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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm 33F. Bummed that my grandpa (M, 80s) doesn't reciprocate cards/letters/etc.
POST: My grandfather lives 2,000 miles away in my hometown. He's in his 80s and while not in perfect health, he gets around fairly well and has a sharp mind. I haven't been terribly close with him but was much closer to my grandma (his wife) until she died about 8 years ago.
Grandma was always the person to acknowledge holidays, birthdays, etc, and after she died, my grandpa doesn't make the slightest effort to acknowledge that sort of thing to anyone in the family, including me.
I know I'm an adult, and I shouldn't care, but when my mom suggests that I should call/write/email him more, it's frustrating. I'd like to feel like it's reciprocal. He says that he loves me when we see each other, but the distance prevents that from happening a whole lot.
I thought other people might have experienced the same sort of thing - the grandma (typically the holiday/letter/gift person) dies and the grandpa doesn't pick up the tradition. I miss feeling like I had a connection there, and maybe it's just my grandma that I still miss.
I guess I'll keep up the usual - sending cards/etc on holidays, birthdays/etc and hoping he likes them. But man, even a "thank you" would be nice, right? Otherwise it feels like it all goes into the abyss.
TL;DR: | Since my grandma's death, my grandpa is sort of a curmudgeon. Should I just let it go? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20F] with my friend [27 M] of a few months, I don't understand our interactions.
POST: I have a friend I sit next to 3 times a week in grad school. He's a nice, funny guy. I might have a little bit of a crush on him, but I figured that the romantic attraction is not returned, so I'm satisfied with being friends. However, he's acting funny and I thought someone might be able to shed some light on why.
We're friends on Facebook. We message a lot - sometimes about assignments, sometimes gossiping. We talked a little bit about his ex-girlfriend. He mentioned a bunch of girls in the class he was interested in. He calls me "dude" and "bro", so I figured that I'm like one of the guys and we're closer friends! We even talked a little about the kind of guys (me) and girls (him) that we're interested in, and I really thought we were developing more of a friend relationship.
Recently he won't talk to me in person. He talks much easier to his guy friends and rarely looks me in the face. He's very silent and stoic in person, not making any jokes. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Am I just a disappointment in real life compared to online?
TL;DR: | I have a guy friend who I interact great with online, but he clams up in person. What's going on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: 5'6" 160+ ready to be a smaller lady, but I have a problem...
POST: I'm on chemotherapy and the only thing I'm shedding is hair.
Last month I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Exercise is a necessity for me but I'm very limited right now.
Before my diagnosis I was around 150 lbs and ate everything you shouldn't if you want to be a good weight, now I'm on a pretty high dose of prednisone which increases apatite. I don't snack at all but at meals I noticed I'll take more and clean my plate more often. Its really added up.
Last time I weighed in I was approaching 160 and I've added on a few more pounds. I'm almost ashamed of my weight, have borderline anxiety attacks when I get into a bathing suit even though swimming is probably the healthiest exercise for me right now.
Is there anyone in my boat or who was in my boat that has some tips they want to share? Anything I should most definitely cut out of my diet? I've already done away with soda and only drink water and orange juice. Fried and fast food are out of my diet as well.
Anyone have any exercises that are easy on the body?
TL;DR: | I have rheumatoid arthritis and one of my meds assisted in a very uncomfortable weight gain. Halp! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28/f] ended a 9 month, seemingly perfect relationship because I wasn't loved by him [27/m] in return.
POST: I feel like I've made a mistake. As much as it pains me knowing that I'm the only one to have feelings, all I want to do is cry in his shoulder and mumble about how much it hurts. Maybe he could have loved me back one day? Or maybe he was just too nice of a person to break it off when he realized he didn't have the same feelings. I don't want to hold him back from finding someone who he can love, but I can't shake this feeling that I reacted too hastily. That when I asked him how he felt, I should have been better equipped emotionally to handle the hard truth. I just fell so hard and believed that he was falling with me. He even feels as though something is wrong with him for not feeling the way I do, but maybe it's just me.
I can't lie, I want him back, but I don't want to prolong my own distress nor do I want to prevent him from moving on and finding someone to love as I love him. This hurts, so much.
TL;DR: | I'm hurt by my ex's inability to love me back, but I still want to be with him wholeheartedly. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] have no way to escape from my abusive mother. Considering suicide.
POST: My mother has always been abusive, in every meaning of the word, and as a result I have severe depression and anxiety. I can't move out because I don't have enough money. I have a job but I don't make enough to be able to support myself. I am also in university but have taken a semester off to focus on my mental health but it has been getting worse if anything. I have no where to go, not a single friend, no other family members that would take me in. I tried to get financial aid but I am not eligible. Are there any other options? I feel like I am trapped. I wish I was dead every day.
TL;DR: | My mother is abusive and I have no way to get away from her and I don't know what to do anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] with my gf [18F] of a year, how to look past a physical flaw?
POST: I have been dating my girlfriend for a year, and she is the love of my life. We're each others first relationship and she is honestly my best friend. I truly want to get married to her in the future after i finish college and get a job. She's smart, beautiful, sassy, the whole package, and i am extremely attracted to her.
But, as the title says, there is a physical flaw that just throws me off sometimes. I have really bad anxiety, and i overthink a lot of things. I also get racing thoughts (uncontrollable thoughts) and i just overthink from there. And its even embarrassing that i am writing her physical flaw out, because i hate mentioning it and it seems silly. She has a fairly large forehead, with a naturally receded hairline. So it looks pretty big when she ties it back. It is also one of her insecurities, and i don't point it out because i only want her to feel the best. I hate how i overthink it sometimes, and i want to find a way to get past it.
This is not a post to find a way to change a thing about her, she's honestly perfect in every way shape and form. I want a change in myself to look past it because i realize that I'm kind of stupid for overthinking it. How do i look past it? And what is the best way to calm down while i am overthinking?
TL;DR: | Gf has a fairly large forehead, and i want to find a way to look past it and stop overthinking it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going to Whole Foods
POST: This happened today.
So if you're unfamiliar with Whole Foods, they have a 'cafe' area where you can eat food you've bought from their hot and cold food bars. This is what my sister and I decided on doing for dinner after picking up a couple of groceries.
As we were finishing up eating, I spotted my boss walking in with his wife and in a panic about what to do I decided that the best idea was to run away. I quickly packed up the last bite of mac & cheese, quickly moved down the bench of the long table we were seated at, and made a bee line for the door opposite of my boss. Almost free of the table, I go to stand up. My left foot makes it out and plants firmly on the ground, however my right foot gets stopped by the gargantuan table leg and sends me tumbling down the opening to the cafe and towards an old man just trying to enjoy his coffee and cookies. Everyone at the checkout saw the whole ordeal and I could see the old man trying to help me, but I shot up and practically ran to the door shouting back that I was fine. My knee has a noice looking bruise now, but I made it out with that last bite of mac & cheese.
TL;DR: | Fucked up my knee while running from my boss, but made it out with the last bite of mac & cheese. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [15&15] I have Lyme disease, and my girlfriend wants me to get out more and do things with her, but every time I do something, it wipes me out for 4+ days.
POST: she says watching movies with me is getting a little boring, and wants to do fun and exciting things with me such as hanging out with friends, county fair, "getting kicked out of walmart". before i got sick, I was always the fun one with everything. I would do any dare and my social life was hectic, but after I got sick, I've been in too much pain to do things, and my immune system is down so I get sick everytime i go out. I really want to make her happy but is she being unreasonable? am I? We've been dating a year and she has been fairly supportive of my illness. any and all help would be great! Thank you
TL;DR: | I'm sick, girlfriend wants me to go out and I'd things with her, but that makes me more sick. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: It stings when I urinate after drinking?
POST: Hey docs. Firstly, I am a 19 year old male. Have had sexual experiences, but nothing involving penetration of any sort. So basically, back in August of 2014, I started an Accutane treatment that lasted until February of 2015. Accutane essentially dries out your pores and the rest of your body so that acne has trouble forming, and once you're off the medication it essentially ceases to form.
Anyways, I've been off of it for about 8 months now. My face is as clear as ever, but I do have an issue with consuming alcohol. Any time that I drink, whether it be just a beer/a shot/a glass of wine, I get an incredibly uncomfortable burning sensation whenever I have to urinate. It's so incredibly painful that even if I'm at a friend's house, I have to jump in the shower in order to enable myself to urinate quicker. I consider myself to be a relatively hydrated individual, averaging about 7-8 or so full glasses of water per day(sometimes more if I go to the gym). If I don't drink alcohol, then I urinate as normal and feel no stinging sensations. But if I do, I have to drink almost 2 full glasses of water before drinking a beer just to avoid the uncomfortable stinging sensation that it gives. Does anybody know what might be going on? Any help would be more than appreciated!
TL;DR: | I took Accutane almost a year ago, and now any time that I drink alcohol it stings when I urinate |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Q: Why was what I [25/m] said to her [24/f] so attractive?
POST: A girl I am talking to, five dates in, is going on a business trip for a week tomorrow. Today, like any other work day, she has a busy schedule that starts early, ends late, and she does her gym routine. On our 5th date Sunday, I told her how if she is free I would like to see her before she leaves on the trip.
So she sent me good morning yesterday, I replied. Today, I said, "I'm sure you'll be busy tonight getting ready for your trip, so if I don't see you later then have an awesome time!"
My (girl) friend - who I shared nearly everything with - oogled at it, loved it and said it was an awesome text. She said it's so attractive to say. I don't know why. What do you think?
TL;DR: | I sent an "attractive" text, but don't know why it is considered so. The text is above. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am a [17/M], she is a [16/F] Should I ask this girl to prom? Does she even like me?
POST: I've known this girl as a friend for a while now. She is sixteen and I am seventeen.
So we aren't in the same grade. The only class we have together is Drama/Theater for an hour for a couple of days a week. I have no clue if she admires me or not.
Our drama class went to competition this January and I was able to take first in my category. But I don't know if that was enough to impress her. Should I still ask her? I mean she's **really hot**. She may not be in my league.
TL;DR: | Should I ask this girl to prom? We are just friends after all. There's no telling what she may say. |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Does my cat have attachment issues?
POST: I have had Watson for about a year now. I got him from a shelter and they said he had been on the streets for about the first five months of his life. He is terrified of most people save for me and my girlfriend. For the last year then I was living in a small apartment and he was pretty much confined to my room. However, we just moved into our new apartment and he can have the run of the place now. We decided that we didn't want his hair all over the bedroom so every night when we go to bed, we take him out of the room and close the door. Several times a night he will paw and meow at the door for what feels like hours. What is going on? Is there a better way to deal with it?
TL;DR: | My cat paws and meows at bedroom door but we don't want him in the bedroom. What can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Ridding my son of disgusting habits...
POST: Ok, I am at my wits end here. I have 12 yo boy/girl twins and my son has always had the habit of eating his boogers. I have tried everything I can think of to get him out of the habit and nothing has worked! I tried ignoring it, explaining it to him, getting angry, being understanding, and anything else I can think of and he still does it! I hadn't seen him do it for a while until tonight when we were watching a movie and I looked over to see him at it. Someone PLEASE give me advice on this! He knows it hurts him socially and has been teased about it in school and acknowledges the need to stop, but he still can't seem to do it!
He also chews his nails and bites his toenails, but those are other habits to work on.
TL;DR: | My son still eats his boogers at 12 years old and I can't figure out how to help him stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How can I soften the blow of implementing a budget? I don't know where to start.
POST: We've got a $90,000.00 annual gross household income. About $65,000 net. We rent a cheap apartment ($640) and have no kids, car payments, etc. We each have small visa balances, and I'm aggressively paying my student loan with my income at $400 a month. It's almost paid off. I'm 28 and he's 34.
