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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [52 M] sister [62 F] is headed to homelessness, and I can't help her.
POST: My sister and her husband have always had money problems. Neither have a degree, they have never, either of them, had a good job.
3 years ago, my father died, we negotiated, and they got the house, and I got some money, which i used as a down payment on a house.
Money is tight for me, my wife, our kid, but we pay our bills.
Sister cant pay her bills, has not paid property taxes for 3 years, which would be about $60 a month if they divided it up.
She and her husband smoke cigarettes. $300 a month.
They are going to lose the house over the property taxes, which would have easily been paid if they just STOPPED smoking.
I am depressed and guilty over it. I can't pay their bills, I can't let them stay here- I would probably end up divorced. Her husband is a screaming angry maniac.
TL;DR: | Sister is losing her house because she smokes away all the money. i feel guilty. What can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] nonromantic with my Teacher [28F] [3years], her husband hates me.
POST: So me and my English teacher became friends after I graduated from high school.
I usually take some time to visit her after school at least once a month. We talk and about things like writing, National English Honor Society, t.v. shows like Outlander, and of course English-related stuff because were both writers.
But TIL that her Husband (buff marine man) dislikes me because I hang out with her alot, more so than him. She says its just jealousy and I agree.
We're such good friends that I even put her in my book as one of the main characters. The funny thing is her husband is her husband in the book too and she kills him. But he doesn't know that yet.
Honestly, my teacher is kinda hot, but I have no intentions wooing or sweeping her off her feet from him. And he's a buff white marine man, pretty good looking, I suppose whatevs. Whilst I'm just a 20 year old tall overweight(I look thin because of my height) moderately good looking Asian with a hearty laugh and good sense of humor. So basically I'm not much of a threat.
So what do I do to get her husband to not hate me?
TL;DR: | My teacher's husband hates me for hanging out with her too much. How do I get him not to hate me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29M] with my SO [25F]of 1 year, just found out about her "FWB" she used to "see" just before we met, i'm not sure if she already cut ties with him
POST: So I've been seeing this girl for almost a year now. We are not official really.. though we agreed to be "exclusive". Just recently, one of my friends told me that she used to hook up with this guy from work and I found out that part of that time was when we were just in the "getting-to-know-you" stage..She has a history of lying and she's a bit promiscuous too.. a contradicting personality to put it. After hearing this, it made me think back of the past months we had and got scared that she still might have been "seeing" him all this time. I really don't know what to think or do. I love her but all these suspicions' killing me.
TL;DR: | Found out about SO's "FWB" history, I don't now what to do; should I talk to her about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU installing a fax machine
POST: Not today but earlier this week, I installed a new copier/scan/fax/magic machine at the office.
Easy enough. Time to test it, I'll send one to another office's fax machine. I haven't had to do much faxing until recently, but I'm told it generally works better if you dial "1", the international calling code for the US of A, before the 10-digit number.
Little did I know, the fax machine was conveniently but unnecessarily configured to atuomatically dial "9", commonly used to reach an outside line, then "1", the International Calling Code for the good ol' US of A. (I live in the USA in case you haven't put that together)
I noticed the error and (I thought) successfully cancelled the fax, but the damage was done. The police show up about 5 minutes later, at which point the entire office is paying attention while I explain to the cops how I called 911 over the fax machine.
They were cool, as soon as I said fax machine they knew exactly where I was going with it and just said "you going to fix it so it doesn't do that?" and I already had.
They walk out, cue the entire room erupting in hilarity to my chagrin. Won't live this one down any time soon.
TL;DR: | don't dial "1" before the number if your fax machine is set up to dial "9,1" first |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [18M] terrified of my relationship.
POST: *Apologies if it's in the wrong place, I don't know where to out it and I'm not thinking straight.*
I am 18M, Girlfriend (referred as GF) is 18F and the duration is four years.
I need help. Please, I know this will be long but I need help. I need someone to help me understand what's wrong with me.
GF and I had sex for the first time last night. Growing up with today's media I was expecting it to be amazing. During it was as expected; however it was after that I wasn't feeling great. I had to run to the bathroom to be sick as I was sick with worry and guilt incase she got pregnant. I'm not ready to be a dad, I'm only 18.
I'm now petrified of sex and pregnancy. We both used birth control and she keeps reassuring me that it's fine but I can't shake the thought. I'm terrified. I'm heavily considering becoming celibate. **Why am I so scared?**
Due to these previously mentioned fears I've relapsed into my introvert state. I'm hiding under my bed covers crying and physically shaking instead of going to a party tonight. I haven't cried like this for years. **What's wrong with me?
TL;DR: | I'm begging for help. Why am I so scared of sex and why am I relapsing into my introvert self? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should I ask out my teammate? [30F] [36M]
POST: Hello Reddit! I'll keep this short:
I (30F) know this guy (36M) through a co-ed sport we play together. I have gotten the feeling in the past that he may be interested in something beyond friendship. I've heard from a mutual friend that he's "not a pursuer" and neither am I, generally. But I decided it's best to go after what I want, so I texted him last week, saying that if he ever wanted to hang out outside of the nights we play sports together, I'd be cool with that. I never got a response.
I saw him last night like every Tuesday, and he was more friendly and flirty than usual, but he didn't approach me or pursue anything beyond friendly chatter on the court. Since he's "not a pursuer" I'm wondering if I'm in the clear to explicitly ask HIM out, specifially for a birthday get-together this weekend for a friend of mine. I don't want to make things awkward for us/our teams either, in case he's genuinely not interested.
TL;DR: | Interested in a guy who is "not a pursuer" per a mutual friend. Should I ask him out myself? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my gf [23 F] 1.5 years told best friend that she was living the dream dating somebody white. I'm Asian
POST: Pretty self explanatory title - guess it might not be an uncommon thing for Asian guys to experience. She told her friend (without me around) that she was living the dream dating a white guy.
It's not an overly huge deal, but yeah it stings. The issue has come up multiple times and she knows it makes me uncomfortable when she highlights this topic. Starting to get to me though, even if it wasn't directly said to me.. Call it an insecurity or pride thing, sure, but if she really feels that way then.. Am I wasting my time?
Other examples.... Well. She's openly told me she's hazy about the idea of taking my name in marriage, but doesn't hesitate to praise friends getting their white partners last name. Has an undeniable fondness of halfer kids etc.
Anyhow. Am I overreacting? Thoughts on how to approach this? How would others feel/deal with it/is it a deal breaker?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend mentions dating white guys is the dream, and I'm Asian. What do ¯\ _(ツ)_ /¯ |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20m] want to move in with my gf[19f], however I can't it's bumming me out.
POST: So, I have a wonderful girlfriend of a year and five months. I made a throwaway because she occasionally peruses Reddit. Her, my sister, and I went apartment hunting a couple weeks ago to move in for the summer till the rest of college. I'd figured it would be cool if she moved in with us and have my sister as a buffer in case we get a bit heated in the relationship. We found these pretty badass apartments and we were excited.
Today, her mom and her went to see said apartments and her mom approved of the apartments. However, she doesn't approve of having her live with us and only herself. Reason being is because she fears that we may break up in the near future. It hurts to hear that a lot and my girlfriend says her mom could be right. I love my girlfriend with all my heart and it wears on me to hear that along with my girlfriend agreeing with her. It's messing me up and I'm starting to believe my gf is doubting the relationship.
What I want is for her mom to be okay with her moving in with us. How should I deal with this girls and guys?
TL;DR: | Gf can't move in because of mom frowning upon the idea and gf plays along with it. Response? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (16M) stop thinking about a crush (16F)?
POST: Its been some time now and I want it to stop especially now that she knows that I like but in a weird and creepy way.
She found out I look her up on Twitter. How, you ask? Because believe it or not I wanted to show my brother a picture of her (which I thought was cute) but he kicked the chair I was leaning on and I accidentally pressed favourite on one of her tweets (and then quickly unfavourited it).
That of course, was never my intention. I simply wanted to show my brother a picture of her. She thinks I'm stalking her because one of her tweets said so. I don't read her tweets, well I try not to anyways. I just read her latest ones to see if she knew I favourited it.
Is it classified as stalking though? I don't read her tweets but I occasionally look her up to see her picture. I can agree with obsessive but not stalker.
Even now I can't get through the day without thinking about her. Any cure?
TL;DR: | I need my 'obsession', some may call it to stop. She knows I like her so what to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[20 M] relationship with my GF[18 F] of almost a year, is getting toxic
POST: We haven't seen each other for three months and I am still trying to make the best out of it while my car is in the shop. She says she is tired of waiting and keeps saying that "this weekend is the last weekend to come see me" and goes on to say that she hates me, doesn't want to be around me, doesn't want to wait anymore, and even once told me to drink bleach.
Then she acts normal again and tells me she shouldn't be held accountable because she is a hormonal girl and that she never means any of it. I love her to death, but I don't know how to move past all those things she has said. Currently, she is back on the "I hate you kick" and I don't really know what to do...
TL;DR: | GF tells me she hates me and to drink bleach... How do I move on from that? What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm 27m feeling guilty about a crush 23f
POST: Self explanatory up top.
I'm (27m) in a serious relationship (2.6 years) with my lovely girlfriend 25f but I have a crush on this girl 23f at work. We seem to always make eye contact and say or wave hi to each other in a bashful shy manner. We'll talk every now and then but not in-depth cause I don't want it to go any further than that. our conversations are pretty short and feel awkward on my end cause I try not to flirt and also cause I'm generally awkward around cute girls. I'm confused on how I feel and I feel bad that I have a crush on this girl.
What should/can I do?
TL;DR: | I have a crush on a cute girl at work and I have a girlfriend. I feel guilty and stupid about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My twin sister [20 F] is being excluded and I [20 F] don't know what to do about it
POST: Me [20 F] and my twin sister [20 F] (lets call her Katie) were extremely close with another girl- lets call her Pauline [20 F]. For 2 years, she was essentially another sister. However, a year ago, Katie and Pauline had a huge fight and stopped talking. Though their relationship was icy, they made attempts to become closer, and though they're not fighting anymore, they're only acquaintances now, though they still are part of the same friend group.
However, Pauline is turning 21 soon, and she's throwing a dinner party with around 20 people. She invited me, but didn't invite Katie. She sent a short message to me over Facebook in which Pauline told me that she was only inviting close friends and that she didn't want to make it into a big deal.
Obviously, Katie is devastated because Pauline invited the entire friend group except for her. She's also upset because she thought she and Pauline had been getting closer and because Pauline was basically overlooking 2 years of friendship.
Reddit, I don't know what to do. I'm leaning towards not going in order to take a stand on Pauline's rude behaviour, but if I don't go, I would have to send a message to Pauline. What would I say?
TL;DR: | Sister [20 F] is being excluded from her ex-bestfriends [20 F] dinner party. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [17/M] A friend(17/F) and I kissed.
POST: I've been friends with this girl for two years. We're close friends. The other night she came over and we watched the breakfast club. She spent most of the movie's time in my arms. At the end of it when Bender and Claire got together, I mentioned how that was nice. She looked at me and we kissed for a few minutes. Then she told me that she had just got out of a relationship and didn't she want commitment, but that liked the kiss and being close. She added that she was torn between two people (now with me in the mix, three.) One of those people is a close friend of mine and the other is somebody I don't know. I decided to be a good guy and tell her to date who she truly wanted to be with. She said that if she was going to get into a relationship it would be with the guy I don't know. I said that she should do what she wants to do and not let anybody sway that. Before she headed home we decided we were going to treat it like it never happened. The problem is that neither of us can do that. Every time I stop thinking about whatever it is I'm doing my mind returns to that moment. She said since that she liked it too. Whenever we try to have a regular conversation, it doesn't end well. We can't go back to being friends and we're not going to date, but neither wants to lose our relationship, whatever it is. What can I do? General advice?
