AnnoMi-client/dev.tsv

id	text	label	dimension
100_124	No, no. It is an individual but you're right. Yeah. It's—	 neutral	communication behavior
100_126	But here's the thing is—	 neutral	communication behavior

100_128	Right.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_130	The thing is after, you know, after the 9/11 attacks, a lot of companies have blindly implemented, you know, those types of situa- and-and there's no- there isn't, at this point-- I mean, I don't think, at this point, there is no real sure fire way to find out what those reports are, you know, accurate or not. I mean, there's a lot of situations where people's reports are not even accurate about their criminal background.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_132	I think that-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_134	-blindly, people have implemented those types of, um, measures and they don't have any efficiency with them because they don't- you know, I mean, everybody is offering background checks now and stuff like that. And I'm- that's one of the things that I'm afraid of is that people are implementing all these security security measures, but they don't really know if the reports are even accurate, you know.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_136	I have.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_138	Yeah, I do. I have one and, uh, um.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_140	Right, yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_142	Yeah. Thank you. I don't know. I'm just, I guess-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_144	-what I'm really—	 neutral	communication behavior

100_146	Yeah, I'm really here because I think I'm- I-I- It's a very dangerous area for me when I'm discouraged because-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_148	-you know, all the- despite all the good things that I have going for me, the only thing that's loud and clear are the things that I don't have going for me.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_150	If that makes any sense.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_152	Thank you.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_154	Yeah, yeah, I am.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_156	Oh, okay.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_158	Very interesting.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_160	Yeah, again, it's like who you know, right?	 neutral	communication behavior
100_162	I know that-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_164	Yeah, well, I think that's what I got. That's what I am doing. That's what I'm sort of involved with now is like, you know, find, um, you know, I'm still continuing to go to school, but I'm also starting, um, work for myself. Um, you know, it's not no Fortune 500 company or anything, but I do have a little bit of income coming in from that.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_166	Um, it-it, uh, you know, it will all come together.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_168	You know what? Actually, one of the things is that I read is that is that's one of the things you gotta do is just, uh, start your own business. You know what I mean? Uh, you don't have to report to anybody. I mean, obviously, I can't work with, um-- unless I get a waiver I can't work with, like, I think the law says I can't work with kids or, um, like a hazmat stuff.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_170	Like truck driving and stuff like that.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_172	Uh, but that doesn't matter to me. You know what I- you know, I'm kind of- I'm trying to look at the things that I can do.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_174	Right.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_176	No, it's, um, uh, like a party planning event, you know, like a wedding planning, not like a wedding planner, but like—	 neutral	communication behavior
100_178	Like, you know, like corporate events when they have, you know, like an event, you know, they need-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_180	-you know, they need chauffeured transportation, limos, they need that type of thing. I, um, I'm involved in the planning of the transportation from airports, uh, hotel arrangements, um, uh, booking of, uh, you know, the rooms. It's just, I guess just an event planner, but it's not through any sort of corporate, um, uh, company [unintelligible 00:19:40].	 neutral	communication behavior

100_182	Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm trying to get—	 neutral	communication behavior
100_184	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_186	I don't know about that, but, you know.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_188	Yeah, I think that's my only, uh, uh, I know it's not my only-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_190	-but it's-it's- it's a good, It's a good opportunity to, um, kind of work for myself. I would love to just be able to work for myself, you know? Um.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_192	I am, I am comfortable with it and I do well. I do well at-at, you know, the few opportunities I've had to organize something like that. Um, it's okay. You know, um, at least I'm still going to school though, you know I'm going to be done with that.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_194	I don't want to act out, you know, I mean, I'm, you know, I think I have-	 change	communication behavior

100_196	Well, you know, I dunno, um, going back to a lifestyle, you know, crime or, um, using, or you know, just destructive behavior-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_198	-and sort of destructive behavior. I don't wanna be destructive. I wanna be productive, you know.	 change	communication behavior
100_200	Like I am now, but it's-it's starting to get-- Like I said, I mean, I wouldn't have come in here if things were just peachy keen, you know what I mean? It sucks. And I'm getting sick of, you know, rejection and it's like almost, it makes me think like, why am I even going to school? You know? Should I just drop out and just, you know, get jobs that are, you know, I mean, that's not enough, that's not a viable option for me either.You know, I just, I don't, I wanna make sure that I'm centered here so that I can go out there and do the best I can with maintaining composure, and then trying to get ahead. But if I'm not okay here, here, you know, I just, I don't think that I have, I don't stand a chance, you know?	 change	communication behavior
100_202	Yeah. I mean, I just recently had one of those where I was gonna be offered. I- he-- I think he was-- I'm pretty sure he was offering him a really good job.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_204	And, uh, it was an interview given to me by my brother, you know, who knew the guy. And, um, it went great until he gave me the paperwork to sign for a background check. And I said, well, you know, I'll sign it, but I just wanna let you know that this is what you're gonna find.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_206	No, he did. He said, you know, don't say anything until, you know-- I don't know if I know what he said. I think he said that he's not sure if they do.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_208	He said, just go ahead and give it a shot anyway, you know, and, um, I just, I figured I'd just give her a shot, but I think I like your, I think to spare myself some, uh, frustration and further agony-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_210	"-I think that I might try that. I think I might try, you know, from now on you know, uh, finding like a tactful way of asking, you know, I don't wanna be blunt about it and go you know, ""Do you hire criminals?"" or anything."	 neutral	communication behavior
100_212	I'm a former criminal though.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_214	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_216	Right. So, I know that I am a new guy, but, uh, they don't, you know, so I think society's a lot less forgiving.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_218	And individuals, and um, so I think I'm gonna try-- I think that's a really good idea is to kind of like weed out, you know, but how do you say that? You know. How-how do you possibly tell somebody, you know, how do you- how do you get that out there before you go in?	 neutral	communication behavior
100_220	Hmm. Seems, uh, sort of forward, you know, but I-I think that it's probably better if I do tell them so I don't waste my time and hope.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_222	You know, yeah. I think I'm gonna try that from now on.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_224	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_226	Yeah. I mean the interview process-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_228	-itself, no, I don't think I ever- yeah. No, I-I mean, I don't believe that I have a problem with the actual interview process.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_230	Yeah. It's been a lot.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_232	Been a lot, yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_234	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_236	I have heard of it. I haven't-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_238	-looked into it yet, but-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_240	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_242	Yeah. I know. I-I've done some research on it for school.	 neutral	communication behavior
100_244	And, uh, it turns out it's a big cause of the recidivism rate. You know-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_246	-as far as people going back-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_248	-to what they know, and, uh, and it's, uh, there is prejud- uh, prejudicial motivation, uh, and there is—	 neutral	communication behavior
100_250	It's really frustrating. I know.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_252	I think that- I think- I think ignorance is what really—	 neutral	communication behavior