We both talk about wanting to own a home or take a vacation, and he would do terrible things to own a Dodge Magnum (a $9,000 car, nothing crazy).
We aren't good at saving. We spend all of our money each cheque and rely on credit for emergencies (which we pay back quickly). It all goes to praising Dionysus.
How do I breach the subject of creating a budget and trying it for a month? I'm thinking something along the lines of living on cash, jar system, or something similar. I think he really enjoys not having to worry about his spending.
Any thoughts on what to do to get some money put away?
TL;DR: | The old man and I live like teenagers on adult budgets and don't save a dime. He loves it. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 F] am so upset with my exe [18 M]. He's less him and I have theories on why...
POST: So I'm a freshman in highschool and have a senior (now graduated) exe. We dated for 6 months and I was really into him. But after a while I felt the feelings fade and with much hesitation, I broke up with him. After being harrassed and made feel like an ass by his friends, I managed to clear things up between us. Sort of.
He's different now. We both are in new relationships and we still talk but his tone sets me on edge. Whenever we talk it just feels like my head is going to explode from him seeming so careless, like I'm just an attribute to his life now. II feel as if he has the impression he's better than anyone else now. How do I put up with his air-headedness? Do all guys do this or is just him?
How should I feel?
TL;DR: | I feel as if my exe can care less if I die,because he's the king of the world. :pp |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [CA] Restraining order - What counts as "harassment" ?
POST: My ex continues to call daily after the breakup despite me not communicating with him for a month. However, he only calls 3 times a day and one of those calls he makes from an unlisted number. (He leaves voicemails after these calls and they are placed at the same time every day, that's how I know it's him). He leaves voicemails that I find threatening but don't have threatening content. He talks in a low growl and says he has things of mine he wants to return (A lie, he has nothing of mine), says he signed me up for a civil suit and now has a check for me, doesn't know how we're going to exchange our belongings, wants to check up on me/my sick mom ect. It's all BS but it isn't threatening. Is this enough to get a restraining order in place? I should note here - I am scared. His mental health is declining and he feels like I owe him certain things because we were together for so long. He's drinking nearly every day and impulsive. He's just smart enough to know better than to straight out threaten me or call 20 times. In the past he has shown up to my apartment at night and refused to leave for a few hours, also punched a wall and nearly broke his hand. I am trying to avoid things escalating to that level.
TL;DR: | Is 10-15 phone calls and 2-3 text/voicemails per week enough to get a restraining order? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M], with my girlfriend [20 F] of 6 months, am having difficulty forgetting about her hookups when we were just fwb
POST: Ok, so my girlfriend and I have been hooking up since early in the spring. During that time, she had a one night stand with a friend of mine, at a party I was at, and hooked up with her ex (at a different school) multiple times. We talked before the spring semester ended and she decided to try again with her ex. We started dating about two months later. At the time when she hooked up with them we were just friends with benefits, but talked often and weren't just around for drunk sex.
The trouble is that I am having a hard time getting over that and the fact that she chose her ex first , and for that night, my friend over me. I just am having a difficult time both explaining this to her, and believing that at some point she won't choose someone over me again. I also don't know how I will ever be able to get over it.
Any Advice?
TL;DR: | fwb became gf. But hooked up with her ex, and a friend of mine. trust problems ensue. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [M 19] girlfriend [F 18] broke up with me after 3 years and we are going to the same school next year
POST: So we've been dating for 3 years and I am just finishing up my first year at university and she is 300 miles away back home about to graduate high school. We had a week of break together where we hung out and had a great time together. Then after me going back for a week she decided to break up.
Her reasoning was that she didn't care anymore and that our friendship wasn't there anymore. So now it's been a week since we've talked and I'm back home for the weekend. I texted her last night asking if we could meet up and talk (we broke up over Skype) and she hasn't said anything. Idk if I should push it by texting her more so we can meet up and potentially make it worse, or just let her be and try again next weekend when I come out again.
I'm really not trying to win her back but I have some stuff that I would like to talk about and also get some of my things back. I'm open to the idea of getting back together but I'm not going to go mad with trying to get back.
The main issue is that she is going to the same university as me next year where we will be in the same program and have the same classes and ensembles. I'm considering transferring to a school that I think I would enjoy more but I wanna know that we are done. At this point I'm just lost and don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | Girl ended with me when we had a lot to look forward too and idk if I should try and get her back |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19 F] girlfriend cheated on me [20 M] but she doesn't know that I know.
POST: We'd been dating for a few months. She had sex with her ex-boyfriend the night before she came home for winter break. I went through her texts and saw that she told her best friend. She does not know that I went through her texts.
I broke up with her not because of the cheating but because the relationship wasn't working in general. She is sad that I broke up with her and said that she wanted to work on things. But why would she not tell me about the cheating if she wanted to move forward in our relationship? I don't think it is best for me to tell her that I know but part of me wants to hear her admit it.
I've been wanting to end things for a few weeks but wasn't sure/when/how to do it. It kind of just came up today. I've been emotionally drained from this relationship feeling like I put more in then what I get out of it.
Trying to be short because I don't like long posts. Feel free to ask questions for further detail. Thanks. I feel weird.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend cheated on me with ex and I found out by snooping. Broke up with her and she is sad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My (17f) boyfriend's (17m) friend was awful to me, and he won't take my side.
POST: Backstory to this: My sister has a friend "B" who when she was younger, had leukemia. We had always joked back and forth with each other about it (ex. "You can't be rude to her, she had cancer," or "Its not my fault I was late, I had cancer," and etc.), and it was fine. One day, I made such a joke and she decided that it wasn't fine anymore. Instead of telling me that I offended her (I would have apologized on the spot and meant it, I don't want to be a bully), she went and told my boyfriend's friend, "N". N decided to broadcast this on Twitter, referring to me as an "ignorant bitch".
I was blindsided. I don't want to be a bully. When I confronted N about he was very nasty about it, and brought up my relationship problems with my boyfriend. It made me angry and I lost my temper and said things that were very out of character for me, and I stormed off and cried.
Later, my boyfriend went to find me, and told me that this was all my fault. He ditched me tonight to go hang out with N and some other friends. I don't know what to do anymore.
TL;DR: | boyfriend's friend is a douche, boyfriend believes I am at fault, I have not idea what to do now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Walmart x Old Lady
POST: I usually head to Walmart during my days off in order to get groceries for the week, or a few snacks for the weekend. So, I grab my cart and head inside for my weekly adventure.
I pick up all of my items, and put them in my cart. Having enough of the Walmart view, I head to the cashier lane and patiently wait for my turn. Once I'm able too, I place my items on the track and stand beside MY CART for my turn to pay.
As I'm waiting, an old lady comes up behind me with about three or four items in hand. So I smile and put a bar to separate my groceries from hers. She doesn't acknowledge me in any form, so I turn back to wait. She then proceeds to put HER items in my MY CART.
Clearly she's senile, or doesn't understand I still plan on using my cart after I'm done to bring all those bags to my car. So I smile and look at her and politely say "I'm sorry I still plan on using it" but the old bag doesn't acknowledge me at all. She doesn't even look up from her magazine rack eye-screwing.
So at this point, I'm getting annoyed. I tell the cashier I'll be right back and head over to the entrance to grab a brand new cart. As I head back to my lane, I purposely SMASH my cart into my now older cart. This finally gets her attention. She frowns at me and proceeds to tell me she's old and needs the cart and I clearly don't. I choose the approach of ignoring her completely.
TL;DR: | Old lady stole my cart in Walmart and ignores me, so I took a new one and banged it into her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Dad's credit card was stolen but we have their e-mail address
POST: I found out from my dad that his credit card number was stolen and the person/company that did it has all our billing information: address, phone number, expiration date, etc. However, they used their own/junk e-mail address.
All in all over $2500 was spent.
When we called the credit card company, they have bought stuff like Apple store, electronic gadgets and other geek stuff. Funny thing though, some items were radar maps, defense blueprints or something, and other stuff. It made me think that these guys are either uber geeks or hackers OR potential terrorists. That last thought was more of a joke...sort of.
I have their e-mail address and I am debating to try to unleash the hounds of 4chan on them. But maybe I shouldn't. I don't know.
It's been one helluva day.
TL;DR: | My dad's credit card number was stolen, over $2500 spent, I have their e-mail address, crappy day. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by checking my gf's messenger
POST: So yesterday me my gf and my buddies got pretty drunk and me being in overly weird mood decided to check up my gf's messenger.
We'd been together for 2 months which is not much, but I've fallen madly in love. I was alone for 2 years after my 5 year relationship fallen appart, and she got me out of my sad hole.
She had many men before me and I found out apparently that i have some sexual problems with myself. She is supprisingly chill about it and is willing to help me out.
Moving on to yesterday evening I got super jealous after drinking. Bare in mind that I know about her exes and one particular who lives in other city, she owes some money and tries to maintain peaceful relationship with him. I checked out briefly her facebook and saw her sending her pussy pic with caption "its still warm" to her ex...
I called her out on it 'cause I couldn't contain myself, got slapped in face and now we're not talking to each other.
I don't know what to do know. I fucked up, should've stay oblivious.
Sorry for English (not my first language)
TL;DR: | checked out gfs msg and saw her sending pussy pic to her ex.. now I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22/f] am in a toxic relationship with my boyfriend [24/m] of 1 year. I am also dying of cancer. I don't want to leave him because I don't want to die alone
POST: So the titles says it all. a month ago I found out that I have advanced melanoma. I am scared because the only person in my life who actually kind of gives a shit about me is my boyfriend. I have no friends. before I met him I was a complete loner.
The problem is our relationship has always been a roller-coaster of emotions. One day he loves me and is extremely affectionate, the other day he just ignores me completely. I tried talking to him about it and he said that he'll try to change and go to therapy but nothing happened. Sometimes I question whether or not he really cares about me. He is always an argument away from leaving, so I always try to not get into any arguments, because it always makes him want to leave me. It has happened before and he left but I always beg him to come back.
I thought that maybe my diagnosis would somehow make him a different person for the time I have left. But nothing has changed. Yes he's more affectionate but he still has those episodes where he completely shuts me out and treats me like shit. and it makes me feel really bad and stressed out.
I want to leave him, but I don't want to die alone. I would rather kill myself now than wait it out and die alone.
TL;DR: | I have cancer..my bf shuts me out a lot..but I am scared of dying alone so i don't want to leave. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking viagra
POST: It wasnt today, it was last year.
So anyway, I was 15 years old that time. I came to school, And i was approached by my friends... they wanted to give me some sweets. Me being a dickhead said yes. So they gave me some sweets and it tasted bitter. I asked them what it was and they said it was a harry potter sweet. So i swallowed it in front of them and was retching because of the flavour so i dished out my water bottle and drank all the 500ml of it. Then they started laughing at me, telling me it was viagra. I did not know what viagra was so I asked them WTF that was. They said it makes you get a boner for like 2 hours, That same day I had my Gcse english speaking test (Presentation) and I had a really hard boner and it was pretty noticeable. My friends told everyone in my year and well I got builed becoz of it but I got a hard skin. So during my presentation everyone cannot take their eyes of it including the girls(success?) so i flopped that test and now my nickname is viagrabananaboy. (banana becoz im somali... yes London is a great town for somalis)
TL;DR: | Friends gave me viagra, Had boner half the day at skl and flopped my test becoz of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: what mis-information is widely touted by the hivemind here, but is in fact untrue?
