be afraid of asking questions, ask for help if you don't know, and, give all feedback the benefit of doubt, try it atleast once. \nPace yourself when speaking, don't stare at the floor, challenge yourself to make eye contact, if is too hard, you can glance their left eye, their eyebrow or their forehead, especially when they are talking to you. Is a process to develop this skill.", "Learn a martial art. Calmest people you'll ever meet is someone that's doesn't fear you.\n\nDo open mic standup and embrace the ego death when you die on stage repeatedly.", "Be fit physically, healthy body are important in order for your brain to function well, that means healthy diet, routine workout, sleep on time. Also receiving support from others like friend, family and teacher can also help to boost your confidence. Having a pet, be responsible for your pet also count, listening your favorite music or repeating your favorite quote or word to encourage yourself in your mind also works.", "Sometimes you just underestimate yourself. So first think, do i have low self-confidence or do i have lower self-confidence then people around me. Cause we mostly determine our level of skill by comparing to others. If you just jave low self-confidence, try making a list of all the positive things about yourself. Try to really think about things you're good at, like skills and hobbies etc. Then think about some positive character traits, what do other people like about you. Are you smart, social, creative? Then make it more specific. Are you fast learning, a good listener, problem solver? Name everything you're good at. Everyone has positive things, took me some time to figure out mine. When you're really struggling you can ask friends or family. If you underestimate yourself, try looking at others. I just observe the people around me carefully. When you really pay attention to their body language and what they're saying. You'll see they're just as confident as you are. Most important lesson i learned, appreciate your accomplishments. Don't let people always tell you need to do better. I find it really hard to since i constantly want to improve, but at least try to be proud of what you accomplished. Hope it'll help, good luck.", "Practice your words, posture, knowledge of the subject matter. Present yourself well. Know who you are speaking with. Ask questions. Anything that gains knowledge improves confidence in that subject matter.", "Posture and sight\n\nPeople without confidence instinctively look away from things and people, which robs their brain the ability to take all the millions of micro expressions into consideration to determine internet. Try it out. \n\nStart looking at people more, making appropriate eye contact", "Confidence comes from developing skills and meeting challenges. People can “act” confident, but real confidence is rooted in competence and completing increasingly harder tasks.", "Commit yourself to a hobby, do it for a couple of months. Once you start to see tangible improvement, you’ll start feeling pretty cool" ]

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[ " Make wearing glasses in the rain suck less I've Googled and there seems to be no consensus on whether or not you can use Rain-X on your prescription glasses.\n\nBut is there a way to make it so you don't need to keep cleaning them off after being in the rain?", " Make wearing glasses in the rain suck less I've Googled and there seems to be no consensus on whether or not you can use Rain-X on your prescription glasses.\n\nBut is there a way to make it so you don't need to keep cleaning them off after being in the rain?", " Make wearing glasses in the rain suck less I've Googled and there seems to be no consensus on whether or not you can use Rain-X on your prescription glasses.\n\nBut is there a way to make it so you don't need to keep cleaning them off after being in the rain?" ]

[ "What you're looking for is a super hydrophobic solution, which they don't have anything for glasses specifically that I know of. I recommend checking out [this car spray](http://www.sportsrecreationmall.com/csvc001.html?mr:trackingCode=BA023419-040F-E111-AC9E-001B2163195C&mr:referralID=NA) , which I'd be careful using on a pair of prescription glasses. Works on cars, and cheap sunglasses bought at a gas station.", "Rain X is for glass. Optical lenses are made of polycarbonate these days, not actual glass. I think it's a bad idea. I used Rain X on my car glass once and it's definitely mostly organic solvents, which are pretty unfriendly toward plastics. Polycarbonate is a plastic, so I'd not do that without testing it somehow first. Maybe on an old pair of glasses or something.", "I believe the spell is called [Impervius](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_spells_in_Harry_Potter)." ]

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[ "Winterizing windows? I need some clever and really inexpensive ways to keep the freezing cold from coming in through my old windows. I mean, really inexpensive. Thanks!", "Winterizing windows? I need some clever and really inexpensive ways to keep the freezing cold from coming in through my old windows. I mean, really inexpensive. Thanks!", "Winterizing windows? I need some clever and really inexpensive ways to keep the freezing cold from coming in through my old windows. I mean, really inexpensive. Thanks!", "Winterizing windows? I need some clever and really inexpensive ways to keep the freezing cold from coming in through my old windows. I mean, really inexpensive. Thanks!" ]

[ "There are [kits](http://solutions.3m.com/wps/portal/3M/en_US/NAHomeEnergy/Home/Products/~/3M-Indoor-Window-Insulator-Kit-5-Windows?N=7579606+3294348353+3294529207&rt=rud) you can buy that seal off the windows during the winter. They're very effective and easily applied. Just be careful if you're applying them to painted surfaces because the adhesive can stick and pull the paint off when you remove them.\n\nMy sister used to use these when she lived in a drafty apartment.", "The standard back in the day was called visqueen and was bought at a hardware store in large rolls. Combine with a staple gun and some screen molding (soft wood strips) and you could weather seal a window from the outside. Wrap the plastic around the screen molding and staple the sides, stretching the plastic tight. The staple the top and bottom. Downside is heavy wind will tear it up if it is loose, and you're damaging the outside of the house somewhat with the staples.", "If you want something effective that will save you money, you should use polystyrene foam the pink stuff. Use spray adhesive to attach a plastic bag to the backside of the polystyrene foam (2\" or more)cut to the size of the window. Insert the pink foam board, and have the plastic bag stick out towards you around the edges. Use expanding foam to seal off the window. This will make the window into the insulated value of a wall. The plastic can be grabbed and the insert can be pulled out in the spring. It can be used year after year. ", "Cardboard. Seriously. I did this a while back and it really works. Foil kept the light out so I could sleep during the day, and a window sized square of corrugated thick cardboard kept the cold from coming in." ]

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[ "How to stop down duvet slipping down in its cover I hate this, every damn night. Only thing i could find on google involves using needle and treath, but i dont feel like doing so much work on all those sheets", "How to stop down duvet slipping down in its cover I hate this, every damn night. Only thing i could find on google involves using needle and treath, but i dont feel like doing so much work on all those sheets" ]

[ "You could try safety pinning the corners inside the cover. If you pin it into the seams the pins shouldn't show through. Alternatively you could get a set of those elastic sheet clips and clip the top edge to the seam instead. That might have too much slack though. Good luck!", "Flipping the duvet end for end will stop it from slipping to the bottom of the duvet cover and keep the down filling evenly distributed." ]

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[ "how to be less fearful of flying. As the text says. I wouldn't say I am completely aerophobic, but I do have a higher fear of flying compared to the average person. I start getting anxious when turbulence starts happening and when the plane starts feeling like it's gonna \"fall\" or just plummit I start freaking out internally (heart races). \n\nThey always say understand your fear. So, what are the chances of turbulence causing a crash? Can the wings just suddenly break off? What is that feeling/ sound when the engine starts getting intensely louder mid-flight? I feel that if I get a better understanding of this, maybe I won't be as scared.\n\nThanks", "how to be less fearful of flying. As the text says. I wouldn't say I am completely aerophobic, but I do have a higher fear of flying compared to the average person. I start getting anxious when turbulence starts happening and when the plane starts feeling like it's gonna \"fall\" or just plummit I start freaking out internally (heart races). \n\nThey always say understand your fear. So, what are the chances of turbulence causing a crash? Can the wings just suddenly break off? What is that feeling/ sound when the engine starts getting intensely louder mid-flight? I feel that if I get a better understanding of this, maybe I won't be as scared.\n\nThanks", "how to be less fearful of flying. As the text says. I wouldn't say I am completely aerophobic, but I do have a higher fear of flying compared to the average person. I start getting anxious when turbulence starts happening and when the plane starts feeling like it's gonna \"fall\" or just plummit I start freaking out internally (heart races). \n\nThey always say understand your fear. So, what are the chances of turbulence causing a crash? Can the wings just suddenly break off? What is that feeling/ sound when the engine starts getting intensely louder mid-flight? I feel that if I get a better understanding of this, maybe I won't be as scared.\n\nThanks" ]

[ "I fly a lot, I'll note the following things:\n\n* Regarding turbulence, if the flight attendants don't seem nervous, then you shouldn't be either. It happens, and I promise you that no turbulence you feel will be strong enough to shear the wings off. The worst case is that you'll drop fast enough such that if you aren't wearing your seatbelt you'll hit the ceiling with your head. That's why you always wear it.\n* There are two times outside of turbulence when you notice the plane moving, and that is during take-off and landing. One thing that makes this easier is to close your window. If you don't know when the wheels touch (or leave), then you won't worry about it. \n* Remember when you normalize for hours traveled, plane travel is at least 10 times safer than the car ride you took to get to the airport. Aircraft safety is taken extremely seriously.\n* One other note, if there are changes in the engine noise during a flight, it's almost always the pilot either changing altitude to fly over weather, or listening to the direction of air-traffic control regarding other planes. Only once out of hundreds of flights have I had to land for a mechanical reason, and that was taken care of quickly.\n\nI hope this helps.", "I'm same as you mate and I fly to Malaya from the u.k. in 9 hrs . I did a little bit of research a couple of years ago and one of the best was Boeing stress testing the wings on a 737, I kid you not, the angles those wings can take almost turned into a u shape, incredibly strong, I recommend you look at that. Also the noise disturbed me but that was easily countered by having some music playing on my headphones.", "Go and eat a nice meal before going to the airport then have a few drinks before your flight boards youll be out before take off." ]

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[ "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. ", "Moving Tips? Moving to a new apartment in a new area in the near future, and wanted to know if you guys know of any tips to have for moving. " ]

[ "Make a \"first night, next morning\" bag that goes in the passenger seat of your car - clothes, soap, mini bottle of shampoo, deodorant, money for dinner AND breakfast, ***TOILET PAPER***\n\nIf you have less than a month, start washing your dishes (even if they don't need it) and put winter clothes between each as you pack them.\n\nHang your clothes on your shower curtain rod and \"pack\" them in garbage bags while still on the hangers.\n\nUse the move as an excuse to get rid of stuff. Donate what's still good, dispose of the rest.\n\nWash your clothes and pack them straight from the dryer. Winter blankets and such should be done at the laundromat and be packed up before coming back in the house. Use pillow cases and ***clear*** garbage bags.\n\nUnder no circumstances should you use anything but ***clear*** bags for stuff you want to keep. It's better to have to triple bag than to go dumpster diving to rescue something.\n\nUnless you are paying professionals, as much packing as possible should be done ***before*** moving day. I have moved several times and helped quite a few people move. The only thing more irritating than hearing \"*We have to be packed up and out by the end of the week*\" is hearing \"*I have to be out by the end of the day and I haven't even started packing*\"\n\n", "Don’t remove clothes from dressers, take the whole drawer out and wrap it in shrink wrap. Makes dresser lighter and doesn’t waste time of taking clothes out and then back in. ", "1. You're going to break something.\n2. You might think you don't need to cover anything, at least cover your tv and major breakables.\n3. As smart as you are, you will under estimate the amount of time it will take. Start early, ask for help, buy them pizza and beer.", "wrap a huge trash bag around your already hanging clothes and just transport them like that. saves you the trouble of folding, packing, and re-hanging them all ", "If you know some of your stuff will be going into storage for whatever reason, forget the cardboard boxes. Get some clear plastic containers instead. You can tell at a glance what's inside if you are hunting for something and, unlike cardboard, they don't become homes for silverfish and roaches.", "Use a pickup truck. You have no idea how useful they are when you're moving. If you are using a moving truck then nevermind. ", "Get your bed set up and sheets on first. At some point you might just say screw it, I'm tired and going to bed.\n\nIf your bed is not set up, you are not going to bed comfortably. ", "Don't put your books in boxes. That's heavy AF and almost unmanageable. Put them in stacks of the size you want and cling wrap them, then tie a string around to carry them. \n\nIt takes more time, but it makes carrying them a lot less a pain in the ass, makes it easier to fit them in any space in the moving vehicle, and protects them against water, dirt and paint.", "Document the new place before bringing anything in!\n\nWhen packing up the old place, if you don’t need it, get rid of it! Clearly mark all boxes with the room they belong in and what’s in them. \n", "Call your local U-Haul and ask if they have a couple guys wanting to make cash. My brothers came to help my niece move, but it was more difficult than they expected. It's more difficult to find help once the day has began, try to find help at least the day before. We paid them $10/hour, guaranteed 5 hours/each. It usually doesn't take 5 hours to get things moved out and in, so for $100, you won't be don't much heavy lifting (or in this case, stairs!). Also, provide cold water for everyone, even if you're just buying some from a gas station.", "In brief: 1. Getting rid of unnecessary things. It will help you to organize packing better and not to pack some old crap. \n2. Sign the boxes while packing. \n3. Put the most necessary things into the separate box that you will not load in the moving truck. If you delivery is late, at least you will have some clothing and so on. \n4. Find a good moving company. I mean reliable company with clear contact details and good management. If someone can recommend you such a company, that's perfect. If not, make a research, read reviews. \n5. Read your contract carefully: is the exact price mentioned? is everything clear? do you see who is responsible in case your items are stolen, lost, damaged etc? \nHope it helps! If you want more info, look at this article: [https://help-center.pissedconsumer.com/top-moving-and-storage-tips/](https://help-center.pissedconsumer.com/top-moving-and-storage-tips/) \nI like the video about packing." ]

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[ "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason...", "How do you stop self from laughing in inappropiate situations? Sometimes it's not the right situation to laugh for no fkn reason..." ]

[ "Laughed in the middle of a funeral once, but it was because my son turned to his grandmother and said \"You're next\".", "My advice, don't stop laughing. Some of the best laughs are in those situations. I've had it happen many times. It's a little embarrassing at the time but when you look back at it you don't regret it. In fact, I have some great memories of laughing in inappropriate situations.", "Think of Mike Huckabee standing on stage, with his shirt off, brow furrowed with sweat and concentration, gently plucking the strings of a bass guitar. \n\nWorks for me every time", "* 1. Look away \n* 2. Swallow hard \n* 3. Concentrate on doing the alphabet backwards in your head\n* 4. Repeat steps 2 & 3", "Press your lips together, think about someone you care about dying while briefly looking away, then bite your cheeks. ", "Close your throat off, like almost hiccuping. You stop laughing, and have to consciously start laughing again. Works every time. ", "Think about how your mother/loved dies or something mega sad,try activate the auto pilot brain by thinking something deep and look to the ground like a sad puppy that did something wrong. First one always helps and I get in those situations pretty frequently." ]

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[ "Way to organize notes by topic or keyword I am in physical therapy school. PT school is postgraduate doctorate program. Between all of my classes at PT school and some of my classes in undergraduate college, I have quite a bit of typed notes. Sometimes classes brush on some topics and other classes dive deeper. So occasionally this leads to snippets of material spread across years of study. \n\nCurrently, I have notes organized by subject of the class taught. I was thinking it may be nice to have something organized by topic to consolidate instruction taught over time. Perhaps like my own wikipedia? For instance, I could have a topic of \"Ankle sprains\" and I could insert notes, photos, or powerpoint slides onto a single page from various classes. \n\nAnother idea I thought of was tagging, so if I could import all my notes (which are mainly powerpoint slides) and tag an area with \"ankle sprains\" and that way whenever i would search a given tag it would take me to all my notes I have about that given topic. \n\nDoes anyone have any ideas on programs or tools to do something like these listed above? Thanks!", "Way to organize notes by topic or keyword I am in physical therapy school. PT school is postgraduate doctorate program. Between all of my classes at PT school and some of my classes in undergraduate college, I have quite a bit of typed notes. Sometimes classes brush on some topics and other classes dive deeper. So occasionally this leads to snippets of material spread across years of study. \n\nCurrently, I have notes organized by subject of the class taught. I was thinking it may be nice to have something organized by topic to consolidate instruction taught over time. Perhaps like my own wikipedia? For instance, I could have a topic of \"Ankle sprains\" and I could insert notes, photos, or powerpoint slides onto a single page from various classes. \n\nAnother idea I thought of was tagging, so if I could import all my notes (which are mainly powerpoint slides) and tag an area with \"ankle sprains\" and that way whenever i would search a given tag it would take me to all my notes I have about that given topic. \n\nDoes anyone have any ideas on programs or tools to do something like these listed above? Thanks!", "Way to organize notes by topic or keyword I am in physical therapy school. PT school is postgraduate doctorate program. Between all of my classes at PT school and some of my classes in undergraduate college, I have quite a bit of typed notes. Sometimes classes brush on some topics and other classes dive deeper. So occasionally this leads to snippets of material spread across years of study. \n\nCurrently, I have notes organized by subject of the class taught. I was thinking it may be nice to have something organized by topic to consolidate instruction taught over time. Perhaps like my own wikipedia? For instance, I could have a topic of \"Ankle sprains\" and I could insert notes, photos, or powerpoint slides onto a single page from various classes. \n\nAnother idea I thought of was tagging, so if I could import all my notes (which are mainly powerpoint slides) and tag an area with \"ankle sprains\" and that way whenever i would search a given tag it would take me to all my notes I have about that given topic. \n\nDoes anyone have any ideas on programs or tools to do something like these listed above? Thanks!" ]

[ "I use Evernote for practically everything related to school and work. You can add as many tags as you want to each \"note.\" You can also import different file types, including .pdf and .ppt. I'd give it a try!", "OneNote by Microsoft Office also works great :) You can make notebooks on it and it's just overall great for searching your notes through keywords etc. My boyfriend utilizes that application to help him with his studies as he has open book quizzes where he can just keyword search definitions!", "I think Evernote is what you're looking for: https://blog.evernote.com/blog/2012/12/18/8-power-ways-evernote-can-help-you-get-more-from-your-research-in-2013-and-a-new-ambassador/" ]

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[ "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup.", "Reducing the bags over my eyes that have built up over time (for a male) Sleep has always been hard to come by for me and, as a direct result, I have bags under my eyes that are extremely visible. As I try and enter the professional world I am attempting to refine my image. Does anyone have tips that can reduce heavy bags under your eye, ideally ones that require little to no makeup." ]

[ "I've heard hemorrhoid cream, amongst other things, can help.\n\nhttp://www.womenshealthmag.com/style/diy-beauty-trick-does-hemorrhoid-cream-cure-under-eye-circles", "http://www.wikihow.com/Cure-Puffy-Eyes\n\nHonestly, there's a huge list of things you might not have considered. Hydration, allergies, alcohol, salt, exercise.", "Back of a cold spoon, ice under your eyes, hydrate with a moisturizing cream, drink more water (you could also be dehydrated), try Clinique or other natural/organic eye creams. If you go to Sephora, they give you samples of whatever product you like for free before buying it. I would get their advice on a few products. Also you could try talc powder or a small amount of HD powder under your eyes but I would look for tips on YouTube before going out because done incorrectly you'll look silly with white stuff under your eyes. In terms of sleeping I would recommend white noise, rain noise, m", "> Sleep has always been hard to come by for me \n\nMaybe you should see a doctor and start there. Often there isn't a magic life hack that can allow you to ignore the underlying issue. But I guess you could try hemorrhoid cream, botox, or certain lotions infused with caffeine.\n\n But considering the importantance of sleep, I'd start there. ", "Wear glasses with frames big enough to conceal the dark circles. Bonus- people automatically assume you are smarter and more responsible. I don't remember the statistic, but there was a study about it.", "I sleep well and still have dark circles under my eyes. It's just part of having fair complexion in my case. I try to combat with eye serums. \n\nOtherwise brew some caffeinated tea and then use the cool tea bags to put on your eyes for 15-30 mins. Do it once a day, twice a week, once a week... Whatever you find works.\n\n[SOURCE](http://www.collegefashion.net/beauty-and-hair/diy-beauty-how-to-use-tea-bags-to-relieve-tired-eyes/)", "I know: DR SEBAGH. Seriously. I also have had really bad dark bags around my eyes, since forever, just getting worse. My wife picked up this serum for puffy eyes, in the airport. And I sometimes use a bit. It totally gets rid of the bags. However, I tend not to use it because it doesn't remove the dark rings, and without the bags it looks weird. HOWEVER; apparently they also have a serum for the darkness as well.", "Drink more water. clears it up heaps. \nGet a drink bottle and sit it on your desk and youll find yourself reaching for it lots, fill it up a few times a day and your set. ", "Drink more water!!! I have always had bags under my eyes (genetic). They look much better when I drink water. ", "Bags can be genetic. If you've always had them, then try the hemmorhoid cream or putting cold teabags over your eyes. The Body Shop has a cheap eye gel called \"Elderflower Eye Gel\" that is scent free and treats bags pretty well. Keep it in the fridge and the cold will help further shrink the bags.\n\nYou can also try a self lymphatic facial massage. There are a number of demonstration videos on youtube and they mainly focus on using a light touch around the eyes to help flush lymph fluid from the face. A self face massage is a nice way to wind down and relax before bed (and can help with a bedtime ritual to help signal your body it is time to sleep). If it truly triggers lymphatic drainage that is a benefit.\n\nIf you do go the make up route, draw concealer under your eye in a triangle like you are attempting a flesh coloured version of Alice Cooper's make up and then pat it with your ring finger until it blends into your skin. The triangle will brighten up your whole under eye area and not draw attention to the fact you may be wearing make up. Your ring finger is your weakest finger and you're less likely to damage the thin skin under your eyes this way.", "Try putting vaseline(petrolium jelly) under your eyes every evening or every night before bed.\n\nI also recommend lime juice under your eyes. But be careful, It burns!! Dont apply it anywhere else on your skin!! Works really well for me!! \n\n\nGot it from r/skincareaddiction. \nThey give good skincare advice!! ", "Its potentially so many things that you should go to a doctor first. Any recommendation you take here may be detrimental to your health if ailments are not properly diagnosed first. " ]

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[ "How to avoid back pain? Since last few days, I feel back pain after sitting 10-15 mins. How can I prevent it from getting worse? \n\nWhat are some tips / activities /routine that I should incorporate into my lifestyle to avoid back pains?\n\nThanks", "How to avoid back pain? Since last few days, I feel back pain after sitting 10-15 mins. How can I prevent it from getting worse? \n\nWhat are some tips / activities /routine that I should incorporate into my lifestyle to avoid back pains?\n\nThanks", "How to avoid back pain? Since last few days, I feel back pain after sitting 10-15 mins. How can I prevent it from getting worse? \n\nWhat are some tips / activities /routine that I should incorporate into my lifestyle to avoid back pains?\n\nThanks", "How to avoid back pain? Since last few days, I feel back pain after sitting 10-15 mins. How can I prevent it from getting worse? \n\nWhat are some tips / activities /routine that I should incorporate into my lifestyle to avoid back pains?\n\nThanks" ]

[ "If this is a work issue, you should probably get the OHSW officer to do a workplace assessment to make sure that your workstation is set up properly.\n\nIf you're working from home, try this: https://safety.unsw.edu.au/office-safety-toolkit/workstation-setup\n\nStretch: http://www.borndaily.com/blog/archives/02-2015", "Stretching exercise for your back, but you have to be constant. Also, the best for my experience was swimming, 1 or 2 times a week, it helps a lot.", "Monitor your posture. Makes sure you walk tall and shoulders back.. If you work in an office or sit alot (driving) sort your chair and desk arrangements correctly and sit up properly.. Thats the ad ice i got from a physio after my back gave out and having it massaged back over multiple visits. ", "If your insurance covers it, you could see a physical therapist. They identified what muscle group gives me issues and showed me exercises to focus on those muscles." ]

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[ "Birthday is tomorrow — how to make the most of it? Btw no friends, no job, poor, kinda depressed, etc.", "Birthday is tomorrow — how to make the most of it? Btw no friends, no job, poor, kinda depressed, etc.", "Birthday is tomorrow — how to make the most of it? Btw no friends, no job, poor, kinda depressed, etc." ]

[ "Dennys offers a free meal with ID on your birthday, they always include a scoop of ice cream. The park is good for bird watching. ", "go do something outdoorsey (and free) like a hike, or Disc golf in the morning. That way, no matter how the rest of your day unfolds, you'll feel like you did something cool", "You listed things you are unhappy with about your life. You couldn't give yourself a better gift than knowing you did something to make your life better. Call someone you haven't talked to in a while. Update your resume even though it feels intimidating. You will go to bed tomorrow night feeling proud and one more step out of the hole. Happy Birthday :)" ]

