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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[24/f] dad[65m] needs a hobby.
POST: Help me, /r/relationships.
My retired father has way too much free time and he's spending it making himself angry. I don't want to get too into it, but today I was fixing up his computer a little and found message logs of him basically flaming people online. He's become one of those people-with-nothing-to-do who make divisive comments on news articles and then have personal arguments with every other commenter. He writes scathing editorials to the point that the local paper has stopped putting in anything by him because he's a nuisance. He buys stuff on ebay and gets scammed or just misunderstands what he's buying all the time and then writes long all-caps emails to the sellers.
I really feel like he needs to redirect his incredible amount of free time into.... something. Anything. But he doesn't have any real hobbies or interests beyond reading, drinking, and watching independent films. Sometimes he rides his motorcycle or works on the car. Or tries to butt into my life and control it, in some kind of vicarious gratification thing.
He had a job for a while, but it was a night watchman thing and he ended up hating it. At this point, I think he could really only work for himself. He has trouble with having a boss.
I don't know. He's always had a "belligerent" personality type, but now he's just sitting at home **making** himself angry and upset. How can I get him to relax, or help him find something to enjoy? (dunno if this is relevant or not... but when he retired he cut back on his prozac... that's not a conversation I could possibly even start with him though)
TL;DR: | Retired father spends his time getting angry over anything and everything. Daughter thinks it's unhealthy. Should she just butt out? How can you nudge an older parent into a new path? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: x-post from Ask Men: What else can I do for my boyfriend's birthday?
POST: I'm 20 (F) and he's turning 25 soon, and we've been dating for almost a year. This is the longest relationship I've ever been in, and the first real time celebrating a boyfriend's birthday, so I'm a bit over my head here.
I want to do something really nice because he went to a lot of trouble for my birthday back when we started dating.
I bought him a [facehugger stuffie] (huge Aliens fan) and I'm going to do a painting that he hinted at wanting, as well as pick up a little sexy outfit...
But I want to do something, too. I'm going to ask him if there's anything he wants to do, but I just know he's going to leave it up to me.
So, I was thinking of arranging getting the house to myself (living with my folks while I finish school) and making him a really nice dinner. We have a running joke about about how I apparently can't cook when really I just don't like to, so I think if I made a really good dinner it would be a nice surprise.
Also plan on getting a friend to help me make a cake for him.
I'm at a bit of a loss as to what else I could do, though, other than the obvious sexual things which will come later.
TL;DR: | Planning on cooking dinner and getting a nice present for the boyfriend, but not sure what else I can do to spoil him for a day. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: US - Various states: Consuming alcohol for money
POST: Background: Twitch is a live video platform with an interactive chat. Essentially it's live Gaming YouTube with immediate response from the personality you're watching.
Streamers commonly have what would best be described as a digital Tip jar(click link, follow through Paypal, sends X amount of money directly to support streamer) which is also commonly mislabeled as Donations(which isn't the problem here).
With some regularity I come across streamers who consume alcohol on stream(which is technically against the sites rules of conduct, which violating is a ban-able offense, but again, not the problem here). Finally, to the subject, on some of these alcohol consumption streams, it happens that a streamer(this is the owner of the channel, the personality behind the video) will state something within the format of "X donation/tip get Y consumption of alcohol". I was under the impression that directly tying the consumption of alcohol to the acquisition of money was illegal, but I do not remember where I gathered this notion. I have done some searching around but all I can seem to find are either charities that want to help me quit drinking or unrelated topics.
TL;DR: | my question: What are the legal ramifications, if any, of linking consumption of alcohol directly to the acquisition of money? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] Get Along With People, Namely My Girlfriend [19F] Better When I Don't See Them Often.
POST: I sometimes consider myself introverted, but I have been coming out of my shell recently. Ever since I was young, whenever I would spend too much time with someone, (i.e. my family on vacation/road trips) we would argue and not get along very well.
The same thing applies to my first and current girlfriend. I love spending time with her and try to do so as much as possible. Time really flies when I'm with her.
I've just noticed that whenever I am busy one day and can't see her, (We live in the same dorm complex at a university), the next time I see her we get along much better.
Things just seem natural. We don't argue, we have a great time, I seem to find better words to express how much I love her, and everything is simply bliss.
On the other hand, if I see her every day for a few days, we start to argue and things aren't so 'natural' anymore. Why is this? Like I said I'm kind of introverted so maybe being alone one day helps me recover?
I want nothing more than to spend as much time with her as possible because I love her to death. Could this issue be worked out? What tips do you have from your personal experience on the subject? What can I do to fix this? Any and all suggestions would help greatly.
TL;DR: | Could spending too much time with my girlfriend hurt our relationship? What can I do to make sure things are 'natural' again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 F] think I'm unintentionally falling out of love with my [20 M] boyfriend of 1.5 years
POST: about three years ago, I met a guy named Dylan who was very similar to me and I fell in love with him immediately. However, we never really spoke openly about our feelings and although it was very hard for me at that time, I decided to move on with my life. I got a boyfriend, one of the kindest, most amazing guys I ever met and I absolutey adored him. We've never been into big fights or had any major troubles, yet I started doubting our relationship two months ago.
We didn't see each other for about a month because of exams, and when we did, to me it felt like it was just for having sex. Then, right after exams, I left for a holiday and Dylan popped up in my mind again. Thinking I had nothing to gain or to lose, I asked him straight away if he had ever had any feelings for me. He had, and here's where things get messy. I started doubting our relationship even more, thinking why I hadn't asked Dylan earlier. (Im not planning onto leaving my boyfriend) and I could literally feel myself drifting away from my boyfriend.
I thought that, when I would get home, things would get back like they were, but after missing him for two weeks, my boyfriend appeared on my doorstep again, and the hugs and kisses felt so 'empty' and 'meaningless' to me. The comfort that they had given my earlier, was all gone. After some talking and kissing, my boyfriend wanted to have sex again ( can't really blame him), and, truly, it was the WORST sex I ever had. I felt nothing. Completely nothing.
Worst of all is I don't even want to feel that way. I don't want to fall out of love. I don't want to lose my boyfriend, and yet there's a part of me that keeps pushing him away. What do I do about it ? Is there any way I can change the way I feel about him right now ?
TL;DR: | boyfriend and I didn't see each other for a while, and in the meantime I unintentionally started doubting our relationship. Don't want to lose him and keep pushing him away. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Coworker [M 29] is making my [M 22] life a living hell
POST: I work for one of my friends parents in a pretty small workplace. 15 people exactly. This guy has constantly made me feel threatened ad uncomfortable. It's small things like constantly talking shit about me to other coworkers (who I've talked to and they are uncomfortable with him as well) or making complaints about me to my bosses on a weekly bases. Confronting me about little mistakes I've made.
Here's the problem. When he's not on a rant about how awful black people are or how gays are ruining the world. He's making my life and other coworkers lives awful. He has been to prison and has made threats to me and other coworkers that he will beat the shit out of them and hire people to shoot up their houses and what not.
Our bosses don't like him and we don't have an HR. I think they would fire him if they weren't just as scared and had grounds to do so. I would stand up to him but I can't get into a fight as I'm trying to become a cop and I'm scared for my family. He beats his children and girlfriend and brags about it. This is literally the worst person in the world. What are my options in trying to make this go away either legally or maybe just talking to him?
Thank you
TL;DR: | Coworker makes constant remarks about me, I feel threatened, don't know how to talk to him or someone else about it |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Is it a bad sign when your significant other doesn't think about going on dates AT ALL?
POST: Me (Female 24) and boyfriend (24) have been together for 2.5 years and he used to do romantic things with me when we first started dating. I'd call that part of the first few months "bliss" period.
We have been living together for about 1 year of our relationship and shortly before moving in, he started getting less and less romantic. I have to be the one to instigate romantic stuff and going out and doing special stuff. He still acts sweet to me, but even after having conversations with him about this, he still isn't big on taking me out. In fact, I have treated him and have taken him out WAY more than the other way around. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but I would like to be treated every once in a while... I feel like he just doesn't think about those things anymore...
In turn, this lack of "feeling special" has really made my libido drop off. I feel like maybe one is causing the other for him, too, which seems awful to say, but... yeah. Does anyone have any advice on how to effectively confront him and let him know that this is a really big deal, even after I have already talked to him about this?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of 2.5 years no longer seems interested in going on dates. Does this mean he is losing interest? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] and my friends ex [16 F] are thinking of dating, he said he was cool with it.
POST: My friend of several years dated a girl over the summer and broke up with her because it wasn't working, although they aren't angry at each other they both feel awkward in each others company. He has told me jokingly(?) that he doesn't mind me dating her.
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There was a charity walk being organized and i invited her to do it with me which she accepted. My friend, not knowing she was going, said he would do it with me. She is now having second thoughts on whether she wants to go or not, I have told her it's fine either way.
TL;DR: | Thinking of walking with a friends ex in a sort of "datey" way while they are awkward around each other. He said he would also come. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] just found irrefutable evidence my bf (no ex) [25 M] was cheating on me for our 1 and a half year relationship. How do I deal with this now?!
POST: Edit: **now** ex
I just found out my boyfriend of a year and a half was cheating on me in that time. We just broke up for him 'no longer being interested' on the weekend and I only found out about the cheating today.
My friends, who I hadn't yet told that we'd broken up, came to me with images and videos from the past week of him with other girls (making out) to advise me to break up with him.
I didn't look at the pictures, I feel like if I did I'd scream.
I just don't know what to do. I'm so angry, I'm resisting swearing. I've just never been so mad in my life.
What do I do?! What kind of tips and tricks do you use to get over this experience, the anger?! I have to concentrate, I have assessment for university this week and I just want to destroy something.
Thanks for reading, any comments or advice are appreciated!
TL;DR: | Found out, just then, my boyfriend of a year and a half has been cheating on me. We just broke up. How do I get over this anger and hurt? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20M) am in love with my neighbour (15F) but our relationship can't happen because of her age! Any advice?
POST: About a year ago, my neighbour moved in next door to us. I noticed her when we first met on the morning I was heading out to college, we talked for a while and found a lot of things in common. My conversations with her are some of the best I've ever had, we talk about many things such as movies, our time in school and almost everything we are interested in. She is a very exciting person to talk too and eleven months later, I told her that I loved her.
I've had girlfriends before who were my age, but none of them made as happy as she has, she has made me feel so good about myself and I love being around her and she loves being around me. The problem that we have at the moment is that she is 15 and I'm 20, I know you hear the thing that "Age is just a number" but she is not even 16 yet and I'm worried that if our relationship gets out, I will get arrested or something like that. We've never had sex, but we have kissed and I've hung out with her and stuff, it's just we are worried that our relationship can't be real because of her age.
Her parents and my parents are aware that we hang out a lot and our friendship, but if they found out that we are dating and that we kissed, I'm going to get attacked by everyone. At college, we do text each other and I told my friends that she is just my neighbour and I've not told anyone else. I love her so much and she loves me, but our relationship can't happen for real because of her age. Any advice?
TL;DR: | I'm 20, fell in love with my 15 year old neighbour, we've kissed and want to start dating, but because of her age, it's holding us back! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update to: Me f21 having serious issues with roommate f 31. I am scared she will escalate.
POST: [](
So just to explain the situation a bit more. Only the guy living in the building right next door(ill all him bob) has signed the lease with the landlord the rest of us just had a verbal month to month agreement with no eviction process and first and last month rent paid when we moved in.
Bob gave me a verbal contract that if any month any other person living in the house or on the property could not pay rent, no one except him would be liable to cover it. Bob says that because he cannot cover the f(21 ill call her Amy)'s rent for November, he cant kick her out at the end of october beginning of November. And since I cant afford to cover Amy's room either my only options are:
1) Move out. i have started looking for other apartments in this area and my parents have invited me to come back. This would mean leaving this city and job I love to go to a small town where I would have zero social life and would have to find a new job.
2) Stay here and try to work through things. My freinds have suggested buying a microwave so i dont always have to use my kitchen and i could ask her to only communicate with me when other people are around or on the kitchen whiteboard. t sounds childish but I really dont want to deal with her yelling in my face or filling my phone with nasty texts.
Thank you to everyone who gave advice on the previous post. I am nowhere near happy or ok with anything goign on but at least I have options.
TL;DR: | No way to kick her out because of rent so I either have to move out or have her stop communicating with me and hide in my room. Not happy with either option but they are my only ones. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Extremely unsure and lost
POST: Hi there reddit! I'm not really sure if I'm doing this correctly because I'm still fairly new here, so please bare with me. I'm a sixteen year old girl whose parents are going through an extremely tough divorce. My mother and I now live in an expensive apartment (~$2000/mo), to which she has just decided she needs help paying for. Instead of going to my father for the money, she has decided to target me. He gives me $400/month in allowance which is supposed to cover anything I need- so that my mother does not need to pay for anything regarding me, besides rent. Needless to say, I do not have much money by the end of the month.
The only way I think I could solve this rent problem is by getting a job. I have absolutely zero job experience. I'm pretty much a straight A student, involved in two very exclusive programs at school (Laws & Leadership) and not to mention good looking. I've never made a resume before and I have no clue what type of jobs to apply for. I'm extremely social, great at talking to people, and very hard working. Also, apparently I look much older than 16.
TL;DR: | I'm a sixteen year old student with no experience who needs help in obtaining a job during my mother's time of crisis. Thanks so much in advance xoxo |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by offering weed to the boss of my brand new job!
POST: I can't believe I did this! I am sitting here in disbelief in myself after the words came out my mouth. I just started a new job less than a week ago. Not just any job, but a good job! Anyways, my boss just moved from a medical marijuana State to a non-medical State. He starts telling me how he is a big smoker and how he did his own grow back home. Nothing big but just for personal use. We talked about marijuana and he asked if I smoked. I said I hadn't in a while, which is true because I've been looking for a job! He then proceeds to tell me how hard it is to find it out here in this non-medical state.
I took that as pure Stoners Code. I thought he was literally hoping he was relating with someone who can get him some green. I'm no dealer and I usually don't have any around me but I know tons of people who have it on them daily. So then I said: "Would you like me to make some phone calls for you?" He looked at me and did a soft under the breath chuckle and said "...no." Then I stood there looking puzzled at him since I thought I heard the Stoners Code. He then said "Well, that's good to know." If I was to describe his tone, I would have to say surprisingly stunned with the hesitated "...no"
I go in tomorrow morning. I have no idea if I'm working. I wasn't fired on the spot. I am laughing at myself at this point. I've been out of work 7 months and I completely let those words come out my mouth. TIFU!
TL;DR: | 7 months of no job, 1st week on new job I offer seemingly weed friendly boss a chance to get some weed. And failed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (20f) deleted me (21m) and our photos from facebook when her parents saw we were friends
POST: I've been dating this girl, Abigail, on and off since April of last year. She comes from a very strict catholic family i.e. not allowed to get in my car, no sleepovers, etc. and was reluctant to tell her parents when we first starting dating. Eventually, she did and I got along with her parents fairly well. Then we broke up.
