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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me: 21f. Sister (31f) admitted to selling my pets when I was little. I thought they were stolen/killed. Furious.
POST: Recently my sister (31f) has been trying to make up for lost time. She moved closer to my brother, has been trying hard to make up for her drug addiction. She has been clean for 4 years now.
I have a hard time trusting her, because the only memories I have of her are mostly painful and scary. She was kicked out of the house at 18, because she would abuse drugs and then freak out, steal stuff, and lit the house on fire with me inside.
She endangered me when she was driving high once.
Anyways, during our 'sibling' get-togethers this past week, my sister got a little too drunk and started to apologize for how she treated me. She then informed me she was sorry for all the times she stole from me.
When I asked what she stole, she said she was the one who stole my pets and sold them. My family is pretty well off. The first dog to disappear my dad fucking gave me. It was a pure bred dog and worth a bit of money. She sold it and then when my mom kept replacing the dogs, thinking I wouldn't notice (which I did) and my sister would steal them again a few months later.
When the dog disappeared, my dad had only been dead about six months. I was crushed.
I went through 11 dogs. Finally it stopped, around the time my sister went into rehab, and I still have the last dog, which was a small chihuahua mix that my mom kept inside along with the cats (afraid that someone would steal them as well.)
I am furious. Taffy, the original dog, was the last link I really had of my dad. I was crushed and cried for weeks when he went missing. I am not sure how to trust my sister now. Our relationship has never been very close, but I am ready to cut her out of my life.
What do I do?
TL;DR: | My sister informed me that she stole and sold my dogs, including the dog my dad gave me, for drug money. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[22M] GF[20F] of year and a half, has no motivation to do anything
POST: My GF has been diagnosed with depression for about a year, and been on medication ever since. She has gotten better, but she has 0 motivation to do anything, and i don't know what i can do to help.
She's constantly bored, and never does anything. If i suggest doing anything (play a video game, watch a show, draw something) she says she's not in the mood for it.
This takes a heavy toll on me. I hate seeing her unhappy, i don't like getting every single suggestion thrown out the window.
One other thing is that she'll complain about being bored, or how she's not going to get a job, or more recently about her diet.
I don't see her put effort into anything for too long and that kills me. She says she wants to finish this and that game, but the last time she played it was 2 months ago.
She says she's afraid she wont get a job in her area, but instead of churning out for the presentation she has around mid-September, she won't even touch anything related to it (or try to get a part/full time job in the mean time).
I just don't know what to do anymore, both for her and my sake...
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has no motivation to do anything, taking a toll on both of us. Need advice on what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (19M) and her (18F) had a long distance for a short time. We were not good at it and now we feel like friends.
POST: So, I (19M) have met this girl (18) at the end of July. We really started to like each other right away, and we kissed the second day after meeting and yada yada. She was staying at my town for the summer holidays, but she lives in another town. So yeah, it was really new thing for us. We knew we only had maybe a month worth of time to be together before she returns to her town. So we felt a little of a pressure on us. We knew we don't have the time to take things easy and rushed somehow. We spent almost every day together and really were into each other. Enjoyed our time together.
So, soon after, school started and after all this time spending together, suddenly we were long distance and we've been seeing each other every 2-3, maybe even 4 weekends. She is busy with her school. Things started to cool down. We had some stupid fight here and there that just added to cooling down. And now, well... we pretty much feel like friends now. We really care about each other and enjoy spending time together, but the feelings never got the chance to develop properly.
Also, she has no parents and had a hard life growing up. She misses having family. Today she stated that now she thinks that she is not ready and able to develop romantic feelings and return love.
She is really great person and I feel sad now because we didn't succeed. I really would like that, as well as her. There was strong affection. I don't know what to do now. We really want us to stay friends, but I'm not sure if I'm able to do that. Also, I'm not sure if I should allow myself to feel any hope for us.
TL;DR: | Met girl this summer. Strong affection. Spending days together for a month. She returns to her town. Long distance. Cooling down. We feel more like friends now. Wat do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: Drinking an antidepressants -- what can happen from it?
POST: My sister has been going through a lot of stuff. She's left her husband and kids, and won't talk to any of the family except for me, and my brother-in-law when she needs something.
We found out she's taking 4 different prescription drugs a day, two for depression/bipolar, one for headaches, and I forgot what the other was.
The two drugs she's taking for depression are Venlaxfine and Trazodone.
She's been drinking a lot. What started out as a glass of wine a night and some shots on the weekend turned into a bottle of wine a night, a bottle of alcohol every couple of days, mixed in with going to the bar for drinks.
She hasn't been home in a little over a week, so I can't say for sure how much she's drinking, but we know she's been spending $20 almost daily at the liquor store.
TL;DR: | what can happen from drinking an excessive amount of alcohol while taking antidpressants (Venlafaxine and Trazodone)? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: my doctor said it's time to lose it or get diabetes
POST: im 19 years old, ~270 lbs, 5' 6", size 42 waist.
my doctor has recently noticed that my sugar is a tad over the norm and im not absorbing protein properly. they said there might be something wrong with my kidneys but i know its because im overweight. i've always been overweight since i was young. i went to weight loss camps, clinics, and other stuff when i was younger but i never really took it seriously. now im on the brink of diabetes and my self esteem is plummeting.
i seriously think its time for a big change and i need a little help.
where do i ***really*** start? i dont want to browse magazines and hyped up fitness websites for crazy fad diets. i just want to know how to really start this process.
TL;DR: | im 19, 5' 6", and ~270lbs. my doctor basically said "change, or you're going get diabetes. where do i start? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/m] Girlfriend [20/f] is really busy, not sure if she's avoiding me or not.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together about five weeks so far, the first couple weeks were great, we spent a lot of time together, usually just hanging out almost every day. However, the last few weeks, she's been slightly distant, and we've been hanging out gradually less and less. I brought it up with her, and she says that she's busy, that I have nothing to worry about, and that if it was a problem with me, she would tell me. Fair enough, I believed her. Over the last two weeks, I've seen her maybe twice, and on weekends. She's an art student, and I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt on the whole busy thing, but today something pissed me off. She finally finished her major painting that was due today, and she says that she only has a little bit of homework to do tonight. I ask if that means that I can see her tonight, seeing as I haven't seen her since our date Saturday. She says she doesn't know yet, but maybe. I say okay, just let me know. We continued chatting for the rest of today. I went to check my twitter, and I saw that she made a post, saying how badly she wants to hang out with someone. WTF? I don't know if she actually went and hung out with someone, or if she was just venting about how frustrated she is with school. As far as I know, she doesn't really have any other friends, aside from one other guy she met a week or so ago, and she told me they haven't hung out during our date.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has been busy, can't really make time for me, posted on twitter about how she wants to hang out with someone. Wth? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Fear of cars after accident
POST: Hi reddit,
On the 23rd of April at 1pm I was driving home from an appointment (I am a sales rep). I was about an hour away from home and my GPS didn't work ask I was in a rural area so I didn't have any reception on my phone either. I ended up getting lost on the way home and drove 10km away from where I was supposed to go and hit a dead end. As i drove back in the middle of nowhere a hawk hit my windscreen and as a result I swerved the car, it was on gravel so my instinct was to brake. I slammed the brakes and this resulted in me totally losing control of the car and swerving off the road and I collided with a tree. I don't remember much but someone found me unconscious on the side of the road and took me to the hospital.
I have broken ribs and a concussion and I was discharged with pain medication and strict instructions to go see my GP first thing tomorrow morning. Here's the thing, I am completely TERRIFIED of getting back into the car, the drive back from the hospital wasn't so bad because I layed down and was drugged up on morphine so I couldn't really remember much. I keep having nightmares about the crash and all I can think of is how and why it happened and how I could have stopped it. If I was going any faster, if I wasn't in my work car, if I wasn't wearing my seat belt, if if if. I keep having anxiety attacks.
I have to quit my job because it involves driving everywhere, I can't even imagine being back in a car but I need to go see the doctor tomorrow morning to get a check up and file my insurance documents to get payed for the time that I will be off work. I can't sleep, I feel nauseous because I am so scared. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to feel. One minute I'll be fine and the next I'm screaming because there's a loud noise that's reminding me of the accident. I feel so helpless :(
TL;DR: | I have to go to the doctors, in a car, after my car accident. Am terrified and don't know how to handle the panic attacks. Don't know what's going on |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my wife [29 F] of over a year (been together for 10)..need advice on another woman in my life
POST: I've known my wife for 10 years and loved her since the first day we met. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, we're planning to have kids in the next few years. I have no doubts, and consider myself one of the luckiest guys in the world. To this day, she is the best thing to happen to to me in my life...without a doubt.
Annnd, here's the "but." She has a really low libido...and I'm really not satisfied with our sex life. She has body issues. I recently asked a buddy out of all our female friends (we were both married, drunk and joking conversation), "if you weren't married, who you most like to bang?" He said my wife with no questions asked. We have a number of gorgeous and younger female friends.
I've tried everything. She won't go talk to a therapist, couples counseling etc. She knows I'm not getting what I need sexually, but it is so hung up about her body (she is smokin'...everyone agrees).
Ok, here's where it gets complicated. I've become close with a female friend over some time. We discuss sex sometimes. She'd be open to joining me and my wife. And flat out getting physical with just me. I actually have a deep, friendship based love for her...but recently have become really attracted to her. We've both come to grips that in another universe we would be together. Oh, btw, this friend is a model (like an actual model...)
I don't want to risk ever losing my wife or ruining something for a mistake. I don't really want to cheat. I'm just really struggling with not having my needs met. The whole Dan savage concept of allowing the partner to step out if the other is not satisfying the other's needs sounds potential. If I mentioned this to my wife, it would break her heart.
I just need some advice...anyone else been in this situation? Thoughts??
TL;DR: | Married to wonderful woman...my sexual needs aren't being satisfied...female friend would help the situation for us..but I don't want to hurt or ever lose my wife. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Are there any charities that assist with medical bills?
POST: My family is quite poor, and we just found out that my dad has to have surgery on his kidneys, or they will fail. He has several kidney stones and cysts in both kidneys, including a stone that is over 8mm (which is too large to pass). If he doesn't have the surgery to correct this very soon, his kidneys will fail, and he will need a transplant. I found an estimate for each surgery, and the procedure to remove the stones and cysts would be about $30,000, and a transplant would be about $400,000. We would have absolutely no hope of paying $30,000, let alone $400,000, but at the same time, we can't afford to wait for very long. Are they any charities that assist in paying medical bills for individuals in need?
TL;DR: | My dad needs surgery and there's no way we can pay. Looking for charities that help with individuals' medical bills. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Advice with spending extended amounts of time with LDR SO
POST: Good day, r/Relationships
Me: 22m, her 19f. Currently in a temporary long distance relationship while we're studying abroad in the same country.
I've been to visit her twice, the first time for three weeks and the second for 5 days. For the first visit, after the first week and a half, things started going downhill (Small, insignificant things irked the daylights out of me). Tried again a month later, but the same thing happened after three or four days.
When we're not physically together, everything is peachy. We text, email, and Skype daily, no real problems, and we're all lovey dovey. But when we're together for semi long periods of time, things tend to break down.
Our current theory is that we're spending too much time in only each other's presence. Yes, we'd go out for walks or to eat and such, but we always did everything *together*. Once we're back in the States, we'll have plenty of opportunities to have breaks from each other (we attend the same university).
I'm just wondering if you all think there are other possible reasons behind things breaking down when we're physically together but otherwise fairly great when we're apart. Advice would be wonderful.
TL;DR: | In a temporary LDR and things are just about perfect when we're physically separated but things go downhill when we're face-to-face for extended periods of time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Help! Me [24 M] with my [24 F] 7 month relationship. Sometimes I do things (go to the park, mall) even though I have no time because if not she'll do it with one of her male friends.
POST: Hello everyone,
I have a beautiful GF (I am truly a lucky guy) that has a lot of male friends. I am in professional school and she is in undergrad. There has been occasions that she asks me if I want to hangout and I've said no and I'll text her later and she tells me she is doing that activity with one of her friends (no one in specific but it is always a male friend). The thing is that most of her male friends have admitted to her that they like her. My issue is that sometimes I say yes to her to hangout, even though I have no time, just so she doesn't go hang out with these guys that are clearly in for something else. What should I do?
TL;DR: | Gone out with beautiful girl for 7 months. Sometimes I do things I dont have time to do because if not she'll do it with one of her male friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21F] break up with my SO [23M] of 2 years? We love each other, but he doesn't love himself.
POST: So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, and I've just come to realize we aren't meant for each other. I love him with all my heart. I want what's best for him and for him to be happy, which I think is part of what is making this so hard. I know he loves me too, I just also know he doesn't love himself, which is hard on our relationship.
**A little back story:**
He had a bad childhood, so I understand where it comes from, but it's definitely been a hindrance in our relationship. He seems to be content with blaming his childhood for his problems and just accepts that they wont go away. He doesn't try to be happy. I personally think he needs therapy, but he would never go. He's had a therapist before, and he refused to talk with them. I know him well enough to know that that wont change if he goes again now.
**And onto now..**
I've tried being there for him, and I've tried to make him realize that it isn't all bad. That people care for him and love him and that things can, and will get better if he lets them. He just doesn't seem to want to accept that. I think out of fear. I totally completely understand all of this, and I still want to be there for him. With all my heart I want to be there for him. I just can't date him like this. I'm not happy, and I know he isn't either. I just don't know how to break up with him. In my head I know it's the right thing, but in my heart I don't want to leave him. It's best, but it's hard to break up when you love each other. I just know it's also hard to be happy and in truly in love in a relationship, if you aren't happy or in love with yourself too. I don't know how to let go of our relationship. It's not something I do easily.
TL;DR: | How do you break up with someone when loving each other just isn't enough? He loves me, and I him, but he doesn't love himself and it's straining our relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Kirby vacuum revenge
POST: Greetings. New subscriber, and thought it only appropriate to contibute one of my own petty revenge stories.
After losing my job, I was having trouble finding employment. So when I found a job selling Kirby vaccuums, I kinda ignored the warning signs. My job ended up being a road guy. People would respond to flyers and ask for a free demonstration. I would drive to their house, do a demonstration of the vaccuum, then hand things over to the sales person that would arrive later.
Well after a week, I had only done around 5-6 demonstrations. I was constantly sent to homes 45 minutes to an hour away, and more often than not, there was no answer to my knocks. Combined with the fact that they weren't reimbursing me with gas money, I was starting to get pissed and my bank account was being funneled into my gas tank. Then finally, I get a demonstration for a woman who seems genuinely interested. So I do my best demonstration yet, and then hand things off to the salesperson. Now the demonstraters make money based on how much the salesperson sells the unit for. Starting price for the unit was $2300. if the unit sold for less than $1500, demonstrater doesn't get anything. So you could understand my rage when after a week of failed demos and driving all over town, the salesperson drops the price to $1500 as soon as the woman says "$2300 seems a bit high..."
