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[ "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible", "How do I make a flight attendants life easier? I'm going on a 17 hour flight tomorrow and want to be as nice as possible" ]

[ "My daughter is a flight attendant and her favorite is people just being polite. When they say please and thank you it’s the icing on the cake. And it’s true that while the plane door is open they are not getting paid. \nBe nice, don’t leave your trash (this includes your animal’s pile of poop on the floor) and try not to start arguments with other passengers (inevitably the flight attendants get called into it).", "Esp on holiday times but other times too I bring a Starbucks card for the attendants on the flight and say “thanks for helping me get to (my. Family, my dog, whatever).", "We always bring a gift, usually edible. It has to be store bought and sealed. Something small, one for each member of the flight crew, including the pilots. We also try to make it something local and a point of interest. It's a conversation starter and it seems to be appreciated.\n\n", "Starbucks gift cards. Maybe gift cards from other vendors in the mall like smoothie, pretzel, or better eating places. Not McDonalds. Not Taco Bell.\n\nFor them, of course. Expect to interact with at least 3 cabin crew members. Be prepared to be equally generous to all of them.", "I don't know if it annoys attendants, but what annoys the shit out of me is when you reach cruising altitude, the fasten belt sign goes off, and then about ten call bells all go off at once. \n\nFor the love of jeebus, can you give them ten minutes to get their shit together? What could possible have changed between take off and now that needs their attention?", "Bring an eye shade and some ear plugs, ask for anything you will need at your (and their) earliest convenience, put on your seat belt, watch a movie or two and then just go to sleep.", "Get your carry on settled immediately, and help other people. Flight attendants don't get paid until the plane takes off.", "A flight attendant's number one priority is getting the plane airborne. Stow your stuff, sit down, and fasten your seat belt so they can do that as quickly as possible.", "If your bag fits comfortably under the seat, stow it there instead of the overhead. They sometimes run out of space in the overhead and have to rearrange bags taking up their time. Have a good flight!", "As you get on the plane, make eye contact with whoever is greeting folks; “thanks for taking care of us today.” \n\nThank the attendants when they move aside so you can go down the aisle, don’t pretend they’re invisible. \n\nIf you’re able, offer to help your neighbors lift and remove luggage from overhead bins. \n\nGive staff the courtesy of at least some of your attention when they do the in-flight safety talk. \n\nIf your fellow passengers are being assholes, it goes a long way to ask the staff if you can help somehow; “I’m so sorry some people are choosing to be difficult and rude on this flight; can I help you guys out somehow?”\n(No lie, this got me a bottle of champagne once when someone was being a true asshole to the flight attendants, and all I did was ask if they were ok…)", "Please for the love of god don’t be me and my flight crying baby next to me for four hours and sick old women coughing for four hours flight from hell" ]

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[ "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own", "continuing to wfh after covid This is something many of us will face. Many companies have provided wfh spaces successfully but will attempt to reintegrate employees to the office. What wording are you using to avoid this? \n\nThe wording I’ve thought of:\n“I’m not open to doing that”\n\nBasically, I do not want to negotiate going back in...even for additional salary and benefits - nothing will replace having lunch with my children and those 10 hours a week not commuting. I do not want to be confrontational or long winded but don’t feel the need to explain WHY to my company. I am prepared to ultimately quit if necessary. I want to use my ability to quit in order to help change the culture (whether that’s me eventually throwing that card out there or just being able to stand firmly without fear)...hopefully me standing my ground will help those without the option to. \n\nI am open to coming into the office max once a month and with at least a week’s notice prior (no “come into the office tomorrow” games bc I deserve to not be ping ponged)\n\nMy personal situation at work has historically been flexible and accommodating...however I do not know how much pressure for returning will rain down from investors or upper senior management. Also, I hope this thread will help people in a variety of situations other than my own" ]

[ "My position was WFH full time prior to covid so nothing really will change for me. It just so happens that my prior position was in the office and I was resisting going WFH until my office space was closed completely during WFH, and as I thought, I fucking hate it. I used to like getting home from work since it was my refuge, now there is no delineation in my day any more and it fucking sucks.", "I watched something interesting about how the people insisting upon working from home could end up doing themselves out of a job.\n\nEventually when companies see how work can be carried out remotely it won’t be long before they outsource everything abroad or other cheaper cities. Obviously not applicable to al roles but I can see how this could happen.\n\nI’m good I work in healthcare, I’ve been at work the whole time. Just an observation about what others have been saying.", "Depending on the employer, they may be open to continuing remote-work, however in some cases they may not be. Public sector and unioninzed environments may have decades of built-up agreements and nuance that get in the way of effective remote work without a _darn good reason_, like a global pandemic.\n\nI don't have an answer, other than prepare yourself (both OP, and others) for the situation that your employer is either unable, or unwilling, to entertain continued remote-work. Will you come into the office? Will you refuse to come in, and accept reprimand, will you find another job that offers you remote work? The single best thing you can do in this situation is prepare a response for each conceivable type of response your employer may give.", "“I’m grateful to have had such a positive WFH experience during the past several months, and I appreciate *WORKPLACE*’S ability to foster such an efficient and productive WFH culture.\n\nWhile I anticipate that some individuals or groups will be going back to work in the office, I would prefer to continue to work from home. I have demonstrated my ability to not only meet, but exceed expectations while working from home, and I have found that my ability to focus and maintain a healthier mental state has been significantly improved while working from home.” \n\nSomething like that\n\nThough it all depends on what you do, how much of your job is “team” based vs individual, etc", "If you can show that you're more productive at home then it wouldn't make sense to stop it. Doesn't have to be true, the boss just has to believe it. Most employers don't care about what you want, only what will benefit them.\n\nMore productive at home.\nUsing less office resources.\nLess office conflicts.\nMore parking available.\n\nCould just think of ones that best suits your office environment.", "If anything you'd think companies would be more than happy to continue wfh. It would save them gobs of money not needing to lease massive office space and pay for cleaning, utilities, etc.\n\nYou would think as long as employees are getting their work done, they'd have no issues with it.", "I wouldn’t be that insistnt of ‘ I’m not open to that’ as setting absolutes is not a consturctive way to negotiate anything ( especially as this is a job that can decide that coming into work is a condition of employment.)\n\ninstead I would offer solutions that shows you are willing to compromise - offer to come in 1-2 regular days a week. (once a month is very infrequent!) Having some notice before you come in is good, and having regular days in the office weekly should stop random requests for you to come in ad hoc but a week in advance if there is something urgent for you to come in is a bit much (your days are supposed to be spent working so why wouldn’t you be able to come in with a day or two days notice? ) \n\nI would also offer to come in when there is a team meeting or more people are in the office, etc...\n\nYou need to show that you understand what value the work arrangements bring for the business ...WFH *and* why they would want people to come in once in a while - team morale, connections, etc. and how you are working with them to accomodate that. \n\nSo the ideal here ( for employee and for business) is a mix rather than 100% one or the other.\n\nAlso it sounds like you are gearing up for a fight...when in reality you might not need to. Most workplaces Ive heard are adjusting to the flexibiltiy well - nless you have a service job where they need to have someone there 9-5, most likley your workplace will be very flexoble and accomodating to you working from hime.", "I proved to my bosses that our office productivity increased while we were WFH. No more wasted time driving to meetings, water cooler breaks, distracting deliveries/ fire alarm drills/ annoying people who just \"drop by\" your desk and never leave... the list goes on. Plus less sick callouts, workers comp, and office drama is at an all time low. The bosses were more than happy to let all us adjust our schedules after I showed them how much $$$ it saved.", "I mean you can request it but your job isn’t required to let you keep the luxury of WFH. Feel free to ask but prepared for a no or being let go." ]

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[ "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you.", "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you.", "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you.", "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you.", "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you.", "How to not procrastinate Basically the title, I'm the worst procrastinator ever and it's ruining my time at school and I want to know how to stop. Thank you." ]

[ "Honestly, take a step back and think about where you are going in life, whether or not that is adequate, and how you might improve this path. Also clarify to yourself why you are on this path. Often, you will find needs for improvement or adjustment. The most important thing is to commit to your goals. To do this, set specific times for each day (which may change depending on your schedule) in which you are allowed to relax and play, and when you have to work. Have a list of these times in places you see all the time, like on the back of your phone, or on your desk. Then, truly commit to this schedule. You absolutely must change your lifestyle if it's not what you want it to be. By limiting your play time, and designating work time, you become much more efficient, and you find that it doesn't take as much time to do whatever work you're avoiding.\n\nPS To help with productivity, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Put yourself in a working mood. It sounds stupid, but it really helps me.\n\nPPS I know you just wanted tips on how to stop procrastinating, but that implies you're not happy with your lifestyle, and I thought I might be able to help. I did this recently and I found it to work for me.", "The best series of articles I've ever read on this topic starts here:\n\nhttps://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html\n", "Make your bed. Seriously. As soon as you get up, make your bed. Try it for a week, you'll be surprised at how positive and motivated it makes you feel 😊", "Make a checklist and put the due date as at least 24hours before the actual due date. Tackle them as if they are due at the time you say they are.", "I suggest two things to everyone I know. First, stop doing anything else for just a minute and think about what you aren't doing and honestly assess why. I often avoid things that seem big or difficult and often it's only a matter of my perception. Also, imagine the task being finished first, this gives you a positive goal at the beginning and makes pursuing it that much more rwearing to start!", "Get off Reddit! Lol, but seriously, scheduling what I need to do in a paper planner helps keep me on track. (right now, it's \"relaxing time\")" ]

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[ "How to unclog an elongated toilet? Happy After-Thanksgiving! I have one of those [elongated, oval toilets](https://thelonedrainer.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/round-elongated-toilet-seat-dimensions.gif?w=300) and a [circular plunger that's your standard size and shape](http://s3files.core77.com/blog/images/2014/06/0toiletclogs004.jpg). My toilet in my apartment is notorious for clogging. And yes, I've taken measures to prevent the clogging... it still happens from time to time.\n\nI've had to call the maintenance guy on more than 1 occasion to unclog it. It kind of embarrassing after a few times. I was here when he came by one time and I watched him to increase my \"handiness rating\" a little. He had the same kind of plunger I do. He had to put it at an angle, and more towards the center of the bowl, to get a proper seal in the oval toilet bowl. I started doing that with some success. But you have to get it just right to get a good seal. \n\nI'm tired of praying for a good seal with my plunger on my toilet when it clogs. I don't want to keep calling him for something so stupid. There's got to be some secret trick to unclog an oval, elongated toilet from those handier than myself. Help me Handy Kenobi, you're my only hope!", "How to unclog an elongated toilet? Happy After-Thanksgiving! I have one of those [elongated, oval toilets](https://thelonedrainer.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/round-elongated-toilet-seat-dimensions.gif?w=300) and a [circular plunger that's your standard size and shape](http://s3files.core77.com/blog/images/2014/06/0toiletclogs004.jpg). My toilet in my apartment is notorious for clogging. And yes, I've taken measures to prevent the clogging... it still happens from time to time.\n\nI've had to call the maintenance guy on more than 1 occasion to unclog it. It kind of embarrassing after a few times. I was here when he came by one time and I watched him to increase my \"handiness rating\" a little. He had the same kind of plunger I do. He had to put it at an angle, and more towards the center of the bowl, to get a proper seal in the oval toilet bowl. I started doing that with some success. But you have to get it just right to get a good seal. \n\nI'm tired of praying for a good seal with my plunger on my toilet when it clogs. I don't want to keep calling him for something so stupid. There's got to be some secret trick to unclog an oval, elongated toilet from those handier than myself. Help me Handy Kenobi, you're my only hope!", "How to unclog an elongated toilet? Happy After-Thanksgiving! I have one of those [elongated, oval toilets](https://thelonedrainer.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/round-elongated-toilet-seat-dimensions.gif?w=300) and a [circular plunger that's your standard size and shape](http://s3files.core77.com/blog/images/2014/06/0toiletclogs004.jpg). My toilet in my apartment is notorious for clogging. And yes, I've taken measures to prevent the clogging... it still happens from time to time.\n\nI've had to call the maintenance guy on more than 1 occasion to unclog it. It kind of embarrassing after a few times. I was here when he came by one time and I watched him to increase my \"handiness rating\" a little. He had the same kind of plunger I do. He had to put it at an angle, and more towards the center of the bowl, to get a proper seal in the oval toilet bowl. I started doing that with some success. But you have to get it just right to get a good seal. \n\nI'm tired of praying for a good seal with my plunger on my toilet when it clogs. I don't want to keep calling him for something so stupid. There's got to be some secret trick to unclog an oval, elongated toilet from those handier than myself. Help me Handy Kenobi, you're my only hope!", "How to unclog an elongated toilet? Happy After-Thanksgiving! I have one of those [elongated, oval toilets](https://thelonedrainer.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/round-elongated-toilet-seat-dimensions.gif?w=300) and a [circular plunger that's your standard size and shape](http://s3files.core77.com/blog/images/2014/06/0toiletclogs004.jpg). My toilet in my apartment is notorious for clogging. And yes, I've taken measures to prevent the clogging... it still happens from time to time.\n\nI've had to call the maintenance guy on more than 1 occasion to unclog it. It kind of embarrassing after a few times. I was here when he came by one time and I watched him to increase my \"handiness rating\" a little. He had the same kind of plunger I do. He had to put it at an angle, and more towards the center of the bowl, to get a proper seal in the oval toilet bowl. I started doing that with some success. But you have to get it just right to get a good seal. \n\nI'm tired of praying for a good seal with my plunger on my toilet when it clogs. I don't want to keep calling him for something so stupid. There's got to be some secret trick to unclog an oval, elongated toilet from those handier than myself. Help me Handy Kenobi, you're my only hope!" ]

[ "Hey. My go to when there is a clogged toilet is a \"power flush\". If the water has receded - use a 5 gallon bucket of water (I add a splash of bleach when it is available). I pour it right at the drain. It'll force it clear. Been working/owning bars and restaurants for years and 100% success rate. And I've seen some shit. \n\nIncidentally - plungers are discussing. Think about it. ", "The question is, where does it clog. For example my toilet just clogs, because the hole is too narrow/the curve too steep, so the mess is easily unclogged using a 1,5l PET bottle with the bottom cut off. If the mess sits deeper, a plumber's snake (that's what it's called if my google-fu is correct) may do the trick. Something like [this](https://i.imgur.com/mYC0ltM.jpg).", "If it's just toilet paper and shit you may want to just leave it for a while. Both will break down naturally. \n\nIf you need to get that bastard unclogged nothing beats a plunger. It does not have to fit snugly around the hole. All you are doing is applying more force to the water. They may be disgusting but I always keep a new plunger handy in the house. Once I uses it I just throw it away. I think I've only had two clogs in the last 10 years.", "I would suggest that you may have something in the trap of your toilet that is causing so many clogs. As a long time maintenance guy, I've had to pull many toilets because of chronic clogging. \nAmong the things I've removed from the trap are: toothbrushes, toilet paper holders, hot wheels cars , hair brushes, barbie dolls, a cap gun, and my favorite, a corn cob. \nPens and pencils are also common objects. " ]

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[ "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(", "Where should I aim at a urinal in order to minimize splash? Is it different for different heights of urinal or different shapes? where should I stand? I'm tired of that little bit of pee mist on my pant legs :(" ]

[ "Most urinals have the same basic shape: flat back with either curved sides or 90º angled sides extending toward you. If you aim at the point on the side just before it curves toward the back and angle slightly downward, the centrifugal force will keep the stream in its entirety against the urinal wall and gravity will pull it downward, all without splashback.\n\nIn other words, the less of an angle there is between your stream and the urinal, the less splashback you'll encounter.\n", "Dead center on the drain. Once you are peeing directly into a building puddle of pee, the foam suppresses the splashback. This should also be the loudest spot to pee. Make sure that you announce what you are doing quite loudly so that everyone in the vicinity can share in this wisdom.", "They've done research on this. [Aim for the fly](https://www.google.com/search?safe=off&site=&tbm=isch&source=hp&biw=1123&bih=606&q=fly+in+urinal&oq=fly+in+urinal&gs_l=img.3..0j0i24l3.687.3479.0.3745.13.9.0.4.4.0.157.1156.0j8.8.0....0...1ac.1.52.img..1.12.1170.yssYUuokZDE&gws_rd=ssl) or where the fly *would* be.", "Well you might try sitting down. Doesn't spray pee on the floor or your legs and you can check reddit while sitting comfortably. Double-win!", "Stand 5' away and use an arc. If there's any splash it won't reach you anyways. \n\nBe sure to work on your kegels. ", "Stand as close as you can at a downwards angle on the backboard.\n\nI usually do as much of a downwards angle as I can on the backboard. No splashback, none on your pants, none on the ground, none on your shoes.\n\nSrc: http://phys.org/news/2013-11-university-physicists-urine-splash-back-tactics.html", "You need to divide your labia far apart with one hand doing an upside down \"peace sign\" while lifting the urethral orifice with the other, index finger pulling up under the clitoris, and guide the stream to the drain avoiding the toilet mint. Saw it on redtube.", "What works well for me is continuous movement. Just not too much or you might look like you're having a quick wank...", "You need to learn science, my friend.\n\nI can only assume that if you're old enough to type questions on the internet, then you're old enough to have peed on different parts of a urinal and observe the results.", "If urinal is positioned too high or too low, use 45 Degree urinal heuristic.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yW4NbWovRBM", "Can I add a similar request. What about peeing standing up into a regular toilet? I find some are easier but some splash like crazy. Help?", "every time i used urinal at work, id notice liquid on my pants, tried different angles etc same thing till i noticed when i flushed it, the water pressure was too strong and made it bounce out of the bowl, onto my pants. so now i just use it, walk few feet away then flush. Dry pants!", "bottom left or right corner where the side walls start to curve to form the bottom of the urinal. This was answered earlier but can't seem to find it.\n", "You want the urine to hit the urinal surface at the lowest angle possible. The worst way would be straight on at 90° and the best would be almost parallel to the surface, around 1°. This is far more important than the distance it travels before impact. I think of it like a car hitting a guard rail. Head on would end in disaster, while grazing is no big deal in most racing games. Aiming for the hole works until you're almost done. Also to test your true non-splashing skill level you will need to wear shorts. ", "Us because our her only us some from know. No they because that go from see just there. \n\nFor than to give some to. Have way two new they have people. Even she back back him time no from. \n\n", "The farther the stream flows, the more it breaks into droplets. When it forms droplets, its creates splashes. Also, conservation of momentum is important - if a fluid is moving in one direction, it wants to keep going in that direction. \n\nTherefore... \n\nStand close, a bit to one side, pee down so it hits the near side and any splash will be also be mostly downward, but preferable so that it is a solid stream.", "Just how old are you, if you haven't figured out where to piss yes? Then you had better listen to this bit of advice, DON'T EAT YELLOW SNOW.", "Haven't seen this answer yet: On a lot of urinals, there will be a little shape in the bowl, often a little blue seashell. That's where you're supposed to piss for minimal splashback. It's where the face and sides of the urinal curve into each other and make a bowl. ", "Depends on the urinal. I always aim for the side, try to have your pee hit at the smallest angle possible and ride the bowl. For the tall urinals I always aim downwards and on the side.", "You should have figured this out by now. If you're capable of asking the question, you should already know the answer.\n" ]

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[ "How to love yourself and not rely on others (especially S.O.) to be happy? I️ recently broke up with my SO and now that I’ve been actually thinking about it, I️’ve been relying on her as well as my friends to be happy. If or when I’m ever alone, I️ tend to just sleep and lay around (or just be depressed in general). \n\nBut now that I’m closer to graduating, I️ realize I️ can’t rely on others and I️ need to be more independent. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Any tips are appreciated!\n\nHave a great Christmas everyone!", "How to love yourself and not rely on others (especially S.O.) to be happy? I️ recently broke up with my SO and now that I’ve been actually thinking about it, I️’ve been relying on her as well as my friends to be happy. If or when I’m ever alone, I️ tend to just sleep and lay around (or just be depressed in general). \n\nBut now that I’m closer to graduating, I️ realize I️ can’t rely on others and I️ need to be more independent. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Any tips are appreciated!\n\nHave a great Christmas everyone!", "How to love yourself and not rely on others (especially S.O.) to be happy? I️ recently broke up with my SO and now that I’ve been actually thinking about it, I️’ve been relying on her as well as my friends to be happy. If or when I’m ever alone, I️ tend to just sleep and lay around (or just be depressed in general). \n\nBut now that I’m closer to graduating, I️ realize I️ can’t rely on others and I️ need to be more independent. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Any tips are appreciated!\n\nHave a great Christmas everyone!", "How to love yourself and not rely on others (especially S.O.) to be happy? I️ recently broke up with my SO and now that I’ve been actually thinking about it, I️’ve been relying on her as well as my friends to be happy. If or when I’m ever alone, I️ tend to just sleep and lay around (or just be depressed in general). \n\nBut now that I’m closer to graduating, I️ realize I️ can’t rely on others and I️ need to be more independent. Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Any tips are appreciated!\n\nHave a great Christmas everyone!" ]

[ "Seems like the time you spend alone is getting you down. This is true for most ppl I know. Find a hobby, sport, study more,... To occupy that time and feel good about yourself because you accomplished something or just had a good time", "Well there’s no definitive answer for you, because everyone is so different in how they love themselves. I was once someone who put all my happiness on my ex, i took everything else for granted. It turned out to be unhealthy for me and for her. \n\nShe left on our 2 year anniversary but the life lessons were hitting me on the head immediately. It’s that you should put your happiness in different things that you have a passion for. I put mine in music, literature, technology, and all the things that interest me. With the same energy and enthusiasm I had with my ex. All that love mended into something else. \n\nRelying on others isn’t good, it can become a single point failure as well. I learned to love myself with help, but I thought a lot about who I am truly, what interests me, and what I want in life. Getting away from toxic people helped too, it helped define my self-worth more by ignoring the bad people and surrounding myself with more optimistic people who are also realists and they have the same ideals. \n\nYou should surround yourself with individuals who are ambitious, and they mentally and intellectually challenge you so that you can become better as a person. It’s only through the failure that you truly learn who you are though. So never be ashamed of that either. ", "I'm probably not going to address your question. There are things much easier to do when single. Do those things. Focus on the pure freedom you have and will lose in the next relationship. Go to the restaurant she didn't like. Hangout with the friends she didn't like and stay out getting wasted until 3am. Invite crazy guests over and make a giant mess that you don't clean up. Get pets. Buy expensive investment hobby things. No need to agree how to spend your money. On a bigger scale, apply to amazing jobs in other places because guess what? You can move without anyone's permission. When I need to feel better about myself in general, I workout more and then climb a mountain. ⛰ ", "When I went through that, I basically forced myself to do things I held off from doing when I was with them because I wanted them with me to do it. And I made myself interact with people I usually avoided because I wanted more time with my ex... It eventually grew to more connections and a stronger sense of self. Because in the end they are still things I wanted to do because I liked those things The people I spent time with (that didn't always make me happy, but were part of my life) made me remember who I was in other people's lives and find a better grasp of power over myself. Both these things combined, as it progressed, solidified my place in what I wanted to accomplish as a human being, and gain my bearings of where I was at in the moment. \n\nAnother tip is acceptance of the situation and acknowledging that you had given a bit too much of your sense of self away. Granted I'm sure they liked the same things you did, but accepting that that's how you bonded and that it doesn't change the fact that you still like those things will help you enjoy continuing with life in a better place than pure melancholy. Basically, acceptance will help you regain ownership of things you shared together.\n\nAlso when doing things I just felt lonely in doing, I did kinda force myself to do them alone until I enjoyed my freedom thoroughly. It helped me find which activities I preferred to do alone and which I was okay to have company in doing, but in both situations, I felt completely fine and satisfied accomplishing by myself" ]

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[ "How to change the pink indicator paper that says your cell phone has gotten wet. So. This has happened to me on multiple occasions, and even though I don't recall getting my cell phones wet, the pink paper on the inside says otherwise, and my warranty is void when it decides to believe it has a headphone jack (it doesn't) and that they're plugged in ergo it does not make noise. It doesn't seem that hard to tamper with, so I'm wondering if any of you have ever tried it. has it worked?\n\n", "How to change the pink indicator paper that says your cell phone has gotten wet. So. This has happened to me on multiple occasions, and even though I don't recall getting my cell phones wet, the pink paper on the inside says otherwise, and my warranty is void when it decides to believe it has a headphone jack (it doesn't) and that they're plugged in ergo it does not make noise. It doesn't seem that hard to tamper with, so I'm wondering if any of you have ever tried it. has it worked?\n\n" ]

[ "To prevent it from turning pink in the first place, when you get a new phone place a small piece of Scotch tape over the sensor", "If you have Verizon, that doesn't indicate a voided warranty if the representative knows their shit. That could have changed since I worked for them, but I doubt it.\n\nIn the PNW, you'll get pink indicators from merely living here in the winter. All of our training stressed that, and there is the documentation to prove it. I doubt other cell providers are very different.\n\nMake them show you the text that shows the warranty is voided." ]

[ 5, 2 ]

[ "How to stop mumbling when I speak. Seriously, I'm 25 and I can't help but mumble or stammer over my words when I talk. How do I stop this from happening?", "How to stop mumbling when I speak. Seriously, I'm 25 and I can't help but mumble or stammer over my words when I talk. How do I stop this from happening?", "How to stop mumbling when I speak. Seriously, I'm 25 and I can't help but mumble or stammer over my words when I talk. How do I stop this from happening?", "How to stop mumbling when I speak. Seriously, I'm 25 and I can't help but mumble or stammer over my words when I talk. How do I stop this from happening?" ]

[ "You need to look at the root cause of your mumbling, which is most likely your self-esteem and confidence, and years of negative thinking. I would suggest looking into CBT, when you begin to feel like what you're saying is valued and valid, then you'll speak clearer and louder. ", "When your alone (like in the bathroom), look in the mirror and practice speaking by deliberately opening your mouth wide and speaking at louder volumes. Say whatever you feel, even if its a sentence made up of fake words. The point is to hear yourself speak and become confident of yourself. When you reach a point you like, go outside, where the are people you are comfortable with and do this again. Slowly moving to places that are more public. I was a shy person who wouldn't speak up, learned how to from doing this. Good luck!", "This is may be off the wall or overkill, but could be a fun way to get at the problem: immerse yourself in youtube videos about speech. Specifically: linguistics, phonetics, lip reading, dialect, accents, etc. In particular look for things that teach you about how exactly the mouth forms the vowels and consonants. This awareness may carry over into more precise speech.", "I'm with you. I find this happens when I'm not interested in the topic / what I'm talking about OR when I'm really excited about it.\n\nI find now just concentrating on the words as they come out, rather than thinking too far ahead on your train of thought.\n\nA friend that had something similar used to tap his hand on his leg if he knew a stutter would be coming and tap the word out as he spoke them.\n\nGood luck with it though buddy" ]

[ 2, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you", "Failure in everything in life! Hello guys, \n\nI am in my 30's and I have not achieved anything so far. Whichever goals that I set for myself, I never attain them! I decide to eat healthy, after two days I go back to the old me. I decide to go for walks daily, after 2 weeks, I stop going. I decide to learn driving, after one month, I stopped going to the lessons. At the slight obstacle I meet on achieving my goals, I stop. I was going to college to get my undergrad degree. I quit after I faced some issues. I decide to learn swimming. Same thing. After 3 weeks, I stop going to the classes. \n\nI have come to a point in life that I am so unhappy with myself because I realised that I wasted 15 years of my life without achieving anything. I do not have any assets and nor do I have a good job. \n\nWhy am I such a quitter in life and lack self discipline? What is my problem!? \n\nI am only good at making plans and not executing them! I hate myself!!\n\nPlease help! \n\nThank you" ]

[ "There is some research that suggests making a dramatic overall to your routine to make an effective change in your life. So instead of doing one thing, literally change everything in your day and see what sticks.\n\nI believe in small incremental changes, but data has suggested otherwise for the general population.", "Self discipline is a factor in your situation but there are a few other things that could be holding you back. The first thing you need to do is get out of your head. You are your own worst enemy. You have to get to a point where you are not afraid to step out of your comfort zone and take some risk. You also need to realize that there are going to be obstacles , there will be hardships, but it is up to you to be hungry enough to to take those things head on and keep moving forward.\n\nWhatever it works that you want to accomplish, it should be goal oriented. Set realistic goals, write them down and then set a date for you to have that goal accomplished. Hold yourself accountable and limit the things that will distract you from your ultimate goal. \n\nMost importantly, you have to believe in yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself then you have already defeated yourself.", "Judgement of ourselves tends to be our biggest \"enemy\".\nOnce you learn to truly accept and love yourself for who you are, including all of your past \"mistakes\" you will be amazed how your life changes. True self acceptance is the release from hell on earth.\nMy father quit smoking 8 times before it stuck, my wife 6 times. We fall off the wagon, become demotivated or distracted it doesn't mean it is over it just means we have to try again IF we want to WHEN the time is right.\nJust remember you are absolutely perfect the way you are.", "I’m very similar.. I only like to do things I’m good at. I quit at something the moment I’m not a natural. \n\nAt least you know something about yourself! You’re aware of your weaknesses which many aren’t. Focus on something small. Every morning, read a bible verse. Or brush your teeth. Develop a routine. I believe in you!", "I’m the exact same way. I have untreated ADHD. I have tried college multiple times, not sure what I want to be when I grow up( I’m in my 40s) and I’m so indecisive. I always tell myself if I knew what I was passionate about, I would do it. At least I committed to my husband and kids. It wouldn’t have gone over too well if I changed my mind on them lol.", "It appears that you see success as binary instead of incremental. Real success is the culmination of many tiny successes. Instead of seeing it as a finished product being the only thing that matters, you need to see it as \"I completed day 30 successfully\" and then keep doing that until it's \"I completed the course\".\n\nSet smaller goals and achieve them. Celebrate smaller victories and reward yourself.", "I get angry with myself. I always tell myself not good enough, try harder, keep hitting your head in the wall until something gives in. Not a very healthy approach I still can't forgive myself, but I am doing better than before Its all I know", "Hello, maybe you have attention ADHD, it’s never late for searching for a solution with someone professional, ceek professional help. :)", "Resilience and tenacity aren't traits that are inherently in us. They are like a muscle that you have to exercise in order to develope.\n\nMy best advice to you is to keep trying. Every time you fail, tell yourself that it's normal, even expected to fail multiple times before succeeding.\n\nNothing is beyond your reach, just give yourself the space, time, and compassion to try and fail and try again.\n\nWhen I set goals, generally say something like \"a year from now, I want to be doing this/better at this/have made progress in this. This allows me the time to do something consistently for a few weeks, then not so consistently for a few weeks, rinse and repeat. If by the time the year is done I did the thing consistently even half the time overall then I'm happy with myself." ]

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[ "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!", "Looking for a guaranteed method to keep wasps away from an outdoor buffet Hi everyone,\n\nI’m hosting an outdoor party next month. It’s going to be an outdoor potluck style buffet with lots of sweet foods like cake, donuts, candy, fruit, etc. I already know that this is going to attract a ton of wasps.\n\nJust the other day, I was sitting outside with my baby who was eating very bland food in her high chair (plain French fries, nuggets, etc.) yet wasps started swarming around. \n\nI want to invest in a 100% guaranteed method that will keep wasps away during this party. I know that I could cover the food, but displaying it is part of the theme, so that’s not an option until maybe near the end of the party. Food will probably be out for 3 hours at least before being covered. \n\nWhat do you recommend for deterring wasps? I’m willing to fork out any amount of money as I’m allergic to bees and wasps, and so is my mom. I don’t want anyone to have to go to the hospital from being stung on this special day.\n\nThanks in advance for any suggestions!" ]

[ "There's trick with a brown paper bag, stick it somewhere visible and most wasps will avoid your place, thinking there's already a nest/hive!\n\nSee here\n\nhttps://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=fake+wasp+nest+diy", "Screened tents over the food areas. Or figure out where all the wasps are coming from and kill them.", "Transparent/ glass lids over the food so you can still see it.\n\nAnother thing that helps a bit, is place something very sweet out in the open, on the other side of the yard (where the guests don't have to be. Make sure kids won't play there either). Like mix a pile of sugar with a bit of water, or syrup or a very sugary drink.\nSo the wasps will be attracted to that and less of them will be attracted to the food. As you are displaying lots of sweet food the effect will be limited, it works best if your food is covered.", "Maybe an ugly solution but take a few plastic soda bottles, cut the tops off a few inches down, invert and insert. Put a mix of water, sugar/honey, salt and vinegar inside and mix well. Wasps love all those ingredients and will soon get trapped inside without being able to signal to other wasps to join. The vinegar will deter any honeybees, who shouldn’t bother you anyway. I set these traps around my beehives to stop wasps robbing in late summer.", "There are little domed plate covers made of mesh, so that can at least keep the bugs off of the plates.", "I saw in a restaurant mosquito lamps hanging. Not sure if the wasps will be more attracted to purple UV lights than food.", "Have Benadryl that isn’t outdated. A doctor told my mom once that one won’t cut it, to take two. Don’t whack them. Heard once it notifies the rest of an attack. Or don’t run away. But move away without flapping your arms. Covering food seems to be main to do. \n\nNo idea if scents works…but….\n\nhttps://www.thespruce.com/wasp-repellant-5111360", "I have seen a device called a “fly fan”. \nSeems effective for flies… maybe someone here can comment if works for wasps." ]

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[ " in the kitchen i just saw two mice. no idea where they came from and it was just out of nowhere, ive lived here since june and ive never seen any droppings . im trying to see what i can do about them tonight since no place is open and maintenance cant get here til the morning. is there some kind of poison or anything i can do tonight too get rid of them, im honestly afraid to leave my room\n\n", " in the kitchen i just saw two mice. no idea where they came from and it was just out of nowhere, ive lived here since june and ive never seen any droppings . im trying to see what i can do about them tonight since no place is open and maintenance cant get here til the morning. is there some kind of poison or anything i can do tonight too get rid of them, im honestly afraid to leave my room\n\n", " in the kitchen i just saw two mice. no idea where they came from and it was just out of nowhere, ive lived here since june and ive never seen any droppings . im trying to see what i can do about them tonight since no place is open and maintenance cant get here til the morning. is there some kind of poison or anything i can do tonight too get rid of them, im honestly afraid to leave my room\n\n", " in the kitchen i just saw two mice. no idea where they came from and it was just out of nowhere, ive lived here since june and ive never seen any droppings . im trying to see what i can do about them tonight since no place is open and maintenance cant get here til the morning. is there some kind of poison or anything i can do tonight too get rid of them, im honestly afraid to leave my room\n\n" ]

[ "Go to the store and buy some mouse traps and set them with peanut butter \n\nPut them in near the walls and corners and dark areas like between wall and fridge or under the ledge by the dishwasher etc\n\nThose suckers will be gone in 24 hours or less", "Mousetrap, as others have said. Peanut butter is also a perfect bait.\n\nLPT: Set the trap inside a small brown paper lunch bag. Once the trap has caught a mouse you can throw it out bag, trap, mouse and all without having to see or touch it.", "You will probably see a field mouse every fall, weather gets cold and they try to get inside somewhere warm.", "As a former pest control guy... You want to lure them out of your house with bait boxes. When they eat the bait they will get thirsty and go to a water source and die. If this happens in your house you will smell something worst than sewage for 2 solid weeks. If you want to bait inside with traps you set. You will have the body alive or dead and might have to drown it to finish in a bucket of water. I would rec peanut butter and or beef jerky to bait the inside traps. Set those traps daily for a week and they’re all out. If the rat is near the trap it’ll go off in 5 minutes. You can put in attic or on ground but they might not come out til 5am. If you live near a water source like a lake or something. You could see rats more than others around your area and they destroy the interior and make holes. But are not protected by any dumb endangerment laws like birds invading your house and making holes to live in and poop down the side of your house and neighbors" ]

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[ "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!", "How to deal with loud eating people People who slam and slosh food around in their mouth, some even with the mouth wide open whilst doing so. How do I deal with it?!" ]

[ "I have the same issue, but what gets me more is when they have a mouth full of food and they start talking to you....\n\nIn the end I can't change them, so I try to focus on something else, just get my mind off of it. It's hard to do and sometimes it doesn't work but it's something that I have to deal with so I do my best. \nNow if they're my kids they get told \"chew with your mouth closed\" and \"don't talk with your mouth full.\"", "I always wondered why a person that chews loudly or with their mouth open, wouldn't watch all the others at the table who don't, and conform. As a child I would get \" the stare\" from my dad if I made to much noise at the table. I have friends that are Laotian, and they are very noisy while eating almost to the point of being comical.", "You just have to bear it. Pointing it out, no matter how carefully, would be too rude. I would definitely limit my exposure to it as much as possible.", "I complain all the time about loud eating. One of the people sent me this. Apparently, I have the problem?!?\n\nhttp://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/medical_examiner/2015/08/misophonia_research_disorder_of_irritation_by_chewing_lip_smacking_sniffing.html", "\"chew with your mouth close the food taste better and i dont have to hear you smack your lips\" usually works..", "Excuse, I know this can sound a bit rude, but I prefer say this to you privately, I don't wanna embarass you in front of people, but ey, I think it's better for both of us if I tell it to you. You are making an awful noise while eating, and except if you have asian culture, it is very not polite over here. Besides that, I think it's not appropriate in our \"work?\" environment. \nPlease, take it as a friendly advice, and not as a criticism. ", "Don't eat with them. lol.\n\nIf you must, eat somewhere public, like a restaurant, where the din of background noise will drown out their lack of manners.\n\nIf at home, put on some music, or resort to watching TV with them. Anything to drown out the sound of them working the cud", "Different people have different mouths. Lots of people eat 'in a gross way' because quite simply, the biomechanical structure of their mouth isn't suited to it.\n\nTheres also social upbringing - a lot of table manners is cultural and focussed on by the well off. This person might not have had a privileged upbringing- thats a reason to tolerate them more, not less. " ]

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[ "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated.", "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated.", "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated.", "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated.", "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated.", "Tips for going to a comic/pop culture convention? I'm going to a comic convention this April and I've never been to one. I don't want to go in blind so I want to know some tips before going and stuff to watch out for. Any help is appreciated." ]

[ "Bathe. You would be astounded by the number people who want to mix with others in a confined space while ignoring personal hygiene.\nBring money. If you’re looking to get autographs and merchandise it’s going to cost you.\nWhen meeting a celebrity at a signing table be brief, be pleasant and be yourself. Some celebs will chat for a while, so enjoy that but most want to get through as many folks as possible.\nGo visit artists alley. See new talent and maybe meet legends like Neil Adams.\nBe nice to cosplay girls...but not creepy. Tip them for pics. \nComplement fellow attendees who are in costume, they went to a lot of trouble to look good and they enjoy the attention.\nHave fun!", "Bring a small backpack with some water and snacks. At every Con I've been to, the lines for food vendors have been horrible and the prices are usually double or triple what you'd normally pay. ", "Wear comfortable shoes. Standing in lines and walking around on a concrete arena floor will get painful quickly. Bring a small throw pillow if you plan on waiting in line for an hour(s ?) for some autograph and enjoy comfort as you are sitting on the ever increasingly hard floor.", "Random tips: \n\nThe second day is usually the most crowded.\n\nYou will see lots of crazy deals.\n\nCheck the program ahead of time so you know which panel you want to go to.\n\nRandom dancing is a thing.\n\nAsk before taking a photograph of people.\n\nSnacks and water bottles. Bring them. \n\nReconnoiter the convention center ahead of time. Check out everything on Google Earth. Visit their website.\n\nWill they have chairs at the convention? This is important. \n\nGo as EARLY as possible. Parking is awful.\n\nCheck the vendors ahead of time. \n\nWhile having a list of scheduled events and visitors show up, do not rely on the list. Things change and SWIFTLY. \n\nAutographs will probably cost money and a lot of money.\n\nChoose a seat by the aisle if possible. \n\n", "Buy passes for autographs ahead of time (if you want them). Lines are damn near impossible without buying passes first. Also look online for speakers or special events, and plan your day(s) around that. If you are dressing up, look out for themed photo shoots for a character or show. Bring money and get a map. If you are going with a group, pick out a meeting place and time to join back together - cons can get really crowded.", "*Drink water, eat at least some food that isn’t horrible for you, bring hand sanitizer and take vitamins or emergenC leading up to the con. Lots of people = lots of germs and ConFlu is real as hell. \n\n*Bring a micro tabletop game or a set of cards (cah, anyone?) if you plan on going to any popular programming. Lines/Wait times are boring. \n" ]