TL;DR: | Kissed my friend, we both liked it, we can't date, and regular friendship no longer works. HALP. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Lit paper+ procrastination&stress= a goddamn blanket fort [URL=http://imgur.com/NOpnC][IMG]http://i.imgur.com/NOpnC.jpg[/IMG][/URL]
POST: So I procrastinated as usual and ended up tonight with an unread Dubliners. My final paper on this is due tomorrow.... in the chaos of stress and apathy that consumed me I realized something had to be done. SO what did I do? Well, I built this superb blanket den ( I like to think of it as a cave...a cave of zen. the zen den) around my workstation. I'm writing this within the finalized fortress of cozitude and I have to say...there is something to it haha...beats bare dorm room walls and things reminding me of my current failure. Hell, perhaps being a kid every once in a while isn't that bad after all. Society seems to shun such....but its construct and definition has seemingly spread...to areas like plain old creativity and good ol' tomfoolery. Fuck it, I'd rather be a whimsical idiot than a drone of [the huge manatee] ( Onwards to the shores of ambiguous James Joyce interpretation!
TL;DR: | built a blanket fort in which to escape to for means of writing a lit paper DON'T JUDGE ME DX |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by thinking my new roommate was gay.
POST: So, I live in a 4 bed/1 bath apartment. We had to kick out a girl right before the end of March because she turned out to be a drug addict. (She's in inpatient rehab now so that worked out for the best). We scrambled to get a new roomie and were lucky enough to find one willing to move in April 1st.
Well, the roomie fielding the emails is a girl from China and sometimes she misunderstands things because of language barriers and because she's a little silly in a lovable way. She told the other roommate and I that this potential roommate was gay, amongst other details. So, we give this guy the room and a few days later he knocks on the bathroom door while I'm showering. I told him he could come in and pee while I'm showering if he can't hold it. Now, we have a see through shower curtain, I don't usually mind this because I'm trying to be respectful of bladder function and sharing a space but maybe I was being a bit too respectful? He said he could wait.
Then! Later that night we're all getting a bit tipsy and Chinese roommate and I make a comment about possible male love interests and he gives us this look then says, "do you think I'm gay? Because I'm not." Quickly back pedal and change subject.
Chinese roomie thinks it's all hilarious and now I'm wondering if my roomie thinks I was trying to invite him to bang me. Ugh.
TL;DR: | thought new roomie was gay, invited him to see me naked (27/f) then found out he was straight |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it fair for me [18 F] to make my new boyfriend [20 M] wait for sex?
POST: I've been with this guy for a little over two weeks now. We've been on a few dates & we hang out at each other's places now & again and I really like him. I was single for a while and my previous relationship was horrible so I feel like this could be really good and healing for me.
My only issue is he brought up sex the other day. He said something like "have you thought about sex at all?" and I just said I hadn't thought about it yet and we agreed that it would be best to wait until we know each other better & are more comfortable. The thing is I've never had sex before (I didn't tell him that yet, didn't seem relevant) so I don't know how long it will take for me to feel comfortable and "ready" to lose it to him. I feel like this could be a problem for him, considering the slight age gap. I know he's had sex before and he's a lot more experienced than I am, so it's probably normal for him to have sex fairly early on in a relationship. Which is honestly pretty intimidating to me.
I've asked some of my friends and they all have different opinions - some say that if he's a good guy and he really likes me he'll wait as long as it takes, others say it's unfair for me to expect a 20 year old guy to not have sex until I'm ready. So I'm definitely confused and could use some outside opinions!
TL;DR: | Started dating a new guy, not ready to have sex yet (still a virgin), is it fair to make him wait? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Divorced people of reddit: I need your help. I'm a too nice person looking to end my marriage
POST: Hi guys, first off thanks for any help you can provide me. I'm really looking for information from both sides as the divorcer and divorcee.
Background: we've been together for about 3 years. We're both in our early 20s and I'm a female he's a male. We will call him Jay.
Recently things just haven't been the same. And I'm not sure how long you have to be unhappy and try to make things work before you give up. I'm honestly ready to move on and I've brought up divorce a few times and jay just brushes me off as if I'm lying or trying to get attention or will bawl his eyes out and says I can try but he won't let me. I don't like hurting people so what is the best way to let him down? Jay seems to think I'm his soul mate, but we honestly don't want any of the same things in life, one of them being children, I don't want any and he wants 4 kids.
Side note: he has a short temper. I might even say he's bipolar with the way his mood fluctuates. That being said, I feel like if he got mad enough he might hit me. So that's another reason I'm turning to you in private reddit.
TL;DR: | I want to divorce my husband. What's the best way to let him know and him believe it's what I want. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [16/M] My bother [23/M] is living off my parents at home and needs to move out. More in desc.
POST: My brother was in his last year of college in the top of his class in aviation and AFROTC. He was on his way to his lifelong dream of being a fighter pilot, literally a month from going to jet flight school. (He'd already done basic too).
Well he decided he didn't want to do that anymore just out of nowhere, and he's been living at home ever since (about a year now). He's only home when his girlfriend is at work and when he wants food. He hasn't been looking for a job and is just spending money. I know he's almost out of it too.
My parents turn me away most of the time when I try to talk to them and tell them that he's lazy and isn't even looking for a job. It's like they're in denial that they have a leach on their backs. He doesn't even have a goal for his life now. They just tell me not to worry about it, but it's becoming more and more of an issue. There's high tempers all over the family now, and I'm sure my dads going to blow one day.
TL;DR: | My brother needs to move out and get a job, but I don't know how to aproach it or if I even should. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Allegiant Air Horror Stories!?
POST: Anyone have a good one? I'd like to share mine. My friends and I were going to Las Vegas for a stag. Our flight was supposed to depart from Bellingham at 10:15am. We arrived at the airport around 9am and got ready to go through security etc. Around 9:30am we were informed that the flight wasn't going to go on account of a mechanical issue. I'm fine with that because safety should be the top priority, and I was told to come back around 7pm for an 8:30am departure. My group came back to the airport, and at around 8pm we were informed that the flight would be delayed again until 11pm...I think you see where this is going...at around 9pm, after noticing that a whole ton of cops showed up, we were informed that the flight was cancelled until the next day at 1pm!
I am all for delaying flights for mechanical reasons, but to toy with paying customers like that, and waste out time is unbelievable. If you're going to cancel the flight, then cancel the flight, if you're going to get us to Vegas then do it.
TL;DR: | Allegiant jerked us around all day long (9am-9pm) only to cancel our flight! Never again! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18F] with [25M] made a joke about hitting me and I'm upset about it. Am I in the wrong?
POST: Alright, so it's a LDR relationship for about a year now. I told him I had gotten pink eye recently and he told me, "Well you better not give it to me or I'll give you a black eye hehe!" This just stirred me the wrong way since I read so many stories about how women struggle to leave abusive relationships. I called him an idiot and such and informed him that in no way I wanted to be in an abusive relationship ever or with people who find abuse funny. He started calling me crazy because he thought it was ridiculous I was getting mad over a joke.
I don't think it's funny to joke about abuse at all. That joke was extremely disrespectful to people who are in abusive relationships. But then again, it was a joke. This is the same guy that has told girls when he's angry in games that he hopes "their boyfriend comes home drunk and beats them". He told me I'm overreacting and trying to pick a fight with him but I'm extremely upset right now because of that lame joke.
He told me he would never hit me, but this still bothers me.
TL;DR: | boyfriend makes shitty joke about hitting me. says im overreacting. I don't know if I am or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: re-starting running
POST: This time last year I started (trail)running, and fell in love with it. I was living in the woods, so when the snow fell I called it quits, as running trails in the snow is miserable. The longest run I did was about 20k before winter. Few months into winter I sign up for a triathlon and as soon as the snow started to melt, I hit running HARD. Over the next few months I had every problem in the book- knee pain, plantar fasciitis, and shin splints. I fought through it all and got up to 20k again, and switched to minimal shoes but shin splints still remained. Took a couple weeks off before tri, and they still lingered. So after the triathlon I took off 2 months, and 2 weeks of 'taking it slow' they returned again! So r/running what should I do? Ice/foam roll daily? Not run till Spring? How slow should I re start it at?
TL;DR: | Shin splints, afraid to run in case I re-fracture. When can I run again? How slow should I go? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] almost told my boyfriend [20M] of 3 weeks I love him.
POST: I met this guy a month ago that I clicked with immediately. Within 4 days, I felt comfortable and happy with him - so much so that I ended a year long relationship to be with him. He and I have both said it feels like we've known each other for a long time. This past weekend we had a moment where he just stood there with his arms around me, holding me because I was in pain from a really bad migraine. He asked it I was okay and I nodded and almost said "I love you", but bit my tongue.
Until this relationship, it always took me months to even develop feelings for someone. I didn't tell my last 2 exes I loved them at ALL, and those were long relationships. I know there's usually lust and a honeymoon stage, but I've never felt like this before at all.
I've never had anything happen so quickly and I don't know what I'm doing. Do I tell him what I'm feeling?
TL;DR: | I fell in love with a guy a month after meeting him, and I don't know what to do about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24/F] and my boyfriend [28/M] forgot how to communicate.
POST: recently my boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot and not seeing eye to eye. To give some backstory on both of us we're both veterans with PTSD and anxiety, the 3 year anniversary of his younger sisters death just passed, and on top of all that he's pretty much raised himself from the age of 12.
I feel like his anger is getting the best of him lately and he lashes out not just on the person he is angry with, but me also. it used to make me super upset and i would cry when he got mad at me for no reason but now it's just making me extremely angry. if this were any other relationship i would've walked away, but i really want to make this work because i love him so much.
we've been together a year and a half and we used to be that fun couple that everyone else wanted to be, we did everything together. i just want the old "us back. this is the one person i can see myself with forever, i just wish he would communicate with me. he seems so stressed all the time and if i don't know what's wrong, then i can't help him. i've suggested talking to a professional that i'd be more than willing to go with him to because honestly i probably need it also, he said no.
TL;DR: | Help me! i don't want to have to force him to open up to me. what else can i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[24M] girlfriend [24F] has decided that she doesn't want to have sex anymore until we're engaged. Am I being selfish to not want to wait?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now. Recently, I had to move away to start medical school, which was on the table when we started dating, and we both decided that we would be willing to try to keep a LDR going. Before I left our sex life was great, but before I left, she said that she didn't want to have sex until I proposed. I'm already not going to be there physically for 3 months at a time, and it just seems to me that if and when I would want to propose, I wouldn't want to do it based off of a sex blackmail. Lately, I've wondered about implications of this, because I don't want to be a long term relationship where sex is used as a bartering tool. Am I being a typical guy or am I thinking in a generally correct direction?
TL;DR: | Gf wants to wait until I propose before sexy time happens again while in a LDR. I don't want to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19F) will possibly be moving in with my boyfriends (18M) ex crush
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 months. I moved to his state for him, we originally met online. Before he met me, he had a huge crush on this one girl for 3 years. Then he met me. He clearly loves me and wants to be with me. But this girl confessed publicly that she had feelings for my boyfriend.. my boyfriend and I cut all contact from her for almost a year. We recently became friends. (I don't know how but it happened) she's become a good friend and she is in a relationship with a guy she has been on an off with. They have problems but she hasn't done or said anything about MY man. I need to move out in December and need a roommate. She has volunteered to move in with me with her boyfriend as well. I think it would be great because rent is split 3 ways. But.. my boyfriend will be moving in a few months after. I'm worried something could happen. Am I over thinking the situation? Should I go for it or say no?
TL;DR: | should I move in with my boyfriends ex crush of 3 years? Am I over reacting or should I go for it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, how do you let it all go, and celebrate?
