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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages.\n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. She had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. I trust her, so that was all I needed to hear. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc and she ending up sleeping with him for the night. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. I have totally committed myself to her so fully I really don't have any non-mutual with my gf, close enough friends that I can even talk to about this. \n\nNow I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray.\n\nAnd the worst part is, over the past few months I've been becoming convinced that she was the one woman I would ever want, and that no one would be better for me than her. I had even picked out a ring but financial instability of my career change made me feel unworthy of even proposing to her. Now I just don't know what I think."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hello, I'm somewhat introverted and normally talking to girls isn't normally a problem for me, but the problem here is that I haven't spoken to this girl since sophomore year of high school. (About 3 years ago, our conversations involved a lot of impersonal stuff such as school since we were always with other people, so our relationship never got further than acquaintance) We have been Facebook friends since then, although only recently we started to 'like' each other’s posts as I think we are coming to realization that we have a lot of common (music, humor, and lifestyle). So, I ask you relationship gods, how can I make this happen with the only form of communication seems to be through Facebook?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.\n\nObviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.\n\nThe other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't \"have my cake and eat it too,\" expect monogamy when I ended it.\n\nTo add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.\n\nHe sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.\n\nObviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.\n\nThe other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't \"have my cake and eat it too,\" expect monogamy when I ended it.\n\nTo add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.\n\nHe sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.\n\nObviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.\n\nThe other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't \"have my cake and eat it too,\" expect monogamy when I ended it.\n\nTo add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.\n\nHe sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.\n\nObviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.\n\nThe other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't \"have my cake and eat it too,\" expect monogamy when I ended it.\n\nTo add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.\n\nHe sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We dated two years most of which was good. We broke up a month ago after a prolonged argument from a long spat of arguments. I left crying from his house. I got home at 3 AM, had a moment of clarity called him and dumped him. Then I went over and we talked it out and I explained the breakup in person.\n\nObviously he was hurt but he agreed it was probably for the best. I told him we should take time and space from each other but he begged me not to. So we kept in contact and things seemed alright.\n\nThe other night I call him asking about reconciliation. He says mentally/rationally he wants to be together but he is emotionally damaged. That the breakup really hurt him but we can take it slow. However, I ask him if he's seeing anyone else/fucking other people and he claims it's not my business. That if I was so concerned I shouldn't have dumped him in the first place. I can't \"have my cake and eat it too,\" expect monogamy when I ended it.\n\nTo add to this, he still wants me to come as his guest for a wedding, still wants to celebrate his bday, AND asks if I want to take a trip with his family this summer.\n\nHe sounds resentful to me and I believe his attitude is turning a cycle of resentment. To me, it sounds like he just wants to punish me. When I argue that is important for my sexual, emotional health, he claims let's use condoms then. But his stance is firm. He claims he's not saying he has or even wants to fuck other ppl, but I shouldn't ask those things when I ended it. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hey all,\n\nHope everyone reading this post is doing well. \n\nI'm actually a US born citizen, student, in college right now. One of my relatives is really sick and I need to see them before their condition worsens, as they very well may pass away in the coming month. \n\nThe problem is I don't have a visa for Pakistan. I checked the embassy website, but it says processing time for a visa is 4-6 weeks.I know for a fact I won't be able to enter that country without one. I've only been there 1 time, and that was when I was like 11.\n\nBecause of school coming up again (sigh), the latest I can leave would be August 15th-ish and can stay there tell the 27th-28th. But this is seeming to become impossible because I highly doubt I will be able to get that visa made before I get locked to school. \n\nThere is nothing about urgent service for visas on the embassy site. I emailed the consulate, hoping they can do something.But other than that, I'm not very experienced in traveling as I'm so young. If anyone here can provide me with advice, that would be great.