100_254	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_258	Yeah, exactly.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_260	You know, I know there's-there's just a lot of- a lot of bullshit.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_262	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_264	Yeah, to figure out [unintelligible 00:27:30] anyway, you know.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_266	Yeah. I-I, you know, I, you know, like I said, I wanna make sure I come back and, um, kind of get my, um, you know, my overall mental health-	 neutral	communication behavior

100_268	-you know, um, I wouldn't say stable because I'm not that unstable. I just—	 neutral	communication behavior

100_270	It has affected it.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_272	Yeah, rejection. Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_274	So, I just wanna make sure that I'm okay. So-	 neutral	communication behavior
100_276	-I'll be back and we can, you know, we can discuss it further if you have any information and I'll share whatever I've got.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_278	Well, thanks for the suggestions. Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_280	No problem.	 neutral	communication behavior

100_282	Thank you.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_1	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_3	Sure.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_5	I drink wine-	 neutral	communication behavior

101_7	-mostly. Um, I go down to the little pub down the street.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_9	Have a few glasses of wine.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_11	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_13	Hmm, for four times a week probably.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_15	Three to four, five.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_17	Maybe if it's on a weekend, maybe six.	 neutral	communication behavior
101_19	Over a long-- over a period of time.	 neutral	communication behavior
101_21	Are you serious?	 neutral	communication behavior
101_23	Seven drinks in a week doesn't seem like that much?	 neutral	communication behavior

101_25	Yeah, and I-I didn't think it was much, but that makes it look like I'm drinking way too much.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_27	Well, I know my drinking has increased a little since I got divorced and moved to Portland, but I-I don't think it's that much of a problem.	 sustain	communication behavior

101_29	No, not really.	 sustain	communication behavior

101_31	I didn't realize that drinking had anything to do with blood pressure.	 neutral	communication behavior
101_33	Oh, well. Well, then I guess that could be a problem.	 change	communication behavior
101_35	I guess I can cut down some.	 change	communication behavior
101_37	I'd probably a 6.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_39	Well, I didn't realize that drinking was related to my blood pressure problems.	 change	communication behavior
101_41	And I did fall earlier this year on my home from the bar and hurt my shoulder. I don't think the drinking made me fall, but it probably didn't help the situation.	 change	communication behavior
101_43	And though my son keeps telling me that I'm drinking too much, and it's scary to think that my drinking is harmful. It's a big word.	 change	communication behavior

101_45	Sounds like it to me.	 change	communication behavior

101_47	I think I can try to do that, yeah.	 change	communication behavior

101_49	I guess I could use those numbers, and I can't make any promises, but I could try to drink less than three in a night and less than seven in a week.	 change	communication behavior
101_51	That mean I can only drink two or three times a week.	 change	communication behavior
101_53	Like I can try that, yeah.	 change	communication behavior
101_55	I don't think I need to quit, but I think I can try to cut down.	 change	communication behavior

101_57	That's what I'll shoot for.	 change	communication behavior

101_59	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_61	Sounds good.	 neutral	communication behavior

101_63	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior

103_1	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

103_3	Yes, I guess.	 neutral	communication behavior

103_5	Well, I didn't do anything yet. I didn't go-- I know I was gonna go, but I didn't. But, um, I did look at-- there's the YMCA, they've got some classes that I think will be pretty cool to go to, and then there's this yoga class over at the Women's Center that's only like 10 bucks, so I could do that, um-- but I didn't go because I'm really afraid that like what if-- you know, what if no-one likes me? What if I don't have friends in there?	 sustain	communication behavior
103_7	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
103_9	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
103_11	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
103_13	Yeah, but I'm gonna do it anyway, because this is what I need to do to make-- you know, to make friends.	 change	communication behavior

103_15	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_1	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_3	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_5	Yeah. Somewhere around eight days. I'm not sure.	 neutral	communication behavior
104_7	Um, I really only drink at parties. I don't drink at home or anything.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_9	Um, liquor, whenever people are mixing, um, vodka, sometimes beer, but I don't like beer very much. Um, the drinks at parties are usually like vodka and orange juice or gin and tonics.	 neutral	communication behavior
104_11	You mean the whole time I'm there?	 neutral	communication behavior

104_13	Um, probably four or five drinks.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_15	Yeah. It makes me feel relaxed.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_17	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_19	Um, I forget how many drinks I've had like when a friend asks me or I forget whose house I'm at.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_21	Right.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_23	Um, yeah. I was drinking the last time I had sex. Um, the guy had been drinking too, and we didn't use a condom.	 neutral	communication behavior
104_25	Yeah. We've had sex before and we've used a condom before.	 neutral	communication behavior
104_27	Well, we just didn't stop to put one on. We weren't thinking that way.	 neutral	communication behavior
104_29	Yeah. I would've definitely told him to put on a condom if I was sober.	 change	communication behavior

104_31	Well, that's not me. I don't need help from anyone.	 sustain	communication behavior

104_33	Um, well, it's fun. I like drinking when my friends are drinking too. Um, I laugh more. It's just fun.	 sustain	communication behavior

104_35	Um, I don't like forgetting where I'm at sometimes.	 change	communication behavior

104_37	I really don't want any STDs.	 change	communication behavior
104_39	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
104_41	Well, I definitely don't want to drink too much again.	 change	communication behavior

104_43	Um, a nine.	 neutral	communication behavior

104_45	Well, I really don't want any STDs and I don't like wondering whether I have one or not.	 change	communication behavior

104_47	Um, well, I wanna count my drinks so I don't have more than two and I want to stop drinking once I start feeling drunk.	 change	communication behavior
104_49	Well, I have this friend who thinks I drink too much. She would probably be willing to make me promise not to have more than two drinks at a party.	 change	communication behavior
104_51	I'm going to talk with him and I'm gonna make him promise that we always use a condom and that we don't have sex drunk.	 change	communication behavior