This past May we got back together, she said she couldn't tell her parents right away and I was okay with that. We got into a few arguments about it as the weeks rolled by, but that was it. Well last night I'm at the bar with some friends and I get a message from her saying "don't message me until I message you" followed by "my parents found a picture of us on Facebook so I had to delete everything (our photos) and you"
My pride is completely broken. I feel embarrassed, like I'm in some dark fantasy of hers, and our relationship is a complete lie. I'm 21 going into my senior year of undergrad, so I can't believe I'm actually dealing with this. My heart says I should stay with her because I do care about her, but my head says I should get out of this relationship. It's not just the fact that she can't tell//won't tell her parents, its all the sneaking around behind their backs. It just feels wrong, and I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | Girlfriends' parents found out we were facebook friends//saw out photos so girlfriend deleted everything including me on facebook to hide our relationship. Not sure if I should be in this relationship anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by losing a card 30min before submission.
POST: I served the military in my country and the higher ups decided to let me handle the admin matters as well as other trainings and to access the computers, you need a card that is solely for you personal use as it connects all your emails, accounts, database and everything. I kept the card safely with me for my term of contract.
Today, the big day that my contract ends and I go back being a civilian instead of a military personnel, I got everything that needs to hand back to the HQ and went for the meeting.
Meeting finished, everyone queues to return all their belongings and finish with their military life, I waited. While waiting, I walk around the company to say goodbye to friends and it is finally my turn. Gave the papers, documents that I've signed, touch my pocket and ....
MY FREAKING CARD JUST DISAPPEARED OUT OF THIN AIR. I can't find it anywhere, backtracked the entire office and can't a trace of it. Gotta make a police report and paid a $80 fine. Life is real tough.
TL;DR: | Lost a card suppose to return to the HQ, filed a police report for the card and paid a $80 fine. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU on my first day at work.
POST: I showed up for my first day at a new job and my boss was running late. I had my badge so I figured I'd explore the campus. I eventually made it to the second floor, found my boss's cube, and started looking for a cube with my name on it. After a few minutes, I found one, but it was littered with papers, a docking station, and all sorts of crap. I couldn't believe that they didn't even bother to clean up the cube for me! I started throwing stuff out, cleaning it, and eventually made myself at home. After about 30 minutes, the woman in the cube next to mine shows up and she seemed really confused. She started questioning me... not welcoming me. Are people here really this unfriendly? Did I make a huge mistake moving 3000 miles away for a job?
Instead of saying "Hello and welcome to [company]", she just keeps saying "You're not migit128". I'd respond with "Yes, I am migit128". We repeated this at least 3 times. When I showed her my badge (had my name on it), her confusion intensified. She gave up and sat in her cube quietly. My boss called me a few minutes later so I packed up to meet him. He showed me to a different cube that also had my name on it. It was about 20 feet away from the one I thought was mine. I walked by it later to try to undo what I did, but it was too late. The other cubes real owner was digging his stuff out of the trash wondering wtf he did to deserve this. I've taken the long way to the stairs ever since.
TL;DR: | First day at work and I found a cube with my name on it. Assuming it was mine, I threw everything out, then found out my cube was actually 20 feet away. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I an asshole for avoiding a close friend's latest drama?
POST: Throwaway account, to be sure. I'll try to be succinct.
I (male, mid-twenties) have a friend (female, mid-twenties). We've been friends for a decade or more and she is like a sister to me.
For several months, she's been stuck in a string of bad luck. A breakup with her longterm SO, a lot of bad dates thereafter, financial problems, family problems, self-image problems, and so on. And for every episode of misfortune, my SO and I have been there to help and offer advice.
We do it because we love her, but it's becoming very exhausting and frustrating for us. When she and her SO split up, we had to leave in the middle of the night to help her move out. We told her we thought it was a bad idea to start dating again right away, but she ignored us and did it anyway -- but when none of her dates worked out, we had to pick up the pieces every time. When her money ran out, we had to loan her some... and then again, and again. Just the other week, she was going through some random crisis, and my SO and I got roped into bringing her along on our date night (and I had to pay for her meal).
It's seems like it's something new every week, but this past week was perhaps the worst of it: a friend of hers passed away suddenly. She's, understandably, a wreck about it. I feel terrible for what she's going through.
But we've been avoiding her.
I feel worse about it than my SO (he's equating it to "the girl who cried wolf"), and he reasons that she has others she can turn to -- her family, her other friends, her new SO. I'm inclined to agree with him, but I feel bad about avoiding my friend in her time of need ... even though I am burnt out by the expectation that I will put everything on hold to take care of her.
So, collective wisdom of Reddit, am I being a shit friend for avoiding her? Are we justified in taking a break from all the drama? Do you have advice on how to proceed in this situation?
TL;DR: | Friend's had shit luck (some her fault, some not). New crisis every week for months. Tired of taking care of her. Something worse than usual happened. I've been avoid-y. Am I an asshole? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by playing a prank on my boss's wife.
POST: This happened about an hour ago. It's pretty minor in the big scheme of things, but it still sucked. So, I work in retail, and my boss and I have a pretty good relationship. Cool dude, I've learned a lot from him, and he has made me want to stay with the company. His wife calls and comes in a lot, and she is an awesome lady. Really upbeat, high energy, and really sweet. Her and I get along pretty well, and we will occasionally prank each other or talk trash to each other, just joke around.
In the mornings, it is just my boss and I until around 9 or so, and then we get help, and she will usually call in the morning. So the phone rings, I answer and it's his wife. She asks to speak to her husband and I immediately decide to play a prank. I say "Uhh, I'm not sure where he is. He hasn't come in this morning." And it starts off well, she has a very concerned tone to her voice. She replies "Really? Are...are you being serious?" And I say back "Yeah, another guy came in to open. He (my boss) called and said he had an emergency to take care of." Her tone of concern begins to rise with "Really? Are you fucking serious right now?"
At this point, I begin to become a little concerned myself because I can tell she is getting pretty upset. So I start laughing and tell her I'm joking and she just starts fucking BAWLING. I mean it's game over, absolute sobbing. I am standing here with a loose grip on the phone with a facial expression similar to :|. It turns out that my boss's grandmother has been in the hospital and they've only given her a few days to live, and that was the first thing that popped into her mind. Needless to say, my boss was not happy when I handed him the phone with his sobbing wife on the other end.
TL;DR: | Played a joke on my boss's wife, she started crying, I feel like a massive Congolese cockbag. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is the biggest load of lies and bullshit some one has ever tried to get away with in your presence?
POST: I was at a party with a friend of mine who attends university in Southampton. At this gathering, there was a guy who did not know me as I attend a different university and was only there for said party. I got to talking with him and it is pretty obvious from the get-go that he is a massive bullshitter.
The conversation quickly turns to him bragging about how he is the only heir to a massive fortune (millions of pounds) as his childless uncle "invented the fiberoptic internet connection."
It quickly becomes more rediculous as he starts to claim that he is a drug dealer who makes hundreds of pounds a week selling heroine and cocaine that he makes himself out of paracetamol and ibuprofen. Since we were at a party populated mostly by Art and English Literature students, I guess he figured he could get away with it. He then asks, "So, what is it that you study?". I told him the truth. I study Pharmaceutical Science.
His bullshit immediately stopped and he quietly walked away.
TL;DR: | Guy tells me he is a millionaire drug dealer who makes money by combining paracetamol and ibuprofen into cocaine and heroine. I tell him I study pharmaceuticals, he shuts up and walks away humiliated. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22 M] girlfriend [36 F] of 3 1/2 years wants me to settle down, cut off family.
POST: A bit of backstory. I'm 22, started university when I was 17. Never really had friends, developed intimate feelings. A few months after my 17th birthday I was diagnosed with depression and social anxiety disorder that could've started to develop a long time ago; I've been socially stunted since elementary school.
In any case, my family wasn't the most helpful; while I don't blame them for putting me ahead in grade school - which put me with children 1-2 years my elder - I did dislike the fact that therapy for my disorders and the associated stigma I felt and feared were held over my head to be used as a punishment or the butt of a joke, and I never got treatment for either disorder.
I've since made a few friends online, and my best friend finally convinced me to go to a university football game, where I met my SO. Nearly a year of awkwardness later and we officially became a couple.
My SO has no previously established family of her own, and now that I'm finished with university - she went to grad school, I didn't - she wants to settle down. She's doesn't want children, and neither do I, though she does want me to cut off ties with my family. I've been thinking of doing it independent of her wishing to, but I'm hesitant. My family isn't bad per se, just sort of incompetent. I was a lot of firsts for them. First special needs kid (On the opposite end of the bell curve when you tend to think special needs, 1xx IQ), first to be diagnosed with any sort of mental health issue, etc. They admit they've made more mistakes than they would've liked with me.
That's also why she wishes for me to cease contact with them; I don't really know where I would've been without her, and she believes keeping in contact with them will just hinder my progress in bettering myself and handling my depression and anxiety.
I really do love my SO and she's massively helped me develop since we've met, but I'm afraid that since I've never really managed to make friends I'll become very clingy and reclusive without even family to force me out of that nature.
TL;DR: | First and only love of my life wishes to settle down, cease contact with family. I suffer from depression and social anxiety and don't want to become too clingy without anyone else to connect with. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [34F] BFF [34/F] is pretty steadily gaining weight, should I just keep being supportive?
POST: My best friend Callie is a big girl. Almost 6 feet, large hands, large head...she is big boned. She's also overweight and knows it, always has been. About a year about she had briefly tried keto and lost some weight and looked great, it was so fun comparing recipes too and it encouraged me to find /r/keto and I've also lost some weight though I have much less to lose than her.
The past year she hasn't been interested in dieting or any kind of activity (she does take her dog on a long walk a day, about 40 minutes so that's not nothing). She eats like it's going out of style. Most of our other friends are thin and diet and workout. Zero people judge Callie for being overweight. She is one of the most popular girls I know, she's hilarious and loving, and I think people would never critique her physique because she's so wonderful.
But I'm worried about her health. She is constantly sweating and her knees seem to give constant pain. She has some non weight related health issues and sees several doctors regularly so I assume someone official has talked to her about her weight. I share my keto recipes with her, invite her to do activities not about food or drink, but I don't know at what point I could talk to her about her weight without hurting her feelings.
I brought it up to another one of our friends who just said "I think Callie is beautiful". So do I let her just keep gaining weight? She knows how to lose weight, she knows she needs to, my feeling is that she doesn't need me too telling her more than recipe ideas, but I'm worried about her...help.
TL;DR: | Overweight friend keeps gaining weight to the point that I'm worried about her health, but she sees medical professionals regularly so do I let them handle? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to download Word into a computer
POST: Copy paste: this happened some time ago, yadda yadda yadda.
So, straight in the TIFU.
I was in my usual ICT class, A.K.A teaching about computers, A.K.A you learn absolutely nothing and it's precious time wasted.
So, we get in the class, surprise (muthaslucka) surprise, all computers are taken, except one, which is free, but has a paper attached to it saying "DOESN'T HAVE WORD"
So lil' good ol' genie genius me thinks 'I can boot this PC up and download Word on it, not much of a trouble!'
Everything is going far, teacher doesn't notice.
You see, when you give stupid 12 year old idiots (not me, but I'm 12, turnin' 13 this year) a responsability such as a computer, you know what happens?
The teacher constantly saying "are you playing a game X?"
That's what (horribly) happens.
So I start downloading Word on MEGA, I did not open any game or Facebook or anything else.
Jerk teacher comes in and says '/u/Hoozang, are you playing a game?'
I reply with 'No, I'm downloading Word teacher"
...
She freaking accuses me of playing.
MEGA download progress was on the screen.
Then she proceeds to do a buncha ranting which of course I do not give a flying duck tape about, and then she tells me to turn the computer off.
Jerk.
Bonus part: remember the paper that said "DOESN'T HAVE WORD"? Yeah?
Well my brain-less classmate had broke it.
And I had to bittersweetly rewrite it again for the teacher.
TL;DR: | Got accused of playing a game in a browser in a Computer class, I was downloading Word and the MEGA page was blatantly on the screen. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does anybody know how a school/justice system would handle a case involving a college professor having sexual relations with an 18+ student?
POST: My friend argues that a professor could easily offer to give a struggling student an "A" in the class if she would sleep with him once. He thinks that there would be no repercussions because even if the female accused the teacher of sleeping with him, she would be 18 and therefore responsible. Also, he thinks that his job would remain secured because even if the girl told her parents or the teacher, there would be no evidence saying that he even offered to make such a deal with her. I think this is ridiculous to believe, but now I would like to know for sure. Anyone have a better understanding of this?
TL;DR: | Would a male teacher not see repercussions to asking an 18+ female student for sex in exchange for good grades? Would his job be safe even if he was acquitted of charges?* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my Fiance [23F] together over 4 years, she feels betrayed by one of my groomsman (M24)
POST: My fiance (Anne) and I are set to get married in the fall of 2017. I love her very much and truly want what's best for her. We have a great group of friends, and many of them mutual from college.
Backstory: My fiance had a brutal falling out with her senior year roommate (Julie). They both feel mutually disrespected and aren't on speaking terms. Most of my friends didn't pick sides and stayed friends with both Julie and Anne (albeit never all in the same room). One friend (Dave) stayed particularly close to both of them and considers them both very close friends to this day.
Today: Anne saw pictures of Dave from over the 4th of July weekend with him on vacation with Julie and some mutual friends. She did some snooping and saw they have remained extremely close over the years. Anne was unaware how extensive Dave and Julie's friendship had been. She is very hurt and feels betrayed by Dave. She considered him one of her bestfriends and can't understand how he can continue to associate with someone who has caused her so much pain.
It came to a head today when Anne texted Dave today saying they were not going to be friends going forward. Dave is devastated and wants to keep Anne as a close friend.
Reddit, I want all my friends and family happy at my wedding next year, how can I help resolve this?
TL;DR: | Fiance feels betrayed by one of her bestfriends/my groomsman over staying friends with and ex/friend of hers. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19/f] am opposed to but debating no contact with my recent ex[20/m].
POST: In the interest of keeping this short, I will briefly summarize the recent events.
We had a very close relationship even over a long distance. He is wonderful and has been my rock. The distance closed, but we both remained busy people over summer. Recently, he has needed to consider/make some big life decisions about going back to and finishing school or taking a serious job opportunity that will very likely lead him right into the career he has dreamed about.
Then, his family had a horrible house fire that destroyed most of his possessions. It wasn't a total loss, but he is essentially homeless, which will be important shortly. Just after the fire, he was offered this dream job that would require him to move a short distance from home (and 2 hours away from me).
He's taking the offer. This is a great opportunity for him. And in a certain way, there is no better time to move than now, when he can basically reestablish himself there after the fire. He is struggling with being very busy with work, trying to get over the fact that he has no place right now, and sifting through all the possessions he has been saving over the years that have been destroyed or damaged. This is the busiest he's been in his life so far, and the stress and gravity of the situation have been a factor in our relationship.
We are no longer together. It's very recent. We still love and care for each other deeply and wish that this moment was being more kind to us. He would like to remain in touch, talk, and be friends. He is also hopeful that we can do this and after he has settled into a better environment we can revisit.