POST: I noticed this past year, that I have a problem letting go, and letting whatever moment is happening, in. For example, this past New Years Eve, I had a party booked on the rooftop of a hotel in Aukland, New Zealand to view the fireworks. Well, the party wasn't what I had expected it to be (the rooftop was covered and didn't have a good view of the fireworks), and frankly, it ruined my evening. My wife still attempted to have fun, but I could tell I was ruining her evening too, by not being into it.
In general I find it hard to get genuinely excited about things. Maybe it comes from a desire of not being let down/disappointed by what does happen, or maybe I'm just getting older and more cynical. I do know that I feel that my day to day is happy, but whenever it's a day with a preconceived emotion attached to it (Birthday, Christmas, New Years, etc) I always feel pressured, and don't have a good time.
TL;DR: | Reddit, how do you remember to have fun on days where you are 'supposed' to have a good time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: The Money Scramble
POST: So, fellow college students, and admirable college graduates: I have a problem. It's not a terrible problem, but I need help regardless.
I'm going to a solid private college, not a terribly expensive one, but it's masters program for my major has a good reputation.
In trying to figure out how to pay for the college, I've exhausted every grant opportunity I could find, and I'm down to needing $5500 a year in additional funds.
That doesn't seem bad, right? I can even pay it in monthly installments. The problem is, I have no liquid assets as of right now, and I have no reliable cosigner available. I want to have a safety net in case I lose a job before I can get a new one, and I'm unable to make the payments. I'm looking for advice on how to get access to loan money (student or otherwise) that I won't regret taking out. Any advice would be appreciated. (And is there a more appropriate subreddit for college-related advice?)
TL;DR: | Shit's expensive, yo. I need $5500/yr and I don't have a cosigner. Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf has a good friend who likes her. What do I do?
POST: Me [21] and My girlfriend [19] have been dating for about half a year now. And recently I've met one of her new friends. And it's pretty obvious that this guy [20] has a thing for my girlfriend. I've met him a few times. The guy texts her every day, buys her lunch every now and again, buys her gifts, and offers to drive her home. But she just doesn't see that this guy is just being overly friendly because he likes her. She keeps saying "he's just like that with everyone". I've kind of worked out he's not really like that to anyone else. I'm not worried or jealous because I fully trust my gf. But I'm really uncomfortable about her meeting him on her own and texting back to him whenever he texts her everyday. I feel it's slightly inappropriate. The thing is, this guy is one of her only friends at university. I don't want to ask her to cut him off completely. What can I say or do to solve this?
TL;DR: | Gf's friend likes her. I don't want her to keep being so friendly to him. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15 M] with my ___ [19 F] duration 1 month. I lied to her at the beggining.. i wanna come clean, but i dont know how.
POST: Im 15 in Alabama, and one day when i was drivining around in Capitol city, even though i shouldnt have cause im 15 w/o a license, i met this beautiful peitite lady working at KrispyKreme. The work place is an unusual place to try to get a girl, especially while shes working, but somehow I did it..
Well, becuase I thought she was going to be just some person I'll never talk to again, i was not honest about myself.. i told her im 18 and a Freshman at Auburn University.. when really im a 15yr old high school sophmore. Meantime, shes 19 and a freshman at Troy University..
Now that I've been with her for almost a month, i feel really bad that i didnt tell her the truth. Doing so is definatly on mt To-do list, but im not sure how im going to do it.. help? Plus, theres a grey erea, because we've had a sexually active relationship...
TL;DR: | im 15, shes 19. I lied, I said i was 18, and now guilt is telling me to tell the truth.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with a attractive person [15 F] , never met her, walks past me most days, what's a subtle way to start up a conversation?
POST: I am a guy, and this really cute girl walks past me fairly regularly as I walk to the train station and she walks to the bus stop and essentially we walk by each other.
I can't really just stop her and say "hi", because i think thats a bit odd and it will end with her awkwardly just saying back "ummm hello".
So what do I do? The subtle bump into her? Even if I do that I say sorry, she says sorry and we walk our own ways.
Any things you have done to get someones attention that has worked? Or any ideas?
TL;DR: | Cute girl, walks past me most days, dont know eachother, how do I crack up a convo with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Girlfriend doesn't pay attention to me but expects I do
POST: Me [19/m] her [19/f]
We have only been dating for 3 months now but I feel something might be off in our relationship. We are in a bit of a long distance right now , we see each other for about 2 weekends a month but that is going to change in about 2 months and I will see her everyday (school will start).
We text/skype everyday and I feel she is always demanding my attention and wants me to work and make the relationship more "fun". She expects me to flit and be funny all the time, but I feel she is not putting any work in the relationship .She is just waiting for me to do everything. When we are talking she is acting like a spoiled child that doesent get what she wants, doesnt say she is mad just gets all bitchy and almost ignores me.
While we are together things are great, no major arguments, always having fun, we are probably still in the honey moon phase.
Should I mention to her that she needs to put some effort in the relationship? what would be the best approach?
TL;DR: | GF wants me to put effort in the relationship, she doesn't do anything about it. What should I do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Had an aneurysm and don't feel like me anymore...
POST: Info: mid 20's male who started having "sex headaches" - turns out it was an aneurysm. Ever since, I've been put on some very strong pain killers (codeine - 60 mg or 30 mg depending on how bad the headache is).
I just don't feel like myself anymore and am pushing people away. I started seeing a girl a couple of months ago who was going through some issues but she doesn't seem to be around or understand and has distanced herself from me over the last few weeks in my eyes. I'm doing the same to her as I don't want to be clingy. The problem is I would normally know how to seperate myself from the situation and move on but right now I can't quanitfy or flow with my emotions. It feels like the world is getting too problematic for me to handle it all.
I'm distancing myself from family members as well. Just really don't feel like myself anymore. Has anyone gone through this? Is it just the med's and I need to man the fuck up and take a step back?
TL;DR: | had an aneurysm, on meds, feel like shit. Looking for help on the internet like an idiot. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What would you do if someone ripped of your terminally-ill father?
POST: Dirtbag ripped off my terminally-ill father a year ago, and while my dad was venting to me about all the bad things in his head, he ended up telling me today. Now I know this kid, he's a little 19 year old who was friends with my brother originally.
Anyway, my father told me to forget about it but it made my blood boil that all my dad does is give to people and all they do is take from him. The kid tricked my dad into lending him $120 bucks by saying that his family is starving. My father later found out he used it to buy rave tickets and when my dad confronted him, he just started ignoring my father. My blood is boiling, but I tried to be reasonable and messaged him kindly asking for the money back, but he ignored me too! Should I just let this go? I feel so angry. I also found out the kid has a good job and lives in a nice house, which makes me even angrier. Reddit! Help me!!! He may or may not have ties to meth-using gangster family members.
TL;DR: | some kid ripped off my cancer-stricken dad my dad wants me to let it go. what would you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Is this normal?
POST: Okay, first of all, sorry if this sounds stupid, I honestly can't find anything online probably due to me not making sense of the google search lol.
But I started to take weight loss and a healthy lifestyle seriously a little under 3 weeks ago, and so I have been working hard, cutting out all soda and junk food from my life, managing my daily intake of calories carefully and exercising daily 7 days a week. When I started I was around 118.5kg give or take (I didnt own a scale the first few days so I could have been more for all I know), and now I checked this morning and I was 112.7kg.
Obviously I am very happy that I am slimming down, but is it happening too fast? I haven't done a HUGE amount of research but I know the basics of weight loss, and I lurk on this sub every day.
The people I know that lose weight take months to lose a decent amount, and while this is only a tiny bit I've lost, I still feel it's a significant amount for me, so I'm not sure if this is a good or bad thing.
TL;DR: | Was 118.5kg (261 lbs.) 3 weeks ago, now 112.7kg (248 lbs.). Is this normal to lose weight so quick? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] and GF [28 F] have been dating and living together for 2 years, today she wants to end in because we are not engaged yet.
POST: I met my GF in the same company I work at. After a few long months of pursuing, we finally started dating. Only after a few months of dating, she moved in to my apartment. As our relationship got more serious, she started asking when we would get married. I have always told her that it was too early and that we needed to get our things in order.
We've been very close and happy until this morning when she finally broke down and told me that if I don't want to get married, there is no need for her to be in the relationship. I do not consider getting married - not with her, not with anyone else. I love her very much but she is giving me an ultimatum that I don't think I can say yes to. I don't want to be pressured into marriage.
I am pretty sure, you guys read this sort of dilemma every single day but never have I thought I'd be in it.
I am torn, heartbroken and speechless. I do want to keep what we have without the pressure of marriage. I guess, I am going to have to let her go, if this isn't going to work for her anymore.
What do you think?
TL;DR: | GF [28 F] of 2 years breaking up with me [28 M] because I do not want to get engaged. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] can't get over my ex [20 F] after 2.5 years and it's affecting my relationship.
POST: Ok so after suffering with this for a very long time I think it's finally time I ask for some advice. About 3 years ago me and my ex broke up, entirely my fault because I felt the relationship was going nowhere and cheated on her with someone I thought I loved, however, after this happened I realise how much I didnt want my relationship to end, but long story short it did.
After a year of being self destructive I thought I was finally getting over her and started a new relationship which ended horribly after a few months because I kept comparing her in my mind to my ex.
Jump to now, I've been in a relationship with a girl I'm genuinely in love with, more than my first ex but I keep remembering her and having dreams where I wake up after thinking about her and it feels like an actual physical pain. I just don't what to do, I know my relationship with my first ex is over and I don't think I'd even be back with her if I had a chance, but I don;t know what to do.
TL;DR: | GF and I broke up, now I'm in a happy relationship but can't stop thinking about her 3 years later. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] with my ex-bf [26/M], after a year and a half together we broke up a month ago, and one of the reasons was because I'm not into videogames. For all you gamers out there, is it essential that your SO is also a gamer?
POST: Hi Reddit, just went through a break up a month a go and ex insisited that one of the reasons was bc I'm not a gamer. Like i mean come on?
He found this new girl who's into gaming and now my world is completely upside down.
Right off the bat he knew that I'm not into videogames and he didn't seem to have a problem...I'm into music and art, which doesn't interest him, and i never brought it up before or during the break up bc frankly I don't give two fucks.
He said he loved me for so long, and then when the break up happened he used the gaming thing as his defense. I find it to be bullshit, like really. if it were a problem, it would've been since the start...
I don't know if he's serious or just making excuses.
Before you guys ask, no it wasn't the sole reason for the break up BUT he emphasized it later on which broke my heart even more.
Uughh he's still on my mind all the time :'(
TL;DR: | Ex bf is avid gamer, said he wants a gf who is also a gamer. i am heart broken. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Advice on my cringe moment
POST: So, I recently started a summer internship at an engineering company. Today while visiting sites, my supervising engineer and I stopped for lunch at a panera bread co. For reference my supervising engineer is really cool and casual, but I still try to be fairly professional. While he was looking at the menu I went to place my order, but as I reached for my wallet IT WAS NOT THERE!
I couldn't just cancel my order and leave, or just not eat while he did, as I determined that would be really awkward. So I swallowed my pride and asked if he'd cover for me and I said I would pay him back, which he just kind of shrugged off but didn't decline.
But then things got even more awkward. When he went to pay he used a reward card and was told he was eligible for a free meal. When asked if he wanted to use that, he was like ehh but then accepted. Mine was the cheaper so what I ordered technically didn't cost him anything, but he could have used that free meal for his family at a later time.
So here's the question. Should I try to give him money for what my meal would have cost, or just ignore the subject? Again he is really cool didn't seem to care, I just want to do what's right while avoiding awkwardness. Thanks.
TL;DR: | went to casual lunch with boss w/ no money. He used a free meal for me. Do I owe him money? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Help! (x-post from /r/AskReddit) my sister's cat is trapped. Need advice.