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[ "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? ", "As a person who isn't eating too much and is living alone, how can I optimize my food purchases/consumption so that I eat healthy, have a diverse diet but at the same time food doesn't rot in the fridge and I don't spend a fortune just buying small amounts of everything daily? " ]

[ "Cook and freeze large quantities of food over the weekend. Ex: If you cook a big pot of black beans, you can use them in tacos, chicken bakes, baked southwestern egg rolls, etc. This provides a diverse diet that's cost effective and easy. This method also lends itself to lots of leftovers which helps with lunches. \nThe key to not throwing out food is good menu planning. There are TONS of websites out there dedicated to this. Plan it out over the weekend, do your shopping for the week and bask in your dinner glory throughout the week!", "Buy fresh fruits and vegetables at costco or similar stores. Blanch them and freeze them. Cheeper than frozen...", "I keep my costs down by the following tactics:\n\nSet a budget of $30-$50 a week for food depending on your area and how frugal you want to be.\n\nStrictly limit processed/premade foods. I can't stress this enough. You can make healthier, tastier multiples of the same food for much cheaper. Research recipes. You'll indirectly save on healthcare costs too if you eat food that is richer in nutrients.\n\nBuy in-season. Buy organic on special. This will be cheap and add variety.\n\nStrictly limit eating out/ buying convenience food. Buy a reusable water bottle and really good containers. When tempted, think: how much of x could I make for the price this is selling for? \n\nNuts are great to snack on when not at home. Full of protein, and good fats for energy. Buy at bulk food stores.\n\nShop every week, and make whatever's fresh and on special to be the focus of your menu. Meats, veg, fruit.\n\nWatch for long shelf staples like rice, flour, butter, canned tomatoes to go on special and even go a little over budget to stock up.\n\nBuy spices at bulk food stores to add flavour value, they are often cheaper than grocery stores. Sometimes it's because you don't have to buy the grocery store quantity that is more than you need.\n\nExplore rice, bean, lentil, one pot dishes and freeze the extra or take for lunches. Pressure cookers/slow cookers are your best friends, buy on Kijiji/ garage sales.\n\nCheap eating can be fun, good luck!\n", "Buy good ingredients and cook dinner for six. When possible, have someone over to enjoy with you (it makes it seem more worth the effort and it's great excuse to socialize). The leftover are divided neatly and two go in the freezer, two go in the fridge for later in the week. Do that two to three times in a week and you have dinner and extra dinners and lunches for times you don't have time or interest in cooking. Fresh produce going bad is a tough one, the solution is to eat lots of fresh fruit and vegs (most of us under-use them) and if you feel bad things are about to happen, cook or freeze the over-abundance. BTW, don't forget to cook and eat as if you are company. Good cooking, nice presentation, sitting down and relaxing.", "The only real way to do this is to learn to cook. If you plan on subsisting on pre-packaged foods, you're going to have a hard time eating without buying a lot.\n\nI, personally, have a pantry stocked with foods that I use frequently, such as noodles, rice, quinoa, some canned vegetables (tomatoes and corn, mostly) and canned beans (black, kidney and pinto).\n\nI stock fresh vegetables I use frequently (potatoes, onions and garlic)\n\nand I stock breads, tortillas, flour and the ingredients needed to bake bread.\n\nOnce I have a decently stocked kitchen, I tend to buy fresh vegetables based on what I want to cook. For instance, I bought fresh bell peppers, carrots, mushrooms and celery for some pork stew. The total for the fresh vegetables is < $10 and I make enough stew for almost an entire week of lunches.\n\nOnce you have a grasp on how you want to cook, you'll need to take the time to plan out some dinners.", "I really like the idea of freezing 'extra food.' I like to buy things in bulk seasonally. I'll buy a case or two of tomatoes while in season and make large batches of tomato sauce that I will freeze into meal-sized portions. I can make pasta very cheap from scratch in about 20 min. so this is a great meal that is very cheap.\n\nPickling, drying or making jams with fruits and veggies before they go bad work well for me as well.\n\nRice and beans are very cheap. Their shelf-life is almost indefinite. You can make Indian, Caribbean, African, and even Asian meals with this very simple formula. Some spices and veggies distinguish these different styles of cooking in a simple and cheap way. \n\nA lot of Indian food and Asian food has little or no meat, which is much cheaper and meat will tend to go bad faster than fruits or veggies. It becomes a non-issue here.", "I buy fresh vegeatbles, about a weeks worth, immediately chop them and put them in sealed glass containers. There are also vegetable bags you can buy that extend the life. If you don't mind buying frozen - I've read that the quick freezing process leaves more nutrients in the food than buying off of the shelf - I still buy fresh and use my above technique.\n\nWith meat - I buy large volume to save on cash (we have Western Beef - great prices on volume meat, try a butcher if you don't have Western) - I do similar, except I put in freezer in smaller containers. About two to three days worth per container so I don't have to put the whole thing out.\n\nMeat ends up being two weeks worth, veges one week. Freeze meat, fridge veges.\n\nSingle guy who lives alone.", "TL/DR: Soup. Past that, to eat cheap and healthy, replace \"fillers\" in your foods (ie; bread, pasta, etc) with beans and lentils, and eat oatmeal for breakfast.\n\n\n\nMake giant pots of soup. They last for a week or two, and if you do a vegetarian soup (just beans, lentils, veggies, etc) it is really cheap. Depending on how many and what types of veggies you put in it, you have a really, really healthy dinner for a full week (if not more) on less than 10 dollars. Just make it Sunday and enjoy. \n\n\nBulk oatmeal is a good breakfast option. Add milk and salt to taste and it's a good, hearty breakfast for less than a dollar. Potentially (if you bring your own food to work for lunch) you can get a healthy 2000 calories a day for less than 20 dollars a week. Granted, it is difficult. \n\n\nLess than 50.00 a week is easier, which only comes out to around 2500.00 a year for food. Healthy food (which is saying something). For flavoring, you can get a really strong, nice hard cheese like Parmesan or something, grate it yourself, and it will add tons of depth and flavor to your soups. If you're not a vegetarian, just replace the cheese with ground beef and you're good.\n\n\nI'll link some stats to show you that I'm not talking out of my ass:\nFrom the [Bureau of labor statistics](http://www.bls.gov/ro3/apmw.htm)\n\n$1.45/lb *dried* beans\n\n$0.74/lb carrots\n\nCelery doesn't have any statistics on it but lets assume $1.00/lb\n\nLet's assume the same for onions $1.00/lb\n\n$.67/lb for potatoes\n\nNow, keep in mind this is pretty expensive as far as these things go, you could probably find all of this stuff for half the price I'm showing if not less.\n\nLet's build a soup:\n\n2lb beans : $2.90\n\n1lb carrots : $0.74\n\n1lb celery : $1.00\n\n1lb onions : $1.00\n\n2lb potatoes : $1.34\n\nTotal: $6.98 for 7 pounds of food (dry)\n\nSomething to note: this is dry, if actually in soup form this will weigh half again if not double. We're talking 1.5-2 pounds of healthy, hearty food for [well] under a dollar.\n\nCan't beat that.\n\nLate ", "Learn how to make soups, stews and chilis. They are inexpensive, nutritious and the leftovers last a long time.", "I don't like freezing dinners (or saving leftovers). It's messy and I don't have a microwave to reheat the frozen meals.\n\nThere are certain items that will stay edible for a decent amount of time: onions (red and yellow are staples for me), feta cheese, yogurt, bags of carrots, broccoli (if bought when cut side of stem is still white), and frozen blueberries. I base my menu around these items when I need to tighten the belt. I can't buy lettuce for day-to-day eating because it always ends up getting thrown out. Celery doesn't last long so I buy those individually if I can.\n\nPita bread freezes and unfreezes well, if you are trying to reduce your bread intake. I use it to make all sorts of things, including mini pizza.\n\nI buy pork loin roasts when they are on sale and then cut them up into chops and stick in the freezer. That saves a bit of money. I could do the same with whole chicken, but I hate cutting chicken.\n\nGet into soup making. It's way easier to cook healthy that way and with less waste. Start with simple soups, to get into the techniques that are used. Pretty soon you can make them without thinking. \n", "As someone who eats a lot of protein. Whey protein is fairly cheap, has a long shelf life, helps you stay full, and you can use it in recipes. You can make cheesecake, brownies, cake, pancakes, etc. ", "[Mealime!](http://www.mealime.com) I used to only cook rarely because I was bad at buying the right things at the grocery store and would always either have food that was expired or no food at all. Mealime puts together a set of four or six two serving meals (so you have a lunch as well) as well as the shopping list. Recipes are easy and the food is diverse. Not perfect because I have some food allergies and there is no customization to the program (yet?), but if you have a bit of creativeness you can work around it.", "Buying fruits and veggies in small quantities has never seemed to cost me any more money. At least where I live produce is priced at a set price per lb or priced individually (like one cucumber for $.39). \nFor bread: store it in the fridge. I've made a whole loaf of organic whole wheat bread last over a month by storing it in the fridge. \nFor everything else: get to know your neighbors and see if they'll go half in on them with you. I live in a complex full of one bedroom apartments, and since I'm friends with my neighbors we split the perishable items neither of us can use a whole thing of. ", "Buy cheap, yet delicious and fresh, produce at farm stands, and look for stuff priced per lb or individually so you can buy smaller quantities.", "Amazon local has a deal on emeals.com for 1/2 price .Based on the size of your family (1 counts) and how you like to eat ( paleo, gluten, low fat etc) they will email you weekly recipes for the week and the grocery list. Might be worth looking into. www.eMeals.com" ]

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[ "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. ", "how to deal with death? So my girlfriend's (20) mom (55) is dying of cancer and has just days left. Everyone in the family is deeply depressed as she's on her death bed. How do I, an outsider of the family, help them cope? I don't know what to do or say in any situation when someone breaks down as we grieve in her last days. Any insight on how to deal with this situation will be greatly appreciated. Thank you. " ]

[ "let them grieve, you don't have to really say anything other than be a shoulder to cry on, and you also serve as consistency in their lives, now that something is gone, you're there to help their brains form a coping mechanism of consistency and that you're at least still there. do what they say, help them out with lots of things like housecleaning, dishes, laundry, mundane things. don't do anything over the top because that'll just make it feel like a pity party for them. just be there, and that's enough until they've reached acceptance and are ready to keep moving forward.", "Death is scary, final, and overwhelming. Be there, don't try to fix things, listen ask questions, offer a friendly ear or hug. Do what you can to take care of people - make dinner for them or clean their house.", "Don't try to relate with a personal story unless asked.\n\n\nYour grieving about the situation should be to your family and friends, not her family and family friends. Grieving is very personal and you may not be close enough to the family for them to be comfortable with that. (Again, unless they ask.)\n\n\nListen to her and make sure that you are either being there when she needs you, or giving her space to be with her family if that's what she wants.\n\n\nRemember that grief is very emotional. You need to be prepared for a rollercoaster of things. You can't take it personally if she acts out, but don't let her walk all over you either.\n\n\nEncourage her to talk to a professional if she isn't handling it well after some time. Grief counselors are an amazing resource. \n\n\nBasically, you just need to be willing to listen and help her have an outlet to grieve to that she can trust. You don't need to tell her everything is going to be okay, because it's not going to be. At least not in the short term. Her life is going to be different now. You just need to be there to help her readjust to her new life.\n\n\nTake care of yourself, OP.", "Be present, give hugs, hold hands, and give up trying to find the right words to say. Because what words can take away the pain of losing a mother?Most of our life we struggle to problem solve our way out of grief and \"bad\" feelings. But the feelings happen anyway. \n\nSadly, nothing you can say can \"make it better\" or \"fix it.\" Let yourself come in contact with the pain and allow it simply to be there, you can learn to sit with your girlfriend as she sits with her's.\n\nI wish there was an easier way that was more effective in the long term, but science, wisdom traditions and my experience with patients with end of life issues informs me otherwise.\n\nPeace to you and your family at this time.\n\n", "All you can do is support her. Also be aware that she will still be greaving months from now even if she isn't outwardly showing it. The holidays this fall will especially be difficult. If you really want to support her, be patient.", "My boyfriend found his mother dead at 57 from a heart attack. She was lying in his own bed, oct 2nd of last year. We have been together almost 10 years now... And. I still am having a hard time trying to help.\n\nI think really the best thing we can do is just try and be there emotionally for them as much as possible. Its hard because you dont want to impose- but you care so much feel like doing nothing is letting them down. I personally have never lost anyone close to me so i have a hard time processing what it even remotely feels like\n\nI wish i could give you a specific answer... Im still searching for that answer myself. I know in my case i just wish someone had told me in advance that just being there for him emotionally amd trying to give him and his family comfort and some resemblance of stability is all i can do. Just be patient. Be patient. *Be patient* this is a long road with constand unforseen obstacles. . Expect it to get worse before it gets better. Anticipate the depression and being withdrawn from your relationship... All of their emotional stength is put into trying to overcome the grief. Anticipate listening to the stories over and over....and over. Anticipate the daily triggers from things thst you would have never even expected. talking about it seems to be a way to process whats happening, and the more they Re abke to talk- when they are ready- the easier it will be. \n\nAnticipate the emotional drain this will have on you... Its so hard watching someone you love suffer knowing you cant stop their pain...you feel so helpless and useless...\n Anticipate the sleepless nights of waking up repeatedly to calm them from the nightmares and assure them its going to be ok...then doimg it again am hour later. Anticipate the constant state of exhaustion this will out you in while you habe to do it with as positive an attitude as possible.anticipate the moods swings, and the anger. ..especially the anger... They wont even know who they are mad at... But becayse they are comfortable with you it inevitably will be taken out on you, and know that its ok because in the end you are doing the best you can. I dont mean all this to slund negative at all.. It is all done out of love, i just wish i had been a lot more prepared. But i guess so would he.\n\nMost importantly dont forgrt about yourself. The emotional drain on you will be phenomenal. Make sure you habe a support system outside of your S.O and their family that you can vent to and cry to. They need you to be strong and you dont want to seem like they are making problems for you.... But in order to be strong for them, you have to remember to take care of yourself too.\n\nAnd i guess everyone is different... But this is all what im still going through with him... Some days its a lot better.... Then the next we take 20 steps back. And its hard. Its so hard everyday... But i just have to remind myself that as hard as it is for me *its a million times worse for him*. But i love him, and i will continue to try and help him through this.. \n\nIm sorry i cant offer more guidance. .. I personally am st a loss myself as to how to help even now 7 months later... Its a daily learning experience.\n\nI am so sorry yall are going through this\n\nI will pray for yall and yalls family. Just stay strong for them, and yourself. ", "I was in your exact situation earlier this year, but it was my best friend's mom, not a girlfriend's. Though honestly she's my best friend in the world so we're probably as 'close' as you and your girlfriend are. \nEvery case of grief is different, and I can't give you absolute advice, but I can give you my two cents:\nFirst, I think the moment you're going through right now is the hardest. She's probably been dying of cancer for a while now, and this is the last 'downward spiral'. In my friend's mom's case, she went into a coma in the last few days and not knowing whether she would wake up again before passing REALLY hit my friend hard. She did wake a few times, and they said their goodbyes, but it was really, really the most difficult time. As for what to do, I mostly just made sure I was entirely available to support my friend when she needed me. I sent a text every 12 hours maybe (morning/night), saying like 'Hey, I love you, I'm here to talk if you need right now.\" Something simple like that, but mostly she was spending the time with her family. She did call a couple times and we just talked, and a lot of it was honestly me being silent while she cried, and her saying some stuff, and nothing really 'substantial'. Just a moment apart, to breathe, is what she seemed to need. So that's what I provided.\nAnother point I want to add is that, depending on your girlfriend obviously, but she may not want the cancer/mom talk to be the only concern you have for her. I know my friend quite enjoyed it when we hung out because I think I'm more narcissistic than a lot of people (I have this horrible tendency to talk about myself a lot). The constant 'Are you okay?????' that she was getting from everyone else was getting annoying, and she enjoyed that we were able to hang out and keep her mind off of what was going on for a few hours, just because we ended up talking about random stuff going on in my life.\nAlso, when (unfortunately) her mother passes, the most important thing you can be is present. Just be there. In person. Hugs, helping make small meals, quiet small talk, listening to her remember her mom, all that stuff is the most helpful to your girlfriend I think. Once again, gauge what she wants. She may want to spend WAY more time together, or way less. \nLastly, don't forget yourself. My best friend and I are also best friends with 2 other girls (there are four of us), and we thought we would be 'ready' for our friend's mom's death. She had been first diagnosed 5 years earlier, and treatment had been stopped for almost a year. We all knew she was going to die, so we thought that 'knowing' would help deal with grief, and that we would be 'ready'. No one was. It's incomparable to anything else, and seriously affects not just the direct family, but close friends too (and that includes you). I cried much more than expected and couldn't concentrate on schoolwork for a few weeks, which surprised me. Make sure that your girlfriend has a good support group (family and close friends), but make sure that YOU have one too. For me, this meant talking to the two other girls a lot, and honestly just crying about it with them. It felt kind of selfish, to be 'sad' when I know my friend is going through literally the worst thing ever, but dealing with death takes an emotional toll on everyone involved, no matter how minor their involvement. Also, making sure you're okay will make you more available to your girlfriend, and that's always good. \nSorry if a lot of the stuff I've said has been said already, I haven't read the entire thread." ]

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[ "How to get someone to take over your lease/sublet at an apartment I really need to move out and it's impossible to find someone to take it. I don't know how to get the word out properly or anything. Please help?", "How to get someone to take over your lease/sublet at an apartment I really need to move out and it's impossible to find someone to take it. I don't know how to get the word out properly or anything. Please help?", "How to get someone to take over your lease/sublet at an apartment I really need to move out and it's impossible to find someone to take it. I don't know how to get the word out properly or anything. Please help?", "How to get someone to take over your lease/sublet at an apartment I really need to move out and it's impossible to find someone to take it. I don't know how to get the word out properly or anything. Please help?" ]

[ "Check your copy of the lease. Most standard leases have a buyout clause, which would allow you to pay a couple months and not be held to the rest of the lease length.", "I've never done it myself, but I imagine the first step would be talking it over with your landlord to make sure it's okay. Then post to free sites like craigslist. If that doesn't work I'd try offering incentives (like discounted rent or a free month) since it'd be better to get some money than none at all. Oh, and post it to your facebook (ask your friends to pass the word around) and check with local universities to see if they have some sort of message board. Hope that helps some!", "I got my subleaser off of craigslist. She even paid the transfer fees and first month's rent. Best deal of my life. ", "Go to your town's subreddit and do it like that. I almost took over someone's sublease but another redditor beat me to it." ]

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[ "Is there a way to stop itunes loading every time I plug in my iPod? Its pretty annoying when I just want to charge the thing", "Is there a way to stop itunes loading every time I plug in my iPod? Its pretty annoying when I just want to charge the thing", "Is there a way to stop itunes loading every time I plug in my iPod? Its pretty annoying when I just want to charge the thing" ]

[ "iTunes -> Preferences -> Devices -> Check \"Prevent iPods, iPhones, and iPads from syncing automatically -> OK", "On the screen where it displays your Device info, there should be some options in the lower right. I believe what you're looking for is there.", "Here's how:\n\n(1) Press Option + Command & hold them.\n\n(2) Plug in iPod.\n\n(3) iTunes will open in \"safe mode\". It will briefly appear that the iPod is being synced, but continue to hold down Option + Command. Wait.\n\n(4) After a few seconds, iPod \"sync\" spinning wheel icon will stop. Let go Option + Command. iPod will charge." ]

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[ "How do you prevent your lips from drying and cracking without using lip balm or vaseline daily? I've had chapped lips for the longest of time. I stopped using lip balm because i heard it makes it worst, but i still have really dry/cracked lips. I drink lots of water everyday so i don't what other ways to prevent this.\n\nSometimes my lips are so dry it bleeds. Peeling the skin off doesn't help but it's very irritating to feel dead, loose, flaky skin rub against my lips ", "How do you prevent your lips from drying and cracking without using lip balm or vaseline daily? I've had chapped lips for the longest of time. I stopped using lip balm because i heard it makes it worst, but i still have really dry/cracked lips. I drink lots of water everyday so i don't what other ways to prevent this.\n\nSometimes my lips are so dry it bleeds. Peeling the skin off doesn't help but it's very irritating to feel dead, loose, flaky skin rub against my lips ", "How do you prevent your lips from drying and cracking without using lip balm or vaseline daily? I've had chapped lips for the longest of time. I stopped using lip balm because i heard it makes it worst, but i still have really dry/cracked lips. I drink lots of water everyday so i don't what other ways to prevent this.\n\nSometimes my lips are so dry it bleeds. Peeling the skin off doesn't help but it's very irritating to feel dead, loose, flaky skin rub against my lips " ]

[ "Aquaphor does wonders for cracked skin and also works for lips. I've even used it on sunburn. \nI don't think you're gonna prevent it from happening without a balm unless you wear a good scarf over your mouth every time you go outside this winter.", "This happens to me when the weather gets a bit colder. So...like right now. I hate to recommend a specific brand but it's really realllllllly helped me. \"Fresh\" makes a (color free, not glossy, unisex) lip treatment, scrub, and serum under the name \"Sugar\". I get mine at Sephora. Not cheap. Worth it. Other than staying hydrated, which I read you already do, that's what works best for me. Good luck to you and your lips! ", "> I stopped using lip balm because i heard it makes it worst, \n\nI've heard that said as well, but don't believe it. Get some high quality balm like Bert's Bees.\n\n" ]

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[ "How to fill my summer (I'm an educator) This is my first summer after my first year of working in a school. I feel like I've earned the time off with the work I do during the year, but half-way through the break, I'm finding myself feeling like I'm wasting my summer. Working in education, I don't make the kind of money that allows me to travel much or do anything that costs a boatload of money. Also, I've been mostly alone all day during the week because most of my friends don't get summers off. Any tips on how to fill my days for free or cheap in a way that I won't feel like I'm wasting this precious time off?", "How to fill my summer (I'm an educator) This is my first summer after my first year of working in a school. I feel like I've earned the time off with the work I do during the year, but half-way through the break, I'm finding myself feeling like I'm wasting my summer. Working in education, I don't make the kind of money that allows me to travel much or do anything that costs a boatload of money. Also, I've been mostly alone all day during the week because most of my friends don't get summers off. Any tips on how to fill my days for free or cheap in a way that I won't feel like I'm wasting this precious time off?" ]

[ "Maybe try volunteering; you'll get to meet people and put your time to good use. If you like animals I know animal shelters usually can use a hand just playing with/walking dogs.", "It really depends on what you like doing--just make sure it is productively satisfying and not just consuming media all the time. I don't have summers off, but I've started a novel and written a couple songs on the ukulele lately to make my free time better spent." ]

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[ "What can/should I do with gift cards below $3? I have a couple of AMEX gift cards with low balances. I know that I can use them for split payments at certain stores, but I'm wondering if there was anything else I could do with them.", "What can/should I do with gift cards below $3? I have a couple of AMEX gift cards with low balances. I know that I can use them for split payments at certain stores, but I'm wondering if there was anything else I could do with them.", "What can/should I do with gift cards below $3? I have a couple of AMEX gift cards with low balances. I know that I can use them for split payments at certain stores, but I'm wondering if there was anything else I could do with them." ]

[ "You can find a charity online and just donate the remaining balance. (Use [Charity Watch](https://www.charitywatch.org/home) to make sure you're donating to reputable charities.)", "If you're in California, you can get cash if the gift card balance will be at or below $10 when buying something.\n\nNot sure if this applies to cr", "Give them to people pretending to be homeless and tell them there is more on there than what there is" ]

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[ "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?", "How to find a reliable garage or mechanic for car repairs. I am a woman, just moved to a new area and know I will most likely me chopped liver if I take my car to a random garage to get it fixed. I only know a little but about cars, not much. \n\nOther than bringing a man with me, what are other ways to prevent being taken advantage of?" ]