At this point I'm pissed. Then my chance comes. They allow us to take a few units home for the weekend to demo for our families and such. So that weekend, I get friends and family to pay me to shampoo their homes (in all honestly, the machines ARE great, just extremely overpriced), and then on Monday morning, about 3 hours before the office opens, I pack up all the Kirbys in their boxes without cleaning a single one. Carpet strings and hair in the brushes, dirty soapy water in the resevior, dried shampoo all over the front of the machine, etc, drop them off in front of the office, and leave. Got a new job a week later and havent heard from Kirby since.
TL;DR: | Crap job makes me spend my own money to drive all over town on bad leads, then screws me when I finally get an interested customer. They get thier units returned uncleaned after a weekend of heavy use. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: So, I've never done this and I don't know if this will help, but I recently moved back in with my mom and her alcoholic,controlling, and mentally abusive boyfriend. I'm at a loss for what to do.
POST: So the story goes:
I graduated college and got a job that is contract and therefore I am not 100% of being hired on. Therefore, I moved back in with my mom and her boyfriend. Now this guy is, sort of alright when sober, like he's never much of a dick and actually listens (to some extent) when I speak with him. He talks about how much he really cares for my mother and what he would do for her.
Ok, all sounds good there. But he drinks, drinks heavily. Every single night. This is when he flip-turns. He isn't abusive in a physical manner. He has never laid hands on us, but he treats my mom like shit. He belittles her, controls her, has destroyed her credit, and well, you get the jist.
In a normal case, I would have just told the guy off, and that might have been it. But this guy, is an ex-Marine with many guns and a short temper. One of his kids told me how he used to beat the shit out of him in the past. This scares me the most. It's the uncertainty, and I simply have NO fucking clue what to do in this situation because cops cannot be involved without anything having already happened.
TL;DR: | Mom and I live with a mentally abusive,ex-marine, alcoholic, who has destroyed my mother's credit and I have no clue how to help her out of this situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25 M] just started dating [20's F] 3 dates. Her grandpa just died.
POST: Relevant background info:
I've never dated anyone before. I used to be a douchy "pick-up-artist" who went out and got laid all the time. My previous 3 ex-gf's were all hook-ups that just became exclusive, but we never really dated. It was very un-fulfilling, so I took some time off of women and worked on myself: reading, doing martial arts, working out, I went back to college, etc...
About 4 months ago, I decided I wanted to try dating. Proper dating. I went out with a few women, but just never clicked with anyone. I never made it past the first date. Until now.
The situation:
My co-worker set me up with one of her friends two weeks ago. I've been on three dates with this women, and I'm completely infatuated with her. Things were going very well and I really enjoyed her company (just being around her). I even got nervous and a little awkward with her at times, which is unusual for me.
So, we were txting on Sunday, and things seemed to be going fine. I asked her on Monday if she would have lunch with me on Tuesday, and she responded saying her grandpa died that morning and she couldn't make it. I offered my condolences and left it at that.
I feel really sorry for her and her family's loss, and I haven't talked to her since. I want to give her time to grieve. I really don't know what to do at this point. Dating is new ground for me.
Also, I've been lucky enough to have not yet lost someone close to me. So I don't know how that feels.
I was thinking about texting her in a few days to say I was thinking about her and I hope she and her family are doing ok, all things considered. Is that ok, or is it creepy/unacceptable?
TL;DR: | No real relationship history. Been on 3 dates. I'm infatuated. Her grandpa died. Don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26f] with my FWB [27m]. Not sure if I should tell him why I'm going to stop talking to him
POST: So I've been hanging out with this guy from Tinder.
It was going really nicely, he was super sweet and affectionate but it turns out he didn't want a relationship and since I'm okay with being FWB, it's going down that road instead.
However, he's been acting really distant lately and I'm feeling more like a hook up than a friend. Like, he won't text me unless it's to hang out and last time, he got a little pushy and I didn't like it. Like, just randomly sticking his dick at my mouth the morning after, and he kept grabbing my hand and putting it on his dick. He didn't want to touch me, it was just for him. And as soon as we were done, he left.
Soooo I'm not going to hang out with him anymore because he said he wanted to be my friend and he's not acting like a friend would. We don't hang out unless it's to go over each other's places. I'll text him and I won't get a response until hours/a day later.
He's the one who pushed so hard to stay friends when I wanted to cut things off during an argument.
But I don't know if I should just ignore all of his messages now or if I should tell him he wasn't being a decent friend and that I am no longer interested in talking with him. I asked to hang out and he hasn't even responded so it's like, he only wants to hang when *he's* in the mood to fuck.
So I'm not going to text him anymore but should I respond and tell him he's a bad friend when he eventually texts me or should I just ghost on him?
TL;DR: | FWB" is treating me more like a booty call. No longer interested since he's treating me more like a thing to fuck than a friend. Should I tell him he's being an asshole or should I just ghost? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [38M] and my partner [22NB] are falling out over his furniture, collections and pets when we look to moving in together.
POST: Me and my partner have been dating since he was 16 (I know some people would find that to be in poor taste but we love each other) he identifies as non binary but still uses he pronouns because it's easier. He's currently at university in the city I work in studying product design and he's looking into toy design as a career. This and some other quirks of his are putting strain on us when we look to moving in together.
He's been passively collecting toys since he was about 14 and has amassed a lot. While I don't mind any of them I do not want them in our bedroom which means when looking into homes we need a 3 bedroom house so he can have a hobby room and I can have an office, and while I'm quite well off and his parents want to help with the deposit we're struggling to afford it.
He also loves vintage furniture and has quite a lot of it in storage, and I've seen it all and think most of it's hideous. I'd rather have a modern home but I know it'll break his heart if I have to shatter his dream of a vintage, pastel wonderland he's built up in his head. I have mentioned to him a couple of times that I'd rather stick to modern, but I feel as though I need to put my foot down and say no to his stuff, without upsetting him.
Finally, I want rid of his animals. He has a small dog, a hedgehog and a tortoise all of which essentially get free roam of his flat and I like none of them. His dog is an absolute rat, and I'm sure he loves the hedgehog and tortoise more than me. I know deep down if I demand he gets rid of the animals the relationship will end but the thought of waiting out their deaths with him doting on them every waking moment is enough to make me insane.
How on earth can I let him down on all three of these things without totally wrecking our relationship? Any help at all is appreciated.
TL;DR: | My much younger partner has ugly furniture in storage, annoying pets and needs a hobby room. I want to let him down gently on any of these things existing in our home together but I think he'll end it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Life in shambles, lost my job, lost my apartment, no car, no savings. How do I move forward?
POST: Recently, I was involved in a motor accident, and because my job relied on transportation, I was fired from my job, lost my apartment because I didn't have any savings, and now I'm living in rural Texas with my brother.
He's let me use his truck for the time being, and I've been able to find work at McDonalds, working 40 hours a week, with the exception that I can't drive anywhere but work, since the truck has nothing but liability insurance on it.
So far as my financial situation: I have 100$ in a paypal account, I'm currently awaiting my first check to put back, after paying my brother and paying for my cigarettes, I might have about 300$.
I don't have insurance, health or otherwise, I haven't done taxes in a couple years since I've moved so often and lost my w-2's.
TL;DR: | I need help getting a car and insurance, I need help finding a place that I can afford, I need help saving, I need help surviving really. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28F] with my Boyfriend [21M] of 2 Years, He's Talking to Other Girls
POST: I'm worried that my boyfriend might be cheating on me, he's been working at a coffee shop for the past year and most of his coworkers are girls. I was kind of skeptical about that at first because I was worried he might become friends with them outside of work, which has happened. They don't hang out often, but I've found conversations between him and this one girl texting back and forth for hours. In their conversation this girl suggested that he get a Snapchat, he had one before that I got him to delete because I didn't want other girls talking to him and stuff on it. I'm suspicious as to why this girl would want him to get Snapchat when they can just talk via text anyways. I let him have female friends as long as they only hang out in groups, but I'm not okay with the whole texting thing. The texts weren't sexual or flirtatious but I feel kind of disrespected that he'd have private conversations with another girl while he's supposed to be my boyfriend.
How should I go about bringing this up to him without him thinking I'm being controlling or jealous? I think that he may have deleted some other conversations with her too because it's odd that they just randomly start texting for hours without having texted prior. He hasn't told me much about this girl and he seems to purposely hide it from me, which makes me really upset. I don't want to control him or who he can be friends with but I feel kind of threatened by these other girls and I'm just watching out for him. What should I do?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend is talking to another girl who works with him, and hangs out with her. I don't approve of it and I think he's hiding their text conversations from me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [27M] boyfriend broke up with me [24F] over a week ago and took me to stay with his family for that week and left on vacation without talking to me about the baby I am carrying. Should I just leave him alone and walk away from him for good or should I let him know what my plans are for this baby?
POST: To get some background my now ex and I dated for almost 2 years and he broke up with me about a week ago and told me he wanted me out of the apartment by the time he came back from his vacation which is 30days from now. After breaking he took me to stay with his family for that week before he left and made it seem that he still cared but when we said goodbye at the airport he was cold and distant.
Before we left to see his family I told him I was pregnant. I figured that since we broke up we could talk about it peacefully and without fighting. I was pregnant before and I lost the baby because of the amount of stress he put me threw. My plan is to keep the baby and that is something I wanted to talk to him about but he refused to bring the topic up. The only time he mentioned it was when he got drunk and woke his parents up in the middle of the night to tell them.
I don't know if I should contact him while he is away or wait until he is back or if I should walk away all together?
TL;DR: | boyfriend broke up with me don't know if I should contact him about the baby I am carrying or if I should walk away all together? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Not sure if I can run my first 20 mile run in my marathon training plan. What to do?
POST: Last week I went with a friend to an ice skating rink. I don't know how to ice skate, so I clung to the rail and gingerly pulled myself once around the rink before climbing out and very happily watching him skate his heart out. But, about 2 feet before I got off the ice my knee bent backwards. Just slightly, and there wasn't much pain and no lingering pain. This was Sunday. Tuesday I had some light pain which went away quickly, intervals on Wednesday were fine, sharp pain on Thursday which quickly subsided. But Thursday night I experienced some heavy soreness and discomfort going down stairs.
To be clear, this is pain in the back of my knee. There is no swelling and it's not tender to the touch. It just aches sometimes, and when I first start running it hurts when my left foot hits the ground, but after a couple minutes it feels fine.
I was determined to get through this 20 mile run tomorrow; the weather is going to be perfect, I have an awesome route all planned out, I've even planned out what I'll eat the rest of the day. But, after my 3 mile run just now, which left me with some soreness in the back of my knee, it occurred to me that I have to balance whether running tomorrow will increase my fitness or exacerbate what is clearly an injury, if only a minor one.
My marathon is 8 weeks from tomorrow. Tomorrow would be my first of three 20 mile runs. I'm leaning now towards skipping the run, but what should I do instead? Should I just omit that and move on with the low mileage week? Should I ramp up the mileage a bit compared to the schedule? Next week is supposed to have 3 instead of 2 days off, and a long run of 12 miles.
I feel like I could get through the run, and if it were my marathon I would go for it. But I don't want to make a small issue into a big thing that's going to keep me off my feet for a month. Help?
TL;DR: | Possible minor injury to the back of my knee, first of 3 20 mile training runs is tomorrow, marathon is 8 weeks away. If I can't run tomorrow, what does that mean for the rest of my training schedule? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF [27F] broke up with me [31M] last night after 11 months, need help on how to avoid ruining future relationships
POST: So a little background about me is in order.
I'm a heterosexual 31M and I have very little romantic/relationship experience. Until the relationship that just ended, the longest relationship I've ever had was 2 weeks and it barely even counts as one. I tend to be afraid to approach women and feel awkward doing so, and while I don't have low self-esteem in other areas of my life, I do lack sexual and romantic confidence.
My GF [27F] broke up with me last night after being together for 11 months. It wasn't a sudden breakup; the issues leading up to the break were apparent for months beforehand. Now, there were numerous problems with our relationship, but the one that essentially damaged it irreparably was the fact that, due to my lack of sexual confidence, when she would not be interested in sex, I would feel hurt and take it personally. Eventually this led to her wanting to have sex less often, which led to me feeling more hurt, complaining about how our sex life is dying, etc. And it just snowballed into the relationship ending.
The truth is, neither of us really wanted the relationship to end but neither of us could think of a way to repair it after the damage that had been done. Anything I do now to fix it will be interpreted through the lens of trying to pressure her into sex, and I think it may be difficult if not impossible for me to resolve my issues regarding sex and approval while in a relationship.
I know I am responsible for handling myself properly, and I probably wouldn't have handled the situation in such a blatantly poor manner if this weren't my first long term relationship. I think I wanted sex for approval, which isn't healthy. What I need help with is; how do I become more sexually confident so that the next time I am in a relationship, the same thing doesn't happen again?
TL;DR: | GF broke up with me because I complained about a lack of sex, how can I make myself stop seeking sex for approval? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my FIL [64M] and SIL [26F] Making our lives [29f/35M] a living hell
POST: My husband and I stayed away from his family for many years but we ended up needing help when we lost our jobs and I became hurt. My husband has also been dealing with severe back problems his whole life and it's only gotten worse. He can not longer sit, stand or sleep for extended periods of time which makes working impossible. We moved in with them until his dad lost it and made a scene at my nephews birthday because my husband can't drive a truck like he wants him to. We moved in with my brother in law's family...unfortunately the land lord is my father in law :(
I had surgery on my arm in January and wasn't allowed to lift or drive for two weeks. My sister in law started verbally attacking me every time I left the room...I didn't say anything but left in early February and went to stay with my mom. This broke my husbands heart because he didn't know what was happening. The whole time my FIL was sending me emails telling me to divorce my husband to teach him a lesson
So fast forward I'm back home and resuming treatment when once again my sister in law starts freaking out threatening to kill my dog. This time I calmly walked upstairs and told my husband...and he immediately goes to my defense. My sister in law calls my FIL and we are given 30 days to get out.
My workers comp case is coming to an end next month when they give me a disability rating. It couldn't be worse timing...so I call my 90 year aunt who agrees to let us stay until I find something else....Then the phone call comes today :
She said that she doesn't want to be part of family drama and withdraws her offer...my FIL made a visit after church on Sunday. I don't know what was said but it must have been convincing.
TL;DR: | FIL is sabotaging our lives out of spite because we wont do as he says. Wants us to be homeless to teach us a lesson. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Broke up w GF, hooked up w friend, want to get back w GF. Tell GF about FWB??
POST: Hey Reddit, I'm a mid 20sM that dated a mid 20sF for 1.5years. I broke up w/ her because I was unhappy with the way she was treating me emotionally, despite my heart breaking even moreso because of it. I did what I needed to in order to try and recover; gym, no contact, etc. 6 months later, It still hasn't worked and I feel like I need to speak to her so I went to visit her after she got off work. Long story short, there may be a chance for us to get back together. Here's the catch: I slept with one of my friends a few times in the process of trying to get over my ex. This happened almost a month ago and isn't happening anymore because I realize I wanted my ex back. Is this something that morally/ethically/whatever should be brought up if my ex and I are to be back together again? Is it relevant? Why do I feel guilty about having done this with my friend? Should I feel guilty about not mentioning this, or not? I feel like I'm supposed to bring it up, but a buddy of mine says it's not even relevant because we weren't together and we should only be concerned about the two of us, not what happened when we weren't together. Pls help! I don't want to be a scumbag, but I also don't want my ex's feelings to get hurt. And maybe I'm also afraid she'll change her mind about us possibly getting back together if she finds out? And maybe I'm afraid she'll ban me from being friends with my friend if we still get back together? Did I mess up??