\n\nThanks for taking the time to read this. i truly appreciate it!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: A year ago, my boyfriend of six years met a girl at a family function and dated her behind my back for a month before having her move into our house while I was away for a night.\n\nIt's been a year.almost.since I moved into my mom's basement. He's still with her in our house. I'm now dating a guy who has been a good friend for about seven years. I don't want to ruin things with him, but I just feel like there's no way it could work out, and there's no point. I'm stuck thinking about my ex all the time.\n\nNothing ever happened. They get to live happily ever after. He never missed me for a second. He never cared or thought about or reflected on what he did to me. I just.want SOMETHING to happen. This can't be it.\n\nI don't know what to do. I just need to get this out there. Why do things get to work out perfectly for them, while I'm still struggling to get through every day? I miss my best friend.\n\nIt fucking hurts."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About 60 people said they were attending and posted there addresses for invites, 40 odd turned up. Some had bullshit excuses like assignments even though I gave them 4 weeks notice, another told me she couldn't get a lift when really she was on a tinder date.\n\nThen I had close friends that came late and didn't even give me a card. The party cost a lot of money and me and my family spent so much time and energy organising it. I always go to the effort and give gifts and write a card. I just felt like this was that one day where everyone treats me like I've treated them. I'm so upset right now, I've reached boiling point. It's not like I invited randoms, I was invited to their parties and hang out with them. These people who I thought were my friends are just cunts. All you had to do was show up."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About a year ago I saw a picture of a girl on /r/realgirls and learned her name in the comments. She has a bunch of pictures all over the internet of her from about 18 to mid twenties. None of these pics are nudes, they are just her posting to social media throughout her daily life. She's insanely beautiful. She's my dream girl. \n\nOne day I was bored so I looked her up on Facebook. I saw some information about her personal life that attracted me to her even more. The feeling grew deeper and I started thinking about her more often. \n\nRecently I sorta went looking for more pictures of her and found some I'd never seen. When I found them it was like a punch in the gut. I don't know how to explain it. I was sweating and dizzy. I am literally having physical reactions seeing more pictures of his girl. \n\nNow I can't stop thinking about her. What's she's doing? I hope she's okay. I know this is really unhealthy. When I wake up to take a piss in the night I'm thinking about her. I'm battling myself trying to find ways to STOP THINKING ABOUT HER. \n\nI know I've constructed a fantasy that isn't real, but it feels real. I get sinking feelings in my stomach when I think of her. I want her out of my head. I don't know what the fuck happened to my brain. I feel sad about the fact that we don't know each other."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *Condensed Version Background: I grew up in a VERY conservative and religious environment, it seemed like the whole town went to one of the 5 churches in our city. I'm sort of recovering from that environment.*\n\nI have about 3 married friends who are in a similar boat, but they still nominally identify with evangelical christianity and are sorta kinda pretending they buy it a lot more than they really do.because they are married with kids which set them on a certain course. The wives wouldn't be ok with the extent and depth of the husbands' soul-searching. \n\nI see these married guys doing a lot of what I grew up doing.sort of hiding what they are up to, sort of sliding around full disclosure with their spouses, and keeping some inner thoughts to themselves lest they rock the boat. \n\nThis terrifies me. I cannot and will not sentence myself to a continuation of my adolescence: hiding my true feelings, only showing certain aspects of myself to certain people, sneaking around doing things I know aren't as well-received. \n\nI'm not hypersensitive with regular platonic relationships, but in romantic ones I think I am *too* \"careful\" or \"sensitive\".depends on your perspective. My problem is in figuring out what the appropriate spot on the continuum is. What is the balance between needing personal freedom and having a healthy level of accountability?\n\nExample: I am a legal marijuana patient and can therefore grow my own, which could potentially save me some money with very little time invested. She has no problem with smoking, but yesterday I got a scowl and slightly mom-ish \"Why do you *need* to grow it so bad anyways? You're obsessed.\"\n\nI stopped her right there and said that bc of 'all the church stuff' what she had just said made me feel defensive. She poutily apologized and I said it was more a \"me thing\" than a her thing.that what she said was probably fine but my reaction inside was potentially disproportionate. I'm not sure about that though."