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SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by giving Dragon Ball: Evolution another shot.
POST: That just happened like two hours ago.
I was browsing the web mindlessly, came across some Dragon Ball Z clips and figured why not put in my Dragon Ball Evolution BluRay (cause, why not?). Beeing a life-long fan of the entire franchise and having consumed all of the TV Series and Manga (Comics) several times I figured "Alright, let's try that one again. It's been -almost- 6 years since the last time."
What could go wrong, amirite?
Around 40 minutes into the movie I kick my computer so hard that the power cable breaks out which results in a short circuit and ultimately everything..just..goes..dark. Blackout !!
TL;DR: | Huge Dragon Ball fan gives Evolution (2009) another chance after 6 years. Kicks computer out of desperation and causes power outage (loss of electricity) in the whole house. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting a glass of tea
POST: Because I had today off, I decided to spend part of it lounging out in the back yard while waiting for my girlfriend to get home. I set up my hammock, grabbed a book and some bug spray, and headed out. After being out for a bit the heat started to get to me so I came back inside to get a glass of iced tea.
I decided that because I was going to be the in hammock, a straw would be my best option. I quickly located my giant amusement park cup like this [one] This cup hadn't been used since last summer when I got the cup. But it had been washed and in the cupboard so it should have been fine...
I filled it with tea, walked back outside, got in the hammock, and took a BIG gulp. Everything was fine.
Two, three more smaller gulps... do I have a hair on my tongue?
Four, five more sips...actually, it might be paper?
It's now that I start to realize that something is seriously wrong. I spit out the papery textured thing in to my hand and look at the filth before me. The straw, which must have still been wet when it got put in the cupboard had been growing globs of mold for 11 months. And I had just swallowed 80% of it in my giant gulps.
My stomach immediately begins to churn and I can feel the vomit coming up. I run inside to the bathroom and expel what can only be described as chunks of black and green death. Even the worst stomach virus has never caused me to violently vomit as much as this has.
Even the idea of drinking tea gives me the urge to gag now.
TL;DR: | Drank from a straw that had 11 months of mold stored inside. Vomited like no one has ever vomited before. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: My ex-girlfriend [F 20] of three months just told me [M 20] that she is pregnant.
POST: My ex-girlfriend and I dated for over two years. The last time that we had sex was 3 months ago after we were both drunk and I thought it was a good idea to finish inside of her. I wasn't really worried at the time because she was on birth control and I did it once before and nothing came of it. I was forced to break up with her a few weeks later because she really liked one of my friends from high school and wanted to try and date him (They had been talking for the past year and a half and she has always liked him but never got over him like I tried to get her too). Anyway I was really upset and we rarely talked for the next two months. I was finally feeling over her when I get the text one day where she tells me that I may be a father. I wasn't convinced because I knew she had taken a pregnancy test that came back negative before and I knew that she and my old friend had had sex. Well it turns out that she is 3 months pregnant and theres probably a 99% chance that I'm the father. She had begged for me to get back together even before she knew she was pregnant but I told her no. She tried again once she found out she was but I ended up getting pretty mad and telling her that she needed to have an abortion. I apologized a few days later and wanted to try and work something out but now she wants nothing to do with me. I have no idea what I should do. We're both currently sophomores in college and do not want a baby right now, and I really don't want anything to do with her anymore. I would love to just say okay and let her handle everything but I don't think I can do that with a clean conscious. Do I wait until she comes to me for help? Do I try and talk to her? Do I let her do what she wants and not worry about it? Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: | My ex-girlfriend tells me she is pregnant 3 months after we broke up but she says she doesn't want my help. Any advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] got dumped by my EXGF [24F] of 1 year, and I still think about her and her daughter. it's been over 2 years. Is this normal?
POST: So about two and a half years ago, I (17 at the time) began dating my coworker (21). I got along really well with her, her 9 month old daughter, and her brother who lived with her. Everything went great for about a year, and then right after the new year, she dumps me out of the blue. About a week later, she quits her job and starts going out with a different guy.
I was pretty sure I had moved past it (many crushes, and another gf during the last 2 years) but every month or so I catch myself really wanting to talk to her/see her again.
TL;DR: | I think I still have feelings for my ex from 2 years ago who was emotionally abusive and dumped me out of the blue to go out with a different guy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: FWB [26M] is confusing me [20F], but I'm having too much fun to break it off
POST: Hey /r/relationships,
I've been in a FWB situation for about 2 weeks, and I'm starting to get really confused about my feelings. The FWB and I have tons of fun together, have a lot in common, and have *amazing* sex. However, I got out of relationship 2 months ago, and I've been really embracing single life (being independent, "finding myself" etc.). I think a relationship right now would be emotionally and mentally exhausting.
Me and the FWB hang out a few times a week, and I sleep over every time. He makes me breakfast, drives me back to my place and gives me a goodbye kiss every time I leave. I don't know how to analyze this.
I have NO IDEA what his intentions are with me. Honestly, he's kind of out of my league (or maybe I'm just insecure). I don't know why an awesome (that's the best way I can describe him), 26 year old would want to be with a college gal. I mean he finds me really attractive and says I'm really cool. But overall, he seems like the kind of guy who isn't into committing to one person.
Our situation feels pretty reminiscent of the "puppy love" stage of a relationship. But I have no idea where it's headed. If I end up falling for this guy, I'm afraid to get hurt. Even if we end up falling for each other, I still don't think I'm ready for full fledged relationship because I'm so busy with school/work and also have a lot of self-improvement I need to work on. It seems like the best thing to do is to break it off before we're in too deep...but it's SUPER FUN.
TL;DR: | Don't want FWB situation to turn into anything serious, but don't want to break it off because it's really fun. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My cousin [18 F] is talking to me [17 M] a lot. An awful lot...
POST: Right, I have a cousin. She is eighteen and in university at the other side of the country. Since we were really young we've been basically close friends, despite her living miles away. We'd keep in touch through text or Facebook but in the past 3 or 4 months we've been talking a lot more.
She's started talking to me about her relationship issues and problems with uni, and normally I'll listen and help when I can. And she's asking me about school and my friends etc. But she's messaging me quite a lot, too much in fact.
It'll be a Tweet about me in the morning before I go to school, then at lunch I'll get a few snapchats off of her, then it'll be around 11 at night, and I'll be dozing off listening to music on Spotify, and she'll pop up on Facebook. But she won't take "I'm trying to sleep, I have to be up early" as an excuse, she'll just keep messaging me about her problems until I reply. It's like I'm trying to give her a hint that I can't talk to her 24/7, but she's not picking up on it.
I'll be honest I don't know if I'm making any sense. It's late here but she's messaging away and I've had enough basically. I don't want to stop talking to her all together I just want her to back off a smidgeon...
TL;DR: | She messages me online regularly every day, too much for me to take. I kinda want some space but I don't want to lose touch with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: My Dad had a heart attack and we are looking for a proper dog for him.
POST: Hello /r/dogs, my dad had a heart attack a while ago. He's quite overweight, decided to continue smoking and is physically not active at all - which also comes from other problems in knee and back. He has, however, a strong desire to get a dog. Which I completely approve of, for getting him out of the house to go against his depressive state, exercise and maybe even lose some weight.
He has wanted to get a Chow-Chow for a long time, but he'd be also open to getting a Labrador. What I read about Labs is great (kind, therapeutic, will to please, needs to be walked for 2*half an hour a day), and is my fav so far.
My google-research so far hasn't gotten me much, only that dogs might help to *prevent* heart diseases and that dogs can get them too. What I'm afraid of is that a dog might stress him out and higher my Dad's risk of getting another one. For he will only be able to go walk with the dog half to a whole hour a day in the beginning. Which is close regarding the Lab.
So my question is (also
TL;DR: | I guess), **do you have any information about dogs being suited for a life after a heart attack? And what about Chow-Chows and Labradors?** |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Sharing a bathroom with an older sister
POST: My older sister, like many others I'm sure, has many hair products and devices. I get it, you wanna look nice and long hair requires up keep. All I ask is that you clean up after yourself, especially if you use my sink. Not too big of a request right? Apparently it was because I consistently had to put away hair dryers, straighteners, mouse, etc. I keep asking for her to put her stuff away, and she says she'll do it. And every freakin time she'll just leave for work without doing it. My parents will walk into the bathroom and make me clean it up immediately because they like things clean and I'm the only one there at the moment. It's so frustrating. So one morning I saw her stuff out, hair in my sink, and see that she used my brush and left all of her shed hair wrapped up in it. My revenge? I take her hair straightener and use it on mah pubes.
TL;DR: | Sister leaves hair shit everywhere. Always ask her to put it away. Never does. Use her shit to make a beautiful lion's mane in my pants. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Could i be sued? (Hypothetical Question),(Games Development)
POST: This is just a hypothetical question iv'e been wondering about for some time.
Ok so, in the game "Grand Theft Auto" Particularly 4 and 5 they have cars in the game that are usually a mix of two different cars in real life, I thought they just did this for a humorous spin off (you know, rockstar being rockstar) but the other day i heard that they did this because they didn't want to be sued for copyright as such. So i thought if i was making a game and included a in-game vehicle that was 1:1 identical to a car in real life but i didn't put the badge/brand on said vehicle could i still be sued for using the vehicles design. Also movies do this as well, for example in the transformers movies they have cars in the background that have been de-badged and i as far as i know they haven't been sued?
I used to think/currently think that -
1) recreating a brand/product in something like a movie or game was just free advertising.
2) recreating a brand/product in a movie or game doesn't fall under the category of copyright because the end-user can't physically use that brand/product and isn't getting the full experience of said brand/product, I could understand with using a song because the end-user is listening to said song and IS getting the full experience, but not with a car for example in a video game. they can't actually drive that car in real life and doesn't remotely compare to driving said car in real life.
All that being said could someone clear things up and explain to me why the 2 reasons above are completely wrong, Thanks.
TL;DR: | Can i be sued by a car manufacturer for making a car in a game and selling said game, even without using the car manufacturers name/brand. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] want to start dating a girl [23F] I really like, but I hooked up with someone recently. Will she care?
POST: So I'm formally in a relationship with Mary but I think I'm going to ask her out soon. Meanwhile, I went out and hooked up with a rando (not something I normally do). Normally I would tell Mary about what's going on in my life, but I will definitely leave this story out. She knows I don't normally hook up with people and I feel like it would be *really* bad form to say I did and then ask her on a date a week later.
My question is: Should this worry me at all? I have a feeling that most people are going to say: "no! you weren't dating yet." It's conceivable she'll find out (but unlikely). Either way, I'm wondering if this is something that would bother a girl. I have a feeling it might. So what do you think?
Should I never tell her? There's other things I could do. I could mention it, say how actually I don't want to hook up with people and want a relationship, and then ask her out down the line. This might be overthinking it but I'd just like a read on whether you guys think it will matter.
TL;DR: | Hooked up with someone casually. Now want to ask out someone I really like. Wondering if these two things are happening too close together (within a couple of days). |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Crush [f/20] agreed to fly to meet me [m/25] but unsure if I should tell her that I intend to ask her out on romantic dates
POST: My online crush, who I've already confessed I like long ago, agreed to come stay at my place for a week. I have to fly her across the country, but she wants to meet me in person and enjoys the idea of seeing a big city since she's from a rural area. She laughs at pretty much everything I say, is pretty open with me, receptive to my flirts (as an example, I could make an innuendo about her sleeping in my bed and she may reply with "works for me! :3" without sarcasm but with playfulness) is generally open to me, talks to me daily, has almost identical tastes and humor as I do, etc. I feel we connect really well, but she never told me if she actually likes me in return or not. She had a positive reaction to me confessing, by putting up a blush emoticon, saying she had no idea, and apologizing for her lack of experience with dating; but then we went off tangent to talk about how it's so easy to not notice someone likes you even if they make it obvious.
So, I'm seeing her in two weeks but I'm really anxious to know if she really is seeing this as a kind of sate thing of friendly thing. I don't want to potentially ruin her experience over here for my selfishness by making my intentions know and pitting pressure on her, but I really want her to know that I plan on taking her to actual date dates while with me. I plan to just say it briefly and to the point, like " you know that I'm going to take you out on actual dates when you come here, right? Just so we're clear."
She's used to me being a little assertive so it isn't weird that I worded it more like a command than a question. I usually do that with these kinds of things; I'm confident she DOES like me but just want certainty. I do know that she has never dated before but has rejected a lot of guys, so I guess that's messing with my confidence a little.
TL;DR: | Don't know if I should be blunt and tell my crush who's flying to see me that I plan on asking her on dates when she sees me, don't even know if she actually likes me that way. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 24m chasing my ex 21f.
POST: Alright guys, I've been in a relationship for 3.5 years with my loving girlfriend. I had it all. I got scared of being trapped, and I upped and left her. It was the single worst mistake I've ever made with her. She got with someone else, once after I did. Now, we're seeing eachother again.
She doesn't want to make it fb official until everything is right. Weve been together since I was 20 and she was 17. I love this girl. I thought I knew what I wanted when I made my decision to leave her. But now we are seeing eachother again and I know that if I don't do this right, I'll regret it for the rest of my life. I love this girl unconditionally and I know she cares for me back.
My question is, I think, is if I'm just crazy? I know I'm young and that I'm in a sea of cock hungry women and all that but I don't want to just throw the D around. I want a relationship that means something. I believe this girl is the one. We have so much fun, we laugh a lot, she thinks I'm great. But she is hesitant to make it official. I would like to blow her away and I'm treating the whole being official thing as though I am kind of proposing. Like I want to come up with a diamond necklace and make a fancy box and everything.
This is a throwaway, but it's my first post, and I'm waiting to go to work. I would love to hear thoughts or anything. Ideas on what I shoul do? Any females that know kind of what this is like?
She's with a friend right now, and won't communicate at all when she's with this friend because she doesn't like me. That's a whole other issue, how do I handle the friends who think I'm a jackass?
I appreciate any feedback, I'd love to hear anyone's opinion. If needed, I can provide more information.
TL;DR: | I broke up with this girl after 3.5 years, want her back, things going okay but want to make them better. The sex is good, too. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22F) am a new manager. Two girls who are supposed to be under me (22 and 20) are purposely undermining and subverting me, making me look bad. How do I handle this?
POST: I'm in retail. I'm a new assistant manager at a company that I love. I have a good salary, and even though I work long hours, I really do like my job. My store has three ASMs. Before me, no one was in my specialized position, so the SM had the two keyholders basically partner off on it. Now that I've taken over, they have a serious issue with me.
Part of it, I know, is an age thing- the other three managers are mid to late 30s. I'm not inexperienced, however, and I do my job well. But when I'm closing a register, they'll step in front of me to "help". I was leading a meeting last week and they kept hushing me. And the other two ASMs have both had to cut them off when they trash talk me to associates. If I'm closing and say "I need you to _____", they'll either tell an associate to do it, tell me to do it, or just not do it at all. It's gotten bad enough that I locked myself in my office the other day to cry after one bitch ranted at me. This is my first management job and first full time job out of college and I'm not sure how to handle this.