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[ "Focus on your form rather than how much weight you are lifting. It may take weeks but if you use good form eventually you will start adding weight at a steady rate. Poor form will lead to less that optimal results, and very likely injuries. \n \nAlso, focus on complete control of the weight. for example, when doing bench press, lower the weight from your extended arm position to your chest at a slow constant rate, it should take about 3-5 seconds. Count them out loud or have your spotter do this for you.", "Re-rack weights, all of them and wipe your bench/machine/whatever youre on down after youre done. These are common courtesy and wiping down is just hygienic. No one wants staph infections.", "-Do not curl in the squat rack. If you must, at least make sure someone isn't wanting to use it.\n\n-If you're going to lift weights, do something other than direct arm work. Those broceps will grow without doing bicep curls x100000. Don't waste your time with too many isolation movements - stick with the compounds. Deadlift, squat, bench, dips, chinups,pullups,rows, overhead press\n\n-re-rack your weights\n\n-wipe down equipment after using\n\n-don't be a hero and lift more weight than you can without bad form, or swinging the weight up\n\n-Ideally, don't piss around directly infront of someone who is attempting some heavy lifts (squats)\n\n-don't fill up your 1+ litre watter bottle at the fountain if it's busy and others are waiting.\n", "If you're just starting I'd recommend:\n\nhttp://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Starting_Strength_Wiki \n\nMark Rippetoe is awesome and a basic foundation of solid strength is needed before you start on any \"body building\" routine. \n\nAs far as diet goes; find something you can do without too much trouble and stick with it until summer. Then find something a little harder to do, and repeat. ", "There are no shortcuts. Don't focus on the wrong things. What kind of supplements you take, what time you work out, what exact program you use, etc. etc. etc. are responsible for *optimizing* your returns. What you get out of the gym is 99% how hard you work. Period. The End. Squeezing out an extra set on an exercise is FAR more important to muscle growth than any supplements you take.\n\nDon't try to find some magic program that will get you ripped quick. That doesn't happen. If you want to get in shape, you have to work hard for a long time. That is all you need to know. Any other discussions are white noise. If you're not busting your balls as often as you can get to the gym, then nothing else you do will matter. Grab a simple beginner program that people have been using for decades and follow it. People got in great shape for millennia before all these supplements and research and shit ever existed. Just bust your ass and be prepared to do so for many years and try to block out all the internet discussion. it *will not* help you at this point in your training, it will just distract you.", "Some cheap flip flops (old navy usually has them for a couple bucks) for the showers. A bag larger than something that will hold a pair of shoes. I spent 15-20$ at Ross, got a nice swiss army brand bag that is about 2.5-3 cubic feet which holds a change of work clothes nicely. \n\nStart out slow or moderate when it comes to membership and attendance. A lot of people get burnt out really quick because they don't feel they're seeing results fast enough. Go Mon-wed-fri and see how you like the place and equipment. Memberships sometimes are catered to those kinds of things so you're not spending as much and getting acquainted with this new part of your weekly routine. Then, if/as you become more dedicated or comfortable with the schedule and process, go more often (4-5 times a week). \n\nALSO, for the love of pete...be sure to watch what you're eating at the same time. More vegetables for snacks (carrots, celery etc). This will help your weight loss simultaneously with lifting. You'll feel better and accelerate weight loss results.", "BE ABLE TO SAY NO to a person that calls and asks you to do something \"fun\" at a time conflicts with your lifting plans.\nIf its a big deal, you can meet them later. \n\nAlso, eat properly. You'll be surprised how much of a difference saying no to anything fried can make when going out to eat. ", "You have to figure out what you want. If you want to increase the amount of weight you can lift, that means one type of exercise routine. If you want to increase your cardiovascular endurance that means a different routine. Are you trying to lose weight or put on muscle? \n\nBesides clarifying that, drink plenty of water, wear comfortable clothing, and bring a snack for afterwards. ", "Be considerate of your fellow gym-goers and wipe machines down when you're done with them. Taking a break between sets is fine but don't sit on a machine forever doing nothing. Don't take phone calls when you're out on the gym floor- it is both obnoxious and potentially dangerous. Mostly, just be aware of your actions and their effects on others. A safe, clean, and polite environment benefits everyone.", "If someone asks how many sets you have left on a piece of equipment, DO NOT answer with \"I just started\" that does not answer the question posed. \"How many\" questions generally require a numerical response to correctly answer.", "Don't be a douche like 99% of the other tools in the gym by only focusing on arms, chest and triceps. Don't forget to work out your shoulders and back, too. Hell, I don't even bench press (use dumbbells for flat/incline) ,nor do I have a dedicated arm day because my back exercises take care of my biceps more than curling does.", "Yo! Champ in making! I hope you brought a fiery passion! This gym manager prefers steel-type equipment! ", "Make sure you go for the full range of motion. Don't be the guy doing 250lb bench presses, but only 3\" of motion. Get that bar all of the way down and then all the way up. If you can't do it with the same amount of weight, then lower the weight and try again. The same applies to all of the motions. Get the most out of them.\n\nReal exercise is tough. If you are going to the gym and it is easy, then you're doing something wrong. It may simply be time to switch to a new routine or you may just not be pushing hard enough.\n\nLifting weights doesn't have to bulk you up. As a matter of fact, it is pretty tough to do. Instead, it can make your body look great, feel great and become so much more useful.\n\nThis is one I can't stress enough. If you are just starting out, TAKE PICTURES! I just started working out about a year ago and I'm so disappointed that I didn't take progress pictures. I've made a huge difference in my body and my face, but it is sometimes hard to see it without something to compare to. Just take a boring picture of yourself from the front and the side with as little clothing on as possible. You'll be amazed at how much you'll see if you compare that way than to just checking yourself out in the mirror every day.", "1) Be patient. Results will show. Just wait. \n\n2) HEALTHY DIET! \n\n3) Don't be afraid to ask others how to operate machines/to share good workout routines. \n\n4) Do not give advice on form to other people unless they ask. \n\n5) REMEMBER THIS no one judges someone negatively for working out. Be confident respectful, and people will respect you! \n\nNow go have some fun in the gym! ", "**Find a gym partner**\n\nLike most people I used to dread going to the gym because I didn't think much of it, but my new roommate pushes me to go with him 5 times a week and I've never felt better in my life. I run a 10 minute mile (considering that I still smoke), life weights, and play basketball any chance I get now. Not only do I have fun and meet new people, but I actually enjoy it. \n\nP.S. I got 3 numbers in last 2 months (got more than the number, though), and I'd attribute 70% of it to having more confidence with myself after working out consistently. ", "Remember, no amount of excercise can compensate for a bad diet! If you're trying to shed a few pounds/kilos, you need to get your diet in check first. ", "check out /r/fitness.\n\nBring clothes that allow a good range of motion, ie: don't squat in jeans. You want your body to be doing all of the support, not your clothing.\n\nBring a refillable water bottle and if your gym doesn't have towels, bring a towel.\n\nFocus more on your form than the weight. Poor form will fuck you up. Proper form is essential to make sure you don't hurt yourself.\n\nIf somebody has headphones in (which is likely), get their attention before talking to them.\n\nNever, ever, ever interrupt somebody while they're in the middle of a set. Seriously. Don't do it.\n\n\nWhen you're done, put your weights back, where they go. Keep the gym organized for other people. Don't be one of those shitbags that puts 5 plates on the bar, squats it, and then leaves it on the bar for somebody else to clean up.\n\nWipe down the seat of any equipment you use, nobody wants to sit in your sweat and funk.", "[This.](http://izit.org/sites/izit.org/files/imagecache/Standard_View/1297007477007_43185.gif)\n\nBeing able to run for a solid half hour in just nine weeks of training sounds totally implausible, but I've done it twice now (quit because running in the winter sucks).\n\nAlso, if you're having trouble keeping up with the schedule, just repeat a week.", "How to up your bench press and general tips for gym:\n\n Stretch and Warm Up\n\nI warm up for like 10 minutes before I get to work. Shoulder rolls. Windmills (nice and slow). Lateral Raises starting with 2lbs and working up to 5's. Front Raises too.....Just like a high performance car man. You don't start a car and start chirping gears. Nice and easy. Let your body get in the mood. You don't just stick your dick in your girlfriend without getting her wet, right? You warm her up. Foreplay.\n\n Identify and Attack Supporting Muscles - My bench started getting stratospheric when I started dedicating time and effort to building a heavy back. My routine -\n\n 2A) Lat Pull Down/Close Grip Pull Downs - 21 x 2, 14 x 2, 7-10 x 2\n\n(I alternate, one day lat pull down, the next time I hit back I do close grips. . Everything I do is multiples of 7.)\n\n 2B) Cable Row/Bent Over Row - 21 x 1, 14 x 1, 7-10 x 3\n\n 2C) Chins Ups - 3 Sets to absolute failure. \n\n 2D) Alternate Machine Work/Deadlift\n\n 2F) Neck - Alternate Dumbell/Barbell Shrugs - 21x2, 14x2, 7x2\n\n3) Big Breath In - Big Breath Out\n\n4) Visualize - When you are going to sleep the day before a big bench day - go through the event in your mind - See yourself doing the exercise. Live the lift in your imagination. Go over being successful multiple times.\n\n5) Solid Tri Development - it's 2/3's of your arm man. I absolutely destroy my tri's every chance I get. Shoulders are weird....I do a lot more rep work than heavy work.\n\n6) Therapy - Ice your shoulders after benching. You recover hella quicker. Take hot shower and just let your shoulders soak.\n", "* On days you plan on hitting a particular muscle or group of muscles, make sure to do at least 3 different exercises for the same muscle. So if you wanted to work on biceps, for example, pick any three from this [list](http://exrx.net/Lists/ExList/ArmWt.html#anchor1910082). \n\n* Speaking of that list, [exrx.net](http://exrx.net/index.html) is a great place for beginner and pro information. \n\n* Go pick up some [Creatine monohydrate](https://www.google.com/#hl=en&sugexp=les%3B&gs_rn=1&gs_ri=hp&tok=_jKIEkTEYsgHHhF_Rwp8ig&cp=10&gs_id=3t&xhr=t&q=creatine+monohydrate&bpcl=39967673&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbo=u&tbm=shop&source=og&sa=N&tab=wf&ei=QnnPUKOPDqWZiALEzoDIBA&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.1355325884,d.cGE&fp=d19c42f99d4c7519&biw=1015&bih=918). Top hit is what I use. Take 1 teaspoon daily. You will retain more water, build muscle faster, and it's completely safe. There have been studies that show other positive effects of creatine, such as on [brain function](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1691485/) (protective effects vs. neuro-degeneration as well), can [decrease](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22009139) oxidative [stress](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22080314), and may be protective against [heart disease](http://www.lef.org/magazine/mag2003/mar2003_report_creatine_01.html). \n\n* Personally, I'm a big fan of pre-workout supplements. Generally they are referred to as Nitric Oxide enhancers. These work by increasing the oxygen intake of your cells in your body. Some are also loaded with other stuff like caffeine to make you bursting with energy. My favorite pre-workout supplements are [jack3d](http://www.gnc.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12553280) (grape is probably best flavor), [c4](http://www.gnc.com/product/index.jsp?productId=12982109) (I'm a fan of their Watermelon flavor) and [N.O.-XPLODE](http://www.gnc.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11031285) (this is one of the larger companies that offers a caffeine free nitric oxide enhancer). \n\n* As others have mentioned, form is more important than weight. \n\n* If you are looking to build overall strength, you need to do squats. It's basically the gold standard of weightlifting. \n\n* You should take in *at least* 1g of protein per kg of body weight. Many suggest 2g/kg. Don't go crazy though (3g/kg or more is a bit excessive), and too much protein can damage your kidneys. \n\n\n", "bring a towel.\nwipe down your machine.\nre-rack your weights.\ndon't sit on the locker room benches bare assed.\ndon't leave your dirty clothes on the ground while you're taking a shower.", "Start with starting strength, transition to something like lyle mcdonalds generic bulking routine or Bryan Haycocks HST after 4-6 months. Get your nutrition in check. It's actually extremely easy to be in good shape I don't know why it's seen as such a challenge", "Something I made for my bro for his Bday present, a bodybuilding workout. If you have any queries about this just reply to it and I can help you out, most of these execises are on youtube but under a different name:\n\nINITIAL NOTES\n\n\nA lot of what I have written here is just advice I have got from many people. Generally, I will not take anyone’s advice unless they are big themselves; it is their way of proving their qualifications to me. \n\nI will try and point out where my own insight is, as I guess that will be more relevant to you. I have experimented with lots of different techniques over the 3-4 years I have been training, but of course with the time it takes to see results, it is a slow process.\n\nI am going to write this as condescendingly as possible so that I do not miss anything, so if you know stuff just skip it.\n\nNUTRITION\nBy far the most important part of properly training for strength and/or size. I would say that any good results are 80% food and 10% gym and 10% genetics. We both lucked out on the genetics but all that means is that you have to be more careful with your diet and it will not matter as much.\n\nA lot of people advocate many different kinds of diets, and there is a lot of good science behind both. The old-school way of eating every 2-3 hours is the mantra most stick by, but I have read many studies which go for the ‘macro’ or ‘caveman’ diet. This is based on the philosophy / science that your body does not care when it gets its food, as long as you hit your daily macros of protein, carbs etc you will be fine. \n\nFor me, I follow the 2-3 hour system basically. You try and eat 20-30g of protein every 2-3 hours. Learning protein content is handy – for example 4 eggs is about 32g, a pint of milk is about 10g. In the beginning, I actually set 5 different alarms on my phone to remind me, because if you do this diet right you will basically never feel hungry and will forget to eat. If you are feeling even the slightest bit of hunger, you are behind on the diet, the food should be cooked already by this time. Having said that, it is very difficult to do both motivation-wise and in a practical sense, particularly as you are working full-time. To get around this, last year I switched up a bit. I used to get a much bigger meal (twice as big sometimes) and try and time it so that I would finish it, then have a shower, get dressed and then go to work. At work I would eat a normal meal during the lunchbreak, then eat again when I got home (and then went to sleep cos it was 7am…). Downside is you feel terrible after shovelling so much food in your mouth but it gets you through the first 5 or so hours until lunchbreak. \n\nPreparing food is probably the worst part. I feel like I am always cooking. I picked up some Tupperware containers that have screw-on lids rather than snap-on lids (woolworths sells them), as the chicken / steak is greasy and cannot leak out of screw-on lids.\n\nThe critical thing for me is the timing of meals around the gym. I hate training on a full-ish stomach because then I cannot push myself too hard as I will hurl (it has happened before). I like to eat a meal an hour before the gym, then protein shake 30mins before, hit gym, protein+brown sugar straight after (helps restore sugar levels you have just expended) and then another meal.\n\nIf I ate 3 or 4 hours before bed, then I will generally have a pint of full cream milk before bed to give my body something to feed off. It can also be an idea to mix organic peanut butter in there for joint management.\n\nWhey protein is the only protein you want. It is fast absorbing and does not have any shit in there. Avoid everything else – particularly ‘weightgainers’. You drink protein shakes to get protein. I was recommended Horley’s ICE Whey. It is very pure (~90%) and tastes nice (I have only tried chocolate). I use this site http://www.sportyshealth.com.au/ ; lame as hell design but cheapest I found when I researched a few years ago. They also have free shipping if you spend over $50 and send free shirts as well. I got a free shirt and shaker with my last batch.\n\nThe whole cream milk after the gym (mentioned below in the ingredients list) is because of the combination of stuff that milk has. Whey protein is from milk but then you also have some good fats in there and it has lactose, a very good post-workout drink. I normally drink enough to feel sick, then try and cram the chicken breasts on top of it.\n\nAlcohol. Always a tricky one. I personally have cut right back on my drinking since I started taking gym seriously. Shannon (bodybuilding friend who came over for dinner once) says it stops protein synthesis by 90%. A lot of people do not advocate drinking at all when working out. \nI am not sure it has helped by not drinking, because obviously there does not exist an identical me which did everything else I did + drank. However, in the first year, drinking and lots of dairy in the diet helped me gain a lot of fat (and thus appear bigger) though I would not recommend it (explained below). I think the main reason people do not drink is that to fit a 4 day split into a 7 day week is tricky enough with all the other time commitments. If you wake up feeling seedy or even slightly under the weather after a night of drinking, it is almost impossible to bring yourself to do a leg day (or just push yourself really hard in general).\n\nSo as you can see, the diet is pretty bland, but it has everything you need. I stay away from all processed foods and sugar as much as possible. A lot of people are a lot sloppier with the diet but then they have to do lots of cardio to burn off the excess fat. I used to have brown rice with the diet as well, but as I carry my food everywhere and rice goes bad quickly (and STINKS) I have avoided it recently. I found I used to fill up on the rice and not eat all the chicken, and I think proteins are your priority.\n\n\n\nCont in reply\n\n\n\n\n", "Record your workouts. Bring a notebook to the gym and write down what exercises you perform, how much weight you used, and how many sets you did. This makes it much easier to choose weights the next time you perform that workout. \n", "Keep in touch with the community at /r/Fitness. It's a large community that aims to see success at the gym for everyone. Also, as another has mentioned, Starting Strength is a great place to get started.\n\n", "Just stare at random people. Then ask them what the fuck they're looking at.\n\nThat will settle you in nicely.\n", "Don't focus on reaching a number of reps (most people do anywhere from 8-15 reps per exercise). What you should be doing is something along these lines for each exercise you do:\n\n* Warm-up set (easy 15-20 reps)\n* Moderately heavy set (8-15 reps)\n* Heavy set (to exhaustion - you should get to the point that you can not do another rep)\n* Optional second moderately heavy set (8-15 reps)\n* Optional burnout set (light weight, again to exhaustion)\n\nYour goal in going to the gym should not be to burn through some arbitrary number of sets (whether you got a workout plan online or even worked with a trainer). You should be pushing yourself to exhaustion and forcing your body to adapt to the new stress you're putting it through.", "Do something very simple and only go twice a week. If you try and go 5 days a week you'll burn out. Do something you can actually manage, like twice a week and a simple routine (maybe squats, bench press, row, pull up, dips) you're more likely to stick to it and thus more likely to have it NOT be a resolution next year as you'll already be doing it.", "Depends on your goal really,\n\nIf you're looking to build muscle then focus on the stretch and contraction of your muscle. The focus has to be on form, picking a weight that's hard to do with great form from 8-12 reps. Your goal here is to literally tear the muscle up so it rebuilds itself larger. [As per Kai Greene](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8wZNGL4iA4)\n\nFirst and foremost diet is key, you can work your ass off but if you're not getting the right amount of calories, and macro nutrients you won't be gaining as much as you should. Here's a [good resource](http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/shortcut-to-size-nutrition.html) for that information.\n\n", "new folks - *read your gym contract*.\n\nSorry, yeah, this isn't a lifting tip.\n\nMost of you will be paying for the gym for months or *years* after you stop going in a few months. Gyms **depend** on you doing this, and actively make it difficult or impossible to end your membership. Some require you to terminate your contract in person, some require it in writing. Know what you're getting yourself into, and figure out how to get yourself out.\n\nI propose - instead of joining a gym, why don't you try doing something simpler, like [5BX](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/5BX) or something where you don't have to buy equipment. If you can stick to that for 6 months, then add in other activities, possibly including a gym membership.\n\nsource: me. sigh.", "don`t go crazy with a 5-day split and rigid diet, only to either get injured or quit completely due to demotivation in the first month. I have seen it time and time again, people starting out at 200 miles per hour, and the only tips I have for them is to just have fun with it, dont worry about something ridicilous like the \"peak on my bicep\" or \"timing my creatine mix perfectly to t+5.2 minutes after the last set\", and rather focus on incorporating routine you can (and want to) live with. \n\n\nyou dont HAVE to train and eat like mr olympia to both look and feel good, but you WILL need continuity. dont go so hard you end up going home - have fun with it. :)", "Try Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. It's more fun and more mentally challenging than typical weightlifting programs, which makes it easier for you to show up again and again week after week. Message me if you need help finding a school in your area or have more questions.", "Take a pack of cards, shuffle them up. If you count Kings = 13, queens = 12, Jacks = 11, Aces = 1, the cards add up to 368, go through the deck and perform the amount the card is, flip a 9...do nine push-ups! Try to get through the whole deck everyday! This can work with any type of body's eight workout...push-ups,sit-ups,pull-ups,mountain climbers, etc.\n\nGreat workout that can be done anywhere with a sense of accomplishment!", "Start with a warm up on the treadmill, get a sweat going. Hit the treadmill after your done working out. \n\nTry not sitting down when your not lifting weights. I see a lot of casual people who workout sitting around doing nothing. \n\nMix up your routines, keep your body guessing and don't work the same muscle twice. \n\nAlways get some protein in your body after your lift, but do yourself a favor and stay away form shitty food after you've worked out. Try eating something you normally wouldn't eat after a lift, like a salad or a skinned chicken breast, stay away from processed foods!! Treat yourself to veggies and fruits right after you get done working out. \n\nListen to your body. If something hurts, don't push it. \n\nThere are a lot of muscles in your body and it takes different lifts to hit certain muscles, so try new things all the time. \n\nJust GO to the Gym!! The hardest part about working out is the drive to the gym, the easy and fun part is the lift and the way you feel about yourself, the only shitty part is the drive, so get over it and get to the gym!", "Some I didn't see quickly going through page:\n\nGo with a friend or training partner to stay motivated, if there are two water fountains use the shorter one to fill water bottles, don't be afraid to ask a trainer on how to do an exercise correctly, use the mirrors to check your form not to admire yourself, don't take long breaks sitting on the machine other people are most likely waiting to use it.\n\nAs have already been posted:\n\nRe-rack weights, wipe down equipment, remove weights off bar when done, use good form", "Since we are discussion New Years resolutions... You can easily tell who takes their so called 'resolutions' seriously by how they word their goals.\n\nIf you say \"I am going on a diet\", I will laugh at you, and you will fail. Going on a diet is like going on a vacation; you do something for a week, then you stop. If you say \"I am changing my diet\", I might actually take your claim seriously.", "Ive learned a lot of good form and workout advice from Scott Herman. He has a ton of videos on youtube for free. Its helped me a lot. Check it out!", "It can seem intimidating, but if you don't know how to do something like work a piece of equipment, just ask somebody. People love to help out and share their knowledge, especially in the gym.\n\nAlso, vary your workouts - if you do the same movements and work your body the same way every workout, you will see gains for a little while, but eventually you'll plateau.", "If you're in a fitness class, don't bitch about it, or even talk excessively. We are all there to work out, not to socialize. Don't complain out loud about how hard everything is, you'll just drag down those around you. \n\nAlso, wear deodorant. ", "If you're going to be sweating like crazy, but don't want to visibly look like a giant walking pit stain: Wear shirts that don't change color when wet... mainly black, white, dark blue, etc. \n\nIf you wear a medium-grey t shirt and run for an hour, you are going to have massive dark grey sweat stains that look pretty foul. Black shirt? no problem! Splash some water from your sink on a shirt to see how badly it shows off water marks before you commit to drenching it in sweat.\n\nAlternatively, don't worry about how you look at the gym... :) ", "If you agree to spot, do it.\n\nThey guy I relieve from day crew is in a sling from a torn connector and dislocated shoulder because the guy that agreed to spot him turned his back and cranked up the headphones.\n\n When he hit exhaustion and the spotter ignored the request for help, fighting the bar off his neck/head tore his arm out of socket.", "I suggest easing into it slowly. Do less than what you think you can. Returning to pain is much harder than returning to un-worked potential. \n\nInstead of your brain telling you, \"man, I worked out sooo hard yesterday and reached my max, I can skip today/eat this/give myself a break\", you'll have it saying, \"I didn't do as much yesterday, gotta get to the gym!\" Don't be too tough on your body.\n\n**CAVEAT: this is only for the beginning.** \n\nOnce you get fitter, you realize that you can go further, faster. One thing that helps me is focusing on getting fit, rather than getting numbers down. I feel that it's psychologically easier to have a goal of fitness rather than a goal of weight loss, because once you don't see the scale move, you get discouraged - while you will always feel fitter the next time you workout, in the morning, when running up the stairs, etc.", "Haven't seen this yet, but... stretch. A good ten minute stretch routine before and after your workout will help prevent injuries. Feel free to throw in a little cardio with it to get your blood pumping a little, even if you're doing a weights only workout that day.\n\nAlso, basic etiquette here, but if you see somebody using a bench or station, wait until they finish their set and sit up/disengage from the machine before asking them anything. If they're willing to alternate sets with you on a machine (assuming things are crowded and nothing else is available), make sure you wipe it down before they get back on, and that they do the same for you.", "Go in the mornings to avoid to rush! Especially with all the new years resolutions. You have been warned.\n\nsource: Used to work at a gym", "Get gloves for weight lifting, you'll thank me for nto having blisters. Also, you need to stay motivated. Try finding somebody that wants to go to the gym too. Not just anyone that will give up on it too, it needs to be someone that will give you crap about not going.\n\nGood luck!", "-Wipe off machines after using them (sometimes even before, some nasty people tend to use them).\n\n-Go into the gym KNOWING what you are going to do for the day (some exercises can be swapped in and out, but the idea is that you know what body parts you are working).\n\n-Compound exercises will tend to go first (do your bench presses before your flyes and skullcrushers).\n\n-On that same note, please try to do free weights before doing machines, no sense in tiring yourself out before doing more dangerous exercise, I've seen enough people get hurt this way to know it's a bad idea.\n\n-Warm up. A set or two of lighter weight bench and some stretching will help prevent long term injury.\n\n-If you really want/need a machine for your routine, there's no shame in asking to cycle-in with someone that's already on it (although you should weight until he's done with that set to ask). Most people don't mind, and you can make friends that way.\n\n-You're DEFINITELY going to want a protein shake afterwards, your best bet is to bring dry protein in a shaker bottle (preferably with a blender ball), and just add water at the end of your work out.\n\n-Most importantly, do a routine filled with exercises YOU enjoy, not what everyone else is doing. There's no sense in giving yourself more reason to dread the gym, you'll give up in no time. Do what you enjoy, enjoy what you do, and feel better about yourself in the process. That's really everyone's goal isn't it?", "-Keep moving and forget about machines being used. If this is a problem for you, you need a universal home gym. \n-Most GOOD gyms have towels for you. \n-If there is a steam room, use it after and then shower. Ahhhhh.... \n-NEVER be embarrassed to do what you went there to do. You're not there to impress people, you're there so that you CAN impress people.", "the word that springs to mind is dedication. you can have the correct form etc etc but unless you have the mindset to keep it up you simply will not see the results\n\nit all boils down to how much you want it.", "it's all about form. low weight with good form will do you better than terrible form and high weights. bad form is an easy way to hurt yourself, as well.", "http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hggkrZF-Bpw\n\nDorian Yates' Blood & Guts Trainer: Dorian's Tips - Bodybuilding.com", "go check out /r/bodybuilding or /r/fitness as both of those are helpful, and you can get a sense of what pisses other people off at the gym.\n\nI'll add mine, don't drop the weight uncontrolled or from too high. I do, but it's controlled, and I know where it's landing, and it's from a relatively low height (like mid shins or ankle). It's also with heavy dumbbells, and not the 15lbs that a five year old girl can place down gently.\n\n**ALSO, DON'T WALK AROUND NAKED IN THE CHANGEROOMS, GODDAMN, IT PISSES ME OFF** It's like \"No sir, I wasn't looking at your junk. I was looking at my locker that I was walking to and then you stepped in front of me, whipped off your towel, and flung a leg onto the bench.\" **I DON'T NEED TO SEE OLD MAN JUNK. OR ANY JUNK FOR THAT MATTER**", "find a way to dovetail working out into your life and ease into it slowly or else you're going to be betting against yourself and might actually end up being turned off by the whole experience. \n\nalso, if you're new to the gym, nobody is looking at you, talking about you, or making fun of you behind your back. I'd say that a majority of the people who regularly go to the gym are looking at you because they've never seen you there before.\n\nalso, realize that going to the gym is like a 401k. be consistent and don't cash out before it's time to retire, and your retirement will be that much better. ", "bring a notebook and dont do what other people are doing (most people are clueless). \n\nalso the main idea is to work your muscles to exhaustion, rest, and mix it up", "When doing any exercise, be sure to know which muscle groups you are focusing on and do your best to isolate those muscles. The worst thing you can do is bench and end up using almost all triceps and shoulders.", "Weightlifting is a technical sport, not one where the fastest/the one who lifts the most wins. Focus on your technique.", "Visit /r/Fitness \n\nTake a before picture. In fact, take several, front, side, back.\n\nWant to meet people and socialize? Ask someone if they can spot for you.\n\nBar soap is easier to carry than liquid body wash. And don't forget to pack a comb or brush.\n\nPhones do not belong on the gym floor. Phones on the gym floor get stepped on, weights dropped on them, sweat dripped on them, and water bottles spilled on them. If you sit on a piece of equipment while talking on the phone, the chances of the above happening increase by 400%.", "Ugh. I'll mirror what others have said and say focus on form but by highlighting RANGE OF MOTION. \n\nIt irritates the piss out of me when someone says they squat 700lbs and I watch them and their squat consists of lowering their ass six inches yelling a lot and straightening out again. \nSame for bench. You've got 315 on the bar and you're not even going 90 degrees much less touching your chest it... doesn't count.\n\n*Practice range of motion, you are only cheating yourself and doing incomplete exercises.\n\nThis being said I understand that there are some injuries that preclude full range in certain exercises or that some decreased range of motion exercises are designed to target specific muscles. If your targeting muscle groups that specifically chances are you are an experienced weight lifter who knows what they are doing and this comment is not for you. ", "Try not to socialize while directly in front of the different weights or machines. It is very annoying especially for people trying to do quick workouts when someone is on the equipment just socializing. If you see someone you want to talk to just move to the side.", "Trainers are a waste of money.\nGo with someone it helps to have them be on your ass to wake up and go.\nGo early morning so you'll have the day ahead and be awake for it.\nMix up your workouts.\nAdd a decent protein source after every work out.", "See if your local parks department has gym facilities available for public use. First of all, they're usually much cheaper than a private gym membership--my local parks district's fitness center might not have all of the great equipment that a more serious, $200-a-month gym might have (covering my ass for the inevitable \"THIS SUPPOSED 'LIFE PRO TIP' IS USELESS. I, A LIFE PRO, AM A TRIPLE BLACK BELT IN P90X AND I CAN ONLY USE SPECIFIC STAIRCRUNCHER 3000 MACHINES\" comment), but it's $17/month or $45/three months, and since all I need is the space, some weights, and basic gym machines, that works perfectly for me and I save a ton of money. Also, I find that the attitude at a $15/mo public gym is much, much more relaxed than at a $200/mo private gym, which is a huge plus since I can be pretty self-conscious about my workout, especially around rich gorgeous people.", "Second the r/fitness FAQ! And, of course, subscribe. They are full of good advice about routines, supplements, etc.\n\nAs for my own general advice, take it easy for the first few weeks, then go hard and often. The real secret to getting in shape is simple effort and discipline. However, listen to your body; if a muscle group is in serious pain, don't work it. Three to five workouts per week is fine. Skip workouts at your peril -- it's depressing how fast you can lose strength, stamina, and muscle mass. If you're bulking up, stuff your face with healthy food. If you're slimming down...stuff your face with healthy, low-fat food. Either way, your body will need the extra energy.\n\nTake pride in what you're doing and know that you can and will meet your goals!", "People think they need to go all out in the gym the first time they have ever been in there. Keep it simple. Start using minimum weights, good form, and major body group workouts. Have reasonable short and long term goals. And don't be a tool.", "Oooo and if you're into supplements, I like a preworkout shake called \"white flood\" mostly because it doesnt have creatine in it. I know some people will yell at me for this and that there are better ones out there, but I have used this one for a few years and like it very much. Electric lemonade is the best. ", "My favorite workouts are taisos. You do twenty seconds of work, ten seconds off, for 8 sets. Take a minute rest between each round. Do a round for legs( squats and variations), a round for core(planks, crunches etc.), and a round for arms. It doesn't matter what exactly your doing for each set, as long as it's challenging and you have good form. ", "My buddy has a website dedicated to proper working out and dieting for weight loss and muscle gain. He doesn't reddit but I'm sure would love for people to check it out. Great guy and knows what he is talking about, plus everything is empirically supported by academic research.\nhttp://buildingaleanbody.com/about/", "Make sure to take advantage of the 30 minute window after your workout to drink protein. Also you'll be increasing by leaps and bounds when you first start, but make sure your form doesn't go to shit as you increase because a fucked up back isn't worth the 315 terrible form dead lift.", "Lift heavy. Compound lifts like the Squat, deadlift, bench press, and overhead press are the most efficient exercises. Learn about them via youtube and Mark Rippitoe's Starting Strength. Also, visit r/fitness for more info and amazing details.", "Lift for strength, eat for your goals. Be respectful to others.\n\n I.E. if you want to gain size or weight eat more. If you want to lose weight/fat eat less.\n\nIt is not rocket science.", "Leave your ego out of the gym. It doesn't matter if the dude next to you is lifting a 100 pound weight and your lifting a 15 pound weight, we all gotta start somewhere", "It's not for everybody... but I love using my preworkout. I use c4. It helps me focus, makes me want to work out harder and better and just... helps. ", "It's natural to be self conscious when you're new in a gym, but remember that those big-looking guys have spent hundreds of hours in there, and they've seen all types. Don't worry about looking foolish or like you don't know what you're doing. \n\n", "Ill just put a little tidbit in here that im sure has been mentioned already. Do not be afraid to ask for help/spot/small advice. Most people are more than happy to help out.", "If you're using the rack or the machine, you're using it. Not texting, not talking on the phone, not doing situps/dumbell curls in the squat rack, not dropping your gear there while you go use another machine. Also if you're lifting heavy and need to rest more than a few minutes, be polite and let someone work in if they ask. \n\n", "If you're after weight loss - focus on working out every muscle in your body in each session. Remember to evenly work both sides (ie triceps vs biceps) and that the process your body takes to build muscle burns calories on top of the effort taken to lift the weight.", "If you use something, put it back when you are done.\n\nLearn the culture of your gym by observing others. Learn when it is acceptable to approach others with questions. Once you are approaching weights that are difficult, don't be afraid to ask for a spot.\n\nDon't stare at other people.\n\nBe conscious of where other people working out and avoid interfering with them.", "If you plan on lifting weights at the gym make sure you have a plan. Nothing makes you feel more out of place than aimlessly wondering around from machine to machine. With a plan you know exactly what you are going to do next so as not to look like you have no idea what's going on. Trust me, I used to be this guy.", "If the gym is crowded, don't take one of the benches in the freeweight area unless you are actually using it to weight lift. I can't tell you how many times I've seen someone sitting on a bench between sets when there are 5 people waiting to actually use it for exercise. Along these lines - don't sit on machines you aren't using. Like the benches, there are people waiting to actually use them. ", "I have a degree in exercise physiology and was a personal trainer briefly. Here are my tips from what I've gathered from being a longtime gym-goer:\n\n* A person who actually knows what they're doing in the gym is very rare, so don't be intimidated by anybody, even the meatheads.\n\n* You won't put on muscle. Gaining muscle mass requires at least 2 months of specifically training your muscles to hypertrophy (get bigger) and lots of extra calories to build that muscle. That being said, don't be afraid to lift heavy weights (I'm talking to you, ladies).\n\n* Find a reputable website (i.e., something that's not trying to sell you something and not some crap hyping the latest fitness trends) and find a workout plan that balances cardio and weightlifting.\n\n* Peruse exrx.net for all the different exercises you can do with machines, weights, body weight, etc. Pay special attention to form, especially squats. In fact, you might even want someone experienced/a professional to ensure you're squat form is correct.\n\n* I can't emphasize enough how much of a waste of time it is for anybody to be lifting 1 or 2 plates. You shouldn't be lifting a weight where you can do more than 20 reps. I've literally seen a girl (20 years old-ish) doing lat pull downs for close to 20 minutes.\n\n* I'm sure your time is valuable (as is your gym membership), so don't waste it going there to make an appearance or socialize. Go there to work yourself into the ground. Go there with a plan and some motivating music and kill your workout.\n\n* It helps to have a specific goal in mind. It's easier to give up and say you did good enough if you're not really working towards a tangible goal.\n\n* You don't need the supplements the personal trainers try to sell you.\n\nIf anyone really cares, I have a document that I put together that is much more extensive than this that I can dig up. Much more detail on what I already stated plus much more. I tend to write up these extensive responses to stuff like this and not a single person seems to see it.", "Hygiene. Don't hit the gym after work/school without having at least showered that same morning. Use deo liberally on gym days.\n\nFootwear: there were a couple of disgusting MMA-guys (tap-out shorts, the whole shabang) that visited my gym once and started doing noisy chinups (Hoo-aah!), one of them had bare feet and flip-flops that stunk so much it made you lose count in your own reps. Was like a bag of used diapers in vinegar.\n\nDon't go around in socks or flip-flops, have a pair of real sport-shoes. Besides basic respect (and basic gym rules), it aids heel support during a squat or lift, most importantly. Especially if you have pronation (foot bending outwards during running/squatting). I've gone through many kinds of shoes but I still go with 200$ Asics. Shit doesn't have to be signed by Jordan or Usain Bolt to be good.", "Go to [/r/Fitness/](http://www.reddit.com/r/Fitness) and look at their weekly \"dumb questions\" thread. [This week's thread.](http://www.reddit.com/r/Fitness/comments/14zpbo/moronic_monday_your_weekly_stupid_questions_thread/)\n\nThese have some genuinely good tips, advice and answers to simple questions like etiquette.\n\n", "From personal experience, try to get a friend with a similar fitness level (and free schedule). This is probably the hardest thing to do, but is easily the best thing for getting more fit. \n\nYou will motivate each other, and even have friendly competitions to improve more than the other person. Sometimes its a drag going to the gym, but not if you're going with a friend. \n\nAlso you can have a spotter for all your workouts so you can push the limits more and more than if you were alone. (I hate bothering other random people to spot for me)", "Flush the toilet after you use it. Make sure you read a personal trainers contract before you sign it and that it is within your budget. If something is broken, tell the staff immediately. Of you are going to do SS, look into leg braces or sleeves for both legs, your future self will thank you.\n\n Nutrition always is more important than the time you spend at the gym. Take inspiration from those who look better than you, not intimidation. If you feel faint while exerting yourself, stop and do it slower next time or talk to a doctor if it's bad. \n\nDon't allow yourself skip days, they will turn into weeks. If you fail at form you will hurt yourself, sometimes bad. Supplements are not steroids. Supplements are usually expensive pee tablets, do your research. Eat lots of protein to get bigger. Do the math if you want to get the muscle. Eat less and do more to cut or lose weight. Abs are made in the kitchen. \n\nThe month of January is not going to be the same people in the gym as you will see in July. Don't quit. ", "Don't try to work out too many muscles in one workout. If you try to do a full upper body workout, you'll get tired before your individual muscles get enough work. Oh, and running is bad for your knees. Elliptical or bike. Swimming is good, but most gyms over-chlorinate. ", "Don't think that you need to spend a ton of time at the gym to get bigger. In fact, less time at the gym can produce drastic results if you lift right. Doing fewer, high-intensity reps of key exercises (single set to failure), and eating right (essentially lots of protein) can have drastic results. (worked for me)\n\nSome references for details/instruction: [Source 1](http://www.bodybuildingfanatic.com/coloradoexperiment.htm), [Source 2](http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2007/04/29/from-geek-to-freak-how-i-gained-34-lbs-of-muscle-in-4-weeks/)", "Don't start a conversation with someone if your dick is out. I can't even fathom how this became a normal thing in gyms.", "Don't drink sports drinks. They aren't necessary as the additional salts aren't needed. Water is the best choice. \n\nAvoid protein shakes from gym protein bars and stores. These are laced with sugar. Buy a blender and make them yourself. \n\nAvoid supplements, especially since you are starting out. Learn to eat healthy and identify the foods that are high in protein and healthy fats. ie. Drink milk after a workout and regularly throughout the day, eat more nuts and try incorporate vegetable protein into your diet. Supplements are meant for elite athletes only. Don't buy into the marketing that they are a shortcut to fast results. Most people do not need them.", "Don't be the asshole that hoards many weights and not let other people use them.\n\nFor the love of fucking God, re-rack your fucking weights you pieces of shit. ", "Clean your fucking machine after using it! I hate seeing people just walk away from a machine & not clean it. It makes me sick to think that I may have just sat in your sweat cuz you're to lazy to clean up after yourself. (currently at the gym and disgusted... I'm watching you!)", "Check your diet. As they say, abs are made in the kitchen-and that applies to everything else. If you're eating cocoa puffs for lunch and dinner and skipping breakfast then you're going to see no gains and you'll just feel like crap all the time because of all the stress you're putting on an undernourished body. On that note, don't skip breakfast and eat a big dinner. Why should you eat your absolute biggest meal last when you do the most work after the first? Shoot for a healthy breakfast and then taper things down. Make sure you're getting enough protein if you're looking for gains and all that, but the basic primary thing here is just make sure you're eating right. Supplements and stuff like that can come AFTER a good diet.", "Check out twinmuscleworkout, strenghcamp, fastingtwins, and Omarlsuf on YouTube. If I had know about these channels 1.5 years ago I would have trained way smarter. ", "Be sure to know the correct way to do whatever lift you are attempting so you don't hurt/strain yourself. If you don't know, ask someone near you. If they look intimidating or you aren't comfortable enough to do so, ask someone who works there. Trust me, you can really injure yourself.", "Aside from going to the gym, if you want to see results you need to diet properly. Eat real food. All of the supplements in the world will simply be a waste of money if you do not diet properly, whether you are trying to bulk up and build muscle or cut down and lose weight.\n\nIt looks like a lot of the top posts covered the bigger pointers - Master the form of an exercise before considering moving up in weight... Focus on compound workouts like deadlifts, squats, bench press, rows, pull ups, dips... Show courtesy in the gym, do not interrupt people mid set and do not occupy more space or equipment than necessary...", "Always clean the machine/bench before and after you use it. Before to kill anything on there, after because it's curtious. ", "80% of people that sign up around christmas/new-year go for 1 month then never show up again. If you sign up thinking \"I want to lose fat, get fit, look sexy.\" there is every chance that you will become one of the 80%... If you sign up with the attitude \"I will become a gym rat, I will be at the gym at least 3 or 4 days a week, I will get interested in form, routines and diet.\" then you're set. Don't be trying to change your body... that will come... Be looking to change your lifestyle.", "1. Don't be intimidated by other people there, say hi while people are taking breaks or ask if they need a spot. Having 'friends' or acquaintances at the gym can help when you need a good spotter or someone to push you.\n\n2. As mentioned below, when trying to lose weight, DO NOT JUST DO CARDIO, you burn a shit ton of calories when weight training. Combine the two for best effect.\n\n3. While lifting pay attention to your form, not only will you protect yourself from getting injuries; you will get better results. Higher weights can come when you get form down.\n\n4. Stick to a set schedule for your routine, your body and mind operate better when you know what's coming. Have arms on Thursday? Always do them thursday.. If you can't make it, then you missed arms for the week (DO NOT RESCHEDULE).\n\n5. Do not neglect to train your legs, legs being the largest muscle group in your body the testosterone production of them can and will REALLY help your growth overall.", "-Dry yourself before coming back to the locker room. No one like to sit or step on wet benches.\n\n-Do not sit and talk on the bench press. Do your sets and move on, there are other people that want to use it also. \n\n- BRING THAT TOWEL MAN. Your sweat is all over the machines.\n", "* Work on fixing your posture and muscular imbalances http://www.exrx.net/ExInfo/Posture.html\n * I'm seeing a lot more people squat, deadlift, and do compound movments thanks to the internet, but a lot of these same people are stuck in a chair for most of their lives and thus may not even be prepared to squat and deadlift with proper form. Contrary to some dismissive comments that say you can fix your posture by consciously acting to have good posture, your posture leads to muscular imbalances that increase your chances of injury.\n * That said, read the sticky/faq\n", "* Log everything. What you eat, how far you ran, what you lifted, how many times, notes on your form, etc.\n* Don't do the same workout twice. ever. Every work out should be a little different. You add more weight, aim for a higher target heart rate, run farther in the same time, whatever. You already know what your body can do now, are you at the gym so you can look and feel the way you do today? Fuck that, you're there to improve.\n* Get on a real program. C25K, Starting Strength, Stronglifts 5x5, greyskull, smolov, whatever. just do it. You don't know what the hell you are doing (generally) and the people who made these programs know about fitness better than you do. Follow them religiously.\n* Pretend there is nobody else at the gym. Nobody cares that you're there, don't care about anyone else. Are you heavier than most people there? Fuck them. Can you not lift as much as the muscle head doing 500 pound squats? Fuck him too. You aren't there for them, you're there for YOU.\n* Get your nutrition in check. You can't out train a bad diet. Cake an cookies and pies and shit only belongs on your plate if you're dirty bulking. Trying to get strong/lean/healthy? You eat meat, veggies, whole grains and that's it. Your food is your fuel and it's FUCKING DELICIOUS YUMMY YUMMY IN THE TUMMY\n* Headphones and music are great for warmups and steady state/non-dangerous exercise. When you're PRing or doing something potentially dangerous (squats, deadlifts, bench, etc) take off the god damned headphones and concentrate.\n* Little protip: don't bring your $300 beats headphones and your $500 iphone into the gym to listen to music. Sooner or later they WILL get broken. go to Fry's or whatever you have near you, get small cheap chinese mp3 player and a set of Coby Platinum Jammerz headphones. Coby Platinum Jammerz are the shit, they're all metal including the cable, good sound, fit nice, very light, stay in your ear even when sweating, and sell for like 10 bucks.\n* The post workout feeding window is largely bullshit. Don't worry about chugging 80 grams of protein and oatmeal right after you hit the weights. just make sure your macronutrients are in line before you go to bed that night.\n* Only offer advice to someone if they are doing something that may cause them serious injury. if their squat form is a little off or their hand position is iffy on their bench press, leave them be. They will ask for help if they need it.", " Wow I could go all day on this topic.\n\nNever sacrifice form for weight. \n\nKeep it a lot simpler than you most likely are.\n\nAn hour is approaching the upper limits for time spent in the gym.\n\n Variability is great, but weight progression should come first.\n\nOn pressing exercises keep your elbows under the bar, close to your body and not flared out. \n\nAlways warm up, a limber muscle has better range of motion. \n\nWater all the time. \n\nChalk when necessary. \n\n Running shoes make terrible weight lifting shoes. \n\nYou most likely dont need that weight belt. \n\nPinch your shoulder blades together to straighten your back. \n\nClench your butt at the top of a squat or deadlift to engage the hips if you don't know how to properly engage them. \n\n Spend more time reading Rippetoe or Pendlay- you dont know what you dont know.", " .Have fun with it. You need to be able to really enjoy what you're doing to spend 5-6 hours a week on. Initially it was hard for me. I wasn't very coordinated, there were huge buff guys around me and it hurt day in and day out. But I loved the challenge and I loved the feeling afterwards. I don't think I have been happier than when I used to lift, the endorphin's were amazing.\n\nWear head phones. I see people train/lift, hell some of these people are friends of mine and they refuse to listen to music. When i lifted I was able to slip into my own little world. I'd put on some Wu-Tang or maybe an A-trak mix and just enter the 'matrix', it was my world and I could lift what I wanted to lift. I may have looked like a crazy motherfucker with the grimace i would have on my face but no one ever asked to do sets in between mine.\n\nNo one else gives a shit that you're there. Really. Drop all your insecurities at the door, you're all there for one purpose, self improvement. No one is sniggering behind your back because you forgot to put a peg on a barbell and all the weights fell on to the ground. No one is giving you a second thought because you were only shoulder pressing 10kg and couldn't even make the 8th rep on your second set. \n\n\nAnd my last thought is, and thus far i've pretty much been rambling, but my last thought is you can always go lighter. Muscles and your nervous system have cool way of responding to stimuli and progressive overloading and will eventually get stronger. Find that sweet starting spot with every lift, chill there for a few weeks, dont stress about lifting bigger because you think should be able to. Fucking own the 16kg dumbbells. \n\nThis isn't a race. Going to the gym should be a lifestyle change, that's when you'll get the most out of it. Not a quick hop in hop out, you gotta be in it for the gusto, keep it real man and always challenge yourself.\n\n", "if you're not sore the next day or two for the muscle groups you worked out, then you most likely still had more in you to give. give it next time", "The most important thing people don't realize is diet and nutrition are 50 percent of the equation. Great bodies aren't built in an hour at the gym, but are built day after day after day. If you're lifting, eat tons and tons of clean protein. 150 grams or more I'd say. Otherwise all your work is for naught.\n\nAnother one (this one has changed my life in the past month). The way fat metabolism works, it needs sugar to progress. In other words, \"fat burns in the flame of carbohydrates.\" Translation: Drink a sugar source like Gatorade or Powerade while doing any sort of cardio. Not only will it give you instant energy to maintain your workout, it will facilitate fat burning. Source--medical school biochem class\n\nFollow these two rules, and you will be a happy man, my friend.", "Only go if you're going to follow through. I hate the annual influx of resolutioners that crowd the place and have no common courtesy. Luckily they're mostly gone by February at least, and only the people committed to being healthy stay on after that.", "Leave any shame or insecurities at the door. The majority of people at the gym are looking at themselves and could care less about you. Don't worry about what any one else thinks.\n\nAnd if you have questions about how to perform an exercise, ask someone. Most people are really nice and friendly. Don't be intimidated by the big muscular guy who's been working out for years.", "LPT: /r/fitness. The FAQ on the sidebar has everything you should need. As far as when to go, avoid the afternoon. And for GOD'S SAKE, do not just sit on a machine between sets; there are other people who want to use it.", "Know what weights you can handle, find a good spotter to help you out, don't be the douchebag that nobody likes by throwing weights around, have a solid training schedule and what you will do! And most of all. Be patient. It takes time to see results:)! If you want it bad enough you can do it! need any help just pm me!", "I don't know about other people, but I always try to give / use the best treadmill (Our fitness club only has three; one of which is a quality runner's treadmill, the other two are rather rickety) depending on whether I'm going the fastest.\n\nIt kinda Irks me when I get stuck on the rickety POS treadmill when there's some old guy doing a 15-minute mile pace at 2.5% incline. By the same token, I don't want to take up the best treadmill when I'm only jogging at an 8-9 minute mile pace if someone in there is faster than I am.", "Check out www.bodybuilding.com And for fat loss I highly recommend fasting check out www.leangains.com . It takes a lot of willpower to not eat 20hr a day but the results are great. ", "Check out [ExRx.net](http://www.exrx.net/Beginning.html)\n\nIt's an amazing resource of (mostly) evidence based training information. Even includes gifs of technique, and good breakdown of what exercises work what muscles.", "Curl in the squat rack! Don't clean equipment after you're done! Give everyone unsolicited free advice during their set,you're more knowledgeable then all of them. Don't care about form, the only way you can show you are the alphamale in the gym is by lifting big (doing only half RoM)! Never ever re-rack the weights you're using. Because, you know, you're alpha like that.\n\n", "Use the [curl rack](http://imgur.com/YuyeW) as often as possible and for as long as possible every time you go to the gym." ]

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[ "How early should you begin looking for an apartment? Going to to a university from a small CC and am going to get an apartment with a friend (I figure it would be cheaper than a dorm + more space). How early should we start looking if the semester doesn't start until August?", "How early should you begin looking for an apartment? Going to to a university from a small CC and am going to get an apartment with a friend (I figure it would be cheaper than a dorm + more space). How early should we start looking if the semester doesn't start until August?", "How early should you begin looking for an apartment? Going to to a university from a small CC and am going to get an apartment with a friend (I figure it would be cheaper than a dorm + more space). How early should we start looking if the semester doesn't start until August?", "How early should you begin looking for an apartment? Going to to a university from a small CC and am going to get an apartment with a friend (I figure it would be cheaper than a dorm + more space). How early should we start looking if the semester doesn't start until August?", "How early should you begin looking for an apartment? Going to to a university from a small CC and am going to get an apartment with a friend (I figure it would be cheaper than a dorm + more space). How early should we start looking if the semester doesn't start until August?" ]

[ "Depends on the city but the earlier you look the better since you'll have a way better selection. I would say at least 6-8 months early.", "start looking early to get an idea of the market, but be prepared for losing out on properties because you can't move in right away. \n\ni live in a city with an insane rental market and typically people plan on about a month or two out. most rentals are \"move in NOW\" because the market can support that. \n\nthis may differ in a college town, i don't have experience with this.", "You can go into any apartment complex and take a tour and speak with the rep in their office. An ID is usually required that's all. They'll show you what they have upcoming around the time you'll be needing to move. They'll know by tracking lease end dates. The rep will tell you if people tend to renew or move out at the end of a lease or they'll give you a general statistic that half move out and half renew or something like that to give you an idea of what you may be able to expect when it's time for you to move.\n\nThis lets you rule out places that you won't be interested in, and let's you focus down on places you like thinking that potentially you'll have an open unit there when the time comes. Or at least, how many units *may* become available around that time. If there are only a couple that are opening up around your move date, you might want to look elsewhere for a better chance at having availability then. This means people like it there and will tend to renew their lease so those won't really be open anyway more than likely. Again the agent there will fill you in. If you see quite a few openings coming up during your move time, you'll have a good chance of being able to get in when you are ready as these areas have a higher turn around, or more units in general to choose from. But there may be a reason. Make sure you check Yelp and Apartmentreviews and read. Sometimes the places change managers from the time the bad reviews are left so make sure you read pretty deep into them to track it all. You'll get a good general idea of the problems that people have there.\n\nWhen the time come to move you'll have had enough time to research the area, stores, transportation, facilities etc... to help narrow down your decision, and if you like the area, and the place, and you have a good idea that you'll have a few openings in the complex around your move out time, you can then get busy starting the paperwork and apartment hold work you'll need to do. (co signing if needed takes time, checking cr", "University rentals are a little different than most rentals. Firstly, near large colleges you will find lease terms based around school terms. So 6 month, 9 month, 1 year, usually starting 1st of the month before class starts. \n\nMost of the 6-9 month leases are assumed to terminate. That is, no one will renew them so the rental company knows when they will be available way in advance. They may not be available until a certain date, but you can try to reserve them.\n\nSo bottom line, if you go to a university specializing rental agency now and can put down a deposit, you have a good chance at getting the best property. \n\nSide note: University apartments range from horrible to acceptable. Be prepared. ", "Depending on the place you might not have anyone willing to hold it for you so make sure you ask if they will! Especially in crowded cities you might have to start looking the month before. \n\nBut what I would recommend is start looking right now. Because you're going to a university, you should be looking in the areas near it. A lot of people rent out a place for a semester while going to school so there might be some leases about to expire. \n\nAre you guys planning on staying during the summer months? If not, make sure to check how long the lease is for or if it month to month. " ]

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[ "How to get the mildew smell out of towels? When washing at a laundromat? I don’t own a washer/dryer so I have to go to a local laundromat. My towels consistently come out with a terrible mildew smell when wet. They’re okay when dry but after one use they stink up my whole bathroom!\n\nWhat products can I use at the laundromat to get the smell out? (Can’t clean the machine because it’s not mine.)", "How to get the mildew smell out of towels? When washing at a laundromat? I don’t own a washer/dryer so I have to go to a local laundromat. My towels consistently come out with a terrible mildew smell when wet. They’re okay when dry but after one use they stink up my whole bathroom!\n\nWhat products can I use at the laundromat to get the smell out? (Can’t clean the machine because it’s not mine.)" ]

[ "(I don’t know the answer but ...)\n\nFrom a chemistry point of view, I’m amused that some swear by vinegar (an acid) and some say baking soda (a base)\n\nDo both really work?\n\nDo other clothes have this smell, or just the “hard to dry” things like towels? If not, I’d vote dry thoroughly and hotter (maybe do a towel only load so you don’t shrink your clothes)\n\nI’d also suspect the machines, do you have multiple laundromat choices?\n", "Hot wash. Diluted bleach. Hot dry. I do this monthly, as kids leave wet wash cloths and towels sitting around that don’t dry properly, so get funky. It’s so gross. Good luck!" ]

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[ "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated.", "How to make small talk Sometimes I find myself talking to people and they say something that I don't feel warrants a response so I just don't respond. However, then there's this silence, and I think they think I'm ignoring them or that I don't care or something. Help is much appreciated." ]

[ "My new nursing students struggle with this one. I tell them try these phrases. \n\"oh, and then what happened?\"\n\"go on...\" \n\"what do you think about xyz ?\"\nAsk \"what\" but not \"why\" questions. Why puts people on the defense.\nNodding is ok, take time to read their body language. \nNothing wrong with an \"ah huh\".", "I can't make small talk either.\n\nJust stare at them like they said something retarded and hope they go away :p", "Embrace the silence, stare into their soul until they scream from the uberescalated awkwardness, a half grin, half grimace also helps. . .\n\n", "That's when I like to say some typical phrase. \"Well, shit happens.\" \"Ya, what are you gonna do?\" Or go to talking about the previous or next weekend.", "Listen to BBC radio 4 on iplayer all day, it's the quickest way to an all rounded education, and you will find you are happy and able to make a positive relevant contribution to conversation. \n\nHonestly give it a month and see if you notice a difference in yourself. ", "If adventure games have taught me anything, just repeat what someone said in the form of a question and you can carry a conversation forever. \n\nBut my real advice is to ask two questions.\n\"How is your day going? Anything interesting/new/exciting?\"\n\"How long have you been doing X? What got you started/interested in that?\"\n\nKeep questions simple, preferably with an obvious answer, and try to keep things going.", "Be genuinely interested in other people. If you are in a party/conference/seminar/concert/funeral just ask how do you know the person hosting, and carry on. Be genuine.", "As someone with Aspergers this has been tough. There's no easy way around it. The only real way is to practice. Some tips are ask generic questions that people can answer and just keep letting the other person talk when they are then saying whatever pops into your mind. You cant really try to do it it just has to be instinct. \n\nFirst you want to engage the person. Really just anything will do. Try not to mention the weather though that will turn most people right off. Some good questions once you get going are stuff like what do you do for work where you from. Then expand on what they say. \n\nI stress again though. YOU WILL NOT LEARN HOW TO SMALL TALK FROM READING ABOUT IT YOU HAVE TO DO IT. lol. But seriously get out there and practice is the only way to do it. " ]