[ "CarTalk.com posts listener recommendations for auto body shops all over the country > http://www.cartalk.com/mechanics-files", "There really is no way other than word of mouth. I've hated most of the mechanics I've worked with at dealerships. I'm master certified in all areas including body and paint. One thing that could help you, there is a book of times that they go off of to make estimates. Dealership mechanics do the same thing over and over thus can beat the book times and make more money. They also do this by doing bogus repairs, stealing parts, and doing shoddy work. The factory is supposed to check up on the service departments, but it really has to get bad for the big guys to show up. One dealer I worked for was taken away from the owner because of this. Quality service takes time, parts are expensive, as are liability claims. The auto subs here are your best resource. ", " this isn't the answer you want to hear, but if you do not want to get ripped off you need to learn as much as you can about the inner workings of your automobile", "In general, Midas is a rip-off. Avoid them at all costs.\n\nHere's my tried-and-true tip:\n\nTake your car to a shop to have the brakes done. Or call and ask for a quote, and what work will need to be performed. Typically this means the following work should be performed:\n\n1. Replace the disc brake pads.\n\n2. Replace AND/OR resurface (this is important for original AND replacements!) the brake discs.\n\n3. It may also be required to add additional brake fluid, and perhaps bleed the brakes.\n\nNow here's the trick: If the mechanic tells you that you may need to have the **brake calipers** replaced, it's a scam.\n\nWhy?\n\nYour brake caliper is a giant hunk of metal which holds things together. And that is it. It's a solid piece of metal which is virtually indestructible. You should never need to replace one unless you get in an accident with a steamroller. If the shop says you need to replace it - or even mentions it - they're criminals in my opinion. It is an *incredibly common* job offered by greedy shops.\n\nhttp://www.carvpro.com/_images/GlossaryImages/art_BrakeCaliper.gif\n\nA tip for muffler shops:\n\nCall and ask for a new muffler. If they say they have to replace the entire \"cat-back\" (from the catalytic converter back) because \"it is once piece\" they are a scam shop. A normal shop can just cut out the muffler and weld a new one in.\n\n", "If you have the time to research BEFORE the repairs (IE not an emergency or unplanned repair), then the comments regarding word of mouth, and online reviews like YELP or even Google Maps can be a good starting point. If you do NOT have the benefit of research time, I might suggest the manufacture dealer repair, yes the prices will be higher, but you will have the benefit of the manufacture to put pressure on IF something should go south. A decent alternative is a national repair chain like Firestone, Pepboys, Fletchers, NapaAutoCare (some or all might not be available in your area). The next option is an actual neighborhood mechanic. Now this is definitely where word of mouth helps. The suggestion about going to an auto parts store is a decent start (I would be leery of paid endorsements), however what I would suggest is a car club. Most cities have a cruise night, or a monthly day dedicated to a informal car show [show / shine] go to one of those, and talk to people. Local car people know all the small places that do a great job, and all the places that do poor job. Of course some of the small places might be specialized to performance or racing or a certain manufacture, but if you talk to a few people you should get a good feel for shops that are well known in the area. ", "Go to a Napa and ask for a reference for an auto care. They are typically higher quality and have to meet standards to qualify to be one. AAA shops are also typically held to higher standards as well. Hope this helps", "Dunno how much it helps, but this is how I found my garage in a new town.\n\nI was an idiot college kid and I knew nothing about cars. One day my car refused to start in the parking lot. It would turn over, so I knew it wasn't the battery or starter, but it just would not 'catch', almost like it was out of gas (but I knew it wasn't, 'cause my gauge red quarter tank and I got to work without a problem). \n\nI called the nearest shop (just down the street). They came and towed me to the shop and told me it was probably the fuel pump. Since it was up and under the gas tank, it would take a while. I needed my car, so I just told them to fix it and went back to work.\n\nAbout 20 minutes later, the shop called me. When they took the tank off to get at the pump, the mechanic noticed that the tank was pretty light. On a whim, he put a few gallons of gas in it and tried to start the car again. It fired right up. Yeah...I ran it out of gas.\n\nRather than charging me for a new pump and a couple hours labor, they just charged me for the gas they put in. I would have never known had they fleeced me, but their honesty has earned them a loyal customer. " ]

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[ "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\n\nHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\n\nHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\n\nHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?", "Where can I go to meet new people? I moved out of my parents house about a year ago, and I moved out of state as well. As much as I love living as my own person, life can get really lonely. I have a decent amount of friends that I've had for years, but they all live back home. I still regularly talk to these friends, almost on a daily basis, via Skype and online gaming.\n\nHowever, I've recently lost my job, and I've realized that I have no friends I can actually meet with, do real things with. No one that I can just sit and talk to. I want to meet new people and possibly even start a relationship, but I don't know where to start. I live in a big city (kinda), and I'm not huge into a lot of the nightlife scene (or whatever the Salt Lake City equivalent is). What can I do?" ]

[ "It gets harder as you get older to make those connections but there are plenty of cool people about.\nJoin clubs in the local area, say hi to neighbors or maybe volunteer for something locally. \n\nGet to know people and sign up to social events and it will happen 👍", "Try looking at meetup groups so you can at least share some similar interests with people in the group. Also take an art, poetry or cooking class for example - that could be a fun environment to chat and meet people. Volunteering is also great in so many levels.", "Why don't you try looking for a sport or hobby that you like near your neighborhood? When I moved from one city to another I found very good friends in the dance classes where I went. I believe that if you focus on enjoying your hobbies and keep an open mind, you will attract more people who can make a better match with you.\n\n(many people only use facebook to see memes but the truth is that it has a very good event search engine, this way you can find out about interesting events that you didn't even know were organized in your city)", "Find a place to volunteer for a cause you care about. Can be a campaign for a local politian, an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, a youth center, a church... whatever you are interested in.\n\nYou will meet other volunteers who are somwhat compatible to you because they care about the same cause. They will be the kind of people who do volunteer work, so probably nice people.\n\nI made a lot of my friends volunteering. It is a nice activity that makes you feel good about yourself and you meet people. For me a big plus is that I met people that are different ages and of different social status, which is a nice way to get out of your bubble." ]

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[ "getting back into a series/game/book after not viewing for a long time? What I mean is, if I use a series as an example. There was one I used to love watching, I got about 40 episodes in then stopped for some reason. \n\nI want to watch it again but don’t want to start from the beginning, the problem is it’s quite an intricate story with a few moving parts and theres a lot I’ll never remember - I don’t want to miss any important details or references either.\n\nI do the same thing with video games that are story driven. What usually happens is I just not end up watching/playing them as I get frustrated when I can’t follow along.\n\nAny hacks to get around this, or is it best to just bite the bullet and start again.", "getting back into a series/game/book after not viewing for a long time? What I mean is, if I use a series as an example. There was one I used to love watching, I got about 40 episodes in then stopped for some reason. \n\nI want to watch it again but don’t want to start from the beginning, the problem is it’s quite an intricate story with a few moving parts and theres a lot I’ll never remember - I don’t want to miss any important details or references either.\n\nI do the same thing with video games that are story driven. What usually happens is I just not end up watching/playing them as I get frustrated when I can’t follow along.\n\nAny hacks to get around this, or is it best to just bite the bullet and start again." ]

[ "I usually go back and read the wiki on each episode. Even small tidbits of information brings back everything.", "I have exactly the same problem! I have missed out on completing certain games because I took a break and couldn't remember where I got to. Watching YT catch ups is great for TV series but I am at a loss for games..." ]

[ 6, 1 ]

[ "Effective methods for using a public restroom stall when out alone with an infant/toddler. Being a new parent has made everything more challenging, but this takes the cake. Baby-centric stores and some family restrooms have little belt-in seats mounted to the wall to keep the little ones still/off the floor/from escaping the stall. What can one do when that's not available?", "Effective methods for using a public restroom stall when out alone with an infant/toddler. Being a new parent has made everything more challenging, but this takes the cake. Baby-centric stores and some family restrooms have little belt-in seats mounted to the wall to keep the little ones still/off the floor/from escaping the stall. What can one do when that's not available?", "Effective methods for using a public restroom stall when out alone with an infant/toddler. Being a new parent has made everything more challenging, but this takes the cake. Baby-centric stores and some family restrooms have little belt-in seats mounted to the wall to keep the little ones still/off the floor/from escaping the stall. What can one do when that's not available?", "Effective methods for using a public restroom stall when out alone with an infant/toddler. Being a new parent has made everything more challenging, but this takes the cake. Baby-centric stores and some family restrooms have little belt-in seats mounted to the wall to keep the little ones still/off the floor/from escaping the stall. What can one do when that's not available?" ]

[ "We play the 'hands on hips/head' game. I tell my son to put his hands on his hips and hold them there as long as he can.\n\nI do this to keep him preoccupied while I make a toilet paper seat.", "I've resorted to holding my son when using the bathroom. Who knows what's on the floor of public bathrooms. ", "I find it easier to just go in my pants than to trust the kid to stand still while I'm on the toilet. The fear of them running off as soon as I release is enough to make me never want to go in a public restroom while I have her with me. If they run off, then you have no choice but to run after them...pants on or not. \n\nBut seriously, someone once told me that their father had them recite the alphabet loud enough that could hear them from inside the door. If they stop singing, then you know there's trouble. This might have been different in the 80's, when we were kids, but it might work in a pinch. ", "I always had a stroller with me while they were too young to stand and used the handicapped stall. Once they were out of the stroller have them stand in front of you but facing the door. When they we're too old to be in the stall with me I had them stand in front on the door outside the stall so I could see their feet. (I'm a mother of 2 boys with multiple trips flying across the country without her husband.)" ]

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[ "How to effectively remove smudges from a flat screen TV. Been using a normal, dry washcloth to remove dust, but finger prints from kids are pretty persistent.", "How to effectively remove smudges from a flat screen TV. Been using a normal, dry washcloth to remove dust, but finger prints from kids are pretty persistent.", "How to effectively remove smudges from a flat screen TV. Been using a normal, dry washcloth to remove dust, but finger prints from kids are pretty persistent." ]

[ "Mix a little alcohol and water together, and use a microfiber cloth. The alcohol will remove the smudges. Don't use windex. \n\nSource: I tried windex and it resulted in smudges, alcohol and water removed it. ", "You should have gotten a small microfibre cloth with your tv \n\nJust spritz the cloth with water and wipe softly in ONE direction (never back and forth as you increase the risk of scratches)", "In an empty spray bottle, add 50 percent distilled white vinegar, fill the balance with cold water. Spray lightly on screen, gently wipe with ultra soft, clean, cotton or microfiber cloth. Recommended for high-gloss surfaces (like iMac, MacBook screens) too. —mr" ]

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[ "Printing long documents such as ebooks for cheap I have a few 300+ page PDFs that I would like to print, but the best prices I can find are around $50. That's not a horrible price, but I was wondering if there was anything cheaper. It doesn't have to be in color or anything, but I know myself and many others would benefit from this.", "Printing long documents such as ebooks for cheap I have a few 300+ page PDFs that I would like to print, but the best prices I can find are around $50. That's not a horrible price, but I was wondering if there was anything cheaper. It doesn't have to be in color or anything, but I know myself and many others would benefit from this." ]

[ "Print 2 or 4 document pages per A4 sheet. Full duplex printing.\n\nDo you really need to print the PDF? There are PDF readers that allow you to make notes on the PDF document", "Can you and everyone else needing the PDF chip in to buy a Brother B&W laser printer? You should be able to find good deal at OfficeMax/Depot or Staples for under $100." ]

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[ "I’ve never had to do public speaking of this type. I’ve received an opportunity to pitch my small business at a local pitch night for a chance to win a small grant, that would certainly help. Questions below: ", "I’ve never had to do public speaking of this type. I’ve received an opportunity to pitch my small business at a local pitch night for a chance to win a small grant, that would certainly help. Questions below: " ]

[ "A compelling start to any presentation is important but I don't mean anything gimmicky. Even for a short presentation, craft a story that introduces the problem you're solving, and then how that can be started and run as a business, for-profit or not. There's not enough time for details but make sure the fundamental structure and execution of the business is outlined. Limit the text on-screen so people listen better. ", "I’m not a salesman or business presentation expert, but I am a performer and have spent a lot of time scripting words to fit into a time limit while still getting points across clearly.\n\nI would go with a sculpting method to solve all your issues. First, simply make the presentation as if there were no time limit at all. Say everything you think you need to say, make every slide you think you need. Time yourself and then shave off the points that you don’t think you need to meet the time limit. Think to yourself “is this point REALLY necessary? Am I repeating myself? Do they need to know this to understand my idea? Could I just ignore this?”\n\nYou’ll find that a lot of the points we initially try to say aren’t very necessary. We often embellish the main points because we feel that we’re not being clear or interesting enough. Ignore that impulse man. Trust yourself and your preparation.\n\nI would also think about making some kind of tag line that will leave an impression on your audience. This doesn’t have to be official or anything, just something to get stuck in your head after you leave the presentation. A good example is the company Wag, who’s tag line is “It’s like Uber for dog walkers.” Honestly that line alone explains everything you need to know about the business. I don’t own a dog but I am looking to get one soon. And you know that Wag is the first app I’m gonna download, just because that tagline made them so memorable.\n\nI kinda rambled there but hope this kinda helps. Feel free to dm me if you wanna discuss further!" ]

[ 2, 1 ]

[ "How to stop motion sickness while reading in moving vehicle. I take the bus every day to work. When ever I read though my stomach flips around and I feel sick for a long time afterwards. Is there any way to stop this? Bus rides are prime Reddit browsing times but I'm not able to utilize them sadly. Plz help. ", "How to stop motion sickness while reading in moving vehicle. I take the bus every day to work. When ever I read though my stomach flips around and I feel sick for a long time afterwards. Is there any way to stop this? Bus rides are prime Reddit browsing times but I'm not able to utilize them sadly. Plz help. " ]

[ "Put on glasses, a hat, or even let down your hair to block your peripheral vision. I find that if I can block out seeing the motion, it only takes a little time to trick my brain into forgetting you're moving. I do this and it works if I'm focused on what I'm reading and DO NOT look at anything that would show me that I'm in a car. No windshields. No windows. Nothing. If I do, then I'm committed to looking out the window and not going back to my reading for the sake of my well being. This is what has worked for me and has helped me finish many books on road trips. I hope you can find relief!", "Sitting in/nearer the front of the vehicle helps because there is more movement at the back (fishtail effect). Turning corners/going over ramps all cause the rear of the vehicle to experience greater torc effect. So it turns out riding 'shotgun' really does rock!" ]

[ 7, 2 ]

[ "How to fix a jacked up collar So on some of my older shirts, over time my collars have slowly [started to mess up](http://i.imgur.com/UXyz2mU.jpg). I've tried a few different things (ironing it out, wrinkle spray, etc) and it will correct for about an hour or so, but then turn around and creep back up to this position. Is there anything I can do to correct this?", "How to fix a jacked up collar So on some of my older shirts, over time my collars have slowly [started to mess up](http://i.imgur.com/UXyz2mU.jpg). I've tried a few different things (ironing it out, wrinkle spray, etc) and it will correct for about an hour or so, but then turn around and creep back up to this position. Is there anything I can do to correct this?", "How to fix a jacked up collar So on some of my older shirts, over time my collars have slowly [started to mess up](http://i.imgur.com/UXyz2mU.jpg). I've tried a few different things (ironing it out, wrinkle spray, etc) and it will correct for about an hour or so, but then turn around and creep back up to this position. Is there anything I can do to correct this?", "How to fix a jacked up collar So on some of my older shirts, over time my collars have slowly [started to mess up](http://i.imgur.com/UXyz2mU.jpg). I've tried a few different things (ironing it out, wrinkle spray, etc) and it will correct for about an hour or so, but then turn around and creep back up to this position. Is there anything I can do to correct this?" ]

[ "Make sure you always hang them with the collar popped.\n\nI would also try letting them air dry with the collar popped next time you wash them.", "Try taking them to your local dry cleaners. If you wash the shirts yourself first they will often offer a discount to just press them for you. Their professional presses should do the trick. My husband and I work at a dry cleaner and we had one of his polos do that so we had one of the girls press it for him. Fixed it right up!", "I first read this as \"LPT Request: How to fix a jacked up **caller**\"\n\n\"Sir, please put the phone down, take several deep breaths, get a drink of water, and calm down. You're WAY too jacked up at this point.\"", "This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How to fix a jacked up collar - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2y5vnz/lpt_request_how_to_fix_a_jacked_up_collar/)\n\n\n*^If ^you ^follow ^any ^of ^the ^above ^links, ^respect ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^don't ^vote. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot)" ]

[ 6, 2, 2, 0 ]

[ "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). ", "What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without me having to do 30 minutes of Googling. LPT Request: What tools/sites do you use to find deals online? Ideally 100% free tools, that help you compare prices and find the \"best-deal\" without having to do 30 minutes of Googling. \n\nI know there's a bunch of products like this I'm looking for the best one. (in Reddit's humble opinion). " ]

[ "I'm personally into [price.com's](http://price.com/extension) chrome extension. It's a decent way to save on all household supplies. You can get 1-3% back from certain cites like target. com. Additionally the extension will automatically pull up better prices on any item as you’re shopping online. ", "Not to belabor your point about 30 minutes of google searching, it is tiresome. This post did however, remind me of my youth when if you wanted to compare prices you had to compare several ad flyers from the newspaper. Or God forbid spend a few hours driving from store to store that carried the item you were looking for comparing in-house prices. Much as I hate wasting time googling, I have a different perspective on it than you do......lol", "Dealnews.com it's not always the best price on the web but I buy a ton from what they show because it's still usually great. All free and they have an app.", "Amazon warehouse is pretty sweet. I got a monitor for WAAAY below retail because the box it came in was slightly damaged.", "isthereanydeal.com\n\nSearches a ton of digital storefronts for the best pc game prices. \n\nYou can even import your steam wishlist! ", "Maybe not for the best price on a specific item, but for finding great deals as they come around, I visit a few websites daily just to browse.\n\nwoot.com\n\nmeh.com\n\nslickdeals.net\n\noffers.com\n\ntechbargains.com\n\nAnd I always use ebates.com - ALWAYYYYYS\n ", "I use eBates. You get a percentage back from most online purchases and they often have coupons or promo codes.", "I like Ebates. They give you a small percentage back on purchases from most online stores and sometimes run really good deals in addition.", "I check for something similar on alibaba or aliexpress to see what the underpriced wholesale price is. If it's a huge difference and there doesn't seem to be a good reason to charge a premium, it's probably a crap product to begin with (both the original and knockoff). But if it's only a few bucks difference, yeah I'll throw a few dollars toward your ingenuity.", "Camelcamelcamel.com to monitor price drops on products being sold on Amazon.com. It's not a 'deal' search site per se but is useful when you're not in a hurry go get something and can wait to get the best price. " ]

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[ "home remedies for toothache? Obviously I will be going to the dentist ASAP, but just something to make it more bearable in the mean time. Thanks!", "home remedies for toothache? Obviously I will be going to the dentist ASAP, but just something to make it more bearable in the mean time. Thanks!", "home remedies for toothache? Obviously I will be going to the dentist ASAP, but just something to make it more bearable in the mean time. Thanks!", "home remedies for toothache? Obviously I will be going to the dentist ASAP, but just something to make it more bearable in the mean time. Thanks!", "home remedies for toothache? Obviously I will be going to the dentist ASAP, but just something to make it more bearable in the mean time. Thanks!" ]

[ "Depends on the type of toothache; pain from pressure/orthodontics problems is going to be different than pain from an exposed nerve.\n\nIf you have a cavity/exposed nerve, brush your teeth or drink some water. Be careful around the sore parts, but if you can get the sugar out of your mouth that aggravates your nerves, it will hurt much less.\n\nA double-dose of painkillers works well, but remember that if you use too many painkillers in a short span of time, they will start becoming less effective, so consider switching between types of drugs. Just follow the timing instructions, make sure not to overdose, and don't take drugs that react with one another (Taking Aspirin and Ibuprofen together in a short span of time is *very bad*) \n\nDon't use ice unless you're really desperate or unless you plan to keep the ice on your face all day. Ice will numb the pain completely, but it aggravates the nerves so that as soon as you take the ice away, it'll hurt even worse.\n\nIf your problem is gingivitis (swelling of the gums), remember that it's temporary and the infection should deflate after a while. You should still see a dentist ASAP for some antibiotics, but a gingivitis attack usually goes away in less than 48 hours. In the mean time, brush your teeth/use mouthwash to remove sugar and contaminants from your mouth. If the infection is at the surface of the gums, you could try popping it to relieve the pressure. \n\nIf you can go to a drug store, they should sell temporary tooth-repair kits that will let you patch cavities with putty or caps until you can make it to the dentist.\n\n", "Booze, unless you're taking ~~aspirin~~ acetaminophen (Thank you /u/AntiMe). You can even just soak a cotton ball with whisky and press it against the affected area.", "Hot bag of herbal tea with euchincea compress on tooth. If there is an infection put a few drops of tea tree oil.", "Even though \"prompt care\" type doctors' offices (or the emergency room) can't actually treat your problem, then will often write you a prescription for a painkiller and/or antibiotics. May be helpful if you can't get into your dentist right away. ", "Echinacea extract or tea twice daily.\n\nUnfortunately not a short-term solution, it does nothing for the pain and it'll be 36-48 hours before you feel the effect. What it actually does is shut down the infection, providing long-term relief. \n\nI also put salt between the jaw and the gum, as close to the aching tooth as possible. I'm not talking \"rinse with salt water\", I mean actual salt (rock salt is easiest but any kind will do). I believe that the salt actually draws water out of the abcess, relieving pressure; and of course the salt is killing bacteria.\n\nClove oil or cloves directly on the gum will help with the pain. I just don't like the flavor of cloves.\n\n\n" ]

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[ "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too.", "How can I wake up? I usually feel pretty tired regardless of how much I sleep.\n\nI'm not unhealthy, but I don't have an athlete's body. Kinda your regular, run of the mill 18-year-old.\n\nI was just wondering what I can do to get me feeling awake and energized on the spot. I know it can be affected long term with a healthy diet and I think I'll start that too." ]