TL;DR: | Broke up w/ ex, hooked up w/ friend, want to get back together with ex. Tell ex about hookups? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my GF [18 F] of a year. Libido differences and body image issues?
POST: So, my girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 14 months now, and have gotten along great without any major conflicts. However, something has arisen. About a month ago, we moved in together, fleeing from an abusive family. I've discovered that her sex drive is far higher than mine, with her being so horny it literally hurts upwards of 3-4 times a day, whereas I usually only get a hard-on once or twice a day. I know you're probably thinking, "Just eat her out" or "Why can't she just masturbate?" I would just do something for her with no reciprocation, but it's starting to get in the way of other activities to the point where sometimes I miss events with friends or family or get behind on stuff I need to get done because I'm doing stuff for her. She also doesn't masturbate because, even though she owns a vibrator, she feels awkward by herself and prefers me to be there. You might think "Why not just tell her no?" Well, the thing is, we got her out of an abusive family, where her mother forced her to stay very underweight, body shamed her, and withheld food to keep her weight down. She is incredibly paranoid about her body image, and about losing me, to the point where if I say no, she gets very emotional and starts to think I find her unattractive or don't love her. I love her to death, and couldn't think of leaving her, but we both recognize a problem here and are stressed out over what to do.
TL;DR: | My GF wants sex all the time, even when it's an inconvenience, and can't do it alone, and gets very hurt if I refuse her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by thinking a brother and sister were dating.
POST: This happened just last night, right before the midnight screening of Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Me and a few mates had taken our seats in the cinema and a couple of guys and a girl we knew were sitting below us, with two of them being brother and sister (I didn't know they were siblings of course).
Me being the little shit I am, I make a joke to the friend who isn't one of the siblings saying "third wheeling there I see?" and then he says very loudly in response. "THAT'S HIS SISTER."
My friends burst into laughter, both the brother and his sister look at me very fucking weirdly and I knew that I had fucked up very, very badly. I also might add that his sister was extremely hot, making the situation a whole lot worse...
TL;DR: | assumed a brother and sister were dating (didn't know they were siblings), made joke to guys friend about him third wheeling. yells out that his friend and the girl are siblings and made myself look like a jackass. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [M 23] really like this girl [F 23], and I just don't know what to do.
POST: I've hooked up with her last summer and things just didn't really follow through. I wasn't looking for a relationship and she still was hung up on her ex so we just had casual sex and hung out for a month and it was pretty great. I truly feel connected with her and I ended up really liking her.
After this period, we went our separate ways until about 3 months later I texted her drunk at a halloween party. We met up a few weeks later. She came over, I cooked her dinner and we talked. I told her I still like her, I'm over these other girls and I that I wanted to start fresh with her and see where it takes us. We end up in my room after, more similar talking, we kissed a lot, there was touching, but no sex. She slept over and left to work in the morning.
Lots of mixed messages after this, she said she was down to start fresh, but changed her mind rather abruptly. We haven't really talked but I saw her today after a month or two. I met up with her at our school's library and mannnnnnn. Everytime I see her I get just get some kind of rush... I want her. When she left just now, I said "Make time for me if you get a chance" she casually said "I'll think about it" as she walked away. I want to tell her I still like her, but she probably knows, do you think that? Even if I did tell her I did, I don't think she'll say anything. Idk. I'm just indecisive sometimes and was hoping I could get some advice. Thanks for reading
TL;DR: | Girl I used to hook up with is someone I really like, I just want her to be in life again as more than just a friend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [26m]Talking to [22F] but she's sort of in a relationship?
POST: Well, Ill start off by saying I'm an inexperienced dater. I've literally gone on one date in my life. I could have been on more but I pushed them aside because I was pursuing this girl. But, anyways, I've been talking to this girl for a few weeks now. I'm really into her. I'm physicly attracted, we have a ton in common...I just feel good when I'm with her. She has also told me the same thing.
However, here's the catch. I'm stupid for getting myself into this...I know it, but I just think she's amazing. About 3-4 months before I met her I was hanging out with a group of friends. One of them happened to be her close friend and I witnessed her asking another one of our friends if he was interested in a strictly sex "friends with benefits" situation.
So I started talking to this girl knowing she has a "friend with benefits". The whole point of this post is shes told me "if you would've met me 4 months ago I would've said yes. I find you cute, and we clearly click. I just don't know what to do because I would be a dick to just cut off "fuckbuddy" and I do have some feelings for him".
I figured I had a shot because I knew they weren't dating technically. I told her this and she replied "I'm not going to reject you because that would be saying I'm 100% not interested, which is not true. I just don't know what to do. I'm not saying you and I could never happen, but not right now". She goes on to say how she knows leading me on is wrong, but it is really how she feels.
We've hung out together since (nothing sexual) and she continues to initiate. Always msgs me, invites me out, etc.
It's kinda tearing me up. I'm thinking I just move on, but it's so tough!
TL;DR: | shes told me she has feelings for me but has a "fuckbuddy" complicating things. She continues to initiate, but still wont date me. What to do reddit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] with my work crush [24 M] beginning a real relationship
POST: There is this wonderful guy I work with who I've had my eye on since the beginning of this year (I work at a school, so we just started back in August). I have slowly been trying to get to know him and talk to him more and more at school, just establishing a friendship at first.
One of the obstacles is that I am painfully awkward and am not really skillful at navigating relationships. One of the pluses, though, is that he is a pretty awkward (and adorable) person too. I have been psyching myself up to talk to him this much already. I would like to take things a step up, but I'm not sure how to initiate anything myself.
It's been years since I've been in a relationship and even then, it was with my HS sweetheart, so we didn't need much groundwork. I'm not really sure how to go about beginning a relationship with someone I've only known for a short amount of time.
Is there something that I could do to see if he wants a relationship as well? And would that something also prevent me from getting my soul crushed if he rejects me?
TL;DR: | Becoming friends with the wonderful guy from work, even though it's hard. What can I do to step it up and see if he wants a relationship too? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23 M] need to find out if this girl [21 F] is actually interested in me or if she's just jerking me around
POST: We were talking for a while last summer, but she ended up in a relationship with a dude she was involved with before I met her, so I figured that was that.
But, for the past month or a little before Christmas anyway she's been all over everything I post on Facebook. She's also been posting all this forlorn shit that occasionally is obviously referring to unhappiness she feels in her relationship.
Honestly, I don't really want any attention from her if she is not actually romantically interested in me. I feel like she should understand this already but I guess not. How can I talk to her about this in a way that sets the record straight but where I don't, yknow, come across as an asshole?
TL;DR: | need to talk to this girl who has a boyfriend to find out if she's actually in to me or if she just wants attention, without seeming like a dick about it |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: TIRealized that I have befriended most of the kids who have bullied me in the past. Has anyone had or heard of a similar experience?
POST: I have been a geek/dork/nerd throughout all my school life (only being 19 now) but I remember being bullied only a few times. But my BFF just reminded me of some few instances and I realized that all those kids that were assholes, they are now friends/acquaintances of mine.
The majority of these instances happened in only a couple grades as I was pretty shy when I was younger, before 5th grade, and had only a couple true friends I hung out with (it helped that we were neighbors.) I had some annoying bullying in 6th grade, being an Indian vegetarian didn't help my cause... But then I left schools and went to a technology middle school for 7 and 8, WE WERE THE KINGS! Going through 9th grade I felt great, but looking back I realize that those hot girls in my class were really just making fun of me, but they have been friendly with me and Facebook friends since my 11th grade year. 10th also seemed fine as I started being more outgoing and obtaining more friends. 11th grade I joined the Drama department (backstage and technical), met a love in my life, and made some life long friends, and really started to be more friendly and out going. continued into my 12th grade year, got into pro photography and videography, did a lot of work for the school, befriended the entire administration, and kids respected me for being the resident computer-fix-it.
Also, I was president of the Engineering club, VP of rocketry club, did FBLA, and a few other things. I did 1 year of Cross Country.
TL;DR: | I've been a nerd my whole live and have experienced bullying. Those bullies are now friends of mine. Similar experiences? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: To salvage, or to move on?
POST: I've been in a relationship for 2 years now (I'm 21, he's 22) with someone I can now call my very best friend. Our jobs kept us apart this summer, and while I have always been faithful to him, during my time away from him I happened to meet another guy (20) I got along with. We have more in common than my boyfriend and I, and we instantly connected and formed a close friendship. One minute we were the best of friends sharing a laugh over something stupid, and the next we were hooking up.
We both developed feelings for each other, but knew nothing would come out of it because he had a girlfriend back home, and I had my boyfriend waiting for me. I'm still friends with this new guy even though we decided to end the affair, and still talk often. He won't be around me once the summer ends because I'll be heading back home, but we plan on keeping in touch and he plans to visit me and other friends who live near me.
I feel my options are:
1. Come clean with my boyfriend, probably break up, and try to pursue a friendship
2. Pretend it never happened, return to my relationship and work on salvaging it
3. Break up with boyfriend, but avoid the truth to ensure he stays a close friend
Reddit, I know I'm a terrible person for this, but it felt right. I felt like I connected with someone so strongly, and would have been a fool to let it go. So...what should I do?
TL;DR: | cheated on boyfriend of 2 years and had summer fling, but can't decide what to do with relationship now that the affair is over. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The guy that I've been dating (31M), has just told me (25F) that he is a serial cheater. Stay with him or cut my losses?
POST: I've been seeing this lovely guy for about a month. It's early days, but we get along incredibly well and have similar interests, lifestyles, and aspirations.
The other day he wanted to have a conversation regarding where the relationship was going. He said that he was interested in pursuing an exclusive relationship, but that he wanted to disclose some information before we agreed to anything. It turns out that he has cheated on most of his previous partners. Usually the 'other women' have been strangers, though on occasion they have been with his friends, or his SO's friends at the time.
He said that the reason he was telling me was because he was actively trying to change his behaviour, and wanted to be honest about his past. Judging from the conversation, his motivations for cheating appear to stem from boredom. He did however state that the first couple of times, he did it just to 'see whether he could get her.'
So - now I find myself in a strange position. He hasn't given me any cause for concern up until this point. We get along well, and he's one of the few men that I have met that I feel as though I am compatible with in terms of personality. I respect that he is trying to work through his issues, and that he was upfront about his past.
On the other hand, I also don't want to continue into a relationship where there is a higher likelihood that he will cheat. I believe that I get slightly jealous in relationships, and I don't know if the element of trust will remain over the long term. I may just end up second-guessing everything he says to me. Having said that, I also don't want to let my prejudice or the mere chance of cheating happening to prevent something really positive.
At this point, I'm leaning towards breaking off the relationship. While I know that this may deter him from sharing his past with other future partners, I'm not sure that I am emotionally mature enough to handle this. Am I being an idiot?
TL;DR: | Great guy reveals that he is a serial cheater. Considering breaking off the relationship because I'm too scared to get my heart broken. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, can I leave my high school early if I am already enrolled in college?
POST: Right now, my school is a very unhealthy place. I'm not one to shorthand academics, but my school is out of control, and with just a half semester (45) days left in my senior year, it would be pointless for me to transfer.
So far this year, students have had to deal with construction all around us, ceilings falling in, open wires, asbestos, and the latest goodie, CO poisoning, where 35+ kids including me went to the emergency room and tested positive for it. It's essentially the shittiest year I've ever had in school, and I'm sick of it. They also have not resolved the CO problem, and I whilst I had a 2.0 level, someone went home friday with a 7.6.
On top of all this, the teachers are in a struggle with the school board, who all proposed to freeze the teachers pay grades for two years, after already having been frozen for one year. They were going to strike, but decided against it. They school board did authorize teacher layoffs, and a lot of my teachers are looking for jobs at school districts around us, to be prepared.
Link for those interested:
Now, I have all of my credits except for 1 math credit, and I have perfect grades and a clean record, not even any detentions. I am enrolled in college, the full deal, FAFSA complete, I'm everything but there.
So tell me Reddit, is there some way I can just be released from high school? I'm planning on living a healthy life.
TL;DR: | My highschool is the worst excuse of a school I have ever seen, and I want to get out and go to college. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [31m] roommate [27m] is a terrified virgin. Could really use some female perspective on the matter.
POST: So without going into crazy detail - my roommate is a 27 year old virgin - which honestly isn't that big a deal.
The issue is the fear and opinions he has about relationships - which have caused him more anxiety and pain than he would like to admit.
He has never had a girlfriend, has trouble talking to women, and can't motivate himself to try and open up to people who immediately doesn't identify with (he loves anime/videogames - wants a girl who loves both).
In his life his parents struggled with some infidelity issues - which brought his stepdad into his life (whom he hates with a seething passion) - so basically he has equated sex to a forever binding act which should never be tainted or shared between anyone who isnt pledging their lives to each other (not a bad thing) - until he informed us that having sex with a girl in any other manner (pre-marriage) is disrespectful to the woman - regardless of if she is interested/consenual with a less than marriage relationship.
I'd really like some female perspective - I've tried to explain the importance of the physical portion of the relationship, but it has been built up so much in his mind that it literally is preventing him from even trying to connect with females on any level of friendship/interest. I find it pretty disturbing that he truly believes it is disrespectful for a guy to have sex with his girlfriend because his parents got divorced. I would love to show him some opinions from women - as he thinks he truly understands what women want, despite never sharing time/experiences/love with them.
TL;DR: | my bro wants a model/gamer/anime wife, has never banged it out ever - as a result, has become emotionally disabled/crippled. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Comcast wont send me my final bill, can I dispute the collection claim?
POST: Hi guys, back 3-4 years ago I used to have Comcast. I now have Time Warner but anyways, I've been trying to improve my credit. On my credit report it shows I owe $352 to Comcast. This is not the only thing that showed up that was sent to collections. I also owed Progressive, and a few others. Anyways every single company ive called up and asked to send some sort of paperwork that shows what I owe. Every company ive called gladly obliged and sent a final bill.
So now the only company I owe money to is Comcast. Now I'm not sure what I should do. I don't wanna blindly pay for something without knowing if its correct. After seeing all of this stuff on Reddit about Comcast. I called up Comcast and they pretty much told me they cannot discuss what the $352 is. I even tried logging in my Comcast account and some automated system said since my account was behind I cannot log in online and needed to call Comcast instead. I know I was 2 months behind, however my monthly bill from Comcast was only $29. So if I was 2 months behind that would put me at $60. I returned all the equipment.