POST: I'm pretty tired of everyone crying about how banks got bailed out and tax payers got the short end of the stick. please do some research- and you'll see that the majority of 'bailed' out companies have paid the money back with interest. In the case of Goldman, they took $10Bn INVESTMENT from the gov't (which got from taxpayers), and they repaid it with 23% interest.
on an overall basis- the majority of TARP funds have been repaid with interest, and the outstanding companies are on track to also pay back in full/with interest.
Getting mad at the banks- is like being mad at students for taking out gov't loans...i.e. moronic.
TL;DR: | TARP wasn't a bailout, it was the gov't investing money and was profitable for the gov't. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: School has drained the life out of me, and I'm losing motivation quickly. Last year of college and I don't know if I can put in the effort to graduate. Advice?
POST: So basically, I'm a EE/CS student at a fairly prestigious school (let's just say it's nationally recognized and does well in USNews rankings). The amount of work we're getting in our last year is unbelievable, I can't even begin to describe it. I have assignments due weekly, and for two of my classes, each one takes roughly 20 hours to complete (and that's if you have help from other people). Top that off with 3 more classes (one of them being a fucking thesis class, and don't even get me started on that), I've been incredibly busy this semester.
3 years of college has turned my brain into mush. I have trouble focusing, I can't retain material as well anymore, and my motivation as at all time lows. I wish I had the passion some people at my school have (hell, even on reddit...props to the ALU builder guy!) but I don't. I mean, I am so impressed with those people who can push themselves to the absolute limit day after day, year after year. But I can't do this and I won't survive for much longer.
It's gotten to the point where my minimal effort may not even be enough to pass. I could suck it up and try to push myself this last year, but I don't think I have the mental stamina to do so.
How do I make it through this last year?
TL;DR: | I'm tired, sick, and completely fed up with class. Can I make it through my last year, who knows... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] suddenly dumped by my bf [23M] of 3 months.
POST: So we had been together for 3 months. We have mutual friends, and that was how we initially got to know one another. He initiated the relationship and was the one who told me that he had feelings for me, and that he wanted me as his girlfriend.
Fast forward to now, and he says that he doesn't want us to be in a relationship anymore. He just wants us to go back to being friends.
The really confusing part of this all is that firstly, he selected Facebook as the medium to break up with me by, rather than a conventional phone call or a face to face meeting. Secondly, this break up occurs not even 24 hours after your typical romantic dinner date and sex. Thirdly, we had made plans to go to a mutual friend's party together later that day, before the 'break up bomb' was dropped.
The timeline of this is what confuses me the most. I can handle breakups, but this completely blindsided me. I did not see it coming at all. There were no obvious signs for me to pick up on. He never pushed me away or showed disinterest in my advances. But now, that's it. It's over. And even though it was short, it was the happiest I'd been in ages and now it's just over. And I don't think I can accept just 'being friends'.
Emotions suck, and re-runs of the past 2 days are now just running on repeat in my mind as I try to puzzle out where it went wrong.
TL;DR: | I [22F] got dumped on FB by now ex-bf [23M] who wants us to be friends, BUT HOW |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My fiancé (F21) just broke up with me (M25) and I don't know what to do.
POST: I think this may end up being one of those cases where I just need to get things off my chest, but here it is:
My fiancé is headed into her senior year of college and has had an internship out of state. I was very excited to go visit her after being apart for 6 weeks, but as soon as I got to her place (after navigation public transport in an unfamiliar city) she tells me that she wants to break things off. She claims that she was "feeling cornered and couldn't be herself around me." She says it wasn't anything I did and wasn't my fault, but that doesn't stop me from feeling like total shit about it. To top it all off, I lost my job last month and haven't gotten my shit together from that yet. So here I am; jobless, heart broken, emotionally drained and in an unfamiliar city, I just spent $300 on a hotel and a flight change just so I can go home.
So the reason I'm writing this is because I just don't know what to do. I had planned my life with this woman and its all really come crashing down hard in this last week. I'm just lost.
TL;DR: | Fiancé broke up with me for vague reasons, now I have no job and a broken heart. It makes me sad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forcing a shart.
POST: ok, sigh. this happened last night.
my friend, brother and i went to go watch a movie at a local theatre. im getting over a stomach flu so ive been passing gas lately, sorry for the TMI. so we find a parking spot and i thought it would be funny to rip a huge one before we leave to see if the smell would still stay in the truck until after the movie, i really didnt need to so i tried to force one out! and boom... a BIG ASS SHART!!! i had the most embarrassing face on, my friend and brother asked me what was wrong and i told them what happened, and they were literally ROFL. we were late for the movie because i had to take a pitstop at starbucks bathroom.
i took me a good 25 minutes to wipe up, throw away my boxers, and do anything else to clean myself up. i couldnt do anything about the smell tho. and when i was done, i opened the door and there was a line of people waiting for the bathroom. :/ FML
TL;DR: | i forced a shart, cleaned up and stunk up a starbucks bathroom, and watched a movie COMMANDO. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by almost losing a great relationship
POST: Today I got a call from my dad's doctor talking about hid kidney problems and shit. I live in Atlanta, messed with the gangbangers, and had a few great friends die from gun violence so I've seen some shit. My dad left and did come back to love my older brother and not me though I was legitimate. I didn't have any father figure so I resented him and I still don't care about him dead or alive. So my girl overhead the conversation and after said "how could you treat him like that? He's still your dad." She knows about the pain I felt as a child and though she's perfect that shit pissed me off. So we had a huge argument and I said a few things I probably shouldn't have. Shit got lit and she said "Maybe me and you won't workout." I've heard those words before breakups and came to my senses I immediately apologised as if I'd accidently groped her breast like in a anime, and had some mmhhmm sex.
TL;DR: | Ass hat dadad health problems got into arguement with do almost broke up made up = gud sex bby |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: What do you talk about with someone you don't really know/just met {15}?
POST: *Everything after this is just backstory and a bit of information, not necessary to read*
I'm {15,M} trying to get closer to a girl {15} I went to summer school with (for advancement). Summer school has long since ended (about 2 months ago) and I didn't really talk to her, although she knows me as a nice guy. Like I said, I've never really talked to her. I'm also very awkward (I know it and she told me straight up) but I still would like to get friendly and eventually ask her to be my girlfriend.
I've considered multiple things/ways. Ask her to take a walk around campus and sit her down and ask her. In the back of my head I know she'll say no because we don't talk much, but that's mainly due to the fact that I don't know what to talk about!
I know that she's into writing (she has written a few short stories, some I've read some I haven't), she also very much enjoys texting which I am bad at. I can be very interesting for about half an hour and then just blank out and not know what to talk about.
Really, all I want to know is what I should do, say, ask, how long to wait, etc. I don't know this girl very well and I'd like to get closer to her if possible.
TL;DR: | Title+Really, all I want to know is what I should do, say, ask, how long to wait, etc. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Lost Computers to my Co-Worker/Ebay Seller
POST: I was looking looking to sell my iMac on Ebay and my co-worker (iT guy) offered to sell it through his Ebay store. Unfortunetly between the time i gave it to him and it being sold his house caught fire and it was damaged. He did not bring it with him when he left and the land lord threw it away so there is no way of getting it back and taking it to apple. He said he is not "trying to rip me off" but he will not compensate me for it until he sues the land lord. This means i may or may not ever be reimbursed and it will be months if anything. It was a trade of services. I designed his website he sold my computer. I held my half of the bargain. I worry because he is leaving my office this month I may never see anything. Thank you for reading my rant and thank you in advance for any help.
TL;DR: | Co-Worker lost my iMac while selling it on Ebay now i'm out a $2,000 computer |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: [serious] Need advice on suggesting medical marijuana to my mom.
POST: My mom has just gotten the news that her cancer is back. This is the third time in the last 5 years. The second time was almost one year ago. The last time she went through chemo, she almost didn't make it. Mind you, it wasn't the cancer that almost killed her but all the side effects of the chemotherapy and its toll on her will to keep trying. It was horrible. She's almost 70 now and honestly has so much to keep going for, but the last time she went through it all, not only could she not eat, but the awful mental effects and sickness just killed her will to live. I'm concerned for her mental state as much as I am about her physical well being. She doesn't live in a state where medical marijuana is legal, but I know it could bring so much relief for her. Quite honestly, I think it might make the difference between her making it through this round of chemo with a strong desire to win. My question is this: how best can I approach her with this suggestion...knowing it's illegal and yet knowing it could be, in a sense, a miracle for her? I'm particularly interested if you've been in a similar situation from either side of the coin. I'd love some help on this one, Reddit.
TL;DR: | my mom has to go through chemo for the third time and I'd like some advise on how to suggest weed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help! I don't really think there's an expert profession I can really ask for this one...
POST: My little sister's [karma machine] has somehow escaped into the walls of our parents' house. As you can see she clearly enjoys enclosed spaces. We live in a really old (100 years plus) Victorian era terraced house. There's been a hole in the plaster on the top floor of three (ex-attic) because of a leak, but yesterday we finally got it plastered up. We think she must've sneaked in just before. After listening all round the house we eventually heard her seemingly coming from behind a wall all the way downstairs in the front garden. She's not really been moving and we think she maybe fell some of the way and hurt herself.
We can't start hacking through stone. And we can't pull down the plaster and go in because none of us will fit. She's a tough rescue cat and has survived 5 days of being trapped one other time so will live a little while longer but I'm really worried it'll destroy my little sister if she dies. Especially in such a horrific way where she'll be able to hear her the whole time.
What can we try reddit? Anything, no matter how crazy, will be considered.
TL;DR: | Sister's cat is trapped in the walls of our super old house. What can we do/what would you do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: My puppy just got out of surgery and can't sleep or walk around with a cone on her head [help]
POST: Hi there! I just got a dog from a neighbor. She's an 8mo old puppy who had never been to the vet. Yesterday I took her to get spayed and get all her vaccinations and whatnot. She's really out of it now. I have her on what I am assuming are some pretty intense pain meds, because my otherwise extremely high-energy dog is pretty lethargic and depressed seeming, as well as dizzy and nauseated acting. I can't take her on runs for the next week (and therefore can't take her to work -- I don't have a car, so she runs there with me) which I think she realizes and is pretty sad about. So she has to stay at home by herself all day.
The problem is, she's pretty dizzy, and can't really do much with the cone. She keeps running into things, and can't get on or off the couch or the bed when wearing the cone. She also can't eat or drink with it. Finally, she's so uncomfortable with it on that she can't sleep either. But I can't leave her alone without the cone because she absolutely will lick her stitches.
I have the ability to leave work for 45 minutes twice a day (12 hr workday) to go home and let her out to pee, but I'm mostly worried about her sanity.
TL;DR: | Any advice on how to keep her fed/hydrated/mobile/entertained while home alone and wearing a cone? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my Ex [20 F] together 1 year, she broke it off mid Jan. now this....
POST: Backstory before I share my problem...
So, My Ex and I were together for just over a year, she broke it off with me mid January this year, for reasons that she couldn't even explain.
"I'm not myself" "I need time" "I cant be in a relationship"
Basically all the reasons that confuse someone.
It absolutely gutted me and I was a mess, its taken all this time for me to get close to where I can say I'm 90% over her, blocked her on all social media, deleted all photos of her, thrown out anything that I had of hers or reminded me of her.
So, that's the story so far, its been a while since she broke it off with me, and today, for some unknown reason, I receive this text message,
"Hey <my name>,could we maybe meet up? grab a coffee or something? I understand if you don't want to, but I thought I would ask."
Pretty much rattled me, so I reply that I guess we can, cause I'm rather intrigued, and then after deciding a time a place, I receive this...
"just to clarify though, I'm not meeting up with you to get back together. But I do miss you and i want to talk"
Please help me.... I think I might bail, but I want to know what's going on.... What's she trying to get at?
TL;DR: | Gf broke up with me, havn't heard from here for months, wants to meet up because she "misses" me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Taking it to the next level?!