The other two ASMs have noticed and are seriously pissed about. But my manager is not super authoritative and, while aware of the issue, I'm not sure she's going to do anything. Both of these girls have been with the company twice as long as I have (6 as opposed to 3 months). I love my job, and I hate this bullshit. What can I do while waiting for my manager to talk to them in order to head this shit off?
TL;DR: | Keyholders at work keep undermining me (new assistant manager close to their age). It's my first management job and I don't know how to handle it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] just got broken up out of the blue with by my girlfriend of a year [21 F] because she wants her space. Need advice on what to do.
POST: Me and my now ex girlfriend were together for a year. She took a vacation for two weeks and came back saying we needed to talk. She explained that she was upset because she wasn't feeling desired and that she needed her space to think about herself and her life.
We decided to work on it for a few days where I took her out almost every night and was showing her she was desired, before we drunkingly got in a stupid fight that made us end it. I wrote her a letter and gave it to her with a necklace I got for her and she said she just needs her space but kept the necklace for now.
I still see her posts on social media and she captions pictures with "Perfect Day <3" and "Nothing better" while im sitting here freaking out whether or not shes gonna come back to me. We talked a few times since the split up last week and after talking her reason was basically that she thought we should still be in the "honey moon stage" and it felt like we were just super comfortable and like a married couple. We would take vacations almost every month while together and did so much spontaneous things im just confused because isnt this a good thing that we moved onto the next step in our relationship?
I don't think she realizes that the honeymoon stage doesnt last forever but she says she wants a relationship that does. Any advice on what I should do to get her to come back? I want her to be thinking about us while shes having her space but it seems like shes trying everything in her power to avoid thinking about it.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend asked for space, but doesnt have a reason why she wanted to end things besides the fact that our relationship has moved onto the next stage. What do I do during this time to get her back? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: F/23/5'7"/195lbs and I'm faster than I thought
POST: Hey guys, this is my first post here after lurking for months. I have been going to the gym for 3 months now, mostly working on building muscle for my upcoming Grand Canyon trip (rim-to-rim hike, what what!). I have recently become more concerned with losing weight, so I figured I'd get into running. I've always wanted to be a runner. Last night I went for the first time. I jogged/walked a 13.5 minute mile, which isn't great but you've got to start somewhere, right? The thing I'm proud of is my sprint. I decided to just haul ass and see how fast I could go. I took off sprinting and scared myself. I pulled up because I felt like I was going too fast, and that I'd fall. After my second go, I measured my distance (88 yards) and decided to time myself on my third sprint. I ran the 88 in 14.5 seconds. I really wish I'd timed myself the first time because I know I was significantly slower the third time. Anyway, I know that's not that exciting, but I am proud of myself for branching out and surprising myself with my speed. I walked home with a grin on my face.
TL;DR: | I ran for the first time in ages, and after sprinting realized that I am faster than I thought. Whoo! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to buy a house/apartment/studio... any advice?
POST: Well Redditors,
I'm eighteen, turning nineteen soon, and I feel that I'm ready to move on.
My parents have always treated me as an adult, and I fend for myself as it is.
I currently am employed as a web/desktop application developer and I make about $720+ every 2 weeks (with the setback of going to school twice a week). My girlfriend is currently working retail and makes near $100+.
My job is a steady one, and doesn't seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. I also freelance web design and have a rather steady income besides my actual job.
I *think* that I'm financially capable of getting a place to live in.
I don't care for anything fancy, it's really only going to be me and my girlfriend. We both come from middle class families, and are content with just the basics. (laptop [entertainment], bed [sleep], kitchen [food])
What should I be doing to find a place to live?
How do I even begin to look for a place? Do real estate agents charge just to look?
Should I even be considering moving out? The main reason I've reached this conclusion is because I feel that I'm more of a hassle for my parents, especially with my girlfriend and all.. I want to have something that is mine, a place where I can go to and have some real freedom between my job and school.
TL;DR: | I want to have a place of my own. I'm financially stable, and think I can survive.. what should I do and how do I do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(28m) girlfriend(25f) is depressed, because she misses her ex.
POST: My girlfriend got brutally dumped by her bf of 8-9 years. She had told me they only argued the last months of their relationship and she sees no future with him.
We are together since about 3months. I could tell something was bothering her lately. Today she admited she is depressed, because she misses her ex. She said she is constantly crying.
She said she wanted to "take things slower".
I saw her an hour later after that and she acted cheerful as if nothing happened. We were talking about going to the theater these days.I asked her if she will want to postpone our date (because of the "let's slow things down") for maybe a week after today and she said "why would we do that, don't you want to see me sooner?".
Same thing happened about a month ago while we were on a vacation. Everything is normal, we are laying in bed, she is hugging me. Suddenly tears, i ask whats up, she says i miss my (ex-bf). After one hour she is as if nothing happened.
Is there any way i can help her be happy again? This is very draining for her and for me. I don't know what to do, please help me.
TL;DR: | girlfriend says is depressed and crying because she misses her ex of 9 years who dumped her brutally, but still wants to be with me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My [24,f] jealousy issues are putting a dampener on our relationship [33,m]
POST: My partner works in a bar in is frequently out at all hours. He tends to go to friends houses and fall asleep there after work. As far as I know, I don't have any specific need to feel jealous, but I have been getting more and more taken up with it. So much so, that I can't concentrate, feel physically ill (queasy,heart racing and stabbing headache, constant lump in my throat) and am ridiculously volatile with my moods. I hate myself like this. When I'm thinking rationally I don't see any signs that he might be cheating (other than the staying at friends houses thing..) But I for some reason started going through his phone and there are messages between him and 3 different people over the last 5 months that could be misconstrued. It's mostly stuff like 'Had such a great time with you ;)' or 'Miss you'; 'Can't wait to see you'.
We've been together over 4 years and have two kids (3,1). I'm not very confrontational and any discussion about changing his after work behaviour has not gone well. He gets annoyed and doesn't say anything and I start getting very passive aggressive about that and loose my train of thought, try to back-pedal because I'm terrified he'll hate me if I say all this stuff. He doesn't know I went through his phone. I have never ever done that before and feel terrible about it. I'm feeling lonely and lost in this.
TL;DR: | recently developed jealousy issues, went through bf phone(why oh why), feel sick, even though no conclusive evidence of any wrong behaviour |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] took her [26F] out twice, have talked sporadically since. Should I just move on?
POST: I met this girl about two months ago. I was at a party with some friends, and I talked to her for a bit. She seemed cool, but I know my buddy had a thing for her so I didn't make any moves then. Fast forward to three weeks ago. She started messaging me on Facebook, stuff like "how ya doing?" and "what do you think of Xbox One?". I knew she was interested in going out (another one of my friends told me), so I talked to my friend who had a thing for her. His response was literally "fuck you" and then stormed out. Over the next few weeks he sent me and her some really nasty, downright petty texts. It stirred up a lot of drama for our group of friends, and I know it took its toll on her.
Eventually, I took her out for dinner. It was a fun date, good conversation and didn't talk about the drama. We ended kinda early though, and I didn't go in for the kiss (probably should have, but I psyched myself out). Anyways, it went well enough that I got a second date with her, and took her out for a picnic. We were there for a few hours talking, and I kissed her finally.
After the second date, though, things changed between us and I don't know why. We were originally texting on a daily basis (she or I initiating), and now I'm lucky to hear from her every couple of days. I kept trying to talk to her the first few days after the date, but her responses were short and came hours later so I just backed off. The last time I asked if she wanted to do something, I got a round-about "no."
Am I just getting the cold shoulder and need to move on?
TL;DR: | Took a girl out twice, things went pretty well. Now I'm lucky if I hear back from her. Should I move on? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] and my GF [19 F] of-two-and-a-half years are probably going to break up soon and I'm seeking advice, story inside.
POST: I am going to school in Canada right now and I am planning on traveling abroad to Australia next year for my third year of university, and my GF is staying in our home city.
We have talked before about our plans for next year and she has expressed her feelings that we shouldn't keep dating if I'm leaving next year and that if I don't want to do long distance than we should stop dating now.
I feel the same way, but how do I go about this? I'm not sure what to do, I haven't had to end a relationship like this. We live fairly close to each other and have similar friends.
Does anyone have experience with something like this? Anything is welcome.
TL;DR: | Going to school in Australia next year, GF is staying in our home city, going to break up soon since we'll have to anyway when I leave. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [28F] boyfriend [34M] just found out his little brother [21m] has HIV.
POST: My boyfriend is the oldest of 4 boys in his family, and they come from one of the worst situations I've ever heard of. I won't go into details of their childhood, but the 2 youngest ended up in the foster care system, and my boyfriend lost touch with them about 7 years ago.
Well, he found them on facebook, and last night he spoke on the phone with the second to youngest brother. It was obvious right away that he is not doing well. After leaving foster care, he's been on the streets staying with friends when he can. He is borderline homeless, and kept saying he was "sick". My boyfriend finally got him to tell him what was wrong, and it almost made him drop to his knees. His brother is HIV positive.
We've decided we are going to help him as much as we can, and are already looking into programs and resources in the area. My question is, how can I help my boyfriend deal with all of this? He has not had an easy life, and it took him a really long time to get to where he is today. I'm scared that all of this is going to stir up a lot of painful memories from his past, and I don't want to see him fall backwards. What can I do to help him with all of this?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend reconnected with his little brother after 7 years and found out he has HIV. How can I help my boyfriend cope with this while he helps his family? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[21M] let my friend [20F] borrow money and I am positive now that she lied about the reasons. We've been friends for 2 years.
POST: *I am new to this sub, so please let me know if I should only be posting about romantic relationships and not friendships*
Towards the end of June my friend, lets call her Brook, called me to ask for money. She said that she had a ticket that she needed to pay for on top of a bill for a lawyer. She said that she needed about $300 and she would pay me back on the first of July when she gets paid. She also told me that her parents weren't going to help her, "she got herself into this mess, she'll have to get herself out"
I recently got a sumer internships that pays pretty good so I had extra cash, so I agreed. Well she never paid me back. I text her and ask her if she has the money, saying its okay if she doesn't have all of it. I'd be cool with her paying me a little bit here and there until its done. She doesn't respond. This goes on for a couple of weeks and I am seriously concerned.
I text a mutual friend, lets say he is Dan, and ask if he had heard from her in a while and he says that every time he tries to call her she never answers. I tell him that I had given her money and he tells me that he suspects that she has gotten into drugs.
Dan knew how to get into contact with Brooks family. Turns out that her Mother also thinks that she has gotten into drugs and that one other mutual friend has also lent her money and not been paid back.
What the hell do I do? How can I get into contact with her? Should I sue? I'm a mix of worried and angry and just don't know whether to try and help her or say screw it and sue.
TL;DR: | Friend has been borrowing money from multiple other friends. She is believed to have picked up some sort of drug habit. what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My husband [22M] all of a sudden wants to hang out with his old best friend [23F]. He's acting different around me and urges me to make guy friends.
POST: My husband of 3 years hasn't talked to his old best friend (female) since we've been married.
Her and him have had crushes in each other in the past, and used to make out and stuff before he met me.
On Monday, he went to basketball like always and she is there for the first time since last year, and every day after that he's been different. On Tuesday he asked me if I would be okay with going to her housewarming party, and I said it was fine. This was all weird cuz we never went to parties or friends houses since we have been married. So I decided to trust him and let him go while I worked my graveyard shift.
He didn't text me back from when he left to the party at 10pm until 4am when he started walking home. I freaked out obviously because he always shares with me how things are going, and as a wife, my mind started thinking the worst like maybe her friends weren't there and it was just him and her. I got mad at him he apologized 1000x and we talked it out.
I made him promise not to hide anything from me, and he agreed.
I let it alone until a few days later and he's been more serious around me than his dorky self, so I looked at his text history online, and he's been texting her constantly. Until 4am even. I asked him if he's been texting her and he only said like 4 times. Lie.
I bust him in the lie that night and he doesn't say anything and then tries to make it all better and I just go to sleep frustrated. He's still all serious so this is all ongoing.
Is it wrong for him to have this best friend? I don't really know what to do because half of me wants to let him have some freedom and not be some prisoner and half of me thinks it's really inappropriate for a married man to have a female best friend.
TL;DR: | my husband is talking to an old female best friend and was hiding it from me and thinks nothing of it, not sure if it's okay or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Unauthorized apartment entrance WHILE I WAS HOME ASLEEP
POST: So this is my first post to Reddit but the more I think about this the more it bothers me. I'm not sure if this is a "normal" thing so I defer to the wisdom of the internet for advice.
I'm a 21 year old female living alone in an apartment building. My front door has two locks, as most do-- the normal handle lock and a bolt lock. I never bother with the bolt lock, especially when I'm at home.
I'm almost entirely nocturnal during the summer, so I was sleeping all day yesterday. When I went to leave the apartment later on, I noticed that the bolt lock was locked, which I am 100% positive I did not do myself. I also noticed when I got home that my thermostat had been changed to a temperature way below anywhere I would put it (but probably normal for most people-- I like to keep it warm).
I can only conclude that someone let themselves into my apartment yesterday, WHILE I WAS THERE SLEEPING, changed the thermostat, and left. Nothing else is out of order, nothing is missing. While the thermostat thing is new, this isn't the first time I've noticed the lock thing-- at least one time prior I have come home from class to find it locked.
Now this may just be me being misinformed about landlord/maintenance ettiquette, but I'm pretty fucking sure that you can't just send people into apartments without at least letting the renter know about it, right?
What the hell do I do about this? It's really starting to creep me out knowing that someone can just waltz into my apartment and fuck around while I'm sleeping in the other room.
TL;DR: | Someone (assuming landlord/maintenance for my own sanity) lets themselves into my apartment for unknown reasons with no warning while I am not there/asleep |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22M] want to help my GF [22F] of 10 months, find an alternative to smoking, to deal with stress. What are our options?
POST: My GF, we'll call her Jade, suffers from depression and gets stressed often when things get hard. She is having a hard time at the moment coping, due to college work, money, and other issues. In the past she has smoked on occasion to help relieve the stress and get away from it all, but she has never been a heavy smoker.
Since me and Jade became official, she has tried to stop the habit completely, as I voiced my concern for her health as well as the fact that I dislike smoking altogether. For the past few months, she has completely avoided using them, and just sent me a message or tried to do other things anytime she felt a craving for a cigarette. However, more recently she admitted to having a cigarette or two due to the stress building up on her, and she felt as though she couldn't cope. I've tried to be there for her as much as possible, but I work a full time job through the week so I'm not always available to talk with her.
She is currently on a waiting list for Therapy sessions for other unrelated issues (in the past) so I have suggested speaking with them about an alternative coping method to smoking, for when she feels stressed.
My question is, how can I help her deal with this and avoid smoking in the meantime, until Therapy sessions are available for her? I have never been a person to get stressed, nor have I suffered from depression, so I have no experience on this. Our relationship has been perfect so far with no issues between us, and I want to do as much as possible to help her get through these hard times without resorting to smoking cigarettes.