104_53	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior

105_1	Well, um, since we spoke last, I've been to the gym a couple of times.	 change	communication behavior
105_3	I have.	 change	communication behavior
105_5	Yeah, and actually, my pants feel a little better too. I'm very pleased with it.	 change	communication behavior

105_7	Um, I do feel better.	 change	communication behavior

105_9	My back—	 change	communication behavior

105_11	Well, my back doesn't hurt nearly so much.	 change	communication behavior
105_13	And, um, but it seems like it's, um-- but it's still hard. I'd like to go more often or I-I guess that I'm-- I just need to be a little more patient with myself because it's, um, I'm not, uh, I'm not-- I wanna be able to like spend more time at the gym but right now, it's um, not, um-- Well, I guess I need to build up to it.	 change	communication behavior
105_15	Um, well, I guess just sticking with it and not getting, um, sidetracked.	 change	communication behavior
105_17	Like last week, I-I didn't get there at all until like Thursday during the week,-	 change	communication behavior

105_19	-so it was- it was a frustrating week like for the gym that way.	 change	communication behavior

105_21	I was kinda busy with some other things, but, um—	 neutral	communication behavior

105_23	I-I got—	 neutral	communication behavior

105_25	Yeah, and actually, I made it again on Saturday too. So.	 change	communication behavior

105_27	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior

105_29	Yeah. It's been a little-little hectic, you know. And, uh-- But, I-I don't like it too much because there's all these younger guys that can lift a lot more weight than me or they can stay on the treadmill longer and it-it-it's a little discouraging, you know. 'Cause I don't know if you've noticed, I'm not buff and they are. And it's-it's a little discouraging to think how much work it's gonna take to get, you know, kinda back towards that.	 sustain	communication behavior
105_31	No, but, um, when-when I'm not at the gym, and I am my normal rational self, I realize that I'm, you know, way, way past the age of where I would really even want to do that, let alone want to spend the time it takes. But then while I'm at the gym, and I see the buff young guys, you know, lifting a lot of weight and all that stuff, then you know, the-- I don't know, the urge to be buff comes up in me.	 change	communication behavior
105_33	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
105_35	It is.	 change	communication behavior
105_37	Well, I noticed-- Well, I-I still need to work on my diet a lot. I haven't-- I-I'd like to say that by working out at the gym, I have, uh, I've -I've modified my diet, but I haven't very much. I've gotten a little bit better with that, but I'd like to do a lot more.	 change	communication behavior
105_39	"Um, a little bit less junk food. Um, like at times, when I'm like I feel like, ""Oh, I think I'll just go have a candy bar,"" or some worthless thing like that I'll actually have second thoughts before I do it."	 change	communication behavior
105_41	Well, I think, uh, when I really start seeing some results at the gym, it's kinda, uh, I think the way it works in my mind is if I've worked out really hard and I've- and I've-- say I've lost a pound that week-	 change	communication behavior
105_43	"-you know, and then as I'm looking at that double or triple fudge four-decker of ice cream Sunday thing, you know, that somebody is eating, I would say, ""Wow, that would be about two hours on the treadmill."" Then-then that would be probably-- the-- that would keep me from actually ordering one of those."	 change	communication behavior
105_45	Right, decadent-- Why do they put the word decadent in food?	 change	communication behavior
105_47	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior
105_49	Okay. But it seems to be going so far so good. I-I guess, you know, I can like, you know, um, I-I'm-I'm pretty pleased with who-- how it's going on. Um, I'm really-- I'm glad we talked that last time 'cause it-it was the impetus to get me to go the first time in a long, long time.	 change	communication behavior
107_1	Um, pretty obvious [chuckles].	 neutral	communication behavior
107_3	What do you mean what I did?	 neutral	communication behavior
107_5	That's the same as always. Same as always.	 neutral	communication behavior

107_7	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

107_9	A razor?	 neutral	communication behavior

107_11	Do you wanna see it?	 neutral	communication behavior

107_13	I think have you ever been to an ER when you cut yourself, you'd know why I don't go.	 sustain	communication behavior

107_15	I was thinking about killing myself. You thought you would help me and you didn't. That's what I want to talk about. I wanna talk about how it is that my life is not going better and you are not helping me, and you are not available to me when I need help.	 sustain	communication behavior

107_17	I cut myself the first time I called you thinking you would help me, you wouldn't help me so then I figured, what the hell I [chuckles] might as well just go all the way. And so, that's why I cut myself that deep.	 sustain	communication behavior

108_1	Well, um, I have a two-year-old son, and then I work full time as a server at a restaurant, and then recently, I also started going back to night class, so you know, just the combination of all that, you know. I-I've just been feeling really stressed lately.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_3	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_5	Well, I-I told the counselor that I think childcare is probably my-my biggest issue right now.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_7	Yeah. Um, well, my mom normally watches my son, but lately, it's kind of becoming a problem. You know, she like will back out at the last second, and so I've had to call in at work a couple of times. I've had to miss class a few times. So i-it's just stressful worrying about, you know, whether I'll be able to do those things or not.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_9	Yeah, exactly.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_11	Um, well, I have a sister, but I don't really trust her to watch my son, and I don't really know that many people that-- the only thing I can think of, I have this one neighbor who stepped in and helped one time when my mom backed out. She-she actually has, uh, a three-year-old daughter, so you know, kind of worked out.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_13	Um, I don't really know her that well, but I mean, she seems nice and I-I think she did a pretty good job that night.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_15	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_17	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_19	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_21	I-- you know, I mean, maybe a little bit, but I don't really make that much money to be able to afford something like daycare or, you know, like full time babysitting.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_23	Well, I mean, I-I like cooking. I'm-I'm actually in school for culinary arts.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_25	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_27	Hmm. That's, that's interesting. I-I never really thought of something like that, but, yeah, it might work.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_29	Hmm. No, I-- you know, there-there just aren't that many people I trust right now with my son.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_31	[chuckles] No, no, not at all. He, he really hasn't been in the picture since my son was born.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_33	It's-it's three nights right now, so I have class on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday nights.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_35	Um, well, you know, if my neighbor could even just take over one day of watching my son, I think that would help my mom quite a bit.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_37	I mean, I think so, yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_39	Mom, you know, just, I guess talking to my neighbor and seeing if she's even interested in this idea, and if she is, you know, telling my mom about it and, you know, hopefully, that will make her feel a little better and maybe a little bit more reliable.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_41	Just a couple months from now. He's almost three.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_43	I've heard of it, but I don't know that much.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_45	Yeah, I mean, it sounds like it would be really good for my son and, you know, it would help me out in terms of childcare for sure.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_47	[chuckles] Well, you know, I-I've been working on it a couple of weeks now, and honestly, it's been a lot harder than I expected. Um, trying to break my routine in the evenings, especially has-has been hard, but, um, you know, a couple of nights I have reached my goal in terms of, you know, number of cigarettes I'm going to smoke and number of drinks. So, I mean, I've done okay some days, but others, not so much.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_49	Yeah, yeah. I definitely have, so I-I try to never smoke around him, and if I do smoke at home, I always go out to the balcony to smoke.	 neutral	communication behavior