POST: So I've been talking to this girl a lot lately, mostly texting. The last few nights she's come over and we've watched a movie laying/sitting on my bed. No cuddling or any contact of any kind, but I'm pretty sure she's into me. This is happened twice, and If it happens again on the third time we all know it will be assumed (possibly rightly so) that I'm gay and I'll be put into the friend zone for life.
So how do I make the first move without being really awkward. If we were cuddling or touching it would be easy to simply lean over and kiss her, but given the circumstances I can't think of a natural way to approach the situation.
TL;DR: | Like a girl, she comes over, no cuddling, how do I smoothly take it to the next level. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Need to back out of shitty date; how do I do this properly?
POST: This is pretty much caused by my idiocy/naivete. You are forewarned.
So this guy, let's call him Bob, one day messages me on facebook. He starts talking to me, and I don't mind (I know him IRL). Fast forward a few conversations later, and he wants to date me. I'm not very hesitant, but there are some warning flags going off in my head because of:
-the fact he asked me out over Facebook, not in person
-the fact that we don't talk almost at all in real life
-He's a charismatic guy, but...a bit too much of a Casanova for my tastes (more on that in a sec)
Now, initially I say yes, but the more I talk to friends (they know him relatively well), the more and more I'm getting the impression that he certainly wants sex out of this. Probably not first date, but this is the only intention. The fact that implied it in our conversations, with me being a dumbass not to realize it, pretty much backs this up.
I agreed to the date on Thursday. How do I back out of this without looking like a bitch?
I was planning on sending something along the lines of "I don't want to date right now", but considering the fact I initially agreed to it....yeah.
TL;DR: | How do I back out of date that is only wanted for sex? Do not want/need that right now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [17M] get over my huge crush on my classmate [18M]?
POST: I've posted here before on another throwaway, so if you (most likely) recognise this story, pm me the throwaway name and I'll confirm if you give a shit at all.
Hi.
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There's this guy in my Biology college class, who I sit next to who moved to this college this year, even though we're in the second year of the course. At the beginning of the year, I didn't talk to him at all - he was pretty sullen/dark and mysterious in that sexy way, didn't talk much, seemed to hate every minute of that class etc. At that point, I just thought he was a bit intimidating, not crushy at all.
After a few months, we started to small talk a bit, and I started to crush on him - I noticed the small things: how he's stretch his back, clear his throat, his huge biceps etc.
At this point, I have a huge crush on him, bordering (I think) on obsession, and I don't know if it's normal. I'm not comfortable in my sexuality, and I'm only out to a few people, and I'm pretty bad at social stuff. I don't know what way he swings, as he's never talked about girlfriends or boyfriends.
What do I do, honestly? It's getting to the point where I'm thinking about him a lot - he's been pretty nice to me, so I don't know what the fuck to do. If there any way I can see if he's gay without compromising me?
TL;DR: | This guy is a smexy beast, how the fuck can I not cream my pants when he talks to me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to get sympathy from my coworker's sister.
POST: I went to a coworker's birthday/graduation party today. There were a lot of little boys running around. I felt one of them was more unruly than the others. He made messes, was rude to both adults and the other kids, and took some of my drink right in front of me knowing it was not for him. He spilled some ice on a couch, and I asked him to clean it up (he was unsupervised, for the most part).
He ran out of the room and left me to clean it. My coworker's sister walked in, and I gave her a sad smile trying to get her commiseration. I said, "That boy is undisciplined." She said, "Thanks." I hadn't realized it was her kid because she wasn't watching him at all. I felt like someone should have been watching him, or at least be embarrassed and apologize for him. She looked grumpy with me for the rest of the time I was there. My coworker walked in right as our conversation took place, and now knows I'm a jerk. Shit.
TL;DR: | Told a mom her kid lacked discipline and she got offended. I'm not wrong; I'm just an asshole. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32F] MIL [65F] wants to come stay with me while I look after my aunt [86F], how to say no thanks?
POST: My elderly aunt is starting to have cognitive issues and trouble managing her money, so I am staying in my parents' old house (the house I grew up in, they have both passed away) and watching my aunt who lives next door until her conservatorship court date at the end of the month.
My MIL is a wonderful lady, and I love her dearly. She was talking to my wife [35F, married 1.5y] earlier and offered to fly down and stay with me so I won't be by myself for the rest of the month. So sweet... but I am really okay by myself. She's from a large city, and I am out in the middle of nowhere. She's pretty high-maintenance, and there's nothing to do, no takeout, no delivery, no shopping, etc. If she comes here, then I will have to worry about taking care of her *and* my aunt. But I don't know how to say that without sounding mean or ungrateful.
I'm terrible at these kinds of things. She's probably going to call me tomorrow and ask me... suggestions?
TL;DR: | MIL wants to come stay with me while I am taking care of my aunt, and I don't know how to say no. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I tell his girlfriend?
POST: So my ex (28M) and i (27F) broke up 3 months ago (1 year relationship). He lied to me. I discovered we was seeing someone else. He is still lying to me.
Saying he is not in a relationship, pretending he cares about me and wants me back, he even have a Christmas gift for me and wants to see me. I replied that we broke up and shouldn't give gifts to each other and the only gift i want is the money he owes me.
Also wants to see me because he wants to go back home close to his family (i was ok but in 2 years) and wanted to talk to me in person about that during a dinner.
He said he spent few days out of town to visit a friend and was alone for Christmas because he had to travel for work.
I know who is the girl and i've checked on facebook. He is not at all travelling for work but spending holidays with her family and there is some couple pictures of them.
If i was the girlfriend i would like to know what my boyfriend is doing behind my back.
I don't want him back. I just want he leaves me alone. For now, i am nice with him because he owes me money. He is supposed to give me the last payment this week. So after he paid me, should i tell him i know he is lying? And/her his gf too?
TL;DR: | ex bf lying to me (ex gf) saying he is not in relationship and wants me back. Should i tell his gf? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25M] met [23F] on a night out, stayed over mine, not seen her since.. How to go about this?
POST: Okay so probably a minor topic but just needed some dating advice on how to proceed.
I was out on my sports team social night in a local club and got chatting to a beautiful girl. After having a lot of fun and a few drinks, I asked if she wanted to head back to mine for a couple more. She agreed but stated she's not that sort of girl, which I respected so I said I'm not forcing you... She wanted to come back.
So yeah had great sex and again in the morning. I drop her to her friends house in the afternoon and we exchange numbers. We later text and I find out she lives around an hour away in the city (not a problem). That's where it's at, at the moment. But a few things, I'm always starting the conversation and asking things about her and what she's been upto, she'll reply with lengthy responses and that's it. The other problem is that we're both extremely busy with work/social life, I don't think we can plan anything for another couple weeks..
So the advice I'm seeking is how do I keep this going? She seems keen in messages etc but just not initiating conversation. I know it's only been a one night thing so far but I'd love this to be something more.
TL;DR: | Met a girl on night out, slept with her, haven't seen her since and don't want this to die out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] with my BF[26 M] 1 year, I regret sexting someone else, but Don't know how to tell him
POST: I have some pretty specific kinks, that my wonderful bf of a year can't give me. I love him, and he satisfies me in every way but one.
I wound up chatting to this older kinky guy online the other night and it slowly turned from an intelligent discussion on the psychology of kink into dirty talk via hypotheticals.
No pictures were included, and I honestly didn't contribute to the dirty talk, but I did allow it to happen.
I don't think my bf would break up with me if he knew, he's not exactly been perfect all his life, but I don't want to tell him if it's not a huge deal because I know he'd worry.
I've since deleted my account on said website and vowed to never let myself get into that place again.
I just don't know if it's worth worrying him over something that was unsavoury but not really cheating as such, and I KNOW will never happen again.
TL;DR: | was sent dirty messages by man who fulfilled my kink. Didn't stop it, have since. Do I tell BF? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21F] Like A Guy [20M] Who Has Girlfriend [20F] , She's Mad At Me
POST: Before you read I'm from South America and my English is not perfect, sorry
I have been going to school in US, and I met this guy but he has a girlfriend. We are friends at school for about 6 months now, and I've talk to him a lot through texting too. I've told him that I like him and asked if he would consider to date me, and he said he isn't interested. I think he might like me back, but maybe because he has a girlfriend is why he doesn't want to. I am not going to pursue him because I know he isn't single, but I ran into him at a mall and he was with his girlfriend, and he introduced us and she said something like "Oh this is the girl who likes you?" And she look at me in a really rude way and I felt really intimidated by her, I said what are you talking about, and she said "You've told him you want to date him" and I never even said that I said that I like him but I understand he has a girlfriend. I said sorry if you misunderstood to her, and now I feel awkward talking to him. I feel she's really defensive and thinks like that he is hers. But he is my friend and I think she's overreacting. What should I do?
TL;DR: | I like a guy but he has a girlfriend, she is angry at me and thinks I'm trying to take him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: New nose piercing infected - HELP!
POST: Hello,
I have a nose piercing infection and need help. Here is the story:
I got my nose pierced about 7 years ago. I had to stop wearing it for work 3 years ago, but occasionally would test the hole to see if it was open.
I recently had a career change and am able to wear my nose ring again. When I put an L-curve stud in it a couple nights ago, I had a few layers of skin to poke through on the inside of my nose. It was no biggie. A touch of bleeding, which stopped immediately.
Well that was 2 days ago. Now I have a cold. My nose is constantly running, I have to blow my nose and touch my piercing. The piercing is red, painful, and pussing. When I woke up this morning, my nostril was so swollen that the stud was swallowed.
I haven't taken the stud out because I don't want the infection to heal inside my nose. I am doing salt water rinses with non-iodized salt twice a day. I contacted a piercing place that I have gone to in the past, and they haven't gotten back to me.
It really, really hurts. In my 7 years of having a nose ring, I have never experienced this pain. It didn't even hurt when I got it done.
Advice? What should I do?
TL;DR: | Re-pierced my nose recently. Now I have a bad cold. It's infected. Ouch! HELP! |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Me [21m] asking out my step cousin [23f] I am interested, but also intimated by a couple of factors.
POST: Hello all,
I am interested in my step-cousin (step fathers niece), she is interested in me as well but I do have a couple of issues that are stopping me from fully going through with it. We have known each other for about 2 and half years, but only recently have we seen each other with this desire.
I am a Junior in college, and she already has her BA, working on her masters. She has a car, I don't. I live in NYC, I don't think I need it. But sometimes I feel like she is so much more advanced in life than I am.
Also with the whole family situation is this type of thing considered incest?
TL;DR: | Want to date step cousin, she is advanced in life while I am not. Does it make it awkward or weird? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] am going to break up with my girlfriend of 4 years [17F] over a multitude of reasons but I still feel really shitty about it.
POST: **underneath all this venting is a question I swear**
So this girl and I have been together for quite some time, but I really feel its time for the relationship to end. For those wondering about the reasons I can list a few here: she is the epitome of jealousy. If I have any even does something like "like" something I do on Facebook she has a hissy fit about it for a couple of days. Which I find quite interesting coming from a girl with all male friends that have made it no secret that they want in her pants. For the past several months every time she tells a story I want to stab her hand with a fork.
It just hasn't been good on my end and is continuing on like life is just fine and dandy. *however* despite all that I still feel like shit whenever I think about not being with her. It may be that I'm afraid of change, but I still think that breaking up with her is the best idea. (And trust me, after 4 years of trying to fix some of these things I have given up hope that they will or can be fixed)
so finally, here is my question: am I doing the right thing by breaking up with her, and if so, how do I say it? You may have noticed, but I'm terrible at putting words together into a coherent sentence, especially when I'm nervous. So any help on the wording would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | been with the same girl forever, it's time to breakup, do you agree? If so, how do I say it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [21F] tell this girl [20s] her boyfriend [23] is on Tinder?