[ "If you have a smart phone, you might want to look into an app called Sleep Cycle (there are others of the same type, but I use this one). It learns your sleep habit, and then you tell it the time you want to wake up, and it, within a time window that you set (30 minutes is default), will wake you when it determines that you are in a light phase of sleep. If you wake up from a light phase of sleep you are likely to be more alert.", "As soon as you start waking up try sitting up or standing up immediately. Then turn on the lights and chug some water follow that up with a piss and a shower. Other than that try not to smoke pot or look at screens immediately before bed. ", "eat something as soon as you get up, when my alarm goes off i head straight for the kitchen and it helps me a lot", "Well, what worked for me, although I wasn't expecting it to, is this:\n\nI began to set up my alarm clock so that I would only get five hours of sleep per night. Took me about a month to get complety used to it. \n\nNow I basically wake up jumping without an alarm clock, and still sleep about five hours per night on average. The okay after effects are that I can fall asleep in less than twenty minutes of trying, I enter REM sleep almost immediately after falling asleep and I sleep like a log. The not so okay after effect is that I became more prone to sleep paralysis, but I already had that and it's mostly fixed by falling asleep face-down.\n\nNo idea if this is for everyone, but it worked.", "I am not a morning person. I feel your pain. I was always drinking a ton of caffeine in the morning thinking that was the trick.\n\nI read substitute caffeine for a big cold glass of water first thing when you wake up. It really helps! Try it.", "It's quite normal to feel lazy/sleepy after waking up. As long as that feeling goes away after 15-30 mins after getting out of bed.\n\n\nIF you feel lazy/sleepy during the entire day, while having 6-8 hours of sleep, that is odd. You could try the following, because I used to have this problem:\n\nMaybe try some powernapping techniques during the day: just lay in a bed in the dark for 10-15 minutes, you'll feel reinvigorated after. I still do this sometimes. Works better than coffee.\n\nSnooze button or two alarms in the morning for your wake-up is not a bad thing either. Just set two alarms. First alarm 15 mins before you actually want to get out of bed, and wait for the second alarm 15 mins later before you actually get out of bed. Works a bit like a powernap, but definately does not work for everyone.\nAnd, as others have said: use the Sleep Cycle app. :)\n\nAfter waking up, you may try a little workout with pushups, situps, jumping jacks, etc, to get your blood flowing a bit faster and may help you wake up faster.\n\nAlso make sure you don't sit behind a computer, watch TV, or play with your phone, or look at any kind of digital screen right before going to sleep. It'll muck up your brain and may increase the time needed for your REM sleep to kick in, which is bad. Maybe read a book till your eyes feel drowsy, or just take a walk outside, or a warm shower before sleep.\n\nIf all that does not work, it's likely something you should discuss with your physician, because then it might be something else. It may be worth discussing it with actual experts anyway, just to be sure :)", "Down half a bottle of water as soon as you wake up and you'll feel great, I've done it every day for the past year and haven't felt the need to pop my head back down on the pillow, even during exam times. ", "Any of you who sleep a lot but never feel well rested I would advise you to look into something called Sleep Apnea. Especially if you or a family member snores as well because Sleep Apnea is congenital and often associated with snoring. It is pretty common among males, especially among those who aren't in the best shape. Just something to consider. ", "go pee. most of the time when i piss i cant go back to sleep. also having soothing music wake you up is pretty nice too compared to a loud beep.", "You might be waking up in the middle of a sleep cycle. They last roughly 90 minutes, so I typically use sleepyti.me to determine when to wake up.\n\nEssentially, if you wake up at the end or beginning of a sleep cycle, you're not in the super deep sleep, and it should be easier to get up (and not feel so groggy)", "Wake up at the same time each day of the week (yes even on weekends). \n\nDon't drink coffee or 5 hour energy, however do drink plenty of water.\n\nHighly recommend the following readings:\n\n[https://medium.com/the-healthy-life/sleep-everything-you-need-to-know-b65f8e19ed18](https://medium.com/the-healthy-life/sleep-everything-you-need-to-know-b65f8e19ed18)\n\n[http://www.wired.com/2014/07/whats-up-with-that-why-does-sleeping-in-just-make-me-more-tired/](http://www.wired.com/2014/07/whats-up-with-that-why-does-sleeping-in-just-make-me-more-tired/)\n\n[http://www.supermemo.com/articles/sleep.htm](http://www.supermemo.com/articles/sleep.htm)", "Try doing some pushups. If you dread the thought, then try doing them on your knees (don't bend at the hips). Or jumping-jacks. Or something to get your blood moving. Try it for a few days. Even just the tiniest bit of exercise can wake you right up. Another, albeit not so pleasant, technique is a cool shower. ", "One of the most important ways to make sure you feel awake is to monitor your sleep time. One cycle of sleep is about 4 hours. This is VERY important. In the middle of a cycle, your brain is reviewing everything that happened during the day, this is the deepest sleep you will be in. Your brain 'relaxes' closer to the end of the cycle, then starts again. If you want to be awake without doing anything when you wake up, is make sure you sleep in increments of 4 hours so you wake up when you are sleeping lightly. For example, I feel more awake when I get 4 hours of sleep than 6.\nTL;DR: sleep in increments of 4 hours (4, 8 hours at a time). It will help a ton.", "I'm a 20 year old with the same problem. Most of the time I blame it on chasing my three year old daughter around the house but it's been getting worse.\n\nI'll have coffee every now and again but it doesn't seem to do much. Falling asleep at a normal hour doesn't do anything since I've been so exhausted I've been falling asleep before 10pm lately.\n\nI hope you get some ideas!", "Do you use any drugs? Some drugs can seriously drain your energy. Also, like you said, eat a healthy, balanced diet. This will also greatly improve your energy. If you're asking advice on a substance to take to wake yourself up: 5 hour energy, coffee.", "I used to have this probablen and still do occasionally, but what I suggest is first to wash your sheets and comforter regularly, not that you don't already just, this can play a factor into how rested you'll feel, also sleeping with or with out a light on I know some of my friends sleep with a tv on and it's not because they're scared of anything just because it's how they grew up and helps them sleep easier, me on the other hand I like it to be pitch black and silent, if you can find a breakfast food you love it'll definitely help you get up in the morning, and even of you don't have time for a 3 course meal, one of my favorites is a CLIFF bar, it's supposed to be high in protein and really healthy but I just like them because they're great and filling and quick, and lastly, find a podcast you like, just something to look forward to, for instance there's a YouTube channel by the name of rooster teeth and they do hour long podcasts and when I wake up I'll\nTurn one on and listen to it while I'm getting ready I usually don't finish them but that's just something to listen to the next morning so I hope some of this helps, I guess it's really all about routine and motivation but hey every ones different, good luck!", "I find that looking out of the window for a couple of minutes, into sunlight reeeeally helps me wake up. I swear, it's magical! I think it's something to do with serotonin (I could be horribly wrong) being released as you see the light. Either way, it works like a charm! \n\nSorry I'm late to the party by the way, hope you see this OP. \n" ]

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[ "How to improve general knowledge/trivia/retention I just seem to have a brain that struggles to remember things unless I specifically go over them multiples times. Some people seem to be able to hear/read something once and remember it years later, I can't do that and I always find myself scoring very low on things like pub quizzes and trivial pursuit-type games, and it's embarrassing. Other than simply reading and taking more information in, is there any way to better condition my mind to actually *remember* the stuff I *do* take in, without having to go over it and over it?\n\nCheers", "How to improve general knowledge/trivia/retention I just seem to have a brain that struggles to remember things unless I specifically go over them multiples times. Some people seem to be able to hear/read something once and remember it years later, I can't do that and I always find myself scoring very low on things like pub quizzes and trivial pursuit-type games, and it's embarrassing. Other than simply reading and taking more information in, is there any way to better condition my mind to actually *remember* the stuff I *do* take in, without having to go over it and over it?\n\nCheers" ]

[ "When you first hear/read something new try to link it to something else you already know and preferably something you are sure you won't be ever forgetting.\n\nThis won't always guarantee that you won't need repetition, but the times it does need repetition it would need less than usual repetition.\n\nThere is no other way to prevent this that I know. You can try practicing memory games daily.", "When you come across a piece of trivia you want to remember, write it down. By hand. Not only will you have it to refer back to later, but the act of writing a thing down helps it to stick in your memory." ]

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[ "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!", "how to carry heavy things up the stairs? Hi all, I need to carry a box that is roughly 35Kg up the stairs. Does anyone have some tips/tricks on how to not break my back and arms? Thank you!" ]

[ "Try tip it and slide it up. Walk it so corner to corner up the stairs make it so the corners are like feet", "Can you use a dolly, and go up the stairs backward with it?\nOr else I unno take some stuff out of it...", "One step at a time. That means, one foot onto a step then also the other foot. Slower but gives a slight rest at each step. You will also be more stable. I also gently lean one shoulder against the wall for extra stability. Do not rush. If you get tired then stop untill you feel ready to proceed.\n\nA better option - get someone else to do it.", "Those carry straps seem to be a big help. You can use ratchet straps or even rope instead. Just secure them to the bottom, make loops to put your arms through then you'll be lifting with your back instead of your arms", "If someone is delivering the item, bribe them into helping. Otherwise, slow and step by step is the only way.", "I mean probably I'd just squat down and lift from the bottom and go up the stairs, leaning on the handrail for balance. Is the box too big to be \"handled\" - weight is only one aspect. \n\nIt's roughly 77lbs for those of us who don't think in kg. \n\nIf it's not a weight you can readily lift and hold, you will need a second person.\n\nAlternatively, you can lift if up one stair, then step up - then a second stair, then step up (this is what I tell my kids to do with heavy things on the stairs)." ]

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[ "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. ", "How to make my feet not hurt while I'm working I got some insoles and i stand on a rubber mat, but standing for 40 hours a week kills me feet. How can I make work more bearable or a good way to make my feet heal overnight. " ]

[ "Well taking methylated b12 helps me recover a lot faster! Gets rid of pains and fatigue. Elevate your feet above your head at night. This has really helped me in the past. Apply cold compress. Look into accupressure trigger points to relieve pain. Losing weight will help if you are overweight. Sit whenever you can, explain to your boss you need to sit a little. I hope some of these help.", "Skechers! Seriously! I, too, have to stand on my feet all day in an active job, and I work with hundreds of others who do, too. I've always had problems with foot pain, and to be frank, I'm a fatso. \n\nSKECHERS TO THE RESCUE! I've used them for 2 of the 4 years I've worked here, and have ZERO foot pain. I have a few different pairs, too. Among my fellow employees at work, Skechers are by and far the favorite shoe brand when it comes to nixing foot pain. I don't use any inserts, either. \n\n", "Make sure your shoes fit well. Notice if your shoes are too narrow or if your toes need more room. Toes should be able to splay outward when moving so you may need a wider toe box.\n\nConsider more minimalist shoes that have less support, a wide tie box, and a small to zero heel drop. These shoes are expensive but worth a try as most shoes just mask issues people have with their feet by changing the way people naturally move, leading to bad movement patterns.", "Invest in the best shoes you can, professional nursing or waitressing ones, also, take your weight off one foot for a couple minutes whenever you can, by putting it toe-down behind the other heel (works for me at least)", "I used To waitress and had this issue. It doesn't exactly answer your question, but I got a Dr scholls foot tub thing on Walmart.com for ~$30 and soaking my feet 1-2 a week after work helped my feet not hurt when I was working. ", "Go hiking and jogging. This will build up the strength of your leg and foot muscles, and help reverse some of the damaging effects of standing all day.\n\nMake sure you get a running shoe that's made for your type of running style. You don't always need high arch support or ankle support.", "Get the best insoles you can afford, then take them with you when trying on shoes. Make sure you have good ankle support, for me that means high tops. Your new shoes should not have any spots that hurt any one spot on your feet, but keep in mind that a good shoe may need to be broken in before it becomes comfortable. ", "Beast sneakers, and daily cardio. If your sneakers don't cost at least $120, they probably don't have enough support. \n\nI used to die at Wal-Mart when I wore my cheap sneakers with insoles. Don't do that. Buy proper running shoes with shock support. " ]

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[ "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!", "how to make life with housemates easy when you have almost no experience accomodating other people I'm an only child with parents who are not particularly good at enforcing discipline and I had basically no close friends in high school, so I know the learning curve will be steep. I can go on holiday with people for a few days without any issues coming up, but long-term I've only ever lived with my parents, who are very chill and enjoy keeping our house looking like a magazine cover. Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!" ]

[ "Do the dishes and clean up after yourself. Don’t leave your personal belongings in the common areas. Ask people if they want anything from the store when you go. Buy toilet paper. Clean the common areas. Offer to cook dinner. Make things easy for everyone.", "Several different routes you can go here\n\n1) Be a ghost. Keep to yourself, have your own supplies(ex: food, toilet paper, paper towels, or anything that you might use), always clean up after yourself asap, keep all your belongings in your space. It’s pretty effective in terms of keeping things easy and avoiding possible issues that could come up with people that don’t have a personality you click with. Essentially you don’t bother anyone and no one bothers you. Very few people are going to have problems with this type of housemate because you don’t give them anything to have a problem with. The type of people that would have issues with you are the type of people who would have an issue with anyone. \n\n2) Try to be friends with the people. Share what you have and hope they share back. Clean up after each other and share responsibilities in a generally fair way. Try finding common interests and hang out. This option can be difficult because it’s very dependent on the other people. You might have people that just aren’t very open or friendly. You might have people that are happy to share your things but not open to sharing any of their things. You might not have any common grounds with the people to build off of and you just don’t particularly get along. If it works it’s great because you’re just living with friends. If it bombs or you end up with scummy people, it can be awkward or become very problematic. \n\n3) Become the house parent. Lay down ground rules, schedule rotating chores for everyone to help out around the house, set up a budget for supplies that everyone chips in to pay for everything. Everyone pays equally into everything communal. This option can come off as being irritating and controlling to people who don’t like strict structured lifestyle and make you seem like a prick. If you’re lucky and get people who prefer structured organization in their life, it makes everything very easy since everyone is in agreement to the terms. \n\nObviously life isn’t a video game and you aren’t picking a class in an RPG so these are more generally ideas you can try out if any sound good. Everyone is different and being a good housemate is going to depend on the people you end up living with. Though if you are going to take the route of being friendly helping out and sharing, don’t become a doormat that people walk all over and take advantage of.", "I just came here to say, from one only child to another, that just by recognizing this, you’re doing great! People have left a lot of good, helpful comments, but I think you’re on the right track by realizing it’s a new situation and asking for help. My best friend and I are both only children and I knew we’d be best friends when we met and were chatting and discovered we were both only children and she said, “Do you ever have “only child” moments?” And I knew just what she meant. Sometimes we’re just oblivious because in a way we’re on our own. Not selfish or rude, just ignorant. Some things we just learn later in life and that’s ok. Good luck!", "My dad and I lived just us two while I was like 14 for three years. One day he handed me a book that was titled “how not to be a bad roommate “", "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It's not called the Golden Rule for nothing.\n\nOther than that, give people the benefit of the doubt, and don't be afraid to clearly tell them when they're doing something you don't like. Be considerate and kind about it, but you must be direct. Isn't that what you'd want in return?", "My view is that there is no excuse for putting dishes in the sink if you have a dishwasher. Cannot get that thru my spouse's head. So I refuse to handle anything he leaves in the sink. So far nothing has sat there for a week...now, how to get him to wipe his messes off the counters?", "Approach it as practice for running a business, because that is really what it is - and it's you and your roommates in a contract with the landlord first, and secondarily each other.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAgree on rules, and consequences. Print/write them out and post them for awhile even. Let your guests get used to seeing the rules you all live by. Go through each of your \"I hate when\" lists, listen and take them seriously. Draft agreements, agree, and take them seriously.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nHave an expectation of \"doors open\" days, like an (semi-)annual board meeting, where people don't get to hide behind a bedroom door and let things go to hell in there. Allow a \"negotiation table\" to be open or closed, and air greviances, etc.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nCome to an agreement on how to keep the landlord as out of your life as possible. Everyone on the lease will be sued for any damages, so keep that in mind.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nBe ready to enforce realistic consequences when agreements are broken. Will you agree to move out if you don't pay rent? Will your roommates be ok with their dishes being thrown away after a week in the sink?", ">Life pro tips on how to live with people my age who do not love me as much as my parents do are HIGHLY appreciated!\n\n\nIt's not about changing other people behaviors. It's about having realistic expectations and making compromises.\n\n\nLiving in a \"magazine cover,\" is doable only if everyone has the same mindset. Realistically, most people don't live this way. You don't have to accept hoarder-level filth, but understand most people are going to be messy (by your standards). Try to come to some agreement with your housemates on standards; i.e. dishes left in the sink overnight, must be cleaned before leaving in the AM." ]