TL;DR: | My GF resorts to smoking cigarettes when under a lot of stress. What alternative methods are there to smoking cigarettes, besides Therapy which has a waiting list? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m] I'm that boyfriend, and I don't want to be.
POST: My girlfriend also [18/f] just sort of gave me a kick in the teeth while I'm trying to get her not to go to a party without me. We've been dating for roughly 3 years now, and she's so far cheated on me once with one of my closest friends after I had moved away for a few weeks. Since that time I've had an extremely difficult time trusting her around my friends, or around anyone without me. I try to get her to stay home, and not go to things if I can't go.
I am obsessive, controlling, over protective, possessive, and unintentionally passive aggressive, and I hate myself for it. I want to change so I can trust her again, but at the same time I know I can't trust some of the people that will be at those parties either (Among the couple I'm concerned about, the guy who she cheated on me with will be there with his girlfriend.) I love her with all my heart, and I intend to marry this girl. We both come from kind of shitty homes, and we help each other through tough times. I will have been out of town for about 3 weeks by the time the party rolls around, and that was exactly how long it took her last time to cheat on me. So I'm concerned that it might happen again. I just need some advice on how to control my emotions, and see past what happened before, and trust that it won't happen again. I've got serious trust issues, and I'm very paranoid. So any advice would be great...
TL;DR: | I'm that crazy boyfriend that girls regret, but I don't want to be. I need help getting over my trust issues and jealousy/paranoia. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm [23/M] who needs help increasing my [23/F] girlfriend's confidence, and helping her deal with her borderline emotionally abusive father!
POST: So, to make a long story slightly less long:
I have been dating this girl for just over 2 years now, and I am completely in love with her. She's smart, funny, sexy, and my best friend. The thing is, she doesn't see herself that way. She doesn't believe that I actually think she's sexy, because she has insecurities about the tiny bit of weight she has on her stomach, as well as extremely minor stretch marks on her legs from when she was younger. I constantly tell her she's beautiful, that I find her extremely sexy, and that she's the only one for me, and yet she doesn't seem to take it to heart, and her self-esteem is staying pretty shit. I don't really know what else I can do to help her out, besides continuing to provide positive reinforcement.
To make matters worse, she lives with a father that absolutely dotes on her high school burnout younger brother, giving him money, clothes, video games, and treating him like royalty while simultaneously expecting her to do all the cleaning, cooking, and tidying up. Real Cinderella shit. Her dad will grumble and make a fuss about picking her up from work, because it causes him to miss his favorite T.V shows that he's PVRing. He won't give her the car many days to go to work, in order to take his spoiled dog to the dog park, because "he's just as important, and you can find another way to work" (actual quote, and no she can't). She's practically pulling her hair out living there, and I try to help her deal with it as best I can, but I live 45 minutes away and work full time during the day while she works part/full-time in the evenings.
What can I do Reddit? I am doing everything I can to be supportive besides supporting her financially, and I just don't know what more I can do to better her situation.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend has body insecurity/self-esteem issues, and lives with a parent who treats her like garbage, and nothing I say or do seems to make her life any better. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Flying to the other side of the world, I need to see my father. Please, I could use some advice.
POST: I'm a 20 year old college student from the Netherlands, the last ten years have not been easy. When I was twelve years old my father got locked up abroad for smuggling drugs, he was jailed in the UK so I couldn't visit him. This was was the end of his perfect career, his sanity, and our perfect family. When he got out he lived with us for a couple of months, he felt the urge to move back to his roots, Curaçao, a small island in the Caribean. He left us, again. It broke my heart.
Three years passed... the mother of my father and my grandmother, Mami (grandma), had just passed away. We flew her body to Curaçao to bury her next to her late husband, papi (grandpa).
My mother and I flew to Curacao with a lot of family members. When we arrived at the airport my father was there. I was happy, angry, relieved, and sad to see my father again. Those 3 weeks with my father were the best. Back in the Netherlands we wrote each other for a couple of months, soon we broke our contact again.
I want to go back this summer. It has been 5 years since I've talked to him. I'm working 16 hours a week at McDonald's to save up for a plane ticket, it's so hard to do with all of my classes and expenditures. I want to see my father and family, my late grandparent's old house, their graves, and of course the beautiful island.
I've heard that my father isn't doing well. My aunt has told me that he's in huge debt, he's back on drugs and lost most of his teeth.
It's not an ordinary holiday to a tropical resort. Do you guys have any tips for me? It will be my first time traveling alone and I will have to cary a lot of emotional weight.
TL;DR: | 8 years ago my father left us to move to Curacao (Caribean). I'm twenty years old and want to travel there alone, I don't know what to expect. Tips? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Do These Signals From Her [24F] Demonstrate Any Feelings Towards Me [28M]?
POST: I'm crazy interested in a girl right now who is very inexperienced with relationships and expressing feelings. I think she may be interested in me too, but we are both super busy in grad school and basically see each other when we're both out with a larger group of friends/classmates. We have great chemistry and are both fun, attractive, single people.
I picked up on something has been happening for a while now - she is one of those girls who hugs a lot of people so this is a source of confusion, but any time she enters she seems to make it a point to greet/hug me last out of the other people I'm with. When she says goodbye is even more noticeable. The past 3 or 4 times we've all been out she seems to first tell everyone else she's leaving then give me the final hug / goodbye.
Also, she seems to ask me at times to take an Uber with her, or occasionally we give each other rides (just us two)... but I get mixed signals here. One time I tried walking her to her car in a very seedy area of town and she didn't want me to at first but was fine with it (ended up walking with her up to 50 feet from her car). Another time I said I would leave the bar where our other friends were to share an uber with her to get to our cars, but she did not want this. Yet, two days ago, she asked me to share an uber with just her to get back in the same exact situation. Very confusing to me.
I don't know what any of this means, if anything. But it's certainly a pattern and something I have noticed. Thanks for any insight.
TL;DR: | girl I like always, intentionally hugs me hi/bye last out of a larger group of friends. also seems to seek me out at times to share uber/carpool |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 18m dating a 19f don't wanna date anymore?
POST: So I'm 18 and my gf is 19 and we've been together for over a year and idk if I'm truly happy anymore. We went through a couple months in the middle of our relationship that was very bad and then it's gotten better ever since then.
I tell her I love her and everything but I know this isn't true love and she's way more in love with me than I am with her.
I'm about to graduate college and go to a college with over 30,000 students. Should I stay with her because she's a good person and a good Christian and she's good for me but I'm not truly in love and don't see a future with her, or breakup and enjoy the next few years.
If I should breakup with her, how do I go about it because we haven't been fighting or anything so I need advice.
TL;DR: | dated a girl over a year not truly in love but she's a great person. Do I breakup with her or not? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my [23 F] of 3 year, she fell in love with other guy before breakup, still want to be my friend, i have mixed feelings.
POST: Two months ago my girlfriend broke up with me, we lived together for 3years. She was my first girlfriend and therefor i did not notice that we fell apart the last months and that her love for me was gone. The reason for the breakup was that she felt we became more like friends/roommates. I realized too late that I took our relationship for granted and i really tried to save our relationship the last months, but it was in vein.
The last 6 month she had talked to a guy she got to know through her brother, they talked pretty often, and i knew that she had have several friends before who were guys so i felt no worries. But when i noticed that she talked to this guy everyday and she always tried to hide their chat when i was around, i started having som suspicions. Also there was other reasons as well. So 2 days after she broke up with me, I opened up her computer and saw love-messages between them.
I know it's not infidelity, but it still hurt my feelings when i thought that we had a good relationship. Anyway, her brother and i had became best friends, and i also became good friends with her parents and they now know everything about this, so they took my side(at least for now).
She still wants to be my friend, although she are still seeing that guy and i haven't got over her yet. One side of me wants to never talk to her again, the other still wants to talk to her.
I can't cut our relationship entirely because of her brother and parents, but i feel like she doesn't deserve to be my friend.
What would you do?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend falls in love with other guy before breakup(possible rebound), still wants to be friends. What should i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 F] really like my co-worker [32 M] for the past few weeks but he has a new gf
POST: I (26 F) run my own company and work with a ton of contractors. Recently on a new project I have been working with this new contractor (32 M). He is gorgeous, sweet and I am totally like him ALOT.
I have been very friendly but not over friendly since he has a gf. He has had this gf for a short time and doesn't speak about her a lot. I had an extra ticket to a concert last week so I took him. He was very eager to come. We have been flirty on text, and when I asked him what he told his gf he was doing the night of the concert he said he lied and said he was working late.
I have no idea what to do.
TL;DR: | I (26 F) really like my coworker (32 M) have no idea what to do as he has a gf. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] slept in the same bed as my housemate [22 M] and now desperately want to fuck him
POST: I have been living with said housemate for about a 2 years. We weren't really close in the first year but in the last few months we have grown much closer, we often spend the whole day hanging out, and I regularly fall asleep in his bed after watching hours of Californication. I will usually wake up in the middle of the night and go up to my room to sleep, but a few days ago I woke up and he said I could just carry on sleep there, so I did.
I woke up again a few hours after that and he was holding me quite close to his body, I pretended to be asleep and turned around to face him. He kissed my forehead, and started stroking my hand in a very affectionate manner. I could also feel his erection, I innocently let my hand drop, gently brush it. He put his hand up my top and stroked my breast, and that was the extent of what he did. I'd never seen him in as sexual being before, it was more like a brother/sister relationship, however, I was surprised at how incredibly turned on I was, and how much I longed for him to fuck me. I continued to pretend to be asleep but every time I appeared to be waking up he would move away.
In the morning he acted like normal and I carried on pretending to be oblivious. We've been like this for days, still hang out the same as before, but haven't slept in his bed again yet.
Since that night, I've been developing incredibly strong feelings towards him, both of love and infatuation. I'm aware that it might not have been personal to me and that simply wanted to be close to someone.
Guys do you think I should bring it up in conversation and tell him I know what happened that night, and confess my feelings. Or should I drag on the thrill of not knowing, sleep in his bed again and hope that something happens?
TL;DR: | Slept in same bed as my house-mate/guy friend, touched a little bit, massively turned on. Should I tell him how I feel. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I'm stuck in a weird half-friend-zone with my closest guy friend. What do I do?
POST: (f21, m23) Over the past year him and I have become extremely close. We became friends after sleeping together but didn't continue to sleep with each other. After about a month of hanging out I started to get feelings for him and we ended up sleeping together again. We periodically get drunk and end up sleeping together and everything usually returns to our normal friendship afterward. He knew how I felt about him at one point but I dont know what he thinks right now. He has made the point after sleeping together that he just wants to be friends, but he is always the one to initiate anything intimate between us. Usually the one to kiss me or cuddle with me. I know he cares a lot about me - he has told me he is closer with me than anyone else, and that he loves me repeatedly. But I am just confused on what to do because I am feeling jerked around. How can I deal with having strong feelings for one of my best friends, especially when we we have this weird relationship on top of our friendship? What would you do in my situation?
TL;DR: | (f21, m23) I am struggling with feelings for my best friend that I occasionally sleep with. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me(20/m) and her(19/f) How can I fix our bad month of no talking?
POST: So this girl and I hadn't talked for a month because she was mad at me. She kinda established already that she doesn't seem interested in dating me.
Last night our friends called us over to hangout with them not knowing each other(Her and I) would be there. We hung out and our mutual guy friend tells me to take her home and that we should talk.
When we go outside I ask her what it is that we need to talk about. She says that our friend says I was mad at her. I told her that I wasn't mad at her, and that she knows me, if I was mad at her she would know it. She then says that honestly she misses me a lot and that she feels like I been neglecting her.
I told her that due to the semester starting I have a lot of friends that I want to hangout and she acknowledge this as true. Because she sees me with someone all the time in campus. The other thing I told her is that I have been meeting girls because she had established she doesn't want to date me. She stayed quiet.
We get to our friends house and as we are walking I tell her that I am sorry she feels so neglected by me. I also told her that I hadn't changed(I don't think so) and that I have never texted her first. We hadn't talked in a month because she hadn't talked to me. She acknowledge she was mad at me for taking a class with her but sitting with two different girls, I told her the reason for that was that I can't stand her best friend, she is a fucking sour grape, and honestly I don't feel like taking that sourness. She stayed quiet.
We got to our friends house and watched a movie. The ride back stayed quiet, she sang quietly to some of the songs on the radio. We got to her house and she said good bye.
I have oneitis for this girl, I been trying to get over it. I haven't gone out of my way to ignore her either, like how she says she feels I have. I really value this relationship and I'm not sure how to mend this.
TL;DR: | ! This girl hasn't talked to me for a month. I have done very small conversations but she says I been mad at her. Then last night happened and I am confused. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: anxiety affecting breathing while running... help? (TL;DR included)
POST: history: decided to get back in shape in the spring, joined a gym, spent alot of time on the treadmill there, membership expired so i decided to start running out doors, so i guess i've been legitimately running for about a month now
i'm not sure whether to ask this here or in r/anxiety but i'm hoping you guys can help me out. pretty much every time i go running, usually around the start of my 2nd km (i usually run 6 k) i start to feel my anxiety kicking in and restricting my breathing. Basically it feels like someone tied a rubber band around my torso and no matter how hard i try i cant get a solid, deep breath in. this shortness of breath will continue to linger through out most if not the entirety of my run. sometimes it leads to panic attacks, which forces me to stop running altogether.
i was wondering if anyone here has any tips on how to control my breathing. does anyone else have experience with this shortness of breath feeling or anxiety? will this eventually just go away on its own?
TL;DR: | i start to feel anxious, feel like i cant breathe, not able to run properly as a result. can you help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girlfriend is overly friendly/flirty with guys when I'm not around, I need advice...
POST: I'm 20M she is 20F, we both go to the same university, and we are currently on a short term LDR for the summer. We have been together for 10 months
She went to a music festival this weekend and told me about many instances of her going to meet guys, getting their numbers, being held up on their shoulders, etc... She told me that she would try to get close to them so that her friends would have people to hang out with because they are anti social. She basically said that she flirts with them so that they come and hang out, but then she tells them that she has a boyfriend when they try to do anything. Apparently there was this one guy who she was pretty close with and he tried to make a move, but she told him that she had a boyfriend. She was hanging out with guys all weekend and although I trust her that she didn't cheat on me, I know for a fact that she did things that she wouldn't have done if I was there.
I'm going to talk to her again later tonight and I don't know if I should bring this up. It caught me kind of off guard when she first told me about it so I told her that it was fine. I'm thinking about telling her how I really feel about it, but I don't know what to say or how to act. I don't want to come off as overly protective because I want her to be able to do what she wants... however I don't feel comfortable when she flirts with guys, because they have no idea what her intentions are.
Please help me out guys :(
TL;DR: | Girlfriend went to a music festival and openly flirted with a bunch of guys (which gave them the wrong idea). I need to know what to do, and what to say to her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [F/22] is seeing someone new?