POST: Okay so, a week ago I met this guy on Tinder, we flirted a bit and gave him my number. He just recently texted me this morning and I forgot had no idea it was him. Whenever I don't know a number, I usually search it on Facebook to see who it is and most of the time I get my answer.
Well, I got my answer and more. From what I saw, he's got a girlfriend of 6 months. I feel absolutely terrible and I'm wanting to tell her but I'm a bit torn. Had a friend tell me to just not butt in and mind my own business.
I'm hoping to get some more feedback on what would be the right thing to do because I'm honestly on the verge of messaging her.
TL;DR: | Met guy on Tinder, has a girlfriend and I'm not sure if it'd be right to tell her or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18M] really like a girl [16F],Need advice on the first step.
POST: I'm lost.
I've started talking with a girl last friday. I've met her in 2013 but I've not talked to her since 2014. She messaged me last friday, asking me how I was doing and so on, we started talking about our lives.
Since last week I've picked her up from her school 3 times and drove her home, she invited me inside all of those times, where we used to sit for 3-4 hours talking and giggling. I've met her parents, she told me that they liked me. Whenever I leave her house she gives me a hug.
Everytime we talk, she stare deeply into my eyes, and so do I. I miss her whenever I'm not with her. My stomach is filled with butterflies, I really like her.
I don't want to text her / call her too often , because it may look like I'm trying hard.
I'm 18 years old, she is 16, I've never had a relationship, I need some advices on what to do next. I don't want things to go wrong.
TL;DR: | I really like a girl, Don't know how to go for the first kiss. / Afraid of getting rejected. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my bf [25m] is pressuring me [24f] to do anal/threesome
POST: We've been together for almost two years now. And he keeps mentioning anal and/or threesome lately.
About our sex life: I always give him blowjobs, free massages, he never goes down on me (I don't like it personally) and rarely ever massages me back, I'm usually always up for sex whenever he wants it, etc. The point is, I am a very giving person.
But anal/threesome is something I am just VERY uncomfortable with. The idea of him with another girl or the idea of something in my butt isn't very appealing to me, at ALL.
I've expressed this to him multiple times but he seems to think I'll relent eventually. I asked him if it was because sex was boring or it wasn't good anymore, and he said he wanted to "spice things up." I told him I was not comfortable with the idea of anal or threesomes. and knowing how I am, it's very likely that this will never change. But he keeps trying to convince me to do it, going as far as making deals and stuff (if you do anal, I'll go out on a romantic dinner with you!).
And I dunno, it just sucks because I feel like he's not taking me seriously. He thinks I just don't know how good it is or something. Granted, maybe it's unfair of me to not even try it, but how is it fair to me to force me to do something I don't want to do? Am I being unreasonable? =(
TL;DR: | bf wants anal/threesome, I don't ever want it nor do I want to try it, am I in the wrong here or? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [16F] said a comment about another guy that bothers me and I don't know what to do
POST: So I'm trying to keep this short.
My girlfriend is generally speaking a funny, but very honest person. She hates lying to me and I love that about her. She will tell me when guys are writing her and she is very loyal and honest to me. There is no real problem there.
However, every now and then she would talk about how hot certain actors/stars/youtubers are etc. Again, it's a bit annoying at times, but usually not something that is a big deal. It's fun and nothing more than that.
However, there is a certain youtuber, who even lives near her city, who she said that she finds very hot and would even cheat on me with him. She says it was sarcasm and that she loves me, but sadly this DOES bother me. I really don't know what to think about that comment. I find it very disrespectful to say that to your SO.
It will most likely never happen anyway, but still I can't shake off the feeling, that it does in fact bother me. And I really don't know what to do about this? It seems like a non-issue but how do I get over this? I mean she can unsubscribe his youtube channel I suppose but what else?
I just found it very rude of her to say something like this...
TL;DR: | my gf said she would cheat on me with a youtuber. It shouldn't bother me but it does. Help please. |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: How can I find my Father?
POST: I'm not going to give out any personal information, nor do I want someone to do any of the work for me.
Short background: I was born in 1989, and during that time my biological Father was in jail. When he got out, he denied that I was his child, but there were blood tests done that proved I was his. 4 years later, my Mother was unable to take care of me due to her heavy consumption of alcohol and I was "adopted" by her parents.
I just found an old folder at my Grandma's, and in this folder is all of his information (Name, age, social, blood type, etc) from when the tests were done. Now that I have this info, as well as an old picture of him, I want to seek this man out to see who he is.
I'm not doing this because I want anything from him. I don't want money, I don't want "revenge", I don't even really want a relationship (unless we hit it off) since I know that he didn't want me in his life to begin with.
But I have no idea where to start. I tried googling his name, with no results. I have no idea what state he lives in (I'm in the USA).
TL;DR: | I have my Fathers name, age, social, and a 24 year old picture. How can I find him in the USA? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Wisconsin Unemployment Issues
POST: Thanks for the help everyone.
I have recently graduated from technical college with two degrees, that's the good news.
In March, I accepted the position of head chef at a newly opening golf course. I have been a leader in opening businesses before and know the volatility they present. My boss and I have been looking at some numbers (I was informing my boss), and I recommended laying me off for the winter and maybe completely eliminating my position until he has the traffic/facilities that require my skills (banquets, staffing, etc).
He likes me a lot and will give me a great reference and will employ me until I find the right position, which is nice. However, come fall/winter, I will lose my job here. I am looking at the benefit calculator and it is only asking me for my salary before this position, which while I was in school working part time is significantly less money than I am making now ($400/month in benefits). I currently make over 4x that.
Is there a way to sit down with a real human and explain my situation because the UI "hotline" is nothing but dead ends.
I work hard and have been employed my entire adult life. I don't think I am required to apply for "any job", paying far less than I am currently making just to appease the system, but new rules have been instilled under the super understanding guidance of our governor in the last few years.
TL;DR: | Took a risk, Worked real hard, losing my job, don't know what my benefits are... who do I talk to? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: M, 22, Lost 165lbs. Is this skin or fat?
POST: Hey guys!
I must say that I am impress with you all who are killing it with the weight loss! I know it's a constant battle fighting the urges and cravings - but stick with it!
I'm not really here to gloat or to talk about my story. If there's interest, I'll happily do a write-up.
In short:
M, 22, **lost 75kg (165lbs) in tota**l. When I turned 18 I decided enough was enough and lost 130 (60kg) from June 01 to July 19. About two years later I got a girlfriend and I gained about 45 lbs (55). I have now lost that weight and some more.
Here's my problem. I now weigh 85kg (187lbs), I'm 183cm tall (6') and I have a LOT of strechmarks and what I think is quite a bit of excess skin.
**Will it ever go away? Will it ever get better? How much of it is skin vs fat? This is killing me psychologically.**
I do know a lot of it still fat, which I'm working on burning (leangains -30/+10)
TL;DR: | Lost 75kgs (135 lbs) - will the flab/skin ever "go away"? How much of it is skin vs fat? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit: What's the best way to prove my gas gauge is broken (the KIA dealership doesn't believe me)
POST: I have a sweet ride, a Kia :P Still under warranty so taking it elsewhere costs me money.
I'm 99% sure my gas gauge is broken. It still works a bit, a 1/4 tank left = empty. I confirmed this when one day I filled up my tank and I put in 54 litres into a 55 litre tank. I took it in a couple weeks ago, they confirmed it was broken and they replaced a fuel sender unit that they said was "shorted out". Since then, nothing improved (the gauge was still off after a fillup- 40 litres out of 55 and it wasn't at half). I took it back in and they ran all these tests and basically told me I was crazy.
I asked if they drained the tank, but they scoffed at me like that was a ridiculous, impossible suggestion.
I guess I could wait until the gauge reaches 3/4, then 1/2 and then 1/4 fill up with gas and take pictures of it and the gas receipt, though that would take weeks.
I plan on running out of gas, taking a picture, and calling CAA (Canadian AAA) or possibly getting a gas can. Is this a bad plan?
TL;DR: | Is running out of gas bad for my car? Do morons believe science and math, or do they expect more? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by being low on cash.
POST: Reddit, today has been an extremely hectic day. I usually only work a maximum of 5 hours on Friday because of school. But I decided to take on a couple more hours (mucho dinero). I had forgotten that I scheduled an oil change during my only break, which also turned out to be my lunch break. Well it being Christmas and all, I've been on a low budget (plus I'm a student) so I had to settle for good ol' taco bell to fill me up until dinner time. Not only did I fuck up by eating taco bell, I ordered the 5 layer beefy burrito... Fast forward a couple hours.. I just finshed eating a big dinner and it suddenly hits me.. 'Wow, I have to shit.' I'm fucked. End up at speedway and rush to the bathroom. I pull down my pants and there it is, burning poop thay just want stop flowing out like lava. I can still feel my stomach gurgling...
TL;DR: | Was low on money, had taco bell for lunch and had steaming/streaming shits a couple hours later. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I want to game again--gamers of reddit, will you help me?
POST: The title is pretty self-explanatory, but if you want to deepen the quality of your suggestions read on:
I am a twenty-one year old male who wants to get into PC gaming. I know some people who play SC2, and gaming seems like such a great way to unwind; they have so much fun playing all different games, and it's something I would like to try as well. Unfortunately, I'm out of the loop when it comes to modern gaming (my last system was the
TL;DR: | I'm a n00b that likes FPS and spy games with a mediocre PC. What game should I start with? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (25/f) want a cat. My boyfriend (30/m) doesn't.
POST: This is a pretty minor problem but here goes: I've been living with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been together for 4. I've wanted a cat for a while, but haven't had a stable job/normal routine until recently. Now that I'm done with school and have a job/have money, I feel that it's time to get a cat. My boyfriend is also a cat person, but doesn't think we should get one now. However, he told me that if I want a cat, I can go ahead and get one, but financially speaking I'm completely responsible for it. Despite really wanting a cat, I wish he was a little more on board (I wouldn't want him bringing home a parrot or something just because he wanted one without making sure I wanted one too). I would also just like it to be "our cat" (he also makes more money than me, so I wouldn't want it to cause a point of stress in the relationship if the cat gets seriously ill and I can't afford it). Otherwise, I have no problem paying for the cat. So I'm just wondering if I'm being completely disrespectful of him if I go ahead and get one or if I should go ahead and do it - of course it's my decision in the end but hearing feedback/similar stories might help. He's also mentioned to me that once we live in a bigger place he'd be more open for a cat so maybe I should just wait (although I have the feeling I'd be waiting for years).
TL;DR: | I want a cat, boyfriend doesn't, but he's ok with me getting a cat but won't help take care of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What do you think of this girl reddit?
POST: Okay reddit need your help.
I started talking to this girl and she's pretty cool. we've hung out a few times, never anything hardcore.
now heres the thing: She has this "friend". She says that they are just friends and what not but i was talking to him today and he said that they fucked last night (she was supposed to hang out with me but hung out with this kid instead). I don't know if i can take this kid seriously because you know how guys over-exaggerate but in the past i think they did have a relationship. Do i trust her and believe that they are just friends and nothing more or do i believe what the guy said
TL;DR: | this girl says she has a "friend" but this "friend" says that they fuck. who do i believe? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] am just getting started on my career; he [23M] wants us to move in together. Am I being unreasonable to refuse?
POST: I'm a 24-year-old female. Been dating my boyfriend, 23, for 3 years. We both live at home with our parents.
I'm fresh out of college and starting my first internship. I'm making OK money, but there's no guarantee it'll lead to a regular position. I'm looking forward to paying down my debt.