POST: My little sister's [karma machine] has somehow escaped into the walls of our parents' house. As you can see she clearly enjoys enclosed spaces. We live in a really old (100 years plus) Victorian era terraced house. There's been a hole in the plaster on the top floor of three (ex-attic) because of a leak, but yesterday we finally got it plastered up. We think she must've sneaked in just before. After listening all round the house we eventually heard her seemingly coming from behind a wall all the way downstairs in the front garden. She's not really been moving and we think she maybe fell some of the way and hurt herself.
We can't start hacking through stone. And we can't pull down the plaster and go in because none of us will fit. She's a tough rescue cat and has survived 5 days of being trapped one other time so will live a little while longer but I'm really worried it'll destroy my little sister if she dies. Especially in such a horrific way where she'll be able to hear her the whole time.
What can we try reddit? Anything, no matter how crazy, will be considered.
TL;DR: | Sister's cat is trapped in the walls of our super old house. What can we do/what would you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Wedding video pricing?
POST: Our amazing photographers, who are already costing us a pretty penny, have recently launched a wedding video aspect to their business. I inquired about price and it is ~$900 for a 3-5 minute video, which includes 10 hours of coverage, editing time, and a hard copy custom made disk which will be a keepsake. [Example] here. Since we are already paying around $5000 for photos, we're not super motivated to put down more money on a video, even though they are really gorgeous. I told them this and they asked what we would be willing to pay, so here is my question...
What do wedding videos go for? How much would you pay for a 3-5 minute end product? The FH and I agree that we'd pay about $400, but, I think this might be seriously insulting to offer. I know that a lot of time and work goes into making a video, even if you only get 5 minutes at the end...
What are your thoughts weddit?
TL;DR: | How much would you pay for a 3-5 min wedding video? Or, what do you think it's worth? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my crush [18 F], should I tell her how I feel?
POST: To make a long story short, I have had a crush on this girl for a long time. At one time, she liked me (but I didn't know it) and I dated her best friend. When me and her best friend broke up I started talking shit about my ex to her, while still hanging out with my ex. Because of this she got really pissed off and we didn't communicate for 6 months.
She wished me a happy birthday last July and ever since then we've become friends again. In the fall I wrote her a letter telling her I had feelings for her, to which she replied that she "wishes things were different but its just not in my nature to forgive people." Which was fine and since then we've built a pretty good friendship, probably better than we had the first time.
I'm wondering if I should tell her again how I feel? I am a completely different person now than I was the first time, and I feel like being unforgiving isn't abnormal but she's being unforgiving towards a version of me that no longer exists. I have learned from my lessons whereas before I was an inexperienced young man. I feel like explaining things to her in this way could sway her opinion. What do you all think?
TL;DR: | I like a girl who I once hurt, she said she is unforgiving, can I explain to her that I've changed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Stupid question about splitting up a run
POST: Hi Everyone,
I am probably micromanaging, but I was generally curious about this idea and what it's impacts (if any) would be. I normally run about 3.3 miles / 5.3 km 3 times a week over my lunch break at work. I'm finally to the point where I can run without any walking/stopping breaks, and it takes me anywhere from 31-37 minutes depending on how I'm feeling that day.
Related to this, I've been considering adding chinups into my routine, but I legitimately cannot find *any* place to do these at home or at work. Conveniently, there is a set of chin up bars about halfway through my run. I was considering running out, stopping for about 5-10 minutes to do a few rounds of chins, then finishing my run up.
Same pace, same distance, same total time ran, but with a break in between. Is this going to have ANY negative, or positive impacts that are worth worrying about? I thought perhaps it might have a slight negative impact to my cardiovascular endurance, but as long as I get my miles in it shouldn't be too bad?
TL;DR: | Worrying about splitting a 3 mile run into 2 1.5 mile runs. Will this screw me in any way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my gf [20 F] of a year and a quarter, how to make her more open to sexting
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a quarter now, and everything is perfect. We have fun together, can talk for ages without realising and just generally enjoy each others company, plus a good sex life when we get the chance. We're both in university, and don't get much time to ourselves, but when we do the sex is great, but when we're apart she makes no effort. It's rare we get to be intimate and she won't even make an effort to try this.
To preface the above, I've tried initiating stuff, I've tried bringing it up to her and she agrees and says it would be fun to do, but anytime I try she brushes it off. We did it once, and it was great, we both agreed we enjoyed it, so why not again? Any ideas?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend won't give sexting a try despite it being one of the few ways to be "intimate" together. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear reddit, I believe I've made a huge mistake by seeing a transsexual prostitute
POST: I've had TS fantasies for years now and in a fit of hornyness I finally decided to bite the bullet and see a prostitute.
Now from the start I knew it was a mistake but I really want advice so ill save you a wall of text. Basically I ended up sucker her off for a while bareback, I didn't penetrate her and she didn't penetrate me (I left after I realized that this wasn't what I was really into) but now im deathly afraid of getting an STD. Now the woman seemed healthy enough, she was chubby with no visible signs of having an std. but ofcourse I know it can be misleading. From what I've seen of her history she is strictly a "top" and other than the bareback sucking she seems to play safe (she made sure to use a condom before fingering me)
she also sucked me off but it wasn't long so I don't think im in trouble for that. Neither of us ejaculated.
ANyway I'm wondering what are the chances that I may have contracted something, if there was anything I can do to prevent anything, and how long I should wait before getting tested.
this was honestly one of the worst experiences of my life and im afraid that if I contracted something I may have to be scarred by it for the rest of my life
I fucked up reddit
TL;DR: | I gave a tranny a blowjob and now im worried about STD's, what are the chances I got one? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by pulling our dying dog out of the house
POST: My family alwas had dogs as my fathers goes hunting a lot. Therefore we always had well trained dogs but they were not allowed to go into the house. They had a kennel in the garden and my mother always freaked out when one of the dogs set a foot in our house. Only one dog lived with us in the house, a small Dachshund that was not trained to go hunting with my father.
Today i saw one of the hunting dogs in the carpet in our living room which suprised me a lot as the dogs knew pretty well that the house was taboo for them. I told him to get out of the house but he didnt move. I tried to pull him out of the house but he struggeld so I pulled at his collar and managed to get him back in his kennel.
Well, later that day I went into the garden to look for the dogs and found the tresspes-dog dead in his kennel.
So he tried to be near his pack when he died and because of me he died alone - i feel so bad :(
TL;DR: | Dog wantet to die near his family, threw him out of the house so he died alone - feel bad now! |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Cold outside, Jacket/Hoodie and Boots for a puppy?
POST: So we adopted a new puppy on Friday and I've been working with him on potty training. He's getting alright at it but sometimes he doesn't want to go, so he just sits there whimpering and shivering. So we run back to the house because it's so cold outside and within 2-3 minutes of being inside he poops! I keep staying out there longer but it doesn't seem to help much.
I just brought him out about an hour ago and he managed to poop and pee a little but I thought he was done. He came and sat next to me and was shivering so I figured he was done. Walking in the door I take off his leash, start taking off my jacket, and I see him squat to pee next to the chair. It's currently 14f out and it's freaking cold. In my fleece pants and wool jacket I'm cold, so I figure he must be even more cold. He was doing well this afternoon when it was in the higher 30's!
TL;DR: | Should I swing into Petco/Pet Smart and pick him up some booties and a jacket/hoodie to help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What was that one time where you truly learned not to talk crap behind peoples' backs? How did it end?
POST: I'll start.
A while back a friend of mine (we'll call her "Stacey") ...well her friend John started dating someone I knew. Stacey asked me my opinion on this girl John was dating, and I told her what I knew; She was crazy, a drunk, and obnoxious, a total fake... in slightly more words and in a slightly more eloquent fashion. Finishing my statement with, "I don't know this girl anymore and haven't talked to her in years, so maybe she's changed, so just keep this info. to yourself. But that's what I remember about her."
Well, Stacey had a big mouth, and what I told her got around to new John's new girl. New girl sends me a message about how hurt she was, she thought we were friends, how could I, and ending with, "I thought you were a better person. I thought you were one of the nice guys."
Some time later I tracked new girl down and apologized for being such a jerk, and turns out she's a better person than me. She accepted my apology and has never brought it up since.
TL;DR: | Talked crap. Got caught. Felt badman. Don't talk behind peoples' backs anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by assuming my hairdresser was gay
POST: I haven't gotten my hair cut by a professional in a REALLY long time. I have very thin, straight hair, and lots of it. When people cut my hair, it never looks good. Every little mistake shows up pretty apparently and I'm rarely happy with the end result.
But today I was feeling spontanious and mustered up the courage and get my hair did. The guy cutting my hair was very clearly gay (or so I thought). He was queening out with me, we were yapping back and forth, and we found out we lived in the same apartment building. He then said something along the lines of, "Ha, don't worry. I won't stalk you or anything. I'm not THAT guy. I wouldn't creep on you." To which I responded, "of course you wouldn't" to which he was all like, "well you're a beautiful girl. I just don't think my wife would approve" to which I was like, "wow, don't take this the wrong way but I totally thought you were gay!"
He took it the wrong way, which is ridiculous because the dude must get it all the time. I also wasn't happy with the haircut and paid 60 dollars for it, and even tipped the guy because I felt bad.
TL;DR: | I told a straight man who seemed like a gay man I thought he was gay and he wasn't happy about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Catholic Wedding
POST: Alright so here at the end of June I'm getting married to the love of my life, the only thing she's Catholic. I'm talking Catholic schooling from elementary school all the way through college. I was baptized Catholic and received my first communion, however I stopped going to church and being actively religious shortly after my first communion. I have since been more of an agnostic/free thinker in my approaches to religion. Well we are having a full on Catholic wedding and I agreed to it because I know how much it means to my Fiancee' and her mother and I'm cool with that and our preist is pretty cool seeing as how he put us through only one 3 hour communication class as our Pre-Cana. Here's where the problem comes in our preist gave us a pass to sit in St. Peter's Square and meet the pope and have him "Bless" our marriage. I'm not overly fond of this guy to say the least, but again I see that it would mean the world to my Fiancee'. Should I object to this because of my beliefs, or should I just go with the flow and not create drama, especially since it's our honeymoon?
TL;DR: | Fiancee is Catholic, I'm not anymore and we have a chance to meet the pope. Should I object or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] Can't Stop Thinking About Former Co-Worker[25 F], What do I Do?
POST: Hey Guys,
So there's a girl I worked with last Summer, she left at the start of August because she got a better job in another city. I trained her in the whole time so we got to know each other pretty well.
Anyway, the whole time we worked together I liked her. I'm 99.99% sure the feelings were reciprocated on some level, based both on my own instincts and the comments of others. The reason I never made a move is because I'd been burned by office romance before and want to avoid it (still working with *her*, 2/10 would not recommend btw). I texted her a few times after she'd left to try and stay in touch but it didn't work out. I saw a few days ago (through sad, sad Facebook stalking), that she may be back in Dublin at least for the time being.
Thing is, I NEVER stopped thinking about her this whole time. I have been with other women since but they just don't measure up, like NO ONE has EVER measured up to this girl. I really feel like I dropped the ball before and my instinct is to give it a try.
Am I being a bit stalkery here? I mean it's been 6 months since we talked, and I don't even know if she still likes me/has met someone else. Moreover, what do you say after 6 months!? "Hey, I saw a pic of you on FB in that pub down the road! What are you at tmr about 8:00?"... Is it just V-day desperation!? HELP!
TL;DR: | After 6 months I still can't get this girl I am totally stalking out of my head. WHAT DO, REDDIT!? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How do I [18/F] ask this guy [19M] if he is willing to wait for me?