108_51	Um, well, I guess just first talk to my neighbor and see if she likes this idea, and then if she does, I can talk to my mom about it. Hopefully, that kind of helps her situation out. And then, um, I'm definitely want to look into the Head Start idea because I think that would be really good.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_53	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior
108_55	Thanks. All right.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_1	Oh, great.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_3	That sounds bad.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_5	Tobacco. Well, I don't smoke cigarettes. I've never smoked cigarettes. I do go out with my friends. Um, you know, we go out to bars and, you know, we'll have a few drinks and smoke some of those little cigarillo-type things. I mean I wouldn't even think of them as cigars and they're certainly not cigarettes. Um, and I mean I'll have one or two of those in an evening with, uh, with my friends but certainly not 20 or 30 of them a day like you would with cigarettes and that's the only thing that could possibly have anything to do with tobacco.	 sustain	communication behavior

109_7	But that's- that's just like a- a social thing. That's something that my friends and I do. We-- We-- It's not habit or something that I have to have and, you know, talking about one or two when we go out for an evening. Not packs of them.	 sustain	communication behavior
109_9	Oh, no. No.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_11	Well, we've-- you have a point there. Mm, now that you mention it, um, I have started having one or two at work, you know, when we have break since I have a couple of friends at work that smoke and so every time we have a break, you know, we all go out to the- the break place outside, um, and so I- now I go with them and I have one of these Swisher Sweets. Um, I like the peach flavor [unintelligible 00:02:32] they're so cute. But that's really only pretty recently.	 neutral	communication behavior

109_13	Well, yeah, yeah. You know now that you say it like that it's true. Um, I am smoking on a daily basis.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_15	Well, it's relaxing and it's just nice to be with people, um. Um, and you know, when, you know, I like to go to Las Vegas, and so when we go to Vegas, it's really fun to go to the cigar bars, is kind of sophisticated and fun and so, you know, it's mostly a social thing.	 sustain	communication behavior
109_17	I wouldn't say I was a chain smoker.	 sustain	communication behavior

109_19	Well, I was going to ask you about, um, whitening my teeth because I've noticed that they have more stains on them up than a few years ago, and so I imagine that has something to do with the smoking.	 change	communication behavior
109_21	Um. Well, there's the expense, you know. Wi-with the economy and all, um, I- I have to be careful about my money and so, um, there is the extra expense of if I'm buying more of them than I used to. So the-the money aspect is also a concern.	 change	communication behavior
109_23	Oh, yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_25	Oh, absolutely not. I mean I thought of it more as a- a fun thing to do with my friends, certainly not a smoking habit or anything that would be harmful.	 neutral	communication behavior
109_27	"Oh, yes. I checked the box on your form when you asked if I use tobacco, I checked ""No,"" because I never thought of myself as a smoker."	 neutral	communication behavior
109_29	I'm really concerned, I mean, I don't want to, um, develop cancer, lung cancer, or any of the awful things that happen from smoking, and, you know, really, until this conversation, I never really thought of myself as a smoker at all. So-	 change	communication behavior
109_31	-I'm very concerned.	 change	communication behavior

109_33	Really?	 neutral	communication behavior

109_35	Oh, I would. I really would because, like I said, I'm a brand new smoker. I didn't know I was a smoker until I came to see you.	 change	communication behavior

109_37	Oh, I think I will probably be in seven or eight. I'm-I'm pretty confident that I could stop doing this.	 change	communication behavior

109_39	Because it's not a part of my daily life. I don't have to have, uh, a smoke when I get up in the morning. I don't smoke 20 or 30 of them a day, so it's not that much exposure and I-I feel pretty confident that I could stop.	 change	communication behavior

109_41	Um, I'd really like some more information about quitting. I mean, I've heard there's some-some new medications, there are some new things that can be done to help people make quitting more comfortable and I-I really wanna quit.	 change	communication behavior
109_43	That'd be wonderful. Thank you.	 neutral	communication behavior