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[ "How do you get the wrinkles out of a shirt? If you don't have an iron, what would be the best way to get the wrinkles out of a shirt? \n\nContext: At a dorm, so not everything is available.\n\nThanks, in advance.", "How do you get the wrinkles out of a shirt? If you don't have an iron, what would be the best way to get the wrinkles out of a shirt? \n\nContext: At a dorm, so not everything is available.\n\nThanks, in advance.", "How do you get the wrinkles out of a shirt? If you don't have an iron, what would be the best way to get the wrinkles out of a shirt? \n\nContext: At a dorm, so not everything is available.\n\nThanks, in advance.", "How do you get the wrinkles out of a shirt? If you don't have an iron, what would be the best way to get the wrinkles out of a shirt? \n\nContext: At a dorm, so not everything is available.\n\nThanks, in advance.", "How do you get the wrinkles out of a shirt? If you don't have an iron, what would be the best way to get the wrinkles out of a shirt? \n\nContext: At a dorm, so not everything is available.\n\nThanks, in advance." ]

[ "If it isn't too time-sensitive, and the shirt can be machine-dried, I completely saturate a hand towel with water and throw the shirt and the towel in the drier for about 20 minutes. The steam usually gets most of the wrinkles out, and then hanging it up gets close to all of them out.", "There's this spray that Downy makes. I think it's called Anti-wrinkle spray, oddly enough. It'll be in the laundry aisle at Walmart. Easy-peasy.", "get a brick, put it in the oven, use it as an iron. I have no idea if this would work, but it'd be funny to watch", "Just boil up some water and use the kettle as an iron. Works best if you have a kettle with a long handle.", "I just use a spray bottle from a general store like CVS, spray it down lightly with water and either hang it while I finish getting ready. Or just put it on and the wrinkles fall out as I walk to class.\n\nPoor college kids without irons ftw!" ]

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[ "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?", "Dealing efficiently with work email? I'm a small business owner with unmedicated ADHD. I have the same problem every morning. \n\nI start working at 9:00 AM.\nI check my email. \n\nIt's full of minutia. Most of it is nothing I'm gonna get paid for, nothing that's gonna make the company any money directly. But it's all little stuff from clients that needs to get responded to and addressed for them to want to keep me around. Which is important. A quick question. A tweak to something that's gonna take me five minutes. A minor complaint they want a response to. A small problem they want me to look at right away.\n\nCompounding the problem, most of my clients and both the people who work with me are a timezone away from me. So when it's 9:00 here it's 10:00 there. By the time I'm done responding to email and dealing with this little stuff it's 11:00 or 12:00. I don't get to working on actual projects until the afternoon.\n\nIf I have a meeting or something in the morning, I'm just hosed. Email's won't get responded to and people will get cranky. As my business grows, I foresee a time where the email creep just takes over and I never get any work done at all.\n\nHas anyone developed an LPT to deal with a situation like that?" ]

[ "It sounds like your *real* problem is that your customers expect a fast response. Problems they \"want [you] to look at right away\". If this is the case you're never going to have uninterrupted time to get any real work done until you either change expectations or hire someone to manage your email.\n\nMaybe as a short term fix one of your other employees will be able to take a lot of this burden off you? Maybe they can deal with the little ones, send just the challenges they can't deal with your way?", "Only touch an email once. Either delete it or reply to it but don't read it, decide to do it later, mark it unread so you'll remember etc. \n\nYou may also want to triage things; \"dump, do, delegate, delay\" is the standard one taught in management classes.", "Use Window's Notepad.\n\nCopy and paste in the stuff you need to do into it.\n\nOnce the job is done, delete it from your notepad and then send a follow-up e-mail stating that their request is complete.\n\nUSE THE RULES FUNCTION IN YOUR E-MAIL CLIENT! NEVER have a mass of e-mails in front of you...you'll never get anything done. Give each person their own folder and then setup a rule to dump that person's e-mail into their own folder.\n\nIf you can, by the EOB, try to have a nearly empty notepad. That is your goal.\n\nIf you ever get to the point where you are doing more small stuff than large stuff, congratulate yourself on a growing business! Hopefully you can hire an assistant do to the multiple 5-10 minute small stuff for you.", "Look into implementing a ticketing system where multiple people can work the queue. Look at systems that have ticket deflection so your clients can use a knowledge base rather than emailing you.", "I spend 90% of my job working in email. The strategy that I use is a combination of automatic filtering rules in outlook, and a spreadsheet where I keep notes on things that I might need to remember.\n\nThe biggest thing is just figuring out how to filter what you're looking at.", "try (Zendesk)[http://www.zendesk.com/beautifully-simple].\n\nI worked at a small business, they had to hire a customer service person, laziest son of a bitch ever. First thing he did was convince the owner to pay for Zendesk.", "Unless your business strives on lightning quick responses, then just check your emails once every hour or couple of hours. if it's important enough, they'll call you rather than email you.", "Start an hour earlier. Take typing lessons so typing is efficient (if you don't already). Sometimes it is better to call your client instead of replying to an email; for example, to prevent a back and forth email chain.", "David Allen's Getting Things Done suggests we go through the inbox to Do, Delegate, Defer or Delete.\n\nIf its something you can do in two minutes or less, do it. \n\nIf someone else can do it more efficiently delegate it.\n\nIf it needs action but requires something you don't yet have defer it.\n\nIf its just information or has no particular value either file it for reference or delete it.\n\nThe book has a lot of good tips for setting up fool proof methods for setting up a tickler file, to do lists and other things to help you get through high volume positions. It changed my life. \n\n", "Anything small enough to take less than five minutes I either deal with immediately (yes, before even opening the next mail) or delete and forget about. There's no middle way for the tiny tasks. Starting to manage or prioritize or whatever is going to waste way more time than just doing or not doing." ]

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[ "Considering proposal to my girlfriend next month. Need some advice! Background Info:\n\n-I am American, she is Taiwanese. \n-I'm 31, she is 27.\n-Her parents still live in Taiwan, but will be here during the Christmas holidays for roughly one month. \n-We are both Dietitians! :)\n-I would like to pop the question while her parents are here.\n-I would like to ask her father prior to it (not sure how to pull this one off).\n-Please, give me your best strokes of genius!\n\n\n\n", "Considering proposal to my girlfriend next month. Need some advice! Background Info:\n\n-I am American, she is Taiwanese. \n-I'm 31, she is 27.\n-Her parents still live in Taiwan, but will be here during the Christmas holidays for roughly one month. \n-We are both Dietitians! :)\n-I would like to pop the question while her parents are here.\n-I would like to ask her father prior to it (not sure how to pull this one off).\n-Please, give me your best strokes of genius!\n\n\n\n", "Considering proposal to my girlfriend next month. Need some advice! Background Info:\n\n-I am American, she is Taiwanese. \n-I'm 31, she is 27.\n-Her parents still live in Taiwan, but will be here during the Christmas holidays for roughly one month. \n-We are both Dietitians! :)\n-I would like to pop the question while her parents are here.\n-I would like to ask her father prior to it (not sure how to pull this one off).\n-Please, give me your best strokes of genius!\n\n\n\n" ]

[ "Super amazing idea, I thought about that too. Her mother speaks only modern Chinese and her dad can speak a few different languages. Either way, I thought it would be an awesome extension of respect to her parents culture.", "1. Do you know that her answer will be yes? If not, stop and do not pass go.\n\n2. Don't ask her father for his permission/blessing. Just talk to her parents to give them the courtesy to let them know how much you care for their daughter and that you want to marry her.\n\n3. If you are comfortable with the parents or father, go for a walk or sit down for a drink/coffee/tea and talk. Don't make it a big production or weird where they are worried about \"you wanting to talk to them about something important\"", "Step one: Make sure she is interested in marrying you.\n\nSurprise proposals are never a good idea unless you are damned sure the answer will be YES!\n\nNot to mention that asking a father's permission is horrifically sexist and harkens back to the idea that a woman is property and that you are negotiating a business arrangement." ]

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[ "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!", "Stopping acne\n I have tried so much to stop my acne. I have been sleeping with a towel on my pillow, I scrub my face, I put cream on my face, and I even put rubbing alcohol on my face, but nothing works!" ]

[ "Try changing your diet. Your skin is an organ, and is affected by what you consume. Hair also latches on to a crapload of grease, so maybe you should cut your hair. Another thing you could try is switching to organic soaps, it may not be as appealing as Irish Spring but it's got a lot less poison in it.\n\nBefore bed, wash your face with exfoliating soap, pat dry with a *clean* towel. Then, use gauze to apply hydrogen peroxyde (3%/volume), gently but firmly going in circular motions. Depending on how bad the acne is, this may hurt. Leave to dry for 5 to 10 minutes. Then, rinse off and pat dry with yet *another* clean towel. Final step is to place *another* clean towel on your pillow and sleep on that.", "Try tea tree oil.\n\nBuy a bottle of 100% pure oil, then each night before bed put a few drops on a cotton swab, then dilute it with some water. The oil is really strong and will dry out your skin if you don't. Then just rub the areas that have acne. If after a few days you don't see less acne, try adding less water to the swab (to make the solution stronger).\n\nDon't use any astrigents or other acne stuff (like clearasil) with it.\n\nIn the morning, use a good acne lotion. (I use Clearasil's Ultra Acne+Marks Spot Lotion).\n\n\nI've also heard you can use apple vinegar, but I haven't tried this so I don't know.\n\nHow severe is your acne?", "Stop scrubbing your face! You're only causing more inflammation. Look up the oil cleansing method. It works wonders. ", "I have had this issue for almost three years now. Nothing has really worked completely for me until recently, when my dermatologist prescribed antibacterial medication and two face creams. Some people just have a sucky face like us haha. \n\nThis stuff has partially worked for me: \n\n1. Sleep on a clean towel and/or wash your pillow cases, so dirt doesn't build up and get mushed into your pores. \n\n2. Don't touch your face -- this was a bad habit of mine. Don't lean your head on your chin or your arm. \n\n3. Take up swimming. Whenever I do, it seems to help. Maybe its the water or the chlorine...plus you'll get buff :)\n\n4. As soon as you workout or go outside or something, wash your face with a light soap. You don't want to dry your face, but wash the dirt/sweat off. \n\n5. If you feel a pimple beginning to form (you know that feeling when you see a reddish dot and it hurts when you poke it), wash the pimple immediately. Sometimes, it make the pimple stop. \n\n6. If you have a large breakout, put toothpaste on it for a few hours. Looks weird, but it does help if you don't have any facial cream for that kind of thing. \n\n7. The BEST thing to do is to just see a dermatologist if you have persistent, bad acne. If you have insurance, your co-pay won't be too bad and its better to start medication sooner than later. ", "Honestly, your best bet is to go and talk to someone who knows their shit. Go see an esthetician (murdered that spelling I believe) and see what they suggest, because everyone's skin is different. My skin didn't react to the tea tree oil as well as my sister's did. \n\nChanging your diet is such a good idea. Dairy is naturally hard on the human body, as most people have difficulty digesting it. I tried cutting it out... And it sucked. It kinda worked, and I'm back to dairy now though with no problems!\n\nNot sure your age, but my guess is it's hormones. My friend used accutane, and it worked well for him. If you're patient and good to your skin (exfoliate!! Weekly, no more than once or twice a week) than you'll be fine! \n\nBest of luck", "Go see a dermatologist. They are experts in skin. I tried everything too and still had that stubborn chin inflammation and pimples. A dermatologist will get you a cream and pill that will work for you .", "Drink more water. Try to use as few products as possible, we have a tendency to over wash our face (and hair), and then to artificially replace what we just washed away. Personally I've had great success with apricot kernel oil, a product called herbalism from Lush, and QV SPF 30 moisturiser. Unfortunately acne is just a fact of life, and getting rid of it before it clears up naturally usually requires a lot of chemicals, and they rarely work anyway. Best tips would be\n1. Oil cleansing\n2. 'Natural' products\n3. Extremely gentle exfoliation\n4. Change your pillow case frequently, 2x a week\n5. Generally healthy lifestyle, water, diet, and exercise\n6. Sunlight can help with acne, but don't over do it", "Better than anything: Drink lots of water, do cardio, and wash your face. The water will help improve your skin in general, the cardio will make you sweat and push the crap out of your pores. Wash everything away when you're done with your workout. I've never had anything else work better than this.", "witch hazel has always worked for me, the astrigent. Just dab some on twice a day, also good for small cuts a bug bites. Also sleep with a clean towel on your pillow, if you pop a pimple use neosporin to help it heal ( don't use it for more that a couple of days though)", "Use Cetaphil cleanser, not soap or other harsh cleansers. Change your pillow case often. In the shower, wash your face last so shampoo or conditioner doesn't stay on your face. Need to clean your face quickly in the afternoon, just rinse it with warm or cool water. Use a mild benzoyl peroxide at night (careful, it bleaches fabrics and makes your skin sun-sensitive.) Give the above some time to kick in.", "This is going to be a tl;dr post as I've had acne since I was 8 (honestly wtf) and I've tried everything. The problem with acne is it can be different for each person so you have to trial and error a lot of the solutions. I tried birth control, peroxides, tea tree oil, diet changes, lifestyle changes etc if you can name it ive tried it. I really know what im talking about.\n\nI have noticed a huge difference through just using a sunscreen moisturizer in the morning (I use Clean & Clear essentials with SP15 and its oil free, which is a must), give your face a decent coating and put extra on the drier areas and let it soak in. Dont rub it in too hard. Then at night using a different moisturizer (I use GARNIER Pure A Daily Moisturizer Anti-imperfection). The moisturization helps the skin to replenish itself and stay hydrated (because it needs to do a lot of healing). Make sure you drink a decent amount of water each day to flush out your system also).\nAny treatment that is diet related wont always work if you have really bad acne it only works for spotting. This goes for a lot of the mainstream solutions.\n\nDO NOT use any alcohol on your skin under any circumstances this will dry you out for days.\nDO NOT use normal soap.\nIf you get cystic acne or more large under the skin pimples than blackheads DO NOT use toner on your skin. They say cleanse, tone and moisturize but that's honestly bullshit do not do that when you're trying to get clear skin if you have bad acne you will make it worse. \nAll you are doing there is closing your pores and if the problem is more than skin deep you are trapping the toxins in your skin that are forming from the inside out and you will get cystic acne if you dont already.\nIf you use makeup then use makeup wipes every single night before you go to bed.\nLet your skin air dry as much as possible. Towels are great over your pillow to catch oil but rubbing your face with one pisses your skin off heaps.\n\nGarnier products have been amazing for me as they're the only ones that haven't fucked up my skin. Garnier pure active scrub is really handy for exfoliation but do not regularly exfoliate onto acne or you will aggravate your skin and I use the Garnier exfo-brusher sometimes but BE GENTLE and USE SPARINGLY when you're having a break out.\n\nLast but not least leave your skin alone, every time you touch it you are transferring dirt onto your face (we touch our face subconsciously up to 2-4 times a minute) and the same goes for your hair, keep it off your face as much as possible, keep it washed, never condition any hair that touches your face and if you want to go that extra mile carry some hand sanitizer if you're going out anywhere that you could touch something with bacteria. \n\nSorry this was so long. I couldve written a ton more so if anyone has any questions feel free to PM me. I hope some of this helped :)\n\nAlso, for acne on any other part of the body the only solution in my opinion is regular exposure to sun (use sunscreen!!!!) but I got entirely rid of acne on my back when I got a tan that dried it out. Each part of your skin is exposed to different things so different things work. Ok im going to stop typing now.", "Take a banana peel and rub it on your face once a day. Use clay face masks and sleep in them.\nIf that doesn't work, speak to your doctor about \"Acutane.\" It solves any acne problem ever, but it has side effects. Dry skin is the most common, but has been known to make you feel depressed or overly angry at little things.", "SUPER SECRET home remedy, put a towel over your pillow when you sleep. make sure it is as dry as possible and no fabric softener. it will absorb the excess oil on your face during the night helping reduce and prevent acne. ", "If you have a pimple that's really red and inflamed, dab antibiotic cream (like Neosporin) on it. It won't clear it up totally, but it will make it less red. ", "I had very severe acne as a teen. Eventually what cleared it up was accutane for a few months, but that's scary stuff. I do still have some maintenance things I do to keep it from coming back that may be worth a try.\n\nMorning and night, wash your face with warm water and cetaphil soap (bar or liquid are both fine). Don't scrub. Pat dry with a clean towel, and apply lotion (cetaphil or cerave).\n\nDon't touch your face the rest of the day.\n\nWash face and moisturize again at night. Change pillowcases often. Keep your hands away from your face.\n\nI've also found if I get a spot that will not go away, using a dab of amerigel on it for 2-3 days will clear it up.", "Boil some water. Take it off the stove, put your face over the steam, not too close (don't want to get burned) and put a towel over your head to keep the steam in. This will help clear your skin TRY IT!!! Afterwards slash cold water on your face to help close pores and PAT DRY. You can also put a towel in the dryer and when it's hot put it on your face. \n\nDo it!!! ", "Grow a beard. Not only hides any acne, but reduces skin irritation so far fewer pimples form to start with." ]

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[ "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me.", "My horrible dandruff isn't cured by any of the major brands. I've been struggling with dandruff for the past two years, as well as the occasional small scabs. I've tried Selsun Blue, T-Gel, Head and Shoulders, Paul Mitchell with Tea Tree oil, and high end shampoos like Nioxin and Phyto. I can temporarily relieve the symptoms by buying a brush for scrubbing dishes and exfoliating, but it quickly returns and only aggravates my scalp. I've tried colder water, using shampoo every day, taking days off to let natural oils build up, but... nothing helps. It's becoming embarrassing at work and in social situations. Please, please help me." ]

[ "There is prescription dandruff shampoo called Ketoconazole 2%. Without insurance, it is expensive $15 - $25 a bottle on Amazon, called \"Nizoral.\" \n\nDandruff is actually a fungal condition, caused by *Malassezia globosa,* where the fungus is consuming the sebum of your oil glands to thrive. Coconut oil is a very effective antifungal. I'd recommend buying organic coconut oil. slathering it all over your scalp, sitting for twenty minutes and washing it out with shampoo and doing this once a week, at least.\n\nThe chlorine in tap water promotes fungal growth, so a chlorine filter for the shower may help as well.\n\nGood luck!", "Are you sure it's actually dandruff? There is a type of psoriasis that mimics dandruff that it could be. ", "My girlfriend cured mine with Kosher salt and Olive Oil. I do it once a week and really get it into the scalp. Then wash my hair with a SMALL amount of Head and Shoulders. Remember, most dandruff comes from the fact that you are leaving product on your scalp and not getting most of it off.", "stop using hot water and shampoo on your hair. also try coconut oil.\n\nthe dandruff doesn't stop in a day; takes a bit so just calm down", "i had some dandruff and irritated scalp issues for a decade until i started using VO5 tea tree oil shampoo every day. yeah that cheap ass 99 cent stuff .... also a good tip rinse rinse rinse and when you think you've rinsed everything out rinse it some more. nothing will dry out your scalp and irritate it and cause flaking more than soaps and detergents allowed to remain and dry out on it.", "Try honey washes. I've suffered from seborrhea for years now and making a solution of honey+water (you can find exact recipes if you search honey washes) usually works. Also neutrogena t-gel extra strength left on for at least 5 minutes and rinsing with cold water has alleviated my symptoms over the course of a couple months. Make sure to wash your scalp every day though, skipping days only encourages flare-ups.\n\nMore than anything I definitely suggest seeing a derm. I've had sebborhea for my whole life and a term-prescribed shampoo was the only thing that made a dent in it. I eventually ran out of it and discovered that neutrogena t-gel extra strength worked even better, but seeing the derm kickstarted the recovery stage for my scalp.\n\nIf anything, pick a treatment and stick with it. You most likely won't see results for a few weeks. \n\nGood luck! ", "Try a diluted apple cider vinegar solution. Also, DHS shampoo (at most drugs stores, but cheaper on amazon)", "The only shampoo that worked for me at one time was [Denorex.](http://www.amazon.com/DENOREX-SHAMPOO-THERAPEUTIC-Health-Beauty/dp/B000GCY2CY/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top) The secret ingredient is coal tar, and you have to look specifically for it in the ingredients as they came out with a reformulation as that ingredient became regulated by the state of California. Really the most effective there is in this department.\n\nThen I changed my diet and started to eat healthier (to a modified paleo) which really lessened my problems (i.e. helped my skin) significantly. So much so that I can keep things in check easily using [inexpensive shampoo](http://voices.yahoo.com/equate-vs-head-shoulders-which-dandruff-shampoo-1354553.html?cat=69) that [relies on zinc.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zinc_pyrithione#Medical)", "I just started using Neutrogena T/Sal and it seems to work really well for me...more than any other brand.\n\nIt smells like tar.", "Believe it or not, it sounds like you have very dry skin. I thought I had bad dandruff for years until I checked in with a dermatologist and she pointed out the irritated areas on my scalp by touching them, I felt an immediate slight discomfort and connected the dots. I used to scrub the shit out of my hair with shampoo, slather it in conditioner, rinse rinse rinse and still wound up brushing my hair over and over again to relieve the itchiness. \n\nIt doesn't sound as wonderful as scented shampoos, but hot water and vinegar are all that you need to clean your hair thoroughly and it won't harm your scalp at all. Seems like it'd be worth a shot given all of your stressful attempts." ]

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[ "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver.", "How to tighten the tiny screw on your glasses, without a screwdriver designed for glasses. Lense popped out and I don't have a small enough screw driver." ]

[ "Do you know any serious computer rebuilders? They have the screwdriver set.\n\nMost optical shops will fix it for you and probably have the little kit you can buy and the screws with lock stop stuff.", "You need the right tool I'm afraid and there is risk of hurting yourself using a knife, especially if you can't see well.\n\nIf you are in a real pinch and have some glue on hand you could glue the screw to something, say a chopstick, screw it in with that (gently as possible) and then break the glue when it's in.", "Steak knife maybe if your near a kitchen and in a pinch. I think I’ve used that before to hold me over lol", "Do you have a boxcutter or flat scraper used for drywall? Those might be usable.\n\nIf you have any sort of thin metal like a food tin or something that you can cut a piece out with some scissors you could get it to the right dimensions if the thickness is already proper.", "At work rn, gonna try some experiments when I get home to see if I can find you a solution. What office or crafting supplies do you have?", "Use a razor blade. Not the cutting edge but the dull edge. Box cutters/olfa knives have worked in the past for me. \n\n​\n\nIt is as easy as any other time you use the wrong tool for the job. It will work, but it isn't always easy, especially starting the screw.", "If the screw sticks over the top of the hinge a bit try using a tiny binder clip. The bent metal section is small enough to fit into the screw head. Tighten my glasses earlier this eek doing it", "Dollar tree has the set including extra screws, usually near the check out- 1 buck (they work on cell phone screws too!)\n\nIn a pinch u can remove the outer part of a bread bag twist tie and use the wire inside, put it through the holes the screw would go in and twist. Just til u can get it fixed.", "I always take a piece of paper and do one fold at a time till I can fit it into the tiny hole and turn it" ]

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[ "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been.", "How to feel like your worthy and belong Hello all, I’m sorry for posting this and asking what is probably asked a lot on this. I’m just tired of of this feeling of doom and depression. Currently 30, no kids nor money, mediocre Econ degree.\n\nI have a great family - my parents both passed so my older brothers and sister are all I have as immediate family. They are very talented and hard working and I look up to them (always have as a kid). They are supportive and always include me in their plans, but I just feel like I do nothing but bring them down and everyone around me. They know I struggle inside and care very much, I just feel like I waste their time and energy that could be better spent with better company. I’m not fun nor interesting but my siblings are all pros at their craft and deserve a better friend/little brother that is capable of sharing the excitement they have.\n\nIt’s like all I want to do is drink and be alone. I don’t really want to, but I feel like it’s all I know and good for. I don’t want to die but feel like the world would be better off and my family would be better off too. I love my family so much but want them to reach their goals and know they will. I just don’t want to continue to be a burden and get in their way like I have been." ]

[ "No judgement at all, but have you considered cutting out alcohol? The folks at r/stopdrinking are a great community and it’s a great place to start if that’s an issue or goal. Explore your hobbies and interests more, maybe consider talking with a doctor about meds, get outside, fuck what other people think or you think they expect from you, you gotta do what’s best for you. I’m a late 30s single guy, no kids, depressed my whole life, instead of trying to “beat” it or run from it, learn how to embrace it, refocus those feelings and energy into something good, fun, enjoyable. Embrace your crazy.", "Weekly therapy might help you for a few months if you arent already seeking help. \n\nMaybe also try AA meetings? There are ones on zoom now. They were eye opening to me personally to begin my journey of change and to know that im not alone at all in feeling this way. \n\nYou are amazing and can push forward - remember this and keep telling yourself that no matter what counterpoint your brain makes", "Please don’t give up on yourself. It would be devastating to your family. You are worthy! There is a reason you are here on this earth. There are people who care about you!! Have you considered talking to a good therapist. If you can’t afford it there are places that will do it for free and online from your phone if you prefer. It’s been a rough few years for so many of us, but bad, sad, times are temporary. It will get better. Is there anything that you enjoy doing? Music, art, video games, funny movies or tv shows? [Free Help For Depression](https://www.crisistextline.org/help-for-depression/)\n\n[Bliss for Depression](https://cimhs.com/)\n\n[Free Online Therapy](https://freeonlinetherapy.org/)\n\nI surely hope and pray you will try one of these links or call 1-888-993-3112. But don’t give up please. You are not alone.", "OK, firstly - you talk a lot about your family, but don't mention friends or partner(/s). Humans are social animals, yes we all need alone time, but it's not healthy to only have your family as your social group, not least because those family members probably have their own social groups to provide them a lot of those valuable neurochemicals you're not currently getting.\n\nSecondly, I went through a bit of a hard patch as a teenager during one summer holiday. Since then my solution is to set myself daily goals. Every night before I sleep I decide on at least one thing I want to do the next day. As long as it isn't too big to handle, and I usually achieve it, it definitely helps me. Humans are natural problem solvers - achieving tasks and cracking problems makes us feel good.\n\nThirdly, when you're feeling empty and pointless, find something you can give back to. Whether it's volunteering with a charity or at a hospital, making a point of talking with your older neighbours, or finding some way to share your skills with others, this will ground and embed you in your community. Without feeling grounded, you'll always feel a bit lonely, and engaging with people will both broaden your range of social connections, and maybe help you realise that others have it at least as bad as yourself, and if they can keep going, so can you!\n\nFourthly, you mention a mediocre economics degree (first up, there's no such thing as a mediocre degree: a third of people don't get a secondary education, and 15% of the world are illiterate), no kids and no money. This suggests you're not currently working, and it's no secret that lack of employment and financial insecurity beget mental health and self esteem problems, which in turn make finding work and making good financial decisions harder. If you're in that situation you're stuck in a vicious cycle that's difficult to break, but breaking it might be your only way to improve your feelings. Economics is a decent subject that equips you with advanced numerical literacy and systems thinking. I'm not going to go into career advice here, but I will say don't sell yourself short. If you can do a degree, you can do a job.\n\nFinally, you mentioned losing your parents. I've been there, and it's rough. Try to look at your situation objectively - what advice would your parents give you now? What could you do that would make them and your siblings proud?\n\nYou've only got one life. Live it.\n\nGood luck.", "You are so important man. You have no idea how important you are to your family. They include you in their plans because they love you. Your 30’s are about growth. You are just beginning this journey my man. You’re awesome and the world is your oyster. Go write down some short and long term goals and seize them. Peace and Love 🤙🤙🤙", "Would helping others make you feel better? Cooking for orphans in Asia, the east…, advocate for women, …", "Since you want to [drink and] be alone, I’d suggest you go and attend silent m", "Serious answer: you're a man. Men produce and build stuff. Starting a job/career (especially a new one) and throwing yourself into it until you've mastered it can give you an excellent diversion from your self-pity. You will meet people in the new role. You will hang out and make friends. Take overtime. You will also have more money in your pocket and therefore more options in life.\n\nThe job doesn't have to be amazing. Some blue collar jobs pay really well. Like plumbing, gasfitting, carpentry, some warehousing and logistics (especially technical) or programming/analytics (I notice you have an econ degree).\n\nBeing productive is a huge confidence boost, a way to make friends, a way to leave yourself with no time for self-pity and less time for pity-drinking and a way to unlock your life options. This is what you were built to be as a man.", "Please, I’m begging you, DO NOT go down the alcohol road. Your siblings DO NOT think they can hang with better people than you. That’s your thinking, not theirs. Once you depend on alcohol any clear thinking will be out the window. Years of alcohol abuse will literally change your brain chemistry. Your personality will be changed forever.\nMy brother took that route 20 years ago. We siblings have done better financially than he has but we don’t think any less of him. We all take different routes in life. We are all heartbroken that he has turned his back on all of us because he feels less than. He even changed his phone number and didn’t tell us (A friend of his called me with his new #). Nothing we do will get him to come back to the family. " ]

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[ "Removing curry stains from clothes I've got a big curry stain on the front of my shirt. I've already tried rubbing in washing up liquid and washing it, but the stain is still there!\n\n(Sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit)", "Removing curry stains from clothes I've got a big curry stain on the front of my shirt. I've already tried rubbing in washing up liquid and washing it, but the stain is still there!\n\n(Sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit)" ]

[ "Yeah, just had to do this last week. tried a combination of rinsing with vinegar, letting it set with a thick paste of water + baking soda right on the stain for ~10 minutes, and washed with chlorine-free bleach. The stain did come out, but I wouldn't call it foolproof. Best of luck.\n\nI think my actual LPT is: how do you feel about tie-dyeing the whole shirt turmeric-yellow?", "Apply toothpaste, leave to dry (in the sun if you can) and wash out. Worked for me but might not for you, good luck :P" ]

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[ "What kind of dog treats should I get to give to some of the dogs at my office? My co-workers bring in their dogs occasionally to the office. What treats do dogs love that I can give them? Appreciate the help! ", "What kind of dog treats should I get to give to some of the dogs at my office? My co-workers bring in their dogs occasionally to the office. What treats do dogs love that I can give them? Appreciate the help! ", "What kind of dog treats should I get to give to some of the dogs at my office? My co-workers bring in their dogs occasionally to the office. What treats do dogs love that I can give them? Appreciate the help! ", "What kind of dog treats should I get to give to some of the dogs at my office? My co-workers bring in their dogs occasionally to the office. What treats do dogs love that I can give them? Appreciate the help! ", "What kind of dog treats should I get to give to some of the dogs at my office? My co-workers bring in their dogs occasionally to the office. What treats do dogs love that I can give them? Appreciate the help! " ]

[ "Ask them if they want you giving their dog treats. Most dog owners want to keep their dog from associating strangers with treats. I would also suggest that you only do it at their desk/in their office.\n\nAs for which treats, again, ask the owner. ", "Veggies are a healthy choice for dogs:\nCarrots, Apples, and Strawberries are the best fruits I can tell of for a dog. Strawberries also aid to whiten your dogs teeth. ", "Always ask if they have dietary restrictions before giving a treat, as everyone else has said.\n\nThe answer is any old treat will do, as long as it is generally healthy. Don't do turkey jerky (especially made in China/sourced from China, but that's not always reliable), don't do bones/hard treats/ice, as these can break/chip teeth. Other than that, you're good to go.\n\nI'd go with something called a \"training treat\" which are usually small/low calorie, and cheap. Soft foods are more widely accepted-- many small picky dogs will turn up their noses at milk bones/hard food, but will take soft treats.\n\nAt my office (I'm a veterinarian) I like to give pill pockets. Yeah, they're expensive, but I tear each one into several pieces and roll them into a ball, and most dogs, even ones whose owners say they're picky, will end up eating them. Not all, of course, but most.", "they make these things called pupperoni that are like slim jims.. i just rip em up into 5 or 6 little pieces. never met a dog that didnt like them. but LPT: always make sure to ask the owner before you give their dog a treat. maybe their dog has some kind of allergy or is on a special diet.. maybe they are still being trained and they arent getting treats just for the sake of treats yet.. not your dog, so you dont know.", "NONE! Sorry, I don't want to be rude but I had people wanting to give my dog treats all the time - so she associated people with food and started following and jumping on people that looked like they had something in their hands (like carrying a little bag or having hands into pockets). A German shepherd size dog jumping on people is not fun and put me in quite some trouble (even if she was always leashed). It also puts her in danger of being poisoned, either on purpose or not. It took me literally YEARS to try to stop this and still if I'm not watching she might try to steal food from somebody. I had to go plain rude and tell people they absolutely must not feed my dog and I hate being plain rude to people who just want to be kind, but I can't risk dealing with police because my dog freaked out a little child holding a sandwich and almost bit his hand grabbing it" ]

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[ "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?", "How to regain confidence and self-esteem I lost my confidence since the pandemic happened. Lost lots of stability in some aspect of my life. I'm a student, of legal age. Would be the best thing to have high confidence again. Any tips that could help regain confidence?" ]

[ "Just a thought, have you ever done yoga? It's very affirming. Pick a beginner video from [Yoga with Adriene](https://youtube.com/c/yogawithadriene). She's super encouraging and down-to-earth. Do buy yourself a mat; makes a big difference. When you're done, you feel a sense of accomplishment, a sense that you're doing something you can build on, and you have something new to talk about.", "For me doing sport helped a lot. I started doing cardio in the gym. If you don't like gyms or cardio workout a group sport like soccer might do the thing for you.", "I think this is super common for people in the last couple of years, you're not alone!\n\nConfidence is a big area, what are you scared to do? What's the most scary thing you can reasonably imagine yourself doing in that area? (Where you'll be nervous but not quit.) Go do it. Extracurricular clubs are good, since grades don't depend on them so they're lower stakes. You'll make mistakes, don't let yourself reframe them as failures. They're learning experiences. Do the thing a bunch more times, learning each time.", "The cheapest way to do it is probably to take up running. Start slow, Get a decent pair of running shoes and start with 5 minutes and build it up.", "I usually start with a margarita and then do something either fun or something that I'm good at and enjoy, like a fun hobby.", "Gym. Don’t analyze this comment. Get off your phone and computer and go. You’re a student? Your school has one. Go.", "I thing it's important to figure out why you lost it. \nThan it's easier to figure out how to \"fix\" it.", "Success Diary! Write daily things you have accomplished, big or small, and read through the pages when you need to gain confidence or feel down.", "Do things that actually make you better. What is your confidence tied to?\n\nCould take care of yourself body(exercise, skin care, changing diet etc)\n\ntake care of your mind(challenge yourself, read, listen to experts in a field of study)\n\nPractice a hobby and gain skill in that.\n\nAll these would actually make a difference in your life overtime and that confidence won't be faked. Your confidence will be based on your effort and real changes that YOU make. \n\nConfidence is you looking at your decisions over time." ]

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[ "de-cluttering without trowing everything away I desperately need help with storage solutions and sorting techniques! It seems like piles of stuff just get shuffled around all the time rather than put away. LPTippers, how do you organize in a small apartment? *Where* do you put things? Any and all tips are appreciated!\n\n", "de-cluttering without trowing everything away I desperately need help with storage solutions and sorting techniques! It seems like piles of stuff just get shuffled around all the time rather than put away. LPTippers, how do you organize in a small apartment? *Where* do you put things? Any and all tips are appreciated!\n\n", "de-cluttering without trowing everything away I desperately need help with storage solutions and sorting techniques! It seems like piles of stuff just get shuffled around all the time rather than put away. LPTippers, how do you organize in a small apartment? *Where* do you put things? Any and all tips are appreciated!\n\n" ]

[ "Prioritize storage by how often you use something. If it is a PIA to put away, chances are it won't get put away. Keep the things you use most often in the spots that are easiest to reach - ideally near where you will be using them. \nAre you using underbed storage for some of the less-used items? Get boxes or drawers that slide under, so you can still get to the stuff at the very back when you have to.", "I think the question should really be: do you need all that stuff?\n\nIf all you're doing is storing it, why do you have it? I'm a serious packrat, but I'm slowly recovering. I sold half of my stuff when I moved to California four years ago and it is *invigorating*. You really feel free. \n\nIf you can't fit it all into one closet, then you don't need it. Mementos shouldn't be bigger than a shoebox. Old furniture should be sold or passed on. Let that stuff go so you can live your life!\n\nIf you refuse to follow this advice, check out The Container Store. Seriously, best. Store. Ever. They sell all kinds of containers (obviously), but they also have great shelving kits and other modular devices to organize your life.", "Keeping like items together instead of scattered in various places makes me feel more organized. All the cleaning supplies are in one dish tub under the sink (except the bleach, kept separate for safety). All the office supplies are in one drawer. All cords and chargers are wrapped up with twist ties when not in use and stored in a box. Keeping DVDs, CDs, and games in a CD wallet and throwing out the cases can reduce clutter. The most important thing is to not have duplicates and knick-knacks sitting around. These sites were great resources for me: [missminimalist.com](http://www.missminimalist.com/), [unclutterer.com](http://unclutterer.com/)." ]

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[ "Promotion into Management imminent. How best to prepare myself and what to look out for? I am about to be starting up into a management role where as I will have 2 people (29 & 52) directly reporting into me and I have been told, that I will receive a budget to hire another 2 people to start things up properly.\n\nQuick info about myself, I am 25 and have been with the company for about 2 years. The other guys I will be managing joined about a year after me. I soon will be moving to the country I will be managing the team out of and leaving a lot behind in the UK - so this has to work out.\n\nI am wondering about your experiences in management and what I should look out for in these first steps? I am especially a bit nervous about the fact that both are older than me. What to do to make this work and what not to do to ensure these guys carry on trusting me and also carry on working with me the way they have been doing so far? ", "Promotion into Management imminent. How best to prepare myself and what to look out for? I am about to be starting up into a management role where as I will have 2 people (29 & 52) directly reporting into me and I have been told, that I will receive a budget to hire another 2 people to start things up properly.\n\nQuick info about myself, I am 25 and have been with the company for about 2 years. The other guys I will be managing joined about a year after me. I soon will be moving to the country I will be managing the team out of and leaving a lot behind in the UK - so this has to work out.\n\nI am wondering about your experiences in management and what I should look out for in these first steps? I am especially a bit nervous about the fact that both are older than me. What to do to make this work and what not to do to ensure these guys carry on trusting me and also carry on working with me the way they have been doing so far? ", "Promotion into Management imminent. How best to prepare myself and what to look out for? I am about to be starting up into a management role where as I will have 2 people (29 & 52) directly reporting into me and I have been told, that I will receive a budget to hire another 2 people to start things up properly.\n\nQuick info about myself, I am 25 and have been with the company for about 2 years. The other guys I will be managing joined about a year after me. I soon will be moving to the country I will be managing the team out of and leaving a lot behind in the UK - so this has to work out.\n\nI am wondering about your experiences in management and what I should look out for in these first steps? I am especially a bit nervous about the fact that both are older than me. What to do to make this work and what not to do to ensure these guys carry on trusting me and also carry on working with me the way they have been doing so far? " ]

[ "I love the podcast \"Manager Tools\". Google it, start with their \"Basics\" casts, and learn from there!\n\nMost practical advice I've yet seen on management.", "Don't try to please everybody. No matter what you do, especially as management, somebody will always be unhappy with you. Protect yourself and your job, and your loyal/good employees will be protected by default.\n\nAlso, don't know what industry you work in, but always be willing to do the things that you ask your employees to do. I would even say go out of your way to help them with their job duties. Ever manager I've ever had that has done that makes me care more about my job ten-fold.", "Communicate! They need to know what the whole team is tasked to accomplish, how success is being measured, and what pieces each of them are responsible for.\n\nEach of these points needs to be reinforced daily with progress reports and goal setting! Listen to what they have to contribute and adjust course accordingly." ]

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[ "How to stop excessive nailbiting? Hi. Since i remember myself as a kid, around age 10 I was biting my own nails and it wasn't really bothering me. Just me doing something while in class, watching TV or such. I've been doing it subconsciously for all of the time but when I was around 14 I figured out a new way to actually \"nail bite\" I was at school and a friend gave me a ruler, I literally started to tear down my nails using the ruler (no pain, only when I actually get to the deepest part of the nail, and to get it out it might've hurted a bit). Since then I literally \"ate\" all of my nails, and then it proceeded to skin bite. I've been doing it for idk how much time and for the past few months i've been noticing it is becoming worse than ever so I decided I have to stop it ASAP or I might actually do something to myself. Once in a while I get nail infection and it hurts so much for a week or two, but most times I just get serious pain when washing hands, applying force on the nail/skin where it was bitten or getting any salt, lemon and stuff like that on it. I am doing it subconsciously so I cant just make it to stop. I am a gamer and even sometimes when I play Overwatch with one hand im just pressing A D A D to strafe & dodge the bullets, and with the right hand where I suppose to be aiming, I bite my nails. I honestly want this to stop as I am shy about people seeing my nails and skin. [Here are some pictures to show the situation](http://imgur.com/a/ciOCr)\n\nplease, help me fix this.", "How to stop excessive nailbiting? Hi. Since i remember myself as a kid, around age 10 I was biting my own nails and it wasn't really bothering me. Just me doing something while in class, watching TV or such. I've been doing it subconsciously for all of the time but when I was around 14 I figured out a new way to actually \"nail bite\" I was at school and a friend gave me a ruler, I literally started to tear down my nails using the ruler (no pain, only when I actually get to the deepest part of the nail, and to get it out it might've hurted a bit). Since then I literally \"ate\" all of my nails, and then it proceeded to skin bite. I've been doing it for idk how much time and for the past few months i've been noticing it is becoming worse than ever so I decided I have to stop it ASAP or I might actually do something to myself. Once in a while I get nail infection and it hurts so much for a week or two, but most times I just get serious pain when washing hands, applying force on the nail/skin where it was bitten or getting any salt, lemon and stuff like that on it. I am doing it subconsciously so I cant just make it to stop. I am a gamer and even sometimes when I play Overwatch with one hand im just pressing A D A D to strafe & dodge the bullets, and with the right hand where I suppose to be aiming, I bite my nails. I honestly want this to stop as I am shy about people seeing my nails and skin. [Here are some pictures to show the situation](http://imgur.com/a/ciOCr)\n\nplease, help me fix this.", "How to stop excessive nailbiting? Hi. Since i remember myself as a kid, around age 10 I was biting my own nails and it wasn't really bothering me. Just me doing something while in class, watching TV or such. I've been doing it subconsciously for all of the time but when I was around 14 I figured out a new way to actually \"nail bite\" I was at school and a friend gave me a ruler, I literally started to tear down my nails using the ruler (no pain, only when I actually get to the deepest part of the nail, and to get it out it might've hurted a bit). Since then I literally \"ate\" all of my nails, and then it proceeded to skin bite. I've been doing it for idk how much time and for the past few months i've been noticing it is becoming worse than ever so I decided I have to stop it ASAP or I might actually do something to myself. Once in a while I get nail infection and it hurts so much for a week or two, but most times I just get serious pain when washing hands, applying force on the nail/skin where it was bitten or getting any salt, lemon and stuff like that on it. I am doing it subconsciously so I cant just make it to stop. I am a gamer and even sometimes when I play Overwatch with one hand im just pressing A D A D to strafe & dodge the bullets, and with the right hand where I suppose to be aiming, I bite my nails. I honestly want this to stop as I am shy about people seeing my nails and skin. [Here are some pictures to show the situation](http://imgur.com/a/ciOCr)\n\nplease, help me fix this.", "How to stop excessive nailbiting? Hi. Since i remember myself as a kid, around age 10 I was biting my own nails and it wasn't really bothering me. Just me doing something while in class, watching TV or such. I've been doing it subconsciously for all of the time but when I was around 14 I figured out a new way to actually \"nail bite\" I was at school and a friend gave me a ruler, I literally started to tear down my nails using the ruler (no pain, only when I actually get to the deepest part of the nail, and to get it out it might've hurted a bit). Since then I literally \"ate\" all of my nails, and then it proceeded to skin bite. I've been doing it for idk how much time and for the past few months i've been noticing it is becoming worse than ever so I decided I have to stop it ASAP or I might actually do something to myself. Once in a while I get nail infection and it hurts so much for a week or two, but most times I just get serious pain when washing hands, applying force on the nail/skin where it was bitten or getting any salt, lemon and stuff like that on it. I am doing it subconsciously so I cant just make it to stop. I am a gamer and even sometimes when I play Overwatch with one hand im just pressing A D A D to strafe & dodge the bullets, and with the right hand where I suppose to be aiming, I bite my nails. I honestly want this to stop as I am shy about people seeing my nails and skin. [Here are some pictures to show the situation](http://imgur.com/a/ciOCr)\n\nplease, help me fix this.", "How to stop excessive nailbiting? Hi. Since i remember myself as a kid, around age 10 I was biting my own nails and it wasn't really bothering me. Just me doing something while in class, watching TV or such. I've been doing it subconsciously for all of the time but when I was around 14 I figured out a new way to actually \"nail bite\" I was at school and a friend gave me a ruler, I literally started to tear down my nails using the ruler (no pain, only when I actually get to the deepest part of the nail, and to get it out it might've hurted a bit). Since then I literally \"ate\" all of my nails, and then it proceeded to skin bite. I've been doing it for idk how much time and for the past few months i've been noticing it is becoming worse than ever so I decided I have to stop it ASAP or I might actually do something to myself. Once in a while I get nail infection and it hurts so much for a week or two, but most times I just get serious pain when washing hands, applying force on the nail/skin where it was bitten or getting any salt, lemon and stuff like that on it. I am doing it subconsciously so I cant just make it to stop. I am a gamer and even sometimes when I play Overwatch with one hand im just pressing A D A D to strafe & dodge the bullets, and with the right hand where I suppose to be aiming, I bite my nails. I honestly want this to stop as I am shy about people seeing my nails and skin. [Here are some pictures to show the situation](http://imgur.com/a/ciOCr)\n\nplease, help me fix this." ]

[ "Maybe not helping at this stage, but if you manage to get them longer, carry nail clippers at all time, eg on your keyring. As soon as you're about to bite, cut instead.", "I started getting regular manicures and I didn't bite through those because of the money spent and also the literal \"out of sight (under polish) out of mind.\" Now I just paint my nails myself but the habit was developed. I'm definitely not perfect and in really nervous situations or if they get too long, I bite. I keep them rather short, as I start to fixate on them if they're too long.\nIf you're not comfortable with painting your nails, not sure how to help. That bitter stuff never worked for me, but give it a try. Can also try the rubber band around the wrist trick (snap yourself - hard - every time you want to bite).\nAs a reminder, nail biting is a nervous habit, almost a compulsion. So treat it as such, not as just a \"bad habit.\"", "The things that helped me the most were painting my nails to keep them pretty, and always having a file on hand. I tended to peel my nails with my teeth if there was any imperfection. Now I file it down smooth asap so I have a harder time doing it. I've only once bitten similar to yours, but I filed it smooth (hurts). And chewing a lot of gum instead.\n\nAlso, if you have any anxiety, it might be coming out in this way, and it would help to address that as well ", "I've had success through 2 avenues. \n\nFirst - hypnotherapy. I never thought it would be something I'd do but I was desperate and it worked for about 8 months. \n\nSecond - regular manicures with a full set of gel nails, impossible to bite but expensive and time consuming. ", "I am a chronic nail biter and skin biter. I've always had an oral fixation and my anxiety doesn't help either. I've tried a hundred times to stop. I've bitten my nails so short for so long that it they do grow, they are flimsy and thin. Breaking or peeling off, it's almost like my nail bed has receded so they don't attach all the way up, like normal nails do. If that makes sense. I wear a mouthpiece for dental reasons and that's stopped me sometimes. But when I take it out I go right back to biting. I also have a problem with compulsively picking scabs and a sore in one of my nostrils. I've gotten mrsa twice from it. You'd think I would learn..." ]

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[ "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements.", "How can I accept my lack of intelligence? I am an assiduous worker, but I am not intelligent. I think I would be more stable if I could accept this. I will never be a cogent professor or an interesting writer; I can only do menial work, and study the subjects I love for joy. I wish I could let go of my high-blown wishes for intellectual achievements." ]