POST: I met this guy online and we been on a few dates. The last date we went on went really well. We are both looking for a relationship but the only problem is I went home for the summer and I can not see him over the summer. He seemed like he was opened to the idea of waiting and finding ways for us to see each other over the summer. He seemed very intent on continuing to pursue me. But I think he is losing interest. I know he is still active on the website we were talking on. But before I left he wasn't on there since we started talking.
The last time we hung out I made it clear I wanted to take things slow, he repeatedly told me he was okay with that. Now, when we text he always tells me how hard it is for him to take things slow. I asked if he was still okay with that and he said "he is going to try to be". I don't want to waste my time pinning over someone for a whole summer who does not have any interest in waiting. I want to know his intentions but I do not want to come off as clingy or obsessive, I just want to know whether or not it is worth it.
TL;DR: | I want to know how to ask a guy if he is going to wait for me without coming off as clingy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my ex-girlfriend[24] want me[25] to hurt her, so "she wont care anymore"
POST: [sorry for my english]
I dated her for 2.5 months, and I found that I just didnt devlop any feeling for her. (this is only my second relationship)
I told her I will do any thing she need me to do, so this will be easier as it can be for her, becuse I know how is it to be in her side (that u got feeling and the other 1 dont).
so now she texted me " I wish u will do somthing shitty to me, so I will think you a douchbeg, and I will not care about you any more."
what should I do?
how sould I do it?
will it help her if I did?
TL;DR: | my ex want to be a douchbeg to her so she will think i suck as a human being or somthing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28M] have a crush on a friend [30F]. I asked her out over a year ago and she declined, but should I ask again?
POST: Like the title says, I asked her out a year and a half ago and she said she only wanted to be friends. We have remained close and my feelings for her have fluctuated in intensity since, but never gone away. It's also complicated because she has not had very good luck dating guys for very long and recently has been feeling down about it. Last week she complained that it feels like no one finds her attractive, and I wanted to say "I am attracted to you," but I didn't. She means a lot to me, and I don't want to mess up our friendship, but would it be a mistake to ask her out again? Would I taking advantage of her feelings?
TL;DR: | I'm crushing on a friend and I want to ask her on a date after she said no over a year ago. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I need some clear direction here
POST: Me-F 26 SO-M 26 have been together for about a year and half. I don't know if this is rough patch or if this relationship is over. I don't want it to be, but I think he might.
He has been gone for a while and usually called me every night, but about two days ago he said he was going to call and didn't, and I was drunk so I called and text a couple of times..with no response.
He called me this morning and we talked for a half hour and he said everything was fine and he'll call me tonight...Well he didn't call me (THis is unusual for him to change his plans) so I called him, and left a message that I was worried and I would feel a lot better if we talked for a bit. And about 3 hours later I got a text message that said..."I'm sorry, I love you. But I am tired and sick and I am going to bed."
While I am concerned about his health and welfare, should I be worried otherwise? and What else can I do to improve this situation if it can be improved?
TL;DR: | SO out of town, sends a text message instead of calling like he said he would. Am I over-reacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Reluctance to open relationship? (23 F and 23 F)
POST: So I met this girl about 3.5 months ago from a dating app. We really hit it off. We spend a lot of time together and have built a good deal of intimacy. But I was recently burned - and at the beginning phase of meeting her - didn't want to get too attached and hop into another situation where I get hurt.
I've been hesitant to be exclusive. It's a combination of a defense mechanism (I wouldn't be as hurt if things didn't work out) and being new to the city (moved here about 8 months ago and there are a lot more queer ladies so I wanted to keep my options open).
She said she feels stuck - that she doesn't want to share and isn't okay with being in an open relationship. I really don't want to lose her, so I have to weigh the alternatives.
TL;DR: | Should I give up my want to have an open relationship so I don't lose this girl I care a lot about? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by drinking too much alcohol
POST: This happened on Boxing Day. I was at my ex-girlfriend's sister's house for a Christmas party and the guys there all got together as they do and start drinking. I'm naturally the shy type so I reluctantly hang out with them drinking to make my ex-gf happy, trying to be part of the family.
As I'm drinking I loosen up having a good time and they keep pouring me drinks. It was Jim Beam self mixed with Coke. Up to a point I couldn't pour my own drinks so the guys were pouring it and I was getting funnier and funnier because once I'm drunk I come out of my shell and do/say the funniest shit.
By the time it was time to go I had finished 1 750ml bottle of Jim Beam, and half the next 750ml. I don't remember the party but I do remember getting into the car.
I remember bits and pieces of what happened next but had to be told all the gory details...
When we got home I couldn't get out of the car by myself. My ex was trying to help me and I ended up hitting her in the head. She's by no means a pussy so she hit me back and dragged me inside with the help of her mum. They got me into bed and I was asleep and then it happened... I was on my back and volcano vomited everywhere.
I ruined my ex-gf's mattress and her and her mum dragged me into the bathroom and put me in the bath. I was naked, vomiting and trying to hit everyone.
Not my best moment....
TL;DR: | I drank too much, became a human volcano, ended up naked in the bath in front of ex-gfs mum. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: First True Date, 19 (m).
POST: Hey guys, I've been reading up a ton around the various relationship reddits and I've decided to come for a little bit of advice. So here's a little bit of background. I'm 19 and a sophomore in college, and I haven't been with anyone yet since high school. At the beginning of this semester, my roommate told me that he knew of this girl who thought I was cute or something, and I didn't think much of it. Then this past weekend, he said he got a text from a friend saying that she wants to go on a date, so I decided to see what this girl was about through facebook. I can definitely say I'm attracted to her, but I have never met this girl before. I want things to work out because from what I can see she's the definitely the type of girl I'm attracted to more than physically.
I haven't ever been on a date outside of your typical high school dates with girlfriends that you know relatively well. I guess what I'm looking for is advice on how to go on a basically blind date, and try to have it be as successful as possible. Also what to talk about and learn on this first date to help me see if this would work between us.
Thanks a TON!
TL;DR: | Haven't been on a true "date" before, this weekend I'm lined up for a blind date... what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: Book Giveaway Contest! (2 x Remainder by Tom Mccarthy)
POST: I will be giving away two Kindle versions of the book [Remainder by Tom Mccarthy](
!
**The contest is to make the coolest desktop background featuring my username (benrules2), or my girlfriend's username (yamcat).** One book will be awarded for each category. Please try not to spend more than 15 minutes on this, as it's supposed to be a gift!
**The contest closes in 24 hours.** I'll be getting on a plane and flying around the world tonight though, so if I'm M.I.A. don't panic!
Design Tips:
yamcat: she likes nyancat, cupcakes, bright colours, old fashioned stuff (1920s), Tom Robbins, and basically everything
benrules2: I like Star Wars, graphs, pizza, explosions, and well thought out rules. My favourite book is "Bluebeard". I also like dinosaurs and motorcycles.
Feel free to ignore these suggestions as well, they are just included to give you a general idea of what we may think "cool" is.
*Why am I doing this?*
I read this book over a year ago, and I can't stop thinking about it. I would really love to hear some other peoples thoughts about it. As it appears to be a fairly unknown book, I reckon I should just give it away!
It's a bit of a mind bender so please take a look at the synopsis and some reviews to determine if it's the kind of thing you're into.
TL;DR: | If you make a cool desktop background that says "benrules2" or "yamcat" I'll give you a book |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] am unable to continue liking a girl after knowing she likes me back.
POST: For some reason, if I get the feeling that she likes me back, I get completely turned off and actually stop liking her (not as a person, just romantically).
I'm not sure if this makes me a douche or whatnot, but I've experienced this through at least 4 girls who I've liked (a LOT) at some point, one girl for more than 2 years. I could be flirting nonstop with her, but as soon as I get a small inkling that she reciprocates my feelings, I just can't look at her the same way. In fact, I've gone as far as to avoiding her just because I don't know what to do.
I hate that this happens because I felt like the most recent girl was truly amazing, but now I can't even imagine I ever felt that way. Can you guys/girls think of any ways I can fix/overcome this?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | I can't look at a girl romantically (no matter how much I liked her) if she starts to like me back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Guy I'm dating [20M] jokingly called me [19F] fat, I used to have an eating disorder.
POST: I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month, we aren't exclusive but I can definitely see us becoming so sometime in the future.
We both have the same sense of humor, and we love to playfully insult and tease each other. I have no problem with this, because we both know we're kidding. A week ago, however, I ate 3 slices of pizza and he joked, "So that's why you're fat!". I'm 130lbs and 5'8 and have been in recovery for anorexia for about half a year. I used to be under 95lbs, in and out of the hospital, but he didn't know me back then. I met him at the weight I am now. I just tried to ignore him and brush it off, but it slightly bothered me, even though I know he was kidding, but still...
Yesterday, he did it again. I think I kind of cringed, because he said, "Hey, you know I'm just messing with you, right?"
So I don't know if I should sit him down and tell him that fat jokes are too far because of my past anorexia, or wait until he does it again. I don't want to scare him away though, we haven't known each other for too long, and this isn't something I share to just anyone.
TL;DR: | Guy I'm dating called me fat as a joke, I used to have anorexia nervosa, should I tell him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] want to talk/text to my crush [17 F]
POST: !She's in my class and I immediately had a crush on her the first time I saw her. And suprisingly the first time I saw her on a party, we kissed, but afterwards she said she first wanted to get to know me better but that was like a month ago.
We're going out together this saturday. I don't live in the US and going on dates here isn't really what people our age do, it's kind of taboo i guess but well I've been asking for a couple of weeks to go to a party together and this is the first time she can. I have to say that we're not talking very much to each other on school and I want to change that so we can get to know each other properly. But how?
TL;DR: | Me and my crush are going on a 'date' this weekend but I want to talk more to her during the week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Need some help, and quick too!
POST: Hey there Advisors, I am in desperate need of some advice. My girlfriend and I have been together for 16 months or so. It's a serious relationship, yet not move-in-serious, as I'm only a year out of high school and she has another year to go (it's NZ, this is normal here). So, anyway, the GF goes away for a couple weeks every year to this beach spot with only a few houses and her and her parents are good friends with the next door neighbours at the beach house, having been seeing each other for years and years. As it happens, she had her first kiss in her family's beach house with one of the neighbour kids, who became her boyfriend after that. Long story short, 8 months later, she told him she loved him and he broke up with her. But now, 3 years later she admitted to me that as soon as she sees him some old feelings come flowing back. They kissed yesterday. She said it meant nothing and that it felt awful, but I have no idea what to think. I'm meant to be going up there in a couple hours. Should I? If so, how do I act? What do I say? She knows I'm pissed, but I'm trying to be as calm as possible about it all, but I still feel angry inside.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend kissed her ex-boyfriend yesterday, I'm meant to be going up. What do Advisors? What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, AT&T is treating me like a piece of shit and I need some advice
POST: I have U-Verse internet and cable service. I have had it about a year now, and have always been pretty happy for it. But in the past month, my internet has started cutting out pretty regularly throughout the day. I finally got a tech out on Friday (15th), and after waiting all day for him, he shows up at 8:55 PM, doesn't even come inside, but calls me and says "My computer shows everything is fine, I'll call an outside tech to check the wires."
Said outside tech shows up the next morning, knocks on my door and says "everything looks fine, internet should work" and leaves. Internet still doesn't work. The NEXT day, ANOTHER tech shows up, replaces my gateway, and it STILL doesn't work. The next day, an outside tech comes and "fixes" the outside problem.
It is now Tuesday, and I have had four techs come out, and my internet doesn't cut out anymore. It does, however, go extremely slow now. What should I do? Should I demand some sort of reimbursement from them? Should I cancel my service? How should I go about this? I have contacted Dispatch, Customer Service, reached out to their PR staff on Twitter, and they just keep giving me the work around.