Yes, I am familiar with the traditional advice of 'no contact' after a break-up in order to move on, etc.. In this situation, I would really like to avoid this, mostly based on the fact that we both want to keep in touch, but almost more so that I want to know how he and his family are getting on in the aftermath and how his move goes/how the new job is treating him. I don't think this is too much.
Thoughts?
TL;DR: | No longer together but still hopeful for us and not liking the idea of no contact because of recent fire that has turned his life upside down. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Want to start losing fat
POST: I've been staring at my stomach and been watching it get bigger and bigger this past year. I do not want to see that image anymore.
Can I get some tips on where to start? My primary goals are to
* lose weight
* lose the stomach fat
I currently weigh ~180 lbs (I was 165 ish before starting college). I really want to hover around 160-170 or make my body look like it is 180 lbs (Currently look like a twig with a big belly). I wouldn't say I am weak in terms of arm and leg strength but I have gotten weaker. I used to do bicep training with 25 lb dumb bells.
I don't have access to a gym but I do have 10 lb dumb bells I could use in my exercises.
Few things I guess are important
* I am a vegetarian so no meat/fish/eggs
* In home exercises would be my preferred option
I really appreciate any input anyone has. Anything is better than what I can come up on my own.
TL;DR: | I have a big stomach and I want to get rid of it. Open to changing diet somewhat (College student so can't afford fancy meals). |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [40 M] with my wife [37 F] married 8 yrs, feeling very lonely in my marriage and a bit like a single parent
POST: So i have seen posts similar to mine before but always in the reverse. I am a husband who is always super supportive of my workaholic wife. I also work but have a 9-5 job and am with our kids most of the time while she is at work or working from home.
She is a partner in a business and i have always understood the work ethic needed for her to be successful but now she complains the kids do not show her as much attention and affection as they do to me. Its obvious they feel more connected to me and when i try to tell her to take some time to play or bond with them she gets defensive. I feel lost and i am not even touching on the way i feel for the most part....which is sad and lonely but being strong for my kids.
I am posting here primarily because i have nobody close to me that i can vent to was wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences.
TL;DR: | Lonely in marriage, wife is a workaholic and kids show a preference towards me because shes never around for them. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18F] with my BF [20M] of 4 months, girl who he is friends with is starting to cross the line for me.
POST: So I'll try to keep this short and sweet. I have been with a guy for the past 4 months. It has been fantastic. We get along wonderfully and are both extremely fond of each other (not sure if the word "love" is ready to be used yet though...).
We each have separate lives. He is working, I'm in school. So trust is quite important here. I don't know what he does and vise-versa.
He has this friend at work who has never been good with guys. She has gone from one to another and is generally quite hopeless. She met my boyfriend three months ago (which posed as a big threat to me but he assured me never to worry.) and they have a pretty good friendship at this point.
Lately, however, she is starting to do things that are making me very uncomfortable. She has just recently been dumped by a guy who was cheating on her so I guess you could say she is in a bit of bad place. She has started flirting heavily with my boyfriend and is trying to convince him to lie to me (Note: I am only taking my boyfriend's word for this). For example, she has invited him over to her house several nights and told him to "just tell her you're visiting [insert guy friend's name]". Now, THAT line there is REALLY making me think this girl is up to no good.
I talked to my boyfriend about it and even he says that she is making him uncomfortable and that he wanted to tell me because he didn't want to lie to me and needed my advice. He has tried giving her the cold shoulder, talking about what he and I do, trying to set her up with other people but nothing has worked. She is just getting even more....pushy about the whole thing.
So basically all I am wondering is if anyone has ever been in this position? What should I do at this point? As stated, I've already talked to him about it. Neither of us want to hurt her so plotting a huge elaborate scheme to "teach her a lesson" isn't going to work either.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend's friend at work is starting to cross the line, even though she is fully aware he is in a relationship. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (Toronto) Someone from within the school club is stealing from the cashbox
POST: I'm not even sure if this should be a part of this subreddit, but I'm honestly stumped about the repeated theft occurring in my club.
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I've been making budgets and handling money from my school club, as we're a student-run group. We've had a theft happen before, partly my fault for misplacing an envelop containing ~$400 in an unsafe cabinet, so this was notified to the executives, but not reported immediately.
A few months later, another theft occurred, about another $500 or so that was taken directly from the cashbox. What made me suspect it was an inside job, was that the note containing how much payment was received was left, and I did not even notice the money was missing for an entire week despite keeping the cashbox in the office. The two incidents were reported about a month after the 2nd incident occurred, and not much action happened with the campus security (it was not reported to the police).
The office is shared by 2 other clubs, but the cashbox was placed inside the locker (password for locker is only for the club executives) since the two thefts. Cashbox was kept in the cabinet (which was also locked, but easy to pick into) before the 2 incidents.
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About a week ago, our club had a major event, inviting about 150 people. When I calculated the ticket cost ($30 per person), we should've had $4500 in the cashbox, but when I deposited the cash (immediately after the event), I only had $4100. There were about 3 people who watched an received payment other than myself, and I'm more than convinced that someone has been consistently stealing from the cashbox. All three have been around when the other 2 incidents have occurred.
I'm honestly stumped about what I should do. Do I report it to the police? Do I just try to talk it out with the club? This is a $1300 loss from the club in total now, and I just have no idea to go from here.
TL;DR: | multiple theft in a student-run club, most likely by a fellow executive. $1300 has been stolen over the year, stumped on what I should do at this point in time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hey Reddit, my mom, who just lost her job) needs help moving some stuff from TN to IN. I'd really appreciate it.
POST: Hey gang.
My mother is in need of some help getting her stuff from McKenzie, TN to East Central, IN.
Here's the scoop:
She moved down there two years ago to pursue a job. She lived there by herself. Well, she got lime disease a few months back and lost her job about a month ago. Couple all of this with the divorce lawsuit that she is going through with my ex-stepdad, and you've got a woman who has nothing and no means to get her stuff home.
Here's the catch:
she has two miniature horses that she needs to get home. she had a whole slew of them, but she sold off most of them (around 16) to try and make ends meet, but it just didn't work out. She ended up having to file bankruptcy because of medical bills, the divorce, losing her job, etc. So I need someone who might be willing to snag these horses for her and bring them and a couple of things out of her house up to Indiana.
I know it's a long shot, but any help would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | My mom lost her job, moved back home and needs someone with a horse trailer to move two mini-horses and some stuff. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] my friend [20/m] interested in a girl [19/f] I have feelings for
POST: I recently started hanging out with a girl in the past few months. We immediately hit it off, realized that we had the exact same tastes in movies, music, had very similar senses of humor, you get the idea. My friend, we'll call him Steve, told me that she seemed like the perfect girl for me. He actually was the one really encouraging me to ask her out, and would ask me if I'd done it yet virtually every time I saw her. I asked her out, got turned down with some lame excuse about how she didn't really have enough time for a relationship. She's clearly just not into me. Ok, it sucks but whatever.
So recently this girl has started hanging around my friend Steve a ton, it's pretty clear to me that she is attracted to him and since we hang out in the same circles I'm constantly around it. He wants my advice on whether he should pursue it and I've tried to be honest with him and tell him that while I don't feel like anyone else should stop you from being with someone you care about, it would make me feel shitty. And it would. I still have feelings for this girl and, seeing as how I'm good friends with Steve, I would certainly get front row seats to their relationship. It doesn't help that the "I don't have enough time" argument sort of falls apart if they start going out.
Again, I don't want my friend to make this decision based on me. But it would be a really crappy thing for me to go through. Anyone have any opinion on how I should approach this?
TL;DR: | Girl I like turns me down. Girl is now into my friend. Friend wants my go ahead to date her. I don't want him to miss out on something good on my behalf, but it would be rough for me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: I Want to Run 30 Miles
POST: Why? Because I turn thirty in a few minutes and I want to get this done before I turn thirty-one. Doable?
I'm not new at running. I've been doing since high school, and got more serious about it at about twenty-two. Last summer my long runs averaged somewhere between 10-12 miles. After a head injury late last year I've only been running sporadically at distances from 2-4 miles, so I've at least sort of kept a base. Would anyone mind taking a look at a schedule I've been trying to write up for myself and maybe help me tweak it?
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3 3 3 = 9
3 3 4 =10
3 4 4 =11
3 4 5 =12
4 4 5 =13
5 3 6 =14
3 4 5 =12
6 4 8 =18
3 6 6 =15
7 5 10 =22
6 6 8 =20
6 5 12 =23
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Each line represents a "week" with the final number being the total mileage for the "week." I use the quotations because I'm basing this on running a minimum of three times per week. I see no reason why I can't fit in more, especially when I have a few days of shorter runs planned.
My experience when I pushed myself to make longer runs (I was inspired to run a marathon after a work related foot injury healed, then stopped with a stupidity related head injury) was that once I started consistently running 10ks it was a quick and comfortable jaunt to start making 10-12 miles. Once I hit that goal regularly, I noticed my per mile 10k times started matching my 5k per mile times.
The time from I've given myself here is actually a little bit longer than what I used to reach that mark after my foot healed, and I felt wonderful, so I think it's very possible.
TL;DR: | I want to run real far. Take a look at the schedule and see if you think that is a reasonable schedule and give me your feedback, please. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/F] have a problem with my boyfriend [22/M] Of 2 years hanging out with "swingers"
POST: I have been hanging out with a group of 3 married couples regularly for the past 3-4 years. The ages of the couples currently range from 25-35. There has been nothing out of a friendship - I just have a genuinely good time hanging out and having a couple beers with them. Since I've been dating my boyfriend, he's also enjoyed hanging out with this group of people. Since I must leave for school during the week, he spends a couple nights a week with them. I do not have a problem with that.
My boyfriend told me the other day at the bar that he had news but was hesitant to tell me - he didn't want my opinion to change. Husband 1 told my boyfriend that he let wife 2 perform oral sex on him several times, but his wife didn't know. Husband 1 said he felt bad about it but didn't plan on telling wife 1. Husband 2 would watch while wife 2 would perform oral on husband 1.
This news has sickened me as I misjudged their characters. At least 3 people were involved in an affair and deceived wife 1. My boyfriend would like to continue to hang out with the entire group as frequently as he did in the past. Would it be stepping out of boundaries to ask him to at least cut back the frequency of their interactions? If so, how should I go about it? I feel uncomfortable asking my boyfriend to limit/end friendships; however, this goes far below my morals.
TL;DR: | my boyfriend hangs out with couples that openly engage in an affair- how do I ask him to terminate or limit the friendship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My roommate [20M] tried to hook up with me [18F] and I also live with his girlfriend.
POST: I moved into a new apartment for school two months ago with strangers. There are four people in the house two of them being in a serious relationship.
Last Friday night I went out with the couple and a few other friends, we all got minorly intoxicated. When we came back home my roommates girlfriend immediately went upstairs and fell asleep, everybody else stayed downstairs in the living room just hanging out.
After everybody left around 2am it was just me and my roommate, he proceeded to tell me about how unhappy he is being monogamous. He wouldnt stop talking about how badly he wanted other girls. (I should mention that I am dating his best friend). He then proceeded to say "the guy you are dating didnt call you back and my girlfriend is asleep soooo... I think something should happen, you are super hot and cool person. You are the perfect girl, Please tell me how big your boobs are.... please show me your boobs". At this I was disgusted, I immediately told him to go to bed upstairs with his girlfriend and I went to my room, to which he said "youre not allowed to tell my girlfriend or the guy youre dating about this"
The next day I left at 7am to stay at the guy im dating house. I felt so bad and uncomfortable about what my roommate had said to me the night before I really needed to tell him. He was really disappointed in his friend/my roommate and said he was going to talk to him, but I said not to since he told me not to tell. Together we could not figure out a way to deal with the situation.
Since I have only lived in the house for two months I feel uncomfortable addressing the issue to his girlfriend, but I think she really needs to know. I also dont want to rock the boat between them since if one of them moves out finding another roommate will be a huge ordeal and I might get stuck living with all guys. I hate feeling like I cant be comfortable in my own house and I really just want to move at this point, but I dont think this is an option. What should I do?
TL;DR: | My roommate tried to hookup with me, and I live with both him and his girlfriend. I dont feel safe in the house anymore, and I dont know what to do. Moving out is not an option. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am [39 M] and have never been on a date - am I doomed?
POST: Here is a summary of my "dating" life.
In high school I asked a girl out and she said no. There were some other girls I liked, but I was too painfully shy to ask them out.
In college, I asked out a couple of girls and they said no.
In the years after college, I asked out 4 women and they all said no. One of them was a friend from college, and when she LJBFed me, she hinted that I was too quiet. Another girl said she thought I was too young for her (she was 29 and I was 24).
So I've never had a girlfriend and never even been out on a date (unless you want to count some outings with women where I was hoping it was a date but they thought they were just hanging out with a friend). I've always been a quiet and introverted guy, and all the girls I've asked out were girls that I knew in some way - either classmates, friends, friends of friends, or former co-workers. I've never had the guts to approach a random girl on the street, grocery store, etc.
Anyway, sometime around age 30, I decided to accept that I just wasn't cut out for romance, so I stopped trying. Through all of my 30s, I didn't worry about women and never even thought of approaching or asking anyone out.
Now I'm almost 40, and I recently fell for a woman who is unavailable. Besides the pain of that, it also reminds me of how I could never attract a girl before.
Is it too late for me now? I would think that women in their 30s probably want to settle down and wouldn't be interested in a guy with no experience like me. But then women in their 20s may not be interested in a guy as old as me.
BTW, I am an Asian American male (over 6 feet tall) and I am mostly attracted to white women. Also, I have an IT job that pays well.
TL;DR: | I am a 39 year old Asian American male and have never been on a date or had a girlfriend - am I doomed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[25/M]have a huge crush on this girl[26/F] who's going to leave the country in a month.
POST: So far in my life, there was only a one girl that I got truly interested in and had a relationship. It was ended about a year ago and a few weeks ago I had a similar kind of an interest towards another girl that I met at a party.
We just had a chat that day for about half an hour - which led to nowhere, just boring day-to-day stuff.
The bad news is that she leaves the country for further studies. - to US, in three weeks, which is about 8000 miles from where I am.
Mutual friends in our network saw that we were talking for a time that's a little bit too much and now they want me to make a move.
I did nothing other than a facebook request.
I understand that going to US will open up herself to a plethora of opportunities over there. And I don't want to 'lock' her to me within the following three weeks (say if I succeeded).
She's been single for three years now. And the legend says there's a force field around her that defaults her answer to 'NO' for every guy - for unknown reasons.
I want to take this slow. I'm okay with a Long distance relationship. Anyone out there who had a similar situation and made it through? What's the plan you'd suggest?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | I have a crush on a girl who's about to leave the country in a month. What should be my approach? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [28/m] Broke up friendship with [21/f] friend, and now I regret it after 3 days..
POST: So I have been long distance friends with a girls for 4 years until she decided to come over to the US to stay for a few months. She resides in a poor country and comes from a family that has no money. During the 4 years of friendship I grew fond of her as a friend and for some reason I have always seen her as sort of this little sister figure, during our long distance years I would send her gifts for her birthday every year, so once she came over, the gifting process intensified, I took her shopping and what not.