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years last year around this same time. Though I loved this girl, I wasn't feeling completely in to the relationship anymore. This despite the fact that she was extremely sweet, trustworthy,caring, and just a good person. However, I hadn't been interested in sex for a while, which indicated to me that there was an issue, but I couldn't figure it out. I broke it off, and it hurt severely, but I was pretty sure I had made the right choice.
I didn't have the strength to try no contact, so I kept responding to her attempts to contact me. We spoke almost everyday and I saw her every couple of months when I came back home from college. This had been going on for a year. I still felt that getting back together would be a mistake.
For the past few weeks she hasn't been contacting me as much. We had a plan to get breakfast this morning, but she broke it off. She called me later that morning to explain. Here is her message in a nutshell:
"I'm so sorry I broke our plans for today, it really pained me to do that. I've been seeing someone and it just recently became official, so I don't think it would be appropriate for me to see you anymore and talk like we were. I don't think you're going to change your mind about us anytime soon, are you? (I said no, probably not). It hurts so bad to imagine my life with you not in it, you know I still love you. I didn't want to just stop talking to you, so this is why I'm telling you now. I never wanted to be friends with you, and we were never going to be. You are still my number one. I love you and I'll miss you, goodbye Ben."
At first, I wasn't too upset about it as I expected that eventually she would move on. I thought I was ready for it. I was a little off, because now I am very upset. It feels like we are breaking up all over again, and I'm really starting to panic about the thought of not being close to her on that level anymore.
What the hell is going on with me??? What do I do now...
TL;DR: | Broke up with gf a year ago but still talk constantly, she still wants to be with me but I'm not ready, now she's seeing someone new and I'm starting to panic. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: [NSFW] TIFU: Trying butt stuff for the first time.
POST: Technically happened last night but close enough, only just gotten over the trauma to post.
Me and my girlfriend hired a apartment room for "alone time" and all that jazz.
And after a while and a few drinks we think hey, I've never actually seen my own butthole as you do. So I take a picture of her on my phone alone with a few fingers in and what not and show it to her and then we swap over and does the same, then she got the great idea of trying out her little bullet vibrator on me, I think "fuck it, why not?"
It feels pretty good, awkward at first but then the vibrator turns on, and she keeps upping the power, it felt good, so I asked her to put it in a little deeper.
Now this is where things go south fast.
I hear an "OHSHIT" behind me with what feels like frantic scrabbling in my ass, as I panic I tense up as you do. And it goes.
It's gone. There is naut but silence and a dull buzzing from my lower gut as the gravity of the situation set in.
I waddle to the toilet and try and keep calm, while all I can hear is a constant "bzzzzzzzzz" which I can feel moving around inside, at one point it must have pressed aginst my stomach in my hunched waddle state, because my Christ it buzzed.
Now bear in mind I'm trying to keep calm focus my muscles and she is FREAKING THE FUCK OUT. Didn't help, thankfully within about 3-4 mins and some iron will from myself there's an almighty crash in the bottom of the toilet and it flies out like a potato out of a potato cannon.
I'm still a little shaken. And now nothing is going near my butt again
TL;DR: | Girlfriend put a bullet vibrator in my butt, it goes for a trip upwards while on full power, I waddle to the toilet and I put mortar cannons to shame with the force it came out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with a girl [25 F] I've been seeing a few weeks, Blew off plans...enough to end?
POST: I met this girl around 2 weeks ago and we starting hooking up almost immediately. We've been having sex pretty regularly for the last week and a half and I think she's pretty cool (not wifey material, but enjoyable company).
Last night we were at a party and each doing our own thing (we aren't dating so I don't really stay by her side), and she was all upset that I wasn't paying enough attention to her. She tells me she likes me, pulls me into a dark area, makes out with me and spends the rest of the night engaging in physical contact etc.
At the end of the night, I invite her back to my place which has been fairly common for us and she agrees, but at the last moment bails and tells me that she just wants to go home. She tells me she'll visit me today. She confirms these plans this morning but never shows up.
She doesn't even tell me she isn't going to come, but that she is 'hungover' so she couldn't make it. I find this really hard to believe since both of us barely drank last night and she sent this message at 7 PM.
I told her not to worry about it, and she says something about my living far away made it tough to find a way over here.
I feel pretty confused about the IOIs here, but think, ultimately, that if she was really that into me she would have shown up.
I should also note, that I just got out of a LTR with a cheater. There was a gut feeling in the beginning of that relationship that things were going to go south and they did (it took 2 years for me to realize it). I would hate to not acknowledge the signs right away this time, but want to ensure I'm not over analyzing.
I'm thinking of just distancing myself at this point and chalking up another notch on the belt and moving on. Does that seem too drastic?
TL;DR: | Girl blew off plans with me today, thinking this is a sign of low interest / enough to warrant stopping communication. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] with a guy who ruined my life [23M]. Have to see him at a party tonight, not sure how to handle it.
POST: Without going into too many details, about three years ago, the person in question stole money from me, sexually assaulted my girlfriend, and when I cut ties with him, he got me fired from my job by calling in and disclosing a marijuana arrest from when I was a minor.
Tonight is a close mutual friend's going away party and I would be truly remiss to skip it just on account of this asshole. But I'm very uncomfortable with seeing him in person and am not sure how to act. I've seen him once in the last 3 years at another event and he regularly would walk up to whoever I was talking to, knowing I would walk away. I don't want to repeat that tonight.
Any advice on handling tonight?
Note: the sexual assault was reported, which is one of the reasons he felt he had to "get back" at me by getting me fired.
TL;DR: | Asshole ruined my life a few years ago, now I have to see him at a party tonight. How do I deal with my emotions and him probably trying to start shit with me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by challenging an Indian friend to a salsa-eating contest.
POST: I went out to dinner earlier this evening with some Indian friends, and after a lovely bit of ice cream we ended up back at my place playing Settlers of Catan. It was a thrilling game, full of political power plays and bold, brazen backstabbings, but in the end my partner and I (we were playing in pairs) won through a spectacular Meinertzhagen's haversack-esque sneak attack.
After everyone's blood stopped boiling, we started chatting, and the conversation turned to food and cooking. Now, I've always been a fan of the spicy, and as it happens, I had a jar of [Carolina Reaper salsa] in my fridge. To those of you not in the know, the [Carolina Reaper pepper] is currently the hottest pepper in the world. I don't know if I was just drunk on the glorious win or if I really thought this was a good idea, but one thing led to another and, well, I challenged one of my friends to a salsa-eating contest.
We each had a spoon. Hell, at one point we each drank straight from the jar. I mean big, hearty *gulps*. He tapped out first, but not before we'd together drained over three quarters of the jar.
I already took two antacids. I'm currently feeling the first pangs of what I can only assume is the incipient salsa-induced delirium trip that is soon to be rocking my body. A vast, tumultuous storm is brewing in my belly, and all I know now is pain.
TL;DR: | Tried to be hot shit by drinking half a jar of Carolina Reaper salsa. Instead I'll now have hot shits for the next two days. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Reddit, look out for each other. Met an amazing girl but blocked by her past.
POST: So I'm sitting there next to one of the most amazing girls I've ever met, she's smart, creative, gorgeous and after a short time I'm completely falling for her. Only now she's crying, really upset and I can't even put my arm around her as she's finally told me she can't stand to be touched. She hates the way she looks, she hates her body so much. I knew she was bullied at school but I didn't realise the depth and now I know she was also a victim of sexual violence. I can't remember the last time I felt so helpless.
I just needed to write this here as these are the things I can't tell people I know, well not directly. I can explain she's sorting through some stuff when people ask what's happening with us. The truth is there isn't anything happening with us at the moment, being back in a relationship has brought back too much she had buried and I'm probably never going to get the chance to see how things work out.
But this is too much, this is the 3rd girl I've dated that has suffered some form of sexual assault. This isn't the first girl I've dated who has been bullied but I've never how deep the scars can go on a girl before.
So to the community of reddit - please look out for each other. Keep an eye on your friends and people around you when you're out and this goes for those still in school.
TL;DR: | Met an amazing girl but got blocked by what others have inflicted on her in the past. Please try and look out for each other so that other people don't have to deal with what she's going through. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [27 F] mom [49 F] wants to keep my daughter [7 months F] for a week after abusing my trust
POST: A little bit of background : My daughter loves to eat food, ever since she was born she just loved mealtime. We exclusively breastfed for 3 months, during those first 3 months my mom always made a big deal saying that it wasn't enough. That the baby needs more formula or oatmeal cereal. I trusted her to watch the baby on my birthday and when I brought her home, none of the bags of breast milk were used, my mom had given her formula and oats. I was livid, vowing to never let her watch my daughter again. I confronted her and she was like "oops my bad ". Not even an apology.
Fast forward three months: I let mom watcher again. The baby is 6 months old and is eating puréed food and the baby puffs. I give her fruit at the end of the meal once a day as a treat. Mom gives her: ice cream, 7up soda, cookies, and French fries. When I pick the baby up she was so sick and gassy, she cried all night and threw up multiple times. Again I told her that this was unacceptable and went over the reasons I don't want to feed that garbage to my baby.
Now my mom is begging me to let her keep the baby for a week when my husband and I go on vacation. Saying that she will be better than she was in the past and that she's sorry and won't do it again.
I just don't feel like I can trust her. She pays no mind to my instructions and always is like "you lived didn't you?" I don't want to withhold a relationship but if she's making the baby sick, what choice do I have?
TL;DR: | My mom is feeding my baby garbage and won't listen to m. Now she wants to keep the baby for a week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my ExGirlfriend [21 F] 5 years of together and 1 year apart, is pushing me and my family
POST: After 5 years of trying to make the relationship work, I finally broke it off after she didn't come home on night and I found her at one of her guy friend's apartment.
Now almost a year later she is trying to conceive a child with the same guy that i found her at. She is pushing the topic that my family and I should also take care of the child when she finally does get pregnant. We did have a son of our own, which I am the one who pretty much takes care of him and he lives with me.
Every time she brings up the topic I say no, but then she replies "if you don't I will go to the court and get the papers for custody of my son" I don't know how to make her stop pushing the issue.
TL;DR: | My son's mother is trying to conceive a child with the man that she cheated on me with and she is trying to force me and my family to take care of that child along with our own son. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Advice for anyone with mild social anxiety/awkwardness
POST: The way to get around this feeling that you're being judged or that something awkward you just did is embarrassing is simple: stop caring what other people think of you. I KNOW, I KNOW, you've heard that a thousand times, but just hear me out on this one. Literally stop giving a fuck about whether or not other people will judge you for something you do or say. Now I'm not saying be a total asshole or weird as fuck, but if you accidentally wave at some girl who was waving at someone else, don't beat yourself up. Pretend in your mind that you meant to that. Honestly, pretend that everything you do is fucking awesome. In fact, everyone who doesn't think you're awesome isn't normal and must have something messed up in their mind. Don't be a cocky fuck, but don't worry about not having anything to say or that something will be awkward. Take control of the situation, be a boss, even if you're dying on the inside. Remember, socializing is about having fun. You shouldn't be nervous all the time. Make it fun for yourself and fuck the haters.
Get the right mentality going in your mind, and you'll go far kid.
TL;DR: | Hey SAP!Everything you do is absolutely correct, you're the baddest MC who ever walked the earth, and honeybadger (you) don't care what these haters be sayin |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling my doctor to have fun
POST: This happened about two weeks ago, and for context I need to state that I usually say "have fun" to anyone if they're leaving instead of goodbye if they're going somewhere I specifically know about.
So I had an appointment with my doc, and he tells me he is going on a 3 week trip to South Africa to see his nephew who recently suffered a stroke, and from what I could tell he was taking emergent leave. The appointment goes fine until I'm leaving the room, and if you haven't guessed yet here's my FU.
He said goodbye to me as I walked out the door, and me, being sick and therefore not very sharp-minded at the time, remembered that he told me he had to take holiday time off to go to South Africa I stupidly said:
"Have fun on your trip!".
Luckily before he could react or I could leave, I caught myself. Unluckily however, I said the creepiest/most retarded follow up possible through the crack of his closing door:
"...And I hope your family is well"
The door shut and I gunned it outta there.
I have an appointment again in one week and I hope that he has lost all recollection of what transpired that fateful day.
TL;DR: | I told my doctor to have fun on his emergent trip to see his nephew who had recently suffered a major stroke. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F]- I need help navigating the dating world.
POST: I've been single for about two years now. I really want a monogamous relationship now. It's not so much that I *need* one- I do really well on my own- but I feel like I'm ready to enjoy the stability of a relationship again and I'm finally sick of casual sex.
The first year after being single, I didn't date, and then I got Tinder and OKC and I've been using those for most of my dating needs. I've been on 20 dates, probably.
I was fine dating people casually for a while, but over the past half year I've wanted something more serious. But here's the problem! It seems like I can't find anyone who wants something serious with me, or if they do, I don't.
I've approached three guys I had great chemistry with about going steady, and none wanted more. But then several guys have approached me about going steady, but we always had terrible sexual chemistry or were incompatible for other reasons (see: one guy trying to "save me" while berating me for having past sexual experience).
My male friends tell me it's just how guys are at this age or that someone like me is always going to attract guys more into polygamy (I'm artsy/punk).
How do I remedy this situation? Is there anything I can do, like see about dating people elsewhere? (Problem is, my country is small so Tinder is about the only useful dating app, and I work/study from home so I don't get out beyond partying with friends on weekends, where the guys seem even LESS interested in starting a relationship, especially with some rando girl from the bar).
TL;DR: | I've been dating regularly through online dating apps and want a monogamous relationship, but there are no takers. Should I just wait until someone cool comes along or can I change something? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (22/F) coworker (30's/M) is super awkward and makes work a bit difficult.
POST: I'm an American who currently lives abroad. I just started working at a new company and was told that I was going to work on a team with only foreigners. I was really excited about this especially since I haven't hung out with other foreigners in so long.
When meeting my team it turns out that there is only me and one other dude from the UK. Regardless, I was sure that me and him would get along and that I could spam him with dank memes throughout the day. I've been trying to get to know him and find some common interests between us but he isn't really giving much info. I've even tried seducing him with food, which he nibbled at silently in his cubicle.
When I do manage to get him to speak, it is just so damn awkward. An example of this is the other day we got into a conversation about how we ended up in this country. He asked about me and I told him my story but when I asked about his he gave very brief answers. Like I asked why did he first come to this country he just said, "school" and then stared at me for like 4 minutes. This also makes our work more difficult because the bulk of what we do has to be discussed together and decisions made together.
I've made a group of friends here that I hang out during lunch with so I am not desperate for a buddy. But, I really would like to be able to communicate and get along with this coworker without it being so awkward especially since our team (him and I) are placed in the very far corner of the office building away from everyone else.
How can I get my coworker to talk with me? How can I avoid those long minutes of him awkwardly staring at me? Is there really anything I could do or should I just give up on the dude?