TL;DR: | AT&T U-verse is fucking up. 4 techs came out. Still is fucking up. Want a refund. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by washing my face
POST: A couple days ago I was lathering up my hands with a fancy, acne-treating, $15 bar of clinique soap to wash my face after a hard day and the damn thing slipped out of my butter fingers and nothing-but-netted into the fucking toilet bowl. My roommate, a chemist, and me, a chemical engineer, decided with our best judgement to just leave it there, because "hey, it''ll it dissolve in like a couple hours or something." Now, 3 days later the toilet will barely flush (fills up and drains at snails-pace) because the pipes are still blocked with a fully sized *$15 bar of soap*.
You know what that means, no poops in this household.
Only poops at school.
Sensing this is beyond our level of expertise, we headed to home depot and try to decide on a dissolving agent based on our knowledge of chemistry. A man who worked there informed us that we should't put draino down our toilet and just told us to pull it out with our hands. So we get home and say "I've never fisted a toilet before" and try to grab it, but once again, this slippery little bastard has evaded us and it has journeyed into the depths of our pipes. Now dumping hot water down the toilet and plunging it through the pipes to try and get this thing unstuck.
TL;DR: | my friend came over and needed to use the bathroom, and i had to tell them "you can't poop". |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Advice on caring for a five-week-old kitten?
POST: Hi, guys! Not entirely sure if this is the right place to post this, but I am going to take a chance. :) We recently acquired a four-week-old kitten from an abusive home and we are a bit concerned about his behavior. We have had him for a little over a week now and he seems to be settling in okay. He is fed and watered regularly, and the difference we have seen in nine days has been extraordinary; he is a whole new kitten. He does not mewl constantly anymore, he purrs when he sleeps, and he is steadily gaining more confidence.
However, he is a very aggressive little guy. We bought toys for him and he seems to enjoy playing with them, but that doesn't stop him from constantly attacking our feet and hands. He doesn't seem to like being stroked either, and wriggles away from touch. He is scared of everything.
I'm not entirely sure how to approach this. I want him to feel happy and safe and loved in our home, but we can't let him keep scratching and biting us. Is this normal for a kitten, or a kitten from an abusive home? How do we stop him from being so aggressive? And how can we make him feel safer?
TL;DR: | Adopted a baby kitten from an abusive home, and he seems to be very aggressive. How do we stop it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(28m) just found out yesterday that my fiancé(27f) cheated on me two weeks ago and I don't know what to do.
POST: So, the title explains the situation. We have been together for 8 years and engaged for the past year. At around year 5 we broke up for a year while she finished college because it was too straining on the both of us. But when she graduated, she came to find me, told me she was still in love with me and we were honestly a stronger couple than ever.
Yesterday I found out that 2 weeks ago, while she was at a memorial service for one of her old friends, she cheated on me.
I have felt since she got back that something was wrong and I asked her multiple times. Her answers seemed cagey at best, so I found proof. I then confronted her without the proof and she continued to lie. Once I told her I knew what happened and that I had evidence of it, she told me everything.
It hurts, but I'm still in love with her, I still want to be with her, but I don't know how to trust her now. She's currently staying at her best friend's place. I told her to stay there until she can figure out if she was still in love with me and if she still wanted to be with me, but haven't told her what I want. I'm confused, hurt, angry and scared.
TL;DR: | my s/o of the past 9 years cheated on me 2 weeks ago and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] am godawful with picking up on things and the such from her [20F]
POST: *Missed it the title, but length of relationship is about 5 months*
So some back story. We both work at the same restaurant. I came home for winter break between uni semesters and she was new tp the restaurant (to me). We seem to hit it off, both watch same netflix/tv shows seem to have similar music interests. The casual work is slow talk. We occasionally text towards the end of the break.
I go back to uni. We talk for a few days and then full forces of classes set in so we lose contact.
Summer is here. I'm back at work there. And so is she. We pick it right back up. She remembers most of the conversations we had over winter. Notices I have the same water bottle and shoes. We text for a few days. Just chatter about summer and the such. I walk into work today and the first thing I hear from her is "[owner's name] says you're getting bored here and we need to find you a girlfriend." I'm not even sure what that means. I have dated a previous co-worker there. But I'm not sure what would prompt either one of them to say it.
Am I missing something here and oblivious? Or am I just over thinking it?
Was thinking of asking her to lunch (not where we work hah) or something. But not sure if that's such a good idea right now.
TL;DR: | Working with a girl. We seem to do well together. Not sure if I'm reading any of it right. Lunch? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I was scammed of several dollars on minecraftforums.net. More info inside.
POST: Almost a week ago now I was running a successful "graphics" shop on the minecraft forums. I did everything, signatures, avatars, banners. Of course it was all done on a very amateur level with picnik.com, but people loved it. Enough people to draw big crowds, and to let me direct attention to other forum subtopics to find more opportunities. Luckily sometimes a few people step up with prizes for such things.
I found myself with a particular figure who offered a small prize of cash for a good signature. I, out of curiosity, submitted a piece that I personally thought wasn't THAT good.
He accepted it as a winner, and agreed to give me the small sum. I then requested 5 or so dollars for L4D2, which was on sale.
The guy still hasn't responded.
Anyway, question is; would I be able to report him, and have any negative actions taken against his account? The guy didn't seem like the nicest, he was often quick with his messages, and promised an amount of money.
TL;DR: | I made a guy a signature, he didn't pay up money he promised. Anything I can do to fuck him over? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [23/f] My Boyfriend [35/m] is still on okcupid...
POST: I met my current boyfriend on Okcupid a little over 3 months ago and it wasn't until recently we became official. The past week or so i've just had an off feeling about everything and out of pure curiosity I google his Okcupid username to see if he would come up (i deactivated mine not long after we had initially met so this was the only way to check) and not only did it come up but it said he was active about 4 days ago....i brought up the fact that i'm getting a weird feeling and he assures me that everything is alright, how on earth do i bring this up or should i in the first place?
TL;DR: | met my BF on okcupid, his account is still pretty active and i dont know how to bring it up to him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [23F] with my [22 M] SO of two years wont introduce me to his friends. What does this mean?
POST: For the most part, myself and my SO have a great relationship, but he just wont introduce me to his friends.
This was okay at the start of the relationship. I just figured he was waiting to see if we'd last long enough to be worth introducing to his friends. (However I introduced him to mine)
Two years on and I still haven't met any of his friends. In my eyes thats weird. Everytime I suggest meeting with him he laughs and agrees. When we make plans to hang out with his friends he usually cancels them the day before.
Is this normal behaviour /r/relationships? Am I getting upset about nothing? Is he ashamed of me?
TL;DR: | [23F] with my [22 M] SO of two years wont introduce me to his friends. Any musings on why? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Sanity Check - Is it normal to be extremely attracted to other women while in a committed, long-term relationship?
POST: I'll keep this as brief as possible but please feel free to ask questions if you need more information.
29M here and I'm in a relationship with a 31F. We have been together for 5 years and love each other. By "love" I mean that I've positive answers to many questions such as "would I want her to be the mother of my children", "would I do anything in the world for her", or "do I want her happiness even more than I want my own".
My question, as paraphrased in the title, is simply this: is it normal/okay to be extremely attracted to other women that you might work with or see while being in a committed relationship?
I would not cheat, nor have I ever, but I can't help feeling strong attraction to lots of girls on a regular basis whether it's someone I know at the office or some random girl out in public. Is this normal or is this a tell-tale sign that something is awry with my relationship? I can say that our sex life is almost non-existent at present due to our extremely busy schedules, her anxiety, my depression and I'm sure other factors, and I'm sure that plays at least a small part, but should I be feeling such strong attraction to other women if I truly am in love with partner?
Thanks so much in advance!
TL;DR: | Love my gf but sex life is non-existent. Extremely attracted to other women. Is this normal? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (18f) miscarried his (19m) baby, should he know?
POST: I'm 18, I was with a guy, 19, for a few months a little over a year ago, we broke up but kept sleeping together, then he ended things to the point that I had no way of contacting him.
10ish weeks after the last time we hooked up, I had a heavy period that lasted more than a week, went to the doctor, it was a miscarriage, had no way of telling him, grieved on my own.
A couple months ago, he started talking to me and I've been wondering if I should tell him.
I'm unsure how people handle miscarriages, but its almost the anniversary of it and I'm feeling vulnerable about it.
Would you want to know if you were him?
TL;DR: | miscarried, couldn't contact him, he talks to me now, how would you feel? Would you want to know |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Hi Reddit, I'm in a very happy relationship of 10 months, however, when i get drunk i actively flirt etc with other girls. I've kept it from GF so far. Should i tell her? How can i stop?
POST: I'm at Uni at the moment and have an excellent GF (we are both 21y/o) who i care for deeply, more than any girl i have ever had before. This is probably my first ever genuinely serious relationship. However, i routinely get drunk without her, at least twice a week i go on AU socials with my rugby team and in the mix of the drinking and everything (girls do swan to the rugby team) i cannot help myself. PLEASE BE QUITE SURE, SOBER I WOULD NEVER DO THIS, just when i'm drunk. I've not actually slept with any of them yet, but have come pretty close, often i am egged on by my friends, who know i have a GF which is a problem. I have spoken to them about this, but when drunk, no one cares. I'm not going to stop playing rugby or seeing these boys, as they're a huge part of my life, nor am i particularly able to limit my drinking, anyone familiar with the politics of uni rugby teams will understand why.
What's the best course of action? Tell my GF? Because sooner or later, pictures of me being a prat will appear on Facebook i'm sure. Help Reddit!
TL;DR: | i get drunk and flirt with, kiss etc girls despite the fact i have a GF, one i care for deeply. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Boyfriend using "mental illness" as excuse.
POST: Background information- I've been seeing this guy for about 2 years now, and I feel like we fight a lot (maybe every few weeks or so.) These aren't big fights, and they aren't over anything big. Usually, he gets insecure and then kind of takes it out on me.
He then says things like "you should just go find someone better" or "there's something wrong with me," which forces me to be the one to subdue his problems, when he's the one that first created them.
He used this "mental illness" as an excuse for his actions, which I don't think is fair. I know mental illnesses are a serious problem, but he has never been diagnosed, so I am really skeptical. I've had friends with depression and bi-polar disorder, so I know how hard it is, but he's never been tested. I've been telling him for a few months to go see a professional, but he has yet to do so.
I just don't know what to do, and I'm at my wits end. I love him a lot, but I'm just so tired of dealing with this. Any help is appreciated!
TL;DR: | SO uses mental illness (undiagnosed) as excuse for actions, and I don't feel like that's fair. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my GF [30F] - She wants to be with me but is still hurt/loves her ex of 3 years that cheated on her.
POST: My GF and I have been dating for close to 2 months. We get along great and have an amazing time together. This is her first relationship in 8 months. She was with another guy for 3 years and discovered towards the end of the relationship that he was cheating on her a lot.
Last night we were going to sleep and she told me that she was sad. I asked why and she explained that she still misses and loves her ex. Although she would never go back to him, she said she gets sad when certain things remind her of him. She said that she loves me and wants a future with me, but she doesn't know how long it will take to get over her ex. This really upset me and not knowing how to react, I asked her to go sleep at her place. We have not spoken at all today.
My question is what would you all do in a similar situation? Should I accept the fact that getting over heartbreak takes time and work at it? Or should I cut my losses while its still early to save myself from heartache down the road?