I had made it clear to her that my gifts were just friendship gifts, and that I did it to show my appreciation of her. I made it clear I do not want anything other than friendship with her, and asked her to please keep this whole gifting bonanza a secret, since I did not want people to find out and start thinking I liked her romantically. But ho and behold the other day her grandma goes and pays my dad a visit and tells him "Oh your son is so in love with my grand daughter always buying her gifts, but she does not love or want him". Of course, afterwards my dad came and started asking me if that was true.
Now the rumor mill had started and everyone in our families would see me as this loser trying to buy a girl with gifts, when in reality that is not the case. I contacted the girl, told her about what had just happened and made it clear I would never did or would ever feel anything for her other than friendship, got angry at her for what her grandma did, and told her she would never hear from me again. I blocked her immediately from every form of social media and did not give her a chance to respond.
Three days have passed and I seriously regret acting that way, I already miss her and do now know how to proceed from here. I acted immaturely, and I regret what I did... If i go apologize she is going to think I'm such a p***y... Any advice on how should I handle this?
TL;DR: | Broke up friendship with my friend over something stupid, and now three days later I regret it and don't know how to handle it.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there anything that could allow a credit card company to add a charge past the statement date (details inside)
POST: So here's the deal:
Last month I purchased a shiny new power supply ($90) from newegg.com. I used my "Preferred Account" which is their financing option and is run by "Bill Me Later". After the order goes through I immediately remember I forgot to add my gift card to the purchase, so I call them up and they cancel the order for me so I can repurchase. They mention the refund will go through in about a week, and I go and repurchase the item with the giftcard for a total of around $40.
To my understanding, this should have left the account with a $50 credit, expressed as a balance of -$50. However days go by and my account remains at -$90. About a week later I buy a desktop case for about $50, which goes though and brings my balance to -$40. Both the case and the power supply are in my possession and are recorded in my order history as successful purchases.
I just received my statement for the month of April, with the balance of -$40 still displayed. I called up the Preferred Account Hotline, and the CS rep notices everything as I had mentioned and explains that since the account is managed by a third party, it is possible the mistake is on their end. She also told me that to her knowledge there is no incoming charge to the account that is invisible to me, nor is there a flag of any sort indicating an error.
So my question: is it ok to assume that the credit will remain as is until I spend it. I noticed a deal on an item I was interested in, but would not otherwise have the money for without the $40 credit that is in my account. Is there any sort of definite rule or law that states once a statement is released, it can't be altered?
Thanks for your Help
TL;DR: | Bought an item, did not get charged, Monthly Statement did not show the purchase, Can I take advantage of their mistake? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend[20] is flirting with a guy who tried to split us up
POST: This is where it gets awkward. Around 3 months ago (we've been dating 14 months) a mutual 'friend' [21] of ours tried to split my girlfriend and i up, as he was really close to my girlfriend at the time, i figured out and told him to stay away. This sort of made me doubt my trust in her, as she diddnt tell me about his excessive flirting, which she knew about. Now she has started talking to him again over Facebook. The next part is what i'm ashamed of, i knew her Facebook password, logged in and read her messages (i feel horrible about this part and don't condone it in anyway). On her messages with this guy she was flirting heavily with him, joking about the sexual tension they used to have and him trying to make her jealous with the new girl he's sleeping with. So my question is this reddit, what should i do about this? Should i confront her about it and say that i saw it on her messages? Again im really ashamed about this but i really don't know what to do. I've never gone through a serious breakup before.
TL;DR: | I logged onto my girlfriends facebook and saw she was flirting with a guy who tried to break us up. What do i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: When is it appropriate for me to stand up for myself?
POST: I'm pretty laid-back and am very able to take a joke or two here and there, and my friends generally treat me with respect despite grilling me occasionally, but I'm having trouble understanding the difference between something I just laugh off because of my thick skin and something that genuinely bothers me and that I should express.
Case in point: My ex has a picture of me on her facebook cover photo and mentions me in the comments, but because I use a fake facebook with a goofy picture as to only friend those I care about and not have my feed filled with pointless dumb shit, she mentions me by saying "...Buffbuf, who hides behind a dumb alias..." She and I ended things on amiable terms, but last night I got dinner with her and one of my friends, to whom I had that night introduced. She openly flirted with him in front of me, and while at the time it didn't bother me too much, in retrospect I didn't really like it and in light of understanding what I am to her, I'd like to tell her to remove that comment on her facebook caption, if not take out the mention of me altogether (in addition to no longer hanging out with her as "just friends"). It bothered me before, but now that I can see that she doesn't respect me enough to not flirt with my friend in front of me, I kind of don't want to tolerate it anymore.
But this is the problem I generally have in my interpersonal relationships. While I'm okay with setting boundaries, I can seldom discern at what point an annoyance rises to the level of something I should address. I guess I just don't want to be seen as "unreasonable." Help?
TL;DR: | Reddit Dad, when does a "joke" or "teasing" escalate to the point of me addressing it? When is my displeasure justified? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by using a microwave
POST: Like most of these stories, this didn't happen today, but yesterday.
Also, I *would* have put this up yesterday, but upon reading the story you'll understand why.
And sorry for not having any evidence :(
So my mom recently bought a box of these *delicious* mozzarella sticks that are rather expensive. I was going to use the oven but it didn't say how much to use for how much I wanted (about 4-5), but the microwave did, so I put them in for the given time (8-9 minutes)
I didn't know you were supposed to use the fan in the microwave.
About 3 minutes into the cooking, I begin to hear sizzling and I think that is a good thing, as I was starving.
5 minutes in, I smell something really, **really** rancid coming from the kitchen, I run in, stop the microwave, and there are 4 carcasses of bread with black puddles next to them. I tried to pick it up, but it was too hot. I grab a kitchen glove and try to pick it up, but one of the puddles *managed to go through the plastic* and stuck to the revolver. I manage to get it out with a slight tug and immediately throw it into the sink and turn cold water on. Upon cooling it down (managed to not light on fire) I got the burnt cheese out and found out they had melted the plastic, creating foxholes in the plate (and yes, one managed to get through). I decided to throw out the plate.
TL;DR: | Tried to make cheese sticks in microwave. Didn't turn fan on. Melted foxholes into plate and one managed to make a hole in it. Threw plate in garbage. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16M] Need help explaining something to a friend [16F]
POST: Backstory: I have a close group of friends, there's around 8 of us. Now during lunch in school we all sit together, and some other people will come and join us. So there's our lunch group and then the group within that group (me and my 7 friends). Now when we hang out outside of school it's just the 8 of us, not the extras that join in during lunch.
Story: Tonight I received a text from my friend asking why we never include more people into our group when we hang out. She said stuff like "Do you feel no remorse when not inviting them? Some have invited you to their things every now and then, but you never invite them to your group when you hang out outside of school".
Problem: I just want to somehow tell her we like how our group is now, a close group of us 8 friends. I would like to be able to tell her this without sounding like a dick or some jerk. I just have no clue on how to word this right and just tell her we just like our group how it is and don't want to change it.
TL;DR: | Don't know how to tell someone that My group likes how we are now and don't want to change how it is. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] dealing with boyfriends [22M] crazy ex girlfriend [21F].
POST: I have been dating this guy for almost three months. We started our relationship in december but didn't come out to the public until late february. He left his girlfriend of 8 months for me after an emotionally abusive relationship after she cheated on him. They **were** best friends for 4 years. After they broke up, he promised that he would try to be best friends no matter what. I was totally okay with them being friends. But during this all she has done is complain that he is "rubbing" it in her face that we are together. It was to the point where if i walked into the room, she would immediately leave and then text him while she's outside saying that hes an asshole etc etc. He still tries to keep her around after she insults and tells him that she is disgusted by him, yet she wont leave him alone and acts like a victim to everyone who has the misfortune of being around her.. What can i do to convince him to just let her go.
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TL;DR: | Crazy ex girlfriend who doesn't know how to let go. Boyfriend who is dedicated to keeping a friendship that will never work but keeps her responding to her texts. Girlfriend who is stressed out. Help. Honest opinions. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [31 M] gf [21 F] of 6 months books body rub appointments (kind of like escort without full service). I knew about this since the beginning but has recently told me she has done more than hj's (which i also knew about) 6 times.
POST: Basically the title. I met her October 3rd and I've known about this since the very beginning. A few months ago I found condoms in her bag and confronted her about it and she tried assuring me that she had them in there from before we got together and forgot to take them out. I didn't believe her but she had never lied to me before so I just gave her the benefit of the doubt. I felt so hurt and heart broken but didn't bring it up really any time after.
We agreed that hj's were the furthest she could go (for tips) but she confessed recently that she has done more than that (bj's) 6 times. I prefer her doing appointments while I'm there so most of the time that's the case, I'll actually be in the back room hiding or something.
It was Thursday morning and she seemed really off and I kept asking her what was wrong and she broke down in tears and told me this guilt had been eating away at her. I felt like the wind got knocked out of me and have been so depressed since. I know this may sound crazy, but I've been waiting for someone like this for so long and I've finally found her. I can't even imagine breaking up with her.
So really I just need opinions. I know that the dynamics of our relationship may seem unworkable and very odd but it is what it is. Each relationship is different, and this is our. I ask that you please be respectful when sharing your opinions. Thank you.
TL;DR: | Gf does body rubs/hand jobs for work. She crossed our agreed boundaries and now I feel completely betrayed and can't even imagine trusting her ever again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29F] with my bf [28M] almost 3 years, his laziness is ruining our relationship
POST: My boyfriend and I have been living together for 2.5 years. He is an equipment operator and works seasonally, so he switches jobs a lot. I don't have a problem with him being unemployed because I also work in the industry and understand how seasonal work can be. He is collecting unemployment benefits so it's not a huge financial burden but I do make over twice what he does and we have a joint account. But he makes a significant amount more when he is employed in camp, and I also have a lot of debt which we are paying off jointly so I don't feel like I should be entitled to make a big deal out of earnings.
What is starting to really frustrate me is that it always seems like he is totally uninterested/unmotivated to find work. I think it has a lot to do with him just being a lazy person.
He is overweight and has poor hygiene habits, and he smokes a lot of pot. He never wants to do anything active with me. He also has no sex drive. He is constantly on his phone laying on the couch or in his study making music.
I am starting to consider if I am getting what I want out of this relationship, but I am not ready to call it quits. How can I motivate him to find a job without giving him an ultimatum?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend won't look for work and I don't know how to motivate him in a supportive way instead of ending the relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: is Blue Buffalo Wilderness puppy food really that good, veterinarian says otherwise...
POST: Hey guys, so I have a 4.5 month old Boxer/Pit mix that I have been feeding BB Wilderness Puppy food (Chicken) for about a month or so. The people I got her from had the puppies on a crappy Pedigree food at first which gave her MASSIVE non-solid poop, so I wanted to make sure I switched to something good.
So far, I have been liking the results. She's a healthy weight, coat looks/feels good, doesn't shed too much, and she seems to love it. She usually eats all of her food in less than 10 minutes or so and will actually go sit by the bag when she's hungry for it. She had really awful gas when I first started her on it; however, that seems to have gone away for the most part. It's a little pricey, but I work at Petsmart in their grooming salon so I get a pretty good discount.
Problem is, my vet is one of those vets that has their back wall lined with Royal Canin and Purina Pro Plan dog food bags. The ones that are typically only sold at vets, not in grocery or supply stores. Two different veterinarians have tried to convince me that my dog's food shouldn't be grain free because "wolves eat herbivores which eat grains" and that it shouldn't be free of animal by-products because supposedly that is organ material that has a lot of nutrition. According to my vet, it is better for the first ingredient listed to be "chicken by-product" than just plan "chicken".
I've tried to do my research as best as I can, but I haven't really found anything suggesting that the BB is anything bad. I consistently see the dog foods that my vet suggests me with lower ratings though. Is there any truth to what my vet says?
TL;DR: | version: My puppy is on BB Wilderness puppy food but my vet says I should be feeding her Purina Pro Plan or Royal Canin. Is he full of it or should I just stick with what ain't broke? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Texting Sweet Things to a Coworker
POST: So, happened after lunch. Wife just got an iPhone, and we've been using the quick photo/video/sound feature of iMessage lately. For those of you who don't know, you can hold the camera button and record a quick video that gets immediately sent to the recipient - no preview or anything; once you swipe up to the "Done" arrow it's out.
Well, I left home for work after lunch and sent a text to a coworker (voice dictation, no texting and driving for me anymore!) to let him know I'd be a few minutes late for our meeting. I call my wife to chat on the way there and when I arrive I do the usual I love yous and off I go.
I decided to send her a quick text of me making kissy faces. Hold the camera button, record video, swipe up and "Sent."
Glance at conversation.
I didn't tell my wife I was going to be late for a meeting...
I walk into the meeting and ask if he saw my text.
> No...
"Good, because it's for my wife."
*The two women in the meeting with us raise their eyebrows*
> Well then...
*Unlocks phone, room hears lip-smacking sounds and coworker absolutely loses it.*
Thankfully, it was nothing raunchy, although the ladies present definitely thought it was up until the moment he showed them against their pleas of "We *really* don't need to see that"
TL;DR: | sent kissy faces to my coworker, all had a good laugh, I was redder than the devil's rear after a stay in a femdom dungeon |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28M] and my wife [28F] have been together for over 12 years. After getting married in October, she no realizes she is unhappy and is staying at her mom's house for an undetermined amount of time.
POST: We've been dating since high school a it basically seems like we don't really have anything in common anymore. We both love each other, but she's still trying to be that party girl, while I'd rather chill at home or do something active. I lift, but she doesn't.
She's been asking me to take her on dates for a while now, but she doesn't like to do anything that I suggest. My wife is obsessed with watching her tv shows, so as soon as she gets home, that's all we do. I've been trying to motivate her to get back in the gym and be more active besides drinking and nothing has worked.
She turned into an overweight lush and I've turned into an emotionless robot, or so she says.
At what point do I keep trying to make this work or give up? How long am I supposed to stay in limbo for?
TL;DR: | wife has turned into an overweight lush and I've turned into an emotionless robot. How or should we fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] don't know how to address subject of my 18-month partner's [25F] recent medical(?) drug use
POST: A few months ago, my partner of 18 months acquired a medical marijuana card and started taking edibles on a regular basis, I want to say 3-4 times a week for fun, to combat insomnia, and when stressed. We experienced some conflict, mostly when I expressed that I didn't like it and she felt like I was being insensitive about what she saw as a potential drug problem.
Fast forward through a few months of traveling, sometimes together, sometimes not, and she winds up in Amsterdam while I am getting ready to fly home from elsewhere. She says she has been in pain this whole time due to back and other physical issues, in addition to being very stressed out and getting sick, and wants to continue to use weed to help with these things after she gets back. Because she has been without it so long, she feels certain that she isn't chemically dependent on it. I say sure, but I don't want to IM while she is high, she gets upset, we agree not to talk about it until we're home.