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It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! It can be everything from how to organize them to how to pick out what’s relevant.\n\n/stressed highschool student TT", "How to take notes more efficiently? How do you take notes in class more efficiently? Hit me with your best tips! 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[ "I would tend to write almost a shorthand of notes during a lecture - very sloppy and unorganized. Then, after class I would expand them into an official neat and clean outline, while it was still somewhat fresh. \n\nSomething about writing it twice that way really would help make things stick.", "Take notes as if you’re going to teach this information to someone else, and for added benefit deliver an actual “lecture”/summary of the info to a friend or family member. This helped me because you’ll feel a greater responsibility to make sure what you’re passing on accurate info. For me some reason the fear of wrongly educating someone else is greater than whether or not I’ll pass a test.", "My brain is a little weird because it's hard for me to just pick out a single thing that was said from a lecture and I'm also constantly distracted but if i can link several things together it's easier for me to recall any one of them. The way i handled this was to not only make an outline of notes but anything that was drawn or written on the board got drawn or written to the right of my outline and anything that was distracting me was noted in the left margins. That includes things like people talking during the lecture, a fly bothering me, somebody dropped their pencil, some perfume smelled distractingly weird. Anything that was distracting me from taking notes got noted which not only helped keep my train of thought on the note taking itself but when looking back at the notes i could replay the entire lecture in my head by linking it to random things", "At some point I started taking notes in landscape orientation with a tree outline. This seemed to work well for my way if learning.\n\nMost classes rarely went more than 3 branches deep \n\nPoint 1 —— subpoint —— sub sub point\n\n \\_____subpoint2\n\n |_____sub point3 —- sub sub point3\n \\————— sub sub point\n\nThe ability to see the diagram helped me recontextualize the content in the whole\n\n", "It sounds silly but choosing a design/style for my notes (on Microsoft word they have preset ones) honestly had me taking better notes. \n\nIt helped me be more mindful of when we’d hit a new topic or subtopic, because I’d need to choose the appropriate style, and it kept me motivated to be consistent throughout the lecture because it just looked so pretty, so if I chose a certain style for examples, then I paid better attention to examples because I wanted to have them sprinkled throughout my notes. Same with question/answers, definitions, etc. \n\nIf the lecturer uses slides then I’d try to basically copy the keywords on the slide the second the slide came up, and take notes around those keywords.", "[Cornell Note taking style!](https://lsc.cornell.edu/how-to-study/taking-notes/cornell-note-taking-system/)\n\nBasically, you split your notes into two sections, your left-hand side with questions and vocabulary, and your right-hand side with the notes you have to answer the questions and any additional notes. At the bottom of the page (or your notes if they span more than one page), you write a summary of everything. Some people also include an essential question at the top of the page.\n\nDone well, it's really helpful if you need to review for a test, since you can \"hide\" the notes section of the page to ask yourself the questions you've created and quickly review your summaries, too. I used this style in high school and college after learning it in a program for low-income students in the US (program not offered everywhere in the US though), and it was extremely helpful for me! Even if I didn't review some of the questions I made, going through the process of summarizing my notes and creating questions helped me retain core concepts and think through tough ones as well. \n\nBest of luck to you!!", "Always note the date and time in the same location on the page (top right, or left margin, or whatever- just be consistent).\nGive each class or meeting some kind of title and again, be consistent with where you note it.\nIf the group is small, note the names of all attendees. \nAlways list action items at the end and include the due date and who is responsible. (Grid format is helpful here)\nStart the next session by reviewing the action item list.\nIf there were no action items, then question whether the meeting or class was necessary .", "The best tip I can give you is to rewrite or type up your notes relatively soon after you take them. There are quite a few benefits to doing this:\n\n* It will give you a chance to fill out notes with things you recall, because you will soon forget those extra things. \n* It will allow you to structure your notes so that they are easier to study from and eliminate repetitions. You will probably find that what seems like a LOT of notes in class will boil down to fairly short, streamlined notes. \n* It will let you identify what is not clear to you in reviewing your notes so you can ask for clarification in the next class.\n* It will shorten the amount of time you need to study for exams because the review already firms up what you have covered and the neatly typed and structured notes will make it easy to refresh that before exams.\n\nSource: I taught at university for 16 years and was a student for a very long time.", "Re-write your notes after class. Yes, it take time, it’s annoying, BUT you will be able reorganize them and expand to make them clearer when it’s fresh on your mind vs in two weeks. Write them in a way that could be understood by someone who wasn’t in the class. You will appreciate it when you’re studying later. As a free bonus, re-writing the notes doubles as studying and will help you absorb the info. \n\nWas a tip I got from a college professor in a very difficult class and it really helped me out the rest of college. Studying was SO MUCH more efficient when I wasn’t trying to fill in gaps that me 3 weeks ago was sure I would remember lol.", "I’m old enough that [shorthand](https://www.wikihow.com/Learn-Shorthand) used to be recommended for high school students. It takes some time to learn, but it was demonstrated to us that it’s much quicker for physical writers and those concerned with privacy.", "For nursing school I would record the lectures on my phone and take written notes. Then after class I would listen to them, and add things that I may have missed the first time. Worked wonders. Just make sure you get approval from your teacher to record, most teachers don’t seem to mind.", "I would use different colored ink ( I guess don't works too) each class. Really helps with studying and remembering. It lets the eyes and brain look at things in a broken up pattern or something.", "I play it like jeopardy. I write down what the teacher is saying, and think of that like the ‘answer.’ Then I try to write what the question is on my own. It has helped with conceptualizing. Otherwise I have no idea why I wrote certain things down.", "Are you doing them digitally or physically? If digitally I loooooooove keyboard shortcuts where I can type like\n /btemp and I get a blank template I have to use for work, I also have more specific one that have alot of pre determined info filled out because alot of my notes are very repetitive things but this can work with just key words only typing like 2 letters instead of a whole word out saves a bunch of time", "I personally loved https://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn \nIt teaches you which methods of learning and note taking actually work best based on the research rather than anecdote.", "Totally depends on the subject. For English and history stuff where you kind of just have to know things I would just write it down best I can. But for math and engineering stuff, my notes are essentially example/practice problems. You have to figure out the solution every time you do a problem, so it’s not like you can effectively memorize anything", "There's a lot of organisation tips and tricks out there for word/pen and paper but depending on what you're struggling with, you could get some special kit to help you. Sonocent is a game changer! It lets you import slides, record audio and take notes all at the same time and that was excellent for my university lectures, some of my peers had a LiveScribe pen which seemed decent too. Both options are a tad pricy but my institution was able to fully fund it for me, whether you want it for education or work you should ask if they can help with the cost.", "Study/notetaking that got me on my university's dean's list:\n\n\\- Read the chapter/content \n 1-2 days before the lesson. Take notes as you're reading; rule of thumb is to summarize each paragraph of relevant content into at least one sentence or 2-3 bullet points even if you don't think you need to write it down. *Write down questions or things you find confusing in bold/underlined letters; this will help you remember what you're missing when you go into the lesson.*\n\n\\- Take shorthand notes during the lesson, especially what is said by the teacher and what is written on the board.\n\n\\- If you're ever uncertain about something, ask your teacher. If you don't want to ask during class, find your teacher later. Make sure you continue listening even when you do have a question because the answer may become clear. Having questions doesn't mean you're stupid, it means you're thinking critically.\n\n\\- After class (ASAP), read over your class notes and fill in extra pieces you remember being discussed but didn't write down\n\n\\- Read the chapter again when you get home and make new connections between lesson notes and book notes.\n\n\\- In study prep, rewrite all of your notes synthesizing relevant information onto a few pages.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nYour teachers are there to help you, but they can only help you if you ask with ample time before a test. 1-2 weeks before a test, make an appointment (if needed) to go in and sit with them to ask specific questions. Ex. \"Am I doing step three correctly?\" is much more productive than \"I don't get it.\" You got this.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nOh, and get enough sleep. 8 hours.", "One of those clicky pens with 5 colors. I found it so useful for chemistry. One color for formulas, one color for atomic structure, one color for FYIs, etc. \nWorks great if you’re taking a class that needs the content organized in distinct ways. \n\n\nOf course, the click is pretty audible in a quiet classroom so see if you can get some classmates to get one. Safety in numbers. Haha", "Okay, this is something I started doing after years of post secondary, it's easier to show with an example. The class topic would go at the top of the page, subtopics would get their own lines and were far left justified, notes about the topic would get placed under the subtopic. The notes would be connected to the subtopic with an arrow, and were placed about an inch away from the left margin. \n\nLets say the class subject was vehicles, at the top of the page I'd write vehicles. The first vehicle we cover is a car, so on a new line I'd write car, then make a small arrow to capture a quick note. If the instructor said \"cars are typically purchased for personal or commercial use\" then next to my arrow I'd probably write \"typically bought for personal/commercial use\". If the instructor repeated the point, my note would get a star. Notes were just to capture the essence of the points the instructor made, getting the important words out of what was said.", "Handwrite, do not type your notes. Studies show you retain more info when handwriting. It also helps to read or even skim the material the night before class. That way you can take in more information and fill in any gaps you're missing.\n\nReturn to review your notes the night after taking them, not just before a test. \n\nI'm a visual learner, so writing brief concepts on note cards helped me retain info as I could almost \"see\" what I had written while remembering it. This is also good for terminology to quiz yourself. Do a set of note cards after every chapter, not just before an exam. That way it isn't overwhelming to write the cards and to study. \n\nUnderline key terms, star things the teacher seems to emphasize or spend a lot of time on, and circle things you don't understand or want to ask about.", "Create a Google document. Have everybody in the class have access. You’ll all take collective notes, and then you can do Q&A’s via written response on the same document, and arrange in person meets if necessary for some people. \n\nSome people will take better notes. Some who suck at taking notes but retain the explained information may be able to better answer questions asked. \n\nGood habit to take through to university too.", "You can setup your paper in the “Cornell notes” style. \n\nI’ve done that before. Or I’ll color code my notes. Really anything that highlights the main points or important words/definitions/formulas", "Word with common endings can be shortened:\n\nConstruction > construc’n \nApplication > applica’n\nLearning > learn’g\n\n\nAbbreviate by taking out vowels:\n\nMeeting > mtg\nBuilding > bldg\n\nYou say you take meticulous and nice notes: get over it and get into the chicken (ckn) scratch! Then review your notes after and flesh them out. It’ll help you learn and remember more clearly this way as well. \n\nSometimes pictures can be helpful as well. Again, elaborate on it when you sit down and review the notes. \n\nYou could use one side of your notebook (the left) for the chicken scratch and the right side for the review notes. Leave yourself more room so your fleshed out notes will all fit on the same page.", "Use shorthand, you know like text speak. Don't try to write everything down. Bullet points are your friend. Numbers and vocabulary are usually mean something. But I think the most important thing is to revisit your notes a few hours later and rewrite them. As you go over your notes you will relive the lecture and you'll be able to come up with stuff and write it down but you didn't have the time to write down in class. In addition, one of the best ways to commit something to memory is by articulating it in writing.", "This is going to be a take that most people probably won't agree with, but, don't take notes. Focus on listening instead.\n\nI went to university for engineering, and found it increasingly difficult to take notes during lectures. I simply could not write as fast as a professor can speak. Add to that the fact that my attention is being split in half between listening and writing, and all I got at the end was average-quality notes, with no understanding of the material.\n\nSo I stopped taking notes. I just sat there, and listened to the prof. REALLY listened. Engaged and asked questions, and gave the lecture my now-undivided attention. Then I would go home, open up the pdfs of the lecture presentation, and create my own notes, synthesizing what I learned that lecture, with the pdfs.\n\nIt worked, and I rocketed to the top of the faculty, and ended up putting out an 825-page compendium of notes on every course in the entire degree. Some of my notes have actually gone on to become part of the curriculum.\n\nThe downside? It takes a long time, because now in addition to sitting through the lectures, you have to go over them all AGAIN at home, to make notes. You spend twice as long at school - - no wonder it works.\n\nSo take this advice as a warning. If you REALLY want to do well, this approach will work for you, but it will come at the sacrifice of your social life and well-being, and honestly, I don't think it was worth it.", "Pro tip from a certified dumby who got straight A's. Don't take class notes. It's borderline impossible to take notes, and pay attention, and actually think about what the professor is saying.\n\nInstead, look at the syllabus, see what they're going to talk about ahead of time, read the book ahead of time, take notes from the book, and then use the class as focused review.\n\nI never took notes, just payed attention and waited for the topic that confused me to come up and I'd pay 10x more attention then write that down.\n\nPeople's class notes are borderline useless scribbles that they look at once or twice. It's a thing that makes them feel good but really doesn't contribute much.", "Not necessarily a note-taking tip, but the thing that helped me all through college I learned from one of my first year professors: \n\nGet yourself a chalkboard/whiteboard/etc. when studying, try and pull everything you can about the study topic from memory and write it on the board. Draw any diagrams as much as you can from memory. The act of recalling and then translating that information to an action will reinforce it so much more than just reading your notes and the material will. Fill in the gaps you find after you’re done, then go do something else for a couple hours, usually something fun and distracting, then do it again\n\nIn about three or four repeats you will be surprised by just how much you have correctly stored, and what remains will be your critical crunch time study focuses", "Not a note taking tip, but don't get so caught up in taking notes that you forget to pay attention. \n\nDon't just hear. Listen.\n\nDon't just listen. Understand.", "My job requires me to take notes during compliance interviews, covering a wide range of subjects from things I'm an expert on to things I barely understand. \n\nMy advice is to learn to summarise as you note take. Don't write things verbatim, write a summary of the information being conveyed. Learn to parse the key point or phrases and note them down. \n\nThe way I tell my junior staff to train on how to do this is to watch the news on tv, and note take during the stories. Practice summarising as you write until you can do it without effort.", "I’m a university student who could use this thread for advice, but one thing I’ve found is having an abbreviation for commonly used words. Ex., electron is e-, proton is p+. Energy is just E, atmosphere is atmos, etc. \n\nUse abbreviations for connective words, with is w/, without is w/o, etc.\n\nUse mathematical shorthands too even if you’re not in math, “proportional” is (can’t make symbol on my phone). Or any other symbols from other subjects, “change in” is triangle.\n\nAlso, connect stuff to each other. Are you building off that point? Circle and make an arrow to somewhere else on the page and scribble down.\n\nLearn to write in semi-cursive or cursive. It’s faster.", "If your goal is to get a good grade/test well, think about which aspects would make a good test question. For example, definitions, people, historic dates/battles, theories. After having these notes, i'd make more detailed comparisons as I studied the textbook or other materials. This is much more simple at the undergraduate level than above, though!", "If you're allowed to use a laptop I always take notes on either a PowerPoint or in Word then go back through and rewrite them by hand and organize them. Just focus on getting the info down in class then expand on your own time. It's worked for me so far!", "I'll write down small portions.\n\nFor example \"Topic nutrition\" then under that \"Carbs transform to glucose\" Instead of a multi sentence that drags it out and goes in to more detail.\n\nThis is how I obtain and maintain my knowledge easy.", "I think everyone needs to find the way that suits them. I did what the top comment says and just jotted the jist of what the person was saying and fix it all afterwards. If allowed I would take notes on a laptop and then I could more or less type word for word, leaving typos until the end.", "Hear me out here, because this is a bit away from what everyone else is saying and may not be possible.\n\nThe absolute gold standard for note taking is collaborative notes. \n\nGet a Onenote or live PowerPoint document, they tend to work best as they are the best for allowing multiple people on at once. \n\nShare the document link to everyone to see live. \n\nWhile the lecture is going on, you can use the notes to ask questions of your other classmates if there's something you don't understand, or to clarify something.\n\nMiss a lesson? You've still got access to all the notes the class took.\n\nOnly going to work in a highly motivated class, but I think you'd be amazed at how much better you're able to understand everything when your main focus is on understanding the content rather than taking notes.", "Grad student here, with already 6 years of college under my belt. Here’s another tip. \n\nReview the material before you go to class. Read (or skim) the textbook/lecture notes or anything else pertinent. It’ll give you an idea of what is most important. This way when you’re in class you already have an idea of where the teacher is going with their ideas and it gives a lot of insight to how you should organize your notes. It gives you the ability to title and organize different sections of the material, leave out what isn’t as important, and know what info you can fill in later by looking back at the textbook. Also, if you are hurriedly scribbling something and miss a piece of the lecture, you still have context to what is being talked about and don’t get completely lost.", "For me, I gave up trying to write them out in a near, structured format. I would always fall behind or spend more time focusing on my notes than the content.\n\nNow I scribble, have lots of arrows, don’t worry about making it tidy, etc. but it works for me.", "Best tip I can give is to pre-review the lecture and come up with a couple of problems you want to \"know how to solve\" that the lecture should answer.\n\nDon't have to be good problems.\n\nDon't even have to actually be answered by anything in the lecture.\n\nThe point is to give you some kind of structure in your mind for what is going to be explained, just a few points for you to hang things upon for context. Doesn't have to, in fact SHOULDN'T be, comprehensive. Should not take a long time to prep.\n\nThis is more about a shift in thinking than doing work.", "Audio record during class. Listen to it later while updating your notes. Type your notes (digitizing is awesome)", "write everything written on the board, and as much as you can of what else you hear. Amen. Masters thesis in note-taking.", "more listen less write. go for a basic outline of the main points and you will remember the rest if you pay attention and aren't dumb. the text book can fill in the details. the notes just let you know the topics to study from the text book.", "mind-mapping. Don't write a narrative of what the teacher is saying, create a relational diagram of the concepts as they are presented.\n\nhttps://simplemind.eu/how-to-mind-map/basics/", "key points, formulas.\n\nbut the process of writing it down, in itself help process the info to memory. also reviewing it within 24 hours after increases memory like 50%", "just make them as short as possible but get the point across and use abbreviations too if u want. nobodys gonna read them except you anyways", "flash cards tend to be good\n\nalso if your making notes to revisit later for an exam or project make sure you can comprehend later what you are writing, writing concisely is great but if you miss something out that you need to understand its not worth it.", "You know how software developers use fancy text ", "You can try the Cornell Method, basically it organize the sheet of paper in 3 areas, in 1 you write the main ideas and questions, in other your notes and in the bottom a summary. On the web are a lot of templates for it", "Write topics raised as questions for yourself for the future, you can also write the answer if you don't think you'll remember it. Afterwards you can use Anki (the flashcard app) to make flashcards of your questions and run through the cards periodically.", "With practice, you can write as fast as a lecturer can speak. Learn shortcuts for words like s/h for should have. Challenge yourself.", "When I was in school, I used a tape recorder to record the lecture and listened attentively rather than taking notes. Then after class I would listen to my recordings for the day and write notes.", "When I took a truck driving class a few years ago, took a picture of what the teacher had on the chalkboard/overhead projector, and transferred it onto my laptop.\n\nIt was so much easier than writing everything down by hand. My penmanship is horrible, and I hate writing, so I took advantage of the advancements in that we didn’t have when I was in grade school/high school 20 years prior.", "What I typically do is during lectures I write down what is being said or what’s being written in the presentation in my own words. Helps interpret and also thinking of how to remake the sentence in your own way really helps with memorising it.\n\nAfter the lecture I typically rewrite everything in word and format it real nice, then print it out. It’s nice when the notes are clean and easily readable. You can also sell them to others this way if you want to.", "Use unlined paper! Unlined paper allows you to use different print size, drawings, arrows, groupings of information on the page.", "Use an iPad LOL. But imo, if possible record a lecture so that when you’re in the class you just have to pay attention and try to absorb the information. Afterwards, go through your recording once again and then make your notes.", "Unpopular Opinion: Notes distract me from listening and therefore I do not take them. It works for me. Works for my doctor who completed medschool without them.\nWe out here.", "This might be very obvious for someone your age but: Notes on paper are for Don Draper and the rest of the past. Use OneNote (or your app of choice) and boom your notes are searchable. This is big when it comes to revision / essays.\n\nYou might lose a bit of writing speed but it's worth it. Lots of apps will also backup your notes so you can view them on whatever device you're using, wherever you are.", "There’s a book you can buy with a pen that records. As you’re writing your notes, the pen records the lesson. Later if you want to listen to part of the lecture again, you press play on the pen, and tap on a section of your notes, and it will start playing from that point in your lecture.\n\nCan’t remember the product name, but there are a few types out there now.\n\nI have always been amazed at how good those are for helping with notes.", "The most important thing for me was first understanding what was being taught, asking questions as necessary and then summarizing that as notes. Taking pages and pages of notes is useless if you don't understand them. You might as well read the text book.", "The goal of notes is to get down all the new information you might forget in the tightest form possible. Use sentence fragments, use abbreviations, use symbols (if written notes—symbols don’t speed up typed notes). \n\nSo “Chlorophyll (also chlorophyl) is any of several related green pigments found in cyanobacteria and in the chloroplasts of algae and plants” \n\nbecomes\n\n “chlorophyll = green pigments in algae, cyanobacteria, + plants”. \n\nOr “The War of 1812 (18 June 1812 – 17 February 1815) was fought by the United States of America and its indigenous allies against the United Kingdom and its allies in British North America, with limited participation by Spain in Florida” \n\nbecomes\n\n“War of 1812 (6/18/1812-2/17/1815) was USA w/ native allies vs UK + allies; Spain in Florida limited participant”\n\nOnce you’ve established the subject of a notes section, it’s usually good to abbreviate it—so if I need to take notes on Elysia chlorotica, I would spell it out once and then use EC for the rest of the page.\n\nIt’s also important to filter out extraneous information or things you already know. If an explanation on the colors of the sunset starts out with a sentence like:\n\n “As the day draws to a close, the sky shifts from its pale blue to a brilliant mix of red, orange, purple, pink, and yellow” \n\nthen there is no part of that sentence that should make it to notes. You have seen sunsets before, you’re not going to forget what they look like just because you didn’t write it down.\n\nLeave some space in the margins and between lines. You can use the space between lines to add in anything you forgot to write down on a topic and you can use the margins to mark which lines in your notes are most important or hardest to remember.", "The \"best\" way I found to take notes that worked for me in college was printing out (or using my tablet) the lectures that the teacher would post beforehand. Then I'd write all the notes down during class as they were lecturing. Everything they said, everything they wrote, etc. After class when I was reviewing I'd rewrite EVERYTHING. Everything on the PowerPoint lecture and everything I wrote during class. This is where I'd highlight, underline, bold things, etc. And figure out what was important and what was not. And these were the notes that I studied.", "Taking notes isn’t effective. Read mindful learning by Ellen langer and use that along with spacing and retrieval practice.", "Take notes afterward. Just listen and pay really good attention during class, and then go through the textbook afterclass and make your own notes then.", "Stop taking pretty notes, pay as much attention to the lectures as you can instead and take shorthand notes on points of emphasis…\n\nAsk questions, if you are too busy trying to copy everything then you aren’t paying enough attention to ask questions…\n\nGo back later to make fancy notes as a study opportunity \n\nI know high school is kinda different and every teacher is different. Depends heavily on the class and the materials at your disposal. No sense in wasting time in class writing down something you can look at a textbook for or other content as well. Basically the goal\nIs to minimize your note taking in class to the essentials imo\n\nAt university a lot of professors were cool with me taking pictures of the board with my phone through the lecture too… many make their power-points and such a available, a lot even print out some notes or publish their notes online. Basically all the nice stuff high school teachers tell you that they won’t do in college/university lol but leverage what you can when you can and be adaptable to the class", "Probably not as useful in high school but will definitely be useful in college is to READ THE ASSIGNED READINGS AHEAD OF CLASS. \n\nCollege professors will put in the syllabus what chapters they will be lecturing on each day at the start of the semester. Even if you have zero reading comprehension, simply familiarizing yourself with the words on the page ahead of the lecture will help you identify relevant topics and make it feel more familiar when your professor is speaking.", "Print off the slides ahead of the lecture and annotate them in the lecture. Don’t waste time writing down things that are written for you", "OneNote is your friend. \n\nType all notes quickly, use one notes tools to make graphics for data and organize later.", "OneNote is a fantastic digital notepad. Also has some great templates you can use that help you organise your thoughts for different classes/subjects.", "One way I sped up my notes for bio is to make shorthand for common words. For me \"and\" was a cursive \"e\", there are the common ones like \"with\" is \"w/, \"without\" is w/o, \"Nucleic acid\" was \"NA\". The most important this is to define what shorthand you're using on the page! \n\nAlso as a lot of folks have said rewrite them if you are able to.", "One thing that helped me a lot is using different colours for different types of info! Like using purple for very important ones, blue for emphasis etc.", "Note down the Idea that's being taught, not the mechanics. Did this another for physics and helped a ton. Like with projectile motion an important thing to remember is that everything falls at the same rate, not the smaller mechanics of things rising and falling. The brain likes slogans and short punchy sentences, so try to pay a lot of attention in class and Write Less. Way easier to review and organize later.", "My method (may be outdated if using ebooks):\n\nOpen book, open notebook. Most lectures follow the book, with the prof riffing on this top or that, and skipping sections that they don't deem relevant. \n\nTake notes:\n\nPrimary idea\n\nSummarize idea in your own words\n\nPage in book where idea is discussed\n\nanything key that the prof said will be on test. \n\n anything that helps you remember the idea or relate the idea to other concepts\n\n secondary ideas as introduced, including page in book, etc.\n\nFor languages:\n\nWord - \n\nHow YOU pronounce the word phonetically written out + plus the word in your language\n\n Conjugations\n\nFor math problems:\n\nThe formula\n\n The problem\n\n Solve the problem with detailed notes about where you got tripped up\n\n&#x200B;\n\nI used this style of notetaking through HS and undergrad and very rarely studied, but it was useful for writing papers or doing a quick review prior to tests.", "My memory of my notes really improved when I started using multiple colors to write! In high school I'd use black for general text, a dark color for big concepts/vocabulary, and a bright color for important parts of the definitions/supplementary info about those concepts. Figuring out some color-coded system like that helped me think about what I was writing instead of just hastily rewriting whatever was on the slides. Most of the time I don't actually need to revisit my notes, this is enough to cement my memory of the concepts!", "Maybe not for high school but in college, especially for those printed books you can't resell, just grab some colored pens and write directly in the book. Use a different color every day so that day to day your notes stand out.", "Look up Mind Maps. I'm mad at myself that I learned of mind maps when I was already working, instead of wen I was yet a student. Imagie how many lessons I'd have understood better if I did mind maps!", "Look up Cornell notes. There's a bunch of YouTube videos on it. I did it this way for my first few years of college, until I found my own system. It also makes actually finding important info in your notes and studying easier.", "Livescribe Smartpen. Use it to both record the lecture and to make bullet points with key words that will function as “book marks” for main topics covered when you go back and listen to to the lecture it recorded. This will allow you to quickly locate key info in the lecture without trying to recall which point it was talked about. Additionally, it will allow you to use most of your energy in class actually processing the lecture in real time and take more detailed notes AFTER class while listening to the recording.", "Listen to what’s being taught. This sounds obvious, but so many people get caught up reading the PowerPoint and writing out the contents word for word and calling it notes. If you make a habit of actually hearing what is being said you’ll find that most of the time you get a much clearer idea of what information is actually important. \n\nI took a class in university where a single lectures slideshow was often 300+ slides. Oftentimes we spent just seconds on a slide, lots of pictures and quick example type things that you’d have been hopeless to write down. The professor explicitly told us to listen to the lecture and forget trying to take notes. The kids that took that advice never had an easier or more enjoyable class and the kids that thought more taking meant copying the slideshow got absolutely swamped.", "Learned this in the 10th grade and still use it: draw a line down the middle of the page. Date the upper left corner. In the right hand column, write quickly what you hear. Underline words the professor emphasizes (likely on the test). The note taking will be useful to study, but it is a discipline for staying focused too. The left column is reserved for clarifications added by the prof later, or diagrams, or questions to ask later, or page numbers. Largely the left column will be empty until I study. When studying I will engage and clarify the notes, adding details in the left column. I almost never use the reverse side of the page (additional pages on the same day I start with \"con't\"). I've learned a multi-color ballpoint is super useful to quickly color code titles, subsections, questions, obvious test answers. I used this technique through the rest of highschool, undergrad, masters, 10+ professional exams, and a second masters.", "Learn to Mind Map like a mofo, it will get you to ace subjects. Use note cards if you're extra nerdy.", "It helped me immensely to print the class slides and write on them. And then you only have to write down anything extra the teacher says. The bulk of the material should already be on the slides. Your notes should just add details.", "In my opinion efficiency to me doesn’t mean writing down everything. It’s writing down information that is not intuitive to you. \n\nWhy write down something you already know when you can pay attention to understand and process the information?", "In grad school I learned to type super fast but messy. That way I could watch the speaker and visuals while taking notes. Before that, I’d often miss little things while looking down. After class, I’d just clean up all the typos and extend broken phrases into bullet points, etc. Then I’d add the cleaned notes to a chronological archive of the class’s notes. Super easy and slick to work with the digital version. \n\nMy handwriting was/is too messy to write legibly without looking down, haha", "In University I liked to only carry one notebook with me, so I would never forget the necessary notebook at home. In class I would mark the beginning of the lecture with the subject, date, professor and the title. (before the lecture begins) At the bottom corner of each page I put the short version of the subject and date. Then I could reassemble the notes into complete sets by subject. \nA thing that hepled me a lot as well is think ahead of the lecturer and figure out the piece he's saying before he goes to the next one. And once I understand, write it down, perhaps a little sloppily (my handwriting is not the best), but quickly and intelligibly to me.", "If you’re allowed computers, my friends and I would copy/paste lectures into a google doc and all take notes in the same document. I’m a nerd who does all the reading so I would annotate the document with notes from the reading. I had a friend who was extra speedy at typing and she would write every word said in class. Others would copy paste the spoken lecture notes into the outline. If someone had a question , they’d post a comment and we could have discussion threads there. Each week 2 people were the designated question asker for our teacher so we all got “participation” points.", "If your professor organizes the course well enough that you know at least roughly what’s going to be discussed before class, spend even just a little time familiarizing yourself with the content before class. I don’t mean try to understand every detail, but at least grab the definitions, major topics, dates, formulas, whatever is relevant first. Then you can just focus on digesting and documenting the stuff you already know you don’t understand, and don’t waste time furiously scribbling down definitions that are already in your textbook and/or brain.", "If you're allowed to (and really need your notes to be 100% perfect), audio record the lecture. Keep up with what you can in class, and if you start falling behind, leave some blank space on the page, and jump to where the teacher is currently. Use the recording later to finish the sections you missed.", "If you're allowed a laptop, type out your notes and learn keyboard shortcuts for everything. Ctrl + left/right arrow keys moves your cursor by word, Shift + left/right arrow keys to highlight. Ctrl + shift + arrow to highlight by word. I use these all the time.", "If you're able, print the slides 3-6 per page and take notes on them. Skips the step of writing down the words which also will help allow you to pay better attention to what the professors have to say. If lectures are recorded, it's 100% worth it to rewatch lectures (even at like 1.5x speed)", "If you sit close enough and get permission you can use otter.ai to transcribe the lecture and then go back and organize the information / take out what you don’t need", "If you have the lesson plan, skim over the topic you will discuss. Goal is not to understand, just to have read enough to know what is in the book. Now you don't have to copy this for notes and can focus on clarifications and new information. After class, make sure you clean up notes and add what pages/paragraphs are relevant so you can easily find it all back. In the book, put one of those tiny label postits to remind yourself you have notes explaining this section further.", "If you have people interested exchange your pretty notes for theirs. Makes you accountable. And you each will havd a different perspective on imprtant points.", "If you have friends in your class then get everyone to use Google documents! You can all take notes in the same file at the same time and ask questions of eachother too. Everyone can have access - I think you can also use the PowerPoint equivalent too if the lecturer posts their PowerPoint and you can make notes on that collectively too", "If this is in university and your lecturers release the presentation before your lecture print off the slides. That way you only have to write down the extra things they say. \n\nAlso either use shorthand or develop shorthand for common phrases. E.g up arrows for increase/high, down arrows for decrease/low, ∆ for change/difference. We had one equation where π meant profit, so I used π for 3 years. Yes your notes might be hard to read for others but only you need to read them. \n\nThen afterwards I would copy out all the points of the PowerPoint and of the additional stuff into neat notes.", "If the class is based on available presentation slides, don’t copy word for word, just notes about what your teacher said about those slides. Maybe write slide # & little notes. \n\nThis works better with an iPad since you can write on the presentation slides, or a print out works the same.", "I wrote only key words and a very short explanation of them.. along with flowcharts, arrow, boxes, circles.. aim is to be concise enough to revise whole subject quickly.", "I would ensure you listen and then process to determine what to write - don't write what is said word for word unless you have to.", "I would actually reccomend you learn to type with all fingers it makes you extremely fast at typing and will help you basically copy what the professor says without needing to paraphrase... But it might just be me who does that", "I was taught to create my own shorthand and symbols. I’m in education so the letter T with a circle around it was short for teacher. Similar to S in a circle for student. Space things out, indent new topics that are under 1 main heading. Date your notes. I kept all my notes flowing from the previous page and only started s fresh page after a test.", "I was so bad at notes. I didn’t take one legible, effective note In school. I made it eventually, but it definitely took longer than it should have", "I used this method \n\n\nhttps://sites.google.com/site/notetakingandstudyskills/note-taking-methods/t-method", "I used a lot of bullet points and tried to simplify what the professor said in a way I could understand.\n\nAlso I would make a second copy on a notebook app (OneNote, Evernote, etc.) afterwards to reinforce and have a digital copy I can pull up on my phone before an exam or send to someone who needed some notes", "I use scratch paper to work out any math I do and then write it properly on another paper with black red and blue pens to color code to be able to read it without having to do it and write notes about the harder stuff. Why something is done why way or why this is something easily forgetful but crucial not to forget", "I use a three color pen. I write keywords in red, things said by the teacher in black, and class discussion or my own observations in blue", "I use OneNote if you have access to that. I copy past all the given notes (am in university) and then make my own notes and copy paste in pics or take screenshots of relevant things to keep alongside the material. This makes it easy to search by word for a specific concept.", "I took a shed load of notes during uni, and my colleagues all wanted to use my notes to study.\n\nFirst it's worth mentioning that if you take good notes, 50% of your study is done by the time you leave the classroom, so you're definitely in the right track here. Make sure you practice with a readable handwiting, write slow at the start if you have to.\n\nWriting fast is a must of course, but that comes with practice so no worries there.\n\nSecond is not writing what the teacher says. Good notes are your understanding of what the teacher said. Some things you will copy verbatum as it makes sense, but mostly you will be looking to understand what the teacher says, and writing it with your own words.\n\nAnd this previous step is what makes taking notes hard, so ditch text whenever you can. In many sentences you can just remove the verb and maintain the meaning. You can remove adjectives used in class. You will also need to find your own abreviation system and logical symbols, so you can rapidly put a logical train of thoughts into writing.\n\nFor abreviations for example I use \"w/\" for With, any word that finishes with \"ment\" will get the \"mt.\" at the end, things like that. I use a LOT of arrows and boxes too, try to make things as graphical as possible to express relationships and consequences. use different types of arrows for different things, and some symbols to note where something is important.\n\nLastly, make it fun where possible. Some sentences will be prime \"yo mamma\" joke material, so write that shit down in parenthesis. Some people will have funky names, so butcher the name into something funny. Some things can use a ittle drawing with shitty stickmen, do it.\n\nThis will engrave those notes into your brain by emotional association, works wonders.\n\nGood luck out there!", "I tend to not take notes about what’s being said, as much as I take notes about the ideas in general. I find a series of general ideas connected by some visually pleasing arrows is far more valuable in representing the logical flow of a lecture or class than meticulous notes. \n\n", "I start by drawing a circle in the center of note pad. That’s where I enter the topic of lecture. \n\nFrom there I jot down notes that branch out from the center - as well as connect to one another. \n\nSometimes after lecture I re-draft and organize the data, especially with regard to how information is inter-related. \n\nThis process allows me to also create a visual depiction of information. Sometimes in a test when I forget something I try to access it visually or by process of interpreting the adjacent or interconnected info. \n\nHope that make sense", "I only took keyword notes of the subjects, as if I was telling myself \"remember to read about these things\", or \"you should know about these things\".\n\nDon't write more than you are willing to read. For me, this is about one page of VERY sparse keywords and arrows for one lecture.", "I love the notability app because it records as you take notes so then when you see for example “study this concept will be on test” in your notes and you forget what concept you can tap and hear the teacher at exactly that moment. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/notability/id360593530", "I know in high school, some teachers have note taking as an assignment you have to turn in. If you don’t have to do that, I would recommend not taking notes/going to class with the intention of not taking notes. \n\nWhen I focused more on paying attention in class, more key points in lecture stood out to me, which became quick notes to jot down and go more in depth later while studying.", "I had a high school teacher require we took notes in the “Cornell note” taking style. I hated it, but I use it to this day. Super clean. \n\n1. Header\n A. Sub topic\n a. Sub topic information", "I don’t know if this will help you, but when I read through text books I break out a sticky note pad and jot one note per sticky. Then I put them in a notebook writing headings for each set of notes. Sometimes I’ll organize them into charts when I’m trying to compare multiple things at once. For example if I was learning about the states of matter I would use Solid, Liquid, Gas as my column headers, then I would organize the properties in the rows with my sticky notes filling in the cross sections.", "I don't write anything down at all. I just sit, listen, and understand. Of course this is only viable if your prof uploads their slides for you to download later.", "I colour coded my notes by holding different pens and made up symbols for new topics or example problems to make them easier to find when flipping through. \nI’m bad at digital notes. I just end up recording verbatim.", "I am a HS teacher. \n\nOne thing to add to your note taking is at the end of each block of learning (eg a class), before you close your notes write yourself a question about the material - create a question and not just regurgitate the teacher’s question. \n\nCreating a question is one of the best ways to consolidate your understanding. You then go back later (days, weeks, etc) to answer the question you wrote.", "I always took really messy notes, then typed them after class. I also write my notes in cursive. I was skeptical, but It really is much faster. Always write shorthand. Use acronyms (introduce it first if you need to in order to remember what it means later) - make your own acronyms up too.", "Honestly, I used to record the lectures in college and just take notes as I needed. Especially anything written on the board by the teacher in class. Then I would re-listen to the parts that I didn’t quite get and would write it down word for word. I’m not an auditory learner. Then I could see and I had written what was said. Which then made a more sense to me.", "Honestly, I stopped taking notes when I was in uni. I found someone with really neat writing and photocopied theirs. I spent my time focusing on what the teacher was saying, and annotating points that were especially relevant. \n\nYou need to have the discipline to not just screw around instead though. If you need the taking notes to force you to pay attention, this method isn't for you. It worked for me because I can't read my own handwriting half the time. It was easier to read somebody's neatly written notes, and compare it to my chicken scratch the things that I thought were especially relevant", "Haven’t been in college for years but if I was going to do it now I’d be typing on a keyboard for sure since I can type way faster than writing and can keep my head up while doing so. Then I’d use an iphone for any diagrams or board written content, especially with iPhone being able to highlight and copy written words, I’d also record the lecture so I can go over any parts that might’ve been unclear or missed. Basically I’d use as much tech as possible.", "Great ideas in the thread. May have been said already, but whatever other technique you use:\n\nUse 3 ring binders and notebook paper so you can add sheets into your notes as needed. \n\n* Take your notes *only* on the front side of the pages(the right side as you look at your open notebook). \n* Go through them later and summarize, distill their essence, make important bullet points, etc, on the left sides. \n* Makes it much easier to study the notes, and the double writing helps encode the material into the ole melon.", "Get the smart kids in your class to all type notes into a google doc together. Then you can ask them to explain what doesn’t make sense.", "Get one of those WiFi iPads. Not super pricey. Pick up one of those $30 knock off apple pencils. Download your PowerPoints as pdfs. Take your notes literally on the pdf using the note app.", "Get a multi color pen in order to color code speaker/question. High light key items during the presentation and develop a shorthand and/or acronyms to speed up note taking. Keep a legend at the inside of your cover… sorry I’m old school and hand write my notes as opposed to typing on laptop. Good luck", "For me I found that my ADHD brain doesn't like writing on lined paper. It feels restrictive and I don't like it for drawings and formulas that take up more than one line. I always grab some printer paper or use OneNote when I can.", "For literature/history: Cornell method. Then flash cards. Then answer the exercises (if you dont have exercises, find them online).\n\nFor engineering/science: skim over the practice questions section, pick one question and then read the theory based on that question while youre answering it. Take note with Cornell method while you're at it. Then proceed to other questions.", "First pass, then second pass.\n\nFirst pass is when you receive the information during class. Quickly process and write down the information you heard.\n\nSecond pass is for when you get home. Go through the note and make it legible and pretty. During this time, you can process the information and think about why things are, understand the cause and effects, etc.\n\nThere's also something before first class: Nothing stops you from taking your own note before class by doing previews on the course material. There are a ton of study guides you can get these days online, which are very helpful! This makes first pass much easier to do.", "Engineering PhD here. If I had it to do again from where you are, I would take a week and keep doing whatever you are doing, but read \"how to take smart notes\" - Sonke Ahrens.\n\nWas in high school or above for 15 years and change, and basically all the notes I took are now worthless to me.\n\nYou can take notes to pass a class and forget it forever, OR you can take some knowledge with you and be ready any time you need to write an essay. You choose.", "Don’t write stuff down that you already know or is intuitive. It’s a waste of time to write stuff down that you already know or can infer. Interestingly, when I was a teaching assistant I would have kids come to me for help because they’d failed a test…they’d failed because all they’d studied was the stuff they already knew because they were comfortable with that material. It can be a hard habit to break.", "Don't know if it has already been mentioned, but putting the date you take those notes helps me alot. Alot of times I can remember, for example, I talked with so and so on this date last week and not remember the subject.", "Does your teacher/professor use PowerPoints? Downloading them before hand and writing directly on the slides helps out a lot. \nFor notes - if you have to write them by hand, use as much shorthand as possible. Write down main topics and words you don’t understand. This will help with organization.", "Different color pens to make the keywords more obvious. I usually do this so I can memorize a certain body part with what they do, what they are, and how they function. \nHighlighters and sticky notes work wonders as well. I try to keep my notes looking pretty so when I study, I want to read my notes, appreciating the beauty of them", "Depends. Are PowerPoint lectures posted online? If so you can just write the most important parts concisely. Otherwise just scrap looking neat and get all the info you can. I was always a student who would write literally everything and look at it later transferred to flashcards when I needed it, but different strokes for different folks. My notes were always extremely messy but bulleted with sub bullets. You can organize your thoughts at a later time. Although I was also a student who would pass out if I wasn't actively taking notes and could learn well on my own so take that as you will. The level of organization depends on who you are imo, but I would argue to compromise between effeciency and effectiveness. Additionally in college you would have the option to take notes on your laptop which could be faster but for stem or other courses where graphs, diagrams, and equations are important writing would almost assuredly be better", "Cornell note taking method - but improv based on your study needs + habits. Combined with Shorthand.\n\nNo need for the official shorthand, just one you come up with and only you can understand.\n\nEx: Abbreviating words ending with 'ing' with a superscript g at the end. Or words ending with 'tion' with a superscript n at the end ( abbrevia*n* / abbrevia*g*). Common words such as 'a', 'the', 'that', 'what', etc. Can also be removed or shortened.", "Copy down the notes on the board and write down questions you have on your notes... Ask those questions at the appropriate time (end middle or beginning of next class based on what ur prof likes). I'm obviously assuming ur prof lectures by writing down notes... That's what my HS was like... Never had a teacher who lectured just by talking. In this case I would use a recorder or something.", "Come up with your own shorthand/abbreviations for words/ concepts that come up often in a class\n\nLeave out words like \"a\" and \"the.\" If it's not necessary to understand, Leave it out.\n\nLeave out material you already know", "Colored pens were huge for me. This approach was based on engineering classes:\n\nNotes in blue.\nExample problems in green.\nImportant points or equations in red.\n\nIt immediately helped my mind focus on the things that mattered and navigate the page in an organized manner.", "Borrow them from someone. Other than that, typing them is usually faster (but might not work for hs, works well in college), you can try recording, or focusing on keywords.\n\nIts never important to write down everything, as long as you write only the important bits you should be ok. Moreover, you don't need definitions, especially those long winded 15minute tangent ones, you can just write the word and look up the definition later", "Ask the teacher what will be covered next class and learn that as much as possible before the lecture. That reduces the need for frantic writing during class time and enables you to concentrate on clarity and understanding lecture nuances rather than receiving a brain dump. Plus if you aren’t frantically scribbling you get to make it purty…\n\nUse the Cornell Method for note taking and hand write your notes using that method. This will greatly help when reviewing and in test preparation. \n\nUsing these two recommendations will keep you constantly ahead of the curve rather than be constantly behind the curve.", "Are you able to do a voice recording of class? If so, I would record the lecture then transcribe it later. That way you can actually listen while you’re in class, and you can listen again later and take your detailed notes (pausing if you need to).", "After writing my notes, I always type them. This would take 4 pages of written notes to less than 2 pages. Much better mentally to study 2 pages rather than 4. It also helps with retaining the information.", "A lot of people are saying to rewrite your notes after class, but I wanna poke that a little: I don't just re-write the notes, I expand on the notes *based on the textbook*. So what I do is that in class, I take notes real quick, not too fleshed out, just sorta writing down ideas (especially things the professor emphasizes as common mistakes, something that will be asked on the test, question formats, examples (I copy these as faithfully as possible), and the overall gist of what's being said). That way I know what the professor will be focusing on, so then at home, I grab the textbook (or pdf, or whatever else) and read through the whole section/chapter we covered in class. The textbook is often very detailed, and since I have the class notes, I open Word or OneNote or whatever else, and I retype my notes while also adding information from the textbook. The key is that I focus on what the professor said, and anything that aids that, and the rest of what the professor didn't touch on, you can skim and then skip.\n\nIn college it's a lot easier to do this because you can actually work it backwards a little: the syllabus will often list section/chapter names and sometimes even recommended problems, so I take a look at those, and focus on that (which should match what the professor teaches, and if not, that's a huge reportable problem, actually) and then emphasize with what the professor said.\n\nBut overall: work smarter, not harder. You don't have to copy what the prof is saying word for word. You don't even have to copy whole sentences, you can just copy phrases or abbreviate things, use doodles, whatever works best for you. The point of class notes is to cement information of what to focus on, and then at home, you can expand on that and really chew on it. If you have any questions, always always always ask, don't just keep it to yourself.", "The Cornell Note Taking method. You’ll thank me for it.\n\nhttps://medium.goodnotes.com/study-with-ease-the-best-way-to-take-notes-2749a3e8297b" ]