TL;DR: | GF said she is still in love with her ex but will never go back to him and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (21M) accidentally indirectly called my girlfriend (19F) of almost 2 years fat
POST: Hi all, long time lurker here. So to get to the point, I was on skype with my girlfriend (we're in a ldr) and she said she was getting KFC. I then asked her when she was going to fix her diet (I know, its very harsh and I blurted it by accident). She then suddenly became extremely angry at me and hung up and is now being very passive aggressive towards me. To make this clear, I think we're both pretty healthy in terms of weight because I'm 66kg, 5'9 and been going to the gym. Shes 5'5 and 67 but doesn't work out (she told me her weight once but shes never told me again so i'm not sure if that's accurate? ) but if she is 67, she is in the healthy range of the BMI. One of the reasons why I blurted it out was because she was always saying how she was going to improve her diet and eat healthy. So reddit, how do I resolve this problem? It really feels like I've damaged the R/s in a severe way. Shes not even replying to my texts now. I know its my fault. Also to keep in mind, I don't mind her weight and am not asking her to do anything to change how she is right now, unless she wants to of course
TL;DR: | fucked up and indirectly called my girlfriend fat. What do I do? Feels like i've damaged the r/s |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's your craziest "I got drunk" story?
POST: Mine is Freshman year of High School, I went to a New Year's party and, naturally, it was crazy. Girls hooking up with girls, bedrooms being used for sex, lots of alcohol; the list goes on. I am not the coolest kid in my grade, so it was the first party I had been to. Essentially what I'm trying to say is that I was a lightweight whereas most other kids were fairly heavyweight (for a Freshman). I got wasted after like, a beer and two shots. According to my friends, I tried to hook up with a girl from out of town, got pushed away, and the quick movement made me nauseous. I almost threw up, and ended up passing out for a few minutes on the floor. When I woke up, I was still drunk, but could at least remember and think straight. I walked away, shook it off, and attempted to enjoy my night, despite being incredibly embarrassed.
Luckily, I didn't get harassed about it because most of the kids in my grade thought it was the ballsiest thing they'd ever seen.
TL;DR: | I got drunk, played my luck with a girl from out-of-town, passed out, and was worshipped for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[20M], my [19F] gf has a guy friend staying over
POST: Hi,
So my current gf is having her guy friend stay over who she previously had a sexual incident with. About 10 months ago she got really drunk and made out with two guys and one of them is this guy who is one of her best friends. She almost went down on him but he stopped her at the time. So we go to college and he needs somewhere to stay before he moves in the next weekend and she offered her place (before we started dating) on her futon in her single person dorm room. Now honestly the image of her almost going down on two dudes disgusts me( I am finally getting over it cause she was drunk and almost convinced to do it in a bad situation kinda deal) but to make it worse this guy is like one of her best friends who I am going to have to deal with seeing. Im kinda the jealous type and its already irritating me that he is staying over. I have expressed this jealousy and she just keeps saying that he "doesn't like her like that" etc. So I don't know how to handle it. I have tried accepting it and moving on but I just can't completely get passed the idea that he probably still wants her. I do trust her but I see him as a rival even if she does not. Help...
TL;DR: | Gf has a good guy friend who she made out with before and he's staying at her place for 2 days.... |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Depressed and falling off the wagon...
POST: In my last post I said I'd just broken up with someone who was really bad for me, that I'm turning my life around, etc. All of this is still true, but the stress of all the changes I've been going through have really put me through the ringer.
I've been suffering from really horrible anxiety attacks because today I had to go back to my crazy ex's house and get the rest of my stuff. He's bipolar and unmedicated, so for months I was living with the fact that I never knew if he was going to be in a good mood or just rip me apart when I got home. I also started a really stressful job in which any mistake I make could cost someone their life or at least end them in the hospital, so it hasn't been easy to stay focused.
I have been doing so well, loving my workouts, diet, everything, until this week. I have been so anxious I haven't been sleeping well, which leaves me exhausted, so I half ass my workouts and have been cheating on my diet (with beer and wine, mostly). My goal is to workout 6 days a week, but so far I've only worked out maybe 3.
I'm so anxious and depressed, waiting for things to calm down, but feel bad and guilty that I'm not keeping up with things as I should. I'm so frustrated, because everything was going so well.
TL;DR: | I'm so tired, depressed, and anxious, that I'm finding it to be more difficult to stay on track. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21 F] finally wants to have sex with Me [21 M], but I don't feel I am ready
POST: We have been dating for over 6 months, both going to the same college and it seems to be going great. We have been best friends since freshman year and now dating as seniors. When it was at around 3 months I told her that I loved her and she said it back but I told her that I didn't want her to say it just because I told her and she said ok. I haven't been pressuring her into telling me, She is also a virgin and didn't want to have sex with me and i haven't been pressuring her with that either.
We recently went to formal together, and we had been messing around by the end of the night and she tells me shes was ready to have sex. But I didn't want to cause she hasn't told me she loves me back yet. So I told her that we didn't have any protection. Believe me I want to, I just wasn't comfortable doing it with without her telling me she loved me. I know she cares about me a lot, but she doesn't really say how she feels cause she but she does show it in other ways. I just want to hear her say it.
I want to ask her if she loves me, but that not right. I just don't know what to do
TL;DR: | I want to have sex with gf, but she hasn't told me she loved me. How to go about this |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] have no idea how to make friends.
POST: I'll keep this short.
I'm 24, and I have one friend. Yes one. I haven't seen him in 3.5 years. We text and talk on the phone occasionally.
I have my SO, he is wonderful. He has "work friends" and refuses to invite me along to hang out with them because it'd be "weird."
I'm cool. I don't drink, so I don't go to bars. I smoke a lot of weed. I'm really laid back, I swear like a sailor, and I like inappropriate jokes.
I do not like hanging out with females, period. I really only like hanging out with guys. I've only ever had one female friend, and she is cool and all, but I haven't seen her in years, and I'm really okay with that. How the heck do I make male friends without being weird?
I have some social anxiety, and I don't like big groups. I wouldn't like one of those "Meetup.com" groups, because it's typically a whole lot of people, and how the fuck do you make friends in one big group of people? Totally not my scene.
My hobbies: dog sports. I'm a certified dog trainer, and I do Competition Obedience, and Canine Nosework with my dog. My classmates are all much older than me (like 30 years my senior). I like to paint, and draw. I love playing video games, specifically PC FPS's.
So, what can I do here?
TL;DR: | One friend who I haven't seen in 3.5 years. How do I make male friends without it being weird? HOW? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18 M] discovered that my girlfriend[17F] had cheated on me with my friend. I feel like I love her still, but need to be told that I shouldn't try to be with her again.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. At my high school graduation party and this passing weekend, she made out with a friend of mine. Ever since about a month ago, her and I have been growing apart anyway. And today we decided to end our relationship. But before we could make it official, my friend told me she cheated on me.
It took me nearly 3 hours to get it out of both her and the person she made out with to tell me the truth. I was absolutely devastated as I previously thought something fishy was going on.
I need to be told that this is over. That me going back with her is a horrible idea that will only bring pain. I want to be friends with her because she's very important to me as we lost our v-cards to one another and she's an all around good person.
I know that getting back together with her would be a horrible decision, but I need to hear if from someone other than my own thoughts.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend cheated on me, need a pick-me-up and to be told that it's not worth it to continue. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Is my best friend (21 F) interested in me (21 M)?
POST: Hello ladies :) , I would love your input on this.
Let's call her M. I feel as if M always finds an excuse to touch me, or have me touch her ( non-sexual), or for us to be near each other. Not that theres anything wrong with that, just something I've noticed. I will list instances:
1: She would make me touch her forehead and cheeks To determine if she is sick or not. (Also feeling for lymph nodes located underneath the jaw)
2: When we converse she either lays her hand on my knee, or she lightly taps on my hand while she's talking to me.
3: When there's an event at our school, she usually requests that I pick her up from her home ( I don't have a car by the way ). The first time this happened was when we were going to a party together. Me, her and a bunch of friends are going to Miami soon, so she requested I do this again ( pick her up from her home so we can go to the airport).
4: I was playing with one of her rings, when she asked for it back she stated "put it on my finger" ( felt kinda weird because that was her ring finger and I felt like I was marrying her lol)
Hope you don't think I'm weird ladies and gents, I'm just extremely observant; can't help it.
TL;DR: | I think my best friend (21 F) is interested in me (20M). What do you think? Am I misinterpreting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm[24M] with my GF[28F] of 6 months, Saw her ex walking her home from work, while I was coming home from work.
POST: I got over it very quickly. It was a very nice feeling.
If that was a couple months back, I'd have a hard time driving. She's really assured me that she isn't a fiction with her life. I'm becoming a good and solid pillar in her life.
**But.** That *motherfuckin'* prick. I wouldn't do a 30 minute walk home with someone else' girlfriend. Thank fuck I can contain myself, and that my dad was in the truck with me atm. Holy fuck what a shit head.
She's mousy and quiet and wouldn't know how to avoid him(She wouldn't any ways, what's a walk?) I can't even dwell on it because she'll laugh it off(her mom thought he was one of her gay friends)
He wanted to marry her, she wasn't up for that.
My question. I know she saw me, do I ask casually if that was who I'm 95% sure it was? Can I ask her to wean contact from him?
I ask because he basically waited for her shift to be over to have a leisurely stroll with her.
TL;DR: | How does one (continue to) deal with a still in contact ex(of your SO's) that once proposed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Stolen BMW in Birmingham
POST: Dear redditors, I know this is a bit of a long shot but last night at approximately 4 o clock in the morning (Sunday 7th October 04:00), our BMW was stolen from outside our house. It is a BMW 530 diesel m-sport. It is black and the number plate is YL07 VPK. It was stolen from the B10 area in Birmingham, England. If anyone sees it, please let me know immediately at my email: [email protected] Any information would be helpful. I cannot really offer a reward, but Im hoping you will report anything you see. A picture of he car is in a link above.
TL;DR: | Stolen BMW 530D YL07 VPK from B10, Birmingham, contact [email protected] |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: The ex [30M] emails me [30F] -- testing the waters, or am I reading too much into it?
POST: He broke off the relationship a year ago. It was unexpected, and painful for both of us, but not ugly (no cheating, violence, etc). Since then, he's made sporadic contact, but less and less. Recently, he sent me a slightly(?) drunk email basically thanking me for the relationship. I'm trying to decide if this is exactly what it appears to be, or if he's testing the water to see how I respond.
On one hand, he's a very straightforward guy who doesn't play games, and he's a real lone-wolf sort, without many friends or close relationships, so he does get lonely. Plus, the break-up was more because he didn't want to be in a relationship at all, rather than he just didn't want to be in a relationship with me.
On the other hand, he's the one who's contacting me. If he wanted to keep that door shut, then why is he re-opening it? It's been a year, he's unlikely to have had a new girlfriend since then, and he's probably lonely and horny.
I know that no one here is a mindreader, but I'm hoping that other people with no involvement in the situation can give me some objective perspectives.
TL;DR: | Ex of a year contacts me. Is a letter just a letter, or might it be a precursor to something more? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [22M] Should I even try to get a relationship in college?
POST: Back in my hometown, from middle school all the way through to the community college I went to for two and a half years, my experiences with the opposite sex had been almost entirely negative. I'm still a virgin because at some point with every girl I ever liked, something went wrong.
Now I'm finally in a new environment, and I almost immediately hit it off with an attractive girl who seemed just as interested in me as I was in her. The problem? She was busy. Three times we scheduled a date she said she'd be free for. Three times she ended up not being able to go last minute. I've given up on her.
As I look around me, I see everyone else randomly hooking up in lieu of actual relationships. To put it lightly: that's not for me. But It seems like people are that way because they don't have time. I'm seeing two types of girls: those who are putting off everything with men until after college, and those who just want hookups.
There are guys I know who have girlfriends, but I have no idea how they got them. I feel like I'm facing an insurmountable wall. How do I have an actual relationship with a college girl?
TL;DR: | I'm in college and I want an actual relationship. Not a hookup. Prospects are dim. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU bY breaking my viola right after I got it fixed
POST: So here's the story: A few weeks ago the bridge on my viola broke, so we had to send it to the shop. Now, I'm in high school orchestra, so I had to play another one.