TL;DR: | I wanna do is pay the money I owe to Comcast to improve my credit score, because in honesty I do owe them money. However they wont send me a bill that explains how exactly I owe them $352 |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Found bottle of genital herpes medicine in my boyfriend of two years stuff, tells me he will leave me if I don't drop it
POST: Basically what it sounds like. His roommates have been playing pranks on each other lately like 'icing' each other, so he had me search his room for him last night while we were both already really drunk. I was looking through his drawers when I felt something that seemed like a bottle and pulled it out and it was medicine from Planned Parenthood. I was like huh whats this? and he immediately goes I don't know and took the bottle and left the room. I started looking it up online, I wasn't suspicious just genuinely curious because we are so open with each other and I never really thought anything of it. He comes back in the room and sees what I'm doing and tells me to fucking stop right now, and that I should just 'trust him this one time'. So I go to bed really confused and hurt and worried, because when I looked the medicine up it said it is used to treat chickenpox, shingles, or genital herpes. So today I text him saying hey can I talk to you about something without upsetting you? And he says 'no, this means enough to me that if you don't drop it I will leave you.'
I am literally stunned. I love this person and I wouldn't leave them if something was actually wrong, it just worries me they wont even talk about it to me. The bottle was full though, and I didn't think to look if it was from his home town or our college town (implying it is really old). I don't think he would ever risk giving me herpes, we've been together for a long time, he 'loves' me, and we have plans to move in together when we graduate college in a semester, but I feel like this changes things so much.
He was very promiscuous before we met, and slept around, but from what I know and how our relationship started he always uses condoms (not 100% effective) and I was the girl who helped him 'settle down', so part of me is really hoping that he slept with some girl, found out she had something, got the medicine because he was scared, then got tested and doesn't have it and this is just a pride thing.
TL;DR: | Found bottle of genital herpes medicine in my boyfriend of two years stuff, tells me he will leave me if I don't drop it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] 6 months, girlfriend dreams about going to same university as online friend
POST: I recently discovered my girlfriend has reignited contact with an old online friend of hers through snapchat. I noticed he was #3 on her bestfriends list and so i thought it right to look more into it.
I asked her about him and apparently he is a friend from Wisconsin who she used to talk a lot to in the past. She really only snapchats me so it wouldnt take much for him to end up on that list but it still irked me.
And then i started thinking about how she talked about a university in the midwest being her dream school. I looked up this guy on facebook and guess what university he goes to?
I was hurt confused and honestly felt like throwing up. She claims its all some coincidence and that she doesnt even know he goes to that university but shes from texas so it just all feels like bullshit. She says her dad used to take her there, he's a truckdriver but again it all seems so fishy.
I want to trust her but it seems like she likes this guy. I mean she says he only snapchatted her him and his girlfriend and they never talk but it just all feels so shitty. She has tons of male friends and its hard not to be jealous when she talks to them.
What can I do?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend wants to go to same univerisity as guy she used to talk to online. She says its a coinicidence, how do i trust her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A cat followed me home. What do?
POST: So i finished off work, parked the taxi at the owners place and i have a 5 minute walk from there to home. I stepped out of the car and noticed a black/greyish cat behind a fence, he followed me to the end of the fence and came close enough for me to pat him.
So i sit down, I pet him for a little while, didnt seem that interested in me i thought. Ran around chasing leaves, came back, got patted, ran around after leaves again.
So i stand up and start walking. Cat starts to follow me, while running off into the woods, coming back, running around me and then off again. Cat follows me all the way home like this..
I open the front door, and go inside. The cat was outside, near the door but didnt try to get in. The meowing when i closed the door almost made me cry manly tears ...
So what do i do now?? Will the cat find his way back to his home? (If he has a home, no collar) Both me and my girlfriend are allergic, already tried having a cat here.. Broke both our hearts when we couldnt have him due to constant tearing and sneezing. The cat that followed me here was a .. "old" kitten. Weather outside is ok. 10 celsius plus and a bit windy, no rain. The cat looked ok, well fed.
TL;DR: | Cat followed me home, has no collar, cant have him inside the house, middle of the night now. what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (Dating) Me (20M) came back from a group trip with (18F). She realized she had uneasy feelings about us.
POST: Hey guys,
So about a month ago I started Talking to a girl named Kacey. This girl is also my co-worker. It started off small, adding each other on social media. Then it very quickly ended up in us staying for 1-2 hours after closing just talking to each other. We talked about all sorts of things, and she was slowly letting me in on her day to day life, with her friends and family. This continued for a week.
The following week we found out that our schedules matched up perfectly and planned out our first date. I decided to take her mini golfing. Buuuuuuuuut that did not go as planned and we ended up at a local yogurt shop. Which ended great, we stayed there for roughly 4 hours talking and joking without end. I was beginning to really like this girl. The rest of week we spent flirting and texting till very late at night.
The 3 week that we were talking we had a trip to a theme park, its something that our company does every year for its employees. During this week our interactions were becoming a lot more physical, tighter hugs, holding hands, ect.
So we get to the park and everything is amazing, we talked, laughed, held hands, she leaned on me while waiting in the line. It was all just fun to be with her that day. In general everything is going great with her. Then on the trip back home, she becomes distant.
She tells me that she feels uneasy about going further with the relationship. She also said she does not feel like she is ready to be a relationship, and that she is dealing with a few personal issues. I told her that i completely understood what she was saying and that I appreciated that she told me this now rather than later. I also told her i could wait for her to be ready, but that I would not wait too long.
But my main question for you guys would be, how do I still show her that I like her, without making things weird for her. I also mentioned that she is a co-worker of mine, and I have full confidence in myself that I will stay professional in the workplace.
TL;DR: | Things were going great but then it turned out she was not ready for a relationship. Which I understand! But it does suck because i really like this girl |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] want to break up with gf [18F] but love her and just really confused. (9 month relationship)
POST: I just really need someone to talk to me, give me advice and whatnot.
Girlfriend for 9 month, she is absolutely the best her heart is made of gold. All my friends say I'm lucky and that she is one in a million.
she really loves me, I love her too but, I just want a break want to experience other things with other girls. I went through this phase before and overcame it ended up loving her more but now I'm back to here again and its just killing me.
I don't want to hurt her, ending up cheating on her.
TL;DR: | dating girl for 9 month, she really loves me, I love her. I just need a break and experience more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (MA) Possible copyright troll letter? How Serious?
POST: My friend runs a little web blog that has some personal musings but is mostly an aggregate of stories from other nerdy places on the web.
Last night he was in a panic because he got a letter from a law firm stating that he had posted copyrighted photographs. And that it was not good enough that he just remove them-- they want him to remove them and then contact them for a "retroactive license" to the photographs .
What he did was basically link to a video on you tube with a cute animal that had been being passed all over the place (facebook, buzzfeed, etc) and then wrote an article with his feelings on the video and included an accompanying picture reiterating his point (the same picture that had being passed around facebook, etc.)
He's concerned because he registered the website in his own name (which they spelled wrong in this demand letter) and he doesn't want to lose his house or something serious over this shit. But I feel like it is a total shakedown. In fact, googling said lawfirm it seems like they send out thousands of these letters every month and people have posted that they "pay them 500 dollars just to make them go away."
He's taken down the pictures, the article, the link, the everything. What should he do now? It isn't a famous animal (not, like, grumpycat) and he actually had some positive interactions over facebook with the family that owned the animal at the time it was going viral (they shared the link to his page and article because they thought it was clever.)
My friend hasn't used the image for anything that would make him money-- he hasn't made tshirts, claimed to own it, or anything like that. It was totally a "look at this cool thing" article.
I say he just ignore it. He has anxiety and is worried and I'd like to put him at ease.
TL;DR: | Lawyers contact friend about an image on his webpage and want $ for a retroactive license. Are they trolls or should he get a lawyer? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by breaking my arm on a table
POST: So this one happened a very long time ago when I was 6.
We were moving out of our old house and I was eating food with a friend from primary (elementary) school. I decided, for whatever reason to make a joke about it being fine (Moving away) to pretend like I was superman.
We just happened to be sitting on those swivel bar stool like things, so I got up and stood on this stool. BAD IDEA. This is obviously where the FU happend, two whole seconds later as I was putting my arms up pretending to be a superhero, I swivel off this 2m high bar stool and land elbow first into a small coffee table, CRACK, my arm broke and I was hospitalized.
Now it even gets a little worse from here, during surgery on my arm, for whatever reason I throw up all over the equipment (whilst being unconscious) and end up having to through go a second operation.
TL;DR: | Broke my arm pretending to be superman on a swivel chair to impress my friend, threw up all over the machines during surgery. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what are some crazy things your teachers told you?
POST: My teacher recently tried to tell us that:
1: Other countries hate America because they are jealous of our freedoms.
2: al-Qaeda uses AK-47s, therefore Russia is supplying them, because Russia invented the AK-47.
3: Russia is still a communist country, which means they hate America, which means they have a motive to supply weapons to al-Qaeda.
4: China built an aircraft similar to ours, which means they copied it. Why did they copy it? Because they were jealous. How did they get the information on how to build it? [Spear phishing] so they can look at the emails with the documents.
She said "Even though the US and Russia are "officially" at peace, it is common for countries to secretly trade like that."
When she said "officially" it was clear she meant it in the same way that two kids who are fighting "officially" make amends when their parents tell them to.
TL;DR: | The world hates 'Murrica because they are jealous of the freedom we have and they don't, China is stealing our blueprints, Russians are communists still, and Russia is supplying al-Qaeda with weapons. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by blowing out a candle like an idiot
POST: So this actually happened today (less than an hour ago actually). I've been blowing candles out at night recently because I've been staying up later than everyone else and the last person up blows the candles out. Tonight being no different, I went into the bathroom and tried to blow out the candle in there. It didn't go out. I was standing at the same distance as normal and blew as hard as I usually do, so I tried again thinking I just blew my air in the wrong spot. Still not out so I blow again but even harder this time. The flame flickers but doesn't go out. Not much time has elapsed by this time, but it's a stupid candle so I'm frustrated and just want it to be out. So I get really close and blow even harder than before. As the flame extinguished, a nice splash of hot wax flew back and covered my face. The moment after it happened I thought to myself, "what were you thinking, you blew incredibly hard on the candle from like 6 inches away". Luckily I was in the bathroom already so I could easily wash the wax off my face. But I do have some facial hair so that was much more of a pain to get off.
TL;DR: | I got really close and blew really hard on a candle to put it out and wax splashed back all over my face. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I need help, people. How do I (18/M) break up with my gf (16/F) of only 3 months? (Details inside)
POST: Ok, I (18/M) need your guys' help. I've only dated this girl (16/F) for about 3 months and she's great.
The only problem is I talked to my ex (18/F), whom I will actually say I still love and care for deeply, and talked to my current gf about it as well. When I talked to my ex, she said that she still loved me as well, but that I need time to figure myself out before I get into a relationship again.
I love my current gf to death, but I'm not IN love with her as I previously thought I was. I've broken up with my last 2 girlfriends and it never gets easier...
I just don't want to hurt her, but I know there's no other way (is there?) I don't want my current gf to think I'm breaking up with her for my ex, because I'm not; I'm doing it for me, which is a problem I've had all my life always putting others before myself, which has always led to me being unhappy. What do I do? What do I say?
TL;DR: | Need to break up with girlfriend to focus on me-time before jumping into a relationship, but don't want to hurt her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [F38] boyfriend [34M] of three months doesn't love me, but says that he's falling in love with me.
POST: I have been dating my boyfriend Brad for three months. We get along great and he's the funniest, sweetest guy I have ever dated. We have a great connection and there are numerous signs that he's serious about me. I've met his parents and friends. It's Facebook official and he openly posts about us. He makes time to see me every day despite our very busy schedules.
He says he cares about me and I'm the most important person in his life. When I told him that I was in love with him, he admitted that he doesn't feel the same way. He says that he's falling in love with me, but he's just not there yet. He says he is a cautious person. He finally said he did love me, but the sincerity just wasn't there.
After a couple of failed relationships, I am feeling like I don't want to invest in something that isn't going anywhere. I want a partner in life. I want to be married. Brad is amazing, but there is definitely an awkwardness between us now. Since I am generally anxious about relationships, I just can't stop worry about where things are going.
Is holding back on "I love you" a normal thing? How much of a red flag is this?
Also, I know that me feeling insecure will turn me into a pain in the ass. I'll be that person who is always looking for validation in obnoxious ways. That will for sure end things.
Tips? Coping strategies? Ways to kill of the crazy inside me?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of three months is not in love with me yet, which is making me anxious. Not sure how to cope. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My mother (51F) refuses to believe that I (18M) can be friends with my female friend (17M).
POST: Hello Reddit
Throwaway because all 2 use Reddit.
So this happened 2 hours ago and i've just had enough, while i was talking about my plans for a day out with friends to my brother. My mother comes out of the blue and starts her rant about a particular friend i have known for 3 years, you see her and i are friends. Nothing more, nothing less. We've done lots of things together and we both like different people, no harm done right? Not to my mother.
She goes on about how boys and girls cannot be friends and how she is a 'slut' for hanging out with other guys (because you know..we're totally a couple...and girls only known one male in their life...). I start defending her, saying that she can like whomever she pleases etc. But she gets even more infuriated, i calmly remove myself from the situation and ponder about what just happened.
So I just need to know, what can I say in future if something like this comes up? I only tolerated it because she is my mum and i cannot really get angry at her. I'm also going to Formal (just as friends ) with her in 2 months and i don't want her to say anything...outrageous.
Thanks guys!
TL;DR: | Mum got angry because my female friend hangs out with other guys and believes that men and women can't be JUST friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my GF [22 F] 7 years, Not sure if I want to continue
POST: We started dating in highschool and have since been together. We've had our break ups, but not for too long. Now I think as if all my youth is out and I am forever obligated to continue in this relationship. We share many things, we know our families well. Although we don't live together, we spend whatever free time we have together.
I've grown apart from many friends because of the time and attention she demands from me. She is a really nice and emotional girl-- one of the reasons I feel so attached to her is she is mellow as only sugar can be. I need to say also, I haven't accomplished much, accademically speaking, hell, I don't even have had a job. This is one of the reasons I desire more me time. I've asked her for this but she just can't cope with us doing our things.
As I determine myself to put an end to it and start doing more things in order not to waste my twenties, my weakness and commodity tell me "don't go, she's nice, she treats you well, you share your puppies, family, etc.
I can't find the courage to stand up for anything, and this is not the exception. Many times recently i have thought of finishing, but her telling me " love you, please don't go" "i want us to get married, i love you, don¿t leave". I just can't cope with it, i finish giving up.
TL;DR: | want to finish 7 year relationship out of self improvement, GF is sweet , it breaks my heart watching her cry when i bring it up. What to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, how do I get used to being alone?
POST: I am currently in an unhealthy "relationship" that has been on-again off-again for 2.5 years. It was initially emotionally abusive, and now, while things have gotten better overtime and he is very apologetic, it's obviously not healthy to still be together and the end is near.