My dad got high on a near-daily basis when I was growing up, and I think as a result I find it excruciating to be around people who are stoned. He was an excellent father in all other respects, but my mom wanted someone sober to talk to, and I think I would too.
We are relatively serious and talking about moving in together pretty soon. I don't know when or how to say that we probably won't stay together if she feels that she needs to get high on a regular basis. I believe she is self-medicating as an alternative to antidepressants, opiate painkillers, etc., so I'm extremely reluctant to make it out to be an ultimatum. Should I say something now or wait until she's made up her mind?
TL;DR: | She might need weed to keep her sane, I don't know if or how to say this might be a deal breaker for me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my friend[22 M] he has a drug problem and I have no idea what to do.
POST: Pretty much that. My friend came from not-so-good background and got pretty into the drug scene in high school (selling/doing). Came to college and cleaned up his act for about a year or so. Ended up dropping out of school, and is now living on his own off of money he acquired through a trust fund kind of thing.
So basically, it's really hard to see my friend (let's call him Rob) without him getting wasted and staying up all night doing coke. It has gotten to the point where he is starting to act like a textbook cokehead-very aggressive, very "supreme" feelings- and has basically just been acting like a dick to everyone. I've tried to talk to him a thousand times about it and he swears he has it under control, etc. I'm not anti-drug in the least, but I've been around enough addicts to know what one looks like. I'm at my wits end. He's starting to make me hate him with his behaviour and his inability to talk about anything that isn't drugs or howwww fucked up he got, etc. I want to be there for him but he's driving me and everyone close to him away. I'm afraid he's going to put all his money up his nose and then be legitimately fucked.
I'm aware that this problem may be entirely too big for me to handle, and I'm not even sure if this is the right sub for this but I really need some help. I've tried the sit down and talk method, I've tried the angry yelling method, I've tried the texts and the phone calls.
I don't want to find out my best friend died or totally fucked up his life because of something as stupid as a bag of white powder. Please help.
TL;DR: | Best friend has a drug problem, I don't know what to do. He has no close family, only his group of friends that I am a part of. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex-GF[21/F] of 5 years broke up with me [24/M] 2 weeks ago. Little contact for 2 weeks aside from my birthday. Today she texted me during a panic attack.
POST: So my GF of 5 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago because she said she "wasn't feeling the same" which was a complete shock to me. She expressed to me that she still loved me and she still wanted me to be friends, even saying she hopes we get back together some day.
I've stopped talking to her. Saturday was my birthday, she texted me saying happy birthday and asked what I was doing. I was incredibly drunk, so I told her I couldn't really talk.
After 2 more days of no talking, she randomly texts me today because she was having a panic episode. She was vomiting and sobbing in class because she was nervous about her test (she has very little self-confidence.) She sees a therapist about this issue weekly.
She texted me asking for comfort and while reluctant, I responded. I managed to get her to calm down, and she ended up doing well on her exam. After the exam, she told me she ended up doing well, and hasn't contacted me since.
Was this a bad idea? I kind of regret comforting her because I don't want to be used as a shoulder just to cry on. On the other hand, I still legitimately care about her, and I would rather comfort her than have her go through a panic episode alone.
TL;DR: | GF broke up with me 2 weeks ago, contacted each other once during the 2 weeks for my bDay. Contacted me for comfort during a panic episode, and I comforted her. Am I right to feel used? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Eating healthy makes my body feel nothing. Eating junk food feels like a warm hug.
POST: Epiphany!
Emotional eater my whole life. After I've been eating healthy for a few weeks in a row, I notice that my body doesn't feel anything from eating. it just feels...neutral.
After a lifetime of emotional eating, of getting all my feelings from the food I eat, I miss feeling something after I eat. Eating a ton of pizza feels great. Feeling full feels great. Eating fresh cookies feels great. Eating ice cream feels great. At least for a while.
But when I'm eating healthy I feel nothing. So I'll usually go back to eating junk food because I miss feeling those feelings.
So here's the epiphany:
Neutral should be your body's default feeling after food. You should get your physical highs by exercising rather than eating.
It's tough to overcome a lifetime of conditioning, but you should be shooting to feel nothing after eating. Or maybe some kind of palate satiation; the good feeling shouldn't be in a full belly. That's the goal. You can then use that unobstructed body to go to the gym or for a walk.
This blew my mind when I realized it, so I thought I would share. Good luck!
TL;DR: | You shouldn't be eating to feel good. You should be eating to feel nothing. Get your warm hugs from a run rather than a plate of cookies. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: NSV - I did something amazing today!
POST: I'm on a journey (along with my Fiance) to get /fit and strong! I've lost over 28 pounds and put on muscle over the last 5 months! Today though, I will never forget. I completed a Freeletics Aphrodite workout in 39:13 minutes. For those not familiar with the program, basically I did 50 burpees/50 squats/50 aerobic situps, and then rinse and repeat with 40, 30, 20, and 10. All in all, I did 150 burpees, 150 squats, and 150 aerobic situps. Then, to tank it all off, I did 4 sets of deadlifts at 6 reps per set, with 140 lbs on the bar. I felt like I could destroy the world!
And then, in the sauna, this girl came up to me and told me my squats were amazing, and she wishes she could get that low/do the volume that I can do.
I am nowhere near my weight goal (I'm female, 5'2, and 152 lbs), but I'm getting strong, and feeling incredible every single day.
TL;DR: | I did 150 each of burpees/squats/situps in under 40 minutes; girl was mirin' my squats and I felt like a goddess. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my friend [18 F] 3 years, got into a car with a drunk driver, am I over-reacting?
POST: Hi, so my friend ,who I'll call Jess, recently went to a party where she went mudding for the first time, and for those who don't know what mudding is it's where you take a truck out into a muddy field and rip it around basically. She told me she went mudding and that she went to a party but she didn't tell me that the guy who was driving had a few drink before asking her to go mudding. Me and this girl have had a long history together, she says she loves me, and I'm pretty sure I love her too but I don't trust her enough to date her anymore because she cheated on her long-term ex-boyfriend. Besides that, though, I still really care for her and her safety, and when I expressed my concern she simply brushed it off saying "Well I don't know what to say. I did it and it happened. Nothing I can do about it now." It pisses me off to no end because she doesn't seem to care whatsoever. It's not like she knew this guy for very long either, she just met him at the party, apparently he is a friend of one of her long-term best friends. My question is, am I over-reacting to this situation?
TL;DR: | Close friend of 3 years went mudding with a drunk driver, I expressed my concern and she didn't seem to care. Am I over-reacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend [19F] is a phone talker...I [24M] hate talking on the phone
POST: Title says it all. I work really long hours. Most of the time when I get off work I just want to go home, try to relax, and go to bed. I have maybe an hour or two free time on average on weeknights. My girlfriend calls every day when I get home and wants to talk for at least an hour which feels like it eats away at any personal time I have.
Don't get me wrong, I love her and I love talking to her...just in person. I do not make social phone calls literally ever. If I call someone it's because I have something relevant and time sensitive that can't be accomplished via text. I don't even call me parents to chat, but she's the type of person who has a list of people who she calls basically every day and chats with them for forever.
I'm not as social as she is. Every once in a while I like to have some time to myself to focus on my hobbies or read or play a game, but I can't do any of this while on the phone.
How can I communicate this to her without hurting her feelings?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is super chatty and always want to talk on the phone. I hate talking on the phone. Not sure how to tell her without making her feel shitty |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I know my SO's FB password, and I keep finding something I don't want to see...
POST: I figured out my SO's facebook password unintentionally about 6 months ago. I know, I know, I shouldn't have it, shouldn't log into it, shouldn't feel like I have to login to it, but I had the opportunity, so I would login to it every now and then just to calm my insecurities (I'm a girl in case you couldn't figure that one out). I never told him I had it because I didn't want him to think I was a total creep and I didn't want him to get upset with me about it, but the reality is that he's had access to everything of mine so this little insider tidbit into his life helped me feel a little better about things and I knew once I told him I wouldn't have that anymore. Anyway, he still doesn't know I know it. I logged in about a week ago and he had search his ex (an ex of over 2 years) twice within 12 hours. I logged in again tonight and he searched that same ex again last night and we had just spent an important weekend together. He searches other people, but of course she stands out as being his ex and everything. At this point I'm feeling really insecure and depressed about the fact that he keeps searching her and I want to talk to him about it but that would require me telling him that I have his facebook password. What should I do?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend searches his ex on facebook, do I talk to him about it and let him know I know his password? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] I (22M) need help on how to come clean and tell the truth to my girlfriend (21f)
POST: [My Last post](
*So again sorry for my english it isn't my first language.*
So this is a kinda a Happy update and my last post did get alot of attention but I think the people who gave me some advice deserve an update.
So basically,today at noon I went for lunch with My girlfriend and I was prepared for the worst.I told her that I had something important to tell her and that I love her and that I was scared of the outcome.I told her it was about my past...I told her everything that I used to sell drugs,smoking pot and got in a lot of fights.At the beginning I thought she was going to be really mad and never want to see me ever again...But instead she did not look all that surprised and she asked me why I did those things and I told her because I did not have a lot of money back then and was young and dumb.I also told her I have stopped doing those things before I even met her.So to my surprise she told me that she was a little bit disappointed but she was proud of me that I turned around my life in a better direction and that I opened up myself to her.So thanks everyone for the advices!I just need to work on expressing how I feel a bit better now!
TL;DR: | I used to sell drugs,smoking marijuana and fight a lot in the past.My girlfriend Accepted who I was in the past and is still with me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] might like my best friend[21 F] she says she only has best friend feelings for me but can that change?
POST: Some context.
I'm really good friend's with a girl and I think I like her, the only problem is, she doesn't have feelings for me. But she has said she's definitely thought about it, and has had feelings before. We became good friends while we were both in long term relationships, and both recently got out of those relationships.
When she got out of hers I drove across state lines (Mass to RI) 40 minutes just to comfort her for hours, which included long periods on sitting still across the room from her and not talking.
Recently (it's been 2 weeks since our breakups, and I didn't know I had feelings for her before, but I think I do now) she asked me if I had feelings for her and I told her the truth (I think I do, but I'm not sure) and she came back with a "I did at one point but I don't think I can see you as anything more than a best friend because of the circumstances of how we met". It's been 3 days and we're back to being just friends but I can't shake the feeling that I do in fact like her.
I want to know if it's possible for a girl to change her mind on something like this after she's made this kind of statement and decision on the subject? Because if she's possibly had feelings for me before, is it possible for them to come back and for us to be more than friend's eventually.
There's a saying that goes "marry your best friend," and while I think I'm a long way away from marriage, I think dating her would be a good start, and I don't know how to convince her to give us a shot.
TL;DR: | I like a girl, who said she at one point liked me, but doesn't anymore. Is it possible for her to changer her feelings again and like me as more than a friend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit. Can anyone give me ideas on how to fix the paint on my car?
POST: I'm a stereotypically poor university student, and looking to make some changes to my car on the cheap. It's an old car, almost as old as I am, and apparently there was a factory fault and most Mitsubishi Magna cars from this age (94 model) have the same problems with the paint. It's just all worn and damaged and frankly looks pretty terrible. It's still such a good car, but I want to try and make it look a little better for various reasons (want/professionalism/ladies/notlookingatitwithdisgust)...
Here's some pictures of it
Apologies for some of them being rotated the wrong way, relatively new to this whole thing.
So aside from the obvious answer of getting the car resprayed by a professional, does anyone have any good ideas of anything cheaply I can do? Is it possible to try and sand it back and just use ordinary spray paint? Or a water resistant type of spray paint? Or am I doomed to looking at this for the next couple of years?
Any advice would be incredible!
TL;DR: | The paint on my car is weathered, worn and looking terrible, is there anything I can do to fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (f/26)feel like bailing from my college roommate's (f/26) wedding tomorrow - not sure if it's unethical
POST: I've been invited to a wedding in LA tomorrow, I live in Sacramento, so a 7 hour drive. The wedding is of my old college roommate. Over the past three years we've barley spoke to each other - but of course, for old times sake I was invited to her wedding. I was very excited to see her again, but last week, disaster struck.
Last week doctors found a cancerous growth in my leg, which got removed, so I'm now in pain and in crutches! My husband has also fallen unwell and is bed ridden with food poisoning and has been off his work sick for the first time in 7 years! He says he hopes he can be better tonight and we can drive down at 5:30am tomorrow morning, go to the wedding and we'll have a hotel in LA for the night (since there's no way sick husband cold do a 14 hour trip in one day). There's nobody we know down there that we could stay with.
The trip is going to be SO Expensive with gas, food, hotel etc (onto of all my medical copays). and I will be in crutches and my husband will be poorly - would it be unethical to bail at this last hour?
TL;DR: | My husband and I are falling apart and would rather poke out our eyes than go to a wedding 7 hour drive away tomorrow, but not sure if it would be unethical. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21m] want to ask out a girl [20f]. She's rejected me already numerous times. Bad idea?
POST: I met a girl through mutual friends years ago and tried to ask her out several times. She rejected me politely and I ended up giving up so it wouldn't be weird.
Fast forward to the present day, and I still see her around occasionally since we hang around some of the same people. I treat her like anybody else, but she gives me flirtatious smiles all the time. It's pretty confusing. It makes me feel like I still have a shot and it makes me want to go for it one last time.
I just don't want to be the guy who can't give it up. If she liked me I feel like she could have let me know by now. She knows I'm into her, or at least that I was. On the other hand, I'm about to graduate. I'll never see her or most of my college friends again. Part of me doesn't give a shit if I come off as a desperate, creepy douche who can't give up the ghost to everybody.
TL;DR: | Should I give it one last shot? Or am I embarrassing myself? Or even if I am embarrassing myself, should I just not give a shit and do it anyway? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Will a pain management doctor call to tell me I've failed a drug test, or will he wait until my next appointment?
POST: Hola aSkreddit
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I've been seeing a pain management doc for several months (more hardware than Home Depot in me). Things were going great on the Butrans patch, but then my body developed a reaction to the adhesive.
The doc switched me over to oxycodone temporarily, to see how I handle narcotics, with the plan of putting me on 1ce a day dilaudid if I handle them ok.
Anyway, the day he said he was switching me he had me sign one of those "pain management contracts," you know the deal. Dirty pee = no more help from them. I figured he'd test me the next time I came in, but low and behold it was a same day test. I'd been smoking 1ce or 2ce a week for awhile, and smoked 4 days before the test, so I know I've failed. I peed in the cup, got my scripts and left. I don't know if they send it to the lab or what, but it's been 5 business days and I haven't heard bupkis.
Anyone else have the experience of failing for weed @ at PM clinic?
Thanks! I've got no problem stopping smoking to receive treatment.
TL;DR: | Will a PM doc call to tell me I've failed a drug test for weed, or will he wait until my next appointment to drop the bomb? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF(24) was texting her "guy-friend" and she said she was just joking with him. I don't know if I'm freaking out for nothing or if I should just end our relationship.