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm convinced that I'm an asshole for not being more honest with myself on negative relationship feelings until it's too late. In my last three relationships, which all lasted between 4 to 9 months, I've had great connections and honeymoon periods, followed by a period of having a decent time but having reservations, and finally breaking up with the girl suddenly. \n\nIn all 3 cases, I was genuinely unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. something that I'm not thrilled about and don't want to deal with it for the rest of my life. So I end it, and go through a day where the girl is shocked, crying and possibly violent towards me. \n\nI have no problem meeting women or going on first dates and deciding if I want to continue, but if I go on three consecutive dates with someone it usually gets serious really quickly because I truly am feeling a connection. How do you suss out if you'll be sick of the other person after several months?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My mom and dad are polar opposites as far as everything about them goes. My dad grew up in Bombay, India and came to the states in the 80's. He met my mom, who is a white Italian woman. They got married and had 3 kids. My mom has been unhappy in her relationship since the beginning. She wanted to leave my dad, but my dad threatened to take her kids to India if she ever tried to divorce him. The culture clash is such a major part of what makes their relationship fail to work.\n\nFast forward about 30 years, all of the kids are in their 20s. My mom has not had an easy life. I have witnessed the way my Dad has misstreated her. He has cheated on her, hit her, yelled and talked down to her, and demanded money from her when he had none (even though he makes a lot of money at his job and has a 401k plan) My dad is a man who uses his own culture as an excuse to be a mysoginistic asshole all of the time. He is also a coward who does not deserve my mother for the caring and kind person she is. \n\nMy mom has always wanted to leave. Many things have hindered her from leaving (kids/money/mortgage ect) She works as a nurse and has a seperate bank account from my dad. In my mind she has the life style that could easily be transplanted in another town or state, where she could be away from my Dad and be happy. I know the concept of seperation can have complicated legal issues involved, but I would like to learn more about what options are out there for my mom. \n\n I want to find a way to give my mom possible options that could lead her to finally leave. I just need advice from anyone who has dealt with abusive relationships that are impossible to get out of. I also would love to hear from anyone with experience with law involving seperation or divorce."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years last week… not really due to anything in the relationship, even though we do have small problems (living together for 3 years and feeling more like roommates sometimes when we get busy, not as affectionate, the normal things for 5 years).\n\nI just lost my job in accounting and where we were going to be living in 6 months was unsure due to renting and our landlord selling the place. Also had been getting a lot of questions about marriage and kids from people other than her. I started to feel like I was going through a 'mid-life crisis' thing and ended it out of the blue.\n\nI told her that I don't want to try and work on things and were not talking right now but I feel like shit and think Im starting to regret not working on things and jumping to this conclusion.\n\nDo you think it was wrong to end the relationship when it could have gotten better? Did I make this decision to fast? My mind is all messed up right now. Shes my best-friend and first serious relationship. Did I make a massive mistake?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: *This is definitely more of a personal issue than relationships, but leads to how I form relationships with others and interact. I love this community, but understand if you Mods think this should be moved to another subreddit.*\n\n|\n\nI have had two long-term relationships (about 3 years each) from ages 18-22, the second of which broke my heart and I maintained distance from men for a very long time afterward.\n\n|\n\nSince then I have casually hooked up three times, all what amounted to be one-night stands when I was looking for a more long-term FWB thing.\n\n|\n\nThe thing is, I've only had PIV sex during two of those one-night stands (both men I was previously dating are devout Catholics and apparently PIV was their breaking point).\n\n|\n\nI feel like I'm finally ready to start dating around a bit more and for something casual - it's been 2 years since my last one-night-stand, but I feel like my inexperience is a turn-off for most people and in turn, I myself get turned off. In fact, it is now so bad and so deep-seeded that I have a hard time even being attracted to people. I mean, I obviously find many people (men and women alike) quite sexy and good to look at. I go on dates through means of online dating (and have never found someone I'm attracted to beyond their body).\n\n|\n\nI suppose what I'm looking for here is the following:\n\n- An answer to, \"Is it really a big deal or not that I'm 27 and not very sexually experienced?\"\n- How can I stop being so turned-off by others? Is it something in my head, or is it just the people I meet through online dating aren't very interesting? I should add to this, I met a man over the summer (he had a gf unfortunately) who I was quite attracted to mentally and physically. so I don't think I'm incapable of feeling that way entirely.