I have come to realize that the length of this relationship and the cause of relationships I had during the off-again periods are all just because I forgot how to be alone. All of my current "friends" are mutual friends and will side with him when we end things, but I don't know how to make good new friends (though it's pretty easy finding guys who want to get in the pants of a girl in her junior year of college, it seems really difficult to find people who are genuinely interested in making new friends at this point in life.) I hate being alone, I just get miserable. I also don't really have any hobbies. I need to know good ways to get used to being alone, and maybe how to make good platonic friends. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, I don't want to be miserable all winter long.
TL;DR: | after a long unhealthy relationship, I don't know how to handle being alone. I'm looking for tips on managing being alone without being lonely and how to make new friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help me learn by being unconventional through taking a gap year (or two) to get away from privileged life.
POST: Dear Reddit,
My high school career will be coming to a close in the near future, and while I am satisfied with my academic development I feel I want more development as a person before beginning higher education. I live a very privileged life and attend one of the most elite boarding schools in the country (USA). I could, along with the vast majority of my peers, choose from many of the top colleges in the country to attend. I feel that my education has provided me with the skills needed to succeed in college and go on to a successful career, but I also feel that I have not given enough back.Therefore, I think I would like to take a gap year or two to experience life from a radically different perspective a la the peace corps (but not specifically the peace corps because you need an undergraduate degree, just something like it). I also don't want to do one of those fake community service programs that many of my friends are doing to pad their reputations that cost loads of money and essentially send you somewhere remote in the world on what is essentially a luxurious vacation in the name of doing good. I feel that later in life I won't have the opportunity to do something as radical as this so I want to do it before college. I looked into going to one of the service academies as a way to give back, but I have certain disqualifiers that prevent me from going into any sort of military service. I basically want thoughts, ideas, and suggestions about what I can do.
TL;DR: | PRIVILEGED KID WANTS TO FIND WAY TO GIVE BACK AND EXPERIENCE LIFE FROM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: If I (24m) broke up with my gf (20f) over the phone, would it be just as bad as over text?
POST: I plan on breaking up with my gf this week, but I don't know how.
I know that it's shitty to break up over text message. I also kind of know not to do it over the phone. But for the past few days I have been dodging my gf of 2 years. We are supposed to meet up tomorrow, and I'm supposed to help her move into her college apartment.
I was gonna try to dodge her until tomorrow when we meet in person, but she's just been blowing up my phone and nagging me to talk constantly. She wants to talk on the phone tonight and I'm contemplating do it then, but I don't want to be shit-ass about it.
TL;DR: | Do you think it's a no-no to break up with my gf over the phone, similar to how it's considered rude as hell to do it over text? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [20 F] is slowly developing a moustache and I [20 M] am feeling less attracted to her. What can I do?
POST: I have been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. When I met her she had a little bit of hair on her lip (very minimal but noticeable). My relationship with her didn't get serious for a while so I didn't think about it, but then when it got more serious it bothered me a bit more. In early December she shaved, I suppose for Christmas or something, but then after a while she let it grow back. My point is, she must know it's noticeable. I know it's such a superficial thing but it's a really big turn off. Is there really any way I can bring this up to her without hurting her feelings?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend has a moustache and I am not feeling attracted to her anymore. How should I discuss this with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 F] with my friend [17 F] Random arguments
POST: I'm going to call my friend Julia. So Julia and I have been friends for the past six years. She is one of the funniest people I know and we are always laughing and having fun. But we get into little arguements a lot.
For example, today in class our teacher was going over a powerpoint and we were writing notes, she was on her phone the whole time texting. When she finally looked up from her phone the teacher had switched slides and she was frustrated that she wasn't done writing (Even though she was texting the whole time) At the end of the class she talked about how she didn't get it and I told her if she would have payed attention she would have and she got really angry at me.
This is just one example and it happens on the daily. Just over little things she gets really angry and will be like "Shut up!" "Stop talking to me!" "Why are you still talking to me?" and she says it really loud and everyone will look at me and it is SUPER embarrassing. After like 2 hours shes completely fine and is laughing about it. How do I tell her to stop and that it's not funny? I still want to be friends with her I just am really tired with her angry outbursts.
TL;DR: | friend gets angry for little reasons and embarrasses me but is fine 2 hours later. im tired of it, what do i do |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] am having long distance troubles with my [19 F] girlfriend.
POST: To start things off, my girlfriend and I met in first year university, and instantly hit it off. We've moved faster than most couples would, already having met each other's parents at four months. I would say that we are both very much in love, and honestly I see our relationship lasting quite awhile.
However, she lives a six hour drive from my hometown, but she is considering living in our university town for the summer, lowering the drive time to only two hours. Personally, I've never been a huge fan of long distance, but for her, I'm willing to try. Since we go to the same university, we'd be together for eight of the twelve months every year.
But, here's where the problems start. Our christmas break lead to us both living in our hometowns for three weeks, and the time apart isn't treating us well. Honestly, I think the drastic change of essentially living together to not seeing each other at all could be a huge proponent in this. This woman is the love of my life, and she makes me a better person in every way. Personally, I've never been a big texter, and recently, she sent a text to me essentially saying that if this how much we text during our time apart in the summer, things aren't going to work. This kind of blindsided me, because I'd been making the effort to text her and skype her throughout the break.
Overall, I have a full time job during the break, while she doesn't. This job demands a lot of early mornings, so when I get back from work in the early afternoon, I'm usually exhausted and take a nap. This leads to me not texting her until very late in the day. I shouldn't make excuses for not keeping in contact with her, but this is honestly an issue.
I've been rambling here, but I'm basically looking for answers or advice on how to deal with long distance relationships. I miss her like hell, but I don't want to act like an accessory by texting her every minute of every day. Thanks reddit!
TL;DR: | Girlfriend isn't happy with the amount I text/skype her during the break, I work ALOT while she doesn't. Need advice on how to improve/deal with the situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 28m with 24f gf problems. Lots of fights. Need perpspective.
POST: 28m here with a 24f gf. We have been going out for 1.5 years.
We are in a semi long distance relationship. She lives 2 hours away and we see each other on weekends. This is ok because we are both very busy with work and school. The problem is that we get in lots of small fights. She nitpicks a lot about neatness and my personal habits in general. I can be a bit lazy about picking up after myself (not extremely), but I feel that she goes too far, to the point of snapping at me for stuff preemptively. I try to choose my battles and let most of it go, but when I finally say something she gets mad really quickly and we will almost always have a 2 hour fight after that. During the fight I will usually apologize multiple times and suggest that we need to communicate better and that both of us are probably doing things thy the other doesn't like. Somehow she takes this to mean that I am implying that she is overreacting and that she is wrong and everything is her fault.
On top of this, I have recently begun working with some women who really seem to like me and give me a lot of positive attention. I find myself wishing I was with them when I am with her.
So when we see each other I feel more distant. I dont know if it is because of our fights, the other women, or both. Its not like I want to leave her. I love her and we have had a pretty good relationship. We have even been talking about marriage and kids in the future. I know that you have to compromise to be in a relationship, but I feel like most of the compromising is coming from me. Please feel free to critique me as harshly as you want. I want to know the truth. Is this what a successful relationship is like? I appreciate all input. Thanks :)
TL;DR: | gf nagging and we are growing apart. Am I in The wrong when I ask her to not nag? Will my relationship ever improve? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [21F] How long is "appropriate" to wait before having sex with a new person?!
POST: Hi all, I'm brand new to reddit and this is my first question so bear with me :)
I'm 21F and about 4 months ago broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, and just prior to that, had been in another serious relationship that began when I was 16. I suddenly feel very inexperienced in the world of adult dating.
I recently started spending time with a new guy [25M]. We've hung out four times so far in the past three weeks. The first time was just friendly, the second and third times we kissed, and the most recent time we ended up making out and it got pretty hot and heavy. My question is this: is there some sort of amount of time I'm supposed to wait before having sex with him? From my exposure to the adult dating world (read: fictional television shows), it seems like guys think less of women when they "put out" too soon. However...he's attracted to me, I'm attracted to him, and after having a healthy sex life for the past 5 years, I'm loathe to put it on hold now in an effort to appear "more ladylike." That being said, I like him, and I don't want to lose his interest just yet. I need guidance!
TL;DR: | I [21F] am recently single after 5 years of serious relationships, want to know how many dates I should wait before sleeping with a new person or if that even matters to guys |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need help on what to do about this kid in my neighborhood.
POST: This evening I heard some disturbing news from my little brother. Apparently there is a kid down the street (11yo) who has been abusing our dogs outside when nobody is home. We keep our dogs outside because one is not properly house trained and the other tears things up if nobody is home, plus most of the time it's nice out and we leave them plenty of food and water, plus hay bedding for them to sleep in. My family has noticed that when we bring them in for the night they have been acting very skittish and will run from us if we come towards them.
Anyways, my little brother told me this evening that this boy from down the street came over to play after my brother invited him since he didn't seem to have anybody to hang out with. After a while the boy began to pick fights with my brother and his friends and repeatedly kept calling them the "N" word and insulting them. Then when my brother asked the boy to leave he told them he wasn't going to leave, he was going to beat our dogs with a bat and told him he had been doing it all week.
Now Reddit, is it wrong of me to want to kick this kids ass? Our dogs happen to be the sweetest dogs in the world, and have never harmed anything unless one of us or my siblings have been in danger. This week I am staking out my house in the daytime and watching for this kid. I know he is a minor, but I want to tan his hide red for touching my dogs. I'm wondering if I catch him should I grab him and take him to his house and tell his parents what he has been doing? Or should I just call the authorities right there?
TL;DR: | Kid has been abusing my dogs in the daytime when nobody is home, wondering if I should beat his ass or let the police/parents do it for me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] am unsure if I should tell a girl's [18F] boyfriend [18M] she said she had feelings for me
POST: So I've known her for about 18 months and they've been together for 10. I started crushing on her when the two first broke up 4 months ago now, but over that time period they've been on and off again.
Over this four month period I've been sorta flirting with her whenever she and him were off. We'd made plans a couple times, but she would always cancel and get back together with him. During the last breakup however she said she wasn't in love with him because she had feelings for me over text and now I'm not sure if I should show him.
On one hand, that's the most that's ever happened between myself and her. Whenever she broke up with her boyfriend she'd always be pretty coy about things and keep stuff from escalating. I put my foot down with her about whatever the heck's been going on between us after the current attempt back together (I think 5, I've lost count). Nothing else has happened. I feel like it's relatively minor thing and would only add fuel to the conflicts they have.
Additionally, I've always been more into her than she ever has been into me based on what other people have said. As we have only ever technically been friends, it could seem like I'm the one with the problem. I see where this argument is coming from and think it wouldn't be entirely unfounded. After all, the flirting between me and her hasn't been the most respectful to their relationship.
On the other hand, I'm not sure if what's been going on between myself and the girl has crossed over into the territory of being an emotional affair. If that's the case in his shoes I think I'd rather know than let it fester for months in a relationship where from the outside looking in it looks like things aren't working.
I'm just confused because I've never been here before. She's the closest I've ever come to a romantic relationship and I'm really worried that I might make things worse if I do anything.
TL;DR: | Girl in an on/off relationship says she has feelings for me, then gets back together with her boyfriend. I'm worried it was the latest entry in an emotional affair between me and her. Should I tell the boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by opening an elevator door
POST: So this obviously didn't happen today but a few years ago when I was in my first year of university.
Anyhow with in the first few weeks of uni my friends and I discovered that the elevators in the library can be opened by hand while they were moving, the elevator would come to really quick standstill and shudder like crazy for a few seconds before starting to move again. So what we used to do is get a few of our unsuspecting friends and take them on an elevator ride and scare the living shit out of them.
So this happened for a weeks and soon got bored of doing it at the same place and the fact there would be a higher chance of us getting caught and kicked out of uni.
Thus one afternoon after a 6 hour chemistry lab, I need something fun to do to get my blood pumping. So stupid me had the bright idea to see if the elevator in the chemistry building would be the same as the library. And boy was I wrong... Me and two of my mates were stuck in a glass elevator between 3rd and 4th floor for 3 hours whilst people were taking picture of us. When we eventually got out the the elevator technician had the biggest grin on his face,because he knew exactly what we did even though we denied it, so we thanked him and bolted.
Since that day I have never touched an elevator door
TL;DR: | Opened elevator door while it was moving and got stuck for 3 hours, whilst people took pictures of my friends and I |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] broke up with my GF [23 F] of 2,5 years, lots of sneaky shite.
POST: Broke up with my GF of 2,5 years today after I found out she had a relationship she secretly started 2 months ago.
We've had turbulent years in which she did try to break up a few times (love blinds, but okay)
She was my first real relationship and I was her second so naturally things didn't go as smooth (and I was going through a lot of bullshit at the time) and we had a lot of fights but always managed to solve them.
now it just won't be solved, I wanted to try again but she didn't so we split disastrously.
TL;DR: | (now EX)GF cheated on me with another guy even though she promised we would work out the problems in our relationship and as of now I just want to ask: How do you deal with this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my long distance girlfriend [19 F], had an argument & haven't been communicating properly since. I'm inexperienced at this sorta thing, so would love some advice.
POST: So I'll try to break down the situation, it's not too complex, but this is my first reddit post - so I might go on a bit.
Basically, we've been seeing each other short term (since Jan) and we don't get to see each other much. She invited me to a party, which I agreed to go to (I was ecstatic to do so).
Unfortunately, I was hospitalized the same week of the party, so I couldn't go. I'm healthy now, but there was no way I could travel, and I was still infectious, so I didn't want to risk it.
I told my gf this, and she was fine & supportive, hoping I get well soon, etc.
After that week though, we had an argument about something and ever since we haven't been good - e.g. not talking properly. I'm making an active effort quite often, whilst trying to give her space.
We're still not talking properly, and I really want to try and fix this. The argument was resolved the same day it happened, since then a lot of my messages to her have been ignored or one word answers have been given. This happened about a week ago. I've asked if we're still OK, and she says we are.
The argument wasn't too serious, however, combining that with the fact that we haven't seen each other in over a month has made it a lot worse (I think).
I'm tempted to try & do a grand gesture style of thing, or just to ask if we can have a proper conversation, however, I'm really nervous about this sort of thing.
I don't really get in many relationships due to the fact that it's extremely rare for me to have feelings towards someone, so I'm pretty inexperienced in this department, so I'm coming here to ask for some advice!
TL;DR: | Haven't seen each other in over a month, had an argument - haven't spoken properly since (one word answers, etc). Would like some advice on how to approach the situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating ice cream
POST: So, I'm lactose intolerant. I'm sure you already see why this is a fuck up, but normally ice cream is A OK. So this time I tried a new ice cream, a drumstick. For those of you who have never had a drumstick, it's vanilla ice cream with fudge inside, covered in fudge and peanuts on a waffle cone, they're easily 8/10 without rice.
So the ice cream was delicious and I thought everything was great, til a few hours later I was out for a walk with my brother and my guts started turning. It felt like an earthquake inside my stomach and intestines. At that point I knew I needed to get home. When I got home, I had the runs. I'm not talking regular runs, I'm talking advanced runs, like watery yellow shit runs. For the rest of the night I had an upset stomach.
The next day (today) I was alright, til about midday when I got a bad stomach again, and next thing you know I'm on the crapper again.