[ "I think you are being too hard on yourself. Everything you just said sounds like the words of an intelligent and more importantly wise person. \n\nI think it is more that you have not found an outlet for the smarts you DO clearly have. \n\nDon't let people tell you otherwise", "Reframe the highest ideal in your mind: are a you a good person? Have you sought after truth and defended it when it needed defending? Can friends rely on you in hard times? \n\nBeing intelligent is not the end of the story in being human, and in most fields of work dedicated, patient learning makes for someone who can make far greater contributions than someone with enormous natural intelligence and no discipline or diligence.", "Training, consistency and tenacity beats intelligence most times.\n\nI would say I'm pretty intelligent but the coding bootcamp I'm doing right now is kicking my ass. Admitting I cannot compete with experienced folk yet and taking things step by step is helping a lot. (I jumped in at the deep end which was OK for a while but damn did I hit a wall).\n\nStart somewhere.", "Give yourself more cr", "Self esteem and Dunning Krueger.\n\nThe smart people know that they don't know much and are self aware enough to see their inadequacies. Really dumb people are sure that they have the answers and can't be taught. \n\nAre you sure that you aren't looking for experiences and practice in problem solving? Try making things, really crappy things. Learning to use your hands and being brave enough to do it imperfectly will give you things to be proud of and study.", "If you study the subjects you love for joy, you have already won. For not being a ‘natural’, you will come to a place of hard-won understanding and knowledge through your own effort. Your joy in learning will make your knowledge easier to share and teach to others. Be proud of your pursuit of learning and accomplishments.", "Whenever I feel inadequate, I just remember that everyone has a role to play. Everyone has a part, and without your part in the world, others are left undefined.", "Most people that you think are intelligent are not truly more intelligent than you are. They have just spend many years into what they are doing and have become what you know them as through the process.", "Hold on, you are struggling to accept the lack of it while you are being fully aware of it?! \nIsn't that acknowledgment somehow already an acceptance!?\n\nIMHO, you're either more intelligent than you think but just being settled for less, or you are aware of not being intelligent and coping with the struggle. \nEither way, you're doing well.\n\nMost of the people that I've met, for whom I believe aren't the most intelligent people in their environment, are usually too expressive of their lack of intelligence, pointing out other people's mistakes (or even worse, the correct deeds) at any given chance, just to mask their shallows...\n\nThere's a saying: \"you can't explain a fool that he is a fool, he won't get it\"\n\nJust to state this for the record, I don't think of myself as the next Einstein but sure I've met some dull tools :/", "This seems like a loaded question or fishing for compliments. Theres nothing wrong with that if youre feeling down. Obviously you're intelligent.\n\nHowever I can relate. Sometimes I feel the same way when I think about starting another career. It's not that you cant do it... it's more that everything these days is so complex or at least seems that way. It's how things are written and explained that make it difficult. There is so much filler in the English language. I like things in point form. Keep it simple.\n\nGood luck with whatever you want to do.", "It's not about how intelligent you are, it's about how intelligent you will be tomorrow.\n\nKeep an open mind. Work at a steady pace to improve your intellectual capacity. Every single skill associated with intelligence can be improved if you make a conscious effort to do so. Follow this path and sooner or later you'll find that you've become more intelligent than the vast majority of people, because guess what: the majority of people don't work towards improving their intelligence after they leave school.", "Intelligence is overrated. I am not intelligent nor do I wish to be. Having the knowledge to fix many problems but no actual power to do so leads to a rather depressing life tbh. Intelligence doesn't magically fix your life, it can greatly benefit it, but it's not some magic cure-all. \n\nCapability and wisdom, in the other hand, are worth so much more. \n\nI would like to consider myself fairly capable, and that's what's mistaken for \"intelligence\" by other people. \n\nWisdom is really, really hard. That's something that takes a lifetime of striving for, and really good mental health. \n\nWhy do you want to be intelligent? What do you think being intelligent will add to your life? I'd ask those questions instead. Maybe you're struggling in a certain subject or area and just need to learn that.", "Small, consistent corporal mortifications will help you to detach from worldly pleasures, as well as emotions and pride. As your attachment to your appetites decreases, you’ll be more in control of how you love your life and what you do with it. \n\nLeave the rock in your shoe. Lose the ketchup on your fries. Rise and retire at the same times everyday. Strive to never complain (although don’t ignore wrongdoings against you, just do your best to not focus on things that are negative).\n\nEventually your antecedent emotions will fade - including your emotions that are making you feel “bad” for not “being smart”. You’ll be able to approach everything you do rationally and your emotions and enjoyment of things will be entirely subject to your reason. You’ll be able to engage in the things you enjoy for leisure without any guilt for not being “smarter” and therefore appreciate the things you do for exactly what they are. You’ll be able to appreciate emotions for what they are - another experience of the world by which you make decisions - rather than allowing them to guide your decisions or perceptions of yourself or how you are living!", "Perspicacity is way more important than what some people recognise as \"intelligence\". Be kind, keep working hard and take opportunities to learn. I just had to Google \"assiduous\"!", "Gotta say you write eloquently, if your speech is anything like that then I don't think anyone thinks of you as unintelligent....probably quite the oppositte.\n\nI came on here to suggest you read more to expand your horizons but after seeing what you've written, all I have to say is carry on.", "Do you feel inadequate at the fact that there are faster runners than you? Or that some are taller or born into wealth? Those are the same as your intelligence in that you didn't choose your fate. For me there is a joy in knowing that I can't compete in some arenas because if I could I would feel obligated to see how well I can do with all my effort.\n\nStoic philosophy is useful if you're upset by the unfairness of fate. *Your* options and your outcomes are all you can concern yourself with, even if you fantasize about how far you could go with a different fate.", "You sound a bit like me when I'm dealing with imposter syndrome. \n\nHave you considered finding a therapist? I was in much the same boat and just having someone to talk to who could either validate my feelings or tell me when I was off-base was helpful.", "The more you think about something the more it comes to light sometimes creating your own reality. With s lot of insecurities I do a lot of self talk about how well things are going to turn out even if I have strong feelings about it.", "The fact you know you don't know everything says you're more intelligent than you think. People who really aren't intelligent think they know everything. I think you need to broaden you're definition of intelligence. Just my opinion.", "Socrates is cr", "Reframe your view of intelligence. My ex husband had a high IQ and scored well on intelligence tests, but he had zero emotional intelligence. \n\nJust because you don't fit in the logic/math int it doesn't mean you're stupid\n\nThis is from a quick google search. Look it up, and don't be so hard on yourself\n\n\nEight types of intelligence\n\nLogical-mathematical intelligence. \n\nLinguistic intelligence. \n\nSpatial Intelligence. \n\nMusical Intelligence. \n\nBodily-kinesthetic Intelligence. \n\nIntrapersonal Intelligence. \n\nInterpersonal Intelligence.\n\nNaturalistic intelligence.", "Maybe it could help you to read a bit more about Gardner's theory of the multiple intelligence (link below). It roughly states that what us commonly seen as intelligence is actually only a part of what makes up someone's intelligence : the logico-mathematical intelligence (basically how good you are with numbers). However, there are 7 others aspects to intelligence, such as the emotionnal, musical or even linguistic intelligences.\n\nEverybody has strengths and weaknesses in those different types, and people who live a mark (as appears to be your goal) are mostly people who actually find the path adapted to their strengths.\nSo even if you're not the best mentally equipped scholar (not saying this is the case, juste basing myself on your words), you may have other area where you excel.\nAnd last point: most things can be trained, intelligence included. By forcing yourself to do some mental exercices, you become better at those !\n\nAnd here is the [link](https://www.verywellmind.com/gardners-theory-of-multiple-intelligences-2795161#:~:text=In%20order%20to%20capture%20the,%2Dvisual%2C%20and%20linguistic%20intelligences.)", "It doesn’t matter how strong or smart one is, what matters is what one can do - M'aiq the Liar (Skyrim)", "I used to feel the same way but I figured out my problem. A lot of time, most in fact, my mind skips through leaps and bounds ahead of a current discussion which used to severely handicap my ability to carry on a conversation. People couldn’t follow me so I thought I was stupid. The root cause is that I just think way to fast and I connect things in a very unorganized and un ordinary way. I’ve told you I’m fine but is the 1 second it took to actually say I’m fine, I’ve thought about my kid, the time of day, what I’ll eat, what your wearing, what I’m wearing, what I need to do next, what I should have done yesterday and I’m so off topic that it’s awkwardness. I don’t know if you can relate, just wanted to share.\n\nI also have ADD.", "I have come to understand this as if we are all axes...some of us are sharper than other axes. But that doesn't get the wood cut. Someone who chops wood for 4 hours (an assiduous worker) with a dull axe is going to end up with more cut wood than someone who only chops 1 hour with a sharp axe. And that's what people see and what they care about..how much wood got chopped. \n\nWe're all varying combinations of sharpness/assiduousness. It's easy to focus on what we don't have and take what we do have for granted.\n\nIn the end, you might really be struggling with the lack of acclaim by others (they determine if you are a cogent professor or interesting writer) but what you should realize is that chasing acclaim from others is hollow/fleeting/fruitless. You are already well down the path of truth because you are pursuing subjects you love. You just need to reject the need for validation by others and realize that your happiness is defined by yourself and measured only by you. Just be fair to yourself. It can't hurt to make sure your goals for happiness are good ones - and here philosophy is the best guide - choose what interests you...this is a subject that people have dedicated a lot of good thought to in all cultures throughout the ages.", "Fun fact, the only common factor between people with doctorates and degrees is time spent in education not a correlation of IQ", "Do you function well socially?\n\n\nBecause imo social intelligence is the most important one and the hardest one to learn. Other forms of intelligence are easier learned. You can study fx math and music, it may be hard and you may never master it but it's accessible. Social intelligence is in larger parts something you either got or don't", "Being intelligent and being talented are different. It takes a particular mix skill of skills to be a good professor- charisma and patience being huge ones- for writing- creativity, humor, etc. \n\nYou can be intelligent and be not good at either of these things- if you are neither creative nor charismatic- but that does not make you unintelligent! \n\nIn fact, you can be creative and STILL be a bad writer. Sometimes you can practice and practice and work through it. On the flip side, someone may have natural talent at say music per say, but if they don’t practice they’ll go rusty. \n\nHow do you accept that you may never accomplish anything? I don’t necessarily agree you should. You’re not dead yet are you? Can you see the future? Follow your passion for the sake of your interest in it- and achievements may follow- or not- but the reward you will get for doing things purely for your interest will be more fulfilling than forcing it for some imagined achievement.", "Assiduous- great care and perseverance. \nSelf doubt regardimg you intelligence or ability imo is a sign of intelligence, have a look at dunning Kruger." ]

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[ "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!", "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!", "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!", "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!", "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!", "How to not be awkward around a coworker's kids. I always get quiet whenever they're in the office, and I feel like it would be creepy for me to talk to them, but I also feel that it's very rude to ignore them. HELP!" ]

[ "I always talk to kids like a normal adult unless they're really really young. You'd be surprised how many adults talk to 8 or 9 year old kids like they're 4 or 5. \"Seen any good new YouTube videos\" or \"What's your go-to on Netflix\" usually gets them talking. You shouldn't have to converse with them for more than a few minutes.", "As many other also have commented, talk to them as you would other adults. Personally though, I usually engage conversations with kids by \"mistaking\" them for a co-worker. \"Hey, are you the new guy they hired in marketing?\" Or something like that. Most kids thinks its fun and will play along. But you have to think its fun as well. Kids can smell insecurity from miles away. ", "You don't really have to talk to them and most people wouldn't really think that's awkward; a friendly smile and staying busy with your work is just fine. If they get curious and come over for a chat, school/favorite subjects, cartoons, sports, games etc are usually pretty neutral topics for small talk. Depends on the kids really, they all have personalities, just like adults.", "depends on what age. \ninfants/toddlers? just make a funny face and wave hands. \nages 5-8-18: \"hello, how are you doing? . . . good, bye.\" ( add \"keep quiet\" if necessary). \n", "I myself am good with kids, just figure out what they like, if they're boys, go for video games, for girls, ask about animals.", "It would be creepy for you to talk to them. Unless they talk to you, then in that case it would be rude for you not to respond. I think the best LPT I could give you is to treat them like an adult." ]

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[ "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance.", "Dealing with flight anxiety I'm going to Hawai'i in a week, and I've been on an airplane before- but when I think about it, I just get very nervous. Any tips/methods to help alleviate some of that anxiety? Many thanks in advance." ]

[ "I was on a Cathay Pacific flight about 15 years ago that dropped almost 2000 feet in a matter of seconds in route between Tokyo and Taipei... it was terrifying, the flight went silent and then it happened again. Worst turbulence I have ever experienced in my life. I thought we were going to die. \n\nI still fly 3-6 times a year, and I have tremendous anxiety about flying. I find that I feel a whole lot better when I have a really hard workout before a flight, and also walk the airport while waiting to board. I will literally not rest until I get on the plane. I find being exhausted makes the flight a lot easier on me without medication. Then I eat on the plane and nap as long as possible.\n\nIf there significant is turbulence enroute, I take an emergency xanax, but working out is really the healthiest best option.", "Just before stepping onboard, I always pat the outside of the plane like a horse. It's my way of saying hi, let's do this. Also, take your cues from the staff. You're going to hit turbulence on that flight, don't let it bother you. Just look at the staff, if they are calm, you should be too. ", "Go talk to your doctor. As long as you don't have a history of drug abuse your doctor should be willing to write you a prescription for just enough to get you there and back. I had the same problem and my doctor gave me some clonzepam and I handled the flight well.", "Maybe not of much help, but I like to remember that you're a lot more likely to crash in the car on the way to the plane than on the plane. How often do you crash your car? Hopefully not much. Also, you can use a trick I read on Reddit a while ago. Look at the flight attendants. See how calm they are? They've likely been on a plane thousands of times and they're entirely unfazed. Why shouldn't you be?", "It depends what you are anxious about, is it the enclosed trapped space, or the actual flying? For the first, i suggest really slow deep breaths. Count to ten and exhale. This **will** help you feel better, and knowing that this will work will then help you not worry. Anxiety can be a viscous cycle; becoming anxious of becoming anxious. Knowing you can control it is the key to making anxiety attacks go away. I used to get really bad shakes, feeling like i was going to be sick etc, but with some rescue remedy and breathing techniques i got better almost instantaneously", "Are you flying alone?\n\nIf not a conversation should take your mind of the worries. \n\nIf you are flying alone, talk to a stranger, you'd be surprised how much some people can talk. Also many carry stories of wonders.", "You just have to trust the machine. \n\nDo you ever ride roller coasters? Those things are dangerous as hell, and they're maintained by people who work at amusement parks.\n\nAircraft, meanwhile, are maintained by people with a year and a half to two years of job-specific training, and often more as it is one of the occupational fields more highly-populated by veterans — and pilots are another of those fields.\n\nThere are about 150 deaths per year in the US as a result of air travel. That's about one in 2,000,000. \n\nYou're statistically safer on an airplane than you are on a bicycle. Hell, you have a better chance of dying from bronchitis (177 per year).\n\nJust concentrate on where you're going, try m", "Try taking some [inositol](http://www.smartpowders.com/inositol-200-grams.html). It's done wonders for me in alleviating anxiety in situations like that.\n\nI usually take the tub of powder to the airport then mix three teaspoons into a bottle of water and drink it about an hour before takeoff. The effects last about 2-3 hours for me (YMMV), so for a long flight you will want to mix an extra bottle or two and carry them on.", "Read up on how a plane works/air traffic control/piloting and you will see how safe you truly are and probably pick up a few nifty facts", "Not sure if you are more concerned with before the flight or during, but if it is during I've found that noise cancelling headphones help a lot. Without actually hearing the constant noise of the plane, it's easier to forget that you are in the air. The bumps and everything just feel more normal. ", "Movies and such are a good idea, but I will suggest noise-canceling headphones. You can get a decent pair (not buying the brand name, like Beats or Monster) for about $75. Helps a lot with the cabin noise that gets to some people. ", "I was told by a doctor to take Benadryl because it contains ingredients that cut anxiety. You might want to test yourself first and see how you react. Take it on a day when you're in a funk and see if it works. My prescription is many gin and tonics, but I'm no doctor." ]

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[ "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then.", "what's a snack I can eat that will keep me from being hungry? I work in construction, and don't get lunch time until 12, which I'm usually pretty hungry by then." ]

[ "Drink one ounce of Apple Cider Vinegar (with mother).\nMix with water to cut acidity (trust me, it will burn you otherwise).\nI mix 1oz of ACV with 4 ozs of water.\nBest with breakfast or snack.\nThis will kill hunger pangs for hours.\nPlus it cuts cholesterol and helps with digestion.", "Try things like Jerky. The salt will help with loss of electrolytes and the meat will have protein + calories with a longer digestive time because of its dried nature.", "If you get hungry before lunch then you need a heartier breakfast: try eggs or more eggs.\n\nAs a snack, nuts or other high protein source.", "I hear bananas are pretty much the perfect food. Maybe put a little peanut butter on it for a little protein. ", "Greek yogurt works for me. High in protein and enough mass to make my stomach go \"Oh ok\". Just make sore to stay away from the stupidly high sugar ones.\nWater. When I get hungry when I shouldn't I sip or glug about 8 oz of water. ", "Best answer is a heavy, hearty breakfast. Otherwise, I find that cheese slices stave off hunger pangs for awhile.", "You don't get coffee breaks? I work construction and I've always had breaks every three hours. I still usually keep a granola bar in my pocket. Nothing with chocolate obviously, those melt. That or chewing tobacco. But I can understand if you don't want to do that. It does make me not hungry though. Since I've started working with a welder I just keep my lunch in her truck and eat whenever I feel like it though.", "Put 1-2 tablespoons of extra virgin coconut oil in your coffee! Its a healthy fat that will keep you satiated, and is easy to sip on breaks.", "Nuts, eggs, olives, meat.\n\nIf you burn through a lot of calories daily - maybe a (smaller) sandwich or wrap would be a good choice.", "Check out protein bars. My go-to lately has been the white chocolate macadamia cliff bar. Zone bars are also good. Easy packaging and portion control.", "Anything with decent amounts of fat or protein will do the trick. The stomach can sense when these macros are there and these (especially fats) induce satiety. For instance, fruit, which has no fat or protein, is passed through the stomach immediately (about 10 minutes) because carbs are not digested in the stomach---they are partially digested with saliva and then passed on to the small intestine for digestion. \n\n" ]

[ 3, 2, 2, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?", "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?", "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?", "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?", "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?", "What to say to someone that struggles with their body image. Whether it be someone with a minor dissatisfaction or someone with a serious problem, I never know how to respond when they address it.\n\nAssuring them that it doesn't affect their value as a person seems futile.\n\nTelling them I like the way they look seems dangerous because they may have already gone to great lengths to get there, perhaps dangerously.\n\nThe opposite is a bad idea for obvious reasons.\n\nHow would one best deal with this touchy subject?" ]

[ "Don't focus on giving compliments that reflect their body. Addressing their achievements, job, hobbies, etc is a better way to show that person that their value does not come from their body. Complimenting someone for being thin, tall, tan, etc are all parts they can not change (or not change easily) and still insinuates that if they weren't thin, tall, or tan they would not receive compliments. Hair and clothes are safer bets as well, but may reflect back to their body image. \n\nIf they ask, feel free to compliment what they are wearing, but I would avoid giving unprompted compliments on their body, especially outside of familiar relations. ", "A few years back I asked a friend an honest question, if I had a yellow teeth. I was feeling shitty about it and after he inspected them, he told me: Well, they look normal but don't forget, we are getting older.\n\nWhat he meant to say is \"it's okay, and even if they are kinda yellow, so are mine, we get older deal with it\" \n\nIf somebody can change things there don't like, be truthfull and straight. If they can't change it, tell them it's normal, more people have it or just brush it off that your hair in your ass is much worse.\n\nI hoped this helped.\n\nPS the easy way is to just say something like \"Well have you seen my weird nose.\" And they be like \"you don't have a weird nose\" and than they hopefully realise that what they see, others don't.\n", "Show them this video: https://www.facebook.com/theseanstephenson/videos/10154267912682072/\n\nThis guy is amazing, and it will put things into perspective. ", "Don't talk about it. You can't change the way another person feels about themself. You can't understand why they feel the way they do. Just be there to listen if the person chooses to share. Otherwise, mind your own business.", "Be realistic.\nDo not necessary \"you look hot\" say \"that shirt looks nice on you today.\"\nVery specific comments on little things can go a long way. \nMost people know they aren't beautiful, but they could look better or worse in certain situations. \n\nShortened: Talk about specific things and not just general things. ", "People say that stuff because they feel self-conscious so say whatever you can to make them feel better without outright lying. \n\nSo if someone says they feel fat, but they're not that overweight, say, \"You are not fat! You look great. It always looks worse to you than everyone else.\"\n\nI have a very pretty friend in her forties who is always mentioning her skin. I am able to honestly look at her and say, \"I don't even see what you're talking about. You have great skin.\"\n\nDon't say, \"You look beautiful just the way you are,\" or anything else that subtextually acknowledges the statement's truthfulness. (Ex: \"Don't worry. You just had a baby!\")" ]

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[ "How to keep your broom from collecting dust and hair at the tip. After using a broom a bunch of times it builds up dust and hair. Now when I sweep with it, it spreads all that stuff all over the floor. Is there any way to avoid this? It always makes me feel like buying a new broom.", "How to keep your broom from collecting dust and hair at the tip. After using a broom a bunch of times it builds up dust and hair. Now when I sweep with it, it spreads all that stuff all over the floor. Is there any way to avoid this? It always makes me feel like buying a new broom.", "How to keep your broom from collecting dust and hair at the tip. After using a broom a bunch of times it builds up dust and hair. Now when I sweep with it, it spreads all that stuff all over the floor. Is there any way to avoid this? It always makes me feel like buying a new broom.", "How to keep your broom from collecting dust and hair at the tip. After using a broom a bunch of times it builds up dust and hair. Now when I sweep with it, it spreads all that stuff all over the floor. Is there any way to avoid this? It always makes me feel like buying a new broom.", "How to keep your broom from collecting dust and hair at the tip. After using a broom a bunch of times it builds up dust and hair. Now when I sweep with it, it spreads all that stuff all over the floor. Is there any way to avoid this? It always makes me feel like buying a new broom." ]

[ "After every use I go outside and swipe the broom on a tree trunk a few times, this knocks off the dust and the bark grabs onto the hair and dust bunnies.", "Use a wide tooth comb to clear out all the hairs and then wash the broom with decent soap/detergent and fairly warm (but not too hot) water.\n\nYou can even comb out the broom while you are washing it, usually does the trick.\n\nWhen the broom looks like it's beyond repair, just get some sharp scissors and give it a trim.\n\n", "The only thing I can suggest is to just buy a brand new one and clean it regularly. The way I clean my broom's bristles is just pulling off the stuff by hand (gross, I know but it gets clean very efficiently) ", "I usually sweep and vacuum at the same time. I use the hose attachment of the vac to clean the broom end. ", "My BIL uses a damp paper towel to pull all that stuff off after each sweep. Takes 2 seconds & seems to work well" ]

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[ "How to get the CSS when using the Google Translate proxy? I recently started using Google Translate as a proxy for Reddit, and threads do not show up very nicely. I was wondering how I could get the CSS to make it look normal.", "How to get the CSS when using the Google Translate proxy? I recently started using Google Translate as a proxy for Reddit, and threads do not show up very nicely. I was wondering how I could get the CSS to make it look normal." ]

[ "Install Web Developer Toolbar addon, it has all the things you need to manipulate a web page in any way. Including viewing its CSS.", "Chrome > F12 or CTR+SHIFT+I to open the developer tool. Click the resources tab and find stylesheets and you can get the css files" ]

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[ "What to do with graduation robes I graduated HS a couple months ago, and I have no idea what to do with my robe", "What to do with graduation robes I graduated HS a couple months ago, and I have no idea what to do with my robe", "What to do with graduation robes I graduated HS a couple months ago, and I have no idea what to do with my robe", "What to do with graduation robes I graduated HS a couple months ago, and I have no idea what to do with my robe" ]

[ "Keep the cap mend and clean the robe. Then Start a recycle program at the school you just graduated from for those who really don’t have the $20.00 to spend. Get others involved and the school is more likely to take you seriously. Or maybe they will quit charging for them and reuse them as they should. My school made us buy the caps and loaned us the robes. School colors don’t usually change. Good luck in your future endeavors :)", "Where is buying graduation robes a thing? HS and University, they loaned me a cap and gown for the occasion and then took it back for use with the next graduating class. The only people I knew who bought their own were doctoral students.", "give it to a student who can't afford to buy one but will graduate after you. You can also give it to your school and ask them to gift it to a student in need who for a future graduation.", "I tossed it the second I got home. It holds no value to me, as graduating high school is not really an accomplishment." ]

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[ "How to deal with life when you hit your peak productivity late at night? Apologies for the terrible wording, couldn't figure out a way to describe it in one sentence.\n\nCurrently have a regular day job. Almost every evening, I find myself totally unmotivated to do any productive things. And almost every night, usually at midnight or later, I find myself very tired but also suddenly motivated to start cleaning the house and doing other household chores. On weekends this isn't an issue, but when I have to wake up rather early the next morning on very little sleep, it starts to affect my work performance and mood.\n\nThis will happen regardless of what I eat/drink at night, seems to happen no matter what time I woke up that day, and I can't really find any other reason for it. I've always been a night person, but there has to be a way to take advantage of this and also get a decent amount of sleep.\n\nTIA!", "How to deal with life when you hit your peak productivity late at night? Apologies for the terrible wording, couldn't figure out a way to describe it in one sentence.\n\nCurrently have a regular day job. Almost every evening, I find myself totally unmotivated to do any productive things. And almost every night, usually at midnight or later, I find myself very tired but also suddenly motivated to start cleaning the house and doing other household chores. On weekends this isn't an issue, but when I have to wake up rather early the next morning on very little sleep, it starts to affect my work performance and mood.\n\nThis will happen regardless of what I eat/drink at night, seems to happen no matter what time I woke up that day, and I can't really find any other reason for it. I've always been a night person, but there has to be a way to take advantage of this and also get a decent amount of sleep.\n\nTIA!", "How to deal with life when you hit your peak productivity late at night? Apologies for the terrible wording, couldn't figure out a way to describe it in one sentence.\n\nCurrently have a regular day job. Almost every evening, I find myself totally unmotivated to do any productive things. And almost every night, usually at midnight or later, I find myself very tired but also suddenly motivated to start cleaning the house and doing other household chores. On weekends this isn't an issue, but when I have to wake up rather early the next morning on very little sleep, it starts to affect my work performance and mood.\n\nThis will happen regardless of what I eat/drink at night, seems to happen no matter what time I woke up that day, and I can't really find any other reason for it. I've always been a night person, but there has to be a way to take advantage of this and also get a decent amount of sleep.\n\nTIA!" ]

[ "The solution, IMHO, is to find a career where this is a benefit rather than a curse. I'm in IT, and I get a whole LOT of work done at night working remotely. I'm lucky though in that my company doesn't demand I'm there 9-5, they recognize the value I provide and as long as I keep everything running smoothly and I'm accessible when people need me, I'm generally left to do my own thing. \n\nThat means I bounce around a lot sleep schedule wise. There are times when I'm in at 8am and out at 4pm, there are times when I'm not in until noon, and there are times when I work from home the whole day. This may sound crazy, but it works because the users know they can always call if they need help, and if they want me in the office (IE to be there 'just in case' for when they do a client presentation) I'm happy to do it as long as I get a day or two advance notice. \n\nSo I do my thing and I keep the big bosses informed as to what's going on, and everybody is happy! \n\nNow this of course is for a small-ish company. This sort of thing might not fly at Microsoft for example.\n\nHowever even ignoring IT, there are lots of places where being in-office 9-5 is not a requirement, where you can do flextime hours or work from home a lot or where they don't care about your schedule as long as you get a lot of work done. ", "I would start with light-blocking shades and artificial light to see if being a night person is related to circadian rhythm. Being a night person could also be related to work hours and how long it takes to recover from your work day. In that case changing your exercise habits might make a difference. Just my two cents.", "I am the same way, I always end up staying up all night doing more things than I find the motivation to do during the day. I'm glad I have a local 24/7 diner!" ]

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[ "What is the easiest way to peel a potato? My dad is a chef and makes me peel them all the time and i'm looking for a faster method", "What is the easiest way to peel a potato? My dad is a chef and makes me peel them all the time and i'm looking for a faster method", "What is the easiest way to peel a potato? My dad is a chef and makes me peel them all the time and i'm looking for a faster method" ]

[ "I boil potatoes for a few minutes then pull them one at a time from the boiling water. Under just a little running water at the sink, to offset the hot potato, I pull the skin off with my hands (or a spoon) then throw them back in the water to finish cooking and repeat with the rest. With this method I can peel a potato in 15 seconds or so. My Mom has been doing this for years and it works for me too. ", "Use a Y shaped vegetable peeler instead of the traditional sideways-held potato peeler; it's a more natural angle and motion and you can have the whole thing peeled in under ten seconds.\n\n\nIf they're for mashing, just bake them in the oven, scoop out the insides and mash with a fork. You get a much creamier consistency that way and you have bonus potato skins you can use for dipping and scooping.", "Never tried it, but I heard you can put potatoes in a ricer fully peeled and they will be peeled and mashed in one step. But only if you are mashing them. " ]

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[ "How to manage photos? I bought a camera a couple years ago, and every once in a while, I take a bunch of photos, and then either forget to download them, or never look at them. When I do download them, they always seem like a messy conglomerate.\n\nDoes anyone have any ideas about how to manage their photos? What do you do with all the photos you take? Tips for Mac or PC (or whatever) are all useful!", "How to manage photos? I bought a camera a couple years ago, and every once in a while, I take a bunch of photos, and then either forget to download them, or never look at them. When I do download them, they always seem like a messy conglomerate.\n\nDoes anyone have any ideas about how to manage their photos? What do you do with all the photos you take? Tips for Mac or PC (or whatever) are all useful!", "How to manage photos? I bought a camera a couple years ago, and every once in a while, I take a bunch of photos, and then either forget to download them, or never look at them. When I do download them, they always seem like a messy conglomerate.\n\nDoes anyone have any ideas about how to manage their photos? What do you do with all the photos you take? Tips for Mac or PC (or whatever) are all useful!", "How to manage photos? I bought a camera a couple years ago, and every once in a while, I take a bunch of photos, and then either forget to download them, or never look at them. When I do download them, they always seem like a messy conglomerate.\n\nDoes anyone have any ideas about how to manage their photos? What do you do with all the photos you take? Tips for Mac or PC (or whatever) are all useful!" ]

[ "Photo Mechanics for culling and sorting. Naming is superquick with codereplacement for sports.\nProgram of choice to ", "Okay, if you just need a casual place to store all your photos, I’d recommend uploading them to Google Photos. They’re sorted and searchable depending on time, location, people, and even content. There probably are more professional ways to handle it that don’t involve sharing all your pictures with a large tech company, but personally I just use the cloud for the sake of simplicity. ", "I'm a photographer so personally I don't do this but what you could do is download them all, cull them (delete repeats/blurry photos). Then place all of the photos in a folder labeled with the date (I.e. 7/9/16). Let's say you're in France or something; inside of 7/9/16, create a folder labeled \"France\", then maybe one day you went to the Eiffel Tower, the next day you went to the Louvre, make two separate folders inside of \"France\" and label them \"Eiffel Tower\" and \"Louvre\", etc. That may have been a given, but I organize mine differently because it's my job. Hope this sort of helped, sorry!", "For my cell phone pics I use the Shutterfly app and I only upload the best ones. Then delete the rest off my phone. " ]

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[ " I'm currently sixteen years old and I'm thinking of getting a part time job in order to afford a pc and video gear,but I really don't know where to start,this is my first time doing something like this so it would really help if I could get some pointers or advice regarding the subject.", " I'm currently sixteen years old and I'm thinking of getting a part time job in order to afford a pc and video gear,but I really don't know where to start,this is my first time doing something like this so it would really help if I could get some pointers or advice regarding the subject.", " I'm currently sixteen years old and I'm thinking of getting a part time job in order to afford a pc and video gear,but I really don't know where to start,this is my first time doing something like this so it would really help if I could get some pointers or advice regarding the subject.", " I'm currently sixteen years old and I'm thinking of getting a part time job in order to afford a pc and video gear,but I 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regarding the subject." ]

[ "OKAY. First responder and previous 16 year old here (24 now). \n\nReally, all that could possibly work against you is the perception that your an unreliable teenager, so seek your job in a way that immediately negates this possibility. For instance, come by and ask to talk to the manager of said restaurant or store in the morning. This way, they immediately think your a straight shooter, and there is no chance they are too busy to forget you. \n\nSecond, be more than an application. It's easy to say no to a name scribbled on paper. Hand in your application with a handshake and a conversation. Even make a point to walk by the place a couple of times per week, make eye contact, and wave. Little things like this create an environment of social expectation. You act as though you fully expect and deserve a position. Chances are that the people on the other end will be more likely to follow through in this case. \n\n*", "Sorry for the wall of text; on mobile: If you are willing to give up some of your Friday and Saturday nights (when you'd make the most money in top-outs), I'd suggest trying to get a job bussing tables at a nearby restaurant. A lot of places don't even open for lunch so you could probably even work a couple of dinner shifts during the week and be cut after the dinner rush so you wouldn't be working that late. It is good money for someone with little to no experience, plus once you turn 18, it will be an easy transition to serving since you'll then be able to serve alcohol (at least in the US) and will probably have a good idea as to the menu and way the restaurant operates. I started doing that at 14 and was making better money than my friends who were 2 years older than me. Just keep in mind, the restaurant industry isn't for everyone, but I think it is at least worth exploring if it is a fit for you.", "Literally ask everywhere. Right now, you're not too good for fast food (not being rude, but it's basically designed for people in your situation), so try it too. \n\nWork your butt off, and go out of your way to show initiative. Get an application, go back a week later and ask if there's any update on it. If there's an interview, show up well-prepared fifteen minutes early. \n\n", "Just a couple of ideas...\n\nPrint out 20 CV's with you contact details, school details, skills such as maths / hard working / eager / quick learning / on time etc. \n\nOne weekend morning (before peak hour - this is important) show up to places that you'd be interested in working - cafes, restaurants, retail. These are likely the places you will get a start. It is not glamorous, but it is a start. \n\nShowing up early, being well presented, speaking well, and having you CV prepared (with a smile) can be enough for someone to give you a go - a start. And that's what it will be, a trial. \n\nJobs are hard slog - get ready.\n\nAlternatively, go entrepreneur - start in your neighborhood offering to wash cars / mow lawns / walk dogs / what-ever. Again, have pamphlets. \n\nGood luck!", "I'm 23 now and have landed a great job in NYC. Prior to this I held a job at a grocery store for 8-9 years and several other part time second jobs during that time. \n\nI recommend applying to a grocery store. They have extremely high turnover rates due to other highschoolers quitting nonstop. due to this they are normally always hiring. Its going to suck. There are some fun part time jobs, but those are rare and honestly aren't what you want. They won't prepare you for the real world work. Work isn't fun. Like other commentors here, go in early, ask to speak directly to the HR person or the manager. Put your name in and talk to them. If you don't get hired on the next round of hiring, apply again after, you will get hired. If someone applies twice to a grocery store who isn't a drug addict or major fuck up, you've already put in more effort than anyone else applying. You will get hired. It will suck. People suck. It's a great life lesson to learn early on. \n\nAs a side note to part time jobs. I'm now working at a major accounting firm, in my interview I was told I had the most work experience out of anyone else applying and thats why they hired me. Thats not from me working 95 jobs, leaving a new one every other week like most highschoolers. It was from working at one place for 8 years. Thats rare and looks amazing on resume's. I'd highly recommend finding a place, accepting how shit the job is and just sticking it out. Eventually you'll move up a little bit (not much cuz you're a highschooler), to the point where you don't have to deal with customers as directly or take orders from other power hungry kids and it becomes more tolerable. But stick it out, it will only help you out in the future.", "Talk to people, network. Talk to your teachers, talk to people at church (if you attend), talk to your aunts, uncles, parents' friends.\n\nGo to places you'd like to work and talk to people working there now, ask them what they did to get hired, how the bosses are, and get a feel. Show interest and initiative.\n\nIf you get asked to come in for an interview, or anything, be EARLY, and know something about the place you're trying to get on at.", "I'm 34 now, but when I was in high school, our school had a career center with career counselors and such. There was a corkboard in the office where local businesses would post jobs. Anything from warehouse work to grocery stores to office work to service/retail jobs.\n\nCheck if your high school has a career center where they have job postings. Your chances of success are higher because these are employers who are actively considering hiring high schoolers and have schedules that sync with school schedules (e.g. afternoon and evenings). I worked a warehouse job that paid like $12/hr. to unload contents of trailers onto pallets. ", "Maybe just go to Best Buy or wherever you buy pc/video gear and apply for a part time job? They understand students hours and you will probably get some sort of employee discount. Also you will learn a lot and probably have fun.", "Many elderly people need sitters. Even more need help with activities of daily living. They can no longer stoop or reach high. There is a good chance that someone close to you needs help every few days.\n\nYou can make it what you will. Sitting and monitoring someone can be paid study time which you can do throughout college.\n\nA trustworthy fast house cleaner can earn a living for life.", "In case you haven't learned it yet, finding a job is just as much about who you know as what you know. Get your parents to help out. Maybe they have friends who know of a job opening that would be good for you.", "If you want excellent money, satisfaction, and most importantly freedom, don't work for another business or company. You can make excellent money washing windows, detailing vehicles, mowing lawns, shoveling snow, and a host of other service based businesses. A key factor is when offering your services to be dressed neatly, smile, and look people in the eye. ", "Depending on the area of the country it can be tough. If teens still work in fast food in your area, that's an option. \n\nI started out in a movie theater at 15. The work was fairly easy most of the time and it was minimum wage.\n\nThe main thing is not to be too picky. Just walk into any place you think you have a small chance of being hired and ask for a job application. You can fill it out on the spot or bring it back. Focus on just getting as many job apps out there as you can.\n\nWhatever you start with, if it's minimum wage or close to it, after working a year, start looking for something better. You will meet an endless number of losers in their 20s and even 30s working low level jobs and/or minimum wage and they'll bury you in their cynicism if you stick around too long. Worse, they'll subtly convince you to stick around to validate their own failure. ", "Ask your school/teachers if they work with \"hire me first\" they offer it at my school and it helps kids like us get jobs ", "bussing tables or dishwashing at restaurants\n\ncash/cooking at fast food establishments\n\n\"Student Painters\" (don't know if they only hire over 18s or not, but you can check\n\nParks and Recreation departments hire public space maintenance (basically yard workers), life guards/instructors (local pools), skating instructors (rinks), janitorial staff (recreation facilities)\n\nsales clerk (stores)\n\nprivate lawn maintenance companies (they frequently do driveway clearing in the winter, then lawn and garden maintenance in the summer)\n\nAs for how: go in to each place in person. Ask if they are hiring or need help. Be prepared to fill in lots of applications. Dress neatly, be polite, speak and write grammatically, follow up with each place a few days later (in person, if possible, by phone if not), \"inquiring if they have made any hiring decisions or if they might have any follow up questions prior to making any decisions\". Thank each person you deal with on your search for their time.\n", "I just walked into my nearby Target, applied on the machine, and got a call back later. However I'd suggest going to a restaurant and asking to speak with manager and asking if they're hiring. You probably wouldn't start serving but you could work up to it (which is where the money is at). Just don't become that asshole who complains about not getting tipped when you're making 3x+ minimum wage in tips alone. Or tough it out in retail and use it as motivation to do well in school because retail sucks. ", "Have a look online. A lot of big business (department stores, fast food, supermarkets, etc) have online applications. ", "- You should communicate that you are taking the job seriously. You might be working next to this 30 year old guy whose life is working the cash. Don't make the managers think this job is a stint for you to get some $ for games. That includes:\n\n> Dress well. Get a dress shirt\n\n> Print a CV and fill out their application form with care\n\n> Apply to the same place often (every week), don't give up if they don't call you after 2-3 days\n\n- Entry-level \"shit jobs\" are actually good for your future. My 2 years at McDonald's were a big highlight on my CV when I got my (college) federal government student job. This communicates that you aren't afraid of hard work and are flexible to taking orders/working in shifts. ", "Yes, the walk-in method works with high school jobs.\nI'd say start at the mall because you have lots of restaurants and stores to choose from. \n\nI held several mall jobs through out the year. Ranging from ice skating rink attendant to third key supervisor in a retail store.", "Wow, you get a choice whether to get a job in high school or not? Craigslist, monster, the classifieds, etc. Good luck! Oh and if you can try to avoid fast food jobs, they really suck.", "Search \"food\" in Google maps and start calling places around you. That's how I got my first job as kitchen help in college. I ended up calling like 20 places, but it worked. I worked for a small cafe I had never heard of and the chef was great, but now I'm sad to hear she closed down her cafe.", "Not sure how popular this is there but you could try door to door sales or over the phone tele-sales if your classes are during the day.", "Hit the concrete friend. My first job was at 14. My mom said, \"don't come back until you have a job or have applied to at least 10 places\". I had a job at the local Burger King later that day. Just keep going into place after place until you found someone who will pay you to work. It's your first job, so don't over think it.", "Check a local paper. Every town has one, and you're pretty much guaranteed to find a job offer in every other ", "Check a local paper. Every town has one, and you're pretty much guaranteed to find a job offer in every other " ]

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[ "How to tell a girl I've liked for 5 years that I like her (I'm an introvert) Yeah recently I've really been wanting to tell her because this is the first time I've ever gotten a class with her. I know I would regret not doing it after high school (I'm a sophomore), so I just wanna know the best way to tell her. I'm honestly ok with rejection I just want her to know. I think it would help me for some reason if she knew that I've liked her since the 5th grade. I think the best way for me to tell her would be to get to talk to her alone and then just tell her everything. I think it would be embarrassing for me though if there were her friends around. Not sure what he best way to do this is though", "How to tell a girl I've liked for 5 years that I like her (I'm an introvert) Yeah recently I've really been wanting to tell her because this is the first time I've ever gotten a class with her. I know I would regret not doing it after high school (I'm a sophomore), so I just wanna know the best way to tell her. I'm honestly ok with rejection I just want her to know. I think it would help me for some reason if she knew that I've liked her since the 5th grade. I think the best way for me to tell her would be to get to talk to her alone and then just tell her everything. I think it would be embarrassing for me though if there were her friends around. Not sure what he best way to do this is though" ]

[ "If you actually want to date this girl, DON'T tell her everything. It will be cathartic for you, but overwhelming to her. Just ask her out. If things go well, and you start to date, THEN you can give her your emotional vomit. \n\nBut the best way to freak her out, is dump all your feelings from the past 5 years on her all at once. ", "Do what your heart says. Don't worry about the result as much. You'll grow simply from the fact of telling her, despite what the result is. \n\nDon't be pushy, but spill your guts brother! " ]

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[ "How do I prevent clothes from shrinking? The very common answer is to hang dry them, which is fine, however that would leave them wrinkley, i was told it’s fine to put clothes in the dryer after the clothes actually dry and it wouldn’t shrink the clothes. Is this true? If not what else could I do? Also, what are the best settings for clothes to not shrink a lot if you’re not too worried about them and/or in a hurry?", "How do I prevent clothes from shrinking? The very common answer is to hang dry them, which is fine, however that would leave them wrinkley, i was told it’s fine to put clothes in the dryer after the clothes actually dry and it wouldn’t shrink the clothes. Is this true? If not what else could I do? Also, what are the best settings for clothes to not shrink a lot if you’re not too worried about them and/or in a hurry?" ]

[ "Wash clothes as normal, put in the dryer for 10 mins, hang to finish drying. My laundry ninja secret. Keeps clothes newer looking too.", "I wash my wool in cold water with liquid fabric softener. Let them get mostly dry then throw them in the dryer on the lowest heat setting. If you're in a hurry and your clothes aren't actually dirty, throw them in the dryer with a dryer sheet. I'll do that with a wool sweatshirt once or twice, but I always wear a tshirt under it so it's not sweaty or nasty or anything." ]

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[ "How do I remove the smell of mothballs from a closet? I moved into a new apartment and one of the closets reeks of mothballs. I'm letting the closet air out and scrubbed the floor of the closet really well. What else can I do?", "How do I remove the smell of mothballs from a closet? I moved into a new apartment and one of the closets reeks of mothballs. I'm letting the closet air out and scrubbed the floor of the closet really well. What else can I do?", "How do I remove the smell of mothballs from a closet? I moved into a new apartment and one of the closets reeks of mothballs. I'm letting the closet air out and scrubbed the floor of the closet really well. What else can I do?", "How do I remove the smell of mothballs from a closet? I moved into a new apartment and one of the closets reeks of mothballs. I'm letting the closet air out and scrubbed the floor of the closet really well. What else can I do?", "How do I remove the smell of mothballs from a closet? I moved into a new apartment and one of the closets reeks of mothballs. I'm letting the closet air out and scrubbed the floor of the closet really well. What else can I do?" ]

[ "Put white vinegar in a spray bottle 50/50 with water.\nSpray 2-3 times a day until smell is gone.\n\nThis can also be used to eliminate all other odors. The vinegar smell will go away within 5 minutes and your home will be odor free. Avoid spraying directly on plants, as vinegar can kill them. Otherwise, this is a safe and frugal method for eliminating all types of odors.", "Was he just hanging out in your closet with his little moth legs spread. He put in 10hrs at the factory and was airing out his little moth sack. ", "Tape down an axe body spray bottle so it stays open, throw it inside than close the door.\n\nGets rid of every single smell in the world and makes it smell like axe.", "Study on benzene abatement. It is strongly absorbed by carbon filtration. Where breathing protection that captures .00006 particles. Wear a tyvek suit, cloves etc.. Clean all surfaces, consider replacing material infused and strong with the odor. Rip the carpet out and toss it. You need volumes of circulating air going through a carbon air filter element. Sorry to say benzene causes liver tumors.", "Get one of those odor absorbing spongy things [like this](http://www.naturesairsponge.com/) near the air fresheners in the store. Then shut the door to the closet and let that set for as long as it takes. There is also nice cedar closet lining that is easy to install, even if you just put a few pieces on the floor it might help. I'm a big fan of cedar myself. I think that after some time, since you've cleaned it well, it should go away by itself. Especially if you put some other scent in there like a cheap air freshener after you absorb the odor of the mothballs." ]