Fast forward 3 weeks, and my fresh new viola is done and it sounds beautiful. I take it to school, and give the temp one to my friend Pablo(fake name)
But little did I know that I would soon break my viola.
I put it on a chair, and closed it. But I forgot to latch the case.
Then I went to the restroom.
And when I came back, I forgot I did not latch my case.
So, there I was, grabbing the handle of the case, and watching my viola tumble to the ground.
Now, I have to wait a whole nother month for the store to fix my viola scroll. The only thing, is I don't have a replacement this time.
TL;DR: | I broke my viola after it being in the shop for 3 weeks, now I have to wait a whole another month |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22M] gf [22F] of 4 years is about to move away for college. I want her to go because it will be amazing for her, but I want to break up.
POST: We have been together for a long time, I really love this girl and she is planning to move away for school to do her Doctorate at one of the top schools in the country. I am honestly so so proud of her and so happy that she is going to do what she loves.
I encouraged her to apply and helped her prepare for interviews and honestly she has done so well. The thought of hurting her really is killing me but I really don't think I can deal with the distance at all, I have spoken to her about it and she just says that we will make it work but won't talk about it in depth even if I push her too.
Personally my life is a bit of a mess right now, first job out of college and more family drama than reality tv. Adding the stress of a long distance relationship feels like it would be too much.
How can I deal with it? Should I break up with her before she goes or try and make it work?
TL;DR: | gf is moving away for school and I don't know what to do. How do I deal with the situation? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm [24f] and he's [34m] controlling, manipulative... and I think I need to end it. I'm just not sure how.
POST: We've been together for a year and a half with a small break in the early part of it...
Since we've been together I feel like he's been controlling and manipulative. For example, he doesn't give me compliments, but will tell me when I need to do something different. For example, we were eating boneless chicken wings and he yelled at me when I wasn't cutting them up and using a fork to eat them. When I wear short dresses he says they look whorish, and that I should wear jeans and plain shirts. When I am in public I'm not allowed to say anything about us (which I can kind of understand, but I can't say anything... like at all... not even that he left me a sweet love note). And the list goes on and on. Basically I have terribly low self esteem and being with him I have become more unhappy with myself.
I've wanted to break up with him for some time, but we've been throw a lot together. I ended things after the first couple of months and slept with two other people (one of whom was his friend). And he took me back. In addition, I have a child and they have bonded over the past several months. He's slowly started moving in, but is not helping with any bills or paying for food (other than for himself). I've tried to talk to him and I just scared and forget everything I want to say. Please help me.
TL;DR: | I love my long term boyfriend, but I think I need to end it and I need help (verbally abusive). |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I hate living with what ifs in my life
POST: I hate living with what ifs in my life so I really try to live it as best I can. But there is this girl. My God she is some girl. I can't stop thinking about her and it's annoying because she goes to my school and I pretty much talk to her everyday.
Here comes the what if moment
I had a dream about 30 minutes ago of both of us lying in a field, looking up at the clouds while her head rested on my chest. For some strange reason my hand landed on her boob :3 and I said "sorry sorry sorry" and it was awkward as fuck.
Then for some fucked up reason the dream restarted itself but this time instead of panicking I told her I liked her and then we made out.
After that kiss she walked away and I didn't speak to her till the next day.
She came to my house 5 hours before i left for a European trip and said we can have sex right now or we can get into a relationship. At that point I realised that sex and a relationship would be impossible because 1) I leave for the airport in 5 hours 2) I would be gone for 3 months. Then boom my mom bursts into my room you'll be late!
So Reddit this is the biggest what if in my life currently, should I ask her out or leave it.
TL;DR: | I like a girl that i can't like because she is in my school but i am having a what-if moment |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [32 M] deep trust issues, how do I get over them?
POST: I was married for 8 years, we divorced finally after I walked in on her cheating on me with a high school student (she was a highschool music teacher).
After I finally got over her and started to get back into the dating pool... at 30, the first girl that told me she had real feelings for me was fucking 5 other guys. (BTW, don't date in Arkansas those girls are fucked up. )
Now I can't trust anyone. I probably just ended a relationship that had real potential because I just couldn't get myself to trust what she was saying. There always seemed to be inconsistency with her stories.
Granted, I am deployed and suffering from a good bit of stress and fatigue, still I ultimately did it because I just can't get myself to trust again. Help! What do I do to get over this???
TL;DR: | Cheated on by ex-wife and the first girl i dated after the divorce, now i can't trust anyone! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25F] bf [28 M] of 4 years has sent messages to girls on nsfw subs telling them he thinks they're stunning/hot and that he can't wait to fap to their pictures.
POST: pretty much all in the title. The most recent message was 2 years ago. He only did it a few times, but it still bothers me. He even told one girl his name ("my name is ---- by the way"). They never go further than compliments and simple questions, but in each case the girl was the one to stop messaging back so who knows what could've been said eventually.
I'm so sure he would NEVER cheat on me or anything. And I don't care if he looks at porn on reddit or wherever, it just bugs me that he PM'd them. It's a form of contact/interaction, and it turns a picture or video on the screen into a person.
We own a house together, and there's no question in my mind that we'll get married and he'll be a wonderful life partner. I just need help/advice on getting rid of this icky feeling I have.
I should/will probably bring it up with him, I just need some time to sort my thoughts and wouldn't mind a little feedback from an outside party.
TL;DR: | bf PM'd a couple girls on NSFW subs. It bugs me, but I'm not sure if it should. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: The purpose of Omegle? NSFW possibly...
POST: I get that the short answer to this is "to chat". However, I gave it a try yesterday and found it interesting and uninteresting all at the same time. More often than not, I am presented with the "asl" question and to no surprise the "32 m" response results in quite a few disconnects. One alleged 16yr old girl mentioned "dirty talk" and one mentioned doing some video thing. So I started asking "what do you use this for?" as my first line and one honest guy (who said he was 31) said to talk to teenage girls and to masturbate with them, which is not only illegal but fucked up. He said "it's really hot when it's their first time", to which I replied, "do you really believe it's their first time?".
I know I sound like a Luddite, but I'm actually well versed in technology and I know that 32 isn't the youngest and some things aren't going to make sense, but I just can't wrap my head around this, partially since we see on TV of these guys getting busted for inappropriate behavior with kids, and yet they're own here doing without being the slightest bit discrete.
TL;DR: | I'm old. Omegle is fucked up. Why do people use it? Get off my lawn. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by almost breaking my foot playing Overwatch
POST: I was having a rough day on Overwatch competitive when the saltiness got to me, I began to punch my fists pretty hard. My desk then proceeded to take the beatings then I calmed down a bit. A little later the same scenario occurred so I hit the desk a little harder (bad idea), the desk then collapsed onto my foot (bearing in mind my desk had 2 monitors, my pc and all my peripherals on it). In agony I yelled, freaking out all players in my game. I genuinely thought I was going to have to go to hospital. Oh and I broke my PC (as expected).
Note to self; dont punch harder.
TL;DR: | I got very salty broke my desk, it collapsed onto my foot and cost about £3,000 in hardware damage. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my gf [22 F] , of 5 months, gf doesnt think we can keep the relationship because of her summer job.
POST: Me and my gf have been going strong for 5 fantastic months after 6 monts of being close friends. The issue is that she needs money to help her parents and she signed up to a job before me and her got together than requires her to work 10 hours a day so I probably will see her once a week at best for the next 4-5 months.
Generally our relationship is good but she doesnt know how to properly show affection unless its in a very intimate setting.
With this job coming around, I've been trying to see her as much as I can but she says she doesnt know if she can fulfill her duties as a girlfriend for during these months and is really upset that it might end our relationship.
We both love eachother very much but apparently theres almost no way she will quit her job for reasons that make no sense to me. Is it unreasonable that I asked her to change this minimum wage job to something else? What can I do to deal with this situation as I really do not want to end this relationship?
TL;DR: | gf has a job that means I will rarely see/talk to her for 5 months and she wont change it. what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Just walked 40 minutes from a "screw" buddies house
POST: Yea, I need a bit of rant.
Just walked home at 1am from someone who I was trying to create something with who looked at me and said we were just fucking.
She then texts me on the walk home saying how she faked everything between us, which is just funny. Seeing as...I could never finish with her because shes so...loose. I never told her this, and never honestly will. Every fight she called me the child but I rarely insulted her.
Oh and she punched me in the face so I pushed her out of the bed, got up and dressed then walked home. It's cool, my sister has already said if she touches me that's the end of it for her.
TL;DR: | I don't just fuck woman, I try for something more, but half the time they're just whores anyway. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I Won An Epic Slap-Bet. When/Where/HOW should I go about it?
POST: Hello you beautiful *insert stricken word: trolls* people!
This is my first reddit post.
I have a best friend from childhood that always seems to bear the brunt of what-the-fuck-happened with me.
We shall call him B.
With that in mind, one night in drunken exhilaration B challenged me to an epic slap-bet. I won 3 Slaps through beer pong that night.
Since then he challenges me every chance he gets wanting an opportunity to win some back or win some of his own.
So far today's count is at 5.
I told him that I had reserved a couple slaps for the near future, and I have listed them below.
1. Wedding Toast *as his bestman
2. First Baby *in regards to the sex of the baby, B will be spanked or slapped
3. His Death Bed *while seemingly insensitive, we figured it was the manliest way to go out as bros
4. ?
5. ?
Any suggestions?
TL;DR: | Continuously winning slap-bets, saved slaps for crucial moments, need ideas for every-day slappage. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: How bad is my company screwing me on fuel reimbursement?
POST: The company policy is not the same as the IRS standard of 55.5 cents/mile. Instead, they require you drive the first 30 minutes and the last 30 minutes on your own dime and they reimburse you $4 for every 15 minutes you drive. In addition, you have to pay for this yourself and it gets reimbursed on your paycheck (bimonthly). After I pay bills, it becomes very difficult to take a 1,000 mile trip.
First of all, I drive a 2008 F150 that gets 13/17 mpg. Yes, I know this is a terrible vehicle to have if your job consists of a lot of travel but it was given to me as a graduation present and beggars can't be choosers. My job demands a ridiculous amount of travel. Sometimes I get lucky and only have to drive around my city but more so than not, I'm traveling all over the Midwest. For example, I have driven 6 hours and well over 200 miles today. That's $80 in reimbursement.
Isn't travel reimbursement supposed to cover maintenance, fuel, insurance, taxes, repairs and registration fees? What can I do other than buy a more fuel efficient vehicle or switching jobs?
TL;DR: | first hour on me then $4 every 15 min. I get 13/17 mpg. What can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Having problems with the ex..
POST: Okay so Louis (the girl I'm talking to, she's 17. btw you pronounce it like Stewie's mom) and I (male, 16) talked for around a week and a half. Everything was going great, superb! Until, her ex comes along. We'll call him Satan (17, male).
Satan and Louis dated for a while and broke up not long ago. Louis was pretty crushed because Satan cheated and lied to her through the whole duration of the relationship. They were done, as far as I knew. Satan decided that he wasn't done with Loius, so he proceeds to do absolutely ***everything*** he can to split Louis and I up. He told her lies about me, told her bad things from my past, and etc etc etc.
Louis and I stopped talking because Louis decided she still had feelings for Satan. Three days later, she decides to come to me saying how she misses me and likes me and such. I told her I missed her and then I did something I probably shouldn't have. I kissed her. Not on the lips, on the cheek. A kiss, nonetheless. Well, she doesn't know whether she wants me, or Satan. She realizes that Satan is horrible for her, but he was her first love and he will always have a special place in her heart. Unfortunately that special place is a little to big, and its interfering with her and I's relationship.
Reddit, what should she do? What should I do? What should *we* do?
TL;DR: | The girl I'm *talking* to's ex has come in the picture and is messing everything up, what do? |
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