TL;DR: | NEVER try new ice cream if you're lactose intolerant. You will get turbo shits. Oh, and that ice cream couldn't even be a 1/10, even with rice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[41/F] with my boyfriend [39/M] together for 15 months, just told me that he is depressed and has nothing to give in a relationship
POST: We met whilst he was separated (a year after the separation) and he since a month ago, he is going through a divorce and custody issues. I was always super uncomfortable with going out with a married guy (irrespective of him being separated), so had refused to make any long term plans whilst he was still not out of his previous relationship. He was insisting on future planning which I half engaged in..
Over the last 7 months, we were working together overseas, and we tried repeatedly to end things - each time, neither of us were able to walk away. I more or less tortured myself by remaining in the relationship and watching things slowly degrade. I gave him some space to sort out his life (and did not want to be involved in his messy life) ... but found living in limbo land intolerable.
Today, after finally listening to yet another plan for the coming year which precluded me, I pressured him to either commit or to end things - he stated yet again that he could not offer anything in this relationship and that we should end things. He wants to stay in contact as friends (we have been in touch everyday up to 3 days ago for 15 months) but I stated that this was not possible if he wanted us to remain as friends. He does not want this however and does not understand why.
So .. question is: what does he have to gain by remaining in contact (we are in a long distance relationship currently and skype/facebook is the way we remain in touch).
We both care about each other but currently are not helping each other out - I realise that this is a codependent situation but I am totally lost. I just want things to be as they were before.
TL;DR: | more or less finally ended things with boyfriend who has retracted a commitment to a relationship but thinks it is still possible to be friends. Why bother? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My overweight mother [53 F] is sabotaging my [17 F] attempts at getting fit and eating healthy.
POST: My mom [5'2", 132lbs+] is trying to sabotage my [5', 91.7lbs, NOT underweight by my Asian country's standards] attempts at healthy eating and getting fit. I count my calories, and try to stay under 1400/1500 calories just in case I underestimate.
So I've been working out and lifting weights, and unintentionally lost a bit of weight (11lbs) in the process. She thinks I'm deliberately trying to lose weight.
Her comments are insensitive and uncalled for, and she does it every. single. day. To my boyfriend as well, who works out regularly and is lighter than her at 5'6.5".
* "Your face is so sharp and ugly now, and your collarbones are protuding. You need to gain weight." Says the person who told me to lose weight at 105lbs.
* "Your skin is so yellow and you look so sick, you need to gain weight." Didn't know my mom was a doctor.
I've been going to the gym, and she keeps telling me it's a "waste of time" and I should be studying. How funny, she doesn't tell that to my brothers who gym more frequently.
My father is on her side as well (overweight, high cholesterol). Apparently, I can't have foods I dislike or not feel hungry when they're hungry. She thinks she knows what's healthy and what's not LOL what a joke. The funny thing is that she's overweight (plus sedentary) and blames it on her geneticks while my brothers and I are all on the lower side of the normal BMI range.
I think she's insecure and trying to sabotage my efforts just because she won't move her ass and lose some weight herself (she has mentioned she wants to lose weight many times, but "loves food too much"). I used to be the fatter one. She sabotaged my dad's attempts at losing weight as well. She gets so defensive when I call her out on her excuses.
How do I get her to stop being so insensitive, assuming shit and sabotaging people's attempts at getting healthier???
Thanks.
TL;DR: | Overweight mom is trying to sabotage my efforts at eating healthy and getting fit, hurling insensitive and unnecessary remarks, probably because she's insecure herself. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my Girlfriend just told me she doesn't want me to be her first without breaking up. Has anyone experienced this? Do you have any advice?
POST: Obvious throwaway. So I guess some details are in order, we're a lesbian couple and we haven't done anything with eachother as it is a long distance relationship. We've been together for three years and I'm moving in with her very soon.
Now, we've both suffered some sexual abuse in the past so to speak, and well, as the title says she doesn't want me to be her first because of it, she doesn't want to hate me or hurt me for being the first to touch her after the incidents and while I'm understanding of it.. I just don't think I could cope with her doing that with someone else.
I'm simply at a loss as to what I should do! She's already confided in her female coworker who's offered to show her the ropes and wants my permission. I just don't think I'm okay with this, and while I've told her my opinion she still wants to do it but she doesn't want to hurt me at the same time.
I've already suggested breaking up but she doesn't want it to come to that and neither do I.
Has this happened with someone else? Please share any experience with this and any advice possible!
TL;DR: | Girlfriend doesn't want me as her first but doesn't want to break up, I don't think I could cope with that. Help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by reading TIFU's while eating pixie sticks
POST: Okay, so I'm reading the top TIFUs while eating a pixie stick, and they are summer of the funniest damn things I have ever read.
Okay, on to what happened. I was reading one of the posts about the guy who ate three boxes of fiber one bars in two days, while eating a most fabilocious pixie stick (I think it's strawberry, can't tell,) and I begin laughing WAY too hard to eat it correctly, just the kind of laughter that makes your stomach hurt, and the tears of laughter ruin your vision.
What I forgot about when I was laughing was I took a full hit of pixie stick when I read the post, so here I am laughing, with a mouth full of enough sugar to make Candy island look like a whole foods store. I was laughing so hard I ended up swallowing it, but because I kept laughing throughout it (how the *bleep* I didn't choke on enough sugar to kill Cartman through sugar overdose, I'll never know) I had the absolute good fortune (sarcasm, for those who do like this) of experiencing flavored sugar going through my nose.
For those who don't know, powdered sugar burns more than putting after shave on an open cut if your swallow too much at once, now imagine almost a mouthful going through your nose all at once, and you'll understand what sugary hell is.
Then, through weird as hell reflex from laughing too hard or something. I ended up taking a HUGE inhale through my nose after it started to come out my nose. Have you ever seen a volcano blow up in reverse? It was like that, and it burned as much too. All that sugar, going through my nose, and then back inside me, then to my lungs, was the most painful thing ever. On the plus side, I don't think I've ever had a sugar high this good every, I feel like i mixed four hour energy with this stuff (which is a bad idea to do, I leaned from experience.) I feel great right now after getting all the sugar out of my lungs, and am eating another pixie stick.
TL;DR: | Laughed way to hard eating pixie sticks, sneezed enough sugar out my nose to make a couple power puff girls, then snorted it back up by accident. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: Question about ovens in the UK and terminology.
POST: The Public Broadcasting Service in the U.S shows several cooking show that are based out of the U.K. I've noticed some terminology differences regarding ovens and am trying to sort them out in my mind.
In the U.S., most electric ovens have two heating elements. The one on top is called the broiler and the one on the bottom is called baking or roasting element. When we (Americans) set the oven temperature to say 175c/350f, the bottom element is the only one that heats up and is used to maintain the temperature setpoint. We call this baking or roasting.
When the top element is used, it's usually on full blast and used for relatively short duration cooking and is called broiling. I've noticed U.K terminology referring to grilling in the oven. That one kind of confuses me because we usually refer to grilling as an open flame under a grill. That type of cooking is generally done outdoors. The one notable exception being the grilled cheese sandwich which is done on a griddle or in a pan.
TL;DR: | How do ovens in the U.K. work and what is the terminology used to describe the ways of cooking in them. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Best Guitar For Me?
POST: Its nearing Christmas and my dad agreed to buy me a guitar. I have an acoustic guitar and ive been playing it for around 2 years. I can play finger-style well and i'm not a beginner. I was thinking of getting an electric guitar because i really wanted to start playing some rock and jazz and stuff.
So my question is what would be a good guitar for a beginner electric guitarist? I was thinking of playing songs like: [this] I love the solo and the overall song, i really like this style of music. The other style i want to play would be [thisss] I love BB King and Wes Mongomery and other blues/jazz guitarists. I love music with...ermmm...flavor? So i won't be doing much super-fast shredding. And i would love the guitar to have a whammy bar, cant play without it! The price range is around $300-$500. My dad can do 600 but i would preffer not to.
TL;DR: | Beginner electric guitarist (not beginner guitarist though). Looking for a good guitar ($300-$500). LOOOOVE Rock and Jazz/Blues. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18M] girlfriend [18F] just dealt with a miscarriage. How do I help her?
POST: We have been together for 4 years.
I know, we are super young, but I just need some advice from adults. I don't know how to talk to my parents about this. My girlfriend has been on the pill the entire duration of our relationship. I usually wear a condom, unless I'm out. I think we've only done it without a condom maybe 4 or 5 times in our entire relationship. Her pills work really well with her and she's a perfect user.
This month was a little weird for her. She felt fine until the third week, and then she got crampy, and then her period came 4 days early. She kept taking the pill, but the cramps were horrible for her and she missed Thursday and Friday of school. On Friday, she went to her doctor to figure out what happened and the doctor found out she had been a 3 weeks pregnant, but had miscarried the baby due to continual use of birth control and mostly just living unaware of her pregnancy.
Neither of us wanted a child, so we were both in major shock to have known we had created a baby. And then we felt sad because she lost it. For the most part, I've accepted it. But I know my girlfriend feels bad about the whole thing. She says she probably wouldn't have kept the baby, but she felt bad because she killed it with her pills. She realizes it wasn't exactly a living, breathing baby, but she feels sick knowing she killed a prospective life.
I want to help her through this. What are some good things I can say to her and do for her?
TL;DR: | girlfriend got unknowingly pregnant on the pill, miscarried it, and is now very sad over the thought of it. How do I help her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F21] am having a hard time ending things with my partner [M21] of a year in a half whom I still truly love.
POST: We began as friends which turned into best friends quickly and then best friends with benefits even quicker. It's been a year and a half now of dating and we love each other but I'm just not sure it's right. We have trust issues and we've had talks about our relationship not lasting in the long run. That being said, I don't know why we continue on hurting each other when there's a chance that this could not last. Every time we talk about ending things, we fight, we make up and we ignore that it happened. I am trying to build the guts to tell him we should put an end to it but I do truly love him and it will be hard to let him go.
I am not looking for my future husband and I've never thought about my relationships in the long run before dating him. Am I being ridiculous because I am scared it just might not work out somewhere down the road? Should I just go with the flow and enjoy it while it lasts or should I end it with him? Any advice or similar stories would be incredibly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Don't know if and or how to end things with my bf of a year and a half whom I still love. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my now ex girlfriend [19 F] of 1 year, I broke up with her a week ago and I just feel horrible guilt for doing it even though it was the right thing to do for me.
POST: I was with this girl for a year before I broke it off with her. The relationship started out great like most but slowly things became really sour. She's originally from a different country from the one we're living in now and here on visa.
I started to notice throughout the relationship she'd have fits of rage when ever we fought, like almost like she couldn't control it and became a completely different person.
I first noticed it about 4 months into the relationship when we were at a party and I got pissed off when she flirted with another guy right in front of me, she took it as me not trusting her and we got into a fight, next thing she breaks up with me at the party to prove a point of how ridiculous I am being (stupid I know).
After that it came in phases of getting into a big fight, making up, being happy then building up to the next big fight.
Sometimes the fights we're REALLY bad, there was hitting, pinching, calling me names and just destroying what self esteem I had left in those moments.
Then a month ago she told me she made out with another guy and thats where things went WAY south.
I've only recently gotten the courage to break up with her and I'm staying strong but I just have huge waves of guilt from her, she still contacts me telling me I'm the only one for her, I'm the only good thing she has in her life, shes all alone now, why would I do this to her, things will be different, why cant i give her another chance. But at the same time saying she supports my decision.
I'm just feeling constant guilt for doing something I know is right for me and I don't know how to get over it. I still see her as my best friend, don't get me wrong all the above is the bad stuff, there was really great times too but in this case the bad out-weighed the good and I couldnt do it anymore. Any advice would be great.
TL;DR: | Ex-girlfriend is making me feel guilty for breaking up our relationship that wasn't healthy for me and the guilt is now making me feel worse than the relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Is it possible for me to purchase my first house with cash?
POST: Just a quick question, I am thinking about 5-7 years down the road.
I am planning on being an accountant (assume 50k/year starting salary) and my SO is planning on teaching (assume 50k/year starting salary). I am planning on living in Texas, so no state income tax. The cost of living is very cheap, as is the housing.
I will have no debt, and she will have around 20k of debt. We both have cars, and the useful life is expected to be greater than 7 years.
Her parents are looking at moving, and they said we could live in their current place with a very minimal rent payment + utilities.
My question is, assuming all of the information above is true, and we lived in the parents house for 2-3 years, would we be able to purchase a house (anywhere from 200-150k) with cash OR with the aid of a smaller personal loan from a bank?
TL;DR: | Assuming household income is ~100k, and I didn't have to pay rent, could I buy a house that costs around 150k with cash? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/M] My girfriend [21/f] is her friend's date to their friend's party.
POST: My girlfriend of three months has a friend that I reckon has a crush on her. He always offers her to drive her around, to study together. Just recently he asked her how long we've been dating, if there's any problems in our relationship (arguing, etc).
They have a mutual friend's birthday coming up, and he wants to go together with her (she was invited as well). He went as far as telling her not to wear heels (so they'd be the same height).
His aggressive approach is making me slightly uncomfortable. However, my girlfriend just sees him as a friend.
Should I just let it be? Should I be jealous? Should I tell my girlfriend? Or should I talk to this guy face to face?
TL;DR: | A guy has crush on my GF. He is taking her as a date to their friends birthday. Not sure how to react, if at all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [OH] Landlord ignoring emails, phone calls, and texts regarding bathroom tile damage and possible mold formation.
POST: Me and two other roommates moved into our college spot about 3 weeks ago. Before we moved in or signed anything, we were shown the house. The bathroom tile around the edge of the shower lip and toilet has been cracked and chipped away dramatically and you can see the water soaked wood underneath the tile. We were assured this would be fixed and the house would be professionally cleaned before we moved in. We waited 10 days after our lease said we could move in to allow time for the house to be cleaned. The house was not cleaned by any means. Cob webs everywhere. Pure grime and disgust on the tile and kitchen. It was clear nobody came and cleaned. You can see water seeping from underneath the tile if you stand on the tile by the toilet and shower. If you sit on the toilet, the toilet leans to the left and you are sitting off-balance. We shouldn't have to worry about not being able to use the toilet because our toilet paper gets soaked in water if we drop it, right? We all had a verbal agreement this would be fixed before we moved in and its been 3 weeks! And our landlord is not returning emails or anything. Worst part is he is a lawyer himself. Insects have been accumulating around the damp areas in our bathroom and it's almost unusable. What options do we have? This cant possibly be healthy or sanitary.
TL;DR: | Sitting water and water soaked wood underneath tile by shower and toilet. Landlord wont do anything. What can we do? Thanks for any input. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [17 F] Doubting relation with [18, M] - Dating
POST: I've had this crush on a girl for a few months, after we spent some time together I told her how I felt, but she didn't responded.
The problem is, she is very closed so I cannot get much feelings out of her.
One day I slept with her in the same bed, and after we talked the whole night, I woke up next to her , asking if there was someting between us (As I knew she wouldn't let anyone sleep with her, besides somebody she knew very well and had something with her), she didn't feel like there was something between us.