TL;DR: | Coworker has a super awkward vibe. Stares at me for minutes when in conversation. I want to get along with him but his awkwardness is off-putting. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27M] with my Girlfriend [26F] and my [30F] Best friend. A love Triangle.
POST: I'm so lost
I was in love with my best friend [30F] for years. I told her many times, I told her I wanted to date and she was never into it. So back to the friend zone I went. We have stayed best friends throughout the time I spent getting over her and moving on. A few shitty girlfriends later I met my current GF[26F] we hit it off with amazing chemistry and have been dating for approximately 2 months now. She is everything that I could have asked for. Beautiful, smart, extremely caring and sweet. Everything is going great and I couldn't have asked for a healthier relationship.
Well, last night during my weekly dinner night with my best friend [30F] she tells me that she is in love with me, wants us to be together, and that shes been in love with me the whole time just did not want to sacrifice our friendship if it didn't work out. She has recently had a "self-discoevery" period where she is changing careers and I am who she wants to be with.
Well my head is spinning, while I'm very confident I too am still in love with her, I also am in love with my current GF. I don't want to hurt either of them. I have to choose and I am at a complete loss. All the pro/con lists in the world couldn't help me.
TL;DR: | In love with current girlfriend. Best friend of years tells me she is in love with me. I am in love with her too. I cannot choose. Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my (26m) gf (23f) cheated, is it ever ok to try to take them back?
POST: while we were dating, my ex-gf of 5 years went on an away trip to cuba with a bunch of female friends, ended up getting really drunk and slept with a random guy that the girls were drinking with at the hotel. We were deeply in love and had a great relationship before this happened.
She woke up the next morning and called me immediately, feeling completely terrible about what happened. She has been so so apologetic and heartbroken about this and can't believe she did something like this. She is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work and I do believe she genuinely feels terrible. She says if I take her back she will never travel without me again and will never drink for the rest of her life. Before this she had never done anything remotely deceitful or dishonest.
I know what she did is terrible and I broke up with her because of it. Its been a few months but I miss her so much. Is one drunken even really a complete deal killer. Does it eliminate 5 years of her being a caring loyal gf? Has anyone else gone through this and got back together? I have self respect, but at the same time I don't want me ego to be what ends up making me decide to leave a good relationship.
I'm considering taking her back, does anyone think that it could work?
TL;DR: | gf of 5 years cheated during a drunken night away, she feels so terrible and is truly sorry. Is one mistake enough to throw away the whole relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [24] has double standards as far as me [27M] looking at porn
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for 9 months. I have always watched porn, because I'm a guy, and we had an early conversation where she stated that she was not okay with porn. She said she disagreed with the porn industry and thought it was degrading and didn't want a partner who would watch porn. Whenever I have a girlfriend I tend to watch less anyway so I said okay and just figured I'd use incognito mode if I needed to, or use my phone which has a passcode.
Well fast forward to the other day, I'm over at her apartment and she got a call from her sister needing to be picked up, I didn't want to go so I stayed behind. She has this side table by her couch where she keeps her remote for the TV, so I open it and there's a vibrator in there. I wasn't snooping, just legit looking for the remote. Immediately I was pissed. Here she is telling me that she was against porn and wouldn't be with someone who looked at it, and she's got a fucking sex toy in her living room where she also keeps her laptop and TV. If it were in her bedroom it would maybe make sense but who just masturbates on their couch unless they're out there to specifically watch something? I didn't see any porn channels on her TV and I didn't want to look through her laptop (idk if I could even get onto it not knowing her password) but I can put two and two together. I just left. She called me a few times asking where I went but I told her I was sick (sick of her bullshit, so I wasn't exactly lying).
I don't know how to confront her about what I found, she can't logically get mad at me for snooping because I was looking for the remote in a place where it normally is but she'll probably still think I invaded her privacy. She says porn is a dealbreaker for her so the hypocrisy is just ridiculous and I don't know if this is worth ending things over but I'm annoyed to say the least. I think it's bullshit that she wants to police my masturbation habits but she's allowed to have sex toys.
TL;DR: | my girlfriend says porn is a dealbreaker but keeps a sex toy in her living room two feet from her laptop, I'm not an idiot and know what that means |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M20] am afraid that my relationship with my brother [M14] will destroy my family
POST: Hey guys,
Throwaway for obvious reasons. So when I was 12, I would babysit for my siblings. On one occasion, I made him expose himself to me when he was 5.
A little background: Growing up in my household as the oldest sibling, I was the guinea pig for my parents. Any time I would do anything slightly out of line I would be met with hostile criticism, punishments, and fits of yelling. This began when I was 9 or so, and continued until I was about 15.
This emotional abuse lead me to learn to detach myself from any situation involving people because I learned that I couldn't trust anyone to be genuinely kind to me without bracing for the other shoe to drop (being yelled at). I never learned or developed boundaries with other people, and being put in a position of power with a lack of empathy is exactly the kind of situation you'd expect a sociopath/psychopath to abuse.
So I did. Once. I was babysitting my family one night and didn't really think about what I was doing or how it would have an effect on my brother or anything about the consequences of my actions.
So here I am, many years later, sitting here with a mountain of guilt and indescribable pain in my heart. I've since worked on developing empathy and turning myself into a normal human being, but actions have consequences and I don't know what to expect and that uncertainty is driving me insane.
I don't know if making my brother expose himself to me will be detrimental to his psychological development or if he even remembers it at all. I don't even know if it's a big deal to him or what he thinks about it because we've never spoken about it.
My worries come from the ghost of my past and any advice from you guys as to how to deal with this, both within myself and with my brother and family, would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | I made my brother expose himself to me 9 years ago and I am mortified that it has ruined his development as a person and will destroy my family. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by using a buggy email client to talk to a fellow co-worker
POST: So anyways, I started a new job a few weeks ago and there's this girl there that I get along quite well with. We come from the same part of town so we have a lot to talk about and just kinda clicked really.
So last week I casually asked her if she wanted to grab lunch, she said she couldn't because her workload was crazy at the moment so she said next week. We send emails back and fourth quite a bit but sometimes she doesn't reply, I just assumed it was down to her being busy and didn't think much of it.
So we get to today and we were suppose to go lunch together. It get's to around 12pm and I email her asking if we are still on for today. She didn't email back but instead came over and apologised saying that she's really busy with work again but she was being really apologetic about it, at the time I didn't know why. I didn't think much of it and I just told her "don't worry, doesn't matter, we can go anytime, I don't mind". And that was that.
I send her another email just now just for general chit chat which is when I realised something strange. When I hit the send button the text disappeared for a split second as it was sent before it went back to the inbox screen. (Just to point out now, I've been using a fairly new email client which is still in beta) That's odd I thought, I went to look at my sent messages and then it hit me… 80% of the messages I had sent her were empty, completely empty. No subject. No content. Just empty. All week I've been sending her blank messages like some rude freak.
TL;DR: | Been getting along well with this girl at my new job, we send emails and sometimes she doesn't reply. Turns out I've been sending blank emails due to a buggy email client. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Why do people post inflammatory political/religious things to Facebook, then get upset when others criticize/respond to it? What are they expecting to happen?
POST: I see it happen all too often - people will post inflammatory, often inaccurate bullshit on Facebook (political, religious, what have you).
They *HAVE* to know it's going to draw responses from their friends who disagree with them. But if you respond negatively (no matter how civilly) they often get pissed or run to the "I don't want to debate/agree to disagree" tactic.
What do they *expect* to happen? Why bother posting shit if you're going to just draw an argument you don't want to have? When I post political or religious stuff, I do it fully expecting that I'm going to have a discussion on it. Why else *would* you?
TL;DR: | Is Facebook political/religious posting just a form of mental masturbation? What do people gain from it if they don't want to argue? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [23F] started a relationship with me [25M] when I was not at an ideal spot in my life. Why?
POST: You hear all the time that women want a man who's stable, well off, able to provide for her, have lots of money, have life figured out, etc. But my girlfriend got with me when I was unemployed, was waiting to hear back from graduate school applications, still at home with mom and dad, etc. She was independent, done with college, had a full time job paying her 45k, and pretty much had a steady lifestyle.
Why did she ever agree to be with me? I mean now that a year's gone by, I'm almost done with graduate school and I have a very good job waiting for me. Things look good now, but I was none of those things that women want in a man when she became my girlfriend.
Do women look for different things in a man now or something? I also know of a few couples where the woman has more of her life figured out than the man, yet she loves him with all her heart.
TL;DR: | Why did my girlfriend agree to be in a relationship with me when I was broke, unemployed, and only had the hope of getting into grad school going for me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to get over someone who you have to see and interact with everyday?
POST: Male, 17 years old, 11th grade.
My ex dumped me three weeks ago. 'We grew distant and our lives are moving in different directions' - whatever the fuck that means. I'm still pretty heartbroken about it. And she's already dating someone else... they became facebook official on my birthday, how sweet.
Anyway, to the point. We're in a selective group of 8 kids undergoing an advanced curriculum within our school. We have 6 classes and a seminar together. As a result, I have to discuss and interact with this girl every single fucking day. We have to work on chemistry labs together, communicate in socratic circles, inevitably ask each other questions - it sucks. Interacting with this girl just brings back the happy memories followed by the pain of her fulfilling someone else's dreams. She was my best friend and the one reason why I loved going to school. After the breakup, though, I now eat lunch in the library alone, I rarely talk in class anymore, and I even take different ways to class so I don't have to see her in the hallways with her douchebag boyfriend. Her best friend is in all of our classes, so my ex is fine and has her mind occupied. But me... I have nothing. This is the girl I have been talking to and flirting with every day for the whole school year. I feel so lost. I have never really connected with the other students, and now that she's gone I can't even stand going to school. I remain confident and try hiding my sadness, but on the inside I just want to leave school and never come back.
TL;DR: | I have to see/talk to my ex-girlfriend everyday due to our schooling. It fucking sucks and makes me depressed. How do I approach this situation and get over things? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by asking best friend out for Valentines Day
POST: For a long time I've had feelings for a close friend of mine. We'll call her Jill. We've been friends for over 7 years, and it's safe to say that Jill and I are best friends. I didn't always look at Jill that way, but over the past couple years I've started to think about it more. We are very close, I've even had a pooping fiasco in front of this girl. Anyway, whenever I think about asking another girl out, my mind always goes back to Jill.
After putting it off for the last 3 years. I decided that I have to come clean to her. I need to let her know how I feel; and more importantly, I need to know where things stand. If she likes me, great. If not, hopefully I can move on.
So I asked her out for Valentines Day about a week ago. During the date, I had planned to talk to her about our relationship.
The fuck up begins yesterday.
Her roommate and mutual friend of mine, Betsy snapchats me, asking if we were all hanging out this week. I told her that Friday we are and that I'm taking Jill on a d8 Saturday. Jill of course saw this snapchat, panicked, and proceeded to tell Betsy to make sure I know it was a "just friends" thing. Instead Betsy asked me about my feelings with Jill. I told her the truth. Some might argue that this was a bad move.
Throughout the rest of yesterday, Jill asked Betsy what I was telling her. Betsy, having regretted getting in the middle, held out as long as she could. But eventually Jill got Betsy to tell her that the "just friends" dinner was questionable.
Jill texted me today, to make sure that our date was just friends. At this point we both know that thats not the case. But I lied and told her it was.
Now I'm stressed and not sure what to do. The dates coming up, and right now it seems like Jill isnt feeling the same way.
TL;DR: | Asked best friend out for V-Day. Planned to tell her how I feel. She says we are just going as friends. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Unsure if he is the one...am I missing out?
POST: I'm 22 (female), been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. We lived together throughout college, and separately (with our families) during the summer back home (we're from the same city), to save money. So we are currently not living together.
I really love him, but sometimes I feel like since we have been together for so long, I have to start thinking about whether I want to be with him forever (get married, etc). Neither of us has been in previous serious relationships, and we were both virgins when we started dating. I sometimes feel like I want to be single while I'm still young, have fun, be with other people etc...but I feel like my boyfriend and I have a good thing going, especially in the long run. I also don't know if I'm just feeling this way because we aren't spending as much time together, and we also aren't having sex as often because of the lack of "alone time". Any advice on what to do, or how to make up my mind?
TL;DR: | First relationship/lover, could see it being forever, but curious about what else I might be missing out on...don't know whether to stay with him or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [20F] Boyfriend [26M] of almost 2 yrs has some baggage neither he nor I can handle anymore
POST: My BF's best friend died 5 years ago and his Aunt passed away on Thanksgiving a couple years ago. So he decided to spend thanksgiving at a bar. I got really upset at this as I don't think this is a good way to cope with his grief. I just don't know what to do anymore because every time I try to bring up his drinking problem (which he openly admits he has) and his other coping issues he gets super upset and breaks stuff around the house. I called the bar he was at begging him to come home, he left the phone on the table after a climax of yelling between us and I could hear yelling and smashing in the background. He has never laid a hand on me save a bruise on my arm from him holding it tightly in a heated argument (I bruise very easily to be honest). We have lived together now for just over a year. Most everything in our relationship is perfect besides his anger and drinking, am I stupid to stay with someone who has these tendencies? I'm at my wits end with this crap, he always has an excuse to his drinking and I really want to give him an ultimatum but I don't want him to end up resenting me for it. His drinking used to be a lot worse but has recently slowed down. We both also smoke weed and I just feel like he has dependency issues with these drugs (alch&weed) and I don't. Also, he has a bankruptcy he's "going through" by going through it's more like ignoring and only works 2 days a week while I on the other hand have 2 jobs and am a full time student. Should I just leave him? Everything in our apartment is mine and he would be left with less than nothing if we broke up. What's a better way to go about this, is there something I should be doing? He told me today that I don't care about his feeling though I did tell him that I know his friend died and it's the anniversary of his death but he's just making things worse for himself by drinking.
TL;DR: | My BF has a drinking problem and has trouble coping with loss and anger. Am I stupid to stay with him? Our relationship is perfect save for the alcohol. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30M], single, wants to know what his ex-crush's [25F] change in behavior means
POST: Had a hard crush on this girl when she was ~18. Told her, ended up being in the friend zone. Took a while to get over that, but eventually accepted she was going to be just a friend.
Fast forward.
She's in a relationship with this guy for a few years now. They seem a pretty happy couple. They're both smart, and talented. She likes to write (journalist, afterall), he's a pretty good illustrator (architect, I believe). I don't know him very much beyond this.
I'm still friends with her. Relationship had some awkward moments, specially right after I told her I did like her, but been a pretty normal, low maintenance friendship.
Now, a few things have changed since ~7 years ago.
First, I used to be pretty fat. Got on a diet last year, lost almost 100 pounds, and met with her (and her boyfriend, and a ladyfriend of theirs) so I could return a book I've lent.
Second, I accidentally sent her a link to an adult movie instead of an article I was trying to share, like we usually do (don't ask me why it was in my clipboard).