\n\n|\n\nThanks so much for any input you can provide."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I don't plan on breaking up with her and I plan on stay by her side so please don't recommend that.\n\nTo start off with this is a throw away for obvious reasons. I'm 25M and my fiancee is 23F, back in 2013 i got injured in the oil field and lost majority function of my left leg and have been on medication since. My fiancee got hit by a drunk driver in 2014 and had to have surgery to put a titanium rod into her leg as it was shattered. She hasn't fully recovered yet as she still has pain. \n\nBackstory: We have been together for eight years and our relationship other than this issue has been great. We bond well, have great conversations and have raised our dogs to be amazing. But about a year and a half ago i started noticing my pain medication diminishing and there was random excedrin pills in the bottle, i questioned her and she lied about it to cover her tracks. \n\nFinally it all came to a halt and i told her it was our family or the addiction, and she choose us. She has been saying she is depressed and we just got her an appointment for a behavior health doctor, so i know we're on the right track. She relapsed four days ago and feels terrible about it, which has put her in deeper depression. \n\nI'm having surgery tomorrow and it's a bit major, my doctor tells me i most likely will not be walking for up to a year. She's being very supportive, I guess i just want to know if i'm doing the right thing. I love her and i know she loves me, this is the only issue with our relationship and i would like advice, Thank you.\n\nEDIT: Since i worded this wrong, leaving is not my FIRST plan of action i want to take. That does not mean in the future it is off the table, I want to try to help her first. And she is in pain due to the injury mentioned, It's no good excuse to steal and lie or self medicate but i think it maybe a detail that has been overlooked."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: About two weeks ago my older sister and her bf went on vacation to Japan, and they returned last tuesday. I asked her how her trip was and she told me it was great but would get into it later since she had to catch up on schoolwork.\n\nToday I was on facebook and her status had changed to \"Engaged\". Now I'm not upset in the least about that, as her bf is a cool guy, but this happened while she was in Japan so she mentioned she was late to posting it. I gave her a call to congratulate her but was curious as to why she didn't tell me or why I didn't know about it (since we usually chat about every other day or so) and she was surprised that our parents didn't tell me.\n\nI'm not upset with her since her txting from Japan was expensive so she probably only told my parents when it happened and wanted them to pass it on. Even if she was going to tell me, I would've thought that our parents would call me asking if I heard her news yet.\n\nI guess I feel like i'm being outcasted by my parents, i'm up at uni about 50 miles away with a good job up here and have been looking at apartments for summer and the school year which has put a strain on any conversations with my parents. I don't know if it's relevant but it makes this seem intentional from my parents."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi r/personalFinanace\nFirst please know that I have already decided to get a motorcycle, and I will not appreciate any attempts to change my mind.\nI have recently decided to get a motorcycle, I have the license and have owned a start bike for years (an OLD motorcycle, something that should only be used for learning/beginning riders) \nTo start I am a 20 Yr. old Caucasian Male. My current credit score is a 767 according to Transunion and a 772 according to Experian. I am coming to you guys wondering where I should be getting motorcycle financing. I know how important a good credit score it (my mother has a score above 800), and I am looking more for a suggestion as to where to get my motorcycle financing. I have decided on financing because my credit history currently only contains Credit card payments, and I know a diverse credit profile really helps). According to the website the Motorcycle costs $6,000. I currently have currently have a full time job, that pays rather well ($14/hr.), and I already have saved a 6 Month emergency fund. This post is really to ask WHERE I should get my financing, I know a lot of dealerships are offering financing options, but there are also credit unions in my area. SO r/Personal Finance can I negotiate a better deal at a dealership if I have the Financing through a credit union (my bank doesn’t do Motorcycle financing) or will I get a better price If I negotiate, then finance through the dealership?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Been with the hubby for 9 years, married for two. We have a really, really good relationship. I love him and he loves me; we're best friends. 