One day, I sent her a text message, explaining how I felt, to which she responded "I really want to love you but I cannot force being in love with you"
I replied her asking "How can you wanting to love somebody, but not loving him/her", but she never replied.
Can anybody explain how you want to love somebody, but cannot ? Also she has never had a boyfriend, maybe that's why shes doubting.
I feel like she has feelings, but she cannot express them as she is very shy, but I also think that if I keep trying to talk to her/text her/... I will eventually "harass" her?
Is this a lost love, or should I keep trying?
TL;DR: | Girl says "I want to love you" but doesn't love me. She's doubting I assume, but I cannot comprehend this |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the worst thing a parent has ever done to you?
POST: When I was 12 or 13 years old, I remember my mother saying she was going to get a credit card for me. She used my social security number, a false name, and false date of birth. She told me she was doing this to "help my credit score."
Fast forward four years later, I'm 17. I'm just derping around in my Economics class, listening to my teacher talk about credit cards, credit scores, etc. After years of it being buried in my mind, I remember what my mother did. So, I get home and tell my dad about it, we check my credit score, and sure enough, my mother has dropped my credit score all the way to 550, racked me up $700 in debt, and hasn't made a payment towards it in nearly 4 years.
My dad and I are in the process of starting an investigation with the credit card company she had the card with, as well as the police, to send her ass to jail.
TL;DR: | Mother stole son's identity, racked up debt/bad credit score. She's about to get her come uppins. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My SO's work is changing ownership. He has been there for 5 years, and says he is getting a bad vibe, and that he is scared for his job. What are his rights? Any advice, Reddit?
POST: The new owner has gradually made his presence and authority more known at the office where he works. My SO told me that he is not allowed to call me until 5:00 pm, and from what it sounds like is not being given a break during the day. He tells me that taking breaks in general are frowned upon at the office. In the past, they have not let him leave for lunch so that someone could be there to "handle the phones" while everyone else leaves. The new boss chewed out my SO for doing some personal work at the office (i.e. checking banking), but there are other people who take excessive smoke breaks and display other unprofessional behavior (e.g. showing up for work late) that goes without consequence. Today, my SO was asked by the new boss to prepare his job description over the weekend so that he, the current owner and the future owner can "sit down and discuss some things." What does this mean? Is his job at risk?
Specifically, what are his rights as a current employee of 5 years, and do you have any advice for him? We just got engaged a month ago, and our lives have really just started to take off. Is there anything he should or should not do as someone in this position?? Furthermore, is there anything that I should know so that I can be as supportive and helpful to him as possible? The last thing I want is to make him feel worse by saying or doing the wrong thing.
TL;DR: | my SO is scared that he might lose his job of 5 years when the company changes ownership. What should he know, and what can I do to help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: i need a revenge plan for my brother, any suggestions?
POST: well heres the story, my brother found a $30 [ (Spyder Sonix Pro) i did go with him to pick it up since he found it on facebook. he picked it up about 6 days ago. well he did say something about it being a birthday gift to me(today is my birthday, 18 finally) well he gets home and fires it and says to me "i was buying this for your birthday, but i didn't know it'd be this good" and keeps it. he did just buy a Tippmann Alpha Black paintball gun sorta new off one of those facebook selling pages.
TL;DR: | brother buys paintbal gun for as a gift for me, then keeps it for finding out how nice it is. need revenge plan. his birthday is coming up in a few months. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My friend [21F]'s best friend [21F] didn't invite my friend to her engagement party but invited another girl.
POST: Asking for my friend, Remy. Remy is best friends with another girl, Eliza. Remy, Eliza, I all went to high school together, and although I went to a different university, those two girls ended up in the same one. I'm close with Remy but not Eliza. Remy and Eliza are best friends, they have the same classes, eat lunch together, their families are friends, share secrets, the whole shebang.
One of the secrets that was being kept between them was that of Eliza's engagement. Remy and Eliza were all very excited, planning what to wear, how the wedding would go, bridal showers, etc. I'm fairly certain Remy expected to be the Maid of Honor too, given how close they are and how much Remy was offering to contribute to the event.
Eliza's official engagement was today. I wasn't invited, but heard about it. However, Remy came to me in tears and told me that Eliza had said that the party was only for her family. The kicker: Eliza actually invited another girl (who she is also apparently close with), and this girl posted pictures of the event, which is how Remy came to know about it.
Remy doesn't know what to do. She thought that she and Eliza were great friends. Eliza had explicitly told Remy that the engagement party was family only, and invited this other girl anyway. Remy is asking advice on how to proceed--should she ask the girl what happened? Ignore it? She's hurt and says it's like Eliza never cared about what Remy thought. Remy will have to see Eliza on Monday and in all her classes, and is at a loss on how to act.
TL;DR: | Friend's best friend said her engagement party was family only, invited another friend anyway. Friend doesn't know how to act. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Trying to understand my boyfriend's (32M 5'11" CW:310 GW:250) mindset in dieteting so I can help him.
POST: So my boyfriend's always been an over eater, and is what I would call a feaster. We are off to Orlando in April, and last time he managed to lose 50 lbs and get on the rides. He needs to do the same this time, and 3 weeks in he's only lost 2 lbs.
We only have one meal a day, which is dinner. He has asked me to get started on it as soon as I get home (we tend to walk in from work within 5 minutes of each other) so that he can't order takeaway. That's fine, and I have been doing this without complaint.
The meal will tend to be a high protein meal, but with some carbs/fats, and a huge portion (he will have 3 x what I do) will come to 1500kcal. The problem is he will still eat past this: last night he had 4 slices of thick bread and butter (800kcal), then a huge bowl of cereal (700kcal) and this pushed his daily intake to 3000, where he needs to be at 2-2,500 kcal. I asked him what MFP claimed his TDEE is (just so I could work something out for tomorrows dinner) and he got super defensive at me. He told me that he didn't want to be eating all this extra food after dinner, but he had to and that I couldn't possibly understand (I've never been overweight). If anyone could give me some of their inside experiences on dieting and feeling like he does, I would really appreciate it.
TL;DR: | boyfriend's struggling to diet, I want to help but "I can never understand", but want to. Please share you dieting difficulty experiences! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my crush [20 M/F] are friends about 1 year and i'm afraid to tell her my feelings
POST: Okey, after my semi breakup in my open relationship [here] I thought best thing to break the awkwardness would be me getting in another relationship!
There's a girl which I know her for almost 1 or 2 years, I know her through our mutual friends, she's gorgeous and it talking with her is always really funny and a little flirty! she currently lives in another city but I visit that city at least once a month for my job. but my main struggle is that I don't know what would happen if she refuse me. I can not sacrifice our friendship for a relationship! yeah that's maybe kind of funny that I'm scared of not even being friendzoned!
Actually I'm a little messed up with my feelings, I don't know what is difference between love and like! I like her, I enjoy being with her, I'm pretty happy after talking with her, she makes me laugh, but is that love?
TL;DR: | I'm afraid to tell my crush that i like her because I fear if she refuse, I will lose a good friend because of some complex emotions that I'm not even sure about yet!, what's your suggestion? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23/F] with my boyfriend [25 M] of one year, found out he was seeing his ex-gf [20, F].
POST: I just found out that my boyfriend got back together with his ex-gf shortly after he asked me to be his girlfriend. They continued talking or emotionally cheating for the first 5 months of our relationship until she found out about me and made him choose. He chose me (I guess) as our relationship still continued (he ended things with her 6-7 months ago completely) and we recently celebrated our one year anniversary. I am just finding this out now and trying to sort my brain as to the whats and whys. The most confusing thing is that since they both go to church together and were on this purity thing, they never engaged in a sexual manner. However, he told her he loved her, something that he has also been telling me for the past year. The lies, the betrayal, the deception -- is all cheating to me even though it was not physical. I am disgusted with him and since I found out, he has been remorseful, upset, and willing to do anything to fix our relationship - even engage/marry me (as I wanted to get married before I found all this out). I love and hate him at the same time, and am baffled by all of this, as I never thought he was the kind of person to do that. We had a good relationship, everyone knew about it (except her), but he fell into a depression the past few months and I could not figure out why until now. I know almost anyone would suggest that I run away from it and end it completely, but I don't know how to be alone right now and I can't fathom being without him. I don't have many friends, and I don't discuss relationship issues with my family, so I am coming here to ask for advice from strangers. Also, we work together so I have to see his face at least 5/x a week. How can I help myself? How can I help this relationship? Is there even a chance that this is fixable? If not, how do I learn to not be so angry and sad every time I see him at work?
TL;DR: | boyfriend had an emotional fling with his ex-gf during the first 5 months of us dating; I just found out a year later. what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I don't understand why we are in Afghanistan.
POST: My best friend is over in Afghanistan right now, and is just hit me that I don't understand why we are over there. We, or at least the CIA, has been conducting drone missions as far away as Yemen, successfully killing Al Qaeda leaders who have been escaping for years. We got Osama in Pakistan using information and attacking him directly, in a country where we have no aggressive troops on the ground.
Maybe I don't have enough information or something, but it doesn't actually make sense to me to have troops stationed over there. I understand that, 8 years ago, we didn't have the technology we have now. We also had slightly more justification to be over there. But now, with the spy tech we have at our disposal and the allies we have made over there, it just doesn't make sense to me to be there so aggressively. I want to protect the USA and Europe as much as the next patriot, but can't we do it remotely at this point? If anything happened to my buddy, I don't think I could ever justify why he was even over there at this point.
Is there a reason I am overlooking?
TL;DR: | Why are we occupying Afghanistan, especially aggressively? If we have the technology to monitor and remove threats remotely, why are we still investing in ground numbers? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Not sure if I'm [23M] still going out with this girl [21F] -- advice?
POST: So lets start by going back to [my old post] - I did confront her about my problem with her and she was sincerely apologetic. We ended that evening watching Netflix and cuddling on her couch.
That was two weeks ago.
The last time I heard from her was last Saturday when she saw my Snapchats that I was on my way to London. It went like:
Girl: Oh you're leaving this week? I thought it wasn't until the next month.
Me: Yup. Flight's tonight.
Girl: Have fun!
That's it. Now I'm back, I haven't heard from her since. It seems like we're just friends but we did explicitly talk about "our scenario" a month ago that we're indeed dating.
I completely understand her busy schedule (work 30 hours a week, school twice a week) and I know that she has her own priorities (work, school, family). I think we're just casually dating now since she doesn't give me too much priority but, to be honest, I'm totally fine if we just not talk/stay friends.
I kinda do wanna see her but she's just to busy to make time for me and I don't like being rejected consecutively. I mean, if she wants to see me, she'll make time right? So far, she hasn't made time for me in a while which is why that I feel that we're just casually seeing each other. I just don't want to date someone who doesn't have time for me. I don't need too much attention, I just want to know that the girl's still interested. And from the looks of it, she isn't.
Are girls like this nowadays? I haven't dated in a while... I don't know how girls nowadays act.
Should I confront her about this too? If ever I would, I doubt she'll have time to talk though lol. I prefer to do it in person since I feel that talking about these stuff online/through text is childish.
TL;DR: | I'm dating this girl but she's not giving me any attention. Are we still dating? Or is it just casual? Idk really what to say. I'm no wizard and frankly, I don't like hints |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[24 F] have a crush on my internet-based best friend[25 F], and I'm afraid to tell her how I feel
POST: I suffer from severe disabilities, enough so that I normally don't interact with anyone. However, for a few years now I've been interacting with a lady who I've come to realize I strongly adore and would even like to pursue a romantic relationship with. We've even been working on plans so I can go visit her (she lives several hours away, in another country [US, I'm in Canada]).
When we first met, I identified as straight. However, through a lot of self discovery and talking with her, I've realized that isn't the case. I'm still not completely locked down on my sexuality but I do know I love her and I don't want to lose her.
Normally I would leave things be and let them develop, see what happens when we finally meet in person. Unfortunately, she's told me a few times that she has a crush on a mutual friend; my friend returns that affection. When I've asked if they're outright dating she's said no, that it's just a strong hypothetical. It makes me even moreso feel like I need to tell her, before it's too late. I feel like she's mostly interested in this other friend because it was one of the few people in our circle of friends who was also gay.
If I tell her, I potentially ruin the best friendship I've ever had in my life. If I don't, I may lose the girl of my dreams. I'm at a loss as to what I should do.
TL;DR: | I'm in love with a girl I met on the internet, but she has a crush on someone else. Do I tell her how I feel before it's 'too late'? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] duration, short-description
POST: Ok, so since I have more time, I've been thinking and I wanna ask you guys few questions. To what extent does a fangirl (noun) fangirl (verb)? And this is geared towards you fangirls for kpop and Free! (a show) and etc. You know, the manservices. ;)
(First, let me set some premises about myself.
I have a girlfriend and she's a huge fangirl. I don't really care and in fact, I'll support her. So my intention isn't aggressive, just curious. )
What the hell is this guy saying? Well let me explain. So often times, when you see a shirtless Sehun (kpop star) or a shirtless Haru (from Free!), I notice a lot that the typical reaction is "oh those triceps," or "I'd so feel his arm."
I don't mind these comments, but how far are they supposed to go? Should you keep on going on about those fantasies even though you have a respective partner who you care about?
And then that question brought me to another part. When a girl fangirls over a guys arms and abs to the point of wanted to feel it, would you feel it in reality if you could? Keep in mind that the scenario is that you've got a partner that you're dedicated to.
Additionally, I was also wondering, what happens with a boy's respective fanboying. If the opposite partner were to fanboy about his idol's boobs saying that he'd feel it if he could, would that bother you as his girlfriend?
Enlighten me here because I'm really just curious, but would you be offended? Personally, it seems like the same thing as a fangirl wanting to feel their idol's abs/arms.
So yeah, tell me what you guys think~ Let's be nice about this cause they're only just questions. Lol.
TL;DR: | How far does a fangirl go when they're in a relationship, how far would you carry out those fantasies, and would you, as the girl be offended if the boy fanboyed the same way about his idol? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How common is messaging on reddit's NSFW subs? Does it often lead to cheating? [25 F] with my [26 M] BF of 2+ years
POST: I'm in a very happy relationship with my (I believe) sexually satisfied boyfriend of 2+ years.
I made the terrible error of finding my BF's reddit username. I looked through some of his comments and found some "PM" comments on NSFW forums, for people offering casual sex, pictures, etc. So I don't know what sort of information has been exchanged, just that it has been.
Do many men pm girls to get off even if they're in a relationship? Is chatting generally as far as these things go? I imagine the "super hot horny blondes" aren't really going to meet up with my BF. If it's more likely that he's just doing a little internet dirty talk I don't really have a problem with it. However, if it's common that these things escalate, I think it's a discussion I need to have.
Do other people consider this kind of interaction to be in the same general idea as pornography? Or does the existence of another person make it more troubling? I'm a little upset, but don't want to overreact if this is something common.
TL;DR: | BF is apparently pm-ing girls on reddit NSFW forums, including posts offering to meet up for sex. Don't know the content, don't know if it is something to be worried about. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Best girlfriend I could ever ask for; traditional Vietnamese parents taking it all away. Help?