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[ "The only truly effective methods I have found:\n\nNyquil\npint of rum\nrepeated sex until you are exhausted", "I'm surprised nobody has said it: bedtime routine\n\nI do some stretches before sleeping, and I'm asleep before my head hits the pillow. I think that the slow counting to 10 or 20 during the stretches is what does it for me- it's practically hypnosis. I've been doing it for 20 years and the only times I can't sleep are when I forget or when something really gets my mind racing.\n\nPlus, being flexible is awesome- I can put my palms on the floor without bending my knees and people look at me like a contortionist. And less injury and stuff.", "Notice how you get a little itchy just before you are slipping into sleep? This is your brain playing tricks on you, it tests if you will scratch those spots and if you don't you will sleep a LOT faster. Just lay still and just think about other stuff. I know it sounds stupid but it really works for me.", "A couple of tips that have helped me fall asleep:\n\nIf you use your computer late, then install [f.lux](http://justgetflux.com/). It yellows out the screen based on the time of day, making it easier on your eyes and it's helped me fall asleep faster.\n\nAnother tip that's more anecdotal, but I saw it on this subreddit and it helped me. When you're trying to fall asleep, imagine you're looking into a corner of a white room. I guess theoretically it could be anything basic as long as it's not complicated and it doesn't actually require you to analyze it at all.", "Stop using electronic devices with displays a couple of hours before you go to bed. Depending on the type of person you are, you may want to change your bedroom to be less cluttered and better suited for relaxing and sleeping. Do breathing techniques that encourage relaxation while laying in bed. [Here is a decent enough article to get you started](http://greatist.com/happiness/breathing-exercises-relax).\n\n", "Im having this issue Right now. Whats worked for me is getting up 20min earlier every 2 days and taking something like zzzquil 45mins before i goto bed. Works for me dude", "I've found a banana and a cup of cold milk helps me relax and fall asleep before I even know it. That's calcium and potassium for you.", "Ditch caffeine. Booze is also a problem for sleep. Booze has bounce back later in the night. It is great for falling asleep, but you will wake up wide awake later, and not be able to get to sleep.\nWhen my eyes are closed to sleep, I can see images of light that warp into different shapes. I make sure that i do not try to force them into shapes, but allow them to just form on their own. Do not try to think about anything but watching those shapes. Don't worry about how weird they can be. Just let them be. Do NOT think about other things. Not your day, not what you need to do tomorrow, not even sex, NOTHING. I fall asleep in under 10 min.", "Take a 50mg Benadryl before bed. The generic is cheaper than most other OTC meds. Just make sure to plan a week off every couple of months. ", "I've read some really great advices here. The bedtime routine, stretches, no electronic device 1-2h before getting to bed... All of those aim at putting your brain and body at peace, slowly, calmly.\n\nI would advice to add mantras to this routine. Slow, repetitive chants in a language you (probably) can't understand... I like to listen to mantras while stretching and a bit more when I've turned the lights off, as I'm falling asleep. I have a CD player that turns himself off so it doesn't keep playing all night long (even if you're asleep and don't hear the music, your brain does), and I have made a CD which lenght matches my routine.\n\nI particularly like this one : [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=287BnMx_mXQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=287BnMx_mXQ)\n\nI hope I've been understandable as English isn't my native language, and I wish you a very good night of nice and deep sleep. :)", "I used to have the same problem. I got a newer job that started earlier in the morning so I needed to start going to sleep earlier. My trick was to go to bed as soon as i felt a little tired, like that slight its getting late and I ate dinner a little bit ago tired. at say like 8-9 or 10. anyway at those times i would get into bed, I'd dick around watching tv for maybe a half hour but would usually be right out. Started getting too good at it after a while, I started falling asleep with the tv on (which I never do, Im a terribly light sleeper) right now I could sleep 10 hours a night without even trying. Best part is once you get into your new routine you tend to get up before your alarm which is a great feeling (if you ask me)", "I manage to fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow every night but one thing i do find is that being on my laptop/phone in bed right before I go to sleep can distract me, my eyes get sore and I think about too much stuff. If you can minimize those distractions it could help you!!", "Get your mind off what it is thinking about by putting yourself in a \"happy place\". See if you an even smell the surroundings. This works for me. I put myself on the golf course, teeing up the ball , walking to take the next shot and so on. Usually asleep before the 2nd hole.", "4th year medical student here (almost doctor). Getting to sleep faster will be easier if you practice good \"sleep hygiene.\" I'll summarize what we've been taught to tell our patients (most is already posted here, but this should be a one-stop-shop):\n\nAvoid alcohol and caffeine after 3pm. Some people are used to drinking a serving of alcohol before bed, and claim that they won't sleep if they don't get it. They are right, initially, as withdrawal from alcohol can keep you awake. However, if they were to just cut the nightly alcohol out completely, after a few days they would find themselves sleeping better and feeling more rested.\n\nExercise daily. 30 minutes, moderate exercise - PROBABLY THE MOST IMPORTANT THING ON HERE FOR YOUR OVERALL HEALTH.\n\nAvoid napping during the day. You need to be on a good sleep schedule. Forget those intermittent \"studies\" that pop-up on facebook about how humans naturally should be napping in short intervals throughout the day, and their like. \n\nAvoid electronics for about an hour before you want to go to sleep. Even \"thoughtless\" electronics such as television have been shown to keep your mind from sleeping after turning them off.\n\nTake the TV out of the bedroom. Related to the above post, but more importantly YOUR BEDROOM SHOULD BE YOUR PLACE OF REST AND SOLITUDE. Don't watch TV, get on your iPhone, do work on your laptop, pay bills, etc. etc. in your bedroom. Your mind needs to correlate your bed with sleep.\n\nTry not to eat or drink for a while before bedtime. Your GI tract having to move large amounts of food/beverage through it will keep you awake (seems counter-intuitive, as I LOVE eating a shit-ton on Thanksgiving and passing the hell out. Good for a rare nap, bad for nightly sleep).\n\nDon't exercise for at least two hours before bedtime. It ramps up your fight/flight response = no good for sleep.\n\nThat's all I remember. I'll ", "If you absolutely have to get to sleep, marijuana. But I don't recommend it for frequent use, because you'll become dependent on it. " ]

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[ "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading.", "Getting UPS to stop \"failing to deliver\" packages? So, today I received a notification from UPS that they tried to deliver a package that I apparently needed to sign for. This is not a new occurrence. \n\nI live in an apartment that sits directly above a dance studio for young girls and is next to the local VFD, not to mention my bedroom is the apartment's loft, and it's nearly impossible to hear someone knock at the door. They won't leave some packages because the complex is a bit sketchy (there were two police raids in the first month I moved in) and they won't leave them in my mailbox at ALL. \n\n-Are there any doorbell systems that work wirelessly and don't require any carpentry/wiring skills? (Preferred)\n\n- Can I just talk to UPS and tell them I'll essentially \"auto-sign\" for packages and have them leave them in the mailbox/at my door? (Less preferred for security reasons, but acceptable.)\n\nOther options?\n\nNotes:\n\nMost of my packages come from Amazon, TCGplayer, or Rightstuf, who are legit businesses.\n\nThe apartment's address is unclear. West Virginia had a 911-mandated address change a few years ago, but even the landlord has no clue what the new address is. The old address works fine for the most part to get bills and document-based mail. \n\nI would really like not to have to constantly go to UPS. I usually order something online every two weeks or so, so I'm trying to avoid having to drive half an hour to the local shipping center.\n\nThanks for reading." ]

[ "http://www.amazon.com/SadoTech-Wireless-Doorbell-Operating-Batteries/dp/B00FR4YQYK/ref=sr_1_1?s=hi&ie=UTF8&qid=1445618167&sr=1-1&keywords=wireless+doorbell \n", "You might want to ask one of the businesses if they're willing to receive packages for you and ship to their address.\n\nI ship my stuff to work.", "I can't offer a solution, but I know the address struggle is real in WV. Our address for a while was \"Turn left at the store and make the second right after the graveyard then drive all the way up the hill.\"\n\n", "Can't help you with the first option but I had a similar situation last year. I signed up for MyUPS and it allowed me to click a box that allowed UPS workers to leave the packages at the door. ", "Sign up for UPS My Choice. This will allow you to control your delivery. Delivery alerts, sign online, hold for pick up, driver instructions, change delivery, etc.", "I just leave a note clearly visible on my door stating something along the lines that I am very busy/unavailable and if they could please leave it at the door. Also I make sure to sign the note with my signature.\n\nI bought ammunition offline and had to sign for it but I knew I wouldn't be at my house that day as I was going to be off on a camping trip. An online representative told me to do this, I was pleased when I came home to find my package at the door.", "Do you have any local UPS stores (where they package and ship packages out of a storefront)? I have my packages shipped there." ]

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[ "Keeping Cords Organized Between the three people living in my house, we have a ton of cords lying around. Ethernet, power, and tons of others. Some of them are stored in bins, where of course they get tangled and lost. What's a space-efficient way to store and track these cords?", "Keeping Cords Organized Between the three people living in my house, we have a ton of cords lying around. Ethernet, power, and tons of others. Some of them are stored in bins, where of course they get tangled and lost. What's a space-efficient way to store and track these cords?", "Keeping Cords Organized Between the three people living in my house, we have a ton of cords lying around. Ethernet, power, and tons of others. Some of them are stored in bins, where of course they get tangled and lost. What's a space-efficient way to store and track these cords?", "Keeping Cords Organized Between the three people living in my house, we have a ton of cords lying around. Ethernet, power, and tons of others. Some of them are stored in bins, where of course they get tangled and lost. What's a space-efficient way to store and track these cords?" ]

[ "I use Ziploc bags (quart size or larger) to organize mine. Ethernet cables go in one bag, RCA cables in another, USB cables in another, etc. I poke the connector of one of the cables through the side of each bag so I can quickly see which bag holds which cables.", "* zip ties\n\n* velcro strips\n\n* [empty toilet paper tubes](http://s1271.photobucket.com/g00//user/dmak04/media/20150614_113936-1.jpg.html)", "theres tons of ways to store and organize cables. for storing long cables id go with rolling them up and taping them in 2 spots opposite each other. short cables put both ends together then roll/fold it up from the middle at 10-15cm intervals (4-5in) then tape it up. id use electrical tape since it wont gum up your cords.", "Are we talking about storing cables, or routing cables in a clean way? Sounds like whatever cables you are using aren't organized either. I recommend purging. You don't need all that shit. Like ethernet mate? " ]

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[ "how to reduce sweat on headphones I find after wearing over-ear headphones for a long period of time they tend to get quite sweaty, is there any way to minimise this sweat?\n\n", "how to reduce sweat on headphones I find after wearing over-ear headphones for a long period of time they tend to get quite sweaty, is there any way to minimise this sweat?\n\n" ]

[ "With respect, don't do what Bene said. You could sweat the antiperspirant into your ear which could irritate your ear drums. Leather covered headphones will make you sweat, but if they are half decent cans, you can change the covers. I use Sennheisser HD25's and use the Valour pads. http://www.google.co.uk/products/catalog?client=safari&rls=en&q=sennheiser+hd25+ear+pads&oe=UTF-8&redir_esc=&um=1&ie=UTF-8&cid=2812074964335660468&sa=X&ei=gi3bULjSKcqd0AWfqIHICg&ved=0CGgQ8wIwAg#ps-sellers", "Maybe swipe your finger over a solid antiperspirant then wipe the residue on your headphone clips? Or wear a headband underneath the clips?" ]

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[ "How To Stop Myself From Laughing There is an incredibly offensive person at my high school who says very rude things about other people very loudly in the library so that everyone nearby can hear, I try to stop myself but the delivery is so hilarious I cannot prevent myself from laughing. I feel bad about it, but it is too funny for me to control myself. ", "How To Stop Myself From Laughing There is an incredibly offensive person at my high school who says very rude things about other people very loudly in the library so that everyone nearby can hear, I try to stop myself but the delivery is so hilarious I cannot prevent myself from laughing. I feel bad about it, but it is too funny for me to control myself. " ]

[ "Remember the pain he's causing the person (assuming they hear it). Maybe you'll realize his is just another form of bullying.", "Pain.\n\nBite your lip or the inside of your cheeck. Or squeeze one of the outside \"walls\" of your nostril. Or squeeze one of your finger joints by applying pressure on either side. Or put a pen between your fingers and squeeze the fingers together." ]

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[ "Any way to help tighten loose wall sockets? Hello, /r/LifeProTips. I'm currently moving into an older home with lots of loose wall sockets, that plugs easily fall loose from when they are plugged in. Is there any product or a simple solution to this issue, besides taping the crap out of the plug so it stays in place? Thanks!", "Any way to help tighten loose wall sockets? Hello, /r/LifeProTips. I'm currently moving into an older home with lots of loose wall sockets, that plugs easily fall loose from when they are plugged in. Is there any product or a simple solution to this issue, besides taping the crap out of the plug so it stays in place? Thanks!" ]

[ "You can also purchase a multiple receptacle that installs on top of the old one. They have screws that screw into the frame of the old receptacle. BUT the do require grounded receptacles.\n\nHere's one but you can even get them with a couple of USB plugs added if you want\n \nhttp://www.lowes.com/pd_409864-43469-5503_0__?productId=3772897&Ntt=duplex+adapter&pl=1&currentURL=%3FNtt%3Dduplex%2Badapter&facetInfo=\n\n", "Replacing the sockets shouldn't be expensive. When you go to home depot or local hardware store you can see how inexpensive they are. Some basic dual outlet sockets are 2 or 3 dollars each. They're easy to replace too. Just need some basic tools and make sure you cut power to the wall." ]

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[ "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. ", "Showering with an arm cast? Recently had an arm cast put on and showering really is quite the bitch. I would really prefer to uphold my hygienic standards during the next 4-6 weeks, so does anyone have some pro tips on how to shower with a cast on?\n\nI've tried a garbage bag tied in a knot and garbage bags with rubber bands. So far neither have worked. " ]

[ "Use one of these: http://www.cvs.com/shop/product-detail/Seal-Tight-Sport-CastBandage-Protector---Adult-Short-Arm?skuId=440866\n\nI used a similar product several times over the past few decades from broken arms and wrists, it makes a watertight seal, works fine for showering and I've even gone watersking. I've never had any leaks.\n\nI know I got mine at a CVS pharmacy, it should be available at nearly any store with a decent pharmaceutical section.", "Check out a [DryPro](http://www.amazon.com/DryPro-Waterproof-Cast-Cover-Extra/dp/B003PMHE18) cast. They cover your cast and then you pump the air out for a vacuum seal. ", "Not sure why you would use garbage bags when there are products specifically deigned for this purpose. When I broke my arm I thought showers would be a huge hassle but I just got something similar to what /u/Froggypwns posted and it worked great. A whole lot easier to put on than a fucking garbage bag wrapped with duct tape. ", "They sell silicone sleeves for casts at home healthcare stores. We had one for my daughter. Works reasonably well.", "Sponge baths. I once lived in a shitty house and had to use a sink for a month, it's not too bad. Just remember which wash cloth is for bathing and which is there for hands. Oh and get a loved one to help out if possible. ", "I've had an arm cast twice. \n\nGet two newish bread bags and rubber-band it on the cast with at least five on each layer. Works like a charm.", "I used a plastic bag with one of those hair elastic bands, like [this](http://www.glitz4girlz.com/user/products/large/ela185.jpg), and it worked fine.\n\nHow long is your cast? Mine ended up just before the elbow." ]

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[ "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? ", "How to drink less So, I like beer. And fitness. The calories in beer hinder my goal of a lean(~7-10%BF) body.\n\nLately I have 2-4 beers a night and a six pack on a weekend. I said it was because of July 4 and my going away party and friends graduation parties but it still concerns me.\n\nNow, I have 24/7 access to a full liquor cabinet...that I do not touch. Because I dont like liquor. Buzzed to kinda drunk is all I ever aim for. And I find the bitter taste of beer soothing.\n\nFor a while I was having non-alcoholic beer and it was great. But its harder to get and I feel like it got me *more* into desiring the taste of beer everyday.\n\nIm moving to a city this week known for its craft beers and I dont want to stop drinking. But I want it managed better. What tips can you give me? " ]

[ "This was a problem for me too, as was the general culture surrounding alcohol and drinking. I'm a grad student it makes no sense to go out and blow $40 on beer in bars twice a week.\n\nI did no-alcohol months in September and November in 2015. It got me thinking. I attended several parties without drinking. I mixed sparkling water with cranberry juice to have a \"treat\" and not be questioned by people. It changed my thinking a bit. Then, on NYE going into 2016, I drank my face off and got extremely sick while travelling in Central America. Wasted a day of my trip puking it out. That was it, I was ready. I haven't had a drop since January 1st, over six months. I work out a lot and eat very well, but this pushed my fat threshold below what it has ever been. I have very satisfying ab and torso definition now, and that's without extreme cutting or dehydration. I managed to go through my 31st birthday entirely sober, telling myself that I can be myself and enjoy cool things without alcohol. I was right. Lastly, I was a pretty active bar-scene guy, and I've transitioned that into doing cool new activities, working more, and getting involved in my community.\n\nI'm not saying I'll never drink again, but right now, my fitness level, budget and overall outlook on life are better without alcohol.", "No idea on how to slow down on drinking, but I compensate for my reckless beer intake by exercising like a madman almost daily", "Have dry days. \nI do Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday dry.\nI then allow myself a couple (literally 2) and then I can have a four or 6 pack on friday and Saturday. \nThen if I fancy one on sunday thats cool too. \nBut have those dry days and stick to them. ", "YouTube the book power of habit or know that your habits are just well traveled pathways in your brain. \n\nKnow you can cut new pathways with new behavior. Know that this is hard, like finding your way to a new friends house but easy once you've gone done the lane.\n\nHabit is only second to company. No one likes to be alone and sometimes those closest to you are the most harmful. If your friends drink, find new friends. You can't expect them to change and might be lucky to have them understand.\n\nLastly, don't try to supplement your struggle by starting something new like exercise or knitting. Remember, it's hard to change, one thing at a time.", "When I found that I was drinking more then I wanted, and it was hindering other things for me, I decided to make my New Years resolution to quit drinking for a year.\n\nI didn't start on New Years (because i was drinking off a hangover), but approximately 20 days after. \n\nThe first two months were the hardest, people would still invite me out to drink and what not, and I did go once or twice, but found going to clubs and bars pretty boring if I wasn't drinking.\n\nDon't get me wrong, people watching is great when you're sober, but being stuck as designated driver and having to try and pull people away when you want to go to bed gets pretty old quickly. \n\nAnyway, I soon found that a lot of people cut their associations with me when I didn't go out drinking with them anymore, but that didn't matter.\n\nI hit the year and celebrated with a drink at midnight, since then I usually buy a 6-pack of beer a week, but really only drink on the weekend when I'm relaxing on the weekend.\n\nIt's certainly not the easiest way to go about it, but may be one route for you to go down", "Finding the taste of beer \"soothing\" is probably a bad thing. It's one thing to like it, but it's another to find it that therapeutic or something like that. Going cold turkey off beer or drinking for a bit would probably be a good idea", "Budget yourself. If you use cash, carry less of it when you walk to your bar or pub. Knowing that you don't have a lot of money to spend on drinks gives you a mindset on how to limit yourself. ", "Stick to liquor. I like beer too. But I just take a couple shots to get buzzed / slightly drunk. Then sip on a beer to be social with friend. ", "Put your beer on a $ and calorie budget, and do dry days and weeks. Start hunting for your new habits, like tea, flavored seltzers, whatever catches your interest. \n\nAfter work, you may need a soothing activity to come down if you're working at a burnout pace. Cooking can be a good relaxation and pampering ritual. Strolling the neighborhood or calling someone fun should also work for decompression.", "I'd recommend trying out other drinks like vodka or tequila. Sugar content is nil, you've only got to deal with the calories. ", "I like to drink but I got rid of the awesome bar I had in my home because I knew it would only encourage to drink more. Almost every foolish decision I have made in my life was done so while drinking alcohol. Also, the excess calories did not help me at all. Try to replace bad habits with good ones. ", "I pour my beer 'on the rocks'. One beer therefore:\n**A. lasts longer due to ice watering down the beer and B. has a lower alcohol content because it gets watered down.** Both of these therefore, provide lower calorie intake and the chance to not gain weight or quit\n\n" ]

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[ "Best way to clean indoor white painted drywall without re-painting. Not sure if the paint is oil based or not. This question is specifically concerning smoke residue.\n\nThere is a spot where I often burn candles and it's raised about 5 feet off the ground. The wall/ceiling around this area has developed a darker layer of soot over the years.\n\nLooking for the best way to clean this painted area without re-painting, and without stripping the underlying paint layer, if possible.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Best way to clean indoor white painted drywall without re-painting. Not sure if the paint is oil based or not. This question is specifically concerning smoke residue.\n\nThere is a spot where I often burn candles and it's raised about 5 feet off the ground. The wall/ceiling around this area has developed a darker layer of soot over the years.\n\nLooking for the best way to clean this painted area without re-painting, and without stripping the underlying paint layer, if possible.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Best way to clean indoor white painted drywall without re-painting. Not sure if the paint is oil based or not. This question is specifically concerning smoke residue.\n\nThere is a spot where I often burn candles and it's raised about 5 feet off the ground. The wall/ceiling around this area has developed a darker layer of soot over the years.\n\nLooking for the best way to clean this painted area without re-painting, and without stripping the underlying paint layer, if possible.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Best way to clean indoor white painted drywall without re-painting. Not sure if the paint is oil based or not. This question is specifically concerning smoke residue.\n\nThere is a spot where I often burn candles and it's raised about 5 feet off the ground. The wall/ceiling around this area has developed a darker layer of soot over the years.\n\nLooking for the best way to clean this painted area without re-painting, and without stripping the underlying paint layer, if possible.\n\nThanks in advance.", "Best way to clean indoor white painted drywall without re-painting. Not sure if the paint is oil based or not. This question is specifically concerning smoke residue.\n\nThere is a spot where I often burn candles and it's raised about 5 feet off the ground. The wall/ceiling around this area has developed a darker layer of soot over the years.\n\nLooking for the best way to clean this painted area without re-painting, and without stripping the underlying paint layer, if possible.\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "Trisodium phosphate, or TSP, is an exceptional cleaner for an array of uses including removing grease and paint from concrete and brick, prepping walls for painting and preparing walls for wallpapering.\nUse according to instructions, use rubber gloves. If you HAVE STUBBORN STAINS, BE CAREFUL NOT TO SCRUB TOO HARD", "Maybe a magic eraser? They’re cheaper if you look up “melamine cleaning sponge” rather than name brand magic erasers.", "I would use a cleaner of your choice - maybe start with a degreaser to cut the soot, then move on to dish soap and water to finish up. Sounds weird, but Bleche-Wite whitewall tire cleaner will take care of your issue, no problem.\n\nbut the key is going to be to use a melamine sponge.\n\nIf Bleche-Wite and a melamine sponge don't work, I would resign myself to painting.", "Bleach diluted with water. Saturate a rag and wipe it down a few times, letting it dry in between. Wear gloves. Worked with the spot next to my tub where I keep candles", "Keep in mind that different paint coatings have different resistance to scrubbing. Some can withstand a lot of scrubbing while many can't. If it's a rental, they probably use the stuff that isn't very resistant. Also depends on what cleaner you use. Someone recommended TSP and I think that's a good start \n\nHowever, typically for smoke damage or soot, you would want to prime over it with a white pigmented shellac to seal it in and prevent bleed through to the topcoat. \n\nI know you said you didn't want to paint but just in case. Can usually find the shellac in a spray can. Is there any of the original paint stored? Use that if there is. Otherwise you may need a paint match and to cover the area. \n\nImo, priming and painting may be less work than attempting to scrub it off." ]

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[ "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN.", "How to make one password to rule them all OR how to remember 15 different passwords. Everytime I make one and change them all to it, then I have to sign up somewhere else that needs more numbers or more capital letters. Then when I guess wrong 3 times, I have to change it AGAIN." ]

[ "Create a base password, something like cats&dogs45 or whatever you want. For every website you sign up to add something about the site to create a unique password. So your amazon password could be cats&dogs45amzn or reddit could be cats&dogs45reddit. That way you don't need to remember every password, just the base and the formula.", "NEVER have just one password. What I do is have 3 passwords, and use them for stuff depending on importance. For banking/schooling/work/other important online stuff, I use the hardest of the 3. For other stuff that isnt as important, but do not want anybody else to see or log in (e-mail, reddit, facebook, twitter, etc) I use a medium style password, usually one I have used before in the past so it is easy for me to remember, and for stuff I do not care too much about (pizza places, website where you can not buy stuff online, new websites that I will usually on visit once or twice, etc) I use a really simple password like \"aaa000\" or something really simple.\n\nThis way I have 3 passwords for stuff, all depending on importance.", "I use a webapp called [Oplop](http://oplop.appspot.com). It generates a random 8-character string using a master password. For example, this is my Facebook password: 3yQr_hry. I only have to remember my master password, and the fact that I use a given site's name for the nickname for a given generated password. Easy peasy.", "open up a LastPass account, you create one master password, and then they save all of your passwords. It's encrypted so it keeps your personal info safe, and once you have it saved you can fill out most online accounts with just one click, hope this helps :) ", "[Here's a website](http://howsecureismypassword.net/) I used when choosing my \"one password to rule them all\"\n\nI also like to consider patterns i can make with my hand nicely, one of my less secure passwords for a site you'll never know is 236874 which makes a nice circle around a numpad, skipping 1, 9 (and 5 and 0)", "OK\n\nTwo versions. One that includes a crazy symbol. One that doesn't. Some websites don't allow crazy symbol.\n\nPassword 1: $andWhich5\nPassword 2: SandWhich5\n\nI like to use the $ because it looks like an S. So my password has an S somewhere in the word. You can easily use an exclamation point. \n\nCapitals also make it safer.\n\nBEST CASE SCENARIO: Fydp$10 and FydpS10 \nTotally random. Totally awesome. ", "I've heard of people using their favorite phrase or quote as a password. You won't forget it, and it's very difficult to guess.", "I made myself a google doc w/ all of my usernames and passwords so that no matter what computer i'm on, I'll be able to log in.\n\nBecause i'm bonkers about security, I made the name of the doc something random and weird like 'cat names' or something." ]

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[ "How to be satisfied with less entertainment. I feel like the amount of entertainment (internet, comics, listening to music...) that I need in order to feel fully recharged in order to be productive again is rather high, and I want to add more productivity and less entertainment. How do I do that?\n", "How to be satisfied with less entertainment. I feel like the amount of entertainment (internet, comics, listening to music...) that I need in order to feel fully recharged in order to be productive again is rather high, and I want to add more productivity and less entertainment. How do I do that?\n", "How to be satisfied with less entertainment. I feel like the amount of entertainment (internet, comics, listening to music...) that I need in order to feel fully recharged in order to be productive again is rather high, and I want to add more productivity and less entertainment. How do I do that?\n" ]

[ "This is a sideways hack; read more books. You might have the same amount of time spent, but you can learn a lot more and reading is generally better than consuming passive entertainment.", "Make things. Fix your home or car. Cook better food. Code some programs. Grow things. The more things you create, the less spare time you'll have to consume things and the more fulfilled you'll feel.", "Find something that is meaningful to you. We all search for meaning in some way (or distract ourselves constantly so we don't have to think about if we have something meaningful, or a purpose. I hope that wasn't too preachy)," ]

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[ "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do.", "How to influence someone who is chronically late for things to be on time? In my case, it's my girlfriend, and it drives me nuts. I've told her many, many times that it bothers me. But there's always some excuse, an apology, a promise, but eventually it keeps happening. It's to the point where I've thought, after waiting for her for 20 minutes, of just ditching her or in some way forcing her to miss out on whatever it is. But that would seem to betray serious butt-hurt and make her lose more respect instead having the desired outcome, whether it's because the event seems too trivial or whatever, so I just suck it up and bite my lip. but I don't know what else to do." ]

[ "Sorry but she doesn't value your time. Tell her that you don't want to talk about the INTENT of her actions but about the RESULTS. When she is late, you feel that she thinks that your time is worthless. Now, in the past maybe she didn't INTEND for you to feel this way, but now that she knows, in the future, if she's late, then it's because she INTENDS to make you feel terrible. \n\nAnd if she doesn't make being on time a priority, then go along without her and don't feel one bit bad about it.", "Some people are a poor judge of how long they take to be out the door. What I learned to do was piece together all the things I need to do to get out the door, together with how long it took to get to wherever I need to be. Add up the time for each thing and work backward from your goal arrival time to know when you need to start getting read, to when you need to be out the door. \n\nThere's been other discussion here on this issue, and I remember one chronically late person saying the best thing to do was leave without them a few times. I think it was on reddit, but it might have been on another site. If people always wait for the late, they don't change. They need to experience the consequence of being late - ie. they may miss out on whatever the plan is.", "Time management is a skill that she needs to learn. It took me until I was 30. Things that she takes for granted, like five minutes to walk to the car and five minutes to do her makeup, and five minutes to find her shoes and five minutes to grab her purse/keys/phone add up in a startling fashion for those who have not taken them into account previously. No longer being late and stressed all the time will become well worth the effort once she grasps the full extent of time needed.\n\nWork with her. Say, \"we have to leave at 2pm, so you're getting in the shower at 12:30, right?\" She might look at you like you're nuts or say \"no, at 1\" and then you can walk through it. When things are done and you leave on time, don't \"I told you so\" but praise her efforts. Help her see that she doesn't account for small things or underestimates the time necessary. ", "Some people are always late as a passive-aggressive way to exert control over other people. This may not be the case, but perhaps worth investigating.", "Express a sincere opinion. I had a friend who used to be late and when I actually, not in an ironic or jokey way, explained how it was hurtful and looked really bad socially, he stopped!", "Sometimes it's part of their personality and lifestyle which is hard to change. Some people just don't value time the way you and I do. ", "Dear OP's girlfriend,\n\nI have a time management problem too. I had a really awful week because of my time management. Yesterday and today I did a time management experiment, seen in the following LPT.\n\n*Goal*. Find out how long every activity actually takes.\n\n\n*Materials*.\n\n* paper\n\n* pen\n\n* readiness to change your life\n\n\n*Method.* Draw the following diagram and fill it out throughout your day:\n\n\nActivity | Estimate (mins) | Start | End | Total time (mins)\n---|---|----|----|----\nExample: Leave from home and go to college | 20 | 12:34 | 12:52 | 18\n\n*Results*. Arrive to appointments early or on time.\n\n*Discussion*. ", "*A relevant comment in this thread was deleted. You can read it below.*\n\n----\n\nI have a friend like this. I've had multiple very honest conversations with her about it and asked her repeatedly to try to be more on time. I've even tried adjusting my own expectations (something my therapist shared with me once: \"_______ is just acting consistently with who I know them to be\".)\n\nBut at the end of the day it's just flat out disrespectful. Being late once or twice -- okay, I get it. But every single fucking time? Now that's disrespecting me and MY time. Besides that I don't even live in town anymore, so when I do come to visit my time is super precious. [[Continued...]](https://www.resavr.com/comment/lpt-request-how-influence-3154922)\n\n----\n\n\n*^The ^username ^of ^the ^original ^author ^has ^been ^hidden ^for ^their ^own ^privacy. ^If ^you ^are ^the ^original ^author ^of ^this ^comment ^and ^want ^it ^removed, ^please [^[Send ^this ^PM]](http://np.reddit.com/message/compose?to=resavr_bot&subject=remove&message=3154922)*", "youre scared of her losing respect for you? Sorry bro but if you've told her how much you hate her constant tardiness and she does it anyway that ship has sailed. \n\nYou need to have consequences. If you guys are meeting somewhere and she's not on time then you leave. ", "Some cultures -- some families -- that's not considered rude. Obedience to a watch is considered abnormal. \n\nTo see their POV, imagine an adult who is used to having dinner at 6:30 pm. This person visits a friend for dinner, but at 6:35 pm the rice is just getting started, and this person becomes visibly uncomfortable and is unable to enjoy his/her evening.\n\nI grew up like you and have had to adapt. If something's very important, my wife appreciates when I create a false deadline (like, \"we need to be in the car by 7:45 am\" ... but it's actually 8:10 am). In other cases, I adapt. In their culture, splitting off at a mall and meeting up for lunch means using your intuition about when and where to find the person. Just as the combined motivation of two drivers to live means millions of cars avoid a head-on collision on country roads while passing just a couple of feet from one another, I find when two people think deeply about where the other is, while also enjoying what they see along they way, it works out far more efficiently than you'd expect.\n\ntl;dr lie and adapt", "Let it build up until a few more years until you just flip out, then you can look back on the years of your life you've wasted.", "I'm chronically late for everything. I don't mean to - I really really don't, and I feel terrible when I realize I'm late again. I know it bothers everyone around me. I don't mean to disrespect, it just HAPPENS.\nThe cause I think is that I don't manage to plan how much time things will take me; I feel like doing my make up will take me 5 minutes, but then it takes at least 10, and so on.\nHow you can help her is to remind her to get ready, ask her has she left yet, etc. It's a pain, but it's the most effective way.", "I tell her I'm leaving at 8. If the clock hits 8 and she's not ready she gets left. If you don't care enough to be ready on time I don't care to wait. I don't let her make me late", "I know of only one way for late people to be on time, and that is for them to try to get there early, rather than trying to be on time", "I have been on both sides of this situation. Assuming that she can make it on time, sometimes schedules are not realistic and very annoying. If you have a very schedule based work/school life, then after that it can be a relief to not have a schedule in your personal life. Try picking her up or something like that. You could be passive aggressive and leave when she is late but that will probably never be constructive. You could also cut things short as if you don't have time, but that probably means you lose out as well. If they are always late meet at there place.", "I dumped a REALLY hot girl because she was chronically late. I was sick and tired of being DISRESPECTED. ", "People have permission to tell me things start a half hour before they do. I don't get angry, I'm just excited to be on time. You might want to clear this with her first. If you ask in a nice/playful tone she'll be more likely to say yes. Do you have any insight into why she's chronically late? She sits around and doesn't start getting ready early enough, her schedule is too packed, she has social anxiety, she's going somewhere she doesn't really want to go? The more you understand the causes, the better you can address them. If you're not sure, you might want to ask her why. I also want to assure you this very likely has nothing to do with not respecting you and everything to due with something less sinister like the aforementioned. It is natural/healthy to recognize that you have to be on time for a job interview even if it means not having time to eat breakfast or take your dog on a proper walk but that the world won't explode if you're late to meet a friend/family member/boyfriend. In my case, the issue has gotten somewhat better with getting comfortable enough to just be bluntly honest--\"I'm probably going to be too tired to do that,\" \"I want to do it, but it's my only day to sleep in and I don't want to set an alarm. If we can do it whenever I wake up, I'm in\", \"I can be there in like three hours,\" \"I can show up in half an hour looking like crap or in two hours with my hair and makeup done.\" You might be able to meet her halfway by asking her to be prompt for the important things, but picking a spot you can wait comfortably for the less important things. If she is supposed to meet you an hour before the movie at a nearby bar, you're waiting in a chair with a drink in your hand and you don't have to miss the beginning of the movie. I definitely appreciate if my boyfriend plans something that's not on a tight schedule, and your GF might appreciate it too. \n\nSource, chronically late girlfriend " ]

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[ "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? ", "How to stay comfortable on long flights? I find myself fidgeting and generally uncomfortable on long flights, especially ones cross country or international. Any tips besides zonking out on a sleeping pill? " ]

[ "Surgically remove your legs and pack them in ice. When you arrive at your destination, have them re-attached. Sounds extreme, but you will be more comfortable in the long run. ", "Take off your shoes, take out everything you need out of you bag, rest your feet on you bag, put flight socks on if its long haul, maybe a blanket that they give you, eye mask if you want to sleep. Put headphones on once you're in the air. Close your eyes. Make sure you get on the plane early so you have a longer time to get sorted.", "Xanax, pop a few of them babies and no matter how much you want to stay awake, its not going to happen. Doctors have no problem prescribing a few for you if you say that you have a fear of flying. My father is a doctor, so I just got him to write me a script for overseas flights. I would pop a few, and within 45 minutes I was gone for at least 8 hours.", "Since this question comes up on the various subReddits I follow from time to time, [I wrote my advice as a blog post](http://theinfamousj.livejournal.com/458117.html). Hopefully you will find it helpful.", "Generally each person has their own level of comfort. That's the problem. I get on a 20 hour flight and fall asleep and am perfectly comfortable sitting in that seat for the entire 20 hours without getting up. (Not the best idea, I usually take off my shoes and get up every now and then to combat DVT)\n\nBasically, if you have long legs or RLS, get an isle seat or first class for the room to move around.\n\nIf you need to use the bathroom often, go for the aisle and check the flight plan for the seats closest to the bathroom.\n\nIn other words, If you can't spring for first class, get that damn aisle.", "Don't drink soda (carbonation) or anything with caffeine. Just water or juice. Take a walk up and down the aisle every so often, and stretch while you are doing so.\n\nMusic is also good, I use [these headphones](http://www.amazon.com/Sony-MDR-J10-Headphones-Non-Slip-Design/dp/B000092YR6) with a set of [earmuffs](http://www.amazon.com/3M-Peltor-Optime-98-Earmuff/dp/B0017YLTAI) as a kind of cheap noise-cancelling setup. Looks like there's also [these](http://www.amazon.com/Howard-Leight-1030110-Noise-Blocking-Earmuff/dp/B004U4A5RU) that do the same thing in one package.\n\nGet the window seat so you can rest you head against the wall and get your brains vibrated for free!\n\nPillow for lumbar support or extra cushioning might help too. The tip about taking your shoes off is a good one as well.", "Make sure you aren't very tall or very heavy. \n\nDon't wear constricting clothing, belts, shoes.\n\nDon't have weird junk in your pants pockets put that stuff in your carry on.\n\nKeep essential items on your upper body so you aren't sitting on them. Think phone/device for reading and a pen (esp on international flights)\n\nKeep some air going on you face/neck if you sleep (or the whole flight) to help with perspiration. If the air bothers you you have it on too high.\n\nBring a snack, some water, and gum on medium and long flights and keep it in your carry on in the overhead compartments. This will force you to get up and move around a bit.\n\nStretch\n\nDon't be in some rush to get on the plane most airlines board front to back this results in people further back having to negotiate past people who are finding their seats, stowing luggage, situating children etc. Wait until the cattle rush to board is a few mins past and you will board without the frustration others had.\n\nDon't be in a rush to get off the plane, I know you may be ready but a few more moments in your seat will avoid the standing in the packed aisles frustration.\n\nIf you are traveling far enough that your sleep cycle will be disturbed only take a short nap (not more than 30 min) this will help with fatigue but still allow you to experience a long day and adapt to the new timezone.\n\nAccept that things may delay you, its OK.\n\n", "I tend to go for red-eyes/late night flights so I can just zonk out for a majority of it. I also wait to eat, and bring a sandwich (subway) and eat it on the flight and that helps me fall asleep after plus kills some time. Wear comfy clothes, get a neck pillow and a comfortable set of headphones. ", "I recently made a video to help people on long flights. I just got through a 14 plus hour flight and a 6 hour flight. I help this helps! Beginners guide to surviving a long flight? Do's and Don'ts on an international flight.\nhttps://youtu.be/mHOWgy7pAAw", "Fly first class and take Xanax. I'm not a doctor, so you probably shouldn't do this, but drinking a glass of wine with my Xanax certainly helps, too. :)\n\nOther than that, spend 10,000 hours or more honing your conscious mind so that you can enter a \"zen state\" and be above such petty concerns. I think those are your only options. :(", "I take two weed cookies with me to the airport and eat them just before going in. By the time the plane is taking off, I'm already zonking out. Before I get on the plane, I make sure I'm walking around the terminal the whole time, tiring myself out. If I'm flying in Economy, I put one pillow in the gap between my lower back and the seat, and use the other normally. If I'm in Premium Business or First, I smugly stretch out all over the place. Heheh. I always travel in thongs (or flip-flops, if you're from the U.S.). If you're a girl, wear leggings and an elastic bra; it's great not having buttons and belts, buckles, buttons, and crap digging into you. It's great to keep some toner or make-up removal pads with you on the plane; sleeping in make-up feels nasty. I also take clean underwear. There's just something gross about sleeping in underwear. When I wake up, I go into the bathroom and wash my face, clean my ears with cotton buds, brush my teeth, fix my hair a little, change my underwear, and use the refresher towelettes for a \"psychological bath\" (i.e. a really basic clean under the armpits, etc)." ]

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[ "How to stop touching your face I have mild to moderate acne that is under control, but I still think it is worsened by my constant face touching. I try to consciously think about not touching them, but when I sit at my desk or watch television I rest my fave on my palm or touch my face a lot. Any tips to break the habit?", "How to stop touching your face I have mild to moderate acne that is under control, but I still think it is worsened by my constant face touching. I try to consciously think about not touching them, but when I sit at my desk or watch television I rest my fave on my palm or touch my face a lot. Any tips to break the habit?" ]

[ "I've mentally told myself to avoid touching my own face as much as possible and my acne has completely cleared up. I wash my face very gently only twice a day. No rubbing just a gentle splash/slap with soapy water. Avoid washing around the eyes and neck as they are sensitive areas, just leave those areas alone or use only water. Also, if you're not already, stop drinking/eating sugary foods. Drink green tea and sip water throughout the day. This has 100% worked to clear my face completely and it is worth it. You also become healthier and more confident. ", "Wash your hands! I have the same habit and constantly break out. I always try and not sit like that but a long lecture class, you just get bored. You have to keep reminding yourself that if you sit like that you will break out. I try and only drink water because the acne has slowed down significantly since I gave up soda. I also bought a Clarisonic, since I work outside during the summer. It helps get that dirt deep down in your pores. Or sluffs off the dead skin from the dry winters. If you are breaking out on your chin and cheeks, make sure you are using a basic toothpaste with baking soda. Lastly, I switch out my pillow case every few days. (I know this stuff won't help you break the habit, but will help the acne caused by touching your face)" ]

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[ "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. 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", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? ", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. 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", "How to properly accept compliments I always feel really awkward when people give me a compliment. Other than 'thank you' what else can I say? " ]

[ "Compliments are extremely powerful as they make us feel vulnerable which leads to some people with a low esteem to respond with \"Oh its not that good,\" or others feel the need to repay the compliment back but these things only serve to cheapen the other persons compliment and make them feel bad. Realise someone has taken the time to appreciate you so just thank them even if you do feel awkward or don't agree with the comment. ", "The biggest thing is DON'T say something like \"oh no I'm not\" [you look cute today] or \"I didn't even do anything to it today\" [Hey I like your hair]. A simple \"thank you\" is miles ahead of deflecting a compliment due to some insecurity. Take it from a guy who's always working on how to compliment a lady :) ", "I always say \"Thank you, I appreciate the compliment\" and I do it very sincerely (because generally it is sincere! I do appreciate compliments.)\n\nI like to let them know I'm aware of, and appreciate, their attempt at complimenting me, because it probably makes them happy that their attempt succeeded. Win-win all around.", "There's a super-stylish woman I work with - she is always so put together head to toe, so confident, and I really admire her and her style. One day, I just loved her outfit, especially the colors - so I said so. She said: \n\n\"Wow, thank you! When I put this outfit together I wasnt really sure about the color combination. You saying that makes me feel awesome about it! Thanks, I really needed that.\" \n\nI realized two things - she felt sometimes inscure just like I did!! And she accepted the compliment in a way that didn't deflect what I'd said, but instead told me that I'd made her feel good, which made ME feel good about saying it. \n", "\"Thanks\"\n\n\"appreciate it\"\n\nNot to complicated. If you feel the need give them one back. Try not to say the exact same thing, make it unique.\n", "After saying \"thank you\", you can return the compliment. It doesn't have to be the same exact or kind of compliment, but it's kind to say something nice about someone after they've said something nice about you. \n\n", "Like others have said, I would say something about it like \"yeah I really liked the material\" or \"thanks, I've been practicing!\" Or simply \"thanks, I appreciate it!\"\n\nBe careful about complimenting them back because often that can make your compliment sound forced and fake. Make sure it sounds genuine.", "Thank you is just fine. \n\nI used to feel the same, but I worked on improving my self esteem and now I know what I like about myself, I find it's easier to accept compliments without getting flustered.", "I get told all the time how incredibly good looking I am. After saying thank you I never know if I should hit on them or not!?", "What if the one who compliments is just trying to butter you? How do I come off good in such a scenario with him understanding that I didn't buy his lie.", "We awkward human beings often don't know what to do when someone says something nice about you to you. It's rude to dismiss a compliment. Just say thank you and move on.", "That is so nice of you/ that is flattering, i don't really deserve that much praise/ so are you (if u feel like flirting", "Sometimes, when the compliment isn't for me directly, I agree. For instance, \"your dog is so cute\". Well, yeah. He is. I don't see why not to simply agree with that. \nAs for complimenting a possession or achievement, I think it's possible to respond by talking about it. Obviously, this could lead to self gratifying bragging... But I think if your intention really is to inform or amuse, rather than self -aggrandize, then this is a good and natural place to flow the conversation.", "Or if you want a cocky answer. This is much harder to do and pull it off though. Say \"I know\" with a smile. Typically works better on women (I'm a guy), but yeah. ", "Maybe give a tiny anecdote about the complimented subject. For instance, if they say they like your shirt, you could say, \"Thanks. I just bought it the other day\" or \"Thanks. It's one of my favorites.\"", "Look them in the eye, give a really sincere thank you, and immediately change the subject by asking them a question about themselves.", "It depends on the compliment.\n\n(When you get complimented about your mannerisms)\n\"That's a very nice thing to say... I appreciate that\"\n\n(When you get complimented at work for something...)\n\"Thank you but I couldn't have done it without the support of you guys\"\n\n(When you get complimented on your eyes, arms, ass, ...)\n\"Really?! Well I'm glad you like that....\"\n\n(When you get complimented for something you did for someone)\n\"Oh, you don't have to thank me, the pleasure was all mine....I was just happy I could help\"\n\n\n\n", "In the States I'd say, Thank you or You're too kind. Here in Japan, though, I'd say, Noooooo or Really? You think so? (so i don't look like an arrogant asshole agreeing by saying thank you) :D", "If you want to become immune to insults, first become immune to compliments - one of the mussar greats. Be gracious, smile, say thank you, then forget it", "If they are complimenting on your clothes, maybe tell them where you got them, same thing with a hair cut.\n\nIf it is something that you have created, maybe talk about the things that you like with it, and possibly the challenges that you faced.\n\nSaying 'thank you' is usually the start but you should try talking about the specific thing they compliment.", "If it's about your skill, it can be good to say something about how you appreciate it because you worked hard to develop it. \"Thank you, I put a lot of work into it\" and otherwise, if it means a lot to you, say \"Thank you that means a lot to me\" and if not, then just look them in the eye and say thank you.\n\nIf you blush and feel awkward, they will. Feel awkward but don't show it.", "I would say I depends on what's being complimented. If it's due to something you worked hard to achieve, my preferences is \"thank you. I worked really hard to...\"", "I was in my school theatre program for a while and I know how it feels. For me, I learned to just say thank you and eventually I realized there was nothing awkward about doing that. Those words is all other people need to hear. Also - don't second guess yourself or try to be humble as it will make you look bad. If someone is complementing you, it is generally because they were impressed, don't make them doubt that. ", "I made a full post about this which can be found here https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/41kj2x/lpt_responding_to_compliments_the_four_options/ but the short answer is that you have two \"best\" options: give a compliment in return (only if it is genuine) or cr", "I know I'm late, but shooting them a quick, sincere compliment back could get a couple OOHS and AHHS from the eavesdroppers if you know what I mean.\n\n", "I heard once that you should pause a bit before saying thank you with a big smile to seem as if you understood and genuinely appreciated the compliment. ", "I have low self esteem, but I know the worst thing to do is deflect a compliment. So I always thank the person, and depending on the situation, I'll add \"that's very kind/sweet/nice of you to say.\" That feels more genuine to me and it's polite.", "I have a few default formulas for responding to compliments and use them depending on the situation. For pretty much any compliment response, I start with \"Oh thanks!\"\n\nFor something I'm wearing or I own, I'll say thanks then add where I got it, and then add on that I shop there a lot or never shop there but found this great find randomly, or something like that. I might add if it was a great steal or if it was a splurge - things that are kind of relate-able\n\nCompliments that have to do with my personality (if people say I'm smart or funny or a good listener or something like that) make me feel most awkward, so I usually go with something like \"thanks, I try\" in a *mildly* self-deprecating way. So like \"haha cugma, you're so funny\" \"really? thanks! I try really hard haha\"\n\nIf none of those seem right, I'll lightheartedly/teasingly tell them they have good taste. Accepting the compliment followed by mild self-deprecation has never failed me. Ex. \"I like your hair today\" \"Oh thanks! I decided I'd actually try this morning\"", "I can commiserate on this one. A lot of insecurity and self-loathing and the like ... but I've gotten yelled at by enough people (and in the case of an ex of mine, physically assaulted) for failing to take a compliment properly.\n\nWhat helps me is to say something like \"Oh! That's kind of you to say that.\" It lets them know you appreciate it.", "I always say (depending on the level of conversation/compliment) that I appreciate it. It could be as simple as \"Thanks, I appreciate that.\" but it shows a bit more thought than just thank you, and generally makes you seem more thankful. ", "How to Accept a Compliment\n\nThe first step in quitting the faux modesty of the compliment deflection routine is to realize that fully accepting compliments does not make you conceited. You didn’t come up with the praise yourself, someone else did! You’re just confirming another person’s assessment, and again, it’s more polite to accept and appreciate their judgment rather than to contradict it.\n\nSecond, it’s okay to let yourself feel proud of something you did well. A little pride need not involve an inflated sense of your accomplishments or worthy qualities – just an honest assessment of what you did. It’s quite possible to be modest, while still being grateful and gracious.\n\nSo what’s the best response to a compliment? Get ready for it…\n\n**”Thank you.”** \n\n**That’s it.** \n\nThere’s never a situation where a simple, unadorned thank you won’t work.\n\nThat being said, sometimes it’s more comfortable and quite appropriate to offer a follow-up to your “thank you,” or an amplifier that shows just how much the compliment meant to you.\n\nhttp://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/07/15/how-to-accept-a-compliment-with-class/\n", "How does not matter, what matter is to genuinely accept the compliment in a genuine, warm and friendly way without any compromise.\n\nThis can be as simple as a \"Thanks\" and a smile or as complicated as \"Yeah man thanks, Ive really worked hard, thats really observant of you to notice\".", "Copy pasta of my answer from the \"don't compliment them back\" thread:\n\nThem: [compliment]\n\nYou: \"Thanks! I've got one too but I wouldn't want you to think I'm just reacting to yours\"\n\nThem: \"No, that's OK, go ahead!\"\n\nYou: [second compliment]\n", "By saying something like \"thats very kind of you to say\" you are accepting their compliment and complimenting them back at the same time. If you are uncomfortable with attention on you, this is a nice way to handle it.", "A sincere 'thank you' is always sufficient. When it's relevant, you can also say something about whatever they complimented you on. For clothes, \"it's new\" or even just \"Thanks, I really like it too.\" \"I worked hard on it\" or \"I'm really proud of it\" are good for accomplishments.", "A simple thank you is actually the best response. It shows you're modest, but confident. And they feel good for telling you. As always, tone is everything. ", "A couple times a year I perform a ceremony for others which involves a pretty massive feat of memorization and acting. I'm very good at it, and I always get compliments afterwards.\n\nTo chime in with everyone else here, a simple 'Thank you' works best. Sometimes 'Thanks, it was a pleasure' (which is true). \n", "\"Thanks so much! I really appreciate it/that\" has seemed to be the most effective for me. \"That means a lot to me\" is a good follow up in certain cases. ", "\"Thank you, that's very generous of you.\"\n\nYou've accepted AND returned a sincere compliment. Social gold.", "\"Thank you so much! I love your (Insert something you love/like about them)\". Helps if what you like is related." ]