He's depressed (not diagnosed, but the signs are all there). He hates his parents, gained weight, mopes a lot and keeps a messy room.
He says he can't stand being at home any more and wants to move out with me. He says moving out will fix all his problems, and he'll be able to work out, lose weight, and start doing the things he loves once he has more space and freedom.
I'm focused on starting my career and paying off debt. We could probably squeak by with savings for a year renting, but it'd be tough, and I wouldn't be able to pay off my debt as quickly.
I said we should wait until I see what happens after my internship, but he can't stand it any longer. He tells me I don't take his problems seriously and threatens to move out on his own "to some crappy apartment." Major guilt trip.
Am I being unreasonable? He's obviously hurting, but I'm torn on what to do.
TL;DR: | Depressed BF wants to move out with me, I want to focus on career/debt. Getting the guilt trip. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19 M] ex-girlfriend [22 F] of 8 months that cheated on me is being real flirty with other guys, even though she's with the other man. What exactly is her problem?
POST: Wow, this is a doozy. Basically, I caught my ex cheating last month. Whatever, broke up already, she's with the new guy. Blocked her everywhere and what not. However, just today, my brother's friend told me she's been DM-ing him on Facebook all flirty-like.
I'm like... what the fuck? No... really, *what the fuck*? You're *just* in another relationship, and you're *already* flirting with other guys? I know, she's my ex, I shouldn't give a rat's ass what she's doing now. But... I can't help it. I'm just way too curious to *not* find out what's going on in her head right now. I'm in no way jealous or anything (although I am offended she would go for someone close to me like my brother's friend and **NOT** expect news to reach me), I'm just *amazed* to the point where I'm baffled. At least when people cheat, they take a while before they eventually cheat/leave each other. But she just goes in right for the kill pretty much instantly. She ain't my problem anymore, she's the poor OM's problem to deal with. I legitimately am just trying to understand what her deal is. Can anybody explain why she's doing what she's doing? Is there like a term for people like this?
TL;DR: | Ex-gf cheated on me, and is cheating on the new guy almost *instantly*. What's wrong with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [M/21] of almost four years just told me he isn't in love with me [F/20] anymore
POST: I got blindsided tonight and was told he wasn't in love with me anymore. He had no reason why, kept saying I am perfect and he doesn't know why he isn't in love. I keep thinking to myself what did I do wrong, or why did he fall out of love. My heart has never ached so badly before. I thought we were going strong. I understand we are young, but I've never felt so strongly for someone before. I seriously believed he was "the one". How can I fix myself to be strong again? I feel so torn down.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend isn't in love with my anymore and now I'm here suffocating in my sadness. I need help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 /F] with my room mate [19 /F] of two semesters smells. It's not foul, but it's definitely noticeable and strong.
POST: I am a sophomore in college, and I'm rooming with a close friend from last semester. Our rooms are apartment style, with adjoining rooms. We have our own small bathroom. (this is important)
As long as I've known her, she's smelled- its not terrible but it's a strong BO/musky funk. It's really strong in her own room, and sometimes just when she's been in a small space- like the bathroom. It fills the room in the time it takes her to wash her face in the morning. She leaned her head on my leg while we watched netflix and my pants smelled like it.
Despite all that, she takes care of herself really well- she's fashionable and cute, and takes pride in her appearance. It's not depression or stress.
So how do I tell her? I just feel like if it was me, I'd want to know.
TL;DR: | My room mate is a well maintained and cute girl who happens to smell. I don't know how to tell her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31F] with my?[39M], Should I call him?
POST: In short this guy and I started the "getting to know each other phase" a couple of years ago but it slowly died out because we were both busy with school/work and I may not have shown much interest although I did enjoy our conversations. Lately, something just clicked in my head. I want to be with this guy. Problem is I haven't spoken to him in over 2 years and I am not sure if he's even available. Do I just call him out of the blue? Would that be creepy/weird? What would you suggest I say? "Hey, I know it's been a while...like a long while but I wanted to catch up with you and see what you've been up to?" Even if he is available would my approach weird him out? I should also add that I have messaged him on FB but he hasn't been active in a while and the message is still unread. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | I haven't spoken to a guy in over two years, should I call him to see if he's available for a date? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Omegle and AIM chatting b/w my[24f] bf [25m] and female[22]
POST: Why would a supposed female [22] from Portugal pursue talking(on AIM and email) to a male [25]from the US after talking on Omegle for under 5 minutes? The bf claims it was just friendly conversation and that she suggested it because she had to get offline. He stated the first 5 minute conversation on Omegle was just about basic interests and that they didn't even share information on their physical appearance. Supposedly he talked to her on AIM through his phone for the next couple of months, but just talked about everyday life(though he does have his full real name listed on AIM).
I wouldn't be so curious if the bf didn't hide it from me for over a year. He didn't offer the information on his own. I found out about it when looking up something from our own aim conversation log on his computer (with his permission). He didn't know that a line from their conversation was logged. It was from him to her and said, "Ok, I added you :)" and was the only other AIM conversation he had logged besides mine. I just can't understand what would make her so quick to take the conversation to another level.
I may come back to edit more info as it comes to me. Thank you for reading.
TL;DR: | BF[25] talks to omegle girl[22] for 2 months,hides it for over a year. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: The condom broke...I'm fucking scared.
POST: So...the other night I spent the night at an old friends house. We used to hook up a lot when we're single so I didn't think much when things started getting hot and steamy.
So there we are, lying in bed, he's on top and things are getting good. I mean, he's fabulous in bed and our friendship is so good that we can just have a good time while doing it.
Well, about a week ago I stopped taking birth control because I didn't think I would be having sex with anyone after my bf and I broke up...big mistake.
Well, after about 15 minutes I tell him he can finish when he's ready because I'm good, as long as the condom is on. We make sure it is and he goes at it. A few minutes later he pulls out and I felt this insanely warm sensation and I just thought "oh fuck"...the next thing I here is him saying "now, I don't want you to freak out...but the condom broke"
Fuckkkk
We quickly jump out of bed, I head to the bathroom to clean up throw some clothes on and we hopped in the car to go buy Plan B.
There we are, 3am at CVS buying planB, and trying to joke about it because we both felt extremely awkward as the guy selling it to us was giving us that "I know what you guys just did" look.
Well, I took the planB but I'm still really scared...has this ever happened to anyone else?
I really really am not ready to get pregnant.
TL;DR: | Condom broke, but I took PlanB. Will it be successful? I'm still afraid I could get pregnant. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I (22F) overreacting to catching my BF (23M) masterbating at my house?
POST: My BF and I have been together for a little over a year now. We are currently LD and have been for the last 6 months. He's visiting for Thanksgiving and is here for 5 days. When he's here we have sex at least once a day, but usually two times or more.
Last night he got out of bed at 4am and was in the bathroom for quite awhile so I got up to make sure he was ok and discovered him beating it. Now don't get me wrong, I know obviously be does this when we are not together which is healthy, I do it too. But really? He didn't even try to initiate sex with me. I feel very hurt at the moment but should I? Am I overreacting by feeling hurt and undesired?
TL;DR: | Caught LD BF beating it in my house, he didn't even try to sex me up and I feel bad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [30F] scared of my SO and would like him [28M] to move out, but unsure how to proceed
POST: Here's the problem: I'm afraid of my SO.
I'm not terribly worried about my apartment: I'm the only one on the lease and I pay the rent (in its entirety). Also the one who pays the utilities. His mail is sent here, but that's pretty much as far as it goes in the way of proof of residence.
I'm scared because he has threatened to take my cat in the event I should cheat or hurt him in any way (the vagueness of this threat is what frightens me). I don't really want to go into other things he's said or done- what matters is that I want him to go and to not injure the things that matter most to me (or hold them hostage).
Can someone/ anyone give me some advice on how to break up/ get him to move out without him hurting me/ my cat/ my precious objects? I just..... I feel too embarrassed to talk to my friends, and too scared of my SO to relax in my own home. Is there any way to seek police/ outside help?
Thanks all. Throwaway for obvious throwaway reasons.
TL;DR: | SO has made threats. I want to him to move out, but need advice on the best way to do so. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (20F) and my boyfriend (20M) of 4 years, first kiss advice?
POST: Yes, I know what you're thinking, how can you date someone for 4 years and never kiss them? I wonder the same thing myself sometimes, but I've never really expressed these feelings before.
I met my boyfriend in high school. I was new to the state and he was kind to me, and I eventually developed a crush. I asked him to our turnabout dance and he said yes, and after a few months he asked me on a real date. We've been dating since then.
After about 2 years we went to separate colleges but we decided to stay long distance. We skype at least once a week and we see each other a few times over the summer. It's not more often than that because my parents don't like him and his parents don't like me, it makes things a bit difficult.
We haven't kissed because I was always taught to defer to the guy's judgment and not make any moves, since I had already done the initial asking out. I assumed he was just shy, and after about a year I just forgot about it.
But lately I've been really jealous of couples that kiss outside my dorm, and I wish I could have that with my boyfriend. The next time I see him will be in june, should I wait to discuss it with him then or should I tell him sooner at our next skype call?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I have never kissed, I'm curious about it and don't know if I should bring it up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: So...I have the Army Uniform of a transgendered man who has gone on to be a woman. What do?
POST: My parents are packing up their house and moving out to florida or some such place. This means that my old room is being emptied out and left for the garbage men. I really have no connection to any of this stuff.
However, I have a military suit that I feel has an important history attached to it.
Background: Years ago, an older guy, perhaps in his 40 or even 50's, showed up at my community college. I was part of an LGBT group with my girlfriend and a few friends of mine that was largely just a social gathering of queer kids who enjoyed goofing off around each other. This gentleman joined our club but was obviously looking to meet more mature, older people interested in more mature topics (rights, events, etc.)
He didn't stick around long but stopped by one day and quickly said "Anyone want a military uniform?" I jumped at the chance (as I had quite a collection of military...stuff at the time) but it turned out to be a parade/dress uniform complete with medals and all. It's certainly the real deal and I have a feeling he was purging an old life to begin anew.
I feel that I should respect this suit as much more than just junk in a closet from many moons ago, but I have no idea what to do with it. So...anyone have suggestions?
TL;DR: | I have a military suit from a trans man's past life in my closet and don't know what to do with it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Coworker is trying to sabotage me... Need help.
POST: Hey guys, I work closely with another manager in my department (we are both managers - I recently was promoted to the position) and I know for a fact that she badmouths me to employees (the people I am supposed to be accountable to/for.) and has recently taken to sabotaging me at work. I have already expressed my concerns to the GM and director of operations, and filed a complaint because before I even started the position she had been trash talking me to other employees. So far, she has hidden supplies that I need to do my job, changed standard operating procedures behind my back, and changed the password to our shared notebook (which has documents and backups I need to do my job)... I don't know what to do at this point. I want to take the higher road and just talk to her and tell her she needs to get her act together but I have confronted her before and she always has a convenient excuse. Another part of me wants revenge. Any ideas for me?
TL;DR: | My coworker is trying to sabotage me at work. Need a "creative" solution for how to deal with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: A girl(21F) I really like told me(23M) I did a "Turn and Burn", what does that mean?
POST: We have been texting for about 2 weeks and have had 1 pretty good date, started to slow down and she recently stopped fully responding to my texts 2 days ago. I would say "Good Morning How are you?" and she would respond once, but nothing for the rest of the day, so I decided I would wait for her to text me the next time.
So this morning she texts me and says "Good morning. How are you?" and I replied with "Hi :) I'm doing good, just doing X, Y, and Z today. How are you? You have seemed quiet lately..."