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[ "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? ", "Bedridden and my back is killing me I am currently bedridden and my back is killing me. I have no idea what I can do for my self. Can anyone give me some advice? " ]

[ "Check the work of John E Sarno, MD. Lots of info on the internet. I had back pain for 32 years. One operation early on. Read his book, Healing Back Pain. Applied his technique. Have not had a back pain in ten years since.", "Anti-inflammatories, but watch your stomach - you may need omeprazole or something if you're on them for a while.\n\nTry to get out of bed and do gentle exercise. Plenty of good stretches, swimming and walking will help strengthen the back muscles and alleviate pain. I typically find bed rest makes the pain worse. Talk to your doctor as you might need scans and perhaps refer to a physiotherapist. I'd stay away from chiropractors, as they're generally quacks.\n\nThis is the advice I give most patients who I see with back pain, but should definitely not supersede the direct advice given to you by your doctor.", "Sleep on the floor. You will fall asleep and as your muscles relax your back will move to a natural position. My chiropractor said 50% of his patients have received relief doing this. I DID THIS TO GET OVER SCIATICA. I could not walk or stand straight. Cold packs 20 minutes at a time. Anti-inflammatory medicine. I'm not pulling your leg, but give you advice that worked for me. Some people complain that they are willing to try anything, but scoff at laying on the floor. It works.", "I have a bad back and often have to lie down. I lay on my sides and switch sides occasionally. To lie on my back I get cushions that are large enough to put my legs up on. They should be as close to your butt as possible so you're almost in a sitting position but lying on your back. You can experiment with how tall the stack of cushions needs to be to find a comfortable sweet spot. These things work for me almost all the time, hope it helps.", "might as well check out [Earthing](http://www.earthing.com) while you're at it, as it's completely effortless (and free outside). i recommend being electrically grounded as close to 24 hours a day as possible (at least while sleeping).", "This helps some for me but everyone is different. Lying on either side, you are going for a semi-fetal position. Kees up somewhat but not against your chest. The point of this position is to relieve strain from tendons being held extended. Pay attention to your spine alignment, particularly your shoulders in relation to your hips, you don't want your spine twisted. This does leave you lying on your shoulder but you'll get used to it. Put your arm in almost any position but remember the further your elbow goes toward being pointed at the headboard, the further that tendon is stretched.\n\nStill hurts but I've noticed the further I am from this, the quicker and worse the pain hits.", "Oh my god. Last week I was bedridden for four days because my back hurt so bad. I'm not a crier, but I had tears streaming down my face a few times....because of the pain AND because I was so frustrated. So I know how you feel and hope you get better very soon.\nThat being said...\n\nA. If you can get to the bathroom..take a hot shower. As long as you want. As hot as you can take.\nB. Get out and ice for 20 min.\nC. Rest Rest REST!\nD. Get to a chiropractor asap, but make sure they take an x-ray first. I had been seeing a chiro for my slight back pain and it wasn't getting better. After I through my back out I went to another chiro where they took an x-ray to find that I've had an unknown slipped disc this whole time.\nE. Gentle stretching but the second it feels too uncomfortable STOP!\nF. Switch between pain meds. Don't just take all Tylenol or all ibuprofen. Switch between them every few hours to best take down the pain.\n\nI hope you can find some sort of relief from this. I know that it's awful.", "I've pulled my back twice. The first time I was bed ridden for a long time. The second time, a few years later, I forced myself to move around and walk as much as physically possible. I healed a lot faster the second time. ", "I realise you're in bed, but get to a pool if you can.\nHydro is a great way to help relive the pressure that is obviously building up on your discs, and the weightlessness of the water can help alleviate the pain", "A cold pack does much more than a heat pad. It's uncomfortable as shit but a bag of ice covered in a damp cloth wrapped in a dry tea towel and placed directly on the area. Massage and muscle relaxants are good. A warm both to follow the ice treatment and a harder mattress", "See if you can get hold of a wheat bag that you can microwave. It's incredibly helpful for my back pain at least. Obviously things like ibuprofen might help too." ]

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[ "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?", "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?", "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?", "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?", "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?", "How To Get People To Stop Interrupting You This is a big issue in my family as everyone likes to talk over eachother (and usually louder to be heard). I have been abroad for a few years and only realized how big of an issue it is.\n\nI've nearly stopped the habit myself but now find myself getting left out of these \"conversations\" when they start because I stop talking if another person is talking.\n\nI've tried asking them to stop interrupting me and I get denial in return. Or that I'm making a big deal out of nothing.\n\nTips?" ]

[ "When someone interrupts you say in a firm voice \"excuse me I was talking\" and carry on with your sentence. It may happen a few more times but if you stick with it, people will remember not to interrupt you because you will call them out on it.", "This is a problem with both my husband and father-in-law. With my husband, I'm comfortable enough to say \"hold on: let me finish please\" and he is usually aware and considerate enough to say, \"sorry.\" His interrupting has gotten better over the years. It's less comfortable with my father-in-law, but maybe I'll try to say something a bit self deprecating to soften it such as, \"let me finish really quick, otherwise I'll forget.\" Also, they don't understand the difference between an interruption and interjection. Sometimes when I want to just say a few words and then let them continue, they speak loudly so I can't interject; they don't trust that I am not an interrupter like them :) Maybe I'll point this out to my husband someday, but I can also live with it. My advice to you would be to start with family members on a one to one level and maybe it will bleed into the group dynamic... change at the group level might not be realistic. Good luck!", "Use numbers. \"This is important for 3 reasons...\" \"Two things are happening...\" \"There's a four-step process involved...\"", "Stop, make direct eye contact, wait until they trail off, and ask \"Are you finished?\" then continue. Most people will be too embarrassed to do it again.", "I feel for you. I have a family member that talks over me, can't even get out a phrase like \"OK, good.\" without being loudly talked over. I've given up on this one, I know it's always going to be a talking to and not a conversation.", "I continue talking. If the person asks me to repeat myself, I'll say I forgot or I won't repeat it. That'll get the other person to consider listening more to you when you're talking to them instead of shifting attention to someone else." ]

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[ "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! ", "What is the most effective way to tan? I'm basically a white walker reborn and I'm going on a beach vacation in about a month and I don't want to look like a tomato on day one. Is there certain sunblock I should use? Should I be out in the sun all day non stop for the next month? Should I have a daily routine?\n\nPlease help! " ]

[ "1. Creams are more effective and stay on longer than sprays.\n\n2. Anything over SPF 30 has diminishing results. Think logarithmic curve.\n\n3. Apply frequently and don't give a shit whatever people think. A friend was just diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma six weeks after having a child who she may never see reach kindergarten.\n\n4. There's nothing wrong with wearing UV-resistant swimwear. My wife rocks it. ", "This will sound crazy to you, but it is absolutely 100% true. I am 64 yrs old and worked in the construction industry. I have spent the vast majority of my life outdoors. I also have had an in ground heated pool for the past 20 yrs. I love the sun. I tan to a magnificent golden brown within 3 days when spring arrives.\n\nI believe my skin has been conditioned for the sun. Sweat is the best and only tanning lotion I have ever used. I never get sunburn. Never! A bit reddish first day of spring, but brown next morning. I don't have any skin issues, and I've been MRI'd Cat Scanned, Ultra sounded, X Rayed for my entire body head to toe. I also have a full head of hair and it's not gray. I don't use any hair products other than shampoo.", "Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Dry-Touch Sunblock. This does not have the greasy sunblock feel. \n\nBullFrog Gel Sunscreen is great too, but harder to find. \n\n\nYes, a daily routine if you are going to be outside more than you normally are. You do not want a sunburn to hinder your enjoyment. With a good sunscreen I would apply first thing before I head out and depending on what I am doing that day will reapply at lunch (depends on your skin, I can handle 2 hours of Florida sun before I will burn.)\n\nFor burnable people, I do not like the spay sunscreens, they tend to apply too light. ", "Make sure you get every exposed area covered. On my vacation I missed the side of my torso and legs. Very obvious when we got back to the condo. Also make sure you get the top of your feet. Reapply every few hrs. ", "Well....I make Jim Gaffigan look African.\n\nWhat I did was buy Melanotan II ([Wired](http://www.wired.com/2002/06/melanotan/) article about M1.)\n\nI used it for half a year with spectacular results; look around, read the wiki and some forums...it's the real deal and works. I was brown and tan for the first time in my life. \n\nM1 was actually developed to be a way to prevent skin cancer but was never approved. So it will protect your skin.", "I would recommend a hat with a circular brim that you don't mind getting wet to protect your face and a rash guard to protect your torso from burning.", "You need that ultra SP 50+ strong stuff, and reapply it every 30 minutes. \n\nTake breaks from the sun. \n\nYou won't need much sun to tan. " ]

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[ "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor).", "advice on how to make like easier for broken ankle (non weight bearing) My girlfriend broke her ankle today, and is now in a boot with crutches. Any tips welcome, especially regarding mobility and stairs (bedroom on 2nd floor)." ]

[ "“Good leg to heaven, bad leg to hell”\n\nGood leg leads when going up the stairs, and bad leg leads going down the stairs. Leading leg on the next step, then feet together on the step. Do that all the way up or down the stairs. A PT taught me this when I was in a boot. It will help you not fall.", "Take the stairs by sitting on her bum and moving up or down one at a time. Takes an age, but removes any risk of a fall and further injury", "She can scoot up and down the stairs on her butt at home, lol. Keep the stairs clean. (I'm only half joking. If she falls on the stairs at home alone, she could end up in serious trouble with no help. At least if she falls in public, someone will be there to help.)", "Make sure the railing is sturdy since she’ll need that for weight bearing and the stairs are free from obstruction. Hopping up and down stairs is a huge PITA at first with a busted ankle. Also she may need a chair or seat in the shower along with bags to wrap up her ankle if she has a cast.", "Whenever you're leaving the room, ask her if she needs anything. I was laid up earlier this year, and it was so frustrating to want something halfway across the room and not be sure if the effort was worth it.", "Mobilty Walking Roller Scooter for getting around.\n\nFor stairs gonna have to use the railing and use one leg to hop up.", "I broke my leg/ankle this past month and here’s what I’ve learned so far: \n\n• get a knee scooter, so much easier to get around but not good for outside\n• continue to elevate especially within the first few weeks \n• be willing to help out, anticipate what she might need so you don’t have to continually get up and she won’t feel like a burden (ex chargers, water, snacks) \n• clean up anything laying on the ground and be extra careful using them in the bathroom- I almost slipped after a shower because of water on the floor \n• get a shower stool or something to sit on the ground- the easiest bathing position for me was sitting on the shower floor with my leg hanging out and bringing the shower head to me \n• get the cast bag cover to avoid getting water on. I think I got mine at cvs for cheap \n• start PT as soon as you’re clearing and be patient \n\nBest of luck!", "Get a iwalk hands free crutch. Life changing. I used one for the 6 weeks while i was in the boot and i could move around my bi-level house no problem after i got used to it. Crutches are much more dangerous", "As others have said, the best way to get up and down stairs is scoot on your butt. Get her a water bottle with a handle/strap so she can always have her drink of choice by her side. Get her or make her a little pouch for crutches that attaches to the handle to help her carry things (like a phone). Buy a stool for the kitchen so she can eat in a different room. Plastic chair for her to sit in the shower so she can shave her legs. Look for a knee scooter to help her get around. Don’t skip PT. Get her a handicap parking pass to make her life easier (even if she can’t drive she’s still eligible for it).", "In addition to everything everyone else said, a bar stool to sit on, or chair to place the knee of her injured leg will help her balance while doing her chores by the sink" ]