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[ "How to fix dry eyes without drops. How do I fix my dry eyes without the use of drops? I'm at work and have no access to eye drops. Also, I wear contacts. Any help would be much appreciated!!", "How to fix dry eyes without drops. How do I fix my dry eyes without the use of drops? I'm at work and have no access to eye drops. Also, I wear contacts. Any help would be much appreciated!!", "How to fix dry eyes without drops. How do I fix my dry eyes without the use of drops? I'm at work and have no access to eye drops. Also, I wear contacts. Any help would be much appreciated!!", "How to fix dry eyes without drops. How do I fix my dry eyes without the use of drops? I'm at work and have no access to eye drops. Also, I wear contacts. Any help would be much appreciated!!" ]

[ "The dryness is caused by the glands under your eyelids not functioning fully. As your tears contain salt, the meibomian gland releases an oily substance that stops your tears drying.\n\nThis coupled with staring at a screen gives you the dry eyes. Especially when you focus on a screen. The average person blinks 2 times a minute, when not staring at a screen you blink 12 times average per minute.\n\nSo in answer to your question you can massage your eye lids and put a warm compress on them to encourage the glands to secrete more meibum, which will help prevent the tears evaporating. Or you can try blink more and put your focus on things away from the computer screen little and often. ", "only thing I can think of that kind of helps is to keep your eyes open as long as possible, your tear ducts then try to over compensate and produce more tears.\n\nI have hay fever and when I don't have my drops I do this, but only when it gets unbearable", "This works 100% of the time for me: Just turn around (if you're in an environment with other people) and discretely pinch the area between your nostrils with your nails. It'll hurt for a couple of seconds, but it will also make your eyes water. Only drawback is that it may make you sneeze.", "Whenever I feel my eyes dried I put couple of slices of lemon in a glass of water. It helps in an hour." ]

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[ "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!", "Should I lowball my salary expectations, or am I being self conscious? I have an interview tomorrow with a large firm, one with offices across the country. I expect that we will briefly cover salary expectations, so I want to come in with a fair number.\n\nThe job listing requested someone with at least 8 years experience. I have 2, and none of those were in a ‘senior’ position. In addition, I also had to work a warehouse job for 1.5 years due to the pandemic. This means I am now almost 2 years removed from the relevant experience. I am feeling a bit out of my league, but they did contact me so I will give it a shot.\n\nNow, let’s get to the money. On Glassdoor, the average salary for this role is $92k. The industry average across the country is $81k. I am currently interviewing for similar roles (which require less experience) at around $65k, which I feel much more comfortable demanding. I guess I’m feeling some imposter syndrome because I’ve just come off working for 12 an hour, so to get this chance seems surreal.\n\nWhat do you think is fair considering my lack of experience? I would honestly be thrilled with $75k, especially at this point in my career. Would I have a better chance if I lowball the salary? Or, am I being too hard on myself. Please help!" ]

[ "My 2¢ as a hiring manager, this is the only time you'll have to get the highest rate you can get. Once you are hired it's almost impossible to renegotiate your salary. The numbers you see on Glassdoor and other sites are what people have gotten but have no real bearing on what you can get.\n\nI would add a 10% to 15% to the average and stick to your guns. In an interview you are the seller not them. You have what they want and know your value, if you undervalue yourself so will they'll and they will treat you as expendable.", "Remember that the top number that you start with is the highest you can go. You can’t say, “I’d like 80,” then if they say ok, you can’t say “actually I’d like 85.” My two cents is to slightly overshoot what you’d like to get. If you want 80, ask for 84/85. Do not tell them you’d be thrilled with $75k because that’s what you’re going to get. \n\nAlso, you do not have to say yes or no on the spot. If they offer you $87k, then take it if you want. However if they offer you $77k you’re not obligated to immediately say yes or no at that moment. You can ask for a day or two to consider.", "I had recruiters prep me for interviews in the past. Literally things I never thought about like what not to order at lunch during interview (salad because it's too messy and you can look awkward eating in front of interviewer). \n\nMy coached response if they ask about salary expectations was to say that I \"wanted the highest return on my investment of time.\" \n\nIf you are are going to accept the first offer ask for employer to include an extra week of vacation.", "CPA firm? Obviously they are struggling to fill the position if you have far less experience. Don't go too low if you won't receive pay for hours over 40 per week. If you are within range they will cut you back a bit regardless. I know CPA firms are shameless about underpaying people and other jobs are likely similar. Keep in mind that raises come gradually and you don't want to have to bail in a year over salary.", ">Should I lowball my salary expectation\n\nOnly if you truly believe you are unworthy of what you suspect they'll offer.", "The interview went really well! It looks like there are a lot of roles available so they told me I may not end up in the one I applied for, which is just fine by me. \n\nI told them I couldn’t give them a salary expectation today because I can’t quantify my value in relation to a specific role, so further discussion will be required. And now I move on next week to another interview! \n\nThanks for your advice, everyone!", "Do not undervalue yourself! They'll treat it as a warning that your aren't that good at what you do. Ask for what's right, and let them do the negotiating.", "Just being honest, you should be thankful you got an interview if they want 8 years relevant experience and you have 2. That doesn’t mean to sell yourself short, just don’t get crazy with your ask. Good luck" ]

[ 19, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, -1 ]

[ "How to keep “Friends” from breaking into my house So I (17M) just moved in with my girlfriend (22F) about a month ago and ever since these kids that I used to hangout with, ages ranging from 13 to 17, have been breaking in every day whether someone’s home or not and won’t leave even when we tell them to. They’ll walk in if the doors unlocked and bang on the door until someone answers if not, if we don’t answer they send the smallest to climb through a window they broke a few weeks ago to unlock the door. I’m lowkey scared to say shit to them because I know the 2 oldest have serious anger problems and could easily beat the fuck outta me especially if they jump me and she doesn’t wanna say anything because when she does they throw a fit and start throwing shit at our trailer and yelling shit through the windows and they threatened to kill our cat a couple days ago. We also don’t wanna call the cops because we know they’ll still get someone to beat our ass. Even one of their dads would probably do something if we send their kid to jail. We honestly don’t know what to do anymore, it’s causing problems with our relationship, she’s probably about to lose her job because she can’t focus at work from stress and overall it’s really fucking with our mental health. They always break shit or dirty everything up when they come in. They’ll flirt and touch her no matter how many times she tells them to stop and I feel so powerless. We’ve had so much stolen too. Please help we’re fucking losing it here.", "How to keep “Friends” from breaking into my house So I (17M) just moved in with my girlfriend (22F) about a month ago and ever since these kids that I used to hangout with, ages ranging from 13 to 17, have been breaking in every day whether someone’s home or not and won’t leave even when we tell them to. They’ll walk in if the doors unlocked and bang on the door until someone answers if not, if we don’t answer they send the smallest to climb through a window they broke a few weeks ago to unlock the door. I’m lowkey scared to say shit to them because I know the 2 oldest have serious anger problems and could easily beat the fuck outta me especially if they jump me and she doesn’t wanna say anything because when she does they throw a fit and start throwing shit at our trailer and yelling shit through the windows and they threatened to kill our cat a couple days ago. We also don’t wanna call the cops because we know they’ll still get someone to beat our ass. Even one of their dads would probably do something if we send their kid to jail. We honestly don’t know what to do anymore, it’s causing problems with our relationship, she’s probably about to lose her job because she can’t focus at work from stress and overall it’s really fucking with our mental health. They always break shit or dirty everything up when they come in. They’ll flirt and touch her no matter how many times she tells them to stop and I feel so powerless. We’ve had so much stolen too. Please help we’re fucking losing it here.", "How to keep “Friends” from breaking into my house So I (17M) just moved in with my girlfriend (22F) about a month ago and ever since these kids that I used to hangout with, ages ranging from 13 to 17, have been breaking in every day whether someone’s home or not and won’t leave even when we tell them to. They’ll walk in if the doors unlocked and bang on the door until someone answers if not, if we don’t answer they send the smallest to climb through a window they broke a few weeks ago to unlock the door. I’m lowkey scared to say shit to them because I know the 2 oldest have serious anger problems and could easily beat the fuck outta me especially if they jump me and she doesn’t wanna say anything because when she does they throw a fit and start throwing shit at our trailer and yelling shit through the windows and they threatened to kill our cat a couple days ago. We also don’t wanna call the cops because we know they’ll still get someone to beat our ass. Even one of their dads would probably do something if we send their kid to jail. We honestly don’t know what to do anymore, it’s causing problems with our relationship, she’s probably about to lose her job because she can’t focus at work from stress and overall it’s really fucking with our mental health. They always break shit or dirty everything up when they come in. They’ll flirt and touch her no matter how many times she tells them to stop and I feel so powerless. We’ve had so much stolen too. Please help we’re fucking losing it here.", "How to keep “Friends” from breaking into my house So I (17M) just moved in with my girlfriend (22F) about a month ago and ever since these kids that I used to hangout with, ages ranging from 13 to 17, have been breaking in every day whether someone’s home or not and won’t leave even when we tell them to. They’ll walk in if the doors unlocked and bang on the door until someone answers if not, if we don’t answer they send the smallest to climb through a window they broke a few weeks ago to unlock the door. I’m lowkey scared to say shit to them because I know the 2 oldest have serious anger problems and could easily beat the fuck outta me especially if they jump me and she doesn’t wanna say anything because when she does they throw a fit and start throwing shit at our trailer and yelling shit through the windows and they threatened to kill our cat a couple days ago. We also don’t wanna call the cops because we know they’ll still get someone to beat our ass. Even one of their dads would probably do something if we send their kid to jail. We honestly don’t know what to do anymore, it’s causing problems with our relationship, she’s probably about to lose her job because she can’t focus at work from stress and overall it’s really fucking with our mental health. They always break shit or dirty everything up when they come in. They’ll flirt and touch her no matter how many times she tells them to stop and I feel so powerless. We’ve had so much stolen too. Please help we’re fucking losing it here.", "How to keep “Friends” from breaking into my house So I (17M) just moved in with my girlfriend (22F) about a month ago and ever since these kids that I used to hangout with, ages ranging from 13 to 17, have been breaking in every day whether someone’s home or not and won’t leave even when we tell them to. They’ll walk in if the doors unlocked and bang on the door until someone answers if not, if we don’t answer they send the smallest to climb through a window they broke a few weeks ago to unlock the door. I’m lowkey scared to say shit to them because I know the 2 oldest have serious anger problems and could easily beat the fuck outta me especially if they jump me and she doesn’t wanna say anything because when she does they throw a fit and start throwing shit at our trailer and yelling shit through the windows and they threatened to kill our cat a couple days ago. We also don’t wanna call the cops because we know they’ll still get someone to beat our ass. Even one of their dads would probably do something if we send their kid to jail. We honestly don’t know what to do anymore, it’s causing problems with our relationship, she’s probably about to lose her job because she can’t focus at work from stress and overall it’s really fucking with our mental health. They always break shit or dirty everything up when they come in. They’ll flirt and touch her no matter how many times she tells them to stop and I feel so powerless. We’ve had so much stolen too. Please help we’re fucking losing it here." ]

[ "I know you are scared to go to the police, but you need to look into filing a restraining order. It could be jail time if they want to continue to harass you. I know its scary, but its your best bet.", "Your local Socialist Rifle Association or Black Panthers would be happy to send some folks over to help you out. Teamwork makes the dream work!", "What state are you in? Sounds like somebody is trying to get shot (assuming you are in the U.S.). People are coming into your home and sexually assaulting your significant other? I'm assuming there is a reason you haven't just called the cops?", "Can you get other people to hang out at your house with you. I imagine they would be a bit of a deterrent", "As a lot of comments here point out — that’s an awful situation. I hope it resolves itself very soon. I also hope you can find another temporary home for the cat. \n\nI don’t know if this helps but one security method in place world-wide is to try and make an area uninteresting/ uninhabitable by people unprepared for it. Strong smells, barking dogs, warning signs, loud noise, dangerous terrain, etc. are all things people use to make places unwelcome or uninteresting to visitors/thieves. I remember a mall in my home town intentionally built it with as features they thought would be uninteresting to teenagers, but everything from military bases to nuclear power plants try to find ways to be unpleasant or invisible. \n\nThe trick is setting it up so it’s something you can handle (loud noise vs earplugs/ear protection ... string smells vs masks) but makes it a poor destination for anyone else. Maybe there’s something they’re allergic to that you aren’t? \n\nAlternatively you can try to cozy up to someone in the area who might look ill upon your current visitors, but you might be trading one pain for another. Go carefully.\n\nGood luck and stay strong." ]

[ 13, 4, 3, 1, 1 ]

[ "how to regain your sense of taste when sick. Any tips on how to regain sense of taste? A beer tasting kind of loses it's appeal when you can't taste.", "how to regain your sense of taste when sick. Any tips on how to regain sense of taste? A beer tasting kind of loses it's appeal when you can't taste.", "how to regain your sense of taste when sick. Any tips on how to regain sense of taste? A beer tasting kind of loses it's appeal when you can't taste." ]

[ "SPICY FOOD! Suffer the wrath of a spicy dish and you will be back to breathing through your nose and tasting beer in no time!", "Maybe you should focus on getting better first? Eat and drink healthy stuff even if its bland and do the beer drinking and stuff when you are well.", "I imagine nasal congestion may be at least part of the problem, and there's more than a few ways to deal with that from over the counert nasal congestions sprays and pills, neti pots, spicy food and such. " ]

[ 3, 3, 3 ]

[ "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?", "Is there an easy way to prevent back pain from sitting on a chair all day? Im sitting on my chair for more than 8 hours a day studying and my back hurts terribly. My posture is not that bad but I often need to take a break because of the pain. Is there an easy way to prevent that?" ]

[ "Often we end up in pain because we make accommodations with our body for our workstation, when we should be accommodating our workstation to our body. Don't strain to see a monitor, type on a keyboard, or sit in a chair. Also, make sure you change your posture and position throughout the day. Move and stretch.", "You are getting a lot of advice on how you shouldn't sit down for as long as you are, all of which is 100% right, but you should also know that the quality of the chair helps too.\n\nIf you are studying, then you probably can't afford to drop 2k and up on a chair, but if you can, chairs are made for security stations that are designed for all day sitting. Even if you have one, you shouldn't sit all day, but they do offer superior support.", "Im a mine operator working in machinery 11+ hours for 14 shifts straight, were told maintaining flexibility in your hamstrings, and lower back strength/flexibility helps bulletproof against pain and strain felt when sitting for long periods. Ive used youtube tutorials to gelp me with exercise routines. Its helped.", "Yes! We say, \"back pain, get out of that chair!\"\n\nSeriously, though, don't sit in the chair all day. Take five-minute walks while you think about what you just just read, to a different chair where you sit and read for ten. Rise, rinse, repeat. \n\nStudy does not have to be sedentary.", "There are cushions you can get to help alleviate the pressure. Some are more expensive than others but it works. I work a desk job, the cushion and frequently stretching has help me.", "Get a Herman miller chair. Buy it second hand and go see an osteopath to see if you need some adjusting.", "The human body is not designed to sit in a chair all day every day.\n\nGo look up stretches or yoga and force yourself to get out of your chair for stretches and mini walks as much as you can.", "Stretch your hamstrings, quads, glutes and hip flexors. All of these play a part in supporting your lower back. Also - stretch your upper back as typing can cause things to go awry between your shoulders. Lastly, core. This is a stabilizing area you don’t activate when sitting.", "Move around more. Set a timer for every 30 minutes or so to stand up for a minute stretch and walk around the room.", "Invest in a standing desk, I got a Jarvis bamboo motorized desk it is great. Stand and sit so you don’t get stiff, also you can lower and raise the sitting height so your elbows are perfectly aligned etc...\n\nOther than that, use a desk top computer not a laptop\n\nPut books under your monitor so you are looking straight ahead or slightly up\n\nDo back strengthening exercises every other day" ]

[ 5, 3, 3, 2, 2, 2, 1, 1, 1, 1 ]

[ "How do you deal with anger? if catharsis is unhealthy, and bottling the anger is also unhealthy, what's your way of dealing with anger?", "How do you deal with anger? if catharsis is unhealthy, and bottling the anger is also unhealthy, what's your way of dealing with anger?", "How do you deal with anger? if catharsis is unhealthy, and bottling the anger is also unhealthy, what's your way of dealing with anger?", "How do you deal with anger? if catharsis is unhealthy, and bottling the anger is also unhealthy, what's your way of dealing with anger?" ]

[ "If possible, extract yourself from the situation to a point where you can bring yourself down a bit. Today was a very frustrating day at work, so on the drive home I moved to the slow lane and turned my music on and really reflected on how it became frustrating. By the time I got home I had mellowed out some. In general, for longer term frustration you find an outlet. I race cars and target shoot, both things that require significant focus and attention to detail. \n", "Weed. It's incredibly effective in calming you down and gives you a different perspective in the matter that got you angry. When you get angry, your brain goes into a complex process, your testosterone goes up, cortisol goes down, your left hemisphere of your brain gets heavily stimulated, and much more, so thous answers you get like \"just don't get angry in the first place\" or \"just try calming down\" won't be of any use. Weed is a quick cheat to make your brain release some serotonin and dopamine to cool down your brain a bit. Unless you get weed dependency, then you will get hella mad in abstinence.", "The best way to solve this issue is to not get angry in the first place.\n\nThere are some things that will inevitably cause anger, but the vast majority of things really aren't worth getting angry about.... however, let's assume that for whatever reason you're already angry, personally I'd advise taking a walk, having a drink or just handling your emotions.\n\nRemember that emotions only serve to cloud your judgment. As an adult, you are required to be in control of yourself to be able to function optimally. Again the best way to do this is just not let yourself get angry in the first place.\n\n", "Do something productive. Homework, exercise, build a skill, write a book, etc. Anger is shitty fuel, but fuel nonetheless." ]

[ 6, 5, 4, 3 ]

[ "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?", "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?", "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?", "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?", "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?", "Best course of action if your in an elevator plummeting down to ground? If I'm in an elevator 10 floors up and it starts plummeting towards ground, what's my best chance for survival. Like should I try and jump mid-air last minute? Wedge myself in the corner, hugging the hand-rail? Lie on the floor?" ]

[ "Lay down, making contact with the elevator floor with as much of your body as possible, preferably with something collapsible ( a coat, a briefcase) under your head.", "jump immedietly when the wire breaks so the elevator will land on your head, thus rendering you unconscious meeting your certain death, or what pemullis1 said. ", "I assume you would need to do the same as if you were falling off a building.\n\nStand on your feet, bend them a little and cover your head as much as possible for when you bounce.\n\nJumping won't really have any effect, and if you lay flat on the floor as someone suggested, your chances of survival will drastically decrease. \n\nPerhaps taking off all your clothes and spreading them out on the floor will help a bit", "Call your stock broker and ask him to put all your cash into lottery tickets, because with modern technology, winning the lottery is about as likely as being in that situation nowadays.", "Jumping in the last minute wont save you as you need to counter your acceleration relative to the hard cold ground rather than relative to the elevator floor\nAlso there are several saftey features in place in elevators so while it is a possible scenario it is very very unlikely that a failure in the elevator results in you plummeting to the ground. Also from 10 stories up, if you hit solid ground the G force due to the rapid deceleration is enough to kill you", "I was going to say something, but by now you are dead.\nBut kudos for typing your text this fast!\n\nSOOOO... Afterlife, how is it like? Did you found any female medium to make out with your woman?\n\n" ]

[ 10, 3, 3, 3, 1, 0 ]

[ "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. 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This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n", "How to talk to a introvert when you're a introvert. I'm really shy, and there is this girl I really like that is also really shy. This girl has attempted to start conversations with me, but I just always kind of mess it up by not failing to continue it due to the tremendous of social anxiety. I have had full fledged conversations with her in the past, but it didn't and still doesn't happen as consistently as I would want to be.\nI have gradually gotten better at talking to extroverts, and by \"talking\" I mean listen to what they say and do the occasional nod or comment. Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like. \nWhat do you guys recommend I do? Should I talk to her about my difficulties in talking to? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTLDR: There is this girl I like that is shy. I want to get to know her better, but I'm shy as well. What do I do?\n\n" ]

[ "Something that extroverts may not know, but this girl already does: it's ok for two people to be near each other and not be talking at every moment. Conversation can be intermittent or nonexistent without that being awkward.", "Coming from an introvert who has recently come out of his shell and now talks with anyone he comes across, I really had to challenge myself on why I was so shy and struggled talking with anyone. I was always worried about being judged for what I said, in my head I thought what I was saying was dumb. Once I found out the reason behind my shyness, I began to challenge it and be mindful of it while I was talking to someone. Sure there's awkward pauses or silence every now and then but I don't beat myself up over it. People are awesome and I want to connect with everyone.\n\nSo, really look at why your shy and where it comes from. Challenge you're self. Feign confidence at first. You'll get it buddy! And good luck with the girl :)", "There is a huge difference between being an introvert and being afraid to talk to people. Being an introvert has nothing to do with fear. ", "Try asking about her interests or hobbies. I feel like when people start talking about things they're really interested in or have passion for they get the most comfortable. You can try asking her if she's into any shows, has any pets, or what she likes doing in her free time to maybe start it up.", "Cut through the BS. If she's going out of her way to make conversations with you even though you're both shy and it's difficult, she likes you too. Be honest: \"Hey, I really like you. Are you free to do cool date idea X with me this Friday?\" She will be pleased.\n\nDon't do something like dinner. Find something interesting that gives you both things to talk about. Rock climbing is a great one, but whatever you're into. No matter what you choose, be specific with the activity and the time in your question; don't say, \"You want to do something sometime?\" because shy people are often indecisive in these situations and it will make her nervous.\n\nThis saves everyone the awkward two-shy-people-trying-to-flirt phase. No one likes that phase. She will be thrilled you made a move to get things going. If I'm wrong, I'll eat a bug.", "Naw, don't do what extroverts do, do what introverts do, which is to lock onto some minutia and discuss it at great length. That's how you talk to introverts, or at least how you get them talking.\n\nPast that, introverts are still people, once there's an established comfort zone most of them open right up.\n\nYou have no comfort zone yet, because you really like this girl. You need to see her as a friend first. From there, well you're at least on the same playing field as the rest of us.", "Not meant to be bashing or anything, but as an introvert who is *not* shy in the slightest, just prefer not to talk and don't at all mind just sitting alone, thinking, unless there's an *interesting* topic to speak about - being shy does not mean you're an introvert! It might just mean that you're socially incompatible or whatever. I did a personality test and was told that I'm 98% introverted, and I am definitely not shy nor unable to maintain a conversation (-- ok, sometimes I can suck at it).\n\n>Mistaking introversion for shyness is a common error. Introverts prefer solitary to social activities, but do not necessarily fear social encounters like shy people do.\n\nSource: Wikipedia\n\nAgain, really just meant to inform rather than bash or whatever. It's just a common misconception that *really* annoys me. Just like that people don't know the difference between empathy, sympathy and compassion. Anyways. <3\n\n", "First: \nShy ≠ Introverted. I'm learning more and more that I can be extroverted (finding energy in other people vs. solitude). This takes me getting past the social anxiety that causes me to be shy. Good resource: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2yRVP9PHnEE Ignore the clickbait title. It actually is helpful.\n\nSecond: \nAll people love connection. Some people open up more slowly, but everyone loves connection. You'll have to be observant and take a genuine interest in her (or anyone you want to connect with). If something stands out about her, compliment her for it. If you notice some pattern in how she acts or the things she has, there's an interest hiding nearby. Find a clue, ask her about it, and take interest if she responds positively. *Always be positive when you're looking for common connections.* \n\nIf she doesn't open up, make yourself vulnerable. Don't go telling her about some weird fetish, but share something that's just below the surface. When you show that you're willing to step outside your castle walls, it encourages others to do the same. I know, I know, you don't know what to talk about. Sometimes it takes a little time for the lightbulb to come on. Until then smile and ask her how she's doing today. Something *will* eventually spark if .... ready for this? .... you just relax and enjoy her company, even if it only lasts a few seconds sometimes.\n\nAnd hey, if she just doesn't open up, maybe a more outgoing girl will come along and make conversation easier for you. ;)", "Just say the thing, right at the beginning. If she tries to start a conversation and you don't know what to say, say, 'I'm so sorry, I'm introverted and I want to have this conversation but may not be the best at it.' In your own words so it doesn't sound quite like a robot. I'm a serious introvert and this has helped me a lot...once it's out there, people really seem to understand and give me a bit of breathing room.", "I was definitely in the same boat as you, but my SO and I realized that we didn't need to have long, pointless conversations for the sake of communication, we're happy just being in each others' presence. \n\nTo start out though, I'd recommend avoiding small-talk. It's just a filler, and you don't really learn much about who they really are from questions like \"what's your favourite TV show?\" This may sound a bit intimidating, but start with a big question, like \"what are you most passionate about?\" The conversation will be immediately engaging and she'll be more inclined to open up, since you've expressed interest in what's important to her. One thing leads to another, and you'll find that both of you will start participating dynamically, as it's easy to talk about something you like, and it's wonderful to listen to someone talk about their passions. \n\nI hope this helps a bit, we're rooting for you OP! :)", "If you have her number I'd text her. It's a lot easier if you're shy and will make you more calm and relaxed. Also don't second guess everything you say in a text. Just enjoy the conversation. Then I'd ask her at some point if she would like to go to a movie. That's probably the best starting point for you because you won't have to talk as much during a movie as you would have to during say dinner without making it awkward. Then with every step the two of you progress, it should make it easier for you to both get to know each other and enjoy each other's company without having to always think about it. It will just come natural to you guys. Good luck man!", ">Although, I still feel scared in a way to talk to this shy girl I like.\n\nThat's you being nervous. Extroverts can have this exact problem.\n\nIt's nice to see we have so many labels for things that people *get to* confuse them.\n\nIntroversion is not equal to shy, anxious, asocial, disliking people etc.\n\nStop externalizing your problems by Googling labels until you find something you can convince yourself applies to you. \n\nIt's the Astrology of the 21st century.\n\nYou're going to have to push through the \"I like her but I'm nervous\"-barrier like every other adult. There is no LPT for this. Coddling you like some here have is just going to reinforce your delusion that there's a character-trait keeping you from talking to the lass, and the next lass that comes around you're going to be repeating this nonsense.\n\nBack straight, testicles figuratively out, deep breath, and don't start vocalizing before you know the words you're going to make with the sounds flying out of your gob.", "This could be pedantic but introversion is not the same as shyness. Shyness is caused by fear of judgement, while introversion is simply preference of less stimuli. ", "Sometimes I straight up say, \"I have a hard time talking for the sake of talking. I only speak when I have something meaningful to say. Sorry I'm giving you the silent treatment, but I just don't have anything to say.\" I found often the person I'm talking to is relieved and says they have a hard time doing small talk and are more comfortable with silence. Sometimes there simply isn't anything to say and that's ok.\n", "Just my opinion but maybe talk about your hobbies and what you like. From there see if she likes the same stuff. You can't lose because if she has no interest in your hobbies you probably won't enjoy spending time together anyway. And if she thinks your interests are silly or strange then you've done your self a favor by not sinking time into a doomed relationship. You are fine the way you are and you don't have to be something you aren't.", "First I want to say that just because someone is shy doesn't mean they're an introvert. That said, don't force anything. Also sometimes initiating contact then continuing through text and ims can be a lot easier. ", "Honestly the best advice I can give is just don't be shy. You may label yourself as an introvert but there is nothing stopping you from being a little extroverted at times.", "Try asking her about things she's interested in. That always got me chatting back when I socialized with more than a computer screen. ", "Once upon a time when I was a teenager there was this cute guy I liked. Every time I said hi to him he just looked at me like a deer into headlights. We took Tae Kwon Do together and the instructors kept putting us together to spar, and would make us ride together in the back seat of a car on the way to a competition, and still he didn't say a word. It took 5 months for him to utter anything to me. \n\nThat was 23 years ago, lol. We have been a couple since that day, and have been married for 19 years. He told me he didn't say anything because he was scared of saying something stupid. We are both huge introverts and I think it works rather well for us. \n\nOh, just try not to be as awkward as he was because the first words he actually said to me were \"I think I love you.\" Which, looking back, is kind of creepy. If she is another introvert she understands that you don't have to talk every single second.\n\nWhat kind of things does she like? What do you have in common? Maybe find something cool to show her or invite her on a date. The movies is a great choice for introverts, and then have a snack or dinner or walk after and the movie will at least give you something to talk about.", "Learn conversational threading. Rather than trying to think of topics, just say something related to what the other person just said.\n\"I have to get back soon to walk my dog. Do you like dogs?\"\n\"Yeah I love dogs! I've never been able to have one because my Dad is allergic\"\n\"Aww that sucks! Are you close with your parents?\"\n\"Yeah! I...\"\n\nThis is a slightly forced example, but it shows how easy it can be to ask follow up questions. Rather than not listening to her response and then asking if she likes movies, you're now talking about her relationship with her parents, which is way deeper and more personal.\nOver time you learn how to steer the conversation to certain topics like family, travel, sex, etc which in particular will help you create more of a bond. Get her talking about her passions.", "In what context do you know her? If from school or work, try to work with her on a project or ask for her help with something. I've always found troubleshooting to be a great icebreaker :)", "If you are the type of introvert that always worries about being judged, think about this: people have so much going on in their lives that the chance they will actually remember you screwing up anything is really small. This personally gave me a new look at my introverted life, and I believe changed it for the better.", "I'm sort of semi extrovert but my girlfriend is extremely shy, when we first met the conversation was often intermittent and flowed poorly. I started using a couple of techniques to get the conversation flowing more smoothly. But at the same time it's very important to remember that a few minutes of not talking are not a bad thing. Don't feel pressured into always trying to come out with something insightful all the time, we all say stupid shit, it's not always bad, sometimes its hilarious. \n\nFirstly, I would always try to end an answer with a question, if she asks you what you did over the weekend, make sure to tell her, then ask her what she was doing. If she asks you what sort of music you like, tell her what you like then ask her, or alternatively if you already know then just ask her a different but related question. Avoid letting the conversation go cold, unless it's at a point when you can safely stop the conversation or change the subject without coming across as ignorant. \n\nSecondly, give her time to answer, as you will know a lot of shy people don't really know exactly what to say immediately, perhaps taking a few seconds to get around any impending anxiety about what they're going to say.\n\nFinally, don't worry about it. That is, unless you come out with something grossly offensive, or insensitive, it's highly unlikely that whatever comes out of your mouth in the next 10 minutes is going to drive her away. \n\n\n", "I was shy before, but now it 's just indifference when meeting people which comes off as being shy and quiet when in reality I am just withdrawn/reserved. So I am still introverted at times, but in a different sense. \n\nAnyway, there's was this girl I worked with who had no intention of talking to anybody and she was introverted as well. It was a bit difficult to work with her because she really didn't want to be there and gave really short replies if at all. I eventually did get her to open up through humor and just being honest about some things. She always had a gloomy face while there, so I would point it out jokingly. She had a tattoo so I asked about that and she told me a very sad personal story it. Things like that can really connect with people. \n\nWe eventually would constantly just goof off at work and people noticed us always laughing together. So much so that other co-workers teased us about it. Because of our conversations, I connected with her on a level that no one else had. Funny enough when other co-workers would try to talk to her, she would go back to the short replies and just staying quiet. \n\nBeing funny and just honest about things without being too forward or overstepping boundaries goes a long way. It's how I generally meet people. Once you start talking and feel comfortable then tell her how you feel. Again, just be honest. It seems like she wants to at least start a friendship so just meet her halfway. Hobbies, plans, career, anything can start a conversation. Good luck.", "I always find it endearing when introverts acknowledge their social anxiety. It shows self awareness and courage and sort of breaks the ice.", "Here is an extremely easy way to become comfortable with talking to people. Give out Random Compliments. 10 to men. 10 to women. Do it as you are walking and don't wait for a response. They don't even have to be big compliments. \n\"your shoes are cool!\" \n\"I like your shirt.\" \n\"I like your earrings.\" \n\"Cool, neat watch.\" \nif its a couple. \"you two look like you ar having a good day\" and you can check one off each men and women compliment. \n\nTry to get though the 20 compliments before you talk to her, or as many as you can. It will boost your confidence, you will feel better, and it will not be so hard to talk.", "Decide to be more curious than nervous. Look for loose conversational threads, then tug on them. \"That's an interesting necklace, where'd you get it?\" \"You changed your hair, it looks great!\"\n\nAs an introvert, the best tactic is to ask the other person about themselves, and it can be a relief as an introvert to be asked answerable questions. Then you can go from there.", "As a shy girl who likes shy guys, it's just as frustrating to her. Laugh about it being awkward and it'll feel a lot better. If you both know that the other one is trying it is easier to relax in the silences.\n\nGood luck!", "wait, so, you want people who aren't expressive to express how they express something to other people who aren't expressive? huh?\n\nWhen you think of it in such a weird, meta-sense any communication with her would be considered extroversion. Any communication of you being introverted to her would be awkward.\n\nMaybe she's not introverted and she just doesn't give a shit about you or is avoiding having to confront you. Maybe the exact opposite. You will never know this until you try and talk to them.\n\n", "just saying man, saying stuff like \"im shy and awkward\" is gonna make her think you have lower self esteem, maybe you do but girls, even shy ones, like confident guys. work on it, be better, dont think too down about yourself. prove yourself, and I wouldnt say those things in front of her, unless you only want to be friends. which you dont. but i would not say those things like youre shy and awkward. that will be a bad trip to friendzoneville", "i'm an introvert guy, but not really a total meek type.\njust not the person who'd love to speak a lot to anyone i'm not very close with. i obersrve people and their behavior.\n\ni usually tend to initiate the convo if i see one who's an obvious shy type. i'm totally comfortable towards them.\n\ni tend to be very gentle with my approach and try to connect my introversion with them. once the person senses the link between us, he/she tends to let down the guard a bit maybe because i'm genuine with my gesture. and to my surprise, they do talk just fine. or even more. just like me. lol!", "You're both shy, not introverted. Not being able to talk to someone is not introversion.\n\nI'm introverted. I'm not afraid to talk to people but I find it mentally draining to do so.\n\nThe two 'troverts are just where you like to spend your energy. With others or by yourself.\n\nIf you like doing shit by yourself and that's what motivates you, then you're an introvert.\n\nif you like doing shit with other people and enjoy connecting with others, then you're an extrovert.\n\nIt's that simple.\n\nKeep using the word that way and the definition will change for the worse and give people a crutch to lean on so they can be an asshole.", "You should probably slip a very casual \"I'm sorry I'm a bit shy but it's nice to hang out with you\" into a conversation once a gap comes up. Sort of as a way to acknowledge the thing and the fact that you're okay with it and can move on from that, you could even add an 'I like you so I get nervous' to flatter her.", "Think up some topics beforehand. I'm an introvert and I have trouble starting/continuing conversations. Also talking about what you're passionate about. When someone asks me about video games, BOOM. I just go off talking for like an hour. ", "Talking to a girl and making the conversation go well (and anyone in fact) is all about you feeling good in that moment. I promise you, this is the only skill you need, but it's extremely hard. Being very shy (like me) you probably also have deep-down anxiety feelings you're not even aware of that come up when talking to someone in a situation you're not sure of. IF you can feel relaxed a conversation will flow. If you can feel good and feel relaxed, a good conversation will flow.\n\nFocus very intently on the skin feeling of the spot just between your eyes. \n'Hold it mentally' (keep constant relaxed contact with this point and keep renewing it every time you think of anything else until you feel a 'lock in' and your mind more or less feel stuck / magnetised - you do this by maintain relaxed focus on that point and relaxing away other thoughts. when you start to notice a relaxed feeling come over you and your vision, lock on the relaxed feeling and link it to the spot and the wider edges of your vision. gently maintaining this lock (concetration) start to take small actions such as getting up, walking around etc. all the while maintaining your sense of this spot and the wider edges of your vision. you will be able to hold it for hours if you do this. When you \"get it right\" and the lock comes on you will feel a slight detachment the world, every time you think of something, drop it out and link back to feeling. This is what creates the detachment, because you are occupying your thinking-brain which produces stress chemicals. After a while if you nudge it, and enjoy the feeling, really good feelings will start to eminate in your body, quite powerful. You should feel like 'you' are this point between your eyes and you are making yourself move around and so on and your body is secondary, so you're altering your sense of 'you' but at a location where people expect you to be (at your eyes). Allow yourself to relax your body into this feeling and 'trust' that it will be good and trust feeling good locked in this state. This is teaching yourself to be happy and confident in your body.\n\nIf you can maintain this detachment you will turn down the strong emotions and feelings of difficulty and it will not be obvious you're concentrating or detaching your self. If you can get the state to feel 'good' then it will feel very good - this makes conversation easy, but is generally frustrated in shy people like me.\n\nIn this slightly detached state embarassment and introversion is kept much more under control, and with that if you can feel 'good' then you get the social grease needed to have a good conversation. \n\nThen try to ask a few questions - how is your day going? chat about things, with each new piece she offers, consider what she's said and ask her seomthing about about that, listen to her responses and think about it and what you can infer and keep doing this, if she stalls then talk a little about something that you relate to and ask her a few tings back. If you feel good you will naturally feel funny things to say and ways of thinking. If you cant get that bit, ask her about her etc. be mildly positive and if you feel things are going well, occasionally touch her on the arm or something and gauge her reaction. If she doesnt like it dont do it, is she's ok, then as you're talking naturally move in slightly closer to her and push a hand lightly against her shoulder as your tell her something. That is flirting. If she responds positively and particularly if she laughs randomly at things you say that aren't funny and starts twirling her hair it indicates she likes you. The cautious mild touching tells you whether she is comfortable with you getting closer to her personal space. If she pulls back, pull back.\n\nNEVER acknowledge that you feel awkward or that the situation is awkward. Pretend (at first) that you are relaxed about it, because she will take your cue from how the conversation goes. Acknowledging awkardness is a big faux-pas, it never makes it better and the man in a conversation particularly should never overstep this rule.", "Step 1: Accept that you are probably going to screw this up and you will not have a relationship with this girl. Once you do that, you don't need to be afraid of \"failing\" per se, so there is no pressure.\n\nStep 2: If this girl is shy, then you need to be able to carry a conversation. This is a skill up from where you are, and is basically multitasking. When you are listening, you need to be hearing what she says (which you say you can do) and be thinking of what you want to say next. When you are talking, you need to be speaking and observing her for any hints that she might have something to say, so you can give her an opening. This is an art that takes practice, so see if your extrovert friends can help you.\n\nStep 3 - 5 billion: Make small talk. This is critical regardless of what other losers in this thread are saying. This is where you can find out things about her without being a creepy stalker. Talk about things that aren't polarizing. You don't mention if you are in school, but it sounds like you might be. So talk about classes, homework, is it easy or hard, do you like the teachers. During this you need to walk the fine line of asking for her thoughts and encouraging her to share, but never ever pressure her to tell you anything. If she seems to pull away or not be willing to share, it's either because she doesn't want to talk to you, or she is feeling self conscience. The former might be because you smell, the latter might be because she is comparing herself to whatever you say. For example, if you talk about how easy a class is, she might be unwilling to tell you she is having trouble with it. If you talk about how you went snowboarding over the weekend, she might feel bad about watching netflix and eating ice cream. In this case, do what you can to tone yourself down to her comfort level. Admit to not being an exciting or smart person all the time, but stay confident! Repeat this step as necessary, but don't let yourself run out of time (e.g. end of the semester) before proceeding to the next step. Also note that most relationships fail in this step. Don't stress over it.\n\nStep 4ish: Ask the girl out. Choose the setting wisely. A coffee date is absolutely horrid. Two people with nothing to entertain themselves but each other. God no. Find an activity that allows two people, or a group of people, to work together, or at least in tandem. For example, bowling might seem like a good idea, but it isn't because one person is sitting while the other bowls, then they switch. They never really spend time together. Hiking, cooking, ice skating, arcade(ing?) (also good for figuring out if she prefers working together or in competition) are good things. Repeat as needed.\n\nEnd game: Get married and have babies.\n\n", "Speaking as an introvert who used to be crippled by social anxiety and has grown to have \"extroverted tendencies\" or whatever we are calling the grey area between the two these days, I can tell you the consistent thing with introverts is a lot more appreciation for straightforward and honest communication. Don't hide anything. That really gets the ball rolling.\n\nSo just be like \"I like you, and I'm shy and you're shy so I just wanted to say that I like you.\" Then if she's in to you too, ask her out. Worst thing is she says no and you know sooner rather than later.", "Shyness is nice, and shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to. So if there's something you'd like to try... If there's something you'd like to try ask me. I won't say no, how could I?", "My go-to with other introverted people is to get under the skin as quickly as possible, and drop the small talk. I think it's a mistake to confuse introversion with mere shyness, because then you might think you have to handle them with kid gloves, lest you offend their delicate sensibilities.\n\nIn my experience, this is very nearly the opposite of the truth. The introverts want to engage with something solid and real, and the extroverts are happier skipping along the surface.", "Maybe it would be easier to break the ice in non face to face conversation. Being introverted myself, I find that I'm less inhibited by social anxieties if I'm able to talk through text or chat or something. \n\nAdditionally, nothing bonds introverts together like discussing their introversion. So you have that in common and could lead with that. \n\nGood luck. ", "It would be helpful if you stop misusing the concept of introversion. Introverts would be more suited at conversation with other introverts due to them being sensitive to each others boundaries related to introversion. Typically they will be very good at conversing, especially one on one. So looking at qualities of being introverted won't be helpful, it's strictly shyness and anxiety that are holding you back.\n\nAlso, being able to listen to extroverts might be progress in controlling your anxiety but simply listening isn't really getting to participate in a conversation. Shy people deserve to be heard too and you have to practice to improve.", "I'm not an introvert, I just find most other people to be incredibly dull and/or annoying. I'm rather extroverted around interesting people.", "I'm late to this thread, but this was something I always wondered about growing up as an introvert. Now that I'm a therapist, I talk with people for a living, and I still feel socially awkward outside of work from time to time.\n\nOne thing that helped me tremendously is just being constantly curious about other people (and namely for you, this girl). It just means asking open-ended questions (who, what, when, etc.) and listening to listen, not listening to respond. I know some people don't enjoy answering questions about themselves, but I find that generally speaking, if you tread lightly, starting with surface-level content questions, most anyone loves to share about what they love.\n\nYou can overkill this by asking too many questions and turning into a newspaper reporter, but it's a good start (or at least it was and still is for me!).", "Hey OP, my wife is an introvert. I am too though I am a little more center on the spectrum. We got interested in one another because of doing stuff with friends. But it is not like we just hit it off and suddenly had an hour's long conversation, we were playing ping pong, shooting pool and generally in groups of people which meant we didn't have to constantly talk. \n\nEven married we may spend time quietly on the porch reading or watching the hummingbirds feed. We play alot of board games together. There is nothing wrong with being together and not talking the whole time.\n\nIs there something you could invite this girl to go do together that would take the pressure off? Also, is it possible she will feel relieved to meet a guy who is not expecting non-stop conversation from her? Open ended questions are great for fostering conversation, but she may feel overwhelmed by them if she is as shy as you say, which could backfire. Sometimes quiet is OK too. ", "Girl you like is shy, you are shy.\n\nDude- let me be honest. If she is fighting her shyness to talk to you, she probably has a thing for you mate. \n\nLets assume that she has a thing for you. Here's what I would do:\n\n1. Relax. It's all good. Talking shouldn't be something that you force, it should be natural. If that means y'all don't talk, so be it.\n\n2. Text her. Literally send her, \"heyy\" She will say, \"hey whats up?\" boom. You're chatting with her. When the time is right, throw in a compliment. Tell her she looked pretty today. Something like that. \n\n3. If you start texting her, talking irl will follow. \n\nOnce those initial barriers are broken it's pretty easy. Just talk to her and get to know her. The more comfortable y'all are, the easier it will be. ", "From an introverted girls perspective... being nice, funny, and smart can work wonders. Genuine might be a better word for it. Just act interested and not like the conversation is forced. Just be cool! She probably likes you too. Just think about or notice things she does or talks about. Find one thing to connect on and the rest will fall into place! You would be surprised what we have in common with each other, and if you just take the time to get to know here, she will respond! ", "Either you break through your weakness or you don't get to pass your genes on and your heritage dies out.", "Conversation is more art than science, and there’s no guaranteed set of *things* that will work on everyone. But, there are a handful of tricks that should work for most people, though always consider the context, and take everything with a grain of salt.\n\nYou are shy. She is shy. You have grown better at talking to your more outgoing friends, but that is because your more outgoing friends say hello, and then hit you with a barrage of words while you nod and say ‘uh-huh’. That’s not going to work here. Conversation isn’t going to just happen, you’re going to have to take a bit of initiative here, because you’re basically talking to yourself.\n\nSo how do you you do this? Well, conversation is fluid, but far as I can see, there are two broad ‘active’ roles you can play in a conversation. The first is the Commenter. This is how a lot of people, possible most people, act. The Commenter hears something, and then adds their own experiences, or their own thoughts, to the conversation. And that’s all they do. \n\n_________________________________________________________\n\nPerson A says, “I hear Pokemon Sun and Moon is coming out.”\n\nThe Commenter says, “Yeah. I’m not really that excited actually, I really didn’t like Pokemon X and Y.”\n\nPerson A says, ‘How come?’ \n\nThe Commenter says, “Lysandre’s plan was stupid. Team Flare were a bunch of dumbass noobs, I hate them.”\n\nPerson A says, “Is that-“\n\nThe Commenter says, “The story behind the Pokemon games is really important. It grounds the- *(and so on)*“\n\n\n_________________________________________________________\n\nOh, they’re having a conversation all right. But it’s a selfish one. The Commenter is saying the most, but if you look closely, Person A is actually driving the conversation. The Commenter is being asked questions, and is responding with *their* experiences, *their* opinions, *their* interests. In a more subtle case, Person A would say something, and The Commenter would respond with a joke of some kind. It might be very amusing, but unless they follow up with something else, the onus is on Person A to keep driving the conversation. \n\nAnd this is not to say, you can’t talk about things you’re interested in. But for a lot of people, their response to entering conversation with someone will be to only talk about what interests them. Or, they’ll think that to make the other person like them, they have to make every response in a conversation a funny joke. \n\nThe Commenter, at the root of it, *is not taking an interest* in the other person. They are not taking the other person into account. And this makes them, often, a bad conversation partner. Don’t be a Commenter. \n\n*(more in a bit)*\n", "Bringing up hobbies has been mentioned but I'd like to add my take on it. Try get her to tell you one of her interests. Just one is enough for the moment. Then ride on that. Use that single interest to branch out into other topics. I do this when I'm first meeting new people often. For example when I first met a friend in university we only talked about the class we have and other studying related stuff. Then eventually over time you find out more and begin to talk about that. Eventually you have a fully realised friend. Then it should be a simple matter of asking her out when you feel comfortable about it. That's a whole other topic to discuss", "Awkward girls tend to like awkward guys, they understand the shyness and tend to find it cute. So don't try too hard... chances are your already winning...", "Ask her a detail about something that you know she is interested in, even if you already know the answer.", "As an extrovert who used to be an introvert: Speak from your heart. Indeed, as others mentioned out in comments, it does not always matter if there is silence between conversations, however if you want to talk more, think of things you want to tell her, instead of thinking about \"oh crap I don't know what to talk about\" because then, surprise surprise, you will not know what to talk about. Your mind gets occupied with stress about what to talk about instead of actually doing it. \n\nI have had this in the past. But I've learned to cope with it: Take a deep breath, and just think for a moment about what she likes and about what you like. Find the things you want to talk about beforehand if that helps you. Try to remove the \"I don't know what to do\" feeling by preparing before meeting, and eventually you will no longer need it. So, a little list to get you going:\n\n- What are your hobbies?\n- What are her hobbies?\n- What do you love?\n- What does she love?\n\nAlways ask open-ended questions. Don't ask \"Do you like soccer?\". Ask \"What kind of sports do you like doing (and why)?\" If it is a subject you and her both like, there is probably more common ground to talk about. If she falls silent and you think you messed up, look at her expression when she falls silent. It could very well be that she also thinks she messed up because she doesn't know what she can talk about next. So, take a leap of faith and just ask a follow up question. Say she says she likes horseback-riding. You can then ask her if she has ever done it in the past (presumably the answer is yes) and then you can ask for how long, and where, and how was it like? Heck, you can even ask if you can try it as well!\n\nIn other words. Just go with the flow. Don't take it too personally if silence ensues. It just happens. That's just how conversations go. \n\nTL;DR: Ask open ended questions. Try finding out common ground. Prepare in advance if you are doubting your skills. Most importantly: Speak from your heart. The truth always prevails.\n\nOh, and seriously. Taking a deep breath during conversation (inaudibly, preferably), is a very, VERY powerful tool to relief stress and feel relaxed again. You can even just fake stretching a little while doing it so she doesn't notice :). Good luck!", "> ", "\"Hey. I want to apologise. I have a hard time breaking the ice around new people, Around you, I have an even harder time because I already like you. So, I'm sorry about being quiet. You kind of stun me.\" And then ask her to go do something practical with you. Maybe ask her to teach you something she knows well, where she needs to say a lot and you need to ask a lot of questions.", "You know what to do, stop doubting yourself. You are the current manifestation of a long ling of evolutionary success stories. Your instincts are your friend.\n\nEvery girl is different. If you like this girl, you know why. Other people here can only give you cookie cutter advice. Don't be a cookie cutter guy. Don't do stuff that the movies tell you to do, or that other people tell you to do. Do what your heart desires, and the confidence and conviction to follow through on that will naturally come.", "Try to engage in social activities, you can only talk about nothing for so long, if you're actively doing something (eating, sport, movie , whatever) you can talk about that and when not talking it's not awkward because well, you're actually doing something and not just staring blankly!\n\nAlso while there's nothing wrong with you talking with a psy for a few months may help alleviate those issues, and you won't be able to just nod there as the subject will be you", "The best way to talk to people, not just people you're interested in for a relationship, is to simply talk about stuff that's going on. As an example, recently there was a major election, and could've easily served as something to talk about. If in class, you could simply ask about future assignments or stuff that's going on in class. \n\nBasically don't overthink things, it might take work, but try incorporating what's going on around you into conversation.", "Talk to her because you want to and act like it. For example, Make her something silly or easy and give it to her, nothing sentimental, maybe something that is just funny looking. A little humour goes a long way, especially if it's hard to eek out that one classic joke you know. \nMost importantly, be a friend, not just some guy who wants the girl. Good luck!", "So, I used to be a very shy person, and still am to a point, but for me the most important lesson was that you don't have to say the perfect thing all the time.\nA lot of times I wouldn't respond to things other people were saying because I didn't feel like I had the optimal response and it would end up awkward because I didn't say anything. With caution, just say what you're feeling. \nWhat I mean is if someone says they loved a movie and you didn't like it then you should say that and tell them why (in a lighthearted way). That shit doesnt matter and you should act like it. \nBut if you have a different opinion about something people feel deeply about (religion, politics) that's different. You need to censor yourself in those subjects. There are exceptions but, as an introvert, just use your empathetic powers to discern what those subjects are.\nCommunicating is difficult and people make mistakes all the time. I'm sure that plenty of times you've brushed off things that other people have said. \nThe main thing is to be genuine. If you have confidence in your feelings then other people will too. If you are more yourself and uninhibited in a conversation then other people will feel free to be themselves too. \nYou're going to make mistakes, that's a part of being human. And when those mistakes happen remember that you're just like everyone else. You aren't perfect. Just remember to laugh at yourself and be able to say when you made a mistake. \nThere's no equation to having a perfect conversation. It's trial and error every time. Just be yourself and she'll feel more free to be herself as well.", "Since your an introvert you have an understanding of how you would want to be talked to, use that knowledge. Also, being completely honest is always a good idea. You ask about that hobbies she has and ask questions about it. If we knew the hobby it would be easier but in general ask some questions that you know she will know the answers to and then at some point relate what she says to something you like or that you have info about.", "Simple tip, talk about her. Ask questions that are not yes or no answers. Hey gir, What music do you like? Oh hi again so&so, what are/is your favorite movies? Oh what about (insert subject)?\n\nThis is really it. Everything else will just be easier", "Practice, practice, practice - and both sides being ok with long pauses.\n\nIf the pauses are painful, shared activity (like walking), or an activity that requires one not to talk a lot (like a movie) help.", "My quickfire advice; \n- Fake it til you make it. If you're scared, just pretend you're brave and use some of the excellent conversation prompts in this thread to get you through. \n- Always remember that it's okay to stop, laugh at yourself, and say, \"wow, I'm really nervous.\" Its totally normal to feel that way sometimes and if you get real for a moment, maybe she'll open up too. Also, straightforwardness is pretty endearing, you might score some points. \n- You can always fall back on, \"what do you want to talk about?\" Or, \"what have you been interested in lately?\"\n- Lastly, everything takes practice. So, if you want to get more comfortable starting conversations with new people, practice with people that you're not crushing on. The stakes aren't as high and most of the time you'll just be next to someone for a second in line or on the train for a couple minutes so you don't have to artificially prolong the encounter. ", "My girlfriend is an introvert so I have some experience, I would say. I see some people say talk about hobbies and interests which is a good place to start. Ask about normal stuff like tv, movies, music, exercise, politics, science anything really. But the key to keep conversations going is to give your opinions and all for theirs if they don't give em to you. This makes it very easy to know people. ", "Just do shit together. Suggest something to do --maybe via email or text-- then just spend time together without talking. ", "If you struggle to carry a conversation, my strategy is always be trying to think of the next question to ask. It is much easier to listen to what they say, and get them to elaborate on it than worry about what you are going to say next. ", "I believe that when dealing with someone who is introverted, common interests (and their interests in general) are very important conversation drivers. I have a much easier time spitballing and riffing on random topics with an extravert, where with an introvert I have to pay a bit more attention to what I learn about them and drive the conversation along. \n\nNot sure if this advice is that great, I'm sort of 50/50 so it's a bit easier to walk the line. ", "Few things in life are this simple. There is no trick to talking to this girl. You already have, you can do it again. The craziest thing you won't believe is that you can say anything. \"I hate this place and want to go home. How are you?\" Obviously you have bigger problems than just talking to girls. There is likely nothing wrong with you, just awkwardness. Email this post to a counselor or therapist and they will know the best way to start. Figure out what the problem is and start working. Talk therapy and social skills classes really work. If you can find an extrovert you trust you can confide in them and ask to tag along. If you have a trusted friend you can just ask \"Dude wtf is wrong with me\". The answer might be as simple as \"you hunch over and mumble and touch your face all the time\". Boom you have a gameplan. It takes practice every day and setting realistic goals. Same way you learned anything. Ask others for help, study people who seem cool to you. ", "Comfortable Silences are the best building blocks for a successful relationship. She already knows how taxing communicating with people can be, so there's no way shes going to expect you to really fill every moment with verbal intercourse. Because she doesn't want that either.\n\n\nWhat you do need to be, though, is make sure that what you do say is to the point. Not blunt, per se, but short and sweet and without room for interpretation. If you like her, make a point to be sure that she knows it. Bring up your past failings as a conversational partner in a light hearted moment of humor with a simple, \"Sorry about that.\" And then move on from it.\n\nThe best thing you can do, and I can't stress this enough, is showing her that you're willing to come out of your comfort zone for your interactions with her without forcing her to do the same until she's ready. It'll show that she matters enough for your effort and that you respect her enough to let her do the same for you on her timeline.\n\n\n\nBut yeah, I'm an introvert too. Unfortunately, I haven't found myself a nice \"silence is golden\" unicorn yet. Best of luck to you, my friend.", "Ask her to hang and go do something that doesn't allow for conversation to be the centerpiece of the event... the introvert in her will appreciate the shared silence. But you have to be able to be somewhat affectionate to consistently carry the message to her that you're interested; if talking isn't a strong feature just yet.", "Ask for her email. This worked perfect for me and my husband. As an introvert, expressing myself through written language is way easier. I didn't used email for anything else, except for his letters during those first couple months. We still do it from time to time. It doesn't really need to be romantic, just write. ", "1) Check our /r/INTP. Even if you're not an INTP, most of them are socially awkward and have stories to relate. Run a few searches through their filter and you should dig up some helpful advice. There's usually a \"HOW I DO SOCIAL?\" post there once a month (at least, there was when I frequented the sub).\n\n2) If you're going to use questions to instigate conversation, take the extra time to find a way to phrase your questions in such a way that the answer is not \"yes\" or \"no.\" If you've ever worked retail, this should come pretty naturally. If not, it may sound stinted at first as you work through it. But, conversation, like playing guitar, is a skill—accept that it's going to sound weird at first.\n\n3) Build, build, build. In improv, they say to never say \"no\", always \"yes, and\". In conversation outside the world of dramatic tension, similar rules can assist the continuing of discourse. If asked a yes or no question, especially if the answer is \"no\", try to skip the \"no\" and go straight into expanding on the topic.\n\n4) Even if you think you're not interested in her viewpoint on a subject, find a way to bring the conversation back to her. You never know when a question you don't care for the answer to may lead to insight or fire up the other person.\n\n5) I don't know how I feel about this tip, but for a while I carried a small piece of paper in my wallet that had the 3 songs I could always do for karaoke. I loathe karaoke, but I won't turn down a night out with friends, and I got tired of not being able to remember what songs I know enough to do on stage. One thing I've heard of budding conversationalists (aka \"shy people\") do is to keep a post-it size note of paper folded up in your wallet with up to 3 go-to \"conversation starters.\" Icebreakers. Problem is, of course, you'll be going into Conversation 2, 3, 4, or so on, so it won't necessarily apply for you, but maybe just have them on-hand just in case?\n\n6) Listen with the intent to listen. Most people wait for their chance to talk. Periods of silence are okay, and it's okay to say, \"I'm thinking, give me a minute.\"\n\n7) Eye contact. Even if it's just \"checking in\" every now and then. Don't start a conversation and turn sideways, and don't cross your arms. That's some primal human shit. You know how people study cat behavior? Humans do shit like that, too, entirely unaware of the subtle messages they're sending. **Don't turn sideways and don't cross your arms.** If (sorry, *when*) you find yourself doing either of these things, don't chastise yourself; just quietly adjust accordingly—face the person you're talking to, and unfold your arms. Pocket hands is better than crossed arms. Bonus points if you can check in and see if your shoulders are bunched up, and subsequently relax them if they are.\n\n**PROTIP:** Next time you're people watching, look at feet. While we turn our bodies to account for architecture and social queues, most of us don't think about feet placement at all. One or both feet pointed towards a conversation partner means that's who they're focused on. Guy talking to a girl at the bar (for example) and both her feet pointed away? She ain't interested." ]