5 years ago I left my friends, job, and family to move across the country so he could go to school. I quickly found a job and supported him through his three years of school and while he took and passed the bar exam. We got married right after he graduated. \n\nIt has now been two years since he graduated and he's still unemployed. I pay all the bills and we're drowning. I make OK money, but our city is expensive and every month we come up a few hundred dollars short. I had savings, the two years of unemployment has slowly and steadily eaten that away. I don't know what to do. \n\nHe promised he'd find something, anything, but he hasn't. \n\nI love him. I'm not at all considering divorce. But I feel like maybe I've made it too easy for him to be unemployed. Maybe if I kicked him out for a bit he'd reprioritize and find something. But I also don't want to destroy our relationship. We really do have a solid marriage outside of this financial stress. Am I being crazy? If he moved out I could save some money and he might be more motivated to become employed. He won't talk to me about his employment options because he says I get too stressed and that stresses him out. He's right, but who can I talk to if not him?!\n\nI've recently started taking pills for my anxiety caused directly by our financial problems. Can't sleep, can't relax. I'm really starting to lose it. Is this really a good idea or just some crazy stress induced delerium?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: That may not be the best title. What I mean is how do I make him understand how unhappy I am?\nSome background;\nOur relationship it not THAT bad.He doesn't beat me, doesn't cheat on me, is a great father to our 3 children. However I feel like I don't even come up on his radar. I feel like he doesn't consider me or my feelings at all. And to be frank I'm at the point where I'm not even sure if he loves me anymore. He says he does but he can say it all the wants to, he doesn't show it and I certianly don't feel it! IIf I bring this up I get patronised. \"Yes I do love you can you stop bringing this up?\" But nothing changes. I still feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated.\nHe seems to do and say things just to upset me, and then will refuse to admit that he may have hurt my feelings, or if they did they shouldn't have.\nOur sex life is great! But it doesn't mean much when he looses all intrest in me as soon as it's over.\nWe spend little to no quality time together and the last time I suggested getting a baby sitter to go out he groaned and asked if we had to.\nI don't want our marriage to end, but I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life. I try to talk to him about it, suggest councling etc but he insists we are fine and we don't need it. Honestly would I feel like this if we were fine and we didn't need it? \nI'm sorry this is probally really disjointed and full of spelling mistakes lol. I just don't know what my next move should be.\n."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: That may not be the best title. What I mean is how do I make him understand how unhappy I am?\nSome background;\nOur relationship it not THAT bad.He doesn't beat me, doesn't cheat on me, is a great father to our 3 children. However I feel like I don't even come up on his radar. I feel like he doesn't consider me or my feelings at all. And to be frank I'm at the point where I'm not even sure if he loves me anymore. He says he does but he can say it all the wants to, he doesn't show it and I certianly don't feel it! IIf I bring this up I get patronised. \"Yes I do love you can you stop bringing this up?\" But nothing changes. I still feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated.\nHe seems to do and say things just to upset me, and then will refuse to admit that he may have hurt my feelings, or if they did they shouldn't have.\nOur sex life is great! But it doesn't mean much when he looses all intrest in me as soon as it's over.\nWe spend little to no quality time together and the last time I suggested getting a baby sitter to go out he groaned and asked if we had to.\nI don't want our marriage to end, but I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life. I try to talk to him about it, suggest councling etc but he insists we are fine and we don't need it. Honestly would I feel like this if we were fine and we didn't need it? \nI'm sorry this is probally really disjointed and full of spelling mistakes lol. I just don't know what my next move should be.\n."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: That may not be the best title. What I mean is how do I make him understand how unhappy I am?\nSome background;\nOur relationship it not THAT bad.He doesn't beat me, doesn't cheat on me, is a great father to our 3 children. However I feel like I don't even come up on his radar. I feel like he doesn't consider me or my feelings at all. And to be frank I'm at the point where I'm not even sure if he loves me anymore. He says he does but he can say it all the wants to, he doesn't show it and I certianly don't feel it! IIf I bring this up I get patronised. \"Yes I do love you can you stop bringing this up?\" But nothing changes. I still feel unloved, unwanted and unappreciated.\nHe seems to do and say things just to upset me, and then will refuse to admit that he may have hurt my feelings, or if they did they shouldn't have.\nOur sex life is great! But it doesn't mean much when he looses all intrest in me as soon as it's over.\nWe spend little to no quality time together and the last time I suggested getting a baby sitter to go out he groaned and asked if we had to.\nI don't want our marriage to end, but I don't want to feel this way for the rest of my life. I try to talk to him about it, suggest councling etc but he insists we are fine and we don't need it. Honestly would I feel like this if we were fine and we didn't need it? \nI'm sorry this is probally really disjointed and full of spelling mistakes lol. I just don't know what my next move should be.\n."
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