109_45	Thank you.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_1	Well, there's a lot of things that bring me here today, but the one thing that I want to focus on is the fact that I really want my son to grow up in a great environment, and just have, like, more than what I had growing up.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_3	Yes.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_5	Yes, that's on my mind. I love my son dearly, and I don't complain about the childhood I had, I had a great childhood. I just-- I guess every parent wants the best for their kids-	 neutral	communication behavior
110_7	-and-and I really want the best for him.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_9	Yes, um, me and his father, like, we're-- We were engaged and, um, we're just not at that connection anymore. We're focused on what we want to do in life, and that's kind of put a hassle on our relationship.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_11	Yes, I want to become a social worker. I want to help people. That's just what I love to do, and he, um, is currently driving trucks, and so it kind of like puts a damper on everything on our relationship, and we're just like mainly focusing on our son and-and it's just been hard, like, reconnecting.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_13	Yes, I feel it is, and I just-- I always really wanted like a family, like me and the dad and-and the child.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_15	I-- That's how I feel, that I love my son dearly, but I want to provide him with that, like, we are together, we're doing it together as a team-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_17	-because now that we're going away from each other it's made things more difficult.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_19	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_21	Um, he was my fiance, but-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_23	-we called off our engagement.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_25	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_27	Yes.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_29	He drives long distance.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_31	Yeah. Days, and the longest was, like, a week.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_33	Yes.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_35	I'm concerned that when he was just local, we were able to do picnics and-and-and do the whole family thing that I just really love, and even though my parents weren't together, we would still, you know-- They were really civil with each other and we would go to Disneyland, we'd go to the-the fairs, and you know, I feel like it's different.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_37	Even though I'm not saying that we-we probably won't be together ever, there's a possibility that that could happen, but I still want that togetherness than apart.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_41	I feel like, um, I'm not, like, valued. We're not valued from his perspective. I mean, that's-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_43	-what I can sense. I can't really make that a final say because he may feel something different.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_45	Yes.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_47	Mm-hmm, mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_49	"And so when he is available it's kind of like, I guess where he's at and where I'm at is just like, ""Why is that a problem for you?"" And I'm like, ""It is because I want--"""	 neutral	communication behavior
110_51	"Yeah, ""why is it a problem?"" He feels like it's always me who wants these things and-- but I-I made it clear that, you know, I want our son to grow up with the togetherness-"	 neutral	communication behavior
110_53	-especially like how my parents had it, you know.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_55	They weren't the best of friends but they could come together and, you know, it was better together than apart-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_57	-and so I'm feeling like there's a-a change and I don't know whether to roll with it or just accept it, accept it. And it's all a balance between mind and-and heart and that's the battle.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_59	Well, my mind says that it's not going that way and you can't make it turn that way, you can't change anybody, they have to change themselves.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_60	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_61	And if they wanted to do it then, you know, it would definitely work.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_63	And I feel like I don't wanna subject to just accepting things the way they are, especially if that's a concern for me-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_65	"-as far as dealing with the togetherness, I feel like if I have a problem, I voice it to you and we solve. You know, we'll try to figure out ways so-- I feel like I'm very more like, the collaborating person. Like, we gotta collab together, let's-- you know, I usually am that person that's, ""Let's solve this issue."""	 neutral	communication behavior
110_67	"""Let's not go over the problem over and over and over."""	 neutral	communication behavior
110_69	"""Let's try to think of ways to make it better."" And I notice that not everyone's like me in that sense."	 neutral	communication behavior
110_71	"And so, do I wanna eventually hurt myself in the long run? Or, you know, help myself by saying, ""Okay this is just accepting that he's not in that position, so let me just do what's for me in my heart and, you know-"	 neutral	communication behavior
110_73	"-stabilize myself to be the best parent that I can be."""	 neutral	communication behavior
110_75	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_77	Yeah, I'm not sure about that part either. [chuckles]	 neutral	communication behavior

110_78	Oh, okay, all right.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_79	Because I know that dealing with perspectives you can, you know, you can't really tell someone what their, you know, perspective is-	 neutral	communication behavior
110_81	-but I don't-I don't sense it, I don't feel it and, um, I think that's just what I'm going by and I feel like probably 98% true.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_83	And that's where the sickness comes from.	 neutral	communication behavior
110_85	And that's what I'm confused about because, you know, I'm very-- the type of person that, I don't wanna hold things in but yet I don't want to have to keep explaining-	 neutral	communication behavior

110_87	-to you, you know like, I don't want to keep going on, iterating what I want in this relationship-	 neutral	communication behavior
110_89	-especially if I'm listening to you.	 neutral	communication behavior

110_91	"You know, I would want you to listen to me. And I understand by like in the position that I'm in, I've always been the receiver and, um, anybody-- so it's hard for people to like receive, you know, from me so, I'm just like-- Lke I was like sitting, um, yesterday I was kinda feeling down and I just never-- I was looking through my phone actually, this is really funny, I was looking through my phone like, ""Who can I talk to?"" Because I never really opened up to anybody."	 neutral	communication behavior

110_93	Cause they open up to me and I'm able to listen-	 neutral	communication behavior
110_95	"-and so I'm like, ""Out of all this, I don't know who I'd-who I'd talk to."""	 neutral	communication behavior
110_97	-and open up to—	 neutral	communication behavior
110_99	Yes.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_1	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_3	Uh, sure. What's this about?	 neutral	communication behavior

111_5	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior

111_7	Sure.	 neutral	communication behavior

111_9	Well, you know they just decriminalized it in Virginia, it's not a big deal. I'm not in trouble, am I?	 neutral	communication behavior

111_11	It's not a big deal. It's just like a couple times a week to relax.	 sustain	communication behavior

111_13	Yeah. I mean, I'm here on an academic scholarship so I have to keep my grades up and I'm on the debate team, so there's a lot going on.	 sustain	communication behavior
111_15	Well, yeah. The truth is I'm the first in my family to go to college so I don't know, I guess, I'm in a bit over my head.	 neutral	communication behavior

111_17	I've always been an anxious person. Pot just helps me calm my nerves. I'm I in trouble?	 sustain	communication behavior

111_20	Well, some of these kids are just so much more sophisticated than me so I guess when I party with them, I feel like I'm fitting in. I don't know how else to explain it.	 sustain	communication behavior

111_22	I don't know if I feel more accepted, more like I'm trying to fit in by using it.	 sustain	communication behavior

111_24	I'm not sure it is.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_26	Uh, yeah.	 change	communication behavior
111_28	I don't know. I- It helps me relax but I guess I'm nervous I'll get caught. Um, my parents would kill me if they knew that I smoked.	 change	communication behavior

111_30	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior

111_32	Well, I don't have the money for it. I just usually bum it off to my roommate, her parents give her a lot of spending money but I don't know, it's kind of embarrassing to have to do that.	 change	communication behavior
111_34	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
111_36	I don't know. When you put it that way, it doesn't sound like a very good habit.	 change	communication behavior
111_38	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_40	No. We don't do that kind of thing in my family.	 neutral	communication behavior

111_42	It's just not done. I don't know. It's something for crazy people and we definitely do not have the money for it.	 sustain	communication behavior
111_44	Yeah. I just don't see it happening.	 sustain	communication behavior

111_46	I don't know.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_48	Well, I don't have the money for it so I can't pay for it and my parents wouldn't approve.	 sustain	communication behavior

111_50	What, like suicidal?	 neutral	communication behavior

111_52	Uh, I would never do that.	 neutral	communication behavior

111_54	Okay. I guess I'll think about it.	 neutral	communication behavior
111_56	Do I have to go there?	 neutral	communication behavior
111_58	Okay, sure. I agree, let's go.	 change	communication behavior