Since then, she's been acting pretty strange. We talk majoritarily over IM as we live in different cities. As in, she's often asking me how I'm doing, what I'm up to, opening conversations, eventually complimenting me, laughing at my jokes. Even said I was in one of her dreams. And a few other, possibly related, behavior changes.
Now, this would, I assume, be pretty much a very strong "I'm interested in you" signal. But not only she does have a boyfriend, she said back then she wasn't really interested. Now, I'm pretty bad in relationships. Hard to get signals. But this is so exaggerated that there must be something here, but I'm very much confused!
**Help me, Reddit!** What does she possibly want? What should I do, considering I don't want to split them up, but would happily start a relationship with her if she were single?
TL;DR: | Ex-crush with boyfriend starts acting weird after I lost weight and accidentally sent link to a porn movie. I'm confused and would like advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [NJ] Can my job legally make me work overtime without "overtime pay?"
POST: I work 40 hours a week at a 24-hour drive thru. My boss is short staffed and can't be bothered to find a new employee and wants me to pick up an extra shift every week (bringing me to 48 hours a week) but doesn't want to pay me time+half for it.
This is not the first time that i have been denied proper pay. I have already contacted the department of labor and the corporate office but nothing has come from it yet.
I guess i want to know if i can be forced to work overtime without the proper pay. If i refuse, could they fire me? I dont mind the extra shifts if i was being paid fairly.
TL;DR: | Can my boss legally require me to work overtime shifts without paying me overtime? Could I be fired for refusing to work the shifts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by exercising
POST: So I haven't owned a bike in a while, haven't ridden one in even longer - probably more than 3 years. So on Tuesday I bought a bike. Despite not having a helmet yet I decided I'd ride it from downtown where I got it to the end of the bus line that goes past my house. It's far but not too far, maybe 8 stops by subway.
Half way I got tired, but instead of getting on the subway, I walked it for a couple blocks till I got my wind back then got back on. I didn't want to carry it onto and off of the subway when the bus would get me home much easier and wasn't too far away.
And I did it! I made it safely to the bus stop, got off and put up the kick stand. Then I leaned against a wall because I felt a bit short of breath and a woman was blowing cigarette smoke my way making it worse. Next thing I knew I was on the ground bleeding.
I passed out and cut my face open. Someone else waiting at the bus stop called an ambulance, and the medics were nice enough to bring my bike with me to the hospital. So now I have 3 stitches just over my eye and a massive shiner. I'm supposed to go to a gala fundraiser tomorrow. And I need to have new picture ID taken on Monday.
TL;DR: | Rode a bike for the first time in a long time, passed out and cut face. Black eye and stitches for new ID pic and fancy party. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] just realized I just like being liked. I only like my girlfriend [22F] because she likes me
POST: First, I apologize if my English is rough. It is not my first language.
I've been dating this girl for 3 months now. She is my first girlfriend. When we started out, she showed interest in me first, and seeing that rare opportunity, I approached her on that basis alone (plus she's cute).
When we are together, we are intimate. The sex is good, but I enjoy the pillow talk the most. I love hearing her say she likes me.
However, in groups we are not very close. She is guarded whenever I try to be close with her around friends. We're nothing more than acquaintances among friends. I hate that. I've brought it up, and she said she does not feel comfortable acting close while with others. We're still close in public, but distant when someone we know is with us.
When we see each other alone, it always involves sex. We'll occasionally have dinner, but it still ends in sex. The only time we don't have sex is when we're with others.
I feel like our relationship won't last. We lasted this long because I like the feeling of having a girlfriend. I almost feel like anyone will do and I'm only with this girl because she likes me. I feel like I don't really like her for her.
I want to break up with her, but I'm not sure whether I should trust this feeling. I know I will regret it and it will hurt. This is my first real relationship though, and I don't want to make a mistake due to inexperience or needless thoughts.
TL;DR: | I only like this girl because she likes me and I like having a girlfriend. I want to break up with her as I feel like our relationship is empty |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Some random chick "white-knighted" my friend for saying mildly racist things on twitter and got him fired. How does one retaliate?
POST: So about four days ago my friend tweets "I'm not racist but working at the mall makes me really fucking hate Asians."
I don't know what prompted him to say this but he isn't a racist and I know this. Anyways, this twitter account that apparently searches twitter for racist remarks by people who claim to not be racist retweeted him, at which point a bunch of vigilante white-knights (emphasis on white, as ironically everyone who was up in arms seemed to be caucasian) started harassing my friend and one EMAILED his work's corporate office with a screenshot of the tweet.
Today he was let go. His boss thought the whole thing was stupid but the orders came from corporate.
I do not condone racism in any way, shape or form, but I do believe in free speech and that if you have a job in this economy, anyone who causes you to lose it to make a point about policing twitter with their own morals can get fucked.
TL;DR: | Twitter chick gets my friend fired for saying something mildly racist. She is white. He isn't actually a racist. We mad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (22F) boyfriend (24M) of 4 months has an ex girl "friend" (22F) who will not leave him alone.
POST: My boyfriend, Doug, is amazing. I have never been in a happier relationship in my life. We are equally crazy about each other, I feel so comfortable around him, and it's totally great! There is only one problem which has been popping up throughout the course of our relationship. We will call her Suzanne. I don't know too much about Suzanne, because I have never met her. Suzanne and Doug were, as far as I know, only really good friends before I came into the picture. Suzanne is super cute, and has a lot of the same interests as Doug such as video games and other nerdy stuff. Suzanne has always had a boyfriend, who apparently really hated/hates Doug. Doug told me once that he is the only person who has ever hated him. I asked him why and he paused, and then goes "...because I'm so darn good looking." So... not really quite a full answer lol. Anyway, this girl Suzanne is frequently blowing up Doug's phone and he complains about it to me a lot. she tells him what a bad friend he is. She will randomly text him demanding that he meet up with her to return some random thing of hers that he has. I always ask why she thinks he's a bad friend or something, and I haven't ever gotten a straight answer. I don't want to come to conclusions, but sometimes I'm really scared that he was just totally in love with her and is only using me to try and get over it. Things are going So well with me and Doug though that I don't want to rock the boat and bring up something that doesn't even matter. I feel insecure about this girl hitting up my boyfriend all the time though. should I just let it go and hope she kinda fades away? do I take action and be upfront about my insecurity? How can I handle this as maturely and delicately as possible?
TL;DR: | Girl from my boyfriends past keeps finding ways to talk to him about stupid things and it's making me insecure because I am totally in the dark about their history. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm 27, she's 26. Dating for 3 months, no sex/intimacy yet. HELP
POST: So this girl and I have been together for a few months now, dating, the usual. We obviously both like each other a lot, but there's been zero sex. Nothing even close. We've made out (only when she's drunk) and there's normal kissing and such, but she always seems shy about it going any further, and every goodnight kiss seems awkward, like she's uncomfortable around me. I've been in several relationships, am a normal, pretty good looking guy, and know how women tend to act (and how to handle it) but I can't for the life of me figure out how to get this girl to let her guard down and take things further.
I really like her, but I can't be in a relationship with no intimacy or romance. It's a hard topic to approach, I feel weird just pointing out that we haven't had sex yet in conversation. I dont want to have to get her drunk to finally have her open up to me either. I can tell she really likes me, and I'm crazy about her, but the longer things go with no intimacy, the more I start to feel like I'm kinda being used. (is that shallow?) I could use some real advice I guess, so I decided to throw my problems out to reddit. Thoughts on how to make things progress? Female redditors especially would probably be helpful.
TL;DR: | Dating a girl I'm crazy about, no sex yet. Not sure how to get her to let her guard down and go for it already. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] found out today that my girlfriend [26F], cheated on me (emotionally) for the whole duration of the relationships (1 year)
POST: I found out yesterday, by my girlfriends ex that she had an relationship with him and me at the same time for over an year.
The reason i never found out was that she was very secretive with her phone and online accounts and it didn't bother me but not enough to investigate it.
When we came together i kinda knew that she still talked to her ex boyfriend but i didn't see it as a problem back then. The situation now is that her ex decided he wants to stay with my ex girlfriend and she also wants to be with him and not with me because she loves him. The things she wrote to him were quite hurtful for me and it caught me quite off guard. I kinda have the feeling now that she never truly loved me and just used me.
My question now is how should i handle the situation? I already told her that i don't want to be together with her anymore.
Since english isn't my native language i hope everything makes senes what i wrote.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend cheated for the whole duration of our relationship with her ex, who also didn't know that she had an other boyfriend and they plan now to stay together |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Girl I'm seeing [F, 24] nearly got hit by train and now she's mad at me [M, 25].
POST: Seeing girl for about coming close to 3 months. We're sort of in that "we're dating, we're only seeing each other, but we're not official yet" phase. Her ex left her at a pretty bad time in her life so she has problems with trust and doesn't want to rush things (to which I said fair enough).
Friday, I see on her Facebook she said she nearly got hit by the Luas (like a tram/monorail in Dublin). Before this she was acting strange while we were texting, like calling me "pal" and just underplaying our relationship. So I phoned her, concerned about both. She's about to head out with friends. So I talk her and she seems really confused. She says she's been thinking a lot about us and her ex and stuff in general, hence why she nearly got hit. This came after a really great date on Wednesday. She accused me of not caring that she almost got hit (despite that being why I phoned (as well as the fact that when I asked she downed played it and even joked about it)). So we bickered, with me saying I do care. She hung up and went out with her friends, so I left it. The next day I sent her a text apologising, saying that I should have been more understanding, and that this must have been very upsetting for her, and I'll understand if she doesn't want to talk right now. So I left it until today and send a text. She saw it, no reply.
Should I wait for her to come around or should I give it another try. I just don't want her thinking I don't care when I do.
TL;DR: | Girl I'm seeing (exclusively dating but not gf/bf) nearly got hit by a train, upset with me thinking I don't care, haven't talked since Friday. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F21] asked guy [M23ish] to a couples party, but he had already been asked. Pretty sure he's more interested in me.
POST: I've been hardcore crushing on a guy I met at the beginning of the school year. We're both seniors, but he's on exchange from scandinavia. (Which pulls in a whole slew of cultural differences to navigate apart from the navigation of the male mind.) We've worked together and studied together. I asked him to dinner last week, but he was busy that evening and suggested we eat immediately. I said I couldn't, and he replied that it was his loss.
There's lots of good kino going on, but unfortunately only in a public setting. ex. weird lingering high-five
THEN, I asked him to the couples party, which is held by my sorority. He said that he had already been asked to something on that day, and I joked that it might be what I had just asked him to. We figured out it was the same thing. He didn't exactly know the girls full name. (I knew her and was surprised. I'm not a big fan of her.) We had a nice hug. He said I needed to ask faster and I told him we have another one and he actually asked when it was.
We've talked and messaged after that, all flirty like. He had also offered to connect me with someone, and so I messaged him about that later and he suggested some people I'm not interested in. (cause I'm crushing on someone else... dur)
MY QUESTIONS FOR YOU ALL: Do I bring a date-date or a friend-date? Can I invite him to pregame (or potentially post-game...)? Should I talk to the other girl? How the hell to I act at this thing? Am I thinking too much about it?
TL;DR: | I asked a friend whom I had been flirting with to a couples party, but he had already been asked by someone else in my sorority. He SEEMS more interested in me... What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] and my 5 months [24 F] girlfriend, talked about the future and how im not sure i want to get merrid
POST: [sorry for my english]
I started dating girls when i was 25, and my current gf of 5 months my first real gf.
we start a serious converstion, becuse she might be pregnent, and im kinda scared about it. she didnt say nothing about having the baby, but i still nurvos about it.
I told her that ,latly I was feeling kinda guility becuse i know she realy want somone to merry her. and im not sure that I want to get merried, atlest not in the coming years and im kinda wasting her time.
now, we not sure what to do. she said that staying togther its kinda waste of time, and she is right. but i didnt want to breakup, and i think its going there.
Im not sure what to do, i feel like a child that learning the walk, and dont have the muscles or the tools to handle the feelings or the fears that im having.
our brain tell us to breakup and move on, but our heart say diffrent things.
should i just end it, and break both our hearts, or fight for it and try to fix the situstion.
TL;DR: | gf of 5 months could be pregnent, and im scard, so we talk about the future and how i dont want to get merried and i feel guility about wasting her time with me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: She's[19F] is gonna make a mistake
POST: LDR, we were really in love (I'm 100% sure that she loved me), but she cheated on me two months ago with a common acquaintance (multiple reasons : young, stressed, weak, probably not attracted anymore), I broke up, she has rebound with him (two days after the break up). The guy is a famous loser bragging about having cheated his previous girlfriends. He dated at least one of my ex's friends, which now hates him, then posed her as a bitch.
She will now move in his city for at least 5 months. And live with him, in his apartment. So if there is a problem (there won't be. I mean, he LOVES HER. He even told her so while they were cheating on me), she will have nowhere to move.
Ok, so now I know that I should not contact her, even if I really would like to see her grow up too with our break up, and learn some things. I'm going better, my self-esteem is restored, and I'm working a lot on improving myself.
But holy shit, guys, am I the only one here to think that it's a *huge* mistake ? The lesson will be hard ..
(Not really a question, just wanted to share my concerns about her)
TL;DR: | My ex will live with her new bf in a city where she knows almost no one except me and him. He is ... not the ideal bf. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] and a new girl I just met [21F?]. She basically asked me to be FWB, how should I approach this?
POST: I just met a girl at school a couple of days ago. I felt chemistry and it seemed like we had a lot in common, but we didn't talk too much (I don't even know her age, I'm assuming it's close to mine). Yesterday, after we added each other on FB, I sent her a message.
She admitted to finding me really cute and creeping my FB lol, but said she's hurting and isn't looking to date yet. She said that she'd totally love to hang out with me.
It sounds like she's looking for some casual fun, I think? Is there potential here for something? I'm not sure what I'm looking for, but I'm a virgin so this would be something new. I've dated but I always get nervous when we get past foreplay, since I'm sort of insecure that a girl will be turned off.
TL;DR: | Do girls ask to "hang out" when they're interested but want to feel you out through something casual? Or is she referring to a platonic friendship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (23/F) boyfriend's (28/M) parents (45/F, 50/M) grow a lot of marijuana illegally, and I'm having issues accepting the situation.
POST: My boyfriend-- I'll call him Dave-- and I have been dating for three years. When we first started talking, he told me that his parents smoke a lot of pot. His dad would purchase it from a friend in the city where he used to work.
Due to the fact that his dad no longer travels to the city -- he moved his business to a local area -- he can't buy it from his friend. Now he grows it at home with his wife. I remember when I wasn't allowed in their downstairs entryway any longer because they had grow lights and little plants on shelves. Now that it is summertime, they have moved the plants out to their front porch, front yard, and back of their truck. The plants are actually very large "stalks" now, unmistakably pot. Dave's parents live in a more rural neighborhood, so their driveway is a bit longer and their home is partially concealed from the main roadway.