POST: She met the guy when she went to another state to visit her brother who enlisted as a reserve. A lot of the text messages the guy keep sending her are sexual and clearly said that he would do anything to be with her. She said she didn't pay attention to it because it was all a "joke". I saw her text messages when her phones alarm started going while she was in the taking a shower and the guy texted her right when I was shutting it off.
A part of me wants to believe that its all a joke and harmless but right now i can't even look at her in the eyes. We've been together for 7 years and she kept telling me before that if I ever look at or text or suggest another woman is pretty or hot, I would be done. Now I told her the situation and she said its different. Idk anymore. I'm beyond upset, mad, or pissed off. I have no expression. I feel nothing. I had a hunch when she started snapchatting more, but she made it seem normal. She used to get pissed off at me for playing videogames when she gets home, but recently she said just keep playing. I wonder why...
I just need someone to talk to about this dilemma, but I lost all trust from her. I couldn't even say I love you back. She cried to me and said she fucked up, but I can't see myself forgiving her. The thing about me is that even though she has trust issues, mine are worst. I can't trust a person to be faithful if she already "planned" on sleeping with someone else and got caught.
Please help. Idk if I'm being paranoid or not.
I attached a picture of one example. There were few more, but I didn't capture them. Plus when I checked again, she said she deleted all of the messages and she's done with him because it upsets me her talking to him.
TL;DR: | gf and guyfriend texting with guyfriend sexual advances. Gf said its all jokes. I'm about to end it. Need help |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31 F] with my friend [28 M] of two months, is a short term relationship a bad idea?
POST: I am mostly asexual, and have only been physically attracted to three people in my entire life. Which doesn't mean I don't have drive, I would be in the sack as bad as bunnies if I could. I fall in love easily, and adore, if only on a platonic level, all of my people.
I recently met a guy online two months ago, and in the course of the first month, fell head over heels in love, as well as I actually am attracted to him. Unfortunately he intends on moving and doesn't want any long term relationship. He says the attraction is mutual, so I have no qualms about that. But I think that my quickly deepened emotional connection means I shouldn't consider a short term relationship.
We agreed to only be friends, and I sorted out my emotional connection issues, and hey, he didn't stop talking to me completely when I whined to him about my own issues. But I really would like to get physical with him, if only because its a whole lot better than being miserable alone. Its just I don't really have a lot of time free, considering I am a single mom and have the kids most of the time. I don't want to model short relationships for the kids, so cannot really introduce this person into their lives.
Personally, I can live with a short term physical relationship, its when the emotional relationships die that sucks. I am inclined to remain just friends, though even friends drift apart, and the occurance of myself being attracted to someone is incredibly rare. Rare enough to leave me conflicted!
TL;DR: | As a person who rarely is physically attracted to people, should I take advantage of an offered short term physical relationship, would it be too much emotionally to handle? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Last night I gave a highly inappropriate hug. What poor decisions have you made with the best intentions?
POST: I was at a bar last night with some buddies and we noticed a group come in with formal attire. I asked one of the guys what the occasion was and he told me it was an afterbar for a wedding reception.
A few minutes later I walked past a girl in a white dress and made the connection. I tapped her on the shoulder and indeed she was the bride of the occasion.
I'd say I am an affectionate guy, I really love weddings, and I enjoy showing affection particularly when I am a bit drunk, so I decided to yell CONGRATULATIONS and wrap this woman I did not know in a bear hug on her wedding night.
I wasn't drunk enough to not understand the situation when I pulled away and saw the bewildered look on her face. The group of people she was with weren't exactly pleased. I immediately realized I needed to lock eyes with the groom and congratulate him too.
I found out he was the large drunk guy next to her when he leaned over for an aggressive kiss then started staring me down. I went for a high-five congratulations with a smile, but he just shook his head and kept staring.
My friends and I went to a different bar.
The hug was probably the wrong choice there, but it was completely innocent. I just like giving hugs.
TL;DR: | Bear hugged a woman on her wedding night at a bar within three seconds of meeting her, drunk husband and wedding party thought I was trying to pick/feel her up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: I'm a first time dog owner, I have a minpin and I'm struggling with house training :/
POST: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 24. We've both had dogs before, but she had large dogs and I had a medium one so we're both new to small dogs.
Our dog is 8 months old, and we adopted him about two months ago. He was a rescue from a police raid on a puppy mill.
I didn't realize that housetraining can be difficult with small dogs, and he had 0 denning instinct when we first got him so it was even harder. I was crate training him and we left the crate out in the living room with the door open, and he'd literally walk into the cage to pee.
We also have a lot of carpet in our house. Really old carpet that has pet stains from previous renters..
His house training has fluctuated a bit, at one point we'd have 1 accident free day (including in his crate) but he got sick and had explosive poop and after that his house training has never been that great.
At this point, our puppy has multiple accidents inside every day. He's better about not having accidents in his crate (when we first got him he'd just go, we've had a few days accident free in there until yesterday).
This is my first dog so I have no idea what to do. I don't really discipline him when he has an accident (just clean it up), I've tried clicker training when we're going outside and it helped somewhat but then plateaued, and we try to walk him every 3 hours but sometimes he'll have accidents in between (but it's sporadic).
TL;DR: | My puppy has multiple accidents inside every day. I'm a first time dog owner and I'm not sure what to do at this point :/ See above for more details about what's happening, or what I'm doing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: 26 virgin female, super insecure, doctorate level student, ready to date
POST: i (27/f) have a best friend (26/f) who has never had a boyfriend in her life. she's no stranger to fooling around, but she is still a virgin. she has insecurity issues, to the point where she rarely is the one to initiate communication with friends due to the idea that she's afraid she is bothering people. even just texting to say hi. even to me. i'll give her credit, she's getting better at that recently and communicating more. she is the sweetest most loving person. she drops everything for a friend in need. she's a lot of fun to hang out with too, regardless of what we're doing. i can go to a club and dance with her or hang out at home having a marathon of "lost" episodes. she is also super smart. she's currently the owner of a dance studio which has classes 6 days a week as well as a doctorate student going for her PsiD at a school an hour and a half commute away, which leaves little down time for her.
with all that being said, she wishes to start dating. she sort of had a friend with benefits/unrequited lover for the past few years who burned her bad this past christmas and was a total disrespectful asshole. he's jeopordized their friendship entirely. it was shortly after this that she confided in me she wishes to officially move on and start dating other men. she wants my help in this.
i'm totally ready to be her wingwoman. i want this for her so badly, but i don't know the first thing about dating nor how to approach her particular situation. i've been in a few long term relationships since i was 17, little time between each relationship, and currently in a 4 year relationship with the man i'm going to marry. i never really did much dating. her lack of spare time and her insecurity issues are a concern for me too. i maybe have a couple male friends i can set her up with. or another idea i had was help her set up an account with eharmony, but i don't know if that's too much too soon.
what do you think i should do?
TL;DR: | 26/f virgin, super busy business owner and doctorate student, recently scorned, never had a relationship, insecure, wants to start dating and wants my help, how do i help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My brother [43 M] and I [24 M] with my father [66 M] and his girlfriend [27 F]. My father fell off a ladder and sustained brain damage.
POST: First, my father is still physically in phenomenal condition and was a bit of a womanizer during the periods in his life where he was single. I don't know exactly how these two got together but assuming the best isn't in my nature.
I'm in this rehab hospital where he is working on basic addition, remembering where he is, and trying to put his mind back together. She doesn't seem to grasp how serious the situation is and is flirty and touchy feely in spite of the doctors orders. Though I will admit it is mildly improved.
My father is morbidly depressed without her around some days even though he can't remember how long he has been anywhere. It is a fixation. I feel like in the situation she is taking advantage of his state.
I want to know how to communicate that my brothers and I want her to get in line. Or maybe fuck off and die. But we can't just remove her outright for fear of our dad's reaction.
Help me be tactful.
TL;DR: | Fucking hate this girls existence, what it represents, and her inappropriate behavior. How do I talk to her about this important issue? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] can't get over my ex [19M] of 2 years and I don't know why.
POST: Well, my ex and I dated for 2 years on and off before we decided to call it quits (for way too many reasons). We were good friends for over a year before dating so we thought we knew each other well enough. Our relationship had a LOT of ups and downs, we had trust issues and he was quite controlling and it was an emotional rollercoaster the entire time... so I don't know why I'm still so in love with him.
We broke it off in Jan this year and hadn't had any contact up until a few days ago when we decided to meet up. We spent the night together and it was like we had turned back time to the start of our relationship, it was absolutely amazing and it felt like nothing bad had ever happened between us in the past. I know I shouldn't feel like this because of all of the previous failed attempts but my brain just won't let me move on. He's the only person I've ever felt a real connection with, and not just as a partner.. I've never met someone that has understood everything about me so well and I don't think I ever will. It's complicated and I just don't know what to do.
Whenever we get back together the first few months are perfect, but it starts to fall apart bit by bit until we're both emotionally drained and ready to give up the relationship again. I just don't know what to do. If you guys have any similar stories or advice to share it would be very much appreciated. I know that getting back together would be a bad decision, I'm just not sure how to move on when there's so much chemistry and such a strong connection between us. If things just stayed how they were in the first few months everything would be perfect, but something snaps after a while and we're both at each other's throats again.
I should also add that nobody else has made me feel the way he does which is both good and bad. All of my emotions are boosted about 1000x around him compared to anyone else. I love him even after all the crap we've been through together and I really don't want to feel like that any more.
TL;DR: | Still in love with my ex when I shouldn't be. How do I snap out of it and get over him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [24F] 9 months, how do I handle the gut wrenching thought of my gf not actually loving me?
POST: So basically in the last week or so I've had a really off feeling about my relationship. Everything was going perfectly up until the last week and a bit. On valentine's, after our dinner, I got upset about something that was trivial and then she got upset because I overreacted to something small. Anyways, I apologized cause I felt awful and everything seemed fine after.
We are currently doing long distance but it's only two so we see eachother every weekend (she comes down to see me and family/friends. Basically before, while we were apart, she would tell me how much she missed me and how she can't wait to see me but the past week or so she hasn't said anything like that. I've also noticed other little things and I'm getting weird vibes when we talk but I feel like I'm just making things up in my head and giving myself anxiety.
Last night we skyped and talked about how we are handling the long distance. She said she was comfortable with it now but I got a weird feeling when she said that. So I told her I felt ok with it but I was harder time dealing with it this week cause I missed her. She took that to mean that I'm unsure of us and the convo ended awkwardly. I texted her after to talk about it and told her I didn't mean anything bad by it cause I really didn't I just meant that I really missed her. So the convo ended with me telling her that I'm confident in us and that I love her. She hasn't responded since and I'm not the type of person to get vulnerable with people so it makes me really uneasy that she didn't acknowledge my text and at least say "I love you" back. I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance from her.
So now I don't know if I should talk to her about this or if I'm just creating all this in my head? I feel like talking about these things damages a long distance relationship but I just can't shake the thought that she doesn't actually love me anymore.
TL;DR: | I have a gut wrenching feeling that my gf doesn't love me anymore but I'm not sure if it's all in my head or if I should bring it up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of 3 years, might being going apart or maybe I'm just being shallow.
POST: I'm going to try and make this short. (typed everything out earlier then closed the page before it was posted. damn it)
We have been together for awhile but I have never felt confident that I have wanted to spend my life. We seem to have been going apart and I think its because we are "growing up" still and I am becoming less attracted to her. Right now she is out of town and its kind of relieving having alone time, so its made me think... I have considered breaking up but never followed through with it. She has been pushing me to propose but I'm worried its too soon and she doesn't listen when I say it stresses me out.
How do I know if this is a good relationship?
How much stress is normal for a serious relationship?
How do I now when to give up on it?
TL;DR: | I feel like I'm growing apart from my girlfriend and I'm not sure if maybe I'm just being shallow. How do I know what I want and whats best for me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (Ca) child support and the military
POST: My (19)ex (20) is in the marines. I gave birth while he was at boot camp and when he came back he didn't bother to meet our baby. Anyways, it's been eight months and he hasn't helped at all.
He's currently stationed in a different state. Can I still file for child support. He claims that I can't because I'll "ruin his career " and that he'll get njpd. He also says that I have to wait two years for him to be able to take care of the baby.
Anyways, I know very little about the rules in the military. Is there any truth to what he's saying? He constantly argues with me because he says that I'll ruin his life etc etc. I'm so overwhelmed though. I have been doing this alone for this long and it seems unfair.
TL;DR: | ex claims that I can't file for child support for now since he's in the military. Is there any truth to this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what are your thoughts on a first-time relationship cheater who admits it immediately?
POST: Hello Reddit, I've read lots of stories here about backstabbing sociopaths who ruin their partner's lives by developing extra relationships without telling them. These moves seem cold and calculated. However **I'm curious about peoples' opinions and experiences regarding one-off infidelities**. Especially in cases where the two in the relationship are not married and without children, yet they are in an explicitly "closed" relationship (although I'm open to all stories).
I took a trip to Europe for a month when I was 20, leaving my girlfriend of 8months (at the time) at home. While overseas I had one not-so-great experience involving a ton of booze and weed. I ended up going home with some chick, got to her bed, etc. It was stupid. In the AM she left, and let me stay.
A few days later I was on a plane home from Berlin, leaving that troubled continent behind, and my mom and girlfriend were waiting for me at the airport. My girlfriend spent the night at my house, but I couldn't sleep a wink. I stayed up in a thoughtful malady. At sunrise I woke her up and told her about the hookup. She shrugged it off because she was half-sleeping, but as the day dragged on it became clear we needed to deal with this trangression.
In the end, she didn't break up with me or anything. We're still together and I haven't cheated since. However, I notice that now she gets extremely paranoid and jealous when I go out. I told her that it would be fair if she took one "freebie" hookup, but I'd be really scared and sad if she actually did. I think in some ways she almost enjoys hanging the infidelity over my head. We decided it would be worse of a betrayal to have an ongoing affair, and that if that happened, then it would be time to call the relationship quits.
TL;DR: | went to europe, cheated on gf (dammit), admitted it, talked about it, stayed together. The relationship DEFINITELY changes, but I think it can be worked through |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34 M] with my [31 F] new friend has gone radio silent after two awesome dates... worried
POST: So, I am traveling for the holiday period and I met up with this great chick via Tinder. We end up spending the whole night together the first night between clubs, lounges, restaurants and bars... we go back to her place and continue the fun until about 9 the next morning. I go back and rest for a day and then she messages me about when she can see me again. We agree to the next day and we end up spending the whole day together and again the whole night.
We really clicked (at least I thought so) and everything was really on the up and up... then Christmas came and there has been radio silence...
I tried texting her, calling her and whatsapp'ing her (no more than once per day--didn't want to appear too stalker-y)... I tried calling her yesterday, but her phone has been consistently busy.
So, I can only think of two possible outcomes... either she really wasn't that into me and this is her way of ending it... or something happened to her or her phone (lost, stolen) and she has no way of contacting me back.
Since I spent the night at her place, I know her address... I am thinking of sending her a letter with a short note about how I would be interested in continuing and including additional contact details... but don't know if I am overlooking some obvious signs that she had her fun and is gone.