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[ "How to make sure you aren't to blame for a mistake without making it sound like you aren't a team player Everyone's been in a situation where your supervisor asks something like \"Why are these like this?\" or \"This looks unsafe.\" \n\nWhen it's clear they're assuming that **you** are the one responsible but you are not, what's the best thing to say other than \"It wasn't me!\"", "How to make sure you aren't to blame for a mistake without making it sound like you aren't a team player Everyone's been in a situation where your supervisor asks something like \"Why are these like this?\" or \"This looks unsafe.\" \n\nWhen it's clear they're assuming that **you** are the one responsible but you are not, what's the best thing to say other than \"It wasn't me!\"", "How to make sure you aren't to blame for a mistake without making it sound like you aren't a team player Everyone's been in a situation where your supervisor asks something like \"Why are these like this?\" or \"This looks unsafe.\" \n\nWhen it's clear they're assuming that **you** are the one responsible but you are not, what's the best thing to say other than \"It wasn't me!\"" ]

[ "If you're working with other people, use\"we\". Don't deflect the blame, but share it. And if you make a mistake, be the first to admit to it.", "Just say what you were doing when the the mistake happened and as long as what you were doing was assigned to you or needed to be done. Then when asked about the mistake you can honestly let them know you don't know what others were doing as you were on your assigned task. \n\nI was working on my portion of a hige project at work when my direct supervisor reported up the chain that everything was fine and ready to go. Next day it blew out and cost my department 40-50k in damages. Supervisor blamed me. I had to report to my Superintendant about it and he asked me what happened and what I did. Then to write it out. My Supervisor was walked out 20mins later and I still have my job and this happened just over a year ago. Honestly without assigning blame to anyone and never guessing what someone else might have done with gain you respect and protect your job. ", "You could try honesty. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nThe people that tell you that is you (y'all) against the supervisor, aren't your friends and are more likely to fuck your life up than the supervisor. Unless the supervisor busts you for stealing and has you arrested." ]

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[ "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see.", "How to write a good CV I've been looking for a job while at university for 3 years now with no success. I'm hoping that improving my cv might help me stand out a little but I dont really know what makes a cv good and what employers actually want to see." ]

[ "here is the template I use. it's geared for finance jobs, but the message should be the same no matter the industry:\nthis is who i am, this is what ive done/why im qualified, this is why i want to work there.\n\nhttp://resume-videos-00.s3.amazonaws.com/Investment-Banking-Cover-Letter-Template.pdf", "Be sure you always put in the length of time you have experience with a specific set of skills. When someone is hiring you, then want to know if you have 5 years of experience with [whatever] or 5 months. They don't want to try to guess. Put it at the top of your resume, in order.\n\nFor example:\n\n> EXPERIENCE:\n\n> 10 years - PHP, Java, Windows server & desktop software\n\n> 7 years - JavaScript, MySql & MS SQL\n\n> 5 years - Unix server administration (Red Hat, CentOS)\n\n> 3 years - Network switches, cabling, Cisco firewall, security\n\n> 1 year - Android development\n\nThen the rest of your resume.\n\nWhen someone is looking through a stack of resumes and can quickly deduce your exact skillset ... yeah, it goes a LONG way.", "The CV's for many of your professors are probably available on your department webpage. Check them out. Or just ask profs that you respect to send you a copy of theirs. ", "For your work experience, be sure to write down what you actually DID as opposed to your job description. People want accomplishments, not responsibilities (unless a responsibility is an accomplishment somehow). For example, compare this:\n\nSoftware Engineer- some company (1999-2003)\n- wrote code\n- fixed bugs\n- deployed applications\n\nOk, no shit. If you write down \"software engineer\" then I already know what you did. I'm not interested in that. Now look at this (much better and highly contrived) one:\n\nSoftware Engineer- some company (1999-2003)\n- shipped three versions of X Software Product, used by an estimated 80,000 people\n- Re-implemented database connection engine resulting in a 40% performance increase and 20% decrease in memory consumption\n- Architected web-based interface capable of supporting 30,000 simultaneous users with an average per-page load time of 1 second\n- Received positive feedback from 3 specific companies on the quality of the specific improvements that I made to the application\n\nNotice the difference; on the second one, I am giving specific and measurable accomplishments at the company. Someone having trouble with database connection engines (note: this phrase is virtually meaningless) reading my resume might think \"wow, I have that exact problem, maybe this candidate can help me with it!\" and at least want to interview you. As soon as I changed my resume over to this format, I started getting a shitload of calls. Really look at your experience and make sure that everything you put under each job shows what you actually accomplished there, not just what you did.", "You would be surprised how much I had to read before I found the answer to what CV stands for. Kind of strange when everyone seems to expect you to know what an acronym stands for and you have never heard it before.", "I've written a million of them and I'd say that it's a difficult one to answer, different roles need different things. I have one creative CV for graphic design jobs ( kindve an info graphic) a professional CV for retail jobs and a marketing focused one for marketing jobs. My advice is find the job description for the job and make sure your CV ticks all the boxes for what their looking for, any experience or skills you have can be 'exaggerated' to sound like your ticking the box", "Your University 'Jobshop' or 'Careers & Employment' team, or whatever it's called where you are, can help you with this. ", "Just order professional services. It is well worth your time and money. With a well-written, professional resume, you stand out from the crowd. If your resume writer did their job well, not only will you get past the screening stages of hiring, but the interview panel will also think highly of you before they even meet you.\n\nhttp://readyto.top/014d" ]

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[ "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil.", "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil.", "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil.", "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil.", "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil.", "How to take care of your car I will be buying a new/used car within the next year and I just wanted to ensure that it has the longest \"natural\" life that it can given that I do not have experience with cars outside of changing the oil." ]

[ "Since you know NOTHING- get yourself a mechanic you can trust. Don't trust yelp or google reviews- ask your friends and family instead. Hell, a mechanic is important. If they like them and trust them, have them personally introduce you to them. When you get your car, have the belts and hoses checked. Get the coolant flushed. Get an oil change if it's been over 3K miles. Always make sure your tires are properly aligned to ensure the best range. Car maintenance cannot simply be summarized in one post. Check out Scotty Kilmer on youtube- he's got a video for EVERYTHING.", "Changing the oil is really the most *basic* way to keep a car running, but also include other fluids, and wash/clean out regularly as well.", "You can employ a mechanic to do a pre-purchase inspection for you to ensure it's mechanically sound to begin with. This is pointless if it's brand new obviously. I'm not sure what motor insurance companies are like where you are but we have a couple that offer road side assistance and will do the inspection for you. They're honest about the condition of the vehicle because it's likely they'll be insuring it afterwards so they'll want you to buy a decent car so they have more premiums and less claims from you.\n\nCar manufacturers and dealers try to tell you to service your vehicle at mileage as well as time intervals. Only the mileage intervals are important except when your vehicle is under warranty. Stick to your schedule in every way when under warranty so they don't have any excuses to get out of repairing your car. Also, if your car breaks while under warranty take it back to the dealer straight away. Warranty documents are deliberately confusing and particularly in new cars you'll find so much more is covered than most people realise and all you have to do is ask.\n\nOnce out of warranty just stick to the mileage schedule. It is best to use synthetic oils if you can afford them but semi synthetic is ok too. A chemical engine treated (fuel additive) is worth doing every other service as well to clean out your lines. Always use chemical coolant in your radiator instead of water as these are designed to heat up slower meaning your engine runs cooler longer. Heat is the biggest culprit in engine wear and tear as the high temperatures cause the metal and seals to expand. Keeping your engine cooler for longer will serve to minimise the amount of expansion and contraction your engine goes through. The synthetic oils also provide better lubrication which also serves the purpose of a cooler running engine.\n\nMake sure you cycle your aircon, heater, windows, wipers and washers regularly. In periods of drought the seals cop a punishing from the dry elements. The seals are just like your own muscles - when you've been sitting for a long time it's difficult to get up right? Well seals are the same. If you don't exercise them they become stiff. When they become stiff they begin to crack and the last thing you want is to need your wipers in a storm and they don't work properly because the blades are shot. You can apply some armorall or similar product of lacking that a good oil free hand lotion can be used on the rubbers to keep them elastic. Just don't put any of this on your wipers though or it'll get all over your windscreen.\n\nAnd lastly, wash your car regularly and apply some polish. This will make your car look real flash and it'll protect the paint against peeling and fading and if you're looking to get a decent resale figure down the track then this is one of the only things you can do to a car which will net you a decent return. The better your car is aesthetically the more you'll get for it and the faster it'll sell", "If you're buying a new car, it's possible the warranty will require that you get it serviced at a dealership mechanic or it will be void, so make sure you read into that.\n\nIf getting a used car, you could find a trusted mechanic that friends or family go to. Avoid going to a dealership as they charge through the roof. For me, my first car was a Toyota Corolla. I'm a web dev and had no experience with cars, but I serviced the car entirely by myself. I started with the oil and oil filter, I watched many youtube videos. From there, I replaced the Master Break Cylinder, some of the belts, the break pads, air filter etc. I never stuffed up the car, just be sure to Google and watch lots of instructional videos.\n\nAs for cleaning, if a new car and you REALLY care about the paint, I'd suggest learning how to wash, polish and wax correctly. I NEVER take my car through automated car washes as it has metallic paint (Toyota 86) and can scratch easily if not cared for. I also don't trust those random car washes. You'll need to buy the proper equipment for this if you plan on cleaning yourself. May also be a good idea to buy a car cover. Never let animal poo stay on the car as it can eat through the paint (especially bats).", "If there's a normal and a severe maintenance schedule, go with severe just in case. Don't buy into \"lifetime\" transmission fluid - it goes bad eventually. Don't buy cheap low quality parts - if you don't want to or can't get OEM, use reputable brands. Low quality suspension parts, for an example, can wear really quickly compared to OEM or equivalent, costing you more in the long run. Also, take care of the leather (if you get leather seats). Yes, leather seats are awesome and so easy to clean, but they also need a bit of care sometimes. Google it.\n\nPS: also use the right type of transmission fluid, engine oil, etc. If I poured dexron instead of ATF+4 into my 300m, I could kiss the transmission good bye.", "I know close to nothing about fixing cars but my advice is simple. Take your car to the car wash once and a while. Once every 2 weeks depending on weather etc. You don't even have to go to a fancy one spend 3-4 bucks at the spray wand car wash and soap and rinse it. Start from the top always and wash down. " ]

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[ "Making chocolate milk without it coagulating at the bottom of the glass Just as the title says, how to make chocolate milk without it going straight to the bottom\n", "Making chocolate milk without it coagulating at the bottom of the glass Just as the title says, how to make chocolate milk without it going straight to the bottom\n", "Making chocolate milk without it coagulating at the bottom of the glass Just as the title says, how to make chocolate milk without it going straight to the bottom\n", "Making chocolate milk without it coagulating at the bottom of the glass Just as the title says, how to make chocolate milk without it going straight to the bottom\n" ]

[ "Put a small amount of milk in the bottom of the cup and swirl/stir until it is homogeneous. Then poor the rest of the milk in and enjoy!", "[If these are within your means you should give them a try.](http://www.magicstraws.com/) Very good and rather convenient. ", "Jars, use jars. Spoons can be retained for consumption, but I almost always put it in a jar and swirl it, or shake it for a bit of froth. But if you put in more than the milk can dissolve you'll always get residue... it isn't coagulation really...", "Instead of stirring by moving the spoon in a circular motion, move it back and forth laterally. It is still not 100% effective, but it helps." ]

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[ "How to stick to my written goals I've tried writing down what I want to do a million times, but I always end up just disregarding it like nothing happened. And trust me, these are things that are important to me, or my lazy behind wouldn't take the time to write them down. So how can I \"switch\" this over in my head to actually get shit done instead of eventually forgetting about it?", "How to stick to my written goals I've tried writing down what I want to do a million times, but I always end up just disregarding it like nothing happened. And trust me, these are things that are important to me, or my lazy behind wouldn't take the time to write them down. So how can I \"switch\" this over in my head to actually get shit done instead of eventually forgetting about it?", "How to stick to my written goals I've tried writing down what I want to do a million times, but I always end up just disregarding it like nothing happened. And trust me, these are things that are important to me, or my lazy behind wouldn't take the time to write them down. So how can I \"switch\" this over in my head to actually get shit done instead of eventually forgetting about it?", "How to stick to my written goals I've tried writing down what I want to do a million times, but I always end up just disregarding it like nothing happened. And trust me, these are things that are important to me, or my lazy behind wouldn't take the time to write them down. So how can I \"switch\" this over in my head to actually get shit done instead of eventually forgetting about it?" ]

[ "Write fewer goals.\n\nWrite smaller goals.\n\nBreak the goal down into component parts\n\nSet a deadline for each component \n\nKeep the list next to your bed so it is the first and last thing you see every day.\n\nWork on the goal at the same time everyday. And work everyday.\n\nIf you miss a day or fail, it is a minor setback, not the end.", "If it's a habit change. Pick one. Do it for the month of may. \nThen pick another for june and stick to one at a time. \nI've changed my habit and been successful every single time with this method, and then I seem to pick up random others along the way.", "Multiple lists ordered by due dates. Paying bills have set deadlines. Doing renovation work has deadlines and must fit in with contractor schedules. Chores too have schedules.\n\nAfter overscheduling myself because I got greedy and overestimated my energy and ability , I ended up feeling burnt out.\n\nNow I just schedule less items and prioritize. Must do, will do, nice to do, icing on the cake.", "Instead of writing down the things you need to do just do them. If you keep making the simple things in life so fucking difficult how will you ever be able to do the difficult things." ]

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[ "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!", "Any tips for someone who is working in his first cubicle? I started a new job recently and am now sitting in a cubicle for approximately eight hours a day, five days a week. Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!" ]

[ "* Bring headphones, keep at work. \n* Keep *healthy* snacks at hand so you don't live on vending machines fare.\n* Dump your pocket change from the day in a tray in your desk because sometimes, vending machines anyway. \n* Keep all the above in a lockable drawer, if provided. Ask for one if it isn't. Not a guaranteed security measure, but it prevents the guy-innocently-whistling-walking-by-while-you're-in-the-can from yoinking your new pink MLP headphones and then acting all indignant when you come looking for 'em. \n* Insist on being given a *good* chair, as the pain of a craptastic seat will drive you towards unproductivity. If your management refuses, hum-haws about budget, or keep sticking you with junk, bring in your own nice chair when you can afford it. Paint it some noticeable, embarrassing color to prevent/postpone thievery. *You're* not going to be looking at it most of the time anyway. Alternately, secret one of those sonic-grenades from ThinkGeek into the arm-rest after the thing is wired to a remote control receiver. When the chair finally *does* go missing, walk around the building hammering on your remote. If you get no results that way, drive around the city on weekends hammering on your remote. You'll find it. Take pictures as the bastard is throwing your chair out and blackmail as needed. \n* Take off your shoes while at the desk, wearing slip-ons to make this as unobtrusive an event as possible. Makes a world of comfort difference. \n* Keep a sweater/light jacket in the cube. Some managers crank up the A/C in a common area and forget about it because they work in an *office* and don't feel the cold in there. \n* Buy a little portable foot heater if your office has concrete floors and you do take your shoes off (and with some shoes, even if you keep them on). Your feet will get cold slowly enough that you'll be miserable without knowing why. Lessons learned here, trust me on this. \n* I assume you're going to be some sort of keyboard/mouse jockey. Therefore, bring your own keyboard & mouse if certain ergonomics are more to your liking (if the office will not spring for them, that is). For a position you're going to be in for eight hours a day, you need to have maximal comfort. \n* If doing a lot of computer work between several apps/documents/windows, insist on multiple monitors, even if you end up getting stuck with two old 19\" tube displays. It's better than relentless window-swapping and cuts down on the clickity-click.\n* Don't get caught browsing bullshit like reddit, at least for the first three months or so, *even if other people around you are doing it*. Personally I just keep that shit at home or portable, etc. If you do feel the need to browse the internet at work (to get your mind off a problem or whatever) try to make sure it's in some way work-related. That way you can say \"Yes, I was getting my mind off <blah> for a few by looking up <blahblah> instead, which is needed for this other task here.\" Magic. \n* If you're stuck in an isolated cube area away from your team (if you have one), make sure you \"do the rounds\" at least once a day, stopping in talk with co-workers on this or that work topic. Ask if there is anything you can do to help them out with assigned tasks, and so on. \n* Stop by your bosses/managers office, even if it's \"time to go\", and ask if there's anything you can do for him/her before you leave for the day. Perhaps give a brief run-down of the work you did that day, and what you're planning to do tomorrow. This lets him/her know you're on the ball, motivated to help out, and that you're not trying to bail early. \n* Type up a \"status report\" of your activities/tasks accomplished for the week, in an email format, and send it to yourself if it's not required/wanted by your manager. This will let you easily look at past accomplishments, plan tasks for the next week, and provide a quick reference when a co-worker asked what you did for <blah> task or during <blahblah> week. Having a record you can instantly pop up and reference makes it easy to throw off question-askers who aren't looking for actual answers but instead ask things to try and throw you off balance. They do exist. The other thing this is great for is piling up a crapload of bullet points and accomplishment blurbs to mine for your next resume. If you treat every status report as a scratch version of a resume bullet point, you'll come up with some gems that will also have the benefit of being backed up by factual details. \n\nThat's all I've got at this hour. Hope they help. \n\n", "If your company doesn't offer an ergonomic evaluation, try and make sure you get set up comfortable as best you can; google for ergonomic tips.\n\nI always have hand sanitizer and a container of Clorox wipes; stuff gets on your desk, people touch your things, and in an office with a lot of workers, germs spread.\n\nIf you're going to be bringing/heating your own lunches, it's helpful to have a little stash of paper plates, napkins, plastic utensils and drink cups. Better than bringing in washable stuff and having it disappear from the break room. Also, having a cheapie hot pad from the dollar store helps when removing microwaved food from the oven. :)\n\nDepending on your environment, you may want to have a battery-operated fan for air circulation/coolness. Many work places don't want you plugging things in to the outlets. Some of my co-workers have USB fans, and most of us charge our phones via USB, but check company rules before plugging things into USBs, even.\n\nIf you're typing a lot, get some kind of stress ball/fidget/hand exerciser to play with off and on during the day. Even with a good keyboard and ergonomic layout, it can make your hands and arms hurt.\n\nI like having a \"rear view mirror\" for my monitor, as people can appear behind you without making a sound.\n\nGet up and walk frequently, or at least stretch at your desk. I am constantly flexing my feet and rolling my ankles when I am not up stretching and walking.\n\nHave a blanket at your desk; those cheap fleece throws can be very handy as a lap blanket, to wrap around your shoulders, or folded up as a comfy chair seat or chair back cushion.\n\nAlso, keep some kind of unscented hand lotion at your desk - oftentimes office air can be very drying.\n\nIn my office, the first aid kit seems to be constantly raided for little things, and they're never there when you need them. Have some band-aids, aspirin, tums, etc.\n\nI have found a cheap sewing kit handy for the occasional wardrobe malfunction. If nothing else, have a few safety pins available.\n\nTide pen or other small stain remover, because it never fails that the day you have to look extra presentable, you've dribbled food or had a leaky pen.\n\nI keep an empty Altoids tin in my (locked) desk drawer with around $10 in bills. In addition to using for vending machine, my office is notorious for \"so and so's relative died, we're collecting for a card/plant\", \"want to chip in on getting a pizza for our team?\" \"surprise BAKESALE!\" and other such things.\n\nI have one of those large bowl/mugs and a small stash of teas, instant oatmeal, microwave popcorn and hot cocoa in my desk. For other foods, find out company rules - I once worked at a place where we were not allowed to keep food at our desk because of ants and roaches (and yes, they had the exterminators there every other week, trying to get rid of them. Awful.)\n\nI'm kind of a \"plan ahead\" person, so I keep a little of everything in my desk drawer, including a small card assortment (thank you notes especially), assorted desk supplies not provided by work (post it flags, paper clamps, three hole punch, etc.), several colors of markers or highlighters, stickers (yes, I'm a girl), scissors, screwdriver, pliers... a bit of everything. And I work in a call center. But they get used! And all the managers know if they need something, to come ask me, so it's gotten me some good attention.", "If you can download stuff onto your computer, f.lux will help with eye strain, and read those computer shortcut pages, they'll help a lot, may I ask what tasks you will be doing for most of the time?", "Has anyone tried those mini stationary bike things that are designed to fit under desks? Do they work well?\n", "You can ask you facilities department about being cold, but please keep in mind that there is often nothing that they can do about it.\n\nI know of several buildings in California that are just cold in the winter because there is no heating at all. \n\nThey were designed back when there was an assumption that there would be about 200 CRTs plugged in keeping the building hot. We used to have to cool the buildings even during the winter.\n\nNow everyone has a LCD monitor and there isn't enough heat being generated on the floor. \n\nBefore you just plug in a space hater, please talk to your facilities department about it. Space heaters are the #1 reason why we blow circuits. If we know about it ahead of time, we often can find a free circuit for a small space heater. ", "I have a betta fish in my cubicle. It makes things feel a bit brighter and more alive. Depending on where you work, this might not be good for your situation.", "Get a Monitor rear-view mirror ([Amazon Link](http://www.amazon.com/Monitor-Rear-View-Mirror-Green/dp/B002TEEW4K)). Especially if you are going to be using headphones.", "Everyday, try to have lunch with a different person from the office. You'll build your network in different departments and even might find new friends.", "Get headphones with large earpieces that wrap around the outside of your ears. Using typical headphones that press on your ears can cause discomfort over a long day.", "Even if not a smoker, pretend to be one so you can walk around outside every few hours. (Actually, my last job was okay with me doing this and knew I wasn't a smoker.) If it is too cold, get some of those fingerless gloves and wear them at your desk.", "My best advice: Buy a copy of the book \"My Time in Hell - Suicide Prevention Tips Gleaned from 8 Years in a Cubicle\"", "Here are a few thoughts:\n \n·         Keep a Gratitude File: This is where you put all the “Thanks!” and “Kudos!” type emails.  Come in handy when it is your review time and you are looking for a little raise bump.\n·         Keep a “360 Feedback” File: It happens every year / 6 months / some regularly scheduled period when you will have to provide feedback on teammates and colleagues.  Jot down here your positive and constructive criticism, such that when you need to do the 360 on them, you are already prepared for what you want to say.\n·         E-mail Organization: Come up with a method to your email madness.  I organize all emails by Project, then module / phase, then into overarching buckets of categories.  You will thank yourself for this.\n·         Task management: I have used Outlook tasks to great success, as well as managing my tasks in Excel.  However lately, I keep all open tasks in my Outlook Inbox, that way they are front and centre and I only have to move an email from my Sent to Inbox to make it into an action I need to follow up on.\n·         Conference Calls: Get yourself a headset for your phone.  I know being on calls for more than 5 minutes and trying to use the PC is not productive at all..although I can do a mean one handed typing job.\n·         Backup your data: Some companies do not have any type of backup scheme in place.  Make sure you back up work daily, whether that means to a network share, USB drive, external harddrive, or in the best of circumstances a knowledge repository, like Sharepoint.  Also make sure you back your PST file in Outlook once a month or so…unless you are one of the lucky ones and have more than 500MB of space on your email server.  I’m currently using SyncToy and a network share to keep my files backed up.\n·         Dropbox it: If your company will allow you, having Dropbox on your PC could be a godsend for many reasons…just saying.\n·         Useful tools: Get yourself Greenshot for screengrabs, NotePad++ for pimped out notes, and remember Sourceforge is your friend to finding tools to help you speed up your manual tasks.\n·         First World Problems: Thank god you are working at a cubicle and not some horrible _________ type of job.  When frustration strikes, go for a quick walk and remind yourself to “not sweat the small stuff”.\n\nApologies for any duplications.", "I strongly recommend the [Career Tools](http://www.manager-tools.com/podcasts/career-tools) podcast. It has tons of great info to help folks just starting out in a professional career." ]

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[ "how to save a relationship that's falling apart I'm sure a lot of people (including me at this point in time) go through the difficulty of realizing they're losing someone they love, and they end up confused and not knowing what to do, or end up make the situation worse. ", "how to save a relationship that's falling apart I'm sure a lot of people (including me at this point in time) go through the difficulty of realizing they're losing someone they love, and they end up confused and not knowing what to do, or end up make the situation worse. ", "how to save a relationship that's falling apart I'm sure a lot of people (including me at this point in time) go through the difficulty of realizing they're losing someone they love, and they end up confused and not knowing what to do, or end up make the situation worse. ", "how to save a relationship that's falling apart I'm sure a lot of people (including me at this point in time) go through the difficulty of realizing they're losing someone they love, and they end up confused and not knowing what to do, or end up make the situation worse. " ]

[ "Recently divorced here, 10 years together, 7 married. \n\nI also \"tried\" to salvage the relationship but in the end found myself as the one that was doing all the work. And it still ended.\n\nAs I am now about a year removed I look back and can see the signs I missed, I was blinded. I am by no means saying I was not part of the problem but I see where I ignored the obvious. Example.\n\nI on no less than 3 occasions mentioned I felt like I was taken for granted. Efforts were made but it returned to the same routine, I missed some red flags. She gave me a day to get things done(not as petty as it seems). About midway through that day her Mom dropped by to swim so I had to discontinue my work efforts. Looking back *she* should have told her Mom \"I gave JB the day to do stuff and it's just not a good time\". Instead she wanted to keep the peace with her Mom, who is difficult at best.\n\nI guess you could say I was a bit of a pushover but it's in my nature to go with the flow. It was taken for granted.\n\nI was blinded to the fact that she is a selfish person. I can see it now, others have told me now that it's over. I don't think it's intentional, she just doesn't recognize that in herself.\n\nYou need to look at why the relationship is not working and see if it is something that can be changed or is it really time to move on. Don't let someone be reckless with your heart. A broken heart will mend but only if you don't allow someone to keep breaking it.\n\n", "Sometimes you have to accept that some great relationships have an end. That doesn't make them less great. ", "In all honesty sometimes you should let it fall apart. If it just isn't working and you're not compatible, then what is the point? It really depends on the circumstance. But if you're trying to fix a relationship then you both need to be on the same wavelength and have total transparency with each other, its not going to work out otherwise.", "**TL;DR: Depends on the relationship and what it is that's causing it to fall apart.**\n\nThere are so many possible reasons, and in a lot of cases, combinations of reasons, that the ways to deal with them are way too long to list here.\n\nAbout the only thing that is common across them all was stated by /u/thr0away8675309 - \n\n> You both have to \"want\" it. If one person already has one foot out the door, there is no saving it.\n\nEven if you both DO want it, you have to target what to do about it by understanding why it's failing in the first place.\n\nAny insight you can share for your specific case, OP?" ]

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[ "How to maintain that just-opened texture of ice cream I just love the creamy soft texture of ice cream fresh off the shelf, but after it spends a few days in the freezer it's just never the same. Is there a difference in storage temperature? ", "How to maintain that just-opened texture of ice cream I just love the creamy soft texture of ice cream fresh off the shelf, but after it spends a few days in the freezer it's just never the same. Is there a difference in storage temperature? ", "How to maintain that just-opened texture of ice cream I just love the creamy soft texture of ice cream fresh off the shelf, but after it spends a few days in the freezer it's just never the same. Is there a difference in storage temperature? ", "How to maintain that just-opened texture of ice cream I just love the creamy soft texture of ice cream fresh off the shelf, but after it spends a few days in the freezer it's just never the same. Is there a difference in storage temperature? ", "How to maintain that just-opened texture of ice cream I just love the creamy soft texture of ice cream fresh off the shelf, but after it spends a few days in the freezer it's just never the same. Is there a difference in storage temperature? " ]

[ "The texture has everything to do with the size of the ice crystals and freezing/thawing. Avoid changes in temperature and large swings in humidity. It can also be thawed out and re frozen in an ice cream maker if you need to reset the ice crystals. ", "It's actually really simple, when you put the ice cream back in the freezer, turn the tub upside down!", "What I do is add 10-15 mL of milk (for a scoop or two) and whip it with a spoon or fork in a bowl. It will be the same consistency as a soft serve ice-cream, it just takes a little time.", "To keep ice cream fresh like that I've always tied it up in a plastic grocery bag. That'll keep it well. ", "Eat it all in one sitting. You will feel so guilty when you are done that you won't buy anymore for a year." ]

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[ "How to strengthen the bending point of a cord or wire? My laptop charger always bends at the point after the charge box and through wear and tear it ends up breaking and the cord won't work to charge my laptop. Same thing happens with my headphones. What should I do to strengthen this area while still maintaining a sense that i haven't bombarded it with duct tape? ", "How to strengthen the bending point of a cord or wire? My laptop charger always bends at the point after the charge box and through wear and tear it ends up breaking and the cord won't work to charge my laptop. Same thing happens with my headphones. What should I do to strengthen this area while still maintaining a sense that i haven't bombarded it with duct tape? ", "How to strengthen the bending point of a cord or wire? My laptop charger always bends at the point after the charge box and through wear and tear it ends up breaking and the cord won't work to charge my laptop. Same thing happens with my headphones. What should I do to strengthen this area while still maintaining a sense that i haven't bombarded it with duct tape? " ]

[ "People always say use a spring but I find that impractical for the most part, I wrap my vulnerable cord areas very tightly (as tightly as possible) with electrical tape. It provides the necessary support. You can get the tape in multiple colors.", "If possible, the best way is to put a spring around that part. This ensures that the cord never makes a very sharp bend, thus never breaking due to a too-sharp bend in the cord. This is often seen on instrument cables, and is actually the same principle as the flexible plastic end on the plug of your headphones.\n\nUnfortunately, there's no real way to do this for pre-manufactured cables unless you want to take them apart and reassemble them (which is not always possible). You could try bending a thin iron wire around it, but that's probable less effective and uglier than duct tape.", "Use two zip ties, wrapped around a pop-sickle stick, or paper clip, or pen cap, or anything of the length that you want. I used a small metal bolt with two zip ties to strengthen the connection on my laptop power cord. Been going strong for 3+ years now. " ]

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[ "How to tell a colleague to hurry up? Hi, \n\nI work in a supermarket mainly doing food/stock replenishment. Sometimes I am asked to lead/run my section, mainly when my line managers are not there. When running you just tell people what to do and when to do it.\n\nOften people work slowly because our manager is not there, however we all get out at the same time (mostly) and people can't seem to make the connection that if we don't get everything done on time we simply leave later. It's even worse when somebodies shift ends and they can go home.\n\nI am just wondering how to politely tell people to Hurry-TFU?\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to tell a colleague to hurry up? Hi, \n\nI work in a supermarket mainly doing food/stock replenishment. Sometimes I am asked to lead/run my section, mainly when my line managers are not there. When running you just tell people what to do and when to do it.\n\nOften people work slowly because our manager is not there, however we all get out at the same time (mostly) and people can't seem to make the connection that if we don't get everything done on time we simply leave later. It's even worse when somebodies shift ends and they can go home.\n\nI am just wondering how to politely tell people to Hurry-TFU?\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "You can try doing the 'teamwork' method.\n\nYou just state that if everyone does their job, you can all go home on time.\n\nThen you go around and tell everyone who does their work without a motivational speech that they are all good.\n\nWhen I was a coach, I would alternate between motivational speeches and yelling at people. But either way, I would broadcast. Never yell at one person. \n\nBut then go to the people who were already doing what they were doing, and say, \"Your ok. Keep doing what you are doing.\"", "> and people can't seem to make the connection that if we don't get everything done on time we simply leave later.\n\n\nNext time , bring this up at the beginning of your shift(assuming you have a daily morning quick meet up. If not send an email). Something to the effect of:\n\n*\"Hey folks, last time was bit of a long day. Let's try to go home on time today please. Thanks!\"*" ]

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[ "keeping excess backpack straps out of the way I like my backpack straps fairly tight (I like my bag to be up on my back, not just hanging on my shoulders). But the excess straps are always loose and in the way. What's a nice, neat way to bundle them up or get them out of the way? I'm using rubber bands right now, but I want something cleaner. ", "keeping excess backpack straps out of the way I like my backpack straps fairly tight (I like my bag to be up on my back, not just hanging on my shoulders). But the excess straps are always loose and in the way. What's a nice, neat way to bundle them up or get them out of the way? I'm using rubber bands right now, but I want something cleaner. " ]

[ "When I was in the army we just taped them up. Then again we taped pretty much everything up \nFind some electrician tape of the same colour and you're all set ", "Question you have to ask yourself. Do you ever think you'll need the extra? If not just cut it off to a length where you can loosen it a few inches or so and burn the ends so they don't fray.\n" ]

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[ "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract.", "How to cancel mobile contact without Early Termination Fee? What can I do to make my carrier waive the ETF on my contract? The service is horrible and internet is so slow that's it's practically unusable. I'm even willing to give them my phones back. I'm a year into my contract and it's too late for a return. The service wasn't this bad when I started the contract." ]

[ "I was 4 months into my two year contract when I moved house. I didn't have Internet set up at my new place, so was surviving on my phones Internet. Same problems as you - slow and unusable. \n\nI called them up, asked/demanded to speak to the retentions department and told them the problem. They offered two free months and I said 'like hell', and further demanded I be allowed to terminate the contract without the ETF. The service they had promised me was not what I was getting, and it was their fault. 'Breach of contract' may have been uttered by me. Just have confidence on the phone. No need to yell, but be firm and don't accept any of their terms. Be prepared to be on the phone for anywhere up to two hours. In the end, it's worth not paying the ETF. \n\nGood luck", "I got Verizon to waive mine because their coverage map lied. We had terrible signal, so they came out to investigate and said that the lake near our house was blocking the signal. I had to ask for the fees to be waived, so maybe you could try that if your coverage is bad.", "Look for a price change in your contract, they have to allow you to cancel without a fee. It should be in your contacts terms and conditions, it is usually located under their ability to make changes without notice. Make sure to look at the section about surcharges, wiki cancel should be able to explain it more clearly. ", "I used to work for Telstra, which is an Australian phone company. If someone called up and said their relative died, we would terminate the contract no questions asked. They can't really make you prove it, it's pretty insensitive. ", "Military personnel on active deployment can have the ETF waived. If you move to outside their coverage area, you're eligible for an ETF waiver.\n\n If your home has poor coverage, call and escalate to a supervisor if you have to, but get them to send techs out there. If they find the coverage is poor, you'll be eligible for ETF waiver. Or maybe they'll just fix the coverage issue. Either way, problem solved. ", "You could transfer your number to someone else who still has Verizon or who wants to have Verizon. You don't get an ETF for that, and the new person would essentially take over the contract, if I recall correctly. \n\nIt's called a \"Transfer of Billing Responsibility.\" At least, that's what AT&T called it.", "There's honestly not much. There was a time when you could Hey out if you sent them a utility bill for an area you didnt have coverage in to prove you lived there, but honestly now it's either only if you die or if you're deployed. There might be a rep willing to make an exception for your situation, just plead your case. I'd suggest being super polite. That goes farther than you think. ", "Sometimes when you switch to a new company, the new one will help you out. Husband had Verizon before we got together, & switched to my Sprint plan. Sprint discounted our set-up fees for a new line, & waived the fee to transfer the number over if I remember. I know AT&T & T-Mobile usually can't do something like this though. As for Verizon... probably not, but I'm biased against them.", "Not sure if this would work with AT&T or not, but my brother was with Sprint a few years back and had absolute shit signal/coverage after he moved. at this point, he was eligible for a phone upgrade, he upgraded all the lines/phones on his account and then before the 15 days were up, returned the phones and cancelled his account without a ETF\n\nEvidently, when they upgraded his lines, they also started a brand new contract and since he was within 15 days of that contract, he walked away.\n\nA Verizon rep coached him on it.\n\nYMMV\n\n\nPersonally, I would call and not let them off the line until they agreed to send a tech to your home to verify the signal loss/issue. if they cant fixed the problem, they should waive that ETF.\n", "I know at AT&T you can mention that you talked to a store representative and they had said that customer support will take care of the whole bill for you then they will swipe the bill from everything and not charge you but I don't know about getting the service terminated " ]

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[ "What are fast/easy ways to cool off towels that just came out of the dryer if you want to use them almost immediatly? ", "What are fast/easy ways to cool off towels that just came out of the dryer if you want to use them almost immediatly? ", "What are fast/easy ways to cool off towels that just came out of the dryer if you want to use them almost immediatly? " ]

[ "What? Are you living in the tropics or the desert or something? Most humans love fresh out of the dryer towels, are you certain that you're human?", "Do you only have one towel, that you wash daily and only dry while you're in the bath/shower? Take it out of the dryer before you get in the bath and put it on a towel rack? I'm so confused by this request.", "I mean. There are literally heated towel racks, but no towel cooling racks. I feel like there’s a reason for that." ]

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[ "[Guidance please] Tips to manage team members I am in a non-managerial position and am asked to lead a project with team members across functions. Lately, one of the team members is not keeping to schedule, which has caused the launch to delay. I have spoken to that team member multiple times, and often, the person will promise and still deliver nothing. I have even given a deadline, but he ignored it. I've even used the group president’s name, and it still won't work.\n\nI have escalated it to my supervisor and shared that it will be tough for me to take over the task as I am not the subject matter expert. \n\nUnder such a situation, how would you manage the team member? Am I not being assertive enough?", "[Guidance please] Tips to manage team members I am in a non-managerial position and am asked to lead a project with team members across functions. Lately, one of the team members is not keeping to schedule, which has caused the launch to delay. I have spoken to that team member multiple times, and often, the person will promise and still deliver nothing. I have even given a deadline, but he ignored it. I've even used the group president’s name, and it still won't work.\n\nI have escalated it to my supervisor and shared that it will be tough for me to take over the task as I am not the subject matter expert. \n\nUnder such a situation, how would you manage the team member? Am I not being assertive enough?", "[Guidance please] Tips to manage team members I am in a non-managerial position and am asked to lead a project with team members across functions. Lately, one of the team members is not keeping to schedule, which has caused the launch to delay. I have spoken to that team member multiple times, and often, the person will promise and still deliver nothing. I have even given a deadline, but he ignored it. I've even used the group president’s name, and it still won't work.\n\nI have escalated it to my supervisor and shared that it will be tough for me to take over the task as I am not the subject matter expert. \n\nUnder such a situation, how would you manage the team member? Am I not being assertive enough?", "[Guidance please] Tips to manage team members I am in a non-managerial position and am asked to lead a project with team members across functions. Lately, one of the team members is not keeping to schedule, which has caused the launch to delay. I have spoken to that team member multiple times, and often, the person will promise and still deliver nothing. I have even given a deadline, but he ignored it. I've even used the group president’s name, and it still won't work.\n\nI have escalated it to my supervisor and shared that it will be tough for me to take over the task as I am not the subject matter expert. \n\nUnder such a situation, how would you manage the team member? Am I not being assertive enough?" ]

[ "I am of the school of thought that procrastination is due to someone being unsure of how to begin. In addition, missing deadlines can be due to someone being too much of a perfectionist and not knowing when to say something is \"good enough.\"\n\nSo, my advice is to have some empathy, and to check in with the person. Sit with them. Ask them gently what's going on, listen without judgement, and ask open ended questions to help them process whatever issue they're stuck on. \n\nEg. \"Seems like you need X to complete Y. What about doing Z?\"\n\nPS: you might not officially be a manager, but everyone in an organisation is responsible for managing each other, in a way. You can show leadership by simply listening and facilitating.", "I Schedule one on ones to ask them 1st how they are doing, 2nd where they are at with the workload, 3rd if there is a barrier? 4th address barrier(s) and pull in their direct leadership. If you need more/different people due to unfixable barriers go to your leader who assigned this to you and ask them to assist with allocating the necessary resources.", "Have you asked them about the reason for their delay? I would grill them until they explained. \n\nMaybe they're in over their head and cannot accomplish the task.\n\nOr they may be deliberately dragging their feet. \n\nInterrogation?", "Is there a possibility of dividing the main tasks into smaller parts, and then discuss with the member how far a long he is on those separate tasks? and perhaps positively reenforce him about his progress?\n\nMost people need a carrot instead of stick, and there are some who just need larger sticks or larger carrots :(" ]