112_1	Okay, oh, actually, could I confide something in you that has been bothering me lately. Well, prior to that party, like, as you know, I'm a honor student and my parents, like, they keep me very, like k-kept down out of the, like so- like social life.	 neutral	communication behavior
112_3	And, um, about a month ago, my friends invited me to a party. And they used the fact that, Oh, I'm always doing my homework, I'm always studying that to allow me to go to the party. And on-- well, that party, I managed to convince my parents that I would spend the night at my friend's house. So, that's when I started drinking.	 neutral	communication behavior
112_5	"It was a- it was a unique experience, as you can say. I guess you can say. And, I don't know, I-- It was fun, at least, in the moment. So, I kept doing it. Then this past weekend, instead of studying for an exam, I asked my-- I begged my mom to let me go to another party. And she, kind of, knew what I was doing. She asked me to, like, to promise her of no alcohol, no drugs. Then I'll pick you up by 12:00. And I-I was surprised. 12:00-12:00, that's basically when the party starts, but I told her whatever-- I thought- I thought to myself that I'll-I'll come-- I'll figure out to delay her, can you pick me up later? So later, so she-- I promised that-- She dropped me off, I promised her no alcohol, no nothing. So I-- we go, I have fun like I've been having. And I was drinking. And then the time- the time came for her to pick me up. And as soon-- I couldn't delay her from picking me up. And as soon as she picked me up, and I stepped in the car, she said, ""You drank vodka."" And I'm like, I-I didn't know what to say. I just looked at the floor. And I-I feel terrible because I-I betrayed my mother. I broke my trust with her that she expected me not to indulge in alcohol. And that's exactly what I did."	 change	communication behavior
112_7	Right.	 neutral	communication behavior
112_9	Yes, right. Like I've been noticing I've been more lethargic and apathetic towards schoolwork.	 change	communication behavior
112_11	I haven't really-- I kind of just sit in class like-- I-- my mind is elsewhere, especially on the weekends, where instead of-- I was- I was instead of studying, I caught up with my friends, trying to find where we can-- I get alcohol based on their age and stuff like that.	 neutral	communication behavior

112_13	I don't know. It-It's because I'm a very reserved person, for the most part, not when- not when I'm dealing with sports or like-- you know, like a social environment. I tend to keep to myself because I'm very self-conscious, I would say. And when I- when I drink, I feel, I don't know, like, it relaxes me. I'm able to talk or engage with other people more easily. I don't know it just—	 sustain	communication behavior

112_15	Exactly.	 sustain	communication behavior

112_17	Kind of.	 change	communication behavior

112_19	Just different groups, friends or groups, girlfriends, like different people that I'm hanging out with because certain people are associated with that type of scene.	 change	communication behavior
112_21	So, that-that-that's also changed.	 change	communication behavior

112_23	A little bit because not all of them are into that. So, like, I'm in one group of friends, and I would talk to another person that's an another group of friends and they just happen to invite me to that first party.	 neutral	communication behavior

112_25	So, since then, I've been hanging out more with them, getting to know them. But I can also see that oh, I'm just living life, I guess. But that's also not fair to them that I'm not there for them as much as I was before.	 change	communication behavior

112_27	As they are there for me, you know.	 change	communication behavior

112_29	Oh, um, I feel I should st-stop. I mean, like, I'm not-not unrealistic. I understand that situations like this will happen.	 change	communication behavior
112_31	It's just up to me not to take it so far, where I can't remember the night before, if I'm puking. All I remember is the toilet-	 change	communication behavior

112_33	-that's-that's not worth it, either. And I have to slowly build back my trust with my mother because that was that's a big blow. It's little so I guess may seem to other people.	 change	communication behavior

112_35	But to me then it's a big thing.	 change	communication behavior
112_37	Of course.	 change	communication behavior
112_39	Exactly.	 change	communication behavior
112_41	A lot at this point because I feel that's a big factor with gaining back my trust with my mother.	 change	communication behavior

112_43	And also getting back on top of my school work again my athletics too.	 change	communication behavior

112_45	So I feel that there-there's a future in that.	 change	communication behavior
112_47	I'm pretty confident, especially.	 change	communication behavior

112_49	Probably like an 8 or 9.	 neutral	communication behavior

112_51	And that can't be a ten there's nothing as ten in life I feel. Like there's too many factors but I feel like I'm determined to.	 change	communication behavior

112_53	Because I don't know I feel deter-determined to-to make sure this happens because I don't like how I felt after I-I betrayed my mother. I don't like remembering that the feeling of like vomiting.	 change	communication behavior
112_55	It's not a pleasant experience. Uh, it's not something that I wish to enjoy. So like even if I do drink, I don't want to drink to the point where that happens, like all the fun that I have and prior to that just it's not worth-it's not worth drinking.	 change	communication behavior

112_57	To make sure I have my studies. Well first, try to get-get back my trust with mother-	 change	communication behavior

112_59	-then just focus on my studies. Then if I have time for leisure time like I'll go party with my friends and just be as a party with them doesn't mean I have to drink. And I do one cup is not going to do anything to my life either. But I'd prefer not to do that. I prefer just make sure.	 change	communication behavior
112_61	Exactly. Just so I take part with the social convention but it's not. Hey guys.	 change	communication behavior

112_63	And-and thank you for listening me listening to me. It means a lot to me.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_1	Hi.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_3	Well, I came today because my daughter's in the hospital as well. I think it's important to quit, but I enjoy smoking. I'm not ready to give it up right now. My life is too much in turmoil.	 sustain	communication behavior
113_5	I think it's important because I've-- I feel I'm a bad role model for my children, and my daughter's turning 12, and already, some of her friends have tried smoking, so I don't want her to think it's a good thing.	 change	communication behavior
113_7	I smoked when I was young, and I certainly don't want it for her.	 change	communication behavior

113_9	Well, that's true. It seems so hard. I'm just not ready for this right now.	 sustain	communication behavior