POST: I'll try and keep it short for you.
Basically, I (18) and my girlfriend (also 18) have been together for over a year. We're in our first year of college, albeit 360 miles and 6 hours driving distance away. We've made a long-distance relationship (LDR) work—trust me on that one.
It's basically been the best time we could have ever asked for.
Her parents, of traditional Vietnamese culture and upbringing, are understandably strict and not as progressive as most American households are. The Asian parent stereotype of demanding good grades to lead to a well-paying job is, unfortunately, often **not** a stereotype.
So even though she has pulled great grades in her first quarter of college, her parents simply cannot stand the idea of her having a boyfriend: it can hamper her ability to study, it can distract her, it is ultimately harmful. They have always felt this way, but just tonight, they pulled her aside, sat her down, *and told her to break up with me, once and for all.*
They've met me, although I suppose reluctantly. They mentioned I'm "not that special," yet they also contradictorily say, "Nothing against him" (I'm roughly translating their Vietnamese into English).
I don't necessarily need to bore you and flesh out all the details here. All I can say is that *even though* I know that my SO and I are young, *even though* statistically our relationship apparently shouldn't work, *even though* the odds seem overwhelmingly stacked against us...I just don't think it's right that any relationship should end like this—especially since we are adults by law.
With all that said, I have one question in addition to a request for advice: *Is anyone here able to translate English into Vietnamese?*
I have an idea, and it's far-fetched, but really, is there anything to lose at this point? I want to write a letter—a very calm one—to her parents, and RESPECTFULLY and CAREFULLY tell them a bit from my perspective. No barbs, no insults—just a letter that just might change their mind.
TL;DR: | Have girlfriend worth fighting for. Her Vietnamese parents want best for her, decree us to split. I need a friendly Redditor who can translate my English letter into Vietnamese. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Request for artist/tattoo artist
POST: Hi guys, I have a request with a potential reward if I use the design.
I've wanted this tattoo for a while... and I have seen ppl of reddit produce amazing art, so I would feel honored if someone can help me with this particular design.
Location: Right calf
**The design is simple... a watery ying yang sign.**
The reason I want to get is that when I was young I did martial arts (like any other nerdy kid) and I dislocated my knee, badly. I couldn't really walk on it for a month or so (never went to the doc. btw)
From that bad, and from my parents banning me to do martial arts (which I loved) I turned to water polo, because it could strengthen my knee. From Polo went to swimming. And that single choice has changed my whole life. I've grown immensely as a person. I stopped being a dick and caring about myself. Had my first love, had a sense of family and trust, sense of belonging. And due to all those changes I ended up fighting to get into/finish college, get a job etc and want to help the community. While before hand I was on the track to stay at home till 40, eat hot pockets and play WoW (I still do that I just don't live at home :P )
^ is sadly the
TL;DR: | of why I want to get it, I don't want to have a wall of text, but if people are interested into more reasons why this tattoo would mean a lot to me I will more then gladly write more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: [Employment] Help with a employer that is not giving me my agreed upon wage
POST: Hi all, here is a short explanation of what is happening (Hopefully this is the correct spot for my question).
I recently went full time at a grocery store that I was previously working full time at. The store director and I agreed upon an increased wage, but the time that I would start getting payed that wage was never disclosed (I thought it would be immediately). When I received my paycheck today I saw that I was getting payed at my previous wage, so I checked in with the HR rep, who said that the wage would start "later", he would not give me the start date for that wage, and made it seem like I would not receive 401K/full time profit sharing bonus etc. at the end of the quarter. On Monday, I can talk to the store director again, but I'm trying to figure out my potential options right now.
I know that the store director, and likely the upper management, thinks that I do not have many options since I recently graduated college without a related job, but one unskilled labor job is just like another, right? I live with my parents so I have everything that I need, and have saved all but ~$2,000 of my pay from the last 6 months, so I have a pretty big safety net to fall back on. From my point of view, if they will not tell me when my wage will be increased to the agreed upon amount, I can continue to work full time at the lower wage (kind of allowing them to take advantage of me), or quit.
So internet peoples, do you have any advice on what I should do/how I should go about getting a fair treatment?
TL;DR: | After going full time at a grocery store, I'm not getting the agreed upon wage. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I be worried about my dreams?
POST: Hey-oo!
I am a easy going person who tries to be friends with everyone. Someone once called me a innate diplomat, because my ability to remove aggression and violence from any situation. I never stress about anything and my only goal is to make me and everybody around me happy.
Now, about once a month I have this very weird dream where I'm angry as hell and very violent. I can't really tell what I'm angry for, but I certainly can feel the rage and selfishness. I've had dreams where I would just scream at my mom or beat the living crap out of some friend.
I don't really believe that dreams have any hidden meanings or other mysticism what so ever, but I'm starting to get worried. Those feelings I go through in the dreams are strangers to me and I feel like crap for a couple of days after one of these dreams. I don't know, should I be worried?
TL;DR: | I'm like r/trees, yet I have dreams where I act like a nut-job with rabies. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Me and my lady friend are approaching the end of our run, and I need help.
POST: Me and my lady friend have been dating for two and a half years. The first two years went perfectly. So well, in fact, that I wanted to spend more time with her. So I got a job where she works. That's a mistake, I know, but bear with me.
Every day at work, I have to watch guys flirt with her non-stop for six hours a day. This has been going on for about a year (since I started working there). She wouldn't cheat on me, I'm positive, but when I bring it up, she gets angry.
Its gotten to the point where we can't be together without arguing. The only time we don't fight is when we text. It's come to the point that she literally will get mad at almost everything I say. The only time I ever see her is at work and when I pass by her on campus. We haven't been together outside of work in three and a half months.
I know that it's coming to an end. She does too. I just need some help with how to go about it.
TL;DR: | Relationship started off well, and then took a bad turn. Need help on how to end it, how to cope with ending it, and what to do after. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: My dachshund's muzzle is swollen, taking her to the vet tomorrow, anything I should know?
POST: Hi, I was home for the Thanksgiving holiday this past weekend and on the Saturday evening succeeding Thanksgiving holiday, I noticed that my doggie's nose was quite swollen.
I brushed it off as she's had little hiccups in her health in the past, nothing ever severe but she always bounced back within a couple days.
So the next morning I checked up on her, but she seemed very lethargic the entire day, unfortunately, I had to return to school that evening so I had my parents keep an eye on her, to make sure that she'd be okay.
I called my parents yesterday, asking about her.. She seemed to have regained her energy, but her swelling increased. The next day (today, 11/27) I drove an hour to visit her, and her swelling was terrible.
She now looks like [this]
She was really excited to see me and was jumping around like her normal self.. but I couldn't shrug off the swelling. So we're going to see the vet tomorrow.
In efforts to avoid the hassle that vets often do.. (they tend to charge like crazy) I was wondering if there's anything I need to know.. and to be frank, I'm worried out of my mind. Is there anything you guys can say to reassure me?
I'm afraid that the vet is going to charge for every darn little test.. I don't have a lot of experience with vets as I've been fortunate enough to have very healthy dogs in the past that have only needed their vaccine boosters, annual check ups, spays, dental check ups etc.
I'm also afraid that this may be fatal.. She's a rescue puppy with a dark past, so she hasn't had the clearest nor cleanest med record.. but she's not young either. She's about 8-9 yrs old.
Any advice /r/dogs? You all know how much a dog means to a kid.
TL;DR: | My dog has a swollen noes and I'm going to the vet tomorrow, any advice as to what I should tell them/to reassure me that my dog will be ok? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [24M] can't connect to people anymore
POST: Rant.
A couple years ago my ex broke off our 3 year relationship 3 weeks after my father died. Shitty timing but whatever. 3 weeks later she tells me she's seeing a girl.
This hurt. I hated her with a fiery passion and still do. It caused me to hate and distrust women for a long time. I experimented with men but they were mean too.
Months later my best friend od'd and died and that was it.
I decided all people do is use me, ignore me, hurt me or leave/die.
I stopped even wanting sex and even now I find it gross. Sex is just another way for people to use me. Right afterwards I feel used and ugly and gross even if it is a totally mutual thing with someone I like. I curl up in a ball and don't let them look at me
Everyone just seems so cruel and I hate it.
I hate myself and I've lead a life that a lot of people don't understand so I feel like I have to compartmentalize my life to the point I don't even know who I am anymore.
I want a nice, kind woman that I can slowly open up to but I don't know anymore.
I've been completely alone for years and it's starting to really mess with my life.
I just needed to get that off my chest.
TL;DR: | ex girlfriend broke my heart. I've got ptsd and intimacy issues. Everyone just seems to use me. Sex seems weird and gross. I'm lonely. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [33M] just started dating a woman [32F] whose child went missing 9 years ago. How can I support her?
POST: I met "Carol" through mutual friends about a year ago, but we only started seeing each other about a month ago. I already care about her very deeply. I learned a while ago from our friends that Carol had her first (and only) child when she was 18. The little girl went missing when she was six. Obviously, this has destroyed Carol. She does talk about her daughter sometimes, and I know she carries her photo in her wallet, but there is a constant sorrow that hangs over her. Even when we're having fun, I can see that she's feeling sadness at the same time. We've never had a detailed conversation about her daughter but she knows that I know the story. I'm always afraid to bring it up or say something about it that might hurt her.
I want to be there for her, and I want her to know that even though this terrible thing happened to her, I'm going to do my best to make her happy. I know we're very early in the relationship but I can already see myself spending the rest of my life with her.
Does anyone have experience with something similar? Does anyone have advice for how I can support Carol?
TL;DR: | My GF of one month has a child who went missing nine years ago. She is recovering, but still (obviously) enormously affected by this. How can I express my support? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] with my [29M] boyfriend won't stop commenting on the attractiveness of other girls in front of me. WWYD?
POST: First post here, thanks for the read. So the boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years and I've acknowledged this situation on several occasions. Often when we're out in public or are watching a show together he'll often go, "mmm" when an attractive girl is around or he'll comment lightly on her ass, Tits, etc.
I don't have the best self esteem or confidence in myslef and this seems to make it worse- he knows this. I've talked to him about it and how it makes me feel, he says he doesn't do it to make me feel bad; he loves me and he's with me.
I also don't want to be that irrational girl that gets upset over minor things, we are human everyone looks. But when he says stuff like that I retract and get grumpy/sad. I think it's a very unattractive trait of his and I've told him at least four times throughout our relationship how it makes me feel but he doesn't seem to stop.
I've discussed it with a few female co-workers, a very popular comment was the "the strike rule". I love him dearly and this is just about the only thing that gets under my skin.
What would you do in this situation? I'd love to hear both Male and Female points of view and what you'd do.
Thanks for reading!
TL;DR: | Boyfriend won't stop commenting on other womens' attractiveness in front of me despite me expressing my feelings about it- multiple times. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by soaking a girl I don't know in juice
POST: So this is my fuck up, not from today but from about a year ago.
I was with my best friend on the way to meet some girls, two of them I believe. Now he had been there playing a bit of ball with friends whilst I had enjoyed some good ol' 420 fun with another friend so I wasn't at my regular intelligent best. Anyway so we met up with the girls, he had some history with one of them and they were on a kind of "on-and-of-basis". I was pretty good friends with her too. The other I had never met in my life, so I said hi in a polite yet charming manner and the four of us continued our journey - the two girls walking about a yard from the two of us guys.
I was carrying a bottle of juice that I bought beforehand to counterattack my mouth-dryness. I was taking small sips regularly to ensure some moisture in my mouth and the rest of the time I juggled it casually, as you do. Here's where I fucked up:
I had just taken a sip, when the random girl said something to her friend like "Yeah so this guy I've been seeing is a dick and I told it to his face". My friend comments this (only to me though) - "Damn, she's not the kind of girl you wanna fuck with". As I started to answer him i started juggling the bottle again which, as you might recall, was now open. So instead of it flipping in the air and me catching it calmly, I emptied it right on this "badass" girl's back, in what looked like a very purposeful way. She freaked out - the bottle had been near full, the juice cold and the sweater expensive. It was hard explaining to her what had happened without mentioning I was kite-high.
TL;DR: | got high, accidentally emptied an - apparently lidless - full bottle of juice on random feisty girls back whilst trying to juggle it in the air. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [22F] am unsure what to do with FWB [29M]. He says he wants an open relationship but has told his family about me?
POST: I've been seeing "X" for two months now.
He's very kind, smart and caring. We get along well and after we hook up he'll often stay and sometimes stays over.
We had a short break last month after he texted me saying he thought I needed someone more long term and I agreed that we weren't working out.
To my surprise when we were texting about other things a week later he asked me out for dinner. At dinner he told me he wasn't "breaking up with me" and I said well no we weren't together... He agreed but argued we weren't randomly hooking up either.'
We've been hooking up ever since but have not had sex other than oral etc,.
I previously had a bad experience but he says he doesn't mind waiting a bit.
Other than that he acts very boyfriend like. He'll put his arm around me in public, we've talked about the age difference, told his friends about me and he argues it doesn't matter etc,.
On the other hand he then turns around and says he doesn't want anything serious.
He said he was shocked that I agreed with him when he originally said that but I asked him again tonight and he said he didn't want anything serious.
To my surprise, he told me his family knew about me. They didn't know me as some random girl either - but as a specific person he's been seeing.
I told him that surprised me and I hadn't told my family. He jokingly said ouch, but clearly wasn't really joking.
I'm really confused.
I'm leaning to think he's afraid I won't want a relationship and is thus just saying he's fine with being FWB.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: | my FWB acts like a boyfriend and has told his family about me. He seemed insulted I hadn't told mine about him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking my dog for a walk
POST: So, today after dinner at around 8pm myself and my household decided to take a stroll. It started like any other stroll, except tonight we turned right at a particular field rather than going straight ahead. Because our dog is a lurcher she loves to run around, so we let her off the leash when we reach an open field full of stubble. So, as we walked up the other pathway, we see a couple with their dog, politely say hi and continue walking. A few moments later, our dog, Nala, goes out of sight, seconds pass and I hear her barking, so I ran to find her and see that she is chasing sheep. To get to the sheep all I had to do was walk over a small gap in the hedges. I started shouting her name, and of course, no response, so I ran up to her and pick her up after she has been chasing the sheep for about 15 seconds at the most. I hear the farmer's dogs barking... You can see where this is going. But it gets better, these sheep that my dog was chasing, were not only pregnant, but were pedigree, and their lambs worth lotsa money. I gave the farmer our details as he needs to contact the police for the 'dog attack', and soon we will be visited by them etc etc. In about 10 days we will be notified if there have been any miscarriages, and if there are then we will be fined. And we have no home insurance to cover it, and I am a fucking student... But the annoying thing is that the path was RIGHT next to a public footpath, and there were no signs saying 'private land, do not tresspass' etc, or at least it was too dark to see them, and on top of that, there was no fucking fence or anything protecting the sheep in the first place!!! -__________________
TL;DR: | Walked my dog a new way, chases pregnant pedigree sheep, and we may be fined if there are any misscarriages. |
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