Dave knows that I am not comfortable with pot. It gave me terrible panic attacks when I tried it. I didn't mind his parents smoking it-- since they wouldn't when we were there-- but I do mind the prolific pot farm they are creating. I told Dave that I can't imagine bringing my children over one day if we were to get married.
I try and come up with excuses as to why I don't want to go to his parent's house because it actually gives me bad anxiety. Dave tells me, "listen, they're good people. Nothing they're doing can hurt you." Dave doesn't smoke, doesn't approve of his parents' smoking, but of course can't do much about it. I know it doesn't affect me, but my comfort level has been seriously compromised.
How do I convey this to Dave, and how can I be more accepting of this? How can I start feeling more comfortable? The way I am feeling, I can't imagine dealing with this if they become in-laws.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend's parents are pot-growers; unsure as to how I can learn to accept this and stop feeling uncomfortable. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my now ex-GF [20 F] of 2.5 yrs recently ended things due to her depression, I have still have questions though.
POST: We were dating for 2.5 years, things were amazing the first year, the second was also nice, it was around this time she went on hormonal BC. I personally think that the BC plus other problems of her own before the relationship ended up pushing her to this point, but she has decided to keep it in. It was the last 5 or 6 months though that were rocky, I brought up her low sex-drive which didn't help things much.
Anyways when we broke up she told me she was depressed and she had been for a while. She had been seeing a therapist for about 2-3 months before things ended. She told me that she needed to fix herself first before she could think about caring for someone else. I understand that, as sad as it does make me, it does make sense. I still want to be with her, and I know I can't right now, at least not in the same way as I was, but I don't want us to become distant either, that would break me more than I already am currently. I want to know if it would be appropriate to tell her that I would be available to talk if she ever needs to. Or what could I do at this point? I know she needs space to figure things out, I just want to be able to be there for her.
TL;DR: | depressed gf broke up with me, I want to still be there for here, hoping it can still work out once she gets better |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Roommate is a pothead deadbeat, and I have no idea how to deal with him.
POST: Here's the full story. 3 weeks ago, an old friend of mine moved into my apartment. Things were going alright at first, but then shit went wrong. He has made hardly any attempts to get employed (2 applications, to be exact) and constantly reminds me that he can't pay rent yet. However, he did somehow find $700 over the past 3 weeks to buy pot. All he does is smoke weed and watch Cartoon Network all day. I wish I could just throw him out, but he and I have been friends for years, so I would feel absolutely terrible. Thoughts?
TL;DR: | my roommate doesn't look for work, pay rent, but buys huge amounts of weed and slacks off all day. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Would it be weird to add her on Facebook?
POST: I met this girl on a flight a couple of days ago. She first caught my eye at the lounge in the city where I was making connection to my final destination. I thought she was very cute and took a glimpse or two at her, and she might have caught me once but I didn't give much thought to it. Then I happened to sit besides her on the flight.
The first half of the flight we were quiet but I heard her snort at something funny I said to the flight attendant. I started talking to her about one hour into the flight and she was surprisingly friendly.
I think the conversation went really smooth, and when the plane landed I helped her with her carry-on and to find her way around the airport. She happens to work in the city I make connection when I fly home, and she was flying home too, making connection in my hometown.
I'm kind of clueless in these situations, but I enjoyed her company and would like to keep in touch with her. Would it be weird if I added her on Facebook? We don't have friends in common, or anything in common at all. I didn't find her on Facebook straight away, I had to look for her a little and now I feel like a massive stalker.
TL;DR: | met this girl on a flight. Conversation went really well, I think, but I had to use my detective abilities to find her on Facebook. Do you think she will freak out if I send her a friend request? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My family treats me like I'm incapable.
POST: Here's the rub: While I was home for the holidays the power went out at our house and the tv won't turn on. The cable TV is not affected because we can hear the audio coming from separate speakers. But the TV itself won't power up (the blue indicator light just blinks and then turns off again). I'm fairly certain we blew a capacitor on the power board in the TV. I used to repair my computer monitors and 99% of the time, the issue was some bad capacitors. I wanted to take a look inside the TV to see if that was the problem but my parents freaked.
I feel like they don't trust me. I'm pretty sure this is why I've had self confidence issues, because my parent don't think I'm a capable person. I don't know how to deal with this situation in a way that shows I am capable. I'm not going to even touch the TV because they got really upset when I suggested taking the back off to have a look.
Now they are going to spend hundreds of dollars to get the TV repaired, instead of having me do it. How the F do I deal with this? I can be the most capable/confident person outside of my family but to them I'm just an incapable little kid.
My background/qualifications: I'm a 31 year old male. I work at a well respected tech company in silicon valley. For the past 5 years, my job has been to make tech prototypes. I've built everything from shopping carts that can stop themselves to a giant wall of light connected in realtime to artists all around the world.
TL;DR: | TV died, I know how to fix it, but since I'm a 5 year old 31 year old, my parents won't let me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Police of Reddit: How do you dispose of LIVE ammunition that can't be safely fired from a gun?
POST: Father-in-law was a hunter, he passed away several years ago. Fast-forward to the present day, and I discover some ammunition (12ga rifled slugs, 5mm rimfires, .222 long rifle) while cleaning his old shed. None have been fired, and I don't own a gun. I ask myself, "How can I safely get rid of this? I can't just toss it in the trash with my empty pizza boxes."
When searching for an answer online, I learn that local collection services will not take it, and that it should be surrendered to the local law enforcement.
At this point, I ask my younger brother (a 13-year veteran of the local police force) if he can take it. I trust his opinion whenever I have a question regarding police matters, so I tell him my problem.
He then tells me to just throw it in the garbage. Not a big deal, he's done it before.
After making sure he wasn't trolling me, I criticized him for his irresponsible behavior (as big brothers have a tendency to do). He didn't take it very well, and now he's pissed at me.
I look up to him immensely and have a great amount of pride and respect for him and what he does every day. He is one of the good ones. Having said this, I cannot in good conscience take his advise. I also feel like I can't take it down to his station without dragging a private disagreement into a public arena. I thought about driving to the nearest city and dropping it off with the bomb squad, but I'm sure they'll just tell me to take it the the local LEOs.
I'm thinking about just digging a hole and burying the ammo inside a 100 lbs of concrete.
TL;DR: | Cop brother tells me to dispose of LIVE ammo in the common garbage, I chastise him for irresponsible behavior, he tells me to go f*** myself. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I, [18M] tell my girlfriend, [18F] to get me different gifts?
POST: I'm probably gonna sound like a complete asshole but I just want some other opinions. My girlfriend has gotten me some great gifts in our relationship (just over a year), and I appreciate all of them and love all of them, but she keeps getting me vinyls. She got me vinyls for Valentines day, one for my birthday, one out of random, and a few for our anniversary. I've shown some interest in getting vinyls, but nothing in comparison to other things. I appreciate her getting me these gifts and vinyls but I just don't want this to become her cop out gifts when she can't think of anything. I don't want her using vinyls as her way of being like "Well, I can't think of anything, I'll just get him a vinyl." She even mentioned getting me more vinyls in the future for my birthday. I actually do like vinyls and appreciate getting them, but not 80% of the time when it comes to getting gifts. I really do appreciate her as my girlfriend, and I appreciate all the gifts she's given me, so how do I tell her this without offending her, or offending her in the least possible way?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend keeps getting my vinyls, looking for a way to tell her to get me different gifts without offending her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (Tennessee) Landlord terminted lease and is requiring me to pay until she finds a new tenet.
POST: Is this legal? I have looked over the lease and it says nothing about being liable to pay in the event of termination.
The lease was terminated because I got a puppy. I knew that dogs were allowed because four of my 5 neighbors have one and she mentioned several times that having a dog would be a 250$ deposit and 25$ per month extra. I did miss the fact that the dog must be under 25 pounds. when I told her my family had all ready gotten attached to the dog and we would not be able to part with it. I offered to have her stay elsewhere when she reached 25 pounds or pay a larger deposit for a larger breed. Both of these offers are under consideration by her but she has all ready terminated my lease and given me 30 days notice to leave.
I was then told that we would have a meeting the following day with her husband myself and my fiance to dicuss if she will allow us to stay if we agree to pay her a 1000$ deposit.
We have decided that we did not want to live here and that she is extorting us but she told us that we have to pay until she finds a new tenet. I didn't think that was legal and I like she is trying to take advantage out of some young people that dont want to cause any trouble. Also she told us that if the dog is there for one more day then she is taking 300$ out of our deposit to pay for the dog fee and two months of dog rent before she kicks us out. I have been told to use my deposit as my last months rent but since I am required to leave by the 20th (I already signed the paper terminating the lease) We would have no place to stay or store our stuff for 10 days.
Im sorry I left a lot of information out and I am sure that is worded very poorly so please ask if you need me to clear anything up.
TL;DR: | Im no longer in a lease in the place that I am staying, landlord wants to keep most of the deposit and for me to keep paying rent after I am gone. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [16/f] I'm really frustrating my boyfriend [16/m].
POST: We've recently gotten back together after a rough emotional break-up, but we have history going back the past three years. We've had small "flings" in that time, where we would get romantic and I would end up abandoned. He recently (mid-April) apologized for this, saying he was afraid of the commitment and extremely immature (we were thirteen) and he wanted to try something serious. Still having feelings for him, I agreed. The break-up we went through recently was more a clash of my personal issues and him being already upset, and I added a final straw, so to speak. He got really passive aggressive with me and when I told him I felt I didn't deserve it, he told me to leave him. So I did. Fast forward three weeks, we both met other people but really didn't think of much other than each other. He heard my name in a conversation, and started to talk to me again. We hashed things out and got back together.
I have a sleeping disorder, which acts up in times of stress. I get paranoid, easily upset and needy. Honestly, he's tired of it. He says the fact that I try to explain everything is annoying, and that I have to be upset over everything. I don't know what to do other than explain myself and apologize.
So, I ask you this: How do I talk about how I feel without being annoying or frustrating? How do I calm down the situation? Am I wrong to be paranoid when he's left me so much? Is how he acting normal/okay? What should I do?
TL;DR: | Teenage flings left me feeling abandoned, promises me it won't happen again, still have paranoid feelings mostly caused by sleeping disorder and it's annoying/frustrating him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [27m] and my friend [24f] she has never been in a relationship or had many guy friends. Want to know how to go about things.
POST: So, I met my friends wife's sister about a month ago. I got her number, we went out once and while it went well I have a feeling she's not sure about me yet. My friend and his wife are trying to push us together. Now, she has never been in a relationship so I'm trying to take things slow. They told me that she can be closed off at first, which I can understand. Now for my question. If I wanted to get to know her more, as a friend or more, what would be my best option? Do I keep ask her out again, or just keep texting her? P.S. We are going to be seeing each other often as we have the same friends. I'm keeping it very casual bordering on boring. Don't want to creep her out.
TL;DR: | Friends are trying to set me up with their sister who has never been in a relationship. We went out once, it went well, but as she was kind of closed off. Want to know my best option going forward. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [F/28] is leaving me [M/29] to join the Peace Corps
POST: My girlfriend of three years is breaking up with me, so she can maintain focus on her service while she is in the peace corps.
I don't know how to cope with the fact that this person I have loved for much longer than two years is leaving. We both grew up in small rural towns, 15 miles from each other. I have known her the majority of my life and three years ago we started dating and became intimate. She has always had a habit of traveling and we spent a year of our relationship apart when she taught English in South Korea. She recently confessed to me her desire to follow through on her dream of joining the peace corp. This did not surprise me, but she confessed that she didn't see how the relationship could work during her service.
She has said that it does not mean we could reconnect in the future, but it wouldn't be fair to put my life on hold while I wait for her. I believe she is my one true love. How a, I suppose to go about living these next two years without her? Do I have a free pass to do as I desire? Do I save myself in hopes that we will get back together in the future?
TL;DR: | Am I suppose to wait for the person I believe to be my true love, or am I to seek out a new relationship and decide if she really is my true love? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need help. My boyfriend has reconnected with a childhood friend, who is verging on stalker. What do I do?
POST: So Reddit, lately I've been feeling on edge as my long term boyfriend (John) has gotten in touch with one of his childhood friends (James) again. They were best friends from about age 5 to age 12 and fell out of touch again. It's only recently that they've begun talking, and in that 10 years or so the guy is very different to what he recalled.
Now, we are at university, and we have a close friend Lisa in our home town who attends uni there, at the same place that this guy is studying. Lisa and John met *once* in a Chemistry lecture, and since then John has hunted down her number, called her home, found out her address and leaves things in her mailbox, and follows her around the university. Sometimes he'll give her things like handbaked cupcakes, which would be sweet in theory, but in this situation it's strange. She's quite afraid of him, and doesn't know how to react. Through him following her he discovered John was friends with her and got back in touch.
John and James met up for the first time in years last week, and it was somewhat unnerving. John has very little information on Facebook, and hasn't had one for long, yet James admitted to hunting down and finding minute details about him, about me by association, what he's been doing and how his life has been for the past 8 or so years. He apparently had copies of our school magazines that John had been in, despite never going there or being associated with it. I have no idea how he got hold of them.
I'm unnerved, and slightly reluctant to ever meet this person. Frankly, I'm worried and I don't feel all that comfortable with John travelling to his place and being with him alone. However, he doesn't have a problem with it, and just says that his 'stalker' is 'anti-social' and that I should meet him. Reddit, am I being silly here? And how do I approach this?
TL;DR: | Bf has creepy stalker, who is also stalking one of my best friends. I'm sorta not down with that, but he doesn't think there's a problem. Creepers gonna creep. Edited for Clarity. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: I [23/M] haven't been in a serious relationship my entire life.
POST: I had a girlfriend once for about two months(Lol) all the way back in 2008, but I broke it off because I wasn't true to myself. or to her really, as I didn't even particularly like her, let alone love her. I just did it to fit in honestly, to my everlasting shame. All this being said, I admit to being a virgin, and this is where my hangups start to creep in. I've had a few chances to lose "it" actually, but haven't acted upon it, perhaps due to some misplaced sense of pride or integrity if you will, or maybe I''m just old-fashioned. In doing this, I've missed out on crucial developmental years others have partook in. I've tried online dating and stuff similar, and haven't even gotten my foot in the door for a date, much less something with actual tangible potential. Kinda confirming my suspicions I'm a below average or perhaps outright ugly male human. It also doesn't help that I'm quite a reserved individual, and I don't open up particularly easy to people initally. In short, I basically want to have my cake and eat it too. I have very limited interest in having sex just for the sake of having sex, but the longer this goes on the more of issue my lack of experience becomes, for me and for a great deal of women.
TL;DR: | Hung up on lack of experience with dating, sexual matters. Want something more than a late night fling, further prolonging the cycle of torment. Wondering where I should go from here? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] am in love with my very straight co-worker/friend [22 M] and don't know what to do
POST: As the new guy in my workplace, I didn't really know what I was doing. I instantly realised I was going to have problems when the guy assigned to show me the ropes turned out to be particularly attractive. I've now been working there for six months, and he's become one of my close friends, but the issue is he is completely straight. When we go out, he invariably hooks up with girls, he asks me which girls I think are attractive, et cetera.