113_11	It's very enjoyable, relaxing, you know, a stress reliever. When I'm at work, we all go out and smoke and chit chat and, you know, talk about things. I would hate to not smoke, really. I'd be left out.	 sustain	communication behavior
113_13	Hmm, I like to have a cigarette after I eat. It sort of tells my brain I'm finished, stop eating, I'm full. So it's a- it's a way to-- you know, sometimes I'll have a cigarette instead of a snack, so it's a way to control my weight.	 sustain	communication behavior
113_15	Let me think. Well, I just enjoy it. I think it's, uh-- it's not good for me, I know, but I'm so used to smoking. I don't really think about quitting too much.	 sustain	communication behavior
113_17	Okay.	 neutral	communication behavior
113_19	That's true. Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_21	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_23	Exactly.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_25	Well, I-I'm worried about my children. I feel like I'm being a bad parent, and um, I often wonder, you know, they've seen me smoke for years. I certainly don't want my 12-year-old daughter to start smoking, and some of her friends are already smoking.	 change	communication behavior

113_27	Yeah, just this morning, I was outside having a cigarette, and then when I looked up, there she was looking out the window watching me smoke.	 change	communication behavior

113_29	I felt terrible, you know, I was projecting-- I wanna be a good parent, and I don't feel this really is part of the plan.	 change	communication behavior
113_31	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
113_33	It doesn't fit, you know. It's the opposite side of the coin. You know, I love to do it, but I don't think it's right.	 change	communication behavior
113_35	I can't think of anything right now.	 sustain	communication behavior

113_37	I don't have any plans to quit. It's just something I'm thinking about.	 sustain	communication behavior
113_39	Exactly.	 neutral	communication behavior
113_41	Oh, sure. Sure, I'll come in. Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_43	We can talk about it some more.	 neutral	communication behavior

113_45	Okay, okay, I'll give it a try.	 neutral	communication behavior
113_47	Thank you.	 neutral	communication behavior
113_49	All right.	 neutral	communication behavior
114_1	Uh, I guess that sound- that sounds right. I mean, I was- I was kinda drunk and it happened like a week ago. I just, I drove over to my friend's house, um, just to go watch the game and, you know, we're having a couple beers and next thing I know the Vikings are kind of losing pretty big. So we drank a little bit more than usual. And I mean, at the end I had to get home and I couldn't find a ride. So I-I just drove.	 neutral	communication behavior

114_3	Yeah. That's-that's exactly how it happened. I mean, I'm a normal college kid. I like to drink and hanging out with my buddies. I mean, I, it wasn't a big house party or anything and I got busted.	 sustain	communication behavior

114_5	Yeah. I tried to be safe. I mean, I tried to call her roommate, but I don't know, getting in trouble anyways.	 neutral	communication behavior
114_7	Um, well, I wanna say I have a drinking problem. I think I'd probably have more of a, like getting caught problem. I mean, my friends, they-they drink like fishes and I-- they don't ever get caught and you got me over here and I get caught and they left.	 sustain	communication behavior
114_9	I guess- I guess more problems with police and school and I really don't have like the time or the money for any of that.	 sustain	communication behavior

114_11	God. It's, I guess, super important, because just-just going to detox alone was-was awful, the experience-- I don't want to do that again. And my dad said if I get suspended from school, um, I have to go- I have to go work on my uncle's farm in Iowa and that would just kill my social life. I won't see any of my friends and I mean, it's already bad enough, like my parents took my car away when I got the DUI.	 change	communication behavior
114_13	Well, I guess I- I guess the easy one is I wouldn't- I wouldn't drink so much and I try to avoid situations where I'm more-more likely to get in trouble. So probably I don't wanna drink so much.	 change	communication behavior
114_15	Um, I guess I would say like, I don't know, like over halfway. So maybe like a six.	 neutral	communication behavior

114_17	I could probably, um, I don't know. I-I guess, well, the big thing would be like kind of where I drink so like drinking like if I'm only like in my apartment so thenI'm not risking myself to drive or like if I- if I go out to a party waiting till, like, I'm 21 to drink. Um, maybe find stuff to do that doesn't revolve around drinking, like, I'm guessing like a town this size there's got to be more to do than just drink.	 change	communication behavior
114_19	"Um, I mean, I guess the big one would be like I won't- I won't be hungover all the time like I would make it to my 8:00 AMs then, well, even-even when I make it to my 8:00 AMs now like I just, I sleep like I wake up I'm like, ""Oh my god what's going on?"" And then I get to my 8:00 AM and I'll just sleep through and then miss just about everything that's on the test. So I think if I- if I reprioritize what is important to me, I probably help me succeed. I mean, in high school, I had a 3.5 GPA. So I know I could do it here."	 change	communication behavior
114_21	Um, I mean education is really important to me and-and also my family. My parents are always talking about it and I really- I really wanna be an international journalist, to be on the news like, I mean, I have the face for it, um. So I guess if I reprioritize my- if I reprioritize what I need to do I and I won't drink so much. I probably wouldn't be disappointing my parents and I'd be able to get a really good education.	 change	communication behavior

114_23	All right, all right. When is the seminar?	 neutral	communication behavior

116_1	You're welcome.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_3	Yeah. I stayed home two times already from school just 'cause of the bullying and everything.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_5	And as I was out of school like more rumors started to happen as I was out of school. I come back and like these rumors are going around about me. Like one time when I stayed home, supposedly, I was in the principal's office the whole day and I had security guards like escort me to classes which that was not true 'cause I was home the whole time.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_7	I've been getting blamed ever since like fifth or sixth grade about with every single thing that's going on.	 sustain	communication behavior

116_9	I think because the kids-- 'cause I like to nag on things. Like when people tell me things, I like to like talk more like with the person instead of just leaving it be, and I think the kids that like blame me for everything say that I'm an easy target to like hit, to like talk about, it's like annoying.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_11	"If somebody says like, ""Oh, I heard this thing about you."" I go, ""Oh, really, what is it,"" and I just keep talking and like make things worse. Like, if somebody says that they wanna beat me up, I like go on, and say like, ""Okay, then hit me,"" and like I just don't leave it be, like I just don't walk away. I like stay there and like talk more."	 neutral	communication behavior
116_13	"I think possibly more like talking more like it gets like bigger and bigger. It's just like if you stop it, then they don't know what to say, they-they're like, ""Oh, like she's walking away."" And like that stops everything but like if I talk it-it keeps building up and we both get in trouble-"	 sustain	communication behavior
116_15	-and like called down to the principal's office.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_17	-and get talked to.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_19	Well, usually I try telling myself to just like, leave it be-	 change	communication behavior