She replied with, "Sorry im not trying to be quiet, u just did a turn and burn." So Im really wondering what that means, I like her a lot and want to continue to get to know her, just wondering if I did something really bad by accident?
TL;DR: | A girl I went a on a date with told me I did a "Turn and Burn" after we slowed down texting. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My Girlfriend Thinks I Just Love Her For Her Body
POST: We're both 16, been officially going out for just a month, but I've loved her for over a year and she's loved me for just under a year. I can't exactly pinpoint WHY I love her- There's just something about her, it's just so amazing and wonderful. I love her so much, and I really don't know why. She thinks I just love her for her body all of the sudden, and she thinks I'm lying that I can't pinpoint why I love her. I'm thinking this is caused by her ex boyfriends all just wanting her sexually, but I know for a damn good fact that it's not the only reason I love her.
TL;DR: | My gf thinks I just want her body, but I don't. Past boyfriends did, but I don't. 16 y/o. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: My girlfriend [23] of 8 years left me [25] for another guy.
POST: We have been living together for 2 years and just moved in to a new house.
I don't understand why someone could throw a relationship like that away. I didn't really see it coming.
She left me on saturday and I'm going to talk to her tonight because I have remaining questions.
She didn't tell me she has someone else but I found out through her family and friends. I will confront her tonight.
But how will I get over all this? Will I be able to trust again? The woman of my life cheated on me, I never
thought this possible from her.
TL;DR: | I got cheated on after 8 years, how do I cope, how do I move on and how can I ever trust again? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I need to refinance an inherited home and I don't have any recent wage income. I do however have plenty of equity. Details inside.
POST: Long story short, several years ago I was living on the other side of the planet working a professional job. My mother fell ill and I came to be with her with the hopes that she would recover. She never did, and shortly died thereafter. I inherited her house and some other modest assets. I also received a small pension based on some provision in her retirement contract that as her sole beneficiary I receive for life. It's about $800. So the house has a market value of about $170,000 and there is an existing lien on the estate for $32,000. During the past 2 years I went to graduate school and haven't had any income and have collected an unsustainable amount of credit card debt. I finished graduate school and now believe I should have a job within the next few months. I want to borrow 60000 to pay off credit debt and get the lien off of the estate and in my own name.
TL;DR: | With my lack of recent income, can I refinance a house worth 170,000 for 60,000 with much problem? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by talking in my sleep
POST: So basically there's this cute girl in my school bus who I apparently have a huge crush on let's just call her Natalie. Natalie and I usually sit at the same spot in the bus almost everyday we talk a little bit but usually it would be awkward. Last night I was sleeping and naturally spoke out the words "Natalie" and "come here" in my sleep not knowing that my mom was right there listening to me speak the entire time. The next morning during breakfast my mom brought up the "Who's this Natalie?" question I was terrified and embarrassed telling her it was nobody and was nothing to worry about. She was way to suspicious to take that as an excuse as I was off to my bus she followed me, went up as well and asked the driver if there was anyone in the bus named Natalie at literally the top of her voice as if she was shouting at the driver. Confused, the driver pointed out to Natalie who was embarrassed and probably mad as well. I had to sit next to Natalie the entire trip, she wouldn't look at me which is understandable.
TL;DR: | Blurted my crushes name while I was asleep, mom went to find out by asking the entire school bus. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by loudly singing "Dick in a box" while I ran.
POST: So I was running to the gym like I usually do, and on the way I had my Nike+ app turned on and my headphones in and I was jamming. As I was running down one road to get off base, there's another path that curves around some foliage that makes it impossible to see other people walking. Be that as it may, I had no shame to sing along to one of my favorite songs by the Lonely Island, "Dick in a box".
As I'm running down this road, it's the beginning of my run and I still had a lot of stamina, so I had all of my breath with me and wasn't panting, therefore, my singing was extremely loud. Of course, as life would have it, a group of people were walking around that other path, and as I reached the intersection I see them laughing their asses off.
Caught, with nothing else to say I go for the Canadian approach and say, "sorry it's my jam" and sprint off to get away from the scene.
It was a good day lol.
TL;DR: | I was singing dick in a box while I ran to the gym and people heard me and laughed at/with me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 18F met a great 19M in college, but we can't look at the relationship long term?
POST: I know it's early to look at long term effects in our relationship, but I think it's important. I started dating a 19M in college. We're in the "limbo" stage, we're dating and we really like each other but we haven't known each other for very long so we aren't official/exclusive yet.
I was thinking about our relationship and remembered that he said he wanted to live in China. He is fluent in Chinese and said he would rather live there than in the US. I've begun to think about this a lot and don't know how I feel about it.
The answer I'm expecting to get is "It's just college, date whoever you want!" but I'm looking for something a bit more...constructive I suppose.
TL;DR: | 19M wants to live in China long term, I don't know how I feel about us dating because of it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by eating an entire bag of "lava hot" beef jerky
POST: It was actually last night, but I didn't know it would effect me this bad.
Anyway, last night I worked at a local race track handing out college information. I stopped at a local store to grab a drink and some snacks. I saw a bag of lava hot beef jerky, since I like spicy food I grabbed it. Well, I get to the track and I begin munching on the this lava beef jerky. It was somewhat spicy, nothing bad. I end up eating the entire bag in about an hour. I finish my duties at the speedway and head home. Fast forward to around 830 this morning and I'm awoken by this burning sensation in my gut. So I head to the bathroom to relieve myself and relieve myself I did. It was as if I was shitting pure lava. The burning sensation that came from my sphincter was terrible. I sat on the toilet for a good 30mins. Just spewing hot molten lava beef jerky from my ass. After finishing, I was able to go about my business...for about 15min before spewing more lava. This happened about 3 more times before I had finally shit all of the hot lava beef jerky from my ass.
TL;DR: | ate a bag of lava hot beef jerky last night. Spewed hot lava jerky from my ass 5 times before 10am. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: I just want to get over it. But I don't...
POST: Hello reddit. My 23 year old boyfriend and I (20, female) just split. We dated officially for nine months, but liked each other for about a year and a half. The relationship got to that point where we were constantly fighting and breaking up all the time, and he finally put an end to it.
The problem is, he put an end to it right when I fell in love with him. I'm heart broken. It's been a month, and it still hurts like it happened yesterday. I'm still a mess. I want to move on, but at the same time...I don't. I told him I wanted to be friends, honestly, probably out of a desperate plea to just have an excuse to talk to him and maybe have a chance of getting back together.
Does anybody else find themselves confused like this after a break up? What the hell do we do :(
TL;DR: | bf and I split, as much as I know I need to move on, I choose not to - advice or do you relate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] have a date [17 F] on friday. First date tips?
POST: I have talked with this girl for a while. I really like her and we have had a class for the semester but did not really talk too much in class, but we started to talk near the end of the semester. She hinted she wanted something that I won and I gave it to her a few weeks back. She then gave me back something in return when we had a secret santa kind of thing in class last week.
I got her number on the last day of class. We stayed after school and talked for about thirty minutes and got to know each other a little better and she had good vibes.
I texted her that I wanted to take her out friday night after finals (we would never see each other again so I had to ask over text(I couldn't call either because she uses an ipod to text)). She accepted and seemed to be excited. I am taking her to a light event show this friday night, and it will be cold outside, but fun none of the less because we both haven't been to it before.
How do I elevate the moment to hold her hand etc.?
TL;DR: | Have talked to her for a bit, good vibes, got her number, asked her out. How do I escalate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my bf [28M] together 2 years. I lied to him about how many sexual partners I've had, and I feel like I need to tell him.
POST: Hey guys,
As the title states, I've lied straight to my boyfriend's face about how many past sexual partners I've had. I told him 3 including himself, while in reality it's 7. Initially when this came up, he asked me about my "number," and feeling self conscious and scared of being judged for my promiscuity, I lied to him.
I know some will tell me that my number is none of his business anyways, but the point is that I lied to him. I want to be able to be honest about everything with him, and I can't do that while this is lingering on my mind. He is a wonderful friend, partner, and the sweetest guy I know. He deserves the truth.
So reddit.. How do I tell him? I know he will trust me less after this, but this had to be addressed before we get more serious. We've both been talking about marriage and want to build a life together, but I feel he needs to know the truth before making a decision. I would appreciate any advice/insight from all perspectives!
TL;DR: | Lied to my bf about how many sexual partners I've had. How should I tell him the truth? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU My hungover dad just woke up from me accidently burning his soccer blanket
POST: Ive been working on a homemade laser for past 2 weeks,and i finished just a couple hours ago. As the child I am i wanted to try out on something thats not mine.
My dad was hardcore drinking last night so he slept like at 12 am or something like that. He was watching soccer game and raging really hard since his shitty team was losing. This should give you idea of the person he is.
So as i finished my laser i thought id do him a favor by changing design with my laser since after trying on cloth it changes color a little( ik what color switches what so there was no problem in having wierd coloring). So i just put mini jank laser over the insignia and it catches straight on fire.
I messed with device a little before hand to make it stronger and faster. But that shit didnt work,suddenly a burning mexican flag is in front of me and stanking.
Idk what to grab so i for some reason grab a plate and smash it right over the flag thinking hitting it would stop the burning. Now i have a fucking plate destroyed and a dead fucking flag. My dad is half fledge awake from hungover and yelling spanish curse words.
I find fire extinguisher and put the nail on the coffin to his shitty flag. I got backhanded but in the end it's slightly funny since im in my room giggling.
TL;DR: | Make homemade laser,burn dad favorite flag,he rages,i get slapped. Now in room reading reddit shit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] Had second date with [24 F] this monday, kissed her and haven't heard from her since.
POST: I had the first date with this girl last thursdag, and we decided to have a second date this monday. She proposed that we got some take-out sushi so we did and ended up at my place. We eat, talked and saw a movie. When she was a about to leave we hugged and I went in for the kiss. In my opinion it was an awkward kiss. She leaved and I had the feeling she was in a hurry. I texted her and asked to text when she was home safe, she did and texted "Thanks for a good evening". So I feel a bit creepy and I actually haven't texted her, and she never texted me. Common sense probably is that I strike up a "Hi" text, but I want a second opinion
TL;DR: | Kissed a girl on second date. Kiss was awkward haven't texted with each other for four-five days. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19M] broke up with girl of my dreams [21F] now I'm depressed and everything reminds me of her
POST: She and I were together for 3 years, in my eyes she's the most beautiful, caring and life-loving person I've ever seen. But for reasons which would require a very long story we had to break up. It was on good terms, but I can't not see myself with her. It's been 3 months since we broke up.
I really wanted to marry her, and I feel like it's her or nobody. I can't claim to know how my life will turn out though so I want to get back to the point where if God puts the right person in front of me I won't be too stubborn and caught up on what I can't have to go for who I'm meant to be with.
But,
Everything, *everything* reminds me of her, hands, yellow cars, coffee, old spice, video games, pizza, nice clothing, dogs. Whatever, and it sucks cause I'm trying my hardest to *not* think of what we had. It just sucks.
It's hard rewiring your thinking. I had it so nearly everything reminded me of her and life was so beautiful and everything made me smile but now not it's the other way around..
Anyone else had a similar experience? What got you through it? How did you get better? Would you be ever so kind as to give me some tips?
TL;DR: | loved girl, wanted to marry, can't, broke up, sad, very sad, want not be sad, how can not be sad? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My (21/F) boyfriend (23/M) of nine months has left the country for a month. How do I deal with the loneliness?
POST: I know it sounds kind of lame, but he's only been gone three days, and already I'm feeling lonely. We can message back and forth a little bit, but he's normally my rock, and I have finals and performances coming up, and I'm afraid the stress will overwhelm me completely without him here.
He's pretty much my best friend, and looking forward to spend the weekend with him always keeps me going.