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[ "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it.", "Peeling an orange I tried looking for tips on google - nothing much of help. Give us any relevant tips you know. Especially for peeling this white... endolayer? My god, an orange would be so delicious without it." ]

[ "Finally, a LPT that is relevent to me. I am from [Riverside](http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=103250589), we take oranges seriously around here. I have competed in orange eating contests (My personal best is 22 oranges in 5 minutes, peeling included). My method is simple: Start off by rolling the orange between your two hands to soften the peel. With a softened peel, starting at the \"equator\" of the orange, dig in two fingers and peel off a single strip around the circumference of the orange. With the middle strip of orange missing, peeling back the top and bottom hemispheres of the orange becomes very simple. The amount of albedo (the white stuff that you hate) that remains on the orange is a factor of the freshness and ripeness of the orange, when perfectly ripe, and eaten directly off the tree, the peel comes off pretty easily and with very little albedo left behind.\n\n\nFYI: The albedo is extremely healthy (perhaps one of the densest accumulation of fiber, vitamin C and pectin in the fruit). A bit of pectin remaining on your fruit is a healthier way of eating an orange. ", "I buy navel oranges. Easiest to peel in my opinion.\n\nImagine the orange is in your hand, stem up. Take a knife and cut around the stem just deep enough to get through the rind, about two inches diameter. Now make a \"vertical\" cut from that stem cut, down past the navel and around to the opposite side. Perpendicular to that vertical cut, make another vertical cut the same way.\n\nIf that's confusing, just imagine cutting the orange clean in half vertically, then cutting those halves in half, so you have four equal wedges, then reassemble them. This is basically how your orange should look when you're done, except you're not cutting through the orange, you're only making a shallow cut through the rind.\n\nGet a thumb under the original stem cut and peel it off. It should come off clean, and with practice you'll even be able to pull it out still attached to the pith from the middle of the orange. Then peel off each quadrant easily. Use the knife to peel away any excess pith (the white stuff).\n\nIt takes practice to feel how deep the cuts need to be to get through the rind without cutting the orange. You'll get the hang of it. With this method I peel oranges twice as fast, and far more cleanly, than using fingers alone.", "If I have oranges that are difficult to peel, I simply take a big chef's knife, and cut off the top and bottom of the orange, maybe half an inch or less is removed from each pole. Then I use the knife to simply cut off the peel in vertical strips. When the orange is completely peeled, I chop it into 8 or 12 pieces and eat it from a bowl. \n\nThis guy uses basically the same technique:\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KqsPuCF7br4", "I simply take a knife, make a few straight lines from top to bottom and then peel them with my hands, comes off very easy.", "I roll it around in my hands to soften it a little and then just find a spot and bite slightly to tear the peel. I spend a lot of time picking the white stuff off just because I think it's fun.", "I am weird. I literally bite into the orange to start it. Then use my fingers to remove it, working equatorially, then towards the poles. I don't worry about the white layer as I actually enjoy it. I finish by eating the peel. I never met anyone else that does this. ", "I found that taking a knife to the peel from the top and slicing all the way around in two directions (making the peel have an X on the top and bottom) makes peeling fast and easy." ]

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[ "What can I do with rubber wristbands? Went to a festival yesterday and received a few [silicone bracelets](https://bloximages.newyork1.vip.townnews.com/lsunow.com/content/tncms/assets/v3/", "What can I do with rubber wristbands? Went to a festival yesterday and received a few [silicone bracelets](https://bloximages.newyork1.vip.townnews.com/lsunow.com/content/tncms/assets/v3/" ]

[ "Put them on a water bottle, and slide them up (or down) to track how much water you're drinking? (ex. start with all of them at the bottom and slide one up each time you finish the bottle.) They also provide grip.\n\nKeep one in a kitchen drawer for extra grip when opening jars and bottles.\n\n\n", "You can put them on drinks at parties to keep track of whose drinks is whose? This works better in theory than in practice though...\n\n" ]

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[ "How to become more stern &amp; clear while not being too serious? I just came to another realization that being such a nice guy is getting me absolutely not a thing in this world. I have no negotiating skills, or anything. However being too serious is not a cool trait to have. Who wants to be near someone who's overly serious with no joy?\n\nI would really like to learn how to start being stern while having some humor as well. \n\nExample of something again: I was told by my own uncle that I'm too nice. \"If I say $4 you'll tell the person buying $4 instead of $5\". Even though I told him I'm not stupid, I would do $5 that's common sense.. It's like he disregarded what I said.. I called him back earlier asking him for a favor if he can do 12 product for $80 and he tells me \"no, $120 then I'll give you your cut\". Even though I told him that this product was for someone else and I could use a couple dollars, but the products really for me.. and even after I come back with the money, I'll be standing there like a d**khead until I say something about my cut about 20 times.. \n\nJust little things like this get me upset as a person.", "How to become more stern &amp; clear while not being too serious? I just came to another realization that being such a nice guy is getting me absolutely not a thing in this world. I have no negotiating skills, or anything. However being too serious is not a cool trait to have. Who wants to be near someone who's overly serious with no joy?\n\nI would really like to learn how to start being stern while having some humor as well. \n\nExample of something again: I was told by my own uncle that I'm too nice. \"If I say $4 you'll tell the person buying $4 instead of $5\". Even though I told him I'm not stupid, I would do $5 that's common sense.. It's like he disregarded what I said.. I called him back earlier asking him for a favor if he can do 12 product for $80 and he tells me \"no, $120 then I'll give you your cut\". Even though I told him that this product was for someone else and I could use a couple dollars, but the products really for me.. and even after I come back with the money, I'll be standing there like a d**khead until I say something about my cut about 20 times.. \n\nJust little things like this get me upset as a person.", "How to become more stern &amp; clear while not being too serious? I just came to another realization that being such a nice guy is getting me absolutely not a thing in this world. I have no negotiating skills, or anything. However being too serious is not a cool trait to have. Who wants to be near someone who's overly serious with no joy?\n\nI would really like to learn how to start being stern while having some humor as well. \n\nExample of something again: I was told by my own uncle that I'm too nice. \"If I say $4 you'll tell the person buying $4 instead of $5\". Even though I told him I'm not stupid, I would do $5 that's common sense.. It's like he disregarded what I said.. I called him back earlier asking him for a favor if he can do 12 product for $80 and he tells me \"no, $120 then I'll give you your cut\". Even though I told him that this product was for someone else and I could use a couple dollars, but the products really for me.. and even after I come back with the money, I'll be standing there like a d**khead until I say something about my cut about 20 times.. \n\nJust little things like this get me upset as a person." ]

[ "What you want is to become more assertive. Not more stern.\n\nTry proving your point in a light or humorous manor, but without comprimising. \n\n*waiting for uncle to pay up*, be like \"AHEM /s\" or start tapping your foot VERY loudly.\n\nStern-ness is for when somebody tries to play hardball with you. Assertiveness is for every other situation.", "I've dealt with this; it can be hard to be a nice person and not have people take advantage of your kindness. There's no real formula that will make you more stern, but what has worked for me is mainly just baby steps. It's possible to be nice and still manage to not have assholes walking all over you, sort of comes with more social confidence I guess. I recommend honestly just forcing yourself to tell people gently when they are doing something that bothers you. It's hard to do, but if you don't find a way to make yourself say when there's a problem, you'll just regret it 5 minutes later and think, \"why didn't I speak up.\" Possibly just tell your uncle no to whatever he is asking you to do unless he meets your requirements. If he gets angry, fuck him, you don't want someone taking advantage of your kindness in your life anyways.", "For me, I tend to be more stern and decisive over email or text. Face to face interactions are much harder, and I tend to let people talk me into things I don't want to do. Maybe print your uncle a bill or statement with your cut, or put it in writing somehow. See if it's easier for you that way. And in text, you don't have to be a joyless prick; you're just being concise. " ]

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[ "* Classes get harder the more you are in college, don't start off with a bad GPA.\n\n* Even as a freshman, you can - and should - look for an internship. These are what will get you a job once you graduate.\n\n* Join a club in your major your freshman year. It takes time to work up the ranks.\n\n* realize you are an adult and act like it.\n\nNow for the fun stuff:\n\n* Make friends the first day/weekend. No one knows anyone else, so everyone is looking for new friends\n\n* Go to random parties, meet people.\n\n* Take the stupidest class you can find that will cover some requirement. I took a class called \"Leisure in Contemporary Society\" - it was about the national parks service. We had a test that required us to go on a picnic.\n\n* If/when you plan to drink, do it smart/safe. Don't drive.\n\n* Do the stupid traditions of your school. Whether it is swimming in some fountain or an underwear run through campus. These are fun and always stories for later.\n", "GO TO CLASS!!!!!!! Honestly this is coming from a guy who skipped classes for the first 3 years of school, it's easy as hell to get stuck in the bad habbit of never going to class", "Get to know at least one of your professors really well. Visit during office hours. Ask about where they went to school, what college was like for them, what are they researching, etc. Share details about yourself, ask about opportunities on campus like research, internships, study abroad. Professors (good ones) are an invaluable resource to you and if you end up needing a recommendation letter, having one that knows you from first year is fantastic.", "Live in the dorms your first year. It is the best way to meet people, hear about what is happening on campus, and learn where certain places are (like best place to study, or secret date places etc.)\n\nJoin one club or activity. It doesn't have to be a big commitment, or a huge time sink, but this is a great way to meet people and see how the school functions. You're only in your first year, so you can't do much in it but if you pick something you like it can be really fun. I recommend the campus entertainment/bring bands to play/comedienne tour groups that hires these shows. You can bring your favorite bands and get a legitimate chance to meet them and hang out with them. ", "Make sure you get all the classes you can while still maintaining A's and B's. If you're not entirely confident on your major then focus on getting general ed out of the way. Living in California were getting a lot of budget cuts and I'm barely maintaining staying out of debt. I wish I didn't change my major so late, it really screwed me over.", "Get in the habit of utilizing your professors' office hours. They're there to help, so go ask them questions, ask them for help, and get to know them.\n\nLearn about your campus resources - tutoring centers, free stuff, discounts, clubs, etc. Most campuses offer awesome resources and most students don't know about them. (ETA: Some good ways to learn about these are to go to the events focused on new students, like orientation, and ask people who work on campus - faculty, staff, student workers.)\n\nMake sure you figure out how to manage your time. I've seen students fail mainly because they didn't know how to manage their own time in a way that allowed them to socialize, sleep, shower, *and* do homework.\n\nTake lots of diverse classes for your gen eds. Those are a great opportunity to find out cool things and discover that you really love X field of study. I picked up my minor almost by accident because I took a gen. ed class and found out I really liked the subject.\n\nLastly, don't hesitate to ask for help. You may go and college may be a breeze for you, but if you get stuck on something, whatever it may be, ask for help. Depending on what it is, talk to your professor, your advisor, your RA, someone in the counseling center, or whoever, but ask for help. I saw students drown because they were too embarrassed, or afraid, or something to just speak up and say, \"Can you help me figure this out?\" No one expects you to have all the right answers, especially not your first year, so don't hesitate to get help.\n\nGood luck!", "I want to contradict everyone else here and say take it easy your first semester. You're probably there for 4 years (I'm on the 6 year plan personally). I saw so many people burn themselves out in a semester or a year at college taking advice like the people in this thread give. People who get a workstudy job, take a full course load, and join every club/group that sounds interesting are the ones who end up pulling their hair out, and often, dropout. \n\nMy advice is to concentrate on your classes and meeting people at first. Then add extra things when you're sure you can handle it without burning yourself out. Explore all of the subjects that appeal to you and then devote yourself to whatever you love to do. It will make the work to by easier. \n\nIf there's some sort of writing help (I think most colleges have one) take your first major paper for every subject and get it ", "Do your math classes ASAP. A lot of them build on one another and then are prerequisite for your sciences. My university makes you test in if you have taken a year in between math classes and where you test is where you have to start over from so I have taken 1050 twice and 1060 twice and calculus twice. Just get all the math out of the way.", "* Play intramurals. If you're doing residence, join with some neighbours/roomates/flatmates etc. If you have friends already at this university then join with them. If neither, join alone! No better way of meeting people outside the limits of a lecture hall, plus intramurals are casual so no need to be an expert in any sport whatsoever.\n\n* Join clubs relating to stuff you like or want to know about. Often there will be clubs related to your major, as well as music, hobbies, etc. If there isn't a club for it you could even go ahead and make one.\n\n* Get involved volunteering or working around your school. I realized this one a little later unfortunately, but working with your school is actually a very easy thing to accomplish because who else is willing to hire students so easily? I've gotten positions as a mentor and tutor, but it's definitely possible to get paid work as a grader, teaching assistant, etc. as long as you can befriend a professor.\n\n* Like others have said, gym in the downtime will keep you healthy mentally and physically. You will definitely need time to unwind sometimes when school is overwhelming.\n\n* USE A CALENDAR. Nobody ever does this one. Just do it! It's so easy and it will make your life significantly easier. Buy a cheap whiteboard calendar from Wal-Mart or some other similar store for $15 max. I strictly use mine for marking down project/assignment/test dates, and nothing else. It's easy to read the dates on paper, but having the visual of how many days or weeks until things are due is immensely helpful. Really will get you into a good schedule.\n\n* Try to participate in the O-week activities, you'll meet a lot of people in the same situation as yourself (not knowing anybody else) and you'll generally have a great time.\n\n* This is another big one people tend to not do. **DON'T SKIP LECTURES.** Yes, we all know that it's not *mandatory* but you will suffer and kick yourself for doing it. I've missed a single lecture in the last 3 years of my university experience, and it's definitely paid off. I don't know what you're taking so I can't say much about your class sizes, but mine are never larger than 80, and thats usually boiling down to <30 by the end of the semester. Professors recognize the good students and when you really need help you're likely to get it with ease when they know you're trying and you care.", "Keep your pants on. Wear a condom (or get your partner to) if you can't.. Make sure it has no holes in it. ", "Join a bunch of clubs and organizations you are interested in. It is the best way to meet new people who have similar interests!", "As soon as you set foot on campus, start talking to people. Seriously, talk to everyone - invite someone to sit with you at lunch, complement someone's shirt when they walk past, go to any event that looks even a tiny bit interesting. Mostly, just assume that everyone else is looking for someone to talk to as well (and a huge number of them are.)\n\nI follow my university's Facebook confessions page closely (it's actually making headlines!) and one of the biggest complaints is loneliness. People are too shy or anxious to make friends immediately, and it only gets harder as the year goes on (though not impossible). This can lead to depression and never leaving your dorm. \n\nI was awkward as hell in high school, and I still am, but I made a ton of friends during my first year of college because I talked to people. And some of those friends really came through for me when I needed it the most.\n\n", "Take care of two things at once. Join some type of intramural sport. You don't have to be good at it. You'll meet people and you'll get a good workout. ", "Start saving money if you haven't already. Its not always practical for college students but if you have the opportunity to save some cash, do it. \n\nAnd to completely contradict myself, don't be afraid to go on a trip, to a show, to a ballgame, etc. with some new ( or old ) friends. Making amazing memories in college will be a lot of fun to look back on. Have so fun.\n", "Don't buy the textbooks if you don't need to. This isn't high school, and because of a long add/drop period you usually aren't expected to have a textbook on the first day (exception to this has seemed to be language classes).\n\nI blew like $600 on textbooks I barely opened freshman year. Powerpoints and lectures are mostly what you will need to study (from my experience in mostly science-heavy classes), and you should be sure you need it before buying it. If you do need to buy, look for used books, check to see if it's online, or even try splitting the book with a classmate.", "Don't buy books from the bookstore. Look for used books via Facebook group. My school has its own textbook buy/sell Facebook group. Your school should have one as well. If not, buy online ^or^torrent^.pdf", "Start learning about managing your finances. I love the book [I Will Teach You to Be Rich](http://www.amazon.com/Will-Teach-You-To-Rich/dp/0761147489/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1406760119&sr=8-1&keywords=i+will+teach+you+to+be+rich) and wish I had discovered it during college instead of years after. Really bad financial habits can develop in college and loom with you for years afterward. ", "Say \"yes\" to as many new experiences as you can. Hang out with different types of people than you have before. Be wild and take some chances, you will never be as young as you are now. This is one of the best times in your life to find out who you really are and what you like to do!", "Learn about job prospects of people with your major, either from career advisors or (better) from professors. If prospects are not good, change major or drop out. ", "I can only speak to my experience in college in the United States. The thing I most wish I could change about my undergraduate experience is I wish I had focused strongly on career prospects. I was asked to choose a major without any kind of structured career planning. I think this is very common in the U.S. Keep n mind, kids these days are paying anywhere from $60,000 to $160,000 for four years of college. You are not at some kind of extended intellectual summer camp. You are investing tons of money for an opportunity to train yourself for some kind of a career beyond McDonald's. Yes, there are social and spiritual and intellectual journeys to be had at college, but I think you'd have to be pretty silly or pretty rich to pay that amount of money for those journeys alone, which are widely available for free in the university called life. If you go into college thinking that you are paying for a degree and the rest will take care of itself, you are wasting tons of money, time and opportunities. \n\nInstead, use the time to REALLY explore career options. Talk to professors about their fields and where studying that major can lead you. Go to the career office, learn the resources they have inside and out. Set up informational interviews with people in the outside community that work in the field you are thinking of joining. Talk to them about what the field is actually like. Who would your likely employers be, what would the pay be like, what would the work be like? What is the career trajectory like? How many hours of your life would you have to devote to the work, on average? What are the downsides in the field? Are there personality requirements that are needed, and would these be a good match for you? What are the things that you can do during school to set yourself up with a good resume for future employment?\n\nRemember that for most people, your working life takes up a substantial part of your time and energy, and impacts you emotionally throughout your life. Take the time and effort to do the best job that you can to set yourself up well now, while you have the opportunity. The later you wait to do this, the harder it will be to change your path, because life starts to get a lot more complicated as you get older because of sunk costs, family obligations, the need for financial stability, etc. PAY ATTENTION, explore your options, and you may not have to look back in twenty years with a boatload of regret.", "Go to the cafeteria, sit down with a random group of people. I made friends that way who I am still friends with 8 years later.", "Get involved. Whether it's a fraternity/sorority, student government, the Math Club, or whatever, join an organization and commit to it. It's a fantastic opportunity to meet people on campus, get something to put down on your resume, and is a better alternative than sitting around your dorm room. After you've learned the ins and outs of the organization, try and take on a leadership position within the organization. It will give you leadership experience that employers love to hear about in interviews.\n\nI joined a fraternity my freshman year and it was the best decision I ever made. Aside from my own brothers, I made friends with guys in other fraternities and sororities (including my wife!), was on a first name basis with the president of our university, and had a ton of memorable opportunities and experiences that I still remember to this day. It also allowed me to be able to answer any question in a job interview that started with \"Tell me a time when you...\". Plug in any word or phrase there and I could relate it something fraternity related. Tell me a time when you succeeded/failed/had to lead a group/had to confront someone/dealt with a tragedy/had to meet a deadline/whatever, I had an answer. ", "Do not pigeon hole yourself into a certain major. You are 18 or 19 and you have no idea what you will like or not. Try to take general classes that will satisfy any major requirement and test out the field you think you will like with an intro class. But do not force yourself onto a pathway that you think you will enjoy... Try it out, talk to professors and seniors on that pathway. ", "College organizations and clubs are the most underrated resume boosters. Join one with translatable job skills your freshmen year, so you can rise to a position of importance within it by the time you're a senior. \n\nBut of course, don't sell out to those that don't interest you or will become a chore when you devote extra time to them.", "Talk to everybody. This applies to your entire first year but especially those first few weeks of school. Think about how awkward you would feel sitting around in your dorm hall not knowing anybody, and realize that every single person in your hall is the exact same way. People tend to be exceedingly friendly and open at the beginning, because you're all new students. Get to know at least some of your hallmates - having a couple of close friends in the hall is so convenient when you're hungry and can just swing by to ask if they wanna go to the dining hall.\n\nAnd a PSA, since you're going to college - go out alot your first few weeks (classes will likely still be nothing but review) but don't be the one to pass out your first weekend there. It's college, nobody cares how many shots you can do but they do care that you're lying facedown on the fraternity floor and are a burden for someone else to fix. If you're going to blackout drink, do it at a house party (not in public) and with people you've actually bothered to get to know to the point where you trust them.", "Take a wide variety of classes to find out what you're interested in, and keep an open mind. And honestly, realize that some majors and classes are fun/interesting but translate into $0 once you graduate. Source: My first degree was a BA in Film Studies.", "Take a summer class before your freshman year. Classes are easier and it will give you a taste of what to expect. ", "Pack your life and don't slack a minute!\n\n- study as you should. Don't do bare minimum, do what you need.\n- take a job, not primary for money but connection, skill, experience.\n- play hard. \"Oh I got assignment\" or \"I'm working tomorrow\" are excuses for the weak. Party hard boost your activity level, make you appear more sociable and mentally prepare yourself for real world where things often get hectic.\n- connect and maintain friendship. Learn to understand others, what matters to them. Life friends are hard to come by after student life.\n- draw a line on what you do and don't. You shouldn't be discouraged on experiment life but make sure you are conscious on the reward and consequences. I'm talking about drug, scratchy activities, unprotected intercourse etc.\n- DONT LOOK BACK. you can do that in your 50s, other wise all you get to look back are you looking back...\n", "Just go for it\n\nwhatever \"it\" is, don't talk yourself out of it. You can always quit after you have tried something so why quit before", "Get a job where you can do homework (like a computer lab). I did this and it set aside a good chunk if time each week where I did my work. Yes, there will be some interruptions, but it is definitely helpful. ", "Get a bucket and fill it with 1 fifth of gin, 1 2 liter of sprite, and a bunch if lemons and limes. Then get a bunch of turkey basters and drink of the bucket. Gin. Bucket. ", "Don't use laptop or cell phone during class.\n-I know in college, it's a thing to use laptop to take notes, but you end up not paying attention, writing what the professor says verbatim like a zombie, and/or go on reddit.\nIt's annoying as fuck too, but handwriting notes prevents you from sleeping in class and going on reddit and help you retain info better because you can relate the info to your own handwriting.", "Contrary to what some people are saying:\nDon't freak out about your grades your first year or year and a half. Every employer I've interviewed with hasn't even look at or asked for my transcript yet. Live in the dorms, do a random roommate (it will probably suck but at the WORST it will be a great story), drink if you want, have fun, do something stupid, and most importantly of all MEET PEOPLE!!!", "After grades, networking is the most important thing you can do in college. You connections can open doors for you in the future.", "1. Forget booze. 20 years later you wont give a damn about any of those times. And the people you are drinking with arent people youcould call in a pinch. Make friends in class or from joining other activites or groups on campus.\n\n2. For your major, pick courses you are genuinely interested in or could apply in some future jobs. Electives can be for boosting your gpa. Your mission is to learn what you need to AND get good marks.\n\n3. There is typically a library. Use it. \n\n4. There is a gym, pool, etc. Use them. You dont want to leave college and become that person that cant run a mile or cant climb three flights of stairs.\n\n5. Fast food. Dont bother. Learn to make some great or just decent meals. Fruit makes great snacks. You will feel better, and the money saved will be great.\n\n6. Hustle. You can make some dough.\n\n7. High school drama doesnt stop in high school. The difference is that its easier to walk away from. In college and work places, people that cause drama...this natures way of saying \"do not touch\".\n\n1 and 2 are the best ones. They seem obvious. \n", "I regularly give the following advice which applies to most students:\n\n1) \"Soft\", lower division courses in universities have little value, and are designed to cull about 50% of incoming freshmen, a typical attrition rate. For this you pay full tuition. So it is a much better idea to take your first two years at a community college, at half or less the price, with smaller classrooms, *as long as you insure your classes are transferable, first*. This also helps in getting a good GPA before you take your much harder, valuable upper division courses. As an added bonus, you get out of b.s. \"mandatory\" freshman orientation and p.c. classes, that are just a scam.\n\n2) If for whatever reason you need to do all four years at university, do not take only 100 level courses your freshman year. If possible, stick in a 300 level upper division course that does not require prerequisites. You will see a much more relaxed atmosphere, and you will learn more than in freshman grind courses.\n\n3) If at all possible, live at home instead of in overpriced, crowded student housing. Many students fail because of the continual noise and stink and hassle of other students. And living at home will save a LOT of money.\n\n4) Many universities use student parking as a money making scheme, so if you can, find some other way to get to and from campus. If you have a car, leave it off campus.\n\n5) If at all possible, DO NOT use a university cr", "Drink tons and miss classes (they are worthless).\n\nAlso \"Womens Islamist History Behavior Communication And Analysis Studies\" majors pay the best money!!!", "One of the most important things to do, and I can't stress this enough, is to put the work in now for a threesome. The benefits of this are far too numerous.", "I did threesome like most these people are saying. It is a great accomplishment for first year. makes you pretty popular if you know what i'm sayin ;) oh and study...", "God damn it I love reddit! And 3 somes. \nOnly here can I come in to a thread to see what people might seriously be saying and find this.\nIn all seriousness plan out your courses best you can from the start. Obviously some things will change, but have a goal and a plan in mind to be at a certain level by a certain year. \nSome advisers truly blow barely help you semester to semester let a lone big picture planning.\n \nFor me I wasn't entirely sure about my major so I stacked my gen eds in my first 2 years thinking I would be sure by the end of my sophomore year. (No need to be taking poly sci my 4th year as a CS major) By the time I was a junior I was taking all classes relevant to my major. Took some doing and some special permissions to take pre req classes concurrently so be careful if you choose to go a route like this.", "One of the problems that most first year students have is that they don't know when to relax, while you may have more time in college to do other stuff, you can't neglect your responsibilities. but also at the same time you can't just do nothing all the time, you have to make sure that you stay on top of classes, and if ever possible try to never miss a day, once you start skipping days it only becomes easier and easier to become lazy and just stop going completely. join organizations, different organizations are the easiest and funnest ways to meet new people. and last get out of your comfort zone. a good way to combine all is to have a THREESOME.\n\nTL;DR have a threesome", "Start getting to work on arranging a threesome. This is one of the prime parts of your life where people are both open to having one and not disgustingly old. " ]