116_21	-but if somebody says something about me, it gets me mad 'cause like what the heck, like you're talking about me so like I try to stop but sometimes I just say like a few words. Like I think now I'm trying to get like better.	 sustain	communication behavior
116_23	"Like there's this one incident that somebody was talking to me, I just said like, ""Oh, wow, this is like really lame, like I'm just gonna leave,"" and I like let the conversation be."	 change	communication behavior
116_25	Yeah. I felt proud of myself.	 change	communication behavior
116_27	"I was just like thinking of like when I'm- whenever I like I'm saying like stuff back, mom gets really mad at me, she's like, ""Well, I'm not gonna help you anymore."" 'Cause, she tells me to like leave it be, but I really don't lis-listen to her so she gets mad. So I tried like thinking of like her feelings and like what would happen after if I say, ""This is lame, leave me alone,"" 'cause then they'll like stop and I won't get like yelled at anymore."	 change	communication behavior
116_29	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_31	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_33	'Cause usually, if I get in trouble, mom gives me the silent treatment that I don't like. It's like she doesn't talk to me, I'm like trying to talk to her, she don't like wheezing being like, uh, I don't like it.	 change	communication behavior

116_35	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior

116_37	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior

116_39	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_41	Like they all like stopped talking to me, and the funny thing was that their eighth-graders that like didn't even go to my old school like I don't even know how they said of talking to me, I was like, creepy.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_43	Well, they don't really say that to me like I just like think that 'cause that's what I've like heard from my mom, and people talking to me 'cause I keep talking to them-	 neutral	communication behavior
116_45	-so they keep coming back at me.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_47	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_49	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_51	Yeah. [chuckles] That happens a lot.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_53	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_55	I was thinking of like, um, if I'm like at school like a peep things are happening during class-	 change	communication behavior

116_57	-I just say, can I use the washroom or something to go like walk and like think of like how to like leave them be. And one time during my gym class, there's this girl that I had her like not talking early. And we're playing pickleball, I don't know if you know that, it's like a-	 change	communication behavior

116_59	-it's like a badminton, big life-size ping pong ball game.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_61	Yeah, you have like a big bracket—	 neutral	communication behavior
116_63	No.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_65	No, [chuckles] there's no pick.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_67	Mm-hmm. And like I was supposed to be like again turn. I told my-- I went to my gym teacher like silently and said I can't be by this person, can I move to the next court. So he like switched us around so I won't be by her. And that like happened.	 change	communication behavior

116_69	The girls like what the heck like.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_71	Yeah. Like I would like smacked her in the face or some- [laughs]	 neutral	communication behavior

116_73	-or something.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_75	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_77	Yeah, that's like—	 change	communication behavior
116_79	Yeah, there's like four main ones but not that like I can say who.	 neutral	communication behavior

116_81	And the friends that I have like I know are my true friends, They're like ones that don't really 'cause drama or like—	 change	communication behavior
116_83	I mean, they might but like they're not like bad and they actually like help me. Like some of these girls that like so-called friends like-	 change	communication behavior

116_85	"-They're like they come to me saying like, ""Oh, did you really have to like punch this girl."" I'm like, ""No."" It's like you're not a friend if you'd actually believe that, you know what I mean?"	 change	communication behavior
116_87	Yeah, it's kind of annoying, 'cause it's kind of hard like going into high school and like knowing how to believe and who not to believe.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_89	Yeah, 1,003.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_91	And then there's the sophomores also that you have like another 1,000, so it's like—	 neutral	communication behavior
116_93	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_95	Yeah, with these like the first rumors had started going around about like my friend and I, and like I lost him just 'cause of rumors. It's like, what the heck. Like I couldn't get over him for like gosh, who knows, it was like three months and I finally just had got over him.	 change	communication behavior
116_97	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_99	I was like really, you're probably just jealous 'cause I was friends with him or something.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_101	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_103	I just found like other people and just like forgot about it.	 change	communication behavior
116_105	I say the ones that like not even that I've known the longest, but like the ones that actually hang out with me a lot, or like texting me a lot, or like calling. And the ones that are actually like that helped you before with like situations. And that they tell you stuff and they know they can trust you. Like one of my friends tells me everything about her. And like that's how I know she's a good friend 'cause she trusts me with things.	 change	communication behavior
116_107	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_109	Mm-hmm.	 change	communication behavior
116_111	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_113	Mm-hmm.	 change	communication behavior
116_115	Yeah, that happens a lot with me with like a lot of friends. Like this one person like we've been friends since like-- Well, we were friends since fourth grade.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_117	And like she just starts like lying and like just talking smack about me. And it's like, you're not a good friend then. Like I thought you were a friend since you've been my friend since our fourth grade.	 change	communication behavior
116_119	And she just like causes a lot of drama now. And like she came- Like the friends I met at high school, she came like into them like, you're not gonna know-- In college, you're not gonna know who to follow 'cause-- since you keep following with my friends, what are you gonna do in college like not being able to find your own friends? It's kind of annoying 'cause they're my friends and like I can't be by her and she comes to my friends. It's like-	 change	communication behavior
116_121	-get your own friends, [chuckles] stop following me.	 change	communication behavior
116_123	She just lies a lot and like just starts dramas about me and I haven't even talked to her like since eight grade. We only went to school together and she just like makes me lose other friends 'cause of the drama she starts	 change	communication behavior
116_125	A nobody. I'm gonna say that. She's like—	 neutral	communication behavior
116_127	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_129	I do spend time with them. Like I hang out with them a lot.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_131	Ask for it. Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_133	I just ask them like if I'm like gonna get like sent down to the principal's office for like something happening, I call them to come down to, like, support my, like, backup information.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_135	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_137	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_139	Yeah.	 change	communication behavior
116_141	Yeah, there's one friend that might wanna like talk about it.	 change	communication behavior
116_143	And she's really like-- she doesn't know, like, who to talk 'cause her mom is not always there for her.	 change	communication behavior
116_145	And so like she's like doesn't know where to go.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_147	Like she doesn't know who to believe.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_149	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_151	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_153	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_155	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_157	Yeah.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_159	I've noticed that.	 neutral	communication behavior
116_161	Mm-hmm.	 neutral	communication behavior