BTW: She deleted her Tinder profile between our first and second outings... so I can't see if she has logged back in... :(
TL;DR: | Met awesomeness, want more awesomeness, sudden end to awesomeness; should I snail mail for possible awesomeness? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some of the worst impulse decisions that you've made or ideas that you've come up with due to anxiety (paranoia, OCD ect.) Ill start.... (NSFL)
POST: Today while driving down the freeway I decided to remove my blood soaked tampon. Why? I forgot to change my tampon before I left for my 2 ½ hr commute. I had it in for a good couple of hrs and I thought that I was going to get TSS if I had waited any longer. I convinced myself that I had early warning signs of TSS. So I pulled my tampon out and held onto the end of the string thinking to myself, "what the hell am I going to do with this?!" I thought to myself, why the fuck I just did that all the while holding onto my tampon. I couldn't wait 5 mins to drive to a restroom? I couldn't even wait 10 secs to pull my car over onto the side of the road? I HAD to pull it out right then and there while driving on the freeway?!? I wrapped it up in a napkin. Regardless my whole car smelled like death.
TL;DR: | I convinced myself that I had early warning symptoms of TSS while driving on the freeway so I pulled out my tampon right then and there while driving. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] am interested in my friend [17F] for a few months, don't know if she feels the same way? need help
POST: There's this girl I've known since grade 4/4th year of elementary school who sits beside me in Calculus class, and I grew fond of her about 3 months ago
We spend a bit of time together outside of class, we were both on the school cross country team in the fall, and we are currently in track and field together for spring.
I often walk her to her class, and to her locker when we have practice, and we talk a lot during these times.
Often times she'll come to me during lunch, and we'll sit together and talk.
I want to ask her out soon, but I don't know if she's interested, and I'm afraid if I make a move and it turns out she's not interested in me, our friendship will be ruined.
How do I subtly let on that I like her, or find out if she likes me?
TL;DR: | I like a girl I've known for a while, but I don't know if she llikes me, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [24M] with a [22/F] GF and just realized we are probably going to get married.
POST: I know we are incredible young, but on a life that nothing seems certain (such as mine) being together with someone for almost 5 years is a huge deal. We started dating when I was only 19 y.o., before going into medical school and stayed together ever since.
She already mentioned getting married several times, and she said "I'd marry you. In the future of course, right now we have nothing. But I can't see myself being with anyone else, and as crazy as it seems, I feel like I love you even more each year."
I know it seems like such a teenage post, and marriage is not a joke. We both come from destructive families and managed to find support on each other. We basically live together for a year now, except the part when I moved to another country for 3 months.
That's when the problem comes, I always saw myself as being someone that's free, and I'd use that freedom to start a new life wherever I want. I already got a few offers to pursue medical specialization on some countries, and that's something that I'd be willing to follow.
So, how the hell am I suppose to deal with all this? I don't think it's fair to ask someone to move to a country where she doesn't have anything, no friends, family, job, education. But at the same time, I don't think I'm ready to let this dream go. I hate where I live, I think I'm fairly smart and I can do well somewhere much better.
TL;DR: | I'm in an almost high school relationship that lasted a very long time, and now I am debating whether I should let my dreams go, or settle down with my SO. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (25f) can't tell whether my boyfriend (27m) wants to get married.
POST: I have been thinking of bringing up marriage with my boyfriend of one year for a while now. The other night, I had a dream that we got married, and in the ceremony I was wearing a flannel. I thought that was amusing enough, so I sent him a text describing the dream. He responded with, "Haha, cute! We should!" I was really surprised that he would say something like that over a text. But of course I couldn't read his intonation. I responded with, "Okay, you can just ask me," meaning that he should propose. He was busy at work and didn't text me again until later, when the subject was changed. We didn't talk about it when I got home. He was just acting the same as he always does, saying he loves me and missed me, etc. So, I know that this seems silly because it's all over text, but what could this mean? I don't really want to just straight up ask him because I really don't want to push the idea on him in any way.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend sent me a text implying that we should get married. I can't figure out if he was serious. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my Girlfriend [20 F] of 2 years, she wasn't extremely happy and wanted to break up, what do I do?
POST: Me and my girlfriend lets say her name is "Abby". Abby decided yesterday that we break up. We were 2 years into our relationship, she decided we needed a 2 week break to think things over and decide if she really wanted to be with me. Turns out she didn't. Although she tells me how much she loves me, and how she will always love me. She was my first girlfriend ever, well besides middle-school stuff, and I was her first boyfriend ever. I thought we'd be together forever, turns out that probably isn't true. She says she still "needs" me in her life after breaking up with me, and she wants to still talk with me after the break up. I don't want to see her after the breakup, I just want to forget about her, I feel like I wasted 2 years of my life.. Sure we had some fun times, but thinking about her will only hurt. I can't even imagine myself trying to date another girl, or wanting to.. Should I give up on her, or try and win her back? I don't know at this point.. I'm just very depressed, sad, and a little angry at this point.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me what do I do? Give up and move on? Try and win her back? How do I cope with the situation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I am buying a house. Probably the biggest decision of my life. I dont know what I am doing. I feel like everyone is trying to rip me off. Reddit, what should I do?
POST: I pay ~1400 in rent right now per month. I have a good job and I can get a decently sized house for my family (my dad left my mum and siblings) for roughly 250k. Thing is -- I am 1 year out of college. I am scared. I have no experience and I swear I get the feeling like everyone is trying to rip me off. I don't trust my real estate agent for what I think are valid reasons, and I don't know whats the best approach.
My leading option right now is a brand new house for roughly a 250k loan with 10-12k down payment. I am panicking because this is going way over my original budget of 190 - low 200's. Thing is - I looked at a bunch of houses and they all seem very lacking (we sacrifice on a big need) or have suspect resell value in 10 years. I have a good job and good security because my older sister can cover for me if I lose my job or go back to grad school.
I reasoned my self into thinking a 260k house is the best bet. My thinking is I am surrounded by equal comps (its a brand new subdivision). I get a perfect fit by virtue of picking the right floor plan (so that means we are more likely to settle down long term in this one). I feel like if I want to sell in 10 years it will be easier to sell a 10 year old house rather than a 10 + x year old house where x is age of used house. Oh and BTW the average age of the houses we have considered ( and I have seen like 20+ ) is ~10.
So am I on the right track? What haven't I considered? Is there serious holes in my reasoning? Am I about to make a mistake I will regret for the rest of my life?
Thank you for any help!!!! I am so nervous.
TL;DR: | Thinking of buying a brand new house for 260k instead of original budget for 200k. Reasons: perfect fit, think its easier to sell in 10 years, think its lower risk then used. Is this the right decision? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Is it common for a propane company to charge for a full tank, even though they only fill it 80%?
POST: I'm really confused. I'm living in my first 'no utilities included' apartment and I just had to get my first propane delivery. Initially when I called, they told me it was going to be $360 for a full tank. I asked if they would do a partial and they put me on hold. After a minute, the woman came back on the line and told me it was actually going to be only $240 for a full tank (and that they won't do partials) because she looked into it and realized it says we have a 120gallon tank on record, when we actually only have a 100 gallon tank. She said they can only fill the tank 80%, so it would be 80 gallons not the full 100 gallons. I told her $240 was fine and gave her the payment information.
Today I see that I was charged $300 by the propane company, not $240. I call up and I get the same woman. She denies ever telling me $240 and says it is $300. I repeat back exactly what she told me and she says I must of misunderstood, $240 must of been the price she gave for a partial. I called her out on and said, "Well, why would you give me a price for a partial? You put me on hold then told me it wasn't even possible. You never priced a partial." She was silent for a second and told me $300 is 'just what it costs', and says that I must of misunderstood. She then said that while we only got 80 gallons, they still charge for a full tank (100 gallons). That to me sounds like a $60 fee.. Is this common practice? If not, can I argue this? My landlord has a contract with the company so I can't even switch.. But I'm really annoyed. What if I didn't have $300 in my account? What if the difference of $60 caused my account to overdraw? I didn't even approve them taking $300 out, only $240. It would be one thing if she apologized for the mistake but she just refused to and said that I was the one who misunderstood.
TL;DR: | My propane company charged me for a full tank/100 gallons, even though I only got 80 gallons (so that the tank is 80% full to allow gas to expand).. Is this normal? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 F] worries that my new boyfriend/fiancee(!) [18 M] worries I'm a gold digger.
POST: We haven't been dating long. A few months, maybe? Anyways. I'm middle class, but I grew up poor. He acts middle class, but.. well, I recently found out he was LOADED! And it freaked me the fuck out. I'm talking millions.
* He has over $30k in his own savings. He's- what- WHAT?!
* Expensive car. Probably worth more than *I am*.
* He recently proposed! (Woohoo!) With a '$200+' ring. That's a lot of money to me. He was looking at 2k rings, and I had to beg him not to buy me one of those - and, for that matter, to tell me how much it was.
* He buys me stuff. It's lovely of him, but I don't want him to think he has to!
I love him. I really do. I don't care about the money, but how do I show that without coming across as fixating on it? I'm not a gold digger, but I feel like one.
TL;DR: | I (18f) worry that my boyfriend/fiancee (18m) worries I'm only with him for the money. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [18m] falling in love with one of my lesbian friends [18f]
POST: Title pretty much explains it. My friend is bisexual but pretty gay (most of the time prefers women over men).
I've been talking to her a lot more lately and I've been crushing on her hard. We'll go to functions together (see a band etc.) with groups and hang out. She told me that she's going to start inviting me out more often. We're into the same things and get along great. She's not afraid of touching, so if she tired she'll rest her head on my shoulder or if we're out walking we'll link arms or hold hands or something. It seems more friendly than emotional, but I'm really not sure.
Recently we were at a party together talking and someone (who was drunk) came up and said that I'm a great guy and that my friend should kiss me. There was a bit of an awkward silence and she said to him that she's pretty gay.
Do I talk to her about these feelings? Should I talk to anyone about these feelings? I don't know what to do from here.
TL;DR: | I'm falling in love with my lesbian/bisexual friend. We're hanging out more and get along great. I'm not sure if I should talk to her about these feelings or what I should do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my close friend [25 F] of many years, I want to date her. Please help me...
POST: We've been friends for a long time, but recently we've been spending a lot more time together. And, I really fucking like her. She's smart, funny, gorgeous, the whole deal.
I realize I'm in the fabled friendzone, she's actually got two guys interested in her at the moment. But, she hasn't moved on either, and vice versa -- and she doesn't talk to me directly about these guys, but to her brother and his boyfriend...
Here's the thing:
I want to tell her tonight, but she's going out of town for a little over a week, tomorrow.
* If I wait, she might never even consider that I'm an option
* If I tell her tonight, I might ruin her trip?
Personally, these feelings have been eating away at me for a few weeks, and I'm content with whatever her decision is. I'll get over it if she's not into it, but I can't really live with myself potentially missing out on something really great because I was too scared to make things awkward for a bit...
Please help.
TL;DR: | Want to tell my friend that I *like like* her, don't want to ruin her trip and ultimately our relationship. Please assist. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 M] sister [23 F] was abused by her boyfriend [26 M] of about two months a few weeks ago. Now she's starting to see him again. What should I do?
POST: Both my sister and I live with my parents. I'm finishing up my last year at community college before I transfer, while my sister, lets call her Kim, finished her undergrad last year and recently got a job at a company that is head-quartered near our house.
While working there, she met someone, lets call him Mike, she really liked and they started to date. Everything was going well for them until a party that Mike threw about two weeks ago. At the party, Kim got upset because Mike was kind of ignoring her, she didn't really know anyone at the party, and it seemed like Mike was flirting with some other girl. After everyone else had left, Mike and Kim got into an argument about this, and they were both pretty drunk. Mike ends up kicking Kim, throwing her phone across the room, and engages in a lot of verbal abuse against Kim. It also comes out that Mike was abused as a child and has anger issues.
Kim comes home and tells me all about it. She says she's written down everything to remind herself of what he did and that she's never going to see him again. However, she just spent the weekend at his house.
I've repeatedly conveyed my opinion that she should not see Mike anymore, however she keeps telling me that its her choice. I'm thinking about telling my parents (They don't know) because I'm worried for her safety. She says she would never trust me again if I did. What should I do?
TL;DR: | My sister recently started dating a guy who abused her. He apparently has anger issues, but my sister is still seeing him. Should I tell my parents? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I think I have an anxiety disorder, what can I do? Where can my uninsured brain get help?
POST: I've always been pretty high-energy and lacked a lot of focus. I've always been a terrible student even though I'm fairly intelligent. Most of my problems relating to school have been caused by my inability to sit and focus on anything that doesn't involve a hands-on approach, or immediate gain. I dropped out of college a few years ago because of this, but would like to go back and finish, but It seems impossible with the brain I have now.
I've only recently realized that I've been a hair-puller since 6th grade. I started pulling out the hair on my head, and now only pull out my beard hair. So much so, that there are patches with little to no hair. The same goes for my nails - although now I just pick a the skin around them, rather than bite my nails.
This is all very disturbing to me.
A friend of mine offered me a xanex bar, after a long day of combating with my brain's desire to yank out my beard, and a generally feeling of panic, I took a third of the bar before a nice shower. When I got out It was like nothing I had ever, truly, experienced. It worked; I was calm, and I could focus, and felt no desire to pull. If I tried, it felt wrong, and actually hurt to do.
So reddit, I want to be able to calm down, attend school, be happy, sit still... I have little money, and no insurance, what do I do?
TL;DR: | I've pulled out my hair, and had a general sense of anxiousness all my life. I took a xanex a few days ago, and I don't want to live like this anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (FL) I have received a bill from a hospital that says I was hospitalized over night when I was only there for one hour. Can/Should I sue?
POST: (Using my throw away account b/c I don't want to post my state on my personal reddit account)
I haven't spoken to a lawyer or attorney about this yet because I don't know if I have any kind of case so I thought I could ask you guys for some advice.
The story: I had a bad bladder infection back in January to the point that I needed to be hospitalized. I was only there from 7am-8am and they only thing they did was run a test on my urine to determine what antibiotics I needed. I came in promptly at 7 and left promptly at 8, went to a pharmacy, bought my medication (of the three they prescribed I only needed one) and went home. Since then I have received several hospital bills and most of them have a different charge on them than the others (the first was $300 and something and every one thereafter has been $800 and above but usually not the same amount). I'm a college student who doesn't have insurance and cannot get financial help outside of my job and loans (very small loans). The latest hospital bill I received states that I was in their hospital from 10pm the night before until 8am that morning. So my question is, can I sue for this? I planned to pay them back when I financially could but now that I have all of these random bills and now this one that is just false I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | I was in the hospital from 7am-8am one morning and have since been billed several times, all with different amounts. Latest bill says I was hospitalized from 10pm-8am. Can I sue? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my ex "best fwb" [17 F] of ~3 months, should I get her a birthday present?