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[ "How do I fix this heat bubble warp on my wooden table? Would ironing it with a cloth over it work?\n\nShould I use a rubber mallet on it?\n\nFuckup in question: \nhttp://i.imgur.com/QPbclgC.jpg", "How do I fix this heat bubble warp on my wooden table? Would ironing it with a cloth over it work?\n\nShould I use a rubber mallet on it?\n\nFuckup in question: \nhttp://i.imgur.com/QPbclgC.jpg", "How do I fix this heat bubble warp on my wooden table? Would ironing it with a cloth over it work?\n\nShould I use a rubber mallet on it?\n\nFuckup in question: \nhttp://i.imgur.com/QPbclgC.jpg", "How do I fix this heat bubble warp on my wooden table? Would ironing it with a cloth over it work?\n\nShould I use a rubber mallet on it?\n\nFuckup in question: \nhttp://i.imgur.com/QPbclgC.jpg", "How do I fix this heat bubble warp on my wooden table? Would ironing it with a cloth over it work?\n\nShould I use a rubber mallet on it?\n\nFuckup in question: \nhttp://i.imgur.com/QPbclgC.jpg" ]

[ "You have a walnut veneer table. The heat has caused the glue holding the veneer to the substrate to release. The heat has also burned the clear finish. It may be possible to heat the area to reactivate the adhesive then apply pressure for half hour or so. When that doesn't work, apply wax to the area, then slice the bubbled section in the direction of the grain with an xacto knife. Mix a 2 part epoxy and use a thin metal object to spread it inside both sides of the damaged area. Cover the area with wax paper and apply even pressure until epoxy is cured. The excess resin will be easily removed because you waxed the surface prior to making the cut. The finish is likely ruined in this spot, the only way to seamlessly fix it is to refinish the entire surface. \n\nTl/dr buy a table runner or a plant. ", "No clue, but if it were me I would probably inject a wood glue or epoxy into the bubble and then clamp it down or stack some weight on top until dry. ", "Is this some type of processed wood or laminate? I've never seen solid wood do this. (though my knowledge of this is not impressive). \n\nIf solid I'd just sand it down and refinish.", "Drill a small hole in from below to inject your epoxy or other adhesive. Put a wrap of tape around the bit so you don't go too far.", "One idea...put some 5 minute epoxy in a syringe, inject it into the bubble, push down a few time to smear around, and then place books and heavy weights on top of the bubble. Leave for an hour and then remove" ]

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[ "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight", "How to eat better/consistently I am horrible at eating lunch/breakfast and I am a very picky eater so I’m just wondering if y’all have any tips that work well for y’all in terms of convincing yourself to eat, what to cook quickly, how to meal prep without getting tired of eating the same thing every day etc. I feel so lazy not wanting to cook myself lunch but in reality I don’t even know what to buy when I go to the grocery store so I never have anything to even cook with when I do get the energy. \n\nMy only problem with meal prepping is the repetition and saving it in the fridge. It’s extremely hard for me to eat something if I ate it the day before and my body just doesn’t think it tastes good unless it’s freshly cooked. \n\nThanks in advance!\n\n- Someone who just wants to gain some damn weight" ]

[ "If you've enjoyed a meal at a friends ask for the recipe or the name of the cookbook. I like the LooneySpoons cookbooks as they are simple, have the list of ingredients needed and are delicious. \n\nMake food that can freeze and reheat easily. Surprisingly some meals actually taste better. \n\nDo a potluck meal with friends once or twice a month.", "Get a crock pot. Make perpetual stew.\n\nStart off simple, you're making a basic stew, lots of hard veggies and some meat. Not poultry. Sausage, beef, pork etc is fine. Chop it up. Add some extra flavourings if you want - herbs, tinned tomatoes whatever. A bit of water to just cover everything.\n\nDo that first thing in the morning day one. By evening you will have a delicious stew.\n\nDo not turn your Crockpot off. Add some more ingredients. Whatever you have to hand (more meat if you want, but no poultry, no fish). More veggies? Potatoes? Beans? Go right ahead. \n\nTomorrow you'll have a new, different are for lunch with near zero effort. And for dinner too. You can buy really cheap veggies, cuts off meat etc, and they'll come out great.\n\nEach day, just chuck a bit more in. However if that Crockpot ever turns off for more than a few minutes, start again. You can keep what you've already made (freeze it) but start again for the next batch.", "Use one of those food services I think there’s one called eat fresh. It’s not that expensive and it’s healthy portion controlled ready to cook meals delivered to your door.", "Remember that pre-made meals or kits or sauce packets are your friends. You are NOT a failure or lazy for needing to pop something in the microwave and/or not making everything from scratch.\n\nGrab that pre-cooked chicken and that pre-made pouch of sauce and tell yourself that it's okay. \n\nAlso if you do meal prep: prep a basic meal that you can change the flavor profile of when you re-heat it. It might help to trick yourself into not thinking of it as the same meal each time.\n\n", "there’s a meal kit service called Factor and as someone who has trouble eating, that helped me a lot\n\n\n\n\nthe meals are actually really really good and good for you and the absolute best part? just microwave them. it was a game changer for me until i found a routine that’s allowed me to get back on track", "Try making Bercher Muesli for breakfast, you can make a batch that will last you few days. Get an instant pot. Try making dal/lentils for few days. It's nutritious and a comfort food.", "I also don’t like meal prepping, but I do make dinners that can make enough food for three meals for me and my husband. As a newbie to cooking I say keep it simple! Use spices. Use butter. Don’t worry necessarily about keeping it clean until you become more familiar with cooking basics. Favorite easy meals - turkey tacos, pasta and broccoli, chicken&rice. Make things that are yummy and reheat nicely. Don’t worry about trying to cook for the whole week, I hate day four leftovers, how boring!", "Smoothies for breakfast maybe. Yogurt, cashew butter, blueberries, spinach, banana, milk of your choice. Its sweet, fast, and nutritious. \n\nOn a side note you need to really push yourself to eat a big variety of foods. Extreme Food pickiness is an immature trait and will be frowned upon as you age, it's most likely your parents fault allowing it to get to this point but now it's on you to move past it." ]

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[ "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?", "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?", "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?", "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?", "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?", "How to get over my appearance from ruining my day. Sometimes I'll see my reflection in a car door window or something and it'll hold me back. I absolutely hate my reflection and my appearance, and it always sticks in my mind. How do I get rid of that feeling?" ]

[ "Like /u/iownakeytar is saying, you need to figure out why you hate your reflection.\n\nIs it because you're not in shape? Or you find your hair or clothes ugly? These are problems that you can actually solve. And honestly, except in the rarest of cases (aka odds are you're not in among them) very few people are truly ugly in a way they cannot change.\n\nSo ask yourself: are the things that I don't like in my reflection things I can change? If I exercised, dieted, or researched some fashions and tried them out, would I be able to like my reflection?\n\nIf you think there is the slightest inkling of a \"yes\" to that question, then go for it! If you need any help and advice on starting a workout routine, or where to find fashion advice, let me know. I have plenty of resources that might help you.", "Why do you hate your appearance so much? You have to get over that -- you can't avoid your reflection forever.", "Personally, I always keep a comb, stick of deodorant, and a few floss picks on me or in my car for times like those. Otherwise, just remember that most people don't really care if you have a bad hair day. Also, try working out every morning, it's an easy confidence booster. ", "Honestly, I used to be (and still am) in your exact shoes. I went through long periods of my life where I absolutely hated looking at myself in the mirror to the point of tears. (Not that it matters but just for some perspective, I'm a gay male) \n \nThere are still days where my hair doesn't do what I want it to and it completely ruins my day, destroys my mood and makes me want to just call in to work and crawl into bed and cry. \n \nI've really had to come to terms with the fact that I can't change the way I look but I can do things to compliment how I look better. I had styled / cut my hair the same way for 15+ years. I have a slight receeding hair line and have always been really bothered by that. Flat ironing my hair and trying to hide it and I finally bit the bullet and cut my hair shorter than I ever have; embracing my hair line and the fact that I've had gray hair since I was ~14 years old and it's helped a tremendous amount. \n \nI found someone, a slightly older friend, who had a similar hairline to me and looked at a lot of his pictures on FB. I really liked his hair and I showed my stylist and she did her best to give me my own version of what I liked about his hair and I've never been happier since. \n \nI still have issues with my face, my body, etc. despite being fairly in shape and attractive. I've always been hit on, flirted with and picked up by guys but when I was a young teenager, I **definitely** was geeky and very unattractive. I'm now 30 and have certainly grown into my looks more than I ever thought I would. \n \nFind someone that you feel has similar facial features to yourself (or a similar body type to try find clothes or styles) to find things that may better compliment your looks. A haircut can truly make all the difference and despite hating it when people told me this all my life; it's only hair. It will grow back. You could even consider waxing your eyebrows, men often forget how much of an impact that can have and it doesn't have to be anything dramatic. You can just clean them up around the edges and it can make a huge difference to your face. \n \nI look back now at all those days where my looks completely destroyed my day and made me feel worthless and I barely even remember them. I know the day they happened it was like the worst day of my life that I would never forget; but I did. \n \nYou're definitely not ugly or unattractive.", "Find something that you like about yourself. Maybe you have fantastic lips? Pretty eyes? A cute mole? It can be really small, but focus on it.", "Dude, there is honestly nothing wrong with your face! The only thing I notice is that your eyebrows are a bit bushy, but so are most guys. If that matters to you, you can always have them waxed. As you mature your face will go through different phases, but you have to have confidence in your own skin and appreciate your looks. If you don't like it, try a hair cut or growing facial hair, both can make a big difference " ]

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[ "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do.", "How do you stop yourself from thinking that a loved one is dead when they don't answer their phone? Whenever a loved one doesn't answer the phone, I immediately think the worst. Any tips for correcting this mindset? I couldn't care less if other people don't answer my phone call as long as my loved ones do." ]

[ "Try and think logically about it, it’s more than likely that nothing is wrong but maybe they are busy momentarily. There are so many times throughout the day that I miss a call because I step away for one thing or another. Try and give space to those you care about when reaching out, realizing that it may not always be a perfect time to be received. Relax and have faith that everything is okay, it’s your imagination that is creating dialog, it isn’t reality.", "you'll know when they're dead. like last year, i knew my ex was when she didn't call me regarding our son and his school schedule. i don't know how i knew, but i did. i left a message, but damn. i should've went out that night, but waited til next day. fuck.", "Sounds like an example of “intrusive thoughts”. How I deal with these thoughts are:\n1. Define it as an irrational thought “Ah, an odd thought!”\n2. Recognize that you’ve had this thought before “I know this thought!”\n3. Put the thought away “I can let go of this thought and see it for what it is. Just a thought. It does not carry weight or mean anything deeper than what it means.”\n4. Practice this again and again, trying to release the thought back out into the “thought River” and let it float on by. \n\nYour intrusive thought has never been right and today is not the day where it’ll prove you otherwise.", "I would advise you do a bit of research into generalised anxiety disorder and see if it applies to you and if it resonates there’s a lot of literature and advice out there. Don’t lose hope if the things you find at first aren’t for you, people will find they hate some techniques whilst others work for them.\n\nPersonally, I would approach it like this:\n\n- Take a breath (and count if you like or try to centre yourself in some way, for example by observing 3 things you can hear, two things you can see and one thing you can touch)\n\n- Ask yourself why you are thinking that\n\n- Ask yourself if that reason is rooted in logic or rooted in a general worry \n\n- Acknowledge that whatever is happening, you can only have control over what you are doing in that moment. Consider whether worrying will make a positive difference or a negative difference\n\n\nThese are just steps I have taken with other types of worries, as I have continued to take this type of thought pattern I have found that it happens more naturally and I don’t have to think through all the steps each time. \n\nThe main thing I would say is go easy on yourself and keep trying! Anxiety is a very normal emotion, it’s just that some people experience it more frequently and in more unhelpful settings than others\n\n", "Realize it's 2021 and NOBODY answers their phone any more.\n\nYou're not the center of the universe, why should your call be any different?\n\nSend a text instead like a normal person ;-)\n\n\n\n*don't flip out when they don't text right back either...", "I tend to worry like you. My compromise is to wait 20 minutes and call again. And yes, if it's the kids, text for a faster response.", " I purposely don't answer certain people's calls to teach them boundaries, you and I would not get along lmao" ]

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[ "How do I become productive in the morning. Since September, I wake up at 4:30 AM during working days and my school starts around 7 AM and my first 4 classes (until 10 AM) are the practical part of my class. On the theoretical part of that class I do good because by the time it starts I'm fully awake but on the practical part, because it starts so early, I do really poorly and I want to change that. The problem is, I don't really know how.", "How do I become productive in the morning. Since September, I wake up at 4:30 AM during working days and my school starts around 7 AM and my first 4 classes (until 10 AM) are the practical part of my class. On the theoretical part of that class I do good because by the time it starts I'm fully awake but on the practical part, because it starts so early, I do really poorly and I want to change that. The problem is, I don't really know how." ]

[ "**Eat your frogs first**, doing the thing you least want to do *first*, will give you a reward of dopamine which will drive you through the rest of the day and clear your brain of that thing which if you procrastinate will drain you of motivation and ability to concentrate.\n\n[Take this free class](https://www.coursera.org/learn/learning-how-to-learn) if you want to know more.\n\nAlso be sure to have water first thing in the morning to start your digestive system which has been sleeping and not giving you energy for hours.\n\nAnd maybe you need food before class, because whatever you had at 4:30 is used up by then.", "if you wake up at 4:30 AM; on average you should turn it 8 PM to get enough sleep. \n\nin weekends you should avoid a shift of more then 2 hrs. \n\nlets start with the basics.\n\nAlso, you can consider to shorten your morning routine. 10 minutes shower and breakfast + nap during commute is not an option? on average i close the door behind me 15 minutes after waking up. no snoozing.\n\n" ]

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[ "Defrosting the Freezer in a Minifridge I'm coming home from college soon, and I don't know how to efficiently defrost the massive amount of ice that's built up on and around the freezer in my fridge... Should I just put a towel under it and let it melt?", "Defrosting the Freezer in a Minifridge I'm coming home from college soon, and I don't know how to efficiently defrost the massive amount of ice that's built up on and around the freezer in my fridge... Should I just put a towel under it and let it melt?", "Defrosting the Freezer in a Minifridge I'm coming home from college soon, and I don't know how to efficiently defrost the massive amount of ice that's built up on and around the freezer in my fridge... Should I just put a towel under it and let it melt?", "Defrosting the Freezer in a Minifridge I'm coming home from college soon, and I don't know how to efficiently defrost the massive amount of ice that's built up on and around the freezer in my fridge... Should I just put a towel under it and let it melt?", "Defrosting the Freezer in a Minifridge I'm coming home from college soon, and I don't know how to efficiently defrost the massive amount of ice that's built up on and around the freezer in my fridge... Should I just put a towel under it and let it melt?" ]

[ "What i did this year is 3 step fold\n\n**1) Scrape off ice inside of fridge.** \n\nSome fridges come with a tool for this, its small and plastic, otherwise im assuming you could kinda just bang around at it with a screwdriver backing or something heavy to break off big chunks.\n\n**2) Turn minifridge off and unplug 2 days before you leave.** \n\nLeave the doors open for the thing to dry out a bit, after day 1 you should be able to go in there with a towel or paper towels to dry it out almost all the way.\n\n**3) Clean minifridge with your favorite cleaning product.**\n\nThis step waited until I got home, some lysol and a rag towel did wonders getting rid of some jello stains from obvious bad choices, otherwise pretty easy to clean. \n\n\nHope this was helpful!", "When I had to do it in a hurry (2 hours before leaving college, if it wasn't defrosted we got a fine) I opened all the doors on the minifridge, draped one end of a towel over a heater and the other end over the top of the minifridge, placed another towel to catch the drippage, and then waited. I don't recommend this because of the inherent fire hazard, but if you're in a hurry and you can supervise it pretty closely while keeping an eye on temperature it works well.", "Not personal experience but while watching Monk a long ass time ago he just took a blow-dryer (the thing to dry hair, not sure if that's the right name) and a spatula and went crazy. I assume he unplugged it.", "If you're impatient and your mini fridge's freezer is the type that is just a compartment surrounded by metal, I would do what you suggested but grab a second towel. Wet it with hot water and wipe down the outside of the compartment. This will melt the ice that is in it from the outside in. Rewarm the towel when it gets too cold. Once the ice tube is shrunken enough you can just slide the whole thing out. But that's just my mini fridge.", "First unplug the fridge. Then take a bowl, fill it with very hot water, and place it in the fridge under the freezer section. The steam will melt the ice and the bowl will catch a lot of the water. This works pretty quickly. You can always add more hot water if it cools to much. " ]

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[ "Based on another thread, what simple tasks can I do with my off hand to strengthen it and become more proficient with it? ", "Based on another thread, what simple tasks can I do with my off hand to strengthen it and become more proficient with it? ", "Based on another thread, what simple tasks can I do with my off hand to strengthen it and become more proficient with it? ", "Based on another thread, what simple tasks can I do with my off hand to strengthen it and become more proficient with it? ", "Based on another thread, what simple tasks can I do with my off hand to strengthen it and become more proficient with it? " ]

[ "What I've started doing is, at the gym, always pick up the weight with your off hand, and do your first set with your off hand. ", "I did this when I was learning to play drums, Because I was horrible with my left hand. Drawing, writing, using mouse left handed, spent a lot of time just tapping rhythms with my left hand while listening to music, using tools left handed(drills, screwdrivers, hammers, etc.) Pretty much anything you find yourself doing in life with your dominant hand, just stop and try to do it with your other hand. Have fun.", "Did anyone else just see this and think it was inspired by the masturbation thread? Looking at the time stamp, I guess not, but it'd be cooler if it was.....", "Brushing your hair, using a fork and knife, washing dishes. Just make a conscious effort to realize when you are doing something with your dominant hand and switch to your other hand.", "* Using the keyboard using all fingers (both hands)\n* Dial numbers (phone etc.)\n* Take a small object and keep playing with.\n* touchpad of a laptop.\n\nAt the beginning it should be very hard, slow and unproductive " ]

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[ "Dry Hands How can I avoid having dry hands in the winter? Every year it seems my hands get dry. Even using an excess amount of lotion will be defective because it seems like my hands build up an immunity. \nAny ideas, tips, tricks?", "Dry Hands How can I avoid having dry hands in the winter? Every year it seems my hands get dry. Even using an excess amount of lotion will be defective because it seems like my hands build up an immunity. \nAny ideas, tips, tricks?", "Dry Hands How can I avoid having dry hands in the winter? Every year it seems my hands get dry. Even using an excess amount of lotion will be defective because it seems like my hands build up an immunity. \nAny ideas, tips, tricks?", "Dry Hands How can I avoid having dry hands in the winter? Every year it seems my hands get dry. Even using an excess amount of lotion will be defective because it seems like my hands build up an immunity. \nAny ideas, tips, tricks?" ]

[ "Try a lotion that contains glycerine and/or silicone. My brother was a chronic handwasher as a child and always had horribly chapped hands until my family doc told us to use Glysomed. Fixed him right up because it actually stops washing later from chapping your hands more. Even if you don't use it every time you wash, it still works.\n\n I'm a nursing student so I wash my hands and sanitize a LOT, so this winter that'll definitely be what I use (or maybe a store-brand version). ", "Don't wash your hands with regular soap and don't use regular shower gel. Use the kind that is 'good' for your hands and doesn't dry them out. Glycerine sounds a little extreme tbh but hey whatever works for you.", "http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/corn-huskers-lotion/ID=prod6057966-product\nThis sh*t is so slick, one can use it for hands, fap, hair, and feet without fearing the dry season.", "I suffer from dry hands and dry skin. I use petroleum jelly, it doesn't wash off with water, keeps hands soft longer than any lotion. another LPT: moisturizers in a tub are stronger than moisturizers in a dispenser bottle. e.g. cetaphil moisturizing cream will be more effective than cetaphil moisturizing lotion." ]

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[ "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. ", "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. ", "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. ", "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. ", "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. ", "Getting Duct Tape off a garage floor Instead of peeling off its doing [this](http://i.imgur.com/qzkbQ3u.jpg). \n\nNothing I've tried gets it up clean, much less lets me peel it off easily. " ]

[ "If you're not opposed to chemicals, give a product called \"Goof Off\" a try.\nYou can find it in the paint section of home centers.", "Try warming the adhesive with a blow dryer. Sometimes that will make it elastic enough to peel off. Oils will dissolve the adhesive, but will stain the concrete. ", "depending on the tape and if oil is a problem on the surface you can use wd40 on a cloth to remove residue. sometimes it works when other solvents fail", "Use eucalyptus oil. Removes everything including chewing gum, tape etc. Can also buy a water soluble version. Is a natural antibacterial t\nAs well. And all natural", "This sound strange, but acne products with Salicylic Acid take off adhesives really well in my experience. Rubbing alcohol sometimes works too. ", "Goo Gone is better than goof off. Also try soaking in rubbing alcohol over night if you can right something up to trap alcohol in a little puddle soak it can soak." ]

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[ "First time going on date with a girl I like Dont know what to do in general, taking her out for the movies this valentines day", "First time going on date with a girl I like Dont know what to do in general, taking her out for the movies this valentines day", "First time going on date with a girl I like Dont know what to do in general, taking her out for the movies this valentines day" ]

[ "Is there an area that gives you multiple activities to do? Like a shopping center with restaurants, a theater, and stores to browse? You can always start with dinner, and if the night is going well, make your way over to another activity.\n\nOne of my most memorable dates with my boyfriend was a platter of cheese fries followed by browsing the local book store.", "Agree with kimbylouwho, dates where you start off say in a coffee shop, or decent cafe, grab something nice to eat, doesn't have to be too fancy, then maybe a short walk to the cinema, then the movie, then if it's still early enough and a nice night, maybe a short walk after wards, if it's going well maybe a coffee to go. Splits everything up.\nDon't go too all out in buying massive bunches of roses, you are not trying to buy her affections, more show you are a good person, worth knowing and has self worth. If she offers to pay anything, I always like to reply with a smile \"Sure you can get the next one\". \nAnd relax and enjoy yourself. ", "Don't just talk about yourself - the conversation should be a give and take. Ask her some questions about her interests, likes, etc. Show her you're listening and interested by asking some followup questions, too. " ]

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