Also, he went to jail for an month this summer, and that in conjunction with a few other factors led to depression while he was gone. I know it's not healthy, and I just want to work at avoiding it.
TL;DR: | I start to get lonely/depressed when boyfriend is gone for a long time, how do I cope with it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Final update: Fired because my coworkers knew my pay rate.
POST: First off I'd like to thank everyone here for their advice and assistance in getting this taken care of.
In July I was fired from my position because my coworkers knew my hourly rate, and my boss at the time had forbidden anyone to discuss that information. I knew this was illegal so I asked all of you what I should do, and you came through. One of the first suggestions I got was to contact the NLRB, and that's exactly what I did. I didn't end up contacting a lawyer on my own and ended up just going through the NLRB, but they were pretty awesome about the whole thing. I definitely felt like they had my back the whole time and they were very helpful and professional. They appointed me a lawyer for the case and we were preparing for trial next month when the company decided to settle. I got back pay plus interest, the company has to post a notice telling everyone they were wrong and that they're allowed to talk about pay, and they had to offer me my position back (which I declined).
So seriously thank you all. I wouldn't have known where to start without this sub.
TL;DR: | Company did something illegal, asked r/legaladvice what to do, got advice, took advice, got paid. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: I just had my first day and I love my job.
POST: So I'm 16 and after a very long time of wanting a job and months of applying and interviewing, I finally started my first day as a bagger at my local grocery store yesterday. I worked an 8 hour shift from 10:00-6:00, and honestly had pretty little useful training and little to no orientation before starting my job.
I love it. The first few bags were not too great, but I got the hang of it pretty quickly. It's never boring, and some of the customers are entertaining as hell.
Just on my first day I:
-Dealt with a lady that could have been on extreme couponers but put back $200 worth of groceries
-Had to carry 2 carts/$600 worth of groceries out to an elderly woman's car
-Had to clean up a tomato basil sauce spill with just paper towels
-Had to retrieve a child from the cart corral
-Had to drive a power scooter back from the parking lot
And it only starts there. My coworkers are hilarious and in a lot of ways practically caricatures of different nationalities/ethnicities. Customers are generally nice, but my manager is quick to handle the rude ones (who are more passive-aggressive than confrontational).
TL;DR: | Started my first day as a bagger yesterday with an 8 hour shift. It was trial by fire. I love it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] with my best[21F] 11years, i feel insecure around my bff all the time and i don't know how to fix it.
POST: So first off, this is entirely my issue. My best friend Elaina has never said or done anything to contribute to this, it's just me. In fact she's always been supportive, complimenting me when I get new clothes or if my make up looks nice.
Elaina is super pretty, like she's incredibly cute. I'm overweight, with messy hair and glasses. Every time I'm around her I keep comparing myself to her and I feel terrible about myself.
It's even worse because we often hang out in public and I compare who gets more attention from other people. Or if she's telling me about how a guy at work hit on her or asked for her number I get jealous especially because I haven't been asked out since last year. (She's a waitress so she often meets new people.)
I'm trying to work on fixing myself--I've improved my makeup, I try to dress better and get contacts. I joined a gym and I'm trying to eat healthier. I just don't know how to improve the way I'm thinking, I'm worried that it's going to lead to resentment on my part, even subconsciously and I don't want to ruin our friendship.
TL;DR: | My friend's incredibly hot. I'm not. How do I fix my self-esteem so it doesn't ruin our friendship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (23F) with my BF (24M): how to tactfully get him to leave the house?
POST: We've been living together for 10 months now and everything's great! I just have a small issue - he pretty much never leaves the house. We both have full time jobs and friends in the area. At least a couple times a week, I will go out with friends or visit my parents. He, on the other hand, never leaves the house. He's there when I leave and when I come back.
I want to bring this up in a tactful manner, especially because his friends came over last week to watch South Park, and I'm concerned it might become a weekly thing. Not that I would mind all that much, it just would be cool if they could host as his friends live together and then I could also get some me time!
TL;DR: | want to tell my bf nicely he should get out of the house once a week so I can be alone in it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How I [30/F] should respond to newly-broken-up-with ex [36/F]
POST: Yesterday, I finally broke up with my girlfriend of a few months because she:
a) ignored my birthday (except for a short text and FB post)
b) pretty much blew off the news of an amazing new job I got
c) didn't acknowledge my hurt feelings with the above two
d) didn't show much interest in sleeping together (we'd only slept together once, and she kept making ambiguous excuses for every other time)
e) was selfish in conversations and kept turning it back onto herself
Needless to say, I'm pretty happy with my decision and feel like a weight's been lifted off my shoulders. I'm FREE! But I'm also sad, too, because I invested a lot emotionally into this (admittedly short-lived) relationship.
She just texted an hour ago, saying, "Did you still want me to look for skis for you?" When we were together, I'd mentioned how badly I wanted to get back into skiing this winter (I broke my leg badly last year) but was on a tight budget for skis. She has hookups because she's a ski/snowboard patroller, and I don't know much about picking out good skis.
How do I respond to this? Or should I even respond at all?
TL;DR: | Broke up with gf yesterday, she texted this evening to ask if I wanted her help in buying skis. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by stepping in barf.
POST: So today I attended a bonfire, I came from target straight to the beach in normal clothes. It was really fun with the waves and flashing lights, anyways be and mind I was wet already from running for the waves.
Time past in discomfort, with sand pratically up my ass. I am leaving now barefoot since I didn't have sandals and didn't want to get my shoes sandy.
Here comes the FU I realized in the back of my car I have an extra pair of shorts so I dont have to sit in discomfort. I proceed to get the shorts, but in the corner of my eye I see a female, so nope I walk across my car and step on a foul chunky burf puddle. I am not gonna lie I screamed a tad bit. I cleaned it off with cardboard I found on the floor. Anyways I am never going to the beach ever.
TL;DR: | went to bonfire in street atire, became barefoot steped on barf on the way to the car. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my SO [17 F] of 1 year, are in risk and in need of help
POST: Recently I have gotten myself into trouble for reasons I would rather not go into detail about. Let's just say I'm an idiot. Because of this, he wants to tell my SO's mom; A Jahova's Witness.
This is where the problems begin. Myself being Agnostic, it would be something of a sin for her to see me. Beyond the religion aspect of it, her mother goes further by not letting her talk to boys at all period. Not even a whisper.
As much detail as I can give you, I will say that she has been seen talking to me before, and this has stirred some problems but not much. However if the mom knows that we talk in full, it could be something of a mess, taking her phone away, not letting her out. Etc. We did plan on telling her mother when we were 18 which is about 6 months away at this point.
It's also worth mentioning texting has been our main communication since we clearly cannot see each other as often as we would like, even though about 2 or 3 times every 3 weeks, we get to spend about 2 hours together at most.
I know this is probably as facepalm worthy as it gets, I must come off as pathetic, but some guidance or advice or insight would really help me out right now. Thank you for your time and help.
TL;DR: | I got in some trouble, and my Step-father will be telling her mom about us, putting us at risk. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with a new friend [32 F] for a week... should I tell her how young I am??
POST: I met this girl a few weeks ago, and we've been hanging out a lot and chatting all the time. She's really great. Totally platonic stuff, and I'm pretty sure I'm not interested in anything romantic for now.
I'm pretty damn sure she thinks I'm a fair amount older than I actually am. Apparently I act/look much older than I am or something, because this happens to me a lot. And most of my good friends end up being 3+ years older than me.
In the past, I've run into a few situations where otherwise cool/fun people sort of lose respect for me when they discover I'm way younger than they think. Like, I was watching Spongebob and hadn't even hit puberty when this girl was already done with college. I just don't know if that's gonna freak her out to find out.
I know the obvious advice would be, "If someone is gonna judge you that hard on your age alone, you shouldn't be friends with them". But in reality I think most people I know would *want* to be able not judge someone based on age, but honestly it can be a hard thing to do. I know if I met someone that I thought was my age but turned out to be like 15, I would definitely think of them differently, even though I know that's not really the best thing to do.
So should I tell her? And if so, how? Is this even worth worrying about?
TL;DR: | Girl is a 50% older than me, but she doesn't realize it. Worried she might freak if she finds out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Would it be appropriate for me (24m) to apologize to my friend (21f) through text?
POST: Long story short, I've been acting like an entitled dick to a friend I've been interested in. The storm is over and some time has passed and we're going to see each other again pretty soon.
It's time for me to clear the air and own up to my bad behavior, just don't know if I should do it face to face or text her.
One of our issues was she didn't like dealing with heavy topics face to face, she'd get uncomfortable about it and end up being closed off. That's the only reason I'm considering doing this through text, otherwise it would be an in-person thing.
TL;DR: | I'm saying "sorry" for a sort of big fuck up, is it okay to do it through a text? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my Girlfriend [20F] of 1 year, I'm not sure how I feel.
POST: Ok so I met this girl online, we chatted for awhile and eventually decided to try a LDR. This was all probably my fault considering I'm really bad at being honest because I don't wanna hurt people's feelings.
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We've been together for a year now and we take 10 hour bus rides to visit each other now and then. Everything is great mostly, amazing sex, we always have fun together, she has a great personality and she is very pretty. We click on a lot of levels.
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What gets me is I'm still not sure for some reason, she's made it clear that she is 100% committed to me and wants to spend her life with me and I believe her. I told her I felt the same. Sometimes I'm not sure though.
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We broke up once and it absolutely destroyed her, she's a habitual cutter and she told me she almost killed herself before we got back together and to this day she sometimes breaks into tears over how bad our split hurt her.
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The other problem is that she and I have been working on my sex addiction and I'm afraid that I'm going to cheat on her. My emotions are a mess and I don't know what I want. If I leave her though I'm afraid she's going to hurt herself or completely sink into depression again.
TL;DR: | I can't leave because I fear for her safety. Plus I'm not sure if I want to leave at all. HELP? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 27f: I can't stop picking on my husband 27m.
POST: Before you think I'm abusive (seriously, am I?) let me clarify. I've always been physical with my best friends. I grew up mostly being friends with guys, and we were always pushing and shoving each other or calling each other names. That's carried forward into my marriage, and I can't shake it. I'm always poking at him or calling him some new nickname, it's extremely juvenile, and he doesn't always like it, and has often asked me to stop. I make every effort to, but it always comes back to it, so here I am asking for advice.
Also, I've never been good with intimacy. I'm not a hugger or a
cuddler, and I hate making out and foreplay. When I want sex I just want sex. These things combine together to make my husband think my feelings are wavering, despite the complete opposite in my head.
TL;DR: | I treat my husband like my best buddy, not like a lover, and it's hurting him. Help me please. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] want a nice car.
POST: Please note: The reason I did not post this in r/finance was because the issue at hand is not finances (or finance trouble) specifically.
My wife [22F] and I both work great jobs as engineers, pulling in around $165k/year income. Ever since I was a teenager, I've wanted a particular car - around $38k car. I'm extremely passionate about cars, and this has been my dream for as long as I can remember. My wife has been overly supportive of this - she wants to see me happy and she wants to make this happen for me, and we have the finances (and emergency savings) to do so. The problem is that I feel rotten about potentially spending that much money on myself while she seemly gets left in the dust. She doesn't have many hobbies, and certainly not any interests that would require this much money. Am I just in feeling rotten about this purchase? I don't know how to make this up to her. I realize that marriage isn't always "I did 'x' for you, so I deserve equal 'y'", but still; it feels selfish. This could potentially postpone buying a house, which means more to her than it does to me. She is fine and supportive of buying it before buying a house, but I still feel rotten for accepting it.
TL;DR: | I want a nice car, wife is supportive but it makes me feel rotten, like I'm hogging the finances. |
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