POST: I had a thing with a girl for a few months but it got too relationshippy for her and last week we basically stopped talking. I miss her a lot but I'm trying to avoid contacting to her too much as that's part of what drove her away. Her birthday is this Wednesday, and I think I want to give her something. She likes when people do nice things, like when I gave her my calculator the night before her SAT, she loved that. But also she basically left me because it was too relationshippy and this may go along those lines. I was gonna just get her a bottle of zzzQuil because she loves that shit. What you guys think?
TL;DR: | Last week me and my "best fwb" stopped talking, due to me being "too much" and our friendship getting too relationshippy. Do I get her a present for her birthday this Wednesday? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long should we wait to have sex? [20F,20M]
POST: I [20F] just started dating a new guy [20M]. We had known each other in high school but haven't talked for probably three years. We ran into each other and he asked for my number, and we went on a date two days later. We've been out twice so far, and it's gone pretty well. There has been a lot of kissing as well as touching but nothing sexual. On our second date we were making out in his car, and he mentioned he was trying not to "jump the gun and was trying to remember it was just a second date". I was really into it, but I appreciated him not trying anything because I knew he wanted to.
I'm really attracted to him and even when we're kissing he turns me on. The problem is, I prefer not to have sex until I'm "exclusive" with someone. It's not about pushing or bribing someone into a relationship. It's a rule I have just because I like to feel secure before sleeping with someone- sex is somewhat of a big deal to me. I haven't slept with many guys and I enjoy it more when I don't have to worry about developing stronger feelings for someone.
I'm open to everything besides sex, and I'll do oral before monogamy as long as I feel comfortable enough...I don't want this guy to think I'm a prude, because I love sex and really want him. How do I make this clear while also explaining that I want to build a connection first?
TL;DR: | I'm dating a new guy, I'm really attracted to him and I can tell we really want each other, but I don't like to have sex before monogamy. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with my SO [23M] 2.5 years, we're getting married and I have cold feet :(
POST: As our wedding date approaches I'm getting severe cold feet. I'm the type of woman who thought I'd **never**, ever be married. I never thought the happy wife was a role I would play in life. To be honest, through my depression and mental and physical abuse growing up, I never thought I deserved anyone as loving and kind as my partner. I thought I would be too broken. And now it's feeling like a self fulfilling prophecy.
My betrothed is an awesome, loving, caring, kind, generous and gentle man. He is the perfect man for me (which is not to say he is perfect) and I love him a lot. But there's a feeling inside of me that our relationship is missing something. This feeling only started as the wedding preparations got underway. I think I'm trying to sabotage my "happily everafter" by reaching for things that will never happen and if they were to happen I still won't be happy. I would label this missing thing as "passion" but I'm not sure. We were so comfortable with each other from the beginning that we missed that dangerous passionate feeling at the beginning of our relationship. There was no "chase", we were just two missing pieces coming together. I think people would kill for how natural our lives melded...but here I am wondering if the grass is greener on the other side.
How do I deal with these feelings and thoughts?
I've already talked to him about my cold feet. I've been explicit in saying it's not about him or my love for him. He was understanding and has offered to hold off on the wedding. I don't want to do that because I know the problems are all in my head.
I feel so silly. I should be happy and here I am feeling miserable and probably bringing him down too. What do I do? :(
TL;DR: | I'm getting cold feet, I think it's all in my head, how do I deal with it without bringing my partner down? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20M] Girlfriend [20F] wants to kiss one other guy
POST: I started seeing my girlfriend (a) while stilling seeing another girl(b). I was never exclusive with either. I wasnt sure if I wanted to be in a relationship with either, and told A I loved her after about 4 week (silly mistake). However week 5 I was still seeing both and kissed B one night before eventually ending the thing with B, sealing in A as GF by week 6 before having sex for the first time together.
Never told A about B
A then gets told by someone(back stab) else 6 months into relationship I was seeing B and then I told her I kissed B. She flips her shit wants to break up etc. we talk through it and sort it, I (stupid mistake) admit to 'cheating' to move forward with fixing it. Everything seems fine for months.
Then she comes out with something about her having one free kiss. I am not okay in the slightest about this. The situation is totally different from when I kiss this other girl in my head. I've told her im not okay with it. Not sure if I should be okay with it or if what I did really was cheating. She claims it would make her feel better about it but I'm not sure how I'd respond and the thought of it makes me upset and I told her that.
She said she wont do it but the fact she wants to makes me kinda insecure.
TL;DR: | I kissed a girl before we were going out but when we were seeing each other, she wants to kiss someone a year into the relationship |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Met a girl on a dating website...Help
POST: i met a girl on match she is 26 im 25, i found her profile and fell hard. we met up for coffee and hit it off. we went out on like 10 dates and one day i ended up getting her flowers. we had dinner that night, we had wine and got on the subject of "us" she said since we were on dates...we were dating. i was happy with that i asked if that ment her and i were bf/gf. she said no i had to ask her to be mine and smiled. after dinner went back to my car gave her flowers and asked. she gave me a maybe. then it all went down hill. our all day texts stopped. she stopped everything. but that weekend i saw her on saturday and sunday. which we did kiss. that was it. she didnt asnwer my texts. i finally got her and now shes saying she doesnt know what she wants. she might only be good for friendship, and she has a ton of issues.
my problem is i fell for her and i thought i was doing what she wanted and it back fired. i am miserable andhave no damn clue what to do. i dont want to text her and suffocate her with me being all around.
TL;DR: | met a girl on Datingwebsite, gave her flowers after alot of dates. now she fell off face of earth. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going in to a bar with my mates
POST: This happened about 6 years ago, thats when i just turned 18 .This was one of those when you just got to that legal age to go into a bar and know nothing about it. So me and 3 of my other mates (2 white boys and an asian )went into this bar call " Danny something " :P. it was just literally packed of white people ( about 25- 40 years old ) which its normal because there was no asian bars around at all. i am not racist or anything. ( P.s i am chinese. )
This is the fucked up part, all 4 of us were abit tipsy from drinking before we got to the bar. ( we aint the rich kids that can throw money at the bar so we were drinking before we got there ). we started dancing in the middle of those middle aged white people.
i wasnt like a good dancer but knew a bit of pop and lock. ( kinda cool showing off.) we were dancing about 5 mins or so. i started noticing those 40 year old looking blonde lady starring at me ( with a little smile ). At first i was like oh .. she must be drunk or something kept looking at me like that. i was a bit freaked out by her . so i started dancing/moving behind my mates. then i realized she is behind me no matter where i go . I was so scared of her at that moment . had to convinced my mates to leave immediately.
Never went back to the same bar again.
TL;DR: | went to a bar with my mates when i just turned 18. freaky 40 year old milf keep dancing behind me. too scared to get rape. ran away from the bar. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How much "fake it 'til you make it" can you get away with in a job application?
POST: Let's say I have the connections to forge a Nuclear Engineering degree from some well-known, non ivy league university in the USA.
Let's say I have a bomb-ass alt life story for how I graduated from Midwest-State-People-May-or-May-Not-Care-About University with a PhD in Nuclear Engineering.
I go online and I find a job like this:
I say "hmmm, I think I would like that job." Let's also for the sake of this really silly hypothetical scenario that the US Department of Airforce doesn't do background checks for whatever reason. (Seriously, this was just the first thing I could find when I googled "Nuclear Engineer job vacancies.") I also happen to have a list of references in my application with fake phone numbers and email addresses that go to my network of buddies that will cover for me.
I then browse through the duties section and tailor my resume to match exactly what is already on the duties.
Then, I go online and google for books on radiochemistry processes and procedures and the ISO 17025 standards. I come across this:
I proceed to buy, read, and memorize facts in this book. Then I turn to a specific point where procedures for alpha, beta, and gamma ray spectroscopy is detailed and describe in my cover letter that I have had experience with this same procedure and proceed to describe, in detail, my experiences with doing the thing described in this book. I then submit my application with my forged documents and all.
At what point would someone in charge of the hiring process be able to catch this? Or would this be solid enough to make it through the initial screening process and possibly get me an interview?
TL;DR: | can you dupe the hiring process by just writing a very detailed resume and Cover Letter about fake experience? If not, is there still a way to do so? |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: "Have a nice day, sir. "
POST: So I go to the taco bell drive thru on my lunch break (only 30 minutes) thinking I'll just get a quick lunch abs be on my merry way. After waiting about 5 minutes just to order, it takes another almost 10 minutes to get to the window. I'm sitting there waiting, 2 more minutes go by and she comes to the window. "Your total is $. $$, I go to hand her my debit card and she looks at me and says, "Sorry we can't take credit cards right now. " I say it's fine because it's actually debit. She tells me they can't because the card reader is down, calls over the manager just to make sure, and the manager repeats that i can't use my card. I tell her that's all I have right now, and so she looks at me and says, "Then you have a nice day, sir. " WHAT THE FUCK. NEXT TIME MAYBE FUCKING SAY SOMETHING WHEN I ORDER, INSTEAD OF AFTER I WAIT IN LINE AND NEED TO PAY FOR IT. So what do I do? I quick go next door to the gas station atm, get cash. Go back, order inside. After I get my food and go back to my car, i decided to clean out all my trash... in to the parking lot. Then drove away.
TL;DR: | taco bell doesn't tell me their card reader is down, forcing me to get cash and come back. I leave my car trash in the parking lot. |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Need major change - how to tell employer?
POST: Hi guys,
Due to events in my life through the most recent years that I don't want to go into, I've been suffering from depression, loneliness and overall just going through the motions for the last 2 years. Due to this and the most recent event, I want a major change to change this, get into a new environment and work on myself, get a chance to heal and live a better life.
I know I'd have better quality of living, more money after bills have been paid, better benefits and a secure long term job position if I moved to another country, and that is tempting me a lot. Plus I've always wanted to experience living in another country and I'm not getting any younger. I'm single, 27 with no kids, 1 pet.
But here's my problem. I'm in my dream job. I've been there for just over a year now and can't say anything but good things about my coworkers and the company overall. I've grown to a very important position because of my knowledge and experience, and they base their long term future plans with me in the equation. Replacing me would be extremely difficult for them.
How do I tell my employer that I have nothing against the company or my job personally, but my overall environment and circumstances make me depressed and I want major change in my life?
There's a possibility of requesting a transfer within the company to one of their branches in other countries, but I'm afraid I wouldn't be very popular in the current location if I did.
The plan from the start would be long term, at least a year to begin with and see what I'd do from there.
TL;DR: | How do I tell my employer that I have nothing against the company or my job personally, but my overall environment and circumstances make me depressed and I want (need) major change in my life? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my boyfriend [23 M] of 1 year, tired of his disgusting habits after moving in together
POST: I've recently moved in with my boyfriend of 1 year. A few things I'm becoming seriously irritated by:
1. He will pick his nose and flick the bogeys onto carpets/surfaces etc
2. He does that same when picking spots on his face, flicks scabs onto the floor
3. He doesnt know how to clean, hoover or dust. If I didn't clean, everything would be disgustingly filthy, like the toilet and the carpet.
4. Instead of throwing toilet rolls away after they're done, he will just chuck the empty cardboard on the floor and let it accumilate until I pick it up.
5. He leaves his washing and ironing until the last minute and lets it pile up on the floor.
6. He will sometimes not shower for 2+ days. I never noticed this before as I assumed he used to shower before seeing me, but it's really starting to get to me because it's gross and his whole manly area smells of cheese.
7. He lets dishes pile up around his computer and won't bother tidying them away.
Sometimes I feel like his mother. I haven't discussed any of these issues with him yet because I don't want to nag him about it. I want him to have enough self respect to be clean and clean the area around him. But apparently he doesn't have that. So I don't know what to do!!! I seriously cannot take this anymore!!
TL;DR: | Boyfriend has numerous disgusting habits that only became evident after moving in with him. Don't know whether he will change. Do I end it, upon the basis that we're not compatible? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (M 19) cannot convince my girlfriend (F 18) of 2.5 years to stay away from her friend (M 24) that wants to date her.
POST: This all started about six months ago. The guy in question was a good friend of mine and that's how he came to know my girlfriend. They started hanging out a bit with groups of friends and I was okay with it. I have slight jealousy issues, but no more than the average guy.
Well, after a while they started hanging out just the two of them. This made me a little uncomfortable, so I confronted my girlfriend about it and asked her if she could stop seeing him so much. She said that was fine and we moved on.
She didn't actually stop seeing him and has only grown more close with him over the past few months. Myself, two of my friends, and even my dad have realized how much of a crush this guy has on my girlfriend. Obviously, I'm not okay with this, so I again brought the subject up.
She sees no problem in seeing him at all and has told me she would rather leave me than stop being friends with him. This has been a complete turn around from her usual self. She has always been rather clingy with me and has never given me reason to doubt that she loves me. But now, she's completely changed. She even thinks it's okay for him to driving the two and a half hours it takes to see her at college.
I want her to stop seeing this guy. It's pulling us apart and for no good reason. Everyone I've talked to about it believes that I'm in the right and she has no idea what she is doing. If I'm wrong, please tell me. I just want to fix things with her and move on with our lives. I truly love this girl and don't want to lose her over something this avoidable.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend is very close friends with a guy that has a huge crush on her and doesn't see what's wrong with that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32F] with my ex[33M], we matched on OKCupid 6 weeks post-breakup
POST: We officially dated for four months, but hung out nearly exclusively for the previous year. He became emotionally distant due to fear of being hurt after his ex cheated on him 2+ years ago. Told me that he couldn't fathom being in a functional relationship despite wanting to have that with me (and still wanting to maintain friendship/hanging out). We see each other every day (common workplace) and usually have coffee or lunch (or both).
Anyway, we matched on OKCupid (92%) -- he says he's looking for a long-term relationship -- but I don't think he knows that I know (I blocked him immediately). I feel like I've been punched in the gut. I can't go no-contact. What to do now?
TL;DR: | Ex gave me a "it's not you, it's me" and is now on OK Cupid looking for what we had. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear Reddit, today i need your legal/financial advice
POST: Long time lurker, first time poster.
I have seen many unlucky persons like me getting honest and constructive opinions from you guys, and this is what i am looking forward to today.
I promise i will do my best to keep it short, clear and essential.
I run a MMORPG server and I have some little internet business, many little transactions for little amounts of money.
I own 2 Paypal accounts in order to run the errands smoothly without giving my name away too easily: one under my name, and one under a fictive name, both Verified, both Premium.
**Please note**: i own full property of all the material attached to both accounts *as in Credit Card/Documents/e-mails/Security Questions..etc*
Now, last night i made some transactions with my fictive account for a little amount of money (around 300 USD)
This morning i woke up with the intention to move this money from my fictive Paypal to my real one and i found my fictive Paypal locked with *limited access*.
I called the Paypal helpdesk earlier and they told me they needed the *alter-ego me* to call them in order to be able to disclose confidential information.
I didn't stop here, i asked a friend to call them again pretending to be my alter-ego, and they asked him for a copy of his *(unexistant)* ID card and a proof of his address in order to remove the limitation.
I thought about faking the documents but i am scared about the consequences..
What should i do now? Is there anything i can do to regain access to my Paypal and avoid occurring in any legal consequence?
Help! The rent payment is close!
TL;DR: | got limited access on a Paypal which is under a fictive name, looking for a way to gain back access to my money |
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