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[ " Protect toilet paper from cat Our cat rips up toilet paper, if you put it on the roll. We know to look for it in a nearby drawer, but guests don't always know this. What can we try?", " Protect toilet paper from cat Our cat rips up toilet paper, if you put it on the roll. We know to look for it in a nearby drawer, but guests don't always know this. What can we try?", " Protect toilet paper from cat Our cat rips up toilet paper, if you put it on the roll. We know to look for it in a nearby drawer, but guests don't always know this. What can we try?" ]

[ "Try putting a large clothespin in so that the roll doesn't spin.\n\nYou could put it in between the roll and the holder, or in the roll if it's not attached to the wall.", "My mum's cat also has the same problem - if he is able to see the \"loose end\" of the toilet paper. She got something like [this](http://www.yorkshiredesignassociates.co.uk/acatalog/chartley-onyx-toilet-roll-holder-315px.jpg), making sure the loose end was under the metal. She got hers for under $20.\n\nIf your cat would still go for the entire toilet roll, you could makeshift something like a tiny cupboard attached to the wall where the toilet paper would usually be. If the front was transparent it would be more obvious for guests.", ">We know to look for it in a nearby drawer, but guests don't always know this.\n\nWhy don't you tell the guests? Or put a sign on the drawer that says \"Toilet Paper\". Unless your guests are illiterate (in which case they shouldn't be your guests), they'll open the drawer and find the toilet paper." ]

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[ "How to secure battery compartments from small kids? There are audio/visual equipment remotes and some toys that don't have a secure battery compartment, and batteries are really bad for kids to ingest: https://www.choice.com.au/buttonbatteries\n\nI've contemplated hot glue or maybe zip ties or something - is there any great way to stop kids getting access to batteries, beyond the obvious stuff like keeping these things out of reach?\n\nThanks, all advice appreciated.", "How to secure battery compartments from small kids? There are audio/visual equipment remotes and some toys that don't have a secure battery compartment, and batteries are really bad for kids to ingest: https://www.choice.com.au/buttonbatteries\n\nI've contemplated hot glue or maybe zip ties or something - is there any great way to stop kids getting access to batteries, beyond the obvious stuff like keeping these things out of reach?\n\nThanks, all advice appreciated." ]

[ "Shoe Goo. A little dab holds things tightly. Shoe goo remains flexible so when it is time to remove it, just use a pair of pliers, grab near the edge and pull gently. It usually comes off on one piece and leaves no residue. Don't use hot glue because it is a pain to remove and you'll never get it all off. Shoe goo is the right balance of too hard for a child to remove while not to hard for an adult to remove.\n\nAnother great use is to fix knobs on place. My two year old kept turning the water heater knob all the way up or down: neither's good and to hot is dangerous. I put a small dab from the knob to the bezel and that stopped the unwanted adjustments.", "Gorilla tape is strong as shit. Our recliner's arm was wobbling off due to being leaned on. I couldn't get a good angle to nail it so I used a roll of gorilla clear tape. Just leave a small portion up so you can peel it off when you have to change the batteries. And we keep all of our stuff out of reach. (sorry I had to lol)" ]

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[ "Moving to a new state I live in a small city in Ohio and have for most of my life. I just left an abusive relationship and graduated college with a finance degree so starting over in a new city sounds really exciting to me. I want to move to Chicago because it's not too far away from where I am and the potential finance jobs. I don't have any finance experience yet. I have worked mostly retail/customer service jobs. I want to set a goal to move there one year from today. I also don't have a car and two animals. I want to save up $6,000 before the move. Do you have any tips for me to make this happen? \n\nSuggestions of cities I should move to are encouraged!", "Moving to a new state I live in a small city in Ohio and have for most of my life. I just left an abusive relationship and graduated college with a finance degree so starting over in a new city sounds really exciting to me. I want to move to Chicago because it's not too far away from where I am and the potential finance jobs. I don't have any finance experience yet. I have worked mostly retail/customer service jobs. I want to set a goal to move there one year from today. I also don't have a car and two animals. I want to save up $6,000 before the move. Do you have any tips for me to make this happen? \n\nSuggestions of cities I should move to are encouraged!", "Moving to a new state I live in a small city in Ohio and have for most of my life. I just left an abusive relationship and graduated college with a finance degree so starting over in a new city sounds really exciting to me. I want to move to Chicago because it's not too far away from where I am and the potential finance jobs. I don't have any finance experience yet. I have worked mostly retail/customer service jobs. I want to set a goal to move there one year from today. I also don't have a car and two animals. I want to save up $6,000 before the move. Do you have any tips for me to make this happen? \n\nSuggestions of cities I should move to are encouraged!" ]

[ "Kudos for making positive and exciting life changes! If you can leave your 2 animals in Ohio, moving anywhere becomes a whole lot easier. With a finance degree, you can pretty much get a job anywhere, so don't limit yourself to Chicago only. I lived in NYC in my 20s and it was awesome! You can get a finance job there relatively easy since the economy is doing pretty well at the moment, so maybe put yourself in a little cr", "If you were set on keeping your animals, I would move to one of the \"rural suburbs\" like DeKalb or something. If you could part with the animals, you could find a decent place to live closer to the city and get a roomie or something. Your chances of finding a decent place to live with pets close to Chicago is pretty low. \n\nThe problem is, decent places to live that will allow animals are further away from the city in which a car would be needed. Places close to the city where a car isn't needed but allowing of pets is going to be tough to find... unless you want to live in a ghetto.", "I would start looking for doctors, dentists, etc in the area you will want to transfer to. 1. So you don’t need to look for them when you’re really sick or your crown fell out. 2. So you can request your file from you current dr to give to your new doctor. 3. So you can make sure they take your insurance" ]

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[ "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n", "I’m about to move out for the first time in my life, please give me tips ! Hello to all! I have finally made the decision to move out of my parents house and into an apartment with my girlfriend. I wanted to turn to Reddit and ask - what are some things I should know or do as a first time tenant ? Any tips that you wish you had when you first started renting ? Any and all advice welcome!\n\n" ]

[ "Just some general advice on moving into new apartments - not ordered just in the order in which it popped into my head\n\n1) \n**take a photo** of EACH and EVERY wall and thing (e.g. stove, bathtub) you receive at the beginning of your lease. store the pictures somewhere with a timeprint. this is not only to find out if scratches and bruises are old but also to answer some questions such as \"what was behind that cabinet\"?\n\n2) \n**change all locks** before moving anything into the new apartment. Usually you can change them on your own, but you should check your lease if you have to get it approved by your landlord\n\n3) \n**Moving is the best time to get rid of stuff**. Sort out everything you havent touched within the last 12 months and which does not any significant emotional value to you. Old drawer with various old stuff? Goodbye.\n\n4) \n**Pack an \"open this box first\" box**. This should include at least one full set of clothes, hygiene products, all documents related to your new apartment, a bit cash (enough to order food at least once), screwdrivers, a roll of painters tape, a disposable knife, a roll of trash bags, chargers for **all** your electronic devices and a sleeping bag / your bedding\n\n5) \nLook for **a way to bring all the heavy stuff into your apartment** before arriving onsite with everything. Is there a good place for parking somewhere nearby? Can it be reserved by the city? Do you need a key for the elevator to block the doors from closing repeatedly? Just walk the path once and have an open mind.\n\n6) \nOn the **moving day** you are responsible for the **happiness of all of your helpers**. Either friends, family or guys you pay for moving your stuff. They all carry all of your posessions and you want them doing a good job. So bring drinks (e.g. **water**, coffee, lemonade) and some **light, non-sticky snacks** (e.g. pretzelsticks) and be prepared to offer a larger meal at the end of the day.\n\nI cant say anything about the bureaucracy of moving as I am from germany and unfamiliar with the attached bureaucracy in other countries. But a quick google \"how to register in city XYZ\" should do the trick", "Make note of EVERY defect in your apartment before you move in. Take pictures, and send it to your landlord, get a read receipt or have some other confirmation they know of the problems... Cracked kitchen tile, low water pressure, wobbly toilet, hole in the window screen, everything! Test every outlet, and the smoke alarm. Anything you can do to save yourself headaches at move-out will be worth the effort. Get any denials or approvals in writing.", "Stock a cupboard well in the kitchen with the extras. \n\nSeasonings, herbs, oils, sauces. \n\nRice, pasta. \n\nQuick meals and long expiration dates. \n\nEnjoy the freedom", "Make a spreadsheet for bills. Know the EXACT total for each month. Utilities, rent, groceries, phone, internet, streaming services, etc. Keep your expenses as low as possible while getting established in life. Little expenses add up quick: When I was a bartender I saw folks drop $20 a day ($600/month) for food/drinks while complaining that they couldn't afford a car, or a better apartment, while literally pissing away money every day.", "Take pictures of the place before you move in (and after you move out) so they don’t try to say you broke something and take it out of your security. \n\nGet everything in writing. A simple text or email confirming what was said or have them add it to your lease and both parties initial. You’ll both be on the same page and you’ll protect yourself if they deny they said something down the line.", "Trash cans and bags. Have a trash can bags in every room to avoid building up trash on counters etc. \nBuy small table and a nice large porcelain or glass bowl to keep near the entrance. This is where you will empty your pockets when you come home, if not you will have a table or counter full of loose change, keys and random shit.", "Eliminate the most useless chore in the world:\n\nStep 1: Declare that you are the only person allowed to own black socks. \n\nStep 2: Throw away all your socks and buy 20 pairs of the same black socks. \n\nStep 3: Never. Match. Or. Bundle. Socks. Ever. Again. \n\nDisaster tips:\n\nLabel your electrical switches on the fuse box. Keep a flashlight near fuse box. Know where your water main is. Own a plunger. Get telephone numbers of all units surrounding yours. Keep a key outside the house. Own or demand smoke and carbon alarms and a fire extinguisher. \n\nCooking:\n\nHere's how you make pasta sauce stick to your pasta:\n\nBefore straining your pasta you take a few spoons of water out of the pasta pan and drop it in the sauce, stir and put the fire on high for a bit while stirring. The starch in that water will make the sauce stick to your pasta.\n\nNot having arguments:\n\nOwn a dishwasher and never walk to your kitchen without taking dirty stuff there.", "Be 100% sure you like the place you are moving in to. I've moved into places then found out you can hear everything in the adjacent apartments. It has happened more than once...", "If you are having neighbors it might be nice depending on your local customs to say hello. Those folks around you could also help you understand the surrounding, where everything is etc.", "Here's a simple one that I've heard. Go to dollar tree or somewhere you can buy some small nightlights. While doing an initial tour/first day moved in, take that nightlight and plug it into every single outlet to make sure they get power. It's easier to have it corrected or change to another unit before you're settled in, and a nightlight is something that you can carry easily and get pretty quick verification that the outlet works.", "Buy a plunger before you need one.\n\nEmpty your garbage every week whether the bin is full or not. Bad smells and maggots are never welcome.\n\nClean your fridge out regularly, I can guarantee there will always be something you forgot to eat or throw away in the back hidden.\n\nPlan your meals for the week and avoid shopping while hungry. Leftovers are great and they don't deserve their bad reputation.\n\nCommunicate with your housemate and don't let petty annoyances build into resentment. Also, don't fall into the trap of 'I did X so they should do Y', if you have the time and energy just get the chores done, unless someone is doing literally nothing it's not a huge deal." ]

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[ "How to keep sunscreen from bothering eyes I'm a forehead sweater, and every time I wear sunscreen, it runs into my eyes. Are there specific kinds of sunscreens that run less or that won't bother eyes? Something else?", "How to keep sunscreen from bothering eyes I'm a forehead sweater, and every time I wear sunscreen, it runs into my eyes. Are there specific kinds of sunscreens that run less or that won't bother eyes? Something else?" ]

[ "Try an eye cream with sunblock. Stuff that is intended to go near your eyes tends to be more mild, it will still sting but not as much. ", "Ouch! I know the feeling. I've found that sunscreen stick works for my face. I've never had a problem with it and I sweat like a pig. :)" ]

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[ "How to write a good paper I write a lot of papers for classes in college that are just 3 page wastes and they're hit or miss with grades. Sometimes I get a 100, sometimes I get an 80. A lot of the papers are \"3 point\" papers that are supposed to be planned like a 5 paragraph essay and then you talk a little more about each point so you're not counting paragraphs.\n\nIs there any way I can do these papers quicker/easier/better? Some sort of organizational structure is what I'm looking for. Point 1 should be \"blah\", point 2 should be \"blah\", etc. And then how you would tie all that together. But in a productive way.\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to write a good paper I write a lot of papers for classes in college that are just 3 page wastes and they're hit or miss with grades. Sometimes I get a 100, sometimes I get an 80. A lot of the papers are \"3 point\" papers that are supposed to be planned like a 5 paragraph essay and then you talk a little more about each point so you're not counting paragraphs.\n\nIs there any way I can do these papers quicker/easier/better? Some sort of organizational structure is what I'm looking for. Point 1 should be \"blah\", point 2 should be \"blah\", etc. And then how you would tie all that together. But in a productive way.\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to write a good paper I write a lot of papers for classes in college that are just 3 page wastes and they're hit or miss with grades. Sometimes I get a 100, sometimes I get an 80. A lot of the papers are \"3 point\" papers that are supposed to be planned like a 5 paragraph essay and then you talk a little more about each point so you're not counting paragraphs.\n\nIs there any way I can do these papers quicker/easier/better? Some sort of organizational structure is what I'm looking for. Point 1 should be \"blah\", point 2 should be \"blah\", etc. And then how you would tie all that together. But in a productive way.\n\nThanks in advance.", "How to write a good paper I write a lot of papers for classes in college that are just 3 page wastes and they're hit or miss with grades. Sometimes I get a 100, sometimes I get an 80. A lot of the papers are \"3 point\" papers that are supposed to be planned like a 5 paragraph essay and then you talk a little more about each point so you're not counting paragraphs.\n\nIs there any way I can do these papers quicker/easier/better? Some sort of organizational structure is what I'm looking for. Point 1 should be \"blah\", point 2 should be \"blah\", etc. And then how you would tie all that together. But in a productive way.\n\nThanks in advance." ]

[ "I struggled with this for so long. \nThis is the best advice I can give you;\nJust WRITE. Don't filter, don't correct spelling, write EVERYthing down. If your mind starts to wander, keep writing, put it in, I know it sounds ridiculous but just trust me. When you get to the end, or a good stopping point, WALK AWAY. \nDON'T look at it straight away, go take a walk, have a glass of water, do push-ups. \nDON'T get on Reddit, 4chan, Facebook, etc. \nWalk away from your computer completely. \nThen, later, go back and ", "The point of an essay is to explain your viewpoint and then back it up with facts. Most of the time you pick a topic that you agree with and therefore in your head you already agree. Try writing in such a way that a person holding the opposite view would read your paper and be swayed to your viewpoint. To clarify, start with your assertion, then use the 3 bodies to explain why and provide factual evidence and citation, conclude by saying for all these reasons, my assertion is correct. \n\nMaybe not the step by step you are going for, but it sometimes helps to step back from an issue and get a broader perspective. And if you are already getting 80-100% it seems like you get the idea. Most of the time the teacher doesn't care WHAT you are saying, as long as you demonstrate that you can back it up. ", "The [Jane Schaffer method](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schaffer_paragraph) is a format that many people learned (and hated) in high school. It's taught because it pretty much forces a coherent essay out of you. If you're looking for a simple formula to pump out essays without having to think much, this is about as simple as it gets.", "Opening paragraph: general statement about topic, more specific sentence, more specific sentence, Thesis sentence here, sentence laying out the three points you will make to support the statement. \nParagraph 1: support point 1. \nParagraph 2: support point two. \nParagraph 3: support point three. \nClosing paragraph: opposite of opening paragraph. Re-state thesis, start specific, end general. \n\nArtless and generally boring but a great format to have down for throwaway essays and essay tests." ]

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[ "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?", "How can I develop and strengthen my self-discipline? There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. Try though I might, I'm not there yet.\n\nI constantly wind up deferring to simpler, easier tasks and giving in to my distractions (e.g. Redditing when I was sitting down to read). I want and need to develop my self-discipline so I might achieve greater things.\n\nSo, type-As and high achievers: what helps you move past lesser moments and stay on course? Any tips on ignoring distractions?" ]

[ "2 cents here\n\nStop trying to 'convince' yourself to do the things you need to do. Pretend you are dealing with an obstinate child. Instead of having a conversation in your head or whatever just DO the thing. Just make a decision to do it, and force yourself to focus on that thing only. Ignore the whiny voice telling you to go to youtube, or reddit, or watch another episode first. For larger goals, split it up into manageable 'bite size' goals. You will feel great every time you take a step in the right direction, and soon, you won't have to think about it so much as it will become habit.\n\nThe thing about willpower is that you have EXACTLY as much as you think you have.", "You need to turn what you want to do into a habit so that you aren't using up as much self-discipline to do it. I don't feel like finding it but there is research which shows discipline as a finite resource (you end up burnt out when you use it all.)", "Think about why you do the things you do. Why do you read? Why do you reddit? Sounds to me like you reddit for entertainment, and read a book because it's \"reading a book\" (to you its superior). If the latter is superior in your mind, then why is it easier to reddit? Distractions are only distractions when they are more interesting than the task at hand. And if something is more interesting than what you're doing now, why are you wasting time?\n\nYou probably have an idea of what kind of man you'd like to be. Becoming that man is not some sort of reward at the end of a long and arduous road. You will not wake up one day with all tasks completed, earning the achievement \"The Man You Wanted to Be\". Reading a book does nothing unless you're completely invested in it; same goes for everything else. You can't just do all these things you think you're supposed to do and then wake up changed one morning. Life isn't a movie montage. The only way to be the man you want to be is to be that man, plain and simple.\n\nThe best part about it is that being that man is as easy as being you, it's a conscious decision you make in your mind, no authority makes you who you want to be and no one decides who you are except you. The worst part about it is that being that man is as hard as being you. So you must be clear on who you want to be and what you want to do. (That is why you are your own best feedback loop for your behaviour: What am I doing right now? Is it something I would do?) Probably best that you adopt a personal honor code, it's much easier to check your behavior against strict rules you have set yourself for the start, later on it will be natural. Not saying it should be honor like duels, and chivalry and all that, but rules for yourself. Rules which if you break you feel you let yourself down. Rules which mean something because you made them and decided to live by them, and then you betrayed yourself. Trust me, might sound weird, but you're your own best trainer/boss/partner/friend/companion.\n\nDiscipline is easy when you realize people do things because that's who they are. A man runs into a burning building to save another because that's just who he is. Out of a crowd of 50 only one man stoops down to help the old lady with the groceries, he doesn't do it for approval, he doesn't know those people, *that's just who he is*. A bodybuilder spends hours in the gym every day, not because he's after something, but because that's who he is.\n\nNow think about what you want to achieve in your life. Why do you want to be the man you want to be? If you are a writer, don't spend ten hours in the gym and one hour in the library. Are you the sort of man who finds enjoyment in a book, or on reddit? Do you run five miles every day, or do you run one mile three times a week? What I'm saying is in every part of your life be who you want to be. Do you want to eat healthier? But bbq and baked potatoes and bacon are delicious and you decide to eat that, then you *don't* want to eat healthier. You do what you want, no one is controlling your actions but yourself.\n\nFinally onto my point where I hopefully wrap up that mess up there. I'm trying to tell you that if you think of some moments as \"lesser\" and then choose to do them, then you're just insulting yourself. That's not going to help you. If there are \"greater\" moments, then if you are a \"great\" man, by definition you should be in those moments. \n\ntl;dr: **\"Great man\" isn't a badge you earn; there are only men, we perceive them as great because of the things they do. Now think of the things you perceive as great and do them.**", "Steve Pavlina has a whole bunch of articles about self discipline: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/06/self-discipline/", "I just read a book called Start by Jon Acuff that I took away.\n\nIn the book he talked about will power being full when you wake up, and as the day progresses you use up your will power. So if you use all your will power at work, when you get home you're spent and don't want to do anything. Hence use your will power carefully on the things you want to change about yourself. It's helped me.", "When I'm actually performing at top class, it's from following a few rules. \n* Inertia is your friend. It is far easier to keep doing something than to start doing something. When I'm working it tends to be about 10hrs min. \n \n* if you don't do it now, you won't do it ever, and that goes for everyone else too. People procrastinate if it isn't something they want to do, and often even when it is. Assume you will as well. \n \n* Enjoy what you do, be prepared to keep doing it long after you stop enjoying it. Work will be work, but if you're burn'd out now, you won't be later. Unless you chose poorly, of course. \n \n* Skills go farther than stats. \n \n* Question if something that comes up is really worth your time. I've been able to dismiss alot of distractions by realizing that it might be interesting, but I don't honestly care. \n \n* Have short term and long term goals that are well spaced and accomplishable. \n \n", "Try some time management strategies. I was a fan of this one when I was studying for boards [link](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique). If you want a hobby that helps to teach patients try wine making. Better off forgetting you make it and rediscover it :)", "I thought that I was disciplined as a teenager, having gone through school with good grades and had been (some what) successful in my sport. Then I did my service, and that's where I learned what discipline *really* is.\n\nThe army is very successful in this field and there's no big secret behind it. They treat you like an animal, and you need to start treating yourself like an animal. This should not be interpreted as treating yourself like shit, it's all about rewards and punishment. Think of how'd you train a dog, it's the same thing.\n\nYou have a task to do, acknowledge it and set a time frame. Decide on a reward if you finish it within the time frame and a punishment if you don't. It could be something simple like doing the dishes, say you'll do them before the evening news. And if you do, reward yourself with something. It doesn't have to be big, it's about the psychological effect not the actual reward. A cup of tea might be enough.\n\nThere's nothing I loath more than bananas, they're awful in every single way. The texture makes me vomit, it's like eating a turd, the taste is disgusting to the point of being inhumane and the worst part is the more you chew it the more it grows in your mouth, there's no end to the horror! Despite this, I've competed in idiotic tasks just to win a fucking banana. I never wanted the banana, it didn't matter to me at all, I'd just end up giving it away anyhow, but I wanted the reward! More importantly, I didn't want to be without a reward if someone else got one! It' really is all about the psychological effect!\n\nSo figure out something for yourself in terms of rewards, and stick to your decision not to have any if you fail.\n\nIn terms of punishment, it can be as simple as a lack of a reward or something more. In the beginning though keep it simple, passive rewards are better as you don't have have to discipline yourself into doing the punishment. A simple I didn't do that so I can't do this is a lot better.\n\nAnd as with any other type of practise, start small. Start with things you're already pretty good at doing just to get into the mindset of assigning yourself a task and then either rewarding or punishing yourself.", "There is an excellent book called [The Willpower Instinct](http://www.amazon.com/The-Willpower-Instinct-Self-Control-Matters/dp/1583334386). It's a very scientific treatment of where our self control comes from, but it's blended quite well with personal experiences from people who took the course from the author. There are certain things you can do to improve your capacity for good decision making. The simplest ones to me were m", "Start small and increment over time. Sadly there is no single magic way to do it. \nSet a goal like I will take out the trash at a certain time or I'll fold all my laundry before putting them away. \nThen work up to tasks that have more steps and a longer duration. Like go read that book you wanted or plan a small project you want to build. ", "My own personal method right here; count down from 5 and do the job/chore as soon as you finish counting down. Although I said job/chore you really should start off with easy things. When you count down you must do the 'behaviour' every time! Getting into the habit of doing everytime will help you when you count down to bigger, more difficult jobs that require more discipline", "More of a tip/hack: Get [Pocket](http://getpocket.com/) or similar app. When surfing sites just pocket it, read/check it out later on your iPad (when you get to bed or living room). This way to can know you'll consume that content later and right now you can get back to work.", "M", "M", "I stopped hesitating on my actions. I write down things I need to do, sort it in order of priority and work on it until I'm done. No hesitation, no excuses. ", "I have to change my environment. I know this isn't what everyone can do but I have a laptop which I strictly do homework and \"work\" type things on. I never browse the internet or play video games on it. I use my desktop for fun things like video games and browsing. You mentioned reading. Have a chair in your dinning room that you never use for anything else and make that your reading chair. ", "I can't speak from my own experience but I've been taught that discipline is something you exercise just like a muscle. There are two techniques in particular that have been recommended to me. \n1) Long-distance running. You should start slow but basically try to build up so that you can run for increasingly longer periods of time.\n2) At the end of your showers turn the water all the way to the cold water and try to stay there as long as you can. \n\nIronically, I am too undisciplined to do either of these very much but from my limited experience I do think they help. ", "A little each day. Reward yourself for best laid plans that get finished. Read a biz article the other day and a company founder said while others were out *networking* he committed 17 hours a day to his startup. Meaning no distractions like networking. Stay focused. Eye on the prize type shit. Know the difference between instant gratification and delayed gratification. Delayed wins a majority of the time.", ">There's greatness in those who commit and follow through on their objectives, no matter how small they may be. \n\nIf you're a cougar you will do everything as a cougar, if you're a fish you will do everything as a fish." ]

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[ "How to store multiple light bulbs that are only used once a year? We have less than a dozen blacklight light bulbs that we only use at halloween. I've had them for a few years and kept the original little box from each to slide them back in to protect them during storage. For some damn reason, this year my wife decided to throw out the boxes!?! I'd like a simple, cheap way to store them.", "How to store multiple light bulbs that are only used once a year? We have less than a dozen blacklight light bulbs that we only use at halloween. I've had them for a few years and kept the original little box from each to slide them back in to protect them during storage. For some damn reason, this year my wife decided to throw out the boxes!?! I'd like a simple, cheap way to store them.", "How to store multiple light bulbs that are only used once a year? We have less than a dozen blacklight light bulbs that we only use at halloween. I've had them for a few years and kept the original little box from each to slide them back in to protect them during storage. For some damn reason, this year my wife decided to throw out the boxes!?! I'd like a simple, cheap way to store them." ]

[ "liquor stores have lots of smaller sized boxes with dividers for 12 wine bottles-- they might fit better with some tissue around each one?", "Shoebox with diy cardboard dividers, or buy a box with dividers made for storing Christmas ornaments, depending on how frugal you want to be.", "I really like the 6-pack bottle carrier idea...If the bulbs are just a little too big to be held carefully, use 2 carriers and alternate each holder with an empty, then hole 3 bulbs per carrier...the cardboard will bend around the bulbs a little and keep them a little firm." ]

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[ "how to become familiar with a lot of music in a short time? I've got about 20 albums that I'd like to become familiar with in a relatively short period of time. The obvious answer is to listen to them all a bunch, but is there anything else I can do to help familiarize myself with each song quicker than normal? Any tricks to learn how to better remember the lyrics, music... etc?", "how to become familiar with a lot of music in a short time? I've got about 20 albums that I'd like to become familiar with in a relatively short period of time. The obvious answer is to listen to them all a bunch, but is there anything else I can do to help familiarize myself with each song quicker than normal? Any tricks to learn how to better remember the lyrics, music... etc?" ]

[ "Read the lyrics while listening to the songs. Also, really listen to them (at least the first time around). Don't just put the music on in the background. Think about the songs. Are the chords interesting? Is there a story hidden in the lyrics? The more focus you give to the music, the faster you'll learn it.", "The first time you listen to them, read along with the lyrics. Listen to them on repeat. In the background while you're at work, walking around the grocery store, while you're driving, etc. Sing along when appropriate to your setting (or just mumble the lyrics under your breath). If you're not one of those people who can only sleep in complete silence, play some of the calmer music when you go to bed; your brain commits pre-sleep things to memory better. If you do anything semi-repetitive (sewing, knitting, drawing) try to listen while you do that; it could help put a motion to the song and help you remember it better. If you're a visual learner, re-read the lyrics, and try writing them out without the song playing.\n\nTL;DR: Listen to the music constantly." ]

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[ "How to get rid of the stiffness in a new extension/power cord. The rigidity of having been wrapped and packed in a tightly coiled in a loop is very inconvenient when trying to run a cord. How can I loosen it up?", "How to get rid of the stiffness in a new extension/power cord. The rigidity of having been wrapped and packed in a tightly coiled in a loop is very inconvenient when trying to run a cord. How can I loosen it up?" ]

[ "Power cords are basically copper wires. \n\nCool wires are stiff, and brittle. So bending them to straighten them out can break them - mainly if you bend them back and forth across say where it was looped. \n\nInstead, run current through them, to warm them. For example, use a table lamp, and without uncoiling the cord, plug the lamp in and turn it on for about 5 mins. You'll find the cord is now far more flexible. ", "Depending on the flexibility of the cord by design and the strength of the shielding, it may be possible to simply pull the cord out and then recoil it using alternating coiling directions ([like this](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEd7ru24Vx0)). If this is not helpful, or if the cord is simply too stiff, then you must warm up the cord. Depending on weather, this could be as easy as setting it out in the sun for a bit, or as complex as plugging it in and letting its own resistance warm it up(usually takes quite a while). Personally, I just recommend coiling it properly (that is, with alternating coiling directions) after the first time you use it in a suitably warm environment. " ]

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[ "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? ", "How to disagree with someone without being rude or condescending? I run into this problem where if I don't agree with someone during a conversation, I'll come off as rude in some way. How do I express my disagreement, yet still treat the other person with respect? " ]

[ "Realize that their opinion may be as valid as yours. Listen to their reasons and consider them. Understand that your own reasoning may be faulty or incomplete, or that you may not have all of the facts. Avoid the assumption that no intelligent person could ever believe what they believe and they must be doing so just to aggravate you. If you still believe you are correct, argue your point but do so without contempt or scorn or accusations, just try to make your points without feeling you have to win. Accept that you may not resolve your difference and can often agree to disagree while remaining respectful. Look for areas in your discussion where you do agree and focus on those. \n\nYour discussion should never be you vs them. It should be you and them vs the subject, and accept that you may get different answers.", "I've never tried it myself, but I did learn it from a professional lecturer at university. The way to do it is to listen to the other opinion. Making sure you don't interrupt them or misunderstand them will help you come off a lot nicer. Ask more question about why they think whatever it is if you don't understand. And then explain what you think may be better and why.", "just kind of shrug your shoulders and say \"Ya could be \" or \"Ya ok \" \nunless you have proof that they are wrong then kindly say \"well they way I herd it was ...) if they get nasty then just back out.. ", "Use and instead of but.\n\n\"I see what you're saying, but your central point is offbase.\"\n\n\"I see what you're saying, and I think that the opposing viewpoint also holds merit.\"\n\nWith the BUT you sound like a dick because the comment ends negative, but with the AND the comment, at worst, is neutral and at best is positive to all involved.", "Read \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie. This book will give you so much insight into how interpersonal relationships work especially on the business end of life. Even if you practice one or two of these ideas mentioned in the book in your daily life, you will notice a huge difference in people's everyday reactions. You won't be disappointed!", "I would first ask if it is important to disagree with them at all. If it's a work situation and you are discussing something important that is one thing. If you must disagree be diplomatic. You could say, your idea is good because it solves the problem quickly but unfortunately it would cost too much to implement.\n\nIf it's a personal conversation and someone expresses like or dislike for an entertainer, sports team, restaurant, etc., you can just ignore it. In general disagreeing when you don't have to doesn't tend to build common bonds or friendships.\n\nIf you want to express your opinion, do so without criticizing theirs. Don't tell them they are crazy, stupid, misinformed, etc. You can just say, I have always had good meals at that restaurant, I think so and so is a great quarterback because of such and such.", "I tend to tell them that I can see where they're coming from, and maybe give an example where their point of view makes sense. When following up with your own side, I've found that it's best to use terms that make it clear that what you're stating is only opinion and you're open to letting them have their view. Things like \"to me\" or \"I feel\". This lets the person know that what you're saying is strictly your personal viewpoint and you're not trying to take away from theirs. And ending with something like \"but I can definitely see where you're coming from\" can go a long way as well.", "Even if you 100% think you are right about something don't frame your response as, \"You're wrong, I'm right\". Outline your point of view as an alternative to whatever they are saying and if they aren't rational enough to consider your side then don't bother trying to convince them. Most of the time you won't be 100% correct about any given topic and you will look like an ass whether you are right or wrong if you just correct people." ]

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[ "How to keep myself from talking too much I find myself naturally talking a lot-making conversation, sharing what I think or what has been going on, or sort of trying to sell someone on an idea I think is cool, a good show on TV, or the like. I don't think it drives people crazy, but I want to be able to be more conscious and in control of my behavior. Any ideas?", "How to keep myself from talking too much I find myself naturally talking a lot-making conversation, sharing what I think or what has been going on, or sort of trying to sell someone on an idea I think is cool, a good show on TV, or the like. I don't think it drives people crazy, but I want to be able to be more conscious and in control of my behavior. Any ideas?", "How to keep myself from talking too much I find myself naturally talking a lot-making conversation, sharing what I think or what has been going on, or sort of trying to sell someone on an idea I think is cool, a good show on TV, or the like. I don't think it drives people crazy, but I want to be able to be more conscious and in control of my behavior. Any ideas?" ]

[ "Try writing down what you want to say for awhile before you actually say it. Read it over a couple of times. Don't just read the words, but try to understand what it is you are really trying to get across. When you're done, ask yourself \"Did you want to tell the other person all that or was I really only trying to tell that to myself?\" Maybe you might want to start listening to what you're saying more often?", "I have this. I try to find out what an interlocutor is interested in and steer the conversation in that direction. It invites people to open up more which counteracts my natural over talking tendencies and people are at their most engaging when they talk about their passions so I am less inclined to interrupt their flow. I even learn about new subjects!", "M" ]

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[ "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n", "How to wake up on time I often find it pretty difficult to wake up on time without hitting the snooze button 7 times and was hoping you great folks could share your techniques with me!\n\n" ]

[ " Most people have trouble sleeping until they figure out their own process for falling asleep.\n\n1. Start the day before. Always get up and go to bed at the same time. Yes, even on the weekends.\n2. Only use your bed for sex and sleeping. Nothing else. In fact if you can, only use your bedroom for sex and sleeping.\n3. Eat right and drink plenty of water. Don't drink anything with caffiene after lunch, and try to avoud sugary drinks always. Eat good food, Fast food and junk food don't help anything.\n4. Don't eat after 6pm. (assuming your on day light schedule.)\n5. Brush your teeth thirty minutes after you last meal of the day. You should be brushing your teeth twice a day, this is obvously your end of day brush.\n6. Excercise. I like to do it at the end of the work day prior to eating dinner. Excercise daily and wash your nasty ass after.\n7. Think about using a while noise maker, such as a fan or a noise machine.\n8. Identify any distractions in your sleep area. AKA TV or radio, lights etc, then illiminate them.\n9. Don't do drugs and moderate your alcohol intake.\n10. If you smoke, stop. Just stop. If you aren't willing to or can't then .. you know what.. just stop.\n11. Finally, Put your alarm clock out of arms reach, so you have to get up to turn it off. Don't use your phone, or carrier pigeons or other silly shit. Go get a cheapo 25 dollar alarm clock, with bright ugly red letters and set up acrross the room from your bed.\n12. Good luck.", "Get exhausted the night before through exercise. If you need to get up at 8, around 8-9 the previous night go for a run, lift weights, whatever gets you tired. You want to go to bed early so you wake up naturally. ", "Are you sure you're getting enough sleep? I hit the snooze button more if I didn't get enough sleep. If its one of those days where you seriously can't afford not to get up, drink a glass of water right before you go to sleep - you'll wake up to pee!", "I had a similar problem and usually went to sleep late. I found a great app: Alarmy, it requires you to take a picture exactly like the one you saved beforehand (say a picture of your bathroom so you have to get out of bed to take it) to turn it off, and the sound gets really annoying. I usually set an alarm 1 h before i have to wake up(theres an option to turn it off by shaking the phone), 30 mins before and 3 mins before. This way, if i hear the one from 3 minutes before, i wake up so i dont have to take the picture(because it's a pain in the ... :D).\nThe only way to cheat the app is by deleting it.\nSorry for possible bad grammar, english is not my first language.\n\n", "This is a skill, and it's something you can learn. When I was in the military, I had no choice. I had to learn how to wake up and be alert at a predetermined time, with or without an alarm clock. Different routines work for different people, but here's how I do it: \n1. Set your alarm clock for the desired wake-up time. \n2. Just before you go to sleep, look at the clock. Tell yourself \"It's 9:30PM. I need to be awake and alert at 7:30AM. That's ten hours from now because [state reason here].\" Do that three times, but make it count. Don't just mumble the words. Concentrate on what you're saying and make sure it sinks in, no matter how tired you are at the time. \n3. When you wake up look at the clock again. Rate your performance internally. Your goal is to wake up 1min before the alarm goes off. If the alarm wakes you, you FAILED. The alarm clock is your enemy, and you need to silence it before it has a chance to go off. \n4. After looking at the clock, repeat the reason why you need to be up now. E.g. \"I need to be awake and alert right now because I have to be in Econ 101 by 8:30, and there's just enough time to shower.\" \nNOTE: You don't need to say these things out loud (but I'd recommend it for the first month or so). The point is, you need to internalize them so that you are conscious of the goal time and the consequences of not meeting it. \nFinally: Practice. Practice. Practice. You won't get it right at first, but with determination and will-power you WILL get it right eventually. Having a 6'4\" 250lb drill sergeant yelling at you when you f**k up helps, but it's definitely possible to learn to do this on your own. And at some point, you'll get good enough that you won't need to set the alarm at all. As long as you have the three pieces of information: the time now, the time to wake up, and the reason you want to be awake, you'll be able to do this automatically.", "Go to bed earlier. Even if it is just for 2-3 days a week, an extra 30 minutes might make all the difference.\n\nMove your alarm clock to the other side of the room. If you use your phone, get a 'math alarm' app. It makes you do a simple math problem (something like 15 + 5 - 8) before you can turn the alarm off. A bit thinking means you are more awake so less likely to go back to sleep.\n\nIf you are a coffee person, get a coffee maker that you can program the night before so you can wake up to a fresh cup. This helped me the most.\n", "Ooh! I can help! I am working on getting better at this as well.\n\n1. Set up a bedtime routine. I play mahjong on my tablet set at the lowest brightness, it gives me time to wind down and it's pretty mindless. This will help you go to sleep at a consistent time and get enough sleep.\n2. Try an app like [Sleep Cycle]( http://www.sleepcycle.com/). It detects when you're in the lightest phase of sleep before turning on the alarm. You can adjust the timeframe so it doesn't go too late.\n3. I just started doing this and it's a cheap way to imitate a sunrise alarm clock (the most popular model goes for $120, yeesh). Get an outlet timer (I got a two pack for $18 on Amazon) and plug a small lamp into it. Set it to turn on around the time you wake up. That way it's not too harsh of a light but your body is still reacting to it.\n4. I like to keep a bottle of water by the bedside to drink as soon as I wake up. It's refreshing and a nice routine to start of the day." ]

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[ "Throw out fruits and vegetables without fruit flies So most of what I eat is frozen or otherwise not-fresh, but my girlfriend is all about fresh fruit, bags of salad mix, stuff like that. Ultimately, a lot of it gets thrown out, whether it be leftovers from the lunch she takes to work, or fruit that sat out too long, et cetera. Unfortunately, she just tosses it all in the kitchen trash can (which is covered), and then the whole kitchen starts to smell like rotten food, and in many cases I get fruit flies. I've convinced her to put everything that CAN go down the sink disposal down it, but a lot of it won't go.\n\nAny tips? Tie up each batch in a walmart bag before putting it in the trash?", "Throw out fruits and vegetables without fruit flies So most of what I eat is frozen or otherwise not-fresh, but my girlfriend is all about fresh fruit, bags of salad mix, stuff like that. Ultimately, a lot of it gets thrown out, whether it be leftovers from the lunch she takes to work, or fruit that sat out too long, et cetera. Unfortunately, she just tosses it all in the kitchen trash can (which is covered), and then the whole kitchen starts to smell like rotten food, and in many cases I get fruit flies. I've convinced her to put everything that CAN go down the sink disposal down it, but a lot of it won't go.\n\nAny tips? Tie up each batch in a walmart bag before putting it in the trash?" ]

[ "I keep my wet food waste in a box in the freezer until garbage day. I have a lot of freezer space, though. It may not work for everyone.", "You know those disposable grocery bags you put produce in when you shop. The kind you usually tie a knot at the end of the bag so your apples or peaches don't roll out in your cart. Take some of those to keep at home. When it's time to toss the next batch of 'why can't my gf just eat this fruit' put it in the bag. Try to get as much of the air out as possible and tie a short knot. Then toss it into your bigger trash. Now the fruit flies can't get to it. \n\nIt works well for empty packages of meat too (doubled bagged though). To keep that meat juice styrofoam trays from stinking up the joint when you don't have an outside trash to put it in." ]

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[ "How to avoid computer distracting me while studying? Hey, Reddit!\nI have a problem, every time when I need to check something for studying, I get distracted by other stuff in my computer.\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid computer distracting me while studying? Hey, Reddit!\nI have a problem, every time when I need to check something for studying, I get distracted by other stuff in my computer.\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid computer distracting me while studying? Hey, Reddit!\nI have a problem, every time when I need to check something for studying, I get distracted by other stuff in my computer.\nHow can I avoid this?", "How to avoid computer distracting me while studying? Hey, Reddit!\nI have a problem, every time when I need to check something for studying, I get distracted by other stuff in my computer.\nHow can I avoid this?" ]

[ "Use a different computer (i.e. go to the library). Your brain subconsciously thinks of the computer in your room as being for fun, not for work.\n\nAlternately, try using extensions to block distracting websites. If you need to go further, see if your router has parental controls you can use to block them.", "Pull the plug!\n\nWell, try to create a reward system for yourself. Maybe like, after an hour of work, you get 30 minutes to use the system. But try not to play video games or watch addicting shows in that time. Or, if that doesn't work, try studying/working out loud. While you are focussed on that, you will find your mind wandering a lot less. Another option is to try studying with someone else, so that the 2/more of you will be able to focus better. \n\nThese are all the methods I've tried. I know it'll be hard but once you make a routine of it, it gets better. \n\nGood Luck!", "[Use this for internet stuff.](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=en)\n\nAnd to avoid games and stuff downloaded on your computer make a separate user account for games only and one for studying. Make it as hard as possible for you to get access to your games.", "There is no avoiding it. Just try to stay focused and disciplined. When you are done with the studying session, treat yourself. Weather that's with a beer, cigarette, watch porn, or play a video game. Anything to reward your accomplishment." ]

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[ "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over.", "How to deal with Anger/Rage. I have some days, like today, where I'm just pissed off at everything that happens. Like, it seems like everything seems to go wrong even though I know its probably nothing to get stressed over I just can't help it.\n\nI hate it because I'm a generally happy person but sometimes I just get so mad I end up punching the wall and hurting my hand. It's like the rage takes over." ]

[ "Speak to your doctor, because sometimes things like rage or large changes in personality can have a medical origin. ", "Buy some incense, and an incense burner. It is really relaxing, and incredibly cheap. (One month's worth, plus a burner, will maybe cost 5 bucks. And that's if you go through it really fast.) I discovered it a few days ago and I've stopped worrying or stressing about anything, and little inconveniences no longer bother me.\nHopefully this helps, good luck!", "I'd see a doctor mate. I'm gunna guess you are 19-25 and this wouldn't help, your hormones are going nuts and telling you to fuck everything in sight. Testosterone would be going through the roof.\n\nExercise is good, although when I am pissed liked that, I get to a point where I don't give a shit about doing anything. I just remember that I am still human and will have very powerful emotions and this age and not to blame myself.\n\nI either, take a walk, or go sit in my backyard and focus on breathing. Make sure your tongue is relaxed (a good sign if you can let go of your anger) and simply focus on listening to everything going on around me. Listen to the trees rustling, birds chirping and even cars in the distance. Don't think about what they are doing but instead just allow the sounds to enter your mind without analysing them.\n\nTakes practice but the fact you are aware of it tells you that you are a smart dude who is capable of getting through this. Fuckin hormones right?", "Distract yourself if there's nothing you can do to fix/confront the issue.\n\nTake a shower, cook, clean, Reddit, watch TV/movies, listen to music, start a project, finish an unfinished project, etc.", "two things. the first is low blood sugar. if you eat a lot of sugary foods and foods that are are made from processed carbs (eg. white bread, pasta, cake, biscuits) you will get low blood sugar afterwards. this can make you sleepy and grumpy. it also can give you the self control of a drunk person.\n\nthe second. anger is a habit. the more you choose to give up anger, to just let it pass through you and not react to it, the more it will lose power. after a while, you will be able to get angry and then feel the anger just fade away. if you choose to be self controlled you will build up more and more self control. at first it will be hard. it's like lifting weights, the more you do it the stronger you get. it's totally possible though. millions of people do it and you can if you want to.", "How do you deal with conflict in your day to day life? If something goes wrong, are you able to deal with it initially (and without anger) or do you avoid the conflict and let the anger about it build up unaddressed?", "I find exercise gets me amped, what I did/ do is channel my anger into creating something. I find that I get super focussed when I'm raging. I just focus on the thing in front of me, nothing else. Put some music on and create, in a few hours the rage is gone and I haven't broken anything.\n\nAlso a bit of weed, not as a direct cure for your anger. You don't want to rage then smoke a blunt but just every so often have a sesh and chill out. It helped me to mellow out in general. " ]

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[ "How to remove excessive hair out of a brush? Title speaks for itself! What i currently due is use a paperclip and just try to scrape it out but this takes way to long so i was wondering if anyone knew of an easier more efficient way to do this? Much appreciated! ", "How to remove excessive hair out of a brush? Title speaks for itself! What i currently due is use a paperclip and just try to scrape it out but this takes way to long so i was wondering if anyone knew of an easier more efficient way to do this? Much appreciated! ", "How to remove excessive hair out of a brush? Title speaks for itself! What i currently due is use a paperclip and just try to scrape it out but this takes way to long so i was wondering if anyone knew of an easier more efficient way to do this? Much appreciated! ", "How to remove excessive hair out of a brush? Title speaks for itself! What i currently due is use a paperclip and just try to scrape it out but this takes way to long so i was wondering if anyone knew of an easier more efficient way to do this? Much appreciated! " ]

[ "I once dealt with a brush so full you could hardly see the little balls on the ends of the bristles. I took a pair of scissors and ran it up between the rows of bristles and cut. The hair free. It was easy to pull out with the handle of a rat tail comb then but still took a bit. Be careful doing this if your brush has soft bristles or fabric. Good luck! :)", "Brushes also have a tendency to get oil build up - so for those who don't understand why this is an issue, it's really hard to get a brush clean and to make sure that you aren't brushing your clean hair with last weeks oil and last months dead hair", "I use my blow dryer to push the hair out and towards the top of the bristles. Then i just pull them out.", "Depends on what kind of brush you use. I have a boar bristle brush that I use a wire comb to remove the hair then I soak in a shallow dish with shampoo and water to remove the sebum build-up and small hairs. I find the method to work well, the most time consuming parts are waiting for it to soak then to dry. " ]

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[ "How do you financially recover from a car accident and injury while in college? I was in a car accident which left me with a minor concussion, but I ended up losing my job because I didn't work there long enough to take a long temporary leave term. So I started looking for jobs but I'm not finding any that would work with my schedule with school and the doctor visits. And this is my first injury since being on my own.\nWell its been about a month and a half since the accident and still no luck I had an interview and was hired on the spot. They even told me they were going to schedule my orientation but never called back. I called and even went back to the restaurant and they still never reached back out. I've filed for unemployment, food stamps, and even section 8 housing, just so I can still go to school and live.", "How do you financially recover from a car accident and injury while in college? I was in a car accident which left me with a minor concussion, but I ended up losing my job because I didn't work there long enough to take a long temporary leave term. So I started looking for jobs but I'm not finding any that would work with my schedule with school and the doctor visits. And this is my first injury since being on my own.\nWell its been about a month and a half since the accident and still no luck I had an interview and was hired on the spot. They even told me they were going to schedule my orientation but never called back. I called and even went back to the restaurant and they still never reached back out. I've filed for unemployment, food stamps, and even section 8 housing, just so I can still go to school and live." ]

[ "Doesn't your school have a hardship fund? Or are there no central bursaries or grants you can take? \n\nInsane that as a student you have to work to afford to live. \n\nIn my country University education is free for every student and students receive cost of living bursaries so they can focus on their studies and not on a part time job. \n\nI suggest speaking to your school for advice on financial support.", "In the short term there are ways to make a little cash like donating plasma or looking for part-time seasonal work.\n\nIf there aren't any jobs in your area that can fit your schedule then maybe some sort of gig work like delivering food for Uber Eats, Doordash, etc. might work.\n\nIf you live in a pretty heavy residential area, I have a friend who made stencils and bought like $50 worth of good spray paint. Then he went door to door offering to paint address numbers on people's curbs for $20. Made a pretty good amount of cash." ]

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