Some jokes I've said have prompted him to ask if I'm gay, which I always instantly deny. I think it would make things too awkward if I came out at work plus it would put strains on our friendship. But I just cannot stop thinking about him! If I were to envisage my perfect, ideal guy, it would be him. I like him so much and just don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | how do I get over someone who I see every day, and whom I cannot tell my feelings because it will lead to horrible complications? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [27M] know that my girlfriend [22F] cheated on me
POST: My 22 year old girlfriend and I [27M] have been together for 2 1/2 years, with the last few months being a little rocky. In the past couple of months she has spent a lot of time with a friend of hers [24M] having drinks and spending time alone. I try to be understanding and let her do what she likes but I've always been jealous/uncomfortable with the situation.
The jealousy in me eventually reached a point where I started reading her text messages and iMessages on her iPad, something I've always refrained from doing in the past. I knew she talked to a few people regularly so I read the messages and realized she had sex with her friend. I also read a conversation saying she regrets the action and should never have done it.
After finding this out, I became infuriated and incredibly upset. I want to talk about it but we're in such a good place emotionally right now. The only reason I haven't mentioned it to her or confronted her on it or knocked out the guy who had sex with her is because I only know this information from reading the messages and otherwise wouldn't know. My question then becomes what to do. Should I confront her about it or wait until she talks to me about it?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend cheated on me, she doesn't know I know, I only know because I read her texts, what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [35 F] with my boyfriend [30 M] of 6 months, I caught him logging in to anonymous gay sex meet up websites and I don't know what to do.
POST: I caught him a month ago and said I forgive him. I do forgive him but I'm having a lot of trouble getting the feeling of trust back. I've been in a relationship before where the partner cheated (also organised online) to make the trust go away so I know it's not good to stay in these situations but I told him I trust him and that everything was going to be okay the day I caught him. I'm the type of person who will say what people want to hear and put their feelings before my own.
He said he was using it to get off rather than actually meet guys (even thought his profiles said he wanted to meet) He has experimented in the past, I have no issue with that. I'm very open minded. He closed the various accounts but now I'm worried he's re joined under a different name. I didn't get a chance to look at sent messages before they were deleted.
I spend my days flooded with insecurities and it's taking it's toll on me. If he doesn't text me back or I can't get hold of him my mind goes crazy - I hate being the insecure person.
Do I tell him I'm having trouble trusting him? In my mind, wouldn't this make him even more secretive? Or hurt his feelings that I can't move past it? Do I deal with this in my own mind and not involve him to spare his feelings?
I love him so much that I'm scared to bring it up.
TL;DR: | I love him but the trust is gone. Do I tell him or try to work through it alone in the relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (22M) girlfriend (21F) told me she'd enjoy being single and having multiple partners
POST: My girlfriend of over a year let it slip that she envies the lifestyle of a mutual girl friend who is very promiscuous. Naturally, as her boyfriend that made me upset, and made me feel as if I was inadequate.
After she saw that it hurt me, she basically denied that she meant anything from it which is nice of her, but I explained to her that I'd rather her be more open and honest so I can trust her. I think it would be perfectly reasonable if she said something along the lines of "eventually I'd want to be more promiscuous if things between us didn't work out." The way she just revoked the statement made me uneasy.
So I guess my question for reddit is two fold. First, do you think sugarcoating things in a relationship is better, or should I insist she be honest with me? I also have been in multiple relationships, and im the first guy she's been with sexually. I'm ready to meet a nice girl and have a nice steady relationship (which is what I thought we had) but I'm not sure if she'll feel the need to sleep with other people and I'm just cruising for a bruising so to speak.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend hinted that she'd like to be promiscuous, while I want a serious relationship and I'm not sure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Cheat on me? I'll ruin your ID Photo.
POST: Back when I just started as a Junior in Highschool, I was dating this one girl, lets call her Sarah. I found out from a friend that Sarah was cheating on me with one the typical doucher jocks. due to some problems at school, picture day wouldn't be here for another month, keep this in mind as this is important to the story. Anyways, I was thinking of how to get back at Sarah for cheating on me, Sarah liked to wear a lot of make-up and was very sensitive. I didn't tell Sarah that I knew about her cheating on me. Come picture day, I tell her that I'm breaking up with her. She starts to cry and her make-up runs down all over her face (mascara, all that stuff), she didn't have time to clean up, so her picture looked like crap. The next day I tell her that I'm sorry and that I shouldn't have done that, we start dating again. And on retake day,I told her that I found out about her cheating on me and said we're through, and she just exploded, ruining her ID yet again. From what I've heard she hasn't cheated on anyone for awhile.
TL;DR: | make-up Girlfriend in Highschool was cheating on me, dumped her on picture day, ruining her ID, took her back, then dumped her again on retake day. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (18M) with my girlfriend (17F) of 2 years. Is long distance a bad decision?
POST: Our relationship started when we were both at high school, but I have since finished while she has the rest of the year. I decided to take a gap year, as I was unsure about what I would like to study and what kind of job I would enjoy. For my gap year I chose to travel, and we agreed we would try long distance because we both loved each other still.
Now, 3 weeks into my travels I'm am finding that I am not as enamoured by the long distance aspects of our relationship. There is part of me that wants our relationship to last, but it seems our paths will only grow further apart with time. She would like to travel during a gap year as well, but I want to get into study and have a subject I am certain that I will enjoy.
It just seems like I would be throwing away such a good relationship, when I know it is possible for us to make plans that keep us together. But then it feels like we're putting our relationship over our lives, it feels forced.
Should I just grow some balls and break up, or do I try and make it work? I do feel like I love her still, and vice versa, but it doesn't seem like it will last anyway.
TL;DR: | long distance feels like we are drifting apart, I'm not sure if it's the right choice to try and bring us together again. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Feels like i can't get my opinion in the relationship
POST: M(18) I've been dating my girlfriend (18) for 8 month. In the 5th month everything just perfect. I could speak my mind and everything was fine. During the 6th month we got caught having sex by her parents. Now this is where it all went down. All the stuff in the past all the open talking all the open sex it just completely gone.
I'm just thinking to myself I've done everything for this girl and i agree to everything she says but when i want to bring something up that i think we should talk about she just completely shuts me down. Then one day at her church they talked about sex and that just made her completely lose it and didn't want to talk to me. Today she told me she is going to start using the pills (we were just using condoms back then but i always told her to try and get the pills.) it made me think back to our past and i brought up 1 or 2 things that I felt about in the past and she just got pissed off at me. I just talked about how our life would of been if maybe we didn't get caught. I just want to sit back and sometimes just talk and not get moody but it just seems to never work when I try to speak. I just feel like this is slowly going to be a deal breaker with us two. I really love this girl honestly I do but I'm just not that same person as I was.
Sorry it just i wanted to talk but i don't know who to talk too. I just decided i wanted to type it out and let go of this feeling. I'm not the best writer but i just had to let something off my chest with someone.
TL;DR: | Did anyone else have this problem where it ends when they were caught having sex? Did it change someones feeling and opinions in the relationship? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [17/F] have been in a friends with benefits deal with a guy [17/M] for the past month.
POST: A little background information on myself, although I am sexually attracted to both genders, I've found myself generally unable to develop feelings for men. He and I both have broken off with past relationships this past Spring and have up until now, just had sex and generally experimented. A lot of our relationship is build on a solid friendship in which we've bonded over similar circumstances with our love lives, mental health, and social lives. We hold a ton of love and respect for each other, but not in a romantic sense. After sex, we spend the night at each other's places and hold one another but only for the sake of comfort.
We've been friends for an extended amount of time, and only jumped into this since we both have a sexual desire but don't want to grow attached to someone before either one of us head off to University next Fall. I was just wondering about our chances of maintaining this relationship the way it is, since my sexuality is a unique circumstance for us both. Should I be worried in any way of him developing feelings? Or is our general "fuck that" attitude that has developed from our tiresome relationships enough for romantic feelings to not emerge?
TL;DR: | Wondering if a FWB relationship with a homo-romantic bisexual and a straight guy will end in him developing feelings? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Is it worth the awkwardness and potential friend loss?
POST: Back in high school, me and this girl dated for a bit. Nothing serious. We went out like twice and just mutually decided to stop going out. Done and done. She was my friend before all this so she still is. Time went on, I had her in a class and nothing happened. She had a boyfriend and they were together for a few years already and one day she was crying and told me that she got in a huge fight with her boyfriend because he never knew we had a "history" and got upset that she still spoke to me and hugged me. High school ended and so did they. She is still my friend at this point.
I'll also mention that she and I are alike in many things and enjoy each others company.
Anyways, were in university now and she began to see someone else. Totally fine but this is where the problem comes. She is too amorous with me.
At first I just shrugged it off, but she is with someone else so I feel guilty because I do not feel like I am respecting their relationship. I mentioned it to my friends and they all said that I might need to say something but if I do, she might take offense and it'll sabotage our friendship.
She is my only close female friend and I can't really easily replace her with someone else.
TL;DR: | My ex is too amorous with me and I don't know if I should tell her to stop and risk losing our friendship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Hi R/Running - I have a question Re:weight training stacking with running.
POST: Newbie here, I mostly live on R/Fitness but I came here to ask you all a question if you would be so kind.
I suppose you could say I was a beginner > novice runner, I used to run 3-4 miles 3 times a week, sometimes more. My 5k time is around 32 minutes.
Since Xmas I've been following a weight training programme 3 times a week(Stronglifts 5x5). The problem is that this doesn't stack with running.
I want to focus on the lifting for now so this means running will be taking a back seat. My question for you is this:
What's the minimum amount of running I should do to maintain my current level of cardio fitness?
I don't want to lose the fitness I built up but I can't run 3x a week once I've finished my lifting shcedule - that isn't enough rest time. Atm I manage 1 or 2 runs a week of 2 miles.
Will this mean my fitness goes backwards? Anyone here have the same issue?
TL;DR: | I run 5ks 3 times a week in 32 mins and am switching to weight training so can't run much. How should I keep the level of fitness I've built up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Screenplay Credit Grey Area
POST: EDIT: I'm in the United States
I have a question about who all gets credit for a screenplay that I wrote. A few years ago, a friend of mine came up to me and said he had some trouble with a script he was writing (he had done about 30 pages of a feature, which is about 1/4 of a completed script) and I offered up my help. I took a look, and didn't quite like what I read. The style was off from what I was looking at writing, and I wanted to change a lot of things. And together we discussed ideas of a new direction to take it.
So I started working on a draft, and then he moved away and was out of touch entirely. He no longer checked in, and seeing as we had different opinions of the script, and was hard to get a hold of, I continued on without him. I was on a roll, and coming up with some stuff I really liked, and I completed a draft on my own.
About a year later, he returns and follows up about the script. I tell him I wrote a draft that I really like, and he asks to take a look. He then decides to do his own draft of it, which I wasn't really interested in since I liked it, and felt I had made it my own. But he sent me a rewrite and I made it clear that I did not like the changes.
We sort of stopped talking about it at after that point. About another year goes by, and I still liked my draft, so I decided to do a rewrite, and remove anything that was from his original 30 pages.
So my question now is can I call this script my own? Everything in the current draft is stuff I came up with, and miles away from his original 30 pages. However, since we discussed collaboration in the very beginning and he took a pass at a draft that I completed, I feel like that makes things a bit grey.
What do you all think? Thanks!
TL;DR: | Kind of like the Facebook lawsuit, but with a screenplay. Someone came to me, I had a better idea, and now I've got something. Does it need his name on it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Hey Reddit. I have to do a project based on different gender treatment in an online community. Have anything to share?
POST: I have to conduct a scholarly review of a study that someone did within Word of Warcraft - basically, they were proving that female avatars, whether or not the gamer was indeed female, received the "bulk of negative interactions" in the online world.
This, in part, was because of the physical appearance of these female avatars. I want to see if things are different in a mostly text-based community, like Reddit. I'm looking for stories from males, females, transgender, whatever, and how they were treated on Reddit based on their gender if it was brought up in discussion or if it's implied in their username. Or even, how has the anonymity of most Reddit accounts changed the way they were treated? Do females read and treat everyone as a female? Do males read and treat everyone as a male?
Sure, I could head on over to /r/gonewild and use the comments there to tie it to the original World of Warcraft tests, but I'm kind of wanting to see if it is indeed actually the physical appearance rather than just a text-based username or gender-specific discussion that impact how people are treated.
TL;DR: | Have you been treated a certain way, or treated someone a certain way, based on yours or their gender on Reddit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [M]y bf [17] recently broke up with me[f17]. I still love him but he just wants to be friends like before. Is it possible to change his mind and win him back?
POST: Okay so he was my first bf, kiss, time and first love. We only dated for about 8 months, but I knew him since freshmen year and he was one of my best friends before we were even dating. He broke up with my last Friday he was crying when he did it said he so sorry that he had to hurt me. But he can't handle being in a relationship anymore and he wants to start off senior year on a new chapter. He also said he loves and cares for me still but not in love with me. I've been the only person to text first since the break up and some times he just lets the convo drop.
I have asked to hang out as friends but he always said no. I even asked if he would want to be friends with benefits he said he would enjoy that but he knows it wouldn't end well. There's a lot more to the story that I would be happy to share. But from what I given do you think there's anyway I could some how get him to fall back in love with me or at least rethink about dating again.
I know you must think just move on. But he so special I am the way I am today because of him. He made me feel special beautiful and confident. we are just so too compatible to give up so easily. I just want to show him that we can make this work if we both just work together at it. Help reddit.
TL;DR: | I want my bf to see that I love him and serious about making this work. How do I win him back |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just got congratulated for getting a job I didn't get. What great moments for you have been ruined by the truth?
POST: I work at a local community college, doing a lot of different jobs for my office. Dispatch, reception, admin assist, records, about a dozen separate jobs.
I'm an employee of the college, but temping in the current position, filling in for the previous employee while they hire a new employee to fill the spot after she left. I was one of the candidates for the position, and this was a well known thing that I had, and have, been doing the job for a couple of months now, having been trained by the previous employee. Went through the whole process, multiple interviews, wearing a full suit, but the committee picked somebody else. Now I'm filling it while that candidate is vetted, and I'll be training her.
One of the major bigwigs on our campus just came into the office to drop off some paperwork, and congratulated me on getting the job. I told him I hadn't actually gotten the job. He was floored. I had to explain the situation. Moment of triumph, people with fancy titles, lots of letters after their names and offices the size of my apartment know who I am, my boss is making stuff up to keep me here as long as possible, and I just had to look one of the brass in the eye and say "No, I didn't get the job."
Moment over. What great moments of supreme satisfaction and joy have been ruined by an ugly truth?
TL;DR: | Trained for a job, temping the job, applied for the job, didn't get the job, training the replacement. Big Wig congratulates me on getting the job. Truth sours the moment. |